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Hey, everyone. Hey, Kimberly. Welcome. Hey, Cianne. Welcome, hey, girl. Hello. Hey, Kimberly, is this your first time on Monday? Yes. So cool. Welcome. Yeah. Are you in one of the cohorts right now?

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Be nice. Okay. I think I'm the only one in there. Okay. Yeah. Good for you. That's cool. Well, welcome to this call that I've been doing in the community for a couple of years now.

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And yeah. Hey, Lauren. Good to see you on here. Welcome. Love to see your beautiful face. If you're able to go on camera and if not, that's cool too.

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It's good to see you here. Well, wow, you guys will welcome. I'm Danielle Shaw. I've been running mindset Monday in the Rainmaker community for over two years now. I have not skipped a Monday.

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And this is just my joy and my gifting to inspire, encourage and coach you all around your minds because for you to go to the next level in your business, your brain has to match it.

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Your thoughts have to match where you want to go. And the reality of it is, sometimes we can have negative nasty thoughts, just one thought has the power to put us into a ditch, right?

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Or to put us into Stuckville is what I like to call it. And Stuckville is a really interesting place. It's just where you're feeling stuck, right? We've all been there. We'll be there again.

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And, and it's really unique, the entrepreneur, right? Because you're, you're the one who is in charge of making your own decisions, right? Nobody's waking up telling you, hey, you need to go do this, this and that, right?

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You, and so I think the battle in the mind can be really daunting sometimes, right? For the person who's the visionary, right? For those of you who are building. So, so a reminder that what you think is directly connected to your results right now in your life.

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So if there's an area of your life where you're feeling stuck, then the most beneficial and powerful thing that we can do is discover where is there a thought that is, is keeping you stuck.

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And our brains are so good at keeping us safe. God actually gave us brains to keep us safe. So, it's actually a good thing that we feel fear or we feel certain emotions, right? Because we want to protect ourselves from certain things that would harm us.

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However, our brains do not know the difference when it's a bear running at us or a business investment, right? Our brain doesn't know. So that's where the power comes in.

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You get to tell your brain what you want to believe. How amazing is that? I never, never tire of the power we have in our brains and in our minds and how the power of just one thought can really change and outcome for you.

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for you. And so the basis of this call is all about that kind of.

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At sometimes just being dishonest with ourselves right of like I think I'm fine in one area or like I think I'm good

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Yeah, they're you know things aren't changing or the results that happening right and so

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What I like to say too is looking at our brain is kind of like when you are driving your car and a light comes on

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Right you want to take a look at it? You want to take a look at what's going on under the hood

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And so that's kind of what this call is about. It's like what's going on under your brain

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What thoughts are going on that are keeping you stuck and there's no shame. There's no there's no judgment

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This is a place where I think this

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You know I've been doing this call for years and some of you've been on here with me for years

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And you know this is a safe place and this is a place where people get breakthrough

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This is a call where we give vulnerable where where I believe vulnerability is actually a superpower

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And we want to we want to harness that we want to

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It's really difficult to have a change in your life

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If you're not willing to be honest and vulnerable about what am I actually thinking?

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What do I actually believe about myself about my own success about my business about where I'm at right now, so

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Hey, John, I want to say hi to you. Welcome. Is this your first time on mindset Monday, too?

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Yes, it is. Okay, cool. Yeah

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You're are you in one of the cohorts right now? Yeah, I just got on last week

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Sweet welcome welcome. Thank you. Yeah, that's exciting

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I'm gonna say hey to rest that hey Melissa

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Hey Kendall

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Hey Amy good to see you all would love to see your faces if you're able to be on camera with me today

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So I'm gonna do a quick announcement and then I have this really powerful quote from Theodore

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Roosevelt actually that I read in a book we're doing a book right now in the business accelerator that I just think is so powerful and

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I and I want to just talk about that for a minute and then

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The purpose of this call is I do on the spot coaching

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So what that kind of looks like is if you're feeling stuck in an area of your life

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It can be business it can be personal how many of you know where you where you're stuck in one area

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you're usually stuck in another right it can usually be sometimes the same thought and so what I'll do is I'll

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Ask you to raise your virtual hand

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so at the bottom where it says react you just hit react and your hand goes up and then I just coach you just go through and

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Whoever needs some coaching. I'll do the one on one

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but what's so powerful about being in the room with other people is

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You get a second hand blessing right so when I'm coaching somebody maybe you're also getting coached

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And then also if you have something to offer the person a word of encouragement or a resource or something

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That's worked for you in that moment. You can pop that in the chat for the person

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so it's just like a bunch of blessings a bunch of breakthroughs and

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And it's just fun. I feel like this call has also just been fun over the years and

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So here's my announcement. So Kimberly and John. I understand you're new. This is your first time on this call and

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We are actually going away with this call in the Rainmaker community. So

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We have today next week is a holiday

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So we are not gonna have this call and then June 1st will officially be

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the last mindset Monday in the Rainmaker community and so it's sad like there's definitely some feelings there and

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You know, I've been I've been hey Jennifer

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So I have been a faithful

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Servant of the mindset community here for a couple of years and God has actually given me

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vulnerable here. He's given me some dreams. He's given me some vision to continue this call

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I've actually had quite a few people ask me

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Are you gonna keep doing the calls though, and I actually guess what you're I've actually wrestled a lot

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with with God if I should do this or not and

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My answer is yes, I'm gonna do it. So I

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basically keep this call going and

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kind of what happens in the Rainmaker community

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I've seen this over the years is somebody will come in and serve the community in a certain way in their superpower, right?

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And then sometimes that that is just not needed or it's just not something that the community wants to continue with but

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You know, they'll create their own

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Opportunity so anybody in the Rainmaker community can still get get access to it. It's happened with a

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I've seen it happen with, um, you know, marketing.

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And so mine is with mindset with your minds.

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And so I'm going to continue it.

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I'm going to be starting a low ticket membership and what's that, what that's

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going to look like is the base price for that for everybody, you know, outside

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of Rainmaker community, which again, I'm not quite sure how it's all going to look

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like, yeah, okay, everybody, I've got a lot of dreams.

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I got a lot of ideas.

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I know when I show up and I coach and people show up in the room, powerful things

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happen.

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And so I, I believe that was all my heart.

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And so I'm rolling with this.

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And I'm going to start it at $97 a month for the membership.

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If you are a Rainmaker and you end up wanting to come and be on my calls with

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me and my team, because I'm going to ultimately end up hiring people.

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And I believe this is going to just go somewhere really beautiful.

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I'm not quite sure yet where, but if you come over with a Rainmaker, I'm going

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to give you a basically a huge, just gift.

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And I'm going to give it to you for $57 a month.

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So that would be if you're a Rainmaker, you can come on over and it's $57 for

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the month, you get all four calls.

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I mean, that's a steal, right?

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So I am going to drop that link.

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I'm dropping it right now.

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I hadn't made this past week, okay?

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And I'm learning Rainflow.

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I'm creating my own membership.

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And there it is.

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There's the link.

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So grab it.

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If you want to be a part of it, think about it.

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Pray about it.

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I would love for all of you to, to come over and still get this.

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Like as you're on your, you know, business journey and it will, we will

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officially start on my link on June 7th.

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Let me just double check that that's the date.

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June, June 8th, June 8th.

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So in the Rainmaker, if you're a Rainmaker right now, you'll get this

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call with me today.

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Next week is a holiday.

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June 1st, we'll have one more in this community.

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And then June 8th will transfer over to my Zoom link, which you will get when

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you sign up for the membership.

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It's super simple.

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It's, you sign up $57 a month and you'll get an email with a Zoom link.

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And that new Zoom link will be under my name and with me.

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Does anybody have any questions about that transition?

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Hey, Anna, welcome.

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Yes, Jennifer.

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Rainmaker will no longer have Mindset Monday as of June 1st will be our last

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call in Rainmakers.

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And then a quick question.

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Is there an expert?

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Can I join in June?

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OK, so I'm trying to put all my money aside for.

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Yes, yes, join in June.

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We're technically not starting till June 8th.

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So I just wanted to drop the link for any of you.

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You want to grab it, keep it.

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And then come June 8th, whoever has paid and is in the membership.

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That's who we'll be getting on on my Zoom link.

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Awesome. So the weekly call.

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Thanks, Jan.

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Yeah, I'm excited to.

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So the weekly calls are actually going to be pretty similar to what I've

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just been doing.

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It's going to be a mix of on the spot coaching.

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It's going to be I'm going to be bringing in people to talk about business

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and mindset, kind of how I interviewed my friend Elliot, like I'll be doing it,

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bringing in guest speakers.

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I'll be doing, you know, giving a mindset talk or teaching something.

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And it's going to be pretty much similar to what I've just been doing for the

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past two years, because I've got the curriculum I've just created and I've

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been using for almost two years now.

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And then I'm also going to, depending on who all comes over with me,

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I'm going to survey and just ask the needs.

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It's going to be actually I'm really excited for.

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It's going to be if you can even imagine even more personal than this has been,

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right? I like to be really personal and just take care of your needs.

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So we may even do a little more one-on-one coaching on the call

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and definitely hitting, you know, business mindset, money mindset.

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Where are you feeling stuck?

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Being vulnerable, sharing stories.

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So yeah, as far as the rainmakers go, they are continuing their calls on

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Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays.

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Yep, their calls will still be the same.

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This will essentially just not be a part of the community anymore.

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It will be a part of mine and who all is going to come into me.

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I mean, who knows?

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The call may blow up to hundreds of people eventually or I might

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may keep it intimate.

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I may bring on more coaches.

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I'm stepping out and some faith here on what I believe.

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but I've been working with some of these from some of you all for years right I know your story

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I've seen you and you'll get to be some founding members of whatever this kind of turns into so

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if you want to pop over you can cancel anytime I'm keeping it really chill up front and I want to

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kind of see where it goes so thank you I've had a lot of people give me a lot of words of encouragement

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which means the world to me because listen I've built a couple businesses at this point and this

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is not exactly what I had in mind and what I necessarily wanted to do but at the same time

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actually yeah I've actually had a lot of visions and this call has become a very powerful place

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and a lot of breakthroughs happen and I believe a lot of you have had a lot of a lot of encouragement

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and a lot of growth in your mind which is necessary to building a business right

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you know middle class mindset cannot get out of middle class unless it thinks differently

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and we kind of talked about money mindset last week right on how you know how do how are you raise

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what did you think about money and that really plays a lot into the success of your business and

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where you want to go and where you want to take your business right so any other last questions

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or anything about about that oh Melissa I know I love you girl

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we're we're shifting things up you know I agree I think my call is the most transformational one

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because it's meant to that's what this kind of call is for right and that's what I'm about

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and that's what I do in my I do it in two other communities I I do this in my community here and

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Cincinnati where I live I coach in person as well and I thought you know what I'm gonna keep doing

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this I don't feel like my season's over to stop this particular call I don't even know if it's

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gonna be called mindset Monday I don't know let's see I think it's really cool name it's simple you

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know what to expect right um but yeah um you can still come join me and I'd love to have all of you

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so so yeah let me know if you have any questions but that's kind of it on the on the practical side

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to start this call off and okay here's something really cool I wanted to share with you all that

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just happened to me so um I know not everybody here necessarily believes in god but I want to be

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thinking if you have a higher power or you know manifesting kind of thinking getting your brain

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your we talk about this the reticular activator system your RAS in your brain literally functions

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as like antennas like it's going around every day looking for things to validate your belief

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okay so get this so I went I went to a mall this weekend when the last time y'all went to a mall

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I haven't gone to a mall in so long and it almost felt like um like I was going back into like my

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inner child right like my inner child who was you know rays going to malls Kimberly you probably only

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new malls right for like most of your life right till the internet blew up and and Amazon changed

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all of our lives right so I met this mall and right before I get to the mall I just had a moment

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I'm like I want to be present and I want to know what am I looking for because I know how my brain

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works so I'm like what is my what do I want to look for when I go to the mall because I'm also

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trying to be like strategic and what I'm spending you know the whole I'm just gonna go like window

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shop and then you spend like a thousand bucks or whatever five hundred dollars right like I don't

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need to be doing that in my life right now so I'm like okay brain what are we gonna look for

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so I get online and what I really wanted was a trucker hat and I wanted a trucker hat that had

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a particular shade of blue on it and so I googled trucker hat with blue some type of biblical saying

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on it and what do you know online the thing that popped up was this hat and it said amen I don't know

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if you guys have seen this hat apparently it's trending I didn't know right um and it says like

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love god love people on the side like there and it's got this beautiful like blue to it so I saw

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this literal hat online and I was like I want that hat that's what I want and I'm gonna look for

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that in the mall and I believed I just said right before I got the mall I said I'm gonna get that

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hat I'm gonna find it it's gonna be at one store somewhere and I know this sounds like really

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But it's really not because this is how our brains work.

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This is like, I'm not trying to trick myself.

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I'm just like setting an example

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of what I know about my brain.

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And I'm like, I'm gonna do this.

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And I welcome to that mall.

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And what do you know?

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I walk into a store that had a bunch of hats

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and I literally am, it was buckle.

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Have you guys been a buckle before?

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No, I've never listened.

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I've never stopped at a buckle before.

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I don't go to malls, right?

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I would have just ordered this online

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if I really wanted to.

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And I walk into buckle.

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I know, right, Kendall?

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Like all the like shimmery belts, right?

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Like, I just feel like like gives,

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it's gives Cal girl kind of and like, I'm not,

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that's not my vibe, right?

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And so I walk in the store,

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I'm looking at all the hats and boom,

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there it was, it was this hat.

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The exact hat that I wanted

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and that I just knew, I had faith for it.

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I'm like, I just know, I'm gonna walk in

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and I'm gonna find this hat.

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Did I have some doubts?

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Yeah, then another part of my brain, who knows this?

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Our brains go back and forth, right?

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Is it gonna happen?

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Is it not?

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I don't know, am I gonna be successful?

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Or wait, this thing just happened, I'm probably not.

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We go back and forth all like this all the time

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in areas of our life.

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And so then I started thinking, I'm like, wait,

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before I got to buckle, I'm like, wait,

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actually, I think, I don't know if I'm gonna find it,

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you know, then I start to doubt.

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And I'm like, that was kind of stupid to think about.

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How, I mean, out of this whole mall, really?

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Like, is there really gonna be this one particular hat

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with this one particular shade of blue?

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Like, no way, right?

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So my brain did that, it went back and forth

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and then boom, there it was.

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And I was like, there it is, and there it is.

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And I feel like this is the power of our minds.

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And I'm not, I don't think it's like a trickery thing.

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I think it's like agreeing with something that I wanted

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and agreeing in my brain.

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And listen, if I wouldn't have found the hat,

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it would have been okay.

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I'm not gonna get disappointed, right?

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I just am gonna hope for something that I want.

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And I'm gonna believe I'm gonna find this one little hat

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in this big mall.

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I had no idea how, and then boom, there it was.

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And I'm like, I need to share this on mindset Monday.

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And I need to encourage my people

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because when is the last time you've taken a look

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and been like, I'm going to hope

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and I'm gonna have some thoughts

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and they're gonna be good.

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And they're gonna be thoughts that work for me,

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not against me.

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And I'm telling you like, again,

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I could still share this.

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And if I wouldn't have found it,

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the point is I have the hope, I have the faith

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to believe for something I didn't see.

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And that's what a lot of it takes in business, right?

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You're building things you have yet to see the fruit of

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and it can get very discouraging.

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You can get real stuck in the weeds of building, you know?

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In our brains, we love dopamine, we love to feel good.

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And when you're putting all these outputs

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and you're not getting any inputs,

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it can get real, you can, you know,

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you can begin to be like, man, why am I doing this again?

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I kind of want to give up.

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What's the point?

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Why even hope for something?

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You guys know what I'm talking about.

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This is normal.

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This happens to everybody,

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even super successful people, you know?

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But here's the thing that what needs to continue

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is you still need to like keep going

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and keep believing and keep having hopeful thoughts.

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My brain does that right before I win something

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and they give away.

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I don't even know how exactly, right, John,

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it's like that's another example.

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It's another example of it.

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It's happened to me too.

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Yeah, that's crazy.

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And so I want to share this quote from Theodore Roosevelt

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'cause I feel like it really aligned with like this hat thing.

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And guess what?

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Not only was this at one store, it was at another store.

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There was an abundance of the Amen hat.

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I like couldn't even believe it.

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I'm like, I literally stopped.

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I'm like, God, I can't even believe you right now.

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Wait a minute, actually I can.

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Actually, wait a minute, yes I can.

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I do have belief for these things.

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And wouldn't you believe that this small thing

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has now overlapped into other areas of my life for the weekend?

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I'm like, okay, I'm gonna keep believing

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for like a godly, healthy husband.

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I'm gonna keep believing for my business that's gonna grow, right?

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Oh, wait, I'm gonna keep believing

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for these good things I want in my life

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that sometimes feel so far away.

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Okay, so Theodore Roosevelt said this quote

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and you guys may actually know it.

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And I'm gonna drop it in the chat

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and we're just gonna talk about it for a minute.

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And then I want some of you to be thinking,

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We want to get you unstuck.

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That would be the point of the rest of our call today.

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Okay.

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And exactly Linda, there are, there really are.

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Cause God knows we all need those moments

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to like keep us going on this, on our journeys,

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like of life in general, you know, life's a marathon.

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It's not a sprints.

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There's a lot, there's a lot in our lives that happens, right?

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Well, seeing I'm glad you're noticing now you can see it.

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Right now you can notice, hey, I actually have eyes to see that.

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Okay.

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So look at this quote in any moment of decision,

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the best thing you can do is the right thing.

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The next best thing is the wrong thing.

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And the worst thing you can do is nothing.

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Have you guys heard this quote before?

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I'm seeing some yeses.

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I'm seeing some no's.

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Okay. Okay.

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And I just love it.

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I think it's so simple.

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But, you know, how many of you can just get stuck?

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Sometimes in making a decision and you just get stuck.

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And it's like, man, I need to make a decision.

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Which one do I pick?

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Well, I just feel like this is so simple.

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You just pick the next best thing, the next right thing.

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And you do your best.

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And then if you don't do that, then okay,

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maybe the decision turns out to be a wrong thing.

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But then you pivot.

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That's what you do.

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You're a business owner.

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You pivot and you make a new decision.

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And then the worst thing you can do is nothing.

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And I just feel like, again, my little example of this hat,

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I could have gone in there and not set an intention

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and not been aware of my mind

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and not been like, let me be responsible, right?

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This all came from an intentional place

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where I'm trying to be more intentional in my life

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with my spending and all these things.

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And could the hat have appeared even if I didn't do that?

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Maybe, but how much more, how much more powerful

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that I took some time to be intentional?

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I took some time to be in tune with my thoughts.

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I took some time to decide, this is what I want.

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And I declared it and I said, this is what I want.

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I'm gonna find it.

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That takes a lot of courage to do

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when you don't know what's gonna happen, right?

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And so it requires a lot of business

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requires making decisions.

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You all are, the average person I think makes like,

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I read online, it makes like 30,000,

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you make like 30,000 decisions a day.

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I don't know if you knew that.

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Okay, your brain's working all day, every day.

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And 90% of it is subconscious,

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meaning you're not even in tune with it.

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So imagine being more in tune with your subconsciousness.

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It's amazing, we can do this, it's possible.

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And I think the last thing I'll say here

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and Linda, I see your hand is,

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if there's an area in your business right now

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or your life where you're just having a hard time

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making a decision, I want you to take this quote

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and just think, well, what would be the next best right thing?

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And then just like do it.

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And if it turns out to be the wrong thing,

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then you make the next best decision from there, right?

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And so really, is there really a right or wrong

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at that point, if you're continually learning

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and continually deciding to move forward with your business?

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'Cause again, the worst thing you can do is nothing.

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That's where you begin to get stuck

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and you stay in Stuckville.

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And we don't want that.

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We want you out of Stuckville, thriving, moving,

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in momentum, having good positive thoughts about you,

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who you are, where your business is going and your success.

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So, hi Lauren, hi Amy, it's good to see you.

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So for the next half of our call,

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we're gonna step into some coaching.

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So, if you need some coaching,

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you need some, a little extra love,

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you wanna get unstuck somewhere,

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raise your virtual hand and I'm gonna go through all of you.

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We're gonna do the dang thing.

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And like I said, if you're not being coached,

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you're getting a second hand blessing from the coaching.

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Grab something that's for you.

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And then if you have something to offer the person,

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a word of encouragement or a resource or something

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that's worked for you, I want you to pop it in the chat

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so they can get that for, they can grab that.

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Okay, all right, let's do this.

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Linda, you were first, I saw your hand go up.

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I'm not sure if you wanted to get coached

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or if you had something you wanted to share.

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- Okay, I'll share first and then think about the coaching

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in a second. - Okay.

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- Yeah.

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So, when, okay, so you determined to find this hat

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once you got to the mall and you found the hat,

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you knew the Lord led you to where the hat was.

474
00:29:45.360 --> 00:29:49.440
Regardless of the other thoughts screaming in your head

475
00:29:49.440 --> 00:29:52.920
that you wouldn't find it, how ridiculous is this?

476
00:29:52.920 --> 00:29:57.560
How do you now take that win and translate it over?

477
00:29:57.560 --> 00:29:59.560
'Cause we know that can be translated over

478
00:30:08.000 --> 00:30:14.720
I'm in business, I'm determining to do this thing. Yeah. Yeah. No, that's great. So how that

479
00:30:14.720 --> 00:30:20.240
looks. So this is where you're getting in tune with your own thoughts around your business. So for

480
00:30:20.240 --> 00:30:27.040
example, is there if we can get personal, do you have a personal example in your business where

481
00:30:28.080 --> 00:30:35.760
you would like to see something change or something grow? Okay. I think I realized this made me a

482
00:30:35.760 --> 00:30:42.560
little off this particular subject, but you'll tell me if it's gonna be. Yeah. I think I realized

483
00:30:42.560 --> 00:30:49.360
that I have the ability to do these things and to go after them. But then there's that slight bit

484
00:30:49.360 --> 00:30:56.400
of self sabotage in there. Like I'll know something is coming up. And normal people prepare for it

485
00:30:56.400 --> 00:31:01.920
and take a step by step. So by the time the event comes, they're got it all worked out. Everything's

486
00:31:01.920 --> 00:31:08.960
me, I wait and wait and wait and wait and wait. And then when the event is almost there,

487
00:31:08.960 --> 00:31:13.120
I'm scrambling to make sure all the things that I need to done, whether it's an event,

488
00:31:13.120 --> 00:31:18.960
an appointment, of course, I'm scrambling to get all the things done that need to be done

489
00:31:18.960 --> 00:31:30.880
before the deadline when I had. You have time to work out a schedule so that when the date came,

490
00:31:30.880 --> 00:31:38.320
I would be but no, I wait. Yeah, that's my self waiting. Yeah. Anybody can relate with this?

491
00:31:38.320 --> 00:31:42.080
I'm sure a lot of us on this call can. Yeah. Okay. So you're not alone. So

492
00:31:44.160 --> 00:31:50.240
let me ask you this. What makes you wait? Can we get we want to get in tune with your thought

493
00:31:50.240 --> 00:31:54.800
when you're waiting? Do you know your thought? Do you say something like, I'll do that tomorrow

494
00:31:54.800 --> 00:32:02.000
or I'm too busy for that or I'm I don't know if that's going to work out. I'm just going to put it

495
00:32:02.000 --> 00:32:12.080
off. Like I always think I have plenty of time. Okay. You know, and even though something is two

496
00:32:12.080 --> 00:32:17.600
weeks away, I, oh, I have plenty of time. I have plenty of time. And then when it's a week away,

497
00:32:17.600 --> 00:32:22.800
I acknowledge that the week has already, a week has already passed, but and I only have one more

498
00:32:22.800 --> 00:32:28.720
week to do 10 things that I could have done five of them last week. Oh, but I have time.

499
00:32:28.720 --> 00:32:34.560
Right. Okay. So Kimberly, you're on to your, I'm right there with you. So you're scared. There's

500
00:32:34.560 --> 00:32:40.080
fear here, right? You're scared of something. Yeah. So this is where we want to dig into your

501
00:32:40.080 --> 00:32:46.400
personal brain because this is how you would understand your own thought and then how to create a thought

502
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:54.960
that is more abundant and more productive. That's essentially how how you kind of get, do what I just

503
00:32:54.960 --> 00:33:00.960
did. You get really in your own brain of like, okay, what am I thinking? Because maybe this is what

504
00:33:00.960 --> 00:33:06.320
Linda's brain Linda scared, but maybe for somebody else, they're not scared. Maybe it's a different

505
00:33:06.320 --> 00:33:12.960
emotion or there's something else going on. Right. But do you, what do you think you're scared of?

506
00:33:12.960 --> 00:33:19.440
Do you? I think the, I think I'm concerned that it's not going to work out the way I want. Okay.

507
00:33:19.440 --> 00:33:29.920
You know, okay. That even though, you know, like, okay, for instance, we have my friends and I,

508
00:33:29.920 --> 00:33:34.320
we're going to a wedding next month. We've known about this wedding, obviously, since the couple

509
00:33:34.320 --> 00:33:41.680
got engaged. So we know they're getting married. Right. That the, the particulars, probably a couple

510
00:33:41.680 --> 00:33:48.080
months ago. I have addressed to where I don't like to, I mean, I like to dress to dress to me if

511
00:33:48.080 --> 00:33:57.280
a summer is too heavy. Why don't I have a dress already? Well, why not? What am I waiting for?

512
00:33:57.280 --> 00:34:03.920
What are you waiting for? I cannot wait for the week before, for to go look for another dress.

513
00:34:03.920 --> 00:34:08.480
Okay. Let's, let's answer the question right now. What are you waiting for?

514
00:34:08.480 --> 00:34:21.120
It's not like I have not been looking, but I just feel as though I'm not purchasing something

515
00:34:21.120 --> 00:34:26.880
and that dates going to come along and I'm going to go, Oh, well, I just, I have to wear this other

516
00:34:26.880 --> 00:34:35.199
dress. So, so money, you feel like maybe you're scared to spend some money on it. So yes, because

517
00:34:35.199 --> 00:34:38.960
we all know when we buy a wedding dress, most likely we're never going to wear that thing.

518
00:34:38.960 --> 00:34:45.440
Exactly. It's like, do I really want, so the question is actually a worth thing. Right. Am I

519
00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:53.040
worth to spend on this dress? Is that worth it? Right. And when we're at this for everybody,

520
00:34:53.040 --> 00:34:59.680
anytime we ask, is this worth it? The real question is, am I worth it? Hmm. Am I worth

521
00:35:06.200 --> 00:35:10.480
already have, you actually could just make the decision. You just make the

522
00:35:10.480 --> 00:35:14.680
decision, but you're getting stuck. Linda, thank you. This is a very real

523
00:35:14.680 --> 00:35:18.560
example. Again, this is good. We want to look at these little examples because

524
00:35:18.560 --> 00:35:23.880
they play out in other areas of our life. So, so you've done nothing. So why

525
00:35:23.880 --> 00:35:27.360
don't you just make a decision right now, whether you're going to buy a dress,

526
00:35:27.360 --> 00:35:32.120
you're worth it. I'm worth it. I'm going to invest or I'm also worth it. And

527
00:35:32.120 --> 00:35:36.640
therefore, I'm, I don't want to invest. I want to use what I already have. Which

528
00:35:36.640 --> 00:35:44.320
one do you want? I'm going to buy a dress. Okay. Because it's summer and I

529
00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:48.720
don't want to be looking like I'm in a winter dress. Okay. So there's your

530
00:35:48.720 --> 00:35:53.320
decision. You just made a decision. How do you feel? Do you feel scared? Do you

531
00:35:53.320 --> 00:35:57.760
feel empowered? How do you feel? No, I feel a little relieved because now I

532
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:02.840
realize the decision has been made. And guess what? I have asked the Lord to

533
00:36:02.840 --> 00:36:08.240
show me this dress, but I also had those other mind. So now I realize I'm

534
00:36:08.240 --> 00:36:14.040
clearing the way to to see that dress. Yeah. It is that he asked for me. The

535
00:36:14.040 --> 00:36:21.280
way it's been cleared. Okay, see, that's where the relief comes in. Who

536
00:36:21.280 --> 00:36:26.800
doesn't want to feel relieved? You kept yourself so stuck. Yeah. And I'm not

537
00:36:26.800 --> 00:36:30.120
going to sit here and be like, Oh, it's such a small thing. No, it's a thing

538
00:36:30.120 --> 00:36:35.640
that goes on in your brain that keeps you stuck. And then listen, our brains

539
00:36:35.640 --> 00:36:40.800
use glucose all day. When the more you put you put off a decision, the more

540
00:36:40.800 --> 00:36:45.520
glucose you burn, the more exhausted you get. And then of course, you're

541
00:36:45.520 --> 00:36:49.000
putting it off to the end. This is called procrastination. Also known as

542
00:36:49.000 --> 00:36:52.040
that all do this in one way, usually because we're scared of something or

543
00:36:52.040 --> 00:36:55.360
we don't want to admit something, we don't want to look at something. I

544
00:36:55.360 --> 00:36:57.920
think you admit it, I'm scared to make the investment. I don't know if I'm

545
00:36:57.920 --> 00:37:01.600
worth, I don't know if it's worth it. You've just decided I am you made

546
00:37:01.600 --> 00:37:05.600
your decision. So go, go get that trust this week. Right. Right. So is

547
00:37:05.600 --> 00:37:08.960
that any different than I was always raised to be on time for

548
00:37:08.960 --> 00:37:16.360
everything. To a detriment. Because now if I'm late, I'm upset. So is

549
00:37:16.360 --> 00:37:23.920
that any different than if an event is, could I apply that same thought

550
00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:28.480
process that I have to be on time for different things to doing things

551
00:37:28.480 --> 00:37:31.800
like, okay, even though this is this is going to happen, let's just say

552
00:37:31.800 --> 00:37:38.360
on May 31st, just say, I have to be done, prepared and ready a week

553
00:37:38.360 --> 00:37:44.920
before. Yeah, so what if I apply my time sense to that? Yeah, it's

554
00:37:44.920 --> 00:37:47.440
really hard to do that, though, if you haven't made a decision,

555
00:37:47.440 --> 00:37:52.400
right? Okay, decision. And then you work out of that. Yeah. Yeah.

556
00:37:52.400 --> 00:37:55.640
Right now that you made the decision, you're feeling relief. Yeah,

557
00:37:55.640 --> 00:37:59.800
that are we love to feel relief. And so you're going to want more

558
00:37:59.800 --> 00:38:02.560
of that and you're going to, it actually creates more productivity,

559
00:38:02.560 --> 00:38:04.760
right? When you're feeling relief, you finally made a say, okay,

560
00:38:04.760 --> 00:38:07.560
now you know your steps, well, you're going to get the dress here

561
00:38:07.560 --> 00:38:11.400
soon. It's actually not even a time thing. Because you're already on

562
00:38:11.400 --> 00:38:13.760
time. That's not actually your problem. You don't really get stuck

563
00:38:13.760 --> 00:38:19.200
with that Linda. Right? So is that helpful? That is helpful.

564
00:38:19.200 --> 00:38:22.440
No, that is helpful. Yay. Thanks for starting us off, Linda.

565
00:38:22.440 --> 00:38:25.880
Thank you. There's some stuff in the chat. If anyone has

566
00:38:25.880 --> 00:38:30.200
something else to drop for Linda, drop it. Okay. Awesome. You're

567
00:38:30.200 --> 00:38:35.760
welcome. Hey, Lauren, how you doing? How can we get you unstuck?

568
00:38:35.760 --> 00:38:43.480
Danielle, it's good to see you. Yes. I mean, so obviously, I

569
00:38:43.480 --> 00:38:47.000
haven't really been showing up in the community for quite a few

570
00:38:47.000 --> 00:38:53.360
weeks now. It's fine. Just keep hearing your voice this morning

571
00:38:53.360 --> 00:38:55.480
and it's a vulnerable safe space. So I'm just going to lean into

572
00:38:55.480 --> 00:38:59.760
that. I think yes, I'm on the fence joining today. And when I

573
00:38:59.760 --> 00:39:02.080
didn't know it was going to be a coaching call and now I'm like,

574
00:39:02.080 --> 00:39:05.360
okay, I feel obligated to speak up. I've been going through a

575
00:39:05.360 --> 00:39:10.360
really hard time. Like six weeks ago or so, my dad was found on

576
00:39:10.360 --> 00:39:12.640
the floor of his apartment. I had to do a wellness check because

577
00:39:12.640 --> 00:39:16.560
no one can get ahold of him. He spent weeks in and out of ICU.

578
00:39:16.560 --> 00:39:19.480
And finally, I was told like he's not going to make it. And so I

579
00:39:19.480 --> 00:39:26.840
drove up to Canada where he lives and visited him. And it was

580
00:39:26.840 --> 00:39:29.960
a really tough visit, but he actually started to improve and

581
00:39:29.960 --> 00:39:32.800
was transferred off ICU and things were looking better. And

582
00:39:32.800 --> 00:39:38.720
then within a week, he had passed away. So I've now been

583
00:39:38.720 --> 00:39:44.760
dealing with that. I'm the next of kin. I have no support

584
00:39:44.760 --> 00:39:48.680
really from anyone other than my uncle, who is also about the

585
00:39:48.680 --> 00:39:51.480
same distance away from where my dad lived. We're both about an

586
00:39:51.480 --> 00:39:54.800
eight hour drive door to door. He lives on an island. So it's a

587
00:39:54.800 --> 00:39:57.480
little bit hard to get to. There's only two fairies a day,

588
00:39:57.480 --> 00:40:00.000
right? So I've been trying to go back and forth and I did a

589
00:40:04.040 --> 00:40:05.040
stuff like that.

590
00:40:05.040 --> 00:40:10.520
But now I'm at the point where I have to just do all the things that you have to do when

591
00:40:10.520 --> 00:40:11.720
someone passes.

592
00:40:11.720 --> 00:40:17.800
And ever since this phone call happened with the VICPD we've found on the floor, I just

593
00:40:17.800 --> 00:40:22.880
I stopped doing everything for my business and just hard stop.

594
00:40:22.880 --> 00:40:28.160
And now that it's been a month or so since he passed, I feel like I need to get back

595
00:40:28.160 --> 00:40:35.240
in, but I don't, I just don't know where to start and I feel like I don't have the capacity

596
00:40:35.240 --> 00:40:37.160
that I had before.

597
00:40:37.160 --> 00:40:42.200
And I have this vanilla folder that's been sitting on the table here in front of me since the

598
00:40:42.200 --> 00:40:45.160
first visit where I visited him in the ICU and I got it from the social worker and it's

599
00:40:45.160 --> 00:40:49.920
like a 16 page packet, like all the things you do when a loved one passes.

600
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:53.760
And I have done the first thing and I was getting him out of the hospital and having

601
00:40:53.760 --> 00:40:57.420
his remains processed, but that's it.

602
00:40:57.420 --> 00:41:00.820
But yeah, I don't, I just don't know what to do.

603
00:41:00.820 --> 00:41:04.480
There's another layer to this too, but I don't know if we need to get into all of that today.

604
00:41:04.480 --> 00:41:09.520
No, no, I, well, first of all, I speak on behalf of like everyone who's just said it

605
00:41:09.520 --> 00:41:12.640
in the chat, like, we're so sorry for your loss.

606
00:41:12.640 --> 00:41:13.640
Thank you.

607
00:41:13.640 --> 00:41:14.640
That's painful.

608
00:41:14.640 --> 00:41:23.520
And there's not much words I feel like to give justice to grief and like even a moment

609
00:41:23.520 --> 00:41:24.520
like this.

610
00:41:24.520 --> 00:41:31.500
I want to take a moment just acknowledge your pain, acknowledge you lost somebody probably

611
00:41:31.500 --> 00:41:36.820
early and sooner than you ever expected and it's been like a little bit of a trauma as

612
00:41:36.820 --> 00:41:37.820
well, right?

613
00:41:37.820 --> 00:41:43.100
With all this, so so just want to acknowledge you.

614
00:41:43.100 --> 00:41:46.980
I wish I could give you a hug like we all want to like just give you some love, give

615
00:41:46.980 --> 00:41:54.460
you some hugs, I think the first thing that's coming to my mind is you're grieving now.

616
00:41:54.460 --> 00:42:00.840
You have had an unexpected loss in your life, everybody, I'm sure, can agree.

617
00:42:00.840 --> 00:42:02.320
Has anyone here lost the loved one?

618
00:42:02.320 --> 00:42:07.340
Has anybody here had something unexpected come upon you that you're not expecting, right?

619
00:42:07.340 --> 00:42:11.460
This is a part of life as well, right?

620
00:42:11.460 --> 00:42:12.460
So it sucks.

621
00:42:12.460 --> 00:42:16.440
So I'll just acknowledge like death sucks.

622
00:42:16.440 --> 00:42:18.140
It's painful.

623
00:42:18.140 --> 00:42:25.140
And so Lauren, I think you really need to we've talked about this because I know you girl

624
00:42:25.140 --> 00:42:30.020
Lauren and I by the way, we've we've had a coaching relationship on offer years now.

625
00:42:30.020 --> 00:42:36.060
And I think you actually, I'm really proud of you for kind of taking a step and then

626
00:42:36.060 --> 00:42:37.340
getting on this call.

627
00:42:37.340 --> 00:42:40.780
So I actually think you have done a really great thing today.

628
00:42:40.780 --> 00:42:44.180
You're being seen in the middle of your grief.

629
00:42:44.180 --> 00:42:46.740
That's really, really vulnerable and courageous.

630
00:42:46.740 --> 00:42:47.740
So really proud of you.

631
00:42:47.740 --> 00:42:49.860
Love you for that girl.

632
00:42:49.860 --> 00:42:55.060
And grief is interesting because there's no timeline to it.

633
00:42:55.060 --> 00:42:56.060
Who here knows?

634
00:42:56.060 --> 00:42:58.460
You may be grieving this for a long time.

635
00:42:58.460 --> 00:43:03.300
But there's also the reality that you do have things you need to do.

636
00:43:03.300 --> 00:43:10.300
So my first thing is, um, take, try to take care of yourself.

637
00:43:10.300 --> 00:43:16.660
You know, eat, sleep, um, I'm already not great at either of those.

638
00:43:16.660 --> 00:43:17.660
Those things.

639
00:43:17.660 --> 00:43:18.660
I know.

640
00:43:18.660 --> 00:43:20.100
That's why I'm starting with the basics.

641
00:43:20.100 --> 00:43:21.100
Exactly.

642
00:43:21.100 --> 00:43:30.960
Uh, yeah, so, um, and there's a, get, thanks, John, um, John said, you know, there's, John

643
00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:32.420
actually can relate with you.

644
00:43:32.420 --> 00:43:36.620
His dad passed away three years ago and he's just saying there's just grace.

645
00:43:36.620 --> 00:43:37.940
There's grace.

646
00:43:37.940 --> 00:43:40.740
Yeah, but that's really hard for you.

647
00:43:40.740 --> 00:43:44.420
This is hard for business owners, high achieving people.

648
00:43:44.420 --> 00:43:45.420
What do you mean grace?

649
00:43:45.420 --> 00:43:46.420
What do you mean stop?

650
00:43:46.420 --> 00:43:49.240
What do you mean be kind to myself?

651
00:43:49.240 --> 00:43:55.940
So I think you need to give yourself permission to grieve and to maybe let the next month

652
00:43:55.940 --> 00:44:01.740
or two look a little different than what you expected.

653
00:44:01.740 --> 00:44:07.060
I just feel so much like guilt that I'm not doing the things I need to do for him.

654
00:44:07.060 --> 00:44:09.420
I'm not doing the things I need to do for my business.

655
00:44:09.420 --> 00:44:10.860
I'm falling behind at work.

656
00:44:10.860 --> 00:44:13.580
Like every aspect of my life is suffering.

657
00:44:13.580 --> 00:44:17.860
I know, you know, it's interesting because I'm like, I, I don't have time to grieve.

658
00:44:17.860 --> 00:44:21.740
I don't have time to breathe like I, and then, but also what is grieving?

659
00:44:21.740 --> 00:44:23.500
Like it's so hard to define that.

660
00:44:23.500 --> 00:44:28.060
And so I just feel like I've just completely shut down and just stopped and just like my

661
00:44:28.060 --> 00:44:33.540
body, I think my body finally was just like, no, like you don't get to continue the same

662
00:44:33.540 --> 00:44:36.220
level of productivity that you've always had.

663
00:44:36.220 --> 00:44:41.620
And like I just have, I just literally feel just like I can't, I'm not motivated to do

664
00:44:41.620 --> 00:44:46.020
anything, but I just mountain of things that needs to be done.

665
00:44:46.020 --> 00:44:52.340
So grieving is begins with feeling.

666
00:44:52.340 --> 00:44:56.940
So allowing yourself to feel what you're actually going through, which I think you're

667
00:44:56.940 --> 00:44:58.380
actually doing.

668
00:44:58.380 --> 00:44:59.380
So that's good.

669
00:45:02.600 --> 00:45:04.800
I think you're actually already grieving

670
00:45:04.800 --> 00:45:09.200
because you're feeling and you're acknowledging I really can't do all this right now.

671
00:45:09.200 --> 00:45:12.400
There is nothing wrong with that, Lauren, you have a belief.

672
00:45:12.400 --> 00:45:17.200
This is this belief coming up again where my worth is connected to my productivity.

673
00:45:17.200 --> 00:45:18.400
Something like that, right?

674
00:45:18.400 --> 00:45:25.200
I'm a terrible daughter because I've let this thing sit on the table for a month or however long it's been.

675
00:45:25.200 --> 00:45:27.200
Not true.

676
00:45:27.200 --> 00:45:29.200
Not true.

677
00:45:29.400 --> 00:45:38.600
You need to know I'm a good daughter and I'm because of that I'm grieving and I'm sad and I miss my dad.

678
00:45:38.600 --> 00:45:42.800
That's what that's what's actually what's happening right now.

679
00:45:42.800 --> 00:45:46.800
And you're not a bad person.

680
00:45:46.800 --> 00:45:49.400
Again, it's that shame, right?

681
00:45:49.400 --> 00:45:53.800
We've talked about everyone probably can relate in your own story with this or something.

682
00:45:54.000 --> 00:46:00.600
Like there is no shame in your productivity going down when your grief is up.

683
00:46:00.600 --> 00:46:02.600
I mean, it's can I?

684
00:46:02.600 --> 00:46:04.800
It's normal, babe.

685
00:46:04.800 --> 00:46:06.000
I get it though.

686
00:46:06.000 --> 00:46:07.800
You feel like you don't have time for all that.

687
00:46:07.800 --> 00:46:13.000
Well, well, you get to change that belief too because there is time for it.

688
00:46:13.000 --> 00:46:15.000
Yeah, there's time for it.

689
00:46:15.000 --> 00:46:20.200
And if you need to put things on hold, I think that's okay for a season.

690
00:46:20.200 --> 00:46:21.600
You're going to be okay.

691
00:46:21.800 --> 00:46:24.800
I think you can tell yourself I'm still going to be okay.

692
00:46:24.800 --> 00:46:25.600
Yeah.

693
00:46:25.600 --> 00:46:28.600
Right, because I know we've kind of talked about and probably some of you can relate

694
00:46:28.600 --> 00:46:34.400
with this thinking of like if I stop, everything's going to stop and I'm the one keeping all this stuff together.

695
00:46:34.400 --> 00:46:37.000
Well, sometimes you can't do it all.

696
00:46:37.000 --> 00:46:43.400
And honestly, Lauren, it's okay.

697
00:46:43.400 --> 00:46:45.800
It just doesn't mean anything about you.

698
00:46:46.000 --> 00:46:55.800
I want you to start speaking some life over yourself this week and if you need to start taking care of you in the very basics,

699
00:46:55.800 --> 00:47:00.200
just start with that because then then you're going to be able to take care of other people.

700
00:47:00.200 --> 00:47:04.600
I know you're, you know, you have a lot of roles in your life, but also people are very gentle

701
00:47:04.600 --> 00:47:10.400
and understanding when you're grieving and you need to be that for you though.

702
00:47:10.400 --> 00:47:11.200
Yeah, you're right.

703
00:47:11.200 --> 00:47:13.200
Is that helpful?

704
00:47:13.200 --> 00:47:14.400
Yeah, not very helpful.

705
00:47:14.600 --> 00:47:22.600
And I just say one thing, first, Lauren, we'll definitely be praying for you.

706
00:47:22.600 --> 00:47:33.600
And I just want to say that I've been through that same situation with two family members that passed away close together,

707
00:47:33.600 --> 00:47:35.800
very close to being my mom and my sister.

708
00:47:35.800 --> 00:47:44.400
So I understand the whole world stops for you, you know, in your own self because that they do.

709
00:47:44.400 --> 00:47:52.400
They don't stop because I wish everybody would have stopped and just paid attention to what was going on with me so I could go forward.

710
00:47:52.400 --> 00:47:56.200
But what I did do was, of course, my reliance is on God.

711
00:47:56.200 --> 00:48:00.400
I don't know how I would have gotten through it without him at all, at all.

712
00:48:00.400 --> 00:48:02.400
So I will definitely be praying for you.

713
00:48:02.400 --> 00:48:08.400
And the other thing is is that in that folder of 16 pages,

714
00:48:08.600 --> 00:48:18.600
when you have a breather because the breathers do come where you have a relief from your thoughts about what just happened, it does happen.

715
00:48:18.600 --> 00:48:25.200
Look at the folder and find one small thing because you've already done a lot.

716
00:48:25.200 --> 00:48:31.600
You know, taking care of your relatives remains and doing the other thing that you did.

717
00:48:31.600 --> 00:48:35.800
You've already you don't realize it, but you've already gone forward a little bit.

718
00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:42.200
So find some small little thing that you can do that just that will accomplish that now.

719
00:48:42.200 --> 00:48:44.600
It'll make you feel better.

720
00:48:44.600 --> 00:48:48.800
And I will tell you, I wasn't in my own business when it happened.

721
00:48:48.800 --> 00:48:55.200
I had a job and I was thankful to have the job because if I didn't have the job,

722
00:48:55.200 --> 00:48:57.200
I don't know what I would have done.

723
00:48:57.200 --> 00:49:00.200
I would have just been home thinking about it.

724
00:49:00.400 --> 00:49:08.800
But when you find that small and I found thinking about the good times helped as well,

725
00:49:08.800 --> 00:49:12.600
because of what the circumstances happened.

726
00:49:12.600 --> 00:49:14.400
You know, it helped me a lot.

727
00:49:14.400 --> 00:49:18.000
So I hope that helps and I totally agree with you.

728
00:49:18.000 --> 00:49:24.000
People grieve in different ways and it took a year for me to even feel better.

729
00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:25.600
Yeah. Yeah.

730
00:49:25.800 --> 00:49:30.000
And you're right, too, like that little bit of movement, that little one thing off the checklist,

731
00:49:30.000 --> 00:49:31.400
like that does create momentum.

732
00:49:31.400 --> 00:49:35.400
And like, you know, I do love crossing something off the checklist.

733
00:49:35.400 --> 00:49:36.200
You do, girl.

734
00:49:36.200 --> 00:49:36.800
Good.

735
00:49:36.800 --> 00:49:40.800
And you don't you don't have to be going 90 miles an hour either, right?

736
00:49:40.800 --> 00:49:42.600
Going 10, 15.

737
00:49:42.600 --> 00:49:44.000
Yeah, just one thing is OK.

738
00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:45.400
One thing is one little thing.

739
00:49:45.400 --> 00:49:46.800
Yes, one little thing.

740
00:49:46.800 --> 00:49:47.600
Yeah.

741
00:49:47.600 --> 00:49:49.400
Thank you, Linda.

742
00:49:49.400 --> 00:49:50.000
Yeah.

743
00:49:50.000 --> 00:49:54.800
And the last thing, Kimberly, I love we're like on the same wavelength today.

744
00:49:55.000 --> 00:50:00.000
I'm loving this. Imagine like, if your friend was going through this, what you would say to them, right?

745
00:50:05.800 --> 00:50:08.280
No one's expecting these things of you right now.

746
00:50:08.280 --> 00:50:13.160
And you're going to know when you're ready to take on more and this season's

747
00:50:13.160 --> 00:50:16.200
not going to be forever, but you really are in the thick of it.

748
00:50:16.200 --> 00:50:17.240
It just began.

749
00:50:17.240 --> 00:50:18.400
So it's okay.

750
00:50:18.400 --> 00:50:21.680
And we love you, girl.

751
00:50:21.680 --> 00:50:23.000
And so glad to see you.

752
00:50:23.000 --> 00:50:24.800
So good to see your face.

753
00:50:24.800 --> 00:50:25.760
Yeah.

754
00:50:25.760 --> 00:50:27.320
It's good to see you guys, too.

755
00:50:27.320 --> 00:50:28.240
Yay.

756
00:50:28.240 --> 00:50:29.000
Thanks, Lauren.

757
00:50:29.000 --> 00:50:30.320
And there's a bunch in the chat for you.

758
00:50:30.320 --> 00:50:32.760
So make sure you scroll up and grab those goodies.

759
00:50:32.760 --> 00:50:34.960
All right, thanks, Lauren.

760
00:50:34.960 --> 00:50:38.760
All right, Cian, you're next.

761
00:50:38.760 --> 00:50:40.320
I got Cian Jennifer and Anna.

762
00:50:40.320 --> 00:50:42.200
I understand we've got seven minutes left.

763
00:50:42.200 --> 00:50:46.200
So I might go a little over if that's OK with some of you.

764
00:50:46.200 --> 00:50:48.800
If you have to pop off at the top of the hour, I understand it.

765
00:50:48.800 --> 00:50:49.360
Hold on, Cian.

766
00:50:49.360 --> 00:50:52.480
I'll get to him saying if you have to pop off at the end of the hour, I

767
00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:57.920
completely understand that more of you came on that I was expecting, which makes

768
00:50:57.920 --> 00:50:59.120
me so happy.

769
00:50:59.120 --> 00:51:03.760
And the last thing I'll do is for those of you who are new on the call,

770
00:51:03.760 --> 00:51:05.560
I'm dropping my link.

771
00:51:05.560 --> 00:51:09.760
I'm starting mindset Monday in a monthly membership and you're getting

772
00:51:09.760 --> 00:51:13.360
a discount being a rainmaker because we are going away with this call in this

773
00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:14.160
community.

774
00:51:14.160 --> 00:51:17.560
So if you want to keep being on these calls and come on over and keep

775
00:51:17.560 --> 00:51:21.720
the momentum and the breakthrough is going, we're going to drop my link.

776
00:51:21.720 --> 00:51:22.360
Think about it.

777
00:51:22.360 --> 00:51:27.200
Pray about it and it'll be a monthly membership at 57.

778
00:51:27.760 --> 00:51:31.760
A dollar is a month for all four calls and we're going to start that June 8th.

779
00:51:31.760 --> 00:51:35.280
So I'm dropping that link just for the end of you need to pop off in a couple

780
00:51:35.280 --> 00:51:36.080
of minutes.

781
00:51:36.080 --> 00:51:38.520
All right, go ahead, Cian.

782
00:51:38.520 --> 00:51:43.000
OK, I'm going to actually just going to speak to Lauren a little bit because I

783
00:51:43.000 --> 00:51:45.960
lost my mom and it's been a year since April.

784
00:51:45.960 --> 00:51:50.280
And they say it takes a couple of years to get everything complete.

785
00:51:50.280 --> 00:51:55.280
But I was going to talk about this and I was kind of embarrassed.

786
00:51:55.720 --> 00:51:59.840
But the mindset of like my mom stepping, I've been stepping into my mom's

787
00:51:59.840 --> 00:52:03.480
like job with our dog business and like having to take over

788
00:52:03.480 --> 00:52:07.760
the things that she does that I really don't want to.

789
00:52:07.760 --> 00:52:14.800
But in that, it's just like the stepping into like she left me

790
00:52:14.800 --> 00:52:20.160
inheritance, which I've part of that I used to pay for my coaching program

791
00:52:20.160 --> 00:52:24.160
because I'm like, she would love that I'm doing this.

792
00:52:25.160 --> 00:52:29.600
She got me into into this in the first place years ago.

793
00:52:29.600 --> 00:52:36.520
There's places that I'm afraid to call like oil royalties, afraid to look

794
00:52:36.520 --> 00:52:38.160
for the crypto that she talked about.

795
00:52:38.160 --> 00:52:39.520
You know, it's like we're doing a state.

796
00:52:39.520 --> 00:52:43.240
We're working with the lawyer stepping in to be millionaire.

797
00:52:43.240 --> 00:52:52.200
I don't know how to deal with that with the making the decisions or making

798
00:52:52.200 --> 00:52:53.920
decisions on just the mindset.

799
00:52:53.920 --> 00:52:57.320
It's just like that's one thing I was just like I've been wanting to talk about

800
00:52:57.320 --> 00:53:01.200
because it's like building like I put out my business for two years or take

801
00:53:01.200 --> 00:53:05.120
care of my mom and then in the process, her state and help with the business,

802
00:53:05.120 --> 00:53:06.320
my parents' business.

803
00:53:06.320 --> 00:53:07.960
Yeah, for sure.

804
00:53:07.960 --> 00:53:10.960
I'm on the phone, private conversation.

805
00:53:10.960 --> 00:53:15.920
Yeah, I know we've kind of talked about you stepping in the roles, right?

806
00:53:15.920 --> 00:53:17.800
That you weren't necessarily expecting.

807
00:53:17.800 --> 00:53:18.440
Hello.

808
00:53:18.440 --> 00:53:20.360
Welcome to like life, right?

809
00:53:20.360 --> 00:53:22.960
Again, this unexpected things that come.

810
00:53:22.960 --> 00:53:28.600
And so, Cian, were you were you on the mindset Monday call last week where we

811
00:53:28.600 --> 00:53:29.920
talked about money mindset?

812
00:53:29.920 --> 00:53:30.560
Were you on that?

813
00:53:30.560 --> 00:53:31.240
I think I missed it.

814
00:53:31.240 --> 00:53:32.120
Hold on.

815
00:53:32.120 --> 00:53:32.600
Okay.

816
00:53:32.600 --> 00:53:36.240
Cause that would be a good one.

817
00:53:36.240 --> 00:53:43.400
Sorry about that.

818
00:53:43.400 --> 00:53:44.200
That's okay.

819
00:53:44.200 --> 00:53:50.160
That would be a good one for you to listen to because, um,

820
00:53:51.160 --> 00:53:54.920
anybody else going to be the first millionaire in their generation on this

821
00:53:54.920 --> 00:53:58.160
call, anybody else the first ones?

822
00:53:58.160 --> 00:54:07.280
So being the first one of something like that, um, I'm going to, I'm, I'm, yeah.

823
00:54:07.280 --> 00:54:12.240
It's actually begins by saying I'm a millionaire.

824
00:54:12.240 --> 00:54:20.120
I know that again, it, it, your brain will believe what you tell it.

825
00:54:21.120 --> 00:54:24.560
And, and as I mentioned last week, and I'll mention this again, we need to hear

826
00:54:24.560 --> 00:54:25.440
this again and again.

827
00:54:25.440 --> 00:54:31.080
So belief, our beliefs have to be for something we haven't seen yet.

828
00:54:31.080 --> 00:54:34.480
Cause we have to believe it to see it.

829
00:54:34.480 --> 00:54:38.640
Instead of seeing it to believe it.

830
00:54:38.640 --> 00:54:44.280
That's, that's like the secret sauce to like getting our brains in a

831
00:54:44.280 --> 00:54:46.960
momentum and like creating something we've never seen before.

832
00:54:46.960 --> 00:54:47.400
Exactly.

833
00:54:47.400 --> 00:54:48.320
It's essentially faith.

834
00:54:48.320 --> 00:54:49.360
There's another word for it.

835
00:54:49.640 --> 00:54:51.680
And see, and I know you have, I know you have a lot of it.

836
00:54:51.680 --> 00:54:54.000
And I know your faith has also been rocked.

837
00:54:54.000 --> 00:54:55.280
Right.

838
00:54:55.280 --> 00:54:58.640
And I know like, again, when you're feeling discouraged or you're feeling down

839
00:54:58.640 --> 00:54:59.880
or grieving, like you are.

840
00:55:04.160 --> 00:55:07.680
something outside of what you're seeing.

841
00:55:07.680 --> 00:55:13.000
So, Cian, what I would leave you with is to listen to the mindset money from last

842
00:55:13.000 --> 00:55:17.640
week and then, um, that's going to be really helpful for you.

843
00:55:17.640 --> 00:55:22.200
And then begin to believe that you are a millionaire, that you, you get to be the

844
00:55:22.200 --> 00:55:23.240
first one in your family.

845
00:55:23.240 --> 00:55:24.080
It's not too late.

846
00:55:24.080 --> 00:55:26.200
It's never too late to create wealth.

847
00:55:26.240 --> 00:55:30.520
It never is and you're actually building, you're building something right now.

848
00:55:30.520 --> 00:55:31.680
That's going to get you there.

849
00:55:31.680 --> 00:55:36.200
So you've actually already invested in something in a system to get you there.

850
00:55:36.200 --> 00:55:38.480
Does that sound good?

851
00:55:38.480 --> 00:55:39.280
Yeah.

852
00:55:39.280 --> 00:55:39.640
Thank you.

853
00:55:39.640 --> 00:55:43.160
And I'm going to see you in San Diego in two weeks and that's going to be a

854
00:55:43.160 --> 00:55:47.560
really powerful time for your business as well, for what you're going to create

855
00:55:47.560 --> 00:55:49.440
in it to create that momentum.

856
00:55:49.440 --> 00:55:51.120
Yep.

857
00:55:51.120 --> 00:55:52.000
All right.

858
00:55:52.000 --> 00:55:53.360
I'm very excited about.

859
00:55:53.360 --> 00:55:54.720
I know I'm excited too.

860
00:55:54.720 --> 00:55:55.960
Thank you.

861
00:55:56.000 --> 00:55:57.080
You're welcome.

862
00:55:57.080 --> 00:55:59.320
Hey, Jennifer.

863
00:55:59.320 --> 00:56:01.040
Good to see you, girl.

864
00:56:01.040 --> 00:56:02.640
Where are you feeling stuck?

865
00:56:02.640 --> 00:56:06.960
Hey, um, I don't even really want to talk about it.

866
00:56:06.960 --> 00:56:11.440
Oh, thank you so much for saying that out loud.

867
00:56:11.440 --> 00:56:12.320
Yeah.

868
00:56:12.320 --> 00:56:19.560
OK, I, I'm somewhat of an external processor, but, you know, I don't have

869
00:56:19.560 --> 00:56:24.520
people to process this stuff with, um, for the business.

870
00:56:24.520 --> 00:56:30.520
So I like started really strong a year ago when I joined Rainmakers.

871
00:56:30.520 --> 00:56:36.200
I was like, flew through a lot of the content got samples, but didn't love my

872
00:56:36.200 --> 00:56:38.800
samples and couldn't get it modified the way I wanted.

873
00:56:38.800 --> 00:56:43.800
And then I had other life issues come up that took my time.

874
00:56:43.800 --> 00:56:47.840
And so I've kind of been on hold since like black fall.

875
00:56:47.840 --> 00:56:51.520
Like I have hardly done anything this whole school year for my kids.

876
00:56:51.520 --> 00:56:53.800
And now summer's here and I'm like, all right.

877
00:56:54.640 --> 00:56:56.600
I'm going to go back into everything.

878
00:56:56.600 --> 00:56:58.880
I don't really know what my question is.

879
00:56:58.880 --> 00:57:01.560
I'm just trying to like external process a little bit.

880
00:57:01.560 --> 00:57:07.600
What I think my next steps are and like if you see like a mindset thing or have

881
00:57:07.600 --> 00:57:08.640
feedback, great.

882
00:57:08.640 --> 00:57:11.320
Um, what are you?

883
00:57:11.320 --> 00:57:12.360
Tell me, tell me this.

884
00:57:12.360 --> 00:57:16.280
What has got you started in your momentum again?

885
00:57:16.280 --> 00:57:21.080
Like, what made you come back on the call and kind of get back into things?

886
00:57:21.080 --> 00:57:23.560
Well, part of it is time.

887
00:57:23.560 --> 00:57:27.920
Like I homeschool my kids and I just have had time for you here lately.

888
00:57:27.920 --> 00:57:33.320
Um, and also I think I don't know.

889
00:57:33.320 --> 00:57:40.160
I don't, I'm not sure like what other than that, what maybe helped me to get here.

890
00:57:40.160 --> 00:57:47.000
I think I have next steps like I, I don't have a product, but I have a brand idea.

891
00:57:47.000 --> 00:57:50.840
And so I'm like, well, I could go ahead and get my trademark.

892
00:57:50.840 --> 00:57:56.400
And I've also thought about creating a digital product, like creating an app first

893
00:57:56.400 --> 00:58:02.920
that I could sell and then moving into a physical product to go with it.

894
00:58:02.920 --> 00:58:09.720
And I guess part of my hesitation on that is like, well, that kind of like sounds fun.

895
00:58:09.720 --> 00:58:13.480
Like I would enjoy creating something digital and using AI to get that going.

896
00:58:13.480 --> 00:58:17.280
But it also is like, is that what rainmakers is?

897
00:58:17.280 --> 00:58:18.400
Like, I don't know.

898
00:58:18.680 --> 00:58:20.400
OK, yeah, I see what you're saying.

899
00:58:20.400 --> 00:58:23.920
So, and you are you still a member of rainmakers?

900
00:58:23.920 --> 00:58:27.160
Do you still have access to the calls on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays?

901
00:58:27.160 --> 00:58:31.360
Yeah. OK, so this is what I want you to do.

902
00:58:31.360 --> 00:58:34.640
I want you to hop on a Tuesday call with Megan.

903
00:58:34.640 --> 00:58:43.680
Because we are our new cohort of people who are coming in, which John is one of them.

904
00:58:43.680 --> 00:58:45.800
And there's a few other who were on this call.

905
00:58:46.560 --> 00:58:52.040
They're teaching more digital products and like how to do that.

906
00:58:52.040 --> 00:58:54.520
We actually, I know that there's two people in the inner circle who are

907
00:58:54.520 --> 00:58:56.520
building apps right now.

908
00:58:56.520 --> 00:59:00.400
So yes, yes.

909
00:59:00.400 --> 00:59:04.760
So I feel like hopping on a Tuesday call would be helpful in talking with

910
00:59:04.760 --> 00:59:08.160
Megan about this and kind of seeing what what she says to go to next.

911
00:59:08.160 --> 00:59:14.320
And then you get then now this is your mindset as the CEO.

912
00:59:15.080 --> 00:59:16.560
So Jennifer, you're the CEO.

913
00:59:16.560 --> 00:59:20.160
So you get to decide what kind of products you want to create

914
00:59:20.160 --> 00:59:21.800
and what you want to release into the world.

915
00:59:21.800 --> 00:59:23.760
You get to decide that.

916
00:59:23.760 --> 00:59:26.120
And if you're leaning more towards.

917
00:59:26.120 --> 00:59:30.600
You know, something digital, why not?

918
00:59:30.600 --> 00:59:34.280
We actually have all that you need in the rainmaker community to do that too.

919
00:59:34.280 --> 00:59:38.240
OK. Yeah, you've got it.

920
00:59:38.240 --> 00:59:39.000
You've invested.

921
00:59:39.000 --> 00:59:40.040
You're here.

922
00:59:40.040 --> 00:59:46.440
So the thing would be to hop on the practical call would be to go on the Tuesday call.

923
00:59:46.440 --> 00:59:50.040
OK, yeah, that's good.

924
00:59:50.040 --> 00:59:53.200
I think I can like I hopped in.

925
00:59:53.200 --> 00:59:59.320
I think that like I don't know if it's like shiny object thing or what, but.

926
01:00:03.740 --> 01:00:07.300
it's like, it's all like the new stuff you guys are doing, right?

927
01:00:07.300 --> 01:00:10.060
Like all the AI stuff and I'm like, "Well, I'm not there yet," you know?

928
01:00:10.060 --> 01:00:15.700
Like, and then like, and then we have several people

929
01:00:15.700 --> 01:00:19.700
that have already invested like a couple of years into their Amazon product

930
01:00:19.700 --> 01:00:22.100
and are still struggling for profitability.

931
01:00:22.100 --> 01:00:27.420
And so I just, I don't know, I've had so many reasons to put mentally the breaks

932
01:00:27.420 --> 01:00:31.540
on doing the physical product and I'm like, it seems like this digital thing might,

933
01:00:31.540 --> 01:00:32.540
like creating an app.

934
01:00:32.540 --> 01:00:38.340
There's, since you now have the capacity with, you know, AI to do something like that.

935
01:00:38.340 --> 01:00:41.080
But it is within the umbrella, right?

936
01:00:41.080 --> 01:00:45.040
And then I like to rain flow to help with that.

937
01:00:45.040 --> 01:00:45.880
>> Absolutely.

938
01:00:45.880 --> 01:00:46.460
And guess what?

939
01:00:46.460 --> 01:00:50.620
This is why I tell people it's adding on to what you already have.

940
01:00:50.620 --> 01:00:52.460
They actually work together.

941
01:00:52.460 --> 01:00:53.940
They're not separate.

942
01:00:53.940 --> 01:00:57.300
So the whole essence of like AI, I'll break it down.

943
01:00:57.300 --> 01:01:04.140
It's essentially how to scale your business using AI instead of only using you

944
01:01:04.140 --> 01:01:05.540
in your own time.

945
01:01:05.540 --> 01:01:08.100
And so there's a lot of ways to go about that right now.

946
01:01:08.100 --> 01:01:10.020
And Steven is just, that's his heart.

947
01:01:10.020 --> 01:01:11.380
That's what's upcoming.

948
01:01:11.380 --> 01:01:13.860
That's what's like, that's where business is going.

949
01:01:13.860 --> 01:01:18.860
And he is one of the, honestly, guys, I don't know if you follow all the other AI people

950
01:01:18.860 --> 01:01:24.020
in the online space right now, but Steven's been one of the leading people in it.

951
01:01:25.420 --> 01:01:30.380
He's been doing this before like there, like Grant Cardone is just getting on the scene

952
01:01:30.380 --> 01:01:31.180
with AI.

953
01:01:31.180 --> 01:01:34.700
And like Steven's been ahead of that for almost a year now, right?

954
01:01:34.700 --> 01:01:39.180
So Steven's got the vision of like seeing things ahead.

955
01:01:39.180 --> 01:01:40.460
He's the visionary, right?

956
01:01:40.460 --> 01:01:44.300
And so then now he's creating ways on how to teach people how to do this.

957
01:01:44.300 --> 01:01:48.700
And by the way, only a very, very, very small percentage of people statistically

958
01:01:48.700 --> 01:01:52.780
or even understanding AI, let alone using it and leveraging it.

959
01:01:52.780 --> 01:01:56.860
And that's what, that's what Steven's teaching people how to do in their businesses.

960
01:01:56.860 --> 01:02:00.060
So you're not behind and you're not confused.

961
01:02:00.060 --> 01:02:05.660
You just need some more clarity, I think, in how do I actually practically go do that?

962
01:02:05.660 --> 01:02:12.540
And people who have Amazon businesses right now, they're leveraging AI to work with it.

963
01:02:12.540 --> 01:02:14.140
Like I know Gurima's on this call.

964
01:02:14.140 --> 01:02:15.340
I think she's still on this call.

965
01:02:15.340 --> 01:02:16.380
She might have left.

966
01:02:16.380 --> 01:02:18.060
Yeah, Gurima's been doing that, right?

967
01:02:18.060 --> 01:02:19.420
It's like building funnels.

968
01:02:19.420 --> 01:02:21.180
It's having an email list.

969
01:02:21.180 --> 01:02:25.980
Anyways, I digress, but is that helpful, Jennifer?

970
01:02:25.980 --> 01:02:31.500
Like your mindset, look, I want you to look at it working together for you and not like

971
01:02:31.500 --> 01:02:36.700
against you and what you've already, you're going to build on what you already have.

972
01:02:36.700 --> 01:02:42.460
Yeah, like so I'm not missing it out by not going down the Amazon product path.

973
01:02:42.460 --> 01:02:45.580
You only are if you decide that you are.

974
01:02:47.900 --> 01:02:49.740
That's the power of our minds.

975
01:02:49.740 --> 01:02:51.500
If you decide that you are, then you are.

976
01:02:51.500 --> 01:02:56.060
But if you say I'm not, and this is where I come in and be like, no, think differently.

977
01:02:56.060 --> 01:02:59.740
Like that's not going to take you down a very good, encouraging path.

978
01:02:59.740 --> 01:03:04.220
Right, thinking, we never want to think I'm left out, I'm behind.

979
01:03:04.220 --> 01:03:06.460
That's poverty thinking, that's small thinking.

980
01:03:06.460 --> 01:03:08.700
We want to think abundantly, there's more than enough.

981
01:03:08.700 --> 01:03:09.900
I'm going to learn something else.

982
01:03:09.900 --> 01:03:11.580
I'm going to leverage this in a different way.

983
01:03:11.580 --> 01:03:13.340
You already have an idea, Jennifer.

984
01:03:13.340 --> 01:03:14.140
Sounds really cool.

985
01:03:14.140 --> 01:03:21.260
Okay, how do you feel?

986
01:03:21.260 --> 01:03:33.340
I feel okay, I'm glad to hear that the direction that I kind of want to go is still like cohesive

987
01:03:33.340 --> 01:03:35.820
with what Rainmakers is.

988
01:03:35.820 --> 01:03:40.060
It is, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep.

989
01:03:40.780 --> 01:03:49.580
Yeah, so I will get on next step to solve and then being brave to take more steps.

990
01:03:49.580 --> 01:03:53.660
Yeah, you can do it, Jennifer, you're brave, you're courageous.

991
01:03:53.660 --> 01:03:57.820
And can we just give her some cutas in the chat?

992
01:03:57.820 --> 01:04:00.780
Right in front, she said, I don't want to talk about this.

993
01:04:00.780 --> 01:04:03.020
That's courageous.

994
01:04:03.020 --> 01:04:07.740
Anytime you stay out loud to a group of people, the very thing you don't want to talk about,

995
01:04:07.740 --> 01:04:10.380
you're going to get a breakthrough.

996
01:04:10.380 --> 01:04:13.100
And that's what this calls for.

997
01:04:13.100 --> 01:04:15.900
So kudos to you, Jennifer.

998
01:04:15.900 --> 01:04:17.260
And Greenman made a good point.

999
01:04:17.260 --> 01:04:18.940
AI is moving very fast.

1000
01:04:18.940 --> 01:04:20.300
And Steven is with it.

1001
01:04:20.300 --> 01:04:23.980
So y'all are in good hands in this community.

1002
01:04:23.980 --> 01:04:24.540
He's with it.

1003
01:04:24.540 --> 01:04:26.940
Thank you.

1004
01:04:26.940 --> 01:04:28.460
Yeah, you're welcome.

1005
01:04:28.460 --> 01:04:33.900
All right, last but certainly not least, Anna, where are you feeling stuck, girl?

1006
01:04:33.900 --> 01:04:37.100
Um, my mindset.

1007
01:04:37.100 --> 01:04:38.540
All right.

1008
01:04:38.860 --> 01:04:46.860
So, um, last week I work, I work for special needs.

1009
01:04:46.860 --> 01:04:51.820
Um, last week I had a really bad incident happen.

1010
01:04:51.820 --> 01:04:59.740
And, um, and I, when bad things happen, I start blaming myself that I could have done better.

1011
01:05:11.920 --> 01:05:24.000
childhood memory because it seemed like growing up. I was always getting blamed.

1012
01:05:24.800 --> 01:05:33.520
Yeah, a lot of shame. So there's triggers. Yeah. And I thought that I was over it until this thing

1013
01:05:33.520 --> 01:05:45.120
happened. Yeah. And you know, and then it gets me stuck in just this self-condemnation.

1014
01:05:46.240 --> 01:05:55.840
Self-pity maybe even to. I guess, but I mean, when you have your boss questioning you and then I'm

1015
01:05:55.840 --> 01:06:04.880
thinking, you know, that they're going to be blaming me and it just goes back way back when I was a child.

1016
01:06:04.880 --> 01:06:20.640
So anyway, I get rid of that. Yeah. Love you for this. I love your vulnerability always. And again,

1017
01:06:20.640 --> 01:06:27.920
it takes a lot of courage to talk about a trigger. And so first things first, you take responsibility

1018
01:06:28.720 --> 01:06:36.480
for what you can, right? You take responsibility for your own trigger, right? Because it's never

1019
01:06:36.480 --> 01:06:42.720
when, so I wanted to find trigger real quick. This is how I would define it is when a wound in you

1020
01:06:42.720 --> 01:06:52.320
gets poked, right? So it triggers. It's like sets off something in you. And usually this looks like

1021
01:06:52.320 --> 01:06:57.760
you're overreacting to something that maybe isn't that big of a deal. That's a trigger. Okay.

1022
01:06:57.760 --> 01:07:03.520
So I'm glad that you're able to identify it. So the second thing to a trigger is how can I take

1023
01:07:03.520 --> 01:07:09.200
care of myself? How can I take responsibility for this trigger? Usually it starts with kind

1024
01:07:09.200 --> 01:07:14.720
of this mindset work we're doing, right? Like, what is my feeling and what thought is connected

1025
01:07:14.720 --> 01:07:19.840
to my feeling? So you're already actually pretty in tune with that, Anna, like, it's my fault.

1026
01:07:21.280 --> 01:07:27.600
I'm the bad guy. I'm going to be blamed. And we've got to really be careful

1027
01:07:27.600 --> 01:07:33.120
because we want to take responsibility. You want to do that, but you want to do it in a way

1028
01:07:33.120 --> 01:07:38.160
that's honoring. And that's true. Because sometimes I feel like, Anna, maybe you take on too much

1029
01:07:38.160 --> 01:07:46.560
blame. I'll use your word. When maybe it's doesn't even have to fully even do with you.

1030
01:07:48.320 --> 01:07:53.520
So first things is to take care of your trigger, which is to essentially soothe yourself

1031
01:07:53.520 --> 01:08:00.640
and understand, okay, what's really happening? What thoughts are going on here?

1032
01:08:00.640 --> 01:08:05.600
And then I want you to take a step back. So that's more introspective. Then you want to come

1033
01:08:05.600 --> 01:08:10.480
out and say, okay, what's actually going on here? So it sounds like, tell me if I'm wrong,

1034
01:08:10.480 --> 01:08:15.920
you've got some feedback and you're taking it maybe a little personal.

1035
01:08:15.920 --> 01:08:28.800
Okay. So feedback is actually neutral unless you give it power. So somebody's saying, hey,

1036
01:08:28.800 --> 01:08:34.160
I need you to do this, this and this. Or hey, I saw you did this and didn't do this.

1037
01:08:34.160 --> 01:08:39.279
You can just take it at face without take it neutral. Okay, this is what it is. Okay, what,

1038
01:08:39.920 --> 01:08:46.080
how can I respond maybe a little less emotional and more just on the thinking side? Let me respond

1039
01:08:46.080 --> 01:08:54.720
more of like what's actually happening here. I mean, unless they did they deliberately say,

1040
01:08:54.720 --> 01:09:00.160
hey, I'm blaming you for this, this and this. You're a terrible person. I didn't think so.

1041
01:09:00.160 --> 01:09:04.880
But it was under my watch. It was under my watch. Yeah. And that's why.

1042
01:09:06.000 --> 01:09:14.399
And and so we all make mistakes. We all mess up every single person on this call. We'll go on

1043
01:09:14.399 --> 01:09:18.880
to do something they're not proud of today, tomorrow or three weeks or an hour a month or

1044
01:09:18.880 --> 01:09:24.880
whatever. So so I think Anna for you, it's just kind of taking care of your trigger and not letting

1045
01:09:24.880 --> 01:09:30.880
it's the thought that's like snowball into a bigger thought and kind of then begin a spiral.

1046
01:09:30.880 --> 01:09:36.960
We all know about these spirals in our brains, right? So you can stop that by saying, wait a minute,

1047
01:09:36.960 --> 01:09:42.399
what's actually going on here, looking at it more of a neutral standpoint. So feedback is neutral.

1048
01:09:42.399 --> 01:09:47.200
Okay, I'm not going to go into a shame spiral and say, I'm I'm to blame and I'm this, this, this and this.

1049
01:09:47.200 --> 01:09:52.640
You have the power to actually stop that and create something different.

1050
01:09:52.640 --> 01:09:59.920
Is that how does that sound? Yeah, it sounds good.