WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.000 You 2 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:32.000 You 3 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:02.000 You 4 00:01:30.000 --> 00:01:32.000 You 5 00:01:39.760 --> 00:01:41.760 Hello hey 6 00:01:49.440 --> 00:01:51.440 Live stream live stream 7 00:02:00.000 --> 00:02:02.000 You 8 00:02:07.880 --> 00:02:15.040 How's your morning? Okay. Yeah. Yeah you busy so far 9 00:02:17.200 --> 00:02:18.520 But fine 10 00:02:18.520 --> 00:02:26.560 Yeah, that's cool. I slept really good last night. What I'm really thankful for. Yeah. I love that. I really needed it. Mm-hmm 11 00:02:27.560 --> 00:02:33.440 That's good, you know, it's nice to come to most Tuesdays right in teleworks, so 12 00:02:34.080 --> 00:02:37.960 He actually gets up with the kids. So it like gives me an extra like hour to 13 00:02:38.520 --> 00:02:40.520 Wow, that's such a blessing 14 00:02:41.840 --> 00:02:43.840 Yeah 15 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:45.720 Okay 16 00:02:45.720 --> 00:02:49.560 No one's in the waiting room yet. Okay, let's see. I 17 00:02:50.760 --> 00:02:53.520 saw the I mean the 18 00:02:54.520 --> 00:02:59.760 Reminders went out. So they did. Okay, I got him. I 19 00:03:00.560 --> 00:03:03.560 Was just checking on that. Oh, yeah, I see it now. Okay, I 20 00:03:04.680 --> 00:03:06.680 Scheduled those out 21 00:03:06.680 --> 00:03:12.080 Last week I can schedule out now. So it's great. No, that's amazing. Yeah 22 00:03:15.200 --> 00:03:18.280 I'm still getting over being sick. Yeah 23 00:03:18.280 --> 00:03:25.680 I'm feeling better. Um, and then you know the thing that a woman has every month happened this morning. So I'm like 24 00:03:26.680 --> 00:03:28.680 That's perfect 25 00:03:30.840 --> 00:03:33.640 Great like I love this combination 26 00:03:35.320 --> 00:03:37.320 I'm going to rest this afternoon 27 00:03:43.320 --> 00:03:45.320 Well 28 00:03:45.960 --> 00:03:47.960 See if anybody comes on I mean 29 00:03:51.560 --> 00:03:54.480 Normally there's people in the waiting room. No, there is yeah 30 00:04:02.400 --> 00:04:09.120 Yeah, actually this book is in my opinion it's actually pretty easy to read she she's formatted super easy 31 00:04:09.120 --> 00:04:12.800 It's not like long and treacherous. I liked how her little sections are like 32 00:04:13.360 --> 00:04:19.320 Perfect she feels very conversational in her writing to you. Uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah 33 00:04:20.320 --> 00:04:22.360 She kind of reminds me myself a little bit 34 00:04:23.040 --> 00:04:28.200 Yeah, yeah, and I you know what? I really liked is she talked a lot in this chapter about 35 00:04:29.360 --> 00:04:32.720 How much how much influence her parents had on her, you know? 36 00:04:32.720 --> 00:04:37.080 She was like my dad gave me this book and my parents took me to this leadership weekend 37 00:04:37.080 --> 00:04:41.500 and we weren't allowed to say the words I can't in our house and like 38 00:04:41.900 --> 00:04:44.540 I'm like, that's the power of 39 00:04:46.980 --> 00:04:51.180 Influence and parenting and like being intentional with your children. I mean 40 00:04:51.940 --> 00:04:54.220 She really did have a leg up in her life 41 00:04:54.220 --> 00:04:59.820 I feel like in in in what I mean by that is she got to be raised in that 42 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:05.520 so of course at 19 she's having this courage to start a business 43 00:05:06.960 --> 00:05:12.160 like well of course that's what happens when you get set that to your brain your whole life 44 00:05:12.960 --> 00:05:20.240 girl i mean childhood makes a huge difference it does it makes like all the difference 45 00:05:20.960 --> 00:05:29.200 the things i hear leona say i'm like i didn't ever say those things until maybe in my 20s 46 00:05:29.200 --> 00:05:38.080 maybe right maybe maybe that's a big maybe on that one yesterday she came home from school 47 00:05:38.080 --> 00:05:41.760 and since no one's in the waiting room still so i'll just keep talking okay well yeah um 48 00:05:41.760 --> 00:05:49.120 she came home from school and she was telling me like i started a vision like a club and her class 49 00:05:49.120 --> 00:05:53.360 that she's calling vision scroll i don't know why she came up with that name it doesn't match 50 00:05:53.920 --> 00:06:01.040 the club but she was telling me about it she goes she was she's like finally i'm the boss of 51 00:06:01.040 --> 00:06:10.640 something oh my god and i was just like yeah it's like it's a good thing like you that's so cool 52 00:06:10.640 --> 00:06:14.240 and she's talking about how like yeah and like her friend is helping her do this and then she's 53 00:06:14.240 --> 00:06:19.360 like because more kids joined than i thought they would and i can't leave by myself like i need some 54 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:29.360 help and i was just like you asked for help wow gabby that is so cool i was like i didn't do that 55 00:06:30.080 --> 00:06:37.280 till yesterday you know what i mean that's what it feels like no i know i'm so happy for her and 56 00:06:37.280 --> 00:06:43.120 i'm so happy for you it does make a huge difference that's some serious influence there 57 00:06:43.520 --> 00:06:50.000 and just having the safety to feel like she can step into that and create something like 58 00:06:54.400 --> 00:07:00.000 actually i just remembered i started a club in high school too you did that does not surprise 59 00:07:00.000 --> 00:07:04.880 me actually yeah i forgot about it but you know i 60 00:07:05.040 --> 00:07:05.920 but you know i 61 00:07:09.200 --> 00:07:16.320 huh wow that just triggered a memory in me yeah like a good one yeah one i actually forgot about 62 00:07:17.200 --> 00:07:26.160 okay that's really cool what kind of club was it it was like a uni it was like a unity among 63 00:07:26.160 --> 00:07:32.800 diversity club i love that yeah they were like we had different like people from different 64 00:07:33.760 --> 00:07:40.080 um races represented and we would talk about how we could bring unity in the school 65 00:07:41.840 --> 00:07:46.800 that i can't even i don't think i would have had any ability to have in that at that time 66 00:07:48.400 --> 00:07:51.440 you know it's interesting because that was after i became a christian 67 00:07:52.400 --> 00:07:58.960 yeah so i think part of like the influence of like christians and like being a leader 68 00:07:58.960 --> 00:08:05.920 i kind of was an immediate leader in like young life and then at my church but i really hadn't had 69 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:17.920 a taste of any of that before then like not really yeah hey margo hi hi uh we were getting lonely i 70 00:08:17.920 --> 00:08:26.240 was like where is everybody i just put out another post obviously i'm stoked to see your beautiful 71 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:34.159 faces obviously right yeah we were actually just talking about something really cool 72 00:08:34.159 --> 00:08:40.400 how in the book she talks about i noticed there was a lot of influence from her parents on her 73 00:08:40.400 --> 00:08:47.440 really positively like teaching her i can statements and like having her do visualizations 74 00:08:47.440 --> 00:08:52.960 and like going to these leadership weekends and like um she just the fact that she could talk 75 00:08:52.960 --> 00:08:56.560 about her parents having such a positive influence on her and so i was thinking no 76 00:08:56.560 --> 00:09:02.960 wonder why she wanted to have business ideas as a teen you know like no wonder she felt 77 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:06.400 you know she could go out and take all these risks and then 78 00:09:07.120 --> 00:09:11.760 gabby was talking about how her daughter just started a club at school 79 00:09:14.160 --> 00:09:18.720 and um yeah we were just talking about and i remember i and then this memory just triggered 80 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:22.880 in me like i started a club when i was in high school and i completely forgot about it and just 81 00:09:22.880 --> 00:09:30.480 like just the power of that influence and like how as parents you what you say to your kids and 82 00:09:31.040 --> 00:09:39.280 what you put into their brain like matters oh 100 yeah definitely i don't think i had that 83 00:09:39.280 --> 00:09:46.640 experience with my parents about like go out and do something different i had lots of like 84 00:09:47.280 --> 00:09:52.400 i believe in you actually a lot of my like the affirmations that i received from my parents 85 00:09:52.400 --> 00:09:59.360 was spoken to other people i would be with my mom and she would like talk to other people about like 86 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.360 my accolades and accomplishments and things and I'm like oh cool she's super 87 00:10:05.360 --> 00:10:12.000 proud of me but she never told me that directly so it was this weird like which 88 00:10:12.000 --> 00:10:16.520 is also why I am so like performance driven now because I when I was from a 89 00:10:16.520 --> 00:10:20.840 time at the time I was very young it was like I have to perform and accomplish 90 00:10:20.840 --> 00:10:27.720 things in order to be like recognized so I still got some of that like you know 91 00:10:27.720 --> 00:10:34.600 I'm capable I can do it like it was very independent but not so much the like 92 00:10:34.600 --> 00:10:39.520 find something that jives and like go out and do that thing or like seek out 93 00:10:39.520 --> 00:10:45.600 new opportunities it was like go to work get a job go to your job yeah the 94 00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:56.280 pension no for sure yeah but yeah Margo and I hey Carrie hey Jessica good to see 95 00:10:56.280 --> 00:11:01.800 you ladies we're just kind of talking about this first part of the hour what 96 00:11:01.800 --> 00:11:07.080 we usually talk about the book and I wanted to let you guys know I updated 97 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:14.840 the announcement the book club announcement in the app and I put page 98 00:11:14.840 --> 00:11:19.920 numbers for each of the sections so go ahead and take a look at that and 99 00:11:19.920 --> 00:11:25.280 whatever you did for this time is fine it technically was the vision in the 100 00:11:25.280 --> 00:11:32.400 future part so basically pages 53 to 102 Carrie were you able to Margo were 101 00:11:32.400 --> 00:11:43.600 you guys be able to read um I have read all of part one okay you read it then 102 00:11:43.600 --> 00:11:49.400 yeah okay not Carrie and then Jessica I'm not sure if you're reading our book 103 00:11:49.400 --> 00:11:54.840 or not okay that's fine no worries what book are we talking about so we started 104 00:11:54.840 --> 00:12:01.320 she means business last week means she means business okay yeah and you can get 105 00:12:01.320 --> 00:12:05.440 it you can get it for like I have it for free with my library app and I'm just 106 00:12:05.440 --> 00:12:12.080 yeah yeah I have and Libby yeah same okay great you can find it there she 107 00:12:12.080 --> 00:12:15.840 means business okay yeah sounds good and there's a like I said there's an 108 00:12:15.840 --> 00:12:19.680 announcement that kind of tells you what week what day and what pages so you can 109 00:12:19.680 --> 00:12:26.360 keep track of that so I so Carrie didn't read neither did Jessica so me 110 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:30.800 and Margo and Gabby did I don't even know if you did Gabby but I read but I 111 00:12:30.800 --> 00:12:35.720 just didn't read that far cuz I wasn't sure so okay well here's what we'll do 112 00:12:35.720 --> 00:12:40.880 I'll just do a quick little recap and then if anybody wants to share any 113 00:12:40.880 --> 00:12:46.560 thoughts and then we can just move into office hours so but okay so I actually 114 00:12:46.560 --> 00:12:53.400 really enjoy this chapter and she talks a lot about our imagination and how to 115 00:12:53.400 --> 00:12:58.800 capitalize on our imagination how to dream again right and we've even talked 116 00:12:58.800 --> 00:13:02.360 about this in mindset Monday a lot about how to create a 3d vision right how to 117 00:13:02.360 --> 00:13:10.120 do a brain prime how to prep your brain to see what you want before it happens 118 00:13:10.120 --> 00:13:14.000 because that's part of believing right is being able to see something in the 119 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:22.440 brain and so she talked about oh she also talked about how she encouraged 120 00:13:22.440 --> 00:13:27.440 people to read books join networking groups and join like online groups to 121 00:13:27.440 --> 00:13:31.680 basically rub shoulders with people who are doing what you want to do and I won 122 00:13:31.680 --> 00:13:36.760 like everyone in this group is doing all of those that's why you're in this group 123 00:13:36.760 --> 00:13:42.760 so I'm like check check and check for all of you she talked about her friend 124 00:13:42.760 --> 00:13:48.960 Alice's Lucas in college and how she her story was really interesting to me 125 00:13:48.960 --> 00:13:52.960 because she said she did a lot of things she started something and then it didn't 126 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:55.680 work she started something and then it didn't work she started something else 127 00:13:55.680 --> 00:13:58.800 and she took a pause for three years and she took a pause for a year then she 128 00:13:58.800 --> 00:14:02.920 tried this thing and there was this part in the chapter where she talks about 129 00:14:02.920 --> 00:14:11.240 having divine breadcrumbs so like even in each each part of your of you working 130 00:14:11.240 --> 00:14:14.480 towards your journey in your business there's all these little breadcrumbs 131 00:14:14.480 --> 00:14:19.480 that are left behind for you to grab and for you to keep for you and there was 132 00:14:19.480 --> 00:14:24.720 this quote by Theodore Roosevelt which was if you aren't sure what to do then 133 00:14:24.720 --> 00:14:29.680 do the next right thing and then the second thing is doing the wrong thing 134 00:14:29.680 --> 00:14:34.840 but the worst thing is doing nothing so that powerful quote I'm sure we've all 135 00:14:34.840 --> 00:14:38.240 heard at some point by Theodore Roosevelt I really appreciated her 136 00:14:38.240 --> 00:14:42.280 bringing that up and there was this part in the book where there were all 137 00:14:42.280 --> 00:14:46.560 these questions that she wrote to help you to visualize or to dream again so 138 00:14:46.560 --> 00:14:51.040 you could check that out in this chapter it's like 12 different questions and she 139 00:14:51.040 --> 00:14:54.680 talked to she there were quite a few times where she gave us journal prompts 140 00:14:54.680 --> 00:14:58.160 like take some time to just journal these questions imagine these questions 141 00:14:58.160 --> 00:15:02.000 like what lights you up what's your message 142 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:06.760 message, what's your vision, right? And she talked about how to train your brain to basically 143 00:15:06.760 --> 00:15:10.280 look for what you want. So that's kind of the things we've done also in Mindset Monday, 144 00:15:10.280 --> 00:15:16.880 like creating that 3D vision board and creating a 3D story of your life, like writing a story 145 00:15:16.880 --> 00:15:23.160 as if your life has already happened. And she talks a lot about the power of that. She 146 00:15:23.160 --> 00:15:29.280 also talked about, oh, she mentioned the negative committee. When your negative thoughts start 147 00:15:29.280 --> 00:15:35.940 to chime in. And I just really appreciate her talking about this because we all deal 148 00:15:35.940 --> 00:15:40.040 with this. We all have negative thoughts. We all feel imposter syndrome out one way 149 00:15:40.040 --> 00:15:45.920 or another in building something. And then at the very end of this part of the book, 150 00:15:45.920 --> 00:15:50.680 there was this quote that said, if you think you're too small to be effective, try laying 151 00:15:50.680 --> 00:15:57.520 in bed with a mosquito. And kind of the idea of a mosquito is really small, but man, it's 152 00:15:57.520 --> 00:16:05.320 effective, isn't it? And then the last thing I wanted to paraphrase is she said, be willing 153 00:16:05.320 --> 00:16:11.680 to choose different thoughts. And she, her and I are really similar. Like I really feel 154 00:16:11.680 --> 00:16:16.600 for her in this, these last few parts of this chapter of this section, because she said, 155 00:16:16.600 --> 00:16:23.040 it takes a lot of courage to know your thoughts and then to choose a different thought. And 156 00:16:23.040 --> 00:16:26.680 she said, that is some of the most powerful things you'll do in your day. And I say that 157 00:16:26.840 --> 00:16:33.320 a lot. And I was like, I feel this with all of my being. I agree. And you all are doing 158 00:16:33.320 --> 00:16:42.640 the mindset work. And that is so incredibly crucial to success. And I agree. It is so 159 00:16:42.640 --> 00:16:47.220 hard to choose a different thought sometimes. Like I'm even dealing with it today. We deal 160 00:16:47.220 --> 00:16:55.200 with our thoughts on a daily basis. Right. And so that's kind of an overview of, of, 161 00:16:55.200 --> 00:17:00.360 of those parts. So I wanted to, I'd love to open up the floor. If any of you, something 162 00:17:00.360 --> 00:17:06.599 stood out to you, even what I just said, or what you read in this part of the book, something 163 00:17:06.599 --> 00:17:16.880 that stood out, something you want to chime in on something you want to add to. Hey, Garima. 164 00:17:16.880 --> 00:17:22.079 I am loving like all the little quotes that she puts out there. Like even how, you know, 165 00:17:22.079 --> 00:17:26.280 when you turn the page and then one full, well, in the book, I don't know if you guys 166 00:17:26.280 --> 00:17:31.720 have that with the digital or audio, but in the book, when you turn a page, like the whole 167 00:17:31.720 --> 00:17:38.720 page will be like a positive affirmation or something like a quote or something, not just, 168 00:17:38.720 --> 00:17:43.800 you know, at the beginning of each new section, how she has like a quote from somebody. So 169 00:17:43.800 --> 00:17:49.160 it has been powerful and it is amazing, like how it's correlated to Mindset Monday. But 170 00:17:49.240 --> 00:17:51.800 I mean, I'm loving this book. I absolutely love it. 171 00:17:51.800 --> 00:18:02.680 Yeah, I also am really enjoying the book. I think there's a lot of parallels in other 172 00:18:02.680 --> 00:18:08.880 work I've done previously, which is so like affirming, like you're on the right path, 173 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:18.040 you're doing the things. I think this, the part you were talking about, Danielle, 174 00:18:18.040 --> 00:18:25.520 where she was talking about like imagination or like basically being able to like picture 175 00:18:25.520 --> 00:18:31.480 what you want to then create what you want. I sometimes think back to when I was a child 176 00:18:31.480 --> 00:18:36.000 and my imagination was abundant and I had very clear vision of what my life would look 177 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:40.840 like when I got older. For some reason, I don't know. I thought a lot about the future 178 00:18:40.840 --> 00:18:48.280 when I was young, when I was a kid. And it didn't, like for a while there, it didn't 179 00:18:48.280 --> 00:18:55.160 look anything like what I thought it would or anything like what I expected or like imagined 180 00:18:55.160 --> 00:19:02.620 it would. And it's, we're getting there. It's starting to trend in that direction. 181 00:19:02.620 --> 00:19:09.520 But I have been a lot more intentional in the last like five years, a little bit more 182 00:19:09.520 --> 00:19:13.480 than that, but like really intentional in the last five years in like choosing things 183 00:19:13.480 --> 00:19:20.560 that align with, it's almost like following the breadcrumbs again, like going back to 184 00:19:20.560 --> 00:19:26.160 my childhood, like what did I see for my life? And what did I want? And what did I not like 185 00:19:26.160 --> 00:19:31.320 plan for, but just like what was that vision that I had? And like, how can I get there 186 00:19:31.320 --> 00:19:44.040 now? Yeah, that's kind of abstract, but I feel like I was kind of living in that cycle 187 00:19:44.040 --> 00:19:50.920 while I was reading that part. Like I used to be so good at just imagining things and 188 00:19:50.920 --> 00:19:57.880 creating vision. And then I remember, I distinctly remember becoming like a tween and being with 189 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.800 of my parents and their kids were younger and them wanting to like play Barbies with me 190 00:20:04.800 --> 00:20:10.160 and me like struggling with like Barbies and Playmobil was like my life as a child and it was 191 00:20:10.160 --> 00:20:17.680 all very imaginary and very like thought out and planned out and stories and people and names and 192 00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:23.280 characters and all kinds of things and I remember being you know like 12 or 13 or something and 193 00:20:23.280 --> 00:20:27.440 and looking at this little girl who was like will you play with me and being like uh 194 00:20:28.400 --> 00:20:31.760 I I don't I don't know how because that like 195 00:20:33.920 --> 00:20:40.640 creative vision sort of was like had gone that like imagination had kind of like taken a back 196 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:47.840 seat to like the real life right the real world and so I've been spending a lot of time in my 197 00:20:47.840 --> 00:20:53.680 adult years now having my own kids trying to reconnect with that like childlike wonder and 198 00:20:53.680 --> 00:20:59.200 that curiosity and that I imagine ultimately the imagination to create vision. 199 00:21:08.240 --> 00:21:12.800 Yeah I mean we lose we lose that imagination because we start to have more of the 200 00:21:12.800 --> 00:21:20.400 rat like rationalization and fear come in and so the little things can happen that teach your brain 201 00:21:20.400 --> 00:21:27.280 to not dream so big because it's risky or to not imagine it's risky because things can go 202 00:21:27.280 --> 00:21:33.680 differently than what we think and so if you're not you know at that young of an age if your 203 00:21:33.680 --> 00:21:39.600 household is not you know teaching you to continue to have it then you are going to lose it and 204 00:21:40.560 --> 00:21:46.240 you know you'll but what's great like I had a similar experience you know and 205 00:21:47.040 --> 00:21:54.880 what's great is coming back around to it you know and we we get to have the opportunity to 206 00:21:56.160 --> 00:22:01.120 restart every day you know what I mean I think that's what's nice you get to restart every day 207 00:22:01.120 --> 00:22:05.680 every day you get to choose picking a vision picking your vision picking your dreams whatever 208 00:22:05.680 --> 00:22:15.280 it is and not you know not settling not settling so I think that's what I appreciate for me and 209 00:22:16.000 --> 00:22:22.000 and I'm behind on reading is you know just some days we're really tired and we're like I don't 210 00:22:22.000 --> 00:22:26.960 have it in me to pick my vision today or my dream but we get to go to sleep and wake up and get 211 00:22:26.960 --> 00:22:33.760 another option another day to choose. Yeah I love that you mentioned that Gabby and she actually 212 00:22:33.760 --> 00:22:40.240 talked about that too she talks about you can have daily weekly monthly goals and you don't hit them 213 00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:51.440 all the time you just don't that's okay right and then also that whole you know child likeness 214 00:22:51.440 --> 00:22:58.400 that one I like how you said that word Margot that wonder we are actually really just big kids 215 00:22:58.400 --> 00:23:05.520 and and and I was reading this and I thought man I I was tempted in my thinking to say well of 216 00:23:05.520 --> 00:23:10.880 course you started your business as a teen because you grew up in safety like you grew up 217 00:23:10.880 --> 00:23:16.720 in love of course you know but then I stopped myself because I was like wait a minute that 218 00:23:16.720 --> 00:23:23.120 that's her story but that's not an excuse as to why I didn't understand business till I was 30 219 00:23:23.120 --> 00:23:31.120 right I didn't even think I'd ever make more or be more until less than six years six years ago 220 00:23:31.120 --> 00:23:37.040 for me you know was the first person I I rubbed shoulders with the first person in my life who 221 00:23:37.040 --> 00:23:42.480 told me hey have you ever considered doing something out of teaching have you ever considered 222 00:23:42.480 --> 00:23:52.240 making more than 45 000 a year and I was like no you know like not really like and so who cares if 223 00:23:52.240 --> 00:23:58.880 it's 30 if it's 19 if it's 55 if it's 90 it actually doesn't matter so that's why I really 224 00:23:58.880 --> 00:24:06.560 liked how she brought us back to the power of our imagination the power of our thoughts and how we 225 00:24:06.560 --> 00:24:12.320 get to choose them and and we do it doesn't matter our age or our stage or what we went through as 226 00:24:12.320 --> 00:24:17.760 children but here's the thing all of you who are parents and you all have a lot of you in here have 227 00:24:17.760 --> 00:24:24.640 young kids look at this book look what she's done look at the power of her parents teaching her 228 00:24:25.360 --> 00:24:32.800 these lovely beautiful affirming things and her kids are she went on to be that woman at such a 229 00:24:32.800 --> 00:24:40.400 young age you know a girl who believes she could do anything she did and I do think a part of it 230 00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:45.280 was her loving parents and so I wanted to just encourage all of you in the room it being Mother's 231 00:24:45.280 --> 00:24:50.160 Day on Sunday and I know I know mothering can really get feel like it's you're getting the 232 00:24:50.160 --> 00:24:55.760 trenches and it's like is this even working when you're a mess how can I even parent you know you 233 00:24:55.760 --> 00:24:59.760 get those ruts and so I just feel like um 234 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.780 This was just a great reminder, and I want to encourage all of you, keep mothering, keep 235 00:25:03.780 --> 00:25:08.520 showing up for yourself, keep teaching your kids how to love themselves, how to love God, 236 00:25:08.520 --> 00:25:14.000 how to love one another, because it does influence and it does impact. 237 00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:25.920 The little by little, it does. 238 00:25:25.920 --> 00:25:33.040 Any other thoughts about the book or kind of what we've been talking about? 239 00:25:33.040 --> 00:25:37.560 I want to know if you're still seeing that guy that you mentioned the last time. 240 00:25:37.560 --> 00:25:39.920 Oh, that's so funny, Jessica. 241 00:25:39.920 --> 00:25:41.920 Now girl, he's old news. 242 00:25:41.920 --> 00:25:43.680 Ah, bummer. 243 00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:46.680 I was a teen guy. 244 00:25:46.680 --> 00:25:52.800 Yeah, unfortunately, he had more of a poverty mindset and he was proud of it. 245 00:25:52.800 --> 00:25:54.800 So he let me go. 246 00:25:55.800 --> 00:25:57.800 Yeah, you're better off. 247 00:25:57.800 --> 00:25:58.800 Yeah, thanks. 248 00:25:58.800 --> 00:26:00.800 There's another guy on the scene from my church. 249 00:26:00.800 --> 00:26:01.800 We'll see. 250 00:26:01.800 --> 00:26:02.800 We'll see. 251 00:26:02.800 --> 00:26:03.800 I don't know. 252 00:26:03.800 --> 00:26:04.800 That's fun. 253 00:26:04.800 --> 00:26:05.800 That's fun. 254 00:26:05.800 --> 00:26:06.800 Thanks. 255 00:26:06.800 --> 00:26:07.800 I'm trying. 256 00:26:07.800 --> 00:26:08.800 I love all this. 257 00:26:08.800 --> 00:26:15.800 I love all this mindset stuff that we're listening to that you guys are talking about. 258 00:26:15.800 --> 00:26:23.800 I just think, yeah, it's my husband started a new job in January and he was let go three 259 00:26:23.800 --> 00:26:24.800 days ago. 260 00:26:24.800 --> 00:26:25.800 So, yeah. 261 00:26:25.800 --> 00:26:31.800 So now we're pivoting and it's all about mindset right now. 262 00:26:31.800 --> 00:26:32.800 Again. 263 00:26:32.800 --> 00:26:39.800 And, and like, God's just really challenging us is the fourth time in four years. 264 00:26:39.800 --> 00:26:45.800 And yeah, and it's like, so this is okay. 265 00:26:46.800 --> 00:26:55.800 We're up to our eyeballs in inventory debt, like in credit card debt because of inventory 266 00:26:55.800 --> 00:26:58.800 and shipping and coaching and all the things. 267 00:26:58.800 --> 00:27:03.800 So, yeah, it's scary, but it's like giving it to the Lord and kind of just surrendering 268 00:27:03.800 --> 00:27:05.800 all of it and pivoting. 269 00:27:06.800 --> 00:27:18.800 So we have fully decided to just focus him as well on our school community and in our 270 00:27:18.800 --> 00:27:20.800 Justin Jamie brand and everything. 271 00:27:20.800 --> 00:27:22.800 So like, yeah, we're like really excited. 272 00:27:22.800 --> 00:27:29.800 And so he had been working with a company that kind of does, you know, launching stuff 273 00:27:29.800 --> 00:27:33.800 for, for small businesses and helps them with meta ads and Google ads and whatever else. 274 00:27:33.800 --> 00:27:36.800 And so now he's taking all of that learning and applying it to us. 275 00:27:36.800 --> 00:27:40.800 So I'm excited and he has like a whole new perspective and a whole new. 276 00:27:40.800 --> 00:27:45.800 So this, this job serves its purpose and it was a blessing. 277 00:27:45.800 --> 00:27:48.800 And now we're just moving on and we're taking the hint. 278 00:27:48.800 --> 00:27:51.800 We're just starting our own business and really focusing. 279 00:27:51.800 --> 00:27:57.800 I mean, starting to prioritize our own business instead of just him looking on Indeed for 280 00:27:57.800 --> 00:27:58.800 another job. 281 00:27:58.800 --> 00:28:04.800 He's going to focus on creating something for himself and, and really flourishing what 282 00:28:04.800 --> 00:28:09.800 we already have, you know, the seeds that God's already helped us to plant. 283 00:28:09.800 --> 00:28:11.800 And so we're focusing on that. 284 00:28:11.800 --> 00:28:15.800 And so, yeah, it's all, it's all mindset and we're both encouraged. 285 00:28:15.800 --> 00:28:20.800 I'm like so proud of him and how he's just like happy and joyful and excited. 286 00:28:20.800 --> 00:28:23.800 We're both excited to see what God has for us. 287 00:28:23.800 --> 00:28:24.800 Yeah. 288 00:28:24.800 --> 00:28:30.800 And there's this one guy who goes around Instagram and he like interviews millionaires and billionaires. 289 00:28:30.800 --> 00:28:31.800 Have you guys seen him? 290 00:28:31.800 --> 00:28:33.800 He's like a little 12 year old kid. 291 00:28:33.800 --> 00:28:39.800 He looks so young and he goes around interviewing like millionaires and billionaires and they 292 00:28:39.800 --> 00:28:45.800 all were broke at some point and they all had bad credit scores and all had like maxed 293 00:28:45.800 --> 00:28:47.800 out credit cards and they all were just broke at some point. 294 00:28:47.800 --> 00:28:50.800 And so, yeah, that's really encouraging. 295 00:28:50.800 --> 00:28:55.800 So yeah, that's kind of where we're at right now, but I'm excited to hear all of your stories 296 00:28:55.800 --> 00:28:58.800 and perspective and all that stuff. 297 00:28:59.800 --> 00:29:00.800 Yeah. 298 00:29:00.800 --> 00:29:01.800 Thanks for sharing, Jessica. 299 00:29:01.800 --> 00:29:05.800 I, a question I had to come up that I think kind of fits a little bit of what you're talking 300 00:29:05.800 --> 00:29:10.800 about is to kind of like transition from the book to Office Hours. 301 00:29:10.800 --> 00:29:14.800 And it's kind of a question for both though, would be like, what's something that you're 302 00:29:15.800 --> 00:29:23.800 reading in the book or, Jessica, you're facing a situation that is like choosing your mindset, 303 00:29:23.800 --> 00:29:25.800 choosing your thoughts, choosing your new thoughts. 304 00:29:25.800 --> 00:29:30.800 What's something that's like, I'm not phrasing, I'm not articulating well today, like what's 305 00:29:30.800 --> 00:29:31.800 challenging about it? 306 00:29:31.800 --> 00:29:34.800 Like what's one thing that's either you're reading in the book and you're like, yeah, 307 00:29:34.800 --> 00:29:39.800 I agree with it, but it's challenging to actually do that or challenging to want to do that 308 00:29:39.800 --> 00:29:44.800 or Jessica with your situation or for anybody who's not caught up in the book, like what's 309 00:29:44.800 --> 00:29:50.800 a situation business wise or a mindset when you're thinking about business that is difficult 310 00:29:50.800 --> 00:29:51.800 to choose? 311 00:29:55.800 --> 00:29:57.800 For me, I would say it's a hundred percent surrender. 312 00:29:57.800 --> 00:29:58.800 It's like. 313 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.440 I go back to the Bible a lot and I think of like when Peter started walking on water and 314 00:30:04.440 --> 00:30:07.320 when he started looking down at the water, he started sinking. 315 00:30:07.320 --> 00:30:11.360 But then the second that he looked at Jesus, like he started walking again. 316 00:30:11.360 --> 00:30:16.680 And and then I had a therapist who actually shared this, he's like, it's like, it's all 317 00:30:16.680 --> 00:30:17.680 about perspective. 318 00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:22.480 So like, if you're upstairs and you hear a noise, and you're sleeping, and you wake up, 319 00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:26.160 and you know, you're freaking out because you know, your heart is those all all the 320 00:30:26.160 --> 00:30:27.160 things happen, right? 321 00:30:27.160 --> 00:30:31.400 Your sympathetic nervous system kicks in, you start sweating, and your palms get clammy 322 00:30:31.400 --> 00:30:34.920 and your heart starts beating fast and your breath, your respiratory system, everything 323 00:30:34.920 --> 00:30:35.920 is like escalating, right? 324 00:30:35.920 --> 00:30:38.480 And you hide and you're thinking, like, should I go to the kids room first? 325 00:30:38.480 --> 00:30:39.480 Should I call the cops? 326 00:30:39.480 --> 00:30:40.480 Like, what do I do? 327 00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:42.840 And like, you're in fight or flight. 328 00:30:42.840 --> 00:30:46.160 And then when you go downstairs, and you realize, oh, it's just the cat that knocked a cup 329 00:30:46.160 --> 00:30:48.480 over or something. 330 00:30:48.480 --> 00:30:54.200 And so like, what you believe is reality. 331 00:30:54.240 --> 00:30:59.120 And so like, what you're actually hearing, or what you're seeing, like lots of credit 332 00:30:59.120 --> 00:31:04.680 card debt, lots of, you know, no income right now, except for like, I'm working very, very 333 00:31:04.680 --> 00:31:08.160 part time as an OT. 334 00:31:08.160 --> 00:31:09.160 And like, things like that. 335 00:31:09.160 --> 00:31:12.280 And it's like, okay, so that's, that's what I'm seeing. 336 00:31:12.280 --> 00:31:13.560 That's what they were hearing. 337 00:31:13.560 --> 00:31:17.680 But what is truth, like, the truth is, is that we're pivoting, the truth is that we're 338 00:31:17.680 --> 00:31:22.960 starting a business, the truth is, is that this is normal, this is whatever. 339 00:31:23.960 --> 00:31:27.680 And I'm right now, I'm just like, I hate the stupid cat. 340 00:31:27.680 --> 00:31:30.360 Like, I see the reality of it. 341 00:31:30.360 --> 00:31:33.400 And I'm like, I hate the stupid cat that knocked over, like, I hate that I'm not getting an 342 00:31:33.400 --> 00:31:35.080 income right now. 343 00:31:35.080 --> 00:31:39.560 But I'm not in fight or flight, you know, which is a win for us. 344 00:31:39.560 --> 00:31:46.520 But I think the whole surrender idea of giving this up and giving this to the Lord and seeing 345 00:31:46.520 --> 00:31:51.040 it as monopoly money and seeing and like, just remember, scared money doesn't make money, 346 00:31:51.040 --> 00:31:52.800 scared money doesn't make money. 347 00:31:53.640 --> 00:31:58.600 And because at this point, we're just living off of my, what my dad left me when he passed 348 00:31:58.600 --> 00:31:59.600 away. 349 00:31:59.600 --> 00:32:00.600 So like, inheritance. 350 00:32:00.600 --> 00:32:04.920 And it's like, do we want to keep pouring into inventory and keep growing the business 351 00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:10.320 and keep pouring into meta ads and also like, do we want to keep using this and depleting 352 00:32:10.320 --> 00:32:11.320 this? 353 00:32:11.320 --> 00:32:14.680 Or is scared money doesn't make money, you know, and like, that's where we're at. 354 00:32:14.680 --> 00:32:20.280 So like, that surrender of, and that stretch where Dr. Irving keeps talking about that 355 00:32:20.280 --> 00:32:22.400 stretch, you know, like, do I? 356 00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:27.280 Let myself be stretched, I think is like my point of. 357 00:32:27.280 --> 00:32:35.400 So Jessica, what kind of mind does make money? 358 00:32:35.400 --> 00:32:36.400 What kind of mind? 359 00:32:36.400 --> 00:32:38.880 Yeah, you're saying a scared mind doesn't make money. 360 00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:41.440 Oh, scared, scared money doesn't make money. 361 00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:42.440 Got it. 362 00:32:42.440 --> 00:32:43.440 I heard. 363 00:32:43.440 --> 00:32:46.440 Yeah, scared money doesn't make money. 364 00:32:46.440 --> 00:32:54.240 I would still encourage you to think about what does make money. 365 00:32:54.240 --> 00:33:00.000 You know, so you get to give yourself a thought instead of trying to like, almost like punish 366 00:33:00.000 --> 00:33:07.080 your way of thinking, you know, there's like a different that feels different. 367 00:33:07.080 --> 00:33:12.600 Anybody else? 368 00:33:12.600 --> 00:33:13.840 I'll speak to that. 369 00:33:13.840 --> 00:33:20.640 So it's funny, somebody from church shared with me, and it's a song, Jessica, and I can't 370 00:33:20.640 --> 00:33:23.720 think of who sings it, but it's called New Wine. 371 00:33:23.720 --> 00:33:31.680 And it talks about when God is squeezing or pressing the grapes, it's about going through 372 00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:36.660 transformation and then what happens on the other side, you come out as new wine. 373 00:33:36.660 --> 00:33:40.520 So right now, we're in kind of like the same boat too. 374 00:33:40.520 --> 00:33:46.680 We're in this, the pressing and the squeezing and, you know, all of the things, but it's 375 00:33:46.680 --> 00:33:51.240 going through the transformation to come out the other side as new wine. 376 00:33:51.240 --> 00:33:53.360 So I can very much relate with you. 377 00:33:53.360 --> 00:33:55.360 And that's what I have to offer. 378 00:33:55.360 --> 00:34:04.240 Gary, what are, as you're going through the squeeze, what are thoughts that are easy to 379 00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:13.960 succumb to that are tempting in this season to listen to or believe that would essentially 380 00:34:13.960 --> 00:34:21.520 tell you to quit, stop, or some sort of negative thing? 381 00:34:21.520 --> 00:34:29.600 So I mean, I don't, Sean and I are not quitters, so I don't have any of that. 382 00:34:29.679 --> 00:34:34.360 I think it's just more exhaustion. 383 00:34:34.360 --> 00:34:37.960 Just I'm exhausted from being in the squeeze. 384 00:34:37.960 --> 00:34:44.239 Like this whole journey for us has just been one big pivot after pivot after pivot. 385 00:34:44.239 --> 00:34:48.400 And so it's like, we're just ready for a win. 386 00:34:48.400 --> 00:34:57.560 So I think it's more just feeling, you know, just feeling exhausted, just the exhaustion. 387 00:34:57.560 --> 00:34:59.040 That's all, just wanting a win. 388 00:34:59.040 --> 00:35:00.320 And I went back and I. 389 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.280 re-read, like I re-read the book where she talks about like the three C's, you know, 390 00:35:05.280 --> 00:35:11.780 because I was like, I went back and I read that before I started moving forward. 391 00:35:11.780 --> 00:35:15.840 And I was just like, well, I have clarity, you know, and then it talks about the other 392 00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:16.840 ones. 393 00:35:16.840 --> 00:35:21.400 And it's like my confidence, you know, I definitely struggle with a confidence because I don't 394 00:35:21.400 --> 00:35:23.360 know what the hell I'm doing. 395 00:35:23.360 --> 00:35:28.160 I mean, even though I've been in business for years and Sean's been in business 30 years, 396 00:35:28.160 --> 00:35:36.280 like this is all new and taking my business from, you know, a weekly farmer's market, 397 00:35:36.280 --> 00:35:42.760 you know, stand or to like an e-commerce, it's essentially building a business from 398 00:35:42.760 --> 00:35:43.760 scratch. 399 00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:45.120 It's like completely starting over. 400 00:35:45.120 --> 00:35:50.440 It's, you know, so I think the confidence, like not, you know, I don't know Facebook 401 00:35:50.440 --> 00:35:55.840 or the meta and I'm doing the bare bones to get by because that's all I know how to do, 402 00:35:55.920 --> 00:35:56.920 you know, for posting. 403 00:35:56.920 --> 00:36:00.200 So I'm making sure I'm consistent and I'm posting every day, but I don't even know how 404 00:36:00.200 --> 00:36:01.680 to use Canva. 405 00:36:01.680 --> 00:36:03.120 Like I literally know nothing. 406 00:36:03.120 --> 00:36:08.500 I am the least non-techie person, you know, out there. 407 00:36:08.500 --> 00:36:13.720 So I think it's just, you know, the confidence, but I'm, we're definitely, we're not quitters. 408 00:36:13.720 --> 00:36:14.920 We're not throwing in the towel. 409 00:36:14.920 --> 00:36:16.560 I don't have a negative mindset. 410 00:36:16.560 --> 00:36:24.000 Like if anything, I just pour more and more into what I can do to like fuel myself or 411 00:36:24.000 --> 00:36:25.000 feed myself. 412 00:36:25.000 --> 00:36:26.000 Um, yeah. 413 00:36:26.000 --> 00:36:27.000 Yeah. 414 00:36:27.000 --> 00:36:33.840 So are you, are you willing to think a new thought about your confidence? 415 00:36:33.840 --> 00:36:34.840 Oh, absolutely. 416 00:36:34.840 --> 00:36:35.840 Absolutely. 417 00:36:35.840 --> 00:36:38.760 Cause here's how I, cause here's how I see this play out. 418 00:36:38.760 --> 00:36:41.600 And I actually, this has played out for me too recently. 419 00:36:41.600 --> 00:36:47.080 Like I, there's been a lot shifting in our life and it, and there's so much that we're 420 00:36:47.080 --> 00:36:50.040 doing on our own, like my husband and I, right. 421 00:36:50.040 --> 00:36:53.320 Whether it's parenting or other things like we're navigating, no one laid the way for 422 00:36:53.640 --> 00:36:54.640 us. 423 00:36:54.640 --> 00:36:55.640 It's like, we just have to figure it out. 424 00:36:55.640 --> 00:36:56.640 And it, I don't feel confident. 425 00:36:56.640 --> 00:37:05.960 And what I've been realizing is like me continuing to hold onto the, we're on our own or the, 426 00:37:05.960 --> 00:37:10.680 whatever it is that's shaking my confidence, well, it's honest and not a bad thing to be 427 00:37:10.680 --> 00:37:11.680 honest. 428 00:37:11.680 --> 00:37:14.920 I am holding onto it and it is affecting my next steps. 429 00:37:14.920 --> 00:37:20.080 It is affecting my mind, my emotions, my mental state going forward. 430 00:37:20.080 --> 00:37:27.440 So for you, you know, maybe just spend time thinking about a new thought around your confidence 431 00:37:27.440 --> 00:37:32.880 and instead of looking at, there's like tangible evidence of, I don't know Canva, I don't know 432 00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:39.000 tech or whatever, look for intangible evidence of a different thought. 433 00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:43.680 You know what I'm, I don't know if I'm making sense today, but you know, it's easy to look 434 00:37:43.680 --> 00:37:48.440 at things around and say, okay, that's telling me I'm not good at this or I'm not that. 435 00:37:48.440 --> 00:37:50.360 And so that kind of shakes my confidence. 436 00:37:50.360 --> 00:37:55.800 Well, I don't want my confidence to be shaken as I'm doing something new because it's going 437 00:37:55.800 --> 00:37:56.800 to affect me. 438 00:37:56.800 --> 00:37:59.680 Does that make sense? 439 00:37:59.680 --> 00:38:03.400 I want to add on something for Carrie and Jessica real quick. 440 00:38:03.400 --> 00:38:11.440 If, um, so Carrie, I, I do agree that your mindset has shifted a lot since I first met 441 00:38:11.440 --> 00:38:12.440 you. 442 00:38:12.440 --> 00:38:13.440 Okay. 443 00:38:13.440 --> 00:38:14.440 Like, and you're definitely not a quitter. 444 00:38:14.440 --> 00:38:15.440 You said that so confidently. 445 00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:16.440 Okay. 446 00:38:17.440 --> 00:38:20.600 Very like, Oh, I believe you girl. 447 00:38:20.600 --> 00:38:21.600 You're not a quitter. 448 00:38:21.600 --> 00:38:22.600 Right? 449 00:38:22.600 --> 00:38:23.600 Like you have me convinced. 450 00:38:23.600 --> 00:38:28.920 However, I don't know what I'm doing. 451 00:38:28.920 --> 00:38:30.840 I'm the least tech person. 452 00:38:30.840 --> 00:38:33.040 I'm not a tech person. 453 00:38:33.040 --> 00:38:36.720 Um, I, I don't even know how to use Canva. 454 00:38:36.720 --> 00:38:37.720 Right? 455 00:38:37.720 --> 00:38:40.200 Like, kind of like, now listen, hear me out. 456 00:38:40.200 --> 00:38:42.320 This is what your brain's doing. 457 00:38:42.320 --> 00:38:44.680 Those thoughts are true today. 458 00:38:44.680 --> 00:38:45.680 Right? 459 00:38:45.920 --> 00:38:49.880 So yes, that's true. 460 00:38:49.880 --> 00:38:53.080 And is that what you want to keep believing? 461 00:38:53.080 --> 00:39:02.040 Are those thoughts actually working for you to become more techie, to understand Canva, 462 00:39:02.040 --> 00:39:06.440 to actually be a CEO who says, I do know what I'm doing. 463 00:39:06.440 --> 00:39:07.440 Right? 464 00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:10.680 Cause those thoughts, what they do is they're keeping you stuck. 465 00:39:10.680 --> 00:39:14.880 They keep you, your brain saying, yeah, we don't have, we don't know Canva. 466 00:39:15.080 --> 00:39:16.080 Right? 467 00:39:16.080 --> 00:39:17.080 Yeah. 468 00:39:17.080 --> 00:39:18.080 You're right. 469 00:39:18.080 --> 00:39:22.040 Uh, yeah, I'm not a tech person, you know, and I see this come up in so many circles 470 00:39:22.040 --> 00:39:24.720 and so many people because you're building an online business. 471 00:39:24.720 --> 00:39:32.120 So tech is required to succeed and you're doing it though. 472 00:39:32.120 --> 00:39:33.280 That's the whole thing. 473 00:39:33.280 --> 00:39:36.320 You actually are figuring it out. 474 00:39:36.320 --> 00:39:40.800 And so a new thought, here's a suggestion and, and we can hear from your brain, but 475 00:39:40.800 --> 00:39:45.680 like something like, I do know what I'm doing here's, here's, what's tricky about that. 476 00:39:45.680 --> 00:39:47.640 It's not actually true. 477 00:39:47.640 --> 00:39:48.640 Okay. 478 00:39:48.640 --> 00:39:51.120 Like we, we're not lying to ourselves though. 479 00:39:51.120 --> 00:39:53.840 We won't like, I don't believe God's asking us to lie. 480 00:39:53.840 --> 00:39:57.920 I believe it's taking on a new identity and thinking the thought of, well, what does a 481 00:39:57.920 --> 00:39:59.680 person who does know what they're doing? 482 00:39:59.680 --> 00:40:00.040 What would they do? 483 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.280 They think that just helps you build a new habit, right? 484 00:40:03.280 --> 00:40:04.720 It helps your brain get in alignment 485 00:40:04.720 --> 00:40:06.360 with where you do want to go. 486 00:40:07.220 --> 00:40:09.920 So it doesn't really hurt you to just say, 487 00:40:09.920 --> 00:40:12.000 I do know what I'm doing. 488 00:40:12.000 --> 00:40:17.000 Or it doesn't hurt you to say, I'm a tech genius. 489 00:40:17.840 --> 00:40:21.360 It doesn't actually hurt you to say, I'm figuring it out. 490 00:40:21.360 --> 00:40:22.560 Those are just a few thoughts. 491 00:40:22.560 --> 00:40:24.560 Cause I use the word tech genius for myself. 492 00:40:24.560 --> 00:40:26.160 I just like that. 493 00:40:26.160 --> 00:40:28.440 But every time I tell myself, wait, 494 00:40:28.480 --> 00:40:30.640 cause I have thoughts like, wait, 495 00:40:30.640 --> 00:40:35.480 I just got pissed off for 30 minutes about Zoom. 496 00:40:35.480 --> 00:40:38.280 And I've been doing Zoom for six years. 497 00:40:38.280 --> 00:40:40.500 I'm not a Zoom person. 498 00:40:40.500 --> 00:40:43.200 Like my brain would say that in that moment. 499 00:40:43.200 --> 00:40:44.980 Why am I building a remote business? 500 00:40:44.980 --> 00:40:46.880 I should just go back to something else 501 00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:48.580 cause this is stupid. 502 00:40:48.580 --> 00:40:51.960 So I had that thought yesterday, by the way. 503 00:40:51.960 --> 00:40:56.360 So you're not alone, but the question is, 504 00:40:56.360 --> 00:40:58.200 what do you, would you like to think? 505 00:40:58.960 --> 00:40:59.800 So what do you think, Carrie? 506 00:40:59.800 --> 00:41:02.160 What are like a new thought for you or something 507 00:41:02.160 --> 00:41:03.560 after what we've just said? 508 00:41:07.120 --> 00:41:09.800 I think like, I think I have been saying, 509 00:41:09.800 --> 00:41:11.520 well, we're figuring it out. 510 00:41:11.520 --> 00:41:12.400 I think that's what I'm saying. 511 00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:17.400 Like we have botched every launch, every launch. 512 00:41:17.400 --> 00:41:18.560 And I think there was, 513 00:41:18.560 --> 00:41:20.040 I don't know if it was something in the book 514 00:41:20.040 --> 00:41:21.880 or something else I read somewhere else. 515 00:41:21.880 --> 00:41:24.440 And it was like, it's okay, you can screw up. 516 00:41:24.440 --> 00:41:26.560 You can screw up a million times, right? 517 00:41:26.560 --> 00:41:28.880 Because that gets all that out of the way. 518 00:41:28.880 --> 00:41:30.960 So that then you're one step closer 519 00:41:30.960 --> 00:41:33.960 to getting it right and being successful at it. 520 00:41:33.960 --> 00:41:37.360 So I keep saying, all right, we're trying new things. 521 00:41:37.360 --> 00:41:38.860 We're gonna figure it out. 522 00:41:40.720 --> 00:41:42.280 This is a learning curve. 523 00:41:43.240 --> 00:41:44.080 I, okay. 524 00:41:44.080 --> 00:41:48.300 And I would love for you to add into your thoughts. 525 00:41:48.300 --> 00:41:50.720 I know what I'm doing. 526 00:41:50.720 --> 00:41:51.840 I know what I'm doing. 527 00:41:53.800 --> 00:41:55.280 I think you say to yourself a lot 528 00:41:55.280 --> 00:41:57.240 that you don't know what you're doing. 529 00:41:58.120 --> 00:41:59.800 I feel like if I could just say something, 530 00:41:59.800 --> 00:42:04.800 I feel like you know a lot more than the average person 531 00:42:05.480 --> 00:42:08.760 because you already have been in business 532 00:42:08.760 --> 00:42:11.880 for your dog thing with your dog bakery, you know? 533 00:42:11.880 --> 00:42:14.920 So you already know that more or less 534 00:42:14.920 --> 00:42:17.280 like the idea of profit and loss, 535 00:42:17.280 --> 00:42:20.080 like the idea of having to have enough inventory, 536 00:42:20.080 --> 00:42:25.080 the idea of having to have like what your time is worth 537 00:42:25.480 --> 00:42:27.720 it's like the basics, even if, 538 00:42:27.720 --> 00:42:29.980 I don't know how the extent of your business right now, 539 00:42:29.980 --> 00:42:32.400 but because you've been in business 540 00:42:32.400 --> 00:42:34.400 and because Sean's been in business for 30 years, 541 00:42:34.400 --> 00:42:37.000 you guys have the bones, you know? 542 00:42:37.000 --> 00:42:38.880 So like saying, I don't, we don't know what we're talking. 543 00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:42.720 We don't know, you know a lot more than you did a year ago. 544 00:42:42.720 --> 00:42:44.600 You know, a lot more, you know, like, 545 00:42:44.600 --> 00:42:47.040 and I know you guys read the gap in the game. 546 00:42:47.040 --> 00:42:48.320 No, not the gap in the game, 547 00:42:48.320 --> 00:42:51.660 science of scaling or whatever, one of those. 548 00:42:51.660 --> 00:42:53.800 It talks so much about, and even the gap in the game, 549 00:42:53.800 --> 00:42:57.360 he talks so much about like looking to where you're going 550 00:42:57.360 --> 00:42:59.480 and not, or looking how far you've come 551 00:42:59.480 --> 00:43:00.880 and not looking to the horizon, 552 00:43:00.880 --> 00:43:03.000 like that imaginary line, you know? 553 00:43:03.000 --> 00:43:06.560 And not like, I can never, I can never get to that horizon. 554 00:43:06.560 --> 00:43:08.360 I can never, you know, and it's like, 555 00:43:08.360 --> 00:43:09.880 you're always just gonna be discouraged 556 00:43:09.880 --> 00:43:11.840 because you're not that billionaire 557 00:43:11.840 --> 00:43:15.160 or you're not that person who's like, 558 00:43:15.160 --> 00:43:16.720 like you're not there yet, you know? 559 00:43:16.720 --> 00:43:19.700 Or you're not that tech genius that you are, 560 00:43:19.700 --> 00:43:21.360 but look how far you've come. 561 00:43:21.360 --> 00:43:25.000 Look how much you've filled in the gap already, you know? 562 00:43:25.000 --> 00:43:26.600 Or how much you've gained already 563 00:43:26.600 --> 00:43:28.360 instead of looking at the gap, something like that. 564 00:43:28.360 --> 00:43:30.000 Read the gap in the game. 565 00:43:30.000 --> 00:43:31.280 I'm not saying you're right, 566 00:43:31.280 --> 00:43:33.200 but like, you've come so far already 567 00:43:33.200 --> 00:43:37.960 and you do have the bones and I knew nothing about Canva. 568 00:43:37.960 --> 00:43:40.120 Like I miss my flip phone, you guys. 569 00:43:40.120 --> 00:43:45.120 I am a techie struggler and I learned Canva, you know? 570 00:43:47.040 --> 00:43:49.960 And like, I learned all this stuff and it took forever, 571 00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:53.280 but I did it and it's, we can do it 572 00:43:53.280 --> 00:43:55.520 and we can do hard things and you can do it 573 00:43:55.520 --> 00:43:56.480 and you're not a quitter. 574 00:43:56.480 --> 00:43:59.300 And I love hearing you say that, that you're not a quitter, 575 00:43:59.300 --> 00:44:01.880 but you've come so far and I'd love for your focus 576 00:44:01.880 --> 00:44:04.040 to be like on how far you've come 577 00:44:04.040 --> 00:44:07.320 and what you do have to bring to the table, you know? 578 00:44:07.320 --> 00:44:08.360 Does that make sense? 579 00:44:11.760 --> 00:44:15.640 Yeah, and then I wanna say one more thing too. 580 00:44:16.360 --> 00:44:20.760 I think every, in the book, she literally said, 581 00:44:20.760 --> 00:44:21.720 and there are still times 582 00:44:21.720 --> 00:44:24.640 where I don't really know what I'm doing. 583 00:44:24.640 --> 00:44:28.520 So I think there's this lie that the enemy comes in 584 00:44:28.520 --> 00:44:31.280 to tell us, you need to know what you're doing 585 00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:32.740 or you're a failure. 586 00:44:32.740 --> 00:44:35.960 Or like, if you don't have it all figured out, 587 00:44:35.960 --> 00:44:39.680 you might as well just, not even just quit, 588 00:44:39.680 --> 00:44:42.060 but like, why even keep trying, you know? 589 00:44:42.060 --> 00:44:45.280 And so I just, I don't know what I'm doing. 590 00:44:45.920 --> 00:44:46.760 That is a really interesting phrase 591 00:44:46.760 --> 00:44:49.480 because nobody ever freaking knows what they're doing. 592 00:44:50.640 --> 00:44:54.100 It's actually a facade, I think. 593 00:44:54.100 --> 00:44:56.720 We just all do our best and then we figure it out 594 00:44:56.720 --> 00:44:58.700 and then we go on to the next thing 595 00:44:58.700 --> 00:45:00.600 that you don't know what you're doing. 596 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:06.760 Right? Think about your kids. Every time they hit a new year, you don't know. You don't 597 00:45:06.760 --> 00:45:10.800 know what you're doing until you know what you're doing. I broke my toe last week, by 598 00:45:10.800 --> 00:45:16.040 the way. Never done that before. I could sit here and say, I don't know what I'm doing. 599 00:45:16.040 --> 00:45:20.920 Well, right, because I never had to deal with it. Now I'm dealing with it. Now I know. It's 600 00:45:20.920 --> 00:45:27.560 a club I never wanted to join. I'm here. It's fine. Okay? So, Jessica, I wanted to add to 601 00:45:27.560 --> 00:45:32.000 you, too, kind of what Gabby was saying. I think for you, one more thought is, you 602 00:45:32.000 --> 00:45:37.160 know, scared money doesn't make money. So what kind of money does? I think, like, that's 603 00:45:37.160 --> 00:45:42.460 kind of more of a negative thought in the sense of how I always tell people when you're 604 00:45:42.460 --> 00:45:46.480 creating a new thought, how do you put it in the present and make it positive? So if 605 00:45:46.480 --> 00:45:51.600 scared money doesn't make money, what kind of money does make money? That would be my 606 00:45:52.160 --> 00:46:01.040 like, confident money, right? Or better money. Yeah, better money. Boom. Yeah, I would replace 607 00:46:01.040 --> 00:46:06.800 that thought with those as you guys are. And it makes sense. That aligns more with your 608 00:46:06.840 --> 00:46:11.440 with what you're stepping into going all in business in this way. I think that's those 609 00:46:11.440 --> 00:46:16.600 thoughts are going to serve you more to see your money. Yeah, I like that. Yeah, I love 610 00:46:16.600 --> 00:46:23.840 that. And you guys, you want to hear something like super crazy? Jamie and I had a trip to 611 00:46:23.840 --> 00:46:32.000 Spain planned. And for for the first week of June, and we both sat down and we're like, 612 00:46:32.000 --> 00:46:39.100 we still want to go. And it's not even a still want to go. It's like, I just like, I really 613 00:46:39.100 --> 00:46:48.620 believe that God just put this heart of, of prosperity, like this, this mind, this 614 00:46:48.620 --> 00:46:54.740 abundance mindset in me. And I, my parents really struggle with like, oh, I had I got 615 00:46:54.740 --> 00:47:00.820 a sign. So let me just be completely irresponsible with my finances, you know. And so like, I 616 00:47:00.820 --> 00:47:05.500 come from that background. So I was really careful, like, Lord, I don't want to be irresponsible 617 00:47:05.500 --> 00:47:10.340 with my money, I want to be a wise steward with what you've given me. But I also want 618 00:47:10.340 --> 00:47:14.820 to live this life of abundance. And we had planned this. And we were both so excited. 619 00:47:14.820 --> 00:47:18.900 And my mom was coming from Fort Lauderdale to North Carolina, to be with the kids for 620 00:47:18.900 --> 00:47:24.460 10 days, like the biggest gift anybody could ever give me ever, so that Jamie and I could 621 00:47:24.460 --> 00:47:31.140 go. And then he loses his job. And I'm just like, okay, what's wisdom here? What's like, 622 00:47:31.140 --> 00:47:36.340 we're in so much debt, like what's wisdom, but also I want to live a life in faith. And 623 00:47:36.340 --> 00:47:41.260 I remember Steven talking about, I know this is long, I'm sorry. Steven, when I was first 624 00:47:41.260 --> 00:47:45.460 joining Rainmakers, he talked about how he had only a certain amount of money in his 625 00:47:45.460 --> 00:47:52.780 bank account. And they had a really big bill coming up. And there was a person in need 626 00:47:52.780 --> 00:47:57.780 that they knew, and they wanted to bless that person. And they both sat down and they were 627 00:47:57.860 --> 00:48:03.860 like, maybe I'm botching this story, but to the point where they both sat down and were like, 628 00:48:05.140 --> 00:48:09.460 what should we do? We both feel called to bless this person, to help this person, what do we do? 629 00:48:10.020 --> 00:48:17.700 And he decided, my money is not my master. I am master of my money. And so there's a line, 630 00:48:17.700 --> 00:48:22.580 I think, between living frivolously and living unwise and living as a poor steward of what God 631 00:48:22.580 --> 00:48:28.900 has given you and deciding to be master of your money and deciding, no, I'm going to tell my money 632 00:48:29.460 --> 00:48:33.060 where it's going to go and what it's going to do. My money is not going to tell me 633 00:48:33.060 --> 00:48:38.900 how I'm going to live. And so we're going to speak. I'm almost like embarrassed to say it, 634 00:48:41.300 --> 00:48:47.620 but I'm just like so excited. And I'm like, we're going to be kidless to pretend to be so amazing. 635 00:48:48.340 --> 00:48:55.140 Oh yeah. Yeah. I, I encourage you to like, with all, with whenever there's like a question of 636 00:48:55.140 --> 00:49:00.020 like wisdom and stewarding and all that, we are definitely, this is where we're so called to be 637 00:49:00.020 --> 00:49:04.820 in community too. And how people who know your situation, know you guys intimately that like, 638 00:49:04.820 --> 00:49:10.340 Hey, check me on this. Yeah. Because I don't know your situation. It's not like I'm in the 639 00:49:10.340 --> 00:49:15.700 everyday of your life and none of us are. So we want you to be abundant and we also want you to 640 00:49:15.700 --> 00:49:20.500 be obedient. So make sure those people just have like real talk and accountability. Make sure you 641 00:49:20.500 --> 00:49:27.940 have those people that are aligned in values and faith and, and wisdom that you can be like, Hey, 642 00:49:27.940 --> 00:49:36.260 I pray over us and like ask God for, you know, wisdom to speak into your life and know when 643 00:49:36.260 --> 00:49:43.780 to help know when do we move in big faith right now? Or do we move in quiet little faith? Not 644 00:49:44.260 --> 00:49:46.580 there is no little thing, but you know what I mean? Like, yeah. 645 00:49:49.300 --> 00:49:52.420 Do we have self-control? Do we, do we surrender this right now? 646 00:49:52.420 --> 00:49:55.620 Like, right. Exactly. Exactly. But it sounds like you guys have, 647 00:49:55.620 --> 00:49:58.100 you don't really spend a lot of time worrying about it. I agree. 648 00:49:58.100 --> 00:49:59.780 Yeah. I don't know. I mean, I 649 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.320 I have peace about it and normally things, 650 00:50:02.320 --> 00:50:04.360 I feel like God really talks to me a lot about, 651 00:50:04.360 --> 00:50:06.920 like through peace and anxiety. 652 00:50:06.920 --> 00:50:09.600 Like if it's not of him, I would just be like, 653 00:50:09.600 --> 00:50:12.880 this isn't smart, but I'm doing it anyway, you know? 654 00:50:12.880 --> 00:50:16.640 But I, one thing is like being just nervous. 655 00:50:16.640 --> 00:50:18.840 And another thing is, is like just having 656 00:50:18.840 --> 00:50:21.080 this horrible anxiety, like pit in your stomach. 657 00:50:21.080 --> 00:50:23.640 And like, for some reason, and normally this isn't me. 658 00:50:23.640 --> 00:50:24.480 Cause normally it was like, 659 00:50:24.480 --> 00:50:25.600 if I don't have it in the bank account, 660 00:50:25.600 --> 00:50:26.720 I'm not going to do it. 661 00:50:26.720 --> 00:50:28.300 Dave Ramsey all the way. 662 00:50:28.340 --> 00:50:31.500 But like now, and like, that's how I know, 663 00:50:31.500 --> 00:50:33.700 like, okay, Lord, I have so much peace about this. 664 00:50:33.700 --> 00:50:35.940 And I lived in Europe. 665 00:50:35.940 --> 00:50:38.540 I know how to do Europe on the cheap. 666 00:50:38.540 --> 00:50:41.660 Okay. So I, I think this is, 667 00:50:41.660 --> 00:50:43.220 I think what we're talking about right now 668 00:50:43.220 --> 00:50:45.980 is for everyone in this, in this room. 669 00:50:45.980 --> 00:50:47.740 There's something on this topic right now. 670 00:50:47.740 --> 00:50:49.460 I'm feeling it like in my bones. 671 00:50:49.460 --> 00:50:51.420 I'm feeling something so strong right now. 672 00:50:51.420 --> 00:50:53.500 I don't know how to explain it fully, but this, 673 00:50:53.500 --> 00:50:55.420 when Steven was meeting with me, 674 00:50:55.420 --> 00:50:57.160 we talked about a peace meter. 675 00:50:58.380 --> 00:51:00.460 Where's your peace meter? 676 00:51:00.460 --> 00:51:01.680 Are you having peace? 677 00:51:01.680 --> 00:51:02.980 Are you having anxiety? 678 00:51:02.980 --> 00:51:04.140 Are you having peace? 679 00:51:04.140 --> 00:51:05.340 Are you having anxiety? 680 00:51:05.340 --> 00:51:10.340 And I think sometimes peace doesn't always look 681 00:51:11.180 --> 00:51:14.580 like the world gives peace because God in John, 682 00:51:14.580 --> 00:51:16.600 it talks about, I give peace unlike the world gives. 683 00:51:16.600 --> 00:51:19.720 And so I think it's important to follow peace 684 00:51:19.720 --> 00:51:22.980 and the whole, and obedience versus abundance. 685 00:51:22.980 --> 00:51:25.800 I think abundance cannot always, again, 686 00:51:25.800 --> 00:51:28.060 it doesn't always make sense. 687 00:51:28.820 --> 00:51:31.220 And so if there is some shame, we just say shame off. 688 00:51:31.220 --> 00:51:34.100 I acknowledge your embarrassing feelings, 689 00:51:34.100 --> 00:51:37.140 but I think it sounds like you have been seeking God. 690 00:51:37.140 --> 00:51:41.540 And this sounds like a, almost like a step in faith 691 00:51:41.540 --> 00:51:45.300 and like a, you know, a punch in fear's face 692 00:51:45.300 --> 00:51:47.720 and let's see what happens, you know? 693 00:51:49.000 --> 00:51:51.840 And, and I did quote Steven on Mindset Monday 694 00:51:51.840 --> 00:51:55.540 where Steven says, I tell money what to do. 695 00:51:55.540 --> 00:51:57.420 Money doesn't tell me what to do. 696 00:51:57.780 --> 00:52:00.020 Money is a terrible master. 697 00:52:00.020 --> 00:52:01.300 That's what, that's the quote. 698 00:52:01.300 --> 00:52:03.100 And so right along what you were saying. 699 00:52:03.100 --> 00:52:06.140 So excited for you guys, Jessica. 700 00:52:07.240 --> 00:52:09.680 Yeah, Margo would love to, if there's anything 701 00:52:09.680 --> 00:52:12.840 you wanted to share or add in kind of with the question 702 00:52:12.840 --> 00:52:14.500 or what we've been talking about. 703 00:52:17.860 --> 00:52:19.180 I have lots of thoughts. 704 00:52:19.180 --> 00:52:21.380 I don't think we have time for all of them. 705 00:52:23.660 --> 00:52:25.500 Money, mindset. 706 00:52:27.460 --> 00:52:28.700 Yeah, I want to come to Spain. 707 00:52:28.700 --> 00:52:30.700 We're all going to Spain in three weeks. 708 00:52:30.700 --> 00:52:31.620 See you there. 709 00:52:33.740 --> 00:52:36.180 Money, mindset is one of my favorite topics, 710 00:52:36.180 --> 00:52:39.540 but also one that I struggle with the most. 711 00:52:39.540 --> 00:52:44.100 The one I've spent like the most time and energy on, 712 00:52:44.100 --> 00:52:45.880 healing in myself. 713 00:52:47.660 --> 00:52:51.500 And I am also approaching something kind of big and scary. 714 00:52:51.500 --> 00:52:56.300 My leave of absence is starting at the beginning of July 715 00:52:56.300 --> 00:52:59.900 and I just had a meeting with some work folks today 716 00:52:59.900 --> 00:53:02.100 to kind of plan, start the planning 717 00:53:02.100 --> 00:53:05.900 for how I'm going to like hand off my work to someone 718 00:53:05.900 --> 00:53:08.500 because I'm going to be off for six months. 719 00:53:08.500 --> 00:53:11.300 Ideally, I'm never going back, but they don't know that. 720 00:53:12.380 --> 00:53:15.740 So it's starting to feel really real 721 00:53:15.740 --> 00:53:19.000 and I'm starting to have all of these like, 722 00:53:21.080 --> 00:53:23.220 I don't know if it's going to work, thoughts creep in. 723 00:53:23.220 --> 00:53:25.780 And I just went through my, 724 00:53:26.140 --> 00:53:28.900 this is called a self-funded leave through my work. 725 00:53:28.900 --> 00:53:31.220 And I've been contributing every paycheck, 726 00:53:31.220 --> 00:53:34.180 a small amount to like a holding account. 727 00:53:34.180 --> 00:53:35.940 And then that amount gets paid out 728 00:53:35.940 --> 00:53:39.220 at the beginning of my leave or anyways, 729 00:53:39.220 --> 00:53:40.060 there's different ways, 730 00:53:40.060 --> 00:53:42.280 but that's how I'm going to choose to have it paid out. 731 00:53:42.280 --> 00:53:45.040 And I was like looking at the numbers going, 732 00:53:46.380 --> 00:53:48.220 that's not a lot of money. 733 00:53:48.220 --> 00:53:52.220 Like that's not enough money is where my brain was going. 734 00:53:52.260 --> 00:53:57.020 And like simultaneously trying to breathe through it 735 00:53:57.020 --> 00:54:01.540 and thinking like we, my partner and I, 736 00:54:01.540 --> 00:54:03.980 like we have discussed this at length. 737 00:54:03.980 --> 00:54:06.420 We have lots of plans in place. 738 00:54:06.420 --> 00:54:08.940 There's other streams of income, 739 00:54:08.940 --> 00:54:11.500 but that like safety net of that bi-weekly paycheck 740 00:54:11.500 --> 00:54:15.140 is not going to be there anymore in about two months. 741 00:54:15.140 --> 00:54:16.940 In about two months time will be my last 742 00:54:16.940 --> 00:54:18.060 like bi-weekly paycheck. 743 00:54:18.060 --> 00:54:21.500 And that reality is starting to hit really hard. 744 00:54:21.820 --> 00:54:23.380 And it's like exciting, 745 00:54:23.380 --> 00:54:25.700 but it's also starting to feel really scary 746 00:54:25.700 --> 00:54:30.700 because I, you know, like, is it gonna work? 747 00:54:31.860 --> 00:54:34.140 Is all, are all the things that I'm planning to do 748 00:54:34.140 --> 00:54:37.220 going to be enough? 749 00:54:37.220 --> 00:54:42.180 Which ties back into my biggest like mindset issue 750 00:54:42.180 --> 00:54:43.680 is whether or not I'm enough, 751 00:54:43.680 --> 00:54:48.540 which when I'm thinking with my like conscious mind, 752 00:54:48.540 --> 00:54:49.840 it's like, obviously you are, 753 00:54:49.840 --> 00:54:52.640 but subconsciously obviously I'm still questioning that 754 00:54:52.640 --> 00:54:54.320 because it still comes up. 755 00:54:54.320 --> 00:54:56.760 So that's what I'm currently wrestling with. 756 00:54:56.760 --> 00:54:59.040 Wish I was going to Spain instead. 757 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.980 like it would be great. Great distraction from all of that. Yeah, I mean I have lots 758 00:55:06.980 --> 00:55:13.120 of things here that I want to do and spend time and I have like when you talk about peace 759 00:55:13.120 --> 00:55:21.120 versus I don't know what the chaos or whatever the other stress. Yeah. I have a lot of peace 760 00:55:21.120 --> 00:55:28.960 around taking this leave and being home with my kids and being home on my homestead and 761 00:55:28.960 --> 00:55:35.200 like working the land and like doing baking and all of the things. But like there's also 762 00:55:35.200 --> 00:55:43.560 like all this underlying like what if energy that I'm trying to get rid of. Margo, to kind 763 00:55:43.560 --> 00:55:49.000 of go back to my question before like what's the challenging like what's a thought or something 764 00:55:49.000 --> 00:55:54.600 that's challenging to want to like believe or want to like say or want to choose. So 765 00:55:54.760 --> 00:56:00.920 for you, you said a second ago like in your logical mind it's easier to say of course I 766 00:56:00.920 --> 00:56:06.800 am enough. But there's the core belief that's not all the way there. So would you say the 767 00:56:06.800 --> 00:56:13.360 challenging thought to choose is that you are actually enough? Like is that what is like at 768 00:56:13.360 --> 00:56:18.960 the core the hardest one to actually want to choose because you still have the voices of 769 00:56:18.960 --> 00:56:28.880 that you're not? Yeah, Gabby, you're gonna make me cry. Yes. It's also that like, 770 00:56:31.920 --> 00:56:41.440 I can't even say it without crying. I actually deserve the peace and the time off and the rest 771 00:56:41.440 --> 00:56:49.360 and all of those things that I'm looking for in my leave. And I think obviously that's where I 772 00:56:49.360 --> 00:56:55.440 struggle is whether or not I deserve it because I was made to believe for a long time that I 773 00:56:55.440 --> 00:57:01.520 didn't deserve any of that. Yeah. And I'm in a situation now where that's very different. But 774 00:57:01.520 --> 00:57:09.520 the like trauma of what I learned previously is still there. And I'm every day I'm facing it and 775 00:57:09.520 --> 00:57:13.920 I'm telling it, no, that's not right. I'm choosing to believe something different. But 776 00:57:14.640 --> 00:57:19.760 it's a lot of friggin work. It is. It really is. Like that's not a small thing. You're in this 777 00:57:19.760 --> 00:57:26.080 process of breaking off of those beliefs from that trauma. And that doesn't mess it not. I'm 778 00:57:26.080 --> 00:57:32.080 not gonna say never, but it doesn't usually happen overnight. Right. So I just encourage you to like 779 00:57:32.080 --> 00:57:38.320 the thought that you just said that like, I deserve statement that you just made. I would 780 00:57:38.320 --> 00:57:45.280 definitely encourage you to say that every day, you know, multiple times a day. That's a big one. 781 00:57:45.920 --> 00:57:51.760 And also a good reminder, just that even like you are making decisions that are aligned with 782 00:57:51.760 --> 00:57:57.520 your values, not necessarily your old beliefs. And that's a big deal. This is why guys, I drive 783 00:57:57.520 --> 00:58:01.920 home that concept of value based decisions, because sometimes our beliefs, our emotions, 784 00:58:02.480 --> 00:58:07.200 they need time to catch up. They're not always there. Not every day. They're not always there. 785 00:58:07.200 --> 00:58:10.640 But we're making value based decisions based on the life of where we want to go. 786 00:58:12.240 --> 00:58:17.920 So that's just my encouragement to you. You know, take that statement. When you said that 787 00:58:17.920 --> 00:58:23.120 statement, though, there was like this quiet confidence that really wanted to come out. 788 00:58:26.080 --> 00:58:33.280 And you're, it's almost there. Yeah, been been working on it for a long time. 789 00:58:34.240 --> 00:58:40.880 Good. It's a good fight to fight. It really is. And it's worth it. 790 00:58:42.960 --> 00:58:46.320 We have a few minutes left. Garima, I wanted to give you a chance. I don't know if you're 791 00:58:46.320 --> 00:58:49.360 able to talk. I know you're at work, but I didn't know if there was something you wanted to share. 792 00:58:49.920 --> 00:58:52.960 I see you walking away, so you might be coming on here in a second. 793 00:58:54.080 --> 00:59:01.440 Hey, guys, sorry, just had to step away. Yeah, I'm just listening in. I actually did not read 794 00:59:01.440 --> 00:59:08.080 the book yet. But these are such, I mean, I just want to be part of the conversation just to soak 795 00:59:08.080 --> 00:59:14.800 it in and to be part of the conversation. And I just want to be a part of the conversation. 796 00:59:15.120 --> 00:59:22.800 I just want to be part of the conversation just to soak it in and see what all you guys are 797 00:59:22.800 --> 00:59:30.080 talking about. And I didn't get a chance to read it. But I resonate with so many, you know, 798 00:59:30.080 --> 00:59:37.600 things that you guys are discussing. They're like, every day fighting my own doubts and fears, 799 00:59:37.600 --> 00:59:44.320 but I'm trying to conquer them in a way that look back from where I have come. I mean, 800 00:59:44.880 --> 00:59:50.240 I just keep looking back at my journey and giving myself kudos for every small win. 801 00:59:51.120 --> 00:59:58.560 And that's how I'm trying to conquer my fear and my doubts. So I think 802 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:06.800 Some days they are overwhelming, some days like I am kind of, you know, showing them a tough face. 803 01:00:07.840 --> 01:00:14.720 But you know, I can do it. But some days I'm vulnerable. So yeah, it's a battle every day. 804 01:00:15.760 --> 01:00:24.720 But I am just, I'm not stopping. I'm just keep working on it. And Amazon reach out to me, 805 01:00:24.720 --> 01:00:30.640 they are partnering with me now. They are kind of seeing the potential in my brand. So every day, 806 01:00:30.640 --> 01:00:35.280 something new is coming up. So I'm like, I'm going to keep going. So yeah. 807 01:00:36.000 --> 01:00:43.120 That's awesome. That's awesome. For you, just to kind of circle back to my question from earlier, 808 01:00:43.120 --> 01:00:48.160 we have to hop off here in a second. But maybe something to be thinking about and just sitting 809 01:00:48.160 --> 01:00:54.080 with is what are the thoughts that are really hard to choose because our belief is not there yet? 810 01:00:55.040 --> 01:01:01.600 And are you willing to choose those thoughts even in, you know, when you're not super feeling it 811 01:01:01.600 --> 01:01:08.800 every day? So just something for everyone to think about, all of us equally. You know, 812 01:01:08.800 --> 01:01:15.680 I have my own thoughts that are hard to choose. There's a lot of them happening right now, 813 01:01:15.680 --> 01:01:23.440 honestly, a lot. And honestly, when we have a lot of them, like for me, at least, I'm scared. 814 01:01:23.440 --> 01:01:28.320 Like there's things that just are happening, changing, and I'm scared. And there's different 815 01:01:28.320 --> 01:01:33.200 reasons for being scared. But I don't want to choose those thoughts of being scared. 816 01:01:34.960 --> 01:01:43.920 Yeah, and it is tough sometimes. But then I think it's just it's a constant work. It's just like, 817 01:01:44.480 --> 01:01:50.320 when you start working out, you are just able to lift three pounds. And then you then you keep 818 01:01:50.320 --> 01:01:55.920 giving in the reps, the reps, you just build on it. And then you start picking up 15 pounds. It's 819 01:01:55.920 --> 01:02:01.760 just like, if we keep practicing this is, you know, we have to put in the reps. Yeah. 820 01:02:03.040 --> 01:02:04.880 Absolutely. Amen. 821 01:02:06.000 --> 01:02:12.560 I just want to say one thing that I know all of you believe in a higher power in some form of it, 822 01:02:12.560 --> 01:02:18.080 right? And I just I keep thinking with God, all things are possible. With God, all things are 823 01:02:18.080 --> 01:02:24.000 possible. With man, not all things are. With God, with something higher, with like, I just I see so 824 01:02:24.000 --> 01:02:29.920 much belief and potential in all of you. I feel like today was such a powerful call. And I'm so 825 01:02:29.920 --> 01:02:35.360 grateful for all of you. I'm so grateful for you, Margo, Carrie, Jessica, Garima, Gabby, 826 01:02:36.320 --> 01:02:43.200 building things, saying yes in this in spite of uncertainty, saying yes in spite of feeling 827 01:02:43.200 --> 01:02:48.560 scared. This is these are the days in the moments where it matters, right? It's these moments. It's 828 01:02:48.560 --> 01:02:52.480 these meetings. It's these weeks where it's like, okay, I'm gonna do something different. I'm gonna 829 01:02:52.480 --> 01:02:58.080 think something different. And you're doing it. So be encouraged. Be encouraged. Keep going. You're 830 01:02:58.080 --> 01:03:02.880 literally doing the very things this woman in the book is talking about. You're all right on time. 831 01:03:02.880 --> 01:03:05.520 You're right on pace. You're doing exactly what you need to do. 832 01:03:05.520 --> 01:03:10.560 Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. All right, guys. This was really great. 833 01:03:12.160 --> 01:03:15.600 Next week. What are we discussing next week? 834 01:03:15.600 --> 01:03:23.840 Okay, so next week in the book is going to be I'll tell you the pages. Pages 103 to 156. 835 01:03:24.800 --> 01:03:25.200 Love it. 836 01:03:26.080 --> 01:03:28.640 150 103 to 156. 837 01:03:30.080 --> 01:03:34.880 All right, guys. I'll see you on our calls or next week. Bye. 838 01:03:36.400 --> 01:03:37.520 Bye, guys. 839 01:03:37.520 --> 01:03:38.720 Bye