Ladies, welcome to Ladies' Night.
We haven't done this in a really long time,
and I want to apologize to you.
The other day, we were in our planning session
for the month.
We have planning sessions.
What are we going to bring to you guys every month here
in the VIP group, phase three?
And I just said to Bethany, I said, wait a second.
We've been so focused on co-ed sessions for so long
that we don't have Ladies' Night anymore.
Guys, we used to have Mask Mondays.
Everyone would show up with their little face masks on,
and we would have little sleepover parties.
In the OG days, when we used to call it
Married in 12 Months or Less,
we had lots of ladies-only stuff.
Because there's some stuff that we have to talk about
just as ladies, right?
Can't have men lurking around, trying to take notes,
trying to figure out how we work, how to operate us.
What's the manufacturer instructions, right?
We need to be able to just be, let it all hang out, right?
We gotta be able to let it all hang out.
Let our hair down, have some fun.
So we will have at least one ladies-only session
every single month here in VIP.
The guys have a men's-only session every Monday,
so don't feel sorry for them.
They have Monday, Men's Monday.
And so every Monday, they get together,
and they're coaching with their coaches,
and they're doing their things.
And then they show up.
And if you're like,
hey, why don't the guys come to a lot of co-ed stuff?
Well, because they have Men's Monday.
And so that's two things a week, not just one, right?
And then, of course, there's Supernatural Saturday
that a lot of people like to come to and all the things.
So we understand that it's summer and people are super busy.
But I'm just looking at your comments.
Some people are saying that there is a delay.
Is there a delay?
No?
Okay, it might be your internet,
the person who said that there was a delay.
It might be your internet, so check your internet out, okay?
Right.
Some people are saying that there is a delay,
and other people are like, nope, no delay.
So if there is a delay for you,
then it's probably your internet,
so you might wanna go to a better place
of your house or something.
Okay, so we understand that there's a lot of sessions.
They're all in replay except for prayer,
and so make sure that you show up
to what you can show up to, all right?
We really are excited to do some of the things
that we're gonna be doing soon.
You guys, I was working on the events calendar today
for JackieDorman.com, a little housekeeping
here at the beginning, and I just wanna let you guys know
that my book, Modern Dating Sucks, is coming out
for pre-sale.
You won't be able to get it anywhere, no bookstores,
not even on Amazon until October,
but it will be coming out in pre-sale in August,
and I'm gonna be having book launch parties,
and you can order the book from me, okay?
You'll be able to do that on my website.
You can order the book from me, and I'll mail it to you.
I'll even write a prophetic word in it for you.
I'll mail it to you.
You can get it before October, before everyone else gets it,
but also, if you're able to get
to one of my book launch parties,
then you can come and hang out with me in person.
There are gonna be singles mixers.
We're gonna play all kinds of fun dating games there,
and there's gonna be food, and there's gonna be,
you know, not alcoholic drinks,
but there's gonna be drinks and cake.
There's gonna be cake, and I just wanna let you know
that's the only cake you get,
because I'm gonna tell you a bunch of other stuff tonight
during ladies' night, and you're gonna see
where I'm going with this,
so if you don't come to my book launch party,
then no cake for you, okay?
Because we wanna lay off the cake, ladies.
The only cake you want is right here in your booty.
This is the cake, all right?
That's it.
Let you know the kids call your booty,
they call it cake.
You didn't know that,
and you hear some kids talking about cake.
They ain't talking about cheesecake, friends.
They're talking about booty,
and so welcome to the party.
All right, so the very first book party
is gonna be here in Austin, Texas on the 24th of August,
and we're super excited about that one,
and then just a couple weeks later,
there's gonna be one up in Dallas, Texas,
and then a couple weeks later,
there's gonna be one out in the OC,
and all you LA ladies need to come down to that,
because it's only an hour with traffic,
and we know you can make it,
and then it's co-ed, these book parties.
The book is co-ed, friends.
The book's not just for women.
It's for men and women,
and it is really gonna be fire,
and then a couple weeks after that,
right before it goes public, the book goes public,
there's gonna be one final book launch party
in Nashville, Tennessee,
more accurately in Franklin, Tennessee,
and so very fun, very exciting, right?
And so I'm excited about that.
Now, if you go to JackieDorman.com.
you're not going to see an events page because it's not live yet.
We are just finalizing all of
the event details and the registration for the event details.
We also will have on that calendar on my website when it goes live,
the details to sign up for the Austin retreat.
That's an in-person four-day,
five-night retreat. It's going to be this fall.
You're going to want to come to that,
but space is limited,
so first come, first serve for that.
Also, I want to announce to you that we're going to do a Disney World retreat.
We're going to Disney World,
and I'm so excited about it.
I go to Disney every single year to visit my mother because she's in heaven,
but she worked at Disney World for 27 years in Tomorrowland,
and I just love going to Disney.
I love everything about Disney.
You have not done Disney unless you've done Disney with me,
because Mickey Mouse literally is my mother.
My mother was Mickey Mouse.
I know all the things,
and we're going to have so much fun.
We're not going to stay on property.
We're going to keep the cost down for you all.
That's another thing. I know how to do bougie on a budget.
We'll do a little bougie on a budget,
keep that price down.
We're going to stay very close to property in a very nice house,
with a movie theater and a pool,
and all the things,
and so excited for you guys to come.
If that sells out,
we might actually open up another house,
because the more, the merrier when it comes to Disney.
Am I right? Am I right? Am I right?
Yes, and so we're going to be doing that this year.
You guys, we're going to be having
the five-year anniversary party for last year's single,
formerly known as Married in 12 Months or Less.
We're going to be doing that in October.
Those dates are going to be on that calendar,
and I will post in the group as soon as the calendar's live.
Hopefully, it will be live tomorrow.
I'm hoping that it's going to be live tomorrow.
We worked on it all day long today,
and so that is going to be in person here in Austin, Texas.
There's going to be a smorgasbord of different events
that you can attend,
and then, of course, there's going to be the big,
huge weekend party, silent disco, extravaganza,
all the different fun things that we're going to do
for our five-year anniversary,
and we're going to give away prizes.
That's going to be so fun,
and so that is what we have going on here
between now and the end of the year.
That's quite a lot, so very, very excited about that, okay?
And we are going to have a married retreat, too.
There's a married retreat that we're going to do.
Don't forget, the singles cruise
is still happening in January.
If you haven't signed up for that,
go to your resource page, take a look.
A little thing that no one knows about yet
is that I'm going to actually be on that cruise with you.
I wasn't originally going to be there, but now I am,
and so if you weren't going because you're like,
Jackie's not going to be there, I'm not going to go,
I'm going to be there, and we're going to actually
have some fun and do some fun stuff as a group on the cruise,
and we're excited about that, and that's in January.
And then in February,
I'm going to be part of a married retreat.
I'm actually co-hosting a married retreat
in Gatlinburg, Tennessee,
and so if you know any married people,
tell them to keep watching my website
because that is going to be fun as well.
And who wants to go to camp next year, like adult camp?
Go to camp.
Did anyone go to camp as a kid and love camp?
I loved camp.
Unfortunately, I met my former husband at camp,
but I do have a beautiful daughter out of that situation,
but I met him there when I was 12.
Anybody else go to camp, like camp?
I know camp is getting a bad rap
because of all the tragedy here in Texas,
but anybody else camp, camp, camp, camp, camp?
Anybody?
Well, I have found an amazing campground
that I would like to take a co-ed group of people to.
It's in Northern California.
Yeah, it's like central to Northern California,
like in the Redwoods area.
There's ziplining, there's team-building exercises
in the trees, obstacle courses, all the fun stuff.
There's hiking, there's biking, there's the beach.
There's anything and everything you can do
right out of Santa Cruz,
and it's actually a Christian-owned camp,
and so I would like to take a group of people
to camp this early summer, like around May,
and so we're gonna be putting that together
and planning that as well.
I would also like to do some sort of bonfire,
cabin sort of camping in the fall,
because I think that would be super fun co-ed too,
don't you, like cabins, camping?
Hopefully all of you are coupled up,
and cuffing season's coming,
and you're gonna all be cuffed up with someone by then,
but it doesn't mean that you can't come as a couple,
because I think we'll open that up to not just singles,
but also couples too, because I think that would be fun.
All right, guys, I'm an Enneagram Seven,
and I like to party, I do, I like to party,
and you really haven't seen me
until you've seen me at a party,
and so we're gonna have lots of fun.
Lots of fun together.
That's why I don't like to co-host things with people.
I just recently co-hosted an event with someone
and they were like in charge of it
and I was just kind of there.
And I just felt, I just felt like I couldn't party.
Cause then I like to, I like to party.
And so when it's someone else's party,
you just got to kind of do what they do.
And I like to get a little rowdy, like to have some fun.
And so anyway, those are my announcements.
Let's get into tonight's girls night.
And I want to talk about all kinds of inappropriate things.
Oh, one more announcement.
Some of you might've seen that I have a book club.
You guys, Modern Dating Sucks is coming out for pre-sale
in just a couple of weeks, not even a couple of weeks.
And I really haven't ever done anything with this book.
Raise your hand if you've read this book.
This book's a banger, right?
This book's a really great book,
but because I do, you know, Last Year's Single,
because Last Year's Single is based on my first book,
I don't really do a lot with this book,
but this book is powerful.
And so I decided before Modern Dating Sucks comes out
that I would just do a book club.
I just do a really quick four week.
If you've ever wanted to coach directly with me,
but you know, you couldn't because you couldn't afford it
or I booked up or whatever,
this is going to be a more intimate setting.
We are going to not read this book together.
You'll read it ahead of time with the assignments,
but then we are going to do all kinds of fun activations
and all different types of things
that are based on this book
that are going to help you to, you know,
get that love story activated.
For those of you that in your halftime shift,
your goal is to be in a serious marriage-minded relationship
before the end of the year,
this book club is probably something
that you want to make part of that goal, all right?
Because I believe that we're going to,
we're going to really dig in.
If that's something you really want to focus, focus on,
then that's going to be good.
And I want to tell you, my friends,
that that full circle word
that I gave at the beginning of this year
is the gift that keeps on giving.
I cannot tell you how many people,
just before I got on here,
I heard from another one of our amazing members
of this community that is in a full circle relationship now
and is actually headed to the altar.
Does anyone remember our friend Daniel
that I spotlighted?
Yeah, yeah, well, he reconnected with someone
that he was in like a military training with 20 years ago,
and they are in a serious level three,
headed to level four and five relationship, you guys.
And that happened just very quickly, very quickly.
You know, God dropped her in his heart.
He looked her up to see what was up with her.
She was single, ready to mingle.
And they were like, hey, I always wondered what if,
I always wondered what if too.
And now here we are.
And so exciting, right?
And not to mention another couple
that I'm doing a private Symbus coaching with
that met 15 years ago through little old me, Jackie D,
and they became pretty good friends.
They tried to date, they dated for like a week,
and then they were like, no, we're gonna be friends.
And they were friends, friends, friends, friends.
And just recently, God laid it on my heart.
Hey, why don't you ask them individually
if they would like to try to be more than friends again?
And I asked them individually, they both said yes.
In fact, the guy said,
not only do I not wanna be more than friends,
I actually wanna marry her.
Remember, they've known each other
as good friends for 15 years.
And so let's go.
And that's what's happening now.
And so this kind of supernatural shenanigans
is happening everywhere I'm looking right now.
And I'm loving it.
I'm here for it.
So does that mean that someone from your past
is just gonna pop up?
No, but they could, and if they do, be open to it.
But it could also be a job from your past,
an opportunity from your past,
something that you always wonder,
hey, what if I would have taken,
made that decision instead of this decision?
Where would that road have led
if I would have chose that adventure
instead of this adventure?
And I'm just telling you,
God is bringing a lot of ships back into port.
They're blowing their horns.
They're like, all aboard.
And I believe that lots of really fun,
great things are happening, okay?
All right, Crystal wants a shenanigan.
She needs a shenanigan.
Okay, it's just, I mean,
you're close to spelling shenanigan,
but it is shenanigan, S-H-E, not an I.
You guys,
someone thought that the S on my new book cover was an F,
and they thought it was Modern Dating, F-U-C-K-S.
And I was like, ah,
so I may have to get that S font changed
to something that looks a lot more like an S.
See, because I know the title of the book,
I never would have thought that by looking at it,
because I already know what the title of the book is, right?
And so I wish I had.
would have brought. I have a sample copy of it, but I didn't bring it. I didn't bring
it over here into the studio, so I'll just have to. I know, Sarah, it's terrible. They're
like, hey, Jackie, you might want to think about changing that ask. It's not really that
recognizable. I'm like, oh, no. Okay. Oh, no, no, no. Yes. Karanda, you're right. They're
not really that wrong. People are up in those sheets out there, aren't they? They're up
in those sheets. That's what we're going to talk about for a minute. We're going to
talk about sex. You want to talk about sex? I think we should. Specifically, we're going
to talk about your vagina. The reason why we're going to talk about it is because most
of you are over the age of 35. Few of you guys are younger than that, but even a little
younger than that, because of our food supply, because of the chemicals, we're hitting perimenopause
earlier and earlier. A lot of you are old enough to know better. You're over 50. You
haven't seen Aunt Flo in ages. She hasn't visited you. That's wonderful. If you don't
use it, you lose it. Since you haven't been using it, you might be losing it. We have
to start moisturizing it on the inside. We need hormones there. I just want to let you
know that I have joined the menopause party in January. I'm now 18 months without Aunt
Flo visiting me. I'm in menopause. I'm what they call menopausal now. A lot of you know
that it's been a crazy, crazy ride for me. I just want to tell you something that I have
learned. I have dived deep into the menopause pool. I've read all the books. I've read The
New Menopause. I've read Menopause, Menopause, Menopause. I have read Why Estrogen Matters.
I've done the research. I've watched the podcast. I've talked to several different menopause
doctor experts. I have interviewed them all to be my doctor like, hey, what do you think
about this? What do you think about that? Why don't we do this? Why don't we do that?
Why? Because I'm suffering and I want answers. I don't think that just take this and you'll
feel better is a good answer. I want to know why. A lot of you are familiar with the fact
that my mother died of metastatic breast cancer. Of course, for me, I want to really know what
are the risks of hormone replacement therapy. I have really dove into the deep end of the pool.
All of that saying that I believe that I'm here to really be able to let you guys know
that there's things that you need to do. There's things that you can do very inexpensively. Because
so many baby boomers and so many Gen X are hitting menopause, it's a big market and you
follow the money. Because there's a lot of money in menopause right now, there's lots and lots and
lots of companies that are maximizing because of that. They're not bad companies and a lot of
them are BHRT, which is bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. I'm going to give you a
list after today. I'm going to give you a list in your group of different companies that I have
actually used their products. I vetted them out and I have found their products to be very good,
very well made, bioidentical, good for you. One thing that I will tell you that every menopause
doctor that I have met with told me, including Dr. Joseph Festis here in Austin, Texas, who was a
gynecologist obstetrician for 50 years. He's now 88 years old. He is a functional doctor of hormone
replacement. He also is a founding member of the Houston Women's Hospital. He loves women. He loves
women's health. He's been doing women's health for over 60 years, 50 years as an OBGYN. He said,
I've seen this backed up in Why Estrogen Matters, which was written by doctors and other doctors
that I've spoken to, that breast cancer, not that it's not a myth, we all know someone who's had
breast cancer, but far less women get breast cancer than heart disease, than osteoporosis,
than dementia. Do you know what these are all caused by? Lack of hormones. They even supplement
hormones to cancer patients, even breast cancer patients, because you need hormones.
So many things in your body, we have estrogen receptors all over our bodies. We need our
hormones. We need them and we need to build muscle. We need testosterone. Now, not everyone's
going to need to supplement it. Some of you can just go to the gym and strength train and lift
some weights and you're going to get enough tea just from that. But others of us like myself,
we need them. Blood tests only show you a snapshot of what's happening today.
And if you can afford to do a Dutch test at least once, at least once, they're like 600,
700 bucks. But if you can afford to do one, and insurance of course doesn't cover it,
it's a saliva and urine sample test. And it will show you what your hormones do over a long period
of time. And it also shows you how your body is getting rid of the bad hormones. There's several
different types of estrogen.
In fact, three different types.
Estradiol is what we need and Estrone and a couple other estrogens.
The other estrogens are things that we want to eliminate.
When you're overweight, that's not estradiol that you're carrying there.
That is the other type of estrogen that is harmful for your organs and your heart and
different things.
And so we want our bodies to be getting rid of those and eliminating those.
But I want to tell you that the type of estrogen that I'm going to tell you to stick up your
in order to rejuvenate things there and get ready to be married, because you're going
to use that.
I know that that shop has been closed for a while, but you're going to need to use that
shop.
Okay?
Your husband's going to want to park his car in there.
And so in order for you to get ready for that, and let's hope that he has a nice car, okay?
In order for you to get ready for that, you're going to need to get things lubricated down
there because it might be as dry as the Sahara Desert and atrophying.
You guys, the tissue in there thins, and see how we did this, why we didn't invite the
guys to this conversation.
The tissue in there is thinning.
It's thinning like paper, okay?
Like tissue paper.
And so it's important that we're strengthening that tissue.
And so the estrogen suppository or cream that you're going to insert in there is not systemic.
It's not going to get into your bloodstream.
It's not going to hurt your cervix.
It's not going to cause cancer in there.
It's not going to do anything except lubricate the situation and give you back, you know,
a much younger vagina.
It's going to be good.
You're going to like it.
It's going to be important for going forward.
Also, I asked the doctor about this because I was seeing Halle Berry and I was seeing
her talking about this and I'm like, okay, is she just making money off this or is this
the real deal?
Because I have estrogen.
I have red light that I do and I think red light works amazingly well if you have to
use it.
You've got to use it every day if you want to see results and when you stop using it,
the results go away.
That's the only problem, okay?
But they have a wand that's red light that you insert inside of your vagina.
And what does it do?
It does exactly what this estrogen cream does.
It rejuvenates the tissue there.
And it's pricey.
It's about $400.
I'm going to get one for my husband's birthday.
I'm going to buy him that for his birthday for me, okay?
And save thousands of dollars on lube, all right?
That's what I'm going to do for him.
But once again, with red light, if you don't use it all the time, like you can go into
maintenance mode, use it every day and then maybe use it like a couple times a week.
And I think you only have to use it for like 10 minutes or something in there, but it rejuvenates.
So if you're totally opposed to hormones, you're like, no, Jackie, I'm never doing it.
Then maybe get the red light wand, okay?
I'm going to do both of those things.
And my vagina is going to be like 15 years old.
It's going to be great.
It's going to be as young as it was when I first started puberty.
Actually, that was 13, all right?
I won't tell my husband that because that'd be creepy, but I will say that I'm excited
about it.
So you guys, we got to get this going.
We have to get this going.
You've been preparing in every other way for your spouse.
You need to prepare in this way.
You are going to need this.
And it's very inexpensive.
That vaginal suppository of estrogen that I was talking about, not systemic, not going
to get into your bloodstream.
It's like, I don't know.
You can get it for like 15 bucks.
If you have a doctor and you get a prescription from your doctor, don't forget, you want bioidentical
you can probably get it for like 20 bucks.
If you get it from one of these online companies, you're going to get it for like maybe 80 bucks,
but it's going to last.
It's going to be like three, four months supply.
So 20 bucks a month.
Not bad, right?
Pretty good.
Pretty, pretty good.
And you guys, HormoneRx, I'm going to have my appointment with them next week.
They tout themselves as being able to get all of your bioidentical hormones for you,
write the scripts for you so you can take it to Walgreens or CVS at a fraction of the
cost of anywhere else, like 15, 20 bucks kind of thing.
So I'm meeting with them on the 7th.
I have my intake with one of their doctors.
It's all telehealth.
And if they start giving me prescriptions for what I use, then I'm going to switch.
So because I've already been working with the doctors to find out what I need and been
tweaking what I need.
So what have I tried?
I'm glad you asked.
I have tried an estrogen lozenge that melts under your tongue.
I didn't like it.
I didn't want, so you can take oral estrogen, but then your liver, your liver has to process
anything that you digest.
And I didn't want my liver to be processed in anything.
Because sometimes when people's livers process hormones, it turns into some bad hormones
as well as
good hormones.
And for some people, that means hair loss and different things, like it's called DHT.
We don't want that, okay?
So I want translingual, which is, you know, you're underneath your tongue, like going
into your bloodstream, or transdermal.
So I went back to the transdermal patch.
I'm on 0.75 estrogen transdermal patch and 200 milligrams of progesterone.
The only way you can take progesterone that it actually works is oral, okay?
And that might cause a little bit of bloating when you first start taking it.
I'm talking to all you menopausal ladies.
All of you perimenopausal ladies, it is not too soon to start supplementing progesterone.
You're probably estrogen dominant.
If you got stubborn weight that you can't get off, you're estrogen dominant, okay?
If your boobs are always hurting, if you have heavy, nasty periods, you're estrogen dominant.
So that means you need to supplement progesterone.
And so I'm going to give you guys some really good telehealth companies that I think are
amazing and awesome.
I really would get some blood tests done.
They're not expensive.
You can go even to walk-in labs.
Here we have CPT labs.
Wherever you live, I guarantee you there's a lab, probably walk-in labs, that has an
app where you can order your own blood test, pay for them out of pocket, go get them, and
get the results.
Then you can take those results and you can take them to a telehealth doctor and say,
hey, these are my results and this is what I want.
There's a way to work the system here, friends, okay?
Chemical progesterone really doesn't work.
I understand.
I've tried all the creams, too.
The problem is the molecule of progesterone really can't get through the blood-brain barrier.
So that's why you have to take it internal.
Every doctor that I've talked to, including the estrogen, the menopause experts that I
follow say, hey, we'd love to use a cream, even a cream in your vagina, because they
have those as well for progesterone, but they really just don't.
It's not going to register and it's not going to protect.
It's not going to protect your uterus.
You guys, the reason why we take progesterone with estrogen is because we need the uterus
protection.
Progesterone actually will protect your uterus from uterine cancer and ovarian cancer.
So you want to make sure that you are getting the right type of progesterone and you're
going to need to get blood work done to prove that it's working, okay?
To prove that those progesterone levels are going up, because there really won't be any
other way of knowing.
So I wanted to get that out of the way, because I really, really, really, really wanted to
talk to you guys about this.
Yes, Heather, I hear you about that risk and some people's bodies convert to that, but
at the same time, overcoming that risk is the delivery system of the hormones.
The biggest risk for that and for hair loss, which is what I'm assuming that you're worried
about, is oral estrogen.
So if you do the transdermal patch, I was going to bring my patches, I didn't bring
them.
Sorry, guys.
Also, another thing that I use is DIM.
It's called DIM.
D-I-M.
It's basically like high, high, high dose cruciferous vegetables and it detoxes your
body of the bad estrogen.
So it helps your body find a pathway out of the bad estrogen.
It doesn't cause any kind of side effects as far as I'm concerned.
I haven't seen anything at all happen with that and it helps you to detox the liver from
the bad estrogen.
So that's also really good.
Yeah, blood clots as well, you guys.
Same thing.
Oral estrogen has the highest risk of blood clots and the different things that some people
are talking about here.
If you have a family history, they won't even give you oral estrogen.
Some people can take oral estrogen.
They don't have a family history of that.
They're not worried about the conversion to the bad type of testosterone, all the things.
But some people can't.
Some people can.
Some people can't.
I don't know if I'm a some people.
So I'm just doing transdermal.
I don't know if I'm a some people.
And so I'm going to go ahead and take the patch because the risk is minimal to nothing
on the patch as far as those side effects that you're talking about there.
All right, friends.
Yes, we want to be detoxing the liver.
We definitely do.
Dim will help you with that.
There's other things that will help you as well, but I don't want to turn this into a
functional doctor visit.
I'm not a doctor.
I just play one on TV.
Okay.
And so I wanted to make sure that we talked about hormone replacement, especially, especially
the vaginal estrogen that is going to help you rejuvenate and get ready for, you know,
good sex.
You're going to want to have good sex.
Okay.
It's going to be wonderful.
And if you're not planning on having sex after you get married, you might want to tell your
husband that ahead of time.
I don't think that will be happy news.
Even if he has to join the little blue pill club to get there.
I don't think, I don't think he's gonna, you're like, why would someone want to have sex when
they're just too old to have it?
Because it's fun.
That's why.
And everybody wants to do it usually.
And so my husband also is taking bioidentical testosterone.
He actually got a pellet in his butt.
He was on the shots and then he's like, let's do the pellet.
So he's got a little grain, little size, half a grain of rice.
They make a little slit.
Now I do not recommend, you can also get a pellet and that once again is bypassing the
liver and that's not going to be a risk factor for the blood clots and all the things.
I do not suggest that you go straight to the pellet because that's a ride that you can't
get off for three, four, five, six months.
Use the stuff that if you don't like it, causes side effects that you don't want, you can
stop using and tweak it and try something else.
And then when you find the right amount and the right kind of hormones, you know, as far
as like, you know, the right, you know, the right percentages, then get the pellet.
Then you'll know, right?
You'll know exactly how much the doctor will know how much.
And so you're going to want to do that.
You're going to want to do that.
Now, if you start getting, you know, your libido up then, and you're not married, then
I wrote down here, you know, I want it to address, Oh, I lost you guys.
Oh no.
No, you're still with us.
We can hear and see you.
Okay.
I cannot see you guys at all though.
What the heck?
They knew.
Okay.
Well, hold on a second.
Let me figure out how I can see you.
I want to be able to see you.
I can't.
Oh, there you are.
I found you.
My husband would be so proud.
I just did that all by myself.
Okay.
So I wrote down a few things here about masturbation, because when you don't have an outlet for
your sex hormones, but you have a lot of them racing through your body, what do you think
is going to happen?
And some of you have a lot of shame stuff tied to that.
So I wrote down a few things here that I want to just look at real quickly with you guys,
because if you start doing what I'm telling you to do right now, you are going to have
an increased libido.
Okay.
You are going to have one.
And if you don't raise your hand, if you don't have much of a libido right now, you're like,
eh, don't really have much of one.
Let's see.
Put your little avatar hand up.
Let's see it.
Don't lie to us.
We know your coochie's crusty.
Come on.
We all been there.
All right.
So this is going to increase it.
It is.
And the reason why you don't have a libido is because of hormones.
All right.
For some of you, it might be some heartwork stuff.
You might have some trauma connected to libido and sexual feelings, and we're going to have
to work through that as well.
But for most of you, it's a hormone situation.
Heather's like, I told you to go on vacation.
Just go on vacation.
I'll let you know.
And then some of you are like, only when I'm ovulating.
So only during that phase of your period.
Friends, if you don't have a period tracker, you're still getting visits from Aunt Flo,
and you don't know when she's going to show up.
Come on.
Now, I understand if you have your regular periods, but you still have to track it, and
these trackers are free.
I mean, I haven't needed that tracker for a minute, but I still have it on my phone.
These trackers are free, and you can put down, you can make notes about how heavy or how
light it was, because you're not going to remember.
And when you start talking to some of these doctors, you're not going to know what to
say to them, because you're not going to remember.
Some people are putting some good suggestions of different ones in the, what's it called?
In the chat.
Another thing that hormones will help you get rid of is brain fog.
Brain fog.
I just witnessed it just now, but it's going to help you get rid of it.
Brain fog, joint pain.
For those of you that are in perimenopause, and you're like, man, I feel like I'm 150
years old.
That's hormones.
That is.
You don't got lupus.
You don't have arthritis.
You are missing hormones.
You need it.
Nah.
Now, if you have other symptoms.
that point to something else, get them checked out
by the right people, by functional doctors.
Don't go to people whose job is to find something wrong
with you that they can medicate.
Those are not the kind of doctors that you want.
You want doctors that are going to get to the root causes
of things and get you healed, not medicate symptoms
and wait till it's in disease range, right?
We don't want that.
And some of you want to get pregnant still.
Crystal's like, be careful, you might end up pregnant.
Yeah, you might end up pregnant.
For some of you, it's gonna be the immaculate conception
right now if you ended up pregnant,
but you're gonna end up pregnant maybe,
and some of you want to end up pregnant,
and you might fall pregnant when you get married,
all right, and that would be a good thing.
Okay, so when you get the urge to self-pleasure,
especially if you think it's a sin,
especially if you have to sit around and fantasize
about all kinds of debauchery to get there,
well, you know, while you're self-pleasuring,
now you're saying, Jackie, do you not think it's a sin?
I'm not gonna give you my opinion.
You know why I'm not gonna give you my opinion?
Because every time I give my opinion on this subject,
someone uses my opinion as a license
to do something that is against their own conscience,
and then they get mad at me.
So I'm not gonna give you my opinion,
but I am gonna give you some things
that you can ask yourself as your hormones are going up
and your libido is going up,
and there's such a strong desire to self-pleasure,
and you feel really shameful about that afterwards.
You don't wanna do that.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself for discernment.
What's driving the urge?
Is it hormones?
But also, is it something that you saw?
Are you watching the wrong kinds of things?
Are you reading those crowns of thorns and roses
or whatever, those spicy mommy porn books?
Are you reading those books?
Come on, y'all.
So is it lust because of something
that you're watching or reading?
Is it boredom?
Believe it or not, a lot of people look at porn
because they're bored.
They wanna medicate.
They're bored, okay?
Is it boredom?
Is it stress?
Once again, self-medicating with self-pleasure,
there's a release that comes when you self-pleasure,
and so are you stressed out?
Are you just lonely?
Okay, these are the questions that I want you
to ask yourself and figure out in the moment,
why am I having such a strong urge to do this?
Am I bored?
Go find something to do.
Get out of the house.
Go for a run.
Am I stressed out?
What are some stress relievers?
Go get a massage, okay?
And not by Raul, all right?
Go get a massage by some old lady named Helga
with strong hands.
Loneliness, is it loneliness?
Find some friends.
Go to a movie, not a spicy movie, all right?
Do something, you guys.
Not Raul, yes, that's exactly right.
And then you have to ask yourself this,
and once again, this is personal.
We're not gonna make any blanket statements
about self-pleasuring, about masturbation.
We're not going to.
God created us to be sexual.
We all have different thought processes on this.
Obviously, everyone can fall into sin doing anything.
You know you can fall into sin eating?
You could be a glutton.
You could be destroying your body
and destroying other people with your food.
So anyone can fall into anything with a God-given desire.
Anyone can fall into sin with that.
So here's another question I want you to ask yourself.
Does this act bring me peace and freedom,
or does it bring me guilt and shame?
Does it bring a release and peace,
or does it bring guilt and shame?
Because if it's sinning against your own conscience,
if you think it's wrong, then for you, it's 1,000% wrong.
You're not gonna convince yourself otherwise.
This is what you believe, okay?
And so for you, it's gonna bring a lot of guilt and shame.
Now, once again, Jackie's not saying anything
about what she thinks about it,
because I'm not you, right?
I don't believe that we can put this in the same category
as a blanket black and white, like murder, adultery, okay?
I just don't feel like,
I feel like there's a lot of nuance here.
There's a lot of gray area.
And so you and Holy Spirit
are gonna need to make that decision.
And once again, if it brings you guilt and shame,
don't do it, and find a way of escape.
The Bible says with every temptation
that you're tempted with,
not my temptation maybe, but your temptation,
with every temptation that you're tempted with,
He will make a way of escape, right?
When the enemy comes in like a flood,
God raises up a standard against him,
if you're in the spirit and not the flesh, all right?
All right, so that's all I had to say about that.
Hormones, all the things.
I will give you guys a list.
It's not an exhaustive list of all the companies
that I have.
personally ordered products from
and thought that they were high quality products,
that I liked their customer service,
I liked their telehealth doctors,
I felt like they were affordable,
and so I will give you all that information.
I would love for you that are on the halftime shift
to really think that this is part,
that this is really important for those of you
that are really hoping to be
in a romantic relationship soon
and getting married, right?
Very, very important.
All right, another thing I wanna address
is a lot of you have been really, really working
on the inside and you're becoming so beautiful
on the inside, you really are,
but no one can get to your inside
if they can't get past your outside, right?
And as someone who the doctors have told,
they've told me that I'm 45 pounds overweight,
I understand the changes that a woman's body goes through
as she's going through perimenopause and menopause
and even stress and all different types of things,
the loss of a parent, which is what I experienced,
that's when I started packing on the weight,
even though I wasn't making any lifestyle changes really.
I get it, I understand, but there's no excuse,
even if you're overweight, to be sloppy.
And I've really shied away from the subject
because people get so offended when you talk about this,
that even if you're overweight,
you can put yourself together, you don't gotta be sloppy.
You know who you won't see sloppy?
Me, I'm not sloppy.
If you want to wear clothes that are stretchy
because you feel better in them,
then find some athleisure wear that's cute, okay?
Wear some cute athleisure wear.
And I don't know who told you
that we wanna see your midriff
when you're 50 pounds overweight, but they lied to you.
We don't wanna see it, put it away.
We'll see it later, we don't wanna see it right now.
I saw a girl stand at the bus stop yesterday,
I'm like, oh no, honey, there are no mirrors in your house,
none, she's a cute girl too, but her clothes,
they told a different story about her,
not a story that you wanna tell.
We're not all gonna be a size zero,
two, four, six, eight even, maybe even a 10.
All right, some of us, we were born in a size 16
and that's fine, but it can still be classy,
it can still be cute.
You can find clothes that flatter you,
especially if you're not five foot, 10 inches tall like me.
And so I want you to start thinking about
when you leave the house, who is looking at you?
Well, I don't care what they think of me.
Well, you better start caring, okay?
Cause that's a heart wound.
Your influence is tied to your outer appearance.
I'm not just talking about men right now,
I'm talking about anything that you might wanna do
with your life, your influence is tied to that.
You're not gonna show up messy and sloppy
and influence anybody, you're not.
Now, a lot of you have big things that you wanna accomplish
between now and the end of the year
and you need to show up like the person
who's already accomplished those things.
How does she dress?
How does she carry herself?
How does she speak?
I don't have a swear jar, but I do have a potty mouth
every once in a while and I am trying to get past it.
I'm trying my best.
I don't wanna sound like a sailor on leave, okay?
And honestly, you know what I think happened?
I just wanna be honest with you.
What I think happened was,
is that when I shifted out of ministry,
I was so tired of people being so churchy with me
that I think I started cussing just to let people know,
I'm not one of you anymore.
Just like step off, you know?
Cause I didn't used to really have that much
of a little cuss jar, little cuss jar,
little inappropriate pie hole in my face.
And my husband does not like it.
He does not want me to say even, you know,
he probably doesn't even want me to say sucks,
which is on the front of my new book.
A lot of people are like,
oh, they're like Christian people
are not gonna read that book, Jackie.
I'm like, good, good.
Let the church people, let them not read it, okay?
Cause this book is for Christians who cuss a little.
That's who this book is for, all right?
People who are deconstructing
all of the religiosity out there
and they want something real,
but I am working on it because I wanna influence.
And when you use curse words,
people think something about you.
They think a thing, they think a thing about you.
Also, it makes you seem like you're not educated.
And guess what?
I'm not educated, but I am intelligent,
and I do want to come across intelligent for sure.
OK, so I want you to think about something
about the outside of you.
This is where we're going to start right now.
We still have a good 45 minutes left together.
So those of you that have to pop off early, go ahead.
We're going to go till 830 Central.
I want you to go ahead and get honest about some way
that you're representing and presenting yourself
on the outside that really has to shift.
I'm not against some of you going gray
if that's what you want to do, but choose it, OK?
Be intentional about it.
Be intentional.
Get a hold of that gray.
Don't let that gray get a hold of you.
Some of y'all look a little baby chicken hawk.
We got to fix that, OK?
Find a style.
Go to a hairdresser and say, hey,
I'm going to let my hair go gray.
Recommend to me what I can do to not look like a fright
show between now and then.
And silver and gray hair looks really beautiful on some people
and on some people it doesn't.
You're not going to hear that anywhere
because the older ladies just want to say that.
They're like, oh, you know, the hoary head, the wise head.
No, friends, it's a lack of melanin.
And it has to do with vitamin deficiencies,
not just getting old.
There are some people that never go gray.
My mom didn't have a gray hair hardly at all
until she got sick and started getting
these treatments and stuff.
And she was like almost 70 years old.
So I'm just going to tell you that it's family situation.
It's the melanin.
People that have darker melanin, like me,
like some of your sisters here, our melanin sisters,
we go gray earlier sometimes.
Because as we get older, we start
getting lighter, our skin, our hair, all different things.
And some of you, you have family history
where people didn't have a gray hair all the way
until they were like 90 years old.
That's great, wonderful.
And so let's not over spiritualize gray hair.
Just because people have gray hair does not mean they're wise.
And some people just simply don't look good with it.
I know people are like, it's nature's way.
It's God's way of softening your wrinkles.
People say all kinds of things about gray hair.
You need to do you.
If you don't feel comfortable with gray hair,
you don't want it, it doesn't look good on you,
then find a hairstyle.
Get some highlights, get some lowlights, get some ombre,
get whatever you got to do.
Get some sombre in order to, that's
highlights that they put through that kind of mask
the gray without having to dye your roots every five days.
There's sprays you can use.
I need to do my roots.
But if I did my roots, as soon as they
started growing in gray, I would have to do them
like every three days is how fast my hair grows.
So I have a spray that I use from L'Oreal that looks great.
I didn't spray tonight because I wanted you to see my gray hair.
That's why.
Just so you know, this is like a week, a week of grow out here.
But I ain't going gray.
You know why?
Because I don't want to.
And if you don't want to, then don't
let anyone else force you to.
And if you want to, then own it.
Own it if you want it.
Own it.
Find a style that fits.
Figure out what you need to do.
You need to wear your hair up, wearing a claw clip
while it's growing out so your hair is not down.
It doesn't gray from here and then black from here.
You might want to get, I know you want to go gray,
but you might want to get some highlights
in the rest of your dark hair to kind of make it all go together
while it's growing out.
Because one thing I will tell you that men don't like,
it's not gray hair that they don't like.
It's this grow out situation because it
makes you just look like an old lady that's
kind of let herself go.
So figure out how to blend it with an expert
while you're letting it go gray.
All right.
All right, let's see.
I want to see in the chat.
You can also unmute yourself if you share for like 20 seconds
about something that you know you have not been keeping up
about the outer appearance.
We always talk about the inner appearance.
Tonight we're talking about the outer appearance.
What do you guys got?
Crystal shaved her head.
You see this in the chat?
She straight up shaved her head and just
let it all grow in gray.
Girl, that's gutsy.
That's gutsy.
I have a flat head.
I wouldn't look good bald hoping.
Hoping y'all never see my flat head
where my mom obviously left me in the crib
and didn't turn me over in time.
You know, just left me lying there,
poor little flat head baby.
All right, facial hair.
Some people are saying, what's it called?
Threading is good.
It depends on how much facial hair you have.
If you have a lot of facial hair,
you probably have some androgens going on, okay?
That's a by-product of hormones,
a different kind of process your body makes,
your testosterone, am I saying it right?
I often, dyslexia, pronounce things wrong.
What's the word?
Is it androgens?
Anybody?
I'm pretty sure that's right.
Okay, so you might have that
and you might need to address that.
If you're getting facial hair,
you know, that could be a sign of PCOS.
It could be a sign of a lot of things.
By the way, you guys, PCOS is just a fancy word
for insulin resistance.
It has a lot to do with your insulin
and less to do with your ovaries, okay?
My daughter just got diagnosed with it.
We went down the rabbit hole with it, okay?
So first of all, find out if there's some sort of problem
that's causing it, some sort of hormone imbalance
that's causing it, some sort of sugar imbalance
that's causing it.
And then as far as getting rid of it,
you can germoplane.
You guys, I really cut myself bad germoplaning myself.
So make sure that you're getting high quality
germoplane razors when you're doing this, all right?
So you can shave your face.
And I'm talking about the man's razor,
like these little straight blades
and you can germoplane your face.
You can pluck out hairs, you can do that.
You can wax, you can get waxed.
Someone said you can get threaded.
Someone says you can use cream that gets rid of it.
I haven't done that.
Although when I was a kid,
I washed my face with my mom's Nair.
And then my mom told me I was gonna grow a beard.
Guys, remember Nair?
If you don't remember Nair,
it was like cream hair removal
that you just put on your legs and you let it sit.
And then you could just brush all the hair off of your legs,
which doesn't sound healthy, does it?
But I thought it was lotion, put it on my face.
And my mom's like, oh, you're gonna grow a beard.
I did not grow a beard, just so you guys know, didn't.
All right, all right, so facial hair.
Facial hair.
You guys, some of you have had the same hairdo
since like middle school.
Don't you think it's time for something new?
I really love all of you,
but some of you could use some bangs, okay?
Some of y'all, some of y'all got some big foreheads.
I love you, but you could use some bangs,
some side swept bangs, looks super cute on you, okay?
Seriously though, I want you to look super cute.
I have done so many makeovers with people,
I can't even tell you.
I was the queen of makeovers in my friend group.
And that's because I'm very direct,
I'll tell you like it is.
And some people need bangs.
Now you gotta be willing to do those bangs.
Don't get them too short, don't get them short, okay?
Some people can do the straight across bangs.
Have you guys ever seen beautiful Dakota Johnson?
You know who she is?
She's Dawn Johnson from Viami Vice
and Melanie Griffith, two beautiful people.
She's their daughter, she's gorgeous.
But have you seen this poor girl without bangs?
Her forehead is literally a landing pad for a helicopter.
It is huge, okay?
And not in a cute way, not in a cute way.
But when that girl has bangs, I mean, she's a 10.
So you see little differences,
little tiny changes can make such a huge difference.
Some of you have been plucking your eyebrows too thin.
No, you can't pluck your eyebrows real thin.
You gotta go to someone who's an eyebrow person
and say, hey, what kind of eyebrow shape
would look good on my face?
And then they will tell you.
For some of you, you pluck so much
that they won't grow back now
and you might need to get a little microblading done.
That's a little tattoo.
Now don't get that done with just anybody.
You gotta get that done with someone real good
if you do that.
Some of you, because of thyroid problems,
you're missing the outer thirds of your eyebrows, okay?
You can get those microbladed.
I know you're like, just microbladed eyebrows.
That sounds scary.
Mine are microbladed.
Look how great they look.
You'd never know.
Look at how natural they look.
You see them?
Do you see how pretty they are, okay?
And that's just because I have kind of fine hair
and my eyebrows are really fine and kind of sparse.
They look like a forest after a fire.
There's just a few trees.
It's not fully, not a lot of trees,
just a few trees still.
Okay, so Hannah, if you're missing those inner thirds, not the outer thirds, is that what
you said?
The inner thirds?
Okay, you might want to check out, see if that's like a hormone thing.
The outer thirds is usually a thyroid thing, especially if you have cold hands and feet,
you get cold easy, you got weight gain, all the things.
Cortisol, can we talk about cortisol for a second, you guys?
Cortisol is crazy and it's part of why we have that belly fat and you know you can get
rid of cortisol, you really can.
You know how?
By going to bed earlier, getting more sleep, magnesium glycinate, make sure you're taking
it.
I take something called Super Mag, I'll post pictures in the group.
It has like five different types of magnesium in it and I eat one of those before I go to
bed.
Like, you're supposed to swallow it and I know this is gross, but I chew up all my tablets
even if you're supposed to swallow them, I chew them.
They don't taste great, that's true, but I just chew them because I don't want to swallow
that big horse pill.
So I chew it up and I swallow it, I take my progesterone and then I'm, all right.
So get better sleep, get to bed earlier, find stress relieving activities, laugh more, go
into nature more, take your shoes off, walk in the grass, ground yourself.
Grounding is huge.
Why did no one tell us about this?
When's the last time you were barefoot in the grass?
When we were kids, we were barefoot in the grass all the time and we were healthy, weren't
we?
We were a whole lot more healthy than we are now.
And we just assume because we're told that, oh, it's just aging, that's what's wrong with
you.
You're just getting old.
No, you don't do what you did when you were a kid.
You don't laugh, you don't play.
Not once when I was a kid, even though I had a dysfunctional family, not once did I pop
out of bed trying to figure out the cares of the world.
Not once did I try to figure out where my money was coming from and what was going to
happen.
No, I just went outside and played.
I went and I walked on the beach.
I lived on Lake Erie and I got in the water and I was in the grass and never had shoes
on.
I was a little hillbilly child.
And I don't even remember.
I remember being sick once when I was a child.
I was never sick.
I didn't even get the chicken pox.
I didn't get them.
Okay, people say these grounding mats work too.
I don't know.
Maybe they do.
Try it.
What are you going to lose?
What have you got to lose?
Get your shoes off and get outside.
Some of you need to put this on your list of things that you want to accomplish before
the end of the year.
You want to become a child again who trusts their daddy and is living carefree.
And then your cortisol is going to go away and you're going to get rid of your moon face
and your belly.
All right, so insulin check.
Walk 30 minutes after a meal.
Walk for 20 to 30 minutes.
You can also do 30 squats.
30 squats.
Why?
Because those are the large muscles of your body, your thighs and your glutes.
And that will burn the most glucose.
So if you do 30 squats after a meal, straight 80.
If you go for a 20 minute stroll just like the Italians do, they actually have a name
for it.
That is going to help balance your blood sugars.
It's going to help you process sugar.
And this is the last thing that I want to say on this subject.
You guys got to get off the sugar.
You got to get off the sugar.
I know you love it.
You know why you love it?
Cause it's a drug.
It's a straight up drug.
You got to get off of it.
You're addicted to it.
I'm here to tell you you're addicted to it.
It's the reason why you can't lose weight.
Okay.
It's the reason why you're tired.
Okay.
It's killing you.
It is.
Inflammation is at the root of every disease and sugar causes massive inflammation in your
body.
You got to get off the junk food.
You got to get off the sugar.
You guys got to turn the ship around.
All of us are around midlife.
You're like, Oh, I'm only 32.
Well, yeah, you're 35.
You live to be 70.
You're at midlife.
For those of us that are 50 that are saying, Oh, I'm at midlife.
Well, that's only if we live to be a hundred.
We're actually past midlife friends.
Sobering thoughts tonight.
Okay.
Of course, in seed oils too, there's a lot of things that we can say, get off of, get
off the gluten, get off the seed oils.
But the most important thing that you need to get off of that you're all of you are on
pretty much is the sugar, the sugar.
You have to get off the sugar.
And if you have to do a detox like a whole 30 or something that helps you get off the
sugar and I'm talking about the breads and the pastas and all the stuff, get off the
sugar, the refined flours, get off of it.
You will feel so good when you get off of it.
You will have so much more energy.
Not at first.
At first, it's going to suck.
Okay.
You're going to have massive crazy cravings, but you're never going to get to the bottom
of what those crazy.
things are really coming from until you do this.
And you can put it off and put it off
and put it off and put it off, or you can do it now.
Because now I believe that we have a chance
to turn the ship around.
That might not be true in 10 years.
You might already have diabetes or something.
So let's go now.
Can we go now?
Can we?
And for those of you that are like,
I don't want to do anything extreme,
you guys don't do anything extreme then.
Take small steps that lead to big change.
Stop drinking soda.
Be honest and raise your hand
if you're still drinking soda.
I don't even care if it's diet, you're drinking soda.
Let me see the hands of the soda.
Let me see the hands of the sweet tea drinkers.
Yeah, sweet tea.
You see the hands of the energy drinkers,
energy drinks with the sugar in them.
The reason why you need those.
That's it, those are only people
that are drinking soda and sweet tea.
Mm-hmm, sweet coffee.
Got a coffee bomb, coffee sugar bomb.
It's got syrups in it and sugars in it,
all kinds of stuff.
Every time I go to the barista and I order a matcha
with almond milk and no sweetener,
they look at me like I'm insane.
Because basically I just asked for a cup of grass.
They know it, I know it, but I like it now.
You guys see me, you guys follow me on social media,
you know that I love the matcha.
Okay, all right, so for those of you that are on the soda,
there's the thing that you can change.
There's the one change that you can make.
Just cut out soda for the next six months.
I bet you you drop 15 pounds just getting rid of soda.
For those of you that eat the candy,
you're like, oh, I don't eat candy.
But who's the candy for?
Have you ever seen the big candy aisles?
They wouldn't keep making this crap
if people aren't eating it.
One whole aisle of the grocery store is candy.
Chocolates and hard candies and all kinds of candies.
Candy, candy, candy.
It's all sugar.
Now, SmartSweets has like three grams of sugar,
so that's one thing.
So if you wanna make a shift,
maybe you shift to not getting rid of coffee,
but you shift to half the sugar of your coffee,
or you shift to just cream in your coffee
and then, you know, whatever.
Make small changes.
I wanna see small changes
that everyone's gonna make right now.
Someone's getting convicted of something, let's see it.
Guys, I've drank so much water today.
This pink in my water is electrolytes.
And it has a little bit of stevia in it
that makes it taste interesting.
And, but I don't drink anything but water.
I literally don't drink anything else.
Not juice, matcha.
Matcha and water, that's it.
Some of you drink too much alcohol.
Did you know the number one risk factor
of cancer is alcohol?
Did you know that?
I didn't know that till my mom got sick.
I talked to a renowned surgeon at the Cleveland Clinic
and I said, hey, what do me and my daughter
need to do differently?
And she said, don't drink alcohol.
She said, we found out that it's actually
the number one risk factor in cancer and inflammation
that causes cancer.
And I said, how many drinks is too many?
And they said more than two a week.
Yeah, seriously.
And I just talked to several other doctors
that confirmed that.
Other doctors here, because you know,
I've been interviewing doctors and I'm like,
hey, is there really a risk between alcohol and this?
And they're like, yeah, it's, you know,
the reason why we don't hear about it, you guys,
is because alcohol is big money.
So if you like your nightly glass of wine,
first of all, it's got tons of sugar in it
because alcohol gets converted to sugar in your bloodstream.
And also it's a huge risk factor.
You're like, but it's wine, it's good for you.
Not every single day.
Yeah, have a couple of glasses of wine a week,
but don't drink it every single day.
Right?
These doctors are not lying.
And they're also, it's also not mainstream information.
Okay?
Yes.
Anything in moderation might be beneficial
and certain types of it and not other types of it.
But some of you probably drink too much.
We don't know who you are, but Holy Spirit does.
And if you are like, wow,
this is supposed to be a fun ladies night,
but we're kind of getting caught up.
called out and called up tonight.
Yes, yes, it was a bait and switch, I apologize.
All right, but for the next 30 minutes,
now we're gonna have some fun.
I wanna see people, your small change
that you're gonna make to try to cut your insulin levels,
things that you're going to do
to get the sugar out.
Your other sisters are giving you great ideas
of how to make those small changes,
so please watch in here.
We don't have to be skinny minis, you guys,
and if you're a skinny mini, then great.
Doesn't mean you're healthy, though.
Skinny's not necessarily healthy,
but we don't have to be skinny minis,
but we do have to take care of ourselves
and present ourselves well.
We definitely have to do that.
And oh, the one thing that I did forget to mention
is you have to lift weights, you guys.
You have to.
Get a weighted vest, they're like 50 bucks on Amazon.
I'll show you the one that I have.
I'll give you the link to it.
I don't get paid for any of this stuff.
Like a couple pennies.
I think I got my Amazon check from my Amazon store
was like 38 cents, so I'm making the big bucks over here.
But I really do like certain products
and I wanna share them.
So get a weighted vest, wear it around the house.
If you're just walking around the house,
just wear it all day long, wear it around the house.
Okay, get some hand weights.
You have to do strength training.
You gotta get your bones strong.
Guys, I wanna tell you something.
I went to the doctor, the same doctor that I went to
last year and the year before,
and my body weight is more than it was
in those first two years.
Significantly more, like 14 pounds more
and I was already overweight.
But the percentage of that body weight that's fat
is much less.
So much more muscle and bone.
My bones are bigger, I guess my bones grew.
My bones are bigger and my muscles,
I have more muscle, less fat.
So I weigh more, but less of it's fat.
Make sense?
So the scale's not gonna tell you what you need to know.
All right, okay.
So I promised you guys some fun Q&A tonight, girls only.
So floor is open.
We have about 30 minutes left of just anything
and everything that you want to say, comment.
If you're gonna make a comment
that's gonna benefit the group, please do.
Just make it short and sweet, okay?
Don't make it 15 minutes long
because only one person's gonna get to say something.
And then if you have a question, once again,
make it as brief and powerful as you can.
All right, who wants to go?
Hi.
Hi, I have a question.
I drink gelatine, is this too much sugar?
That's, is that for you?
Yeah, you should have gotten.
I'm sorry, what is it?
Gelatine.
Jell-O?
Yes, Jell-O, yes.
I mean, there's sugar-free Jell-O out there,
but I think regular Jell-O has quite a bit of sugar
in it, doesn't it, ladies?
Don't you have to put a couple of cups
in the Jell-O to make it of sugar?
I haven't made Jell-O in a long time,
so someone who makes Jell-O, weigh in.
You have to add it so you can basically
add whatever you want.
Right.
You can get plain gelatin and then flavor it
with whatever flavor you want to make it yourself.
Berries.
Okay, thank you.
Good bone broth is also another alternative to gelatin.
That's really good for hair and nails.
How do you go?
Doesn't that taste like meat?
Bone broth, you can, it can be flavored.
You can get it sipping broth.
It's like a soup base, but you can drink it like a tea.
If you get good bone broth, it's very good for that as well.
And the molecules of it are smaller
than a lot of the gelatin,
so it tends to apparently pass through more.
That's what I've been told.
Yeah, no, I love bone broth, sipping broth.
I'm just, I'm assuming that our sister
wants something fruity or like sweet.
Yes or no?
She is.
Okay, well, some people say that you can flavor it.
For those of you that are not drinking bone broth though,
that's a really good point.
So good for you.
So good for your skin and your nails.
Collagen, I've tried lots of collagens,
but natural collagens like that, those are the best.
Those are the best.
And they're good for your gut too, right?
Isn't that good for your gut too?
Yeah.
Be careful of the salt intake of those though.
See which ones you're using.
Some of them have a lot of salt, especially the beef one.
And for those of you that are a carnivore
and different things,
I mean, if that's what God's leading you to do
because of food allergies and because of like detox diets,
cool, but none of that is sustainable long-term.
I don't care what anybody says,
like only eating meat and nothing else.
I mean, anything that's not balanced
is probably not gonna be good for you long-term.
But there are things that you can do short-term
as Holy Spirit leads you,
if that is what you should be doing.
Someone says, I take beef and liver tablets.
I took those too.
Your burps are terrible when you take those,
but if you need them, you need the iron, then go for it.
Who else?
Okay, all your hands are up.
I don't know if their hands are up for sugar still
or if you have questions, but let's go.
Who's got a question?
You guys, I might not have the answer,
but you might have the answer.
So if you have the answer and I don't, then pipe up.
Go ahead.
So this isn't regarding health or anything,
but I have a question I've been dying to ask.
When I've been on the online dating sites,
how do you respond to a guy,
like you have, I just wanna kiss those lips.
You have kissable lips.
It's like so inappropriate.
I've been talking to you for two minutes.
Like, how do you respond to that?
Just you bless them and block them.
You don't even respond.
Good, that's what I've been doing.
Bless them and block them.
Thank you.
I wanted to make sure I was doing that.
He's already telling you within the first two minutes
what he's all about.
I call that a win-win, y'all.
If you don't have to waste your time
with someone who's trying to sweet talk you
just to get around to that eventually, that's good.
Thank you.
I was hoping I was doing it right.
Oh, I have a question.
And you guys, you don't have, this is girl talk.
This is girl time now.
We can do the health stuff,
but anything you guys wanna talk about?
Well, I wanna talk about a date.
So I finally got somebody to like me and they responded.
And so at the beginning, it was like, okay, that's cool.
But, and then he's like, I don't like people who get angry.
I don't like people who talk about themselves.
I don't like people.
So he had a whole list about,
I don't like people who blah, blah, blah.
So I'm like, oh, that's pretty.
So is that a red flag?
Is that a definite red flag or?
I mean, if I were you, I would have responded.
I don't like people who don't like people.
Exactly.
That's what I thought.
And then, I don't know what else we have to say.
I mean, it shows someone who probably
has some pretty significant heart wounds
and they're probably gonna be hard to get along with.
And they're looking for fault.
Yeah.
Thanks.
But I wanna just, I wanna say something
about something that you said when you first started talking.
And I know that you didn't mean it this way,
but sometimes we say things and it's important
that we understand what we just said.
You said, I finally got someone to like me.
That's what you said.
Right.
Because, so not like finally,
because I've been on these apps,
Facebook apps for a long time and nobody's responded.
Well, I'm like, oh God, I don't even care.
And so it was just, for me, it was just like,
oh, okay, somebody finally matched something about,
you know, together.
Not like, oh, finally, somebody loves, you know, likes me.
Okay.
But I just wanna let you know that,
you know, you're very likable.
And just because these platforms are not built
for people in your season of life
doesn't mean that you're not.
And well, I cover that in this book coming out
about how, you know, all this technology
kind of makes us feel a certain way about ourselves.
And, you know, those narratives are not true.
So, anyway, I just wanna let you know, you're very cute.
Very spunky and full of life.
And ladies, if you're gonna wear your hair short,
so like our sister here wearing her hair short,
you know, do the feminine earrings, you know,
do the dangle earrings and stuff
if you're gonna wear your hair short.
Short can be super sexy and very cute.
You're gonna wear it in a bob,
you're gonna wear it real short,
like a crop cut like that.
Then put on, you know, get some of the stacks,
get the earrings done, you know, and stuff,
or wear the big, the dangly earrings.
You know, these are ways to feminine, you know.
feminine up a shorter hairdo. All right. Very cute. I love it. All right. Who else? Jackie?
Yes. Stacy. Hey, I just wanted to share something that happened with me and Clayton. So y'all I'm
in a, um, yep. I am in a level three relationship with an awesome man and his name is Clayton.
And, uh, he is like my personal trainer. He's been lifting weights for years,
used to be like a power lifter. And so I go lift heavy weights with him.
So he has seen me in my workout clothes and everything. And, you know, I wear shorts and
stuff. And we were talking this weekend and I said something about my body and it wasn't positive.
And I didn't even realize I said it. And he said, Stacy, you know, the last couple,
like three times that we'd been together, you've been saying stuff about yourself and
it's negative. And I don't understand why you are gorgeous. And I love your body and I have
absolutely no complaints. So I'm not sure what you're seeing, but you know, you saying that
it's, it's not true. And cause I'm, I mean, I am, I I'm fit, but I mean, like in the beginning
of the year, when I got my body scan at the gym, their gym, they're like, you need to lose 20 to 30
pounds. Well, I mean, I've been working on it, but it's go, it's, you know, up, down, up, down,
and I'm in menopause. I'm 54. I'm ready for more though. 54 and ready for more. So the whole,
the whole thing that I'm trying to tell you guys is don't complain about your body or,
or things that you don't like when you are with a man that you may want to be in a relationship with
or you're in a relationship with. And I actually got this years ago from Onika McClellan, who I,
I was, I worked with her and her husband for years and they have shoreline city in
a Dallas area they've got anyway. And she always said, don't talk negative about your body
with someone that you're in a relationship with, because that's not what Clayton sees. Clayton
doesn't see the mental belly. He doesn't see any of that stuff. What he sees is he's he sees someone
who is beautiful, who loves God, who respects him, who's having fun with him, who goes to the gym
and wears the short sleeve and has, you know, the bat wings, but you know what, I'm still lifting
heavy and still attractive. So watch what, how you are talking about yourself to yourself and also
in front, in front of a man that you're interested in, et cetera. Absolutely. Stacy, get some,
get some testosterone for those bat wings. It'll, it will help. It'll firm them up. You guys know
what bat wings are. Some people call them high Betty's, you know, like hi Betty. And you're,
you know, your legs, bingo arms, bingo arms. Some people call them bingo arms. Okay. Um, so,
but Stacey is a thousand percent right. First of all, a man that, you know, for you guys,
men are attracted to confidence. They're attracted to confident women. This is why
I don't want you to show up sloppy. If you don't value yourself, how's anyone else going to value
you? You have to value yourself. Okay. If you don't want to buy clothes for your current size
and you're like, well, I don't have anything to wear. I want to buy clothes for my current size.
Then get one of these rental agencies, like rent the runway or newly and you pay $90 a month or
something like that. They send you five to 10 outfits, you know, in the size that you are,
look cute, you know, do the thing. And then when it's time to, when you lose the weight and you
want to have permanent clothes that, you know, you want to invest in, then get it. Whatever you want
to do, do it. You got to do it. Swap clothes with other people, get a few friends and say,
Hey, you know, I don't have any cute clothes, but you know, that I like anymore, but maybe you like
some of these and go on a little clothing swap. Yes. Testosterone helps, helps you build muscle,
you guys, for those bingo arms and those bat wings. And the other thing I want to say to
Stacey, first of all, you guys, if you haven't noticed, you better get super encouraged and
you better think something supernatural is happening because it is some of our longest
term students, Renee, Stacey, the list goes on and on. Brandy, Steven, they are popping like
popcorn. They are getting into relationships. They did not give up. They took the coaching.
They took the advice. They applied it. They stayed focused. They stayed out of their feelings and out
of self pity. And here we are. Okay. It's super exciting. And I want to tell you about men that
love you. I don't care what you think you look like. All men love a naked lady. Okay.
They love you naked. They're not going to look at your cellulite.
That's not what they care about. You know?
Your boobs can look like pancake batter in a sock to you,
but they're still gonna like them, all right?
Right?
We'll all sing it together.
Do your boobs hang low?
Do they wobble to and fro?
Can you tie them in a knot?
Can you tie them in a bow?
Right?
It's okay.
Get some firming cream, get a nice pushup bra, we're good.
It's gonna be all right.
Jill, Jill's like, you crazy girl.
It's true.
It is true.
All right.
Chest presses, yes, Shawnee.
Build that muscle behind the boobs.
And you guys, you know what else will actually
make your boobs kind of come up a little bit?
Is bio-identical hormone replacement.
It actually firms them up because,
especially for those of you that have dense breasts,
because that's breast tissue in there and it pulls it up.
All right.
Jackie, can I ask a question?
Yes, you can.
Cherise said something really good here in the comments.
She did not unmute herself, but she said,
get a bra that fits.
Ladies, go get measured, get a bra that fits.
Get something.
Your clothes will look so much better on you
if you have the right undergarments on.
All right, go ahead.
You can say something.
I just wondered, I've asked this several times
in the chats, but almost all but one of my matches
have been fraudulent.
On several sites.
And then I even got one through Facebook
where he found me.
It wasn't on the site, but, and I'm not discouraged,
but I am.
I wonder if there's something in my posting that draws.
No, I think that, I think your age group
on social media has become a target.
That's just it.
So I want to encourage you to get in person.
One thing that I know about singles groups
in all of your areas,
because I have lots of singles groups here
and lots of people that go to them.
And the thing that they give me that regular feedback on,
because these girls are in their 30s and maybe early 40s,
is that everybody there was older.
So these in-person singles group,
a lot of them are probably in your age group.
So find some in-person ones,
because you guys, if something's not working for you
and you've really given it a good try over a period of time,
don't do it anymore.
Stop wasting your time.
Put that time and energy and money investment
into something different, okay?
I posted, I don't know if you guys follow me on Instagram.
If you don't, you should,
because I post some fun stuff over there.
But I posted a picture of one of our sisters that,
you know, I think that she's probably in her, you know,
mid to later 60s that just got married.
It happens, it happens a lot actually.
So get off the apps where these scammers
are trying to target what they think are, you know,
older women and let's get in-person,
especially in the summertime, friends.
Unless God's told you just to be on the apps,
unless you feel at peace and, you know,
you really believe that there's some quality
to the app for you,
then let's get out and get in-person and meet people.
Lots of people are out.
If you live in a cold place where people are gonna be shut
back in their house for another six, seven months,
then let's get out while we can.
Yep.
Thank you.
You're welcome, you're cute.
She's another sweet, you know, beautiful lady with,
she's got short hair, she's rocking it out.
She's got the earrings on.
Move your head, you got the earrings on?
Yep, I see them.
I see those dangles.
See the dangly earrings.
You guys, I polled, I polled the men.
I polled like there's a thousand,
there's like 1,100 men in my group.
I polled them and I said,
what is the first thing that you notice about a woman?
And the very first thing that the very first thing
that the majority of them say they notice is her smile.
Okay?
So ladies, make sure your teeth are kept up, all right?
Whitening strips, get a nice bright smile.
If you have tetracycline stains or some other kind of stain
on your teeth and, you know,
maybe you have veneers or dentures that are stained
or whatever, look into what you need to do
to have the nicest smile that you can have, all right?
Hey, Jackie, can I encourage you young ladies?
Sure.
Okay.
You know, I'm probably one of the older women on here
and, you know, I play pickleball with 80 year olds.
The other day I played with one who was 91
and I always find somebody to go like,
I want to be just like you and just stay active.
So I've never had a lot of money.
So I haven't had spent a lot of money on exercise and such,
but I've always made sure that I have DVDs
or yoga tapes or things.
And I go to a gym and I just did five sessions of a,
personal trainer, but then she videotaped me while I was doing it so that I can now do it at home.
And so I just want to say that, you know, we can we can stay healthy. I love everything that Jackie
says, because between the diet and the products we use on our face and the exercise we can do,
it doesn't have to cost a lot of money. It doesn't even have to take a lot of time,
but I just want to say keep doing it. Another, another, you know, old enough to know better
sister of ours who's super cute with her hair and her earrings and, you know, looking feminine and,
you know, giving some good advice there. You guys, who knows who Joyce Meyer is?
So Joyce is in her 80s. I don't know if you know that or not. And yes,
she had a bad facelift. Okay. Her face is kind of pulled back a little bit. I love her,
but she is very, you know, she's got, I know she's got a little bit of health problems going
on that are kind of beyond her control, but as far as her physical body is concerned,
she has kept it up. She has talked about exercise and eating right for years,
and she really has overcome a lot, especially because of all the stress of her childhood.
You guys, stress ages us very quickly. It causes all kinds of health problems in our older lives.
If you've had a really dysfunctional childhood, for those of you that come out of abusive
marriages, your body has been under a lot of stress for a really long time and that breaks
it down. Okay. And so sometimes we start aging faster because of what we've been through.
And we already know her story. We know she's been through a lot, but one of the things that she does
besides all of these things that we're talking about that I really want to encourage you to do
is she quotes the word of God. The word of God will keep you young. My friends,
you need to be quoting the word of God. All right. I don't care how crazy people think you are.
If everything that you know, and that you believe and that your life is founded on is the word of
God, but it is what is going to keep you all the days of your life. Okay. So get in the word,
quote the word, get those affirmations made. For those of you that didn't watch last Thursday
halftime shift, watch it, make the affirmations, make sure you have scripture to back it up
and be quoting the word of God. It will bring health. The Bible says the word will bring
medicine to your flesh and it'll bring strength to your bones, right? To your, to the, to the
bone marrow in your bones, you'll have happy bones. The word of God will give you happy bones.
All right. It's important that you understand that it's going to do all that for you.
So, um, Tricia, I posted the affirmations that I read, um, on supernatural Saturday,
they're tagged to the featured section of your Facebook group for level three for phase three VIP.
Yes. Laughter does good like a medicine. We want those things. The word of God, the word of God.
Okay. Iliad, we got to have it. Go ahead. I wanted to just tips. Like you were saying,
like things that like you back. So I live by the two thirds rule. I don't leave the house and
unless my outfit hair or skin and makeup is done, two of those got to be done for me to leave the
house. Two of them. It's a two thirds rule. So I typically go all three, but at least two of those
and that skin and makeup, your hair and whatever your outfit fitting properly. So that's my two
thirds rule. And like you said, wait, wait, wait. So someday you might come out skin and makeup,
but hair's just in a ponytail, but your outfit is on point. Correct. Everything has to be groomed,
but I would put more emphasis on two than possibly the whole three.
But sometimes you might have like makeup and your hair is done, but your outfit is just.
Plain, but maybe it's at leisure wear. Maybe it's just, yeah. So that's like my two thirds
where everything has to be groomed. Two thirds. And like you said, like things that like you back.
And if you want to know if it likes you back, take a full body picture and be honest when that picture
you can see it. And like the lady was saying earlier about her undergarments, you can go to
Nordstrom's or Bloomingdale's. You can get them to fit you. They will write everything down and
email it to you. You don't have to buy anything. You can go to a Bloomingdale's or Macy's or Saks
and even Marcus and get them to style you. They will say, Hey, you have a Pinterest. Give me your
Pinterest ideas. They will pull everything. They will style you there. They will take pictures of
it and you can go to a TJ Maxx and you know, wherever else to get something cheaper. If you
don't want to invest in that. Lastly, don't negate the beauty schools. You can go into abuse schools
in Stockholm and ask them, well, who's the girl in here? The girl that does the best cut, the girl
that has the best color, the girls that does the best facial. I used to do that. Ask him for the
kid that's about to graduate. Yes. About to graduate. And they will give you that person.
You can get a hydro facial for $50. You can get, you know, laser.
Yeah, you should get your panties there for sure.
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
You can get stuff 10, 15, $20, y'all.
And you know what else you can get?
You can go to the massage schools
and you can get a really good massage.
And as well as the dental schools.
There's dental schools in your local,
that will give you very cheap cleanings,
very cheap whitening, very cheap anything.
So just, you know, if you don't have, you know,
the money the way you want to have it,
just check into those beauty schools.
They gotta practice on somebody.
They gotta practice.
And you guys, and they're being overseen by a supervisor
who's like, you know, a teacher.
Who is a medical, yeah, professional.
And I'm a licensed esthetician.
And I, when I had to get my hours,
I gave free facials.
I gave free everything away because I just needed it.
Like I needed the hours.
So just be mindful of that.
You can find what you need in your budget.
Great tips.
Bougie on a budget, y'all.
Great tips.
I love it.
And you guys, listen,
you don't have to do your hair all the time.
Do what I do.
Get yourself some cute hats.
All right?
This is what I do.
I wash my hair because it is a process.
I wash it and my hair's naturally curly.
And so then I gotta do all the things and all the stuff.
And I don't want to do that a lot.
So I wash it.
All right?
And then I wear it cute.
The day that it gets washed, it gets cute.
The next day I braid it at nighttime.
The next day it gets cute again.
I refresh it with some water.
I scrunch it.
I do the things.
But by day three or four, I'm gonna wear a hat.
Because I like to only wash my hair like once
every six or seven days.
So I'm gonna wear a hat.
If you see me, it's hat day, right?
And if you work out and stuff,
you're gonna probably want to get some hats.
Get some good dry shampoo.
K18 has an amazing dry shampoo.
It's unlike any dry shampoo you've ever used.
It's called Air Wash.
It will leave your hair fresh like you just washed it.
It's not chalky.
It doesn't leave any powder residue.
Get yourself some Air Wash.
Okay?
Pam's like, if I put on a hat, I can never take it off.
Well, you're not gonna take it off that day.
And then you go home, you can wet your hair
and scrunch it up.
You got curly hair too, I see.
And so I do not straighten my hair.
Marina, who's got a good hair straightener for Marina
that straightened their hair?
Anybody?
So I don't use like a hair straightener,
but if I want to like have bigger curls,
like you'll never see me with straight hair,
but if I want to have bigger, like bigger,
like fair faucet hair or whatever,
I use, when I'm blow drying my hair,
I have this comb that's a hot, like it's a blow dry.
It's a blow dry brush.
And I'll give myself a blow out with it
and make the bigger curls.
Oh, you're unmuted.
Do you have a question?
Nope. Okay.
Go ahead.
Was that me?
Yeah.
Oh, okay.
I was gonna say, well, I think the brand of straightener
that I use is a Bebe.
Okay.
Right, it's blue.
It's very popular, but mine's pretty old.
Bebe, okay.
And it's blue, blue Bebe, guys.
A lot of people are saying, yeah, La Ange or whatever,
that's the name of my blow out thing that I use.
However you say that, La Ange.
T3 on high end or Conair for less expensive.
I will tell you guys, I have a T3 curling iron.
I really love it.
But the curling iron, my hair,
the girl that does my hair told me that
the T3 curling irons get way too hot
and they're really bad for your hair.
They burn your hair.
And so please make sure if you're using a T3
that you don't have a T3 curling iron.
And if you do have a T3 curling iron,
make sure that you're using a T3 curling iron.
Please make sure if you're using a T3
that you don't have it up too high.
And it's hard to tell because it's just like little lights.
You know, you click it and the little lights light up.
So don't click, don't light the lights up
more than halfway up.
Okay, yeah, use a good heat protector.
I use Milbon, M-I-L-B-O-N,
but there's lots of different ones you can use out there.
Everyone put your favorite products in the chat.
Wouldn't be a girl's night without products.
Dark circles under your eyes.
There's a really good clay, comes with a brush,
clay concealer from Tarte.
It's a compact little circle.
You use the brush, you pat it under your eyes.
It's from the brand Tarte, T-A-R-T-E.
Check that one out.
I like NARS, I like their concealer as well, N-A-R-S.
Paul Mitchell, beef tallow cream for your face.
Some people, guys rubbing lard on your face.
My husband does that.
My husband puts beef tallow on his face.
Oak Essentials for skincare.
Look at all these things, you guys, check it out.
A lot of people ask me about my skincare routine
because you guys, this is.
I mean, I don't have any wrinkles and it's probably part genetics.
And the other part is I use dermatology skincare because I have rosacea.
So I use like a Retin-A. By the way, that one company, the hormone company that I'm
talking about, you can get the cream for your vagina.
They also have a Retin-A that you can get.
And if you do start using that on your skin, I do suggest it.
I suggest that all of you use that.
Don't use it more than once or twice a week to start.
It's never caused me to be flaky, but you know, especially if you have sensitive skin,
you know, dilute it, put some moisturizer in it, put it on just a little bit goes a
long way.
A little pea-sized amount.
Start small, start small.
And wear sunscreen because the Retin-A makes you extra sensitive.
That's right.
You got to stay out of the sun.
It's not for the summertime.
If you're a sun worshiper, it's not for you.
Okay.
Coconut oil is good for everything, Tricia.
You put that on your skin.
You put that in your hair.
You guys, I do put castor oil in my belly button at night.
Does anyone mouth tape?
Anybody?
At nighttime when you're sleeping?
I do.
I have.
Okay.
My doctor said that mouth taping is really good for you.
So don't–don't–don't suffocate but you tape your mouth so that you breathe out
of your nose when you're sleeping and what happens is if you have a deviated septum or
you can't breathe out of your nose because of allergies, you might want to get like a
nose strip to open up your sinuses.
But if you mouth tape, then what happens is your tongue goes up to the palate, up to the
roof of your mouth and it actually strengthens your jaw line and it improves your oxygen
intake.
It's supposed to be super, super good for you.
Wow.
Okay.
So we're looking at all the things we're learning, y'all.
Hey, Jackie.
Yeah?
Can we talk about yoga pants?
What do we want to talk about them about?
Can–can we all agree, ladies, to just cover up your bum when you're wearing your yoga
pants?
Yeah.
I mean, I will say this.
I will cover up my bum until–until my cake is ready and then I'll be showing off my hard
one body whenever I want.
I'm just kidding.
I did tell my husband though, I was like, babe, I was like, I'm working hard out here.
I'm working hard.
And when I get to where I want to be, I was like, watch out because I'll be like, I'll
do what I want.
It's going to be good.
But yes, you guys, get the thicker yoga pants, first of all.
Some people are wearing tights.
They're wearing pantyhose out here, calling them yoga pants.
Probably not the best thing.
You ever seen those really, really thin, thin, thin yoga pants?
You can see people's–people's stuff.
You can see all their stuff.
So–
They–they make these beautiful athletic skirts that have little shorts and it's this lovely
little ruffled skirt that goes over your bum.
So you look like a feminine woman and you can still run in them and play tennis in them
and weightlift in them and you just look lovely and feminine as opposed to, look at my arse.
Look at your little white peach.
I say if you got it, flaunt it, but our sister here does not want you to.
So–so–but listen, when you go to Pilates, when you go to like the gym where you're
going to like do the things that you do in yoga pants, you're going to go to the yoga.
My yoga pants have never been to yoga, okay, because I'm not very flexible.
I can't even touch my toes.
So–but yes, the rest of us, maybe, yeah.
Jackie, how do you feel about a little cleavage during a date or a little like mini dress
on a date?
I mean, listen–
Not both at the same time, but one–
I will tell you this.
I'm over here rocking like 40 triple Ds and they have a mind of their own.
So they're going to be out no matter if I want them out or not.
They're going to get out.
They're getting out, okay?
And so if we're doing it on purpose, we got a little bit of a low cut top.
You know, I think classy and tasteful, right?
Classy and tasteful.
It's very difficult if you have any kind of–any kind of boobs.
If you, you know, if they're–if they're bigger than what could fit in a wine glass.
If you have anything going on here, they're kind of hard to hide.
In the fashions that are available now, they're kind of hard to hide.
So we're not going to button up to here, okay?
We're just not going to do it.
I think that men need to get a hold of themselves.
I think that wear what makes you feel confident and good about yourself.
I believe that modesty is a heart posture,
meaning that if I dress in a way
that I'm purposely trying to weaponize my sexuality
to manipulate and seduce men, then I'm sinning, okay?
If I'm weaponizing my sexuality
to manipulate and seduce weak men,
y'all, those are weak men, and we don't want them, okay?
But if I'm a beautiful woman and I'm a curvy woman,
then I'm gonna wear what makes me feel confident,
and I'm not doing it to seduce or manipulate men.
I'm doing it because this is what makes me
feel good about myself.
Is that good?
Perfect, last question.
Do you wear fragrance?
Are you a fragrance fan?
Guys, I really miss fragrance.
What are we gonna do?
It's endocrine-disrupting.
I wanna wear it again.
What can we wear?
Does anyone know what perfumes we can wear?
I wanna wear fragrance, I do.
Can we put it on our clothes
and not necessarily on our bodies?
Or are you saying that-
Does anyone know?
Does anyone know the answer to that?
Essential oils, I'm not down with it.
I don't like them.
I want my own signature scent.
I have a signature scent that my foster daughter makes
out of essential oils, and she made it just for me,
and I'm so spoiled.
I have my own personal perfume, and it's all natural,
and I love it.
What about oil that makes the candles and the oil
that's rolled, the petroleum in the candles and stuff?
It's all natural stuff.
It smells really good.
Somebody, again, you can, it's like anointing oil
is what it's used for, but you could use that, I guess.
You guys, I do wanna tell you this.
Men love anything that has vanilla in it.
I know that's crazy, and we don't always love that,
but if you want a man to think you smell good,
anything that has hints of vanilla,
doesn't have to be fully vanilla,
but if it has some kind of vanilla in it,
that is what they polled liking the smell of the most,
just so you know.
Okay, I love your question, and I don't know the answer,
and I've been thinking about this.
It's so crazy that you said it,
because I've been thinking I need some smells.
I want a scent.
Here is an awesome one.
What?
This one, it's, can you read that?
Oh, yeah, my daughter uses that.
It's amazing, and this scent is spectacular.
Okay, you guys, so Google clean fragrances.
I think that's one of them, and find out.
I just haven't, you know,
these fragrances aren't always sold at the stores and stuff.
You have to order them in different things,
so trying the ones on to see what works
with your pH and body chemistry is harder,
but yes, pheromone perfume on Amazon, I don't know.
I went to, I went to a party with some friends,
and it was her, one of my best friends,
she's going through a divorce.
It was their, like, 12-year anniversary,
so there was a lady who gifted her with this party
where you make your own scents.
It was in, like, Bernie area, but it was so awesome,
so we all got, it was made out of essential oils,
but basically, like, I made the one that I liked the most,
and you got to sample all of them.
It was, like, lavender and fig, and so it's all natural,
and it was a really fun experience.
Like, it's a cool thing you can do with girls and whatever.
I love it.
Yeah.
I love it, that sounds really fun,
so maybe see if there's any kinds of parties like that
or host one.
A lot of people are putting some really good stuff
in the chat, so please pay attention to that.
You guys, if you didn't get anything else from tonight,
I really want you to, I want you to get this,
that we really need each other, okay?
Women need each other.
Oftentimes, your experience, you know,
what you've tried or what you've done
or the things you've been through in life,
you know, some other woman really needs to know about that.
It's important that we gather together like this
and we laugh and we have fun, all right?
So if you don't have any girlfriends
to do life with in person,
I really wanna encourage you to find some friends.
If that wasn't on your list of something to do
between now and the end of the year,
please put it on your list.
Let that be added to everyone's list
that you're gonna have some friends
before the end of the year that you can go out with,
that you can cut up with, that you can have, you know,
that you can travel with or do whatever with,
that you can call, and if you already have those people,
then invest in those relationships.
If they're good ones, if not, get some better ones, okay?
Make some friends here
and people that you can do life with in real life
or get on the phone and, you know,
pray over each other and chat with each other.
We used to assign prayer partners
early in the program back in 2020, 2021.
We haven't.
and done that as of late.
Those didn't always turn out well.
People didn't always like their prayer partner,
but some of them became the bestest of friends,
were in each other's weddings, all the things.
So I really wanna encourage you to find girlfriends,
find sisters, we all need each other, okay?
And be watching for that event page.
I'm very excited about getting in person.
I really want 2025 to be an in-person year,
and so we're gonna do as much as we can to get in person
and just really have fun for singles events,
and then of course for these retreats,
and we're gonna do what we can
in order to make a space for you guys
to love on each other and meet each other.
All right, I hope you had fun tonight.
Father, I just pray for all of my sisters.
I pray that whatever was said tonight
that they really needed to hear,
the thing that they need to focus on taking care of
when it comes to themselves, they are just so valuable.
They are so precious to you, God,
and I pray that they would see themselves that way.
I pray that they would begin to take care of themselves
in ways that they haven't before,
that they would see themselves
in ways that they haven't before,
and I pray that you bring them resources around them
in the form of other people and wisdom
and revelation and insight
in order to get into the healthiest place in their life
in every way, but specifically physically,
specifically physically, Lord,
you've given us these beautiful vehicles called our bodies,
and we want them to be able to take us
all the way across the finish line.
So I pray, Holy Spirit,
that you would convict each and every one of us
of something that we're doing that's harming us,
something that we're not doing that we should be doing
so that we can do it and we can see quick wins.
In Jesus' name, amen.
All right, friends, love you so much.
I'll see you soon.
Bye, everyone.