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Okay. Welcome, ladies. This is your Phase 2 Love Story Accelerator live check-in. It's

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1 o'clock Eastern. Remember, we have that 8 o'clock call as well, the Ebony Heads Up,

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because I'm usually busy with my kids, doing all the things, all the practices, all the

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studying, all that good stuff, running around like a crazy mama, which I know many of you

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can relate to. I do try to hop on there every now and then. So if you are able to jump on

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both, definitely check that out. We do record both sessions. We put those both in replays.

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So if you can only make one, definitely watch the other in replay. If you cannot make it

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to either live, definitely try to watch both replays. If you can make both to live, that's

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even better, because everyone gets an opportunity to ask questions, and so you never know what

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questions you're going to hear, which ones are going to allow you to hear some breakthrough.

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That is the best way to, honestly, that really does, believe it or not, get so much breakthrough.

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So for those of you that don't know me, that might be catching this in replay, I'm Carla

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Johnson. I'm one of your last year single dating coaches here. I was a success story

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myself. I joined Jackie in 2020 in September, joined officially in October, which is we

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are having our five-year anniversary coming up, which there are still tickets to come

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to the anniversary party. If you can make it in Austin, I will be there. Several of

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us are going to be there as well. So we'd love to see you there. But yes, I am a success

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story. And so I have worked through this community and worked through this program.

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And so this community was definitely something that I worked through, have been part of,

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have come to these lives, have shared my story, have asked my questions, have walked through

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the process, have vented my dating escapades, if you will, the good, the bad, the ugly,

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all the ups and downs, everything in the middle. I've shared the tears, the laughs, the cries,

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everything. So just know when you come here and you share, you'll get breakthrough, your

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sisters will get breakthrough. We are all here to lean into each other. Holy Spirit

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really does show up. It's really, really awesome to watch the process, to share it

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with your sisters. So I strongly encourage those of you that are watching and replay

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to come to as many live sessions as you possibly can. It is always usually a good time. We

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try to make it a good time. So it's definitely good to be here with you all. So yeah, keep

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in mind, 8 o'clock, 1 o'clock Eastern, Tuesdays, definitely come, come, come. Do I have anybody

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new with me today? Anybody? I think I recognize most people. Carmen, I don't know. Hi, good

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to see you. I love that you're on live. Camera, good to see you. I see a Laura, Mackenzie.

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I've seen your names in the app. I don't recall seeing you live before. If you've been here

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live, I apologize. I see a lot of names. A lot of you ladies have similar names. So it

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gets very, very hard to keep track of. I've been doing this now for almost two years coaching.

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So it gets all jumbled together with time. But the more y'all show up, the more I recognize

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y'all. So show up as frequently as you can, post in the app. We'd love, love, love, love

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to see your faces and see what's going on in your life. So good news. Supernatural Saturday

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is back to being recorded. All right. I have yet to see this last Supernatural Saturday,

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but I heard it was a good one. I heard Bethany was on. So that is on my agenda to watch.

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I think I'm going to play it on my way to pick up my kids today. That's always a good

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way to listen to replays. I don't know where y'all live. I live in the DFW area where there's

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always traffic. Sam knows what I'm talking about. She lives in the DFW area.

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So she gets it, there's just always traffic in this area.

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So that's where I always try to listen to replays because I just, honestly, that's oftentimes

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where I have my Jesus moments, is in the car, especially when my kids are not in the car

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with me, is when I can have my prayer time.

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It's the car and it's the shower, because that's where I get my peace and quiet.

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So if you can listen to replays, if you can get some peace and quiet in the car or in

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your prayer closet, maybe before you get out of bed in the morning or before you go to

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bed, if you can just turn it on and just have a moment.

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That's what works for me, figure out what works for you, totally fine, okay?

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Definitely listen to those replays.

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So those Supernatural Saturdays are back to being recorded and in replays, definitely

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check those out.

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Again, I think I already shared about the anniversary party coming up October 26 in

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Austin.

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Do I have anybody coming?

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Anybody in here now coming?

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Put your avatar hand up or share in the chat.

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Laura's going to be at the retreat, so I'm going to see her at the party.

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I'm excited to meet you, Laura, very, very thrilled.

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I won't be at the retreat, but I will be at the anniversary party for sure.

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I'm trying to figure out if I can get down there on Saturday.

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I don't know what time, I'm not sure what's going to be happening Saturday on the retreat,

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but if I can crash some of Saturday, I might.

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My husband has his busy work season, so I had to pull some eyelash batting to him and

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be like, look, this is super important.

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You have to be there.

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This is the five-year anniversary party.

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I wouldn't have met you if it wasn't for this community, so you have to be there.

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We have to go down to Austin.

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Luckily, he's got family that lives in the Austin area, so it was a good excuse.

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I'm like, you can take one Saturday off your busy season and come down and celebrate with

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our community.

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Jackie actually even married my husband and I.

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She officiated our wedding, so I was like, look, dude, we got to go visit.

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He is definitely going to be there too.

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Yes, Laura, it's going to be her birthday on the 26th, so we definitely want to celebrate

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her.

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There are still tickets, so if you can make it, road trip it.

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Maybe there's a cheap flight, definitely come check it out.

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I know that there are some people, I know I've seen it in the phase three, I know some

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ladies are trying to find roommates for hotels.

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If you are interested and just don't have maybe a partner, like a friend, and you would

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just like to have somebody to room with, throw it up in our app because if we can, we could

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probably try to find someone for you to room with if that's a possibility.

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If you need, and who knows, maybe someone in our phase two is looking for someone as

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well.

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I've met a lot of really amazing women when I was in this community.

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Some of my closest friends are actually from this community.

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I have story upon stories of just when I joined this community of just all the women that

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I've met.

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We had probably the first year, we actually planned a trip at the time I was living in

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Sarasota and we planned a trip where myself and three other girls had a little vacay in

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Tampa, Florida.

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One drove down from Georgia, two flew in, one girl flew in from Missouri, she flew into

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the Sarasota airport.

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We never met in person.

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I picked her up, her flight got in at midnight.

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I picked her up from the Sarasota airport.

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She stayed at my house with me and my youngest son.

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She's such a blast.

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We still stay connected this day.

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Just such a good friend of mine.

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We ended up getting an Airbnb in Tampa.

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I had such a great weekend.

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It was actually the weekend of my birthday.

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They celebrated with me.

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Jackie and David ended up flying into Clearwater.

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We did this impromptu meetup and just had such a fun weekend.

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so met some just really great great women great people in this community so

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you just never know who you're gonna contact like who you're gonna meet kind

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of how I even got connected with my husband one of the ladies that I met on

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a retreat she was from Atlanta she moved all over she was a travel nurse she was

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in a Facebook singles Christian community and she happened to see my

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husband's profile she was dating a guy I can't remember how she met her now

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husband but she was dating the guy that she's married to but she saw my

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husband's profile in this like group and she screenshot all of his like stuff and

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was like hey what do you think about this guy I was like yeah yeah he looks

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alright whatever and she posted on his profile post and was like hey you need

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to meet my friend Carla and he's like well this is weird like some girls

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reaching out to me about her friend and then there were other women from our

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like last year single community that chimed in on his post like oh yeah

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Carla's great y'all I wasn't even in that Facebook community and like my

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girls were like yeah Carla's amazing y'all we thought he lived in Florida

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because he mentioned how he worked in Florida and that he traveled like ten

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percent of the year no y'all he lived in Texas but he worked for a company that

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was in Florida and would travel to Florida 10% of the year so I'm like okay

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like sure he lives like an hour away from me no he doesn't he lives in Texas

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y'all I was not about to move so she reached out to him and he was like and

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then she goes to them but she was the travel nurse and she was moving and so

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he was luckily bold enough was like okay well I guess I'm gonna message this girl

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Carla who I have no idea who she is and the rest is history now I'm married to

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the man and I live in Texas which I said I was never gonna do I was never gonna

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move so I actually like the girl that connected me to him I met her through

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this community and we actually met on a retreat to Austin in May of 2021 so you

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just never know who you're gonna meet in this community so embrace those

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opportunities check out the resource page in our app because we have so many

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travel opportunities there's the last trip singles we have we just recently

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had the Disney trip that I know several women went on I know one lady a couple

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weeks ago a couple weeks ago was it last week she came in she's now in phase 3

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she was on that trip we have the last cruise single coming up in January I

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think there might still be spots left for that so just if you can make it go

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to those things embrace those opportunities it's always a lot of fun

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y'all if you ever met Jackie in person she is a good time she is like she's a

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live and in person she is always a blast to spend time with so definitely check

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the resource tab in our app for any of those opportunities so many great things

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in that tab also don't forget that yes yes Sam we are definitely gonna hang out

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soon you're in that Dallas single city I do try I try to get to as many of

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those events as well single cities ladies that is also in the resource tab

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so if there is a single sitting nearby you definitely join that more information

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is in that resource tab we are always trying to put on events in single cities

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some are bigger than others but the more we have joining and that you're bringing

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more people into our community the bigger those can grow unfortunately I

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have a child that is in travel baseball so oftentimes when their weekends I'm

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usually at baseball fields all around Dallas so sometimes I can't make it to

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those but in the off seasons I do try to get to those so if you're in the Dallas

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area or even Austin because we do have sometimes we'll try to meet up with

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Austin and Dallas we'll try

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emerge. And I know that there was a recent one, we did a Magnolia Market in Waco. And that one I

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really wanted to go to, but I had like a family reunion that I ended up having to go to. But

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Magnolia Market is like one of my favorite places. On an Austin retreat in 2021, we went there.

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Super fun time. So again, single cities, join them for sure. Good, good time.

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So yes, do that. Also, resource tab, just keep in mind, we do offer one-on-one coaching.

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If you are open to that, it is not included in your membership, but it is an additional fee.

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So if that is something that you are interested in, it is a 50-minute session. So if you feel

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you just want more one-on-one time with a coach, those sessions are available if you choose to do

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that. So that information is in the resource tab and is available. Now, obviously, we have these

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Tuesday calls where we open the floor up for your questions. So you can get some

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feedback from myself or Ebony. So we'll definitely take that. But like I said,

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sometimes ladies just want a little more personal, not in a group setting,

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more time to be able to unpack deeper things. We do things, heartwork, dating situations, whatever.

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Also, I want to remind you ladies that if you're in this phase, it doesn't just have to be dating

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situations that you're going through. We can most certainly always unpack heartwork stuff with you

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as well. Heartwork never is finished. You never really graduate heartwork. You just get deeper

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layers of healing. And oftentimes when we have dating questions, we typically will uncover

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more heartwork things that kind of surface through dating. So just know, don't feel like

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just because you're now out of phase one and out of the heartwork phase and the end of the dating

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phase that we ever really leave heartwork, we can still always bring heartwork back.

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And don't feel like just because you're in this dating phase that it's a mandatory requirement

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that you're dating or a mandatory requirement to ask a question if you're not dating. You most

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certainly are open to ask a question if it's heartwork related and you're not dating. Y'all,

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I was in this community for over a year and wasn't dating. And I'm a talker, y'all. I was always

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asking Jackie and the team questions and I wasn't dating because it took me a lot of heartwork to

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get my toe in the water. I had to unpack a lot of heartwork stuff to get comfortable with the

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process. I had a lot of dating questions that was like around heartwork and that was okay.

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So when you hear dating experiences from your sisters here, it may surface heartwork stuff and

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you most certainly can bring that here in this phase. So I don't ever want any of you to feel

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you can't share what's on your heart or what is vulnerable, what is holding you back.

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We're here to help you through this process. And truth be told, there's probably several women

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on this call or listening in a replay that has the same question or feeling or insecurity or

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vulnerability or whatever it is that you're feeling. They'd probably share that with you.

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And I speak it from experience because like I said, y'all, it took me a year. Like Jackie had

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to kick me out of the nest to date because I was so afraid. I had been so badly wounded

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from past relationships that I was just so closed off and so afraid of being hurt

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and wounded again. I was a single mom. I was terrified. I had a little boy and I just,

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I couldn't imagine him being hurt in the process. I felt like I did it all wrong.

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You know, I was a mom, had never been married. I felt like I was tainted. I felt like,

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you know, I wasn't a godly woman because I had a child out of wedlock. You know,

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How could I even show up as a Christian woman?

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How could any godly man want to marry me?

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Let me tell you, I had a lot of shame and guilt and all of that,

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thinking that I was not worthy.

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That's just one piece of it.

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So I'm sure many of you ladies can relate to that.

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Maybe you don't.

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Maybe your story is slightly different.

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But I'm sure if I can't relate to you,

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there's someone on this call or in this community that can.

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So I hope that speaks to you.

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So let's go ahead and pray.

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And then I want to open up for questions.

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I know Kathleen's got a question.

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I think Kim had her hand raised as well.

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So I want to take her question.

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All right, so something weird just happened with my screen.

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It always happens.

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Am I frozen for anybody right now?

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Everybody see me?

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You were for just a second, but you're good now.

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OK, does that happen every week?

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So weird.

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OK, let me take a drink of water.

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I can just tell my mouth is getting dry.

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OK, awesome.

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All right, Heavenly Father, thank you.

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Thank you for this moment.

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Lord, I just ask us just to sit in your presence.

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Sit in just your peace right now, Lord.

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Just thank you for this moment right here.

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Lord, I ask that every woman on this call

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and listening in replay, just breathe in and just

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feel your peace and your joy and your love and your presence.

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That every woman feel you surrounding them,

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that you're with us.

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We invite you into this space with us, Lord.

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Lord, I just ask that you minister to our hearts, Lord.

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That for anybody that's on this call

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or listening to replay, that any area of discouragement, Lord,

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that I just ask that you breathe hope and encouragement

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into those areas.

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Break through in those areas of discouragement, Lord.

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Lord, I ask that you just speak to those places in our hearts

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where the enemy has lied and deceived us,

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that the enemy is disguised and made

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us believe that his lies are actually your truth,

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when in fact it's not.

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Lord, help us to hear your truth clear, loud and clear,

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crystal clear, Lord.

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Help us to filter out what your word says,

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so we can hear your truth, feel your love,

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trust your love story that you've written for us.

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Block out any weapon that the enemy wants to form against us

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because your word says that it won't prosper.

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We break off any of those weapons

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that they won't prosper.

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We come into agreement.

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That you love us, you're for us, nothing shall be against us.

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Allow us to partner with your truth and your word,

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that we trust every step that you take us through,

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even in those moments where it may feel hard,

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but Lord, it doesn't have to be easy

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because we know that it's worth it,

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that even in those painful moments,

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that's part of the healing process,

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that those promises that you give us come with the process,

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but that it's not for our destruction, Lord,

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but that it's for our good.

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healing for us and that through that healing brings great testimony

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and glory for your kingdom, Lord. It brings honor

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and that it will release so much for for others and bring people closer to

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you, Lord. Lord, I just thank you for this time

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together and speak to our hearts, Lord.

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We ask this in Jesus name, amen.

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All right, ladies. Okay, I got two hands up

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and I know there's probably more, so I definitely want you ladies, if you

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have questions, put your hands up. I got HK. HK, I know you had your hand

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up last week and I can't remember if we got to you,

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so if you can and you remember what you were going to share last week or if you

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didn't get to and you remember, I definitely want to get to you this

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week, but don't let me forget you, okay? Don't let me leave you out,

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okay? All right, Kathleen, I'm gonna let you go and then Kim

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and then I see some people in the chat had some stuff, so I'm gonna read that as

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well. All right, Kathleen, how are you?

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Kathleen with the beautiful hair. I love her hair.

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Gorgeous. Hi, I just wanted to share,

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I had a like an epiphany over the weekend

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and because this whole online situation,

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I know that the other coach, Ebony, she doesn't like,

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like she, I think she corrected me when I used a certain word,

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but it's really true, like it's gross. It's just,

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the men are just, like it, you know,

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anyway, but I'm going through the process, you know,

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trying to maintain it's a yes until it's a no

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and okay, I'm using this as a, as just an exercise. It's just a social

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experiment, right? I'm just, you know, going through the

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process, but what I realized in when I would have

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been chatting with these men and having a few phone

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conversations that the pleaser in me comes out.

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Okay. And I, you know, because I was in a

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abusive marriage, you know, so that pleaser,

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so that's really easy for me to like default.

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Yeah. And so. I can relate to that. That was interesting. I'm like, oh, this is

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what we're doing. We're getting, we're dealing with this. We're,

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we're getting this out of our system so that when we meet

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the, the right person, whether it be on the platforms or

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in the wild, I won't be in a, in a posture of

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pleasing, that I won't forget who I am. So that was my, so I,

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I guess just as an encouragement, it, it does work like because that stuff

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starts, like you said, in your opening, like

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it just starts creeping up and you're going,

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what was that? And okay, let's tuck that in and deal with it.

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So, so thank you for that. Good. Yeah. I,

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I do have a, an in-person date

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on Thursday lunch.

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What's interesting is that my, just another interesting,

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anyway, so my divorce was final five years ago

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and it was stamped by the court on 9-10, September 10th.

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Okay. And then, so what's interesting is that I feel like the Lord told me,

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okay, five years, Kathleen, just five years and then,

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you know, heal, do your thing and then I'll,

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that's what I feel like I heard. So the day that I'm meeting this man, I'm not

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he's the guy, but I'm, but I feel like maybe it's a season of me not

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being hidden anymore, but the date is 10-9.

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So I, I don't know. It's just, it's just interesting.

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It's, I love that. Okay. Yeah. Well, and when you,

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like the number five for me and like my understanding of it, it means

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something if that like, and I love how you said that, just

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you're not being hidden anymore. Like, that's good. Like, I just

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love those things that you're sharing. And I feel Holy Spirit

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on a lot of that. And I love how you're sharing this process with

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us and that you're learning that yes, that you're trusting the

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process and that you're being real and coming to us with that

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like I love how you're being vulnerable with it. You're

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honest, you're being raw and real with us. You're sharing

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exactly what's what you're experiencing. Okay, because I

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relate to it so much. Like, girl, I get it. The online

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stuff. I think a lot of us women that are here on this call right

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now and we'll be watching and replay. We get it. I think a lot

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of I mean, I see a lot of hot heads nodding. The online

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dating is not the most ideal thing that we all just love to

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do. Right? We just don't. Okay. But unfortunately, that's kind

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of the the time and the season and the reality that we're all

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in. And so we're just having to kind of take it for what it is.

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And just allow God to just be like, okay, God, if you want me

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to do this, I'm going to roll with it. And I'm going to glean

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from it, whatever I can and trust that you're just going to

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make the best out of this whole situation. And yes, some of

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these guys can be gross. They can be gross, not online, even

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believe it or not, you're going to come in contact with men that

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you don't meet online that are gross. Like, it's, it's not just

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men that you meet online, ladies, it's just the society

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that we live in. Like, I hate to, I hate to say it. It's just,

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we live in a cursed world. Like, it is right. We live in a broken

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world. Okay. And believe it or not, there are good men out

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there, whether we meet them in real life in the wild, or we

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meet them online. I was one of those people, I did not want to

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do the whole online dating thing. But I was like, you know

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what, I just need to get out and meet people. I just need to

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allow God to prepare my heart. And if that meant I had to get

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online, just to start putting in practice of God could start

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revealing areas of my heart that needed to be healed. Then that

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was what he was going to do. I had to trust it. And that's what

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Kathleen is sharing, y'all. She doesn't want to do it. But she's

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trusting the process. And I get it. I totally get it. And look,

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she's like, she's, she's learning something. She's like,

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wow. You know, I'm seeing how I'm a people pleaser. God's

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using this circumstance of, you know, something that she might

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not want to do. But she's trusting the process. And God's

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grow and heal. So she can step out of these people pleasing

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tendencies, and become more of her authentic self. And believe

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it or not, Kathleen, what you're going to start seeing is

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eventually because this is what happened to me. And it happens

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so to so many women in this community. I've seen it when I

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was in the program. And I've seen it as a coach and the women

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that I've coached, you're going to get to a point where those

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gross men are no longer going to offend you. And you're going

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to just literally be able to move along. It's such a cool

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thing, because you're just be like, okay, move along, lesson

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block. Like, you're just going to recognize like, I don't even

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need to pick that up. I don't even need to please that I can

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put up a boundary and it's done. And it will it will feel

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so like, the freedom in that is so amazing. Like when I started

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recognizing when I was connecting with these men

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online, that were just not healthy, instead of me being

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disgusting, like disgusted by them and judgmental and like,

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trust me, there would be times I'd be like, what is it there

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and like critique them? Because we do. All right, we do. I just

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learned to just honestly, just hold some compassion for them

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and just bless them and be on their way. My heart shifted for

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them and I just didn't have to pick it up anymore. And let me

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tell you how free that felt.

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Like my heart posture shifted

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and that showed me how healed I became.

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That I truly had a different heart posture,

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one that was more Christ-like.

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And again, I'm not saying that, you know,

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I'm any better or worse than they are,

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you know, any of that or, you know,

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that I don't have moments of weaknesses

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where I still can pass judgment on people.

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I still have areas that I can work on.

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But I would recognize like, wow,

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I had certain ties to that.

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Does that make sense?

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Like, you'll start seeing like,

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oh, wow, I was carrying certain things.

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Because oftentimes when things upset us or disgust us,

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it's typically coming from a deep rooted area.

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Like I still had wounds from how I was treated

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in past relationships

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because I was carrying how men had treated me in the past.

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So when it was modeled in other men,

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I was still so offended because I was carrying,

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like I was carrying that it felt like

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it was a weight from me.

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Does that make sense?

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Like how they treated me, like I was an object.

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I was believing that I was an object still

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and it would make me so mad.

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And then I would just be so critical of them.

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But it wasn't really about that.

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It was because I felt like I was still living

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as though I was an object

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and not living in my true authentic self

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and not believing that I really was never an object

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because I wasn't seeing myself through God's eyes.

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I was still carrying and holding the offense

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of what someone else did to me

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and not releasing that person of that person in the past.

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And I was carrying it.

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And so as you work through this process,

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and I can't sit here and say that that doesn't still happen.

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Y'all I'm in, I'm married now for over two,

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like it's been a little over two years

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and I still sometimes find myself

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responding in some triggers.

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Like I just recognized recently

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when my kids don't always listen to me,

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I get triggered because of past relationships I've been in

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where I wasn't being listened to

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and I wasn't being heard

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where I didn't feel like I was worth anything.

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And I'm like, oh my goodness, I still have hard work to do.

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Y'all I'm married, I have kids and I still have hard work.

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So I love Kathleen that you are embracing this program

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that you're learning, you're trusting the process

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and that you're just, you're working it

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00:38:23.800 --> 00:38:25.940
and you're learning like,

451
00:38:26.340 --> 00:38:28.520
hey, I've got some people pleasing things

452
00:38:28.520 --> 00:38:30.220
that I'm gonna start getting rid of.

453
00:38:30.580 --> 00:38:32.100
And when my husband comes,

454
00:38:32.560 --> 00:38:33.520
this isn't gonna be something

455
00:38:33.520 --> 00:38:35.180
that I'm gonna have to worry about anymore

456
00:38:35.340 --> 00:38:38.980
because I'm releasing it and I'm recognizing it

457
00:38:38.980 --> 00:38:42.460
so that I'm not gonna be a people pleaser

458
00:38:42.460 --> 00:38:44.440
and I'm not gonna be attracted to

459
00:38:45.000 --> 00:38:48.240
or I'm not gonna attract the same type of person.

460
00:38:51.800 --> 00:38:55.220
And that in itself is such growth.

461
00:38:55.860 --> 00:38:59.260
So I'm celebrating that with you and I'm excited for you

462
00:38:59.260 --> 00:39:02.500
and I'm excited to hear about your in-person date.

463
00:39:02.760 --> 00:39:06.140
So keep us posted and just continue to just trust

464
00:39:06.140 --> 00:39:09.500
that God's got you on this journey to grow and heal.

465
00:39:10.240 --> 00:39:11.840
And again, things are gonna surface

466
00:39:11.840 --> 00:39:14.160
in this whole season of dating.

467
00:39:16.380 --> 00:39:17.620
I can't wait.

468
00:39:19.160 --> 00:39:20.500
Just keep showing up.

469
00:39:22.580 --> 00:39:24.400
All right, thank you so much.

470
00:39:24.860 --> 00:39:26.140
All right, Kim, what's your update?

471
00:39:26.420 --> 00:39:27.400
What you got for us?

472
00:39:30.340 --> 00:39:33.380
Well, I definitely relate to Kathleen

473
00:39:33.700 --> 00:39:36.740
in the online dating experience.

474
00:39:36.900 --> 00:39:40.640
And I was just telling a friend in frustration

475
00:39:40.640 --> 00:39:41.980
the other day, it's like,

476
00:39:42.020 --> 00:39:45.680
I just feel like I'm throwing pearls before swine.

477
00:39:47.980 --> 00:39:49.700
You know, it's like I'm putting God,

478
00:39:49.780 --> 00:39:55.340
it's like God has kept me for 26 years without dating

479
00:39:55.360 --> 00:39:57.800
because he told me it was gonna be a long wait.

480
00:39:58.740 --> 00:39:59.980
And he asked me to go on a date with him and I was like,

481
00:39:59.980 --> 00:39:59.980


482
00:39:59.980 --> 00:39:59.980


483
00:39:59.980 --> 00:39:59.980


484
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.680
me if I was willing to wait. And I said, yes. And I feel like

485
00:40:04.680 --> 00:40:09.100
now that, you know, that that treasure is just being thrown

486
00:40:09.100 --> 00:40:16.680
out there for, for people to, for anyone to respond to, but I

487
00:40:16.680 --> 00:40:19.740
feel like, you know, God has that one person for me. And I

488
00:40:19.740 --> 00:40:24.080
know that there's people that don't agree with that. But I

489
00:40:24.080 --> 00:40:29.020
have, I just really feel in my heart that God has confirmed

490
00:40:29.020 --> 00:40:32.980
that he will bring the right person to me. And I will, I

491
00:40:32.980 --> 00:40:36.380
will know without a doubt and that I won't. I mean, I would

492
00:40:36.380 --> 00:40:39.700
like to say I don't have to do all the hard, hard work, but

493
00:40:39.760 --> 00:40:44.880
I'm, I'm willing to do that. But I honestly don't believe it's

494
00:40:44.880 --> 00:40:49.820
going to be extremely hard for me. The hard part has been

495
00:40:49.820 --> 00:40:57.720
waiting 26 years. And, and I, and I just and I know it's

496
00:40:57.720 --> 00:41:02.360
coming, but I'm, so my, my real question really had to do with

497
00:41:02.260 --> 00:41:08.940
the, on the resources page that it has, it mentions the, the

498
00:41:09.460 --> 00:41:14.520
ARC dating app. And it mentions that there is a special

499
00:41:14.600 --> 00:41:19.920
opportunity for people in the LYS group to take part in the

500
00:41:19.520 --> 00:41:24.900
ARC. And, but then, but then it, when you click on the link, it

501
00:41:24.900 --> 00:41:28.940
just takes you to the sign up for the ARC page, just as it is

502
00:41:28.940 --> 00:41:33.700
any other app. And it doesn't really identify you as any being

503
00:41:33.700 --> 00:41:39.920
in the group. And so I'm a little bit puzzled as to that.

504
00:41:40.000 --> 00:41:43.160
And I did go on. The one thing I do like about the ARC, because

505
00:41:43.160 --> 00:41:47.900
I, I got off the other, I got a bad taste again, every time I've

506
00:41:48.460 --> 00:41:52.180
gone there. Well, it's actually been 20 years that I was

507
00:41:52.180 --> 00:41:57.060
released that God said, you know, now, but so I've just

508
00:41:57.060 --> 00:42:00.700
sort of played with it off and on. And I have nothing but

509
00:42:01.300 --> 00:42:06.920
scammers and bad experiences. So, so far on, I'm just like,

510
00:42:07.260 --> 00:42:13.100
totally, totally turned off on ARC. No, no, just in other in

511
00:42:13.100 --> 00:42:15.920
general, other apps. And one of the things, yeah, one of the

512
00:42:15.920 --> 00:42:20.880
things I like about the ARC is that it and, you know, as far as

513
00:42:21.580 --> 00:42:27.760
I don't know how, I don't know how it would how someone could

514
00:42:28.520 --> 00:42:31.180
fake it, but I'm sure people have figured out a way to do it.

515
00:42:31.180 --> 00:42:35.380
But you actually have to verify yourself. Yeah, you have to take

516
00:42:35.380 --> 00:42:38.780
a picture of you holding a Bible. And then it compares you

517
00:42:38.780 --> 00:42:42.440
with your pictures you presented. And so I thought,

518
00:42:42.620 --> 00:42:46.320
well, at least at least that's something, you know, because the

519
00:42:46.320 --> 00:42:49.400
people that have been scammed, trying to scam me are totally

520
00:42:49.400 --> 00:42:53.600
not the pictures they post. I know, it's really obvious. And

521
00:42:53.600 --> 00:42:56.840
I'm just it's so distasteful that they even waste my time. So

522
00:42:56.840 --> 00:43:01.360
yeah, I know. My time is precious. I'm 66 years old. So

523
00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:08.020
I mean, every year is precious to me. And anyway, so my

524
00:43:08.020 --> 00:43:11.780
question was, you know, what, what, that's on the resource

525
00:43:11.780 --> 00:43:15.520
page, but I'm not really sure why it's on there.

526
00:43:15.820 --> 00:43:18.980
The ARC is something again, and then I'm going to go follow up

527
00:43:18.980 --> 00:43:22.500
with the team again, because that was something ARC is a

528
00:43:22.500 --> 00:43:27.700
brand new dating app. And so it was kind of a partnership, where

529
00:43:28.480 --> 00:43:40.940
it was, my understanding is, we would have kind of more of a

530
00:43:41.040 --> 00:43:46.660
inside of, like events that there would be like, so if there

531
00:43:46.660 --> 00:43:50.780
were singles events, we would have access to singles events.

532
00:43:51.320 --> 00:43:53.960
But it wasn't necessarily something like we would have

533
00:43:54.100 --> 00:43:58.220
anything extra with it, but just that we would have access to the

534
00:43:58.220 --> 00:44:00.660
singles events that would be in the area.

535
00:44:01.800 --> 00:44:04.780
No, it implies that you have a set that you get a special

536
00:44:05.300 --> 00:44:11.380
you do, but it's not like, again, like a regular, let me

537
00:44:11.380 --> 00:44:14.860
follow up with the team, just so I'm giving clear information.

538
00:44:15.720 --> 00:44:20.100
Because what I when we when we first launched that whole

539
00:44:24.060 --> 00:44:27.720
collaboration, it seemed because this was several months ago,

540
00:44:27.720 --> 00:44:34.040
that there was not very many people in the app. So it was

541
00:44:34.040 --> 00:44:42.140
kind of a misunderstanding, where there wasn't very many

542
00:44:42.140 --> 00:44:46.800
members. And so depending on where you lived, there was a lot

543
00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:48.960
of women that were struggling with meeting people, because

544
00:44:48.960 --> 00:44:50.820
there wasn't very many people on the app.

545
00:44:51.740 --> 00:44:55.060
Oh, I can totally verify that. There's no one probably within

546
00:44:55.060 --> 00:44:56.460
100 miles of me.

547
00:44:56.500 --> 00:44:59.980
Okay. So yeah, and you're in where

548
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.660
California. I'm in the Central Valley of California. Okay,

549
00:45:04.660 --> 00:45:09.040
Central California. So yeah, there. And I and I checked many,

550
00:45:09.440 --> 00:45:13.400
many months ago, I just happened to, I happened to find it and

551
00:45:13.400 --> 00:45:16.240
checked. And at that time, I realized there was wasn't that

552
00:45:16.240 --> 00:45:22.880
many people and I actually contacted the the the people

553
00:45:22.880 --> 00:45:27.460
that created the app. And they did say we're new, we're working

554
00:45:27.460 --> 00:45:30.740
on this, we'd love any feedback. And I gave them some feedback.

555
00:45:31.080 --> 00:45:34.640
Yeah, how and that's the thing is like, nowadays, you have so

556
00:45:34.640 --> 00:45:38.920
many people that are trying to like, make dating apps because

557
00:45:38.920 --> 00:45:42.920
they want to be the new thing. And again, it's, it's all about

558
00:45:43.080 --> 00:45:47.760
how your dating pool, how many people are in the app, right?

559
00:45:48.820 --> 00:45:51.720
Like, you can't meet people unless there's people in your

560
00:45:51.720 --> 00:45:55.600
app. So it's about attracting enough people. And so that's

561
00:45:55.600 --> 00:45:58.440
where I'm trying to get more of an understanding, which again,

562
00:45:58.540 --> 00:46:02.560
I'll contact the people on the team that were probably more

563
00:46:02.900 --> 00:46:07.580
part of collaborating that and see if what information I can

564
00:46:07.700 --> 00:46:13.140
find. Do I have a call with you on Monday, right? Yes. Yeah.

565
00:46:13.280 --> 00:46:16.420
Let me see what I can gather before we have that call on

566
00:46:16.420 --> 00:46:18.200
Monday. Because I know that was one of your questions.

567
00:46:19.720 --> 00:46:23.080
Yeah. And so that's just Yeah, that was just a real quick one

568
00:46:23.080 --> 00:46:25.320
that I just wanted to see if there was something missing,

569
00:46:25.720 --> 00:46:28.640
because it says you have to come in. If you already were a

570
00:46:28.640 --> 00:46:31.660
member, you'd have to come in under a different email in order

571
00:46:31.660 --> 00:46:35.540
to take advantage of the last Yeah, and that's, you have to

572
00:46:35.540 --> 00:46:39.400
click on that link in the resource tab and basically like

573
00:46:39.400 --> 00:46:43.760
sign up through that link. And some people were already in the

574
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:49.220
app. And so they had to activate their old profile and then sign

575
00:46:49.220 --> 00:46:54.760
up. Yeah. So but my understanding, it was more or

576
00:46:54.760 --> 00:47:02.940
less for the special part was getting access to events in the

577
00:47:02.940 --> 00:47:11.580
area. But again, if you weren't in a high volume area, like that

578
00:47:11.580 --> 00:47:15.020
was kind of so I'm going to try to find out some more

579
00:47:15.360 --> 00:47:20.660
information about that, to help you out with that. And then I

580
00:47:20.660 --> 00:47:24.820
can report back to the ladies here, because I think everyone

581
00:47:24.820 --> 00:47:30.000
would probably want to know that. And then I would like to

582
00:47:30.600 --> 00:47:35.820
get feedback for all you ladies, especially if you are

583
00:47:35.820 --> 00:47:40.040
interested in doing online dating. Let's go in the app. And

584
00:47:40.040 --> 00:47:45.000
I think I had that for your activation last week. For those

585
00:47:45.000 --> 00:47:48.400
of you that you know, feel peace about jumping out and

586
00:47:48.400 --> 00:47:55.880
doing online dating. Let's start sharing what, what apps have you

587
00:47:55.880 --> 00:47:58.740
had success with? I don't want to hear about the negative

588
00:47:58.740 --> 00:48:01.920
stuff. Okay, let's let's not talk about the negative. Okay,

589
00:48:01.980 --> 00:48:05.980
let's just share the positive. All right, let's get I know

590
00:48:05.980 --> 00:48:09.020
there's negative out there. Okay. And I'm not trying to

591
00:48:08.920 --> 00:48:13.760
like, I know that there's negative, but let's focus on the

592
00:48:13.990 --> 00:48:17.650
positive. Okay, let's be helpful. And let's, let's

593
00:48:17.650 --> 00:48:22.710
redirect our focus on the positive. Okay. Because the

594
00:48:22.710 --> 00:48:28.010
truth is, there is positive out there. And just because it's

595
00:48:28.010 --> 00:48:34.710
negative in let's so for example, let's take upward.

596
00:48:35.490 --> 00:48:37.630
Okay, there's nothing bad. Like I'm not trying to knock on

597
00:48:37.290 --> 00:48:43.690
upward. Okay. I used to live in Sarasota. Okay. Upward, let's

598
00:48:43.690 --> 00:48:47.550
say upward in Sarasota was phenomenal. Lots of great

599
00:48:47.550 --> 00:48:54.390
success. Okay. But then maybe upward and Atlanta was not so

600
00:48:54.390 --> 00:48:57.750
great that the quality men and upward in Atlanta wasn't so

601
00:48:57.750 --> 00:49:01.190
great. But the quality of men in upward in Sarasota was

602
00:49:00.950 --> 00:49:07.990
phenomenal. It just depends on the demographic in the area. So

603
00:49:07.990 --> 00:49:12.790
what works for one woman in one area and one demographic may not

604
00:49:12.790 --> 00:49:17.290
work for someone else. So when you ladies are sharing your

605
00:49:17.290 --> 00:49:23.270
positive feedback, share where you live. What's your age

606
00:49:23.270 --> 00:49:34.790
demographic is? Okay, those are key components. Okay. It also is

607
00:49:34.790 --> 00:49:41.170
important is, are you willing to date long distance or stay

608
00:49:41.170 --> 00:49:47.650
local? I when I was dating online dating, I wanted to stay

609
00:49:47.650 --> 00:49:53.030
local. So my experience online dating was not as successful

610
00:49:53.050 --> 00:49:58.050
because I had limited people to choose from.

611
00:49:59.670 --> 00:49:59.970
Sarasota

612
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.280
For soda is, and I was in my late 30s, okay?

613
00:50:04.280 --> 00:50:09.620
Most people in that area were much older.

614
00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:15.180
People that were in their late 30s, early 40s,

615
00:50:15.560 --> 00:50:17.240
were married with kids already.

616
00:50:18.220 --> 00:50:21.240
Or if they were in their 30s and single,

617
00:50:21.640 --> 00:50:22.700
they didn't have kids,

618
00:50:22.820 --> 00:50:25.280
nor did they probably wanna even entertain kids.

619
00:50:25.300 --> 00:50:26.220
And I had a child.

620
00:50:27.480 --> 00:50:31.240
So I really had like a smaller pool to choose from.

621
00:50:32.220 --> 00:50:34.840
Because again, I was like, no, I don't wanna move.

622
00:50:36.020 --> 00:50:38.960
I had to really, again, Jackie was like,

623
00:50:39.120 --> 00:50:40.540
be open to long distance.

624
00:50:40.980 --> 00:50:42.260
I'm like, I do too.

625
00:50:43.140 --> 00:50:45.320
That was against one of my non-negotiables

626
00:50:45.720 --> 00:50:48.600
that God really had to prepare my heart.

627
00:50:48.800 --> 00:50:51.060
And that was a supernatural surrender.

628
00:50:51.240 --> 00:50:52.500
That was a releasing of the pen.

629
00:50:52.620 --> 00:50:53.920
That when I did,

630
00:50:53.920 --> 00:50:58.780
that's when kind of God really opened the door for me.

631
00:50:58.920 --> 00:51:00.020
And that's when I met my husband.

632
00:51:00.360 --> 00:51:02.220
Okay, I'm not saying that like,

633
00:51:03.180 --> 00:51:05.420
if you guys just let go of all your,

634
00:51:05.540 --> 00:51:09.380
you know, again, things supernaturally can happen, okay?

635
00:51:09.900 --> 00:51:12.480
Again, my story is not gonna be everybody else's story.

636
00:51:12.900 --> 00:51:13.360
Okay?

637
00:51:13.540 --> 00:51:15.360
I'm just giving you my personal example.

638
00:51:16.580 --> 00:51:22.580
So again, like those type of things do matter

639
00:51:23.340 --> 00:51:27.380
when we're looking at our online dating scenarios.

640
00:51:27.860 --> 00:51:29.720
So just keep that in mind.

641
00:51:30.840 --> 00:51:35.140
So because of where I lived and my age

642
00:51:35.140 --> 00:51:37.100
and the fact that I was a single mom

643
00:51:37.220 --> 00:51:41.180
really, really made online dating difficult for me.

644
00:51:42.060 --> 00:51:46.720
So I had to be open to trying different dating sites.

645
00:51:48.300 --> 00:51:50.720
And so what worked for me

646
00:51:50.720 --> 00:51:52.280
maybe didn't work for somebody else.

647
00:51:52.280 --> 00:51:54.760
And what worked for somebody else didn't always work for me.

648
00:51:55.200 --> 00:51:56.920
And so that's why we do encourage you,

649
00:51:57.540 --> 00:51:59.000
try a couple different ones.

650
00:52:00.580 --> 00:52:02.380
Try some that are free.

651
00:52:04.240 --> 00:52:05.920
Maybe try a paid one.

652
00:52:07.560 --> 00:52:10.260
Be open to trying a paid one for a month or two.

653
00:52:11.140 --> 00:52:13.020
And if you're not getting any traction,

654
00:52:13.200 --> 00:52:15.060
then switch after a month or two.

655
00:52:16.940 --> 00:52:20.080
My favorite, honestly, was Facebook dating.

656
00:52:23.440 --> 00:52:26.460
Like, I feel like oftentimes

657
00:52:26.460 --> 00:52:28.240
a lot of people have success with that.

658
00:52:28.660 --> 00:52:30.340
Doesn't mean that we're not gonna have scammers.

659
00:52:31.080 --> 00:52:34.960
If you're having scammers, vet them through us.

660
00:52:37.220 --> 00:52:40.040
Screenshot stuff, screenshot your conversations,

661
00:52:41.200 --> 00:52:43.180
show us what's going on.

662
00:52:43.560 --> 00:52:48.040
Me, Ebony, Bethany, we have no problem scoping them out.

663
00:52:50.000 --> 00:52:52.160
Jackie's really good at sniffing them out too.

664
00:52:53.400 --> 00:52:54.920
Well, you have to-

665
00:52:55.240 --> 00:52:55.940
What's that, Kim?

666
00:52:56.020 --> 00:52:58.840
All you have to do is ask him to have a video call

667
00:52:58.840 --> 00:53:00.460
and then you don't hear back from him.

668
00:53:00.600 --> 00:53:02.640
I mean, that's a real quick way to screen him.

669
00:53:02.640 --> 00:53:03.440
And that's why we, honestly,

670
00:53:03.540 --> 00:53:05.600
that's why we encourage video calls as well.

671
00:53:05.600 --> 00:53:07.460
Within that first week, a couple exchanges.

672
00:53:08.620 --> 00:53:10.240
Hey, wanna get on a video call?

673
00:53:11.480 --> 00:53:13.140
Oh yeah, that works.

674
00:53:13.880 --> 00:53:15.760
You'll get holy ghosted so quick.

675
00:53:16.680 --> 00:53:19.580
If they start asking really personal questions

676
00:53:20.320 --> 00:53:22.280
and then they wanna start talking about money,

677
00:53:24.720 --> 00:53:25.880
like, sure signs.

678
00:53:27.060 --> 00:53:28.240
Again, bring them in.

679
00:53:28.360 --> 00:53:30.520
And if you don't know how to respond to these things, ladies,

680
00:53:31.780 --> 00:53:33.640
post them in the chat, post them in our app.

681
00:53:34.080 --> 00:53:36.800
I will give you good, good, good feedback

682
00:53:36.800 --> 00:53:37.940
on what to ask him.

683
00:53:38.040 --> 00:53:40.180
And we will uncover real quick

684
00:53:40.180 --> 00:53:41.720
whether or not they're a scammer or not.

685
00:53:42.080 --> 00:53:43.940
And we don't have to get super offended by it.

686
00:53:45.760 --> 00:53:47.880
You will be God protected, God defended.

687
00:53:49.200 --> 00:53:52.000
You do not have to get offended by it.

688
00:53:52.600 --> 00:53:57.440
Unfortunately, there are people out there that are scammers.

689
00:53:57.880 --> 00:53:59.740
And it's not just in the dating world, y'all.

690
00:54:00.980 --> 00:54:03.240
My husband works in insurance, he works in Medicare.

691
00:54:04.000 --> 00:54:06.920
And you'll be surprised how many people

692
00:54:07.260 --> 00:54:10.520
that get Medicare get scammed all the time

693
00:54:10.520 --> 00:54:13.540
by people that are trying to put them

694
00:54:13.540 --> 00:54:15.800
in horrible insurance policies,

695
00:54:15.980 --> 00:54:18.580
take their money, life insurance, I mean, everything.

696
00:54:19.060 --> 00:54:20.100
It is so heartbreaking.

697
00:54:20.520 --> 00:54:22.360
Like when my husband works from home

698
00:54:22.940 --> 00:54:27.580
and he's on these call with 70, 80 year old folks,

699
00:54:28.560 --> 00:54:30.940
and hearing some of these heartbreaking stories,

700
00:54:32.080 --> 00:54:34.100
like people calling them

701
00:54:34.360 --> 00:54:37.640
and scamming them out of thousands of dollars.

702
00:54:38.940 --> 00:54:41.400
Like, it's a thing and it's disgusting.

703
00:54:41.400 --> 00:54:45.880
Like we live in a cursed world.

704
00:54:47.560 --> 00:54:50.200
We have to just learn how we protect ourselves.

705
00:54:50.940 --> 00:54:52.720
So when these things happen,

706
00:54:53.240 --> 00:54:55.420
do not be afraid to share it with us in community.

707
00:54:56.360 --> 00:54:59.940
We are here to help those blind spots for you.

708
00:55:02.040 --> 00:55:06.440
and don't feel ashamed if you got misled.

709
00:55:07.440 --> 00:55:10.480
Y'all, like I've been scammed before,

710
00:55:10.480 --> 00:55:13.740
like because somebody will catch me off guard

711
00:55:13.740 --> 00:55:15.720
on a phone call that I'll pick up

712
00:55:17.280 --> 00:55:19.160
and I'll be busy with something else.

713
00:55:19.160 --> 00:55:22.720
Like one of my kids is like acting a fool

714
00:55:23.820 --> 00:55:27.360
and someone says something that seems alarming

715
00:55:27.360 --> 00:55:31.840
and I'm just in my head and I'll just respond to something

716
00:55:31.840 --> 00:55:35.200
and next thing you know, I'm like, what did I just do?

717
00:55:36.460 --> 00:55:37.420
And next thing you know,

718
00:55:37.480 --> 00:55:40.400
I'm giving information that was like personal

719
00:55:41.480 --> 00:55:44.140
and before you know it, you're like, oh my gosh,

720
00:55:44.220 --> 00:55:45.480
what did I just get myself into?

721
00:55:46.480 --> 00:55:50.220
I've done it before y'all, like it happens.

722
00:55:50.320 --> 00:55:52.500
Like we don't have to be, we don't have to be ashamed,

723
00:55:52.620 --> 00:55:54.080
like we don't have to be ashamed of it.

724
00:55:54.860 --> 00:56:00.400
These people are literally con artists

725
00:56:00.400 --> 00:56:02.280
and they do it for a living.

726
00:56:03.700 --> 00:56:07.420
So we don't like, don't beat yourself up

727
00:56:07.420 --> 00:56:09.540
if you put yourself in that situation

728
00:56:09.780 --> 00:56:12.620
but if you're willing to come here and say,

729
00:56:12.960 --> 00:56:16.840
hey, I'm not sure if this is the situation,

730
00:56:17.540 --> 00:56:18.700
can you help me out?

731
00:56:19.040 --> 00:56:20.160
We're here to help you.

732
00:56:21.640 --> 00:56:24.780
I feel like though that they stole my time.

733
00:56:25.780 --> 00:56:26.800
I get it.

734
00:56:27.140 --> 00:56:30.360
You know, it's not that I'm not offended,

735
00:56:30.480 --> 00:56:32.480
I'm not embarrassed, they stole my time

736
00:56:34.120 --> 00:56:36.220
and that's how I feel about it.

737
00:56:36.620 --> 00:56:40.760
So yeah, anyway, I do wanna share though

738
00:56:41.800 --> 00:56:45.540
that as far as what I did this last week,

739
00:56:45.620 --> 00:56:47.940
I had said that I was gonna hang out at Lowe's

740
00:56:47.940 --> 00:56:49.780
and wander the aisles.

741
00:56:50.620 --> 00:56:54.040
So I did and you know, smiled at a lot of people

742
00:56:54.040 --> 00:56:55.420
and said hello to a lot of people

743
00:56:55.420 --> 00:56:57.460
and actually it was fun, I had a great time

744
00:56:57.460 --> 00:57:00.140
because I absolutely like, I love Lowe's anyway.

745
00:57:00.580 --> 00:57:02.340
So it's one of my favorite places

746
00:57:02.340 --> 00:57:04.940
so I can feel comfortable there

747
00:57:05.080 --> 00:57:06.940
but I did do something that was sort of

748
00:57:06.940 --> 00:57:08.780
out of my comfort zone and that is it,

749
00:57:08.800 --> 00:57:12.880
the women's Bible study that I attend this last week,

750
00:57:13.200 --> 00:57:16.880
there's about 35 women there is when the Bible study ended,

751
00:57:16.880 --> 00:57:20.580
I raised my hand and I said, I have an assignment

752
00:57:22.440 --> 00:57:24.740
and I'm fulfilling an assignment

753
00:57:24.740 --> 00:57:28.360
so you know, I'd like to share and I did

754
00:57:28.440 --> 00:57:30.700
and the whole room were list,

755
00:57:30.820 --> 00:57:33.120
all the ladies were just like, yay!

756
00:57:33.140 --> 00:57:35.780
They were all excited and happy and encouraging

757
00:57:35.780 --> 00:57:38.720
and I did not expect that response

758
00:57:38.720 --> 00:57:41.620
and so it really was great, it was fun

759
00:57:42.120 --> 00:57:46.120
and I felt like I did that I really accomplished

760
00:57:46.880 --> 00:57:49.020
a lot just by sharing that.

761
00:57:49.440 --> 00:57:53.000
So don't forget the people that you worship with,

762
00:57:53.040 --> 00:57:56.140
you know, we sometimes don't share things

763
00:57:56.140 --> 00:57:58.060
with the people that might matter the most

764
00:57:58.480 --> 00:58:01.340
because they're on the front lines with us, you know?

765
00:58:01.960 --> 00:58:03.220
Absolutely, like in community,

766
00:58:03.620 --> 00:58:06.580
like this doesn't have to just be online stuff ladies,

767
00:58:07.660 --> 00:58:10.460
like connect with the people that you do life with.

768
00:58:11.460 --> 00:58:12.020
Yeah.

769
00:58:12.480 --> 00:58:14.820
Absolutely, like let them pray with you,

770
00:58:14.820 --> 00:58:18.640
share you on, you know, go do things with them,

771
00:58:18.820 --> 00:58:24.420
get out, meet people, like so many opportunities for sure.

772
00:58:25.140 --> 00:58:26.840
Thank you so much for sharing Kim.

773
00:58:28.200 --> 00:58:33.440
For next Monday, I wrote down the stealing time.

774
00:58:35.380 --> 00:58:36.640
Let's pray on that this week.

775
00:58:36.860 --> 00:58:38.640
I'm gonna pray on it too to see what,

776
00:58:38.760 --> 00:58:40.320
if there's something that Holy Spirit wants

777
00:58:40.840 --> 00:58:42.420
us to talk about on Monday.

778
00:58:43.200 --> 00:58:44.760
So pray on that some more

779
00:58:45.200 --> 00:58:47.640
and see what Holy Spirit wants to bring out

780
00:58:47.640 --> 00:58:50.240
and we can talk about that together on Monday.

781
00:58:50.520 --> 00:58:50.920
Sound good?

782
00:58:51.920 --> 00:58:53.520
I'm looking forward to it.

783
00:58:54.040 --> 00:58:55.440
Yes, sounds good, thank you.

784
00:58:55.860 --> 00:58:56.480
All right, you're welcome.

785
00:58:57.200 --> 00:58:58.340
All right, Kim and then Mackenzie

786
00:58:58.340 --> 00:58:59.640
and then I don't see any other hands

787
00:58:59.640 --> 00:59:01.560
and then I'll go through the chat again, okay?

788
00:59:03.520 --> 00:59:04.480
Hi everyone.

789
00:59:07.820 --> 00:59:10.160
So I was just gonna say to everybody,

790
00:59:10.380 --> 00:59:12.260
yeah, I've had pretty good luck on Facebook dating.

791
00:59:12.260 --> 00:59:16.420
I don't know, I've only met three people,

792
00:59:16.620 --> 00:59:17.520
I guess, from Facebook dating,

793
00:59:17.600 --> 00:59:20.100
but all of them are real people and they all, you know,

794
00:59:20.180 --> 00:59:22.220
I mean, it wasn't a bad experience.

795
00:59:22.460 --> 00:59:24.680
So anyway, I would give Facebook dating a try.

796
00:59:26.140 --> 00:59:27.540
But anyway, that's that.

797
00:59:27.700 --> 00:59:29.300
So I'm just giving an update.

798
00:59:29.560 --> 00:59:31.480
Actually, Kathleen asked about it.

799
00:59:32.200 --> 00:59:34.720
So I am still seeing the other gentlemen.

800
00:59:35.760 --> 00:59:38.520
I wanted to know too, I'm glad you raised your hand.

801
00:59:39.700 --> 00:59:42.280
Well, so we had a really good fifth date.

802
00:59:42.420 --> 00:59:44.240
Well, we had a fourth date and then we had a fifth date.

803
00:59:44.360 --> 00:59:46.220
So that all, everything's been going really well.

804
00:59:46.820 --> 00:59:49.820
But now I've been saying to the Lord like every day,

805
00:59:50.380 --> 00:59:51.900
like, okay, now look,

806
00:59:54.400 --> 00:59:57.380
God, I am getting ready to go into date six and seven,

807
00:59:57.580 --> 00:59:57.980
probably.

808
00:59:58.640 --> 00:59:59.400
And I said,

809
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.780
told you, you better tell me a loud, no, because what I don't want to have happen, like this

810
01:00:03.780 --> 01:00:10.120
is moving forward. And because he's older and because we're getting more attached, obviously,

811
01:00:10.760 --> 01:00:15.540
like I don't want to hurt anyone. And I don't want to, you know, I don't know. I just, I

812
01:00:15.540 --> 01:00:21.340
just said, you know, we're getting into the more serious place. I'm not serious, but like

813
01:00:21.420 --> 01:00:26.440
we're connecting. And so, yeah, now you're in those, like now you're into that later

814
01:00:26.440 --> 01:00:35.060
level Tuesday. Yes. Yeah. And now I'm getting nervous. I'm getting very, and I'm enjoying

815
01:00:35.200 --> 01:00:42.640
his company so much, like so much. I can't, he is the most kind. I mean, he's like I said,

816
01:00:42.660 --> 01:00:46.960
he's got all the fruits of spirit. And now my question is, when do I, I kind of feel

817
01:00:46.960 --> 01:00:52.500
like I need to dive into the faith thing a little bit more. And, and, and I don't know

818
01:00:52.500 --> 01:00:58.480
I kind of feel like I'd like to invite him to my church, but maybe that's not ready yet.

819
01:00:58.560 --> 01:01:04.220
I don't, I don't know. You've been on, you've been on a fourth and a fifth date. Yeah. Okay.

820
01:01:04.220 --> 01:01:09.720
So I have a sixth one. We have a sixth one scheduled this Thursday. Okay. And so how

821
01:01:09.720 --> 01:01:17.520
long has, have you guys been dating from first date? Started September, the very, very beginning

822
01:01:17.520 --> 01:01:23.520
of September, beginning of September. And then before the first initial date, like how

823
01:01:23.520 --> 01:01:30.080
long had you been talking before? How long have we been talking before our first date?

824
01:01:30.560 --> 01:01:37.100
Yeah. I mean, we connected on Facebook dating and he, I mean, he immediately said, I'd love

825
01:01:37.100 --> 01:01:42.160
to meet you. Okay. So, so we set up and I said, and then I said, well, I'm out of town,

826
01:01:42.240 --> 01:01:45.960
but when I get back, yes, I would, I would love to do that. And then we got together

827
01:01:45.960 --> 01:01:51.260
for a lunch date. So it's been at least probably what you'd say, five to six weeks that we've

828
01:01:51.260 --> 01:01:58.120
been seeing each other. Yeah. Yeah. Talking, connecting. Yeah. Five to six weeks. Yeah.

829
01:01:58.120 --> 01:02:01.760
It's already September and now we're at the beginning of October. Well, we're getting,

830
01:02:01.920 --> 01:02:04.980
yeah, we're in the first week. Yeah. And I would, you probably had like a week before.

831
01:02:05.000 --> 01:02:12.520
I mean, we were seeing each other like once a week maybe. And, and now, um, this last

832
01:02:12.520 --> 01:02:16.380
week, I think we saw, we saw each other one day during the week and then we did see each

833
01:02:16.380 --> 01:02:20.360
other Saturday. So it was twice. So when y'all are on dates and stuff and y'all are talking

834
01:02:20.360 --> 01:02:26.120
and getting to know each other, like, do you, um, find opportunities to kind of drop hints

835
01:02:26.120 --> 01:02:33.120
about your faith and like, I have, yes. I mean, I, I have, are there opportunities for

836
01:02:33.120 --> 01:02:42.560
you then to reference back to him? Like, so give me an example where you kind of dropped

837
01:02:42.560 --> 01:02:47.840
hints about your faith and let's see if we can kind of, um, see how we sprinkle it in.

838
01:02:48.200 --> 01:02:53.240
Yeah. Well, I mean, I told him, you know, remember originally I told him that I had a

839
01:02:53.240 --> 01:02:57.320
partner in this and that God was my partner. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. By the way, that

840
01:02:57.340 --> 01:03:02.260
was letting him, you know, participate in this. So, yeah. So it wasn't just about me

841
01:03:02.260 --> 01:03:06.360
and him, but, but there was a third party involved and it wasn't any other woman or

842
01:03:06.360 --> 01:03:14.900
anybody else, but God, I like that. And so, um, and so I did that. And then, um, he said

843
01:03:15.740 --> 01:03:20.000
something and I can't remember exactly what it was, but it, it was kind of like a thing

844
01:03:20.000 --> 01:03:26.020
about faith. And I said, you know, but I said, my faith is believing and not seeing right.

845
01:03:26.020 --> 01:03:34.520
Like we believe in, we're believing without seeing. And, and then he just kind of like,

846
01:03:34.640 --> 01:03:39.020
he was like, yeah, but I could tell sometimes like maybe he questions like sometimes like,

847
01:03:40.220 --> 01:03:45.620
and I just, I don't know how it came up. So I kind of, and I kind of probably missed the

848
01:03:45.620 --> 01:03:51.740
opportunity there to talk more about that with myself, but I do feel it on my heart to,

849
01:03:51.740 --> 01:03:59.540
to talk more about my, how important my faith is to me and how, um, I mean, he knows I go

850
01:03:59.540 --> 01:04:03.600
to church. I, you know, in our texts and stuff, I've said, you know, it's Sunday. Yeah. I'm going

851
01:04:03.600 --> 01:04:08.280
to church. And he asked me a while back about church because he's Catholic. Remember that's

852
01:04:08.280 --> 01:04:14.740
the other thing. And I'm kind of like, and so he just told me that he didn't get a lot out of mass.

853
01:04:14.780 --> 01:04:19.060
And he told me that his granddaughter was going to a non-denominational church and she seemed to

854
01:04:19.060 --> 01:04:23.700
like it. And I said, well, I I'm Methodist. I said, and I've been in the Methodist church,

855
01:04:23.800 --> 01:04:27.240
but I said, I'm also now going to a non-denominational church and I'm getting

856
01:04:27.500 --> 01:04:33.620
so much out of it. So I kind of like, you know, and he sounded like, kind of like he was maybe

857
01:04:33.680 --> 01:04:42.120
interested in what that's all about. Um, so I think, I think now you, I, I'm getting a sense

858
01:04:42.120 --> 01:04:49.200
because again, now ladies I'm giving her this feedback because she's been on several dates

859
01:04:49.200 --> 01:04:58.000
with this man. Okay. I would not suggest this. If this was like date number two or three,

860
01:04:58.300 --> 01:04:59.980
she's been on five dates.

861
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:06.080
with him. She's known him over a month. Okay. She's, she's seeing

862
01:05:06.080 --> 01:05:11.220
all the fruits of the Spirit from him. Okay. Love, peace,

863
01:05:11.500 --> 01:05:17.620
patience, kindness, gentleness, all of it. Okay. She's had the

864
01:05:17.600 --> 01:05:22.860
conversation, which was very, I mean, it was very witty, very

865
01:05:23.060 --> 01:05:27.040
cute, about how, hey, there is a third person involved in this

866
01:05:27.250 --> 01:05:32.250
relationship and it's God. Okay. I love it. Y'all go back and

867
01:05:32.250 --> 01:05:35.670
listen to last week's replay. If you want to hear how she did it,

868
01:05:35.670 --> 01:05:43.810
it's very, very, very good. Like, I love it. So and he took

869
01:05:43.810 --> 01:05:48.070
that really well. It was very humorous. He has a sense of

870
01:05:48.070 --> 01:05:53.070
humor with it. He was light hearted. It was fun. There was

871
01:05:53.070 --> 01:05:57.770
no pressure on it. Like, how did he respond? Like, oh, so I'm

872
01:05:57.770 --> 01:06:00.910
gonna have to get his permission. Like, it was, it

873
01:06:00.970 --> 01:06:05.130
was, it was light hearted. It was cute. Like, it's probably

874
01:06:05.130 --> 01:06:12.990
one of my favorite stories. I would ask him, hey, would there

875
01:06:12.990 --> 01:06:16.410
ever be a time that you would be comfortable attending church

876
01:06:16.410 --> 01:06:22.930
with me? How would you feel about that? And, and open the

877
01:06:22.930 --> 01:06:29.910
floor for conversation. And get his feedback. You know, and

878
01:06:29.910 --> 01:06:34.790
don't be afraid to like, actually have him open up and

879
01:06:36.290 --> 01:06:41.150
share what his thoughts are. Now some men don't like to share

880
01:06:41.150 --> 01:06:43.870
their thoughts and feelings. So I don't know how this man is.

881
01:06:43.870 --> 01:06:48.530
He's, he's so open with where he is in his feelings. And he is

882
01:06:48.530 --> 01:06:52.830
so like, genuine and just, he says what he's thinking. He says

883
01:06:52.830 --> 01:06:56.090
what he's feeling. He's such a good communicator. So I can't

884
01:06:56.090 --> 01:06:58.570
imagine that he wouldn't share his feelings and thoughts on

885
01:06:58.570 --> 01:06:58.730
that.

886
01:06:59.190 --> 01:07:02.090
Perfect. Okay. I mean, and I say that because my husband is not

887
01:07:02.090 --> 01:07:09.210
a very like, feeler. My husband is an emotional person, but he

888
01:07:09.210 --> 01:07:16.130
is different than a woman like, so but yeah, I would definitely

889
01:07:16.130 --> 01:07:21.550
if he is open to sharing and you feel like he's, you know, give

890
01:07:21.550 --> 01:07:27.810
him the floor to express where he's at with that. And listen,

891
01:07:28.030 --> 01:07:33.170
just listen to where he's at with that. And then but it's I

892
01:07:33.170 --> 01:07:36.290
mean, again, it's he's saying, you know, you're seeing the

893
01:07:36.470 --> 01:07:43.430
spirit. It sounds like he's open to it. Again, he's, he sounds

894
01:07:43.430 --> 01:07:46.690
like he's honoring and respecting your boundary. He

895
01:07:46.690 --> 01:07:51.750
took that, that, you know, conversation of getting God's

896
01:07:52.390 --> 01:07:58.790
permission really well. I can't imagine him being standoffish

897
01:07:58.790 --> 01:08:00.010
about it.

898
01:08:00.170 --> 01:08:01.570
I don't think he will.

899
01:08:01.570 --> 01:08:06.590
I think it's gonna bring you a lot of inner peace, just to get

900
01:08:06.590 --> 01:08:10.730
it out there and just get that off of your chest. And really

901
01:08:10.810 --> 01:08:13.930
just put it out there. It's going to give you comfort and

902
01:08:13.930 --> 01:08:17.250
peace of mind just to feel like, okay, you've set it out on the

903
01:08:17.310 --> 01:08:20.649
table. And you can kind of see where he's at with it. And then

904
01:08:20.649 --> 01:08:24.810
you guys can walk through it, talk it, talk through it, kind

905
01:08:24.810 --> 01:08:28.729
of get some resolve, see what it's going to look like, and

906
01:08:28.729 --> 01:08:32.470
map it out and process through what that what that's going to

907
01:08:32.470 --> 01:08:34.410
look like, moving forward.

908
01:08:34.830 --> 01:08:37.010
I think we'll have a good opportunity Thursday, because I

909
01:08:37.850 --> 01:08:40.029
am, I am going to his house, we're going to sit on his patio

910
01:08:40.029 --> 01:08:44.630
and have dinner. And so we'll be we won't be in a restaurant,

911
01:08:44.630 --> 01:08:47.910
we'll be alone. And yeah, that would be a good opportunity to

912
01:08:47.910 --> 01:08:48.770
bring that up.

913
01:08:48.770 --> 01:08:53.450
I think so too. And then just keep keep us posted how that

914
01:08:53.450 --> 01:08:58.930
goes. All right. But I got I got good feelings for it. So

915
01:08:59.010 --> 01:09:03.590
whatever the outcome is, I think it will. It will be good.

916
01:09:03.950 --> 01:09:05.410
Well, I'm a little I like that. I'm a little freaked out.

917
01:09:05.410 --> 01:09:07.630
Because I keep saying, Okay, Lord, you know, you better give

918
01:09:07.630 --> 01:09:10.750
me that no sooner than later. Because it's like, we're getting

919
01:09:10.750 --> 01:09:13.990
into this. And I keep listening for the no. And it's like I said,

920
01:09:14.069 --> 01:09:17.130
everybody says it's a yes. So it's a no. And I still feel like

921
01:09:17.130 --> 01:09:19.450
it's a yes. And I'm like, it's kind of like freaking me out.

922
01:09:19.609 --> 01:09:20.529
A little bit.

923
01:09:21.609 --> 01:09:24.069
Well, and we can and again, if you if these like freaked out

924
01:09:24.069 --> 01:09:27.910
feelings keep surfacing, we can definitely unpack those two.

925
01:09:28.630 --> 01:09:31.410
It's totally normal to have these freaked out feelings. I

926
01:09:31.630 --> 01:09:36.270
did too. Like, there was definitely like, times where I'm

927
01:09:36.689 --> 01:09:39.750
like, Oh, my goodness, like, what is this?

928
01:09:40.750 --> 01:09:42.850
Especially when we're praying for our spirit mate. And then

929
01:09:42.850 --> 01:09:45.569
all of a sudden, maybe God might I mean, I don't know, but I'm

930
01:09:45.569 --> 01:09:48.410
not saying that he's that yet. But yeah, but you're like

931
01:09:48.410 --> 01:09:51.189
delivering and you're like, why am I? Is this actually

932
01:09:51.229 --> 01:09:54.530
happening? Like, right? Why am I surprised that God is going to

933
01:09:55.030 --> 01:09:58.930
maybe be the God that he says he is and fulfill his promises. And

934
01:09:58.930 --> 01:09:59.890
then you start kind of like

935
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.700
should be like, Oh, yeah, no, it's not gonna be that. Not yet.

936
01:10:04.140 --> 01:10:07.240
Yeah. Like you're pinching yourself. Like, wait, is this

937
01:10:07.240 --> 01:10:12.760
really like, you know, I get it. So we're here to help you. We're

938
01:10:12.760 --> 01:10:15.800
here to walk the whole journey through whether it happens or

939
01:10:15.800 --> 01:10:21.020
like, however, like whatever God has in store, we're here by

940
01:10:21.020 --> 01:10:21.720
your side.

941
01:10:22.920 --> 01:10:23.400
So much.

942
01:10:23.540 --> 01:10:28.220
Thank you. You're welcome. Always. All right. Is it? Is it

943
01:10:28.220 --> 01:10:31.720
a kit? I'm not sure if I'm reading your name, right? You're

944
01:10:31.720 --> 01:10:32.880
gonna have to say it for me.

945
01:10:33.160 --> 01:10:35.700
Yeah, Mackenzie's right. Mackenzie. Okay.

946
01:10:36.720 --> 01:10:40.980
Is it your is it there an L on it that I'm seeing? Oh, that's

947
01:10:40.980 --> 01:10:43.620
my last name. Okay, that's what I thought. And I was just like,

948
01:10:43.640 --> 01:10:45.640
I don't want to like mispronounce. Yeah, I don't know

949
01:10:45.640 --> 01:10:47.180
why it's like that. Sure. It's Mackenzie.

950
01:10:48.180 --> 01:10:48.900
Can feel

951
01:10:50.580 --> 01:10:51.320
you never know.

952
01:10:51.320 --> 01:10:54.540
How are you? Oh, good.

953
01:10:56.780 --> 01:11:02.940
Um, okay. So we talked last time. Mm hmm. About Elijah. And

954
01:11:02.940 --> 01:11:05.740
oh, yeah, that's right. Okay. Thank you for refreshing my

955
01:11:05.740 --> 01:11:11.680
memory. You told me specifically. Tell, ask God why

956
01:11:11.680 --> 01:11:16.980
he's named that. Yes. And why is his name Elijah. And I've

957
01:11:16.980 --> 01:11:20.620
dived into his name meanings and all that. So there's that

958
01:11:20.620 --> 01:11:24.200
there. But then I have another prophetic friend that came over

959
01:11:24.200 --> 01:11:28.260
and was we were just chatting. And he said the same thing. He

960
01:11:28.260 --> 01:11:30.640
was like, ask God why his name is Elijah.

961
01:11:32.320 --> 01:11:35.640
And I was like, Okay, God, like I see you. Like, all right,

962
01:11:35.640 --> 01:11:37.880
thanks for confirming that I'm paying attention.

963
01:11:39.020 --> 01:11:43.260
So then, oh, last weekend, you know, I downloaded all the apps

964
01:11:43.260 --> 01:11:46.380
like it was my job. And I had a friend with me and we were just

965
01:11:46.380 --> 01:11:52.020
swiping through laughing and I got on arc. It's a RK I don't

966
01:11:52.020 --> 01:11:54.340
know if it's the same thing you guys were talking about. But

967
01:11:55.380 --> 01:11:59.620
just a friend had just randomly suggested it. And I have all my

968
01:11:59.620 --> 01:12:03.180
settings because I'm in a small town set to like 200 miles or

969
01:12:03.400 --> 01:12:12.980
whatever. It's long distance. But anyways, so I had someone on

970
01:12:12.980 --> 01:12:16.180
arc, like comment on my picture, like, Oh, you're

971
01:12:16.180 --> 01:12:21.920
gorgeous, whatever. And so I responded and for kicks and

972
01:12:21.920 --> 01:12:25.380
giggles, but I almost didn't. And I just wanted to say, I'm so

973
01:12:25.380 --> 01:12:29.000
glad that I'm doing this program because he has the same name as

974
01:12:29.000 --> 01:12:29.660
my accent.

975
01:12:33.280 --> 01:12:36.920
So, like, if I hadn't done this training, and like, you know,

976
01:12:37.420 --> 01:12:40.400
surrender your non negotiables, you know, and heard like,

977
01:12:40.400 --> 01:12:45.040
absolutely not. Is it Bethany? Is Bethany married to Brian? Is

978
01:12:45.040 --> 01:12:49.220
that her? Yes, Bethany and Brian. Yeah. So her story. I

979
01:12:49.220 --> 01:12:54.560
was like, Okay, God can redeem a name. And so I'm like, Alright,

980
01:12:54.620 --> 01:12:56.720
just for kicks and giggles. I'll just respond and start talking.

981
01:12:57.020 --> 01:13:02.200
And then within an hour, we had gone to a phone call. Okay. And

982
01:13:03.660 --> 01:13:07.040
then we went the next day and we were doing we did a FaceTime.

983
01:13:07.040 --> 01:13:10.980
And basically, we've been talking and on the phone and

984
01:13:11.020 --> 01:13:14.000
FaceTiming for four days straight. And it's a little bit

985
01:13:14.920 --> 01:13:23.500
intense. But I there's just been so much like the dreams that I

986
01:13:23.500 --> 01:13:28.980
had about Elijah. I before we had a phone call a couple nights

987
01:13:28.980 --> 01:13:34.380
ago, I was praying I was like, God, how in some of the I had a

988
01:13:34.380 --> 01:13:38.920
dream with Elijah in it. I don't think I shared that. But I

989
01:13:38.920 --> 01:13:45.120
was in her dream. I told her that Elijah had recognized me in

990
01:13:45.120 --> 01:13:48.820
his dream from his dreams. So I was kind of praying that like,

991
01:13:49.720 --> 01:13:53.400
if just for that confirmation that he would have also had a

992
01:13:53.400 --> 01:13:57.980
dream about me. Okay. So I was praying that that would just be

993
01:13:57.980 --> 01:14:00.500
confirmed. And I went up and I talked to him on the phone. He

994
01:14:00.500 --> 01:14:03.440
told me this whole beautiful dream that he's thought about

995
01:14:03.440 --> 01:14:06.220
since he was in high school about, like dancing under the

996
01:14:06.220 --> 01:14:09.920
street with a girl with long brown hair, and like specific

997
01:14:09.920 --> 01:14:13.160
song was playing in the dream. And I don't know. And I didn't

998
01:14:13.160 --> 01:14:17.740
even ask him to share that. And, but he doesn't put like as much

999
01:14:18.100 --> 01:14:23.000
stock in dreams, you know? Okay. Anyway, there's just been so

1000
01:14:23.000 --> 01:14:27.480
many of those little I feel like they're God winks. Like, my

1001
01:14:27.480 --> 01:14:32.960
favorite number is 22. He's born on January 22. I'm like,

1002
01:14:33.160 --> 01:14:36.160
just things like that. And there's a lot of parallels to my

1003
01:14:36.160 --> 01:14:43.580
ex, but like, in a, like a redeeming way. So like, he's in

1004
01:14:43.580 --> 01:14:46.740
wine distribution, but he's like, which is what my ex did.

1005
01:14:47.020 --> 01:14:51.300
And but he's not an alcoholic, right? And then, you know, he's

1006
01:14:51.300 --> 01:14:54.880
also an Aquarius, but he's not. I don't know. I don't believe in

1007
01:14:55.020 --> 01:14:57.680
stuff. But still, it's just like, there's all these weird

1008
01:14:57.860 --> 01:14:59.900
parallels. But then every thing

1009
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.880
that was a con for my ex has been a pro for him.

1010
01:15:04.600 --> 01:15:13.400
And so I'm trying to like, just appreciate the alignment

1011
01:15:14.520 --> 01:15:18.560
and just someone to appreciate me for who I am.

1012
01:15:21.120 --> 01:15:25.000
I guess my question is, so I just,

1013
01:15:25.180 --> 01:15:27.140
the radius was for Colorado, you know,

1014
01:15:27.140 --> 01:15:29.360
but somehow he got matched to me

1015
01:15:29.360 --> 01:15:34.040
and he's in Pasadena, which is where my dad grew up.

1016
01:15:34.100 --> 01:15:35.800
And I have family in LA, you know,

1017
01:15:35.800 --> 01:15:38.800
like it's not crazy that I could,

1018
01:15:39.100 --> 01:15:40.200
he could come here or whatever,

1019
01:15:40.840 --> 01:15:43.320
but he had his radius that like,

1020
01:15:43.320 --> 01:15:44.620
he's the one that picked me, right?

1021
01:15:44.620 --> 01:15:47.260
So I don't have to feel bad that I'm so far away.

1022
01:15:48.860 --> 01:15:49.900
I don't really know.

1023
01:15:50.060 --> 01:15:52.640
That's what makes it also feels just miraculous

1024
01:15:55.080 --> 01:15:57.420
because anyway, but I,

1025
01:15:59.360 --> 01:16:01.840
I've been working hard to just let him lead.

1026
01:16:04.660 --> 01:16:08.220
And he has offered to come to fly out here.

1027
01:16:08.940 --> 01:16:12.700
And I just don't know how to structure that.

1028
01:16:12.740 --> 01:16:15.480
Like the logistics are kind of intimidating me

1029
01:16:16.800 --> 01:16:19.360
because, you know, I don't know.

1030
01:16:19.400 --> 01:16:20.560
It just seems really scary.

1031
01:16:21.320 --> 01:16:22.460
Okay. Yeah.

1032
01:16:23.080 --> 01:16:24.480
I don't know.

1033
01:16:24.480 --> 01:16:27.300
Like, I don't fully trust myself and you know,

1034
01:16:28.260 --> 01:16:30.420
but I didn't want to like squash it.

1035
01:16:30.700 --> 01:16:31.960
Tell me more about that.

1036
01:16:32.120 --> 01:16:34.760
What about, what do you not trust about yourself?

1037
01:16:37.240 --> 01:16:42.000
I just have a full life and kids and, you know,

1038
01:16:42.000 --> 01:16:42.700
he doesn't have kids.

1039
01:16:42.840 --> 01:16:43.520
He's never been married,

1040
01:16:45.020 --> 01:16:46.820
which I think is a good thing.

1041
01:16:46.820 --> 01:16:48.060
Cause then he is more flexible,

1042
01:16:48.240 --> 01:16:50.180
but just trusting that like,

1043
01:16:50.320 --> 01:16:51.860
I think maybe right now,

1044
01:16:51.880 --> 01:16:57.280
because I do feel so like in love that letting his action

1045
01:16:58.060 --> 01:16:58.500
speak.

1046
01:16:58.620 --> 01:17:01.160
And so I think it's important for me to let him fly out

1047
01:17:01.160 --> 01:17:03.960
here and not try to like be a people pleaser and go there.

1048
01:17:03.960 --> 01:17:06.080
Cause my sister, you know,

1049
01:17:07.680 --> 01:17:11.840
but also I just don't know if like,

1050
01:17:12.160 --> 01:17:14.420
I'll have self-control, I guess.

1051
01:17:14.560 --> 01:17:15.900
Okay. Not just like, okay,

1052
01:17:15.900 --> 01:17:16.740
let's go to the courthouse.

1053
01:17:17.760 --> 01:17:18.960
Yeah. Let's yep.

1054
01:17:18.960 --> 01:17:21.360
We're going to, we're going to pump the brakes for sure.

1055
01:17:21.440 --> 01:17:23.160
Okay. There's a lot girl.

1056
01:17:23.320 --> 01:17:23.840
I got you.

1057
01:17:23.920 --> 01:17:26.040
Sorry. That was a lot, but I know.

1058
01:17:27.300 --> 01:17:28.220
That's what we're here for.

1059
01:17:28.740 --> 01:17:30.780
One. I was, I was a mom as well.

1060
01:17:30.920 --> 01:17:32.160
Okay. It was a single mom.

1061
01:17:32.580 --> 01:17:34.140
Okay. I got you.

1062
01:17:34.440 --> 01:17:36.340
All right. This is why we're in community.

1063
01:17:36.780 --> 01:17:38.840
Okay. Cause we're not going to let you,

1064
01:17:39.140 --> 01:17:40.480
we're not going to let you, you know,

1065
01:17:40.580 --> 01:17:41.860
rush to anything too quickly.

1066
01:17:42.820 --> 01:17:45.400
Okay. We're going to help you slow it down.

1067
01:17:45.580 --> 01:17:46.720
We're going to help you pace.

1068
01:17:46.840 --> 01:17:47.680
Okay. You're going to hold,

1069
01:17:48.120 --> 01:17:50.040
you're going to hold yourself accountable by showing up in

1070
01:17:50.040 --> 01:17:50.580
this community.

1071
01:17:50.960 --> 01:17:51.760
That's important.

1072
01:17:51.920 --> 01:17:54.320
Okay. So continue to keep showing up.

1073
01:17:54.420 --> 01:17:55.180
That's important.

1074
01:17:55.760 --> 01:17:57.260
So that you're going to write that down,

1075
01:17:57.280 --> 01:17:58.640
show up in community.

1076
01:17:58.780 --> 01:18:00.880
So do not, do not come.

1077
01:18:00.940 --> 01:18:02.900
Don't don't drift from this community.

1078
01:18:03.540 --> 01:18:06.640
Well, thank you for reminding me to jump in today.

1079
01:18:06.800 --> 01:18:07.660
So, yes.

1080
01:18:08.120 --> 01:18:09.580
So that's important.

1081
01:18:09.640 --> 01:18:12.880
Now, did I hear you say something about in love?

1082
01:18:15.300 --> 01:18:15.860
Yes.

1083
01:18:16.260 --> 01:18:18.580
Okay. We're going to, we're going to stop that.

1084
01:18:19.160 --> 01:18:20.120
Okay. Yeah.

1085
01:18:20.120 --> 01:18:21.540
We're going to recognize that.

1086
01:18:21.560 --> 01:18:23.360
Okay. We want to put that on.

1087
01:18:23.360 --> 01:18:24.020
Let's okay.

1088
01:18:24.560 --> 01:18:26.440
We're going to recognize that.

1089
01:18:26.820 --> 01:18:28.160
Okay. We're having these feelings.

1090
01:18:28.240 --> 01:18:31.720
We just want to make sure that they're not,

1091
01:18:32.140 --> 01:18:34.660
they're not coming from an unhealed place.

1092
01:18:35.040 --> 01:18:35.560
Yeah.

1093
01:18:36.120 --> 01:18:37.920
We just want to keep them in check.

1094
01:18:38.040 --> 01:18:39.580
We want to pace them properly.

1095
01:18:39.960 --> 01:18:42.440
Okay. It's okay to get excited.

1096
01:18:42.580 --> 01:18:44.500
It's okay that all these things are coming together.

1097
01:18:44.540 --> 01:18:45.060
Okay.

1098
01:18:45.140 --> 01:18:47.920
But we just do not want to rush the process to get us,

1099
01:18:48.180 --> 01:18:51.900
get us into a place that is not healthy.

1100
01:18:52.520 --> 01:18:53.040
Yes.

1101
01:18:53.640 --> 01:18:54.160
Yes.

1102
01:18:54.160 --> 01:18:54.440
All right.

1103
01:18:56.260 --> 01:18:58.920
I love that you're recognizing that these could be things

1104
01:18:58.920 --> 01:19:00.360
that God is winking at you.

1105
01:19:00.640 --> 01:19:00.860
Okay.

1106
01:19:00.860 --> 01:19:04.080
Cause the things that I was hearing is,

1107
01:19:06.060 --> 01:19:08.780
again, regardless of this man is your spirit mate,

1108
01:19:09.960 --> 01:19:13.300
these could be things that God is wanting to show you

1109
01:19:13.300 --> 01:19:15.820
that yes, you're on the right path.

1110
01:19:15.820 --> 01:19:17.840
Whether this man is your spirit mate or not,

1111
01:19:17.900 --> 01:19:20.300
God is wanting to, again, to possibly,

1112
01:19:20.300 --> 01:19:21.780
I hear the word redemption.

1113
01:19:22.900 --> 01:19:25.100
There's some things that he was wanting to redeem,

1114
01:19:25.260 --> 01:19:26.680
whether this man is your spirit mate or not.

1115
01:19:26.760 --> 01:19:28.640
Like, let's take that completely off the table.

1116
01:19:30.960 --> 01:19:32.480
You're on path.

1117
01:19:33.320 --> 01:19:33.760
Yeah.

1118
01:19:33.780 --> 01:19:34.800
There's a path there.

1119
01:19:34.920 --> 01:19:35.240
Okay.

1120
01:19:35.420 --> 01:19:39.120
And again, I heard like old and new.

1121
01:19:40.800 --> 01:19:43.180
Did I tell you the word restitution?

1122
01:19:43.780 --> 01:19:45.160
I told you about that?

1123
01:19:45.340 --> 01:19:45.660
No.

1124
01:19:45.660 --> 01:19:47.000
I don't know if you did or not.

1125
01:19:47.060 --> 01:19:47.480
You might have.

1126
01:19:48.140 --> 01:19:49.240
For the Jewish new year.

1127
01:19:49.240 --> 01:19:49.660
Okay.

1128
01:19:50.320 --> 01:19:55.300
So it's like, it means literal renewing of something.

1129
01:19:55.880 --> 01:19:55.880


1130
01:19:55.960 --> 01:19:56.700
And the fact that-

1131
01:19:56.700 --> 01:19:59.980
Again, that could just be confirmation that, again.

1132
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:02.320
That's what God is doing in your life right now.

1133
01:20:02.900 --> 01:20:05.960
So it's just, you know, just hold into that promise,

1134
01:20:05.960 --> 01:20:08.420
whether this, again, we're not gonna rush into that.

1135
01:20:08.660 --> 01:20:11.200
This could or could not be your spirit mate.

1136
01:20:11.320 --> 01:20:13.280
Well, let's not rush ahead, okay?

1137
01:20:13.280 --> 01:20:14.960
Because sometimes we hear God's words

1138
01:20:15.000 --> 01:20:18.320
and sometimes we can misinterpret that as well, okay?

1139
01:20:18.320 --> 01:20:22.180
So we wanna just stick close to just, okay?

1140
01:20:22.180 --> 01:20:23.800
Let's just hear what we're hearing.

1141
01:20:23.960 --> 01:20:25.920
Let's not misinterpret, okay?

1142
01:20:25.920 --> 01:20:28.020
Let's just sit close with that, okay?

1143
01:20:28.020 --> 01:20:31.480
And I'm not saying that this guy isn't or isn't,

1144
01:20:31.900 --> 01:20:32.720
but it's still too soon.

1145
01:20:33.100 --> 01:20:34.720
Okay, we wanna slow it down.

1146
01:20:35.140 --> 01:20:35.820
Let's just be open.

1147
01:20:35.820 --> 01:20:38.220
I don't wanna force what I want his words to mean.

1148
01:20:39.100 --> 01:20:40.320
Yes, exactly, okay?

1149
01:20:41.960 --> 01:20:44.840
When you were saying that, again,

1150
01:20:44.900 --> 01:20:50.500
sit with this image of old wineskins and new wineskins.

1151
01:20:51.500 --> 01:20:53.900
So what that speaks to you.

1152
01:20:53.900 --> 01:20:57.980
I think there's something there, again,

1153
01:20:58.020 --> 01:20:59.860
redemption, restitution, all of that.

1154
01:21:00.640 --> 01:21:01.960
So that's there, okay?

1155
01:21:03.560 --> 01:21:05.800
So that, I wanted to get that out.

1156
01:21:06.360 --> 01:21:06.660
Yeah.

1157
01:21:06.660 --> 01:21:09.520
Now back onto this long distance, okay?

1158
01:21:10.260 --> 01:21:13.360
Your mom, again, I can relate to that.

1159
01:21:13.540 --> 01:21:15.480
I can relate to the long distance stuff.

1160
01:21:15.860 --> 01:21:18.080
I was in Florida, my husband was in Texas.

1161
01:21:19.160 --> 01:21:21.280
When we do the long distance dating,

1162
01:21:22.300 --> 01:21:26.560
it is important that we meet the person

1163
01:21:26.560 --> 01:21:28.920
within three to six weeks in person, okay?

1164
01:21:28.920 --> 01:21:31.940
I love, a green flag for me is that this guy

1165
01:21:31.940 --> 01:21:34.480
is offering to come visit you.

1166
01:21:36.260 --> 01:21:39.220
That is masculine for him to offer

1167
01:21:39.220 --> 01:21:41.000
and take the lead there, okay?

1168
01:21:41.360 --> 01:21:43.980
We do wanna make sure that you're putting up guardrails

1169
01:21:44.100 --> 01:21:49.300
so that you are making safe and healthy choices, okay?

1170
01:21:50.300 --> 01:21:55.940
So don't want you to share where you live, okay?

1171
01:21:56.600 --> 01:21:59.240
Give him an area of where you live

1172
01:22:00.320 --> 01:22:02.940
and give him some options of places to stay.

1173
01:22:03.760 --> 01:22:03.880
Okay.

1174
01:22:03.880 --> 01:22:07.760
So whether that's a hotel, Airbnbs,

1175
01:22:09.380 --> 01:22:11.580
you're not gonna give him your address,

1176
01:22:12.360 --> 01:22:16.260
you're gonna give areas of where you can meet him at.

1177
01:22:16.820 --> 01:22:17.200
Okay.

1178
01:22:17.200 --> 01:22:19.580
You also have a life.

1179
01:22:21.100 --> 01:22:24.220
You do not have to block out the entire time

1180
01:22:24.400 --> 01:22:28.220
that he's there and dedicate your whole time to him.

1181
01:22:28.980 --> 01:22:29.180
Okay.

1182
01:22:30.940 --> 01:22:34.160
You can be clear while you're here,

1183
01:22:35.000 --> 01:22:37.840
I have this time and this time available.

1184
01:22:38.560 --> 01:22:41.260
You could even give him some ideas of,

1185
01:22:41.700 --> 01:22:43.820
here's some fun things in the area

1186
01:22:43.820 --> 01:22:45.980
that you can do while I'm not available.

1187
01:22:47.320 --> 01:22:48.980
He's a grown man.

1188
01:22:51.280 --> 01:22:53.780
He can find things to do on his own.

1189
01:22:55.460 --> 01:22:55.980
Okay.

1190
01:22:55.980 --> 01:22:57.240
You could even ask him,

1191
01:22:57.360 --> 01:23:00.200
does he know anybody in your area?

1192
01:23:00.680 --> 01:23:03.260
Is there anything that he wants to go and explore?

1193
01:23:04.380 --> 01:23:07.580
He can get a rental car, he can go and travel.

1194
01:23:08.840 --> 01:23:09.260
Right, yeah.

1195
01:23:09.520 --> 01:23:10.040
Right?

1196
01:23:10.040 --> 01:23:10.520
Yes.

1197
01:23:10.800 --> 01:23:13.940
Y'all, like I did this as a single woman.

1198
01:23:13.940 --> 01:23:17.560
I would travel by myself, okay?

1199
01:23:17.960 --> 01:23:18.020
Yeah.

1200
01:23:18.640 --> 01:23:20.100
So he's a grown man,

1201
01:23:21.200 --> 01:23:22.340
it's easier for grown men to do that.

1202
01:23:22.780 --> 01:23:23.600
Yeah.

1203
01:23:23.600 --> 01:23:27.920
Do not feel obligated to spend all your time.

1204
01:23:27.940 --> 01:23:30.760
Because again, you have your mother.

1205
01:23:32.320 --> 01:23:33.520
It's not just about your safety,

1206
01:23:33.520 --> 01:23:35.260
it's about your children's safety as well.

1207
01:23:36.600 --> 01:23:36.820
Okay.

1208
01:23:37.980 --> 01:23:42.080
So again, do not share your home location.

1209
01:23:42.460 --> 01:23:43.020
Okay.

1210
01:23:43.020 --> 01:23:43.100
Okay.

1211
01:23:44.400 --> 01:23:47.540
Well, yeah, it looks like the best airport's

1212
01:23:47.540 --> 01:23:48.800
like three hours from me.

1213
01:23:49.460 --> 01:23:51.760
So I was thinking about going to stay with my sister there

1214
01:23:51.760 --> 01:23:55.440
and then just hang out in the city, even though, you know.

1215
01:23:55.440 --> 01:23:55.760
Okay, perfect.

1216
01:23:55.980 --> 01:23:57.180
I wanted to come here eventually.

1217
01:23:57.180 --> 01:23:58.620
Would your sister be able to help out with,

1218
01:23:58.740 --> 01:23:59.620
how many kids do you have?

1219
01:24:00.080 --> 01:24:00.300
Three.

1220
01:24:00.960 --> 01:24:01.520
Three, okay.

1221
01:24:01.520 --> 01:24:02.540
So I'm thinking while they're with their,

1222
01:24:02.740 --> 01:24:04.660
if I can work it to where they're with their dad

1223
01:24:04.820 --> 01:24:07.840
and I could go to Denver and just like hang out

1224
01:24:07.840 --> 01:24:12.880
with my sister and see him and that's plan A, but yeah.

1225
01:24:12.880 --> 01:24:15.140
So again, and give them like,

1226
01:24:15.360 --> 01:24:16.580
hey, these are the weekends that I'm free

1227
01:24:16.580 --> 01:24:18.120
because my kids are with their dad.

1228
01:24:18.180 --> 01:24:19.960
I mean, that's what I had to do

1229
01:24:20.400 --> 01:24:22.980
when my husband would come visit.

1230
01:24:23.900 --> 01:24:28.160
I mean, again, I did not change

1231
01:24:29.520 --> 01:24:31.240
my son's schedule with his dad.

1232
01:24:31.840 --> 01:24:36.180
So fun fact, when my husband wanted to come out

1233
01:24:36.180 --> 01:24:39.880
and fly to see me, he was coming to fly out

1234
01:24:39.880 --> 01:24:42.360
because it was the end of his busy season.

1235
01:24:42.940 --> 01:24:46.220
And he asked me, hey, I'm flying in.

1236
01:24:46.960 --> 01:24:47.780
Can we get together?

1237
01:24:47.940 --> 01:24:51.760
And I said, well, that weekend I have my son with me.

1238
01:24:51.760 --> 01:24:53.620
I'll see if I can get a sitter.

1239
01:24:53.920 --> 01:24:56.140
That weekend we're driving to Orlando

1240
01:24:56.620 --> 01:24:59.980
and I'm taking him to see for King and Country in concert.

1241
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:01.900
for their Christmas show.

1242
01:25:02.320 --> 01:25:03.600
It's my son's favorite band.

1243
01:25:06.200 --> 01:25:08.660
Like I'm not, not taking my son,

1244
01:25:08.720 --> 01:25:10.700
like I have plans with my son that weekend.

1245
01:25:11.120 --> 01:25:13.100
I will see what I can do.

1246
01:25:13.200 --> 01:25:14.260
I can't make promises.

1247
01:25:15.400 --> 01:25:15.740
Yeah.

1248
01:25:16.040 --> 01:25:17.980
Y'all wanna know what my husband did?

1249
01:25:18.960 --> 01:25:21.620
No, he's not my husband then, but like, you know.

1250
01:25:22.140 --> 01:25:24.380
He got back to me like the next day and said,

1251
01:25:26.640 --> 01:25:30.580
how about, yeah, they are like my favorite show.

1252
01:25:30.880 --> 01:25:32.400
We've seen them like three times.

1253
01:25:33.980 --> 01:25:36.900
Sorry, I just saw Sam's comment.

1254
01:25:39.200 --> 01:25:41.360
My husband like reached back out to me

1255
01:25:41.360 --> 01:25:42.580
like the next day or two and says,

1256
01:25:43.460 --> 01:25:47.020
hey, why don't I come the weekend before

1257
01:25:47.020 --> 01:25:49.240
and then I'll come back the weekend after?

1258
01:25:49.860 --> 01:25:54.420
My husband split his work trip into two weekends.

1259
01:25:55.940 --> 01:25:58.800
I was like, okay.

1260
01:26:00.520 --> 01:26:03.620
So that to me was a sign to me

1261
01:26:03.620 --> 01:26:05.120
and like, this man's intentional.

1262
01:26:06.020 --> 01:26:08.640
And like, it was funny because he asked me like

1263
01:26:08.640 --> 01:26:10.120
that first weekend that he was coming,

1264
01:26:10.260 --> 01:26:12.560
he was like, am I gonna get to see you more than once?

1265
01:26:12.580 --> 01:26:18.660
And I was like, can we meet first before I decide

1266
01:26:18.660 --> 01:26:20.900
if I wanna see you more than one time?

1267
01:26:22.120 --> 01:26:22.880
I mean, it was kind of like,

1268
01:26:22.880 --> 01:26:24.920
I was kind of like, I'm not going to promise

1269
01:26:24.920 --> 01:26:25.920
that I'm gonna see you more than once.

1270
01:26:25.980 --> 01:26:27.300
What if I don't like you?

1271
01:26:27.680 --> 01:26:29.620
I mean, and it's a joke now,

1272
01:26:29.620 --> 01:26:31.460
because he said when I said that to him,

1273
01:26:31.460 --> 01:26:33.300
he's like, it dawned on him like,

1274
01:26:33.440 --> 01:26:34.920
oh, what if this girl's crazy?

1275
01:26:35.020 --> 01:26:36.780
You're right, maybe I don't wanna hang out

1276
01:26:36.780 --> 01:26:37.820
with her more than once.

1277
01:26:38.340 --> 01:26:41.800
Like, I mean, because I was like, I'm not going,

1278
01:26:41.960 --> 01:26:43.320
I'm like, I put up boundaries.

1279
01:26:43.400 --> 01:26:45.340
I'm like, look, I don't know who you are.

1280
01:26:45.860 --> 01:26:47.560
Like, yeah, we're having conversation

1281
01:26:48.220 --> 01:26:48.980
for a couple of weeks.

1282
01:26:49.100 --> 01:26:49.800
I haven't met you.

1283
01:26:49.900 --> 01:26:51.500
I don't know if I'm gonna like you.

1284
01:26:51.700 --> 01:26:52.560
I don't know what, like,

1285
01:26:52.560 --> 01:26:53.980
what if you're a jerk at the restaurant?

1286
01:26:54.020 --> 01:26:54.760
I don't know.

1287
01:26:56.080 --> 01:27:01.640
So, but like, I was not, I was still a person.

1288
01:27:01.720 --> 01:27:02.580
I was still a mom.

1289
01:27:02.760 --> 01:27:07.620
I was not going to, I was not going to compromise myself

1290
01:27:09.140 --> 01:27:12.460
because this man was rearranging his schedule

1291
01:27:12.460 --> 01:27:13.300
and doing all those things.

1292
01:27:13.340 --> 01:27:15.920
That didn't mean that I didn't appreciate what he was doing,

1293
01:27:16.780 --> 01:27:24.840
but I wasn't gonna feel obligated to take down my boundaries

1294
01:27:26.020 --> 01:27:28.760
because of something that he chose to do.

1295
01:27:29.380 --> 01:27:30.620
That was his choice.

1296
01:27:32.380 --> 01:27:35.460
So again, you're setting clear boundaries.

1297
01:27:36.320 --> 01:27:39.680
Tell him, hey, this is when my kids will be with their dad.

1298
01:27:40.900 --> 01:27:42.540
I can stay with my sister.

1299
01:27:43.280 --> 01:27:44.760
Here's some hotels nearby.

1300
01:27:45.580 --> 01:27:46.920
These are some nights that are free.

1301
01:27:47.040 --> 01:27:48.780
I'm gonna spend some time with my sister.

1302
01:27:49.460 --> 01:27:51.500
Here's some cool things that we can do.

1303
01:27:51.640 --> 01:27:54.020
Here's some things that you can do in Denver on your own

1304
01:27:54.020 --> 01:27:54.960
if you're interested.

1305
01:27:55.660 --> 01:27:57.080
Find out some things that he likes.

1306
01:27:58.360 --> 01:28:02.000
So, but don't, don't go overboard

1307
01:28:02.000 --> 01:28:04.500
and spend every waking moment that he's there.

1308
01:28:05.540 --> 01:28:08.260
Give yourself some space, pace it properly.

1309
01:28:09.600 --> 01:28:11.160
And that might be hard.

1310
01:28:11.160 --> 01:28:13.000
Yes, it will be.

1311
01:28:13.000 --> 01:28:13.000


1312
01:28:14.700 --> 01:28:15.620
I get it.

1313
01:28:15.660 --> 01:28:16.180
Yeah.

1314
01:28:16.180 --> 01:28:16.460
All right.

1315
01:28:16.560 --> 01:28:17.220
Oh, thank you.

1316
01:28:17.920 --> 01:28:20.820
We don't wanna rush the pace, okay?

1317
01:28:20.820 --> 01:28:22.600
I'm a rusher, so.

1318
01:28:22.600 --> 01:28:22.940
I know.

1319
01:28:23.160 --> 01:28:25.220
But it's good because I didn't think,

1320
01:28:25.480 --> 01:28:30.340
I didn't think I would even be able to feel this way again.

1321
01:28:31.320 --> 01:28:32.360
So, yeah.

1322
01:28:32.460 --> 01:28:35.460
Yep, just again, don't leave this community, okay?

1323
01:28:35.600 --> 01:28:36.640
Right, yeah.

1324
01:28:36.640 --> 01:28:37.580
Stay accountable here.

1325
01:28:38.180 --> 01:28:39.440
Ladies, that goes for all of you.

1326
01:28:40.220 --> 01:28:41.960
That goes for every single one of you

1327
01:28:41.960 --> 01:28:44.540
because that will happen when you all start dating

1328
01:28:44.540 --> 01:28:46.960
and you find someone that you're really interested in.

1329
01:28:47.340 --> 01:28:51.020
It's really easy to get so focused on that relationship

1330
01:28:51.020 --> 01:28:53.140
and you're gonna wanna just spend your time there

1331
01:28:53.140 --> 01:28:54.880
and you're gonna forget about this community.

1332
01:28:55.500 --> 01:28:57.960
If anything, that's when you need to show up

1333
01:28:57.960 --> 01:28:58.980
in this community more.

1334
01:29:01.300 --> 01:29:02.940
It's so important.

1335
01:29:03.100 --> 01:29:06.180
If anything, that's when I really, really needed

1336
01:29:06.180 --> 01:29:08.100
to hold myself accountable in this community

1337
01:29:08.100 --> 01:29:13.560
was when I got into a serious level three relationship

1338
01:29:14.000 --> 01:29:18.500
that was marriage-minded because things surfaced.

1339
01:29:20.180 --> 01:29:21.800
I had to walk through the process.

1340
01:29:22.260 --> 01:29:24.840
And that's why we have this phase

1341
01:29:24.840 --> 01:29:28.100
that when you ladies start getting into these dates,

1342
01:29:29.620 --> 01:29:31.640
stuff is gonna surface and heartwork stuff

1343
01:29:31.640 --> 01:29:33.000
is gonna start coming up.

1344
01:29:33.220 --> 01:29:36.220
And we want you to have a little bit of a smaller community

1345
01:29:36.220 --> 01:29:38.860
as you start going into that dating process

1346
01:29:38.860 --> 01:29:43.860
where we can be in a smaller setting to process it with you

1347
01:29:43.880 --> 01:29:45.940
before you all go into phase three,

1348
01:29:46.380 --> 01:29:47.940
where again, you still have community,

1349
01:29:48.380 --> 01:29:50.120
especially when you get into those level threes

1350
01:29:50.120 --> 01:29:53.240
where you can jump into love seats with Jackie

1351
01:29:53.540 --> 01:29:57.160
and ask Jackie questions, especially in those level three

1352
01:29:57.160 --> 01:29:59.060
and you have a lot more coaches over there

1353
01:29:59.180 --> 01:29:59.980
that can help.

1354
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:05.560
impact things with you. Myself and Ebony are also guys in phase three so

1355
01:30:05.560 --> 01:30:08.960
sometimes we'll still chime in when you're in phase three if you're in

1356
01:30:08.880 --> 01:30:13.860
relationship. I still keep eyes on my girls over there as well so just know

1357
01:30:13.860 --> 01:30:19.200
that as well. All right we're about 15 minutes over but I do want to skim

1358
01:30:19.200 --> 01:30:26.020
through the chat make sure that I didn't miss anything. I gotta go up here make

1359
01:30:26.020 --> 01:30:38.000
sure that I didn't. Okay yeah it was Helen that was at the Disney retreat. Oh

1360
01:30:38.000 --> 01:30:42.480
awesome you guys are gonna go to Magnolia Market for the retreat. That

1361
01:30:42.480 --> 01:30:45.280
would be awesome if it was on a Saturday because then maybe when I'm on my way

1362
01:30:45.280 --> 01:30:52.260
down to Austin I can pop in. I love that place. Their bakery is amazing y'all if

1363
01:30:52.260 --> 01:30:59.700
you've ever been to Magnolia their bakery their coffee shop. I mean I could

1364
01:30:59.840 --> 01:31:04.520
like literally that place is just it's heaven. I imagine that's what heaven

1365
01:31:05.020 --> 01:31:14.620
looks like. Okay Sam we're gonna be praying for you. I'm really sorry to hear

1366
01:31:14.620 --> 01:31:19.740
that you had a family emergency. Take all the time that you need. You even need a

1367
01:31:19.960 --> 01:31:25.260
little bit of time to process with us in the community. We're here for you. It's

1368
01:31:25.260 --> 01:31:32.180
not just about dating. We're here for we're here for all of it. I don't think

1369
01:31:32.360 --> 01:31:37.280
HK is here anymore but I'm glad that she feels like she's okay now. And yeah that

1370
01:31:37.280 --> 01:31:40.580
if it's if dating is online dating is not for her in this moment that's

1371
01:31:40.600 --> 01:31:45.940
totally fine. Yep and that things become idols. Ladies that's always important if

1372
01:31:45.940 --> 01:31:50.660
you realize that dating or online dating is becoming an idol for you like

1373
01:31:50.660 --> 01:31:54.840
again if God is showing that to you and you need to take a step back that's

1374
01:31:54.840 --> 01:32:02.320
totally fine. Again we don't know what God is speaking to you so you have to

1375
01:32:02.320 --> 01:32:07.000
again that's why you having your own personal relationship with God is very

1376
01:32:07.000 --> 01:32:08.140
important. Okay

1377
01:32:15.940 --> 01:32:24.980
nothing is wasted. I love that. Yes yes yes we love we loved we loved Kim's

1378
01:32:24.980 --> 01:32:30.820
update. I love it love it. Yeah some people are gonna have a good good

1379
01:32:30.820 --> 01:32:35.620
impression of our others may not. Again it just depends on where where you're

1380
01:32:35.860 --> 01:32:38.600
located all that stuff.

1381
01:32:43.500 --> 01:32:51.060
Yep yep yep okay just making sure I'm not missing anything. Awesome I love that

1382
01:32:51.060 --> 01:32:55.260
you're in meetup groups. Again yeah if you're not online what ways are y'all

1383
01:32:55.260 --> 01:33:05.840
getting out there? Always always good. Hiking groups perfect. Picnics yep. If

1384
01:33:05.840 --> 01:33:10.660
farmers markets are probably be closing down soon as we get into these cool

1385
01:33:10.660 --> 01:33:15.360
cooler months probably have like another month or two. Farmers markets are also

1386
01:33:15.360 --> 01:33:20.080
really great places that you can meet people strike up conversation and I'm

1387
01:33:20.080 --> 01:33:24.560
talking about strike up conversations with people of all ages because you

1388
01:33:24.560 --> 01:33:37.580
never know who like has a grandson, a cousin, a nephew, an uncle like you just

1389
01:33:37.580 --> 01:33:40.500
never know. You never know.

1390
01:33:47.940 --> 01:33:52.820
Yeah you got to watch out for those friend requests on Facebook. I see that a

1391
01:33:52.820 --> 01:34:01.360
lot. My best advice for those friend requests on Facebook go look at their

1392
01:34:01.360 --> 01:34:06.340
friends page. Go see what their friends with. If they have very minimal amount of

1393
01:34:07.040 --> 01:34:11.220
friends especially if there's a lot of like if it's a man and he's friends with

1394
01:34:11.220 --> 01:34:18.320
a lot of like like 20 women it's a fake page. Like oftentimes what I want to do

1395
01:34:18.320 --> 01:34:22.000
is like I want to like message every single one of those women be like y'all

1396
01:34:22.000 --> 01:34:27.420
realize this man is fake. My husband even said I probably should and I should

1397
01:34:27.420 --> 01:34:33.320
promote and I should promote last year's single to them. You want to learn how to

1398
01:34:33.320 --> 01:34:38.760
not get duped by these men come come join me in this community. What did you

1399
01:34:38.760 --> 01:34:43.680
want to say Sarah Shell? If you scroll down you can even see where it says like

1400
01:34:43.680 --> 01:34:49.500
so-and-so and her profile. Like it literally says and her profile like

1401
01:34:49.500 --> 01:34:55.760
you look at the posts it's like you know next next next. Yeah exactly so again like

1402
01:34:55.760 --> 01:34:59.980
do your due diligence before accepting. Like my whole thing

1403
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:04.760
As if I don't know you and you don't have mutual friends of mine.

1404
01:35:07.140 --> 01:35:07.580
Deny.

1405
01:35:08.480 --> 01:35:12.220
Well, the other thing I learned to do years, you know, when I was on the dating

1406
01:35:12.220 --> 01:35:17.680
apps and it was catastrophic, let's just put it that way, wrong thing, wrong thing

1407
01:35:17.680 --> 01:35:19.360
for me to do wrong time, everything.

1408
01:35:19.460 --> 01:35:22.360
But I would, I would take a snapshot of the photos.

1409
01:35:22.360 --> 01:35:27.200
So I would literally grab the photo and then I would go into Google image search.

1410
01:35:27.720 --> 01:35:28.980
And it would pull it up.

1411
01:35:28.980 --> 01:35:32.800
It would pull it up like his magazine images and other kinds of stuff

1412
01:35:32.760 --> 01:35:35.120
and, and all different kinds of things.

1413
01:35:35.120 --> 01:35:38.600
And I'm like, okay, next, next, next, next, you know, and some of them

1414
01:35:38.600 --> 01:35:42.800
were literally like the word would say, this is a scam photo because

1415
01:35:42.800 --> 01:35:44.240
it was going after somebody.

1416
01:35:44.320 --> 01:35:47.760
Like, have you watched the online dating?

1417
01:35:48.600 --> 01:35:53.120
I just finished, I just rewatched the date, just dating one Oh one right

1418
01:35:53.120 --> 01:35:56.000
before this call, but I haven't gone to the online dating one yet.

1419
01:35:57.200 --> 01:35:59.840
It's been a hot minute since I watched the online dating one.

1420
01:35:59.980 --> 01:36:04.440
I mean, and I'd have to go back and see, I know when I first joined the program,

1421
01:36:04.480 --> 01:36:10.560
we even had like an online safety thing and we like learned how to

1422
01:36:10.560 --> 01:36:13.000
kind of spot all of that stuff too.

1423
01:36:13.040 --> 01:36:16.800
And that's why I say like, anytime you ladies are on and you have

1424
01:36:16.840 --> 01:36:20.760
questions, like post the stuff in the app and we'll, we'll help

1425
01:36:20.760 --> 01:36:22.520
you decipher all that too.

1426
01:36:22.960 --> 01:36:24.380
And I'm like, I'm like HK.

1427
01:36:24.460 --> 01:36:26.200
I think it was HK who mentioned it.

1428
01:36:26.200 --> 01:36:30.840
You know, it was like, my time is too valuable to me to be

1429
01:36:31.300 --> 01:36:33.760
playing with a bunch of scammers.

1430
01:36:33.840 --> 01:36:38.280
You know, I just like, no, if I'm God protected and God defended,

1431
01:36:38.580 --> 01:36:40.560
then God, you can, you know, you can do this.

1432
01:36:40.580 --> 01:36:41.080
You're God.

1433
01:36:41.320 --> 01:36:41.780
I'm not.

1434
01:36:41.960 --> 01:36:42.280
Well, there we go.

1435
01:36:42.400 --> 01:36:43.040
And that's what I'm saying.

1436
01:36:43.100 --> 01:36:47.580
Like, if that's, if you've, if you have peace about that, then, then let's,

1437
01:36:47.880 --> 01:36:52.820
let's make sure that you're getting out in other areas and figure out, you

1438
01:36:52.820 --> 01:36:55.500
know, how, how else are you getting out and meeting people?

1439
01:36:55.500 --> 01:36:57.520
Well, let's put our focus there.

1440
01:36:57.780 --> 01:37:01.240
I'm looking at moving because there is literally nothing that

1441
01:37:01.240 --> 01:37:03.120
interests me where I currently am.

1442
01:37:03.520 --> 01:37:06.340
I have explored it for three years and I'm like, are you kidding me?

1443
01:37:06.360 --> 01:37:08.540
People like, this is what you call entertaining.

1444
01:37:09.220 --> 01:37:10.600
This is what you call fun.

1445
01:37:11.440 --> 01:37:14.120
And, and I've, and I've asked, where are you wanting to move to?

1446
01:37:14.600 --> 01:37:18.100
Actually want to move down to Sarasota or back to, or back to Naples.

1447
01:37:18.800 --> 01:37:19.240
Okay.

1448
01:37:19.800 --> 01:37:23.440
Because I mean, I've literally asked people who have lived here for like 20, 30, 40

1449
01:37:23.440 --> 01:37:23.840
years.

1450
01:37:24.700 --> 01:37:25.980
Wichita, Kansas.

1451
01:37:26.280 --> 01:37:26.840
Okay.

1452
01:37:27.340 --> 01:37:27.760
Oh yeah.

1453
01:37:27.760 --> 01:37:28.720
Get yourself by beach.

1454
01:37:28.780 --> 01:37:30.340
I see that beach behind you.

1455
01:37:30.340 --> 01:37:30.860
Oh yes.

1456
01:37:30.900 --> 01:37:32.300
I am totally a beach girl.

1457
01:37:32.540 --> 01:37:36.600
I am totally let's get you to be where I'm here, you know, where it's like,

1458
01:37:39.160 --> 01:37:45.120
so let's, are you starting to like pray and ask God to like, um, show

1459
01:37:45.120 --> 01:37:48.720
you ways to start that shift?

1460
01:37:48.880 --> 01:37:53.000
I have been praying and asking God about this for three years.

1461
01:37:53.520 --> 01:37:53.960
Okay.

1462
01:37:54.260 --> 01:37:58.280
And he did some major work that took me all the way back to the womb and all the

1463
01:37:58.280 --> 01:38:01.200
way back to things by being here.

1464
01:38:01.760 --> 01:38:02.200
Okay.

1465
01:38:02.200 --> 01:38:04.180
That he couldn't have done elsewhere.

1466
01:38:04.240 --> 01:38:06.840
And he's done that this year, which was great.

1467
01:38:07.020 --> 01:38:09.140
And he told me, he goes, that's why I had to bring you here.

1468
01:38:09.380 --> 01:38:12.180
Besides what I originally brought you here.

1469
01:38:12.340 --> 01:38:14.540
It's why I kept you here is what he said.

1470
01:38:14.840 --> 01:38:19.040
You know, not why he said why he originally invited me here to help other

1471
01:38:19.040 --> 01:38:19.400
people.

1472
01:38:20.620 --> 01:38:21.700
Um, which I did that.

1473
01:38:21.700 --> 01:38:23.880
I did that for you, right?

1474
01:38:24.260 --> 01:38:25.400
This has been a season.

1475
01:38:25.540 --> 01:38:29.320
That's been very, he literally stripped every friend.

1476
01:38:29.440 --> 01:38:31.420
I mean, everything was stripped away.

1477
01:38:32.540 --> 01:38:40.580
Everything that I used nature wise, joy wise, anything stripped away,

1478
01:38:41.600 --> 01:38:43.100
absolutely stripped away.

1479
01:38:43.160 --> 01:38:45.320
So every time Bethany said, go out and have fun.

1480
01:38:45.340 --> 01:38:51.220
And I felt like going, yeah, let me just give you a different finger, but that's

1481
01:38:51.220 --> 01:38:51.700
not Christian.

1482
01:38:52.500 --> 01:38:54.700
Like, Oh, there's something.

1483
01:38:54.960 --> 01:38:54.960


1484
01:38:54.960 --> 01:38:56.960
There's, there's something that's got to go.

1485
01:38:57.380 --> 01:38:58.740
There was literally nothing.

1486
01:38:58.740 --> 01:39:03.760
I mean, I have gone to every single type of, and I'm like, These people are like

1487
01:39:03.760 --> 01:39:05.080
into football and pickleball.

1488
01:39:05.120 --> 01:39:08.400
And I'm like, first of all, I didn't even know what the hell pickleball was.

1489
01:39:08.440 --> 01:39:10.680
I'm thinking like, you're throwing pickles at each other.

1490
01:39:10.760 --> 01:39:12.840
I'm like, that's been like a big craze.

1491
01:39:13.100 --> 01:39:14.920
Like it just like exploded.

1492
01:39:15.020 --> 01:39:16.520
What are you talking about?

1493
01:39:16.600 --> 01:39:19.620
And then the other thing is like, they're like, they're all into football.

1494
01:39:20.360 --> 01:39:24.960
I couldn't give a rat hooey about any sport.

1495
01:39:24.960 --> 01:39:25.120
Yeah.

1496
01:39:25.120 --> 01:39:26.360
Cause you're in Kansas, right?

1497
01:39:26.380 --> 01:39:29.180
So Kansas city cheese, like everybody's on that kick.

1498
01:39:29.900 --> 01:39:31.020
Oh yeah.

1499
01:39:31.300 --> 01:39:33.820
Like even from the platform from church.

1500
01:39:33.900 --> 01:39:36.640
And I'm like, seriously, kick it out of the church.

1501
01:39:36.940 --> 01:39:43.140
So let me ask you what, what things do you, like, if you, if that's no pickleball,

1502
01:39:43.400 --> 01:39:46.660
no, no football, what, what do you enjoy?

1503
01:39:46.680 --> 01:39:47.880
Like, what do you like?

1504
01:39:47.900 --> 01:39:49.420
Like what brings you joy?

1505
01:39:49.620 --> 01:39:50.740
Oh my God.

1506
01:39:50.740 --> 01:39:53.860
Underwater photography, nature photography, where there's beauty.

1507
01:39:54.080 --> 01:39:59.700
I used to live in Hawaii and I found out that I was massively gifted in that.

1508
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:04.740
build in that it was just it was God you know it wasn't me let's get let's get

1509
01:40:04.740 --> 01:40:09.580
you to a beach girl the worst miss the biggest well one of the biggest regrets

1510
01:40:09.580 --> 01:40:14.180
of my life was ever leaving Hawaii making my marriage more important when

1511
01:40:14.180 --> 01:40:19.520
God had sent us there you know it was leaving that I my whole life was magical

1512
01:40:19.520 --> 01:40:24.000
there I mean there's no other way to say it it was you have any I couldn't screw

1513
01:40:24.000 --> 01:40:29.400
it up I've ever tried well where you can you can definitely redeem that right

1514
01:40:29.400 --> 01:40:36.300
God's gonna redeem that for you yeah do you want do you want to go back to Hawaii

1515
01:40:36.300 --> 01:40:41.940
or do you feel like Florida is more to be honest I actually want to leave the

1516
01:40:42.080 --> 01:40:47.940
country I've oh I've never felt like America was my country okay I never felt

1517
01:40:47.940 --> 01:40:53.320
like it was my home the only place I've ever the first place I ever felt the

1518
01:40:53.480 --> 01:40:59.180
energy of home like I belong here like this is oh this is where I belong okay

1519
01:40:59.180 --> 01:41:04.680
was Hawaii the next place was Tahiti the next place was Australia the next place

1520
01:41:04.680 --> 01:41:08.740
was Santorini Crete and Ireland amazingly every single one is an island

1521
01:41:09.140 --> 01:41:14.160
you have are you able to plan any trips coming up do you have the ability to do

1522
01:41:14.160 --> 01:41:20.460
that I'm looking I'm looking at a trip to a conference that I want to in South

1523
01:41:20.460 --> 01:41:24.980
and I can stop and visit friends along the way and then I was going to take a

1524
01:41:24.980 --> 01:41:28.860
detour down like to Sarasota and you know and back down there and go okay

1525
01:41:28.860 --> 01:41:34.220
Lord is this still the place for me because literally since I was born I'm

1526
01:41:34.220 --> 01:41:38.560
like I don't feel like I belong here like I'm supposed I've loved

1527
01:41:38.700 --> 01:41:43.960
international travel my whole life have you have you been to see have you ever

1528
01:41:43.960 --> 01:41:48.000
been to see us the key in Sarasota have you ever been to Sarasota yeah you're

1529
01:41:48.000 --> 01:41:52.560
a key I've been to see us to key I've been I think a semi I've lived in

1530
01:41:52.560 --> 01:41:56.320
Orlando I lived in Naples I lived in Clearwater I've lived in Tampa you know

1531
01:41:56.320 --> 01:42:03.140
so I know those yeah I can just picture you like go out and see us a key that

1532
01:42:03.820 --> 01:42:09.440
beautiful courts white sand beach just go and have some like prayer time on

1533
01:42:09.980 --> 01:42:17.380
that cool sand and just pray and let God speak to you like that was one of my

1534
01:42:17.380 --> 01:42:22.040
favorite things to do is just go out there when it's quiet especially if you

1535
01:42:22.040 --> 01:42:27.120
can go during a season when there's not a lot of tourists hmm and just let the

1536
01:42:27.120 --> 01:42:31.500
Lord speak to you and see what he can what he'll reveal to you and like where

1537
01:42:31.500 --> 01:42:37.240
he wants to call you I mean I look at me that was over you that you know God's

1538
01:42:37.240 --> 01:42:44.000
gonna just direct you to get down there and he's just gonna speak to you and

1539
01:42:44.000 --> 01:42:50.040
he's gonna direct you where you need to go and he's gonna he's gonna he's gonna

1540
01:42:50.040 --> 01:42:56.480
direct you home he's gonna bring you to your place of joy yeah because it's

1541
01:42:56.480 --> 01:43:03.480
certainly not here let's get you to where you need to be and in doing what

1542
01:43:03.480 --> 01:43:08.820
you love and I love that like underwater photography and like you need to be near

1543
01:43:08.820 --> 01:43:13.940
water oh totally even just that background that I see like you need to

1544
01:43:13.940 --> 01:43:19.560
be near water yeah that's Naples the background I love Naples yeah I'm down

1545
01:43:19.560 --> 01:43:23.260
there yeah I would walk the beach four or five times a week and I would be

1546
01:43:23.260 --> 01:43:26.140
there like five o'clock in the morning six o'clock in the morning so I would

1547
01:43:26.140 --> 01:43:29.960
then leave like nine o'clock you know eight nine o'clock in the morning so it

1548
01:43:29.960 --> 01:43:35.040
was people weren't around I was always that was my God time that was my God

1549
01:43:35.040 --> 01:43:40.480
connection time and stuff and it's just been very challenging being in a place

1550
01:43:40.480 --> 01:43:49.700
where it that has like no water I get that I get that definitely a water

1551
01:43:50.440 --> 01:43:58.800
person to a lot of lakes I've lived in Austin it has a lot of water there too

1552
01:43:58.800 --> 01:44:04.840
and that's you know at least it has moving water you know I just need to be

1553
01:44:05.620 --> 01:44:13.460
near water yeah so all right well yeah we're praying for you girl all right

1554
01:44:13.460 --> 01:44:18.080
we're here for you we're here to to be there for you any way that we can okay

1555
01:44:18.560 --> 01:44:24.800
yeah I'm glad I'm glad you're always here showing up all right all right I

1556
01:44:24.800 --> 01:44:32.120
think I got through most of the chat here love it love it

1557
01:44:33.320 --> 01:44:37.120
love it love it love it okay ladies thanks for sticking it out

1558
01:44:37.120 --> 01:44:43.520
Lori good to see you all right ladies I will see you all next week don't forget

1559
01:44:43.520 --> 01:44:48.060
to jump on Ebony's call tonight if you can and I will see you ladies next week

1560
01:44:48.060 --> 01:44:48.800
all right