Welcome, everyone, to Supernatural Saturday.
If you are new here because you're watching in replay and you're not here live, this is
the time when we really press in as a community to the current prophetic reality of heaven.
What is God saying to us?
What does he want us to know?
Hopefully this is a time where this is going to be something that you are struggling with
that you're hearing about on this call, something that you might be struggling with as the week
progresses.
I want it to be a runway of sorts where you can get all the information that you need
to just take off.
That is really what I believe God wants as well.
And so we just look to the Lord, Father God, we're so thankful to be here again this Saturday
morning together for those that are watching in replay as well.
We know, Lord, that you have brought us here for divine appointments, that you have brought
us here, Lord, for such a time as this.
In the earth, there are so many things that are happening that are not in alignment with
your desire, with your plan, with your purposes for mankind.
And so, Lord, we are those change agents.
That's who we are.
You're putting precious wisdom in each and every one of us so that we can go out and
change the world.
And so, Lord, I pray that you would help us, that you would lead us and guide us in Jesus'
name.
Amen.
All right.
So I'm going to slow things down a little bit this morning.
I hope you're all right.
I know that you guys are used to me coming on here, right?
Just like they opened up the stall like a racehorse, let's go.
But this morning, I just want to do a little bit of teaching.
I'm actually in Florida for my niece and nephew, their twins, their graduation from high school.
You guys, first, I just want to say that it took a lot to get them to the finish line.
You know, they had a rough start.
They're being raised by my younger brother because their father is my older brother,
the one that's chronically homeless and mentally ill.
And their mother's had a lot of problems as well, wasn't able to raise them.
You know, these kids have seen it all.
These kids have been raised in tents.
Yes, they've been raised outside in a tent.
Okay.
They have been raised in hotel rooms.
They have been through a lot of stuff.
And when they were about nine years old, they were given to my mother.
My mother had been diagnosed with breast cancer, but she had done the treatments and everything
seemed to be fine.
So she took on these nine-year-old twins so that they could have a home, so they could
go to a regular school system.
And she began to raise them.
And just a year or two into raising them, she became terminally ill with cancer.
And she was very, very sick.
And during those last two years of her life, you know, I was there to help as well.
But my little brother, you know, to keep things, you know, with continuity, these kids had
already been all over the place.
Now they were being raised by my mom and her husband in Florida for four years, and we
wanted to keep them there.
So my little brother stepped in.
He lives down here as well in Florida, 31 years old, you guys, 31 years old.
And he stepped in and he actually took his dad, his, my mom's husband was his father,
took his dad and these kids and put them all in one house together with him.
And he's been raising them for the last five years, getting them all the way through high
school graduation.
And they made it.
And not only did they graduate, but they graduated with high honors with distinction.
Come on.
Come on, y'all.
Yes, my little brother is also single.
For those that said he sounded like a good man, and he's about to be 37 years old.
So if you know, you know.
And but I will tell you that sometimes life gives us things to do that are not easy.
They're hard things.
And we can show up and we can succeed with God's grace and his mercy and his help.
And we've needed that.
And my brother has actually grown very close to the Lord because of this challenge.
He was a Christian already, but he's learned how to pray.
Who knows when you're raising teenagers in this world, you learn how to pray, especially
if you're not that much older than them.
You learn how to pray.
So he's learned how to pray.
He's learned how to ask for help.
These are some important things right here.
I didn't plan on saying any of this, but if this new fits, you go ahead and tie it up
and wear it.
He's learned how to ask for help from other people.
He's always been very independent, very capable.
In fact, when he was 23 years old, he was he was made the GM, the general manager of
a resort golf course down.
here in Florida, and now at 36 years old, he is the higher than general manager of three
different resort golf courses.
He's always been someone who is very capable, very responsible, very knowledgeable, very
get it done.
See that kind of runs in the family.
You can see that, right?
He was raised by two parents.
By the time he came along, I was already out of the house, I was already sent away to live
in a girl's home, but by the time this brother came along, my mom was in a more stable place.
He was raised with two parents in the home and had a very different life than me and
my older brother did.
All of that being said, I just want you guys to understand that there's fruit to be had
when you show up and do the hard stuff.
Like our sister that's on here at 2 a.m. in New Zealand, when you show up and do the
hard stuff, there's fruit to be had.
It's not easy, but it's worth it.
Isn't that what we say here at Last Year Single?
It's not easy, but it's worth it.
All right, so that's just the beginning of today.
We have all 246 of us on right now, and we're going to go ahead and do a little housekeeping.
I don't want you guys to forget that tomorrow night, we don't have activation as usual.
We have our all-community prophetic night, right?
Isn't that tomorrow night?
If it isn't, someone correct me because I'm not always on point with the calendar, but
I believe it is tomorrow night.
If that's the case, then be there or be square, okay?
This is going to be great.
If you've never been to one of those, our whole prayer team shows up, and we really
lean into the prophetic.
If you've never experienced that, it's going to be a real treat for you.
We don't do anything weird, okay?
If you've had bad experiences with the prophetic, don't worry, you're not going to have them
again.
All right, so I've been on a whirlwind weekend of graduations, you guys.
You know what happened to us last night?
I'm just going to just kind of chat with you guys a little bit.
I'm feeling Holy Spirit flow in this, and then I'm going to get to a little teaching
that I want to do.
David, we're driving a rental car, obviously, and he's not used to this car.
It dinged that it was low fuel, and then it immediately ran out of gas.
It let us know, ding, and then no gas.
In front of a Target, I mean, if you're going to break down and run out of gas, I mean,
Target's the place to do it, right?
You can just go in, hang out, have a Starbucks, and just stop around for things that you don't
need.
That's what you can do, fast fashion from China, just go in there, hang out a little
bit.
So anyway, it really got me to thinking, you know, obviously, it dinged to let us know,
and then it immediately was done.
We were broke down on the side of the road, so to speak.
But how many times, and I write about the engine light in the heart work, and how often
we ignore it.
I want you to just be honest right now and raise your hand if you are the kind of person
that rides your gas tank until the fumes run out, just in real life, your car.
Your get gas light comes on, you're like, oh, I got 50 more miles, I'm good, you know?
Let's see all the hands of the people that take it down to the last drop.
Yeah.
It's normal for people to get in your car, ride with you, and the gas light's on.
The gas light's on.
Well, just so you guys know, if you ever buy a Jeep, the brand Jeep, doesn't matter what
kind, they don't roll like that.
When the gas light comes on, it's already too late.
Okay, we got a lot of you, and so bless y'all.
I pray that you don't, and you all seem to be females, and so please don't run out of
gas in the middle of the night on the side of the road by yourself.
Put some gas in your tank, ladies.
And so that is what I want to say right now to us.
We got to put some gas in our tank, right?
Got to do a little more self-care.
Got to be a little bit more proactive with our lives.
Our gas light's been on for a while.
Holy Spirit's been trying to tell us, hey, you're running on empty.
You're running on empty.
It's time to slow down.
It's time to get gassed up.
It's time to get filled up, fueled up.
There's a long journey ahead.
You need more than what you have right now.
And so I don't know who that's a word for,
but I was just feeling really to go there this morning
with that word as we've been blowing here this morning.
And so if that's you,
you're just one moment from a breakdown.
You just constantly try to press through,
press through, press through, press through.
It's time to stop that.
It's time to take some rest.
It's time to get filled up, fueled up,
ready to go on a longer journey.
You want all this stuff from the Lord.
You've been asking for all this stuff from the Lord,
and he knows that you actually can't handle
what you're asking for.
He knows you better than you know yourself.
And he knows that if he gave you what you were asking for,
it would break you
because you are not physically, mentally,
emotionally, relationally able to take it on.
And I don't want you to hear that and think,
oh gosh, then that means my promises are really far away.
No, they're not.
They're on the other side of alignment.
Get into alignment with the Lord.
He can fill you up in a moment, right?
He can get you back on track and doing the things
that you need to be doing for yourself
in order to go the longer distance
in a very short amount of time.
He can accelerate that healing, that breakthrough,
that understanding, whatever it is that you need.
And so don't be discouraged.
What I find is is that when people think
that things are still far away off,
what they do is they begin to self-medicate
and they actually end up in a much worse position
than they are even when they realize
that they have changes to make.
I'm gonna repeat that so you can understand it.
When people begin to think that their hope
is gonna be deferred even longer,
it makes their heart sick enough
to go looking for medication
that actually causes that very thing to happen
for it to be deferred even longer
because now they're really off track.
So don't let the enemy lie to you and tell you,
oh, I'm gonna be in this waiting room forever
because first of all, you shouldn't be in a waiting room.
There are no waiting rooms in the kingdom.
So guess what?
If you're in a waiting room,
you're in a waiting room of your own making
or you're in a waiting room that trauma has built,
that lies have built.
It's time to get out of the waiting room.
Life is now, friends.
Life is right now.
You don't get another life.
There's no reincarnation.
This is it.
Your life on earth, you get one
and it's not too late to start living the best one.
All right?
So we can go two different ways this morning
with this teaching and I'm gonna let you vote.
I can take the wisdom that I'm going to share
with you today and I can focus it fully on love life.
Or I can take the wisdom that I'm gonna share
with you this morning and we can focus it
on your whole life.
Which do you prefer?
Put a heart in the chat if you want love life
and put a thumbs up if you want your whole life.
Let's see it, let's see it, let's see it.
Oh, oh, I see a lot of thumbs up.
All right, we're gonna go for it.
All right, you guys might wanna take a little bit of notes.
Although this will be available in replay for you
so you can get it later.
So I wanna talk to you guys about something
that happens to all of us.
And I started this conversation last Supernatural Saturday
but I was traveling.
Guys, it's been back to back travel seasons
for David and I.
I was traveling in Louisville and I was running around
so David jumped in and we were talking
about hitting watermarks.
What are those watermarks?
Those watermarks are places that we never get past.
Those are our glass ceilings, those are our upper limits.
And all of us have that glass ceiling problem.
All of us do.
Each of us has an inner gauge, a setting.
Please listen, please hear.
Holy Spirit, open their ears to hear this morning.
Each and every one of us, because of what we've been from,
I mean, from what we've come from,
from what we've been through,
every one of us, because of what we believe.
Because remember, trauma doesn't just hurt us,
it creates different versions of us.
And it's the lies that we believe because of that trauma
that set these inner gauges.
And that's what we're doing here.
That's why heart work is not over yet.
We gotta continue to press forward
until we're living the life that God wrote about us
in that book that he has about us.
Each of us has a book, a story.
And I don't know about you, but I'm gonna keep pressing
until I'm living in that story.
So each of us has this inner gauge, it's a setting inside of us and it's determining
how much love, how much success, how much joy, fill in the blank, how much creativity,
how much whatever you fill in the blank for yourself that we will allow ourselves, that
is a very important word, write it down, allow.
How much we will allow ourselves to enjoy, how much of those things will we allow ourselves
to enjoy?
And you're like, what?
I want it all, Jackie, no you don't.
You have an inner gauge that tells you how much you deserve and if you get past it, you
will stop.
Guys, I'm going to cry, you will stop, you will shut it off, I know that you think it's
something else shutting it off, I know you think it's the devil shutting it off, I know
you think it's other people shutting it off, but it isn't, it is you, it is you.
Have you ever had a really good, exciting time starting to happen in your life and then
all of a sudden you get sick with a cold, with the flu or with something else?
Something else starts going, you know, weird in your body and then you start running around
to doctor's appointments instead of enjoying this amazing season of your life, that's what
I'm talking about.
You're like, what?
That's just a coincidence.
No, it's not, it's not a coincidence.
I want you to think of every single time, this is why I warn people when they start
the heart work, that things are going to go a little crazy when you start the heart work.
I give all of those warnings about all the things that might start trying to go wrong
because it is a glass ceiling problem.
If you've never been past this place and now you think you're going to get past this place,
yeah, there's opposing forces out there, but you don't have to worry about them because
you know where they live?
Under the feet of Jesus.
They're under his feet.
The thing that's stopping you is you.
I know it's hard to believe, but it's true.
All right, let's keep going.
All right, so you guys, I know a lot of us just think these are normal problems and that's
why this self-sabotage that I'm talking about is disguised as a normal problem.
When things are going too well, we will unconsciously pull ourselves back down to whatever our comfort
zone is, even if your comfort zone is misery, Jesus, help us.
Even if your comfort zone is ministry, my friend, misery, my friend, you will, for some
of you, ministry is misery.
That might've been a little, not, that might've been a, what they call a Freudian slip, right?
Although I don't believe in that, but yes, pull yourself back down to ministry, but seriously,
you might, you're going to pull yourself back down to your comfort zone, even if it's misery,
even if it's misery.
So these things that often shows up like as drama, anxiety, illness, procrastination for
a lot of you, you say you really want it, but your actions don't show you want it.
Here it is right here for the taking, but you don't take it.
You don't take it.
You don't get organized.
You don't get focused.
You don't go after it.
You procrastinate.
And then of course, conflict as well.
Conflict is another thing that comes in.
The enemy doesn't have to attack when you're attacking your own expansion.
You guys, he doesn't have to.
You're your own worst enemy.
You know how I always talk about that scripture in Proverbs that says that God's increase,
his promotion comes without sorrow.
And that's what I was saying at the front of this call, at the beginning of this call,
when I was talking about if God gave you the things that you were praying for, they would
crush you.
They would crush you.
That's why God has baby gates in our lives.
There's a lot of us that have baby gates up.
You know, you put up baby gates so your children don't go into areas that they're not mature
enough to handle yet, like the kitchen with the hot stove or the staircase or whatever.
The children can see those areas and they know that there will be a future point in
time when they'll be able to go there.
And sometimes they visit those places with mom and dad's help.
We help them navigate the stairs.
We open the baby gate and we let them in the kitchen with us when the stove's not on, you
know.
And so you have to understand that we have those baby gates in our lives because God
knows that we're going to get to a place sooner or later where we're mature enough to have
access to those places.
So God's increase comes without sorrow.
It comes without loss.
And always.
It made me very skeptical back when I was an early believer.
I know the truth now, but back then I was just believing what I was being taught and
told.
But it always made me skeptical when people would say that something was a blessing from
the Lord, and yet it was destroying their family, it was destroying their relationship
with Him.
They weren't coming to church anymore, because I got this new job, I got to work on Sundays
now.
I can never come to church ever again, ever again.
And I'm like, hmm, interesting, you have a new job that's keeping you from spiritual
community.
Sounds like God to me, whoo, praise the Lord.
Oh, you have a new job that causes you to have to travel 260 days of the year, and you
have three little kids and a wife, oh yeah, that sounds like the Lord to me, mm-hmm, that's
what God does.
Oh, wait, wait, you're a missionary and you're out doing the Lord's work while your children
and your wife are at home, and they only see you sporadically throughout the year, so your
children are basically fatherless while you're ministering to the fatherless, yeah, that
sounds like God to me, no, y'all, no, that sounds like you hopping over baby gates trying
to get something for yourself, and then calling it God, you guys have to make sure you mute
your phones.
All right, we're meddling in a bunch of stuff this morning, that's okay, and if some of
you were preacher's kids that were abandoned by your family for the work of the Lord, I'm
sorry that happened to you, I am, I repent on behalf of your parents if they haven't
repented to you, because that is not what God wanted for your family.
You and your siblings were your parents' first ministry, but people aren't taught that, right,
they're taught to sacrifice everything, and so because of that, a lot of kids that had
ministerial parents, whether they were pastors or whatever they were, have felt orphaned,
and so if that's you, God has healing for you.
So you guys, back to all the self-sabotage that shows up as drama, anxiety, illness,
procrastination, conflicts, all the different things, and it's not the enemy doing it, it's
us doing it, because God's promotion, listen up, God's promotion, you guys, I can't come
back to the screen to keep muting, so you're gonna have to make sure that you stay muted.
If you don't have a little red microphone, it's not red, but a little slash through it,
that means that you are not muted, and Bethany, you're on here, you can help mute as well.
Please, thank you.
So God's promotion, you guys, when it shows up, and I know that we all want whatever it
is we're praying for, we want that promotion, but when it shows up, it exposes our insecurities.
That's why we teach on the love life side of this community, right now I'm doing your
whole life on this talk on Supernatural Saturday, but on the love life side, that's why we say
that nothing is gonna bring out the lies that you believe about men, women, marriage, God,
yourself in the area of your love life faster than a potential relationship.
When you meet someone, all that stuff's gonna come to the surface, and then you're gonna
have to deal with it, that's why it's good for us to unpack it ahead of time by doing
heart work, because God's promotion exposes our insecurities.
These glass ceilings, these watermarks are places where our soul hasn't caught up with
the God opportunity.
Come on, think about that for a second.
I'm not talking about your spirit, you guys, your spirit's redeemed.
Your spirit's been redeemed by the finished work of the cross.
When you received Christ, you became a new creature, okay?
I'm talking about your soul and your flesh right now.
The soul realm, if you remember Heart Work 101, that's the heart realm, the soul realm,
those words are interchangeable in scripture, it is the place where all the information
is being kept.
If you've ever seen that cartoon Inside Out, it's like that, it's like master control,
it's the epicenter of all your mind, will, and emotions.
That is your soul realm, that is your heart realm.
That's why the Bible says, above all things that you possess, that are of value, your
heart is the most valuable thing, so guard it, because out of it flows the quality of
your life, the quality of your life.
You guys, yes, we're all going to live, we're all alive, but are we going to have good lives?
And the bigger question is, are we going to have good, good lives, the John 10, 10 life?
the abundant life. Because here we are sabotaging our own abundance, sabotaging our own expansion.
I'm talking to myself, I hope you know that. I do this all the time.
But the key is that I recognize when I do it. I'm recognizing it more and more and more and
I want you to recognize it more and more and more. So these God promotions, these invitations to
abundance, these open doors. If you want to put it in your love life, these introductions to people.
They start to expose the cracks in the foundation. They start to expose our insecurities.
They start to expose these places where our soul and our bodies, our flesh, because your body is
the slave. It's just going to follow whatever your soul does. Wherever your soul goes, your body's
going to go. I know you think that your body's in control, but it's not. Okay, your body is just
responding to this soul part of you. And we want it to respond to the spirit part. We want the
spirit to control the body, not the soul. And we want to redeem the soul. The soul is the thing.
The heart is the thing that we have to continually put before the Lord for purification.
All right, we live in a world that's trying to wipe its muddy feet on our heart continuously.
So we have this story, you guys. We have these callings. We're hardwired with some stuff.
And it's good stuff. It's great stuff.
But these glass ceilings, these watermarks are places where we just haven't had enough healing
to step into those callings. I want you to ask you a question. I'm going to go ahead and ask this
question. You can go ahead and think about it for a second. You can put it in the chat. I'm trying
to do, if you haven't noticed, a little bit of a teaching and an activation since we don't have
activation tomorrow night. We have a little bit of a teaching. I'm going to go ahead and ask you
tomorrow night. We have all community prophetic night. So here's the question. Where in your life
do things start to fall apart just as they're getting good?
You're like, oh, I'm going to work out with a trainer. I'm going to start eating healthy.
I'm going to start walking. Oh, you start seeing a little bit of progress. And then all of a sudden,
boom, you hurt yourself. You twisted your knee. You're like, well, Jackie, that was an accident.
No, honey. No, it wasn't. If it happens every time, that's not called an accident.
That's not called a coincidence. That's called sabotage.
Where in your life do things start to fall apart right as you're starting to make some headway?
I was about to say headward. Right as you're starting to make some headway,
just as you're starting to move forward. Come on, put it in the chat. What is that area
that you take three steps forward and six steps back?
Is this helping anyone? Do you feel it? Are you starting to understand that there's something
happening here that's bigger than what you thought it was?
And you're like, well, shoot, just figures. Is what it is? No, it isn't what it is. That's the
problem. We got to dig in deeper. It isn't what you think it is. Okay, get them up there. Get them
up there. Get them up there. Just starting to have some breakthrough. Just starting to see
some success. Just starting to get excited about change and transformation. And then boom, flat
on your back. Guys, I am not going to lie and say that pushing past watermarks and glass ceilings
is fun or easy because it's not. But hopefully after today's teaching and last week's teaching,
because we've been building up on this, you're going to want to do it because I believe God
is stirring up a new generation of people who are going to want to do it. And I'm going to
encourage you to do it. I'm going to encourage you to do it. I'm going to encourage you to do it.
You're going to want to do it because I believe God is stirring your waters. I
believe that there's grace with you to bust through these self-imposed limitations.
Charles, a watermark is a place where the water's never gotten any higher.
That's as high as you've ever gotten. If you've ever seen water stain on a wall from flooding,
you see that the water went this high, but it's never gone any higher. And so we all have those
in our lives. We have places where we've gotten this far, but we've never gone past that place.
And you guys, like I said last week, for some of you, it's generational.
No one in your family ever got past that place
No one in your family ever graduated from high school. No one in your family ever, you know live past
I I have a friend like well, every one of my family, you know died by 63 years old and
So they're like I got to make it past 63 years old
And it was from you know diseases disorders all the things so these are watermarks friends
These are glass ceilings and the reason why they're glass ceilings is because
They're they're strong monsters. We can push through them. We can break through them
Okay guys going on moving forward so everyone put some stuff up we saw all the things that were there
If you're not looking at the chat, please pay attention to it so you can see what your
But your friends are putting up relationship with God dating and love life
Romantic life a lot of people saying romance some people saying things like reading the Bible praying
Some people are like, what's the question again?
Okay career love life time scheduling exercise finances community weight loss
Doubt losing weight starting creative projects
Okay, lots of different things up there
So, let's talk about
Some barriers and I just briefly touched on some barriers last week
Because I was running around trying to get in the car get moving. I had to get to that podcast
But here's the thing
But here's some barriers and these are things that you really have to take some time to pray into okay, so write them down
You might not feel like this is you right here in this moment?
But when you pray into it a little bit more you might see. Hey, yeah, that really is me
So one of them are just feeling like you just don't you're just you don't deserve it
Okay, you just don't deserve it. I'm not worthy of that
You just don't deserve it. I'm not worthy of this
I'm not worthy of this
I don't deserve this
You're too flawed
You messed up too much
You've always just carried shame on you because of things that have happened in your past that weren't even your fault
You were abused in some way. You carry a lot of shame
So you just you always
Like this low-grade fever in your body of i'm not good enough
I'm not good enough. Well
Here's the news flash you're not you're not good enough you are flawed
But your worthiness doesn't have anything to do with you
So here's your spiritual reframe
If that's one of the barriers that's keeping you at a set mark
God doesn't call the qualified right? He qualifies the called i'm proof of that
Every one of my family has been divorced more than one time
My mom was married three times before I was 10 years old and yet look what I do
As my business and ministry
So that could be a barrier here's another barrier, okay you guys that first barrier can be so many different things
Shame guilt
Carrying all kinds of things from your generations
It doesn't even have anything to do with you. But that we're going to sum it up into I just don't feel worthy
Okay, that's where I sum that first barrier up into okay barrier two
You're just afraid
Of being alone
I see this barrier so much you guys
I see this barrier so much and so many of my students and clients and this is I feel like this is a single person's
barrier a lot
Where if you are close to your family to your people to your church community?
Because they have been your tribe your village because you're single you don't have your own family
You don't want to leave them
You don't want to leave them behind
But they're keeping you stuck they're keeping you stagnant
So the internal mantra that you have is if I grow from this place if I go from this place i'm going to be alone
Is anyone feeling that?
I'm going to be alone
Nobody else around me has done these things and they're okay
And i'm just going to have to stay there stay here with them because if I don't then i'm going to be alone
I promise you guys, first of all, maybe they can't go until you go first.
I'm talking about your family right now.
So many single women, especially really afraid if they have good family of leaving their
family, of being away from their family.
I've seen people turn down opportunities to be in relationships because they had to relocate
because it's not a non-negotiable from heaven, it's become their non-negotiable because they
don't want to move away from their family because once again, their family has been
the only thing that they've had as far as relationships all their life.
They haven't had a significant other.
They didn't have children of their own yet or maybe ever biologically.
Guys, I just put up on my Instagram a study that says that more and more couples are choosing
to be child-free.
Not child-less.
I want you to see the propaganda.
I want you to see the marketing.
Child-free.
We like the word free, don't we?
The word free is great, so not child-less, child-free because child-less sounds sad.
Child-less, child-free, child-less, child-free.
Do you see what I'm saying?
So I put it up to see, obviously my followers are probably mostly Christian marriage-minded
singles, but I put it up to see what people said and about 14 people said, yes, they want
to be child-free and I kind of scrolled through the avatars to see if they were older people
that are like, hey, that ship has sailed, but no, they weren't.
They were all child-bearing people.
And so I was like, interesting, very interesting.
I think there might be some unhealed trauma lurking in your heart, my friend, because
remember it doesn't have to just be biological.
You could adopt children.
If you're in that family-raising age group, not wanting lineage and legacy, probably some
kind of block, right?
But I did notice something.
There were no men that wanted to be child-free.
And of course, all the feminists showed up and they were like, that's because they don't
have to be pregnant.
That's because they don't have to give birth.
That's because they don't have to breastfeed.
Well, there's some men out there that are trying to breastfeed, if that makes you feel
any better.
Seriously, though, seriously, though, I don't think that's what it is.
I mean, yeah, women do a lot more when the babies are little and young.
It is true.
But the bottom line is, is that we've been hardwired to want family.
We've been hardwired to want lineage and legacy.
We have, right?
And there's all kinds of children on the earth that need lineage and legacy.
They need a family to bring them in.
So wanting to be child-free, I think is more about trauma.
I think it's more about wanting to focus on yourself and nobody else.
I think it's about attachment issues.
I think it's about a lot of things.
So I just want to put that out there.
If any of you are feeling that way inside your heart, this is not about judgment.
It's not about criticism.
It's just about, hey, ask Holy Spirit to show you if that is a God-given non-desire, right?
Because in my mind, if we have the quote-unquote gift of singleness, we're going to be focused
on ministry all of our lives and not be entangled in domestic duties.
It would include marriage, not just family.
It would include marriage and not just family.
All right.
Okay, guys.
Moving forward.
Anyone getting anything out of today, raise your hand.
If you're like, yeah, Jackie, I really, God's speaking to me.
I'm seeing some stuff.
All right.
Good.
I want to see some fruit from this.
Okay.
So that disloyalty or abandonment barrier of, hey, we don't want to be disloyal.
We don't want to go farther than the people that we love.
We don't want to leave our communities.
We don't want to leave our safe spaces and the places that have supported us.
But we can't get anything more here.
We can't.
We have a different call.
We've outgrown this stuff, but we still stay here.
It's really uncomfortable too, right?
Trying to wear those shoes that you outgrew a couple sizes ago.
And so that's the second reason why.
Okay.
Sometimes when we want to expand, expansion means that we have to go away from old environments.
Once again, you might be the first person to go so that others can follow you.
It doesn't mean you're never going to see those people again.
All right.
It doesn't mean that.
All right.
Let's talk about some more blocks.
Here's another block, believing that success in this area is just going to be a burden.
And a lot of people, I know that I said I'm going to apply it to your whole life, but
I've heard so many people, whether they know
Oh, that they're saying it or not,
apply this to their love lives.
Oh, you know, being in relationships
is gonna be so much trouble.
They say they want it, right?
But men are exhausting.
Women are demanding, right?
It's true.
Relationships are hard.
I hear this so much.
And whether you know it or not,
your internal dialogue about this
is actually what's keeping you single.
What you really believe about it.
Because what happens is, is you start to sabotage it.
You do.
I mean, God can send the right person,
but if your soul isn't healed enough,
your heart isn't healed enough to receive them,
you're gonna reject the very thing
that you've been praying for.
I want you to hear something.
You need to hear this.
In fact, I'll probably make this a quote
and put it on my Instagram today.
Love isn't just found.
I know you think you're looking for it.
It's not found.
You are love.
You come from love, for love, to love.
Love is not found.
It's allowed.
Write it down.
Love is not found.
It's allowed.
It is allowed.
Come on.
You guys, you're not gonna change any of this by yourself.
You're not.
Remember, this is your thermostat.
My mom would get upset
if anyone would mess with her thermostat.
Anybody else have moms or grandparents like that?
It's on 73.
Just leave it there.
Don't touch it.
Right?
In fact, it was just such a,
it was just such a,
it was such a point of pain when you would visit my mom
that no one would even wanna talk about it.
It's too hot in the house.
It was in Florida, first of all, y'all, okay?
So it's humid.
It's sticky in the house,
but my mom would get so upset about it.
You felt like you were like
in an episode of Lord of the Rings.
It's like, you know,
just like the battle for the thermostat
or like Harry Potter,
like the thing that shall not be named.
You know, you just can't talk about it.
Don't talk about thermostat.
Don't even mention it.
I remember one time, you guys,
my husband didn't know about the thermostat.
He didn't.
He had never visited my mom before.
And so, cause you remember,
my mom and I were estranged for many years
here and there and stuff.
So he hadn't been to her home before.
And so we went to her home in Florida
and we got there two days before him
because he had to stay back and work.
And he came and he got there in the middle of the night.
I picked him up from the airport,
like red eye flight.
We went back to my mom's house.
We got right in the bed and went to sleep.
The next morning, my mom's all upset.
I hear her out there in the hallway.
She's so upset.
Somebody messed with her thermostat
and they changed it to like 69 degrees, y'all.
And I come out of the room,
Dave is exhausted, midnight flight or whatever.
He's still in the bed.
I come out, I'm like, mom.
Cause there was a bunch of people visiting.
I go, mom.
I was like, no one would be crazy enough.
This is literally what I said.
No one would be crazy enough to touch your thermostat.
Okay, no one changed it.
No one touched it.
No one would do that.
And then my husband comes out of the room behind me
and says, oh, I changed it.
I'm like.
Oh my gosh.
He's like, what?
He was like, it was really, it was really stuffy in here.
And I was like, oh my God.
But you guys, some of us, we get that upset
when someone tries to push us back,
push us past our set mark.
We get really upset.
We get irritated.
We get annoyed.
We don't wanna be uncomfortable.
We want things to be the way that we want them to be,
the way that we're comfortable with them being.
Cause that doesn't work in relationship.
I can guarantee you one thing.
If you want a spirit mate,
they are going to challenge you past these set points.
They're gonna challenge you past them.
Not even on purpose, just by being alive.
They're gonna challenge you past them.
Just by breathing in the same room as you, okay?
Just by sleeping in the same bed as you,
you are going to be threat.
You are going to be challenged.
There are times when I'm like, do you even need to breathe?
You're breathing really hard right now,
like out of your nostrils.
What?
Why is your breath so hot?
And I use that example, you guys,
because it can be the silliest, stupidest,
tiniest little thing that you're like,
and you know, your partner's gonna.
You'd be like, you don't even want me to exist, do you?
And you're like, no, not really.
But that's a funny example, you guys, but there's so many things.
There's so, so many things that are going to happen.
They're going to cause you to be changed, to be transformed in relationship.
It's supposed to challenge you.
It's supposed to stretch you.
It's not supposed to be easy.
Now, remember, when I say easy, I'm not talking about abusive, okay?
Get that out of your head.
Wow, I shouldn't have given up on that abusive person.
No, no, that's not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is that good relationships are hard too.
It's just a different kind of hard.
Okay, so let's get back because I don't want to waste our time here.
All right, so we think that we're flawed and unworthy.
We get stuck in the mindset of not wanting to go past the places that the people we love
have gone past, that haven't gone past.
We don't want to go past those family watermarks.
We don't want to venture out on our own.
A lot of us wouldn't have been Abraham.
Abraham, I want you to go away from your father's house to a land that I will show you.
Most of us would have been like, nah, I'm good.
I'm really good, okay?
And then this next kind of place where we're stuck is that the thing that we want, even
the love that we want, it's going to be hard.
It's going to be hard.
And then the next one is...
I feel like those are the only ones that I really wanted to share.
I have these written down here.
The other one is too, is that I think as Christians especially, I'll go ahead and share
it in this context.
I think that we are afraid of kind of getting too big for our britches.
We're afraid of, you know, just taking the glory instead of God getting it, or we're
afraid of what other people might say or think of us.
We're afraid of not being kind.
I know people who are afraid of making more money because, you know, they think that
being wealthier is not godly or, you know, whatever.
You guys, money is a tool, right?
Just like anything else.
The internet's a tool.
Anything that people say is bad and good, especially in religious circles, it's not
bad or good.
Why?
Because it doesn't have a soul.
None of it does.
It can't be aligned with evil or aligned with righteousness because it's not a thing.
It's not a person.
It's not a soul infused being.
What it is, is just a tool.
It's a tool.
And in the hands of people, it becomes, you know, righteous or unrighteous.
It's important for you to understand that.
But there are a lot of people that have these set marks of thinking that, you know,
at this point, it just can't be good.
Nothing can be good after this.
And so they just don't go past it.
And it's just not true.
Right?
False humility, spiritual hiding, all of that would come under this category.
Right?
So out of those barriers, okay, I know the last one was just kind of a little bit
unclear, but let's just call it, um, let's call it dimming your light to make others
feel comfortable or to appease a religious consciousness.
Let's call it that.
Okay.
So out of those four, which one do you most resonate with?
You feel like you're just unworthy.
Remember, these are mostly unconscious things that you're asking to come up to
the conscious right now, because you're questioning it.
We're asking what we unconsciously believe to be shown to us by Holy Spirit.
That's what we're doing right now.
So that first one is that you just feel, you feel this low grade fever of shame all
the time.
You're just carrying around guilt, feeling unworthy, not good enough.
And then that second block would be, you just don't want to abandon your people,
your family.
You just don't want to go past the place where everybody else has gone.
If you grow, you'll be alone kind of idea.
And that Lex, that next one is that it's just going to be so much trouble.
It's going to be so hard.
It's going to be such a burden.
Right.
And then that last one is just that false humility, that spiritual hiding, that
religious consciousness.
Is this even godly to want this or to do this kind of thing out of those four,
which one do you most resonate with right now in this conversation?
After you listen to this again, after you pray into it, you might resonate with
something else.
Let's see it.
A lot of people feeling shame, just carrying it around like a low grade
fever.
Father, we just pray that you would just break that off of them in Jesus name.
Jesus name.
Right.
A lot of people resonating with three and four.
A lot of people resonating with the shame one.
And then the last one is that it's just a lot of people feeling shame.
So team that's on here, let's make sure that we're digging into that on our next advanced
heart work and also digging into it on our next activation.
One is shame and four is spiritual hiding or religious consciousness
for who asked for that. Okay, guys, we're moving forward.
All right. So you guys, we want to move forward into what God has for each and every one of us,
and it's different. Yeah, we all have some same things that were delivered at the finished work
of the cross, joy, peace, righteousness, an opportunity to become closer to Christ through
the ministry of the Holy Spirit. You know, we have all kinds of things that we all get access
to. But what that looks like on our life is different. All of us have different callings.
We have different giftings, right? Those stories that God wrote about us, not one of them is the
same. So it's important that we understand that. But a lot of us have been wasting a lot of our
time doing things that we're not good at. I want to talk to you about this right now. Remember,
you wanted me to focus this on your whole life, not just your love life. So I'm trying to kind
of figure out how to focus it on your whole life because I was going to just focus it on our love
lives. So a lot of us waste a lot of our time doing things we're not good at. And then we waste a lot
more time doing things that we're OK at. But actually, we should be having someone else do
that. You know, I know of somebody who, you know, is genius at business, like genius and very wealthy,
you guys, very wealthy and very, very smart. People pay them a lot of money to consult with
them on business matters. OK, but they literally spent an entire weekend trying to figure out
how to put something together at their house. And at the end of the weekend, they still hadn't
done it like it still was, you know, not together. And, you know, it's like, hey, how much would it
have cost you to have the you know, the people that deliver this assemble it? Oh, you know,
not much, you guys, a couple hundred bucks, which I want to make clear to you, they have they have
more than enough money to pay for that. And so it's like, why would you waste your time? And I
know for some people like it's a challenge. But now, you know, for them, it wasn't like really,
seriously, why did you waste your entire weekend doing this when you're so busy already and you
don't have a lot of free time? Why would you do this? And it was to save a couple bucks. You guys,
it doesn't make any sense. It's a poverty mentality. What is that? That is a set mark.
That is a watermark. That is a glass ceiling, right? That's someplace where they're stuck.
That just goes to show you that you can still you can have a lot of money and still have a
poverty mindset. Someone else that have been paid to do that, we waste a lot of times doing
things that we're not even good at. Some of you have jobs that you're not gifted at. You're not
someone told you years ago that if you want a job that has consistency, and you're always going to
have a job and you don't have to worry about recession, it's recession proof. Go to medical
school and be a nurse. We always need nurses. But you don't like taking care of sick people.
You don't like you don't have that gift of compassion and hospitality like that. You don't
like it. Okay, you go because you want the money. And because yes, it's dependable. But you don't
like body fluids. You don't like doctors. You don't like hospitals. Why are you doing this with
your life? Why? Why? Money. That's why. And that's a bad reason. That's a bad reason. You can apply
that to any of you that are doing things that you're really got to work it like a job. You have
to actually work it like a job. Do you know that the best job for you is a job that you don't have
to work like a job? Because it comes naturally to you. You're gifted at it and you like it. You roll
out of bed in the morning excited to go to it because it's in your wheelhouse. That's what we
named our venue in Austin, Texas that's about to open. We named it wheelhouse because we want to
help people find these very things. Because so many of us were not taken aside as children by
families and said, hey, what are you good at? Let's help you hone those gifts. You're doing
things you're not good at. You're doing things that you're okay at, but it's probably better
for someone else to do those things. And then some of you have found some things that you're
kind of good at. You're kind of good at it. You do it with excellence. You're good at it.
But it doesn't fulfill you because it's not your calling. Yeah, you're good at it. I know people
that came out of the womb doing music and then people just assume that they should be doing that
because they're just so naturally talented at it. But it's not really what fills their soul,
their heart. We got to find that thing, y'all. Gotta find that thing. That's our divine assignment.
We want to be in the divine assignment. That's your sweet spot of your spiritual gifts and your
life purpose.
It's where favor follows you.
Every time you step into a room that has something to do with that thing, whatever that thing
is, you just step into flow.
You step into acceleration.
You step into favor.
That happens to me all the time.
I don't think you guys would need to look too far to see what my divine assignment is.
Okay, so let's ask a question to try to identify it.
It's going to be hard in this short call.
In fact, team, I want to do larger teaching on this.
Let's dig into this.
Let's help people.
And I want to focus it on their love lives too, because that's why they're here.
So there's a whole nother teaching that I could do based on this with love life.
What's the one thing that you do, every one thing, close your eyes.
What's the one thing that you do, doesn't matter what it is.
I'm not talking about things you get paid for.
I'm talking about things that you do.
What's the one thing that you do that makes time disappear, increases your energy.
You don't feel drained by it.
You look up and you've been doing it for three hours and you didn't even notice because you
enjoy it so much.
Come on, let's see what it is.
Look at that y'all.
Do you see it?
And some of you think, oh, wow, this is just a hobby.
No, it's a clue to divine assignment because even if it's something you don't think you
can make a living at for whatever reason, there's something connected to it that's similar
enough to it that you could, does everyone understand?
These are clues.
These are little love post-it notes from heaven about your divine design.
These are.
We're going to go just a couple minutes over.
I know we're at time, but I just want, I want to pray over you guys.
Okay.
I'm looking in the chat here.
So someone put encouraging others.
That's what, that's what, that's what their gift is.
Okay.
There's lots of things that you could do.
You could be a counselor.
You could be a therapist.
You could be a pastor.
You could be a ministry leader.
Could be some kind of spiritual mentor, some, any kind of mentor.
You could work in the high schools.
You could work in the guidance department.
You know, you can help encourage kids, you know, in college and high school.
You could be a teacher, right?
Encouraging others.
If you also liked encouraging people that are going through hard times, like with their
health, you could be a nurse, you could be a healthcare worker.
You could be a hospice care work, giver, care worker, care person.
Let's see.
Encouraging others.
You could be a corporate trainer, HR specialist.
You know, all those people like to encourage people in their gifts, in their callings,
in their careers.
Lots, of course, ministry types of jobs you could do.
I used to, I went to school to be a social worker.
I also like encouraging others.
You could be a social worker.
You know, okay.
It doesn't pay a lot, I will tell you.
But you could work at a non-profit.
You could work at a non-profit somehow.
These are all things that would, you could do if you had the gift of encouraging others.
And then there's more.
And then, of course, you could sit down and just brainstorm through more.
So Father, we thank you, Lord, that you have not created us just to exist, that you've
created us to thrive, not just survive.
And so Lord, not just in our love lives, but in our whole lives, we pray that you would
allow the truth and wisdom that's been spoken this morning to take root inside of us and
to begin to grow.
That we would not just leave this time together and just push it out of our mind and go on
with our lives and stay stuck and never get past these barriers, never get past these
watermarks, never get past, break through these glass ceilings.
Lord, it's time for us.
We have to go forward so that those that are following after us can go forward as well.
Let us be the ones that break through these places for everyone in our lineage and legacy.
Let us be the ones that are written down in the family history as the person that changed
the course, that went further, that went farther, that instead of being below our potential,
we rose to our potential.
potential and we set a different bar.
So Lord, we just thank you.
We thank you that you're going to speak to us.
You're going to give us dreams and visions.
You're going to give us desires that start to bubble up in our heart for things
that we have long time ago, put on the shelf.
Because there just wasn't enough time, but really that's not the truth.
The truth was we were scared.
We were afraid.
We put a self-imposed limit of success upon ourselves.
And now it's time for us to break through.
It's time for us to go further, to go farther.
It's time for us to dust that thing off the shelf and to allow you in your grace
to help us to accomplish it in Jesus name.
Amen.
All right, friends, I feel like even though we didn't focus only on our love
lives, and I know that's why y'all are here, but we're here to make sure that
you go to the next level in every area of your life.
And I promise you, some of these things are connected to your love story.
Some of these things that you're not doing, that you're not feeling, that
you're not thinking, the places that you're not going, they're connected to
your love story.
So when we fan the flames of this, we'll actually fan the flames of your love
story as well.
I believe that with all my heart.
All right.
I love y'all.
Have a great one.
See you tomorrow night.