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Okay, friends, we have figured it out.

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All right.

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All right, we have figured it out.

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It was a little pop-up window, but it was hidden behind the screen.

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So that is why some things haven't been happening.

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We've been hitting record on some sessions,

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but that little pop-up has been hidden from us,

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so we didn't go all the way to recording.

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So welcome to Ladies Night.

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It's Ladies Night.

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We've got about 50 ladies.

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We've doubled our ladies since just a couple of minutes ago.

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And I was just talking about how I see a lot of OGs here tonight,

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ladies that I have come to know and love over the course of this movement.

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And I really want to encourage your hearts.

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Everyone's hearts need to be encouraged,

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but I specifically want to talk to some of these OGs right now.

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We are seeing a lot of movement as far as success in our OG department.

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And I had someone drop in my DMs the other day, and they were kind of upset.

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They were upset because they felt like there was a false prophetic word

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that was released as far as them meeting and marrying their person in less than a year.

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And I understand that that is our branding.

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And I will tell you, just to be fully transparent,

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part of the reason why I'm not sad that we don't call our movement

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Married in 12 Months or Less anymore is because while a lot of people were married,

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and I don't mean from the time they met the person,

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but I do mean from the time that they got exclusive with the person they were married within a 12-month period,

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which, you know, that seems reasonable.

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You know, exclusivity, you know, being with that person exclusively for a year before you say I do,

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I think that's a pretty good timeline, especially if you're over 40.

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But I do think that a lot of people really thought that it was like a situation where it has to happen.

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It has to happen in 12 months.

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I have to meet the person and be married before the calendar year is over.

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And I feel like that name kind of ran its course.

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And the reason why I say that is because God gave me that name.

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I didn't come up with that.

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That wasn't like a great branding idea that I had.

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I was in a place of prayer after my mom passed away.

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In fact, friends, the anniversary of this entire thing is in a couple weeks.

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February, I think, 12th is when I got home from my mom's funeral.

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My mom passed away on February 3rd.

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And so February 3rd this year will be six years that my mom passed away.

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2020 is when she passed.

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And I got home from, we had the funeral right away.

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She passed away.

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We stayed in town in Florida.

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We put together her memorial.

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We had the memorial because she was cremated.

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And then I came home to Austin.

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I hadn't been home in Austin in quite some time because my mom was in the

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ICU for about a month.

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So I hadn't been home in Texas. And when I got back to my house,

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you know, when you've been gone for a really long time.

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And I got back to my house and I went up to my loft where my office was.

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And you guys all over the walls in my office were all kinds of lists of

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people's names from the heartwork.

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I was doing a heart workshop when my mom,

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When my mom passed away.

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And I got the phone call that my mom had taken a turn for the worst and

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that it was looking really bad. And then I need to come to Florida right

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away.

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When I got back into my space and I was looking around at what I had been

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building and what I had been doing to help people do, you know,

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to help people to have their best life.

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I just felt a little disillusioned.

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I felt like, Hmm, have you ever felt like, Hey,

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I don't want to do this.

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I don't want to do this.

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And it wasn't that I don't want to do this,

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but I also feel like something's missing.

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Has anyone ever felt like that about whatever it is? It's not,

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it's not like.

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It's a, it's a both and it's not an either, or it's a both and situation.

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So I sat down in my loft that morning.

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I was praying and I was just saying, you know, first of all,

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I just want to tell you that I don't want to do this anymore.

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I feel like I'm hopeless. I feel like there's something I'm missing.

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I feel like there's something more.

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I don't really want to do this in this context anymore.

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And that's when God spoke to me.

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It may have,

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it might have well have been an audible voice friends because it was

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that strong.

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I don't know if you took this beautiful heart work,

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inner healing protocol that I've given you.

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it to me, gave it to me for myself first and foremost. And then I had been using it to help

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transform so many people's lives, not single people, just people. Cause the heartwork is

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for everyone. He said, what if you took this heartwork that you've been doing and you put

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it together with your matchmaking gift? Cause remember friends, I had always been the matchmaker

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and helped 15 or more of my friends get married, be in relationship, be successful in relationship.

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And he said, what if you put those two things together and you called it married in 12 months

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or less? He literally said that. And then he showed me what would happen if I said yes to

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that, like in the spirit realm, I could see this huge tsunami wave of kingdom marriages.

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And then he went on to say, I want my single sons and daughters married. I want them partnered.

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It's going to be important for them to be partnered for what's coming.

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He was forecasting what's what was coming. And what was coming was a need for partnership,

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a need for one can put to flight a thousand, but two can put to flight 10,000 and then exponential

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amounts of kingdom families and communities together because of what was coming down the road.

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And so the forethought of God was, I want my, I want my people to get into process. I want them

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to do their heartwork. I want them to unpack their emotional baggage. I want them to partner

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with each other. And I want them to begin to build lineage and legacy because of, you know,

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where this whole timeline of things are headed. And so I did say yes to God that day. And he told

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me that it was going to explode from the very beginning and friends. I've been an entrepreneur

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all my life. I've done a lot of different things to help and serve the people of God for the last

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28 years and never has anything ever been. I don't want to call it easy because it's definitely been

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emotionally toiling, mentally, physically toiling for the last, you know, almost six years now.

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But it exploded as far as the popularity of it. And by January of 21, okay, this is March of 20.

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By January of 21, we had our first wedding, our very first wedding nine months later. And so

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incredible results. And of course, you know, that it's never stopped, but all of you that are OGs,

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all of you that came in that were early adopters. I do believe that there have been some things,

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some of you weren't fully divorced. Some of you still aren't fully divorced. You OGs,

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you're being held hostage by, you know, men and women that will not allow you to have that

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divorce decree. So you're not single technically, and you're not able to get remarried. And I believe

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26 is going to be a year of breakthrough for you. I believe that those of you that have been being

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held back by caring for elderly parents or special needs children, or there's just all

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different types of things, addictions that you fully haven't gotten over health issues that you

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fully haven't been able to get past. Those are the things that have been keeping you single,

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even though you've been here and you've been really just allowing God to work in your heart

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and to prepare you for this love story that I believe not only does he still have it for you,

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but I believe that it's eminent. And so I wasn't sad to let go of that very first name that God

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gave us, by the way, we lost that in our first business partnership. It was stolen from us

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in a way. But at the same time, immediately, God was like, I want you to rebrand this to last year

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single. And the reason why it was branded last year single is because so many people had come

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to me. And after being infused with the supernatural hope that we carry that I carry in

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this movement, they would say things like, this is my last year single. I just know this is my last

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year single. I'm going to do what I need to do because I'm going to make it my last year single.

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And so that's where that name came from in case you never heard that story and how that shifted.

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And that was in 2023. And so for the last three years, it's been called that, but here's the

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thing, friends. It's not a personal prophetic word. It's an invitation. So when that person

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showed up in my DMS mad because they hadn't been successful in under 12 months, all I could say was

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thanks for showing up. Thanks for letting me know. I'm sorry that you feel offended or you feel

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like, you know, false promises were given to you. But at the same time, I'm not the matchmaker,

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not, I not, not, you know fully, right. I'm just, I'm just a vessel of the Lord.

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And so there are people that they want success in whatever area of their lives,

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but they're not willing to do what they need to do to have it.

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I don't really know this person. Well, that showed up in my DMS, but I know I could just

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see from their profile, a few things that immediately would need to change. I can see

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how they're sabotaging themselves. Does that make sense? I can already see how they're sabotaging

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themselves. First of all, they live in a place where singles go to die. Literally.

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I have been dealing with

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city for a long time. And very, very few success stories have happened there because it's a very,

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very, uh, saturated place with Christian singles. And at the same time, there's just a lot of bad

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theology around the Christian singles in this city that would keep them from being able to

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really fully, you know, partner with each other. It's ridiculous. There should be like popcorn

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popping marriages happening in that place, but the very opposite is happening.

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I think I've only had maybe four success stories, even though I've had at least a hundred students

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from that area. And so it's really important that we remember that there are some things that we

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have to do in faith. There are some things that we have to step out on, um, in order to have

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success. The onus is not on me. The onus is on God. So don't put it on me because the onus is

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on God and you together. But I do believe that there's corporate times of breakthrough. I do

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believe the siege is over. And I do believe that we have stepped into a time when some of the people

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that have been here, the longest are starting to have the most phenomenal love stories. And so I

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hope you feel like it was worth the wait, because I certainly feel like it was, uh, in my, in my

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estimation, looking at it from the outside, looking in, um, some really crazy and amazing things are

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happening for some of our first students that are still left behind here. And there's not that many

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of them. There's just a few dozen of them, but still, of course I want to see them have success.

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And I really want to, um, I really want to hold space with you guys for that. All right. So I

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didn't want to get off on all that, but I definitely want you to know that it's not a personal prophetic

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word, but it is an invitation, right? It is an invitation to make it your last year single.

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And I do believe that everyone who wants a love story can have one. And otherwise I wouldn't be

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here and I wouldn't do what I'm doing. I would not be doing what I'm doing. All right. You guys

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ready to have some fun, have some girls night. Let's have some girls night. Now it's a hybrid of,

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we can talk about anything you want, but we can also talk about dating because there's no men

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here. And that's the whole purpose. The purpose is that you would be able to open up. You would

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be able to talk about what's on your heart, what you want to talk about. And we could also just

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talk about girl things. We can talk about vaginas. If we need to, we can talk about hormones. We can

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talk about sex. We can talk about dating over 40. Anybody need to talk about that? I was just making,

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I'm making some new content for my Instagram. So if you don't follow me there, please follow

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me there because I'm all the gloves are off ladies. I will tell you one thing that the Lord

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said to me, he said, while we do have a co-ed community he really wants me to make sure that

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I'm not holding back to protect precious male egos.

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It makes it kind of, it makes it kind of hard for me too, because I want to be a straight shooter.

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I am a straight shooter, but I feel like I'm tiptoeing on the eggshells of men's egos,

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but I'm not going to be doing that over on Instagram. So if you want me to shoot straight,

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then make sure that you see it over there. But I I'm about to release a video about how dating

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over 40, the rules are different. The rules are different. And I'll just tell you over 40 includes

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over 60, Jane includes over 60. If you do the math, if you're 60, that means you're over 40.

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And so it's about at 40 years old, where I believe the rules really change.

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And that has to do with potential. Everybody has potential you guys, but at 40 plus, we're no longer

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looking for a man's potential of who he could be. Now we're paying attention of who he has chosen to

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be. Do you hear me? And same goes for you, who you've chosen to be as well. But we're talking

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about men right now. It's not about who he could become. It's who, who has he chosen to become?

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And I'm just going to tell you one group of men that you really need to watch out for

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are is the group of men that has made it to their late forties fifties and beyond. And they have

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never made a commitment. They have never made a commitment. They have never been married. They

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have never pulled the trigger. I know that you have this fantasy that you're going to be the

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one that causes them to commit, but they're not a late bloomer y'all. They are intentionally avoidant

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of commitment. And there are men that are ready. Now, oftentimes these men that haven't committed,

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they're kind of, because they're Peter pans, they're sometimes handsome and they have some

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other things going for them. And they're what women are sort of drawn to, especially women that

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have fixer issues that want to fix. Um, and the, and their counterparts, the ones that have done

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the work and the ones that are ready to commit, they may not be as shiny as these guys, right?

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They may have a few tire tracks on their

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back. They may be a little shorter than you prefer. They may be a little uglier than you prefer,

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um, but they're solid. They've done the work. They know what it means to commit. I'd rather

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see you marry a guy that has been divorced maybe even twice, but has learned his lesson

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and his fruit shows that he's learned his lesson. And maybe he has a couple of kids

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that marry some bachelor, some lifelong bachelor in his fifties who just has never found the one.

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No, no. Okay. Unless he's been in a coma and he's just now waking up. The answer is no.

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And what women will do is they'll over-romanticize it. They'll over-spiritualize it. And you guys,

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we cannot do that. You got, you've got to look at what you're dealing with here.

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Stop spiritualizing and stop romanticizing it. If dating is always an audition for a job,

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and it is, this man has been avoiding that job for 20 plus years of his life

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because he doesn't want the job. Right? So stop putting all of your hope and all of your dreams

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and all of your fantasy on that. You've got to deal with what's real. He's not a late bloomer.

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He doesn't want to get married. Get out of here. David came and brought me,

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he came and brought me. Oh, you guys, did you pick this cup on purpose?

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Why? D for you, David. Oh, Dorman. Okay. But this, this cup is a Disney cup and it's D for Disney,

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but my mom worked at Disney for 27 years. And so with this being the anniversary week of her going

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to heaven, I just feel like this is a little God wink. Well, God wink Diana Disney. Okay.

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All right, you guys, I just wanted to get that off my chest. Let's talk. I know that someone

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asked something about estrogen. Let me go back here and look. And you guys, I am not a doctor.

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Okay. I know I play one on TV, but I'm not a doctor. Okay. And so everything that I say is

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just stuff that I have figured out over the course of time. That works for me. It may not work for

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you. So please do your own research, get your own voices in your life that are working with you in

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proximity and in person. What works for me may not work for you. Okay. All right, Jackie, what

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is the type of estrogen cream you suggested for older ladies? Okay. The only cream that I use

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it's estrogen. The only cream I do have an estrogen patch, which is hormone replacement,

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and it's a bio-identical patch made out of like yams or something. Um, but the cream that I use

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is specifically for inside of your vagina. Okay. There's a little applicator and you just push it

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up in there. Mine is every day. I know other people have some that you only use once a week,

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just depends on what your functional or your hormone replacement person is going to subscribe,

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prescribe for you. But it is to, it is to the tissues. Okay. The tissues in your, in your

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vagina, they begin to thin as you lose hormones, they begin to thin. And so as they thin, they get

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really weak. It can cause bladder issues, which is what I was having. It can cause, um, some people

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get like chronic UTIs. I wasn't getting that, but I was getting like, um, it's called interstitial

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cystitis where it's like irritable bladder syndrome, where I was just having pain all the

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time, feeling like I had to go to the bathroom, but I didn't. And I also didn't have an infection

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because you know, sometimes bladder infections feel like that as well. So when I use that,

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it gets better. And also ladies, for most people who use that, it also is going to improve sexual

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function. It's going to improve feeling. It's going to improve moisture. It's going to improve,

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um, just everything a little bit goes a long way and it's really inexpensive. And so I suggest

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all of you that are planning on all of you that are, uh, in the end of perimenopause

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or menopause. So let's say 45 and up, y'all need to be on this. Okay. It's not systemic.

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It doesn't get in your blood system. It doesn't affect your overall estrogen blood level.

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It only is topical and it's only in that area that it's activated. But if you plan on having

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intercourse in the future, you need it. Okay. Cause when I tell you that if you don't use it,

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you start to lose it. And even if you do use it, cause I'm married, I've been married for 20 years,

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you start to lose it. So you got to use this so you don't lose it. Okay. Um, and I think that

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there are other things you can do as well. Um, but none of it's going to replace the estrogen

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and repair the tissue. Like you can put coconut oil up.

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There, you can do all kinds of stuff.

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There's all kinds of like crunchy friends of mine that do all kinds of

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different things for moisture issues.

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But if you really want to repair, you know, your sexual function, your

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feeling, your ability to have an orgasm, you're going to need the estrogen.

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And trust me, you're going to want to have an orgasm.

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I really just feel like you will.

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So, uh, you will, I promise you're going to want that.

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You're going to want the rewards of intimacy.

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And that's one of the rewards of intimacy.

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You're going to want that.

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So, okay.

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Gynecologist next week.

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It's estradiol is the type of estrogen that is topical for your Vajayjay estradiol.

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All right.

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Thank you, Melissa.

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I appreciate that.

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Popcorn.

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Colonel Cheryl.

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You remember, I love it.

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We can, we guys, we can address perimenopause.

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Let's address perimenopause and dating.

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That's what Jess, Jess, Jessenia.

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I feel like I said that, right?

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Jessenia wants to talk about, first of all, you guys, you don't have a lot of

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patients when you get into perimenopause.

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It affects everyone differently, but most, most times it does affect your mood.

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And so you may have less tolerance.

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Can we talk about that?

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You may have less tolerance for shenanigans.

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You may have less tolerance for anything.

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And I'm just going to listen.

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I'm going to go on record as saying, and you heard it here.

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I don't care what I may have said in the past.

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I'm going to tell you right now, if men over 40 do not know what they want and

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they're not doing the work, you cannot partner with them now for all of you

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ladies that are still in your twenties and thirties.

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We can be generous there.

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They're still trying to work it out and figure it out.

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And you know, this generation is, is a little bit failure to launch.

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They've, they've increased adolescence to 36 years old.

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So I'm like, Oh my God, what are we doing?

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So, but I do know that if he's over 40 years old, if he's been alive on this

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earth for 40 years and he's not doing the work, then it doesn't mean that he'll

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never do the work and it doesn't mean that someone in the future may not

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benefit by partnering with him.

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But right now in present time, he's not ready.

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He's not ready.

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And so your number one non-negotiable going into 2026 should be, are they ready?

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Are they marriage minded?

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It shouldn't be how tall they are.

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It shouldn't be there.

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It shouldn't be any of that.

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It should not be whether or not they are your type or whether or not you like

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the way they look historically.

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Now, keep in mind if he's ready, it means he also has good hygiene.

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It also means he has his finances in order.

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And of course you guys, there are one offs.

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There are exceptions where someone has gone through something bad.

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I have really good friends that are really good people that just went through a

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horrible time in their business because 25 was really hard on businesses.

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And so if you meet him at the end of that, you need to actually look at

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the long-term fruit in his life.

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Not the short term.

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If he's going through a financial weird spot right now, like my

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husband was when I met him, but he has a history of being stable.

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Then let's go with the history.

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We're not going to go with the one off.

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But if his entire life is just with him all over the place, never committing to

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jobs, never being responsible, never stepping up, you got your answer.

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You got your answer.

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And we are not going to partner with men just to have someone to partner

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with that are not partners.

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Cause I'm going to say this very, very clearly.

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I made a different video today.

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The one I was talking about, about dating over 40, I'll

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probably release that tomorrow.

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But I made a different video today about passivity and men.

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And I want to say this, you guys, I don't want this to turn into a somber night.

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I really want it to be a fun night where we can talk about anything and

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everything we want to talk about.

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But I believe with all of my heart, I could be wrong.

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I could be wrong.

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I don't have a big ego.

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I could be wrong.

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And God, you can correct me and you can write, you can write my thinking, but I

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believe with all my heart that if my mom had not been married to the man she was

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married to for 30 something years, she would still be alive.

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I believe she would still be alive.

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I believe the dynamics of that relationship killed her.

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And so friends, violent men, they murder women.

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They beat women.

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They stab them.

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They shoot them.

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They do all kinds of things.

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They.

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make them violent men do violent things,

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but passive men also kill women.

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I need you to hear me when I say this.

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When you partner with a passive man and he may seem nice

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and he may seem kind

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and he may not seem threatening in any way.

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And this is a lot of times

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why women partner with passive men.

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This is why my mom partnered with a passive man

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because the two husbands she had

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before this husband were violent.

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They were scary.

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They were violent.

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They were addicts.

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They were cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.

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And so he seemed safe because he was just like easygoing

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and laid back and low key and the things.

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The problem is, is that when she partnered with him,

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he actually never did another thing.

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He didn't.

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He was a rich guy and he retired at like 40 something years

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old, 42 years old.

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He retired.

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He sold his company and he retired.

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Problem is, is that he really wasn't good with investing

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and he invested all the money he made

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from the sale of his company into the stock market.

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And remember when the stock market crashed in the eighties?

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He lost everything.

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And guess who really never ever worked another day

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in his life?

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That guy.

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Now I love him and I forgive him.

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My mom didn't have to stay partnered with him.

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And I can see all throughout her life

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because you know, her and I weren't close

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and I pretty much have lived apart from her

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since the time I was 14 years old

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with just a few stints back in her house

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and then out again.

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I can see how many times she was actually

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considering leaving.

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I can see it.

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But she never did.

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She didn't.

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So she just instead just allowed her nervous system

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in her body to be under high, high, high, high, high levels

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of stress for 30 something years.

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Do you hear me?

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Because there's nothing more stressful

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than having to show up and do the work of two grown people,

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the emotional work, the mental work, the spiritual work,

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possibly the financial work.

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There's nothing worse than that.

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So please friends, I want you to consider passivity

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the same as violence.

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Hopefully none of you in this room tonight

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would marry a wife beater,

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but a toxically passive man can kill you just the same.

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So please, friends, I want you to consider

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the same as violence and it's even easier

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for it to break down your body, cause auto-immune.

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Did you guys know that women who are imbalanced

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in marriage, women that are not partnered well,

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married women, they actually live the least amount of time

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with anybody else.

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Did you know that that's scientific?

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Men, married men live the longest of the men group.

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Married men live longer than single men

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and single women live longer than married women

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that are not married well.

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And I feel like I just want to sound the alarm for women

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because I feel like people think that there's a scarcity

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in the way that you're going to stay away

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from partnering with the, you know, the,

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he seems nice enough,

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but from the very first moment that you met him,

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he has never done anything.

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He's let you do everything.

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He's fully comfortable letting you do

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all the heavy lifting.

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That's your first sign that this is going to be bad news.

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Just cause he's not yelling at you or cussing you,

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just because he's nice, just because, you know,

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he does show up to the dates that you plan,

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just because he gives you a compliment or two,

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you know, just because whatever you fill in the blank

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does not mean that he's partner material.

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And if we have a scarcity mentality,

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and we believe that the only men out there

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that are safe men are passive men,

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then we are going to marry them.

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And I believe that's part of the reason

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why mom didn't leave him.

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She didn't want to be three times divorced.

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I'm sure that was part of it.

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She was ashamed.

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And she also, I mean, at some level,

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probably felt responsible for him.

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When I tell you that you start feeling like

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you are these men's mother,

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and what kind of mother abandons her child, right?

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They're not our children.

452
00:29:46.560 --> 00:29:48.680
Anyway, there's not a scarcity, friends.

453
00:29:48.680 --> 00:29:53.680
There are men, there are men who can be leaders.

454
00:29:53.680 --> 00:29:57.080
They may not have had a lot of opportunity to be leaders,

455
00:29:57.080 --> 00:29:58.960
but you're going to see it right from the beginning

456
00:29:58.960 --> 00:30:00.160
that they're willing to.

457
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.000
partner with you, not just willing to allow you to curate their life.

458
00:30:07.680 --> 00:30:13.040
All right. All right. That's all the seriousness for tonight. Hopefully you're taking that in

459
00:30:13.040 --> 00:30:19.280
you're writing it down. You're asking yourself how it, how it, uh, applies to you in your life.

460
00:30:20.720 --> 00:30:26.640
Low effort, same category, low effort might as well be no effort. Seriously, friends,

461
00:30:27.520 --> 00:30:30.880
the time that the man should be the most infatuated with you and should be putting in the

462
00:30:30.880 --> 00:30:34.960
most effort of your entire relationship is during the, is during the dating phase.

463
00:30:35.520 --> 00:30:41.840
This is when they should be the most excited about you. Yeah. Things can get a little ho-hum

464
00:30:41.840 --> 00:30:46.160
in marriage and that's when you just kind of work together to, you know, make it happen.

465
00:30:46.160 --> 00:30:54.400
But in the dating phase, a man who is not excited about you, a man who is not showing initiative,

466
00:30:54.400 --> 00:31:00.960
a man who is not, you know, I hate to use the word pursuing, but there we have it. You is,

467
00:31:01.760 --> 00:31:06.320
it's not necessarily even that he doesn't like you. It's that he is a passive man

468
00:31:09.680 --> 00:31:13.840
and you can blame it on whatever you want. His mom and dad, his upbringing,

469
00:31:13.840 --> 00:31:18.880
he has low testosterone. I've heard it all. We're done making excuses for this

470
00:31:19.440 --> 00:31:24.960
fricking go get a shot of tea, bro, man up. We're done. We're not doing it anymore.

471
00:31:26.640 --> 00:31:32.160
And if you have been dating toxically passive men, I really want to encourage you not to,

472
00:31:33.120 --> 00:31:37.840
all right. Your health could be at stake. Literally. All right.

473
00:31:43.680 --> 00:31:44.160
All right.

474
00:31:49.520 --> 00:31:53.520
Sarah wants to know how does that work when you're a more organized scheduler than he is,

475
00:31:53.520 --> 00:31:57.680
but still initiates and is a leader. It's not about scheduling. It's not about gifts.

476
00:31:59.280 --> 00:32:08.400
Okay. It's about initiation. It's about him initiating. It's about him showing you that he

477
00:32:08.400 --> 00:32:18.320
can lead. Who cares if you're an organizer? Who cares if you're a scheduler? That's not what this

478
00:32:18.320 --> 00:32:23.920
is about. And a lot of women have become control freaks because they have been put in the driver's

479
00:32:23.920 --> 00:32:33.040
seat way too many times by this type of dynamic. Cause I'm just going to tell you right now,

480
00:32:33.040 --> 00:32:41.920
I was forced to face this and people were like, Hey, you know, just let it fall apart.

481
00:32:44.320 --> 00:32:47.120
Don't do his work for him. Just let it fall apart.

482
00:32:48.480 --> 00:32:52.160
The problem is, is that I can't let the boat fall apart. Cause I'm on the boat,

483
00:32:53.440 --> 00:32:57.600
I'm on the boat. And so even if someone's drilling holes in the bottom of the boat,

484
00:32:57.600 --> 00:33:01.200
I'm going to keep bailing water because we all have a survival instinct. So

485
00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:04.880
when you get in relationships like this, specifically marriages like this,

486
00:33:06.160 --> 00:33:12.080
there's a survival instinct in you to just like fix everything so that you don't go down to,

487
00:33:12.080 --> 00:33:19.120
right? You see that things are going down and you have an instinct to try to take over

488
00:33:19.120 --> 00:33:22.080
driving the bus because no one's driving it. Do you understand?

489
00:33:23.760 --> 00:33:28.800
That doesn't make you a control freak. That makes you someone who wants to survive.

490
00:33:31.360 --> 00:33:32.640
That's your trauma response.

491
00:33:35.440 --> 00:33:38.640
Some women shut down and they just let everything go to hell in a handbasket.

492
00:33:38.640 --> 00:33:45.120
Their survival responses, freeze, flee, other women fight. I'm a fighter.

493
00:33:47.760 --> 00:33:51.680
So if you've ever been in a relationship where you've been left holding all the bag,

494
00:33:51.680 --> 00:33:56.320
even if it was a friendship, even if it wasn't romantic and you rose to the occasion, when the

495
00:33:56.320 --> 00:34:01.120
going gets tough, the tough get going, then you just have a you in the fight or flight freezer

496
00:34:01.120 --> 00:34:06.400
fawn trauma response. You're just a fight. The problem is, is people who are a fight,

497
00:34:06.400 --> 00:34:09.760
they burn out their adrenals really quickly. They get things like Epstein-Barr

498
00:34:09.760 --> 00:34:16.719
chronic fatigue syndrome. They get auto-immune disorders, gut issues, right?

499
00:34:18.239 --> 00:34:22.480
At a certain point in our lives, ladies, our body is going to start to manifest

500
00:34:23.360 --> 00:34:24.719
everything that we've allowed.

501
00:34:25.360 --> 00:34:27.760
Chronic pain, fibromyalgia.

502
00:34:30.239 --> 00:34:34.480
And that's enough. God does not want that for his daughters. He does not want that for us.

503
00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:43.280
And I feel in my heart, like the Lord is saying tonight, there are men out there that he has

504
00:34:43.280 --> 00:34:50.159
prepared his Davids from the field that know how to lead, that know how to protect, that know how

505
00:34:50.159 --> 00:34:54.320
to provide emotional and physical security.

506
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.000
that know how to partner, they might not listen.

507
00:35:05.120 --> 00:35:06.120
You need to listen to me.

508
00:35:06.120 --> 00:35:08.760
I feel like I'm speaking from the Lord right now.

509
00:35:08.760 --> 00:35:11.880
They may not be the cutest guys in the world.

510
00:35:11.880 --> 00:35:13.000
Get over it.

511
00:35:13.000 --> 00:35:15.600
They may not be the best dressed guys in the world.

512
00:35:17.040 --> 00:35:19.300
They may not be the tallest men in the world,

513
00:35:23.200 --> 00:35:25.640
but they will be good husbands and good partners.

514
00:35:25.640 --> 00:35:30.640
So you have to start asking yourself,

515
00:35:31.240 --> 00:35:32.640
what have I been looking for?

516
00:35:32.640 --> 00:35:33.560
What is my type?

517
00:35:33.560 --> 00:35:35.140
What have I been attracted to?

518
00:35:41.760 --> 00:35:42.760
Don't hear what I'm not saying.

519
00:35:42.760 --> 00:35:44.940
I'm not saying that they're sloppy and gross

520
00:35:44.940 --> 00:35:46.560
and morbidly obese.

521
00:35:46.560 --> 00:35:47.880
I didn't say that, did I?

522
00:35:49.220 --> 00:35:53.640
I just said next to their more avoidantly attached

523
00:35:53.640 --> 00:35:55.920
player Peter Pan counterparts,

524
00:35:55.920 --> 00:35:58.600
they may not be as well kept.

525
00:35:58.600 --> 00:35:59.600
And think about it.

526
00:35:59.600 --> 00:36:01.640
The men that are out here, Peter Pan's,

527
00:36:01.640 --> 00:36:04.280
never married, forties, fifties, running around,

528
00:36:05.780 --> 00:36:08.720
hair looking good, smelling good, nice clothes.

529
00:36:08.720 --> 00:36:13.720
It's because that is their weapon.

530
00:36:15.240 --> 00:36:17.040
They know that they can get the attention

531
00:36:17.040 --> 00:36:18.780
and the companionship of women.

532
00:36:18.780 --> 00:36:21.080
They know that they can basically have the attention

533
00:36:21.080 --> 00:36:23.980
of any women, especially in that age group that they want.

534
00:36:32.120 --> 00:36:35.160
A man who dresses really nice and smells really good

535
00:36:35.160 --> 00:36:36.660
and has really good hair

536
00:36:38.260 --> 00:36:40.760
that has never been in a relationship,

537
00:36:40.760 --> 00:36:42.400
you gotta watch out for that guy.

538
00:36:45.280 --> 00:36:47.520
Cause you know, lots of women,

539
00:36:47.520 --> 00:36:50.420
lots of women were interested, right?

540
00:36:51.280 --> 00:36:52.720
So why didn't he pick one?

541
00:36:56.680 --> 00:36:57.520
Am I lying?

542
00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:03.240
Same thing goes with women.

543
00:37:03.240 --> 00:37:05.560
If you're conventionally good looking,

544
00:37:05.560 --> 00:37:07.160
I use that lightly because you know,

545
00:37:07.160 --> 00:37:11.480
there's like this societal idea of what good looking is.

546
00:37:11.480 --> 00:37:13.280
If you're conventionally good looking

547
00:37:14.400 --> 00:37:17.740
and you've never been married, what's up?

548
00:37:18.460 --> 00:37:21.060
I'm sure there were lots of men that were interested.

549
00:37:23.940 --> 00:37:26.900
We had to start dealing with attachment style stuff.

550
00:37:26.900 --> 00:37:30.260
We got to start dealing with all kinds of things

551
00:37:30.260 --> 00:37:31.700
when we start talking about that,

552
00:37:31.700 --> 00:37:32.900
but more so for men.

553
00:37:32.900 --> 00:37:34.740
And that's who we're talking about tonight.

554
00:37:34.740 --> 00:37:36.540
We're not meddling with the ladies tonight.

555
00:37:36.540 --> 00:37:38.780
We're not going to meddle with y'all.

556
00:37:38.780 --> 00:37:39.900
All right.

557
00:37:39.900 --> 00:37:41.900
Can we talk about something fun, Jackie?

558
00:37:41.900 --> 00:37:44.220
Where is the place that you were referring to

559
00:37:44.220 --> 00:37:46.020
that it's really hard for men and women

560
00:37:46.020 --> 00:37:47.940
that it's really hard for men and women?

561
00:37:47.940 --> 00:37:50.500
If I wanted to say it, I would have said it, obviously.

562
00:37:50.500 --> 00:37:53.740
So I didn't say it on purpose.

563
00:37:55.460 --> 00:37:58.340
You guys, I'm not a vague person.

564
00:37:58.340 --> 00:37:59.180
I'm pretty direct.

565
00:37:59.180 --> 00:38:02.220
So if I'm being vague, I'm being vague on purpose.

566
00:38:02.220 --> 00:38:03.780
Okay.

567
00:38:03.780 --> 00:38:05.180
Let's see.

568
00:38:05.180 --> 00:38:07.940
Stuck in the hospital for 12 years.

569
00:38:07.940 --> 00:38:08.780
Yes.

570
00:38:11.420 --> 00:38:12.540
Yes, kept dating.

571
00:38:12.580 --> 00:38:16.860
And ladies, you can tell whether a man is just nice

572
00:38:16.860 --> 00:38:19.580
and kind or he's passive pretty quick.

573
00:38:22.180 --> 00:38:24.660
It's one thing if he's, if you're like, you know,

574
00:38:24.660 --> 00:38:26.380
he's like, you're like, where do you want to go?

575
00:38:26.380 --> 00:38:27.940
He's like, where do you want to go?

576
00:38:29.420 --> 00:38:30.260
He doesn't make plans.

577
00:38:30.260 --> 00:38:32.260
He's like, what do you want to do?

578
00:38:32.260 --> 00:38:33.100
Okay.

579
00:38:33.100 --> 00:38:34.060
Maybe he's just nice.

580
00:38:34.060 --> 00:38:35.420
Maybe he just wants you to have a good time.

581
00:38:35.420 --> 00:38:37.780
Maybe he just wants you to have a date that you enjoy.

582
00:38:37.780 --> 00:38:38.940
Okay.

583
00:38:38.940 --> 00:38:42.740
But if he can never make decisions, seriously,

584
00:38:44.140 --> 00:38:45.940
if he can never take initiative,

585
00:38:48.860 --> 00:38:51.620
no, because that doesn't get better after marriage.

586
00:38:51.620 --> 00:38:53.220
You guys, it gets worse.

587
00:38:53.220 --> 00:38:54.780
It gets worse because you know what's going to happen.

588
00:38:54.780 --> 00:38:57.020
You're going to take up slack.

589
00:38:57.020 --> 00:38:58.500
You're going to start taking up the slack.

590
00:38:58.500 --> 00:39:00.420
You're going to make it so that he never really has to do

591
00:39:00.420 --> 00:39:03.060
that anymore because you're going to start doing it.

592
00:39:04.180 --> 00:39:06.140
And that may seem fine at first.

593
00:39:06.140 --> 00:39:08.260
You may just be happy because he's really kind

594
00:39:08.620 --> 00:39:10.460
and you like him and he's got pretty eyes,

595
00:39:10.460 --> 00:39:13.300
but trust me after five years, 10 years of that,

596
00:39:13.300 --> 00:39:14.260
you're not going to be good.

597
00:39:14.260 --> 00:39:16.060
You're not going to be okay with it.

598
00:39:23.660 --> 00:39:25.500
Can I ask you permission on how to navigate

599
00:39:25.500 --> 00:39:28.420
a passive relationship that I'm in that is not romantic?

600
00:39:28.420 --> 00:39:29.340
Sure.

601
00:39:29.340 --> 00:39:30.180
Go for it, girl.

602
00:39:30.180 --> 00:39:31.060
Unmute yourself.

603
00:39:33.140 --> 00:39:36.780
So without getting into too much context, but some,

604
00:39:36.820 --> 00:39:40.980
I had to rescue my parents in November of 2024.

605
00:39:40.980 --> 00:39:44.020
They were in New York and my dad was taking care

606
00:39:44.020 --> 00:39:45.420
of my mom with dementia.

607
00:39:45.420 --> 00:39:47.980
And then I went out there to like clean for them

608
00:39:47.980 --> 00:39:49.180
for the weekend and help.

609
00:39:49.180 --> 00:39:52.860
And he like broke down into complete psychosis,

610
00:39:52.860 --> 00:39:54.700
ended up in the hospital for six weeks.

611
00:39:54.700 --> 00:39:57.860
I cleaned out their hoarder's house, sold their house,

612
00:39:57.860 --> 00:40:00.140
moved my mom into a facility down in Florida.

613
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.640
I brought my dad down here, he's a miracle

614
00:40:02.640 --> 00:40:04.880
and has snapped out of it and is doing great,

615
00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:09.280
but my dad is so disgustingly passive

616
00:40:09.280 --> 00:40:13.480
and I literally, your message, your Facebook today,

617
00:40:13.480 --> 00:40:16.880
I literally was like, I left the house this morning

618
00:40:16.880 --> 00:40:19.280
and my dad, like when I'm around him,

619
00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:21.640
my nervous system is just not okay.

620
00:40:21.640 --> 00:40:24.040
Like it's just not okay and I have like worked

621
00:40:24.040 --> 00:40:26.300
with a therapist for like six months.

622
00:40:26.300 --> 00:40:29.880
I did some EMDR and then I rejoined your program

623
00:40:29.880 --> 00:40:32.220
and did the heart work again and I still,

624
00:40:32.220 --> 00:40:33.580
it's like my nervous system.

625
00:40:33.580 --> 00:40:36.380
So I was like, what the heck is wrong with me?

626
00:40:36.380 --> 00:40:38.340
Like, and then everything you're saying tonight,

627
00:40:38.340 --> 00:40:40.380
like the control, like I'm so controlling

628
00:40:40.380 --> 00:40:43.960
because he's, my mom has abused him his whole marriage

629
00:40:43.960 --> 00:40:46.380
and he still doesn't even like really see it.

630
00:40:46.380 --> 00:40:50.460
And I like, I get so like frustrated and angry with him

631
00:40:50.460 --> 00:40:53.260
and I'm like, and I'm like you, I like,

632
00:40:53.260 --> 00:40:55.500
I say things and I'm blunt and I'm direct

633
00:40:55.500 --> 00:40:59.060
and then I, like you said on Supernatural Saturday,

634
00:40:59.520 --> 00:41:00.920
then I carry the shame for it.

635
00:41:00.920 --> 00:41:03.920
So I'm like kind of like in this cycle of like feeling shame

636
00:41:07.000 --> 00:41:11.400
for feeling this negative nervous system energy

637
00:41:11.400 --> 00:41:15.980
or whatever with my dad and I'm living with him.

638
00:41:15.980 --> 00:41:19.540
So that's the thing, like I'm overseeing him,

639
00:41:19.540 --> 00:41:23.880
I'm doing all the POA stuff, I'm still dating,

640
00:41:23.880 --> 00:41:26.720
like it hasn't stopped me from any of that.

641
00:41:26.720 --> 00:41:29.380
I mean, I'm still in, like I have to initiate the dates

642
00:41:29.380 --> 00:41:31.060
cause none of the men are asking me out,

643
00:41:31.060 --> 00:41:36.060
but I just, I guess as far as,

644
00:41:36.700 --> 00:41:39.380
cause now what I'm hearing you say is like,

645
00:41:39.380 --> 00:41:41.580
you're not a control cause I'm like this whole time

646
00:41:41.580 --> 00:41:43.580
I'm with him, I just feel like I'm horrible,

647
00:41:43.580 --> 00:41:46.420
I'm a control freak, I'm domineering.

648
00:41:46.420 --> 00:41:49.080
I'm like, I'm very, I could be very harsh

649
00:41:49.080 --> 00:41:50.820
and then I start talking down on him

650
00:41:50.820 --> 00:41:51.900
cause I'm like, you need to do this,

651
00:41:51.900 --> 00:41:54.740
you need to get on this, blah, blah, blah.

652
00:41:54.760 --> 00:41:55.720
Well, what you're dealing with,

653
00:41:55.720 --> 00:41:57.040
and I said it in my video today

654
00:41:57.040 --> 00:41:58.320
is you're dealing with resentment.

655
00:41:58.320 --> 00:42:02.520
You resent him and that's playing out in the harshness,

656
00:42:02.520 --> 00:42:05.220
but also at the same time as resenting,

657
00:42:05.220 --> 00:42:07.760
you also love and want to protect.

658
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:08.600
Right.

659
00:42:08.600 --> 00:42:10.760
And so, but the thing is, is that you can't,

660
00:42:10.760 --> 00:42:12.320
you're not going to change him.

661
00:42:12.320 --> 00:42:14.020
Is mom living with you?

662
00:42:14.020 --> 00:42:16.160
No, she's in a facility.

663
00:42:16.160 --> 00:42:18.880
Okay, so at least she's gone, that's good.

664
00:42:18.880 --> 00:42:22.000
And so you just have him there and maybe,

665
00:42:22.000 --> 00:42:24.280
is this their first time apart?

666
00:42:25.220 --> 00:42:29.380
Okay, so he may start to rally a little bit

667
00:42:29.380 --> 00:42:33.980
now that he doesn't have that over him, which is good.

668
00:42:33.980 --> 00:42:36.860
But at the same time, and I have to do this

669
00:42:36.860 --> 00:42:39.180
with my mom's husband, he's still alive.

670
00:42:39.180 --> 00:42:42.260
And like I said, I don't hate him, she could have left.

671
00:42:42.260 --> 00:42:44.980
It was a toxic situation for her.

672
00:42:44.980 --> 00:42:47.260
It's not a toxic situation for me, it's a toxic situation.

673
00:42:47.260 --> 00:42:49.100
I'm not his wife, I'm not his partner.

674
00:42:49.100 --> 00:42:53.260
And so I have forgiven, but also,

675
00:42:53.260 --> 00:42:55.120
I have to just accept him for who he is.

676
00:42:55.120 --> 00:42:58.640
I just, I can't make him someone that he's not.

677
00:42:58.640 --> 00:43:00.280
And if I'm going to be around him,

678
00:43:00.280 --> 00:43:01.340
if I'm going to love him,

679
00:43:01.340 --> 00:43:03.320
I'm just going to have to love him where he's at.

680
00:43:03.320 --> 00:43:04.920
With good boundaries, of course.

681
00:43:04.920 --> 00:43:07.840
Yes, okay, all right.

682
00:43:07.840 --> 00:43:09.640
But you're not a control freak.

683
00:43:09.640 --> 00:43:11.840
You're a conscientious observer.

684
00:43:11.840 --> 00:43:13.320
You want to change things.

685
00:43:13.320 --> 00:43:15.000
You want people to have their best life.

686
00:43:15.000 --> 00:43:17.440
The problem is, is that they don't want to.

687
00:43:17.440 --> 00:43:18.280
Yeah.

688
00:43:19.280 --> 00:43:23.860
Ladies, we can't, we, listen, potential in men,

689
00:43:23.860 --> 00:43:26.020
like this is her dad we're talking about,

690
00:43:26.020 --> 00:43:28.580
but potential in men, everybody has potential

691
00:43:28.580 --> 00:43:30.620
and everybody can change.

692
00:43:30.620 --> 00:43:34.220
Do people change when they get older?

693
00:43:34.220 --> 00:43:35.100
Not a lot.

694
00:43:36.540 --> 00:43:37.700
Okay, can they?

695
00:43:37.700 --> 00:43:38.540
Absolutely.

696
00:43:38.540 --> 00:43:39.500
Can they have counters?

697
00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:41.380
Are there people that change?

698
00:43:41.380 --> 00:43:44.340
Yes, there are.

699
00:43:44.340 --> 00:43:45.900
But when we're dealing with men,

700
00:43:45.900 --> 00:43:47.420
let's go back to the romantic thing.

701
00:43:47.440 --> 00:43:48.400
When we're dealing with men,

702
00:43:48.400 --> 00:43:50.800
we have to just keep our eyes

703
00:43:50.800 --> 00:43:52.720
because we have this beautiful gift in the feminine

704
00:43:52.720 --> 00:43:54.840
of seeing potential, right?

705
00:43:54.840 --> 00:43:56.280
That's what nurturer means.

706
00:43:56.280 --> 00:43:57.560
The feminine is a nurturer.

707
00:43:57.560 --> 00:44:01.160
It means seeing and helping something reach its potential

708
00:44:01.160 --> 00:44:02.640
is what nurturer means.

709
00:44:02.640 --> 00:44:05.280
You can't do that with full grown adults.

710
00:44:05.280 --> 00:44:06.580
You do that with children.

711
00:44:07.760 --> 00:44:08.760
That's who you do that with.

712
00:44:08.760 --> 00:44:10.840
You don't do that with full grown adults.

713
00:44:10.840 --> 00:44:13.880
They have free will, they have their choices.

714
00:44:13.880 --> 00:44:15.720
Now you can partner with them.

715
00:44:15.720 --> 00:44:18.420
You can help them if they want help

716
00:44:18.420 --> 00:44:20.080
and if they ask for help,

717
00:44:20.080 --> 00:44:24.660
but we can't get into a mindset where we can fix people.

718
00:44:24.660 --> 00:44:26.180
We cannot do that.

719
00:44:26.180 --> 00:44:28.660
If we can't change people, we can't fix people,

720
00:44:28.660 --> 00:44:30.980
but we can love them right where they are

721
00:44:30.980 --> 00:44:33.680
and then ask God for grace for the rest of it.

722
00:44:38.400 --> 00:44:40.420
Can we talk for a sec about this newer thing

723
00:44:40.420 --> 00:44:42.820
with ladies ending up with younger men?

724
00:44:42.820 --> 00:44:44.520
I'm seeing it all over the socials.

725
00:44:44.520 --> 00:44:45.780
Well, it's not a newer thing.

726
00:44:45.780 --> 00:44:46.780
It's not a new thing,

727
00:44:47.940 --> 00:44:50.900
but I will tell you that,

728
00:44:50.900 --> 00:44:52.940
and this is where we need to be careful.

729
00:44:55.820 --> 00:44:58.980
There are a lot of women who are very young at heart.

730
00:44:58.980 --> 00:45:00.180
First of all, men are.

731
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.880
not good guesses of age. I just want you to know that right now.

732
00:45:03.200 --> 00:45:06.040
So there's two different camps here, maybe three different camps.

733
00:45:06.280 --> 00:45:10.160
So we have men they're just attracted to you. Okay.

734
00:45:10.320 --> 00:45:13.040
It's not about age. They don't really know how old you are.

735
00:45:13.600 --> 00:45:18.000
They're attracted to you and it's legitimate and it's good.

736
00:45:18.800 --> 00:45:22.440
And it's not about number. It's about matching seasons, right? So there's that,

737
00:45:22.460 --> 00:45:24.960
there's the camp where, so don't be afraid to date a younger man.

738
00:45:24.960 --> 00:45:28.120
If it's healthy, if he's a leader, just cause he's young, doesn't mean me.

739
00:45:28.200 --> 00:45:31.240
He's not a leader. And someone was saying about the passive men,

740
00:45:31.240 --> 00:45:33.000
maybe he's not a leader. Then don't marry him.

741
00:45:33.000 --> 00:45:34.760
You don't want to marry a man who's not a leader.

742
00:45:35.040 --> 00:45:37.840
I know some of you are attracted to passive men because you've been with

743
00:45:37.840 --> 00:45:41.600
abusive men and now you want a man you can control and you're your own problem.

744
00:45:43.000 --> 00:45:45.200
Because trust me, you're not going to respect that passive man.

745
00:45:45.200 --> 00:45:49.440
After a while, there's a difference between toxic, aggressive alpha, you know,

746
00:45:49.440 --> 00:45:53.800
toxically alpha male and a beta passive.

747
00:45:54.040 --> 00:45:56.800
They're both just as toxic. They're both just as dangerous,

748
00:45:56.800 --> 00:46:01.440
just in different ways. So your pendulum is going to swing over here. You're like,

749
00:46:01.440 --> 00:46:04.960
Oh, this man is safe. You know, I'm going to get with him because you know,

750
00:46:04.960 --> 00:46:08.200
I can dominate him. He's going to do whatever I say. Well, no,

751
00:46:08.200 --> 00:46:12.680
that's going to be bad news bears. Okay. So there could be younger men.

752
00:46:12.840 --> 00:46:16.840
They're leaders. They're masculine in a good way. And yeah,

753
00:46:16.840 --> 00:46:18.360
they're younger than you, whatever,

754
00:46:18.400 --> 00:46:22.000
but you're young at heart and it's still a match you're in the same seasons.

755
00:46:22.000 --> 00:46:23.920
That's cool. So that's the healthy version of that.

756
00:46:24.200 --> 00:46:27.440
And then there's another version of it where dude has some mommy wounds,

757
00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:30.960
just like men that go after young women. He, you know,

758
00:46:31.480 --> 00:46:34.520
he has some reasons why he's attracted to you that are not healthy.

759
00:46:34.920 --> 00:46:38.920
He knows that you're older and it could be possible that, you know,

760
00:46:38.920 --> 00:46:41.960
he likes where you've gotten to in life, the success that you have,

761
00:46:42.120 --> 00:46:44.520
sugar mamas and sugar daddies both exist.

762
00:46:46.240 --> 00:46:48.840
So be careful with that, especially if you're a successful woman.

763
00:46:49.120 --> 00:46:51.520
And then there's a third one and there's probably four or five,

764
00:46:51.560 --> 00:46:53.200
six other versions of this.

765
00:46:53.640 --> 00:46:56.440
So I told you about the healthy one and do not be afraid to date somebody who's

766
00:46:56.440 --> 00:46:58.480
younger than you, if it's a healthy situation,

767
00:46:58.760 --> 00:47:00.640
but then there's another situation.

768
00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:05.040
And this is mostly with men that are not value-based or not Christians,

769
00:47:05.080 --> 00:47:08.400
faith-based kind of men that we would meet Christian men.

770
00:47:08.960 --> 00:47:10.920
But because of porn,

771
00:47:12.480 --> 00:47:16.880
there's a lot of men who are really excited by experienced women.

772
00:47:17.320 --> 00:47:21.320
They're really excited about older women and being with older women that are

773
00:47:21.320 --> 00:47:24.640
sexually experienced kind of like

774
00:47:25.720 --> 00:47:29.240
cuckoo, cuckoo, Mrs. Robinson. All right. So

775
00:47:30.880 --> 00:47:33.840
I found that out the hard way when my daughters were in high school,

776
00:47:34.240 --> 00:47:38.160
I worked at JC Penny for the Christmas season and I was, I don't know,

777
00:47:38.200 --> 00:47:42.200
38, maybe, I don't know, somewhere in there.

778
00:47:42.320 --> 00:47:45.280
And one of my daughter's classmates,

779
00:47:45.320 --> 00:47:48.080
I think she was in 10th grade worked at JC Penny as well.

780
00:47:48.320 --> 00:47:51.600
And he kept coming over to my register all the time and like talking to me and

781
00:47:51.600 --> 00:47:53.800
stuff. And I had met him and seen him before.

782
00:47:53.800 --> 00:47:56.880
And he was a popular kid at their school. And I was just like, Hey,

783
00:47:56.880 --> 00:48:00.200
hi Tyler. You know, I'd always be like, Hey, hi. And you know,

784
00:48:00.200 --> 00:48:01.360
I'm a cute woman,

785
00:48:02.040 --> 00:48:05.560
but that never crossed my mind that he was coming over to talk to me because of

786
00:48:05.560 --> 00:48:08.880
that reason. And then he started bringing his little friends over,

787
00:48:08.880 --> 00:48:11.920
like his friends would visit him at work and they'd all come and see Kaylee's

788
00:48:11.920 --> 00:48:15.120
mom. And then my daughter, Kaylee, this is not my daughter, Reagan.

789
00:48:15.120 --> 00:48:18.440
This is my older daughter. She came home from school. And she's like, mom,

790
00:48:19.320 --> 00:48:22.640
she's like all the guys at school are like, I heard your mom's hot.

791
00:48:23.240 --> 00:48:28.040
Like, where's your mom at Kaylee? You know, Kaylee's mom has got it going on.

792
00:48:28.040 --> 00:48:31.040
Like it was in the thing is that the thing that I found out about it was it's

793
00:48:31.040 --> 00:48:35.880
part of the porn culture. Like these little, these little assholes,

794
00:48:36.080 --> 00:48:41.080
if you allow me to say they have been watching a lot of porn where the women,

795
00:48:41.080 --> 00:48:45.560
because they're teenagers are mature, they're older women, right. You know,

796
00:48:45.560 --> 00:48:48.400
even if they're in their thirties and forties are older than them,

797
00:48:48.600 --> 00:48:50.240
even if they're in their twenties, they're older.

798
00:48:50.440 --> 00:48:54.320
And so there's that mentality as well. And yeah, it was,

799
00:48:54.800 --> 00:48:59.200
it was really gross. So that exists out there, ladies. Yes.

800
00:48:59.200 --> 00:49:02.640
Men who want Cougars. Exactly. Susan. So,

801
00:49:02.640 --> 00:49:04.680
you know, I mean, I was, I mean, they're teenagers.

802
00:49:04.680 --> 00:49:07.880
So I was more of a Panther, not a Cougar,

803
00:49:08.640 --> 00:49:12.360
whatever the next level is from Cougarville. That's where I was,

804
00:49:12.360 --> 00:49:16.400
but I wasn't there. Cause obviously I wasn't interested in that at all. Yeah.

805
00:49:16.440 --> 00:49:19.040
It was really, really creepy. Yes. Kim,

806
00:49:19.040 --> 00:49:21.960
I could see you being Noah's mom for sure. That that's,

807
00:49:22.520 --> 00:49:25.520
I'm telling you these little perverts need to get themselves together.

808
00:49:26.160 --> 00:49:28.640
Some men need to be raising up a gender.

809
00:49:28.640 --> 00:49:32.200
I really was feeling like 26 was a really important year of prayer.

810
00:49:32.200 --> 00:49:34.800
And so if you haven't been coming to prayer, please come to prayer.

811
00:49:34.960 --> 00:49:38.280
The reason why we've had such supernatural success in this movement is because

812
00:49:38.280 --> 00:49:41.240
of the prayer covering and you guys are the ones that make that up.

813
00:49:41.480 --> 00:49:45.160
And so please come. We're going to start praying again over, listen,

814
00:49:45.400 --> 00:49:46.840
God just told us tonight.

815
00:49:47.160 --> 00:49:49.920
And he's told us in the past that he has his Davids in the field.

816
00:49:50.120 --> 00:49:51.920
They are the ones that are going to make that up.

817
00:49:51.920 --> 00:49:55.440
And so please come we're going to start praying again over, listen,

818
00:49:55.440 --> 00:49:56.880
God just told us tonight.

819
00:49:56.880 --> 00:50:00.960
And he's told us in the past that he has his Davids in the field. They exist.

820
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.540
there. And I don't mean the adulterer, murderer, David. Okay.

821
00:50:04.320 --> 00:50:06.960
I mean, just men that are after his heart.

822
00:50:08.640 --> 00:50:12.480
Got to be careful with all these Bible stories. It's a problem.

823
00:50:14.360 --> 00:50:19.560
It's a problem. Okay. So, um, we have to be willing to receive them.

824
00:50:19.560 --> 00:50:24.320
Are you willing to receive them or are you so hung up on your toxic type?

825
00:50:26.120 --> 00:50:29.040
And I know some of you don't even believe you have a type, but you do.

826
00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:34.400
But you do. Um,

827
00:50:34.400 --> 00:50:36.240
I did a carousel on my Instagram about,

828
00:50:36.400 --> 00:50:40.280
about why women pass on good men and they don't realize it till later.

829
00:50:40.280 --> 00:50:42.040
I want you to be honest and raise your hand.

830
00:50:42.240 --> 00:50:45.480
If you have known a good guy in the past that you weren't, you just,

831
00:50:45.520 --> 00:50:48.840
you just weren't feeling it. You just didn't find the, you know,

832
00:50:48.840 --> 00:50:51.520
romantic spark that you wanted. So you passed on him,

833
00:50:51.840 --> 00:50:54.440
but you have wondered at least one time,

834
00:50:54.600 --> 00:50:58.040
if you had made a mistake now that you're still single,

835
00:50:58.280 --> 00:51:01.520
you've wondered if you actually made a mistake. You're like,

836
00:51:01.520 --> 00:51:06.560
did I make a mistake? Could I have partnered with him?

837
00:51:06.560 --> 00:51:11.320
Would it have gotten better? Okay. That's a lot of hands, right?

838
00:51:11.560 --> 00:51:15.480
At least 17, 20 of y'all put your hands down.

839
00:51:22.760 --> 00:51:23.600
All right.

840
00:51:28.880 --> 00:51:32.360
You guys, my husband is really cute,

841
00:51:34.440 --> 00:51:37.320
but he wasn't cute when he was my neighbor.

842
00:51:38.600 --> 00:51:42.040
When I tell you that I could have done much better, I could have,

843
00:51:43.360 --> 00:51:46.160
I mean, I'm fricking five 10.

844
00:51:47.480 --> 00:51:52.120
And back then I was like supermodel. I weighed like 127 pounds.

845
00:51:52.160 --> 00:51:54.920
I could have married a fricking athlete if I had wanted to,

846
00:51:54.960 --> 00:51:58.960
but I married the short fat Bible teacher

847
00:52:00.960 --> 00:52:04.960
next door, but he had a glow up, didn't he?

848
00:52:06.560 --> 00:52:10.960
And you know what that glow up was me, me.

849
00:52:11.000 --> 00:52:15.240
I was the glow up. Why? Because I'm his wife.

850
00:52:15.960 --> 00:52:19.560
And now he's super confident, right? Cause he's like, Oh, he bagged a hottie.

851
00:52:19.720 --> 00:52:22.520
And so now he's like, carry more about his clothes.

852
00:52:22.520 --> 00:52:26.280
And, you know, and he got new glasses and, you know, I mean, women,

853
00:52:26.280 --> 00:52:29.000
this is what we do. This is what we do.

854
00:52:29.480 --> 00:52:34.480
We bring all of the beauty because we are

855
00:52:34.480 --> 00:52:36.560
beauty. The feminine of God is the beauty of God.

856
00:52:36.560 --> 00:52:39.760
So we bring the beauty to things, you know, suddenly, you know,

857
00:52:39.760 --> 00:52:43.880
we're picking out jeans for him that actually fit instead of these short tight,

858
00:52:43.920 --> 00:52:47.400
you know, loose ones or whatever he was wearing. I told him,

859
00:52:47.400 --> 00:52:50.600
I told my husband, you are not a fat woman.

860
00:52:50.600 --> 00:52:54.840
I told my husband, you are not a 44 short.

861
00:52:54.880 --> 00:52:57.680
You are a 42 regular.

862
00:52:57.880 --> 00:53:01.160
Why are you fricking wearing these big? Cause you know, he's saying like,

863
00:53:01.160 --> 00:53:03.560
he's saying worship. He was a worship leader for a mega church.

864
00:53:03.800 --> 00:53:07.720
And his suits just looked so terrible on him. I'm like,

865
00:53:07.720 --> 00:53:11.320
why you are not a 44 short.

866
00:53:11.320 --> 00:53:15.200
You are a 42 regular take this suit jacket off,

867
00:53:16.360 --> 00:53:20.080
put this one on. Oh, you were six,

868
00:53:20.080 --> 00:53:22.920
but now you're an eight. Interesting.

869
00:53:24.800 --> 00:53:28.800
Now I will tell you that he's always had the rhythm boy can dance.

870
00:53:28.800 --> 00:53:34.000
He's got a big old, nice, juicy booty. Um, there were, there were signs,

871
00:53:34.480 --> 00:53:38.880
there were signs, there was, there was, there was potential.

872
00:53:39.320 --> 00:53:43.880
All right. Amazing kisser. Oh, come on.

873
00:53:45.080 --> 00:53:49.360
So we can deal, we can, we can deal with some cosmetic changes.

874
00:53:49.400 --> 00:53:53.240
Now has he lost any weight since I met him? Not a pound,

875
00:53:55.040 --> 00:53:57.400
but we just dress it differently and it looks better.

876
00:54:00.040 --> 00:54:01.400
And I've gained, you know,

877
00:54:01.400 --> 00:54:05.040
40 pounds to just kind of catch up with him and we're all good menopause.

878
00:54:05.080 --> 00:54:09.400
There we have it. Yes, he can dance. He can sing.

879
00:54:12.520 --> 00:54:13.680
So friends,

880
00:54:13.880 --> 00:54:17.640
when you meet a man instead of thinking about all the things that you don't like

881
00:54:17.640 --> 00:54:21.560
about him or that are not your type, why don't you find some stuff?

882
00:54:22.200 --> 00:54:25.600
Why don't you, you know, talk and interact.

883
00:54:26.640 --> 00:54:27.920
And I always tell men this, I'm like,

884
00:54:27.920 --> 00:54:30.360
take women on dates that paint you in the best light.

885
00:54:30.400 --> 00:54:34.000
If you're a good singer, go to karaoke. If you're a good bowler, go to bowling.

886
00:54:34.520 --> 00:54:37.160
If you're great athletic, go to pickleball,

887
00:54:37.400 --> 00:54:42.000
do whatever it is so that she can see you in an element that makes her be

888
00:54:42.000 --> 00:54:43.960
like, Hey,

889
00:54:48.000 --> 00:54:49.600
we want winners. Do we not?

890
00:54:52.560 --> 00:54:55.400
We want winners, but a lot of men are winners.

891
00:54:55.680 --> 00:54:57.800
They're just not showcasing their talent.

892
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.600
talent their correct way because no one's teaching them and

893
00:55:04.600 --> 00:55:08.120
coaching them. All these men's group do is they go out in the

894
00:55:08.120 --> 00:55:13.680
woods and shoot crap together. That's not helpful. Someone

895
00:55:13.680 --> 00:55:16.600
should be taking them to the mall and letting them know that

896
00:55:16.600 --> 00:55:20.480
there are 33 ways, not a 36 ways. Take those fricking jeans

897
00:55:20.480 --> 00:55:30.800
off and put these on. Take them to the dentist. You guys I am a

898
00:55:30.800 --> 00:55:34.920
tooth freak for sure. You know, and some people have naturally

899
00:55:34.920 --> 00:55:37.280
more yellow teeth. Ladies, if we're going to do some beauty

900
00:55:37.280 --> 00:55:41.880
stuff tonight, white teeth go a long way. And if you have like

901
00:55:41.900 --> 00:55:44.440
antibiotic stains or tetracycline stains and

902
00:55:44.440 --> 00:55:46.520
different things like that, and there's only so much you can do

903
00:55:46.520 --> 00:55:51.800
that's true. Um, but you know, for everybody else, especially

904
00:55:51.800 --> 00:55:54.560
if you're a coffee drinker, a red wine drinker, all you gotta

905
00:55:54.560 --> 00:55:57.240
do is get some crest white strips. They work to skip them.

906
00:55:57.240 --> 00:56:04.760
They're like 40 bucks at the grocery. Just get them. Yes. I

907
00:56:04.760 --> 00:56:07.200
mean, teeth are important to most people, but here's the

908
00:56:07.200 --> 00:56:10.440
thing. Don't let teeth be the deal breaker. Do not let teeth

909
00:56:10.440 --> 00:56:16.560
be the deal breaker. They can get Invisalign. They can. If

910
00:56:16.560 --> 00:56:21.240
they got like, they can get Invisalign. My husband got

911
00:56:21.240 --> 00:56:25.440
Invisalign. His bottom teeth. Whoo. His bottom teeth look like

912
00:56:25.440 --> 00:56:28.320
they were having a mosh pit. They were like fighting for

913
00:56:28.320 --> 00:56:34.120
space in there, but they're straight ish. Straight ish now.

914
00:56:34.400 --> 00:56:42.200
He doesn't wear his retainers. So that's that. No, the package,

915
00:56:42.200 --> 00:56:44.800
he doesn't have to be the deal breaker. You need to find out

916
00:56:44.800 --> 00:56:49.600
what makes this guy sexy. If you like him, if you like him, you

917
00:56:49.600 --> 00:56:53.000
guys, if you enjoy being around him at all, but he's not really

918
00:56:53.000 --> 00:56:55.240
your type. And then you, you leave the date. You're like, I

919
00:56:55.240 --> 00:56:57.360
don't know if I'm attracted. Sometimes you feel attracted.

920
00:56:57.360 --> 00:57:00.320
Sometimes you don't because the package is not really what

921
00:57:00.320 --> 00:57:05.800
you're used to. Find out what makes him attractive. Find it.

922
00:57:10.520 --> 00:57:15.760
Okay, wait a second. I saw something good there. I've lost

923
00:57:15.760 --> 00:57:19.600
18 pounds, GLP one micro dosing, highly recommend. All right,

924
00:57:19.600 --> 00:57:22.800
girl, unmute yourself and tell us about it. Because I know a

925
00:57:22.800 --> 00:57:24.120
lot of people are interested.

926
00:57:24.240 --> 00:57:29.880
Okay, well, I am the poster child for it. I'm so excited to

927
00:57:29.880 --> 00:57:34.040
be able to share it with anybody. I do homeopathic

928
00:57:34.040 --> 00:57:38.120
natural health care. I haven't had health insurance since

929
00:57:38.120 --> 00:57:44.120
early 2000s. Everything I do is natural, first of all. My, I

930
00:57:44.120 --> 00:57:48.040
went to my chiropractor, homeopath, naturopath and said,

931
00:57:48.040 --> 00:57:52.520
look, I just cannot get this done. I'm not going to do it.

932
00:57:52.680 --> 00:57:57.480
I just cannot get this weight off of me, which kind of I'm 62.

933
00:57:57.880 --> 00:58:02.000
I went into menopause. I stopped my period. I had my final period

934
00:58:02.000 --> 00:58:07.240
at 60. So I was really late. And yeah, I know. Probably because I

935
00:58:07.240 --> 00:58:12.320
never took birth control is my sneaky suspicion. But I don't

936
00:58:12.320 --> 00:58:18.080
know. My mother was late too. But I just gained all this

937
00:58:18.080 --> 00:58:22.600
belly fat in like months. Like I'm talking like, I had a shelf

938
00:58:22.600 --> 00:58:27.600
with like a little line under my belly, belly fat. And I had been

939
00:58:27.600 --> 00:58:32.680
the same weight, all of my adult life, pretty much 20s, 30s, 40s,

940
00:58:32.960 --> 00:58:37.720
50s. I was just a solid size six, just easy. And then all of

941
00:58:37.720 --> 00:58:41.640
a sudden, I jumped 20 pounds, and nothing I could do to get it

942
00:58:41.920 --> 00:58:49.360
to get it off. So in September, I started on micro dosing under

943
00:58:49.360 --> 00:58:55.920
my chiropractor's care. And what you what we see on TV, which you

944
00:58:55.920 --> 00:59:04.080
know, the ozempic and the Mondoro, whatever. Those are not

945
00:59:04.080 --> 00:59:08.360
what I'm talking about. Those people that follow that route

946
00:59:08.360 --> 00:59:14.320
are the ones that get ozempic face, they lose it too fast. And

947
00:59:14.360 --> 00:59:18.960
then they get into this terrible cycle of quick weight loss. And

948
00:59:18.960 --> 00:59:21.600
they have to stay on it. But when you micro dose, you're

949
00:59:21.600 --> 00:59:25.440
introducing something that is natural in your body. So these

950
00:59:25.440 --> 00:59:29.640
peptides are naturally occurring anyway. And as we get older,

951
00:59:29.720 --> 00:59:33.400
they slow down, of course, as many things do. But these

952
00:59:33.400 --> 00:59:38.120
peptides that they start you on, and you could do it for anything

953
00:59:38.120 --> 00:59:42.480
if you have a knee injury or a hip injury, you could do, you

954
00:59:42.480 --> 00:59:46.640
know, copper peptides, you could do all kinds of peptides for

955
00:59:46.800 --> 00:59:51.360
skincare, skin, renewal, rejuvenation, libido.

956
00:59:51.880 --> 00:59:53.880
And what and what peptide are you taking?

957
00:59:53.880 --> 00:59:59.120
So I'm on it's called terzapatide. T I R.

958
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:05.000
I-R-Z, terzep, Z-E-P, zepetide.

959
01:00:05.840 --> 01:00:08.240
And I, yeah, terzepetide.

960
01:00:08.240 --> 01:00:12.500
And I started at a very, very micro dose.

961
01:00:12.500 --> 01:00:15.540
It's, I started at 1.2 milligrams.

962
01:00:17.220 --> 01:00:18.740
So when you go to a doctor

963
01:00:18.740 --> 01:00:21.300
and they prescribe something to you, like ozempic,

964
01:00:21.300 --> 01:00:24.200
they're starting you at like 15 to 25 milligrams.

965
01:00:24.200 --> 01:00:26.640
So 15 times that.

966
01:00:26.640 --> 01:00:29.260
I started at 15 times less.

967
01:00:29.340 --> 01:00:30.980
And guys, I just wanted to let you know

968
01:00:30.980 --> 01:00:33.300
that Susan's an OG, she's been around for a long time.

969
01:00:33.300 --> 01:00:36.620
She's a professional chef, you know, so she knows food.

970
01:00:36.620 --> 01:00:40.060
And so I just want to let you guys know, you know,

971
01:00:40.060 --> 01:00:42.940
you don't have to have any kind of knee-jerk reaction.

972
01:00:42.940 --> 01:00:46.540
This is her experience and this is her journey.

973
01:00:46.540 --> 01:00:48.500
And that's what Girls' Night is all about.

974
01:00:48.500 --> 01:00:52.540
So a lot of people may have been curious about GLPs

975
01:00:52.540 --> 01:00:54.400
and specifically terzepetide.

976
01:00:54.400 --> 01:00:57.380
My daughter-in-law-to-be, my son's fiance,

977
01:00:57.380 --> 01:00:58.620
is actually on it right now

978
01:00:58.980 --> 01:01:00.660
because she has really bad PCOS

979
01:01:00.660 --> 01:01:02.140
and she's on a little microdose

980
01:01:02.140 --> 01:01:04.780
and she's been feeling so much better.

981
01:01:04.780 --> 01:01:06.820
So everyone's experiences are different.

982
01:01:06.820 --> 01:01:08.420
It may not be right for everyone.

983
01:01:08.420 --> 01:01:10.820
And there are people out there that are abusing it,

984
01:01:10.820 --> 01:01:12.380
okay, for sure.

985
01:01:12.380 --> 01:01:13.700
So go ahead, Susan.

986
01:01:13.700 --> 01:01:15.780
Yeah, thank you for saying that.

987
01:01:15.780 --> 01:01:16.820
And hi, everybody.

988
01:01:16.820 --> 01:01:19.060
I know I haven't been around a lot,

989
01:01:19.060 --> 01:01:21.780
but I am a moderator for a single city,

990
01:01:21.780 --> 01:01:23.900
Los Angeles group for a long time.

991
01:01:23.900 --> 01:01:26.300
And I love you, Jackie.

992
01:01:26.300 --> 01:01:28.660
And I am always your fan.

993
01:01:28.660 --> 01:01:30.260
Girl, I always have your back because-

994
01:01:30.260 --> 01:01:31.820
I love you, I'm your fan.

995
01:01:31.820 --> 01:01:33.440
You are the real deal.

996
01:01:33.440 --> 01:01:34.340
You are no joke.

997
01:01:34.340 --> 01:01:35.220
You are the real deal.

998
01:01:35.220 --> 01:01:38.020
You and David, blessings.

999
01:01:38.020 --> 01:01:41.060
So anyway, so I started on terzepetide

1000
01:01:41.060 --> 01:01:46.060
and I noticed a difference probably in two days.

1001
01:01:48.100 --> 01:01:48.940
No joke.

1002
01:01:48.940 --> 01:01:51.420
So I am a professional chef.

1003
01:01:54.020 --> 01:01:56.420
I don't know if that makes really a difference.

1004
01:01:56.420 --> 01:01:59.140
What my real experience,

1005
01:01:59.140 --> 01:02:01.780
and this is, I think the biggest shift for me

1006
01:02:01.780 --> 01:02:04.900
is that I never realized how loud

1007
01:02:04.900 --> 01:02:07.780
the food noise was in my brain.

1008
01:02:07.780 --> 01:02:10.300
I was always thinking about my next meal.

1009
01:02:10.300 --> 01:02:15.300
I was always, I had no stop button for like a bag of chips,

1010
01:02:17.060 --> 01:02:21.340
a thing of cookies, like my, whatever your weakness is,

1011
01:02:21.460 --> 01:02:24.420
mine were like carbs and sugar.

1012
01:02:24.420 --> 01:02:26.460
And I've never been on medication.

1013
01:02:26.460 --> 01:02:30.620
I was never diabetic, never had any medical difficulties,

1014
01:02:30.620 --> 01:02:33.100
but this food noise was a real deal.

1015
01:02:33.100 --> 01:02:35.540
And I was a late night snacker.

1016
01:02:35.540 --> 01:02:40.540
And I also knew that I really enjoyed,

1017
01:02:42.680 --> 01:02:43.520
what do you call it?

1018
01:02:43.520 --> 01:02:45.300
Intermittent fasting.

1019
01:02:45.300 --> 01:02:48.580
I do well, I feel good when my stomach is empty.

1020
01:02:48.580 --> 01:02:53.580
And so I just started on those, these terzepetide.

1021
01:02:53.980 --> 01:02:58.740
I started on September 8th and I take a shot a week

1022
01:02:58.740 --> 01:03:03.740
that I, my chiropractor is just a lovely man

1023
01:03:04.140 --> 01:03:06.860
and believes in not overcharging

1024
01:03:06.860 --> 01:03:08.660
because these things are expensive

1025
01:03:08.660 --> 01:03:13.020
and he sells them through his online community

1026
01:03:13.020 --> 01:03:15.380
at wholesale prices.

1027
01:03:15.380 --> 01:03:19.820
So it's really like affordable.

1028
01:03:19.820 --> 01:03:21.660
If I would say you have a job.

1029
01:03:22.980 --> 01:03:23.820
Okay, well.

1030
01:03:25.700 --> 01:03:26.860
Yeah, okay.

1031
01:03:26.860 --> 01:03:27.700
And so.

1032
01:03:27.700 --> 01:03:29.580
I'm so glad that you're having such success.

1033
01:03:29.580 --> 01:03:33.580
18 pounds is a lot, especially as we get older

1034
01:03:34.580 --> 01:03:35.540
and you look great.

1035
01:03:35.540 --> 01:03:38.780
You don't look like the Crypt Keeper, which is good.

1036
01:03:38.780 --> 01:03:41.260
I've noticed that some people that are on those,

1037
01:03:41.260 --> 01:03:43.500
they start looking, like you said, real,

1038
01:03:44.380 --> 01:03:45.900
you can tell they're losing muscle.

1039
01:03:45.900 --> 01:03:47.020
It's not good.

1040
01:03:48.100 --> 01:03:51.580
Friends, you have to prioritize a healthy lifestyle.

1041
01:03:51.580 --> 01:03:53.780
You have to eat a certain amount of protein.

1042
01:03:53.780 --> 01:03:55.100
You have to prioritize protein

1043
01:03:55.100 --> 01:03:56.900
because you're not gonna be that hungry.

1044
01:03:56.900 --> 01:03:59.100
My daughter-in-law-to-be has told me a lot

1045
01:03:59.100 --> 01:04:03.020
about what she has to do in order to stay healthy

1046
01:04:03.020 --> 01:04:05.780
on a microdose like Susan's talking about.

1047
01:04:05.780 --> 01:04:07.700
So Debra wants to know how much.

1048
01:04:07.700 --> 01:04:09.380
And once again, her chiropractor,

1049
01:04:09.380 --> 01:04:11.220
if he's selling it wholesale, it's different.

1050
01:04:11.220 --> 01:04:14.580
I know that my future daughter-in-law is paying like,

1051
01:04:14.580 --> 01:04:17.300
I think it's, I wanna say 400 bucks a month.

1052
01:04:19.940 --> 01:04:23.140
So anybody could join his group.

1053
01:04:23.140 --> 01:04:26.460
You don't have to see him in real life.

1054
01:04:26.460 --> 01:04:30.340
He has an online community called The Inner Circle

1055
01:04:30.340 --> 01:04:31.860
and I'm happy to share his website

1056
01:04:31.860 --> 01:04:34.260
and you guys can go and check it out.

1057
01:04:34.260 --> 01:04:38.180
I pay $20 a month just to be part of his membership

1058
01:04:38.180 --> 01:04:42.140
and then I have access to the peptides.

1059
01:04:42.140 --> 01:04:43.380
For just liability reasons,

1060
01:04:43.380 --> 01:04:45.460
we can't really talk about medical stuff

1061
01:04:45.460 --> 01:04:46.860
because we're not that kind of group,

1062
01:04:46.860 --> 01:04:50.980
but you see Susan and if you want to friend her on Facebook

1063
01:04:50.980 --> 01:04:52.700
and you wanna ask her more questions,

1064
01:04:52.700 --> 01:04:55.780
then this is a free world and you can do that.

1065
01:04:55.780 --> 01:04:57.180
Yeah, absolutely.

1066
01:04:57.180 --> 01:04:58.980
But you're right about protein.

1067
01:04:58.980 --> 01:05:00.020
I have to really.

1068
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:08.960
be conscientious about protein. Um, but the food noise is gone in my brain. Um, the bloating,

1069
01:05:08.960 --> 01:05:15.320
the bloating went away, uh, within a week. Like I have been bloated unknowingly for like

1070
01:05:15.320 --> 01:05:16.320
a dozen years.

1071
01:05:16.320 --> 01:05:22.480
I love it. That's so amazing. I also want to say that I also have, I've drive dropped

1072
01:05:22.480 --> 01:05:30.720
20 pounds, um, and, um, and, and from fasting. So GLP ones, they, they, they, what they do

1073
01:05:30.720 --> 01:05:35.840
is it's, it's basically about fasting. Um, it's causing you to not have an appetite.

1074
01:05:35.840 --> 01:05:40.400
So it's, it's, it's forcing the fast. Um, but you guys know that I had some gallbladder

1075
01:05:40.400 --> 01:05:45.720
issues over the summer, which kind of forced me into a forced fast. And then I saw why

1076
01:05:45.720 --> 01:05:50.280
I was, while I wasn't really able to eat much that I was dropping weight really quickly.

1077
01:05:50.280 --> 01:05:54.080
I've never been really a big faster, like spiritual fasting. I've done some of it,

1078
01:05:54.080 --> 01:05:58.040
but not a lot of it. But then when I was starting to feel better and I was starting to be able

1079
01:05:58.040 --> 01:06:04.200
to eat more and more food again, um, I just deliberately and intentionally started to

1080
01:06:04.200 --> 01:06:11.000
do a 16, eight window. So I fast for 16 hours. I stopped eating by seven, um, most nights

1081
01:06:11.000 --> 01:06:16.800
and I do not start eating until noon. I am not hungry in the morning as far as like ravenously

1082
01:06:16.800 --> 01:06:22.200
hungry. Um, and it has made all the difference. I have not gained any of that lost weight

1083
01:06:22.200 --> 01:06:28.160
back. Um, and it's been over what, six months. I mean, normally if you fast just fast, like

1084
01:06:28.160 --> 01:06:32.160
starve yourself and you lose weight, as soon as you start eating normally again, you will

1085
01:06:32.160 --> 01:06:36.680
gain it back. But intermittent fasting has helped me not only lose 20 pounds, but keep

1086
01:06:36.680 --> 01:06:45.560
it off. And so I just really want to say that as well. I went down to dress sizes and, um,

1087
01:06:46.000 --> 01:06:51.000
Yeah. And once again, same thing, hormonal weight game, same as Susan. So you can also

1088
01:06:51.000 --> 01:06:55.680
try intermittent fasting. If you haven't ever done that, you should, you should try it.

1089
01:06:55.680 --> 01:07:01.240
They do rec, they really recommend it for menopausal women, um, perimenopausal and menopausal

1090
01:07:01.240 --> 01:07:07.040
women, younger women be careful with it because your hormones need food. They need calories.

1091
01:07:07.040 --> 01:07:13.800
They need fat. They need protein. Um, so intermittent fasting has been a huge game changer for me.

1092
01:07:14.040 --> 01:07:20.240
Okay. You guys were running out of time. Thank you for Susan for sharing. Um, I see a lot

1093
01:07:20.240 --> 01:07:26.760
of people, um, just kind of saying that they really want to get their health on track.

1094
01:07:26.760 --> 01:07:30.160
I believe this could be the year for you to get that on track. Whatever has been keeping

1095
01:07:30.160 --> 01:07:35.920
you from getting it on track. Remember the siege is over friends. All of us have had

1096
01:07:35.920 --> 01:07:40.440
distractions and disruptions and things that have been demonically trying to keep us from

1097
01:07:40.440 --> 01:07:46.680
our best lives. And don't under, don't, don't underestimate the enemy and the way that he

1098
01:07:46.680 --> 01:07:50.680
works in our lives. If there's been an area in your life where you've just always wanted

1099
01:07:50.680 --> 01:07:56.880
change, but you've never been able to really sustain it, it probably is some sort of stronghold

1100
01:07:56.880 --> 01:08:05.480
is probably under the banner of what I was talking about, which is the siege is over.

1101
01:08:05.480 --> 01:08:11.200
So try again. If you've just given up because you've tried in the past and it's never worked,

1102
01:08:11.200 --> 01:08:20.240
try again. Just go ahead and try again. There'll be new information. There'll be new information.

1103
01:08:20.240 --> 01:08:23.439
Thank you for talking about my hair color because in person, it looks a little crazy.

1104
01:08:23.439 --> 01:08:28.840
Someone's like, I like your hair color. Well in person, I don't know if you will, but I

1105
01:08:28.840 --> 01:08:36.359
appreciate that. It looks okay on camera. Let's see. I need to eat something. I've realized, okay.

1106
01:08:36.359 --> 01:08:39.640
I thought the marsh is like, I need to eat something. This whole conversation about food is

1107
01:08:39.640 --> 01:08:46.680
making me hungry. I got to go eat something. I thought that's what you meant. Okay. All right.

1108
01:08:46.680 --> 01:08:58.279
You guys how do we know? How do we know that we're choosing God's highest and his best?

1109
01:08:58.279 --> 01:09:03.560
You're not going to know that and you don't need to know that. Listen, we've got to get out of the

1110
01:09:03.560 --> 01:09:10.040
waiting room of, is this God's best for me? This is his highest for me. You, this is why you take

1111
01:09:10.040 --> 01:09:16.200
it one date at a time, one step at a time. This is why it's a yes until it's a no. Too many people

1112
01:09:16.200 --> 01:09:22.359
try to make quick judgments about whether or not this is God's person for them when you haven't

1113
01:09:22.359 --> 01:09:27.800
even gotten a chance to know this person. And usually it's based on something that you think

1114
01:09:27.800 --> 01:09:35.640
is not in alignment with God's got a word that you got or, you know, what you thought it was

1115
01:09:35.640 --> 01:09:42.200
going to feel like or look like. And this is why I always say, especially for, you know, you older

1116
01:09:42.200 --> 01:09:47.960
ladies that have basically been thinking about this for a really long time. You've been single

1117
01:09:47.960 --> 01:09:51.560
for a really long time. You may have had bad experiences, divorces, whatever, but you've

1118
01:09:51.560 --> 01:09:57.000
been single for a long time. You've had a lot of time to think about this and to start kind of

1119
01:09:57.000 --> 01:09:59.800
dreaming up what it's going to feel like, or be like, or what.

1120
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:01.720
You think it has to be like,

1121
01:10:01.720 --> 01:10:04.360
and I really want you to be careful about that.

1122
01:10:04.360 --> 01:10:05.360
This is why I always say,

1123
01:10:05.360 --> 01:10:07.200
when you first come into the program,

1124
01:10:07.200 --> 01:10:11.000
just meet a bunch of people and give them a chance.

1125
01:10:11.000 --> 01:10:12.280
Give them more than one date.

1126
01:10:12.280 --> 01:10:14.560
Go on at least three dates with somebody

1127
01:10:14.560 --> 01:10:16.080
if they're not a serial killer.

1128
01:10:16.080 --> 01:10:18.720
That's what we used to say back in the day.

1129
01:10:18.720 --> 01:10:21.320
And ladies, if they're initiating,

1130
01:10:22.240 --> 01:10:24.020
don't even go on a second date with them.

1131
01:10:24.020 --> 01:10:25.280
If you had to plan the date,

1132
01:10:25.280 --> 01:10:26.960
if they didn't even ask for another date,

1133
01:10:26.960 --> 01:10:28.480
if you said you had a good time

1134
01:10:28.520 --> 01:10:31.360
and they didn't even text you when you got home.

1135
01:10:31.360 --> 01:10:33.640
One of the girls that's about to join this program,

1136
01:10:33.640 --> 01:10:34.680
she's on my Instagram.

1137
01:10:34.680 --> 01:10:36.360
She's like, yeah, I was seeing this guy

1138
01:10:36.360 --> 01:10:37.440
and I texted him and said,

1139
01:10:37.440 --> 01:10:40.120
oh, my car overheated and it's broke down.

1140
01:10:40.120 --> 01:10:41.660
And he didn't even answer.

1141
01:10:44.200 --> 01:10:46.400
He went to, I think maybe he said,

1142
01:10:46.400 --> 01:10:47.600
oh, that's too bad or whatever.

1143
01:10:47.600 --> 01:10:49.320
Cause he was on his way to a Bible study

1144
01:10:49.320 --> 01:10:50.760
and he went to his Bible study.

1145
01:10:50.760 --> 01:10:52.440
And at 10 o'clock at night,

1146
01:10:52.440 --> 01:10:54.120
he texted her and was just like,

1147
01:10:54.120 --> 01:10:55.840
hey, I hope everything worked out.

1148
01:10:56.680 --> 01:10:57.980
Boy, bye.

1149
01:11:00.640 --> 01:11:01.760
Bye.

1150
01:11:01.760 --> 01:11:02.800
He's not long distance.

1151
01:11:02.800 --> 01:11:03.640
He's local.

1152
01:11:03.640 --> 01:11:05.000
He's in proximity.

1153
01:11:05.000 --> 01:11:07.440
If the girl that you've taken on a couple of dates

1154
01:11:07.440 --> 01:11:11.320
tells you that her car's broke down and she's broke down

1155
01:11:11.320 --> 01:11:13.000
and you don't offer to help her

1156
01:11:13.000 --> 01:11:15.860
skip your little Bible study, that's a no.

1157
01:11:15.860 --> 01:11:17.160
It's a yes until it's a no.

1158
01:11:17.160 --> 01:11:20.240
And now it has become a big old N-O.

1159
01:11:21.320 --> 01:11:24.080
There's no second chance for that friends.

1160
01:11:24.080 --> 01:11:25.340
Cause that's a pattern.

1161
01:11:26.720 --> 01:11:28.520
That's gonna keep repeating itself.

1162
01:11:29.960 --> 01:11:34.960
That is not a masculine leader man.

1163
01:11:37.080 --> 01:11:42.080
David was just my next door neighbor and I lost my phone.

1164
01:11:42.200 --> 01:11:44.440
I lost my cell phone back in the flip phone days.

1165
01:11:44.440 --> 01:11:45.280
I had a razor phone.

1166
01:11:45.280 --> 01:11:46.680
Anyone else have a razor phone?

1167
01:11:46.680 --> 01:11:48.040
Anyone have a razor phone?

1168
01:11:49.360 --> 01:11:51.920
Those Motorola little razor, real thin little phone.

1169
01:11:51.920 --> 01:11:54.840
Anyway, my phone either quit working, I lost it.

1170
01:11:54.840 --> 01:11:55.680
I can't remember.

1171
01:11:55.680 --> 01:11:56.920
It was 20 years ago.

1172
01:11:56.920 --> 01:11:58.000
I don't remember.

1173
01:11:58.000 --> 01:12:00.080
But I do know that he wasn't dating me.

1174
01:12:00.080 --> 01:12:01.240
He wasn't my boyfriend.

1175
01:12:01.240 --> 01:12:03.340
We hadn't even acknowledged that we had any feelings

1176
01:12:03.340 --> 01:12:04.180
towards each other.

1177
01:12:04.180 --> 01:12:05.480
I don't even know if we had any feelings

1178
01:12:05.480 --> 01:12:07.320
towards each other yet.

1179
01:12:07.320 --> 01:12:10.280
But Craigslist was a thing, do you remember that?

1180
01:12:10.280 --> 01:12:12.800
Where you just went and met up with total strangers

1181
01:12:12.800 --> 01:12:15.100
off the internet to buy things from them.

1182
01:12:15.100 --> 01:12:17.800
Sounds like a scary situation.

1183
01:12:17.800 --> 01:12:19.280
And I was scared.

1184
01:12:19.280 --> 01:12:20.640
But there was person on Craigslist

1185
01:12:20.640 --> 01:12:21.820
who wanted to sell me their phone,

1186
01:12:22.720 --> 01:12:23.740
but I had to drive to their house

1187
01:12:23.740 --> 01:12:25.460
to get it or meet them somewhere.

1188
01:12:25.460 --> 01:12:28.080
And so I asked him, because he was my neighbor,

1189
01:12:28.080 --> 01:12:30.420
and we already carpooled our kids,

1190
01:12:30.420 --> 01:12:32.020
did favors for each other.

1191
01:12:32.020 --> 01:12:34.740
And I said, hey, I need to go pick up a phone.

1192
01:12:34.740 --> 01:12:36.740
I'm buying a phone from someone on Craigslist.

1193
01:12:36.740 --> 01:12:38.540
I said, I'm really scared to go by myself.

1194
01:12:38.540 --> 01:12:40.540
Would you go with me?

1195
01:12:40.540 --> 01:12:42.900
And he said, absolutely, I will take you.

1196
01:12:44.360 --> 01:12:45.560
And he took me.

1197
01:12:46.560 --> 01:12:51.560
And he was there to meet this guy and buy the phone.

1198
01:12:51.960 --> 01:12:56.200
And then on the way home, he's like, are you hungry?

1199
01:12:56.200 --> 01:12:58.760
Yes, and he stopped at a Mexican restaurant

1200
01:12:58.760 --> 01:13:00.120
and he bought me dinner.

1201
01:13:00.120 --> 01:13:01.320
He wasn't my boyfriend.

1202
01:13:02.320 --> 01:13:04.480
We weren't in a romance.

1203
01:13:04.480 --> 01:13:07.940
That's a leader man, right?

1204
01:13:11.040 --> 01:13:12.440
That's a leader man.

1205
01:13:13.600 --> 01:13:14.820
That's a real man.

1206
01:13:16.280 --> 01:13:20.600
Now, there were some other areas that he needed some work.

1207
01:13:20.600 --> 01:13:23.960
That's fine, but he continued to show

1208
01:13:23.960 --> 01:13:28.600
that type of initiative and that type of concern.

1209
01:13:28.600 --> 01:13:30.220
And that's what you're looking for.

1210
01:13:30.220 --> 01:13:33.200
That's your number one non-negotiable from now on.

1211
01:13:33.200 --> 01:13:35.080
He doesn't even get a second date

1212
01:13:35.080 --> 01:13:37.580
if he's not showing any kind of initiative,

1213
01:13:38.820 --> 01:13:42.020
any kind of leadership potential, okay?

1214
01:13:43.560 --> 01:13:44.460
Sound good?

1215
01:13:46.560 --> 01:13:49.680
All right, yay, David.

1216
01:13:49.680 --> 01:13:52.800
Ladies, God said he has Davids in the field.

1217
01:13:54.040 --> 01:13:55.920
Maybe he's talking about my David.

1218
01:13:55.920 --> 01:13:57.920
I can't tell you how many people after I gave that word

1219
01:13:57.920 --> 01:13:59.360
started marrying guys named David.

1220
01:13:59.360 --> 01:14:01.680
I'm like, okay, whatever, we'll do whatever it is

1221
01:14:01.680 --> 01:14:03.880
that we gotta do here, we'll do it.

1222
01:14:03.880 --> 01:14:05.180
Last question for tonight.

1223
01:14:05.180 --> 01:14:07.600
Can we talk about flirting and dropping the hanky

1224
01:14:07.600 --> 01:14:10.840
with guys in public in 2026?

1225
01:14:10.840 --> 01:14:15.120
Yes, but remember, we're allowed to flirt.

1226
01:14:15.720 --> 01:14:16.560
We're allowed to drop the hanky.

1227
01:14:16.560 --> 01:14:18.560
We're allowed to show interest,

1228
01:14:18.560 --> 01:14:21.160
but what happens after that is gonna show us

1229
01:14:21.160 --> 01:14:24.080
whether or not this guy has any potential

1230
01:14:24.080 --> 01:14:28.800
to be a leader in a partnership.

1231
01:14:28.800 --> 01:14:31.800
Because if he can't lead in the dating phase, you guys,

1232
01:14:31.800 --> 01:14:34.000
then he won't be able to lead a household later.

1233
01:14:34.000 --> 01:14:36.720
He's not gonna be able to, okay?

1234
01:14:36.720 --> 01:14:39.480
This is where he should be showing up the strongest,

1235
01:14:40.520 --> 01:14:43.360
and that's when he's intrigued with a woman,

1236
01:14:44.360 --> 01:14:48.600
when he's interested in a woman, okay?

1237
01:14:48.600 --> 01:14:52.720
So how can we drop the hankies with men in public?

1238
01:14:52.720 --> 01:14:55.360
The quickest and easiest ways that you can show interest

1239
01:14:55.360 --> 01:14:57.280
in a man is holding eye contact

1240
01:14:57.280 --> 01:15:00.040
for a couple seconds longer than normal and smiling.

1241
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.500
That is the easiest way that you can show contact.

1242
01:15:04.940 --> 01:15:08.540
The easiest way you can make contact and show interest.

1243
01:15:08.540 --> 01:15:10.180
So normally if you catch someone's eye,

1244
01:15:10.180 --> 01:15:11.780
most people look away immediately,

1245
01:15:11.780 --> 01:15:12.940
but if you catch his eye,

1246
01:15:12.940 --> 01:15:15.020
hold his eye for a couple seconds longer,

1247
01:15:15.020 --> 01:15:17.940
smile, give him a big smile, you know,

1248
01:15:17.940 --> 01:15:20.060
and then you can look away, all right?

1249
01:15:20.060 --> 01:15:22.540
So that's the number one thing that you can do.

1250
01:15:22.540 --> 01:15:25.740
You also can just say hi to him.

1251
01:15:27.260 --> 01:15:29.500
You can also just say hi.

1252
01:15:29.500 --> 01:15:30.980
You know, if you're in an environment

1253
01:15:30.980 --> 01:15:32.580
where people are mingling

1254
01:15:32.580 --> 01:15:33.980
and people are getting to know each other,

1255
01:15:33.980 --> 01:15:36.220
it's okay for you to walk up to him first

1256
01:15:36.220 --> 01:15:38.340
because maybe he hasn't even seen you yet.

1257
01:15:38.340 --> 01:15:41.200
And you can say, hey, hi, I'm Nora.

1258
01:15:42.340 --> 01:15:43.420
That's it.

1259
01:15:43.420 --> 01:15:45.220
Hi, I'm Nora.

1260
01:15:45.220 --> 01:15:47.860
When a woman walks up to a man and introduces herself,

1261
01:15:47.860 --> 01:15:49.220
the ball is now in his court.

1262
01:15:49.220 --> 01:15:51.740
You have shown all of the interest that you need to show,

1263
01:15:51.740 --> 01:15:55.580
especially if it's a singles event, a mixer of some kind,

1264
01:15:55.620 --> 01:15:59.860
anything that has the context of single people,

1265
01:15:59.860 --> 01:16:04.420
introducing yourself is dropping the hanky, right?

1266
01:16:04.420 --> 01:16:09.420
Men like women that are a little bit cheeky.

1267
01:16:10.500 --> 01:16:11.580
Let me put it this way.

1268
01:16:11.580 --> 01:16:16.020
Good men like women that are a little bit fun and feisty.

1269
01:16:16.020 --> 01:16:17.120
Okay?

1270
01:16:17.120 --> 01:16:20.460
So when you are talking to a stranger, you know,

1271
01:16:20.460 --> 01:16:21.940
and maybe you're talking a little bit,

1272
01:16:21.940 --> 01:16:23.340
another way you can show interest

1273
01:16:23.340 --> 01:16:26.380
is just by a little push on the shoulder,

1274
01:16:26.380 --> 01:16:30.460
a little jab, a little kind of funny situation

1275
01:16:30.460 --> 01:16:32.320
in the conversation.

1276
01:16:33.700 --> 01:16:36.660
You know, if you're quick-witted,

1277
01:16:36.660 --> 01:16:38.940
which Nora definitely is a quick-witted woman.

1278
01:16:38.940 --> 01:16:40.060
If you're quick-witted, you know,

1279
01:16:40.060 --> 01:16:42.980
you can say something a little sarcastic.

1280
01:16:42.980 --> 01:16:44.180
That's called flirting.

1281
01:16:45.160 --> 01:16:48.940
Not mean, not underhanded,

1282
01:16:48.940 --> 01:16:51.620
not something that's gonna cause him to have low,

1283
01:16:51.620 --> 01:16:53.340
you know, low self-esteem reaction,

1284
01:16:53.340 --> 01:16:56.560
but something that's just a little bit cute.

1285
01:16:58.280 --> 01:16:59.120
Right?

1286
01:17:03.820 --> 01:17:05.500
And some of you are just bold women.

1287
01:17:05.500 --> 01:17:07.900
And if you wanna be bold, you can be bold.

1288
01:17:07.900 --> 01:17:12.540
I think that the initial meeting has nothing to do

1289
01:17:12.540 --> 01:17:14.700
with whether or not this man will initiate.

1290
01:17:15.880 --> 01:17:18.180
I don't feel like that has anything to do with it.

1291
01:17:18.180 --> 01:17:20.580
In your initial meeting, okay?

1292
01:17:20.580 --> 01:17:21.820
Whatever that looks like.

1293
01:17:21.820 --> 01:17:23.660
And so if you want to, you know,

1294
01:17:23.660 --> 01:17:25.620
make it beyond a shadow of a doubt

1295
01:17:25.620 --> 01:17:27.460
that you're interested in him,

1296
01:17:27.460 --> 01:17:29.060
and you wanna say something really bold,

1297
01:17:29.060 --> 01:17:31.340
like, hey, if you asked me out, I'd say yes,

1298
01:17:32.420 --> 01:17:33.260
go ahead for it.

1299
01:17:33.260 --> 01:17:34.460
I did that with David.

1300
01:17:34.460 --> 01:17:37.300
When I finally knew that I was interested, I was bold.

1301
01:17:40.580 --> 01:17:42.220
But then he showed up from there.

1302
01:17:44.260 --> 01:17:46.780
And sometimes if you're guys with us, with neighbors,

1303
01:17:46.780 --> 01:17:48.100
and with our kids and everything,

1304
01:17:48.940 --> 01:17:49.780
sometimes people don't want to,

1305
01:17:49.780 --> 01:17:51.180
men don't wanna shoot their shot

1306
01:17:51.180 --> 01:17:53.100
unless they really know you're interested,

1307
01:17:53.100 --> 01:17:55.180
because then they still have to live next to you.

1308
01:17:55.180 --> 01:17:57.540
They still have to carpool kids with you.

1309
01:17:57.540 --> 01:17:58.860
You know, if it's someone at work,

1310
01:17:58.860 --> 01:17:59.780
they still have to work with you.

1311
01:17:59.780 --> 01:18:00.660
If it's someone at church,

1312
01:18:00.660 --> 01:18:01.820
they still have to go to church with you.

1313
01:18:01.820 --> 01:18:04.300
So they wanna be really, really sure

1314
01:18:04.300 --> 01:18:06.620
that you actually like, you know,

1315
01:18:06.620 --> 01:18:08.700
want to say yes to them, right?

1316
01:18:08.700 --> 01:18:10.740
And so you may need to be a little bit more bold

1317
01:18:10.740 --> 01:18:15.020
with someone that is like a friend or an acquaintance

1318
01:18:15.020 --> 01:18:17.820
in a context where you guys see each other a lot.

1319
01:18:18.660 --> 01:18:21.260
You may have to be a little bit bolder

1320
01:18:21.260 --> 01:18:24.940
because like Megan said, it does feel riskier.

1321
01:18:24.940 --> 01:18:26.620
Feels a little riskier for them.

1322
01:18:26.620 --> 01:18:27.620
They just wanna be sure.

1323
01:18:27.620 --> 01:18:28.460
They wanna make sure

1324
01:18:28.460 --> 01:18:31.140
that they're not reading the signs wrong, okay?

1325
01:18:32.420 --> 01:18:35.820
All right, all right, all right.

1326
01:18:35.820 --> 01:18:37.900
Okay, you guys, I had fun tonight.

1327
01:18:37.900 --> 01:18:39.300
I hope you guys had fun tonight.

1328
01:18:39.300 --> 01:18:42.020
We're gonna do this at least once a month.

1329
01:18:42.020 --> 01:18:45.020
For phase three, which is all of you guys are in phase three,

1330
01:18:45.020 --> 01:18:47.340
which is VIP community, that's what the name of it is now.

1331
01:18:47.860 --> 01:18:49.020
We're gonna do a lot more coaching.

1332
01:18:49.020 --> 01:18:51.260
Whatever has you stuck, we want you to get unstuck.

1333
01:18:51.260 --> 01:18:52.860
So the calendar is gonna look a little different.

1334
01:18:52.860 --> 01:18:54.780
It's gonna be less social activities.

1335
01:18:54.780 --> 01:18:56.260
We're still gonna do single spotlights.

1336
01:18:56.260 --> 01:18:58.580
In fact, I'm gonna start spotlighting a lot of single men

1337
01:18:58.580 --> 01:19:00.060
that are not in our community.

1338
01:19:00.980 --> 01:19:03.460
I'm gonna actually launch my podcast,

1339
01:19:03.460 --> 01:19:04.940
which is gonna be more of like

1340
01:19:04.940 --> 01:19:06.900
just a glorified single spotlight.

1341
01:19:06.900 --> 01:19:08.340
And the men that I spotlight,

1342
01:19:08.340 --> 01:19:09.700
no matter where I spotlight them,

1343
01:19:09.700 --> 01:19:11.580
whether it's in here on a Zoom

1344
01:19:11.580 --> 01:19:16.060
or whether it's on my Instagram or on my podcast,

1345
01:19:16.060 --> 01:19:17.260
the women in this community

1346
01:19:17.260 --> 01:19:20.220
will have first dibs at introductions.

1347
01:19:20.220 --> 01:19:22.660
Now we're not gonna hold them back from their spirit mate

1348
01:19:22.660 --> 01:19:24.820
if it's not one of y'all, okay?

1349
01:19:24.820 --> 01:19:28.180
If it becomes apparent that someone else from the outside

1350
01:19:28.180 --> 01:19:29.700
really should be introduced to them,

1351
01:19:29.700 --> 01:19:30.900
then of course we'll do it.

1352
01:19:30.900 --> 01:19:33.060
But we are going to exhaust our resources

1353
01:19:33.060 --> 01:19:35.620
within the community first, okay?

1354
01:19:35.620 --> 01:19:36.980
So just so you know.

1355
01:19:36.980 --> 01:19:38.660
But we will still have single spotlight.

1356
01:19:38.660 --> 01:19:41.140
We still will still have an occasional love story

1357
01:19:41.140 --> 01:19:44.100
to keep your faith high.

1358
01:19:44.100 --> 01:19:45.460
We'll do other things.

1359
01:19:45.500 --> 01:19:46.900
We'll have some guest speakers

1360
01:19:46.900 --> 01:19:48.020
and some different people come in,

1361
01:19:48.020 --> 01:19:49.700
but we're gonna do a lot of coaching.

1362
01:19:49.700 --> 01:19:51.380
We're gonna do a lot of specific coaching.

1363
01:19:51.380 --> 01:19:53.180
We're gonna do a lot of helping you get ready

1364
01:19:53.180 --> 01:19:55.820
for specific situations that are coming in the future

1365
01:19:55.820 --> 01:19:57.620
in these relationships.

1366
01:19:57.620 --> 01:19:59.500
You know, things that you're gonna have to overcome

1367
01:19:59.500 --> 01:20:00.340
because.

1368
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:03.360
you know, your love story is going to require you to overcome those things,

1369
01:20:03.680 --> 01:20:05.840
whether it be your age, whether it be being divorced,

1370
01:20:05.840 --> 01:20:07.840
marrying someone who's divorced by this blended family,

1371
01:20:07.840 --> 01:20:10.440
whether it's some physical situation that you're dealing with,

1372
01:20:10.640 --> 01:20:13.240
whether it's overcoming, um, you know,

1373
01:20:13.240 --> 01:20:16.440
past abuse and really trusting people. It doesn't matter what it is.

1374
01:20:16.720 --> 01:20:19.720
We're going to be coaching because it is time.

1375
01:20:19.880 --> 01:20:22.280
We do lots of coaching in phase one and phase two.

1376
01:20:22.480 --> 01:20:25.680
And then phase three is just turn into social hour. No,

1377
01:20:25.960 --> 01:20:28.120
we want you guys to continue the burn,

1378
01:20:28.120 --> 01:20:30.600
continue to get free and continue to have success.

1379
01:20:31.040 --> 01:20:33.360
And so we were going to do some small group coaching,

1380
01:20:33.360 --> 01:20:36.640
some larger group coaching, some very specific coaching.

1381
01:20:36.960 --> 01:20:40.160
So I hope you're excited about that. Starting with February's calendar,

1382
01:20:40.480 --> 01:20:44.320
we're going to see all those changes start to pop on there. All right.

1383
01:20:44.480 --> 01:20:46.200
2026 y'all this is your year.

1384
01:20:46.240 --> 01:20:49.400
There's no reason why it can't be your year and not just for love,

1385
01:20:49.400 --> 01:20:52.320
but for all kinds of breakthrough that you've been waiting on for so long,

1386
01:20:53.880 --> 01:20:55.800
go ahead and claim it, go ahead and say it,

1387
01:20:56.160 --> 01:20:59.920
go ahead and say that it's going to happen for you and then be willing to show

1388
01:20:59.920 --> 01:21:04.800
up and do the work to get it, whatever that thing is. All right. All right.

1389
01:21:06.960 --> 01:21:11.120
Okay. Oh, one more thing. We are announcing Austin retreat.

1390
01:21:11.160 --> 01:21:14.960
We're going to be announcing the dates. Um, probably the end of next week,

1391
01:21:15.120 --> 01:21:17.520
you guys, we're not going to cap it this time.

1392
01:21:17.760 --> 01:21:19.440
We're going to actually be using a hotel.

1393
01:21:19.440 --> 01:21:24.360
That's a really cool Texas hotel kind of very Austinite kind of situation.

1394
01:21:24.720 --> 01:21:27.840
And we're going to be using the spaces in there because it's going to coincide

1395
01:21:28.000 --> 01:21:30.720
with a singles conference. So Austin retreat,

1396
01:21:31.000 --> 01:21:33.720
and then singles conference after it, like this year we did Austin's richer,

1397
01:21:33.760 --> 01:21:36.000
Austin retreat. And then we did a party this year.

1398
01:21:36.000 --> 01:21:38.880
We're going to do like a singles thing. We're going to do a conference.

1399
01:21:38.880 --> 01:21:41.280
We're going to do it a whole shish boom, bam thing.

1400
01:21:41.600 --> 01:21:44.280
And we're going to have a really cool retreat where as many people,

1401
01:21:44.440 --> 01:21:47.080
probably as many people as want to come to it can.

1402
01:21:47.400 --> 01:21:51.120
So if you miss that on the Austin retreat and you really wanted to come this

1403
01:21:51.120 --> 01:21:53.920
year is going to be better than ever. Okay.

1404
01:21:53.920 --> 01:21:56.520
And then we're going to, we're going to release our other retreats for the year

1405
01:21:56.520 --> 01:21:59.520
as well. I don't think we're going back to Columbia again this year.

1406
01:21:59.520 --> 01:22:01.040
This would be our third year in Columbia,

1407
01:22:01.280 --> 01:22:04.840
but there's a good chance we're going to Costa Rica. Okay.

1408
01:22:04.840 --> 01:22:07.000
So if you ever wanted to go to Costa Rica,

1409
01:22:07.040 --> 01:22:12.040
then keep your ears and eyes open for that. And yeah,

1410
01:22:12.960 --> 01:22:17.760
we'll be releasing the whole list of retreat dates here. Um, really soon.

1411
01:22:18.160 --> 01:22:20.200
All right. See you soon guys. Love you. Bye-bye.