Okay, friends, I'm showing up looking like a little baby chicken hawk this morning to
show you my new book, to show you the book that I've been telling you exists, right?
Just kind of like your future spirit mate.
See, here's proof.
Here's proof that I am not a liar and that you have a future spirit mate.
Just like this book has manifested, so will your spirit mate show up one of these days,
one of these days.
So you guys, I did a little reel on my social media, on my Instagram, go check it out, of
a success story of some of you probably have been around long enough to know Ralph and
Diana, but both of them were students or clients here in this, in this program.
And Ralph started out as just a plain client.
I want to tell you a little background here.
So he, my daughter, my youngest daughter is an amazingly talented musician and singer
songwriter.
And she was involved with all the music people here in Austin when we moved here.
And she got involved in all the worship stuff and all the different things.
Okay.
She went to two different worship schools, just different things happened.
As you guys can see, I'm walking around my house.
This is why I keep my camera off during Supernatural Saturday so I won't distract you with my gorgeous
get out of bed looks.
And also with my constant movement, because I'm always moving during this call.
So she got involved in this big worship community here and she got involved with different musicians
that have, that played all over the city.
And one of these musicians is amazing bass player named Ralph Patterson.
And I met Ralph at some of these music things and she'd like, she'd be like, mom, he's single.
You know, he's a widower.
His wife passed away a long time ago, blah, blah, blah.
Ralph had all these amazing grown sons that were also handsome.
A couple of them were single.
So I was like, well, ask him if he wants to have a chat with me.
And so long story short, Ralph and I got on a phone call where he proceeded to tell me
that he was madly in love with this one woman that was connected to this worship community.
She was actually the mother of one of my daughter's friends.
She was single.
Don't, don't, don't get it twisted.
She wasn't a married woman.
She was the mother of one of my daughter's friends and she was single.
So I started asking him some questions about the situation, trying to discern whether or
not this was a possible love story.
And I saw very quickly that it wasn't.
I saw very quickly that it was one sided, it was on his side.
She might've been leading him on some because she liked the attention.
He was doing a lot of stuff for her and her daughter.
So there might've been some hypergamous.
If you guys don't know what hypergamous is, it's when, you know, you, your life gets elevated
a little bit by someone else.
And so there might've been some of that kind of motivation going on with her, but I could
definitely see there was quite a bit of an age difference.
And I could just see that this was not going to be a love story.
And I told him so, and he really wasn't ready to hear that.
And friends, I always want to tell you what I feel in my heart.
And it's not because I want to rain on your parade.
It's because I really want you to have the slate clean, so to speak, the space open for
whatever it is that God wants to do in your life.
And so I told him and I said, look, I'd love to work with you.
You're an amazing man.
And just because this woman's not interested in marrying you, because he was very marriage
minded.
He was looking for a mate.
He did not want to be single.
He was already 60ish years old and he wanted to be married.
And he also was very active, very fit.
I have never met a man in their sixties that was as fit as him.
He was also, you know, a musician, talented, had a really good day job as well.
I mean, he was the whole package, you guys.
All right.
So he became my client.
After a little while, he saw he, I think he told me he was going to give her till a specific
time because he had made his intentions known.
He wasn't like being mysterious.
So gentlemen, listen, if you like a woman and you're in community with her, be very
upfront about what it is that you want from her.
Do not be mysterious.
Do not just hang around in the friend zone, hoping that one day she's just going to wake
up and be like, I love you.
That's not what's going to happen.
Okay.
She's going to see you as a friend because you have positioned yourself as a friend.
And so let's make sure that we don't do that.
Not that we don't want to be friends with the people that we marry, but there needs
to be that romantic thread running through it.
If that's how you feel, because otherwise you're kind of being dishonest, don't you
If you're hiding your feelings for someone and just pretending that you just like them
as a friend just so that you don't get rejected or they don't run away, that's not really
being honest, is it?
All right?
So we want to be honest.
And don't worry, we're going to do Supernatural Saturday today.
We're going to do a lot of supernatural stuff, but I want to tell the story.
So we started doing our work together.
You guys, I remember those early conversations.
He was very discouraged, very discouraged.
He had been single for a while.
Once again, the whole package, didn't understand.
And ladies, I know that you get discouraged and you're like, oh, it's just hard for us.
Men have it so easy.
It's not true.
There are so many really good guys that have it together that are single because it's hard
to find a woman who is marriage minded.
It's hard to find a woman who has done her work and really has an open heart, you know,
all the things.
Okay.
The next woman, I don't think Ralph would not mind me telling his whole story.
So the next woman that he starts getting a thing for is our trainer, his trainer and
my trainer, because I started going to the same gym as him.
And she's amazing, you guys.
And I love what God does in love stories because it's not just about one person.
And that's what I want to talk to you about today.
It's about all of us and we're all connected and there's so many ebbs and flows and nuances
and threads that get to be pulled during these love stories.
So I start talking to our trainer because they start dating, they start going on dates.
And I start talking to her about where she's at and she's not marriage minded.
So you guys, it's not about finding someone who will go on a date with you or even date
you.
It's about finding someone who's marriage minded.
This woman had gone through a bad divorce and she had a single need son who was now
19 years old.
And he was very volatile in a lot of ways.
And she was really the only person that could deal with him or calm him down.
And while Ralph knew her son and her son liked him, she didn't want to bring anybody else
into the mix.
She's like, I'm never going to get married again.
She's like, this is a hard life because her son was nonverbal.
You know, it's just a lot.
For those of you that have special needs children, you understand that it takes a really special
person to partner with you and that person is out there, just FYI.
But then also you might have the mindset that you don't want to burden another person or
saddle another person with the life that you have to live, right?
And that was her mindset.
She's like, I don't want to bring anyone else in on this.
She's like, I am not going to get remarried.
She said, I like to date.
I want to have companionship.
She's like, but I can tell that he really wants marriage.
That's what he's looking for.
So guys, they only made it three or four dates in because she was honest about what she could
and couldn't do, what she wanted and what she didn't want.
And that is what my new book is going to help you really do is get really honest.
So if you haven't purchased it yet, and if you got it in presale, it's coming, all right,
you're going to have it this week and you're going to be happy.
But I did send you an email with the PDF version so you can go ahead and start reading and
your coupon for the book club.
And I'll talk all about that in a second.
Well, let me just go ahead and talk about that real quick.
There's a book club that's going to start May 25th is Memorial Day.
That will be the day that you're let into the club, okay?
And then we will be having the sessions, five sessions, one a week.
And these are going to be sessions where I don't just read this book to you because this
book you guys is not just a book.
This book is a field guide to make this your summer of love.
If you want to have a summer of love, this book is going to help you have one.
Because we are going to get down into autopsying your dating life.
We're going to truly build your non-negotiable and preferences list.
We are going to get down into what to look for on the first couple of dates.
I'm going to teach you basically how to date like a matchmaker.
What I help Ralph do, what I've helped so many people do as their one-on-one coach,
as their one-on-one matchmaker, I'm going to help you do for a fraction of the price,
$25 for that book.
And then if you go to the book club, you're going to actually get me as your coach.
And if you bought it in pre-sale, then it's $47, and if you didn't, then it's $97 for
the book club and worth every little tiny penny of that.
We are going to do all this work that's in this book together over those five weeks.
And by the end, you're going to be clear.
You are not going to even entertain someone who's not on the same page as you, and you're
going to know really quickly if they are.
It's going to be beautiful.
And then at the end of our five weeks together, I am going to teach you how to be the matchmaker.
Yes.
Because the girl that I'm talking about right now that was our trainer, that said
She wasn't ready for love.
You guys.
It didn't mean she was never going to be ready.
It just meant when he crossed her path, she wasn't ready for
love and I stayed her client.
And I continue to sew into her faith and I continue to talk to
her about, you know that she didn't have to be disqualified.
And guess what?
She got married to much later.
She's happily married to now.
Right much later than him, but she still got married and I'm
just telling you guys it's it's doesn't make these people bad.
I mean some of them are bad.
Okay, but it doesn't make them all bad.
If you show up and they're not ready.
They're just not ready.
They're not your person because it's not the right timing for
them. They haven't done enough work to partner with you.
And that's why you can turn their sails to the wind and you
can send them on their way.
Right because and this is and this is what gets rid of that
dumb idea that we have that there's just one.
There's not just one.
I just told you about two amazing women that one client of
mine encountered on his dating journey.
Both of them would make amazing wives.
Both of them were not ready.
Both of them had gone through tragic divorces.
One of them had a special needs child.
The other one was a single mom trying to make it happen wasn't
ready to bring another person into her life.
They weren't ready.
They weren't and I've stayed in relationship with one of those
women and she's an amazing incredible woman incredible wife
incredible bonus mom to the new sons that she has now her son
has brothers and guess what he's flourishing her special needs
son is flourishing in this new dynamic.
It's a really amazing situation and on all accounts and I got
to be part of all these love stories and I love it.
I love it so much.
But here's the thing by the end of that five weeks.
I'm going to teach you how to make connections connect the
dots in your own friend groups in your own communities because
this only works if we bring back the village and that is what
this book is all about.
This book is all about bringing back the village.
We've got to bring back the village.
That is what's missing it is and so if we bring back the village
then guess what you get a spouse and you get a spouse and you
get a spouse and everybody gets a spouse and so that's what we
have to do.
All right.
I have a lot of amazing marriage minded women in my community.
I want you to join so he joined the community and he quickly
became a star here because he is very gregarious and loves
people and you know, he started he started doing exactly what
I want you guys to do.
He started doing exactly what I want you guys to do.
He started loving on people.
He started speaking life into people.
He started telling women.
Hey, you don't deserve that.
You shouldn't settle for that.
He wasn't flirting with them.
He wasn't trying to match with them, but he was becoming a
big brother.
He was becoming a father in some ways to women here and then
one of the women in our community.
I was like, hey, I was like you guys, what do you think you
know, and here's what here's one of the things you guys and
we'll do this in the book club.
Some of you think that your preferences are non-negotiables.
You do and Ralph had a preference disguised as a non-negotiable
that he would not relocate.
He thought it was a non-negotiable.
I'm not going to relocate.
He told me that from the very first day.
We talked.
He said Jackie.
He said this is this what I'm looking for.
And my only deal breaker is I'm not going to I'm not going to
relocate.
I let him have it you guys.
I let him have it knowing that there was no earthly reason why
he couldn't.
Relocate he's in his 60s.
His kids are all grown.
They have their own people.
He doesn't have a job.
He already works remotely for the job.
He can work from anywhere.
Right?
He just didn't want to relocate and I get that.
He had a community here.
He had a life here.
Yeah, you know all the stuff.
So he wasn't even willing and when he first talked to this
woman that I'm talking about he didn't even in his mind give
her a chance because she lives in New York and she still had
two daughters in high school.
So she could she couldn't relocate.
Right?
I'm talking to someone this morning.
If the shoe fits, you don't put it on.
You gonna tie it up and you gonna wear it this morning.
Okay.
She all of a sudden supernaturally started to have to
come to Austin for her job.
She had to take business trips to Austin.
So they ended up meeting in person and one of the crazy
fun times that they met in person Ralph actually was entertaining
another woman from our.
program that like there was a big group date and they invited her to come as well but he
kind of had his eyes on and was trying to talk to or she was trying to talk to him and
this other woman that he ended up marrying kind of felt like uh you know I don't really
know that he was really paying any attention to me or whatever and once again it was because
of the relocation.
This marriage minded man knew he was only dating for mating and he wasn't interested
in getting to know someone who did not live here but something shifted he realized that
he was really attracted to this woman that she was really amazing and they had a lot
in common and they began to talk long story short the stuff that I told him on all those
calls hey there's someone for you I know that you're picking people that are not ready and
that they're not interested but there's someone who's ready and interested and it happened
you guys and I actually got to set up their proposal I was behind the camera in that video
on my Instagram that's me with my camera in the way blocking the sink and getting down
on the ground proposing and you didn't see it because I cut it off at the end but David
Dorman and his beautiful big booty jumped in there and he was in the way and then I
had to cut that part out so after the hug when they're talking to each other I had to
cut all that out because David has his camera and he's all all up in the mix okay so they've
been married for several years now and guess what the last daughter just graduated from
high school and guess what I just heard that they're moving back to Austin yes it all ends
well right doesn't it here's the other problem a lot of you aren't willing to do something
that you don't want to do even temporarily not understanding that life is temporary life
is temporary there isn't anything that's going on in your life right now that's permanent
your life is seasonal life is seasonal you guys are you listening whether you hate what
you have to do right now or you love what you have to do it's not going to continue
it's going to pivot it's going to change it's going to morph it's going to be different
and turn my camera off so I can run around faster because I'm done looking at y'all and
you're done looking at me now I want to get into the nitty-gritty of the super naturalness
of this Saturday because God is trying to make us willing to be willing in his day of
power did you guys know that that's the scripture God make us willing to be made willing in
your day of power I believe that we're living in the day of power I do I believe that we've
been in the day of power for some time now we're here but your love story may really
change your life in more ways than one I know you're like well it's gonna change my life
because I'm gonna have this amazing partner to do life with yeah but it's gonna probably
most likely most certainly change a lot more than just that and the reason why I want to
focus on this is because so many people and this is the kind of work we're gonna do in
this book club you might have made your little deal-breaker list when you are back in the
heart work and there are some new people probably on here in heart work let's see your hands
if you're kind of new and you're still in the heart work phase of our program don't
mail that in Karen that's an important phase that's gonna be a life-changing phase you're
gonna diffuse all the bombs all the bombs in your heart that you don't know about are gonna
be diffused so that they don't blow up later and destroy your potential relationships look at all
these heart workers you guys come on in the chat give them some hands up give them some hearts
they're doing the real work right now they're doing the real work they're doing the real work
look at all those people okay someone's unmuted gotta meet him okay so friends
I've been watching I've been looking and the things that I felt were in the way of singles
lives the most based on all the singles that I've worked with for the last six years only
not even in my former life not even then just the last six years and I really unpack that
coaching in this book so if you can't join the book club cool definitely get the book if you
don't already have it if you ordered in pre-sale it's coming it is coming and in the meantime
please open that email go look for it in your trash bin
If you didn't see it, mark it safe so that you can get more emails and read that PDF.
Just go ahead and start reading that, you know, that Kindle version of the book.
So Father God, we're so thankful for your goodness and your love to us.
We're so thankful, Lord, that you are making a way for us to have success in life.
You are.
It's not your intention that we be in small places.
You've enlarged the space of our tent.
You've told us to stretch so that we can enlarge the place of our tent.
You want to give us more.
You are the God of more.
You are the God of blessing.
You are the Father of lights from which good and perfect gifts come from.
And so Lord, we thank you for that.
We thank you for that this morning.
We're asking that you would shift our belief systems towards that.
In Jesus name.
Amen.
Guys, I made another funny Instagram reel.
If you don't follow me on Instagram, you're missing out because I'm a kook, all right?
And if you need a good laugh, you're going to have it over there with me.
But I'm a kook that also is very wise.
So I'm going to make you laugh while you're learning something because God has given me
a revelation gift and I put it in the videos.
I make you laugh and then I make you learn and it's good.
But one of the videos I just did was of a sweet couple, this woman getting proposed
to at 90 years old in the old folks home, in the nursing home.
This man, bless his heart, he got down on one knee and I was like, he's not getting
up without assistance.
Like there is no way that man is getting up from that kneeled position without two nurses
coming over and helping him.
So he got down there and asked her to marry him and she said yes.
And first of all, this video is adorable because it proves that there's someone for everyone.
But the reason why the take I wanted to take on it, and so you watched the little clip
of the video, it's called A Stitch, and then my big head pops up and I start talking, right?
About the video.
And what I said about this video is that the Christian theology around dating and marriage
reminds me of this video because so many people believe that God has them in this endless
waiting room.
They're not ready yet.
They're not ready.
I want to explain something to you.
Marriage between a man and a woman is for this life.
It's not for the afterlife.
It's not for eternity.
We are all going to be connected in the beloved, in a place of intimacy with each other through
Christ.
And I don't mean sexually, so don't say, Jackie said heaven's a big orgy.
No, I didn't.
That's not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is, is that we are not the same in heaven, okay?
The man and the woman marriage is a foreshadowing of the intimacy that's to come in heaven.
It's for now.
It's not for later.
So why in the world would a God who's way smarter than any of us, way wiser than any
of us, hold out on you in the very area of maturity he created to refine you?
Please riddle me that.
Riddle me that.
Why?
Is he waiting for your Medicare to kick in?
Is that what needs to happen here?
No.
Friends, this is this theology that's been created.
This is what happens.
This is what happens in churches when there's some problem that cannot be explained.
Whether it's why your person didn't get healed or why a person in your family didn't get
healed or why you can't have a baby right now because it's not working out or why you're
single and you don't want to be.
We create theology to try to, you know, get people to stop talking about their pain, right?
We're tired of hearing people harp about it.
We don't have the answer to it.
So we create theology that's like, oh, well, you know, you're just not ready yet.
You know, just wait on God.
It's going to be okay.
Just wait on God.
God just has you in a waiting season.
What?
No, he doesn't.
Most of the things that people are waiting on in this life that we tell them they're
waiting on are things that are only for this life.
They're only for now.
And what are they doing?
They're refining you and getting you ready for what's next, for eternity.
They're stretching you.
making you more like Christ.
They're stretching you.
Did you guys realize that marriage
is a sanctification process?
Marriage is going to sanctify you.
It's going to stretch you.
It is going to refine you.
It is part of how you become more like Jesus
if you're doing it right.
If you're surrendering and not fighting,
if you're releasing,
if you're allowing the other person to be happy too
by compromising some of the things that you want
for what they want.
You're stretching yourself.
You're serving each other.
You're submitting to one another in love.
You know?
It's for now, you guys.
And so if you're one of the people
that I made that video for
that's just been believing that,
you know, one of these days,
God's finally going to pull your number in heaven
like the terrible DMV that it is,
and you're going to get called back to the desk
and you're finally going to get
winner winner chicken dinner.
No, heaven is not a casino.
God's not a mob boss.
Right?
Marriage is not a slot machine.
None of that.
None of that's true.
What's really true is the curse.
And the curse looks different on everybody's lives
and it causes different problems for different people.
Some of you have gotten married before
and you did not have a good run of it.
And whether you know it or not, you're still blocked.
You're still suspicious.
You still have a hard time letting people
in and trusting people.
Others of you are so anxious.
You'll take anyone.
I was going to say with a penis and a pulse.
Jesus, forgive me.
And one of those things you don't even need,
and I won't tell you which one it is.
So the bottom line is that we need you.
Me and God need you this morning to understand
that he's not holding out on you.
If you don't get anything else
from the Supernatural Saturday,
except that God is not holding out on you, he's not.
Friends, he refines us through relationship.
You don't need to go sit in the waiting room and be refined.
You can't even be refined there.
If it's just you and God,
you're only going to get to a certain level of maturity
because it's human beings that refine you.
It's human beings that you have to do repair with
in relationships.
Am I right?
It's human beings that rub you the wrong way.
It's human beings that trigger you
and cause stuff to come out from the deep places
that you have to deal with.
All of you that are in heart work,
the revealing for the healing,
it only happens with humans.
We've got to have human relationship.
That's why God said it wasn't good for man
to be alone in the garden.
All of this was foreshadowed, friends.
Two are better than one.
We're better together.
We help each other see the fullness of God.
He made us in his image and in each other,
we should be able to see the fullness of God.
Do you understand that?
God is both masculine and feminine.
When we come together,
we should be able to see what God looks like.
By the way, I'm thinking about the Catholics right now
because I'm doing a thing with the Catholics on Sunday.
I'm speaking at their singles thing,
so the Catholic singles.
So if that pertains to you, go look.
I'll put it back up in, I think it's in my reels.
If you look in my reels,
you'll see the advertisement for it.
But the reason why I'm thinking about that
is because the Catholics believe
that marriage is a sacrament, okay?
Because I went to Catholic school.
If you're like, Jackie, how do you know that?
Because I went to Catholic school, that's why.
All right, so bottom line is,
is that you're endued with a gift and you are.
You are.
Jesus talks about that gift in Matthew 17.
Matthew 19 or 17.
I'm not really sure right now
because I just had a brain menopause fog come over my mind.
But he talks about it.
His disciples are like, marriage is hard.
And he's like, you're not wrong.
Marriage is hard.
But if you've been given a gift,
this sacrament, this gift, this grace,
he's like, you should do it.
This is the way your heavenly father created you.
And then Paul uses the same word as Jesus
in the famous speech to the Corinthians,
1 Corinthians 7, 7, 7, actually,
where he says, I wish all of you had the gift
that I have, to be single.
Why?
Because Paul thought his life was over.
was easier. I don't know why. I mean, shipwrecks, snakebites, imprisonments. I mean, sounds
like a fun time, Paul. Seriously. Sign me up. He had his own refining process, as you
can see very clearly. It's funny that he would choose shipwrecks and snakebites and imprisonments
over a woman in his house. Makes you wonder what women were doing back then. Nagging.
Stop leaving your sandals everywhere. The stinky fish has been laying here for three
days. When are you going to throw it away? I just assumed that all they ate was fish
because I feel like that's all they ate and I don't know why. All right. So bottom line,
it's only hard when your heart is hard. Right? And so when anything's hard in life, friends,
we just need to say to God, hey, this is a really hard area of my life. It might not
be your love life. It might be relationship with your kids, relationship in general, friendships,
it could be finances, whatever it is. But when it's hard, we have to say, hey God,
I need you to show me how my heart is hard. I need you to help me soften my heart in this
area so you can get new information. What's the purpose of having a softened heart? Because the
parable of the sower and the seed talks about how our hearts are the fertile soil of our lives.
And if you feel like I'm recapping some heart work today, I am. And I know there's people that
are just in the thick of it because they're in heart work phase in this program. But a lot of you
haven't been there in a long time. And it's time to revisit that because that parable of the sower
is really important. It's talking about how the quality of our lives come from the quality of
our hearts. That is a scripture. The quality of your life comes and flows out of the quality of
your heart. Guys, it's currently in America. It's still considered spring, even though here in Texas
it's hotter than hell's front porch. But it's still considered spring. And that's the getting
the ground ready season. That's the plowing season. That's the tilling season. That's where
you're getting all the fallow ground, all the hard ground from winter broken up so that you can plant.
It's the planting season. God wants to put new information in your heart. And in these areas where
things have been so hard and you haven't gotten any fruit, nothing's growing in these hard areas of
your finances or your job or your health or whatever, wherever you're stuck. It's time to pray
that surrender prayer from heart work. It's time to supernaturally surrender and allow God to plow
up that fallow ground, that hard ground in that area of your heart and all the lies in it and
plant new truth inside of you. New things, new revelations, new opportunities. God wants us to
bear fruit. He wants us to bear fruit. He prunes us so that we can bear fruit. He course corrects
us so that we can bear fruit. When we're going the wrong way, a million miles an hour, he's the
person that puts up the detours and the delays and the roadblocks so that we don't drive off the cliff.
He loves us. He loves us in a way that we can't even comprehend because that love is so supernatural
and it's so unconditional. He loves us. So stop fighting it. Gotta stop fighting it. It's time for
supernatural surrender again. I was talking to someone on the phone. I was doing a coaching call
this week and I was talking to them because they're very, very unhappy with their weight. I mean to the
point where they sent me a video. And by the way, for those of you like, how do you coach with Jackie?
I haven't been taking coaching clients. I've just been finishing up the ones that I have had in the
past and I am going to open a window because I didn't travel this year. You guys, last year,
a couple of years previous, I have had a huge, crazy, hectic schedule. The good news is I am
going to come to some of your cities and have in-person book parties. Okay, that's going to be
fun. But besides that, I have a pretty non-travel year and I'm going to take some coaching clients.
So if that's something that you're
interested in, please remember that you're coaching with me and that means that the investment
is higher.
So do not get over here and get offended.
But if you feel like that you're in that ballpark to do that, you can email us.
Otherwise, we have other amazing one-on-one coaches for you.
But I was coaching and I got the little video.
They were trying on a dress.
They have a wedding to go to and it just, you know, they were trying to just squeeze
10 pounds of sausage in a five-pound casing, okay?
And trust me, I'm through menopause now, okay?
I'm considered, Jesus, help me.
I'm considered post-menopausal.
What has even happened?
I don't even understand.
One day, you know, you're just happy.
You're just doing your life and the next day the hot flashes come for you and then this
comes for you and then you don't eat any differently and then all of a sudden the scale
goes up 35, 40 pounds, you're like, whoa, this is real right here.
You look at yourself in the mirror, you look like the Crypt Keeper, you got all kinds of
crepey skin that wasn't there literally the night before, literally the night before.
And then you wake up and you're like, what happened?
Did I get hit with the ugly stick in my dreams?
Like what has happened here?
Has the old mother of time come for me?
I'm not sure, but that has happened.
So no shade, friends.
But in this particular person's life, I just felt a word of knowledge and this happens
often that this was not purely physical and you guys, we're not purely physical beings.
Nothing that's happening in your physical body is purely physical.
It's tied to belief systems, it's tied to habits and patterns.
And you know what those habits and patterns are tied to?
Belief systems.
Do you think that your habits and patterns came from nowhere?
I really want you to answer that in the chat.
Do you really believe that they came from nowhere?
Behavior follows identity, friends.
It's always an identity problem.
It's always a problem of your belief systems and the lies that you're believing about yourself,
about others, about God, about men, about women, about marriage, about community, about
friendship, about health.
Remember, hope deferred makes the heart sick.
For those of you that are in heart work, you're going to do my hope session soon.
Hope deferred makes the heart sick.
And what do sick hearts do?
They go looking for medication.
That's what they do.
And so many of us are in a dopamine loop where all we do is medicate, medicate, medicate,
medicate, medicate.
Whether it's scrolling on social media mindlessly, whether it's watching television mindlessly,
whether it's eating mindlessly, we're just looking for comfort instead of change.
And that's what was going on with this client.
She had not dealt with the deeper wounds of sexual abuse.
And I will tell you, and I know you're not going to want to hear it, but I'm going to
tell you that if you have a problem with obesity, it's not just because you're big
boned.
All right.
I love you.
I bless you, but it's not.
Okay.
A lot of times it's actually hurt.
It's actually hurt.
And God wants to heal that hurt.
It's an insulation process where you've insulated yourself and where you've comforted yourself
and where your body has responded.
I know so many people that deal with obesity that don't overeat.
I know that there's a stereotype about, oh, you know, they must be pulling up to the buffet
every day.
That's not true.
Your body is actually responding hormonally and physiologically to the pain that you're
carrying.
And I've also seen, you know, so many of my students have supernaturally lost like over
a hundred pounds after they got healed in their hearts.
It's like the things that they tried before didn't work and the things that they tried
after worked.
And so I want to just encourage someone out there that's listening.
This client, I encouraged her the same way.
I said, look, hon, I said, I know that, you know, you want to do this.
You want to do that.
I said, the GLP could be a Kickstarter for you because she was talking about the GLP.
I'm not going to get into that stuff.
Some of you may be really against it.
Some of you guys might be really for it, but you know, for her getting a kickstart in the
right direction.
But here's the thing, friends, nothing is going to work until we do the heart work.
It might work temporarily, but it's not going to work long term until our patterns and our
identity shifts.
Got it?
So let's heal from the inside out.
Yes, do the outside stuff.
Try the stuff.
If you've been wanting to try it, try it.
The half-life of that drug is... that peptide is five days.
So if you don't like the ride, you can get off.
You have to take... you have to take a shot of that every week.
So if you don't like it, you can actually get off of it.
And my advice about that would be, and once again, please don't write into me.
I'm not a doctor.
I'm not even a...
I'm nothing.
I'm just a person with nothing, no credentials in this area.
But three of the people I love the most that live in... like one of them lives in my house,
my husband, my daughter, my daughter-in-law-to-be have been on these peptides at a very micro
dose.
That is the key.
At a very micro dose.
These people that go on these high levels of this, almost all of them have very, very,
very rapid weight loss, bone loss, muscle loss.
And then as soon as they stop, they gain all the weight back and more.
You guys don't do that.
That's dumb.
They've been on a micro dose of this and guess what?
Their blood sugar has regulated, their insulin resistance has regulated.
I'm talking about small doses, the smallest dose you can get, okay?
And they feel really clear in their mind.
Somehow it helps with ADD, I don't know how.
And they also have lost a couple pounds here and there.
But the inflammation loss is insane, you guys.
Literally one week later, blood work looks completely different.
My husband's high blood pressure is down.
He's also taking something for that, but his blood pressure is down.
Their faces look different because I guess you carry a lot of inflammation in your face.
I don't know, friends.
But it was enough for me to try it because I'm like, well, I'm not going to let this
train pull out of the station without me on it.
And so I tried it as well and I'm one week on a tirazepatide compounded GLP.
Once again, this is not an advertisement for this, okay?
You pray about it.
But if this was your sign that you needed to go ahead and try, very, very low dose,
functional health doctors, nurse practitioners, not from the internet.
It's very inexpensive if you do it the way that I'm talking about, very inexpensive.
And then very, very low, low dose.
It barely, barely, barely, barely does anything with food noise or like herbs appetite.
It just really lowers inflammation.
And so I definitely am a proponent of that for myself and for the people that I'm observing.
For you, I don't know.
You'd have to pray about it.
All right.
I don't know what else I want to say about that, but there are things you can do that
help the outside you guys, but we got to work on the inside.
You'd be amazed at what happens when you get clear in your heart.
You'd be amazed.
I'm going to say this so gently because I love you so much, but you'd be amazed at what
happens when you stop hating yourself.
I'll never forget when someone said this to me and you guys, they didn't say it gently.
All right.
Let me just say that.
This is not a gentle person that said this to me.
One day I was talking about doing something.
I was always trying to fix the outside.
I was always trying to fix something about myself.
I was always trying to get up earlier and work harder and do all the things.
And they just literally said one day there was like, well, Jack, you just hate yourself.
And I was like, I thought they were kidding.
And I was like, I just laughed.
And they were like, no, they're like, you have a lot of self-hatred.
This has been a while ago.
And I was like, okay.
You know, in the moment I was like, okay, whatever.
And then I left that moment and I was like, God, is that true?
And he's like, yeah.
And I'm like, oh, no.
Guys, I was just running myself into the ground.
And the funny thing is, is that, that's not funny.
I was caring for all kinds of other people because I've always been a person that serves
others and loves others and helps others.
And I was literally destroying myself helping others because I hated myself.
I wanted good things for other people.
I didn't want good things for me.
Who does that resonate with?
Let's see.
Anybody else?
Anybody else hurting themselves, helping other people?
Okay, Suzanne's asking GOP.
Isn't that like the name of the Republican Party or something?
thing? No, not the G-O-P, the G-L as in love P.
Yeah, I tried all that stuff, Regina. None of that worked for me. So, I did all of that.
Different strokes for different folks. You guys, let's not turn this into a health thing.
This is why we very rarely talk about stuff like this because people just run down this
road. I want to talk about your heart work right now. Yes, Tina, thank you for reminding
me. So, the dream I had last night, well, the dream that I had this morning right before
I woke up was that I was being presented with a bride's, what is it called? I'm sure this
is just for really rich people or royalty, but I was being presented with like a case
and when you open the case, it had all the bridal jewelry in it. All the necklaces for
the wedding, all the rings and the ring was going to be an emerald, not a diamond. Yeah,
a dowry. Yeah, kind of Lauren, sort of a dowry, but also like all of the fabric samples of
all the different dresses that I was going to wear during all the different events of
the wedding. It's an interesting dream, isn't it? I mean, obviously, I'm a married woman,
but for those of you that want to grab ahold of that, your father loves you. That's how
brides get treated. Gentlemen, you are the bride of Christ as well. Do not forget. And
all of the stuff was really very customized to my taste. And some of it was like a surprise.
Some of it was like, yeah, that makes sense. I really love that. And then some of it was
like very nice, but kind of a surprise, sort of an invitation into something different
and more. Does that make sense? All right. Well, I know for those of you that show up
tomorrow night, you're going to get some more heart work going on because I believe Bethany
will be with you tomorrow night because Candy has other obligations. And so it'll either
be Bethany or David with you tomorrow night to continue this conversation. But I want
to ask you guys some old heart work questions. And for those of you that are brand new in
the heart work, just know that we are revisiting this and we don't usually do this on Supernatural
Saturday, but I think it's really important. So I'm going to ask you some questions from
the very first chapter of the book and you're going to answer in the comments. Do you believe
that God is emotionally involved in your life? You guys don't lie. Do you believe that God
is emotionally involved and invested in your life? You, not someone else. I know you believe
good things for other people, but you believe that God deeply cares about every single thing
that happens to you. Some people being honest here, they're like, sometimes I do. Other
people say, no, I don't feel that way. Not completely. Other people saying at times I
do. Other people saying I'm trying to. I love these answers, you guys. Sometimes, but
mostly no. Someone said he showed me this week. So this week, yes. Yes, I do this week
because he showed me, but not always probably. When it isn't too much in my head, but in
my heart, I doubt it. You guys, these are such good answers. For those of you that come
on Sunday, I want you guys to answer the question of when you knew God was reaching out to you
in a specific way through a person, a sign, experience, any other encounter. That's going
to be the assignment. David will probably be with you because he didn't get to do faith
Friday. You guys get to tell your testimonies of when you knew God was emotionally involved,
the moment that you saw him reaching out to you, whether it was through a person, a sign,
experience, any other encounter. That's going to be a fun testimony time of the different
ways that you've seen God reach out.
But I want to skip down to the next question.
What are you hoping will happen in your life before the end of May?
Even this coming week, what do you hope will happen in your life?
It could just be the beginning of it.
People need clarity.
Other people, they just want to meet the man, get a job, get a full-time job, an interview,
a new job, clarity, direction, healing, work will be less stressful, finish some paintings,
deep healing, motivation.
Jodi wants motivation to come.
Michelle wants to go on another date with her David, David, new job opportunities.
Joy needs healing in her shoulder, in Jesus' name.
Leslie's like, I don't care.
I just want a surprise.
Just surprise me, Lord.
Alexa wants the most stuff to happen in one week.
She wants a man of God, more kids, she wants to start a non-profit.
Alexa, you probably mean just in general, what do you want?
If all that happened in one week, that would be a lot of stuff.
Before the end of May, you want to know where you're going to work, where you're going to
be, a lot of stuff.
Before the end of May, you want to know where you're going to work.
Allison just wants to start dating.
Guys, these are all really good.
And pieces and parts of this can for sure happen in one week, and a lot can happen.
Can I tell you something?
A lot can happen in a month.
A lot can happen in six months, and a lot can happen in a year.
I want to revisit my heartwork season when I was doing my heartwork, you guys, when God
was giving me heartwork and teaching me about heartwork, and I was doing that.
And then one day, out of nowhere, a man and his two kids moved in next door to me.
And the rest is history.
You guys know that we're going to celebrate 20 years of marriage next year?
Like, yeah, Jackie, you're going to celebrate it someday.
No, next year.
20 years of marriage, and we're already trying to plan.
Like, what do we want to do?
Do we want to have a vow renewal?
Would all of you come to our vow renewal?
Wouldn't that be fun?
We threw ourselves a 20-year wedding.
Oh, my gosh.
I feel like I'm starting to have a kooky, crazy, harebrained scheme coming in my mind.
My favorite kind.
Oh, my gosh, wouldn't it be fun if everyone brought their person and came to that?
And then we had, like, a singles thing the day before for everyone who didn't have a
person, and then more people met their people before it.
Oh, my gosh.
Don't tell David.
I will very lightly float the idea to him.
Okay.
So much can change, you guys, in a week, in a month, in six months, in a year.
So much can change when we change.
That's what I want to add to the end of it.
So much can change when we change.
And here's the thing that should really help you.
Change is not on you.
It's on God.
You can't change yourself.
All you can do is surrender.
Karen put up her hand.
She's in the heart work right now.
Karen, you can't change yourself.
Only God can change.
All you can do is surrender.
I don't remember who else put their hands up.
I just remember seeing Karen.
You guys, listen.
If you surrender every single day, remember that permission slip wasn't just a one and done.
Every single day, go get your book.
Go dig it out.
God can shift stuff overnight.
Right, Mandy?
He can.
Mandy and I are thinking alike.
He can do it.
You don't need to go sit in some waiting room to get ready.
The way that you get ready is through God.
from supernatural surrender.
The way that you get ready is from relationships and repair.
That is how it happens.
Yes, you will date a few people that aren't the person.
Yes, you will have encounters that don't lead to marriage.
That's the point.
With every encounter, you're going to become more clear
about what it is that you need and what you want
and where you are.
And that's just in your love life.
Some of you have been entertaining jobs way below
your talent, your gift level,
because you've just gotten to a comfort zone.
It's like, well, you know, it almost pays the bills.
So, you know, it's...
And you've also bought into the belief
that we're in a scarcity economy.
You guys let that go.
That crap is always on the television.
Turn the TV off.
You're like, well, the gas is high.
I don't care.
That's called politics.
All the money is still on the earth.
No money has left the earth.
There's no scarcity economy.
Will you hear me, please?
If you believe that and buy into that,
it's going to affect you.
You are going to live in scarcity
because you believe that there's scarcity.
I promise you, there's all the resources that were here
are still here.
Just because we're not taking someone else's oil anymore
and we're not drilling our own, that's on them.
This is politics we're talking about.
This is not real.
All the gold's still here.
All the jewels are still here.
All the money's still here.
All the resources are still here.
It's all here.
Everything is here still.
And guess what?
The gifts and talents, the treasure that you are,
because the Bible says that he hid treasure in earthen vessels.
So, guess what?
You're the treasure.
And you're still here.
And some company is going to thank their lucky stars
if they don't know God.
Or they're going to thank God in heaven
that you came across their path
and you became part of their team.
And they're going to pay you what you're worth.
Do not hang out with people that have a scarcity mentality.
Do not be a person who has a scarcity mentality.
Do not work for people who have a scarcity mentality.
If your company has a scarcity mentality,
they don't reward their employees, their team members.
They don't treat them well.
They use them to build their thing.
You want to work for a company that uses its thing to build you,
not the other way around.
So, start praying for that.
Not everyone's an entrepreneur.
I'm not going to sit here and tell you,
oh, well, go build your own business,
because that's not a real thing.
Being an entrepreneur is really hard
and not everyone's cut out for that.
And if you are, then you know what?
You got to go after it.
Yes, you're going to fail, but that's part of success.
And you need to fail if you're an entrepreneur.
The rest of you are going to build people,
other people's visions,
but those visions should be building you at the same time
if you work for the right people and for the right companies.
And you're going to love your life.
You're going to love your job.
You're going to love the people that you work with.
You're going to love what you get to do every day.
And if that is not your reality,
then you need to start praying,
God, give me something to do with my gifts and talents
that helps other people,
that I get to work in an environment
where I love my co-workers,
I love going to work,
I love what I get to do,
I love how I'm treated,
and I love how I'm compensated.
Do you hear me?
Come on.
All right.
I'm going to pray the permission prayer over you all,
and then we are going to go ahead and let you go.
Because I want you to revisit this.
It's important to me.
And then you guys can go dig it out somewhere
and show up on Sunday night.
Father God, I give you permission.
Father, if you guys agree with this,
just agree with it,
as I just declared over you.
Father God, we give you permission to search us
and to reveal anything in our hearts
that does not belong to our true identity.
Anything that's hindering us from living the life
that you created us to live.
Holy Spirit, we invite you
into the darkest places of our hearts.
Show us the areas that are still wounded,
that are still hurting.
And when you reveal these broken places to us,
we covenant with you to release them into your care
and to respond with forgiveness and repentance.
We set aside this season of our lives
for a time of healing, wholeness and abundance.
And we ask Holy Spirit to take charge of this process.
We ask that you dwell with us and in us.
We need you.
We cannot heal ourselves.
We want to be free from the past,
free to be who we truly are.
are, help us to become who you created us to be.
Show us the lies we've believed about ourself, our lives, our surroundings, even the lies
that we have believed about you.
Teach us the greater truth.
Teach us your ways.
Teach us how to think and how to live abundantly.
Teach us, show us, heal us, and grow us.
Amen.
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