Hello amazing beautiful people it is always a pleasure to be with you and here we are
in session 7 and it's all about values. Now you know how it works before we go into session
7 we want to reflect on what we've learnt from session 6 because if we don't take time
to pause and reflect we don't get to draw the line in the sand because now a week later
from last week's training your ceiling from last week becomes your floor for this week
and what we're wanting to do is step and step and step have compound interest each week
so that we're going higher and higher and higher that's the key to what we're doing.
So welcome welcome good to see you you are well over halfway congratulations for getting
to this point you're superstars let me share the screen and let's get going. So here we
have week 7 and we're looking at your true value but before we go into that we want to
reflect on the three keys that I gave you last week one was about not being alone so
thinking about the people that you read those healthy relationships the people that lift
you up the people that you admire the people that oh my goodness really float your boat
or you just want to spend lots of time with and then we also looked at like onwards and
upwards we looked at your mountain what mountain do you want to climb and then how are you
going to get there the big three and the steps you need to take to get there so your mountain
is really like what is the one thing we're going to get the mindset out the way and go
oh my goodness and because actually what we're doing is we are moving that mountain we're
moving the old mindsets and we're exchanging them for new we're you know old ways of thinking
for new old relationships for new now some of our old relationships are amazing so we're
not going to get rid of those but we just want to make sure that we're in our lane and
then living a life fulfilled actually you running in your lane with others running in
their lane and everyone wins so what this whole of last week was about was you really
finding out who you are and what your identity is and so hopefully you've gained some insight
in key takeaways so it could have been my goodness all the things that I admire in others
ah it's all about people it's about prophecy it's about whatever it is about sport whatever
it might be it's about learning scripture it's whatever it is for you what is it and
identifying that because what you see is what you you know what you see is actually what
you're looking for and so what am I looking for what are you looking for are you looking
for creatives are you looking for people who've got amazing businesses and pottery
or crafts or whatever it might be what is it that you're doing and then how did you
integrate those learnings how did you apply who you are and it's interesting one of the
things that I've been doing this week is reviewing and reflecting on what do I need to cut out
what do I need to prune away that isn't in line with my zone of genius and my field of
favour where am I using my time unproductively where am I getting caught up because actually
my unproductive time is not in my lane so that's been one of the things that I've been
working on this week and then looking at my relationships with others we've got last week
stuff in here or what I've just written earlier um so engagement with others where are you
going forward or how has it been when you've been talking to other people how has it changed
what has it made you do has it made you stand up more has it made you connect more with
the people you want to and actually step back and maybe take away some of the people that
aren't in the team or you don't want to be part of that's fine it's about running with
the right people so you've got your lane and running with them and you know what I find
the gold is when we run with the right people when we're in the right space then we're running
in the lane we need to go in which is just amazing so I would encourage you to give yourself
now as we're coming into this next step this next part how are you feeling and so I am
actually 7 out of 10 and I'm excited to see what this is going to do for us and I did
this earlier this week with a live group so I got to actually look at my values again
which was so cool and to see how actually some of them had changed in fact many of them
had changed it was quite interesting I didn't think that was going to happen anyway but
as our seasons change and as we change and as we grow and we move things move with us
so it's not a fixed thing this but for now we're going to look at your values for this
season right now and so part of understanding values is let's have a wee look at what they're
about so for me they're about getting my guardrails on
This is about me pointing in the right direction, being in the right lane and going the way that I've been called to go.
And so we have good values, things that we love and we want to move towards.
It could be love, it could be financial freedom, it could be faith, all those are the things we want.
And we looked at some of that actually last week as we were looking at what we valued in other people.
And there's some that we don't like. It could be rejection, fear of failure, all those ugly things, whatever it might be.
And today we're going to exchange those ugly ones for you for some good ones.
I'm going to show you how to cut those ugly ones, those painful ones off and make them better.
And you know your good ones, I'm going to show you how to exchange them and make them even bigger.
How cool is that? But let's have a look at some fun facts.
So emotions, sorry, values don't have emotion. They're two separate things.
And that value only means something when we add emotion to it.
For example, love itself doesn't mean anything until we add some emotions or some experiences to it.
Now, some people say that love is actually about beating somebody up.
And if we've learned that the emotions that go with that will sit with that value.
But if we've learned that love is about joy and adoration and honoring each other,
we've got those beautiful, warm feelings of joy and adoration that add to love.
And what we want to do is we want to make these values so beautiful and cozy that they knit together beautifully.
We don't want this. So and then again, failure.
So failure is not always people's favorite. We don't like making mistakes.
So because we've attached emotions of disappointment and disillusionment to failure.
Whereas if we can cut that off and actually create a new path where failure is actually success,
because it's taking us and leading us towards the next thing, boom, we're done. So good.
So values are signposts indicating whether you're on the right track or not.
And because our emotions, we link our emotions to values, our emotions are also signposts that help us.
The values are clear signposts. Emotions can be a bit wobbly because they can take us in different directions.
They come from your heart and your spirit.
So we've got mind, body, soul and then our spirit that covers everything and inform your head and logic, not the other way around.
So values are in your heart and they come up and they give you the information.
Your head cannot inform your heart. Your heart can only inform your head.
Values are internal and they're your true self drive.
They're that internal, you're intrinsically motivated by them.
They're not, but what they do is the inside that reflects the outside.
They're not outside in, they're inside out.
And then when we live in line with our values, we feel peace, contentment and reduce stress.
Sound good? Never get stressed again?
Oh, that would be lovely.
And then when we take action towards our values, we feel integrity, alignment and increase self-confidence.
Oh, so into that. Wouldn't you just love to feel really confident every moment of every day?
Oh, so good. I love it.
Okay, so what we're going to do is I'm actually going to flick to my screen and I'm going to show you all the values, the good ones.
And what I want you to do, so in a minute, I'm going to show you the screen with a whole heap of values on.
It's not like an ever ending list. It's just a biggest list as I can do for now.
If you've got a positive value or a value that you want to promise value that is that is not on that list, add it in, have it.
That's fine. But what I want you to do is get down to the top five.
And the reason I want you to do that is because your top five values are the top 20 percent.
And your top 20 percent are going to give you 80 percent of your sense of health and well-being and increased confidence and decreased stress, anxiety or worry.
So we're going to do top five of the good ones and top five of the bad ones.
But for now, we're going to look at the good ones. So what I want you to do, there's a list here.
And what I'm going to suggest you do is you pause now and you write down or when I finish speaking, you pause.
You write down all of the ones that like, oh, my goodness, that's me, that's me.
And only I only want your ten out of tens, the ones that you really cannot live without.
Like, oh, my goodness, for me, faith or love or family.
They're clearly very high on my list. And life's not worth living without them, quite frankly.
It's just no good for me. Now, that doesn't have to be the same for you.
it could be significance, or it could be Jesus, it could be whatever it is for you
it could be feeling physically fit, being fit and healthy, whatever it is for you
you choose your top five. So I encourage you now, pause this, find your top five
and then we'll go again.
Brilliant, welcome back, congratulations for getting your top five, even if you
had a few more and you've whittled them down you have done really well. Now
you're going to do the same but with the uglies and I know you might have to
expand your screens to see these because there's only so much because you will
have to do that from your end I'm afraid. So expand the screens and what I want
you to do this time is pick your zero out of tens, the ones that you really
don't like. Now you won't like them and other people, you won't like them in
other people. So for example if lying was one of those, you won't lie and you won't
you can't bear it when other people lie. So again I'm going to encourage you in a
moment to pause this, take the time, work out your top five and your top five are
your worst ones on the planet, the ones you would avoid at all costs. So have
fun, write your list, get them down to your bottom five as it were, your worst
of your worst of your worst. Have fun.
Welcome back, what I'd like you to do right now is write your top five in
here of your goodies, your promise values and then your bottom five of your
pain values. So whatever they are for you I want you to write those down and
actually if I just took one moment right now I could stick mine in so that we
have got, oh, just so that you can see.
Now they're not necessarily in the right order but they are my top five and then
oh that's interesting and be down there to sort that out. I'm taking them off the
top now, that's unhelpful, oh that's okay and then
oh look, good old lying's popped up there. Okay so whatever it is for you I want
you to pop your top five in and then you're gonna learn, oh, Kim's put them in,
bless him, he's actually put the rules in, he's just popped them in the wrong place,
bless his cotton socks. Okay then what I want you to do is I want you to ignore
this lot for a moment and we're going to go to the Pareto Principle and what
we're going to do here is we're going to look at, I've just talked about it, the
top five is 20% gives you 80% of your health and well-being and feel
good. So what we're going to do is we're going to make these top ones, these
promise values, feel amazing. You've currently got a three-lane highway
towards them, we're going to make a six-lane highway, we're going to double
how more time that you feel in these values and the way that we do that is we
want to feel them every moment of every day if we can because that we want to
make them as easy as possible so we want to be broad in here to see how easy we
can do it. So love, so for example these sentences are going to start every time
I, whenever I, or anytime I, to make it open and broad. So every time I hang out
with God, Jesus, Holy Spirit, so the Trinity,
I'm in the word, in worship or praise, you know I think in thankfulness, let's put
thankful, so anywhere in that space. Hang out with, it could be my
husband, it could be friends, for me it could be just about any human on the
planet to be fair, with people, with nature,
or walking the dog, or, or, because I want to do it as many times, so I'm not always
walking the dog, I'm not always with people, I feel them.
So I'm either hanging out with family or the Trinity or I'm in the Word or I'm
thankful or I'm with my husband or I'm with friends or I'm walking the dog.
Brilliant! So at no point in my day can I not feel love because all of those
things are now in my rule. They're now in my rule that I'm gonna read in my head
to make sure I feel love every moment of every day and the joy of hanging out
with Jesus, God and the Holy Spirit as they hang. The Holy Spirit's in me, hangs out
with me all the time. So actually that's it. I'm done. It's brilliant! Okay I could
use almost the same. I've got faith next and I could almost sit in the same space
for faith but I'll try and I'll do it. I'll just do some different things for
that. So whenever, so look at that, whenever I am connected with God, Jesus
and or the Holy Spirit, all the same really.
And what else would bring me faith? Pray. Brings me faith. Worship again.
Or I'm thankful for all I have. I'm building my faith or I feel faith, whichever. So any of
those things, one or that or that or that. I'm doing it every day, every
moment. Brilliant. Boom. I'll give you one more. Anytime. So we've got this. Anytime I
and my next one was peace. Anytime I, here we go, breathe. Yeah. Yeah, way. Every
time I breathe, if you take a deep breath, if you do this actually four times, deep
breath. Let it out. Breathe. Let it out. It brings you peace, brings you calm.
It's nuts. So anytime I breathe, pause, take a moment to tune in and be present. I
feel peace. And you can do that. I can do that any moment to any day, even when I'm
not feeling peace. I can breathe. I can take a moment to just press the pause
button. I can step out of something if I need to when I press the pause button.
Just take a moment to be present. When I'm present, I'm actually activating all my
senses. What can I see? What can I hear? What can I smell? And it just brings me
back to a place of peace, even if there's carnage going on around me. So have some
fun with these. So these are the these are the ones we you know, we just want to make
them as broad and as easy so that we can feel it all the time. And when we get into
this space, and we now you are going to read these every morning and night for the
next 21 days, and technically three cycles of the next 21 days. However, if you read
them until they're autopilot, you can shorten that time from 21 days to until it
becomes autopilot because that's what we're looking for until your subconscious
gets it. And that's the pathway you go down so that you are feeling more
confident, self confident, you're just on fire. It's amazing. So I encourage you to
do this. Okay, let's look at the uglies. These are my favorites. Because these are
the ones you are gonna never feel again. Never feel again. They're not going to
have any emotions attached to them. They're not good. The enemy is not going
to be able to get his squirmy little hooky worm in. You are going to be free
from today. Trust me. And this is one of the keys that unlock the door allowed me
to be able to speak to my ex husband, who used to throw me across hallways throw me
across driveways who I had a police order against. allows me to chat to him just
like I'm chatting to you now.
Karmas, no emotion, no worry, no tears, no fear, it's all gone, completely gone.
So I'm blessing you with what I was blessed with because that for me has been a blessing.
So let's have a wee look.
Now these ones we want to make almost impossible, like it is so hard, so where we went broad
to make it easy as possible for you to feel, now we're going to go super narrow and make
it almost impossible for you to feel.
So we can only, there's two sentence openers for this one, only when I or the only time
I.
That's it.
So let's use one of mine, cold hearted, oh my goodness, oh my goodness, bear with, only
when.
Now the key here is to write a sentence that has absolutely nothing to do with what I already
see as cold hearted.
So only when I, only when I jump around in a pink panther suit, will I feel cold hearted.
Now the chance is, in fact jump around, only when I live, let's make it even, like I am
not going to live in a pink panther suit, like that's nuts, it's absolutely nuts.
And you know what, it's got nothing to do with cold hearted, now I was going to put
only when I've eaten all the chocolate on the planet, because actually I'd love to do
that but I'd probably feel sick.
You know and not shared it with anybody would I feel cold hearted but actually not sharing
for me is cold hearted.
So although that would be quite funny, it wouldn't be helpful because it's linked to
why I already feel about cold hearted and if in this new sentence I've got anything
that links to the old, it's going to grow the old without me knowing it, so we don't
want that.
So only when I live, only when I choose to live, only when I choose to, there we go I've
made it even harder, choose to live in a pink panther suit will I feel cold hearted.
Now if I read that rule enough times, when somebody or something happens and I see them
as cold hearted, instead of me getting upset, instead of me getting triggered by it, I'm
not going to feel anything, oh that's right, no no, I'm not in a pink panther suit, so
I'm not living in a pink panther suit, so I can come instead of being emotionally charged,
I can come with a lovely cool head and speak light and life into that situation instead
of being triggered, which masks us and closes us down.
Okay, my next one was rudderless, so the only time I will feel rudderless is when I have
been abducted by aliens.
Now for me, being rudderless is actually about not having a plan, it's not having a vision
and you know, if I've been abducted by aliens, maybe that is linked, because if I'm abducted
by aliens, then I can't have a vision, because I've got no way of knowing where I'm going.
So the only time I will feel rudderless is when, we're going to change that one, is when
I can no longer put my socks on, or my undies on, or whatever it might be, put my socks
on.
So as long as I can put my socks on, I'm all good to go, and that's got nothing to do with
being rudderless.
I can just put my socks on, even better, when I can no longer, got a better one, rip a tissue.
Everybody can rip a tissue, it's not hard, so that's the only time, if I can't rip a
tissue, then I'm allowed to be rudderless, but otherwise, it's all good, there you go.
So I've just gone, there we go.
giving you a genuine like oh no hold on a minute that's still attached oh
no that's attached so if i'd use the other sentences that were still attached
the way that my brain thought about that so you've got to be really good and you
know what feel free there's a small group doing this
if you want to send your values rules to me i'm happy to check them
and flick them back to you to make sure that nothing
is you know in your old ways i'll do one more just for you guys so
you've got three of each just to give you only
when i
that's a lying i've got this time only when i
lying only when i
i've chosen to
live with penguins
um well i feel
lying because the reality is i'm never going to live with penguins quite
frankly well as far as i'm aware i'm not going
to choose to live with penguins uh far too cold for one so
and lying for me is around um
oh maybe that is linked because that's about integrity
and i wouldn't maybe only when i've chosen to live with penguins
well i feel lying because i wouldn't choose that so it would be a lie so that
actually doesn't work because it's with it's with that sits in
exactly what i see lying as so only when
only when i have
gosh this has got me stumped only when i have
only when i fly to the
only when i have
only when i fly to the moon
well i feel fine
um so unless i am flying to the moon i'm standing in the truth and i can't
have it anything to do with the truth or anything to do with lying because that
links the brain so i'm just going to pause and stop the
share and just share some science with you so you can
understand how this stuff works because god has been
amazing in how he has created us what these rules are doing is they are
creating a new neural pathway in your brain so
every time you read them and say them out loud
you are literally telling your brain and you are recreating so
the 700 neurons produced in your hippocampus every day responsible for
memory and learning and so you're using those neurons to
build a new neural pathway and a neural pathway is
like a physical path in your brain and so after 23 cycles of 21
days you've actually built a three-lane highway so what we're doing
is we're building a new three and making it double because you're
adding to it for the good ones now when we've got
things that we don't use in our brain so we've got old
information that we're not using we've got some because you know the
brain needs is constantly regenerating it's so it's using
it's all the bits that are firing and as you're thinking about these things
it's all firing and working but if there's some bits in your brain that
you're not thinking about in the night god restores us he restores
our bodies and so what he does is he's sent in the glial cells and they're
like vacuum cleaners they come in they go
and they suck up all the stuff that you don't need anymore
and so using that brilliant bit of science
we get to reprogram our minds we get to move mountains
so if we create those new rules that are nuts that make us laugh
like pink panther suits and flying to the moon and like
nuts stuff like that that make us chuckle make us laugh
we're physically changing this their cell structure in our bodies
so we're making ourselves happier healthier
whatever but also while we're in that zone
the glial cells are taking the old emotions away it's brilliant
So then lying won't trigger me anymore. How cool is that? No longer will I feel horrible
when people are cold hearted and I want to punch their lights out when they're cold hearted
just quietly. But instead of having that punch the lights out or that real pulling away from
things that have been painful, the glial cells will deal with that. And you know that's what
the Holy Spirit does for us. There's three rooms. I'm just digressing slightly got a
bit of extra training here. There's three rooms that we work. We have a room that we
work with. That's our workroom. We work with God in that room. We have a sitting room where
we hang out with Jesus, probably where you do your quiet stuff, you know, and you're
thinking and you're chatting and you're nutting stuff out and having your coffee or your cup
of tea with them. And then there's the storeroom. Now the Holy Spirit has the key to the storeroom.
And all our gone goodness, our horrible stuff, our pain, our guilt, our shame, our baggage
goes to the storeroom. And the Holy Spirit does the work. And we get to be set free to hang
out with Jesus, chat, yarn, work things out, a little bit like doing home groups. And then we
have God to guide us. Because all our other stuff is locked in the storeroom. Not for you to
deal with, not for you to look at. And one day, the Holy Spirit will open that storeroom, and
they'll be cleared, be cleared of all your baggage. So what we're going to do now, is
you're going to use those new rules to carve your new neural pathway and let God and the
Holy Spirit do the stuff they need to do with your other baggage, because it doesn't belong
to you. It's not yours. It's not yours to carry. So carve your new path, go and have some fun in
panther, pink panther suits or whatever it is that you need to do. Have that fun and move
forward. Right, I'll finish sharing so we can wrap up. So we've got, we've now got top five,
bottom five. Top five are going to make you feel amazing. And like full of confidence. And
getting rid of those bottom five will take away anxiety, stress, worry, out the door, you are
the weakest link, goodbye. And so what we're doing is we're wanting that increased peace
and contentment. And we're wanting to make sure that we've got that increased self confident.
So read those every day, send them to me if you need to, but read them every day, morning
and night for the next 21 days or 63 days, because it's three cycles. Or just keep reading
them and keep reading them and keep putting them in your brain and keep until the other
stuff has no hold. And these are in your subconscious. So your call to adventure, I
would highly recommend that you read. So you the first thing you've got to do is write
my new rules, which actually what you're doing is rewiring or you're rewriting your life.
You're rewriting your new chapter, your new, your future, new chapter. And then you may
want to send them to me, send to Sally to check. And then you need to read them morning
and night until they are automatic. And you are no longer triggered by the old stuff.
Do not look at the old stuff. Do not notice it. Just keep walking in that direction. Keep
going in the direction you've written your rules. Alrighty, so there's some suggestions.
I suggest you do now is how are you feeling? Like I am now super excited. So I'm actually
probably I'm going to give myself a 10 because I am literally on fire to kick the enemy's
backside into touch. So I'm on fire to live my dream. And I'm going to live my dream with
nothing to hold me back. And that was what today was about. So well done. You've got
here next week, we're going to look at a couple of exciting things. We're going to look at
the elite system from chapter six, seven. And we're also going to look at your value,
your true value, why you were here for such a time as this, and your why. So two biggies
next week, your why and late how to really move things forward for you. So beautiful,
beautiful people have an amazing
in God Blessed Week. I would love to hear how you're getting on. Now, my people, the
guys that are part of mentorship, I get to see you Monday anyway and it's lovely to hear
your revelations and what has happened. It's so much fun. And for those of you who are
doing the DIY, you know I actually do, I'm going to be in church on Sunday, haven't been
for a while because we've been away and we're away again next week, but it'll be lovely
to hear, for those of you who are part of our church, it'll be lovely to hear how you're
getting on with the DIY course. And for those of you who are outside of that circle but
have signed up to do this, I would genuinely love to hear how you're getting on. Because
if there's something I can do differently, there's something I can do better, if there's
something you want more of or somewhere where you've got stuck, please don't let that be
something that stops you moving forward. This stuff transforms lives and I want you to live
the best life possible. So I'm making myself available because this is a small group currently
so please let me know how you're getting on and I look forward to hearing from you.
Have an amazing, God blessed week. God bless.