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Well, welcome, everyone.

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Those of you watching in replay and those of you on here live Monday, March 30th.

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Wow.

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Unbelievable.

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That's what it is, 2026, Monday, Men's Heart Check-In.

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Good to see you guys here.

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Sorry, I haven't been around for several weeks, but it's just the way life goes.

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Gets busy.

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Actually, one week I was celebrating my daughter's birthday, so that was definitely certainly

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worth it.

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How's everybody doing?

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One, two.

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I think I'm seeing everybody right here.

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Cool.

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Doing good?

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Doing good.

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Doing good.

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Just kind of fill me in, guys, what's been going on the last couple of weeks?

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What's been going on with you?

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What is new?

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What is trending?

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What is ... If you got something that you need help with, of course, we're here to help.

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This is Men's Heart Check-In.

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Don't have anybody new, I don't think, here.

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I think everybody has been here before.

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So let's start.

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All right.

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I'll head off, because people are asking anything.

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So I wasn't here last week, because I was out on a date, and it was going amazing until

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Trump came up.

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Trump?

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Trump.

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Oh.

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And then it was over.

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It's amazing.

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It's like flying a plane into a mountain.

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It was like two hours of magical, and then done.

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But it's really good, guys, just to get out there and get some reps.

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It's the first time I haven't dated an avoidant, which is ... She's more anxious, which was

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so much easier for me, like avoidants are a pain, because they're always running away.

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And so I just say, guys, get out there, get some reps.

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And I got better.

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I experienced some things that I hadn't experienced before, so I just encourage you.

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Get some reps.

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I mean, and it's really ... Yeah, disagreements on political ... I knew it was ... And that

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was another thing, is I knew it could be contentious, right?

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And I had a chance to just let it go, and I was like, I'm going to man up, and we're

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going to have this ... This is what's going to make ... I mean, that's something that

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you have to discuss, right?

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So don't kick the can down the street, just be a man, be straight up.

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And I was like, hey ... And I came at it in a really, really gentle way, right, and a

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kind way.

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And I'm like ... And I didn't expect it to be a complete deal breaker.

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But like, yeah, politics, man.

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I mean, when politics over ... And I'm just speaking to everybody, right?

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If politics are greater than Jesus, they're an idol.

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Just saying.

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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And we were like a 95% match, but that political 5% is what blew everything up.

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And I tried to come back around, but there was just no getting past that.

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But you guys, get out there, get the reps, get ... I learned what it was like to date

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an anxious attachment.

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And for all you wondering, so they're a little clingy, some would call them clingy, basically

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like, hey, I'm still here, we're good, we're good.

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You know, I mean, there's some people who are like, they're going to call you nine times

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a day.

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That's unhealthy.

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But to be able to say, hey, you know, we're good, have a great day, it puts them at ease

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so they can be calm, right?

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Whereas the avoidance, when they get close, they run and you can't really connect with

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them.

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So at least anxious, you can connect with them.

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Sometimes they want a little too much.

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But you know, I'm glad I got the opportunity and got out on the apps and, you know, like

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you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, so.

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Kudos to you, man.

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Getting out there, doing it.

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Good.

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Getting the reps in.

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Sorry that didn't work out.

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I don't know why.

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It's very tragic news in the world.

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I'm telling you, well, I do know why, actually.

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I mean, all of these issues, all of these areas, the strategy of the enemy, well, it's

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been since day one, right, the beginning of this existence called life.

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But even more so, it just seems like it's just random.

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up, the strategy of the enemy is this division, just constant at odds at anything that's possible

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called politics, life, issues, men and women, whatever it is, different sides of the country,

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I mean, that's whatever it can be.

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And it's just really sad, I've not been paying attention to a lot of things politically lately

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at all.

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I mean, I kind of know what's going on in the world, but I don't know in detail.

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And I just gave up kind of a long time ago, just kind of fighting any of those battles.

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And it wasn't just because I was trying to be, you know, noble of any sort, but I just

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really was trying to focus in on the things that like, actually, not matter like from

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like, oh, an idealistic standpoint, but actually matter to my life, like, like things started

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getting real for me.

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And I was just like, you know what, I can't just constantly be distracted, it's really

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more of a distraction thing, distracting me from my goals, distracting me from the things

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I wanted to accomplish.

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And I just came to the point where I just realized that I'm just, I'm just not going

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to get the things done that I want to get done today, this week, this month, this year,

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or in my life, if I don't just concentrate.

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So it's really just, it was a matter of focus.

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And so that's kind of what I've been doing lately.

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And I hope you all kind of have been feeling that I think everybody, I don't know if it

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raise your hand or give me some sort of indication of that's kind of like what you've been feeling

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like, like, it's just time to like focus instead of just being like scattered all over the

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place with everything that comes at you with everything that's trying to grab your attention.

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It's just for me, it's just about focus.

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I'm just trying to focus on some things and get some get some momentum.

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And I started out this month and I feel terrible about it.

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Some of you were here on that call, I did the first Monday of this month of March, and

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I called it March momentum.

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And there was this like, I laid out this plan, I was going to I had this plan, I hadn't fully

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laid it out.

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And I was going to go through, we're going to go through March, and we were going to

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build momentum.

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And I really, and I came in the next week, and I wasn't able to be there.

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And then I was like, came into the following week, and I wasn't able to be there.

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And then so on.

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And then three weeks went by.

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And I'm like, I wasn't able to be I missed all of March, being able to share this March

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momentum.

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So we're going to do men's momentum, since March is now here at the end.

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And so it's going to be a men's momentum thing.

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But I'll share, I won't, I probably won't get into that today.

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I'll probably just have it presented out in a way that, you know, it's really kind of

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be going to be helpful.

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But I think it's going to be really good.

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And I really want to go through it, because I think we'd all benefit from it.

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So we'll do that at some point.

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But I'm not going to try to dive into that, try to regain that, we'll just do some momentum

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stuff here, pretty soon.

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But I just want to catch up with you guys tonight, for sure.

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Who else has got something that you're been dealing with?

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What are you focusing on?

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Lots happened with me the last couple of weeks.

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And I'll share on that.

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But I got one.

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Somebody else an opportunity.

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Go ahead, Hunter.

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Well, I finally did I started since I'm 37.

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I still didn't question if I amount to anything or make the most of my life.

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So I figured in 2026 is me getting a sense that my days of being single could be numbered.

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And I think I prayed and I did something, something miraculous happened.

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I no longer I have not looked at a single point, any porn or any nude image since February

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And I may have seen an image of a cleavage or figure but but like on Instagram, but you

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know what, the hardcore stuff has been dying out.

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It's only in my memory.

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And it, it seems to be dying apart.

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And the more it comes to the fruit, fulfilling the fruits of the spirit, the the and start

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praying more and the more it starts to lose its appeal.

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It's awesome.

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It's powerful, man.

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You because I want I'm also a guy who wants to grow like because the way sex God intended

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was for marriage, it's you build a connection, you build intimacy, a companionship, you build

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intimacy and a commitment and you and you have it in reality to me, it's just bypassing

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all four of those that just have the instant gratification.

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Yeah, you know, that's the thing, you bring up a good point, Hunter, because it's kind

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of like when I was talking about focus, you know, when you finally make up your mind.

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Those of you that are like, super like disciplined kind of dudes, like you get this.

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I'm not the disciplined kind of dude, there's, you know, you know, those guys, right?

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This guy's so disciplined. He can just do

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Whatever he puts his mind to do, you know, and of course, that's sort of an exaggeration because

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You know, there's probably some undisciplined in another area of that dude's life

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But anyway, you look at him and you're like, oh I can tell that guy's like super disciplined, dude

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And then he makes you feel bad because you're just not as disciplined and whatever. So I mean, I'm kind of that guy

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I'm kind of like, you know, I look at people and I'm like, I wish I was that you know

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Wish I had that kind of level of discipline, but it is true. It's like when you

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finally get to the end of like I

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and so I'm just at the end of that and so it's it's time to just really focus and

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Get some get some traction and when you start to sort of laser in like that and you say I'm just I'm just I'm tired

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of this

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Whether it's porn or whether it's your health and fitness or whether it's your relationships or whether it's just you know

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Like just succeeding in life, you know trying to accomplish one thing

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wanting the focus and

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Think more than anything. I don't know. This is this is kind of what I've come up with because

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It's very difficult to white-knuckle it to happen

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It's very difficult to try to just say I'm gonna do this. I've just come hell or high water

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I determined to do that determination is good, but it just doesn't get you very far down that road. It really doesn't

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The I think the thing that mainly gets you down that road is if you can get a hold of

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the desire for you know, what

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What that will mean to your life like how how your life will be different?

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Like my life will be different if I weighed, you know

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20 less pounds

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Would fit into clothing that I would feel comfortable in I would look good. I would feel good. I

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Would feel confident like that's a worthy goal

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It seems superficial and it seems like whatever but it is true. Like what level of confidence then?

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Does that give you and then with that confidence what other things change in your life?

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Do you walk into a room differently, you know

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when you when you walk because of the confidence you have you walk into a room differently and

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lady a girl a

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woman and like it's attraction or you walk into a room or walk into

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Something in your life and it creates at a level of favor that you needed that you've always wanted

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But it created a favor because someone just saw you differently

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Maybe your boss saw you differently or maybe someone that has an opportunity

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That they're connected to an opportunity that they know who you are, but they didn't see you like that. I

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Mean just all kinds of different things that can happen with just and you started with like I if I could just lose 20 pounds

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My clothes or look good in this outfit or whatever

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Or whatever happened like it begins to snowball

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I shared this before and I

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It's kind of it's akin to this very thing talking about motivation

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I've heard this before like guys like tony robbins like says this in terms of like what motivates you

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pain or pleasure

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the pleasure of the outcome of what the change brings is

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Momentum maker and a change maker in your life than the pain than the pain of it

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The pain yeah, they can say that but the pain of it is

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Right that is pain

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but then

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When you begin to start seeing

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What's on the other side of the pain the pleasure of whatever it is that becomes the next motivator

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And so I would if I were you if I were like fast tracking this

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And you're like look I just want to I just want to get to the thing the fast track is

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is get through the pain as fast as you can to get to the moment of like, where's the

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pleasure in achieving this result?

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Where's the pleasure in being in relationship?

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And then your work and your effort and your drive begins to be driven towards that instead

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of always coming up against, you know, trying to like try, try harder, try harder, try harder.

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It becomes, man, if I just did this, I would have so much more peace.

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I would have so much more enjoyment with this person.

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I would have so much more benefits.

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I wouldn't, I would just, I would avoid all of the trouble in my life and that pleasure

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of just knowing that I don't have to deal with that trouble anymore because I'm the

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one creating the trouble.

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Your lack of empathy, your lack of action, your lack of initiation, your whatever is

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creating the problem in your life.

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And when you remove that and stop creating the problem and realize that everything that

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you want is attached to the pleasure and the benefit of not behaving that way, that becomes

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a way better motivator than you just saying, Hey, stop doing bad stuff.

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That's kind of like why our religion doesn't work.

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It's like, just stop sinning.

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Like that's sin pointing out the sin.

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It's like, okay, that's helpful like one time, but we all know it's sin.

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So it's just like to keep harping on this, the fact that it's sin or that it's bad or

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that it's not good or it's not healthy or it's like, you know, you could be better.

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That doesn't get you down the road like it would to go, man, if I just didn't give into

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that temptation, how much better could my life be?

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You see the difference in terms of like the motivation and that's, I've been on that road

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for quite a while and I actually guys, I actually did, I've started to lose some weight.

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I've got some, got some discipline.

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I did get on a GLP one that's helping me.

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And I just decided as like, I'm doing it.

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And um, some people are like, that's cheating.

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Other people are like, no, that's the best thing you can do.

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And I'm like, bro, I'm getting results and it's changing.

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It's in, it's assisting me helping my mentality get beyond.

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And I feel like, I feel like I've been only a bun on it for two weeks, but I, in January,

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I was 218 pounds and I had begun doing better choices and then got on GLP like three weeks

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ago and I'm down to 203 and if I break 200 pounds, that's going to be the first time

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in 25 years that I've been under 200 pounds.

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And for a guy like me, I'm not a tall guy.

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I'm five, eight.

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If that I'm five, eight, I mean, I'm five, nine, I'm two 15 or 16.

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Yeah.

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And it's just who makes the GOP one.

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Oh, I mean, there's all kinds, there's, there's, it's, it's a whole thing.

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It's um, that's not a brand.

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It's just, uh, tears appetite is the one I'm, I'm on.

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I can't even begin to tell you, you'll have to research it and get somebody who's all

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about it.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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No, I just, um, I, I don't do the research.

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My wife knows all the stuff, all the research and she just tells me, see, that's, that's

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the one thing about like, bro, if you want an AI assistant, you know, that's what wives

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are for.

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Wives are like, do all that research for you.

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They do all that stuff.

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She just tells me what to do and I'm like, okay, I'll just do it.

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I'm joking by the way, but I mean, it is kind of like that sense.

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It's kind of like, this is amazing.

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Like, you know, I don't have to do any research.

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She just tells me and she just knows all about it and everything.

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That is one of the benefits of definitely being in relationship with a good woman.

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The other side of that coin is that she will harp you and she will bug you.

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And I'm just kidding.

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No you're not.

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I've been having some results, you know, and you all know that I've been battling this

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for a long time in terms of just like wanting to, you know, get this area of my life under

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control because.

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Because I was just so unhealthy,

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although my heart rate was up,

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I did get on some blood pressure medicine.

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I've decreased my blood pressure.

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That's a huge thing.

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So there's several things that just kind of like came on

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and I just decided, I'm just done.

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I'm done feeling bad.

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I'm done feeling, and I'm enjoying the benefits.

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And now that has become my motivation

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rather than trying to like lose the pounds

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or trying to get disciplined or trying to whatever.

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I want to walk, I want to work out.

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I have a desire, like I've got the forward momentum.

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So anyway, I'm just excited about it.

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It's cool, it's good.

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And the thing about it is, is I feel like even now

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that I could even, I guess the normal thing

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is that you're supposed to do it,

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you would dose weekly if you're like, if you're on it.

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But then there's also this kind of like, okay,

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this idea like where you're not gonna live on GLP-1s.

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I mean, that probably is not a good idea,

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but you probably can get to the point

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where you've accomplished the goal

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and then you can go on like a maintenance.

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You can like a micro dose.

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You can do some of that like once a month,

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every other week, whatever it is,

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slow doses to where it just kind of helps and stuff.

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And I feel like I could do that almost sooner

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than what I had originally intended,

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like at the end of this month.

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So I got another couple of weeks,

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get the goal and then just kind of like micro dose

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and then really have the appetite back

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and be mentally and psychologically empowered

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to still make good choices.

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And I'm excited about that.

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So, and that's just kind of like my example,

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what's been going on with me,

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but the principle and the idea is still the same.

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It's just like being motivated by the excitement

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of what is happening rather than trying to like,

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not do bad things, quit eating donuts, quit eating.

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Like, why are you doing this?

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Beating myself up.

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Like, you know what I'm saying?

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Anyway, I want to give a chance for you guys

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to get some feedback.

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That's all for today.

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I'm kind of in a in-between place.

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I'm like the company I've worked for

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for the last 21 years on and off sold out last winter

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and I'm part of a teamsters union

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and it don't look like they're going to have any work

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until this summer.

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Not very much up and offering in my area.

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So I'm kind of looking on transitioning.

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I've been doing research on going back into hot shoddy,

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you know, pick up 40 foot trailer, but it wouldn't be here.

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So it's moved.

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So there's a lot of big decisions on.

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I broke my procrastination day

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and called three or four different companies

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and talked to them.

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But still, I don't know if it's dread

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or if it's just, I had excitement about it at first,

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but now I just, now I don't know.

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Now I feel kind of blah about it.

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So I'm not sure, you know, which way to go here.

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You know, waiting for something to come up or what?

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What's the ultimate thing that you want?

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Like, not in this decision,

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not like what do you want in this decision,

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but like, what do you want overall?

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Well, I need to get my income up to take care of my bills

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and straighten out some affairs and stuff.

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So you have an income goal?

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Yeah, of about 2,500 a week,

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which hotshotting provides that.

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Provides that, the union provides that

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if I have a 10 or 12 hour a day job, five days a week,

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you know, well, maybe not quite that much, but pretty close.

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But that'd give me some more freedom,

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but it also gave me constraint

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because I'd probably be gone and on the road a lot,

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you know, and gone ain't too much for me.

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All my kids are grown and I'm single.

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So, you know, it might be counterproductive

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towards relationship though.

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I also, you know, I also have,

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I'd like for something to come available

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in Alaska up towards Fairbanks,

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because I have 20 acres up there

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and a house that I want to rebuild,

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or a cabin that I built when I was 22 or 23 years old.

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But I don't know, there's a lot of stuff.

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Where I'm staying now, I eventually have to move

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everything out of there, my travel trailer, my semi-trailer.

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or which I don't have no way to move it.

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I don't have no place to put it right now

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because you can't drive up to my homestead.

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It's three and a half miles off the road, so.

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Yeah, that's hardcore.

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Oh yeah, no running water, no electricity.

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There's a possibility of electricity

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probably for 10 or $20,000.

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You know, to put in a couple more poles or whatnot,

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but I don't, I'm not that,

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not worried about the electricity part.

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That's what generators and solar panels are for, you know?

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So, some people are into that type of stuff

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and some people aren't.

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Yeah, I can go either way.

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Okay.

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That's kind of like my retirement property.

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If I meet somebody that kind of wants to live that way,

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I'm up for it.

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If they don't, you know, I might just build,

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fix my place up and build a place on it.

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And keep it for retirement to sell, you know?

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Yeah.

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To sell off.

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But I mean, I've had it for 35, 40 years, so.

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Well, I just agree with you that you have,

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I agree with you that in prayer and faith,

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that you're going to have a moment of favor

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and something's going to break in that

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because, you know, you have an income goal

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and you have a couple of different ways to do it.

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And I understand like both sides of that, you know,

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like the benefits and the non-benefits.

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And so I just say that, you know,

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you have this moment of clarity and favor

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that shows you exactly what it is

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that aligns you with what it is your goals are

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and what it is you want to accomplish.

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And I just pray that you'll have favor

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that you'll have some clarity this week.

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Somehow, some way.

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Amen.

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Yeah, and I mean, I have a kind of a health problem

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that's held me back before,

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but I think it's getting better and I get,

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I get really severe headaches and migraines sometimes.

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And it just wipes, you know, wipes all my energy out.

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Yeah.

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They seem to be getting better.

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I beat my type two diabetes.

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I got my A1C back down to 5.7.

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So.

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That's awesome.

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Which is good.

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Should be under 6.1 or whatever it is.

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Is that the threshold?

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I don't know.

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Yeah, something for, I'm not even pre-diabetic anymore,

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but I still have to really watch the sugars

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that I put into my body, you know.

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I don't use real sugar anymore.

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I use mug fruit and stuff like that, but.

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Awesome.

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Anyway.

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I'm telling you, man, thanks for sharing.

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I appreciate that.

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Who else has got something?

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What else is going on?

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Anybody, everybody?

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I'll speak.

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Go ahead, Chris.

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Okay.

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So I'm looking for some feedback here.

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And of course I'm leaning on the Lord about this,

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but I'm back in finishing up now the hard work,

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the first part.

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And one of the things that's been revealed to me,

488
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and I kind of casually mentioned this to people, you know,

489
00:28:19.880 --> 00:28:22.200
in passing and never really thought much about it,

490
00:28:22.200 --> 00:28:24.400
but it was definitely pointed out to me.

491
00:28:26.120 --> 00:28:28.880
So I'm a words of affirmation person.

492
00:28:28.880 --> 00:28:32.200
So I just like melt, you know, with kind words.

493
00:28:32.200 --> 00:28:37.200
And my father is a acts of service person.

494
00:28:39.840 --> 00:28:41.480
My father, to my memory,

495
00:28:41.480 --> 00:28:43.480
has never told me that he loved me.

496
00:28:44.960 --> 00:28:47.040
Yeah, and I came to the realization

497
00:28:47.080 --> 00:28:50.440
that it's because he doesn't speak my language,

498
00:28:50.440 --> 00:28:53.880
you know, probably 15 to 20 years ago.

499
00:28:55.200 --> 00:28:57.920
But up until that time, I really didn't understand it.

500
00:28:57.920 --> 00:29:01.200
I didn't feel loved by my father.

501
00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:02.280
Yeah.

502
00:29:02.280 --> 00:29:05.160
So this is something I'm digging in pretty hard with,

503
00:29:05.160 --> 00:29:08.320
with the Lord and also with my close circle.

504
00:29:09.720 --> 00:29:11.640
But I wanted to throw it out there and just ask,

505
00:29:11.640 --> 00:29:13.640
you know, what you guys think about that?

506
00:29:13.640 --> 00:29:15.440
If anybody else has experienced that

507
00:29:15.440 --> 00:29:20.080
or has any thoughts on what impact

508
00:29:20.080 --> 00:29:22.040
that might have on somebody?

509
00:29:23.960 --> 00:29:25.360
Who's got a thought on that?

510
00:29:29.720 --> 00:29:34.080
So, yeah, being a words of affirmation guy

511
00:29:34.080 --> 00:29:38.520
and being told that you're a worthless piece of crap

512
00:29:38.520 --> 00:29:40.400
is kind of my story.

513
00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:44.160
And I guess what works for me

514
00:29:44.160 --> 00:29:48.560
is that my earthly father couldn't do things that were,

515
00:29:50.120 --> 00:29:52.720
he's a broken dude, really broken dude, right?

516
00:29:52.720 --> 00:29:55.960
But my heavenly father, I mean, he loves me immensely.

517
00:29:55.960 --> 00:29:58.040
And he really is super proud of me

518
00:29:58.040 --> 00:29:59.560
and that he will never fail me.

519
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.520
You know, and so, and he sends people around me to encourage me and to love on me and,

520
00:30:05.520 --> 00:30:08.080
and he can make up for everything that you didn't get.

521
00:30:08.080 --> 00:30:10.400
That's the thing is like you.

522
00:30:10.400 --> 00:30:11.400
It's different.

523
00:30:11.400 --> 00:30:12.400
Right.

524
00:30:12.400 --> 00:30:16.560
So my stepdad, finally, you know, like, I don't know.

525
00:30:16.560 --> 00:30:20.360
So my stepdad one one day did say that he loved me.

526
00:30:20.360 --> 00:30:21.360
Right.

527
00:30:21.360 --> 00:30:25.840
And I but it was such, you know, you think your whole life that if you just got that

528
00:30:25.840 --> 00:30:27.640
it would make it right better, right?

529
00:30:27.640 --> 00:30:28.640
It didn't mean a thing.

530
00:30:28.640 --> 00:30:29.640
Right.

531
00:30:29.640 --> 00:30:33.920
Like, you know, after so many years, so, so I think that's a trap that you get into.

532
00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:36.200
If I just heard him say it, I heard him say it.

533
00:30:36.200 --> 00:30:37.600
And it didn't mean anything to me.

534
00:30:37.600 --> 00:30:45.000
I mean, because, you know, 30 years of actions versus one word doesn't really, really, really,

535
00:30:45.000 --> 00:30:46.200
really play.

536
00:30:46.200 --> 00:30:48.680
But you're the father in heaven loves you immensely.

537
00:30:48.680 --> 00:30:50.800
And Jesus loves you immensely.

538
00:30:50.800 --> 00:30:52.680
And that he is super proud of you.

539
00:30:53.480 --> 00:30:59.040
And knowing that, that my heavenly father trumps my earthly father, and knowing my identity

540
00:30:59.040 --> 00:31:04.800
in him and getting identity doing a bunch of identity work.

541
00:31:04.800 --> 00:31:05.800
It makes it better.

542
00:31:05.800 --> 00:31:07.240
It doesn't make it go away.

543
00:31:07.240 --> 00:31:08.240
Right.

544
00:31:08.240 --> 00:31:11.800
I like to tell you that there's this magic pill and you freaking silver bullet and you

545
00:31:11.800 --> 00:31:13.400
shoot that thing and it's dead.

546
00:31:13.400 --> 00:31:14.400
Right.

547
00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:16.760
But, but, you know, there's times where I'm like, you know, but guess what?

548
00:31:16.760 --> 00:31:20.360
I became a great dad, even though I didn't have one.

549
00:31:20.360 --> 00:31:21.360
Right.

550
00:31:22.040 --> 00:31:26.320
So like you, you can become the very thing that you never got in God's grace.

551
00:31:26.320 --> 00:31:27.320
Right.

552
00:31:27.320 --> 00:31:31.560
And so I just encourage you, surround you with people who, who are uplifting and who

553
00:31:31.560 --> 00:31:36.160
speak your love language or let your, you know, you guys always hear me harping on your

554
00:31:36.160 --> 00:31:37.720
inner circle.

555
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:40.000
Like everybody needs an inner circle, right?

556
00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:45.080
Like you guys, if you don't have an inner circle, you got to get one and ask Jesus.

557
00:31:45.080 --> 00:31:49.440
But like, tell your inner circle, Hey, you know what, I'm really lacking in this department

558
00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:50.960
and I could really use help.

559
00:31:50.960 --> 00:31:54.880
People in my inner circle know that I am a touch, touch, touch is my primary words

560
00:31:54.880 --> 00:31:55.880
of affirmation.

561
00:31:55.880 --> 00:31:56.880
It's my second.

562
00:31:56.880 --> 00:32:01.520
So like most of them aren't huggers, but they give me a hug because they know I need it.

563
00:32:01.520 --> 00:32:02.520
Right.

564
00:32:02.520 --> 00:32:05.640
So like your circle, they can, they can make up for what you didn't get.

565
00:32:05.640 --> 00:32:08.320
So just, just my like 10 cents.

566
00:32:08.320 --> 00:32:09.320
Yeah.

567
00:32:09.320 --> 00:32:14.560
So, um, my father, I mean, he does express love, but just in a different way, like I'm

568
00:32:14.560 --> 00:32:18.000
going down for Easter to Florida for Easter.

569
00:32:18.000 --> 00:32:22.880
And, um, you know, you walk into this house, I mean, you're not allowed to do anything

570
00:32:22.880 --> 00:32:23.880
for yourself.

571
00:32:23.880 --> 00:32:31.200
I mean, he expresses it through acts of service and, um, it was just, it just, I feel like

572
00:32:31.200 --> 00:32:36.760
it impacted me and it was pointed out to me that I needed to, you know, figure this out

573
00:32:36.760 --> 00:32:39.760
and, um, kind of overcome it.

574
00:32:39.760 --> 00:32:43.760
Oh, it's like you're working good on it.

575
00:32:43.960 --> 00:32:44.960
You have a comment.

576
00:32:44.960 --> 00:32:50.720
I don't know if your hand's raised for, oh, you're still muted, bro.

577
00:32:50.720 --> 00:32:51.720
Thank you.

578
00:32:51.720 --> 00:32:56.000
Um, yeah, it was, it was about something else.

579
00:32:56.000 --> 00:33:05.360
Um, but I appreciate you sharing Chris and I am praying for you to hear, um, father God's

580
00:33:05.360 --> 00:33:08.560
voice about, about his love for you.

581
00:33:08.560 --> 00:33:13.200
And I'm so sorry that that was your experience.

582
00:33:13.200 --> 00:33:14.200
Thank you.

583
00:33:14.200 --> 00:33:18.200
What do you got Jeremy?

584
00:33:18.200 --> 00:33:26.840
Um, so I mean, it's something that, uh, maybe a little bit going back to one of the things

585
00:33:26.840 --> 00:33:32.040
that, um, that was brought up before, and then some of the stuff that you shared, uh,

586
00:33:32.040 --> 00:33:36.760
one of the things that I've noticed, um, that, that I've been kind of walking through since

587
00:33:36.760 --> 00:33:44.720
last September is, you know, I know I've noticed something about me with, with self-awareness

588
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:48.560
that, you know, whenever it comes to me trying to make a change, if I try to do too many

589
00:33:48.560 --> 00:33:56.960
things at one time, then it typically ends in a result of, um, it lasting for a very

590
00:33:56.960 --> 00:34:00.800
short period of time and it not being something that sticks.

591
00:34:00.800 --> 00:34:05.080
And so, you know, there was the first thing that I did last September is I decided, you

592
00:34:05.080 --> 00:34:06.080
know what?

593
00:34:06.080 --> 00:34:07.080
I'm going to stop playing.

594
00:34:07.080 --> 00:34:09.840
And as I know, it sounds silly, but playing games on my phone, like it's something that

595
00:34:09.840 --> 00:34:14.159
I just noticed, you know, consumed, you know, a lot of time, especially, you know, whenever

596
00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:18.800
I was hanging out with my wife and, and so, you know, that was kind of step one.

597
00:34:18.800 --> 00:34:22.880
And then, you know, step two, you know, a couple of months later was, okay, I'm going

598
00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:29.880
to, um, you know, move in a direction to where I'm going to stop, for example, watching shorts

599
00:34:29.880 --> 00:34:33.679
or whatever, because you can literally just sit there and it's just mindless entertainment

600
00:34:33.679 --> 00:34:38.520
that does absolutely nothing from a productivity standpoint, you know?

601
00:34:38.520 --> 00:34:43.960
And then the, the next thing was, you know, going to the doctor, my wife's nurse practitioner

602
00:34:43.960 --> 00:34:46.880
started seeing her and I started doing testosterone therapy.

603
00:34:46.880 --> 00:34:52.000
And then, um, and mind you throughout this entire time, obviously each step is actually

604
00:34:52.000 --> 00:34:54.880
sticking rather than trying to do everything all at once.

605
00:34:54.880 --> 00:34:56.840
And then it just imploding.

606
00:34:56.840 --> 00:34:59.960
And so then, you know, once I started going to the doctor that I started.

607
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.320
doing, you know, I found out at Hashimoto's. And so, you know,

608
00:35:05.320 --> 00:35:09.320
I'm taking like a, like a hormone replacement that's

609
00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:12.840
natural, right, for hypothyroidism, or, you know,

610
00:35:12.840 --> 00:35:16.160
Hashimoto's. And so then I started taking testosterone, and

611
00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:19.760
that was probably about six weeks. And then after that, and

612
00:35:19.760 --> 00:35:22.440
my testosterone levels are coming up, you know, then now

613
00:35:22.440 --> 00:35:27.640
I'm on the Rita Trita, which is a GLP three. And, you know, like

614
00:35:27.640 --> 00:35:31.560
my focus is insane. Now, it's just freaking phenomenal. I

615
00:35:31.560 --> 00:35:34.960
can't focus on like, yesterday, I just freaking went at it and

616
00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:37.840
started cleaning stuff. And I've only been on it for a week, and

617
00:35:37.840 --> 00:35:40.480
I've lost like three pounds. But the but I really love the fact

618
00:35:40.480 --> 00:35:44.920
that I'm like, focused and zoned in. And, and, you know, just

619
00:35:44.920 --> 00:35:48.840
being able to focus on work or specific tasks or whatever, and

620
00:35:48.840 --> 00:35:52.920
having that initiative to that drive to be able to not be lazy

621
00:35:52.920 --> 00:35:55.160
and get up and do things and things of that nature. And it's

622
00:35:55.160 --> 00:35:58.120
just like, you know, it's almost like once you start

623
00:35:58.120 --> 00:36:00.840
feeling that snowball effect, and you're doing one thing at a

624
00:36:00.840 --> 00:36:04.480
time, and then finally, like it just starts accumulating and

625
00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:08.440
picking up. And I feel like I personally, you know, within my

626
00:36:08.440 --> 00:36:11.680
life have have started receiving breakthrough in those areas.

627
00:36:11.680 --> 00:36:14.720
And, you know, once I jump up to the two milligram, you know, in

628
00:36:14.720 --> 00:36:17.840
a week or two weeks, I guess it is, then I'm going to start my

629
00:36:17.880 --> 00:36:20.400
my workout routine with the tunnel that I have at home. So

630
00:36:20.400 --> 00:36:24.240
it's like, I've noticed by like, for me personally, by using that

631
00:36:24.240 --> 00:36:28.120
method, it's, it's definitely not felt overwhelming, like I

632
00:36:28.120 --> 00:36:31.160
have to do all these things all at once. And then it just like

633
00:36:31.160 --> 00:36:34.680
kind of implodes. But by gradually kind of walking

634
00:36:34.680 --> 00:36:40.640
through that, it for me, it's it's, it's been rather a relief

635
00:36:40.640 --> 00:36:42.480
and almost kind of a breakthrough and kind of a

636
00:36:42.480 --> 00:36:45.000
different mentality or approach that I've taken in the past.

637
00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:51.120
Yeah, that's powerful. That's really good. Yeah, no, the the

638
00:36:52.080 --> 00:36:59.880
the overwhelm, I think is huge. I think it's for men, especially.

639
00:37:03.160 --> 00:37:06.760
If I could say it's stereo, if I could be stereotypical, like for

640
00:37:06.760 --> 00:37:18.480
a minute, you know, women are overwhelmed by their situation of

641
00:37:18.600 --> 00:37:25.440
having to man up in their lives, especially single women. Because

642
00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:30.560
it's like, if they're not married, if they're not in

643
00:37:30.560 --> 00:37:33.360
relationship, they have to do everything. And they're just

644
00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:38.840
like, I don't want to do all this stuff. And then men in

645
00:37:38.840 --> 00:37:45.480
their own way are overwhelmed by all the things that are, quote,

646
00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:52.440
necessary. And that's hard to discern these days, because

647
00:37:52.440 --> 00:37:58.720
there's just so much vying for your attention. You talk about

648
00:37:58.760 --> 00:38:01.480
doom scrolling, you're talking about just, you know,

649
00:38:01.480 --> 00:38:06.880
entertainment, alone, period. Let alone actual things that

650
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:10.640
really matter, you know, that are vying for your attention,

651
00:38:10.640 --> 00:38:12.920
whether it's your family, or whether it's your job, or

652
00:38:12.920 --> 00:38:15.760
whether it's the backyard, or whether it's, you know, that

653
00:38:15.760 --> 00:38:24.160
just, it doesn't, it's just constant. And again, it is the

654
00:38:24.160 --> 00:38:28.040
day and age we live in, for sure. You know, it's like,

655
00:38:28.040 --> 00:38:32.360
there's just an onslaught of the time period that we live in,

656
00:38:32.360 --> 00:38:35.880
there's just too much. This is one thing we're finding with

657
00:38:36.760 --> 00:38:41.160
regard to like relationships, finding a person, finding it,

658
00:38:41.240 --> 00:38:43.560
there's too many choices. It's one of the core things that we

659
00:38:43.560 --> 00:38:48.160
deal with all the time, in terms of like, trying to find a mate.

660
00:38:49.360 --> 00:38:53.400
You know, and from the female standpoint, and the male

661
00:38:53.400 --> 00:38:58.040
standpoint, same problem, but going about it two different

662
00:38:58.040 --> 00:39:00.760
ways, because of how we're how each of us are wired and

663
00:39:00.760 --> 00:39:05.520
motivated. You know, if, if it's, if it's the guy's thing,

664
00:39:05.520 --> 00:39:08.920
if it's like, Oh, yeah, no, she's really pretty. But then

665
00:39:08.920 --> 00:39:11.360
you're thinking in the back of your mind, could I find a

666
00:39:11.360 --> 00:39:15.080
prettier one? I mean, I hate to put it at that level. But that's

667
00:39:15.080 --> 00:39:18.560
just basically what men are doing right now. You know, I

668
00:39:18.560 --> 00:39:22.480
want to believe that men are like, putting more depth and

669
00:39:22.480 --> 00:39:25.080
character into their relationship search. But that's

670
00:39:25.080 --> 00:39:30.000
primary. That's like, number one, oh, she's pretty. But

671
00:39:30.040 --> 00:39:33.480
there's probably someone else prettier. And I want this and

672
00:39:33.480 --> 00:39:36.600
I'm gonna have standards and I want to hold out for that. Well,

673
00:39:36.640 --> 00:39:39.280
problem is, is that you hold out for that too long, and you'll

674
00:39:39.280 --> 00:39:41.640
never get in relationship and you hold out for the rest of

675
00:39:41.640 --> 00:39:44.840
your life. And then that's basically what you're doing is

676
00:39:44.840 --> 00:39:46.920
you're just holding out, holding out, holding out for better and

677
00:39:46.920 --> 00:39:49.680
better and better. Why? Because you think you have too many

678
00:39:49.680 --> 00:39:55.280
choices. And the reality is you don't. It's just the bottom line

679
00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:59.520
is just don't. You should limit your choices.

680
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.440
actually make better decisions with limited choices than you do with all the choices.

681
00:40:05.440 --> 00:40:11.600
But because we live in this world that we live in, we are literally just disciplined or discipled,

682
00:40:11.600 --> 00:40:19.440
if you will, in a destructive way to try to uncover all of the choices that we have.

683
00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:23.680
I don't like this TV show. I don't like this game. I don't like this, you know,

684
00:40:23.680 --> 00:40:27.920
like I could play this other video game, but this other game, you talk to someone like,

685
00:40:27.920 --> 00:40:32.480
man, this is my favorite thing, whatever. And then, you know, you're, you're, you're best due

686
00:40:32.480 --> 00:40:36.880
to be like, yeah, well, I have like 12 other choices. You know, you're going to get in an

687
00:40:36.880 --> 00:40:42.160
argument because like, who has the better, like, whatever it's like, bro, it's, it's,

688
00:40:42.160 --> 00:40:50.480
it doesn't matter. Like focus is the thing. And so as we begin to really just peel all that back,

689
00:40:51.040 --> 00:40:57.200
you know, um, and really get to the heart of, of the, of what it is that we're after.

690
00:40:58.240 --> 00:41:05.440
What's, what's germane to our life and get that level of focus. You can get the momentum,

691
00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:15.120
you know? And, um, I mean, kudos on you, man, Jeremy for, for going to doing that. But over

692
00:41:15.120 --> 00:41:19.600
doing that, but over the overwhelm is real. And I want to, I wanted to say that because

693
00:41:20.240 --> 00:41:25.040
I want everybody to know that's like those of you that are feeling the overwhelm. Um,

694
00:41:26.320 --> 00:41:34.320
it's, it's a real thing, but the way to combat it is to really just do whatever you can to try to

695
00:41:34.320 --> 00:41:45.360
get focus one thing at a time. If that's what gets you focused, focusing in on a goal and

696
00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:51.680
achieving this one thing. And it could be just as small as dad gunner. I'm just, I'm going to clean

697
00:41:52.640 --> 00:41:56.480
this house. I'm going to get this thing under control. Thomas, I know you've been working on

698
00:41:56.480 --> 00:42:01.040
a lot of that kind of stuff where it's kind of like, I'm just finally going to do this for the

699
00:42:01.040 --> 00:42:06.240
first time. And like, I'm just going to get this under control, you know? And I don't know the

700
00:42:06.240 --> 00:42:12.160
revelation you've had in that process with you in terms of just like how that's meant to you or

701
00:42:12.160 --> 00:42:19.200
other things in your life. But I mean, it's a real thing. Yeah. Would you like me to share about that

702
00:42:20.000 --> 00:42:26.880
before Abram goes? Yes. Yeah. So, uh, very grateful. Um, thanks in part, you know, to all of

703
00:42:26.880 --> 00:42:34.960
you, um, uh, on step nine of 10 on the getting things done workbook, my living space is clean

704
00:42:34.960 --> 00:42:40.160
for the first time in my adult life and has been now for two and a half months. Um, very grateful

705
00:42:40.160 --> 00:42:47.360
for that and getting all of my actions on a next action list and having a accurate calendar for the

706
00:42:47.360 --> 00:42:56.480
first time in my life has been, uh, wonderful and horrible because it, my, my next actions list is

707
00:42:56.480 --> 00:43:01.120
getting longer instead of shorter. And my emails to respond to list is getting longer instead of

708
00:43:01.120 --> 00:43:08.320
shorter, which is showing me that, um, uh, in my family, we didn't make choices growing up.

709
00:43:09.440 --> 00:43:13.440
Um, one parent, because they just sat there and didn't do anything. And the other one,

710
00:43:13.440 --> 00:43:19.200
because it was perpetual crisis mode and agreed to do everything. And I inherited

711
00:43:20.240 --> 00:43:23.680
a little bit of both of those things, like sit there and tell there's a crisis.

712
00:43:24.240 --> 00:43:30.160
So, so now, um, I've been cutting things out of my schedule ruthlessly.

713
00:43:31.440 --> 00:43:37.840
And that is awesome. It is awesome. Ruthless, like the word ruthless right there. Yes.

714
00:43:39.120 --> 00:43:45.760
Yeah. And, uh, and however, still so realizing how much I overestimated,

715
00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:52.480
overestimated my capacity and, and now the more I'm cutting out, the more,

716
00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:56.880
if there's still like a bump in the road, like this week, one of my employees really blew it.

717
00:43:56.880 --> 00:44:04.480
And, um, I went, that wound up totally derailing my entire system because I've lived just redlining

718
00:44:04.480 --> 00:44:09.200
it so much. So learning how to live, like, how do you make intentional decisions about how much

719
00:44:09.200 --> 00:44:14.480
time do you spend on things? And then creating that, like you're saying, I want my email inbox

720
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:20.480
to be at zero, you know? So then as I set timers to be like, okay, now I'm going to do this.

721
00:44:21.120 --> 00:44:24.640
Like, I realized it takes me 45 minutes to take care of one email sometimes,

722
00:44:24.640 --> 00:44:30.000
which is not sustainable. So learning how to do things. And it's had big ramifications on

723
00:44:30.000 --> 00:44:39.840
my dating life because I've realized I need to make choices about women as well. And, um, uh,

724
00:44:39.840 --> 00:44:44.560
it's reduced my screen time because I realized, wow, if I only have this amount of time and energy,

725
00:44:45.520 --> 00:44:49.120
you know, if you believe that you have unlimited time, it makes a lot of sense to watch TV.

726
00:44:49.760 --> 00:44:56.160
If you believe you have a limited amount and you can either live your own life or watch like some

727
00:44:56.160 --> 00:44:59.840
other character live their life, then, then the question, hopefully.

728
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.000
for me is becoming, is does it contribute to my own life

729
00:45:05.080 --> 00:45:08.120
and my own story to be watching this other person's story?

730
00:45:08.120 --> 00:45:12.160
So it's messy and gross and horrible

731
00:45:12.160 --> 00:45:16.460
and I've been going on more dates and they're pretty bad.

732
00:45:16.460 --> 00:45:18.840
And you know, that's okay.

733
00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:22.200
So things are going in the right direction.

734
00:45:22.200 --> 00:45:24.640
I did a Sabbath walk, but I goofed off

735
00:45:24.640 --> 00:45:28.040
for the first time since high school this last Thursday.

736
00:45:28.160 --> 00:45:31.920
And have any of you ever done that practice?

737
00:45:31.920 --> 00:45:35.600
You set your timer for an hour in a park or in a garden

738
00:45:35.600 --> 00:45:38.000
and then you just let yourself,

739
00:45:38.000 --> 00:45:39.560
whatever your attention is drawn to,

740
00:45:39.560 --> 00:45:41.360
you just let yourself be drawn to it.

741
00:45:41.360 --> 00:45:43.280
If you feel like walking, you walk.

742
00:45:43.280 --> 00:45:45.360
If you feel like looking at a flower, you look at a flower.

743
00:45:45.360 --> 00:45:47.480
If you feel like sitting down, you sit down

744
00:45:47.480 --> 00:45:50.240
and just kind of let yourself

745
00:45:50.240 --> 00:45:53.440
just be yourself for like 30 minutes.

746
00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:55.360
And that was really crazy.

747
00:45:55.400 --> 00:46:00.320
And I've started wanting to do that more in my regular life.

748
00:46:00.320 --> 00:46:03.480
So I'm really curious, really curious.

749
00:46:04.320 --> 00:46:07.040
So, I mean, so you mentioned several things.

750
00:46:07.040 --> 00:46:08.680
Ruthless, I love the word.

751
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:11.040
I love the word.

752
00:46:11.040 --> 00:46:14.960
If you could learn guys to be ruthless

753
00:46:14.960 --> 00:46:19.960
about eliminating stuff that is distracting in your life,

754
00:46:20.640 --> 00:46:23.000
man, it's incredible.

755
00:46:23.000 --> 00:46:24.960
I think that's awesome.

756
00:46:25.560 --> 00:46:26.400
The other concept that you mentioned

757
00:46:26.400 --> 00:46:27.440
was the fact that like,

758
00:46:27.440 --> 00:46:29.920
I realized that I could either live my life

759
00:46:29.920 --> 00:46:31.680
or I could live somebody else's life.

760
00:46:31.680 --> 00:46:33.880
I could watch somebody else's character

761
00:46:33.880 --> 00:46:37.040
and I could live life in that character.

762
00:46:37.040 --> 00:46:39.440
Powerful, because in this day and age,

763
00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:44.160
with all the things that you could immerse yourself in,

764
00:46:44.160 --> 00:46:47.840
I think so many people do that, men especially.

765
00:46:47.840 --> 00:46:52.840
They live vicariously through someone or something else.

766
00:46:53.800 --> 00:46:56.480
And bro, live your life.

767
00:46:57.480 --> 00:47:00.720
Live your fricking life.

768
00:47:00.720 --> 00:47:02.840
Don't live somebody else's life.

769
00:47:02.840 --> 00:47:04.240
Live your life.

770
00:47:05.280 --> 00:47:08.000
And the other thing in terms of the exercise

771
00:47:08.000 --> 00:47:09.400
you're talking about,

772
00:47:09.400 --> 00:47:14.400
that to me goes back to sort of getting in touch with like,

773
00:47:18.640 --> 00:47:20.760
I feel like this has to do with like what you're saying

774
00:47:20.760 --> 00:47:22.080
about your family upbringing.

775
00:47:22.080 --> 00:47:23.640
Like not making decisions.

776
00:47:24.520 --> 00:47:28.960
And because in that, in not making decisions,

777
00:47:28.960 --> 00:47:32.160
it's, some people would be like,

778
00:47:32.160 --> 00:47:33.000
oh, that's freeing.

779
00:47:33.000 --> 00:47:33.840
I don't have to make decisions.

780
00:47:33.840 --> 00:47:34.760
No, no, no, it's not freeing.

781
00:47:34.760 --> 00:47:36.720
It's actually prison.

782
00:47:36.720 --> 00:47:41.120
It's actually a holding you back.

783
00:47:41.120 --> 00:47:44.800
And it's not allowing you to live authentically you.

784
00:47:44.800 --> 00:47:49.640
And so the exercise, as esoteric as it might seem,

785
00:47:50.280 --> 00:47:52.760
just to go to the park and I was just like, be free.

786
00:47:52.760 --> 00:47:54.480
No, actually what it is,

787
00:47:54.480 --> 00:47:57.040
it is you allowing yourself to be you

788
00:47:57.040 --> 00:48:01.000
and you allowing yourself to be driven by you,

789
00:48:01.000 --> 00:48:03.760
what's coming out of inside of you

790
00:48:03.760 --> 00:48:06.480
and identifying and connecting with you

791
00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:08.640
and what is on the inside of you.

792
00:48:09.600 --> 00:48:12.320
Instead of being directed by everything else

793
00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:14.720
that's telling you to do this, don't do that.

794
00:48:14.720 --> 00:48:15.640
I need you here.

795
00:48:15.640 --> 00:48:16.480
I need you there.

796
00:48:16.520 --> 00:48:19.240
And so it's like being in demand, in demand,

797
00:48:19.240 --> 00:48:20.720
in demand all the time.

798
00:48:22.040 --> 00:48:24.360
And like, you may not have a stressful job.

799
00:48:24.360 --> 00:48:25.760
Like you may be having one of those jobs.

800
00:48:25.760 --> 00:48:27.560
It's like, oh, my job's really not that big a deal.

801
00:48:27.560 --> 00:48:30.440
I'm not, I don't have a lot of responsibilities in my job.

802
00:48:30.440 --> 00:48:33.000
So my job isn't that demanding.

803
00:48:33.000 --> 00:48:35.640
Yeah, but the world you live in

804
00:48:35.640 --> 00:48:38.680
is demanding every second of your time.

805
00:48:40.400 --> 00:48:43.040
And it is a real thing.

806
00:48:43.040 --> 00:48:45.200
And so like those three things that you mentioned, Thomas,

807
00:48:45.200 --> 00:48:46.040
super powerful.

808
00:48:46.560 --> 00:48:47.400
I mean, it's just incredible.

809
00:48:47.400 --> 00:48:48.360
I love that.

810
00:48:48.360 --> 00:48:49.360
I love that for you.

811
00:48:49.360 --> 00:48:50.880
And I love that, that, you know,

812
00:48:50.880 --> 00:48:52.400
we're kind of illuminating this.

813
00:48:52.400 --> 00:48:56.400
I don't, I think, I think the result of this call

814
00:48:56.400 --> 00:48:57.600
is everybody on this call,

815
00:48:57.600 --> 00:49:01.320
as respective to your unique situation,

816
00:49:01.320 --> 00:49:05.160
you're seeing that regardless of what you know

817
00:49:05.160 --> 00:49:06.760
or you perceive about everybody else

818
00:49:06.760 --> 00:49:08.800
that you're looking at on this call,

819
00:49:08.800 --> 00:49:11.680
you're realizing that you're not the only one

820
00:49:11.680 --> 00:49:14.000
dealing with all the shit you're dealing with.

821
00:49:14.880 --> 00:49:17.440
You're not the only one.

822
00:49:17.440 --> 00:49:20.160
You're not the only one who is challenged in their focus.

823
00:49:20.160 --> 00:49:22.640
You're not the only one who feels behind.

824
00:49:22.640 --> 00:49:24.360
You're not the only one who feels like

825
00:49:24.360 --> 00:49:26.480
you're living somebody else's life.

826
00:49:26.480 --> 00:49:30.480
You're not the only one out here

827
00:49:30.480 --> 00:49:33.880
trying to make this thing work.

828
00:49:33.880 --> 00:49:35.880
Everybody else is trying to do the same thing.

829
00:49:35.880 --> 00:49:37.680
And there's a lot of other people

830
00:49:37.680 --> 00:49:39.640
that are good, well-meaning people

831
00:49:39.960 --> 00:49:44.960
that are changing their life.

832
00:49:48.040 --> 00:49:49.360
They're making a difference.

833
00:49:49.360 --> 00:49:50.520
They're getting some headway.

834
00:49:50.520 --> 00:49:51.600
And that's kind of like what we're,

835
00:49:51.600 --> 00:49:53.840
I'm trying to celebrate that tonight.

836
00:49:53.840 --> 00:49:56.080
Abram, go ahead, what you got for us.

837
00:49:57.040 --> 00:49:58.080
Can you guys hear me?

838
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.840
Kind of low, but yeah, I can hear you.

839
00:50:01.840 --> 00:50:02.840
Can you guys hear me?

840
00:50:04.000 --> 00:50:05.160
That's a little better.

841
00:50:05.160 --> 00:50:07.480
I just want to say grats to Thomas, Jeremy, and Dave

842
00:50:07.480 --> 00:50:10.880
on your guys' personal stuff, man, that's awesome.

843
00:50:10.880 --> 00:50:14.880
Chris, to your point, so I'm an Italian-German guy,

844
00:50:14.880 --> 00:50:17.920
and I'm only a couple generations from the old country,

845
00:50:17.920 --> 00:50:21.420
and none of my family growing up said, I love you.

846
00:50:21.420 --> 00:50:24.020
And my mom tells a story of her grandma

847
00:50:24.020 --> 00:50:26.760
who never spoke English, this old Italian lady,

848
00:50:26.760 --> 00:50:29.120
just mean, called her a slag ass,

849
00:50:29.120 --> 00:50:32.200
like a witch in Italian, just a mean lady, anyways.

850
00:50:32.200 --> 00:50:33.760
So I kind of feel you, dude.

851
00:50:33.760 --> 00:50:38.040
But what I've been doing, so this is what I did

852
00:50:38.040 --> 00:50:39.360
to get my dad, all right?

853
00:50:39.360 --> 00:50:41.440
I'd be like, all right, on the phone?

854
00:50:41.440 --> 00:50:43.680
Okay, ciao, okay, all right, love you.

855
00:50:45.680 --> 00:50:47.720
And then he started saying I love you back a couple,

856
00:50:47.720 --> 00:50:49.720
first he didn't say it.

857
00:50:49.720 --> 00:50:51.380
And so your pop's still around,

858
00:50:51.380 --> 00:50:52.440
you're probably like my dad's age.

859
00:50:52.440 --> 00:50:54.080
My dad's like 70, you could be my dad.

860
00:50:54.080 --> 00:50:58.000
So anyways, you could always start now.

861
00:50:59.720 --> 00:51:00.880
And if he's an act of service guy,

862
00:51:00.880 --> 00:51:01.720
obviously he loves you,

863
00:51:01.720 --> 00:51:02.920
because he's cooking all the food,

864
00:51:02.920 --> 00:51:04.040
and he loves you and all that.

865
00:51:04.040 --> 00:51:06.520
So maybe you're not hearing it through your ears,

866
00:51:06.520 --> 00:51:10.320
but actions are powerful, so he probably loves you.

867
00:51:11.560 --> 00:51:14.600
And then unfortunately, like Mike here,

868
00:51:14.600 --> 00:51:17.940
you get a mean guy, and so it's unfortunate.

869
00:51:17.940 --> 00:51:21.560
So unfortunate that I haven't had mean people,

870
00:51:21.560 --> 00:51:22.600
like my dad's not a mean guy,

871
00:51:22.600 --> 00:51:26.720
but he's just kind of a quiet, to himself guy

872
00:51:26.720 --> 00:51:29.880
that has a cigar in his mouth all day long,

873
00:51:29.880 --> 00:51:31.400
like Clint Eastwood.

874
00:51:31.400 --> 00:51:36.400
But I know he loves me, and I make him say I love you,

875
00:51:36.600 --> 00:51:38.320
just to soften him up.

876
00:51:38.320 --> 00:51:41.640
He's older now, so he's getting better at that.

877
00:51:41.640 --> 00:51:43.880
And what's funny is a lot of the women in my life

878
00:51:43.880 --> 00:51:46.520
have said I love you, but the men really don't.

879
00:51:46.520 --> 00:51:48.800
So I always make sure to tell my brothers I love them,

880
00:51:48.800 --> 00:51:53.440
and they say it back, and tell my pop, and all that.

881
00:51:53.440 --> 00:51:55.320
So I feel you, bud.

882
00:51:55.320 --> 00:51:56.560
I feel you, you're not the only one.

883
00:51:57.400 --> 00:51:58.240
I think there's a lot of cultures,

884
00:51:58.240 --> 00:51:59.880
they're just, you know, they live harder lives,

885
00:51:59.880 --> 00:52:03.040
they're poor, you know?

886
00:52:03.040 --> 00:52:07.520
It's interesting, my dad's 100% Dutch boy,

887
00:52:07.520 --> 00:52:09.520
so he's right there beside the Germans.

888
00:52:10.520 --> 00:52:14.480
But I do that, one of your suggestions, Abram, thank you.

889
00:52:15.320 --> 00:52:16.160
You got it, bud.

890
00:52:16.160 --> 00:52:20.480
I do tell him, I do, you know, I do speak that to him.

891
00:52:20.480 --> 00:52:23.080
You know, and I have kind of beaten around the bush

892
00:52:23.080 --> 00:52:24.560
and talked to him a little bit about it,

893
00:52:24.560 --> 00:52:28.200
but you know, I'm 62, he's 82.

894
00:52:29.600 --> 00:52:32.120
So he's kind of, you know,

895
00:52:32.120 --> 00:52:34.560
much more set in the ways than most of us.

896
00:52:36.880 --> 00:52:41.320
Yeah, you know, I have two dads,

897
00:52:41.320 --> 00:52:43.920
stepdad and a bio-dad.

898
00:52:43.920 --> 00:52:45.600
I now live near my bio-dad

899
00:52:45.600 --> 00:52:47.880
for the first time in the last four years.

900
00:52:47.880 --> 00:52:51.240
I live near my bio-dad for the first time ever in my life.

901
00:52:51.240 --> 00:52:54.600
I've never lived near or with my bio-dad.

902
00:52:54.600 --> 00:52:57.160
I've always just kind of like one of those visiting things.

903
00:52:57.160 --> 00:52:59.880
And so he was absent my entire life.

904
00:52:59.880 --> 00:53:04.760
And, but he doesn't, he doesn't,

905
00:53:04.760 --> 00:53:05.920
I mean, he knows that,

906
00:53:05.920 --> 00:53:09.760
but he doesn't understand that effect that it's had

907
00:53:09.760 --> 00:53:10.960
on my life.

908
00:53:10.960 --> 00:53:13.640
And so I've had to sort of like,

909
00:53:13.640 --> 00:53:16.920
I brought him closer to me because I really, honestly,

910
00:53:16.920 --> 00:53:18.880
just didn't want him to fall over one day

911
00:53:18.880 --> 00:53:21.040
and die years ago.

912
00:53:21.880 --> 00:53:25.600
And me have to just clean up all of his stuff.

913
00:53:25.600 --> 00:53:27.760
Cause I didn't know where any of his stuff was.

914
00:53:27.760 --> 00:53:30.280
He had two houses and I just didn't want it

915
00:53:30.280 --> 00:53:32.160
to be such a chore.

916
00:53:32.160 --> 00:53:36.920
And I wanted him involved in that process to consolidate.

917
00:53:36.920 --> 00:53:41.480
And then I felt a righteous compassion to say,

918
00:53:41.480 --> 00:53:43.160
you know, it's good.

919
00:53:43.160 --> 00:53:45.640
It's appropriate for my dad to be around family

920
00:53:45.640 --> 00:53:48.640
for his last years of his life.

921
00:53:48.640 --> 00:53:50.960
And then he acquiesced when I made that thing,

922
00:53:50.960 --> 00:53:53.440
but he's the kind of dude though,

923
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:58.440
he's not super emotional and he's not relational at all.

924
00:53:58.640 --> 00:54:02.080
I mean, he relates, but dude just talks.

925
00:54:03.240 --> 00:54:06.160
I mean, if you've ever heard somebody just talk

926
00:54:06.160 --> 00:54:09.000
and then they just talk and they talk some more

927
00:54:09.000 --> 00:54:13.720
and they don't stop talking and they talk about

928
00:54:13.760 --> 00:54:17.480
what they're interested in and they talk about themselves

929
00:54:17.480 --> 00:54:18.400
all the time.

930
00:54:19.280 --> 00:54:22.960
My dad is a, you know, he's a charming man,

931
00:54:22.960 --> 00:54:24.680
but at the same time, that's all he talks about.

932
00:54:24.680 --> 00:54:27.840
And I say, hey dad, you know, like ask him a question

933
00:54:27.840 --> 00:54:29.720
to try to engage him.

934
00:54:29.720 --> 00:54:32.600
And I say, you know, what was, you know,

935
00:54:32.600 --> 00:54:36.800
what would be this, you know, what'd be meaningful to you?

936
00:54:36.800 --> 00:54:39.240
Or like, I'm trying to connect with him, you know?

937
00:54:39.240 --> 00:54:40.800
He's like, yeah.

938
00:54:40.800 --> 00:54:43.560
And he would start off for like two seconds

939
00:54:44.400 --> 00:54:46.680
and then he goes, veers off into some military story.

940
00:54:46.680 --> 00:54:50.760
And I'm like, every time, it's just like talking about,

941
00:54:50.760 --> 00:54:52.520
well, you know, that reminds me of this one guy

942
00:54:52.520 --> 00:54:54.760
who's over in the thing and I'm like,

943
00:54:54.760 --> 00:54:58.280
I love stories, but I don't love the relationship

944
00:54:58.280 --> 00:54:59.760
to be all stories.

945
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.120
and I don't love the relationship to be all just science and the weather and the how the

946
00:55:05.120 --> 00:55:09.680
building was built and you're like my dad's the kind of guy you ask him what time it is

947
00:55:09.680 --> 00:55:15.440
he tells you how a watch is built that's that that's that dude and I love my dad for that

948
00:55:15.440 --> 00:55:23.360
he's unique for that but it's it's really hard on the relationship and um but I've had to deal

949
00:55:23.360 --> 00:55:28.000
with that and he is you know he's a guy that says well I love you type thing he will say that

950
00:55:28.960 --> 00:55:35.680
and I know that he loves me but at the same time you know it's just hard to get him to

951
00:55:37.200 --> 00:55:42.320
well first of all it's hard to get him to come into the 21st century that's a whole challenge

952
00:55:42.320 --> 00:55:48.320
in and of itself and uh and we go back and forth and like dad you just hit the button on the phone

953
00:55:48.320 --> 00:55:52.320
to answer it that's all you got to do I don't understand why you're gonna well I can't I can't

954
00:55:52.320 --> 00:55:57.040
operate this thing I just need a thing and a lot of the stupid I need a better phone I said dad

955
00:55:57.040 --> 00:56:02.800
you have a 700 phone like I got you the greatest phone that you can imagine and it's like yeah but

956
00:56:02.800 --> 00:56:07.680
all the other people and the other thing because he lives in like an old folks not a not a not a

957
00:56:07.680 --> 00:56:13.200
care center but I mean he lives in a retirement area so he's always constantly comparing himself

958
00:56:13.200 --> 00:56:22.880
with those other people but the relational part of it is difficult and um I get it you just have

959
00:56:22.880 --> 00:56:28.480
to relate to them and so I tried my dad I'm like dad you got to tell me you love me and I just

960
00:56:28.480 --> 00:56:34.160
tried him I'm like you know I just tell him straight up I said tell me you love me tell me

961
00:56:34.160 --> 00:56:38.640
you're proud of me I just tell him and he goes oh yeah I'm proud of you know you're doing good and

962
00:56:38.640 --> 00:56:43.280
every once what he acquiesces so I mean even even if it's just that maybe you just tell him like

963
00:56:43.280 --> 00:56:46.960
look dad just tried him you don't got to be serious about it but just trying to get a reaction out of

964
00:56:46.960 --> 00:56:53.920
him say bro just tell me something you know tell me something I want to hear and uh I don't know if

965
00:56:53.920 --> 00:57:02.160
that helps but I think we all have stories that we could tell about our dads that that would be uh

966
00:57:02.960 --> 00:57:08.000
challenging um all right anybody else got something tonight

967
00:57:10.160 --> 00:57:12.960
can I have one or I did or you can have one tonight

968
00:57:13.680 --> 00:57:20.320
I mean you got what do you got brother well I broke a vow I talked to my old youth pastor today

969
00:57:20.960 --> 00:57:27.680
I told him about that I have a photo and a little memory from when I was 20 we're a local memorial

970
00:57:27.680 --> 00:57:34.240
park where I where I I saw him when he was 27th birthday and I was about to turn 20 that year

971
00:57:34.240 --> 00:57:38.560
I was climbing a tree and I was thinking looking at the it was his birthday and we got to I got

972
00:57:39.520 --> 00:57:46.320
a look at the 23 on on that cake and uh they had 23 candles on the cake and I was like you

973
00:57:46.320 --> 00:57:51.040
you know what I'm gonna make something and this is 20 this is why I have to make life crowned

974
00:57:51.040 --> 00:57:56.640
life's too short short you gotta make you gotta start somewhere and then finally I want to build

975
00:57:56.640 --> 00:58:03.120
up on that path build up on it not have regrets because of the games and I want to marry as young

976
00:58:03.120 --> 00:58:09.120
as possible have an aging rat race to go out put myself out there a day in absent and get envied

977
00:58:09.120 --> 00:58:13.360
because I'm losing the competition and I'm comparing myself to others I said you know what

978
00:58:14.240 --> 00:58:20.000
God I surrendered to the Lord and I said you know what I need to grow the power of growing is to

979
00:58:20.000 --> 00:58:24.400
break that vow so you know I'm gonna abandon the goal and give it to the Lord I keep tired of doing

980
00:58:24.400 --> 00:58:29.920
it all by myself I've done a lot of great things outside of having a relationship even if I got

981
00:58:30.000 --> 00:58:35.760
married I could find better happiness outside of it when I try to make it happen and besides I need

982
00:58:35.760 --> 00:58:41.520
that I need to think about having a relationship with intimacy and connection and read the other

983
00:58:41.520 --> 00:58:47.280
person try to do that let's basically try to grow mature and I think you know what it's never going

984
00:58:47.280 --> 00:58:51.760
to happen if I try to go and make it happen and make an idol out of it so you know what I'm just

985
00:58:51.760 --> 00:58:56.080
going to give it to the Lord if it's no you will so be it and watch that's what happens to usually

986
00:58:56.080 --> 00:58:59.760
some people so I say you know what it may not happen but you know what I'm gonna live it to the

987
00:58:59.760 --> 00:59:07.680
Lord and then see where you want me to do apart from that dude I I saw I so admire your persistence

988
00:59:08.560 --> 00:59:13.600
towards the truth you know and everything you're always doing you're very open very honest I love

989
00:59:13.600 --> 00:59:21.680
that I love the fact that you're so persistent to to to come back to like they like this is the

990
00:59:21.680 --> 00:59:26.800
right way this is the truth this is the good this is you know these are things you're very very very

991
00:59:26.800 --> 00:59:32.240
aware and very astute at that you're not lying to yourself you're not fooling yourself and thinking

992
00:59:32.240 --> 00:59:36.640
that oh you know it's this it's that you're always coming back to the truth I think that's going to

993
00:59:36.640 --> 00:59:43.600
pay off tremendously for all of your life and all of areas of your life for sure I value that that's

994
00:59:43.600 --> 00:59:49.920
a high high high high value and but at the same time I just agree with you like as you give that

995
00:59:49.920 --> 00:59:55.440
to the Lord Hunter I've always felt this way about you I've always felt there was someone very very

996
00:59:55.440 --> 00:59:59.840
special that that you're going to be in relationship with so I

997
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.700
I have no doubt, bro, in my mind, I don't think anybody else in this community

998
01:00:04.700 --> 01:00:07.500
that knows you well, has any doubt in your mind that you will definitely

999
01:00:07.500 --> 01:00:09.840
achieve the relationship goal.

1000
01:00:09.840 --> 01:00:11.160
It just hasn't happened yet.

1001
01:00:11.160 --> 01:00:16.760
And while I'm with you, so why don't we just open and start praying to God?

1002
01:00:16.760 --> 01:00:20.240
Well, if you're not praying, you're not praying, you may not put God first.

1003
01:00:20.240 --> 01:00:22.840
It's, and of course you want discipline.

1004
01:00:22.840 --> 01:00:27.280
Some happiness go, I just did some jujitsu and I want to go do it because

1005
01:00:27.280 --> 01:00:32.080
I figured maybe it can help defend a wife from, from creeps or maybe not.

1006
01:00:32.080 --> 01:00:34.720
It's just, it's just a mental, the physical challenge.

1007
01:00:36.040 --> 01:00:36.800
It's so good.

1008
01:00:36.960 --> 01:00:37.440
I love it.

1009
01:00:37.440 --> 01:00:38.000
Thank you, Hunter.

1010
01:00:38.000 --> 01:00:39.240
Thank you for sharing, man.

1011
01:00:39.360 --> 01:00:40.480
God bless you in that.

1012
01:00:41.520 --> 01:00:41.960
Bye guys.

1013
01:00:41.960 --> 01:00:43.200
Right at the hour here.

1014
01:00:43.280 --> 01:00:45.920
Um, I just had one last thing, if you didn't mind.

1015
01:00:46.080 --> 01:00:46.800
Yeah, go ahead, Andy.

1016
01:00:47.160 --> 01:00:47.440
Yeah.

1017
01:00:47.440 --> 01:00:51.200
So, um, one thing that just happened to me that, um, you know, it's a little

1018
01:00:51.200 --> 01:00:54.720
bit distressing, but also freeing at the same time, um, you know, I was.

1019
01:00:55.040 --> 01:00:59.840
In the choir at my church, the, um, the Gregorian chant choir, I was in there

1020
01:00:59.840 --> 01:01:03.920
for three years and, um, I actually just got booted out because I wasn't

1021
01:01:03.920 --> 01:01:08.360
practicing enough, um, because I was, you know, too busy with a bunch of stuff.

1022
01:01:08.360 --> 01:01:14.320
So I think, um, um, as unfortunate as it is, um, I kind of am looking at

1023
01:01:14.320 --> 01:01:16.040
as like a release in my life.

1024
01:01:16.040 --> 01:01:19.640
Cause it's just like, um, you know, one less time commitment.

1025
01:01:19.680 --> 01:01:23.800
And also like when I go to church, I can focus on the mass instead of just

1026
01:01:23.840 --> 01:01:25.120
like focusing on the music.

1027
01:01:25.120 --> 01:01:29.240
So, um, I think it, I think it's sort of a blessing in disguise,

1028
01:01:29.240 --> 01:01:30.680
even though it's kind of sad.

1029
01:01:31.400 --> 01:01:31.800
Yeah.

1030
01:01:33.360 --> 01:01:38.880
I call those things divine rejections kind of like, uh, I didn't want it to be

1031
01:01:39.200 --> 01:01:42.720
over, but it kind of had to reject me in order to get this, something that

1032
01:01:42.720 --> 01:01:43.840
needed to happen in my life.

1033
01:01:43.840 --> 01:01:45.480
So it's good.

1034
01:01:45.720 --> 01:01:49.640
And if you can see the positive in it, I think that's even better.

1035
01:01:49.800 --> 01:01:53.400
So, yeah, sometimes good things.

1036
01:01:53.400 --> 01:01:55.800
There's necessary endings, if you will.

1037
01:01:57.000 --> 01:01:57.440
Yeah.

1038
01:01:57.680 --> 01:01:58.200
Love that.

1039
01:01:59.680 --> 01:02:01.560
Well, guys, I bless you.

1040
01:02:01.680 --> 01:02:05.600
I pray life and strength, health, wealth, and prosperity over you.

1041
01:02:05.640 --> 01:02:07.240
Thanks for all of you guys.

1042
01:02:07.240 --> 01:02:10.240
For those of you that shared those, you guys that didn't share it.

1043
01:02:10.240 --> 01:02:11.000
It's okay too.

1044
01:02:11.000 --> 01:02:12.880
I know you guys are gleaning some things.

1045
01:02:12.880 --> 01:02:18.000
Hopefully some things are popping off to you and, um, come back, uh, next

1046
01:02:18.040 --> 01:02:23.320
week, we'll do some momentum stuff next week and, um, see if we can, uh, just

1047
01:02:23.320 --> 01:02:25.080
continue pushing this on down the road.

1048
01:02:25.280 --> 01:02:25.920
Love you guys.

1049
01:02:25.920 --> 01:02:27.080
Have a great, great week.

1050
01:02:28.160 --> 01:02:29.480
And Oh, Hey, don't forget.

1051
01:02:29.760 --> 01:02:33.440
Jackie's have, there is a, there is a, uh, combined session this week.

1052
01:02:33.960 --> 01:02:37.120
I think it's, uh, I don't, I don't know if it's tomorrow or if it's Thursday.

1053
01:02:37.120 --> 01:02:40.480
I can't remember, but, um, there's, I think there's going to be an ask Jackie.

1054
01:02:40.480 --> 01:02:42.920
I think it's Thursday, I think.

1055
01:02:43.520 --> 01:02:47.480
Um, but anyway, Jackie was like, tell those guys to be there.

1056
01:02:48.000 --> 01:02:51.480
Tell those guys to get on there, have questions, get in there, do it.

1057
01:02:52.240 --> 01:02:57.760
And so, you know, the lady of the hour, she wants you to be there.

1058
01:02:57.760 --> 01:03:03.280
You better be there Thursday for this session for ask Jackie, all that kind of

1059
01:03:03.280 --> 01:03:03.560
stuff.

1060
01:03:03.560 --> 01:03:05.120
So just want to remind you about that as well.

1061
01:03:05.760 --> 01:03:08.120
I wish I could, but it's a holy Thursday night.

1062
01:03:08.120 --> 01:03:10.800
I'll be at mass mass of the Lord's supper.

1063
01:03:11.720 --> 01:03:12.160
Good.

1064
01:03:12.600 --> 01:03:12.960
Yep.

1065
01:03:13.480 --> 01:03:13.920
All right.

1066
01:03:14.640 --> 01:03:15.360
God bless guys.

1067
01:03:15.360 --> 01:03:16.280
Have a great, great week.

1068
01:03:16.720 --> 01:03:17.320
See you soon.