WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.200 All right, welcome to heart check in Monday, May 12th. 2 00:00:06.200 --> 00:00:15.560 This is heart check in for men, and just wanted to hit record and tell a little snake story 3 00:00:15.560 --> 00:00:20.960 before we recorded, and you missed the snake story, but that's okay if you're watching 4 00:00:20.960 --> 00:00:22.960 this and replay. 5 00:00:22.960 --> 00:00:24.320 So guys, what's up? 6 00:00:24.320 --> 00:00:27.080 How are you doing this week? 7 00:00:27.080 --> 00:00:29.520 What is new? 8 00:00:29.520 --> 00:00:32.520 What are your questions? 9 00:00:32.520 --> 00:00:35.080 What are your wins? 10 00:00:35.080 --> 00:00:36.080 What is going on? 11 00:00:36.080 --> 00:00:40.120 Who wants to break in here this evening? 12 00:00:40.120 --> 00:00:46.760 I'll start us off. 13 00:00:46.760 --> 00:00:53.520 Things are progressing well with the lady that I've been dating for the last month. 14 00:00:53.520 --> 00:00:57.540 Had an excellent date on Friday. 15 00:00:57.540 --> 00:01:04.060 We went to a comedy show, got dinner afterwards, had some great conversation, got a little 16 00:01:04.060 --> 00:01:15.460 extra context for kind of how the initial interest started and how the whole fellow 17 00:01:15.460 --> 00:01:20.020 coworker texting me kind of came about. 18 00:01:20.020 --> 00:01:26.580 But yeah, things are progressing well, trying to plan a date for Saturday or Sunday in the 19 00:01:26.580 --> 00:01:29.380 midst of a couple of busy weeks here. 20 00:01:29.380 --> 00:01:35.580 So both of you are still like, yeah, let's do this, let's talk some more, let's go out 21 00:01:35.580 --> 00:01:36.580 some more. 22 00:01:36.580 --> 00:01:37.580 Wow. 23 00:01:37.580 --> 00:01:38.580 Yeah. 24 00:01:38.580 --> 00:01:39.580 It's incredible. 25 00:01:39.580 --> 00:01:46.380 So you said you went to a comedy club, I'm assuming that was fun and you had a great 26 00:01:46.380 --> 00:01:47.380 time. 27 00:01:47.380 --> 00:01:48.380 Yeah. 28 00:01:48.380 --> 00:01:54.260 It was one of those, I don't know if you guys have seen ads for, it's called Don't Tell 29 00:01:54.260 --> 00:01:56.260 Comedy. 30 00:01:56.260 --> 00:02:06.460 But basically they keep the location a secret until day of, they keep the, I guess like 31 00:02:06.460 --> 00:02:10.380 set list of comedians a secret. 32 00:02:10.380 --> 00:02:15.460 So you never really know who's going to be there to perform, it could be some like triple 33 00:02:15.460 --> 00:02:21.240 A person or somebody up and coming. 34 00:02:21.240 --> 00:02:28.440 So I mean, it wasn't necessarily like clean comedy, but I mean, it's, they have them all 35 00:02:28.440 --> 00:02:29.440 over. 36 00:02:29.440 --> 00:02:30.440 Where are you again? 37 00:02:30.440 --> 00:02:31.440 Oh, Jacksonville, Florida. 38 00:02:31.440 --> 00:02:32.440 Jacksonville, Florida. 39 00:02:32.440 --> 00:02:33.440 Okay. 40 00:02:33.440 --> 00:02:34.440 Yeah. 41 00:02:34.440 --> 00:02:35.440 Cool. 42 00:02:35.440 --> 00:02:39.760 But yeah, no, it was, it was a good time, you know, got to kind of see like, how does 43 00:02:39.760 --> 00:02:45.320 she react and maybe a little bit of the uncomfortable situation, a little more like surprising, 44 00:02:45.320 --> 00:02:50.960 like just following my lead because like, I didn't tell her where it was, you know, 45 00:02:51.680 --> 00:02:58.840 I tried to keep as much surprise and unknown throughout the night just to see, again, how 46 00:02:58.840 --> 00:03:00.280 would she react? 47 00:03:00.280 --> 00:03:07.520 She was very, very trusting, very, like she, she loved the whole idea and intrigue behind 48 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:08.520 surprise. 49 00:03:08.520 --> 00:03:11.520 So it was overall a good night. 50 00:03:11.520 --> 00:03:12.520 Awesome. 51 00:03:12.520 --> 00:03:13.520 That's great. 52 00:03:13.520 --> 00:03:14.520 That's good. 53 00:03:14.520 --> 00:03:15.520 I love that. 54 00:03:15.520 --> 00:03:17.600 And she seemed to react well to that. 55 00:03:17.600 --> 00:03:18.600 She was very flexible. 56 00:03:18.600 --> 00:03:24.760 She was like, Hey, this is kind of going with the flow and good, good, nice, good job. 57 00:03:24.760 --> 00:03:33.200 Anybody have feedback questions for Zach? 58 00:03:33.200 --> 00:03:40.600 Was it the comedy that was like, not, I guess, clean, Zach? 59 00:03:40.600 --> 00:03:51.460 Was that stuff that like, you, I guess, like disapproved of or like showed to her that 60 00:03:51.460 --> 00:03:56.580 you disapproved of it or it was, you had made the comment, I just didn't know what direction 61 00:03:56.580 --> 00:04:00.120 that went for you, if that was something that benefited you at all. 62 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:01.120 Yeah. 63 00:04:01.120 --> 00:04:09.120 I mean, we didn't necessarily like talk about the content of the comedy so much. 64 00:04:09.120 --> 00:04:15.880 And, you know, there, there are definitely some things that were maybe a little uncomfortable 65 00:04:15.880 --> 00:04:25.200 at times but, you know, coming from like, or like I'll say like myself having been in 66 00:04:25.200 --> 00:04:31.900 the world in times and, you know, in the church at times, like I know that, you know, it, 67 00:04:31.900 --> 00:04:37.440 to me, I think it serves a better witness to like be in that and, you know, be able 68 00:04:37.440 --> 00:04:43.600 to laugh and engage at things that are just real and raw. 69 00:04:43.600 --> 00:04:52.560 And then, you know, rather than be like, oh, I'm not going to do that because. 70 00:04:52.560 --> 00:04:57.160 But that's, again, just my personal opinion on that sort of thing. 71 00:04:57.160 --> 00:05:00.040 But again, I also didn't know like what to expect from the comedian. 72 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:06.320 as well you know so it was kind of one of the things like we were experiencing it both together 73 00:05:06.320 --> 00:05:13.360 and you know being able to be like oh like yeah let's have like it like this is a good joke you 74 00:05:13.360 --> 00:05:18.720 know we're like oh this guy's kind of going a little too long about drugs um things like that 75 00:05:18.720 --> 00:05:25.200 and so there we seem to be kind of on the same page like you know we were you know both laughing 76 00:05:25.200 --> 00:05:31.920 and just you know seemed to enjoy the night overall cool yeah i wasn't trying to be 77 00:05:32.560 --> 00:05:35.280 holier than now believe me i'm like probably one of the most 78 00:05:36.880 --> 00:05:43.040 former worldly people ever and dark humor and monty python so yeah but i was just curious 79 00:05:43.040 --> 00:05:50.160 how others uh deal with it and sounds like that was a good way for you yeah you know um 80 00:05:50.880 --> 00:05:52.560 who has feedback on that um 81 00:05:55.760 --> 00:06:02.720 you obviously you know you're gonna be out and about you're gonna be going places no need to be 82 00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:10.400 like super prude uh but at the same time there is like there seems to be a line i mean i am 83 00:06:11.440 --> 00:06:18.080 probably the most uh i don't know that's not a good way to say that i am probably the most 84 00:06:18.080 --> 00:06:24.880 whatever uh whatever blank you're gonna fill in there um i don't think that jackie and i are 85 00:06:24.880 --> 00:06:30.480 super prude uh that's a terrible word i i think there's a better word that we can say but whatever 86 00:06:31.280 --> 00:06:36.240 uh but at the same time there is a a certain threshold that i get to or like 87 00:06:37.280 --> 00:06:41.440 this this is this isn't like hitting very well and it and it can go from 88 00:06:42.400 --> 00:06:45.920 be on different on different days you know maybe just kind of like 89 00:06:46.880 --> 00:06:51.200 where my where my interest is at where my heart's at where my spirit's at you know like 90 00:06:51.200 --> 00:06:57.520 one day versus another not like oh i'm mr spiritual one day but i'm not spiritual the 91 00:06:57.520 --> 00:07:00.960 next day i'm talking about just like seasonally like if you're just going through like you know 92 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:07.280 um any feedback on that as far as like what you guys feel about that as far as 93 00:07:08.160 --> 00:07:13.600 where's you know where's your threshold or what's your threshold or like boundaries for that 94 00:07:16.960 --> 00:07:21.520 it's a good it's a good topic because you're going to you're inevitably going to at some point 95 00:07:22.640 --> 00:07:28.000 not even in the maybe not even the dating relationship but especially for sure in your 96 00:07:28.000 --> 00:07:33.760 marriage relationship where there's going to be things that will test the boundaries 97 00:07:33.760 --> 00:07:40.240 and we talked about that before what i feel like the the masculine responsibility is is the 98 00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:46.800 boundaries you know yeah i mean like i was i was having a conversation with my parents on saturday 99 00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:54.080 kind of not necessarily the exact same thing but like talking about movies yeah and how like you 100 00:07:54.080 --> 00:07:59.120 know my mom was kind of lamenting that like there's there's nothing good in the theaters anymore and 101 00:07:59.120 --> 00:08:05.360 it's like you know this movie are this movie are this movie are this movie are this one's pg but 102 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:11.600 it's about video games and i have no interest in seeing that and you know it was it was good because 103 00:08:11.600 --> 00:08:16.160 like i i had the opportunity and like what i said to her is like you know unfortunately the world's 104 00:08:16.160 --> 00:08:25.280 r-rated yeah right it it's it's a hard truth um and and not to necessarily say like suck it up and 105 00:08:25.280 --> 00:08:32.240 go see an r-rated movie but just having that understanding that you know that's part of the 106 00:08:32.240 --> 00:08:38.960 reason why movies are the way they are it's not the way things used to be um i was in film film 107 00:08:38.960 --> 00:08:46.720 class in a christian school christian university my first year in university and you know so we were 108 00:08:47.440 --> 00:08:51.680 doing films and we were studying film and the whole gamut and you know that was like one of 109 00:08:51.680 --> 00:08:56.480 the things that came up one day was just like you know cursing in a movie like if you're a christian 110 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:01.840 person are you going to put cursing in your movie or you know because you're christian we don't curse 111 00:09:01.840 --> 00:09:06.720 in my movies or whatever like that and it's just like the more important thing i guess in the 112 00:09:06.720 --> 00:09:13.040 discussion became more like what is appropriate for the story like if you're making a war film 113 00:09:13.840 --> 00:09:18.320 and you've chosen that this is going to be a christian film about war and i'm putting no 114 00:09:18.320 --> 00:09:24.800 cursing in it um i'm not saying you have to i'm just saying it's just it's just like what serves 115 00:09:24.800 --> 00:09:31.040 the story in the genre kind of kind of like what came out of that but it's not a hard fast rule 116 00:09:31.040 --> 00:09:36.320 either you know i mean again i think there's a threshold for that so um kind of interesting 117 00:09:36.320 --> 00:09:43.280 discussion on the creative anybody else have comments about content i think most importantly 118 00:09:43.280 --> 00:09:48.800 where where we could help ourselves is not necessarily to judge content in this discussion 119 00:09:48.800 --> 00:09:54.160 but as much as like where's the boundary where's the where's the where's the place where 120 00:09:54.800 --> 00:09:59.840 if we're on a date you know where's the cutoff point do you walk out of a movie 121 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:01.680 that you happen to go to a movie 122 00:10:01.680 --> 00:10:03.200 and you thought it was gonna be a pretty good movie. 123 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:05.400 You're on a date, you're on a first, second date 124 00:10:05.400 --> 00:10:06.420 and that kind of thing. 125 00:10:06.420 --> 00:10:08.940 And then the movie just gets like, 126 00:10:08.940 --> 00:10:10.960 like, man, this is just really just, 127 00:10:10.960 --> 00:10:11.800 I thought this movie, 128 00:10:11.800 --> 00:10:13.200 like if you've ever watched one of those movies, 129 00:10:13.200 --> 00:10:16.120 you're like, man, I'm waiting for this movie to get better. 130 00:10:16.120 --> 00:10:18.120 And not just like bad content. 131 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:20.080 I mean, just like, just better in general, 132 00:10:20.080 --> 00:10:22.880 like a better story, like a better, like something, 133 00:10:22.880 --> 00:10:26.180 like this is just not even that, you know? 134 00:10:26.180 --> 00:10:28.300 And I've watched movies where it's just like, 135 00:10:28.300 --> 00:10:30.220 is this movie gonna get any better, you know? 136 00:10:30.220 --> 00:10:33.820 And there's a few movies that I've actually walked out of. 137 00:10:33.820 --> 00:10:37.060 And I don't necessarily know it was the content, 138 00:10:37.060 --> 00:10:41.740 maybe it was, but it was just a waste of my time. 139 00:10:41.740 --> 00:10:43.240 But where's that line for you? 140 00:10:44.800 --> 00:10:47.180 Anybody have comment, feedback on that? 141 00:10:47.180 --> 00:10:48.020 I've got a comment. 142 00:10:48.020 --> 00:10:49.260 Oh, go ahead. 143 00:10:50.860 --> 00:10:51.980 Go ahead, brother. 144 00:10:51.980 --> 00:10:53.300 No, go for it, Daniel. 145 00:10:53.300 --> 00:10:55.160 I'll go, I'll go. 146 00:10:55.160 --> 00:10:56.000 Sure. 147 00:10:56.000 --> 00:11:00.520 I was gonna say, I think generally in my experience, 148 00:11:00.520 --> 00:11:02.280 I think men are a lot more comfortable 149 00:11:02.280 --> 00:11:04.240 with stuff like violence and swearing. 150 00:11:05.840 --> 00:11:08.040 And I think it's important for us 151 00:11:08.040 --> 00:11:10.720 to be a boundary protector. 152 00:11:10.720 --> 00:11:11.560 Yeah. 153 00:11:11.560 --> 00:11:14.000 And make sure that the woman that we're with 154 00:11:14.000 --> 00:11:16.880 feels safe and protected and comfortable. 155 00:11:16.880 --> 00:11:17.720 Yeah. 156 00:11:17.720 --> 00:11:19.320 And so I think, you know, 157 00:11:19.320 --> 00:11:21.880 like I might be comfortable with, 158 00:11:21.880 --> 00:11:25.000 like if I went and saw John Wick in the theater, 159 00:11:25.000 --> 00:11:27.400 they did a re-release and I had a date with me 160 00:11:27.400 --> 00:11:28.680 and she's just kind of cringing 161 00:11:28.680 --> 00:11:30.000 and I can read her body language 162 00:11:30.000 --> 00:11:32.680 and tell she's like getting more and more uncomfortable. 163 00:11:32.680 --> 00:11:34.080 Hey, hey, you know what? 164 00:11:34.080 --> 00:11:34.920 Let's get out of here. 165 00:11:34.920 --> 00:11:37.440 I can tell this isn't really hitting the spot. 166 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:41.000 And that's because like in a marriage relationship, 167 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:43.240 you wanna be able to show up as that protector 168 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:46.580 and that masculine figure for her so that she can feel safe. 169 00:11:47.580 --> 00:11:52.040 So I think that's probably in a dating context, 170 00:11:52.040 --> 00:11:53.240 I think that's where the boundary would be 171 00:11:53.240 --> 00:11:55.480 is you really need to be attentive to her 172 00:11:55.480 --> 00:11:58.640 and make sure that she feels safe. 173 00:11:58.640 --> 00:12:01.060 Thousand percent, love that. 174 00:12:03.320 --> 00:12:05.720 Yeah, I appreciate what Kenton put in the chat. 175 00:12:07.880 --> 00:12:11.600 I think I've tried so hard to create rules 176 00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:14.560 about all that stuff and they always fail. 177 00:12:14.560 --> 00:12:15.400 Yeah. 178 00:12:15.400 --> 00:12:17.840 And I think even, you know, 179 00:12:17.840 --> 00:12:19.560 first of all, there's how the different people 180 00:12:19.560 --> 00:12:22.240 have different thresholds as we've been sharing, 181 00:12:22.240 --> 00:12:25.760 but I've found there are times where sometimes it's okay 182 00:12:25.760 --> 00:12:29.600 and sometimes it's not for my kind of conscience 183 00:12:29.600 --> 00:12:31.920 and whether or not it's the most loving thing. 184 00:12:31.920 --> 00:12:34.780 And there are times when God invites me to like watch things 185 00:12:34.780 --> 00:12:36.160 or stuff like that, I believe, you know, 186 00:12:36.160 --> 00:12:38.240 that I'm surprised by, you know? 187 00:12:38.240 --> 00:12:43.240 So I think that like I tend to be more conservative. 188 00:12:44.880 --> 00:12:47.280 Like I went on a date like years and years ago 189 00:12:47.280 --> 00:12:49.560 and saw like bridesmaids with someone, she loved it. 190 00:12:49.560 --> 00:12:53.880 And I was like, whoa, this is a little too Judd Apatowee, 191 00:12:53.880 --> 00:12:57.660 you know, for me, but I think that, 192 00:12:58.760 --> 00:13:01.400 I mean, what's coming to my mind is that verse, 193 00:13:01.400 --> 00:13:03.960 you know, whatever isn't a faith is sin. 194 00:13:03.960 --> 00:13:08.440 And so I think like, I think it's futile 195 00:13:08.440 --> 00:13:10.200 to try to create rules about it. 196 00:13:10.200 --> 00:13:12.480 And I think our hearts, you know, 197 00:13:12.480 --> 00:13:15.640 as long as we're loving God and loving our date well, 198 00:13:15.640 --> 00:13:17.040 I would imagine we'll know. 199 00:13:18.040 --> 00:13:21.760 Yeah, it's, I guess the biggest thing is it's like, 200 00:13:21.760 --> 00:13:26.360 if you're, if it's you, then it's, 201 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:28.840 you're having to like, 202 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:32.840 you're responsible for your threshold, wherever that is. 203 00:13:32.840 --> 00:13:36.080 And we say it's different for everyone, 204 00:13:36.080 --> 00:13:39.680 but there are very specific things in scripture 205 00:13:39.680 --> 00:13:44.040 that talks about better ways. 206 00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:47.880 And I think Thomas, what you're coming up against 207 00:13:47.880 --> 00:13:51.560 is a lot of like the religion that you and I, 208 00:13:51.560 --> 00:13:55.200 and a lot of people have really like come up in 209 00:13:55.200 --> 00:13:59.280 that gives us those rules, you know, that rule scenario. 210 00:13:59.280 --> 00:14:03.160 And the gospel is not rules-based, 211 00:14:03.160 --> 00:14:08.160 but it definitely is a strong, better way, you know, 212 00:14:09.240 --> 00:14:13.200 and that better way can act as a threshold for you. 213 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:15.440 But when you're in relationship, 214 00:14:16.480 --> 00:14:20.120 and especially in a sensitive season 215 00:14:20.120 --> 00:14:22.120 where you're dating somebody, 216 00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:27.120 there's a lot of ground, I was going to say rules, 217 00:14:27.200 --> 00:14:29.840 but there's a lot of like foundation. 218 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:31.800 There's a lot of establishment. 219 00:14:31.800 --> 00:14:34.640 If it's going to become a marriage relationship 220 00:14:34.640 --> 00:14:36.800 or marriage-minded relationship, even, 221 00:14:36.800 --> 00:14:40.000 there's a lot of establishment of like what we do, 222 00:14:40.000 --> 00:14:42.480 what we don't do, what's best, what's, you know, like, 223 00:14:42.520 --> 00:14:45.480 and that's where I feel like Daniel's coming from 224 00:14:45.480 --> 00:14:48.280 was just like, just being very aware that like, 225 00:14:48.280 --> 00:14:52.000 you know what, I don't want to start off 226 00:14:52.000 --> 00:14:55.240 on a first or second date with a woman 227 00:14:55.240 --> 00:15:00.000 in a situation where the situation is really hampering. 228 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:02.000 Really offensive really 229 00:15:04.200 --> 00:15:09.680 Making her feel uncomfortable unsafe, whatever it is, and that's definitely wise 230 00:15:11.040 --> 00:15:14.940 Yeah, it's hard to catch up. I was just gonna say it's hard to catch up from a deficit 231 00:15:14.940 --> 00:15:21.800 And I yeah, my my personal opinion is if you make a woman feel unsafe, you're out especially early on 232 00:15:22.200 --> 00:15:27.780 You know late later on you might you might accidentally do something to make her feel a little unsafe meal be able to recover 233 00:15:28.260 --> 00:15:30.180 but 234 00:15:30.180 --> 00:15:35.500 Yeah, but I mean if you're like right out of the gate making her feel unsafe like I would tell my daughter 235 00:15:35.500 --> 00:15:36.820 I would tell my daughter like yeah 236 00:15:36.820 --> 00:15:42.900 If he if he feels unsafe from the beginning you need to listen to that and cut cut him out like he's gone 237 00:15:42.900 --> 00:15:46.940 So yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's that's really good advice right there, too 238 00:15:47.620 --> 00:15:49.180 like 239 00:15:49.180 --> 00:15:55.820 So if you have children and you know what you would tell like damn you do you like what would you tell your daughter? 240 00:15:56.340 --> 00:15:59.740 You know if your daughter was your date, you know 241 00:16:00.300 --> 00:16:03.660 type of thing like that's a good rule of thumb to 242 00:16:05.300 --> 00:16:11.700 Address that like be the man that you would want your daughter to go on a date with type thing 243 00:16:11.700 --> 00:16:18.420 You know what? Um, what would make a woman feel unsafe if it's something that you're not deliberately doing 244 00:16:18.420 --> 00:16:22.300 It's something you accidentally do and it would make her feel unsafe. What are some examples? 245 00:16:22.300 --> 00:16:26.780 I mean a good example like Daniel gave was like a violent movie 246 00:16:27.300 --> 00:16:31.140 like violence portrayed in a movie like it's one thing to like 247 00:16:31.740 --> 00:16:37.660 show maybe like depiction of like a true situation that happened to be violent and 248 00:16:38.300 --> 00:16:44.740 Then there's also like how much you show. I mean, you know, we all know Alfred Hitchcock was 249 00:16:45.460 --> 00:16:47.460 famous for showing 250 00:16:48.020 --> 00:16:55.340 Nothing but making it very scary and so I mean obviously there's the there's the art form in that and you know 251 00:16:55.340 --> 00:16:58.900 Where's the where's the line all that kind of stuff that we can talk forever about that? 252 00:16:59.100 --> 00:17:05.119 but like if you're going to on a date the date isn't to try to like 253 00:17:05.460 --> 00:17:07.460 The date has tried to make a connection 254 00:17:07.700 --> 00:17:14.220 That's why I actually movie dates as far as like a first date probably not the best plan first of all first and foremost 255 00:17:14.819 --> 00:17:20.460 But yeah anything that can can just make a woman feel 256 00:17:22.220 --> 00:17:24.220 Uneasy 257 00:17:24.380 --> 00:17:31.460 Violence is is a is a perfect example of that. It's not something that we that we want to 258 00:17:32.340 --> 00:17:37.300 We want to entertain on a on a first second third date trying to get to know somebody 259 00:17:38.940 --> 00:17:43.660 We like to make exciting we want to make it entertaining connecting that kind of stuff 260 00:17:45.220 --> 00:17:47.220 All right, David 261 00:17:47.380 --> 00:17:52.460 Personal opinion for myself and I've been around long enough to realize that when we walk into a movie house 262 00:17:52.460 --> 00:17:54.620 You do not know what you're walking into. I 263 00:17:55.220 --> 00:18:00.700 Mean, there's nowadays there's homosexual. They have people that kissing guys kissing girls kissing 264 00:18:01.100 --> 00:18:07.140 We're just seeing so much out there right now that it's it's a dangerous place actually for a date if you want 265 00:18:07.500 --> 00:18:11.380 I'm out of God if you want to show her the the high bars 266 00:18:11.380 --> 00:18:18.660 I just put on my notes. The high bar is always taking it. It's about this David was saying the relationship is more important to them 267 00:18:19.500 --> 00:18:21.500 than a movie and 268 00:18:21.660 --> 00:18:25.420 a safe place could be the place where you guess they can say well 269 00:18:25.420 --> 00:18:28.300 I love this movie and you know for sure that it's not a great one 270 00:18:28.300 --> 00:18:34.500 It just simply sending us as I'd like to take you sometime, but not to something Latin. Here's the reason why that that up 271 00:18:35.500 --> 00:18:41.020 If any woman that is I've dated some women that wanted to go see certain movie 272 00:18:41.020 --> 00:18:43.960 I says there's a reason why I'm not gonna see it and there were believers 273 00:18:44.060 --> 00:18:48.340 And I laid out why the reasons why for and they had a total high respect for me 274 00:18:48.780 --> 00:18:52.340 Because they realized that I was looking out for their best interest 275 00:18:52.340 --> 00:18:56.720 I was looking out for not just for this earth, but for eternity as well, too 276 00:18:57.300 --> 00:19:00.480 Once are they recognize that I'm looking out for their eternity 277 00:19:01.000 --> 00:19:04.480 In other words preparing them or helping them prepare for eternity 278 00:19:04.520 --> 00:19:09.000 They they have a gain a high respect for you because then they're saying okay 279 00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:14.760 Well, what can we do and that's where you know, I like that relationship where we're facing each other 280 00:19:14.760 --> 00:19:21.760 We're not facing we're not together looking at one screen or whatever. I stay away from anything that for in dating wise until 281 00:19:22.640 --> 00:19:25.200 Usually I don't even take take him to the movies at all 282 00:19:25.520 --> 00:19:28.280 As I said, it's it's a place that you never know 283 00:19:29.360 --> 00:19:31.360 It can be a real snake pit 284 00:19:32.360 --> 00:19:36.000 Sometimes and it's the subliminal things that are there as well, too 285 00:19:36.000 --> 00:19:41.440 Because we're in a spiritual warfare right here gentlemen, and if we're not praying for the women we're dating 286 00:19:41.440 --> 00:19:44.240 I mean literally praying and asking the Holy Spirit to lead us in 287 00:19:44.920 --> 00:19:49.360 Conversations how we speak where we go what we do. I had one lady that actually 288 00:19:50.120 --> 00:19:51.640 in 289 00:19:51.960 --> 00:19:57.660 In one place who just wanted to take me down right where where we were and I says not stop right there 290 00:19:57.920 --> 00:19:59.920 She's a believer, but she 291 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:02.920 came from a background of being abused and used, 292 00:20:02.920 --> 00:20:06.560 and she thought that was the best way to treat a date. 293 00:20:06.560 --> 00:20:10.760 And so I just laid down my moral and ethical beliefs 294 00:20:10.760 --> 00:20:15.120 and how I was to be as the man that was to lead her. 295 00:20:15.120 --> 00:20:17.640 And some months later, she came back and she said, 296 00:20:17.640 --> 00:20:20.920 I totally respected you from that day forward 297 00:20:20.920 --> 00:20:23.320 because you were not like any man that I ever met before. 298 00:20:23.320 --> 00:20:25.040 You weren't looking just at my body, 299 00:20:25.040 --> 00:20:27.720 but you were interested in what I had to say. 300 00:20:27.720 --> 00:20:29.640 You were looking at me. 301 00:20:29.640 --> 00:20:33.240 And that's the point is that they want you to see them 302 00:20:33.240 --> 00:20:35.400 for who they are, or as Christ would say, 303 00:20:35.400 --> 00:20:37.360 not who they are now, but who are the, 304 00:20:37.360 --> 00:20:39.640 can you see what they might be down the road 305 00:20:39.640 --> 00:20:41.480 and treat them accordingly? 306 00:20:41.480 --> 00:20:42.960 Yeah. 307 00:20:42.960 --> 00:20:44.200 Yeah, no, it's super powerful. 308 00:20:44.200 --> 00:20:46.080 Thank you for sharing that, Kenton. 309 00:20:47.440 --> 00:20:52.040 I mean, you don't have to be super dogmatic 310 00:20:52.040 --> 00:20:53.840 and say, this is what we're doing, 311 00:20:53.840 --> 00:20:55.560 my way or highway type of thing. 312 00:20:55.560 --> 00:20:57.760 But at the same time, if you can invite them to say, 313 00:20:57.760 --> 00:20:58.760 you know, let's not. 314 00:20:59.800 --> 00:21:01.640 I mean, it could be just as simple as, 315 00:21:03.640 --> 00:21:05.080 hey, I wanna go see this movie. 316 00:21:05.080 --> 00:21:06.480 And you're in the back of my mind, 317 00:21:06.480 --> 00:21:09.280 like thinking along the lines of what Kenton's saying. 318 00:21:09.280 --> 00:21:11.680 It's like, you know, it's probably not gonna be 319 00:21:11.680 --> 00:21:14.240 the greatest representation of whatever. 320 00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:16.400 And then instead of, you know, 321 00:21:16.400 --> 00:21:18.680 laying down any kind of rule or law, 322 00:21:18.680 --> 00:21:22.360 you could just say, you know, let's not do that. 323 00:21:22.360 --> 00:21:24.320 I wasn't, I was thinking about something else. 324 00:21:24.320 --> 00:21:26.280 Of course, then at that point, 325 00:21:26.280 --> 00:21:29.080 you'd have to have something in your back pocket. 326 00:21:29.400 --> 00:21:30.720 So you'd have to make up your mind. 327 00:21:30.720 --> 00:21:35.720 So this is why making up your mind before the date goes, 328 00:21:37.600 --> 00:21:40.280 has a possibility of even going sour, 329 00:21:40.280 --> 00:21:43.600 that you have a backup, you have ideas, 330 00:21:43.600 --> 00:21:45.720 you have plans for what you can do 331 00:21:45.720 --> 00:21:48.320 that would be what engaging, relational, 332 00:21:48.320 --> 00:21:50.120 that kind of thing. 333 00:21:50.120 --> 00:21:53.480 Anybody else have comments along these lines? 334 00:21:53.480 --> 00:21:54.320 Anybody? 335 00:21:54.520 --> 00:21:56.920 David, you said, it sounds like that 336 00:21:58.320 --> 00:22:00.280 as much as you appreciate 337 00:22:00.280 --> 00:22:02.360 that there may not generally be hard and fast rules, 338 00:22:02.360 --> 00:22:04.240 that you feel like there are rules, 339 00:22:05.520 --> 00:22:07.240 or there are things, 340 00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:08.600 I understand there might be principles, 341 00:22:08.600 --> 00:22:10.000 but you talked about things in the Bible. 342 00:22:10.000 --> 00:22:12.200 Are you referring to more than flippy and spory 343 00:22:12.200 --> 00:22:15.400 and I will put no unclean thing before my eyes 344 00:22:15.400 --> 00:22:16.240 and that kind of stuff, 345 00:22:16.240 --> 00:22:17.080 or is that kind of along the lines 346 00:22:17.080 --> 00:22:17.920 of what you were referring to? 347 00:22:17.920 --> 00:22:20.920 Yeah, I mean, again, I don't know. 348 00:22:20.920 --> 00:22:21.760 I don't know. 349 00:22:21.920 --> 00:22:25.880 Yeah, I mean, again, I don't look at scripture 350 00:22:25.880 --> 00:22:30.400 and anything in scripture aside from the 10 commandments 351 00:22:31.360 --> 00:22:34.200 as things that are rules. 352 00:22:34.200 --> 00:22:38.320 I really believe that the heart and nature of God, 353 00:22:38.320 --> 00:22:40.920 first and foremost, the most important thing 354 00:22:40.920 --> 00:22:42.560 that any one person can do, 355 00:22:42.560 --> 00:22:47.360 the only is work towards the reconciliation 356 00:22:47.360 --> 00:22:48.960 of relationship with the father. 357 00:22:48.960 --> 00:22:50.480 That's the whole point of this. 358 00:22:50.480 --> 00:22:55.480 Anything else is just missing the point. 359 00:22:56.560 --> 00:23:00.200 And I think the heart of the father is to continually, 360 00:23:00.200 --> 00:23:03.240 and especially the way Holy Spirit works 361 00:23:03.240 --> 00:23:08.240 is to continually convince you of who you are in Christ, 362 00:23:09.240 --> 00:23:11.560 because what Jesus did 363 00:23:11.560 --> 00:23:16.520 and because how Jesus modeled what he saw the father do, 364 00:23:16.520 --> 00:23:18.080 that was his motivation. 365 00:23:18.960 --> 00:23:22.360 And so when you talk of when scripture comes in heavy 366 00:23:22.360 --> 00:23:25.200 that says, do this and don't do that, 367 00:23:26.400 --> 00:23:29.080 there are specific things I believe scripturally 368 00:23:29.080 --> 00:23:34.080 that God said, hey, don't do this, do this, don't do this. 369 00:23:35.840 --> 00:23:38.520 Very specifically 10 commandments, very obvious. 370 00:23:38.520 --> 00:23:41.280 Those are rules. 371 00:23:41.280 --> 00:23:42.800 Well, even with that, 372 00:23:42.800 --> 00:23:46.880 I think that there's constant invitation. 373 00:23:46.880 --> 00:23:51.880 Like there's reason why behind any kind of 374 00:23:54.640 --> 00:23:57.680 really, really, really good advice. 375 00:23:57.680 --> 00:24:02.680 Like the reason we don't commit murder, 376 00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:10.680 you realize you can commit murder in several different ways. 377 00:24:10.680 --> 00:24:15.480 Matter of fact, Jesus kind of really ups the ante 378 00:24:15.560 --> 00:24:18.840 in a lot of these commands, if you will. 379 00:24:20.040 --> 00:24:23.120 Somebody is like, look, I didn't actually kill the guy, 380 00:24:23.120 --> 00:24:24.600 so I didn't commit murder. 381 00:24:24.600 --> 00:24:28.760 Yeah, but the spirit of violence in the words that you use 382 00:24:28.760 --> 00:24:30.200 to tear down this individual 383 00:24:30.200 --> 00:24:33.920 literally was the spirit of murder behind the situation. 384 00:24:36.320 --> 00:24:41.320 And it's not the heart of the father. 385 00:24:43.480 --> 00:24:44.320 Is it a rule? 386 00:24:44.320 --> 00:24:45.160 Did you break a rule? 387 00:24:45.840 --> 00:24:46.880 I mean, God's the only judge. 388 00:24:46.880 --> 00:24:48.200 I'm not the judge. 389 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:50.520 That's why I can't publish a list of rules. 390 00:24:50.520 --> 00:24:52.560 That's why you shouldn't publish a list of rules 391 00:24:52.560 --> 00:24:55.360 for yourself, because you are not the judge. 392 00:24:56.680 --> 00:24:59.360 You do not know where the line is. 393 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:05.000 that's being crossed, except when you're in a relationship 394 00:25:06.120 --> 00:25:07.420 with the father. 395 00:25:07.420 --> 00:25:10.120 And because I felt like I have walked with the father 396 00:25:10.120 --> 00:25:14.060 for many, many years, I feel like I know 397 00:25:14.060 --> 00:25:15.280 where my boundaries are. 398 00:25:15.280 --> 00:25:17.140 I know where my guidelines are. 399 00:25:17.140 --> 00:25:22.140 I know what I can and can't do for me. 400 00:25:22.480 --> 00:25:24.920 And then I also then know what I can and can't do 401 00:25:24.920 --> 00:25:26.760 for my family. 402 00:25:26.760 --> 00:25:30.400 Like, there are times when I know my wife, 403 00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:34.480 I know her so well that like, we'll sit down to, 404 00:25:34.480 --> 00:25:36.720 again, I hate this to be the contest, 405 00:25:36.720 --> 00:25:38.120 like sitting down to watch something, 406 00:25:38.120 --> 00:25:40.700 but I'm trying to think of a better example. 407 00:25:40.700 --> 00:25:42.560 But I just, maybe there's an activity 408 00:25:42.560 --> 00:25:44.440 and we're like, you know what? 409 00:25:44.440 --> 00:25:46.080 We've been down this road before. 410 00:25:47.040 --> 00:25:50.200 And we're just trying to, you know, let off steam, 411 00:25:50.200 --> 00:25:51.640 whatever like that. 412 00:25:51.640 --> 00:25:53.160 And it's no big deal. 413 00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:59.160 And then something will precipitate out of that. 414 00:26:01.000 --> 00:26:05.200 And I'll notice, I'm like, hmm, 415 00:26:05.200 --> 00:26:09.160 I think that was a moment where I could have been better 416 00:26:09.160 --> 00:26:10.440 at closing the gate. 417 00:26:10.440 --> 00:26:15.440 I could have been better at drawing a standard 418 00:26:16.240 --> 00:26:19.720 or lifting up a standard, you know? 419 00:26:19.720 --> 00:26:24.280 And to where my wife is then being affected. 420 00:26:25.200 --> 00:26:28.400 And I know this through relationships. 421 00:26:28.400 --> 00:26:30.000 So there are some things that we're just like, 422 00:26:30.000 --> 00:26:30.840 you know what? 423 00:26:30.840 --> 00:26:32.820 That's not in our best interest. 424 00:26:33.680 --> 00:26:37.200 That's not in our, let's not watch that show anymore. 425 00:26:37.200 --> 00:26:38.080 You know? 426 00:26:38.080 --> 00:26:41.660 Let's not go to that place anymore. 427 00:26:43.560 --> 00:26:45.880 I just don't think that's, you know, 428 00:26:45.880 --> 00:26:49.160 I don't think that's going to benefit us 429 00:26:49.160 --> 00:26:53.880 in a heavenly way, in a kingdom way, you know? 430 00:26:53.880 --> 00:26:58.120 And as we have become leaders of a movement, 431 00:26:58.120 --> 00:27:02.440 as we become more in line with what I really feel like 432 00:27:02.440 --> 00:27:05.200 our higher kingdom purpose is, 433 00:27:05.200 --> 00:27:09.400 we also are stepping up into that, you know? 434 00:27:09.400 --> 00:27:11.120 We feel like, oh, you know what? 435 00:27:12.840 --> 00:27:15.680 There are just things and conversations 436 00:27:16.520 --> 00:27:18.080 that we just, we're not, you know, 437 00:27:18.080 --> 00:27:19.720 we can't have anymore because we're trying 438 00:27:19.720 --> 00:27:20.880 to go to another level. 439 00:27:21.800 --> 00:27:24.160 You know, if nothing else, it's almost, you know, 440 00:27:24.160 --> 00:27:26.280 you can relate it to even like, 441 00:27:26.280 --> 00:27:28.520 success principles are the same way. 442 00:27:28.520 --> 00:27:30.000 Like I'm going to change my thinking, 443 00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:32.800 so therefore I'm not going to say the things 444 00:27:32.800 --> 00:27:33.640 that I used to say. 445 00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:35.920 I'm not going to respond the way I used to respond. 446 00:27:35.920 --> 00:27:40.920 I have to, I have to change my attitude 447 00:27:41.800 --> 00:27:44.720 towards people in a situation sooner 448 00:27:44.720 --> 00:27:47.240 than just flying off the handle, 449 00:27:47.240 --> 00:27:50.600 because now I don't want that to be the, 450 00:27:50.600 --> 00:27:52.480 I don't want that to be the, 451 00:27:52.480 --> 00:27:54.320 not only the leadership representation 452 00:27:54.320 --> 00:27:55.720 that I'm trying to put forth, 453 00:27:55.720 --> 00:28:00.240 also, I don't want my spirit to be unsettled 454 00:28:00.240 --> 00:28:05.240 to where it makes me a person that is not who I say I am. 455 00:28:07.600 --> 00:28:08.440 Right? 456 00:28:08.480 --> 00:28:11.040 I don't want to be a Christian leader 457 00:28:11.040 --> 00:28:15.280 and then have a life that if you see me 458 00:28:15.280 --> 00:28:19.280 and know me privately, isn't consistent 459 00:28:19.280 --> 00:28:21.960 with that leadership, right? 460 00:28:24.960 --> 00:28:26.800 I don't know if I make any sense, but. 461 00:28:28.520 --> 00:28:29.840 Yeah, I mean, it sounds like you're talking 462 00:28:29.840 --> 00:28:34.840 about principles and things that you also discern 463 00:28:35.040 --> 00:28:37.120 through your spiritual sense of, 464 00:28:37.120 --> 00:28:40.560 was healthy and would create good boundaries 465 00:28:40.560 --> 00:28:42.760 for you and the people you love. 466 00:28:42.760 --> 00:28:43.600 And not be. 467 00:28:43.600 --> 00:28:45.280 Yeah, I don't follow rules, 468 00:28:45.280 --> 00:28:47.400 and I don't put on rules on people. 469 00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:54.200 Now, a child, and this is the example I use all the time. 470 00:28:54.200 --> 00:28:57.160 I mean, are you going to give your five-year-old child 471 00:28:57.160 --> 00:28:58.320 the keys to the car? 472 00:28:59.840 --> 00:29:00.680 No. 473 00:29:00.680 --> 00:29:01.960 Maybe just the keys. 474 00:29:01.960 --> 00:29:02.800 Just the keys. 475 00:29:02.800 --> 00:29:04.880 No, but not let them go into the garage. 476 00:29:04.880 --> 00:29:06.200 Not let them go into the garage. 477 00:29:06.520 --> 00:29:09.240 Not let them go in the garage and drive the car. 478 00:29:09.240 --> 00:29:10.520 Because, why? 479 00:29:10.520 --> 00:29:13.040 Because, I mean, even a 12-year-old child, 480 00:29:13.040 --> 00:29:14.600 not going to do that, you know? 481 00:29:14.600 --> 00:29:18.560 Because they're not responsible enough to use it, 482 00:29:18.560 --> 00:29:21.800 to know what to do, to follow the rules of the road, 483 00:29:21.800 --> 00:29:22.640 so to speak. 484 00:29:22.640 --> 00:29:24.680 So the rule is, you can't drive. 485 00:29:24.680 --> 00:29:26.960 That's a rule, you know? 486 00:29:26.960 --> 00:29:29.880 Doesn't matter whether the 12-year-old likes it or not. 487 00:29:29.880 --> 00:29:31.440 It's a rule. 488 00:29:31.440 --> 00:29:34.320 And it is also backed up by the law 489 00:29:34.360 --> 00:29:36.680 that we live in this country we live in. 490 00:29:36.680 --> 00:29:39.320 So it's like, that's rules. 491 00:29:39.320 --> 00:29:42.000 But to try to manage your spiritual life 492 00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:45.920 and your relationship with God by a bunch of rules, 493 00:29:45.920 --> 00:29:47.000 it'll never work. 494 00:29:47.000 --> 00:29:48.440 This is actually why Jesus came, 495 00:29:48.440 --> 00:29:51.320 because he said, the law leads to death. 496 00:29:52.360 --> 00:29:55.040 The rules lead to death. 497 00:29:55.040 --> 00:29:58.120 You will never be able to follow the rules. 498 00:29:58.120 --> 00:29:59.760 As a matter of fact, in scripture, it says, 499 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.900 try to follow one rule, you have to follow all the rules. 500 00:30:04.100 --> 00:30:05.540 And nobody can do that. 501 00:30:05.540 --> 00:30:10.540 And so this is why Jesus doing what he did was so profound 502 00:30:10.780 --> 00:30:14.740 because it released us from the law of sin and death 503 00:30:14.740 --> 00:30:19.260 and it freed us into relationship, access, 504 00:30:19.260 --> 00:30:21.860 like knowing God, knowing him personally, 505 00:30:21.860 --> 00:30:24.380 not just knowing him through somebody else 506 00:30:24.380 --> 00:30:26.880 that tells you a list of rules to do and don't do. 507 00:30:27.180 --> 00:30:28.020 Simple gospel. 508 00:30:32.380 --> 00:30:33.420 Who has reactions to this? 509 00:30:33.420 --> 00:30:35.180 Anybody, questions, comments? 510 00:30:40.380 --> 00:30:41.220 What do you think? 511 00:30:41.220 --> 00:30:43.980 My comment here, David, the idea that we'll always be 512 00:30:43.980 --> 00:30:46.860 swimming against the world upstream 513 00:30:48.060 --> 00:30:51.820 because as you said it earlier, when Christ came and says, 514 00:30:51.820 --> 00:30:55.020 you know, this is what you say, but this is what I say. 515 00:30:55.960 --> 00:30:58.800 He always takes us to a higher standard, 516 00:30:58.800 --> 00:31:01.320 a higher place in relationship, 517 00:31:01.320 --> 00:31:05.080 a place in which he wants to abide and wants to give us 518 00:31:05.080 --> 00:31:07.480 the fullness because you can remember that when he takes us 519 00:31:07.480 --> 00:31:12.480 to higher relations or higher ways or higher thoughts, 520 00:31:12.920 --> 00:31:14.520 they're all for a benefit for us. 521 00:31:14.520 --> 00:31:17.360 They're not for a negative thing, not to put us down, 522 00:31:17.360 --> 00:31:20.940 but to lift us up, to build us up, to empower us. 523 00:31:20.940 --> 00:31:24.000 And as men, we do have a big, big responsibility 524 00:31:24.020 --> 00:31:25.740 because that's why he says, you know, there's God, 525 00:31:25.740 --> 00:31:28.420 there's man and there's a woman and their children, 526 00:31:28.420 --> 00:31:31.380 there's levels in which he's placed us in 527 00:31:31.380 --> 00:31:33.420 to be responsible for. 528 00:31:33.420 --> 00:31:35.700 And I think we just need to remember that 529 00:31:35.700 --> 00:31:39.300 when it comes down to it, it's about, 530 00:31:39.300 --> 00:31:40.540 David, you've been saying this all night, 531 00:31:40.540 --> 00:31:43.140 it's about the relationship we have with God 532 00:31:43.140 --> 00:31:46.460 and how he leads us to be able to lead others. 533 00:31:46.460 --> 00:31:47.820 And I think that's a big part of it. 534 00:31:47.820 --> 00:31:50.100 When you're growing, she's growing, 535 00:31:50.100 --> 00:31:52.660 the children are growing, and it goes from there. 536 00:31:53.520 --> 00:31:54.360 Yeah. 537 00:31:54.360 --> 00:31:56.400 And I think one of the things that happens, Kenton, too, 538 00:31:56.400 --> 00:32:01.400 is that, well, this could be a huge conversation. 539 00:32:01.920 --> 00:32:06.840 I'm trying to direct this comment very specifically. 540 00:32:06.840 --> 00:32:10.600 I think one of the things that happens with men 541 00:32:10.600 --> 00:32:15.040 and with this generation, 542 00:32:15.040 --> 00:32:16.120 and when I say generation, 543 00:32:16.120 --> 00:32:18.040 I just mean everybody who's alive today. 544 00:32:18.040 --> 00:32:21.520 I don't mean the young people or whatever. 545 00:32:21.820 --> 00:32:23.260 I don't mean a certain generation. 546 00:32:23.260 --> 00:32:24.860 I just mean everybody who's alive, 547 00:32:24.860 --> 00:32:29.500 everybody who's trying to do their best. 548 00:32:29.500 --> 00:32:31.740 I think it's become more and more, 549 00:32:31.740 --> 00:32:34.020 and somebody responded to this, 550 00:32:34.020 --> 00:32:36.940 I think it becomes more and more difficult 551 00:32:36.940 --> 00:32:40.820 to try to ascend to a height. 552 00:32:40.820 --> 00:32:42.820 Like when we say things like standards 553 00:32:42.820 --> 00:32:44.820 or we say things like rules 554 00:32:44.820 --> 00:32:47.660 or we say things like ought to be 555 00:32:47.680 --> 00:32:52.680 or say things like men called up higher, 556 00:32:53.200 --> 00:32:54.680 that's really challenging. 557 00:32:56.080 --> 00:32:57.560 I mean, it's challenging on its face 558 00:32:57.560 --> 00:32:59.400 because it's just the human nature 559 00:32:59.400 --> 00:33:01.640 of rising to your best self. 560 00:33:01.640 --> 00:33:03.080 That's one thing. 561 00:33:03.080 --> 00:33:06.120 But then you have the overlay of our culture 562 00:33:06.120 --> 00:33:09.000 and the strategy of the enemy that's against you 563 00:33:09.000 --> 00:33:12.320 that's trying to always make you feel 564 00:33:12.320 --> 00:33:15.160 like you're just less than, always. 565 00:33:16.160 --> 00:33:18.060 You know what I mean when I say that? 566 00:33:19.820 --> 00:33:22.780 And so somebody in your face telling you 567 00:33:22.780 --> 00:33:24.500 just be better, be tougher, 568 00:33:24.500 --> 00:33:26.820 like that inspires some guys, 569 00:33:26.820 --> 00:33:29.980 but other guys, it doesn't inspire them at all. 570 00:33:29.980 --> 00:33:34.380 And so that's why we got guys 571 00:33:35.580 --> 00:33:40.580 who operate in high strength and low love, 572 00:33:41.420 --> 00:33:42.980 and then you have guys that operate 573 00:33:43.000 --> 00:33:45.560 in high love and low strength. 574 00:33:47.120 --> 00:33:49.160 We wanna be the guys that operate 575 00:33:49.160 --> 00:33:51.120 in high strength and high love. 576 00:33:53.560 --> 00:33:54.520 That make sense? 577 00:33:56.240 --> 00:33:58.520 High strength and high love. 578 00:33:58.520 --> 00:34:03.520 So sometimes those things kind of like go at each other. 579 00:34:05.800 --> 00:34:08.000 Like when you solve a problem, 580 00:34:08.000 --> 00:34:10.760 do you solve all problems with a hammer? 581 00:34:11.060 --> 00:34:12.820 You're high strength, low love. 582 00:34:14.300 --> 00:34:15.860 When you solve all of your problems 583 00:34:15.860 --> 00:34:19.420 with a soft conversation, high love, low strength. 584 00:34:20.340 --> 00:34:21.560 Sometimes you need a hammer 585 00:34:21.560 --> 00:34:24.239 and sometimes you need a soft conversation. 586 00:34:24.239 --> 00:34:25.159 That make sense? 587 00:34:26.260 --> 00:34:30.440 And so having that balance, that's work. 588 00:34:32.260 --> 00:34:35.300 But that's where divine masculinity comes in 589 00:34:36.139 --> 00:34:37.980 to where like Jesus, 590 00:34:37.980 --> 00:34:40.179 like I just saw the episode the other night 591 00:34:40.520 --> 00:34:44.639 of the Chosen when they're depicting Jesus' rampage, 592 00:34:44.639 --> 00:34:48.679 basically through the temple, overturning the temples. 593 00:34:48.679 --> 00:34:50.719 And you can read the scripture over and over again. 594 00:34:50.719 --> 00:34:52.000 The scripture is very clear. 595 00:34:52.000 --> 00:34:55.199 If we are to believe what the scripture actually says, 596 00:34:55.199 --> 00:34:58.120 actually happened, I mean, whip, 597 00:34:58.120 --> 00:34:59.720 I mean like turning over things. 598 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.920 Anger like certainly we all was wise Jesus, you know, he must have had a reason, you know 599 00:35:05.920 --> 00:35:11.800 But you're not thinking of the humanity of this person that is supposed to be the Son of God reacting this way 600 00:35:11.800 --> 00:35:13.840 You're like man. This is kind of startling 601 00:35:14.720 --> 00:35:18.760 you know even in the violent world we live in to see that depiction of 602 00:35:19.200 --> 00:35:23.640 Jesus who's supposed to be this person of love and soft-spoken and healing everybody and 603 00:35:23.880 --> 00:35:29.000 Whom by ah and all that kind of stuff we fail to realize that Jesus is actually a very violent 604 00:35:29.920 --> 00:35:31.920 person 605 00:35:32.520 --> 00:35:34.520 Violent in the right way 606 00:35:35.600 --> 00:35:39.360 He literally said I did not come to bring peace I came to bring a sword 607 00:35:41.720 --> 00:35:43.720 Like I'm not trying to like 608 00:35:44.920 --> 00:35:47.320 Physically kill anybody but I'm trying to bring a sword 609 00:35:49.040 --> 00:35:54.600 That is even more powerful than actual warfare because I'm trying to divide between 610 00:35:54.600 --> 00:35:59.400 What's what's right and what's wrong? What's spirit? What's flesh? 611 00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:03.800 What's kingdom? What's not kingdom? What's light? What's darkness? 612 00:36:05.720 --> 00:36:11.120 What's what is going on like in you called the religious people a brood of vipers I 613 00:36:12.200 --> 00:36:19.280 Mean so you can see like the paradigm that's being shifted here constantly in this strength and love 614 00:36:20.160 --> 00:36:22.160 situation 615 00:36:22.200 --> 00:36:24.200 and 616 00:36:24.440 --> 00:36:26.520 The reason I bring that up is because I 617 00:36:27.040 --> 00:36:30.560 Think there's a lot of people like I think a lot of men feel like 618 00:36:30.960 --> 00:36:34.320 They can either be one or the other they can be type a or type B 619 00:36:34.800 --> 00:36:40.280 and so they've kind of like fallen in this category like why I'm not this like type a like 620 00:36:40.280 --> 00:36:44.800 you know, like dude that like overcomes and tells everybody what to do and lead and 621 00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:50.000 Strength and like the man's man and all that kind of whatever that you think that ideal is 622 00:36:50.640 --> 00:36:53.400 I'm more like this. So I guess I guess I'm this 623 00:36:54.600 --> 00:37:01.440 and then you got a lot of guys who are like are that type a strong like strength do like like overcoming leading like 624 00:37:01.880 --> 00:37:04.760 Getting his way most of times by sheer force 625 00:37:05.800 --> 00:37:11.520 who just has a struggle with trying to be soft and relational and in love and all that and 626 00:37:12.200 --> 00:37:14.960 of course the Christian version of of 627 00:37:15.480 --> 00:37:20.280 That has a tendency to fall in that sort of like love nice guy category 628 00:37:21.000 --> 00:37:25.280 And I think a lot of guys are feeling like I've got to be one or the other I can't be both and 629 00:37:25.880 --> 00:37:27.880 That's just not true 630 00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:30.680 So there's an invitation for men 631 00:37:31.440 --> 00:37:34.280 To be high strength high love 632 00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:41.120 This is the definition of what I was talking about. A lot of times is like meekness is not weakness. It's power and a control 633 00:37:41.680 --> 00:37:44.080 Every man needs to realize they have power 634 00:37:45.160 --> 00:37:47.720 They literally have the strength 635 00:37:47.960 --> 00:37:49.960 To 636 00:37:50.000 --> 00:37:57.760 Forcefully beat out get out make their point do make people do what they want to do 637 00:38:00.920 --> 00:38:04.120 But the question is is how we're going to use your power 638 00:38:05.520 --> 00:38:10.600 You could be on a date in a movie and you'd be like this movie's wrong. Duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh 639 00:38:10.600 --> 00:38:13.160 We're not gonna do this and you storm out of the movie 640 00:38:13.160 --> 00:38:17.960 Because you're a man's man, you know his strength, but is that going to win her heart? 641 00:38:19.720 --> 00:38:24.280 Is that going to like show her like and this is a nice guy really really gets no 642 00:38:26.280 --> 00:38:31.160 You know like he's he said what he said and then he didn't even smile, you know 643 00:38:32.360 --> 00:38:33.720 so 644 00:38:33.720 --> 00:38:35.480 There's that balance 645 00:38:35.480 --> 00:38:37.480 There's that both 646 00:38:37.960 --> 00:38:39.400 we as 647 00:38:39.400 --> 00:38:43.560 Men who are connected to Christ 648 00:38:45.080 --> 00:38:47.800 We are in being invited constantly to 649 00:38:48.920 --> 00:38:51.480 Walk in high strength walk in high love 650 00:38:54.360 --> 00:38:56.360 I hope you're getting something out of this 651 00:38:57.720 --> 00:38:59.720 Who else got comment 652 00:39:01.960 --> 00:39:03.960 Questions 653 00:39:03.960 --> 00:39:06.280 What are you thinking about like as we're as we're 654 00:39:07.000 --> 00:39:15.240 What are you thinking about like as we're as we're having this discussion well, um, i've got something to say, um, so i'm um, 655 00:39:16.520 --> 00:39:19.800 Currently, i'm talking to one woman a long distance 656 00:39:20.520 --> 00:39:26.840 Yeah, and she's in the philippines and um, okay, and um, I bought a plane ticket to go see her for a week 657 00:39:27.480 --> 00:39:28.840 Wow 658 00:39:28.840 --> 00:39:30.360 so, um 659 00:39:30.360 --> 00:39:32.360 i'm trying to figure out like 660 00:39:33.160 --> 00:39:38.200 Um the best way to you know, make her feel comfortable when i'm there and also like 661 00:39:39.240 --> 00:39:45.880 You know, we'll be together for a week. Not just like one date. So, you know, I don't want it to like 662 00:39:46.600 --> 00:39:48.600 Be bad if like, you know, um 663 00:39:49.640 --> 00:39:53.160 I don't know if if if it gets awkward at some point, you know, um, 664 00:39:53.640 --> 00:39:59.340 So it I did have one long distance date. I flew out to in the past. It was only for a weekend 665 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.120 And in that situation, 666 00:40:01.120 --> 00:40:02.960 neither of us were attracted to each other. 667 00:40:02.960 --> 00:40:06.120 And it was just really bad, like, 668 00:40:06.120 --> 00:40:06.960 cause it's like, 669 00:40:08.600 --> 00:40:10.200 it was hard for us to be around each other 670 00:40:10.200 --> 00:40:11.320 in that situation. 671 00:40:11.320 --> 00:40:13.720 And so this situation, I hope that, 672 00:40:13.720 --> 00:40:16.040 you know, it's better, but it's, you know, 673 00:40:17.520 --> 00:40:20.120 and, you know, there's also social awkwardness, 674 00:40:20.120 --> 00:40:21.080 social anxiety. 675 00:40:21.080 --> 00:40:24.480 So it's just, it is kind of nerve wracking, 676 00:40:24.480 --> 00:40:27.680 but, you know, I'm letting her know that, 677 00:40:27.680 --> 00:40:29.760 you know, there is social awkwardness 678 00:40:30.520 --> 00:40:31.800 and, you know, she's understanding. 679 00:40:31.800 --> 00:40:36.800 So, but yeah, it's just, it's a tricky thing. 680 00:40:38.440 --> 00:40:40.800 You're going to go to the Philippines for a week. 681 00:40:43.840 --> 00:40:44.720 It's a bold move. 682 00:40:46.680 --> 00:40:49.680 You feel good and comfortable about that. 683 00:40:51.480 --> 00:40:53.000 Wow. Excited about it. 684 00:40:54.720 --> 00:40:56.720 That's, a lot of guys wouldn't do that. 685 00:40:57.160 --> 00:41:02.640 I mean, that's a lot of guys would be very unbrave 686 00:41:02.640 --> 00:41:03.480 to do that. 687 00:41:05.080 --> 00:41:08.840 And I'm still questioning whether it's bravery, 688 00:41:08.840 --> 00:41:11.560 whether it's just like, I don't know, whatever else, 689 00:41:11.560 --> 00:41:12.840 but who's got questions? 690 00:41:12.840 --> 00:41:15.680 Who's got comments for Andy in this endeavor? 691 00:41:15.680 --> 00:41:17.240 This is a new development. 692 00:41:17.240 --> 00:41:18.480 This is fast. 693 00:41:19.560 --> 00:41:22.160 Sounds like either it will go super well 694 00:41:22.160 --> 00:41:23.600 or you'll learn a lot. 695 00:41:23.600 --> 00:41:25.040 Yeah. 696 00:41:25.040 --> 00:41:26.200 That's probably true. 697 00:41:26.720 --> 00:41:27.560 Or both. 698 00:41:27.560 --> 00:41:28.400 Yeah. 699 00:41:30.040 --> 00:41:31.600 You either win or you learn. 700 00:41:31.600 --> 00:41:33.280 It's two months away. 701 00:41:33.280 --> 00:41:34.160 So. 702 00:41:34.160 --> 00:41:35.360 Oh, wow. 703 00:41:35.360 --> 00:41:36.360 Yeah. 704 00:41:36.360 --> 00:41:40.320 Do you have an idea of how much you want to 705 00:41:40.320 --> 00:41:41.520 kind of plan out the week 706 00:41:41.520 --> 00:41:44.520 versus how much you want to kind of take it day by day? 707 00:41:45.960 --> 00:41:47.840 Well, I haven't really thought too far ahead. 708 00:41:47.840 --> 00:41:51.440 I mean, I booked my Airbnb, 709 00:41:51.440 --> 00:41:53.720 so I know where I'll be staying. 710 00:41:53.720 --> 00:41:55.400 I know that we both like hiking, 711 00:41:55.400 --> 00:41:59.360 so we're going to try to maybe see some mountain, 712 00:41:59.360 --> 00:42:01.480 go climb a mountain or something. 713 00:42:03.560 --> 00:42:08.560 Of course, I'm going to take her to MAS on Sunday. 714 00:42:13.720 --> 00:42:18.280 But yeah, I'm kind of going to need maybe someone 715 00:42:18.280 --> 00:42:22.280 from around there to kind of help me figure out 716 00:42:22.280 --> 00:42:24.440 what are some good tourist attractions and stuff. 717 00:42:24.480 --> 00:42:26.280 But I want to actually do stuff. 718 00:42:26.280 --> 00:42:29.240 She's very outdoorsy type of person, so. 719 00:42:30.520 --> 00:42:33.520 Do you know about TripAdvisor and Viator? 720 00:42:33.520 --> 00:42:34.520 What's that? 721 00:42:34.520 --> 00:42:36.080 TripAdvisor and Viator. 722 00:42:36.080 --> 00:42:38.240 Are you familiar with those websites? 723 00:42:38.240 --> 00:42:39.880 I've heard the term TripAdvisor, 724 00:42:39.880 --> 00:42:41.440 but I've never heard of Viator. 725 00:42:44.240 --> 00:42:46.160 Viator is, I think that's the scheduling, 726 00:42:46.160 --> 00:42:49.120 like you can schedule excursions and different things. 727 00:42:50.240 --> 00:42:52.800 It's a little bit like the Airbnb experiences website, 728 00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:57.280 but you can get tours of different stuff, whatever else. 729 00:42:57.280 --> 00:43:02.000 But TripAdvisor has restaurants, things to do. 730 00:43:04.040 --> 00:43:07.000 Unfortunately, I can't eat at any restaurants. 731 00:43:07.000 --> 00:43:09.080 I have to cook all my own food. 732 00:43:09.080 --> 00:43:10.120 Okay, yeah. 733 00:43:10.120 --> 00:43:13.240 Well, they still have like popular attractions 734 00:43:13.240 --> 00:43:16.720 that are around, whatever else. 735 00:43:16.720 --> 00:43:21.720 Yeah, we use Viator in Greece and Italy and- 736 00:43:21.760 --> 00:43:24.360 The Filipinos are a little bit different here as well, 737 00:43:24.360 --> 00:43:27.720 gentlemen, so I've dealt with Filipinos. 738 00:43:27.720 --> 00:43:29.680 My brother was a missionary to the Filipinos. 739 00:43:29.680 --> 00:43:30.920 They're very, very family- 740 00:43:30.920 --> 00:43:32.960 I asked if somebody had experience with this. 741 00:43:32.960 --> 00:43:35.960 Yeah, and they love it when their daughter 742 00:43:35.960 --> 00:43:38.200 and you invite the family out together 743 00:43:38.200 --> 00:43:40.080 and they do something together. 744 00:43:40.080 --> 00:43:42.840 They like that very much. 745 00:43:42.840 --> 00:43:44.520 This way, they're getting to know you as well 746 00:43:44.520 --> 00:43:45.920 as you're getting to know her. 747 00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:47.520 It's kind of funny. 748 00:43:47.520 --> 00:43:48.400 It's kind of funny. 749 00:43:48.440 --> 00:43:50.840 She's actually like, I guess, 750 00:43:50.840 --> 00:43:53.480 maybe slightly different from her culture 751 00:43:53.480 --> 00:43:55.440 because she actually just wants it to be us 752 00:43:55.440 --> 00:43:56.800 and she doesn't want her family around, 753 00:43:56.800 --> 00:43:59.200 which is kind of odd for a Filipina, but- 754 00:44:02.520 --> 00:44:03.560 I missed that. 755 00:44:03.560 --> 00:44:04.400 What did you say, Andy? 756 00:44:04.400 --> 00:44:05.440 She's- 757 00:44:05.440 --> 00:44:07.560 She actually would be embarrassed 758 00:44:07.560 --> 00:44:08.880 to introduce me to her family, 759 00:44:08.880 --> 00:44:10.480 which is kind of like the opposite 760 00:44:10.480 --> 00:44:12.840 of what most Filipinas are supposed to be like. 761 00:44:13.840 --> 00:44:18.840 So it's more like our culture, I guess you could say, 762 00:44:19.600 --> 00:44:22.520 in that respect, but for her, it's personally. 763 00:44:25.880 --> 00:44:27.560 Unusual for a Filipino woman. 764 00:44:27.560 --> 00:44:28.400 Yeah, I know. 765 00:44:28.400 --> 00:44:30.080 It is. 766 00:44:30.080 --> 00:44:31.880 Seems unusual. 767 00:44:31.880 --> 00:44:33.400 Yeah, it's, yeah. 768 00:44:34.880 --> 00:44:37.920 Well, Andy, I would definitely do as much homework 769 00:44:37.920 --> 00:44:42.000 as you can on this excursion. 770 00:44:43.840 --> 00:44:46.920 I'm assuming you've traveled internationally before. 771 00:44:46.920 --> 00:44:48.360 No. 772 00:44:48.360 --> 00:44:49.920 You've not? 773 00:44:49.920 --> 00:44:50.960 No. 774 00:44:50.960 --> 00:44:51.800 Okay. 775 00:44:57.520 --> 00:44:59.960 That, and we're going to the Philippines. 776 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.080 That's the first place you're gonna go. 777 00:45:02.080 --> 00:45:04.240 Never been anywhere outside of Michigan. 778 00:45:06.520 --> 00:45:08.680 I've been on road trips with my family 779 00:45:08.680 --> 00:45:10.100 across the United States. 780 00:45:12.960 --> 00:45:14.040 Okay. 781 00:45:14.040 --> 00:45:16.680 International, a whole different animal. 782 00:45:16.680 --> 00:45:19.360 It's gonna be totally different in the Philippines, 783 00:45:19.360 --> 00:45:20.200 for sure. 784 00:45:20.200 --> 00:45:21.560 You gotta be careful here. 785 00:45:21.560 --> 00:45:23.000 I don't wanna put anything on this one, 786 00:45:23.000 --> 00:45:26.880 but a woman who's asking to come across 787 00:45:26.880 --> 00:45:28.680 doesn't wanna meet her family. 788 00:45:28.680 --> 00:45:29.520 Yeah. 789 00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:34.160 It doesn't sound very, a healthy situation 790 00:45:34.160 --> 00:45:36.360 because you never know who you meet online 791 00:45:36.360 --> 00:45:38.720 and when you get over there and find out it's not a she, 792 00:45:38.720 --> 00:45:39.560 it's a he. 793 00:45:40.560 --> 00:45:42.320 It's one of those situations. 794 00:45:42.320 --> 00:45:43.920 I know it's not like that. 795 00:45:43.920 --> 00:45:45.360 Like I know for instance, 796 00:45:45.360 --> 00:45:49.440 I know for sure that she's a very wholesome person. 797 00:45:50.640 --> 00:45:52.000 How do you know that, Andy? 798 00:45:53.100 --> 00:45:56.000 Well, I've been talking to her a long time and I can tell. 799 00:45:57.000 --> 00:46:02.000 And you've been talking like Zooms, meeting online. 800 00:46:02.280 --> 00:46:03.960 You have to give them contact, Andy. 801 00:46:03.960 --> 00:46:05.200 You're going through a program. 802 00:46:05.200 --> 00:46:06.960 Like you have a business. 803 00:46:06.960 --> 00:46:09.520 It's like an actual company, right? 804 00:46:09.520 --> 00:46:11.800 That hosts these chicks and does introductions 805 00:46:11.800 --> 00:46:13.120 and they kind of guide you along, right? 806 00:46:13.120 --> 00:46:15.360 This is not some random connection you made. 807 00:46:15.360 --> 00:46:16.200 I don't think- 808 00:46:16.200 --> 00:46:17.040 It's not random, no. 809 00:46:17.040 --> 00:46:17.960 Yeah, I don't think, yeah. 810 00:46:17.960 --> 00:46:20.320 Maybe people are missing that part. 811 00:46:20.320 --> 00:46:23.680 Yeah, no, we're just going on the fact that a month ago, 812 00:46:23.720 --> 00:46:26.320 Andy, you mentioned to us the Christian Filipino website. 813 00:46:26.320 --> 00:46:28.560 So we're just assuming that this is how 814 00:46:28.560 --> 00:46:29.600 you've met this person 815 00:46:29.600 --> 00:46:31.800 and this is the process you're going through. 816 00:46:31.800 --> 00:46:33.040 Yeah. 817 00:46:33.040 --> 00:46:33.960 Yeah. 818 00:46:33.960 --> 00:46:36.640 And I would bet that process as much as you can 819 00:46:37.960 --> 00:46:42.960 because in this setup that you're explaining to us, 820 00:46:45.560 --> 00:46:47.960 you know, yeah, I'm about 50-50 on it. 821 00:46:47.960 --> 00:46:49.800 Like, yeah, this could be really great 822 00:46:49.800 --> 00:46:52.320 or this could be really not so great. 823 00:46:52.320 --> 00:46:54.560 And I don't mean just like not working on a relationship. 824 00:46:54.560 --> 00:46:56.360 I mean, like dangerous. 825 00:46:56.360 --> 00:46:58.440 So I guess my thing is- 826 00:46:58.440 --> 00:47:01.760 I think you guys just are reading it wrong. 827 00:47:01.760 --> 00:47:06.760 I would be very suspect and I would lean that way for you 828 00:47:08.560 --> 00:47:10.600 and do your research with that in mind. 829 00:47:11.760 --> 00:47:15.400 Okay, but I think you guys just don't understand like- 830 00:47:15.400 --> 00:47:16.240 We may not. 831 00:47:18.520 --> 00:47:20.840 I just think you're like very, 832 00:47:20.840 --> 00:47:22.640 very quick to judge the situation. 833 00:47:22.640 --> 00:47:24.680 You don't even know like at all. 834 00:47:24.680 --> 00:47:25.520 We don't know anything. 835 00:47:25.520 --> 00:47:26.680 We just know what you're telling us. 836 00:47:26.680 --> 00:47:29.320 Would you be willing to share, Andy, 837 00:47:29.320 --> 00:47:32.520 what you feel like is not being understood? 838 00:47:33.600 --> 00:47:36.760 Well, I feel like you're jumping on like suspicion. 839 00:47:36.760 --> 00:47:39.880 I feel like you guys are being very, very suspicious 840 00:47:39.880 --> 00:47:43.960 and it's like completely not how it is. 841 00:47:43.960 --> 00:47:46.520 Like you're completely reading the situation wrong. 842 00:47:47.760 --> 00:47:49.200 Okay. 843 00:47:49.240 --> 00:47:51.160 We're just gonna take your word for it then. 844 00:47:52.160 --> 00:47:55.960 Do you understand, Andy, that we care enough about you? 845 00:47:55.960 --> 00:47:56.800 That we- 846 00:47:56.800 --> 00:47:59.360 I understand that, but I just don't think 847 00:47:59.360 --> 00:48:01.160 you guys understand what's going on. 848 00:48:03.840 --> 00:48:04.680 I'm sorry. 849 00:48:04.680 --> 00:48:05.600 We may not. 850 00:48:05.600 --> 00:48:08.760 We very may well not understand what's going on. 851 00:48:09.880 --> 00:48:14.240 I feel like I've heard maybe two or three people 852 00:48:14.240 --> 00:48:16.120 kind of express concerns. 853 00:48:16.120 --> 00:48:18.120 Are you saying that you feel like the whole group 854 00:48:18.120 --> 00:48:19.560 is feeling that way? 855 00:48:19.560 --> 00:48:22.320 Or are you just talking about those two to three people? 856 00:48:23.880 --> 00:48:25.360 I mean, I guess overall, 857 00:48:25.360 --> 00:48:27.880 I feel like everyone here is kind of suspicious. 858 00:48:27.880 --> 00:48:30.520 Like, I mean, it's a foreign country, of course, 859 00:48:30.520 --> 00:48:33.760 but I feel very safe. 860 00:48:33.760 --> 00:48:36.520 I don't feel like there's any danger at all. 861 00:48:37.480 --> 00:48:38.840 Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 862 00:48:38.840 --> 00:48:39.720 I appreciate it. 863 00:48:41.040 --> 00:48:45.880 I think Steven made a comment in the chat there 864 00:48:45.920 --> 00:48:49.080 about is it possible you could take somebody with you 865 00:48:49.080 --> 00:48:52.960 like a friend that could travel with you? 866 00:48:55.920 --> 00:48:57.560 And that might be something that, 867 00:48:59.400 --> 00:49:01.120 I don't know if that's possible or if that's something 868 00:49:01.120 --> 00:49:03.400 that's pretty good advice. 869 00:49:03.400 --> 00:49:06.160 But you have two months before this happens. 870 00:49:06.160 --> 00:49:08.960 All I'm saying is I would still do your research 871 00:49:08.960 --> 00:49:11.800 and find out as much information as you can 872 00:49:11.800 --> 00:49:16.640 about this situation and the whole thing. 873 00:49:16.640 --> 00:49:18.600 Like what kind of things specifically? 874 00:49:21.520 --> 00:49:22.360 I don't know. 875 00:49:22.360 --> 00:49:27.360 When somebody has been abroad and has seen things, 876 00:49:30.920 --> 00:49:33.840 the rest of the world is not like the United States at all. 877 00:49:33.840 --> 00:49:36.600 Not to say that bad things don't happen in the United States 878 00:49:36.600 --> 00:49:38.120 because they do all the time. 879 00:49:38.120 --> 00:49:40.680 But I mean, compared to the rest of the world, 880 00:49:40.680 --> 00:49:43.760 I mean, it is night and day different. 881 00:49:43.760 --> 00:49:45.880 And if you've never experienced that, 882 00:49:45.880 --> 00:49:47.000 never encountered that, 883 00:49:47.000 --> 00:49:49.480 and then you're going to meet somebody you've never met, 884 00:49:49.480 --> 00:49:51.320 you don't know who they are. 885 00:49:51.320 --> 00:49:52.360 I'm not saying you haven't met them. 886 00:49:52.360 --> 00:49:54.320 Maybe you have met them on Zoom. 887 00:49:55.280 --> 00:49:56.840 And you're going there. 888 00:49:56.840 --> 00:49:59.600 It's a recipe for a lot of stories 889 00:49:59.600 --> 00:50:01.200 that a lot of people don't know. 890 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:07.240 People have heard and know and have lived and somebody's gone before you saying well 891 00:50:07.240 --> 00:50:11.480 Hey, you might want to just think about this. You might want to be cautious that kind of thing 892 00:50:12.600 --> 00:50:14.600 You ought to heed that advice 893 00:50:14.680 --> 00:50:17.340 You ought to heed that in the sense that you know 894 00:50:17.340 --> 00:50:21.880 I should probably look into this and make sure I'm just turning over every rock. That's unknown 895 00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:26.680 Let's say you can't do it. Not say that you can't go or anything. I mean, you're obviously 896 00:50:27.480 --> 00:50:29.620 You know, you're gonna do what you're gonna do 897 00:50:30.720 --> 00:50:32.720 Nobody's saying don't go 898 00:50:33.320 --> 00:50:36.920 We're just saying hey, man, this sounds 899 00:50:38.160 --> 00:50:40.160 really halfway shady 900 00:50:41.640 --> 00:50:43.640 In love 901 00:50:44.920 --> 00:50:47.400 Yeah, you may go and you may find your wife 902 00:50:48.680 --> 00:50:51.840 That's all I feel like I feel like that's how it could go 903 00:50:52.720 --> 00:50:59.680 The only thing I'm really worried about is it me being too awkward that's really the thing that I'm worried about 904 00:51:00.680 --> 00:51:03.800 That's the only thing that I'm yeah concerned about really 905 00:51:04.920 --> 00:51:06.920 That's what I'm really asking about 906 00:51:08.200 --> 00:51:10.200 What part of the Philippines are you going to Andy 907 00:51:10.840 --> 00:51:12.840 Manila. Oh 908 00:51:13.040 --> 00:51:14.560 Not so bad 909 00:51:14.560 --> 00:51:17.120 If it was the southwest, that would be more 910 00:51:19.280 --> 00:51:21.280 Horrible 911 00:51:22.000 --> 00:51:24.720 For Americans to try to visit there 912 00:51:27.040 --> 00:51:29.640 I've been to the Philippines. I've been to Manila and 913 00:51:34.240 --> 00:51:40.680 East of there where someone tried to pickpocket me at the time. I was with a bunch of military guys and 914 00:51:41.400 --> 00:51:48.040 we had guards in our group who grabbed those people and killed him on the spot and that's just how quick and 915 00:51:48.400 --> 00:51:50.400 And 916 00:51:50.480 --> 00:51:52.480 Unfortunately 917 00:51:52.720 --> 00:51:57.880 Violent people are out there compared to being backstates side 918 00:51:59.600 --> 00:52:01.600 And so I just pray that you 919 00:52:02.160 --> 00:52:04.160 Go forth with God's full protection 920 00:52:05.840 --> 00:52:09.440 You know, no not discounting anything that you 921 00:52:10.240 --> 00:52:11.960 could possibly 922 00:52:11.960 --> 00:52:14.120 Have happened to benefit you or any? 923 00:52:15.800 --> 00:52:17.480 Expectations 924 00:52:17.480 --> 00:52:19.480 Just like your 925 00:52:20.600 --> 00:52:22.200 Physical safety 926 00:52:22.200 --> 00:52:24.080 Just praying for that man 927 00:52:24.080 --> 00:52:26.080 That's it. That's about most important 928 00:52:26.360 --> 00:52:32.800 We want to see you back on this call after you come back from Philippines and not wonder what happened to him 929 00:52:34.040 --> 00:52:37.720 Because we had a conversation one time. He said we're going to Philippines and we've never seen him again 930 00:52:37.720 --> 00:52:40.300 That would not be good and would not be 931 00:52:41.240 --> 00:52:43.240 productive at all 932 00:52:43.360 --> 00:52:44.560 Yeah 933 00:52:44.560 --> 00:52:47.200 Just in mind for sure. Thank you. Go ahead Zack 934 00:52:47.200 --> 00:52:52.280 I was gonna say yeah Andy some of that advice can also be very applicable in a general sense 935 00:52:52.360 --> 00:52:54.360 The fact that you've never traveled internationally 936 00:52:55.080 --> 00:53:00.080 You know, I would take the next two months and really do your research and plan and get comfortable with 937 00:53:01.120 --> 00:53:05.520 You know what to do in customs, you know understanding which direction are you flying? 938 00:53:06.080 --> 00:53:10.320 You know how to deal with jet lag, you know making sure that you have 939 00:53:11.040 --> 00:53:15.760 Vetted transportation from the airport to your Airbnb unless the family's picking you up like 940 00:53:16.360 --> 00:53:23.520 running through that mental checklist of making sure that you are doing everything that you can to make this as safe and 941 00:53:25.240 --> 00:53:31.400 Secure of a trip for you as possible. Yeah for sure. Mm-hmm for sure 942 00:53:33.680 --> 00:53:35.680 Wow 943 00:53:35.920 --> 00:53:40.320 But um, can I have some advice maybe on awkwardness and that kind of thing 944 00:53:41.000 --> 00:53:48.920 That was what my question was actually about. I mean, I mean lean into your awkwardness man. Just own it. Just own it. I mean 945 00:53:50.440 --> 00:53:55.040 I built up a profile on ARC and someone legit asked me 946 00:53:56.000 --> 00:54:00.960 just how many ugly Chris sweaters do you have and I was just like 947 00:54:01.200 --> 00:54:03.200 Kind of didn't want to answer but I was just like 948 00:54:03.720 --> 00:54:05.200 Okay 949 00:54:05.200 --> 00:54:07.200 here we go and 950 00:54:07.440 --> 00:54:12.240 just went into that whole story and why I started wearing ugly Chris's sweaters and 951 00:54:12.800 --> 00:54:17.440 How I also have 19 inflatable t-rex costumes. I've been through because those don't really survive 952 00:54:18.960 --> 00:54:20.240 And 953 00:54:20.240 --> 00:54:24.640 She loved it and we are still talking. So you you feel awkward 954 00:54:25.520 --> 00:54:29.360 Don't make it more awkward. But the thing that makes you feel awkward just 955 00:54:29.360 --> 00:54:33.040 Just sit into that and lean into it, you know, like you feel awkward dancing 956 00:54:33.600 --> 00:54:36.800 Just keep doing the same dance and try to move a little bit more 957 00:54:37.440 --> 00:54:39.440 Not a little bit less 958 00:54:40.720 --> 00:54:46.800 And you can you help me understand Andy when you say awkward is it that you mean that you 959 00:54:47.680 --> 00:54:51.760 Don't want to feel kind of uncomfortable or you don't want her to feel uncomfortable or 960 00:54:52.560 --> 00:54:56.160 What what is that kind of awkwardness that you're you're hoping to avoid? 961 00:54:56.160 --> 00:54:59.780 You're hoping to avoid I don't want her to feel uncomfortable like 962 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.960 Because like, if I don't know how to lead the conversation, 963 00:55:02.960 --> 00:55:05.880 like maybe I'll, there'll be awkward pauses 964 00:55:05.880 --> 00:55:07.780 and you know, things like that. 965 00:55:08.800 --> 00:55:13.800 And that kind of thing, 966 00:55:13.880 --> 00:55:18.000 but also maybe like social etiquette stuff, 967 00:55:18.000 --> 00:55:20.000 like even with Americans, 968 00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:23.040 I've failed in relationships because of social etiquette. 969 00:55:23.040 --> 00:55:25.440 And of course, in the Philippines, 970 00:55:25.440 --> 00:55:26.680 there's different social etiquette. 971 00:55:26.680 --> 00:55:28.320 So that makes it even more so, 972 00:55:28.320 --> 00:55:30.520 but at least with that, at least with the Philippines, 973 00:55:30.520 --> 00:55:32.800 like I get a pass for being a foreigner. 974 00:55:32.800 --> 00:55:34.760 So I guess that's one good thing, 975 00:55:34.760 --> 00:55:39.100 but I'm just really bad at social etiquette, like in general. 976 00:55:41.840 --> 00:55:45.480 My thoughts about that, since you asked for opinions, 977 00:55:45.480 --> 00:55:49.120 I think I'm really happy that you're sharing 978 00:55:49.120 --> 00:55:50.240 kind of what matters to you. 979 00:55:50.240 --> 00:55:51.720 I really appreciate that. 980 00:55:51.720 --> 00:55:54.300 And I feel like two things are coming to mind. 981 00:55:54.300 --> 00:55:57.240 Maybe the first one is it might be worthwhile 982 00:55:57.320 --> 00:56:01.800 to think about what expectations you have of yourself. 983 00:56:01.800 --> 00:56:05.440 I feel like it would be a very high bar to go somewhere 984 00:56:05.440 --> 00:56:06.720 that you've never been before, 985 00:56:06.720 --> 00:56:08.180 meet someone from a different culture 986 00:56:08.180 --> 00:56:10.960 and kind of never have kind of a moment 987 00:56:10.960 --> 00:56:13.800 where you're not sure what to do or kind of, you know, 988 00:56:13.800 --> 00:56:17.280 cause she might not know what to do all the time as well. 989 00:56:17.280 --> 00:56:19.000 So I would say like, 990 00:56:19.000 --> 00:56:20.800 it might be a natural part of the process 991 00:56:20.800 --> 00:56:23.640 to kind of not be sure about the moment 992 00:56:24.560 --> 00:56:26.200 and that that's okay and it's good. 993 00:56:26.880 --> 00:56:29.080 I feel that way a lot on dates here, 994 00:56:30.000 --> 00:56:31.280 let alone in other countries. 995 00:56:31.280 --> 00:56:33.520 And I have gone to other countries to meet women before 996 00:56:33.520 --> 00:56:38.520 and the awkwardness, I think it's worth it though. 997 00:56:38.840 --> 00:56:41.960 And then the second thing of two that's coming to my mind 998 00:56:41.960 --> 00:56:46.960 is I would encourage you not to project what you think. 999 00:56:47.600 --> 00:56:49.720 I would encourage you not to project 1000 00:56:49.720 --> 00:56:51.560 what you think she's feeling 1001 00:56:52.080 --> 00:56:56.240 and then act from that assumption, 1002 00:56:56.240 --> 00:57:00.440 maybe to be willing to, even if you're feeling awkward, 1003 00:57:01.840 --> 00:57:04.200 you can talk about how you're feeling awkward 1004 00:57:04.200 --> 00:57:06.720 and kind of say like, wow, I don't know what to do exactly, 1005 00:57:06.720 --> 00:57:09.320 but I'm glad we're here together in this moment, 1006 00:57:09.320 --> 00:57:10.760 you know, or something, 1007 00:57:10.760 --> 00:57:13.120 or, you know, you can check in and say like, 1008 00:57:13.120 --> 00:57:14.960 oh, hey, you know, how are things going? 1009 00:57:14.960 --> 00:57:17.680 You know, and kind of see kind of how she feels. 1010 00:57:17.680 --> 00:57:20.280 But I feel like some of the times that I've gotten 1011 00:57:20.320 --> 00:57:21.600 in some of the biggest messes 1012 00:57:21.600 --> 00:57:25.200 were when I became very anxious and assumed, 1013 00:57:25.200 --> 00:57:28.680 oh, in this person, I'm making them feel that way 1014 00:57:28.680 --> 00:57:30.600 or making them feel such and such. 1015 00:57:30.600 --> 00:57:32.520 And when that really wasn't the case. 1016 00:57:32.520 --> 00:57:34.960 So I hope you'll go easy on yourself, 1017 00:57:34.960 --> 00:57:37.080 I think is what I'm trying to say. 1018 00:57:37.080 --> 00:57:37.920 Yeah. 1019 00:57:37.920 --> 00:57:41.080 And I feel like the easier you go on yourself, 1020 00:57:41.080 --> 00:57:43.240 probably the more relaxed you'll be able to be 1021 00:57:43.240 --> 00:57:46.000 and the more able you'll be to adapt would be my guess. 1022 00:57:46.840 --> 00:57:50.200 Hey, Andy, I have this feeling that you're gonna meet, 1023 00:57:50.200 --> 00:57:53.520 your spirit mate is gonna find your awkwardness 1024 00:57:53.520 --> 00:57:55.720 like super endearing and adorable. 1025 00:57:55.720 --> 00:57:56.560 Oh yeah. 1026 00:57:56.560 --> 00:57:57.400 And she's gonna like. 1027 00:57:57.400 --> 00:57:58.240 Yeah. 1028 00:57:58.240 --> 00:57:59.080 I'm serious. 1029 00:57:59.080 --> 00:58:00.680 I've always felt that way about you. 1030 00:58:00.680 --> 00:58:03.200 And I know it's like a source of anxiety for you, 1031 00:58:03.200 --> 00:58:05.040 but she's just gonna like, 1032 00:58:05.040 --> 00:58:07.960 and she might be like cool as a cucumber, 1033 00:58:07.960 --> 00:58:09.680 like totally cool, 1034 00:58:09.680 --> 00:58:14.280 but she just like is constantly amused that you're awkward. 1035 00:58:15.280 --> 00:58:17.920 I just, I see that for you. 1036 00:58:17.920 --> 00:58:20.800 And I hope that, I hope this meeting goes well, 1037 00:58:20.800 --> 00:58:23.560 maybe that's her, but I really do see that for you, man. 1038 00:58:23.560 --> 00:58:26.680 So I just get out of your head about it, 1039 00:58:26.680 --> 00:58:28.400 just show up as yourself. 1040 00:58:28.400 --> 00:58:31.840 And like David with the dinosaur costumes 1041 00:58:31.840 --> 00:58:33.440 and the ugly sweaters, 1042 00:58:33.440 --> 00:58:35.240 there is a woman who's gonna be like, 1043 00:58:35.240 --> 00:58:38.680 oh, that's hot, I like that. 1044 00:58:39.600 --> 00:58:42.400 So I think you need to just show up as yourself. 1045 00:58:42.400 --> 00:58:43.240 Yeah. 1046 00:58:43.720 --> 00:58:46.840 That's gonna repel the women that you want it to repel, 1047 00:58:46.840 --> 00:58:48.880 and it's gonna attract the women that you want to attract, 1048 00:58:48.880 --> 00:58:52.080 but you need to be the most authentic version of yourself. 1049 00:58:52.080 --> 00:58:54.600 And that's how you find a match, 1050 00:58:54.600 --> 00:58:57.320 not by trying to be cool Andy, 1051 00:58:57.320 --> 00:59:01.560 because that's not like, just relax, just relax. 1052 00:59:01.560 --> 00:59:02.400 That's awesome. 1053 00:59:03.720 --> 00:59:08.720 So Andy, I recently kind of did what you're trying to do. 1054 00:59:08.720 --> 00:59:10.040 What you're trying to do, 1055 00:59:10.040 --> 00:59:13.400 what I mean by that is like, fly far, far away 1056 00:59:14.480 --> 00:59:17.560 to go see some person that you've been talking to online. 1057 00:59:17.560 --> 00:59:20.280 And so I recently did that for about a week. 1058 00:59:21.800 --> 00:59:26.800 And for me, I did a lot of fraying like before the date, 1059 00:59:30.040 --> 00:59:33.720 or I would like, like a lot of the guys were mentioning 1060 00:59:33.720 --> 00:59:37.360 that negativity can spiral in your head, 1061 00:59:37.400 --> 00:59:38.240 it's all in your head. 1062 00:59:38.240 --> 00:59:39.560 Like, oh, she feels weird. 1063 00:59:39.560 --> 00:59:40.400 She's whatever. 1064 00:59:40.400 --> 00:59:42.840 Like you have to just set the tone, 1065 00:59:42.840 --> 00:59:45.040 meaning like just being happy, 1066 00:59:46.080 --> 00:59:48.720 just sitting there with her across from you. 1067 00:59:49.720 --> 00:59:53.360 And so if you set tone, people pick up on those vibes 1068 00:59:54.320 --> 00:59:57.560 and don't believe all the lies in your head about, 1069 00:59:57.560 --> 00:59:59.880 oh, is she, ha ha ha ha. 1070 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:06.880 Do not talk yourself out of having a good time and being yourself and, you know, whatever 1071 01:00:06.880 --> 01:00:08.920 humor you have, crack some jokes. 1072 01:00:08.920 --> 01:00:13.520 Hopefully she laughs at them, you know? 1073 01:00:13.520 --> 01:00:20.060 And I think that the culture clash for you, you should try to turn it into a game of learning 1074 01:00:20.060 --> 01:00:21.400 and roll with that. 1075 01:00:21.400 --> 01:00:24.360 Roll with how awkward that you don't know how to use, I don't know, chopsticks. 1076 01:00:24.360 --> 01:00:27.520 I don't know, I'm making stuff up, but, you know, have fun with that. 1077 01:00:27.520 --> 01:00:30.240 So that's my little two cents, bro. 1078 01:00:30.240 --> 01:00:35.280 Go over there with some ideas in mind, some game plan, but kind of roll with the punches, 1079 01:00:35.280 --> 01:00:37.640 have fun, be yourself. 1080 01:00:37.640 --> 01:00:40.280 Yeah, that's my two cents, man. 1081 01:00:40.280 --> 01:00:42.400 So yeah, keep it going. 1082 01:00:42.400 --> 01:00:43.400 Cool. 1083 01:00:43.400 --> 01:00:46.600 Be safe, you know? 1084 01:00:46.600 --> 01:00:47.600 Yep. 1085 01:00:47.600 --> 01:00:53.760 I picked an Airbnb in like a really nice part of town. 1086 01:00:53.760 --> 01:00:59.360 So it's like, it's very, it's going to be a very safe area that I'm staying in. 1087 01:00:59.360 --> 01:01:00.360 Good. 1088 01:01:00.360 --> 01:01:01.360 That's awesome. 1089 01:01:01.360 --> 01:01:09.800 Andy, you actually came up in a conversation with this woman I was talking to. 1090 01:01:09.800 --> 01:01:15.080 So because, you know, like we're all messed up and, you know, marriage is dead, no one's 1091 01:01:15.080 --> 01:01:17.720 having kids, they're trying to kill God, all this stuff, right? 1092 01:01:17.720 --> 01:01:22.240 So now we're all, you know, 50 years old, no kids anyways, all single. 1093 01:01:22.240 --> 01:01:25.760 And I was describing that I knew this guy that's going, talking to a chick in the Philippines, 1094 01:01:25.760 --> 01:01:28.760 and she was just like flabbergasted. 1095 01:01:28.760 --> 01:01:33.600 And I was like, well, you know, it's 50-50. 1096 01:01:33.600 --> 01:01:37.680 Like there's 50 parts that goes, okay, this guy's going to get snatched up, ransom, we're 1097 01:01:37.680 --> 01:01:39.960 going to have to call Trump to save you. 1098 01:01:39.960 --> 01:01:47.320 Or you know, you could find someone that is family oriented, that shares your same faith, 1099 01:01:47.320 --> 01:01:54.760 that wants children, that wants marriage, that is not some boss ice queen, like actually 1100 01:01:54.760 --> 01:02:00.160 like a lady, you know, that appreciates when you do little stupid shit, like open up a 1101 01:02:00.160 --> 01:02:03.920 pickle jar, because they can't do it. 1102 01:02:03.920 --> 01:02:09.000 Anyways, when I told this woman this, like, like your, like the positive side of your 1103 01:02:09.000 --> 01:02:10.000 story. 1104 01:02:10.000 --> 01:02:11.440 Is that a personal example? 1105 01:02:11.440 --> 01:02:16.440 She obviously, yeah, she obviously didn't, she didn't get it. 1106 01:02:16.440 --> 01:02:17.440 She didn't get it. 1107 01:02:17.440 --> 01:02:22.320 It blew her away, which was one of my red flags when talking to this young lady. 1108 01:02:22.320 --> 01:02:27.480 She didn't understand the angle of like, you just wanting a nice, simple lady that's not 1109 01:02:27.480 --> 01:02:34.600 materialistic, not keeping up with the Joneses, comparing everything, all this shit, pardon 1110 01:02:34.600 --> 01:02:35.600 my French. 1111 01:02:35.600 --> 01:02:36.600 Yeah. 1112 01:02:36.600 --> 01:02:37.600 And it blew her away. 1113 01:02:37.600 --> 01:02:40.640 And I'm like, you can't see any of that. 1114 01:02:40.640 --> 01:02:45.840 Like I know it's nuts, but look, look, like what I was doing, sitting next to her in the 1115 01:02:46.240 --> 01:02:51.920 car, like for me to get to sitting next to her in a car, I did some crazy shit. 1116 01:02:51.920 --> 01:02:55.200 So I don't know, man. 1117 01:02:55.200 --> 01:02:56.600 It's just tough. 1118 01:02:56.600 --> 01:02:58.600 I know why you're doing it. 1119 01:02:58.600 --> 01:03:01.600 I don't blame you. 1120 01:03:01.600 --> 01:03:02.600 Absolutely. 1121 01:03:02.600 --> 01:03:03.600 Yeah. 1122 01:03:03.600 --> 01:03:06.200 We just want you to, we just want you to be safe. 1123 01:03:06.200 --> 01:03:18.920 I agree with Abram, like, yeah, if you have to do crazy stuff in order to like go there, 1124 01:03:18.920 --> 01:03:19.920 I don't mean go to Philippines. 1125 01:03:19.920 --> 01:03:24.000 I just mean to go to where, like go after what you're after. 1126 01:03:24.000 --> 01:03:25.000 That's not crazy. 1127 01:03:25.000 --> 01:03:32.520 I mean, that's sounds crazy to some people who are uncomfortable with that, but we do, 1128 01:03:32.520 --> 01:03:35.600 we do want you to be safe. 1129 01:03:36.000 --> 01:03:41.600 I might even, I might even come to this meeting while I'm there. 1130 01:03:41.600 --> 01:03:43.760 Oh, yeah. 1131 01:03:43.760 --> 01:03:50.000 I'm going to be, so I'm going to be leaving on a Tuesday and I'm going to be returning 1132 01:03:50.000 --> 01:03:56.960 home on, on a Thursday after that. 1133 01:03:56.960 --> 01:04:00.840 So I'm going to be there for five days. 1134 01:04:01.200 --> 01:04:06.920 You have friends and family that are, I'm, cause I don't, I don't remember what your 1135 01:04:06.920 --> 01:04:13.480 family dynamic is there where in your locale, but do you have friends and family who are 1136 01:04:13.480 --> 01:04:16.760 commenting on this or are they hating on it? 1137 01:04:16.760 --> 01:04:17.760 Yeah. 1138 01:04:17.760 --> 01:04:22.040 I'm, you know, my, my parents, you know, mainly. 1139 01:04:22.040 --> 01:04:26.760 And Oh, like, Oh, you've shared this with them and they're like, Oh wow, this is amazing. 1140 01:04:26.760 --> 01:04:27.760 Yeah. 1141 01:04:27.760 --> 01:04:29.760 Where's their reaction? 1142 01:04:29.760 --> 01:04:31.920 They're, they're very much on board with it. 1143 01:04:31.920 --> 01:04:32.920 They're very happy with me. 1144 01:04:32.920 --> 01:04:33.920 Happy for me. 1145 01:04:33.920 --> 01:04:34.920 And yeah. 1146 01:04:34.920 --> 01:04:39.120 Well, they know, they know you best. 1147 01:04:39.120 --> 01:04:44.040 I mean, or at least I would assume so your family and the people that know you the best, 1148 01:04:44.040 --> 01:04:48.680 you know, my dad was an adventure when he was young. 1149 01:04:48.680 --> 01:04:49.680 Really? 1150 01:04:49.680 --> 01:04:57.120 So, well he actually hitchhiked across the United States with a friend, it was him and 1151 01:04:57.120 --> 01:05:00.000 a friend and they hitchhiked across the United States and yeah. 1152 01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:06.240 it's even one part where he's split up so he's he's been on adventures great great 1153 01:05:08.560 --> 01:05:15.840 awesome well guys we're well past the hour and um just wanted it was a good conversation thank 1154 01:05:15.840 --> 01:05:21.200 you andy for being vulnerable thank you for seeing it through thank you for all the guys that 1155 01:05:21.200 --> 01:05:28.720 commented share tonight thank you so much for being present sharing your your insight it's 1156 01:05:28.720 --> 01:05:38.720 important to take in all the um i i do want to say andy um definitely do your homework 1157 01:05:39.680 --> 01:05:48.480 and continue to research um it's okay to listen to things and and ponder things that you're 1158 01:05:48.480 --> 01:05:55.360 maybe not necessarily um down with because it might not have been the thing that you wanted to 1159 01:05:55.360 --> 01:06:03.680 hear but definitely let it be a voice of reason and a voice of concern and love for you for your 1160 01:06:03.680 --> 01:06:08.880 well-being and for your safety that's definitely the heart of anything that was said tonight for 1161 01:06:08.880 --> 01:06:17.840 sure um love you guys god bless you guys have a great rest of your week and um we will see you 1162 01:06:17.840 --> 01:06:22.160 next time all right hey brothers