Hi, welcome everybody.
Happy Monday evening.
It's good to see everyone, or at least I see myself right now.
I'd love for some of you ladies to come on screen with me if you're able, would love
to see you.
If I haven't met you before, I'm Bethany Cooper.
I'm one of the Master Heart Work coaches here in our community, and I'm just super honored
to be here with all of you tonight and to see what God's going to do.
I want to go ahead and pray for us here in a minute, but I want to welcome any ladies
that are joining us.
This is your first live session.
Is anyone here for the first time?
If so, put that in the chat for us so we can welcome you, or maybe Skye's saying yes, Karen,
I'm guessing yes as well.
That's fine to do that too.
Welcome ladies, and then all those that are joining us again for maybe additional time,
we're so glad to have you back.
Genuinely, ladies, when I can see you, when I'm coaching, I make a much deeper connection
with you, and that's not to try to manipulate anybody that doesn't have their camera on,
but genuinely people that go throughout the different phases, they stay in our community.
I just am able to recall who they are more when they're on screen.
I can make a connection with you all, whether you realize or not, when I see you and I'm
coaching, sometimes there's just a different connection that happens versus when we're
not on screen.
I don't know if you all feel that way, but I definitely feel that way.
For that reason, it's awesome for you to be on, but also for yourself.
We have some ladies in this community, in this program that are in other phases now
that literally they were really scared to come on screen because they didn't even like
looking at themselves on screen or in a mirror or any of those kind of things.
In this healing process, we coached and talked about really seeing yourself coming out of
hiding and then embracing that can help you then do that in the days to come if you choose
to step into dating.
Really, really good steps for you all to take during this time.
A couple of housekeeping things, Supernatural Saturday.
If you all don't know, we do that every Saturday.
Typically, it's Jackie that leads that.
Sometimes, if she's not able, I might fill in and pinch hit.
Candy is new.
Welcome, Candy.
This last week, Jackie did it, and it was really centered around making room for joy
and living a life of deep inner joy.
How can we do that?
Even if you heard it before, you may want to listen to it again when you're driving
and really let that get down in your spirit.
If you haven't heard it already, definitely check that out under the replay tab.
And just two other little reminders.
Just to encourage you all to stay focused as you're going through the heart work.
The enemy will try to bring all kinds of distractions.
And I want to just encourage you just keep trying to keep your eyes on the prize, if
you will, and just keep moving forward.
Lean into everything that you're experiencing.
Even some of you, you might be in a walk, and a memory will pop up.
Or you wake up in the morning, and you're thinking about something that you were processing
the night before.
And just try to journal or jot down those things that come up as much as you can.
Even if it's not in a book journal, but you're putting in your phone and then kind of putting
those things together.
Because those are all pieces and parts of your healing that God is trying to bring together
in this season to give you a greater breakthrough.
And then the last thing is just that one week of content per week.
That's the best practice pace, okay?
So if you go a little slower, that's fine.
We really do not want you going faster.
We can't force anyone to stay here five weeks, ladies.
But we are going to lovingly encourage anyone that tries to move forward very quickly.
We're going to encourage you lovingly to stay because we believe God has something
supernatural for you in this five weeks.
And we don't want you to miss it.
So let me pray for us, and we're going to get started.
Father, thank you so much for everything that you're doing.
Thank you that you're a good father who brings good gifts to your children.
We thank you, God, that you have plans to prosper us, to give us a hope and a future,
not plans to harm us in any way.
I pray that you would help us to shift a little bit more tonight in the spirit, in our spirit,
in our soul, God, that you would heal every fiber of our being, God, that you would just
come into the recesses, the dark places and meet us there.
But not only meet us there, but bring those things that are in darkness to the light so
that there can be revealings for healing happening, that revelation and breakthrough would be
abundant, that it would be an acceleration on their lives in this healing process.
We thank you, God, where, yes, Lord, where there's been questions and doubts and fears
in the past where they felt stuck.
God, we thank you for transitions and shifts.
things getting shaken up in the spirit realm so that they can again continue to move forward and and
Partner with you as they do where we thank you God that you sent the Holy Spirit
Jesus when you ascended you sent the Holy Spirit you and the Father so that we never had to do life alone that we could
Be empowered to do everything that we need to do and we just thank you for that Holy Spirit
We thank you for your presence here
Come and have your way in our hearts our minds our bodies our spirits and our souls in Jesus name. Amen
Praise the Lord. He's so good you all tonight. We're gonna be talking about what is the broken heart? We're gonna talk a little bit about
Just some reminders based off of the story of Candace if you haven't heard it already
You will hear the story of Candace in your heart healing
materials and
Then I want to talk a little bit about the story of the prodigal son and the elder what I'm calling the elder brother
Syndrome, okay, and how that can show in our lives in different ways without us realizing it as it does
All right. So let's just dive right into our broken hearts
Okay
Remember that as I'm talking about the heart tonight not talking about the healed places of our hearts and talking about the areas
That still have brokenness that still have trauma and wounds in there and it's causing us to interpret information
Distorted incorrectly all different kinds of things
And so as I'm going tonight, I really want you to be in prayer and be asking the Lord Lord
Is there an area of my heart that is still living into a counterfeit identity?
Where there's still wounds and trauma that I'm living out of that's
Tainting the way I show up in the world today
You know whether that's with men with women as you know
some people have issues with people in authority if they've not had a good relationship with their mom and all kinds of things that can
Impact how we're showing up today
So, what is your broken heart leading you into that's not a part of your true identity and
Remember the true identity is that God-given identity that original identity that he created when he dreamed you up
You know, he's planning us and he's
Purposing us for something and I believe God was intentional as he put us together in our mother's womb as he knit us together
Again even tonight as I prayed every fiber of our being and it was good
He dreamed us up. He formed us
He imagined us and he smiled upon us as we were being created and all of these things
I don't know if all of you believe that if you don't believe that about yourself, that is true. It is true
That is how God feels about us and he enjoyed creating us
We were never a mistake. We were always planned
We were always a
Position for purpose God always had an identity for us that he wanted us to live into so as we are
Unbecoming these false versions of ourself. God is wanting us to step further into the fullness of his original
plan and design for us
So as you're thinking about that some of you might have heard this before but I'm gonna touch on it again tonight
it is from the heart workbook and it's about the flies and
Lies and counterfeit lives. It's really tough to say fast y'all
But all those things together and what do they all mean? Okay
So if you're not familiar
Satan who is you know
The devil who comes to steal kill and destroy was given several names in the Bible and Beezlebub is one of them
You don't hear it very often, but it is found in the Bible and the meaning of that name
representing Satan is
The Lord of the flies
Okay, and here's where we pick up if he's the Lord of the flies think about this
That means he's in control of all of the flies in a sense, but the flies
Represent lies in our our context tonight, right?
flies serve a purpose in the decomposition process of organic materials, but I still did it
Sorry detest them. This is Jackie from the book
However, knowing this nickname of the enemy helps us to understand how our heart wounds get infected with these lies
what flies
Do is they find an unhealed wound? Hey, so they're looking on anything
That's why you see him on a back of a horse a lot in that deep those or cows and decaying area and all that
But they're looking for an unhealed wound a sore or some place of decomposition and
They lay their eggs inside of that place. They do this so that when the eggs hatch the larvae
will then have an unlimited food source.
These unhealed wounds, heart wounds in us,
traumas and rejections become an ideal place
for the enemy to sow his seeds,
which are again, the lies.
Because our hearts are fertile wombs, remember?
So remember that everything that goes in to our hearts,
everything we let into our, you know,
the Bible talks about the eye gate, the ear gate.
You know, we got a heart gate if you think about it too.
And whatever's going in there is going to be reproduced.
So for putting good stuff in,
then good fruit should produce.
You know, there's scriptures that talk about too,
like we can't have good and evil
coming out of the same places.
But if we have unhealed wounds,
then it can be that source of unhealthy decisions
and things coming out, unhealthy fruit,
the bad fruit, if you will, coming out of our hearts.
I'm going to go on.
These lies might not become evident immediately.
In fact, they usually don't.
So the lies are, the flies come in there
and they lay their eggs.
And we don't even know,
we don't even know they're there sometimes.
They're just kind of in the hidden places, ladies.
Okay?
We don't know they're there,
but these seeds are well, guess what, seeds.
And just like when you sow a seed in the ground
and you don't see the plants spring up right away,
the same is true here.
There is an incubation or maturity process.
It can take years for those seeds,
the lies to mature in someone's life.
And when they do,
they bring with them fully formed false identities
or what we call the fragmented heart.
I'm going to read on tonight.
I didn't do this earlier,
but I'm just, I see something that's standing out to me
and I want to lean into this.
So she goes on, I'm not going to do this for a while,
but I feel led to just read this additional part.
For instance, say your parents got a divorce
when you were very young or perhaps never married at all.
Your father left the house
and abandoned his responsibility towards you.
Keep in mind, abandonment doesn't have to be physical.
It can be also emotional, spiritual, or financial.
While that would be a terrible thing to happen to you,
the trauma doesn't even have to happen to you personally.
It might've been your grandpa or your great grandpa
that abandoned his family,
but because it affected your mother or your father,
they may have unconsciously passed those lies down to you.
This is how we inherit emotional debt
and heart wounds from our families.
But whether it's a firsthand trauma or not,
the event itself is not going to be the thing
that keeps you from having a good life.
It's the lies you believe
that will as a result of the trauma.
Remember, we talked about that before.
So I want you guys to kind of lean into that
as I keep moving forward.
It might not be just your own trauma.
It could be trauma or emotional debt
that you had inherited from family members
that passed it down and maybe they didn't know how to heal
or maybe before they healed,
but those things were passed down before that took place.
So the broken heart we know is a liar.
It's a puzzle and it's a pretender.
And if you haven't heard those videos yet,
again, if you're brand new, you'll hear them.
And she's gonna go into that more in depth,
Jackie, in her videos.
But tonight we're gonna just kind of go over it real quick.
So the liar means it's full of lies.
So the broken heart has all kinds of lies in there.
And we tend to be living out of those subconsciously
pretty often without realizing it.
It's a puzzle, so it's messed up.
It says we want things that we don't really want.
An example, a couple of examples, ladies here.
Maybe you think you want a guy just to have a guy
because you feel lonely,
even though deep down you really want a healthy guy,
but here's this guy that shows up.
Maybe you move into phase two and he shows up
and hey, he's got most of the things.
He's got most of the things
that we're trying to encourage y'all to look for,
but he's really missing that marriage-minded piece
and wanting to wait for sex piece.
But I don't wanna be alone.
And I'm afraid that if I don't move forward with this guy,
then I might not end up with anybody.
And we shift, some people shift right back
into the lies they believed before they started heartwork.
Okay?
We have to know our value and our worth deep down
enough to say, no, no, you seem like a really nice guy,
but I'm waiting for a guy that has marriage-minded
as a part of his character.
And then he wants to wait until we're married to have sex.
I hope, I hope you all want that too.
And if you don't, if that's not where you're at in your heart, I would, I
would encourage you to take some time with that, with the Lord.
We all struggle.
We've all had struggles.
I, that was an area I absolutely struggled because of the things
that happened from the past.
My value when I was young, I was taught was my body.
That isn't true.
And so I had to unlearn that stuff so that I could put myself as valuable,
worthy of a man waiting and not just waiting, but protecting it.
That we would partner in protecting that.
Okay.
So another thing, sometimes we think that we want, that we really don't want
anybody else ever eating food when you're really not even hungry, but man,
I've been sad and I just, I got to feed that sadness or that loneliness.
I've absolutely done that.
You all what subconsciously without even knowing sometimes why I'm doing it,
but it was a learned behavior.
I saw my mom and my sister both do that growing up.
I don't know if her mom did it too.
And so I have to continue to unlearn that stuff.
Even now today, the broken heart is also a pretender.
It's a mask.
It's telling us all the time.
You got to pretend.
Let's see in the chat.
I want to just get you all involved.
What are some masks that you feel like you got to put up in the world today?
Um, you know, let's see just what the thoughts are before I put anything in
your minds about the different types of mask, but as you're doing that,
sometimes the pretender also tells us we want expensive things.
We want status.
We want to say, I'm okay.
That's all right.
I'm good.
I don't need your help.
It's not bad to want nice things.
I like nice things too, but if I want those things to achieve a status or some
kind of attention from people or to feel good about myself, then that's where I
can tell I'm totally out of balance with those things because I don't
get my value from a purse.
The first time I ever had an expensive purse, Brian bought it for me because
I actually just wasn't even comfortable with it.
I actually just wasn't even comfortable doing that, like buying a nice purse
that was a couple hundred bucks or whatever.
And some people might hear that and be like, Oh my gosh, you
spent a hundred, a couple hundred bucks.
Yes, we did.
And you know what?
God used it to really stretch me and heal me because I was
uncomfortable buying those things, but God wanted me to have them.
And so it was definitely a stretching moment for me.
Um, being a pretender, that broken heart that leads us to pretend also
causes us to live below our true identity, which ties to what I was
talking about earlier, our true identity is value, worthy, honor, respect.
But when we go and have, um, sex outside of marriage covenant, guess what?
We're living below that identity, right?
Right.
We are.
All right.
Let me see what we got in here.
This is going to be really good.
All right.
The mass that says I'm okay.
Independence.
So no one can hurt me that I can handle everything that I don't need help.
I'm good.
Indeed.
Okay.
She's agreeing.
Okay.
That I have to be an exemplary Christian.
Yeah.
We don't have to be perfect.
Y'all I make mistakes all the time.
I just got upset like 30 minutes ago about something with somebody from the
church and I was like, Lord, forgive me.
I got to go coach in half an hour.
Help me get myself right.
You know, of course we all, we all have stuff.
Let's see.
I have to be strong, pretending to be happy.
I'm resilient.
I can do it myself doing great.
I have it all together.
Okay.
I love that.
That's really good.
And I think the thing is, is we, the thing that feeds that is we believe the
lie that we do have to have it all together.
And so if we don't, what does that mean?
So let's Julia unpack that or anyone else that that's resonating with.
Why do we have to have it all together?
Is someone going to not like us if we don't?
Are we going to lose love from somebody if we don't have it all together?
Okay.
Keep going status that I'm fine.
Even though feeling lonely or depressed, I can do things by myself.
Then I'm okay with less than in re with less than in relationships.
Never let them see you sweater hurting.
Don't let yourself be vulnerable pretending.
All right.
Awesome.
I'm okay.
Oh, pretending I'm okay without a companion.
Sorry about that.
Finding value and being busy at work and productive vulnerability and
weak is weakness.
Pretending that I am doing better than I really am the mass that I don't need
anyone that I need to be a hundred percent self-reliant.
Okay.
Hyper independence, not needing anyone value in my husband who passed.
Okay.
That's pretty deep.
Sylvia too.
So.
is here's, here's a key tip for you. We need to know who we are
apart from our spouses, even in a healthy spirit, make
connection and relationship. Okay. And while you will
continue to, you know, become a team and get to know each other
more. And Sylvia says later value my kids. Yeah, we have to
have our value and who we are like, who are we? What do we
love? And really pray that God would help us bring that back
into balance where we understand that our kids are blessings, our
spouses are blessings, but they don't determine our value. Okay.
All right, keep going being busy and distracted as a mask. Yeah,
100% that is a mask. I totally can second that I've had to come
out of that as well. And a lot of people it's not in just
secular jobs. There's people that really wear mask in
ministry, and they're just busy, busy, busy all the time, but
they've got a love a deep love wound that's still open in their
soul. Believing that living small is admirable. Okay. Oh,
that's awesome. Gabriella. Gabriella says I bought my first
expensive purse last week. And that actually helped me see that
I don't have to keep waiting for a man to give me an expensive
item. I love it. I love it. That's so great. All right, I'm
gonna stop there. Audrina, I think says there that I have to
take care of myself and protect myself need to be strong. Okay,
there might be more but I want to go ahead and go back to the
teaching. So ladies, those were great. Now when you have those
masks. This week, I want you to unpack those a little bit more
with the Lord. I want you to ask him, when is the first time I
felt like I had to put this mask on? Okay. When is the first time
I felt like I had to put this mask on? To what? To get love to
get attention to be safe. To protect myself, you guys get to
fill in the blank. Okay, but when was the first time and
remember that you're just doing your best to ask the Lord hear
what he says. Write down any thoughts that come and even if
that's not the first one, just know that as you process that
he'll start to lead you to the next thing if there is more that
he's wanting to reveal to you. Perfect parent was one I said
this afternoon, you know, perfect daughter, perfect
spouse, perfect parent, you know, that mask of always trying
to look like we've got it all together. A lot of people on
social media do this, you know, now where they're posting just
the highlight reels that their life has fallen apart behind the
scenes. And I'm not saying we shouldn't post happy things,
ladies. But we want to be and we don't need to post even all the
stuff that's falling apart, but we need to be real people. Okay.
So if our life is falling apart, let's not go and post like that
it's like something different than it is. Okay. But those are
some of the masks I think also, you know, people that are trying
to project that they have money, when maybe they don't. That's
another one that just came to mind. There's probably so many
more, but we'll keep moving. Jeremiah 17, nine says the heart
is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked who can
know it. As we read last week in Proverbs 423, it says keep your
heart with all vigilance for from it flows the springs of
life. Why? Because our hearts are highly impressionable. So we
have to protect our hearts so that not everything that's going
on around the world is coming in and harming us. Okay, so I'm
going to list a couple different lies for you all. There are
probably so many more, okay. I'm just giving you the ones that
over the years, I've started kind of just seeing a path like
a common theme that comes up for people in heartwork. And I want
to just really kind of hone in on what the root of that is
these different lies to kind of help some of you start to unpack
and understand why you have thoughts like you have that
aren't truth and where they where they kind of are derived
from essentially. All right, lie number one. And these are again
are things the enemy is saying to you in different ways. He
might not say it in the exact way that I'm saying it tonight.
But there might be a different way. So be open to that as well.
Lie number one, you are insignificant. Oh, Jeremiah 17
nine was that scripture Damaris? Lie number one, you are
insignificant. The definition of insignificant is not
significant, lacking meaning not worth considering unimportant.
Did anyone ever tell you that you weren't important?
Or maybe they didn't tell you that you weren't important,
but their behaviors and their actions
were speaking something to you
that caused you to believe that you weren't important.
Because here's the reality,
moms and dads that work a lot,
it can also feel like you're not important
if you believe that lie.
If they're not really nurturing you
through that process or that season
where they're working a lot.
Lie number two, you don't matter.
Lie number three, you should be seen and not heard.
We had a lot of people this afternoon,
several this afternoon say that that is something
that they've heard or that's been said to them.
We know that that's not truth,
but a lot of people actually believe that.
Lie number four, you're not enough.
The flip side is also a lot of people
believe they're too much, okay?
So that kind of goes together sometimes.
Lie number five, your opinion doesn't matter.
Your thoughts don't matter.
You can kind of fill in whatever that,
your whatever doesn't matter.
Your wants don't matter.
You see how that kind of goes in there?
All right, lie number six,
you're always going to have to beg.
What I mean by this is you may not hear that lie,
but maybe you believe the lie that,
God, you bless everybody else but me.
God, I feel like I have to beg
for just my basic needs to be met.
God, I feel like, you know, on the inside, ladies,
this is what it is.
It's not that we have words to even put to this sometimes,
but there are times where we go through a situation
and we feel like we're down under the table
just begging for crumbs.
I know that's how I felt sometimes,
but God has so many good things to show you
about the truth of that.
That's not where we were meant to be.
That's not the heart posture he ever wanted us to live into.
He wants us to know there's a seat at the table
that he's pulled out.
It's already waiting for us,
but we have to learn how to come out from under the table
and get into that chair.
And that shift happens in our minds,
which is connected to our hearts.
It happens through healing, ladies.
But it also happens, let me say this,
it also happens through recognizing
the lies that we're believing.
All right, here's the last one
I'm gonna give you for tonight.
Lie number seven, if they really knew me,
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.
If they really knew me,
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.
Here's how this can show up.
If they really knew everything that I did,
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.
We hear it all the time.
People, I went through it too,
afraid initially to tell Brian
about some things that happened to me
because of prior treatment when I told my ex-husband,
but also because it's just, it felt like a lot for me.
And so, and I had had 30,
well, by the time I met Brian, 40 some years to process it.
And here he is, and he has just this little bit of time.
But I had to lean into truth.
He wasn't afraid by that, and he didn't go running away.
He was just calm and like, okay,
thank you for sharing that with me,
and it was really great, and all the things.
Here's another one.
Sometimes people believe when they're single moms
that people look at them like
they're not a valued package in a sense.
And so if they knew I was a single parent,
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.
If they knew I was divorced,
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.
Whatever the blank is for you,
I want you to just really ask the Lord about that.
Sharon, is it the one that I just read,
or do you mean line number six?
The last one is just if they really knew me,
they wouldn't, as I was saying,
accept me, love me, choose me.
The one right before that
is you're always going to have to beg.
All right.
So as we're moving forward,
what I want you to understand is all of these lies
point to us having low self-esteem,
not understanding our value and our worth,
and then.
and pauper and or orphan mentalities that we are believing and living into.
And so if you resonated with any of the lies that I talked about tonight on any level,
I want to encourage you to pray and really ask the Lord to reveal to you what is at the
root of you not valuing yourself, what's the root of the insecurities or low self-esteem,
and or to reveal the pauper orphan mentalities of limiting belief systems that you might
be currently living under and partnering with that are not serving you well, okay?
They're not serving you well.
They're not leading you into the good life he has for you.
They're leading you into heartbreak and mistakes and living below that true potential and that
original design that God had for you.
And he wants to help you get onto the path, you know, there's that scripture that she
has in the book about Lord help, you know, take my feet off the path of pain and put
my feet on the path that leads me back to you.
I love that scripture.
And I don't remember where it's at right now.
It's in the book, but it is a scripture and I love to read it because it's really ministered
to me through the years.
All right, so here are a couple truths for you.
Proverbs 12 49 says this, a wife of noble characters or husband's crown.
Proverbs 12 49 is what that was.
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown.
Do you all believe that you are your future husband's crown?
I know like people will like be like, yeah, yeah.
And we do.
But deep down inside, if you don't know your true value and worth, and you don't really
believe that you're going to find your spirit mate somewhere along that path, there is a
little bit of, am I really this?
Because those that believe it walk into it, okay?
I know that's hard, but it's true.
It's really, really true.
When we struggle, if we're stuck somewhere, if any area that we're stuck is a revealing
for healing, it's a signal saying, Hey, there's something under here that needs healing.
And it's causing you to be stuck.
Even if that what needs healing is you believing that you should just be okay being single
because the church tells you to be, which God never says.
Jackie talked a couple of Saturdays private a month or so ago now about the true meaning
of the scripture that Paul was talking about, about being like living and called being called
to being single and what that means.
We have to make sure we're not living into things that are taken out of context when
they come from the pulpit.
Ephesians one five says in love, he predestined us to adoption, to sonship through Jesus
Christ in accordance with his pleasure and will.
I want you to kind of grab onto that word adoption.
In love, he predestined you for adoption.
You are already in the family.
Well, if we're already in the family and he's the King of Kings, then again, doesn't that
automatically make us a princess when we are his children?
Adrena, it's one of the, it's one of the ones that's either at the end of chapters or in
the mix, but it talks about taking our feet off a pathway of pain and putting our feet
back onto the pathway that leads to him.
It might be the message version or passion translation.
That last scripture I just read was Ephesians one, five, I don't know if I said that right.
Somebody helped me this afternoon with pronouncing their name.
So if I ever say anybody's name wrong, if you put the pronunciation, pronunciation,
I don't know how to say that word tonight in the chat for me, I will write it down and
work on it.
So I don't call you by the wrong name.
Okay.
Isaiah 43, four.
We got to keep moving.
Since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you, I will give people
in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.
I want y'all to understand back in that day, you know, there was a lot of bartering between
nations and Kings and it meant a lot when a King would give up his nation, so to speak,
his priceless jewels, his people, you know, they would give herds and all that's how they
like, that was representative of their wealth.
off their livelihood. It was how they, they lived like they, I
don't want to say they fed off of that. But like, that's how
they got food. That's the real way, the really breakdown of
that. But think about this. God is basically saying, Hey, since
you're precious and honored in my sight, and because I love
you, I'm not just willing to give people in exchange for you.
I'm willing to give up my nations, nations for you. And I
just want you to understand that's just a reminder of the
depth of his love for us. He went to the ends of the earth,
he sent his one and only son to us so that we would be able to
be in relationship with him. That's how much he wanted us.
Luke 12, seven, and then we're going to get ready for
breakouts, says this, indeed, the very hairs of your head are
all numbered. Don't be afraid you are worth more than
sparrows. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
Don't be afraid you are worth more than sparrows. Alina on
your question there, I won't go into it too far. But I do feel
like I should address it. Your question is why do I constantly
feel disrespected and gaslit? Well, I think I'm just from the
coaching we did a week or two ago, I would ask yourself a
dish different question. I would ask yourself, is there healing
that I need? So that I can set healthy boundaries to not be
around people that treat me just disrespectfully. And recognize,
you know, that unhealthy people do unhealthy things. Okay, we
have to remember that ladies, and we don't need to keep being
around these people that mistreat us all the time. Jackie
talked about that two weeks ago, we need to ask the Lord, Lord,
who do I have permission to let go of in this season? All right,
here's your question for breakout. What lie have you been
believing that you need to invite God into so that you can
heal? What lie have you been believing that you need to
invite God into so that you can heal? I just saw Renee's thing.
Alina, you're welcome on that. Renee says, I know I am but men
do not approach me. So maybe on the crown one. And we'll work on
that through heart healing. Just make sure you open up in the in
the group and share, you know, not just here during the live
sessions, but even in our chat groups, you all when you post in
their stuff that you're really struggling with in this regard,
this is an area you feel stuck Renee, come in and post in the
group and we can help you process and kind of start to
unpack that a little more because I don't want you to
leave phase one still in that place. Okay. Alright, so I'm
about to put you on your groups. Okay, Jodi, that's fine. You can
just stay in the main room. And if you all if somebody's at work,
just put it in the chat. And I'll do my best to move people
around. However, we need to tonight, I am going to do three
people to a room to try to avoid a little bit more of that. And
I'm going to give you all eight minutes. Okay, Ruth, that's
totally fine. I'm going to give you eight minutes for this first
conversation. Because I want you to have time. Now first,
remember, you're talking about the lies that you have been
believing that you need to invite God into heal. If you
have extra time after everybody in the group has shared, I want
you to try to get to know each other a little bit. Where are
you from? What led you to this group? And you can talk about if
you need extra questions, one of your favorite places to go you
can talk about a restaurant you love, you know, anything ladies,
okay, just just get to know each other a little bit. All right,
here you go. Go ahead and click to join those. Okay, click those
as quick as you can.
All right, give me one second, ladies. And I'll pray here in
just a minute. I think I've got everybody's at least got two
people. All right, Father, we just thank you so much for this
night.
We thank you Lord for revealings for healing that are happening. We thank you God for
Just bringing any of the lies to the surface so that we can come to you and embrace your truth that we can learn
How to navigate
Every one of those areas for revealing for healing
Let's see iPhone. Are you trying to maybe join with your mic now?
maybe
or did you just join us because I want to put you in a breakout if
You're wanting to join
I'm not sure who that is
so father we just ask you to
Just come into all the breakouts into this main room that you administer to people on the replay
And just really come into the quiet places the places that have been hidden for a long time
Where they're afraid to let other people go into and I pray that you would help them to trust you
Mm-hmm to allow you to go into those areas so that Lord they don't have to stay stuck going forward God
We thank you that you would place the balm of Gilead upon their hearts their minds their bodies their spirits their souls
God, we thank you for redemption. We thank you for grace. We thank you for life and healing. We thank you that
You are making all things new that you're bringing streams in in the wasteland and rivers in the desert and
God we thank you that you're washing over all the dead dry areas
The areas that we have not had life or we've not had joy where we've not experienced your love and your grace God
I thank you that you're coming into all of those cracks and crevices in those places
tonight and you're
How you're speaking your love you're speaking your truth. You're speaking your joy. We thank you God that you would help us to
Yes, Lord forgive anybody that we need to forgive so that we can have
healing power flowing into us and through us God because even in the in Scripture it does say ladies that
You know when we hold bitterness and unforgiveness or we have evil intent in our hearts towards anyone
It can hinder our prayers. And so Lord, I just pray that you would help us help us to relinquish control and allow you to
Heal all of those areas and
Yeah, Lord, just trust you with the outcome no matter what and I just thank you God that you're continuing
To redefine the way that we look at you. I thank you God that you would just impart
Divine revelation
So that we can hear what your spirit is saying more clearly
We thank you that your word declares that we are your sheep and your sheep hear your voice and we always obey what you tell
Us to do we thank you God that just like a shepherd the sheep follow the shepherd. They know his voice
We thank you God that that is the truth for us as well
And we will hear your voice and we will respond to you
and I thank you God that even things that have blocked our ability to hear you in the past God that you're removing those and
Aligning us with your good and perfect and pleasing will for our lives
Psalm 51 10 says create me a clean heart. Oh God and renew a steadfast spirit in me
So we thank you God that you're doing cleansing tonight as people are talking about the lies that they've you know
Been believing God that they're letting go of we thank you God that there's this cleansing this renewal
This redemptive work that's happening and we thank you God that they're gonna walk away changed from tonight without even maybe fully
Knowing that they're walking away and change that even conversations that are happening God that you're
Connecting dots that aha's are happening that moments of transition and transformation are taking place
We thank you God that even as your word declares that we're being
transformed by the renewing of our minds that all old things have passed away and
Behold behold everything is becoming new and you so Lord. We thank you that we will take
Yeah apart are an active role and guarding our hearts and our minds for Christ Jesus
we thank you that we will take every thought captive and
Make it obedient to Jesus Christ and we will no longer just continue to believe every lie that the enemy presents to us
we will choose to come out of alignment and agreement with things that don't sound like or look like heaven and the ways that we
Can understand what is heaven sound like what does heaven look like as we can look at Jesus?
we can look at the way that he was on the earth his example the things that he taught and
Lord we can just
Every day help us become more like him
It doesn't mean we have to be perfect by any means but through your grace Lord help us to make choices
that are in alignment with
What Jesus demonstrated for us? We thank you that you'll help us to come out of alignment with fear and
unbelief doubt worry
be in any area of our lives. And I thank you, God, that you would just give us a new story
tonight, that you would help us to partner with your truth. And yeah, Lord, just cling
to it. I read a scripture this morning where it was talking about, you know, meditating
on your word day and night, Lord, and that we would keep them as the apple of our eye
and that we would literally, you know, tie them around our neck that, you know, if you
think about a necklace and a locket, you know, you're keeping that thing close to you. So
Lord, I thank you that you'll help us to fall in love with your word, to fall more in love
with you, and to really honor and rightly divide the word of truth. And that we would,
as we read your word, Lord, that we would have a newfound appreciation, a love and excitement,
a joy, God, that as we read your word, that stuff would literally almost like leap off
the page, add us to us, and that we would know, God, that you're trying to communicate
something to us. And sometimes, Lord, it's that subtle thing. I just feel led to kind
of talk into this tonight a little bit while they're in the breakout for those that watch
the replay, or I'll encourage the ladies to go back and listen to this. But here's the
thing, it's not always going to be that obvious jumping off the page at us. Sometimes it's
just a gentle nudge in our spirit that we just are sensing, like, look a little deeper,
where the Holy Spirit's just calling us to look a little deeper into a scripture to understand
it more, to study it, and see what God is saying to us through it. What does he want
to say to us today? Every single day that we would have an excitement to unpack the
word and hear from him. First Peter 5.8 in the NLT says, stay alert, watch out for your
great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.
Keep in mind, ladies, like a roaring lion means he's not a lion. There's one lion and
it's the lion of the tribe of Judah, and it's God the Father, Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit
that we serve. So we don't have to fear what the devil is doing or trying. We can cling
to the word and the truth and the mighty God that we serve. But we just need to be aware
and we need to be alertly watchful as it declares. Hi, Glenna.
Hi.
They're about to...
Hi.
Go ahead.
Hello. I'm sorry I was late.
Oh, that's okay. They're about to come back. I saw you pop in,
but I wasn't sure if you were wanting to be put in breakout tonight.
Well, I couldn't get on with my iPad, and then I got on with my phone, and it's just been a day.
I'm so glad you're here.
Yeah.
We are having just this time of talking about the lies we've been believing that we're coming
out of alignment with, and the ladies are back with us here. Some are ready. We have 30 seconds,
and everyone will be back. So ladies, as you're coming back, be thinking about, if you're willing,
we'd love for you to share about the lie that you are going to invite God into to help you heal,
and I'll ask the other ladies as they come back as well.
God's doing something kind of wonderful. I feel it. I sense it.
Great.
Yeah. He's good, you all. All right. Here we go. The other ladies are coming back.
Welcome back. All right. Who is willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your
breakout room? If you raise your digital hand for me, that's the easiest way for me to see you,
and it normally takes one or two to get us going. Okay. Joy, I might have you wait just for a
minute just because I know that you got to share this afternoon, and if I have time, I'll come to
you. Mika, if you will go ahead and share for us. Okay. So I will share. Mine was independence.
I, just because of past friendships that I've had that have disappointed or hurt me, I realized
that I can really set the limitation of telling myself that I am independent, and I can, you know,
just out of a way of protecting myself and self-protection instead of leaning into the truth
of what the Word of God says about me, that Jesus is my protector, and he's also put me in healthy
community. I am in healthy community. Like with this, my church community, I have a lot of, like,
godly people, friends, family that are healthy, and like what you mentioned on the call about, like,
I like how you phrased it, Beth, you know, just I don't have to allow people into my space to
people please or rescue, you know, either, but, and I don't have to always have it together on
myself, do everything myself to protect myself from disappointment.
or fear of hurt, rejection, or, you know, someone taking advantage of a situation.
That's right. Mika, this is really good. So one of the things, ladies, if you tend to partner with,
I'm independent. I don't need other people. Just kind of like she's saying the truth.
You know, the flip side is, you know, God's put her in community. She has friends.
Jesus is her protector. But what I want you to do is I want you to go and ask the Lord this week.
You know, when is the first time I felt like I had to be independent to protect myself?
Because again, you're going you're you want to look at with the Lord.
When is the first time and ask him to heal that area?
And there's probably going to be other things potentially connected to it.
And then also any time we feel the need to partner with the lie, I'm independent.
Make sure that we're not saying that or thinking that, but we're coming out of alignment agreement.
So you might say, like for me, I put one up.
Lord, I thank you that I am coming out of agreement with independence and coming into agreement with interdependence on you.
I don't know if I'm saying that right right now. Interdependence on you.
So basically it's saying, OK, I acknowledge that I don't want to be independent anymore.
I want to depend on you, God. I want to depend on you.
So I had to pray and ask God to help me come out of alignment with my independence.
Because I learned independence at a young age because I didn't know other people would really come through for me.
And there was just a lot of brokenness. And I felt like I had to take care of myself and all the things.
But God didn't want me to live like that for the rest of my life. OK.
All right. I'm going to let. Thank you for sharing on that, Mika.
Alicia, go ahead. Hi.
Sorry, the no was next. Yes.
So I've been waiting on God to meet somebody for quite a while now, many years.
And part of me that's been struggling over the years is that my self-image that I'm ugly, I'm not beautiful enough.
And one of the things I resented in on waiting on God is that I've gotten so old. Right.
And so during this five week course, because I actually finished my fifth week last week.
Every week as I worked through God dealt with something inside me and a lot of the stuff I didn't even realize it was so surprising.
But also wonderful, you know, and just releasing me from a lot of anger, bitterness, even soul ties.
I didn't realize I had soul ties that he released me from.
And and, you know, the supernatural Saturdays, you know, I spend most of the time crying through it because he's, you know, he's doing, you know, good work.
And so I've just loved this first phase because I can actually feel free.
And one of the things he showed me that I've been praying for for quite a long time is a breakthrough in just the joy,
just that joy that we should have inside of us for, you know, for him, no matter our circumstances.
You know, I've been praying a long time for that joy. And he said, this hard work, that is my breakthrough to joy.
And and I'm actually starting to experience that feeling free in, you know, the loneliness, the depression around loneliness.
I haven't experienced that in actually quite a while, to be honest.
So, you know, I just wanted to share what this program's done for me.
And and I really love it. And I'm nervous, but also excited for the next phase.
Yeah. Yeah. Alicia, thank you for sharing that, man.
I really felt the Holy Spirit when you said my heartwork is my breakthrough to joy.
That's a powerful statement, you all. I want you all to understand that is so true that like our heartwork is key always.
And here's the thing. I feel like this is really important to say right now just for our ladies.
I know I have a couple that are moving to phase two and I'm so excited for you.
But here's the thing. Ladies, heartwork continues in phase two.
I don't want anyone to feel like you just feel like you have to have arrived when you get there or that you can't go.
go there because you have to have gotten all the healing,
everything, every ounce, you know, some of y'all are going to
go on a date. And it's going to bring things up. And you're
going to be like, Oh, I didn't know that was there. You know,
I mean, genuinely, that's going to happen. And even before you
get to the date, some of you all just even having to face the
thought of, you know, being on an app or meeting in person or
whatever it is, is going to bring stuff up in you and just
understand that. It's not like you finish heartwork, and then
you don't do heart heartwork. Again, heartwork, the tools that
you're learning here, our hearts desire is that you will use
these as tools the rest of your life. Because you're going to
need them. I've been married two and a half years, September will
be three. And I promise you, I still do heartwork. Yeah, all
the time. All right. Well, thanks for allowing me to share.
Yes, thank you so much. And I wanted to say to, to everyone,
if you all believe that you're ugly or not beautiful enough, or
any of those things, remember that silhouette activation, if
you haven't done it yet, it's going to help some of you with
that, that right there. Okay, so just wanted to do that plug. I
talked about the silhouette activation, maybe last week or
the week before I can't remember which one. But thank you for
sharing. That was awesome. Damaris, go ahead.
Hi, everyone. Hi, Bethany. Yeah, I was going to talk about a lot
of the lies that you were mentioning. I kind of relate to
a lot of those. But there's about three that I, you know,
come up more. And it was the one that is like, I'm not enough. I
remember when I was younger as a child, and my dad, my mom will
ask me for something. And if I didn't do it, right, she would
say that I was good for nothing. And even though she didn't say
it that many times, up to now, I still remember that. And she was
a good mom and everything. I have a good relationship with
her. Today's her birthday, and she's in Mexico. And so I'm not
here. But anyway, so but that still, you know, it hurt me all
these years. And also my dad, when I didn't do something
right, as well. And he said something to me, like, why did
you do that? Or he asked me a question. So that will be with
the scene but not heard, where he would ask me a question, but
I knew that even though he was asking me a question, I should
not answer that question, because he could probably slap
me if I answer him because that will be a sign of disrespect,
like I'm talking back at him if I respond to him. And so I don't
know if it was part of the culture. I'm Mexican. And so I
don't know. But I knew, even though he's asking me a
question, I better not answer, you know. And then with my ex
husband, the end when we were, you know, at the end of our
at the end of our marriage, he would tell me that I'm nobody
and that I was ugly too. And even though I was kind of like,
I will show like I was strong and it's like, well, it's your
fault for marrying me. Inside of me, it broke me, you know, that
somebody that I love would say that to me. Yeah, yeah.
Well, I'm so sorry, number one, that these things were said to
you. I want to encourage you. Well, let me ask you a question
first. Have you ever told your mom that when she said that,
that that hurt you? No. I want I want you to pray about having
that conversation. Is your mom a healthy? Is she able to have a
healthy conversation? Yes. Okay, so let's pray about that.
Because it's still even though you know, she's a good mom, and
you guys have a good relationship. This is still
hurting you. And bringing it out of the darkness into the
light might bring a lot of understanding. I'm wondering if
maybe someone said that to your mom. But we don't, you know, we
can spend all time, all kinds of time guessing. But if we just
go to the source, and say, don't and I wouldn't necessarily go to
her and say, I'm wondering if somebody said this to you. But
you need to like express, hey, mom, like I've been in this
heart healing program. And this is something that's been coming
up. And I just needed to talk to you about it. Because when I
was a kid, this really hurt me. And I've just still struggled
with it, even to being an adult, and kind of see what she says.
Okay. Now, if she responds, then y'all have a great hopefully
conversation and interaction and there's healing. If she reacts.
then we can help coach you from there. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Cause I think that's super important.
And then with your dad, um, you know, I'm not necessarily that you need to go to him.
I just felt specifically about this thing with your mom. He passed away already. Okay.
Okay. Um, but when someone says that we're ugly or they say stuff to us, or even like,
you know, you're good for nothing ladies, what's really important when these things
come up, and this is what I would encourage you to also do before you talk to your mom
about it. Damaris is really pray and allow yourself to feel the fields of that moment
so that God can heal those fields. So allow yourself to feel and process that with the
Lord so that you have a little bit healing before you have that conversation. Okay. Thank
you. All right. You're welcome. And this is ladies, how we also come out of, uh, believing
those lies is we, we get healing and then we start to believe the truth about ourselves
because we grow in value and worth and everything that we already were. We start to see it more
clearly and then we can walk more confidently in relationships with people. And that's romantic
non-romantic relationships. The same. Thank you for sharing Damaris. Thank you, Karen.
Go ahead. Hi. Oh yeah. I have to Karen, Karen, Karen with just Karen. Um, well, first of
all, I just want to say it's a pleasure to be here. This is my first week, so I just
finished my week one. Um, so one of the lies actually like, um, Damaris, a lot of the lies
that you stated really resonated. Um, but one was you're not enough. And I realized that a lot
of, um, my history had involved striving. So it's like when you're so busy trying to work so hard
to be validated for validation. Um, but there was also, um, I was, I grew up in very competitive
situations where it was really very workspace, very much. How, how much could I do? How far
could I go? How much could I push my body? How good did the grades be? You know, um, if I got
to be on something, why was it not in a, um, and all of those things, which has of course,
just carried over more and more into my life. And then, um, also in dating somebody who had
an unhealthy addiction, um, to pornography. Um, and so then it turned into much more of
a physicality of, uh, your body's not enough. You're just not enough, you know, and all of
those things. Um, which, which has totally, um, this week, I will say that, um, the first part
of heart work was almost reintroducing me to the fact that I am a princess, which was something
that I used to cling to, you know, I, I love, like, I mean, I'm old enough to have seen princess
dive wedding, you know? So, um, so I remember wanting to be that princess and just really
wanting to have that. Um, and so this week God actually did lead me to Defender by Stephanie,
that was thing by Stephanie Gretzinger, which talks about, um, when I lost me, you, you,
you showed me where I left me, you know, you, you reintroduced me to your, you know, you reintroduced
me. And, um, I just really felt that so deeply, but, um, I do want to say that that's probably
something that is a lie. And the other one was the last one. If they really knew me,
they wouldn't accept me or love me or choose me. And what stood out to me was choose me,
because I feel like there's that part of me that wants to be chosen.
And, um, and once again, I think that goes back to the striving portion of that whole thing,
of that whole idea of works, but the fact that it's not about being who God created me to be.
So thank you all for letting me go Defender by, it's by Stephanie Gretzinger and Francesca, um,
Battistelli, I think, but anyway, thank you. That was such a sweet share and thank you for
your vulnerability and sharing with us, um, your parts of your story. Um, I want to just say in
here too, ladies, when we have that striving for validation, um, you know, be sure that you're
asking the Lord to help you hear what is His Spirit saying over you? Like, what does He have
to say to you in those moments, even where you felt that?
pressure to have, you know, to push your body for the grades or with, you know, the guy
that you dated that had the porn addiction.
You know, what was Jesus saying to you in that situation?
Because he was there.
And so when we tap into asking him those kind of things, and he reveals to us like, okay,
this is what I want you to know, like, not that he's saying it exactly like that.
But typically, he'll hear something, a phrase, a statement, you'll hear, you know, some kind
of response.
And ladies, I don't want you to get discouraged.
Some of you if you pray and you don't hear something right away, you get discouraged
and you start believing the lie that you don't hear from God.
And I really want to encourage you as we're talking about coming out of agreement with
lies tonight.
Let's not partner with that lie.
As you all were in the session tonight, I was praying the scripture that says that we
are his sheep and his sheep know his voice.
Pray that over yourself and let's declare even when you don't hear it, we can declare
it and pray that over ourselves.
Okay, super important.
But I would be encouraging you to be praying about that Karen, because as Jesus comes and
meets you in those moments from when you were a kid, so many healing ripples are going to
start to happen throughout.
You're going to start to recognize times where even now you may be putting pressure on yourself
that it's not the expectation that the Father has of you.
Okay.
And then the last thing I want to share here, the fact that the choose me word stood out
a lot, makes a lot of sense for everything that you shared, but the Lord is also saying
that he wants you to choose you too.
Okay.
So that can mean all different kinds of things.
I think I know what it means, but I want you to just sit with that and see what God wants
to say to you personally about it.
He wants you to choose you too and yeah, not put you on the back burners.
One thing I do feel it's okay for me to say, okay, right now and just see what else unfolds
for you in that this week.
Okay.
Awesome.
Thank you for sharing.
That was really great.
Okay.
I have time for probably see, I know Wadzie, go ahead, let's see how many we can get in
in the next few minutes.
And I don't want to rush anybody, but I just don't generally want to do the additional
context and stuff I brought for y'all tonight.
So Wadzie, go ahead and then we'll go Adrena and then we'll go Alina.
Okay.
Hi everyone from Australia, it's 11am now, we finally caught you guys second session.
Thank you all for sharing.
I always feel so encouraged.
And what I discovered is that with doing this course and today that the lies, some
of them were like a mishmash, like they're all like made into a bowl of like, as a resulting
in something.
And basically what I shared with the group was, it was like, most of it was probably
the, that it's not important.
So in the end, I stopped putting my wants forward because I never got a response or
I never got any kind of validation or care to it.
And I was been doing this course and I was raised, I love my mom, but she was a single
mom and I'm the oldest.
So as a child, I lost, there was like, I was more of her partner than I was a child.
So when it comes to certain things, when I, and I have a younger brother and he needed
a, like, he had the freedom to like scream and cry and throw tantrums and do all those
things that I could never do because I saw that it was putting a lot of stress on her.
So I sucked a lot of my emotions and I put a lot of things on the back banner because
it just wasn't feasible or, and, you know, just at the time when I looked at it, I'm
like, I just can't put this on top of her.
So I sort of sucked in and became a lot more independent.
And then when I got a bit older, I sort of tried to have this conversation and it didn't
turn out well because I was a teenager, I think I was trying to, you know, have this
conversation probably not the right way, full of hormones.
So but because of that, I'm once bitten, twice shy.
I've never ever brought that up again because I've just, it was such a helpful interaction.
So it has really, doing this Hardware course, it showed me that there's areas that I needed
to work on because for some reason, which is now linked to all this, I've never
worked on myself. I've just lived life. Life has come to me and I've just been and I've realized
doing this course is because I haven't even thought that I was important. I cared more about
my family, the two people in my life, that I hadn't even had room to care take for myself.
So this last couple of weeks God has been like revealing things to me and even these sessions
that I listen to sometimes, it just showed me and I think and I'm so glad that you shared that
Proverbs are saying with their group that the Proverbs about me being a crown to my future
husband and I was and it just resonated with me then and I was like one I've read that Proverbs
in my life and it's never clicked in my head and so I was so encouraged by that that even as God
has revealed these things to me about how important I am it just he always what's it called
I love when God speaks to me I call them hoary spirit smackdowns because I'm a very like stubborn
and also like I'm like I'm living life I don't have time for you to talk to me God so God has
to give me a hoary spirit smackdown to get my attention but he always gives me a cuddle afterwards
so well we love the cuddles afterwards that's good but I need a smack to get me to you know get
my eyes focused so I've just yet thank you all for I'm sharing and yeah yeah sorry so hopefully
this makes sense this was good no need to apologize that made so much sense it was great
and I'm so glad that you are getting the healing that you're needing and you're taking this time
to really invest in yourself and recognize how important you are you're important to just this
night and the fact that you're sharing and contributing you're important to the world
like you you matter massively and that's something I said this afternoon and I hope all of you hear
that like every one of us are here now because God wants us here for a purpose you were predestined
you were chosen for some amazing incredible adventure adventure and some of you haven't
lived into the incredible adventure part yet because your your latter years are going to be
greater than your former years I don't know about any of you but that was a scripture I clung to
for years because I I was like yeah my former years were horrible so I hope my latter years
are better and praise the Lord they are but um Wadsy one of the things I just want to say real
quick and then Audrina I'm going to come over to you is um I can't share my needs I can't put this
on top of her I want to encourage you this next and in more than just next week but in the weeks
ahead to really um ask the Lord to show you how much of a load you can put on him okay because
you need to unbecome the person that worries about putting a load on somebody and sometimes
even to the point that you're not putting the load on to the Lord as fully as you can
because that inner subconscious part of yourself whether you realize it or not
is still in the mode of I can't put this on anyone including the Lord because I have to figure out I
have to take care of it okay and so the more that you can lean into God is your care caregiver
he's your protector he's your provider he wants to help you and that he wants to bring people
around you in this season that will also help you um and to come out of alignment and agreement with
um I just heard the Lord say that you have to be in the background because you don't
so God's about to bring you to the forefront okay okay yeah and so just embrace that and see what
what he says about that more what does it look like God for me to be in the forefront what is it
it doesn't mean that you're making yourself something that you know like where you're always
having to be that center of attention but being in the forefront can mean all kinds of things
it might mean that there's leadership he has for you it might mean just leading yourself really
well and then other people just are automatically minister minister to or you know impacted because
you're living your life you know fully alive and no longer holding back parts of yourself that you
know the enemy has tried to convince you don't matter because someone else has a need um and I
think it's going to be actually really exciting for you so I'm excited to see where this will go
I'm excited to see where this will go oh who just had their hand up that just put their hand down I
forget oh Audrina so Wadzi thank you for sharing so appreciate you thank you thank you so much
you're welcome Audrina go ahead hi
Hi, um, okay, so two of the lies that I have been believing that
really stood out to me were you aren't enough, or you're too
much. And then also, you should be seen but not heard. For the
you aren't enough, you're too much. As I was meditating on
that, I think it came from previous relation, romantic
relationships that I have been in, that unfortunately, have
spoke that over me when it came to sharing how I feel about
something or just any type of communication, like in general.
So then that kind of led me into the other lie of you should be
seen but not heard. Because of the unhealthy romantic
relationships, and then also just general dysfunctional
communication with like my close family members. So it
kind of felt easier to, you know, not share than to be told
the fear of like being told like, Oh, you're too much. Or,
you know, you know, you have too many things that, you know, you
need to work on or work through. And it just made me feel like
just not enough. And yeah, so it kind of led to that. And I'm
trying to work on communication, like being more open and like
vulnerable, but it kind of shut me down over time.
Yeah, I can understand why I'm doing a great job, Audrina, I
feel like just keep going on the path you're on. And it's going
to really, it's going to be really helpful to continue your
healing process. And that one of the things ladies that in
Audrina, when I say this, I don't want you to think you, I
don't want you to think you said something wrong, but it got
highlighted when you said it. So maybe somebody else said it
tonight, but I just now heard it. Ladies, when we're
expressing our feelings and things that happened to us, I
want you all to really shift out of they made me feel this. Okay.
Here's why we feel they did something. Okay, separate
things. So when we put when we kind of partner with they made
me feel this way, we're basically giving that person
complete control over us. Y'all understand? So, and I have to
work at this still sometimes. I feel sad, I feel hurt, I feel
angry is different than, you know, me saying, they made me
feel angry. And I don't want someone else to have complete
control over my emotions, my thoughts, the way I react or act
hopefully respond, but you get what I'm saying. And so the more
that you all look at even thoughts that you have that kind
of subconsciously come like that. They're making me so mad.
Well, no, you feel mad, you feel anger. Because of something,
because of whatever action they're doing. And you're
separating people's actions from your feelings. Everyone understand
that? All right, super important, because even you
know, as I said, I had that situation before I got on
tonight. Well, I feel angry. It doesn't mean that even what they
did should have caused me to feel angry. But that is how I
felt. So I can look at Okay, Lord, I don't know, like if this
anger was what needed to happen in this situation, help me to
understand what's why did I feel so angry about this. And I'll
work through that. And then I can address that situation. Does
that make sense? In a healthy way, versus giving them complete
control and ownership, and then trying to deal with it in a
really unhealthy way later on, it tends to go bad that way,
even for us. And so Audrina, thank you for sharing. And I
hope that just as you're continuing to move forward, I'm,
you know, really in that part of you're too much, you're not
enough. One of the best things I ever prayed was Lord, help me
to see myself through your eyes more helped me to become more
and more secure in you. So that I'm not trying to find my
security and other people, and things and jobs and whatever,
you know, and that genuinely transformed
my relationship with the Lord and myself.
I also prayed a lot for God to show me who he was as love.
Because again, as we talked about last week,
if we're rooted and grounded in the love of Christ,
there's no room for fear.
There's no, and the lies partner with the fear, remember?
Anxious thoughts and fear and lies.
They all kind of play games together.
They're all in that little pack.
And so we come out of agreement with the lies
and the fears and the anxious thoughts that we have,
and we come into agreement with the truth.
Adrena, God says you're fearfully and wonderfully made.
So that's what we partner with, okay?
All right, Alina, go ahead.
Y'all, we're already at 921.
I can't believe it, but this has been so good.
Let's see what's going, what's gonna happen next.
Hi, Bethany, hello, everyone.
Hi.
So you mentioned about being able to be transparent
as we work through all these
and not come across as different than we really are,
even though sometimes I'm afraid that I'll be misunderstood
if I show people things I've gone through
or really show them that I may be struggling
through something or hurting
that I'll be looked down on or less than,
and was just wanting some direction
because I'm wanting to build some healthy community,
healthy friendships.
And I've had a little bit of a hard time.
And yeah, I do need to,
that was a good pointer to make healthier choices,
especially when I see things come up
that are not good character,
are not treated honorably,
instead of keep trying to fix it.
Sorry, is there a lie
that you were wanting to share about tonight?
Do you recommend I build trust with people
before I'm more transparent with them?
Because sometimes-
Yes, absolutely.
I find myself sharing too much
and then I find out who they really are
and I'm like, oh, wow,
you're not able to hold all this with integrity.
Yes.
Yes, so as you all continue into the other phases,
you're gonna learn a lot about boundaries
and how to set healthy boundaries.
And that also includes how to connect
in a healthy way in relationship.
And anything you learn in a romantic relationship,
the coaching that comes with that piece,
y'all are gonna totally be able to apply it
to other relationships as well.
So for example,
when you meet someone for the first time in community,
you don't wanna just share your whole life story with them.
And even if they try to,
you wanna really kind of keep it kind and get to know them,
but keep it kind of surface for now
because you don't wanna just trauma bond with people
on the first interaction.
And that's what can happen when people overshare
and then they get all kind of enmeshed with each other.
It can be really unhealthy.
So yeah, definitely ask the Lord just to really help you
like hone in your words, okay?
And know that, discern if someone is trustworthy
to begin getting to know them,
not to just go in sharing your life with them
out of the gate, but like, okay, Lord,
is this someone that's healthy for me
to get to know and interact with?
And you can kind of gauge that as you go.
And if someone isn't healthy,
that you wouldn't just continue to unpack your life
with them, that you would keep that healthy boundary
and you can keep that surface interaction potentially,
but I wouldn't go much deeper ladies with people
that are presenting unhealthy to you,
even in a surface level connection.
But that was a great question, Alina.
I'm gonna go ahead and try to hurry
through the rest of my content here, you all.
I'm gonna focus on, and I did this this afternoon,
so I should have known this would be happening again
tonight.
I have been so blessed by all the coaching today,
honestly, and everybody that shared.
This is a good problem for us to have,
it's not even a problem,
but I hope you all know, everybody that shared,
this was incredible tonight.
And this is what we want to have happen.
I typically come with lots of content
because I never know how many people are gonna share.
So what I am gonna share with you tonight
is about the prodigal son story.
We're probably not gonna do another breakout,
but I'm just gonna give you all the same assignment
I gave the ladies this afternoon,
and hopefully you all will enjoy it.
We'll jump on that assignment.
Um, in the prodigal son story, there's two sons.
We're not going to focus on the son that left tonight.
We're going to focus on the son that stayed.
And I want y'all to understand that there are a lot of times, the
reason we're focusing on him tonight.
There's a lot of times that we have an improper, an improper view of God in our
relationship with him.
And it causes us to have heart postures that are similar to the elder brother.
And that's why I call it the elder brother syndrome.
Okay.
So the son was still in the house all along with the father, and I'm going to
point this out in scripture, but he had limiting beliefs and mindset mindsets
that kept him from receiving the blessing that he literally was already living in
you all.
And the provision that was always there, it was always available to him, but he
did not partake of it.
Okay.
Here it is in scripture, Luke chapter 15, verse 28 through 32, the older
brother became angry.
Did you see how this, this is even showing ownership of feelings.
Like what I just said, that's kind of funny.
I didn't even know that the older brother became angry and refused to go in.
So this is after the son came home and the father went out and put the, the
robe on him and the signet ring and all of that.
And they're having this party.
Just y'all know, that's what happened before verse 28, the older brother
became angry and refused to go inside.
Here's what happens next.
So his father went out, the father went out to him and pursued him and pleaded
with him, but this is the elder brother's response.
He answered his father.
Look all these years, I have been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders.
Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends.
But when this son of yours, interesting, he's calling the other guy, the son,
boy, aren't you a son?
No, he's calling himself a slave.
Let's keep going.
Of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home.
You kill the fat and calf for him.
My son, the father said, you are always with me and everything that I have is
yours, but we had to celebrate and be glad because this brother of yours
was dead and is alive again.
He was lost and is found.
I'm curious for you all to be thinking about this.
Where has the elder brother syndrome shown up in your life?
Have you believed, like, have you ever had the thoughts like, God, I've done
everything you asked me to do, and you're still not giving me the blessing of a
spirit mate, like, you know, you're serving and you're doing all the things
and you're asking God, but he's not doing it for you.
Well, that's the elder brother showing up.
That's what's happening there.
And y'all, it's not your fault.
It's just, you have learned an incorrect view of who the father is.
And you've learned an incorrect view of who you are in relation to the father.
Just like that.
Like, and even this afternoon, I didn't even realize I was going to be
talking about this, but I was talking about the father.
Like, and even this afternoon, I didn't even make the connection.
Like he's saying this son of yours, like, okay, wait a minute.
You are a son too.
You're a son too.
So you're a daughter.
You're a daughter.
And maybe you don't really feel like you're in the kingdom.
You, you don't feel like you're in the palace because life has been hard.
But guess what?
Esther figured out her way to get there.
Didn't she?
She just went right up on in there.
Now God opened that door for her, but here's the thing.
Esther did not sit waiting.
Yes.
She had the preparation processes, but she was doing stuff.
You all.
Some of you, I really sensed it earlier.
And as we start to close tonight, I want to give you this, some of you.
And again, there's no shame, guilt, or condemnation.
Please don't receive that.
When I say this, some of you have been angry at God and you need to forgive him.
And you've been angry at him because you've been waiting and God
hasn't provided your spirit mate.
But here's the truth.
Part of the problem is you've been waiting and waiting in the sense of not.
with him in the process. You've been just waiting for him to bring that person to you.
And that's not how that's we have to be actively walking with the Lord and and shifting and
changing and healing and growing and partnering with him in the process. The other flip side
is some of you have been so hurt in the past by other people that you're in the Father's
house and the blessing is there for you. But you don't either a think you can have it or
be you don't even think it's there. And so this week I want to encourage you to ask the
Lord to show you a fresh revelation of what it looks like and feels like for you to live
as a daughter of the King who has access to the kingdom, everything, everything in it.
And y'all, yes, God is going to protect us. Sometimes he's not going to always give us
everything we want all in all in one swoop because y'all we just we would mishandle it.
I can tell you that from experience. Sometimes you get blessing poured on you and it's like,
I don't know if I can, I don't know if I'm mature enough to even handle this.
Okay, but God has it for you. And it's not just for everybody else. Some of you,
that's kind of where your elder brother syndrome is kicking in. You really believe that God just
blesses everybody else, but not you. You kind of feel like Cinderella in the up locked away
in the whatever tower. And God wants to help you come out of that tower. And he already opened
the door for you to come out. I've never said that before in this session. So I feel like that
is something from the Lord to, you know, that Cinderella, you know, she was put there by the
evil stepmother and locked in that palace tower. And God's wanting you to know that door has
already been unlocked. And the healing is yours, you can have it and he wants to help you come out
and just be who he's called you to be. You're called to be Cinderella, the princess, whatever,
you know, kind of like what Karen was saying, but we have to have a revelation of what it
even means to be a princess. And a couple weeks ago, the Lord led me to say something that I
also had never said before in one of our ladies this afternoon, I don't know that she's here
tonight, was saying how this is still ministering to her. And I just thought of it again. So I want
to give it to you before we start before we start to close here is some of you are trying to be
queens when you haven't learned how to be a princess yet. You know, in our day and age,
everybody's talking about queen this queen that she's a queen, and I'm not knocking that. Okay.
But how can we be a queen if we don't know what it's like to be loved as a little girl as a princess?
Let's be a princess first and see what that feels like. Some of you all I'm going to go
give an activation I didn't give this afternoon, and I haven't given it for a couple weeks,
but feel led to give it tonight. I want to encourage you to be praying. I'm not crying,
y'all. I have these allergies. So don't mind me. Be praying about how you can activate your princess.
What does it look like for you in the next couple weeks to activate the princess who you already are?
Is it to go get a tiara, a crown? Is it some kind of veil? Maybe, maybe, you know, maybe it's not
your forever wedding veil, but maybe it's to get a veil. And, you know, y'all don't have to wear
these things out and about if you don't want to, but, like, get used to it in your house. Why?
Because even putting a tiara on some, like, for some of you all, standing in front of a mirror
and putting a tiara on yourself, I'm just going to imagine it. It might cause some, like,
uncomfortableness, some crying. Some of you might have a hard time actually, like, really seeing
yourself that way. Maybe for some of you it's ordering a bride-to-be sash and, like, starting
to wear it and partnering with, God has this for me. I'm a princess. God wants to provide
the spirit mate for me. A tiara is, like, I don't know how else to explain it. It's like a little
princess crown. Diamonds. And, you know, they can be not real diamonds, but, you know, really cute.
But a crown, you know, goes all the way around. A tiara is kind of like
just goes on the sides, typically.
You know, the front and the sides,
and the combs go down in.
One last thing, as we're saying this,
I keep seeing the word royalty the other day.
Yeah, I think that's going in partnership with this.
Yeah, you can find them at Claire's,
you can find them Amazon, anywhere, you all.
So that's an inactivation, you all can do that.
Here's the other one.
Your question at the end of this, elder brother,
that I would love for you all to post about
in the group this week, okay?
What group?
The Last Year Single app, if you go in there,
there's a button that says, create a post,
and you can create a post in there.
And I would love for you to share about
when was the first time you believed a lie,
excuse me, believed a lie,
that God wasn't a good father,
and that he did not come through on his promises for you?
When was the first time you believed a lie,
that God wasn't a good father,
and that he did not come through on his promises for you?
And here's why this question and answer is important, okay?
This is why I want you all,
we were gonna do it in a breakout tonight,
but we just don't have time.
Because some of you really need to get to the root
of your, the brokenness in the relationship
you have with God, the father, okay?
And this is gonna help you start to unpack
that a little bit more.
All right, your other question,
all right, your other activation is shifting to positive.
So this goes in alignment with the making room for joy.
I want you all to ask God to show you the gold in yourself,
as well as other people around you.
Now, if someone's toxic,
you still wanna acknowledge the toxic behaviors.
We don't wanna just have this, you know,
non-reality, you know, in life when we're looking at people,
but here's the thing, God can show us the gold in anybody
because he put it there.
He made every person in his image, okay?
And the reason this will help you on your healing journey
is because, you know, as you're shifting, as you're healing,
you wanna really partner with,
okay, God, I know that you created this person.
I don't like how they're behaving
and I can choose to not allow, if someone's toxic,
I can choose to not allow myself to be with that person
and spend time with them,
but I can still see value in who they are
as a son or daughter, okay?
Now, they're not sons or daughters
until they accept Jesus Christ.
That's when we become part of the family,
but he created them all, okay?
He created everyone.
And so he put the good,
he put his image in each person and it's there.
It's whether or not they want to live into that or not.
That's a part of the journey for them as well.
But let's be gold finders, okay?
Let's be gold finders.
And I'm gonna pray and close us out.
Father, thank you.
Thank you for your glory.
God, we believe that it can cover the earth.
We pray that you would help us to be gold finders this week
and in the next weeks ahead.
God, that you would transform us from the inside out,
that you would, Lord, thank you,
that you would prepare a table for us
in the presence of our enemies,
that you would reveal to us all the ways
that we're living in the kingdom,
that we're living in your house, the King of Kings,
and we're living below what you have for us.
We're not even taking part or partaking of the blessings
that are in the house.
So Lord, help us to heal in such a way
that we would come out of alignment with mindsets,
beliefs, belief systems, heart postures,
brokenness that cause us to be in the house
and believe that we're a slave.
So we thank you for revealings, for healing
that are gonna continue to happen.
We thank you for supernatural breakthroughs,
redemption, reconciliation, and families and relationships.
God, where there's been brokenness for years,
God, we speak and declare healing power in Jesus' name,
that your virtue would go into us
and then also move through us to other people.
And we just thank you in advance for that.
Help us to see ourselves more and more and more
through your eyes every day, Father.
In Jesus' name, amen.
God bless you.
We love you.
We're so glad.
here, and I will be seeing you all in the group this week. Have a great night, everyone. Bye.