All right. Welcome, gentlemen, to May 11th, 2026, Monday. Heart check-in, guys for guys.
A couple of you guys on the call here tonight. And who's iPhone?
Hey, what's up, David? It's me, Carlos.
Hey, Carlos. How are you? Are you working right now or are you off?
No, I'm off and I'm kind of doing some things, kind of cleaning up the house a little bit.
Got it. Got it. Cool. Good to see you. Good that you're here.
I wanted to just kind of let everybody know, for those that are going to watch this replay,
for those around here tonight, this is Jackie's new book. You've probably seen it.
She's probably held it up or might have been something up. But anyway, we have
copies of it now that we're mailing out to those that bought the book in pre-sale.
So I don't know if some of you did that, but definitely Jackie's charge tonight is make sure,
guys, you get the book and you join the book club. We'll be having emails go out to everybody
here in the next week or so for signing up for that kind of stuff. So it's going to be really
good. I'll tell you, when I was... She writes these books. This is her fifth book that she's
written. And I'm usually the one typesetting it. I didn't design this cover, but I typeset
the back of it. I typeset the inside of it, all that kind of stuff. So that all needs to be
formatted and typeset and put into a form to where you can send it off to the printer and have it
printed. And of course, then we're going through developmental edits and final edits and all the
different edits. We went through probably three or four stages of edits. But anyway, you get a
really good idea of what's in the book when you do that, obviously spend time with it. And this book
is the most practical guide. It is probably 95% practical, dating, real life stories and examples.
It's like a textbook for dating. And so I encourage you, there's not a lot of
faith development, scriptural references or anything like that. And here, not that that's
bad. I'm just saying that in terms of just the dating process, this is the most comprehensive
book that I've seen in a long time, especially on this subject and especially in our library.
So anyway, I highly recommend it. But I wanted to, there's chapter six.
I know you can't read it because it's backwards. I get it. But it's called
readiness over romance. How to tell who's available. Now,
a lot of the majority of Jackie's audience is a female audience. So her voice is primarily
female centric in just kind of the characteristic, the coloring of it. But the advice is practical,
so practical that it goes definitely both ways. And the reason I wanted to share chapter six with
you tonight was because it says readiness over romance, and it kind of gives you a perspective
of what readiness means. And because Jackie, her audience is dominantly women. I'm not even,
I'm talking about even outside of the program. So like outside of the program,
there's a huge audience that are not people that are necessarily part of last year's single
that she influences. And like I say, most of them are women. And chapter six,
as it says readiness over romance, is what she is telling women, hey, women, ladies,
ladies, here's how you know when a guy is ready. Matter of fact,
here's how you know when anybody is ready, because the principles, they do cross over
male and female. And several of the things that we talk about in this book,
just kind of doing a little bit of recap. We start out with the premise that obviously
modern dating sucks, and we want to pull back forward. We want to
Y'all know that to be true, but then she explores a little bit further into like, why does modern
dating suck?
Why does what we think of as dating and dating culture, why is it so difficult?
Why does it suck?
And the first answer to that question is, is because of a dating culture that is around
about a hundred years old.
And she actually takes the time to go back through a little bit of history to explore
what dating was like a hundred years ago and a hundred plus years ago, a little bit,
and kind of explain culturally civilization, Western civilization, if you will, how we
got to this point of modern dating.
And so that's fascinating in and of itself.
But the basic premise there is the reason that modern dating sucks is because the dating
culture that has come about to be in the last hundred years is a total departure from
the way we as humans were created to interact and be, you know, it's, it's a false version
of connection, trying to date, trying to find the one, trying to find the someone, trying
to find this.
And of course the modern version of that is so many options and you know, so many choices
and where do we stand?
And like, you know, you had the, the whole feminization and women's empowerment over
the years that have done great things for women, but also confusing things for the relationship
between men and women, like, where do we stand?
What do we do?
There was a point in time where it seemed that our roles were very clear in terms of
our gender roles and our, you know, what we're supposed to do as a husband, what we're supposed
to do as a man, what you're supposed to do as a wife, all that kind of stuff.
And even that didn't last very long because of world wars, because of all the things that
have happened in the last hundred years that have literally changed the fabric of society.
And so it's interesting to read, to go through all that history and kind of discover that.
And then she gets into some things like why apps are difficult apps.
If you didn't know it, apps actually were designed and engineered technologically from
the standpoint of the same ideology or the same dopamine hitting type of philosophy as
slot machines, casino machines.
And it's not an analogy.
It's not like, oh, dating apps are like casino machines.
No, they actually were designed, engineered technologically with the whole swiping effect
from the design of casino machines.
So it wasn't just like, it's like it, no, they actually were designed from that.
It is gambling in a way.
And so the same thing that keeps you sitting on a slot machine in terms of the, if you
got to win every time you pull the lever, or if you never got to win every time you
pull the lever, one of two things would happen.
You would know this machine never wins, or you would think it wins every time.
And that excitement of winning, even if it's every time, and even if you're winning, wears
off.
But the psychology of what happens on the next lever pull, whether you're going to win
or lose, win or lose, and I might win and I might hit a jackpot, that not knowing the
excitement, the endorphin producing chemistry that happens in doing that is what creates
the excitement for casino gambling and also creates the excitement of what if the next
one's the one, what if you're swiping on the app, you're swiping on the app, I'll look
at the next one.
I'll look at the next one.
It's the same thing as doom scrolling.
It's the same thing.
It's like, what if the next post is interesting?
What if the next video is, you know, what I need to hear?
What if the next thing is super entertaining and funny and whatever?
So this is the psychology of dating apps.
This is why they actually don't produce any things because dating apps don't want you
to necessarily be successful in relationship.
They just want you to keep on the dating apps.
Why?
Because it's a subscription.
They win when you stay on the apps.
A matchmaker wins when you actually make a match and you have a successful match.
You see the difference?
But this is why these things, for example, dating apps, other things like that, create
this disconnect create this confusion in our culture and so then she goes into
some of the other things like stop dating start choosing so this is part two of the book where
she stops she starts really talking about like hey instead of dating because dating is
a sort of a false sense of like connection let's get you ready to choose the person
through the process of dating so you're not dating just to date you are now dating with
the objection of this is the process i'm using to choose the partner define the partner so it's
dating with intentionality big huge difference if you know how to do it and know what to look for
and then she goes into chemistry not compatibility or chemistry is not compatibility
meaning that we're so hooked on chemistry we're so hooked on being smitten we're so hooked on
the the optics of what i'm encountering or what i'm looking at that and or or the from the
feminine side it's kind of like oh there's just a vibe there's this there's the chemistry there
there's the the x factor the zing and when you think that that feeling equates to compatibility
meaning oh he gets me or she gets me or she understands me or we have chemistry therefore
we are compatible that is a danger danger danger situation so chemistry isn't necessarily
compatibility and of course we don't say hey if there's if there's no chemistry
then that means there's compatibility that's obviously not true either so we're not ruling out
the attraction we're not ruling out the zing we're not ruling out the vibe that you get when you might
meet somebody but we don't want you to think that that alone is the compatibility because sometimes
there's a compatibility and you find the zing a little bit later on
and you find the attraction at a later point not necessarily from the beginning
and so she goes into depth on that and then she talks about readiness over romance
because here's the truth you could follow all of the advice you could have compatibility
they're actually five c's of compatibility she goes over this book
and they are the they're the core five things that are needed to understand and make sure yes
this person really is compatible with me like this is what i'm looking for and when you find
that compatibility it might surprise you because that compatibility may look different than what
you thought compatibility looked like but compatibility is what you're after because
compatibility is what leads to 50-year relationships which leads to the successful
relationships which leads to the family goals that you want which relates to the longevity
of the lifelong relationship that you're after not necessarily the chemistry chemistry
can have a seat on the bus but chemistry doesn't need to be driving the bus make sense
so but what's interesting about the compatibility the alignment in terms of proximity the levels
of relationship if you think about like hey i'm compatible with somebody in this world but i just
don't know them yet well say if you know this person you've met them you're going out on a date
you realize that you have the compatibility and there's a little bit of attraction like oh my
gosh i'm hitting on all of these cylinders for relationship but you get to the point
where you or they or even both of the people actually truly aren't ready for a relationship
even though they're dating they're meeting people they're saying they want to be married
they say they want partnership they say they want this the readiness factor unfortunately can still
also be a strong hindrance to making this thing work we've had stories in our community
where people were like man this person this person you can see it you can kind of evaluate
them as we've got to know them or they're telling us people
back about meeting this person and they're into each other, they're vibing, there's a
lot of things that they're compatible in in this scenario, but one of them is fixed to
a location because maybe there's a specific career thing that's going on, maybe there's
a specific family background situation that they can't move, and then the other person
isn't willing to move. Somebody in that scenario, in order for that relationship to work, will
have to compromise. And if the one who is fixed on a location because they can't move
for like real good reasons, and the other one who is unwilling to move doesn't change
their willingness, they're not ready. Plain and simple. Somebody who has not created space
in their life for a relationship, even though they love to be social and they're out doing
things and they're making their life work and they have a solid income and they're
fulfilled in what they're doing and they're exercising and they're living life to the
fullest, but they're so scheduled out that they haven't made any preparation for another
person to be in their life with them, has not demonstrated their readiness. And you
say, well, can't you just adjust that? You could, but you have to know that needs to
be adjusted. There's a lot of people, women and men, who are that way. Their life is full,
their life is happening, they're doing things, they're out there making it happen, and they're
wanting to be in relationship and romance, and then they try to actually make a romance work,
maybe even get engaged. I know even people who have gotten married that realized, oh my God,
you mean I had to make room for this person in my life? I had to like actually consider what
it would be like to live with another person in my space? I actually had to have a place for
someone to move in to live with me in that space. You know what I'm saying? So readiness is a huge
proponent of the relationship along with compatibility, along with a little bit of
chemistry, along with a little bit of intentionality towards dating. And what the
cool thing about it is, is that readiness can be the thing that you can prepare for ahead of time.
Because until you meet the person, until you understand that there may be even a vibe to be
had, you know, you don't really know the compatibility because you don't know them
yet. You haven't met them yet. You haven't been introduced. You haven't gone on the date. You
haven't started that process yet. But you can be ready. And so readiness manifests in a lot
of different ways. She says this, I'm going to read a couple things for you guys here just so
you'll kind of can hear what's going on. And we'll take some time for some feedback here in a few
minutes. She says this, readiness is not a feeling. It's a state of being. It's not a feeling. It's a
state of being. So in other words, you can say, hey, I'm ready for marriage. I'm ready. I'm ready
for marriage. I'm ready for relationship. I want to go out there. I want to find the person. I
want to date. I want to be all the things. And you can feel that inside and you can think that.
But if the facts of your life don't line up with that, then you're being sort of like either sort
of like deceived or you're, or you're being a little bit unclear or fooling yourself a little
bit because readiness is not a feeling. It's not a state of mind. It's a state of actual being. It's
like somebody should be able to take an inventory of your life and go, yeah, it looks like you're
ready.
You know, you don't have your calendar stacked
with no time in there for anything else
other than what you do, et cetera, et cetera.
She goes, here is the reframe that changes everything.
Readiness is not about how someone feels about you,
it is about the state of their life.
A person can be genuinely attracted to you.
They can enjoy your company,
have progressing feelings for you,
and mean every word they say in those first months
when everything is hopeful and easy.
But even with all that,
they can still not be in a position
to build a lasting relationship, why?
Because their emotional bandwidth is already spoken for.
Their unfinished business is taking up the space
that should be available for a new person.
Or they simply want the idea of a relationship
without being able to sustain one, okay?
They can like the idea of commitment and like you,
and they can even imagine being married to you,
but they are not there yet, or you may not be there yet.
And the gap between I can imagine it
and I am ready to commit to it
is where most, almost relationships live.
So she calls them almost relationships.
Not quite a relationship, it's almost a relationship,
except we gotta solve this readiness problem, okay?
And the four signals of genuine readiness are this.
The first signal is planning, okay?
A commitment-ready person makes plans in advance
because they value your time and theirs,
and they respect both.
The person who reaches out only when convenient,
who suggests sometime without actually following through,
who is always available at the last minute
but actually never plans,
that is not spontaneity or even ADD.
That is someone who is not making you
or the dating in general their priority.
Does that make sense?
So the first signal is planning.
The second signal is behavior that matches the words.
So what matters is not what something says they want,
it is whether their behavior is congruent
or shows what they want.
The person who says they want a deep connection
and then goes quiet after a good date
is showing you the truth.
Pay attention.
The congruence between words and behavior
is always the tell,
so do not ignore these types of inconsistencies.
So the second signal is behavior that matches words.
If you say you're going to do something
or this is what you're about
but your behavior shows something totally different,
it shows that you're not ready to be committed.
It shows you're not ready in the relationship.
It says you have not prepared yourself
to be in this type of relationship.
And again, these are easy things to fix.
These are not character flaws.
These are not, yeah, this is just the way I am.
No, no, no, no, no.
It's not a character issue.
It's an awareness issue.
It's you going, you know what?
How in the world, even if I did make
the perfect right person,
how in the world would they fit into my life
if my life is so bogged down
or so confusing or so filled
or there's so many loose ends going on
in other parts of my life
that just are taking up my energy, my time, my focus.
You can't have a healthy, developing, wonderful relationship
when you've got a bunch of junk going on
that is getting your attention.
So you either need to cut some things out of your life
or you need to finish those things in your life
or you need to drastically edit what your life is about.
Because some things don't need to be in your life
but they're wanting to because they wanna be.
There are other things in your life
that are there because you allow them to be.
That make sense?
And both of them are probably things
that really don't need to be in your life.
It's like you taking inventory of your life
is a great thing.
You going, do I need this extracurricular activity?
Do I need this commitment to this life?
Group that I've always been a part of for 20 years
Do I need?
this one group of friends that always
Seems to yeah, we have a lot of fun
But we get in trouble a lot
It's like do I need?
You know all this family drama
Or can I just be a part of this family and kind of like opt out of the drama a little bit?
You know what i'm saying
It's about getting your life to the point where it's like
My life has to run in a way
that
not only works
But makes you
A better person i'm not saying be irresponsible. I'm not saying, you know be selfish. I'm not saying
You know don't do good things the things that you know would be good for your life
I'm, just saying take an inventory of your life to go
Hey, are there things in my life
That aren't productive and they're just really robbing me of my time my energy and my strength
For said relationship that could be
That's number one and number two the third signal
for genuine readiness
is
an introduction to their world
A commitment ready person begins to bring you into their life
They introduce you to your family they introduce you to people they care about
They introduce you to their friends
They invite you into spaces that matter them
I'll tell you
One of the things that happened when I was meeting Jackie
was
I took her to the driving range one time. I play golf. I like to play golf
I like to play golf. It's kind of like one of the only things I can do
I don't get to do it a lot
But I like to do it and I can kind of do it
And it was one of those moments where like I wanted to go to the driving range with me and we had been kind
Of out a couple times
And I want to go I didn't have anything
Particularly going on. It was kind of like an off night. It was a midweek
uh night
And I was just going to go to the driving range for an hour and I invite her to go because I was like hey
to me
I was like sharing something that I enjoy and that I like and then I'm kind of good at
Sharing it with her
Because I wanted her to see me do it. I wanted to I wanted her to be involved
I wanted her to sort of appreciate it
And that was actually the moment
When we actually had our first kiss
Was at the driving range after we were done
I was like, well that kind of worked out really good
So that's an example of kind of like some of the things that you would do you would like hey
If you like to do certain things
You know, you can make a fun activity or you can make a connection moment out of it
May not necessarily end up in a passionate kiss ours did but i'm just saying
That's the kind of thing you you introduce them to your world
You the person who keeps you permanently at arm's length from everyone they know
Is keeping you at arm's length from everything that would require them to take this connection seriously
Meaning that
If you're not really inviting them into your space or letting them know anything about your life
It's very difficult for them to get a really good idea
Of who you are what your life is like what your life is about
And sometimes that can be
And sometimes that can be a sort of a warning sign keeping you at a distance includes soft launches
People often do this and try to make you feel like the relationship
Is gaining momentum?
And they're including you in the world without actually including you
In my opinion, this is an immediate deal breaker
so
if they're not
Trying to fold you into their life if everything is about just you and them and you and them only and they and you know
Nothing about like you don't know
eventually
Like what do they do for a living?
Where's where's your side of town like, you know, like just little things not every detail of your intimate life
I'm, just saying you're getting to know this person, but if at some point you're not sharing or they're not sharing their life with you
Then there's probably a pretty good reason for that
They may not be ready
the fourth signal
Is how they handle the first rough spot?
The first time your connection requires actual emotional effort
a conflict a miscommunication
a scheduling difficulty
What do they do? What does the guy do? What does the girl do? Did they flip out? Do they get nervous? Do they?
you know, uh
Do they
Go silent.
You know, what happens when you actually
have your first rough spot?
What do they do?
A lot of how they respond to that situation
says a lot about their readiness,
says a lot about who they are as a person.
It says a lot about how they show up,
because you're going to have a rough spot.
Everyone does.
And everyone reacts differently.
I'm not necessarily saying that how
they react, if you perceive it to be negative,
is bad, because some people can be
really excitable and passionate.
And you just have to know, hey, this
is an excitable, passionate person.
They're going to show up that way.
Now, sometimes you may not like that,
because that may not be like you are
and how you would respond to the situation.
But in a different circumstance, sometimes you
actually want people to show up excited, passionate, energized,
like, hey, you know what's going on,
depending on the circumstance.
So you can't just judge their response by like,
oh, I wouldn't do that.
I wouldn't respond that way.
So therefore, I don't really like them.
But it does show you a lot about who they are.
Do they adjust well when there's a problem?
If they've made a mistake, do they apologize?
If you've made a mistake, are they willing to, you know,
yeah, I understand.
Like, be considerate, be understanding, be forgiving,
that kind of thing, whatever.
Do they adjust?
And they don't just vanish the first time,
because it's just not fun and easy anymore,
because you've actually had a problem.
So number one, first of all, is planning.
Number two is behavior matches words.
Number three, you're introducing them to their world.
And number four is how they handle the first rough spot.
So that's kind of four signs of a person
ready for marriage, versus we're just having fun.
It's romantic.
Everything's great.
Everything's wonderful.
And we're just gonna just make this wonderful
until it's wonderful again.
And that's not, that's romance.
That's romanticizing everything,
and not necessarily dealing with the true readiness
of your heart or their heart
to be in this kind of relationship.
And then there's a couple other points
that she makes about readiness,
commitment-minded versus consumer-minded.
Let me drop this on you real quick,
because I think this is important,
because I think a lot of guys do this.
A lot of, well, let me say this.
I think a lot of guys are showing women this.
They may not necessarily be you guys,
but the other guys that women have experienced
or are experiencing out there,
in contrast to you, are guys sometimes like this.
And that is the difference between the commitment-minded
versus the consumer-minded, okay?
So you may not be consumer-minded.
You may be commitment-minded
in your pursuit of a marriage relationship,
but just so you know what a consumer-minded man is like,
because a lot of the women
that you're trying to get to know
have been dealing with consumer-minded men.
Does that make sense?
So knowing sort of what you're up against,
knowing what's out there,
knowing what the experience has been
previous to you coming along is good to know.
A commitment-minded man,
an individual, makes plans in advance.
A consumer-minded person reaches out
only when it's convenient.
A commitment-minded person,
their behavior matches their words.
A consumer-minded individual says the right words,
but their actions tell a different story.
The commitment-minded person talks about the future
in plural, like, hey, we can do this.
We're gonna do this.
Wouldn't it be great if we could,
they talk about it in the plural.
A consumer-minded person talks about the future,
and it's always singular.
It's always about them and what they want,
but what I'm gonna do and what,
that's a consumer-minded individual.
A commitment-minded individual
lets intimacy deepen over time.
A consumer type of individual
is the same level of emotional access
week after week, month after month.
They expect high emotion up front
and they expect that emotion to sustain all the way through
versus it growing and developing organically and over time.
So high emotion up front is usually pretty dangerous.
Expecting that to last through
because you started with it is also unrealistic.
So it creates someone who is always looking
for the emotional high or the emotional whatever
they wanna get out of the relationship.
The commitment-minded individual
is willing to be inconvenienced by love.
This is where we tell women it's true.
If a guy is into the girl
and he's like falling for her and falling in love,
he is going to be massively inconvenienced
and he doesn't mind it.
He don't care.
He'll spend his last dollar.
He'll go to the ends of the earth.
He'll drive three hours.
He'll talk on the phone all night long.
He'll go to bed late, wake up early
because he's gotta be at work the next morning.
I mean, the guy who is into a girl
and like she's awesome
is going to be inconvenienced by love.
That's a commitment-minded person.
A consumer-minded person wants connection
without any of the conditions.
They want the goods without any of the follow-up.
Without any of the commitment.
Of course, this is where crossing the lines
of sexual intimacy is famous for.
Getting the goods, but now you got the goods
and now you don't gotta commit to it.
That's consumerism.
Last one, a commitment-minded individual
moves toward you even when they're scared.
And confused, they're still moving towards you
even though they don't know the future.
Even though they don't know what's in store.
I married my wife eight months after I met her.
Close to nine months.
It was a short time.
It was a little bit risky.
In my world, I wasn't used to that.
I'd been married for 14 years.
Prior to being married for 14 years,
I dated the same girl through junior high and high school
who I then married 14 years.
So hello, you think I had any experience,
any understanding of meeting someone else
and getting married to them
in an eight-month time period?
Hello.
There were moments when I was like,
ooh, what am I doing here?
And it wasn't enough to frighten me
from abandoning the relationship.
There was more going on.
But it wasn't just, oh, yeah, this is great,
this is wonderful, it's the best, it's wonderful.
Like there wasn't, I had two kids, she had a child,
we had to blend, there were logistics.
I mean, it wasn't like it was a big party.
Hello, there were real things on the line here.
A consumer-minded individual stays the same distance
no matter how long you wait.
They kind of just kind of, they'll go forward
and be close, but not too close.
And then when things get rough,
they're still just kind of still off.
They're like, I'm just kind of waiting
to see how this works out.
That's consumer-minded.
If you're trying to be committed to something,
now I'm not saying that things always work out.
Sometimes things won't work out and you're commitment-minded,
but you're demonstrating your level of commitment
as you are moving towards what you know to be true.
This is kind of like the essence of,
it's a yes or a no, it's a yes or a no.
It's a yes or a no, it's a yes or a no.
It's a yes until it's a no.
You kind of have to be like, hey, I'm committed to this.
I'm saying yes, as long as I can say yes,
and it doesn't become a no
because we've encountered some non-negotiable,
which are important.
We've encountered some situation.
where it's very clear that you're not ready
for a relationship,
or maybe I'm not ready for a relationship, either way.
But that's what I'm saying.
It's a yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
until there comes a good reason for there to be a no.
And this is part of that commitment,
that preparation, the readiness process,
which is more important than the romantic process.
So we have a few minutes here.
Any comments, questions from you guys
about what we talked about tonight?
Anything stand out to you that just kind of makes sense?
Like, wow, that's good, I didn't know that.
That's helpful.
No, a lot of this has been really good for me.
I can't, I was having trouble putting my finger on
like when to hit the no,
because like with this woman that I went out with today,
it was a little bit like everything,
she's very kind and all of that.
There's a lot of good things about her,
but I just don't know how to navigate
the when it's appropriate to pull the record,
because I know she wants to go a little bit more serious,
and I'm not quite there yet.
So this is really good.
I'm looking forward to this book.
Just off the cuff, like not getting really deep with it,
but why don't you think you're there yet?
Just surface real quick.
Oh, I've got a couple other women that I've met
that I don't want to say no to.
Okay, so you still, they're still your level two,
just kind of like you're still dating
and kind of just looking, okay, I get it.
Yeah, and we've only been,
this is I think our third in-person date, though.
It's only been like 30 days, I don't know.
Yeah, so you're just like, yeah, I'm not ready
to make this an exclusive level three type of situation.
Yeah, that's completely normal.
Me.
What's up, Hunter?
Well, yesterday I was in church,
and I met these two girls.
They're now not just single, they're in church,
and she is undeniably a good one, heck of a woman of God.
It's non-disputable.
She is a woman of God, a Christian woman of God.
I asked her and her friend if we want to hang out
and have a little lunch,
but unfortunately it may not be guaranteed
because they're busy during Sundays,
and they have their weekend schedules,
and I didn't ask for the number.
I would wait for that next week.
Do you think I'm making the right move?
I'm trying to balance it out,
and I'm always afraid that if I just go out
and look and try and make it happen,
it will backfire and I would lose.
I would, it will all go bad,
but I also know on Facebook about bad people
and bad experience relationships and toxic,
because a lot of women at my age can see that,
but at the same time, I'm not the kind of person
who lets things go away, saying,
you know what, let's have growth.
Let's not give up.
I mean, here's the thing.
I mean, I think your persistency is amazing,
because you're always coming with, you know,
I'm doing this, I'm doing that,
and you're never usually afraid to go after it,
so I love that.
I don't think you're doing the wrong thing.
I mean, I think you're aware of when things are appropriate
and when they're not appropriate,
so that's always good as well, so.
It's like jujitsu.
You don't, when you get pounded during the mat,
you don't give up.
You can give up, or you can just learn more.
Right, right, exactly.
And I don't give, I don't give,
well, I know how I don't have this give up,
but the thing is, because I don't want to say,
look, I'm not antisocial.
I'm putting myself out there,
but at the same time, I want to ask,
have I, what have I done all those years in this way
has been counterproductive or not?
Yeah, no, it's not counterproductive at all.
It's completely contributing to your success at some point.
I mean, I have no doubt in my mind that at some point,
this is all going to pay off for you in the place,
and so I just, you know, I'm adding my faith to your faith
to believe that, you know,
that person's going to reveal themselves,
you know, sooner than later.
So I think it's great.
And then there's also a thing is,
I'm already 37, I'm going to be,
in a couple of months, I'm going to be 38.
I don't know if I've done anything productive
in those lives.
It's just a number.
40 is the new 20.
So.
No, it's not.
It's the new 30.
It is.
40 is the new 20.
I'll take it.
I'm turning 40 in two months, so.
Yeah, you're just getting started.
No, there really is scientific evidence.
I just heard this the other day.
I'm not a scientist.
I'm not a doctor.
I don't even play one on TV.
I'm just letting you know.
This is what I heard.
And they said that if,
If you actually that's how how did this go if you get your health under control and
You're in your like 40s already and you're heading towards 50
even if you're 50
But especially if you're in your 30s, but if you get your health under control now
Because of the pharmaceuticals and because of the healthcare industry and because the things that are being developed
for longevity
It's actually
Scientifically
behaviorally
Anthropologically sociologically
possible and proven that
People could start really actually living till in well into their hundreds
Because of what's coming medically down the down the pike to promote
Health and growth and like, you know fixing disease and fixing things that are like it's like anyway
That's that's a thing. It's not like a pipe dream
It's actually a thing that that's being written about and studied and everything
so it's kind of interesting, you know, if you're in your 30s and 40s, but even if you're in your 50s and
You're in poor health
You actually still have a chance to get your health straightened out
You could take a couple years and get your health lose weight get your health, you know
Get your habits together eat well and get into a state of well-being
That you could actually extend your life
Another 15 20 years even in your 50s
Beyond what your expectation would be
So in other words if you're in your 50s and you're not healthy
Your life expectancy is severely decreased and you're probably only going to live to you know
Maybe 70 75, you know in that in that range
Maybe late 70s, but you have the possibility even of getting because of the medical advancements
That you have the possibility of getting your health together
Even if you are into your 50s, but even more so if you're 40s even 30s even so more so
possibility of extending
Your life another 20 years
Not that was kind of fascinating
So it really is true that actually, you know, you're just getting started
Anybody else
Nobody else
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