Hello, welcome. Hello, hello. Hi, ladies. Welcome to Monday evening heartwork session.
We are so excited to be doing another round of heartwork with you all. And I believe God
has great things in store. I hope you had a wonderful Easter and that it's been a good
weekend for you. If not, it's all right, because we're here to do heartwork and we can work
through all of that kind of stuff, you know, because sometimes family gatherings, if you
have family that you are with, sometimes that can bring up all kinds of stuff, right? Sometimes
it can be heart healing that needs to happen because we don't have family around or all
all of the things that kind of get triggered or surface around holiday times. Those are
great things to do post about in the group. If you don't have time to get coached on that
during our live session, because we do lean into, you know, our topics and things like
that during these sessions. But I just want you all to know that we understand that that
can be a dynamic that some of you might have faced or might be facing even still today.
If you're like me, we served all week long for Easter, multiple events, multiple services.
We had what Brian and I, my husband and I were calling the Easter hangover today. And
so just felt a little extra tired. Some of you all might even have some of that, even
though it might not have been you pastoring or leading, sometimes being around family
and lots of people can create that kind of feeling. So if you're in any of that, just
know that it will pass and that God has you and he's going to keep guiding you every step
of the way. All right. So do I have any new ladies? I think everyone's been here before,
but do I have any ladies that this is your first live session here with us tonight? If
so, put that in the chat for me so we can welcome you. So glad for those of you that
are joining back tonight. If you've never met me before, even if you watch the replay,
my name's Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the master heartwork coaches here in our community. And
I'm just love doing these heartwork sessions here for our community on Monday nights. I'm
going to go ahead and do a couple housekeeping things, ladies. And again, as always, these
are things that we repeat on a regular basis just to make sure if there are new people
here live or those that would watch the replay that they kind of know some of our best practices
while we're here in the heartwork. Some of those you might have heard me even mention
last week when I say, Hey, we're not going to talk about boys. What I mean by that is
I can give you guys a couple little tidbits here and there about some of the process of
good things that can happen with men for you in the future. But we're not going to
do any coaching around men, dating men. That's not what we're here to do right now. You guys
will after you learn the basic heartwork, excuse me, tools here in the heartwork course,
when you move to the next phase, you're going to have time to do plenty of heartwork around
men because you're going to be talking about men and dating and all of that kind of stuff
in the next phase. So that's not what we're going to do during heartwork sessions here
on Monday nights during the heartwork. So I just want to kind of circle back to that.
So on that note, if you are pursuing men, if you are trying to date men, if you are
on the apps right now, or even just like, Hey, trying to meet guys out in public, we
would encourage you to press pause on that completely while you are in the heartwork
course. For those of you that, you know, Hey, you might need a little extra time in here.
It might be more than five or six weeks that you're pressing pause on that, but we highly
recommend it. Here's why people that don't take this guidance, you all, I'm not kidding,
end up regretting it later on because they tend to have to circle back and do the heartwork
all the way over because when we are still trying to attract guys, it's a distraction
for some of you. I don't know if any of you are like me years ago, like way back. I didn't
know how to not have a boyfriend. And I don't want that to sound like, Oh my gosh, guys
were always after me. That's not what I'm saying. I grew up in a lot of dysfunction.
And so for me, I always felt like I needed to have a guy's attention to feel fulfilled
in some way, shape or form. And so I didn't really know how to get out of that until my
heart was healing more. And so maybe some of you might even struggle with that. Like
if you don't have a guy, you just feel like you're there's like you're not as important.
You're not as valued. You're not as whatever, fill in the blank. And if that is you, you're
in the right place. Okay. Some of you are like, I could care less about any guys right
now. We don't want you there either because that's also a signal of heartwork that is
needed because there's probably guys that have hurt you along the way. And that just,
that creates a little bit of callousness, if you will, if there's unresolved hurt and
pain. So anyway.
Either way, we want to encourage you to press pause on that and then investing in self-care
in this journey is super important.
So some of the things, basic things, I'm not going to go in depth in this, but basic things
that we recommend, drinking plenty of water, moving your body, getting extra rest, even
if you're not a nap person, you all just laying down, even if you don't fall asleep and taking
extra time where there's not other things like TV, people around, you know, where you're
just like even, I set a timer sometimes, I'll just lay down sometimes for like 20 minutes
and just lay there.
Even if I don't fall asleep, it helps us kind of recenter, recalibrate a little bit.
If you fall asleep, cool.
Eating healthy foods, so fueling your body with really good nutrients, right?
And then, I already mentioned about moving your body.
One of the other things that I found to be very helpful was drinking detox tea.
When I was doing the heart work, it helps your body eliminate toxins and some people
will do even Epsom salt baths and that kind of stuff, but if you do Epsom salt, definitely
drink extra water than normal, okay?
And those are just ways that you can help your body eliminate toxins that might be getting
released as you're doing the heart work, all right?
Next one is Supernatural Saturday replay.
The resurrection comes early sometimes, if you will, and that's what Jackie was talking
about.
Y'all are going to see that in your replay tab and I hope that you take time to listen
to it.
It was really, really good.
All right, let me pray for us.
Father, thank you.
Thank you for every lady that's here live, those that are watching the replay, God, thank
you.
That even just as I was praying before our session tonight, just the reminder that you
know exactly everything that they've been through.
You know everything that they need, God, you know, things even about themselves that they
may not even remember right now, God, I thank you that you love them so well.
I pray that you would just bring revealings for healing to the surface tonight, that those
things that are in darkness would be brought to the light, God, that you would help them
to grow in the revelation and understanding of who you are as a good father who keeps
his word.
Yes, Lord, that you fulfill promises that you are loved and you cannot deny yourself,
Lord, I thank you, God, that your word declares that you are not a man, that you should lie.
So Lord, I pray that you would just come in and heal the wounds in our hearts, our minds,
our bodies, our spirits, our souls, where the enemy has deceived us into believing that
you're a trickster, that you lie, that you deceive, that you don't follow through on
your word, that we can't trust you.
God, I thank you that that isn't who you are, that you are a good father and you give
good gifts to your children, including us, not just everybody else, but including us.
So God, I thank you for repairing the breach tonight.
Yes, Lord, and that you help us to then turn around and be that vessel that you can help
repair the breach in other people's hearts and lives.
We thank you for supernatural breakthrough.
Holy Spirit, thanks for being here.
We ask you to have your way, that you would be glorified in all things.
And we just thank you, God, for breakthroughs, for revelation, for healing that's coming
forth in Jesus name.
Amen.
All right.
We're talking about the story of Candice a little bit tonight.
And part of it, some of y'all might have already heard the video where Jackie talks about the
story of Candice.
Some of you might not be at that video yet.
Either way, there's a story that Jackie shares about, talks about regarding Candice.
Candice, basically in the video, when Jackie talks about it, Jackie didn't know who Candice
was, but God was talking to her, to Jackie about Candice.
And basically that Candice would be there and Candice needed healing, but Jackie didn't
know who Candice was.
So she kept talking to the Lord about it.
Long story short, Candice ended up getting revealed.
It was ended up being someone that was speaking at a conference and she was kind of a last
minute fill in because the original person had to cancel.
God knew Candice was going to be there and he told Jackie that she needed healing.
So Jackie was able to figure out who she was, was able to reach out to her, ended up, you
know, God used all of that to bring healing that was needed to Candice.
Why am I bringing this up?
Well, I'm bringing this up because God wants you to know tonight that God knows what you
need. God knows where you are and he knows how to get you what you need.
A lot of times we think we know what we need.
We think we know how to get to where we need to go.
Even regarding guys, we'll come here.
So many of us will come here, we'll know we, something's not working because we keep attracting
really unhealthy people or, you know, we keep feeling stuck, but yet we'll come here and
then we'll try to basically...
figure out our own way and not even follow the guidance.
This happens all the time, you all.
The coaches will be like, hey, that guy's bad news.
You probably shouldn't continue to see him.
These are flags that are, and they will keep dating them.
Why do we do that kind of stuff?
Well, because somewhere in us,
there's an area that still needs healing,
or we are minimizing our value
because of brokenness in our lives.
Like there's all different aspects,
but ultimately at the core,
it's that we believe that we are not worth good things
and that God doesn't know how to get us good things,
or that God breaks his promises to us.
And if we believe that God broke a promise before,
well, sure enough, we're gonna believe
he's gonna break promises in the future.
So I wanna talk to you a little bit tonight
about where is your heart regarding promises
that God has made to you?
Some of you might even come from a lot of,
which I am very charismatic.
You all probably know that a little bit about me
if you've been in the community any amount of time.
I believe in all the gifts of the spirit,
but some of the things that I even have come out of,
and I really encourage people to come out of here
in our community, is that like I had a dream
and I knew my husband was in the dream,
but I didn't see what he looked like.
And I didn't like know anything about him,
but all I knew was that when I woke up,
I knew that it was my husband in the dream.
And what I heard God say is he's coming soon.
Y'all, I didn't know his height.
I didn't know his weight.
I didn't know what, you know,
like, but people literally will declare,
and I'm not saying it can't ever happen, okay?
But most of the time when people think
they know exactly who they're going to marry,
it actually ends up binding them,
controlling them, and keeps them stuck, okay?
Now, I'm not here to convince you
if that's true for you or not,
if you've had one of those visions or words or whatever.
I'm just saying from doing this for over five years,
the people that have had those words
actually end up getting tormented by them,
and it doesn't serve them.
So I really wanna encourage you
that maybe some of you have gotten words in the past.
I believe in prophetic words 100%,
but one of the things we do not do in this community
is we don't prophesy about mates, babies at all,
because we just, God, like, is very clear about some things,
and he's very clear about, you know,
using wisdom and caution,
and as you release prophetic words and things like that.
And so some of you, though, have gotten words,
and they haven't come to pass.
And because that hasn't happened,
you believe God wasn't being truthful,
or that, you know, he's holding out on you.
Here's the reality.
Sometimes you all, seasons change, okay?
Now, years ago, God gave a prophetic word to me
through someone that I was gonna be used
to minister to marriages and families.
Y'all, when I got the prophetic word, I almost laughed,
because my marriage back at that time,
my first marriage, was literally falling apart,
like, faster than it could be held together by any means.
And so it was kind of funny to me
that God would use someone to speak that word to me,
because at that point, I was like,
I don't think there's any way this marriage can be,
A, healed, and B, that I can be used
to minister to marriages and families.
Well, many, many years later,
even before I came into this community,
I was on a group of people planning.
I served with a church that's pretty well-known,
and one of the things we did is we put on
an online marriage conference for couples,
and everybody was a couple except for me.
I was the single person giving input,
because I had gone through divorce,
and God positioned me for purpose in that scenario.
Then from there, God started opening doors
after I went through healing in this community
to start coaching here,
and, you know, the rest is kind of history, y'all.
I do help do marriage,
Simba's premarital coaching with my husband now
through last year's single.
We do all kinds of stuff, obviously helping people heal
and step into healthy kingdom families and marriages,
and then just things that Brian and I do in the local church.
But I'm saying that to you to say this.
Sometimes we get a word,
and we can't comprehend what God is saying in that moment,
but that doesn't mean we should disregard it completely.
But I was able to go back and really ask the Lord,
you know, what is it that you were trying to say
through this whole experience?
that, I didn't get the answer right away. It was many years later that it started making sense.
And I was able to do that,
and I was able to go back and really ask the Lord,
So some of you are going to have words like that. And so I'm not asking you or telling you to
you know, what is it that you were trying to say
discard everything that anyone has ever spoken over you. But what I am saying is that sometimes
some words, it's just time to let them go and move on from them. And if God does something in that,
awesome. But don't let that keep you from moving forward into something new.
So I believe that God is going to reveal to you all tonight areas that you might be struggling
to believe that God cares about your needs and your wants. Yes, I did say that. But here's the
thing. Some of our wants don't align with God's purposes and plans for us. And that's where we
get hung up. You know, we believe that God should do it our way and in our timing and it should look
and in our timing and it should look like this. And we have a certain package that we think it
needs to come in and all of the things. And I will tell you all, I've kind of, you know,
shared a little bit of my testimony regarding my spiritual daughter's dad. I mean, I wanted God to
lead him to marry me. And I pleaded for that. Praise God. God did not answer that prayer.
And I did not end up marrying him. But here's the thing. Because of that, for a long time,
I struggled to believe that God cared about things that I wanted when I was in that dynamic
and that prayer was not getting answered. And then I started believing lies beyond that,
that the enemy was telling me. And so through my heart healing, a lot of what really set me free
was when Jackie talked about the baby gates. I don't know if you all have heard that one yet,
but when she's talking about, you know, sometimes God has baby gates because we're not ready for
what the promise is that he's about to give us. And so I needed some baby gates, you all.
I thought I was ready. And A, I wasn't ready to get married again. And B, he was not healthy.
So praise God that he had baby gates and that he did not just, you know, release that to me
in that season. And God protected me from a lot of things. I call them my spiritual daughters
because I did not marry him. And they're not my biological daughters, but I have for years
treated them like my own daughters and in the spirit have adopted them. And they were in our
wedding and all the things. So that's the name that I just felt led to give it to take the
pressure off of them. And all the, yeah, just because, you know, people would like even be like,
because my girls look like me, it's kind of ironic. And so people all the time would be like,
you look to my girls, you look just like your mom. And so that was just something we came up
with to take the pressure off of them when things would happen like that, because they do have a mom.
And even though she's not a great mom, that's important that they don't feel any pressure to
give me some kind of title like that, if you will. But yeah, so that's something that I did.
And it's been really awesome connection with them in that regard. And so as I'm talking about,
God wants to answer your, respond to your needs and your wants. One of the things that I want you
to be asking yourself as you're hearing the coaching tonight is, is there an area that you
need God to reveal to you that he is good and that he will come through for you?
Not just your sister, Lisa, on the screen here, or your, I'm going to make up a name,
maybe your friend, Judy, who lives next door to you, but like you, God wants to come through for you
and he will come through. Letdowns, trauma, and unhealed wounds from the past can cause us to
view God and other people through those filters and false lenses that I've been talking to you
all about. You know, we go around and it changes the way that everything looks. Numbers 23 verse
19, I'm going to read it to you in two versions, and I'm going to read it to you in the King James
version as well as the message. They're both really good, but they say it a little tiny
differently, and so I wanted to read both. Here's the King James version. Again, this is
Numbers 23 verse 19. God is not a man that he should lie, neither the son of man that he should
repent. Hath he said and shall he not do it? Or has he spoken and shall he not make good?
Here's the message translation. God is not a man, one given to lies, and not a son of man
changing his mind. Does he speak and not do what he says? Does he promise and not come true?
through. We know that Jesus was God and man, but there is a definite distinction between us,
us as men and women, and the son of man and God himself. You know, there's a distinction like
Jesus felt everything, he experienced everything so that he could relate to us, but he was still
God, you all. And God is not a man that he should lie. He's not, he's not someone who
just goes against his word, but sometimes we hear something and we kind of twist it a little bit,
you know, just like when Satan met Jesus in the wilderness, he used the word, but then he twisted
a little bit to see if he could trip Jesus up. Sometimes that's what the enemy does with us.
He takes the word of God or even a message that we hear at church or a prophetic word, and then
we're like, he twists it and distorts it just enough that we start to go down a path that
actually isn't fully the truth. Okay? And so we have to be, it's not something we have to be
afraid of. We don't have to be afraid to never take any steps, you all. And if anybody ever
tells you that, that's not true. That's not true walking as a disciple and growing and learning and
to be sanctified and walking out your faith. It's faith and works. It's walking it out
and learning how to grow in discernment. And if you don't know how to do that,
the one of the best things you can do is read the word of God and get to know God's voice,
100%. If you don't know how to, what that even means, write in the gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke,
and John. Stay there. Read it over and over. Let your spirit absorb the words and the voice of
Jesus throughout that, and you're going to learn the word of or the voice of God more and more and
more. Highly recommend that. If you guys are struggling to hear God, that's one of the best
things I could recommend. And I can't take credit for this. This was Joyce Meyer, but I heard her
and saw her do this years ago, and I tell everybody this. I really believe that it has a huge part of
why I can hear God the way I do today. And y'all, I still am not perfect, okay? Like, I don't want
it to sound like I just always know every single thing I say is 100% on point all the time. No,
I just do my best. But here's the thing. Years ago, I mean, for 20 years, y'all, I've probably
done this, but she said to put your hands on your ears and declare, I am God's sheep and I hear his
voice. I am God's sheep and I hear his voice. The Bible says that we are his sheep and his sheep hear
his voice. He is the good shepherd, okay? So, just that's totally side note, but that's something
that's really helped me, and I prayed it over and over and over, and I've declared things over myself,
and it, you know, again, I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I definitely believe that it's changed things
for me. All right, here's another scripture for you. Psalm 31 verse 16 says, let your face shine
on your servant. Save me in your unfailing love for thy mercy's sake. Unfailing love here, we're
going to talk about it a little bit, not in great depth tonight, but I want you to hear what the
different Greek and, excuse me, Hebrew definitions are. They're very similar, but each one has a
little layer additional for you. So, in this Psalm 31 verse 16, when it says, save me in your
unfailing love, it actually means goodness, kindness, faithfulness, that God is merciful.
Psalm 32 verse 10 says, many are the woes of the wicked, but the Lord's unfailing love,
there it is again, surrounds the one who trusts in him.
In this one, it's literally, unfailing love is mercy shall compass about him,
to turn, turn about, encircle, or aside, or back, or towards, to go about, or around, to circle,
encircle, excuse me, to surround. So, it literally is saying, the Lord's unfailing is literally
encircling those who trust in him. Y'all, I just imagine this, like, even maybe just, if you can
imagine, like, just right now, right where you're at, that God's unfailing love is just circling
around you. It's pretty powerful, if you start to think about it, that he is that close, that when
we choose to trust him, he comes and he's circling around us. He guards us on every side. Psalm 33
verse 5, 18, and 22, here they are, the Lord loves righteousness and justice. The earth is full of
his unfailing love. Here, it means the goodness of the Lord. Verse 18, but the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in him, and on those whose hope is in him.
is in his unfailing love. In this one it's mercy. Verse 22, may your unfailing
love be with us Lord even as we put our hope in you. In this verse it means
mercy and goodness. So basically combines the meanings of the two prior verses I
shared with you. Again that was Psalm 33 verse 5, 18, and 22. Sometimes just taking
time to slow down and think about what some of these words actually mean. Verses
just, I know that we read unfailing love and I think for the most part we're like
oh yeah that's awesome. But when we really start to unpack it and look at
like it's it's continuing to say like God is good, God is merciful, he's
surrounding us because he loves us. When we fear him this is what we can expect.
Fear him in a reverent way, not be afraid of him. That's the difference. Alright I'm
gonna keep going. There's a song you guys have probably heard it. It used to be on
all the time but I'm gonna read some of these lyrics over you. It's called
Sparrows by Corey Asbury and I want you to imagine you know the reality of
scripture that talks about how God cares for us even more than the sparrows. You
know that we're gonna be clothes and better things than even the lilies of
the field right? That's the scripture that it comes to mind for me but here is
the song lyrics over you. The sparrows not worried about tomorrow or the
troubles to come. The lilies not thinking about the seasons, the drought or the
flood. A tree that's planted by the water isn't phased by the fire. So why should I
be? Cuz you take good care of me. You take good care of me. You know what I
need before I even ask a thing. And you hold me in your hands with a kindness
that never ends. I'm carried in your love no matter what the future brings. Yeah
you take good care of me. The sun's not worried about the winter cuz soon it
will pass. The light is not thinking about the darkness or the shadow that it
casts. A heart that's planted in forgiveness doesn't dwell in the past.
So why should I be? Cuz you take good care of me. You take good care of me. You
know what I need before I even ask a thing. And you hold me in your hands with
a kindness that never ends. I'm carried in your love no matter what the future
brings. Yeah you take good care of me.
This week I would encourage you to find that song and meditate on it. Let it come
in and really soak in your heart and your spirit. What is it? I mean think
about this you all. The sparrow isn't worried about tomorrow and it's talking
about this tree that's planted by the water. You know there's a lot of
scripture that talks about us being like oaks of righteousness for those that
love the Lord and live for him. That we can be like a tree planted by like
streams of living water. And there's all kinds of imagery around that. And I love
that he pulled it into this song because then he's saying a tree that's planted
by water isn't even fazed by the fire. So why should we? Why should we? Why should
we be afraid?
The Lord wants to provide for you things that you can't even comprehend right now.
I'm not saying it's easy. Sometimes it's hard to believe. But it is worth it. And
when we have a struggle with belief we can say I believe. Help my unbelief. Jesus
understands. God understands. The Holy Spirit. They get it.
So why is this time any different from times in the past that you've tried to
be with someone? Maybe you were married. Maybe you weren't married but you
weren't in a relationship. Maybe you've never been in a relationship. I don't
know what your story is. But so often that's what people they get even get
into the heart work and they're like I don't even know if this is gonna work
because the enemy is trying to convince so many of you that this isn't gonna
work. And I'm here to tell you that these are some of the reasons why it's
going to be different for you this time. Now I can coach you. I can cheer you on.
But at the end of the day you believing it is what matters. But I hope this helps
you take a step further towards that tonight. The reason that it's different
this time is because a you're here investing in the heart work. I believe
that every single one of you are different today than you were yesterday.
Let me see a show of hands for my ladies that have been in this heart
or course, even for a little while.
Let's say our ladies maybe passed five weeks.
You can raise your physical hand or your digital.
Do you think you're different now than when
you first started this course?
Do you think you see things differently
than when you first started this course?
Hear things differently.
Believe something different.
So in that regard, for our newer ladies,
I hope this encourages you that there are good things coming,
that your change and transformation
will enable you to see something different,
do something different, think something different,
that the best is yet to come.
If we are different today than we were yesterday,
well, wouldn't we choose differently today?
Wouldn't we see a guy differently than we did today?
I hope so.
Some of us, the same kind of guys are going to come our way
and some of us might still choose them and then realize,
oh, wait, this isn't, I want to do this again.
Some of us are just going to be like, oh, yeah, that guy's not for me.
I used to fall into that trap, but I'm just not going to do that anymore.
And then you're going to see the good guys, too.
Because there are plenty of guys, you all.
I'm serious.
I know some of you struggle to believe that, that you think they're,
it's like a needle in a haystack.
I had a lady tell me that one time.
She was struggling because she was dating this guy for a while.
And he seemed like a nice enough guy, but then as they kept dating,
there were things that revealed itself.
That's what we want to happen.
We don't want you guys marrying someone that isn't a good fit for you.
And that's what happened.
Things got revealed.
He wasn't a good fit for her.
He didn't really believe the same way that she did.
He wasn't as committed in his relationship with the Lord.
And you all, we got to be able to run the race with people that we're going to,
that spiritual DNA, you want that to match.
And so she ended up breaking up with that guy.
It was a good decision, but it was really hard for her.
And I met with her for a session after that.
And she said, I feel like I'm looking for a needle in a haystack.
And so as I was coaching her, I know this might sound funny,
but this is what I saw.
I saw unicorns showing up all over the map.
That's what I saw.
And I just told her, I said, I don't know exactly what this means,
but I'm just going to tell you what I see.
I just, as you were talking and we were praying through this,
coaching through this, I kept seeing unicorns.
And they were showing up all over the map.
Well, if you think about it, the other way that people say things,
you know, the needle in a haystack is they're looking for the unicorn.
The one, they think there's only one.
And what God was trying to say is there were plenty of unicorns.
They were literally, well, I just saw them filling up the map.
And so I created an image and I sent it to her.
I'll look for that image.
And if I remember tomorrow, I'll put it in the group so y'all can see it.
And I hope that it will encourage your faith as well.
God has plenty of resources.
There are plenty of good men that love the Lord,
that have good character, that are marriage-minded.
And some of them are in that healing phase.
Brian said the other night we were at something in the time frame
that I was begging God.
I was begging God for my spiritual daughter's dad to want to marry me.
At that same time, Brian was praying for his wife.
Y'all, his prayers were canceling out mine.
It's kind of funny if you think about it, but it's real.
I was praying for a husband too.
I just was praying for the wrong husband at that point.
But God knew what we both, Brian and I both needed.
Brian was in a relationship after his prior marriage, before he married me too,
and he was engaged to that woman.
And she broke it off.
So glad that she did, but she was super unhealthy.
They were unhealthy together, just like my spiritual daughter's dad and I.
We were not good together.
And so this is kind of what happens sometimes.
We have to trust that God knows what we need.
He knows where we are, and He knows how to get it to us.
Alright, I'm going to keep going.
So, you're different now.
So that's why it can be different now.
Here's another one.
Every single day, as we continue to move forward,
as you continue to surrender to the Lord,
you're surrendering the pen.
You're surrendering your idea.
You're allowing God to come in and remove all those
do not enter signs in your heart, in your life, in your spirit.
You heal the more that you grow in your identity in Christ,
the more you become someone new.
And then you also unbecome the counterfeit identities
that you were never intended to be in the first place.
So you all, doesn't it make sense
that it's going to be different this time?
It's gonna be different this time.
The above things are things
that can help you choose differently,
see people differently,
see the world around you from a healthier place,
recognize the voice of God more,
and trust that he isn't keeping things from you,
but he is defending you.
He's protecting you, he's preparing you,
he's leading you into the fullness of everything
that God has planned for you and promised for you.
Heart change equals life change.
Real and lasting change is a process.
So I'm gonna encourage you all tonight
to step a little further out of the microwave culture
that we live in and the microwave mentalities.
You know, we're expecting the instant coffee.
You all, we go through the,
okay, we like Starbucks in our house.
My husband loves coffee, I enjoy coffee,
he loves it more than I do,
so we make a lot of trips to coffee stores.
But you go through this Starbucks line
and sometimes you gotta wait a little bit.
And you can equate this to a food restaurant line
if you're not a coffee drinker.
But have you all ever been in a line
and it's only been like, I don't know,
three minutes, maybe five, and you're getting irritated?
Because you gotta wait.
Hmm, how's that gonna work in the dating world?
Think about this.
The culture that we live in and the mentalities
that we have about not wanting to wait at all
are not helping us.
They're hurting us.
So, are you expecting instant coffee?
Maybe it's even, in addition to the romantic relationship,
maybe it's a job, maybe it's a new house,
maybe it's a new car, maybe,
whatever your upgrade is that you're wanting or needing,
I believe God tonight is trying to encourage you
that heart change equals lasting change,
but it's a process.
We don't just go to bed and wake up and like,
ah, like it's here.
Now, sometimes, y'all, we get,
there's deliverance, there's breakthrough,
and yes, things are surprises and God sends things our way,
but you know what?
He's not going to send us something that will hurt us.
And some of you, I love you,
you think you're ready for a husband right now.
I love you enough to tell you that you're not,
you're not ready yet.
Maybe you'll be ready soon.
Some of you need a little bit more healing
than some other people, but it's worth it.
It's worth it if you walk into freedom,
it's worth it if you walk into like all the blessings
that God has for you.
So are you ready to believe in supernatural transformation?
Are you ready to partner with God in the journey
and then just keep taking imperfect action every day?
Y'all, that's what it is.
It's imperfect action.
We're not always going to know for sure
if it is 100% the way.
Do you know that the word of God says
that he will be the voice behind us
telling us the way to go?
But sometimes we struggle to know for sure,
is it my voice or his?
I don't know.
Y'all, I said I was never going to move.
I was not going to move away from my spiritual daughters.
I told Jackie that over and over and over.
And she lovingly kept coming back.
I think you need to consider this.
So when I first went on the dating apps,
I said I was going to, okay,
I'll look two and a half hour radius.
Because I figured here was what was going on in my head.
If it's two and a half hours, they'll move for me.
They'll move here.
They're going to, they'll do it.
If they like me enough, they'll move here.
And that is, I was, okay, I can drive two and a half hours.
We can probably make that work.
And I was kind of getting logical about it.
Two days later, the Lord and you all.
So I lived in Kentucky at the time.
And if you live in Kentucky,
I hope I don't offend you by this,
but I was getting some really crazy guys
showing up in my feed.
I mean, like crazy.
One dude had like pink, all pink, crazy.
I don't know.
I'm like, no, swipe, but saying all that to say, I'm like, I think I need to maybe broaden the search here.
And so I did genuinely pray about it and I felt like, okay, I think I can do four and a half hours.
And so something I said I would never do, I thought, okay, I think I can do four and a half hours.
I probably could still come see my girls all the time.
And all that, you know, and I started again, just trying to like, what could I really be able to do?
The day that I changed it to four and a half hours is the day that Brian reached out to me.
I know our story is very supernatural. It's not going to happen that way for everybody.
Okay, I wish that it would, but I know it's not going to because I, again, we coach people all the time.
Ours was very supernatural. He drove to Kentucky that Sunday to meet me for our first date.
He drove four and a half hours, drove home that night, and then he kept coming back every weekend and we kept going on dates.
All that to say this, as we were dating, when I met his mom for the first time, she was talking about his dad.
His dad had passed away a little under a year before I met Brian.
And I heard the Lord say, you know, she needs Brian right now.
She needed him to be there.
And I knew in that moment that I was going to be the one to move.
Excuse me. I was going to be the one to move.
And all of a sudden, it was okay on the inside.
Like, because I had a reason. Does that make sense, everyone?
And then, you know, I moved to Indiana to live closer to him so we could date more in person.
And then, you know what happens? He gets a new appointment as a pastor and he moves an hour away further.
I couldn't even believe it. I'm like, you gotta be joking me.
So then, thankfully it was only an hour, but then we're like driving back and forth again, all this stuff.
And now I'm in Indiana. I don't know anybody. My girls aren't there and all the things.
So the last thing I'm going to say, and I'm telling this story for a reason.
So then, you know, we get married. We live in little Tipton, Indiana.
This little teeny tiny town, which I thought I would never move to.
You all, I'm not city girl, city girl, but I like things being close.
And, you know, the grocery store was a half an hour away.
And so every time to go to the grocery store, I had to drive, you know, okay.
All these things that I said, I wouldn't do that. God led me into as a part of the process.
And now let's see back after we lived there two years, then God leads us to Florida.
Y'all I'm like, I don't know, 17 hours away from my girls.
I don't know if I would have been able to do that right from the get-go.
But what God did is he helped me take steps a little bit at a time to get to a place that we're at now.
And we're here together. Is it easy? No, it's not. Am I happy? Yes, I am.
I love my life. I love my husband. I love what we're doing for the Lord together.
And I'm so excited about what's to come.
And I do my best to keep the lines of communication open and go visit my girls as much as we can.
And you all, this is a part of walking the pathway out.
If God had asked me to move to Florida back then in the beginning, I think I probably would have really struggled with that.
And out of his goodness towards me and his love for me, he brought me at a pace that I could handle.
That's what I'm trying to say to you all.
So some of you all may not be able to comprehend what's in store in the days ahead, but God is good.
And he loves you and he wants to guide you and help you and bless your life.
Some of you, he might ask you to move many states away.
But if he asks you to do it, it's because he has something good in store.
I'm just planting seeds tonight. Just planting seeds.
Not to cause you to panic, but to help you understand that God is good.
God was a good father to me, and I get to live in the overflow of all of his blessings
now.
Again, it's not, everybody goes through hard things, you all, but man, it's good.
So I hope that your faith is getting encouraged tonight.
I hope that your heart is getting encouraged that God is good and he will come through.
I want you to also be asking yourself, where do I currently need an upgrade in my understanding
of God's care for me?
Because I'm sharing with you his goodness in my life, but where do you need him to upgrade
the understanding of his goodness and his care in your life?
All right, here's the breakout question for you all.
That question I just gave you, that's for you all to meditate on this week, the next
few weeks, and really lean into with the Lord, like, okay, do I believe that God cares
about me?
Do I believe that God has good things for me and that he's going to guide me lovingly
by the hand into those things?
Or do I believe that God is going to push me and force me, and he's going to make me
be in a relationship with someone I don't even think is handsome or cute, and the guy's
going to be mean, and whatever it is that we believe.
Those are the things you have to unpack in this process, all right?
Here's your question for the breakout session.
It's based on the broken promises that I started tonight with.
When was a time that someone broke a promise to you?
And how is that still affecting you today?
When was a time that someone broke a promise to you, and how is that still affecting you
today?
All right, let me get these rooms ready.
Oh, there we go.
I'm going to do three ladies to a room.
So remember to be short, brief, and powerful, ladies.
Let's see here.
Yeah, I'll do seven minutes.
So you'll have a little over two minutes.
So again, go short, brief, and powerful.
If you aren't wanting to go into a room, that's totally fine.
If you all get in there and someone's not there, just wait a minute.
I'll have to wait and watch people get in, and I'll move people around if I need to.
All right, that's up on the screen for you.
I'm praying for you all.
Quick those as quick as you can.
All right, I think I have two ladies in every room.
Awesome.
Thank you, Father, for everything you're doing tonight.
We thank you for good things that are coming, even if we don't recognize it or realize it.
God, I thank you that you would transform our hearts, our minds.
God, we thank you for upgrades in the supernatural realm.
God, we thank you that you...
Yes, Lord, you have storehouses of blessings that which we could not contain it.
God, I pray that you would help these ladies to not only have dreams, Lord, in the nighttime,
but have daydreams that you would stir up and stoke hope and joy and speak a little
full of glory in their lives, that you would start to help them to hear a new, yes, Lord,
that they would walk to the beat of a new drum.
Then no more would they follow the lies and the pathway of the enemy and the places that
he leads them into of doubt and fear and unbelief.
Yes, Lord, we bind and break every spirit of fear off of them because we know that fear
has to do with torment.
We thank you that we have a spirit of love and of power and of a sound mind that we walk
into the fullness of God's plans and promises for us.
God, we thank you that you are continuing to, yes, mature us into who you have called
us to be and equip us to be able to carry the blessings that you're about to give us.
God, we thank you for restoring all the broken and fallen places in our lives, Lord.
Yes, Lord.
Just like a street sometimes has potholes and man, it can just mess up a car.
God, I thank you that you're filling potholes tonight.
You're filling cracks.
God, we thank you.
You're paving new cement in places.
God, you're making new, you know, that rivers in the desert and the streams of God, set
it backwards.
Lord, we just thank you that you're just, you know exactly what you're doing.
You know how to create that new thing in our lives.
God.
Yes, Lord, where the enemy has stolen and taken things from us.
God, we thank you for restitution and all of those things that even like Job, God, that
he, when everything was restored to him, God, that he was given double back for everything
that he had lost.
God, we thank you for healing and truth and life.
We thank you for Romans 8, 28 and the passion translation that says, so we are convinced
that every detail of our lives is continually woven together to fit into God's perfect plan
of bringing good into our lives, for we are his lovers who have been called to fulfill
his designed purpose.
God, I thank you that even right now, just like a tapestry, you're like weaving all the
things together for good in our lives, Lord.
That you would take all the pain, all the mess, all the disruption, even sickness that
some have endured, losses, people that have been grieving God.
We ask you to heal hearts where there's been grief, where there's been weariness, where
there's been heaviness, where people have felt stuck.
God, we thank you that you would just remove barriers tonight in the spirit realm.
Yes, Lord.
I thank you that, um, I just even see like almost as if people are going to a library
and they're just looking, looking, looking, looking, and then they pull the book out and
it's like the right book at the right time.
God, I thank you for divine appointments, Lord.
Even in the healing process, God, even as I hear this, the videos and read the book
that it would be just these feelings constantly of, I'm here at the appointed right time.
I'm learning the thing I need to learn at the right moment to receive the right revelation
to receive the right breakthrough.
And God, I thank you that you are the great organizer and the dot connector that, you
know, everything we need at the right moment, God, and we just thank you that, um, you are
not withholding from us, God.
We thank you that you are sending forth your love towards us.
Thank you that you would help us to receive an upgrade in the revelation of your love
for us.
Yes, Lord.
Isaiah 61, three says to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes.
Lord, I thank you that you would help us to, um, receive your renewal in every area that's
needed where there's been, um, destruction in the past.
God, we thank you for that beauty.
Yes, Lord, we thank you that you had blanket us with your glory, with your love, with your
protection.
Thank you that you cover us when we make mistakes.
God, that your mercy is, is so prevalent.
It's so abundant towards us.
Just like we read and learn tonight about your unfailing love, Lord, it's just flowing.
Always towards us and for us, God, that you fight for us.
We thank you that you would just Lord, just yes, Lord, dispatch angels to war in our behalf.
Lord, when we don't know what to do, God, and we know that we can depend on you.
You are dependable.
Ooh, yes, Lord, where parents have not been dependable.
Maybe employers have not been dependable.
Maybe even we, at times we're not dependable for ourselves, Lord, I thank you that you
would heal those areas.
Yeah.
That you would take us into just truth that you are someone that we can depend on.
Lord, if people have blinders on because of pain, where the enemy has just put things
of not truth into their minds, God, we just thank you that you would just lift those blinders
off of their eyes and their minds tonight, that you would help them to receive an upgrade
in the understanding of you.
I just, I just keep seeing ladies.
He is dependable.
He's dependable.
He's not going to pull the rug out from under your feet.
He's not trying to trick you and deceive you.
Yes, Lord.
Just like a little kid runs to their daddy and I don't know if y'all have ever seen it,
but like when a kid just runs and they just plop on their dad and like, you know, to be
hugged or just cause they're playing or whatever.
And that dad receives them and it's just this really cool picture.
That's what I'm seeing in the spirit.
And so I want to encourage you ladies, just that, you know, to be like that, that we would
run and just be playful with the Lord and know that even in our hurt or excitement or
whatever that looks like, that he is there and he's not going to leave us.
He's not going to forsake us.
He declares it in his word.
So where the enemy still tries to convince us that the Lord has left us, forsaken us,
that he's pulling out when the stakes are high, that's what I just heard too.
That's not true.
He's all in.
He's all in even when the stakes are high. He's all in. He's cheering us on. He's celebrating.
The word declares that in Zephaniah, I think it's 317, you know, that he rejoices over us with singing.
He celebrates you, daughter. Yes, Lord, I thank you that you celebrate over us.
Thank you, Lord. Welcome back, ladies.
Zephaniah 317 came up right before y'all came back. If you don't know what that talks about,
it's a scripture that talks about the Lord rejoicing over us with singing and
maybe even dancing. It's been a while since I've read that scripture, and so I just want to give
that to y'all. Actually, I got a couple prophetic words and things, so y'all might want to go back
and listen to the replay at this point just for the few minutes if you don't want to listen to
the whole thing that you were in breakouts because there's some really good stuff.
The spirit of the Lord is sweet in this place tonight. I just hope that you all can sense it
that he loves you and he adores you, and so I hope those words are a blessing to you. Welcome back,
and before I forget your activation for this week, I will post it in the group,
so you will have that there, but it is the Never Will I Ever activation. Never Will I Ever list is
actually what we call it, and if you've already done one of these, you don't have to do it again.
Again, ladies, anybody that's been here and you've heard any of these activations before,
if you've already done them, you don't have to redo them. If you've heard it and you've never done it,
now's your time. Now's your time, but here's what it is. I'm going to give a brief explanation now,
but again, the more detailed explanation will be posted in the group.
Here is the statement. Never will I ever date blank because blank. Never will I ever date blank
because blank, and your goal is to fill in the blanks. Here's the thing. There are a lot of us
that we will have lists, very, very, very long lists of all the people that we won't date,
the things that they, if they have this and this and this and this and this and this and this,
I'm not even going to consider them, and you all, a lot of those things come out of trauma.
They come out of vows that we've made. They come out of us, you know,
not processing things in society, even society standards, family standards. Now, some of them
are just, hey, yeah, smart things, like I'm never going to date an addict. Well,
I hope you don't date an addict. Now, if they're a recovered addict, that's different.
What I'm talking about is someone who's currently abusing alcohol, drugs, or pornography. We would
not recommend that, okay? Maybe you'll say, these are the kind of things I'm saying you don't have
to say to us, okay? Never will I ever date someone who cheats. I hope you won't date someone who's a
cheating person, who that, that is their behavior, or that lies, or, you know, so what I'm looking
for, here's what I am looking for. Never will I ever date, these are some of them that we hear,
a man who's been divorced. We want to know where do you need healing? Where, where do you need
some help to process some things off of your list? What are your God non-negotiables? Like,
never will I ever date a man that doesn't love the Lord. That's a good one.
We want them to have a relationship with the Lord. We don't want you to be
in a relationship where there's no supernatural spiritual DNA. Here's some others. These are
examples that we would encourage you all to release some things to the Lord. Never will I
ever date a man that doesn't have any money. Now, do we want them to have a good job? Yes.
Do we want them to be able to work a job? Yes, but here's the thing. We want them to have money
saved to the best of their ability, but sometimes you all, depending on the story of what that
person has been through, they might have some debt. Now, what you would need to determine in
your healing process, is that something that you feel God is allowing you to take off your list?
For example, Brian fought for custody of his kids for a long time. That was expensive.
So, y'all, there's some debt there. There was some debt. He was paying on it. He was very faithful to
take care of that, but I want you to understand that sometimes we have things on our list that
might count somebody out that actually is really good with money, and they're really good people,
and so I want you to kind of think about those things. Here's some other ones.
Never will I ever date someone I'm not very sexually attracted to.
We have a lot of women that they just want to feel the heat.
Y'all know it.
You know, some of y'all, that's how,
you just want to feel the butterflies
in that intense connection.
That's how we have people describe it to us.
I'm not making fun of that.
I used to feel that way.
But y'all, here's the truth.
That is lust.
That's not healthy connection or attraction.
If you gotta have all the hot feelings,
that's actually a signal that you need some healing there.
All right.
Never will I ever date someone
that is a pastor or in ministry.
And typically, a lot of people that will say that
are people that have been pastor's kids
or people that have been hurt in ministry
or things like that.
Here's some more.
Never will I ever date someone
that's been in the military, police officers.
Never will I ever date someone with the name John
or Larry or Mike.
Why do we do that?
Well, because somebody that we dated
or something that happened to us
was by someone with one of those names.
For example, my oldest brother,
who was my main offender in the sexual abuse,
his name is Brian.
Did y'all make that connection yet?
My husband's name is Brian.
When I first met him, I remember talking to the Lord,
and Brian knows this now,
but I literally was like,
Lord, you couldn't have given him any other name.
Why does his name have to be Brian?
And you know what God said to me?
He said, I wanna redeem the name Brian for you.
So, just putting that out there,
some of you all maybe have passed over really good people
because they have a name that reminds you
of someone who did something hurtful to you or your family.
Okay, here's one more.
Never will I ever date someone of a certain age
because your ex was a certain age,
or you know, and we don't recommend massive gaps, you all.
Okay, we don't want you all being cougars
for the ladies that are older.
You know, we don't encourage men
to go after really young women.
So, same thing on the ladies.
We have some ladies that, I mean, that's their goal,
and so we don't recommend that, all right?
Okay, so I'm gonna open it up for coaching here in a minute,
but go ahead and do those lists, post them in the group.
Don't get nervous.
We want you to be honest, okay?
Honesty is what's gonna help us know how to coach you
and help you get more breakthrough,
because some of you all don't even know
what your blind spots are,
and these are gonna be things
that are gonna reveal some of that for you.
All right, so I saw Glenna's hand go up.
I see a couple of people up already.
So Glenna, I saw yours go first, so go ahead.
Okay, well, first of all,
I wanna thank you for everything that you've said so far.
It was- Oh, my pleasure.
It was a good word in due season,
and just to encourage me,
because I've been on here a while,
and I'm almost ready to go to phase two,
but so I guess the broken promise for me
was as a child, after my parents got divorced,
of my dad would say he was coming to get me,
to visit me, and he didn't show up,
and I'd sit on the porch for hours
on Saturday morning waiting,
and sometimes when he did come,
my mom was mad at him
because he didn't pay the child support,
so they would get in a big argument,
and then he would get in his car and take off
and not take me.
So, but you know what?
God redeemed that relationship right before he passed away,
about three years,
and I actually was able to lead him to the Lord,
so that was good,
but you know, all those years,
you know, I have struggled just,
you know, really,
well, I really state the word
and how much God, my father, loves me, you know?
So, yeah, so that's,
that was the broken promise there, you know?
So, I think I still have a little bit of,
I guess, fear of stepping out and going on dates
because I don't like rejection,
that it's that fear of rejection,
so I have to work on it all the time, you know,
and say a lot of,
you know, a lot of things,
like every day say,
I'm chosen, I am forgiven,
I'm favored, I'm anointed,
I am God's, I am the daughter of the most high God,
I, you know, constantly have to reconfirm that, so.
Yeah, and keep in mind, ladies,
this is really important,
sometimes what we consider a rejection.
action is actually redirection. It's us being God defended, God
defended and God redirecting us to that the person, you know,
one step closer towards the Spirit made he has for us. And
so it's interesting, I figured on the fear, like fears regarding
rejection, because I know you and I've chatted about that a
little bit more. But I also was going to just say to you, and
really ask you, do you ever have because of this thing with your
dad, and I know you mentioned that, I think before, but I feel
like something came up in my spirit a little bit differently
tonight. Do you ever struggle with even friends like that say
they're going to do something and then like, they don't follow
through or other people like if they're like late to pick you
up? Do you? Does that ever trigger you?
Yes, it does. And I have to talk myself, you know, when it
triggers me, I have to say, No, they love me, they care about
me, they've invested time in me, I've invested time in them. This
is just a one off, I have to talk to myself.
Okay. All right. So keep doing that. Because it's gonna, it's
gonna continue to help you come out of that more and more. But
you want to continue to get to even though it is this stuff
with your dad, let's just make sure there's nothing else. And
you don't have to wait to move forward. But like, even as you
keep moving forward, let's make sure there's not any other like
residual, if you will, effects from you know, dad not coming to
get you or leaving and not taking you or if there's any
other things even before that, that you know, the again, the
Lord knows what needs healed. And so if there is any kind of
what I what I keep hearing is like residual, if you will, from
that, yeah, you'll that too, because you don't, you know, you
don't want to constantly always struggle every time like
something doesn't go the way it was supposed to go. Um, but even
in relationship, you know, Jackie talks about this a lot,
hurt and community healed and community hurt and relationship
healed in relationship. There are some things that I healed
after I got into relationship with Brian, like even still now
I think I've told you guys that, you know, we're almost four
years into marriage, and there's things that are still
healing in me from things I've been through before. The more
that Brian shows me he's trustworthy, the more that he's
loving, or the more that like, you know, I was always afraid of
arguing in my house, because people hit each other in my
house. And I was the peacemaker. And I was always trying to, you
know, keep them from fighting. And so even if Brian and I have
a little argument, sometimes I go into like, you know, we're
not okay, like in all these things. And and that's not
what's real. That's not real. It's just that I have to kind of
slow the roll of my triggered fleshly thoughts, and really
partner with Okay, Lord, what are you saying?
Yeah, I do notice that when I am, like at a really busy
weekend, and today at work was just a struggle with a lot of
different things. Because one of the things I'm in a very male
dominated industry, I own a home building business. And, you
know, and I'm constantly meeting with older men that are kind of
set in their ways. And sometimes I feel like, oh, you know,
they're not going to choose me because I'm a female, you know,
and, and this program has really helped me. I've come a long way,
but I still have a way to travel.
Yeah, we all do. We all do really. And so just keep going.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other, you're doing
great. And I love what you shared. And I mean, you even
just as you were explaining, had a lot of awareness and a lot I
could just sense a lot of growth in this. So Glenna, just keep
going. You're doing a great job.
Well, thank you to you and Jackie and Candy and everybody.
It's just, yeah, it's, it's a great program. So thank you so
much. We're so glad. Yep. What the lady that gave me my book,
she got married a year ago, she just celebrated her one year
anniversary. And Beth is her name. And she's so happy. And,
and, and that was got a place in my heart about getting married
again. I thought that's silly. And I came into my office and
the book was laying on my desk with a little note that said
from Beth, come and talk to me because her office is upstairs.
And yeah, so it's been great. Thank you.
You're welcome. Thank you for sharing. Catherine, go ahead.
Mine was, um, I mean, it, it still even affects me, even
when I'm just like listening to a sermon.
because mine is my one and only marriage
that failed and ended in divorce
because my ex obviously broke his marriage vows.
And yes, there was adultery involved.
He cheated on me.
So I was not expecting on Palm Sunday to walk in.
Looking back on it, I wish I could have been with my dad.
He was subbing two more sermons for Palm Sunday and Easter.
But I understand the reasoning.
I'm gonna join him on the 12th
when we have our own family church now.
But definitely was wishing I was with him
when this whole thing went down
because I've heard this preached before
from the Sermon on the Mount about divorce and adultery,
but it just felt like not like this.
Not like this.
I really felt horrible about myself.
It really just triggered me.
It really just, I guess, however way it was presented.
I certainly feel like a lot of it was like Satan
coming through and throwing things at me.
There was also the piece too
that I know the pastor at the beginning said,
I've never been through a divorce.
And I know I kind of was like mouthing to myself,
you don't want to.
And then towards the end, he said,
and to all of you who are still married,
thank you for staying married.
That's when I lost it towards the end.
I was crying hysterically on a sister in Christ's shoulders.
I was constantly, I want my dad.
I want my dad, like I want him to be my pastor.
Like it was all coming out.
I mean, I already knew it was a done deal.
The church was being given to my dad.
He got the job.
I was gonna be under him.
I was gonna be doing children's and youth ministry with him.
It all came out.
But just the way I went to that church on a Sunday
for the last time,
because I knew it was gonna be on Long Island for Easter,
that was not the way I wanted it to go down.
And it just really brought me to a whole other level.
Well, I'm really sorry that happened.
I will say, I think, I really want to encourage you
because I know that it can be tough,
that that was not what you wanted
and that that's what happened in your life.
And it can come to the place though, Catherine,
where I noticed that most of your comments
center around that happening to you, okay?
Like even in live chats,
like, and I know it can be tough
to not be upset about that still.
I'm not asking you to not care,
but I feel like it's just coming to a point
where I really want to encourage you
to resolve this within yourself.
This doesn't define you.
Divorce does not define you.
No matter what, how the enemy wants to spin
what someone is saying, whether from the pulpit
or even in a one-on-one conversation,
that you would not feel like you're less than
because you've now been divorced.
What happened in your marriage is unfortunate,
but what can happen in the future
is you can learn how to marry someone super healthy.
You can be healthy, they can be healthy.
You can build a strong marriage together.
You can allow your story to be rewritten.
Is it the story you would have chosen?
Maybe not.
I wouldn't have chosen to go through a divorce either,
but I did choose divorce
because of the abusive environment I was in.
And people, you know, I've met people before
where they will ask, well, did they cheat on you?
Well, no, he didn't officially.
I didn't catch him,
but there were nights he didn't come home at all.
But I don't have to defend myself to people.
And so that's why I want to say that to you.
Back in the day, I used to feel like
I had to defend myself all the time,
or I had to tell people why I was divorced.
And I don't think that God requires that of us.
And so I want to encourage you
to just really work on releasing that.
You can't go back and change that, okay?
That is, it's done, it's happened.
But what you can change is what's going forward.
And you can step further into everything God has for you.
You know, sometimes, unfortunately,
even the best people say stuff
that just isn't healthy or good.
And so I want to encourage you to forgive the pastor
for what he said that was hurtful.
And just keep, yeah, just keep moving forward.
You're here, you're doing the work.
You know, good things can continue to happen,
but I do feel like you really releasing your ex
and releasing kind of the, almost what I hear in my spirit,
it's almost like you've kind of partnered.
with an indictment on your life because of this.
And that word specifically, indictment. And you know an indictment is like when
they make a, like in the court, like people are
indicted in the court systems. And that's not how God views you.
All right? So keep stepping forward, keep doing the work, because it's going to
end up working for you. God's got you and he's going to help you
step out of, you know, feeling like you're less than
because of all this. He'll help you.
I definitely needed to hear that and I've even felt God say
because I do make it, make me feel like I'm less than.
But then God has literally pointed out you to me,
Jackie, there's my dad, I know there's my mom,
you all have been through a divorce. But I see you guys as
overcomers, amazing, strong in Christ. And I feel like God was highlighting all
of you for a reason. Well, that's me too.
And I shouldn't talk to myself or think to myself any less,
just like I don't think of any of you guys as less. So
and I also think being under my dad's pastorship is
definitely, definitely going to help. And as for the going forward,
I think my dad and I can both agree, well, we at least don't want me going
through a second divorce. But that's why I'm here and that one I
can control. But that's why I'm here. Yes, well, we do our best. We, you know,
obviously, we can't control other people. Okay, so of course the goal would be to
have a healthy marriage and not go through divorce again. But
just really surrendering all of the process of your life to him.
I do want to remind you too, it probably would be good for you to go back and
re-listen to the divorce and remarriage session if you've already listened to it.
Just to kind of cleanse yourself from any kind of ick or anything that might
still be on you from hearing some of that stuff from Sunday.
All right, awesome. Thank you so much for sharing. Appreciate you. Wendy, go ahead.
Oh, you're muted.
I guess I've not kept promises to myself.
That just came in my spirit. You know, I always talk about my sister and my
dad and my mom not keeping their promises.
But I need to make more of my promises to myself.
I love it. I love that for you. I love that for everyone.
100%. We tend to break promises all the time to ourselves.
Even people don't realize, like if we say,
and I do this sometimes still, and I still am working on this because
the little things add up to bigger things. So
if we say we're going to go work out and then we don't do it.
And we keep doing that where we say, I'm going to do it, I'm going to do it,
and then we don't. Or maybe it's something different. Maybe
it's I'm going to start eating healthy and then we just keep
not eating healthy. Like those are breaking small promises to ourselves
when we do them. And so the more that we break the small
promises to ourselves, the easier it is to break the big
promises to ourselves. And so is there anything in particular
recently where that comes to mind where you broke a
promise to yourself?
Oh, like in the working out and the eating right.
Okay. Well, so what I would encourage you to do
is ask the Lord, you know, what are some things.
And try not to do too many at once because that's where we kind of
shoot ourselves in the foot a little bit as we try to take on too many changes at
one time. But I would encourage you to to really pray about what's one thing
that God wants you to work on. And then kind of keep short
accounts with yourself. So give yourself a short goal and then
follow through on that. And then make another little short goal
and follow through on that. So maybe it's, you know,
what I've been doing is I've been walking two to three days a week
just to start getting myself back into the flow of adding exercise and working
out back into my life. And that is helping me gain momentum.
And then I'm going to start upping it to, you know, more to four to five days.
I used to walk seven days a week and work out way back.
And so that's what I'm trying to get back to. But I have to gain momentum
and then that's what creates myself to get encouraged.
So we'll be praying for you about that and would love for you to come in and
tell us how that's going in the group for sure.
Sure. Thank you for sharing. That was awesome.
Thanks. Chrissy, go ahead.
Okay. Just what came to mind, I was listening to somebody in my group. For the first time
this weekend, I kind of had a meltdown and I felt a little betrayed, but it was towards
God. And then just listening to what she said, breaking my own promises. And I kind of feel
like that's probably in there too. But I guess the betrayal, I don't even know if that's
really what it was, but that's, that's how I felt in the moment when I was yelling, getting
angry. I think I still have a hard time with this, like accepting that that is still a
thing for me, like getting married. I don't know whether I'll have children or not. And
I don't know. So, yeah. I've been thinking about that all week, actually.
So what I hear you saying, a couple things is A, that feeling betrayed by God. So I want to talk
about that for a sec, but that you still aren't quite sure that God has marriage and potentially
a family for you. Is that what you're saying?
Yes.
Yeah. Okay. So what if you just choose to partner with it tonight, that God has a marriage and
family for you. And then by choosing to partner with that, that is going to start helping your
faith to grow in that direction.
See, okay. This is, this is where you're going to have to make a decision that do you want this or
not? And if you want it, then God wants you to move towards it. And part of moving towards it is
to start believing for it. But I want you to look at underlying, why do you think that you struggle
Because I believed it for so long. That was all I ever wanted. I, there was nothing else I ever, I
didn't dream of being a CEO. I didn't dream of having a being a ballerina, being a firefighter.
I didn't, I didn't dream of being a lawyer. I didn't dream of being a lawyer. I didn't dream of
ever. I didn't dream of being a CEO. I didn't dream of having a being a ballerina, being a
firefighter. I didn't. None of that. I only ever dreamed of being married and having a family and
loving them. That's all.
Would you say it's a fear of being let down?
Yes.
Okay. So let's connect it to this feeling betrayed by God. Tell me more about that. What did it make
you think of? Like, was there a time that came to the surface that like, connected in your spirit to
how you felt this weekend?
I think because I think there was two, it was two times, but in one, I don't know how to describe
that. But, um, I, when I moved back to Orlando at the end of 2009, um, I started having dreams. And
this one person kept, like, kept coming up in my dreams, kept coming up in my dreams. And
eventually somebody said more than one, somebody said, Oh, maybe that's the person you're supposed
to marry. And that's why it keeps coming up. And I was like, no, I don't think that's true. But the
more I felt like, I was like, Oh, we're very compatible. And I wrapped myself around that. And
and then he wasn't. And now he's gay and married his husband. Um, and at the same time, there was
something that happened when I woke up in the middle of the night that I, I don't think I've
ever shared here. And I don't think I've ever shared it much with anybody. Um, I woke up in the
middle of the night, I sat up in bed, and somebody handed me a baby. And I still
to this day can remember this baby's face and the way he smelled and the way he sounded.
And then I knew I was like, Oh, this is mine. So I have to give him a name and I did. And
then I was handed another baby and I can remember her too, but I didn't give her a name. And
then I just, after everything crumbled and I felt like it was like ripped out of me because
I had attached myself so closely, I don't allow myself to even think about it. So I
want to be hopeful, but at the same time, I am guarding myself from being hurt again.
Um, so let me ask you this. Have you forgiven yourself for getting really wrapped up about
this guy?
Think you probably should. Here's a couple things to, um, not that the people necessarily
did something wrong by encouraging you or saying something to you like, do you think
he's your husband? I don't think people have bad intentions, right? But I think because
on some level, I hear you saying you felt betrayed by God. And when I asked you, okay,
what is that linked to? This was where it led you. And so on some level, I feel like,
you know, it's almost like you believe God betrayed you by giving you the dreams. And
because these people were then sent to say, do you think that this is, this might be maybe
who you're going to marry, you know, so forgiving those people, even though God didn't do
anything wrong, either forgiving God, you know, forgiving yourself regarding this whole
dream where it started, that whole thing. And, um, and then allowing yourself, you know,
because it subconsciously happens, we don't mean to get wrapped up in people. When I first
started dating, even though I was awake, okay, I was awake when this happened. When I first
started dating the girl's dad. Um, I remember the first time he drove me to see his house. I
got so excited because he had a house. Because I hadn't dated someone before that had a
house. And his house actually looked nice on the outside. And so then in my mind, I
started exaggerating and fantasizing, if you will, about how my life would be with him. And
how we would have the family. And especially once I met his daughters, then it was all
over. Because all I could think about was how we were going to be this family. And I
imagined all these trips we would go on and, and my mind just went, like, ran away with
me. Um, you know, the side of my street that I had to own is I was spending a lot of time
allowing my mind to go in all those directions. Instead of really working on controlling my
mind, and you know, having self control and what I was thinking about. And so forgiving
myself for that stuff. Because the reality of it is that when the red flags were presenting
themselves, I was so caught up in the fantasy that I blew past the red flags. And that
fantasy never came to fruition. But I just kept going for six years. That's still crazy
to me to say it out loud. But I believed that the guy that showed himself in the first
two weeks was somebody that was real. He was a real person, but he was not being a real
person. He was being somewhat imposter. He was acting in a way that was not really who
he was. So this guy may also have been doing that on some level. I don't know what all
led you to kind of get real caught up in that. But I will say this. Here's another
thing that I think will help you in the days to come. Sometimes we will have dreams with
certain people in them because of certain characteristics that they have. And it doesn't
necessarily mean we're going to marry those people. But we may marry someone that has
those kind of characteristics because we like those things about those people. And
sometimes, here's the other side of it, sometimes the enemy will insert people into our dreams.
And so it's really important for us to pray about why
someone is showing up in our dreams and let God show us why they are in our
dreams. Okay and so that's hopefully will be helpful for you but I think in order
for your hope to grow Chrissy regarding being married and having a family I
think forgiving yourself for getting wrapped up in that and just seeing where
else kind of that will lead you I think that'll be a really good first step but
also um you know that dream about the babies it doesn't mean that it's not
true God can give you babies all kinds of ways
okay it doesn't always mean it's a bio baby maybe it will be but it could come
a different way and so there's a saying is scarce do I hope something I forget
the full saying but some people we don't want to hope because we're so afraid
that it's just never gonna happen but if you keep partnering with it's never
gonna happen then it's never gonna happen but if you start to partner with
God I want to believe help my unbelief just start there and let's see where
that unfolds for you as well all right but I think forgiving yourself for that
situation is is a game-changer because you've been here for a little bit and
you've never talked about that like you said tonight so I feel like that's
really important revealing for healing yeah you're welcome you're welcome so I
do have three more ladies I am gonna let them share but if y'all need to log
off we are at 932 I try to always be kind of true to the time so God bless
you if you need to hop off but I do want to hear from Tatiana Aylin and Peggy
and we'll do our best to be short brief and powerful don't feel rushed ladies
but I just want to let everybody know I probably need to be done no later than
945 tonight just to kind of keep everybody on the same page all right
Tatiana go ahead okay hi right hello um okay so this kind of came up as you
were first talking and then I tried it related to the other question but there
was a situation ship I had this was I've like talked about one in the group a few
times and this is not the same guy this one was my freshman year of high school
and when you said like a promise that was broken I just it's been coming up a
lot for me lately but when I say like if I tell somebody outside of my family I
love you like I mean it cuz I never do that like ever ever ever and like I made
that evident to this guy and I feel like my heart was in a really good place with
God at the time like it was very tender and it was just a really beautiful time
for me in my walk with God and I fell head over heels for this guy and he
ended up telling me like that he loved me and then I kept praying about it and
it was kind of a similar thing to what the last person was sharing like
somebody told me like oh you guys are gonna get married and so I was like oh
like I was in love and and then yeah God was just like girl no no no like over
and over and so it didn't work out and yet when he left me even though like I
knew it wasn't for me like when he left it hurt so bad and I just felt a lot of
rejection and that is kind of just the main thing that came up for me today and
oh I had a dream about him the other night like two nights ago and I was like
what the heck cuz like I don't even be thinking about him like that but one
thing that has been on my heart is like he's the first person that I ever feel
like I did love and he like felt like my first heartbreak and recently he's
he's not doing good he's been getting in a lot of trouble with the police and I
don't know what he did last time but my friend she was like that it was really
bad and she didn't even want to tell me and I hate that I still care and I hate
that it still makes me upset and I just want to like fully let that go yeah well
I will say this I think the reason you had a dream about him two nights ago is
because God was stirring this this up in your heart in your life so that you could
heal a little
bit more from it. Um, and then you're feeling led to talk about
it tonight, which I think is really good so that you can kind
of process it out and release that and let it go. And, you
know, just as a reminder, ladies, soul ties aren't just
sexual, okay, soul ties are can be emotional soul ties that we
connect with people. And, you know, sometimes it can just come
like, as you're saying a first love, and you get really like
connected into, you know, into them. And again, that
fantasizing about how your life is going to be, even the fantasy
thinking you all can cause us to create kind of these soul ties
and these bonds with people that we don't even have to have,
again, that physical connection to create. And so I would
encourage you just to, you know, just be in prayer about any any
connection to him that the Lord might want you if you have
anything still like, you know, I don't put a lot of weight into
this stuff. But there are times where I think that when we still
have things that are connected to those people, you know, some
people could be a sweatshirt, it could be notes that they gave
them, or, you know, a teddy bear. And some people still
sleep with that, you know, like, I know this sounds silly, but
like people still wear the sweatshirts or, you know, and
it's just not healthy for us to always carry that stuff into the
future with us. And so you might just want to be in prayer about
like, if there's anything you need to get rid of that's
connected to him. And I don't think to put a lot of weight
into that, again, but just to be prayerful and kind of
lighthearted about if the Lord shows you something, then cool,
if not, it's no big deal. But I do think like, you know, just if
he, like when he broke up with you, you may need to forgive him
for whatever kind of took place during that time. And because
you said you felt rejected, even though you knew it was the right
thing. There might just be a little bit of forgiveness to do
regarding, you know, that breakup or anything that might
have happened around that. But I think it's, you know, I will say
that if I, I remember my first high school boyfriend, the
person I loved for the first time, when I heard he was an
atheist, it broke my heart. It really did. And so I think it's
normal for us to care about people that we, you know, was
especially a first love. But I think it's how deeply we allow
ourself to be impacted by that. That's what we need to be
careful about. And part of you continuing to grow even as a
young lady is you growing and, and knowing that it's okay that
love to, you know, even when we love people, it doesn't always
work out. And that's okay. And so yeah, just forgiving him for
that breakup and giving yourself permission to keep moving
forward and not get too entangled in that dynamic. And
if a friend brings him up, I would encourage you actually
just to say, you know what, if you can just actually not
mention him to me anymore, that would be really helpful for me.
Because I've had to do that with people in the past, like
especially when I when things happen with my ex husband, I
actually asked friends and people to stop telling me
things because he was, I mean, he was losing it, you all he was
doing a lot of really bad things. And it wasn't good for
me to hear about him at all. And so I just didn't want to, I
didn't want to be connected to him. I didn't want to hear about
what he was doing, what he was saying. And even at one point, a
woman that he was in relationship with this was before
I met Brian, but reached out to me basically asking me things
about him. And I just did not feel led to respond to her. You
know, I just I prayed about it. And I didn't feel like it was my
responsibility to protect her. That was between her and him to
make that decision. So anyways, just putting those out there for
you or anybody else regarding people like just sometimes it's
just really good for us to set boundaries with friends that
keep updating us about those people and just really cut ties
completely regarding them.
Yeah, yeah. Okay. All right. I do have something that I feel I
got highlighted to me to get rid of.
What came to mind? Do you want to tell us?
Oh, the first time he got in like, big trouble when I heard
about it. It was crazy. Like they thought he they thought he
killed somebody. And it was all over the news. And so I was so
upset. So I wrote him a letter, but I never sent it. Okay. And I
feel like getting rid of that letter. Like,
yeah, I think you need to burn it. Actually, if you can have a
safe place to burn it. I think it's time. It's time to look.
Yeah, way to
Oh, I'm so proud of you. Thank you for sharing with us. Yeah.
Aylin, go ahead.
Hi. Hi. Um, so I guess I can't like say one specific promise
that was broken. So it was a lot of promises. My mom had been
engaged to by my biological father. And so he first out of
the right out of the gates said no, we're not his children, me
and my brother. And then eventually, he got a DNA test
and all that stuff. But when I was younger, it was not like a
court agreement, per se. But he was supposed to see us so many
days a week, every other week or something like that. But he only
really wanted to see us when it came to holidays, and summer
vacation. And so for a long time, I felt abandoned and not
cared for. And I am still working on the forgiveness part.
I'm actually, I reached out back to him because I had moved back
home. And God was telling me, hey, you got to reach out to
him. And I kind of postponed it and God kept bringing it up to
my heart. And then he ended up responding back. I haven't set a
time or day or anything for us to meet yet. This is all fairly,
fairly new. But I think that it's obviously still, to me
anyways, it's still affecting me in feeling loved by my
biological father, by my dad, who, my mom married him when I
was four. And then I adopted, I got adopted by him when I turned
18 and changed my name and everything. But also by God.
Because I always tried to, like, earn love. And I kind of kept
reaching for something that I couldn't attain by doing things.
So yeah, I guess that, yeah.
You're doing great. This is really, really good. I can tell
it's very fresh for you. And that there's a lot of emotion
behind it. And that's totally okay. Just so you know, it's
okay to feel the emotion that you feel. And I think it's
important for you to hear that tonight. And it might take a
while for that emotion and that kind of the pain that at least
I'm what I feel like I'm hearing as you're talking that pain that
rises to the surface when you talk about it. It might take a
little while for that to go away. It sounds like there's a
lot of depth of healing that needs to happen. And I just want
to encourage you, you know, trust God's timing on the
connection with him. Because if you're not ready yet, it could
traumatize you more. Because if you go in with an expectation
of him on any level, and he doesn't meet that expectation.
Again, I'm not saying don't meet with him. But just, you know, be
really prayerful about the timing of that for yourself. And
if something does happen, you can absolutely get coaching, you
know, in the group or whatever. But I just want you to be
careful with your heart. Because I can tell like, there's just a
lot of a lot of sensitivity and pain there. And in, you know,
in the abandonment, you know, anytime, it's really tricky, you
know, even though you had a dad that your mom ended up marrying
and you know, he adopted you, you changed your name, you know,
the reality is, is that we're always going to long for our
bio parents to love us to choose us to pursue us. And
that's real. That's real. Um, but really allowing yourself to
get to the root of what causes you to try to earn people's
love. I heard someone talking, and Peggy, just so you know,
we'll, we'll have time for you. Okay. And someone sharing the
other day, that he still often feels like he has to earn like,
you know, he needs to do things to earn God's love. And, you
know, and even that
broke my heart. Like I know sometimes I've done that too,
but like the reality is, is we don't have to do anything to
earn God's love. And so we need to choose to partner with like,
we choose to do things in relationship, and it does
cultivate love. But the reality is, is that people choose to
love us. Okay, it's a choice to love someone, little guy. And
yeah, um, you know, just really that we're careful about
partnering with that I have to earn, I have to perform, I have
to be the cool girlfriend. I think I've told you guys that
those stories before I have to act a certain way, look a
certain way, or nobody's gonna love me. And that comes from a
place of again, the abandonment ones, but it also comes from a
place of not knowing our value and our identity in the Lord.
And so the more that you continue to grow in that, you
know, those understandings, that's going to help you a lot
too. It'll help you grow in confidence, everything. And so
even reading, not that I want you to do it now, but I would
encourage you when you're done with the heart work. There is a
book by Joyce Meyer called The Confident Woman. I would
encourage you to read that. I think that will be really
helpful for you. Um, I just think that some of the tools
that she goes through in there can will like just seeing it and
writing and being able to kind of look and pray into some of
those things. But again, that is an urgent, there's no rush on
that we want you to stay focused on the heart work first. But
that that book came to mind as I was talking to you. Um, but
you're doing the right thing. You're sharing and you're
healing. And you know, you're stepping further into like
choosing to forgive. And that's that's what counts. You're doing
a great job. Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome. It takes time
ladies for our hearts to heal. It does. And God will help us
kind of know what that timeline looks like. So just give
yourself lots of grace and love in all of the things. Peggy,
you're up. Thanks for sharing Ailyn. Oh, you're muted. Okay,
there you go.
All right. Um, I just wanted to share. I'll share what I shared
with the group was, after my husband died, and it's been
three years and five months ago that he died. Um, my one of my
sons said, he made a promise to me that I'll go to camp meeting
with you. That was the trip that my husband and I would take for
Easter. Sometimes it wasn't every year, but it was a special
time that we would do together. And so he broke that promise. I
knew it was gonna break it. And he's broken a number of
promises to me. But I've forgiven him. And this year, I
took myself to Easter camp meeting. I left last Thursday,
and I came home today. And it was just a wonderful, wonderful
time in the Lord. I felt so encouraged in the Lord. And
yeah, and and so many of the things that were said in the
messages tied in with what I'm hearing on last year's single
from Jackie. And as you do hard work with us, so I'm feeling
more encouraged that God is moving me along and I'm going to
be okay.
You are gonna be okay. And I love that you said this year.
This year, I took myself. Yeah. And y'all, of course we want to
we want to enjoy things with people. But man, that is a
powerful statement. When I when I went through the hard work, I
hadn't traveled in for ever. Unfortunately, my first husband,
we went on one trip, we went on our honeymoon. And well, yeah,
two trips, we went on our honeymoon in California, we were
married for 12 years, we only went on two little trips. And
then which some people never go on any, so I'm grateful that I
went on those. But I love to travel, I love to see new
places. And then when I was with the girls, that hardly any
trips there either.
And so, um, you know, when I met Brian, that has been one of the funnest things we, we go, we travel, we go explore new places, even if it's a new coffee shop, you know, a couple of towns over, like, just, we just have fun.
And I'm saying that to say this, that I, I realized before I met Brian, um, when I was in the heart work and in the healing process for myself, that I needed to take some trips on my own.
And really kind of stir that back up in my life.
Um, and I really believe because I did that, I went on several trips by myself that that was a part of me getting prepared to receive Brian because he loves to travel.
And if I had still been shut down in that way, I don't know if we would have connected as much, you know?
And so just, I, I celebrate you for taking the step to do that, for stepping out and courage and trusting God.
And look at how God showed up.
And I think that's awesome.
And I hope more of you ladies will pray about like places that you need to go and you need to explore and you need to have fun and things like that.
Even they don't all have to cost money.
Some of it's just, I remember one day getting in my car and I just felt like God wanted me to go somewhere with him.
And I just started driving you all.
And I ended up in this cute little town.
This was in Indiana, this cute little town.
And there was, I think I might even talked about it on here once before.
And there was this like cute little park that had this water, like was the waterfall and little stream.
And I just spent the afternoon there and it would just filled my cup so much.
And so I would encourage you all to do those kinds of things.
You took yourself kind of on a really important trip.
Some of y'all are going to feel led.
You know, you need to take yourself on a movie date or a dinner date or whatever.
So that, because how we treat ourselves is how we're going to let other people treat us.
Okay.
All right.
So yeah, Peggy, I love that.
And even processing that, in my opinion, because you used to go there with your husband.
I think going on your own and having a good experience is probably another whole layer of healing.
And it is my guess regarding, you know, the loss of your former husband.
So way to go.
I hope to hear more fun things that you're going to do and go see.
And so would love to hear more updates from you in the future on that for sure.
Sorry.
I saw a little message come in from Lisa.
Yeah.
Lisa, when you didn't put your hand up, I'm sorry.
I didn't know if you wanted to go tonight.
And so we can absolutely do that next week because I do need to close us up for tonight.
And then maybe if you can do me a little favor, just because it has been so long,
if you can put a post in the group and just tag me.
I do see those.
I do see those happening now when people are tagging me.
It has to be in the original post, and then I see it.
And if you put that up, I will definitely, you know, whether it's tonight or tomorrow, I can go and look at it.
But just it doesn't have to be a lot of detail, but just remind me of where we left the conversation off so that I'm not kind of flying blind next week on that.
All right.
And thanks for letting me know.
Thanks for letting me know I need to raise my hand.
I didn't realize that.
Sorry.
I just I thought I said that last week.
And so when you didn't, I didn't know if you changed your mind and I didn't want to put you on the spot.
Yes.
So I just assumed that we were going to.
So that's yeah.
No problem.
Just miscommunication.
All right.
Yeah.
So go ahead.
Next week when I open up for group coaching, raise your hand and then we'll do that.
But if you can do that group post, like I said, that will help me a lot just because it has been a little while.
And I want to make sure we kind of pick up where we left off.
All right.
Awesome.
Well, ladies, let me pray us out.
Father, thank you so much for everything that you've done.
We celebrate you, God, for who you are.
Jesus, thank you again for going to the cross for us.
God, thank you for rising Jesus from the dead and sending the Holy Spirit so that we have a comforter, a counselor, a guide that helps us in every moment.
We thank you for breakthrough and healing.
That is going to happen more and more and more.
One on the heels after another.
In the days ahead, God, we thank you that you have a plan and a purpose for every one of these ladies.
We thank you that they will not fear.
They will not be afraid.
They will walk in the fullness of your love and your grace and your mercy for them more in the days to come.
In Jesus name.
Amen.
God bless you all.
Have a great night, everyone.
Bye bye.