Welcome, friends, to Halftime Shift, Halftime Reset, whatever you want to call it.
We're going to go after the next five and a half months of 2025 together as a community.
Gentlemen, you will have a chat group after tonight that is titled Halftime, and ladies,
you also will have a chat that is titled Halftime.
So if you really want to be in this to win it, you want accountability, I really want
to encourage you to join that chat.
You don't have to.
You can take what you want from tonight.
You can leave the rest.
But if you want to really go after what we're going to be teaching tonight, which I really
believe that Holy Spirit is speaking to us about this, then we are going to have an accountability
portion of this, okay?
So I'm excited about it.
You guys, yesterday was my half birthday.
So yesterday was my half birthday, and exactly six months from yesterday, I will be 51 years
old.
So I have six months left of my 50th year of life, and we have a little less than six
months left of 2025.
I obviously was born in January, and so that's why my birthday and the end of the year coincide.
They're very close together.
And so I have six months left of my 50th year, my jubilee, as they say, although I'm declaring
a whole decade of jubilee.
Let's go.
All of my 50s, all right?
But then we have a little less than six months.
I think June 2nd was halfway through the year.
All right, a little less, a little less than six months, okay?
David taught a really good session a couple Sunday nights ago.
It was called What Do You Want?
So raise your hand if you were there for that.
All right, quite a bit of you were there for that.
That's great.
So we're going to start with the work that you did during that session.
And if you weren't at that session, you can go watch the replay.
It's in your replays, but also you can jump in tonight because you were supposed to really
be prayerful about what do I want to achieve, accomplish, end, begin, get settled, get past,
you fill in the blank before the end of 2025.
That is what you were supposed to drill down on.
It can't be 15 things, you guys, sorry.
And I'm just going to tell you right now, if you decide to do more than just a couple
things, to focus on more than just a couple things, you're going to fail at everything.
Somebody needs to hear that.
Part of the reason why you're not successful in life is because you're very distracted.
You're very scattered.
You're very unintentional.
You try to do too many things at once.
You pride yourself on being a multitasker, but all you are is a procrastinator.
That's really what it is, okay?
You decide to do all these things at one time.
You start out with a vigor and then you give up because there's no such thing as doing
all of those things at the same time.
There isn't.
So that being said, is it possible that you focus on one or two things that you really
feel like God is highlighting to you?
And then by proxy, a couple other things have tipping points and actually get accomplished
as well, sure.
That is the overflow of the work that you're going to do.
That's the overflow.
And so God can do stuff like that.
He definitely can multiply our effort.
In fact, we're counting on it, aren't we?
We're counting on him to multiply our effort.
But I want you to have one to two things, especially if they don't go together, okay?
Like for instance, if you would tell me, hey, I'm really going to work on really getting
healthy and losing weight, those two things go together, right?
So yeah, one's going to be a natural byproduct of the other probably.
And so cool.
That's awesome.
But if you tell me that you are going to work on changing careers and work on, I'm trying
to think of something that would be big, hairy, audacious, oh, completing a foster care program
and adopting children, I would say, oh, hey, you know, I don't think those two things go
together.
I think that you're probably biting off more than you can chew just for five and a half
months, right?
Especially if you're trying to change careers, because you're not going to look that responsible
on paper to the social service agencies, are you?
You're going to look a little bit tran, a little bit in transition.
which you would be in transition, and that's fine.
Seasons of transition are great, they're wonderful,
as long as they lead somewhere better.
I'm gonna say that again.
Seasons of transition are supposed to lead somewhere better.
And so if you're constantly in transition,
but then after the transition's over,
you find yourself somewhere else,
besides where you wanna be,
then that wasn't a transition.
Not, at least not the right kind of transition.
Okay, we wanna be moving forward.
We wanna be gaining ground, not losing ground.
That's really important.
But for some of us,
we might have to go back a little bit to go forward.
There might be some things that we didn't do
that God asked us to do.
There might be some things that we didn't deal with
that God asked us to deal with.
And because of that, we're actually,
I don't wanna say behind,
because God can catch you up in a heartbeat
when you come to him in repentance
and finally are willing to do the work.
But just case in point,
I'm coaching a couple right now, pre-marital coaching,
that actually met 15 years ago.
They were actually introduced by me 15 years ago.
And they became really good friends.
We had a friend group and they became really good friends.
They were singles in that friend group.
So they became friends.
They did a lot of things together.
But they never were able to get to the next level
with each other because they kept getting distracted.
They kept running off on other endeavors.
They kept getting into other relationships
that were really unhealthy,
which showed where their heart was.
It was really in an unhealthy place.
And then they would revisit the idea of being together
and then they couldn't get past the obstacles
inside of their own heart.
Remember friends, I tell you
that you're never stuck on the outside,
you're only stuck on the inside.
Now I knew from the very beginning
that they were really good match
and I really hope to see them together
because both of them are my friends
and I really enjoy and love both of them
and I love them together.
But you cannot make people do the work
that they're not willing to do.
And I really want someone to hear what I'm saying right now.
You could be delaying your promises
because you're just really not willing to do the work
that you need to do.
And I'm not just talking about heart work.
Although heart work is entangled
and weaved into everything that we do
because we're not stuck on the outside,
we're stuck on the inside.
But there's all kinds of different mindsets,
belief systems, programming
that you're not willing to let go of.
So that's more of the heart work and the mind work.
But then also, you're not willing to let go
of certain things that you need to let go of.
You may not be willing to move
when you really need to move.
Your life is not thriving and you know you need to do it
but you're not willing to do it.
And you're just afraid of what's on the other side
of obedience and so you're never really truly,
fully obedient because you're worried
about what's on the other side of it.
You don't fully trust that God transition
because you know that it may be hard
but it's really harder to stay where you are in life.
And I will tell you that these people
could have been happily married
for probably over a decade now
had they surrendered a lot sooner.
And if that sounds kind of scary to some of you,
then so be it because I don't want you to feel afraid
but I do want you to feel sobered by that idea
that you possibly are the thing that's in your own way.
And 99% of the time that is true,
in some way, shape or form.
So really be open to God in this season
because we're having lots of full circle moments.
And I believe that all of you are scheduled
for a full circle moment.
I don't think that it's for just a few people.
I think it's for everybody.
And not necessarily about romance
but about something that when the opportunity
presented itself, however long ago it was,
you just weren't ready for it.
You weren't.
You weren't willing to surrender.
You weren't willing to change.
You weren't willing to take the risk.
You weren't willing to let go or grab a hold.
Whatever it was, you just weren't willing
to do whatever needed to be done
in order to take advantage of that opportunity.
But perhaps now you are.
And here's the thing.
And this is the thing that should sober you.
If you're not willing this time around,
it will come around again.
And the thing that I'm trying to get you,
it won't look the same probably.
It'll be different, maybe different people,
maybe dressed differently as far as on the outside
of the opportunity.
But it'll be the same thing, just in different packaging.
And the thing that I really want for you
and I want for myself is that we would be ready this time.
That we'd be ready this time.
That we would be willing to allow God to teach us,
show us, heal us, grow us.
It reminds me of the story of the spies
going into the promised land.
coming back and they were showing that,
hey, we're not ready for this upgrade.
Because of their language,
because of their mindsets,
because of their perspectives,
there were a few that were ready,
Caleb and Joshua, but the rest of them, they weren't.
They caused the people to not be ready either
because of the rumors and because of
the negative perspective and all the different things.
There was a lot of wandering and
wondering that didn't need to happen.
Because God's promises for you are always going to stretch you.
You're not going to really ever feel ready for them.
Someone needs to hear that. You're really
not going to ever feel ready for them.
If that is why you continue to say no to opportunity,
then you're never going to be any more ready.
This couple that I'm talking about,
it's no less scary.
They're finally ready to do the work.
They're finally willing to do the work.
It's not about ready, they're willing to do the work.
But it's no less scary than it would have
been five years ago, eight years ago,
10 years ago, 15 years ago.
The work that they would have had to do then,
they're still going to have to do now.
Do you see how it just doesn't change?
I really want to encourage you that we don't want
to wait for it to come full circle again.
The word for 2025 is full circle.
Regardless of what it looks like on the outside,
I believe that a lot of you are going to have
missed opportunities coming back around for different things.
Once again, it doesn't have to have the same details,
but it's going to be the same promise.
And I really want to see you step into it this time.
I want to see me step into it this time.
I'm not just talking to you, I'm talking to me.
And so let's not make God wait on us.
So many people in waiting rooms thinking
they're waiting on God.
It's just really not true.
There's always something ripe and ready for you.
The question is, are you ready for it?
Are you ready to take the chance?
Are you ready to let go of your ego?
Are you ready to say you're sorry?
Are you ready to forgive?
Are you ready to put the past behind you?
Are you ready to try again, even though you failed before?
Are you ready?
I hope so.
Because I believe that God needs us more than ever before
stepping into the things that he has promised us,
shown us, prophesied over us.
More than ever before, he needs us in those spaces.
Because we can't grow until we get there.
We can't start to grow into those things
until we put them on.
You know, your daddy has bought you clothes
that are a little bit too big for you
because he wants you to grow into them.
And it's important that we go ahead and put them on now.
So we're gonna do that with this halftime shift.
And the whole purpose of this is to help you
take inventory of your life and get intentional.
That's the whole purpose of this exercise.
Let's take inventory of our lives and get intentional.
So here's the very first thing that I want you to,
let's pray.
Father God, I thank you for all of your sons and daughters
that are here tonight.
I thank you that we have hearts that are towards you
that really want to step into the things
that you have promised us
and that you have predicted over us
all the way back to our mother's womb,
all the way back to the foundation of the earth.
The stories that you've written about us,
we want to star in those stories in this season.
And so help us to be made willing in your day of power.
Your word says that we will be made willing
in your day of power.
And so I pray God that we'd be made willing,
that we would not allow ourselves to be controlled by fear.
We would not say another time, another day, when I'm ready.
We would not use that language anymore,
but that we would have an urgency to allow you
to mature us quickly as we step into the things
that we do not feel ready or qualified to do.
And so Lord, I pray that a supernatural confidence
would come over your children in Jesus' name, amen.
All right, so the very first thing we're gonna do
is we're gonna take inventory, all right?
It's halftime, we're in the locker room.
We're gonna look at the first half of the game,
the first six months.
This is what they do in the locker room
if you've never played a sport.
This is what we do at halftime.
Yeah, I used to play sports.
What we do at halftime or what we do when we're on a timeout
is we go and we get with the coach,
the coach is Holy Spirit.
And we talk about, very vulnerably, you guys,
you have to be able to get vulnerable to do this exercise.
Don't have pride, don't have ego,
don't be afraid to admit that you've screwed up,
that you've failed.
that yet have been stubborn, unwilling,
whatever you need to do at this halftime
in order to come out of the locker room ready to go.
And so what we're gonna do tonight, first thing,
is we're going to admit to ourselves, what's not working?
What didn't work the first half of the year?
What's not working?
So when you take a few minutes,
I want you to take a look at your paper and write down,
what has not been working for the first half of the game,
the first half of 2025?
And here's some prompts for you
that I have written down here.
Where did you lose time, money, momentum, clarity, hope?
What areas?
You started out the year,
maybe you had some really amazing plans,
but you soon fizzled out in that area.
Write down what that is.
What distractions came?
What detours came?
What demonic interference came?
What negativity came that you started entertaining
and started rehearsing?
What dream did you have at the beginning of the year
that's now on a shelf getting dusty somewhere again?
What kind of warfare came to try to blow you off course?
Friends, dogs don't chase parked cars,
they chase moving cars.
And so if you're moving,
you're gonna have to expect warfare.
I've never seen a dog chasing a parked car,
barking at a parked car.
They're only chasing moving vehicles.
So where did you lose time, money, momentum, clarity, hope?
What dreams did you have at the beginning of the year
that you started to go after, but now they're shelved?
What distractions or detours or demonic interference
came to make that happen, the shelving?
I'll give you three or four minutes to write down.
Go ahead and really spend some time
with Holy Spirit right now.
Dig in and see what you come up with.
And friends, this is not to shame you about this stuff,
this is so we can get a strategy.
Okay, we gotta look at what's not working
in order to come out of the locker room
ready to play the second half of the game and win.
All right, if you have those prompts written down,
then you should be able to go back to this, right?
I wanna keep, for the sake of time,
I wanna keep moving forward here, okay?
All right, so that's kind of step one.
We're gonna take a look at what wasn't working,
what didn't work out, what we gave up on.
And sometimes giving up on something that we had planned
from the beginning is good
because clarity comes before momentum.
If we really wanna go fast towards something,
we need to make sure that that's really what we want.
And perhaps for some of you,
you realized that your dream wasn't big enough.
The thing that you wanted
really wasn't the right thing for you after all.
And so letting go of that is fine
and picking up something else.
All right, so that brings us to step two.
What are you still believing for?
Now, you may have let go of some of the things
you started the year wanting to have happen this year.
This goes back to what David taught about,
what do you want, you should have gotten crystal clear
from that Sunday night activation with David
about one or two key areas that you plan to pursue
for the rest of the year.
Health, getting out of debt, your finances,
whatever it is,
finishing that book,
changing careers.
You're like, can I change careers in six months?
Yeah, you can, you can actually.
For some of you that are retired,
it could be starting a new career,
refiring yourself instead of retiring yourself.
So because we were supposed to already have this work done,
I would like to just go ahead and see in the chat
what those one to two key areas are.
Remember, we don't want more than two.
You're not gonna accomplish more than two
unless it's just by proxy and God allows those birds
to be all killed with one stone, all right?
Emily says, purge stuff and move, love it.
Relocating to Florida and finding a job,
working on a health and taking a couple of classes,
career and health, renovate house at a spot and start,
sorry, that went too fast.
I'm gonna have to pull up the chat here.
Digital marketing business so I can quit the corporate life.
Got it, finance and fitness, health and debt-free,
relocate and find a home, moving,
launching my business, which I did,
work on finishing my training, got it,
start my prophetic channel, go on a date.
Go on one date, you just want one date
before the end of the year, Mike?
Retraining into a new career, complete part one
of becoming an independent distributor
for a nutrition company, get out of debt,
financial stability, date, live on my own,
career and love, stop ignoring my health and join a gym.
If you already did it, Jeannie, then you need a new dream.
Heart healing and intentional dating,
health, making product for business,
marriage to spirit mate and health,
meeting my spirit mate and being engaged this year,
building community where I live,
purge and finish book rough draft,
getting established in my therapy practice again
and creating my side hustle job,
get back to my comfortable weight, finish my book,
finish paintings and create book, health and debt-free,
a move back to the city followed by a car accident
four weeks ago, MPT three days a week, feeling discouraged.
All right, you just released confidence
and courage over you, George.
We're glad to have you back.
Health, prioritizing healthy food, exercise,
making room for someone in my life by decluttering,
making space, being open to moving.
All right, these are all really great, you guys.
These are great.
You guys are getting it.
You're getting ahold of it.
All right, now I want you to take that thing
that you just wrote down and I want you to define
what success would look like by December 31st.
If you were able to succeed in doing that,
what would that look like by December 31st?
And I want you to write it in present tense
as if it's already done.
So I want you to write a little short paragraph
very quickly about you accomplished this thing
that you're putting here,
these one or two things you accomplished it.
I want to know what that looks like.
What does that look like?
So for instance, if I'm debt-free,
then I'm no longer using my entire paycheck
to pay bills anymore, right?
So perhaps I have some money in my savings now.
Perhaps I was able to pay off a car or a house.
I just want you to get more detailed with it
than just that one line.
Do you understand?
If getting healthy is your plan
between now and the end of the year,
then maybe you give us what your blood pressure numbers
or your A1C looks like.
That's your insulin or your insulin resistance number
or your glucose number, your A1C.
Yeah, it goes from a 5.9 to a 4.8
or my blood pressure is 120 over 78
or this is what I weigh on the scale.
This is what clothes size I'm in.
Do you guys get what I mean about
what does it look like to you?
Because when we say, I want to be successful in this,
I want to accomplish this thing,
what does it look like to accomplish it?
Not exactly smart goals, Melissa,
but just what does it look like to accomplish it?
We're not going to get that deep in
because we don't know.
I don't wanna confuse people,
but if that works for you, you can do it.
But for the rest of us, just write a little story,
a little paragraph of what it looks like
to have accomplished that.
The Bible says in Habakkuk 2.2,
write the vision and make it plain.
And that's really what I want you to do right here.
For those of you that may be wondering
what any of this has to do with getting married,
it has everything to do with it.
It has everything to do with it.
All the parts of your life are intertwined.
Okay, this is not a sprint, it's a marathon.
You guys don't really have to try to put the paragraphs
up in the chat unless you want to.
I really just want this for you.
Some of you, it may be deeply personal,
the actual details of what that's gonna look like for you.
For some of you, you have a lot of health problems
that are being caused by your weight.
That paragraph is gonna contain information
about pain being gone from certain parts of your body,
certain symptoms that you're having right now
no longer being there.
It might contain information about your credit score.
Your credit score going from here to here.
I just got a little alert on my phone
saying that over the course of this year,
my credit score has gone up 130 points.
Don't say it can't be done.
I mean, I've been debt-free for a while,
but you guys, being debt-free is amazing.
I really highly recommend it.
It's not as hard as people think it is,
and once again, I believe that when we get intentional
and make a plan, God will order our steps
and he will bless that plan.
He's not obligated to direct you or instruct you
until you go ahead and get intentional and make your plan.
Everyone got your little paragraph?
Once again, you could write this prompt down
and finish it later.
Right, here's where it gets fun.
Here's where I get excited,
because I'm a very visual person.
Anyone else visual?
Anyone else a real visual learner?
Sorry, I have the hiccups right now.
I mean, realistic to be engaged by the end of the year.
I mean, being engaged when you don't know someone yet
and we only have five and a half months left,
it's not unrealistic.
I mean, you could get engaged after only knowing someone
for five and a half months,
or four months, or three months, or two months,
but I would rather see you put in your story
that you want to be in relationship with the person
that you're gonna marry before the end of the year,
because we have way more than enough time
for a love story this year still.
Way more than enough time for a love story this year.
All right.
By the way, friends, I wanna tell you something exciting.
We actually did the calendar
for the remainder of the year for our retreats,
and we're gonna be putting that information up
on my website on the event page.
And so if you go there now,
you won't see an event page, it's not live.
We just have it behind the scenes,
but we are going to be putting up those dates
and you will be able to go and mark them on your calendar.
It's gonna be fun.
All right, here's step three for tonight.
And step three, I've entitled Picture It,
Feel It, and Speak It.
That is what I've entitled because I am a visual learner
and I love to remind myself,
and that is why the Jesus Cares Board exists
and all of you should know what that is
because you all should have made one
when you were back in your heartwork era
during the program.
Okay, so my question.
for you is, can you see it?
You just wrote a paragraph of what success would look like
if you were able to accomplish your one to two goals
before the end of the year.
You wrote a paragraph about what it would look like,
but now I want you to close your eyes
and I want you to begin to visualize.
All eyes should be closed.
All eyes should be closed
and I want you to begin to visualize.
Imagine yourself, it's New Year's Eve, 2025.
It's December 31st.
We're about to step over the Gregorian calendar line
into January 1st.
It's a couple hours before midnight
and your eyes are closed
and you're thinking back on the year 2025
as it's about to end
and you're thinking about all of the things
that have happened this year,
all that you've been able to accomplish.
I want you to be visualizing that paragraph that you wrote,
visualizing those one to two goals,
what it looks like for them to be accomplished,
for you to have succeeded in them.
Right now, I want you to imagine yourself,
New Year's Eve, 2025.
What are you thinking about?
What are you picturing in your mind's eye?
What are you seeing?
What are you celebrating?
What are you so thankful for?
What are you full of gratitude for about these things
that have come to pass?
See it.
See it, Gail.
Keep your eyes closed.
See it.
George, you can't see it if you're writing.
No one should be typing right now.
See it.
Be living it in the movie of your mind.
Wow.
Thinking about how healthy you feel and look
and the beautiful dress or suit that you are wearing
that you haven't been able to wear for years
or never thought you'd be able to wear ever in your life
or buy something like that
or be confident enough to wear something like that.
For those of you that accomplished
some kind of creative project,
see it in your mind.
See the painting.
See the book.
See the project.
See the business.
See the thing.
See it.
All right, go ahead and open your eyes.
Now, whatever is it that you saw, your homework,
because remember, we're gonna have chats.
We're gonna have chats in the men's group.
You guys are gonna have a chat.
It's gonna be entitled Halftime Shift
and also ladies, you're gonna have a chat too.
I want you to make, not a Jesus Cares board,
but I want you to make a mini vision board
just on the paragraph
and on the visualization that you just did.
I want you to make a mini vision board
that shows this,
shows what you just saw in your mind's eye.
You might've seen yourself driving a new car
because you got out of debt.
You're able to pay cash for a car,
buy a car that you loved.
Maybe you're moving into your new house,
living in your new state
because relocating is what you wanna do
before the end of the year.
Maybe you saw yourself in a new career.
So maybe you put on that little mini vision board,
what you're wearing to work now.
Maybe it's a job where you have to wear
a specific type of uniform.
Maybe it's a job where you have to dress up,
wear a suit,
wear some heels.
Maybe you got a new haircut for your new job.
I want you to make a mini vision board.
And then the next thing I want you to do,
because remember this step is called picture it, feel it.
We were just feeling it.
And every time you look at that vision board,
I want you to feel it.
I want you to take it in.
I want you to feel like it's happening.
Like it's possible.
Like you're gonna end this year
having accomplished this thing,
these things, these two things, these one things.
And then I want you to speak it.
So we're gonna create some affirmations
and I'm gonna help you really quickly
because if I just say,
hey, I want you to speak some affirmations daily
about living out this dream,
accomplishing these goals,
a lot of you won't do it
because you don't know where to start.
So really quickly,
let's do a little sidebar on creating affirmations, shall we?
All right, get ready.
Guys, we already know that God created worlds,
not world, but worlds, universes with his words.
and we've been created in his image, okay?
So when we speak the right things
in the right direction towards heaven,
we reprogram our mind, we align our spirit,
and we activate our faith, we do.
Words have power, friends, words are not empty,
and that's why you gotta watch your words.
Some of you are actually tearing down your future
with your mouth.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Proverbs 18, 21.
Okay, so we're going to create
some faith-filled affirmations right now,
speaking about our future reality,
in present tense agreement with God's promises,
and this God-given vision that you have on your board, okay?
So here's how you're gonna create them.
Here's the question prompt.
What do I want to be true by December 31st, 2025?
We're gonna start with the end in mind, you guys.
We're starting with the end in mind right now.
Right now, you're speaking it in faith,
but what do you want to be true,
totally true, manifested by December 31st, 2025?
And here's some examples.
I want to be in the healthiest shape of my life.
I said that at the beginning of 2025.
I want to be in the best shape of my entire life,
even though I know I'm 50, not 21,
but I want to be in the best shape of my whole life.
Some of you might say, I want to be engaged to a godly man,
or I want to be in relationship with a godly man.
Gentlemen, you might say, I want to be in relationship
with a beautiful and Jesus-loving woman.
Get as detailed as you want to on that.
Some of you say, I want to be a published author.
A lot of you put a book in your thing just now,
and I've written several books.
I have another book coming out,
and I know that that's a labor of love,
and it feels so good when you accomplish it.
Seriously, friends, I didn't know if anyone
was ever gonna read any of my books,
and it didn't matter because I did it.
I did it.
And even if only one person read it, you know?
My grandma.
I did it.
And so you're starting with what you want to be true.
I want this, I want this, I want this, I want that.
And then once you get those down,
write them down really quick.
Come on, let's go.
Once you get them down,
I want you to flip them into present tense,
because we're gonna speak from the outcome.
We're gonna speak from the end, okay?
So we're gonna speak as if it's already happened and done.
So I want to lose weight or be in the best shape of my life
turns into I am strong, I am energized,
I am walking in divine health.
You see how it shifts to the present tense?
I hope I meet someone.
Turns into I'm attracting my godly husband or wife
with confidence, peace, and joy.
These are just some I have written down here.
Okay, see how we shift them?
So go ahead and tell me what your I wants are.
Start with the end in mind.
What you want to be true by December 31st.
And once you have those down,
let's shift them into present tense affirmations.
And the way that you do that is you add emotion to it.
You add identity to it.
I'm gonna give you a few more examples while you're working.
I am free, focused, and favored.
I'm living boldly and unapologetically
in the new career, fill in the blank, that God has given me.
Here's one.
Maybe some of your goals are to break free from rejection
and personality difficulties that are keeping you stuck.
So for those of you that are people pleasers
or people that are hiding behind the labels
that I'm shy and I'm introverted,
maybe this is for one of you guys.
I'm no longer shrinking.
I am confident.
I show up as the main character in my life story.
I am the star of my show.
And I'm fully seen, fully known, and fully loved.
Come on.
You're the star of your show.
I know as Christians, we're not supposed
to say things like that because that seems like ego,
but it's not ego.
God created you to be the star of your show.
You're not taking anything away from Jesus
by being the star of your show.
You are.
He wants you to shine.
But then after you're...
done after you shine, he wants you to be able to tell people why you shine. That's all.
It does not do God any favors if his kids are broke, busted, and disgusted.
All right? Ugly, fat, unhealthy, disease-ridden, broke, dumb.
For those of you that are parents, would you like for your children to show up in this world
like that? Would you want your kids to show up in this world like that?
People feeling sorry for them because they're so pathetic? Is that what you would want?
No, you would want your kids to be glorious. You'd want your kids to shine, talented,
smart, beautiful, amazing, but also kind and gracious and loving and merciful.
You guys, those are not either ors. Those are both ands.
You have permission to shine. You're not stealing any glory from God. You are God's glory.
The Bible says that the children are the glory of the Father.
And when he says about Jacob, I will not give my glory to another,
he's not talking about Jacob stealing his glory. He's talking about him saving Jacob
because Jacob is his glory. You can't just read the Bible. You got to read the Bible.
So many people use that scripture for talented people, people that are singing or doing
something amazing. Oh, don't steal God's glory. Make sure that you get up there and say, oh,
don't applaud me. This is all Jesus. Well, it's not Jesus. It's you.
It's you. Jesus made it possible for, by dying on the cross so that you can be
reconciled to your divine identity, but it's you and it doesn't do you any good.
Someday you're going to throw your crown at his feet for sure. But in this life,
you have to make sure that you show up as a child of God and the glory of God in the earth.
And that does not make you conceited.
All right. Some of you need to add some real emotion to these declarations
and it's going to feel weird. It's going to feel like you're bragging about yourself and
that's going to be uncomfortable for you. But you know what? You're going to have to get past that
because this is part of the reason why you're stuck.
God's not afraid of you saying that you're amazing. He already knows you're amazing.
You're the one that needs convincing, not him. You're the one. Okay.
All right. Then once you have those beautiful declarations in present tense, I am, I have, I did.
I feel free, focused, favored. I'm living boldly, confident,
favored. I'm living boldly, confidently. I'm no longer blank, blank, blank. Okay.
Once you do that, then let's back it up with the word.
So we're going to anchor these affirmations in scripture to make them prophetic.
Now we're going to make them prophetic. Here's Psalm 1 3. I'm fruitful and productive in every
season. I prosper in everything I put my hand to. That's like the Midas touch, isn't it? Everything
I touch turns to gold. Now that wasn't good for Midas, but it is good for us, right? That story
didn't end well for him, but Psalm 1 3 says that we can prosper in every season. Here's some more
examples. Philippians 1 6, Proverbs 21 5. I put both those scriptures together in one affirmation.
I have divine strategies and supernatural discipline to finish this year strong.
And friends, if you're having trouble finding scriptures to back up your, I am, and I have,
and I will, and I did affirmations, then in those chats, you can post them and ask other people to
give you scriptures to help back them up. We're going to work together as a team, as a community
to help this happen. Cool. All right. So here's some bonus tips that I want you to remember about
these affirmations. Speak them out loud every morning, speak them before you go to bed,
rehearse them. The Bible says, rehearse, meditate on his word day and night, write them on sticky
notes, put them on your phone lock screen. You guys know that you can put anything you want on
your phone lock screen, right? Put it before your face somewhere on the bathroom mirror. So you see
in the morning when you're brushing your teeth, first thing you guys, I used to carry affirmations
and scriptures around in my purse on note cards. I did. It's a real thing.
If you just want to listen, if you're someone who wants to listen to something while you're
on the treadmill, record yourself speaking them and then put it on repeat in your own
ears while you're on the treadmill, while you're out doing your morning walk.
Record yourself and then listen to yourself.
And remember, you want to do it even when you don't feel like doing it because there's
going to be lots of times in the next five and a half months when you're not going to
feel like this.
Faith is not a feeling, okay?
Faith is works.
Faith the proof of belief is action.
Julio?
Good?
Okay.
All right.
So we're going to picture it, feel it, and speak it.
You're going to make those little mini boards, those little mini vision boards, and then
you're going to write some affirmations in present tense to back them up and back it
up with scripture.
And we'll help you with that if you get stuck.
Let me see how much time I have left.
I have about 15 minutes.
We're going to go after the rest of this.
Okay.
Here's step four.
If you don't schedule it, you better scrap it.
I have told you guys this from day one of this entire movement.
Don't tell me you want something unless it's blocked out on your calendar.
I've learned that the hard way myself.
You know, we can have all kinds of wishes.
This is not about wishing and hoping.
This is about action.
The proof of belief is action.
And so if it's not on your calendar, then it doesn't matter to you.
If you've not made room for it, if you've not scheduled it, it doesn't matter to you.
Oh, you know, I'm just going to try to get to the gym every day.
You ain't going to the gym.
You're not going to go to the gym.
Well, I got to try, I got to try to figure out to find time for it.
You're not going to find time for it.
You got to make time for it.
Didn't you hear that said when you were a little kid?
Can't find time, got to make time.
You have to time block.
Friends, you have to time block.
If it's important, it will be given space on your calendar, on your schedule.
So I want you to create a time block for this every week, every day of the week.
If it's only two or three days, be realistic.
If you can't do it every day, can't go to the gym every day, then you have to figure
out how many times do I need to go to the gym in order to be my healthiest version of
myself by the end of 2025?
Is it three times?
Is it four times?
And then you have to block it on your calendar.
You're going to have to give up other things.
I don't want any of you to think that you're just going to march right into 2026 having
accomplished a few of your most important goals in 2025 without having to have sacrificed
something.
It isn't.
For those of you that said, you want to write a book, you guys, I sacrificed a bunch.
I had to give up income.
I had to give up a job.
I had to give up going out with friends.
I had to give up a social life.
I had to give it all up.
Everyone else is out having fun.
Where am I?
Writing.
Was it fun?
No, it wasn't fun.
It wasn't.
And at the end of every day, I was like, ugh.
I would read back what I wrote and just be like, this is crap.
Raise your hand if you love The Heart Work, the book.
Raised your hand.
Don't lie either.
If you don't like it, I don't care.
I want to see for those of you that you read that book and you got a breakthrough from
it.
You laughed.
You cried.
You were challenged in your faith.
So many people kind of unanimously.
Let me tell you something.
That was the first book that I ever wrote.
It's the first book that I wrote.
I wrote it in about three months of 14, 15 hour a day writings.
Some of you know the story behind that.
God told me to stop doing everything else and focus on that.
And I did.
But I want to tell you, and hopefully this is encouraging to someone, at the end of every
day's writing session, I was like, this book is terrible.
This book stinks.
I hate this book.
But someone gave me a wise piece of advice, and I'm going to give it to you right now.
Don't re-read it until the whole book is over, done.
Don't go read, don't read it.
Just write it and be like, okay, it wasn't that great, but I'm just going to go on to
the next part.
When you're.
finished with the entire manuscript,
it's probably gonna be a while.
When you're finished with the entire manuscript,
go back and read it from the beginning.
And now there's some space and time
between what you wrote and where you are now.
And I'm just gonna tell you,
you're gonna read it, you'll be like, this is brilliant.
This is so good, I don't even remember writing that
or saying that.
By the way, you guys, I'm announcing the pre-sale
of my new book, Modern Dating Sucks next week.
So I'm gonna announce the pre-sale of it
and you'll be able to get it in pre-sale only from me.
I'm not selling it anywhere else.
You'll only be able to get it from me in pre-sale
until October.
Okay, so that is beside the point.
But for those of you that are writing anything,
and this goes with all creative projects.
If you're writing songs, if you're writing books,
if you're painting, if you're decorating,
if you're, just stay in the flow.
Go look back at the beginning of it later.
Later, painting a picture, drawing a picture,
writing a kid's book, someone's writing a kid's book,
someone's illustrating and writing a kid's book,
or you're writing and you're looking for an illustrator.
Do not give up and also do not critique
what you have done already until it's fully finished.
All right, hopefully that helps somebody.
All right, so we're gonna time block.
So maybe if for those of you that are writing or painting
or drawing or decorating or whatever,
you're gonna time block.
I need so many hours a week working on this.
And you're gonna have to give stuff up.
I had to give up a lot of stuff.
A lot of time, a lot of fun, and I like to have fun.
It'd be worth it.
For those of you that are looking for a new job,
you're gonna have to time block out specific set of time
where you're gonna be working on your resume.
When you're gonna be going
and getting some continuing education
so that you have the credentials to get a better paying job.
Maybe that's what you have to do.
You have to take some classes.
Some of you have to re-up your licenses.
You gotta take some continuing ed on license stuff.
For others of you,
you're gonna have to spend time researching jobs.
For those of you that are moving,
you're gonna have to spend some time researching places
to live in that other place.
You're gonna have to block off some time
to go travel to that place.
Go travel to that place,
get your feet on the soil of that new land and territory
and start to walk and pray in those places,
those new states, those new cities, those new zip codes,
and let God begin to open doors and show you things.
You may have to take several trips to that new place
before the doors start opening.
You have to do it, okay?
So if it matters, you're gonna make space for it.
You're gonna make space for it, okay?
All right, step five.
You're gonna have to sow into it.
That's what I have here.
What are you willing to invest in order to get this?
All of you are willing to invest in this program
so that you could get into your marriage-minded courtship.
What are you investing in?
What kind of time are you investing?
What kind of money are you investing?
What kind of energy are you investing?
What?
Stop wasting your resources, your time, your energy,
your money, your bandwidth.
I know you think you can do it all,
but I'm just here to tell you, you cannot.
You cannot do it all.
And I do believe that we can have it all.
I do, all the things that God has promised us,
I believe we can have all of those things,
but we probably can't have it all.
We probably can't have them all at the same time,
meaning that there are some dreams that will have to die
and you will have to let go of
because their time has expired
in order for you to actualize new dreams.
New beginnings require endings, and that's a true story.
Can't have it all at the same time.
Cannot.
I loved raising my children, but friends,
I had to give up a lot to raise my children.
There are a lot of people that don't give up anything,
and you know what they don't do?
They don't raise their children, someone else does.
School systems do.
Their friends of their children's parents do,
coaches do, other people around.
And then they grow up and they wonder
why their kids are not close to them,
why their kids don't wanna be around
because you didn't invest any time in your kids.
And I'm not here to shame you,
but I am here to tell you that it's not too late
if one of the things that you want
before the end of the year is a vibrant relationship.
with your children and grandchildren, you can have it,
but you're going to have to really invest.
You're gonna have to invest the time and the energy
that you didn't invest when they were growing up.
After the divorce, you ran off
and tried to do your own thing, meet a man, meet a woman.
You're out trying to medicate your own wounds,
trying to make double the money
because there's only one income now,
but you made those choices
and you may have thought they were the right ones
at the time, but here's the truth.
The truth is, is that your children
want to see you invest your time and your energy,
your money, your emotional bandwidth into them.
Those years were really hard for me, you guys.
I'm a high capacity woman
and I always knew that I was called to do great things.
I always knew that I was called to minister
and speak and write and do all kinds of things,
but my kids needed my full attention.
They'd already been through a divorce.
They were young.
They were six, nine, and 11 years old
and they needed my attention.
And I reluctantly at first gave it to them,
reluctantly at first.
I tried my best to lean into that.
And I can tell you now, all three of my children
have chosen amazing partners.
They're all super healthy and happy
and well situated and talented
and walking in their identities in Christ.
And they absolutely adore me and David.
They want to be around us
more than they want to be around anybody.
They're stuck like glue to us
and not in a codependent way.
And you know what?
All those years of sacrifice, worth it.
And I'm still young and I can do all the things.
And so if you didn't do that,
I want you to repent of that now
and ask God to accelerate your relationship
with your children so that it doesn't take
15 years of raising them
because you don't have that anymore.
They're raised.
But God is able to accelerate that healing
and that bonding so that you can have
the rest of your lives together.
All right?
But they're going to want to see you invest
in them, in their children.
If you're still too distracted all about your own stuff,
forget it.
They're not going to give you a chance.
They need to see you investing and sacrificing for them.
It can't be all about you.
I already told you that you're the main character
of your story, but don't be a main character.
You know what that means?
Main character, personality.
When we're shallow and selfish, we don't want that.
Yes, you're the star of your story,
but make sure that your story
is about loving and serving others.
Let's just put a little thing in there.
Okay.
I have this down here.
What do you need to stop wasting your resources on?
What do you need to stop wasting your time
and your energy and your bandwidth on?
Because you're not getting a harvest back from that.
If you stop wasting your resources
on whatever that thing is,
then you can have more resources to sow into other stuff.
So go ahead and think about that for a second.
What am I wasting my resources on?
Time, energy, finances, emotional bandwidth, talents.
Marsh is on it.
She's like social media.
I'm wasting my time on that.
Social media, y'all.
God help us.
And you guys, AI is so rampant on social media.
The stories and all the things, the videos are not real,
and it's so bizarre.
I have seen so many heartbreaking, fake news,
AI stories about the floods in Texas
and about children being rescued alive
and all kinds of stuff that just simply is not reality.
And it has caused so many people to have hope
in things that are just absolutely not accurate.
It's really scary.
And a lot of people just don't know how to recognize that.
So they think it's real and it's bad.
All right, so get honest with yourself
about where you're wasting your stuff.
Let's stop wasting.
Let's not be wasteful.
We wanna sow into things that are fruitful.
We wanna sow into things that are not fruitful.
We wanna sow into things that are fruitful.
You can't harvest from a field that you never sowed into.
Kind of, I mean, you kind of can.
The Bible has promised us that if we focus
and are intentional and are obedient
to what God is telling us to do.
Then we can be in alignment with a transfer of wealth.
You can harvest vineyards that you didn't plant, live in houses that you didn't build.
I believe that.
I do.
But we have to sow somewhere.
So let's be sowing.
If we want Amos 9.13 to happen where the reaper overtakes the sower and there's a perpetual
suddenly season of harvest, we've got to be sowing our time, our energy, our talents,
all the things.
Okay.
Number six, we want to take immediate and imperfect action, friends.
Fire shoot aim.
Not, not, what is it?
Shoot aim fire or whatever.
No.
The opposite.
The other way around.
You want to go ahead and take imperfect action.
Sorry, I feel like I'm screaming, but the air in my daughter's house, I'm at my daughter's
is really loud.
All right.
So I want you to think of one thing that you can do even before you go to bed tonight,
they can start moving this promise forward either tonight or tomorrow morning.
Send the email, do the research, make the phone call.
Don't wait to feel the motivation.
Hopefully you feel motivation from tonight's talk, but you might not.
So go ahead and move.
Just make a decision.
Do it.
People often ask me, Jackie, you know, how do you accomplish so much?
Like, how are you successful?
I just do it, just do it.
Sometimes it doesn't work out.
That's okay.
That's why it's called imperfect action.
I just learned one way not to do it.
And then I don't do it like that the next time.
I just do it a different way.
Do it.
You don't need permission from God.
He already gave you permission.
You already have permission.
You're pre-approved.
You're pre-approved, okay?
I wrote this.
This is in my notes and I want to speak it over you and I want you to write it down.
Action breaks intimidation.
If you're intimidated to start, taking action will break that intimidation off of you.
Even the smallest action.
And then the other part of that is action activates favor.
Remember, God will order our steps when we make a plan, when we start moving.
Don't just make the plan, activate the plan.
All right.
Step seven, protect the process.
I want you to think about the first half of this year.
Some of you have already been trying to get this accomplished in the first six months
and you weren't able to.
You made very little progress or maybe no progress and I want you to get honest with
yourself and ask yourself what or who has been derailing you.
It might be you derailing you and your own bad mindsets, your own guilt and shame and
beat yourself up.
I told someone today, they wanted advice about something.
They're always asking me for advice and they wanted advice about something that they were
dealing with, some intrusive thoughts that they were having.
And I just straight up told them, why are you trying to find something wrong with yourself?
And they're like, what?
I was like, why can't you just be happy?
I said, every time your life is going good and you're liking your life and you're making
progress and you're getting momentum, you find a reason to punish yourself for something,
to find something wrong with yourself, to have intrusive thoughts that you feel guilty
about.
Or I was like, why can't you just enjoy your life?
And for some of you, that's true.
You're derailing you.
You won't allow yourself to be happy.
You're not going to allow yourself to accomplish these goals because you hate yourself and
you hate yourself because of shame.
You hate yourself because of things that you've been through that now you have taken on yourself.
They might've been done to you.
Maybe you did them, but you haven't forgiven yourself and, or you have reframed the problem
as you being the problem instead of allowing it to be other people's, in other people's
court.
You're just punishing yourself because of shame.
Can't do this.
You're not going to be successful if you don't believe that you're allowed to be successful.
And for some of you, this is very, very true.
All right.
So identify your biggest distraction, your biggest self-sabotage.
Some of you, and I did a Supernatural Saturday about this,
probably like two months ago,
but as soon as you start getting some momentum,
things start happening that are derailing you,
and they're always the same things.
You start getting sick.
You're like, well, I can't control getting sick.
Yeah, you can.
If there's a pattern of you getting sick
and having health problems
every time that you start to gain momentum
in your life, that's demonic.
There's something tied to that.
That's not a coincidence.
And maybe you're not even really truly getting sick.
Maybe you're just worrying about getting sick.
Maybe you're all of a sudden focusing on that knee pain
that you've had for 20 years now,
but all of a sudden you're like,
oh, I think it's something really bad.
No, you're just self-sabotaging.
You're just self-sabotaging.
Every time you start to gain momentum,
you have financial problems.
You have car problems.
You have relationship problems.
Every time things are peaceful and going well,
you pick a fight with someone.
You get into some big, hairy, nasty,
offense-laden situation with somebody.
It's a pattern.
So let's identify those self-sabotaging patterns, friends,
and let's cut them off.
Let's do the hard work.
Let's get down to the root.
All right, the other way we're going to protect the process
is with accountability.
In that chat, we're going to hold each other accountable.
You guys, please don't over-coach each other in those chats.
Don't offend each other.
Don't give people unsolicited coaching advice.
If you really want to tell someone something,
start out with, hey, I think I see something here.
You know, would you mind if I shared?
You know, do you want to, you know,
would you like me to share?
Would it be okay if I shared?
And if it's not the kind of advice or feedback
that you would want to get publicly,
then don't give it to them publicly.
If it would embarrass you to get that in a group chat,
then it would probably embarrass them too.
Okay?
Okay.
I learned this years ago.
God spoke this to me and I'm going to speak it over you.
The enemy of your dream
is distraction.
It's not the devil.
Okay?
The enemy of your dream is not failure.
In fact, you're going to have to fail to succeed.
So expect it.
Get up and try again.
The enemy of your dreams and goals is distraction.
I want you to say it.
Distraction is my enemy.
Whatever distracts me and tries to keep me
from staying focused is my enemy.
All right.
Step eight, last step.
Repeat the dream, the goal, daily.
Daily.
Build a daily shift ritual.
You want a daily shift ritual.
So I'm going to have a five minute check-in in the morning.
Do it again before you go to bed if you need to.
What are you doing right there?
Your affirmations.
Those are your affirmations.
That's what you're going to do right there.
You're going to speak the vision.
You're going to touch the plan.
If it's written in a journal, you're going to look at it.
If you made a little mini board, you're going to look at it.
You're going to visualize.
You're going to reconnect to the why behind the what
every single day.
You're going to stay anchored, stay connected.
Pray over it.
Let God show you what you can't see.
Teach me, show me, heal me, grow me.
God renews our mind through repetition, friends.
Romans 12 too.
It comes by reputation.
That's how God renews our mind.
Manifestation of promise.
All right.
Those are all eight of our steps.
They're not hard, they all build on each other.
They all go together.
We can do this, we can achieve.
We can, we can achieve these goals, these dreams.
We can step into this manifestation of promises
and breakthrough.
We can do it.
I told someone today, one of my private clients,
I told them they wanted to...
They wanted to get back on the apps.
I wanna say something that I know is gonna offend
a lot of you, but I'm gonna go ahead and say it.
70% of adults are meeting their spirit mate on an app, 70%.
I know you don't like that, I know you hate the apps.
And I'm not telling you to get on the apps.
Please do not make this part of your plan
if it's not part of your plan.
But this person wanted to get on the apps, back on the apps.
She's 38 years old, I think.
And this is what I told her.
I said, do not get on the apps
unless you have a strategy and a plan.
She's like, what do you mean?
I said, you have to time block this.
People feel burnt out and discouraged by technology dating
because they don't do it right.
Now she's my private client,
so I put together a strategy for her.
You have to time block this.
You don't just get on the apps when you're lonely
or when you feel like it, swipe a little bit
and then get off and then get back on three months later.
Have a binge where you're swiping constantly
for 24 hours straight and then you fall off and bleh.
No, that's not how you do this, okay?
You have to have a strategy.
You have to time block it, just like everything else.
And so if part of your plan for meeting someone
that you're gonna be marriage-minded with
before the end of 2025 and you have a plan
to use technology to help and aid you in that goal,
you have to time block it.
You have to choose an app, a platform
that Holy Spirit is leading you to.
And you have to make the best profile that you can
with the tools and the resources
and the understanding that you have,
and we've done a lot of teaching on that,
and I'll post this in your groups
for those of you that wanna do this.
And then you have to make a plan
of how often you're going to be on there,
swiping, choosing people to connect with
and then talking in messages to those people.
Okay, deleting the ones that aren't going anywhere,
making a decision of how many people
you're gonna connect with per week,
how many conversations you're gonna let them have with you
until they have the date, and if they don't,
going ahead and pruning them off.
You have to have a strategy.
And you can't give up on that app
when you haven't met someone in two weeks
and switched to another app, you have to stay with it.
You felt like God led you there to that platform,
to that technology.
These are the things that you have to do
if you're going to be successful there.
People wanna get on there
and they wanna do two or three swipes
and just meet the person
they're gonna spend the rest of their life with,
and if it doesn't happen like that,
then they get very frustrated.
And then some people work those apps like a job,
they're super burnout, they're bitter, they're jaded,
but they've put all their hope and trust
in technology-based dating
because they just simply don't think
they can meet anyone in person.
You have to decide what's right for you.
And I think a hybrid of doing a little bit of both
is really important in summertime,
let's get out, let's meet people,
but we have to have a strategy.
We have to time block,
we have to spend a specific amount of time,
energy, resources on our dream,
no matter what our dream is.
Correct?
All right, did you guys enjoy tonight?
I hope you did.
So in the chat, we can hold each other accountable,
you can dig into what it is that you're going after,
you can tell people, people can cheer you on,
we're all gonna clap when each other win.
People can give you feedback if you invite feedback.
Friends, if they're not inviting feedback,
don't give them feedback.
If you do want feedback, make sure you ask for it,
say, hey, I'm thinking about doing this
and this is what I'm gonna hold myself accountable to,
does anyone have anything to add?
Does anyone have any resources or tools
they think I should take a look at?
Support one another.
Right?
Sound good?
All right.
Father God, we thank you that you've created us to succeed,
that we are winners, Lord.
And so Father, we thank you that each and every one of us
are going to get the resources, the tools, the strategies,
the favor, the understanding,
in order to accomplish our dreams and goals
that you have set aside for us for 2025.
We believe that your promises are yes and amen,
and we believe that now is our time,
more than ever before we have to step
into places of authority, into places of favor,
into places of success, in our relationships,
in our health, in our wealth, in community, in the world.
We are leaders, not followers, except of Christ.
And so Lord, we thank you, God, that you love us
and that you're for us and life is for us,
and now is our time, in Jesus' name, amen.
All right, friends.
I'll see you soon. Bye, everyone.