Thank you, babe.
All right, yes, it's my pleasure.
Okay, so I do need some volunteers
for Single Spotlight tomorrow.
I know that Joel is up for it, so that's great.
And he will be being spotlighted.
If you've not been spotlighted yet, please consider it.
So the very first thing that I wanna say to you guys
is that I got a sampling of the men that are on this ARC app
that I've been partnering with,
this Christian dating app for Christians
created by Christians.
And I got a sampling.
I was just with 20 amazing women from our community
down in Rosemary Beach, Santa Rosa Beach area.
And they were showing me the men that are on this app.
And you guys, it's as if someone went down
to community night at the prison
and tried to get a bunch of men to sign up for a dating app.
One dude, you can even see the bars of his prison cell
reflected in his sunglasses on his main picture.
And the rest of them, I mean, sloppy.
One guy is like, his main picture, he has sunglasses on,
and he's some kind of chef or something,
but he just has a bloody knife in his hand and sunglasses.
And like, as if he had just been chopping something,
you know, like some meat or something.
And it's like, in what universe
did you think that this was a really good idea
for a main dating profile picture of you
with your sunglasses and your bloody knife?
It almost, you guys, I almost felt like I was being punked
while I was looking through these pictures.
Like, there's no way that this is real.
This can't possibly be true kind of thing.
And so I want you to feel a discouragement
of your female counterparts as to like what's out there.
And I also want you to feel, you know,
how blessed you are to not be
in the same kind of position as these men.
I mean, I could just take one look at these men's pictures
and know that, first of all,
I'm skeptical that they're believers, first off,
because of just the unkemptness of their life
and their bodies and their, you know,
just their profiles just in general.
And then secondly, like, you know,
this is kind of like the bare minimum
that's being shown by these men already in their profiles,
not just their pictures,
but also the things that are listed there.
And you guys are like unicorns in a world like that, right?
Where women feel like they're swiping on, you know,
men that just are not taking care of themselves
or their, you know, their spiritual life,
their physical life, their financial life,
you know, and some of the other things.
And, you know, I want you to tell you something about women
that as awful as some of those pictures were,
there are beautiful, amazing women in our community
that would still give a guy a chance,
justify, well, you know, maybe it was a bad day
or maybe it's just a bad picture.
He's not representing himself well,
but maybe this is not just really what he's like
or how he is because that's what women do.
We've been created,
part of the divine feminine is to see the potential.
The word nurturer actually means
to see the potential in something
and help it to become what it could be.
And so whatever is keeping you guys
from being able to go forward into partnering
with one of these amazing daughters of God
that are out there basically waiting for you to show up
so that they can partner with you.
Yeah, they're living their lives.
They're doing the best that they can in so many areas,
but we cannot deny that woman was created for man.
We are easers.
And for the ones that are called to marriage and family,
they just don't feel complete without that.
They just don't.
They're waiting to partner with a son of God.
That's what they're waiting for.
So let's talk about some of your dating questions,
where you might be stuck,
why you might not be out there
or actively meeting someone where you feel like
you need a little bit of a push in the right direction.
And I wanna start this out,
this conversation out by talking about a scripture
that was the precursor to David's fall with Bathsheba.
Okay, the beginning of that story starts with a scripture
that says, in the springtime when the kings go to war.
Okay, that's how that scripture starts.
In the spring, when the kings go to war.
were.
But David was a king.
He was actually one of the main kings of that time, and it was the time of war, the spring,
when the kings go to war, and there was a reason for that, you guys.
It's about the wet season and a whole bunch of territorial things that happen in the spring.
So the spring is when the kings go to war, but David didn't.
He stayed behind, didn't he?
So what God showed me when I was on this women's retreat is that a lot of his sons are out
of alignment, and we see that when David wasn't in alignment with his purpose and his position,
when he wasn't kind of where he should be when he should be there, he was tempted beyond
his ability to escape that temptation, right?
And so he ended up in a big mess that started with lust, started with apathy.
The story starts with David being older in years.
He's not a young king.
He's been king for a while.
And so what he's doing is he's now abdicating his authority by delegating it to someone
else.
This is the only time that we see David not with his armies at war when the kings go to
war.
He was behind.
He stayed behind.
That means that Joab or someone else was delegated the authority to lead his armies, not him
himself.
And there could be a host of reasons.
The Bible doesn't explain why David didn't go, but we could kind of insinuate if we want
to that he was older, you know, he'd already been there, done that, didn't want to do it,
was kind of stuck in the comfortability of being a king and the luxury and the lushness
of that life.
And just like, yeah, you know, God is with us, send these other people out to do this.
For whatever reason, he wasn't where he should have been, where the anointing was upon him
instead, he was basically in a snare and trap of the enemy that he fell to.
And so I want you to, and I'm not going to ask you questions, okay, this is some coaching
that you can do with my husband later.
But I want you to really consider and ponder if you have any kind of stronghold in your
life that you keep stepping into and you keep struggling with, whether it's an addiction
of some sort, whether it is a sin of commission or a sin of omission, there's a difference
between those two things.
Commission means that, you know, you're willfully and rebelliously committing that sin.
You know, you're doing it to fill some sort of God-shaped hole inside of yourself.
And instead of being in repentance and turning toward God and his ways of filling that void,
you're out there commissioning sin in your own life.
And then there's omission where like, you know, of apathy, of us not being focused,
of us advocating some of our kingdom authority in our lives.
And so it's sins of omission.
We're not purposefully and willfully doing it, but it's happening as a byproduct of some
other type of heartwound.
Does that make sense to everybody?
Okay.
So I want you to prayerfully consider, you know, if you have something where you keep
doing things like Paul says, doing things that I don't want to do, the things I should
do, I don't, and the things that I don't want to do, I do.
Like if you're some area where you continue to find yourself lacking and falling into
sin perhaps, it could be pornography.
It doesn't have to be.
All of you are red-blooded men with sex drives and no outlet for them because you're all
single and not married.
And so that's definitely going to be an area of temptation when it comes to sex and lust
and all those things.
But it could be other things.
It could be, you know, gluttonous or, you know, and that doesn't just mean food.
That could be like, you know, consuming media, consuming content, greedy, never getting enough,
you know, always fat and sassy on things that make you feel full and your spiritual life
is lacking.
It could be anything and everything.
But I want you to prayerfully consider that scripture in the spring, in the season, in
the time when the kings went to war, David stayed behind.
And all the things that happened as a result of that and prayerfully considering are the
things happening in your life because you're actually not where you should be, not doing
what it is that God's called you to do?
Are you not in a position of purpose?
Because when we're not in purpose, I used to have this pastor that says that there's
protection and provision when you are all, you know, working the vision.
When you're God's vision for you, the protection and the provision come when you're in the
vision that God has for your life.
And we're all at different degrees of going towards the vision.
I get that.
But I want you to prayerfully consider if some of the battles that you've been battling
and some of the battles that you've been losing, is it possible that it is because
you are out of alignment, okay? I feel like that was the main message on my
heart for you guys tonight before we just start kind of taking some Q&A about
dating because you see that it started with David staying behind and then it
ended with murder, right? It's kind of a big jump, isn't it? And so if you feel
like God could be talking to you about you don't know what your purpose is, you
don't even know where you should be, you know that you're out of alignment but
you don't even know what alignment looks like. And I taught about this on
Supernatural Saturday. I said, God, it says that we make our plans but God
orders our steps. And then I heard David taught a fire message about what do you
want last night. I wasn't there, I didn't get to hear it, but building on that
Supernatural Saturday. So basically what that means is that God can't order our
steps. He can't, you know, basically navigate a parked car. We have to make
the plan, that's putting the car into gear, and then God will navigate us. He
will order our steps. But our steps can't be ordered. So if you're like, yeah
Jackie, I do feel like I'm out of alignment but I don't know what
alignment looks like, well then you have to answer the question that my husband
posed last night. What do you want? You got to get honest with yourself. Not
about what you should want, what do you want? What do you want? Some of you are
here but you really don't even want a wife, maybe. You're not to a place where
you have that desire. I went ring shopping with my son tonight, he's
getting engaged in September. I went with him, we have a family diamond that's been
handed down through our family that has been given to him. And we went looking
for a setting today, we found one, it was great. And on the way home he was really
sharing with me, him and his girlfriend have been together for a year. You guys,
he's about to turn 30, so it's not like he's 21, he's about to turn 30. His first
girlfriend he's ever had, and he was talking about the struggle to, you know,
not get involved sexually with each other. This is coming from a kid that
just about five years ago I said, hey are you gay? You can tell me if you're
struggling with being a homosexual or homosexual ideas because he had never
really been attracted to any girl ever. And so now he's telling me that he's
struggling with, you know, wanting to be intimate sexually with his, you know,
current girlfriend. I'm like, yes! Because the struggle is real and it should be
there at some level. But he said to me, he said, mom it's such a huge leap
from just a year ago, he said, where I wasn't even sure I was sexually
attracted to her. And I said, yeah honey, I said, because you're the kind of
attachment style, he has an avoidant attachment style like his mom, me, that
you're the kind of attachment style where your heart has to really feel safe
before your body is gonna want to get involved.
Even men, you guys. I know we always talk about men being the ones that they don't
care, you know. The kids in high school called it hump them and dump them. That's
what the high school kids would used to say about these guys who were not
emotionally connected but were ready to have sex. They weren't emotionally
available but they'd have sex with you and then dump you afterwards. I know that
we think that, you know, avoidant men look like that but honestly most people that
are men that are struggling with not being able to trust and let someone in,
they actually aren't doing that. In fact, they see sexual intimacy as a promise
they can't keep. And so especially believer men that
struggle with avoidant attachment, as soon as something starts to become a
little heated physically, that is when they'll get out of the situation and
start finding the ics. They'll start finding something wrong with this woman
who, that pours water on their sexual attraction so that, or their
infatuation so that they can move on. Guys hear what I'm saying? That's
important information for some of you. So my son saying that, you know, he's
made this huge leap from a year ago to this. He let it be a yes until it's a no
because I'm his mom and he listens to coaching. Didn't break up with her
because he likes so many things about her but he just wasn't feeling that kind
of attraction but he is now to the point where it's a struggle to stay out of
that level of intimacy with each other. So hopefully that's helpful to someone
tonight as well. Okay, so let's talk about, you know, once again we can't make a plan
unless we know what we want and what we want today might not be what we want six
months from now but we got to start somewhere.
So, I want to see the hands of the men that in this season, not in a future season when
you think you're perfect or you have it together, in this season, you want a partner.
You know that it's what you want.
And it's okay if you don't raise your hand, if you're still kind of like feeling like
I'm not ready, I don't know.
Okay.
So, three of you guys raised your hand that you're sure about that.
That's good.
Okay.
So, let's go ahead and go into some Q&A.
No holds barred.
Anything you guys want to ask, talk about, David can weigh in too.
I know he's driving, but he's here.
So, Andy, what do you got?
You have an update about the mail order bride website?
I know that's not what it is, but I just wanted to laugh about that.
I'm really happy.
I'm going to be meeting her like July 15th is when I fly down there.
Oh, wow.
Yep.
So, I'm really excited about that.
Have you guys been talking?
Oh, yeah, every day.
Okay.
She speaks good English?
She speaks pretty decent English.
She types better through text English than she does talking, but she still talks very
good English.
And she's been vetted out by some kind of agency.
You know that she's real.
It's not a scam, all this stuff.
Yep.
Okay.
Good.
All right.
Yep.
But what I'm actually going to talk about is that it seems that I've noticed a pattern
that...
So, I've always had a struggle with the sin of masturbation, and it tends to get worse
when I'm dating someone, I've noticed about myself.
So, I'm trying to figure out how to break out of this pattern of sin, you know?
Well, let me talk to you about...
Okay.
So, all of us, you guys, we're all created to be sexual beings, obviously.
And at certain points in our life, hormonally, sex drive is stronger.
And so, Andy would be falling in that category because of his age, right?
I think they say that men peak in their 20s sexually as far as sex drive is concerned.
And so, he's closer to that peak age than some of you that are older.
I'm not saying you don't have sex drives, and some people have higher sex drives than
others based on, once again, on hormonal stuff, on levels of testosterone and all different
things.
And the reason why I think it's important to put it in scientific terms like that, because
a lot of people don't understand how much attraction is chemical when it comes to physical
attraction.
How much of it is a chemical situation?
Infatuation is one of those things, and infatuation is not something that you want to base a future
marriage off of simply because infatuation will wane because it's hormonally or chemically
based, right?
Okay.
And so...
And that's why I'll have older clients be like, hey...
I'm talking about men, not women.
They'll be like, hey, you know, I really like this woman.
Mentally, I really like her, but I'm not feeling an overwhelming physical attraction
like I did to my first wife or this other woman that they talk about.
And so then I'll ask them a series of questions to kind of get to the root of that, right?
And one of the questions I ask them is, how old were you when you had this torrid love
affair or this romance or this thing that you're basing your attraction to this person
on?
And a lot of times they'll cite a much younger age.
And I know it's really unromantic of me to say this, but that's why they felt that way
back then because their hormones were raging and they were making dopamine and serotonin
connections, okay?
The sex drive was much higher.
And I know once again that that's not a romantic thing to say and kind of bursts our romantic
bubble for some of you that are more romantics at heart.
But this particular client that I'm thinking of, he was basing all of his connections on
a woman that he knew when he was in his 20s and he's in his 50s now.
His testosterone is much lower now than it ever has been, right?
And he also had a much more idealistic vision and idea of what love and partnership look like.
Now he's kind of old enough to know better.
He knows that it's hard, right?
Because he'd already been married and divorced and all the things.
And so you guys, please don't forget that all of these things, the mental load of relationship
as we get older and realize how much mental load it takes, how much emotional load it
takes, you know, the physical.
waning hormones, all of that can play into stuff.
So I said all that to say to Andy, to answer his question, we all have sex drives.
You would probably have a higher sex drive than some other men in this group simply because
of your age.
And God created us to be sexual beings.
So he doesn't want us to be ashamed of a sex drive.
The problem is, is that when we introduce self-gratification, whether you're a man or
a woman, you guys, women struggle with this too, just so you know, women masturbate as
well.
It's not just a man thing, especially when people are younger and hormones are really
raging.
Okay.
It can actually be physically uncomfortable.
You don't have to have looked at anything.
It's just like your hormones are surging for whatever reason.
For women, it's around ovulation.
For men, it can be all different types of things that cause hormones to surge.
I think the thing that causes the shame, not just the self-gratification, but the fantasies
attached to the self-gratification.
And so that is important thing to look at, Andy, when it comes to this is, first of all,
when you have the urge to do this, it's important for you to stop and ask yourself, what did
I look at today?
What did I see?
What was I thinking about?
If you can't pinpoint any kind of catalyst for your sexual arousal, that's now demanding
release, then it's probably just a hormone surge of some sort.
But if you can find the catalyst, I was scrolling through Instagram and there are women in bikinis
with all their goodies hanging out.
I saw a woman today that was scantily dressed and I saw something about her that makes me
specifically feel aroused.
If you find out what it is, then you can deal with it at the root.
Because once again, it's not the release or the self-gratification that is causing
the shame, it is the things that lead up to it.
Do you see what I'm saying?
And so in order for you to get root of the fruit, you got to get to the root.
Some of you can't be on social media.
Unfortunately, there's tons and tons of women that are wearing clothes that they shouldn't
be wearing or lack of clothes, more appropriately.
And it's just a landmine for you.
You know, you're human, stop acting like you're Superman and that, you know, this isn't kryptonite
for men.
Oh, well, you know, it doesn't bother me.
Really?
I would have to ask you why then.
So don't get off social media, you know, delete your Instagram or different things.
Don't use that if that's the case.
Get control of your thought life.
The Bible says that the Holy Spirit gives us all kinds of attributes, but one of them
is self-control.
One of the fruit of the spirit is self-control.
And so and then when you do get aroused by something that you see, you know, you're probably
going to have to once again, if masturbation brings you a huge amount of shame, there are
a lot of people who don't think masturbation is a sin.
I'm not going to weigh in on that either way.
I'm going to say for some people, it's a stronghold.
It sounds like a stronghold for you.
It sounds like this is something you're habitually doing that's making you feel, you know, you
know, less than.
And because it's offending your own conscience, it's important for you to get to the root
of what is the catalyst of it.
And when it does happen and you are feeling like, you know, you have to do this, then
the Bible says with every temptation, God makes a way of escape.
So you're going to have to plug into Holy Spirit in those times and get, you know, ride
the wave until the wave ebbs.
That's another thing that all of you need to know with any sin.
Once again, King David, we want to find out if we're not in alignment.
Okay.
And that's why we're continuing to get tempted in some areas.
Let's find that out first and foremost.
Okay.
So pray into that.
But also what God taught me about temptation, because I know it's hard to believe, but I
used to smoke and I'm not saying that that's a sin or not a sin.
But when I first met Jesus, when I was 22 years old, I actually smoked like, you know,
I had been smoking for a couple of years and I didn't want to smoke anymore.
And so I just quit cold turkey.
I was like, I'm not going to smoke.
And obviously you guys, that's an addiction that's physical and mental and emotional and
psychological and so many different things.
But what God showed me is that at the point when the temptation comes and I really, really,
really wanted to smoke a cigarette because of stress or whatever, it would peak.
And if I would just hold out past that crest, like a wave for those of you that understand
surfing or you understand, you know, the wave is starting to, it's starting to grow, right?
And then it gets to a place where it peaks and then it dissipates, doesn't it?
And so same thing with temptation.
can get past the peak where it's the strongest and it's the hardest,
but most people that is when they give up.
But if you just are able to hold on a little bit longer, it's going to,
it's going to ebb.
If you don't give in when the, when the urge is the strongest,
whatever it is, it will dissipate.
I'm not saying there's not going to another wave that's going to come again,
some other time,
but you actually end up riding the waves instead of giving into them.
Okay. And I successfully, you know,
have not smoked in like 30 years and I'm not sad about it.
And I obviously don't have any desire at all to do that. So,
so Andy find out where the catalyst is coming from.
That means you have to be very self-aware in the moment when you're really,
really wanting to do that. What did I see today?
What was I thinking about today? What was happening today? Okay.
And then know that those are triggers for you and you can't do that stuff. Okay.
At the season of your life,
you can't handle that and then ride the wave instead of giving into it.
Remember the scripture that says with every temptation,
God makes a way of escape because whether or not anyone here thinks masturbation
is a sin or not, fantasy is probably the part where the sin comes in.
Okay. But you're offended by it.
Your conscience is offended by it.
So it's obviously not a thing that you can do without increasing shame.
Okay. And so try those two things and see what happens. Okay.
Great. Sounds good. Yeah. All right. James.
Yeah. I was just wondering if you feel like a region matters,
like where you live or where somebody lives.
Like I know that for 16 years I spent time in Santa Monica, California,
and I like was like very much living in like the forever single zone of like the
United States and lost in that.
And now I'm back in Nashville working on a project that ends in a month.
And here it's like all my friends I went to college with are like married.
The church groups don't have single group. Everyone's doing pretty good.
You know? And I feel like I missed like 15 years of just living in, you know,
like La La land.
And now I'm getting transferred to like Austin, Texas.
And when I live or my brothers lived there for 25 years and it used to be this
teeny little town. Now it's like a cool town or whatever,
but I'm kind of like wondering if does that matter where you live in terms of
like culture with dating? Sure. How old are you, James?
I'm 45 and you're for sure getting transferred to Austin.
Yeah. I'm getting transferred like July 15th. Okay.
Cause I know a great girl in that area that I'd love to introduce you to how
we were living. And she's actually in Nashville right now visiting.
So you could actually meet her right now. But,
the thing is, is that I the, the answer is yes and no.
I've seen people meet people everywhere, even though you're right.
You are kind of in a dating no fly zone and people are focused on a lot of
different, very materialistic things where you live.
There's a lot of strongholds and principalities, so to speak of, you know,
women and men are just different out there. There's a lot of homosexuality.
There's also a lot of, you know,
the bad kind of feminism. There's all different types of things. So yes.
So the answer to your question is yes. And also God can do anything.
So I've seen people in those areas meet people.
I don't think that you've wasted your time.
I think you're at an amazing age to get married.
Hopefully you've learned a bunch of things in your life up till now that will
cause you to be a great husband and father.
And I think that you're just in a sweet spot of getting married.
It's a different dynamic when people get married really young.
I think that most people in millennial and exennial groups,
they didn't get married.
In fact, millennials are about 59% single right now and exennial,
which is that younger, younger Gen X that's on the cusp of millennials,
which is what you are.
They also kind of missed out regardless of where they live.
Your age group is a lot younger than your age group.
So I think that you're at an amazing age to get married.
I think that most people in millennial and extension,
it's a different dynamic when people get married regardless of where they live.
Your age group is single. A lot of them are, but like you said,
the people that you went to college with that went and stayed in places like
Nashville. They're all married. Cause they lived in the Bible belt.
And they went to spiritual communities where that's all people were focused on.
And so it's, so once again, it's yes and it's no.
To that beautiful girl that is in Nashville right now and also
lives in, she kind of lives in WeHo.
She's kind of in that West Hollywood,
Santa Monica kind of area.
I don't think that she'll be relocating
because she is actually a working actress.
If I said her name, you guys would all look her up
and you'd be like, oh, I recognize her from somewhere,
from some movie.
But I don't think that she would be moving to Austin.
But good news is we're in Austin
and there's lots of amazing women here in Austin.
And the chances of you staying single when you move here
are pretty slim to none.
Are there like good, I want to ask David,
are there like good men's groups in Austin?
Cause I have like a really good one here
and I feel like that's the only thing
that's keeping my heart here is just like that connection.
When you say here, do you mean Nashville or Santa Monica?
In Nashville, yeah.
Okay.
David.
Hi there.
As far as men's groups in Austin,
I know there are a few good churches.
We know several good churches in the area
that we're connected with because we know the leadership,
we're friends with the pastors and that.
So there's a lot of good little,
there's a couple of good men's groups in specific churches.
Is the one that you're familiar with connected to a church
or is it connected to organized in another way?
It's through a church called Long Hollow
here in Nashville area.
Yeah.
Yeah, I would definitely say there are several
good men's groups that are connected with churches.
There's a man that I know of that's an associate pastor
of a church that's nearby where we live
that has a really good men's group.
Now, those tend to have different cultural flavors
as you go from place to place,
in terms of what this group is interested in.
So lots of times men connect on things that are like,
hey, what interest level,
life experience, season experience of life.
So it depends on what you're looking for
is that type of connection.
But I think there are several
that you'd probably be getting interested in.
What is it you like?
I guess the question is what do you like
about the men's group that you're a part of?
Yeah, what do you like about it?
You know, we're in the word all the time
and like we watch the NBA finals together,
like we do bonfires.
It's not like stuffy, it's really attractive.
Like Sunday, I got a 19 year old kid
to like come in and like join us.
So it's like, we're like moving,
it's not like we're just sitting there
talking about our lives or whatever.
It's like, we're actually in the work, you know?
I love that.
Yeah, there's a couple guys that, you know, have some stuff.
I'm thinking of Sean, David, Minix,
and there's definitely some dudes here
that have a heart for what you're talking about.
And they've, you know, they gather men, they do stuff.
I'm thinking of David Fenwick, David Fenwick.
Yeah, to answer your question, yes, there are.
Cool, can I leave my number in the chat or something
or what works best?
For what thing?
Just so David could send me a contact or something,
I guess what works.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Probably just, yeah, if you want to put it in the chat,
David, you're here, you can grab it.
I think the best way to do is,
James, just go ahead and send me an email.
Yeah.
I shared my email with this group before.
So it's just David at JaneMedia.org.
Okay, awesome, thank you.
And are you ready to be spotlighted yet, James?
Sorry?
Are you ready to be spotlighted yet?
I've watched that, but I don't know what I would even do.
I don't know.
I mean, you just, you know,
I ask you a few basic questions about yourself
and then it's over.
It's where you have to become really vulnerable
for 30 straight minutes
and you have to be like, tell all of your friends.
My sister already got me to do this already,
so it'd be like a stretch.
I'm open to it, yeah.
Okay, yes.
Joel's finally open to it too,
so he's ready and it's going to be great.
You guys, it's very painless with me.
You guys know that I'm going to make it easy for you.
So it's going to be great.
That's tomorrow night, 8 p.m. Eastern.
You guys don't have to stay the whole time.
As soon as you're interviewed, you can leave if you want.
And your little portion of it
will be 10 minutes long at the most, so.
And then the women just reach out to us
if they want to know more about you
or they think that they'd like to meet you.
and we facilitate those intros.
And we're very, you guys,
we screen those intros really well.
If we don't think that that's what you're looking for,
like Joel, for instance,
I think you said that you really wanna meet
someone local right now.
You don't have the bandwidth for long distance.
So Florida is what is, you know, your boundary.
Yeah, basically Florida,
cause I mean, it doesn't have to be in my city,
but I'm in the Southwest corner,
so almost the Everglades.
So like Pensacola is like nine hours drive
and Jacksonville is like six hour drive.
So I figured kind of limit it to Florida.
That might be a, you know, better idea.
Florida is huge, just like Texas.
Takes forever to get through Florida.
Yeah, okay.
Now, yeah, that's smart.
I think so.
So what city are you closest to?
So I am in Fort Myers.
So Naples is right South of me.
Sarasota is like two hours.
Tampa is like two and a half, three hours.
Okay, we have a lot of community in the cities
that you've already mentioned.
And our Master Heart Work Coach,
Bethany Cooper and her husband, Brian,
who does some stuff with our men's group,
their pastor's in Fort Meyer.
Oh, okay, okay, great.
So they're in Fort Meyer as well.
So in fact, I think we're gonna be
having a retreat there soon.
So, yeah, perfect.
Okay, that's awesome.
All right, so you're gonna be there tomorrow, James.
No pressure, but I'd love for you to be spotlighted as well.
And anyone else who hasn't been yet.
Joshua, have you been, or are you just not ready for that?
He's like, I knew you were gonna say my name, Jackie.
What are we doing?
I guess that's, but listen, once again,
you need to ask yourself the question.
What do I want?
And whatever that answer is,
then we need to start making a plan around that
so that God can accelerate it and order our steps.
That's important.
Okay, what other questions do we have, you guys?
I told you the experience I had
with that new Christian dating app
and the level and quality caliber of men on there.
I actually am about to be interviewed by a reporter
about the fact that the gold digging era is over
and that women really are looking for men
that are more down to earth,
that even are more blue collar.
If that is what it takes to get a man
with old fashioned morals and values,
you're like, they're not looking for men
with white collar jobs that are gone all the time
and don't have the bandwidth
because they're so stressed out mentally
to be able to have relationship at home.
Women are not interested in that anymore,
except for the ones that are gold diggers.
So, and those women don't want you
for any other reason than your money, right?
But that era is kind of ending
and being unpopularized by the idea
of actually being married to someone that you get to see
and that a whole bunch of other women aren't gunning for
because they want his money.
All the transactional women
are trying to seduce your white collar husband
who's on business trips all the time
because they want his money
and women are just not into that anymore.
They want men that have jobs
that they can leave at the office
and come home and be with the family.
So, just thought I'd put that out there for y'all.
Any questions?
David's here as well.
If you guys want to just talk to him.
Babe, are you to your destination yet?
Not even close.
California traffic, got to love it.
Yes, you know what?
Yes, James is not going to miss that.
I will tell you that Austin is a little better
but the traffic's pretty bad.
That's not this bad.
It's not, it's a little better.
I'm just curious, is anyone in South Carolina?
Is there anyone in South Carolina?
Yeah.
Yeah. Part of this community, yeah.
Because I'm actually going to be going on a business trip
down there in the beginning of August.
Okay.
Yeah.
Well, keep us posted
and you can connect with the single city that's there
and anyone who wants to connect with you.
Yeah.
Okay.
Anybody else have anything that's been going on?
You wanna, David?
Yeah, I went on a successful second date in Pennsylvania.
Wow.
Drove cross country to drive my stuff
to my new home out in Iowa.
Went to a church military buddy's wedding out in Ohio.
Calm down, Dormans, calm down.
And then went out and met this girl
that I've been talking to almost every day
since I first met her out in Pennsylvania.
Wow.
Some things came up, more so kind of physical boundaries
kind of crossed that I wasn't expecting to have crossed.
And she just kind of said she was just kind of surprised
that she, like nothing, no sex happened between us,
but still just enough that it was like,
hey, you know what, in the future,
how about we don't kiss when we're indoors alone?
Because that just felt like kind of escalated
from, you know, like church PDA to make out session.
Well.
And she said she was surprised that she was that aggressive.
She was the aggressor?
Yeah, a little bit.
I mean, I matched her energy, ultimately.
You know, I didn't really say,
no, I'm not comfortable with this, oh, help me.
But at the same time, when it did escalate to a point
where she was kind of like going to a more private area,
I was like, hey, we're not gonna do anything
that grieves Holy Spirit.
So.
Good for you.
Just know, you know, I want a wife,
I wanna have children, but I wanna do it the right way.
Yeah.
So.
No, that's really great.
And you guys, as men, you guys should be the ones
holding and setting the boundary.
I know that it's hard when you're sexually attracted
to someone, but it's very attractive to a woman
when a man puts a boundary in.
And she may not like it at first,
she may even like feel rejected by it
because she has anxious attachment.
Sounds like this girl's dealing with some of that.
But she'll, if you do end up being her person
and even marrying her,
she'll have a whole lot more respect for you
and you won't have this resentment.
It actually creates resentment,
even if the woman's the aggressor.
But I wanna tell you, I'm not surprised by it.
And here's the reason why I'm not surprised by it.
Cause you guys have been creating
this strong emotional connection,
talking every single day and connecting and vibing,
mentally and emotionally and even spiritually probably
in your conversations.
And so that makes you feel like you've been with someone
for such a longer period of time.
And if the spirit and the soul realm,
the soul, the attraction realm, if that's on point,
then the body wants in on that too, pretty quickly.
Gotcha.
Only thing of concern, I guess,
is that it just feels like it's moving a lot faster
than like, and David kind of talked about it last week too,
about the time suggestions for being in level two
and level three are more for like allowing
like the full expression of divine masculine
and divine feminine.
It's kind of hard for me to call
whether it's like appropriately expressed or not.
Like she kind of wants to be in level two
she kind of wanted to be called my girlfriend
within the first month.
And even though I was like, well, you know,
it's fine if you want to go out, still date other people.
And she's like, well, I'm not, I'm not dating anyone else.
I'm like, but I think you should,
like based on what I read from,
I forgot who responded to me on the LYS app,
but I think it would just be like healthier probably
than just kind of.
Well, given your current level of, you know,
current level of physical, you know, intimacy
that ship has sailed.
Okay.
So you're either boyfriend or girlfriend
or you're nothing now, because once again,
there'll be a feeling of resentment and being used.
I don't want to create that either, but it was just Indianapolis traffic is also silly.
So that's part of the reason why guys, and it's hard when we're attracted to someone,
especially, I always tell you guys that long distance usually escalates a lot quicker because
of the time that's spent on the phone making that emotional and mental and even sometimes
spiritual connection.
And so that's why when we get in person, if our bodies are vibing as much as our emotions
and our minds have been vibing with these phone calls, then we usually jump pretty quickly
into physical intimacy, making out whatever it is.
And that's why we got to be in it to win it with long distance because it usually does
accelerate faster and there's less defined boundaries, David, just so you know.
But the fact that you guys really do connect on all these levels, including physical attraction,
as we can see, you just have to make a decision if this woman has enough attributes that you
want to seriously pursue this and remembering that it's going to be long distance and it's
not going to be easy because otherwise going back to, hey, go see other people, or I'm
going to see other people.
And I know that I introduced you to someone that even though it might not be a connection
because she's actually talking to someone else as well.
This girl now, if she knew that you were talking to anybody else after physically having that
connection with each other, she'd be really mad.
So for sure, especially since we can already tell she has anxious attachment.
She's wanting to nail you down after a month, wanting you to not be talking or meeting anyone
new.
And you guys, that doesn't make her evil ogre.
It doesn't make her bad.
It doesn't make her controlling, just means that she likes him and she wants him to like
her back at the same level.
And she's got some hard work to do.
She does see a Christian counselor.
She does her own introspection.
She's also like 10 years younger than me.
So a bit of a May, December, but at the same time, she's also said yes to having a cake
fight at a wedding.
So that's like pretty up there on my level.
David already said you would disapprove, but you know, the heart wants what the heart wants,
Jackie.
You're hilarious.
Okay, wait, can you remind me how old you are?
I'm old.
They didn't have history when I was in school.
How old are you?
I'm 40.
So she's 30.
Yeah.
She's about to turn 31, July 18th.
I'm turning 41, July 31st.
Oh, wow.
Okay.
So like exactly 10 years, pretty much.
I mean, you're a really young 40, okay.
Very playful, very young at heart, very young in body.
Obviously, you've taken really great care of yourself and all the things.
I mean, it definitely can work if she's mature enough at 30, they don't make 30 like they
used to.
Yeah.
So that's kind of the question, you know, does she?
I was just talking to the guys last week in heart work about she was very like, kind of
setting her ways on, oh, well, we have to be financially aligned to which actually wasn't
part of her initial verbal askings or having non-negotiables, but just kind of came up.
And I got explained to some of the finer points of Dave Ramsey and it's good for the short
term for getting out of debt, not the long term for buying a house or any other major
investments.
Yeah.
And it looked like I threw garbage in her cereal box, trying to church up that phrase.
But yeah, it was definitely a thing where she, I told her, I'm like, hey, we're not
going to talk about this until we get to the point of an actual engagement.
Even I'm just like not comfortable sharing specifics about my finances with most people.
But either way, just accept that I'm stable.
I mean, I'm driving across country.
I just bought a house.
Think I'm in an OK spot.
But yeah, it's.
something where she keeps kind of revisiting of like,
well, you know, I just,
I really feel like we need to be aligned.
And I'm like, I don't understand if that means
that she's saying I have to agree with what she believes in
with Dave Ramsey and all that, because granted.
I mean, some of those people,
those Dave Ramsey people are super,
I'm not saying anything for or against,
but they can be super hardcore, you know, super hardcore.
And I agree with her.
If that's how she wants to live her life,
maybe she was raised like that.
Or, you know, if she's just,
if she's super hardcore with it,
like, and this goes for anything, friends,
not just finances, but eating habits.
You know, I know people who are vegans.
They don't want to be around people that eat meat.
They're really hardcore about this is the only way to live.
And this is what's good for your body.
Anyone who's really, really dogmatic about anything,
you're going to have to be on the same page.
Otherwise there's going to be constant conflict.
Right?
You know, whether it's politics.
I mean, a lot of us believe what we believe,
but at the same time,
we're not forcing other people to believe it.
We're not dogmatic about it.
But when you're partnering with someone,
you're planning on raising children, you know,
you got to make sure that you're on the same page
with things, or you have more of a live and let live
kind of like, yeah, this is what I want for me.
Like, this is what I'm going to eat.
This is what I think is healthy.
You know, you do you.
And yeah.
So I think that that's more what she's afraid of
is that you have like a debt mentality.
People are hardcore Dave Ramsey.
They believe in living like no one else.
So someday you can live like no one else.
The problem is, is you might die at 60 years old
of a heart attack.
And then what happens?
You didn't get to enjoy anything.
Or today on this car ride through Indianapolis.
Yeah.
So I mean, balance friends, balance.
But at the same time, yeah, it sounds like,
okay, so I'm going to call you guys a low level three.
And the reason why is because yes,
you guys got the cart ahead of the horse a little bit
in the way that there's been physical, you know,
intimacy to the point where there's going to be
super offense if we don't even,
if we don't at least try to see what could happen here.
But we're going to call it low level three,
because it sounds like there's some areas where,
because of long distance, you guys really just,
may not be compatible.
So if I were you, I would dig into that.
And quite honestly, you don't have to disclose your debt,
but having a conversation about how you lived your life
when it comes to finances,
like with a budget or this or that,
you can have that conversation.
Because once again, if you find out that
she's completely dogmatic about this
and stubborn and unbudging,
and it's not what you really would want to do,
then there's the deal breaker.
Yeah.
And then just a caveat to that,
for the ladies I'm in conversation with already
from LYS and ARC,
should I politely shut those conversations down
because of being in a low level three?
I mean, once again, you know, this girl,
if she finds out that you're still on the dating apps,
you know, she's gonna just think you're a player.
But that's like her opinion then.
And it's not, like I already told her,
I'm like, oh, I'm still in conversation with other people.
Holy Spirit's told me not to back out of it.
And she's still kind of on this,
like, I'm not sure if she means my girlfriend, boyfriend,
that we're exclusive, but she just keeps saying,
well, I'm not seeing anyone else.
I'm like, I understand that.
Okay, well, if you've been honest with her
and she's, you know, not resentful,
or, you know, like I said,
anxious attachers have a tendency to get
a little vindictive, a little petty.
And so, yeah, I mean, if that's the case,
then if she's willing to continue to see you
and let you talk to other people,
then I guess you can.
That's not been my experience with people.
At this level, after this has happened,
most women would be like, hey, you know,
if you didn't know how, you know,
if you didn't want this to be exclusive,
then you shouldn't have X, Y, Z.
So, but yeah, I mean, let me ask you a question.
Yeah.
After meeting her in person
and after some of the things that have happened,
I'm not saying that you're totally
not wanting to see her again,
but are you looking for advice that gives?
tune out right now?
No, it's just I'm, I'm aware I'm an anxious attacher.
And I don't want to just jump into a marriage for just the point of being married.
I want to be with someone that I'm going to be balanced with and just some other things
that they're not deal breakers, but they are points of concern.
We're both introverts.
I mean, I'm more of a extroverted introvert, I guess, but, uh, we both easily from different
ways, but we both kind of just like, I don't know.
It's more of just like, uh, I don't think I'm supposed to go.
I don't think I'm supposed to be paired with someone who's a hardcore extrovert, uh, because
I'd probably go insane, uh, well, if you're an anxious attacher, you're already doing,
you're already doing well.
If you're, if you, if you think that you're an anxious attacher, you're already doing
well because usually anxious attachers are not going to tell the object of their affection,
anything that they don't want to hear, uh, because of fear of abandonment.
And so if you're willing to tell this girl that, you know, you're going to continue to
see other people, um, that's not very anxiously attached.
So, um, that's not, that's not the MO of an anxious attacher.
So, you know, either you've been anxiously attached in the past because of dynamics with
those people and you're not truly an anxious attacher or you're cured because once again,
that's just not something that an anxious attacher would do.
The fear of abandonment or rejection is high on the list.
Um, so, um,
Attraction stuff as well.
Probably.
Yeah.
For sure.
Yeah.
So do you guys have a plan to meet again anytime soon?
Uh, so she wants to fly out to me, uh, beginning of August.
It's around my birthday.
Uh, while I'm in school.
Okay.
Um, yeah.
Well, I would hold the line, hold the boundary with, you know, you're not ready to make this
exclusive and let's see what she does because my guess would be she doesn't make it till
August before she gets really mad at you.
All right.
So that's, that's, I'm going to place that bet.
Okay.
So, um, before, you know, there's some disorganized attachment that rears its head and there's
some, you know, something that happens with that.
So, um, but yeah, keep us posted on that and we'll give you feedback as we go.
But if that's how you feel and you believe that God told you that, then you just need
to hold the line.
Gotcha.
Okay.
Thank you.
Jackie.
Yep.
You're welcome.
All right.
Anybody else have any questions, comments, color commentary?
Thomas thinks I'm funny.
And before that, I appreciate him.
Thank you.
Hilarious.
Oh, thank you.
Most human beings are.
It seems like that's the greatest compliment anyone can give me.
Right, David.
Always.
He's still here.
Cause I'm always like funny.
Right.
And he always wants me to tell him he's funny.
Okay.
Yes.
You're hilarious.
Yeah.
Is that Dave?
Is that my husband saying that?
I believe so.
Yeah.
Hey babe, we don't want to disappoint.
We don't want to disappoint the other David.
So we need to go ahead and give him an O-H.
I-O.
Oh.
All right.
I knew it.
I knew it had to happen.
I'm sorry.
Call is breaking up.
I can't hear you.
Hey, you asked for it.
So there you have it.
Did I?
Okay.
I'm pretty sure I'm in Indianapolis.
Oh no.
Well there, they stopped.
So that's not a big deal.
Um, okay.
It's okay.
It's all right.
I take all the good weather.
You guys get what you get.
Hey, that's why we moved to Texas.
We obviously are not that loyal.
Um, Hunter, what do you got?
Oh, it's basically, I've been seeing people.
I've been trying to get on the ark and me and Hopi are trying to think about where's
the last year single thing.
I already got my profile and everything.
And all it's been is a swipe, swipe, swipe.
I got in good conversation, but, and then there's another situation where I'm having
bad stuff going on in my head, even while I'm on the job, but I still keep doing a good
pace when I deliver packages is basically talking about how my, I just got a text that
my, my neck, best friend from high school guys in his wife are pregnant.
And almost all my friends from high school are, and I feel like I'm being left out.
And I was, and I feel like I am not, I have all these things, like nothing has grown,
nothing changed.
Basically, I even had an old, some, and my old,
the grownups that I grew up with that gave me the help
I need, some of them are growing too old.
My biggest fear, if God brings me my spirit mate,
then there's a way they're not gonna be there.
And I figure, you know what, my dream marriage
may not come true, so basically it's taking away
the incentive to wanna go for it, but find my spirit mate.
But the thing is, I just think about all those other women
I see about their behavior, and my last one,
the Janelle that I told you about, that wanted to stay
at my place, that never happened, well, it's like
she's only texting because there's something in it for her.
Basically, it was all, to me, instead of being
and going out looking for someone as a companionship,
you basically have this incentive to yell a flag
of finding someone because there's, being in a relationship
because there's something in it for you to make your goals
and your dreams come true, I mean, it's hard to go away
from this when I'm already succeeding at putting money
into an overseas trip and the last year's singles trip
to the Bahamas.
Okay, I'm glad that you're going on that singles cruise.
And I just wanna tell you, Hunter, that your ears
must have been burning this week because you actually
were a subject of conversation at this women's retreat
that I went to, because one of the women brought you up
and, you know, all the women are part of our community
and they were like, I'm so proud of Hunter,
he's come such a long way and he's so handsome,
because we were talking about the low quality of men
on the ARC dating app.
And so when you got brought up specifically,
you know, I just wanna let you know that, you know,
people think well of you more than you think
and let's get your profile going, let's do some,
we have the coaching page is about to go live
on JackieDorman.com, let's get you some dating coaching
on how to start those relationships.
I think that's really where you're struggling is,
I think that you're, you know, not picking up
on some social cues and rushing in a little bit too fast.
You have come a long way, but let's get you some feedback
on your app, you know, on your profile.
And the other thing that I wanna tell you guys
is we're actually in talks right now as a team
about opening up the SpiritMate Match
as the technology that it is.
We use it for spotlights and we use it for like some events
and different things, but it actually is a dating app.
And it's a dating app that allows you to look for people
on a lot of different criterias, more of like a match.com
than a Bumble or any of those other apps.
And even more in depth, maybe even than a match
or an eHarmony.
And so we own that technology,
we've owned it for two years now.
And after my run in with all of the profiles
on this ARC dating app, I'm like, you know,
we really need to talk about whether or not
we should open up this to people navigating it
as an app in our community.
And so we're talking about that right now
about, you know, how we could do that
because the technology exists, we have it.
Everyone has their profiles already in that SpiritMate Match
and I'm letting you guys kind of find each other on there.
So we're talking about that, Hunter.
I think that you'd be a great candidate
for one of our services that we're starting right now
and that is Dating App Health.
And then spotlight too,
but we gotta do that coaching as well.
Well, that's what I'm talking about.
So coaching, but also help, you know,
in those preliminary connections and conversations.
So hang in there, don't give up
and just know that people are thinking well of you
and saying good things about you and yeah.
When I did a scorecard for delivering for Amazon,
I became number one in performance.
Good.
And then also I get angry all this time
to keep it to myself and not let it out on people
that I coveted people's marriages, that I wanna have that.
But of course, the only thing that prevents me
from going out is maturity and the fact
that I can go out and earn it, like go out and earn money.
If you want something, go earn it.
Don't get it handed out to you
because it's more honorable,
but I can't always get out and earn anything
because relationships is something I can't always control.
I just gotta be best of me,
but just try to make it about, bring some intimacy
and less about going because there's something in it for you.
Right.
No, absolutely.
You're right.
And that's true.
So hang in there.
Well, there's nothing wrong with-
Help is coming.
Right.
There's nothing wrong with going
and get something like going out and get a job
because there's a paid dough for you after a shift.
But I-
think a marriage or relationship has an extra layer of intimacy.
You're absolutely right.
So see just things like that, Hunter, you're, you're very, you're more mature
than, you know, and so just, just give us a couple more minutes where without
that coaching page was supposed to be live on Monday and David, I think that
it's going to be live sometime this week.
Right.
Yes.
Yeah.
Ran into some technical issues, you guys, but.
Well, the only thing that's done, I can do that's happy is the season of my
life about going to greet our church, going on a trip to Greece and Malta.
I'm going to be gone for two weeks.
Can I, and then I'm going to, and then next I'm going to go to the Bahamas.
Basically I have the money stashed away for it.
And I have a lot figure, you know, it's better to go on that now
before I meet my spirit mate.
It's going to be great.
You might meet your spirit mate there.
It's going to be awesome.
Oh, and it's only negative side.
Might be it's in the middle of football season.
Okay.
Well, there's always the NFL app.
That's right.
Sacrifices have to be made.
All right, you guys.
Thank you, Hunter.
Does anyone else have anything else that we need to, that we need to unpack
where we let you guys go off on your way?
Message Thomas, reach out to me on messenger.
I'm sorry.
What was that David?
Thomas, reach out to me on messenger.
Okay.
We'll do.
Awesome.
All right.
And Thomas, did we spotlight you?
No, I was told I was going to be spotlighted, but then it didn't happen.
So maybe tomorrow I'll make tomorrow work.
Okay.
Awesome.
So we have three guys.
We have James and we have Thomas and we have Joel and, and maybe Josh, Joshua.
Maybe.
Okay.
Not yet.
All right.
And David's still not ready.
This, the other David, not David around David.
Oh, that David.
No, wait a second.
There's three David's on here.
You guys were running David.
DJ David Henshaw.
Okay.
David Henshaw.
You ready yet?
I don't, I don't know.
I'm like, I'm struggling.
I just want to share a quick win.
Um, Tuesday, a romance scammer reached out to me and only took me two hours
instead of three and a half years, this time to figure it out.
Wait, what was the win?
Something I had, I had was a romance scammer and it was three and a half years
of that almost, and it only took me two hours to figure it out Tuesday.
That's a massive trauma.
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I have a good friend that that happened to.
He's a guy and wasn't good.
Um, but that's why I mentioned like the last time you were on, like, I
guess it was two weeks ago or three.
Um, that that's why I said it was like a year, like that, like that you
changed from being a single spotlight night to, to, uh, to a past session.
I think it was.
Um, that's why I said it was like a year since the last time I finally
messaged back to the person.
Cause, uh, I mean, those trauma bonds are real and I, you know, I wish I
would have just let it, you can't just drop a cold Turkey.
I still held on for three more months at the end and it was bad.
It's really, really bad.
So yeah, I think that, I think we hold on for a lot of different reasons.
I think we hold on because, you know, on our side, it was a genuine connection.
Um, and then also because we don't want to admit to ourselves
that this has been a farce.
Right.
We want to just believe that it's not, it's not, it is real and it's not.
Something.
And, and the thing is, you guys, is that, yeah, in the tech age that we
live in, there's these scammers and there's these, you know, people
trying to create some sort of emotional connection with us for the purpose
of getting things from us, but they're not real, um, as far as like,
it's not a real relationship, but that happens in real life too, with,
with real relationships, right.
Where they're really transactional and someone's just trying to, um, get
their own needs met and using us for X, Y, Z, doesn't matter what it is.
And so, yes, it happens in virtual reality, so to speak with these non
relationships, but also happens in relationships as well, and they're
both really hard to get over.
And, um, but some of your healing is going to come within relationship.
Real relationship.
God can only heal you to a certain extent without you really
stepping out and trusting.
And one good thing about this community is all the women here are real.
They're all real.
They're all looking for relationship and all of them have done their hard work.
So, yeah, yeah.
It's very encouraging.
I mean, it's just like you said.
You said it many times, but there, there's a bunch of amazing women here,
even though, you know, I barely know any of it at this point, but, um, yeah.
Um, I guess just a sideshare unrelated.
Um, I guess at this point I still feel like I'm moving to Austin, but it's
probably not gonna happen until September until I tie up some of the zones here.
So, yeah,
I guess James answer to, is there an amazing men's group here is yes.
We're going to actually start it.
You know, I think that David, I think that's probably what's going to happen.
You guys, we do have a venue that we just, um, renovated is
called we're calling it wheelhouse.
Um, it is an event venue, but it also has a spiritual community connected to it.
It has multimedia studios, podcasting studio.
It has a coworking space during the day.
Um, and we own that now and, um, Have, you know, it has yet to launch.
It's going to launch here this summer, but we do expect there to be lots of
things for singles, uh, and also lots of community connected to it, uh, for
just people's empowerment, entrepreneurs, creatives, singles, men, women, all the
things.
So, um, that's in central Austin.
There's going to be a really good time.
It's going to be a really good time.
You guys true story.
We were in Louisville just not that long ago for me to be on a podcast.
And a prophet that doesn't know us.
And we don't know.
In fact, he didn't speak any English.
His nine-year-old daughter had to interpret for him.
He actually called the wheelhouse out when he called when he, when he prophesied
over us and it really spoke to you.
Yeah.
Uh, the puns here are just incredible.
I don't understand what's even happening.
Um, it did.
That's a great way to turn it around.
That's so good.
Um, but, uh, we were really encouraged.
It did really, yeah, really spoke to us.
That's funny.
That's so funny, man.
That was quick.
You were witty.
All right.
Okay, guys.
So anything else before we go?
Nope.
Not, not for me anymore.
Just, uh, prayers for everyone that's traveling right now.
Yeah.
Other David, pretty much.
Uh, I've got two hours and 44 minutes left and then, uh, moving truck up in
Iowa and then a 24 hour drive back to Vegas.
Wow.
Okay.
And then a 24 hour drive back to Iowa next week.
Protection from all incidents, accidents, injuries, evil Lord over
your sons as they travel.
We thank you Lord.
Operating a mobile device.
All driving.
Amen.
Um, also guys, I really want you to remember the scripture about, um, you
know, when the Kings, when season, when the Kings went to war, okay.
And really just pray into that.
You guys can unpack that more next week on Monday.
Um, see the rest of you at single spotlight.
All of you hopefully will be there.
Um, there's always chats going on and people to meet in the chat.
And then the guys that are going to be spotlighted, I will drop in your
DMS and give you more information.
And, um, other than that.
Remember that you guys are literally a thousand percent better in every
category than most of everyone I've seen on the dating app.
So, um, next time you want to think that you don't have anything to offer.
That's a lie because, um, you have a lot to offer more than, you know, and
there's a woman out there who's really wanting to partner with what you have
to offer and help you to, to become the man that God has called you to
be and vice versa with her.
All right.
Thank you guys so much for being part of this movement.
We appreciate each and every one of you and we'll see you tomorrow.
Bye everyone.