Awesome.
Okay.
So welcome.
Good evening.
I'm Bethany Cooper.
I'm one of the master hardware coaches in the community.
I'm so glad to be here with you tonight.
And to see what God is going to stir in your hearts,
the breakthroughs that are going to happen and all of the
transformation that God has in store for all of us,
myself included.
God is always giving us upgrades.
And so thank you for joining us tonight.
I want to say way to go on investing in your heart work and making
yourself a priority.
I'm so glad to be here with you tonight.
You all it's going to be life-changing.
The more that you continue to lean into this process and everything
that God has for you every day.
No matter what you're facing,
if you'll just pause every day and just say, Lord,
what's one thing.
That you want me to do regarding my heart work today.
You can breathe.
You can work on that one thing.
You can do more than one thing a day,
but if you're feeling that overwhelm, just kind of focusing on, okay,
derailed or caught up in that one thing.
And then keep going.
And so that's the way to push through overwhelm ladies.
We can feel it.
That's real, but we don't want to get derailed because of overwhelm.
And so when I encourage you, if that is you,
if you're kind of in the mix of the heart work process and you're
feeling that,
that is something that I want to encourage you to partner with.
You can do more than one thing a day,
but if you're feeling that overwhelm, just kind of focusing on, okay,
what's that one thing father today that I can do,
that's going to help you kind of press through that and not get derailed
or quit.
Again, my name is Bethany Cooper. I'm so glad to be here.
Who is new joining us for the first time tonight.
This is your first live session. You've never been here before.
Go ahead and put that in the chat for us.
We'd love to welcome you and join you for all my sisters that are coming
back for another round of heart work. Welcome back.
So glad to have you here again tonight.
It looks like Canyon is here for the first time and Sharon is here for the
first time. Love it. Welcome ladies.
So glad to have you as a part of the last year,
single community and family God's on the move. You all,
he's doing something amazing and kingdom families and marriages,
and he's starting with us. He's starting with us.
For those of you that have never met me before.
I'm a success story from the community and net Lewis,
who's one of our peer coaches in the community as well is also one of our
success stories.
And God is doing amazing things and continuing to, you know,
just teach both of us things in marriage that y'all,
we couldn't learn when we were single.
There's all kinds of things that we get stretched and we grow and God is,
is doing awesome things.
So I'm going to pass it over to Annette and have her do a couple housekeeping
things for us and pray us in as well.
Good evening, ladies. It's so good to be here with you tonight.
And as Bethany said,
there's always opportunity to learn and grow no matter where you are in life,
whether you're married or single. God really wants to work in all of us.
We often say in the group, hurt in relationship,
healed in relationship, hurt in community, healed in community.
And with that being said,
what we really want you to do is come out of hiding,
be courageous and step into the group post about what you're going through
about how we can pray for you, how we can encourage you,
how we can support you because we want to do everything that we can to
support the work that Holy spirit's doing in your life.
So be sure to,
to take the time each week to just give us a little update about how you're
doing. That encourages us as well. And like I said,
gives us the opportunity to encourage you.
And the other thing that always comes, no matter where you are,
whether it's in heartwork or in life, just outside of this distractions,
always come because Satan likes to do nothing more than get us derailed or
off track.
But the way that we can come against that is by continuing on persevere,
continue in the process. Even like Bethany was saying earlier,
if it's just one thing a day, one thing is progress.
If you don't do everything that you wanted to do, that's okay.
If it takes you longer than you think it should take you, that's okay.
It's all okay.
What we want you to do and what we pray that you continue to do is despite
distractions or things that come up,
that you still show up so that we can support you,
help you pray for you and just keep navigating and moving forward.
Okay. So with all that said,
I'm going to pray us in and we're going to get started and see what God has
for us tonight. Dear heavenly father.
Thank you for the privilege and the opportunity to come tonight before you
together in this community.
Thank you for the healing of hearts and minds that embodies that you have
for us tonight. We pray for revealing,
for healing that things that we maybe haven't grasped before that you would
have for us tonight.
We pray that you would open our hearts and our eyes to be able to receive
those.
Ask your anointing on Bethany tonight as she.
speaks your truth out over each one of us, help us to learn and
grow and to walk more and more each day into our most authentic
selves. And that we can have the abundant life and fulfill the
plans and the purposes that you have for us, God. In your name,
I pray. Amen.
Amen. Amen. I love that. Thank you so much. And I appreciate
you praying and going over those ladies super important what
and that is talking about in that housekeeping. I know those
are kind of things where sometimes we were like, I can
miss that. I promise you need to hear it. And that's why we're
saying it. And so I want to encourage you all on the
distractions, as she was saying, I just feel led to kind of
emphasize this a little more. We were chatting about this this
afternoon. And one of the things when I was going through the
heartwork in my boot camp, again, that's what we used to
call it. I can't tell you how many times my spiritual
daughter's dad who was, you know, recently kind of had
broken up with him how many times he would literally text
me when I would be on live sessions like you're on right
now. And so I want to just say to you, that if you have x's
popping up, even messaging you during lives, or when you sit
down to do heartwork, y'all, that's, that's a trap of the
enemy. Okay, he's trying to lure you away so that you're not
focusing on your heartwork. And a lot of people will be like, Oh,
I just met someone awesome. Right after you get in the
heartwork. Okay, let's just think about that. Okay. Am I
saying that person isn't awesome? They might be. But if
you just came into the heartwork and someone pops up, you know, I
want to encourage you just to say to them, hey, you seem
really amazing. I just started this really important heartwork
journey that I need to do I need to invest in this. And you know,
if you're open to it, I would really enjoy circling back to
when I'm finished with this and you all putting that in God's
hands. I promise if that is your spirit mate, he is going to wait
for you and he's going to honor that process. If he's someone
that's like, No, let's we got to do this now. And you're like, I
got to do this now or I'm going to miss out. Y'all that should
be a signal to you. Right there. That's a signal that you're
getting way too caught up in fear and panic that you're going
to miss out on something. You can't miss out on your spirit
mate. You just can't. Okay. For some of you, you've been single
for a long time, you've been waiting for marriage. You know,
the enemy is going to try to come in and lie like it's never
going to happen. This heartwork is not going to really be
effective. I mean, he just tries to come in and assault us all
the time to get us focused off of the Lord and on to his his
lies and the things that can lead us astray and isolate us
and cause us to go into withdrawal and all of the
things. So I'm just trying to reveal some of the tactics of
the enemy so that you're aware. And hopefully you won't get
tripped up by them too. Because we have so many ladies that get
derailed in their heartwork and have to circle back years later.
Okay, let's, let's stay in the game, stay focused. And remember
you're worth it. You're worth it. And so is your, your healthy
marriage. Okay, so stay down in, we're going to go into
supernatural surrender tonight. But I did want to talk to you
first about your Jesus cares board. For those of you that
have just begun, you might be in week one, or you might be
working on the welcome area. But either way, the Jesus cares
board video by Jackie is in week one. For ladies that are past
that you might even want to circle back and just rewatch
that one video, but I am going to go through it tonight. I feel
like it's super important to emphasize this in our
supernatural surrender week. The Jesus cares board, ladies,
it's all about surrendering your worries, your concerns, the
things that are burdening you and and ladies, let's get
specific. Okay, so for instance, it's cool to put a person's name
on there. But man, let's put what is it that you're asking
Jesus to take care of in that person's life, in your
relationship with that person? What is a specific need
regarding, you know, your health and wellness? Like, what do you
need specifically Jesus to do in your life? And I have this thing
actually up on my vision board, I was looking at it today, it
says, the prayers that are not asked, cannot be answered. And I
think that's such a good reminder tonight. And so many
times I think we and again, we're kind of glossing in
general saying, Jesus, I need this. And it's like this big
general prayer. And he knows everything we have need of, but
there's something about us asking him for it, casting those
cares onto Jesus and, and saying, Jesus, I trust that
you're going to work in this situation. So I'm going to show
you, ladies, yours doesn't have to look like any of these. Okay.
But I am going to show you some examples.
from my, I think I have mine in here,
but I have a couple other ladies.
I did a little different this afternoon
and just kinda, I had a hard time setting my board
back where it was.
So I wanna show you all this.
Give me one second, I wanna make this a little smaller.
Okay, so this one, again, y'all can do whatever you want.
These were little heart post-it notes.
That was something she wanted to do.
And these were some things,
some scriptures that spoke to her,
some areas that God was really speaking to her.
Again, would love to encourage y'all to get real specific.
This one was just a magnetic board.
She got it and put it on her fridge.
Maybe that's something that's more doable for you.
This isn't about the mechanism that you use, ladies, okay?
It's not about how creative you can get.
If you wanna be creative, awesome, do that.
But the goal is for you to get it done,
to cast your cares and get that stuff off of you
and onto Jesus.
So however you can do that, like quickly, effectively,
and then revisit it as you even go through the hard work,
because there might be additional things that come up.
Here's another one.
She did a heart background and then pink post-its.
There's a scripture on there that spoke to her.
Here's another one.
She put herself on there
as a reminder that Jesus cares about her.
I love that.
You know, so many of all of us need that daily reminder
that not only does he care about all of our needs,
but he cares about us.
And so that gave her that visual reminder every day.
Here's a push pin board.
That's something that I used.
It just made it really easy to kind of pin those up
real quick.
And you see here, she's kind of going into some,
even like anger.
She needed Jesus to help her with her anger,
some other areas.
I also wanted to show this
because there's these little boxes,
these red boxes on the bottom here.
I really wanna encourage those of you with children.
It doesn't have to be on your board.
They can have their own board, okay?
But to encourage your children
to create their own Jesus cares board.
Even little children can start to understand
what it means to cast a care on Jesus.
And so these little red boxes,
this woman was a single mama
and her kid was old enough to read her board.
And she had some private things
that she wanted to cast onto Jesus.
And so she created those boxes and put them inside of there,
but she knows what those represent, excuse me.
And so maybe that's something that you might need to do
if you have kids and you're worried about that.
And so you haven't been putting a certain need on your board
that really is a burden to you.
This is one way, you don't have to do it this way,
but this is just a recommendation.
Y'all, you literally could pin it and close it.
It doesn't have to even be a little box,
but I just want y'all to know and see.
This lady had windows on a door and she just used that.
Again, I'm trying to show you how doable this is.
For her, she used different color post-its
for different categories.
Again, y'all do whatever you want.
This is your thing.
Here's another one.
I'm gonna kind of start going through these.
Okay, that's my last one.
Oh, I didn't put mine in there.
That's all right.
So the reason I was gonna show you mine
is that when I went through the heart work,
it was one way, it's a different,
like not everything is off there,
but a lot of them are off of my board now.
I also, I'm gonna unblur my screen
because I wanna show y'all something,
but mine has changed.
So I update mine kind of on a regular basis.
I don't know if y'all can see that little,
where I'm pointing, it's like right above my finger there,
and it looks like little blue and pink post-it notes.
So what I started doing was putting my answered prayers
on a piece of paper and I pinned it to this board
that's behind me that I can look at on a regular basis
to remind myself that Jesus cares.
God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit are working in my life.
They're answering prayers that I've specifically asked for.
And that just fuels my faith to believe for more of that,
that God will do it again in my life
and he's gonna do it again in yours.
So I want y'all to also reflect on areas of your life
where God has already answered prayers
so that that can build your faith
for what he's going to do in the days ahead.
And remember, sometimes he doesn't answer our prayers,
but praise the Lord he doesn't
because they're not actually good for us.
All right, so keep that in mind as you keep moving forward.
Okay, so let's go into the supernatural surrender.
Ladies, I want you to think about,
I'm gonna share a song with you here in a minute.
I'm not gonna play the whole thing,
but I do feel led tonight to play part of it.
I don't normally do this, but I was getting ready tonight
and I just felt, I felt nudged to put some worship music on
and I listened to a song I haven't listened to in a while.
And it just feels like it goes really well with tonight,
but I wanna say something to you first.
I wanna encourage you to let God add his super
to your natural.
To let God add his super to your natural.
To encourage you to release everything
into his care, to surrender completely, to release,
is to allow something to move, act, or flow freely.
So where are you currently still trying to clench it
with a fist and hold on to it?
And the Lord is saying, let go.
Will you release this area of your heart to me?
Will you allow me to come in and heal every area,
even the vulnerable places, the scary places,
the places that maybe even, man, you're kind of like,
I should be back, excuse me, past this by now.
Y'all, let's just let go of all of that.
There's no age that limits you
from healing and transformation.
If we are still here,
God has something he's doing in our lives.
Not just something he wants us to do,
something he wants to do in us.
So Jesus, before I even play this song,
just thank you for supernatural healing tonight.
I pray that you would help the ladies
open their hearts fully to you,
to receive everything that you have for them,
nothing missing, nothing lacking, nothing broken,
that we would be made completely whole, Lord,
in every way, in mind, body, spirit, soul,
in our finances as well.
God, we just thank you in advance for that.
So I'm gonna play part of this song.
All right.
Sorry, y'all, I can't see.
There we go.
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ Jesus is in this room, here I know, here I know ♪
♪ Making this place I stand, holy ground, holy ground ♪
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ Your spirit moves and breathes all around, all around ♪
♪ All good and perfect things flowing down, flowing down ♪
♪ Fall of the heavens are singing along ♪
♪ With the saints and the elders in glorious song ♪
♪ And the praises they sing never seem to get old ♪
♪ And I'll stay here forever singing ♪
♪ Holy, holy, holy Lord ♪
♪ God Almighty over all ♪
♪ You are, You are and You'll be forever ♪
♪ The King enthroned in glorious splendor ♪
♪ Holy, holy Lord ♪
So Lord, we just thank You that You're holy,
that You're mighty.
God, that You created the heaven and the earth
and nothing is too hard for You.
I pray that You would help us, Holy Spirit,
to partner with the truth,
that You are the one that comes and sets us free,
that where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty,
there's freedom for the captive.
So we thank You that You're opening prison gates tonight
and that You're setting us free.
You're helping us to step further into the fullness
of who You originally created us to be, Father,
before wounds or trauma ever entered.
And I thank You, Lord,
that You'll help us to connect with You, Father,
as the vine a little bit more tonight,
that we are the branches, You're the vine.
We can't do anything apart from You.
So Lord, I thank You that You'll help us
to completely surrender all to You.
God, I pray that You would help us to show us tangible ways
that we can literally walk that out in our daily life.
Lord, we thank You for meeting us here tonight
in a fresh way, in Jesus' name, amen.
Ladies, God is a gentleman.
He's not gonna force His way in.
He's not gonna literally come in and bang the door
and the walls of your heart down.
So tonight, He's standing at the door.
door of your heart and he's knocking and he's saying,
will you let me come in to these vulnerable places?
Will you let me come in and transform the way you see
everything, including him?
Part of the key here is that, you know,
when we go through trauma, whether we realize it or not,
we subconsciously erect,
do not enter signs around our heart,
even to the Lord, as well as to other people.
And so little by little tonight, you know,
I just, I believe by faith that God's going to ask you
just to continue to let your walls come down,
to allow him to come in to, again, those vulnerable places.
We've had some great conversations.
Like I said, this afternoon,
just seeing ladies come in and just saying,
you know what?
I'm, I'm, I'm nervous that I'm going to talk.
I'm nervous, but I'm going to post in the group.
Ladies, I, I know it's hard.
I did it.
And I've led online community groups for years.
And I want to say that if you are kind of staying on this
outside right now, maybe you haven't posted yet in the group
maybe you haven't shared yet openly.
I want to encourage you to jump in tonight
or tomorrow or whenever, but to overcome the fear
and allow God to supernaturally transform you
by connecting in community.
Okay?
So Revelation 3.20, the scripture that I prayed
is John 15, four through five,
where it talks about remaining in me as I remain in you.
Jesus was talking there.
I'm going to read Revelation 3.20 to you now.
It says, behold, I stand at the door and knock.
If any man hears my voice and opens the door,
I will come into him and sup with him
and me with, and he with me.
Ladies, I want you to think about
when you invite someone into your home,
some of you don't even do that, you know,
and no shame or condemnation.
I have a lady in my church.
I've been chatting with her about that.
Her family, when she grew up, it was a rough home dynamic
and her home was really messy a lot.
Her mom was a hoarder.
And so as an adult, she has found herself
not really inviting people into her home,
but it's not because she doesn't want to be close to people.
And so maybe that's where you find yourself,
that you've never opened the doors of your home.
And so maybe you don't know what that intimacy
over a meal feels like within your own home,
but maybe you've experienced it in someone else's home.
As a teenager, I can remember going to a good friend of mine,
her family's home, and just her parents were still married.
I'm not saying they had a perfect marriage,
but they had a great marriage
and they were somewhere,
like I just always wanted to be at their house.
And even in high school for our graduation,
like a bunch of us friends went to the same house
and we all had breakfast together
on like our last day of school.
And I just sit and think about how good that felt.
And this is where I just kind of,
I'm trying to give you a picture of this intimacy
that the Lord is trying to have with you.
Intimacy is into me.
See, God already sees it all.
It's whether or not you're willing to allow him
to kind of come into those places
and acknowledge that he sees it.
He sees our messy places and he's like, I love you.
I talked about disappointment this afternoon as well.
And I just feel like it's important to say it again tonight.
God is not disappointed in you.
God is not withholding a husband from you.
Okay, some of you are believing that lie
because it's been a long time and you've been praying
and you don't understand
why your prayers haven't been answered.
And one of the things, even though we don't realize it,
that's really tricky is our counterfeit identities
for some of you have caused you to be in a waiting room.
Some of you, because of religious teachings,
you've been under, you've been waiting for kind of like
the beam me up Scotty, it's like beam me down a spirit mate
and we're waiting for God to just literally drop someone
in our living room.
Y'all, I wanted God to bring someone to my door
and I've been married before.
So I can imagine for those of you
that haven't been married yet, the struggle there.
But this is the thing we were talking as well
as about prophetic words.
And I believe in the prophetic, I operate in the prophetic,
but I want you all to also be thinking about this.
Even if you've received a prophetic word,
part of the struggle is that some of you
got a prophetic word and that didn't happen yet.
And so it's like, wait a minute, there's a disconnect here.
Something's going on.
So was that real or did God not?
really want marriage for me.
And what I want you to hear tonight is that again,
we have to let God add his super to our natural.
We have to partner with him, even in a prophetic word.
One of the examples I gave is years ago,
God spoke a prophetic word over me.
It's way more in depth than this,
but kind of the quick version for you tonight
is that he said that he was gonna use me
and my administration gift to help further
some other people's ministries
before he was gonna call me directly into something.
And you all, that was long before I ever helped Jackie
or became a part of this movement
and serving it and leading in it.
And so I wanna encourage you,
it wasn't like God just caused this to happen.
God said to me one day,
hey, reach out to Jackie and ask her if she needs help
and offer to help her with whatever she needs.
And y'all, she didn't answer me.
So I waited and God nudged me again
and I reached out to her again and she said,
yeah, you know, I'll pray about that.
And it was weeks, maybe a month,
I don't even remember how long.
And then I went to one of our retreats
and this was the first retreat we ever did.
And literally, I had no clue.
She was kind of like still thinking about that.
And before I left the retreat that weekend,
she said, hey, David and I wanna talk with you.
We wanna interview you.
Can you jump in our car while we drive over to this place?
Y'all, my heart was racing.
But I'm giving this to you as an example, okay?
There were several things I had to do
and I also had to have faith and trust,
but I had to keep walking it out.
And even after I talked to her that day in the car,
it wasn't just like right that day.
She said, yeah, we wanna do this,
but there were some other things
that had to kind of fall in place.
This is how we partner with a prophetic word.
We walk it out, okay?
So if that is you and you've been struggling
and you're just like, man,
I don't know what to do with that.
I hope that that brings some clarity for you.
And if you're like me and you're like,
God, please bring them to my door
because I don't wanna do this and I don't wanna do that.
We just gotta surrender it all, ladies.
We gotta surrender the pen fully tonight in every area.
The never will I ever list that y'all did.
Some of y'all got really brave and you were really honest.
And then you said something like
this probably sounds super official.
It's okay.
Here's the goal.
It's to get it all out.
You like literally just play it all out there
because some of that stuff,
while it might sound superficial,
it's coming from somewhere in us.
So we need to know really what's going on
inside of you all so that we can help you process.
Some of y'all have some things on your list
that have come from pain
and we won't know if you don't put it out there, okay?
So the step that we did last week was to prepare you
and keep preparing you.
And it's okay if you are starting,
this is your first week, you won't miss out on it.
At some point, we'll circle back to that.
But it's to prepare you to now come in and say,
okay, yeah, that's not a God non-negotiable.
That's something in me.
And Lord, I'm gonna give that to you.
I'm gonna surrender that to you.
We've had people in our community that said
they never wanted to date or marry someone
that was a pastor or in ministry at all
because they were a PK
and there's no way they wanted that.
And you all, this one lady, even recently,
we've had a lot of people testifying
that God just had to keep working on them
to surrender certain things.
And she felt led to finally surrender this thing.
Like, okay, Lord, whoever you have for me.
And y'all, within, I'm not joking,
within a matter of weeks, maybe a month,
God brought someone into her life that was a youth,
is a youth pastor, and they're engaged.
They're getting ready to get married.
Was that what she wanted?
No, but that's what God had for her.
We don't always understand,
and I don't wanna freak you all out
because if that's where some of you are at,
I know it's a process for you to get your heart
to that place to receive what God has for you.
But I promise he's not gonna force you.
That was still an invitation for her.
Could God have brought her someone else?
Sure, but she was willing to surrender that.
And now she's really enjoying this guy that she's with
and God is doing great things.
So keep that kind of stirring in your mind.
We're gonna keep going.
I'm gonna read a little bit to you
from chapter three in the HeartWork book
about supernatural surrender
to continue to kind of prime your hearts.
And this is what it says.
"'Ever since we were toddlers,
our mantra has been, I do it myself.
We have been programmed by our broken world
to never depend on anyone or anything.
And people that do that are, excuse me,
and people that do depend on other people
are considered.'
foolish and naive all through our lives we are taught overtly and covertly that it's a good
thing to be in and stay in control and that it's a and that is a lot of hard work we don't need to
be in control ladies we're actually never in control just so y'all know we are actually we
get to choose but what i mean by that is like sometimes we are trying to like hold on to
something and we think we've got control but like in reality god is the one that's saying
control of the universe and the things he gives us free will to choose but it's a choice
it's not it's not control there's a difference keep going one of the main reasons we don't
depend on anyone else is we don't want to be disappointed being disappointed is painful
maybe even more painful than not trusting anyone to help us in the first place and this applies
to god too let's talk about disappointment i don't think we talk about it enough we often
pretend like the life of a believer is supposed to be rainbows and butterflies and we always have
to be happy and you know there nothing can go wrong or we can't even be disappointed in god
you all i'm kind of riffing here i'm not going with the whole book but god is saying bring it
all to me tonight i already know you're disappointed daughter so just bring it to me and let
me help you work through it i'm gonna keep going on so many times we think we've asked god to help
us but then when the answer doesn't show up immediately or in the way we want it to we think
god has failed us we think god is not doing what we have asked him to do when in reality he's doing
exactly what we've asked him to do but because it doesn't feel good we declare god incompetent
and off we go trying to fix it ourselves self-help is not a thing god doesn't ever tell us to go
god sent literally jesus as you all know why did he send jesus well to die for us
so that we could be healed so that we could walk into salvation so that we could be in relationship
with him and then when jesus ascended they sent the holy spirit to be our comforter our counselor
our guide they didn't have to do that but they did and because of that we literally never have
to walk through anything alone even surrendering ladies you don't have to do this by yourself
if you feel like i can't i don't know how ask the holy spirit to enable you y'all when i need help
myself as well i'm just like god i can't do this like even some days like just running you know
things unless you're single or doing things at the church like i need his help all the time
i need his help to give patience to people when i don't feel patient with them
whatever it is he's willing he's able are you willing to ask for his help
okay let's circle back to the i do it myself i want to talk about some ways practically this
shows up in our lives on a daily basis and these there's so many more ladies but i'm just trying
to give you a couple tonight and a couple different categories to to hopefully help you
see where this i do it myself or god i've got this kind of like i don't need your help god
even if we're not saying that to him in our mind or out loud there are things that we are choosing
to do that is actually through our actions saying to god i got this and we're just getting ahead of
and so here they are here are some relationship areas where this can show up controlling
conversations or outcomes during a conflict rather than seeking god's wisdom first now this
is all relationships have any of you ever like chased a person down because you all are in a
disagreement and you're just so worried about the outcome that you're just trying to fix it fix it
yourself and god's just like hey daughter stops driving give this to me let me work in that
person's heart but see sometimes even that takes too long doesn't it and so we try to take it back
and we're coming with our our hammers and our our screwdrivers and our we're deciding all the
areas these people need their fixes and we're oftentimes not even willing to look at our own
selves let's let's focus on what is god trying to do in us some of you all because you're such
good fixers and helpers you're busy fixing everybody else and you're avoiding your own heart
and you're doing your own work
it's your time this is your time
And the way that transformation and change happens for you and the way that you meet
a healthy spirit mate is by doing the hard work and not avoiding the areas that you need
God to help you.
And it's okay that you need his help.
Y'all, I was reading a scripture tonight and I don't think it's by coincidence, actually
was like, I don't read Psalms every day, but I do this little thing where I write when
the last date I read it and what Psalm I read.
And I was kind of like, Whoa, it's been a lot of days since I read the Psalms that kind
of made me sad.
But tonight, I don't think it's a coincidence, but I was reading in Psalm 82 and 83.
And in 82, there's this scripture that comes right after I'm going to read verse three
to you as well.
But it says, defend the weak and the fatherless, uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed.
And then verse four is what caught my attention, rescue the weak and the needy, deliver them
from the hand of the wicked.
This word needy here actually means in the Hebrew in want, needy, chiefly, poor, needy
person subject to oppression and abuse, needing help, deliverance from trouble, especially
as delivered by God.
It stuck out to me because this afternoon we had several ladies on that had been sexually
abused, physically abused, emotionally abused, and I'm pretty confident there's several on
here tonight as well.
So if that's you, if you have been through abuse and oppression and you need deliverance,
God wants you to know tonight that he sees you and that you can be healed completely.
It takes time, ladies.
I'm still healing from stuff, but man, I'm so much healthier now than I was before.
And because of that, I was able to attract someone else that was healthy, but God wants
to meet you right in the middle of that stuff and literally place the healing balm of Gilead
upon it and wants you to know that you're not alone.
Okay, I'm going to keep going.
Another area where we're like, I do it myself or God, I've got this in relationships is
making major relationship decisions without prayer or godly counsel.
Y'all one of the amazing benefits of this community is that we do community coaching.
We do community like, Hey, come in here and tell us about this relationship.
Not in this heart work, but in the other phases, Hey, tell us how your dating's going.
Tell us about this relationship.
What are you finding?
Like, what are you seeing good fruit in this person?
We just want to know it so we can help you, you know, really decide, okay, is this the
best fit for me?
Is this someone, and for some of you try to keep you from cutting and running when it's
a really great person.
Because, hey, they don't, they don't make you feel all hot and, you know, sweaty on
the first date.
You know what I'm talking about?
Y'all I've been there.
Those aren't the good ones.
I promise.
It doesn't mean you can't, it doesn't mean we're not going to be attractive to people,
but that's typically lust ladies and full operation.
When you feel that whole like, like you just can't just stay away from that person, you
know, and you have all these things riled up.
Yep.
And sometimes that's causing some of you to get ahead of God and choose someone that's
not healthy.
So we got to pray, we got to stay in community because community will be a game changer.
All right.
Another one, trying to earn love through performance instead of resting in God's unconditional
love.
So are you someone that's trying to earn love through your performance and feeling like
you have to be perfect because God doesn't want that for you.
Y'all even in my biggest imperfections and my worst days, my husband loves me and I'm
so grateful.
And that's what God has for you.
Here's some other areas, financial and career, making financial decisions based solely on
our own understanding without seeking God's direction.
Here's another one.
You know, again, we're, we're going to see this multiple times showing up where we're
just kind of moving ahead of God, hoarding resources out of fear instead of trusting
God as our provider.
So maybe you're afraid to spend because you're afraid that God won't provide for something
that you need.
It could be the opposite side and you're overspending and not making healthy, wise, doer decisions.
I've been there as well.
And that comes from actually brokenness in our hearts, ladies.
Okay.
Parenting and family, trying to control our children's every choice instead of training
them and trusting God with their hearts.
There's some of you struggling with your kids and really relinquishing, I mean, we got to
parent them.
Okay.
I'm not saying don't parent them, but some of you have adult children that you're still
trying to control the outcome in that child's life.
And having adults, uh,
I've had a lot of, you know,
I've had a lot of spiritual daughters, y'all,
I can tell you it's not easy.
I keep having my eye twitching y'all.
So I just, I'm like, on occasion, I keep touching it
because it's really like really distracting,
but so I'm not crying.
I'm not wiping my tears,
but so I wanted y'all to know it's fine,
but you know, it's really tough when my spiritual daughters,
they're both living with boyfriends
and I mean, I've coached them, I've talked to them.
At the end of the day, I love them
and that's what they know.
I don't like the decisions they're making.
They know that, but I say it kindly,
but I'm here for them
and I'm willing to walk through the messy with them.
And so for some of you,
maybe there's something else
that your kids are doing right now
and they're just not living
into the best version of themselves,
but I wanna encourage you to continue to pray for them
and try to let, you know, put them on Jesus cares board.
And I, when I put my girls on here,
I don't just put them on there.
I put a picture of them.
I put like specifically, Jesus,
I need you to do this in them.
And if it's Jesus's plan, he'll do it.
If it's not his plan, he won't.
Okay, and that's cool.
But I do believe God wants,
like my oldest spiritual daughter,
she's really struggling with like not eating.
She's like 22 and 98 pounds, y'all.
She's very tiny right now.
She's literally, that's a control thing that kicked in
as she was going through some of her final high school years
and sometimes when she's just really stressed,
she just doesn't eat.
And so something we're working on and I worry about her
and I worry about the fact that she's not, you know,
taking showers and taking care of herself,
all these things.
And I wanna drive up to Kentucky
and literally take her in my car and bring her down here.
That's what I really wanna do.
But I have to surrender her to the Lord
because she's an adult and she has to make her own choices.
So I hope this is ministering to someone.
Y'all, we all go through things
and God wants to meet you right in the middle of that.
Here's another one, fixing every problem for our kids
rather than allowing them to learn
and grow through challenges.
Y'all, we see this even on the lowest, youngest levels now.
Kids are like in our sports, there's no losers.
Everybody's a winner and it's not gonna help our kids.
It's not, but you're gonna see that show up
in all different kinds of ways where you're gonna,
some of you all made mistakes in the past
and you're trying to overcompensate for mistakes
by doing things for your kids
that they really should be doing for themselves
at the age that they're at.
And so I wanna encourage y'all to be praying into that.
Is there anything the Lord wants you to surrender to him
regarding your kids?
Here's a couple more, personal growth,
white knuckling through bad habits
instead of inviting God into the transformation process.
So the way we talk about that in this community
is that some of us, we're just trying to behavior modify.
We're trying to be good for a little bit of time
and then it's not sustainable ladies, okay?
So even for some of you, I referenced things
like maybe we're getting caught up in sex before marriage,
maybe we're allowing ourselves
to get connected to someone physically, whatever.
Maybe it's other things for you all, pornography,
whatever it is, we want long-term transformation
and that comes through heart healing.
So let's just be honest
about the things we're struggling with
and bring that to the Lord
and let him reveal the root of that.
When was the first time you started struggling
with that thing?
What's the root?
Let him help you get to that.
Trying to heal our own emotional wounds
without letting God into the painful places
and then comparing our journey to others
and trying to fast track our growth.
Those are two.
So if you are even comparing your journey
to someone else here in the heartwork,
I wanna encourage you to really surrender that to the Lord.
That's the trap of the enemy.
He's trying to get you all, all of us, all the time.
He always wants us to compare ourselves to other people
and you all, if we will just continue to surrender that
and just, okay, Lord, like my journey is my journey.
I'm so thankful that you're on my journey with me, God,
and you're giving me everything I need
every step of the way.
And if we partner with that stuff,
man, we'll just defeat the enemy all day long.
And remember that God is the one that defeats him,
but we can partner with God in that
and stand in the authority that God has given us
to stand in.
Greater is he that is in us than he that is in the world.
No matter what we go through, ladies, God is with us.
Okay?
All right, so I wanna go through a couple more things
and then I'm gonna pass it to Annette here really soon.
So the reminder is that you don't have to try to figure this
out on your own.
The Holy Spirit is the advocate.
He's your one, as I was talking about earlier,
to take you by the hand.
You don't have to dig.
We want you to ask the Lord to reveal the areas for healing,
to bring the things out of darkness.
Into the light. Where's the darkness? Well, some of that darkness is down in our souls. Am I saying you're a dark evil person?
No, I'm saying that the dark areas are our trauma the wounds things that we can't even see
We don't even know sometimes why we're doing what we're doing
God knows the why behind the what
Trust what he brings up lean into the holy spirit and then pull the thread. What do I mean by that?
What I mean is that if you have a memory that comes up even if you don't understand it ask the lord like
Lord, what are you trying to show me?
I haven't thought about this thing in forever
But lord, this is coming up or an image or a phrase or you know
This is where we pull the thread and then we see what god reveals
Next and that we'll love for you to share what god has put on your heart to share for tonight
And then we're going to get ready for breakout groups here shortly
Okay, thanks bethany
um something that I wanted to share that came up is
Actually really recent. Uh, i've been married for about a year and a half
um
and
We got married in april of 24 and in january when we were dating when I was praying. I really felt like god was saying
Our relationship was not going to look like the
traditional
relationship or what I expected
And I was like, okay
I gotcha
I got you god, whatever whatever it looks like. Okay
well, then
um
He's from canada
i'm
in the us obviously
And so our relationship really hasn't looked
Like a traditional relationship. Uh, we got married. We've been working on his green card since
um
May of 24
We have probably about another six months to go which means we don't live
in the same place
He lives in canada
Travels back and forth to visit. I live here
In fact just got home about an hour and a half before getting on the call tonight
To go up to visit him because yesterday was our two-year anniversary of our first date
Um, I know if you're doing the math that's fast, but we knew it and god confirmed it so
um
And I remember he also
Is on a tv show which is really god's provision
But it's up in canada
And so it affects the days that he can come down because as some of you who've been on the calls before know
He's a retired firefighter
So I was like, okay great. He can just be down in washington as much as he needs to be so we can see each other
Um, but god has had other plans and other ways
and so
He has dates that he has to be
uh up in canada for the filming of this show
And we do not know until friday night of the week before
What days it will be the next week
And we don't know he doesn't know the times
Until the night before sometime after 9 p.m
and
I'm kind of a schedule girl
So I like to know
When he's coming and what I can look forward to
You know it if he leaves or if I leave canada and I think okay, it's
10 days until I get to see you again
I never have that assurance because we don't know his schedule
And for the first few months
Of our relationship. I really struggled with that
Really struggled and it was like, okay god, we're married and we can't
I don't know when he's coming. I don't know
When i'm going to be able to go up there. How long is this going to last we went?
uh
16 months without hearing anything about his green card
He's been stopped at the border and turned away and not allowed into the u.s. So many things so many things
um
But when I finally was able to step back and it was on my jesus cares board
Because I was struggling with it so much and I really asked god to come
And give me peace
and and it was like I sat down in a chair next to god and he was like
so
When are you just going to know that I see you that I love you that I have the best in mind
I've brought you guys together
I know what i'm doing and it's all for your good
It was it was like that was the conversation
And when I finally let it sink down in I really have stepped into
So much peace and so much freedom in surrendering
He gave me what I prayed for he gave me what I asked for he gave me
a husband, that loves me and cares for me and wants to
provide for us. And I was holding on to it so tight,
because it didn't look how I thought it was going to look.
But there was so much freedom and peace. Also for Arthur,
because he wasn't listening to a wife that was like, I don't get
to see you again, you know, we had plans. But when I was able
to just say, Okay, God, you gave this to me, and I'm giving it
back to you. And I want it to look and be how you want it to
look. Not my idea. I'm not the one that sits on the throne of
my life. You are forgive me for holding on so tightly to what
you gave me. I release it all to you. And it has really
blanketed me with peace. You know, I, I, I can describe it
just as a peace and a reassurance in knowing when
plans change quickly, and, you know, he was going to come down,
but he can't or I was going to go up. Or sometimes it's like a
hug from heaven when, you know, he's like, I got wrapped, I get
to come down. There's they just called me off, you know, so
he's coming down for three days. It's great when those things
happen, and they go how I how I don't expect. But I need to know
that God's the God that's in control, even when it doesn't
go how I expect. And the only person I need to trust and keep
my eyes focused on is God. So that I think I covered
everything I put in my notes, but surrender really is the best
place. And God has shown that to me over and over again. I'm sure
he'll have other ways and examples of how I can give
things up as he continues to grow me in my heart and in my
walk for him. But I'm thankful for that. And I'm thankful to be
able to share it with all of you.
So good. And it reminds me, you know, Jackie says all the time,
it doesn't have to be easy. It just has to be worth it, ladies.
And you know where we decide it's worth it? In our hearts.
And that's not to say, hey, ladies, a toxic unhealthy
relationship that you're trying to shove it into the Hey, this
is worth it. I'm going to put up No, this isn't putting up with
toxic abuse and unhealthy behaviors. This is about when
God has brought things together. Even in the heartwork, he's
brought you here divinely doesn't have to be easy. It just
has to be worth it. So cling to that. And I've got your breakout
rooms ready. Here's your question. What are some things
God is nudging you to surrender to him tonight? So that's what
you're going to talk about. What are some things God is nudging
you to surrender to him tonight, I'm giving you all seven minutes
total, that gives you a little time to get in there and about
three minutes a piece to talk. Okay. All right, and then we'll
bring you all back. Go ahead and click that should be up on your
screen for you. And if you just joined recently, I had the rooms
already set. So I'll get you all situated Emily and kit here in
just a moment as people get into the rooms, go ahead and click to
join those ladies. Once I get them situated, I'll start to
pray. And that that was a great share. So good.
makes me think of to there's this song, your ways better that
kind of comes up in my spirit, too. I don't know if that's what
it's called. But that that comes up in my spirit.
A song we use for our wedding was God is in this story. And
that rings true so many times.
Totally. Sorry, I'm trying to see some people are by themselves
still
All right, Father, we just thank you, Lord, for continuing even
right now to help me get people situated.
Lord, thanks for grace, give them confidence and patience, even
as they're waiting to get put into rooms, where we thank you
that you're restoring all things
in us and through us, Lord, we thank you that you're revealing
areas for healing and redemption. We thank you God for
rewriting our stories.
How do you're the best storyteller. And we thank you
God that you know, you're not just a storyteller, but your
story writer. So Lord, we thank you that you're making
masterpieces out of areas that there have been messes in our
lives. And we thank you that you're helping us to receive
everything that you have for us, Laura.
that all of the fullness of your blessings and your purposes and plans for us, God,
that you're continuing to unfold those in our lives. We thank you that you're continuing to
also help us to hear what your spirit is saying to us tonight. We thank you, God, that you would
help us to not partner with fear, which is false evidence appearing real, but that we would partner
with God that you're with us, that you're walking like literally side by side. You take us by the
hand and that you lead us into wide open pastures is what's coming to mind. But even in Psalm 23,
you know, he leads us besides still waters and that he can help us to lay down and rest. And
so, Lord, we just thank you for the reminder that you help us to rest in you. Even when we don't
know how to do that, God, you enable us to rest in your goodness and your truth and your life
and your hope. We thank you, Lord, for continuing to help us, Lord, to surrender every area. In
James 4, 7, it says this. So then surrender to God, stand up to the devil and resist him and he will
turn and run away from you. Praise the Lord. We can stand in authority. And ladies, here's the
thing. When we face hard times, we don't have to cower down to that stuff. We all face it. But
let's stand up and take every thought captive and make it obedient to Jesus Christ, to the word.
Let's apply the word of God to our lives and our situations and know that the enemy cannot
remain in the light. So he has to flee and that we can literally command him to go. Stacey,
hello. Welcome. Did you just join us or did you get kicked out of the breakout room?
All right. Alice said there was no one else in room 23.
Oh, shoot. Where's Alice? I'm going to put you in a different room.
Go ahead and click to join that. Sorry about that. I don't know if she just not didn't show up.
All right. Thanks for catching that. All right. Here's another one. Proverbs 3, 5 in the message
version says this. Trust God from the bottom of your heart. Don't try to figure out everything
on your own. Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go. He's the one who will
Lord, we thank you that you would help us to lay aside any pride,
any ego, even insecurity that causes us to try to run ahead of you, God.
Lord, we know that the enemy tries to come into the areas of weakness and struggle
and create just a vision within ourselves or doubting ourselves. And so we thank you for
just washing over everybody tonight. Those that are going to watch the replay as well
and just filling us afresh with your grace, with your peace, with discernment, with wisdom.
God, we thank you that you would help us to hear your voice behind us, telling us the way to go.
And God, we know that your word declares also that you're going to light a lamp
onto our feet and a light onto our path, that you're going to literally light it up for us.
So Lord, we thank you that we can trust you to guide us day by day by day closer
to the plans and the purposes that you have for us, God, that we can
humbly surrender to your will and to know that you have good things in store for us.
Isaiah 41.10 says, don't be afraid for I am with you. Don't be discouraged for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
Second Timothy 1.7 says, for God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but a power
love and self-discipline. These are so good. I'm just going to keep reading. Galatians 6.9. So
let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time, we will reap a harvest of
blessing if we don't give up. Ladies, here's the real deal. We got to keep sowing seed and praying
into our spirit mate relationships. So even in our heart healing process, Lord, we thank you
that we won't get tired of believing that men are good. That even when we see men around us that
have not been good examples or even women around us that have not been healthy examples, God,
that we would choose to forgive and surrender those people to you and allow you to give us
a fresh revelation of the good men all around us, God, that you're leading us to see brothers in
that love you, that serve you, God, and we will continue to see your goodness and your glory
unfolding in our own lives, Lord, that we would see the good in ourselves, that we wouldn't look
in the mirror and always see what's wrong with us or the other people in our lives, but God,
that you would give us
us a fresh revelation of how you see us and how you see other people. God, we thank you
that you are just continuing to refine us and lead us into all truth and anoint us for
all of our lives and walking calling and that you want to lead us deeper into Jesus today.
So give us a deeper understanding Jesus, help us to recognize where you are at, where you've
always been at, that you are the way, the truth and the life, that there's no other
way to get to the Father except through you. So Jesus, help us to come into a closer friendship
with you tonight and to receive an upgrade in the way that we view just even your time
here on earth, that even you, Jesus, had to choose to love your enemies and those who
have spitefully used you. And we just thank you that you're the example that we have to
follow. And we thank you that Psalm 1-3 is God's truth for us. Again, tonight he will
be standing firm like a flourishing tree, planted by God's design, deeply rooted by
the brooks of bliss, bearing fruit in every season of his life. He is never dry, never
fainting, ever blessed, ever prosperous. Ladies, that is our, that is God's plan for us, that
we would prosper in all things at all times under any kind of pressure. And so I don't
know about you all, but the last few weeks have been tough. Praise the Lord that no matter
what we're going through, that God can bring glory and goodness out of us. Praise the Lord.
Welcome back, ladies. So glad to have you coming back. Hope you had a great conversation
in your breakout. Sorry, some of y'all, I think people were leaving as I was trying
to move rooms around. So hopefully you were able to still share if you were waiting to
get put into a room. I trust that God will give you everything that you need no matter
what. Here are the activations for this week. Permission slip. Y'all, this was in week one.
Even if you've already done it, I want you to get that back out. Get the one you filled
out. But if you haven't done it yet, fill it out, print it out, fill it out, hang them
up where you can see them every day, ladies. I want you to pray them out loud, the prayer
that's on the permission slip. I want you to pray that out loud over yourself daily,
preferably twice a day. If you remember, this isn't a religious thing, though. OK, so this
is just just something to recommend because it's going to help you partner with that surrender
every day. Jesus cares board. If you haven't done that, start working on that. Post a picture
of it in the group. Let us see how it's going. Because, ladies, sometimes we're going to
see things on your Jesus cares board and already be able to start praying for you and and partnering
with you. God might give us a word for you as we read that and see that. And then here's
number three, and I'm going to put these in the group. I do want to apologize. I forgot
to put the activation thing up last week. I'm so sorry, ladies. For those of you that
don't know, we've been all in flux in my world. So we've been out of our house for quite
some time, moving from hotel to hotel. We were traveling. So apologize. I did not put
those in there, but I will be putting those up tonight as soon as we get off so that I
don't forget. But here's number three. Morning and evening surrender moments in the morning
before you get out of bed. I'm really big on connection. OK, so even when we pause and
just connect with our hearts, how are our hearts doing? Y'all, I recommend that totally
side note. But just there's something about that. But before you get out of bed, placing
your hand on your heart and asking, Holy Spirit, what am I trying to control today that belongs
to you? Then speak it out. I surrender my need to control fill in the blank today in
the evening before you go to sleep. Same hand on your heart posture. Ask, what did
I pick back up today that I had given to you, Lord? Then re-surrender it. Jesus, I place
whatever it is back in your hands and really connecting with your heart in that process.
OK? Awesome. Y'all got the activations. Nadine is ready to go. Let me hear what you have
to say. Oh, are we going straight into the? Yes, ma'am. OK, I just want to make sure.
Sorry. Well, I had two things that I feel like the Lord has put on heavy for me to surrender.
And I think somehow they may work together, but I really can't see it. And I think the
first one is my son. You know, he goes back and forth between his dad and my house. And
so like even last night, I saw he was playing a game that I've already talked to him about.
I'm like, this is demonic. This is opening doors that I'm shutting every day. And it
just led me into prayer. But like a lot of like tears because I'm like, Lord, like this
is not from you. Like, why does this keep happening if I'm praying and I'm trying to
trust you? So I think there's so much with with my son. And there's a few things that
you mentioned. And I was like, oh, I'm overcompensating. That's what's happening. And then I this.
This is a really weird, but like today,
I was dropping a package off at UPS
and I saw these two kids that were by themselves.
I don't think they were by themselves.
I think they were with their dad,
that their dad was nowhere to be found.
And like, I was starting to panic for them
because I was just thinking like,
danger alert, danger alert.
And when I first joined the community,
I shared a little bit of my testimony
where I was like hearing all the different voices
and then driving and doing all the things and finding.
But one of the things that kind of sparked that situation
was that the Lord had asked me to apply
to a nonprofit organization
for human sex trafficking victims.
And so when I didn't get that job,
somehow the enemy got my mind to think,
well, I know that sounds crazy ladies,
but this is genuinely where my mind was at,
that I had to rescue human sex trafficking victims.
Like that's what the Lord was doing,
literally sending me out to the fields
to like be there for them.
So anyways, when I saw the two kids today,
I kind of just paused in my car
because I was like, okay, Lord.
And I was just praying.
I was like, send their parents, cover them.
But it didn't, I left feeling uneasy.
And then as I was leaving,
I just felt just really like a spirit of fear
and intimidation.
And then as I was driving home,
like I had this thought
and this is where I struggle sometimes
with I'm like, Lord, is this you or is this not
to stop at a specific place,
which I just, I didn't do.
I went home because it reminded me of that situation.
So yes, I have a lot of thoughts
about my, like my son going missing.
And so I don't know if somehow it's tied together.
Yeah, so, hey, I think that probably
they're linking together.
The one thing I wanna say is there's two things
that stand out to me is that you could have
just a high level of a protector in you, okay?
So some people do have like just this,
they feel this drive to protect people,
but it could be just out of balance right now.
So overextended, which would be why
as soon as you saw those two kids by yourself
that you thought the worst.
Now, depending on how old they are,
I think maybe most people might be like,
hey, we're the parents,
but it sounds like that's kind of an overdrive
for you right now.
And so if you felt a spirit of fear,
remember that fear is false evidence appearing real.
And it's a lot of times fueled by anxiety.
What if this, what if that, what if this,
and the Lord's just trying to assault us
with that anxiety and fear to get us kind of
out of our actual focus in that place of peace.
But the way that we can counteract that is love.
When we are rooted and grounded in love,
love cast out all fear.
And so I wanna encourage you or anyone else
that really battles with fear or anxiety,
or even these kind of fearful,
evil kind of foreboding kind of thoughts is to,
okay, Lord, like your word says that love casts out fear.
And right now I feel fear.
So help me to reconnect with your love.
You're not actually disconnected from it,
but it's just in that moment when we partner with fear
and we start kind of thinking on that
and going down that trail,
it can start to cause us to, just like a kid.
If you think about it, when a parent is holding that kid,
they're embraced, they feel that love.
But if they start to wander away a little bit, right?
That kid isn't in that embrace right in that moment.
They're still loved, but they're not in that embrace.
And so what I wanna encourage you to do
is kind of come back into that embrace and ask the Lord,
okay, what's really the root here?
Is it that, you know,
I'm afraid that bad things are gonna happen to my son,
someone's gonna take him,
he's gonna watch this video, he's gonna turn out bad.
Like all of that surrendering the outcome.
Ladies, we do our best to train up our kids
in the way that they should go
and trust that God will lead them in that
and protect that way we pray for them.
But again, we parent them,
you're doing the best that you can when he's with you,
when he's not with you, it's tough, you know?
Cause there's not as much,
it sounds like, you know, governance
or just watching things that he's doing,
but continuing to surrender that to the Lord.
I forget, how old is your son?
He's young still, right?
He's about to be 11.
11 in November.
11.
All right, so I would pray for the Lord
to start really convicting him.
That's what I pray, so bad.
For the games, and help him to see
that it's not good for himself.
Because even at 11, they can make healthy choices.
The temptation's pretty severe,
because friends and all these people
are playing these things.
But that doesn't mean that they can't also be impacted
by the spirit, even in their sleep.
So I pray for God to encounter my kids in their sleep.
I want them to have an encounter and a revelation of Jesus.
And if they're struggling to receive that in the daytime,
because their minds are going,
or they're just invaded with social media.
Mikayla, my oldest daughter,
she watches so many videos and things online
that it literally increases her anxiety.
And I think her eating disorder.
And so I just keep praying,
like, God, just meet her in her sleep.
Just come in and just minister.
Like, I just, I mean, I pray all kinds of things.
But hopefully that encourages you too.
But just keep doing what you're doing.
It sounds like you're doing your best,
being a good influence.
But let's find out where this root is coming from.
All right, and make sure that when that's kicking in,
that you, again, come back into that embrace.
And remember who your dad is.
He's the creator of everything.
Nothing's hard for him.
It's hard for us, but it's not hard for him.
And just keep partnering with that.
But keep us updated on that.
And we'll be like, I'm gonna,
what is your first, your son's first name?
Orion.
Orion, ooh, I love that name.
Ooh, all right.
Thank you.
I'm gonna be praying for him this week.
Thank you.
You're welcome, you're welcome.
Alexandra, go ahead.
Okay, hey, Bethany.
Hi.
So I had a couple of things that I wanted to get your help,
or I need to surrender and wanted to share.
I also, I could share this maybe in the winds,
but I found this prophetic word
that I got from probably like eight months ago.
And it's about, it's basically here now with y'all
and what you're doing for us.
And so I didn't know if I could share.
Yeah, you can, sure.
And they don't even know me.
I didn't know this person.
They just knew I was coming to the retreat.
It said, find your Aaron and Er.
You have some battles ahead of you,
ones that will result in deep freedom, healing, wholeness.
Sorry.
It's kind of crazy when stuff like actually happens.
Anyway, so it'll result in deep freedom,
healing and wholeness.
Victory is certain when you raise your hands
in prayer and worship.
Note, you will need a couple of friends
to hold your arms up when you get discouraged, tired.
Yeah, sorry.
Worn out in the battle.
So I'm just grateful for y'all.
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing that with us.
That's a blessing.
We're so glad you're a part of our family.
We're honored to get to walk in this journey with you.
Yeah, thank you.
I'm just, yeah, I'm super grateful.
It's hard to find the healing that y'all have here,
but yeah, so it's kind of cool
to see the prophetic word coming.
This is, I see that coming to fruition here.
So it was very cool.
I love that.
Yeah, so, and I believe, yeah,
whoever else wants to pick that up, it's all of ours.
I guess, you know, but let's see.
So surrendering, I did decide to sell my house
after I asked you for support in that.
Oh, okay.
So that's been a couple of years I wanted to,
and it's just a battle.
So, and I'm excited.
You know, I think the, anyway, but so I'm trying,
I have plans, I have to figure out the dates.
I've met with a realtor,
but like finding an apartment that I can afford
is like in my vision, in my view, I'm like,
you know, I've got two dogs and I'm like,
this just isn't, you know, in my view,
I'm like, this can't happen.
So I've been spinning my wheels a lot
and I keep trying, like you said,
it's like every morning I probably need
to keep resubmitting this because in my vision,
and when I talked to my mom, it's like,
there's like nothing for that price here
and blah, blah, blah.
But I'm like, I have no other option.
Like, this is how much money I make.
This is like what my expenses are.
And I need to, I really want to move out of the house.
So I've got to trust God.
and that, that he can provide an apartment for me.
And it's kind of a risk because I have to sell my house
and like once it's sold, I have to live somewhere, so.
Yes.
Yeah.
Well, I'm so excited for you
that you are making this decision.
I think that you're gonna just really feel
a lot of freedom once everything kind of gets settled.
The one thing I wanna say is to encourage you.
So when I was, we weren't even engaged yet,
but God led me to move to Indiana
so that Brian and I could date more in person.
And I needed an apartment that didn't have a 12 month lease.
And I know that might sound like super easy to find,
but y'all it's not.
I needed a safe, let me say that,
a nice safe apartment that did month to month
or like short-term leases or whatever.
And I kept calling apartments and they didn't have it,
they didn't have it.
And I kind of felt like how you're saying,
like, I don't know if this is even possible.
And the reason I wanted the short-term lease
is because I wanted to like move forward
and I thought we were gonna get engaged.
We weren't gonna get married that fast,
but just, I just didn't wanna get hung up
in a 12 month lease somewhere.
That's the point.
So anyways, I'm saying all that to say
that one day when I was talking
to one of these apartment places,
the Holy Spirit just said, ask them if they know anyone.
And so I did, and they're like,
yeah, this apartment place over here.
I called that apartment place and they had a waiting list,
but get this, the waiting list
was for the smoking apartments,
but because I didn't smoke,
y'all guess who got to go to the front of the line,
this girl, this girl did.
And so, yeah, I mean, it was a cute apartment.
It was perfect.
It wasn't super far, like 30 minutes from Brian.
It was in a fairly safe place, but it was perfect.
It had furniture in it.
So I could sell stuff that was in Kentucky.
And so I'm saying all that to say,
sometimes things for us can look impossible,
but God just needs to help you know the right place to call.
And who knows, it might even be just like,
you might find someone that's running,
wants to share their house or you just,
like God's super creative.
So just be open, just be open to where he leads you
and let's just see what he helps you find.
But who knows, you could even get a raise.
I mean, there's just so many things that could happen.
And so let's partner with God.
I trust that you're gonna provide
and you're gonna lead me and give me everything that I need.
You know, again, I feel like it's kind of back to that.
If I make this decision, I'm afraid it's the right one.
I feel like the enemy is trying to get you back
into that even a little bit.
And so where you can just stand in confidence,
like I've made this decision, I'm gonna be happy.
I'm gonna embrace it.
And I'm just gonna receive everything God has for me
in this process.
So keep partnering with those things as well.
Yeah.
And I agree, I think, yeah,
being open to different options is good too.
I think I'm trying to save money on top of it
and like not, because if I was gonna spend a lot of money,
I'd be okay.
But I'm trying not to do that.
So, and then I have two dogs.
So it's just like, I'm like, oh my gosh, Lord,
please help me, which I believe he will.
But every day I have to like keep trying to submit that.
The other thing is like my family's not proud of me.
And I think I have to submit that as well.
Like when I bought this house
and they're all like not believers.
So it was nice.
I didn't let it fully affect my heart,
but they're like, we're so proud of you, you bought a house.
And, you know, that felt really good.
And now I can just kind of like feel their disappointment,
even though, and I'm so frustrated,
cause I'm like, you got, like, I don't have them.
I'm in like the negatives.
And you guys want me to stay in this place
and be in debt basically
because of the world standards of me having a house.
So anyway, it's frustrating, but.
Yeah, I can imagine.
And this is where as well,
I'm glad you're handling it well.
So I want to say that,
but I think this is where
I would put that on my Jesus cares board.
I would, you know, just not only
they're not being proud of you,
but also the lie that you believe
that they're not proud of you
because you live up to a standard.
And I'm not saying they're not saying things
to you about that,
but I feel like the enemy is also
an assault against your identity.
Because of a house decision, which, you know, I think God is wanting you to continue to stand in your identity, be confident in who you are and really trust their hearts in his hand as well.
Yeah. Thank you.
Yeah. And ladies, you know, it's a reminder to that.
Even our family.
And I don't mean this in a pressure way, but they're watching.
They may say they don't agree with you, but guess what?
When you walk this thing out and you don't have a bunch of debt and then you start stepping into a lot more freedom.
It's going to be hard to deny.
God's will.
Yeah.
And my whole family, we all spend a whole lot of money we don't have.
So I'm breaking.
I'm wanting to break out of that and, like, do something different.
So thank you.
Probably.
You're welcome.
And here's the key.
Ladies, did you hear what she said?
Her family spends a lot of money.
So what's happening right now as well is she is creating kind of a crossroad, a line in the sand.
And she's saying, I'm going to do something different.
Not just be different from them, but because God is leading her to.
And that's uncomfortable for them.
So remember this, ladies, when we go to step over, you know, and go in a healthy direction, there's a lot of border bullies.
And they will try to keep us from crossing over into the healthy side of things.
And so we don't have to be upset with them, but we have to understand that that's what's going on there.
Yeah.
So keep going.
We're cheering you on and we're praying for you.
And we're going to believe for your apartment.
That's going to be able to take your dogs and you can afford it and all of the things.
Great.
Thank you.
I'll post when I get it.
Yeah.
Believe in for that.
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing crystal.
Oh, go ahead.
Wow.
Thank you for sharing that Alexander that was really beautiful.
And
it's hard for me to share but
just wanting to.
I know we're all going through different things and I'm just wanting to open up my heart.
I am really feeling lonely.
And it really hits hard on Sundays.
When I leave church.
And I'm 61. I feel like I volunteered I've signed up for everything.
I've initiated.
And I walk out to my car and I'm just so desperate for someone to have lunch with
was just hard. And then I get attacked by.
You know I told you I was diagnosed and you know that it's like, what are you doing in this group you're not going to meet anybody you don't even know if you're going to be alive.
But I've been so moved by the way people have shared their hearts and the things that are going on.
And then I see things that are open for change and he just shows me things or you ask questions just like you said the thread starts and it starts unraveling.
But I just need prayer because I'm like this last Sunday I was like, Jesus.
I was so tired of walking out this car.
Wanting to have just a meal with somebody.
And it seems like I, you know, I'll reach out to a woman.
And I don't have any kids, they have kids. They have grandkids at my age.
They have busy lives. I was even like when you said we're going to go into rest I thought, I don't want to rest.
I've got so much free time on my hands.
And it just, yeah, I'm like Lord, I feel like you've given me purpose and passion I don't understand why it's not.
Why it's not happening so it stays in my mind like, well because you're probably not going to live, and then I have to fight that.
So, and then I kept looking down and going, oh my gosh there's 55 people on here do you want to open up to 55 people.
But I was like, I'm desperate.
Or that's what I'm glad you did. I'm sorry I lost you on my screen. Okay, I see you again.
I'm so glad that you did and and hey, ladies, this is where kind of what is the saying the rubber meets the road when you all open up, even in the.
moments where you're just like so nervous too. It just brings so much healing and your sisters
are cheering you on in the chat, but I want to declare something over you. Vitality and
long life crystal that it will be yours. And I don't know what the doctors have said to you
fully. I might've read. I just can't remember exactly. And you don't have to tell me right now,
but I really want to encourage you to not receive the lie of the enemy that you're not going to
experience joy and God's blessings because you're not going to be here. And I'm sure that even
being in our community, we, we have lost, you know, somebody recently. Um, but I think that
God has led you here to experience community, to experience joy, to experience healing,
to step into things that God has for you to enjoy. And that can be relationship.
Okay. And so it sounds like the enemy's really trying to get you to partner with like a spirit
of death over you. And we want to, I want to encourage you to come out of that and really
understand that that is the enemy saying that to you. It's no different ladies, not that it's not
just, you know, when people get assaulted with, and not saying crystal, this is you,
but just, it comes to mind. And so I feel led to mention this, um, suicidal thoughts, you all,
the enemy will try to attack people and just tell them that they have no worth it. They're just,
they don't even need to be here and all that. And so understand that the enemy will also assault
our minds with stuff like this, especially if we have a diagnosis and try to convince us
that something is going to happen that may never happen. Y'all literally to the point that even
some people, even myself, I had something, and this is months ago. Now I was having like pain
in my chest. I didn't know what it was. And I literally all, I ran down every line of what was
in my family because like several people in my family have had heart attacks, like in all this
stuff, y'all it wasn't any of that. It was acid reflex. I was stressed. Y'all was, and I'm not
saying that's good either, but like the enemy just had me believe in all this stuff that wasn't
even real. Yeah. You know, I literally was like, I think something like, you know, like, and it was
like, I literally legit had pain in my arm from this. I'm like, how can this be acid? I felt so
silly, but I'm glad I went, but so catch the thought. Okay. Regarding this health stuff.
Let's, I would encourage you to put some scriptures up and some truth, some debt,
not just scripture declarations. I do. And I have AI even declare and confess things over my body
in the morning. Probably the biggest thing is just the loneliness of, you know so it was like,
I've seen enough, you know, just hearing all you guys share your hearts and I'm thinking,
and then earlier Annette, when you mentioned that it's in community that you heal.
And I thought, okay, you got to put it out there. And I do, I actually feel better just
even reading your comments and the post knowing I'm not alone that some of you are struggling
with the same thing. I don't know why, but there's comfort in that knowing that it's like,
oh, you feel the same way walking out Sundays. It's a me too moment. Y'all it's really,
really powerful. When we realize we're not the only one struggling with something
and here's the other side of this. I want you to really be asking the Lord.
A number one, if you were already tired and fatigued with something else,
it's, it really tends to be those times where the enemy will assault us with these
kinds of things like this. Okay. But B like, what were the lies you were hearing in the middle of
that? You know, that, you know, are surfacing that you're looking around and there's no one
making you a priority. And then where did it go from there? You know, where you're really looking
at all of those things, but then also where did that start for you? You know, when is the first
time you felt lonely like this? And that let's look at where, you know, is it just in this time
in this season because of, you know, the weariness of being single or is this linking back to a time
when you felt really lonely before and not seen and not like the thing that you needed and desired
and wanted didn't come to pass. And let's just make sure it's not linking. It could be standalone,
but let's make sure it's not linking back to some other stuff. Because the depth of despair
that I could hear in you makes me kind of think it's linking to something else.
but let's just see.
But again, it could be the vulnerability of your share
that brought that out in you too.
So I'm not saying it has to be
because there was something there, but I'm just-
It's hard for me to, you know, yeah.
You know, and I think I told you before,
I work in hospice, so I see a lot of-
Yes.
And that's not my person,
my personality is I always wanna see the good
and hey, we got this and yes.
And when I see people decline every day,
it's just, yeah.
Yeah.
And to navigate that, yeah.
I kind of forgot, I apologize,
that you work in hospice
and that we've actually talked a little bit
about this spirit of death before and the grief.
And so it's interesting
because that didn't even come to my mind tonight,
but that's what came up in my spirit
when you were talking about this.
And really too, I also feel like what's coming up
is like as you're watching people passing in hospice,
if there's any people that have died alone,
I want you to know that that right there,
I feel like is also something,
the lie believing that you're gonna die alone too.
And let's not partner with that.
Yeah.
And that doesn't, I gotta say that doesn't even,
cause I know I'm just, I've just seen people see things.
And so I'm like, okay, Jesus, it's obvious you're here.
Good, okay.
So that, I don't really.
Well, I didn't mean that God isn't with you.
Yeah.
I meant that there wasn't like, wouldn't be a physical,
cause there's people that, when you're,
I don't know if you've ever witnessed that,
but my dad himself,
very lonely man.
And so I'm just putting that out there
just to make sure that's not something
that's in there as well.
Kind of going around in your mind.
But thank you for sharing.
Way to go on your comments too, really appreciate them.
Yeah, thank you.
Yeah, way to go, ladies.
Awesome, supporting each other.
Tiffany, I will say if anyone needs to hop off,
we're at 9.30, wanna acknowledge that.
I'm gonna get through as many ladies as I can by 10.
And I know last time I said I was gonna end by 10
and we kept going, but y'all, I do,
like I have to get, I have to be done by 10.
My boss is gonna start not being happy with me.
Tiffany, go ahead.
So I had to surrender
and he's been talking to me about surrendering.
The fear of doing this.
I have been in week one for about four weeks.
And it's because I was sharing with Crystal earlier,
I'm literally finding myself looking for distractions
that God and I will have a plan.
And I'm actually like, okay, tonight when I get home,
I'm ready to do some hard work.
Let's do this, Lord.
And the schedule is clear and all the things.
And somewhere on my way home,
I sit down and I am literally like begging
somebody message, somebody email,
somebody do something so that I don't have to do this.
And I want to do this.
I know you do.
And remember that avoidance
is a self-protection mechanism, ladies.
So when we avoid something,
it can be just again, like that hurt,
that bodyguard kind of coming out
and really creating an inflating fear in you
that if you do this, it's gonna be way more painful
than if you just avoid it.
The other thing that comes to mind, kind of funny enough,
so if y'all saw our house right now,
well, I started working on it a little bit,
but almost every room when we came back
was literally just boxes, just everything.
It's literally like we moved in,
but everybody just tossed boxes
and there's just furniture stacked on top of furniture
that I would have never stacked.
Like, it's just this kind of craziness, chaos.
And I say that to say this,
I found myself last night, I wanted to work on the house
because I can't stand it like that.
But I was literally walking from room to room
like I don't even know where to start.
Because it just felt like
it was just like a big mess everywhere.
Because not only like some of the boxes we packed,
but because of what we went through,
this mold crew, they just put all.
stuff in a bunch of boxes and just like I literally don't even know what's in them like my stuff but
it's all disorganized and so you know the heart boxes are similar sometimes it's like we walk
into the room and it's like whoa like I'm afraid of that but we don't have to because you know how
we conquer it and I'm speaking to myself too it's one box at a time it's one box at a time
and if I look at the room as a whole and just stand there and look at it I would get overwhelmed
but if I lord help me just to start with one box so today what I did is I I went to a different
room that felt more doable for now and I started just working on that room just a little bit
because progress for me is helping me get ready to deal with the big room so I feel like that's
for you over your own heart that you do that when it comes to your heart how do you say
like in the house yes I get that yeah how do you do that in your heart same way you really I mean
it really is the same way lord what's one thing that you want me to work on today and
it's really giving yourself permission to not avoid it versus giving yourself permission to
avoid it so I would encourage you to ask the lord when's the first time I avoided my pain
to protect myself and let's maybe start there because that's that's what's happening right now
so let's find out when this started for you and get to the root of the avoidance versus trying to
figure out all the other boxes right now that makes sense yeah yeah so um maybe it will help you
and I don't want you to receive shame no matter what but maybe it will help you to
have a level of like okay I'm gonna be accountable so I want you to come into the group
after you've prayed about that and let's talk about it and then I can help or Annette or any
Andrea can help coach you through it from there but it literally is one bite at a time one step
at a time it is opening one box at a time so for now the box that you'll ask the lord about is
lord when's the first time I avoided dealing with pain that I was feeling to protect myself
okay okay all right you got this you got this and and ladies I mean well let me say this Tiffany
you're not alone I've had a lot of people kind of get to where you're at and just really struggle
to work on the material because of the same kind of things you're facing and they ended up working
on it I had a lady that got stuck in week three and she was probably in week three for like
six months and I just she just kept showing up to the lives and God did a work in her and you know
when she was ready and with some loving nudging from me she moved forward and so I just want you
to like just just extend grace to yourself because again there's a reason that you're avoiding
so give yourself um the love the grace and let's just start with that step number one
and see how it goes okay thank you all right you're welcome
uh Ashley says in the chat how do you know when it's the next when it's time to move to the next
week in phase well I think it's just asking the lord you know am I ready to move forward lord to
and trusting that he will lead you now I will say this ladies if you get into week three it might
even be at the end of week two I can't remember when Jackie says it but if you get into week three
and you haven't felt anything yet like at all it's probably because you're numb and Jackie
talks about that in one of her videos and we encourage you to go back and start at the beginning
because some of you you need some a couple weeks just to become unnumb and to start to feel things
okay Lisa thank you for that in week three so be aware of that okay and just trust the lord
in your process UNESSA hi hi everyone um I I felt like I really want to surrender I'm going to try
to explain this the best way that I know how um is that I feel like I have to give up this idea
that my husband's this unicorn that somehow is going to be something that someone that I've
never met before and the only reason why I say that is because I haven't I've dated but I haven't
dated that many I've gotten to know
lot of different gentlemen and I feel like every single time I begin to like open myself up,
it's like I get excited but then something happens where I'm like okay this just isn't
the one and obviously it's because I'm praying I'm also inviting the Lord into it um but then
I feel like one thing um that I've been feeling more strongly it's like Lord like I'm 31 I feel
I've been trying it out and it just really seems like you have me protected and it's like one
gentleman will come it almost feels like it's just another distraction and then I'm just bawling my
eyes out because I'm like when is it going to be the time like I don't understand and I feel like
I've gotten so many prophetic words over my husband that at this point I feel like I've had
to the Lord um but it just almost feels like I know he's not trying to keep anything from me I
don't know if you've seen that picture of like the big teddy bear that Jesus has I've gotten
prophetic words on that and that's just what I always seem to feel is taking place but I'm like
what is happening where is he and when I meet him if he's going through his own thing I'm gonna be
like you took forever for us to meet but um all in that to say that sometimes that lie just comes
in and it just feels so frustrating because you're really trying to trust the Lord and I've
already cried out I said Lord if you don't want me to be married I'm okay with staying single
but you place this desire in my heart and so I need you to bring what you have for me um
but it's just a struggle so I feel like that was my surrender I love it I'm gonna ask you to
surrender something else I'm gonna ask you to surrender the statement that you just made Lord
if you don't want me to be married because guess what I think he wants you to be married and that's
why you're here so you don't even need to pray that anymore you can partner with God I believe
that you have a spirit from mate for me that I'm a bride and that you're going to lead me to my
spirit mate so I want to encourage you to come out of agreement kind of with that and I love that
prayer I love the posture of that prayer understand why we pray those things ladies
okay but you know the reality is is that if you were meant to be single forever like Jackie says
you're not going to feel led to join a group like this if you felt called to singleness you're not
going to feel led to be in a group like this so God has placed the desire of marriage in your heart
so the next thing I want to say is that you said when I open up and I get excited then
then it's not the right guy so I want to ask you this do you like when you feel excited tell me
what's happening is it something about the guy is it something like you're talking about something
like what's getting you excited and then what causes you to kind of shut down um
I would say like more recently it's the excitement of like I'm used to dating
men who are in the world so men who claim to know the Lord gets me excited because I'm like oh like
I'm finally meeting somebody who says they know the Lord and the fact that they are walking out
in their own relationship with the Lord but then usually what's been happening is feel like it
turns into like let's be one in less than a week and it's like wait a minute like we just started
talking like I don't understand and so um yeah that's where I'm like anxious attachers or just
unhealthy is what I hear you saying yes okay um do you tend to struggle with avoidance
in relationships or or not um I don't think so no okay I just wanted to make sure it wasn't some
that kicking in um I think the other thing genuinely um is just really partnering with um
taking steps every day to get out and about meeting new people practicing saying hello to men
even if you already do it I just I want to put this out there smiling at men like not having
to flirt but just this practice of like allowing yourself to be seen by men to be known um you know
maybe it's going to a different church and going to their singles group maybe it's you know going
to a different town to experience something new um ladies we have to get out of the place where
we're at if if something isn't happening it's not taking it into our own hands you're praying first
asking the Lord but then also like just going out and exploring and and just seeing where
like who God might connect you to or lead you to
And every step that we take matters.
So for example, I was never going to go back on the dating apps.
But then Jackie, the Lord through Jackie, like multiple times,
y'all, she had multiple conversations with me.
She's like, you got to do this, Bethany, you got to do this.
I'm like, I don't want to do this.
That's how I met the girl's dad.
And he was horrible.
He was on an app.
I'm never getting on an app ever again.
Y'all, I said it so many times.
And then one day I was like, you might be right.
I probably should do this.
And that night they did a session on how to create profiles and I
created my profile that night and y'all the thing that I said,
I would never do is what God used to lead me to my spirit mate.
So there's that.
So sometimes it's like getting out of our own way to, you know,
and I'm just again walking and things and trying something new.
And so, you know, so I I'm not saying you haven't tried.
Okay.
I don't want that to come across that way.
It sounds like God was defending you and protecting you from the
obsessive, you know, maybe kind of controlling or kind of like
trying to trying to pace it really fast, but I don't think God
wants you to partner with Lord.
If you don't have this for me, I think genuinely that's a huge
thing for you because as soon as we partner with that stuff ladies,
it's literally like saying, God, you don't have this for me.
And so why, why would he send us our spirit mate?
If we don't believe he has marriage for us.
Do you see how they contradict each other?
Yeah.
So we can, we can pray and say things like, I believe my unbelief,
but we don't want to partner with, you don't have this for me.
We want to partner with even remember the activation.
I've loved seeing the pictures.
I've seen Nadine was doing a walk down the aisle practice.
That was awesome with the veil on some shoes.
Ladies.
Let's keep putting the bridal gear in there.
What did God lead you to do to partner with?
I'm a bride.
So you Nessa, I want you to do that activation.
I want you to partner with I am a bride and ask the Lord what
bride gear to go by and do the picture in the group.
I want to see that from you because that's going to help you
partner with God has a spirit mate for you.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
Good night.
Margaret, go ahead.
I thank you so much.
I decided to share because I think that this area that I is
really, you know, relates to a lot of things.
I'm 62 and I've not been married.
And I've been on hold for a long time, just in a lot of areas.
And there's a lot of walls.
But one of the things right now, this area of surrender is
actually financial and I can have a hard time making decisions
on a hard time moving forward and I can save money, but I don't
know how to plan or invest, you know, so I'm not where where
I need to be at my age, but I'm better off than a person can
be, but I need an advisor.
I decided I needed advisor.
I tried to think well, I should try to do some, you know, and
figured out myself need an advisor and I've been stuck on
that and I've been not not moving forward on that and I've
been, you know, there's fear like, oh, you know, whatever
this decision is, it's going to really impact my future.
And I actually was rejected by an advisor a few years ago
because I was taking too long and asking a lot of questions
and they were very kind and so and I but I was leaning towards
going with that person, you know, that was like then I was
like, oh no, and then I was a year about a year ago.
I was about ready to go with a different one and I asked for
prayer at church and they or in my home group and they had
a word come to them and that word reminded me of this other
person that I'd never interviewed.
So I'm like, oh shoot.
I guess I've got to do this.
So then I did that and that one was I ended up not going there
were some maybe personality issues, but they they were giving
me a little bit of count counsel that that I wasn't sure was
God and so I didn't go with it.
I'm like, well, that was my home group.
Was I supposed to you know, so then I've been stuck for a long
time and then so that's I get I'm stuck and I but I need to
Surrender I'm sir, you know surrender the outcome and trust
that God is going to take care of me that it's not all on me,
you know, that's what I believe I need to do and I'll stop
talking so you can say whatever you know, this is okay.
This is great.
Here's the question.
I actually have for you is when is the first time you question
yourself when you were making a decision like, you know,
It's kind of what I hear is a back and forth like doubting yourself in a decision and that's
why you're over asking questions and kind of trying to look at every little aspect of
what's going on.
And that's not a bad thing, but it's overextended and it's probably fueled by fear.
You know, afraid of making the wrong decision.
So my question again for you is when was the first time you can remember like ever trying
to make a decision and you were doubting yourself or you made a decision and someone said something
to you that led you to doubt yourself?
Could be either one of those.
If I were to answer, my first thought is I've always had a hard time with decisions.
Okay, tell me the first time you remember having a hard time with a decision.
Well, I probably just chose not to make decisions, right?
So I guess the, you know, honestly the biggest, let me just tell you this, the biggest first
time because I had no regrets in my life until I was 29.
Like I had no regrets in my life and because I was always praying and, you know, I believe
God was helping me, but then I had to decide about whether to make a big move and across
the country.
And it was for a ministry and I was leaning towards not doing it.
And so I met with these people in my church, some leaders, and they were like, oh no, Margaret,
you just can't see.
You can't see what God is doing.
And so then that really, that was, that was a really hard back and forth.
And I really struggled with that decision.
So that's a really good question that you asked.
I hadn't really thought that that was when it started.
Yeah.
So let me ask you this.
Did that go well for you or not?
I doubted when I, when I moved, I ran into some roadblocks.
Go ahead.
So I'm saying like, so when you moved, did that go well for you or what?
So the answer to that is I doubted.
I doubted once I got out there and I doubted that I was like, oh, I should not have moved,
you know, so that I really, I lost my footing.
I lost my footing with God that I had spent a while that he had spent time developing
in my twenties and that I had, and that I thought I lost a lot of things.
Like I thought I lost my salvation, honestly.
So there were, it's a, it's a huge thing, you know, it's huge that I can't, I'm not
going to, but that and so I've been kind of not with, I've been without the same ability
to have confidence, you know.
Yeah.
This is really, I mean, this is really important.
I mean, this, this, this situation led you to question your own salvation.
That's huge.
So let me ask you this.
You know, the ministers were saying to you, you're just not seeing the full, whatever
it was they were saying, right?
So do you feel like you ended up seeing what they were saying you were going to see or
not?
So the move was to Washington DC.
It was to work with an international ministry that they wanted me, like they were asking
me to come and move with them.
And I had been living in a small town, but I was, but anyway, did I see it?
I would say I, it opened up issues with my, my childhood that I had not seen in the small
town, but when I went to that bigger pond, shall we say the bigger, I saw things about
my family and my upbringing that I had not seen before.
And then I go ahead.
Okay.
Do you all see what we're starting to kind of get to here?
Margaret, this is kind of huge.
Not only did this cause you to doubt yourself, to doubt your salvation, but it opened issues
with your childhood things that you hadn't seen before.
So really what I hear you saying is this was probably one of the first times you started
experiencing some deep need for heartwork.
Deep need for heartwork?
You said?
Yeah.
You know, it was, I would say it was sheltered in the small, in my church, which I didn't
grow up in church.
It was a God thing.
And I, I lived with, I was reparented in a small, in my twenties, but I was still sheltered.
So when I moved there, it was my first time on my own.
I moved all by myself.
God was there and I let in doubts.
And I know the enemy.
was working a lot. And so that's where, I mean, I could, I don't want to take up all this time here,
but you're doing great. This is really, this is important and this is going to help a lot of other
people. So what I want to encourage you to do is, you know, I'm not saying you shouldn't have made
that move. So I want to make sure that's real clear. I'm just trying to ask questions to help
me better, um, know where to lead you from here. But I definitely think that time in your life,
we need to ask Jesus to come in and give you a revelation of what was his thoughts,
what is his heart? What does he want you to know? And really where, um, I talk about
convergence a lot. So at that time you experienced a split to some degree, to the point that you were
like literally questioning everything about yourself, including your salvation. That is huge.
And so what we need is for God to help you, uh, if you need to forgive yourself for doubt,
forgive yourself for what anything for, you know, forgive those people for the pressure they put on
you because you know, I'm not saying they were wrong, but it may have pushed you into a decision
you were not maybe ready to make. I don't know, but let's just pray about that and see if there's
anybody to forgive in that situation, including yourself, but where there starts to be this
convergence of you, um, yourself right now, but converging back with the 29 year old version of
yourself and Hey, here's the other key. Maybe your identity was already struggling before that all
ever happened. Oh yeah. I mean, like, yeah. Oh yeah. But you were saying you had no regrets,
which is amazing. Yes. But I think what happened is the pressure of that decision
caused this fissure that linked back to wounds back here. You didn't have the tools to process
that stuff. You're just kind of left floundering. And then that's where the enemy can come right in
because then it creates trauma and wounds and all that stuff. And he just sewed a bunch of
seeds of lies. And so now what, what needs to happen in this heartwork is God helping you kind
recognize all the different lies that were sown in that time, but also back when your identity
was first kind of struck back at whatever time. And so we need the Lord to reveal that too.
Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome. And ladies don't ever apologize. If I need to move us along,
I will. I know we're at nine 58. I did say I was going to end at 10, but I'm going to,
I'm going to break my word. We're going to finish my last three ladies, Alice,
Catherine, Stacy. So that's the order we're going to go. Alice, go ahead.
Hey, you guys. I can definitely go some other day. It's not, it's not a problem. Are you sure?
Yep. I'm sure. Okay. All right. So
the biggest thing that I need to let go of is, is my, is my timing that I believe that
I need God to work. I mentioned one at a time when I came on video that I've been put on non-pay by
the federal agency that I worked for back in May. And I am,
per my, per the way I see reality, I'm on my last month of being able to, to make it
um, without God showing up in a miraculous way financially. Um, and
some days are okay. Some days are really hard to keep, um, the fears out, um,
and just, um, move forward into the future that God has promised me and patiently and, um,
with faith, wait for God to come through with what he said to me that he will do. Um,
so that's the thing that I am struggling with.
When's the first time Alice that you struggled financially, like in your life ever? Was it with
your parents? Um, was it by yourself? Um, I struggled financially.
Financially, when I came here to the United States,
I was with my daughter and my ex left
and drained the bank accounts.
My daughter, I mean, I did not know that the money was gone.
I was at a Kroger buying diapers and formula for the kid
and I couldn't buy anything because there was no money
in the bank account and things got even worse.
He came and he stole the car from the parking,
I mean, from the apartment complex and things just escalated
but God pulled me through.
I mean, it just, it was incredible how he worked.
Yeah, but that fear, that feeling of unsafe,
the lack of safety, financial safety was pretty rough
because I don't have any family here in the United States.
They're all abroad and it's tough.
So, but now this is the fourth time
that I have been put on non-pay by the agency
and I am trying to find another job, obviously.
Nothing has materialized yet, but I know it's coming.
He's always provided for me.
It's just, it's just hard.
It's just hard, you know?
I'm sorry, this phone keeps falling apart here.
So anyway, that's it.
So I get Alexandra and her issue with the house,
but I went through that, COVID, I had a job in Georgia
and I put my house on the market and COVID happened
and I didn't want to sell because the Georgia job went away,
but I couldn't, I had to because I was in the contract
and that guy really wanted to buy my house
and God made it happen.
You know, and I just, the timing of everything,
he found me a place to rent and got me a house to buy
and he was, I mean, the contract on the rental house
ended on April 30th and I got into the new house
that I purchased on April 30th, 2021.
So-
So I think one of the things, Alice,
one of the things I want to encourage you to do
is remember earlier when I was talking about
do it again, ladies, I am hearing you say
that God financially provided for you
in multiple times in situations.
And so we're going to believe for God to do it again,
but here's where I'm going to encourage you
to stretch your thinking, okay?
Okay.
In the past, which I'm not saying he didn't do it this way,
but one of the things you said that stood out to me
is God pulled me through.
Well, I want God to not just pull you through.
I want you to be in the, and then some,
like to be in the overflow where it's not just, you know,
God pulling kind of a scraping by.
And I really, literally, I'm going to just pause
and pray for you here in a minute.
But one of the things I want to encourage you to ask
the Lord is, are there any areas, Lord,
where I need to still shift in my view
of your provision for me?
Even though he pulled you through before.
And what I mean by that is that sometimes
when we go through situations like that,
we might believe that all of our life,
this is going to be how it goes.
Like we do good for a little while,
then we're struggling and then have to pull through.
We'll do good for a little while,
then we're struggling and have to pull through.
You see how there's kind of like a cycle
that's been happening there.
And so we want to, okay, first,
is there anything that I can shift?
And for me, I could always shift the way
that I looked at money,
the way I thought about God's provision
and the orphan mentalities that were in my heart at times
that caused me to,
even though I knew God was going to take care of me,
but there was still an underlying fear.
Like, why did I even have to be in that spot?
So like when you lose a job,
a lot of times what the enemy will assault.
is like, well, if God was really looking out for you,
why didn't he give you a different job before you,
you know, and you left that job, you know,
see how kind of the enemy will try to get in there.
But I also just want to speak restitution over you.
So that's why I want to pray for you.
And what I want to pray is that, you know,
all that money that was taken from you and the car
and all the things that God would give that all back to you.
Matthew.
Yeah, so I'm going to pray for you
and we're believing for healing.
Make sure even if you've forgiven your ex before
that you do a forgiveness prayer sheet
to forgive him for that stuff as well.
I feel like that's really important, okay?
Father, thank you so much for Alice.
God, we thank you for anyone else that needs jobs as well.
God, that you're going to provide opportunity for them.
God, that you're going to open doors wide open.
God, that you're going to put their name
on minds and hearts of people.
God, that there's going to be a supernatural transformation.
But God, we're asking you tonight to bring restitution
to this situation in the past, God,
that you would literally not just restore the money,
but God, that it would be paid in full and then some,
that in the spirit realm where that money was taken
through the enemy, through her ex in the car
and all of the things, God,
that you would supernaturally return
and restore that back onto Alice, God,
that you would just fill her storehouse to overflowing.
God, that supernatural groceries would appear.
God, that people would give her gift cards, God,
and just that she would start to experience the fullness
of the revelation of God,
that everything that is yours is hers,
that she's a princess, God.
And so I pray, God, that you would help her
to continue to shift on the inside.
And then as she shifts on the inside, God,
that it will impact things on the outside.
And Lord, I know that she said she's got one month left,
but God, I thank you, God,
that you will just remove any fear, any doubt,
any unbelief, God, and that you would just continue
to reveal your grace to her in every moment, God,
that you would just give her an impartation
of the gift of faith to believe for more than enough, God.
And we just believe all these things in Jesus' name.
Amen, amen, amen.
So ladies, let's partner with faith
no matter what we're believing for,
and God is working in your life,
and I believe he's gonna work, Alice, in this situation.
I can't wait to hear what happens.
Thank you, thank you so much.
You're welcome.
Catherine Clark, go ahead.
For me, there's a few things,
one of which is crippling debt,
which is the student loan debts.
I say all the time, if I could declare bankruptcy on it,
I would.
I love my mom.
I trusted my mom back then.
I thought, oh, she knows what she's doing and all of that.
And I find myself like upset with her in a way
of like, why didn't you just have my dad
help me pay for college?
Or if I had known you were gonna have me
take out all these loans,
that there is no way I can pay them back.
And I'm really praying for God
to just supernaturally wipe them
because there is no way on earth I can pay them back,
especially as a single mom, not making that much.
But I'm like thinking to myself,
like I would have looked at different colleges.
I would have looked at more affordable ones.
If I had known she was gonna have me take out all this debt,
and I promised myself and I vowed to myself
that I am never putting my son in this situation
because it's like 80 something thousand dollars
worth of debt that there's no way.
Like I really, I feel like calling them and saying,
can we just forgive it?
Because there's no way I'm gonna be able to pay it.
So that keeps me up at night.
Cause that's the one thing that's bothering me
with my finances, besides the fact too,
that somebody was in my lane,
totaled my car over three years ago.
And I have a car payment for another four years
that I'm like, oh man, I had a car that was paid off.
Like, and this is the one bill as well.
Like I can't change.
And man, I would have been more free financially
if the student loan was gone and if that was gone.
And then of course the last thing
is just surrendering the people pleasing.
I'm finding I really am at the point of
these are the boundaries I need to have.
These are the boundaries I want.
And God is showing me every step of the way
why they're the right ones to protect myself.
Because I've been through a lot with a divorce,
with friends that also took money from me.
bled me dry, they were using me and just all of that.
So it's like kind of a lot of the stuff I was going through.
Well, thank you for sharing.
Appreciate you sharing and opening up
and trusting us with all of this.
A couple things, definitely forgiving your mom.
Have you done a forgiveness prayer sheet
regarding your mom and the school loans
and the debt and all of that?
I definitely think that's what I'm going to be doing.
Cause like I started looking at those sheets
that, oh, a hundred percent
because it's forgiving her for that.
And then it's also forgiving her for the recent thing
that was like the last store that got me to relocate
from Long Island to upstate New York.
And that is, I'm mad at her for selling
half of my inheritance that she's selling now.
So it's both of those.
Yeah.
So here's something that is really important,
Catherine and everybody else, okay?
We have to own our side of the street.
So even as a young adult and your mom or dad
or whoever encouraged you to go to college
and did all of that, you still had a choice, okay?
And it's really important.
And I'm not putting any kind of blame on you.
You may need to forgive yourself as well
for going to college and going down that road
if you're in that situation.
If you're in that place
where you really feel like you regret it.
But it's really important for us
to not put everything on other people
because then we literally lose all of our power.
Like if we just do everything
because somebody else made us do it,
well, where do we own anything?
Where is our confidence in our decisions?
And even if we make an unhealthy decision
that we can own it and forgive ourselves and move forward.
But if we don't, then what happens
is we get stuck in a cycle
where we just keep blaming everybody else.
Remember, I don't know if it was a couple of weeks ago
and I talked about victim, survivor, and thriver.
You guys can go back and listen to that session.
But right now, and I understand why, Catherine,
I know that debt can be overwhelming.
I've had a lot of debt from school loans as well.
And I don't know if this is my night
to encourage you all to have faith about money or what,
but I'll tell you what,
I remember Brian and I,
one of the first conversations we had
about his school loan debt.
And his is, I mean, y'all, he's got a doctorate.
He's got a master's.
He's got a bachelor's.
I mean, like he went to school for a long time.
He's got a lot of debt.
And he said to me, I'm never gonna be able to pay that off.
I said, don't you dare ever say that.
We are gonna pay this off.
God's gonna supernaturally provide the money
and we're gonna pay all that school debt off.
And y'all, guess what's on my Jesus Cares Board?
I'm not joking.
I believe that God can provide that for us.
I don't have to be in debt the rest of my life.
No matter if I was a single mom, I was single before.
And y'all, I didn't know how I was gonna pay
for an apartment.
I didn't know how I was gonna pay for groceries sometimes,
but I just started believing God.
I trust that as you heal my heart,
you're gonna teach me how to handle money better.
I'm gonna become a better steward
that you're gonna be able to give me stuff
and not just go through the holes in my pocket
and me give it away.
So one of the other things is when I was dating
the girl's dad, y'all, I gave him tons of money.
I gave him, I paid for car payments,
I paid for part of the house, I paid for groceries.
So was it that I didn't have money
or was it that I was making choices that weren't good?
Okay, so I had to own my side of the street
regarding my financial situation.
Y'all, I literally ended up having to go to a food bank
with him at one point because the finance,
my finances got so out of whack and his were never good.
That was a very tough dynamic.
That was very embarrassing and hard for me
and had to let go of all kinds of pride
and ego and all the things.
But y'all better believe that I figured out
how to get my stuff back on track.
And part of it was like setting boundaries
and not continuing to pay for things
that were his responsibility to pay for.
So we need to get boundaries in place.
We need to work on forgiving people.
Again, I understand that your parents encouraged you,
but as a young adult, you still chose.
And so owning that decision for yourself
is the starting point for you, Catherine.
And I wanna encourage you, again, I understand
it can look like this huge mountain of debt
and there's no end in sight, but partnering with,
I'm never gonna pay this off.
I can never do it.
That isn't gonna help the situation.
by any means. So, let's sit in a posture of, God, I believe, help my unbelief. Help me
to see how I can start to save money and start to pay these bills down and trust that, God,
you're going to work it all together for good. Because you don't know what's coming down
the road for you. But if you partner that it can never happen and that God can't bring
increase into your life, then that is going to be your lot. Does that make sense, everyone?
Yes, it does. Yeah, it's really important. And I'm not trying to be hard on you. So I
hope you know, I'm saying this out of love and out of a place of I had to overcome a
lot myself. But God is helping me do it. And you all we are paying off, like literally
the only debt we have left our school loans. And we're like in the middle of paying that
off. Well, I shouldn't say that we just got dental work, but so we're gonna pay that
off too. But like God is giving us the finances supernaturally to pay this stuff. He's increasing
and doing things in our lives. And years ago, I would have never thought that was possible.
I really didn't. But God's doing something awesome. So he can do it for you too.
Yeah, that I definitely needed to hear because it definitely seems like that. And even with
what you were saying about paying that girl's dad stuff, like I was wrong with those bad
friends of paying for things for them back then. And obviously, we're not friends anymore,
because I stood up for that. And they didn't like it. They decided the friendship is over,
which I'm better off. I don't need users like that either.
No, you don't. And you know, again, forgiving yourself even regarding giving those friends
money. You know, God wants to restore even those things to us, ladies. So even when we
make mistakes, he's not like trying to punish you, Catherine. Okay. So let's forgive those
friends, forgive your mom, forgive your dad, forgive yourself. Let's work on those forgiveness
sheets this week. Okay. And let's see what starts to shift as well. And we're going to
be praying again, come to the prayer calls as much as you all can. And really just soak
in and allow your faith to just be really built up. Okay, super important. Thank you
for sharing and trusting us. Thank you, too. You're welcome. Stacy. See, go ahead.
Hi, I just wanted to say a couple of things as we wrap up here. I don't want to take much
time. I was going to talk about a couple of things with me. But I think I'll do that next
Monday. But I did want to say if I might I'm new. So hopefully this is all welcome. Good
to go. But I wanted to respond to crystal. I am 58. So I'm in a similar age bracket.
And I understand the idea of coming home being alone on Sunday sometimes. So I'd like to
invite you to have a zoom with me once in a while. Because we're in the same age bracket.
And I will say this not to be unkind to anybody in the group. But there's a different feeling
when you get into your late 50s, maybe early 60s that I don't think people understand at
30 and 40. Nothing personal to younger folks. But it's just kind of the journey. And there's
an understanding, I think when you get into a certain age group with other people and
stuff. So anyway, crystal, I'd like to connect with you. And then Catherine, I just wanted
to say I don't know if that was Catherine who just spoke about the student loans. I
just want to was that Catherine? It was but I'm gonna have you pause for a second. Okay,
I would love to hear something about you. Oh, about me about you. Oh, okay. Well, I
haven't I just joined last year single and I have not gotten started. It's been two weeks.
I've had some things going on. This was a challenging week with everything having to
do with the the news. So I haven't dug in yet. But I've done other hard work in the
past. That's okay. So what is something you're going to surrender tonight? I got kicked off
the group. So I didn't I didn't exactly hear what the question was. That's okay. So the
question is, what is something through all the coaching that I did tonight in the lesson
kind of unpacking that? What is something God is nudging you to surrender tonight? That's
it. It might be this little kitty that I rescued. Okay. Yeah. All right. Awesome. So maybe, um,
do you have a desire to help people and animals? Maybe? Yeah, I got a little kitty who's been
living in my trailer in the last couple months, took him to the vet today, and had some work
done to see if the kitty could assimilate with my existing senior cats. And the vet
was an agreement, not a good idea to bring this younger cat in to the mix. And I was
like, I was afraid of that. And so I think I'm gonna have to make a decision now what
the next steps are. And so that's a little painful, because I'm gonna
attached a little guy, but I may have to surrender him. So we'll see.
All right. Well on that, um, I think one of the biggest things, ladies, the reason I had her is
not that I don't want her to edify some other people in here, but it's really important when
you all get into, uh, the seat and she wouldn't know this since this is her first time. So I'm
just making sure that everybody does know the reason we do this group coaching is for you to
move forward in your healing. Even if you haven't been able to work on the material for that week,
kind of like even Tiffany was saying she's in week one and that's totally fine, but you all can
share what God is, is showing you in your heart and receive the coaching that you personally need.
Um, cause again, it's really important that as a giver that we're not just giving, giving,
giving to other people and then actually not getting the help that we need because we're
helping other people. Um, so I appreciate Stacy, you encouraging your sisters. Um, I will say this,
you know, um, I mean, I wasn't in my fifties, but I was definitely in my mid forties. And so
dating is definitely different as you get older, but I just want to make sure that, um, our ladies
that are older also aren't partnering with flies because yeah, it might be different, but that
doesn't mean other people don't feel deep loneliness. And so it's kind of like isolating
yourself because of your age. We have ladies in their seventies and eighties getting married. Y'all.
No, I would agree with that a hundred percent. What I was really trying to say, not in terms
of relationships so much or partners were romantic. I was more saying that when you are single, as you
get older, there is, there is a level of loneliness, especially if you've been married before. And then
you're alone. It just, I don't know. I it's just something that I can relate to. I guess what I'm
trying to say. Yeah. Yeah. But we need to look at what is the root of that loneliness. It isn't just
age ladies. That's what I'm getting at. Okay. I hear what you're saying, but I'm, I'm lovingly
challenging that as well, because that's in us because somewhere along the way we were lonely
before and we were wounded because of it. So for me, I was literally neglected as a kid, as a little
girl. And so when I got older, that, that pangs of loneliness that I dealt with was massive. You all
like painful. And so that's why I'm trying to say, I think that, yeah, there's different seasons and
things in different ways. I had never felt that level of loneliness before in my life.
And when I studied up on it and learned about it, it can be way more addicting than even cocaine,
that feeling of needing to have somebody there to satisfy the loneliness. But what God told me
is that I had to learn how to actually recognize that I fill a room and I'm not trying to minimize
our loneliness, but the reality is, is I had to really like embrace my fullness.
And the fact that when I come into a room, I fill that place. That room isn't empty because
someone else isn't there with me. It's full because I'm there and Christ is in me filling
that place. And so when I was able to receive that truth and really live into that minute,
changed how I viewed everything. It changed how I felt when I was by myself.
And I, you all, I never like, I couldn't like, and I'm not saying this to tell myself. I actually
wish I had not always had to have a boyfriend, but I didn't know growing up how to not have a
boyfriend. And so God taught me how to walk out singleness and not feel like I was lacking
something. And so that's what I just want to give to you all. Okay. I had to really get to the root
of where did that loneliness start for me? Because man, when I went through all of that and I finally
allowed myself to experience singleness and not try to fill it with another person,
the pain that I felt was legit, but I had to look at, okay, where did this come from?
So that's what I'm saying to you. Okay. So when we feel that let's not stay there, but let's ask
the Lord. Okay. What is the root of this? Is it just that I feel lonely right now, or is there
a pain in me from the past that needs tending to that God wants to come in and heal me and deliver
me from. All right. Super important ladies. Okay. All right. I'm going to pray us out. Father.
Thanks so much for everything. God, you're so, so good. God, I thank you that you would help
every lady tonight receive sale arrest and God that they would hear what your spirit is saying
to them in the night hours, in the day hours.
God, we thank you that you would just come in
and place the balm of Gilead upon every wound.
God, that you would go into the depths of loneliness
and deliver them and set them free, God.
And not only that, but that you would fill them up
with your presence, God, in a fresh way.
God, we thank you that you would send people to them
to just join them for lunch spontaneously, Lord,
or just, Lord, sending new friends into their lives
where they have friends that are no longer in their lives
that weren't healthy for them.
So, Lord, we thank you for your hydra protection
around us as well.
We thank you that you would guard and keep watch over us,
that you would help us to also take part
in guarding our hearts and our minds through Christ Jesus.
We thank you, God, for revealings for healing
that are happening, that will happen,
and for freedom and breakthrough coming in Jesus' name.
Amen.
God bless you all.
Have a wonderful night, everyone.
Good night.
Love you.
See you in the group.
Good night.
Love you.