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So, in this section, you know, we're going to talk about believing in your team until

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they believe.

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Belief might be one of the most powerful leadership elements that every kingdom leader has this

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unique capability.

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Because when you learn to live in what you believe, now remember, upstairs, we have faculties

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that are way superior to our downstairs faculties.

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Downstairs faculties are your mind, your will, your emotions, and all those get renewed,

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they get refreshed, they get empowered, but when the upstairs faculties work, so when

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your mind knows what your heart believes, because it's what the heart man believes,

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so when your mind knows what your heart believes, it goes into high energy mode, gets creative.

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Well, if that's true, then we need to think this, this, this, and this, and it can lay

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out and do mind maps and do all the cool stuff, because at this point, your mind just got

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ignited.

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So the way you set your mind free, the way you upgrade your IQ and your creativity and

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your ability to think clearly and to have clarity is to become really clear about what

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you believe.

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This is huge.

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And by the way, the world's figuring this out by themselves.

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So that's how we function from rest, because we become completely confident in who He is

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for us, and we cease from relying on our own efforts as the guarantee of our success, and

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we start to depend on His nature as the guarantee.

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That's why the scripture calls the Holy Spirit the Father's guarantee.

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He's the seal of your salvation.

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In other words, the Father gave you the Holy Spirit to seal it in.

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He's going to take everything that belongs to Jesus, make it yours, He's going to teach

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you, train you, help you execute, make it, live astonished lives.

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And so you start to live astonished because of the three in you.

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You've got the Creator, you've got the Redeemer, and you've got the Counselor, well He's more

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than a Counselor, the Implementer, the One who makes stuff happen, the Holy Spirit.

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I love the relationship that we have with all three, and it's amazing that they're one.

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So we know that our identity is a powerful tool for leaders.

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And when you start speaking to the identity of your people, whether they know the Lord

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or not, you speak to your people with that identity in them, and do not doubt what you

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think they could do.

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Imagine if Martin Luther said, I have a dream, but I'm not sure they can pull it off, right?

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That would kill the dream.

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So this unwavering belief in your team is born out of the fact that you've had a moment

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with the Lord in which the Lord's given you something to believe about them.

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So people are way more inspired by what you believe than what you do or what you say.

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People care much more about what you believe than the products or services you offer.

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And so what helps people join you in your team, to get behind you, to commit to your

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leadership, to join your movement, to join your business?

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You think about it, all businesses are really a movement of a sort.

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And so people are motivated why you believe what you do.

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And of course we've all listened to Simon Sinek, when people know why you do what you

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do, they know how to join you.

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Back to people can follow you when you're simple.

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So what's the simple why?

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So at Brilliant, we believe in goodness and therefore I've chose to be good to you.

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People say, well why are you doing this for our clients?

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Because we believe in goodness and we've chosen them to be good to you.

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And I'm always thinking of the story where, as you know, many of you know Graham and you

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know that he and Teresa care about the homeless people in their city, in Santa Barbara.

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And so if you have a meal with Graham, he eats half of it, the other half he takes with

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cutlery and water and everything and he goes and looks for key people, he's got to know

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their names.

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Some of them, he's been feeding them for a year and they won't even talk to him.

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Until one day, this one guy who was just stressed, you know, really in a bad way, homeless guy.

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And Graham had to walk around for 45 minutes after our meal to find him and they found

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him, gave him the meal.

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And after a year of feeding him without ever acknowledging, no thank yous, no nothing,

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finally looks up to Graham and he says, why are you doing this?

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And Graham's answer was, I believe in goodness and I've chosen you to be good to.

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And he looked down on the ground and he said, I've never been chosen for anything before.

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So that is when people understand the core thing of what you believe.

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You know, there's a great illustration about this called...

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The Elephant, the Rider and the Pathway. A professor of psychology in the University of Virginia, in his book The Happiness Hypothesis, uses this analogy.

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The analogy characterizes the rider as our rational side, your rational thinking, your minds.

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The elephant is the emotional, the desire side, the what-you-believe thing.

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For the most part, we talk to the rider. We say to the people in our team, OK, so what we're going to do, see the logical steps, fine.

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But then they don't move. Why? We never moved the elephant.

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So, there's the elephant, the emotions, the rider is the mind, the pathway is where we're trying to get them to go.

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Now, if the emotion says, oh, I want, shiny thing, and charges off into the bushes, that's a destructive thing.

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And the poor rider is trying to figure out what's going on. That's not what we need either.

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So, the art of leadership is to align the rider with the elephant, or the elephant with the rider.

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Get them on the same page, so they can move together.

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And stories are the greatest way to do that.

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So, any great communicator uses stories, because stories move the elephant like nothing else.

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Stories make it clear, not just to the elephant, but to the rider as well.

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And of course, this was also brought out in Chip and Dan Heath's book called Switch, if anyone's read that.

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How to change things when change is hard.

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And what they're describing is this basic phenomenon in which, how hard it is to manage change from within the change itself.

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And so, he says, we often point out to the rider what we need to change, but we rarely explain why to the elephant.

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So, all successful change speaks to both the why, the elephant, and the what, and how, the rider.

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The pathway is the direction we're trying to take those two together.

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Simon Sinek put it this way, he said, people care more about what you believe than what you do.

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People do not buy what you do, but they buy why you do it.

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So, the goal is not to sell people who need what you have.

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The goal is to sell to people who believe what you believe.

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So, we know, at Brilliant, for instance, not everybody wants to believe what we believe.

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Some people will find, you know, people either love us, or they think we're heretics.

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It doesn't matter, because our job is to help the people who believe what we believe.

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So, what do we believe? We believe we're a new creation being.

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That when you accept Christ, you become a different species on planet Earth.

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A completely different creation, because now you're a God-indwelled being.

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That is an incredible thing. There's an eternal aspect that is now,

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you live in both realms, upstairs and downstairs, simultaneously.

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That's a new type of creation, and to live in that space, you live from God's heart to your heart,

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and you map that downstairs and take bold action.

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So, the goal here is not to hire people who need a job in our business,

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but to hire people who believe what we believe.

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And this is the core thing. Belief is the most powerful thing you can have as a leader.

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And you can explain that belief in simple, you don't even have to use Christian terms.

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The source of it, of course, we're clear on.

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And when we do this, when we use belief, we create a sense of belonging to a purpose.

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People are naturally drawn to leaders who have a clear sense of purpose and a passion for what they do,

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because their belief is infectious.

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So, is your belief clearly articulated, and have you made it infectious?

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So, well, you know, we do this practical downstairs stuff.

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It doesn't matter what you do. Why do you do what you do?

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That is really, really important.

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There are a lot of consultants who come in and help you with the what and the how,

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but the Lord is set up to help you with the why.

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Why are we doing this, Lord?

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What's in it for you? What do you so love? What is it you believe?

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And that's why, you know, when we have our training, like at our Inner Circle in-person meetings,

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one of the great questions we like to ask the Lord, or the Lord is asking you,

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do you believe what I believe about you?

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And by the way, you agreeing with God about you is the foundation of what we would call repentance.

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You see, repentance isn't saying sorry for stuff you did wrong, because that was all dealt with at the cross.

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Repentance is you agreeing with God about you.

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And what you're really agreeing with is, what does God believe about you?

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Let's get specific.

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What does God believe about your role in this business at this time?

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What does He believe about that?

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Now part of this is most people have a much lower opinion of themselves and when a leader

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comes in and has a higher opinion of them, I often say to people, I have a higher opinion

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of you than this.

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It's a great way to call people up.

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Very quick way.

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I have a higher opinion.

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You don't need to do that dumb thing.

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You don't need to say that thing because I have a higher opinion of you than that and

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I found that if you speak to people one step above where they live, you pull them into

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that possibility.

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You give them something to live into.

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But if you're always, well I'm just going to tell people what they are because I'm a

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blunt person and I'm into reality, well then you're just a poor leader.

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You've just limited the most powerful thing you have as a leader if all you're going to

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do is speak to their current reality.

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They get that every day.

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They don't need us as their leaders to tell them that.

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And what sets us apart as kingdom executives, as kingdom leaders, is that we see them as

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bigger than that.

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We believe more.

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We're clear about what we believe in the business.

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We believe in our team's ability to succeed.

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So building confidence in individuals but then build confidence in your team's ability

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to succeed.

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And that's why your belief as a leader instills confidence in your team members.

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So when they get a clear sense that you believe in them and their capabilities, even if they

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think you might have it a little high, but that's the point.

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You're giving them something to live into.

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If you set it too high, then they just get despondent and discouraged because you went

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too quick.

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So the art here is to set it up one notch where they are and when they start moving

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in, set them up one notch.

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And that takes a little bit of practice with a team to figure out what's the rate at which

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we can notch this up.

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And this confidence that you have in them really inspires them to take on new challenges,

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to push themselves further, to strive for excellence, to go further than they thought

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they could do.

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And when you as a leader believe in your team's potential that much, it starts to focus them

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on their strengths, not their weaknesses.

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Because one of the most useless things you can do in your own journey of leadership development

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is try to fix your own weaknesses.

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Just lean into your strengths and do the same for your team.

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Help your team lean into their strengths and that way mitigate some of their weaknesses.

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Let other people carry those areas.

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Try to fix your weaknesses for a reason.

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Because they don't align with your gifting and your passion and your clarity.

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They don't align.

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Stop trying to focus on your weaknesses.

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They're a wonderful gift to you so that you know not to develop them.

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Go and focus on your strengths.

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Lean into your strengths.

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I know that doesn't sound like the thing to do and you must fix everything that's wrong

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with you.

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But don't.

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Part of what we believe at Brilliant is that there is nothing wrong with you.

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Jesus dealt with that.

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Everything was wrong with your old nature and you're dead to that.

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And now you're a new creation being.

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So now he sees what's missing and he's adding what's missing to your experience of him.

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So when we get out of the Fix Me program or Fixing My Employees program, we suddenly open

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up a whole new realm of kingdom leadership that really empowers people.

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So when you believe that your team can genuinely achieve great things, and I'm just talking

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about ordinary people, while I don't have that superstar, well make the superstars.

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Be a superstar creator.

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You don't have to be the superstar.

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So when you help your team see that you believe in their ability, that they can do great things,

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it will encourage experimentation, creativity, and so on.

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Of course there has to be boundaries and so forth, but as we go through that, taking that

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risk with them is one of the most powerful ways you can declare your commitment and belief

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in them.

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But if you never allow them to take risk and say, oh no, I believe in you, just don't take

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any risk without my permission, then what you're really saying is, look, I know you're

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probably going to screw it up and yeah, I know I'm supposed to say you're wonderful,

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but the reality is my actions prove I don't believe in you.

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Or the opposite, which is very empowering.

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Why don't you go and do it?

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I trust you to make the right decision here.

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Let me know what you need.

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How can I help?

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And I saw that in a leadership situation once before, where all the leader did for one week

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is walked around the organization, stopped telling people what to do, just walked around

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asking how can I help?

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It's very powerful.

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How can I help?

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People will tell you.

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Because why that is so empowering is because the messaging in that is, I believe in you.

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I believe you've got this.

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I believe you can create and innovate and do what you need to do.

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How can I help?

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So believing in their abilities until they believe in their abilities.

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doubt them. That is so that is the that's the training for today on the Kingdom

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executive approach to leadership. I hope you enjoyed that.