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If a wife is supposed to submit to her husband,

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then men should be reading this verse and thinking,

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man, if a wife is supposed to submit to me,

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then am I the type of person

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that a godly woman can submit to?

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In this episode, we are going to continue

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our study of Colossians and finish chapter three.

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And this passage is about God's design for family,

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his design for marriage, and his design for relationships.

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So let's read this passage together.

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We're in Colossians chapter three, starting in verse 18.

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Wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord.

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Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

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Children, obey your parents in everything,

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for this pleases the Lord.

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Fathers, do not provoke your children

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lest they become discouraged.

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Bond servants, obey in everything

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those who are your earthly masters,

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not by the way of eye service or people pleasers,

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but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord.

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Whatever you do, work heartedly as for the Lord

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and not for men, knowing that from the Lord

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you will receive the inheritance as your reward.

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You are serving the Lord Christ.

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For the wrongdoer will be paid back

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for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality.

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Masters, treat your bond servants justly and fairly,

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knowing that you also have a master in heaven.

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So this passage has a little something for everyone, right?

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Paul is addressing Christian households,

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and in this section of his letter

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he lists a few different groups of people, right?

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He starts with wives, then he addresses husbands,

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then fathers, then children, then bond servants,

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and at the very end he addresses masters.

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So as we study this passage,

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whether you are currently a wife or a husband

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or you're striving for that,

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whether you're currently a parent

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or you're striving for that,

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or same with parenting, you wanna be a parent,

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you are a parent, we all can pull something

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out of this passage that applies to us.

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So let's start with wives.

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In verse 18, Paul says,

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wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting to the Lord.

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And that word submit is important

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to spend a little bit of time on and define

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because it's often been misused

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in the Christian church quite often,

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and I think it's been misinterpreted.

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And so this verse can really be divisive

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because of that word submit.

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So let's break it down, and as I explain it,

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stay with me, because I know even that word

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can make people cringe a little bit,

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but we're gonna look at what it meant at the time

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and the context and what it means for families today.

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So the word submit here is the same word used

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in the Bible to describe military ranks.

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And so to submit means to be under in rank,

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so let me explain further.

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I spent 10 years in the military,

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and in those 10 years, I promoted quite a few times

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and started as an E1 and left as an E6,

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and so got to promote and be different ranks,

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and with that comes different roles.

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And so I had people below me in rank that reported me,

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and I also had people that I reported to.

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And the military is set up in this way

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to maintain order in what we call a chain of command,

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and it sets up a system of order

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and also a system of respect.

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And it's important to maintain that order

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and gives everyone a system to operate under.

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And so God's created an order and design

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for marriages and families as well,

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and so his design for marriages is one

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where the man and the husband is the head of the household.

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That does not mean that the husband

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is more important than the wife

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or that the husband is smarter than the wife

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or godlier than the wife.

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It doesn't mean that at all.

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And as a married man, I can tell you

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that I am not smarter than my wife, not at all, right?

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So that's not what it means.

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In Galatians 3, it says that all are one,

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all are equal under Christ, right, under God in Christ.

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And so just like the military,

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just because you outrank somebody

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does not mean you're smarter or better than them

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or anything like that.

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So rank has to do with order and authority,

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not ability or value.

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So rank has to do with order and authority,

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not ability or value.

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And it's important that families operate as a team, right?

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And to use a sports analogy,

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teams have a captain or a leader,

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and the other athletes on the team

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submit to the leadership of that team captain,

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but their positions on the team are just as important, right?

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And everybody has to be doing their job

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or the team's gonna fail.

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And with more authority comes more responsibility, right?

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These two things are connected.

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So men, it's important to step up.

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And yes, this verse, verse 18, is addressed to women,

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but I think it should really speak to the men

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because if a wife is supposed to submit to her husband,

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then men should be reading this verse and thinking,

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man, if a wife is supposed to submit to me,

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then am I the type of person

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that a godly woman can submit to, right?

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And so as wives are reading this,

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as men or husbands are reading this,

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or future aspiring husbands,

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and look at this verse and think,

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man, can I be that person?

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Am I that person?

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What do I need to do to be that person

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that a godly woman is able to honestly submit to, right?

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So I think this verse speaks to the men and the women.

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authority as the head of the house comes the responsibility to lead your family

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well, support your family, and protect your family. And again this verse is

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specifically written to women but men need to hear this if a woman is

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biblically supposed to submit to your leadership be in a position where they

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can they can effectively do that. And I also want to point out this verse does

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not say men make sure your wives submit right or men force your your wives to

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submit it doesn't say that this is a directive to women not to men right

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women submit to your husbands and and wives submit your husbands and by doing

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so wives are showing their husbands that they love them that they support them

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that they're with them and that we're on the same team all while maintaining all

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while maintaining their values beliefs and convictions right it says as is

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fitting to the Lord so this verse is not saying that women should submit to their

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husbands when abuse is happening right because abuse is not fitting to the Lord

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so when this verse is happening well when these things are happening well

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when the marriages will thrive families will grow and be successful so women

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respect to your husbands respect your husbands and work as a team and last

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point on this is is women who aren't married yet as you're as you're thinking

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about marriage striving for marriage then make sure you choose a man with

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whom you can submit right because you know he loves the Lord because you know

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where his values are pick a man with whom you have the same values and

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beliefs right you should be on the same page and if you hope to be married

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someday then then date carefully date with that mindset right because here's

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what I believe the goal of dating should be marriage so if you're dating someone

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who does not love the Lord does not value marriage or family and what you

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value then you might be wasting your time right and so we gotta have those

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conversations about those things about kids about what the mission of your

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marriage will be about about the future so when you're dating make sure you're

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talking about those things so in keeping these verses in mind knowing what the

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biblical standard for marriage is keeping that in mind even while you're

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dating so that's the verse one the first verse of this section right talking to

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women talking about submitting again submit does not mean blindly follow it

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means lovely lovingly support and respect your husband and work as a team

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all right husbands are up next verse 19 husbands love your wives and do not be

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harsh with them love your wives as the wife submits to the husband the husband

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must love his wife this is a biblical command so what does it mean to love

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your wives well let me pause and say that I am NOT an expert in marriage I've

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managed to be married for eight and a half years though so that's something

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and I've learned a thing or two in the word love here in verse 19 does not

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translate to affect like affectionate or romantic love like that's not the type

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of love that Paul's talking about here it's a caring type of love an

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intentional deliberate type of love in other words it's a choice it's an action

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right it's waking up every day and choosing to love your wife it's not

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about attraction or affection or feelings in fact it's not a feeling at

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all right it's a deliberate action or a choice to choose to love right it's

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action it's not just the way you're feeling is we show love by how we treat

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each other by how we serve each other and so men my challenge is to consider

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that all of that what does that mean right it's not a small thing loving

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somebody every day whether you feel like it or not is a huge commitment a huge

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choice a huge thing that you're committing to and that's what marriage

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is you're choosing to love somebody every single day and that's not

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something that should be taken lightly or rushed into right so when you're

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looking for a wife you're considering marriage ask yourself if you're ready to

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love that person every single day if you're selflessly ready to make that

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choice to die to yourself and love your wife it's a sacrificial love right and

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so on this idea of sacrificial love and we're talking about God's design for

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marriage there's a specific order in which this whole thing works best right

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and that order is to get married first right then have children then have more

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children and and that's kind of the order of the design that God set up and

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when you do that it allows you to this have this concept of dying to yourself

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first for your wife and then once you add a kid now you're dying yourself for

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your wife and that kid and then another kid and you're learning how to

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selflessly serve other people in your family right and and when that that

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order gets jumbled up and things happen out of order like God can restore and

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redeem any situation absolutely and let him do that and ask him to do that

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but when we operate within that design God's design for marriage it does allow

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things to be a little bit simpler and allows you to kind of learn how to serve

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other people and in a specific order and so when we deviate from that sometimes

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things get a little more complicated but but again this verse is to husbands love

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your wives and do not be harsh with them right do not be harsh with them so

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husbands if future husbands those that are husbands a note on leadership right

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husbands are the leader of the marriage the leadership

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of the family. In order for the rest of the family to thrive, they must feel

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loved and supported, right? And that goes with leadership to any degree, right?

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As a youth pastor, I lead a team of volunteers, a team of servant leaders

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who serve our youth, and I have to make sure that they feel valued and

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appreciated, or they're probably not gonna want to serve with me, right? And so

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the same is true of a husband leading his family, is to make sure his wife

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and his children feel valued, feel appreciated, feel loved, because every

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role in a family is important. Every role as a family is important. And so I don't

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want men to read these two verses about wives submitting and husbands

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loving, and get this mindset of pride or arrogance, or you know men

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get to be the leader and the authority and all that. I think the opposite should

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be true. I think men should read these two verses and be humbled, right? Be

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humbled by the weight and responsibility that a man has when it

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comes to family, right? Because there is, there's a weight and responsibility that

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a man should be agreeing to biblically when they get married, when they start a

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family of, wow I really am the the head and the leader, and that's God's design,

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and that's a big deal, right? So instead of being arrogant by reading this,

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we should be humbled by reading this. But not scared, because here's the

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thing, God designed men to do this, right? God designed men to lead their family

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well, right? And then it says husbands do not be harsh with them, right? Other

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translations use the word bitter instead of harsh, and harshness and bitterness are

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two things that can and will come up in a marriage, right? So just like love is a

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daily choice, so is choosing to be kind and reserved instead of harsh. Choosing

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to let things go instead of holding on to them and harboring bitterness. And

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that's easier said than done, and again I'm not perfect, my marriage isn't

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perfect, but I'll say the best way to combat those things, harshness, bitterness,

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with your spouse is by bringing in the Holy Spirit, right? Praying with your

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spouse on a daily basis, asking for the Holy Spirit's help as you interact in

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your marriage, right? Praying should be a huge part of your marriage. Next up is

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children, right? In verse 20, children obey your parents in everything for this

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pleases the Lord. So this verse applies to children still living under the

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household and authority of their parents. Once a child is of age and moves out

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then things are different, but you should always honor your parents, respect

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your parents, obey your parents in everything because it pleases the Lord.

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And again, family order is God's design. It's God's design for husbands to lead

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their wives, to submit, and for the pair to lead their children. And God gave you

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your parents, and maybe you don't understand that, and it's not perfect, and

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every relationship with parents is certainly not perfect, and I remember

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struggling through that as a teenager as well. But at one point, you know, I had to

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realize that in my case, actually, my parents were right about a lot of things

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and I was wrong about a lot of things, and we were able to figure those

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things out, and I know most, not every situation is perfect, but it's the Lord's

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will for you to obey your parents. And again, the context of this is Paul's

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writing to Christian homes, and if obedience to your parents causes you to

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sin, then again, that's not pleasing to the Lord. We're talking about what is

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fitting and pleasing to the Lord within his design. And again, I think the key

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word here, like the key part of this verse is respecting your parents, right?

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Respecting your parents while you're still under their authority. Then in

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verse 21, Paul has a directive for fathers, right? Verse 21, fathers, do not

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provoke your children lest they become discouraged, right? This is a verse that

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my wife often quotes to me, right? Do not provoke your children, because in the

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context of I like to joke with my children, I've got three boys, and we like

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to have fun and joke around, but sometimes they get frustrated with the

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joking, and then Allie quotes Colossians 3 21 to me, right? And so, but it's

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important to realize we're supposed to be, you know, men and fathers and husbands

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be encouraging and empowering our family, right? To get the best out of

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them, not discouraging or condemning them, right? But encouraging and

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bringing them up, loving and supporting family. Well, then Paul addresses

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bondservants in verse 22. And a quick note on New Testament biblical slavery

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and servanthood, we're talking about the context of the Roman Empire during this

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time period that Paul's writing. And Rome had an incredible, like incredibly high

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number of people enslaved or living as bondservants, and slavery here was

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different than what we normally think of as slavery, and over half the people

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living in the Roman Empire at this time would have fallen into this category of

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being enslaved or being bondservant. And a lot of times the the slave or

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bondservant is someone who is indebted to someone else and working as a servant

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until their debts is paid, and so you would have had people like this in the

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church that Paul's writing to. And so Paul's encouraging these people to be

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obedient, and to strive, and to serve, and please God more than people.

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advice for us in our jobs or school or wherever we are whether it's a boss or a

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supervisor or a teacher be obedient be respectful and do your work or school to

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please God and bring him glory right and that brings us to Colossians 3 23 which

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I'll read again says whatever you do work heartedly as for the Lord and not

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for men and this verse applies to everything we just talked about to

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marriage to family to parenthood relationships all take work right and

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Paul writes whatever you do work heartedly as for the Lord not for men so

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when we're serving our spouse our children our parents our employer

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whatever we're doing we're actually serving Christ right we're actually

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serving Christ so do it as the best of your ability right love people well

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serve people well foster and handle your relationships well why because when

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you're doing that you're actually serving and pleasing the Lord and

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operating under his design for marriage and family and relationships and always

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always always give him the glory in whatever you do