All right, ladies, welcome.
It's so glad to see all of your beautiful faces, especially those that are on camera
and live here with me.
This is your Love Story Accelerator, eight o'clock, live heart check-in.
As you can see, if you're not new here, you're used to seeing Ebony, and she's not with us
today.
I'm going to ask that you lift her up and keep you in her prayers.
She had a hip replacement surgery yesterday, which was an answered prayer.
God the Father has loved on her.
She's been in some pain for over a year, and God just really opened doors for her to get
this procedure yesterday.
We insisted that she spend some time healing and resting today and just getting better.
I was happy to say, I will come in and I will cover for you.
It's an excuse to have my husband kick the kids out and for me to be able to come on
and see you all.
I know that one o'clock call isn't most convenient for everybody, and so you typically are probably
getting me through replay.
Even if you come to the eight o'clock, I definitely encourage you to watch the replay.
For those of you that ever come to the one o'clock, watch the eight o'clock replay.
I think we've got it now so that we're posting both in replay.
I will double check with the team to make sure that that's going to be consistent because
this is the hour and 15 minutes where we try to leave a majority of it for you all to answer
or to ask your questions and for myself and Ebony to give you our wisdom and our coaching
advice, even give you encouragement and hope through our own testimony in this program.
For those of you that don't know me, I am Karla Johnson.
I am a success story with last year's single.
I came in to Jackie's program at the very beginning of her movement, which was in 2020.
She did the big launch right before October, and so I came in at that point.
End of September will be full five years.
It took about two years until my husband decided to find me with the help of this community
and more ways than one.
If you've heard the replays before, you've probably gotten little tidbits of my story.
Then I've been coaching now for a year and a half, maybe a little longer now with last
year's single.
It's just always an honor and a pleasure to be here with you all and just, again, impart
my wisdom, walk you through the whole process.
A lot of the questions that you have are questions that I had myself.
I got you.
Just like any coach, I'm going to probably stretch you a little bit and I'll probably
make you uncomfortable.
If you've ever been in a bootcamp situation, if you've ever been to one of those fitness
trainers, they're going to make you do some things that are uncomfortable at times.
I do my best to do it as gently as possible.
Always know that myself and Ebony, we speak it in love and encouragement, and we're just
here to help and support you.
There's nothing that I would encourage you to do that I probably didn't do myself or
watch other women in this program do and have success with it.
Just keep that in mind when I stretch you a little bit, or maybe I push the buttons
at times because I'm going to do it.
Jackie did it for me several occasions, and I was like, I don't want to do that, Jackie.
She's like, tough.
No, if you want to be stubborn about it, that's fine, but I'm going to keep giving you these
reminders, and she did, and she loved me through it all, and so it's just been an incredible
journey.
Who do I have on here tonight that is brand new to this phase, to this call?
Do I have anybody?
I know I see a couple familiar faces.
There's some faces I don't necessarily know, but I'm sure it's probably because you're
used to coming to 8 o'clock and I'm not on.
Do I have anybody in that category?
Anybody?
Just raise your avatar hand, or if you're on camera, you can just flash me little hands,
so I can see you.
No?
Everybody?
Everybody knows the drill.
Well, that makes it easy.
I love it.
Okay?
So I really don't probably have to go through too many housekeeping items like we always
remind you.
Stay connected in the app.
Post your journey, your dating situations, anything that you want.
are gleaning from the content the replays make sure you're watching those and and whatnot okay
sound good beverly says 12 weeks so you've been in this have you been beverly have you been in
last year single for 12 full weeks so that includes the heartwork or just this one currently
this love story accelerator for 12 weeks awesome well we're so glad to have you here i hope that
you are just taking it all in did you want to share something no i was just answering you yeah
just uh just this one has been 12 weeks good so how how are you liking what like what's your
takeaway um i was actually going to to talk but i was hoping i was going to talk no no offense but
i was hoping i was going to talk to ebony uh just because i'm used to her and that's who i you know
been listening to um yeah i get it so she probably has a little bit more of an understanding of your
background well i'm definitely here to take that on and that's another thing ladies i and beverly
thank you for for sharing that but i also want to encourage you ladies that just because you
come to one doesn't mean that me and myself like myself and ebony that we don't converse and like
walk each other through like situations and things like that um and and also let it be
a reason for you ladies to make sure that you're coming in the app and you're sharing with us that
because there are believe it or not there are some ladies that don't come to the lives and that might
not watch the replays or watch the replay of you on there and your question or your situation can
actually help them grow as well so a lot of times what what we might be experiencing that maybe
somebody is a little shy about sharing you'll be surprised like it actually will allow breakthrough
for other people i know it happened for me when i was in the program when women would share and
i'm like oh my goodness like i'm going through the same thing and getting that wisdom is super
helpful and then there were times when i got vulnerable and i shared myself it always impacted
someone else in the community and they were able to reach out and be like carla thank you so much
for sharing your heart and and walking us through it really really helped me and then they were able
to feed me encouragement lift me up lift me up in prayer as well so i want to encourage you ladies
to show up not just these live calls but show up in the app as well okay all right so that's
the housekeeping for the day i see two people have their hands up and then beverly if you want to kind
of just you'll you can keep your hand up and i will do my best and then whatever i can't help
you answer i can i can reach out to ebony be like hey ebony i need you to help my girl out
and then be able to to i did want to just share my situation and you know get a little coaching
because i'm 78 and so you know i'm in a group with a lot of young women i know last week there
was somebody that was 73 so i was so happy to see her yes you know i've been listening to
you know everything people have had to say um which i thought was really quite fascinating
um but you know i'm coming i feel like i'm coming from a different perspective or at least you know
a very different um season season of life and i'm trying to make some sense of things you know i i
have uh been married divorced but i have been living alone for 20 years now i think uh and up
until a year ago was not even interested in dating before i got in the program i had listened to
last year's single three times and uh married in in 12 months or less three times i had done
artwork myself before i got in the program so once i got in it then i had to you know redo
everything all over again um so it's really been a process for for about a year already
last may actually um and i am dating two people but this is my question um can i have you hold
that thought and i will come to you like when i take questions i'm gonna come to you first okay
so just put your avatar hand up and then i will come to you i want to just cover a couple more
couple things and then i'll take the questions but i do love that you brought this up beverly
because you know you're not alone when it comes to um other ladies in this program that might be
experiencing something a little bit different when you're in a group with younger women and so
um i want to encourage you that there was i think i can't remember who it was but um maybe it
with Allison. Allison, I see you on you're on my one o'clock. I
think you even shared in the app, how you know, this is just
a different season. And so dating is a little bit
different for those ladies that are, you know, in their 50s, 60s,
70s and beyond. And so I, I want you ladies to know that if y'all
have been on my heart, and Allison, I really want to thank
you for bringing that up, because I am, I am going to
reach out to the team. And I want to reach out to Jackie
specifically, I mean, like, you know what, I think we can
probably do something for our ladies that are in that season
of life. And to give you encouragement, because what I
will tell you, ladies, is we have so many success love
stories of ladies that are in those years. Okay, and I don't
know, I think it might have been even on Supernatural Saturday,
or there is actually it wasn't on a Supernatural Saturday. But
when y'all graduate over into the next phase, there are
replays there. And even Jackie just recently did a love seat
call at the beginning of May. And she touched on this. And I'm
going to I don't want to butcher all of the statistics and the
the input that she was sharing. But she was talking about
something about when is the most successful or more of most
accomplished part of your years and decades and it was it was
something like your 60s then your 50s 40s and 70s in that
order. And so I mean, again, I don't quote me on it. But when
you graduate to the next phase, go check the replays out for the
beginning of May and listen to that because I do think it's
going to just give you some encouragement and know that we
have so many women in our program that are success stories
and have found love in this season of life. And so it's not
uncommon. And so I hope that gives you encouragement. But I
just want you all know that, like, Allison, thank you,
because it put it on my heart. And then like, we have got to
reach out to our team. And we've got to speak to this more
specifically, for you ladies that are you know, you're
looking for help and wisdom. And so we want to be able to
support you in any way that we can. Okay, so I did go over some
housekeeping. Karen was sharing with us that, you know, about
the activation that you know, she didn't get to post in a
picture, but she did get some dresses. And so I hope you ladies
are taking that into consideration. I had a couple I
think there was one no one of for sure, that posted maybe a
couple actually know there was two because I made comments on
earlier. And so just continue to keep doing that, you know, step
into your feminine, know that you're beautiful. And you know,
I will tell you is that this this activation has been
something that we've been doing since the very beginning, Jackie
had us do the same thing. And it really, truly does just like
shift things. I never like, trust me when I was like, I
don't dress like, I'm a busy single mom. I don't like have
time. And y'all when I when I finally like stepped into it, I
was like, Oh, okay, I look cute. And when I started feeling it, I
started noticing like, I was getting attention and like good
attention, healthy attention. I'm not even talking about like,
guys were like, Oh, I want to date you. It was just people
wanted, like I was giving off an energy that people were invited
and like, invited. Does that make sense? I know I'm just
sitting here babbling a lot. But right, so just keep that in
mind. I gave the activation for the ladies earlier on the call.
This was just something that really spoke to my heart over
the last couple days. So ladies, I want you to consider this and
I need to make a note of myself because I promised my one
o'clock ladies, I was going to post what I'm about to talk to
you about. Ladies, I want you to be focusing on worship. I want
you to pick a song or two that just really speaks to your
heart. And I really want you to make some effort this week to
listen to that worship song and spend time worshiping every day
this week. Maybe even a couple times a day. Because I really
truly believe that something really, really shifts in our
thinking and our hearts in this, you know, in, in, in that
spiritual realm, like, when we are in praise and worship, you
know, the negativity, the negativity, the discouragement,
the lies of the enemy have no, like, residence when we are in
praise and worship. And so I want you to be thinking about
that this week and praying and meditating on a song that God is
just speaking to your heart. And what I
Sharing with the ladies at the one o'clock call earlier today, it really brought up in my spirit
some of the worship songs that I had playing my wedding ceremony. One of them we actually
sung in church this weekend. It caught me by surprise because I got married a year and a half
ago. I was like, that's an older song. We're listening to it in church. But then there was
another one that came into my spirit. When I was in this group and I was really battling the
discouragement and there were times that it was easy for me to get hopeless, there was a song
that really spoke to my heart that I religiously clung to in those last several months of my
singleness. I had no idea that I was going to find my spirit mate. I was actually losing hope.
I had been in this program for almost two years. I was watching it happen for everybody else.
I was constantly showing up. I was constantly taking Jackie's advice. I was getting myself
uncomfortable. I'm like, God, is it ever going to happen for me? I was really losing hope,
but there was this worship song that I listened to. I listen to Christian radio.
It's constantly playing in my car. I'm not one of those Spotify girls that has that going on.
I just literally listen to the radio. I know that's so uncommon nowadays, but I do. This song
actually came up and I remember just clinging to it. When I was getting married and I was
planning out the ceremony and having to pick songs, I knew that this song was something that
I needed to play. I'm going to share that with you all in the app, so make sure that you're
going in there and checking it out. I'll do my best to pin them so y'all can listen to them too,
but just keep that in mind. You might be listening to a song that really speaks to your heart
and who knows? Maybe it's something that you walk down the aisle to.
Think about that for a second. I just got goosebumps on that one. Anybody else get goosebumps?
Did anybody get those feels? Yeah. Just think about that. Really pray about that this week
and activate, share it with us in the app. Let us know your songs. Who knows? Maybe a song that
you share, one of your sisters might be walking down the aisle too. Everybody cool on their
activation? We're good? We good? I got 23 ladies on 24 with me. Good to know. Awesome. Remember,
come on camera if you can. I want to see y'all's beautiful faces. I'm going to just take a few
minutes before we jump into questions that I was seeing some things pop up in our community on our
app. I really wanted to spend some time speaking to it and letting us just sit on it. Some of you
ladies that have been on, that were on at one o'clock, you know what I'm going to share. You've
already got some of that wisdom, but maybe you're going to hear something new or maybe I will speak
something a little bit more profound this time around. I want you ladies to be like,
wouldn't you take a moment and want you to ask yourself, and maybe you actually struggle with
this. What we often sometimes see in this community, especially as we're stepping into dating
after coming out of heartwork, there is this, I'll say even a fear that we're going to date
differently. It's going to look a little different. We're worried that we're going to
leave people on. Does anybody else have? Karen, she's like right here. Beverly, she feels it too.
Is it Sarah? I'm so sorry. I'm horrible at names.
Shari. Shari? Yes. Shari, that's a beautiful name. I love it. You get it. Ladies, I remember that
too. We coach you here at Last Year Single to date a little differently than maybe you used
to. I know for myself, the way I used to date is I dated one person at a time.
When I got to know someone, I focused on that one person. Because of that, I found myself
not always in the greatest situation because what I did was I put all my eggs in that
basket. And I would fantasize about a person and I would just
try to make it work that all of the flags that I was seeing,
like those red flags, I ignored those because I was I was focused
on this one person. And I so badly just wanted a relationship
that I was not paying attention to all the red flags. Okay. And
so when I got in this program, and Jackie's like, No, you're
just dating to get to know people. You don't need to get
all of the sparks in the fields. And that like, you know, goo goo
gaga stuff, right? Like, that actually could potentially be a
sign of some unhealthy stuff. And so I was like, Whoa, what
do you like I got to date multiple people like that seems
a little odd. Aren't they gonna think that I'm like, cheating in
some way. And so but really, the reality is, we don't have
any like, we don't have any promises to a person that we're
just getting to know. Besides, I'm here to get to know you to
see if we enjoy each other's company, we have some things in
common. And you know what, after two, three, maybe even four
dates, we'll see if we want to continue this. And if not, no
hard feelings. We can release you, we can release those guys,
or they can release us. And know that we're just one step closer
to our spirit mate. All right. And I know that's so easier said
than done. I tell you, because I did this. Okay. Like, sometimes
I was like, Okay, this is good. And then other times I'm like,
No, God just doesn't have anybody out there for me. Like,
I'm heartbroken. I can't believe that this guy rejected me. And I
had to start learning and practicing that it was God's
divine protection. And rejection was protection. And it and he
was he was looking out for me. And and if anything, it also
allowed me to kind of just say, Okay, it's okay. If I don't feel
like this person's my spirit mate. And it's okay, if they
don't think I'm their spirit mate, it just means that we're
one step closer to actually being with the person that God's
created. Because the last thing you want to have happen is for
you to be it, you know, stuck with somebody that you're really
just after two, three, four dates that you're just like,
Oh, no, you know, and and then but you're hanging on. You're
like, Oh, I don't know. You know, maybe there's just nobody
else out there. So I'll just make this one do y'all I did
that. It never ended. Well. Alright, so I just want you to
spend some time thinking about that. So if that is you and you
have this concern about leading people on let's really like
spend some time and talk about what does that look like? What
is leading? Like what is the true definition of leading
somebody on? So once you stop and think about that, and I
want you to put that in the chat. If you had to give a
definition of what does it really truly mean to lead
somebody on? And let's let's get let's get some feedback on
that. And let's start just breaking off any lie that we're
really leading people on. If our heart is postured in a good way,
we're not really doing that. So Natalie is saying it's
continuing to date when you're not feeling it. Well, but
Natalie, is it after one day, two days? Why are you not
feeling it? Okay, well, these are things to be thinking about.
Okay. If intimacy outweighs commitment, if we're saying
things that we don't mean that's true. Like I want so some things
that I decided to take notes on here and I want to share with
you like what it meant to me is that when we're emotionally
invested, or keeping someone emotionally invested in us for
attention, validation or other personal benefits, it's
potentially manipulating them. We're seeking something from
them so that we'll hold on to them because we're using them to
fill a void or give something back to us. And so if that
truly is happening, ladies, then we're going to want to do some
revealing healing and we're going to want to do some
heartwork. Okay. But I really don't think that many or most of
you are coming into this season and in this in this group.
Because
you're trying to get something from somebody
without truly wanting the desire of what God actually has.
Does that make sense?
Okay.
So yeah, like Amy said,
leading people on to me is manipulative.
You're right.
If it is in a heart posture
where you're manipulating someone
to get them to do something for you
or to make you feel a certain way,
then yeah, we need to investigate that.
But a lot of times when you ladies are coming and sharing,
well, I just don't think this is persons for me,
and I'm leading them on, so that's why.
No, I don't think it's you leading them on.
You are simply just spending a little more time
investigating a little bit more about who this person is,
learning a little bit more about somebody.
So you don't have to know if this person's your spirit mate.
We actually encourage you to kind of shelf that
in that early stages of level two.
And I know for some of you, that's stretching you.
Right?
I know that can be a stretch because if...
I say it because it was a stretch for me.
I went into every dating situation
like I just want this to be my person.
Is this my husband?
Can I spend the rest of my life with this person?
And really that's not the stage of the game.
That's not healthy pacing.
It really isn't ladies.
And we coach it because we've experienced it.
I've watched women walk through that process as well,
and they're rushing to figure out
whether or not this guy is for them.
And sometimes you could potentially be robbing yourself
of an opportunity that God wants to grow you in
because maybe he's bringing someone in your path
to get to know a little more,
to show and reveal some area of your heart
that he wants to heal and prepare.
And you'll hear us speak this a lot
that God wants you married more
than you probably want to be married yourself.
But one thing that he wants more for you is your healing.
And I speak this from my own wisdom and experience
is that the dating opportunities that I had,
the two years that I was really in this program
and investing and putting my heart into it,
and at times getting discouraged and distracted,
at times having some highs and having some lows,
God walked me through a series
of several relationships or dating experience
because I couldn't even really call
some of those relationships.
A lot of times I only went on one date with someone,
not because I wasn't open to dating,
going on a second or third date,
but a lot of times the guys just didn't ask me out
on a second date after I told him I was interested in one.
So a lot of times I was always in my own head
thinking, oh, I don't know how I feel about this person.
Well, I didn't even have to decide
because guys already decided that.
And then there were some that I actually,
there was one in particular,
I had to really take it to the Lord.
And I ended things with him and I still wasn't 100% sure
if I was supposed to do it.
But I went on three dates with him,
had a fourth one lined up,
and then just something in my heart was like,
okay, it's okay for me to go ahead and release him.
And I came into this community
and I always was open and shared vulnerably
with the other women in this community
and Jackie and everybody else.
And so it really helped me.
So I want you to keep that in mind.
And I hope that, I know I just probably fire hosed you
with a lot of information,
but I really want you to take time to process that.
And if you have questions on it,
we can most certainly unpack a little more
with you on this call.
I'm gonna go through here, some of the chats.
I see I got six messages I haven't gotten to see yet,
but go ahead and start putting your hands up
if you have questions.
I know Beverly, I told her I was gonna give her
the floor first.
Then I've got Natalie, Karen, Sheree,
is it Sheree or Shirai?
I'm sorry, you're gonna have to repeat it a couple of times.
It's Shirai.
Shirai, okay.
And then I have Karen and then anybody else
that wants to share, please do.
Remember, keep it short, brief and powerful.
We got a lot of ladies on this call.
A lot of you, a lot more ladies on the eight o'clock call
than I'm used to on my one o'clock.
So please extend me some grace.
To try to get through everybody.
I usually typically, I feel like there's probably
a lot more questions on the eight o'clock
that I'm not used to.
So we will definitely navigate this together.
Beverly, if I'm going to go ahead and give you the floor and let you share and ask what
coaching advice that you were hoping to get tonight.
Well, I think that actually you commented on most of what I wanted to ask you about.
I just feel like, you know, there's this tension. There is a man, he's 63, actually,
that, you know, I have been dating for a year off and on. I had sort of stopped for a while
because, you know, he wanted me to be his girlfriend and I just really was not that
interested. As I've gotten to know him, he's really, really a great guy. You know, I do
enjoy his company and, you know, we're not, we don't talk every day and we, you know, we might
only go out two times a month or something like that. But, you know, I've just been wrestling
with it because I'm trying to really get into this dating for discovery. And at the same time,
I feel like because I know that he really would like more with me, you know, I've just been asking
myself, is this fair? I mean, should I, I mean, he knows that, you know, from the beginning,
I said that no, I could not be his girlfriend. I hate using that term at 78. That sounds so
funny, but you know what I mean? I do. I do. Yes. But the main thing is, is just because,
you know, I, I have been an ordained minister for 56 years, a missionary evangelist,
you know, just my whole life. His is really quite different. I mean, he's, he's definitely
loves the Lord and is a mature, you know, mature Christian, but we don't have the same. It's like,
we're not on the same journey. And so, you know, that's really being the big part of it is that
when I look at it through that lens, I think, well, there's no way he could be my spirit mate.
Because we, we do not have that same. Can you, can you elaborate on that a little more? I mean,
you might've probably discussed this with Ebony, but I want to make sure that I'm
no, I haven't discussed it with anyone actually. Okay. So yeah. Like what in particular do you feel
like you're just not in alignment here? Okay. It sounds like he's a great guy. So we probably see
that he's got some fruits, right? He's got some, some good qualities and characteristics that you
probably admire. And I'm sure you probably find, um, attractive on some level, right?
No, I do. And so what, where is this, uh, you know what, I don't see that this aligning. So
what can you give me some feedback on that? My whole focus is on having impact and, uh, really
nurturing people, you know, in their purpose and their God given purpose. Uh, everything that I do
pretty much focuses on that. I, I am an author. I teach Bible online. I direct an organization
in Haiti where I lived 18 years. All of my focus is, you know, very missionary oriented.
He's a musician who has two bands and, um, you know, travels a lot playing with the bands. Uh,
I have invited him to go to church with me. Uh, you know, he might not.
Does he do worship or is this like secular music? No, secular, secular. Okay.
Mostly Latin, mostly Latin music, but, uh, a lot of different things. And he teaches,
you know, he teaches, uh, guitar to young people. Okay. But the thing is, you know,
I had invited him to go to church with me at the very beginning when we met and he said he would,
but then, um, but then he didn't. And then, you know, the conversation has, sorry,
the conversation has come up, you know, again, and it's like, well, okay. He doesn't get to sleep
till three o'clock in the morning before he packs up all of his gear. And so, you know, then he ends
up, no, it packs up all of his, you said gear. Huh? Did you say gear? Yeah. Okay. I just,
for a second, I was like, wait, pack up all your gear. I thought you said maybe beer. And I'm like,
no gear when he packs up the gear after they gotcha. Okay. It's three o'clock in the morning.
I've gone just one time with him and it's like, oh no, I can't do this. Um, and so, you know,
it's like, if this is a person that I can't even, you know, worship with somehow that doesn't really
fit into what I see that, you know, the future that God has for me. Yeah. I mean, he's totally
into his music. That's his main thing. Uh, which I think you can probably see, like you admire
certain things about him, but I do like having some of this insight, I can probably see how
there's some, some hesitation and some reservation about stepping in a relationship with him because,
you know, there are some things that
It's your destiny DNA,
like your work that you do and being able to partner with someone in that.
What I will say ladies,
if you have the destiny DNA and a calling on your life to do missionary work or ministry work,
it really is important for you to find someone that
can also have the capacity to walk alongside you in that.
It doesn't mean that they're going to do things the way that you do them necessarily,
but there has to be some alignment somewhere,
especially on that spiritual side.
What I'm hearing you say, Beverly,
is that he's probably not chasing after things the same way that you would on a spiritual level.
Would that be correct in saying?
Exactly. He talks about God all of the time.
I can tell that he had a wonderful upbringing.
I wish I could have met his parents because they instilled so much character in him.
But when we talk about the things,
he's so proud of me and what I'm doing,
and he's always encouraging me.
But if I'm going to go on a mission trip and I do go out of the country,
he said, I'll support you.
That'll be fine. I won't mind you going.
But then he's going to be traveling with the band.
It's like, that's not really how I see my future.
That was going to be my next question,
is have you had the honest open conversation with him of like,
this is what I'm looking for and this is what I believe
my partner is going to also have to carry some capacity.
While I appreciate that you will be supportive,
I'm not sure I can feel confident
that you understand what this would look like in the capacity.
Well, I had that conversation with him before initially,
and then that's why we didn't see each other really for a couple of months,
and then he resurfaced,
and then I said things about it again two weeks ago.
The reason that I wanted to ask the question tonight is because the next time we're together,
I wanted to clarify it even more and just telling,
I don't want to feel like I'm wasting your time because this is what I'm at.
I think at this point,
so what I was sharing earlier is really for under the content or not content,
the context that these are men that you may be dating in the beginning stages.
This situation is a little bit more unique as you all have
been walking in some form of a level 2 relationship,
but it's not that early stages getting to know you,
it's more of those later stages of level 2 of,
okay, we need to decide,
are we going to continue this and it's going to move
towards exclusivity or do we need to part ways?
Your situation is a little more unique because you've had
more time of getting to know each other and having these conversations.
This is where I would advise,
spend some time in prayer if you have not already done so,
but I would imagine you have and really ask the Lord to show you
what clear boundaries that you need to put in place and what is,
are you holding onto this in a certain way or are you okay to release it and what that looks like?
No, I'm okay to release it.
I didn't hear you, what did you say?
I said, I'm okay to release it.
It's just that I hadn't seen him for about three months and then I got in the program and he called
and I'm supposed to be dating for discovery.
Yeah.
I thought, okay, well, I'll go out with him again and he's very, very respectful.
He's not pushing me on anything and then I am dating another guy as well.
I'm just trying to go along with the program and learn things and
continuing to go through heart healing and whatever is necessary,
but I do have a pretty clear picture of what I believe that God has for me and the spirit made,
and I don't mean by physically what he looks like,
but spiritually what he looks like and so I don't want to settle for less.
I mean, I could, this person, if I stayed with them long enough,
I could develop a stronger relationship with him, but I know I would be settling.
I know that that's not really-
Yeah, and I think that's really good and it's really healthy.
I love your heart posture to work the program and take on the advice and really
know that you're making the right steps and moves in that direction. And that I applaud.
And so I think you really have given it time. You've gotten to know this guy. You think
he's a great guy. But like you said, ladies, I want you to know, you do not have to settle.
Now if Beverly was making a knee-jerk reaction and she was putting up some walls, we would
be having a different conversation right now. But she's gotten to know this guy. She finds
some good qualities. But at the end of the day, God has shown her her path and he's got
good things for her. And so it reminds me, even when we're walking through, ladies, you
may find yourself in a situation where you're like, this is a great guy. I just don't know
if he's the one for me. And here's the thing, ladies, you can't mess it up. And Beverly,
I think you can comfortably just have a conversation. Again, allow Holy Spirit into that interaction
the next time you see him and allow Holy Spirit to be present. And if releasing him is God's
will, then you walk in that and know that if it's God's will for him to put this man
back in your life, God's going to make it happen. We just have to partner with that.
And so I hope that gives you some encouragement and just know this would not be those situations
where we're like, nope, you got to wait it out. But I really do. I think it's beautiful
what you're doing and you sound healed in many areas. And so that's good. And I just
continue to keep us posted and updated. When are you going to see this guy next?
Possibly tomorrow. And the other guy that I'm dating was just calling, just called twice
while I'm on this call. I'll tell you part of what I'm going through.
Okay, Beverly, I'm going to have you hold the thought because I do have a few more ladies
that I got to get through. And we've got about 30 more minutes left of the call. And I want
to make sure that we get through and then we can revisit. And you can tell me more about
this other guy because I do want to hear about him. All right. Natalie, how are you?
Thanks for taking my call. I'm pulling up to a gate. I have another meeting I had posted
in the chat. But the good news is, in short, I think actually my question was answered
through Beverly because I was getting quite upset as well because I already had four dates
with someone. And I had some very similar reservations. And I'm like, I would feel like
I'm leading this guy on because I'm not feeling it. And I felt like it was also for legitimate
reasons, too, because of the spiritual, and I couldn't see him running with me in the capacity
I wanted. Yeah. Hi, I'm here for seven via Rosa, please. Okay. Thank you. Okay, you too. Sorry,
guys. Oh, you're fine. You're good. So anyway, yeah, so that was it. I just wanted to make sure
I was clear with this understanding of discovery and dating because I'm just at what point do we
just stop and release when we just kind of know? I just not attracted to him. I gave him some
responses. And yeah, like once you ladies have been on a couple dates, and here's the thing,
like I'll just I'll share my own like brief testimony. I had a guy that I was dating. Like
I said, I had three dates with him at a fourth date plan. He was a great guy. There was a lot
of really great qualities there just with something that I couldn't put my finger on,
but I didn't understand it. And I was like, I don't know if this guy's for me. And I kept
again, I was like, Well, no, maybe I'll give another shot. I'll give it another shot.
And it started just after three days, it was starting to make me feel a bit crazy.
Be honest. Like I just really was like, why can't I feel peace about this. And so I had to go to the
Lord in prayer. And I said, Lord, I don't know what I'm doing. But I know that you do. And I
know that you're on this journey with me. And so I'm making a decision. My heart is not to step out
of your will. But and I don't know if this is me stepping out of your will. I don't know if this
is the enemy. I don't know if this is me. I don't know if this is you. But I'm going to release this
guy. And I'm going to trust that if I've made any sort of blip, Lord, you, you Lord, okay,
this is the key. This is this is key phrase. I gave it to God to bring him back into my life.
And what I will say there were times this guy would come up in my spirit. And I'd be like,
well, maybe I'll reach him.
to him. Y'all, Jackie, Jackie would even ask me about him and I could easily be like, well, if
Jackie, you know, my sidekick, my wing woman, my dating coach, my mentor, if she's bringing up,
then it must be God. No, God, you are going to put this man in my path. I don't have to do anything.
And I, I came into partnership with the Lord. I went to him in prayer. I sought the Lord and,
and I just trusted that God, I cannot make a mistake when I want what you want for me.
And so ladies, I want that to give you encouragement. If you have gone on a few
dates with somebody, and again, I say, give them a few dates, as long as there's no glaring red
flags where they are being sexually inappropriate with you. Okay. They are not being rude,
disrespectful, aggressive. Okay. If you're seeing those, those are red flags. And if
you're not sure if it's a red flag, come to us in community, let us know what's happening.
And I'll tell you whether or not it's a red flag or not. Okay. Because I have no problem. I have
no problem ripping the band-aids off for you ladies. Let's know that. Okay. And so as long
as you are, you know, giving it a shot and getting to know somebody and inviting the Lord
into it, ladies, you're not going to mess it up. I promise. Okay. So I hope that Natalie,
I hope that gives you encouragement. I know you're going to another meeting. I hope that you can feel
peace, letting it go. And again, just knowing that God's got you. All right. I hope that gives,
gives you something to just feel like, okay, I can rest easy. Cool. Okay. I think she might
have had to jump off. Karen, how are you? Hi there. Okay. This is for people who perhaps are
just starting because I officially not gone in on any dates yet. And I will tell you, I actually
did post this in the chat. And so if anybody was engaged before or had a situation like that,
I actually had a run in with my ex-fiance this past weekend and I had to tell him why I broke
off the engagement and why we were not going to get back together again. I was so thankful for
the heart work because I was able to articulate very clearly what was in my heart. And I was even
able to speak from, this was what surprised me from a space of healing and a space where I could
actually look at him with love and hope for his healing going forward. And I was, I think that
was the biggest, hugest victory there. I love that. I love it. Yeah. It was pretty huge. It was
pretty huge. It was not comfortable and I don't want, you know, it was not comfortable at all,
but I think that it just really showed me how beautiful this heart work is. So, okay. So now
I'm on my, I'm on the jungle. I'm in the jungle. You're like, wait, okay, now I'm in it. Like,
what do I do? Oh my gosh. And so the dating for discovery has definitely worked to the point of
where I will, I know if they call me sexy, baby, whatever, I will not, you know, if there's a nice
way to get them to not call me those things, I would like to know, but I actually did try to,
with one of them say, Hey, can we maybe talk about this? Cause I feel like we might be wanting a
couple of different, two different things. And of course he weeded himself out. He never called me
up. So they'll do that ladies. Let me tell you, especially when you're praying to Holy spirit,
people just shut doors on people that you will not even realize like, wait, what just happened?
Yeah. Yeah. It was, it was, that was kind of protection is God's like protection.
Like you are God defended ladies. Like sometimes guys will just weed themselves out and you will
not know why they disappeared, but count your lucky stars that they did.
There is. Um, and, but I think, okay. My big question is, okay. So, well, okay. The big
question is there has been a level of discouragement now because it feels like it has
happened more often than not, where maybe somebody will say, I'll call you and then they won't. And
see for me, I'm under, I'm starting to understand. So the, the, the good thing is I'm starting to
understand my value. It's like, no, if you're telling me to call at a certain time, then
you need to call because I'm worth it. You know, that is my value.
you and you need to really stick to your words because we're still meeting. So this is my
impression of you. And I'm trying to be as honorable as possible. So there's a lot of
discouragement right now because they're weeding themselves out so quickly. It's like, okay,
I haven't dated anybody. But I dropped my hanky and this one is a little bit nervous for me. By
the way, he has not picked it up yet, but I dropped my hanky for a guy and he is probably
trouble for me because he is, because he's very attractive and he is, um, yeah, he's very
attractive. And if he actually picks it up and we actually go out then, and I'm, I know I'm looking
ahead, but I figure that with, because Facebook dating is like in that week thing that it may be
nothing by next week, but I definitely need to go for it. Definitely praying about it because
he, um, yeah, he's, he's charismatic and yeah, there's, there's attraction there.
Absolutely. Ladies. And, and, and, and let's be honest, like you're going to be attracted to some
of these guys that you go out on dates with. You're going to be hopeful. You're going to,
there's going to be some, some anticipation, right? Okay. So what I'm really feeling led to
share with you, and I think it's going to help the other women on the call as well is to rest assured
you have a community. This is when this community is the most valuable. Okay.
So that you don't put yourself in a, in a situation that you can't get yourself out of.
We're here to help support you and lift you up. We're here to help you with the blind spots.
I say, get excited about it, but let's just, again, make sure that you're, you know, in prayer as
always. Okay. What is God trying to reveal to you? What is he trying to show you? Because every one
of these dating experiences that you ladies go on, you are open to the opportunity for God to work
it in the way that's going to help you prepare for marriage and help you with the capacity
that it's going to take to, to have a kingdom marriage. Okay. And so these are all, y'all are
going to have individual journeys that you're going on. And so it's going to be super important
that you all are sharing in the community what's happening. It's why I constantly encourage you
create posts in our community, the women that show up and create the post and come to the calls
and they're vulnerable and they're real. And I know for some of you, it's going to scare you off
and you're gonna be like, but Carla, I don't want to do that. I've been hurt in community.
What I will tell you, if you've been hurt in community, you'll be healed, healed in community.
If you've been hurt in relationship, you will be healed in relationship. This community is here,
is here to support you and grow you so that you can prepare for what God has for you. Okay.
You know, we're here to check your, check yourself before you wreck yourself.
All right. I remember, and it's funny because this, this dating situation came up in my spirit
earlier today as I was preparing for the one o'clock call. And I didn't end up sharing on the
one o'clock call because it never really came up in my mind, in my spirit. But I do remember
kind of thinking on it today. And so I'm going to share it now. I went on a date with a guy
and I knew when I was meeting, like I was meeting him, he was very attractive. He's a very handsome
guy. He had a really great job. Just, just a great guy. Like from what I could see on paper,
right. And just our interactions, there was some good energy. Okay. He asked me on a date that I
wouldn't typically go on a first date with. It was like to a concert. Like I wouldn't say, yeah,
that's probably the best first date, but I was like, okay, I'm going to be open to it.
But I was like, let's meet first. Let's go for dinner. And I met him and I was getting to know
him and ladies, this man was dropping so many F-bombs and y'all I'll like, I'm not a prude.
I have a mouth at times, like, you know, when I'm really like heated about something. Okay. Now I,
I don't allow that to come out unless it's usually with my husband because he's my safe space and
there's no, there's no judgment there. And I can go to him and be, and be authentic. And,
you know, and he loves me through it. And he also encourages me, like, let's not use that
kind of language. Okay. So I'm not a prude, but I knew I was like, I don't like this. Like,
however, we continued the date. We go to this concert and ladies, let me tell you,
I was getting swooned by this man. Like he would put his hand on the small of my back.
and y'all, physical touch will get me in trouble.
But why I'm bringing this up
is because God used this situation to show me
how I operated in my past
and how it wasn't God's design for me.
It wasn't his plan for me.
And I could have listened to the lies,
I could have used that discouragement to kind of,
oh, I'll entertain this, I'll be fine.
No, what I did is I came into the community
and I got real with the ladies in this community.
I'm like, y'all, I went on this date
and this is what happened.
And I need your prayer, this is what I'm processing.
I processed through this whole date
with the women in my community.
And so I'm saying this
because I really think this is timely, Karen,
that you're bringing this up,
is that it is so important to show up
and to be present on these calls and in our app
and let us know what's happening.
And so, Karen, I wanna encourage you
that even if this man drops the hanky
and you go on this date, you are fine.
You are protected.
Bring it to this community, we'll walk you through it.
We're here to help you, we're here to support you.
Um, I wanna also speak real quick
to men calling you sexy and baby.
Thank you.
Ugh, it's gross, right?
Y'all, I can't, and let me tell you,
this is when, okay, there's healthy balance here, okay?
We wanna give, we always wanna give men grace
because some men just don't know better.
And believe it or not, it works for a lot of women.
These men are on these apps
and they're trying to navigate the same thing, okay?
And so they think it works.
And I'm sure there've been women out there
where it did work, okay?
And so we wanna give grace to an extent,
but we wanna communicate a boundary.
Hey, um, I'm sure you mean this as a compliment
and I appreciate you saying that.
I am not comfortable with you using
those terms of endearment.
And so I'm gonna ask that you withhold saying that.
You don't have to say those things to me.
I'm happy to continue to get to know you
and learn a little bit more about each other.
But I am gonna ask that you don't use those,
that terminology with me
since we don't really know each other well.
Would that be okay with you?
And ladies, a good man
that probably just doesn't know better
is gonna accept that,
probably be apologetic and honor your boundary.
Or they're not and they're gonna be manipulative
and they're gonna be passive aggressive
and they're gonna wanna just turn it on you.
They're gonna wanna gaslight you.
And if that's what is exposed
with you communicating a healthy boundary,
you wanna know what you ladies do?
Block and bless.
Bless and block, girl.
Bless and block.
You don't have to give them any explanation.
You set a boundary, ladies.
And again, bring it to the community.
If you're really like, okay, this is what I did.
I don't know if I was supposed to do it,
but this is how he responded.
This is how I responded.
This is how he responded.
This is what I did.
Lay it out on the table for us.
And we'll be honest with you.
We'll walk through the process with you.
We'll unpack it with you.
And again, remember,
there's nothing you can do to mess this up, right?
So I hope that helps you.
Esther, your discouragement,
know that it's common to feel that way.
I can't tell you the amounts of discouragement
I felt a week before my husband dropped into my DMs.
I was having the snot face fall with Jackie.
I mean, just downright like, Jackie, I'm done.
I'm giving up.
I'm not doing this anymore.
I'm tore up from the floor up.
This isn't gonna happen.
And she just prophesied over me.
Now, this was during a time when our community was smaller
and she was able to do that.
So I say that and just don't hold her to that.
Okay, don't expect that to happen, okay?
You know, we can do things on these calls
like myself and Bethany,
like last week I was praying over somebody
and I felt Holy Spirit on that.
Like, we're here to help support you.
But again, I was discouraged and you never know.
know what can happen in those moments and there was just a shift and a week
later like I said my husband dropped in my DMs and the rest is history y'all.
Okay so just know we've got your back okay it's okay to feel the
discouragement at times you know share it with us we're here to lift you up
we're here to pray with you about it we're here to give you encouragement
we're here to share stories and testimonies of what we've experienced
myself, Ebony, Bethany, any of the women in the community that have success
stories and we're here just to lift each other up we're here to to give you
encouragement I'm here like I have been in this program for five years I have
seen it all I've seen all the love stories some of them I've been in the
weddings I've done I've done all of that and there's no situation y'all that God
is not the author of through love stories he's got the best one for you
he really really does and we have well I think it's like over 1,600 marriages
now in our community so let me tell you and every one of those 1,600 is
probably is unique okay so just let that be an encouragement for y'all Karen
thank you so much for showing up and being vulnerable and just continue to
keep us posted okay thank you you're welcome
Shirai, girlfriend, what's up? I think I responded to you a few days ago and you
might have responded to me and I might not have gotten back to you and I did
was um yeah you you met you um okay so I'll be looking at that this week too
and so just know I'm here to give you give you feedback okay okay what you got
for me today so I met another guy on Facebook dating and we've been chatting
we've had some texting a few phone calls and then yesterday we had a video chat
and this is this is putting it mildly he was like laying it on thick like it
was like you're gonna be basically you're saying he didn't know what he was
doing he would it was it was a lot I was just I was overwhelmed like you're gonna
you're gonna be my wife and and I'm like and I'm and I'm and but my question
was what was your response when he was kind of like I was just smiling kind of
like okay like I don't know how to respond to that I'm like that's nice like
I don't know I didn't know how to respond to that so then he but it brought
up to something that happened previously with the other guy that I ended things
with because he brought up that he didn't well you you probably don't know
the guy I had like four dates with okay we ended up ending things or I ended up
ending things and it was actually ended during a call on one of these nights and
Ebony had to literally walk me through like ending it it was yeah but okay I do
recall because I do like I do sometimes remember and I sometimes will go back
and watch calls as well was this because you did share about a guy who was super
passive-aggressive when he kind of yeah yeah that's the guy that's that's who I
had to end it with but not good because I think I even gave you some feedback on
that one too and I was like hold up like you need to set a boundary with this guy
he wanted he wanted he got upset because he saw my he saw my pictures that I had
that I had sent to him on it on my dating profile on another app and he
felt like I should have like that I was should been a I guess exclusively dating
him without him saying I want to exclusively date you and he didn't even
say say any of those things and so it was kind of like it kind of felt like he
was like calling me a floozy in so many words here's the thing is that's gas
lighting that's gas lighting and so we like that's what that's why we come to
community cuz yeah I didn't like how that man responded to you when you try
to put up the boundary I remember I really remember that guy cuz I was like
no he doesn't deserve any time with her
So, I'm so glad, I'm thankful you ended it with him.
Yeah.
And I hope that you grew and you learned something from that.
I definitely learned from that.
Good.
Good, good, good.
But this guy is like, so it's bringing that back up because he was like, he asked me about
like not, like if he wanted, if we were going to get to know each other, could I commit
to like only seeing him?
And I'm like, and I'm like, I said to him, I said, um, well, I would like to at least
go on one real date in person with you before I say I'm gonna, because I don't think that,
you know, I mean, we don't know each other, you're a stranger.
And so I'm like, and so I didn't, I'm so I'm not really like, I'm not, that's what my question
was.
Like, how do you, how do you tell somebody, um, I'm, because what ended that other thing
with the other guy is like, he didn't, he felt like I wanted him to, I wanted him to
chase me and that he was going to be in competition with other men.
And he didn't want to be in competition with other men.
And um, yeah, sorry, boy, bye.
If you're insecure, then we're not a match.
Best of luck to you.
Bye boy, bye.
Ladies, like I'm telling you, like, we're all about the kind of nice and you know, all
like, okay.
Like, we're all about kind, but kind of nice are two different things.
Okay.
Being honest and truthful and, and, and knowing your worth and identity and being clear in
your communication is being kind.
Okay.
You're not saying in a harsh way, but you can just say, I mean, I'm going to be real
with y'all.
Okay.
So I'm sure y'all can see from my personality, like I'm, I'm very straightforward, but I'm
So again, how I approach it and maybe a little bit different, but I've had to learn to grow
in this, especially when I was dating is I will just tell it like it is, sir, you're
a stranger.
I don't really know you.
And I'm not okay with making, with answering that kind of question, let's take it down
a notch.
Let's just get to know each other and see if we just enjoy spending or spending time
with each other and each other's company.
Do we have some common interests?
Can we make each other's laugh?
Do we enjoy being around one another?
And let's go from there.
Okay.
Now we don't have to say it in a rude way.
You know, truth be told, my husband came, put it on thick as well.
Okay.
He, uh, his response.
So we had been, we were long distance.
We were getting to know each other over phone and text, and he was going to come visit me
after three weeks.
Okay.
So we really do encourage ladies, if you're long distance, someone, okay, this is my plug
for long distance, you know, get togethers and getting to know somebody within three
to six weeks, you need to be in person.
Okay.
So, you know, he and I were getting to know each other.
He was coming to visit me exactly three weeks after we made contact.
And his question to me was, am I going to get to see you more than once while I'm visiting?
And my response was, uh, I don't know.
I need to get to know you first.
Can we go on a first date and then decide?
And we talk about it now.
And I'm like, what was your response?
And you want to know what he said?
He was like, Oh, he's like in my mind.
I thought, Oh, she's right.
What if she's crazy?
So don't be afraid ladies to say, Hey, you know, that's a good question.
I can't answer that because I don't know you.
So let's, let's just take it down a notch and let's spend time getting to know each
other and let's pace this out appropriately.
What do you say about that, sir?
Okay.
I'm going to go from there.
Okay.
Does that feel like something you feel like you can comfortably do?
I think it's something I can comfortably do.
I guess I've, what I've realized in all of this is that fear rises up a lot, um, with
that was going to be my next, um, let's, we're gonna, you know, we can spend some time unpacking
that.
give you some things to be meditating and praying about this week and start,
you know, again, this is where that heartwork comes in, you know, what fear,
what thought, what anxious, you know, lie are starting to surface and let's
identify what that lie is.
Let's ask God to reveal where that lie entered.
Where's the root of that?
Let's walk through the healing process, whether, you know, there's
forgiveness and, you know, letting that go.
But again, what I want to emphasize with all you ladies and is
heartwork is never over.
Okay.
I always say that on my calls, but what's important to understand about
heartwork, especially when these lies surface is we can't just say, okay,
I'm going to pray that lie away.
We have to replace it with God's truth.
And I always see, and I'm guilty of this myself is that sometimes I can
recognize the lie and Holy spirit can show me memories of where maybe this lie
entered and I can, you know, reconcile that I can forgive, I can walk through
that process, but, you know, if I'm honest, there are times that I forget to
ask the Lord to replace that lie with his truth.
And so I want you to spend time this week is, you know, really identifying
what's the, what's the core root lie or fear belief, you know, and ask Holy
spirit to reveal where that, where that entered and let's walk through that
heartwork process.
That's something that you're, you feel good about doing, and then you can
report back to us next week.
Yes.
I know that the fear comes from like fear of being alone and that, that is
definitely a scarcity.
Like the only guy that's going to show interest in me, you know, it's
definitely, that's what the fear is.
Yeah.
And we can speak to that lie.
We can tell that lie to go back where it belongs in the pit of hell, because
that's where that lie comes from.
That comes from the enemy.
And so once we can see, we can speak to that and we can reconcile like, okay,
this is where it came in and I don't have to align with this anymore.
I come against that lie.
And now God is going to start replacing it with his truth.
And so when that, why wants to come back?
Cause ladies, I mean, let's be real here.
And, and I'm, I'm sharing this from experience.
We walk through this heartwork stuff and these lies can get uncovered and
But I'll be honest, it's, they sometimes want to creep back in.
We can like cast it out.
And then all of a sudden it wants to creep its ugly head again.
And sometimes we have to come back and be like, no, I've already let this go.
And then we got to start speaking his truth over us.
And once we, cause at this point, if we're asking God to replace it,
you've already got it right here.
And so when that lie wants to creep in and remind yourself, no, I've
come against this lie.
This is what God says about me.
This is the truth.
You can take that line.
You can go back to hell where you belong, because I'm not going to, I'm not going
to align with what you say, Satan, not today, Satan, right.
And start speaking that truth.
Okay.
And this is just like, again, this is why heartwork is so good.
It's, it's why you will use it for the rest of your life.
Cause believe it or not, ladies, you're going to use this in your marriage.
Heartwork revealing for healings are going to come up in your marriage.
I cannot tell you the enemy wants to come and attack marriages, especially
kingdom marriages, y'all like, I can't tell you some of the things that the
enemy has come and tried to create lies into my head, into my husband's heads,
into my kids' heads, and we've had to combat that.
We've, I've had to walk us all through heartwork.
Okay.
It doesn't go away.
Heartwork is a tool that you will use the rest of your life and it is a blessing.
Okay.
So I want to encourage you with that.
Okay.
We've got maybe another five or 10 minutes.
Felicia, you are my next hand raise.
Um, Mar is it Marley?
If I have some time, we can visit.
I know you posted in the app.
So if I can't get to you, we can go ahead and revisit in the app and we can, and
cover some more cause I do want to walk through some things with you.
I think if I recall, I remember a few things and then I know a few
of you have put things in the chat.
I know, um, Juanita, you brought some things up, so I hope you've been able
to process and, and really hear from Holy spirit and our time together.
Um, Lisa, I don't know if she's still on here.
I hope you, I think Allison helped answer your questions.
And then Missy, you were talking about the ick.
So Missy, if you're still on, I really,
I'm trying to think, was it last week or the week prior
where we kind of talked about that ick feeling?
Okay, so come share it in our app
and we can process and unpack that, Missy,
if you're still here.
Because I do want to speak to that
because there is some stuff, there's some good wisdom
that I have shared over the years about this.
And I've heard Jackie kind of talk on
and we can kind of help maybe where that,
what lies are kind of the surface
when we get those feelings and if they're valid
or if they're just fear and lies
and things that are kind of creeping in.
So just keep that in mind.
All right, so Felicia, I'm going to leave you with the floor
and let's dive in, okay?
You can go ahead and unmute.
I thought there was someone before me.
I just need, I think there was someone before me.
Okay, well, I'm calling on you, girlfriend.
Okay.
So I need to share, I need some hands on with the app
because I'm excited to get into the discovery
and it kind of sound weird,
like everyone says it's a little hard.
I want to hear my heart too.
I want to walk through it.
So I really have beautiful ladies that helped me through it
but I just can't get my hands on it.
One other thing I want to share is that,
as we, I heard Jackie talk about the situation shape
and the delusional shape, it's so real.
It's so real.
And not that I had it, but I had met this guy.
He was the first time he came to our church,
which it was kind of the first few months
I was just attending that church, get to know the ministry.
And the opportunity was there for me to meet him first
and I kind of have my eyes on him a little bit
to see who he was.
So I talked to Ebony about it and she said,
I should drop the hankies, scary for me.
I don't know what that mean.
But anyway, I didn't get to see him
because I know he was traveling.
So I'm kind of that bold girl, I like clarity
and that's what helped me to be bold
because I just like to be clear.
So on the Sunday and as we were just talking a little bit
to kind of get him to know, like,
what bring you to Virginia?
How is it going for you?
And he said, he started telling me
that he's here for healing.
And let me tell you, I was so blessed.
I was so encouraged to hear
that we're praying each morning for men
and to hear that I have the opportunity to talk to one
who is actually taking time off to walk into healing.
He said he has a few marriage, he never said,
but when I said one, he said, well, more than that.
And he said, because he has some issues,
he was in the military, had some PTSD dealing with,
he couldn't keep the marriage.
So he's separated since February.
He decided on the separation because he's not well
to keep a woman or a marriage healthy.
And for me, it was such a blessing
to hear someone is doing that, that we're praying
and God is answering prayer in another man
that we don't know.
He's not in this community,
but he's out there as we're praying for them.
And it was so uplifting when he shared his story with me,
just on the healing journey that he's here for.
Then I can realize that I don't need to be thinking
about this man, because guess what?
He's separated, he's walking through healing,
and he said he's not good for anyone right now
until he walked through these healing.
Great guy, just great guy in ministry, love ministry,
love the things I would love,
but the clarity just give me hope.
That the clarity, we just need to-
I love that.
Are they looking?
Do they, are they interested?
But then we hear that they're walking in healing
just like us, and that just really give me hope.
So I would share that clarity is very important
and we need to get that.
I love that, yeah, just keeping that,
communication, prayer, ladies.
And again, I think this is just a beautiful testimony.
It just reminds me of what I often share with you ladies is,
every one of these situations, experiences, dates,
or whatever that you go on,
sometimes they're not gonna be your spirit mate,
but they're there to help you walk this journey
in this process.
And so it just really, I think what I hear you say,
Felicia, is that this man was placed in your path
as a way that God was able to use him to remind you
that God is at work, he is healing his sons,
that any of you ladies that are concerned or worried
that God doesn't have a healthy, healed man
or someone that's open to having a teachable heart,
that they do exist.
And so not only is it gonna give Felicia encouragement
that God.
God is working, but her coming and sharing it,
I think was on purpose,
because I think there's someone here on this call
that is with us live or even on replay,
that that's gonna touch your heart as well.
And then it's gonna be a reminder and a confirmation
that God hears our prayers
and he's got good sons out there
for his precious daughters.
Man.
Okay?
So ladies, all right, we're a little bit past time.
I wanna, you know, I apologize.
I did my best to get through everybody.
There's a lot more of you on this call
than usually my one o'clock.
So my deepest apologies.
I don't want that to discourage you
from not sharing what was on your heart
to share on our call.
I'm just gonna ask that you throw it in the app
and myself or Ebony will touch on it here
in the next day or two and give you our wisdom
and share, you know, what we feel Holy Spirit
speaking to us.
And, you know, don't hesitate to just continue to show up
for these live calls.
If you can make both, that's great.
I see, you know, a handful of you ladies
that were on my call at one o'clock
and that you're also here on at eight.
I know the time sometimes is a little bit different.
If you make it to a live call,
then watch the replay of the other one.
Cause there's all sorts of questions and nuggets
that we share.
And honestly, Holy Spirit really just, you know,
takes us on a journey.
And I, you know, I'm thankful for all of you showing up
and sharing what's on your heart,
what you're experiencing and just know
it really is helping everyone in this community.
Okay.
So ladies again, thank you so much for your time.
I know Missy, I definitely want to see you in the app
and I want to, you know, talk to what you were, you know,
sharing about the ick.
Lolita, I saw your hand go up.
Marley, I know you wanted to share.
There was, like Felicia said,
there was someone that had their hand up prior
and I don't recall who it is, but you know who it was.
You get in there, share it.
Okay.
And again, ladies, it's always such a blessing to be here.
And yeah, we'll see you next week.
Sound good?
Don't forget worship songs.
I got a note to myself that I'm going to post the ones
that I put in my wedding ceremony
that blessed me in this program.
And I hope that it will bless you all.
But ladies, have a great rest of your night.
All right.
Thank you.
Bye ladies.
Good night.
Thank you, Karla.
Thank you so much, Karla.
Thank you ladies.