here if you need me as the host.
Yay!
And Cheryl's here for me to make me look good.
All right, it is single spotlight tonight.
We are doing community spotlight.
So I have started talking,
and now I'm gonna say it while it's being taped.
Two things for you.
You guys is make sure that you just get rid of any lie
that the enemy is telling you
that you're not doing enough of something.
You're doing too much of something.
What are you doing wrong?
Or why is God not blessing you?
Like sometimes those things have nothing to do with you.
And like I just said a moment ago,
like I don't think I did anything different last year
that I did the year before.
I just feel like this is God's timing.
But I also believe that we live with spiritual warfare.
And as much as the enemy wants to break up families,
he wants to prevent them from happening in the first place.
And so we don't fight against flesh and blood sometimes.
We fight in the spirit.
So we just have to keep on doing the things
that bring us joy.
Keep moving your story along
and let the lies of the enemy just go to the curb.
And just don't believe any of it.
Trust that God has you.
And I will say this, you guys,
and I was just with a friend today for like a couple hours
because her and her boyfriend just broke up.
Like they were literally talking about Simbis a week ago.
And now they just broke up and she's just devastated.
And y'all like their relationship's been,
like I know Jackie says, it doesn't have to be easy.
It just has to be worth it.
There's a difference between not easy and worth it.
And you are pulling teeth to make the relationship work.
If you are doing all the work in the relationship,
all the compromise, all of the hustle,
that's different than not easy.
That's, and I will say this,
after having been with those relationships
and what I have right now,
y'all wait for the right person.
Wait for the person who treats you like gold.
Wait for the person who cherishes you.
Wait for the person who is your best friend.
I promise you, keep living your life.
It's gonna be super worth it.
Okay, so if you are camera ready
and you're ready for me to spotlight you,
you're gonna have your name, comma,
your age, comma, your state.
So I am going to, all right, where were you before?
Aaron, I'm spotlighting you.
Let me see if I can pin you, if I can do this correctly.
Bam, all right, that's one.
You know what?
Cheryl, I'm pretty sure you've not been spotlighted.
You know, sometimes when we work in the program,
everyone just assumes like, oh, no, no, no, no, okay.
Kenton, I know you just got spotlighted,
but dude, I want you to,
you didn't get to do the questions with me, right?
Kenton, you didn't, right?
I'm adding you,
because I just want to hear from you tonight.
Bop, bop, bop, bop.
I can do that if you want.
I know, girl.
All right, Kylie, I'm getting you.
All right, I got my first four.
Bam, okay, look at these four lovely people.
All right, are you guys ready?
Da, da, da, da.
Okay, so we're gonna go around the circle
and I'll call on you
and you'll start to learn who's on the top.
All right, so your first question is your name and age.
All right, actually, let me put it into the chat
so you see it.
Da, da, da, da.
Paste.
All right.
All right, so it's in there.
And so it's your name and age,
obviously, which is already on your screen.
Where do you live?
Do you have kids?
Do you want kids?
And you guys, please answer this question honestly,
because that is what actually just broke up this couple.
He decided that he did not want to help raise her children.
She's had the same four kids for the last seven months.
This was not new information.
They didn't suddenly show up on the scene.
So we wanna make sure that we're really honest about that.
What's your job?
Can you relocate?
And again, if you have custody with your ex and their little,
Jackie doesn't want you to move and separate that system.
Do you have a pet?
Do you have issues with somebody with a pet?
Because some people have allergies and it's a thing.
And then name to interest.
So Erin, Joy, you are up first.
Woo, woo.
All right, unmuting, howdy.
All right, name, Erin Joy Crossfield, age 48.
I live in Durham, North Carolina and have for like 20 years.
I do not have kids, never married, no kids.
I don't mind having somebody else's kids.
I work for the state, I'm an analyst.
That's my job.
I do housing policy and analysis.
I can relocate.
I don't have any pets.
I don't really have a big affinity for pets
and I have slight allergies that I could use as an excuse,
but it's really just.
I like people and two interests, let's see.
One interest is I've taken up musical theater
just in the last three or four years and I'm loving it.
Yeah.
I love that.
Okay, so do you sing?
Do you act?
Are you doing all of the things?
Well, it's community theater,
so we all do the things.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
It's a big chip-in process and I sing middlingly well,
but fine in a crowd.
Yeah, let's see, what else?
I would say lately my other hobby has been,
I'm one of the peer coaches for this group,
so I hang out with all y'all online
and those two things fill up the spare time.
They do, they do.
Erin, I started running lights for community theater
and now I'm like the chief baker,
so whenever there's like really fancy food in the play,
I've been known to make like 16 chocolate chiffon cakes
for a show run, so it's fun.
Local theater is awesome, love it.
Okay, Cheryl, you are up.
Hi everyone, my name is Cheryl Guiong, I am 53.
I'm in Calgary, Alberta, Canada,
and one of your hosts here with Single City Calgary,
but also too in the background with last year's single,
so good to be with you here.
I'm single, never married, I do love kids,
don't have any of my own, and I can relocate.
My job is wherever my laptop is.
I don't have a pet, I have pet-setted.
I've found that lately my allergies aren't as bad,
but it is with dander at times with certain fur pets,
but we'll see, you know, I'm pretty open to that.
At first I wasn't, but coming around.
And to my interest, you know me,
especially those within the area,
I do a lot of confections,
so whenever, if I was to bring something,
I'd be something of a dessert
or something to bite your sweet tooth, so that's one.
And then the other one is,
the other thing that I like doing
is just checking out cooking classes.
I love learning, and so that's another thing.
Anything culinary, anything confections, that would be me.
I love that.
Kenton, you are up.
I am, thank you,
and it's good to be with everybody tonight.
Hello, ladies.
My name is Kenton Rostolka.
I do live in Edmonton, Alberta, just three hours north,
and by the way, we go by hours in Canada,
not by miles from Calgary, so that's a good place to be.
Do I have kids?
Yes, I've got four kids, and I have 10 grandchildren.
Do I love kids?
Absolutely.
I love grandchildren.
I love, especially when the babies,
when the babies come, it's like,
give me the babies, I'll take them.
Okay, it's all good.
Where do I work?
I work up north in the minefields
in the Alberta oil sands.
I'm a heavy operator up there.
I drive the biggest trucks in the world,
they're three stories high.
Can I relocate?
Yes, I definitely can relocate.
Comes to pets.
Anything that's got a doodle in it, that's fine.
Otherwise, I just don't like the hair.
I have to be quite honest.
Hair gets everywhere.
No, thank you.
Two interests.
Two interests is mentoring and discipling young people.
I love doing that.
That's one of my favorite times.
I do that whenever I'm home.
I also am a sports and bodybuilding enthusiast.
So I've gone back to bodybuilding.
I used to be a bodybuilder at one time.
I've gone back to it again now.
And I love training up gentlemen.
And you've probably seen that in many of my comments
and how our young men are growing up.
And I appreciate a good gentleman,
especially the one who really knows how to look after
his lady or the ladies around them.
That's a little bit about me.
Thank you.
I'm telling you ladies,
I've been able to be in small groups with Kenton.
He is the real deal.
Y'all should be running after this guy.
Kylie.
Is it Kylie?
Am I saying that right?
Yeah, you are.
You betcha.
You're up girl.
Hold on.
I gotta find these questions.
So obviously my name is Kylie.
I am 34.
I live in Humboldt, Saskatchewan.
I have three kids, 11 and under.
I currently stay at home with them while I'm taking some,
I'm studying nutrition right now.
So I'm doing that.
Can I relocate?
So I have a custody arrangement.
It's not.
shared so
Potentially it would be something that I'd have to like really talk to that person about I do not have pets
I don't really have an issue with pets, but I also don't love animals. So
Just putting that out there to interest. I love baking
I baked cookies and banana bread today, and I love competitions
So I'm doing a crossfit competition and a high rocks competition at the end of this month
I'm flying to Dallas to do a high rocks competition escape rooms
Beaches all that kind of thing
Love it. Oh my gosh, and you guys I didn't even mean to pick three candidate people
I don't know how that happened. That was awesome. I love it
Okay, these questions in the beginning are gonna be fast the first one
Besides water. What are the beverages that you most often reach out for and it could be like a few answers
Like I'm a coffee girl and after a big seminary exam, I'm an espresso martini girl. So there you go
Erin you are up Oh
Coffee, absolutely and to my embarrassment more than water. Yeah
Okay, so
Erin, how do you take your coffee?
Anyway, it comes I am I am a happy camper with it black and I also like it as fluffy and amazing as it
Can get I love that. That's so fun. Okay, Cheryl, you're up
Give me a good matcha or a latte. I mean a matcha or a chai latte. It's high latte
Okay, those are good ones. Those are good ones
Kenton how about you? I love my specialty coffees. I'm a snob for him. I
Love it. I love it and Kylie
Diet coke. Oh
my gosh, okay, I
Y'all America has the best diet cokes at McDonald's. Okay, Canada waters ours down
This is the McDonald's diet coke and I I never drink diet coke
But recently I saw that somebody swore that the diet coke from McDonald's tastes different and is better
Oh
My gosh, I'm not gonna tell us about all the chemicals in there, but it's okay
All right. The next question. Do you have a nickname? We all have a nickname
And what's the story behind your nickname? Aaron Joey? Um, I don't really have a nickname now
Um, I did used to just go by Aaron for like 30 years
And then the Lord pointed out that he named me Aaron joy on purpose
So I would say now I would categorize Aaron as a nickname
When I was in high school people used to call me popsicle because I cannot keep my own internal temperature
I think I must be like part chameleon or something. So cold all the time unless I make a point to bundle. I
Love that. I love that
Cheryl I know you got one. Oh, yeah. Well, I have a couple so
To a lot of my missionary friends
I'm called Chesa is something it I got from us when I was in Australia doing my internship with YWAM
and so they called me Chesa there and then
Amongst my well my Cole different colleagues when I was working in
Industry they called me radar because I was like for those that may have remembered mashed radar
O'Reilly because I would protect things before they even you know had to ask me so I was already on top of things
So they called me radar. I
Love it. I love it
Okay, Kenton you're up
Well, I don't have a nickname presently, which is which is kind of nice for a change
But as I was on the on the force, I was known as rusty on in these on the streets
So we usually didn't give our names out
So they we always had a name for each other
But and it's obviously by my last name with the RST and the why it happened
Actually, it happened to follow right through my whole family line. Well, my brothers have the same nickname as well. I
Love it and Kylie
I don't really have a nickname. Some people call me Kai as a child
I was called Kylie ketchup because I ate upon literally
literally everything I
Love that. I
Love that. Okay next question
This is it's a double question. This is telling us how clean you are
Might as well learn this information. Do you make your bed every day?
Do you put the dishes in the sink or do you wait to do them in the morning or do you put them out in the
dishwasher, so
It's kind of cleaning habits here. I
Make my bed two-thirds of the time and I do the dishes two-thirds of the time
That's good. That's good
I'm very similar to Aaron joy
majority of the time I do make my bed and
Most majority of the time I also do all the dishes because whenever I've something when I was going through pastry schools
though. Okay. Yeah. So you want to make sure everything's clean
and done all the way through. So yeah, love it.
Well, for myself, I do make my bed every day. I've been
trained to do that since childhood. And I kept it right
on going back to actually nice to come to home something at
least is made. But secondly, I love house cleaning. Sorry,
sorry, guys, I hate to do that to you. But I love house
cleaning. So it
yet another reason why to snag this man ladies right here.
That's the cleaning.
Kylie
my bed is hit me if I make it, but I do dishes as they come. So
as soon as there's a dish, I literally wash it. I am the
dishwasher. I don't have one sadly.
Oh my goodness. By the way, if you are not camera ready, and
or you're in your car or something, like Cheryl said, you
can always throw the answers in. As long as your profile photo
is up at least for somebody to kind of see it. That'd be
great. Okay.
All right. Now we had a lot of altruistic answers the last
time. So you don't have to be you can be totally selfish in
vain on this next question. If you could have a superpower,
what would it be?
Time travel?
Ooh, where are you going? Aaron?
I want to meet Cyrus of Persia. I feel like the first person to
like, like,
yeah, he's like kind of a hero.
Tell me why, though. What one thing do you want to ask?
Um, I want to observe how he ran a kingdom where all of the his
vassal states had like so much autonomy. And as long as they
kept not causing trouble and paying taxes, like he was he was
nearly universally beloved, except for in the instances
where he had to call a rebellion. And that's amazing.
Yeah, it's amazing. We had to learn about him. And yeah, I
think that would be fascinating. One time travel. That's great.
Okay, Cheryl, you're up.
I would love my I would love to know every language in the
world. So I can communicate better.
I think in heaven, we get to do that.
Kenton,
I've got to actually, one would be I'm breaking the rules. I
know that I did. I'm a rule breaker. But anyway, I do enjoy
list, keep watching people get healed. So I'd love to have that
power Jesus had that he just healed all that came to him.
That'd be kind of neat. Secondly, I'd like to know also
be able to be able to read people's minds, especially
women's minds, because they're complicated. But that sure
would be fun doing.
Okay, the Mel Gibson movie is course coming to my mind. And
that is sometimes way too much information. But I can see that
the appeal of that Kylie.
I would have to choose either mind reading or time or
teleportation. For sure.
I love it. I love it. That was fun. Okay. So and you know, if
you say all of the above on this one, that's okay, too. You're
going on vacation. Typically, where do you like to go the
beach, the mountain snow or tourist city?
Hmm, I would probably go to to a city with museums. I love
museum and a docent led tour and educational things. Second
choice would be the mountains.
Okay, I like it. What time of year in the mountains?
Oh, of course. Well, certainly.
Yes. Okay, Joe.
I love city life. And I love exploring different cities. And
then if anything, I love doing again, because I have loved
missions. I love going to other rural countries and exploring
them and meeting people and understanding their culture and
trying their food. So that would be me.
Cool.
I love the mountains, ladies. I do love them. I can go anywhere.
I love hiking. I love anything to do with I'm a hunter as well.
So it's obviously that's why. But another one would be also
exploring. I love to explore the old pyramids or old ancient
places. You want to take me to the Noah's Ark? I'll go there.
Nice. I love it. Kylie?
Beach for sure. I'm also an adventure person. So like any
type of thing. I want to do it on a little holiday.
Awesome. I love it. Okay. Since some of you kind of cheated in
order to give this answer. However, I want to I want to be
specific. If you're going to the potluck picnic, the last year
single potluck picnic, what you bring in?
So I when I was growing up, my family made something that we
called Hawaiian haystacks. I don't know what other people
call them, but it's just a pile of stuff, rice and crunchy
noodles and pineapple and chicken and gravy and raisins
and croutons and peanuts and.
Yeah, all sorts of things and just in a pile and it's terrific and you can add what you
like and not add what you don't like and people seem to enjoy it.
I love it.
Yep.
I'd probably figure out some kind of artisanal cheesecake.
So that's what I'd probably bring.
Yeah.
Canton?
Oh, sorry.
Um, yes, my favorite is Perlgis.
It's a, if you don't know what they are, they're basically a dumpling style and they have bacon
and potatoes and onions and, um, and cheese in it.
And it is to die for, especially when it's boiled and then you put butter and sour cream
on it.
Yeah.
It's just melts in your mouth.
It's so good.
But then again, I'm very practical.
I like rice, rice, crispy squares as well.
Love it.
I love it.
Kylie.
If the potluck's in America, I low-key feel like I need to bring a poutine, but I would
really bring cinnamon buns.
Oh my goodness.
I love it.
Okay.
We're moving on.
What do your friends say they love most about you?
Hmm.
I don't know.
I now think I need to ask.
I have a peanut gallery chiming up humor, humor.
My sister's in that group.
See that?
I love that.
You know, I like your very positive attitude, Erin.
Like I read so many of your comments to everybody.
You find the silver lining in every story.
Even when somebody feels like they're dumping all this, you're like, oh, but look at this
thing that you just learned.
That's so awesome.
Thank you.
I'm going to say that about you.
Okay.
Cheryl.
Gosh, I would say that I'm kind of like the gatherer of our friends and stuff like that.
So just bringing everybody together, but also that I, you know, loyal and listen.
So those are three of the main things I would say that they would say about me.
You are loyal.
And Cheryl got your back, people.
She's got your back.
All right.
What would your friends say about you?
It's funny because I just recently had a bunch of friends, close friends actually do this
on media.
And so some of their comments were, I'll read them out.
I'm a very generous person.
Very kind.
I'm an advocate for women, especially women in ministry.
My humor, it can be dry, but they love it.
I'm a great encourager and very loyal to the very deep.
I'll stay like a puppy dog that gets kicked once in a while, but I'll keep on coming back.
I love it.
Kylie?
I'm probably my free spirit.
I'm very like childlike.
I love having fun and laughing.
It's just like a joy, honestly, wherever I go, I'm just bringing the positivity and good
vibes.
I love it.
Okay.
What do you wish more people knew about you?
Oh man, I really wish I had prepared ahead of time.
And it's okay.
The next round, I'm doing slightly different questions.
So for those-
Everybody be on the spot.
Oh, I'm going to have the perfect answer ready.
Maybe not.
Hmm.
I can come back to you, Erin.
Yeah.
Would you mind?
Yeah.
I do not mind.
Thanks.
Cheryl, I'm going to put you in the hot seat.
Oh, let's see.
Probably that I've helped do a lot of startups that are just close to my heart.
And so it's something that to be part of something, it's always been part of my joy.
So yeah.
Love that.
I love that.
Kenton, what do you wish more people knew about you?
Wish people could really know about myself would be that I'm the real thing.
I'm very honest, open, and I'm secure about who I am.
And I know what I want in life.
And in doing so, that scares people away because it's almost too much for them.
So they don't always think.
I've had people actually say to me, you're too good to be true.
You're too good to be true.
And I say, you're right.
I am.
Because I know who I am and I love people.
And that's why I love encouraging people and lifting them up at all times.
See, that's the good part about the sweet spot of being over 60.
You don't give a poop anymore.
You're just going to be yourself and it's awesome.
I love it.
Kylie?
I'm like Erin.
I'm just sitting here and I'm like, what do I want people to know?
Because I feel like I'm an open book.
I feel like I'm very open with people.
I don't hold a lot back.
act. Um, yeah, I'm stumped. I'm not gonna lie. Okay, maybe, maybe so. Maybe, maybe so.
So, um, well, like here's me being vulnerable on this question. Like, you know, everyone
sees like, oh, Renee is so outgoing and friendly. Like she has no problem talking to a bunch
of bunch of people, but like, it's not that I wish more people knew this about me, but
I will say this, I'm far more insecure, um, and, and deal with creeps of unworthiness
way more than the average person would think about me. And so I would want people to know
that to just be a little more tender with me. Sometimes I think people think I've got
really thicker skin than I do because I come off with a lot of confidence. So that's an
example of me showing a little vulnerability. So Aaron, do you think you have one right
now? Yeah, I do. Um, well related, tangential. Um, I, I am, um, I am generally charming
and sort of baseline professional with everybody, but when I'm with my family, I'm way, way
more relaxed. So I have definitely asked the Lord before that when my guy meets me, that
he gets pretty quickly to see me around my people and around my family so that he can
see a more genuine version of me and not my like professional best foot forward self.
So you got a little goofy side. I love that. All right, Kylie, last chance. You got it?
No, you're good. Um, yeah, I, I guess maybe more people, it would be kind of nice for
them to get to see how I am with my children. Cause I guess I don't get to show that side
a lot of the time with, um, dating prospects. No one's ever met my children. So that would
be, that's good. Cause you're a mom and that's a big side of who you are. That's so good.
Great. Last question, people tell us who you're looking for, what you're looking for.
Um, I, I once upon a time, the Lord told me I'm not allowed to pay attention to age. So
that is not on my list of things I'm looking for. I would love a guy that enjoys talking
about the Bible instead of thinking of like, it's just a responsible part of church going
life or whatever. Um, because it's super fun. Um, and, um, generally, uh, an appropriate
understanding of work-life balance. Um, but also like a good solid hard worker, not a
person who uses, I want work-life balance as an excuse to like maintain a part-time
lifestyle. I love it. I love it. Cheryl. Um, definitely a communicator. I love great conversation
and it would have to also have slight geekish side. Cause I kind of do so, you know, that
I think that's, that helps. And I know that that's something actually Jackie's called
me on. It goes, you need somebody that needs to communicate well. And he's like, I do agree
on that. And also somebody that shows general kindness, not only to themselves, but to others,
you know? And so I think that also goes a long way, you know, as, and also kind of fits
within like what I would consider as a true gentleman, you know? So, and that, and in
that kindness also has generosity because then, you know, they're generous for the time
themselves, you know, with others. So just, yeah, I think that those are three main things
that I would definitely, um, definitely be looking for or be hoping and praying for.
Awesome. Kenton.
Well, this is, this one's always a high one for me and it's, uh, because of my age and
everything else, I enjoy life to the fullest. So I'm definitely going to need somebody who's
going to continue to love, um, life in itself, but more so that, uh, they'd love to keep
themselves in good shape, but because I am an athlete and I would like a lady who would
like to join me in all my athletic adventures, it would be sports or it would be hiking,
hunting, fishing, whatever it might be there. I'd love somebody who would like to be a true
partner so that we join together and really enjoy each other. So I'm looking for almost
somebody who's like myself. They say opposite track. Yeah, they do. That's always good for
each other. I found that out already, but somebody who can out-talk me, that would be an
interesting one because usually I seem to get...
Okay. So she needs to be Italian. So we need to find her an Italian or a New Yorker or a
New Yorker. I'm just kidding. You know, somebody who can get the gift of gab. I love it.
And a person and a lady who really loves people, uh, who's hospitable because I enjoy
bringing people into my home and putting on parties for them or whatever, especially
people that are underprivileged, people that would never be invited out to some.
to somebody's party ever again.
Those people still need to be loved on.
And I love being a police officer.
I understand street people.
And they're actually fantastic, lovable people.
They just need somebody to love on them.
That's all that is.
So, and somebody who can really, who knows how to love,
especially as a guy, us guys like to be known.
We like to know that we're needed.
And I always like to be needed.
I'm a handyman, of course.
So, it's easy to be needed,
but it's nice when the person has to express themselves
that, yes, they do need me.
That'd be nice.
Thank you.
Sounds good.
All right, Kylie, wrap it up.
I would love to find somebody
who really has more of a freer spirit like me.
Like we like to joke around,
do the silly trends on the internet.
Somebody who's very intentional
with how they handle stuff and like remembering things.
I really desire that.
And I really admire a man who like knows the direction
he's headed, what he believes in, where he's going.
I think that's super important for me
and what I'm looking with.
And obviously somebody who's got like a father heart
and is gonna love my kids
and wanna become kind of an instant type of family
is what I, it's a couple of like the main things.
Love it.
All right, Erin Joy, Cheryl, Kenton, and Kylie.
Great job.
Woo, woo, woo, woo.
All right, I'm gonna get my next four.
And then what I'm gonna, how do I unpeel?
Let's see, we're moving.
Oh gosh, the dog, the dog.
I'm slow, I'm slow, I'm slow, I'm slow, I'm slow.
Okay, where, no, crap.
Okay, let's see.
Da, da, da, da.
Boom.
Da, da, ah, ah, ah, ah.
Where are you now?
Boom.
David, I know I just talked to you,
but I'm gonna give you different questions this time.
Da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da.
Okay, there's my next four.
All right, and so after we're done with these four,
I'm also, I know, my sweet little doggie.
She's like crying.
It's cause I'm up on the, like a bar stool.
So like I'm not next to her.
If I were sitting on the couch, she'd be great.
All right, you've got two minutes.
Let me go ahead and put it up there so you can see it.
Really quick, your name, age, where do you live,
kids, want kids, job, can you relocate,
do you have a pet, do you have issues with pets,
and two interests of yours.
And then after we do this round,
I'm gonna do just a teeny bit of Q&A
that may have come up just from hearing people's answers.
You're like, oh, I have a question.
All right, Melissa Dawn, you are my first corner.
Okay, so I live in Pennsylvania,
but I am 100% Texan,
although maybe not 100% cause I don't like football.
And let's see, I am a continuationist.
I love salsa and bachata dancing.
I speak Spanish and a little bit of Portuguese.
I love other cultures, have traveled to 23 countries.
I value someone that is like me,
single, never married, with no kids,
but open to children.
And I am open to whatever the Lord has,
whether that's to have kids or not.
I am a professor, and so I value intellectual stimulation.
And I also really value growing and learning perpetually.
Cool, Megan, go for it.
Hey, I didn't know that I was gonna be selected.
You put your age and your thing,
so that told me you were ready, girl.
Yes, I'm ready.
I just wasn't expecting that, so.
Yes, my name's Megan Legault.
I am in San Antonio, Texas.
Oh, that's a cute little dog you've got there.
I am from DFW.
I was in Austin,
and then I've been in San Antonio for a bit,
but I've been open to maybe moving back home to DFW.
I'm definitely open to relocating.
I've kind of had an itch to possibly move
in the near future.
I can move.
I do work as a physical therapist,
and I do home health PT,
which thankfully I can find a job pretty much anywhere,
because there's such a high need for physical therapists.
I don't have kids, but I definitely want kids.
And pets, I did have a dog.
She just recently passed away.
I just had to put her down like two weeks ago.
I think some of y'all know about that.
And so it's been a little bit challenging,
but I am feeling a little better day by day.
I do absolutely love dogs.
and I'd be open to somebody who had a dog.
I'm not ready to get one myself just yet,
but I would be open.
And I'm actually allergic to cats.
So that's kind of a little bit of a deal breaker
for me with the cats.
Okay.
David, you know what, David, if you're not,
oh, are you there?
Oh my gosh, it didn't even look like you were there.
It looked like a frozen photo of you.
I thought it was like your photo.
It's me, I'm here.
Go ahead.
Okay, so my name is David Wright.
I'm from Kingston, Ontario, Canada,
and I love all animals.
I love dogs.
I'm not so much a cat guy.
That really depends on the cat and I.
And yeah, I'm definitely willing to relocate.
I would say my age range is probably like 32 to 43.
Right now you're just telling us about your bub.
You're good.
Oh, sorry, my bad.
Where do you live, kids, want kids?
All right, can you relocate?
Do you have a pet?
Issues with pet, two interests.
So you're telling us about you first.
Okay, so definitely willing to relocate.
I love all kids.
And if you have kids, that's not a deal breaker
for me at all.
I'm definitely of the mind that, you know,
my family, we have little kids all the way
from like four weeks old to like nine years old
and my brothers and their nieces.
So if you've got a little guy, they're gonna fit right in.
And that's my family's motto too.
And yeah, two interests.
I really am really enjoying watching women's rugby right now
and Canada is doing so well.
And that's been really fun watching that.
And I think they're gonna win.
They're the underdogs,
but I think they can beat England and New Zealand.
So that's a big interest and I love art
and I'm currently illustrating
and writing a children's book.
So that's fun.
Y'all, David is also amazing.
I'm just telling you, y'all need to snag him up.
Joan, you're up girl.
Can you see the question?
Sorry about that.
Hi, thank you, Renee.
My name is Joan Kavanaugh, I'm 55.
I'm an RN psychotherapist.
I live in Wallisburg, Ontario,
which is 15 minutes from Michigan.
I can relocate if need be.
I do have two dogs
and I love all pets and I love children.
Now, I did have a child on my own
using an anonymous sperm donor
and that little fella just turned seven.
Yeah.
In terms of interests,
I would say cycling and watching movies.
Awesome, okay.
Since I have to give you guys different questions
because I don't want to bore everybody in the audience
and you already had a chance to answer those,
this question is your favorite show when you were a kid.
Think favorite show when you were a kid
and I'm not gonna tell you what that means.
It could be when you were five or 12, don't really care.
Melissa Dawn, you're up.
Oh, okay.
So the first thing that came to mind was the chipmunks,
but I don't think it's really my favorite.
So, but there you go.
That is hilarious, I love that.
Megan.
Hey, I was also gonna add,
I think I forgot to mention a couple of things.
I'm 39 and interest, I love just being active,
playing volleyball, hiking, all the things
and I love dancing.
Those are two big things for me.
Great.
Yeah, for movies as a kid,
the movie that came to me was the Brave Little Toaster.
I don't know if y'all remember that.
I mean, I feel like I'd have to watch it again.
Some people have talked about
how there's some really like creepy scenes from that.
So some of it might be kind of demonic or something,
but there was something about it that hit me
with the bravery of that toaster for some reason.
Oh, funny.
You know, I was on staff at a church many years ago
and I thought,
oh, Still Big Nolies is such a great girl movie
to do at the women's retreat.
Watching it with all the pastors, you're like.
Maybe not.
Maybe not so much.
David, favorite show as a kid?
That would definitely be,
so the Canadians in the chat might know this.
There was a show called Dudley the Dragon, which I loved.
And there was another one, Polka Dot Shorts,
which was another favorite Canadian TV show.
They were big giant like puppet dragons
and they were my favorite.
Also, there was a show called Theodore the Tugboat.
He was a little animatronic tugboat.
There's another Canadian show,
but all of those were like little David.
Those are my favorites.
It's telling us a lot.
Awesome.
Joan, what about you?
It shows my age a little too much, but leave it to beaver.
Love, leave it to beaver.
To beave.
OK.
All right.
This is now we're going fast forward to today.
You're guilty pleasure like your brain is fried
and you're just going to watch a show because it's just
going to make you feel good.
So your current, it could be, we're
going to get to podcasts in a minute.
So it's just a TV show or a movie.
It could be on a regular station or on Netflix or whatever.
Melissa.
Oh, man.
I don't feel like I get a chance to think.
Let's see.
I actually don't watch television.
I've never had Netflix.
I like to learn things.
So I'm going to watch a YouTube channel.
I like to watch things in which I understand current events.
And also, I am focused on mentoring the next generation
and helping them walk with Christ.
So anything that's going to help me understand psychology,
theology, current events, those are the things
that I tend to enjoy the most and find the most enriching
in order to impart wisdom to the next generation.
Oh, my gosh.
That sounded so lovely.
OK, so in case Megan is embarrassed to share
your guilty pleasure, I'll tell you that mine is love is blind.
I'm a junkie for married at first sight, and love is blind.
There you go.
So not changing the world for a better place.
Megan, you're up now.
I mean, I just went through the gutter, so there you go.
Thank you for chiming in, because I feel like, yeah,
it's kind of hard to top that.
As of right now, I do like love is blind.
But as of right now, it's been the summer I turned pretty.
No spoiler alerts, because I did not
watch the last episode with the season finale last night yet.
I'm supposed to watch with a friend this weekend.
But it's a really great show.
I feel like it's really popular with the millennials right now.
I love that.
David?
That would be the Sherlock, but it's
the new version with Lucy Liu.
So there's something about it.
I've seen so many episodes of it, and I've re-watched it now.
This is like my second time through.
Like Sherlock, like the Benedict, what's his name,
guy that you see?
It's not the Benedict Cumberbatch one.
This one has the actress Lucy Liu, and she's Watson in it.
Wow, OK.
And it's so clever, and the writing is good,
and it's just funny.
So I just like it.
I love it.
Joan, what's your guilty pleasure show?
I'm really with you, Renee.
I love love is blind.
The new season is coming out, ladies.
When they see each other, sometimes
like one of their faces drop, but they
try to look really happy.
So yeah, no, I love that one too.
Awesome, OK.
Recommend to us, Melissa, this is
going to be in your wheelhouse, recommend to us a podcast
that you're listening to that's really good,
a really good podcast.
And tell us a little bit about it
so we know what kind of genre it is.
Well, I really appreciate Alisa Childers
because she is extremely kind and well-informed
and biblically grounded.
And I appreciate just that she is
able to address current events in a very robust way.
So she would be one.
I also like Ruslan.
He tends to be incredibly balanced as well
and has a wide range of connections
with multiple people across the spectrum of society.
And so I also love that he does rap because I love rap,
as long as it's like Christian rap,
let's say, where it's not like toxic.
That's so good.
So I love that kind of stuff.
OK, so Alisa Childs and I went to the same church.
She's freaking amazing.
She's a local girl here.
She's just smart.
I just shared one of her clips.
Actually, I just shared the last two clips
that she did because she's just so brilliant.
Megan, podcast, do you have one to share with us?
So I'm kind of like Melissa, just definitely a learner.
And so I love listening to various things
depending on what my mood is.
But a couple of things I've listened to recently,
one was Real Foodology.
It's just the particular podcast was more geared towards women
and just hormones and health.
I won't get into all of it right now.
But it was really fascinating just the things
that we can learn about our bodies
and how they work as women and what we don't know.
It was really just fascinating.
Part of Dating is also a really good podcast.
I don't know if some of you all have heard of that.
They have some similar things they
teach that remind me of last year's single
and just as a Christian and dating.
just there's so much that's there. I feel like I actually
just listened to something last night. And here and there, I'll
listen to Mel Robbins podcast. I don't know if y'all have
listened to her too. I'd like to listen to her book, but I've I've
appreciated some things lately about just the let them, you
know, theory about just, you know, it's just helpful for fear
of man and releasing what people think of you and just allowing
them to think, you know, think their own thing and let me be,
you know, have my own thoughts. And I would take a while to get
back and get into it. But I definitely do want to listen to
the, the book, the audio book, and I feel like it applies to
the dating. And it's really helpful.
For sure, David.
So there's so many that was there running through my head.
To pick one, I'm a big Andrew Huberman fan. So I love the
fact that he takes science that's publicly released, and
then puts it in a way so that other people can understand it.
Even I myself, I lost 75 pounds just following what Andrew
Huberman said. And me and my friends, we took a challenge and
we said, Okay, let's take four months and see how much weight
we can lose. And between the seven of us, we've all lost
about 600 pounds. Wow. And so like, that's been a really cool
one. I also love Leanne Kreiser. She her husband is a famous
comedian, Bert Kreiser. And she has a podcast called wife of the
party. And it's kind of about like, reigning in her husband.
And what does it mean to be the one who's actually solid when
your husband is this famous rock star, and she's got some
really cool perspectives and anything by Good Mythical
Morning. I love their cooking show where they make last meals
and lots of stuff.
Awesome, Joan.
I feel really out of it because I haven't actually listened to a
podcast. But anyways, I'm on YouTube, I am watching one
that's called the Bible in 365 days. So each, you know, each
video is one, one, one day's worth of the Bible split into
365. Who's teaching that? Um, I should know that I can't think
of her name offhand. I was just curious. Okay, so you guys, if
you ever have trouble reading through the Bible, I highly
recommend Tara Lee Cobble. The Bible recap, the woman is
brilliant. She's also single. So goes to show you that you can
keep I think she actually came from the music industry, because
I have friends who are friends with her. So Tara Lee Cobble.
Okay, we are moving on. And Melissa, if you could go back to
your high school's person, your high school or college person,
what would you tell them?
Be completely and unabashedly yourself.
Awesome, Megan.
That's really good. Um, I think maybe don't care so much about
your achievements and what people think of and just stay
rooted in your identity in Christ.
Awesome, David.
This is what I would say to my high school self. Yeah. Stop
looking in the mirror.
Your hair is not going to last forever.
Joe.
I'd say, get some confidence. I was just, you know, really meek
at that time.
Yeah, I got you girl. I got you. Okay. Um, what is a bucket list
activity that you would love to do with your spirit mate, Melissa?
Um, well, I've already climbed an active volcano with ice
cleats. So I don't know exactly what else I would want to do
next. But I think that maybe go to the southern cone somewhere
like in South America, maybe Argentina and canoe or kayak or
kayak or I don't know something adventurous or perhaps I've
already been to Chile for one month but maybe go to the
southern part of it and you know, they have beautiful scenery
there and maybe maybe go with like go and kayak or do some
outdoor adventure there.
Man, Melissa, I want to go do that with you. Megan.
I have a few bucket list places I've always wanted to go to with
spirit mate one day. Glacier National Park and Lake Tahoe and
Banff. Those are some places I'd like to go specifically with a
spirit mate. A friend was saying she could go with me to Glacier
but I was like, I kind of want to go with my spirit mate someday
so I'm holding out for that.
Oh my goodness. Okay, don't hold out too long because maybe
you're gonna bump into him there.
That's very true.
Okay, David, you're up.
Oh, we're losing the mood.
I think just like going to New York,
but really just like maybe doing a Broadway play,
but really just like spending two or three days
just exploring MoMA would be amazing.
Awesome, Joan, how about you?
I'm similar to the last lady.
I'd like to go to Australia and also to Thailand.
So I have cousins in Australia
and my dad's partners in Thailand and yeah, so.
Oh, wait, I just, okay, Cheryl,
have I not been pinning people correctly?
Can you guys not see the four people?
Did I wait this long?
Are you not seeing the four people?
Dang it.
Now we are.
Oh, okay.
Okay, I just wanted to make sure
that you can see the four people
because I thought I did it right this time.
But Cheryl, I'm like an hour
into just catching your message.
So I apologize, I should have made you co-host.
Joan, that was good, thank you so much.
Okay, tell us what part of the Trinity,
okay, so you guys, you all know I'm in seminary
and I'm doing historical theology right now.
So it's like basically running
through the early church, medieval church,
reformation and modern church all in one semester,
just summarizing all of it in church doctrine.
It's been fascinating and my brain's ready to explode.
And so just like learning the early church
and how they were really like figuring it out
as they go along, like, who was Christ really?
And how did they line up with his full divinity
and full humanity?
Like we just take it for granted
and like, what's the role of the Holy Spirit
and is he on equal footing?
And it took until the Nicene Creed
and like 300 years after Jesus died
before they were really even talking about correctly
the role of the Holy Spirit.
So it's just made me kind of realize how much,
sometimes we only lean on one part of the Trinity,
but we all kind of have the one that we go to.
So there's three persons in one.
So Melissa, who do you kind of pray to
or do you kind of dabble back and forth
between the three for different parts
of your relationship with the Lord?
Well, I would say that I pray to God the Father
based on the model prayer of Jesus.
However, I really appreciate the Holy Spirit
who according to John 14 and 16 is our guide
and the revealer of all truth.
And I feel a great need right now
for incredible amounts of particular truth.
So wisdom, which is knowledge applied
to particular instances, like as I mentor students
and they're asking very difficult questions.
And I really rely on the wisdom
that the Holy Spirit gives me because it's far beyond me.
And also the proverb that says that the Lord can give us
words that are like apples of gold and settings of silver.
So they're just so fitting and beautiful
for that particular moment.
And so because of that, the Holy Spirit,
I am a continuationist.
And so I believe in all of the gifts of the Spirit.
And yet I don't personally believe that everyone
has to have a particular expression
of the fullness of the Spirit.
However, I think according to 1 Corinthians 14, one,
it says eagerly desire the gifts.
And then it says, especially that you may prophesy,
but the first part eagerly desire the gifts, want more.
And so I'm all about it.
Awesome.
Megan.
Melissa has such good wisdom to offer on all of that.
So thanks for sharing Melissa.
Megan's like crap, I can't.
I always have to follow up after her.
I'm just kidding, no, that's great.
I would say I often pray just, I pray to God
or like the Lord, that's how I like preface my prayers.
But as I was discussing this with a friend recently,
I feel like I think of them all kind of, you know, as one,
because the Trinity is one.
But in a way I feel like the Holy Spirit is something
that's just so real to me.
And like, I feel like I probably lean on the Holy Spirit
the most just because I think I'm just sensitive
to his presence.
And, you know, the church I go to,
we do like really talk about following the Spirit
and just when we go to worship, I just feel God's presence.
And I think that's a big part of that
is just sensing the Holy Spirit.
And so that's like, it's really important to me just,
yeah, following the Spirit.
Awesome.
David, you keep losing, I keep losing you.
You're back.
Who are you talking to in the Trinity?
Maybe it's all of them for different parts of your story.
Can you hear me?
Me?
Sorry.
Yes.
You, David.
I think I'm definitely talking like Father, Son, Holy Spirit, which one am I talking to?
All three.
And at the same time, give me that multidimensional thing.
But I think for me, for sure, the Father.
Just knowing God as Father has been really healing, especially through last year's single.
Knowing that He's a good dad and that He always had right for me.
And that I love my dad.
My dad was awesome.
But just that God is my Heavenly Father and that He knows every one of my needs has been
so humbling.
And yeah, it's been an incredible journey of just Him being like, I have everything
you've ever wanted.
Just trust me.
I love it.
Jo, you're up, girl.
I'd say in day-to-day life, when I need help with something, I do call on Jesus.
But when I'm praying, I pray to God.
And when I'm meditating and trying to figure things out, I lean on the Holy Spirit.
So just like everyone before me, kind of all of them.
And you guys, if you guys think this is a weird question, I encourage you to actually,
especially in this month of rest, as you're thinking about it, there are three distinct
persons of God for a reason.
So if you're actually not tapping into all three and you kind of just mush them, they
are three distinct persons.
There was one God, but they have three distinct, there are three distinct persons.
And you know, like for me, kind of like David, I really needed to get God the Father back
in relationship with me because I had such a complicated relationship with my father.
I always thought of God as this big, distant, angry God ready to punish me and not a good
So I really needed to unpack that.
So I actually pray to God most of the time.
I always picture Jesus sitting next to me on a porch.
Yeah, he is wearing jeans without socks and he's got a white t-shirt on.
He looks a little hippy dippy.
And he's always holding my dog, Eli, my first dog that passed away.
And for me, that's how I learned to have intimacy.
Because people used to say, oh, have intimacy with Christ.
And I'd be like, oh my gosh, intimacy.
I'm not going to have sex with Jesus.
And for me, because of my trauma, I just thought intimacy, sex.
And so that was like a safe way.
But when I think about power, like before I even come on with you all, before I do my
freedom prayer or speak in engagements, I'm always asking the Holy Spirit to give me the
juice.
And so I feel like I tap into all three.
So that's just something for you all to encourage you all to kind of consider as you're doing
it.
Okay.
Tell us who you're looking for.
Melissa, you're up.
I'm looking for a pure hearted, diligent man of God with whom I have mutual attraction
across the board, physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and fellow learner
and grower.
And also someone who like me is open to having children, whether one or two, whether biologically
and or via adoption.
And I'm open to someone in the range of roughly 35 to 51.
So that's kind of who I'm looking for.
I need someone that's playful.
I'm actually, I'm very intellectual, but I'm also really ridiculous and playful.
I don't believe you.
No.
I am.
Yeah.
And I have a very wild imagination.
So I'm like, I'm off the chart.
Like my students are always like, kind of like laughing, but also like, ah, I'm like,
like this lady is a little wild.
I'm looking for somebody that can kind of have like me a full range of emotion and way
of being.
Cool.
Okay.
Megan, what you looking for, girl?
All right.
So I would say I really appreciate somebody who's a really good listener and somebody
who's like calm and just grounded.
Somebody who's emotionally mature and aware, intentional, clear, who pursues me wholeheartedly.
And it's clear with that.
Somebody who's obviously, you know, pursuing the Lord and has a depth of their relationship
with the Lord and is like good with talking about their depth, the depth of that relationship.
And I appreciate spiritual depth, but also intellectually.
Somebody who has like, you know, they're solid in their career.
I'm pretty established.
my career as a PT.
So sometimes that's been kind of challenging.
I'm open to different people having different backgrounds
with maybe if they didn't go to school
and they're still established in their field or career.
But I'd like somebody who's just,
yeah, just established financially
and in their career, that's important.
Somebody who's really active.
I am big into sports and working out, hiking,
playing volleyball, dancing.
And so I think it's important for me,
kind of like what Kitten was saying.
You just want to be on the same page.
Like I want to be on the same page with my spirit mate
in those areas to have fun with them.
I love when I can get to play volleyball
or dance with somebody or go hiking.
I think that's probably most of everything that I covered.
That was good.
That's good.
Thanks.
David.
Yeah, this is such a hard question.
I'm just looking for someone who really loves Jesus
and I don't really have a list.
I'm just really looking for someone who is like,
hey, my heart is sold out
and they feel led for the mission field of family.
God has rocked my world that that is the new mission field
is that having a Christian family.
And they don't have to be my biological kids,
but just raising children up in the way that they should go.
And definitely somebody who wants to run an empire with me.
You know, like I have business dreams
and people who want to build something together
and make an impact.
But yeah, I just want to change the world for Jesus Christ.
And so I don't really have a list of things,
you know, like, not like,
oh, she has to be a guitar player and seven feet tall.
And I mean, that would be cool,
but I'm just trusting God with whatever he brings
and whoever he brings, I'm gonna be grateful.
I love it.
Joan, wrap us up.
Yeah, so it's hard not to laugh when David says,
she plays guitar and she's seven feet tall.
You know, but anyway, sorry.
Like I have had lists and,
but then I'll like people who are outside of that.
So I guess one fundamental thing is that
I would like someone who's dependable.
And then obviously, because I have a young child,
you know, as Kylie said, a father's heart.
So.
I love it.
You guys, I'm going to unpin these folks,
but if you are on camera,
I want you guys to stand camera for like all of you
for like the next 10 minutes.
I'm gonna hold space for you guys to ask me any questions.
So it's about 10 after the hour.
I'll hang here for 10 more minutes.
And I want to just answer any questions
that you guys have about heartwork, about dating,
about what it's like being engaged.
I don't know.
Whatever you want to ask me, by the way,
we had our first dance lesson tonight
because he wants to dance for like dance for our wedding.
Y'all, he does not know how to dance.
I did not know how bad it was going to be,
but it's amazing.
Bless his ever loving heart
because he wants to do this for me.
And I think he almost passed out when they told him
how much the dance lessons are going to cost.
And I was like, is she, you want to do this?
He's like, uh-huh.
So it's fun.
So does anybody have any questions?
Like, otherwise, while you're listening to me talk,
you can be scanning, looking all for the pretty people.
And remember you guys, this is community matchmaking.
And so you might be going like, oh my gosh,
like I'm not the right person for somebody,
but like you just met eight great people tonight
or you got to know them a little bit better.
And so I want you to be thinking about them.
Like I'm constantly like,
I just met this guy in my chaplain gig.
I'm like, oh my gosh, I've got to introduce you to Shawna.
Like the next time she's in Franklin,
like she'd be perfect for him.
And so I want you guys to be always thinking about that.
Like so many of you hate dating apps.
Like this is a way to do it.
All right, well, if we don't have any questions,
I'm not going to force the time.
So that's okay.
I've loved being with you all.
I'm actually leading our sabbatical rest prayer time
on Saturday morning.
And I'm looking forward to getting to do that.
You know, I feel like the Lord knew
we would need extra prayer time
because boy, the last week has just been a whammy
of life stuff coming at us.
And so how we battle spiritual crap
that's going on in the world right now is through prayer.
And we're going to go to the throne on Saturday morning.
And I look forward to getting to do that.
So I'm going to go ahead and pray us out.
Hold on.
I want to make sure I got no more questions in here.
All right.
God, I just ask that you be with every single person here.
I ask that they feel you tonight,
that Father God, when they lay their head down,
that they see you, Father, Son, and Spirit,
that they feel exactly what David was talking about,
that they know that their daddy loves them,
that their daddy cares for them,
and that they are adopted children,
that they are not just adopted
into being under his protection,
but that we get all of the inheritance rights
that Jesus gets, all of them.
And so, Father God, I ask that Jesus be present,
that there is a new reminder and a new awakening
what Jesus did on the cross,
that if you don't feel love tonight,
you remember how much that Jesus loved you,
that he died for you.
And then, Holy Spirit, I ask that you infuse your power
into each and every single person, Father God.
Holy Spirit, whatever gift
that people have been praying for,
whatever you think that they need,
Holy Spirit, I believe that you can give that to them.
And so, some of these superpowers
that we were talking about,
Father God, you kinda heard, you know what the stirring is,
and I believe there's a Holy Spirit version
of the superpower that they're asking for.
So, Father God, you know each and every single person
on here, you know their needs, you know their wants,
you know their desires, their fears.
Father God, I just ask that you just be
with each and every single person,
that you do something amazing,
and so that when the next Faith Friday comes up,
this group that came here tonight,
who heard this word, or is listening to this in replay,
that they're gonna be like, yes, in this moment,
I woke up and something shifted with me,
with Father God, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,
and we just lift all of this up in the Father's name,
the Son's name, and the Holy Spirit's name, amen.
Amen, thanks, Renee.
Thank you, Renee.
Thank you, see y'all.
Amen, thank you, Renee.