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hello everybody
hello hey hey looks looks really nice over there Gabi yeah oh my gosh we're
like it we got really hot a couple weeks ago and it's like the high today
is like yesterday it was like cloudy all day like 85 which was amazing today it's
sunny and it's a high but right now in the shade it's like amazing that's
amazing well it's snowed here overnight so
how I'm feeling today I want to go to the office because I was like I'm not
leaving my house it's not supposed to snow on the 7th of April I'm done that
is wild yeah it's melting because the sun's warm but it's cold out so it's
like sticking around for now yeah yeah well that's a cool mug whoa whoa I love
that yeah it almost looks like a water pitcher or something it's huge too
I have a vitamin drink in it because I hold lots of stuff yeah yeah it's um it
dropped into the 30s overnight here and it was just in the 60s which is really
nice for Ohio around this time so oh it's just deceiving because I was gonna
go I was gonna go to the 645 a.m. CrossFit but I was like skirt no I'm not
running outside in 30 degrees I'll just I'm gonna go in a couple hours where
it's like 45 degrees so yeah cool well Gabby did you do we want to do the book
first and then a check-in yeah sorry I'm sorry I'm trying to set up the live
stream yeah my brain is know it I just I saw it go so so well we've got care
what I said oh good it's working yeah it's working yeah okay Carrie and Margo
did you all listen to or read the first portion of the book where's my cheese
yeah what's it called is that what it's called who moved my cheese who moved my
cheese I'm looking at my notes right now yeah what an interesting you know yeah
let's let's talk about it Carrie's at a water party
work. Girl, girl, how you got a water park right now? Bring me
with you. Seriously. Um, well, actually, wait, Margo, you're
not able to go to the event in San Diego, right? No. Okay. I
believe I filled out the feedback multiple times. Now.
Yeah, you did. Okay, got it. I got you and carry to we got
you. Sweet. Cool. I just wanted to touch base on that real
quick. In case anybody had any questions or any thoughts on
that. I know Carrie and john will be there. So cool. Um,
all right. Well, I let's dig into the beginning part of this
book about you know, the sniff and scurry and hem and ha the
the, the mice versus the humans in getting to this, you know,
what do they call it the cheese station? See? So what were some
of your any thoughts or questions you kind of had in the
beginning part of this book?
I like the way that I'm just the way it's format is very like
compare and contrast between the different characters like it.
You automatically start assigning yourself. Like, oh,
that's me, or I do that or kind of things which was like an
observation that I appreciated, like make it really easy for
people to like, be honest with yourself. Like, you know, I go,
yeah, that's me. That's me. Or dang it. That's me.
Yeah, yeah.
I also really love how simplistic it is, like, when
they get into the story, and they're, they're, they're
telling, or whatever, I don't know if it's the author or
whoever's reading, telling the story. It's like, there's
creatures living in a maze, looking for cheese. Like, okay,
so really, we're just looking for this one thing. And that's
what our goal is. And that's gonna make us I mean, it's, I
think I like how simplistic it is just for, like Gabby said,
like, being able to see yourself in certain personalities, or
being able to see like, Oh, I feel like I know where this is
gonna go with their choices that they're making. So I, I know,
right? Yeah, yeah. I was like, wait, I think this isn't okay.
So Hem and Hall, they, you know, relied on their thinking and
their learning and their past experiences, and they have
feelings and they started to get a little comfy, you know, and
like, set up shop and build their whole house and life
around this big piece of cheese. Yeah, I was like, Oh, I see. Oh,
this is an interesting way to look at life. I'm very curious
to see where this book's gonna go. And, you know, it I wrote
down cheese is what makes us happy. And if it's taken away,
it can be traumatic. And like the author started out the book
like that, saying that and he said living in constant white
water can be stressful. And I have never thought about my life
is like going down a whitewater rafting adventure. I can't say
that I have. And yet, that's exactly how I have felt over
this last year of my life. Like, there's actually been not really
any constants. Except my feeling stuck, you know, which
is exhausting. And I really appreciated, you know, if it's
taken away, it can be traumatic. That's really stuck with me in
two senses of the thought on one. I'll take it spiritual on
my end for a minute, but it's like, okay, you know, I'm
grasping on maybe too tightly to something for it to go. But
then also, how can how do I not? How do I not go after things
that bring me joy and make me happy? And how do I? How is it
not traumatic? How do I keep loose hands on all of these
amazing things? Because the reality is, is they can be here
one day and gone the next. That is a sheer reality. But it's not
a reality I'm necessarily always living in, you know. So
that that just that statement really hit me. You know, I how
is it not traumatic? I think it's just traumatic period, if
things are taken away from us. But do I just, I think part of
this
Where this is going and carry, you mentioned it in the chat about the mindset, you know, and.
Because then they went to the reunion and they were like, you know, I looked, I look, I'm beginning to look at change differently. I'm looking at it from losing something to gaining something.
And I'm like, huh, that's what that guy said and, like, in the little reunion circle and I'm like, yeah, that's a really great way to look at all this. So that it.
It's not as traumatic, I guess, when things come and go.
Yeah, I think. I mean, Danielle, you and I are having very similar experiences, but in different circumstances, like different, but like the I like the emotions and stuff is like the feels is the same or similar.
And it's the one thing I noticed is that. It doesn't comment on, like, it's not wrong to, like, set up your life necessarily on this these, you know, it's like, OK, cool, like there's cheese here, we like it here, let's go make a life like they don't really comment on that necessarily being another that is bad or good, but just it's just neutral.
Yeah. And I think the same for it didn't comment on, like, what emotions necessarily you might feel when the cheese gets moved.
I think to me, like I've been wrestling that feeling, man, how do I.
Not get so, I guess, essentially traumatized when certain things change.
But also, I'm like, I don't want to just be the person like just waiting for the cheese to be moved always, you know, I mean, like, it's like that concept, like waiting for the shoe to drop and it's like, I don't want to be that either, and it's like, OK, I think where I've gotten so far for me is OK to have I feel some type of way about the cheese being that emotion is fine, nothing wrong with it.
There's a time and a place, you know, for all emotions.
I think it is like ultimately, though.
It is like, I guess, like, what is your cheese like, you know, it is.
And yeah, not that I don't do this well by any stretch of the imagination, but I just like I know the only I'm like, OK, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like.
I know the only I'm like, I'm trying to hold on to truth.
So I know that there's emotions are neither bad nor good.
They're there and they can serve us.
Yeah, but I don't know.
So that's kind of why I thought the same thing in the beginning.
I was just like, man, yeah, like I've had some cheese move in this last year and I really don't love it.
And it doesn't feel good and it does feel very traumatic.
And it's like, oh, I don't know how to like it makes it very hard to move forward.
Yeah. Yeah, Carrie wrote, the more you love your cheese, the more you want to hold on to it.
I it was something exactly like that.
And I do I ask myself, how do I not love something?
Because now, you know, now I'm thinking spiritual, like God tells us the only love.
Like the number one commandment is I love God with all my heart, soul and mind.
And then the second is I love my neighbors like that.
And I just think, you know, how do I not love how do I not overly love good things on earth?
Basically, how do I not overly love my home and my future lover and spouse and my kids and my wardrobe and my food and my hair?
Like all these amazing things I've been given to steward.
How do I not overly love them?
Because I do think he started the book with a really powerful statement, which is like to the degree because I've been realizing this myself to the degree that I'm like holding on to something or white knuckling something or like loving something is the degree that it's going to hurt when it goes away.
So like, aka trauma.
But I'm like, OK, so is the antidote to love it less?
How on earth do I try to seek out, you know, cheese or good things, but not make them the ultimate things?
I mean, it's the ultimate human question, like from the get go.
I don't know.
I'm also extremely terrible at it.
And I'm such a like I own being a deep feeler and like and I own really caring for things.
And I think it can be to my demise.
And, you know, like also not to mention in like I would say in America or like this side of the world, we are really big on this dream of like getting a home and establishing stability.
And it looking like a home and set put, like in a home and like in a community.
And I think there's a lot of like goodness to that and I think there's safety that's
created in that.
It's actually a lot less traumatic to create that safety, right?
To kind of post up the home next to the cheese, decorate it, get comfy.
And yet how, like I'm curious where this book's ultimately going to go because how do I not
do that?
Am I supposed to be a nomad?
I don't think so, but it's just like, I find that difficult because last thing I'll say
about this as a, as a single woman, buying this home was a really big deal for me.
It was a really big deal.
It was like, it was basically saying, I'm going to trust God and I'm going to trust
myself to provide for this mortgage on my own and it's going to come no matter what.
And I'm going to be planted probably.
And I was a nomad actually living in four different States and been to 34 countries.
Nomadic life is actually really also a part of my comfort zone.
So it's interesting because I'm like, part of me is like, oh, I could leave and like
go anywhere.
But that's also when I think about that, I'm like, Emma, do I really mean that though?
Because that also feels traumatic and scary and, you know, change that's change.
And I'm resisting that and that's unknown and, ah, yeah, yeah.
I think for me, I'm, I'm trying to hold on to like, okay, I don't need to love things
necessarily any less, but, or at least not automatically any less, but it's, it is that
you love them and still, it's this balance between, and still be able to react to what
is and not necessarily what we wish was, um, yeah, I think, and then I think that just
gets into like a mindset.
Yeah, it does.
Sorry, I got distracted by a work question.
I think I'm very similar, Danielle, like, I, I feel very deeply, I, and it often gets
me into bad situations, because I want to hold on to something that was like, happy
and comfortable, and, you know, made me feel good and whatever, even when maybe it's not
doing that anymore.
Sometimes I hold on a little bit too long, but I'm learning not to and learning to, um,
just like, I guess, be able to, like, love the thing or that part of my life or appreciate
it, but also detach if, if the circumstances change, and that's really hard.
But I think where I'm like a little bit stuck in this whole topic and conversation is, I've
had a lot of people tell me, because I've always been the kind of person who like strives
for like, the next thing, like, I'm always wanting to grow and learn.
And I've had a lot of people be like, why can't you just be happy where you are?
And so it almost feels like it's counteracting that, like, I've worked really happy on being
happy where I am, and multiple times that didn't work out.
My ex relationship is like, the biggest example of that.
I tried so hard to make that work and make that happy, and it just didn't, like, for
lots of reasons I don't need to go into, but.
So then I think, like, should I be trying so hard to just be happy where I am, or should
I just be like, anticipating the next change that's coming inevitably, because things are
constantly changing and moving.
So I don't know.
That was well said, actually.
I think my response to that is, as soon as we switch into, I don't know, I'm sure this
is such a huge gray area, but my instinct is like, as soon as we start to switch our
minds, whether we are conscious of it or not, into, I should just try to be happy here.
I think we're being a little bit like him, and this should just be going the way that
I want it to go, or the way that it used to go.
I don't, I'm sure you can't make that a blanket statement over everything, because I agree
with the concept of, like, joy and contentment in everything, but sometimes I think we also
ignore that.
indicators of like, time to move, time to kind of be
proactive. I don't know, like, I just I feel like I've observed
that maybe in life.
Yeah.
Yeah, I think so. Oh, no, go ahead, Margo. I was just gonna
say, I think, basically, like extension of what you were
saying, like, sometimes when we are so happy and content with
where we are now, and I was kind of saying this to previously,
like, when something does come up, that's like a, you need to
pivot, you need to make a change, you need to move. It's
hard, because part of what we're used to, we've decided that
that's happy and comfortable, even if it's not good, good,
necessarily. So it's hard to, like, acknowledge that, that
change or move or whatever is required. And we ignore it.
Yeah, we just sit with our pile of cheese.
I don't want to move.
I totally side comment. I was laughing. I laugh at the concept
of it being like cheese, because occasionally when I'm PMSing,
not this doesn't happen every time, but like, I'll crave
cheese to such an extent that I'll just I want a block of
cheese, and I'll just take bites out of the block of cheese. And
I was like, I'm feeling this cheese concept pretty hits close
to home, honestly.
I love cheese. I eat a lot of cheese.
I did have a question. I kind of wanted to ask a more like,
practical personal question of like, you know, where do you see
in your in your life doesn't have to just be business. Any
part of your life where you feel like you are sniffing, scurrying,
where you feel like your hand where you feel like you're hot.
You know, just to take a moment to reflect and observe our own
I'll go first. I think that generally, with like, day to day
circumstances, like day to day operations, I'm sniffing
scurrying, like I'm very adaptive, adaptable is like one
of my top five strengths. I think I I'm a my brain is very I'm a
maximizer to some very like problem solving. So it's just
like, and I'm very strategic. So I'm also like, I'm very
strategic. So I'm very, I'm very, I'm very, I'm very
some also, like, those are all my top five. So like, I'm always
I look at I'm looking towards future and like game planning
now and just like, I think I am that but ultimately, I think
again, it's like we're talking about cheese. So when it's the
things that are the cheese. I feel torn, I think a lot between
him and it will be like, I think I feel like in my heart,
I'm, I'm where it's like, I'm just like, so frustrated that
this circumstance and it's changed or something unexpected
or, and I just want to be upset about it. And then my brain
sometimes is boring, like, okay, but like you, because I have all
these, like, I am strategic. So it's just like, but you can do
this or this and this, and getting them to be on the same
page, sometimes really hard. But like, for instance, like in this
last year, you know, just like, I would say friendships and
relationships have shifted dramatically and very
unexpectedly the whole time. And that is something that's a that's
a big cheese for me. Like, my chosen friends are my family, my
family's not my family in a way. And that's been the case ever
since I was a little kid is a coping mechanism that I learned
from very early on. And it's always been so hard and
traumatic for me when like a close friendship has changed or
something or conflict or something. And that's happened
multiple times where, like I had a friendship just literally
suddenly stopped in the summer. We switched, like we stopped
going to the church we were at. So that church community went
away. My two closest friends now both are moved or are moving.
And so my access to people has drastically gone down. And it's
just like, man, I feel like I'm just getting hit. And I feel
like that's where I've been like, I just want to be upset
and just like, cry or like kind of curl up in a ball or like, I
don't feel like I have the energy to go and like, find the
new cheese essentially. But
i also think that and then on the same i'm just to kind of reiterate what i was saying is like but
my brain is always like well you can do this you can do this do this and it's like i don't want to
do that like i just i just wanted it to be how it was right you didn't want the change you didn't
ask for the change i wanted all these friends to stay and it to look like this for however many
years yep yep i feel like that's like a part of the grieving process too like when something changes
i think it's healthy personal opinion to like sit with that for a time not forever but for a time
and i guess depending on the level of the trauma or the change or the whatever like you might need
more time or less time but i think that is part of the like healthy move to the new option right
if you just like ignore how you feel and start moving that can sometimes end up badly so i'm
always for like yeah sit with that feeling feel the anger or the frustration or the whatever
discomfort whatever it is have your moment eat your chocolate or your cheese on the couch
and then make a plan to move on but i mean doesn't it's not always that like clean and
nice and tidy so i can see all the sides yeah i think that in the book of a point
cause my journey like the thoughts is like very much like what we all like is very realistic
you know it's like we start in this like okay just one just wanted to go back i'm just gonna
wait for my cheese to come back and then it's like okay this isn't working but even along the
journey he's like struggling you know in the sense of like getting weak why didn't i do this or i just
want to go back or and it was this uh what i loved though about his character is i'm assuming it's a
him right um is the persistence like the consistency and persistence once he does choose
to go and then that's where it's like the joy comes from like realizing i'll actually just enjoy
this journey essentially um
yeah
how about you danielle where are you sniffing scurry or hemming hawk
yeah i think this kind of goes back to what i shared in our previous book study of like
i used to really just be like sniffing scurry like i was like that for most of my 20s i mean
i didn't really plant plant a lot of places i it's interesting but i had a job i've always
had a consistent like form of income but i've already i've always really embraced change
but i have currently just built a very comfortable life and lifestyle and it's not working so
i think i'm currently a little more like him where i'm like i don't want it to change
i was just telling i was just telling but it needs to like i need a change but i don't it
doesn't mean that i asked for it or wanted it and actually may 5th we're coming up on a year
when rainmakers like made the big the big shift too and um but i had already kind of shifted out
of my full-time role at that point with this company you know anyways but i think just like
the whole like i deserve it like kind of arrogance of success was mentioned i think
that was part of what we were supposed to read it and i really could relate with that statement now
and it's hard it's really humbling
kind of admitting i guess that i don't really want things to change i don't want to be in the
i don't really want things to change the way that they are but i they have to something has to
change and i i know enough about the brain to know what i'm doing and i know it believes i'm
believing and i know what my nervous system is telling me but i have this fear i realized this
yesterday i have this fear still this fear thought that what's coming is gonna be worse
than what i have so i somehow need to like still like hold on to where i'm at for as long as possible
And I don't like that. I don't like that. I'm having carrying that thought.
But I think it's a little like of my, you know, sympathetic nervous system response.
I think I'm doing a little like really trying to keep myself safe because it I,
there is some safety and comfort here, but it's not fully working either. So obviously, you know,
I'm excited for just more of this book and just more of this influence of embracing change and
looking at it like, actually, what if it's better? Like, what if? What if it's a doorway to heaven?
That gets me excited. You know? Yeah. I think I know how to be scurry and sniffify if I need to,
but I, I find myself naturally being maybe a little bit more like Heming Hall for sure. Well,
hello. I'm an, I'm a human. Yeah. I don't know. I had one other thought I want to share was I was
like, where is this going? Because I'm not a mouse and I never will be one. And I am a human and I'm
proud of it. So I think I, I want to be a little careful on where this is going to go. Cause I
ain't no mouse. I will never be one. And I don't want to be one. I am gladly a human.
So I'm like, okay, we'll see where that goes. But, um, I, what you just described with your
brain and stuff literally played out last week. So we started going to a new church
and we've been trying to get involved with like a small group because I'm like, this is how I
actually will get to know people and know if like, this is where we fit. And we went and had dinner
with a family, um, who are like, and they'll help lead a small group or whatever. And we had
honestly a really good time. Like I keep joking that it was like a good first date, you know,
it's like we stayed longer than we thought we would cause we were talking. But then I went home
and had like a pretty big anxiety attack. And I was just like spiraling because there was like,
I was just like over, I was obsessing about certain couple of comments that they made.
Um, it was about topics that I have very strong feelings and opinions on. And, um,
and I was just like, I couldn't understand why I was spiraling. Cause it was, I, it was like,
this is not rational, but upon reflecting on it for the rest of the week, it was funny. Cause I
was just like, what you're saying is like, I'm just assuming it's going to be worse. Like things
are just going to be worse. And it makes me want to just stay where we are now, even though that's
very much not working. And I was assuming, you know, just like, Oh, people think this. And so
because my beliefs are going to clash and because I, the way I am is honest and, um,
blunt and open and people are going to respond badly because that's what they've done in the
past. And there's going to be conflict. And then I'm just going to feel like an outsider. Like
I went down the full, full, full rant. And, uh, yeah, like it just,
it was like, it was everything we're talking about, like tied up in a perfect situation, but
of like the trauma, um, the thoughts of beliefs and just like being, wanting to just like stay,
even though I know staying is like weakening, you know, it was just all that.
Um, and I'm feeling, I don't know, I'm just kind of following my intuition right now, but like,
I'm feeling like maybe I don't ever do this because I don't consider myself to be someone
who has bandwidth to do stuff like this. And typically I, I don't necessarily, I don't want
to say I don't need to, but like I do this naturally, but I'm just wondering if like we can
maybe take a thought or something that we can take with us for this week between like now and
between like now and the next week, like to, um, help reshape. Sorry.
Wrong pipe. Maybe a fly got up in there.
Sorry, that came out of nowhere. Your hair. Yeah, it's just really dry here. Yeah.
But just like some, cause I feel like we all have a situation in mind or something in life where we
are, and, and our fear is keeping us from taking action, but we all have awareness that that in
awareness that that inaction is, this is different than him. Like we have awareness
that that inaction is really not serving us. Right. Um, but Daniel, I kind of put you in
charge of that cause you are the thoughts and beliefs queen. Well, I, uh, I think that's a
good idea. I did want to just ask Margot or Carrie, did you all want to comment on that?
That question that Gabby asked about Sniff and Scurry and Heaven Hole.
About who we are?
I think for me it depends on the day and depends on what's going on in my life.
I definitely feel like I'm not so much the mice.
I'm not so much like, okay, off to find the next cheese.
I think I dwell a little bit more on the changes, but I definitely have been in both situations
where I'm like, nope, I am staying right here.
I am going to make this work.
I am going to, you know, whatever.
Stick it out.
I'm going to be happy with what I have because so many people have told me that that's what
I should do.
And that's how I become more happy with my life is I just choose happiness.
That doesn't always work.
And then I have also, I don't remember which one's which.
That's Ha.
Him is the one who's like, let's go on an adventure.
That one's Ha.
That's Ha?
Yeah.
Okay.
Anyways, I've also been that.
I would say more often than not, I will, you know, go back to the routine, be like,
this is not working.
Let's figure out what else is out there.
Yeah.
Go see if there's a different cheese station somewhere in the maze of life.
So I think it depends on the situation and the day.
There's definitely days when I'm like, no, I'm just going to stay here and wait for my
cheese to come back.
No, that's really good.
Yeah, well, yeah, why not?
We can definitely wrap this up with like your question, Gabby, and then we can switch into,
you know, chucking in.
But yeah, maybe like you said, a thought, what's the thought we can take on this week
that we want to think that would serve us?
It's hard because I even have resistance to like, do I want the thought?
Well, then that's usually probably the one you should choose.
I think mine's going to be I've got to that one that popped up this morning for me, but
God is my provider and there is good on the other side of a decision.
I think I think that's gonna that's for me, that's what I'm going to take.
I love that there is good on the other side of the decision.
So often in like in hard situations, at least for me, like, I take a lot of confidence from
like, okay, a decision has been made.
And like, it's a little bit easy for me to commit once a decision has been made, I guess.
Oh, well, that's how it happens, because you're not stuck anymore.
It's the like, yeah, I'm stuck, though, which I think is partly what some of this books
about.
Yeah, like getting out of being stuck.
What about you, Margo?
I'm still thinking.
I don't.
I don't really know.
I think something I've been thinking on lately is just that, like, change doesn't have to
be so scary.
like big change coming in my life soon that I've been some anxiety around, right?
Because I don't know what's gonna happen.
And I mean, ultimately, it doesn't matter.
Like I, I, nothing is going to cause my death, or destruction.
Like if I'm realistic, all of the options are going to be great, like all the possibility
all the possible outcomes are going to be great, and they'll be met with whatever they
need to be met with at the time.
So I don't know why I'm getting all up in my concerns about it.
But I think that's like change doesn't have to be scary is my biggest one that I'm thinking
about lately.
So if it doesn't have to be scary, what what could it be?
Exciting.
Okay, so change can be exciting.
I think that would be good to make it more positive than like, not scary, then you're
just saying scary all or a lot, right?
Would you already believe so?
Oh, say it left.
Say it left, okay.
Change is exciting.
It is.
Okay, I'm taking that one too,
because my friends keep telling me that
and I cringe on the inside.
I'm like, says you, not me.
I'm writing that one down.
Change is exciting.
Good.
I think for me, it's just like I,
when I'm like struggling with making decisions,
I focus on what is clear.
Like sometimes it's like, there's a lot of noise
and like, I don't know, like,
I really like pinpoint on the threads that are clear.
And so for me, like with the community relationship piece,
it was kind of like, okay, it's clear that
being, you know, I guess I'm trying to like
put it in like a simple statement,
but like not doing anything,
not doing, taking action or making a shift,
you know, was just, was going to result in more
loneliness and depression and fear.
And so the making, not making decisions,
but like continuing to follow through on the decision,
I guess is where,
I'm hesitating to say, I suppose, like is where joy is.
I don't necessarily think I mean it where I'm like,
I'm just waiting for this one thing to feel joyful.
But I think I'm meaning it in like a,
I want to feel joy in this area of life, I guess.
What area?
Friendship?
Yeah, so I'm specifically talking about
community and friendship and relationships.
Okay, so something like finding new friends is joyful?
Yeah, there you go, thank you.
Is that helpful?
Yeah, that was very helpful.
My brain is like over-complicating it, but yeah.
That's okay, I think because you're trying
to protect yourself and not actually say
what you really mean.
So for you it's finding new friends is joyful.
Okay, good, write that down, that's for you.
Like cringe.
Exactly, we want to say cringey things
so they're not so cringey.
That's good, good work everybody.
We all found a thought that was cringey.
Yeah.
That's good, that means it's triggering
is another word for cringey.
So we don't want that, we want to break through from that.
That's good, good, good, good everyone.
Amazing, well we've got about 17 minutes left, so.
Yeah.
Did you have a specific check-in question, Gabby, or?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I kind of want to tie in
what we're discussing now with also our business check-in.
So like with this new thought,
how will you take either this new thought
or what we're reading in the book this week
and apply it in your life?
And I kind of want to go into business, I think.
I mean, your personal life counts too,
but I do want to hear something business-related.
Business work-related.
Yeah.
I think for me, so I just, like last night,
launched my website and my first season
of my 12-month workshop series.
And I posted it in like a local Facebook group
and I had someone sign up this morning for the series.
So I was super stressed and scared.
I was like, well, doing it,
but knowing I was also really excited about it.
So it was one of those, like, this is different,
but it's exciting because change is exciting.
Yes, it is.
And I think for me, it's going to be,
there's a lot still, done is better than perfect.
so it's not perfect. So there's still lots of things to like update and tweak but I wanted to
get it up and posted so I could start promoting it because the first event is in April so it's soon.
But I think like the fact that somebody signed up this morning for like April, May, June was so
gratifying and I feel like that's, I know this is like past tense because it already happened, but
it's still very fresh so I want to share it because I think it is that mindset that I have
already been working on that change is exciting and I'm now even more looking forward to like
continuing to work on it and I'm gonna, I'm gonna keep that forefront as I'm building out the rest
of the workshops and thinking about how I want to like continue down that path and not like settle
back into some of my old habits business-wise. So I'm gonna keep the like scary big change ones
forefront and move towards them. That's good. Awesome. So exciting.
Like conversion, that feels so good. Yeah and I didn't even know the person.
Get it girl. Yeah so I was, I, when she emailed me to ask me a question about like, because the
registration's a little bit clunky, but I, anyways, I got it sorted. Okay. But she emailed me to ask a
question and I said, oh you just have to do this, this, and then I said, also how did you find the
classes? And she was like, oh I just saw an ad on Facebook, which is not true, there's no ad, she
saw the post that I put in the local group. So I was like, whatever, it's working, it's working.
Did she pay for this? Did she pay? Is it pay? Yeah. Yeah. Okay, cool. Awesome. Yeah, so it's,
uh, the individual courses are like one rate and then if you sign up for the whole season, it's,
uh, there's a discounted rate. So, and she signed up for the whole season, which was like,
really exciting. Well, Margo, that is so exciting. Absolutely. Yeah.
Can't wait for you to get started so we can hear, like, week by week, like, how it's going to. Yeah.
Yes. Yeah. Um, Carrie says, I want to try and stay flexible like Smith and Scurry,
keep it simple and try not to overthink or overcomplicate. Carrie, this is like your
theme for the year, like, and I think you've been making like a lot of progress in this.
Um, so I just want to like, affirm that in you. Me too. Yeah. It's just like, I think sometimes
when we're, we feel like we're not changing in one area, but we're like, when we're like,
focused on it consistently, I think we make a lot more progress than we're able to realize
from day to day. Like, I just want you to know that, like, we see it.
It's awesome. Yeah. I agree with that, Carrie. It's amazing.
I know. I feel like, yes, I understand.
Yeah. All of us here, we love our emotions. Oh my gosh. I love my emotions when this morning
where I was like, it's too cold. I ain't going to the hospital this morning. I'm saying it's
not going up in this, but my ass was sorry. My butt was up at 6.00 AM. I had no excuses.
I just said, I ain't getting all the covers though. And I was like, okay, is this wise?
Or did I listen to my feelings? And I'm like, no, I listened to my feelings, but I was like,
I made the decision. I'm gonna go right back to bed. We're committed to the decision.
I mean, like I really, you know, I didn't, I could, when I can go to CrossFit one or two other
times in my day, I tend to sometimes let the 6.45 AM go, you know, and there's just grace in that.
So anyways, I gotta, yeah. I'm just thinking about that. I literally laid in my bed. I'm like,
I'm letting my emotions win right now. And I'm okay with that. It happens.
I did the same thing. I was supposed to go to the office today and I looked out the window
to check on our ducks because we finally let them out of the barn a while ago. And I was like,
oh my gosh, it's white everywhere. So then I had to go outside and lock them back into the barn
because they get, their feet get too cold in the snow and they don't think about it. They're kind
of dopey, but yeah, I was like, I'm not going to the office. I'm just going to say the roads are
bad. I don't want to go anywhere. Stay with my wood stove.
It was discussed. That was my emotion. Yes, yes. No, not doing
anything on that one.
I think for me, the like making new friends is joyful
statement, like I can insert a few things in the making new
blah, blah, blah. And it will apply. I feel like I feel like
Daniel was saying earlier in the call, like, the whole last
year, like nothing has felt constant in a way except for
maybe chaos and stress. And my brain was to say, like, in the
future, like, there's more of that. And so like, in any
regard, you know, and I just want to like, try to take that,
I guess, and adapt it to every big situation that like me and
my husband are kind of like walking through right now.
There's a there's a few. And it's like equally hard for him
to like, we each have our own individual way of being him and
ha, you know what I mean? So hopefully, like, just walk it
out a little bit more intentionally this week. Just
like, this new thing is joyful.
Yeah, it's amazing. I love it.
Um, I'd love to know if anybody has any thoughts or anything, or
questions or anything you need support on or if you'd like for
us to just be like thinking about something for you or
praying something for you like any request, I guess any type of
request.
Before we wrap up.
Um, I think my request has to do with like actual functionality
of like,
rainflow and stuff. I need to work on the online portion of
this course program that I'm building because I've had a lot
of requests for it. And I think I can do that on rainflow. I've
also because I started looking into it, like, that platform
school has been like advertising to me constantly. And I'm like,
should I just go that route? Because it's already set up? Or
so I don't know if there's feedback or if I should get on a
call and ask someone or
so you're talking about online like courses or
Yeah, yeah, I do it on rainflow.
Yeah, but they're like pre recorded. If I want to, I guess
if I want to do live one, I would set it up as a webinar and
just do it through zoom.
Well, they're pre recorded, you can still create a course, I'm
assuming you can like embed it somehow. I'm can't remember
exactly how. But honestly, with the new AI features on there, it
might change everything. Like, you can give it because it has
the whole AI agent now. Yeah. So you could be like, I want to
create a course, here's my pre recorded videos, here's the
layout, you know, and give that a try first, honestly.
Okay, I would say you can do it, do it on do it on rainflow. You
already have it. Yeah, that was my thing. Yeah, if you run into
any issues, you can get on tomorrow's call with you or
Tuesday call with Megan.
Okay, that's kind of what I was thinking. I was not trying not
to worry about it in order to get the in person portion like
launched. Yeah, I'll do the online portion later. Yeah, I
can record that anytime. Right.
Yeah, I would start there before I was at least I would start
there before moving on to school, I guess is what I would
say. Oh, would I? Yeah. Okay.
Harry, do you have anything? Any requests you want to put in the
chat? Danielle, do you have any requests?
Um,
I am. Well, I'll let you all know this. I am looking for a
job.
haven't looked for a job
ever. So
I've been spoiled.
Well, I had a career and then I left it and then I built a
business for six years. So I'm blessed. I have say spoiled. I
just feel like I've just gotten everything I needed. And it's
been amazing. And I just my nervous system has taken a big
hit like going up and down with income for so many years. I
don't want this to scare anybody. This is just a decision
I made. I just need something on the side. So it's actually like
proven to be
not as easy
I thought it would be. So it feels like dating in the sense of I can do whatever I want. And it's
not all not everything is what I want. I'm actually very extremely particular at this
point on what I do want and what my nervous system needs and what I need. So I'm not saying
I'm leaving Rainmakers or anything like that. I might. I don't know. But my role here is very
part time at the moment. So, you know, let's just see. But, yeah. So prayers or, you know.
Yeah. Postings. Send your way. Yeah. I guess if you see something that's like that's Danielle,
like send me it. Yeah. Which I don't even know. What are you looking for? What kind of job?
So the the most recent wording was customer success manager. So basically working to make
the customers happy. Kind of what I did here before. Margot, I don't even know if you knew
me when I was doing that role here. Basically, Gabby's role before it was Gabby's role before
it turned into what it is right now. So, yeah, I would love to manage people who are like working
on the front like the front lines with people or something, you know, just heavily relational.
With a hint of sales, I can do a hint of that. I'm really good at sales, but I need a break
from sales actually is what I nervous system needs a break from. I need a base pay. Yeah.
Your girl needs a base. So, yeah, I've got like a few clients. I even just had it's funny. I just
had two people reach out to me asking me to coach them. So I might take them up on that. I might not.
I'm not sure. I'm not sure. So, you know what? Thought that you should listen to me, but do it.
Even with my nervous system, everything in me is like, oh, gosh, I don't know.
Are you attaching like permanence to that? Like you coach them and just feels like a permanent
decision. It's just the person. Oh, that's a good discernment thing, though. I know.
That's why this is so hard for me. I'm struggling with my own discernment lately. It's like.
And then I go to my I'll say this is a really cool thing. I went to my therapist this morning
who's working on my arm and he's one hundred and twenty dollars an hour, which is actually like
pretty decent considering the field. And I just I'm just not in a position where that's like top
priority, but my health is a priority to me. So it actually tends to be top for me regardless if
I'm not like able to pay my Internet. I think I would see a therapist before I pay my Internet
kind of thing because my health affects every other thing, part of my life. And so anyways,
I went and saw him this morning and he told me this. He said, because I think what God's been
doing is breaking off the idol of self-reliance and just relying on God for my provision.
And he said to me, he said, just so you know, God put you on my heart to to take care of you.
And so going forward, you are not going to pay me anything. Yeah, I love it. And I'm going to
I'm going to work on your arm until you are better. That's amazing. I know. And I said,
OK, God's going to provide. He's like, God's got things for you. You just don't have that.
They're just not aligned yet. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, I agree with that. So let's see.
Let's see what happens. I I've never worked corporate. I could do it. I don't know if I
want to, but some of the jobs I'm looking for, like 120 to 150 range and they seem like really
fun. Some of them seem really fun. So let's see. Yeah. That's exciting. It changes, exciting
changes, exciting. That's right. I've worked in the corporate world for many, many, many years.
Well, I know that's why we're so on opposite ends of this right now. I'm also what I'm doing is I'm
finding companies I align with their vision and their mission first. Yeah. Then checking to see
what positions they have and then I'm hiring. I'm applying accordingly. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm really
happy about that. That's like the feeler in me. Like, you know, I'm not going to go burn out and
work for some company I don't align with. Yeah. So I believe something's going to pop up that
I'm going to be excited. They're going to be excited to have me on the team. And I think
something's going to align. I just don't know when that is because this is proven to be I mean,
I've been doing this for a little bit now. So let's see. Yeah.
I don't know if I want to share everything.
I feel like Danielle's got a pretty good idea, but I think I would just request...
I don't know.
Ugh, a bug in my ear.
Not that.
I don't want that.
I have to go do another call.
Sorry.
Love you.
Talk to you soon.
Bye.
My request is just encouragement, I guess.
Just encouragement.
I just could use encouragement for certain things and keep going.
Keep going.
Just keep going.
I think that's where I'm at.
I would happily encourage you.
I don't know what I'm encouraging you with, but...
Keep pressing on.
Yeah.
Keep pressing on to certain things that are just hard and scary and uncomfortable and
all those good things.
Well, this was fun.
So I hope everyone who watches the recording gets something out of this discussion and
is reading the book.
And we'll do it again next week for week two.
Sounds good.
Bye, Margo.
Bye.