Hello, amazing, beautiful people. It is so good to be back here. How did you get on with
week one? Well, first of all, what I'm going to do is I'm actually going to take you through
the process each week. Last week was our welcome, and you actually had two videos in one. You
had the welcome video, and then you had session one. Today, you're going to get session two.
And what we're going to do each week is we're going to do a recap to help you keep it refreshed
in your brain and help you focus and see your progress. Because if we don't pause, and we
don't reflect, and we don't review, we don't get to see God's goodness in our lives. So
here goes, let's get straight into it. Because I know you I just make sure obviously, that
you've got your notes printed off, that you're sat comfortably, and that you're ready, might
even have a cup of coffee, or a cup of tea ready to go so that you can just sit and be
in his presence and enjoy this coaching. So right now, Father God, I thank you for each
person that is listening to this, and is watching this replay, because that's what it is. It's
a replay of the training actually that we do yesterday with a live group. And I love
the fact Lord that you're just giving them pure content. So in this season, and in this
time, I know you're present here. And as two or more are gathered, so I'm on the video,
there with each person, just help them Holy Spirit guide them through what it is that
you want to show them that you want to lift up or bring out so that we can sort it out.
So Lord, I thank you. I thank you for being here with us. I thank you for each person
watching this. And I thank you Holy Spirit for what you're going to do in the next 20
minutes. And we just claim that in Jesus name. Amen. Enjoy.
Okie dokie, here we go, team, we're away. So week two, we really want to exchange confusion
for clarity or unease or peace. In other words, we're turning or exchanging, we're turning
our upside down world the right way up. Confusion, as we know, belongs to the enemy. But God
is simple and straightforward and clear, same today, yesterday and tomorrow. And then that
unease, unrest, that stuff that just niggles at us, that's not God. Jesus, Jesus is the
Prince of Peace. So let's see if we can exchange the other stuff and get into our space. So
welcome back. You know, I hope you had. And you know, as you looked last week on what
you were doing, the words that you speak and who you are, because that's what we were working
through last week. In fact, I'm just going to do a quick recap here. What we looked at
last week was we went straight into what God was doing. So what game did God want to
play with you? Why did he want to play that game? And what did he want you to learn from
it? And I hope that in that, what do you want to learn from this, that you've been thinking
about that during this week. And then the next thing that we looked at was out with
the old and in with the new. So we looked at what holds you back. And then what's the
promise? Every problem has a promise attached, or every issue has a possibility. So every
problem is a is an opportunity is a possibility. So in my case here, it was poor planning.
I obviously know the plans I have for you, but I needed to get into my morning and evening
routine. I needed to get back into it. And actually, I got out my planner, which is
available to all of you. I've just moved it today because I've been coaching. But right
here right now. So I got into my planner. And as you can see, I've been doing every day
since we coached last week, and just working through my top three each day. And this is
available to you this planner in your in your store. The other things that I looked at to
help me is to really focus on what I wanted to do for my morning and evening routine. So
we're going to look at what did you do with your day? And that's what you're going to do
when you recap. So that was a morning routine. So, you know, there, and I also had a quick
look at my vision, you know, just did some bullet points of what I want to achieve in
this next few weeks or months, we are going to go through this in detail this, this lovely
what is your productivity planner. But then again, I just had a quick look at February,
what do I want to achieve? And how do I want to achieve it? And so and then I've got wins here.
So you can start filling this in because this tracks your progress. It have had it on my desk
all week to refer back to so that I can go have I done something to do with that today,
it keeps me focused, it brings me clarity, instead of me doing 428 other things, it keeps
me focused. Actually, it stopped me doing emails and some other stuff I wanted to do right now.
And it kept me focused on doing this video.
you. So it's a really good way to get clarity by tracking what you're doing. I've given you a
planner to help you track and work through. So enjoy working with that. Feel free to email me
if you want to know more. We need some more training on it too. Okay. So rather than being
busy, I wanted to be focused. I wanted to just do the one to three things. And I've actually got two
diaries because I've got two. So that's the summary again. But it's like I've got three
things each day that I'm going to do. And so I work on these, those three things. And today
was to record this video. So now I'm doing it. So what I would like you to do, the first thing
we do in every session, we looked at senses and we looked at the old baggage for new luggage. So
I've just given you a quick recap. So what I want you to consider is the key takeaways from last
week's session. So for me, it was about planning and activating. I need it because it helped me
to focus on what was noble, right and true. Focus on what it was that God really wants me to do
today, tomorrow and the next day. So I just needed to go, right, what do I need to achieve?
What's God calling me to do this right now? And then bringing into my, just my top three.
What are the three things, one to three things that I need to do? And some days,
it was just one thing. So Monday, it was to just finish doing my admin, whatever it was.
I remember something specific I had to do. Oh, that's right. Follow up on all the book,
people who wanted books on Sunday. I needed to make sure that I followed that up for them on
Monday. So it got done. Okay. And then integration of learnings. So how have you applied these
concepts? So I've just kind of done two together. The insights we gained about planning and
activating and focus. And then how have I done that? I've written my notes. I've said what I'm
going to do. I've been using my daily diary here, just to give you an idea. So again, I'm back on
track with this. What have I done? What am I thankful for in my day to make sure I'm just
really onto it and focused. And they sit on my desk every day to make sure that I stay
in the right zone, in the right place at the right time. So that's what's important there.
So here, so me, it's about how have I done it? I've done tracking and it helps me keep on point.
It keeps, so I'm achieving more. And not only that, but I'm much less stressed because I'm
getting things done. I'm not forgetting things. So I'm not forgetting things that are important
to others and to me. So that's been really good. And engagement with others. So just reflecting
on your interactions over the past week, were you able to use the tools to foster connection,
learning and healing? So yes, I've honoured
others, because quite frankly, I'm making sure that I keep in touch with them,
that whoever's ordered the book will say, can I have a book? Can I have this? Can I have that?
Whatever it might be, I've got back to them. And I've made sure that I'm following up. So for
example, Pleroma may well be able to distribute my books throughout New Zealand in the amount of
bookstores. And so therefore, I've had to just follow up, Phil gave me a contact, I followed up
with a contact, you know, and then I'll do another one tomorrow. So it's just around. And again, just
you know, it's how we can work together. So it becomes for a win, win, win.
So just take a moment, I've just given you a quick overview of how I've reviewed my week,
pause this video, take a moment, make sure you're reviewing what did you learn from last time?
What have you applied? And how has it helped? Because it's all very good applying something,
but if it doesn't make any difference, we need to think again, because we want to make
a difference in everything we do. Okay, team. So the other thing I'd like you to do
is just consider where you are right now. As you come into this training, you know, how do you feel
as you're coming in? Are you excited? Are you tired? Is it the end of your day? Where are you at?
So I'm going to give myself an eight out of 10. Because I've just come out of a couple of really
inspiring meetings. And I'm going to give myself, I'm going to say I'm inspired at the moment,
I'm ready to go. I'm like, come on, let's do this. So we're going to look at some key concepts.
So once you've given you just given yourself an idea of where you're at, let's get into it.
So key concepts for this session, we're going to look at key four, which is getting your
life in order, and you'll find this in chapter three.
So what I'd like you to do is just take a moment
to consider the order of your life.
When you write down your thoughts,
to help you, excuse me team, with the following prompts.
So, the first section is about people.
So who comes first in your life and who comes at the end?
So first person at the top and then work your way down
or groups of people, work your way down to the bottom,
to wherever it is for you.
So for some people, friends might be first.
For others, it might be family.
And for others, it may be, you know, spouses.
Or it could be work colleagues.
So you need to work out who comes where, you know,
and where do your parents, or,
and I know family is quite broad,
so I'm just being a bit more specific.
Where do your parents or children sit?
You know, in the order of people.
And where are those that, you know,
might be church people.
There's others that I call family.
So that's a little bit closer.
Those are the friends that we choose to be family.
So they're not just friends, they're not family,
they're a bit, they're kind of in between the two.
So just have a think of the different people in your life
and who is the most important and who's the least important.
So it just helps you to prioritise who comes first
or who's most important to you.
So again, you can pause the video
and just work that out for yourself
or you can carry on as I am.
So what do you, what is it that for you,
you seek fulfilment and identity?
So what is it that really brings you that fulfilment?
What is it that really helps you?
And that you've got some examples there
about God or family or career, but what do you seek?
Where is it that you feel the most welcome,
the most warm, the most happy?
Where is it that you're like, oh my goodness,
I am just so in my element here, I found my tribe.
And what is it that brings you that real sense of peace,
overflow, love, connection, whatever it might be for you?
So, and it could be, you know,
it could be in your part-time with God.
It could be when you are at work.
It could be when you're creating something new.
It could be when you are serving others.
It could be when you're just having dinner
with your husband or spouse or family or friends
or whatever it might be for you.
Excuse me.
It could be looking after yourself
and that could be quiet time.
It could be exercise.
It could be just being yourself.
It could be healthy eating.
It could be doing the fun stuff in life,
your lifestyle choices, which could be swimming
or it could be going to the beach
or it could be mountain biking.
So just have a think.
So there's things that about people
and then there's activities that we do
or things that we do in our day
and where do they sit on the priority order?
And then what do you believe your true priorities
perhaps could be?
So have you got things in the right order?
Just have a think.
Now we might come back to this at the end
or you might come back to this at the end
because at the moment, what we're really looking at
is the people and the things in your life and what order,
what have you got in your life and then what order?
And we'll look at the order really at the end.
Okay, and then we've got,
so just think about what's in your life at the moment.
What have you got in your life?
And then we can look at the order shortly.
And this is all about really considering
what would or could come first in your life.
What do you think would really help you
to make your order settled and right and true
in a perfect world without things going,
you know, without other things happening.
And so I'll loop around to this.
I want you to have a think,
because if I put my order on there,
it will influence your thoughts.
So I just want you to consider what your order might be.
And then we've got life, life alignment,
how we align our lives.
And this is in chapter four,
and we've got love, insight, freedom, and engagement,
because we want all to just pump for us
and stay in alignment with Christ.
So what I want you to think about
is what do you love doing?
What is it that really adds value in your life?
And so for me, creating with God,
like the book, like this course,
it just, I love it, it just makes me pump.
Connecting with him and with people.
And actually just, you know,
connecting with those that just wanna love Jesus,
it just brings me so much joy.
Exercise, like when I walk the dog,
and there has to be exercise with,
so with the dog, with people, with something.
Me exercising on my own, not so much fun,
but for me, it has to be social
because then I do it and I love it and I enjoy it.
So exercise is the people before the exercise for me.
However, it might be different for you.
You might love going and doing things on your own.
So what else do I love that brings me joy?
I actually love eating.
And that, again, with others,
you know, gathering around a meal table, gathering around,
I just love gathering and hanging out with people.
And I don't really care what I do,
like tomorrow, or not tomorrow, Saturday,
I'm off to, yeah, it will be tomorrow
by the time you get this,
I'm off to do the Tongariro Crossing.
And it's all about the people.
And yes, I will enjoy the landscapes.
Yes, I'm not sure I'm going to enjoy the exercise too much,
but I'm gonna choose to enjoy it, so that's good.
Alrighty, and then, so think about the things that you love,
the things that bring you joy, you know,
sorry, I haven't even put poor old family in here,
they're absolutely at the top of the list.
You know, family, being outdoors, in his creation,
all stuff that just brings me joy.
Okay, and then insight.
How can you become more present in your daily life?
In other words, stop thinking about all the bad things
that happen in the day, or could, what about this?
What about that?
All the worries of the world,
because Jesus said, no, no, that's not your gig,
that's mine, belongs to me, doesn't belong to you.
So how can you be more present in your daily life?
So for example, for me,
I can be more present when I'm focused,
when I've had my morning or my evening routine actually,
so do it in the evening first,
followed by my morning routine.
So I literally make sure that I bookend my days,
so that evening routine sets me up,
I have peace at night, and then I can be present,
because I'm not thinking about 426 things in my brain,
I've written it down, I know what needs to be done,
and then at peace, I can be present in the moment.
And when I get on with my morning routine,
I'm then pumping and I'm in my day,
and I'm in the moment,
and I'm thinking about what I need to do now,
I'm not thinking about tomorrow,
because that's already been sorted,
I'm not thinking about anything else,
I'm just getting into my zone.
So those are two things that I use to keep me
into the space that I need to be in.
The other thing that I do is I have my one to three things
each day, and that helps me keep focused,
I just need to get this video done today for you,
and that's a one to three things
that are gonna move my dial,
they're gonna make a difference in my life,
they're gonna impact others and add value.
Yeah, and I think being planned and prepared,
and again, not worrying about tomorrow,
it's got enough worries of its own,
just get on with today, just keep focused on today,
what do I need to do today?
We can have a bigger picture,
so I look at the month, I look at the week.
I look at the day.
So I come from where I want to be and I take it down.
But all I have to worry about now is today.
Okay, so have a pause and think how you can become
more present in your daily life.
Maybe sometimes it's switching off.
So some of it is switching off, oh my goodness,
off the noise or distractions.
Which could be not scrolling,
it could be limiting your time
when you have a look at Facebook
or you check your messages or whatever it might be
because those are all distractions.
They're good, they're important,
or certainly some of the messages can be.
But it's all really about just cutting out the noise.
What do I not need to be doing today?
Success is more about what you say no to
than it is about what you say yes to.
Okay, and then freedom.
What choices can you make today
that will align with your true self?
So those choices could be around,
for example, healthy eating,
so choosing the right foods.
It could be around hydration,
which I have been focused on for a month or so.
It could be around exercising daily.
It could be around
just being intentional
with my diary,
making sure that I'm writing things down
and I'm referring back
to what I set out to do at the beginning of the day.
You know, so that you just, I'm keeping myself,
and that actually keeps me free
to do the things that I want to do
to make sure that I'm honoring
and I'm running my business
and I'm making sure the books are going out
to whatever they need to go to,
whatever it might be.
So just think for yourself
what choices you can make today
to align yourself with your true self,
with what you really want.
Not what others want of you,
but what you really want.
When you work out what you really want,
you're actually serving others in the process.
And then finally, we've got engagement.
How can you engage with the world around you
in a meaningful way?
So thinking about, so for me,
how can I engage the world around me?
I'm always thinking about how I can smile.
Very present, very in the moment,
and just make a nice positive comment.
Isn't it a beautiful day?
Aren't we blessed to be in New Zealand?
Enjoy your walk, if it's people that are out walking.
You know, just acknowledge people.
You know, bless them, whatever it might be.
Obviously, text messages, phone calls,
whatever it might be.
And again, we've got a couple of people
with some sick parents,
or actually a friend of mine lost her father this week.
And so just connecting with you, messaging her,
sending love, she's overseas at the moment.
You know, all of those things.
It's so important that we are meaningful in our comments
and how we interact.
Could be even on Facebook or LinkedIn or whatever.
You just add a comment, well done.
You might, and actually this week,
I did a Google review on a business that I frequent.
And so actually, be lovely for all of you listening to this,
if you could do a Google review for me
on Inspiring Perspectives.
I can even put the review or the link in our email
as this comes out.
So I would love you to do that.
That's great, you're then engaging and thanking me
for the course.
Hopefully it's being helpful.
But for those of you who've worked with me for a while,
it's not just this course,
it's, well, you've known me for a while.
It's like, actually, Sally's always encouraging.
She's always empowering, or whatever it might be.
I'm not going to put words in your mouth.
You can think about that for yourselves.
But how do you engage the world and make it meaningful?
Make it add value?
What is it that you do to add value to somebody else?
Because that's what we're about.
It's about connecting and crossing over.
How do I add value?
I love hanging out with Anati.
She is such a gem.
She adds so much value.
And all of us that are in the worship team come under her.
So every time we gather,
it's because it's under her leadership.
It's under her guidance.
She adds value and engages with us and helps us and she puts on development nights
and really grows us as musicians, which is super cool.
So just consider what that is for you.
Now, I think we still have an issue with this.
Yeah, I thought so.
So I can't actually type in this, which is really unhelpful.
However, what I would like you to do.
So before I go into this, actually, so those are your four.
So what we've done now, we've done key four,
which is just thinking about the order, getting your life in order.
We've done key five, living, you know,
love, insight, freedom and engagement, looked at what those are for you.
And now what I want you to do is really look at your priority order,
the order in which your people and your things come.
So in my example that I can't type in at the moment,
let's just do.
Yeah, I'm just doing verbally for now, so I would be thinking about
and we'll just it'll come up everywhere, but you'll just have to put up
with this for a moment.
So where is God in your life or your faith?
Where does he come?
Where does your own health and well-being?
Where does your spouse?
Or family come?
Where does your work come?
So just consider, so you're going to pause this video
and you are going to work out the order, which is where I said
we'd come back to here.
So what do you believe your true priority should be?
Or actually, what are they currently?
Let's do currently first.
So rather than should, let's do currently.
Go actually, what order are they in?
And then what we can do is go, OK, are they in the right order?
So we can look into the future and say, would we like to change them?
So if we pause for a moment and just consider what order things are coming in
and then is that the right order?
So I'm going to do that for now.
And I'm a bit naughty.
I call this my five F's.
So I'm actually going to give you what I believe is a brilliant order.
And for me, as I aligned my heart and my mind with Christ
and I have no stress, regardless of circumstances,
this order has worked for me.
So faith is actually my physical.
Mental. And spiritual.
Health.
For my typing skills, I really lost it tonight.
And health and well being
because we're human beings before we're human doings.
So we have to be who we are before we go out.
So I have to look if I look after my mental, physical and spiritual health.
I have quite time. I do exercise.
I drink lots of green tea or peppermint tea.
So I'm hydrating well, whatever it might be.
Then I'm looking after myself so that I can be the best coach,
the best wife, the best whatever.
So it's important that I put God first
and myself before I even go out and filled to overflowing before I go out.
I'm not expecting the world to fill me up in the day.
I'm filled so that I pour out in the day.
My job isn't to fill anybody else's cup.
My job is to empty mine
because I'm meant to be adding value throughout the day.
OK, so we've got faith as number one and then family.
For me, I can have all the money in the world, but if I haven't got family,
if I haven't got the people most important to me, what is it for?
So it's really important for me.
Family is next.
They will always come before my work.
They will always come before everything else because they are the number one
in my life and my husband comes before my children.
And I learned that by default in terms of the reason I'm married twice
is because I may have put my children before my husband the first time around.
So just it does help some other factors in that as well.
But for now, ultimately, if you get that in the right order,
it make a big difference.
And so, again, my children and those I'm directly responsible for
will come before my parents in this season to be children.
Your parents kind of sit after your spouse.
OK, so families next and then finance.
If I haven't got anything in my bank account to pay for things I want to do with my family,
to look after myself, to put a roof over myself, I'm not going to be going very far.
So I need to do my work, and often family is our work.
It's the thing that we do.
Sorry, finance is our work, I'm just going to put in here the order, so it has to be
your spouse first, then children, slash parents, just so that you've got that, and obviously
when your children are little, they've got to come before your parents, so it's kind
of, it works in that, that's the order, spouse, children, parents.
Finance is often the work that we do, and then actually, the next F for me is about
having fun, because if I'm having fun, I'll find the people that are the right friends
for me.
So if I try and find my friends and then have my fun, I'm not with the right people,
so having the fun is finding the tribe.
Find your tribe vibe, and you'll find your tribe.
So find my vibe, my fun, and I'll find my tribe, which is my friends.
So that has been the order of play for me for the last, probably at least five years,
since working out and realising that that's what I needed to do, and I have had more fun
in the last five years than I had in my last 50.
I am more settled than I've ever been, more peaceful than I've ever been.
So when we're looking at, it doesn't matter what your priority is currently, you need
to know what it is, and then if you start to realign, so when I did this for the first
time, I had to realign the fact that my husband came before my children, and that was, I really
realised that's where I'd gone wrong, and that I was looking for people and friends
to fill me up, rather than God to fill me up.
God wasn't even on the radar at that point, well he was five years ago, but the reason
things went wrong was because I wasn't looking after myself, I was putting everyone else
first, and I still honour others, but if I don't look after myself first, then I'm actually
doing it the wrong way round, and then what happens is I'm sucking the energy out of people,
rather than giving energy to people.
So just have a wee think about that.
So when you're looking here, for those of you who aren't typing, and I will get this
updated for you, you can handwrite in here, so for me it's faith, family, finance, I'm
just going to have to clear that because it's going to do my head in with all that writing
in there.
So faith, family, finance, fun, friends, that's how I want to be, that's how I am now, that's
how I want to be in the future.
So hopefully this has been helpful for you.
So what we've looked at, we've looked at the importance of clarity and peace in your life,
working out what the order, what the priorities are, and when you align and reflect with your
values and your beliefs, so what's really important to you, then you have that peace,
you have that joy, you have that settlement, and to engage the intentional choices that
lead to fulfilment and joy, and that's what we're doing, we're being intentional, we're
living our life by design, because we've been created to be brilliant, so let's start
using that brilliance and work by design, and not conform to the patterns of this world,
but be transformed by the renewing of our minds, and we'll know where to go.
So what I'd like you to do now is consider your call to action based on what we've just
learned for the coming week.
So faith, family, finance, that's my priorities, so what am I going to do with my faith, family
and finance?
And so just making sure that I bookend with God, and that's an intentional time, and then
I also make sure that I'm hanging out throughout the day, but the key is my bookending, starting
my day in his space, finishing my day in his space, listening to the word, being with him
in the morning, doing the same at night, so I'm just making sure that I'm fully in
that faith space.
And for family, actually in this coming week, we're going to do the Tongariro crossing with
my husband and a few mates, so that's going to be exciting, so I'm looking forward to
doing that.
And then what also it means is I've got undivided attention, quality time with him while we're
away, so that's exciting too, you know, we actually get the quality time, we get time
in the car to chat and yarn and work stuff out and nut it out, and then we get there,
we're with friends, but we've also got some time just for us, which I'm really looking
forward to.
And then for finance, what I'm going to be doing this week,
so I'm actually running my first workshop
on the Great Exchange.
So how exciting is that,
that we're looking after 12 people this weekend
on a workshop, so that's exciting.
So have a think about what are your one to three things
that are going to move your dial forward,
that are going to make you grow,
that are going to help you to go
in the direction you want to go.
And then what I'd like you to do
is I'd like you to self-reflect.
How are you feeling now?
Are you excited about your week ahead?
Are you feeling focused?
Are you feeling like, ooh, some of the weight has gone?
Are you feeling refreshed?
What are you feeling right now?
And score yourself, because it's really important
to consider how you're feeling
and how it relates to what you're doing.
So I'm going to give myself a nine out of 10,
because I'm quite excited
about what I'm going to be doing this week,
and I'm just going to put excited,
because I'm excited about going away.
I'm excited about having time with God.
I'm excited about having time with my husband.
So remember, your journey is a journey of self-discovery.
This video is for you.
It is to help you get the best out of what you need.
I've shared my story with you as I've gone through,
because I think it's easy, then it gives you an example,
but this is actually not about me.
It's about you and getting the best
out of what God has given you.
So thank you for listening.
I love you all dearly.
And Father God, I just ask
that as these guys have sat there
and they've worked it through
and you've been with them, Holy Spirit,
that you will continue to be with them
for the rest of this week,
that you will bless them.
They'll hang out, they'll chat with you.
God, what do you want me to do?
How do you see this, God?
What do you want me to do now?
What about this?
How am I working that?
Whatever it might be, Lord,
I just ask that you will be with them,
you will be for them,
because I know actually that's your word.
And I just get this sense of know the plans I have for you
to prosper you and not to harm you.
And then you'll know, like you'll know is true,
you know, true and perfect will for you.
And I encourage you to focus
on what's noble, right and true.
Focus on the good things,
focus on your family,
focus on what brings you joy and start tracking it.
Use those morning and evening routines.
All right, I love you all dearly.
Have an amazing week and God bless you all.
See you next time.