Hello, everyone. Happy Monday evening. So glad to be here with you tonight. Let me see here.
I just got to figure out this screen. There we go. Welcome. Y'all, it's Happy Thanksgiving
Week here in the US. If you're in Canada, you might have already celebrated. If you're
in another country, I'm not sure when all of you all celebrate, but we extend Thanksgiving
Week and happiness to you too. So glad that you are joining us here tonight. Would love
to know if you are new, this is your first time ever joining us for a live session. Would
love for you to let us know that in the chat so that we can welcome you and say hi, all
that fun stuff. For all of my ladies returning, welcome back. I see a lot of awesome faces
on my screen. Love seeing you all. Jolene, first time, welcome. Anita, welcome to your
first live session. I hope you all are extremely blessed tonight and encouraged. So glad to
have you all. Just letting that roll in a little bit. I am here in Indiana now. We just
traveled through multiple states over a couple days time. We were in Kentucky for a few days
and we're visiting and having dinner with family tonight for a little bit. And we'll be
here for the next few days. I'm mentioning that just because so many things God is showing
me. Every time you're around people that you haven't been around in a while, even family,
God just is like, whoa, there's some revealings for healing all over the place, y'all. Lots
of opportunity and they're not all bad things, right? And so I was telling the ladies this
afternoon, I didn't introduce myself either. For those of you that are new, I'm Bethany
in the community. We have Annette Lewis here with us tonight. She's one of our peer coaches.
Y'all might see Andrea Jezelnik respond to you all. She's also one of the peer coaches.
And we have a couple other people that are going to be helping in our heartwork group
here in the near future. As soon as we have them step into that, I will let you know who
they are. But we are continuing to train people and raise them up in our community because
we are growing and God is doing a lot of stuff and we want to continue to be able to serve
you all really well. And so where I was going with that is that I was telling the ladies
this afternoon that I don't even fully know everything that I said. I just remember it
was being really fresh, just praying and talking to them about how sometimes things happen
supernaturally and you don't realize, you know, whether it's the enemy or the Lord at
first and you have to pray and ask God for discernment. And so when I share this story,
I'm not wanting to get into a bunch of dream conversation tonight, but the reason I'm
sharing this story is to go to the other connection factor. And the whole point is going
to connect to our topic for tonight. And this is what I have to share with you is that for
those of you that don't know me, so I at one point dated a gentleman for six years that
was not a good relationship. But out of that, I developed a really solid relationship with
his two daughters. I call them my spiritual daughters. So if you ever hear me talk about
it, that's who I'm talking about. And what that means to me is I have chosen to love
them. I claim them as mine in the spirit. But I never overstep. They have a mom. She's
not a super great mom. And I'm not saying that out of disrespect. It's just it's the
honest truth. And their dad isn't super great. And so thankfully, God has allowed me to have
this, this relationship with them. And I pray all the time that they'll continue to
have a green heart or green light in their heart towards me and God is something I pray
all the time. And but where I'm going with this is that they've been through a lot. There
are two young ladies 20 and 22 years old now. And they've seen a lot in absolute a lot of
their mom and their dad, they've been mistreated quite a bit. And so on the oldest of the two
is really, really struggling and needs deliverance genuinely. And my best friend and and I spent a
lot of time with her on Saturday. And it was good, but she just really is in a bad mood most of the
time. And we were just kind of trying to encourage her and it was good to have my best friend there
just even just a normal like, Hey, what have you thought about this kind of thing? But I'm saying
all that to say, I didn't think much of it because I, you know, I come in, when I lived close, I
spent time with them all the time. Even when I lived in Indiana, I would drive every like month
and a half and spend time with them. But now that I'm in Florida, I haven't seen them for six months
in person, talk to him on the phone, we voice
Memo, we send video back and forth, but this was the first time I've seen them since May.
And, um, we, after we spent time with her, uh, Sunday night, um, I had a dream.
And in the dream, there was a woman tending to someone else and they
had some kind of need physically.
And in the dream, she was kind of like real sweet to that person.
And she was like, oh, you know, she was kind of talking to me, but she was
talking to them and she was like, they're going to be okay.
What they have.
Isn't that serious.
And then this person in the dream looked at me.
And when she looked at me, her eyes were evil and then her voice changed.
And she's like, but you, and she pointed at me in the dream.
She said, you have cancer in your lungs and your throat.
That is literally how she was talking to me in the dream.
And I woke up and I thought, what the heck do I have cancer?
And so all morning that morning, Lord, do I, do I have cancer?
Was that you like, you know, and, and all of a sudden the Lord was like, just
reminded me that's not what my eyes look like and that's not what my voice sounds
like, even if I'm warning you, Bethany, I've never spoken to you that way.
And so the reason I'm sharing this example to you is that I didn't
think much about it past that.
I've been praying about it.
I didn't say anything to my best friend about it at all until this morning.
And I just shared with her, it was really crazy.
I had this dream yesterday.
And when I told her, she said, Oh my gosh, I had a dream that I was really sick
to the same morning that I had that dream.
I was staying at her house.
See, and then the Lord starts connecting these dots.
Her and I were the two people ministering to my spiritual
daughter the day before.
So the reason I'm bringing this to y'all tonight is not to freak you out.
I don't have cancer.
Lord's already told me, cause I even asked him, do I need to go to the
doctor and get this checked out?
Do I need to make sure?
And the Lord's like, that wasn't my voice.
So number one, the reason I'm sharing this with you is that I want y'all to
remember whether it's a dream or a prophetic word or something that someone
speaks to you, even a family member, this is the holiday season.
This is going to be legit advice.
So I hope y'all are listening.
You need to be asking God, is this your voice?
Is this the enemy's voice or is this my voice?
Cause sometimes you're all's voices.
You've heard a lot of negative stuff.
And so you're saying not good things to yourself.
God, is this your voice?
Is this the voice of the enemy or is this my voice?
Okay.
Number two part is this.
I realized this morning, like, Whoa, like this is spiritual warfare coming
against my friend and I, because we are trying to help her and y'all.
I mean, I've ministered to my spiritual daughter for years, but for whatever
reason, it was very apparent to me this morning that that's what's, that's what's
And so then I started feeling like, Oh, do I need to be concerned?
No, I minister all the time, but these were real thoughts I was having.
So I'm just trying to be transparent.
And this is, this is what the Lord, excuse me, said to me.
He said, Bethany, now is not the time to back down.
Or be afraid you need to advance and take the land.
So I'm giving that to you all as a word for some of you all.
The enemy is trying to convince you.
I thought the Holy spirit, when I said it this afternoon and I'm feeling it again
tonight, so it's not just for me.
Okay.
I'm not doing this just for myself.
I'm giving this to some of you all.
The enemy is trying to convince you because when I look at my spiritual
daughter, I I'm not kidding you all the more that I've been praying.
I feel like the worst that she's gotten.
It looks like she's going backwards, not forward.
And if I look with my physical eyes, that's what I see.
But if I will look with my eye, the eyes of the spirit, the eyes of the father
and the Holy spirit and Jesus Christ, and I asked them, what do you see?
And I pray into that and I fast and I intercede and I stand in the gap for her.
I believe that we will take ground.
Now, I don't know how long that will take.
I don't know what it's going to look like, but the last thing that needs to
happen is for me to give up and back off versus move forward.
But the enemy, he's trying to make me afraid so that I'll back off.
You see how that works?
All right.
So I'm giving this to you because tonight we're talking about supernatural
surrender.
That's where we're going tonight.
And the reality is, is I have to supernaturally surrender her over and over
to the Lord because when all, when we do all that we know to do, what does the
Bible say to do?
It says to stand and see his glory.
Some of you all need to get that tenacity for your love story.
Do y'all hear what I'm saying?
When you know that you know that you know that God has said,
hey, this is what I have for you,
that you won't give up
and that you'll keep partnering with Him
and you won't believe the lies of the enemy
when He shows up in a dream
or He shows up through a person
or whatever that looks like for you
and you say, I'm not backing down,
I'm partnering with the Lord
and I'm gonna take the land, I'm gonna advance.
And y'all, sometimes that's hard, it is.
I was saying this afternoon that we hear a lot,
worship is warfare and sometimes,
yeah, that is worshiping and singing
and using our voice as a song.
But I also believe that worship is literally us choosing
to have a positive heart, posture and attitude.
That is a sacrifice, isn't it sometimes?
When we don't see something positive,
when we, again, it looks like something's
going in the opposite direction,
but the Lord's like, hey, partner with me.
So this is the week of Thanksgiving.
I'm gonna activate you all very quickly here.
We're gonna do it quick.
I want you to put in the chat for me
one or two things that you are thankful for
right now, tonight.
It could have been something that happened
already this week, it could have been something today.
For those of you that are really struggling,
you're like, I don't know what I'm thankful for.
I don't know if I even have something to be thankful for.
I want you just to look around your room
and I want you to just ask the Lord,
what is in front of me right now that I can thank you for?
Because I reminded the ladies this afternoon,
here's the reality.
Someone somewhere tonight has nothing to eat
and I'm not shaming you.
I'm just trying to help you remember you have a warm bed.
A lot of you have warm water to shower in.
I have warm water, I hope tonight.
We're staying in an Airbnb, I'll find out.
But even if I don't, I have water to wash myself.
Y'all, I went to Haiti back in 2014
and there were people that didn't even have water,
they were bathing their babies in a mud puddle.
That's a real reminder.
I always think about that.
If I don't have hot water,
I just try to remember, man, I have water.
So just be thankful.
It doesn't mean we can't feel what we feel.
I'm not asking you to ignore that.
I'm just asking you to also,
just partner with Thanksgiving.
Do you know that one of the ways
that you can defeat the enemy the most
is to literally posture yourself in gratitude?
Because you can't worship and grumble
and complain at the same time.
You just can't, they both don't come out of the,
they can't come out at the same time
and that's what I'm saying.
So I know that I went into a little bit of content.
Hopefully I'm not confusing Annette here.
I jumped kind of into some stuff,
but we're gonna go through
a couple housekeeping things very quickly.
We're gonna pray.
We're gonna go into the rest of the content,
but I'm excited you all are here tonight.
I knew that was something that God wanted me to share
because real-time things that we learn,
even as coaches that we can give to you,
I hope that that's helpful to you
and that you remember, God, is this your voice?
Is this the voice of the enemy or is this my voice?
Annette, I would love for you to go ahead
and do those housekeeping items
and then pray a sin, please.
Awesome.
Thanks, Bethany.
I'm always grateful when you share what God shows you.
It's a blessing.
Okay.
We want you all to feel welcome here tonight.
We're glad you're here.
Please remember what we like to always say
is hurt in community, healed in community,
hurt in relationship, healed in relationship.
So we want you and encourage you to be vulnerable,
be real, be open, just like Bethany's sharing tonight,
something that God is showing her to bless and encourage us.
When you come in the group and you post
and you ask questions and share,
then that gives your sisters an opportunity
to learn and grow as well.
So we want you to step out of hiding
and come and share with us
so that we can all learn and grow together
and we can coach you around the things
that you're struggling with
because you never know what somebody else
who might be too afraid to share,
but you being courageous and stepping forward and sharing
could be just what somebody else needs.
So we want you to do that.
And also this is a holiday week.
Distractions will come in life
when you're doing your heart work.
When we are all about doing the enemy's work,
he wants to prevent us from having the growth
and transformation that God has specifically for us.
And so this week,
as you go into time with family and friends,
I encourage you to pray,
practice taking care of your health, get good rest,
even though it's a busy holiday season, get good rest,
eat healthy, enjoy a piece of pie
cause then enjoy.
life, but, but, um, enjoy good foods, good whole foods, drink lots of water, um, and just, uh,
just stay focused on your heartwork. If guys pop up that have been around before when you know,
you're home and spending time, put that to the side. We encourage you to continue to put that
to the side and focus on this time for you, because that's going to pay big dividends in
your relationship with the Lord. Okay. All right. I'm going to go ahead and pray us in,
and then I'll turn it back to Bethany and we'll get started on the evening and build on what
she's already shared. Dear heavenly father. I thank you for the privilege of being here tonight.
And, and I thank you for times in my own life this week where you have shown up and you've spoken
when, when we're around things that Satan just slips in and tries to use against us that we
would be on guard and that we would put on the full armor of God and that we would stand strong
in you and in truth and in our faith. And I pray that tonight as Bethany speaks, that you would
continue to anoint her words, that you would speak through her and that the hearts of each
one here will be open and be in a posture of surrender and curiosity, God, about what it is
you have for them tonight. And that you would just reveal for healing because your love and
your grace and your mercy just blankets each one of us. And as we are your daughters,
bless this time together in your name, I pray. Amen. Okay. Bethany back to you.
Amen. That was great. Thank you so much, Annette. All right, you all. So if you haven't done the
Jesus Cares Board yet, as far as watching the video, working on your Jesus Cares Board, if you're brand
new, you might not know what that is yet, but it is in week one of the heartwork section. So if
you've been here for a little while and you're not sure what that is, definitely go back and watch
that. Really want to encourage you all, even though it seems maybe like a simple thing, to watch it
again. If you're not even sure what to do with your Jesus Cares Board or how to use it or why it really
matters, that you would really get a heart for it. Because genuinely, you all, I really hope that this
becomes a tool for your lifetime. I revisit my Jesus Cares Board all the time, you all. And
one of the things I want you all to keep in mind is that, and if you've already done it this way,
it's okay. All right. But I want to coach you a little bit on this. When you make your Jesus
Cares Board, if you've done it in more general terms, so for example, if you say, you know,
I care about my finances. I'm casting this care about my finances on you. That's really good.
It's really good. That's a great start. But I want you all to get more specific, okay? What is it that
you need him to do in your finances? Do you have debt? If you do, how much debt do you need him to
pay off? Is it a school debt? Is it a car debt? Is it some other kind of debt? Where you literally,
you know, are getting specific. Now, if you have children and you're worried about the kids seeing
it, I get that. One of the creative ways some of our parents have done that before, they've
navigated it. They've written it out very specific, but then they put it in an envelope. I had one lady
make a little 3D box that hers was on the inside of, but you know what's in there. Now, can Jesus
answer it if we write it in general? Absolutely. But there's something about writing out our specific
prayer needs or wants and the things that we are casting onto him. And just the way that he comes
and works in those is so supernatural, you all. And so I want to encourage you to get specific.
Do you need salvation in someone's life? Or is just their name on your board?
Like, what do you want God, what do you want Jesus and God and Holy Spirit to do in that person's
life? You know, you see what I'm saying? Let's get specific, ladies, and let's get really vulnerable
even on those boards when you're working on those. And then when you all, you'll hear this later in
the activation, for those that feel comfortable to, I hope that you take a picture where we can
actually see what your board says in your picture. Because then that gives us an opportunity
to pray into those. And you know, sometimes God will speak to us as we're looking at your boards
and or give us questions or things to really even, you know, kind of help revealing for healing in
some of those areas. And so that is going to be a part, and again I'll circle back to this, that's
part of one of your activations for this week. If you've already done your Jesus Cares board, don't
feel like you have to redo it. But again, maybe go back and consider, do you have all of your things
more in general terms? Are you getting specific with the Lord? All right, so tonight we're talking
about supernatural surrender. So I want to start out with the main statement, and it is this,
let God add his super to your natural.
Where are you trying to do things in the natural, where you're trying to make
something happen? Even some of you in your heart healing process, you struggle
with just really fully surrendering and letting the Lord do the heavy lifting
for you. So He is a supernatural God. He is God Almighty. He is the maker of
heaven and earth. Nothing is too hard for Him. So we allow His super to align with
our natural. And we're going to talk about that a little bit more, but I want you all
to think about the word release. Okay? And when we supernaturally surrender, we
are releasing things into God's hands. And this is the definition of the word
release. It says, allow something to move, act, or flow freely. So if we are fully
releasing, we're relinquishing control fully to the Lord. We're releasing that
to Him. We're saying, Lord, I'm going to allow you to move and act and flow
freely in my life. That means that we're not going to try to hinder the work, or
we're not going to try to take the wheel back when the Lord is leading us towards
a different direction than we thought we were supposed to go, right? We're going to
trust and obey. There's actually a song out there like,
Y'all haven't sang that hymn for a couple years now, but that just came up in my
spirit. So we'll just trust that that is from the Lord. Some of y'all need to just
trust and obey and know that there's no other way to be happy in Jesus. It's not
a forceful thing either, okay? John 15, verse 4 and 5 says this, remain in me as
I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself. It must remain in the
vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine. Jesus,
this is Jesus. He's like, I'm the vine. You are the branches. If you remain in me
and I in you, you will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do nothing.
I pray this a lot before I even get on the coach because, man, I need to remember
that I don't want to come in with my man knowledge, my head knowledge. I want to
come in and just, okay, I want to have that. I want to have the wisdom and the
experience that I've gained, but I don't want to let that be the lead. I want to
literally lean into the Holy Spirit and say, okay, Lord, what do you have to say?
He knows all of you better than I do. He knows everything that you need.
And so no matter what I come in with, I'm like, okay, Lord, I want you in the
driver's seat and let me just come alongside and partner with you.
And so I hope that that is what you will continue to do in your heartwork process
in the future regarding your spirit mate. And to remember that God is a gentleman.
He's not going to force his way in. So when we accept Jesus, for those of us
that have accepted Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we accept him into our heart.
We invite him in. He doesn't come and barge his way in. We invite him in.
And then he comes and he lives in us and he dwells in us. And then God,
I'm going to read a scripture here in a minute, does the same.
Okay. So tonight we want to encourage you to remove all of your do not enter signs.
You know, these areas where you're driving, it's like wrong way.
This is only one way you can't go here. Don't enter here.
So some of you all subconsciously have these erected in your heart.
And you're like, God, I want, I want to find the love of my life.
I want to have a new job. I want to have this. I want to.
But then as soon as God's like, Hey, you know, he starts nudging you to move,
or he starts nudging you to let go of like this thing that's been on your list.
That really doesn't need to be on your list.
But because you got hurt by somebody somewhere that's on your list.
Or you're afraid to be a mom.
Or you're afraid to be with someone that's been married when you haven't been married.
Because you feel like you're not going to align and you want to have first,
you know, these are all, we understand why these are on there, you all.
But this is where we got to, we got to fully surrender it.
To the Lord.
God isn't going to make you be with someone you're just going to be
miserable with unless you choose someone that's not healthy for you.
That's your choice. Okay.
Because that can happen. It has happened to people in our community,
but it's people that haven't listened to coaching.
And it's people that literally.
just, they blow past red flags and they just keep going.
And they don't stay in community.
So stay in community,
stay with people that are gonna tell you the truth
and that we're gonna love you,
but we're gonna be kind enough to tell you,
hey, that's not good.
That person's not doing something healthy in that regard.
Or we're gonna say to some of you like,
hey, don't run away from this guy, he's all green flags.
What are you doing?
We're gonna lovingly say those things.
Because some of you all,
you're self-sabotaging left and right,
even with friends and family.
My youngest spiritual daughter,
y'all I was in town for three days
and I only got to see her the last day.
Now I know she's 20, she got her own life,
but y'all she was self-sabotaging.
She wanted to come,
she said she was coming Friday night
and then just didn't show.
I really think part of it is she struggles
because she doesn't like it when I leave and it's hard.
It's hard for me.
And so she self-sabotaged until the last day.
Thankfully she came the last day.
Y'all we do this in relationship
where there's something we really want,
but subconsciously things are going on
and it's hindering us from entering into relationship
and even going towards things that we want
and things that we need.
Revelation 3.20 says this,
"'Behold, I stand at the door and knock.
"'If any man hears my voice and opens the door,
"'I will come into him and will sup with him
"'and he with me.'"
Y'all I want you to understand this is like,
God's like, hey, like I'm gonna stand
at the door of your heart and I'm gonna knock.
And if you hear me knocking and not only that,
but you open the door to me,
it makes me think of, who was it?
Peter that was released from the prison
and they came to the door and the girl,
she like left him standing at the door
to go tell the people he was at the door.
I think that's who it was.
And it just makes me think of that.
Like, she's like, whoa, Peter's at the door.
Because he was in prison,
they didn't expect to see him there.
But then they had to go back and open the door
and let him in, right?
Same kind of thing, even though Peter's not God,
it's not exactly the same,
but I want you to see that parallel.
They weren't expecting it.
But when God comes knocking,
sometimes we're not gonna expect it either.
When God brought Brian to me,
Brian was in a denomination that I thought I would never.
And it's not bad, y'all, but this is how people think.
We think certain denominations aren't as spiritual as us.
I know I'm speaking truth,
because I hear it all the time.
And I know that I thought it.
And God sent me someone that was in a denomination
that I was kind of like, oh, I don't know about that.
I said something to Jackie and she said,
Bethany, just get to know the man.
Have fun and let God show you who he is
and don't worry about that.
And I did, and I'm so glad that I did,
because he is the best person for me.
And God worked all that other stuff out, okay?
Some of you all, this is where even for some of you,
you gotta let down the walls.
You gotta let down all these things that are hindering you
and they're getting in the way.
We talked about names last week, right?
Some of us, we get,
because somebody heard us that had a certain name.
And so now we won't even look at someone with that name.
Right?
Same kind of thing.
So tonight, are you willing to give God permission
and full access to your heart?
Like to fully enter in?
You know, there's these areas where we're like,
okay, God, you can come in like over here,
but like, ooh, over here in this area and territory,
like, I'm still mad at that person.
I'm not ready to deal with that.
And God's like, come on, like, it's time.
It's time to let that go.
It's time to forgive that person.
I know some of y'all are experiencing
some like radical freedom and healing
from some things that you've been working on for a while.
That's so awesome.
It's exciting to see that.
I believe more of that is about to come
in this group in the days to come.
All right, I have something just really briefly
from the heart work book.
It's from chapter three in the supernatural surrender.
And this is what it says.
Ever since we were toddlers, our mantra,
our mantra, I think that's how you say it,
has been, I do it myself.
We have been programmed by our broken world
to never depend on anyone or anything.
And people that do are considered foolish and naive.
All through our lives, we are taught overtly and covertly
that it's a good thing to be in and stay in control.
And that's a lot of hard work.
One of the main reasons we don't.
want to depend on anyone else is we don't want to be disappointed.
Being disappointed is painful, maybe even more painful than not trusting
anyone to help us in the first place.
I want you to think about that.
You know, even some of you, is it that you're disappointed in God or you're
disappointed, you're afraid that he's going to disappoint you again because
you're disappointed in him before.
And you haven't dealt with that.
You haven't had that, that heart to heart conversation, even with
the Lord that you need to have.
Some of you, you know, we talked about it last week.
You need to forgive the Lord, even though he's not done anything wrong,
but you perceive it that way.
And he's saying, Hey, like daughter, I'm ready to reunite.
I'm knocking at the door of your heart.
And what I didn't go into in the fullness of that scripture.
Think about it.
He's like, I'm going to come in and have a meal with you.
Think about some of your most intimate times that you've had with people.
I don't know about you all, but it's around food and meals and talking,
connecting, intimacy is into me.
See, are you really willing to let God see intimately into you, into the
vulnerable places, and then are you really willing to let someone else love
you enough to come into those places?
Because again, we say we want love and we say we want relationship, but then
sometimes they get close and, and then some of y'all struggle.
And again, there's no shame in this, but this is just real with the
avoidant and you push people away.
And so you have to learn how to heal from that stuff so that you can
attach securely and it is possible ladies.
All right.
No matter what the world tells you, it is possible to heal from anxious
attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious avoidant.
There's all these different attachment things out there now.
And I love that we're learning this stuff.
Okay.
But I think sometimes people get so caught up in that, that they forget that
we serve a God that can heal all of that.
So please always remember that at the core, you can unlearn things.
You can allow God to rewire your brain and help you learn that, you know, just
because you learned you couldn't be secure before growing up or whatever
the situation was, doesn't mean that has to be your forever.
And I'm telling you from experience, I used to anxiously attach, but God
healed me and I was able to securely attach with Brian and not get all
anxious and freak out and all the things that I did in the past.
All right.
Here are a couple of practical things, ways that I do it myself for God.
I've got this show up in our daily lives.
I want you to think about relationship areas.
Are you someone that tends to control conversations or outcomes during conflict
rather than seeking God's wisdom first?
Like you're trying to, you know, I don't know about you all.
Have you ever been in a conversation or, uh, even an argument and you like
chase after that person cause they're like, they're just not listening or
the it's not going the way you wanted it.
And you just, you're panicking and you're like, I gotta, I gotta make
sure that they understand that what I'm trying to say and you're chasing after
them, that's trying to control an outcome, man.
Sometimes it's hard to just let that person just, you know, walk, whether
it's a way or just be uncomfortable and feel that moment, but that doesn't
mean we shouldn't just pause and be like, okay, Lord, what should I do in this
situation?
And sometimes God's going to say, you need to let them process that emotion
or what, even if it's not healthy, y'all, it's not our job to fix other people.
It's our job to let God heal us and help us and then let him deal with them.
We can say things we can say, Hey, that hurt my feelings when you said this, but
we shouldn't say you made me feel this way.
There's a difference.
Owning our feelings is different than saying someone made us feel something.
Doesn't mean you don't feel it, but you need to own what you feel and
communicate that to the person.
If there's something that they said that caused you to feel something that wasn't
healthy.
All right.
Number two, making major relationship decisions without prayer or godly counsel.
This is, I do it myself.
God, I've got this.
I don't need your input.
You know, Oh God, there's this person and you know, that comes into our lives and
then we're like, and we get ahead of God and we're racing into stuff instead of
saying, God, you know, help me to see clearly what this relationship looks like
to you.
Number three, trying to earn love through performance instead of resting in God's
unconditional love.
Are you trying to earn people's love through your performance?
Now we're going to talk about financial and career, and this is a little similar
the relationship in the first part of this, but making financial decisions
based solely on our own understanding without seeking God's direction. You
guys are going to kind of hear that common thread, just making decisions
without even asking God what his thoughts are about it. This one I think
is interesting. I love talking about this in a lot of different ways, but
hoarding resources out of fear, instead of trusting God as our provider.
Sometimes people even get into hoarding things, not just finances, but they're
hoarding things in their home. And that all kind of is rooted in fear. And
probably, you know, a lot of them, and if that's something you struggle with, there's
no shame in that. I just hope that you work through that with the Lord and
don't stay in that place. But people that struggle with hoarding, you know, some of
them didn't have a lot when they were younger, or they went through a trauma
that they could not control. And because of that, and they didn't get healing in
that, they now try to hoard things because it's a form of soothing. It's a
form of control. They're surrounding themselves with stuff to fill the void
of a person. It's very real. There's a lot of other reasons why people do that, but
those are two that I know of. And I was saying to the ladies this afternoon,
interestingly enough, and when I say this, I'm not speaking this in an ill will
of the former pastor, but it's just a factual situation that we walked into
when we stepped into the role here at this church. Years ago, before the pastor
before us came, the church, you know, had a lot of people, very beautiful
landscape, the church was like really taken care of really, really well, the
building, the grounds, everything. And, you know, this is just the difference of
where people are at and what they carry. And then the pastor after that, that
pastor, the one that came in right before us, I'm sure he did a lot of things right,
you all, but I do believe that God has revealed to us that he walked with a
poverty mentality and a lot of scarcity. And so the church actually had a lot in
savings, but he would, even things that they needed to fix in the building and the
he wouldn't approve it. And so we walked into like, even for example, for those of
you that have been here for a little while, you know, that we recently went
through a massive mold situation in the parsonage that we moved into. And a lot
of that had to do with things that were not taken care of for years, while the
former pastor had that under his authority. And the reason I bring this up
is my husband and I were just talking about, um, how different things were when
we came, like even the outside landscaping of the parsonage and all the
things, when you look back at pictures, it was very different. And so what
scarcity mindsets do is they cause us to shut down. And in some ways we just, we
hold on to, but what ends up happening is the things that we are, we are called to
steward actually start to like, not do well. So the building and the things
were kind of falling apart, if you will, in some ways, not completely, but some
ways. And so I want you to think about areas where you might be trying to hold
on too tight to some things. And for some of you, it's not exactly the same as
hoarding, but you're holding on so tight to a relationship that it's, it's
straining it. It's not helping it thrive and grow. It's actually causing it to, um,
I can't think of the word, but atrophy, like go backwards. Right. Some of you all
it's money. You're like, you're so afraid. And God's like, Hey, go buy yourself a
new top. And you're like, I can't. Okay. Let's, I'm not saying be wasteful and
spend things and not be a good steward the other side, but Hey, some of y'all
need to learn. It's okay to go and invest in something and allow yourself to go
buy a new dress. Some of you as single moms, I think, you know, you've gone,
you've been in survival mode for so long that it can feel really hard to go and do
something nice for yourself. So I want to encourage you, if you're a single mama,
I'm not speaking to you. I'm not saying spend money you don't have, but I am
saying that instead of always taking care of everybody else, I feel like in this
season, it'd be really good for you to at least ask the Lord, what is something I
should do for myself in the next month? Whether that's even like without spending
money, you just, you, you let someone come and help you watch your kids and you
take a night. I don't know if this is something you would love, but take a
and rest. Y'all see how even that switches out of hoarding and holding too
tightly. Like nobody can help me. And I got to do this all by myself. I've got
this. Do you see that?
Okay, I hope so.
All right, parenting and family,
trying to control our children's every choice
instead of training them and trusting God with their hearts.
Fixing every problem for our kids
rather than allowing them to learn
and grow through challenges.
Some of y'all, you know, we get so afraid
that our kids are gonna feel pain, don't we?
But they actually need to feel some,
some repercussion for actions and decisions
that aren't healthy for them.
Personal growth, white knuckling through bad habits
instead of inviting God into the transformation process.
You know, I want you to be thinking
and remembering what we say all the time
in the heart work and in this community.
We're not looking for behavior change
and behavior modification, ladies.
Short-term, that's not what we're looking for.
We're looking for inner healing
that leads to long-term transformation.
So this white knuckling, you know,
I can change, I can change, I can change, I can do it.
You're not trying to force yourself.
This is God healing you
and you growing in the understanding of God's love for you
to the point that everything that you're doing
is flowing out of the understanding of his love for you.
Y'all, when I got a hold, a handle on
the spirit of lust that came against me,
all those years, you know, it started with abuse
and then just trickled all the way
into all my relationships.
And y'all, I was like, okay, I'm gonna find a partner.
We're gonna work on this covenant together
and we're not having sex before marriage
because I'm breaking this thing off my family.
And I like literally, I'm not saying it was easy,
but that was something I committed to.
Now I'm telling you that came and empowered
by the Holy Spirit.
And I had a partner with him every step of the way
because it was not easy,
but I learned how to stop trying to white knuckle it too.
I had to partner with the Holy Spirit.
Self-control is a fruit of the spirit.
Do you see the difference?
Partnering with the spirit is not white knuckling it, okay?
We cannot do things in our own strength
pretty much all the time.
That's why that scripture said that earlier.
We can't do anything apart from the vine.
So for those of you that struggle with that,
I hope that you take that as a note
that will help you in the days to come
to know that you can walk in self-control
and have an amazing, beautiful, blessed marriage
when you come together and have covenant at that point.
All right, here's one more.
Comparing our journey to others
and trying to fast track our growth.
God told me to lean into this a little bit more tonight.
I'm not gonna spend a ton of time on it.
But for those of you that might be trying
to kind of fast track your way to the person
and maybe even trying to like really go real fast
through the heart work, I wanna encourage you
just to really trust the process of the heart work.
Don't try to skip through and think,
oh, I've done this before.
Even if you've worked with counselors before,
I promise you, if you will lean in
and partner with what God is trying to do,
some of y'all are gonna get things
that you've never gotten
and you've been in church for your whole life.
And God's gonna give it to you while you're here.
But we have to be willing to be made willing.
We have to be willing to listen
to what the Holy Spirit is saying.
So don't try to fast track and go past the process.
Everything good, y'all, comes with a process.
Even if you're making, we're making cookies tomorrow.
We're making the Cooper clan.
The girls are getting together and making cookies.
And you know what?
Cookies come with the process.
Candy, all these things, don't they?
So why do we think we should be able
to just fly right past that to find our spirit mate?
We need a process, okay?
So John 14, 25 through 27 says this,
all this I've spoken while still with you,
but the advocate, the Holy Spirit,
whom the Father will send in my name
will teach you all things
and will remind you of everything I have said to you.
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you.
I do not give to you as the world gives.
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
This is the reminder for you tonight
that no matter what your situation is telling you,
that the peace that passes all understanding
can guard your heart and your mind through Christ Jesus.
Jesus came to give you peace.
He is your peace.
So if you're struggling tonight,
if you're struggling in any,
even if it's regarding your spirit mate or your heart work
or the things that God is revealing to you,
I wanna encourage you just to remember and say,
Jesus, thank you so much that you're my peace.
God is peace.
Holy Spirit, they bring peace, right? I had to learn years ago that, you know,
peace isn't the absence of chaos. Sometimes it is. Sometimes you're out on the boat,
on a lake, and there's literally, like, the air's not moving, the boat's barely rocking. I don't
know if y'all have ever been out on a boat, but that can be true. But most of the time,
you got an anchor on a boat that's keeping you there. So there's still something at work.
And so when you're going through tough times, when there is chaos, those are the greatest
moments where God can really show you how His peace comes and it surrounds you. I always think
about the eye of a storm. Like, I had this literally years ago, this visual when I was
worshiping the Lord, and I could see straight down into the ocean floor, and I was standing
there, and all this water was around me, and I knew the empty space on the inside of that place
around me, and before the water was the Lord's presence, and that's what He showed me.
And He told me all those years ago that He would always be with me right in the center of the
storm. And that has served me all these years, and I still will bring it up from time to time
because it was such a vivid visual. Like, it was literally like I could just see right down
to the ocean floor, and I was standing there, and God had moved all the water. Y'all, He's the way
maker. He can literally part seas, and He can protect us from burning in the fire, if you will.
It's whether or not we trust Him that He's capable of doing that. This is a part of
surrendering. When you're in there, when that chaos is ensuing,
sometimes you don't have to know what to say. You just, Lord, I just need you. Jesus, help me.
Sometimes those are the greatest words you can ever pray. If you don't know what to pray,
just say, Jesus, help. Do you know that, oh, I feel the Holy Spirit on that. You don't even have
to. Like I know I said earlier about the specific things, but the reality is that
if we call on His name, there He is with you. He's right there. And you might not always feel Him,
but He's there, and He's with you in the middle of what you're going through.
So as this last reminder before I pass it over to Annette, is that you don't need to dig, okay?
It's super important. You don't need to get your shovels out trying to figure out
what's wrong with you and every aspect of this dynamic. I had a lady this afternoon,
I'm so sorry, I can't remember who it was. So if you're on tonight, I can't remember who said
this to me right now. I don't have my notes in front of me, but she was just saying that,
oh, it was Lisa. It was Lisa. She was saying that she struggled with abandonment for a long time,
and she kind of got in a rut of trying to analyze all the stuff about abandonment
and how when I said that today, it really clicked for her finally.
She doesn't have to figure out every aspect of why she struggles with abandonment.
Because what we need to do is say, Lord, I trust you to reveal the things for healing that are
needed and trust Him to bring the things up that need to come up. So if you are someone that you
you're like, mine is really active, and you're trying to figure it out yourself.
One of the ways I did this years ago, as I started going to my aunt and people, and I
would ask them questions about different things with my family, and I was trying to piece it all
together myself. And y'all, I turned up a rock during that that I wish I had never overturned.
Maybe God would have shown me that eventually, but I'm telling you,
I overturned some rocks I shouldn't have at that time, because I was not able to handle
what I found out. It was very, very hard. And so I want to encourage you all,
trust the Lord in the process of your healing. No matter how long you've been doing this,
He knows what you need to know. He'll tell you He loves you. And those things that He doesn't
reveal right now, it's to protect you. So just trust that, okay? All right. So if God brings up
a memory, whether it's a good memory or not good memory, or you don't even know what it means,
I always say to people, pull the thread, okay? What this means to me is, it's kind of like,
you know, sometimes you pull a thread on something, and then it starts to unravel the
whole thing. Yeah, so in this regard, it's pull the thread, and you're going to ask the Lord,
like, hey Lord, you know, this memory came up, and I feel like you're showing it to me,
but I don't even know what it means. Can you reveal to me for healing, if there's anything?
that's I need to know from this situation from this memory and that's how you pull the thread
and you just see what he what he shows you from there and some of you you might not hear anything
right then and that's okay you've already asked him and you can just kind of go on and then in
the right time he will reveal to you if there's something else he needs you to know all right
Annette I would love for you to share with the ladies what God has prepared for you to say
tonight and then we're going to get ready for breakout session okay thanks Bethany um as I was
pondering and praying about what to share tonight it actually didn't take very long and I was
thinking really God okay we'll go with that um I had a situation actually with my oldest son
and his wife last fall and a couple weeks leading up to I'll say the turning point
something felt off to me and didn't feel right but again I try I wanted to lay it down I wanted
to pray I wanted to ask God to show me you know if there was something um because they were very
closed off to conversation when I would say you know I'd ask is everything okay and I am still
learning and growing in the role of a mother-in-law um and g-ma so trying to navigate
respectfully and kindly and honestly felt like I was doing a really good job and then um an early
conversation at the beginning of September last September with my son totally caught me off guard
and I can honestly tell you at first when he started talking as soon as he started talking
I started praying because the things that he was saying about me were devastating and
he was saying things like this could have an impact on whether you
whether or not you get to see Levi my grandson and spend time with them and
even God really gave me wisdom helped me stay calm helped me listen to what my son had to say
and ask questions and ask for examples of what he was talking about and y'all I never
the only example I ever got of anything that I did wrong was I had invited to uh
take them to the zoo and to lunch instead of going to their house um
and so as as I hung up the phone without examples um I have to honestly say I really struggled for
the next several days um was very emotional was very tearful but I did go and take it to God it
was probably one of the most difficult things that I've ever had to go and I did not surrender
it at first I not unintentionally or not intentionally to not surrender it but because
okay here's the problem now I need to figure out how to fix it so I'm calling and I'm asking and
I'm suggesting you know counseling and I'll pay for the counseling and everything was met with
no no no and um finally one morning I was praying and I had not had peace I had not had
peace because I was trying to run ahead of God and take care of it all on my own and figure it out
and God really spoke to me and said Annette you've done all you can do what when Bethany said that
when you've done all you can do stand and that's what I did and it was difficult it was challenging
it was not easy but God has repeatedly shown up for me and shown me that he sees me um
um for example um when I was gonna go see them one day um my son had said well Levi and Lindsay
won't be here and that was kind of my whole reason to go up there I was like okay okay God you see
and you know what is going on and so I leave the time in your hands and when I sent the text that
I was on the way there I got a text back that said great we're all here Lindsay and Levi didn't
leave and that to me was an affirmation and a hug from heaven that they were still going to be there
and then another instance
I had offered to have them to my home. And they were no, that's
okay. You know, we're going to have somebody else do it. And
that person backed out at the last minute. So they called me
and asked me if I could do it. And I know that that is God
working on my behalf. I may not see in the circumstance that I'm
looking at in that minute in that moment in that day. But it
doesn't mean that things can't change in a moment. And that
God hasn't orchestrated that opportunity. And so that is
something that even now I have to continue to lay down and it
has given me opportunity to make sure I don't pick it back up and
try and run with it. But that I have surrendered that
relationship to God. And I let him orchestrate it, rather than
me trying to orchestrate how I think it should be. And that has
made a huge difference in my own piece, in spite of circumstances
that are difficult to navigate. I have a piece that I didn't
have before when I was trying to manage it on my own. So I hope
that helps and encourages all of you, you can fit your own
scenario into that. And just, it really is better when you place
your natural and let God put his super with it. Okay, thanks,
Bethany, for the opportunity to share.
Yeah, I love that. Y'all such such a great reminder to have the
ways that God can work, you know, creatively, through other
situations and things to work in our favor and on our behalf.
You know, the Bible says that when we honor the Lord, when we
love him and live for him, that he will prepare a table for us
in the presence of our enemies. And I'm not saying her sons,
they're, you know, her enemy, but I think that's something to
remember, you know, and that God will bless us, that he'll bless
us and he'll give us favor. All right, I have these breakout
sessions ready for you tonight. Your question is, what are some
things God is nudging you to surrender to him tonight? What
are some things that God is nudging you to surrender to him
tonight? Y'all get to know each other a little bit, it is going
to be short, brief and powerful. Okay, so don't try to kind of
look and watch your time. I'm giving each person, there's two
people per group. So you have three minutes each. I know that
doesn't sound like a lot, but you can say a lot in three
minutes. Okay, but get to know each other a little bit. If you
have some extra time, you know, where are you from, you know,
all the fun things. But talk about the question first,
please. All right, here you go. Go ahead and click to join those
rooms.
All right, give me one minute. I'll start to pray here. I'm
going to invite a couple people situated that are by themselves
right now.
Father, thank you so much for everything that you're doing.
Thank you God for working in supernatural ways to help us to
see God what we can't see on our own. I thank you for just making
all like your truth, you know, more and more available to us
help us to recognize your blessings that are surrounding
us on every side. Y'all it's hard to pray and concentrate on
this at the same time, but I'm trying. I'm almost done. Hold on
one second. All right, I think I have everyone. I don't think
anyone's by themselves. Lord, thank you so much for the
breakout sessions that are happening tonight. Those ladies
that are here in the main room, those that are going to watch
the replay. We love you. And we want you to know that we really
believe that everything that God is releasing live is coming to
you as well as when you're watching the replay. So Lord, we
just thank you for helping everyone that hears this truth
tonight, just really see and recognize the areas that they
need to supernaturally surrender to you. Maybe even things that
they've surrendered to you before God, and they're just
saying, God, I trust you, even when it hurts, Lord, I'm giving
this person, I'm giving this situation to you. God, I thank
you that you make sense out of all things. God, you work all
things together for good to save many people alive. That's, you
know, Genesis, it makes me think of Genesis 5020, you know, that
everything that Joseph went through, you know, if we read
his story, man, hard things, right? And even things he was
blamed for.
before that he never even did.
And God just blessed him in the middle of all that.
And God raised him up and prepared him to save a whole,
like what he did and God, the wisdom that he had,
God used him to provide and save.
And not only the nation and the land he was living in,
but his family and all the people that he brought from there
and how God provided for them.
And so, ladies, sometimes I know it's hard,
cause we look again with our physical eyes,
but God is in the midst of those things and he's working
and he will continue to work it all together
and surprise us in the midst of it.
So we just thank you God for helping us to see that.
Rosie, did you get kicked out?
She said she can't join a room tonight.
Oh, totally fine, totally fine.
That's all right.
Thank you.
I didn't see that pop in there.
All right, let's see here.
I want to read, let's do this Isaiah 41 10.
I like this scripture.
I love all scripture, but this is standing out.
Don't be afraid for I'm with you.
Don't be discouraged for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you.
I will uphold you with my righteous, victorious right hand.
Y'all, it says righteous,
I think in the new King James version,
I was just kind of going with what I know in my spirit,
but it actually says here in the NLT,
I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
And Galatians 6, 9 says,
so let's not get tired of doing what is good.
At just the right time,
we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up.
And so Lord, we just surrender all these areas,
even to you where we feel weary,
God, where we might feel tired,
where we might feel heavy laden,
God, where some days it's hard to believe
for those ladies that are in here
that don't have their spirit mate yet,
where it gets tough to believe, God,
that you can provide in all of those areas,
but you're doing it, Lord.
I thank you that you're literally moving people
from one state to another state,
God, you're moving them in jobs and situations,
and you're just continuing to,
just like a chessboard,
all the moves that you're making are intentional.
And I thank you, God,
that you're gonna continue to reveal in every way,
surprises and adventures,
and that there's a lot of good things ahead.
I thank you, Lord, that even when,
yes, Lord, even when we do feel tired,
that we can rely on you,
that you're gonna step in and enable us
to continue to walk and find the energy supernaturally.
He does that for me all the time, y'all.
Sometimes I'm like, I don't have anything left, Lord,
so I just need you to be my energy, and he does it.
And so I believe he'll do that for you as well.
Psalm 190, or excuse me,
Psalm 139, 23 through 24 says this,
"'God, I invite your searching gaze into my heart.
"'Examine me through and through.
"'Find out everything that might be hidden within me.
"'Put me to the test and sift through all of my anxious cares
"'see if there's any path of pain I'm walking on,
"'and lead me back to your glorious ways,
"'the path that brings me back to you.'"
So Lord, we just ask you to literally,
any of us that we're walking on pathways of pain,
pathways that lead us away from you,
God, I thank you that you would take our feet
off of those pathways and put our feet on the pathways
that do lead back to your care and back to your presence,
back to your life, God,
that we wouldn't see the cup half empty, God,
that we would see it full.
Not just halfway full, but God, we would see it full
because your presence is there.
So Lord, I thank you where we see lack,
God, I thank you that you see abundance, Lord.
I pray that you would give us supernatural ability
to see what your spirit sees,
to hear what your spirit is saying.
God, I thank you that you would just bring,
yes, Lord, thank you that you already brought victory
into every situation through Jesus Christ.
I was almost gonna say, Lord, thank you
that you would bring victory into the situation,
but I believe it's already there.
And so Lord, we just apply the blood of Jesus Christ
to every situation, every illness that's present,
and anyone that's a part of last year single
in this heart work group, God, and we thank you
for revealing areas for healing
and just speaking truth and love and awakening us
to the fullness of all the plans and purposes
that you have for us in Jesus name.
Welcome back, so glad that you guys are here.
I know that's always quick.
I know it can be quick, quick, quick,
but I hope that you still had a little bit of time
to get to know each other and make some good connections
and that God is using that for a blessing for you.
Here are your activations this week.
Number one, permission slip, okay?
If you've already filled this out.
want you to go ahead and hang that up. I want you to be praying the prayer on that over
yourself. I would love for you to do this on a daily basis, y'all. This isn't about
a religious duty, okay? But I just want you to continue to partner with this Supernatural
Surrender Prayer, and that's going to help you just really posture your mind and your
heart in that place every day. Number two is that Jesus Cares Board I talked to you
about earlier. When you finish it, or even when you start it, some of you all need to
just celebrate that you've started it, and that's okay too. Go ahead and take a picture
of that and post that in the group in the Last Year Single app under the Community tab.
Would love to see that there. And then I want to encourage you all, I already put the activation
post up this afternoon, so you all will see it. If you go into the Last Year Single app,
if you click on the Announcements tab, you'll see it right there, okay? I put it up this
afternoon, or earlier this evening. And I want you all, as you're looking at your Jesus
Cares Board, this is written in there. Every couple days, just kind of take a glance at
your board and thank Jesus for working in every one of those cares that you're casting
on Him, okay? And number three, morning and evening surrender moments, okay? And I want
to encourage you all to try to do this before you get out of bed, but if you forget, just
do it whenever you remember. And again, this isn't about, you know, religion. There's grace
in this, but this is just ideas for you. Before you get out of bed, I always encourage
people to place your hand on your heart. This is like a connection point between you and
the Lord, and that you would ask, Holy Spirit, what am I trying to control today that belongs
to you? Then speak out, I surrender my need to control whatever it is today. Then before
you go to bed at night, same kind of hand on your heart posture. Lord, was there anything
that I picked back up today that I haven't given to you, or that I had already given
to you? And then re-surrender it back to Him. Jesus, I place whatever it is, whoever it
is, back in your hands today. And so I actively did this with the ladies this afternoon, and
I just said, Lord, did I pick Michaela back up? That's my spiritual daughter. That's the
one I was talking about earlier. I know I've surrendered her to you before, but Lord, even
hearing the things that she struggles with, man, sometimes I just pick that burden back
up and I feel the weight of that. And so Jesus, I just place Michaela Scott back in your hands
tonight. And I thank you that you've got her and you're not going to let her go. And
so I just want y'all to see, like, we can all actively partner with this on a daily
basis. Okay. Super important. All right. If you want to share what you shared in the breakout
session, or you have a question about the heartwork or any of the things, it's all right,
but you can go ahead and put your hand up and we will have some time of group coaching.
And then we'll see where the Lord leads us tonight. Catherine Clark, go ahead.
Okay, I unmuted. Um, yeah, no, this is a big one. And this has been like,
laid on my heart, obviously, besides the fact that I'm at the point where God's got to pick
my husband this time. I saw what it did the last time not doing that. And I never want
to go through a divorce again. And with that brought up, dealt, I've dealt with this health
issue because of my divorce. And I do believe, um, a sister in Christ of mine that she definitely
hears from the Lord. And she's definitely telling me that this health concern, it's
not the root. So there's something underneath I got to get to that I will be released to
this health condition. And it is my obesity disease. I know I don't look at right now,
but I'm really scared that I'm skinny fat, meaning my fat and muscle ratio is terribly
off. Um, I saw weights, because, um, you know, every everything with like the divorce and
everything. I've seen weights on the scale, I never wanted to see this summer. And I never
should have asked my doctor to prescribe a GLP one medication for me. Now the health
insurance I had when I was on Long Island in New York covered it without a problem. There
was no issues whatsoever. Um, knew that it could increase depression, suicide things. And
that should have been a clue just that alone. Don't touch the stuff. But I did it anyway,
out of desperation, and I wish I didn't. And then there's the fact of it destroys your
it can destroy your thyroid because they say you risk the chance of thyroid cancer. And
obviously, it's messing with your hormones if it's doing with that
GLP, whatever that hormone is, as well. So now that I've moved
upstate August 19, the health insurances up here give me a
fight about covering it, even though the previous one was
covering it. And I was on it, and they just want to rip me
off, like it wasn't gently getting off or anything. And now
I feel like I have to take in so much caffeine taken so much
amine lens, barely eat anything or eat all this protein or eat
just to maintain my weight. And I still have a little bit more,
even if I had to settle with the upper 130s. And I can't have my
perfect 120 that I would love as a weight. I'm like, I feel like
I'm begging God, like I will, I will take the upper 130s just
please get me down to that at least. So I'm not overweight
anymore. Because from my height and everything, anything over
144 pounds is overweight. And just all of it. It's just it's
draining me. It's all I could think about like food. And we're
entering a very eating holiday. And I know I had my church
Thanksgiving feast and then with my students and, and I can't even
enjoy food at all. Because I feel like my weight is so out of
control. And then I'm like, I'm like, I wish God would reveal to
my to this friend of mine, what is this underlying condition of
why my body is holding on to this weight? Like, what is the
emotional underlying condition that I'm healed to that it will
just flow off my body? Because I believe it's that.
Let me ask you a question. So number one, I would love some
ladies, maybe it's not exactly everything that she said. But if
you all have ever struggled with body image, or weight or
whatever, let's just support her in the chat. Like just say me
too, if that has ever been a thing for you, foods a struggle,
you know, you can, if I have everybody raise your digital
hands, and I'll lose all my people that want to actually
share about some things. And so just support your sister,
because this is real stuff while she's talking about some
different, you know, things and, and medicines that the doctor
had her on. But one of the things that I think is really
important, Catherine, and anybody else, look at what is
underneath the fear, if we gain weight, what is the lies that we
hear? And where are those coming from? And really allowing the
Lord to come in and heal those areas. So Catherine, what is
what are some of the lies that you hear, if you are above 130?
Because that seems to be something that you're saying
there. So let's just start there.
A big one is that no guy could possibly love me overweight.
Another one is, I can't physically do anything. Because
when I was between 200 and 210 pounds, I had a very hard time
chasing my son. He's got ADHD. He's got autism. And it's true.
Can God heal of that? Oh, absolutely. I've watched a kid
that was shy of turning 10 years old become and be a part of him
becoming born again. And then man did God bloom, despite him
having autism. I'd say he was basically healing him once he
was born again. He was flying through academics like no
tomorrow. But my son's got that ADHD, and to be able to keep up
with him. And then I was struggling with keeping up with
his peers at work. And then like, what if the kid drops on
Okay, so we're gonna dial in. It's okay. I just want to help
you dial in on what the lies are, though. Okay, so the lie
number one is no guy could ever love me overweight. But let's
get to the core. When is the first time you remember as much
as you can, that you believed that lie?
It probably has to do with my son's dad. Because he would make
the nastiest comments. It probably goes back to that, too.
Hey, did you ever first guy I married? Okay, did you ever hear
anything growing up about your body and weight? Did anybody
make any kind of comments?
And then there's probably that too, where I think my dad
probably I think because like he grew up as that kid. He was
trying to help I get it. But I think he would say when you
What do you mean by that? He grew up as a kid overweight?
Right? That I think because he grew up and he would tell me he
was overweight as a kid. I think he worried about it for me. So I
think that if I'm remembering correctly, that they were
comments he would say to like, maybe you don't want to eat that
much or like watch what you eat or because he
Didn't want me to go through what he went through that way as a kid
So I probably heard it even far back is that and that i've always been told through him
It's in our genes
And then there's that even though I know
So do you see how we're getting to the court ladies, oh, yeah, this is
Really important. Okay. So catherine how your friend is saying that it's not just about the way
Yes, that is something that god wants all of us to be healthy in our bodies
He wants us to be good stewards of our bodies. Okay, but it's important for you to also
Really get to the root of what's going on on the inside
What's going on in your heart?
And what's going on in your mind remember earlier? I even started the session tonight god. Is this your thought?
Is this a thought from the enemy or is this the thought you know that I have that I picked up from somewhere?
That either it does align with truth or it doesn't
And we're really starting to get to okay the root. So I want you to take some time this week
Let's just start with that first lie. Okay?
Because it's not true
Okay, i'm just telling you now
I thought for sure
I'm, like god. I don't think i'm ready to meet my spirit mate right now because I need to lose some more weight
I literally said that to the lord
But you want to know what?
Literally four months later. I met brian
Wow, okay, so
It's not about like it doesn't mean that I don't care
About being fit and all the things
But god showed me very very quickly
that
You know when it's the right timing and the right person
They're gonna love you. Okay now ladies
I'm not saying to go so far the other way where we are just like any guy should just love me
However, I am because some of us get like that, too
And we shouldn't be like that. We should want to take care of ourselves. Okay, and so
Catherine this week. I really you know this week
I know it's thanksgiving but I would like you to be praying into that and really ask the lord remember
We're not trying to shovel
Get a shovel out and dig but I am asking you to ask the lord to reveal to you
You know
What are some of the things what are some of the things that you heard growing up about your body?
You you started even sharing at the end there that you were told this is just a part of your genes
Okay, so is that what god has to say about you? Not what did your parents say?
What is but i'm saying you need god's truth to replace that
Okay, so this is one of them
Well one of the truths with that that I know and I know it's a matter of getting it from here to the heart
So I feel it from in here and I walk it out
is
Even if that's in the family genes, i'm born again. I'm a new creation
Yes, that means there's no issues in my dna's whatsoever
Because that's the probably the biggest lie and the longest lie when it comes to my weight is I would always believe
There's something medically wrong with me. It's my thyroid. It's my hormones. It's my i'm always thinking there's something wrong with me
But then i'm a new creation in christ. There's nothing wrong with me
so
I definitely feel like I got to work that out this week and I want that on my heart and then i'm walking out that
That's right. And and and I think just you're on the right track. Let's just keep going in that direction
Okay, and it doesn't mean again that you can't care and I think it's great that you want to physically be able to
Be active and be there, you know be able to physically be able to do the things you needed to do with your son
I think that's a great goal. Um, but let's make sure the core of your heart is getting the healing that it needs
So that we don't go into you know, you start start stepping into dating at some point when you're done with the heart work
And you're hearing all these lies surface out of you know, these body image issues that are at the core
Underneath the surface there. So great job on sharing really appreciate you
Um pray into the things that your dad said when you were younger
You definitely mentioned that and and maybe anything else that might come from from those things
Uh, and then if you know, there were things that your son's dad said, of course
But let's start at the root and let god heal that and we'll see what else happens from there. Okay?
A hundred percent and that's what I want because I know it's about the root of why the weight is not budget
Goes down to that
So I I do believe that that sister was hearing from god and get the root and then it would it would just work out
Yeah, I love it. Look forward to hearing some wins on that. Thank you so much. Shakira. Go ahead
Hi, hello
I'm gonna have my camera off for just a little bit. But um, i'm glad to be back glad to see everyone
one. My question is for the healing. I think one of the things that I have to surrender
and you kind of talked about was how you want to heal and you feel like you have to work
at it, but you have to let God do the healing. And that's been really difficult for me. And
I know that there's a lot of people who have been in this part of the program longer than
the five weeks. And I guess if you have any tips, sometimes it's just been frustrating.
And it feels like I feel like I can't get out of my own way.
So tell me when that kicks in the most for you.
I think when I get frustrated in other areas of my life and I realize that, say, for instance,
when I was growing up, education was a really big thing in my household. So instead of worrying
about, you know, like having a spouse or getting married or having kids, I was so focused on
getting into the college I wanted and having a nice career. And those things have happened.
And I realized that they don't satisfy. And I feel like I wasted time by being so focused
on career and school instead of relationships and how to heal and be better.
I did put an emphasis on friendship. I think my parents didn't have a great marriage and
they eventually got divorced. So friendship was kind of almost became an idol to me. But
the other thing was school and stuff like that. So I feel like I kind of wasted time.
And then now I'm in my job and it hasn't been that satisfactory. And then just the times,
I guess, when I'm alone and I feel like I should feel closer to God because I have more
time to be with him. But then instead, I don't feel closer to God. And I kind of feel,
I don't, I guess, almost like self-pity, if that makes sense.
So when you say, okay, so when I asked, like, how sometimes you struggle to get out of your
own way, when I said, when does this normally kick in for you? And you start talking about
schooling and things like that. Is that something right now? I can't remember if you're in school
right now, or is this something from the past?
So the school is something from the past. I am in my job. And right now, my job, I feel like
I've been in it for about five years. And I haven't been enjoying it. I tried
seeing if I could maybe move around in the job. And that didn't happen. And then I finally got
something that I have a little bit of funding for, but I enjoy it. But I'm not like the best
at it. So there's just a lot of information to know about it. And I was freaking out. I did
mention that there was a possibility of going back to school. But there was like a big commitment,
like, if I went back to school, then I have to stay with the company for three years.
So I decided not to do that, again, because of the hard work. So just, I guess, the pressure
of like, I'm trying to do well in a job that I'm not really even enjoying. And then I'm not,
you know, married, I don't have kids. So I'm, I've almost I know that nothing's wasted.
But it almost feels like wasted time. Because I'm, there's like nothing I'm really looking forward to
in my life right now.
So is that why it feels like wasted time? Because you're not enjoying it? Or is there
an internal lie and dialogue that's causing you to believe that it's wasted time?
Maybe both. Like,
It's
Because I guess in my head I'm like, okay, so I'm working at this job
I'm not really enjoying it, but I need to work to live and then
the the healings taking so long
I'm you know, I'm not married. I'm I'm not having kids unless I get married and
and I don't like where I'm living and I know God moved me up here because
Where I was living before
Even though it's like one of my favorite places in the world
My family was just not healthy. So I know God moved me
up here
to heal
It's just
You know when when everything just seems so it's not there's like what what light do you look at?
I do have a better church community now, which is great
And I'm starting to learn that's a light to look at. Okay. Yeah, one of the things I want to say here, too
I think sometimes ladies we have this idea, you know, I
Don't know if you all ever heard this but there you know
A lot of people be like there's a light at the end of the tunnel
Look for the light at the end of the tunnel and years ago
I would get frustrated because I would feel like the light was so far away and
I was in the middle of the tunnel and my perception was that the tunnel was dark
And there wasn't a lot going on there and then God one day
Reminded me like Jesus was like I'm the light and I'm in you
There is literally like everywhere. I invite him to come
The light is there
When he started talking to me about that all of a sudden I realized oh my gosh
I don't gotta wait to get to the end of the tunnel to get to the light because the light literally is in the
Tunnel with me and so Shakira
I feel like part of the struggle is that you feel like you got to get down to the end of the tunnel you got
To find the person you gotta you gotta get the kids and and then you're gonna be happy
But you know what? Here's the reality if you don't learn how to find happiness and joy
Right where you are
Those things aren't gonna necessarily just make you happy. I mean, that's truth. Okay. So yeah
No, I I agree with that and I don't know how to get there. Well, I think you're on your way
I think you're on your way. It's it's more like asking the Lord to reveal to you
Lord, what what steals my joy? Is
It that you who?
Haven't and this is stuff I've had to work through so I want you to know I know it's not easy
but I think this is gonna really help you I
Remember when people would you know sing about like, you know joy of their salvation and all just you know
joyful people just naturally and I'd be like I'd actually feel frustrated because I would be like
How are they like that? Cuz I don't feel like that, but I wanted to feel like that
And so there came a time where you know, the more I healed
And God started just teaching me more about just this deep abiding joy that I'd heard about and
It wasn't it wasn't like, you know again the orphan mentalities make us think we got to strive
We got a stretch for this stuff and we might not even be able to get a hold of it
Because maybe that's not even meant for us
There's these internal dialogues that we have going on
and God showed me like
Literally he just the gate was open like I could just go in and eat if you will of the joy
I could go in and receive his fullness and and allow that to come in and and permeate so much on the inside of me
Y'all and this is this is literally stuff that happened and the more that I spent time
Understanding and growing in the love of the father. I know I talk about this a lot y'all but this is really what changed me
When I started understanding that I was not an orphan I was never an orphan
Even though my dad left when I was a baby didn't want anything to do with me pretty much my entire life
My mom did I think the best that she could but checked out a lot
Emotionally was unavailable
so I grew up feeling abandoned and neglected but the reality is is I was never an
orphan because I was always the father's and
I really do believe Shakira. That is gonna be a game-changer for you
Really asking God to help
help you understand that you are loved. You are not on the outside. God wants to help
you step into these blessings. He wants to deliver you from, you said it, this feeling
like when you're alone, you feel like you should be closer to God. There's this striving
happening in you. You're at this job trying to work the job that you just really don't
even enjoy, but feeling like you got to be there and you got to do that. Maybe it's just
learning how to let God lead you into what is it like to be alone and not feel like you
have to do something for God to feel close to you. Does that make sense?
Yeah.
That you don't have to strive for his love. You don't have to strive for his affirmation.
You don't have to strive for his affection towards you. He has affection towards you
right now. Even if you never did, y'all, this is truth. Even if you never, Shakira or anyone
else, even if we never did anything else for the Lord, his love for us is the same. That's
why he did the example of he literally came down before Jesus ever did anything and he
publicly acknowledged Jesus as his son. So the truth is the same for us. Now out of the overflow
of our love, we want to serve. We want to be a part of the community. We want to be a disciple,
but getting in the core that he wants you to experience his love, his joy, his fullness,
and wants you to know like you don't have to perform for that.
And so I'm not sure that that's the question you were asking, but that's what I feel led to
talk to you about is the really praying into, okay, Lord, where is the orphan mentalities
and these limiting beliefs causing me to feel like I've wasted all this time and I've messed
something up like so bad that you can't fix it. Because even though that's not what you're saying,
when we say things like I've wasted all this time and now here I am and we feel like it's
so far away, it's like we kind of put ourselves in this prison area where we've just messed up
so bad and we've lost all this time and God, I don't even know if you can fix this. Does that
make sense? Yeah. Actually, it's interesting that you said that because this year I got into a new
after being in a bad situation. I was telling Amanda. And so the thing I felt God telling me
to do or maybe just because of past experiences is not to jump in right away, not to serve.
And that's been really hard. And even when I didn't tell people that I've served in the past,
I kept getting asked to serve and I kept having to say no and I felt not great. And then I was like,
maybe I don't feel joy because I'm not serving. And so it's been hard because I'm just like this.
And you did ask me how many days I was going to church and I was going to church about
three to four days a week and I cut it down to three days a week. I don't know if that's still
much, but I because I feel peaceful when I'm at church. Like one of my new friends is
the associate pastor. So they want me to be at things and it's hard for me. I'm used to showing
up and being at church and I feel peace when I'm there. And then when I'm at home, I feel like I'm
tormenting myself. So here's the thing. I'm not saying to you, don't go to church. What I'm saying
to you is you can't get your identity from going to church. Does that? You can't. God doesn't want
us to get our identity from serving. He doesn't want us to get our identity from a job. He wants
us to get our identity from him. And I think that's why the Lord has been nudging you to not
say yes. That's why I even felt led to say to you, Hey, like, is this striving? Is this you trying,
you know, because you want to know like deep in your knower that, you know, again,
whether you serve or don't serve, that you matter to God and you matter to people. And yeah, I mean,
sure. I Brian and I pastor a church. I can tell you that we, we really are so grateful for.
our friends that can come and serve and help us, y'all, because we've got, we've got a little team
and we need a lot of people to help us. But at the end of the day, if I knew my friend was
struggling and needing to really figure out their worth in Christ without doing anything,
that is more important to me than anything they could do to help us, genuinely. And so I think
you even having a real conversation with your friends about this will be a good thing.
And I, I mean, yeah, I did have a conversation with, with one of them,
um, because there was, there was one day where they wanted me to help out with the evangelist
team. Cause they're like, Oh, well you talk a lot and you're friendly. And I was like,
I can't do it right now. And it got to the point where he told me just go into the meeting,
you know, go into the meeting. And I sat in the meeting and I was so upset because I felt like I
wasn't there. And I cried and his wife saw me cry. And so I explained to her like what I felt like
God was doing. And she's like, Oh, well, I understand. Like we, you know, like we won't
ask. So she's always careful about like what she asked me to do, but I, I did get swept up.
They like the past, the senior pastor's wife, like asked me to do the Christmas play. And I,
I didn't say no, but I was like, maybe it's a one-off thing.
It's, it's about the Holy spirit. Okay. I really want that because I think that I remember
if I remember correctly what you said about your parents, you know, you were really struggling in
the beginning of heartwork with the things that they were saying to you. So what I don't want to
happen is that when, when you receive coaching from me, I don't want it to feel like legalistic.
Okay. I'm giving you ideas of ways to pray and navigate this as the Lord is trying to set you
free from getting your identity, from things that people say about you, about, you know, your job
and your school and having to feel like there's this level of perfectionism. If I remember correct,
these are all the things we've talked about before. Right. And so, you know, I don't want you
to hear something I'm saying and feeling like, I don't know if I'm doing this right there. I want
there to be freedom in this and grace. This is about you saying, Lord is, you know, would it be
good for me to do the children's play? Or is that something I should pause on too? Where it feels more
about you and the Lord having a conversation versus Bethany told me not to. Does that make sense?
Yeah. Because we don't want it to be about what a person is telling you to do. Now, some of you,
any, maybe all of you, you know, what can get tricky is we're like, well, I don't know if that's
Lord or not. Here's the thing. Do we think that if we make a mistake that God isn't big enough to help us
get redirected? He can help us. So I don't want us like, you know, someone said to me one time,
you know, are you afraid to get out of the boat because you're so afraid to make a mistake?
And I was like, oh yeah, this is years ago. And I was so glad that they asked me that because I
was kind of waiting and like hem-hawing. There was something I really felt led to do, but I was
so afraid that I was going to make the wrong step that I wasn't making any steps. And so that really
helped me, you know, Lord, what do you want me to do? And then I would just go for it, you know.
And, but if you are someone that leans towards, you just always get your identity from these
things and serving and jobs and titles. And, you know, there are most times the Lord is going to
lead us through season. I can say this because I've been through it where he's just like, hey,
I want you to tell that person, no, I want you to set a boundary here.
And I want you to grow in this because you have allowed people pleasing to lead you into
situations that get you into trouble. And so that's part of your growth process, Shakira,
but this is about you and the Lord growing, you asking him and it becoming fun, not legalistic.
Okay. This should feel, this should start to, the more that you heal should start to feel a little
bit lighter and a lot more free, but don't worry about, don't worry about if you're not there yet.
Okay. I know that can be tough. You said when I'm alone, I feel like I should be closer to God.
Well, maybe God's trying to teach you a new way of connecting with him.
So again, just where you step into a lot more grace towards yourself and kindness in your process of healing and growth and and ladies, you know
We're not always gonna feel happy and light. Sometimes we're gonna have to muddle through these things
Until we get to the other side and we're like, oh
That's the joy Bethany was talking about on that coaching call or that's what it means to
Like know God is my father
You know and it takes time y'all I've been saved since 1998
That's a long time
So I've had a long time to grow in this understanding of God is my father
So don't compare yourself to me or other people give yourself grace and understand that it takes time
That's for everyone
And I hope that you don't look at I'm not I'm using myself as an example because I'm coaching tonight
But even other people in your life, you know, don't look always and compare yourself
Well, they pray like this and I don't pray like that. Well
We don't know how long they've had time to practice
right
So lots of grace Shakira practice practice practice grace
All right, maybe even maybe research some songs on grace I think that would be good
Okay. Yeah, and just let yourself kind of worship regarding grace and stuff in this next week and keep us posted on how this
Goes, okay
Okay, sounds good. Thank you. You're welcome. Love you. Love you, too. All right Bambi go ahead
Hi, can you hear me? Yep. Okay, great
so just to
first time on here to actually speak so
So much that I'm learning just by everybody else sharing. I can't even tell you
It just feels like I would say the first step for me is just hearing everybody else sharing
It makes me realize. Oh my gosh
I'm not the only one and I really believe the enemy wanted me to feel like I was the only one on the planet
That's going through something really challenging, especially during this time
But I would say besides
Especially this holidays seasons coming up
I'm really glad I found last year single because this is when I'm really weak. This is when I start to say yes to
dates and
Events that are worldly and secular and that I know are not going to
Pan out long-term
So I've been I feel like a nun because I've just been like going to church
pray meetings
Rallies this and that and always the single one always at the single table
With all the other single people and the single guys sitting next to me and I'm always in between and I'm always like, oh my gosh
Just someone comes in. I think are people gonna think that we're a couple or something like that, you know
But
Working on
cultivating friendships
For a long time. I was on the road missionary work and everything and now I for two years
I kind of feel like a single mom because never had children, but I feel like
a single mom being a caregiver here because I'm on I'm in Hawaii and
My siblings that are older are on the mainland and I've been here over two and a half years and they have not been here
To you know, just give me a break
But and we don't have any other caregivers because well, I have to say I'm very careful who I want in the care of my
mom and
Then she's a prayer warrior too. So spiritually she's right on point
But but dementia comes in waves and I just never know and she won't let us really
Have her medically examined anymore or anything like that. So I'm always just grasping at straws and going Lord
What what a how to what our am I dealing with right now?
But you know, she's usually happy-go-lucky and
laughing and fun and all of that
but it's just always
It's it's just I can't really go anywhere as far as like vacations and things like that
I can get a few hours away and and stuff but
But it just makes things
Hard in that way because I don't have anyone
To really bounce things off as far as in the family
Can't really go to my mom about things even like her trust in her will I'm trying to work on that getting that
situated and
Helping her with that, but it's been if she just keeps like put things off and so and then I helped her with things
Like, you know her ministry and she wrote a couple books and I helped her with her last book and all of that
And I was planning on going on talk shows and etc
And then boom, boom, boom, the dementia episode.
And I was the chosen one because I wasn't married, no children, and she's going to do
it.
She's going to do it.
And I feel tricked because I'm like, I'm stuck on an island.
And it's like so, it's like, you know, prophets always come from out of town, right?
And prophet is without honor in their own hometown.
And I mean, I was doing miracles, all kinds of stuff God was doing through me when I was
away.
And I come back and it's just familiarity breeds contempt.
So I feel like, um, yeah, it's, it's, uh, it's just different things that I'm going
through.
It's, um, a lot.
And then my sister and my niece say, okay, well, we'll come in January.
We'll come to come see you.
But I'm just saying I live here 24 seven and it's my space and I literally am in the living
room turns into a bedroom at night.
And we have a good system and it's a one bedroom on the ocean, but it's a one bedroom.
And if they come, it's like, man, it stresses me out.
It's because it's like they get, she gets to be her daughter and my niece gets to be
her niece.
But I'm always the caregiver.
I'm always the caregiver.
And um, it's, I wish I could say, can you just get me a hotel and you all enjoy because
you have a free caregiver for two and a half years now.
And on average, the state would pay me 7,000 a month if you know, um, and you guys won't
do it.
So I bet I can't say this.
Okay.
That was going to be my question for you.
So tell me why you can't say that.
Um, first time I did try to say that my, my brother's, um, wife, my sister-in-law who
I usually just get along with like no problem.
And she's a Muslim by the way.
So my brother, long story short, my dad died.
Every, our faith was like completely doomed, like assaulted.
I mean, since we were little, we were born and raised in the church and I myself had
a really amazing encounter with the Lord and I was a little girl and everything.
But when my dad died, our faith was just crushed.
So we all became prodigals.
I came back.
They never did.
He, my brother married a Muslim because it's a vacuum, so it'll be filled.
And he married a Muslim and they have a very strict, um, culture and, um, we don't agree
with each other, but we respect each other, but not very close to anyone really.
Um, but she said, why would you pay someone to take care of her own mother while she has
her seven brothers in India taking care of her mother?
So I'm like, well, I didn't know what to say.
I was in shock when I heard that.
And my sister repeated it, my brother repeated it.
And so I was like, okay, what do you say to that?
So I'm like, well, you all are free to have your own careers, et cetera.
And you know what's so funny is they'll say to, and they'll look at me and they'll go,
so when are you going to get a job?
And I'm like, my mom is my job.
She is my job.
It's 24 seven.
I wish I could clock out like y'all.
I can't, I never know what hour I'm going to have.
I got to make sure she eats, she drinks, I got to do all the bills.
I got to schedule everything.
I mean, it's every, it's like being a mom, but it's harder because they know they're
their parent at times.
And so with a child, it's like, they know from what I've been told, they know for the
first time you're giving them rules.
But with the parent, it's like, what?
No, I'm the parent.
No, I don't need any help.
So, and then my mom usurps them from communicating with me because she texts them as if everything
is fine.
So, I never hear from them.
And so it's, yeah, it's just one of those interesting things.
And my mom and I, so let me ask you, I'm going to jump in, let me ask you another question.
So, okay, so you've tried to let them know how you feel.
So if you feel like there's nothing that you can change regarding them, you there's, you're
not going to get help from them.
Like genuinely, one of the best things I can just say is that as a part of the heart work,
as you know, it's, it's for people that, you know, one of the things that stood out to
me that you said is they picked me because I was single, I didn't have any kids.
And so that stood out like a very kind of emotionally charged statement is what the
way I would kind of say that, which makes sense.
So the reason I'm saying that to you is I think it'd be really, really good for you
to do a forgiveness prayer sheet to forgive your siblings.
And even like your brother saying that thing to you, you know, or the sister-in-law and,
you know, where you're really.
processing, forgiving these individuals and letting them go. And you know, if you
feel like there's nothing that can change by voicing your opinion or how
you feel, you know, I would really pray into how you can set boundaries when
they come into town so that you don't, you know, feel resentful if they're not
going to help, you know, like, for example, one of the things you said, get a hotel
room and take care of her, you know, like, can you protect your heart and process
these things out to the best of your ability. In the meantime, also really
trusting that because one of the things you said, I'm on this little island, I
can't really go do anything. And I get it. I know that that's probably very true.
But one of the things I want to just speak into you is that we have several
ladies in this community that have been literally on islands even smaller than
Hawaii, and thought there would be no way that God could help them find their
spirit mate because the one woman was a single mom, and her son had several
needs, and she had a hard time getting out and about. And so she's like, how am
I ever going to meet anybody? And that's what she kept saying over and over and
But here's the thing, Bambi, I'm going to let you and everybody else know, I know
it's hard, but we have to come out of agreement with saying that over and over
and over again, you have to come out of place. Because if we keep saying that,
like I live on this island, I can't meet anybody. Take like, I'm not saying those
things aren't true right now. Okay. But God is creative, and he can do anything
he wants. And he can move a person from a different state if he needs to, to
Hawaii, and encounter you at the grocery store. I don't know, I'm just saying, I
don't know how you're going to meet your spirit. But I want you to really come out
of agreement with saying things out loud that are partnering with, there is no way
I can move my life forward in this season. Singleness is my lot, caregiving
is my lot. And that's it. Does that make sense what I'm saying?
It makes perfect sense. I just wanted to add that I've, I've been I have had a few
dates, I have gone out on dates before last year single. And what's so
interesting, ever since I've joined, they are contacting me. And they're
Christian. But I'm like, Oh my gosh, how do I handle this? You know, I haven't, I'm
just sort of like, keeping them at bay.
Yeah, you just let them know, ladies, this is how you say it. Hey, you know, it was
nice hearing from you. I am doing a really important heart healing journey
during this time. And so I'm, you know, when I'm finished, I'll reach back out.
And that's literally what you can say, like, you don't have to explain anything
else to them. If they're a good guy, they're going to be like, hey, that's
really awesome. I look forward to hearing from you at that time, you know,
and they're not going to try to like, you know, get you to constantly talk to them
and all the things. And ladies, it's going to be really awesome when you come
out on the other side, and you realize whether or not that's even someone you
want to talk to anymore. You know, because not, not every Christian guy is
someone that is a good spirit mate connection. So Bambi, that's awesome that
you have gone on some dates before. Now, while you're in the higher work, we ask
people to not date. And so that's, you know, great. Yeah, we ask people to press
pause on dating while they're in the heart work, so that you can just focus on
your heart healing and everything that God's trying to do in and through that.
Now, does that include if I'm going out to events as well, like going out dancing
or, you know, Christmas parties, and somebody asked me out? Do I just say? Do
I just say, I'm not dating right now. I'm working on a heart healing journey. But
once I'm ready, I'll reach out to you.
Yeah, that's exactly. And they may or may not, they might, you know, they may be
like, Oh, I don't want to wait that long. And you don't worry about that. Because
if they're your spirit mate, they're not gonna, they're not gonna be that guy
that's like, Oh, see you later. I don't care. You know, they're gonna they're
gonna actually be intentional and think that what you're doing is really
important. And they're going to value that. Proverbs 1822 is something we
stand on regarding our men's program. And it says a man who has found a wife has
found a good thing. And men that are healthy value women that are healthy and
investing in healing. They do or have already done. And so yeah, ladies, it's
really we actually have this conversation this afternoon, because
There are a lot of holiday parties happening and things and singles events.
And, and so I know that that can feel tough to not go and do, we're not saying
don't go to Friendsgivings because that was the question that came up today.
But I am saying to you all really ask yourself, are you going in your
heart to try to meet somebody?
And if you are, you really need to ask yourself if that's the best decision for
you right now, because if it's going to distract you from your heart healing,
which is why you're here to help you really figure out why you are repeating
cycles that are not serving you.
Right.
Or whatever else it is that we need healed from.
And so we don't want to allow the enemy to distract us.
We, even during the holidays, and I know you all, I lived by myself.
I didn't even have anybody that lived with me.
And you all, I talked about this a couple of weeks ago during COVID.
I couldn't hardly ever even see my friends.
It was tough, but you know what?
I had one of the best Christmases ever you all.
And I was, I was worried about that Christmas, threatened over it.
And I ended up having like one of the best, God just really met me and gave
me the supernatural grace, like I just can't even explain it and set me free
from my deep loneliness issues that I had.
Did you have anyone ever ask you during that time?
Like, or no, maybe because you didn't see anyone.
I don't know.
But if, when I go to friends, givings, et cetera, and anybody asks, Oh my
gosh, why are you single?
Or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Do I just tell them also that I'm on this heart journey and just
not available to date right now?
Yep.
I, I literally was very intentional with people.
I actually, so the way it was for me, it was a little different.
Um, after I broke up with my spiritual daughter's dad, that was the third
relationship in the row in a row where, um, the person had addiction issues.
They treated me badly, was not good situation.
And so when I ended that relationship, I decided, um, and this is long before
I came into the program that I was literally not going to date for a year.
I made that commitment to myself and I didn't date for a year.
And, um, literally coming at the end of that first year, I was like, you know
what, I think I need to do this longer.
Cause this is actually helping me a lot.
And, uh, I went into that second year and, um, I'm trying to think 2000.
Yeah.
I was almost at the end of that.
No, no.
I was about midway through that second year.
And, uh, that's when I came into contact with Jackie's program.
And, um, cause it was about two years total.
By the time I started dating again, now everyone's journey is different.
I'm not telling you all you have to do that.
I'm just saying that was something that God led you to do because
I was trying to break a cycle.
And the common denominator was me.
And I didn't want to keep attracting those people anymore.
And so I needed time to heal and recalibrate and honestly grow some
foundational roots that I never had an opportunity to grow when I was a young
girl, I needed to learn how to know my identity apart from a man and who God
said I was as his daughter and to come out of these orphan mentalities and
things that I'm talking to you all about, because they were, they were sabotaging
me.
And so all I'm, I'm saying that to you because when I came back, like when I
was in the heart work, I was all in committed, like I'm, I'm doing this, but
y'all, I still met people.
Okay.
And so, yes, I was very confident in telling people, um, you know, some of my
best friends were worried.
They were afraid.
I was like wasting time.
Like you gotta meet people again.
And I was like, no, this is what God has told me to do.
I was just very confident about it.
And I didn't let them cause me to be afraid because I knew what God told me to
do.
And so I just would say like, Hey, I'm, and then when I came into the program, I
just was like, man, I found this amazing program.
It's really helping me.
And this is what God is saying.
And I just would tell people, and when I was confident about it, even when they
would push back, there just wasn't much they could say because I was confident in
it.
Does that make sense?
Yeah.
That makes, that does.
That makes perfect sense.
And, um, okay.
So I just wanted to ask you this then, when you mentioned your mom not being
emotionally available to you, that is my upbringing too, and it's even more
magnified now and it's even more magnified when anybody else is in the room.
You know, and so I actually did a post about forgiveness on the community tab and I got
a couple of really cool, because it was something that the Lord revealed to me in my prayer
time about, you know, that part, give us, give us, forgive them their debts as you forgive
our debts.
And he asked me, have they apologized?
I said, no.
He said, well, isn't that their debt?
I said, yes.
He goes, well, do you forgive their debt?
I said, yes.
And that was like a couple of weeks ago.
But this is perpetual, Bethany.
This is perpetual.
It's every day.
Yeah.
But this is the thing.
Okay.
The Lord asked us, you know, to forgive 70 times seven.
And the reason he said that is because there are going to be some people that are going
to do the same things over and over and over again.
And it doesn't mean we become their doormat.
You know, Bambi or anyone else, but it means that we surrender and we forgive because we
have been forgiven.
And some of us have been forgiven over and over and over and over again, right?
And so it's super important for us to partner with that truth and understand that through
God's grace, we are forgiven and we can also forgive.
And so Bambi, great questions.
So good to talk to you tonight.
I am going to go to Nari.
Thank you.
You too.
Yeah.
You're welcome.
Quickly.
We're at 10.01.
And so I got to wrap this fun stuff up tonight as soon as I can.
So Nari, go ahead.
So I wanted to share that I realized today as I was, I don't know how I came across,
but I noticed that I signed up for the heart work earlier this year.
It was like in May.
So it's been like, I don't know, like six months or more, but I didn't, it took me a
while to get going.
It took me a while.
It took me a little bit of time to get started and really get into the rhythm of it.
And I feel that I've been more consistent with it the last few weeks.
And I've noticed that I've made some really good gains and progress through the heart
work.
And then this past week, I feel like things just kind of plummeted.
And now I feel like I'm getting worse.
And I just feel really restless in my spirit.
I asked the Lord for some guidance and direction on how to make a decision with respect to
my finances and some other just, I feel like I'm kind of in, in a little bit of a, like,
like I'm kind of almost like in the in-between zone.
Like I'm like, I don't know what to do when it comes to my living situation, my finances.
And I know I'm doing this heart work and I'm hoping to meet my partner, get married, have
children.
And it's interesting that you shared that, you know, you intentionally chose not to date
for a year or longer.
And this has been the longest time that I haven't been on dates.
My last serious relationship, I haven't been in one since in my 20s, I'm in my like mid
30s now.
So it's been a while that I've been in a serious relationship.
And I've just been feeling like, like how my time is just slipping by.
And this is the longest time that I haven't dated someone or like been on dates.
And it's interesting because I have so much going on in my life on the surface that looks
really great.
But I still feel like I'm waiting for my life to start.
It doesn't feel like I'm living, if that makes sense.
Like I'm still trying to attain or, you know, do things to kind of achieve that bliss or
that happiness that I'm seeking or that satisfaction.
And I get moments of it, you know, when I'm in prayer or when I feel close to the Lord
or when I go to church or when I'm with people that are around that are really supportive.
But on a day to day, I just feel this restlessness and this like heaviness and this, just this
dissatisfaction.
And it's hard because there's so much I need to give up or like, you know, let the Lord
take care of.
And then I find myself getting back, falling back into the state of striving.
It's almost like second nature.
I've been doing it my whole life.
And it's really hard not to be that way because I've been kind of trained at a young age to
be a high achiever.
And I know now that that's not helpful, but it's so hard to break out of that pattern.
So.
Yeah, I don't think one of the things, just so that I tell you also sorry, just in case
if this happens I hope that it doesn't and I get finished with everybody but my phone
battery that I'm hot spotting off of is like at 15 so if for any reason while I'm talking
midway to any of you, if the screen just ends you all it's because my phone died okay so
just know in advance, if that happens, I'm sorry for mid conversation okay.
But one of the things that was standing out is as you were talking about the restlessness
and don't feel like you're really kind of living, when is the last time you remember feeling alive?
Like even if it was when you were a kid or is there any memory and like yeah go ahead.
Yeah like maybe like in my early 20s when I wasn't so caught up in responsibility the
way that I am now and as a teen and a child yeah.
So do you feel like the responsibility feels too heavy, is that what you're saying?
It almost feels like everything that I know this is gonna, this is really hard for me
to say and I'm a little bit embarrassed to say it because I logically know it's not true
but it feels like everything I'm doing is a waste of time because what I really want to be doing
is having a family like I want to get married and have kids so I just feel like even though I'm
doing all these great things I feel and I get resentful about people like I have so many people
around me who are celebrating these birthday parties for their children and they're doing
all these great things with their families and I just feel like I'm everything doesn't matter
because it's not I don't know it's not what I want or it's like I think that's going to be
better or that's going to be the thing that's going to make things better for me.
Yeah so you're kind of like in one vein like Shakira like how I was saying I don't know if
that resonated with you when I was saying to her like here's the reality you all I thought
years ago that marriage was going to make me happy.
This is years ago I got married and then the shocking truth was that marriage doesn't
necessarily especially if it's not a good guy. Now I will tell you this time around a healthy
person we are having a lot of fun okay but both of us were healthy coming into this marriage
okay and so I get my happiness from the Lord not from Brian but Brian is funny and so I get some
happiness from him too because he's just a funny person he's fun and easy to be around and we laugh
a lot and it's fun but you know what I realized is I'm fun too and so I bring fun into this marriage
too and so that's why we have a lot of fun together now there are days and moments as much
as I love him then I'm like you're annoying me stop it okay I'm just being real right so we're
going to have things where it is going to be great but we need to understand that marriage itself
getting to the altar is not the goal and I've heard that so many times and I do believe it
and I think because I know that logically I think it almost makes me feel worse
because I don't know yeah I think that's just guilt and shame which I've talked to you about
that before too I think that internal dialogue just feeling guilty for you even said it earlier
like I feel bad for saying I feel like it's a waste of time you know I think just really being
okay with the things that you think and feel and not feeling shame or condemnation or guilt for
them but just understanding like oh yeah maybe God wants me to heal in that area and grow out of that
but like where you don't have this shame feeling for the thoughts and the feelings that you have
yeah and it's not so much that I feel worse about having the feelings it's more so I feel worse
because if that's not going to make me happy then well like what and I know it's like finding
that satisfaction and identity in the Lord and then I still struggle sometimes with that too
I think yeah and I will say I mean you've grown a ton since you've come into this program I think
and so maybe some of it is that you know start looking at your wins and the things that are
going well like even though you feel a certain way we have to make sure our feelings don't get
in the driver's seat and that they're not directing the play if you will
And because they're writing the whole storyline sometimes
and they're directing the play and they're just,
and we're not always gonna feel like everything is great
and all of that.
But I will tell you that genuinely,
and I'm not just saying this,
that God is a redeemer of time
and nothing will ever, ever, ever be wasted, ever.
Even that six year relationship that I was in
that I'm like, I still look back,
I tell you guys this all the time,
I can't believe I dated that guy for six years,
but I did and God is using it
and he's helping me help other people,
hopefully not end up for six years
in a relationship like I did,
but nothing's wasted and God is using all of it.
And I honestly think because of some of the things,
God didn't intend that for me,
but God is using some of those things.
He taught me joy through all of that, which is ironic.
And so Nari, I think just at the core,
I really want you to go back to,
if the early 20s is when you felt alive,
I really want you to go even before that.
Because I feel like if it really was
just because you're doing a job
that you feel like you're not really where you wanna be,
okay, good.
But I think it's more than that.
I think it's that at the core,
there's some level of unhappiness with yourself.
Because I feel like things don't,
as much as we've kind of coached a couple of times,
I feel like you never feel like you measure up to something,
whether that's not having the marriage
or not having the kids or the job
or some of the other things we've coached through.
And so I feel like at the core,
what's happening is you're not happy with yourself
on some level.
And so where you really continue to,
again, I know I've talked to you about this before,
but I keep feeling every time I coach you,
this convergence back to the younger version of yourself,
where I think there was some level of happiness back then
that God wants you to be able to tap back into
that was genuine, just like innocent happiness.
And just that God wants you to give that back to you.
And I feel like that's a part of your healing process
that's important.
And don't, again, this isn't to put a yoke on you
to find that information.
This is more about just another like, Lord,
as you're praying into this,
I would even say,
when you said that you were more consistent
until the last week,
Lord, was there something that came up
that caused you to start checking out?
Was it that you saw a friend having a thing for her kids?
Was it you saw someone, a marriage announcement?
Was there something that happened
where you started checking out?
And really ask for that.
Because yeah, it could be that you know your job
and that you're really wanting the marriage,
but I think it's deeper than that.
I think it's that there's this dissatisfaction.
You said it, you said dissatisfaction and restlessness,
but I think that's from that internal wrestling
with your own self.
I think it's because if I'm not achieving or achieving
or like making decisions at the root of it,
I just don't feel like I'm enough.
Yeah, very similar to Shakira.
It's even though different scenarios,
you guys are kind of wrestling with very similar things
at the core when you strip all the titles away, Nari,
including wife and mom,
even though those are not where you're at yet,
you are going to be there, I believe it.
But when you strip all that away,
who are you and what is your value?
And let God inform that statement, okay?
Those statements, there should be a bunch.
I can't remember, did you do the silhouette activation?
No, and every week I come here,
I'm waiting for you to assign it again
because I need to do it.
Oh my gosh.
Go ahead and don't wait for that to come back around.
Do you remember what to do?
I wrote it down so I can look back and look at it.
I think that is going to be really important for you.
Okay, I was thinking that too.
Yeah, that whole activation is all about identity.
Getting your identity from what the Lord has to say
about you.
Who do you say I am, Lord?
And let him inform that.
Okay, it's so funny that you brought that up.
Yeah, because it's not our activation
for a couple of weeks still,
but I really feel like that will help you.
Yeah. Okay. I'm going to work on that.
Yeah. And it might give you something to look forward to as well.
Yeah. Okay. Thank you.
You're welcome. And here's one last thing.
As you're doing it, pay attention to if you have any feelings of when you're moving towards it.
Any feelings of like, oh, I don't want to do this.
And like that feeling of like moving away from it.
And just pay attention to what's going on at that time, what thoughts you're having.
Or, you know, if you encountered something, did somebody say something, did you see?
You know, just really start to pay attention to those triggers for yourself.
Okay.
Yeah.
All right. You've got this. You can do this.
Thank you.
You're welcome. Deidre, did I say it right?
I know we're going late, you all, but it's going to be good.
We're going to finish it up, but I wanted to give these ladies a chance.
I was going to pass with you.
Oh, that's all right. I'll go as long as my battery will hold out.
Okay. It's Deidre.
Okay. Deidre.
Gosh.
I think the biggest reason why I put my hand up is because one of the biggest things I struggle with is isolation.
And I'm thinking I can handle it on my own, you know?
And so the only thing that keeps or the one thing, I mean, I had a great weekend that I, you know, I shared that.
I had got free from stuff and the Lord showed me wonderful things.
But then today is no, I think it was the next day.
This is really embarrassing, but it has a point.
But when, when Jackie put up, I think his name's Peter with all his kids and looking for his wife.
And so I started watching some of the videos and I thought, oh my gosh, he's like amazing.
And, and my whole mind just started going down because I'm like thinking, first of all, I've done foster care.
I've adopted a foster child.
I mean, I had a lot of things in common and, you know, physically he was just something that I would, would love to have.
And, you know, just his personality.
And yet the more I even, you know, went down that the more I realized it's like, I just kept dumping stuff on myself.
Like, and I know that would never be a situation, but it was just the process of what I went through and how, you know, first of all, you're too old.
But, but the fact that the more videos I watched, the more I realized that, like, could I even handle someone that happy?
You know what I mean?
Like I didn't, like, I would be getting healed by being with someone like that.
Like that would heal me.
Like, I just craved that kind of, and I know it's in me.
It kind of like you said, you and it sounded like you discovered that you're a fun person when you were with your husband.
I don't know if you knew that before, but it's so anyway, but I know there's a lot in me that would come out, but it's like, it's waiting for.
I don't think it's just healing, but I did have a, I guess I could call him a fiance.
I mean, he pulled that out of me.
So I know people can pull, you can be certain people way with certain people.
And, but at the same time, I just immediately started just disqualifying, I guess, myself and going downhill.
And then I'm thinking, well, so I'm never really going to be with anybody.
If I have all this healing to do, if I can't even, you know, so, so this is kind of a multi, I don't even know what the question is.
But the biggest question is, I think is like when, like a lot of the issues I need to learn are when there's a relationship in the picture, you know what I mean?
So like where.
When, like how do you know when it's time to learn about
not picking the right people or wrong,
not picking the wrong people and learning, learning more.
Yeah, I mean, after you finish the heart work,
when you go, if you choose to go into the next phases,
that is what we focus on largely.
You still will do heart work there,
but there will be a lot of new introduced.
And I will tell you that a lot of people
do have massive revealings for healing,
even when they try to date, all kinds of things come up.
But I think the biggest thing I hear you saying is that,
you saw something good and then the enemy told you
why you couldn't have it, essentially.
Yeah.
And so at the core of that, Deidre,
let's ask the Lord to reveal why you believe those lies.
Because that's what you need to know.
And I don't want you to feel like that you just have,
you're like too far gone.
You don't like, you're just gonna take too long to heal
because healing is a process
and you're gonna heal long into relationship,
long into engagement, long into marriage.
I'm still healing.
I just want you to know,
like it doesn't mean you can't meet your spirit mate, okay?
And so, yes, let's do the healing as much as we can
while you're here in the heart work.
Sometimes there are ladies that, like even Nari,
you know, she's been here a little bit longer.
Calandra's here tonight.
She felt led to go back and start over.
Not everybody's gonna feel led to do that,
but some people do feel led to do that.
And so if you feel led to, you know,
stay a little longer, get more healing, that's fine.
But some people feel led to be here
for the five weeks and move forward.
And so it's really leaning into
what the Lord is saying for you.
But I will say,
I wanna really give you a homework assignment
in addition to the activations.
I think this will be really good for you.
Number one, this is like a two-parter.
I want you to pray and ask the Lord to show you
what friends you have in your life
that you feel safe enough with to be the real you.
And what I mean by that is to let your silly,
fun side out in front of them.
Or adventurous.
I do have a friend like that.
We did another program together anyway.
God gave me a really great friend.
And the reason I want you to kind of pray about it
and think about it that way.
So you have this one friend.
Because here's the thing.
I agree, yes, some people draw that stuff out of us.
But what I want you to practice is
I want you to practice being that person on your own
without someone else having to pull it out of you.
I want you to be the initiator, okay?
And so part two of this activation for you
is I want you to practice being
the silly version of yourself.
Like literally intentionally
like doing something silly and fun.
You know, you said when I was dating that guy
or that fiance, he pulled it out of me.
Well, what were the things that you did
that felt great and go do those things?
I felt safe.
Like I like sliding on the floor, you know?
I'll run into my socks and slide.
You know, like I'll do,
I just, I knew it wouldn't make me feel stupid.
I knew, I think that's what I don't like feeling.
What?
So do you do those things when you're by yourself?
Yeah, and the Miranda voice.
My daughter taught me that.
So me and the Lord do the Miranda voice.
I mean, I do know how, yeah, I do.
But it's like I have to know them before I,
you know what I mean?
I'm really careful who sees that part of me.
Me too, me too.
I've told the ladies on here.
I mean, I army crawl to scare my husband.
You know, like my friends have seen that side of me,
a couple of them.
I don't show everybody that and that's okay.
We don't have to show everybody,
you know, everything about ourselves.
But I think because you,
I want you to come out of the belief
that it's just other people that pull that out of you.
I want you to really step into being that person,
even when other people are around,
even when it feels uncomfortable right now.
Because I think it's really important
for you to catch the realization
that that is who you can be on your own.
And then you get to find someone who else,
who like is fun and upbeat like that.
And then you guys can be like that together too.
Does that make sense?
Versus someone pulling it out of the other person.
Like Brian is silly and fun.
And yes, I definitely like, we both laugh,
but I do funny things.
I was doing funny things before he met me too.
It's just that, you know,
it's like when Elizabeth and Mary got around each other
and the babies left, it's like, you know,
we both carry gifts and we got around each other,
not just spiritual gifts, but the funny side
and the silliness.
And we got around each other and it kind of quickens
and wakens that up in each other.
And so I would love for y'all to really see that side of it
is that these gifts are in us.
And when we get around people that have similar things,
it quickens and awakens that.
Okay, so be those people.
Be those people that you wanna meet before you meet them.
I am thinking my phone's gonna die,
so I'm gonna go ahead.
Thank you for sharing that with us.
I wanna go ahead and pray us out tonight.
Ladies, I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
God bless you before I pray.
I hope that you really allow the Lord to speak into you
more than anybody else that you're around
this holiday season.
Father, thank you so much for this night.
God, thank you for these amazing women.
God, we ask you to bless them
and guard and keep watch over them.
God, help them to continue to get breakthroughs
where they have felt distracted or restless.
God, I thank you for your peace.
I thank you for healing and focus.
God, I thank you for taking them to new levels
and new understanding and revelation
of all that you have for them.
God, help them to see themselves through your eyes,
to hear what your spirit is saying about them.
God, I thank you that you would just show them
their identity in Christ more than ever before
and show them who you are as their good,
good father in Jesus name.
Amen.
God bless you all.
I'll see you all in the group.
You're welcome.
Have a great night, everyone.
Bye-bye.