Hello, everybody, welcome to Single Spotlight for June.
We did not do this in May.
We are going to be doing some fun things with Spirit Mate Match in July.
So get excited.
We're going to have some dating games, we're going to have some single shuffles, and that
is going to be fun.
I want to update all of us on our affiliate partnership with ARC.
So how can I say this nicely?
It's a brand new app, okay?
It's brand new, which means that it hasn't been out for long, which means there's not
a lot of people on it, which means that is why they ask people like me in our community
to get the word out and to get people to join.
And so we've done that because I really believe in their mission.
I've talked to the people that are running this app, that created this app.
They actually met on a dating app themselves, as far as the couple that's behind this app.
They put a lot of money and time and energy into it.
They want to make it better and better and better and better, and they really believe
in helping people through technology to meet each other, using technology for good and
not for evil, right?
And so it's only going to grow, it's only going to get better.
So give it a shot if you haven't.
I know that ladies, I was with some of our ladies down in Santa Rosa, Florida last week.
They showed me some screenshots of the, let's say the caliber of men that they were running
into on this app.
Let's say the quality of them.
And let me tell you, I thought I was getting punked, all right?
Some of these gentlemen, if we can even call it that, some of these guys look like someone
went to the community night at the local prison and asked people to create an account.
I'm not kidding you.
One guy you could even see that cell, the bars of the cell reflected in his glasses.
So he definitely was in jail and it was like, whoa, okay.
So that being said, you guys, I made a decision, I made an executive decision and I told my
team about it on Monday that we have had SpiritMate technology, SpiritMate Match technology.
We have owned that technology for a couple of years now.
For those of you that filled out a profile on SpiritMate Match, raise your hand if you
filled out a profile on SpiritMate Match.
It's a lot like a dating app, right?
But you have to answer a lot of questions.
It makes it more intricate as far as when the algorithm starts showing you people that
you have things in common with, like percentages of things in common with.
And that is how we play the dating game.
Just so you guys know, I go on there, I pull up the Bachelor or the Bachelorette's profile,
and then I see their top three or four matches.
And then I just start contacting those people and saying, hey, are you available for the
dating game?
And if they're not available, then I go down to the next best match and the next best match.
And of course, that technology is able to match people based on, do you want long distance?
Do you not want long distance?
How many miles long distance?
Age gap?
No age gap.
How much of an age gap?
How much of a height difference?
How much of this?
How much of that?
It literally can show us if you like people that eat oatmeal and raisins for breakfast.
It's able to do anything.
And if you like oatmeal and raisins for breakfast, ick.
Okay.
So I don't know, there's something so icky about raisins.
I'm not sure what it is, but just, I think what it is, I think what it is, is that when
I was a little kid, I had a babysitter who made, you know, oatmeal, raisin cookies.
And she told us that the, that the, that the raisins were ants or bugs or something
so that we wouldn't want any like, Oh, they're gross.
They're bad.
These are bugs, you know?
And we're like, Oh, but of course they weren't.
There's greedy babysitters in the eighties that wanted to eat all the cookies.
And so I think that I have a trauma, a trauma, a core wound with raisins.
Okay.
So we are talking about what would it look like to allow our community to right now,
the app fate, that, that spirit may match faces us, the matchmakers it faces us.
We're the ones that are able to see all of your profiles, but what would happen if we
just flip the switch and allowed you guys to be able to navigate that?
And you guys, the reason why I haven't done that in the past is because I want it to build
up the spirit mate match database or dating base to a percentage of male, female ratio.
I want it to have at least 60, 40 on there.
And but now that I see kind of the caliber.
The quality of the men that you guys are getting anyway, I'm like, well,
we might as well do it, you know, I mean, a hundred great guys is better
than five of the ones that I, uh, 500 of the ones that I saw when I was
looking at those pictures, I wish I could show you those pictures, guys.
Even you guys would laugh.
I mean, seriously, all of you guys on here, you guys are Brad Pitts.
You guys are George Clooney.
You guys are, you name the heartthrob compared to these poor, unfortunate
souls that were on the app, but it wasn't just that they weren't attractive.
They were unkempt.
One of them had on sunglasses and a bloody butcher knife.
And what universe would that be?
The right picture for your dating app profile in what world, you know?
And so, yes, it is, it is sad.
And also I really couldn't even vouch for any of these men's
Christianity there, honestly.
They looked, they looked really like they need to do a lot of
hard work if I'm just being honest.
Okay.
So now gentlemen, to be fair, I did not get to see the pictures of the
ladies on the SAP because I was talking to ladies and maybe it's, I mean,
our beautiful ladies are on there.
Um, but, uh, yeah, anyway.
Ooh.
Okay.
So that brings me to some really fun announcements that I just want to make
before we get started with single spotlights tonight.
So first announcement, we're looking at what, what would it take and what
it would look like for us to just flip the switch and turn spirit mate
match around towards you guys.
If that happens, you'd be able to upload more pictures.
A lot of you are like, oh, I can only upload one picture.
That's because of how we have it facing, but if it faced you, then it would give
you more options of doing more things.
Right.
And so, um, that is number one.
Number two is Jackie doorman.com.
Not just got a facelift, but also got a lot more pages and you guys,
you know what those pages are.
I'm so excited.
Those pages are event pages that have all of the upcoming
retreats and vacations.
You guys, we're going to vacation and have transformation.
This beautiful retreat that I just co-hosted down in Florida was phenomenal.
And we're going to do a lot more of that.
You know, we went to Cartagena two years in a row.
We did a little vacation transformation action there.
We are planning a camping trip for this fall co-ed camping trip.
Um, so if you like cabin camping, not tent camp, not tent camp camping, but
if you like the woods and you like bonfires, you like chill in the air
and you like live worship music around the fire, if you like those kinds of
things, if you like recreation, if you like, um, what's it called?
Um, team building obstacle course in the trees and zip lining and all
kinds of fun like that, then you're going to want to join us in Northern
California and we're going to have a really good time at a camp that's
there that actually is a Christian camp.
That's what its heritage is.
That's what it's historically is.
Um, you guys know that there's a singles cruise happening in
January already to the Bahamas.
Uh, we are going to be having another women only inner outer retreat, inner
beauty, outer beauty retreat in September, um, for the ladies that want to come to
that, you guys, I'm so excited to say what I'm about to say, we are going to
have a huge five year, last year, single anniversary party here in Austin, Texas.
In October.
So mark your calendar.
We are going to all gather all of our alumni, all of our success stories,
all of you singles that are ready to mingle in Austin, Texas, we
are going to have so much fun.
Okay.
It's going to be so, so fun.
We are going to be doing that in October.
Uh, in the, in the weekend, right?
I think it's the 15th, 16th, 17th.
Anyway, this page on our website will have all the information for those
of you that are like, Hey, you know, I got a lot out of the hard work.
Um, but as I progressed, even Jackie's Q and a's and her, you know, love
seats and even the coaching that we get in our groups, I really just wish that
I could do an individual one-on-one session and really dig in with a
great transformational coach while we hear you and we have those coaches.
And if you didn't know, we do have one-on-ones, but guess what?
We're going to have an entire coaching page on JackieDorman.com
where you can pick your coach.
You can pick the amount of sessions you want to do with that coach.
You can see what their expertise is.
Um, you can see reviews on that coach.
So that will be their couples coaching.
You're like, yeah, Simba's is great.
Jackie save your marriage report starts.
That's wonderful.
But it is a group environment.
Me and my boyfriend, girlfriend, and fiance, we want to do a
little one-on-one with a coach.
Maybe you want to do a one-on-one Simba's maybe you want to
have Simba's all to yourself.
with your coach, or perhaps you just have some things
that you need to get over.
You're dealing with the potential of blending a family,
or you guys have some possible deal breakers,
but you're not really sure, should I stay or should I go?
We have couples coaching.
And you'll be able to do that with an individual coach
or a couple, like another couple.
We have experienced couples coaches
that will be available also there.
Very excited about that.
What else?
So the events page will be going live.
My podcast page will be going live.
So if you know someone that you think I should interview,
that you would love to hear that interview,
there's somebody that you follow that says things
that you'd like to have my take on,
or you think that we would have a great conversation
vibing with each other and bringing value
to the audience that listens,
you can, on that page, on my podcast page,
you can refer a guest, and maybe it's you.
Maybe you're like, I should be a guest on the podcast.
And I know that sounds like, well, maybe not, Jackie,
but maybe, because I'm actually going to be doing
single spotlights to the masses.
So one of the things of being in here,
yes, you get spotlighted to this community,
you get to see each other all the time,
but I'm going to really pump up the volume
on spotlighting you guys on my social media.
I'm going to do single spotlights on my YouTube,
on my podcast, I'm gonna have a segment
called Single Spotlight, where I just like,
ask you a few questions, just like we do here,
so that a wider audience can get a view of you.
You guys, we have had people get married
from my single spotlights, we have.
And the people that I post on my Instagram,
we have had people get married from just that post.
We have had people find each other and date
and get engaged and get married from those posts.
So they work, and we wanna continue to do that.
I think that's all the announcements.
You guys, I'm so excited about
our five-year anniversary party.
I really hope that you guys can come and be here live.
We're gonna have so much fun.
And only part of it will be ticketed,
the rest will be free.
So we'll have free worship events at the wheelhouse,
which is the space that David and I and our children
have renovated for the purpose of building creatives,
film, fashion, art, music, media, entrepreneurs.
And so it's a really cool space.
We'll be doing a lot of live stuff there.
We'll be having like part singles conference
with some amazing guests, part worship,
all that will be free.
Some of the paid parts of it will be some single shuffles
and a silent disco and just all kinds of fun things
that will be happening.
The ticket price will be really minimal,
but we'll have to ticket it because we will have to limit
the amount of people that can come
to some of those different events.
Okay, so don't worry about that
because we'll have other things that are still free
and you can do, all right?
Okay, let's get started.
Should we get started?
All right, ladies first,
we have some great gentlemen here that are ready.
I have lots of hands up.
I don't know why the hands got up.
Also, you guys, I am partnering with Heartstrings.
This is my gorgeous gold-filled charm necklace.
I wanna show it to all of you
because every charm on this necklace,
so you can have all of your charms hang right here together
or you can space them out the way that I have.
It could be a bracelet, it could be a necklace,
but every charm on here is a prophetic word
from the season that I'm in.
So I have a pineapple, I have a bee,
I have the word mama right here.
I have 1111 someplace, a cross, self-explanatory.
This is about Song of Songs 2.
So wear it and declare it is really the theme
of this affiliation that I'm doing with Heartstrings.
Gold-filled, not gold-plated.
You can shower in it, you can swim in it.
I showered and swam in it in Florida,
got in the hot tub, got in the pool, all the things.
It doesn't tarnish, it doesn't turn green.
It's really awesome.
I really do believe in declaring
what God has spoken over us
and there are hundreds of charms to choose from
that will be meaningful to you
and prophetic words over your life.
And so gentlemen, get one for your sister,
your mom, someone, ladies,
and they're really cost-effective.
I saw a charm bar in Santa Rosa
because charm necklaces are kind of in style right now.
They were gold-plated,
so they're gonna turn green immediately.
They're gonna rust and just, you know,
they're gonna get dingy really fast.
And they were so expensive.
Like a necklace full of this many charms
would probably be about $300, okay,
compared to, you know, $60, $70 with all the charms.
So yes, it's a yes for me.
Okay, so let's get started with.
ladies that I called out since we didn't have time to put a post up we're going to start with Judy and way New Jersey guys i'm on my phone.
As David is not home he's still in California and I need him to set up my technology because that's how we partner and that's how we roll Okay, so let me try my best here.
We do a little ask Jackie action tonight too, if we have time all right miss Judy is spotlighted looking beautiful how are you.
Good how are you good okay so tell everyone where do you live I live in wayne New Jersey okay how many years younger you.
I'm 51 any any children or any have you ever been married.
Yeah I was married for a really long time and I have a 16 year old and a 10 year old okay awesome right so wayne new wayne indiana.
New Jersey oh new jersey okay sure jersey did I meet you at the conference I saw you at the conference I was there okay awesome it was fun wasn't it was a fun conference.
Yes, okay awesome okay so she's in New Jersey, can you can relocate or is there shared parenting there is shared parenting, so I can't move Okay, and what do you do with your time besides raise your beautiful children, what do you, what do you do for your vocation, what are you passionate about.
I do hikes just recently I went on a hike, and I like to read, I like finances I am an accountant, and I'm in finances and stuff like that.
What else. I've taken some salsa classes, trying to know what I like what I don't like so I'm trying out new things. Yeah.
Were you married really young.
Yeah, my 20s. Yeah. Yeah, so that's what's important to try out, find out what you like what you don't like because so often we just take on what other people like, right.
So that's good. Alright so salsa salsa eating accountant. I love that. So, are you accounting for a company.
Yes, I am. I work for sharp electronics.
By the way, I wasn't aware that I was being showcased today.
No, no, I just picked you just randomly just now.
I didn't know because I was just like you you you you you because normally we put up a post for the ladies but we didn't get a chance to do that today so.
Okay, so she has a 16 year old and a 10 year old still at home she cannot relocate right now but that's okay because we have lots of people in Jersey and New York and all of those areas.
She's an accountant.
How tall are you.
Five, three.
Okay.
So she's, she's perfect size for really anybody. Right. Unlike me 510, you know, got to have a specialized match when you get a job.
Yeah.
Okay.
Okay, so she's, she's perfect size for really anybody right I'm like me 510, you know, got to have a specialized match when you get this tall gorgeous smile gorgeous lady.
Thank you. Do you go to the church for that, where the conference was held.
No, I actually go to another church close by. Okay.
Half hour away from there. Okay.
Yeah, I'm sure that your church is great that church that host of the conference, that church is great.
Yes, absolutely. All right. Thank you for being a good sport. Let me put you on the spot there, Judy. So if you want to meet Judy, you can email us.
I know there's not a lot of guys here live but guys that are watching and replay you can email us spotlight at Aaron joy is a spotlight or spotlight.
I think it's spotlight.
I think it's but spotlight at Jane media.org. If you can just throw that up in the chat so people can see it, it's spotlight. It's just singular chain media.org and put Judy, New Jersey and Jay there in the subject line, make sure that you give us a little
of who you are, and a picture of you. Don't just assume that we know who you are and what you look like, gentlemen, because we will need to see that. Okay, so let's go back and forth. We'll do guy girl guy girl.
And so, the next person on my screen is James, and so I'm going to spotlight him.
And we're going to find out all about him.
James is such a name for me.
Let me see. Is this you?
I'm trying to see.
I don't think that's you.
Let me see for a sec. Hold on.
Guys, once again, I'm on my phone.
I apologize. I apologize about being on my phone.
But David's watching some dogs in California and he will be back soon.
Let's see if this happens if I do this.
It spotlighted you. This is James.
We're going to find out about him, but I just want to tell you the name James.
My biological father's name is James.
My maternal uncle's name is James.
My maternal grandfather's name is James,
and my former husband's name is James.
A lot of James going on in my life.
James, tell us what's your middle name,
and where are you,
how old are you,
and what are you up to in life right now?
Yeah. Middle name is Paul.
James Paul. I like it. JP.
Yeah. A lot of followers of Christ back then.
I'm in Nashville.
Temporarily, I'm transferring down to Austin for work.
I'm 45 years old,
and I open healthcare clinics,
particularly in mental health for a capital group.
All throughout Los Angeles for many years,
and now I'm doing it in other markets right now.
Wow. I didn't even know that about you.
That's really interesting.
Are they holistic mental health,
or is it community-based? Just curious.
Good question. I worked out in Malibu for many years.
I'm a clinician designing these rehabs and stuff.
They get sued or whatever because they don't have
good practices and so I go in and reorganize
and help them come up to speed.
I work with a guy named Dr. Lawrence Heller,
and some other people like Gabor Mate and stuff,
bringing some of these newer therapies to market.
Wow.
It's for profit,
and we also are going to have community-based mental health as well.
I love that. That's so needed,
and it's so good that people will have access to services.
You're helping reorganize and restructure,
and also plants and open,
but what do you do for fun?
Good question. I have a golden retriever.
He's 11 months old named Bear, and he is awesome.
I spend a lot of time with him.
We take weekend trips.
I have family around here down in Austin,
so we go visit family.
We have a lot of great friends in my church group,
so we golf, a bunch of guys.
We watch the NBA finals,
stuff like that, bonfires.
Get in the word, but also have a lot of fun.
That's awesome. I love that.
What's your basketball team?
Detroit Pistons. I'm originally from Michigan.
Okay. I'll forgive you for that,
for being from Michigan.
Detroit's practically Cleveland, though,
if you really think about it, and that's where I'm from.
I mean, it's so close. It's so close, right?
And all of those manufacturing steel cities
and good old blue-collar worker cities.
Okay, so Detroit Pistons, that's fine,
and golf, you got a handicap?
Are you any good at golf?
I mean, I'm okay. I just like to go out and have fun.
I think the biggest thing is connecting with my friends
and hanging out.
You know, I'm not, like, obsessed with it or anything, so.
Okay, that's cool.
Golden Retriever, we like that.
What's your Golden Retriever's name?
Bear, yeah.
Bear, okay.
Ladies, we love that.
We love a Golden Retriever.
That's a great dog.
Yeah.
You have some Michigan fans in here.
Yay, Michigan!
Okay, guys, whatever.
Can I get a Go Bucks?
All right, so let's see what kind of questions we have.
Okay, so people want to know about your love life,
of course.
Have you ever been married?
You're 45.
Are you divorced?
Do you have any children?
I've never been married.
I don't have children.
Okay, all right.
Thank you, Michelle, for that OHIO.
I appreciate it.
Okay, we're gonna start a rumble in here.
Okay, who else has questions?
So never married.
James, never been married.
No kids.
Okay.
Do you still want children?
Are you interested?
Yes, I've had a long-time partnership
and she decided in the last year
she doesn't want to have kids
and that's something that we've been kind of working through
and yeah, I would love to have kids.
I'm just getting to that age
where I know it can be unfair to them,
so I'm trying to.
you know, make something happen.
So, yeah.
Yeah, no.
Okay, so are you saying,
am I hearing that you are like,
you're like in the middle of a breakup?
No, we separated like last year.
Okay.
Yeah, she's like,
but that was like,
that was part of the deal breaker
was that you really want to have a family
and she's not interested.
Okay, so that's good to know, ladies.
It's important.
I see some of you are like,
hey, I have a friend that I like to introduce him to.
Remember, this is someone who's been through
a long-term relationship breakup
because they had different visions for the future,
specifically regarding family.
And so that's important to keep in mind.
Okay.
How old?
He said he was 45.
So you guys got that.
Do you, let's just ask you like,
what's your,
instead of your top three favorite books,
cause that'd be hard for me to even figure out,
do you like to read?
And if so, like,
what's a recent read that you really liked
or your favorite book?
Yeah, I think I read like a lot of literature on,
you know, science and stuff like that,
but that's like my job.
I also write,
but I think there's a book called like Scaling,
I think is the best book.
Like Tony Robbins was like,
I'm jealous I never got to write this book.
So I think that that's probably the best thing
I've read in a while.
I think we lost Jackie.
Do you want to freeform a little?
I think I saw someone asking about your height.
Sorry, who is that?
Oh, it's Thomas.
Oh, hey Thomas.
Yeah, I'm 11.
And oh, so this is like a pitch then.
Now I don't have Jackie here.
Let's see.
Well, right now,
I'm renting a home.
I plan on buying a home in Austin.
The market's kind of on the downtrend there.
So I'm gonna probably do that.
I'd like to stay in Austin.
I have a lot of family that's there,
but I'm open to moving to other places.
You know, just have to be something that'd be like,
you know, compromised work through.
So any other things come to mind, Thomas?
Well, we have a question here.
What's your idea of a great weekend?
I feel like you already talked a little bit about that
in regards to like hanging out with people,
a little Bible study, a little time by the fire, community.
Yeah.
And she's back.
Okay, so go ahead and answer that question.
Sorry about that, you guys.
My phone just crashed down.
Yeah, thanks.
Yeah, I think just spending time, you know,
equally out with friends and in community
and kind of having time to like regroup
and do romantic things I think are fun.
Like this last weekend, I was up in like Lake Michigan.
I think it's like beautiful area
up on the sand dunes and everything.
Like, so even a mix of indoor, outdoor, nature,
metro, friends, intimate time, just good balance, I think.
Awesome, okay.
So didn't hear the question, loved the answer.
Okay, so ladies, if you wanna know more about James,
remember 45, single, never married, no kids, wants kids.
You can email spotlight at jmedia.org, put James.
And then do we wanna put Austin or Nashville in the?
I'll be in Austin, July 15th.
So yeah, I'd probably put Austin.
Yeah, that's soon.
All right, we can't wait to meet you in person.
We have a huge singles community here
and Christian community here, so excited for that.
Okay, so James and put Austin.
So James and Austin in the subject line.
Remember, we need your bio and pictures of you.
Don't just assume that we know who you are.
And if you know someone that you would like
to introduce any of these singles to.
Remember friends, this is a community-based
matchmaking movement.
That is what we do here, that is what we do well.
So even if someone is too old, too young,
not in the right place, they can't move
and you can't move either.
But you know someone that you would like
to introduce them to.
You can still write into us and tell us
about your friend, your cousin, your uncle,
whoever it is that you would like to introduce
to one of these singles, all right?
It's important that we work together on this.
All right, so next up, let's go ahead and do a lady.
I apologize for putting these ladies into just
the hot seat sort of with just picking them
out of the blue, all right?
So we're going to, hang on one sec.
Sorry, it's so hard to do this from my phone you guys,
but we just got to roll with it.
Let's get a lady going.
We removed James, now let's get a lady going.
Lauren, do you pronounce your name Lauren or Loren?
Same way as your name.
So Lauren and Loren, you live in Florida?
Yes, I'm in Santa Rosa Beach, Florida.
Yeah, you were just where I just was, and we didn't get a chance to connect.
So okay, so Lauren, tell us, how old are you?
Kind of give us a little preview of what you do, what you like to do,
and then also some relationship history.
Oh, you're muted though.
Can you hear me now?
Mm-hmm.
Okay, sorry.
I'm 41, never been married, don't have kids.
I work for a home health care company, and then I do photography on the side.
Oh, what kind of photography?
Mainly a lot of families that come here to visit, and then weddings and couples too.
Awesome.
Okay, well, that's good to know for when we have our next retreat down there,
because we did hire a photographer.
So good to know that you're there.
All right, and so no children, never been married, and what do you –
so obviously you're creative, you like photography, home health.
Well, what else do you like to do for fun besides photography?
We have some really great state parks around here that I like to go to,
to walk for exercise.
And then I lead a women's group, sorry, with one of my friends.
And then I'm involved with church.
Okay.
What do you guys do in your women's group?
Right now we are studying a series called Ribology from Charlotte Gamble.
Okay.
I'm sorry, what was the name of it?
Ribology.
What is that?
Ribology, it's basically about the woman's role as the rib.
Okay.
Ribology, y'all.
Rib, like a rib.
Okay.
All right, cool.
Awesome.
Okay, well, that sounds fun.
Let's see.
Ladies, gentlemen, anyone have any questions that we could just kind of dig
in a little bit with Lauren?
I did not do that at the beginning.
I should have.
But, all right, let's see.
People are like, you look gorgeous, da, da, da.
Tell us about your tattoos is the question.
Yes.
They're there.
I really wish I could shed them like a snake.
But, yeah, they're a product of my early 30s, so.
That happens.
We all have them.
It happens, yeah.
So you're like, they were meaningful then, but they're not so meaningful now.
Yes.
Gotcha.
Well, just so you know, it's super painful, but you can't get them removed.
Yes.
Okay.
All right.
So, way to go, Thomas.
Bring up the wrong question.
No, I'm just kidding.
I'm just joking.
Okay.
Melissa Dawn wants to know what makes you come alive.
So what do you just absolutely love?
I absolutely love just connecting with other women.
That's probably my favorite.
I have some younger girls that I mentor and meet with.
And, you know, we talk about dating and being single.
And that's probably one of the top things, just connecting with others.
And then, of course, photography, too.
Photographing weddings is probably one of my top things that I love, too.
Awesome.
And are you interested in having children?
I'm open to it, yes.
Open to it.
Okay.
Let's see.
How tall are you?
I'm 5'2".
Okay.
All the fun-sized girls are showing up tonight.
All right.
No height.
There's not going to be any height restrictions there, so that's good.
All right.
Let me just check and make sure that there's no other questions.
You guys, if you want to meet Lauren,
then you can put her name and Florida in the subject line of your email.
If you know someone she should meet, ladies,
if you want to matchmake her with someone that you know,
gentlemen that are watching here live or in replay,
please go ahead and send us that information, pictures, bios.
Remember, if you don't include that,
we will just move your email to the trash can.
Okay, because we don't have time to go looking you up.
All right, people are like,
hey, why don't we just match make Lauren and James?
Okay, all right, fun, fun.
Okay, so let's move on here.
Thank you so much, Lauren.
Okay, ladies are being good sports tonight,
just letting me put them into the spotlight.
Okay, and next up we have another eligible bachelor,
Joel Noah, Fort Myers got Florida in the house tonight.
Okay, so Joel, you are spotlighted.
You know the drill by now, so tell us where you're from.
We can see Fort Myers, but are you from Florida
or did you just move there because you like the weather
and then what do you do for a living?
How old are you?
So I'm mostly from Florida.
I was born in Pennsylvania,
but over the course of education and moving places,
I'm mostly from Florida,
but I've been in Fort Myers for 10 years.
Okay.
I'm a veterinarian.
I am almost 36.
And does that answer everything you just asked?
Yeah, I think so.
But now that you're a veterinarian,
I have all kinds of questions.
Okay, so like large animals to small animals,
like what's the craziest thing you've ever seen
an animal eat and survive?
We don't want to hear any sad stories
because we love animals.
Yeah, craziest thing I've seen an animal eat.
That you've had to remove, but it made it.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, it's not particularly crazy,
but I've removed some little toy figurines
from animals before.
So it's a little interesting to pull
like a tiny little miniaturized human out of an animal.
It's like, why did you eat that?
What were you thinking?
What's happening here?
So yes, we love, love, love animals, don't we ladies?
Okay, so what made you want to be a veterinarian?
Did you always just love animals?
So ever since I was little,
I had wanted to be a veterinarian
and my parents had kind of encouraged that in me.
But as I grew up, the thing that sort of solidified that
for me was being able to help people and animals
because I know that helping a person's animal
can really make a huge impact on their life.
And so that was something that really drew me
into the field as I matured and got older.
Gosh, that's so true.
It's such a kingdom job because for a lot of people,
they're animals, are their family,
they're their fur children, so to speak.
So yes, that is a very, that's a ministry for sure.
So, okay, love that.
So Fort Myers, beautiful area, moved down from Pennsylvania.
Okay, what do you like to do for fun?
So I like all kinds of things,
anything outdoors or science and nature related.
So paddle boarding, kayaking, hiking,
anything with the ocean,
anything science and nature.
I love growing things.
I like collecting fossils and old things like books.
And of course I love animals, work with my own animals.
And then I also get to the privilege of volunteering
with the local sea turtle monitoring program.
So I get to do that once a week
during sea turtle nesting season.
So that's a lot of fun.
So you get to like monitor like the nests,
are you like, are you present
when they start making their way to the sea?
So most of the time, no.
So what I'll do is I'll drive down
and interpret the marks on the beach.
And if it's a nest, I'll mark off the nest.
And then the coolest part comes after they've hatched,
then you get to go and dig it up
and see how many have hatched and how many made it.
And occasionally you get a few stragglers that pop up
when that happens.
So that's always pretty fun.
Oh my gosh, that sounds so fun.
I've seen sea turtle nests on the beach before
when I've been traveling
and I thought that that was pretty cool.
So that's awesome.
Okay, ladies, we know that you have questions.
So go ahead and start firing away
and we will ask the questions.
Pets, pets, pets.
Yes, have you ever been married?
Do you have any kids?
Do you want them?
Never married, no kids.
And I do want kids.
That's actually pretty important to me, so.
Okay, guys, that's part of his non-negotiables.
Definitely wants that.
We already, he already told us
what he likes to do outside in Florida.
What other questions, ladies, do you have?
Loves anything science-related, outdoor-related.
That's all.
Good.
All right, so someone is asking
if you're willing to relocate
or if Florida is where you wanna stay.
Yeah, so I definitely wanna stay,
well, I wanna stay here.
I have some pretty deep roots here.
The job I'm at, I have been at since I graduated that school
so a decade now, and they're like a second family to me.
And I also have family here as well.
And then I also have some childhood history here.
And then we used to always come
and vacation to Sanibel Island, which is-
Oh, yeah.
Right here, yeah.
Yeah, Sanibel Island.
Yeah, I'm pretty deep.
That's actually where I do the sea turtle monitoring,
but I'm pretty deeply rooted here.
But I am open to long distance,
but I would say Florida is so big
that I would just probably geographically limit that
to Florida just because Pensacola is like a nine-hour drive
and Jacksonville is like a six-hour drive.
So I'm all the way down in the southwest corner, so.
Yeah, that makes sense.
Okay, so he's rooted, you guys, in Florida,
wants to stay in that area, makes sense.
His practice is there.
He's a doctor, he's a vet.
So that's not easy to rebuild those types of relationships.
Those are very relational jobs in the community.
And so building the trust of community.
And so, yeah.
So if you are interested in,
if you're in the greater Florida regions
and you're interested in getting to know Joel
or you know someone who should be interested
in getting to know him,
you can put Joel in the subject line, Florida,
Joel, Florida, spotlight at jmedia.org.
Don't forget, bio pictures, gotta have them.
All right, Joel, thank you so much
for spotlighting tonight.
Really appreciate it.
Guys, we have a lot of never married,
no kids spotlights tonight.
So if you're in that boat
and you felt like you were all alone
and everyone else has been married
and possibly divorced, has children, all the things,
it's just not true.
Because so far tonight,
that is kind of what we've been rolling with
for the most part.
Okay, all right.
Okay, so let's see.
I also wanted to spotlight,
I had a couple other ladies on here
that I was gonna spotlight,
but now they've disappeared.
I think they're running from me.
I think they're trying to get away.
All right, I'm gonna get Stephanie up
because I see her.
You can run, but you cannot hide, my friend.
Okay, spotlight.
All right, Stephanie,
I know you weren't expecting to be spotlighted,
but here you are, you look great.
Tell us who you are, where you are,
how old you are,
and give us some relationship history.
Okay, hey, Jackie.
I am 34 years old.
I'm in Grand Rapids, Michigan.
No kids, never married.
Oh, but I'm also, I'm open to relocating.
In fact, I feel like I sense
that God is gonna plant me somewhere else soon.
So I'm open to that, yeah.
All right, Stephanie's in Grand Rapids, Michigan.
She's 35, never married, wants kids, no kids now.
I'm sorry, how much?
Actually, I'll be 34 in a couple of days.
I aged you, I'm so sorry.
Okay, all right, and so what do you do for a living?
Vocation, and also, what do you do for fun?
Yeah, so I'm a counselor.
I have a practice here in Grand Rapids,
and for fun, I love hiking, being outdoors, reading.
I'm working on a, I'm almost done
with a fitness certification to be a fitness instructor.
From a word you gave, Jackie.
Awesome, I love it.
Yes, I'm also, love gardening.
I'm a little bit crunchy, so I love natural health.
Like, I make my own deodorant and all that.
And no, no one's ever told me I smell before.
Oh, I love it.
What do you make it out of?
Coconut oil, arrowroot powder.
Uh, there's one other ingredient.
I'm blanking right now, but.
Magnesium?
No.
Think that would make you tired, though.
Yeah, okay, she makes her own deodorant, y'all.
She smells great.
Okay, so people are asking how tall you are.
You have a bunch of hype girls in the comments.
They're like, Stephanie, yeah.
Okay, so how tall are you for some reason?
Gwen wants to know.
Five five, I'm a good day.
Okay, so she's a little over average height.
We have a taller, taller one here, five five.
Okay, so let's see.
And she does feel, she's willing to relocate.
She does feel like that might be in God's plan for her.
Grand Rapids is a beautiful area though, Michigan.
I will concede that Michigan is beautiful, okay,
because it is.
All right, family, you know,
and everyone who's been spotlighted,
and really everybody, if you have siblings,
let's see it in the chat.
If you're an only child, let's see that.
So Stephanie, all the people that have spotlighted already,
let's see, you know, and if you do have siblings,
just be like, I'm the oldest child,
two brothers, two sisters, whatever.
Let's just see that,
because that really does make a difference.
It really does.
Only children have a lot of trouble sharing, okay?
I'm married to an only child,
and I'll like go in my husband's closet,
and I'll take a pair of his socks,
or something like, hey, those are mine.
And I'm like, so, so what?
Okay, so Sibs, and where are your parents?
Are they alive?
Where are your family?
Yes, so my parents are outside of Detroit area.
I have one younger brother, he's in Dallas, Texas.
And I think, yeah, my parents,
they're doing a little bit of caretaking
for a couple of grandparents that are alive,
but I think they are like not necessarily
gonna stay in Michigan long-term, so.
Okay, all right.
James, she's kind of almost from your hometown,
so, you know, got some roots, there you go.
All right, so let's see if,
I just wanna see if anyone else, all right.
Got a lot of people in there.
Is it your birthday?
Why are people saying happy birthday?
Oh, in a few days, it is.
Okay.
I think I mentioned a few days, I'm turning 34.
Okay, awesome, happy birthday.
Thank you.
All right, lots of people in there
saying that give it up for the middle children, woo-hoo.
Okay, we have lots of oldest children, youngest children.
Yeah, so I'm just looking through.
We have a few, just a few only children.
You guys, just because we had Joel tonight,
if you have a pet, what would you like to know?
Is it a dog, is it a cat, is it a parakeet,
is it a turtle, a ferret, a snake, God forbid?
I had one student, she had like tons of snakes
and I was really scared all the time.
She'd come on like lives like this
and she'd have the snakes.
It's like, I don't know what we're doing here,
but I don't like it.
So, but yeah, put up in the comments if you have a pet
and if you do, what type of pet
because inquiring minds wanna know.
All right, so Stephanie, you like outdoor stuff.
You're crunchy, as you can say.
People are like, she's a prayer warrior too.
So people, you got a lot of hype friends
in the comments right now.
She's 5'5", she's 34 almost,
and she is right now in Michigan, Grand Rapids,
but she is willing to move for love,
to move wherever God has her.
And so that's awesome.
All right, thank you so much for being here with us.
Thanks, Trent.
Yep.
All right, I'm coming for you, Thomas.
Get ready.
Get ready, sir.
Okay.
Okay, remove spotlight.
All right.
Don't charge, just having fun.
So fun.
Right.
All right, Thomas is here.
Thomas is fun and he's funny
and he's been part of the men's group for some time now
and it's time to marry him off.
So tonight's the night.
Right, ladies?
Okay, so Thomas, tell us where you are
and just a little bit about yourself,
your age, where you come from, what you do,
just anything you want to share.
Salient details.
Yes, salient details.
Oh, he's really good at puns.
He's really good at pun.
He's very punny.
All right, go ahead.
Yeah, always looking for good pun pals.
Yes, I was born at a very young age.
I live in Los Angeles.
I was born in Northern California,
lived in Colorado from the age of nine to 22,
have lived in London and Paris and New York a little bit
and absolutely love culture and the arts.
I would say I have a background
of being radically religious and pharisaical
and Jesus setting me free from that.
And I am absolutely stunned and amazed
at how good God is and how wonderful my commotions are.
I was even raised believing that it was wrong to date
and wrong to court.
And so dating has been a wild, crazy thing.
the adventure and as much as I've wanted to be married since and my plan was to get engaged
to 21 and married at 22, I was very much not emotionally ready at that time. So I'm so
happy that God calls us to good things and then allows us to go through processes to
get ready for those good things. So my work, I work at UCLA, I lead the team that does
conflict resolution for the campus. So for over 88,000 people, so for the general campus
and then the health side. So I also worked with doctors and nurses and researchers and
all kinds of others that are having conflict with each other. Never married, no kids, looking
so forward to being a husband and a father. I think other questions that have tended to
come up are like what I do for fun. Aside from taking care of my two pet houseplants,
I love to read so much. I'm currently reading a book called The Fifth Discipline about systems
theory. I read the fairy queen for five minutes every day out loud, which is epic poetry from
the 16th century. It's absolutely stunningly wonderful. I love supernatural creativity.
I play keys on my church's worship team. I'm taking electric guitar lessons, getting back
into scuba diving, which I feel like is so spiritually meaningful for me to explore.
I got a really good pathetic word about living life like I'm exploring the ocean instead of
trying to pull a rabbit out of a hat. And ever since then, things have really,
really been changing also in my life. So anyway, that's both a lot and just a little bit.
I love it. It's good. It's enough in a good way. But I'm sure ladies have more questions.
Ladies, what questions do you have? He doesn't have pets. He has houseplants.
Are you allergic to pets? Only emotionally allergic to some pets.
I mean, no, I'm not physically allergic to pets. I am a big, big fan of animals that
care and act well and a little bit less of... Here in LA, we have a lot of spoiled
pets that don't really have a lot of boundaries. So I'm a big fan of healthy pet ownership.
Awesome. I'm a big fan of clean houses that have animals because I just house sat for someone,
which is why I'm in Austin and David is still in California because I was like,
I can't take these dogs anymore. They stink so bad. They need a bath. They needed a bath four
years ago. And I think that people get animal smell blind. I know it's like smell, but blind.
They're just like, they don't know because they smell like dog themselves. So they don't know
that their dog smells or their cats or whatever. So no for me. It's a no for me.
I think a couple other questions that I'm seeing.
Yes, Thomas, go ahead. You take over.
Am I willing to relocate? I am. I had a supernatural dream where I felt like God
was encouraging me to be in California for now, but I don't think that that's necessarily forever.
So I feel like I'm led to be here for now, but I'm open if called elsewhere. I spent the month
of March in India and Pakistan and it was really life-changing, felt super great.
And other tall, I'm six, one and a half. And let's see here. Other questions.
I don't think that we asked Joel how tall he was. Joel, put how tall you are in the chat.
Go ahead, Thomas.
Okay. Where would I like to go on vacation? Oh, I want to go everywhere. I mean, if I could,
if I could have my dream vacation, the International Space Station, that would be
that would be like the best. If I could go up there for a couple months,
like do some science experiments, look at the galaxies.
Wow. Okay. Two places that I absolutely do not ever want to go is down in a sub and up in a
rocket. So that's all you, Thomas. Well, I'm glad you're already married.
Yes, that's good. Okay. So because we are not having anything in common, sir. What about LA
traffic? I mean, you know, it's not my favorite, but someone has to love Los Angeles. And I feel
like it's one of the biggest privileges of my entire life to live here and try to love people
here because there are so many people here just hungry for love. It's so true. What part of LA
do you live in? I live in Santa Monica, which is America. Oh gosh. You live in a gorgeous area.
It's so amazing. I love it so much. And my rent is $500 a month. Stop it.
because of a miracle.
I prayed that God would help me pay off my student loans.
And then two weeks later, I got this incredible place.
It's amazing.
That is like unheard of.
Yeah, it's a miracle.
Yeah, how close are you to the beach?
I'm like 30 blocks.
Okay.
Not too bad, not too bad.
It's an easy 30 block walk.
I'm good.
Yeah.
So if you need someone to watch
your $500 a month apartment, then let me know.
Pakistan, why were you in Pakistan?
Oh, you know, I had worked
and done conflict resolution training
for people from India and Pakistan in the past,
along with some other countries.
And I was invited to a wedding in India.
And so I was like, I can't go there and not go to Pakistan.
So, you know, they used to be one country
and I feel like God's heart is so much for both places.
Pakistan, it means the land of the pure
and there's so much purity there.
It's just not devoted to Jesus yet.
Yet, yet, you guys, yet.
Wow, love that so much.
Loved hearing from you,
just hearing so much more from you, Thomas.
You know, this is rich stuff.
So ladies, if you want to know more about Thomas,
which I'm feeling like a lot of you will,
all of the men that have been spotlighted tonight,
all of the ladies that have been spotlighted tonight,
please, Thomas and California,
Callie, in the subject line of the email,
don't forget to include your information
and your pictures so that we can,
and tell us, guys, when you email into us,
tell us why you think that you should meet this person
or if you're actually trying to matchmake
someone else with them, why they should meet them.
Like, let us know that you listened
and you, you know, have an actual thing besides,
oh, hey, they're a guy, she's a girl,
maybe they should meet.
Okay, tell us more about why you think
that it would be a good match.
How old are you?
Did you say 44, right?
44, yep.
Yep, 44, that's the number of favor.
Okay, so he is 44 years old and wants children.
Did you say if you were open to people
that already have children?
I'm assuming that you're open to a multicultural match
since you're so cultural, like any color,
any from anywhere, any language kind of situation.
I'm just assuming.
I am open to anyone that my heart says yes to.
I love that.
And that I feel like God is giving a yes to.
And so absolutely.
I recently felt like God encouraged me
to ask out someone who has a child
and that was kind of a new experience for me,
but it really helped me kind of sort through that
and be able to be in a place of saying, you know, yes,
like everyone needs like lovers and marriage partners,
not just people who haven't been through that experience.
Love it.
You guys, Thomas, you're awesome.
Okay, ladies, if you want to know more,
go ahead and let us help you.
Let us connect you.
May you all be blessed.
Yes, absolutely.
And we have, I hope we have another lady.
Please help me remember who you are.
Guys, such great, such great spotlights tonight.
All the men, all the women, such great spotlights.
Oh, it was Joan.
Is Joan hiding?
Joan, are you hiding from me?
Let me see.
All right.
Get your questions.
We'll do 15 minutes of Ask Jackie here.
I don't see Joan.
Can Joan raise her hand if she still wants to be,
if she wants to be spotlighted?
I don't want to put anyone on the spot
if they really don't want to be,
but if you do, raise your hand
because I'm searching your name
and it says you're not here.
Let me, it's in alphabetical order.
Let me look down here.
Joan said that she was actually in a suddenly relationship,
so she's not available.
Oh, all right, girl.
All right, come on.
Okay, so let's go ahead and do a little Q&A
if we want to for the next 15 minutes.
If you have any questions,
I'm going to do a little bit of Ask Jackie right now
since I'm here and I'm Jackie.
So let's go, right?
Actually, I saw someone volunteered
as tribute to be spotlighted,
so I'm going to go ahead and spotlight her
because I see her here, Anna, and spotlight.
All right, girl, give it to us.
Where are you?
Who are you?
Give us all the deets.
Yeah, my name is Anna.
I live in Kentucky right now.
I'm about two miles from downtown Cincinnati.
Freshly 44, just turned 44 on Sunday.
And I'm thankful you're spotlighting me
because I've been trying to reach you all
about your extended car warranties.
So here I am.
There you are.
Okay.
You guys, true story, my poor son, who is just as naive as a newborn baby in the woods,
he actually believed the extended car warranty thing, and he actually gave them his credit
card number.
And then afterwards, he's like, yeah, you know, my car warranty expired, and I was like,
yes!
And so we were able to get the bank to charge it back, but anyway, that just reminded me
of that.
So she is like in that triangle, Indiana, Kentucky, Ohio situation right there, okay?
And she actually is one of the moderators of our Siegel City there, and so we love her.
I've met her in person.
She's phenomenal, phenomenal woman.
So never married, no kids, I mean, I'm just talking about, you know, what do you do for
fun?
What are you passionate about?
We just, I mean, Thomas just like blew us, he's like a poem of a man, a poem of a man
just happened.
And so let's find out, like, what floats your boat, honey?
Yeah, I love to travel, as you know.
Yes, I do.
Yeah, I'm headed to Europe, actually, July 2nd.
So I'm going to Paris first.
I have been there a couple of times, but I'm specifically going because they have an exhibit
at the Louvre that I want to see.
I guess designers go in and get inspiration from different artwork.
And so they're exhibiting the original artwork that inspired the couture fashion.
So I'm really excited to see that.
And then I'm doing a land tour, I'm flying into Budapest, and I'm going to Vienna and
Prague and then coming home.
So I'm pretty excited about that.
I love Europe.
That's exciting.
And you, okay, so I remember you telling me in Columbia that, you know, you just wanted
to travel, you hadn't been married yet, and you weren't, you know, wait any longer for
someone to travel with.
And so you just start traveling solo.
That is amazing.
And so like, what was the very first place that you went to as a solo traveler?
I went to Rome solo.
And then I went from Rome down to Trieste.
Is that right?
I think that's right.
And then I went on a Mediterranean cruise and came home.
So I started traveling in 2019.
And then I was all excited about traveling solo and wanting to go more.
And then of course, I scheduled a couple trips and then the pandemic.
So I've been going pretty much every year, even if it was within the States, like during
COVID, I went with my parents to the National Park.
We took a train from Cincinnati down to Utah and Salt Lake City.
And then we went to Grand Tetons and Yellowstone National Park.
That's awesome.
So if you've been afraid to travel, friends, first of all, that's why Last Trip Single
exists because we want to, if you're afraid to travel solo, we want to give you people
to travel with.
And we're doing that.
And so we're going to continue to do that.
And I just think that's incredible.
I think that you're incredible.
I think it's incredible.
This girl is brilliant.
She is so intelligent.
She is so cultured.
She's so curious.
I'd say she's such a curious personality.
Did you tell people what you actually do for a living that allows you to go on all these
fancy trips?
No, I didn't.
So my degree is actually in fine art, but I've worked for a bank coming up on 20 years.
So I'm currently what's called a business information security officer or BISO.
And all that is, is basically a liaison between information security.
And I represent the consumer bank at a financial institution.
So I represent about like 13,000 people.
I'm kind of a consultant, educational person.
So I'm looking for something new.
I want to be an insider threat.
That's really, my skill set is finding gaps.
And so I love, I used to be an anti-money laundering and I really miss that kind of
catching the bad guy type thing.
So yeah.
That's exciting.
Okay.
So you guys, if you know anyone that this phenomenal human should meet, then please
email us.
Put Anna.
Okay.
It's Anna.
You know, it's, it's like frozen.
Anna.
Yes.
Right.
Frozen.
Okay.
The heroine of frozen.
So Anna.
And then of course, should they put Kentucky?
Yes.
Okay.
KY.
Anna and KY, give us the information of why she should meet whoever this is, including
if it's you gentlemen, and I'm so exciting for this trip that you're going on.
It sounds fun.
I wish I was going.
I want to go to Paris.
I heard Paris is going downhill and I want to get there before it goes all the way.
I'm going to get there before they burn the Eiffel Tower down.
Okay.
So let's do a little ask Jackie action.
We just have a few more minutes here.
We have about 10 minutes.
We can do some questions.
Let me see if there was anything in the chat.
Yes, yes, you guys, there's so many phenomenal people in our communities and I'm so glad
that you guys get to meet each other and we're going to have lots and lots more stuff over
the summer.
Please plug into your single city.
If there isn't a single city where you live, please consider hosting or starting one.
We will support you.
We will help you start that.
I guarantee you there's other people in the movement that are around you, you just don't
know them yet.
If you're interested in that at all, please email us to admin at JackieDorman.com because
the more single cities, the more meetup groups we have, the better.
Don't forget, we're going to be having that huge anniversary party in October in Austin.
If you are someone who has to put vacation time in really far in advance, that's where
you want to put it.
Let's see.
All right, Amy is saying, hey, I'm down here in Lexington.
Let's go.
All right.
Boston will host.
Yes.
Let's do it up there.
Okay.
I feel that it's a challenge to find the balance between giving someone a chance that I'm not
attracted to and letting it be a yes until it's a no and trusting my own heart and letting
it have a voice when it feels like it's saying no.
I feel that if I keep giving it a chance that I'm leading someone on if my heart isn't in
it, how long should I give a chance if there's no attraction before I say it's not a good
bit?
It is a great question.
You guys, when we first started the movement, we're almost five years in, I would say unless
there's something very overtly disconcerting about the person, like you don't feel safe
because you guys never want to ignore your gut, ladies.
We want to heal our intuition so it isn't suspicion, but at the same time, if you have
some sort of gut feeling about someone, that's there to keep you safe.
If you're disconcerted about something, if something just doesn't sit right with you
or doesn't add up, then listen to your intuition.
I don't believe that you can miss out on your spirit mate when you're following after the
Holy Spirit, so just go ahead and exit stage right if that's the case.
But if there isn't anything and it's just a situation where this isn't what you pictured
or expected, give it three days.
If they keep wanting to see you, give it three days.
We don't want to string someone along.
We don't want to let them think that we're really into them when we're not and then we're
hurting people's feelings and breaking hearts.
Also we want to give ourselves a chance to really see who this person is because oftentimes
women especially are more attracted to personality than they are just outer appearance, just
like at face value.
A lot of times personality makes us see someone way differently when we are allowing ourselves
to get to know them, get to know their sense of humor and all the different things.
That's why single spotlights are so fun because you just see a picture of someone, you're
like, eh, I'm not interested.
But then you see them animated, you see them talking about what they're passionate about,
you get to know them, you get to know their sense of humor and the things that you have
in common and they're just chemistries created.
The number one thing that I hear of my success stories on the female side is, Jackie, I would
have never given this guy a chance had it not been for you and I'm so glad I did because
I'm so happy as they're getting married, right?
So give it at least three chances, okay?
And if by the third chance you're just like, I could never imagine kissing this person,
I'm just not attracted to them at all, then consider matching them with someone else in
the community or just sending them to the community.
You don't have to match make them, just consider it, ladies, please.
If the fish is not the right fish for you, don't just throw it back in, okay?
Don't throw it back in.
We need it here because I guarantee that we probably know someone who's a good match for
that guy.
Gentlemen, you're a different story.
Men pretty much know immediately whether or not they're going to be attracted and it's
based on a lot of different factors.
I would love for men to give it at least three dates, I would, unless there's some huge reason
why it's a non-negotiable.
I do tell men that and they do continue to tell me after even one conversation or one
just short coffee date, lunch date, nah, I'm not interested.
So I'm still working on that.
But ladies, people can really grow on you and in a good way, not in a I'm settling type
of way.
So I would say three.
Three is the sweet spot unless God tells you differently to where you're not going to be
hurting someone's feelings or leading them on and you're also giving yourself a chance
to really see them.
Remember, let's do action dates.
Sitting across from someone at food is not a really good way to see their personality.
A lot of people feel really intimidated.
intimidated, especially if they don't know you at all,
So I would say three is the sweet spot unless God tells you differently to where you're
not going to be hurting someone's feelings or leading them on and you're also giving
and you've had very little precursor to the date.
So let's get out, let's see each other's personalities,
let's do something fun so that we have a chance
to really see who that person is.
Okay, you're right.
Holding the tension between I'm not really attracted
and it's a yes until it's a no can sometimes be hard.
How long should you wait to give Guy
your phone number on an app?
I mean, it's hard to say this.
It's hard to answer this question
because it could be a scammer.
Now, people do create Google numbers for this reason,
and so that's a number that's not associated
with your phone.
I personally, you guys, if I was single on an app
and I think I'm talking to a real person,
I'm doing my best to vet them out,
I wouldn't really care about giving my phone a break
because you can always block them.
You can always block people that are trying to talk to you
outside of the app, all right?
You guys, the scammers, we used to be able to tell you
exactly what they were up to,
but AI has changed the game, my friends.
AI has changed the game.
Like you can be even voice, I'm not voice,
you can even be FaceTiming with someone who's not real.
They could literally be AI.
And so the way you're gonna know that
is if they seem too perfect,
they're probably some sort of algorithm or bot.
So let's be careful with that.
If they seem kind of filtered,
and then of course, we used to be able to tell the scammers
and the spammers by broken English,
we can't do that anymore
because they're using AI for their responses.
And so we really, really, really have to get in person
as much as we can.
And if something feels off, it probably is.
If it seems too good to be true, it's too good to be true.
If someone, no offense, friends,
I mean, we all have a certain attractiveness about us
and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
But if someone who's a culturally,
what culture considers beautiful or handsome,
if they're like a 10
and you kind of consider yourself a five,
it's probably not, it's probably not a thing, okay?
If they look airbrushed like that one Ryan Gosling movie,
she's like, you look airbrushed because he's so handsome.
If they look airbrushed, no.
If they look like they're one of the inserts in the frame
when you buy the frame, you know what I mean?
They probably are the insert in the frame.
Their picture probably is one of those mass produced models
of inside the picture frame, okay?
So gentlemen, I know that you think
that you're all that in a bag of chips,
but if some girl who looks like a supermodel
who's 30 years younger than you is trying to talk to you,
she's scamming you, baby, all right?
So let's get with the times.
I would give my phone number.
You can always block them unless you really think
that you're talking to Jake from State Farm
because other than that, let's just call it a day.
I'm not not recommending the ARC app
because there are good people on there, okay?
I know a few people that are talking to people right now
that have already gotten together with people.
I'm just saying, there's a great amount
of interesting profiles on there.
So if you can pick through,
I know that they have a speed dating event coming up,
I think on the 29th.
So the affiliate link is gonna be up till July.
If you guys want to sign up through our link,
there are gonna be special bonuses
and stuff for the people.
Is Jake single?
I don't know.
He likes to wear khakis though.
Any thoughts on how to set healthy boundaries
around dating apps?
I had to take a break for a bit and it's been great.
Yes, it is great.
But I also feel like it's time to get intentional again
and I just don't want to get to the place of working
at like a job or being disappointed
by the lack of quality matches.
Well, how about getting intentional
about in-person community?
You don't have to get intentional about dating apps.
Take a break.
If you don't find joy, you guys,
if stuff is stealing your joy, literally,
then it's summertime.
Lots of people doing things in person.
You guys, there's all kinds of meetup groups now.
Apps that are not dating apps, they're meetup groups.
They are like new in town groups.
Look, Google it.
You will find places.
There's one called,
it's just for like people who want to like meet new people
in the town that they're in.
It's like a dinner thing.
They'll assign you to have dinner
with five or six other strangers.
And I, time left.
Yeah, time left.
Is that the one with the dinner stuff, Candice?
Is that the one?
Oh, I'm sorry.
The dinners?
I'm sorry.
Yes, it is.
I'm sorry.
Candice has done them all.
I'm sorry.
It was super fun.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
You guys, if you want to get intentional, try some new stuff.
You don't have to do the apps.
You literally don't.
I promise you that you don't.
Okay?
Spirit mate match.
We're going to see about turning that front ways.
Our team is, you know, we started talking about it on Monday.
So meet up is another one.
Yes, you guys.
The dinner thing is called time left.
No spaces.
It's basically the premise of time is too short.
Like time left.
You know?
Like time is too short to not have relationships and community.
Visit some new churches.
Candice, for instance, she's our new marketing manager here at Jane Media.
She is the reason why the beautiful website is coming out with all those new pages.
She's also single and ready to mingle, gentlemen.
But she just moved to Austin from Dallas to work, you know, closer in proximity to us.
When she moved here, she just signed up for everything.
She signed up for a bunch of small groups.
She has something going on every night.
And, yes, that sounds like it's tiring.
But it's just for a season.
It's not for the rest of her life.
She's going to an apologetics group.
She's going to this group.
I invited her to join the small group, the gun club group, you know, the shooting group at church.
And she was just like, I don't know about that.
Then she saw that she was one woman to 40 men.
She's like, yes.
Yes, I will join.
Ladies, join gun groups.
Okay?
Take up golfing.
Seriously.
If you want to spend your money on something, spend it on a session with a golf pro.
Go to the driving range.
Hit balls.
Hire the guy.
You know, it's not that expensive.
You know, $20, $30 an hour to show you how to hit the balls.
Go to places like Topgolf.
Go places where there's a majority of men.
You know where men are not?
In Target.
Okay?
So let's go to where the boys are.
You never know who you might meet.
Gentlemen, the ladies are at Target.
So if you want to meet a woman, you can go there.
All right?
But yes.
Guys, you got to get out there.
You got to meet new people.
You have to.
So if you want to be intentional, you want to prioritize, this is summertime.
Prioritize in person.
Okay?
Okay.
Let's give the apps a rest for the summer.
Shall we?
Let's do it.
Everyone's like, heck yeah.
Okay.
All right.
Let's see.
All right.
Elizabeth, the Krav Maga.
How do you say that?
So she's part of some Taekwondo situation that has men in it.
I don't even know how to say it.
Krav Maga.
It sounds like a Star Wars character.
It's Hebrew.
It sounds like a Star Wars character.
It's like self-defense.
And I actually just finished a class.
And I hopped on late.
It's so great.
It sounds great.
And actually, I take that back.
It sounds like a Star Trek character.
But yeah.
Yeah.
One of my brides that, you know, I helped her get married.
She just got married.
She's into that Krav Maga.
She was doing it all the way up to her wedding.
But yeah.
It's so great.
It's such a wonderful community.
Love all you guys so much.
If you live in the Austin, Texas area,
we're going to be putting together a dance small group.
So for the people that want to go country dancing,
two-step dancing,
dancing, you know,
country style dancing.
We're going to.
There's lots of big dance places here.
We have Mavericks.
We have Broken Spoke.
We have a lot of big dance places.
We're going to be putting together a dance group.
It's going to be super fun.
So if you're into that,
or you want to learn how to do that,
we're going to be doing that here in Austin.
There is a brand new single city OC.
So if you're in Southern California.
Yeah, there's a brand new single city OC.
If you haven't joined it, please join.
We're going to be putting together.
Some things for single city OC.
And single city LA.
We're not going to forget about our.
Our people.
Thomas, where do you go to church out there?
Do you go to Evergreen?
Do you go to Vintage?
What do you got?
I go to Vintage.
Awesome.
I love Evergreen too though.
I nip over there every once in a while.
Tommy is the pastor at Evergreen.
And he's single and ready to mingle ladies.
So if you live out in that area,
you have no problem marrying a pastor.
I know a guy.
person that started the worship program at Vintage, Lydia, I match made her and brought her from,
you know, where she was to here to Austin, and she is going to be getting engaged and
getting married here soon. So sorry, we stole her. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I'm glad she's on God's path.
Yeah, but she, I played keys with her. She helped teach me how to learn worship keys.
Wow. Well, you need to come to Austin and visit us. Yeah. He's like, yeah, maybe Austin is cool.
Okay. So yes, she's here and she is in love and getting married. Okay. So, all right, friends,
New York, New Jersey, Columbus, Ohio, just shouting out some of the single city groups.
We have some in Canada. We have Calgary. We have BC. We'd love to open one in Toronto. So if you're
here, this is your sign. If you want to open one in the, on the, in the east side of Canada,
we'd love to do that. We have California, Reading, and LA, and now the OC. We have
Columbus, Ohio. I said that we have Indiana, Kentucky, Louisville, that area. We have Nashville.
We have Atlanta. We have Orlando. We have Jacksonville. We have Tampa. We have Austin,
Dallas, Houston, San Antonio, Colorado Springs, Scottsdale, and also Phoenix area, Arizona.
So if you did not hear your place called, then that means we're calling you to help us to start
a single city in that area. Okay. I'm sure that there are some that I've totally messed up and
missed, but they do exist. All right. So let's prioritize in person, shall we? I really do think
that that is a word for us. We want to prioritize in person as much as we can. And what we'll do is
let's make, Candace, let's make a cheat sheet of, of, of links for people that are in-person things,
you know, like time left and different things. And you guys, we will put that, we will put that PDF
up in your groups. Okay. To kind of give you an idea of some things that you can do that probably
are available in your area. They may not be for you, but they are available in your area.
They may not be fully, but one of them will be so that you can go ahead and go after that.
Sound good? All right, friends, JackieDorman.com 2.0 coming soon with all kinds of things for you
guys to be able to connect to with events and retreats and information and all different
types of things that you guys need. And then Spirit Mate Match 2.0, facing you, not facing me.
We're going to continue to talk about that as a team and see what that rollout would be like.
Don't forget Arc. Give it a shot. Let's see that, that affiliate, that special offer ends in July
for us and Arc. And there is one more speed dating event. Okay. All right. Love you guys.
Have a great one. See you soon.