Hello, beautiful, amazing people. It is always such a joy to be with you. And here we are
in week six, like we're getting, we're trucking along, and we're going to find your tribe.
We're going to actually identify what really makes you pump, what you love in other people,
because actually what you love in other people is what you love in you. So today, I just
want to share with you, first of all, actually, thank you for those who are doing the DIY
course. I am so missing you because I don't get to see you in person, but it's been lovely
to have your comments. It's been lovely to have your feedback. It's been great to know
how you're getting on, which is amazing. So thank you for that. And for those who haven't
touched base yet, I'd love to hear from you. I really would. And on the mentorship crew,
it's great because I get to see you every week. So I get to see what's going on. And
there's a couple of you that missed out this week on Monday. So I'm looking forward to seeing you
this coming Monday. But right now, let's get into, it's fabulous Friday, let's get into what you need
to do for the coming week. So here we go. So the joy of today is the fact that we get to talk about
your winning lane, and actually what's connection for you. And it's interesting, before we get into
this week, I do want you to do your recap, because you know how important that is. When we
recap, when we really look, and we review and re-reflect, we get to see how far we've come,
we get to see the progress, we get to see what's made a difference. So I just encourage you right
now, to just pause for a moment and think about the takeaways from last week, and where you had
that breakthrough on forgiveness. So, you know, what was the most impactful on forgiveness? And I
think, you know, certainly those that I approached earlier this week, they were saying that the fact
that forgiveness is about themselves, not the other person. So, you know, maybe that's something
you took out. Or it may have been that forgiveness is actually not about condoning somebody else's
behaviour. You know, sorry, I can't talk and try at the same time. Someone else's behaviour.
It's actually just about setting yourself free.
So, you know, last week was about putting the keys to happiness back in your hands. Don't let
somebody else's comments, somebody else's hurt, somebody else's actions, stop you from being the
most amazing person that you are. And so I don't know how you've applied this week, but I encourage
you to consider how you've applied that concept. What have you done to choose forgiveness? Some of
you may have used the God Box and literally said, Father, forgive me. Some of you may have, and I
know somebody has this week, for me, and actually, we worked it through together.
And released what needed to be released. And then we asked for the great exchange. We asked Jesus,
God, Holy Spirit to exchange it to give us what it is that's the opposite. So to give us peace
and rest, because you don't get that when you're holding unforgiveness. It's stressful,
it's anxious, and it's horrid. So, you know, the exchange of giving that unforgiveness away
allows you to receive peace and rest. And then, you know, think about how that's helped you,
how that has changed your relationship. You know, the fact that you've got no stress,
you've got no anxiety, everything's much more open. So more open, perhaps, more friendly,
less worry. You know, those are great, great things that can come from your relationships
with others. And then give yourself a score of how you reflect or how you find yourself right now,
as we're coming into this training. You may be, I know one of our beautiful people was
at A&E all last night, so that was pretty full on. So they actually might be quite tired.
However, wherever you're at, whatever you're in, I'm going to say I'm an out, I'm ready for a new
beginning. And of course, it's always actually refreshed. I've had a great day today, catching
up with people and working through what we've needed to work through today, like lots of
moments, you know, that's exactly
exactly where I need to be.
And in fact, I have the joy of working
on my first proper newsletter for the month of April today.
So it was actually good to get ahead of the game
and start thinking about what am I gonna put into April?
What's coming up?
What's happening?
What gold nuggets would you like from me?
Anyway, so if you know of anybody
who wants to get the monthly newsletter
and it is only gonna be monthly,
you know, pass the message on, pass the love on,
encourage them to sign up for the newsletter.
It's free, it doesn't cost them anything.
And every month there will actually be a freebie in it.
So there'll be some gold nugget that you get to take away
just because I have the capacity to give it to you.
So, however, right now, boom, boom,
we're into the fun stuff.
We're into that nitty gritty.
I want you to think about exchanging
an unfulfilling relationship for fulfilling relationships.
So what we're gonna do, as always,
because I'm rather into the good stuff
rather than the ugly stuff,
is I want you, first of all,
to consider who do you want to have relationships with?
So who do you admire and what are the qualities
that they possess that resonate with you?
So in my case, Dion, Bridget,
I just love these couples.
Bridget, I would put, for those people who know Ken
and Lynette, they're very similar.
And Graham and Teresa.
Jenny would come into that space too.
And why do I love these people?
Why do I go, oh my goodness,
they fill my heart with soul and joy and everything.
I haven't even put my husband on there.
I've just realized that when I fill my heart and soul,
he fills my heart and soul.
So it's like, what is it about these people?
What is it that I love or I admire in them?
And for me, it's their,
so for some of them are highly apostolic.
They are pastoral,
because they actually care and know who you are.
And they're prophetic.
And actually, endless patience and love.
All of them have endless patience and love.
There's a grace and a mercy that all of them carry.
And to be honest, to hang out with me,
you need to have oodles of all of that stuff,
because I am 100 miles an hour.
So think for you who they are
and what is it you admire in them.
And then the next thing is to think about
who has sown into your life, who has blessed you,
who has lifted you up and encouraged you.
And that could be past, present and future.
And again, where have they sown in?
What was the difference they really made for you?
So a lot of the above ones would actually sit
in the same space for me,
but I'm not going to go there
because I've already got them above.
But I think about my dad,
because he sowed in love.
Actually, he sowed in unconditional love.
And I think about my mum who,
for those of you who've read the book or reading the book,
I don't, you know, my mum and I don't really connect.
We really struggle to connect.
But she's taught me how to be resilient.
You know, and so I've got that blessing from here.
You know, who else has sown into your life?
You know, my godmother was always there
with a kind heart and a kind word.
You know, that was always her gig.
So who is it for you?
Who are they and what did they sow into you?
And Mrs. B, my needlework teacher,
she just thought I was awesome.
You know, and she actually always brought the best out in me.
You know, it was just gold.
Now, the next one is what are the qualities you admire?
Oh, I've already done that one.
You know, what goodness did they bring into your life?
I actually need to move this one up here,
but nevermind, we've got it for now.
And then, so you could use this bottom,
the next one in there,
but we've answered the question in here.
So that's fine.
We've done those three questions.
And now, what have you learned
from those who've challenged you?
So this is, now this is an exchange.
What we're going to do is we're going to.
and to exchange the pain for the promise.
So my mum wasn't the kindest to me,
but I learned, so I learned to be resilient.
I learned to stand on my own feet.
So what did I learn from those that challenged me
is resilience,
how to stand on my own two feet,
and I suppose independence,
because actually I had to get on and do stuff myself.
No one was going to do it for me.
I'm just trying to think whoever, you know,
and actually I think of Cliff,
and for those of you who are part of our church
and have read the book,
you know, Cliff used to speak out in the sermon
and I'd be like, I can't believe he just said that.
And it was never him.
It was always something in me.
So I can thank Cliff for a healed heart
because every week there was something
pulled out of my heart, something that wasn't right.
So I can thank him, even though I found him challenging.
And I still to this, to be fair,
there has, I haven't been challenged for a while.
I'm starting to be challenged again.
So it's stuff that needs to be worked out in me,
which is great because then I become a better person for it.
So I just, the summary of this particular key
is the fact that whatever you see in others
is a mirror of who you are
because we only see what we are looking for.
So if, for example, I mean, this is great
because it means that actually
I'm going in the right direction for me.
I'm looking towards that, I'm seeing the apostolic,
I'm seeing the pastoral, I'm seeing the prophetic.
That's where I want to go.
These guys are way ahead of me, but I want to follow.
I want to look in that direction
because that's what actually motivates me.
That's what gets me out of bed in the morning.
And those that have sewn in love, resilience,
kind hearts, kind, this is who I am.
And it's who you are.
So whatever you've written down, it's actually who you are.
And again, here, healed heart, bring it on.
Resilience, capacity to stand on my own two feet.
I love people, but I don't need them.
There's a difference.
I don't need anybody, but I want to hang out
with all of you.
It's brilliant.
There's no, you know, no strings attached.
Okay, so that's the first things kind of,
and those, these people are your tribe.
This is your tribe.
So that helps you see who's good for you,
see who's not so good for you.
And of course, I'm not going to hang out.
I mean, I go and hang out with Cliff every week
because actually it's not a bad thing
to have my heart healed and sort it out.
I don't particularly hang out with my mum every week
and that's okay.
I'm in my fifties, I don't need to right now.
And she's the other side of the world.
So no, we don't always, but you know,
embracing what we're learning and iron sharpens iron.
Okay, so we now have exchanging the gap
for the gain, bring it on.
This is just such gold.
So right now, what mountain do you want to climb?
And for me, the mountain I want to climb at the moment,
there's two or three mountains I've got on at the moment.
The first one is our radio show,
which is going to be called past the message on
and it gets launched.
On Easter Sunday at 8 p.m.
And that's on Radio Hawke's Bay, love it.
So that's a mountain.
We are not there yet.
The graphics haven't been done.
The little jingle hasn't been done.
There's a lot to be done to go from where we are now
to get there.
So that's my first mountain.
The second mountain I'm actually not climbing now,
but it's ahead of me is the podcast
because that's separate to the radio show.
It will actually, the radio show will become a podcast
as well, but that's with Phil, it's a separate thing.
So this is, we're going to have the inspiring perspective
podcast.
So that's cool, that's coming up.
And the other mountain I'm looking at climbing
is doing a collaborative book.
So that's the next part that's coming.
Which is quite exciting. So those are some bits that you might not have known about that's coming up.
And then, so what steps do you need to take? So whatever your mountains are to climb, whatever they are for you.
I want to buy a house. Great news this week. I had a lovely lady that I coached back in January.
And we'd put it on her, you know, she put it on that she wanted to buy a house by the end of the year.
She bought it last week. So cool. Within three months, boom, she got it done. Very exciting.
So if buying a house, if I don't know, whatever it might be for you guys that you want to do, put it in there.
And then what steps do you need to take? So in my case, some of the steps I need to take the radio station is getting the graphics sorted.
Phil's sorting the jingle, so I don't have to do too much about that.
And then we need to be able to sort out an outro because we haven't done that yet.
We need to look at our calendar.
Or. For the month, for the like how the months are going to go for the show.
We need to source content. And guests.
So having this in like proper time and then the Inspiring Perspectives podcast.
What I need to do is I need to start interviewing. The people I do.
So I'm doing live with you guys right now. So whoever is in my life in this season is to interview some of those people.
Ask them, why do you hang out with me? Why are you doing this course?
Why do you come on our master's mind every week? What makes you show up?
Whatever it might be. So I've got some interviewing to do.
And then the collaborative book, I have paid to do it and I have been interviewed.
So that's the first two things. And then the next thing is the ball is actually in the other person's court that's organising it.
So I just need to respond to. I or Rick's emails.
As I come through. As they sort out what they need to do, that'll be done.
It's not going to come out to August, but we're doing the work now. So that's that.
And then what you focus. So you. Sorry, I keep going ahead.
So what you need to make sure is that you've got some key steps that you can start putting in that productivity planner.
I'm going to do this towards it today. I'm going to do this towards it next week.
I'm going to do to make sure that you get done what you want to get done.
And then what you focus on expands. So we know that if you focus on what's noble, right and true, you'll get what's noble, right and true.
If you focus on other things, it's going to go the other way.
So, again, if this is the mountain you want to climb, we want to focus.
This is where the gap in the game comes in. We want to focus on progress.
We don't want to focus if this sort of here, if this is where we're starting from and this is the top of your mountain or this is where you want to get to.
What happens is as you climb your mountain, your map, because you'll get there'll be something else and then there'll be something else and then there'll be something else.
So the gap actually never gets less because as you grow your aspirations or where you want to go goes.
So what we do is we measure from where you are now to where you are next week or tomorrow or today.
You know, like and then the next bit and then the next bit and then the next bit.
And before you know it, you've actually made that progress.
Yes, the mountain is still ahead of you, but look what you've done.
And Jesus said it is done.
Winners track done lists, not look at to-do lists, which is the gap between where I am now and where I want to be.
Winners track done lists. I did this today. I did this today. I did this today. I did this this week.
Phil and I recorded the first part of our show this week. Done. Brilliant.
So what I encourage you to do is to focus on what you've done and to measure.
Again, not the gap, so measure what you've achieved.
not what you're still to do and
Every time you look at what you're still to do and that's okay to look at that and do that
But don't measure yourself on it
Measure yourself on what you've achieved
The amount of times I have to have this conversation and my husband didn't think he'd already got it
But no matter you think by living with me, I've got it
So what we're going to focus on just as we do in our calendars
We focus on the big three and as you know from the book and for my productivity planner
You my big three faith
family
Finance, so those are the three hinges that are gonna massive doors for me
so we've got
Faith
Family and yours might be different and then finance
And then we focus on so this is how again here we go shift your mindset from a to-do list to a done list and
Recognize your accomplishments
start tracking those
wins
So today I have been on
Seven calls today. So I've had seven meetings today. I
Have now recorded
Session six. Oh
Great exchange
I have
What else have I done today? There's been some really good stuff today. So you think about what you've done today
We saw what worship practice tonight for vocalists
And other bits and pieces going on and I need to pack as well
So I've still got some bits to do but at the moment that is what I have at all and I've moved my
Physio
Appointment
Yeah, nice and
Then just remember this is good job that I did this at the time that I've done this today
So still got time to go and pick calves trainers up, but I've been forgetting to do all week
So I need to go and do those
So I've still got some to do is but I'm gonna measure my duns. That's what I've done. That's what I've done
That's what I've done and then raise your floor. So I
Understand that each small win contributes to your overhaul overall growth and progress in other words, what was my ceiling?
Yesterday, so where I left off yesterday is
The floor that I start on today
and what's going to happen is I'm then going to lift up as I do things and that becomes my new floor for tomorrow and
Then I do some more stuff and that becomes my new floor for the next day. And that's how compound interest works
It's how my book got written. It's how this course gets written. I just
Everywhere. So I've now written the course. I think I've got one more
thing to do Kev now is working on
Sessions nine through because he's got to finish those off and then I check them again, you know
And then we go from there. So there's a lot of bouncing around. I thought I'd check these see I hadn't checked it properly
So, you know, we do a lot of backwards and forwards to bounce this and make it work
But at the end of the day, so my new floor I am
A number one
best
Selling author and that's where I start from when I speak to people when they ask me what I do or whatever it might be
That's my new floor
I'm also, you know a leading
Breakthrough coach
You
You know, so
Whatever it is. You're ready. Have your identity is whatever you've achieved, you know, I've written the great exchange course
I've written the great exchange book boom
I've started my new radio show with Phil burn. So now
I'm now a radio show host
What the heck?
Anyway, so just I encourage you to just think and just work that through for yourself
Because your floor your ceiling now
So whatever that is, I'm gonna step up tomorrow and do some more
So that's just a little bit of stuff for you
And then our last key in this training is lanes
exchanging exchanging competition for collaboration
We are meant to work together and fit together
Not big, you know, I'm doing it my way. I'm doing it my way. So what I'd encourage you to do is
Identify your
own unique gifts. Everyone has a winning lane that adds value to the world. What are you
naturally brilliant at? What would you do if everything that you needed was in front of you,
including finance, what would you do? So just take a moment. I would probably do, to be fair,
I'd probably do what I do now. I don't think my life would change much at all because it's all,
for me, it's about serving, which is about empowering and uplifting people and it's all
about growing and building a kingdom here on earth. While we're here, we've got stuff to do
and it's about, for me, it's about my world peace. You'll know about that in the book.
So it's really interesting, you know, think about the things that are important to you
and what are you brilliant at? I'm brilliant at growing people, I'm brilliant at empowering
people, I'm brilliant at gathering people. In fact, that's what the new, gathering people
and having fun. It's actually upgrading people. I think I should mention that already,
but you know, growing people. That's that gathering, growing, building, that's my gig.
What's yours? Now, for some of the people on this course, I know that they are phenomenal artists.
I know they have a gift for languages. I can speak one language, English, that's it,
but they can speak two or three. So they can communicate to many people in different ways.
They have dominant musical pillars that allow them to be empathetic, allow them to tune into
the people in the environment around them. In fact, many of you are creatives. Many of you
sit in that creative space. There are others that have amazing analytical and scientific brains
and they have a capacity to stick at things and work things out and want to know how does this
work and how does that work, that lovely logical mathematical. It's brilliant because they dot
the i's and cross the t's and they come at everything brave and courageous. So that's
another thing. Some of you are brave and courageous. In fact, many of you are brave and courageous.
And then what are others, you know, in your team or your world brilliant at?
Where do they add value? So, for example, you know, we've got an amazing worship leader,
so Nati, you know, and she just brings the joy and musicianship.
And joy and musicianship to the space that we're in. And then, you know, Kier, bless his heart,
does all these workbooks for me. It looks after the website and then I've got lovely Ella who's
doing my social media for me. And they've all got different skill sets. So Ella can do the visual
spatial. And she can also do all the strategy stuff. She's trying to be a lawyer. It's so cool.
So she's got that, you know, she's got that, you know, she's got that, you know, she's got that
and she can also do all the strategy stuff. She's trying to be a lawyer. It's so cool.
So she's got that strategic brain and she can process stuff so easily. So think about who
you've got around you and how they slot in, how they compliment you. Because actually, when we
all run in our lanes and do the things that we're brilliant at, we work with others, we all win.
It's gold. And then how can we work together to achieve more? So if we run in our lanes and not
try and be in others, you know, we win our race.
When we run with others, when others run in their lanes
and don't try and get into somebody else's, they win their race.
And when we run together,
funnily enough, we achieve more and everyone wins. There is a hurdles. I think it's a 400
hurdles. No, maybe it's just the 400 meters at the Olympics. And I feel like
It was the Tokyo Olympics, but I could be completely wrong.
So one of the Olympics in Tokyo,
relatively recently, there was a 400 meters men's hurdles.
And in all of the lanes, everyone broke a record.
It was either a personal best, a country, a national best,
or it was, you know, that broke the Olympic Games record.
But in that one race, everyone won.
Somebody might've got the gold for the Olympics, but everyone won.
And that is what we're trying to achieve.
So I encourage you to consider who your tribe is, how you track progress,
because it's all about uplifting.
It's all about growing and it's all about working together.
And I encourage you to consider what you're going to do this week
to power equip and raise up.
So what are you going to do to consider your tribe
or how you track progress?
And one of the things I'm going to do is I'm going to be consistent.
With my. Productivity planner.
I'm going to keep on top of comms.
Because that's been a mission for me, the amount of stuff that comes through.
And there was something I was going to look towards was communication,
you know, communication is sound and communication is good.
I know what I was going to do. I was going to follow up.
On all my links, because I've copied links from been on a chat,
we've been somewhere and I copied a link and I haven't gone there
because I've just been too busy, so I'm like, no, I'm going to do.
That's one of the things I'm going to slow down,
going to copy the links, I'm going to take the action.
So that's my plan, which is about tracking my progress.
I want to track how much better I get at that.
And then in terms of my gifting, I am.
Actually, I'm going to ask people, for those of you who have read the book,
I'm going to ask those who have read the book
to leave Google and Amazon review,
because that will really, really help me
and it will help others to find the right book for them.
So ultimately, right now, I want you to review how you've got on with this
and you can obviously pause the videos as you've gone along
and how you feel moving forward now to go and think about your tribe,
think about your vibe, think about raising your floor,
think about what you're focusing on and who you're focusing with.
And as usual, it's all about people.
I'm getting super excited, so I'm now 12.
I'm like a 12 out of 10.
Let me at it.
Let me work with the beautiful people I get to work with and for.
And how does that make me feel? Amazing.
So. That is pretty much.
I'm finishing the training, having the opportunity to work with you.
I know I don't see you, which makes me a little bit sad,
but I know you're at the other end of this and I love every single one of you.
I'd love to hear how you're getting on with the training.
I'd love to know whether it's working for you.
And if it's not, tell me that, too, because I need to make it better.
And if there's anything that you would suggest.
And in the meantime, have an amazing, God blessed week.
Some of you I'll see on Monday and some of you I will see this time next week.
God bless. Take care. I love you. Bye.