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Jordan, come on.

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There we go.

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Monday, hard check in.

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It is June 2nd of all things.

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June 2nd, 2025.

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Nice.

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Mr. Mike Anthony, go ahead and drop us a line.

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So, one of the things of advice I give,

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and one of the things that's bit me in the,

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but quite often, is looking at potential in people.

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Right, because I see potential.

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But when you're in a relationship,

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if you're getting into a relationship with somebody

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based purely on potential, it can be extremely problematic

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because one of the things is a lot of people

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stay where they're at.

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And I just wanted to bring that up and kind of,

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because I've seen it happen time to time again.

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I see ladies, like, if he just,

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if there's the if he or if she, if they,

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and I just thought it was just an important thing

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to bring up, something that I was kind of,

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I saw it, there was a reel and I shared it.

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But what do you guys think about that?

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I mean, like, you guys struggle with that?

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I see the best in pretty much everybody,

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but I'm really hard, it's really hard for me to see

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in actuality what the present is bringing, so.

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Mike, I'll just, I'll throw in an opinion first

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to kick us off with that discussion.

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That's a really good topic to bring up.

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Generally, what I've learned,

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and I've learned this very painfully,

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is you never, ever date for potential.

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You only date with what you see right in front of you.

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And the only if question you should ask yourself is,

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if they are this person and they never change,

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or that, like, breakthrough never happens,

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or that healing never happens, or whatever,

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is that something, is this a person you could live with?

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You shouldn't ask, like, any other hypotheticals.

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Potential is just that.

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It's potential.

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Yeah, I think it was, it might have even been

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a response Jackie did recently,

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where she was talking about, like, beige flags,

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and how, like, a beige flag can move to a green flag

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as if you see, like, all the signs for growth there

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that are actually present, like, steps being taken,

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you know, accountability, responsibility,

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ownership over the current state of things,

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the steps are in place, and I'm walking them out to grow.

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And so, yeah, it's like, I know dating is a lot different

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than, like, a friendship, you know.

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Friendship, like, you can have potential and stuff,

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but with dating, it's so much more,

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and, like, I definitely agree with what Daniel was saying.

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You can't date for a potential in a red flag area,

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but I think there's definitely room for discussion

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if there's, like, beige flags, and you are, like,

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is there potential here, and, like,

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being able to ask those questions of, like,

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what are you doing to help with this?

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Yeah, and you guys, the, yeah, no,

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we don't date for potential, like,

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is in this idealistic sense of, like,

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what we want this person to become,

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but we do understand that nobody has arrived.

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Everybody has the ability to change,

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and will change, actually, even if somebody is very stagnant,

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there are still things that change about them,

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but I think you're right, Zach,

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that I think the most important thing in that way,

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when you're dating somebody,

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and you see there's an area or a part in their life,

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probably there's just as many in your own life,

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where you're saying, like,

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hey, this isn't up to what I want it to be,

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or what it should be, or so forth,

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that you are partnering together,

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and having a willingness,

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a willingness, and a bent towards growth,

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towards development,

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and that's probably the greater thing to look for,

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it's not necessarily for, like,

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oh, I'm gonna date for potential, like Mike brought up,

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like, no, we don't wanna do that,

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but we definitely want to see the seeds of growth,

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and the willingness to want to change,

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to grow, to have a, whether it's goal setting,

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or whether it's just, you know,

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somebody's putting forth the steps to do hard work,

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like what we do here in our last year single,

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or they're, you know, they're promoting

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the best of themselves,

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even if they're not where they could be,

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so that's probably the better thing to look for,

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is like, is this person wanting to,

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and has the desire to change, to grow, to be better,

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to be their best self,

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even if they're not that at the moment?

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The teachable spirit is so necessary

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when you're looking for somebody.

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because if they haven't got a teachable spirit,

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they're stuck in so many words

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and they will always be who they are.

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That's a big one we're looking to as well too

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because it tells you if the person has been healed

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or is healing.

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If you introduce like,

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I like what David had said earlier about the cake

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and how that came out.

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It was like, okay, this person can have fun.

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This person could be who David might be looking for

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in his life.

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But there's that element that you can see a teachable spirit

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in that one because they're lighthearted

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and that just might do sense.

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Yeah, what are some of the elements

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that we'd be looking for in a person

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who is showing signs or seeds of wanting to grow or change

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even at an earlier stage in their life?

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Probably patterns of actionable change

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that come out through being vulnerable,

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not specific to things in their past,

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but just if they're open to sharing

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about who they were before Christ

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or just that even acknowledging that you've had,

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you used to walk this way

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and now you walk in the light of the Lord.

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I mean, that's great, but what I'm kind of focused on

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is like, that's good for a salvation spiritual walk.

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That's awesome.

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But at the same time, there's a lot of people

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who love Jesus that are not willing to grow

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because they're stagnant in their mindset

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or they're talk about like their health or finances

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or they're just their life state

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or their purpose in life.

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Like they wanna grow.

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That's that mentality.

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You want that person to have

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sort of a sense of adventure, if you will.

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It's kind of like,

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hey, I'm willing to go, I'm willing to go like,

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hey, let's do this together.

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I'm willing to go too.

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Or you wanna go on an adventure, let's go on an adventure.

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That's probably some of the dialogue that Jackie and I had.

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And we sense that in each other

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that we were like ready for,

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we don't know what this holds.

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I mean, certainly we don't know when we got married

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or when we met like 18 years later now,

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we had no idea that we would look like it be doing

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and all that kind of thing that we're doing now then.

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But at the same time, we were like, let's go on adventure.

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What are some of the other things that you could see

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maybe it's practically in someone you're interested

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in dating that show that kind of.

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Are they a learner, right?

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Yeah, exactly.

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I just checked.

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I'm like, I wonder how many audio books I have.

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It's 94.

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Not just for knowledge sake though, right?

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Because like, I mean like,

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are they wanting to learn to grow so they're better

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or to help others?

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And like, that's one of the reasons,

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one of the things I love about this group

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and one of the reasons why I'm like,

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is that Jackie is like the heart healing.

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So many people aren't willing to do that.

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And that's one of my non-negotiables

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is somebody that's willing to check their stuff, right?

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Somebody is willing to get,

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I don't have all the answers,

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but if I'm goofing up or if I'm off culture,

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I'm gonna go get, I'm gonna figure it out.

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I'm gonna go seek counsel.

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I'm gonna go see a counselor.

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I'm gonna do the heart work.

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I'm gonna do whatever it is because,

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and I am coming from a broken paradigm

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where my ex wouldn't do any of that.

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And like, even though, and so like,

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but at the same time, I think the willingness

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to be self-aware and to do the work is huge.

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And that's why I love the heart work book

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and like in this whole group

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is because people are actually wanting to change

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and wanting to grow.

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So that's why.

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It's a good barometer.

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Like the heart work as a protocol, as a course in life,

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because everybody has heart work to do

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to some level or degree.

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So it's a perfect barometer to be able to say,

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hey, if you're not willing to do any introspective look,

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heart work, that kind of work,

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anything to go, huh, I'm wonder.

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Like look at yourself in a wonderment,

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not necessarily in criticism.

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You know, that sense of curiosity.

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It's like a wonder if, like what would life be like

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if I did things differently or I changed

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or I was like at my best at in this way.

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You know, so that's just that general sense of curiosity.

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I love the fact that you brought up like a learner,

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you know, someone who is inquisitive.

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and in wonderment about what could be,

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what is the possibility of their own potential

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and then the potential with somebody else.

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So that, if you can peek a person's sense of curiosity

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and wonderment, that's a pretty good indicator.

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Anybody else?

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I like how you're saying that, David,

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because it's very true, do they have a creative mind?

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Are they able to move forward or are they stuck?

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Because it shows the element of pride.

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For me, I asked them recently,

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if we were having struggles

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and we couldn't get past something somehow,

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are you receptible to see a counselor

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to help us through this portion?

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Because my last wife wouldn't see a counselor whatsoever.

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And so, like somebody else's, I think Mike said that.

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But anyway, the point is, are they willing to take,

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what am I trying to say here, guys?

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Come on, help me out.

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Well, a simple way to put it would be just to say,

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are they open to help of any kind?

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So like a simple thing would be like,

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hey, I have a problem, oh, hey, let me help you with that.

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No, no, no, no, no, don't worry about it,

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I can do it myself.

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It's like that would be sort of like,

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oh, I'd just like to help you with that,

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why can't you receive help?

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So just the general idea of being open to being helped

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in any way can be an early indicator

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in a relationship to go,

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oh, this person's willing to be helped,

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this person is open to additional input

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versus just, no, I can do it myself,

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I'm all right, I'm good.

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Like that shows closed off,

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that shows someone who's not willing to go there

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to make things better.

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And guys are notorious for that.

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And are they seeking, like, okay,

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so there's, I mean, the fact that like Kent and I,

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you nailed it, like, are they willing,

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you're gonna have issues in relationships, right?

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So what, like, are you willing to get help in that?

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But, you know, I think is a huge thing,

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but also are they, I, okay,

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so the fact that they want to get help

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or are willing to accept help, that's one thing,

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but I look for somebody who's looking to handle their,

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like, handle their own stuff,

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like, you know, handle their business, right?

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You know, because you can't be always dragging somebody

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to a counselor if they aren't handled,

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I don't know, I'm stumbling on it,

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but like, basically if they're not handling their own stuff,

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like, you know, or showing the desire to,

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maybe they may not know how,

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but if they're like, yeah, I'm stuck with this,

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can you help me?

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Then they're self-starting versus just doing it

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because you asked them.

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Yeah, I mean, you know, maybe a way to put that,

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maybe a way to put that there, Mike, is, you know, like,

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you know, getting a counselor is just a resource,

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you know, and maybe another way to put that is,

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is the person resourceful?

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Like, not just, like, being able to, like,

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make their life work,

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but, like, are they resourceful enough to where, like,

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hey, you know, I want to be better,

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I want to get better,

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so I'm going to reach out to someone or something

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as a resource to be able to, like, improve themselves.

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That's what reading books does as a learner,

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that's what, you know, working, doing the heart work

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as somebody who is seeking, you know, heart,

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a healthy heart is to be able to reach out

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and to invest in even, you know,

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a resource that would be able to help them.

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I'm finding one thing with one young lady

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that I was dealing with here, David,

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was that she didn't have the funds to do so.

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Oh, yeah, yeah.

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Okay, and because that was a real hindrance for her,

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she was more than willing to,

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but also she wasn't willing to take my funds

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because I was trying to invest into her.

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Yeah.

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Into her welfare and the pride element of,

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no, that's okay, I can do this.

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Yeah.

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I can't use your card, et cetera, et cetera,

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but it's not a big deal.

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Yeah, yeah.

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That doesn't tell her of pride or of simply,

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she's been so independent for so long,

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she just can't receive.

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Yeah, exactly.

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So someone who really does need a healthier heart

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in that way to be able to go, you know what?

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I do realize that there's more that can be had in this,

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and you know what?

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It's worth the investment.

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It's worth taking that from somebody.

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But yeah, that's definitely a heartwarming for sure.

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I would say someone that's a creative, uh, a young lady that I'm, uh, pursuing

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now in dating, I opened up with, uh, it was on arc dating, so it was just

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like one of those, like things that was on our profile of let's talk about

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everything, and I was like, if you could be any type of lion, what kind of lion

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would you be and whether it's a lion or a dinosaur or just whatever thing that

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you can relate to talking about, uh, it kind of gives a little insight into, is

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a person stuck in like a concrete pattern of thinking or do they have an

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imagination?

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Do they have a, I can be silly and not take this too seriously.

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Just like I can not take life too seriously.

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I can be creative in my response, I think kind of shows like, uh, a base

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foundation of, I can stretch.

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Yeah.

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To which she responded, she's a fierce lion.

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Oh, that's cool.

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Yeah.

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I responded, I'm Lafcadio.

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I just want to chill and eat marshmallows, but I'm totally capable of taking out

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the hunter and stealing his gun.

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Nice.

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Now that's, that's that whimsical, that fun.

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I mean, that's why it's important earlier on in the relationship to be able to just

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keep it at a very, like, you know, dare I say, primitive level in the sense of just

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like, Hey, we're just here to have fun.

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Like, and ha and through having fun through having some, some lighthearted

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discourse, you kind of get to know the person to know, like, you know, to take

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the next step, the next step, the next step.

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Like each encounter is really designed to be able to go, do I want to, you

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know, take this one step further?

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That's why it's a yes until it's a no is such good advice.

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It's, it's a good thing to keep in mind and to not have to go like, Oh, all the

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way to, you know, the depths of a relationship in the first date, you know,

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that's why that's bad advice.

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It's because it takes a moment to take those steps.

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Who's got something else on this?

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Yeah, I got one.

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Anybody that's in or yeah, we'll listen.

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Yeah.

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Go ahead.

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Right.

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Well, I was thinking what is why we're, so we're discussing and what will

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make the person want to grow?

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Well, the question can be in incentive, like give him incentive to want to grow

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because, because, you know, when I was in school, I always thought the incentive

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was in school, we have this thing about trying to be the best or trophies or

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anything, and of course it doesn't mean you're going to grow and where it did

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create an environment of good golden student or black sheep, but the whole

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idea of having that kind of standard in schools is to, is to make you more

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independent and grow as individuals.

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Basically you want to grow because you can fit well and you can, you

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can help yourself to a lot of stuff.

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You could do a lot more.

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I think that's, I think that's a great point, uh, Hunter, actually, because

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what it makes me think about is when you encounter somebody that's new, you know,

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you're, you're opening yourself up to this person who you don't know.

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And sometimes that can be scary, but it also can be very refreshing.

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I don't know anything about this person.

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This person is like, I'm discovering things.

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Like I discovered things about my wife and still do to this day.

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That's like, wow, this, this woman is dedicated to, to growth in a way

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that it affects me, not just even herself.

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There you go.

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And vice versa.

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We're kind of like, we're growing together.

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We, we recognize that willingness early on, but at the same time, we had no idea

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in what ways we would affect each other in the areas of growth, um, you know,

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do we, do we have now, but I love that incentive when somebody brings you like

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somebody that you meet that's fascinating to you, you know, can really bring you

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into another level and break you out of a state of mind can introduce you into

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a new way of thinking can kind of show you, Hey, have you ever done it this way?

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Have you ever done it that way?

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Have you ever thought about this?

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Those are the kinds of like, that's what I think when Hunter said incentive,

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like, you know, the newness of somebody that is, um, what, what potential can

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you bring to a relationship.

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And that's kind of what I think is cool

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about sort of the male factor

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of bringing something to a relationship

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where it's like, I've got something to give.

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You know, those are worthy things to be discovered

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when both the man and the woman

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have something to bring to the relationship

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to be able to share, to give in terms of potential.

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Yeah.

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Another thing is too, is the consequences.

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Because if you don't grow

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and you can look back in your life

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and you show regret, if only, if only.

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It all started when I was playing video games

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and playing with my siblings when it's a nice sunny day.

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My mom's way of making us grow is just to turn off the TV,

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go outside and play.

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Yeah.

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And then, because if you go outside and it's raining,

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well, forget it, you just missed the time

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when you could have just played outside

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and rather than sit inside.

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Playing video games is just when it's a hot, cold day,

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when it's raining.

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Absolutely.

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That's a good point.

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That's a good point about the bringing up the potential

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or bringing up the consequence

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or the bringing up the, forget what the word you used before,

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but the rewards, the reward.

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The reward of meeting somebody,

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what they can bring to your life.

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Love that.

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Well, like anybody else.

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Because that's just so true.

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It's what building material will they bring

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to help build a great relationship?

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It's just not all one-sided.

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If she's got material she can bring to the table as well.

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I like that.

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It's a great idea.

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Good thought.

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Thank you.

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And it's more than just, you know, obviously like,

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well, what do you have to bring to the table?

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You know, like, we don't want to get into that sort of like,

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but it is a part of discovery in terms of that person's,

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you know, the value that's in that person.

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So the unrefined or the diamonds in the rough, if you will.

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And that is part of the marriage relationship for sure.

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Like if you allow it, it's not if it could be,

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or if you're with the right person.

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It literally comes down to if you allow it.

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If you, the man, if you, the woman,

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allow this relationship to refine you, it will.

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And it can.

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And it's designed that way, I think by God,

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really to make us better.

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Absolutely.

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Who else has something on this?

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Anybody?

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Something else.

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It's not someone, it's not from an experience of dating,

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but just a general principle of humanity, I think.

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Someone that accepts an invitation

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in some way, shape or form,

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whether it's verbal or just watching you do something

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that jumps into some type of community with you.

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So I drove across country to Washington DC

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over the course of the last two weeks

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to go volunteer with Gold Star Families

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and a surviving spouse watched me put on

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and run around in an inflatable T-Rex costume

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and just acted like a dinosaur next to me with her son.

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And they both thought it was the most hysterical thing ever.

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But it's just moments to be,

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I guess, willing to change or willing to

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enjoy fruits of the spirit in the face of grief and loss

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or in the face of even just general adversity in the world.

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Thoughts?

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Kenton, you're it.

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No, I like that thought, David.

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I've thought of it as a, like a capacity for joy.

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I wanna be with a woman who has a high capacity for joy.

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Yeah.

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That's good.

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Hey, I just want, I just look at,

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one thing reminds me of the woman I want is,

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I look back at when I was in high school,

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I see all these girls getting all these awards

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like National Arts Society or straight smarts girls.

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And I expect that to be my standard

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because I am a special needs guy

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and you shouldn't have this problem, that sort of stuff.

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I don't know if that's a good one or not

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because I just noticed it needs to be gross somehow.

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I mean, I've been able to do this.

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How can they not?

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Is that a heaven non-negotiable for you or?

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I think it could be a social non-negotiable.

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My heaven non-negotiable is making me move out of my country because I love my country.

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Speaking of which, has anyone heard from Andy?

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I think he's stayed somewhere already, those Filipinos.

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But I mean, did he make it back to the States or?

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I don't think he took that trip yet because it seemed like it was kind of far out in the

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future.

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I don't think it's come yet.

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Gotcha.

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I've not heard specifically, but I seem to remember it didn't seem like it was going

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to happen until like July or something.

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Okay.

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Oh, because I already seem to remember that.

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I'm already on a video chat date on Southwest somewhere already, but they're in the UK.

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Yeah, I think staying in country can be a non-negotiable.

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I mean, it depends on who you are, but yeah, nothing wrong with that being a non-negotiable.

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It definitely aligns with like if you have a profession and even though you're not your

511
00:26:17.880 --> 00:26:22.840
wife's provider and your wife is not your provider, but God is your provider for both

512
00:26:22.840 --> 00:26:31.600
of you, I think there's still a sense of familiarity and like unless you feel Holy Spirit leading

513
00:26:31.600 --> 00:26:40.480
you somewhere that you would want that sense of stability and solidarity within an area

514
00:26:40.480 --> 00:26:46.080
that you know and what you feel you're capable of.

515
00:26:46.080 --> 00:26:51.680
But yeah, I think that is fine.

516
00:26:51.680 --> 00:27:03.040
Going back to kind of the qualities, so Mike proposed the question first on, you know,

517
00:27:03.040 --> 00:27:07.920
do we date for potential and what does that look like and then we determined that we don't

518
00:27:07.920 --> 00:27:14.000
necessarily date for potential, but we do look for qualities of growth.

519
00:27:14.000 --> 00:27:22.520
And so if there were to be made a list, you know, we discourage long lists and there definitely

520
00:27:22.520 --> 00:27:27.600
are non-negotiables, but I think there are qualities that you're looking for.

521
00:27:27.600 --> 00:27:33.840
So if you're going to sort of look for like a list of things that you want to find a person,

522
00:27:33.840 --> 00:27:38.560
I think some of the things we've already mentioned here would be worthy of being on that list.

523
00:27:38.560 --> 00:27:45.040
Someone who is open for growth, someone who is, you know, who has a good sense of joy

524
00:27:45.040 --> 00:27:49.680
or humor, some people really aren't that funny, but they can be joy, you know, they can be

525
00:27:49.680 --> 00:27:53.800
willing to, you know, enjoy things and be lighthearted.

526
00:27:53.800 --> 00:27:59.480
So maybe just a good sense of joy, I don't know, that's too general, maybe this can be

527
00:27:59.480 --> 00:28:01.080
more specific on that.

528
00:28:01.080 --> 00:28:07.720
But those kinds of things, those qualities that you're looking for, you know, and those

529
00:28:07.720 --> 00:28:11.200
qualities could be expressed in so many different ways.

530
00:28:11.200 --> 00:28:18.720
That's why having a broad category, there's a lot of ways that can manifest in a person

531
00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:20.400
is what I'm trying to say.

532
00:28:20.400 --> 00:28:25.200
So if you're like, well, this person's not a very joyful person, yeah, but can they have fun?

533
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:28.520
Well, yeah, I guess so, because we kind of had fun when we did this one thing.

534
00:28:28.520 --> 00:28:33.520
Oh, okay, well then they're leaning into a sense of joy, even though you might not describe

535
00:28:33.520 --> 00:28:35.360
them as a joyful person, you know what I'm saying?

536
00:28:35.360 --> 00:28:40.280
So like, you got to sort of like, you got to be broad enough with the category in order

537
00:28:40.280 --> 00:28:46.160
to be able to say these are the kind of qualities, these three or four different qualities.

538
00:28:46.160 --> 00:28:52.240
And what I'm getting at here, if you're making a list, rather than making a list of what

539
00:28:52.240 --> 00:28:55.160
she's got to look like this, and she's got to do this, and she's got to have this much

540
00:28:55.160 --> 00:28:58.840
money and not that any of you guys are doing that, but what I'm trying to say is like,

541
00:28:58.840 --> 00:29:02.200
that's why we discourage the list, you know what I'm saying?

542
00:29:02.200 --> 00:29:10.200
Because the list lots of times really hinders more than it helps to find a mate.

543
00:29:10.200 --> 00:29:14.120
But if you were to put a list together, the kind of list you really want to make is a

544
00:29:14.120 --> 00:29:15.120
quality list.

545
00:29:15.120 --> 00:29:17.720
Like, what are the qualities I want to find in this person?

546
00:29:17.720 --> 00:29:20.680
Does that make sense?

547
00:29:20.680 --> 00:29:27.840
Yeah, I would definitely say someone who employs mindfulness, like it talks a little bit in

548
00:29:27.840 --> 00:29:39.760
the Heart Work book about being mindful, not just of our own background and traumas

549
00:29:39.760 --> 00:29:48.800
and how they kind of throw us into what's the phrase, like a self-fulfilling prophecy

550
00:29:48.800 --> 00:29:56.160
and that loop, I can't remember what the word is for it.

551
00:29:56.160 --> 00:30:00.160
But besides that, just like, you know, not just.

552
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.040
Consuming the word but being mindful of what we do consume in the world at large

553
00:30:04.600 --> 00:30:12.140
Like stuff from AI and Internet and other inventions type of thing look like lukewarm. It's what you meant

554
00:30:13.640 --> 00:30:15.640
Not just lukewarm, but I mean like

555
00:30:16.400 --> 00:30:22.060
Someone I talked to you only consumes alcohol like literally once a year. I don't consume alcohol at all

556
00:30:23.400 --> 00:30:26.360
doesn't mean that someone that does consume alcohol is

557
00:30:26.360 --> 00:30:33.800
Unmindful or or wrong for doing so it's just like for us. We're just like we're aware of what that does to us

558
00:30:35.800 --> 00:30:39.640
And and it doesn't produce fruits of the spirit for anything it kind of

559
00:30:40.880 --> 00:30:46.360
Keeps us from Holy Spirit's presence or just like recently

560
00:30:47.480 --> 00:30:52.040
I told my combat vet group. I was like, hey, I want to work on not using profanity anymore

561
00:30:52.080 --> 00:30:56.480
Using profanity anymore and just being considerate of

562
00:30:58.520 --> 00:31:04.680
The words I have have an impact on others as well as myself that for a while

563
00:31:04.680 --> 00:31:09.880
I was just okay with you know, and and now I'm at that point where I'm like, oh, I'm not okay with that anymore

564
00:31:09.880 --> 00:31:11.680
and I don't want to

565
00:31:11.680 --> 00:31:13.320
have those

566
00:31:13.320 --> 00:31:14.720
opportunities

567
00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:20.400
that I could meet my person be thrown out the window just because I said something that's

568
00:31:21.360 --> 00:31:24.440
Vulgar course or just rude

569
00:31:25.480 --> 00:31:27.120
so

570
00:31:27.120 --> 00:31:29.120
things of that nature just

571
00:31:29.680 --> 00:31:30.760
David

572
00:31:30.760 --> 00:31:34.520
As David is saying these things. It makes me think about how considerate

573
00:31:35.040 --> 00:31:39.280
All of you guys are because I've heard things not only in this call

574
00:31:39.280 --> 00:31:44.240
But over the you know over the months and years or that we've been talking

575
00:31:44.800 --> 00:31:50.480
Each one of you has said very considerate sort of things and I'm wondering like here's a considerate a bunch

576
00:31:50.560 --> 00:31:54.240
Here's a bunch of guys who are actually thoughtful considerate

577
00:31:54.760 --> 00:31:59.480
thinking about these things like very open very willing to be transformed be

578
00:31:59.880 --> 00:32:01.880
very very willing to be

579
00:32:02.480 --> 00:32:04.320
transparent and all that I'm like

580
00:32:04.320 --> 00:32:06.320
Why are these guys not married like?

581
00:32:06.560 --> 00:32:11.120
Where are the women like women are asking like where the guys like where are the women for these guys?

582
00:32:11.200 --> 00:32:13.120
Where the women for you guys?

583
00:32:13.160 --> 00:32:16.560
you know, I'm asking this kind of rhetorically, but I'm just like

584
00:32:17.320 --> 00:32:19.440
I'm just kind of you know an

585
00:32:20.320 --> 00:32:21.920
awestruck here

586
00:32:21.920 --> 00:32:29.720
As I'm doing this so as a way of maybe encouraging you guys you guys are a bunch of really open thoughtful

587
00:32:30.960 --> 00:32:32.920
considerate guys

588
00:32:32.920 --> 00:32:34.920
And I'm just wondering

589
00:32:35.080 --> 00:32:38.920
Where the women at why don't the women see this? Why don't the women?

590
00:32:39.960 --> 00:32:41.680
you know

591
00:32:41.680 --> 00:32:43.680
Why haven't you guys been gobbled up

592
00:32:45.200 --> 00:32:47.200
Any thoughts on that

593
00:32:48.760 --> 00:32:50.760
Are we putting ourselves

594
00:32:54.640 --> 00:32:57.480
No, just saying it's a great question because I can't answer it

595
00:33:00.360 --> 00:33:04.880
But I mean, it's true guys, I mean that's a compliment to you I mean you guys are you guys are putting in

596
00:33:05.600 --> 00:33:07.600
tremendous amount of effort and work

597
00:33:08.080 --> 00:33:09.600
to be

598
00:33:09.600 --> 00:33:12.560
You know what you can be to be your better self

599
00:33:13.200 --> 00:33:17.920
Yes, do the hard work. I mean that step was the starting point for a lot of you, but I

600
00:33:20.800 --> 00:33:22.600
Was married

601
00:33:22.600 --> 00:33:24.600
26 years and

602
00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:26.640
She passed away in 2019

603
00:33:27.520 --> 00:33:29.720
Yeah, and I am I

604
00:33:31.040 --> 00:33:33.760
Have my house by myself and it's peaceful

605
00:33:34.000 --> 00:33:40.520
And it's the first time I've ever like lived off by myself without someone else or family and it's

606
00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:43.920
It's kind of quiet. It's kind of nice. I do what I want

607
00:33:44.320 --> 00:33:50.160
So maybe so maybe situationally for you. It's a little bit different because of your life experience

608
00:33:50.560 --> 00:33:55.760
yeah, I mean I've dated a little well, I've dated and I've seen a couple different women and

609
00:33:57.080 --> 00:34:01.200
Friends with one now is I don't know. I'm kind of

610
00:34:01.920 --> 00:34:04.640
At first I want at first when she passed away

611
00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:07.880
I was ready to like get right back and be married again

612
00:34:07.880 --> 00:34:11.080
Cuz I was so used to being married and it seemed you used to be married

613
00:34:11.080 --> 00:34:17.440
Yeah, it seems so strange and then now I'm like questioning. It's like I kind of like this

614
00:34:17.440 --> 00:34:22.880
But I would like to have a partner too. I mean, yeah, it's kind of a catch-22 right now

615
00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:27.679
Yeah, I know for someone like you and your situation. That would be that would be

616
00:34:27.800 --> 00:34:33.480
That reality for sure if you've never been guys never been married then he was like, yeah, I've never really experienced that

617
00:34:33.480 --> 00:34:37.000
That's just totally different. But yeah, I totally understand. That's so I'm totally

618
00:34:37.800 --> 00:34:39.800
rational and totally acceptable

619
00:34:40.400 --> 00:34:46.239
in a way you feel and and obviously I think you're probably a little bit more like well, you know,

620
00:34:47.360 --> 00:34:53.440
Definitely if the right woman when the right woman depending on you know, what you're

621
00:34:53.440 --> 00:34:59.520
Depending on you know, what you're right where your faith levels at not that

622
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.880
don't have faith, but what I'm saying is whatever it is you're believing for,

623
00:35:03.520 --> 00:35:06.280
you know, whenever that woman comes along,

624
00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:09.320
then it's definitely going to have to be a very special person.

625
00:35:10.000 --> 00:35:12.040
Yeah, I'm trusting God.

626
00:35:12.040 --> 00:35:17.960
And it's a good thing when it happens, you know, but I'm not like rushing.

627
00:35:18.640 --> 00:35:20.040
Like, yeah, absolutely.

628
00:35:20.040 --> 00:35:23.000
But but I think I was at first because I kind of felt

629
00:35:23.960 --> 00:35:25.800
like a fish out of water.

630
00:35:25.800 --> 00:35:29.080
And yeah, and if you've been married for 27 years, I mean, even

631
00:35:29.080 --> 00:35:31.920
even though I was married for 14 years, I was just like,

632
00:35:32.280 --> 00:35:35.240
I want to be married again, because like, I don't know, this is weird.

633
00:35:35.280 --> 00:35:36.080
Not being married.

634
00:35:36.080 --> 00:35:40.160
Yeah, there's a difference between I had been married before and divorced.

635
00:35:40.160 --> 00:35:43.600
And there's a big difference between being divorced or being widowed.

636
00:35:43.920 --> 00:35:47.880
And being widowed was a for me was a lot less traumatic

637
00:35:47.880 --> 00:35:50.800
because it wasn't it was like if they were still here,

638
00:35:51.160 --> 00:35:52.280
we'd still be together.

639
00:35:52.280 --> 00:35:56.520
But right versus like they're still here and they don't choose me anymore.

640
00:35:56.520 --> 00:35:58.480
And I still got to deal with them with the kid.

641
00:35:58.480 --> 00:36:00.720
You know, that was more. Right. Yeah, yeah.

642
00:36:00.720 --> 00:36:01.960
Yeah, I can see that.

643
00:36:01.960 --> 00:36:05.120
And and I'm just yeah.

644
00:36:05.120 --> 00:36:10.360
But I did want to jump right back in and I miss, you know, marriage.

645
00:36:10.480 --> 00:36:11.560
I'd always been married.

646
00:36:11.560 --> 00:36:15.400
But now it's kind of like I can I can be by myself.

647
00:36:15.400 --> 00:36:18.680
I think before I couldn't stand to be by myself because it was just

648
00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:20.840
the emptiness.

649
00:36:20.840 --> 00:36:22.720
It's just kind of like, what do I do myself?

650
00:36:22.720 --> 00:36:25.680
There's nobody else in the house, you know, like I'm watching TV

651
00:36:25.680 --> 00:36:27.880
and no one's in the bedroom reading the book or whatever.

652
00:36:27.880 --> 00:36:29.000
And it was kind of strange.

653
00:36:29.000 --> 00:36:32.720
And yeah, now I've kind of grown accustomed to.

654
00:36:34.080 --> 00:36:36.160
Being here, it's interesting.

655
00:36:36.480 --> 00:36:38.880
Yeah. Who else?

656
00:36:38.880 --> 00:36:42.160
Who else wants to?

657
00:36:42.160 --> 00:36:44.160
The question I posed just a few minutes ago, like.

658
00:36:45.040 --> 00:36:47.800
Why? Where's where the women at?

659
00:36:48.360 --> 00:36:50.480
You're you're conscientious.

660
00:36:50.480 --> 00:36:53.160
You're changing. You're open.

661
00:36:53.160 --> 00:36:55.280
You're healthy hearted men.

662
00:36:56.160 --> 00:36:58.360
Yeah. Let me step into that one, if I can do.

663
00:36:59.280 --> 00:37:02.600
Yeah. Jackie posed the question last week.

664
00:37:02.600 --> 00:37:04.680
I wasn't there, but I saw the replay on it.

665
00:37:04.680 --> 00:37:07.400
Wish I could have been there because I would love to have feedback on it.

666
00:37:08.040 --> 00:37:10.440
I'm at a nine point five point ten.

667
00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:14.760
You she was asking at what level are you ready for a relationship?

668
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:18.440
And being 10, you are bang on, ready to go tomorrow to get married.

669
00:37:18.960 --> 00:37:21.280
And yeah, you're no, not at all.

670
00:37:21.720 --> 00:37:24.280
So anyway, I'm a nine point five to a ten.

671
00:37:24.680 --> 00:37:27.960
And that's the problem.

672
00:37:27.960 --> 00:37:30.360
Meeting women is like everything.

673
00:37:30.360 --> 00:37:31.800
You can say everything out there.

674
00:37:31.800 --> 00:37:34.440
Drop your hanky, as the women say.

675
00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:35.880
What do what it's like for us?

676
00:37:35.880 --> 00:37:38.200
What? Drop an anvil so they get to know anyway.

677
00:37:40.160 --> 00:37:42.000
And it's not taking.

678
00:37:42.000 --> 00:37:45.120
It's like, look, no takers.

679
00:37:45.120 --> 00:37:47.320
Yeah. And I for myself,

680
00:37:47.920 --> 00:37:51.840
if you really knew me and most of you guys don't, but.

681
00:37:54.840 --> 00:37:57.280
I would bend over backwards for a woman to make her happy

682
00:37:57.960 --> 00:37:59.880
without losing myself.

683
00:37:59.880 --> 00:38:01.320
I know. Yeah.

684
00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:04.920
And that's and if they would only have me be like.

685
00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:10.600
Each one of us is unique, but I look at myself as I am super unique.

686
00:38:11.400 --> 00:38:16.080
So, yeah, David, I'll even take you on, David.

687
00:38:17.440 --> 00:38:18.440
Hey, you know what?

688
00:38:18.440 --> 00:38:22.040
Being out there in the middle of nowhere, Canada, like

689
00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:23.760
we don't understand what that's like.

690
00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:27.480
Like us in the States, you know, it's just it's just different.

691
00:38:27.480 --> 00:38:30.600
Unless, you know, you live in Montana or something.

692
00:38:30.600 --> 00:38:33.720
I don't know if you guys where some of you guys live, but.

693
00:38:34.320 --> 00:38:36.840
Upstate New York. I mean, well, no, no.

694
00:38:39.080 --> 00:38:41.280
Up in upper New York, upstate New York. Yeah.

695
00:38:41.880 --> 00:38:43.400
No, we we are.

696
00:38:43.400 --> 00:38:48.320
We are no different than a place like Boise or or Seattle.

697
00:38:48.720 --> 00:38:50.600
I mean, yeah, no, no, no.

698
00:38:50.600 --> 00:38:51.440
And I get that.

699
00:38:51.440 --> 00:38:55.240
I get that because like I get that because one of our success stories,

700
00:38:56.000 --> 00:38:59.400
the woman, I mean, this I don't know if you guys have heard the story before,

701
00:38:59.400 --> 00:39:03.960
and I don't know all the full details, but the basics of the story is that she.

702
00:39:05.320 --> 00:39:08.480
It was in our program for, I think, two years,

703
00:39:08.960 --> 00:39:12.120
and she lived in Perth, Australia.

704
00:39:13.120 --> 00:39:15.480
And I don't know if you know anything about Perth, Australia,

705
00:39:15.480 --> 00:39:19.120
but Perth, Australia, statistically, demographically

706
00:39:20.120 --> 00:39:23.120
geographically is literally

707
00:39:23.560 --> 00:39:28.560
the most isolated major city in the world.

708
00:39:29.120 --> 00:39:33.000
It is farther from any place else

709
00:39:33.360 --> 00:39:36.360
in terms of like getting resources, in terms of travel.

710
00:39:36.920 --> 00:39:40.840
This is so isolated that as a as a major city.

711
00:39:41.800 --> 00:39:45.680
That you're like, you know, it's just like there's no men here.

712
00:39:45.760 --> 00:39:47.400
Like she and that was kind of her thing.

713
00:39:47.440 --> 00:39:48.840
There's no I know all the guys here.

714
00:39:48.840 --> 00:39:50.840
They're all the men here. I met them all.

715
00:39:50.840 --> 00:39:52.040
She's like, well, how many?

716
00:39:52.040 --> 00:39:53.720
Jackie's like, how many people live in Perth?

717
00:39:53.720 --> 00:39:56.320
You know, I don't remember the number, but it was not one.

718
00:39:56.400 --> 00:39:57.360
And it wasn't 100.

719
00:39:57.360 --> 00:39:59.480
And it wasn't, you know, a couple thousand.

720
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.000
It's like whatever the population is.

721
00:40:02.000 --> 00:40:05.280
He goes, there's no way you've met every man in Perth,

722
00:40:05.280 --> 00:40:07.360
you know, like, and she's like trying to like,

723
00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:09.680
kind of shift her out of her focus.

724
00:40:09.680 --> 00:40:13.260
And she did the hard work and she came through some stuff.

725
00:40:13.260 --> 00:40:15.840
The man that she actually ended up marrying

726
00:40:16.800 --> 00:40:21.360
happened to be someone, I think that she knew him

727
00:40:21.360 --> 00:40:25.020
or knew of him, but she was, he was in her church.

728
00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:27.880
Now that doesn't mean he had to always meet

729
00:40:27.880 --> 00:40:31.480
the person in church, but it just so happens.

730
00:40:31.480 --> 00:40:35.920
He was just, whenever it was, something shifted in her,

731
00:40:35.920 --> 00:40:37.440
something shifted in her perspective,

732
00:40:37.440 --> 00:40:39.800
something that he was highlighted.

733
00:40:39.800 --> 00:40:42.240
And then there's a whole, you know,

734
00:40:42.240 --> 00:40:44.360
dramatic details, feminine side of the story.

735
00:40:44.360 --> 00:40:46.080
There's like, oh, that's so sweet, blah, blah, blah,

736
00:40:46.080 --> 00:40:47.360
whatever.

737
00:40:47.360 --> 00:40:50.520
The point of the story is, is that even in Perth, Australia,

738
00:40:50.520 --> 00:40:52.720
the most isolated city in the world,

739
00:40:52.720 --> 00:40:55.680
it's possible to meet your significant other person.

740
00:40:55.680 --> 00:40:59.000
So there's that little bit of encouragement there.

741
00:41:00.040 --> 00:41:04.440
And yeah, lots of times it's just a matter of like,

742
00:41:04.440 --> 00:41:07.440
a shift and not only a shift in you,

743
00:41:07.440 --> 00:41:10.160
but a shift in maybe that person,

744
00:41:10.160 --> 00:41:12.840
maybe that other person.

745
00:41:12.840 --> 00:41:15.920
And you're just waiting for them to be shifted

746
00:41:15.920 --> 00:41:17.500
for a moment.

747
00:41:17.500 --> 00:41:19.760
And it happens.

748
00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:22.640
She actually ended up coming all the way,

749
00:41:22.640 --> 00:41:25.000
she and her husband actually ended up coming

750
00:41:25.000 --> 00:41:28.260
all the way to Austin, Texas,

751
00:41:28.260 --> 00:41:31.640
journeyed on their own dime

752
00:41:31.640 --> 00:41:34.160
to come and travel to Austin, Texas

753
00:41:34.160 --> 00:41:36.440
to actually do the marriage ceremony.

754
00:41:37.280 --> 00:41:40.720
So they actually came to Austin, Texas for Jackie

755
00:41:40.720 --> 00:41:43.400
to actually officiate the wedding.

756
00:41:43.400 --> 00:41:45.680
This was a couple of years ago.

757
00:41:45.680 --> 00:41:48.040
So just so you know, people like, Kenton says,

758
00:41:48.040 --> 00:41:50.480
like, and I believe you when you say it, Kenton,

759
00:41:50.480 --> 00:41:52.560
you would literally go to the ends of the earth

760
00:41:52.560 --> 00:41:54.240
to make a woman happy.

761
00:41:54.240 --> 00:41:55.080
And I believe that.

762
00:41:55.080 --> 00:41:58.440
So I don't know if that's any level of encouragement

763
00:41:58.440 --> 00:42:00.520
for you, but I'm just telling you, it's possible.

764
00:42:00.520 --> 00:42:01.360
It's happened before.

765
00:42:01.360 --> 00:42:03.280
It's happened once, it'll happen again.

766
00:42:03.280 --> 00:42:04.360
Yeah, because most of the women

767
00:42:04.360 --> 00:42:07.880
that actually do contact me are like,

768
00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:10.640
I'm an athlete and you're 400 pounds too much.

769
00:42:12.560 --> 00:42:14.720
It's like, they have no inclination

770
00:42:14.720 --> 00:42:16.000
of what's on that profile.

771
00:42:16.000 --> 00:42:17.760
It's one of the first thing I put on there right away.

772
00:42:17.760 --> 00:42:19.800
I'm an athlete looking for the same.

773
00:42:19.800 --> 00:42:22.000
And like, no, these are women that are huge.

774
00:42:22.800 --> 00:42:23.920
It's funny, it's funny,

775
00:42:23.920 --> 00:42:27.400
because we have all kinds in our program,

776
00:42:27.400 --> 00:42:29.360
as far as just different types of people

777
00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:32.240
and backgrounds, life, all that kind of stuff.

778
00:42:32.240 --> 00:42:36.120
But we actually have an incredible amount

779
00:42:36.120 --> 00:42:41.120
of very healthy, fit, with it, women

780
00:42:41.960 --> 00:42:46.000
who are 55 plus, that range.

781
00:42:46.000 --> 00:42:49.520
And when I say 55 plus, I mean 55 plus,

782
00:42:49.520 --> 00:42:51.840
five, 10, 15 years.

783
00:42:52.680 --> 00:42:55.840
And I'm just amazed that there hasn't been anyone,

784
00:42:55.840 --> 00:42:56.920
any connection like that.

785
00:42:56.920 --> 00:43:00.280
But I hate to use the word like,

786
00:43:00.280 --> 00:43:01.520
well, it's just the timing of God.

787
00:43:01.520 --> 00:43:03.640
But I mean, like, I don't know,

788
00:43:03.640 --> 00:43:05.920
there's just some timing about it.

789
00:43:06.880 --> 00:43:10.080
I will say this, one of our team members,

790
00:43:11.440 --> 00:43:16.440
you all know Renee, Renee Rizzo.

791
00:43:16.600 --> 00:43:20.600
You might've seen her in some other videos in years past.

792
00:43:20.600 --> 00:43:22.720
She was a team member of ours for a long time.

793
00:43:22.720 --> 00:43:23.680
And she probably gonna come back

794
00:43:23.680 --> 00:43:24.880
and do some more coaching for us.

795
00:43:24.880 --> 00:43:26.520
But she had to take a break.

796
00:43:26.520 --> 00:43:29.920
She was 55 and had never been married.

797
00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:32.720
And she was like, what is going on?

798
00:43:32.720 --> 00:43:35.080
You're like, what is, I mean, I'm doing dating this guy.

799
00:43:35.080 --> 00:43:39.000
And then I got a couple of potential relationships,

800
00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:41.280
this and that, whatever, they went sideways.

801
00:43:41.280 --> 00:43:43.360
And she'd been doing everything.

802
00:43:43.360 --> 00:43:45.000
She's an amazing lady.

803
00:43:45.000 --> 00:43:47.920
She's fit, she's healthy, she's intelligent,

804
00:43:47.920 --> 00:43:51.200
she's educated, she's, I mean, she's everything, right?

805
00:43:51.200 --> 00:43:54.240
And she did finally get into a relationship

806
00:43:54.240 --> 00:43:57.360
with a guy, they're engaged and they're gonna get married.

807
00:43:57.360 --> 00:43:58.720
And we just met him the other day

808
00:43:58.720 --> 00:44:01.600
and we kind of like put him through the gauntlet.

809
00:44:01.600 --> 00:44:03.480
It was kind of fun to do that.

810
00:44:03.480 --> 00:44:07.560
And he was very good hearted and spirited about it,

811
00:44:07.560 --> 00:44:09.040
but he's a great guy.

812
00:44:09.040 --> 00:44:12.960
But they themselves said that had they met

813
00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:16.080
even just a few months or six months

814
00:44:16.080 --> 00:44:20.480
or even a year before, because of their own circumstances,

815
00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:23.880
they definitely might not have hit it off

816
00:44:23.880 --> 00:44:25.160
as well as they did now.

817
00:44:25.160 --> 00:44:30.160
And so they did attest to the fact that timing

818
00:44:30.160 --> 00:44:32.200
was very important and how this all worked out,

819
00:44:32.200 --> 00:44:34.960
even though for years, she's like, oh my gosh,

820
00:44:34.960 --> 00:44:36.320
I'm getting so tired of being single.

821
00:44:36.320 --> 00:44:37.840
And I've done every single thing in the world,

822
00:44:37.840 --> 00:44:40.120
but I've been to all these different churches

823
00:44:40.120 --> 00:44:42.600
and I've been to all these different things that I've even,

824
00:44:42.600 --> 00:44:44.240
I mean, here I am in the singles program.

825
00:44:44.720 --> 00:44:46.400
I'm one of the master heart coaches,

826
00:44:46.400 --> 00:44:48.600
and here I am helping all these other women

827
00:44:48.600 --> 00:44:50.600
get their story and seeing their story.

828
00:44:50.600 --> 00:44:51.560
And what about me?

829
00:44:52.640 --> 00:44:54.400
She's a team member of ours.

830
00:44:54.400 --> 00:44:56.560
And so finally she met somebody,

831
00:44:56.560 --> 00:44:58.840
they're engaged, they're getting married,

832
00:44:58.840 --> 00:45:00.240
but they definitely attested.

833
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.800
fact that timing was definitely very, very important and strategic in their meeting.

834
00:45:05.520 --> 00:45:13.440
And so there's something about that. So don't want to be timing, the timing answer. I don't

835
00:45:13.440 --> 00:45:19.840
want that to be discouraging, but I want that to be like, you know, when it's right, it's right

836
00:45:19.840 --> 00:45:26.640
sort of thing, you know, hopeful for sure. Well, and like just in the way, you know,

837
00:45:26.800 --> 00:45:30.640
one of my encouragements and one of the things that I'm personally doing, and that's why I have

838
00:45:30.640 --> 00:45:39.360
94 audio books, right, is I'm getting ready. I'm investing in me. I'm investing in me and us. So

839
00:45:39.360 --> 00:45:44.480
in the waiting and when you're waiting on the timing, be bettering yourself, be, you know,

840
00:45:44.480 --> 00:45:51.360
becoming the best you, right? And, and like this week, you know, Jackie got some advice from Jackie

841
00:45:51.360 --> 00:45:56.960
last week, because I literally, and the other thing guys is I just left a church that I've

842
00:45:56.960 --> 00:46:02.160
been at for four years now, right? And because I felt like the Lord was calling me to a different

843
00:46:02.160 --> 00:46:10.080
church, right? And it's hard. It's, I love a lot of people in that church, right? But sometimes

844
00:46:10.640 --> 00:46:16.160
the Lord calls you to something that's hard, right? Like leaving something so you can actually

845
00:46:16.160 --> 00:46:21.040
walk into your promised land. You know, and that's what Jackie, you know, was talking about,

846
00:46:21.040 --> 00:46:26.880
like, what's holding you up? And, you know, and I'm not saying just randomly leave your church,

847
00:46:26.880 --> 00:46:34.000
because you want change. But I am saying if the Lord's prompting you to move, move. And,

848
00:46:35.280 --> 00:46:43.440
and like, I waited to do it, but like, do the hard thing. It's a, you know, it's a growth

849
00:46:43.440 --> 00:46:47.760
opportunity. I know I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing, and I'm positioned in the kingdom

850
00:46:47.760 --> 00:46:55.120
where I need to be. But yeah, grow yourself, you know, be, be the best you, you know, be,

851
00:46:55.120 --> 00:47:00.720
be good with you. So when somebody comes along, you guys are just fun, have fun together. And,

852
00:47:00.720 --> 00:47:05.040
you know, I'm still struggling to learn how to have fun, because as a kid, I never really had a

853
00:47:05.040 --> 00:47:09.600
chance. But you know, I'm like, that's one of my growth opportunities. But I just think, I just

854
00:47:09.600 --> 00:47:15.360
encourage you, even in the waiting, get yourself better. You know, it's, it's waiting biblically is

855
00:47:15.360 --> 00:47:20.800
not sitting there waiting for something. It's actually moving and partnering with God. That's

856
00:47:20.800 --> 00:47:26.880
good. And so, yeah. Thank you, Mike. That's good, Sharon. Thank you for sharing that. It's good

857
00:47:26.880 --> 00:47:34.640
stuff. Definitely put yourself out there in the path where you're likely to meet your future wife,

858
00:47:35.280 --> 00:47:39.360
you know. Like one, like one of the biggest

859
00:47:41.680 --> 00:47:45.760
changes I'd seen in these prayer calls, in these heartwork calls is

860
00:47:47.920 --> 00:47:53.200
seeing Andy go from, oh, no, I can't possibly talk to anyone. I don't know how to have

861
00:47:53.840 --> 00:48:00.480
conversations. Went straight out to, I'm traveling to a completely different country

862
00:48:00.480 --> 00:48:04.480
that I'm traveling halfway around the world. Yeah. Oh, and also I've never internationally

863
00:48:04.480 --> 00:48:12.800
traveled. I'm like, yeah, that was like, just, that was such a huge change. That was such a huge,

864
00:48:12.800 --> 00:48:21.840
I'm going to really put myself out there. Like, just being brave. And even, even myself putting

865
00:48:21.840 --> 00:48:27.200
myself out there and just talking to people and coming across a whole bunch of avoidant

866
00:48:27.200 --> 00:48:32.960
attachment styles. I'm like, yep, that's not going to work. But yeah, I just extend that

867
00:48:32.960 --> 00:48:40.400
opportunity for community and conversation. I love the fact, I love the fact you guys are

868
00:48:41.040 --> 00:48:48.880
learning about yourself. I'm constantly learning about myself because I live with,

869
00:48:48.880 --> 00:48:54.320
I live with a crucible of just constant improvement and learning. My wife is a

870
00:48:54.640 --> 00:49:05.280
constant refining for me and I am for her as well, but it seems like I am more in pain the most

871
00:49:06.000 --> 00:49:09.760
than my refinement. I don't know. Did you guys hear, did you guys see that little

872
00:49:10.480 --> 00:49:18.560
bit of social media that my wife put out the other day? Yeah, I think so. Yeah, it was,

873
00:49:18.720 --> 00:49:24.320
um, I, I don't want to quote it because it was too good. It was funny, but it was something about

874
00:49:25.200 --> 00:49:31.600
daddy got us, daddy's mad at us. And I said, daddy, who? She said, God, you know,

875
00:49:31.600 --> 00:49:35.120
she cares. And I said, why? And he says, because we're not. And she said, because we're not getting

876
00:49:35.120 --> 00:49:42.400
along. Cause we had just had a fight and, um, so we're not getting along. And then I was silent

877
00:49:42.720 --> 00:49:46.160
for a moment. And she answers back. Well, he's really just mad at you.

878
00:49:48.160 --> 00:49:52.560
And then we had a really good laugh about that. It was very funny, but that's a very

879
00:49:52.560 --> 00:49:57.920
mature kind of conversation that you might have one day with your wife.

880
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.240
And I don't know if y'all appreciated that, but.

881
00:50:06.800 --> 00:50:09.760
That's that old, I thought I was wrong once, but I was mistaken.

882
00:50:11.360 --> 00:50:13.680
I thought I was wrong once, but I was mistaken. Yeah.

883
00:50:16.000 --> 00:50:16.560
Good stuff.

884
00:50:18.400 --> 00:50:22.560
Well, guys, I love that this is a good conversation.

885
00:50:22.560 --> 00:50:26.160
I think I didn't hear from everyone on this call.

886
00:50:27.760 --> 00:50:28.640
Most of you.

887
00:50:28.640 --> 00:50:32.640
I was going to say, did you hear my fun news at the beginning of this call, David?

888
00:50:33.920 --> 00:50:35.040
I don't know that I did.

889
00:50:36.080 --> 00:50:36.580
You did?

890
00:50:37.120 --> 00:50:38.640
I don't know that I did.

891
00:50:39.440 --> 00:50:46.720
Oh, so I met a girl on this road trip who agrees that it would be a fun idea so long

892
00:50:46.720 --> 00:50:52.320
as she has a smock or a change of clothes to have a birthday cake fight at a future wedding.

893
00:50:52.880 --> 00:50:54.400
Birthday cake fight?

894
00:50:54.400 --> 00:50:56.320
That kind of sounds like your kind of woman.

895
00:50:56.320 --> 00:51:00.320
I know, I was like, it came up in a previous call from like months back where you were

896
00:51:00.320 --> 00:51:05.360
like kind of scolding Abram and I like, no bride wants a birthday cake fight at a wedding.

897
00:51:05.360 --> 00:51:08.080
I'm like, oh, this is it, I'm in search now.

898
00:51:09.760 --> 00:51:11.760
A birthday cake fight at a wedding?

899
00:51:12.560 --> 00:51:16.480
Yeah, so you like take it with your face and pick it up and sling it at people.

900
00:51:17.120 --> 00:51:17.680
Oh, okay.

901
00:51:21.440 --> 00:51:25.600
I don't know if it's a tradition, I don't really recommend it because no bride against,

902
00:51:25.600 --> 00:51:26.800
and I will stand by that.

903
00:51:26.800 --> 00:51:32.640
No bride wants her, you know, appearance and all that, wedding dress, everything could

904
00:51:32.640 --> 00:51:33.120
be ruined.

905
00:51:33.120 --> 00:51:38.640
But, you know, when you smash wedding cake in each other's face at that moment in the

906
00:51:38.640 --> 00:51:40.080
party, there's a lot of people that do that.

907
00:51:41.600 --> 00:51:44.080
I don't think that the typical bride wants that.

908
00:51:44.080 --> 00:51:49.360
But, David, you might have found a woman who's potential there for you.

909
00:51:49.360 --> 00:51:53.360
Yeah, yeah, I'm just leaning into Holy Spirit on it all.

910
00:51:53.440 --> 00:51:55.120
And just maintaining that.

911
00:51:56.800 --> 00:52:02.000
But if it ever gets serious, if it ever gets serious, definitely pass it by Organico.

912
00:52:02.000 --> 00:52:04.400
Now, are you serious about this?

913
00:52:04.400 --> 00:52:05.120
Remember what you said?

914
00:52:05.120 --> 00:52:08.720
If you're not, if you're not, then I want to be respectful of that.

915
00:52:09.440 --> 00:52:11.840
Yeah, you're going to be at the wedding, David.

916
00:52:13.200 --> 00:52:18.800
Yeah, another thing is I thought of another thing for my season in life is to go, I'm

917
00:52:18.800 --> 00:52:22.160
going to be traveling abroad in October and fall.

918
00:52:22.480 --> 00:52:29.040
The Greece, the roads, and then I'll join the cruise, Singles Cruise in January, figuring

919
00:52:29.040 --> 00:52:30.160
sure I'll meet someone.

920
00:52:30.160 --> 00:52:30.880
But you know what?

921
00:52:30.880 --> 00:52:31.440
Why not?

922
00:52:31.440 --> 00:52:32.560
I may not go with someone.

923
00:52:32.560 --> 00:52:33.520
I'll go with a group.

924
00:52:33.520 --> 00:52:34.080
But you know what?

925
00:52:34.080 --> 00:52:35.120
Why not just go do it?

926
00:52:35.120 --> 00:52:37.280
Because it's better to do it now before you meet someone.

927
00:52:37.280 --> 00:52:42.640
Because if you focus on wanting her now, you're going to miss out on these trips you

928
00:52:42.640 --> 00:52:43.200
could go on.

929
00:52:43.200 --> 00:52:47.440
Because if you marry and feed me my spirit mate, well, that door will be closed.

930
00:52:47.440 --> 00:52:49.280
So go do it while I can.

931
00:52:49.360 --> 00:52:50.400
Go do it while I can.

932
00:52:52.080 --> 00:52:53.760
There's a little bit of go do it while you can.

933
00:52:53.760 --> 00:52:57.440
But at the same time, there's also a little bit of like, it'd be really cool to do it

934
00:52:57.440 --> 00:52:58.400
with somebody as well.

935
00:52:59.120 --> 00:53:00.480
So I think it's both and.

936
00:53:00.480 --> 00:53:00.960
I love that.

937
00:53:03.920 --> 00:53:05.520
And then it'll cost money.

938
00:53:05.520 --> 00:53:09.200
And where she says, oh, I'm sick and bails out the last minute.

939
00:53:09.200 --> 00:53:10.400
No, what's what's money?

940
00:53:11.520 --> 00:53:12.720
What's money but an object?

941
00:53:13.840 --> 00:53:15.200
Couples discount, Hunter.

942
00:53:16.080 --> 00:53:16.800
There you go.

943
00:53:16.800 --> 00:53:18.720
Where the hell did that come from?

944
00:53:19.280 --> 00:53:21.120
There's a little bit of there's a little bit of truth.

945
00:53:21.120 --> 00:53:24.560
I will say this, guys, a little bit of truth that that two is better than one.

946
00:53:25.360 --> 00:53:31.840
And I want to be very careful with that, because young people like they're like, oh,

947
00:53:31.840 --> 00:53:33.280
they do irresponsible things.

948
00:53:33.280 --> 00:53:35.600
But sometimes it is a little better.

949
00:53:35.600 --> 00:53:36.560
Two is better than one.

950
00:53:36.560 --> 00:53:37.040
Sometimes.

951
00:53:41.520 --> 00:53:42.240
Absolutely.

952
00:53:43.600 --> 00:53:46.240
One can who can wow.

953
00:53:46.240 --> 00:53:48.000
One word from Thomas tonight.

954
00:53:48.000 --> 00:53:49.120
One word.

955
00:53:49.120 --> 00:53:49.680
That was it.

956
00:53:52.640 --> 00:53:53.760
Thomas with the mic drop.

957
00:53:54.720 --> 00:53:55.440
Yeah, he was.

958
00:53:55.440 --> 00:53:56.720
He was like, absolutely.

959
00:53:57.840 --> 00:53:58.400
I love it.

960
00:53:59.200 --> 00:54:02.320
All right, guys, we're past the hour.

961
00:54:02.320 --> 00:54:03.040
So I want to go.

962
00:54:04.480 --> 00:54:07.680
I'm standing on the street trying to find the rest of my family here.

963
00:54:07.680 --> 00:54:10.320
If you didn't know, I'm on kind of like a girl's trip.

964
00:54:11.120 --> 00:54:12.160
And I'm the chauffeur.

965
00:54:12.160 --> 00:54:13.920
I'm the designated driver.

966
00:54:13.920 --> 00:54:16.320
I'm the guy on the trip.

967
00:54:17.120 --> 00:54:18.960
They were going to go really by themselves.

968
00:54:18.960 --> 00:54:22.480
And then somebody freaked out and said, no, I'm going to have dad go with us.

969
00:54:24.160 --> 00:54:25.600
So I'm on this trip.

970
00:54:25.600 --> 00:54:26.560
Did you get my email?

971
00:54:28.320 --> 00:54:28.800
I did.

972
00:54:30.560 --> 00:54:32.080
I looked at your matches, Kenton.

973
00:54:32.640 --> 00:54:35.280
Yeah, it it didn't match with anybody.

974
00:54:36.000 --> 00:54:37.280
It didn't match with anybody.

975
00:54:37.920 --> 00:54:39.280
No, seriously.

976
00:54:39.280 --> 00:54:40.000
I'm not kidding.

977
00:54:42.400 --> 00:54:43.520
You know who it matched with?

978
00:54:44.480 --> 00:54:45.360
Mm hmm.

979
00:54:45.360 --> 00:54:46.720
You know who it matched with?

980
00:54:46.720 --> 00:54:47.120
With me?

981
00:54:47.120 --> 00:54:47.680
What?

982
00:54:47.680 --> 00:54:48.160
Jesus.

983
00:54:48.160 --> 00:54:49.200
It matched with Abram.

984
00:54:50.640 --> 00:54:51.600
I mean, hey.

985
00:54:54.080 --> 00:54:54.720
Tag team.

986
00:54:55.360 --> 00:54:56.000
Back again.

987
00:54:58.560 --> 00:54:59.840
So we're going to we're going to have to.

988
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.480
we're gonna have to work out i don't know we're gonna work on something i don't

989
00:55:02.480 --> 00:55:05.760
like it just means you're too amazing man

990
00:55:05.760 --> 00:55:09.280
that's what it is out there you couldn't speak any truer on that one

991
00:55:09.280 --> 00:55:12.400
because i know it and god knows it hey we're having fun with it

992
00:55:12.400 --> 00:55:16.560
yeah i'm like if you're willing to if you're willing to meet someone that

993
00:55:16.560 --> 00:55:20.320
unfortunately doesn't work out right now but could be convinced to work out

994
00:55:20.320 --> 00:55:25.120
my mom mom wow you have to come to vegas for that

995
00:55:25.120 --> 00:55:29.360
there you go nice guys putting his mom out there wow

996
00:55:29.840 --> 00:55:34.320
you could be david's father oh yeah that's powerful

997
00:55:34.320 --> 00:55:38.800
hey yeah david needs i mean i'm signing up for this right now i totally want

998
00:55:38.800 --> 00:55:42.320
kenton over more often yeah i mean i i've yet to have him over

999
00:55:42.320 --> 00:55:46.000
the first time but i'm up for the second third up to the 99th

1000
00:55:46.000 --> 00:55:50.720
there you go i need backup at the cake fight

1001
00:55:50.720 --> 00:55:55.520
okay oh you got her brother you should see it i did as a pastor in our church

1002
00:55:55.520 --> 00:55:59.760
um during one of our social times and we started a cake fight

1003
00:55:59.760 --> 00:56:03.280
oh was that fun the whole church erupted

1004
00:56:03.280 --> 00:56:07.120
wow it's such a joy

1005
00:56:08.160 --> 00:56:12.080
that's the kind of fun kind of fun guy i am though if you're not having fun let's

1006
00:56:12.080 --> 00:56:16.240
let's create fun in this very boring moment

1007
00:56:16.240 --> 00:56:21.280
that's good i wonder what a canadian cake fight is like

1008
00:56:21.280 --> 00:56:25.040
that's probably in the shape of a triangle very polite

1009
00:56:25.040 --> 00:56:28.720
that's what we're polite i was gonna say that who said that

1010
00:56:28.720 --> 00:56:36.480
it's what i said what are you gonna say i said it's very polite

1011
00:56:40.880 --> 00:56:43.280
hey you know what i was gonna say sorry i didn't get a chance to say this

1012
00:56:43.280 --> 00:56:45.200
earlier but when we were talking about the

1013
00:56:45.200 --> 00:56:49.360
characteristics to look for in a partner one of the things

1014
00:56:49.360 --> 00:56:53.360
one of the things that all of those had in common is it takes time

1015
00:56:53.360 --> 00:56:57.360
to see those things and so you gotta you gotta

1016
00:56:57.360 --> 00:57:01.200
even david i think you use the word patterns so you need to allow

1017
00:57:01.200 --> 00:57:04.800
you just need to allow time you gotta pay the price of time

1018
00:57:04.800 --> 00:57:09.840
100 yeah yeah yeah that's that's good daniel and i'm

1019
00:57:09.840 --> 00:57:13.040
glad you brought that up because um that's kind of what i was alluding to

1020
00:57:13.040 --> 00:57:16.320
without trying to kind of sound discouraging like oh it just

1021
00:57:16.320 --> 00:57:18.640
takes time but you're right it does it takes a

1022
00:57:18.640 --> 00:57:21.920
moment for those things to sort of reveal themselves

1023
00:57:21.920 --> 00:57:28.240
you know you don't know those things on a first date sometimes

1024
00:57:28.240 --> 00:57:33.280
so it's good stuff i appreciate you mentioning that

1025
00:57:34.480 --> 00:57:38.080
all right guys i'm gonna jump off here and

1026
00:57:38.080 --> 00:57:42.880
love you guys god bless welcome to men's heartwork good discussion tonight hope

1027
00:57:42.880 --> 00:57:46.400
you guys have got a lot out of it we'll see you on the flip side

1028
00:57:46.400 --> 00:57:50.400
bye man take care have a good one have fun

1029
00:57:50.400 --> 00:57:53.440
we will