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All right, let's get started.

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So we're going to do a little bit of Sunday activation.

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So Supernatural Sunday, if you please, because I wasn't able to be there yesterday because

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I was on an event.

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I was at an event and also because I just jumped in the car from a wedding and it was

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very inspiring.

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Friends, this wedding, one of our guys, a guy that I've really been speaking into the

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life of for quite some time now, and he married an amazing girl for him.

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They're very young and just really excited for their future together.

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But at the ceremony, and I'll post a little clip of video on my Instagram for those of

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you that follow me on Instagram, but they did something really powerful.

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And I found out at the reception, I was able to go to a few minutes of the reception.

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I didn't get any cake, like I said, which I'm sad about because that cake looked real

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good and I only eat cake at weddings.

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That's kind of like the rule of my life.

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But I got a chance to talk to the bride and the groom just briefly and told them how powerful

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this one part of their ceremony was.

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And she told me that it was kind of a last minute thing.

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Like it just sort of happened.

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It was more spontaneous than anything and it was really powerful.

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So you guys know I go to quite a few weddings, I probably go to more weddings than any of

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you go to.

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I know people think that's all I do is just go to weddings like Jackie's always just going

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to weddings.

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And that's not true.

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That isn't true.

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I have been to a couple weddings this year.

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And I have one more to go to that I'm actually officiating.

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I'm helping to officiate here in just two weeks.

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But besides that, I think I've only been to maybe three weddings this year.

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So at the end of the day, at the end of the year, I think I've only been to five.

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Now that doesn't mean that I don't get invited to a lot of weddings and I would love to go

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to every wedding that I get invited to, but that's just not a possible thing.

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It isn't.

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In fact, I've had to miss the weddings of people that are very special to me.

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People that I have been with, you know, for long periods of time, like as a private coach

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or maybe even match made them.

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I haven't even been to the weddings of people that I actually introduce match made with

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each other.

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So, so don't be offended if you give me your wedding invitation and I put it in a box and

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I keep it.

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I do.

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I keep all of them that I get sent because they're special and sacred to me, but I don't

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always get to come.

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But at this wedding, you guys, I've seen people have worship services like full on worship

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services at their wedding.

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Which are powerful.

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That's great.

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I've seen brides laying on the ground in the dirt in their white dresses, worshiping the

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Lord.

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You know, if that's you, boo, you go ahead and do you, but I don't think the Lord requires

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all that.

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You got a white dress on.

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This is your wedding.

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You don't got to be rolling around in the mud in your wedding dress trying to prove that

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you love Jesus.

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That's just me.

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It's just me.

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But you do you, if that's what you got to do.

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But I've been to everything you can think of.

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Everyone's taking communion.

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I've been to what felt like a karaoke wedding where, you know, everyone was singing different

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things and foot washings.

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I've seen foot washings like full on, full on.

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Let's go.

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I've got to take off the hose, got to take off the shoes, got to take off, you know,

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I've seen it all.

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What'd you say, babe?

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Oh, yeah.

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Tying of the hands, tying of the bands, pouring the sand, nailing Jesus to the cross.

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All the things.

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Singing down.

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I've seen the bride come down the aisle with the microphone mic'd.

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Cheeky mama was mic'd singing, singing to her man.

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My beloved, singing a song to her man.

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Unfortunately, she couldn't sing that well, but it's all right.

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It's okay.

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It was a special moment.

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I think that if you're going to sing at your wedding, please be a singer.

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I think that's important.

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I think that you should be a singer if you're going to sing at your wedding.

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Otherwise, I don't know.

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It'll be a special moment.

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It'll be a special moment.

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Fake licks at the rehearsal because they didn't want to kiss until the ceremony.

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Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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We've seen people wear those big wax lips, you know, put those big wax lips.

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You guys know what I'm talking about when you were kids, the big wax lips.

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Put those big wax lips on at the rehearsal because they didn't want to touch lips.

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They want to have their first kiss at their ceremony.

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So they were going to practice.

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They're practicing the kiss with the big wax lips on, but they're not actually kissing

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We're not condoning all this.

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No, no.

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These are not ideas for you guys.

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Not necessarily.

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If you want to steal them for your wedding, cool.

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But I'm just telling you, I've been at all of the things, but at this wedding, okay,

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first of all, they had a violinist and a keyboard.

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That was the instruments.

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And it was in a very beautiful, very windowed, high ceilings, good acoustics type of place.

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It's one of the most diverse weddings I've ever been to.

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There was every color of person under the sun there.

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Every type of, and you know, the groom is a missionary's kid.

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So, you know, just all kinds of different people, different folks, different cultures.

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It was very diverse and I loved it.

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And I'm so sad that we had to leave early because that dance floor was going to be lit.

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When I tell you that that dance floor was going to be lit, I mean, these people were

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dancing in line to get their food.

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All the people at this wedding.

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I've never seen such singing and dancing people in my life.

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And we're sad because, you know, David Dorman likes to dance.

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If you haven't ever seen him dance, the boy can dance.

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And I have a theory.

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People with big booties, like my husband, they have a lower center of gravity and they're

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good at dancing.

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They're coordinated.

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They got coordination, right, because he's shorter and he's got like a lot of muscle

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control because, you know, your butt's a muscle.

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And then that's all I have to say about that.

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People that are tall like me, have you ever seen a giraffe dance?

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There's a reason why giraffes don't dance because they're not coordinated.

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They have really, really long limbs, like long legs, long arms.

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And trying to get all of that longness into coordination with each other is hard.

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It's hard.

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So he pulls me out there.

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He makes me do it, but I can't do it that well.

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So at the ceremony, the bride comes in.

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She's standing in front of the groom.

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They have a very, very funny officiant.

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He was very funny, very, very wise, but also very funny.

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And he says a couple things and then they start to play a song.

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The violinist and the keyboard person start to play a song and everything has been instrumental

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up until this point.

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Like everyone's walking and no one is singing.

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No one has been singing during this beginning of this.

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Now go look on my Instagram if you guys want to see what was up.

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Then all of a sudden during this song, which is a powerful song, You Are Holy, it's just

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kind of a refrain over and over again.

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I start to hear a voice singing and I realize that the bridal party has become a choir.

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And you guys, the acoustics in that place, it was powerful.

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And this bridal party could sing.

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And it was just, I mean, I started to cry.

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It was just so powerful.

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And then pretty soon the bride and groom were also singing.

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And then little by little, the congregation, the people, the audience, we started singing.

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But at the beginning, it was just the voices and a violin and a light keyboard.

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And it was just a choir.

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It was just beautiful.

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So I've never seen that happen at a wedding.

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And if you guys want to steal that and your bridal party can sing, I suggest you do because

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it was amazing.

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All right.

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So we are in a season of firsts.

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You guys know that I released that word and last Supernatural Saturday.

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And hopefully you guys have been activating it by doing things that you know you've never

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done before.

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Remember, it's important that you partner with the word instead of waiting for a first

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to happen to you, which there are going to be firsts.

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We're in a season of firsts.

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So there are going to be firsts that come and happen to you.

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So, you know, that the door just opens and you didn't try to open the door.

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All right.

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I went out and activated that word immediately that same day by going live on my Instagram

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with my hair crazy and no makeup on.

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I'd never done that before.

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I did that.

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And then I went over to the co-working space that we are, you know, that's in the space

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that we own.

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And I had my very first cup of coffee, my very first cappuccino.

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I don't know how you guys drink coffee.

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I'm going to say I'm going to stick with matcha.

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I tried it.

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It was a first.

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I'm not a fan.

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I'm not a fan of it, but I did it.

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Why was I why did I do that?

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Because God says it's a season of firsts and I want to activate that word.

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So I'm encouraging you to do things that you've never done before.

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Doesn't matter how small they are like that.

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Have a first.

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Maybe you can have a first matcha.

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Maybe you've never had a matcha before.

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Maybe you have never gone to a certain store that's on your street.

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Maybe you've driven by it and always wondered, hey, you know, I wonder what that store is

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I wonder what's in that store.

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Maybe it just opened.

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There's very easy things to do.

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That is a first time.

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And what you're doing is is you're telling God, I'm going to do this.

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at hey, I believe that it's a season of firsts

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and I'm willing to get the ball rolling.

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So if you did activate that word,

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go ahead and put that in the comments.

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Let's see who activated that word yourself

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and maybe some of you had a first

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that you didn't activate, it just happened.

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Let's see it.

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Someone posted in the app for the first time.

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Someone did my matchmaking Christmas card.

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I'm so glad that you guys did that.

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My team worked hard on that.

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I just, you know, I just, that idea,

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I just was like, I think that I did talk about that idea

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in years past, it wasn't just this year,

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but this year is the first year that we had the team

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like actually make something for you as far as a template.

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Someone had their first matcha.

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I hope you liked it.

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I did a three-day water fast for the first time.

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Wow, that's big.

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Went to a Christmas market for the first time.

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First, decorating my apartment with Christmas decorations.

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Went to a new town, went shopping.

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Cut down your first tree, that's amazing.

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Went straight to the juice place and got a smoothie.

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I never ate, drank there before, perfect.

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Went to tour the tiny houses by myself for the first time.

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Went to the nursing home to look for angel tree items.

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Decorated my car for Christmas.

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Oh, that's interesting.

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Okay, so you guys see all these right here.

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I let a guy pay for my meal and waited until he did.

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That's the first time you've ever let a guy

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pay for your meal, Alexandra?

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Wow.

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No, it was like, if they're not obvious about it,

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I usually will offer, but I didn't offer, I waited.

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Oh, you waited.

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Okay, girl, I like it.

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I like it.

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Used successfully a hedge trimmer for the first time,

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even with her neck injury.

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First time taking care of a 15-month baby girl.

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Gave a guy your phone number.

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First Christmas parade.

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First passion fruit chili drink.

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You guys see, you're getting the hang of it.

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You're getting the hang of it.

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And friends, this is not a word with an expiration date.

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God told me this is a whole season.

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It's a whole season of firsts.

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And so I really want to encourage you

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to keep activating this.

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And there's going to be firsts that just come upon you,

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good ones, good firsts, that you're not activating.

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Just go ahead and start priming the pump

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and allow God to do the rest, okay?

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Seriously, keep doing that.

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And next Supernatural Saturday,

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I think I'm going to be talking about,

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unless Holy Spirit shifts it,

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gonna be talking about this Advent season we're in,

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because this is a season of miracles.

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This is a season of miracles.

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And so I love that we're in a season of firsts

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and we're in a season just on the calendar of Advent,

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which is a season of expecting the miraculous.

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Isn't that powerful that those two things

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are coinciding with each other?

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God's telling us that we're going to experience first times,

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good first times, and we're also just,

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because of what time of year it is,

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we are also in a time of expecting the miraculous.

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You know, the word Advent means expectation.

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The Advent season is about expecting that notable arrival,

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the arrival of something notable, okay?

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Obviously it was Christ that we were expecting,

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but this season continues to be about expectation.

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And so we'll talk more about that on Supernatural Saturday.

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So I wanna touch on something that I posted

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on my Instagram this week.

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I was talking about a subject called no contact.

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It's been talked about a lot in culture right now.

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There's a lot of people posts about it.

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Oprah did a special on it.

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And it always is something that comes up a lot

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during the holidays.

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And as someone, me, as someone who had to go no contact

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with my family about three times in my life,

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I'm no longer no contact,

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but there were three times in my lifetime,

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in the 50 years that I've been alive on the earth,

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obviously the time that I didn't go no contact

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when I was a kid, well, I kind of did,

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but that I've had to choose to not talk

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specifically my mother.

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And I wanna just talk about that for a second

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if you guys will allow me to.

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And the reason why I wanna talk about it

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is because it's a very,

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very painful choice to have to make.

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Okay.

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I don't want you to think that, you know,

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a lot of people are very flippant about this subject

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and that's why I wanted to post about it.

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Because a lot of people don't need to go no contact,

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they simply just need to have better boundaries.

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No contact is not necessary.

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They think it is because they're offended

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and they're mad and they're angry

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and they think that, you know,

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it's kind of like their spitefulness.

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And that's why they're doing it,

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kind of punish the other person by your absence.

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Your absence, yeah, the word I want.

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But that doesn't work, okay?

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So no contact needs to be used as the last resort

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for when you are in an unsafe situation.

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And I don't just mean unsafe physically,

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I also mean unsafe spiritually,

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emotionally, mentally,

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where when you get around whoever this person is

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that you need to go no contact with,

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that it is so detrimental

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to your physical, mental, spiritual health

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that you have to stop, you know, talking or being with them.

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Because that's, you know, the fallout is so great.

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I would get around my mom,

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I'd even have just a phone call with her

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and, you know, my husband can attest this to you

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because he was married to me

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during one of the, two of the seasons

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that I had to go no contact.

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Two of the times that I had to go no contact,

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I was married to David

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and we've been married for 18 years.

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And I had to go no contact

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because I literally was in danger

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of losing my mental health.

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I crashed out so hard

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after having contact with my mother

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that one time I didn't get out of bed

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for almost three months.

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That's when you know you gotta go no contact, friends.

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Okay?

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Yeah.

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Hard stuff.

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And it was a hard decision too

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because I loved my mother.

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She's in heaven now, as most of you know,

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but I loved her.

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And in fact, I loved her more than I loved myself

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and I so desperately wanted her affection

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and her love and her reciprocation

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that I was willing over and over again

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to put myself on the line.

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In fact, God said to me one day,

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in fact, it was after this last crash out,

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he said to me, he said,

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I have surrounded you,

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because I'm a girl's girl,

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I have a lot of girlfriends,

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I have a lot of, I have all of you.

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I know there's guys on this call still,

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but I have a lot of women in my life

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and I have had a lot of women in my life for a long time.

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And friends and sister figures and mother figures

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and I've been in women's ministry,

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ministering to women for 28 years now.

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And in one way, shape or form,

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ministering to women.

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And God spoke to me that day and he said,

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I have given you so many women that love you.

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Then this is what he said next.

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He said, but you continue to pine away

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after the one woman who can't.

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I have given you so many women that love you,

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but you've continued to put yourself into a place

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of destruction for the one woman who can't.

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That was rough, y'all.

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It was really rough.

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And so I had to go no contact.

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I did, I had to go no contact.

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The last time that I went no contact with my mom,

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I went no contact with her in July of 2017.

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16, July of 2016.

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I went no contact with my mom.

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And I did not talk to her for almost a year.

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And what happened next was David and I renewed our vows.

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We had our 10 year anniversary back then,

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you know, that was a long time ago.

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And we renewed our vows.

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We had a wedding.

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I sent an invitation to my mom.

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And because we were no contact,

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I sent an invitation to my mom.

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And I just little by little started talking to her

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like over text message.

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And then after we got back from Austin,

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cause we went ahead and took a little honeymoon,

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like a little three day trip to Austin

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cause we were planning to move here to Austin.

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And I went back home to Ohio where we lived.

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And God said, when you get back to Ohio,

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He had to go to Tennessee and I just assumed that he wanted me to see my grandmother who

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lives there.

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And so we went to Tennessee when we got home because I know when God's talking to me and

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guess who was there seeing my grandmother, my mom.

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I had been no contact with her so I did know that she was going to Tennessee.

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And so I ran into her and we talked for the first time and then I started having a little

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bit of contact with her and a little bit of contact with her.

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And then I invited her to go do a Joyce Meyer conference with me in October and then a little

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bit of contact with her and a little bit of contact with her.

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And then I talked to her at the holidays at Thanksgiving and Christmas that year.

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And then she confided in me that she hadn't been feeling good and her neck had been hurting

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her a lot and she was just in a lot of pain.

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And then she invited us to come down to Florida for January right after Christmas and to see

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them.

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And we showed up there friends and that's when when we showed up there.

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That's when I took one look at my mom and I realized that she was dying.

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I saw her sitting on the couch and I came in and I hadn't, you know, I hadn't seen her

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since October and it was just only talking to her little by little by little.

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And I took one look at her sitting there and she was emaciated.

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And I was like, what's going on here?

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What's going on with her?

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Why hasn't someone taken her to the doctor?

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She said her neck hurts.

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Well, my mom had a fourth stage bone cancer friends when they took her to the doctor and

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it was terminal.

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And so God did lots and lots and lots of miracles in the next over the course of and that was

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that was January of 2018.

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And God did lots and lots of miracles over the course of the next two years before my

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mom went to heaven.

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She did her heart work.

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I finally was able to talk to her and have a relationship with her that I'd always wanted

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to have.

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Obviously, it wasn't under the circumstances that I wanted it to be under.

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But I'm just going to tell you that I do believe that the one of the reasons why my mom was

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able to kind of talk to me in the way that he was at the end there was because of that

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time of distance.

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And that time of no contact.

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And so sometimes it works out that way and sometimes it doesn't.

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But you have to know the difference between needing to go no contact and you're just upset.

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You're just mad.

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You just need to forgive.

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You just need to have better boundaries.

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You just need to accept people for who they are and stop trying to change them and have

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relationship with them on your terms.

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If you know that, you know, they're racist and they say crazy things, you know, and it

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really bothers you and you know that they're Christian nationalists and they're big Trump

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fans and you're not and they're going to say kind of crazy stuff at holidays that really

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ticks you off.

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That's not that's not no contact.

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OK, that's you got some cracked out relatives and they may even be your parents.

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And all right.

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You know, you're not going to change them.

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You're not going to make them see differently, but you could just love them for who they

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are and you don't have to swallow any of the poison that they're putting out.

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Remember.

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Sit next to poison.

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I want you to take some Drano from underneath your sink and I want you to sit it on a chair

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next to you at the table.

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Just take it over to your dining table and sit it on a chair next to you.

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And then I want you to see if you get poisoned.

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All right.

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I want you to even maybe go ahead and pour a little bit of it out on the table, whatever,

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whatever toxic cleaner you got going on underneath your sink there.

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And I want you to see if you're sitting there with it.

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If you get poisoned by it, maybe don't use bleach because you don't want to bleach the

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wood of your table, you know, but, you know, whatever else.

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See if it poisons you.

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It's not going to.

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You want to know why?

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Because it's only poison if you somehow ingest it.

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You take it in.

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You swallow it.

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All right.

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Yeah, it might burn your skin a little bit if you touch it, but it's not good.

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You're not going to die.

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Did you die?

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No, you're not going to die.

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But you, if you drink it, you're probably going to die.

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So don't drink it.

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Listen, do you hear me?

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Now, I don't want anyone to get the instructions confused here.

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Do not drink it.

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I'm not telling you to drink it.

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I'm telling you that poison is only poison.

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If you read the back of it, it says harmful if what?

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If taken internally, harmful if ingested.

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And what does that mean?

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It means that you don't have to take in what other people are giving out.

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That's called boundaries.

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Mickey's on here.

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She learned that at the Austin Women's Retreat.

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We did an activation.

506
00:24:57.140 --> 00:24:59.740
She told us about her horrible mom.

507
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.720
situation and we said hey Mickey guess what you don't got to put you don't got

508
00:25:04.720 --> 00:25:06.880
to take in what other people are putting out

509
00:25:09.500 --> 00:25:16.260
it only affects you if you let it but if you understand that this person is

510
00:25:16.260 --> 00:25:20.640
broken they're set in their ways you know they've been traumatized by someone

511
00:25:20.640 --> 00:25:24.480
else along the course of their life and it's made them super negative and super

512
00:25:24.480 --> 00:25:32.300
nasty and super judgmental and but you love them and you're able to be around

513
00:25:32.840 --> 00:25:37.300
them without the poison poisoning you and you're like well Jackie why don't

514
00:25:37.300 --> 00:25:40.620
you just do that with your mom instead of going no contact I will tell you why

515
00:25:40.620 --> 00:25:44.640
I didn't do that with my mom because what she was putting out I was

516
00:25:44.640 --> 00:25:48.840
swallowing you want to know why I was swallowing it because there was something

517
00:25:48.840 --> 00:25:55.220
inside of me that believed what she was saying there was something inside of me

518
00:25:55.220 --> 00:26:01.120
that believed what she was saying about me and that's why it was a toxic fatal

519
00:26:01.200 --> 00:26:07.760
situation for me but if you do your heart work I hadn't even done hardly as

520
00:26:07.760 --> 00:26:12.240
much heart work as I have now if you do your heart work then you don't have to

521
00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:15.320
believe what other people are putting out and then there's some people that

522
00:26:15.320 --> 00:26:19.560
you know they're just verbally violent and that was the situation with me as

523
00:26:20.580 --> 00:26:24.900
well it's one thing for people just like you know they're talking about their

524
00:26:24.900 --> 00:26:27.760
opinions and you don't like their opinions and you don't like their

525
00:26:27.760 --> 00:26:31.340
opinions of your love life or their opinions of how you're raising your kids

526
00:26:31.340 --> 00:26:36.620
and you know whatever and if they allow you to ignore them and just carry on

527
00:26:36.620 --> 00:26:39.820
then you can put up boundaries but if they're the kind of people that get in

528
00:26:39.820 --> 00:26:45.140
your face if they're the kind of people who don't want to be ignored okay

529
00:26:45.900 --> 00:26:49.520
that they need to have the last word and they're gonna get you know they're

530
00:26:49.520 --> 00:26:54.000
gonna scream they're gonna yell they're gonna rage now that's a cause for no

531
00:26:55.560 --> 00:27:01.180
contact right but if they just think differently than you and they're

532
00:27:02.600 --> 00:27:07.420
annoying boundaries annoying boundaries it's like that scene from Parks and Rec

533
00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:15.600
overcooked chicken jail undercooked fish jail if you haven't seen it go ahead and

534
00:27:15.600 --> 00:27:25.060
just Parks and Rec at jail google it and laugh because it's very funny so I put a

535
00:27:25.060 --> 00:27:28.040
whole bunch of things in that carousel on my Instagram to kind of help you

536
00:27:28.040 --> 00:27:34.100
judge whether or not it's a boundary situation or a no contact situation and

537
00:27:34.640 --> 00:27:37.400
so I just wanted to release that over you guys tonight because we're in the

538
00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:42.780
holidays and a lot of you are gonna be seeing people you don't usually see so I

539
00:27:42.780 --> 00:27:47.260
want you to take a look at that decide what you need to do but the other thing

540
00:27:47.260 --> 00:27:51.920
that I want you to do regardless of whether you're no contact or boundaries

541
00:27:52.280 --> 00:27:58.560
is I want to talk about for just a second giving someone the gift of

542
00:27:58.600 --> 00:28:07.540
forgiveness this year I want to talk about giving the gift of forgiveness it

543
00:28:07.540 --> 00:28:13.700
is the most powerful gift that you can give it's the most powerful gift that

544
00:28:13.700 --> 00:28:19.800
you can give to yourself or to someone else and it's also the most powerful

545
00:28:19.800 --> 00:28:24.960
gift that you can give without even telling someone you're giving it most

546
00:28:24.960 --> 00:28:30.800
gifts that you give you know you wrap them up and you hand them over this is a

547
00:28:30.800 --> 00:28:36.840
gift that you may give to someone without even them having knowledge that

548
00:28:36.840 --> 00:28:43.440
you have given it maybe they're not alive anymore on the earth they're alive

549
00:28:43.440 --> 00:28:46.600
trust me they're alive somewhere they're just not maybe on the earth where you

550
00:28:46.600 --> 00:28:51.160
can see them they're not in this dimension anymore but you can still give

551
00:28:51.160 --> 00:28:58.360
the gift of forgiveness they don't need it anymore but you do you still need to

552
00:28:58.360 --> 00:29:04.460
give it it's for you and something that I want you guys to know is forgiveness

553
00:29:04.460 --> 00:29:12.460
is always for you it's not for them always always always for you always and

554
00:29:12.460 --> 00:29:15.880
that's why I broke my heart when I saw this Oprah special where she had on this

555
00:29:15.880 --> 00:29:24.080
hospice nurse this woman's vocation is helping people to transition what you

556
00:29:24.080 --> 00:29:28.040
know when they're very very ill and they're leaving this life leaving this

557
00:29:28.040 --> 00:29:34.020
dimension she's helping them you know taking care of them nursing them and she

558
00:29:34.020 --> 00:29:38.200
doesn't know them she's not their child she you know they didn't raise her she's

559
00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:45.620
not their brother or sister or their mother or father you know that she's a

560
00:29:45.620 --> 00:29:50.180
but I have seen this woman's Instagram before so even before she was on this

561
00:29:50.180 --> 00:29:56.880
Oprah special I had seen her and I had seen her talking about how she doesn't

562
00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:59.760
judge people when she calls them

563
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:07.080
Because they're dying loved one wants to talk to them one more time or wants to ask for forgiveness and the person says no

564
00:30:07.080 --> 00:30:08.960
She says I don't judge you

565
00:30:08.960 --> 00:30:17.440
You don't you don't owe you don't owe anybody anything just because they're dying and I disagree. I

566
00:30:17.440 --> 00:30:21.600
Disagree with that and this is why because forgiveness is for you and

567
00:30:23.000 --> 00:30:24.880
The only person that you're robbing

568
00:30:25.300 --> 00:30:26.940
when you do not

569
00:30:29.080 --> 00:30:29.100
You

570
00:30:29.720 --> 00:30:32.460
Grant the request of someone leaving this earth

571
00:30:32.960 --> 00:30:39.920
To speak to you one more time or to ask for your forgiveness. The only person that you're robbing is yourself

572
00:30:43.340 --> 00:30:44.620
That's it

573
00:30:44.900 --> 00:30:47.480
just you and

574
00:30:47.480 --> 00:30:53.220
If you don't think that that is going to feel terrible in the future

575
00:30:53.220 --> 00:30:57.480
You can you know, you can be mad all you want to and your anger can keep you warm at night

576
00:30:57.480 --> 00:31:01.680
If that's what you like, but sooner or later that anger is gonna dissipate

577
00:31:01.680 --> 00:31:05.180
It really is and all you're gonna be left with is emptiness

578
00:31:06.520 --> 00:31:07.240
Trust me

579
00:31:07.240 --> 00:31:10.740
I've already lived this and I am so so so glad that

580
00:31:11.340 --> 00:31:16.920
My mother was able to ask me to forgive her and I was willing to hear

581
00:31:17.540 --> 00:31:22.040
That ask and can I tell you something? It wasn't that great enough an apology

582
00:31:22.560 --> 00:31:28.940
And for those of you that are waiting for the great grand gesture of apology where they just name all the things that they did

583
00:31:29.120 --> 00:31:33.740
No, my mom's apology was you know, honestly a little pathetic

584
00:31:35.840 --> 00:31:41.000
It wasn't even really in the genre of what I want what would want her to apologize for

585
00:31:42.380 --> 00:31:47.540
But she apologized for being them for not being the mother

586
00:31:48.780 --> 00:31:52.260
That I needed that's basically kind of the blanket statement

587
00:31:52.500 --> 00:31:59.340
She didn't apologize for the verbal abuse of the mental abuse. She didn't apologize for you know, sending me to live in a girl's home

588
00:31:59.340 --> 00:32:06.260
She didn't apologize for telling me that she didn't believe me when I told her that my grandfather had been sexually abusing me since I

589
00:32:06.260 --> 00:32:08.560
Was two years old. She didn't apologize

590
00:32:09.000 --> 00:32:10.740
for line items y'all

591
00:32:11.700 --> 00:32:12.740
she just

592
00:32:13.160 --> 00:32:15.040
Apologized for not being the mother

593
00:32:15.780 --> 00:32:17.720
That I needed and

594
00:32:18.280 --> 00:32:24.260
You know what? I accepted that apology. This is for somebody tonight. I don't care. I'm gonna keep going

595
00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:28.780
All right, it might not be your mother. It might not be your father. It might be a sibling

596
00:32:29.080 --> 00:32:33.880
it might be a sibling who has always just been a real jerk to you and

597
00:32:36.000 --> 00:32:41.420
You just and they don't even know that you think they're a jerk because you just are a people pleaser

598
00:32:42.860 --> 00:32:46.420
You just take what they're dishing out you haven't even stood up for yourself

599
00:32:46.580 --> 00:32:52.660
Or maybe you did and it's been the recent years that you've stood up for yourself. And now y'all don't talk

600
00:32:53.180 --> 00:32:57.180
Because now that they know that you can't just be the yes person

601
00:32:57.640 --> 00:33:02.240
They don't have any interest in being in relationship. I

602
00:33:02.240 --> 00:33:03.280
get it

603
00:33:03.880 --> 00:33:08.140
I've heard every story you can think of and I've lived a lot of them myself and

604
00:33:09.160 --> 00:33:11.320
I'm telling you forgiveness is for you

605
00:33:12.200 --> 00:33:14.740
So give yourself the gift of forgiveness

606
00:33:14.860 --> 00:33:18.300
By forgiving others and maybe you need to forgive yourself

607
00:33:19.840 --> 00:33:22.740
Maybe you're the villain of your story right now

608
00:33:25.580 --> 00:33:32.660
Maybe there's someone out there that you've really wronged and they won't forgive you. All right, but guess what you can forgive you

609
00:33:35.740 --> 00:33:37.780
You can forgive you

610
00:33:40.940 --> 00:33:44.280
You can ask God to forgive you and you can forgive you

611
00:33:47.420 --> 00:33:52.840
There might be someone out there that's really wronged you and you want to give them the gift of forgiveness and remember sometimes the gift

612
00:33:52.840 --> 00:33:59.200
You give without them knowing because sometimes when you try to forgive someone that doesn't think they did anything wrong

613
00:33:59.580 --> 00:34:01.560
That doesn't go over too. Well, does it?

614
00:34:02.840 --> 00:34:06.820
Just call someone up and say hey, I just want to let you know I forgive you and they're like for what?

615
00:34:08.820 --> 00:34:09.380
I

616
00:34:09.380 --> 00:34:11.100
Haven't done anything to you

617
00:34:12.420 --> 00:34:14.460
Anybody else ever had that happen

618
00:34:20.639 --> 00:34:23.699
Anybody anybody is anybody there tonight or am I just talking to myself?

619
00:34:26.440 --> 00:34:29.420
We're here right you're here

620
00:34:32.239 --> 00:34:32.800
Here

621
00:34:34.960 --> 00:34:38.360
It's kind of a rhetorical question, but I appreciate all the I'm here's

622
00:34:43.100 --> 00:34:44.719
All right, you guys are tracking

623
00:34:46.100 --> 00:34:52.699
So you try to forgive them and they're like, I don't want your dirty old forgiveness. I didn't do nothing to you. That's okay

624
00:34:53.139 --> 00:34:58.920
and so you guys be discerning of whether it's the gift of forgiveness that you need to

625
00:34:59.500 --> 00:34:59.980
secret

626
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.100
Santa to someone, meaning that they don't know that you're doing it,

627
00:35:05.120 --> 00:35:05.960
but you're doing it.

628
00:35:06.640 --> 00:35:11.860
Or if it's a present that you actually need to vocalize to them.

629
00:35:13.980 --> 00:35:17.600
Doesn't matter. Here's the thing you need to know. Either way,

630
00:35:17.920 --> 00:35:19.860
it's still supernaturally powerful.

631
00:35:23.240 --> 00:35:28.300
All of you have read my book, The Heart Work, right? I'm assuming you have.

632
00:35:28.300 --> 00:35:32.740
And so there's a story about forgiveness and the forgiveness chapter about a

633
00:35:32.740 --> 00:35:35.920
woman that lived at the homeless shelter that I brought to church.

634
00:35:35.960 --> 00:35:37.200
You guys remember that story?

635
00:35:40.480 --> 00:35:43.320
For those of you that don't remember or didn't read it,

636
00:35:43.520 --> 00:35:45.040
I worked at a homeless shelter.

637
00:35:46.160 --> 00:35:49.740
I was going to school to be a social worker and I worked at a homeless shelter

638
00:35:49.780 --> 00:35:55.060
in Ohio and there was a woman that lived in the shelter that to make a long

639
00:35:55.060 --> 00:35:56.920
story short, it's a very funny story,

640
00:35:56.920 --> 00:36:01.620
but I'm just going to make it very short. She was, I was very afraid of her.

641
00:36:02.560 --> 00:36:05.800
When she initially came into the shelter, I thought she was a man.

642
00:36:05.960 --> 00:36:10.060
She's a very tall, big person and she was a lesbian.

643
00:36:10.180 --> 00:36:11.720
So she dressed like a man

644
00:36:13.840 --> 00:36:15.380
and I wouldn't let her in.

645
00:36:15.520 --> 00:36:18.120
I wouldn't buzz her in the shelter because I thought she was a man.

646
00:36:18.280 --> 00:36:22.660
We had cameras that showed who was at the door and I had an intercom system and

647
00:36:22.660 --> 00:36:26.120
I basically was just like, sorry, sir. You know,

648
00:36:26.120 --> 00:36:29.920
only women are allowed in here. And she was like, I'm not a man.

649
00:36:30.040 --> 00:36:32.420
So from the very beginning, she was not my friend.

650
00:36:32.780 --> 00:36:36.140
She did not like me from the very beginning. I mean, I don't know why,

651
00:36:36.240 --> 00:36:37.240
because it's like, Hey, listen,

652
00:36:37.320 --> 00:36:40.120
if you look like a man and you want people to think you're a man,

653
00:36:40.200 --> 00:36:44.820
then why are you mad when people think you're a man? Right?

654
00:36:44.840 --> 00:36:49.040
It's like if it walks like a man and talks like a man, it's a man, right?

655
00:36:49.180 --> 00:36:53.140
Wrong. It's not. It was a woman, a very, very big woman,

656
00:36:53.140 --> 00:36:56.780
six, three, probably 350 pounds of woman.

657
00:36:58.520 --> 00:37:02.720
So I buzzed her in, checked her ID. She was indeed a woman.

658
00:37:04.580 --> 00:37:07.980
And this is back in 1997.

659
00:37:12.080 --> 00:37:15.800
And I stayed away from her. She started living at the shelter.

660
00:37:16.180 --> 00:37:19.320
She had a room there, started living in there. She didn't start living there.

661
00:37:19.400 --> 00:37:22.720
I changed her name in the book, but her name is Rashawn in real life.

662
00:37:22.720 --> 00:37:26.820
That was her name, Rashawn. And if she walked in the room,

663
00:37:26.880 --> 00:37:32.040
I walked out of the room. If she came back to where I was, you know,

664
00:37:32.060 --> 00:37:34.120
cause you know, I was in the kitchen or whatever.

665
00:37:34.120 --> 00:37:36.100
Cause the homeless shelter is like, you know,

666
00:37:36.900 --> 00:37:40.460
like a apartment building kind of, I would walk out.

667
00:37:40.780 --> 00:37:44.780
I just avoided her because she, I felt like she was like growling at me.

668
00:37:44.780 --> 00:37:47.180
Like she just, it was bad.

669
00:37:47.660 --> 00:37:52.300
And so you can imagine my horrible surprise

670
00:37:52.720 --> 00:37:54.280
when one day in prayer,

671
00:37:54.660 --> 00:37:56.700
God says to me that he wants to give me,

672
00:37:56.900 --> 00:37:58.940
he wants me to give her a prophetic word.

673
00:38:01.900 --> 00:38:04.900
You know what that requires actually talking to her.

674
00:38:07.100 --> 00:38:10.760
So I put that in my back pocket and I just really didn't have a lot of

675
00:38:10.840 --> 00:38:12.400
intention of doing that.

676
00:38:12.720 --> 00:38:15.340
I was putting out all kinds of fleeces before the Lord.

677
00:38:15.420 --> 00:38:17.000
You guys know you've done it before too.

678
00:38:17.000 --> 00:38:19.720
When God tells you to do something that you really don't want to do and you

679
00:38:19.720 --> 00:38:22.280
really don't want it to be God telling you to do it.

680
00:38:22.720 --> 00:38:26.680
And so you try to get all kinds of confirmations to just kind of get out of

681
00:38:27.460 --> 00:38:27.840
it.

682
00:38:30.060 --> 00:38:32.600
And one of those confirmations was like, okay, God,

683
00:38:32.680 --> 00:38:34.960
if you really want me to say this to her, then, you know,

684
00:38:34.960 --> 00:38:37.520
you'll have her come walk in. I was back in the kitchen.

685
00:38:37.640 --> 00:38:39.540
You'll have her come in right now. And guess what?

686
00:38:39.620 --> 00:38:40.720
She walked right into the kitchen.

687
00:38:42.280 --> 00:38:44.900
And so I hurriedly just told her the word.

688
00:38:44.900 --> 00:38:48.380
It had something to do with her being a chosen vessel of the Lord.

689
00:38:48.480 --> 00:38:51.320
And I, I barely even, I mumbled it under my breath.

690
00:38:52.900 --> 00:38:55.100
And she just stood there looking at me

691
00:38:56.740 --> 00:38:58.900
and with a mean look on her face.

692
00:39:00.160 --> 00:39:03.200
And then finally it felt like an eternity. She was like, okay.

693
00:39:03.200 --> 00:39:06.520
She's like, someone else told me that on the bus, you know,

694
00:39:06.520 --> 00:39:10.780
last week or whenever she's like, okay, okay.

695
00:39:11.960 --> 00:39:13.900
She's like, all right, I hear you.

696
00:39:15.400 --> 00:39:18.940
So I made it out alive. I gave her the word. I made it out alive.

697
00:39:19.120 --> 00:39:20.840
She actually received it at some level.

698
00:39:20.840 --> 00:39:25.620
And I think it was probably about a week later that she found me and she said,

699
00:39:25.800 --> 00:39:27.620
Hey, I've decided to come to church with you.

700
00:39:28.180 --> 00:39:32.420
She invited herself to come to church. She goes, I know you go to church.

701
00:39:32.820 --> 00:39:35.440
He said, so pick me up and I'm going to go to church with you.

702
00:39:35.980 --> 00:39:39.800
So I picked her up in my little Dodge Omni y'all. And she's six, three,

703
00:39:40.040 --> 00:39:40.880
350 pounds.

704
00:39:40.980 --> 00:39:45.120
And when I tell you that a Dodge Omni is about the smallest car you've ever seen

705
00:39:45.120 --> 00:39:48.280
in your whole entire life, besides the smart cars that are out now.

706
00:39:48.800 --> 00:39:52.420
And I am five, 10 skinny as a rail sitting on one side of it.

707
00:39:52.420 --> 00:39:55.660
And she's six, three, 350 pounds sitting on the other side of it.

708
00:39:55.700 --> 00:39:58.860
And the car literally was lopsided driving down the road.

709
00:40:00.820 --> 00:40:06.120
Literally, one side of it was low to the ground on the side she was sitting in.

710
00:40:06.240 --> 00:40:07.620
That's how small this car was.

711
00:40:08.500 --> 00:40:12.480
And the entire way to church, she did not say a freaking word to me, you guys.

712
00:40:12.540 --> 00:40:14.160
I was scared to death of this woman.

713
00:40:14.400 --> 00:40:16.160
I was so scared of her.

714
00:40:17.060 --> 00:40:19.100
She could have been a WWE wrestler.

715
00:40:19.440 --> 00:40:20.720
She was scary.

716
00:40:23.580 --> 00:40:26.980
We get to church, and my church is Pentecostal.

717
00:40:26.980 --> 00:40:29.780
The church I went to was crazy charismatic.

718
00:40:30.140 --> 00:40:32.140
This is the people that discipled me.

719
00:40:32.400 --> 00:40:33.740
They were hanging from the chandeliers.

720
00:40:33.940 --> 00:40:38.700
They were running around with bobby pins, flying and hitting people in the juggler.

721
00:40:38.960 --> 00:40:39.940
It was bad.

722
00:40:41.780 --> 00:40:46.580
Now looking back on it, I'm surprised I ever took anybody to that situation without trying

723
00:40:46.700 --> 00:40:49.200
to explain it to them in advance.

724
00:40:50.300 --> 00:40:54.300
And the pastor, he was not afraid of her.

725
00:40:54.940 --> 00:40:58.900
After the service was over, everyone went up to the altar, as Pentecostals will do.

726
00:40:59.100 --> 00:41:00.680
They all go up to get prayed for.

727
00:41:00.820 --> 00:41:02.280
It doesn't matter if they need prayer or not.

728
00:41:02.360 --> 00:41:03.760
Everyone's up in the altar area.

729
00:41:04.180 --> 00:41:06.060
And so I went up there because that's what I do.

730
00:41:06.480 --> 00:41:09.060
And I left her there in the pew by herself.

731
00:41:09.440 --> 00:41:14.680
And I'm up there, and I'm praying, and pretty soon I feel a huge shadow just lurking over

732
00:41:14.680 --> 00:41:15.000
me.

733
00:41:15.700 --> 00:41:17.740
And I look up, and there she is.

734
00:41:19.840 --> 00:41:21.500
And she's stone, y'all.

735
00:41:21.500 --> 00:41:25.640
She's made of stone, face, body.

736
00:41:28.940 --> 00:41:30.120
And she's like, okay.

737
00:41:30.360 --> 00:41:31.240
She's like, I'm up here.

738
00:41:31.320 --> 00:41:32.100
What do you want me to do?

739
00:41:33.080 --> 00:41:35.680
And I was like, I don't, I mean, okay.

740
00:41:36.060 --> 00:41:38.340
I'm assuming she needed to get saved, right?

741
00:41:38.340 --> 00:41:39.820
So I'm like, put your hands up.

742
00:41:40.040 --> 00:41:41.040
Tell Jesus you love him.

743
00:41:41.040 --> 00:41:44.020
Like I'm just going through everything that I've ever been taught about anything.

744
00:41:44.780 --> 00:41:48.440
Okay, well, raise your hands and, you know, say thank you, Jesus.

745
00:41:48.440 --> 00:41:52.580
You know, I'm just going through all the Christian calisthenics that these charismatic folks

746
00:41:52.580 --> 00:41:53.980
do at these Pentecostal churches.

747
00:41:55.220 --> 00:41:57.320
Because I'm young, you guys.

748
00:41:57.420 --> 00:42:03.180
I'm only like 20 something years old, 22, 22 years old.

749
00:42:04.900 --> 00:42:07.680
And the pastor comes over, he's praying for people.

750
00:42:07.680 --> 00:42:12.100
And he gets to her, and he says, you need to forgive your father.

751
00:42:12.160 --> 00:42:13.420
I'll never forget it, you guys.

752
00:42:13.460 --> 00:42:14.400
It was like yesterday.

753
00:42:14.400 --> 00:42:16.280
He doesn't even say hello to her.

754
00:42:16.280 --> 00:42:18.600
He doesn't ask me who my friend is.

755
00:42:18.600 --> 00:42:23.020
He comes straight out with, you need to forgive your father.

756
00:42:23.260 --> 00:42:32.280
You have never seen someone smash mouth like this lady did after he said that.

757
00:42:32.960 --> 00:42:35.060
She immediately was like, no.

758
00:42:35.960 --> 00:42:37.160
It was bad.

759
00:42:38.280 --> 00:42:39.320
It was bad.

760
00:42:39.340 --> 00:42:41.920
And if I was scared of her before now, I'm really scared of her.

761
00:42:41.980 --> 00:42:42.900
I'm really scared of her.

762
00:42:47.600 --> 00:42:49.000
I can't do that.

763
00:42:50.600 --> 00:42:52.220
He's like, you have to.

764
00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:53.940
He's like, God wants to bless you.

765
00:42:54.140 --> 00:42:58.080
He said, your father, God, is standing by.

766
00:42:58.460 --> 00:43:01.360
He's ready to bless you, but you have to forgive your father first.

767
00:43:03.960 --> 00:43:06.040
No, I won't do it.

768
00:43:06.240 --> 00:43:08.260
So he goes on and starts praying for other people.

769
00:43:08.320 --> 00:43:09.720
And then I'm just standing next to her.

770
00:43:09.720 --> 00:43:11.020
And then finally, I see.

771
00:43:11.020 --> 00:43:12.200
I see what's going on.

772
00:43:12.340 --> 00:43:14.320
And I'm like, hey, you got to forgive your dad.

773
00:43:14.440 --> 00:43:15.580
You got to forgive him.

774
00:43:15.580 --> 00:43:16.460
She's like, I can't.

775
00:43:16.600 --> 00:43:17.400
I'm not going to do it.

776
00:43:17.640 --> 00:43:19.100
And I was like, you have to.

777
00:43:20.040 --> 00:43:21.940
You can't be forgiven if you don't forgive.

778
00:43:22.240 --> 00:43:25.480
And I'm quoting whatever little scripture I know because I'm a new believer, essentially.

779
00:43:26.460 --> 00:43:26.680
Okay.

780
00:43:27.240 --> 00:43:29.940
And he comes back by the pastor does again.

781
00:43:29.940 --> 00:43:31.620
And he goes, you got to forgive your father.

782
00:43:31.700 --> 00:43:32.620
And she's like, no.

783
00:43:33.560 --> 00:43:35.760
And he's like, God wants to bless you.

784
00:43:36.580 --> 00:43:37.840
But he can't bless you.

785
00:43:37.840 --> 00:43:39.180
It's not that he won't bless you.

786
00:43:39.560 --> 00:43:40.940
He can't bless you.

787
00:43:41.980 --> 00:43:44.300
Because blocked by your unforgiveness.

788
00:43:44.300 --> 00:43:49.740
And you guys later on after this day, I would find out why she had to forgive her father.

789
00:43:50.400 --> 00:43:52.500
I'd find out why she was dressed like a man.

790
00:43:52.960 --> 00:44:02.020
I would hear years and years of incest and rape and all kinds of atrocious things that if I told you right now, you know, you probably wouldn't be able to sleep tonight.

791
00:44:04.780 --> 00:44:10.020
So it's not like her unforgiveness wasn't warranted because it a thousand percent was.

792
00:44:10.800 --> 00:44:12.020
Are you tracking with me?

793
00:44:13.340 --> 00:44:16.100
This man didn't deserve to be forgiven.

794
00:44:18.060 --> 00:44:19.040
For sure.

795
00:44:19.700 --> 00:44:22.280
And had not asked for forgiveness either.

796
00:44:23.940 --> 00:44:27.680
So the pastor goes away again and comes back one more time.

797
00:44:27.880 --> 00:44:30.280
And he says, are you ready to forgive your father?

798
00:44:30.440 --> 00:44:30.800
No.

799
00:44:31.220 --> 00:44:36.940
And then he says, can you at least ask God to forgive him?

800
00:44:37.540 --> 00:44:39.320
She thought about it for a few minutes.

801
00:44:42.060 --> 00:44:43.760
And I thought she was going to say no.

802
00:44:46.820 --> 00:44:48.120
And then she said, yes.

803
00:44:48.620 --> 00:44:50.020
She said, I think I can do that.

804
00:44:50.220 --> 00:44:51.880
I think I can ask God to forgive him.

805
00:44:53.800 --> 00:44:55.940
And so he led her through a forgiveness prayer.

806
00:44:56.020 --> 00:44:58.880
Very simple to ask God to forgive her father.

807
00:44:58.960 --> 00:44:59.980
And I swear to you.

808
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:06.900
Guys, this is not hype. I'm not making this up. I'm not like exaggerating it in any way,

809
00:45:06.940 --> 00:45:11.880
shape or form. This scenario unfolded exactly how I'm describing it to you,

810
00:45:11.880 --> 00:45:17.200
except it was a little funnier. Like the whole thing, the whole thing.

811
00:45:19.520 --> 00:45:26.580
Not this part, but like leading up to this part was funny. As soon as the words, God,

812
00:45:26.580 --> 00:45:33.440
God, will you forgive my father came out of her mouth, it's as if she became a different person.

813
00:45:34.060 --> 00:45:40.440
The rock that she was crumbled and you could see the woman. She didn't even look like a man

814
00:45:40.440 --> 00:45:46.200
anymore. She looked female. She looked soft. She looked vulnerable. She looked smaller somehow.

815
00:45:46.620 --> 00:45:53.340
And the next thing that happened just blew me away. She opened her mouth to say something more

816
00:45:53.340 --> 00:45:59.640
and she began to speak in her prayer language. She was filled with the baptism of the Holy Spirit

817
00:46:00.200 --> 00:46:05.240
with the gift of tongues in that same moment that she forgave her dad.

818
00:46:06.160 --> 00:46:09.800
Now, for those of you that don't believe in the gift of tongues, I don't know what to tell you

819
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:15.520
because it happened right in front of me and it's actually happened to me as well. So I know that

820
00:46:15.520 --> 00:46:20.860
it's real and true and it's not like for the people in the book of Acts. It's for people now

821
00:46:20.860 --> 00:46:29.720
because it happens now all the time. And she was totally different after that day. In fact,

822
00:46:29.720 --> 00:46:33.900
she's the one that gave me the nickname Jay and everywhere. Now, every time I walked in the

823
00:46:33.900 --> 00:46:36.980
shelter, Hey Jay, what's up, Jay? What are you doing, Jay? Hey, Jay, I was thinking about,

824
00:46:37.140 --> 00:46:40.200
I was reading the Bible, Jay. What do you think? I was talking, I was talking to God about this

825
00:46:40.200 --> 00:46:43.640
and he was saying this and Hey Jay, you know, I think we should go do this. Do you want to go

826
00:46:43.640 --> 00:46:47.920
do this with me? Uh, you know, I'm coming to your church again, Jay. Hey, Jay. Hey, Jay,

827
00:46:47.920 --> 00:46:53.220
what you doing, Jay? I mean, every single day that I walked into that shelter,

828
00:46:54.120 --> 00:47:01.060
that woman was a whole different person and it wasn't a long amount of time before she got out

829
00:47:01.060 --> 00:47:05.740
of there. She got her own apartment. Things started turning around for her. I've lost track

830
00:47:05.740 --> 00:47:10.600
of her over the years, but the last time I saw her, she had reconciled with some family members.

831
00:47:10.600 --> 00:47:15.940
You know, she was, you know, um, not living in an alternative lifestyle.

832
00:47:16.320 --> 00:47:20.340
She lives in her own apartment. I mean, just lots of breakthrough friends.

833
00:47:24.020 --> 00:47:25.880
And so I just released that over you.

834
00:47:28.360 --> 00:47:33.060
The ability to, if you can't forgive, maybe you could ask God to forgive them

835
00:47:34.700 --> 00:47:41.200
because God wants to bless you. He wants you to live in freedom. There are so many

836
00:47:41.200 --> 00:47:46.000
things on the other side of forgiveness just waiting for you. They're stacked up just waiting

837
00:47:46.000 --> 00:47:53.160
for you and you can't access them. Not because God's punishing you for not forgiving, not because

838
00:47:53.260 --> 00:48:01.700
he doesn't want to bless you. He can't because it's actually just against his word. You cannot

839
00:48:01.700 --> 00:48:05.880
operate in the finished work of the cross. If you don't forgive, do you know that you're living

840
00:48:05.880 --> 00:48:10.900
outside of the finished work of the cross? If you have unforgiveness, Jesus said, forgive,

841
00:48:10.900 --> 00:48:17.620
and you shall be forgiven. You cannot be forgiven. Meaning you cannot access what

842
00:48:17.620 --> 00:48:23.680
Jesus did for you on the cross. If you are living in unforgiveness, you can't do it.

843
00:48:24.820 --> 00:48:28.980
And we see precedent of this all over the word of God. What about the scripture that says,

844
00:48:28.980 --> 00:48:35.540
if you come and you want to worship God, but you know that someone else has a grudge against you,

845
00:48:35.660 --> 00:48:39.840
they have ought against you, they have unforgiveness against you. Not even you have it against someone

846
00:48:39.840 --> 00:48:43.940
else. They have it against you and you know about it. You know, they don't like you. You know,

847
00:48:43.940 --> 00:48:47.100
they're mad at you. You know that they have an offense or a grudge against you.

848
00:48:47.420 --> 00:48:51.560
It says, lay your gift down and go find them and try to make it right.

849
00:48:53.120 --> 00:49:01.120
And then come back and offer your gift. The Bible talks about how we should treat people

850
00:49:01.380 --> 00:49:08.480
that hate us and despitefully use us. It says that we should bless them. We should pray for them.

851
00:49:11.600 --> 00:49:16.140
We should. And yeah, sometimes friends, we got to go no contact with people,

852
00:49:16.260 --> 00:49:21.540
but it doesn't mean that we stop praying for them. Go no contact with them, but we give them

853
00:49:21.540 --> 00:49:26.400
to God and we ask God to change them and help them. We realize that it's not a safe space to

854
00:49:26.400 --> 00:49:31.040
be in contact with them, but it doesn't mean that our heart is hardened against them. And just

855
00:49:31.040 --> 00:49:37.500
because we have to go no contact now doesn't mean it's forever. And even if we're not going to see

856
00:49:37.500 --> 00:49:41.800
them again on this earth, we're only going to see them in heaven. We still can operate in the gift

857
00:49:42.080 --> 00:49:47.400
of forgiveness towards them. So I want you to let Holy Spirit right now, got a few minutes left.

858
00:49:48.760 --> 00:49:55.580
Bring someone up to your mind that maybe you started the forgiveness process,

859
00:49:55.820 --> 00:49:59.560
but lately they've been wilding out again and you're mad at them again and you're just ugh.

860
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.180
You want to forgive them, but every time you try to forgive them, they do the next

861
00:50:05.420 --> 00:50:06.220
stupid thing.

862
00:50:12.120 --> 00:50:18.540
Right? Maybe they're your former spouse, and every time there's calm on the Western front, and you think everything is gonna be alright,

863
00:50:18.720 --> 00:50:22.400
and you think you can finally just let go of all the crap that they've done to you,

864
00:50:22.440 --> 00:50:24.820
they just do something more, something new,

865
00:50:25.400 --> 00:50:27.300
and you're like, ah, here we go again.

866
00:50:31.860 --> 00:50:38.080
Here we go again. You guys, Jesus died to give us access to so many things.

867
00:50:39.100 --> 00:50:41.180
Not just salvation, not just heaven,

868
00:50:42.900 --> 00:50:44.840
but heaven on earth, and

869
00:50:45.820 --> 00:50:47.720
we can access that.

870
00:50:47.780 --> 00:50:49.980
We can access that now here and now,

871
00:50:51.000 --> 00:50:55.560
but it is on the other side of us forgiving others.

872
00:51:00.140 --> 00:51:04.540
So let's, let God bring someone to your mind right now that you haven't fully forgiven, and forgiveness,

873
00:51:05.500 --> 00:51:06.240
you know,

874
00:51:06.620 --> 00:51:11.300
you might not feel like you've forgiven them, because the forgiveness cycle is not a full cycle.

875
00:51:11.480 --> 00:51:18.020
You haven't gotten, you know, that healing in your heart fully yet, and that's okay. It's layered. It's layered. It's layer by layer.

876
00:51:19.440 --> 00:51:23.860
Doesn't mean that you have unforgiveness simply because you still don't like them that much.

877
00:51:24.900 --> 00:51:28.900
Forgiving someone is not liking them. In fact, forgiveness is not a feeling at all.

878
00:51:28.900 --> 00:51:31.240
You don't have to feel okay about them.

879
00:51:31.780 --> 00:51:33.940
This is a spiritual transaction.

880
00:51:36.260 --> 00:51:39.540
It is obedience to God's Word, that's what it is.

881
00:51:40.280 --> 00:51:45.240
Alright, so if you're ready to forgive someone, go ahead and put them in the chat. Who are they?

882
00:51:46.480 --> 00:51:50.000
You're gonna give them the gift of forgiveness this year and it might be yourself.

883
00:51:56.780 --> 00:52:07.660
Come on, put them in the chat.

884
00:52:15.580 --> 00:52:16.460
Which one?

885
00:52:18.660 --> 00:52:19.220
Okay,

886
00:52:19.220 --> 00:52:24.260
David said he's gonna forgive his dad's, his stepdad and his dad, bonus dad and his dad.

887
00:52:27.920 --> 00:52:32.920
I'm going to forgive... I

888
00:52:32.920 --> 00:52:39.280
think I need to forgive my ex-husband. I was talking... I was thinking about him today and I have forgiven him y'all, I have,

889
00:52:40.080 --> 00:52:44.440
but there's... there's some residue there still, there's some pain there still,

890
00:52:45.260 --> 00:52:47.420
you know, I want to fully release.

891
00:52:48.680 --> 00:52:50.360
It's really hard when,

892
00:52:51.820 --> 00:52:59.720
you know, you got someone out there. Isn't it hard when you know that there's someone out there that hates you without a cause?

893
00:53:01.420 --> 00:53:05.620
It's hard to be hated. It makes you want to hate them back, doesn't it?

894
00:53:06.860 --> 00:53:12.740
When you know that there's someone out there that just thinks that, like they would be happy if something bad happened to you.

895
00:53:12.740 --> 00:53:17.560
Does anyone else have someone out there that you think they would be happy if something bad happened to you?

896
00:53:21.080 --> 00:53:25.340
And it's hard to know that there's someone out there like that and it makes you want to dislike them,

897
00:53:25.340 --> 00:53:27.300
it makes you want to hate them back and

898
00:53:28.840 --> 00:53:35.400
so I've been feeling a little bit of that lately towards my, you know, my ex-husband who is my daughter's father

899
00:53:36.260 --> 00:53:40.020
and that's why it's even more important that I have a pure heart towards him.

900
00:53:40.020 --> 00:53:46.820
It's even more important that I continue when these negative feelings come up in my heart that I continue to release him and forgive him.

901
00:53:48.860 --> 00:53:55.020
Even just what you're like, Jackie, what would you forgive him for? You haven't done anything to him. I would forgive him for hating me.

902
00:53:55.420 --> 00:53:58.700
I would forgive him for making me the villain of his story.

903
00:53:58.820 --> 00:54:03.260
I would forgive him for continuing to come into agreement with a narrative

904
00:54:03.860 --> 00:54:08.240
that he is the victim and I am the villain. I can forgive him for that.

905
00:54:09.240 --> 00:54:10.780
See what I'm saying?

906
00:54:12.420 --> 00:54:17.380
Now raise your hand if there's anyone here that just you can't think of one blessed person that you can forgive.

907
00:54:18.120 --> 00:54:20.680
You just don't, just can't forgive anybody.

908
00:54:21.380 --> 00:54:24.720
There's nobody, there's nobody that I need to forgive, nobody at all.

909
00:54:27.220 --> 00:54:32.220
All right, I don't see any hands but if there is anyone here like this then just pray for the rest of us,

910
00:54:32.220 --> 00:54:34.260
okay, just intercede for the rest of us tonight.

911
00:54:37.180 --> 00:54:37.780
All right.

912
00:54:38.920 --> 00:54:39.360
All right.

913
00:54:39.360 --> 00:54:40.080
All right, you guys ready?

914
00:54:41.360 --> 00:54:44.420
So you're gonna fill in the blank with whoever it is the person is

915
00:54:45.480 --> 00:54:48.920
and I'm gonna lead you through this and we're gonna do this together. We're gonna give them the gift.

916
00:54:50.320 --> 00:54:54.840
So repeat after me if you want to, if you're ready to. Father God,

917
00:54:56.900 --> 00:54:59.280
we thank you for the gift of forgiveness.

918
00:55:00.960 --> 00:55:10.720
We thank you that you gave us the gift of forgiveness when you sent your son, Jesus,

919
00:55:12.500 --> 00:55:13.520
to die on the cross.

920
00:55:13.520 --> 00:55:27.380
And we fully receive forgiveness and reconciliation for ourselves from the blood of Jesus.

921
00:55:30.320 --> 00:55:36.060
And now we want to give someone else the gift of forgiveness.

922
00:55:38.620 --> 00:55:43.820
Not because we feel like it, but because your word commands it.

923
00:55:45.240 --> 00:55:52.340
And we want to be in obedience to your word because we know that your word is good.

924
00:55:53.780 --> 00:56:02.840
And we know that you love us and you only ask us to do things that are in our best interests.

925
00:56:04.580 --> 00:56:13.460
So, tonight, we choose to forgive, and I'll fill in the blank, I'm going to say Randy,

926
00:56:13.740 --> 00:56:15.300
I choose to forgive Randy.

927
00:56:19.240 --> 00:56:22.760
And then I want you to say next for whatever it is that you want to forgive them for.

928
00:56:23.100 --> 00:56:31.400
So Father, I choose to forgive Randy for hating me, for thinking poorly of me, for holding

929
00:56:31.400 --> 00:56:40.340
a grudge against me, for making me the villain of his story, for continuing to tell himself

930
00:56:40.540 --> 00:56:51.640
and others that everything that has happened has been my fault, for not wanting good things

931
00:56:51.640 --> 00:56:54.540
for me, the mother of his child.

932
00:56:56.220 --> 00:56:57.640
I forgive him.

933
00:56:59.380 --> 00:57:08.220
It's been almost 20 years, Lord, that we haven't been married, and I forgive him for not caring

934
00:57:08.220 --> 00:57:17.660
for me, for not wanting good things for me, for not blessing me, being the mother of his

935
00:57:17.660 --> 00:57:21.800
only child, Lord, I forgive him.

936
00:57:24.720 --> 00:57:28.400
Come on, y'all, fill in the blanks.

937
00:57:28.760 --> 00:57:32.640
Go ahead and take a couple of minutes, keep going, all the things you're forgiving that

938
00:57:32.640 --> 00:57:33.340
person for.

939
00:57:34.540 --> 00:57:38.560
I give him the gift of forgiveness, Lord, this holiday season, this Advent season.

940
00:57:39.500 --> 00:57:48.860
I give him the gift of forgiveness, set him free, bless him, bless him, Lord, I pray for

941
00:57:48.860 --> 00:57:57.720
him and his wife and their little adopted boy, I bless them, bless him, his little son,

942
00:58:00.060 --> 00:58:06.580
bless them, Lord, I bless them.

943
00:58:08.220 --> 00:58:15.580
And now the next thing I want you to say is, I cancel all Satan's authority in my life

944
00:58:16.920 --> 00:58:18.840
because of unforgiveness.

945
00:58:22.620 --> 00:58:24.020
There's no open door here.

946
00:58:26.500 --> 00:58:30.980
All the doors are sealed shut by the blood of Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit.

947
00:58:35.460 --> 00:58:42.160
And I move forward into the abundance and the blessings of the finished work of the

948
00:58:42.160 --> 00:58:42.160


949
00:58:44.120 --> 00:58:48.960
And in this Advent season, I'm expecting miracles.

950
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And in this season of firsts, I'm expecting joy, prosperity, breakthrough, exciting opportunities

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and things that simply blow my mind in a good way.

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In Jesus name, Amen.

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Does that feel good, you guys?

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Definitely felt good to me.

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All right, friends, we have some exciting things coming up for the rest of the month.

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We'll probably do some candlelight communion on Christmas Eve for those of you that can

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join in, but look for the December calendar if you haven't already seen it.

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I'll be back with regular Supernatural Saturday next week and we will do it on, who knows,

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but I think maybe the season of miracles and I'll see you soon.

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Love y'all.