All right, friends, let's get started.
Welcome to Supernatural Saturday.
The summer is in full swing, friends, and there's all kinds of different things happening
here at Jane Media.
If you did not know, that's the name of my company, and we have all kinds of fun things
planned for the summer and early fall.
We just finished up our dates and calendars for the retreats and the singles events that
will be coming up here over the next couple of months, August, September, October, November,
and we will be allowing that calendar to be live and visible on JackieDorman.com here
within the next couple of days.
All right, so you'll be able to go there, you'll be able to look and see, hey, where's
Jackie?
Kind of like, where's Waldo?
Where's she going to be?
Where can I come and see her?
One of the exciting events that you're going to see all throughout the calendar on the
next few months are book parties.
Modern Dating Sucks is ready to go into pre-sale, soft launch.
You will not be able to buy that book unless you buy it from me or you buy it at one of
these book parties.
So we will be having book parties in Austin, in Dallas, in Nashville, in Florida, we haven't
fully decided where, in the New York, New Jersey area, and out in California.
If you want us to bring the book party, to bring the party to your city, to your state,
to your church, then we want you to let us know and help us to make a way to do that,
and we would be happy to do that as well.
So Modern Dating Sucks is going to be a really awesome manifesto of what is out there, what
is happening.
Remember, the Ancient of Days, he has ancient ways, and that's what that book is all about.
How can we shift back into the ancient ways of God in our love lives, and how can we get
success in this area that God has hardwired us to want to have success in?
And so that will be there on the calendar.
There will also be a few retreats.
There's an Austin retreat, there's the five year anniversary party in Austin for last
year's single.
We've been around for five years.
We did go through a name change, as you know, married in 12 months or less, shifted a couple
years ago to last year's single.
So we'll be celebrating this movement in its five year, the number of grace anniversary.
I really believe that after we celebrate this five years, I mean, obviously we get engagement
announcements every week.
We have all kinds of success here, but I really believe that there's going to be a special
grace and momentum on us as we come together to celebrate being obedient to God's word,
giving him our yes for five years.
Yes, there's been a lot of high mountain top moments.
Every time we get an engagement picture from one of you, every time we get to coach you
into keeping it a yes and not allowing it to be a no, because it's an amazing relationship.
I've been doing that.
I've been doing some private coaching with some couples that I have been really rooting
for for a long time that are finally getting down and doing their heart work and realizing
that, hey, this is a really great relationship.
I've just had a little bit of attachment style issues.
It's always rewarding for me.
Those are my wins.
But you guys, there's a lot of low moments.
There's a lot of hard moments.
There's a lot of warfare, you know, dogs don't chase parked cars.
So we've been moving for the last five years, creating momentum and the revival of marriage
and family.
And so as you can expect, we've had lots of warfare, you know, in our extended family
with my brother's mental health, with my niece and nephew, with their mental health, also
with just our physical health, with financial stuff, with all different types of just warfare
types of things that have happened.
Also to our team, continue to cover and pray for us that leads you here in this movement.
Our team, same thing.
They've all had all kinds of things happen that we can attribute back to warfare, in
my opinion.
So that is why we're celebrating five years of yes, because it has not been a smooth paved
road.
It's been a little bit of an off road.
We've definitely had to kick it into four wheel drive many, many times and not give
up.
There's been all kinds of intrigue, all kinds of intrigue.
And so I am very thankful that God gave us the grace to keep going.
And here we are.
And I believe this is just the beginning.
So we'll be having that big party here in Austin in mid-October.
So if you want to go ahead and mark your calendars, but you'll be able to see that master calendar
here within the next couple of days.
They're just putting the finishing touches on it, and it's going to be there and ready
for you to write those dates down, ask off from your job, get ready to travel if need
be, and come and lock arms with us at some of these fun events.
parties. Also, if you follow me on Instagram, you might notice that I launched a summer book club.
It's going to start next week. It's going to go for four weeks. It's on my bestseller,
Married in 12 Months or Less. I just realized the other day that I haven't really done anything with
this book. It has a lot of great content in it. Obviously, it's completely different than the
heart work that we use here in our program to get that inner healing piece before we move forward
into dating momentum. Married in 12 Months or Less is basically a manifesto of the divine
masculine and feminine. I'm going to do a read along with activations and coaching for the next
four weeks for the people that sign up for that book club. Then I'm going to put that baby to bed
so that we can get focused on modern dating stocks because that book is full of all kinds of truth
bombs and freedom for people that are out in these dating streets. Those are just a few
announcements that I wanted to make on this Supernatural Saturday. If you are in the program,
you haven't yet made it to our VIP group, which is phase three, last year's single community,
continue to move towards that. We want to get you over there because we have all kinds of
great things happening over there. One of those things is the halftime shift.
Raise your hand if you're part of the halftime shift right now.
Okay, lots of people in our VIP group. Some of you are just in the program.
You're still doing your heart work. You're doing your love story accelerator. You have the
opportunity to upgrade to our subscription, our VIP group. Then some of you are in what we call
last year's single light. You haven't even entered the program yet. We're hoping that you go ahead
and make that choice to enter the program because there's lots of success here for you. We'd love to
see you here. All right, Supernatural Saturday is the time where we look to the Lord. We're
asking him, what is the current prophetic reality? God, what do you have for us? We don't want to
miss it. What do you have for us? We want to be in tune, in alignment with heaven. What are you
saying right now? Let's look to the Lord. Father God, we thank you for your goodness and your love.
We thank you, Lord, that you want us to succeed in life even more than we want to succeed in life.
You are for us. You are with us. Life is for us. Father, I pray this morning that you would
allow us to take the blinders off so that we can truly see what we need to see. Any places where
we might be self-sabotaging, any places where we might be in our own way or even in your way,
I pray that you would reveal and heal those things in Jesus' name. Amen.
Now, friends, we live inside culture, so I want to just address, if you haven't seen or heard about
what I'm about to say, then perhaps you're not on social media or any kind of media. Kudos to you.
I know people are like, what are you living under a rock? Sometimes I would like to live
under a rock. Anybody else? Sometimes I'd like to live under a rock because there's things that
I would love to not know about, and this is kind of one of those things. So the world is making fun
of a man and woman that were caught red-handed, so to speak, at a Coldplay concert in an affair.
But they weren't in just any kind of affair, friends. They were in a workplace affair.
They were in a co-worker tryst. And the reason why I want to address this on
Supernatural Saturday just for a second is because this is so very common.
It's much more common. Now, if this guy wasn't a billion-dollar CEO, this would not be big news.
No one would care if someone was dating their co-worker and got caught on the kiss cam,
dating their co-worker from In-N-Out or Burger King or
whatever company down the street. It would have been like, oops, those people were having an
affair, and then on with our lives. But the reason why it's big news is because these are
big people. They're a big deal. They're a big deal, right? And so, of course, the internet
detectives have gone down the rabbit hole looking for these people digging into their lives.
And now, everywhere you look, companies are using this situation as marketing.
I saw an ad for an airline this morning that said, hey, do you want to disappear like an
executive at a Coldplay concert? Book your flight now. I saw another big, oh, StubHub that sells
concert tickets. That's what the company does. It's a big company that sells a lot.
of concert tickets to all different types of concerts or events.
It had an ad that was basically making fun of the scenario as well.
And everywhere you look, anything that you scroll, anytime you scroll right now, you're
going to see this situation with this man and this woman.
So first of all, I just want to say this, that we as believers are not called to judge
people outside of the family of God.
Did you know that?
Did you know that when Paul talks about, you know, judging a tree by its fruit, he's not
talking about us judging every tree.
He's talking about the trees that are growing within the kingdom of God.
He's talking about each other.
In fact, in 1 Corinthians 5, 12, he says, it's not my business to judge those who are
not part of the group of believers.
God will judge them, but you must judge the people that are part of your group.
And when we do judge, we want to judge righteously.
And all the scriptures that talk about, you know, judge not lest you be judged and talk
about, you know, dealing with the plank in your own eye before you try to pick the splinter
out of your brother's eye, that is talking about your brothers and sisters in Christ.
It's important that we understand that and know that.
So if we're not called to judge unbelievers, we're certainly not called to gossip about
them.
Okay.
And so I really want to encourage you.
I made a reel.
You know, people obviously wanted to know what's your take on this, Jackie?
It's adultery.
It's about marriage.
It falls in your wheelhouse.
Are you going to weigh in?
And so I did.
I created a reel about it and I posted on my Instagram if you want to go over there
and check it out.
And it's basically about how this is a slippery slope.
It is.
It's a very slippery slope.
I remember a long time ago, long time ago in my first marriage, you guys, I was holding
on for dear life in that marriage.
I was white knuckling it through every single year in that marriage because it was so unhealthy.
It was so unsafe.
Some would call it abusive.
I don't use that word lightly, but it definitely was verbally and mentally, emotionally and
spiritually abusive.
Right.
And I was trying my best to not do the unpardonable sin, get divorced.
I was trying my hardest, you guys.
I was snotting up the carpet, praying for my marriage, interceding for my marriage.
I changed my hair.
I changed the wall color.
I changed the decorations.
I cooked better food.
I did everything and anything I could possibly do.
I softened my heart.
I tried to be submissive.
And y'all know that that was probably a big feat for me, especially as a younger believer.
I've softened up a lot over the years.
I didn't know anything about the divine feminine.
Look at you guys.
Look, you guys get heads and shoulders above the rest because you guys get to start out
from there.
So exciting, right?
The ceiling is the floor kind of thing.
All right.
So I did.
But there was this guy that started coming to our church.
And he was estranged from his wife.
And he was in ministry.
So he was someone that was well known as a worship leader and a pastor.
And he kind of came to our church for refuge because he knew our pastor.
And so he was going there during the separation.
And people were doing what they did to me.
They were encouraging me to reconcile.
And he's like, no, I'm not going to reconcile.
I'm going to get a divorce.
And he was just pretty matter of fact about it.
No, you know, I'm going to get a divorce.
We're going to get divorced.
You know, we're going to be done with this.
And I felt so judgy about that.
Like in my heart, y'all, I was like Judge Judy.
I was like, what do you mean you're going to get a divorce?
It just so offended me that someone else was so flippant about, you know, this pain that
I was in trying to save this marriage.
God's going to heal it.
God's going to fix it.
It's going to be transformed.
And I'm not making fun of those things.
I think for some people that happens, but for me, it wasn't going to happen because
it takes free will being surrendered to the Lord, not on just one person's part, but both
people's part.
Okay.
Got to have two people in a marriage wanting it to be healed, not just one.
And this guy was just like, I'm going to get divorced.
And I felt so judgmental towards him.
You guys, I did.
I remember thinking, oh, well, you know, you're not, you're not really.
A Christian and just all kinds of crazy things.
And I will tell you when I finally decided, when I finally felt released by the Lord and
I finally felt, I finally.
finally decided to get my own divorce, which was years after this,
I remembered how I felt about that guy.
And I realized that the judgment that I was, that I was, you know,
hurling towards him,
that I was pointing towards him was just because I was kind of envious that he
was getting to do something so easily that, you know,
that I wasn't able to do myself,
you know? So I say that to say this, when we judge others,
there's always something going on in our own hearts.
Point a finger at one, someone else.
And there's three fingers pointing back at you. Have you ever heard that?
Right? There's always something going on in our own hearts.
So if you feel particularly judgy about a certain behavior that someone else has,
right? Something that you feel really judgmental about them.
I want you to look in your own heart and ask yourself,
why does this bother me so much? First of all, it's not my business, right?
It's their free will. They're doing this thing,
but why does it bother me so much?
Is it because I haven't forgiven someone in my life who did this?
Something similar to me, deceived me, was dishonest, lied to me.
This thing with Coldplay,
with this CEO and his human resource director is triggering so many people
because so many people have been cheated on.
That's why there's such an uproar.
That's why so many people feel so judgmental and so harsh.
There's a lot of harshness towards these people. I mean,
people have office affairs all the time.
And if you go and watch the reel that I made,
you will see that I talk about how public collapse starts as private integrity
issues, right?
There's never a big, huge public scandal that didn't start in private somewhere.
People were compromising, they were neglecting, they were overlooking.
And so it's a really good lesson for all of us to learn. So first of all,
if there's something that you feel particularly judgmental about,
let's look in our own hearts and find out, Hey,
is there something that I need to forgive and let go of here so that I can see
clearly? Is there something that I need to forgive myself for,
to forgive someone else for?
Is this triggering a fear that I've always had in my life that I need to
forgive myself for? Is this triggering a fear that I've always had?
Some of you are afraid you've never been cheated on,
but that's your biggest fear.
Your biggest fear is that you're going to marry someone who is not faithful,
someone who's going to cheat on you.
And that fear comes from someone else being cheated on in your life,
whether it was your mother or father,
whether it was your best friend or a cousin or whoever it was,
or it could just be from all the adultery and all the infidelity that you see in
people.
And that's the biggest fear is that you're going to marry someone who's not
faithful. If I find out that the love affair that's happening is happening as an
adulterous situation.
I remember I really wanted to watch this series that came on because I love
music and had a lot of live music in it and it was called Daisy and the Six or
something like that. I forget what it was called.
But I really wanted to watch it because I love that era of the seventies music
and I realized that the two people that the romance was centered around were a
guy and a girl in his band that he wasn't married to,
but he was married to somebody else.
And so the entire love story is going to be an adulterous affair for the entire
series. And I was like, nah, I can't, can't do that.
Why can't I do that? It's not me that's having the affair.
It's not even them that's having the affair because quite frankly,
it's fiction, right?
I can't do it because I don't want to romanticize that in my mind and in my
heart. You know, I don't know why, because I've been part of affairs.
And so here's where James five 16 comes in.
Confess your faults and your failures to one another and be healed.
In my first marriage before I knew Jesus,
I was married for two years before I met Jesus.
I was 20 years old from the years 20 to 22.
I was separated several times from my husband then because I didn't understand
him. I felt like he was verbally and emotionally abusive.
There was also a lot of pornography involved and all kinds of crazy stuff.
And I just didn't want to be married to him,
but I was still married to him when I met other people,
tried to have relationships and build relationships with other people during
those first two years. And then I met Jesus.
And then I was convinced by the church to get back together with my husband who
I was still legally married to. So we got back together.
And the marriage never improved. My relationship with Jesus improved.
I started being on fire for Jesus as we say,
and things started to progress for me in my spiritual life.
But my marriage never improved. In fact, it got worse and worse.
I didn't see any.
till years later that I think it was a jealousy
that was there as well,
because God was favoring me so much.
He was opening so many doors for me spiritually
and in ministry.
And my former husband had grown up in the church
and that had not happened for him.
So it was kind of like a prodigal elder brother
type of situation happening between us as well.
I didn't see that then, didn't understand that then,
but I will tell you that I never physically cheated
on my husband after I met Jesus ever again.
But I had a lot of emotional affairs.
And I wanna address that with all of you,
because if your emotional needs are not being met
within a relationship, it's a very slippery slope.
And oftentimes it's going to happen
because of someone that is fulfilling your emotional needs
or at least trying to, that you're not married to,
that you're in close proximity with.
Maybe they're a ministry partner, a prayer partner.
Perhaps they are someone that you work with,
someone that you're around a lot.
They could be the parent of another child
in your child's friend group,
someone that you see frequently,
that tells you how nice you look, how nice you smell,
that tells you how smart you are,
that just verbally affirms you, how talented you are,
how funny you are, whatever it is.
And it can be sincere what they're saying.
They can really see those traits in you
and they really admire you.
But if you're not getting that from your relationship,
it's going to be like crack cocaine.
You're gonna be an addict, friends.
It's gonna be like heroin.
Because if you're not getting that, everyone needs that.
Everyone needs to be told that they're good,
that they're loved.
And if you're not getting it from a marriage,
then you're going to need to get it from somewhere else.
And when I tell you that it is written across your forehead
in the spirit realm where you cannot see it,
but the spirits that drive these situations can see it,
then when I tell you that that's true, it is.
I cannot tell you, every place that I ever went to work
in my first marriage, there was always some man
who wanted to woo me and not even into bed.
Because once again, I didn't have any sexual connection
with any of these people, not a handhold,
not a kiss, nothing.
But work, wives and husbands, you know how we talk
about that.
And by the way, guys, that's not good, right?
You shouldn't use that vocabulary when you're
in a relationship with somebody else.
You shouldn't.
It's not good and it's a slippery slope.
But they would tell me how wonderful I was
and how beautiful I was.
And it wouldn't start out level 10, 10.
It would always start out level one.
Like, hey, let me help you with that.
Let me be kind to you.
Let me do you a favor that you didn't ask for.
Let me show you favor or attention, right?
And they were always peer-to-peer relationships.
They were never bosses of mine.
They were always just coworkers of mine.
And it started out, you know, very innocuous
and then it grew and grew.
Why?
Because I was starving and now I was sitting
at a buffet table being asked not to eat, right?
And so the neglect at home, this is what happens
when people start working long hours
and they start being away from their spouse.
Or in my case, you're already coming from a relationship
that doesn't have any kind of emotional connection
where you don't feel loved.
You don't feel seen.
You don't feel known.
And you want that.
We all want that, right?
And so it's a dangerous position to be in.
And like I said, it will be written across your forehead
that you want that and you need that.
I mean, why would I get picked every single place that I go?
Why would it be me?
Because I can tell you this.
I have been married to David now for 18 years.
You know what has never happened to me
in my marriage to David?
This.
I've never had a coworker come and try to show,
you know, even though I run my own company now
for years and years of our marriage, I worked places.
I worked places with handsome men, single men.
Am I any less attractive than I was then?
No.
Am I any less charming and funny than I was
when I was married to my first husband?
No.
There wasn't a hunger for that.
There wasn't a desire for that.
My emotional needs were being fulfilled
by a healthy marriage that we were intentionally
keeping track of, intentionally connecting in.
And so that spiritual intrigue,
that stuff that's happening in the spirit realm
and the unseen, I know that you just think
that you're funny and cute and.
That's why all the people like you,
but it's more spiritual than you think it is.
It has not even happened one time in 18 years. And you guys, I coach men.
I coach men, men come,
I do one-on-one coaching with men in specific situations.
I have a men's group. So it's not just simply, you know,
cause I know that the church is like, Oh, well, men and women, you know,
make sure that you're not alone together and make sure no friends.
That's not where the integrity fails.
The integrity fails when your heart is not satisfied with your current
relationship. When it's being neglected,
when it's not being nurtured, neglect can be very subtle too.
So David and I, as you guys know, cause I said this on a different call,
we are meant to be in Portugal right now. We are meant to be in Europe,
but we had to travel a lot at the beginning of this year for conferences and
different things that I was involved in.
And it wasn't because we were too tired to travel.
It was because we realized that we've been on the go so much for this first half
of the year that we haven't really had a lot of intentional time together.
Do you know that you can have quantity of time with your significant other
someday, but not quality time,
where you're really just focused on the relationship?
Does this mean our marriage is struggling? No, it means our marriage is sacred.
And so I just wanted to release that over you. I know most of you are single.
A lot of you are not even in a relationship yet,
but an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
It's super important for you to understand that this relationship that you're
asking God for is going to be the most important relationship of your life
outside of your relationship with him.
And you're going to need to invest in it.
You're going to need to pay attention to it.
You cannot just put it on autopilot.
I'm not going to judge the CEO and his human resource director,
because I know that we all live in glass houses.
We all live in glass houses.
So it's important for us to understand that as we go forward.
And so friends, and also just a little tiny blurb about gossip.
Let's be careful with that. I know it's funny, you know,
the memes that are out, but sharing them, you know, basically, you know,
having a laugh at someone else's expense, that's not kingdom.
And I even fell for it because I wasn't thinking that way.
And so I had yellow nail polish on my head,
and so I had yellow nail polish.
And so I posted a little picture of my yellow nails with the song yellow by
cold play. It's like, well, Jackie, probably not a good idea.
Let's not do that. And then I shifted,
I shifted my narrative about this to something more redeeming. Guys,
we are the family of God.
We hold each other accountable in this family.
We do not hold unbelievers accountable to the truth that we know.
We hold each other accountable to the truth that we know.
And when your brother falls, you help correct him, right?
The Bible says, if you're holy, you help and then be,
and be careful lest you fall too, right?
That's what we're doing in the family, but guess what?
Guess who's watching the family, everybody else.
And so we have to have the right posture, heart posture.
We have to have the right narratives.
We have to have the right response to things that happen out in the unbeliever
community. We really have to, it's very important.
And let's do our heart work so that when we get married,
we don't have needy written across our forehead in the spirit realm that
attracts all kinds of attention from people who really
do not respect your marriage vows.
I know you think they're being nice and they're being so kind to you and they
can't help it that they find you attractive. No,
they're disrespecting the vows that you have made.
All right. So that was just a little blurb.
I'm going to go ahead and go into what I really want to talk about today,
but I really wanted to address that.
Pop culture right now, it's happening.
And the reason why it affects us is because we need to have the right response
to it. It's important for us to have the right response. All right.
So we're going to talk about some things that we're learning in our halftime
shift. For those of you that didn't go to that
live on Thursday, please watch the replay so that you can make the framework.
Okay.
There's eight different steps to make the framework that I want you to make in
order to end this year well.
For those of you that are still in phase two,
you can definitely, if you are just in the program,
so you just bought the program and so you're not part of the VIP community,
you will need to upgrade into subscription.
For those of you whose program includes subscription,
you can go ahead and get a hold of that and move along forward with us.
For those of you that are in last year single lights,
you're going to need to upgrade to the program itself in order to be able to
move forward into the VIP community. All right.
So for those of us that are doing the halftime reset, and of course,
this is good for all of you. Okay. Even if you're not, you know,
having access to that teaching because affirmations are something that all of
you should be doing. It's really important that we do affirmations,
but this is part of our supernatural shift affirmations to bring us back into
supernatural alignment. Now, friends,
I want you to put together affirmations that you can speak daily.
It's important to do it in the morning, in my opinion,
because that is when you're going to go out into the world.
And that's when you are going to be challenged the most in what you think about
yourself. Okay. When your feelings don't match,
that's the most important time to speak the affirmations,
because I know a lot of people are waiting for their feelings to come into
alignment with their faith. And that's really not a real thing.
It's not.
And remember the Bible tells us that faith actually increases by hearing,
hearing what? Hearing the words of God.
And that doesn't just mean you quoting scripture over yourself.
Although I do recommend that is also quoting the Ramos of God.
What is he speaking over you? What has he said about you?
What has he said you could do? We want to speak that not just the Logos,
not just the written word, but the spoken word of God.
The Ramah, the Ramah of God.
So when you hear yourself speaking,
what God is speaking about you, that actually increases your faith.
So I want to go over some affirmations that I have written down.
Do you guys want to do that? All right.
And I'm going to let you guys put some that you've been working on up in the
chat as well. So let's do some of these.
Actually first before that,
what I think I'm going to do is talk a little bit about how important it is to
speak it, to not just think it, to speak it.
The power of your words are so it's such a life changing thing.
When you finally get ahold of it. Let's look at Proverbs 18 21,
death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat
its fruit. Those that love what? Those that love to talk.
Do you love to talk? Raise your hand. If you love to talk,
you love to talk. We already know who I am.
The queen of detention for talking in class. Me, me, me.
Love to talk. You're a verbal, you're a verbal processor.
You're an external processor.
Come on. Love to talk. Doesn't mean you love to talk to everybody,
but you have some solid friendships, relationships where you just like to chat.
You can just chat for hours about different things.
Love to call up your sister, your mother,
your best friend and just shoot the breeze.
You're verbal. I noticed that none of the men are raising their hands.
I'm confused.
Kenton, you love to talk. Oh, there his hands up. All right.
I was going to call him out if he didn't have his hand up because I've been on
the phone with him and he's a talker too.
Him and I were talking our little heads off. All right.
All right. So what's it saying? It's saying the more you talk,
the more fruit you're going to have.
So for all of you that are internal processors, you're more introverted,
you're more quiet. You don't talk until you have something to say. That's good.
You're going to weigh your, your, your words more carefully.
Just because you don't talk as much doesn't mean,
doesn't mean you do weigh your words more carefully, but I'm asking you,
you should, we all should.
We should be careful about what's coming out of that pie hole in the middle of
our face because the Bible says that death and life are in its power.
And the more we talk, the more fruit we're going to have.
Luke 6, 4, 5, Luke 6, verse 45 says,
out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
And all of these scriptures are in my book, the heart work.
So I'm going to read to you a passage from the book of Luke 6,
verse 45, and I'm going to read to you a passage from the book of Luke 6,
But look at that for a second, that's important
because it's saying that our words
verse 45.
don't just come out of nowhere.
They don't just come out of thin air.
They come out of a heart where they have been marinating.
They come out of the overflow of our hearts,
out of the abundance of the heart.
That means that you haven't just been thinking
about the stuff in your heart a little bit,
you've been thinking about it a lot.
So we need to take inventory.
If you wanna do a heart check-in with yourself,
listen to your own words.
And it might not be things,
I don't know if you guys talk to yourselves, I do.
I talk to myself all the time.
And by the way, science says that people
that talk to themselves are very intelligent.
So I don't feel bad about talking to myself anymore,
but if you see me in public and it appears that I'm singing,
I'm not, I'm talking to myself, just so you know.
And I also answer myself.
I know people are like, you can talk to yourself
as long as you don't answer yourself.
Well, I do, I do answer myself.
I even talk to myself at therapy like,
Jackie, this is what you need to do.
But we need to take inventory about what's coming out of us.
We're not defiled by what goes in us,
we're defiled by what comes out of us, right?
That's what derails us, what's coming out of us,
because that's what's in our heart.
And what does the Bible say about our hearts?
It says, man sees the outside, but God looks at the heart.
Let me ask you something about your heart.
Has it become a sanctuary for shame, for sin?
Has it become a refuge for rejection?
A place where unforgiveness is hiding, resentment,
even towards yourself, judgment, is it a place of judgment?
One thing I say in the heart work
that is pertinent to this conversation,
because we already talked about judgment,
is a critical heart is a hurting and broken heart.
If you find yourself being overjudgmental of others,
critical of others, not having grace, not showing mercy,
that's a hurting heart, that's a heart that needs healed.
And if you think you're just gonna turn that off
with the right people, you're not.
You're not going to be able to do that,
because your heart needs healed.
And that's why I have a mercy gift,
I have to be careful with it.
Because any gift overextended becomes a weakness.
We don't want to overextend our gifts.
My first and foremost response
to other people's failings and fallings is mercy.
But sometimes people need to not feel judgment,
but they do need to feel correction in order to change.
If every time someone that we love,
just someone in the earth, it doesn't matter who they are,
if every time they make a mistake,
they're just met with someone saying,
oh, it's okay, God loves you.
Well, God does love them.
But God loves us enough to not leave us
in places where we're destroying ourselves and others.
Some of you need to hear this for your children.
You keep circumventing the natural consequences
of their actions.
You keep stepping in.
You keep lightening the blow.
That's coming.
I have a teenage niece, she's 19 years old right now
that that's happening to.
It's happening from her manager at work.
Why?
Because he can't find anyone to work
at this pizza parlor, right?
By the way, the days when we were all kids
and we all had jobs, you know,
because we needed to pay for our cars or our insurance
or whatever it was that we were doing when we were kids,
going out on Friday night.
And we had all these little jobs at fast food restaurants
and stores and stuff.
Kids don't do this as much anymore.
Their parents are giving them money.
They're living way more entitled, especially Gen Z.
So this young woman who I love dearly
has been calling off work whenever she wants to
and feels like it.
In some cases, not even showing up.
Okay, when I was a kid, no call, no show, no job.
Right?
When I was a kid,
You better like be dying.
You, you better need a kidney if you're going to call off work.
Why?
Because if you call off, then they try to call other people in, people aren't coming.
And then the managers have to take your shift, right?
That's why being a manager is no fun because basically it's just a, a big
name put over the universal employee.
You're not really the manager.
You're the universal employee, meaning like you're the universal blood donor.
If anything happens, you're the person that has to fill in.
No matter what, that's your job.
And so what's happening here, her manager, who's also really young, he doesn't want
to fire her because he needs her because he doesn't have a lot of people working
there.
So he's willing to put up with this, with her just calling out whenever she feels
like it.
Oh, I'm hungry.
I want to go home from work.
Oh, I'm tired.
I don't think I'm going to come in today.
So what is he doing right now?
He's setting her up for failure in life because do you think other places are
going to let her do that?
Probably not.
She's starting college in the fall.
He's going to have another job away when she's at school.
Cause it's far away from where she lives now.
So she'll have a new job over there.
At the same pizza chain, that manager is probably not going to put up with that
because this is a very isolated situation.
When she grows up in life, other people that she works for, she's going to be an
illustrator.
She's going to be in design.
They're not going to put up with that.
And so what's happening here is he's actually setting her up from failure.
Yes, he's, he's delaying the rejection and the pain that she's going to feel.
When she gets corrected, but it's still common, there's a payday coming, isn't
there with these types of character traits, there's a payday coming.
And so you really can not keep your child or your friend or your parent, whoever
you're trying to lighten the blow for, whoever you're trying to circumvent the
process for by bailing them out time after time, after time, after time, you
are just ensuring that when the hammer falls, it's going to fall really hard.
I had no intention of saying any of that.
So that is a personal word for someone who's listening live.
You have to take yourself out of the middle of this and you have to allow
people to experience their natural consequences.
And in those natural consequences, that is when people usually reach out for God.
That is when they know their need of a savior and it ain't you.
It's not you.
Some of you are doing this with your coworkers.
They don't, they don't carry their load.
They don't do their share.
They're always there for you.
And you continue to cover for them.
You continue to make up the gap.
You got to stop doing it because you're starting to get resentful.
People who are over givers, over helpers, people, pleasers, they almost always
somewhere in their life and you never know when it's coming, but they get to a
place that I like to call my give a dams busted.
And when that happens, friends, you're going to have to do something about it.
Give a dams busted.
And when that happens, friends, you're not going to be a nice person anymore.
People are going to come thinking that they're going to find the nice people
pleaser that always says yes.
And they're going to be like, who are you?
That pendulum swinging ain't going to be nice.
It's not going to be good.
And so let's go ahead and get ahead of the blast now, shall we?
And start using this fun little word that I like to call no.
Did you know that you should be saying no, at least twice as much as you're
saying yes, probably four times as much as you're saying yes.
So let's go back.
What's coming out of our mouths.
Let's take inventory of our words.
Let's monitor our words.
Let's monitor them.
Let's let's inventory them.
And then let's trace them back to the root.
Where is the, where are those words coming from?
Are they coming from bitterness?
Where?
What bitterness from what bitterness is just matured resentment, friends.
Bitterness is what unforgiveness looks like when it grows up and matures.
Is it rejection?
Is it fear?
Is it unbelief?
What is it?
So here is something to write down.
What have I been saying, this is you talking to yourself,
about my love life, my body, my future, my relationships,
God, fill in the blank, make a little list there.
What have I been saying about these things?
Not just every once in a while, but chronically,
how do you describe these areas of your life?
Is it positive?
Is it affirming?
Is it life-giving?
Is it filled with hope or the opposite?
Because remember friends, if your words are filled
with fear and all the byproducts of fear,
all the negative things are byproducts of fear,
all the positive things are byproducts of love,
love and fear are opposites.
So if your words are filled with any type of fear,
any of its byproducts, your heart is broken.
Need some hard work there.
Negativity doesn't just show up.
There's all kinds of sources of negativity,
past traumas, disappointments.
The world that we live in is super negative.
Remember, I told you to really be careful of your scrolling
because there's all kinds of cultural scripts,
so to speak, that you're looking at.
I know they're just pictures, they're not words,
but they're cultural scripts that are getting in our hearts
of what we're supposed to look like,
how we're supposed to behave,
how much money we're supposed to have,
what our marriage is to be like.
We're getting that, we're taking that in.
Don't forget that you are a masterpiece made by God.
You're a masterpiece.
You're like a human computer.
It's amazing what you're able to do.
You have no idea how much you're taking in all the time.
All the time, you're incredible.
You're incredibly, fearfully, and wonderfully made.
And I know that we think
we're not even paying attention to these things,
but we are, we are paying attention.
Our unconscious is paying attention.
It is alert, it is that attention,
and it is taking it in.
So we have all those scripts coming at us all the time,
all the time, all the time, all the time.
What you should be as a woman, what you should be as a man,
and they're affecting us more than we know.
Ideas like we're too old, we're not enough,
we're not this, we're not that,
we can never succeed, it's too late.
And then of course we have the opposing forces.
And these are, if you read the book, The Heart Work,
if you read the book, The Heart Work,
you know that this is the father of lies,
the father of flies, Beelzebub.
We know that these lies get into infected wounds
and places in our hearts that are broken,
in the traumas.
It's not the trauma that's going to keep you
from living the big, beautiful life God has for you,
it's the lies that you believe because of the trauma.
And remember, those lies mature, and they become words,
and those words become actions,
and those actions become our identity, amen?
So we have to partner with God's truth.
And friends, all that negative stuff you believe,
you've been rehearsing it for a really long time.
And so it's not gonna let go overnight,
and that's why the truth has to also be rehearsed.
We have to repeat these new messages
in order to make them part of our identity,
and that's where affirmations come in.
Our agreement is our alignment.
When we speak it, we're agreeing with it,
and we're aligning with heaven.
I know a lot of people think affirmations are just woo-woo,
but they're not, they're warfare.
They're not woo-woo.
How can words change things?
Well, words are what got you here in the first place,
whether you know it or not.
Affirmations are going to build your faith,
I already told you that, Romans 10, 17.
Faith cometh by hearing, hearing by the word of God.
They're also gonna rewire your brain pathways,
for those of you that are into that kind of science.
And I believe that our affirmations
are gonna frame our future,
especially for the next six months,
because that is what we're looking at.
We gotta focus on smaller units of time,
not the next five years.
Let's just focus on the next five months, okay?
All right, so let's go ahead and go into some affirmations.
I also have written down here
that Jesus used affirmations, he did.
He said, I am the way, I'm the truth, I'm the life.
He declared who he was before it was fully recognized
or fully revealed to the earth.
He was speaking his identity into being, you see that?
Right, so let's talk about some unconscious affirmations, if you want to call them that,
that you might have already been saying.
You might say stuff like nothing ever works out for me, no one wants someone like me,
I've never been chosen, I've heard at least five women in the last week say, I've just
never been chosen, I'm never the one that's chosen, I'm never chosen, I'm never chosen,
I'm never chosen.
They're speaking that, that's become their truth, they're speaking it.
They're giving power to that.
All the good ones are taken, I've heard that a million times from a million people.
So whatever it is, go ahead, what do you have on repeat?
What record do you have on repeat?
Remember, you're going to take inventory.
Yes, we want to start doing positive affirmations, but it's important for you to understand that
this is not positive mental attitude.
What is in your heart will come out.
I know you're going to write down affirmations, you're going to rehearse those daily because
I'm asking you to, but what you do when you're not paying attention, what you do unconsciously,
what you do unintentionally is who you really are.
And so when you, when you find out what that stuff is, because you hear yourself saying
it, that's when I want us to take that thing and shift that thing and turn it into its
own affirmation.
Does that make sense?
So to some of these that I just said, nothing ever works out for me, you know, no one wants
someone like me, I'll never be chosen.
You need to take that and you need to turn that into a truth statement.
I see some of you guys putting some stuff up in the chat.
That's great.
All right, so here's going to be your activation.
And I don't know what tomorrow night is.
Can one of the team members tell me, is it all community tomorrow night or is it just
a regular activation night on Sunday?
Tomorrow night is the regular activation and then prophetic night is next Sunday evening.
All right, thanks.
All right.
So what I want you guys to do, and this is all of you, not just people that are doing
the halftime shift.
Everyone is to write down three negative things that you've been saying recently, right?
Maybe there are things that you've been saying all your life, but let's just, let's deal
with where you are right now.
Three negative things that you've been saying recently.
And then I want you to ask Holy Spirit, do some heart work around it.
You know, what, what, what pain is this rooted in?
Where's this lie coming from?
Where's the trauma, right?
And then we're going to renounce the lie.
And then we're going to write for those three things.
Three spirit led affirmations, okay?
So number one, take a little heart inventory, write down at least three things that have
been coming from your heart, out of your mouth that are not building your future, that are
not speaking your true identity.
Ask Holy Spirit to show you where those things are rooted, where are they coming from?
Why do you believe that lie?
And the next step is we're going to repent.
Remember I always say you can't erase, you have to replace.
Remember how I write that in the heart work?
You can't erase this.
You're not going to say, oh, I'm not going to do this anymore.
No, yes, you are going to do it because it's rooted in something.
We got to, we got to dig out the roots.
And so we can't, and the way we dig out the roots is with repentance and forgiveness,
confession, repentance, and forgiveness.
So when you find out where those things are coming from, you're going to repent, you're
going to forgive, you're going to confess, whatever fits.
And then we're going to not erase, we're going to replace.
We're going to renounce the lie, and then we're going to speak the truth.
So I want you to shift those three negative things into three powerful, Spirit-filled
affirmations that you're going to begin to declare over yourself and others.
And then you're going to speak it.
And here's the third step that most people, this is where everyone falls off, including
myself.
You're going to speak it until you see it.
You walk by faith and not by sight.
right? We already know that. But I believe that we don't have what we pray, we have what we say.
We don't have the things that we, oh, I wish, I wish, I wish, I wish. No, pray it and say it.
So I want you to do whatever you need to do to make sure that you're saying this every single
day. If you need to set an alarm on your phone for the next 30 days, whatever you need to do,
I want you to see the power of your words. And I believe that if you take this challenge,
you will see them. I know that it seems ridiculous, like how in the world is that going to work?
It's going to work.
God wants to prove to you that your words have power. So will you take him up on this challenge?
I'm going to leave you with one more scripture, Job 22, 28.
You will decree a thing and it will be established for you.
Now, friends, this is not an opportunity for you to blab it and grab it, okay? This is not
toxic prosperity gospel that I'm preaching here.
This is truly anchored in God's word. Our words have power.
And so I don't want you to say, oh, well, I'm going to manifest. I'm going to go over here and
I'm going to find a bunch of things and I'm going to, you know, make affirmations and I'm going to
speak them for 30 days and I'm going to believe God to give me all that stuff. No, that's not what
I'm asking you to do. I'm asking you to take inventory of your heart and I'm going to make
I'm asking you to take inventory of your heart, find at least three things there that are out
of alignment with heaven that you've been speaking over yourself and others.
I want you to do the heart work, confess, forgive, confess, repent, forgive.
And then I want you to create three truth statements, three affirmations at least
that cover those things. And then I want you to see the shift.
So I'm going to speak some affirmations over you right now
that I have here. And then I want you guys to do this work. If you want to do it with us tomorrow
night on activation. Awesome. For those of you that have access to that session, the rest of you,
I want you to take the challenge from the Lord. Holy Spirit is challenging you.
God wants you to see the power of your words. So I'm going to go through these really quickly.
You have about a minute and a half left. I'm deeply loved, fully seen and completely chosen
by God. And I attract love that reflects that truth. I am emotionally whole and I attract
someone who is too. I am not behind. I am being prepared for love that lasts. I am not hard to
love. I'm easy to love by the right person. I break agreement with delay, disappointment,
and disillusionment. My love story is moving forward. I release the counterfeit and make
room for God's covenant. I'm not who I was. I am who God says I am. I'm not defined by my past,
my pain or my patterns. I am worthy of love, favor, and new beginnings. I carry the presence
of God and I change atmospheres when I walk in. I do not shrink to be accepted. I expand to be
aligned. I am not too much. I'm exactly right for my assignment. My mind is clear, focused,
and aligned with truth. I take every thought captive and make it submit to God's promises.
I no longer rehearse the worst case scenario. I partner with heaven's best for me. I am free
from overthinking, fear-based loops, and spirals. My mind is a sanctuary, not a battlefield. I am
no longer bonded to my wounds. I am bonded to God's word. I release trauma, grief, and
unforgiveness. I am safe in love. I am safe with myself. I am safe with God. My broken places are
testimonies of His power. I am not stuck. I am surrendering, healing, and rising. I am called,
chosen, and anointed for such a time as this. I show up with boldness, power, and love.
I don't compete. I complete what God has assigned to me. Nobody else can have what God has set
aside for me. I take up space with grace and authority. I walk in rooms already accepted,
not trying to be approved or to please people that I do not need in my life. Rejection is
God's selection, raising me up higher to a new direction. I love that one.
God is expanding my territory, and I am ready for it. Come on, y'all.
Yes, I will post these. These are mine. They can be yours.
They can be yours. But I do want you to let Holy Spirit help you make
your own, because that's where the power is. The power is in your affirmations, your declarations
that are coming from where God is taking you. All right? All right. I love y'all.
Have an amazing Supernatural Saturday, and we'll see you soon.