WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.440 All right, this is men's heart check-in April 7th, 2025. 2 00:00:07.440 --> 00:00:11.360 We are going after it tonight and talking about some things. 3 00:00:11.360 --> 00:00:17.680 So welcome, if this is your first time listening, nobody, I don't think on this live is first 4 00:00:17.680 --> 00:00:24.000 time, but if it's your first time listening in replay, then welcome and it's all going 5 00:00:24.000 --> 00:00:27.040 to be good. 6 00:00:27.040 --> 00:00:35.560 So what is going on guys, anybody got anything to share, to process, to ask a question about, 7 00:00:35.560 --> 00:00:40.560 to share a win, share some good news, that kind of thing? 8 00:00:40.560 --> 00:00:46.160 Anybody got that kind of testimony story to start out with? 9 00:00:46.160 --> 00:00:50.760 I'll just share that I was listening to Holy Spirit. 10 00:00:50.760 --> 00:00:56.280 One of the Leon ladies I've been dating had this whole thing kick off with grief suddenly 11 00:00:56.280 --> 00:01:05.239 from a miscarriage from years ago, I'm not sure if it was last year or multiple years 12 00:01:05.239 --> 00:01:15.160 ago and I've done a lot of work with a grief community for surviving Gold Star family members 13 00:01:15.160 --> 00:01:21.600 and when she started talking, my brain just went there and I was like, oh hey, I can tell 14 00:01:21.600 --> 00:01:29.760 her this about grief and this about grief and this about grief and kind of more words 15 00:01:29.760 --> 00:01:33.760 from Holy Spirit lately with a lot of different things, but with this particular situation 16 00:01:33.760 --> 00:01:43.040 it was like, just be quiet and be present, I'm like, okay, so sometimes it's not always 17 00:01:43.040 --> 00:01:48.440 about fixing or trying to give counsel. 18 00:01:48.440 --> 00:01:51.800 That's good, I think, actually. 19 00:01:51.800 --> 00:02:01.360 Yeah, we have a tendency as guys for sure to want to fix, want to describe, here's how 20 00:02:01.360 --> 00:02:07.240 you solve that, here's the problem and then here's how to solve it. 21 00:02:07.240 --> 00:02:15.600 We are most wired for that and lots of times a girl just wants to be heard and wants to 22 00:02:15.600 --> 00:02:20.240 feel and wants to just kind of like know you're there and the silent support is very 23 00:02:20.240 --> 00:02:26.280 helpful and that can be pretty powerful, yeah. 24 00:02:26.280 --> 00:02:30.800 Very counterintuitive to what we normally want to respond, for sure. 25 00:02:30.800 --> 00:02:34.360 So that's kind of a good kudos, that's good. 26 00:02:34.360 --> 00:02:40.440 Anybody else? 27 00:02:40.440 --> 00:02:41.440 Anybody else? 28 00:02:41.440 --> 00:02:42.440 Come on. 29 00:02:42.440 --> 00:02:43.440 I got something. 30 00:02:43.440 --> 00:02:44.560 Go ahead, Zach. 31 00:02:44.560 --> 00:02:53.000 So I was out of town this past weekend, went down to Orlando for a couple of concerts and 32 00:02:53.000 --> 00:02:59.840 got in Thursday night and so just for a little bit of context, I work for a church. 33 00:02:59.840 --> 00:03:07.060 One of the older ladies who works there kind of is like a mother to a lot of the younger 34 00:03:07.060 --> 00:03:13.280 girls on staff and she texted me out of the blue and was like, are you seeing anybody? 35 00:03:13.280 --> 00:03:16.880 And I'm like, no. 36 00:03:16.880 --> 00:03:24.760 So long story short, she ended up telling me that one of the girls had asked her to 37 00:03:24.760 --> 00:03:29.640 reach out to me on her behalf, saying she was interested and... 38 00:03:29.640 --> 00:03:33.440 Getting to meet you? 39 00:03:33.440 --> 00:03:40.560 Just like going on a date, this is a person I've known for years, actually. 40 00:03:40.560 --> 00:03:45.140 We work together, like run in mission circles, things like that. 41 00:03:45.140 --> 00:03:51.760 So we've been friends, had mutual circles and things like that. 42 00:03:51.760 --> 00:03:57.760 So really, it's like, as I've been processing in the last few days, it's one of those situations 43 00:03:57.760 --> 00:04:05.680 where the Lord is really kind of giving me a chance to be a man of integrity in the sense 44 00:04:05.680 --> 00:04:11.920 of some of the things that I've advocated for, beliefs that I've advocated for, I now 45 00:04:11.920 --> 00:04:17.920 have the opportunity to follow through with actions to back those up. 46 00:04:17.920 --> 00:04:27.800 Things like encouraging guys to give a person a chance that has, like if you've got alignment 47 00:04:27.800 --> 00:04:33.560 on values but the physical attraction is not fully there, give it a chance to at least 48 00:04:33.640 --> 00:04:37.000 see that's something that's happening here. 49 00:04:39.080 --> 00:04:45.640 And even lately, some of my prayers to God, I've been basically complaining and whining, 50 00:04:48.120 --> 00:04:51.960 I've never been viewed as attractive by anybody. 51 00:04:51.960 --> 00:04:58.680 And now I got somebody reaching out and saying that they're interested and it's like... 52 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:06.740 you know, because it's not coming in the package that I expected or wanted, I'm like, okay, 53 00:05:06.740 --> 00:05:13.120 how do I how do I go about this? Like, you know, do I do I follow through? Or like, do 54 00:05:13.120 --> 00:05:20.720 I you know, do I go the superficial route and write it off because I don't have the 55 00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:28.600 physical attraction? Or, like I said, do I be a man of integrity to things that I preach 56 00:05:28.600 --> 00:05:35.040 and, you know, at the very least, you know, just give it a shot. You know, yeah, go on 57 00:05:35.040 --> 00:05:42.920 a couple dates, see how it goes. So I'm gonna talk to her tomorrow. 58 00:05:42.920 --> 00:05:48.400 That's good. Does anybody want to comment on that? Give some advice. 59 00:05:48.400 --> 00:05:52.320 Always choose the path of integrity way to go. 60 00:05:52.320 --> 00:05:57.520 I was gonna say I've got it. I've got to take Zach. You know, we've we've talked about getting 61 00:05:57.520 --> 00:06:03.240 our reps in. And, you know, I think I think this is a good chance to take her out and 62 00:06:03.240 --> 00:06:08.200 show her a great time, raise the bar for how she expects to be treated by other men. And, 63 00:06:08.200 --> 00:06:11.560 you know, if it doesn't go anywhere, it doesn't go anywhere. But at least you take her out 64 00:06:11.560 --> 00:06:16.000 and maybe maybe she knows your spirit mate. And she'll talk really great about Zach's 65 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:21.360 a great guy. You know, he treated me wonderful. It didn't work out. But, you know, maybe maybe 66 00:06:21.360 --> 00:06:26.120 she introduced you to somebody. Good advice. Love it. 67 00:06:26.120 --> 00:06:33.840 I've been listening to a book. And, you know, she's also a matchmaker. And she was saying 68 00:06:33.840 --> 00:06:38.800 that sometimes a lot of times physical attraction comes the more you're with somebody. And even 69 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:44.360 if the old the initial like dynamite fire isn't there that you can grow. So I can grow 70 00:06:44.360 --> 00:06:49.080 on you. Just a little thing. But no, it's great that you're being you know, you're back 71 00:06:49.080 --> 00:06:53.400 at, you know, I don't know, I told my best friend, I can't give him more advice because 72 00:06:53.400 --> 00:06:57.120 then I have to practice what I preach. And so I'm glad you're practicing what you preach 73 00:06:57.120 --> 00:07:02.560 because, you know, it's like, oh, man, like, it's easy to say. And it's another thing to 74 00:07:02.560 --> 00:07:08.600 do it. But who knows, like, you know, it's just it's just cool that you're honoring the 75 00:07:08.600 --> 00:07:14.320 Lord. We're faithful with what he brings, diligent with what he brings. And then, you 76 00:07:15.160 --> 00:07:20.680 know, who knows? She could be the one you never you never know. Right. You know, and 77 00:07:20.680 --> 00:07:25.360 but and if you don't give it a chance, you will never know. So great job. We're just 78 00:07:25.360 --> 00:07:26.440 stepping out and doing it. 79 00:07:28.720 --> 00:07:34.800 Good stuff. Yeah, I think the general the general advice in our community, right? Everybody 80 00:07:34.800 --> 00:07:37.520 knows it, right? It's a what until 81 00:07:39.720 --> 00:07:41.600 it's a no until it's a yes. No, just kidding. 82 00:07:42.200 --> 00:07:47.960 I just yelled it out and I was like, oh, yeah, I'm on mute. Yes, till it's a no. It's a yes 83 00:07:47.960 --> 00:07:57.720 till it's a no. So and physical attraction is not enough to tell you that it's a no, 84 00:07:57.720 --> 00:08:04.720 because as much as physical attraction is important, it is true. There is a lot to be 85 00:08:04.920 --> 00:08:11.440 there is a lot to be said for the attraction that comes after the fact. And lots of times 86 00:08:11.440 --> 00:08:18.800 it's the case. Very rarely is it the case where you see somebody you're really attracted 87 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:23.520 to them physically, like the initial thing, it's just like off the charts. And that is 88 00:08:23.680 --> 00:08:30.720 a really, really good, good thing. Because that's a recipe in a lot of cases, not every 89 00:08:30.720 --> 00:08:42.320 case, a lot of cases for like, dysfunctional relationship, kind of two people coming 90 00:08:42.320 --> 00:08:46.120 together for the wrong reasons, that kind of thing, you know, so definitely give it a 91 00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:50.960 chance. Definitely follow. I think you almost kind of answered your question. Like, you 92 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:56.600 know, when you said, do I practice what I preach? Okay, well, that's kind of like, kind 93 00:08:56.600 --> 00:09:01.680 of like, I don't have to do that. So I wish you the best for that, man. I we want to we 94 00:09:01.680 --> 00:09:08.400 definitely want to hear a follow up to that. So I'll try and have a report next week. I 95 00:09:08.400 --> 00:09:12.880 know with it being Holy Weekend Easter, things are going to get crazy around the church. 96 00:09:12.880 --> 00:09:19.080 So yeah, right, right. Yeah, I'll obviously keep everybody posted. That's cool. That's 97 00:09:19.080 --> 00:09:24.520 cool. I love it. Thanks for sharing Zach. It's awesome. Thanks for sharing David before 98 00:09:24.520 --> 00:09:29.880 anybody else got something that's on your heart on your mind. What are you going through? 99 00:09:30.520 --> 00:09:46.000 What's happening? Any breakthroughs this week? Anybody, anything? We want to we want to start 100 00:09:46.120 --> 00:09:58.800 having some more breakthroughs guys. And so my wife gave me a list today. And, and I, she 101 00:09:58.800 --> 00:10:00.040 goes, I want you to share this 102 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:02.920 with the guys and I'm like, okay, I will. 103 00:10:02.920 --> 00:10:04.800 So I'm gonna be obedient, share it with the guys. 104 00:10:04.800 --> 00:10:08.720 This is, are you ready for it? 105 00:10:08.720 --> 00:10:11.200 The wife material checklist 106 00:10:12.120 --> 00:10:16.120 for a Christian middle-aged man. 107 00:10:16.120 --> 00:10:16.960 All right. 108 00:10:16.960 --> 00:10:17.780 Get the drum roll. 109 00:10:17.780 --> 00:10:19.080 You don't like the middle-aged part 110 00:10:19.080 --> 00:10:21.040 and like that offends you, whatever, 111 00:10:21.040 --> 00:10:24.520 if like, whatever, you know, whatever. 112 00:10:24.520 --> 00:10:26.880 Just take that part out, just X that part out. 113 00:10:27.720 --> 00:10:31.360 Wife material checklist for a Christian man. 114 00:10:33.240 --> 00:10:35.520 Are you ready for that? 115 00:10:35.520 --> 00:10:39.040 I have the sheet and I will try to make it available to you 116 00:10:40.600 --> 00:10:41.980 like I did the last one. 117 00:10:43.520 --> 00:10:44.360 Okay. 118 00:10:45.320 --> 00:10:50.320 Anybody wanna take a guess as to maybe what's on this list 119 00:10:51.680 --> 00:10:54.960 or what is even first on this list? 120 00:10:54.960 --> 00:10:57.120 Six foot. Vulnerability. 121 00:10:57.120 --> 00:10:58.480 Godly character. 122 00:10:58.480 --> 00:10:59.800 Looking for a man in finance. 123 00:10:59.800 --> 00:11:01.800 Oh man, if it was. Five blue eyes. 124 00:11:01.800 --> 00:11:04.600 If it was six foot, man, I'm way off. 125 00:11:04.600 --> 00:11:06.120 Actually, I'm way under. 126 00:11:06.120 --> 00:11:10.560 All right, we're missing the mark right off the beginning. 127 00:11:10.560 --> 00:11:11.560 I said vulnerability. 128 00:11:11.560 --> 00:11:12.800 I thought that was pretty close. 129 00:11:12.800 --> 00:11:14.000 No, no, no, no, no. 130 00:11:14.000 --> 00:11:17.680 This is what you are looking for in a wife. 131 00:11:17.680 --> 00:11:18.640 Oh. 132 00:11:18.640 --> 00:11:20.280 Yeah, wife material. 133 00:11:20.280 --> 00:11:21.720 Godly character. 134 00:11:21.720 --> 00:11:22.560 Checklist. 135 00:11:23.560 --> 00:11:24.840 Wife material checklist. 136 00:11:24.840 --> 00:11:26.480 Yes, Daniel said it first 137 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:28.280 and then somebody else just said it. 138 00:11:28.280 --> 00:11:30.040 Character is number one. 139 00:11:31.600 --> 00:11:34.120 And this is where, 140 00:11:35.240 --> 00:11:37.280 this is one of the things that when I met Jackie, 141 00:11:37.280 --> 00:11:39.640 this is what I noticed early on. 142 00:11:39.640 --> 00:11:41.840 I did notice that she was attractive 143 00:11:41.840 --> 00:11:43.760 and I was attracted to her right away. 144 00:11:45.200 --> 00:11:48.000 But that had to not, 145 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:50.000 I didn't have to grow in my attraction per se, 146 00:11:50.080 --> 00:11:52.560 but I had to go beyond the attraction 147 00:11:52.560 --> 00:11:53.920 because remember my prayer, 148 00:11:53.920 --> 00:11:54.920 I don't know if you guys remember this, 149 00:11:54.920 --> 00:11:57.680 but my prayer had just been before I met her, 150 00:11:57.680 --> 00:12:01.760 Lord, I don't wanna be alone the rest of my life, 151 00:12:01.760 --> 00:12:05.520 but I have these kids, I have this career, 152 00:12:05.520 --> 00:12:09.440 I'm doing stuff, I can't just go with anybody. 153 00:12:09.440 --> 00:12:14.120 I can't just pick anybody that's just a pretty woman 154 00:12:15.080 --> 00:12:17.600 who doesn't love my kids, doesn't love you, 155 00:12:17.600 --> 00:12:21.520 who's not gonna champion what we're trying to do together 156 00:12:21.520 --> 00:12:24.000 as a family, all that kind of stuff, okay? 157 00:12:25.240 --> 00:12:26.400 So I had to find that out. 158 00:12:26.400 --> 00:12:30.480 One of the things I found out early on with her 159 00:12:30.480 --> 00:12:32.320 was at the end of the day, 160 00:12:32.320 --> 00:12:35.880 regardless of what we had talked about, 161 00:12:35.880 --> 00:12:38.360 regardless of what we were doing, 162 00:12:38.360 --> 00:12:40.400 regardless of how much fun we had, 163 00:12:40.400 --> 00:12:42.120 at the end of the day, she's like, 164 00:12:42.120 --> 00:12:45.480 she really wanted, she had the heart to please the Father. 165 00:12:45.520 --> 00:12:48.720 She had the heart to please God, right? 166 00:12:48.720 --> 00:12:52.880 And so it was really good that I found that out. 167 00:12:52.880 --> 00:12:55.320 So this is the kind of character 168 00:12:55.320 --> 00:12:57.400 where she loves God deeply. 169 00:12:59.480 --> 00:13:02.080 She's not just a church attender, 170 00:13:03.160 --> 00:13:04.200 but she has evidence 171 00:13:04.200 --> 00:13:06.160 with a personal relationship with Christ. 172 00:13:06.160 --> 00:13:09.000 That's very important, okay? 173 00:13:09.960 --> 00:13:12.600 She has consistent integrity. 174 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:15.440 She does what's right even when no one is watching. 175 00:13:16.280 --> 00:13:18.160 She is a teachable spirit, 176 00:13:18.160 --> 00:13:20.600 open to growth, correction, and learning. 177 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:21.880 She has kindness and passion. 178 00:13:21.880 --> 00:13:23.800 She exhibits kindness and compassion. 179 00:13:23.800 --> 00:13:25.920 She treats others with grace, 180 00:13:25.920 --> 00:13:29.120 and especially those who can't benefit her, 181 00:13:29.120 --> 00:13:30.920 she treats others with grace. 182 00:13:30.920 --> 00:13:35.280 Now, that's a big, tall list right there for character. 183 00:13:35.280 --> 00:13:36.720 I mean, that says a lot. 184 00:13:36.720 --> 00:13:39.200 And that's like, how many of you are thinking, 185 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:41.040 oh yeah, I know five women just like that. 186 00:13:41.040 --> 00:13:44.000 Like, you know, I get it. 187 00:13:44.000 --> 00:13:45.440 It sounds like a very tall order, 188 00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:47.320 but what we're talking about 189 00:13:47.320 --> 00:13:50.120 is we're talking about someone who exhibits, 190 00:13:50.120 --> 00:13:54.240 the wannabe exhibits the working towards, 191 00:13:54.240 --> 00:13:55.920 the moving forward in. 192 00:13:56.800 --> 00:13:58.840 They don't have to be all that in a bag of chips. 193 00:13:58.840 --> 00:14:02.840 They just have to be willing to be this person. 194 00:14:02.840 --> 00:14:04.280 You know, a woman will show you, 195 00:14:04.280 --> 00:14:08.720 women typically, good women, 196 00:14:08.720 --> 00:14:10.000 especially Christian women, 197 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:12.200 they're gonna like love God, 198 00:14:13.280 --> 00:14:16.520 you know, in spite of whatever trauma, 199 00:14:16.520 --> 00:14:18.600 dysfunction that they've gone through, 200 00:14:18.600 --> 00:14:20.760 but they're gonna love God. 201 00:14:20.760 --> 00:14:25.760 They're going to have hopefully a teachable spirit. 202 00:14:26.240 --> 00:14:27.880 Women usually are a little bit more kind 203 00:14:27.880 --> 00:14:29.880 and compassionate than men. 204 00:14:29.880 --> 00:14:32.760 So you shouldn't have too much trouble 205 00:14:32.760 --> 00:14:34.120 when you come across a good woman 206 00:14:34.120 --> 00:14:36.800 to find, see this character, okay? 207 00:14:37.800 --> 00:14:41.120 So character is the first on the checklist. 208 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:44.840 Number two is emotional maturity. 209 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:50.080 This is where she's healed from the past. 210 00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:51.160 She's not perfect. 211 00:14:52.400 --> 00:14:56.000 She's not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, 212 00:14:56.000 --> 00:14:59.680 but she's been doing the work or has begun the work 213 00:14:59.680 --> 00:15:00.520 and is a woman. 214 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:03.840 aware, and working through trauma, heartbreaks, baggage, 215 00:15:03.840 --> 00:15:05.560 that kind of stuff. 216 00:15:05.560 --> 00:15:07.480 Self-aware, she knows her triggers 217 00:15:07.480 --> 00:15:09.960 and takes responsibility for emotions. 218 00:15:09.960 --> 00:15:13.480 Some women may be in the process of learning this 219 00:15:13.480 --> 00:15:16.840 as you're getting to know them. 220 00:15:16.840 --> 00:15:19.960 You want her to communicate well, 221 00:15:19.960 --> 00:15:21.880 where she can express her needs, set boundaries, 222 00:15:21.880 --> 00:15:24.680 have hard conversations respectfully, 223 00:15:24.680 --> 00:15:26.120 and stable, not reactive. 224 00:15:26.120 --> 00:15:29.040 She doesn't live in drama or create chaos. 225 00:15:29.040 --> 00:15:34.040 Although the feminine in the yin and yang of things, 226 00:15:34.760 --> 00:15:36.240 and she's talking about feminine, masculine, 227 00:15:36.240 --> 00:15:37.920 feminine does represent chaos. 228 00:15:38.920 --> 00:15:43.520 But feminine in the redeemed, in the heavenly form 229 00:15:43.520 --> 00:15:48.320 represents the kind of chaos that is not out of order, 230 00:15:48.320 --> 00:15:50.800 not as disrespectful, but is the kind of chaos 231 00:15:50.800 --> 00:15:53.080 that is wild in terms of the imagination, 232 00:15:53.080 --> 00:15:55.200 in terms of wild, a free spirit, 233 00:15:55.200 --> 00:15:57.920 someone who is willing to go outside of the box. 234 00:15:58.800 --> 00:16:02.840 How many of you as men tend to be like in the box? 235 00:16:02.840 --> 00:16:05.800 Like things gotta be in order, things gotta be rules, 236 00:16:05.800 --> 00:16:08.760 things gotta be this, it's gotta be a certain way. 237 00:16:08.760 --> 00:16:10.760 A woman, a good woman will come along 238 00:16:10.760 --> 00:16:13.000 and like mess that up in a good way. 239 00:16:13.840 --> 00:16:18.800 And I think men find that attractive in some ways. 240 00:16:18.800 --> 00:16:21.560 I think eventually in marriage and relationship, 241 00:16:21.560 --> 00:16:23.760 as you're getting to know each other, 242 00:16:23.760 --> 00:16:25.680 you might have a tendency to push each other's buttons. 243 00:16:25.680 --> 00:16:28.040 And that can become really annoying. 244 00:16:28.040 --> 00:16:31.560 But at the same time, you're gonna grow in relationship 245 00:16:31.560 --> 00:16:33.880 with your spouse enough to know that 246 00:16:33.880 --> 00:16:37.800 when she's wanting to sort of like paint outside the lines, 247 00:16:39.320 --> 00:16:40.480 sometimes you wanna go with that. 248 00:16:40.480 --> 00:16:42.200 Lots of times you wanna go with that 249 00:16:42.200 --> 00:16:44.920 because it makes it fun, it makes it interesting. 250 00:16:44.920 --> 00:16:47.280 It opens you up to the emotional side of you. 251 00:16:47.280 --> 00:16:49.320 It brings out the part of you that needs to come 252 00:16:49.320 --> 00:16:51.240 that she's making better. 253 00:16:51.240 --> 00:16:52.880 Same thing happens to her. 254 00:16:52.880 --> 00:16:55.120 Like you're only seeing this from one side. 255 00:16:56.200 --> 00:17:01.200 So the next step after character, emotional maturity, 256 00:17:02.040 --> 00:17:05.160 is relationship readiness. 257 00:17:05.160 --> 00:17:08.240 She wants marriage and not just attention. 258 00:17:09.640 --> 00:17:13.240 I feel like going down this list 259 00:17:13.240 --> 00:17:15.960 is this is kind of being a little bit discouraging. 260 00:17:16.839 --> 00:17:18.520 Anybody discouraged on this list? 261 00:17:18.520 --> 00:17:19.359 No? 262 00:17:20.240 --> 00:17:22.920 Not discouraging, but I'm not discouraged. 263 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:24.760 No? 264 00:17:24.760 --> 00:17:27.319 Not discouraging, just kind of like- 265 00:17:27.319 --> 00:17:28.760 Wandering? 266 00:17:28.760 --> 00:17:29.840 Well- 267 00:17:29.840 --> 00:17:31.360 Where is this woman? 268 00:17:31.360 --> 00:17:35.000 Well, no, in the sense it's like a fair amount 269 00:17:35.000 --> 00:17:39.080 of women are like that within the LYS community. 270 00:17:42.200 --> 00:17:43.760 Like in the sense of being marriage minded, 271 00:17:43.760 --> 00:17:45.200 but it's more of like, 272 00:17:48.160 --> 00:17:49.680 I think teacher's the wrong word, 273 00:17:49.680 --> 00:17:54.680 but it's almost someone that's like able to invest in you, 274 00:17:54.720 --> 00:17:55.880 but from, 275 00:18:02.280 --> 00:18:04.680 I think I'm not finding the right word in my head, 276 00:18:04.680 --> 00:18:06.400 but almost someone that's like 277 00:18:06.400 --> 00:18:09.680 in the same classroom as you type of thing. 278 00:18:11.280 --> 00:18:15.440 And I can't figure out a smart sounding word 279 00:18:15.440 --> 00:18:17.120 to describe that. 280 00:18:17.120 --> 00:18:17.960 Yeah. 281 00:18:17.960 --> 00:18:18.800 Well, let's get into this 282 00:18:18.920 --> 00:18:20.560 relationship readiness. 283 00:18:20.560 --> 00:18:22.080 She wants marriage, not just attention. 284 00:18:22.080 --> 00:18:23.240 She's intentional and clear 285 00:18:23.240 --> 00:18:25.360 about wanting to build a future. 286 00:18:25.360 --> 00:18:26.960 Okay? 287 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:29.600 She talks about wanting to be a wife and a mother. 288 00:18:30.800 --> 00:18:34.120 And we can't, as men, we can't be afraid of a woman 289 00:18:34.120 --> 00:18:36.520 that actually wants to be married, 290 00:18:36.520 --> 00:18:38.680 that wants to have these things. 291 00:18:38.680 --> 00:18:41.600 It's one thing to say, I want to be in relationship. 292 00:18:41.600 --> 00:18:42.800 I don't want to be alone. 293 00:18:42.800 --> 00:18:44.040 I want to have that significant other. 294 00:18:44.040 --> 00:18:46.320 I want a woman by my side and so forth. 295 00:18:46.360 --> 00:18:49.120 It's another thing to make the full commitment 296 00:18:49.120 --> 00:18:50.880 to a woman who really wants to be married, 297 00:18:50.880 --> 00:18:53.560 have children and all that comes with that. 298 00:18:53.560 --> 00:18:56.280 That ain't easy, you know? 299 00:18:56.280 --> 00:18:59.000 And so what's interesting about this list 300 00:18:59.000 --> 00:19:00.360 is that you have to think about, 301 00:19:00.360 --> 00:19:03.480 okay, this is what you're looking for in a woman. 302 00:19:03.480 --> 00:19:05.120 This is the kind of things, 303 00:19:05.120 --> 00:19:07.640 is one woman going to check up all these things? 304 00:19:07.640 --> 00:19:09.200 Maybe not. 305 00:19:09.200 --> 00:19:10.520 But the question is, 306 00:19:10.520 --> 00:19:15.520 is are you the compliment in the male 307 00:19:16.480 --> 00:19:18.760 with this, right? 308 00:19:18.760 --> 00:19:20.680 This list would be very similar to the male, 309 00:19:20.680 --> 00:19:24.440 character, emotional maturity, relationship readiness. 310 00:19:24.440 --> 00:19:26.560 If you want to, you can go down this list for yourself 311 00:19:26.560 --> 00:19:29.600 and go, hey, do I have character? 312 00:19:29.600 --> 00:19:30.920 Do I love God deeply? 313 00:19:30.920 --> 00:19:32.520 I don't just go to church and say I do, 314 00:19:32.520 --> 00:19:34.480 but I actually have a relationship with God. 315 00:19:34.480 --> 00:19:35.960 Am I having consistent, 316 00:19:35.960 --> 00:19:38.600 do I do the right things when nobody's looking? 317 00:19:38.600 --> 00:19:41.720 Am I open to growth and learning? 318 00:19:41.720 --> 00:19:43.080 Am I kind and compassionate? 319 00:19:43.080 --> 00:19:43.920 That kind of stuff. 320 00:19:43.960 --> 00:19:47.720 And women love men who can exhibit that kind of stuff. 321 00:19:49.000 --> 00:19:51.520 So if you're looking for the male counterpart to this, 322 00:19:51.520 --> 00:19:53.520 it's kind of like the same list. 323 00:19:54.920 --> 00:19:57.600 But this is the kind of woman you're looking for. 324 00:19:57.600 --> 00:19:59.560 She supports your vision and purpose. 325 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.320 She sees your calling and doesn't compete with it. It's not competitive 326 00:20:05.600 --> 00:20:09.120 The question is though guys is do you have a calling? 327 00:20:10.160 --> 00:20:12.160 Do you have a vision for your life? 328 00:20:13.280 --> 00:20:15.280 Because that's what attracts a woman 329 00:20:16.400 --> 00:20:22.080 I told my wife very early on when we were starting to date before we got married, obviously 330 00:20:24.400 --> 00:20:25.920 I was 331 00:20:25.920 --> 00:20:27.440 being 332 00:20:27.440 --> 00:20:28.720 sort of 333 00:20:28.720 --> 00:20:31.120 edged out of the ministry that I was involved with 334 00:20:31.920 --> 00:20:33.920 at the time and I was working at 335 00:20:34.480 --> 00:20:37.520 And it wasn't fun or pretty for that matter 336 00:20:38.720 --> 00:20:44.080 But it just was it was and I was there for a very long time had a lot of a lot of investment 337 00:20:44.720 --> 00:20:46.720 in that ministry 338 00:20:46.800 --> 00:20:47.920 but 339 00:20:47.920 --> 00:20:52.800 I told my wife one time in a like we were driving in a car and she's like what do you what do you want to 340 00:20:52.800 --> 00:20:53.760 be 341 00:20:53.760 --> 00:20:55.280 and i'm like 342 00:20:55.280 --> 00:20:57.520 I think I want to be a rock and roll singer 343 00:20:58.480 --> 00:21:00.480 And she was like 344 00:21:00.640 --> 00:21:02.640 Okay 345 00:21:02.800 --> 00:21:05.760 She said okay like seriously she didn't go like 346 00:21:06.480 --> 00:21:09.840 Okay, like oh, that's weird. She's like, yeah 347 00:21:10.960 --> 00:21:12.480 I'm down with that 348 00:21:12.480 --> 00:21:14.480 I can be the wife of a rock and roll singer 349 00:21:15.120 --> 00:21:17.120 And i'm like, okay 350 00:21:17.360 --> 00:21:18.720 Let's do it 351 00:21:18.720 --> 00:21:20.720 Did I become a rock and roll singer? No 352 00:21:21.840 --> 00:21:26.640 Do I have the skills and ability to possibly do that line of work? Yes 353 00:21:27.280 --> 00:21:28.720 however 354 00:21:28.720 --> 00:21:31.680 It is precarious. That's a very uncertain industry 355 00:21:32.320 --> 00:21:36.480 Things did not go that way. That's not we had kids. We had blend of fame. We had all these things 356 00:21:36.560 --> 00:21:38.560 We did not go that way 357 00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:40.640 But I was able to articulate 358 00:21:41.900 --> 00:21:43.440 something 359 00:21:43.440 --> 00:21:48.800 That I really like connected with in my passion. Like I really wanted to be something and she was like 360 00:21:49.520 --> 00:21:51.520 Okay 361 00:21:51.920 --> 00:21:53.760 Now granted she might have been in an 362 00:21:53.760 --> 00:21:56.560 In a stage in her life where she was just like i'll just take anything 363 00:21:58.320 --> 00:21:59.600 You know 364 00:21:59.600 --> 00:22:01.360 but 365 00:22:01.360 --> 00:22:03.120 i'm just saying 366 00:22:03.120 --> 00:22:06.240 If you can answer the question, this is kind of like will we get back to the question? 367 00:22:06.240 --> 00:22:09.920 What do you want? Right? Do you have a calling? Do you have a vision for your life? 368 00:22:09.920 --> 00:22:12.400 Do you have something that you can give a woman to go? 369 00:22:12.960 --> 00:22:14.160 Okay 370 00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:15.200 Yeah 371 00:22:15.200 --> 00:22:16.960 Let's do it 372 00:22:16.960 --> 00:22:20.800 Even if it isn't the thing that actually becomes who you are, you know i'm saying 373 00:22:21.280 --> 00:22:25.440 Being able to articulate that to a woman to give her something to like connect to and go 374 00:22:25.760 --> 00:22:29.360 This man has purpose this man has thought about this man has a vision for his life 375 00:22:29.360 --> 00:22:32.000 This man wants to achieve something wants to go after something 376 00:22:32.640 --> 00:22:36.400 Rather than just some dude is like yeah, i'm just kind of hanging out doing my thing. Whatever 377 00:22:37.120 --> 00:22:39.120 I got this job 378 00:22:39.120 --> 00:22:42.080 I don't really like it. You know i'm saying like that's a that's a big difference 379 00:22:42.880 --> 00:22:45.600 So that's helpful for you to be able to work on 380 00:22:46.160 --> 00:22:48.160 Do you have a calling do you have vision? 381 00:22:48.160 --> 00:22:49.440 Do you have a vision? 382 00:22:49.440 --> 00:22:51.440 Does she have something? 383 00:22:52.160 --> 00:22:54.640 That she can partner with with you 384 00:22:55.600 --> 00:22:58.320 And again, even though I was telling her I want to be a rock and roll singer 385 00:22:59.280 --> 00:23:00.800 um 386 00:23:00.800 --> 00:23:03.280 You know a couple years before that. I probably wouldn't like I want to be 387 00:23:04.080 --> 00:23:08.560 A praise and worship leader. I want to be like, uh, i'll be something else for my life. That's the only 388 00:23:09.920 --> 00:23:14.160 It's the there were things about me that I did not understand that later came 389 00:23:14.560 --> 00:23:20.080 To be known about me like my vision increased my vision became greater for who I want to be 390 00:23:20.960 --> 00:23:22.480 Okay 391 00:23:22.480 --> 00:23:26.800 But it started out and it was good enough for Jackie Dorman to say, okay 392 00:23:27.840 --> 00:23:29.840 Be a rock and roll singer 393 00:23:29.920 --> 00:23:31.920 I can be married to a rock and roll singer 394 00:23:32.640 --> 00:23:33.760 Right 395 00:23:33.760 --> 00:23:34.880 Okay 396 00:23:34.880 --> 00:23:36.880 um 397 00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:38.880 Uh, she's a team player 398 00:23:39.520 --> 00:23:44.480 She values partnership. She doesn't want a power struggle. She has gifts and talents, too 399 00:23:45.520 --> 00:23:50.480 But she's not trying to be better you she just wants to be a complimentary opposite or maybe she has a stronger gift set 400 00:23:51.280 --> 00:23:55.280 You know a lot of ways my wife has a stronger gift set a more like 401 00:23:56.400 --> 00:24:02.240 um public gift set like she wouldn't be able to do what she does without me, but at the same time 402 00:24:02.240 --> 00:24:08.320 Like people often look at her and me and they're like, oh she's sort of like the more like more well-known more this and that 403 00:24:09.840 --> 00:24:14.880 And that that wasn't the way it was when I was in my previous marriage in my previous marriage I was 404 00:24:16.000 --> 00:24:20.800 Uh, david dorman. I was mr. Dorman. I was all the thing and then my wife was my wife 405 00:24:22.080 --> 00:24:23.920 even though she was 406 00:24:23.920 --> 00:24:25.600 an academic 407 00:24:25.600 --> 00:24:27.120 um 408 00:24:27.600 --> 00:24:29.600 Executive 409 00:24:30.160 --> 00:24:32.160 In the school that we were at 410 00:24:33.280 --> 00:24:36.640 Which is interesting, you know, but she was just considered just the contextually 411 00:24:37.280 --> 00:24:43.200 She was considered my wife now. Lots of times we go into places. That's jackie dorman. And oh, by the way, that's her husband 412 00:24:44.160 --> 00:24:46.640 Okay, that's kind of the way it goes sometimes now 413 00:24:47.420 --> 00:24:50.240 Contextually depends on where we're at where we're showing up 414 00:24:50.240 --> 00:24:53.200 Okay 415 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:08.400 I'm not competitive with that but at the same time I'm also wanting to come into what it is 416 00:25:08.400 --> 00:25:14.720 what's my purpose what's my role to play so I'm consistently working on that 417 00:25:16.560 --> 00:25:22.400 business development all sorts of things that aren't really up front but they support what 418 00:25:22.400 --> 00:25:34.560 we're doing right um what else here understands biblical roles without being religious we've 419 00:25:34.560 --> 00:25:39.600 talked a lot about this she's submitted submitted to God but she has mutual respect and partnership 420 00:25:39.600 --> 00:25:49.440 with you and you know I love Ephesians when it talks about husband's love wives wives submit 421 00:25:49.440 --> 00:25:58.560 husband's love and she's supposed to submit that means that she's that's the most that means that 422 00:25:58.560 --> 00:26:06.960 she's supposed to work to be in agreement with you she's supposed to want to hear your logic 423 00:26:07.760 --> 00:26:17.040 and sort of corral her chaos to fit with the logic of you which makes for a beautiful partnership 424 00:26:19.440 --> 00:26:30.160 right um and then of course it's the husband's job to love love how as Christ loved the church 425 00:26:31.360 --> 00:26:36.640 giving literally laying down his life for the church that's a hard task 426 00:26:38.560 --> 00:26:42.720 that means getting up out of bed at three o'clock in the morning when she needs you to serve her 427 00:26:43.120 --> 00:26:49.920 type stuff not just that but I mean you know it's an that's an example last night I'll tell 428 00:26:49.920 --> 00:26:55.520 you why we were both I told you at the beginning of this call I was ill I think I have contracted 429 00:26:55.520 --> 00:27:01.040 the norovirus so I've got this like flu-y type of symptoms I'm kind of achy right now 430 00:27:01.600 --> 00:27:07.440 taking this stuff in order to get better but she started developing it too and she gets in the 431 00:27:07.760 --> 00:27:12.720 and she gets in the middle of the night she's sick it's extremely I don't even think I can 432 00:27:12.720 --> 00:27:18.560 remember a time where we've actually both been sick together and it was a pathetic mess we 433 00:27:18.560 --> 00:27:25.680 literally were in bed all day today we had family in town they had to like fend for themselves they're 434 00:27:25.680 --> 00:27:29.120 like you just got to go do what you got to do we're contagious we're going to lay in bed and 435 00:27:29.120 --> 00:27:34.560 you got it like I can't we can't be with you we can't spend time with you and it really sucks 436 00:27:34.560 --> 00:27:39.360 because it was like this is the last day that they're here and so that was difficult but we 437 00:27:39.360 --> 00:27:45.920 were not able to like I tried to serve her a little bit try to rub her try to like massage but 438 00:27:47.360 --> 00:27:58.080 it was not it was not it was not very pretty last night that's relationship readiness so 439 00:27:58.080 --> 00:28:02.960 character emotional maturity relationship readiness number four life compatibility 440 00:28:05.440 --> 00:28:11.920 aligned and core values faith family finances and lifestyle that's helpful she wants to raise 441 00:28:11.920 --> 00:28:18.000 your kids like you know jewish orthodox and you're a christian that's gonna be challenging 442 00:28:18.000 --> 00:28:29.040 and difficult or whatever so faith family finances lifestyle you can you cannot you can find a woman 443 00:28:29.200 --> 00:28:33.760 you can find a woman who isn't necessarily understand where you're coming from in some 444 00:28:33.760 --> 00:28:38.320 of these areas and then you can come to an alignment together you can come in agreement 445 00:28:38.320 --> 00:28:43.760 on some of these things but you're looking for someone who is willing I think probably the 446 00:28:43.760 --> 00:28:51.120 biggest the biggest word in this is they're willing to be all these things with you they're 447 00:28:51.120 --> 00:28:55.840 willing to be aligned in core values they're willing to have a similar vision for the future 448 00:28:56.720 --> 00:29:00.400 if you're called to be a missionary and she doesn't want to leave the house 449 00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:06.000 that's going to be challenging like how's that going to work I know people who actually are 450 00:29:06.000 --> 00:29:10.640 married and they actually do have that kind of arrangement where some literally someone's like 451 00:29:10.640 --> 00:29:14.880 traveling all the time and somebody's just such a home body but they've been married for 40 years 452 00:29:14.880 --> 00:29:21.040 I'm like that's amazing I don't know how you made that work but kudos on you so can it work yes but 453 00:29:21.120 --> 00:29:27.200 at the same time is it ideal no it's probably not so you want to look for someone with similar 454 00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:33.760 vision for the future emotional availability she's ready to love and be loved respects your age and 455 00:29:33.760 --> 00:29:38.400 life experience this is what we talk about like if you're trying to find somebody that you're like 456 00:29:39.280 --> 00:29:46.160 wanting to match like people often talk about age like being a big factor like what is the age range 457 00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:52.080 that you know like how older younger whatever should I be like and the biggest thing is you 458 00:29:52.080 --> 00:29:57.760 want to do is you want to match life seasons Jackie talks about that a lot you want to match life 459 00:29:57.760 --> 00:29:59.760 seasons 460 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.000 If you have kids already, which some of you do, 461 00:30:05.000 --> 00:30:07.800 and you're not really interested in having more kids, 462 00:30:07.800 --> 00:30:09.180 nothing wrong with that, 463 00:30:09.180 --> 00:30:12.100 and she doesn't have any kids and she wants to birth kids, 464 00:30:12.100 --> 00:30:13.540 now you've got to make up your mind. 465 00:30:13.540 --> 00:30:16.420 It's like, oh, is that something that I'm, 466 00:30:16.420 --> 00:30:18.400 am I in a different season than her? 467 00:30:20.300 --> 00:30:21.820 Not to say that that won't work out, 468 00:30:21.820 --> 00:30:24.060 but it's something that definitely needs to be discussed 469 00:30:24.060 --> 00:30:25.540 and needs to be looked at. 470 00:30:25.540 --> 00:30:30.540 Number five is attractiveness that goes beyond looks. 471 00:30:35.440 --> 00:30:38.800 So finally, we get down to the attraction part of it. 472 00:30:38.800 --> 00:30:42.320 Physical attraction matters, but it doesn't lead, 473 00:30:43.400 --> 00:30:47.320 doesn't have to lead, probably shouldn't lead. 474 00:30:51.120 --> 00:30:53.940 I mean, it can lead in the sense that, 475 00:30:53.940 --> 00:30:55.480 like you look at this person, you're like, 476 00:30:55.480 --> 00:30:58.900 hey, she's pretty cute, nothing wrong with that. 477 00:30:58.900 --> 00:31:03.700 I'm just saying there's a lot of men and a lot of good men 478 00:31:03.700 --> 00:31:07.700 that are placing a huge emphasis on that initial attraction. 479 00:31:08.860 --> 00:31:11.220 And you got to give it a minute for that, 480 00:31:11.220 --> 00:31:15.380 because the kind of attraction that's going to keep you, 481 00:31:15.380 --> 00:31:16.740 not keep you married, but I mean, 482 00:31:16.740 --> 00:31:18.860 the kind of attraction that's gonna serve you well 483 00:31:18.860 --> 00:31:23.720 in the marriage is going to be more than just a physical, 484 00:31:23.740 --> 00:31:24.920 because for one thing's for sure, 485 00:31:24.920 --> 00:31:28.220 the physical definitely changes, no doubt about that. 486 00:31:28.220 --> 00:31:30.700 Can't do nothing about that, that's just age. 487 00:31:30.700 --> 00:31:33.620 The other thing is, is that that lasts 488 00:31:33.620 --> 00:31:36.220 about two milliseconds. 489 00:31:36.220 --> 00:31:38.940 There's gotta be something more in the relationship 490 00:31:38.940 --> 00:31:42.500 that you're connecting on that gives you energy 491 00:31:42.500 --> 00:31:46.900 and gives you value, gives you like, man, I love this woman. 492 00:31:46.900 --> 00:31:49.380 This woman is my, there's just, 493 00:31:49.380 --> 00:31:51.540 we've got so many things connecting on 494 00:31:51.540 --> 00:31:53.420 and you get to grow in that. 495 00:31:54.120 --> 00:31:55.560 That is not something that you get to like, 496 00:31:55.560 --> 00:31:59.620 check off all this list and then get married. 497 00:31:59.620 --> 00:32:02.560 This is the stuff that grows in marriage. 498 00:32:05.160 --> 00:32:09.080 So you should be drawn to her, but not led by lust. 499 00:32:09.080 --> 00:32:11.400 Very important, graceful and confident. 500 00:32:11.400 --> 00:32:15.120 She carries herself with dignity and a beautiful spirit. 501 00:32:15.120 --> 00:32:16.840 You feel peace, joy, and a sense of safety 502 00:32:16.840 --> 00:32:18.360 when you're around her. 503 00:32:18.360 --> 00:32:23.360 So this is the, this is the massive wife material 504 00:32:23.440 --> 00:32:25.480 checklist for Christian middle-aged man. 505 00:32:26.400 --> 00:32:28.720 And if you wanna turn it around on yourself, 506 00:32:28.720 --> 00:32:32.160 you wanna ask yourself, hey, am I these things? 507 00:32:32.160 --> 00:32:33.040 Do I do these things? 508 00:32:33.040 --> 00:32:34.740 Am I working towards these things? 509 00:32:35.760 --> 00:32:38.120 You know, what do I have to bring to the table as well 510 00:32:38.120 --> 00:32:42.320 in terms of what a woman would be wanting to partner with 511 00:32:42.320 --> 00:32:43.640 and be attracted to? 512 00:32:45.120 --> 00:32:46.680 A lot of them are very similar to this list. 513 00:32:46.680 --> 00:32:47.880 Okay, we've got hands raised, 514 00:32:47.880 --> 00:32:48.900 probably questions, comments. 515 00:32:48.900 --> 00:32:49.780 David, go ahead. 516 00:32:50.600 --> 00:32:55.600 Yeah, I was gonna ask, recently came into prayer 517 00:32:56.360 --> 00:32:57.840 that I was, 518 00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:04.440 pursuit, and I was actually gonna say, 519 00:33:04.440 --> 00:33:07.000 talk about seasons, and then you actually brought it up 520 00:33:07.000 --> 00:33:09.680 after I had the thought, I was just curious, 521 00:33:09.680 --> 00:33:14.680 are there like concrete, definitive titles of seasons? 522 00:33:17.160 --> 00:33:18.480 Oh, titles of seasons? 523 00:33:18.500 --> 00:33:23.500 I mean, it depends on what kind of, 524 00:33:25.700 --> 00:33:28.260 it depends on what kind of, 525 00:33:28.260 --> 00:33:30.340 what topic you're talking about. 526 00:33:30.340 --> 00:33:34.460 Like if you're talking about sort of like a life journey 527 00:33:34.460 --> 00:33:37.700 season, like for instance, having kids, not having kids, 528 00:33:37.700 --> 00:33:39.880 career oriented, you know, topic. 529 00:33:40.820 --> 00:33:43.140 This person's in a very, like this person's a lawyer 530 00:33:43.140 --> 00:33:45.200 and I'm not even anywhere near that. 531 00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:46.140 I don't really have that. 532 00:33:46.140 --> 00:33:50.440 Like you're gonna have to, is that going to be an issue 533 00:33:51.880 --> 00:33:53.920 in terms of like the career path? 534 00:33:53.920 --> 00:33:57.080 Maybe this person is so involved in their career, 535 00:33:57.080 --> 00:34:02.080 it's just like, would this be, does she have time? 536 00:34:02.100 --> 00:34:03.800 You know, is she even marriage minded 537 00:34:03.800 --> 00:34:05.600 because of this career type of thing? 538 00:34:07.560 --> 00:34:11.840 You know, it's just things to sort of like look for. 539 00:34:11.840 --> 00:34:14.199 I actually had a friend that was a really good friend of mine 540 00:34:14.219 --> 00:34:17.139 that said, he said, before you get married, 541 00:34:17.139 --> 00:34:20.860 his opinion was, we did not take this advice, 542 00:34:20.860 --> 00:34:23.340 but I think it's still a pretty good opinion. 543 00:34:23.340 --> 00:34:26.739 His opinion was, is that, you know, you should go 544 00:34:26.739 --> 00:34:31.060 through every calendar season with somebody. 545 00:34:31.060 --> 00:34:33.580 There's something about the seasons that brings out like, 546 00:34:33.580 --> 00:34:36.179 what are they, what does this person do at Christmas time? 547 00:34:36.179 --> 00:34:40.500 What if you met this person like, you know, in spring 548 00:34:40.500 --> 00:34:44.179 and by the fall you're married or you're like, 549 00:34:45.020 --> 00:34:45.960 heavily going on with this person 550 00:34:45.960 --> 00:34:47.320 or you're engaged or whatever. 551 00:34:47.320 --> 00:34:49.159 And then Christmas rolls around. 552 00:34:49.159 --> 00:34:52.500 And then her tradition for Christmas is like, whack. 553 00:34:52.500 --> 00:34:53.600 Like, you're like, what? 554 00:34:53.600 --> 00:34:55.600 Like, wait a minute, we don't do that. 555 00:34:55.600 --> 00:34:56.679 I don't even know what that is. 556 00:34:56.679 --> 00:34:59.160 Like that could cause a real issue. 557 00:34:59.160 --> 00:35:00.000 That could cause. 558 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.360 So it's helpful to be able to walk through 559 00:35:03.360 --> 00:35:05.820 like the actual seasons with somebody. 560 00:35:07.000 --> 00:35:09.340 And we talk about this a lot in last year's single, 561 00:35:09.340 --> 00:35:12.980 we talk about if you're gonna date long, 562 00:35:12.980 --> 00:35:14.060 have a short engagement, 563 00:35:14.060 --> 00:35:17.420 or if you're going to date short and get to engagement, 564 00:35:17.420 --> 00:35:19.420 have a long engagement. 565 00:35:19.420 --> 00:35:22.740 Either way, have some time that you're giving yourself 566 00:35:22.740 --> 00:35:25.620 to get to know this person in terms of a courtship. 567 00:35:26.980 --> 00:35:27.820 Next question. 568 00:35:27.820 --> 00:35:30.300 Do you mean black as in nothing there 569 00:35:30.300 --> 00:35:33.140 or black as in like black, ugly, cursed sweater? 570 00:35:34.740 --> 00:35:36.220 What now? 571 00:35:36.220 --> 00:35:38.640 You said she's black? 572 00:35:38.640 --> 00:35:40.180 No, no, no, I said whack. 573 00:35:40.180 --> 00:35:41.020 Oh, okay. 574 00:35:41.020 --> 00:35:43.300 Like if you don't understand 575 00:35:43.300 --> 00:35:46.500 or you're just not like in the realm of like, 576 00:35:46.500 --> 00:35:47.340 that's just a great- 577 00:35:47.340 --> 00:35:48.540 It doesn't flow. 578 00:35:48.540 --> 00:35:49.380 Okay. 579 00:35:49.380 --> 00:35:50.200 For instance, like, you know, 580 00:35:50.200 --> 00:35:51.060 what does she do around Mother's Day? 581 00:35:51.060 --> 00:35:52.500 What does she do around her birthday? 582 00:35:52.500 --> 00:35:53.900 What does she do around like, 583 00:35:53.900 --> 00:35:56.860 there's different things that come around every year 584 00:35:56.860 --> 00:35:58.380 that people do. 585 00:35:58.380 --> 00:36:00.420 And it may be helpful for you to like, 586 00:36:00.420 --> 00:36:02.380 just, you know, get to know this person 587 00:36:02.380 --> 00:36:04.340 in and out of those seasons 588 00:36:04.340 --> 00:36:06.260 because they're different things. 589 00:36:06.260 --> 00:36:07.220 People do different things 590 00:36:07.220 --> 00:36:10.380 at different times of the year, right? 591 00:36:10.380 --> 00:36:12.260 It can be helpful you to get to know somebody. 592 00:36:12.260 --> 00:36:13.860 What are they like in wintertime? 593 00:36:13.860 --> 00:36:15.820 What are they like in summertime? 594 00:36:15.820 --> 00:36:16.660 You know? 595 00:36:19.100 --> 00:36:21.180 It will reveal like different seasons of the year, 596 00:36:21.180 --> 00:36:23.300 just have a way of revealing different aspects 597 00:36:23.300 --> 00:36:25.940 of everybody's personality. 598 00:36:27.020 --> 00:36:28.260 So it's just an idea. 599 00:36:28.260 --> 00:36:30.700 It's not a hard, rigid rule. 600 00:36:30.700 --> 00:36:31.740 It's just a concept. 601 00:36:33.700 --> 00:36:34.540 Anybody else? 602 00:36:34.540 --> 00:36:36.700 Questions, comments, concerns? 603 00:36:38.580 --> 00:36:40.700 Anybody want to amend the list? 604 00:36:40.700 --> 00:36:44.060 Add or take away? 605 00:36:44.060 --> 00:36:45.900 Well, I think it's a really good list. 606 00:36:45.900 --> 00:36:48.740 And I think the key is you being a person. 607 00:36:48.740 --> 00:36:50.660 You know, so many guys want the woman 608 00:36:50.660 --> 00:36:53.940 who's stacked and fit and all that, 609 00:36:53.940 --> 00:36:55.820 but then they're not fit themselves. 610 00:36:55.820 --> 00:36:57.940 So like, what do you bring into the table? 611 00:36:57.940 --> 00:36:58.780 Right? 612 00:36:58.780 --> 00:37:00.500 Like, I mean, imperfectly, 613 00:37:00.500 --> 00:37:03.540 but like, you know, like if you're a $5 dude 614 00:37:03.540 --> 00:37:04.940 and you want a million dollar girl, 615 00:37:04.940 --> 00:37:07.260 like, you know, like what are you doing to bring value? 616 00:37:07.260 --> 00:37:08.100 And I think, you know, 617 00:37:08.100 --> 00:37:08.940 I talked to a lot of women 618 00:37:08.940 --> 00:37:11.860 and they want a man with a plan, 619 00:37:11.860 --> 00:37:14.140 but just they want something to partner with 620 00:37:14.140 --> 00:37:16.620 and they want something that makes them, 621 00:37:16.620 --> 00:37:18.980 cause I know a lot of women that make a lot of money. 622 00:37:18.980 --> 00:37:20.740 They're like, money doesn't matter. 623 00:37:20.740 --> 00:37:23.260 I just want to be able to respect him for something. 624 00:37:23.260 --> 00:37:24.100 Exactly. 625 00:37:24.100 --> 00:37:24.940 And the thing about it is, 626 00:37:24.940 --> 00:37:28.020 you don't even have to be a $5 man and a million dollar woman 627 00:37:28.020 --> 00:37:29.540 if she's a million dollar woman, 628 00:37:29.540 --> 00:37:31.900 maybe you could be a hundred thousand dollar man. 629 00:37:31.900 --> 00:37:32.740 Yeah. 630 00:37:32.740 --> 00:37:33.580 You know what I'm saying? 631 00:37:33.580 --> 00:37:36.540 Like, she can look at you and go, 632 00:37:36.540 --> 00:37:40.180 hey, you know, the value that we bring on, 633 00:37:40.180 --> 00:37:42.900 like the idea of like what is successful 634 00:37:42.900 --> 00:37:46.020 is not at all the same thing that women look at. 635 00:37:46.020 --> 00:37:46.980 I mean, yeah. 636 00:37:46.980 --> 00:37:48.620 If they're like a gold digger type thing, 637 00:37:48.620 --> 00:37:49.660 then we get all that. 638 00:37:49.660 --> 00:37:51.260 But what I'm saying is like a real good woman 639 00:37:51.260 --> 00:37:54.260 who actually like wants to bring value. 640 00:37:54.260 --> 00:37:57.100 We'll look at a guy and like, you know, 641 00:37:57.100 --> 00:37:59.220 hey, he may not be the richest man in the world, 642 00:37:59.220 --> 00:38:00.740 but he's got character integrity. 643 00:38:00.740 --> 00:38:03.980 And he's, you know, he sees me for who I am 644 00:38:03.980 --> 00:38:05.900 and he's wanting to be in partnership. 645 00:38:05.900 --> 00:38:06.940 Like he wants to love me. 646 00:38:06.940 --> 00:38:10.660 That's, that is a recipe for success. 647 00:38:11.660 --> 00:38:12.500 Yeah. 648 00:38:12.500 --> 00:38:13.340 Right there. 649 00:38:13.340 --> 00:38:14.260 And when I say $5 dude, 650 00:38:14.260 --> 00:38:16.420 I mean like somebody who's not really doing anything. 651 00:38:16.420 --> 00:38:17.260 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 652 00:38:17.260 --> 00:38:18.100 Exactly. 653 00:38:18.100 --> 00:38:20.260 It wasn't, you know, I mean, that what, 654 00:38:20.260 --> 00:38:21.340 I mean, if you're doing something, 655 00:38:21.340 --> 00:38:22.700 then you're worth far more than that. 656 00:38:22.700 --> 00:38:23.540 Right. 657 00:38:23.660 --> 00:38:24.500 I mean, that's what I'm saying. 658 00:38:24.500 --> 00:38:25.660 It's kind of like, hey, you know, yeah. 659 00:38:25.660 --> 00:38:28.140 Could you, if you are a $5 dude, 660 00:38:28.140 --> 00:38:31.580 could you be a $50,000 dude, $100,000 dude? 661 00:38:31.580 --> 00:38:33.540 You know, like, yeah, let's work towards that. 662 00:38:33.540 --> 00:38:34.620 Increase your value every year. 663 00:38:34.620 --> 00:38:36.940 But I do, you know, like it's a partnership, 664 00:38:36.940 --> 00:38:40.500 like the physical part, like you said, two milliseconds. 665 00:38:40.500 --> 00:38:42.140 And it's like, you know, 666 00:38:42.140 --> 00:38:44.220 that like what's the rest of the relationship built on? 667 00:38:44.220 --> 00:38:45.980 I've done, I've lived, been there, done that, 668 00:38:45.980 --> 00:38:48.540 got that t-shirt, don't ever want it again. 669 00:38:48.540 --> 00:38:50.260 And that's why, you know, I tell you guys, 670 00:38:50.260 --> 00:38:53.060 and I just talk about all the time about being partnership. 671 00:38:53.540 --> 00:38:55.460 You want somebody to partner with. 672 00:38:55.460 --> 00:38:57.940 You don't want somebody to lord over, right? 673 00:38:57.940 --> 00:39:01.060 You know, like a lot of people take the Ephesians verse, 674 00:39:01.060 --> 00:39:04.300 but before it even says, wives submit to husbands, 675 00:39:04.300 --> 00:39:06.620 it says both be submitted to Christ. 676 00:39:06.620 --> 00:39:07.540 That's true. 677 00:39:07.540 --> 00:39:08.380 Right? 678 00:39:08.380 --> 00:39:11.820 Like, and so I just want somebody to walk alongside 679 00:39:11.820 --> 00:39:13.980 and to be there and to be my cheerleader. 680 00:39:13.980 --> 00:39:18.460 And so, and like, and I try to actually be a cheerleader 681 00:39:18.460 --> 00:39:20.540 and try to develop those skills. 682 00:39:20.540 --> 00:39:22.780 So when I do finally meet her, 683 00:39:23.500 --> 00:39:27.340 then we're going to be like matching better, right? 684 00:39:27.340 --> 00:39:30.580 You know, I mean, the waiting time's a good time 685 00:39:30.580 --> 00:39:33.540 to invest in yourself and become a million dollar man. 686 00:39:33.540 --> 00:39:34.380 That's true. 687 00:39:34.380 --> 00:39:35.220 Right? 688 00:39:35.220 --> 00:39:37.100 So I just, that's just my couple cents. 689 00:39:39.580 --> 00:39:40.420 Who else? 690 00:39:40.420 --> 00:39:41.260 Who else? 691 00:39:43.660 --> 00:39:45.540 Comments, concerns, questions. 692 00:39:45.540 --> 00:39:46.900 I have my hand up. 693 00:39:49.180 --> 00:39:50.460 Go ahead, Hunter. 694 00:39:50.460 --> 00:39:55.100 Well, I caught on the Lord and I know that I finally got, 695 00:39:55.100 --> 00:39:57.380 as you know, I'm actually making progress 696 00:39:57.380 --> 00:40:00.100 on not self-gratifying and it's basically. 697 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:07.080 the more you stop focus. I said I shouldn't bother me and they said no don't focus like look at and then put before the Lord and 698 00:40:07.680 --> 00:40:09.320 Basically, I heard God 699 00:40:09.320 --> 00:40:15.560 I prayed about wine the spirit of a and God says don't think of looking meaning you see someone cuz I was at the conference 700 00:40:15.560 --> 00:40:22.000 I saw women try to interact and get a happen took match in my own hands, but really I didn't get anywhere 701 00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:26.000 It's basically don't try to look like control everything and let God work 702 00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:31.280 You just go in or I get to know the person like God lead you. I think people I just figured out 703 00:40:31.280 --> 00:40:36.560 That's why I meant like like for example, I talked to some women on singles nation, too 704 00:40:36.560 --> 00:40:41.920 And I figured you know what? I just how am I thinking? How am I supposed to work? 705 00:40:41.920 --> 00:40:43.640 How am I supposed to do this? 706 00:40:43.640 --> 00:40:47.680 Well to summarize it the how I get calculated look at your past 707 00:40:47.840 --> 00:40:53.240 Relationships look at how those women that you that I was in level three relationship behaved and I didn't like it 708 00:40:53.240 --> 00:40:58.820 You don't like how they behaved took because a lot of these level three relationships. I had to 709 00:40:59.720 --> 00:41:05.080 Reflected my past immature behavior and I'm like, you don't like how they behave immaturely 710 00:41:05.080 --> 00:41:11.960 Don't behave like that towards others and think about what this person would think they want to be loved night and not used or 711 00:41:12.720 --> 00:41:18.040 Instead of of course, I had this whole idea of getting done getting done like try to focus on 712 00:41:18.520 --> 00:41:23.800 like I want to marry because there's something in it for me because I want to marry because the 713 00:41:23.880 --> 00:41:27.680 Benefits and the families and I want so our families can have everything 714 00:41:27.680 --> 00:41:31.080 I want to make the most of my money and make the most of it 715 00:41:31.200 --> 00:41:33.560 But well, of course, there's nothing wrong with that 716 00:41:33.560 --> 00:41:37.520 Like go in and have self-certain going because you there's something in it for you 717 00:41:37.520 --> 00:41:40.760 We get out of it like going out and gain a job because there's money in it 718 00:41:40.760 --> 00:41:45.160 If you work if you work in put some hours and work then there's money in it 719 00:41:45.160 --> 00:41:52.040 But marriage I think is a new ballgame an extra layer like intimacy building an intimate relationship instead of saying come on 720 00:41:52.040 --> 00:41:55.000 Hey, I I want you in because you're fitting my bill 721 00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:55.320 No 722 00:41:55.320 --> 00:41:57.320 I'm doing it because I 723 00:41:57.520 --> 00:42:02.400 Actually like you I want to get to know you more and more and build on the intimacy from level one to the level three 724 00:42:02.400 --> 00:42:07.240 Or something and I figured I don't know if you've seen get my mom the right guy a good moral picture of it 725 00:42:08.080 --> 00:42:12.040 Because I think this is all I need to know before I meet my spear mate 726 00:42:12.440 --> 00:42:18.880 You like my days of being single might be number even when you you and Jackie called this app last year singles 727 00:42:21.040 --> 00:42:28.440 Good good. Thank you. Thank you for sharing hunter good insight. Love it. Love it 728 00:42:31.000 --> 00:42:33.000 Anybody else 729 00:42:33.000 --> 00:42:38.080 Questions comments concerned, but I guess I just wanted to say that like I thought the list is like really good 730 00:42:38.080 --> 00:42:40.080 Like it's just solid, you know 731 00:42:42.840 --> 00:42:44.840 Good 732 00:42:44.840 --> 00:42:49.680 Yeah, he and I were on the sound off and he complimented how I figured this out 733 00:42:52.320 --> 00:42:56.600 Anybody have a anybody have it anybody been challenged to 734 00:42:59.280 --> 00:43:02.160 Go, okay. I'm looking for this woman, but 735 00:43:03.320 --> 00:43:07.240 Where's the part that I'm going to like step up, you know? 736 00:43:07.880 --> 00:43:10.920 Anybody challenged in that way, it's just like 737 00:43:12.920 --> 00:43:17.760 Yeah, it's always been that's a struggle but it definitely is a struggle because I mean it's like I 738 00:43:18.880 --> 00:43:23.160 Unfortunately feel like I have the tendency to take and not give 739 00:43:24.240 --> 00:43:29.120 So I do need to work on that. I knew I need to figure out like what it is that I can, you know, give 740 00:43:29.120 --> 00:43:31.120 You know to a relationship 741 00:43:32.680 --> 00:43:34.680 That's good, what are you gonna give 742 00:43:35.080 --> 00:43:37.560 I guess that's the problem. I don't really know 743 00:43:39.640 --> 00:43:42.760 Like what what is the guy usually good 744 00:43:44.040 --> 00:43:46.040 you have 745 00:43:46.040 --> 00:43:48.040 You have your love which is what? 746 00:43:49.480 --> 00:43:52.520 Laying down your life. Mm-hmm support 747 00:43:54.200 --> 00:43:56.200 You have your 748 00:43:56.600 --> 00:43:58.600 willingness to provide 749 00:43:59.480 --> 00:44:03.080 There's lots at you. There's a lot at you. Yeah, there's a lot at you 750 00:44:03.720 --> 00:44:05.720 There's lots that you have to give 751 00:44:06.840 --> 00:44:14.440 You just you know, you walk in a relationship long enough to where you learn what does this woman need for me? 752 00:44:15.960 --> 00:44:22.020 I mean, you know, I mean, I mean, it's kind of like that like what does this woman need for me? 753 00:44:23.560 --> 00:44:30.600 Like that like that the worldly like sort of like fleshly thing would like what is it gonna take for this girl to 754 00:44:31.160 --> 00:44:33.160 Sleep with me, right? 755 00:44:34.680 --> 00:44:40.040 The antithesis to that is what is it gonna take for this woman 756 00:44:40.840 --> 00:44:43.400 To respectfully want to partner with me 757 00:44:44.600 --> 00:44:46.600 That's the question 758 00:44:48.200 --> 00:44:50.200 Abram you had your hand raised 759 00:44:52.440 --> 00:44:58.120 Um, andy the reason why she makes you sandwiches is so when the burglar's brick in the house you die first that's the trade bro 760 00:44:58.120 --> 00:45:00.920 Okay, so 761 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.600 That's what he's talking about by your life. 762 00:45:02.600 --> 00:45:02.940 Okay. 763 00:45:03.460 --> 00:45:04.020 Yeah. 764 00:45:04.700 --> 00:45:09.880 Um, but, um, I think I've got to the point guys where I am willing to move 765 00:45:09.880 --> 00:45:12.000 across the country to have a family. 766 00:45:13.480 --> 00:45:13.880 Wow. 767 00:45:14.320 --> 00:45:17.860 If you ask me right now, okay. 768 00:45:17.860 --> 00:45:21.780 Stay at home, stay in your town with all your, everyone you've ever known 769 00:45:23.620 --> 00:45:25.880 or move somewhere and have a family, man. 770 00:45:25.880 --> 00:45:26.880 I'm picking my family, man. 771 00:45:28.580 --> 00:45:29.120 It's official. 772 00:45:30.260 --> 00:45:30.900 That's powerful. 773 00:45:30.900 --> 00:45:31.820 That's a big step for you. 774 00:45:31.940 --> 00:45:33.460 I know family is super important. 775 00:45:34.260 --> 00:45:34.580 Yeah. 776 00:45:34.660 --> 00:45:34.820 Yeah. 777 00:45:34.820 --> 00:45:40.580 Like it's almost like, um, my heart's almost already, I'm almost like grieving 778 00:45:41.980 --> 00:45:49.180 at the ideas of if I make that decision, what my life will look like in 779 00:45:49.180 --> 00:45:53.620 relationships that I have with my family members right now, like how can I 780 00:45:53.800 --> 00:46:00.280 except that I'm going to see my dad possibly less times than I have fingers 781 00:46:00.680 --> 00:46:05.840 and toes in the next 10 years. 782 00:46:06.560 --> 00:46:06.920 Wow. 783 00:46:07.360 --> 00:46:16.280 It sucks, but it's all worth it if I have a family, because my dad would 784 00:46:16.280 --> 00:46:20.800 want me to have a kid, have my own family deep down inside. 785 00:46:20.820 --> 00:46:24.660 So he would, he would tell me to go. 786 00:46:25.140 --> 00:46:26.060 He would tell you to go. 787 00:46:26.540 --> 00:46:27.340 I think he would. 788 00:46:27.540 --> 00:46:28.060 I think he would. 789 00:46:28.620 --> 00:46:29.740 He doesn't want me to go. 790 00:46:31.220 --> 00:46:33.900 I hung out with my dad today for a couple hours, just shooting the shit. 791 00:46:33.900 --> 00:46:36.220 And yeah. 792 00:46:37.660 --> 00:46:38.020 Wow. 793 00:46:38.060 --> 00:46:39.340 Yeah, it's a big step. 794 00:46:40.140 --> 00:46:40.300 Yeah. 795 00:46:41.380 --> 00:46:44.460 I actually have a big, uh, a big announcement to myself. 796 00:46:44.720 --> 00:46:51.120 Um, uh, so I, um, I believe I've discovered a new avenue that like, I 797 00:46:51.120 --> 00:46:55.380 think is going to work like much better for me, like a lot easier to find the 798 00:46:55.380 --> 00:46:56.120 right person. 799 00:46:56.600 --> 00:47:03.080 Um, so, um, my, uh, my counselor, cause I see a counselor and, um, he kept 800 00:47:03.120 --> 00:47:06.840 bugging me, like he's a Christian counselor and he kept bugging me, um, 801 00:47:07.080 --> 00:47:11.840 like, Hey, when are you going to go, um, meet a nice Asian woman, like online. 802 00:47:12.060 --> 00:47:17.460 And I'm like, um, I always, I was like, you know, I mean that long distance, 803 00:47:17.460 --> 00:47:19.220 like international, are you kidding me? 804 00:47:19.780 --> 00:47:23.380 And, um, and so I kept like shrugging it off. 805 00:47:23.900 --> 00:47:27.220 And then like, he mentioned it again last time. 806 00:47:27.220 --> 00:47:32.220 I was like, you know, um, I heard that the Philippines is like a very Catholic 807 00:47:32.220 --> 00:47:37.260 country and like, they have very, like they're very traditional values and like 808 00:47:37.260 --> 00:47:44.120 their culture is like, um, it, it, it, it's easier for like a guy from America 809 00:47:44.120 --> 00:47:46.800 to date a woman from the Philippines. 810 00:47:46.800 --> 00:47:49.720 Like, there's like a lot people are talking about that. 811 00:47:50.280 --> 00:47:54.960 And so I joined a website called, um, Christian Filipina and, um, 812 00:47:55.400 --> 00:47:56.800 it's a really good website. 813 00:47:56.820 --> 00:47:59.780 Like they, they have really good customer service. 814 00:47:59.780 --> 00:48:05.440 They do like, um, they like help you, like if you're going to like visit and 815 00:48:06.220 --> 00:48:08.540 I'm like, they, they, they help you out. 816 00:48:08.580 --> 00:48:14.080 And then, and then like, if, uh, you want to get married and she wants, she's going 817 00:48:14.080 --> 00:48:19.120 to come back, she's going to come to the United States, they, um, they, they have 818 00:48:19.120 --> 00:48:21.460 a way to make the immigration process smoother. 819 00:48:21.940 --> 00:48:27.760 So it's like, they, they really like have this down to a T and this is a legit 820 00:48:27.760 --> 00:48:28.980 website, right? 821 00:48:28.980 --> 00:48:30.100 Legit, very legit. 822 00:48:30.180 --> 00:48:31.980 And they keep out scammers and everything. 823 00:48:31.980 --> 00:48:38.560 Like it's, it's, it's, I'm just really, um, like wowed by it. 824 00:48:38.580 --> 00:48:42.080 And like, I, I really feel like this could be something. 825 00:48:43.560 --> 00:48:44.120 Okay. 826 00:48:44.480 --> 00:48:46.240 Do you have any questions, Andy? 827 00:48:46.240 --> 00:48:50.280 I have experience with dating Filipino women. 828 00:48:50.280 --> 00:48:55.520 And, uh, actually my, I think part of my mission field is also Philippines. 829 00:48:55.600 --> 00:49:00.040 I've lived in, uh, Mindanao, the Southern part, um, a handful of 830 00:49:00.040 --> 00:49:05.340 months, and I've been among Filipinos in Singapore for probably collectively. 831 00:49:05.900 --> 00:49:09.380 Nine ish months over the last five years. 832 00:49:10.140 --> 00:49:12.820 I stayed in touch with them, but I know what the process looks like. 833 00:49:12.820 --> 00:49:17.980 Cause I actually did try to marry someone from Southern, uh, Philippines. 834 00:49:17.980 --> 00:49:20.220 And so there's many ways to go about it. 835 00:49:20.220 --> 00:49:24.600 If you go through the formal ways that Christian Filipino wants you to go 836 00:49:24.600 --> 00:49:28.700 through, which there's nothing wrong with it, just be prepared to fork out 20 to 837 00:49:28.760 --> 00:49:32.120 $30,000, uh, for that assistance. 838 00:49:32.800 --> 00:49:36.380 But, you know, at the end of the day, you know, they're also there to support 839 00:49:36.380 --> 00:49:42.200 you, to help you get something that works for you, that's not going to be 840 00:49:42.200 --> 00:49:44.780 bulletproof, but, you know, take your time. 841 00:49:44.780 --> 00:49:45.440 Don't rush it. 842 00:49:47.720 --> 00:49:48.080 Yeah. 843 00:49:48.680 --> 00:49:49.760 Stranger things. 844 00:49:49.800 --> 00:49:55.600 Uh, you know, I, I, I don't know how, I don't have any experience with, um, I'd 845 00:49:55.600 --> 00:49:57.440 liked, I'd looked at their website though, real quickly. 846 00:49:57.440 --> 00:49:59.980 I liked the fact that the choices are a man looking for. 847 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.800 woman, woman looking for a man and that's it. 848 00:50:01.800 --> 00:50:03.960 So that's helpful. 849 00:50:03.960 --> 00:50:07.920 And, and I thought that was, that was good. 850 00:50:10.480 --> 00:50:12.000 Thank you for your insight there, Josh. 851 00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:13.240 That's fascinating. 852 00:50:13.240 --> 00:50:15.400 I didn't know that you had that experience 853 00:50:15.400 --> 00:50:17.540 or that background. 854 00:50:19.800 --> 00:50:20.640 Yeah. 855 00:50:20.640 --> 00:50:23.880 And if you need any tips to avoid being scammed, 856 00:50:23.880 --> 00:50:24.720 just let me know. 857 00:50:24.720 --> 00:50:27.400 Cause I have, I've seen people be scammed. 858 00:50:27.400 --> 00:50:28.240 Yeah. 859 00:50:28.240 --> 00:50:32.240 I've been scammed, but my story is not quite that. 860 00:50:32.240 --> 00:50:36.880 So, but that is probably the biggest concern, 861 00:50:36.880 --> 00:50:39.280 but at the same time, you never know. 862 00:50:39.280 --> 00:50:40.120 It's easy. 863 00:50:40.120 --> 00:50:42.360 Cause you know, for them, Filipinos, 864 00:50:42.360 --> 00:50:44.040 I'll make this real short. 865 00:50:44.040 --> 00:50:48.080 For Filipinos, white people are wealthy. 866 00:50:48.080 --> 00:50:49.920 Automatically you're wealthy. 867 00:50:49.920 --> 00:50:51.680 If you're taller than four feet, 868 00:50:51.680 --> 00:50:53.200 you're automatically wealthy. 869 00:50:54.320 --> 00:50:55.920 If you're from a foreign country, 870 00:50:55.920 --> 00:50:57.580 you're automatically wealthy. 871 00:50:57.620 --> 00:51:00.060 If you're a Filipino and went to work abroad, 872 00:51:00.060 --> 00:51:02.100 you're automatically wealthy. 873 00:51:02.100 --> 00:51:04.380 So there's, it's one of those things, 874 00:51:04.380 --> 00:51:05.940 you know how it's like, 875 00:51:05.940 --> 00:51:08.180 if you've got too much money in your hands 876 00:51:08.180 --> 00:51:11.360 that you can foolishly steward it. 877 00:51:11.360 --> 00:51:12.460 If you know what I mean? 878 00:51:12.460 --> 00:51:14.220 Like you would misuse it. 879 00:51:14.220 --> 00:51:15.800 You would tell yourself, yeah, man, 880 00:51:15.800 --> 00:51:17.260 I can't handle this much money 881 00:51:17.260 --> 00:51:20.100 because I've never had a responsive, 882 00:51:20.100 --> 00:51:23.340 a maturing process to be able to handle that much. 883 00:51:23.340 --> 00:51:24.940 So in the Philippines, it's, 884 00:51:24.940 --> 00:51:27.320 there's a very real application of that, 885 00:51:28.060 --> 00:51:31.880 where as a Westerner, it is way too easy. 886 00:51:31.880 --> 00:51:33.040 I'm telling you firsthand, 887 00:51:33.040 --> 00:51:35.720 way too easy to give too much money 888 00:51:35.720 --> 00:51:38.200 out of a good, genuine heart. 889 00:51:38.200 --> 00:51:39.040 Right, right. 890 00:51:39.040 --> 00:51:40.720 And that would actually lead to ruin. 891 00:51:40.720 --> 00:51:43.740 So you have to be careful on several things, but anyway. 892 00:51:45.760 --> 00:51:48.160 Yeah, let's, let's put that before our, 893 00:51:48.160 --> 00:51:49.840 this is why we developed this community 894 00:51:49.840 --> 00:51:51.560 so that we could have this kind of support 895 00:51:51.560 --> 00:51:52.520 and because kind of like, 896 00:51:52.520 --> 00:51:54.720 hey bro, you want to think about that? 897 00:51:54.720 --> 00:51:57.720 Or that's ill-advised. 898 00:51:57.720 --> 00:52:00.720 Or, hey, you know, I don't know. 899 00:52:00.720 --> 00:52:01.720 Stranger things have happened. 900 00:52:01.720 --> 00:52:06.720 So thanks guys for that, that, that input. 901 00:52:07.000 --> 00:52:07.920 Anybody else? 902 00:52:07.920 --> 00:52:10.140 We've got just a few minutes left here. 903 00:52:10.140 --> 00:52:14.480 Reacting to this, this list, 904 00:52:14.480 --> 00:52:17.400 or even just in preparation, like, 905 00:52:18.240 --> 00:52:20.080 you know, I asked a few months ago, 906 00:52:20.080 --> 00:52:21.640 like what is your number one? 907 00:52:21.640 --> 00:52:22.560 Are you, is number, 908 00:52:22.560 --> 00:52:26.960 is getting married on your number one priority? 909 00:52:26.960 --> 00:52:30.200 And how would you, how would, 910 00:52:30.200 --> 00:52:31.600 how would you all feel today 911 00:52:33.560 --> 00:52:34.920 in answering that question? 912 00:52:36.680 --> 00:52:37.520 I believe in it. 913 00:52:41.340 --> 00:52:42.180 Thumbs up. 914 00:52:43.440 --> 00:52:44.700 Give a thumbs up. 915 00:52:44.700 --> 00:52:45.740 David's hand up. 916 00:52:45.740 --> 00:52:49.080 Give a thumbs up if you're Hunter. 917 00:52:49.080 --> 00:52:52.720 Number one priority, getting married, 918 00:52:52.720 --> 00:52:55.720 like getting into a marriage-minded relationship 919 00:52:55.720 --> 00:52:58.480 that is like, I mean, obviously you have your career, 920 00:52:58.480 --> 00:52:59.400 you have your job, 921 00:52:59.400 --> 00:53:01.400 you're trying to make things work in your life. 922 00:53:01.400 --> 00:53:02.860 That's obvious, right? 923 00:53:02.860 --> 00:53:05.080 But at the same time, like your, 924 00:53:05.080 --> 00:53:08.320 your number one thing emotionally 925 00:53:08.320 --> 00:53:11.880 in preparing for your person, Daniel, 926 00:53:12.720 --> 00:53:16.520 the rest of you that did not thumbs up or whatever, 927 00:53:16.520 --> 00:53:17.640 does that mean you are not? 928 00:53:17.640 --> 00:53:19.480 That is not a priority. 929 00:53:19.480 --> 00:53:21.840 Well, so David, like it's a complicated, 930 00:53:21.840 --> 00:53:26.000 it's as simple as like a simple question, right? 931 00:53:26.000 --> 00:53:27.440 So I am ready for that. 932 00:53:27.440 --> 00:53:28.280 I'm completely ready, 933 00:53:28.280 --> 00:53:29.680 but I don't have any availability. 934 00:53:29.680 --> 00:53:32.200 I've been pursuing a couple of that people. 935 00:53:32.200 --> 00:53:34.000 So I would say, yes, it's a priority, 936 00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:35.680 but it's not something that, 937 00:53:35.680 --> 00:53:40.680 but I'm not going to wedge myself into a situation, 938 00:53:41.280 --> 00:53:43.720 force myself into a situation where- 939 00:53:43.720 --> 00:53:45.480 Yeah, and I'm not talking about like a, 940 00:53:45.840 --> 00:53:47.720 I'm desperate and I'll do anything 941 00:53:47.720 --> 00:53:49.240 to get in a relationship. 942 00:53:49.240 --> 00:53:53.000 It's about like, hey, you're actively pursuing this. 943 00:53:53.000 --> 00:53:54.640 Well, yeah, if somebody were, 944 00:53:54.640 --> 00:53:56.740 if I did have the opportunity, right, 945 00:53:56.740 --> 00:53:59.640 which I haven't had much opportunity, 946 00:53:59.640 --> 00:54:02.640 I have a ring fund, I have a wedding fund, 947 00:54:02.640 --> 00:54:04.360 I'm ready to rock and roll. 948 00:54:04.360 --> 00:54:06.000 So, I mean, I guess, so, 949 00:54:06.000 --> 00:54:08.600 but at the same, you know, I just was like, okay, yes. 950 00:54:08.600 --> 00:54:10.360 So that's, Mike, that's good. 951 00:54:10.360 --> 00:54:11.180 That's preparation. 952 00:54:11.180 --> 00:54:12.920 That's like, that's what I'm talking about. 953 00:54:13.920 --> 00:54:16.560 I mean, everybody needs to ask themselves these questions. 954 00:54:16.560 --> 00:54:20.600 Like, am I not, like I'm ready mentally, 955 00:54:20.600 --> 00:54:24.200 like, you know, like I think about it and I want to, 956 00:54:24.200 --> 00:54:26.800 but what are the groundwork preparations? 957 00:54:26.800 --> 00:54:27.720 Do you have a ring fund? 958 00:54:27.720 --> 00:54:29.160 Do you have, you know, 959 00:54:29.160 --> 00:54:30.880 are you stable in your work right now 960 00:54:30.880 --> 00:54:34.200 to where this is something that I could, you know, 961 00:54:34.200 --> 00:54:36.920 provide in a family situation, you know? 962 00:54:36.920 --> 00:54:40.320 And if not, then let's get to talking about that. 963 00:54:40.320 --> 00:54:41.400 Let's get to working on that. 964 00:54:42.080 --> 00:54:45.680 Let's get moving on that so that you can be ready. 965 00:54:45.680 --> 00:54:47.480 That's what this community is about. 966 00:54:51.840 --> 00:54:56.840 You know, Abram, that was a big step in his life today. 967 00:54:56.880 --> 00:54:57.920 Like, I know Abram works. 968 00:54:57.920 --> 00:54:59.120 I know Abram's able. 969 00:54:59.120 --> 00:55:00.240 I know Abram has. 970 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.480 has a good heart to love the woman. 971 00:55:02.480 --> 00:55:05.600 You have a good intuition towards women 972 00:55:05.600 --> 00:55:07.640 and what you're looking for in a partner. 973 00:55:07.640 --> 00:55:09.680 You're pretty open and flexible. 974 00:55:09.680 --> 00:55:13.240 But I know that that family situation was a big hurdle. 975 00:55:13.240 --> 00:55:14.800 That was a big monumental thing, 976 00:55:14.800 --> 00:55:17.080 like, okay, I've settled in my heart 977 00:55:17.080 --> 00:55:19.840 that if it takes literally moving across country, 978 00:55:19.840 --> 00:55:22.960 family and me having a legacy of family, 979 00:55:22.960 --> 00:55:24.480 having kids, having a wife, 980 00:55:24.480 --> 00:55:27.880 having an established establishment 981 00:55:28.880 --> 00:55:32.160 is important, so I'm willing to do it. 982 00:55:32.160 --> 00:55:33.320 That's huge. 983 00:55:33.320 --> 00:55:34.960 These are the things that each of you 984 00:55:34.960 --> 00:55:36.320 need to ask yourself the questions, 985 00:55:36.320 --> 00:55:38.600 like, what is it standing in my way? 986 00:55:38.600 --> 00:55:40.400 It's not just, I don't know any women 987 00:55:40.400 --> 00:55:42.000 or I don't have any dates or anything like that. 988 00:55:42.000 --> 00:55:44.040 That's like, that's the easy stuff. 989 00:55:44.040 --> 00:55:46.600 Like, but what's literally standing in your way 990 00:55:46.600 --> 00:55:49.920 to like, if you did find the right person, 991 00:55:49.920 --> 00:55:52.360 they just literally walked up to you off the street, 992 00:55:52.360 --> 00:55:56.640 would you be ready to step into 993 00:55:56.640 --> 00:55:58.120 this kind of relationship? 994 00:55:59.400 --> 00:56:01.120 Are you gonna have all your ducks in a row? 995 00:56:01.120 --> 00:56:04.080 No, nobody has all their ducks in a row. 996 00:56:05.040 --> 00:56:06.600 But you have to have some ducks in a row 997 00:56:06.600 --> 00:56:08.280 to where you can present yourself 998 00:56:08.280 --> 00:56:13.280 in a way that looks promising, right? 999 00:56:13.480 --> 00:56:14.800 So my question is this real simple. 1000 00:56:14.800 --> 00:56:17.680 It's kind of like, hey, are you actively pursuing this? 1001 00:56:17.680 --> 00:56:18.680 That's the question. 1002 00:56:21.960 --> 00:56:24.240 Who else has comment things? 1003 00:56:27.640 --> 00:56:29.160 Okay, good. 1004 00:56:29.160 --> 00:56:30.160 Hunter, just talk. 1005 00:56:31.120 --> 00:56:34.400 Okay, so I came up with this idea 1006 00:56:34.400 --> 00:56:38.000 that I've been trying, one way, 1007 00:56:38.000 --> 00:56:39.520 if this is a good way of preparation, 1008 00:56:39.520 --> 00:56:41.600 I hope it is because every season of mine 1009 00:56:41.600 --> 00:56:44.640 from my mid to late 20s and early 30s, 1010 00:56:44.640 --> 00:56:46.680 I've been doing, I was grabbing everything 1011 00:56:46.680 --> 00:56:49.320 that's available in the season and making the most of it. 1012 00:56:49.320 --> 00:56:52.880 Like in my mid 20s, I went out and tried to find a job 1013 00:56:52.880 --> 00:56:55.400 and try to, and I get my independent life together. 1014 00:56:55.560 --> 00:56:58.480 And then I would go off to Christian concerts 1015 00:56:58.480 --> 00:57:02.160 and go pay my old high school and college friends a visit, 1016 00:57:02.160 --> 00:57:04.640 go hiking with groups of men, 1017 00:57:04.640 --> 00:57:07.400 and then even go see my family, 1018 00:57:07.400 --> 00:57:09.600 go see my family events too, 1019 00:57:09.600 --> 00:57:12.680 and go see the house I was raised in 1020 00:57:12.680 --> 00:57:17.040 that my dad sold off, and then go travel abroad, 1021 00:57:17.040 --> 00:57:19.280 basically trying to make the most of my season 1022 00:57:19.280 --> 00:57:20.800 because this whole idea is, 1023 00:57:20.800 --> 00:57:23.320 oh, I want to do that cool stuff once I'm married. 1024 00:57:23.320 --> 00:57:24.560 No, how about do it now? 1025 00:57:24.560 --> 00:57:26.320 Because by the time you're married, 1026 00:57:26.320 --> 00:57:28.040 some doors might be closed. 1027 00:57:28.040 --> 00:57:31.400 As I was saying, if you focus on the future and the marriage, 1028 00:57:31.400 --> 00:57:32.240 you're going to miss out 1029 00:57:32.240 --> 00:57:34.720 what you could have done in the present. 1030 00:57:34.720 --> 00:57:37.800 Or, oh, I forgot another one, buy my first car 1031 00:57:39.480 --> 00:57:43.360 and save up enough to buy my very first car 1032 00:57:43.360 --> 00:57:44.600 in my early 30s. 1033 00:57:45.720 --> 00:57:50.280 And then go to conferences and go to beaches 1034 00:57:50.280 --> 00:57:53.200 and let's think, oh, go meet new people. 1035 00:57:54.120 --> 00:57:56.280 Yeah, and these are things you're saying 1036 00:57:56.280 --> 00:57:58.280 you've already done and you are doing. 1037 00:57:58.280 --> 00:57:59.360 All right, I haven't gotten, 1038 00:57:59.360 --> 00:58:01.320 I can list a whole list in order, 1039 00:58:01.320 --> 00:58:02.840 but I don't know if we have enough time for it. 1040 00:58:02.840 --> 00:58:05.400 But if I'm on the spotlight and asked, 1041 00:58:05.400 --> 00:58:07.000 what have I done to make the most of my life? 1042 00:58:07.000 --> 00:58:08.440 Because that was my purpose is, 1043 00:58:08.440 --> 00:58:10.160 yeah, make the most of it. 1044 00:58:10.160 --> 00:58:14.280 Not sit at home, play World of Warcraft or computer games. 1045 00:58:14.280 --> 00:58:16.320 Because that was my fear when I was 20 1046 00:58:16.320 --> 00:58:17.560 before I got into the world, 1047 00:58:17.560 --> 00:58:19.840 is my mom was afraid that I would sit around, 1048 00:58:19.840 --> 00:58:20.680 play World of Warcraft. 1049 00:58:20.720 --> 00:58:23.600 I would play video games all the time, yeah. 1050 00:58:23.600 --> 00:58:25.840 Of course, there was a time and place in downtime 1051 00:58:25.840 --> 00:58:27.680 when I played moderately and didn't, 1052 00:58:27.680 --> 00:58:28.680 and don't let me. 1053 00:58:31.320 --> 00:58:32.160 I love that. 1054 00:58:32.160 --> 00:58:33.600 Thank you, thank you for sharing, Hunter. 1055 00:58:33.600 --> 00:58:35.120 That's true, that's real true. 1056 00:58:35.120 --> 00:58:36.960 If you're sitting around playing video games, 1057 00:58:36.960 --> 00:58:39.400 I mean, you know, I know that there's professional gamers. 1058 00:58:39.400 --> 00:58:40.680 I get it, I know it's a thing. 1059 00:58:40.680 --> 00:58:42.240 I know it's a hobby, I get it. 1060 00:58:42.240 --> 00:58:43.920 I mean, I like to play golf, 1061 00:58:43.920 --> 00:58:45.960 but I never get to play, right? 1062 00:58:45.960 --> 00:58:47.920 Because I'm too busy doing some other stuff. 1063 00:58:47.920 --> 00:58:48.760 But every once in a while, 1064 00:58:48.840 --> 00:58:50.800 when I do have the chance to get out and play golf, 1065 00:58:50.800 --> 00:58:52.160 I really enjoy it. 1066 00:58:52.160 --> 00:58:54.520 So when you do have the chance to pick up a video game 1067 00:58:54.520 --> 00:58:56.960 and you play it, that's awesome. 1068 00:58:56.960 --> 00:58:59.320 I'm just not a video game guy, you know? 1069 00:58:59.320 --> 00:59:01.000 And the thing about it is, 1070 00:59:01.000 --> 00:59:05.120 is that video game playing is synonymous 1071 00:59:05.120 --> 00:59:06.240 with like, that's all you do, 1072 00:59:06.240 --> 00:59:08.960 just sit around and play video games, you know? 1073 00:59:08.960 --> 00:59:10.880 So if you have a purposeful thing, 1074 00:59:10.880 --> 00:59:15.400 like I'm actually a gamer developer or like whatever, 1075 00:59:15.400 --> 00:59:17.560 you're like, or this is part of the industry that I'm in. 1076 00:59:17.560 --> 00:59:19.240 Maybe that's, you know, maybe that's part of your story. 1077 00:59:19.240 --> 00:59:20.080 I don't know. 1078 00:59:21.640 --> 00:59:23.760 I know some people that are actually in that industry 1079 00:59:23.760 --> 00:59:28.480 and they are players because that's just, 1080 00:59:28.480 --> 00:59:31.560 that's how they learn how to do 1081 00:59:31.560 --> 00:59:33.320 whatever they're gonna do for work. 1082 00:59:34.480 --> 00:59:37.040 But, so when I say, 1083 00:59:37.040 --> 00:59:37.880 if you're gonna sit around 1084 00:59:37.880 --> 00:59:40.280 and just play video games all day long, 1085 00:59:40.280 --> 00:59:45.280 I mean that, you know, metaphorically speaking. 1086 00:59:46.280 --> 00:59:48.520 Just so you know, just so nobody's offended. 1087 00:59:50.760 --> 00:59:54.680 Guys, we're at the hour, 8.03. 1088 00:59:55.960 --> 00:59:57.760 Good discussion tonight. 1089 00:59:57.760 --> 00:59:58.600 I'm... 1090 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.860 I'm still not feeling that great. But anyway, so just pray for me, but father God 1091 01:00:03.860 --> 01:00:05.860 We're just we're just end this in prayer tonight guys. Ah 1092 01:00:06.840 --> 01:00:12.380 Father God, we just thank you Lord for these men. I bless each one of these men. I speak life over them 1093 01:00:13.260 --> 01:00:15.260 speak healing wealth and 1094 01:00:16.020 --> 01:00:18.020 I speak 1095 01:00:19.980 --> 01:00:22.140 Just vision and purpose over them I 1096 01:00:23.020 --> 01:00:26.140 Thank you that you're working in each one of their lives to produce 1097 01:00:26.760 --> 01:00:30.000 The absolute best version of themselves Lord that they can be 1098 01:00:30.640 --> 01:00:34.620 And I thank you right now Lord that they'll each have an epiphany and awakening 1099 01:00:35.560 --> 01:00:37.020 a 1100 01:00:37.020 --> 01:00:40.700 Revelation to move forward into the next step. What is the next step? 1101 01:00:41.400 --> 01:00:46.500 Because it can't just be sitting around doing what I'm doing. Now. There's there's always something more. There's always something 1102 01:00:46.500 --> 01:00:50.880 There's another step to take another thing to do. So father God, I thank you Lord for that 1103 01:00:50.880 --> 01:00:54.800 thank you that you're leading us in love and patience and mercy and 1104 01:00:56.800 --> 01:00:59.760 I just pray this in Jesus name. Amen. Amen 1105 01:01:01.280 --> 01:01:05.460 Man, all right guys. God bless you. Have a great week a day 1106 01:01:06.040 --> 01:01:08.120 Hey Dave before you cut off. Yeah. Yeah 1107 01:01:08.680 --> 01:01:11.520 So hey guys, I know a lot of us like struggle financially and stuff, right? 1108 01:01:12.040 --> 01:01:14.040 and I'm not like a financial guru, but 1109 01:01:14.600 --> 01:01:16.600 I know some ways 1110 01:01:17.440 --> 01:01:20.640 that I could possibly give some people some tips on how to save like 1111 01:01:21.320 --> 01:01:24.720 five percent on most of their fixed cost bills and 1112 01:01:25.700 --> 01:01:28.400 I'm not a financial guy, but if maybe one of these times 1113 01:01:30.100 --> 01:01:35.340 You know, you guys want to give me like 10 minutes I guess explain what I do and this is not like 1114 01:01:35.860 --> 01:01:37.860 There's no pyramid scheme here. There's no 1115 01:01:39.060 --> 01:01:46.100 But yeah, I'd like to give everybody like the advice if I can to save you guys five bucks on utility bills TV internet streaming 1116 01:01:47.100 --> 01:01:50.340 Grocery bills gas bills. I can knock off like 5% 1117 01:01:52.020 --> 01:01:54.300 By just using credit cards I got a little thing here 1118 01:01:55.020 --> 01:01:59.140 So a lot of credit cards have rewards. So maybe one day we have a little time 1119 01:01:59.140 --> 01:02:02.620 I know it's not a ton of money. It's not a large percentage, but you know 1120 01:02:03.180 --> 01:02:06.020 Your utility bills gas bills never going away 1121 01:02:06.780 --> 01:02:11.380 So if all of us could save 5% on all those fixed costs or a running cost 1122 01:02:12.180 --> 01:02:13.980 At the end of the year, that's gonna be a lot of money 1123 01:02:13.980 --> 01:02:19.700 And so if you guys want to give me a little bit of time, I'll explain there's no bullshit with this. There's no dishonesty 1124 01:02:20.100 --> 01:02:22.380 It's just using credit cards and the rewards 1125 01:02:22.440 --> 01:02:27.440 So, yeah, if you guys want two cents on that I'm willing to share I'm just kind of like figure this out on my own 1126 01:02:27.440 --> 01:02:30.680 I don't have any financial not a fan. I'm not a finance guy. I'm a restaurant guy 1127 01:02:31.360 --> 01:02:35.960 But yeah, maybe one of these days. Let me know. I'll be willing to share because 1128 01:02:37.640 --> 01:02:41.240 These bills are never going down gas never going down electricity is never going down 1129 01:02:41.480 --> 01:02:46.280 So we could shave off some money to help ourselves save money and do goals. Um, I'm down to help out 1130 01:02:47.120 --> 01:02:51.560 That's good. I like it. You know what we might get into a little bit of a 1131 01:02:53.360 --> 01:02:58.480 We might do that where we do it each time or maybe one whole session 1132 01:02:59.280 --> 01:03:01.280 It's super fast 1133 01:03:01.480 --> 01:03:03.800 Yeah, yeah, no, but I would be interested to know 1134 01:03:04.480 --> 01:03:06.480 What each one of you? 1135 01:03:06.660 --> 01:03:08.240 knows 1136 01:03:08.240 --> 01:03:09.800 that 1137 01:03:09.800 --> 01:03:13.720 Somebody else doesn't know like each one of you. I have a strong conviction 1138 01:03:14.400 --> 01:03:20.680 That each one of you have a certain expertise a certain like hey, I don't know about y'all 1139 01:03:20.700 --> 01:03:23.860 But I this is one thing I do know and I do know this well 1140 01:03:23.860 --> 01:03:25.700 And I want to share it with you 1141 01:03:25.700 --> 01:03:29.680 Maybe it can be a help to you kind of like what Abrams like pitching here is like something that's like 1142 01:03:30.100 --> 01:03:33.940 This is just advice. This is a strategy. This is something I do my personal life 1143 01:03:34.580 --> 01:03:36.580 I'd be willing to 1144 01:03:37.260 --> 01:03:43.180 Open up and have that advice be shared because anything that could be helpful in that way. I love strategy. I love 1145 01:03:44.620 --> 01:03:50.100 Business stuff I love, you know life hacking all that kind of stuff. So yeah, we could 1146 01:03:50.680 --> 01:03:52.860 So if you want to we want to email me 1147 01:03:53.620 --> 01:03:55.620 I'll put my email in the 1148 01:03:56.920 --> 01:04:03.820 Notes, yes, it's just David a J media.org. Okay, that's just me. Oh, it's 5% 1149 01:04:05.180 --> 01:04:11.620 You want to submit your idea or submit like hey, this is something I would like I got 10 minutes I could I could 1150 01:04:12.100 --> 01:04:16.320 Share my strategy could share my the thing that I know that I'm good at 1151 01:04:17.260 --> 01:04:20.660 And I'm talking about the thing that you're really good I mean like 1152 01:04:22.380 --> 01:04:28.300 Like I know this this is like the one thing I do this I know this is like a really really good piece of advice 1153 01:04:30.340 --> 01:04:32.340 So 1154 01:04:32.340 --> 01:04:34.740 We'll go from there quick question David 1155 01:04:35.180 --> 01:04:40.420 Do you have a record of when we like first started on any of the zoom calls? 1156 01:04:41.080 --> 01:04:44.360 Like like each of us individually, I don't know that's like 1157 01:04:45.000 --> 01:04:49.400 Capture tracked at all. I was just trying to find a way. I don't have I don't have 1158 01:04:49.960 --> 01:04:54.200 traction on attendance for this call specifically, I 1159 01:04:55.240 --> 01:04:58.680 Know I know when people signed up for the program 1160 01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:06.620 General, I know when I signed up, it was just it was some conversation I was having with you and Jackie. I think it was either 1161 01:05:08.000 --> 01:05:13.560 Oscar Supernatural Saturday or a Faith Friday and it's Faith Friday. I explained to why it's not recorded but 1162 01:05:14.880 --> 01:05:20.720 Yeah, I couldn't tell you on this. I couldn't tell you for this session like attend. Yeah that 1163 01:05:21.240 --> 01:05:24.360 Got you. No, I know when I signed up it was just trying to like 1164 01:05:25.920 --> 01:05:27.920 Stuff from my own notes on 1165 01:05:28.720 --> 01:05:33.040 From when I actively started showing up to now I 1166 01:05:34.880 --> 01:05:38.000 Think for another call another day man doors, okay 1167 01:05:39.000 --> 01:05:41.400 All right, guys. God bless. Have a good one 1168 01:05:42.080 --> 01:05:44.080 Have a great week. We'll talk to you soon