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Good morning and welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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We are so glad that you're able to join us.

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We have a lot of new people, so I always give the spiel at the beginning of Supernatural

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Saturday that this is a time where we all gather together, as many people as are able

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and available, and we look to the Lord for what is the current prophetic reality.

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What does God have to say to us individually, but also corporately?

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I believe that this is a community, this is a movement.

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All of you have certain things in common.

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One of the things you have in common is that you're revivalists.

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If you didn't know you were revivalists, look at yourself in the mirror and say, I'm a revivalist,

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because you are.

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God has chosen you to be a revivalist in the area of marriage and family.

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We have something in common, and God is moving us.

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A movement has to move, so he's moving us forward.

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The way that he's moving us forward is through revelation.

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This is a time of revelation.

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This is a time where we gather, and usually it's me that is leading the Supernatural Saturday.

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In case you haven't noticed, God has given me a revelatory gift.

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I didn't ask for it, and I didn't know I was going to get it, and I did.

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The way that I knew that I got it is because when I began to speak, I've been in ministry

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for 28 years now, but when I began to speak, even as a younger woman, I would say things

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beyond my pay grade.

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I wouldn't think things beyond my pay grade.

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That's an important differentiation.

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I want you to think about that for a second.

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I wouldn't think them, I would just say them.

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It's kind of scary when you open your mouth and you say things that you're not even thinking.

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I want to let you know that, because guess what?

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When you hear it, everyone else is hearing it, but you're also hearing it for the first

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time along with them.

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It's not something that you've been sitting around thinking about, and now you're going

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to say it out loud so other people can hear it.

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No, you're saying it from the Holy Spirit, and so oftentimes, I'm hearing it for the

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very first time right along with you.

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That can get a little scary, because you might say things that you're like, ooh, what did

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I just say?

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What in the world was that, right?

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I want to let you guys know that today, I want to offend you.

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Today on Supernatural Saturday, I'm hoping to offend you, all right?

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If you get offended, then yay, because that is the whole purpose of today.

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We're going to talk about offense.

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You might wonder, hey, Jackie, how do you know what to talk about on Supernatural Saturday?

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Once again, I lean into the Spirit, I lean into that revelatory gift and into Holy Spirit,

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the gift giver.

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I don't just lean into the gift.

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I lean into the gift giver for these Supernatural Saturdays, but also, sometimes, there's just

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a little seed.

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There's a little seed that happens during the week where I'm like, oh, yeah, I see

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that, Lord.

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I know what you're saying.

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You're saying, we need to address that so that we can move forward, because remember

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what I said, movements move.

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It's important for us to be able to move forward, because if we don't move forward, then we're

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not a movement, okay?

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Revival revives.

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It resurrects things that are dead.

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Something's happening.

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There's action associated with what God has called all of us to do.

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In order to have action, a lot of times, we have to have those blocks removed, and

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so a little seed will drop into my heart during the week, and oftentimes, you guys, it's something

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that's affecting me.

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I'm willing to volunteer as tribute.

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I'm willing to go first, and so if something's happening to me during the week, if I'm feeling

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discouraged or in this case, if I'm feeling offended, overly offended, then I know, oh,

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the weapon of mass destruction that the enemy is using against this movement is offense,

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and I'm not saying that other people in the world aren't being offended.

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I mean, we live in a time where people are the most easily offended that I've ever seen

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in my 50 years on this earth, and the Bible talks about that.

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We're going to get into that in just a second, but we cannot be offended, because it's time

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for us to move forward, and I'm going to show you in just a couple minutes how offense will

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keep you stuck.

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It's a gift in some ways that can cause you to have major promotion and upgrade.

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That's why I'm hoping to offend you today, and then it can also be a stumbling block,

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so Father God, we thank you for your goodness to us.

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We thank you for your love.

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We thank you for revelation and wisdom.

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We thank you for the wisdom that comes with humility, and so we lean into that this morning.

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We're not going to be wise in our own eyes, Lord.

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We're not going to think that we know it all.

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We're not going to think that we're discerning when we're really bitter and jealous and offended.

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Lord, we just lean into your truth and into your love that comes without offense.

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We're asking you to point to the hurting and hard places of our heart this morning as we

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offer those places up to you, for you to tenderize them, for you to make them soft again so that

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they can receive your truth and your word and we can be transformed in Jesus name. Amen.

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All right, you guys, let's get offended together. You want to get offended? So like I said,

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it's a couple of minutes ago. Well, first of all, let's talk about the word offense.

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Some of you may know this, you may not know this, but you know, I have talked about offense

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before in my 28 years and I've heard a lot of teaching on offense and I've read books on offense

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because I told you what kind of family I came from. A lot of you, if you're new,

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you might not know my full story, but I had plenty of reasons to be offended in life,

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at people, but also at God. That's important that we understand that just starting off

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Supernatural Saturday today, that yes, a lot of times when we think of the word offense,

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we think of being offended at people. We think of being irritated and annoyed by people,

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angry at people, unforgiving towards people, but it also can be a situation

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where you've become offended at God because of what has happened, because of what hasn't

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happened because of what you perceive and think is happening. That's why it's so important,

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friends, that we continue to use those heartwork tools and one of those heartwork tools is

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repentance. And the word repentance just simply means we're turning away from the way that we

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see things and the way we're doing things and we're reconnecting with God's perceptions.

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It's easy to become offended when we're in our own perceptions, right? But repentance saying,

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I'm willing to lay down what I think is happening here and I'm willing to allow you to show me

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what's happening here. I'm going to stop going the direction that I'm going right now and I'm

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going to go your direction. I'm going to stop thinking the thoughts that I'm thinking right

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now and I'm inviting you to replace my thoughts with your thoughts. It's important. I see some

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people asking, hey, is disappointment, discouragement, or, you know, of course,

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bitterness, envy, jealousy. I think that all of those are associated with offense. I think they're

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all different than offense. I think offense can lead to a lot of things, right? As some things

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can lead to offense. Let's talk about the word offense really quickly. In the Greek, that word

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is the word scandalon. Kind of like a scandal, right? In Greek, the word offense is the word

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scandalon. Do you know what a scandalon is? A scandalon is the part of a trap that dangles

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down and holds the bait. Think of a trap. Picture a trap right now. You're going to trap an animal,

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okay, for what purpose? To take them to slaughter, y'all. These traps were used to trap the animal,

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capture the animal to take them and then slaughter them. And this scandalon was the

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part of the trap that hung down and it held the bait. It held the thing that was going to attract

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the animal into the trap. You guys, we could just kind of stop right there and just pray for the

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rest of the time together because it's very obvious that offense is a trap of the enemy.

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To take us where? To slaughter. To take us to a place of destruction.

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There's a lot of things. There's a lot of teaching out there. I think there's even a book about

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offense called The Bait of Satan. I remember someone suggested that I read that. If you guys

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want to check that out, I think it's by John Bevere. I read it years and years and years ago,

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probably 20 years ago when my pastor was going to prison.

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Guys, we did not have a lot of time to warm up to the idea that our church was about to be taken

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from us. This was a small church and you guys know what small churches are like. It's like a family.

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It's an extended family. And I just want to tell you that it was my only extended family.

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I started going to that church when I met Jesus at 22 years old. I had never really experienced

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family. For those of you that know my history, once again, broken family, broken lives,

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foster care, girls home. Not a lot of experience with being in family, in community, cared for by

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And this was my first family, this pastor and his wife had become like pseudo parents to me.

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The first parents, you know, that I could really lean into and trust in.

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And then, of course, all the other people in the church becoming like mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters.

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And so this was a huge loss for me.

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And it happened overnight.

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A lot of you can relate to that.

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Where you went to bed one night and you woke up the next day and everything had changed.

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Everything had shifted and not for the better.

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I walked into church on a Tuesday night, we had Tuesday night prayer meeting every week, just like normal.

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It was my night to be in the nursery.

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Did that a couple of times a month because I had a toddler at the time.

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And so I was in the nursery with my toddler, with my daughter and with some other toddlers.

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But we had a TV in the nursery that showed the main service.

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It didn't have any sound that night, but I remember glancing up at the television and just seeing people that I didn't recognize on the platform at the pulpit.

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And there were only two children in the nursery at the time, it was my daughter and another little boy that was my friend's little child.

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And so I took both of them and I went, I was like, what's going on?

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Who are these people?

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And so I went into the back of the sanctuary.

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The door to the nursery was just right by the back door of one of the sides of the sanctuary.

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And so I took the two children and I went into the back of the sanctuary and I sat on the back pew to find out what was going on.

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And what was going on is these people had come to take and seize control of the church because the pastor was being indicted on 23 felonies.

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You guys, that is how quick that unraveled.

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That is how quick we found out there wasn't like rumors and whispers.

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There wasn't any kind of lead up or prelude to this revelation.

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It was like you came to church on a regular Tuesday night for Bible study.

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And instead of Bible study, you had people standing up and screaming at each other in the sanctuary.

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And it was just like all hell had broken loose, literally.

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We call it Black Tuesday.

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And you guys, I proceeded to have a nervous breakdown that day.

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I mean, like for the months and months after that.

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It was shocking.

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It would have been easy to be offended at a lot of things in that moment.

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But that book, The Bait of Satan, someone said, hey, you know, your church, the people at your church, you guys should read this, you know, and make sure that you stay out of offense.

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You guys, there's a lot of you that have had really hard things happen.

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Really hard things.

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In the chat right now, say if that's you, you've had really hard things happen that you still to this day really don't fully understand.

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You had losses of children.

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They left the house, but they never came back.

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They passed away in a car accident or some sort of evil violence towards them.

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You lost a spouse.

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You loved your marriage.

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It was great.

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It was wonderful.

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And then they got sick and passed away, or they didn't get sick.

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They just passed away.

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They had a heart attack.

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They had a stroke.

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Something happened out of the blue, suddenly, but not in a good way.

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You lost your fortune.

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You lost your job.

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People lied about you.

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You woke up one day and realized that you were the villain of the story, that everyone was saying that you were the villain, that you were being lumped into, you know, the list of people that had done bad things, and now you're being indicted or you're being sued.

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Some of you showed up to work at a job that you loved only to be let go, to be laid off, to be fired.

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You're the one that showed up at the doctor's for just a regular checkup, and then you were told something, you know, terrible in your mind about your health or about, you know, your future.

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You went through infidelity.

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You thought you had a great marriage.

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And then you woke up one day to realize that everything had been a lie, that the whole time this person had been living a double life.

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They had been having affairs.

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They had been unfaithful to you.

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I'm just going through some of the scenarios of things that happen in people's lives.

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that are hard and are terrible and are kind of like a living nightmare that you wish you

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could wake up from.

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Go ahead and take a moment to just allow that stuff to come into the chat there.

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Right, a lot of people posting things.

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So the danger of this, friends, is that when we've been through hard things, oftentimes

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it makes our heart hard.

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And that's really heart work 101, right?

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The supernatural surrender to where God can begin to make our heart tender again.

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And I write in my book about an event, and God reminded me of this this morning, this

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story.

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I haven't thought of this story in a long time.

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But God reminded me this morning of something I write about in the heart work about this

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dinner that I had at Captain D's, good old Captain, the good old Captain.

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I don't even know if Captain D's even exists anymore.

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It definitely probably shouldn't if it does, okay?

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My offense towards the captain is still very real, but I will say that in my first marriage,

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you know, my former husband, we met when we were 12 years old.

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And in the time of us pen pal-ing and dating, quote unquote, long distance between 12 and

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17, I had visited him a couple times, gone to a couple like Christmas banquets and different

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things at his church with him.

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And his parents weren't crazy about me.

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And you know, and I have to say, for good reason, you guys, here's this kid being brought

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up in a two parent Christian home, you know, really solid people.

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And he likes this girl that's just, you know, a train wreck in a dumpster fire.

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Every time he's writing to me, yes, this is back in the days when you wrote letters, there

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was no internet, okay?

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And phone calls were really expensive.

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Do you guys remember when phone calls were expensive?

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Long distance phone calls were expensive.

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You could even do this thing called collect calls, where you could call someone and you

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could have them take the charges of the phone call.

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Because phone calls used to cost a lot of money, right?

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Back in the day when that was the newest kind of technology out there.

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And so we had phone calls, we had letters, but I was always somewhere different.

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I was in a girl's home, I was in this foster care situation.

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So I'm sure his parents are like, what in the world?

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What in the world is our son doing with this girl?

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So I moved, I was 19 years old, I was 18 years old, and I moved to their town because he

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wanted me to move there and we were going to get married, okay?

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So I moved there at 18 years old.

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And this Captain D's dinner was my first kind of dinner with his family.

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They hadn't seen me in years since I was a younger teenager.

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And this was the great reveal at Captain D's.

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At the time, I was working at a daycare.

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And if you've ever worked at a daycare, God bless you.

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But I was working at a daycare, it was the first job that I could get when I moved into

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this new city.

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I had just moved there to be with this boy.

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And I was working at this daycare, I'd only been working there for a couple weeks.

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When I went to Captain D's, I was really nervous.

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Are they going to like me?

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Are they going to accept me?

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Are they going to let him date me and marry me?

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Or are they going to block this relationship?

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All of these thoughts swirling in my mind.

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I'm trying to be on my best behavior.

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And for you guys, for me, that's hard.

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I frequently am on my worst behavior.

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But I was going to be on my best behavior that day.

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And remember, this is Jackie pre-Jesus.

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I want to really make sure I'm emphasizing this.

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I did not know Jesus yet.

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And so I go to Captain D's.

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And we sit down and we, you know, if you've never been there, it's just fast food.

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You order your food, you sit down.

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So we're sitting there.

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And I take a bite into this fried fish.

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It's like fried cod or something.

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I take a bite of this fried fish and I'm listening and I'm nodding and I'm smiling.

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And probably about 15 minutes into this dinner, you guys, I start to feel really bad.

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Really sick.

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Like I started to get flushed.

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I started to have chills, but also I'm super hot and I'm sweating.

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I started to feel nauseated.

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And I just say to him, I just whispered to him, hey, I'm not feeling good.

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I need to go home.

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And he's like, what?

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And I was like, yeah, all of a sudden, and you guys know what it's like.

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Sometimes sickness just

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comes out of left field and just hits you like a Mack truck, right?

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Anybody else? Raise your hand. If that's ever happened to you,

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you're feeling fine. And then all of a sudden, bam, you're not feeling good.

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So I excused myself and I left and you guys,

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I barely made it home vomiting fever,

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the whole nine yards.

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And I had never been that sick in current memory.

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And I was sick for like over a week.

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Weak as a kitten, unable to get out of bed.

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And you guys, I just want to tell you for the longest time,

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I blamed the captain for the longest time.

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I was like, Oh, captain D's. It made me sick.

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I have food poisoning that, that place, that food so nasty.

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You know, this was what I believed.

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I believed this for the longest time.

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Every time I would drive by captain D's, I would just get mad inside.

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I'd be like, Captain D's.

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But you guys, in my early heartwork, God said, Hey, Oh, you know,

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the only thing about captain D's. I mean,

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why would God care if I'm offended at the captain?

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Why would he care? I mean,

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you and I both know that that food ain't kingdom, right?

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That food's killing people every day. If it still exists.

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I don't even know if it does, but he said to me, he said, Jackie,

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I want you to know that when you entered into that place,

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you were already carrying the virus.

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And then he showed me that the virus came from the daycare.

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It's something called kitty crud. You guys,

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when you work with little children, they make you sick.

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I'm just going to tell you that right now,

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for those of you that are considering a future career with little children,

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you better get your immune system up because you're going to need it.

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I was already carrying the virus. You guys,

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there's no possible way that the captain's food made me sick.

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I was sick within 15 minutes of sitting down,

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but I'd also been working with germy little children for the last couple of

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weeks, doing something that my body and my immune system wasn't used to.

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And the reason why this is important to our conversation today is because so

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often we will come into communities. We will come into friendships.

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We will come into relationships. Listen, please. And listen, clearly,

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you will come into those things,

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but you won't be able to get too far in because you'll immediately start to get

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offended. And you will think that it is the place. It is the people.

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It is the friendship. It is the budding relationship that is offending you,

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but you are carrying the virus.

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You are carrying the offense.

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You brought it with you into this place.

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You brought it with you.

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It's unhealed trauma from your last relationship or from your

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childhood or from a church that you used to go to.

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Do you guys know how much of a miracle it is that I could go to church

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someplace without sitting there and grumbling and complaining and

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finding fault in judging? Because you guys remember,

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write this down a critical and judgmental heart is a

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offended heart.

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Some of you come into this community and you grumble and you complain.

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You send us emails about what we're not doing.

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Instead of the 99 things we are doing.

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Love ya. And then guess what?

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I get the opportunity to be offended by you being offended.

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If I want it to be, but I want to tell you guys,

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what's interesting about this story is that I am not someone who's easily

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offended.

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Years ago, I prayed for this and maybe you can pray for this too. I said, God,

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give me thick skin and a soft heart.

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Let me understand that other people,

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their stuff, it's not about me. People are hurting.

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They have stuff because we don't have to personalize it and make it all about us.

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Every time someone's upset. Yeah.

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They could be directing that upset towards you.

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They could be putting your name on it.

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But if you go and you meditate on that and you bring it to God and you do your

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heartwork and you see that it really isn't a you thing. It's a them thing.

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Then you can just bless them.

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You can just bless them. You don't got to take it personally.

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And another thing that I just want to say right here, it's not in my notes,

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but I'll make sure I say it. Do not take up the offense of someone else.

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Okay.

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I'm going to take up the offense of someone else.

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I know that we really love people, and the people that we really love, they'll come to

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us and they'll be mad at their boss, or they'll be mad at their husband or wife.

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And they'll come and they'll start, you know, moaning and complaining.

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And then pretty soon, you know, you're taking sides.

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You're taking sides with them.

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Like, oh, yeah, dirty, rotten scoundrel.

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How dare they not take out the garbage for two days in a row?

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Slacker, loser, listen.

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Do not take up someone else's offense.

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And this is why.

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Offense is always pointing to an unhealed part of your heart.

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Please write that down.

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This is something the Lord taught me years and years ago, and it has really changed my

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life.

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Offense is a gift.

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Now if you are someone who just lives in offense, it's not a gift.

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It's going to be to your detriment and to your destruction.

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So when offense comes, the initial feeling of being offended, it is a GPS that will point

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you, if you know how to use the heart work tools, right to the root or the area of trauma

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that's unhealed.

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It'll point right to the unhealed part of your heart.

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Because when you feel offense, you can't just feel it.

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Remember how I say you can't just feel the feels, you have to heal the feels?

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When you feel offense, you can't just feel it, you have to heal it.

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And how do you do that?

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I'm going to tell you right now.

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You know that you're being offended by whatever's happening or whatever's being said, but now

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you have to ask yourself an important question.

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Why does this offend me?

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You know that you're feeling offended.

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You know that you are offended by this, but why?

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Ask yourself, say, why am I offended?

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Why does this offend me?

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Why does this bother me?

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And guess what?

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You will get an answer.

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You guys having a good time?

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Inform your faces that you're having a good time.

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Some of you look real mean right now, take a little smile.

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Don't be offending me.

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Why does it bother me?

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Ask yourself that question, why?

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Would anyone admit today?

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Remember, we love the heartwork tool, James 5.16, confess your faults, your frailties,

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your weaknesses, your offenses, if you want, and be healed.

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Confession.

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Confession is one of those things that pulls back the layers of the things, of the trauma

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and gets to the root.

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So would anyone raise their hand and just admit like in this season of your life that

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you've kind of become easily offended, that you're touchy, that you're kind of bruised

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and beat up.

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And so it's really not hard for you to get offended.

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You watch the news, you get offended.

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You see people post on Instagram about stuff or Facebook and, or fake book and you get

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offended.

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Okay.

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You hear a sermon, you get offended.

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Even come on here and you get offended.

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Once again, I'm trying to offend you the best that I can, speaking the truth in love, because

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I want your heart to be whole.

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Can I tell you something?

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If you are an easily offended person hoping to get married, you are going to be offended

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every day of your life inside relationship.

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Intimate relationships will give you endless reasons to be offended, endless reasons.

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If you already have an offended heart, you're going to be so offended and you're not going

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to probably even make it to the altar because you're going to be so offended at the things

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that happen as you're getting to know someone that you're probably just going to cut and

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run.

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Well, they didn't text me back when they should, or they didn't plan the date or, you know,

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um, their, their communication is not what I want it to be.

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I, I, I do all this, but they do that.

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You know, it's going to be all kinds of reasons for you to find faults and to get upset and

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to get offended.

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A lot of hands went up saying, I admit, I confess, I want to be healed.

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I'm easily offended.

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Things get on my nerves.

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I get annoyed really quickly.

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You guys nowadays, you don't got to do anyone to offend.

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You don't got to do anything to offend people.

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People are offended that you're alive.

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They're offended that you're breathing, you're breathing wrong.

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And I, you know, I'll confess when I'm sitting on an airplane and I don't know who's sitting

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next to me yet.

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I'm just sitting there just waiting to be offended.

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I should be sitting there waiting to, Oh, who am I going to meet?

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Who am I going to be able to bless today?

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And you know, and say hi to, or possibly, you know, have a, a God encounter with of

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a divine appointment because we're sitting next to each other.

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No, I'm sitting on that plane.

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Cause I,

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I board early, I'm in an early boarding class with my airline because, you know, I bought

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enough flights from them to have it.

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And so I am sitting there and I'm watching the aisle and people are coming down the aisle

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and I'm like, oh, that person's too tall.

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Don't let them sit here.

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That person's a little too fat.

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Don't let them sit here.

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I'm just being honest.

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All right.

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Because those airplane seats are not big, you guys.

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They've made them smaller and smaller over the years to accommodate more and more and

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more people.

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You hear someone with a little bit of a tick, they're kind of snorting or hacking and you're

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like, oh, God, please don't let them sit next to me.

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Jesus.

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Ever since COVID, if anyone sneezes, everyone gives them the evil eye, like, how dare you

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be alive?

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How dare you be alive?

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You're sneezing, you're coughing in public.

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I mean, they could have just had a wild hair in their nose that caused them to sneeze.

456
00:30:54.680 --> 00:30:59.680
But everyone looks at them like they're about to, you know, be patient zero that causes

457
00:30:59.680 --> 00:31:03.240
the bubonic plague in the earth.

458
00:31:03.240 --> 00:31:07.960
You guys, everything has worked together, not to our good, but to our offense.

459
00:31:07.960 --> 00:31:08.960
Am I wrong?

460
00:31:08.960 --> 00:31:09.960
Am I wrong?

461
00:31:09.960 --> 00:31:16.800
That's what I tell you, the reason, the impetus for this talk on offense this week is because

462
00:31:16.800 --> 00:31:20.520
David Dorman is on my last nerve.

463
00:31:20.520 --> 00:31:26.160
I love that man, but I am so offended and annoyed by him this week.

464
00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:36.360
And God's like, oh, Jackie, we need to do some hard work.

465
00:31:36.360 --> 00:31:40.640
You guys, when you marry someone, you are literally saying I do at the altar.

466
00:31:40.640 --> 00:31:49.440
What you're saying is I do promise to forgive this person that is going to annoy me more

467
00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:53.920
than anyone has ever annoyed me in my entire life.

468
00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:56.080
And the reason why is they can be a great person.

469
00:31:56.080 --> 00:31:57.080
David's amazing.

470
00:31:57.080 --> 00:31:58.600
He's a great man.

471
00:31:58.600 --> 00:32:04.660
But when you live in proximity to someone, close proximity, they're going to do things

472
00:32:04.660 --> 00:32:06.660
that you don't like.

473
00:32:06.660 --> 00:32:10.040
They're going to do things that get on your nerves.

474
00:32:10.040 --> 00:32:13.880
They're also not going to do things that you like and that you want.

475
00:32:13.880 --> 00:32:19.320
And you're going to have to forgive them more than anyone that you've ever forgiven in your

476
00:32:20.200 --> 00:32:21.200
life.

477
00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:22.200
And I'm not talking about abuse here, y'all.

478
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:26.960
For those of you that have had hard marriages because they were abusive, no, I'm talking

479
00:32:26.960 --> 00:32:31.960
about real marriages that are hard because marriage is hard.

480
00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:34.560
It's a refining process.

481
00:32:34.560 --> 00:32:35.560
It is.

482
00:32:35.560 --> 00:32:37.600
So you guys, we have to begin to deal with offense.

483
00:32:37.600 --> 00:32:40.560
For those of you that raised your hand and said, I get easily offended.

484
00:32:40.560 --> 00:32:42.760
That's because your heart is bruised.

485
00:32:42.760 --> 00:32:45.000
It's touchy in a lot of different places.

486
00:32:45.000 --> 00:32:49.400
You have a lot of things that you've not released, that you've not forgiven, whether

487
00:32:49.400 --> 00:32:50.400
it's yourself.

488
00:32:50.400 --> 00:32:51.600
Do you know you could be offended by yourself?

489
00:32:51.600 --> 00:32:56.080
Has anyone ever been offended by themselves?

490
00:32:56.080 --> 00:32:59.880
You're like, ugh, Jackie, how could you do this again?

491
00:32:59.880 --> 00:33:01.600
You're such an idiot.

492
00:33:01.600 --> 00:33:12.660
No one ever in their life is annoyed by themselves, disgusted, offended by their own behavior.

493
00:33:12.660 --> 00:33:14.580
You guys, we got to get to the root of that.

494
00:33:14.580 --> 00:33:18.380
We got to forgive ourselves.

495
00:33:18.380 --> 00:33:25.660
The Bible says, great are those that love my word and nothing will offend them.

496
00:33:25.660 --> 00:33:28.420
In fact, I think it says great is the peace.

497
00:33:28.420 --> 00:33:37.060
Great is the peace of those that love my word and nothing will offend them.

498
00:33:37.060 --> 00:33:38.060
Nothing will offend them.

499
00:33:38.420 --> 00:33:43.820
We all know that the word was robed in flesh and dwelt among us, Christ.

500
00:33:43.820 --> 00:33:53.340
That scripture comes from Psalms, Psalm 119, really high up, like 165.

501
00:33:53.340 --> 00:33:58.140
I used to have a pastor's wife that used to quote that verse all the time.

502
00:33:58.140 --> 00:34:01.740
You try to talk to her about something that was bothering you and she'd be, great are

503
00:34:01.740 --> 00:34:05.900
those that love thy law, greater the peace of those that love thy law and nothing will

504
00:34:05.900 --> 00:34:06.900
offend them.

505
00:34:06.900 --> 00:34:12.260
You guys, let's not spiritually bypass people by slapping scriptures on problems, okay?

506
00:34:12.260 --> 00:34:15.179
We got to deal with stuff at the root.

507
00:34:15.179 --> 00:34:18.699
Something's bothering us, if it's hurting us, then we got to talk about it.

508
00:34:18.699 --> 00:34:22.300
We're not just going to bypass it with a scripture.

509
00:34:22.300 --> 00:34:27.620
Bless her, but we're not going to bypass it with a scripture because you know what happens

510
00:34:27.620 --> 00:34:32.500
when we do that is we just try to stick all the trauma behind false forgiveness.

511
00:34:32.500 --> 00:34:36.580
Let's talk about toxic forgiveness for a second because we're talking about offense.

512
00:34:37.260 --> 00:34:40.100
We need to also talk about forgiveness because the way that we're going to come out of offense

513
00:34:40.100 --> 00:34:42.139
is by forgiving, right?

514
00:34:42.139 --> 00:34:47.739
By confessing, by repenting, by forgiving the hard work tools, getting to the root of

515
00:34:47.739 --> 00:34:48.739
things.

516
00:34:48.739 --> 00:34:50.620
But there is such a thing as toxic forgiveness, you guys.

517
00:34:50.620 --> 00:34:51.620
You know what that is?

518
00:34:51.620 --> 00:34:56.820
That's forgiveness with no accountability.

519
00:34:56.820 --> 00:35:00.020
That's just like shoving all the trauma into a closet and saying, oh, okay.

520
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.040
It doesn't exist anymore because I forgave them, no.

521
00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:05.360
And what you've learned through the hard work

522
00:35:05.360 --> 00:35:08.240
is that forgiveness has layers and it has phases.

523
00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:13.640
We forgive because God has commanded us to do so.

524
00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:17.280
It is a command from the Lord,

525
00:35:17.280 --> 00:35:19.080
forgive and you will be forgiven.

526
00:35:20.040 --> 00:35:24.740
Forgive your debtors so you can have your debts forgiven.

527
00:35:27.380 --> 00:35:28.220
Right?

528
00:35:31.000 --> 00:35:33.740
So it's important that we understand

529
00:35:33.740 --> 00:35:35.860
that when we're forgiving someone,

530
00:35:35.860 --> 00:35:38.980
that if we are going to be in continued relationship,

531
00:35:38.980 --> 00:35:40.140
because write this down,

532
00:35:40.140 --> 00:35:43.060
forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation.

533
00:35:45.800 --> 00:35:46.640
Okay?

534
00:35:46.640 --> 00:35:47.460
When we forgive someone,

535
00:35:47.460 --> 00:35:49.700
it doesn't mean that we're gonna necessarily

536
00:35:49.700 --> 00:35:51.460
continue in relationship with them.

537
00:35:51.460 --> 00:35:53.620
Now, if it's yourself that you're forgiving,

538
00:35:53.620 --> 00:35:54.860
then yes, you're gonna continue

539
00:35:54.860 --> 00:35:56.460
in relationship with yourself.

540
00:35:56.460 --> 00:35:58.020
If it's God that you're forgiving,

541
00:35:58.040 --> 00:36:01.240
then yes, you're gonna continue in relationship with God.

542
00:36:01.240 --> 00:36:02.120
But if it's a person,

543
00:36:02.120 --> 00:36:03.460
another person that you're forgiving,

544
00:36:03.460 --> 00:36:05.800
you may or may not be continuing in relationship.

545
00:36:05.800 --> 00:36:08.420
They may not even be alive on the earth.

546
00:36:08.420 --> 00:36:10.880
But if they are alive on the earth,

547
00:36:10.880 --> 00:36:12.980
and you're gonna continue in relationship with them

548
00:36:12.980 --> 00:36:15.380
because you believe before God that you should,

549
00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:17.720
okay, like say it's your spouse

550
00:36:17.720 --> 00:36:19.480
and you're forgiving them for something,

551
00:36:19.480 --> 00:36:22.620
there needs to be accountability to the offense.

552
00:36:23.720 --> 00:36:24.560
Okay?

553
00:36:24.560 --> 00:36:26.080
If you're the person that needs to take accountability

554
00:36:26.080 --> 00:36:27.640
because you're just being touchy

555
00:36:28.140 --> 00:36:28.980
and you're just being bruised

556
00:36:28.980 --> 00:36:31.020
and you're turning a level two situation

557
00:36:31.020 --> 00:36:34.880
into a level 10 situation because of your unhealed heart,

558
00:36:36.140 --> 00:36:38.380
then you need to take accountability.

559
00:36:38.380 --> 00:36:40.420
Hey, I overreacted.

560
00:36:40.420 --> 00:36:41.500
I was judging you.

561
00:36:41.500 --> 00:36:43.720
I was criticizing you in my heart.

562
00:36:43.720 --> 00:36:45.940
Yes, I got upset at you,

563
00:36:45.940 --> 00:36:46.940
but I got upset at you

564
00:36:46.940 --> 00:36:49.480
because I was carrying the virus already.

565
00:36:52.140 --> 00:36:53.940
I was carrying it.

566
00:36:53.940 --> 00:36:56.020
Guys, I have seen so many people get hurt

567
00:36:56.020 --> 00:36:57.180
in communities and churches,

568
00:36:57.680 --> 00:36:59.480
like the story that I told you about my church,

569
00:36:59.480 --> 00:37:02.520
and they're never able to come back into community again

570
00:37:02.520 --> 00:37:04.120
because of my Captain D story,

571
00:37:04.120 --> 00:37:06.320
because of the reason behind that.

572
00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:08.600
They'll come into the church and they'll sit down,

573
00:37:08.600 --> 00:37:11.000
you know, spiritual community, whatever,

574
00:37:11.000 --> 00:37:15.480
civic group, you know, a group of people,

575
00:37:15.480 --> 00:37:17.680
and they'll immediately start finding fault.

576
00:37:18.800 --> 00:37:20.320
You know, within just a couple months,

577
00:37:20.320 --> 00:37:21.360
they were so happy.

578
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:23.040
They were so excited to be there.

579
00:37:23.040 --> 00:37:25.160
It was the greatest place in the world.

580
00:37:26.160 --> 00:37:28.220
And then all of a sudden, it's like, ugh.

581
00:37:30.180 --> 00:37:31.580
I don't like the way they teach.

582
00:37:31.580 --> 00:37:32.780
I don't want to be preached.

583
00:37:32.780 --> 00:37:34.900
I don't like that one chick that sings.

584
00:37:34.900 --> 00:37:36.980
Her voice hurts my ears.

585
00:37:39.780 --> 00:37:41.460
The drummer's offbeat.

586
00:37:43.300 --> 00:37:44.760
What's the problem here?

587
00:37:44.760 --> 00:37:45.700
The problem is,

588
00:37:45.700 --> 00:37:48.360
is that they've come into a place with imperfect people.

589
00:37:48.360 --> 00:37:49.200
Guess what?

590
00:37:49.200 --> 00:37:51.660
There's no place that doesn't include that except heaven.

591
00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:56.840
And now they're having a hard time

592
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:59.360
because of their unhealed hurt

593
00:37:59.360 --> 00:38:02.840
from whatever has happened in the last community.

594
00:38:02.840 --> 00:38:04.160
And they keep carrying that,

595
00:38:04.160 --> 00:38:05.760
and they keep going to another place.

596
00:38:05.760 --> 00:38:09.420
And there's a honeymoon phase where they love it there.

597
00:38:09.420 --> 00:38:11.640
And then all of a sudden, you know,

598
00:38:11.640 --> 00:38:15.140
they start to become offended by little things.

599
00:38:17.560 --> 00:38:18.400
Am I wrong?

600
00:38:19.400 --> 00:38:21.120
And just so you know,

601
00:38:21.120 --> 00:38:22.860
that's going to happen in relationships too.

602
00:38:22.860 --> 00:38:26.380
If you have unhealed relationship wounds and hurts,

603
00:38:28.380 --> 00:38:32.020
even if it's just from platonic relationships, friendships,

604
00:38:32.020 --> 00:38:35.060
it's going to be hard for you to trust a friend.

605
00:38:35.060 --> 00:38:36.540
You're going to get into a new friendship.

606
00:38:36.540 --> 00:38:38.340
And instead of really enjoying that

607
00:38:38.340 --> 00:38:40.180
and being thankful for it and realizing that,

608
00:38:40.180 --> 00:38:41.860
yeah, people aren't perfect,

609
00:38:41.860 --> 00:38:43.620
you're going to start to pick that person apart,

610
00:38:43.620 --> 00:38:45.180
find fault with them.

611
00:38:45.180 --> 00:38:47.980
You're going to start to find reasons to not trust them.

612
00:38:48.820 --> 00:38:50.540
Reasons to wall them off.

613
00:38:50.540 --> 00:38:52.980
Remember, offense is a fence.

614
00:38:52.980 --> 00:38:53.820
It's a fence.

615
00:38:53.820 --> 00:38:55.940
It's a barrier that keeps you from being able

616
00:38:55.940 --> 00:38:58.520
to truly connect and have intimacy with others.

617
00:39:03.460 --> 00:39:04.420
And all of a sudden, you know,

618
00:39:04.420 --> 00:39:07.340
you're not hanging out with them really anymore.

619
00:39:07.340 --> 00:39:09.700
The relationship never got off the runway.

620
00:39:09.700 --> 00:39:12.140
Same thing with dating relationships.

621
00:39:12.140 --> 00:39:14.540
You're really excited about it at the beginning,

622
00:39:15.520 --> 00:39:20.520
but pretty quickly you start getting suspicious.

623
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:21.960
You start pulling away.

624
00:39:21.960 --> 00:39:24.160
You start getting critical and judgmental.

625
00:39:26.000 --> 00:39:28.220
Start getting easily offended.

626
00:39:31.320 --> 00:39:32.920
Guys, we have to deal with this.

627
00:39:34.800 --> 00:39:36.600
Go back to the word scandalon.

628
00:39:36.600 --> 00:39:39.360
It is a part of the trap that dangles bait.

629
00:39:39.360 --> 00:39:41.200
Satan is dangling the temptation

630
00:39:41.200 --> 00:39:43.440
for us to be offended all the time.

631
00:39:45.480 --> 00:39:46.320
And you know what?

632
00:39:46.320 --> 00:39:48.200
There are some things that you really,

633
00:39:48.200 --> 00:39:50.720
truly should be offended at,

634
00:39:50.720 --> 00:39:53.240
kind of righteously indignant at.

635
00:39:53.240 --> 00:39:54.760
And those are the things that you take to prayer,

636
00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:55.720
you take to intercession,

637
00:39:55.720 --> 00:39:57.480
the things that are happening in the world.

638
00:39:57.480 --> 00:39:59.960
We should be offended that children are being.

639
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.960
trafficked in the world, that should offend you, that should anger you.

640
00:40:10.240 --> 00:40:14.640
We take that to the Lord, we begin to intercede for those children, we begin to intercede for

641
00:40:14.640 --> 00:40:20.000
the rescuers of those children. I'm just going to tell you right now,

642
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:23.760
if you're a chronic watcher of the news, you should probably give that up.

643
00:40:23.760 --> 00:40:34.160
I have watched how people that watch the news regularly actually get hardened hearts. I have

644
00:40:34.160 --> 00:40:40.160
seen it happen in real time. Because first of all, y'all, if you haven't noticed, the news is all bad

645
00:40:40.160 --> 00:40:47.600
news. It's all bad news. It's about who is screwing who over in the government, in real life,

646
00:40:47.600 --> 00:40:54.880
in Hollywood. None of it's good news. It's all bad news. It's all gossip. It's all hearsay.

647
00:40:54.880 --> 00:40:58.880
And then the stuff that is facts, because the news is barely facts anymore,

648
00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:06.800
the stuff that is factual is pretty offensive. Lots of propaganda.

649
00:41:10.560 --> 00:41:16.640
And the people that watch the news regularly, their hearts get hard. They're hearing all this

650
00:41:16.640 --> 00:41:23.120
negativity on a regular basis and their hearts get hard. I know, I know, I know people that watch

651
00:41:23.120 --> 00:41:27.600
the news habitually. As soon as they wake up in the morning, they read the news or they watch the

652
00:41:27.600 --> 00:41:31.680
news, what's going on in the world. The problem is, is that there's a lot of other stuff going

653
00:41:31.680 --> 00:41:35.760
on in the world besides what's being reported on that news station, and it's good stuff.

654
00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:39.120
God is on the move. People's lives are being changed.

655
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:45.200
Right? People are being rescued supernaturally. All kinds of amazing things are happening.

656
00:41:45.200 --> 00:41:46.800
You're not going to see anyone report on that.

657
00:41:49.840 --> 00:41:53.600
And what's going to happen is, is that when you watch the news, you're going to think that all

658
00:41:53.600 --> 00:41:57.120
there is out there is bad news. You know what's going to happen. The Bible says what's going to

659
00:41:57.120 --> 00:42:02.800
happen at the end of the age, because of the rampant increase of sin, the love of many,

660
00:42:03.120 --> 00:42:08.240
of sin, the love of many, the hearts of many will get cold and hard

661
00:42:10.800 --> 00:42:17.040
and offended and offended. You guys in that same set of scriptures,

662
00:42:17.040 --> 00:42:21.520
it says, and many will be offended and hate one another.

663
00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:31.280
In fact, it says, and that's Matthew 24. It says many will fall away because of their offense.

664
00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:35.520
You guys, who do you think that Jesus was talking about?

665
00:42:37.440 --> 00:42:42.080
You can't fall away from something that you were never connected to. He's talking about believers.

666
00:42:44.080 --> 00:42:46.720
And many will fall away from the faith because of their offense.

667
00:42:48.560 --> 00:42:53.520
And you guys, and I've heard these people, and you could easily become one of them.

668
00:42:53.520 --> 00:43:00.560
I could easily become one of them. Well, why doesn't God fix this? Why didn't God change this?

669
00:43:00.560 --> 00:43:06.400
Why did God allow this to happen in the earth? Why this? Why that? They get offended because of

670
00:43:06.400 --> 00:43:11.280
the sin that's running rampant in the earth. They start to get offended because evil seems to be

671
00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:24.000
winning and prospering, but it's not. It's very difficult when good things happen, when bad things

672
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:29.280
happen to good people, and all these bad people that are doing bad things seem to be prospering.

673
00:43:29.280 --> 00:43:37.280
It's so easy to be offended by that. I'm just going to be super transparent. You know, my dad

674
00:43:37.280 --> 00:43:43.760
left the family when I was six months old. He left my poor 21-year-old mom with two toddlers. Well,

675
00:43:43.760 --> 00:43:50.240
two, a baby and a toddler. I was six months old. My brother was a year old, year and a half old.

676
00:43:51.760 --> 00:43:58.000
She was 21 years old. She was working two jobs. She was leaving us with people that she didn't

677
00:43:58.720 --> 00:44:05.120
have support of family. She was trying her best to figure it out, and that drove her into the

678
00:44:05.840 --> 00:44:11.360
arms of another man. Back in that day in the 70s, that's what you did. You just got married again.

679
00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:16.560
If you're a woman, you needed to find another man. That man wasn't any good,

680
00:44:16.560 --> 00:44:22.240
and that led to more abuse and all the things. My mom just really went through hell. She did.

681
00:44:23.120 --> 00:44:29.760
Unfortunately, she kept choosing wrong even more, chose another man after that man that was

682
00:44:30.720 --> 00:44:37.360
not good to her. I believe that's one of the reasons that my mom is not alive on the earth.

683
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:44.160
She passed away at 64 years old. I want to tell you something, you guys. I reconnected with my

684
00:44:44.160 --> 00:44:51.120
biological dad. I'm still working on just layers of forgiveness towards him because of all the

685
00:44:51.680 --> 00:44:58.000
neglect and all the abandonment and all the things that he did to my mom before he neglected

686
00:44:58.000 --> 00:44:59.120
and abandoned all of us.

687
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.560
And he's been married.

688
00:45:01.560 --> 00:45:03.080
He's on his fifth marriage right now.

689
00:45:05.840 --> 00:45:07.600
And the other day I was sitting across from him.

690
00:45:07.600 --> 00:45:10.920
I was down where he lives in Southern California and I took him to breakfast

691
00:45:10.920 --> 00:45:13.920
and he came and, and he's a broken and beat up person and guess what?

692
00:45:13.920 --> 00:45:14.760
He's a believer now.

693
00:45:14.760 --> 00:45:18.120
He's given his life to Jesus and, you know, and, and I really

694
00:45:18.120 --> 00:45:19.880
want to love him and forgive him.

695
00:45:20.840 --> 00:45:22.160
You know, and that's a process.

696
00:45:22.160 --> 00:45:24.120
And for those of you that are still in process with that, I

697
00:45:24.120 --> 00:45:24.840
just want to encourage you.

698
00:45:24.840 --> 00:45:29.160
It is a process, but he said something that I could have really allowed to offend me.

699
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:33.080
We were just sitting and talking and he was talking about his

700
00:45:33.080 --> 00:45:34.400
struggles with his current wife.

701
00:45:34.400 --> 00:45:35.600
This is wife number five.

702
00:45:36.160 --> 00:45:38.880
And I lived with him for three months when I was 16 years old.

703
00:45:38.880 --> 00:45:39.920
I needed a place to live.

704
00:45:39.920 --> 00:45:40.800
I was homeless.

705
00:45:41.120 --> 00:45:42.400
I didn't have anywhere to go.

706
00:45:42.560 --> 00:45:45.040
I lived with him and his wife at the time.

707
00:45:45.040 --> 00:45:46.440
I think that was wife number three.

708
00:45:46.920 --> 00:45:49.800
And, you know, he's like, well, you know, Vicky, that's her name.

709
00:45:49.800 --> 00:45:51.320
He's like, you know, she died of cancer.

710
00:45:52.360 --> 00:45:54.840
And I was like, oh yeah, I'm so sorry to hear that.

711
00:45:54.880 --> 00:45:57.120
He's like, yeah, he's like crazy.

712
00:45:57.120 --> 00:46:00.440
But three of my five wives died young of cancer.

713
00:46:00.640 --> 00:46:06.400
And that really started to piss me off because one of those women was my mother.

714
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:14.880
Because you guys know, it had been easy for me to, to say, I did think this thought,

715
00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:18.320
but to hold onto this thought in my heart, this is a difference between

716
00:46:18.320 --> 00:46:20.600
offensive thoughts coming and staying.

717
00:46:21.560 --> 00:46:28.800
The offensive thought came like, you know, oh, you married five women, cheated

718
00:46:28.800 --> 00:46:32.720
on them, abused them, three of them are now dead from cancer, but you're still

719
00:46:32.720 --> 00:46:35.400
here, you big piece of crap.

720
00:46:37.560 --> 00:46:38.760
I'm just being honest.

721
00:46:39.960 --> 00:46:41.120
That's the thought that came.

722
00:46:44.360 --> 00:46:46.160
But that's not the thought that I allowed to stay.

723
00:46:47.240 --> 00:46:50.200
In fact, you guys, that is the very day that I talked about on a different

724
00:46:50.360 --> 00:46:55.640
Supernatural Saturday, where he was broken and he was telling us how much he

725
00:46:55.640 --> 00:47:01.080
was hurting and we circled back around after leaving, seeing him broken, walking

726
00:47:01.080 --> 00:47:07.080
out to his car, like 150 years old when he's only 71 and we circled back around

727
00:47:07.080 --> 00:47:11.160
and came back and laid hands on him and prayed for him and he began to weep and

728
00:47:11.160 --> 00:47:11.840
cry.

729
00:47:15.480 --> 00:47:16.520
We have a choice.

730
00:47:16.920 --> 00:47:21.640
When offense comes, we can find out what heart and part of our heart it's pointing

731
00:47:21.640 --> 00:47:26.280
to and we can invite Holy Spirit into that place to bring regeneration and

732
00:47:26.280 --> 00:47:29.960
resurrection or we can stay offended, which will turn to bitterness.

733
00:47:30.360 --> 00:47:31.640
It'll turn to resentment.

734
00:47:31.680 --> 00:47:32.880
It'll turn to hatred.

735
00:47:33.520 --> 00:47:34.560
It'll turn to death.

736
00:47:36.040 --> 00:47:37.600
We can, we can do both.

737
00:47:39.960 --> 00:47:40.840
We have a choice.

738
00:47:40.840 --> 00:47:41.760
We have free will.

739
00:47:41.760 --> 00:47:45.040
And you guys, a lot of times, have you ever, I've never met an offended person

740
00:47:45.040 --> 00:47:47.600
who doesn't have a good reason for being offended.

741
00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:52.360
Of course, there's plenty of good reasons for being offended.

742
00:47:52.960 --> 00:47:59.880
James 3, 13 talks about the wisdom that comes from meekness, comes from that

743
00:47:59.880 --> 00:48:01.200
yielded strength.

744
00:48:01.240 --> 00:48:02.720
That's what meekness is, not weakness.

745
00:48:02.720 --> 00:48:04.960
Meekness is us yielding our strength to God.

746
00:48:05.000 --> 00:48:05.520
Okay.

747
00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:07.120
But it talks about that.

748
00:48:07.120 --> 00:48:13.360
It talks about how, you know, jealousy and envy and offense and bitterness, you

749
00:48:13.360 --> 00:48:15.160
know, it seems reasonable to us.

750
00:48:18.680 --> 00:48:20.360
Sometimes it might even seem wise.

751
00:48:20.400 --> 00:48:23.600
You might not even think that it's offense that you're dealing with.

752
00:48:23.600 --> 00:48:25.520
You might just think that it's discernment.

753
00:48:26.160 --> 00:48:30.400
I am wise about the situation, but it's not true.

754
00:48:31.240 --> 00:48:31.920
It's not true.

755
00:48:31.920 --> 00:48:32.560
It's not true.

756
00:48:32.560 --> 00:48:33.200
It's not true.

757
00:48:33.200 --> 00:48:33.840
It's not true.

758
00:48:33.960 --> 00:48:34.640
It's not true.

759
00:48:34.640 --> 00:48:35.160
It's not true.

760
00:48:35.160 --> 00:48:35.600
It's not true.

761
00:48:35.600 --> 00:48:36.800
It's not suspense.

762
00:48:36.800 --> 00:48:38.080
It's not a discernment.

763
00:48:38.080 --> 00:48:38.760
It's a fence.

764
00:48:42.840 --> 00:48:44.920
We have to release it to the Lord.

765
00:48:47.800 --> 00:48:49.120
Anyone learn anything today?

766
00:48:53.800 --> 00:48:58.320
You guys know that part in the book of John where Jesus says to the multitude,

767
00:48:58.320 --> 00:49:02.320
you know, your forefathers ate manna, but you're going to eat my flesh and drink

768
00:49:02.320 --> 00:49:02.840
my blood.

769
00:49:03.160 --> 00:49:04.000
Remember that part?

770
00:49:04.000 --> 00:49:07.640
And then everyone left because they were because you guys have to understand that

771
00:49:07.640 --> 00:49:09.000
he purposely offended them.

772
00:49:09.400 --> 00:49:13.360
He purposely was trying to offend them because, you know, cannibalism was like

773
00:49:13.360 --> 00:49:15.200
the worst thing that you could do as a Jew.

774
00:49:17.600 --> 00:49:20.920
Can't be a cannibal, can't eat dead people.

775
00:49:22.080 --> 00:49:22.640
All right.

776
00:49:24.360 --> 00:49:27.440
And so a lot of those people, they just left.

777
00:49:28.920 --> 00:49:31.880
But there's something in that scripture that I think we don't really notice.

778
00:49:31.880 --> 00:49:36.560
It says that when they got offended, they left, but they returned to their old

779
00:49:36.560 --> 00:49:37.840
associations.

780
00:49:39.000 --> 00:49:41.120
You guys, that's where I want to land the plane here.

781
00:49:42.800 --> 00:49:47.840
The Bible is clearly showing us is when we allow ourselves to be offended, we

782
00:49:47.840 --> 00:49:49.080
don't go any further.

783
00:49:49.080 --> 00:49:50.240
We don't progress.

784
00:49:50.240 --> 00:49:52.520
We go back to our old associations.

785
00:49:53.640 --> 00:49:54.880
Offense is keeping us.

786
00:49:54.880 --> 00:49:55.640
It's a block.

787
00:49:55.640 --> 00:49:57.400
It's keeping us from moving forward.

788
00:49:57.400 --> 00:49:59.120
It's keeping us from learning more.

789
00:49:59.120 --> 00:49:59.960
It's keeping us from.

790
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:07.960
growing more, from understanding more, it's stunting us.

791
00:50:07.960 --> 00:50:12.000
We don't want to go back to our old associations.

792
00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:15.120
One thing I'm going to tell you because I've been on this journey for a while now is the

793
00:50:15.120 --> 00:50:18.160
kingdom versus the church, the kingdom.

794
00:50:18.160 --> 00:50:20.720
Kingdom stuff is going to offend you.

795
00:50:20.720 --> 00:50:22.040
It definitely is.

796
00:50:22.040 --> 00:50:26.960
If you want to go sit back and pat a cake for Jesus in some kind of dead religion, you

797
00:50:26.960 --> 00:50:31.000
can, and there might not be anything there that offends or challenges you.

798
00:50:31.000 --> 00:50:34.840
It depends on how much kingdom you've drank, because I will tell you that once you start

799
00:50:34.840 --> 00:50:40.400
drinking the kingdom, you will never be satisfied going back and sitting in religion.

800
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:44.920
You will be super offended by religion all the time, because once again, offense can

801
00:50:44.920 --> 00:50:45.920
be an upgrade.

802
00:50:45.920 --> 00:50:54.680
It can really be an upgrade for you, but if you haven't partaken of the kingdom and you're

803
00:50:54.680 --> 00:50:57.760
allowing kingdom ideas to offend you, to offend what?

804
00:50:57.760 --> 00:51:04.640
To offend your poverty mentality, your orphan mentality, to offend your religious consciousness.

805
00:51:04.640 --> 00:51:06.800
I mean, grace is scandalous, you guys.

806
00:51:06.800 --> 00:51:08.000
Grace offends people.

807
00:51:08.000 --> 00:51:12.720
When you tell people that Jesus died for them and as them, and the only thing that they're

808
00:51:12.720 --> 00:51:18.360
ever going to do to participate in their salvation is believe, people get offended by that.

809
00:51:18.360 --> 00:51:20.480
No, no, no, no.

810
00:51:20.480 --> 00:51:27.440
They're fighting for their right to have to work this like a job.

811
00:51:27.440 --> 00:51:33.920
They're fighting for it.

812
00:51:33.920 --> 00:51:40.880
They're fighting to live under the law.

813
00:51:40.880 --> 00:51:44.840
So I want you to think right now about what offends you, what easily offends you.

814
00:51:44.840 --> 00:51:49.600
Where do you get offended most in life?

815
00:51:49.600 --> 00:51:50.600
And I want you to put it in the chat.

816
00:51:50.600 --> 00:51:55.840
I'm going to practice some James 5 16, and you guys come to, I think, I think we might

817
00:51:55.840 --> 00:52:02.280
have prophetic night, all community prophetic night this Sunday, but we will, we'll, we

818
00:52:02.280 --> 00:52:08.000
will dig more into this because God wants to free us from the blockage of offense, offense.

819
00:52:08.000 --> 00:52:10.440
When it comes, it can upgrade you guys.

820
00:52:10.440 --> 00:52:11.440
You want it to come.

821
00:52:11.440 --> 00:52:15.000
You don't want to be offended because that is pointing to an unhealed part of your heart.

822
00:52:15.000 --> 00:52:19.560
And if you do the hard work in that moment, you allow Holy Spirit into that instead of,

823
00:52:19.560 --> 00:52:23.360
you know, grabbing ahold of that offense and letting it grow into resentment and bitterness,

824
00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:24.960
you start to deal with it.

825
00:52:24.960 --> 00:52:31.920
You start to deal with why that thing is bothering you, why that person is bothering you.

826
00:52:31.920 --> 00:52:40.400
You get upgraded, you get an upgrade, you get promoted, but if you allow it to fester

827
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:47.440
and you nurture it and you coddle it because it feels good to be mad, then that's when

828
00:52:47.440 --> 00:52:49.920
that can start turning into some crazy stuff.

829
00:52:49.920 --> 00:52:52.480
Okay, let's see it.

830
00:52:52.480 --> 00:52:53.480
See what offends you.

831
00:52:53.480 --> 00:52:54.720
Come on, get them up.

832
00:52:54.720 --> 00:52:56.760
Be honest.

833
00:52:56.760 --> 00:53:10.200
I can't make you be honest, but if you want to be free, you got to be honest.

834
00:53:10.200 --> 00:53:14.080
I'm just going to grab this one right here because it sounds so righteous and it sounds

835
00:53:14.080 --> 00:53:15.080
so noble.

836
00:53:15.080 --> 00:53:18.800
I get offended when people do wrong to others.

837
00:53:18.800 --> 00:53:20.720
Yeah.

838
00:53:20.720 --> 00:53:22.360
But you know what?

839
00:53:22.360 --> 00:53:23.760
We can't control other people.

840
00:53:23.760 --> 00:53:26.140
We can't control what people do.

841
00:53:26.140 --> 00:53:30.680
And so instead of being offended by the wrong that people do, let's be the right thing in

842
00:53:30.680 --> 00:53:31.680
the earth.

843
00:53:31.680 --> 00:53:35.600
Let's be the people that do right by others in the earth.

844
00:53:35.600 --> 00:53:43.440
The only way that we can counteract evil in the earth is when we do good, right?

845
00:53:43.440 --> 00:53:49.960
We're not going to sit around and worry about what all the evil people are doing.

846
00:53:49.960 --> 00:53:52.400
I just recently heard someone talking about that.

847
00:53:52.400 --> 00:53:55.960
They were so mad because they're like, God, look at these people over here doing that.

848
00:53:55.960 --> 00:53:58.480
You know, why are they getting away with that?

849
00:53:58.480 --> 00:54:02.720
And I'm over here and, you know, you're not letting me get away with anything.

850
00:54:02.720 --> 00:54:07.040
And he said to them, those aren't my kids.

851
00:54:07.040 --> 00:54:08.040
Those children.

852
00:54:08.040 --> 00:54:09.040
Oh, hear this.

853
00:54:09.040 --> 00:54:11.560
Those children have a different father.

854
00:54:11.560 --> 00:54:16.760
Oh, oh my goodness.

855
00:54:16.760 --> 00:54:21.000
Oh my goodness.

856
00:54:21.000 --> 00:54:26.480
Oh my goodness.

857
00:54:26.480 --> 00:54:31.440
The same that follow after the spirit of God, they will be called the sons of God.

858
00:54:31.440 --> 00:54:33.400
Not everyone's God's kids, y'all.

859
00:54:33.400 --> 00:54:35.960
I know we think, oh, all of humanity, God's children.

860
00:54:35.960 --> 00:54:37.720
That's not true.

861
00:54:37.720 --> 00:54:38.720
That's not biblical.

862
00:54:38.720 --> 00:54:39.720
God's creation.

863
00:54:39.720 --> 00:54:40.720
Yes.

864
00:54:40.720 --> 00:54:41.720
God's children.

865
00:54:41.720 --> 00:54:45.040
No, because God's children.

866
00:54:45.040 --> 00:54:49.240
It's a byproduct of the reconciliation process of the finished work of the cross.

867
00:54:49.240 --> 00:54:54.480
Jesus came to reconcile us back to the family, back to our heritage and our inheritance as

868
00:54:54.480 --> 00:54:56.400
God's kids.

869
00:54:56.400 --> 00:54:58.960
If you don't partake of that, you're not God's kid.

870
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:16.440
I really want to encourage you guys to look at what you've put in the chat and really

871
00:55:16.440 --> 00:55:26.160
invite Holy Spirit into those places that have been offending you and ask yourself why.

872
00:55:26.160 --> 00:55:28.320
Why does this offend me?

873
00:55:28.320 --> 00:55:32.920
Why do the actions of other people offend me?

874
00:55:32.920 --> 00:55:38.240
Why does it offend me when this specific thing happens, but I don't get offended by this

875
00:55:38.240 --> 00:55:45.760
other stuff, but I do get offended by this, this one thing.

876
00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:50.720
I heard a woman talk about how she sat down with a friend, with a group of friends, and

877
00:55:50.720 --> 00:55:54.760
they were about to eat, like they met each other at a restaurant, they sat down and the

878
00:55:54.760 --> 00:56:00.320
food came and the one friend sitting across from her like ate her food really quickly.

879
00:56:00.320 --> 00:56:03.600
And this woman was like, oh my gosh, she's like, you must have been really hungry.

880
00:56:03.600 --> 00:56:05.240
Like she didn't mean anything by it.

881
00:56:05.240 --> 00:56:09.560
She wasn't saying, oh, you're a glutton or oh, you're a fatty patty.

882
00:56:09.560 --> 00:56:10.560
She wasn't saying anything.

883
00:56:10.560 --> 00:56:13.120
She was just saying, wow, you must have really been hungry.

884
00:56:13.120 --> 00:56:16.120
It was just like a observation.

885
00:56:16.120 --> 00:56:20.000
But she noticed at the end of the dinner that first of all, that woman got really quiet,

886
00:56:20.000 --> 00:56:24.680
was talking less and at the end of the dinner that there was a little bit of food left on

887
00:56:24.680 --> 00:56:29.880
that woman's plate that she hadn't eaten and she had it boxed and she took it home.

888
00:56:29.880 --> 00:56:34.600
She found out later that that woman didn't finish her dinner because of that comment

889
00:56:34.600 --> 00:56:37.120
that she made, which once again had no guile in it.

890
00:56:37.120 --> 00:56:39.880
It had no guile in it.

891
00:56:39.880 --> 00:56:46.400
You guys, I need you guys to understand that that woman who was finishing her food quickly,

892
00:56:46.400 --> 00:56:51.440
he brought that virus to the table.

893
00:56:51.440 --> 00:56:54.280
He brought that offense inside of herself.

894
00:56:54.280 --> 00:56:58.400
Somewhere inside of herself, he has some kind of shame around food or he has some kind

895
00:56:58.400 --> 00:57:04.080
of shame around eating or, you know, her weight or her body, something.

896
00:57:04.080 --> 00:57:10.040
That woman triggered her by that observation that she must have been really hungry.

897
00:57:10.040 --> 00:57:15.920
Do you see how easy it is?

898
00:57:15.920 --> 00:57:20.480
Remember, we don't hear things the way they are being said.

899
00:57:20.480 --> 00:57:29.680
We hear things the way that we are inside.

900
00:57:29.680 --> 00:57:36.520
If you want to truly be unfiltered, you have to do your heart work.

901
00:57:36.520 --> 00:57:39.720
A lot of people getting upset at themselves, some of you admitting that you get offended

902
00:57:39.720 --> 00:57:50.680
at God, all kinds of things.

903
00:57:50.680 --> 00:57:53.640
I want you to dig into these things.

904
00:57:53.640 --> 00:57:55.560
I want you to invite Holy Spirit into these places.

905
00:57:55.560 --> 00:57:58.200
In fact, let's do it as a community.

906
00:57:58.200 --> 00:58:05.920
Father, great is the peace of those that love your word, which is Jesus, and nothing will

907
00:58:05.920 --> 00:58:08.240
offend us.

908
00:58:08.240 --> 00:58:09.240
Nothing will offend us.

909
00:58:09.760 --> 00:58:16.640
We know that you sent your son not to unify, but to divide, to be a stumbling block, to

910
00:58:16.640 --> 00:58:24.240
offend in some ways, but only for the purpose of upgrade, only for the purpose of promotion,

911
00:58:24.240 --> 00:58:28.480
only for the purpose of us evolving into the better versions of ourselves, the kingdom

912
00:58:28.480 --> 00:58:30.440
versions of ourselves.

913
00:58:30.440 --> 00:58:36.040
And so, Lord, we thank you for the gift of offense when it comes to upgrade us, to promote

914
00:58:36.040 --> 00:58:37.920
us.

915
00:58:37.920 --> 00:58:41.200
Help us to take a deeper look.

916
00:58:41.200 --> 00:58:46.760
Help us to be aware, spiritually aware when we're offended that we need to invite you

917
00:58:46.760 --> 00:58:50.440
in and take a deeper look at what is the root of that offense.

918
00:58:50.440 --> 00:58:51.560
Why does it bother us?

919
00:58:51.560 --> 00:58:53.560
Where is it coming from?

920
00:58:53.560 --> 00:58:59.040
And if it's righteous, help us to come to you in intercession, partnering with heaven

921
00:58:59.040 --> 00:59:01.520
in prayer for transformation.

922
00:59:01.520 --> 00:59:06.660
And if it's unrighteous, if it's born out of jealousy or resentment, envy, if it's born

923
00:59:06.700 --> 00:59:12.340
out of old past traumas that are full of bitterness and unforgiveness, then let us, help us, grace

924
00:59:12.340 --> 00:59:17.460
us to release those things to you that we might be healed, that our heart lens might

925
00:59:17.460 --> 00:59:22.660
be cleaned, that we could see clearly and that we could love better.

926
00:59:22.660 --> 00:59:27.740
Lord, we thank you, God, that we are going to be a people that are not offended, a people

927
00:59:27.740 --> 00:59:33.340
that live in peace and bring peace wherever we go, a people after your heart and that

928
00:59:33.340 --> 00:59:37.780
represent you well on the earth and a people that live abundantly and prosperously because

929
00:59:37.780 --> 00:59:40.740
we're not stuck.

930
00:59:40.740 --> 00:59:47.980
We're able to go forward because we trust you and we're living life according to your

931
00:59:47.980 --> 00:59:50.460
realities and your perceptions and not our own.

932
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In Jesus' name, let it be so.

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Amen.

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I love you guys.

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Have an amazing day and we'll see you soon.