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Hey, gentlemen, if you are watching this in replay, woohoo, it is Monday, March 23rd.

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And Jackie and David have asked me to check in with all the guys that are live.

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So I would say if you are watching this in replay, whether it's the men's page, find

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a way to give an update to Jackie and David on where you are, because we want to get y'all

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out of the waiting room and into relationships, but we don't want to rush the healing process,

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but we don't want you guys to stay stuck.

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We have an incredible database of hundreds of women in our program that would love to

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meet heart healed men like you, not to mention all of the women that are out in the wild

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and or online.

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So that's tonight's focus on it.

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My first victim was Christopher, who we have discovered is 39.

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He is about 10 years out from being widowed, does not have children, would like children,

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but that's not his deal breaker.

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He has a great job, so would not like to move.

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But if it was the right person, might be open to that.

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So how ready are you to get back out there?

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Tell us, Christopher.

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Well, after doing the online dating one on one thing, I mean, ready is is relative.

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My heart is ready.

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My my head, knowing all of the hoops to jump through for online dating, not looking forward

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to that.

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But you can't you can't put be expected not to put in some work for this kind of stuff,

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you know?

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Mm hmm.

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But I'm I'm probably more positive about my future in relationships than I have been in

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a very, very long time.

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The hard work actually said it last week.

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The hard work has been very illuminating.

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And I just I feel finally that, yeah, you know what?

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I can actually be positive about this process rather than just so love it.

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So what do you think was your biggest takeaway from the hard work that's helping you?

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I think the main thing was that idea that you have your identity tied up in the lies

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you tell yourself.

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And that that when I had to sit with, I just stopped on that kind of section and I had

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to sit with that for a while.

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And I at the end, I actually took an extra week at the end and said because I didn't

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have a good answer.

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Who are you, Chris?

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And I thought I did.

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I was ready to kind of write it down, and I had to take an extra week and really.

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Debate with the Holy Spirit and accept some things and get rid of some of those lies.

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And I actually had a really good journaling where I wrote down who I actually believe

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I am.

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So it was a very powerful process in that area.

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I love that.

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OK, so tell me some things that you're looking for in a mate.

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So Jackie put on the spot, huh?

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Well, I'm at every hour.

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So guys that you're here listening, y'all are next.

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So this is the goal of tonight's session.

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I'm literally doing a one on one checking with y'all, getting an update, and I'm going

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to be giving all the data to Miss Jackie Dorman.

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So what you looking for?

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I think that, you know, the main thing I think everybody wants a teammate in their life.

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Someone who's, you know, actually on board to be part of a couple.

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I'm fairly adventurous.

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I like hiking.

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I like going to new places.

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I'm not necessarily, hey, let's go climb El Capitan.

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I don't need a mate that's going to be willing to do that for me.

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I would love a mate that's willing to wait for me at the bottom and go to pizza afterwards.

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But you know, just something.

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Hey, you want to try something new?

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But I'm also willing to do the quiet dinner at home or the side by side on the couch.

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So yeah, I'm looking for someone who wants to be a teammate, wants to have some fun,

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but isn't broken hearted if we don't, you know, go to the Bellagio every weekend.

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Yep, I get it.

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Do you have, this is where you get to be honest, like, so you're 39, do you have an age range?

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Do you have a height, looks, weight?

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Is there anything in the physical realm that's like deal breaker-y for you?

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I'm fairly open minded when it comes to race, when it comes to looks and stuff like that.

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I think that when you guys talk about looks can grow, like an attractive, physical attractiveness

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can grow.

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You know, I'm sure there's a baseline for me, but I like to give women a chance and

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see if we have a connection.

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I would say as long as they care, I mean, and I think that you're not going to have

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anybody in your community that doesn't care.

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That's what I, someone who cares about it is willing to, because I work on it, you know,

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I'm going to go work out after this.

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Um, but no, I don't need, I don't need Aphrodite, um, and age range.

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What about age range?

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Uh, I mean, honestly, I, I'm pretty open.

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Um, I don't, I don't think I'm ready for anyone in their twenties.

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So, um, uh, but yeah, I think somewhere, you know, you might be 25, uh, 39, 35 to

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45, somewhere in that range, because there might be like a 42 year old that

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match your energy.

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Um, so somewhere in that, we always say, like, I always feel like you can go five

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years up, five years down, you know, typically.

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And that's, uh, for me, it's, are we in the same stage of life?

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That's really, as I have, I've had women who are, you know, 42 and they are

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grandma and they are full on grandma mode.

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And I'm like, I'm just not quite, I don't mind having, if you have grandkids,

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it's not it, but it's just, I'm not ready for grandma mode.

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No, I get you.

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I got you.

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Is there anything else that you want to say about this at all about you and, or

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about what you're looking for?

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And it sounds like you would be opened for some introductions to be, yes, I'm

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absolutely open for introductions and, uh, I thought I had the perfect person

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for you, but she's like 47.

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Um, she's gorgeous though, but, and she's in Southern California and I

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thought you were a little bit older.

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So I'm going to be, am I thinking cat back on?

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Hey, well, God, I mean, and I think that it has to be put on my profile or at

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least I'm five, four and I can't get any more out of that, those inches.

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I can't work out.

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I'm four 11.

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So I feel you, buddy.

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And it's really funny cause you know what, um, I would not have known that

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about you, but you know, I appreciate you saying that I come from a little

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family, like my brother.

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I mean, we're not just Italian, but we're Sicilian.

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And so I'm pretty sure my, my brother is like five to just say, but in, in like

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his wife is like my height.

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And so all his kids are little, like my nephew might be five too.

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And it's a real, it's a real issue.

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Um, and I know, I know that's a deal breaker for someone.

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I do not mind dating someone taller than me.

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If they, if they somehow are fine with being a foot taller than me, I have dated

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someone almost a foot taller than me.

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And God bless you.

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All right, Chris, that was so wonderful.

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Well, feel like you, um, so can't be on camera and can't immediately answer

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All right, David, what you may want to do is if you can type basically everything

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that I'm asking.

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So listen for the next person and listen for all the things I'm asking for things

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that you want to summarize about yourself, like your age, where you live.

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Are you willing to relocate?

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Are you willing to date long distance?

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And what are your common interests?

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Chris, tell me a little bit more about your faith because y'all can be in different

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places in your faith.

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Some people might be very tied to their denomination.

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So tell me a little bit more about your faith.

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Uh, I'm fairly committed to I'd serve on a team at my church.

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Uh, I actually grew up Presbyterian and now I go to a very kind of costal church.

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So, uh, you know, wherever you want to worship, I'm probably open to it.

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I'm, I'm the crazy Christian now.

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So I love it.

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I don't mind sitting in a Presbyterian church.

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I love those services.

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I got it.

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Well, you know, it's funny.

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I was on staff at it.

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I mean, I grew up Catholic.

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I was on staff at a Presbyterian church.

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I've been to churches in college, like assembly of God, total Pentecostal.

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And now I go to non-denominational, but I like all of it.

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I mean, I feel like as long as the, I will say this, I don't like, I was at a church

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recently and I do believe in the gifts, the Holy spirit, but it was turning into the Pentecostal

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playground.

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That's what I kind of call it.

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I feel like when scripture goes out the window and we're doing a healing service every Sunday

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in lieu of scripture, I'm like,

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I've had my life changed by pastors of all denominations.

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One of the greatest pastors that changed my journey was a Baptist preacher.

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So, you know, that's great.

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I'm open to everybody.

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Kevin, I'm going to put you on the spot.

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Are you ready?

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I don't know if I'm ready, but I'm here.

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So Kevin, first tell us a little bit about you.

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Where are you in this journey?

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Like, have you finished the heart healing?

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Have you finished?

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No, I got to, I got to level, I finished level three and I'm, I'm kind of going back and

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forth with it.

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So, so I went back and I started redoing all the questions from one to three.

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But then in there she says don't dig too deep, you know

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You know, no no fine print

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Really easygoing. Do you do you feel like you are? Um, so are you divorced never married widowed?

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I'm in alaska. Oh my gosh, you know what one of the women in our group just got a ministry position in alaska

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So are you so we want you to move forward too

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Yeah, so you can get some of the videos that chris is talking about

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I'm, very pacific in my prayers about him answering me and it hasn't happened yet, but i'm waiting

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uh as far as as far as me know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's him and not just some voice in my

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I pretty much ruled out of ruled out the inner voice because sometimes it says things that don't

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biblically align

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Yeah, you know so i'm like no that can't be god

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So then it takes rid of everything else that I thought gets rid of everything else that I thought was god. Yeah

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But so what do you so what are you looking for in someone?

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Are you looking for someone? Let me start there

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Yeah, I yeah, I am. I I do want somebody I want I want to meet the love of my life

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Okay, i'm just i'm just

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after 21 years of being single

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You know the last few few years the last five years. I really didn't care that

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not much because

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I was spending all my time working and seeing my kids and

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you know because divorce and I was going back and forth to the states and stuff and

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and uh, that's and then when I got out of that

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you know, I mean i'd been

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Went on it. I mean I I had a couple so kevin go back to what are you looking for?

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Tell me what you're looking for. Um

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Loving faithful

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Adventurous to uh to an extent. I mean i'm not

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A big mountain climbing person or hiking but I am a big mountain person woods

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uh nature person

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I like boogie boarding in hawaii in the winter my I got a son and daughter that live there

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When i've talked to all the women online I spell it out and everything like that and I

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I've been doing it for so long that i'm kind of discouraged about doing it anymore. You know what i'm saying?

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Yeah, well, I will say this to you and this is true for all of you guys

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the more clear you can sound and the more decisive you can

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Sound like in the same way, when you start talking to women, you don't want to hear

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all about their past and their trauma and their drama, right?

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Like you can tune out really fast.

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And if people ask you like, Hey, what do you like to do?

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Have an answer ready.

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Like, you know, and like, don't bring up the past.

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And so Kevin, if you get to section four and you can get to the online dating

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video, that teaching that Christopher's talking about, it's, it doesn't just

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apply for online dates.

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It really applies for how you start talking to people and what's appropriate

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conversation.

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What's not appropriate.

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How do you text, how do you do the video date?

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How do you get to a live date?

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So I promise that will help you kind of get along.

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Like, I want to seem like women are in the same way.

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You guys, what I'm hearing is you guys want a woman that's fun and adventurous,

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but also loves God.

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And women want men who we feel like they're healed.

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Like they've done their work and they're ready to go.

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You know what I mean?

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And they're not going to bring their past with them, so to speak.

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Right.

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Um, okay.

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So what else might you be looking?

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Are, do you have an age range?

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Do you care about looks?

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Do you, are you willing to long distance?

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And are you set on, do you need her to come to you?

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Well, obviously I'm willing to long distance.

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Don't need her to come to me necessarily.

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The company that I worked for for 21 years just sold out.

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So, but I am in a union that usually places me with jobs, but right now I'm in

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between jobs.

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It would be easy for me to move, uh, physically, financially, not so much right

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now, but yeah.

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How would you feel about, are all your kiddos and grands in Alaska though?

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No, I have two kids here in Alaska with six of my grandkids, two kids in Hawaii.

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And one in Idaho, but he's in jail.

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So, um, I am, I am a Northern, I'm a Northern Northwestern type of guy.

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I love it.

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Thank you for sharing all that.

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Awesome.

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I want to make sure I get to everybody.

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So I'm going to keep going.

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Um, Chris, you've been sitting here looking full of attention and polite.

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And so I'm going to go, I'm going to jump to you.

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So talk to me.

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Tell me where you are at in the heart work and watching all the videos.

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Are you ready to get out there?

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And if you are, start telling me about yourself.

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Yeah.

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So I am in, in the heart work.

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I'm in the third week of the heart work and I've identified one issue I need to

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work through.

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Yep.

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Um, and so I'm, you know, I'm in the process that, um, and this has really

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been a great experience.

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I actually found this program through two women that I met that had, that have gone

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through it.

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Um, you know, not too far away from me.

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I live in Charlotte, um, North Carolina, and I literally moved here knowing

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nobody, the Lord told me to move here.

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I was obedient and, um, I found a great spirit filled church that I really like.

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It's like little Bethel.

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Um, and, um, so I've been meeting, you know, they have a lot of activities and so

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I've been meeting a lot of people there.

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They do equipping and, um, so it's really been a good experience for me.

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Um, I, I'm willing to relocate to some locations.

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So fortunately this is halfway between my two daughters.

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I have two daughters and eight grandchildren.

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Um, this just happens to be halfway between my two grandchildren and I'm also a

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geologist and the geology in North Carolina is like really complicated.

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It's not like the Rockies of it.

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There's a lot of women in your area.

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How old are you?

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So I'm 62.

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There's 70, there's 70 people in the Raleigh slash Charlotte group.

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How many?

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Yeah.

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Are you guys doing social stuff together?

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Are they planning stuff?

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Um, I haven't seen a lot of stuff planned so far, but I haven't been in, I haven't

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been here that long.

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Okay.

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Well, yeah, you just got here.

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So do you feel ready to start dating yet?

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Or do you feel like you want to get through a little bit more of the heart work

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first?

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Well, I'll tell you, I'll tell you what my experience has been.

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I've been married twice.

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I mean, I, I've been single now for 17 years.

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My second marriage was super short, a big mistake, but I learned from that.

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And so just short of two years ago now, for the longest time, all I ever heard

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from the Lord was Psalms 46, 10, which is be still and know I am God.

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And, um, so just short of two years.

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there now. He told me and verified through a dream that I had from him that he wants me to go and

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find a wife. So it's been an interesting experience because I haven't met with that many women and

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the women that I've actually gotten to the point of you know we both want to meet

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and we we met more than you know two or three times. All those experiences,

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God revealed something to me about myself that I needed to work on.

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I love that. Yeah. That sounds good.

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So it's like I think of it as like the final preparation for whatever he has in store.

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So I have worked through some things and I have you know a close circle that is kind of you know

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working with me and helping me, encouraging me and keeping me on track. I love it. I love it.

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So what are you looking for in a woman? So mine's actually written out in a form of a prayer.

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I've written four faith-based books. I'm a writer.

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Oh my gosh, wait. I gotta add that in. Writer written.

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Do you want it? Is it written down that you want to just cut and paste it into the chat so I can

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grab it? Or do you want to just tell it to me? Well I'll tell it to you and then I'll try and

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cut and paste it when I get off. You know when somebody else's turn I'll try and cut and paste

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it in here for you. So here's my prayer. It says, Lord thank you for this day. I pray that you will

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lead me to a spouse who's on fire for you. I pray for iron shepherds iron and someone whom I'm

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attracted to. Someone free from addictions and who's free of significant financial burdens.

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Someone who's filled with the fruit of spirit. Someone with a compatible personality and common

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interest. Someone. All right hold on, hold on, hold on. I need you to stop for a second.

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When you say attracted to, what is attracted to you mean? Do you have a look or do you have a

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So that's kind of weird because you know I'll give you a specific example. So I was never

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attracted to red-headed women and I found one. I went out with her for three months.

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What was it? What kind of woman? Red-headed. Oh red-headed. I was never really attracted to them

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but I found one. I went out with her for three months before that blew up. So no I don't have

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a particular look. I mean there are some discriminators. You know like most people

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have certain things I really don't like. What don't you really like?

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Don't assume I know. I don't think I would be happy with a woman with a New York accent.

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No you don't have a New York accent. Well you haven't heard me say coffee.

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Well I mean I mean it's just a little bit I don't know. Well I've been in Nashville for 20 years so

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it's been reined in. It's been reined in but I feel you because like that New York, New Jersey

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like or Boston accents super thick. I got you. Yeah. Or is it more that personality style maybe?

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So I'm a big psychology nerd. So yes I am totally into the Myers-Briggs personalities and

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you know I click really well with somebody with a very similar personality to mine.

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What is yours? I'm an ENFJ. I'm an ENFP. Yeah I mean exactly. Yeah so like yeah I would get along

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really well with an ENFP. Yeah. And if I meet somebody with one of those two I mean we're like

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two peas in a pod. I mean it's just you know super easy to talk to and relate to each other. See this

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is so good. It's helped me. Okay what are some of your interests? So I'm really into nature. Like

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God communicates with to me through nature. I'm a geologist obviously. I love the mountains and

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the rocks and the faults and the folds and the fossils. I like to hike and I'm an outdoorsy

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person. I like most sports but I'm real clumsy. I'm not really a great athlete but I do enjoy

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playing different sports. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. This is awesome.

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Chris I don't know if I knew you that well but I'm so excited to get to know you. Thank you.

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So just so you know I've been a part of Jackie's program for five years. I was a member first

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then I came on staff while I was working at a non-profit and then I stepped down from that

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role and then I've been in seminary. So I took a little time off from this community, met my person.

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We got married in October and Jackie

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Jackie asked me to come on back on the teaching team.

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So I'm just teaching.

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I teach in the co-ed classes.

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You'll see me there.

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And sometimes I will pinch in and help here.

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So I'm excited to get to know you.

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And as Christopher said in the beginning,

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Jackie does, and she might be,

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I think she's re-filming a lot of them.

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She's re-filming a lot of them.

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So I don't know if she's gonna re-film my dating one.

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I don't know.

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But, and so we had just had a class.

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I don't know if all of you guys go to it,

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but last Thursday night when we did an online dating one,

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where I talked about all things dating,

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really initial dating.

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So Kevin and Chris and anybody else knew,

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I think all the replays are available for you guys as well

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in the app.

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And so that's what last Thursday's teaching was on,

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just was all on that.

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And okay.

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So is there anything else you wanted to tell me about you?

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I cut off your prayer because you were describing things

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that I'm like,

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I just want to make sure I know what he's talking about,

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but I didn't mean to do that.

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So if you want to finish reading it,

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I'll let you finish reading it.

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I don't want you to think I'm being rude.

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Someone who's healthy and passionate

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and enjoys deep, meaningful conversation.

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You're not being rude.

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Deep, meaningful conversations, as well as humor.

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Someone who's honest and trustworthy

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and easy to talk to.

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And I said, leave me in your way

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and wisdom to the right person for me.

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Thank you, Lord.

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Awesome. All right.

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I got it.

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That was so good.

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Chris, it was fun getting to know you now.

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Look forward to it.

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So I usually come on Monday nights, probably once a month.

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So I'll do it once a month.

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David does it probably twice a month.

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And Mike, who is not here tonight,

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usually does it once a month.

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So there's just, there's usually a mixture of us.

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Okay.

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Thank you.

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You bet.

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Andy, dude, I see you.

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Where did I put your name?

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Here we go.

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Andy.

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Okay.

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Andy, do I know you?

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00:27:01.360 --> 00:27:02.200
Have I?

479
00:27:02.200 --> 00:27:03.200
Oh, and I do know you.

480
00:27:03.200 --> 00:27:05.120
You've got the girlfriend from like,

481
00:27:05.120 --> 00:27:08.880
that's like long distance, super long distance, right?

482
00:27:08.880 --> 00:27:09.800
Yep.

483
00:27:09.800 --> 00:27:10.840
How's that going?

484
00:27:11.760 --> 00:27:12.600
I'm good.

485
00:27:12.600 --> 00:27:13.600
Yeah, I did have a little bit

486
00:27:13.600 --> 00:27:18.080
of another culture shock argument recently

487
00:27:18.080 --> 00:27:19.240
that we worked through.

488
00:27:20.240 --> 00:27:25.240
This time it had to do with like exes

489
00:27:26.320 --> 00:27:27.320
because here's the thing.

490
00:27:27.320 --> 00:27:32.320
Like the last week I ran into my ex-girlfriend

491
00:27:32.320 --> 00:27:34.760
and she introduced me to her husband

492
00:27:34.760 --> 00:27:37.840
and she's like pregnant with their first child.

493
00:27:37.840 --> 00:27:38.680
You know, I was, you know,

494
00:27:38.680 --> 00:27:40.400
I was very happy for her and everything.

495
00:27:40.400 --> 00:27:44.920
And, you know, I happen to be okay with, you know,

496
00:27:44.920 --> 00:27:46.760
being friends with an ex, you know,

497
00:27:46.760 --> 00:27:49.640
if it's like under certain conditions

498
00:27:49.640 --> 00:27:51.480
where it's like, you know, safe to be, you know,

499
00:27:51.480 --> 00:27:53.840
it's like she's married and everything.

500
00:27:53.840 --> 00:27:55.800
And so at least, you know, being friendly,

501
00:27:55.800 --> 00:27:59.560
I don't have to like necessarily go seek her out

502
00:27:59.560 --> 00:28:00.400
or anything.

503
00:28:00.400 --> 00:28:01.240
But if I happen to see her,

504
00:28:01.240 --> 00:28:02.920
I'm not gonna like ignore her or anything.

505
00:28:02.920 --> 00:28:06.440
So that's American culture for you.

506
00:28:06.440 --> 00:28:07.280
Yeah.

507
00:28:07.280 --> 00:28:12.160
But Philippine culture is once you break up, you're gone.

508
00:28:12.160 --> 00:28:15.960
Like you're like, you become strangers.

509
00:28:15.960 --> 00:28:17.760
Like even if you parted on good terms,

510
00:28:17.760 --> 00:28:20.560
like you never speak to the person ever again

511
00:28:20.560 --> 00:28:22.040
in your whole life.

512
00:28:22.040 --> 00:28:23.720
And that's what their culture is like.

513
00:28:23.720 --> 00:28:24.960
So if they run into them,

514
00:28:24.960 --> 00:28:26.520
they just pretend they don't know each other

515
00:28:26.520 --> 00:28:27.720
and they keep walking?

516
00:28:28.600 --> 00:28:29.680
Probably.

517
00:28:29.680 --> 00:28:30.800
Wow.

518
00:28:30.800 --> 00:28:34.000
So keep that in mind.

519
00:28:34.000 --> 00:28:36.400
So was she jealous?

520
00:28:36.400 --> 00:28:39.280
So I told her that what happened, you know,

521
00:28:39.280 --> 00:28:40.640
with the thing and I said I was, you know,

522
00:28:40.640 --> 00:28:42.440
happy for her or anything like that.

523
00:28:42.440 --> 00:28:44.960
And she like got really mad.

524
00:28:45.200 --> 00:28:46.800
And of course it's always worse

525
00:28:46.800 --> 00:28:49.240
when you're dealing with text messages.

526
00:28:49.240 --> 00:28:50.320
And-

527
00:28:50.320 --> 00:28:53.000
Do you guys speak the same language?

528
00:28:53.000 --> 00:28:55.280
Yeah, she's fluent in English.

529
00:28:55.280 --> 00:28:57.040
I mean, her native language is Tagalog,

530
00:28:57.040 --> 00:28:58.880
but she's fluent in English.

531
00:28:58.880 --> 00:29:02.400
Okay, so do you guys mostly text or do you mostly FaceTime?

532
00:29:03.400 --> 00:29:06.120
Well, unfortunately we mostly text

533
00:29:06.120 --> 00:29:08.520
because of our busy schedules,

534
00:29:08.520 --> 00:29:10.120
but I'm trying to change it.

535
00:29:10.120 --> 00:29:13.560
So at least I encouraged her to maybe like

536
00:29:13.560 --> 00:29:16.680
send voice messages or video messages

537
00:29:16.680 --> 00:29:18.720
more than text if possible,

538
00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:20.960
because we keep having problems with the text.

539
00:29:20.960 --> 00:29:22.680
Well, because you're already,

540
00:29:22.680 --> 00:29:25.080
because you're losing communication.

541
00:29:25.080 --> 00:29:27.640
You're losing 80% of the communication.

542
00:29:27.640 --> 00:29:30.520
You're losing tone, inflection, body language.

543
00:29:30.520 --> 00:29:31.360
So that's-

544
00:29:31.360 --> 00:29:32.200
Yeah.

545
00:29:32.200 --> 00:29:33.320
So adding culture to it.

546
00:29:33.320 --> 00:29:36.600
Have you down, you guys should do the Marco Polo app.

547
00:29:37.480 --> 00:29:38.440
Marco Polo?

548
00:29:38.440 --> 00:29:39.440
Oh, I never heard of that.

549
00:29:39.440 --> 00:29:43.280
Yeah, Marco Polo, maybe Danger Dave,

550
00:29:43.920 --> 00:29:45.360
is gonna put it in the chat for you

551
00:29:45.360 --> 00:29:47.720
on how to find Marco Polo.

552
00:29:47.720 --> 00:29:50.800
It's, I mean, obviously young people use Snapchat

553
00:29:50.800 --> 00:29:52.360
on social media the same way,

554
00:29:52.360 --> 00:29:55.800
but Marco Polo, like Brian and I have been Marco Polo-ing

555
00:29:55.800 --> 00:29:56.840
since we first met.

556
00:29:56.840 --> 00:29:59.800
So we literally have some of our first videos.

557
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.360
that we did with each other and it's perfect when you're not on the same time zone in the same

558
00:30:05.360 --> 00:30:11.600
schedule you can leave a quick video blurb they do a video blurb so your video you're videoing

559
00:30:11.600 --> 00:30:19.440
back and forth so you can see and hear and like what we have on we have whatsapp which is which

560
00:30:19.440 --> 00:30:24.560
also does that stuff i know but the problem with whatsapp is you're not capturing like real

561
00:30:25.280 --> 00:30:31.440
the from what i remember with whatsapp you can leave a video but it's not the same i promise

562
00:30:31.440 --> 00:30:38.800
you like in marco polo you can like send thumbs up you can send hearts to it you can write well

563
00:30:38.800 --> 00:30:44.080
you can do all you can do all that same stuff in whatsapp so then why don't you guys leave

564
00:30:44.080 --> 00:30:52.320
videos to each other um well i mean it's just a matter of like um well i mean i i do it more than

565
00:30:52.320 --> 00:30:58.160
her um but she'll send me pictures and some some videos like of if she went like hiking or

566
00:30:58.160 --> 00:31:03.840
something she'll send me videos you just you guys need to get in the habit you need to get you need

567
00:31:03.840 --> 00:31:10.880
to have more verbal conversations andy you yeah i totally agree about proposing to her like that

568
00:31:10.880 --> 00:31:16.960
really concerns me that you guys don't have enough verbal conversations and you're thinking about

569
00:31:16.960 --> 00:31:24.400
proposing yeah i mean i know that we've like when we're in person like it's constant you know

570
00:31:24.400 --> 00:31:28.160
face to face but right but how long how many weeks are you going between each visit

571
00:31:29.920 --> 00:31:37.520
well i mean um so the first visit was for a one week and um and and then um and when was that

572
00:31:37.520 --> 00:31:45.200
visit that was in um in july and then the second visit um the second visit was like around christmas

573
00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:51.040
time and that was like two weeks um but but you're going months you realize you're going months

574
00:31:51.040 --> 00:31:56.800
without face-to-face contact so you need to increase this is what this is what you guys and if

575
00:31:57.440 --> 00:32:04.160
what i'm telling andy is true if she's from alaska to california it's the same it's the same applies

576
00:32:04.160 --> 00:32:10.640
you need to do as much video live conversation as much as possible you want to stop using texting

577
00:32:10.640 --> 00:32:18.720
as your major form of communication you're you you you lose so much in translation and that's

578
00:32:18.720 --> 00:32:26.400
american to american let alone different cultures um and so that's that's going to be my biggest so

579
00:32:26.400 --> 00:32:34.560
did you guys and i will say this to andy when you guys hit a snag by text do not solve it by text

580
00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:43.520
say we're going to table this conversation until we can talk live because yeah i cannot solve it

581
00:32:43.520 --> 00:32:49.200
on a text i have had situations where like i'm begging her like please let's do a video chat

582
00:32:49.200 --> 00:32:54.640
but she's just too angry to at that moment um that concerns me that oh my gosh that really

583
00:32:54.640 --> 00:33:01.280
concerns me andy like you want but then but then later she but then later she like does it

584
00:33:01.280 --> 00:33:08.400
and we make out how much later like i mean after like does she need to de-escalate

585
00:33:09.040 --> 00:33:14.480
well i don't know like like after a few hours of like back and forth through text eventually i get

586
00:33:14.480 --> 00:33:19.200
her to agree to video and then okay so what you need to do instead of doing the back and forth

587
00:33:19.200 --> 00:33:26.320
you need to say i'm not texting anymore till we can talk live and you just stop texting yeah they

588
00:33:26.320 --> 00:33:31.520
will keep texting if you keep texting but you just say i love you we are not doing this

589
00:33:31.520 --> 00:33:40.000
conversation by text pick up the phone and call me and just stop texting her yeah but what if

590
00:33:40.000 --> 00:33:44.880
she's the one who's like saying let's stop talking right now because she's just angry at that moment

591
00:33:44.880 --> 00:33:52.640
well then you stop talking okay you're not going to fix it by texting you're not and because if

592
00:33:52.640 --> 00:34:00.080
you marry her she's going to be in your face all the time and so when you guys get mad at each

593
00:34:00.080 --> 00:34:05.600
other like you got to figure it out like brian and i got mad at each other yesterday i took a

594
00:34:05.600 --> 00:34:09.760
one hour walk downtown i'm like i gotta leave the house and i just took an hour walk do you

595
00:34:09.760 --> 00:34:14.719
know what i'm saying but like i'm not saying it's not going to happen because if someone's upset and

596
00:34:14.719 --> 00:34:19.840
they need to de-escalate we need to give them a chance to de-escalate we can't go begging for

597
00:34:19.840 --> 00:34:28.080
them but yeah but i want i really want to see you increase your video time with her do you get on a

598
00:34:28.080 --> 00:34:34.320
video for a long conversation at least once a week yeah usually unless we're like our schedules are

599
00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:38.560
really maxed out see that's that's part of the problem is because we're both very busy people

600
00:34:38.560 --> 00:34:44.719
and that's the main reason why we don't have a chance to okay i know that but you have to make

601
00:34:44.719 --> 00:34:50.080
this a priority if you're going to propose to this person across the world i'm just trying to

602
00:34:50.080 --> 00:34:55.360
protect you andy yeah i mean and i i push for it it's just you know it's mostly on her end like

603
00:34:55.360 --> 00:34:59.360
it's up to her if she wants okay so tell me why do you feel

604
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.000
comfortable proposing to her then?

605
00:35:04.400 --> 00:35:05.560
Well, I mean, well, first of all,

606
00:35:05.560 --> 00:35:07.980
we've been together for like 11 months.

607
00:35:10.300 --> 00:35:11.920
Do you feel like your relationship,

608
00:35:11.920 --> 00:35:15.200
have you guys thought about doing Simbis together?

609
00:35:15.200 --> 00:35:18.160
It's actually required by law in her country.

610
00:35:18.160 --> 00:35:20.760
So are you gonna do it before you propose?

611
00:35:21.660 --> 00:35:24.880
Well, I mean, the Simbis is for when you're engaged.

612
00:35:24.880 --> 00:35:26.960
Nope, Brian and I did it pre,

613
00:35:26.960 --> 00:35:28.880
most people do it pre-engagement.

614
00:35:28.880 --> 00:35:30.640
It's a great time to do it pre-engagement

615
00:35:30.640 --> 00:35:31.920
because this way, if you have to break up,

616
00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:34.280
you don't have to make a big fanfare about it.

617
00:35:34.280 --> 00:35:36.240
Nobody needs to know.

618
00:35:36.240 --> 00:35:38.060
Okay, but even if we do it before,

619
00:35:38.060 --> 00:35:40.560
then we also have to do it after too.

620
00:35:40.560 --> 00:35:41.400
Okay.

621
00:35:42.240 --> 00:35:43.920
It's kind of repetitive, it seems like.

622
00:35:43.920 --> 00:35:46.200
I just wanna make sure you're getting yourself

623
00:35:46.200 --> 00:35:48.240
into a healthy situation.

624
00:35:48.240 --> 00:35:50.640
I don't have time to do a whole one therapy session

625
00:35:50.640 --> 00:35:52.660
with you, I have to move on.

626
00:35:52.660 --> 00:35:56.960
But guys, tell me if I'm being too harsh.

627
00:35:57.000 --> 00:35:59.960
Am I showing appropriate concern?

628
00:35:59.960 --> 00:36:01.160
You're in the ballpark, Rizzo, you're good.

629
00:36:01.160 --> 00:36:03.440
Yes, I think so too.

630
00:36:03.440 --> 00:36:05.200
Okay. I hate texting.

631
00:36:05.200 --> 00:36:06.880
Okay. It causes problems.

632
00:36:06.880 --> 00:36:09.000
You've been very gentle and kind, you're good.

633
00:36:09.000 --> 00:36:10.400
Okay, all right.

634
00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:13.200
We love you, Andy, we want the very best for you.

635
00:36:13.200 --> 00:36:18.200
Okay, Tim, are you ready for me to interview you?

636
00:36:19.120 --> 00:36:20.320
Sure, why not?

637
00:36:20.320 --> 00:36:23.280
As long as my connection holds up.

638
00:36:23.280 --> 00:36:25.080
All right, well, that's why I'm going fast,

639
00:36:25.080 --> 00:36:27.320
but I've also seen you camera ready for a bit too,

640
00:36:27.320 --> 00:36:29.440
so I'm trying to be mindful of that.

641
00:36:29.440 --> 00:36:30.280
Okay.

642
00:36:30.280 --> 00:36:32.480
Tell me where are you in the heart healing

643
00:36:32.480 --> 00:36:34.320
and watching all the videos?

644
00:36:36.280 --> 00:36:38.560
I have gotten to chapter six

645
00:36:38.560 --> 00:36:42.080
and I have like zero time for things right now

646
00:36:42.080 --> 00:36:43.920
cause I'm working two jobs.

647
00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:46.720
I am looking to get out of one job

648
00:36:46.720 --> 00:36:48.080
by increasing the other job,

649
00:36:48.080 --> 00:36:50.640
but the slow season,

650
00:36:50.640 --> 00:36:53.720
it's still kind of the slow season right now at that job.

651
00:36:53.720 --> 00:36:54.760
So.

652
00:36:55.440 --> 00:36:58.640
Do you feel like I'm healthy?

653
00:36:58.640 --> 00:37:00.440
I really am ready to start dating

654
00:37:00.440 --> 00:37:03.680
or I need to keep working on my heart stuff

655
00:37:03.680 --> 00:37:05.040
as I can slip it in.

656
00:37:05.040 --> 00:37:06.800
Where are you on your readiness?

657
00:37:10.000 --> 00:37:12.440
First answer that comes to mind is halfway ready.

658
00:37:14.680 --> 00:37:16.520
Well, I guess the second question I would ask,

659
00:37:16.520 --> 00:37:18.840
and you guys like Brian had three jobs when he met me

660
00:37:18.840 --> 00:37:20.960
and he was three and a half hours away.

661
00:37:20.960 --> 00:37:22.360
He made time.

662
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:25.960
So that's why I say to you, Andy,

663
00:37:25.960 --> 00:37:28.680
if people love you and they're pursuing you,

664
00:37:28.680 --> 00:37:29.760
they'll make the time for you.

665
00:37:29.760 --> 00:37:33.320
So, but Tim, do you have time to,

666
00:37:33.320 --> 00:37:34.840
I'm not taking questions yet, Hunter.

667
00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:36.640
We're just doing one person at a time.

668
00:37:36.640 --> 00:37:38.160
I'll get you, but.

669
00:37:38.160 --> 00:37:39.720
So do you feel like you have the time

670
00:37:39.720 --> 00:37:43.360
to commit to invest in somebody right now?

671
00:37:43.800 --> 00:37:45.640
Are you thinking about that question?

672
00:37:45.640 --> 00:37:46.640
Yeah, yeah, I'm thinking.

673
00:37:46.640 --> 00:37:49.520
I don't answer questions quickly.

674
00:37:49.520 --> 00:37:50.360
Okay, no, no, no.

675
00:37:50.360 --> 00:37:52.960
I wanted to make sure I didn't lose you, that's all.

676
00:37:54.560 --> 00:37:55.840
No, no, I'm still here.

677
00:37:59.280 --> 00:38:00.120
And your answer could be, I'm not sure.

678
00:38:00.120 --> 00:38:01.240
I could definitely make some

679
00:38:01.240 --> 00:38:03.600
for a real person in front of me.

680
00:38:03.600 --> 00:38:04.440
Yeah.

681
00:38:04.440 --> 00:38:07.400
I don't have a lot, but I'm not sure.

682
00:38:07.400 --> 00:38:09.440
I don't have a lot, but I'm not sure.

683
00:38:09.440 --> 00:38:11.480
I don't have a lot, but I'm not sure.

684
00:38:11.560 --> 00:38:14.480
I don't have a lot, but I can make some.

685
00:38:14.480 --> 00:38:17.800
It's not like I have absolutely zero social life.

686
00:38:17.800 --> 00:38:19.000
I am in Minnesota.

687
00:38:22.640 --> 00:38:25.080
Easier to date in person than right now.

688
00:38:26.560 --> 00:38:29.280
Yeah, or lots of phone calls.

689
00:38:30.200 --> 00:38:33.560
I have tons of time for phone calls at one of my jobs

690
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:37.520
because I'm a tow operator

691
00:38:37.520 --> 00:38:41.000
and our tow zone is too small for our staff.

692
00:38:41.840 --> 00:38:44.840
So I do a lot of sitting around for four hours a shift.

693
00:38:44.840 --> 00:38:45.760
How old are you?

694
00:38:47.800 --> 00:38:49.040
32.

695
00:38:49.040 --> 00:38:50.800
32, man, you're a little puppy.

696
00:38:50.800 --> 00:38:52.400
Okay, are you divorced?

697
00:38:52.400 --> 00:38:53.240
Never married?

698
00:38:53.240 --> 00:38:55.680
Kids, no kids, want kids?

699
00:38:55.680 --> 00:38:56.680
Never married.

700
00:39:05.440 --> 00:39:07.240
I'm putting not sure about kids.

701
00:39:07.760 --> 00:39:09.760
That's what I'm feeling.

702
00:39:17.440 --> 00:39:20.800
I'm becoming more open to it as time passes.

703
00:39:21.720 --> 00:39:22.720
So.

704
00:39:22.720 --> 00:39:23.560
Yep.

705
00:39:25.560 --> 00:39:26.400
Okay.

706
00:39:28.560 --> 00:39:29.800
What are you looking for?

707
00:39:29.800 --> 00:39:30.800
What do you like to do?

708
00:39:30.800 --> 00:39:32.200
Tell us what you like to do.

709
00:39:33.920 --> 00:39:36.720
Adventure in many forms.

710
00:39:37.480 --> 00:39:40.320
I like getting out and doing things.

711
00:39:40.320 --> 00:39:43.880
Mount biking, snowboarding, cross country skiing.

712
00:39:45.200 --> 00:39:47.720
Recently had a friend get me into pickleball.

713
00:39:53.000 --> 00:39:54.400
Metal concerts.

714
00:39:55.720 --> 00:39:57.280
You get the gist.

715
00:39:57.280 --> 00:39:58.120
I got it.

716
00:39:58.120 --> 00:39:59.040
What you looking for?

717
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:10.000
A partner in adventure and cuddling.

718
00:40:10.000 --> 00:40:11.840
Must be cuddly.

719
00:40:11.840 --> 00:40:12.840
That is hilarious.

720
00:40:12.840 --> 00:40:17.440
So physical touch is one of your love languages.

721
00:40:17.440 --> 00:40:19.880
I am an oxytocin junkie.

722
00:40:19.880 --> 00:40:26.240
Now, is oxytocin a lot of touching?

723
00:40:26.240 --> 00:40:27.240
It's the cuddle hormone.

724
00:40:27.240 --> 00:40:29.040
Oh, the cuddle hormone?

725
00:40:29.040 --> 00:40:30.040
That's so funny.

726
00:40:30.040 --> 00:40:31.040
That is hilarious.

727
00:40:31.040 --> 00:40:32.040
See, and I'm a...

728
00:40:32.040 --> 00:40:33.040
What do they call it?

729
00:40:33.040 --> 00:40:34.120
Like, I need brain sex.

730
00:40:34.120 --> 00:40:36.320
I think that's Saseo.

731
00:40:36.320 --> 00:40:40.760
There's a name for the intellectual stimulation.

732
00:40:40.760 --> 00:40:43.480
Okay, that's good.

733
00:40:43.480 --> 00:40:48.320
Is there anything else you want to tell me about yourself?

734
00:40:48.320 --> 00:40:55.760
I don't do well with open-ended questions.

735
00:40:55.760 --> 00:40:58.400
Okay, do not worry about it, Tammy.

736
00:40:58.400 --> 00:41:02.520
You know what?

737
00:41:02.520 --> 00:41:04.000
You're also cutting out.

738
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:10.080
So if you want to type some of this in the chat, and then I'll cut and paste it over

739
00:41:10.080 --> 00:41:15.080
to my summary, because I'm typing very fast right now, so I'm going to clean all of this

740
00:41:15.080 --> 00:41:18.280
up before I send it to Jackie and David.

741
00:41:18.280 --> 00:41:19.280
So feel free.

742
00:41:19.280 --> 00:41:22.440
Okay, I don't know what you missed, but I should put in the chat.

743
00:41:22.440 --> 00:41:26.040
Oh, if there was anything that you didn't get, because you said it's hard for you to

744
00:41:26.040 --> 00:41:29.320
do open-ended questions or kind of think on the spot.

745
00:41:29.320 --> 00:41:35.000
As I'm talking to other people, if you think of things you wished you said, or you want

746
00:41:35.000 --> 00:41:39.640
me to know about you and or what you're looking for, you can add it to the chat, and then

747
00:41:39.640 --> 00:41:42.920
I'll cut and paste it with what you've already told me.

748
00:41:42.920 --> 00:41:43.920
Okay.

749
00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:46.720
Does that make sense?

750
00:41:46.720 --> 00:41:47.720
Yeah.

751
00:41:47.720 --> 00:41:48.720
Yeah.

752
00:41:48.720 --> 00:41:49.720
Okay, perfect.

753
00:41:49.720 --> 00:41:50.720
Perfect.

754
00:41:50.720 --> 00:41:51.720
Okay.

755
00:41:51.720 --> 00:41:58.160
David, I see you're on camera now.

756
00:41:58.160 --> 00:42:00.760
So did you already put a summary in the thing?

757
00:42:00.760 --> 00:42:06.360
No, I sent another message that's saying that that was not really possible.

758
00:42:06.360 --> 00:42:07.360
So that's why I'm on camera.

759
00:42:07.360 --> 00:42:08.360
Oh, okay.

760
00:42:08.360 --> 00:42:11.440
So are you going to tell me some stuff right now?

761
00:42:11.440 --> 00:42:16.360
Well, unfortunately, I came in 10 minutes after you already gave the intro of the whole

762
00:42:16.360 --> 00:42:17.360
deal.

763
00:42:17.360 --> 00:42:18.360
Okay.

764
00:42:18.360 --> 00:42:19.360
So here's what I'm...

765
00:42:19.360 --> 00:42:22.200
Do you want me to give you a summary of what I'm trying to do for everybody?

766
00:42:22.200 --> 00:42:23.200
Yeah.

767
00:42:23.200 --> 00:42:24.200
Okay.

768
00:42:24.200 --> 00:42:27.760
So the first question I'm asking is, where is everybody in their heart work?

769
00:42:27.760 --> 00:42:29.400
Like are you just starting?

770
00:42:29.400 --> 00:42:31.560
Are you almost done?

771
00:42:31.560 --> 00:42:32.560
Are you...

772
00:42:32.560 --> 00:42:36.040
And like really letting us know how ready you are to start dating.

773
00:42:36.040 --> 00:42:40.600
I know you've been in a while, so you've probably have already finished the heart work.

774
00:42:40.600 --> 00:42:42.520
So that's like the first thing.

775
00:42:42.520 --> 00:42:45.920
Then you're summarizing a little bit about yourself, your age, where you live.

776
00:42:45.920 --> 00:42:49.200
I know you've personally told me this, but now I'm typing it all up.

777
00:42:49.200 --> 00:42:53.200
Some things that interest you, are you divorced, single, never married, widowed?

778
00:42:53.200 --> 00:42:54.200
Do you have kids?

779
00:42:54.200 --> 00:42:55.200
Do you want kids?

780
00:42:55.200 --> 00:42:57.560
Can you relocate, not relocate?

781
00:42:57.560 --> 00:42:59.940
And so you're telling us a little bit about yourself.

782
00:42:59.940 --> 00:43:03.320
So I'm putting together kind of a little summary, and then you're telling me a little bit about

783
00:43:03.320 --> 00:43:05.160
what you're looking for.

784
00:43:05.160 --> 00:43:08.240
So heart healing, you have finished, correct?

785
00:43:08.240 --> 00:43:11.320
Yeah, I've gone through the heart work.

786
00:43:11.320 --> 00:43:19.320
I mean, I still am in other communities that kind of focus on that as well, but yeah, not

787
00:43:19.320 --> 00:43:20.320
just this community.

788
00:43:20.320 --> 00:43:24.960
Okay, so remind me how old you are.

789
00:43:24.960 --> 00:43:25.960
A young 51.

790
00:43:25.960 --> 00:43:26.960
I love that.

791
00:43:26.960 --> 00:43:33.560
I like to tell people, I'm too old to be young, but too young to be old.

792
00:43:33.560 --> 00:43:38.520
And you're in what side of Pennsylvania are you, middle, east, west?

793
00:43:38.720 --> 00:43:42.720
East, so I'm only like maybe less than a two hour drive from New York City.

794
00:43:42.720 --> 00:43:44.720
Oh yeah, that's right.

795
00:43:44.720 --> 00:43:45.720
So yeah.

796
00:43:45.720 --> 00:43:46.720
Yeah.

797
00:43:46.720 --> 00:43:47.720
Okay.

798
00:43:47.720 --> 00:43:50.320
Are you never married?

799
00:43:50.320 --> 00:43:51.320
I forget.

800
00:43:51.320 --> 00:43:55.720
Yes, I'm single, never married.

801
00:43:55.720 --> 00:44:02.480
I guess, I mean, I was, I guess I was hoping to be married by now, but I had two things

802
00:44:02.480 --> 00:44:06.280
that happened in my life I was not expecting, like my father passing away three days after

803
00:44:06.280 --> 00:44:07.880
I turned 38.

804
00:44:07.880 --> 00:44:10.320
And so that sent me into a depression for about five years.

805
00:44:10.320 --> 00:44:15.720
And then the next four years I got stuck in a situationship that was very bad.

806
00:44:15.720 --> 00:44:19.320
And in the last year plus has been healing from that.

807
00:44:19.320 --> 00:44:20.320
So yeah.

808
00:44:20.320 --> 00:44:21.320
I understand.

809
00:44:21.320 --> 00:44:22.320
I understand.

810
00:44:22.320 --> 00:44:23.320
Okay.

811
00:44:23.320 --> 00:44:26.120
What are you, what do you like to do?

812
00:44:26.120 --> 00:44:31.880
Tell us some things you like to do.

813
00:44:31.880 --> 00:44:38.280
I like going for walks, hikes, you know, a little jogging, that kind of stuff.

814
00:44:38.280 --> 00:44:39.880
I need to get more consistent in it.

815
00:44:39.880 --> 00:44:43.800
So I'm glad spring is here.

816
00:44:43.800 --> 00:44:44.800
What else?

817
00:44:44.800 --> 00:44:50.480
Oh, I'm crazy about classic cars.

818
00:44:50.480 --> 00:44:52.120
I'm into all that kind of stuff.

819
00:44:52.120 --> 00:44:58.960
So I like to go to, you know, I don't do it often, but I like to go into like local junkyards

820
00:44:58.960 --> 00:44:59.560
that have...

821
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.360
The rare ones the only a few here and there have classic car sections. So but yeah

822
00:45:07.160 --> 00:45:09.800
Cool I like it. All right, what you looking for?

823
00:45:18.640 --> 00:45:22.040
Here we go this the on the spot stuff, um

824
00:45:23.360 --> 00:45:28.640
I'm looking for someone I guess obviously with in a reasonable age range of me

825
00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:30.800
but because I still

826
00:45:31.240 --> 00:45:35.840
You know, I may be 51, but you know, I feel like I'm still like 37

827
00:45:35.840 --> 00:45:41.320
That's like just in my physical health and then where I am mentally in my life and the space of life

828
00:45:41.320 --> 00:45:43.920
So so that would mean that

829
00:45:45.960 --> 00:45:50.440
Yeah, I want kids of my own so that means, you know, hopefully a

830
00:45:50.960 --> 00:45:54.520
Woman as young as like 39 is open to that, you know, even though I'm not

831
00:45:55.160 --> 00:46:02.360
Yeah, nine to like 46 she could probably more easily have kids it's not that she can't later it just gets harder

832
00:46:04.880 --> 00:46:06.360
Yeah

833
00:46:06.360 --> 00:46:07.480
Okay

834
00:46:07.480 --> 00:46:10.800
Is there see cuz I love it. Who is it?

835
00:46:10.880 --> 00:46:15.160
Chris was the one that honestly told me about the New York personality

836
00:46:15.360 --> 00:46:19.280
so you guys telling me what you don't like is also really helpful like

837
00:46:19.680 --> 00:46:23.960
You know Chris and Andy both mentioned there, you know 5-4 I'm 411

838
00:46:23.960 --> 00:46:28.000
There's some guys that just don't want to date short girls. I have a very athletic built

839
00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:33.360
I look like a soccer player slash gymnast some guys like a thin girl. I got a booty

840
00:46:33.360 --> 00:46:38.480
So, you know I'm saying so like if there's things you don't like David's laughing. Oh

841
00:46:39.320 --> 00:46:45.040
Yeah. Yeah to be honest. I'm looking for a girl. That's like at least like five five five six cuz I'm 511

842
00:46:45.640 --> 00:46:48.840
Um, yeah, I'm not into like a huge

843
00:46:49.880 --> 00:46:54.080
Difference. I know this is kind of weird. It's not like a huge thing. It's not like a deal breaker

844
00:46:54.160 --> 00:46:59.480
It's fair. It's not like a deal breaker, but it's kind of a preference and then I'm gonna think I'm gonna go

845
00:47:00.120 --> 00:47:02.720
Along with with someone else said here

846
00:47:04.880 --> 00:47:12.480
Yeah, I think Tim mentioned it but I'm definitely looking for someone that's that that's a cuddler once it gets that point

847
00:47:12.480 --> 00:47:14.480
I don't want to rush to that point, obviously

848
00:47:15.040 --> 00:47:17.040
Yeah

849
00:47:17.040 --> 00:47:19.640
That's a high level three thing and not be yeah

850
00:47:19.640 --> 00:47:24.680
I was gonna say and Tim you should probably take note of this too because some women have had

851
00:47:25.320 --> 00:47:28.800
Damage done in the past if men mention

852
00:47:29.320 --> 00:47:30.360
sex

853
00:47:30.360 --> 00:47:36.480
Too much cuddling too much like intimate foreplay II kind of stuff in those first and second dates

854
00:47:36.600 --> 00:47:39.600
It can be a little overwhelming and kind of triggery

855
00:47:40.120 --> 00:47:43.320
So just know that a lot of our you know

856
00:47:43.320 --> 00:47:48.560
a lot of women need to get past the first couple of dates before we talk about like

857
00:47:49.720 --> 00:47:54.480
Major cuddle fest. Do you know I'm saying like to your point we teach in discovery

858
00:47:55.760 --> 00:47:57.760
Yeah, perfect. Yeah

859
00:47:59.640 --> 00:48:01.640
People

860
00:48:02.360 --> 00:48:03.840
Perfect

861
00:48:03.840 --> 00:48:07.400
Perfect. I love that. Yeah, so real quick

862
00:48:07.840 --> 00:48:11.800
Even more important to me is I'm my biggest like language is spending time

863
00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:16.640
And that doesn't mean that we have to be super focused on each other like playing a board game together

864
00:48:17.160 --> 00:48:20.440
Like just being the same room. Yeah, it makes a difference for me

865
00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:26.880
Like if they want to be working on like a crossword puzzle, you know, I'm well, I'm you know

866
00:48:28.720 --> 00:48:35.560
You know figure something out or whatever or write something down, you know that counts so I got you

867
00:48:35.560 --> 00:48:41.920
I got you. Okay, I'm moving on. That was good David. Thank you. I appreciate that. All right, Hunter

868
00:48:43.280 --> 00:48:47.280
I know I know you have already done with the heart the heart work

869
00:48:48.160 --> 00:48:50.040
You live in upstate New York

870
00:48:50.040 --> 00:48:50.560
Yes

871
00:48:50.560 --> 00:48:56.920
And I'm I made my heart my decision would be to not be on an app and I'm asking why do I need to be?

872
00:48:56.920 --> 00:48:58.920
on an app because I

873
00:48:59.520 --> 00:49:04.560
Are you never you're never married right? No, do you want kids? Yes

874
00:49:06.320 --> 00:49:08.360
Remind me how old are you? Yes

875
00:49:10.160 --> 00:49:14.480
Remind me how old are you? Can you guess I'd like to say all right, there's a

876
00:49:15.640 --> 00:49:22.640
37 I said 35 I did pretty good nice. Oh, you're close and you can relocate, right?

877
00:49:23.640 --> 00:49:27.880
Get to know me because I don't last thing that's gonna be a yes or no

878
00:49:27.880 --> 00:49:30.480
I would say get to know it's okay if I say get to know me

879
00:49:30.600 --> 00:49:35.840
Yeah, because we it's gonna take time and other factors and this is it

880
00:49:36.960 --> 00:49:38.960
Yeah, I got you. Um

881
00:49:40.800 --> 00:49:42.720
What are you looking for

882
00:49:42.720 --> 00:49:44.600
Well three things in a woman

883
00:49:44.600 --> 00:49:49.160
I wanted to be literate and have common sense and can use your head and

884
00:49:49.560 --> 00:49:55.120
then I'd like to close intimate companionship can't follower one who be with me to the end and

885
00:49:55.400 --> 00:49:57.480
Then good looks you don't have to be

886
00:49:58.240 --> 00:50:00.240
modeling like like

887
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:06.360
Modeling or so like smoking one in a room a good looks and physical appearance would be a significant plus

888
00:50:06.800 --> 00:50:12.500
Yeah, well, you're a good-looking guy hunter. So I get you you want her you want her to be put together for you

889
00:50:12.600 --> 00:50:18.520
Yeah, like well not cleavage and beauty, but I mean I'm picking up what you're putting down

890
00:50:18.520 --> 00:50:25.160
I wasn't thinking that I wasn't thinking just it just to be a good plus in nice. Yeah. Yeah. What about some activities?

891
00:50:25.160 --> 00:50:28.640
What do you like to do? I like to go. I'm physical guy

892
00:50:28.640 --> 00:50:33.680
I'm going to a gym and tomorrow I got jiu-jitsu Mary. She would like to come my life

893
00:50:33.680 --> 00:50:38.520
I really come to my game vibes. I don't mind she does physical and also I like to be outdoors

894
00:50:38.520 --> 00:50:43.480
I can't go a day without doors if you pick between mountains and beach. I like beach all the time

895
00:50:43.480 --> 00:50:47.520
Yeah, you didn't go to the Bahamas on a single screws for nothing. Yep

896
00:50:48.480 --> 00:50:50.400
Well, I'm not travel

897
00:50:50.400 --> 00:50:52.960
Whenever I travel you're a good traveler

898
00:50:54.080 --> 00:50:56.720
Finance when I have financial stability. Yeah

899
00:50:58.800 --> 00:51:06.440
Like common sense like she she can use her head and solve stuff and is literate because my ex was illiterate and I was

900
00:51:06.800 --> 00:51:08.800
distraught

901
00:51:09.920 --> 00:51:15.640
Five six seven eight nine. All right. I got nine one two, three

902
00:51:17.160 --> 00:51:18.760
Four

903
00:51:18.760 --> 00:51:20.400
five six

904
00:51:20.400 --> 00:51:26.560
Seven eight awesome. Okay. So the only two people I've left are David and Christopher David since you're alive

905
00:51:27.200 --> 00:51:33.640
Where'd you go danger David I'm having you go next I can't tell if Chris is here or not. Does Chris been chatting?

906
00:51:37.920 --> 00:51:39.720
No, I

907
00:51:39.720 --> 00:51:41.240
Didn't think so

908
00:51:41.240 --> 00:51:45.840
I'm here. Oh, you are. Oh, I love it. Okay, I'm gonna get you next. Okay, I'm

909
00:51:46.520 --> 00:51:53.100
Danger Dave. All right. I know you are in Canada, right? I am. Yeah east side middle or West

910
00:51:54.100 --> 00:51:56.100
Ontario

911
00:51:56.260 --> 00:52:02.300
Tell me what tell me that Easter East East. So that's like New York side of Canada

912
00:52:02.300 --> 00:52:09.420
Yeah, like I'm so like the Thousand Islands is 30 minutes from me. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, and you are 32

913
00:52:10.140 --> 00:52:12.140
33

914
00:52:12.460 --> 00:52:15.420
And you want kids but you're open if she's got kids

915
00:52:15.860 --> 00:52:19.660
Yeah, if she has kids, I'm totally like I'm good

916
00:52:19.660 --> 00:52:25.380
I don't I don't need more than that. Like yeah, even if they're older kids, I'm cool. You do you're an artist

917
00:52:25.900 --> 00:52:31.660
What do you else do you like to do? Yeah, I'm an artist poet. I'm writing kids books that kind of thing. Yeah

918
00:52:32.700 --> 00:52:35.220
Do you like to do sports adventure?

919
00:52:35.780 --> 00:52:40.020
Like yeah, I love adventures. I'm a big antique guy. So I love to like go and find treasure

920
00:52:41.580 --> 00:52:45.460
Recently found a first edition of Winnie the Pooh. That was fun. Very cool

921
00:52:46.300 --> 00:52:48.260
Yeah, very cool

922
00:52:48.260 --> 00:52:50.260
Okay, and what are you looking for?

923
00:52:50.780 --> 00:52:54.860
Yeah, so I am looking for someone who is not fearful avoidant

924
00:52:55.820 --> 00:53:03.320
No fearful avoidance and no coercion. That would be great. But I'm I'm currently in a level three right now. So

925
00:53:04.420 --> 00:53:05.860
Yeah

926
00:53:05.860 --> 00:53:10.980
Okay, I'm behind the eight ball catch me up in two minutes or less

927
00:53:11.580 --> 00:53:14.380
Yeah, we'll be quick. So she's an amazing person

928
00:53:15.980 --> 00:53:21.740
She's not a believer though. So my friend my dear friend David Henshaw was like, hey, you should come on

929
00:53:22.060 --> 00:53:23.500
David and I had a good chat last night

930
00:53:23.500 --> 00:53:30.080
He's like you should come and just share that with men's ministry and I said, okay, but she's an incredible person. So yeah

931
00:53:31.300 --> 00:53:35.820
How did you meet her? I met her because when I was getting the Winnie the Pooh book

932
00:53:35.820 --> 00:53:39.300
she had driven from Montreal to get teacups and we hit it off and

933
00:53:39.860 --> 00:53:45.700
You met her in the wild that's how you got hooked up with a non-believer and you were it was a shared interest

934
00:53:46.300 --> 00:53:48.300
Yeah, it makes sense now

935
00:53:48.700 --> 00:53:52.260
Okay, where is where is she on the not a believer scale?

936
00:53:52.900 --> 00:53:54.580
Tell me more

937
00:53:54.580 --> 00:53:56.580
like I would say

938
00:53:56.820 --> 00:53:59.580
Extremely close and very open and she's made it clear

939
00:53:59.580 --> 00:54:05.140
She says I know you're different, but I know that different is Jesus and she said like what I see in you is God

940
00:54:05.140 --> 00:54:09.820
She says that's not I'm sensing something different, but she says but I know that's not you. That's your God

941
00:54:11.900 --> 00:54:16.020
What's her faith background if anything she grew up a believer

942
00:54:17.300 --> 00:54:21.900
and then really strong super Pentecostal and then her dad died and

943
00:54:22.620 --> 00:54:25.380
Then the mom was like, well God didn't save dad

944
00:54:25.940 --> 00:54:27.940
so and then it was like

945
00:54:29.060 --> 00:54:32.660
From like 16 onwards. It was like God didn't save dad

946
00:54:32.740 --> 00:54:34.740
She needs heartwork

947
00:54:35.420 --> 00:54:40.980
Yeah, would she be willing you can buy that book on any book, you know, she didn't even have to go through the program

948
00:54:40.980 --> 00:54:46.420
I mean if you wanted yeah, you could have her you can you guys can read the book together?

949
00:54:47.260 --> 00:54:51.820
Because it uses a lot of like not just Jesus II words

950
00:54:51.820 --> 00:54:54.940
But it talks a lot of me because Chris was just talking about that

951
00:54:54.940 --> 00:54:58.660
and I think both Chris has talked about that and just like there's some

952
00:54:58.660 --> 00:55:00.660
Just like there's some

953
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.000
Like really cool things in there that might really help her process of that grief

954
00:55:07.640 --> 00:55:13.200
Yeah, and I think like I I don't know I don't know what I'm doing because I'm like

955
00:55:13.200 --> 00:55:15.600
I never thought I would ever date a non-believer

956
00:55:17.320 --> 00:55:21.680
So, I don't know I get it though, I mean, I mean it's it's

957
00:55:22.880 --> 00:55:29.120
Would you could you see yourself being married to the hard part is she's a believer

958
00:55:29.120 --> 00:55:30.760
She's just her

959
00:55:30.760 --> 00:55:33.900
That's like if she grew up an atheist or she grew up Muslim

960
00:55:33.900 --> 00:55:37.600
I'd say we'd have a lot harder road to climb

961
00:55:38.000 --> 00:55:43.880
She's a believer who's been her and her mother coached her to walk away from God. Do you know what I'm saying?

962
00:55:44.320 --> 00:55:47.120
Like yeah, she's somebody that needs to come back home

963
00:55:48.360 --> 00:55:53.680
Mm-hmm. I feel like that's different. Does she sound bitter towards God sad?

964
00:55:53.720 --> 00:55:55.720
No

965
00:55:55.880 --> 00:55:59.340
When I first met her I said do you love Jesus and she said yeah, I love Jesus

966
00:56:01.360 --> 00:56:06.440
So and and I think she's more like curious like she gets excited whenever I tell her testimonies

967
00:56:06.440 --> 00:56:09.160
And she says just tell me stories like I want to hear what God's doing

968
00:56:09.680 --> 00:56:15.400
Okay, and and I asked and I'm like she's like no like she said Dave like I know that what you're saying is real

969
00:56:15.400 --> 00:56:20.200
Because she says I can see it. Like this is not you. This is she says your God is real

970
00:56:20.200 --> 00:56:23.240
And so there's been a lot of really cool like we've talked about

971
00:56:23.800 --> 00:56:25.920
Might like doing the heart work with you

972
00:56:25.920 --> 00:56:30.800
Then you might want to you might want to whip out that book with her and start doing it together with her

973
00:56:31.720 --> 00:56:33.720
Yeah

974
00:56:33.760 --> 00:56:35.920
Ian what you also might want to do is

975
00:56:36.520 --> 00:56:41.000
During like supernatural Saturday is have her start listening to some of those with you

976
00:56:41.920 --> 00:56:44.200
Yeah, supernatural Saturdays aren't my thing

977
00:56:45.000 --> 00:56:47.000
You don't like them. I

978
00:56:47.560 --> 00:56:53.800
Yeah, I've run into trouble with them so okay, okay, I had personal information that was shared on them so I'm not a big fan

979
00:56:58.040 --> 00:57:01.960
Wait somebody shared your personal information Oh Jackie did. Yeah

980
00:57:03.520 --> 00:57:04.880
Sorry

981
00:57:04.880 --> 00:57:11.080
Yeah, it happened about six times. So then I was like, oh, she's all oh golly. Let's just sorry. Yeah

982
00:57:11.080 --> 00:57:18.480
Fair enough, I understand. I'm sorry. I'm not bitter. I love her. I love you. No, I'm gonna leave it right there. It's all good

983
00:57:20.080 --> 00:57:22.920
You know, I struggle I understand

984
00:57:23.480 --> 00:57:28.680
Send a prayer with candy might be another option. Oh, yeah, she would love that

985
00:57:28.920 --> 00:57:34.560
Yeah, she might she might love that especially because of her background. She might really she might really love that

986
00:57:34.560 --> 00:57:36.560
Okay. Well keep us posted

987
00:57:36.600 --> 00:57:38.600
Okay, well keep us posted

988
00:57:38.600 --> 00:57:44.240
I'm glad you talked to David and I would say stay accountable in this group like keep being honest with the guys

989
00:57:44.240 --> 00:57:50.600
Yeah, I know in the same way. We're making Andy be honest with us because we care about Andy we care about you

990
00:57:50.720 --> 00:57:54.240
So that's that's what David Henshaw told me yesterday, right?

991
00:57:54.240 --> 00:57:59.520
He's like, you know, you need to just go back to the council and talk to the guys again and just like just be honest

992
00:57:59.520 --> 00:58:01.200
So yeah

993
00:58:01.200 --> 00:58:06.000
And saying that is there any of the guys do you guys like anything to Dave?

994
00:58:06.560 --> 00:58:08.160
I

995
00:58:08.160 --> 00:58:12.920
Think you're putting her the end of the crisis a good way to start Dave way to go

996
00:58:15.000 --> 00:58:16.280
Yeah

997
00:58:16.280 --> 00:58:18.280
Okay, because this is a shared community

998
00:58:18.360 --> 00:58:22.560
so if you guys have words of wisdom you want to give to Dave feel free to

999
00:58:23.480 --> 00:58:26.960
Jump in real quick. I mean I dated someone who

1000
00:58:27.560 --> 00:58:32.480
Had never been to church not once and I went to her church first time

1001
00:58:32.480 --> 00:58:35.200
She was and I didn't know church was like this

1002
00:58:35.280 --> 00:58:39.680
So it honestly could be a really great experience for the two of you to go through

1003
00:58:40.720 --> 00:58:42.720
Mm-hmm. Yeah

1004
00:58:43.520 --> 00:58:50.280
Yeah, like she's really open. So I like yeah, and she's always asking for Bible verses or if there's a special situation

1005
00:58:50.280 --> 00:58:53.080
She says hey, can you just take a second and give us a verse right now?

1006
00:58:53.080 --> 00:58:57.200
And I think okay, yeah, we'll give a verse and she's like, let's just take a second think about it

1007
00:58:57.720 --> 00:58:59.160
So

1008
00:58:59.160 --> 00:59:05.920
That's what's really great about it is she's open and curious and asking questions about it and willing to listen without shutting you out

1009
00:59:06.280 --> 00:59:11.760
Yeah, yeah, are you hearing what I'm here? I hear that maybe her hang-up is really like the

1010
00:59:13.040 --> 00:59:19.520
Legalistic side of things not really the spiritual side or are believing so maybe it's just a matter of finding that path to a life-giving church

1011
00:59:19.520 --> 00:59:21.040
That's not legalistic

1012
00:59:21.040 --> 00:59:24.520
Yeah, cuz she said she's never known a God that's free and she said you're so free

1013
00:59:24.520 --> 00:59:32.200
It's like you don't follow any rules, but you love Jesus. So that's kind of the thing. Anyways, yeah, and that's me. That was me

1014
00:59:32.880 --> 00:59:38.880
When I was dating my wife as I was all rules and God is a unfeeling sitting on his throne

1015
00:59:39.720 --> 00:59:44.120
Just judging all of us and we'll never measure up and that yeah, so I think you could change

1016
00:59:44.120 --> 00:59:46.640
I think there's there's wiggle room there was for me

1017
00:59:47.200 --> 00:59:51.640
Yeah, thanks Chris. I love that. All right, Christopher DeLuca

1018
00:59:51.960 --> 00:59:55.200
You're a blast man last but definitely not least

1019
00:59:55.840 --> 00:59:59.960
Very in my life. I know. Okay. So remind me how old you are

1020
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:01.640
and where you live.

1021
01:00:01.640 --> 01:00:04.160
35, Syracuse, New York.

1022
01:00:04.160 --> 01:00:06.640
Oh my gosh, you're also upstate New York.

1023
01:00:06.640 --> 01:00:07.720
Jeepers.

1024
01:00:07.720 --> 01:00:09.040
And you've done the hard work

1025
01:00:09.040 --> 01:00:10.960
because you've been here long enough.

1026
01:00:10.960 --> 01:00:12.280
Mm-hmm.

1027
01:00:12.280 --> 01:00:13.120
Yeah.

1028
01:00:13.120 --> 01:00:15.120
Okay, tell me a little bit.

1029
01:00:15.120 --> 01:00:18.000
Tell us a little bit about yourself, Smithing.

1030
01:00:18.000 --> 01:00:20.480
Never married, correct?

1031
01:00:20.480 --> 01:00:22.000
Never married, no kids.

1032
01:00:22.000 --> 01:00:23.920
A horrible old woman.

1033
01:00:23.920 --> 01:00:24.760
Yes.

1034
01:00:25.760 --> 01:00:28.000
Two and a happy accident.

1035
01:00:28.000 --> 01:00:28.840
Yeah.

1036
01:00:28.840 --> 01:00:31.880
Would you be willing to, or can you relocate?

1037
01:00:31.880 --> 01:00:34.480
Are you willing to long distance and she come to you?

1038
01:00:34.480 --> 01:00:36.320
What are your options there?

1039
01:00:38.320 --> 01:00:40.240
No, relocate's really hard right now

1040
01:00:40.240 --> 01:00:42.400
because I'm three years into my first home

1041
01:00:42.400 --> 01:00:45.800
and I'm immensely happy here

1042
01:00:45.800 --> 01:00:48.720
with a good high paying job

1043
01:00:48.720 --> 01:00:51.720
that pays like above the medium for my city.

1044
01:00:51.720 --> 01:00:52.560
Yeah.

1045
01:00:52.840 --> 01:00:55.320
Yeah, I feel like I have everything I need

1046
01:00:55.320 --> 01:00:57.640
to be a good partner here.

1047
01:00:57.640 --> 01:00:58.480
That's okay.

1048
01:00:58.480 --> 01:01:00.000
You know, you guys, it's okay to own it.

1049
01:01:00.000 --> 01:01:02.600
Like it's okay to say like, you know,

1050
01:01:02.600 --> 01:01:05.560
you'd be really hard pressed to want to leave

1051
01:01:05.560 --> 01:01:06.400
or have to leave.

1052
01:01:06.400 --> 01:01:07.880
So it's okay to own that.

1053
01:01:07.880 --> 01:01:09.360
Tell us what you like to do.

1054
01:01:10.800 --> 01:01:11.640
What I like to do.

1055
01:01:11.640 --> 01:01:14.000
I have an obscure sense of adventure,

1056
01:01:14.000 --> 01:01:17.680
but I like going from town to town

1057
01:01:17.680 --> 01:01:19.240
and I like going to places

1058
01:01:19.240 --> 01:01:20.960
that I've never been to before.

1059
01:01:21.000 --> 01:01:23.120
I like going from town to town

1060
01:01:23.120 --> 01:01:26.640
at different conventions, pop culture, video games, anime.

1061
01:01:27.600 --> 01:01:29.600
I like building and repairing computers.

1062
01:01:30.720 --> 01:01:33.680
It's some degree of problem solving.

1063
01:01:34.640 --> 01:01:35.960
I like cats.

1064
01:01:35.960 --> 01:01:37.200
God, I like cats.

1065
01:01:37.200 --> 01:01:38.920
I like my cat that's sitting right next to me.

1066
01:01:38.920 --> 01:01:41.040
I don't know if she's going to talk to you.

1067
01:01:41.040 --> 01:01:42.000
You got anything to say?

1068
01:01:42.000 --> 01:01:44.240
You want anything to say, lady?

1069
01:01:44.240 --> 01:01:45.360
And now she's looking around.

1070
01:01:45.360 --> 01:01:50.360
Okay, well, I love video games and anime.

1071
01:01:50.360 --> 01:01:51.200
That's about it.

1072
01:01:55.520 --> 01:01:56.360
Awesome.

1073
01:01:56.360 --> 01:01:57.520
Okay, what you looking for?

1074
01:02:00.200 --> 01:02:03.800
If I had my way, short, petite, blonde,

1075
01:02:03.800 --> 01:02:06.320
blue eyed, blonde bombshell.

1076
01:02:06.320 --> 01:02:11.320
But if I were to kind of put the, you know,

1077
01:02:12.800 --> 01:02:15.560
hide the less critical check boxes,

1078
01:02:15.560 --> 01:02:18.160
my more important ones, God fearing, of course,

1079
01:02:19.000 --> 01:02:23.040
kind, caring, affectionate, and unapologetically feminine.

1080
01:02:30.200 --> 01:02:31.040
Okay.

1081
01:02:33.040 --> 01:02:36.480
Okay, so Christopher, what are you doing

1082
01:02:36.480 --> 01:02:38.960
to be looking for somebody right now?

1083
01:02:38.960 --> 01:02:40.560
What are you doing these days?

1084
01:02:40.560 --> 01:02:43.840
I'm on almost every dating app under the sun and I hate it.

1085
01:02:45.760 --> 01:02:47.240
The bigger answer-

1086
01:02:47.240 --> 01:02:48.280
So what's happening?

1087
01:02:48.280 --> 01:02:49.760
Are you not getting matched up?

1088
01:02:49.760 --> 01:02:51.600
Are you not getting to video dates,

1089
01:02:51.600 --> 01:02:52.880
not getting to live dates?

1090
01:02:52.880 --> 01:02:54.400
Where are you getting stuck?

1091
01:02:54.400 --> 01:02:56.560
Very few to little matches.

1092
01:02:56.560 --> 01:02:59.040
If I start having conversations with anybody,

1093
01:02:59.040 --> 01:03:01.760
they're very like surface level.

1094
01:03:01.760 --> 01:03:03.000
They don't really get anywhere.

1095
01:03:03.000 --> 01:03:05.280
They go, you know, they ghost quickly.

1096
01:03:05.280 --> 01:03:08.000
There is not an abundance of high quality woman.

1097
01:03:09.600 --> 01:03:12.320
So as far as what I'm doing about it,

1098
01:03:14.400 --> 01:03:17.120
I'm putting more of my focus out of the dating apps

1099
01:03:18.000 --> 01:03:18.840
and into actually trying to start

1100
01:03:18.840 --> 01:03:20.320
a singles ministry in this city.

1101
01:03:20.320 --> 01:03:21.440
Right, I love it.

1102
01:03:23.880 --> 01:03:26.080
Do they have like the jigsaw dating

1103
01:03:26.080 --> 01:03:28.000
and speed dating in your area?

1104
01:03:28.880 --> 01:03:31.800
Yeah, I've been to a couple lock and key events

1105
01:03:31.800 --> 01:03:34.240
and I've gone to a couple speed dating events.

1106
01:03:34.240 --> 01:03:37.880
Speed dating's fun, but like most of the women there

1107
01:03:37.880 --> 01:03:40.960
are agnostic, so I don't really put my eggs in that basket.

1108
01:03:40.960 --> 01:03:41.800
Yeah.

1109
01:03:42.840 --> 01:03:43.960
Okay.

1110
01:03:43.960 --> 01:03:46.960
All right, so in general for you guys,

1111
01:03:47.800 --> 01:03:49.720
and this is the question for all of you,

1112
01:03:51.600 --> 01:03:56.600
like are you, have you, has Jackie yet introduced

1113
01:03:57.640 --> 01:04:01.320
you guys to some women and or have you seen women

1114
01:04:01.320 --> 01:04:02.920
on any of the single spotlights

1115
01:04:02.920 --> 01:04:05.720
that you want to be introduced to?

1116
01:04:05.720 --> 01:04:09.080
Like when I was, who said that?

1117
01:04:09.080 --> 01:04:10.560
Me.

1118
01:04:10.560 --> 01:04:13.640
Hunter, is there somebody you want to meet?

1119
01:04:14.160 --> 01:04:18.600
Um, no, I remember a single spotlight.

1120
01:04:18.600 --> 01:04:22.120
I would like to go revisit them again first

1121
01:04:22.120 --> 01:04:24.360
and then that'd be cool.

1122
01:04:24.360 --> 01:04:26.600
And, well, I don't know if it's possible

1123
01:04:26.600 --> 01:04:29.400
about being on spotlight either, but oh well.

1124
01:04:30.280 --> 01:04:33.400
I will let, well, I know this,

1125
01:04:33.400 --> 01:04:37.200
Jackie's moving to doing spotlights on Instagram.

1126
01:04:37.200 --> 01:04:39.600
Are you all willing, and I don't know when

1127
01:04:39.600 --> 01:04:40.880
she's gonna start doing it again,

1128
01:04:40.880 --> 01:04:43.640
are you all willing to be spotlighted on Instagram?

1129
01:04:43.640 --> 01:04:45.160
Maybe not Andy and Dave,

1130
01:04:45.160 --> 01:04:48.000
cause you guys are in relationships right now.

1131
01:04:48.000 --> 01:04:48.840
Yes.

1132
01:04:50.840 --> 01:04:54.600
Chris, Tim, David, Christopher, Chris, Kevin.

1133
01:04:54.600 --> 01:04:56.280
No objections.

1134
01:04:56.280 --> 01:04:57.880
Okay, so you're all, yep.

1135
01:04:57.880 --> 01:04:58.720
Okay.

1136
01:04:59.840 --> 01:05:00.680
I'll do it.

1137
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:01.000
Good.

1138
01:05:01.000 --> 01:05:04.920
Willing to be spotlighted.

1139
01:05:04.920 --> 01:05:05.560
All right.

1140
01:05:05.560 --> 01:05:07.680
Is there any question or?

1141
01:05:07.680 --> 01:05:08.180
Renee.

1142
01:05:10.880 --> 01:05:12.280
Renee, I wrote a comment to you.

1143
01:05:12.280 --> 01:05:13.560
Please see that.

1144
01:05:13.560 --> 01:05:14.320
Oh, awesome.

1145
01:05:14.320 --> 01:05:15.240
Hold on.

1146
01:05:15.240 --> 01:05:19.040
Yeah, would you be opening me, supplementing

1147
01:05:19.040 --> 01:05:21.200
some of the stuff I said in chat?

1148
01:05:21.200 --> 01:05:22.280
Yeah, please do.

1149
01:05:22.280 --> 01:05:22.780
OK.

1150
01:05:22.780 --> 01:05:25.600
Please do.

1151
01:05:25.600 --> 01:05:26.840
Oh, Chris, thank you.

1152
01:05:26.840 --> 01:05:28.960
Let me grab yours.

1153
01:05:29.000 --> 01:05:30.360
I'm coming down now.

1154
01:05:30.360 --> 01:05:33.200
I put a couple of things in there.

1155
01:05:33.200 --> 01:05:34.000
Yeah, I'm going in.

1156
01:05:34.000 --> 01:05:34.480
Hold on.

1157
01:05:34.480 --> 01:05:36.240
Thank you for saying that.

1158
01:05:36.240 --> 01:05:38.320
I was having such a good time talking to you all,

1159
01:05:38.320 --> 01:05:39.800
I forgot to go look at the chat.

1160
01:05:39.800 --> 01:05:41.440
All right, added that.

1161
01:05:41.440 --> 01:05:44.040
Christopher, your LEGO is impressive.

1162
01:05:44.040 --> 01:05:45.120
Yeah, I know.

1163
01:05:45.120 --> 01:05:48.720
This is going to be like video date if we get to three.

1164
01:05:48.720 --> 01:05:51.800
Wait, Tim, you're six foot in the morning?

1165
01:05:51.800 --> 01:05:52.640
What does that mean?

1166
01:05:52.640 --> 01:05:55.720
You get weighed down by the day?

1167
01:05:55.720 --> 01:05:57.600
Your spine compresses.

1168
01:05:58.560 --> 01:06:01.840
When you sleep, when you're laying down for like eight

1169
01:06:01.840 --> 01:06:05.160
hours, the discs in your back expand slightly.

1170
01:06:05.160 --> 01:06:06.600
That is hilarious.

1171
01:06:06.600 --> 01:06:08.240
For like the first half hour of the day,

1172
01:06:08.240 --> 01:06:09.960
when I measure myself, I'm six feet,

1173
01:06:09.960 --> 01:06:11.920
but the rest of the day, I'm 5'11".

1174
01:06:11.920 --> 01:06:16.800
Yeah, Tim needs to add nerd to his profile.

1175
01:06:16.800 --> 01:06:18.840
I love it.

1176
01:06:18.840 --> 01:06:22.240
All right, I just found your comment to.

1177
01:06:22.240 --> 01:06:24.120
Renee, I put something in there, too,

1178
01:06:24.120 --> 01:06:26.560
because you didn't ask me about relocating.

1179
01:06:26.560 --> 01:06:27.320
OK, I'm sorry.

1180
01:06:27.520 --> 01:06:29.720
You know what, you guys?

1181
01:06:29.720 --> 01:06:30.760
Let's see.

1182
01:06:30.760 --> 01:06:33.240
OK.

1183
01:06:33.240 --> 01:06:34.880
Definitely video dating.

1184
01:06:34.880 --> 01:06:35.480
Yeah, hold on.

1185
01:06:35.480 --> 01:06:36.680
I hate texting.

1186
01:06:36.680 --> 01:06:38.080
Oh, yeah, of course.

1187
01:06:38.080 --> 01:06:38.640
Let's see.

1188
01:06:47.240 --> 01:06:49.200
You didn't overshare, David.

1189
01:06:49.200 --> 01:06:49.960
I will say this.

1190
01:06:49.960 --> 01:06:53.520
You guys are allowed to overshare as much as you want.

1191
01:06:53.520 --> 01:06:57.640
Oversharing in the co-ed group, not so good.

1192
01:06:57.640 --> 01:06:59.800
And David Henshaw is correct.

1193
01:06:59.800 --> 01:07:01.040
Dave, you're Dave.

1194
01:07:01.040 --> 01:07:08.560
99% of the time, when we feel like we're being talked about,

1195
01:07:08.560 --> 01:07:11.160
we're like, oh my gosh, everybody knows that's me.

1196
01:07:11.160 --> 01:07:13.040
99% of the time, people don't.

1197
01:07:16.760 --> 01:07:17.880
Oh, you sent me pictures?

1198
01:07:17.880 --> 01:07:20.320
Oh my gosh, I'm so excited.

1199
01:07:20.320 --> 01:07:25.280
OK, I'm pasting your revelation.

1200
01:07:25.280 --> 01:07:26.640
There you go.

1201
01:07:26.640 --> 01:07:27.560
I love it.

1202
01:07:27.560 --> 01:07:28.800
This is so fun, y'all.

1203
01:07:32.560 --> 01:07:34.440
I do a lot of private coaching, too.

1204
01:07:34.440 --> 01:07:37.600
So I will tell you this, Kevin.

1205
01:07:37.600 --> 01:07:42.680
If you watch the online dating thing from last Thursday

1206
01:07:42.680 --> 01:07:45.440
night, I promise you, as you can tell by how much I just

1207
01:07:45.440 --> 01:07:49.360
gave Andy a hard time, I'm anti-texting

1208
01:07:49.360 --> 01:07:50.920
while you're getting to know somebody.

1209
01:07:50.920 --> 01:07:56.400
I am very big on as much video and face-to-face time

1210
01:07:56.400 --> 01:07:56.960
as possible.

1211
01:07:56.960 --> 01:08:03.320
Yeah, texting is so unemotional, unconnective.

1212
01:08:03.320 --> 01:08:07.000
Yeah, texting is for memes.

1213
01:08:07.000 --> 01:08:09.280
I feel like texting is for, I call it facts.

1214
01:08:09.280 --> 01:08:10.520
It's just the facts.

1215
01:08:10.520 --> 01:08:12.040
I'm on my way.

1216
01:08:12.040 --> 01:08:14.160
What did you say, pork chops or steak?

1217
01:08:14.160 --> 01:08:18.160
You know, it's like, I forgot to do this.

1218
01:08:18.160 --> 01:08:19.520
I'm running late.

1219
01:08:19.520 --> 01:08:21.200
That's what texting is for.

1220
01:08:21.200 --> 01:08:22.680
All right, Dave, what you got?

1221
01:08:22.680 --> 01:08:23.880
You got your hand up?

1222
01:08:23.880 --> 01:08:26.240
I just wanted to give Renee a quick shout out.

1223
01:08:26.240 --> 01:08:30.560
So if you follow what Renee says, it works.

1224
01:08:30.560 --> 01:08:32.800
I will tell you this.

1225
01:08:32.800 --> 01:08:34.960
I have followed what she says, and her advice

1226
01:08:34.960 --> 01:08:37.000
works 100% of the time.

1227
01:08:37.000 --> 01:08:40.920
And so if you knew that, this is just from guy to guy,

1228
01:08:40.920 --> 01:08:44.399
if you hire Renee as your coach, and she breaks and makes

1229
01:08:44.399 --> 01:08:46.160
a plan with you, you will get a girlfriend.

1230
01:08:46.160 --> 01:08:47.560
You will find a wife.

1231
01:08:48.439 --> 01:08:50.640
Come in, please.

1232
01:08:50.640 --> 01:08:53.479
Seriously, because her dating stuff,

1233
01:08:53.479 --> 01:08:55.359
I made changes to my profile.

1234
01:08:55.359 --> 01:08:58.960
It went from one match to 15 in a day.

1235
01:08:58.960 --> 01:08:59.840
I'm not kidding.

1236
01:08:59.840 --> 01:09:00.800
I just learned it to be true.

1237
01:09:00.800 --> 01:09:05.399
It's true, because when I spotlighted Dave,

1238
01:09:05.399 --> 01:09:08.960
and we did like a prep here, it was a hot mess express.

1239
01:09:08.960 --> 01:09:11.880
And when we spotlighted him, I tell you what,

1240
01:09:11.880 --> 01:09:14.040
it was like a whole new person.

1241
01:09:14.040 --> 01:09:14.880
She fixed it.

1242
01:09:18.240 --> 01:09:21.399
All right, so are you still open to the thing you offered?

1243
01:09:21.399 --> 01:09:24.319
And I'm going to re-watch the one.

1244
01:09:24.319 --> 01:09:26.200
I did not realize there was another one.

1245
01:09:26.200 --> 01:09:27.560
I should have just watched the one you just did,

1246
01:09:27.560 --> 01:09:28.680
but I watched the other one.

1247
01:09:28.680 --> 01:09:30.200
Well, you probably did the original one

1248
01:09:30.200 --> 01:09:31.920
I did like two or three years ago.

1249
01:09:31.920 --> 01:09:32.840
But she had me.

1250
01:09:32.840 --> 01:09:37.120
So basically, just so you guys know in phase three now,

1251
01:09:37.120 --> 01:09:40.439
which is where the co-ed crap is, once a month,

1252
01:09:40.439 --> 01:09:42.720
Jackie is going to do her love seat, which

1253
01:09:42.720 --> 01:09:44.640
is like a free for all of whatever

1254
01:09:44.640 --> 01:09:47.479
she's willing to talk about and you're willing to talk about.

1255
01:09:48.399 --> 01:09:50.399
Once a month, Bethany is going to do

1256
01:09:50.399 --> 01:09:52.279
like an advanced heart work topic

1257
01:09:52.279 --> 01:09:55.160
that she feels like is a common issue going on

1258
01:09:55.160 --> 01:09:57.720
with the people in the community.

1259
01:09:57.720 --> 01:09:59.560
And then once a month, I'm specific.

1260
01:09:59.560 --> 01:10:01.120
They're calling it online day.

1261
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.360
meeting, I would say I'm gearing it towards helping you guys get on dates.

1262
01:10:04.360 --> 01:10:09.600
So whether that's in the wild or in person or online, it's really focused

1263
01:10:09.600 --> 01:10:14.000
on how to go from nothing to start having dates to choose from discovering

1264
01:10:14.000 --> 01:10:16.080
to getting you in a serious relationship.

1265
01:10:16.080 --> 01:10:20.000
So we kind of feel like, and we're going to keep doing that every single month.

1266
01:10:20.120 --> 01:10:26.160
So does the, does the app update when you change phases or like when I've

1267
01:10:26.360 --> 01:10:28.640
finished four, do I go to a different phase or

1268
01:10:28.880 --> 01:10:32.560
well, Chris, you tell me how the guys, I don't know exactly what the guys see.

1269
01:10:32.560 --> 01:10:36.200
So Chris, Christopher, since you just started seeing some of those quote

1270
01:10:36.200 --> 01:10:40.480
unquote phase two videos, were they always there or did they start popping up?

1271
01:10:40.920 --> 01:10:41.800
They were always there.

1272
01:10:41.800 --> 01:10:45.880
So I actually asked this question before you got here, because I was wondering.

1273
01:10:46.520 --> 01:10:52.240
Um, if you are like, if I'm missing, I'm in the wrong group for,

1274
01:10:52.240 --> 01:10:53.840
for a love story accelerator.

1275
01:10:53.840 --> 01:10:56.080
So I'll show you what my, my thing shows.

1276
01:10:56.320 --> 01:10:59.600
So I had the courses, so I had my, my heartwork courses.

1277
01:10:59.600 --> 01:11:00.360
They're a hundred percent.

1278
01:11:00.360 --> 01:11:04.760
I already had these two, but my love story accelerator is for sure the

1279
01:11:04.760 --> 01:11:08.560
female one, um, cause you're dating one-on-one in there or your online

1280
01:11:08.560 --> 01:11:10.440
dating in there is the woman's one.

1281
01:11:10.680 --> 01:11:14.720
So I went to the, you know, it's because, and Jackie's working on

1282
01:11:14.720 --> 01:11:16.520
refilming all of that stuff.

1283
01:11:16.840 --> 01:11:21.880
Because when we created phase two, men weren't doing it at all.

1284
01:11:22.280 --> 01:11:27.400
And so I think in her first two videos, she talks about the divine masculine

1285
01:11:27.400 --> 01:11:30.160
and feminine, which I went over two weeks ago with y'all.

1286
01:11:30.640 --> 01:11:31.040
Yeah.

1287
01:11:31.160 --> 01:11:34.760
Um, she, the two videos that she does, I think she's

1288
01:11:34.760 --> 01:11:36.960
specifically talking to only women.

1289
01:11:37.320 --> 01:11:43.640
I think by the time I filmed the online dating and the boundary video, I'm

1290
01:11:43.640 --> 01:11:47.360
pretty sure it was co-ed and it was a live class that got recorded.

1291
01:11:48.040 --> 01:11:50.880
Well, you were talking to just the women, but you referred to the men's one you

1292
01:11:50.880 --> 01:11:55.320
did and I'm like, I want, and so I found the men's one you did in the pad sessions,

1293
01:11:55.320 --> 01:11:57.680
like all these videos and I went back and watch that one.

1294
01:11:58.000 --> 01:12:00.760
So I was like, I'm like, where's this men's one?

1295
01:12:01.800 --> 01:12:02.520
I would love that one.

1296
01:12:02.520 --> 01:12:03.040
That was good.

1297
01:12:03.040 --> 01:12:07.680
So maybe offline you can show, or you guys can like message each other

1298
01:12:07.680 --> 01:12:09.400
and show Kevin how to find those.

1299
01:12:09.400 --> 01:12:12.440
But yes, it's in the past section.

1300
01:12:12.480 --> 01:12:13.680
I apologize about that.

1301
01:12:13.680 --> 01:12:20.440
So yes, but if you go to the replays, um, last Thursday's replay is definitely

1302
01:12:20.440 --> 01:12:23.040
co-ed, um, and I will say this.

1303
01:12:23.040 --> 01:12:27.360
And so what we're going to do next month, and I'll see who's willing to do that

1304
01:12:27.360 --> 01:12:32.040
with me, but since a lot of folks are going on speed dating, I'm going to let

1305
01:12:32.040 --> 01:12:33.880
people get in the hot seat with me.

1306
01:12:33.880 --> 01:12:37.480
And I'm going to do like, I'm going to literally put the timer on for like

1307
01:12:37.480 --> 01:12:40.920
three minutes and like ask them questions.

1308
01:12:40.920 --> 01:12:46.520
I would, you know, and see what, see how people do with those, those fun questions.

1309
01:12:47.520 --> 01:12:48.000
Okay.

1310
01:12:48.120 --> 01:12:51.800
I'm going to have to try to get a shift trade or something so I can participate.

1311
01:12:51.960 --> 01:12:56.040
Well, when you see it, so Christopher, when you see the online dating, you'll

1312
01:12:56.040 --> 01:13:01.880
know, and you see online dating, know it's me and know that I will, you know,

1313
01:13:02.200 --> 01:13:07.920
and I always take questions, but if I see guys ask questions or have a comment

1314
01:13:07.920 --> 01:13:11.280
because there's like always like over a hundred women on the call and there's

1315
01:13:11.680 --> 01:13:17.600
less than 10 of you men on the call, Dave will tell you, I always try to pull the

1316
01:13:17.600 --> 01:13:22.600
guys to the front, um, and let their questions get answered and make sure they

1317
01:13:22.600 --> 01:13:28.960
get, I think I was on one that I got called on, but then I had two weeks of,

1318
01:13:30.600 --> 01:13:35.600
uh, no, I, I, I got discouraged when I started going back and going back to the

1319
01:13:35.600 --> 01:13:36.120
chorus.

1320
01:13:36.880 --> 01:13:38.240
So it was really hard for me.

1321
01:13:38.880 --> 01:13:43.480
So today's the first day I've been back on something live for two weeks or three

1322
01:13:43.480 --> 01:13:47.280
weeks, but you can feel free to be in my wing woman.

1323
01:13:47.360 --> 01:13:49.680
I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm Christopher.

1324
01:13:50.000 --> 01:13:55.360
I'm so invested in you guys, but like, I feel like you're my brother from another

1325
01:13:55.360 --> 01:13:55.840
mother.

1326
01:13:55.840 --> 01:13:59.520
So I feel like this kinship, maybe cause we grew up in the same area.

1327
01:14:00.000 --> 01:14:04.960
Um, which is why I thought of you for my, for, for one of my, my girls that I'm

1328
01:14:05.000 --> 01:14:05.840
coaching.

1329
01:14:06.640 --> 01:14:08.040
She really looks young though.

1330
01:14:08.040 --> 01:14:10.040
So I might be able to change your mind about her.

1331
01:14:10.040 --> 01:14:14.360
So anyway, I might offline, send you a picture of her and see what you think.

1332
01:14:14.640 --> 01:14:14.960
All right.

1333
01:14:14.960 --> 01:14:17.520
No machining and four willing for me to also.

1334
01:14:17.760 --> 01:14:18.440
Me too.

1335
01:14:18.600 --> 01:14:23.240
Oh, Kevin, I want to get in touch with you because there's a woman that's doing,

1336
01:14:23.400 --> 01:14:24.560
she's beautiful.

1337
01:14:24.840 --> 01:14:27.920
Um, and she just took a ministry position.

1338
01:14:27.920 --> 01:14:29.520
So she's moving up to Alaska.

1339
01:14:30.080 --> 01:14:34.920
So we definitely want to, I want it to like,

1340
01:14:35.240 --> 01:14:38.000
I wanted you to, I wanted Brian to come on real quick.

1341
01:14:38.320 --> 01:14:39.840
You know how big Alaska is?

1342
01:14:40.160 --> 01:14:40.720
Or willing.

1343
01:14:40.800 --> 01:14:44.000
I know that's probably like me saying the largest state.

1344
01:14:44.000 --> 01:14:50.320
You can put Texas inside of Alaska more than I know somebody in California.

1345
01:14:50.400 --> 01:14:51.240
I understand.

1346
01:14:51.240 --> 01:14:57.080
That's probably really lame, but she's closer than anybody else in our program.

1347
01:14:57.880 --> 01:15:00.000
Let's just say if she's by a road.

1348
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:02.880
I can probably drive to where she is in a day.

1349
01:15:02.880 --> 01:15:04.760
She's by a road.

1350
01:15:04.760 --> 01:15:07.400
Yeah, if she's by a road, that's fine.

1351
01:15:07.400 --> 01:15:09.280
Well, there's a lot of places in Alaska

1352
01:15:09.280 --> 01:15:11.680
that you got to fly into or take a boat to.

1353
01:15:11.680 --> 01:15:12.840
Yeah.

1354
01:15:12.840 --> 01:15:16.720
Well, Brian is dying to go do like a two week

1355
01:15:16.720 --> 01:15:20.640
land and sea excursion to Alaska, so.

1356
01:15:20.640 --> 01:15:21.560
This is a Brian reveal.

1357
01:15:21.560 --> 01:15:22.360
I've never seen Brian.

1358
01:15:22.360 --> 01:15:23.280
He's a good looking man.

1359
01:15:23.280 --> 01:15:24.080
He did a good job.

1360
01:15:24.080 --> 01:15:24.880
You guys seen Brian?

1361
01:15:24.880 --> 01:15:25.680
Yes.

1362
01:15:25.680 --> 01:15:27.160
Yeah, I haven't seen him.

1363
01:15:27.160 --> 01:15:28.280
It'll make him blush.

1364
01:15:28.320 --> 01:15:31.760
You see me, Brian?

1365
01:15:31.760 --> 01:15:33.320
When I started this, I actually was

1366
01:15:33.320 --> 01:15:37.560
talking about just doing Renee's online dating 101 from 2024,

1367
01:15:37.560 --> 01:15:39.720
where she's talking about, I'm on these dating apps.

1368
01:15:39.720 --> 01:15:41.040
I don't know if this is where I'm

1369
01:15:41.040 --> 01:15:43.680
going to meet my husband.

1370
01:15:43.680 --> 01:15:47.400
Yeah, Facebook dating.

1371
01:15:47.400 --> 01:15:48.560
Yeah.

1372
01:15:48.560 --> 01:15:50.520
I do Facebook dating.

1373
01:15:50.520 --> 01:15:53.400
Well, and here's the funny thing.

1374
01:15:53.400 --> 01:15:57.160
You guys, we only met just over a year ago.

1375
01:15:57.160 --> 01:16:00.000
And this started because he was on vacation.

1376
01:16:00.000 --> 01:16:01.280
So we FaceTimed.

1377
01:16:01.280 --> 01:16:04.760
And like my rules say, he asked some good questions.

1378
01:16:04.760 --> 01:16:06.720
And what did I keep saying?

1379
01:16:06.720 --> 01:16:07.960
Lord have mercy.

1380
01:16:07.960 --> 01:16:09.360
No, what did you keep saying?

1381
01:16:09.360 --> 01:16:12.480
So she kept saying, that's a great question.

1382
01:16:12.480 --> 01:16:16.280
That would be perfect for when we have our video chat.

1383
01:16:16.280 --> 01:16:19.280
I got so tired of hearing it.

1384
01:16:19.280 --> 01:16:21.680
I was like, OK, we just got to have a talk now.

1385
01:16:22.520 --> 01:16:25.800
Hey, she practices what she preaches, OK?

1386
01:16:25.800 --> 01:16:26.600
She does.

1387
01:16:26.600 --> 01:16:27.640
She does.

1388
01:16:27.640 --> 01:16:30.040
Any other words of wisdom you want to tell them

1389
01:16:30.040 --> 01:16:31.720
while they're on this journey?

1390
01:16:31.720 --> 01:16:32.760
I have no idea.

1391
01:16:32.760 --> 01:16:34.960
Because, like, don't settle.

1392
01:16:34.960 --> 01:16:37.000
That's all I can say is don't settle.

1393
01:16:37.000 --> 01:16:37.880
You know what I mean?

1394
01:16:37.880 --> 01:16:39.360
Because you're going to get somebody

1395
01:16:39.360 --> 01:16:41.280
that's going to be like, oh, well,

1396
01:16:41.280 --> 01:16:46.160
they checked four out of the five boxes that I'm looking for.

1397
01:16:46.160 --> 01:16:47.480
You know, that'll be OK.

1398
01:16:47.480 --> 01:16:48.480
I can tolerate that.

1399
01:16:48.480 --> 01:16:50.080
No, don't settle.

1400
01:16:50.120 --> 01:16:53.120
I was single for six plus years.

1401
01:16:53.120 --> 01:16:54.520
Don't settle.

1402
01:16:54.520 --> 01:16:57.160
Well, and Brian's been divorced twice.

1403
01:16:57.160 --> 01:16:59.880
So the second time he got married,

1404
01:16:59.880 --> 01:17:01.560
he would definitely say he had kids.

1405
01:17:01.560 --> 01:17:05.720
And he would definitely say, raising the kids by myself

1406
01:17:05.720 --> 01:17:10.080
and the fear of not ever finding somebody

1407
01:17:10.080 --> 01:17:12.160
caused him to jump in and marry someone

1408
01:17:12.160 --> 01:17:14.960
that he shouldn't have married.

1409
01:17:14.960 --> 01:17:17.520
So part of the hard work is learning how to live with it.

1410
01:17:18.120 --> 01:17:19.800
So part of the hard work is learning

1411
01:17:19.800 --> 01:17:23.520
how to live on your own and to be by yourself, right?

1412
01:17:23.520 --> 01:17:25.680
Because you got to heal all of those things

1413
01:17:25.680 --> 01:17:28.760
before you can expect somebody else to be part of it.

1414
01:17:28.760 --> 01:17:32.280
Been doing that for 21 years.

1415
01:17:32.280 --> 01:17:35.120
Well, and since he did so much traveling to get to me,

1416
01:17:35.120 --> 01:17:39.600
one of the first books I made him read was The Heart Work.

1417
01:17:39.600 --> 01:17:43.320
So we can make sure that we were talking the same language

1418
01:17:43.320 --> 01:17:46.320
from the program.

1419
01:17:46.440 --> 01:17:47.280
So good.

1420
01:17:47.280 --> 01:17:48.960
Yeah, I know.

1421
01:17:50.000 --> 01:17:51.320
So he's real.

1422
01:17:51.320 --> 01:17:53.320
I know y'all, it's like a pinch me.

1423
01:17:53.320 --> 01:17:55.960
And I would say the same thing to you all.

1424
01:17:55.960 --> 01:17:59.200
Like, I am huge fans of yours.

1425
01:18:00.040 --> 01:18:03.680
You all have an amazing love story.

1426
01:18:03.680 --> 01:18:08.560
And I just, I feel like we, and I feel this,

1427
01:18:08.560 --> 01:18:10.320
like we need to better connect you

1428
01:18:10.320 --> 01:18:11.800
to some of the women in the community.

1429
01:18:11.800 --> 01:18:14.440
Because like on any given, even co-ed night,

1430
01:18:14.440 --> 01:18:15.960
maybe a hundred people come on,

1431
01:18:16.600 --> 01:18:19.240
but there's like probably 700 women in our database.

1432
01:18:19.240 --> 01:18:22.480
And so we're working really hard behind the scenes.

1433
01:18:22.480 --> 01:18:26.320
I don't know, Jackie's talking to some new AI guy about it

1434
01:18:26.320 --> 01:18:28.680
because we've got it.

1435
01:18:28.680 --> 01:18:30.520
You shouldn't even, in my opinion,

1436
01:18:30.520 --> 01:18:32.440
you all shouldn't even have to go online.

1437
01:18:32.440 --> 01:18:34.240
You should be able to go to our database

1438
01:18:34.240 --> 01:18:36.360
of heart healed women.

1439
01:18:36.360 --> 01:18:38.560
Because a lot of the things that you all describe

1440
01:18:38.560 --> 01:18:40.480
that you want in a woman,

1441
01:18:40.480 --> 01:18:44.200
there's probably a hundred women that would match that.

1442
01:18:44.200 --> 01:18:46.400
Some of it is a location issue, right?

1443
01:18:46.400 --> 01:18:48.080
For some of you, location's an issue.

1444
01:18:48.080 --> 01:18:50.560
And for some of them, a location is an issue.

1445
01:18:50.560 --> 01:18:53.240
But I'm so glad I asked you guys what you wanted

1446
01:18:53.240 --> 01:18:55.240
because here's what I heard consistently.

1447
01:18:55.240 --> 01:18:58.120
And it's something Jackie tries to say all of the time.

1448
01:18:58.120 --> 01:19:00.560
You guys want somebody, yes, a believer,

1449
01:19:00.560 --> 01:19:02.800
but you want somebody who's fun and adventurous

1450
01:19:02.800 --> 01:19:04.480
and who's going to get out there.

1451
01:19:04.480 --> 01:19:07.120
And Christopher, you kind of talked about the grandma thing.

1452
01:19:07.120 --> 01:19:10.040
Like too many times women get stuck in their maternal

1453
01:19:10.040 --> 01:19:15.040
and like the maternal and grandma side of things

1454
01:19:15.560 --> 01:19:17.440
that it makes them look like an old lady,

1455
01:19:17.440 --> 01:19:19.200
even if they don't look like an old lady.

1456
01:19:19.200 --> 01:19:20.840
And so like for some of y'all,

1457
01:19:20.840 --> 01:19:22.360
you're just not in that season of life.

1458
01:19:22.360 --> 01:19:24.120
And it's not that you can't love those kids.

1459
01:19:24.120 --> 01:19:26.400
It's just, it can't lead.

1460
01:19:26.400 --> 01:19:27.240
It can't lead.

1461
01:19:27.240 --> 01:19:31.120
Yeah, that would be my only issue

1462
01:19:31.120 --> 01:19:34.560
with going somewhere else is my grandkids.

1463
01:19:34.560 --> 01:19:36.400
Cause I've been around them.

1464
01:19:36.400 --> 01:19:38.600
I've been around them since they were born.

1465
01:19:39.040 --> 01:19:39.880
Six of them.

1466
01:19:41.240 --> 01:19:42.080
I get it.

1467
01:19:42.080 --> 01:19:43.040
It's important.

1468
01:19:43.040 --> 01:19:44.200
It's important.

1469
01:19:44.200 --> 01:19:47.320
Well, I'm so impressed by all of you.

1470
01:19:47.320 --> 01:19:49.640
And I know you're at different seasons of your life.

1471
01:19:49.640 --> 01:19:52.440
Hunter, we were just talking about somebody for you today.

1472
01:19:52.440 --> 01:19:54.600
We're like, Christopher.

1473
01:19:54.600 --> 01:19:57.000
Cause a lot of times I feel like I need a miracle.

1474
01:19:57.000 --> 01:19:59.640
Which Christopher, there's three of us.

1475
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:05.000
No, you, Christopher, big mouth, no, I'm kidding.

1476
01:20:05.760 --> 01:20:09.640
Well, hey, y'all, as y'all know, I'm about to be 58

1477
01:20:09.640 --> 01:20:11.920
and I got married for the first time at 57.

1478
01:20:11.920 --> 01:20:14.640
I'm pretty sure the AARP card came in the mail

1479
01:20:14.640 --> 01:20:16.600
right for my wedding, I'm just saying.

1480
01:20:18.280 --> 01:20:23.000
So, you know, nobody understand, I've never been engaged.

1481
01:20:23.000 --> 01:20:28.000
I've been close, you know, and in some ways

1482
01:20:28.720 --> 01:20:32.480
I could have been just as like older me, like pre Jackie,

1483
01:20:32.480 --> 01:20:34.800
I would have never dated a guy who's been married twice.

1484
01:20:34.800 --> 01:20:36.320
That was a deal breaker for me.

1485
01:20:36.320 --> 01:20:39.240
There was like, there's just no way, but you know what?

1486
01:20:39.240 --> 01:20:43.320
Plenty of widowed and single and married or divorced men

1487
01:20:43.320 --> 01:20:46.840
have said to me, well, how long's your longest relationship?

1488
01:20:46.840 --> 01:20:51.840
Well, I was kind of the runaway bride for a long time.

1489
01:20:51.920 --> 01:20:54.480
So he could have looked at me and been like,

1490
01:20:54.480 --> 01:20:56.400
well, she doesn't have staying power.

1491
01:20:56.440 --> 01:20:58.800
Like, and in fact, the day of my wedding,

1492
01:20:58.800 --> 01:21:01.280
his best man came to see me before the wedding.

1493
01:21:01.280 --> 01:21:02.840
And he's like, okay, why Brian?

1494
01:21:02.840 --> 01:21:04.760
Why now all of a sudden at 57,

1495
01:21:04.760 --> 01:21:06.120
do you think you could stay with somebody

1496
01:21:06.120 --> 01:21:07.280
the rest of your life?

1497
01:21:07.280 --> 01:21:09.360
Fair, fair question.

1498
01:21:10.720 --> 01:21:13.800
And so, you know, but God can do it.

1499
01:21:13.800 --> 01:21:16.520
All right, so Christopher, 39, Christopher,

1500
01:21:16.520 --> 01:21:18.840
I'm gonna let you close this out in prayer.

1501
01:21:18.840 --> 01:21:20.520
Oh, okay.

1502
01:21:20.520 --> 01:21:21.960
Oh, did you not expect that?

1503
01:21:21.960 --> 01:21:22.800
I just put you on.

1504
01:21:22.800 --> 01:21:25.240
I did not, I was ready for another piercing question

1505
01:21:25.240 --> 01:21:26.840
I wasn't ready for.

1506
01:21:26.840 --> 01:21:28.760
All right, Heavenly Father,

1507
01:21:28.760 --> 01:21:32.240
I just thank you for Renee and this group of men.

1508
01:21:32.240 --> 01:21:35.440
Having seen this program go from,

1509
01:21:35.440 --> 01:21:37.600
I don't know if I'm ever gonna get married through this

1510
01:21:37.600 --> 01:21:40.240
and then, you know, seeing her husband with her

1511
01:21:40.240 --> 01:21:42.480
has just been very encouraging for me.

1512
01:21:42.480 --> 01:21:44.520
And I just hope that all of these men

1513
01:21:44.520 --> 01:21:45.800
have a feeling of encouragement.

1514
01:21:45.800 --> 01:21:48.520
Father, I just ask that you use the Holy Spirit

1515
01:21:48.520 --> 01:21:50.200
to fill them with faith and hope

1516
01:21:50.200 --> 01:21:53.840
that we are believers that believe in hope.

1517
01:21:53.840 --> 01:21:57.400
And I don't want any man to walk away from this meeting

1518
01:21:57.400 --> 01:22:00.120
thinking there is no hope for them because there is.

1519
01:22:00.120 --> 01:22:03.560
I know that you want them to have a healed whole

1520
01:22:03.560 --> 01:22:05.960
and lovely woman to come in their life

1521
01:22:05.960 --> 01:22:08.920
and be with them and walk out their love story.

1522
01:22:08.920 --> 01:22:10.480
So I just ask to bless these men,

1523
01:22:10.480 --> 01:22:13.400
bless their dreams wherever they are in this program

1524
01:22:13.400 --> 01:22:15.120
or in their healing process.

1525
01:22:15.120 --> 01:22:16.920
I actually bless that and accelerate that

1526
01:22:16.920 --> 01:22:19.040
so that we can all come together

1527
01:22:19.040 --> 01:22:22.880
and trade our testimonies with our beautiful new brides.

1528
01:22:22.880 --> 01:22:24.680
In your precious name we pray, amen.