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I'm making a post right now.

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Oh, thank you. That's amazing.

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A lot of people are on that other call. I just left early.

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Oh, after that, like, Michaela was getting her question answered.

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And Carrie and Sean were there.

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Okay, cool. How did the call go?

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I mean, it's like a nuts and bolts thing. So probably the people who asked the questions got what they needed.

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Okay, cool.

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Well, hi, Carrie.

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Is your snow starting to melt at all?

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Yeah, finally. It's like 30. It's above freezing today for the first time in weeks.

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It's fine.

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That's fine.

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No, that's awesome. It's like sunny here. It's like almost going to be in the 60s. It's like there's the bipolar Ohio I was waiting on.

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Oh, my gosh. No, we're nowhere near that. We're just above freezing. We're like 38 degrees.

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Yeah, you guys definitely are a little bit different than Ohio. So it's definitely a little bit cooler.

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Well, let's, um, let's dive in to this amazing book. Did you all? Oh, hey, Margo. I didn't even see you there.

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Hi. Oh, it's five degrees there. That's terrible.

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Sorry, I'm just re repositioning myself to a different desk. Yeah, it's freezing and super snowy. And it just snowed. I'm at home today because it snowed more this morning. And I was like, I'm not driving into the office.

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Yeah, I am.

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God, when the sun is out, I'm just happier. I don't know about y'all. I mean, I've always been somebody who I've lived with, like all four seasons like this majority of my life.

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But there's something about the sun this year that I just really need right now in the winter.

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So praise God for the sun. It's a new day. We are all alive. We all have amazing things ahead. All right, Chrissy, amazing things are ahead of you. Carrie, amazing things. Margo, amazing things in your business and in your life.

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And a lot of life. I was really thinking about how it really is just day by day, step by step, decision by decision. Right. And the scaling book really has, you know, is a different way of thinking. It's a truly a different way of looking at time. And so this chapter, did you guys all read it?

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I don't think I'm totally caught up because I just started the book this weekend, but.

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Okay. Did you get through chapter two? Do you know?

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I think I'm still on. I'm actually listening. So I think I'm still on chapter one, but that's okay. I'll catch up.

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All right. Well, we will, for those of us who did read it or have anything they want to share, we're going to just talk a little bit about chapter two. I believe it's called compress your time. Is that correct? Okay.

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So I think this chapter is really powerful and valuable for our community and how we talk a lot about time and like how to look at time. And yeah. So Christy, you want to start us off? Anything pop out at you or anything was like, wow, that or challenge you?

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Yeah, I'll be above one thing. I think the first thing that popped out was, I don't know. I just felt like he was going to go into some like magic number of like how much time you should allot to this like big goal that you're setting. And then he didn't.

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He did not.

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I was like very like thinking that the first introduction and first chapter was like sign of hope.

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foreshadowing there was going to be a magic three-year time point for it.

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And I was super comfortable with that.

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And then he didn't say three years, he was like, half your timeline.

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Or what if you did it in 12 to 18 months?

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I was like, oh, whoa, that was not the time I was mentally prepared for you to be putting

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on my goal, since I haven't even identified the goal yet.

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And so yeah, yeah, that was it was kind of really thought provoking in that way.

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I don't.

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I don't know.

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You know, he gave these like, five steps to scale by Elon Musk, which is not my favorite

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But it says something like, remove parts or process steps do not optimize a thing that

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should not exist.

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That's like kind of key for me.

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Because I'll do these like, tiered structures as like a safety net, where I will make a

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strategy and a plan to like, get me to where I want to go.

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And there's like all these building blocks, which I think Corinne talked a lot about yesterday.

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And like building blocks.

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And then you know, in chapter two, they're like, take away those building blocks, take

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away everything that doesn't need to be there.

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And then like, you know, how do you get to where you where you want to be?

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And so yeah, it's it's like circling in my head.

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Yeah, no, that's great.

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That is fantastic.

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So I want to add on to that he because he basically this was where he was looking at.

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Hold on, I wrote some notes here.

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He said, looking at time as a tool.

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And that I think is why, because if you think about it, Christy, the reason why you were

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waiting for him to give like, okay, in the next three years, we're going to break, we're

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going to work backwards from three years.

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And in this month, you do this and then this six months and then in this year, but he doesn't

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He talks about how that's a linear way of looking at time.

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And I just had a mindset call on another community about this very topic last night.

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And I was like, we are just conditioned and we know how to look at time linear from a

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There's also a spiritual component where time is not actually linear or or a tool.

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It's like God works outside of even like our 24 hour clock time.

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But what he really talks about in this chapter is how do I use it as a tool?

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Like how do I leverage time?

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How do I, you know, look at it from a just not linear?

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Do you have anything to add to that?

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Or even Carrier Margo, if you're like having any thoughts about this whole, his big concept

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was like, time is your tool.

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Let's not do this by this date, even though he did talk about deadlines.

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Yeah, he definitely like hinted at that, like I'm still I was just looking at where I'm

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I'm still in the first chapter.

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And he definitely hinted at that when he was giving like examples and testimonials of other

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people's success.

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like timeline up so much, not he make me but like, that's the part of the framework, right?

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Like you tighten it up so much that it's not possible.

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And you have to think like, way outside the box.

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And I was just chatting with Gabby in a meeting with her about like, time is one of those

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things that has always been a barrier for me, I work a full time job, I have two kids,

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I have lots of like other commitments.

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And the thing that always kind of falls off has always been my business.

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And I want to change that story.

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And I think part of the problem is that I continue to think about time in a linear way.

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Like I only have this many minutes, I only have this many hours in a day.

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What if I could like, move beyond that linear timeline and like find a way to scale or find

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and find a way to like exponentially grow, which was some of the examples, right?

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Like connecting with someone, I forget this, it was like a software company or something,

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but connecting with someone to access their network or their contacts.

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So you don't have to make all of those individual calls yourself.

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So I feel like this is probably an area that I need to spend some time because I will constantly

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say that I don't have enough time.

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I'm always working on like reorganizing my schedule or cutting some things that cutting

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some fat off that I don't need, or like, you know, being more specific with my scheduling,

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but maybe I'm not.

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I just need to think like, wait, outside the box.

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So I'm excited to get a little bit more into it.

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No, that's a lot.

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Yeah, I think that that's what I started by saying

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is like, stop optimizing for things that don't matter.

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It's like you're saying, like you're spinning your wheels,

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you're spending time on it,

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but are you actually doing the stuff

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that actually makes the difference or not?

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And that was like kind of mind blowing

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because like constantly busy,

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but like that 27 minutes it takes me

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to like pack a Shopify order

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and take it over to the UPS store to drop it off.

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It's not good 27 minutes spent.

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You know, I could just pay an extra dollar

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and have Amazon do it on my behalf.

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than my 27 minutes.

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And it's like, you're saying Margo,

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you've already optimized your schedule.

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You've already trimmed your fat.

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but honestly, I'm not actually sure that I really have

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if I continue to kind of like go back into default mode

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of like, well, like I can do this.

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just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

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We default to what's comfortable too, right?

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So we've been doing something as long as we have,

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you know, however many years we've been alive,

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this is the way that I've done it.

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It's so easy, especially when you're met

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with something that's big or scary,

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so easy to default and just do.

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Like sometimes when I'm really overwhelmed with life,

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I go do laundry because laundry is predictable

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and I can just wash the clothes, fold the clothes

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and put the clothes away.

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because I did something,

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but I didn't do anything of value like for my business

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or whatever, right?

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I just like did some chores.

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we were talking about chapter one of Atomic Habits,

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we're reading Atomic Habits.

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results get delayed if you try to do it linearly

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because the habits stack.

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where it's like, you're forming your habit

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and you're doing your reps.

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because now the habit is like ingrained and taking off.

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systems are about process.

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The goals are about setting a direction

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where the systems are best for making actual progress.

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that like Atomic Habits first chapter

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and this like second chapter of Compressing Time,

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where he talks a lot about systems developments

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and like, what are you doing?

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How are you doing it?

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Are you doing things that don't matter?

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like that are gonna move the needle?

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where I'm sitting this week is like,

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I need to go through and like look at all of my systems

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and processes and it's like, okay, I've identified that,

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shipping these Shopify orders are a waste of my time.

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So I'm gonna like put the MCF thing through today,

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but like what other processes am I doing that in the end

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or need to be optimized outside of myself

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and automated potentially, et cetera.

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No, that's really good.

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I think it kind of this whole idea of compressing time

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in the chapter he talked about how he put off

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the end of his PhD and he had put it off for so long

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and his wife actually went to him and was like,

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hey, I can tell that this is like really upsetting you

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and like, there's like this cloud over you.

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and he finished his PhD in three weeks.

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Like he just finished what was left in three weeks

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that he had been waiting for a while on.

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And now there was a sacrifice, a cost to that,

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but there was also was a cost to continually putting it off.

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And correct me if I'm wrong, Christie or Gabby

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or whoever else read chapter two.

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Didn't he mention like,

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if you had a gun held up to your head

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and you had to do something,

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like all of a sudden like it would get done.

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You'd figure out a way.

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You would figure out a way.

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And I've heard that, I don't know about you all,

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if you've heard this before,

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Christians say stuff like this too.

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At church I've heard it like,

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if your wife was threatened

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or your kids were threatened in front of your face,

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like you would go do that thing.

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immediately right like kind of this idea of like if the pressure's there or the like the cost is

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right in front of your face like i'm willing to do things but i i don't know about you guys but

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for me i still kind of struggle with those kind of examples because it's not my reality

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and i'm like man okay how do i create a timeline so accelerated

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so a goal so impossible without having a gun pointed at my head

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like what's it gonna take how do i do something like that do you guys

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it's kind of an open question if you guys have any thoughts about it but that was like a thought

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that kept coming up to me like

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i'm cool though because part of i'd like to be i'd like to have a million dollars in my

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in my um i don't even remember what they're called in my investments like my one of my big

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goals is to have a million dollars in my investment portfolio by the age of 40

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and that's three years and two months and that's about 800 000 maybe 850 000 dollars like by that

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time is like the amount of money i'm talking about and i'm like that's impossible i don't have a gun

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to my head i'll be fine at 40 if i don't if i don't actually do it do you guys know what i mean

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like yeah do you want real estate you include real estate in your investment portfolio the value of

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the real estate that you own so if i did then my goal would be five hundred thousand dollars

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you need five hundred thousand dollars or you need to buy a couple more houses i would need

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to buy a couple more houses and get my business going and and it but but this is the whole idea

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it's forcing i'm like i'll just do 45 like the extending the timeline he literally says if a

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timeline is long it's wrong he just said yeah ouch that's like an elon musk quote for sure i know

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so any thoughts on that or what are you guys where are you guys at with that

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yeah i do so my first thought is like is it tied to a powerful enough why your goal because to me

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like an easy one for me to think about is like my relationship with my kids so because that

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has a very real time limit like timeline like they will be out of my care in a limited amount

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of time my influence over them is going to go away quickly and their desire for my influence over them

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is also going to go away quickly so for me one thing that's really important is and it's probably

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a bit of an idol is like i'm everything i do is to keep open communication with my kids because

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my parents didn't do that and it's like i feel like if i can always have open communication

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then we can always have some semblance of a healthier relationship at least that's kind of

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like a like we need that to happen at least to build off of and so to me my decisions around

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like how i spend my time with my kids how we parent is all the pressure comes from there's

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limited time and it like sometimes yeah i want to go hang out with my friend megan and go on a walk

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i want to go uh hang out with this other person even though maybe i already hung out with somebody

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else this week and like not to say that that's not good for me to do but there's limits to that

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um because the more i'm away the cost is i'm not uh setting uh

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like i'm not building upon the relationship with my kids right by being present um and so for me

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that timeline with this really powerful why is what forces not forces is such a negative

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connotation but really pushes me to evaluate what decision i'm making in the here and now

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so to me i'm like hey if i have a financial goal like and sometimes this is hard so when like

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i'm not money driven i'm not money motivated i'm definitely purpose driven and purpose

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Motivated. So for me, it's like I've got to find the why

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behind the

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It has to have like a serious purpose a serious impact

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otherwise, it's it's not gonna push me enough like it's not going to and

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Honestly guys like I know I've mentioned to I think all of you have heard this like I was pushed to a very extreme point

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Financially for me to be willing to apply for a job. There was literally no other option

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We could not we had no credit availability could not apply for any couldn't pay our credit card

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But like we couldn't pay things

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For me to then give up some comfort that I had with like being present with my kids

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And I know I'm rambling a little bit, but I'm just like sharing off-the-cuff here

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Like

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so to me that money motivation

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To get the job was associated with I can't give my kids extra my kids have never been extra cruising activities

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I we can't even go take a vacation

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We can't even go out to eat more than to raisin canes once a week like these things that like I want to give them

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because I want to be a good parent the way that I have a good father and

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It was just like I had to be worked down like okay, I'm not money motivated

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But I need the money to make this purpose happen. I

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Don't know like I know I'm a little bit on my soapbox, and I'm just like

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Going but like that's just a to me like is your why powerful enough?

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Yeah, I think that's a great question

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Yeah, I think it also impacts your timeline too because like as you're making a decision

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Like what would it take for me to cut this timeline in half like

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You might not be willing to sacrifice what it would take to cut that timeline in half. You know it's good I

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Think I said like last week on this call. It's like I gave up a lot of volunteering at my kids schools

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to do more of the business things and

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I'm not even sure that that really aligns with who I want to be a long-term. You know in the short term

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Maybe but I don't think I would compress a timeline that would prevent me from being

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present in that environment and like

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Complementing what they're already learning at the school with my perspective as well

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Yeah, that's a really good point I think

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That's definitely something to keep in mind

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But then something else like that I like I'm my example earlier with like this feels like a lot

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I'm gonna go do the laundry like I

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Will constantly if I feel like I'm so if I choose a timeline and then I

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What are we saying accelerate that timeline?

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Yeah, picking a timeline that feels almost impossible

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Yeah, so I feel like that's gonna create like a story for me

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And then I'm gonna be overwhelmed and then I'm gonna go find other things to do so

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Something and I I kind of have worked with this a little bit in the network marketing space

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Which is where I come from and something that they teach is like sometimes the dishes don't get that

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Sometimes the laundry doesn't get that

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Sometimes the laundry doesn't get done

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So like similar to what you're saying Christy

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But kind of in a different vein like instead of giving up things that provide you with like that you find valuable or that bring

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Benefit to your life like there's probably things that we can

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Be less worried about I don't want to say that you never have to do the laundry because like you do have to have

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Clean clothes to wear but like there's things like that that we make that's my example because I like doing laundry

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but like there's things like that that we make it into like a big deal and it has to be done and it's like if

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You don't do the laundry today and somebody has to wear a pair of pants that they wore three days ago

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Like who's gonna die? Like there's the gun who's gonna die? No one's gonna die

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Don't do the laundry and spend an hour working on your business or spend an hour diving into some like deep work or something like

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that so that's kind of like a

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Tip or a technique that I learned in the network marketing space, which I'm trying to apply to this

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Business that I'm brand development that I'm now on

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So much so that I'm taking a six month leave of absence from my full full-time job

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So I can cut out one of those big chunks of things that like is in my way

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Cuz I'm constantly like butting up against it

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So as much as we don't want to give up those things that are really we're really passionate about or we're really that are really

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Valuable or that bring us like immense joy

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There's probably things that we can cut or reduce or worry less about

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that would free up lots of time and a

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Part of that, I would argue, is having someone in your life who will help you.

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Doesn't have to be a partner, could be a friend, could be a parent, could be a

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cousin, could be someone who knows and believes in the goal that you're

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driving towards. And like, asking for help, which is also something that's

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really hard for me to do, but something I am practicing

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constantly. Like, I can't, I don't have time. Like,

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my kids are teen, pre-teens and teens, so I'm starting to be like, guys, I have

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work to do tonight, I need you to clean up the kitchen after dinner, which is

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like, like, really hard for me to do. But I'm

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trying to create more space and time and, like, worry less

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about the things that don't actually matter.

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Yeah. Another little rant. No, that's good.

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We're talking about, sorry, we're talking about chapter two today,

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right? Yeah, about time, like, how he uses time as a tool.

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And yeah, he talked, so we kind of just talked about, like,

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that was really great, like, talking about the why, talking about,

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you know, like, why would I even want to compress my time as it is,

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right? Like, it's a good thing to think through.

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And I'm noticing he, you know, he's speaking to a lot of

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people who already have a business that's

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going, but I think it's a limiting belief to

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keep, to think it's not for us, because what he's teaching can, like,

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literally 10x, I think, any business at any point in time,

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even in our own lives. And he said, he said this, he said,

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make a deadline so pressing that it feels impossible.

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So I'm over here, when I heard that, I immediately was, like, stressed.

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I feel stressed. I feel anxiety in my body. I don't know if anyone else did, but

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I was like, oh lord. And, but then he was, like, actually

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talking about how people don't get stressed and don't get anxious, because

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it actually is, that way of thinking is the way that actually helps you save

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your energy, save your resources, and actually get, like, this super hyper

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focus. And it actually, it, I think if we could get past the

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stress and anxiety, because he says that a lot of people, like, respond that way,

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but it's actually, this is the way to, to seeing the other side of that. And he

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says, then he said this, and I want to hear your guys' thoughts or, or if you

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have anything else to add, but, like, he's, like, write down your big goal,

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which we've kind of been talking about these big goals. He said, now, what if you

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only had three years to do it? Now, what if you only had 12 to 18 months

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to do it?

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Exactly, Margot.

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I held back the sound that went with that.

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That is literally the premise of this chapter. And looking at time as a tool,

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not a linear, I have to do this by this amount of time. And so he used this

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example of this man, who was like, he had all these amazing port, like,

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portfolios, these homes in the UK, and what he really wanted to do was, like,

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sell them all, be more, spend more time with his wife, and get his coaching

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business going. And he was like, you know, Ben asked him, how many years do you see

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yourself doing that? He's like, you know, by the time I'm like, 66, or 65, which

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gave him like 11 years. So his big goal, he was like, that's going to take me 11

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years. And then Ben was like, well, what if it took you three? And then what if it

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took you 12 to 18? And this man completed his goal in a year, his 11 year goal, he

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did it in one. And he said he was the happiest he's been. He lost 10 pounds,

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like him and his wife were thriving. And he was what 50 that would have put him at

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54. So he did his goal was like mid 60s. And then like at 55. He's like, then I have

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all this time to like write a book and like actually build my coaching business. And like,

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all of that next 10 years was able to be put towards this second like, idea that he had.

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And it just blows my mind, y'all. I mean, of course, I don't have that kind of portfolio.

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I'm not married. I'm not there yet. But where am I then in my life right now?

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Right? Like, what can I

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leverage if I was real he talks this about this a lot you guys he talks about being honest and

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rigorous with myself with ourselves yeah what could we do what could actually be possible

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so I don't know if you guys have any thoughts about that or yeah I loved when he was talking

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about like time as a tool because what made me laugh is when he was telling the story and he's

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like okay what if you had to do it in a year and it's like they almost get offended that he would

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ask and I'm like why get offended why like there's just like each person probably has their

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own individual belief that comes up right when they get asked that you know whatever it is that

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they think they can't or they say they're afraid of failure or whatever and they're like offended

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that you would even ask them to step into whatever that fear the reality of that fear in your mind is

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but it's so good like tool like time is such a tool because um

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if you steward it well

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then I think that by nature is going to remove the things that are noisy

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and one thing I will say that I'm thankful for like having gone many years without a lot

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financially is that I learned wow there's a lot of things that people say they have to do

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where they need and I'm like I'm going without what are you talking about you have to do this

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you need to do that you need that thing and so I have a very clear I feel like a very clear

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a very clear vision and discernment over needs and haves and I'm able to see how people make

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themselves too busy with things too much this too much that and I'm like you're just distracting

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yourself from your own goals your own things that you actually want you really are yeah

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Margaret and I were just talking about our call before this and and we and in America it's

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particularly bad so we have a serious hustle culture very serious and I'm like okay I'm like

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well while you want to go over there and juggle all these things in your life and complain about

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how you can't get to where you want to go you go over there I'm going to go over here and not listen

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to you because it's annoying I don't know so like to me the timeline thing is good and what I'm super

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excited for is that I started getting into chapter three because there's a combination of using time

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as a tool and we I'm just gonna be a little spoiler and changing your floor because it's like

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what are we willing to settle with that's our floor and that is connected to worth that's

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connected to vision that's connected to why that's connected to why in the world do I wake up and go

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about my days yeah totally I'm just laughing because I'm like oh my god this is me

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my worth is a big part of my

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limit anyways we don't need that's what we're talking about today we don't need to get into that

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but you're not alone Margot yeah I know um but I love it when stuff like this comes up

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the other thing I was gonna say I don't know if it's kind of it feels like an extension of what

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Gabby was saying I'm not sure if it actually is you guys decide um the other thing about like

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this whole time concept is we're so used to it being linear that's you know like you get up

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a certain time you go to school or work at a certain time you have this many hours in the

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day that you're at school you whatever that's just what we have been brought up accustomed to

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and if we are looking at drastically I'm gonna say reducing but it's also like accelerating that

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timeline and that feels big and scary like part of the benefit of that is that it feels big and

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scary and that's going back to that gun analogy it's like that's it makes you go like I could

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never but it also makes you go but what if I could and then I think that's where the growth happens

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right like that but what if I could how that's the how can I mentality also like

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I think some people go there and they're like that's not possible and they walk away and they

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never revisit but I agree people that will sit in that discomfort will find a way and they will

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grow their business will grow so I think that that's also part of it it's just the idea of

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it being so big and impossible is that it's stretching you to like something that you

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haven't done yet or someone someone that you haven't been yet which is a big part of like

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reaching those crazy big goals.

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I think that's why he asked, like, at the end of the chapter, are you willing to be

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that honest and rigorous with yourself?

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Because when I heard that question, I was like, nope, I'm not.

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00:35:11.760 --> 00:35:17.880
I'm not ready to be that honest with myself, but I need to put something down.

442
00:35:17.880 --> 00:35:23.640
It's like, I'm just still, like, that stubborn, like, holding onto it.

443
00:35:23.640 --> 00:35:28.040
Awareness is the first step, though.

444
00:35:29.040 --> 00:35:32.280
It's good to be aware, and sometimes we just have to sit.

445
00:35:32.280 --> 00:35:37.840
We all have our own timeline, too, to sit with that kind of awareness, you know, and

446
00:35:37.840 --> 00:35:43.000
it's like, okay, like, for right now, this is my floor, so this is what I'm okay with.

447
00:35:43.000 --> 00:35:47.080
But enough pressure will get put on at some point that our floor gets forced to change.

448
00:35:47.080 --> 00:35:52.240
I guess I'll just, like, queue up that chapter, and I'll listen to it right after we get off

449
00:35:52.240 --> 00:35:53.240
this call.

450
00:35:53.240 --> 00:35:57.440
I've only gotten through half of it, and I'm like, this is good.

451
00:35:57.960 --> 00:36:06.360
I believe every person on this call, specifically, is on the precipice of a breakthrough, like,

452
00:36:06.360 --> 00:36:13.720
something that you're going to literally, like, break through something in your personal

453
00:36:13.720 --> 00:36:16.640
life and then in your business.

454
00:36:16.640 --> 00:36:22.880
I believe that, and I believe that this book is very specifically on purpose for our group

455
00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:24.680
for this time, Carrie.

456
00:36:24.920 --> 00:36:31.920
Listen, you can always remember, you can always remember the breakdown precedes the breakthrough.

457
00:36:31.920 --> 00:36:32.920
Always.

458
00:36:32.920 --> 00:36:33.920
Always.

459
00:36:33.920 --> 00:36:34.920
Okay, girl?

460
00:36:34.920 --> 00:36:44.040
And also, Ben Hardy, that's his name, no, no, that's his name, right, the guy who wrote

461
00:36:44.040 --> 00:36:45.040
this book?

462
00:36:45.040 --> 00:36:46.040
Okay.

463
00:36:46.040 --> 00:36:49.920
He teams up with Dan Sullivan, that's the other guy he writes with.

464
00:36:49.960 --> 00:36:56.400
I really believe God has raised him up in such a time as this to be a leader to our

465
00:36:56.400 --> 00:37:00.880
generation and to this world, because he truly is a leading thought.

466
00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:06.520
He's a thought leader in how to scale and how to think differently about business and

467
00:37:06.520 --> 00:37:08.000
about life.

468
00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:14.520
Mind you, he is a man who loves God, who loves his family, and his business comes third.

469
00:37:14.520 --> 00:37:18.400
He is a family-first entrepreneur, I don't know if you guys knew that.

470
00:37:18.400 --> 00:37:23.800
And he literally has built, he has five kids, and they foster children, and they've adopted

471
00:37:23.800 --> 00:37:25.680
children.

472
00:37:25.680 --> 00:37:32.560
And that's what I just, I just believe, like, not that we all have to have those type of

473
00:37:32.560 --> 00:37:38.560
priorities, it's the simple fact that I actually believe he's trying to teach us how to not

474
00:37:38.560 --> 00:37:46.800
be in the hustle culture, and still build, and still have this kind of wealth, and still

475
00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:48.000
have families.

476
00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:51.800
Like, every one of you on this call have a family, right?

477
00:37:51.800 --> 00:37:59.720
And I do think a lot of people use their families as excuses as to not build and not create.

478
00:37:59.720 --> 00:38:05.520
And so let's also keep that in mind, that I do think this is a revolutionary way of

479
00:38:05.520 --> 00:38:07.040
how to scale.

480
00:38:07.040 --> 00:38:10.520
And we literally are like seeing it beneath our eyes happen.

481
00:38:10.520 --> 00:38:14.920
Like he just came out with this book, he just created like this group coaching program for

482
00:38:14.920 --> 00:38:16.560
his own scaling network.

483
00:38:17.320 --> 00:38:22.560
I mean, he's been working with people for thousands of people, but now just like us

484
00:38:22.560 --> 00:38:26.600
getting a chance to like read it in a book.

485
00:38:26.600 --> 00:38:33.720
And so I just wanted to say that, you know, we can also take and leave again, everything

486
00:38:33.720 --> 00:38:37.960
what we need with this book and with anything that comes our way.

487
00:38:37.960 --> 00:38:46.360
But what if, what if, what if all this work you guys are doing, we're doing, could pay

488
00:38:46.360 --> 00:38:49.880
off in three years, and not 10?

489
00:38:49.880 --> 00:38:53.080
Like, what if?

490
00:38:53.080 --> 00:38:54.080
That that would be cool.

491
00:38:54.080 --> 00:38:55.080
That sounds like a really cool idea.

492
00:38:55.080 --> 00:39:05.800
I don't know if anyone wants to add anything, Lauren, you got something to say there, girl?

493
00:39:05.800 --> 00:39:11.040
Yeah, I think one of the things that like my brain is kind of pushing back on and listening

494
00:39:11.040 --> 00:39:19.920
to this audio book is like, I like this idea, and I just don't know how to execute it, I

495
00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:24.320
guess, because you had said like, you know, our families can kind of be an excuse to get

496
00:39:24.320 --> 00:39:25.320
in the way.

497
00:39:25.320 --> 00:39:28.160
And people have talked about other things on their plate that kind of can be things

498
00:39:28.160 --> 00:39:32.080
that they go to when they avoid work or things that just have to get done.

499
00:39:32.080 --> 00:39:37.160
And I don't know, I just feel like I'm the first thing that I cut from the list, you

500
00:39:37.160 --> 00:39:40.400
know, and then my family's the second thing that gets cut from the list.

501
00:39:40.440 --> 00:39:43.040
And it's like career comes first, because that's where the paycheck comes from.

502
00:39:43.040 --> 00:39:46.600
And business comes second, because that's going to get me to the place I want to be

503
00:39:46.600 --> 00:39:48.680
and out of that career.

504
00:39:48.680 --> 00:39:53.600
And it's just really challenging, because it's like, how do I flip that around?

505
00:39:53.600 --> 00:40:00.000
How do I not sacrifice myself and not sacrifice time with my family, but still put

506
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.440
time and energy into the things that are going to move my business forward and move my life

507
00:40:03.440 --> 00:40:09.200
in the direction that I want it to go.

508
00:40:09.200 --> 00:40:16.680
There is only so much time in a day and, you know, I know when I work late nights and put

509
00:40:16.680 --> 00:40:22.920
in all this energy, like it kind of, it backfires, right?

510
00:40:22.920 --> 00:40:26.000
Because then it turns into burnout and then it turns into exhausted mornings and then

511
00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:34.840
it turns into stressed out days and it's like, something's got to give.

512
00:40:34.840 --> 00:40:36.440
And thank you, Lauren.

513
00:40:36.440 --> 00:40:41.440
Anyone else feel, Lauren, like reading this, hearing these thoughts, like not alone at

514
00:40:41.440 --> 00:40:42.440
all, Lauren.

515
00:40:42.440 --> 00:40:49.160
I think that's part of, that is, that's part of the breakthrough here is like, okay, what

516
00:40:49.160 --> 00:40:52.320
is getting poked at, where, let's just be curious.

517
00:40:52.640 --> 00:40:56.720
I want you to just be kind of curious with your emotions and your feelings.

518
00:40:56.720 --> 00:41:02.040
Nobody has to go scale tomorrow and like leave everything or leave their jobs.

519
00:41:02.040 --> 00:41:05.680
However, it's a new way of thinking.

520
00:41:05.680 --> 00:41:08.320
You said, how do I flip that around?

521
00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:12.400
And I think he's going to teach us more about it actually throughout this book.

522
00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:15.080
So just hold on one chapter a week.

523
00:41:15.080 --> 00:41:16.600
That's all we're doing here.

524
00:41:16.600 --> 00:41:24.800
And then number two, I think, I think there is a extreme discomfort that comes when you

525
00:41:24.800 --> 00:41:27.880
start to scale.

526
00:41:27.880 --> 00:41:30.920
There is.

527
00:41:30.920 --> 00:41:36.200
And I think it's this idea of like being like rigorous and honest and like what actually

528
00:41:36.200 --> 00:41:40.680
could go, what actually does need to change.

529
00:41:40.680 --> 00:41:42.280
Maybe it's nothing.

530
00:41:42.280 --> 00:41:45.000
Maybe it's something, right?

531
00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:47.000
Were you going to say something, Gabby?

532
00:41:47.000 --> 00:41:57.520
Yeah, I just wanted to share, I'll put a frame on it that it's, it might be a little radical

533
00:41:57.520 --> 00:42:02.840
when I'm going to share a little, not maybe for everybody, I'm not saying it's for everybody

534
00:42:02.840 --> 00:42:10.560
and I'm not saying it as I'm prescribing that this is what you should do, but what I see

535
00:42:10.560 --> 00:42:18.680
a lot of times is people are very unwilling to sacrifice in the short term for the overall

536
00:42:18.680 --> 00:42:27.600
goal in the long term, meaning, and usually that is, has to do with financial sacrifice,

537
00:42:27.600 --> 00:42:29.600
time sacrifice, stuff sacrifice.

538
00:42:29.600 --> 00:42:40.760
So for me, there is going to come a time if you're going to be someone who has a business,

539
00:42:40.760 --> 00:42:46.160
you're going to have to choose at some time, whether, whenever that happens, do I keep

540
00:42:46.160 --> 00:42:54.160
this secure way of making money that I've known and it continues to bottleneck me or

541
00:42:54.320 --> 00:43:03.320
when do I get bold and with an ounce of wisdom, leave that sense of security?

542
00:43:03.320 --> 00:43:10.960
Because when you hit a bottleneck, something does have to give and it's either you stay

543
00:43:10.960 --> 00:43:16.280
where you are or you make that leap of faith into the new.

544
00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:21.520
And a lot of times I think with, you know, when I was in more active in MLM and here

545
00:43:21.520 --> 00:43:25.480
in this community and just being around people who are entrepreneurs, it's like, there comes

546
00:43:25.480 --> 00:43:28.640
a time where that, if you're going to be a full-time entrepreneur, you're nine to five

547
00:43:28.640 --> 00:43:29.640
is going to have to go.

548
00:43:29.640 --> 00:43:31.840
It's just a fact.

549
00:43:31.840 --> 00:43:36.280
If you want to be full-time and you want to have other priorities, it's going to have

550
00:43:36.280 --> 00:43:37.280
to go.

551
00:43:37.280 --> 00:43:42.160
And so that might be, okay, well, how do we get, how does my family live then for a temporary

552
00:43:42.160 --> 00:43:47.400
time, maybe on less money or less things, or how do we leverage other help that we can

553
00:43:47.400 --> 00:43:48.400
get?

554
00:43:48.400 --> 00:43:49.400
Or again, it's temporary.

555
00:43:49.400 --> 00:43:51.960
I'm not just saying you quit your job and then that's just it.

556
00:43:51.960 --> 00:43:56.240
It's, you know, there's a trait you're trading off to into something new that you're building,

557
00:43:56.240 --> 00:43:57.240
right?

558
00:43:57.240 --> 00:44:01.840
I think the answer at some point is we have to sacrifice that comfort somewhere.

559
00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:05.600
And it's always going to, it's either going to touch on the financial comfort.

560
00:44:05.600 --> 00:44:07.640
It's going to touch on your time freedom.

561
00:44:07.640 --> 00:44:11.960
It's going to touch on some other thing that feels good to you.

562
00:44:11.960 --> 00:44:12.960
That feels important.

563
00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:18.240
What's funny about, I feel like my story is, it's just the inverse for a lot of people

564
00:44:18.240 --> 00:44:22.960
where it's like, I was going from not having money and being a stay at home mom, but to

565
00:44:22.960 --> 00:44:24.840
being a full time working person.

566
00:44:24.840 --> 00:44:27.720
And it's like, you think everyone thinks it's like, okay, that's what you want because it

567
00:44:27.720 --> 00:44:31.720
meant more money.

568
00:44:31.720 --> 00:44:37.120
But I was giving up, I was terrified because I was giving up all of my freedom and autonomy

569
00:44:37.120 --> 00:44:40.120
is what it felt like.

570
00:44:40.120 --> 00:44:50.480
And I was like, I have to sacrifice this for the goal of giving my family the purpose.

571
00:44:50.480 --> 00:44:56.160
So for the mission of the purpose that I wanted to give, so it's just opposite of what a lot

572
00:44:56.160 --> 00:44:58.000
of people have to face.

573
00:44:58.000 --> 00:44:59.960
But because I had that perspective.

574
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.800
very, like what I was saying before, it's very easy for me to see now. Oh, I actually didn't,

575
00:45:04.800 --> 00:45:11.840
I don't need all these things. Do I like them and want them? Yes. And do they make my life easier?

576
00:45:11.840 --> 00:45:18.560
Yes. But I know now that I can sacrifice a lot for a bigger picture for a bigger purpose.

577
00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:26.000
It shows for me. No, go ahead, Chrissy. I was going to comment about your,

578
00:45:26.880 --> 00:45:32.880
your comments on sacrifice. And, and what Lauren said, it's like, you know, first I sacrifice

579
00:45:32.880 --> 00:45:39.600
myself, then I sacrifice time with my kids. And then I wonder like, why am I even doing all of

580
00:45:39.600 --> 00:45:47.520
that sacrifice in that order? And I think that I was, I was texting with Jen Grant Green, who,

581
00:45:48.240 --> 00:45:52.080
when we were in San Diego, she decided she's going to quit her full time job.

582
00:45:52.640 --> 00:45:59.120
And she turned in her notice. And that's like, one of the things that I would be working towards

583
00:45:59.120 --> 00:46:04.160
is to quit my full time job and to move on to do other things. And so I was texting with her today,

584
00:46:04.160 --> 00:46:11.520
like, how is it going? Like, how are you feeling? And then she told me that she put in a month

585
00:46:11.520 --> 00:46:18.560
notice. And then I was just like, Oh, wait a minute, you know, like, shoot, like, I don't

586
00:46:18.560 --> 00:46:23.680
have to like, just like, cut through quit with the two week notice, like, just because that's

587
00:46:23.680 --> 00:46:31.440
what people normally do. Like, I can give whatever notice I want. And so I just like offer that to

588
00:46:31.440 --> 00:46:38.560
Lauren is like, it's not necessarily linear, like it talks about in the book, like, what does it

589
00:46:38.560 --> 00:46:46.400
look like if you reduce your hours at your full time job to part time 30 hours a week, or 20 hours

590
00:46:46.480 --> 00:46:49.840
a week? Like, do you still have health insurance? Do you still have all this stuff you need?

591
00:46:49.840 --> 00:46:57.280
It's not even an option for me. Like, my career has the job that I work has changed so much in

592
00:46:57.280 --> 00:47:02.000
the last decade that I've been there. And we just came out of bankruptcy, we've done a huge massive

593
00:47:02.000 --> 00:47:08.000
layoff over the last year. And now my company forgot to or forgot didn't my incompetent leader

594
00:47:08.000 --> 00:47:13.040
did not file permits that are necessary for our business to operate. So right now we're in this

595
00:47:13.040 --> 00:47:18.640
temporary pause. It's like, every day could be the last day that these doors are open. And I'm

596
00:47:18.640 --> 00:47:23.840
the breadwinner in the household, I'm bankrolling my business, like without that job, I think

597
00:47:23.840 --> 00:47:28.080
everything comes crashing down. And it's the one thing I've been wanting, like the whole reason I

598
00:47:28.080 --> 00:47:32.560
started this business was to be able to leave that job. And so now I feel like my only option

599
00:47:32.560 --> 00:47:37.040
is to get a different job, you know what I mean? And like, that's not the direction I want to go.

600
00:47:37.040 --> 00:47:41.760
And so I'm trying to do everything in my power to make sure that I don't have to start a new career

601
00:47:41.760 --> 00:47:49.200
or start a new company in order to maintain, you know, my livelihood at home and to keep

602
00:47:49.840 --> 00:47:56.720
being able to fund my business. Okay, same. My company has missed three paychecks in a row.

603
00:47:56.720 --> 00:48:01.920
The whole engineering team didn't show up this week. Only two people are in the building this

604
00:48:01.920 --> 00:48:09.680
week. And I applied for two no interest credit cards to balance transfer all of these debts

605
00:48:09.680 --> 00:48:15.920
this week. And I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to like place an inventory order for the

606
00:48:15.920 --> 00:48:24.240
summer to like, you know, hit the peak sales. I applied for three jobs today to, you know,

607
00:48:24.240 --> 00:48:32.000
maybe get a different position that will actually pay my salary instead of quitting with nothing.

608
00:48:32.800 --> 00:48:41.280
And so I hear you 100%. It's and I've always been the breadwinner in my family. I've always

609
00:48:42.320 --> 00:48:47.600
not only supported like my husband, but his mom was with us to his brother lived with us for a

610
00:48:47.600 --> 00:48:54.480
while as well. And like, you know, now we have three kids and still support them. And so it's

611
00:48:55.440 --> 00:49:00.720
terrifying that I'm the one. I mean, he does make a salary, obviously, but

612
00:49:01.360 --> 00:49:04.640
but all the pressures I know from you. Yeah.

613
00:49:07.200 --> 00:49:14.240
I'm gonna I'm gonna chime in. And again, guys, like, please hear my heart like I have a lot of

614
00:49:14.240 --> 00:49:20.320
compassion for what you guys are saying. It's not easy. It's not always clear the way forward. Not

615
00:49:20.320 --> 00:49:25.120
sometimes not always clear to us. So when I'm saying this is just thoughts.

616
00:49:26.960 --> 00:49:34.320
Just my thoughts. Okay, just my thoughts and my opinion. This where you guys are at of the job

617
00:49:34.320 --> 00:49:39.360
where you guys just described your job. Okay. When you get to three book chapter three,

618
00:49:39.360 --> 00:49:45.680
this is your floor. There, there is sometimes things outside of our control. Danielle,

619
00:49:45.680 --> 00:49:49.360
you actually touch on this sometimes a lot is there's things that are not in our control.

620
00:49:50.080 --> 00:49:55.360
But there is always something that is in our control. And it may be a choice that we don't

621
00:49:55.360 --> 00:49:59.760
want to make, like finding a new job, or pivoting something else in our lives.

622
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.200
wow, we really don't want to do that. But I've just decided that I'm not willing to tolerate

623
00:50:05.200 --> 00:50:11.520
this floor anymore. That's all I feel clear on. I'm unwilling to tolerate this floor anymore.

624
00:50:11.520 --> 00:50:16.480
That's how I felt last year before I got adopted. I was like, okay, I'm unwilling to tolerate this

625
00:50:16.480 --> 00:50:22.960
floor. And I'm now to such a strong degree that now I'm going to go do the things I really was

626
00:50:22.960 --> 00:50:28.560
terrified to do and don't, I never wanted to do, never, never wanted to do and actually fought

627
00:50:28.560 --> 00:50:35.040
years doing years. The amount of times my husband and I talked about me getting a job is insane.

628
00:50:35.040 --> 00:50:41.200
It took years for me to hit a floor low enough that I was like, I can't tolerate it anymore

629
00:50:42.000 --> 00:50:48.080
and literally can't. Now it's forcing me, forcing my hand into a place of discomfort.

630
00:50:48.080 --> 00:50:55.040
But man, what gifts are on the other side? Because I actually get to work in a place where I have a

631
00:50:55.040 --> 00:51:01.680
lot of freedom over my expression of who I am and my beliefs, right? I'm respected. I'm valued.

632
00:51:02.720 --> 00:51:07.520
My freaking CEO asked for my opinion on things, guys. You know what I mean? Like there's,

633
00:51:08.560 --> 00:51:13.840
there's gifts on the other side of that. And I'm not, I'm not trying to prescribe to you guys,

634
00:51:13.840 --> 00:51:21.600
go quit your jobs and go, I don't know who knows whatever crazy thing, but you have options.

635
00:51:22.160 --> 00:51:25.840
You have choice. It just may not be the choice you thought you'd make.

636
00:51:29.200 --> 00:51:34.160
And I say that with as much compassion as I possibly can put into the computer screen right now.

637
00:51:37.200 --> 00:51:43.360
Yeah. I mean, I know that there's ultimately there's a choice, but I guess it just kind of

638
00:51:43.360 --> 00:51:50.800
feels like some choices are going to make me like further away from my goal, right? It's going to

639
00:51:50.800 --> 00:51:57.120
extend this timeline. And so it's kind of like, well, I know if I started working at a new company,

640
00:51:57.120 --> 00:52:02.400
got a new job that would take a lot of time away from, like, cause with my job now, it's like,

641
00:52:02.400 --> 00:52:06.400
I don't, I am a full-time employee, but do I put in 40 hours a week? Absolutely not.

642
00:52:06.960 --> 00:52:11.440
Do I get to work from wherever I want the hours that I want to work? Absolutely. I've earned that

643
00:52:11.440 --> 00:52:15.440
as an employee there. And I think I'd be losing that. And so it's kind of like, is the grass

644
00:52:15.440 --> 00:52:22.800
really greener? Probably not. Well, I want to also with all of the love I have in my heart for you,

645
00:52:23.440 --> 00:52:30.560
tell you, Lauren, like, what if it is though? You know, I feel like you've already decided it's not

646
00:52:30.560 --> 00:52:36.800
to kind of keep you safe. And again, echoing what Gabby said, I'm not here to tell y'all,

647
00:52:36.800 --> 00:52:42.000
quit your jobs. You know, in the Rainmaker family, we are not about that. We're about like,

648
00:52:42.000 --> 00:52:48.320
you know, how do you, how do you leverage what you have and create something new to then be

649
00:52:48.320 --> 00:52:55.600
able to like leave your job? Right. But I heard Christy and Lauren, I heard you both say like,

650
00:52:55.600 --> 00:53:02.000
I'm not, I'm not sure when I'm going to get paid. I'm not sure if I'm going to,

651
00:53:02.000 --> 00:53:09.440
if the door is going to close in three weeks, four weeks, months. And it just sounds like

652
00:53:09.440 --> 00:53:17.280
it's shaky. There's like a shakiness there, right? What would it look like to go create

653
00:53:17.280 --> 00:53:24.960
something that's like you choose to leave that and make something that's not as shaky?

654
00:53:27.120 --> 00:53:31.920
Right. And I'm not saying it doesn't have to be go all in on your business, but it also can look

655
00:53:31.920 --> 00:53:39.920
like, I mean, have you done a, have you done a search Lauren on what is available to you and

656
00:53:39.920 --> 00:53:44.560
what you, how you could leverage your skills? Y'all, I was out here yesterday applying for jobs

657
00:53:44.560 --> 00:53:53.360
that were $200,000 a year. And I'm over here like that's small. I'm like, whoa, I've grown a lot.

658
00:53:53.360 --> 00:53:58.400
Okay. I know what I, I know what value I bring to the table. I know what kind of interviews I can

659
00:53:58.400 --> 00:54:02.800
do. I know what kind of education I have. I know my skills. I've got references, blah, blah, blah.

660
00:54:03.360 --> 00:54:08.720
But even just the act, like something so small, Lauren, the act, the simple act of like,

661
00:54:09.600 --> 00:54:16.880
what, what could shift? What could shift? You don't have to shift anything actually, but like,

662
00:54:17.520 --> 00:54:26.960
what could, and just what if, and this for you too, Christy, just like, what if like in these small

663
00:54:27.040 --> 00:54:32.960
shifts, like it actually would create more peace and more freedom than you realize,

664
00:54:34.000 --> 00:54:37.680
you know, instead of deciding that it won't before you like try something.

665
00:54:40.080 --> 00:54:44.240
That's my, that's just my thought to like think through. Right. And like this book,

666
00:54:44.240 --> 00:54:48.880
this scaling book, I think has the opportunity to really change the way we think,

667
00:54:49.440 --> 00:54:54.320
but, but don't, and if it's pushing up against something, just take a look at it.

668
00:54:54.320 --> 00:54:59.840
Great. Get, get investigated, right? Get curious with yourself. What's that, what's that touching?

669
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.800
because i'm usually when we're responding in fear it's touching something we're trying to hide or

670
00:55:06.800 --> 00:55:14.240
keep safe or keep close and just maybe what would it look like to like begin to open to surrender

671
00:55:14.240 --> 00:55:21.600
to say wait maybe there is a different way wait maybe i could do something i didn't think i could

672
00:55:21.600 --> 00:55:31.280
or try something new yeah i love that i love everything you said and just i just want to

673
00:55:31.280 --> 00:55:36.480
point on like i don't want us danielle and i to come across as we are prescribing and like we're

674
00:55:36.480 --> 00:55:44.880
not coming from a place of having lived some stuff in life and for me guys like just to add on i'm

675
00:55:44.880 --> 00:55:49.760
just i'm trying to share because i want you to see my heart um so hopefully that's coming across

676
00:55:49.760 --> 00:55:54.720
but like one of the other reasons i was really terrified of getting a job was like i've had a

677
00:55:54.720 --> 00:56:02.880
long journey with mental health issues so depression anxiety ocd um and part of the

678
00:56:02.880 --> 00:56:07.520
reason i was terrified is because when i was a young adult i don't get a job and i hit six months

679
00:56:07.520 --> 00:56:12.240
and that was like the time went off the timer went off and i would become i'd get very depressed

680
00:56:12.240 --> 00:56:16.000
because like the newness of this thing would fade off and other things in my life were not healthy

681
00:56:16.000 --> 00:56:22.800
and i'd get so depressed that i got fired um i'd quit and then i was like relying on my parents in

682
00:56:22.800 --> 00:56:27.760
an unhealthy way like there was just things there and so i had that in my head and i was like i'm

683
00:56:27.760 --> 00:56:31.840
gonna get a job and then i'm gonna get fired because i'm gonna get depressed and not show

684
00:56:31.840 --> 00:56:37.280
up or i'm gonna because i'm depressed i'm the ball gets dropped in real ways and i and that's

685
00:56:37.280 --> 00:56:41.920
gonna be on display now as an adult for other adults to see and my friend megan who referred

686
00:56:41.920 --> 00:56:48.240
me now it's gonna reflect on it like there was a lot of like big fear um and that was a fear and i

687
00:56:48.240 --> 00:56:52.000
was also afraid of it putting me into a depression and how that would also affect my family because

688
00:56:52.000 --> 00:56:55.280
i'm like i've been there done that where i can't get out of bed don't want to put them into that

689
00:56:55.280 --> 00:57:01.280
again okay um my husband is also going through this guys where he's been on a job and i know

690
00:57:01.280 --> 00:57:05.040
we're about to go over he's been on a job for a long time he's been with the city of phoenix a

691
00:57:05.040 --> 00:57:13.120
long time his boss left his position last year in march okay it took them up until january

692
00:57:13.760 --> 00:57:17.360
to open up that job application and this is something my husband's been waiting for

693
00:57:18.480 --> 00:57:24.720
and we've had many conversations about like the city they don't the system of the way it works

694
00:57:24.720 --> 00:57:29.360
does not value people for who they are it looks at how long have you had experience

695
00:57:29.360 --> 00:57:34.160
what does your resume look like that's how we qualify you so he's gotten past that for other

696
00:57:34.160 --> 00:57:38.640
job opportunities that he's absolutely the best fit for he just had an interview for this job

697
00:57:38.640 --> 00:57:41.840
hopefully he doesn't mind me sharing this he's not even getting a second interview

698
00:57:41.840 --> 00:57:44.560
for his boss's job that he's literally been doing for the last year

699
00:57:46.560 --> 00:57:52.800
and that is the floor for him okay we've been discussing his floor i cannot wait for you guys

700
00:57:52.800 --> 00:57:57.200
to get into chapter three um because it's like how long are you willing to do this

701
00:57:58.080 --> 00:58:03.360
how long and it's not and it's like did he want to go look for another job no does he want to start

702
00:58:03.360 --> 00:58:10.960
looking for jobs no not even a little bit but it's like okay i now know i can't do this floor anymore

703
00:58:12.400 --> 00:58:17.920
it's clear and when i feel for me when i feel unsure about the way forward i have to look at

704
00:58:17.920 --> 00:58:24.160
what is absolutely clear i'm okay it's clear that i can't do this floor anymore i don't feel sure

705
00:58:24.400 --> 00:58:28.560
i don't feel sure about doing this other thing but i feel very sure about not doing this floor

706
00:58:28.560 --> 00:58:35.920
so that's pushing me into action this way and i'm exploring and i'm being open i'm exploring i like

707
00:58:35.920 --> 00:58:42.800
what danielle's saying like just look at it explore yeah and i love that gabby and to wrap

708
00:58:42.800 --> 00:58:49.120
us up here chapter three i think we're all ready for chapter three am i right i think i think chapter

709
00:58:49.120 --> 00:58:54.320
three is going to be really powerful adding on to what we've just read so read chapter three

710
00:58:54.320 --> 00:58:59.280
and be on this call this time next week okay we're going to continue this conversation

711
00:59:02.480 --> 00:59:09.440
when we have resistance in our lives when when that that poke that anxiety that fear i mean my

712
00:59:09.440 --> 00:59:13.920
god you guys have all kind of walked with me since the last since the last in-person event

713
00:59:13.920 --> 00:59:22.080
two in-person events ago i mean i have been beside myself i have been sick i have been sad

714
00:59:22.080 --> 00:59:28.560
i've been literally depressed i began seeing a counselor what is actually going on with me and

715
00:59:28.560 --> 00:59:36.720
here's what's going on there is resistance because there is a grief because the version of me

716
00:59:37.280 --> 00:59:42.720
can no longer hide i can no longer play small anymore i can no longer

717
00:59:43.840 --> 00:59:51.120
not be seen and take full responsibility for my own gifts and what i've been given but i'm

718
00:59:51.120 --> 00:59:57.360
telling you right now it's costly to grow it's costly to scale but what you know what else is

719
00:59:57.360 --> 01:00:00.240
costly

720
01:00:00.840 --> 01:00:02.520
staying right where you're at.

721
01:00:04.040 --> 01:00:06.060
We're all paying a cost here, ladies.

722
01:00:07.100 --> 01:00:09.480
We're all paying a cost.

723
01:00:09.480 --> 01:00:11.300
You know how easy it is as a single woman

724
01:00:11.300 --> 01:00:14.460
for me to be like, if only I had two incomes,

725
01:00:14.460 --> 01:00:15.560
this would be easier.

726
01:00:16.420 --> 01:00:19.120
You all know that's bullshit.

727
01:00:19.120 --> 01:00:21.720
If only I had another set of hands

728
01:00:21.720 --> 01:00:22.600
with a husband, blah, blah.

729
01:00:22.600 --> 01:00:25.720
No, no, it's not true.

730
01:00:25.720 --> 01:00:27.520
Maybe yes, but at the end of the day,

731
01:00:27.520 --> 01:00:29.960
that's just my fear trying to grab onto something

732
01:00:29.960 --> 01:00:31.660
that would make me feel more comfortable

733
01:00:31.660 --> 01:00:33.920
instead of me taking full responsibility

734
01:00:33.920 --> 01:00:38.320
for my calling, my dreams, my visions,

735
01:00:38.320 --> 01:00:40.520
what I'm called to, my why.

736
01:00:40.520 --> 01:00:42.780
It's nobody else's, it's mine.

737
01:00:42.780 --> 01:00:44.360
And just like where you guys are,

738
01:00:44.360 --> 01:00:47.120
it's nobody else's, it's yours.

739
01:00:47.120 --> 01:00:50.440
And you don't have to be so scared of it.

740
01:00:52.220 --> 01:00:54.880
But part of that looks like taking a look

741
01:00:54.880 --> 01:00:56.520
and being like, okay, what can change?

742
01:00:56.520 --> 01:00:58.600
What's a small, micro, little, mini,

743
01:00:58.600 --> 01:01:01.720
itty bitty thing today I can do?

744
01:01:01.720 --> 01:01:03.540
And then you do that the next day.

745
01:01:04.960 --> 01:01:06.840
I'm gonna share this really quick.

746
01:01:06.840 --> 01:01:09.080
This is insane what just happened to me.

747
01:01:09.080 --> 01:01:10.240
I have to share this with y'all.

748
01:01:10.240 --> 01:01:12.760
This goes, I knew this was gonna directly relate

749
01:01:12.760 --> 01:01:15.040
with this call.

750
01:01:15.040 --> 01:01:16.760
I know it's three minutes over, so you have to go.

751
01:01:16.760 --> 01:01:18.360
I respect that.

752
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:22.780
I'm looking to rent out my entire home.

753
01:01:22.780 --> 01:01:24.640
That's me up-leveling my life.

754
01:01:24.640 --> 01:01:27.920
That's me saying, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna step out,

755
01:01:27.920 --> 01:01:29.520
I'm gonna step up.

756
01:01:29.520 --> 01:01:30.560
Where am I gonna live?

757
01:01:30.560 --> 01:01:32.720
Not quite sure yet.

758
01:01:32.720 --> 01:01:35.800
Well, I get back from San Diego and two days later,

759
01:01:35.800 --> 01:01:36.920
guess what happens?

760
01:01:36.920 --> 01:01:40.560
My basement floods with sewer water.

761
01:01:40.560 --> 01:01:42.960
So I got poop in my house.

762
01:01:42.960 --> 01:01:46.600
And that's not fun, that's nasty.

763
01:01:46.600 --> 01:01:47.440
Guess what though?

764
01:01:47.440 --> 01:01:51.020
This is the fifth time this has happened.

765
01:01:51.940 --> 01:01:54.380
Ding, ding, ding.

766
01:01:54.380 --> 01:01:56.660
Time to take a look at something else

767
01:01:56.660 --> 01:01:59.440
because what I'm doing isn't working.

768
01:02:00.740 --> 01:02:04.700
This is such a real mirror to business.

769
01:02:04.700 --> 01:02:05.740
Get this.

770
01:02:05.740 --> 01:02:07.100
So my plumber comes over,

771
01:02:07.100 --> 01:02:08.420
cause I got him on speed dial.

772
01:02:08.420 --> 01:02:10.260
And we had talked about this a couple of years ago.

773
01:02:10.260 --> 01:02:12.860
He said, Danielle, you don't have to fix this.

774
01:02:12.860 --> 01:02:15.060
Like I can just come and do this snake thing

775
01:02:15.060 --> 01:02:16.900
and then you should be fine.

776
01:02:16.900 --> 01:02:20.900
He's like, the time when you need to begin to start looking

777
01:02:21.740 --> 01:02:26.740
at this is when you have to call me in three to four months.

778
01:02:27.780 --> 01:02:31.740
Well, I had to this time mark three months

779
01:02:31.740 --> 01:02:33.100
that he was just here.

780
01:02:35.260 --> 01:02:39.100
So he came over yesterday and he was like,

781
01:02:39.100 --> 01:02:43.540
well, I think it's time you have to do something different.

782
01:02:44.500 --> 01:02:46.980
I mean, you can keep calling me every three months,

783
01:02:46.980 --> 01:02:50.300
but if you are gonna rent this entire house out,

784
01:02:50.700 --> 01:02:53.020
you have to figure this problem out.

785
01:02:53.020 --> 01:02:56.500
I can no longer avoid what the hell is going on

786
01:02:56.500 --> 01:02:59.340
with this poop water coming into my basement.

787
01:02:59.340 --> 01:03:00.660
Okay, so get this.

788
01:03:00.660 --> 01:03:01.740
I mean, it's nasty.

789
01:03:01.740 --> 01:03:05.060
This is a problem like you have to solve immediately.

790
01:03:05.060 --> 01:03:06.400
You know what I mean?

791
01:03:06.400 --> 01:03:08.940
You all who own a home, like, oh, okay.

792
01:03:08.940 --> 01:03:11.340
Like the baseboard broke.

793
01:03:11.340 --> 01:03:12.580
Okay, I'll get to that.

794
01:03:12.580 --> 01:03:15.060
You know, this is something like I need to get fixed,

795
01:03:15.060 --> 01:03:16.940
especially if I'm gonna have like people living

796
01:03:16.940 --> 01:03:18.080
in my home with me.

797
01:03:19.080 --> 01:03:21.080
He's like, I think you need to call,

798
01:03:21.080 --> 01:03:23.880
I think you need to call the camera guys

799
01:03:23.880 --> 01:03:25.360
to come put the camera down.

800
01:03:25.360 --> 01:03:27.960
I'm like, no, I can't call the camera guys

801
01:03:27.960 --> 01:03:30.920
because then what if they find a hole in the pipe

802
01:03:30.920 --> 01:03:33.720
and the pipe is underneath my basement

803
01:03:33.720 --> 01:03:35.400
and then I have to take up my entire basement

804
01:03:35.400 --> 01:03:37.440
and it's gonna cost me $20,000.

805
01:03:38.560 --> 01:03:40.640
With that thinking,

806
01:03:40.640 --> 01:03:42.920
of course I'm not gonna call the camera guys,

807
01:03:42.920 --> 01:03:43.760
but guess what?

808
01:03:43.760 --> 01:03:44.580
He looked at me.

809
01:03:44.580 --> 01:03:47.760
He said, Danielle, you just make one phone call.

810
01:03:48.440 --> 01:03:49.460
That's it.

811
01:03:49.460 --> 01:03:51.360
Just do the next best thing.

812
01:03:52.440 --> 01:03:54.120
So I had the courage.

813
01:03:54.120 --> 01:03:55.720
I called.

814
01:03:55.720 --> 01:03:57.960
The guy came out today,

815
01:03:57.960 --> 01:04:00.200
put the camera down my pipes

816
01:04:00.200 --> 01:04:02.440
right before I got on this call

817
01:04:02.440 --> 01:04:04.000
and guess what they found?

818
01:04:07.380 --> 01:04:08.520
Nothing.

819
01:04:10.160 --> 01:04:11.920
Nothing.

820
01:04:11.920 --> 01:04:16.560
No cracks, no tree roots,

821
01:04:16.600 --> 01:04:18.080
nothing.

822
01:04:18.080 --> 01:04:19.880
And it's a catch 22, right?

823
01:04:19.880 --> 01:04:21.360
Because it's like, praise God,

824
01:04:21.360 --> 01:04:22.440
there's no,

825
01:04:23.560 --> 01:04:24.680
ah, poop.

826
01:04:25.560 --> 01:04:27.880
Like, I'm literally like, praise God,

827
01:04:27.880 --> 01:04:30.320
it's not a $20,000 fix,

828
01:04:30.320 --> 01:04:32.200
but there's still an unresolved problem.

829
01:04:32.200 --> 01:04:35.440
But now I get to go into like next level problem solving

830
01:04:35.440 --> 01:04:36.700
and like I called up a friend

831
01:04:36.700 --> 01:04:37.540
and my other friend's like,

832
01:04:37.540 --> 01:04:38.880
hey, you can consider this,

833
01:04:38.880 --> 01:04:41.000
you can consider that.

834
01:04:41.000 --> 01:04:43.120
Why am I telling you guys this?

835
01:04:43.120 --> 01:04:44.480
I was scared.

836
01:04:44.480 --> 01:04:46.920
I could have saved myself almost two years

837
01:04:46.920 --> 01:04:49.360
if I just called the camera people two years ago.

838
01:04:50.640 --> 01:04:53.720
Two freaking years.

839
01:04:53.720 --> 01:04:56.040
I could have just made this one little call,

840
01:04:56.040 --> 01:04:59.880
but no, the call led to a $20,000 fix in my basement.

841
01:05:00.800 --> 01:05:02.520
Who here can relate to this?

842
01:05:02.520 --> 01:05:05.760
Oh, I can't make that impossible goal, it's too much.

843
01:05:05.760 --> 01:05:07.840
Or, oh my God, I'm never gonna scale,

844
01:05:07.840 --> 01:05:10.320
so I just won't do anything today.

845
01:05:10.320 --> 01:05:12.860
That's why I think it's just really important

846
01:05:12.860 --> 01:05:15.360
that we just make that next little step.

847
01:05:15.360 --> 01:05:17.560
And I'm gonna look at your guys'...

848
01:05:17.560 --> 01:05:19.600
I wasn't looking, I was focused on...

849
01:05:19.600 --> 01:05:23.440
He is actually 60 years old

850
01:05:23.440 --> 01:05:26.260
and married with a couple of kids.

851
01:05:26.780 --> 01:05:30.220
Yes, my plumber should, and he'll sit here.

852
01:05:30.220 --> 01:05:32.100
His name's Bob, of course.

853
01:05:32.100 --> 01:05:33.660
Of course his name's Bob.

854
01:05:35.500 --> 01:05:37.700
And he literally would just sit here and be like,

855
01:05:37.700 --> 01:05:40.460
yeah, I mean, I told Danielle,

856
01:05:40.460 --> 01:05:42.660
she needs to call the company, but she wasn't ready,

857
01:05:42.660 --> 01:05:44.220
but this time she was.

858
01:05:44.220 --> 01:05:46.580
And then here's the kicker.

859
01:05:46.580 --> 01:05:50.000
Oh yeah, I already asked about his son, not available.

860
01:05:50.000 --> 01:05:51.020
I already asked.

861
01:05:51.020 --> 01:05:52.700
Because him and I have such a good relationship.

862
01:05:52.700 --> 01:05:56.060
He loves that I use my home to share with people and stuff.

863
01:05:56.740 --> 01:05:59.260
He looks at me, as he was leaving yesterday,

864
01:05:59.260 --> 01:06:01.740
it's usually $250 just for him to come over

865
01:06:01.740 --> 01:06:03.860
and snake out my pipes.

866
01:06:03.860 --> 01:06:07.400
And I said, okay, here's my card.

867
01:06:07.400 --> 01:06:10.300
And he's like, this one's on the house.

868
01:06:12.260 --> 01:06:15.860
And he didn't even charge me the $250.

869
01:06:15.860 --> 01:06:17.940
He's like, you're gonna need to call the camera people

870
01:06:17.940 --> 01:06:19.740
and they're gonna charge you $250,

871
01:06:19.740 --> 01:06:22.900
so you can just pay them and then be in touch with me

872
01:06:22.900 --> 01:06:26.620
and we will problem solve this together.

873
01:06:29.540 --> 01:06:31.380
I mean, could there have been a better outcome?

874
01:06:31.380 --> 01:06:33.960
I mean, it depends on how I look at it, right?

875
01:06:33.960 --> 01:06:35.940
Like I'd still like to know what's going on.

876
01:06:35.940 --> 01:06:38.300
Like, I don't want the poop water to come into my house

877
01:06:38.300 --> 01:06:40.180
again for the sixth time.

878
01:06:40.180 --> 01:06:44.060
But at the same time, it's like, well, I made a step.

879
01:06:44.060 --> 01:06:46.840
I may, and do you wanna know, I feel so empowered.

880
01:06:46.840 --> 01:06:49.600
I was like, I could have just felt this better

881
01:06:49.600 --> 01:06:51.560
like two years ago, are you serious?

882
01:06:51.560 --> 01:06:53.920
I should have just called the freaking company.

883
01:06:55.120 --> 01:07:00.120
So, right, right.

884
01:07:05.720 --> 01:07:06.960
Okay, yeah, thanks Gabby.