Loving someone caught in addiction is a kind of heartbreak that doesn't come with a road map.
You see their potential. You remember who they were before the struggle took over.
You want so badly to help, to fix it, to rescue them, but you can't.
And that helplessness can leave you feeling angry, exhausted, and deeply alone.
Here's the truth. You are not responsible for saving them.
Their choices are not your burden to carry.
You didn't cause this, and you can't cure it.
You can love them fiercely, you can pray for them, you can offer support,
but the decision to change has to come from them.
I want you to set boundaries, not to punish, but to protect you.
It's okay to say, I love you, but I won't let this destroy me too.
You can hold compassion in one hand and clarity in the other.
Letting go of control isn't giving up, it's giving space for their healing to be their own.
And while you wait, take care of yourself.
You matter too. This pain is real and it wounds everyone it touches.
Find someone safe to talk to, join a support group, talk to a great Christian therapist,
cry when you need to, rest when you can.
You're allowed to protect your peace, you're allowed to set limits,
and you're allowed to love without losing yourself in the chaos.
You're doing the best you can, and that is enough.