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Hello, welcome. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome for another time of heartwork. We're here

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tonight, Monday night. Good to see you all. I see several familiar faces. Hi, ladies.

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Welcome back. I'm going to just wait for a minute or so. We'll let more people join.

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I know it's just now 8 o'clock. Hopefully, you all have been having a good week already.

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I know it's just Monday, but it's been a good day here. We had a lot of rain and stuff in

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Florida. A lot of thunderstorms. We're already starting to step into our summer season. We're

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tiptoeing into it, but that's what's happening here. All right, I'm going to go ahead and

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get started housekeeping. I don't know if I see anyone that's new right now, but if you are new,

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if I've made a mistake, this is your first time joining us live, I'd love for you to put that in

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the chat for us so we can welcome you. Welcome back to all of our ladies that are joining us

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again for another time of heart healing. As always, I kind of cycle back through some of

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our housekeeping things for anybody that's new or even you've maybe been here for a while just

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to remind everyone. It's not because anyone did anything wrong. These are just kind of like

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guidelines that we have in the group. So we do want to let you guys know that we don't allow

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outs like posts with like outside content. So from businesses, ministries, individuals, even if it

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sounds like it's similar to what you're learning here in the heart work or in the last year single

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community, that is just a thing we've put in place just to protect us from having to go through all

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of those things to make sure they align with scripture to make sure they align with what we

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believe and even devotionals. I know that might be shocking for some of you, but we would rather

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you all share those kind of things on your personal social media pages and just like come in

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and cheer each other on and encourage each other and you can share things that God is doing in you

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through things that you're reading, but please don't share outside ministry information or you

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know things that are even blessing you even if you know hey you're doing another program and

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that's really blessing your socks off too. Even though that is and that's amazing, we just again

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don't allow any of those kind of things. So we'll have to take that post down and we don't want to

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have to do that or we might have to ask you guys to remove that and then it's a lot of back and

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forth. So that's just a thing that we ask for y'all to kind of follow that guideline and again we

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encourage you to share those kind of things on your personal page or directly with a friend or

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things like that. Alright so weekly roll call. I don't know if you guys know that we put post up

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every Sunday morning or actually Jackie and them I think are doing them now on Saturdays because

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they've kind of taken that part over and so basically what those are is it's based on

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Supernatural Saturday content and it's helping you kind of get the breakdown, the summary of what was

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talked about, but that's not the whole call. So make sure you're still you know listening to

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Supernatural Saturday when you can, but that summary is there for you so that you can really

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pray about what's been released and what is God saying to you through it and we love for y'all to

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comment. It doesn't have to even be a big comment. It can be just a little thing like in that moment

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this is one thing that I felt that God was saying to me you know when I heard it or when I read the

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summary or things like that. And here's why y'all we believe in this community a lot in activations

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and the reason we believe that is faith without works is dead and so what we're trying to do was

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we're trying to continue to activate you all in these things that we're releasing in the community

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through the course content, through Supernatural Saturday and trying to teach you how to implement

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these things into your life and so the more you engage with those kind of things the more that's

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gonna help you. Maybe you didn't even know that we are putting those posts up in the group. That's

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in the community tab, but also quick easy way anytime we as the leaders put a post up in the

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group we pin them and then it goes under your announcements tab. So that's where you can find

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it really quickly. Okay, all right and on that note we also did the replays available for

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Supernatural Saturday under replay tab. We also did prophetic ministry night last night. If you

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weren't able to join us that is recorded and also available under your replay tab as well. I believe

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it should already be there by now and I hope that that is a blessing to you if you do check that

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replay out. All right let me pray for us. Father thank you so much for this night. We thank you God

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for everything that you're doing in our hearts and our lives. We thank you for revealings for

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healing happening one after the other after the other. We thank you God for renewing our minds.

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Yes Lord that you are transforming us every day moment by moment. Lord I thank you for upgrades

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from heaven tonight that you would help us to hear what your spirit is saying to us Lord and that you

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would help us to walk in.

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step with you, Lord, that you would just connect dots for the ladies where they've been seeking

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you. They've been looking for answers. They've been looking for breakthrough. They felt stuck,

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but God, I thank you that in you, Lord, there's always movement. So Lord, I thank you that

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you're moving things in their life. You're healing them and you're going to help them

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to continue to walk further into freedom and the fullness of all the plans and promises

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that you have for them. So Lord, we just thank you for upgrades. We thank you for and suddenlies.

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We thank you for healing. We thank you for transformation. God, and I know Lord that

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you're doing great things. Holy spirit. We thank you that you're here, that you're walking

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among us. Even right now, we ask you to help us all to hear and connect, um, directly with

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you to sense your presence tonight in a special way and Jesus name. Amen. And so tonight we

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are talking about submission, submission, and sometimes people don't like to talk about

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that, but a lot of times it's because there's been some kind of wrong, uh, usage of submission,

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wrong understanding, wrong teachings. And so tonight I want to break down some of those

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wrong teachings also help you better understand what healthy submission looks like, how it

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functions, um, and some scriptures that support this, and then also help you guys kind of

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start to unpack that in your own lives a little bit more. And so as we've been talking about

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in this community and in this course, God will not trespass. Okay. God is not going

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to trespass ladies into your heart. He must be permitted to enter. And a lot of times

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just for me, when I was going through the heart work, God was really talking to me and

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Jackie might've said it. I'm not sure if I heard it from her, if God spoke it to me directly,

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but I just remember knowing that God was asking me to take down my do not enter signs. Like

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in my heart areas that I still was kind of like, yes, I want everything you have for

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me, Lord. Yes. I want healing. But then when he would come, you know, knocking at the door

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of certain areas of my heart and the life and things I've been through, there were times

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that I just really struggled to go there, especially when I had already processed some

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of that stuff. I really didn't feel like I needed to go back into those areas, but the

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Lord knows exactly what we need when we need it. And he knows how to get it to us. And

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so as we continue to heal, remember there's layers to healing, there's layers to forgiveness.

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And so if God is leaning us back to something that we've already visited before, it's because

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he has a greater revelation, a greater healing, even more forgiveness layers that he's trying

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to help release to us and help us to receive it. But he's standing at the door of our hearts

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and he's knocking and we're going to read that scripture in a little bit. And he's doing

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that tonight, even regarding submission. God is a giver. And one of the most beautiful

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gifts he has given us is free will and choice. And he's given that to everybody. He respects

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our boundaries. You know, a lot of times there's most people, you know, that I find that get

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stuck in situationships or, you know, really unhealthy relationships and dynamics, not

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even just romantic, but even friendships, co-working relationships, you know, all kinds

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of things, partnerships, you know, they really struggle to set boundaries. Well, God is big

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on boundaries. Jesus even himself set boundaries, you all. It's really important for you to

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understand that. Jesus himself set boundaries. So why would they, why would God and Jesus

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and the Holy Spirit not want us to set healthy boundaries? Okay. And so he respects our boundaries

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and he's not going to force anything on you. Now he will lovingly, you know, lead you and

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guide you with his loving kindness. He will try to speak to your heart through the Holy

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Spirit. Sometimes we're willing to listen and sometimes frankly, we're not. But God

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always comes back and he always lovingly continues to try to lead us into truth. Submission,

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some religious men and women in our lives, again, maybe these are leaders inside the

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church. Maybe they're leaders outside the church. Maybe they were in our families. They

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weaponized the word and portrayed the thoughts and messages that they were conveying as if

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they were from God himself. But they have been misrepresenting God and his heart and

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the truth regarding what submission actually means. I'm not saying all ministers have messed

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this up because that's not true. But I'm saying even myself over the years, and I believe

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100%, some of the people that taught it incorrectly had good hearts. I'm not even saying every

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person is bad intentions. I'm saying that some people do not know the fullness of the

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understanding of what the scripture actually says about what submission is supposed to

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look like. And a lot of times in romantic relationships, you know, it's conveyed that,

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you know, you just submit and you listen and you know, all these things. And there's been

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a lot of relationships where there's a lot of

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of lording things over another person, and that is not a part of the Father's heart,

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and I don't believe that's a part of what His plan is for any of you.

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The Holy Spirit is the one who can help us discern what God's truth is about submission

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more and more in the days to come.

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So if you've been through bad experiences in the past regarding submission, again, no

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matter where it came from, no matter who it was that was giving you those messages, we

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can heal day after day after day, and the more that we heal, the more that we grow in

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our confidence in the Lord, understand what His Word says in the full context of Scripture.

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The more that we know those things, the more that we will learn to trust ourselves, trust

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the discernment that God is giving us, and typically the Bible talks about having a cloud

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of witnesses, if you will, and asking people, you know, a group of people, wise people for

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insight and revelation, you just have to make sure that they're healthy people.

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They might be wise people, but are they healthy people?

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You want both, okay?

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And so as we continue to walk, we want to be willing to allow God to reveal areas for

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healing where we have misconceptions, where we have faulty belief systems that are preventing

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us from living the healthy life that God actually intended for us from the beginning of time.

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From the beginning of the time He created us.

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You know, He has this plan for us, and He wants to help us walk further into that tonight.

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Colossians 3.21 says,

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Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

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Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

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In the Scripture, the Greek word here, actually, provoke, it actually means to stir up, to

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excite, to stimulate, especially to anger, or to provoke a child.

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And so the reason I want you to understand, you know, most of us know what provoke means,

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right?

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But I'm big on like, okay, but let's, let's look underneath of that a little bit more,

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you know, to stimulate a child, especially to anger is, to me, another whole level of

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provoke.

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So we're seeing this prodding and this kind of poking at, if you will, and then what does

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It says, if our fathers do that, if they embitter us, then we become discouraged.

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Discouraged here actually means, in the Greek, disheartened, dispirited, broken in spirit

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to be dismayed.

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So I want you to understand that tonight, the reason I'm going in this direction is

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that it's, it's important for us to address the unhealthy experiences that we've had with

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fathers, ex-husbands, men in authority over us, as well as mothers who were very brazen.

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The Lord had me include that today when I was writing these notes, specifically mothers

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who were brazen, that's what I heard the Lord say.

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Or maybe the mothers who walked in masculine, tough energy towards their children.

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Maybe even mothers who walked in a lot of anger and bitterness and resentment, and then

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that was being conveyed, and the children were being really bullied, you know, abused,

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maybe verbally, emotionally, mentally.

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So yes, I am leaning into the father aspect, those in authority, but I want you to understand

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that there's something the father's trying to bring out regarding the mother aspect as

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well tonight.

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Arianna, I'm going to actually look up, I know what it means, but I want to read it

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specifically.

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So we'll read that tonight, definition.

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She's asking for the definition of brazen, sounding harsh and loud, like struck brass.

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So sounding harsh, loud, marked by shameless or disrespectful boldness.

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They were brazen, they disregard rules, you know, and they're very harsh and loud and

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there's no shame in what they're saying to their children.

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And typically, yes, there is a lot of disrespect, not only for rules, but disrespect for other

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people and their feelings, their emotions, and all of that kind of stuff.

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And so not only are we going to ask the Lord to reveal these areas tonight, but we're going

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into the revealing for healing, to encourage you all to forgive these individuals for their

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unhealthy actions, their unhealthy words, the mistreatment that, you know, the things

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that were committed towards you that brought you harm in some way.

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Because here's the reality, those people, like all of us are broken at some point and

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broken people, guess what?

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Hurt people, hurt people.

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I'm not excusing it.

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I'm not.

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saying it's okay what happened, but what I am saying is that, you know, it's time for us to

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continue to let go, to forgive those people so that we can move forward free from the chains

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of what they did to us. That is not who you are, and that is not your future.

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But we have to choose to forgive them. We have to choose to surrender this stuff to the Lord

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because so many of us are getting stuck in different areas of our lives, and we try to

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move forward, and we try to get breakthrough, and we just really continue to struggle on these cycles

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because there's these areas of our hearts that still need some healing. And so God is not like

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these people. We want you to know the importance of growing in your understanding of God's character.

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It is key, ladies. That was a game changer for me. When I kept praying, God, show me who you are

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as love. Like daily, I would pray that. Show me more who you are as love. I had a revelation of

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God's love by that point. I was serving the Lord. I loved the Lord, but I knew in my heart I needed

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more understanding because the more that I grew in the understanding of His love for me, the more I

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became rooted and grounded and secure in my identity in Christ, and then I was able to resist

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the lies of the enemy more. I'm not saying it's easy. I'm saying that it does help. It's a game

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changer. It's vital to your healing process and for you to step further into the freedom

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and the fullness of God's plans and promises for you. So I want you to think about this in the

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next few days and weeks ahead to really grow and pray about this. Look up scriptures about it

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to grow in your knowledge of who is God as love,

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who is God as kind,

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who is God as faithful,

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who is God as good,

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who is God as peace. These are all aspects of His character. Y'all, He's not a man that lies.

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He's not a shapeshifter. I just heard the Lord say that.

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I don't know if you guys know what shapeshifters are. I don't know if I'm going to mess it up,

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but they can shift and turn into different shapes to fit into an area and fit into a space,

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if I'm not mistaken. I'd have to look that up. That's totally from the Lord,

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because I don't think about shapeshifters, you all. But I feel like God is just trying

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to emphasize that He is not a trickster. He's not trying to be one person over here

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and another person over here. No, He is who He is. He says, I am the great I am.

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I feel the Holy Spirit on that. He is the great I am. He really is good, you all. And I remember

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the day, you know, years ago, that I believed it in my head, but my heart was conveying something

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different to me. Because my heart, remember, our heart is deceitfully wicked. Who can know it?

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The broken heart deceives us. And when we have mindsets and heart postures out of the

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Yes, Lord. That are rooted in lies because of things people said or did to us. People that

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abuse their authority, or they try to tell us we weren't spiritual enough because we didn't come

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to the five services they were having every night of the week. I know some of you were around that

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time back in the day. And I love the Lord, you all. And I'm so grateful for all these experiences.

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We went to revival like night after night, after night, after night. And that was an amazing time

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in my life. But then, you know, it started turning into if you didn't come to all that stuff,

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then you didn't really want the meat. You didn't really want God as much as everybody else.

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And then the Lord started saying, that's in my spirit. Like it just, I felt this. No.

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I felt this. No. He was telling me, no, that's not what I'm saying.

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And so I want you to really ask yourself, who has informed your thoughts about God?

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Is it someone that's abused their authority and tried to tell you that you have to submit because

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they say so? Now, obviously, as we're growing up, yes, to a degree, we do need to just listen to

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our parents, especially if they're telling us something healthy and good to do. You know,

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I was talking to one of our coaches today. She has three children and two of the kids

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were home yesterday and she was wanting them to work on their chores. And, you know,

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their perception was, you just want us to be perfect.

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the time. No, I just want you to clean the pee off of your toilet. Like she had to

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help break that down for them, but the reason I mentioned that is because there

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are times where kids, our perception is that our parents are just being mean to

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us. They just want to tell us what to do. That's not what I'm talking about here.

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She was being a good mom. She's teaching her kids responsibility, teaching them

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how to be a part of a family. The kids at first didn't perceive it that way, but

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then she started asking them a question. Do you think a mom who loves you will

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teach you how to clean so that you're healthy and your space that you

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brush your teeth in is clean? Or just let all that go so it's a big

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mess and you might get sick one day? Just trying to help them break it

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down so they can understand that she loves them and she's trying to help

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them and teach them. But then there's the other side where, you know, all this other

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stuff happens and our parents sometimes push past boundaries and just because

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they said so, we are then doing things that are not healthy for us. And not

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just parents, but, you know, we see it in the news left and right right now,

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unfortunately, about leaders in churches and ministries, you know, worship leaders.

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I mean it's just coming out of the woodwork. I hope that none of you have

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gone through that personally, but if you have, God wants you to know that he cares

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about what's happened and he wants you to heal and he wants you to come closer

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so that you can really receive the truth that he wants to continue to give you.

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The word submission actually means to yield to the power of another. And for

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some of us that's scary. Some of us have, you know, a lot of fear and so what rises

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up in us is rebellion. We rebel when someone tells us what to do. Even some of

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us, you know, I know I had some of this in the past, like a boss tells you what to

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do and you just, you might not even argue. Like sometimes we're not openly saying

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something to them, but in our hearts we're rebelling. I see Amy smiling at me.

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Somebody, I got somebody agreeing with me here. Sometimes it's a internal, but you

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all, it's all bitterness. It's all resentment. It's all rebellion. Whether we

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say something out of our mouths or it's just living in us. Well, guess what?

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Everything that's in our hearts is going to get reproduced. So at some point that

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stuff is going to come on out. And sometimes it comes out at like the worst

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times, right? Onto our kids, onto friends, onto whoever, maybe mom, dad. And so

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let's, let's think about some of those things. Where have, maybe have you in your

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life, um, you know, just felt rebellious and you felt justified for being

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rebellious. And, and God wants to help heal that in you as well. Now standing up

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for yourself under abuse is different than rebellion. I want to make that

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distinction line as well. Okay. So yield to the power of another. Yield means to

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let go. That means we're letting go in the process and we're saying, Lord, I

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want to learn how to trust you more. I want to surrender the pen completely to

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you. That we would be willing to submit to the absolute and greater truth than

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what has happened in our lives, or maybe even what is happening right now. Um,

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several months back, we had a lady in our group. She's in one of the other

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phases now. Um, her son had gotten into some trouble and was incarcerated and

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she, um, was taking care of her granddaughter and the mother was still

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kind of involved in the granddaughter's life. Um, but it wasn't a good situation.

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And while she was in the heartwork, the mom ended up taking the granddaughter

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and fleeing. She was, I think went to another state for a little while. And so

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we were all praying, um, with her, the grandmother, you know, for, for the

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little granddaughter to be returned safely. And so you all, a community

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really matters. Okay. Sometimes there's this greater truth. And the reason I

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brought that up is that was a situation that was happening right then as she was

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going through the process and, you know, willing to submit, surrender that

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situation completely to the Lord and trust him. Y'all know that kind of stuff

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is hard, right? But that doesn't mean it's not worth it. It doesn't mean that

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God's not going to come through for us when we know the one we're submitting to

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when we really know God and his character.

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which is what I was saying earlier, when we know who we're submitting to and we trust them,

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then it can help us to choose to submit to them. So I would, I kind of want to put this

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out there for you to think about. If you struggle to submit to God,

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I'm going to say that you lack your ability to trust Him on some level. You may trust Him

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to some degree, but there's probably a lack of trust in there somewhere,

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which means that maybe you don't really fully believe He loves you.

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Maybe you believe He does, but then there's another part that's like,

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I don't know, He feels like He just, you know, He's just like everybody else in my life.

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He says He's going to do this, and then He just never comes through for me.

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Y'all, I want you to know if that's something you believe, that is victim mentality. Those are lies.

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If God will do it for me, the Bible says He will do it for you. He's not, you know,

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He doesn't pick and choose who He's going to bless and be kind to. He's loving. He is love.

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He literally cannot deny Himself. He can't deny who He is. He is good. These are literally

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attributes of who He is. Out of His love and His goodness, He will bring conviction into our lives

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to try to lead us to a better path. So who are you submitting to in this season? Are you submitting to

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God, or are you silently rebelling in some way, shape, or form? The key, remember, is being rooted

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in His love and understanding His love, and then our choice to submit coming up out of that love,

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out of the overflow. Submission is not about someone dominating us, controlling us,

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or us dominating and controlling other people. You know, some of us are trying to make other

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people just submit to us. We don't want the kids to ask any questions. We just want them to submit.

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Just shut up and listen. I don't ever say that. Praise the Lord. I never said that to my kids.

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But some people say that to their kids. Some of you have had that said to you, probably.

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That isn't how God talks. So if that's how you hear God, I want you to know that He wants you to heal

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so that that's not what you hear anymore. The internal dialogue of things that we've heard and

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and gone through, again, it changes the filter of how we hear from God in our day-to-day life.

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God is not this evil man waiting to punish you. So if you are afraid to make decisions because

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you're so afraid that God's going to get mad at you, like you're just going to screw it all up,

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that isn't true either. Do you know that God wants us to actually do our best to hear Him and take

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steps out, and then if we are going in the wrong direction, He will lovingly redirect us?

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That's truth. I'm not sure if I understand your question, Sonny. Can you do both? Can you give me

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some clarification on that in the chat? Submission is not about dominating someone, right? I'm talking

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about that. It's not about controlling people. Submission is about mutual respect. It's about

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mutual surrender. So I want you to kind of imagine person A, person B. I'll use Brian and

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myself. That's my husband. So if I am submitting to him and I'm being mutually respectful and

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choosing to surrender, what should happen is we should become a team because he should also be

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choosing to submit and surrender. That's how it's supposed to work, that we submit one to another

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in a marriage, okay? That you're a team. Does it always feel like that? No, because some days you

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just have an argument or a disagreement, but then hopefully you come back together

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and you submit and you learn how to love each other and work through it.

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Can you be both rebellious yet submissive? Well, yeah, I think you can because I think that

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outwardly you can look like you're submitting through your actions, but yet internally

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thinking rebellious thoughts towards those people. So yeah, I think, am I saying that those two

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things, light and dark, can come together?

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coexist? No, I'm not saying, I'm not saying that. Because we know the word says that wherever

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light comes in, darkness has to flee. But what I'm saying is we can kind of, you know, like that

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session where I talk about all the different masks that we can kind of put on, I think we can put on

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a submissive mask. You know, some of us, again, we say we want, you know, we have people all the time,

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they say they want a spirit mate, but then they tell us this isn't so much rebellion submission,

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but I just want to give you some examples. But then they tell us they're too busy to date.

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Y'all, those don't go together.

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Yeah, like false humility. You're right. It those can all be kind of partnered together.

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Yes, Haley, great question. She said it's not true submission if it's out of fear, right?

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Yeah, it's, it's not because again, submission and mutual respect is out of a place of love.

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I love my husband. And so I choose out of the overflow of my love to submit from a healthy

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whole place in my heart. When I struggle to submit you all even after you know, we've been

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married almost four years, there are times where I still feel that like, ooh, not because of Brian,

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can I trust him? Can I submit to this? It's more about revealing for healing happening.

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You see, it's not just like, oh, this just goes away. And it's forever gone. No, this is a process.

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We have to continue to shed these layers, you know, as we go. I don't want any of you all thinking

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you have to have it all figured out before you can move forward. That's not true. You this is a

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process of our lives. The Bible says we're going to go from glory to glory to glory. This is a part

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of that. All right. So part of me as I was sharing, you know, sometimes and again, it's not a reflection

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of Brian. He is a trustworthy person. I can trust him. He's proven that he's kind. He's good. He has

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a good heart. He doesn't lie to me. But yet here the thing is, I grew up in a home that was a lot

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of abuse. A lot of my dad was an alcoholic and drug addict, lied all the time, cheated on my mom.

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My brother, both of my brothers sexually abused me, not safe there. My younger brother stole money

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from me all the time. So there was a lot of things where I people that, you know, tried to

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make me submit. My brother used to joke around and, um, would like literally pin me down. He thought

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it was so funny. And then he would like, you know, I don't know if you guys ever had brothers like

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this, but he would like drip spit to try to like, get it as close to me as possible. Y'all those

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are horrible. Like that was not fun for me, but it was like a form of him getting like, it was like

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him having power over me. Do you see what I'm saying? Even those kinds of things, like there

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might be people that might have never bothered them, but that, that bothered me because you

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know what? Not only was it so gross, but I didn't like what, like he would hold me down and do that.

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And then there were times he would literally, it would literally drop on me. It was disgusting.

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And he thought it was funny. Probably because I think my older brother did it to him.

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I'm almost certain of it.

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Yep. And no dad there to protect. And my mom, you know, worked a lot. And then even when she was

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there, she was kind of checked out. And so that's something, when I went through this whole

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submission thing, I didn't feel like I had to submit to my brother in the sense of like me

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choosing to submit to him. I felt like I was forced to in those kinds of situations against my own

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will. And so I had to forgive my brother for a lot of that kind of stuff, both of my brothers

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in any way that that came up. And so for whatever reason, I don't normally share that spit story.

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I think in the time I've coached for five years, I think I've shared it twice.

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And so whoever that's for, if that kind of stuff happened to you, I'm so sorry,

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because there's some dignity that's lost in those kinds of things, you know?

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And that was not God's plan for me. And I don't believe it was God's plan for you.

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Revelation 3.20 says, Behold, I stand at the door knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens

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the door, I will come into him or her and eat with them. And they with me. I want you to see

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the kind of symbolicness here of intimacy. God is saying he's standing at the door of our hearts

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and he's knocking. If we will answer the door and open it up to him,

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he's not only going to come into our

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hearts, but he's going to eat with us and us with him.

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Feel the Holy Spirit on that too. It's a, it's a sign of fellowship.

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It's a sign of intimacy and closeness.

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You know, people, typically people you're close to you eat with, right?

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You spend time with people, you get to know them over food.

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God wants to know us and he wants us to know him in your heart healing process.

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We encourage you to yield to God first and foremost.

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Remember he won't force his way on you. He's going to stand at the door and knock.

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That's why I'm talking to you about this. And he's asking you permission.

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Can I come into this area of your heart? Will you give this to me?

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Cause I don't have bad things for you. I have good things for you.

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Job 22 verse 21 in the NLT says,

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submit to God and you will have peace.

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Then things will go well with you.

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Submit to God and you will have peace.

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Then things will go well with you.

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Peace here in this scripture in the Hebrew language actually means to be in a

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covenant of peace, to complete,

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to finish, to make whole or good, to restore.

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So what God is saying through this is he's saying, Hey, submit to God.

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You're going to have this completeness.

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I'm going to finish the work in your life that I've started.

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Proverbs three, five in the message translation says,

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trust God from the bottom of your heart.

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Don't try to figure out everything on your own.

400
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Listen for God's voice in everything you do and everywhere you go.

401
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He's the one who will keep you on track.

402
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Don't assume that you know it all.

403
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God is for us.

404
00:36:59.520 --> 00:37:02.160
Well, God is for us.

405
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He's cheering you all on and, and more than more ways than you even know right

406
00:37:08.040 --> 00:37:11.880
now. I'm going to get you ready for your breakout session.

407
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Your question for there tonight is this,

408
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do you struggle with submission? Why? And then for those of you,

409
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because I have, I'm confident some of you will be here tonight and you'll be

410
00:37:24.040 --> 00:37:26.360
like, I actually don't struggle with submission at all.

411
00:37:26.840 --> 00:37:30.200
I had good parents and I learned how to love people like you're talking about

412
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and submit through, you know, that place of love.

413
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If that's the case, I want you to share about that as well.

414
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But if you've had not good experiences and you do struggle with submission on

415
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any way, I really would love for you to talk about that.

416
00:37:44.960 --> 00:37:47.320
All right. What was the second to last scripture?

417
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The scriptures were Revelation three 20. That was the first one.

418
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The second one was Job 22 verse 21 from NLT version.

419
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I just really liked that version. Um, so that's why I use that one.

420
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And then Proverbs three five from the message translation.

421
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Do you struggle with submission and why I'm going to read the submission

422
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activation over you all before we go into breakouts.

423
00:38:15.200 --> 00:38:17.680
I love to do this because it kind of just,

424
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I believe helps get your hearts in that right place. Sorry, hold on one second.

425
00:38:21.280 --> 00:38:24.520
Let me just turn to it. And this is in your heart work book. You all,

426
00:38:25.840 --> 00:38:29.880
you can read this over yourself often. All right. So I try to encourage y'all.

427
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If you don't want to, you don't have to,

428
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but I love for y'all to just close your eyes if you're willing and let me just

429
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read this over you. Father God,

430
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I give you permission to search me and to reveal anything in my

431
00:38:44.280 --> 00:38:49.280
heart that does not belong to my true identity and that is hindering me from

432
00:38:49.760 --> 00:38:53.120
living the life that you created me to live. Holy spirit,

433
00:38:53.120 --> 00:38:55.840
I invite you into the darkest places in my heart.

434
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Show me the areas that are still wounded and are still hurting.

435
00:39:00.080 --> 00:39:03.120
When you reveal these broken places to me,

436
00:39:03.120 --> 00:39:07.240
I covenant with you to release them into your care and to respond with

437
00:39:07.240 --> 00:39:09.040
forgiveness and repentance.

438
00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:14.200
I set aside this season of my life for a time of healing and wholeness and ask

439
00:39:14.200 --> 00:39:17.000
Holy spirit to take charge of this process.

440
00:39:18.120 --> 00:39:22.280
I ask that you dwell with me and in me, I need you.

441
00:39:22.680 --> 00:39:26.360
I cannot heal myself. I want to be free from the past,

442
00:39:26.360 --> 00:39:28.160
free to be who I truly am.

443
00:39:28.600 --> 00:39:30.760
Help me to become who you've created me to be.

444
00:39:31.040 --> 00:39:35.240
Show me the lies I've believed about myself, my life, my surroundings,

445
00:39:35.520 --> 00:39:39.840
and even the lies I've believed about you. God, teach me the greater truth.

446
00:39:39.840 --> 00:39:44.600
Teach me your ways. Teach me how to think and how to live abundantly.

447
00:39:44.920 --> 00:39:48.440
Teach me, show me, heal me, grow me.

448
00:39:49.400 --> 00:39:52.640
In Jesus name. Amen. All right,

449
00:39:52.640 --> 00:39:56.680
so I'm going to get your breakout rooms ready. Um, hold on one second.

450
00:39:59.520 --> 00:40:00.360
Um,

451
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I'm sorry, I didn't know if somebody was saying they couldn't join a breakout.

452
00:40:04.200 --> 00:40:06.000
I'm going to do.

453
00:40:08.700 --> 00:40:11.200
I think we'll do three to a room again tonight.

454
00:40:11.200 --> 00:40:14.400
I kind of liked that you guys got to meet a couple more people last week.

455
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And two or six.

456
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So we'll do we'll do eight minutes again gives you guys at least,

457
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you know, a little over two and a half probably.

458
00:40:26.800 --> 00:40:28.700
Yeah, about two and a half minutes a piece.

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So be aware of your time short, brief and powerful ladies.

460
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Okay.

461
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And then if you do have a little extra time, you guys can just talk to each other.

462
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Where are you from?

463
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Maybe something you love to do.

464
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You can share something fun about yourself.

465
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Okay, get ready.

466
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It's going to come up on your screen.

467
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Here you go.

468
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Click to join those as quick as you can.

469
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I'll be here praying and getting people situated.

470
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Right.

471
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Awesome.

472
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You guys are doing great.

473
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Two in there.

474
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All right.

475
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See here.

476
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Six.

477
00:41:10.700 --> 00:41:13.100
Sorry, got to get somebody situated here real quick.

478
00:41:13.500 --> 00:41:15.000
I did see your thing come through Lisa.

479
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Let I didn't get a chance to read it all but I will get it here in just a

480
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second.

481
00:41:19.500 --> 00:41:20.000
Okay, cool.

482
00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:21.300
I've got two people there.

483
00:41:21.800 --> 00:41:22.600
All right, Father.

484
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Thank you so much for all that you're doing already tonight.

485
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Thank you for healing us.

486
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God do your work.

487
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You're so good at what you do.

488
00:41:31.000 --> 00:41:34.800
Just bless the ladies as they're in the session talking to each other and

489
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even those here in this room.

490
00:41:36.200 --> 00:41:36.700
Let's see.

491
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You can go into the breakout still Lisa if you wanted to do that or you

492
00:41:47.800 --> 00:41:48.400
can just stay here.

493
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It's totally up to you.

494
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There's no right or wrong there.

495
00:41:50.800 --> 00:41:51.300
Okay.

496
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Okay.

497
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I did have a quick question for you though regarding the conversation of

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abortion.

499
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So I don't know I but I think you're going to take this time to pray.

500
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So I just don't know when to follow up with that and it feels odd to talk

501
00:42:03.900 --> 00:42:09.100
about it so much later, you know, with I don't know from your from your

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post.

503
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No, there was a call.

504
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I was on a few weeks ago and you had said well, let's continue talking

505
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about this next time because the day the the call was ending that day can

506
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do it during the coaching time.

507
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What coaching time the group coaching time?

508
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Just so that I can keep prancing.

509
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Okay.

510
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Yeah, because that's what I'm saying.

511
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I just don't know when it's appropriate because every subject is different

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each week.

513
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You know what I mean?

514
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Like I don't know that's okay.

515
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You can just during the coaching time.

516
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You can let me know like this that you are circling back on a previous

517
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coaching session.

518
00:42:48.800 --> 00:42:52.600
Okay, so should I do that for next Monday or should I do it this Monday?

519
00:42:53.800 --> 00:42:55.000
It's totally up to you.

520
00:42:55.400 --> 00:42:58.100
Yeah, if you feel like with the mechanic and stuff, it would be better

521
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to do it next week.

522
00:42:58.900 --> 00:43:02.600
We can do it next week, but I do want to pray so that the ladies when

523
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they hear the replay, okay.

524
00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:04.700
All right.

525
00:43:04.700 --> 00:43:04.800
Yeah.

526
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Yeah.

527
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Okay.

528
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Thank you.

529
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Thank you.

530
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And so Laura, we just thank you again just for all that you're doing

531
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and all the ways that you're continuing to help us to grow into the

532
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fullness of who you've created us to be God.

533
00:43:18.200 --> 00:43:21.600
We thank you for healing in the depths of our souls God where there's

534
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been harm done to us Lord in any way where people have Lorded the

535
00:43:26.500 --> 00:43:29.600
word submit or submission over us God.

536
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We're asking for yes Lord.

537
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Just like Psalm 50 talks about creating us a clean heart.

538
00:43:34.100 --> 00:43:36.900
Oh God and renew steadfast spirits within us God.

539
00:43:36.900 --> 00:43:41.100
I thank you that you would just open our eyes to things that are unseen.

540
00:43:42.200 --> 00:43:45.700
Yes Lord that you would help us to have greater Revelation greater

541
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truth that you are the light of the world God.

542
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There is no darkness in you that Jesus is the one that is the light

543
00:43:51.700 --> 00:43:55.700
that you sent to shine a light for all of us to see so where we just

544
00:43:55.700 --> 00:44:01.300
thank you that you're here being our friend as you say that you are and

545
00:44:01.300 --> 00:44:06.000
so inviting us into relationship inviting us into connection with you

546
00:44:06.000 --> 00:44:07.600
and the father and the Holy Spirit.

547
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We just thank you God that you would just continue to yeah, just shed

548
00:44:12.600 --> 00:44:18.300
old mindsets off of our minds that like freedom and truth and Revelation

549
00:44:18.300 --> 00:44:20.600
would rule and reign in our hearts in our lives.

550
00:44:20.600 --> 00:44:24.900
We thank you God for restoration and all the broken and fallen places

551
00:44:24.900 --> 00:44:25.400
God.

552
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Yes Lord that you are rebuilding the foundations of our hearts and our

553
00:44:30.800 --> 00:44:32.700
lives our family lines God.

554
00:44:32.700 --> 00:44:36.000
We thank you that we are kinsmen Redeemers that we are being used for

555
00:44:36.000 --> 00:44:37.800
your purposes and your glory God.

556
00:44:37.800 --> 00:44:42.200
We thank you that you would just continue to help us to make the

557
00:44:42.200 --> 00:44:47.900
connections that we need to make Lord so that we can receive all of the

558
00:44:47.900 --> 00:44:48.900
insight that is needed.

559
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Yes Lord where people are battling any kind of fear holding back Lord and

560
00:44:55.900 --> 00:44:59.400
ways that continue to hinder their process forward.

561
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:06.240
They're forward progress as well. Process forward and forward progress. I heard both of those.

562
00:45:06.240 --> 00:45:10.240
Lord, we just thank you that you're removing obstacles tonight.

563
00:45:10.240 --> 00:45:14.240
God, that you bring peace right in the center of where that fear has been.

564
00:45:14.240 --> 00:45:18.240
And we just declare no more fear, no more anxiety in Jesus' name.

565
00:45:18.240 --> 00:45:23.740
We bind and break every spirit of fear, every spirit of anxiety, every spirit of worry or panic or dread.

566
00:45:23.740 --> 00:45:26.740
And we just bind it and break it in Jesus' name.

567
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And we declare healing and wholeness.

568
00:45:29.240 --> 00:45:35.740
And we just thank you, Father, for losing spirits of love and of power and of a sound mind.

569
00:45:35.740 --> 00:45:42.240
That we will walk into, yes, Lord, rooms that are full of surprises for us.

570
00:45:42.240 --> 00:45:48.740
I just saw somebody opening a gift and it just reminded me of just how often God surprises us.

571
00:45:48.740 --> 00:45:51.240
And so thank you, God, that you are doing that.

572
00:45:51.240 --> 00:45:56.240
You're preparing things for us, even right now, that we will walk into in the days to come.

573
00:45:56.240 --> 00:46:06.240
I thank you that we don't have to be, yeah, Lord, we don't have to be daughters that are afraid or run away from you,

574
00:46:06.240 --> 00:46:10.240
go into isolation or pull back, God, or withdraw.

575
00:46:10.240 --> 00:46:14.240
But, Lord, I thank you that the next time, this is what I'm hearing,

576
00:46:14.240 --> 00:46:21.240
the next time we feel fear that we won't turn away from it because we remember that perfect love casts out fear.

577
00:46:21.240 --> 00:46:23.240
Because fear has to do with torment.

578
00:46:23.240 --> 00:46:26.240
And in you, God, that that cannot exist.

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So help us to turn to you instead of turning away from you.

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We thank you.

581
00:46:32.240 --> 00:46:37.740
Yes, Lord, I thank you for the revelation of your love in a fresh way that you would help us to grow.

582
00:46:37.740 --> 00:46:42.240
And the revelation of who you are is faithful, God, that you do show up for us.

583
00:46:42.240 --> 00:46:46.240
We thank you that you continue to lead us into wide open spaces, God.

584
00:46:47.240 --> 00:46:52.240
Yes, Lord, I thank you that you would give us the courage to take you by the hand,

585
00:46:52.240 --> 00:46:57.240
to walk into your plan and your promise one step at a time.

586
00:46:57.240 --> 00:47:06.240
We thank you that you, yeah, Lord, yes, Lord, that you would cause our hearts to burn for you in a good way,

587
00:47:06.240 --> 00:47:12.240
that we would fall in love with your word as we read it, that revelation would come as we read your word, God,

588
00:47:12.240 --> 00:47:17.240
that new things, as we're reading, things would jump off the page at us and it would just be illuminated,

589
00:47:17.240 --> 00:47:21.240
but we would feel it in our spirit and it would resonate in us, God.

590
00:47:21.240 --> 00:47:26.240
I thank you that you would help us to never be satisfied away from you, apart from you, God,

591
00:47:26.240 --> 00:47:29.240
that we can't do anything apart from you, God.

592
00:47:29.240 --> 00:47:34.240
It's in you that we have the fullness of life, and God, that you are the vine and we are the branches,

593
00:47:34.240 --> 00:47:36.240
and that is how we flourish, God.

594
00:47:36.240 --> 00:47:39.240
We thank you that your living water is flowing tonight,

595
00:47:39.240 --> 00:47:46.240
that it's flowing into every place, bringing refreshing, bringing healing, bringing redemption.

596
00:47:46.240 --> 00:47:54.240
Yes, Lord, I thank you that it's causing areas that were stopped up before to begin to flow and move.

597
00:47:54.240 --> 00:48:05.240
God, we thank you for just continuing to help us to, yes, Lord, to glean in the fields where things have felt hard in the past.

598
00:48:05.240 --> 00:48:07.240
God, I thank you that we don't partner with hard.

599
00:48:07.240 --> 00:48:12.240
So we're going to partner with grace and ease in this next season, that even our heart work, God,

600
00:48:12.240 --> 00:48:16.240
that even when we feel resistance, that we can partner with God.

601
00:48:16.240 --> 00:48:22.240
I thank you that your grace is sufficient and you enable us to do all things, God,

602
00:48:22.240 --> 00:48:27.240
and we thank you for empowering us through the, yes, Lord, through the power of your Holy Spirit,

603
00:48:27.240 --> 00:48:29.240
even to do our heart work.

604
00:48:29.240 --> 00:48:33.240
Yes, Lord, thank you for this reminder, too.

605
00:48:34.240 --> 00:48:39.240
As we talk about forgiving those people that have Lord and authority and, you know, the submission over us,

606
00:48:39.240 --> 00:48:43.240
Matthew 6, 14 through 15 in the Passion Translation says,

607
00:48:43.240 --> 00:48:50.240
Jesus said, but if you withhold forgiveness from others, your Father withholds forgiveness from you.

608
00:48:50.240 --> 00:48:55.240
So, Lord, I thank you that you are giving us courage to choose to forgive tonight,

609
00:48:55.240 --> 00:49:01.240
that you are helping us to lay aside every weight that so easily ensnares us

610
00:49:01.240 --> 00:49:06.240
and that we would press on toward the high calling of God for our lives,

611
00:49:06.240 --> 00:49:12.240
that we would turn to you, that we would surrender to you, God, in every area.

612
00:49:12.240 --> 00:49:14.240
This scripture here says,

613
00:49:14.240 --> 00:49:18.240
So chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you,

614
00:49:18.240 --> 00:49:22.240
compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline.

615
00:49:22.240 --> 00:49:27.240
Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense.

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00:49:27.240 --> 00:49:30.240
Forgive us quickly and completely as the Master forgave you,

617
00:49:30.240 --> 00:49:32.240
regardless of what else you put on.

618
00:49:32.240 --> 00:49:36.240
Wear love. It's your basic, all-purpose garment.

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Never be without it.

620
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That's from Colossians 3, verses 13 through 14 in the Message Translation.

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So put on love. Let's wear it like a garment, ladies,

622
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and let's choose forgiveness and to forgive offenses in Jesus' name.

623
00:49:51.240 --> 00:49:53.240
Welcome back. Welcome back.

624
00:49:53.240 --> 00:49:56.240
Hopefully you guys had a great time getting to know each other as well.

625
00:49:56.240 --> 00:49:59.240
Before we go into our group coaching time,

626
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I'm gonna go ahead and quickly share my screen with you

627
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and talk about your activations for this week.

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The first activation before I share my screen

629
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is I'm gonna call it the vertical submission activation.

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So it's a surrendering to God

631
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and I'm gonna encourage you all

632
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to get out your permission slip.

633
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It's, you know, you signed that hopefully right

634
00:50:20.140 --> 00:50:22.500
when you started this journey

635
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and get those out, pray over those, you know,

636
00:50:25.620 --> 00:50:27.980
continue to fully surrender to the Lord,

637
00:50:27.980 --> 00:50:29.820
hang it up where you see it, you know,

638
00:50:29.820 --> 00:50:32.780
every day right now and just continue to partner

639
00:50:32.780 --> 00:50:34.920
with that prayer over yourself.

640
00:50:34.920 --> 00:50:38.580
Y'all, these little steps make a huge difference.

641
00:50:38.580 --> 00:50:41.300
When I prayed that prayer every morning,

642
00:50:41.300 --> 00:50:43.140
like, you know, just that submission prayer

643
00:50:43.140 --> 00:50:44.580
that I prayed over you guys

644
00:50:44.580 --> 00:50:46.700
before I sent you into the breakout,

645
00:50:46.700 --> 00:50:50.180
man, it changed my heart, changed my heart so much.

646
00:50:50.180 --> 00:50:51.540
So I believe it will help you too.

647
00:50:51.540 --> 00:50:53.980
Okay, some of you have already done this

648
00:50:53.980 --> 00:50:55.900
and if you have, it's totally fine,

649
00:50:55.940 --> 00:50:59.820
but we call this activation roots versus fruits, okay?

650
00:51:00.780 --> 00:51:02.920
So as you all are in this process,

651
00:51:02.920 --> 00:51:05.540
we're asking you to pray and, you know,

652
00:51:05.540 --> 00:51:09.020
ask God to reveal to you areas where you have lies

653
00:51:09.020 --> 00:51:11.620
that you have believed, okay?

654
00:51:11.620 --> 00:51:15.900
Lies lead to fruit and typically a lie

655
00:51:15.900 --> 00:51:17.280
leads to unhealthy fruit.

656
00:51:17.280 --> 00:51:19.860
And then we have truth in our hearts for some of us

657
00:51:19.860 --> 00:51:21.340
that's leading to healthy fruit.

658
00:51:21.340 --> 00:51:23.260
And so we really want you to pray

659
00:51:23.260 --> 00:51:26.420
and ask the Lord to reveal what is the roots

660
00:51:26.420 --> 00:51:29.420
and the fruits in your life and what are they producing?

661
00:51:29.420 --> 00:51:32.740
So for example, this tree shows more of the roots

662
00:51:32.740 --> 00:51:34.200
and that's totally fine,

663
00:51:34.200 --> 00:51:36.100
but I'm gonna show you guys several examples.

664
00:51:36.100 --> 00:51:37.900
Again, this isn't about being perfect.

665
00:51:37.900 --> 00:51:39.480
This isn't about having to do it

666
00:51:39.480 --> 00:51:40.980
the way someone else did it.

667
00:51:40.980 --> 00:51:41.980
You get to be you.

668
00:51:41.980 --> 00:51:44.120
Some of these are gonna be more intricate than others.

669
00:51:44.120 --> 00:51:47.620
Some are more simple and they're all amazing, okay?

670
00:51:47.620 --> 00:51:49.780
So this is about you being you

671
00:51:49.780 --> 00:51:52.980
and turning it in however you feel led to do it, okay?

672
00:51:53.700 --> 00:51:56.460
The reason I wanted to show you this one is that,

673
00:51:56.460 --> 00:51:59.180
let me scroll in a little bit, wrong way,

674
00:51:59.180 --> 00:52:01.040
a little bit more here.

675
00:52:01.040 --> 00:52:03.420
So she puts not only the things

676
00:52:03.420 --> 00:52:05.100
that were kind of the negative things,

677
00:52:05.100 --> 00:52:07.500
so relationship with Christ, oh, that's a positive one.

678
00:52:07.500 --> 00:52:11.460
Relationship with Christ, this one here, fear of rejection.

679
00:52:11.460 --> 00:52:14.100
That was an unhealthy root, okay?

680
00:52:14.100 --> 00:52:15.900
But then what she did is she identified

681
00:52:15.900 --> 00:52:17.140
the lies right here.

682
00:52:17.140 --> 00:52:18.420
You are inconvenient.

683
00:52:18.420 --> 00:52:20.100
That was a lie she was believing.

684
00:52:20.100 --> 00:52:22.380
Hide out behind the scenes.

685
00:52:22.700 --> 00:52:24.460
Leftover, you're extra.

686
00:52:24.460 --> 00:52:26.940
The most you'll ever be is extended family.

687
00:52:26.940 --> 00:52:29.040
Avoidance behavior, shy.

688
00:52:29.040 --> 00:52:31.860
Too weird and or quirky to be accepted.

689
00:52:31.860 --> 00:52:33.500
Low maintenance.

690
00:52:33.500 --> 00:52:36.100
And so these were all lies that she was hearing

691
00:52:36.100 --> 00:52:39.660
that were underneath of the fear of rejection.

692
00:52:39.660 --> 00:52:43.760
This one here, imposter, the lies that she wrote down.

693
00:52:43.760 --> 00:52:47.020
If they really knew me, right?

694
00:52:47.020 --> 00:52:49.700
If they really knew me, they wouldn't love me.

695
00:52:49.700 --> 00:52:51.400
I don't love the right,

696
00:52:51.400 --> 00:52:53.600
I don't love, I'm sorry,

697
00:52:53.600 --> 00:52:56.040
I don't have the right qualifications or knowledge.

698
00:52:56.040 --> 00:52:58.480
So again, that was leading into the imposter.

699
00:52:58.480 --> 00:52:59.640
You guys can do it however you want,

700
00:52:59.640 --> 00:53:02.500
but I really appreciated that example,

701
00:53:02.500 --> 00:53:03.600
wanted to show you that.

702
00:53:03.600 --> 00:53:04.440
Here's another one.

703
00:53:04.440 --> 00:53:05.640
This lady was a teacher.

704
00:53:05.640 --> 00:53:07.640
I don't know if you can tell, but you know,

705
00:53:07.640 --> 00:53:09.620
more elaborate, she's got this board,

706
00:53:09.620 --> 00:53:11.600
but this was what made sense to her.

707
00:53:11.600 --> 00:53:15.240
And at the top, she put I am worthy.

708
00:53:15.240 --> 00:53:17.160
So she's leading to the truth.

709
00:53:17.160 --> 00:53:19.280
But y'all, one of the things that she did,

710
00:53:19.280 --> 00:53:20.960
sorry, I gotta wait for this little thing

711
00:53:20.960 --> 00:53:23.120
to pop off my screen.

712
00:53:23.120 --> 00:53:24.440
Go away.

713
00:53:24.440 --> 00:53:27.520
Okay, yeah.

714
00:53:27.520 --> 00:53:30.200
Okay, so she started down at the bottom.

715
00:53:30.200 --> 00:53:34.500
So at the bottom, the lie is I'm not worthy.

716
00:53:34.500 --> 00:53:37.640
But the truth at the top for her is I am worthy.

717
00:53:37.640 --> 00:53:41.240
So she broke down some of her big core beliefs,

718
00:53:41.240 --> 00:53:44.200
childhood perfectionism, childhood abandonment,

719
00:53:44.200 --> 00:53:45.400
childhood rejection.

720
00:53:45.400 --> 00:53:47.320
And then she wrote down different things

721
00:53:47.360 --> 00:53:51.680
that were identified for her in her process, okay?

722
00:53:51.680 --> 00:53:54.280
And then that led, that childhood perfection

723
00:53:54.280 --> 00:53:56.760
led to the adult perfectionism,

724
00:53:56.760 --> 00:53:59.280
childhood abandonment leading to adult abandonment.

725
00:53:59.280 --> 00:54:01.280
Y'all kind of see how she did her process.

726
00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:03.120
Again, you don't have to do any of this

727
00:54:03.120 --> 00:54:05.240
if you don't feel led, but I'm just giving you examples

728
00:54:05.240 --> 00:54:08.320
so you can choose to do it, whatever makes sense for you.

729
00:54:08.320 --> 00:54:11.040
Let me scroll out for this one.

730
00:54:11.040 --> 00:54:13.080
Okay, so here's a little bit more simple one,

731
00:54:13.080 --> 00:54:14.800
but this is awesome too.

732
00:54:14.800 --> 00:54:17.560
So she did just very simple.

733
00:54:17.560 --> 00:54:20.080
She did with the ones that have the leaves and the flowers,

734
00:54:20.080 --> 00:54:21.720
those are her fruit tree.

735
00:54:21.720 --> 00:54:24.320
Those are her ones that are positive, if you will.

736
00:54:24.320 --> 00:54:26.200
And the ones without it are the ones

737
00:54:26.200 --> 00:54:27.840
that are unhealthy roots and fruits.

738
00:54:27.840 --> 00:54:30.160
So the roots are in the ground, ladies,

739
00:54:30.160 --> 00:54:31.760
the fruits on the top of the tree.

740
00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:33.760
If you don't do it that way, that's totally fine.

741
00:54:33.760 --> 00:54:36.360
Again, the other lady didn't and it's great.

742
00:54:36.360 --> 00:54:37.360
But I do want you to know

743
00:54:37.360 --> 00:54:39.520
that's kind of how most people depict it.

744
00:54:39.520 --> 00:54:43.220
But you see the fear of man here and what that led to.

745
00:54:44.060 --> 00:54:46.140
Let's see if I can see.

746
00:54:46.140 --> 00:54:47.780
Oh, that one's just cut off, sorry.

747
00:54:47.780 --> 00:54:51.540
So stuck, crippled, smaller world.

748
00:54:51.540 --> 00:54:54.500
And then here is poverty mindset.

749
00:54:54.500 --> 00:54:57.980
And that led to fear, selfishness,

750
00:54:57.980 --> 00:54:58.820
all different kinds of things.

751
00:54:58.820 --> 00:54:59.860
Okay, moving on.

752
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:28.400
Lady did one with a computer. This is awesome too. Again, you guys get to do this how you want. I'm going to kind of go through these a little faster now. Here's another one with a computer. Awesome. This one, this lady's an artist. Okay, so don't get intimidated. But it is beautiful. And I love to show it. So she did if you can tell her unhealthy roots and fruit, it's all that kind of black area. And then her ones that were healthy roots and healthy fruit. That's all the gold and kind of orange.

753
00:55:28.400 --> 00:55:51.400
And then she brought the Holy Spirit in here. And I loved that. I just thought it was a cool, cool depiction of the process of healing. And so just want to encourage y'all pray into that. But take quick action. Okay, take quick, quick action on this stuff. These activations are again, it's really important to your process. So maybe y'all are going to get revelation as you're doing the activations that you haven't gotten yet. All right.

754
00:55:51.400 --> 00:56:19.400
Okay, so we're ready for group coaching time. For those of you that have never been here before, make sure you tell us in the chat if you're new for your first session tonight. So we say hi to you. I know some more faces are on here than when I first started talking tonight. But if you would like to get into the coaching seat, you can raise your hand and then I will know that you would like to share with the whole group what you shared in the private breakout room, and then we're going to talk through it. Okay, joy. Go ahead.

755
00:56:21.400 --> 00:56:23.400
Remember, short, brief and powerful for me. Okay.

756
00:56:23.400 --> 00:56:25.400
So thank you.

757
00:56:53.400 --> 00:56:55.400
Okay.

758
00:57:24.400 --> 00:57:30.400
So sometimes I may find a persistent, I really wanted.

759
00:57:31.400 --> 00:57:38.400
So, so, so sometimes my, my blog, God's a long ways.

760
00:57:39.400 --> 00:57:52.400
So that's why I know. So that's one, one reason. Another reason is that sometimes, if God says something, I can do what it takes to surrender and that's a sacrifice.

761
00:57:53.400 --> 00:58:19.400
But sometimes I was very tired. I don't submit to the earthly authority because sometimes they were not godly and I could not submit because they were not godly and did not submit because I'm kind of because of my, my energy level or could not accomplish and could not totally obey what they wanted.

762
00:58:20.400 --> 00:58:29.400
The way they wanted the time frame because I could not, because my emotions and my energy level would could not switch another route.

763
00:58:30.400 --> 00:58:32.400
Let me ask you a clarifying question, joy. Okay.

764
00:58:33.400 --> 00:58:47.400
So the second part, I'm trying to make sure I'm following you. The second part of what you were sharing is that sometimes you'd, are you saying that you don't understand sometimes what people are asking of you.

765
00:58:48.400 --> 00:58:53.400
And that's where you're, you feel tired and you don't know how to submit to that. Is that what you're saying?

766
00:58:54.400 --> 00:58:55.400
Okay.

767
00:58:56.400 --> 00:58:58.400
Actually, it's this way.

768
00:58:59.400 --> 00:59:22.400
When the earth authorities asked me to do something, sometimes I can do right away very submissive. Sometimes I was kind of very not surrendered or submissive because they may not be the way they want me to do may not be from the Lord God's way.

769
00:59:22.400 --> 00:59:35.400
Or could be, it could be, you know, it could be because my energy level and my emotion level wasn't, was not ready to go that route.

770
00:59:36.400 --> 00:59:55.400
Because when I was not like, sometimes I do not be not like, I was told to do something because if I told to do something, I have to achieve at a certain time and achieve the certain way they want it. But sometimes I was emotionally state, energy level was not enough.

771
00:59:56.400 --> 00:59:59.400
And sometimes I, I'm my, I'm kind of freestyle person sometimes.

772
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:07.000
But I need to change to God to heal me, heal me, yeah.

773
01:00:07.000 --> 01:00:12.000
Okay, I think I'm following you. Okay, so there's a couple things.

774
01:00:12.000 --> 01:00:17.000
So, ladies, sometimes one of the first things she said that stood out, she said,

775
01:00:17.000 --> 01:00:23.000
if I desired something so strongly, sometimes I ignore the voice of the Lord.

776
01:00:23.000 --> 01:00:27.000
And I think, I mean, has anyone in here ever done that?

777
01:00:27.000 --> 01:00:29.000
Anyone, raise your hands. You don't have to do digital hands.

778
01:00:29.000 --> 01:00:31.000
Just raise your physical hand. All right.

779
01:00:31.000 --> 01:00:35.000
I think we've all at some point, you know, God's saying something to us

780
01:00:35.000 --> 01:00:38.000
and we just want something else.

781
01:00:38.000 --> 01:00:43.000
I prayed and I prayed and I prayed for that man that I was in a relationship

782
01:00:43.000 --> 01:00:47.000
with my, you know, my spiritual daughter, their dad.

783
01:00:47.000 --> 01:00:51.000
And I just thought that that was good for me. And it wasn't.

784
01:00:51.000 --> 01:00:55.000
It never was. And God kept trying to tell me it wasn't good for me.

785
01:00:55.000 --> 01:00:58.000
And I just kept trying to hang on for that thing.

786
01:00:58.000 --> 01:01:01.000
Praise the Lord that he never blessed that.

787
01:01:01.000 --> 01:01:03.000
And that guy did not ask me to marry him.

788
01:01:03.000 --> 01:01:05.000
And I ended up leaving that relationship.

789
01:01:05.000 --> 01:01:07.000
That was the best thing I could have ever done.

790
01:01:07.000 --> 01:01:11.000
Now, sometimes it's not that. Sometimes it's other things.

791
01:01:11.000 --> 01:01:13.000
You know, there's something that we want.

792
01:01:13.000 --> 01:01:16.000
And God is saying, hey, like, don't go in that direction.

793
01:01:16.000 --> 01:01:18.000
Sometimes it's something God wants us to do.

794
01:01:18.000 --> 01:01:20.000
And we're like, I don't want to go do that.

795
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:22.000
I don't want to forgive that person.

796
01:01:22.000 --> 01:01:28.000
Or I don't want to, like, get rid of this thing off of my list

797
01:01:28.000 --> 01:01:32.000
because my list matters. And if I don't follow my list for a man,

798
01:01:32.000 --> 01:01:36.000
then God's going to put me with some guy I'm not even attracted to.

799
01:01:36.000 --> 01:01:40.000
Nope, ladies, that's not true either.

800
01:01:40.000 --> 01:01:44.000
Surrendering isn't so much about, like, God isn't just going to be like,

801
01:01:44.000 --> 01:01:49.000
oh, I just want to give you the crumbs and I want to give you the least.

802
01:01:50.000 --> 01:01:55.000
But it is about, man, God knows the package that you need to receive

803
01:01:55.000 --> 01:01:58.000
better than you do.

804
01:01:58.000 --> 01:02:00.000
He knows what's good for you.

805
01:02:00.000 --> 01:02:03.000
He knows the best personality mix for you.

806
01:02:03.000 --> 01:02:07.000
He knows the best spiritual DNA for you.

807
01:02:07.000 --> 01:02:11.000
He knows how to get you what you need.

808
01:02:11.000 --> 01:02:13.000
But will we surrender the pen?

809
01:02:13.000 --> 01:02:19.000
Will we surrender the list and just say, Lord, I do trust you?

810
01:02:19.000 --> 01:02:21.000
Now, that's not exactly what she was talking about,

811
01:02:21.000 --> 01:02:22.000
but I just felt led to mention that,

812
01:02:22.000 --> 01:02:26.000
because I think that goes along with some of that, like,

813
01:02:26.000 --> 01:02:28.000
ignoring the voice of the Lord.

814
01:02:28.000 --> 01:02:31.000
You know, we have a lot of people in this community that literally,

815
01:02:31.000 --> 01:02:32.000
I'm not kidding you all,

816
01:02:32.000 --> 01:02:35.000
I wish I could play you some of the love stories when I've interviewed

817
01:02:35.000 --> 01:02:38.000
couples that are success stories from our community.

818
01:02:38.000 --> 01:02:44.000
How many of them said, I had this thing on my list.

819
01:02:44.000 --> 01:02:48.000
And God asked me to surrender that too.

820
01:02:48.000 --> 01:02:54.000
And then when I did, I met my spirit mate.

821
01:02:54.000 --> 01:02:55.000
It doesn't mean we have to surrender.

822
01:02:55.000 --> 01:02:58.000
It doesn't mean we have to get rid of non, God, non-negotiables.

823
01:02:58.000 --> 01:03:00.000
I had God non-negotiables.

824
01:03:00.000 --> 01:03:02.000
I wanted to be with someone that loved the Lord,

825
01:03:02.000 --> 01:03:04.000
not just with the words that they were saying,

826
01:03:04.000 --> 01:03:06.000
but how they lived their life.

827
01:03:06.000 --> 01:03:09.000
I wanted someone that wanted more children.

828
01:03:09.000 --> 01:03:11.000
And I forget what my third one was right now,

829
01:03:11.000 --> 01:03:16.000
but I had three God non-negotiables and other than that,

830
01:03:16.000 --> 01:03:19.000
I had some other hidden ones on my list.

831
01:03:19.000 --> 01:03:22.000
I felt like they needed to be from a certain denomination because I was in

832
01:03:22.000 --> 01:03:25.000
a certain denomination.

833
01:03:25.000 --> 01:03:26.000
Ouch.

834
01:03:26.000 --> 01:03:29.000
Some of y'all know that's on your list.

835
01:03:29.000 --> 01:03:33.000
And I almost did not continue dating Brian because he was in a different

836
01:03:33.000 --> 01:03:36.000
denomination.

837
01:03:36.000 --> 01:03:38.000
And God, guess what he asked me to do.

838
01:03:38.000 --> 01:03:42.000
He asked me to surrender that pen.

839
01:03:42.000 --> 01:03:47.000
And y'all I'm doing ministry with my husband and it's awesome.

840
01:03:47.000 --> 01:03:51.000
Yeah. And you know, like we're, we're crushing it for the Lord together.

841
01:03:51.000 --> 01:03:56.000
I couldn't have, I could not have dreamt that up the way that it's going.

842
01:03:56.000 --> 01:03:59.000
Right now. Is it perfect? No. Is it easy? No.

843
01:03:59.000 --> 01:04:01.000
But man, it's been good.

844
01:04:01.000 --> 01:04:04.000
And so I don't know who that's for, but for some of you all, you know,

845
01:04:04.000 --> 01:04:06.000
these are the kinds of things like, are we willing,

846
01:04:06.000 --> 01:04:11.000
are we willing to surrender and say, I trust you Lord.

847
01:04:11.000 --> 01:04:14.000
Now back to joy, miss lovely joy. Okay.

848
01:04:14.000 --> 01:04:18.000
Sometimes, you know, yeah.

849
01:04:18.000 --> 01:04:20.000
I think sometimes we,

850
01:04:20.000 --> 01:04:24.000
people are asking us to do things and we might have heart attitude because

851
01:04:24.000 --> 01:04:28.000
we're tired. Sometimes I get grumpy.

852
01:04:28.000 --> 01:04:32.000
When someone's asking me to do something and I'm tired, I'm worn out.

853
01:04:32.000 --> 01:04:35.000
Hangry is a real thing for all people. You all.

854
01:04:35.000 --> 01:04:37.000
Okay.

855
01:04:37.000 --> 01:04:41.000
So again, not that that's necessarily what she's saying,

856
01:04:41.000 --> 01:04:44.000
but I feel like that's some of the things that I can pull out of that.

857
01:04:44.000 --> 01:04:49.000
Now, the key for all of us, including joy is for us to look at, okay,

858
01:04:49.000 --> 01:04:54.000
what's really going on in our hearts that are leading us to rebel,

859
01:04:54.000 --> 01:05:00.000
to resist, to get upset or ignore not only God, but other people.

860
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:06.000
sometimes. Because we do that too, right? So looking at

861
01:05:06.000 --> 01:05:12.280
underneath the layers of if we are desiring to go our own way,

862
01:05:13.160 --> 01:05:17.440
y'all at the root of that we think we know better than God.

863
01:05:19.320 --> 01:05:20.840
That's what's at the root of that.

864
01:05:24.480 --> 01:05:26.400
Kind of breathe that in for a sec.

865
01:05:26.400 --> 01:05:32.520
I did not trust God enough, I think I still need more trust.

866
01:05:32.960 --> 01:05:37.800
Sometimes the entertainer fear, you know, if I go my way, I

867
01:05:37.800 --> 01:05:41.040
think my way I get better control on my own.

868
01:05:43.920 --> 01:05:49.320
And the key word there control. So many of us, you know,

869
01:05:50.080 --> 01:05:56.120
control is is not really real, you all. Because the reality is,

870
01:05:56.120 --> 01:06:00.480
is we actually I mean, God allows us to make choices, we

871
01:06:00.480 --> 01:06:05.600
are allowed to make choices. But, you know, there's, there's

872
01:06:05.600 --> 01:06:08.960
always other factors at play, you know, other people making

873
01:06:08.960 --> 01:06:12.080
decisions and other dynamics happening in the spiritual realm

874
01:06:12.080 --> 01:06:17.200
and, you know, and so if we will surrender, you know, Jesus was

875
01:06:17.200 --> 01:06:24.240
the greatest example. When he gave up his life. And again, he

876
01:06:24.240 --> 01:06:30.120
gave the whole world. Right? If we will surrender and just say,

877
01:06:30.120 --> 01:06:33.560
Lord, I give it to you. Like I just, I just give this to you. I

878
01:06:33.560 --> 01:06:38.720
give my fear. I give my doubt. I give my unbelief to you. Feel

879
01:06:38.720 --> 01:06:45.400
the Holy Spirit on that. I give this to you. God, I believe that

880
01:06:45.400 --> 01:06:48.120
you'll take it and you'll use it and you'll do something good in

881
01:06:48.120 --> 01:06:51.760
me. Like he you know, there's a scripture that talks about I

882
01:06:51.760 --> 01:06:56.000
believe help my unbelief that man, you know, in the Bible. He

883
01:06:56.000 --> 01:06:59.600
believed Jesus could heal, but man, he said help my unbelief.

884
01:07:00.160 --> 01:07:08.120
He was with Jesus. The man that was doing miracles. And see, we

885
01:07:08.120 --> 01:07:12.560
read we read about him in in this book, right in our in our

886
01:07:12.560 --> 01:07:17.600
Bibles, we have pages to read. But so often we think they're

887
01:07:17.600 --> 01:07:21.800
just pages. And I'm not saying we do that intentionally. But

888
01:07:21.800 --> 01:07:25.360
subconsciously, sometimes the you know, life and the things

889
01:07:25.360 --> 01:07:30.280
that have happened, we minimize who he is, and what he's capable

890
01:07:30.280 --> 01:07:38.880
of. God who created the heavens and the earth is working in your

891
01:07:38.880 --> 01:07:51.240
life. Oh, yeah. I love these moments y'all when when God just

892
01:07:51.240 --> 01:07:58.320
shows up. He's like, here I am. Here I am. This is who I am. I'm

893
01:07:58.320 --> 01:08:09.080
working in your life. Yeah. Yes. So joy, it's surrendering.

894
01:08:09.080 --> 01:08:15.520
Remember, fear is false evidence appearing real. false evidence

895
01:08:15.520 --> 01:08:20.359
appearing real. So God can help remove the fear and put in its

896
01:08:20.359 --> 01:08:25.240
place. Love, perfect love, cast out fear. Fear has to do with

897
01:08:25.240 --> 01:08:29.479
torment. See the control idea that I was starting to talk

898
01:08:29.479 --> 01:08:33.880
about earlier. It's like this illusion in a sense. It keeps us

899
01:08:33.920 --> 01:08:40.600
bound. When we always have to be in control. Even learning how to

900
01:08:40.600 --> 01:08:44.319
trust other people you all I like we're training two new staff

901
01:08:44.319 --> 01:08:48.840
members the last several months. Y'all grow in and lead and other

902
01:08:48.840 --> 01:08:51.600
people and you're trying to learn who they are. Can you

903
01:08:51.600 --> 01:08:56.319
trust them all these different kind of aspects. And God just

904
01:08:56.319 --> 01:09:01.640
keeps telling me like, continue to like, trust them continue to,

905
01:09:01.880 --> 01:09:05.640
you know, and here's the reality. Some of us think we

906
01:09:05.640 --> 01:09:08.479
know better than God because we're trying to protect ourselves

907
01:09:08.479 --> 01:09:12.600
from getting hurt. And we're like, we want love, but we

908
01:09:12.600 --> 01:09:17.520
don't know if I want love if it means I'm gonna get my heart

909
01:09:17.520 --> 01:09:22.640
hurt. Or if God's gonna send me someone that doesn't have the

910
01:09:22.640 --> 01:09:28.200
color hair that I want. I know I know these things sound silly,

911
01:09:28.200 --> 01:09:33.439
but you all this is real stuff. People will not date someone if

912
01:09:33.439 --> 01:09:38.439
they don't have the color hair that they're looking for. Or if

913
01:09:38.439 --> 01:09:41.880
they're bald, y'all, let's just be real. Some of you all are

914
01:09:41.880 --> 01:09:45.920
looking for men with full heads of hair. And, and I love you all

915
01:09:45.920 --> 01:09:52.840
but at your age, you may or may not find that. All right. But

916
01:09:52.840 --> 01:09:58.600
you know what, when the men have good hearts, you know what, I'm

917
01:09:58.600 --> 01:10:00.040
telling you the hair doesn't

918
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:09.080
Yeah, you go get some hair dye. You help that man out. If he wants to change his hair, she

919
01:10:09.080 --> 01:10:16.640
kind of. That's funny. All right. So joy, you know, continue to surrender that fear

920
01:10:16.640 --> 01:10:22.080
to the Lord. And I want to go ahead and get to Chrissy, but, you know, continue to partner

921
01:10:22.080 --> 01:10:28.880
with all of the reasons why, you know, God is good, why he is love and, and asking the

922
01:10:28.880 --> 01:10:35.160
Lord what is still causing you to not trust him. And, and really lean into that at the

923
01:10:35.160 --> 01:10:40.000
core of your heart, because God wants to help you to get to the root of that. You don't

924
01:10:40.000 --> 01:10:45.880
continue to stay here. Okay. Can I give you an update with a Chinese single man? Um, not

925
01:10:45.880 --> 01:10:49.800
right now. Cause we're not talking boys. Cause remember, you're not supposed to be talking

926
01:10:49.800 --> 01:10:55.280
to boys right now. I always joined a group. I raised George. So I keep a distance from

927
01:10:56.280 --> 01:10:59.600
I'm going to go to Chrissy. I'm going to go to Chrissy. Cause we're not going to talk

928
01:10:59.600 --> 01:11:04.640
about boys right now. Okay. All right. Yep. All right. Thank you for sharing Chrissy.

929
01:11:04.640 --> 01:11:14.920
Go ahead. All right. Can you hear me? Yeah. I can change headsets. Um, uh, I mean, as

930
01:11:14.920 --> 01:11:21.120
soon as you started talking just from the very beginning, um, and then said mothers

931
01:11:21.120 --> 01:11:28.320
who are brazen, uh, I knew immediately, like that was like the Lord was speaking to me,

932
01:11:28.320 --> 01:11:38.880
um, cause that was my grandmother. And so that for sure informed my submission and really

933
01:11:38.880 --> 01:11:45.040
just, I didn't submit to any authority. Anytime anybody had something to say to me, I was

934
01:11:45.040 --> 01:11:52.720
like, no, I'll do what I'm going to do because I know better than you. Um, and after she

935
01:11:52.720 --> 01:12:00.040
passed away, then my mom tried to be mom and I was very rude to her. And anytime she tried

936
01:12:00.040 --> 01:12:07.040
to step up and say no, or, you know, be what a mom should be. Um, by that point I was like,

937
01:12:07.040 --> 01:12:14.280
no, I don't know who you are. Why are you talking to me that way? So, um, just bringing

938
01:12:14.280 --> 01:12:21.640
that back up for me, I'm sure there's more to, to that, that I'm needing to surrender,

939
01:12:21.640 --> 01:12:27.880
especially with this. Um, I mean, anytime the heart is mentioned because I'm still going

940
01:12:27.880 --> 01:12:35.200
through this heart issue. Um, I, I just know that that's, I mean, that's what it is. It's,

941
01:12:35.200 --> 01:12:40.440
it's, it's grief and it's stress and it's, it's all this stuff that it's heartwork. That's

942
01:12:40.440 --> 01:12:45.320
exactly what it is. For those that don't know, Chrissy has been experiencing some physical

943
01:12:45.320 --> 01:12:49.200
heart things happening. That's what she's referencing just so that, you know, she's

944
01:12:49.200 --> 01:12:52.720
doing heart healing too, but there's some physical heart things that have been happening.

945
01:12:52.720 --> 01:12:56.880
And so we've been praying for her about that. Um, were you going to share something else?

946
01:12:56.880 --> 01:13:01.920
Cause I do have something that I want to kind of ask you from here. Oh, I lost you on my

947
01:13:01.920 --> 01:13:09.200
screen. Oh, there you are. Okay. There you go. Go ahead. Okay. So here's my question

948
01:13:09.200 --> 01:13:14.960
for you. Um, as you were talking about that, I just wrote down, do you remember the first

949
01:13:14.960 --> 01:13:26.720
time that your grandma hurt you? It's okay if you don't, but just anything that comes

950
01:13:26.720 --> 01:13:34.000
to mind, if there is anything. Um, I think the, the biggest thing that comes to mind,

951
01:13:34.000 --> 01:13:41.600
she just was always yelling at me, um, and like screaming at me. Um, she would always

952
01:13:41.600 --> 01:13:51.400
burst into my room. If I was sleeping later than eight o'clock, um, she'd come in and

953
01:13:51.400 --> 01:13:58.320
yell at me for that. She would yell at me for not doing things correctly. The chores.

954
01:13:58.320 --> 01:14:04.760
Um, I remember specifically, she, my mom had asked me and my brother to do the laundry.

955
01:14:04.760 --> 01:14:14.000
My brother was, is seven years younger than me. Um, and we both were doing the laundry.

956
01:14:14.000 --> 01:14:21.760
We're having fun. And, um, she came in and just grabbed my brother, yanked him out and

957
01:14:21.760 --> 01:14:29.960
said, you do this and threw the laundry at me and then walked out of the room. Um, so

958
01:14:29.960 --> 01:14:37.720
when she died, I just, I was relieved. Yeah, I can understand that. So here, here's the

959
01:14:37.720 --> 01:14:42.880
thing. Uh, this is a really great reminder. So when I asked Christie, when's the first

960
01:14:42.880 --> 01:14:48.260
time your grandma hurt you? She said she wasn't sure, but then I said, okay, just what's coming

961
01:14:48.260 --> 01:14:51.900
to mind? And she had a couple of things that were already coming to mind for her. So this

962
01:14:51.900 --> 01:14:56.620
is how we do the heart work and revealing for healing process. So we start with what

963
01:14:56.620 --> 01:15:00.020
is coming up. Okay. So she shared a couple of things that were coming up.

964
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:06.080
tonight. I'm gonna guess there were situations even before those, because typically there are,

965
01:15:06.080 --> 01:15:14.080
okay? But sometimes we have to process what's coming up now, and then when we process that,

966
01:15:14.720 --> 01:15:19.200
the Lord will start to show other things. And sometimes that happens right away. Sometimes

967
01:15:19.200 --> 01:15:24.240
it happens weeks later, months later. It just depends on, you know, the Lord knows what,

968
01:15:24.240 --> 01:15:28.800
what, like, what we can handle and when we can handle it, okay? And so, you know,

969
01:15:28.800 --> 01:15:34.160
there's things from my life I still don't like. I'm so thankful, actually. There's still chunks

970
01:15:34.160 --> 01:15:39.280
of my life I don't remember, you all. And I really believe that's God's protection for me.

971
01:15:39.280 --> 01:15:44.080
And so I don't go, I'm not looking under rocks trying to figure that stuff out. If I'm supposed

972
01:15:44.080 --> 01:15:51.840
to know it, one day God will show it to me, okay? So Chrissy, I encourage you to, A, I don't know

973
01:15:51.840 --> 01:15:56.800
if I already said this, I'm sorry that that happened to you. I'm sorry that you were not

974
01:15:56.800 --> 01:16:02.560
able to sleep past eight, you know, in those situations that the laundry was thrown at you,

975
01:16:02.560 --> 01:16:08.880
that the way that you were spoken to. And so I want to encourage you, have you forgiven your

976
01:16:08.880 --> 01:16:12.640
grandma? I'm assuming, I know like you've done a lot of work already, but have you,

977
01:16:12.640 --> 01:16:20.800
oh, okay, so maybe not. I think that at moments I have, but I know that that has been always,

978
01:16:21.760 --> 01:16:27.200
I mean, for at least over a decade and a half now that I've been going through inner healing

979
01:16:27.200 --> 01:16:33.600
and all that stuff that I, things come up and I'm like, okay, God, I'm sure this is rooted

980
01:16:33.600 --> 01:16:38.000
in my grandmother, but if you want to do with something else right now, then that's fine.

981
01:16:38.000 --> 01:16:42.800
And I would always give it back to him. Okay. So this is a do not enter sign area for you.

982
01:16:43.760 --> 01:16:53.440
Yeah. Okay. And I like, I, I want to get rid of it. I just don't know what time it's time. That's

983
01:16:53.440 --> 01:17:00.080
all. It's time to really let the Lord take you to this place now. Okay. And I want you to know

984
01:17:00.080 --> 01:17:07.280
he's going to be with you no matter how painful it gets. Okay. But, um, do you in a forgiveness

985
01:17:07.280 --> 01:17:13.200
prayer sheet for these, um, the always yelling, I'm, I'm going to guess, maybe you remember some

986
01:17:13.200 --> 01:17:17.360
things that were yelled at you. Maybe you don't, if you don't, that's okay. You can write more

987
01:17:17.360 --> 01:17:23.040
general for now, but again, there might be things, more things that come up as you start to process

988
01:17:23.040 --> 01:17:27.760
this, you know, forgiving your grandma for bursting into your room, yelling at you because you slept

989
01:17:27.760 --> 01:17:33.680
past eight for giving her for the laundry incident, or if there's others, just as they come to you,

990
01:17:33.680 --> 01:17:38.080
kind of including those on that forgiveness prayer sheet and let's forgive your grandma.

991
01:17:39.200 --> 01:17:44.160
All right. And let's start this process of releasing this area and really allowing the

992
01:17:44.160 --> 01:17:49.200
Lord to come in because ladies, again, like he will only come in as far as we let him.

993
01:17:50.080 --> 01:17:56.000
And because you have actually said, Lord, I'll deal with all these other areas, but you know,

994
01:17:56.800 --> 01:18:02.960
let's do that first. Well, he's, he's honored you in that, you know, but the reality is,

995
01:18:03.040 --> 01:18:11.600
is the things that we don't deal with hold us back. And so it can also cause us to attract

996
01:18:11.600 --> 01:18:16.000
more people like that into our lives, or that might manifest in different ways, but they have

997
01:18:16.000 --> 01:18:21.760
the same hold the same power in the spirit realm, if you will. And so I want to encourage you to do

998
01:18:21.760 --> 01:18:27.120
that and then, you know, come into the group and let us know how that's going so that we can help

999
01:18:27.120 --> 01:18:34.400
you continue to process that. And let's see where this takes you. But remember, maybe I was doing,

1000
01:18:34.400 --> 01:18:40.640
saying that during the time you guys were in the breakouts, but as God is leading you into these

1001
01:18:40.640 --> 01:18:46.080
things, remember that if you feel like you don't have the courage to face it, that you have the

1002
01:18:46.080 --> 01:18:53.200
Holy Spirit who lives on the inside of you, who can enable you to do all things. He, the same

1003
01:18:53.200 --> 01:18:58.800
spirit that raised Jesus from the dead is living in you and can enable you to forgive your

1004
01:18:58.800 --> 01:19:08.240
grandmother. Okay. And so like rely on the Lord to help you is what I'm saying. Okay.

1005
01:19:09.600 --> 01:19:15.840
All right. I'm excited for you. I know it might feel kind of like, oh, I just said that out loud

1006
01:19:15.840 --> 01:19:21.440
and now I'm accountable to that, but we're cheering you on and we're praying for you. I believe this

1007
01:19:21.440 --> 01:19:26.080
is going to be a significant breakthrough area for you, Chrissy. Yeah. I mean, when you were

1008
01:19:26.080 --> 01:19:32.320
reading the permission slip before we did our breakouts, I mean, I felt the Holy Spirit strong.

1009
01:19:32.320 --> 01:19:40.800
I just started crying and praying in the spirit. So I know, I know that. But in my, in my mind,

1010
01:19:40.800 --> 01:19:44.480
I'm going through, I'm like, okay, so what is she talking about? What, where was it? And I'm like,

1011
01:19:44.480 --> 01:19:50.400
no, we don't, that doesn't need to happen right now. Yeah. Yeah. And literally, I'm not kidding

1012
01:19:50.400 --> 01:19:54.880
you all. I've talked about mothers in this area before, but I've never heard the Lord say

1013
01:19:55.520 --> 01:19:59.760
mothers who are brazen. That was exactly how he had me write it down this morning.

1014
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:03.720
And so I'm so thankful that that resonated for you

1015
01:20:03.720 --> 01:20:06.960
and that it helped you make these connection points tonight

1016
01:20:06.960 --> 01:20:08.560
for this appointed time for you.

1017
01:20:09.600 --> 01:20:10.880
Yeah, praying for you.

1018
01:20:10.880 --> 01:20:12.800
Thank you so much for sharing

1019
01:20:12.800 --> 01:20:15.200
and inviting us into that part of your heart.

1020
01:20:15.200 --> 01:20:16.640
Appreciate you.

1021
01:20:16.640 --> 01:20:17.480
Thank you.

1022
01:20:17.480 --> 01:20:18.300
You're welcome.

1023
01:20:18.300 --> 01:20:19.280
Cherish, go ahead.

1024
01:20:20.560 --> 01:20:22.360
Okay, so submission.

1025
01:20:22.360 --> 01:20:24.320
I don't usually walk around thinking about it,

1026
01:20:24.320 --> 01:20:26.760
but when you talked about it tonight

1027
01:20:26.760 --> 01:20:28.840
and we were in our breakout session,

1028
01:20:28.840 --> 01:20:33.040
I just this rock in my stomach appeared.

1029
01:20:33.040 --> 01:20:35.140
And I realized that I started dealing with that

1030
01:20:35.140 --> 01:20:38.640
in my adult life with pastors.

1031
01:20:38.640 --> 01:20:42.440
There's a lot of, I guess now it's called spiritual abuse,

1032
01:20:42.440 --> 01:20:45.820
kind of submit or you have to leave type thing.

1033
01:20:46.680 --> 01:20:50.640
I also dealt in a marriage where I didn't really

1034
01:20:50.640 --> 01:20:52.520
have a problem with the concept of submission,

1035
01:20:52.520 --> 01:20:54.960
but it was being said very directly,

1036
01:20:54.960 --> 01:20:58.400
like you need to get in the house and submit to me

1037
01:20:58.400 --> 01:21:03.400
or else kind of like there's gonna be judgment on you.

1038
01:21:03.840 --> 01:21:06.260
So it was used in a way that ended up,

1039
01:21:06.260 --> 01:21:08.780
I guess I would call it being cloistered

1040
01:21:08.780 --> 01:21:11.240
where I wasn't able to be around my family

1041
01:21:11.240 --> 01:21:13.540
or go out with the girls.

1042
01:21:13.540 --> 01:21:18.120
And so I do think it was pretty extensive

1043
01:21:18.120 --> 01:21:21.040
as I kind of taught, I'm an audible processor, so.

1044
01:21:21.040 --> 01:21:22.540
It's okay, you're doing great.

1045
01:21:22.980 --> 01:21:27.700
And I do think on kind of like secondhand upset,

1046
01:21:27.700 --> 01:21:29.780
I had a friend that was leaving her abusive husband

1047
01:21:29.780 --> 01:21:33.160
and our pastor said she should stay even if he kills her.

1048
01:21:34.240 --> 01:21:37.700
So that, to stay submitted to your husband

1049
01:21:38.540 --> 01:21:40.480
and that feels particularly evil.

1050
01:21:42.300 --> 01:21:45.300
So I do think that there are some issues there and I'm not,

1051
01:21:47.360 --> 01:21:48.860
that's I think it's first time I've thought about that

1052
01:21:48.860 --> 01:21:50.340
in many years.

1053
01:21:50.340 --> 01:21:55.120
Yeah, all of this is really relevant, Cherish, all of it.

1054
01:21:58.980 --> 01:22:03.980
So 100% that pastor is totally off, okay?

1055
01:22:06.420 --> 01:22:11.420
God does not ask us to stay in a relationship

1056
01:22:11.540 --> 01:22:14.820
where someone will kill us, okay?

1057
01:22:14.820 --> 01:22:16.460
That is not God.

1058
01:22:16.460 --> 01:22:21.460
If anything, he would encourage us to separate

1059
01:22:21.460 --> 01:22:24.100
and find out if that person is capable

1060
01:22:24.100 --> 01:22:25.740
of healing and getting help.

1061
01:22:26.980 --> 01:22:30.500
If anything, that is what God would say, okay?

1062
01:22:30.500 --> 01:22:35.100
And so I wanna be careful

1063
01:22:35.100 --> 01:22:36.580
because I'm always trying to be really careful

1064
01:22:36.580 --> 01:22:38.660
about how we speak about the Lord's anointed

1065
01:22:38.660 --> 01:22:40.980
and people that are called and ministry leaders.

1066
01:22:40.980 --> 01:22:44.100
But the reality is, is I just don't think his statement

1067
01:22:44.100 --> 01:22:46.260
was based in a lot of truth at all.

1068
01:22:47.060 --> 01:22:50.380
I think it was very deceived and not informed

1069
01:22:50.380 --> 01:22:53.380
from a place of health and scripture.

1070
01:22:53.380 --> 01:22:57.100
And so I really am sorry that that happened to your friend

1071
01:22:57.100 --> 01:23:02.100
and that you also, like that ends up being like not,

1072
01:23:02.760 --> 01:23:05.520
sometimes we get more offended when people do things

1073
01:23:05.520 --> 01:23:07.820
to our kids or our friends than even when they do them

1074
01:23:07.820 --> 01:23:11.300
to us, so it's like a secondhand offense, if you will.

1075
01:23:11.300 --> 01:23:12.620
And so I wanna encourage you,

1076
01:23:12.620 --> 01:23:15.380
A, do a forgiveness prayer sheet for that pastor,

1077
01:23:15.420 --> 01:23:19.980
forgive him for, I don't know if you heard him say that

1078
01:23:19.980 --> 01:23:22.020
or if your friend told you that he said that,

1079
01:23:22.020 --> 01:23:26.380
but either way, forgiving him for that offense

1080
01:23:26.380 --> 01:23:29.220
and like really just allowing that to be cleansed.

1081
01:23:29.220 --> 01:23:32.020
It's not a surprise to me that you felt a rock in your,

1082
01:23:32.020 --> 01:23:33.480
I mean, that was a very descriptive,

1083
01:23:33.480 --> 01:23:35.700
like that heaviness in your stomach

1084
01:23:35.700 --> 01:23:37.780
when we started talking about this tonight.

1085
01:23:37.780 --> 01:23:41.340
And then I want to also say a couple of things.

1086
01:23:42.340 --> 01:23:46.420
The spiritual abuse processing that as well,

1087
01:23:46.420 --> 01:23:50.340
like you do, like them saying that if you don't,

1088
01:23:50.340 --> 01:23:53.420
I forget how you said it, like, if you don't do this,

1089
01:23:53.420 --> 01:23:54.940
you're gonna get kicked out of the church.

1090
01:23:54.940 --> 01:23:57.620
Is that what I heard you say, stuff like that?

1091
01:23:57.620 --> 01:23:59.140
Yeah, it was definitely,

1092
01:23:59.140 --> 01:24:02.500
there was definitely an element of, I was a leader

1093
01:24:02.500 --> 01:24:04.980
and some of the kids, if they, not kids,

1094
01:24:04.980 --> 01:24:05.860
they were in their 20s,

1095
01:24:05.860 --> 01:24:08.180
but if they would date somebody they didn't approve of,

1096
01:24:08.180 --> 01:24:10.940
then we were supposed to ostracize them.

1097
01:24:11.500 --> 01:24:12.660
And I never agreed with that.

1098
01:24:12.660 --> 01:24:16.060
So then I was considered rebellious,

1099
01:24:16.060 --> 01:24:18.900
but I didn't ostracize them.

1100
01:24:18.900 --> 01:24:21.260
Was this, you don't have to tell me the denomination,

1101
01:24:21.260 --> 01:24:23.860
but was it a Christian church?

1102
01:24:23.860 --> 01:24:25.660
It was non-denominational.

1103
01:24:25.660 --> 01:24:26.500
Yeah.

1104
01:24:27.980 --> 01:24:31.540
Okay, so man, you had layers of this.

1105
01:24:31.540 --> 01:24:33.820
I talk about this a lot in the sense of

1106
01:24:33.820 --> 01:24:37.420
the enemy will try to come at us in similar veins

1107
01:24:37.420 --> 01:24:38.740
over and over and over again,

1108
01:24:38.940 --> 01:24:40.900
similar kind of threads of things.

1109
01:24:40.900 --> 01:24:44.580
And so what I'm hearing here is you had layers of it

1110
01:24:44.580 --> 01:24:47.100
in different church dynamics from,

1111
01:24:47.100 --> 01:24:48.780
whether it was receiving it secondhand

1112
01:24:48.780 --> 01:24:50.060
because what your friend was going through

1113
01:24:50.060 --> 01:24:51.380
or yourself as a leader,

1114
01:24:51.380 --> 01:24:54.020
and you're being told to ostracize kids

1115
01:24:54.020 --> 01:24:55.740
if they're dating someone they're not,

1116
01:24:55.740 --> 01:24:57.660
the church doesn't approve of and,

1117
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:05.840
No, sir. That's called control and manipulation is what that's called. Okay. And so we're going to

1118
01:25:05.840 --> 01:25:10.320
call it what it is. And we're going to, you know, encourage you to forgive those people that were

1119
01:25:10.880 --> 01:25:16.800
doing and saying really unhealthy things to tell you that you can't be friends with someone or,

1120
01:25:16.800 --> 01:25:21.520
you know, be friendly to a kid because they're doing they're dating someone who the church.

1121
01:25:22.320 --> 01:25:28.160
Yeah. So forgiving those people. Can I ask, are you still in that church?

1122
01:25:28.720 --> 01:25:34.320
No. Okay. That's a good thing. Okay. Then the other thing I want to say here in the marriage,

1123
01:25:35.360 --> 01:25:43.200
um, so the things that you're describing to me are abusive and I think it's important. I don't

1124
01:25:43.200 --> 01:25:48.880
know if anyone's ever told you that. I think it's important for you to know that it's not,

1125
01:25:49.440 --> 01:25:57.040
it's not healthy for someone to seclude you from your family and your friends and screaming at you

1126
01:25:58.000 --> 01:26:06.160
like, or even if it was calm, get into the house or else like whether or not you were ever hit,

1127
01:26:06.160 --> 01:26:13.360
I don't know. But like those kinds of things are also abusive. Okay. And so, um,

1128
01:26:15.760 --> 01:26:22.880
that is not God. That is not how he is. Um, he's not gonna punish you and kick you out

1129
01:26:22.880 --> 01:26:29.680
of the church because you are friendly to someone who is a sinner. He's not going to

1130
01:26:29.680 --> 01:26:35.120
tell you, get in the house or do what I say or else. No. And I feel like this is really important

1131
01:26:35.120 --> 01:26:40.800
for you to gain this revelation tonight because it's a part of you growing in your understanding

1132
01:26:40.800 --> 01:26:46.000
of God's love and, and that trust relationship between you and him, that that's going to grow

1133
01:26:46.000 --> 01:26:51.760
more because he's trying to woo you. He's trying to lead you through loving kindness

1134
01:26:51.840 --> 01:26:58.480
to repent of things in your journey of healing, to forgive people, to surrender and to trust him,

1135
01:26:58.480 --> 01:27:03.520
that he has good things for you. But because you've had these things in the past that were not

1136
01:27:03.520 --> 01:27:10.480
good, it's sometimes probably tricky to trust that there's good things coming.

1137
01:27:12.240 --> 01:27:18.080
So I'm sorry to hear that the person that you were with was like that with you and that they,

1138
01:27:18.880 --> 01:27:24.640
um, it sounds like really tried to isolate you from people that loved you.

1139
01:27:26.160 --> 01:27:35.600
Yeah. Um, how long have you been out of that marriage? A long time, 18 years, a long time.

1140
01:27:35.600 --> 01:27:43.680
Okay. And in reality, well, and here's the thing, um, you know, it's like I was talking about

1141
01:27:43.680 --> 01:27:50.080
earlier, um, there's layers to forgiveness, there's layers to healing. The fact that you

1142
01:27:50.080 --> 01:27:54.400
had that rock in your, that feeling in your stomach tonight, I'm going to say that this

1143
01:27:54.400 --> 01:28:00.640
probably still goes pretty deep in you. Okay. Um, you looked kind of shocked when I said to you

1144
01:28:00.640 --> 01:28:05.200
that, Hey, him doing and saying those kinds of things, that's, that's abusive. And so I don't

1145
01:28:05.200 --> 01:28:10.960
know if that was a shock to you or if no one ever supported you in that stuff. Like, did you, did

1146
01:28:10.960 --> 01:28:17.440
people, did anyone encourage you that, that not to leave him per se, but just like, Hey, this isn't

1147
01:28:17.440 --> 01:28:26.480
healthy. No, I was pretty close to the pastors at the time. And so I, I went and asked, um,

1148
01:28:27.680 --> 01:28:36.160
and I was just told, um, that I had an obsession with stability and that my body was not my own.

1149
01:28:36.960 --> 01:28:42.960
And. Okay. Was that the same church that, you know, that you were telling us about? Yeah.

1150
01:28:43.920 --> 01:28:49.600
Yeah. Yeah. And one of the ladies, um, I remember one Sunday I was just having such a precious

1151
01:28:49.600 --> 01:28:54.240
moment with God and she grabbed my arm and yanked me and said, you need to submit to your husband.

1152
01:28:54.240 --> 01:29:03.040
God's telling me. And so that's all I got from the church. All right. So how long have you been

1153
01:29:03.040 --> 01:29:12.960
out of that church environment? Hmm. I'd say about a long time, like 15 years. Okay. All right.

1154
01:29:12.960 --> 01:29:19.840
So I'm going to encourage you to forgive the ex-husband, that woman, like all these different

1155
01:29:19.840 --> 01:29:23.440
things that are kind of percolating to the surface tonight. The woman that grabbed your arm,

1156
01:29:24.880 --> 01:29:28.800
um, the pastor that told you that your body is not yours.

1157
01:29:29.600 --> 01:29:37.600
Oh, that, you know, that scripture. Yeah. Yeah. It is about, you know, intimacy with your spouse

1158
01:29:37.600 --> 01:29:43.520
and choosing. Sometimes we don't feel like having sex ladies. Okay. We just don't. We're tired.

1159
01:29:43.520 --> 01:29:48.800
Guess what? My husband doesn't always feel like it is or either, but you know what? We choose

1160
01:29:48.800 --> 01:29:53.360
to submit to one another because of love and you're, you're choosing connection and, you know,

1161
01:29:53.360 --> 01:29:59.840
relationship, but you know what? We both choose it. We're not manipulated.

1162
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:09.960
into it. There's a difference. And so, God is trying to help you see these different

1163
01:30:09.960 --> 01:30:15.280
things that have been said to you. Praise the Lord, you're getting set free from this

1164
01:30:15.280 --> 01:30:19.780
stuff more tonight. I really believe it. Even though you've been out of that environment

1165
01:30:19.780 --> 01:30:26.000
for a while, it's percolating up tonight for a reason. And so, you get to get set free

1166
01:30:26.000 --> 01:30:31.880
from this stuff more, and heal more, and so that you can step into a healthy dynamic with

1167
01:30:31.880 --> 01:30:36.460
someone that doesn't treat you that way, or that doesn't speak to you in those kind of

1168
01:30:36.460 --> 01:30:42.600
ways anymore. And so, yeah, as you process those things, if more come up, I want to encourage

1169
01:30:42.600 --> 01:30:50.000
you to keep a pen handy, and just write anything down. Nothing is too small. And what I want

1170
01:30:50.000 --> 01:30:55.800
to say to you, Cherish, is that if it starts to feel overwhelming, I want you to breathe.

1171
01:30:55.800 --> 01:31:01.200
Okay? I want you to breathe, maybe go do something fun, kind of step away from it for a little

1172
01:31:01.200 --> 01:31:06.000
bit. You know, if you need to take a break for a day, but just where you are continuing

1173
01:31:06.000 --> 01:31:11.760
to move forward, because I'm not sure how long you were in those environments, but because

1174
01:31:11.760 --> 01:31:16.600
it's been like this amount of time, and this is coming up tonight, and it feels like, I

1175
01:31:16.600 --> 01:31:21.000
can just sense in you like this is kind of a heavier thing. And so, I just want you to

1176
01:31:21.000 --> 01:31:24.920
be kind to yourself in this process, and give yourself a lot of grace. This is not about

1177
01:31:24.920 --> 01:31:31.960
you being perfect. This is not about you having to know how to navigate this by yourself.

1178
01:31:31.960 --> 01:31:37.000
This is a community that's safe, and we're going to love you through this, and we're

1179
01:31:37.000 --> 01:31:44.680
going to, hopefully, God is going to redeem those situations in your life, and bring restitution

1180
01:31:44.680 --> 01:31:51.720
through people that can kindly guide you into truth, not be harsh with you. And so,

1181
01:31:51.720 --> 01:31:56.200
we're here for you, and we're going to be praying for you, and I believe that God is

1182
01:31:56.200 --> 01:31:59.480
going to rewrite your story. And you know what? I hear the Lord saying, too, to tell you that

1183
01:31:59.480 --> 01:32:03.560
you're going to be someone that God is going to use, if you're willing, to reach other

1184
01:32:03.560 --> 01:32:06.680
people that have gone through spiritual abuse, and you're going to be able to help other

1185
01:32:06.680 --> 01:32:07.880
people find freedom, too.

1186
01:32:10.200 --> 01:32:11.640
Received that. Thank you.

1187
01:32:11.640 --> 01:32:16.840
You're welcome. Thank you for letting us walk with you in that tonight. Appreciate you.

1188
01:32:18.440 --> 01:32:25.880
God is so good, you all. Yeah, he doesn't condone abuse, Fran. That's right. Cleo, go ahead.

1189
01:32:34.440 --> 01:32:35.560
I might have lost her.

1190
01:32:35.800 --> 01:32:38.360
All right, we'll go to Haley, and then we'll circle back to Cleo.

1191
01:32:41.560 --> 01:32:48.200
Okay, so I was going to talk a little bit about my dad again, but the Holy Spirit had

1192
01:32:48.200 --> 01:32:54.680
brought something up to me, as we were talking in relation to that. So, growing up, my dad

1193
01:32:55.240 --> 01:33:04.200
is still pretty rebellious. And so, I realized that we were almost rewarded to be rebellious,

1194
01:33:05.080 --> 01:33:10.200
not against him, but in other situations. And so, the Holy Spirit revealed to me that,

1195
01:33:10.200 --> 01:33:17.320
like, I sought acceptance from my dad by stepping out and being rebellious as to what he would

1196
01:33:17.480 --> 01:33:26.680
be proud of if I did something. Like, standing up for something or, you know, not going with

1197
01:33:26.680 --> 01:33:34.440
the status quo kind of thing. And yeah, I just realized I was seeking acceptance from him

1198
01:33:35.160 --> 01:33:40.200
through being rebellious. This is really good. And honestly, I think this is the first time

1199
01:33:40.200 --> 01:33:43.960
this has come up in a coaching session, but it's such an important conversation.

1200
01:33:43.960 --> 01:33:50.920
Because there are children, even, you know, young people that get caught in, not that I'm saying

1201
01:33:50.920 --> 01:33:55.480
your dad's a gang, but like gangs or any kind of like, you know, you run with the bad crowd,

1202
01:33:55.480 --> 01:33:59.880
and you do certain things to fit in. So, I just felt led to mention that for other people.

1203
01:34:00.760 --> 01:34:05.400
Maybe it wasn't your dad, that maybe you were getting rewarded by friends by doing certain

1204
01:34:05.400 --> 01:34:09.000
things that were rebellious in nature. And so, I want to encourage you all to really

1205
01:34:09.320 --> 01:34:14.600
lean into that if that is you. Haley, on this, so can you tell me, like,

1206
01:34:15.960 --> 01:34:22.760
what was something that you did, per se, like, that was rebellious to be rewarded by your dad?

1207
01:34:24.040 --> 01:34:32.520
Like, like, if you, if I was like, kind of smart with my mouth towards someone, right,

1208
01:34:32.680 --> 01:34:42.200
like kind of push back, but not in like, I wouldn't say in a kind way, it was more of just

1209
01:34:42.200 --> 01:34:48.680
like a snippy snarky way. If it was some way that he would act towards someone, like, that would be

1210
01:34:48.680 --> 01:34:57.560
rewarded. So was your dad a sarcastic guy? Yes, very. Okay. Okay. So Sark, interesting. So sarcasm,

1211
01:34:57.560 --> 01:35:00.040
you all is one of the self-preservation

1212
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:07.080
techniques. Okay, so a lot of people will use sarcasm and they'll say, even some

1213
01:35:07.080 --> 01:35:11.100
people be like, oh I'm just joking, you know, I'm just joking, but really they're

1214
01:35:11.100 --> 01:35:15.120
actually being sarcastic because there's anger and frustration and pain underneath

1215
01:35:15.120 --> 01:35:18.280
the surface. In some people are comedians and they're just really funny,

1216
01:35:18.280 --> 01:35:22.340
right, and they have a gift and all of that, but I'm talking about the people

1217
01:35:22.340 --> 01:35:28.060
that, you know, will say something to you and then when you question them about

1218
01:35:28.060 --> 01:35:32.300
it, they'll be like, I was just joking, but there's all this like sarcasm in

1219
01:35:32.300 --> 01:35:36.820
there and things that they're saying and so there are people that that is kind of

1220
01:35:36.820 --> 01:35:40.340
their their protection mechanism and they just live like that because that's

1221
01:35:40.340 --> 01:35:45.780
how they put up walls and keep themselves safe, if you will, and so I

1222
01:35:45.780 --> 01:35:51.060
want to encourage you to really like lean into asking specifically for you

1223
01:35:51.060 --> 01:35:56.420
the difference. Well, number one, I want you to actually write a forgiveness

1224
01:35:56.500 --> 01:36:03.380
prayer sheet to forgive your dad for the example he set regarding rebellion and

1225
01:36:03.380 --> 01:36:07.860
then the other thing specifically that came up regarding your dad is that I

1226
01:36:07.860 --> 01:36:13.060
feel like this is a learned behavior for your dad as well. Was your, was your, his

1227
01:36:13.060 --> 01:36:19.420
parents, was his dad that same way? Do you know? I don't know if his dad was

1228
01:36:19.420 --> 01:36:24.020
the same way, but I know that he he went through a lot of emotional abuse, like

1229
01:36:24.020 --> 01:36:29.620
his mom basically disowned him and emotionally abused him and he like moved

1230
01:36:29.620 --> 01:36:32.580
out when he was 16 and offended for himself.

1231
01:36:33.900 --> 01:36:39.380
All right, so maybe his mom was brazen. I mean, not that it means she had to be

1232
01:36:39.380 --> 01:36:43.100
brazen, but I'm just wondering if there's that connection tonight for that as

1233
01:36:43.100 --> 01:36:43.460
well.

1234
01:36:43.620 --> 01:36:48.260
Yeah, I definitely know it's a I that I so we never growing up had a

1235
01:36:48.260 --> 01:36:54.260
relationship with his mom. And that I would say I don't think I ever heard a

1236
01:36:54.260 --> 01:37:00.420
kind thing said about her. I think I met her maybe once or twice when I was like a

1237
01:37:00.420 --> 01:37:03.820
baby. But yes, there's a lot of a lot of pain there.

1238
01:37:04.820 --> 01:37:08.020
Alright, so another thing. Okay, so I don't want to forget. So where I was

1239
01:37:08.020 --> 01:37:13.100
going with that is that, um, I did feel like this was a generational thing that

1240
01:37:13.100 --> 01:37:18.980
your dad learned. So he, it sounds like maybe he learned it because it was the

1241
01:37:18.980 --> 01:37:22.580
self protection mechanism that he put in place to protect himself from his mom.

1242
01:37:23.020 --> 01:37:28.620
But just pray into that because it could even be like great grandparents, you know,

1243
01:37:28.620 --> 01:37:32.620
where that got passed down. And for you, I don't know what I just feel like there's

1244
01:37:32.620 --> 01:37:36.340
a significance in that for you generationally. But remember that

1245
01:37:36.340 --> 01:37:40.020
generational blessings can also be passed down. So I want you to ask about that as

1246
01:37:40.020 --> 01:37:44.660
well, when you're talking to the Lord about this. And so forgiving your dad for

1247
01:37:44.660 --> 01:37:50.700
the example of being rebellious, forgiving yourself for times that you were rebellious

1248
01:37:50.700 --> 01:37:56.500
or maybe acted out in those ways to get those rewards or acceptance. And then I'm

1249
01:37:57.460 --> 01:38:00.540
shooting I lost my other thought I was going to give you something else. And now

1250
01:38:00.540 --> 01:38:01.540
I've kind of forgotten it.

1251
01:38:02.140 --> 01:38:02.780
Um,

1252
01:38:05.500 --> 01:38:10.060
shoot, it's left me. Sorry. The other things were important. So I didn't want to

1253
01:38:10.060 --> 01:38:13.820
forget to tell you those. But if it comes back to me, I'll respond. And when you're

1254
01:38:13.820 --> 01:38:18.620
coaching things and say it there, but I just it's not coming to me now. But I'm

1255
01:38:18.620 --> 01:38:24.540
praying to those those areas do those forgiveness. Um, I think it had to do with

1256
01:38:24.540 --> 01:38:30.900
the generational aspect. Um, but just remember that you're a kinsmen redeemer

1257
01:38:30.900 --> 01:38:35.300
that God wants to use you to bring healing to your family line. It doesn't mean that

1258
01:38:35.300 --> 01:38:40.540
you have to Is your dad still alive, by the way? Yes. Okay. All right. So do you all

1259
01:38:40.540 --> 01:38:48.860
get along? Yes. Okay, that's good. All right. Um, and so maybe I'm just through

1260
01:38:48.860 --> 01:38:54.020
praying through some of these things, it might unlock some other situations. And so

1261
01:38:54.540 --> 01:38:59.660
kind of keep us posted on how that goes. Um, and then even as you pray into things

1262
01:38:59.660 --> 01:39:04.500
regarding, you know, his mom, I would even Oh, that's what I was gonna say.

1263
01:39:04.500 --> 01:39:08.940
Thank you, Lord. All right. The other thing I was gonna say is you said I never

1264
01:39:08.940 --> 01:39:16.300
heard a good thing about her. Okay, I understand why. But that's also something

1265
01:39:16.300 --> 01:39:25.060
that's concerning in the aspect of like, um, we want to see golden people. Okay.

1266
01:39:25.420 --> 01:39:29.900
Like, my mom did a lot of things that weren't good. My dad did a lot of things

1267
01:39:29.900 --> 01:39:35.860
that weren't good. But like, I can pray and ask God to show me something good in

1268
01:39:35.860 --> 01:39:40.580
someone. Now, I don't need to continue in that unhealthy relationship and dynamic.

1269
01:39:40.580 --> 01:39:44.820
I don't like I didn't choose at one point, I just wasn't going to chase my

1270
01:39:44.820 --> 01:39:50.260
dad to make him try to make him be my dad. Like I just quit doing that. And I

1271
01:39:50.260 --> 01:39:57.020
knew that was a good choice for me. And so I think that's important to know what

1272
01:39:57.020 --> 01:39:59.860
that boundary line is for people, but I can

1273
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:06.000
know that my dad had good things in him. Years ago he was a great

1274
01:40:06.000 --> 01:40:11.800
photographer. I knew that he had a call in his life for ministry.

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There were some specific things that I could just kind of... I'm not

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saying I ignored the bad, but God wants us to see good in people. And the

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reason I'm mentioning this is that we're not talking about boys, but I

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want to use this as an example. In the future, if you all go on a date with

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someone where they just talk bad about their mom, their exes, and all

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that, that's a flag. So I will talk to people about my mom.

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In coaching sessions I might share more about the negative aspects

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because I believe it can help people. But even recently I was just telling

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someone, God's been really showing me some really awesome things about my

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mom that I kind of had forgotten. Sometimes when there's hard

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things that happen, it kind of gets tucked away with the good.

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Excuse me, the good gets tucked away with the bad, like when we were

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trying to forget the bad. So I feel like I've been noticing more and more

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just the really good aspects about my mom. And so to hear that you never heard

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a good thing doesn't mean that your dad just was a mean person or

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anything like that, but it makes me kind of wonder if there was forgiveness

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that happened there or not. And we can't judge that or you don't

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have to try to figure that out, but typically if someone forgives and they

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process, they can say the reality of the situation. They can talk about,

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hey, this, you know, my mom was harmful and wasn't good, but this is

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something God showed me good in her. You know what I'm saying?

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Yeah.

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Are you following me? Okay. And so again, not putting your, not putting

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your dad down. Sorry, we have someone unmuted. Not putting your dad down

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because I totally understand. And it's very typical for people, you know,

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when they've gone through really hard things with parents or people, they will

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tend to mention those things in that way. But as you continue to heal, there

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might be a factor of what God might loose in the spirit realm, or maybe

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there will be an opportunity for you and your dad to have a conversation

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at some point about that. Yeah. All right. Well, I don't think Cleo came

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back. So Haley, let us know how that goes. I almost forgot to say that.

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Let us know how that goes. And then we'll go from there. And so we're at

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942. We went a little late, but I wanted to take a little bit extra time

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with some of the things that came up tonight. Lisa, come next week, be

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ready to share with me about that. So Lisa's coming back next week. I

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coached her during one of the live sessions a little while back now. And

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she has an update for me. So we are gonna, I'm gonna coach on a certain

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topic next week, but Lisa's actually going to get some coaching on on

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something from several weeks ago. So just want to give everybody a heads up

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on that. So Lisa, I'll look forward to hearing more on that. And then we'll

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go from there. Let me pray us out. Father, thank you so much for this

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night. God, I thank you for all the revealings for healing that are

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happening. God, where there's tender hearts, God, where there's even just

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tough situations coming to the surface. God, I thank you that you are

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compassionate, that you're close to those who are broken hearted and those

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who are crushed in spirit. God, that you are redeeming us. You're restoring

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us. You're rebuilding us. You're renewing us. God, I thank you. Yeah.

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That you're taking our feet out of the miry clay and you're setting our feet

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on the rock. God, that you're cleaning up our dresses, so to speak, that

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you're making us everything that was crimson red, white as snow, where we

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not only have gone through things at the hands of other people, God, that

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have harmed us, God, but even choices we've made, God, that have harmed us

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that you forgive us. God, help us to forgive others freely, just like you

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forgive us freely. We thank you for grace and for healing. Uh, yes, Lord,

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healing waters flowing this week. We thank you for your hedge of protection

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around us and our families and that you guard and keep watch over us always in

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Jesus name. Amen. Amen. Amen. God bless you ladies. It's been an honor to be

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here with you tonight. Thank you for everyone that shared your stories. Know

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that we're praying for you. We love you all. And, um, if you were wanting to

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share tonight, maybe just were a little nervous, go ahead and put that in the

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group for us and we will comment there. Okay. God bless you all. Have a good

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night.