There we go.
And welcome you all to, it is 11-11, 2025.
It's your Tuesday heart check-in, it's the one o'clock Eastern call.
I'm Carla Johnson, I'm one of your coaches here at Last Year Single.
I am a success story.
I've been with Jackie since the very beginning in 2020 when she launched.
And I am now, I've been married a little over two years.
In fact, what's crazy about today, ladies, is this day,
three years ago exactly, is when my husband reached out to me on my DMs, okay?
And a week prior to that is when I had a conversation with Jackie,
and I was like, all right, that's it.
I'm throwing in the towel, I just, I'm done, all right?
Now, I had been done for a hot minute and
just was avoiding the conversation with Jackie.
But she encouraged me, she talked me off the ledge,
which she's done that many times.
And she just, she spoke a great word and she allowed me to borrow her faith.
And if you were on Supernatural Saturday Call This Saturday,
you might have heard a little bit of that.
The same word she released on Saturday is very similar to what she shared with me
three years ago.
So I want that to encourage you, get a hold of that, full circle.
So just be encouraged with that.
So yeah, three years ago today, my husband reached out to me.
And so if you haven't listened to Supernatural Saturday, please do.
I don't know about you all, but today, how's everybody feeling today?
Throw it in the chat if you wanna unmute.
I got some thumbs up, Sam's kind of shaking her head, okay.
How's everybody feeling?
I'll be honest, I'm exhausted, y'all.
I have, I really feel that the similar,
like that similar feeling of just distraction,
exhaustion is wanting to creep in.
And I sat with that a little bit today before jumping on this call.
And I'm like, of course, this is the fourth quarter, all right.
Those of you that listen to Supernatural Saturday know exactly what I'm talking
about.
We're, it's fourth quarter breakthrough, all right.
Jackie released that word to me almost three years ago.
And when she told me about it, I thought she was nuts.
She told me I didn't have the year that I wanted, but
I got the year that I needed.
That it was 2022, I thought that was gonna be the year that I was gonna get married,
y'all, cuz that's kind of what we spoke over our movement.
2022 is the year of the bride, Genesis 2.22.
When a man finds a wife, he finds favor with the Lord.
No, that's, no wait, that's Proverbs 18.22.
Genesis 2.22 is like, why, like it's right there.
It was in my wedding vows, like it was.
Hey, Gail, can you do me a favor and mute?
Cuz I'm having a hard time hearing Carla.
And I can do that now, too.
Thank you, thank you, Gail.
Sorry, I didn't even catch that.
And I know how to do it now, too, cuz someone showed me how to do that last week.
And now I know.
Yeah, like I was saying, so Genesis 2.22 is like, when God creates Eve,
and Adam is like, bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh, like this is my woman, you know?
And so 2022 was supposed to be that year, and I claimed it.
I was like, I'm getting married this year.
Y'all, it was November.
I had no potentials.
I was exhausted.
I was tired.
I was distracted.
I didn't feel like I was, you know, succeeding as a single mom.
And the dating scene, I was like, I clearly don't know what I'm doing.
And Jackie said, you know, you didn't get the year you wanted,
but you got the year that you needed.
And she told me, she goes, Carla, I, I think you're still going to be able to
meet your spirit mate by the end of the year, y'all it's November.
It was November 4th when I talked to her and it's November 11th today.
So I'm sitting there thinking like, it's the holidays.
What do you mean?
I'm going to meet my spirit mate.
This is the holiday season.
I am a single mom.
I'm exhausted.
I'm tired.
I'm failing.
I'm discouraged.
I'm given up.
There's no way this is going to happen.
She's like, no, borrow my faith, borrow my faith.
Like, you know, and she, she inevitably released that fourth quarter breakthrough.
Word.
So when she shared that this weekend, I'm like, Oh my goodness.
This is literally like three years to the date.
And I'm like, Oh man, this is so good.
Y'all.
And so I'm sitting with that today.
And I'm like, well, no wonder I'm feeling exhausted, drained and tired.
This is because it's that end of the year.
And that's that.
We're about to have some breakthrough because that
breakthrough can still happen.
We all want to sit here and focus on what, Oh, you know what the year's done.
Let's just go ahead and focus on what's going to happen next year.
Y'all the year's not over yet.
It's not over yet.
And so I just want you, if you haven't listened to that supernatural
Saturday, definitely do it, listen to it, be encouraged.
Um, get your fourth quarter breakthrough, get your full circles.
The siege is over.
We're we're not done yet.
Like the, there's still some great things that's going to happen.
And if it can happen for me, it can happen for anyone.
Okay.
So again, like Jackie said, regardless, if this is about your
spirit mate, if this is about a job, is this about your finances?
Is this about your location?
Is this about, you know, relationships with, you know, your children,
your family, whatever it is, like there's still time to the, to this year.
Okay.
So, like I said, I, I've been feeling very exhausted and tired.
So I really want to pray into that this, this, um, afternoon before we get started.
And then I will take questions from you ladies.
I know Gail is going to, um, she's going to share.
So Gail, if you can go ahead and throw your avatar hand up, I
am going to let you go to first.
I've got Leah and then McKenzie and then anybody else that
wants to dive in with a question.
Please feel free to go ahead and put your avatar hand up.
So I get an idea of how many I've got.
Um, Kelly, I didn't, I did want to mention, I, I saw you make a post a few days ago.
I am going to go back to it.
Like I said, the end, like I have been so distracted and exhausted.
And that's why I'm like, okay, we're going to pray into that today
because something is supposed to happen.
And I'm not going to let that, that exhaustion get to me.
So Kelly, I see you and I am going to get to your post and
anybody else has made a post.
Um, I will get to that as well as Ebony as well.
Okay.
So, um, yeah, let's go ahead and pray.
And then I got five hands up and we'll get started.
Sound good.
All right.
Heavenly father.
I just thank you.
I thank you for the reminder that you are our rest, that we can come to you.
Anytime that we are just feeling exhausted, defeated, that we can
find in you and we get, you are our source.
And so anytime that we are feeling that Lord, we know that, you know, it's,
it's not what your desire is for us to operate in that we just need more of you.
And so I appreciate, and I thank you for the opportunity for us to recognize
when we're feeling and experiencing that so that we can get aligned and centered
with you and sort of, so Lord, I just ask that you just take this time to get,
um, with, with all of us today and just help us get back into alignment with
where you want us, where you want us focused, rejuvenate us.
fill us with your strength, give us supernatural energy Lord. We need you.
Remind us that you are our source and that you've got good things for your
daughters. So Lord I just I give this time to you. I ask that you know just
speak to these women's hearts, open their hearts to any vulnerability, let them
know that this is their safe place, that anything that they're experiencing
whether it is a dating situation, whether they're not dating, whether it's a
heartwork thing, whether it's something that's going on with their family,
whether it's something that they just want to celebrate and they want to
praise you for, that this is the space that they know they can come to and they
can have that here in community. Lord I want you to wrap your arms around them. I
want you to just embrace them. I want you to remind them that they have a
community that is here to support them and love them and just pray for them
that we're here for the good, the bad, the ugly, the excitement, the celebrations,
the successes, the disappointments. We're here for it all and we couldn't do any
of this without you God and so I just thank you. I thank you for all the gifts
and the wisdoms that you bring to each and every one of us here today and in
this community, not just with the leaders but every single member of this
community has something to offer God and I just thank you for that blessing and
so today I just ask that you just bless our time together and just be with us
and yeah let's just let's let's leave here refreshed, rejuvenated, and feeling
better than we came in. In Jesus name, amen.
All right, got any more ladies on? Did anybody jump in? Okay I've got five names
on. All right Gail, I'm gonna I'm gonna leave it to you. So Gail was telling me a
little bit before I hit record and before a lot of you ladies were on, she
is brand new to Phase 2. We're excited to have her here. Is there anybody else
that is brand new to Phase 2? This is your first time to Phase 2 first week.
Maybe this is your first live call. Hi. Jennifer, good to see you. You are
brand new. We're so glad to have you here. Thank you. Just trying to figure it all
out so I'm just here to listen. Yeah, you can listen. If you have questions put them
in the chat. If you have a question throw your avatar hand up. Let me know.
I'm here to answer any and all questions. Again, I will just repeat ladies, I'm here
for all the questions. All the questions about the program. All the questions
about you know what is Phase 2 like. All the questions about heart work. All the
questions about I mean anything and everything. All right, I've been through
it. Okay, I've been with the program for now five years. Okay, I came in as a
married and I've been a coach now for last year single for two years now. So
yeah, I've been through it. So and if I don't know something I know how to find
the answer or I know who to go to to find the answer. So if I can't answer you
I'll get the answer. I might need you to remind me that you had the question that
I didn't answer and I'll encourage you to post it in the app. So for any of you
ladies that are on here that haven't posted in the app I'm going to encourage
you to make sure that you're in the app and using the app. Okay, if you're here
you've probably have been in the app because it's probably the only way that
you would know how to get here. So I know you know how to get there. If you don't
know how to post I can go over those questions still. So yeah, any and all
question like there is no question that is silly. I've probably asked those in my
single when I was single in this this community. So we're just here to support
you support you. We're here to be your biggest cheerleaders. I will also be your
big sister. I will tell you the things that not just what you maybe want to
hear. I'll sometimes tell you the things that maybe you don't want to hear but
need to hear and I will say it with as like loving grace and no judgment
whatsoever and a lot of times when I say it it's because
I've been there. I'm not going to call something out that I probably haven't been called out myself.
Okay, so just know like we're here to support you. We're here to lift you up. We're here to
do whatever it is that we can to make you feel seen, loved, heard, known, supported,
encouraged, all of it. Okay, all right. Gail, so she jumped on. She's now been in Facebook
dating for about a week and she's like, okay, I got like 15 likes and now I've got 27 to 30
conversations going and I am overwhelmed. This is like I'm working it like a job.
And I imagine you're exhausted because I was there too. So Gail, we're going to, I'm going
to let you just share any more, anything else that you feel like you want to share with me
and I'm going to give you some feedback and we're going to, we're going to talk this through.
I can give you some boundaries, like what's going to work for you, what doesn't work for you,
what you're experiencing and we'll navigate this together. Okay. And I'm sure many women on this
call or many women that are going to hear this in replay probably relate to it or at some point
will relate to it. Okay. So what else, is there anything else that you want to share about that?
Yeah, I, for these ladies, I went on to Facebook dating and for the first time last Wednesday and
I started getting up to nine to 15 likes that I was weeding through. And there were some that
were very obvious. And even after we matched, the first comment was obvious. But I have
accumulated like 27 matches that I'm trying to sort out. And so there, the red, there's no red
flags that I see yet, but it's exhausting and I don't know how to weed through them. And so my
question is on this particular site, they don't have a, will you relocate preference? Because
many of them are a couple hundred miles, 250 miles away. A lot of them, the Canada ones,
I started just deleting. I'm not interested. I mean, but I could have asked them, would you
come to the US? I'm just like, and I watched all, I went, I zipped through all of the videos on
accelerator just because I felt like maybe I'm going to grab some ideas here. But I ended up
getting so, I honestly got so much like they weren't reading. I did state I was a Christian
in my profile. And I think that Renee was saying, maybe you shouldn't drop, but
on Facebook, there's all kinds of stuff. So I did put, I was a Christian. And then I started
sexual hits. Like I need you just horrible things. And so I ended up putting on my profile,
like halfway through, um, like maybe Saturday or Sunday I put in parentheses,
I do not believe in sex before marriage. I thought that's going to drive them away.
And I, and, and honestly, it's almost like it's been a challenge. Now I'm getting at worse.
Yeah. Gotcha. Okay. Yeah. So, yeah, I think I don't, I mean, how many of you ladies can, um,
relate to what Gail is experiencing?
Yes. Okay. 100%. So Gail, just understand that what your experience is not abnormal.
I wish I could tell you, um, there's a magical way to get rid of it. Unfortunately,
there isn't, but there is a way to kind of weed it out. And also for us to kind of make sure that
we're checking our heart and guarding our heart and recognizing if, if something is coming up and
how we're responding to it, your bird is so cute. Um, if we're responding to it in a certain way,
that we're going to make sure that we're healing our heart and guarding our heart
and taking care of ourselves. Okay. So, um, few things, um, do you give yourself,
you set yourself time limits when you're on the app?
No. Okay. I'm going to encourage.
you to start giving yourself time limits. That will help you to not feel overwhelmed.
Like it's almost like what something that I have to do is I'm a planner and I'm a planner.
There's really no way around it. I'm a planner but I can sometimes put too much on my plate.
So sometimes what I have to do is I just have to go in my calendar and say,
this is what I'm going to do at this time. And when it's this time and this time,
this is what I'm doing. And after that time is done, I have to remove it. And I cannot look at
it until the next time it's on my calendar. Otherwise, I will get so distracted and
to keep going through it. So I can get lost for hours if I'm just sitting there scrolling.
So if you have to set, ladies, if you have to set a timer or you have to tell a friend like,
I need you to call me at five o'clock every Tuesday afternoon so that I stop
scrolling and swiping, then that's what you do. Whatever works for you,
figure out what is going to work for you to balance and manage your time.
Okay. So for me, it would be like putting it on my calendar, setting a timer and being like,
okay, I'm only giving myself one hour, three days a week. And that's when I'm swiping.
And now one day I might say, okay, Monday, I'm swiping. Wednesday, I'm replying to messages.
Friday is when I'm having conversation. So that will help tremendously. Two is if when,
if you ladies are getting overloaded with so many likes and so many conversations,
I want you to give yourself permission to stop, read through, spend a minute
and ask the Lord, do I swipe? Do I not swipe? Do I like, do I not like,
do I engage in conversation? Do I not engage in conversation?
If you, if in your spirit, it's like, yeah, no, I don't, I don't like that. No,
I don't know if I want that. It's okay to say no. If you are being bombarded. Okay. Now you ladies
that are like, I'm not getting any likes, I'm not getting any dates, but you're literally swiping.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And you're not giving anybody a chance.
Then I wouldn't be giving this advice. Okay. So I, again, when, when myself or Ebony or any of
the coaches here at last year, signal signal single are giving feedback and wisdom and, um,
advice know that we are coaching to a group and we're always going to be coaching with balance
here. Okay. So, um, if you are someone that you're like, I literally have 50 conversations
going on. Okay. We're going to tell you to take some of those off your plate.
We don't want you feeling overwhelmed. All right. Now, if you're like,
constantly, like no one's like me, well then, okay. You might, I'm, I'm exiting this guy,
this guy, this guy, and you're literally just given no grace to guys. That's the other extreme.
Okay. I'm going to ask you questions based on where you're at. So I'm going to figure out
where on the scale are you, and we're going to coach you from there. Okay. So Gail's in the
situation. She's got 30 conversations going. Now she's being inundated with men, having sexual,
nasty comments. I like y'all. I like, I wish there was a way to weed those guys out. I really
do. And I know how absolutely discouraging and annoying and frustrating and disgusting it is when
men behave that way. And it's, it's not right. It's not okay. My best encouragement to all of
you ladies is do not engage less than, which doesn't necessarily mean you have to tell them
that you're blessing them and you block them.
You X them, you block them from even seeing you.
You don't even have to tell them you are blocking them.
They crossed a boundary, you shut it down.
And you don't even have to defend yourself,
explain yourself, none of that.
If men are crossing a sexual boundary
and being completely inappropriate,
you don't have to tolerate it.
So if any of you ladies ever feel like,
well, I'm supposed to be kind,
and I'm supposed to be this,
no, we're gonna have a conversation about that.
So if any of you ladies ever feel that way,
that's a hard thing, and we'll get to that.
And we wanna figure out where that root is,
and we wanna help you with that.
Because that's, no, I don't tolerate
that kind of stuff at all.
And I don't ever want you ladies to feel like
you have to subject yourself to something
because it's not feminine.
Does that make sense?
Or, because I know that can sometimes be the stigma.
So we can always have conversations about that.
So no, if you're ever experiencing it,
we're here to talk through that.
So you were sharing about,
you have Christian on your thing,
and then, but you were saying
that you were listening to Renee's,
were you listening to the online dating video?
Yeah, okay.
So that, okay, one thing that I am gonna share,
so Gail, you said that you just came into phase two,
correct?
I'm gonna, this is the first week.
I'm gonna tell you to pump the brakes a little bit, okay?
And here's why.
We want you to do one video a week.
So we have Love Story Accelerator,
we have Dating 101, we have Divine Feminine,
and then we have Online Dating.
So you're already into that fourth week of video.
You're in week one.
You're cool if you just focus on Love Story Accelerator,
the kickoff video.
Focus on that one video, press into that one,
what's the Lord speaking to you about that one,
and let's start there.
Okay, that doesn't mean that,
if you wanna stay on the app, you can,
and we can put into practice some of the things
that I'm gonna talk to you about, okay?
Like, we're gonna put timeframes
on how often you're on the app, okay?
We can talk about what you got on your profile,
and that this goes for all of you ladies.
If you are talking about, if you're on a profile
and you don't know what to put on there,
and you're like, I put this and I'm getting this,
ladies, screenshot your profile, post it in the app.
Myself and Ebony will read through it,
we will give you feedback.
If you wanna type everything that you think you're gonna,
like, this is what I'm sharing in my profile,
is there anything that I need to add?
Is there anything that I need to remove?
What's your take on this?
Like, if you were to read this,
like, how would you perceive it?
As a coach, like, what do you think I need to do?
We will give you that feedback,
and we can coach you from there.
So again, understand that when you all are watching
that training content, we are speaking to a whole group,
and it's all about balance, okay?
So yes, we're gonna express,
you may not want to come out full throttle,
like, I'm a lover of Jesus, Christian this,
no sex before marriage, da-da-da.
Like, some people are gonna be like, whoa, okay?
But there's a balance to it,
because I also am one of those people that I'm like,
but I'm not ashamed to let people know that I'm a Christian.
So I'm gonna put on there, faith is important to me.
Okay, I'm not gonna go in
and start doing this missionary dating
and start preaching to these men
that I have no idea who they are.
That's not my place, okay?
I'm dating, I'm not, like, if God's calling me
to the missions, he's not gonna be calling me
to mission men in a dating app, okay?
That's not what he's doing, okay?
So I can just literally show up as like,
look, I'm here to get to know people
and show up as who I am.
I am, and get to know you better, all right?
I don't know who you are, you're a stranger,
so I'm not gonna give you any more information
than you need.
I'm not gonna give you over information.
I'm not gonna hold it against a guy
if he's giving me too much information,
but I am gonna draw boundaries,
and I am going to redirect.
I'm gonna learn how to do that.
It's okay, ladies, if you don't know how to do that.
We're here to coach you through that.
It's okay to make mistakes.
We're not all about hard rules.
We're here about guardrails, okay?
We're just here to coach you through all of it,
because we understand you all are on your own journey.
Some of you are gonna be over here,
some of you are gonna be here,
some of you may be all the way over here,
or all the way over here.
We totally get it,
and we're gonna meet you where you are at, okay?
So, if you notice, as soon as you put,
I don't believe in sex before marriage,
and now you're just getting all the men,
just take it off, take it off.
And again, if they say something to you
that's inappropriate, don't engage in it,
don't respond to them, block them.
Bless them in your spirit, and block them.
Check your spirit, check your heart,
where is your heart?
What thoughts, feelings, emotions are surfacing in you,
and is it an area that God's wanting to highlight to you
to heal?
Okay, I had, in the very beginning,
I would get really easily offended
at just some of the nasty behavior of men.
I had to work through that,
to the point that it was more of what the beliefs I had
about myself, that when they would say that,
it would make me think how I would think about myself.
And so, I had to get to the root of that,
and work on my identity in Christ.
And once I got healing through that,
when those things happened, they didn't face me anymore.
I would just click and move on.
And it wouldn't even bother me anymore.
And that's when I was like, whoa, God is changing my heart.
So, I want you ladies to feel encouraged with that,
and I also want you to know,
it's okay if you're struggling with that too.
We're here to help you.
So, maybe take that off.
You can put that you're a Christian,
you can put all of those things,
and again, post your profile,
we'll give you feedback on that.
You get to also decide who you talk to and who you don't.
You don't have to talk to every single person
that strikes up a conversation with you.
You can put parameters on things that you're willing.
If they don't live within a certain radius,
like so many miles,
you don't have to engage.
It's okay to be like,
I don't think I'm ready to have conversations with that.
Now, if you kind of get a check in your spirit,
like, hmm, am I passing up on somebody, whatever,
we're gonna either ask you,
is that a scarcity mindset that we need to address,
that you feel like you're gonna miss out
on your spirit mate?
Is it a guilt thing that you're feeling,
like I'm not giving anybody any chances?
Am I giving too many people too many chances?
We're gonna get to the root
of what it is that you're experiencing.
Does that make sense?
Yeah, I should say that my daughter met her husband online.
We live in New York and her husband was from Louisiana
and he relocated.
And then when I went to a divorce care group,
the couple that were leading it,
actually, that's how I found out about,
oh, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that.
Anyways, the couple had been married by Jackie
and she lives in New York and he lives in Texas.
So I'm seeing actually the dating realm,
I'm seeing two solid, wonderful Christian marriages
from people far, far away.
So that's my-
I live in Texas.
No, I was living in Florida
and I was one of the little girls who was like,
I'm not relocating.
She's gonna have to move here.
I live in paradise.
God was like, okay, we'll see how that works for you.
I stayed single for a minute, a couple of years.
And finally I was like, all right.
Lord, you're going to have to just, whatever.
God's like, okay, you're finally ready to let go of the pen.
Now I can like, now do you want to see me?
You want to, you want to meet your husband?
And so, yes.
So the relocation can happen.
So here's my advice with that, if you are willing to relocate or you're
willing to date long distance and would like, are you willing to date
long distance and have them relocate?
Are you willing to relocate?
Okay.
So this is how you do this in your profile.
You can say I'm open to long distance.
I am not unable to relocate, but I'm open to long distance.
If someone is willing to relocate themselves.
Can I ask you why you're not willing to relocate?
Do you feel like that is a like non-negotiable from heaven?
Like God has told you like, nope, you're here.
You're staying here.
You're not leaving.
Or can this be something you hold loosely?
Um, I have three of my four children within 15 minutes of me and I have 14
grandchildren and I, I always have said family first, so it, to me, it's very,
very hard to think of moving away from my close knit family.
I guess maybe down, I'm not going to say never.
Okay.
Never say never.
So, um, but it would be very hard for me to leave.
And I get that.
Cause I was someone who was like, I'm not, I'm not relocating.
It took me, that took me a minute.
Okay.
And I'm not saying that, you know, anybody that's saying like, no, I won't
means that, Oh, once you release it, then your husband's going to come.
Cause I'm not, that's not what I'm saying again.
Like, don't read into that.
Um, but I like that you're saying, okay, this is, this would be
challenging for me and this is why.
And it, it sounds like you have an open heart and an open mind that
you're willing for God to work on you.
God had to take two years to work on me with that.
And Jackie and God and everyone in this community was very patient with me.
And they understood it.
And so, and like I said, and God was very patient with me and
God's timing was really good.
He knew, he knew what needed to happen and he revealed it very, very clear to me.
Like that's how good he was.
So, um, I would suggest saying, Hey, um, you know, I'm Gail.
I have, you know, I have, you know, four wonderful children, 14
grandchildren, they're dear to my heart.
They all live, you know, very close to me.
Um, I, I can't imagine not living, you know, far from them.
I am open to, to long distance dating, but would prefer if someone would be
willing to relocate as I'm not sure that would be something that would be
something that I would be interested in, but would be willing to get to know
someone I'd be willing to get to know the right person.
If they happen to be long distance, you're being open to that.
Now, when you put that in your profile, ladies, it doesn't always
mean that these men read it.
Okay.
And so they might just start striking up a conversation, but this is
where that level one comes in.
And that's from dating one-on-one.
So if you have not gotten to that video, don't worry.
You can get to that in week two, week three or four.
If you need to kind of take your time and you're just getting to
know them surface level questions, you read their profile, you see if
there's any interesting that anything interesting about them that sparks your
interest, is there something about their profile, what they said, what they've
shared, what you see that you want to learn more about, then if you feel led
to continue the conversation, do it.
Understand that all men are great conversationalist.
Okay.
Be willing to ask questions, be understanding that they might
not ask a lot of questions, you know, be willing to have some of
the uncomfortable back and forth and just let it flow.
But know that if it's not flowing, you don't have to stay in it.
You could be reciprocating that if they're not reciprocating.
Okay.
Well, you, if you got a couple other conversations.
on the side, you don't have to, right?
And then as you're getting a few exchanges,
you can say, oh, I see you live in,
I see you live in Texas.
I've only been to, you know, San Antonio before
and I went back there and this like, whereabouts in Texas?
You know, I live here, have you ever been there before?
Have you ever thought about coming?
You can start striking up some conversation
and then as you guys start talking about location,
then you can share like,
then they know where you're at, you know where they're at
and then if there's an issue, they can share it
or you can say, hey, I'm not sure if you saw my profile.
I am open to long distance, but I do wanna make it clear
that I'm not sure relocation is in my future
unless it's with the right person
and it would, God would really need to highlight
that that's what his heart is for me.
Does that help?
I'm hoping this is helping not just Gail,
I'm hoping this is helping all of you
because I do know this is something that many, many, many
ladies that jump into phase two, okay, good.
Ashley is saying, ooh, that's helpful, good.
I'm thankful because I know I'm taking a lot of time
on this, but I like being able when we get questions
like this ladies, I like, these to me
are those teachable moments where myself
and Ebony get to coach from.
Like we don't, we used to come in here
with like things specifically we were gonna coach on.
Now we kind of let Holy Spirit come in
and drive it by y'all's questions
because we wanna address what are you experiencing
in this moment and so I love these moments
to be able to have these teachable moments.
So I am thankful, this is good.
Okay, Michelle, Mika, I love it, wonderful.
Okay, if we have any more questions about profile stuff,
come next week, post in the app,
we can dive in a little bit more on that as well, okay.
I'm gonna get to Leah, Mackenzie, Mika and Megan.
I see Sam has posted something good here.
The Lord moved me here partly, I believe,
to meet my husband, this is the verse God gave me
when I was praying, fasting about moving here to Texas.
She's a Texas girl, all right, we're both in the DFW area.
So you're not born and raised here in Texas, are you?
Neither am I, so we're transplants,
I guess, is that what they call them, transplants?
I was a transplant in Florida too,
but then I lived there forever
so I could just kind of claim Florida.
I am the people where everyone is born
and I have cut off all your enemies from before you
and I will make you a great name
like that of the great men of the earth.
I will appoint a place for my people, Israel,
and will plant them so that they may live
in a place of their own and not be disturbed.
Again, 2 Samuel 7, 9 through 10.
So I love that, just, yeah, be willing to be made willing.
God's not gonna put you somewhere,
he's not gonna plant you and help you with roots.
He really won't.
There might be stretching involved.
I can share from my own experience.
I was really resistant to moving
and even after I moved and even in my season
of being a newlywed and blending a family,
being away from where I called home for many, many years
has not been easy.
But if y'all been in the program for a minute,
y'all know what Jackie says, it doesn't have to be easy,
it just has to be worth it.
And it hasn't been easy, but I do believe it's worth it.
There is a stretching and there's a growing
and there are full circle moments
that I even get to step into.
Like God has been using that word over this community,
even in my life and I'm not single anymore,
but that's how this community operates.
You know, we're still in this together.
Like we're about to kick off even a group for all of you
that when y'all get married,
y'all get to stay in this community
and go through the engagement in the marriage process.
We wanna be here to support you
because as someone who's literally been in marriage
for two years now, you're gonna go through some stuff.
And we wanna be here.
for you. You're going to need a community to be there for you.
And so it's important. And yeah, so thank you for sharing that
scripture. I really appreciate it. Yeah, Rachel, it's above
you got it girl. Okay, I think that's it. Okay, Leah, let's
let's hear your update. I know you had some some of your own
little personal assignments. I don't know if you want to update
us with that. If you have a question, what's happening in
your world, Leah?
Okay, so last week, I did ask George that lives in Nevada for
a video video call. And, and he was very open to that he was
even thinking of asking me himself. And we've, we've
but he's kind of in a transition period of his life where he just
re just retired. And he moved to Nevada where he's never lived
before. He just chose that place and is in the process of trying
to buy a home and a fixer upper and wants to have chickens and
all these things and very remote and off the grid.
I remember you saying that he's kind of in like the middle of
Yeah, and he doesn't know if he's gonna like it there. He's
he's thinking that. I mean, he's he's coming up against a lot of
roadblocks with the banks. And he's got the information they
needed. But you know, a lot of the banks don't want to fund
something that's that he wants to buy. So. So I'm not really. I
I'm not into that still. And, you know, we have phone
conversations, but I know he's not settled. And I'm not into
what his lifestyle is. Yeah. But he's a really solid guy. And I
could
get it. It's a yes until it's a no. Like, you're having a
conversation. You're out meeting other people. And right now,
it's okay. You're getting to know other people. Now, if
you're getting to know other people, and someone else is kind
of rising to the top, like, you know, he's starting to rise a
little bit more. And it's like, okay, this, this guy is like,
you're then Yeah, you're gonna eventually probably be like,
okay, this, this guy will probably eventually kind of
trans transition out. But until then, yeah, you're just getting
to know people.
Yeah. And he's also said, Well, I don't know if I'm gonna like
it, you know, by the time he, you know, lives there for a year
or whatever, he's in this cabin, he's freezing to death. And he
says, you know, I may change my mind, or even if you buy
something, you know, it might last for two years, and he might
fix it up and sell it and move on. Yeah. So it's just, you
know, not something that
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. And you're and you're still
talking to other people, you've got other people that you're,
you know, chatting with, so don't let those slip, keep keep
doing what you're doing. You know, don't put all your eggs
in this basket. And and when other guys kind of start, like I
said, rise into the occasion, don't feel like you have to put
this guy as a priority, be honest and open with him. You
know, y'all aren't exclusive, y'all aren't sharing deep,
intimate details with each other, at least I hope you're
not. Okay, I trust that you're not. And so yeah, you're just,
you're having conversation. Now, I want you just to be cautious
that you're checking your, your emotional connection, that
you're not getting overly attached. If you're someone that
gets easily attached to someone, I want you to make sure that
you're checking yourself and making sure that you're keeping
track of that you're you're checking in with your heart. And
that you're you're sharing that with us here. So we can walk you
through that. But yeah, just keep keep getting to know, keep
doing what you're doing. I think that's, that's good. I'm glad he
finally had a video call with you. That's important, ladies,
like especially when people are long distance, you need to get
that video chat sooner rather than later. I mean, I'm not here
to scare you ladies. But I'm also not going to lie to you and
say that, you know, we there are men out there that are will
scam. There's women out there that scam men. Believe it or
not. It's not just women getting
taken advantage of by men.
Men get taken advantage of by women as well.
So yeah, just get those calls
so that you actually see that they're a real person.
If you are kind of getting a connection with someone
and you wanna see if it's gonna go somewhere,
like you do need to meet the person live in person
within three to six weeks.
But it sounds like Leah,
if he's got things that he's tied up in,
you're not fully like full throttle.
You're still out getting to know people.
Just like I said, make sure you're checking in with yourself
check your emotional connection, check your heart.
And if you start feeling like there's this tug, this pull,
then we're gonna coach you through that.
Sound good?
Yeah, and so then the other guy, Ethan,
that is local that I met through Meet My Age,
and I just signed up for a three month membership
and it's getting ready to expire sometime,
but you can still chat and for free,
but you can only do one message a day.
Okay.
And so I did ask him for coffee.
I said, we've been talking for a couple months now,
how about we go get a cup of coffee?
And so then he said, oh, that would be lovely,
but I'm kind of tied up with life right now.
And he's always very chatty.
And he says, but I would love to keep chatting on here.
And so then I-
So then-
Okay, Leah, I'm gonna stop you for a minute.
I'm gonna ask you a question.
What are you here for?
For marriage.
Can you have a marriage with someone that's caught up
in life and can't meet you for a cup of coffee?
Right.
And it has time to have conversation
with you for several months,
but locally cannot stop for 30 minutes out of his day
to have a cup of coffee with you.
Is that a marriage?
Is that marriage material?
No.
And it's okay.
That does not mean he's a bad guys, ladies.
It just means she knows what she's worth.
She knows what God's placed in her heart and desires.
And she can say, thank you so much for being a pleasant guy.
It's been lovely getting to know you.
I'm here to build relationship
and get to know someone in real life.
I wish you the best of luck.
And that's it.
She doesn't have to feel bad about it.
And she doesn't have to feel rejected about it either.
Does that resonate with any of you ladies?
Leah, how does that make you feel right now?
Yeah, I was trying to decide what to say
because then he gave me a compliment
after that you're a pretty woman.
Because I-
You are, like, of course he needs
to give you that compliment.
I think I said something about that my subscription,
you know, when he said, let's keep it,
you know, let's keep chatting.
And he did come back and say,
I would really like to at another time.
But so who knows?
Well, that's why I say, hey, you know what?
Here's my email.
Here's my Google voice number.
And we haven't really been-
In your mind, this is how you reach me.
We haven't been chatting back and forth a lot.
You know, I haven't been on there,
but maybe once a week for several weeks
because I was chatting more with George
and I just wasn't seeing it going anywhere.
But I did tell him that my subscription was ending.
So I couldn't have like an open chat
only like one message a day.
Yeah, so kind of thinking, well, maybe he would rethink.
And I mean, who knows?
He could be going through something that I don't know.
Exactly, but again, that's why I ask you,
what are you here for?
And that's not me, yeah.
And you're here for marriage.
And if that's not where he's at in his life, that's fine.
He's letting you know that.
that doesn't mean he's a bad guy,
but it also doesn't mean that you have to put your needs
and your desires underneath someone's,
someone else's life and where they're at.
You don't have to sacrifice what your heart desires
for a man that is still a stranger to you.
True.
And so I want you to like press into that.
Like you're here for, ladies, if you're here for marriage,
like I don't want you ladies to feel like you have to
put yourself and your wants and your desires on hold.
Oh, ladies, I feel Holy Spirit on that.
You don't have to put your desires on hold for anyone.
So if you've been someone that you have in your past,
you've not been able to put your desires
before anybody else's, this is for you.
You don't have to do that anymore.
Your desires matter because God put those desires
in your heart.
Those are from your heavenly father.
He put them there for a reason.
You don't have to put yourself second.
I don't know who that's for,
whether it's somebody on this call
or somebody that's in replay.
I want you to take hold of that, ladies,
whoever that's for.
Your desire is your desire,
and God wants you to have your desires of your heart.
That's why he brought you here, ladies.
You're here by design, like divine appointment.
You all are here by divine appointment.
I got here by divine appointment.
You all are here by divine appointment.
I'm telling you there is a super natural anointing
in this community.
I've been here for five years.
I've seen it.
I've witnessed it.
I've seen it.
I've felt it.
I can testify to it.
Y'all are here because you're supposed to be here.
Okay?
Leah, thank you so much for sharing.
Continue to keep me updated.
Like I said, I know I haven't been in the app
for a couple of days, but I'm gonna be jumping in.
So don't, ladies, keep sharing.
Keep letting me know what's happening, okay?
I'm always, I always am reading what's going on.
Even when I don't, even when it's Ebony responds to you,
I'm still going in and reading what you post,
even if Ebony responded.
I'm reading through every single one of your posts, okay?
All right, Mackenzie.
Mackenzie, Mika, and then Megan, okay?
And then I do see, Michelle,
you've got some questions as well.
I think I saw somewhere about men, where we bring the men.
You will just send them to JackieDorman.com.
There is a button for men there.
If you go in the resource tab on the app,
you also have an affiliate link as well
if you sign up for it.
So if you send anybody this program,
you can get paid for that, okay?
So if you want to know more information,
again, you can post in the app as well.
We can answer it there,
or you can look in the resource tab.
So yeah, and I think, Gail, okay, perfect.
Under last tab, yep, perfect.
It sounds like you ladies are directing
everywhere where they need to go.
Video chats, I do Zoom calls.
Or if you do Facebook dating, ladies,
you can, Facebook Messenger, you can video call.
So that's always an option.
And you don't have to be friends with the person
in order to video call them, just so you know.
I don't encourage y'all to friend request
or accept friend requests of people you don't know.
Even if you've been chatting for like a week or two,
you don't know them, okay?
They don't need to, they don't,
especially if you're someone that you're like posting,
like, where are you hanging out?
Posting pictures of you and your friends
or your kids and things like that.
Like, they don't need to know your business.
They're strangers, okay?
That's for your protection.
Yeah, so-
My high school prom photos.
What's that?
My high school prom photos are on there.
Yeah, like, and I was a single mom, so.
I mean, and I had family all over.
So I was posting pictures of my kids.
So my, my profile is like on lock, like what's private is what's public is.
I know it's public.
What's not public.
I know it's not public.
Like I'm not posting all the pictures of my kids out there, my kid out there.
And so I was very like, y'all don't need to know who my kid is, what sport he
plays, where his tournament is, um, what school he goes to, what event we're at,
what vacation we're on now, my close friends and my family, that's fine.
I mean, and I filter it out too.
Like I have filters, I have people in groups.
So when you post things, you literally can post things.
So only certain people in certain groups see that post.
So I'm very picky about that.
So I'm like, especially y'all for all y'all that have children.
Um, yes.
So Michelle, if you have more questions about that, let me know about
giving out numbers and stuff like that.
I I'm always safety first safety, safety first, and we can coach you
and give you feedback on that.
Um, yeah.
And then like that, I, I personally don't like WhatsApp.
I have found that to be more scammy just in my experience.
And I mean, I'm not even talking about dating experience.
Y'all like my kids go to a charter school and all the parents are in a WhatsApp.
And so we literally have groups for every single like kindergarten
through high school, we have parent groups for every single class,
like every single graduating class this year, our entire school got hacked.
And all these numbers started showing up in our groups where
we were talking about our kids.
And all these random, and we were a brand new school.
Like they just opened a school.
So we have a lot of new families.
And so we didn't think anything of it, but then all of a sudden we're like
200 brand new numbers in fourth grade.
There's only 125 kids in fourth grade.
Why, why are there 200 brand new numbers and numbers that we don't know who they
are, they're not putting their names on them.
And we're talking about our children.
And it wasn't just our group.
It was several of the grades.
So I'm not, I don't particularly suggest WhatsApp for connecting with people.
And here's the thing, ladies.
If a guy is on your meeting, like you're talking to somebody on an app, why are
you moving to another app to communicate?
You can email.
You can use a Google number.
You can use zoom and we're having video calls and stuff like that fairly soon.
And you're going to, you're God protected.
You're God defended.
So you're going to know.
And if you don't know, and you're not sure we're, we're here to coach you.
You let us know what like, Hey, Hey Carla.
Like I've been talking to this person.
This is how I'm feeling.
I'm a little anxious about this.
Can you help me with it?
Well, yeah, of course I'm going to help you with it.
Absolutely.
Like, we'll walk you through it.
Well, I'll let, I'll, I will be, I'm I'll be your blind, like your blind spot.
100% myself, Ebony, Jackie, Bethany, Renee, any of our coaches.
Okay.
If we see something, we're going to let you know.
Okay.
So, um, yeah, keep, keep that in mind.
Like you ladies are never, I will never discourage you ladies.
Like, I will never say that you post too much.
I will never say that you come into that app and you post as many times with as
many questions you come and ask as many questions on the chat.
Now I can't answer all the questions on these video calls because
we do have to limit the time.
And those of you that have been with me a while now, I'm a talker.
So you know that I always struggle with time.
Um, and so, yeah, so, but we're here.
All right.
I will, I'll like, we're here to answer your questions.
Um,
All right. Okay. So Mackenzie, Mika, Megan, Laurie, I see that you don't have updates.
Started working with a coach when I wanted to step with, okay, perfect. I love that.
Is that, are you talking about a one-on-one coach outside of last year's single or one-on-one
coach with last year's single? Outside.
Okay, cool. So this is particular for entrepreneurial stuff. That's amazing.
Yeah. You have to go after my creative dreams. God asked me that question, what do you want?
Back in 2018, then my revival group passed her at Bethel. She said it right away to me,
like right when I met her. And then Jackie said that again.
Yeah.
So it's time to answer that.
I'm going to be putting that over you for sure. Then I love that. I love that's the direction.
Like I said, you've had so much growth. It's been such a humbling and just a pleasure to
be on this journey with you. And so I'm really thankful that God is just sending
you in this direction. So we're all cheering you on.
I feel so humbled. Oh my goodness. I'm so thankful for you.
Oh, you're welcome. You're welcome.
I had a late workout, so I'm just through the showers. I have wet hair, but
otherwise I'll pop on.
Thank you for updating.
Yeah. I'm still keeping the... I'm still doing online kind of ebb and flow, but I'm keeping this...
I feel like this is really important for me to answer for myself. It's like creating a life
that regardless of what happens in this department, but I'm also not giving up on this because...
And that's right, ladies.
I feel like I'm right at the seize, like the seize is over moment.
Yes, ladies. And I want to encourage... Laurie, I'm so glad that you shared and Mackenzie and
Mika and Megan, I am going to get to you. I promise I will make the time for you.
So I don't want you to think that I'm ignoring you, but I do love what Laurie said here. And
I really feel something on this. And so I do want to address it.
Ladies, I know y'all are here because you have a desire to be married
and you're single, you're preparing for marriage, but that doesn't mean that God doesn't want to
bless you in other areas of your life. And he's not going to direct you to do other things in
other areas of your life. So if you feel pressed to do that, it's okay to move forward to that.
And it doesn't mean that this gets to take a back. It doesn't mean this is a backseat.
Sometimes it's those promptings and those places when we get pushed into that direction and that
destiny DNA that we're called to is when all those puzzle pieces get put together.
And so Laurie, I think it's great that you feel directed. You have like, I hear the peace
and the joy and the love in your, in your heart. And so I think you're on the right, right move.
You're on the right direction. And I don't even think you have to even worry about like,
it doesn't mean that I'm putting the backseat to that. No, we know that.
Yeah. I think I'm saying that to myself because I will often do like one thing at a time.
And so that's still definitely there, but I'm keeping this really, I feel like this just needs
to be so central because I'm one of the gals that lost myself. What you were saying not very long
ago in the conversation, I'd lose myself. I would become kind of like a supporter of somebody else's
dreams. And I'm like, no, I'm not doing that. So it's just really cool as I've stepped out and
like partnered with this gal that she does a lot with vision, nervous system regulation.
Even like recognizing yesterday was really big. Like that thought that goes around,
around in my mind. That's like, I won't get to, I won't be able to figure this out. She's like,
that's an OCD looping, dysregulated thought doesn't make any sense. And that was such a
big breakthrough for me, but just really cool. Like the things that are coming,
the things that I'm seeing and it just feels, it just feels beautiful and I'm excited about it.
Yeah. And one thing I, one thing I want to share and then I'm going to go to McKinsey.
Yeah. Ladies, the desires of your heart is also linked with your spirit mate.
Yeah. Your spirit mate is your spirit mate till death do you part.
So whatever God has in your destiny DNA is intricately woven into your spirit mate as
well.
So there is partnership there.
If y'all have been around for a minute or you've listened to replays before or heard
Jackie share this, one of our ladies that came to the retreat in Austin a few weeks
ago, she, she's been here, you know, in our group for a few years and she had these like
giant awesome earrings and they were two cans.
Okay.
So anybody that's been around knows that that was like our like spirit mate match because
Jackie released this word of a two can one can't, but two can like the bird, the two
can like, because that's like, that's God's design.
Like y'all like to like, yeah, marriages.
So just know like whatever God has for your life, not just marriage, like marriage is
not the only thing God has in your life.
Yeah.
I would just say that like, it's a really cool time to be doing this because it's like
unhealed heart and my dreams were more ego or like adaptive self.
And now it's like, what is my authentic heart want?
What like, even like, I don't even know what I want.
Like to discover that now, but like, it's like, yeah, doing it with a father and like,
what does my heart really want?
Like he knows, like, yeah.
Oh, I love it.
I love all the things that are unfolding.
It's great.
Yeah.
All right.
Mackenzie.
Lori, sorry to cut you off.
Mackenzie, you're up Mika and then Megan.
Kelly, it's so good to see you.
I see.
I saw you.
You're like, you love the two can analogy.
I'm like, I know one of my girls knows what I'm talking about.
All right.
Mackenzie, what's up?
Hey, so I have, it's been about six weeks since I've been in the, in the, in the, in
the second phase.
And I met a guy like four days in, so we've been talking for six weeks and we talked about
him before.
So I don't know how much to refresh, but long story short, it's felt very aligned and a
lot of prophetic words, just like converging, which has been really cool, but also terrifying
at the same time.
And so just kind of holding on for the ride.
I'm a single mom, three boys and three boys, three boys, they're 10, eight and five.
Yeah.
So navigating all of that, their dad, you're busy.
So anyway, I met this guy, it just happened.
Like my radius wasn't set more than 200 miles, but he lives in California.
I'm in Colorado.
So navigating that, I think he's willing to relocate, but we both have kind of like two
year commitments.
So it could end up being kind of long thing.
So with that in mind, so the boy's dad is very flaky.
He was supposed to fly out next week to see me, but then he's like, Oh, I can't watch
the boys that weekend.
He's going to see his girlfriend.
So of course it fell through.
But my sister lives in LA and his lived in Pasadena.
So I'm actually going to fly out to see my sister for Thanksgiving weekend because the
boys will be with their dad and he's going to follow through because his family's going
to be there and he'll like, actually, yeah, girl, I got you.
So I know breaking the like, he should make the first move to come here, but I'm like,
it just, I put a piece about it.
When you're going to see family, you're going to see your sister and your son's going to
be with his dad's side of the family.
So yeah, you're good.
I like that.
Okay.
So I'll get to see my sister.
I'll stay with her.
She'll hold me accountable.
Well, that's what I'm saying.
And like, and what I like to ladies is like, when you're going to visit somebody or they're
coming to visit you, especially in that first meeting, you don't need to be spending every
moment, every waking moment with that person.
still brand new. Yeah. And a sister a friend or someone or
something other like other things to do in that area to
preoccupy your time and fill your time up. So that it is like
you're only going out for like a date and you might be Oh, let's
meet for breakfast for a couple hours and then you go do
something and then Oh, how about we go hang out and do this in
the afternoon evening. And then I'm going and having dinner like
doing such and such with my sister like you're not spending
you know, four straight days with the complete stranger and
trying to get like that's a lot of pressure y'all.
That's and that's what I felt and he'll be with his mom and
his sister who he hasn't told about me yet. So he will have to
like navigate that so to also hold him accountable. And yeah,
so it just and he was a chef in LA for 10 years. So I'm like
he'll know all the best places to go. So I'm excited to so it
just all kind of fell into place praying that the airlines
figured themselves out so I can go but
which I think I think I think things are looking up.
My question, I guess I was hoping to get some guidance.
Just for like, I think I'm the anxious attachment style. So
God's been really working on my heart of like, that worry and
that anxiety. It's actually pride of like, this is how I
think things should go. And so then like, stressing about that
and just being aware of like, every time I get in the like,
oh, this is the time. He didn't text me for a whole half hour.
And now he's done with me, you know, and like, just coming back
to like, giving it to God. And it's been really fun. Like, the
six weeks has flown by. And it's been really fun to get to know
him. And like, there's just been so many points where I'm like,
it's a yes. So it's a no. And I keep waiting for some no's. But
it's like, anyway, but if you have any advice for like that
anxious, anxious attachment style, like preparing for
meeting him, like the two weeks ahead of time, like how do I
build in that time?
Okay, so my biggest, my biggest thing is about like those
anxious attachment thing is, again, it's always just kind of
being able to identify what is the root of the anxious thought
like, what is the core thought you are believing?
So what, what let's like, I mean, we can do this here for
like, we got a couple minutes here. And I'm going to go to
Mika and Megan.
What thought surfaces? Like, give me an example. What's the
first thing that comes up when you think like an anxious
thought that will come up? Like, what's, what's the thought? I
think you said, he hasn't texted me for a whole hour.
Okay. Why does, does that feel, feel familiar?
Yeah. Why?
When does it feel familiar?
Well, my previous marriage.
Okay, your marriage. Okay, good. All right. Yeah. All right. So
that comes up to the surface. Okay. This guy's not calling me
in an hour. I'm getting this anxious feeling. I'm not
understanding. It feels very similar to my marriage. What
happened in your marriage?
I just saw neglect.
Never liked me.
Did he, did he never call?
No, never called or texted. And so it's been really refreshing
because this guy is very proactive and follows through.
And I just have, it's been encouraging. But then I also
catch myself with the like, okay, maybe I'm too much. Maybe
I finally said the thing that like,
okay, there we go.
Part of me, you know,
do you see how just these questions right now and I want
you to just write down or record yourself and listen to what you
said. And you literally just said, maybe I'm too much. Okay,
ladies, do you see how that like, literally, I want you all
to listen to this. Okay. Cause I, I'll do this with all of you
ladies. And you ladies can do this even without being on the
chat. Like I want you ladies to start practicing this. Okay. So
I asked her, she, she's like, okay, he didn't call or text me.
I started feeling anxious. I'm like, okay, well, when did that
feel familiar? What, when, what feels, feels familiar about it?
And she immediately was like my marriage. I'm like, okay, well,
why? Well, I was neglected. He never liked me. I asked, well,
did he never call you? She said, no, he never called or text.
I'm going to ask this. Was he, and you don't have to answer me
if it's, you know, again,
I'm a safe space, but if you don't feel comfortable, I don't ever want you ladies to feel forced
Did he call and text other women?
Yeah, yeah
He called and text other women. He didn't call and text her. So do you see how it parallels?
Why she's feeling anxious. She's not anxious because this guy is like the same person
She's anxious because her body's responding to an
An old pattern
an old area of something that hurt
Our body doesn't
Doesn't hold time like it doesn't recognize like past present future. It literally just
recognizes like the feeling
It doesn't associate it to what's happening does that make sense? I don't know if that's really making sense
Like it's the body is not the brain does that make I mean like it it like yeah, I don't know
I feel like if I'm gonna try to explain it more. I'm just gonna kiss everybody. So I'll just stop while I'm ahead
So you see how we get there and then
We understand her husband was texting other women. And so then she goes to this thought
Maybe I'm too much
Did your husband ever tell you you were too much
Mm-hmm. Yeah
Why did he say you were expected too much? And you know, okay. Was that true? No
Exactly. Yeah
So right there guess what ladies is that a truth or is that a lie
That's a lie. So is that coming from God or
That coming from the enemy enemy
Okay, yeah
He's always gonna try to sit here and sabotage or we're gonna sometimes want to sabotage it ourselves because we're afraid
We and I understand it y'all I I'm the lady that knows I mean I was left seven months pregnant y'all
My son's dad left me for someone else when I was seven months pregnant and didn't even tell me I
Didn't find out about the girl the other woman she was a girl because she's 12 years younger than me. I
Didn't find out about her until my son was six months old and I didn't even find out from his dad
His dad
Didn't actually fess up or communicate to me or I actually kind of brought it out of the bag when my my son was two
years old
So I get it
Okay, but I some five and he just confessed like this summer to actually being a relationship girl he left me for so
Yeah, exactly
Like but what I can say is I want this to encourage you like I've healed from that and it's okay
Yeah
it hurt and
I carried it and
God gave me a lot of breakthrough and a lot of healing and it was through recognizing it because then I'm like
It wasn't it's not that I'm too much
It was I didn't expect too much he wasn't making a good choice
This had nothing to do about me. This had everything to do about him
and
God honestly
Allow me to see this compassionate side
And I actually had this sense of compassion for my son's biological dad
Well, it's like wow, he's just been really hurt
And does it didn't mean that like I agreed with what he did or that
He doesn't still make the greatest choices
but I mean God literally was just like you don't have to hang on to that bitterness and that unforgiveness and
that anger anymore
And so when these anxious feelings start surfacing lady
Especially with someone that you just start dating
Or in you're in it. Let's say you let's say you go into a level three relationship
Let's say you go into engagement. Let's say you go into marriage a lot of times these thoughts
Nothing to do with the person that you're with it has a lot to do with past
trauma behavior
responses all that stuff from the past and
It's just an opportunity to heal
And so when those anxious things come up that's when you'd be like, wait a second why what is this anxious thought?
Is this actually tied to the person that I'm with and what they're doing?
Do I have any reason to doubt that they're not calling and texting me?
Do I have any reason to feel like I'm too much?
God, you don't say that. You protect me. You care for me.
And ladies, I will tell you, if you are in a situation with someone that is not a good person
and God, God is God. I've seen God do some crazy things where
people thought they were in really good relationships and then out of the blue,
they found out and they like, it was a God thing.
And yeah, it can hurt and it can be like a shock at first, but I will tell you,
it was very, very supernatural that a lot of these men and women, I say men too,
because you know, men, men are not, you know, left out from this type of stuff either.
And God saved them. He was like, I'm going to expose this.
And yeah, it can be devastating at first, but
if it didn't get exposed the way it did, they could have been in it for way longer.
I count it as a blessing. My son's dad left me seven months pregnant.
I didn't feel that way at first. Y'all, I felt really abandoned, like super abandoned.
I was a new mom, didn't know what I was going to do. I didn't know how to take care of myself.
But he did me a favor and he did my son a favor because I didn't have to stay in a toxic
relationship and my son didn't have to witness his mom and dad in a toxic environment.
And I thank God for that. I couldn't, in the moment, I'll be honest, there were times I was
how God used it as a blessing.
So just when those anxious thoughts come, ladies, I want you to sit and I want you to process those.
What's it rooted in? What lie are you believing?
And then ask God to replace the lie with the truth. So Mackenzie, you aren't too much.
You are just enough. You're the perfect amount. Thank you. You're welcome. And you've got
three blessings. I do. I do. They're awesome. Like even, even though you got blessings out of it,
that God didn't put it to waste. It's true. Like, remember that.
And he's here to restore. He's here to redeem all those broken areas.
So those anxious thoughts come and be like, no, God, you got me.
I don't have to be enough for anybody on this, on this earth, because I'm already enough for you.
And you have someone for me. That's I don't have to prove that I'm enough for,
you'll not have to prove that you are enough for your spirit mate.
He's going to cherish you as you are.
And ask the Lord to show that to you. Ladies, pray for that.
Pray for God to reveal those things to you. Lord, I just would love for you to show me
when my spirit mate is just cherishing me. What do you, how do you want me cherished?
The way you desire me to be cherished. I want you to show me that speak to me when,
when my spirit mate cherishes me in that way.
Lord, I want, I want to know you cherish me, show me how you cherish me and he'll begin to show you.
All right, Mika, I'm coming to you, girl. You've been so patient. Mika and Megan and Mackenzie,
thank you all for being so patient. Of course, of course. Thank you for sharing. And that was
really helpful for me. I pulled some nuggets out of that one too. So recently, so I have
I still have my day scheduled for Thursday.
Okay.
You guys noticed that one.
I'm just going to front, front load the, the Friday so Friday there's a singles.
It's like a, it's very unusual.
So basically you waitlist yourself. If you don't know of a guy to bring, it's a Christian community, but if you don't know a guy to bring, and you can't register together you waitlist yourself and they actually, I didn't realize they were going to do this
but they actually will match you for you. They'll match you so now I'm apparently matched because I was way I waitlisted myself instead of asking a guy in the community because I was too chicken.
I'm gonna be honest, to come because you're supposed to invite a guy even if you're not interested like you guys beautifully do think about your community but I was chicken, like, so I didn't do it but we actually have a match for you.
Well, good news to draw the way you've been matched and I was like, can I undo that where I can, I have to come by myself but I didn't do it. I didn't check it out so I'm going to be meeting someone it's a blind date basically, but it's not I don't know
what they're going to do it's really weird. They have it like where it's going to be like 80 different couples but they're gonna have like a Christian comedian there they're going to have like all of these things it's in New York City Stephanie if you're
on Stephanie, get on that. It's called uncut on but if she hears in a replay makeup posted in our community is, I know, I know it's not I know that's like a rule and stuff but yeah okay but posted in the community, you know, like you're not
single, are you in single cities.
I'm not in Salem single cities, but I can, I can post it, I'll post it in our just because my dad died recently so I'm just giving Facebook a break.
Okay, what I can do is, but what I will, I can post it in our, our community, how about our community or all of our board.
Is that okay or no, that's still no or maybe I'll give it to you and you can post it if you feel. Go ahead and post it, and I will look through it if I have to edit it, I will, I may have to take it down or I'll respond to you, post it.
Sure. Okay.
Okay, go ahead.
Okay.
Oh, yeah, and they're anybody says anything I'm gonna be like I told her she could post it. Thank you, thank you, thank you and it's your justice house of prayer to house of prayer and so yeah like there.
I, yeah, you guys, I think you guys have the same DNA gene thing going on I don't know what. But, so I matched up with this guy, so I matched up with this guy that I've never met before.
And so now they're going to be all these different activities and everything.
And it gets a little bit better because I actually told someone I told them about it so they might be going, but I told them the waitlist themselves so they get matched so we're not matched, just so it wouldn't be weird.
But, so my question is, what are some things that I could do, I guess, or, like, do I treat that situation like a couple now because it's not a usual situation where we're like seeing each other first or.
Do you think I should push to have a video chat before Friday, even though that's not something that was like, what do you think or should I just embrace the, the experience of just having a blind date just to be have the fun story so there's like everybody that is going to be at this event are going to be single is what it sounds like.
Yeah, and the idea was so it wouldn't be more women than men which typically happens.
Well, and I think that honestly I think in the beginning, and a lot of places, I think, most of the time it's always more women than men.
So I think a lot of people are starting to pick up on that and they're finding creative ways to make sure that it's balanced, so I love that, that they're doing that that's incredible.
So, I mean, yeah, I mean, definitely go like open to just getting to know this person.
Yeah, it sounds like you're in a whole situation where everyone's single and just kind of getting to know people.
Right, so I don't want to. So do I stay with that person I'm obligated to like because I, I attached to people real quick, and I'm like, because I don't want anyone to feel like offended but if everybody's kind of like, it's not like people are like coming, everyone's
single everyone's been matched but they may not, they're like family match like you're saying. So, perfect like when you get that first introduction like when you're getting to know somebody like you can have the conversation about the event.
Be like, yeah, when I waitlisted myself that I was going to get matches is really cool like, have you experienced this before I've done this before.
I kind of don't know what to expect this is my first time.
Do I like, and if they're like yeah this is the first time I've had to be like.
Okay.
Like you'll be able to pick up their vibe and see how they, you're a very personal person.
I mean, I get that.
Oh, thanks.
Like, I feel like you're very similar to me and like, you can go into a crowd and you
can just talk to anybody.
Yep.
That's me.
Yeah.
So, and that's how I always am as well, especially when I would be on dates, like if I wasn't
having fun with my day, I was typically like engaging with, like I'd engage my date with
other people and like chat and talk and just like get a group of, I mean, that's just,
that's my personality.
That's a good idea.
I wouldn't have thought of that.
But my guess is you probably do read people pretty well.
You're probably intuitive and you can pick up on whether they're comfortable or not.
And if they're willing to engage, I mean, if they're like closed off, like whatever
and uncomfortable, I mean, you're going to see that you're going to be able to respond
to that.
You're going to have compassion and consideration for that.
But I don't think it's going to hold you back from just being who you are.
Thank you.
Thanks for saying that.
Yeah.
And it shouldn't, you know, I say, you know what, have a good time with it.
Get to know people.
Do you think I should call him first?
Because he put our numbers together.
He's like, okay, so just set up your, well, you get your ticket, set it up as a pair.
But we just did it today.
It literally just happened today.
So I'm like, I'm group matched on this guy's, on his phone numbers.
But do you think I should wait for him to call or should I just call?
I would wait for him until maybe like midday Friday.
If he hasn't reached out to you, then you can just like drop them a little, Hey, I'm
so-and-so.
I think you and I got Matt, like, I think I know you and I got matched tonight.
I'm really excited.
I'm looking forward to, do you know who the comedian is?
It just says Christian comedian.
I don't know who it just says Christian comedian.
It doesn't say who I do like comedy.
I like to, I need to laugh right now.
Like, I mean, you can just be like, I'm looking forward to it.
Like, you know, just have a little small talk if you can.
And then I see what you're saying.
Just about keep it.
That's so helpful.
Keep it focused on the event versus are we a match or are we not a match?
And if we're not a match, you go find somebody and I'll go find somebody just about the event.
It's about the experience.
It's about having fun.
It's about getting to know somebody new.
This is not about ladies.
When y'all meet people for the first time, it's not like, take the pressure off yourself.
Don't sit there and try to figure out, is this my person or not?
I make it.
You're like, I do that.
I do that.
I did that.
Yeah.
That actually is so few are spot on because that happened with the other date that's scheduled
for Thursday, but I said, we're like blind.
I don't know what he looked.
Well, I know what he looks like now because we accidentally send each other pictures,
but we've been actually talking.
Apparently he's going through his mom is in hospice care and my dad just passed away four
days ago and it was like at the same time we were matched, but we have so much in common
by text and even like a little phone chat.
It's actually kind of crazy.
We're even talking with him.
It's like really crazy.
Yeah.
And I was, and I asked him, I asked, yeah, I'm still talking with him, but I asked him,
I'm like, he was like, maybe we should tab being, maybe we should tab the whole dating
and just get to know each other as friends since we're both going through something that's
really strong.
Cause I was telling him what I've been learning here.
I was like, I'm learning something from the coaching that we're not supposed to share
too much as we're getting to know each other.
That's what I was going to say.
I'm like, if you're still talking to him, don't, don't trauma bond.
Don't attach to him with the loss.
Thank you.
Yeah.
I mean that, that can happen.
And again, there's nothing, it doesn't mean that you're not a healthy person.
Like I don't, I think it's just natural when you're going through a tough time or something
emotional, it's just natural to connect with people who are in that same season or experiencing
that same thing.
However, for the sake of like, when you're getting to know somebody and like dating a
brand new person, that's when sometimes it can get a little entangled.
Thank you.
That's helpful.
Just be caught, like, just be cautious.
You know, that's when, when you're going through those emotional milestones in your life and
things of that nature is happening.
It really.
is important to connect with people that you're close with,
that you know, and that know you.
Those are the people that you have
that intimate relationship with.
You don't have intimate relationships
with people you don't know.
Thank you, yeah.
Yeah, so keep that in mind.
But yeah, go have, like go into it with the event.
Don't, ladies, don't go into it like,
is this my husband, is this not my husband?
You will stress yourself out.
I wish I had this program when I was in my 20s.
I didn't find Jackie until I was in my late 30s.
I'm like, dang, if someone would have told me
all of this stuff when I was 20,
I might not have had to go through
some of the stuff I went through.
Not that I regret any of it,
because again, God has used it all for good.
But man, like sometimes we make it harder on ourselves
than it needs to be.
We really do.
And God just knows what's best for us.
And we just are always resisting him.
Let's be real.
All right, Mika, thank you so much.
All right, Megan, thank you.
Megan, thank you for your patience.
Yeah, no worries, thank you.
You get my patience award for today.
And all my ladies, I see lots of people in the chat,
so like Michelle and Ashley,
ladies, put your stuff in the chat, in the app,
please, please, please, please.
So that I can get to you.
I know we're heading pretty late today.
So I wanna get right to Megan's question.
She's been patient enough.
And then I will release you ladies.
And if any of you ladies can't stay on,
please don't feel like you're forced to.
This is in replay, so you can always come back.
All right, Megan, what's your question?
Hi, so thanks.
This is my first live call.
So just a bit nervous.
But I first must say,
I just thank you so much for your answer to Mackenzie,
because that's really gone through a lot of,
I think, so there are two scenarios I want to go through.
And I think the first, your response to Mackenzie
probably has answered my first question.
So I'm maybe about the,
it's been about maybe four weeks or so.
It's been a bit slow for a few reasons.
I posted in the chat, yeah, that I'm based in Australia.
So we don't have Facebook dating over here.
So I've just been trying to see what platform
to go to online.
I'm getting there.
But in the meantime,
I've been trying to open up to offline,
which has been a little bit of a challenge
because it's not something,
I think I've done online before,
so I feel like I know that a bit more.
But with offline, there are a couple of things.
So one of the first things was,
around mid this year, when I was still in the HART,
the HART work course,
my sister introduced me to someone.
But because we're not,
we were, you kind of have a dating freeze in that thing.
I kind of went to the side
and maybe I was a little bit-
Like, no, can't date in HART work.
Exactly.
And so I think I was maybe a little bit,
I think I didn't know how to do it.
So I ended up being, showing maybe a lack of interest.
But now I'm thinking, okay,
I'd love to see if I can connect to that person again.
But it's more, what can I say?
It's just hard now to switch if I put it that way.
So it's kind of like, it's more,
so we're in touch once in a while
because he's just helping me out with some career stuff.
But I just, yeah, I just wondered,
so I think my question had been how to drop the hanky
because I'm not sure-
So you were introduced to this person by who?
By my sister.
Okay.
Yeah.
Can you tell your sister, be like,
does your sister know you're in this group?
No, not yet.
No, I haven't mentioned her.
Are you comfortable telling your sister
that you're in this group?
Yeah.
Okay, I would say, hey, sis.
So, you know, when you were introducing me to,
what's this guy's name?
If you want to give me his name.
He's-
Or you can just say K.
I'll just give you, it's just K.
I'll just call him K.
So yeah, sis, so you know,
when you were introducing me to K,
like I kind of was like in this,
well, I'm not kind of,
I was in this program and I was not allowed to be dating.
And so I was probably really standoffish to him,
but now I'm cleared to actually be dating
and I'm actually on this seven day challenge.
And so I really like,
we're in contact and he's helping me out,
but I would really like to have him take me on a date.
Does she know him?
Yes, yes, she does.
So the thing is we-
Yeah, girl, you gonna get your sister
to do some espionage work right now.
She gonna go see what she can find out for you.
She did tell me a bit actually.
So he's been recently divorced
and so, but I'm not sure what phase of healing,
if I'm gonna put it that way, he's at.
And you're not supposed to know, okay?
Oh, okay.
You're still level one.
supposed to know and it's okay all right because again you're not looking at him like is this my
spirit mate is this my husband you're just getting to know him all right level one easy breezy so
yeah i mean does your sister know if he's open to dating or where he like um i don't know i'll
have to check with her on that one yeah hey look i i'm interested in this guy i was really
standoffish to him um but i do think i want to get to know him and go out on a date i
wanted i wanted to let him know that i'm interested but now i'm i'm a little bit shy
yeah so what do i do sis help me give me some info see what you can dig up like is he interested
or not yeah she could even go say hey like how are things going with my sis like she was really
like enjoying your company or like really appreciates you and um i'm i'm like have you
asked her out on a date yet she could be a is she an older sister uh no she's a couple years
younger but that that's so hard though she wouldn't be able to say all that um and um and
but they're in a different city so that makes it a little bit tricky but still it's it's it's not
far from here anyway no it is a bit far but anyway yeah well i want you and your sister to
get creative i want y'all to like get creative ladies we're we're the creative creatures here
we are all right we know how to get crafty with uh with dropping the hanky so you you you know
this guy a little bit you guys have been chatting you weren't dating you were kind of standoffish
because you knew you weren't allowed to date um and so is there any flirting happening
uh no that's the thing because because i that's probably going to tie into my next question is i
find myself blocking flirting which is so annoying so why do you think you're blocking flirting i
don't know i think it's more um i i think maybe it's a transitioning out again or maybe of that
work thing so i was in a relationship last year which didn't really work out and i really wanted
to pray and and see what it is that went wrong so that i don't repeat it and that's how you know in
fact indeed i believe this is also a divine appointment coming across last year single
and so um and yeah and so now that i've worked through that i i kind of um i guess maybe i find
that as a way of protecting my heart but probably not doing it in the right way um yeah and so it's
learning how to start to get out there again um yeah and yeah so megan this is i'm gonna can i
give you something that i i often activate you ladies in i'll activate often the ladies here
in phase two when you're just out and about just make eye contact and smile with guys
guys i mean just make eye contact and smile that's it okay get comfortable there
hmm that will kind of help loosen that up okay any anybody okay old young whatever just
make eye contact it doesn't even have to be men like just be engaging be present
be making like smile with your eyes make contact be just be present
and be open be inviting when you start smiling and making eye contact with people you'll you
will see how how people will receive you so well and they will be very open and drawn to you
and it will feel so natural like ladies all of you practice that
okay and let me know how that feels let me know what happens this week with that
and then we can kind of dive into what this flirting could look like now do you see this guy
on occasion are you just messaging calling what what's that look like uh just messaging and it's
just it's very occasional at the moment so not that not that frequent so yeah does he live close
to you no because he lives in the same town as my sister so um yeah so but it's are you
like how far away is that uh it's about an hour flight so to speak yeah yeah so i mean in
australia that's pretty close so yeah oh for sure um are you going to be visiting her anytime soon
um there'll be not at the moment uh but there's always i can always create a reason to go or to
come there well that's what i was gonna say like
Yeah, I was thinking of, uh, my sister and I were talking and I think I might be
heading out there in a couple of weeks.
Um, are you available?
I would love to meet you for coffee.
Would you be interested in that?
Okay.
Just throw it out there.
Get to know a little more.
Yeah.
Okay.
See how that goes.
Cool.
You're not going to be able to do a whole lot of flirting
if you're just messaging.
So, yeah, I say, go see your sister.
Cause here's the thing.
If things don't work out with Kay, then you still good.
Get to see your sister.
Yes.
Yeah.
It's not a waste of a trip.
Yeah.
And so you can just say, Hey, like, you know, I, I was thinking about seeing my
sister in a couple of weeks.
Are you free anytime in the next week or two?
Love to hang out.
Love.
I mean, is there things to do in her area?
Uh, yeah.
Yeah.
I think that even just visiting high is good enough reason.
That you'd be interested in going and seeing if he'd be interested
in checking it out with you.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
No, absolutely.
And they run, they, they're part of a hiking group, which I love to do.
So even just joining that group, I was going to say, if you're going to go
visit your sister, say, Hey, um, find out when y'all are hiking, find out when
he's hiking and invite, like, let's get him to come and just like, Oh, I
didn't know you were going to be here.
Yeah.
No, that's so, and then, yeah, come back and update us.
Let us know, let us know what happens, but yeah.
So go out, smile at people, smile, make eye contact, strike up conversation.
You know, is it cold there?
It's warm there, isn't it?
It's getting warmer.
So it's pretty opposite of us, right?
Yeah.
So y'all are about to have like the good weather.
Yeah.
We're about to have some summer holidays, so it's really going to be, um,
so now it's like, get out about the walking, like people walk their dogs,
all that stuff, go have, you know, do all the outside activities.
Yeah.
So that would be, that would be fun.
Yeah.
And just another quick, a quick one as well.
Um, so then also at church, um, there's another, um, so this is a
slightly different scenario, but also to do with flirting, I guess.
Um, so there's a really cute guy who I'd noticed, and I noticed he also noticed
me and last Sunday I got the opportunity to, I don't know, we just happened to be
in the same coffee line and we just got to speak and then he got to the point of,
um, I realized, I said, realized that, you know what, he's actually
about to ask me for my number.
And I know that would ordinarily should make me very
excited, stay in the conversation.
But I freaked out and I found myself saying, oh, I'll see you very soon.
And then he's, cause it's a, it's a multi-generational church.
His dad happened to come around that time when I could see he was really
getting to, you know, really getting into invested in the conversation.
And then I, I just freaked out and I just left and, um, and I felt, I
just kicked myself mentally about why did I check myself out of that?
But again, I don't know if that's just a reaction of, of having, you know,
like I said, this may be over protectiveness of my heart or, or
trying to come back into, yeah, into this space.
Anyway, I don't know.
I just freaked out.
So the good news is I'll get to see him again, obviously.
Cause it goes,
I do like that.
So, um, so I'm wondering if you're thinking to yourself like, okay,
like, why am I freaking out?
So let's do what, what you, we did with Mackenzie.
Yeah.
What's the thought?
Like, what are you freaking out?
Like what's, what's the freak out thought?
Um, so, so I guess my presumption as I mentioned, maybe it was just that he
was going to ask for my number.
Um, and, and that would have been a good thing.
So I don't even know why scared you about, did you feel scared that he was
going to ask you about your number?
Yes, I did.
Okay.
What scares you about somebody asking for your number?
Um, yeah, I don't know.
I can't, I can't think of anything.
What is that same feeling of being scared about somebody asking your number?
When have you felt that way before?
Oh, yeah, I'm not sure.
And I think specific comes to mind that, um, yeah, I don't know.
time with that. And again, like when these questions when I ask
questions, sometimes you might not have something come up right
away. And that's okay. And that just might mean you just need to
sit with a little more and think about like, Okay, what is that
feeling? What? What am I scared about? What about asking for my
number would be scary? Why would it feel like this? What would
that feeling of being scared about something like that? What?
What would that be similar to? You know, you can ask yourself,
Am I scared that he's gonna ask and he's gonna call me and I'm
not gonna like him? Or I'm gonna feel obligated to like him? Am I
gonna feel like he asked me and I'm not sure I feel about him.
And then I'm gonna feel like I have to put all this energy to
somebody that I don't know how I have to feel. Things like, or
am I afraid to like him? And then he finds out that he
doesn't really like me and then I get hurt. Yeah. Like start
asking like, what about him asking for my number would make
me really scared? What am I worried about something that
will happen afterwards?
Yeah, I think I think I've got something brief. I think it's
disappointment. Okay. And it's fearing to lose something good.
Like, not lose something good. But maybe once because you know,
once you start to, like, if get the number go out, it's
disappointing. I think it's more like, Oh, then I can't. Then it
becomes awkward. Put it that way. So I think I may be
thinking of the negative side as opposed to Yeah, so you're
like, Okay, I'm gonna lose something good or it's gonna
feel awkward. Okay, so I got a couple things that I'm
wondering, I kind of feel like it's I'm split two ways. One is
did you ever feel like you had something good and then it
slipped away? Or where something was good? It got
awkward and then somebody left or like, is there something that
happened very similar to either of those scenarios or something
that could be tied to kind of what you were just describing
there?
Yeah, I think the second part, the second part, they
seemed good. And then it got awkward. I mean, we managed to
resolve it in the end. But yeah, there was there was a situation
like that. Yes.
Okay, so yeah, I would start, you know, start processing that
situation a little bit and figure out what is the what's
the core belief that's that that fear is rooted in. So what the
fear is rooted in what core belief based on that situation?
And most likely is it's going to be a lie. Yeah. Okay. And then
it's going to be like, let's call that lie out. And let's
replace it with what is the truth? Is that really true? No,
it probably isn't because it's a lie. Yeah. And we want to know
Okay, God, but what is true? What is true about me? What is
true about that situation? What was true about that person? What
was true about that situation? Yeah. And this isn't the same. I
don't need to be afraid if someone's going to ask me the
number and not my number. Because these aren't the same
situations. And even if it were, I was believing a lie back then
and I'm not believing the lie anymore. Good. Because I'm
holding on to God's truth. And this is what it is. Does that
help? Yes. Yeah, absolutely. Thank you. Yeah. All right,
ladies. Thank you so much for your patience. Thanks for your
time and for like sticking it out with me. Like you said, if
you did not get to share, keep me posted in the app. And I will
see you all next week. Okay, ladies. Talk to you later.