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Good morning, everybody, and welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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I am so excited about today.

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I think we're going to talk about a subject that is really going to help so many of you.

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But before we get started, I want to do a little housekeeping because we have so many

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new friends, new community members.

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And so if you're new here, this is going to be the session that we have every week that

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we are leaning into.

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What is the current prophetic reality?

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What is heaven saying?

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What is heaven doing?

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You know, we have our reality and then there's God's reality.

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And we want to live according to God's reality, not our own.

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Our reality sometimes is good and sometimes it's not, but God's reality is always good

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all the time.

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It's always working for you.

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Okay.

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God is for you.

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Life is for you.

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Yes, we have adversity in this life.

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Jesus promised us that we would, but he said that we should be of good cheer because he

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has overcome this life.

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He has overcome the world.

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So regardless of whether we have adversity or persecution here, we already know that

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we have an advocate in Christ, that we have a finished work of the cross where he died

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for us and as us, and we can step into the abundance of that life, John 10 10.

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And so that is what this call is all about.

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It's a reminder of that.

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And a lot of times it's instructional.

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God is giving us instructions.

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He's giving us the cheat codes, okay, so that we can go forward faster.

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And so that's why I love this call so much.

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The other thing is, is that obviously at zoom, please pay attention to your camera.

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If you're naked in the morning, don't have your camera on.

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All right.

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And also if you're doing something active, like working out in the morning, don't have

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your camera on.

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It's really distracting for other people.

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Okay.

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Make sure that you're muted when you come in so that we can get started quickly.

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All right.

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Father God, we're so thankful for your goodness to us.

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We're thankful that you have a reality for us, a plan for us, purposes for us that are

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good, that are always good all the time.

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They're never negative.

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You're not sending negative tests to us.

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You're not, you're not putting negative things on us like sickness or hurt or pain.

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This life has that.

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It's already here in this cursed world, but you are showing us the ways of escape.

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You are showing us with every temptation, the ways of escape.

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You are showing us the upgrades so that we can live an abundant life.

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So we can live a heaven on earth.

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And so Lord, we thank you, God, that you have called us to show this world what it looks

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like to be a son and daughter of God.

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And so we pray this morning that you would give us a new upgrade, a new mindset, new

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mind skins so you can pour new wine into it.

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In Jesus name.

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Amen.

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All right.

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Today, you guys, we're going to talk about something.

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All of you are in this community in one way, shape or form because you want romantic love

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and romantic love is great.

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And I believe that all God ever wanted was a family and family starts with romantic love.

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Doesn't it?

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Someone had a romance that turned into your family.

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So marriage is the cornerstone of family and then family is the cornerstone of society.

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So obviously marriage is so important and marriage is part of that eros love dynamic

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where we come together, there's romantic love, there's sexual desire, physical intimacy.

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And then of course, I think you should marry your best friend.

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So then there's that filial love too.

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There's that brotherly sisterly love.

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I know it sounds crazy to describe a marriage that way because we haven't sex and we don't

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have sex with our brothers and sisters.

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I get that.

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But we should also have that best friendship love, right?

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Jesus describes, you know, we're the bride of Christ.

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We're betrothed to Christ and in eternity, we're going to experience the same type of

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oneness.

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Guys, it's not about being married to Christ, it's about being one with Christ in eternity.

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Think of it that way.

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And the two shall come together and they shall be as one.

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Remember that in Genesis 2, 22, 23, 24.

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That's what we're talking about in eternity.

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And so the oneness of man and woman on earth, all the way from the garden till now, all

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it is is foreshadowing the type of closeness and intimacy that we will have with Jesus

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in eternity.

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Not just some of us, but all of us.

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But we're also going to have that with each other.

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I think it's important that you understand that.

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Eternity is not just about you and Jesus.

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It's about you and Jesus being one and all of us being one together, okay?

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He doesn't have just one.

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He doesn't just have one of us as his bride.

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We're all the bride of Christ.

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And so we're growing in understanding of that.

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But also Jesus describes himself, and this is what I wanted to get to.

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He describes himself in the word as the, or he is described in the word as the friend

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that sticks closer than a brother.

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Right?

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So yes, we're going to have those romantic connections to our spirit mates, but we also

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need to have a friend connection.

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I married my best friend.

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I married someone that I can tell anything to, and he's not going to judge me.

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He's not going to think poorly of me.

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He's going to be understanding.

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He's going to listen.

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He's going to sometimes reply with feedback that is constructive and good, and sometimes

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he's just going to listen to me and let me grieve, let me vent, rant, whatever needs

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to happen, and vice versa.

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We want the best for each other.

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We're always calling each other out in love and calling each other up.

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That's what friends do.

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That's what best friends do, right?

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And so we're going to talk about friendship today because we're not going to talk about

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it in the context of your spirit mate.

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You should definitely be good friends with your spirit mate.

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Be best friends with your spirit mate.

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You want to start any relationship as a really strong friendship where you understand each

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other, where you appreciate each other, where you enjoy each other and want to be around

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each other because if you start a relationship that turns into a marriage where you don't

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really like that person as a friend, but you are attracted to them, they're super mysterious.

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They keep you guessing.

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You're always having Eros kind of love for them as far as, you know, really sexually

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desiring them, but you couldn't do a three-day car trip with them because you don't really

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enjoy their company.

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That's not a good start.

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That's not a good idea, friends.

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Not a good idea.

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Now, we use the word friend really lightly in this day and age, so I want to dig into

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friendship now, and remember, it's not for the purpose of your spirit mate.

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It is for the purpose of, I want to talk about friendship.

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Today's Supernatural Saturday, if we want to give it a title, is Friendship.

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Why you need more than a mate.

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Why you need more than a mate.

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You need a friend.

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You need friends.

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Some of you don't have friends, and some of you call people that are your acquaintances

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friends.

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They're not your friends.

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You know, I'm a pretty friendly person, but I'm just going to tell you, being friendly

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and being a friend are not the same thing.

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And a lot of you are suffering with severe loneliness that you think is going to be solved

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by meeting someone of the opposite sex and falling in love, and I'm just going to tell

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you right now, it's not.

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It might put a band-aid on it, but it absolutely is not going to solve it.

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You're going to end up lonely in your marriage because you need more than just one person.

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I'm going to give you a chance to really think about that for a second.

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You need more than just one person.

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I've been thinking about this for a while because so many of you have no community to

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really speak of.

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Okay, you have no 3 a.m. friends.

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Who can you call at 3 a.m. if everything falls apart, if the proverbial poop hits the fan?

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Who can you call at 3 a.m. and they're not just going to answer, they're going to come?

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They're going to come.

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What kind of friend do you have like that?

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Go ahead and put their name in the chat.

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And I don't want positive mental attitude here of like, I hope this person would do

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that.

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No, you need to know that they would do it.

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And if it's nobody, then put nobody.

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I see some people being honest about nobody.

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I see some people having more than one person.

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Lots of nobody's in the chat.

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And you guys, I'm not talking about family.

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You can be best friends with your cousins.

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That's all right.

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I'm talking about friends.

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Just straight up friends, no family members.

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A lot of times family members feel indebted to each other.

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They feel obligated.

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They feel responsible.

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Those are not the types of motivations that we want in this phone call.

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We want people that you're really truly deeply connected to through friendship.

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Not your kids, Penny.

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I need somebody else.

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I need a grown-up human that is not indebted to you.

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Come on, I want you guys to dig deep.

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Think about it.

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Once again, okay, I'm going to ask another question.

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Thank you for answering that.

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That's your 3 a.m. friend.

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Thank you.

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For those of you that said nobody, thank you.

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For those of you that are thinking really hard and wondering if the name that you put

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on is really truly the person that would show up for you if everything went south,

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thank you because that's what this whole conversation is about.

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It's meant to make you think, okay?

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It's meant to make you think and to come into agreement with what God has for you.

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He has so many good things for you.

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So now I want you to go ahead and put in the chat, going to do a little act of

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today. Go ahead and put in the chat if you, you don't have to feel it all the

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time, but if you struggle with loneliness. Even though you said you got all these

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3 a.m. friends, if you struggle with loneliness, I want to see yes, I want to

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see thumbs up.

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Look at all those yeses. There's just a couple no's, but there's mostly always

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yeses in the chat. Look at that, look at that, look at that, look at that, look at

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that. I'm just going to tell you once again, loneliness is not a problem

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that's going to be solved by marriage. I know people don't like to hear that

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because they think that that's their problem, but your problem is often not

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your problem. Loneliness is not going to be solved by marriage. It isn't. It isn't.

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Okay. Loneliness leads to isolation even in marriage a lot of times. It's

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something that, it's that itch that can't be scratched. Let me tell you what's at

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the root of loneliness. At the root of loneliness is a fear of being seen and

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known. And so the reason why we're lonely even outside of these spirit mate

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relationships is because we're not really into me see. We're not really

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allowing people in. We have people, maybe we have people in our lives, but these

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are not deep, deep relationships. These are not relationships where we feel

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seen, known, and loved. We're afraid of those deeper levels of intimacy with

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people. And I'm talking platonically, friends. I'm not even talking sexually.

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Okay. Others of us are people pleasers. We have friends that really aren't. We

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have a lot of frenemies in our lives. We have people that are in our lives and

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yeah, they're good for a laugh and going out on the town maybe to dinner, whatnot.

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But we don't trust them. We don't trust those people and for good reasons. Those

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people are not completing us. They're competing against us. They're always one

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upping us. We can't have a conversation where we feel known, where someone's

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really caring and listening intently. Having a friend that truly listens, I

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mean truly listens to you and cares about your heart is very rare in today's

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world. People are guarded even if we call people friends. And you know how I know

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that? Let's talk about COVID for a second. When everyone was truly isolated, really

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truly isolated during COVID, especially singles that lived alone, not going out,

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not going over other people's houses, people are afraid of their own shadows,

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on quarantine, on lockdown, all the things. A lot of people saw who their

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true friends were based on political lines that were drawn in the sand. I know

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friends that never spoke to each other ever again after COVID because one was

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pro-vax, one was not. One was this, one was that. Anytime there's any sort of

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turmoil in the earth, we see where our relationships stand. Maybe it's a turmoil

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in your life where someone doesn't agree with the decision that you make. Maybe

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it's a divorce. You thought you had a bunch of good friends but then all of a

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sudden, you know, they picked sides and they didn't pick yours. You thought you

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were best friends. Possibly a little geography got in the way of that best

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friendship that you had. You had to move for work or for some other reason and

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the person that you thought was going to be your ride-or-die for the rest of your

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life now barely returns your phone calls.

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Come on friends, I've been there. I've done that. And what happens with every

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disappointment throughout life with friendships, and a lot of your

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friendships are truly transactional. If you do this for me, I will do this for

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you. It's unspoken. It's unconscious. But that's what it is. And if either one of

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you ever breaks that contract by not being available, not doing the thing that

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that person needs you to do, then they don't have any use for you anymore. That

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friendship is now over with. A lot of you givers have transactional friendships

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with takers. I had a lot of that. I thought I had lots of friends. I was so

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popular, surrounded by friends. But what I understood eventually is that all these

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friendships were based on the fact that I was giving this person something that

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they needed. And that if I ever stopped giving that to them, that they really

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truly would have no use for me anymore. In other words, I was being used. But I

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was signing up for that willingly, because I wanted to have friends. So deep

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down inside, I must have thought that I wasn't worthy of friendship, unless the

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friendship was transactional or was based on something that I was doing for

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them, right? People-pleasing. Toxic-helping.

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And it's a beautiful thing when you stop and you withdraw whatever

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it is that you're doing and usually it's out of balance already.

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And then that person still ends up being your friend eventually, like they actually truly

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did like you for you and although they were kind of miffed that you stopped doing whatever

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it was you were doing for them, whether it was watching their kids, whether it was letting

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them call you at midnight three days out of the week and complain about their husband

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or their marriage or their boyfriend or their girlfriend or whatever it was that you were

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doing to try to hold them together and help them in areas, whether it was loaning them

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money or loaning them a car or giving them a ride to work or whatever it was.

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And you stopped doing it.

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And then after they got over the shock of that, they actually still were your friend.

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And that doesn't very, that doesn't happen very regularly, but it does sometimes happen.

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So I want you guys to think about what I'm talking about right now.

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The Holy Spirit really wants to help you because he doesn't want you to be isolated

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because you've been created for relationship and not just romance.

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You've been created for community, not just romance.

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I know your heart thinks that it's looking for a mate, but it's really looking for a tribe.

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It is.

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We're very tribal people.

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That's why you love this community so much.

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We are a tribe here.

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Some of us know each other better than others.

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Some of us came in together.

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We were already friends that shared this experience and shared this opportunity with each other.

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Others of us have gotten together in real life and spent time together.

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Some of you live in proximity to each other and you've made it a point to gather together

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and really do life together.

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And that is the whole purpose of this community.

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I believe in community-based matchmaking.

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We cannot community-based match unless we start to get to know each other better.

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And so, prayerfully, this Supernatural Saturday will be a catalyst for that because I really

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want that for all of you and for myself.

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All right?

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Okay.

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So, I'm going to make this the summer, instead of for the public, you guys, in my next challenge,

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I'm going to make it the summer of love.

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But for all of you, I'm going to make it the summer of friendship.

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I am dubbing this summer that just started last week, the summer of friendship.

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Woo!

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Don't get too excited.

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Don't get too excited.

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Remember, you should definitely be friends with the person that you end up marrying.

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So, it doesn't mean that your love story might not get kicked off this summer.

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It just means that we need more relationships.

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I often say this during Simbis when I teach it, that strong marriages, good marriages

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happen in strong and good community.

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If you decide to marry someone and you both don't have strong friends around you that

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are really going to help you and support you and pray for you, fan the flames of your dreams,

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call you up, call you out sometimes, then that marriage probably is going to struggle

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and maybe not even make it.

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Isolated marriages, think of it this way.

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Think of two gazelles, beautiful, lean, strong gazelles separating themselves from the herd.

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Just over here by themselves on the fringe of the herd and then eventually pretty far

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away from the herd.

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They're going to get picked off, aren't they?

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It can't just be you and him or you and her against the world.

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No, friends, that doesn't work.

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And I know that that's like a saying, me and you against the world.

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Yeah, the odds are against you and you're going to fail.

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It wasn't created that way.

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Yes, one can put to flight a thousand, two can put to flight 10,000.

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The problem is that sometimes there's more than 10,000 against you.

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You need reinforcements.

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You need friends that you can call and not gossip about your mate too and tell them,

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you know, all kinds of bad things about them.

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So now they're holding a grudge and they have offense too.

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No, no.

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No, that's not what I'm talking about.

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You need people that are going to really support you and love you and see you and help you

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and vice versa.

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Real true friendship, write this down, is reciprocal.

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It's not transactional.

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We all have associates.

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We all have people that we're doing something for.

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You guys have probably heard me say this before, but friendships, deeper connections than just

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some random person in community.

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When you have a deeper connection, let's call it a friendship.

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They're for reasons.

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Sometimes they're for seasons and sometimes they're also for treasons, reasons, seasons

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and treasons or betrayals.

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That will definitely happen.

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All right, so you guys already told me who your 3 a.m. friend was.

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So let's talk about why we need friendship and why it's not optional.

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You guys, it's not optional.

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Some of you are like, okay, well, Jackie, yes.

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Hold on a second, you guys.

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Someone has hijacked my screen.

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I don't know what's going on here.

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What in the world was that?

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It was a whiteboard.

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I thought you were going to do a display.

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I'm just going to tell you right now.

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I did not put that whiteboard up.

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I think my cohost, David Dorman, who's not being a good friend

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right now, put that whiteboard up.

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Okay.

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The whiteboard is down.

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You guys, please don't give your phone numbers out in the chat of this.

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Okay.

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There's 257 people here.

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Let's be wise.

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Okay.

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So if you want to connect with someone, connect with them in your, in your groups.

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All right.

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Why we need friendship and why it's not optional.

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Okay.

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Let's go biblical foundation.

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I got some scriptures here, Genesis 2, 18.

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And of course we know that this is about man and woman coming together.

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It is not good for man to be alone.

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Hey, solitary is the word there for alone.

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That is the original word.

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And so this wasn't just about marriage.

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Of course, marriage was what God solved this problem with, but there

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was, there wasn't going to just be two of them.

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You know that, right?

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The plan was to, for them to, you know, um, come together and

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steward creation and be fruitful and multiply, there was going to be a

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multiplication, but what God was saying that day with the holy heavenly family,

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father, son, and Holy spirit were saying that day was that Adam

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needed human connection, right?

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He did to be in relationship with his own kind.

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He already had lots of animal friends and a lot of you have animal friends.

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And you know what?

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Animals are amazing.

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And God made them for our pleasure.

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He did, unfortunately, because of the curse.

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Now they're part of our food supply, but originally they were for our pleasure.

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That's what they were for.

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And I believe that they were quite different in the garden.

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A lot of you are going to be really, really happy to see what

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animals are like in heaven.

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You are, you're going to be really excited to see what they're like,

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because you love animals and God gave you that love for animals.

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But some of you are using your love for animals as a reason to isolate from

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humans, some of you have way better relationships with animals than you do

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with humans.

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In fact, some of you even have t-shirts that say that I like my dog better than

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you.

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All right.

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Or some other kind of goofy saying that talks about how you like animals better

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than people.

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And you know why?

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Because the animals are safe.

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Aren't they?

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They always love you.

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They love you unconditionally, except maybe cats.

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I don't know.

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Cats are always plotting your death, but dogs and other happy animals, they love

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us.

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A lot of times God will assign for angels.

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And I'm just kidding about cats for all you cat lovers.

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Don't get your, don't get your panties in a wad and do not email us.

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All right.

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I do not dislike cats.

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I don't.

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I have never had a strong emotional connection to a cat.

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But yes, cats are assigned as well to people.

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I believe that God brings for angels into our lives and oftentimes they're with us

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through hard seasons, through building seasons, all different types of things.

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The problem is, is that if you become codependent with your animal, please hear

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me because I'm not joking now, if you become soulmates with your animal, then

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what it's doing is, is it's filling, it's putting a Band-Aid on, or it's, you

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know, very poorly filling a need that you have.

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And that is for human connection.

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I want you to remember that when Adam was in the garden, he was already with all

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the animals.

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In fact, he had already prophesied over all of them with names and all the

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things.

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And God still said that he needed humans.

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Some of you guys got soul ties to animals.

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You guys, the animals have souls.

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They don't have spirits.

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You know that, right?

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Stop getting soul tied to animals.

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Yes, we know that you love it and it's good.

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And the way that you treat your animals, the Bible says the way that you treat

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your animals shows what kind of person that you are.

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And so I think that all of that's important.

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And so I'm not downplaying, you know, this part of your life, but I am saying

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that if you are using that as a crutch so that you don't have to let people come

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into your life, because you know what animals are not going to do?

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They're not going to call you out and call you up.

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They're not going to help you become a better version of yourself.

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There's no going to, there's not going to be any ironing, sharpening iron in a

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relationship with an

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animal. They're there and they're going to comfort you and they're going to

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appease. They're not going to fulfill your loneliness.

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They're just going to appease it. And sometimes that's just the medicating.

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That's the medicating and it's keeping you stuck.

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And your dog or cat's not going to be happy to hear me say this,

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but you need to spend less time with them. I mean, in a healthy way,

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don't abandon them, but you got to get out with people more. Okay.

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So Genesis two 18 Ecclesiastes four, nine, and 10,

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two are better than one. If either of them falls,

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one can help the other up because that's about friendship, not marriage. Yes.

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It could be applied to marriage, but it's about friendship.

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Why do you think Jesus sent them out two by two?

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It wasn't just so, you know, one could put to flight a thousand to 10,000.

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It wasn't just about spiritual authority. It was about companionship.

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It was about friendship. It was about, Hey, when one of us is blind,

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the other one can see

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when one of us is weak, the other can be strong. We need each other.

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Let's look at Jesus's life really quickly. Was he walking alone? I mean,

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he was on assignment. He didn't have to have anybody else with him, but he did.

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He had 12 with him and one of them was a betrayer. Remember reasons, seasons,

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treasons,

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but then he added that whole circle of disciples.

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He had an inner circle. Didn't he had Peter, James, and John.

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He had a crew. He had people that he was more intimately involved with.

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He had people that he shared even deeper things with,

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even though he had 12 associates,

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he called them all friends. He even called Judas a friend,

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but John was the one that he had an intimate bosom relationship with.

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Didn't he? Can you imagine being John,

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being the disciple that Jesus loves?

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Wow. That must've been amazing.

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Although the rest of John's life didn't look too amazing after Jesus left.

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So I'm definitely not going to envy him, but at the same time, friends,

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you know, Jesus was modeling something for us.

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Jesus's entire life on earth was modeling something for us in certain ways,

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in certain ways. Okay. He had a more Polly and Pauline calling where,

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you know, he wasn't going to get married. He wasn't going to have a family.

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He wasn't going to be here long enough for any of that.

475
00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:38.600
And he didn't need that because of the other things that he had that were part

476
00:27:38.600 --> 00:27:42.040
of the maturity plan that God puts us all through.

477
00:27:43.040 --> 00:27:46.440
So right now God is breaking the lie. Close your eyes.

478
00:27:47.200 --> 00:27:52.200
God is breaking the lie that your spirit mate will meet all of your needs.

479
00:27:52.360 --> 00:27:53.920
Right now. He's trying to break that off of you.

480
00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:56.320
Cause some of you are just holding out for that. Like, Oh,

481
00:27:56.320 --> 00:27:58.800
I'm not going to be lonely anymore. All my needs are going to be met.

482
00:27:59.120 --> 00:28:00.240
When I meet this other person,

483
00:28:00.240 --> 00:28:02.320
that's way too much pressure to put on one person.

484
00:28:02.840 --> 00:28:04.840
You're not created to just need one person.

485
00:28:05.240 --> 00:28:08.240
God is breaking that lie off of you right now that your,

486
00:28:08.360 --> 00:28:10.720
that your spirit mate is going to meet all your needs.

487
00:28:10.840 --> 00:28:13.360
Jesus met all of your needs at the finished work of the cross.

488
00:28:15.120 --> 00:28:18.040
Your spirit mate is not your savior. You already have one.

489
00:28:18.040 --> 00:28:21.000
His name is Jesus. And at the finished work of the cross,

490
00:28:21.000 --> 00:28:25.240
not only did he meet all of your needs and all the needs you will ever have,

491
00:28:25.720 --> 00:28:27.640
but remember God is source,

492
00:28:27.640 --> 00:28:32.360
but he's the head of the human resource department and the way that those needs

493
00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:34.280
get met, the way that the,

494
00:28:34.560 --> 00:28:38.800
the answers get manifested is through people and not through God.

495
00:28:38.800 --> 00:28:43.240
So you were designed to be deeply connected to more than one person,

496
00:28:43.240 --> 00:28:45.080
to a community, not just a companion.

497
00:28:45.280 --> 00:28:47.440
And so we break this lie off of you in Jesus name.

498
00:28:47.960 --> 00:28:50.920
Woo. Come on, come on.

499
00:28:52.520 --> 00:28:53.800
Some of y'all got to get free today.

500
00:28:53.800 --> 00:28:57.240
You're going to start opening yourselves up for new relationships. And who knows,

501
00:28:57.480 --> 00:28:59.800
these new friendships actually might lead to your spirit mate.

502
00:29:01.480 --> 00:29:04.360
All right. Let's talk about, let's talk about categories of friendships.

503
00:29:04.360 --> 00:29:05.680
I have some notes written down here.

504
00:29:05.680 --> 00:29:08.120
I already told you seasons, reasons, and treasons.

505
00:29:08.320 --> 00:29:11.440
So let's talk about those for a second. Seasonal friends.

506
00:29:12.440 --> 00:29:13.880
They're here for a short time, you guys,

507
00:29:13.880 --> 00:29:16.960
because they're here for a specific purpose. All right.

508
00:29:16.960 --> 00:29:21.960
Let's do an example. Example of a seasonal friend in the comments,

509
00:29:22.440 --> 00:29:25.000
someone that you, maybe you worked with them.

510
00:29:26.760 --> 00:29:29.560
Perhaps that like I have a seasonal friend, let's say I'm a,

511
00:29:29.560 --> 00:29:31.880
I'm a friend of a friend. I'm a seasonal friend.

512
00:29:31.920 --> 00:29:34.160
Perhaps that like, I have a seasonal friend. Let me tell you a story.

513
00:29:34.440 --> 00:29:37.480
When I worked at, when I worked at a daycare, when I was in college,

514
00:29:37.480 --> 00:29:39.440
I worked at a daycare. I was married to my first husband.

515
00:29:39.440 --> 00:29:44.440
I found out I was pregnant and I didn't have any pregnant friends to go through

516
00:29:44.440 --> 00:29:45.280
this pregnancy with.

517
00:29:45.840 --> 00:29:49.600
But one of the guys that I worked with at the daycare had a girlfriend and I

518
00:29:49.600 --> 00:29:52.880
found out she was pregnant. So I started saying, Hey,

519
00:29:52.880 --> 00:29:56.240
I want to meet your girlfriend. You know, I'm pregnant too. And we became,

520
00:29:56.360 --> 00:29:58.200
we became seasonal friends.

521
00:29:58.200 --> 00:29:59.920
We became seasonal friends.

522
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.000
We were seasonal friends throughout that pregnancy.

523
00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:05.880
You know, we're still Facebook friends.

524
00:30:05.880 --> 00:30:06.720
We're not close.

525
00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:08.680
We haven't seen each other in many, many years.

526
00:30:08.680 --> 00:30:11.240
That baby that she had, that I had a baby

527
00:30:11.240 --> 00:30:12.680
and she had a little baby,

528
00:30:12.680 --> 00:30:15.360
she invited me to his high school graduation.

529
00:30:15.360 --> 00:30:17.900
That was the last time that I ever saw her.

530
00:30:17.900 --> 00:30:20.560
We didn't grow, our children didn't grow up together.

531
00:30:20.560 --> 00:30:23.940
We basically just very shortly after we both gave birth,

532
00:30:23.940 --> 00:30:25.600
we sort of lost touch.

533
00:30:25.600 --> 00:30:28.440
But we were good friends during our pregnancies.

534
00:30:28.440 --> 00:30:29.440
See what I'm saying?

535
00:30:30.840 --> 00:30:32.080
We were there for each other.

536
00:30:32.080 --> 00:30:34.840
We were companions during our pregnancies.

537
00:30:37.400 --> 00:30:38.640
It's really important, you guys,

538
00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:40.760
that you don't try to make a seasonal friend permanent

539
00:30:40.760 --> 00:30:42.960
because we're gonna get really disappointed.

540
00:30:45.760 --> 00:30:47.420
Right, look, look, look, come on.

541
00:30:47.420 --> 00:30:49.760
Think of a seasonal friend that you had.

542
00:30:49.760 --> 00:30:51.220
And I want you to be honest with yourself.

543
00:30:51.220 --> 00:30:53.240
Am I mad at my seasonal friend

544
00:30:54.100 --> 00:30:56.200
because they're not still here?

545
00:30:57.240 --> 00:30:59.920
Did I want to try to make that friendship permanent?

546
00:31:00.740 --> 00:31:04.000
Was I trying to hold on to something that had expired,

547
00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:05.360
that friendship had expired?

548
00:31:05.360 --> 00:31:06.540
It was for a season.

549
00:31:08.400 --> 00:31:10.800
Maybe you guys were in college together and you,

550
00:31:11.960 --> 00:31:13.700
you know, when college was over,

551
00:31:13.700 --> 00:31:14.800
you went your separate ways

552
00:31:14.800 --> 00:31:17.560
and you lived very different lives and there's just no,

553
00:31:18.800 --> 00:31:20.840
there's nothing there anymore.

554
00:31:20.840 --> 00:31:23.140
Maybe they were your childhood friend.

555
00:31:23.140 --> 00:31:25.240
They were seasonal in your childhood.

556
00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:28.240
I want you to be honest if you have, you know,

557
00:31:28.240 --> 00:31:30.200
if you've had a grudge or offense against them

558
00:31:30.200 --> 00:31:32.960
because you expected more out of them

559
00:31:32.960 --> 00:31:34.000
than they could give you

560
00:31:34.000 --> 00:31:36.680
because they weren't assigned to your life

561
00:31:36.680 --> 00:31:38.080
to be a lifelong friend.

562
00:31:39.560 --> 00:31:41.120
Guys, this is about assignment.

563
00:31:44.640 --> 00:31:47.600
The Bible says, how can two walk together unless they agree?

564
00:31:49.680 --> 00:31:51.600
Guys, we can't walk with everybody

565
00:31:51.600 --> 00:31:53.000
until the end of the road.

566
00:31:53.360 --> 00:31:55.600
I don't want you to become a transactional friend

567
00:31:55.600 --> 00:31:59.280
that just uses people for a season and throws them away.

568
00:31:59.280 --> 00:32:01.160
But there will be signs of whether or not

569
00:32:01.160 --> 00:32:03.040
this is just a seasonal friendship

570
00:32:03.040 --> 00:32:05.040
or whether it's a permanent friendship.

571
00:32:06.040 --> 00:32:07.760
Okay, so seasonal friends.

572
00:32:07.760 --> 00:32:09.760
Reasoned friends or reasonable friends.

573
00:32:09.760 --> 00:32:11.160
I just want to make it rhyme.

574
00:32:11.160 --> 00:32:15.080
Reasoned friends, friends that are there for a reason.

575
00:32:15.080 --> 00:32:16.680
Okay, they show up for a reason,

576
00:32:16.680 --> 00:32:18.680
but they're not there for a reason.

577
00:32:18.680 --> 00:32:20.480
They're not there for a reason.

578
00:32:21.360 --> 00:32:22.960
Okay, they show up for a reason.

579
00:32:22.960 --> 00:32:26.400
Business, healing, growth, transition.

580
00:32:26.400 --> 00:32:29.080
There's a good reason why you know them.

581
00:32:33.360 --> 00:32:36.080
But it's possible that they're not going to turn

582
00:32:36.080 --> 00:32:37.400
into a lifelong friend.

583
00:32:41.480 --> 00:32:43.880
For example, Jonathan and David.

584
00:32:45.760 --> 00:32:47.720
Okay, they were friends for a reason.

585
00:32:47.760 --> 00:32:50.880
If you didn't pick up in the story on what the reason was,

586
00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:52.960
Jonathan gave favor to David

587
00:32:52.960 --> 00:32:54.760
that helped him become the king.

588
00:32:58.120 --> 00:32:59.800
Jonathan was the king's son.

589
00:33:01.160 --> 00:33:05.280
So the favor that he had for David came from the Lord.

590
00:33:05.280 --> 00:33:06.680
Even though his dad didn't have

591
00:33:06.680 --> 00:33:10.120
that type of relationship with David, Jonathan did.

592
00:33:11.240 --> 00:33:13.160
That relationship was for a reason.

593
00:33:14.280 --> 00:33:17.200
He was lending David his favor

594
00:33:17.200 --> 00:33:19.360
because God had anointed David to be king.

595
00:33:23.600 --> 00:33:25.160
There was a strengthening that happened

596
00:33:25.160 --> 00:33:28.040
through Jonathan to David.

597
00:33:29.960 --> 00:33:31.640
So you guys, these friends,

598
00:33:31.640 --> 00:33:34.200
they may only be friends that walk with you

599
00:33:34.200 --> 00:33:36.760
during a specific season of your life,

600
00:33:36.760 --> 00:33:38.200
during the start of a business,

601
00:33:38.200 --> 00:33:41.000
during a healing that you might be going through.

602
00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:45.840
They could be someone who introduces you to other friends.

603
00:33:45.840 --> 00:33:47.440
They could just be someone who's a friend

604
00:33:47.440 --> 00:33:49.480
that is a connector in your life.

605
00:33:49.480 --> 00:33:51.800
That's the reason they're in your life.

606
00:33:51.800 --> 00:33:56.440
You're not meant to be with them

607
00:33:56.440 --> 00:33:58.560
like in deep, deep relationship.

608
00:34:00.760 --> 00:34:04.120
A lot of times this is more of a transactional friend,

609
00:34:04.120 --> 00:34:07.080
but it's a reciprocal transaction, okay?

610
00:34:07.080 --> 00:34:08.040
You're not using them.

611
00:34:08.040 --> 00:34:10.040
They're not using you.

612
00:34:10.040 --> 00:34:11.960
That's an unhealthy form of this.

613
00:34:12.159 --> 00:34:15.000
They've been assigned to you to bring something to you

614
00:34:15.000 --> 00:34:17.719
or vice versa for you to bring something to them.

615
00:34:17.719 --> 00:34:20.760
All right, let's talk about those trees and friends.

616
00:34:20.760 --> 00:34:25.760
These are Judas level connections, you guys, right?

617
00:34:26.000 --> 00:34:27.800
They're in close proximity,

618
00:34:29.400 --> 00:34:32.639
but for the wrong reasons and the wrong motives.

619
00:34:32.639 --> 00:34:33.840
So discernment is key.

620
00:34:33.840 --> 00:34:36.280
And we did the last Supernatural Saturday on discernment.

621
00:34:36.280 --> 00:34:38.639
Go back and listen to it if you didn't listen,

622
00:34:39.360 --> 00:34:40.560
because I don't want you to be shocked

623
00:34:40.560 --> 00:34:44.040
when someone that you've been hanging out with

624
00:34:44.040 --> 00:34:47.480
is the same person who betrays you, because that happens.

625
00:34:48.920 --> 00:34:51.199
And a lot of times we know it's gonna happen

626
00:34:51.199 --> 00:34:55.040
because we have that inkling, we have that gut instinct,

627
00:34:55.040 --> 00:34:56.440
but we ignore it.

628
00:34:56.440 --> 00:34:58.240
We ignore it because they're fucked.

629
00:34:58.240 --> 00:35:00.040
We ignore it because they're fucked.

630
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.680
on or they're funny, we really enjoy them.

631
00:35:00.040 --> 00:35:01.840
We ignore it because they're fucked.

632
00:35:01.840 --> 00:35:03.880
And we ignore it because they're fucked.

633
00:35:02.680 --> 00:35:06.880
We tell ourselves, nah, that's not true, they're great.

634
00:35:03.880 --> 00:35:06.000
And we ignore it because they're fucked.

635
00:35:06.880 --> 00:35:07.860
They love me.

636
00:35:10.640 --> 00:35:11.480
Right?

637
00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:17.440
All right, so I skipped it, so let me go back.

638
00:35:17.440 --> 00:35:20.880
Go ahead and put examples of reason friendships

639
00:35:21.940 --> 00:35:23.120
into the chat.

640
00:35:24.380 --> 00:35:26.840
You can put the reason, you put kind of where you met them,

641
00:35:26.840 --> 00:35:29.560
so work friends, college friend,

642
00:35:29.560 --> 00:35:30.720
you know, you're friends for a reason.

643
00:35:30.720 --> 00:35:33.760
Maybe you were both assigned to the same project at work

644
00:35:33.760 --> 00:35:35.840
and you worked together closely for three months

645
00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:38.240
and you were just great, great friends

646
00:35:38.240 --> 00:35:40.240
during that timeframe, helping each other

647
00:35:40.240 --> 00:35:42.720
to complete that project, but then afterwards,

648
00:35:42.720 --> 00:35:43.840
you just went your separate ways.

649
00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:45.200
You just did your own thing.

650
00:35:51.880 --> 00:35:54.660
Maybe you had a friend when you first moved to a city.

651
00:35:54.660 --> 00:35:56.040
They're the first person that you met

652
00:35:56.080 --> 00:35:57.080
and they showed you around.

653
00:35:57.080 --> 00:35:59.220
Maybe you had a friend when you first came to a school.

654
00:35:59.220 --> 00:36:02.640
I remember in high school, I went to live with my dad

655
00:36:02.640 --> 00:36:05.360
who I'd never met, never really been around in my life

656
00:36:05.360 --> 00:36:08.880
when I was 16 and I moved to his city to go to his school

657
00:36:08.880 --> 00:36:11.600
and when I went to, it was summertime,

658
00:36:11.600 --> 00:36:12.760
so school hadn't started yet,

659
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:15.640
so I went to some volleyball thing.

660
00:36:15.640 --> 00:36:18.220
It was kind of like a volleyball camp thing at the school

661
00:36:18.220 --> 00:36:20.300
to get ready for volleyball season

662
00:36:20.300 --> 00:36:22.400
and I met a girl there, her name was Judith

663
00:36:22.400 --> 00:36:24.520
and she was a foreign exchange student from Spain

664
00:36:24.520 --> 00:36:26.840
and she spoke very little English

665
00:36:26.840 --> 00:36:30.520
and I was a reasoned friend for her.

666
00:36:30.520 --> 00:36:32.960
She had just moved to the U.S.

667
00:36:32.960 --> 00:36:35.480
and she had just moved to this,

668
00:36:35.480 --> 00:36:37.360
her host family lived in this school district

669
00:36:37.360 --> 00:36:38.880
and that's why she was there

670
00:36:38.880 --> 00:36:40.800
and no one else really wanted to bother with her.

671
00:36:40.800 --> 00:36:42.400
This was really inner city school

672
00:36:42.400 --> 00:36:43.920
and people were like, whatever,

673
00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:45.760
to this girl who doesn't even speak English,

674
00:36:45.760 --> 00:36:48.320
but I had a lot of patience with her.

675
00:36:48.320 --> 00:36:51.560
This was before Google Translate, friends,

676
00:36:51.560 --> 00:36:53.200
so I had to kind of just figure out

677
00:36:53.200 --> 00:36:55.200
what the heck this girl was saying

678
00:36:55.200 --> 00:36:57.520
and I was willing to do that

679
00:36:57.520 --> 00:36:58.920
and I didn't know anybody there

680
00:36:58.920 --> 00:37:02.640
and so that was a reasoned friendship.

681
00:37:02.640 --> 00:37:05.000
I did see her later when she was in college

682
00:37:05.000 --> 00:37:07.760
and we were amicable to each other.

683
00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:09.720
We were pleasant and civil to each other,

684
00:37:09.720 --> 00:37:12.440
but there wasn't any desire to rekindle

685
00:37:12.440 --> 00:37:15.900
that 11th grade junior year of high school friendship.

686
00:37:19.600 --> 00:37:22.180
Perfect example, Gwen said renters in her home.

687
00:37:23.280 --> 00:37:24.600
When we first moved to Austin,

688
00:37:24.600 --> 00:37:27.800
we rented two different houses from the same couple.

689
00:37:27.800 --> 00:37:29.860
So we lived in one of their houses

690
00:37:29.860 --> 00:37:31.640
and then after two years or so,

691
00:37:31.640 --> 00:37:33.640
we moved into another one of their houses

692
00:37:33.640 --> 00:37:35.080
and they just happened to be people

693
00:37:35.080 --> 00:37:36.240
that went to our church

694
00:37:36.240 --> 00:37:39.480
and so during the time that we were renting from them,

695
00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:43.980
we were, we hung out and also, I just forgot this,

696
00:37:43.980 --> 00:37:45.920
but she also was a hairdresser then

697
00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:48.520
and she's the person that did my hair,

698
00:37:48.520 --> 00:37:50.980
but then she ended up having two babies,

699
00:37:50.980 --> 00:37:52.760
they ended up hanging out with a lot of people

700
00:37:53.120 --> 00:37:55.280
that had young families, which of course we don't

701
00:37:55.280 --> 00:37:58.120
and she stopped doing hair because she had babies

702
00:37:58.120 --> 00:38:00.940
and so even though I still have fond thoughts of her

703
00:38:00.940 --> 00:38:03.120
and every once in a while, she'll hit me up on Instagram

704
00:38:03.120 --> 00:38:07.960
and say, hi, we don't have like a real friendship.

705
00:38:09.000 --> 00:38:12.260
A lot of you need to think about how you define friendship.

706
00:38:12.260 --> 00:38:14.560
A lot of you have a really low standard for your friends.

707
00:38:14.560 --> 00:38:16.280
You call them your friends,

708
00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:19.340
but you wouldn't be able to call them if you had a need

709
00:38:19.340 --> 00:38:21.440
because they wouldn't be available

710
00:38:21.440 --> 00:38:23.480
and you hardly ever see them.

711
00:38:24.920 --> 00:38:27.720
They hardly ever reach out to you.

712
00:38:27.720 --> 00:38:29.220
You're always reaching out to them.

713
00:38:29.220 --> 00:38:30.560
If anyone's reaching out to anyone,

714
00:38:30.560 --> 00:38:31.960
it's you reaching out to them

715
00:38:33.360 --> 00:38:35.560
and yeah, they'll talk to you if you reach out to them,

716
00:38:35.560 --> 00:38:37.380
but they're not seeking you out.

717
00:38:37.380 --> 00:38:38.640
Yes, that's not a friend.

718
00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:44.240
That's an associate, like we used to say when I was a kid.

719
00:38:45.300 --> 00:38:47.940
That's an associate, that's not a friend.

720
00:38:47.940 --> 00:38:49.380
All right, so trees and friends.

721
00:38:49.420 --> 00:38:50.900
Discernment is key, you guys.

722
00:38:52.260 --> 00:38:53.340
Now, I just wanna let you guys know

723
00:38:53.340 --> 00:38:56.580
that if you have one of these trees and friends

724
00:38:56.580 --> 00:38:58.820
that betrays you, you have to forgive.

725
00:39:00.300 --> 00:39:03.200
But forgiveness does not mean access.

726
00:39:03.200 --> 00:39:04.300
Just because you forgive them

727
00:39:04.300 --> 00:39:06.140
doesn't mean there's gonna be a reconciliation,

728
00:39:06.140 --> 00:39:08.380
doesn't mean they're gonna have access to you.

729
00:39:08.380 --> 00:39:10.140
You can release them from what they've done

730
00:39:10.140 --> 00:39:12.580
without giving them re-entry to your life.

731
00:39:12.580 --> 00:39:14.380
Very important for you to know that.

732
00:39:14.380 --> 00:39:16.660
All right, so let's talk about covenant friendship

733
00:39:16.660 --> 00:39:18.580
or true friends.

734
00:39:18.820 --> 00:39:21.720
Jonathan and David were described as covenant friends,

735
00:39:21.720 --> 00:39:24.420
but I wanted to put them in the category of reasons

736
00:39:24.420 --> 00:39:28.460
because it was very important that Jonathan

737
00:39:28.460 --> 00:39:31.420
gave David the strengthening and the favor that he did.

738
00:39:31.420 --> 00:39:33.300
But they were also described as a covenant friendship.

739
00:39:33.300 --> 00:39:36.260
But we also know that Jonathan died, right?

740
00:39:36.260 --> 00:39:38.180
He died in battle with his father

741
00:39:38.180 --> 00:39:40.340
before David ever became king.

742
00:39:40.340 --> 00:39:44.900
Well, in fact, I mean, he was already anointed king.

743
00:39:44.900 --> 00:39:45.740
He was already the king.

744
00:39:45.740 --> 00:39:47.300
From the moment that you're anointed, you guys,

745
00:39:47.300 --> 00:39:48.700
you are that thing.

746
00:39:48.700 --> 00:39:50.860
But sometimes it takes a while for you to,

747
00:39:50.860 --> 00:39:53.620
you know, walk into the fullness of it.

748
00:39:53.620 --> 00:39:55.180
Ooh, that's a word right there.

749
00:39:56.260 --> 00:39:57.940
So does God anoint you for something?

750
00:39:57.940 --> 00:39:58.940
It is so.

751
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.560
But sometimes, in fact, all the time, it takes a process for you to walk into the fullness

752
00:40:06.560 --> 00:40:10.520
of it, the fullness of the manifestation of it.

753
00:40:10.520 --> 00:40:11.520
All right.

754
00:40:11.520 --> 00:40:12.520
Let's talk about covenant friendships.

755
00:40:12.520 --> 00:40:13.520
These are lifers, you guys.

756
00:40:13.520 --> 00:40:14.520
These are ride or dies.

757
00:40:14.520 --> 00:40:15.520
Stop.

758
00:40:15.520 --> 00:40:16.520
Wow.

759
00:40:16.520 --> 00:40:19.280
We got a lot of disruptions today.

760
00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:20.360
These are lifers.

761
00:40:20.360 --> 00:40:22.280
These are ride or dies.

762
00:40:22.280 --> 00:40:25.940
These are people that will be there for you.

763
00:40:25.940 --> 00:40:29.820
They won't always say the things that you want to hear because they truly love you.

764
00:40:29.840 --> 00:40:32.360
And you've given them permission to speak into your life.

765
00:40:32.360 --> 00:40:36.380
You've given them permission to make withdrawals from this account because they've made a lot

766
00:40:36.380 --> 00:40:37.380
of deposits.

767
00:40:37.380 --> 00:40:40.960
They made a lot of deposits into this account, so now they're allowed to make withdrawals.

768
00:40:40.960 --> 00:40:47.040
You guys, please don't make withdrawals from people that you've not made deposits in.

769
00:40:47.040 --> 00:40:53.960
You can't do that unless you're in a relationship with them that indicates that you can, like

770
00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:54.960
you're their boss.

771
00:40:54.960 --> 00:40:59.360
If you're their boss and you're putting them on a PIP, a performance improvement plan,

772
00:40:59.900 --> 00:41:01.940
then you're allowed to make a withdrawal.

773
00:41:01.940 --> 00:41:06.260
I suggest that even with people that you're an authority over, whether you're a teacher,

774
00:41:06.260 --> 00:41:10.520
whether you're a boss of some sort, a mentor of some sort, got to make sure that you're

775
00:41:10.520 --> 00:41:12.660
using that sandwich method.

776
00:41:12.660 --> 00:41:15.060
People don't care what you know until they know how much you care.

777
00:41:15.060 --> 00:41:18.220
And so be careful, tread lightly.

778
00:41:18.220 --> 00:41:22.940
But just in regular friendships, you cannot call people out on their stuff and you're

779
00:41:22.940 --> 00:41:26.180
going to see their stuff, you guys.

780
00:41:26.200 --> 00:41:32.240
But for those friendships that are for reasons and seasons, very rarely, unless the relationship

781
00:41:32.240 --> 00:41:37.800
revolves around that subject, are you going to be able to call them out?

782
00:41:37.800 --> 00:41:40.920
Like for instance, say you met someone in divorce care.

783
00:41:40.920 --> 00:41:43.520
You met someone in like a divorce care class.

784
00:41:43.520 --> 00:41:48.440
Because divorce is the subject and because inner healing is the method in a class like

785
00:41:48.440 --> 00:41:53.320
that, you might, if you have a friend that you get really close to during that season,

786
00:41:53.380 --> 00:41:57.780
they might allow you to, you know, point some things out to them.

787
00:41:57.780 --> 00:42:02.380
They might allow you to, because that's the reason why you guys are friends in the first

788
00:42:02.380 --> 00:42:03.380
place.

789
00:42:03.380 --> 00:42:04.380
Okay.

790
00:42:04.380 --> 00:42:09.500
If you have, if you have a trainer, someone that, you know, my trainer, I'm definitely

791
00:42:09.500 --> 00:42:13.500
seasonal friends or reasonable friends with my trainer.

792
00:42:13.500 --> 00:42:15.180
Okay.

793
00:42:15.180 --> 00:42:16.180
She's great.

794
00:42:16.180 --> 00:42:20.420
I actually kind of helped her get married and we don't see each other out of the gym

795
00:42:20.420 --> 00:42:21.420
though.

796
00:42:21.520 --> 00:42:24.680
I don't have any type of friends that go and hang out, go to happy hour, go to dinner,

797
00:42:24.680 --> 00:42:25.680
whatever.

798
00:42:25.680 --> 00:42:27.120
I've never met her husband.

799
00:42:27.120 --> 00:42:31.080
I wasn't invited to her wedding because we're not that deep of friends.

800
00:42:31.080 --> 00:42:33.320
But I think that she would call me a friend.

801
00:42:33.320 --> 00:42:35.560
I definitely helped shift her mindset.

802
00:42:35.560 --> 00:42:39.640
But the reason why I was able to help shift her mindset is because she was helped.

803
00:42:39.640 --> 00:42:44.760
She was, she was allowed to help shift my body because I came to her and I wanted that

804
00:42:44.760 --> 00:42:46.280
input.

805
00:42:46.280 --> 00:42:50.000
But the reason why I met her in the first place is because she was dating one of my

806
00:42:50.000 --> 00:42:53.340
former clients and he was not the right match for her.

807
00:42:53.340 --> 00:42:57.740
He went on to marry someone else in this community and he's happily married.

808
00:42:57.740 --> 00:43:05.100
But because our relationship started out with that context of her dating him and her asking

809
00:43:05.100 --> 00:43:10.940
me for advice in that relationship, I was allowed to speak into her love life even though

810
00:43:10.940 --> 00:43:12.180
she was just my trainer.

811
00:43:12.180 --> 00:43:15.740
Does that make sense to everyone?

812
00:43:15.740 --> 00:43:20.240
That was the reason that we were friends in the first place.

813
00:43:20.240 --> 00:43:21.240
Okay.

814
00:43:21.240 --> 00:43:26.240
So be careful trying to tell people or give people advice that they haven't asked for

815
00:43:26.240 --> 00:43:32.800
if that is not the context of your relationship because that can end a reason or season relationship

816
00:43:32.800 --> 00:43:34.680
really fast.

817
00:43:34.680 --> 00:43:35.680
It will end it.

818
00:43:35.680 --> 00:43:36.680
All right.

819
00:43:36.680 --> 00:43:37.680
True friends can call you out.

820
00:43:37.680 --> 00:43:38.680
They can call you up.

821
00:43:38.680 --> 00:43:39.680
They will.

822
00:43:39.680 --> 00:43:40.680
They're supposed to.

823
00:43:40.680 --> 00:43:41.940
Iron sharpening iron.

824
00:43:41.940 --> 00:43:45.760
You're not always going to be feeling warm and fuzzy towards your true friends.

825
00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:49.120
You're going to be mad at them sometimes, but the difference between true friends and

826
00:43:49.120 --> 00:43:53.820
transactional friends is you will overcome those rough spots and it will make you stronger.

827
00:43:53.820 --> 00:43:57.720
You will be better friends because you will listen to each other and you will seek to

828
00:43:57.720 --> 00:43:58.800
understand each other.

829
00:43:58.800 --> 00:44:02.760
You will forgive each other, but you will also reconcile with each other.

830
00:44:02.760 --> 00:44:05.880
I have a couple of true friends.

831
00:44:05.880 --> 00:44:11.780
I have a couple of true blue lifer ride or die friends, and these are not even people

832
00:44:11.780 --> 00:44:13.720
that you see all the time.

833
00:44:13.720 --> 00:44:16.600
You don't have to see them all the time to have a covenant friendship with them.

834
00:44:16.600 --> 00:44:20.920
They're just people that know you and love you and vice versa.

835
00:44:20.920 --> 00:44:21.960
Okay.

836
00:44:21.960 --> 00:44:23.320
The feeling is mutual.

837
00:44:23.320 --> 00:44:26.520
The loyalty is strong.

838
00:44:26.520 --> 00:44:29.520
Your spirit connected, you guys, you're in a covenant with these people.

839
00:44:29.520 --> 00:44:31.620
I want you to see that.

840
00:44:31.620 --> 00:44:37.680
You don't just make covenants with your, you know, your future spouse in a marriage relationship.

841
00:44:37.680 --> 00:44:41.480
We have covenant friendships and you shouldn't enter into a covenant friendship lightly just

842
00:44:41.480 --> 00:44:45.300
like you shouldn't enter into a marriage covenant lightly.

843
00:44:45.300 --> 00:44:49.080
These people are going to sharpen you and they're going to stand with you.

844
00:44:49.080 --> 00:44:51.260
You see this, you see these friendships.

845
00:44:51.260 --> 00:44:57.740
So if you have a covenant friendship, go ahead and put it in the chat.

846
00:44:57.740 --> 00:45:00.020
And you guys, I want to make sure that you understand that.

847
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.120
Covenant friendships, it's a type of friendship and it's not necessarily your oldest friend.

848
00:45:07.120 --> 00:45:13.440
I do not have, you know, my oldest acquaintance or friend that was there for a reason or first

849
00:45:13.440 --> 00:45:17.620
season, the person that you know the longest, the person that you've known from childhood.

850
00:45:17.620 --> 00:45:23.060
It doesn't mean that you're covenant friend.

851
00:45:23.060 --> 00:45:27.420
There's a scene in this one movie, I don't remember what the movie is called, I'll look

852
00:45:27.420 --> 00:45:32.140
for it, but I actually quoted verses.

853
00:45:32.140 --> 00:45:35.420
I'm going to try not to cry when I tell you guys this.

854
00:45:35.420 --> 00:45:44.760
I quoted, I quoted not verses, I quoted words, scenes from this movie at my mother's funeral.

855
00:45:44.760 --> 00:45:50.860
And the reason why I did that is because her best friend, Kathy, Kathy and Diana, Kathy

856
00:45:50.860 --> 00:45:56.780
and Diana, Diana and Kathy, ever since I was born, I remember hearing that phrase, Kathy

857
00:45:56.780 --> 00:46:01.560
and Diana, Diana and Kathy, they met in kindergarten and they were bosom friends.

858
00:46:01.560 --> 00:46:04.100
They had a covenant friendship.

859
00:46:04.100 --> 00:46:07.260
They were there for each other through the hardest time, through the death of parents

860
00:46:07.260 --> 00:46:08.860
and siblings.

861
00:46:08.860 --> 00:46:13.220
They support each other through divorces and raising of children and all the different

862
00:46:13.220 --> 00:46:15.500
things.

863
00:46:15.500 --> 00:46:20.380
And there's a movie, and I believe it has Susan Sarandon in it, where she's talking

864
00:46:20.380 --> 00:46:24.500
about being married and she's talking about having a witness to her life.

865
00:46:24.580 --> 00:46:27.820
Is everyone familiar with these lines?

866
00:46:27.820 --> 00:46:29.620
Having a witness to your life?

867
00:46:29.620 --> 00:46:31.340
This is what these friends do.

868
00:46:31.340 --> 00:46:39.340
And this is, of course, what you want your, your future husband or wife to be, too, also.

869
00:46:39.340 --> 00:46:41.900
I'm just going to look it up and I'm just going to quote it for you.

870
00:46:51.900 --> 00:46:53.060
Here, here it is.

871
00:46:53.060 --> 00:46:56.460
It is Susan Sarandon and the movie is called Shall We Dance?

872
00:46:56.460 --> 00:46:58.020
It came out in 2004.

873
00:46:58.020 --> 00:47:00.180
I can't, I never saw the movie.

874
00:47:00.180 --> 00:47:04.580
I only saw the clip and I only looked up the clip because this is what my mom's bosom

875
00:47:04.580 --> 00:47:09.580
friend Kathy wrote in what she wanted to share at my mom's funeral.

876
00:47:09.580 --> 00:47:12.140
And she was so emotional that she couldn't share it.

877
00:47:12.140 --> 00:47:14.960
So I'm the one that shared it for her.

878
00:47:14.960 --> 00:47:17.540
So it just says we need a witness to our lives.

879
00:47:17.540 --> 00:47:21.660
There's a billion people on this planet and you guys, we know there's 8 billion now.

880
00:47:21.660 --> 00:47:23.260
There's 8 billion people on this planet.

881
00:47:23.260 --> 00:47:27.620
What does anyone, what does anyone life really mean?

882
00:47:27.620 --> 00:47:33.340
But in a marriage, or in this case, in a friendship, you're promising to care about everything.

883
00:47:33.340 --> 00:47:37.220
The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all

884
00:47:37.220 --> 00:47:42.460
of the time, every day, you're saying your life will not go unnoticed because I will

885
00:47:42.460 --> 00:47:46.660
notice it.

886
00:47:46.660 --> 00:47:56.340
Saying your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.

887
00:47:56.340 --> 00:47:58.860
I will be your witness.

888
00:47:58.860 --> 00:48:03.980
And friends, all of you are going to have that in your spirit mate.

889
00:48:03.980 --> 00:48:13.820
But you will be surely blessed if you have that in a friendship as well.

890
00:48:13.820 --> 00:48:15.460
We all know that's true.

891
00:48:15.460 --> 00:48:20.580
Every day, I don't know what the number is, but lots of people pass away into eternity.

892
00:48:20.580 --> 00:48:23.980
And who even really knew them?

893
00:48:23.980 --> 00:48:27.100
Who even really knew them?

894
00:48:27.100 --> 00:48:30.740
Who knew their dreams, whether they fulfilled them or not?

895
00:48:30.740 --> 00:48:33.820
Who knew the deepest secrets of their heart?

896
00:48:33.820 --> 00:48:34.820
Who?

897
00:48:34.820 --> 00:48:38.540
Who witnessed their lives?

898
00:48:38.540 --> 00:48:40.020
Who will remember them?

899
00:48:40.020 --> 00:48:42.860
Who will tell stories of them on earth to others?

900
00:48:42.860 --> 00:48:43.860
Who?

901
00:48:44.260 --> 00:48:55.140
You need friends, friends that deeply care for you, that have a super natural purpose

902
00:48:55.140 --> 00:48:59.180
in your life that goes beyond a reason or a season.

903
00:48:59.180 --> 00:49:03.620
And God wants to give you at least one covenant friendship, you guys, at least one.

904
00:49:03.620 --> 00:49:08.700
May you all have a Kathy or a Diana.

905
00:49:09.540 --> 00:49:14.260
Okay, so let's just briefly, how long do we have?

906
00:49:14.260 --> 00:49:15.260
We have nine minutes.

907
00:49:15.260 --> 00:49:19.740
Let's just briefly talk about transactional relationships.

908
00:49:19.740 --> 00:49:22.300
You guys, these are relationships, and I talked about it at the beginning.

909
00:49:22.300 --> 00:49:24.980
And if you're a giver, you're going to have lots of these, you're going to have lots of

910
00:49:24.980 --> 00:49:27.100
takers in your life, okay?

911
00:49:27.100 --> 00:49:31.460
And if you happen to be a taker, please understand that those givers a lot of times are doing

912
00:49:31.460 --> 00:49:33.220
this because they just want to be loved.

913
00:49:33.220 --> 00:49:34.780
They just want to be loved by someone.

914
00:49:34.900 --> 00:49:39.460
So they're giving you what they have to offer, but you're taking it and you're not giving

915
00:49:39.460 --> 00:49:40.700
anything in return.

916
00:49:40.700 --> 00:49:46.300
And true friendships, regardless of if they're for reasons or seasons, they are reciprocal,

917
00:49:46.300 --> 00:49:47.300
you guys.

918
00:49:47.300 --> 00:49:48.300
Just want to make sure that you understand that.

919
00:49:48.300 --> 00:49:52.580
Even if they're for a reason and a season, they need to be reciprocal.

920
00:49:52.580 --> 00:49:56.140
If it's just you giving to someone, that's just you giving to someone.

921
00:49:56.140 --> 00:49:57.140
That's not a friendship.

922
00:49:57.140 --> 00:49:58.380
Please don't call it a friendship.

923
00:49:58.380 --> 00:49:59.420
Those are not your friends.

924
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.400
They're not.

925
00:50:03.400 --> 00:50:07.720
If you have a relationship where you're just have someone that you're doing something for

926
00:50:07.720 --> 00:50:11.480
and you're helping, don't call that a friendship.

927
00:50:11.480 --> 00:50:15.440
That's not fair to you to call that a friendship because it's not a friendship.

928
00:50:15.440 --> 00:50:19.200
It's a relationship for the purpose of you helping and those of you that are in full-time

929
00:50:19.200 --> 00:50:22.400
ministry or any type of ministry, you help a lot of people.

930
00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:27.440
Those people are not necessarily your friends, okay?

931
00:50:27.440 --> 00:50:34.720
So transactional relationships are based on what you can do, give, or offer.

932
00:50:34.720 --> 00:50:39.840
But when the benefits run out, and they will, so does the relationship.

933
00:50:39.840 --> 00:50:41.880
The quote-unquote friendship is over.

934
00:50:41.880 --> 00:50:48.040
And this is often common in ministry, you guys, or in business.

935
00:50:48.040 --> 00:50:51.840
These transactional relationships are not friendships.

936
00:50:51.840 --> 00:50:54.720
They are relationships, but they're not friendships.

937
00:50:54.720 --> 00:50:59.040
And then we can go from transactional to transformational.

938
00:50:59.040 --> 00:51:03.000
Transformational relationships, okay, once again, they may not be friendships, they may

939
00:51:03.000 --> 00:51:08.440
not turn into friendships, but they're based on shared purpose, alignment.

940
00:51:08.440 --> 00:51:11.760
They're not using you, it's reciprocal.

941
00:51:11.760 --> 00:51:15.880
And if it turns into a friendship, it's going to be someone who challenges you.

942
00:51:15.880 --> 00:51:20.040
They cheer you on, but they also challenge you.

943
00:51:20.080 --> 00:51:24.880
John 15, 15 says, I no longer call you servants, I have called you friends.

944
00:51:28.880 --> 00:51:34.280
So I want you guys to know that God is replacing relationships of performance and competition,

945
00:51:34.280 --> 00:51:41.400
okay, replacing the relationships that are built on transactions with relationships where

946
00:51:41.400 --> 00:51:46.920
you don't have to earn love anymore, where you feel seen, known, and loved, where you

947
00:51:46.920 --> 00:51:48.480
feel supported.

948
00:51:48.480 --> 00:51:53.360
If you want that, he wants to give that to you, it's important.

949
00:51:53.360 --> 00:51:59.280
All right, so some of the reasons why we don't let people in for friendship is just the same

950
00:51:59.280 --> 00:52:02.600
hard work that keeps us out of romantic relationship.

951
00:52:02.600 --> 00:52:06.080
We have a lot of walls, we have a lot of wounds.

952
00:52:06.080 --> 00:52:09.200
Some of them are core wounds, they come from childhood.

953
00:52:09.200 --> 00:52:10.360
We don't trust people.

954
00:52:10.360 --> 00:52:15.040
Gentlemen, you might be like, I don't trust women, and you know, this is about relationship

955
00:52:15.280 --> 00:52:19.240
that's romantic, and men, you know, women, you're like, I don't trust men, but think

956
00:52:19.240 --> 00:52:23.000
about it in the context of friendship.

957
00:52:23.000 --> 00:52:27.280
Some of you guys don't trust men, and some of you women do not trust women.

958
00:52:27.280 --> 00:52:33.400
In fact, oftentimes, I will have people raise their hand and say, I'm not a girl's girl.

959
00:52:33.400 --> 00:52:34.440
I want you to do that right now.

960
00:52:34.440 --> 00:52:35.760
I'm not a girl's girl.

961
00:52:35.760 --> 00:52:41.320
If that's true of you, if you've never really had female friends, deep female relationships,

962
00:52:41.320 --> 00:52:45.200
if you've always been kind of one of the guys, and you felt more comfortable around

963
00:52:45.200 --> 00:52:51.160
men than women, let's see it, come on, get your hands up, get your hands up.

964
00:52:51.160 --> 00:52:54.080
All this means is that you have mommy wounds.

965
00:52:54.080 --> 00:52:56.280
All this means is that you don't trust women.

966
00:52:56.280 --> 00:53:01.880
The Bible says, even more than men, women need each other.

967
00:53:01.880 --> 00:53:04.280
Go look in Titus, read those scriptures.

968
00:53:04.280 --> 00:53:09.120
Women are supposed to be helping each other, teaching each other, supporting each other.

969
00:53:09.160 --> 00:53:12.800
Women are very communal.

970
00:53:12.800 --> 00:53:17.360
Some of the other lies you might say to yourself is, I've been betrayed too many times.

971
00:53:17.360 --> 00:53:19.080
I picked the wrong friends.

972
00:53:19.080 --> 00:53:20.080
I'm too naive.

973
00:53:20.080 --> 00:53:22.000
I'm better off alone.

974
00:53:22.000 --> 00:53:23.600
Friendship always becomes a competition.

975
00:53:23.600 --> 00:53:24.600
Well, guess what?

976
00:53:24.600 --> 00:53:29.080
If your friendships, quote unquote, always become competitive, you're a common denominator

977
00:53:29.080 --> 00:53:30.360
of that.

978
00:53:30.360 --> 00:53:33.400
Maybe you're the one that's competing.

979
00:53:33.400 --> 00:53:38.240
I don't mean to call you out, but I'm going to call you out.

980
00:53:38.360 --> 00:53:42.280
Some of you believe a lie that we already went after at the beginning of today's Supernatural

981
00:53:42.280 --> 00:53:45.880
Saturday, and that is, I only need one person.

982
00:53:45.880 --> 00:53:49.440
I only need my man, my woman, my husband, my wife.

983
00:53:49.440 --> 00:53:53.160
They're going to be my bestie.

984
00:53:53.160 --> 00:53:58.120
So the common lie in all of these lies is just that it's safer to isolate, but the truth

985
00:53:58.120 --> 00:54:01.400
is that isolation is not a safe place.

986
00:54:01.400 --> 00:54:07.200
All kinds of negative stuff grows in isolation.

987
00:54:07.200 --> 00:54:11.280
All kinds of negative stuff continues to grow inside of us in isolation.

988
00:54:11.280 --> 00:54:14.240
This is where addictions prosper, including pornography.

989
00:54:14.240 --> 00:54:20.280
In fact, I want to submit to you that I think part of the reason why so many people are

990
00:54:20.280 --> 00:54:26.320
addicted to pornography is because they're lonely.

991
00:54:26.320 --> 00:54:30.040
I know that seems like a crazy thing to say, because you're like, it's perverted, it's

992
00:54:30.040 --> 00:54:31.040
this, it's that.

993
00:54:31.040 --> 00:54:32.680
No, I think they're lonely.

994
00:54:32.680 --> 00:54:36.360
I think that they're isolated on the inside and the outside.

995
00:54:36.360 --> 00:54:38.220
They want human connection.

996
00:54:38.220 --> 00:54:42.560
They got addicted to the dopamine hits from this, and then it spiraled from there into

997
00:54:42.560 --> 00:54:44.840
perversion.

998
00:54:44.840 --> 00:54:49.960
I really think that one of the main reasons why pornography is so rampant is because there's

999
00:54:49.960 --> 00:54:53.840
never been more people on the earth than now, eight plus billion people, and we've never

1000
00:54:53.840 --> 00:54:55.560
been more lonely than we are now.

1001
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.760
So, in isolation, you guys, that's where all the unhealthy stuff grows.

1002
00:55:06.760 --> 00:55:07.760
You know why?

1003
00:55:07.760 --> 00:55:11.400
Because you can't grow without the help of other people.

1004
00:55:11.400 --> 00:55:12.780
You can't.

1005
00:55:12.780 --> 00:55:21.520
God has decided to create this in a way that we need each other for breakthrough.

1006
00:55:21.520 --> 00:55:24.000
Healing happens in safe relationships.

1007
00:55:24.000 --> 00:55:27.240
That's why I always say, hurt in family, healed in family.

1008
00:55:27.240 --> 00:55:29.040
Hurt in relationship, healed in relationship.

1009
00:55:29.040 --> 00:55:30.880
Hurt in marriage, healed in marriage.

1010
00:55:30.880 --> 00:55:33.520
Hurt in friendship, healed in friendship.

1011
00:55:33.520 --> 00:55:36.080
Hurt in community, healed in community.

1012
00:55:36.080 --> 00:55:39.600
So, right now, close your eyes.

1013
00:55:39.600 --> 00:55:42.640
We're going to end this call here in just a couple minutes, three minutes.

1014
00:55:42.640 --> 00:55:44.400
We're going to land the plane.

1015
00:55:44.400 --> 00:55:52.800
I want you to ask God to show you where mistrust, okay, where past betrayals are blocking new

1016
00:55:52.800 --> 00:55:53.800
friendships.

1017
00:55:53.800 --> 00:56:00.680
Where are you blocking your desire to have friends?

1018
00:56:00.680 --> 00:56:07.400
Ask him to highlight to you where you're stuck, that pastor that lied, that church

1019
00:56:07.400 --> 00:56:17.600
hurt that happened, the people that made up rumors about you, the betrayals, the misplaced

1020
00:56:17.600 --> 00:56:26.960
expectations, differing of opinions.

1021
00:56:26.960 --> 00:56:32.640
Some of you, heck, some of you even had so-called friends steal your former spouse.

1022
00:56:32.640 --> 00:56:35.520
That's true of someone here.

1023
00:56:35.520 --> 00:56:41.200
That's made you never trust another person in the level of friendship again.

1024
00:56:41.200 --> 00:56:46.840
You thought they were your friend, but instead, they tried to break up your family, and they

1025
00:56:46.840 --> 00:56:47.840
succeeded.

1026
00:56:47.840 --> 00:56:57.120
Guys, we have to have friends because they call out the destiny in us, and true friends

1027
00:56:57.120 --> 00:56:59.320
will hold you accountable to that destiny.

1028
00:56:59.320 --> 00:57:02.920
They won't let you stay stuck.

1029
00:57:02.920 --> 00:57:04.080
They won't.

1030
00:57:04.080 --> 00:57:07.280
I am all of your friend for this season.

1031
00:57:07.280 --> 00:57:08.640
I will call out destiny in you.

1032
00:57:08.640 --> 00:57:09.960
I won't let you stay stuck.

1033
00:57:09.960 --> 00:57:11.320
Same with our coaches.

1034
00:57:11.320 --> 00:57:14.040
We are your friends for this season.

1035
00:57:14.040 --> 00:57:17.320
Will we know each other 20 years from now?

1036
00:57:17.320 --> 00:57:19.840
Probably not.

1037
00:57:19.840 --> 00:57:27.480
In fact, some people leave here successful without even a wave goodbye, and I have gotten

1038
00:57:27.480 --> 00:57:32.160
to a place where I no longer mourn that, and that no longer hurts my heart because I realized

1039
00:57:32.160 --> 00:57:37.960
that I was only meant to play a part in their life for a season.

1040
00:57:37.960 --> 00:57:39.280
I'd like it if you say goodbye.

1041
00:57:39.280 --> 00:57:41.160
I'd like it if you leave your testimony.

1042
00:57:41.160 --> 00:57:43.720
I'd like it if you share pictures of your wedding.

1043
00:57:43.720 --> 00:57:48.640
I'd like to even be invited to your wedding, even though I may not come, but you can't

1044
00:57:48.640 --> 00:57:51.200
have it all.

1045
00:57:51.200 --> 00:58:03.280
All right, so do we have all community prophetic night tomorrow, Bethany?

1046
00:58:03.280 --> 00:58:05.480
Yes, we do.

1047
00:58:05.480 --> 00:58:06.480
Okay.

1048
00:58:06.480 --> 00:58:10.520
So the activation that I would like to do tomorrow night is I want us to break soul

1049
00:58:10.520 --> 00:58:14.640
ties with unhealthy, you know, any kind of treacherous or expired friendships.

1050
00:58:14.640 --> 00:58:15.640
They don't even have to be treacherous.

1051
00:58:15.640 --> 00:58:16.640
They're just expired.

1052
00:58:16.640 --> 00:58:18.840
You're keeping, you have to sign the DNR.

1053
00:58:18.840 --> 00:58:20.280
Do not resuscitate.

1054
00:58:20.280 --> 00:58:23.200
This person has shown you that they've moved on.

1055
00:58:23.200 --> 00:58:25.960
You know, they don't hate you or anything, but you're the only person that calls.

1056
00:58:25.960 --> 00:58:29.240
You're the only person that, you know, tries to connect.

1057
00:58:29.240 --> 00:58:30.360
It's time to let them go.

1058
00:58:30.360 --> 00:58:31.360
Make room for new friendships.

1059
00:58:31.360 --> 00:58:32.360
Okay.

1060
00:58:32.360 --> 00:58:36.680
So we're going to do some healing work tomorrow night from disappointment from friendships

1061
00:58:36.680 --> 00:58:37.680
that have gone wrong.

1062
00:58:37.680 --> 00:58:38.680
Okay.

1063
00:58:38.680 --> 00:58:43.560
We're going to declare open doors for new friendships, divine friendships.

1064
00:58:43.560 --> 00:58:47.200
I believe that a lot of courage is going to come tomorrow night to initiate connecting

1065
00:58:47.200 --> 00:58:49.960
again and it's going to be a good time.

1066
00:58:49.960 --> 00:58:54.080
So if you can come tomorrow night for all prophetic night, we're going to prophesy,

1067
00:58:54.080 --> 00:58:59.360
call you up, call you out, do what good friends do for each other, but also we are going to

1068
00:58:59.360 --> 00:59:02.880
do a little bit more friendship work because I really believe this is a very important

1069
00:59:02.880 --> 00:59:06.080
subject for all of us right now.

1070
00:59:06.080 --> 00:59:07.080
Okay.

1071
00:59:07.480 --> 00:59:10.920
God does not want us to live lonely, right?

1072
00:59:10.920 --> 00:59:12.240
Hurting hearts, medicate.

1073
00:59:12.240 --> 00:59:14.880
So when you're lonely, you're going to do all kinds of stuff that you wouldn't normally

1074
00:59:14.880 --> 00:59:15.880
do.

1075
00:59:15.880 --> 00:59:18.960
You're going to watch too much TV, too many videos, too much social media.

1076
00:59:18.960 --> 00:59:23.240
You're going to eat things that you shouldn't eat that are making your body unhealthy.

1077
00:59:23.240 --> 00:59:24.760
This is what happens when you're lonely.

1078
00:59:24.760 --> 00:59:25.800
You're medicating.

1079
00:59:25.800 --> 00:59:30.600
It's time to have friends, have community and live this life the way God created us

1080
00:59:30.600 --> 00:59:31.600
to live it.

1081
00:59:31.600 --> 00:59:32.600
I love y'all.

1082
00:59:32.600 --> 00:59:32.600