WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.720 All right, welcome to this week's Single Spotlight. 2 00:00:05.720 --> 00:00:10.040 I'm so excited for tonight's spotlight because he's amazing. 3 00:00:10.040 --> 00:00:11.040 He's awesome. 4 00:00:11.040 --> 00:00:15.600 I have been in communication and in community with him for a while now. 5 00:00:15.600 --> 00:00:18.960 We've been chatting and we've been talking and coaching. 6 00:00:18.960 --> 00:00:23.720 He is one of my coaching clients and I'm just happy to say that he is the 3Ms. 7 00:00:23.720 --> 00:00:27.880 For those of you that have read any of my books or come to any of my coaching sessions, 8 00:00:27.880 --> 00:00:32.200 you know that we are looking for men that are mature emotionally and spiritually, that 9 00:00:32.200 --> 00:00:36.600 they're masculine, they know how to treat a woman, and they know what a man is supposed 10 00:00:36.600 --> 00:00:40.200 to be doing in the earth, and that they're also marriage-minded. 11 00:00:40.200 --> 00:00:43.560 So I'm happy to say that David has the 3Ms. 12 00:00:43.560 --> 00:00:47.280 I gave you very cryptic information, so David, you need to know that all of these ladies 13 00:00:47.280 --> 00:00:52.160 and more, because lots of ladies will be watching in replay, but also there'll be more ladies 14 00:00:52.160 --> 00:00:57.680 showing up tonight, I'm sure all of these ladies, they didn't have a lot of information 15 00:00:57.680 --> 00:00:58.680 about you. 16 00:00:58.680 --> 00:01:02.160 All they knew is that you were from Vegas, they knew your general age range, they knew 17 00:01:02.160 --> 00:01:07.840 some of your hobbies and the things that you might like to do, and they also knew that 18 00:01:07.840 --> 00:01:12.320 you are looking for someone to have a long-term relationship with, and then they know what 19 00:01:12.320 --> 00:01:15.520 I just said, that you're masculine, mature, and marriage-minded. 20 00:01:15.520 --> 00:01:20.320 So these ladies, they, and I also said that you were conventionally good-looking, you 21 00:01:20.320 --> 00:01:24.840 know, bone structure-wise, you know, you're kind of conventionally what people think of 22 00:01:24.840 --> 00:01:33.000 as handsome, and, you know, you're not AI, but you'll do, you'll do, all right? 23 00:01:33.000 --> 00:01:34.000 Okay. 24 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:38.720 So, and that you're musical, and I said you're a coach, but why don't you tell them what 25 00:01:38.720 --> 00:01:39.720 you coach? 26 00:01:39.720 --> 00:01:42.360 I think a lot of the ladies will be really interested to hear that. 27 00:01:42.360 --> 00:01:45.120 Yes, I coach pickleball. 28 00:01:45.120 --> 00:01:46.120 Pickleball! 29 00:01:46.120 --> 00:01:47.120 Yes. 30 00:01:47.120 --> 00:01:54.640 Ladies, raise your hand if you play pickleball, I just want to see the ladies that play pickleball, 31 00:01:55.440 --> 00:01:56.440 or have been thinking about playing pickleball. 32 00:01:56.440 --> 00:02:01.080 Or maybe you play tennis, kind of the same thing, but not, like, definitely more athletic, 33 00:02:01.080 --> 00:02:05.960 the tennis part of it, no offense, David, but a little bit more running around after 34 00:02:05.960 --> 00:02:06.960 the ball there. 35 00:02:06.960 --> 00:02:07.960 Okay. 36 00:02:07.960 --> 00:02:10.840 So we have like four or five ladies that say that they're pickleball players. 37 00:02:10.840 --> 00:02:11.840 Awesome. 38 00:02:11.840 --> 00:02:12.840 Okay. 39 00:02:12.840 --> 00:02:16.440 So we're going to get started, we're going to just talk, I'm going to generally just 40 00:02:16.440 --> 00:02:19.840 interview David, and then you guys are going to ask your questions, so go ahead, I don't 41 00:02:19.840 --> 00:02:23.520 have a team member helping me, so go ahead and start putting your questions in the chat. 42 00:02:23.520 --> 00:02:29.400 Let's not try to, let's not talk too much in the chat, so that I don't miss your questions. 43 00:02:29.400 --> 00:02:34.000 So right now, let's just let the chat be only questions so that I don't miss them, normally 44 00:02:34.000 --> 00:02:37.760 I have a team member with me to grab the questions, okay? 45 00:02:37.760 --> 00:02:45.520 Fran and one other person, you guys got to get your cameras on, perfect, thank you so 46 00:02:45.520 --> 00:02:46.520 much. 47 00:02:46.520 --> 00:02:48.640 All right, so let's get started. 48 00:02:48.640 --> 00:02:52.140 So David, why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself? 49 00:02:52.140 --> 00:02:53.860 We know you live in Vegas. 50 00:02:53.860 --> 00:02:55.540 How old are you? 51 00:02:55.540 --> 00:03:01.020 Your marital, like, you know, your marriage history, your relationship history, your family, 52 00:03:01.020 --> 00:03:03.740 talk to us, do you have siblings, you know, where do your parents live? 53 00:03:03.740 --> 00:03:04.780 Are they still alive? 54 00:03:04.780 --> 00:03:06.980 Give us the basics. 55 00:03:06.980 --> 00:03:15.300 Yeah, so I grew up in Vegas pretty much all my life, I'm 37. 56 00:03:15.300 --> 00:03:20.980 In terms of relationship history, there really hasn't been much in my 20s, my 20s, I really 57 00:03:20.980 --> 00:03:22.860 didn't date a lot. 58 00:03:22.860 --> 00:03:31.300 And in my 30s, I've dated more so, but I've never really been in anything very long term. 59 00:03:31.300 --> 00:03:34.020 The reality of Vegas, it has been hard for me. 60 00:03:34.020 --> 00:03:37.180 And I think a lot of my friends, it's a very transient city. 61 00:03:37.180 --> 00:03:42.460 So the quality of people here, both men and women is probably not the best. 62 00:03:42.460 --> 00:03:45.520 And obviously, the value system is not the best. 63 00:03:45.520 --> 00:03:46.520 So it's been hard. 64 00:03:46.520 --> 00:03:51.720 It's been hard to find mature people, emotionally mature people, people that have done the hard 65 00:03:51.720 --> 00:03:56.360 work that have actually looked at themselves and said, you know what, I'm the problem here, 66 00:03:56.360 --> 00:04:01.800 I got to deal with this and, you know, bring it to the Lord and, and let him start to heal 67 00:04:01.800 --> 00:04:02.800 all that stuff. 68 00:04:02.800 --> 00:04:06.480 Because it took me, it took me a while to kind of figure a lot of stuff out. 69 00:04:06.480 --> 00:04:10.760 And I feel like in the last, I don't know, two or three years, I've really started to 70 00:04:10.760 --> 00:04:16.519 mature and change and see my own patterns and, and get healed from a lot of stuff. 71 00:04:16.519 --> 00:04:23.400 And even this year, I'm sensing and feeling such a difference in just my circumstances. 72 00:04:23.400 --> 00:04:27.000 But that's because my heart has changed so much. 73 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:29.200 So yeah, I think it's a good season for me. 74 00:04:29.200 --> 00:04:31.640 But yeah, that's, that's the basics. 75 00:04:31.640 --> 00:04:32.640 Awesome. 76 00:04:32.640 --> 00:04:36.760 So, so you grew up in Vegas, you grew up in a Christian family? 77 00:04:36.760 --> 00:04:38.000 Yes. 78 00:04:38.000 --> 00:04:39.360 And what was your okay. 79 00:04:39.360 --> 00:04:44.000 So people that grow up in Christian families, they answer this question differently than 80 00:04:44.000 --> 00:04:47.920 most people, because you probably always felt like you were a believer at some level. 81 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:51.720 But what, when was it you made your faith really your own? 82 00:04:51.720 --> 00:04:55.320 Like what was your real conversion experience? 83 00:04:55.320 --> 00:04:56.480 What how old were you? 84 00:04:56.480 --> 00:04:58.360 And what did that look like? 85 00:04:58.360 --> 00:05:00.040 So yeah, I grew up with a. 86 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:07.760 um with a mom that was she was catholic but she converted to christianity but it was it was real 87 00:05:07.760 --> 00:05:14.400 it's it's a real relationship with the lord um supernatural healing visions like really amazing 88 00:05:14.400 --> 00:05:19.920 stuff and so i grew up with her teaching me about the lord so i i really did have a relationship with 89 00:05:19.920 --> 00:05:26.800 the lord all my life um but you're right it did become like i i i took possession of it when i 90 00:05:26.800 --> 00:05:32.800 was out of high school like 17 18 years old i really got into the word got involved with church 91 00:05:32.800 --> 00:05:38.800 did internships got on worship teams um all of that kind of stuff and i really fell in love with 92 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:44.480 the word and and really got kind of deep in that area of my life and then a few years later i did 93 00:05:44.480 --> 00:05:50.640 some bethel school stuff um in northern california and then came back here to vegas so um that's 94 00:05:50.640 --> 00:05:56.720 kind of yeah that's about it awesome rachel you need to turn your video on or we'll have to remove 95 00:05:56.720 --> 00:06:03.120 you from this session um okay so i love that and um but you said that you got involved with 96 00:06:03.120 --> 00:06:08.160 worship teams and i know that you're a musician so why don't you tell us about um your kind of 97 00:06:08.160 --> 00:06:14.320 your journey with worship and like what do you play what's your favorite band talk to us a little 98 00:06:14.320 --> 00:06:21.520 bit about that yeah so my brother was a musician he played bass um and he got me into guitar when 99 00:06:21.520 --> 00:06:31.200 i was 12 i think um so i've been playing for 25 years um guitar for 25 years drums for 23 or 24 100 00:06:31.200 --> 00:06:39.200 years um i play keys and sing and all that stuff as well um but yeah so i think i was 20 or 21 101 00:06:39.200 --> 00:06:46.480 when i started getting involved with worship um and it was good but if i'm honest i feel like 102 00:06:47.120 --> 00:06:52.480 i feel like my gift in my heart is actually not so much in the church and in worship i feel 103 00:06:53.680 --> 00:06:59.120 i don't know just more organic and more authentic just um i wouldn't call it secular but it's just 104 00:06:59.120 --> 00:07:06.960 not quote unquote christian or whatever um i don't know it's just i've always loved um i like 105 00:07:06.960 --> 00:07:12.160 hard rock and metal music but i really love some like i love synth wave i love a lot of different 106 00:07:12.160 --> 00:07:21.600 things um but i felt like i've truly felt like the church in general has not um offered much of 107 00:07:21.600 --> 00:07:28.880 a platform for for minstrels i guess you could say people that really use their instrument well 108 00:07:28.880 --> 00:07:34.640 it's um you know it's become a culture of you have five or eight singers on stage especially the big 109 00:07:34.640 --> 00:07:41.600 churches and it's just all kind of like there's no time to digest it and marinate in it it's just 110 00:07:41.600 --> 00:07:47.280 kind of like bam bam bam three songs next service whatever so um i've always felt out of 111 00:07:47.280 --> 00:07:50.080 place in a church environment because there's just 112 00:08:02.480 --> 00:08:08.960 you're muted check check one two sorry yeah you got muted keep going so you you felt out of place 113 00:08:08.960 --> 00:08:16.800 in the church environment because because um okay i have to think of this again is that where i left 114 00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:21.520 off yeah you because it doesn't make space for minstrels and people who really want to 115 00:08:21.520 --> 00:08:26.240 you know go deep into the music yes so i love i love instrumental music and i love churches that 116 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:32.159 you know can kind of soak for a while and no singing let the violin player play let the guitar 117 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:38.880 player play let let the lord work so i've always purist yes purist in your craft and i know that 118 00:08:38.880 --> 00:08:44.880 you make some some part of your living as a musician so what does that look like yeah it's um 119 00:08:44.880 --> 00:08:51.120 i i worked as a music producer for i would say almost 10 years where i had a little home studio 120 00:08:51.120 --> 00:08:55.840 people would come over they would track their songs and and i would record produce whatever 121 00:08:55.840 --> 00:09:01.200 um i got kind of burnt out with that because working on other people's music you kind of lose 122 00:09:01.200 --> 00:09:06.080 passion especially if they're music you don't have any desire for their music at all and you're 123 00:09:06.080 --> 00:09:10.880 just making money um so i felt like i kind of lost myself and i was like you know what i need 124 00:09:10.880 --> 00:09:16.000 to take a break from that and start doing my own stuff again um so i've been doing that a little 125 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:22.560 bit and um i still do play on a worship team um i play drums on sundays um but i'm actually kind 126 00:09:22.560 --> 00:09:28.880 of i'm working with ai which is in the last few months pretty cool as like a hybrid where i where 127 00:09:28.880 --> 00:09:34.800 i write and record and then ai kind of fills in the gaps um and it's actually yeah it's actually 128 00:09:34.800 --> 00:09:40.160 been a lot of fun so yeah i love that okay and so how far away do you live from your family 129 00:09:40.160 --> 00:09:48.240 i'm sorry did you say you had siblings yeah um i'm the youngest of five um yep um and i 130 00:09:49.280 --> 00:09:53.520 um they're they're all over the place now my brother and my parents live here in vegas 131 00:09:53.520 --> 00:09:59.920 and then i have a sister in indiana a brother in uh new york and another sister in 132 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:01.480 in Phoenix. 133 00:10:01.480 --> 00:10:03.980 How close are the family, is the family? 134 00:10:03.980 --> 00:10:04.820 Pretty close. 135 00:10:04.820 --> 00:10:06.360 I mean, I wouldn't say I'm best friends, 136 00:10:06.360 --> 00:10:09.700 but I wouldn't say I'm far away either. 137 00:10:11.420 --> 00:10:12.780 There's a big gap. 138 00:10:12.780 --> 00:10:15.920 There's a 13 year gap between my oldest brother and I. 139 00:10:15.920 --> 00:10:19.980 And I actually, he has five kids 140 00:10:19.980 --> 00:10:22.540 and my three nephews are like good friends to me. 141 00:10:22.540 --> 00:10:24.540 So I hang out with them. 142 00:10:24.540 --> 00:10:25.700 Oh, wow. Okay. 143 00:10:25.700 --> 00:10:29.700 So 14 year gap, that's about me and my youngest sibling. 144 00:10:29.740 --> 00:10:34.080 And the closest sibling to you, how many years apart? 145 00:10:35.260 --> 00:10:36.580 Five years. 146 00:10:36.580 --> 00:10:39.020 Okay. So you're the baby. 147 00:10:39.020 --> 00:10:40.100 Yes. 148 00:10:40.100 --> 00:10:41.200 You're the baby. Okay. 149 00:10:41.200 --> 00:10:43.020 And your father's still living? 150 00:10:43.020 --> 00:10:44.100 Yes. 151 00:10:44.100 --> 00:10:46.040 Okay. Mom and dad are still together? 152 00:10:46.040 --> 00:10:48.720 Yes. I don't know how, but yes. 153 00:10:50.660 --> 00:10:53.820 Okay. So you grew up seeing a relationship 154 00:10:53.820 --> 00:10:55.980 that maybe wasn't the most compatible? 155 00:10:56.980 --> 00:10:57.820 Yes. 156 00:11:00.420 --> 00:11:05.420 So I've been best friends with my mom for a long time. 157 00:11:06.380 --> 00:11:09.960 And I think I learned more from her 158 00:11:09.960 --> 00:11:13.420 how to treat a woman than my dad. 159 00:11:13.420 --> 00:11:14.260 Gotcha. 160 00:11:15.180 --> 00:11:18.940 And yeah, there's a lot of things that I've seen 161 00:11:18.940 --> 00:11:22.140 that I don't like and a lot of things 162 00:11:22.140 --> 00:11:24.140 that I would definitely do differently. 163 00:11:25.140 --> 00:11:26.100 Okay. 164 00:11:26.100 --> 00:11:30.220 And I think I'm in a good place where I'm at least aware 165 00:11:30.220 --> 00:11:32.340 of what I like and don't like. 166 00:11:32.340 --> 00:11:35.060 And I'm also in a place where I'm like, 167 00:11:35.060 --> 00:11:38.220 just communicate, just talk about it. 168 00:11:38.220 --> 00:11:40.740 You just need to find out what the other person 169 00:11:40.740 --> 00:11:43.220 likes and doesn't like. 170 00:11:43.220 --> 00:11:45.620 For some reason, I feel like the older generation, 171 00:11:45.620 --> 00:11:48.620 they don't even communicate about that stuff. 172 00:11:48.620 --> 00:11:49.460 Almost like they don't even- 173 00:11:49.460 --> 00:11:51.500 Well, they weren't taught to be vulnerable. 174 00:11:51.500 --> 00:11:53.420 They weren't taught to really talk about that. 175 00:11:54.260 --> 00:11:55.100 Correct, yeah. 176 00:11:56.180 --> 00:11:57.460 How old are your parents? 177 00:11:58.660 --> 00:12:00.460 I think they're 75 and 68. 178 00:12:00.460 --> 00:12:03.060 My dad's 75, mom's 68. 179 00:12:03.060 --> 00:12:03.900 Okay, yeah. 180 00:12:03.900 --> 00:12:07.140 That generation definitely was not taught that, 181 00:12:07.140 --> 00:12:10.220 even given permission to talk about their feelings 182 00:12:10.220 --> 00:12:11.580 or to be vulnerable. 183 00:12:11.580 --> 00:12:13.180 You just did what you were supposed to do 184 00:12:13.180 --> 00:12:14.220 and that was about it. 185 00:12:15.140 --> 00:12:16.380 Okay, so that checks out. 186 00:12:16.380 --> 00:12:18.020 So best friends with mom. 187 00:12:18.020 --> 00:12:20.860 So whoever marries you is going to, 188 00:12:20.860 --> 00:12:22.540 your mom's gonna gain a daughter 189 00:12:22.580 --> 00:12:26.940 or she's gonna lose a son and then be at odds. 190 00:12:26.940 --> 00:12:30.460 No, no, my mom is very not controlling. 191 00:12:30.460 --> 00:12:33.220 She is very much like, do your own thing, 192 00:12:33.220 --> 00:12:34.700 I'm not involved, whatever, 193 00:12:34.700 --> 00:12:36.620 but very supportive at the same time. 194 00:12:36.620 --> 00:12:39.020 So she will be, 195 00:12:40.940 --> 00:12:43.260 whoever it is will love my mom, for sure. 196 00:12:43.260 --> 00:12:45.780 Okay, are all of your other siblings married? 197 00:12:47.020 --> 00:12:49.780 Everybody but my second oldest brother. 198 00:12:50.700 --> 00:12:52.060 Okay. 199 00:12:52.060 --> 00:12:52.900 Awesome. 200 00:12:52.900 --> 00:12:53.740 Okay, all right. 201 00:12:53.740 --> 00:12:56.700 So we're gonna get more into your questions, ladies. 202 00:12:56.700 --> 00:12:58.140 Now, is there anything else? 203 00:12:58.140 --> 00:13:00.140 Because we're gonna start asking the ladies questions. 204 00:13:00.140 --> 00:13:02.540 We don't wanna run out of time for their questions, 205 00:13:02.540 --> 00:13:04.180 but what, is there anything else 206 00:13:04.180 --> 00:13:06.260 that you would really love for people to know about you 207 00:13:06.260 --> 00:13:08.580 in case no one asked that question? 208 00:13:08.580 --> 00:13:10.020 Is there anything that you really feel like, 209 00:13:10.020 --> 00:13:12.820 this is the essence of what you need to know about me? 210 00:13:15.700 --> 00:13:17.380 I think you just, 211 00:13:17.380 --> 00:13:20.140 I'm looking for someone that's kind and gentle 212 00:13:20.140 --> 00:13:21.780 and that communicates. 213 00:13:22.700 --> 00:13:24.940 There have been some relationships 214 00:13:24.940 --> 00:13:27.620 that I've gone through that, 215 00:13:29.900 --> 00:13:31.900 the women can be kind of harsh 216 00:13:31.900 --> 00:13:34.420 and kind of triggered 217 00:13:34.420 --> 00:13:37.580 and kind of almost basically change personalities. 218 00:13:37.580 --> 00:13:42.580 And that was very jarring for me and very like, 219 00:13:42.860 --> 00:13:43.900 what's going on here? 220 00:13:43.900 --> 00:13:45.380 Who am I dealing with today? 221 00:13:46.380 --> 00:13:47.220 Yeah, yeah. 222 00:13:47.220 --> 00:13:50.420 So just somebody stable and solid 223 00:13:50.420 --> 00:13:54.900 and just communicates and all of that kind of stuff. 224 00:13:54.900 --> 00:13:57.300 Would you consider yourself a good communicator? 225 00:13:58.380 --> 00:14:01.100 I would say, yes. 226 00:14:04.100 --> 00:14:06.460 I internally process things, 227 00:14:07.460 --> 00:14:09.180 so I need time for that. 228 00:14:09.180 --> 00:14:12.740 But after that, I would rather communicate now 229 00:14:12.740 --> 00:14:15.380 than later, if that makes sense. 230 00:14:15.420 --> 00:14:16.260 Yeah, and I found you 231 00:14:16.260 --> 00:14:18.300 to be a very intentional communicator, ladies. 232 00:14:18.300 --> 00:14:20.780 I can attest to this. 233 00:14:20.780 --> 00:14:21.940 He is a good texter. 234 00:14:21.940 --> 00:14:23.020 He does text back. 235 00:14:23.020 --> 00:14:25.740 He does text back fairly quickly. 236 00:14:28.620 --> 00:14:31.100 I've given him different homework assignments and coaching, 237 00:14:31.100 --> 00:14:32.620 and he is very thoughtful 238 00:14:32.620 --> 00:14:34.660 and intentional about that homework. 239 00:14:34.660 --> 00:14:36.540 Like, not just at a surface level, 240 00:14:36.540 --> 00:14:38.220 but kind of digging in deeper. 241 00:14:38.220 --> 00:14:40.580 And so in my opinion, as a matchmaker, 242 00:14:40.580 --> 00:14:41.980 he's going to need someone 243 00:14:42.020 --> 00:14:45.860 who is in tune with himself, very self-aware. 244 00:14:45.860 --> 00:14:47.340 You don't have to be perfect, 245 00:14:47.340 --> 00:14:51.700 but self-awareness is gonna be important in this match. 246 00:14:51.700 --> 00:14:55.340 Also, like a level of saposexualness, 247 00:14:55.340 --> 00:14:58.100 where that means being able 248 00:14:58.100 --> 00:14:59.860 to have conversational chemistry, 249 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:04.920 able to think deeper, but also having a playful and fun side. 250 00:15:04.920 --> 00:15:07.680 In my opinion, I think that David, as an artist 251 00:15:07.680 --> 00:15:09.720 and as a creative, he can get a little deep 252 00:15:09.720 --> 00:15:13.880 and he can get a little just, I think 253 00:15:13.880 --> 00:15:16.160 that a woman who is light and fun, 254 00:15:16.160 --> 00:15:19.360 but also able to think deeply is going 255 00:15:19.360 --> 00:15:23.520 to be a really good personality match for him, OK? 256 00:15:23.520 --> 00:15:26.240 You can match him in his contemplativeness, 257 00:15:26.240 --> 00:15:29.200 but also you kind of bring him out of that 258 00:15:29.200 --> 00:15:33.480 with your fun, playfulness, OK? 259 00:15:33.480 --> 00:15:34.760 All right. 260 00:15:34.760 --> 00:15:37.400 OK, so let's go ahead and see what the ladies are asking, 261 00:15:37.400 --> 00:15:37.900 OK? 262 00:15:37.900 --> 00:15:38.840 Let's see. 263 00:15:38.840 --> 00:15:43.520 What are your thoughts on long distance relationship? 264 00:15:43.520 --> 00:15:47.000 First of all, how embedded are you in Las Vegas? 265 00:15:47.000 --> 00:15:48.480 Why are you there? 266 00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:50.480 I know your family's there, but besides that, 267 00:15:50.480 --> 00:15:51.960 why else are you there? 268 00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:56.360 And how important is it for you to stay there in this season? 269 00:15:56.360 --> 00:15:59.840 And then how open are you to long distance? 270 00:15:59.840 --> 00:16:05.040 Yeah, I'm more open to long distance than I ever have been. 271 00:16:05.040 --> 00:16:08.040 It's not preferred, but I'm definitely open. 272 00:16:08.040 --> 00:16:11.440 In terms of Vegas, yes, I would say family and friends. 273 00:16:11.440 --> 00:16:17.400 I have a very good community, family, friends, church groups, 274 00:16:17.400 --> 00:16:21.000 pickleball groups, all the stuff that I do kind of every day 275 00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:22.360 is definitely very good. 276 00:16:22.360 --> 00:16:25.600 But it's kind of one of those things that I'm like, 277 00:16:25.600 --> 00:16:29.480 I can stay here and not be married or move and be married. 278 00:16:29.480 --> 00:16:33.560 And I'm like, I'm willing to do the latter. 279 00:16:33.560 --> 00:16:37.800 So yeah, my life is here, but I'm very open to moving. 280 00:16:37.800 --> 00:16:40.760 And eventually, I would like to move anyway. 281 00:16:40.760 --> 00:16:42.280 I definitely want to live in more 282 00:16:42.280 --> 00:16:46.720 of a place that has more natural beauty and nature and water 283 00:16:46.720 --> 00:16:48.320 and that kind of thing. 284 00:16:48.360 --> 00:16:53.760 Y'all, you don't like living in the middle of a neon 285 00:16:53.760 --> 00:16:56.200 oasis in the desert? 286 00:16:56.200 --> 00:16:57.200 No, it's not for that. 287 00:16:57.200 --> 00:16:59.160 Listen, you guys, for those of you 288 00:16:59.160 --> 00:17:00.880 that have never been to Vegas, it's much different 289 00:17:00.880 --> 00:17:02.200 than you think it is, OK? 290 00:17:02.200 --> 00:17:04.640 We're talking about just a few hours to the Grand Canyon, 291 00:17:04.640 --> 00:17:07.599 just a few hours to Reno and to Lake Tahoe. 292 00:17:07.599 --> 00:17:09.839 It's not what you think it is, OK? 293 00:17:09.839 --> 00:17:12.359 Just four hours to California, to Southern California. 294 00:17:12.359 --> 00:17:14.400 So Vegas is not as bad as you think it is. 295 00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:15.599 And I actually like Vegas. 296 00:17:15.599 --> 00:17:16.200 I do. 297 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:19.200 I don't do any of the Vegas-y things when I go to Vegas. 298 00:17:19.200 --> 00:17:21.640 I don't think that I've ever gambled once when I went there. 299 00:17:21.640 --> 00:17:23.319 I keep thinking, oh, I'm going to play a slot machine, 300 00:17:23.319 --> 00:17:26.720 and then I forget, because the shopping is just that good. 301 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:29.560 It's even better than New York City, in my opinion. 302 00:17:29.560 --> 00:17:30.720 OK, all right. 303 00:17:30.720 --> 00:17:32.240 And I usually go there for the Sphere 304 00:17:32.240 --> 00:17:34.720 to see concerts and different things like that. 305 00:17:34.720 --> 00:17:36.120 So that's why I'm usually there. 306 00:17:36.120 --> 00:17:37.580 All right, do you consider yourself 307 00:17:37.580 --> 00:17:39.440 more of an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere 308 00:17:39.440 --> 00:17:41.360 in between, which would be an ambivert? 309 00:17:41.360 --> 00:17:42.840 Where do you got on that? 310 00:17:42.840 --> 00:17:43.440 Ambivert? 311 00:17:43.440 --> 00:17:45.320 I've never even heard of that. 312 00:17:45.320 --> 00:17:46.360 That's like a mix. 313 00:17:46.360 --> 00:17:48.400 Those are people that their social battery 314 00:17:48.400 --> 00:17:51.880 doesn't get drained too much, but they definitely 315 00:17:51.880 --> 00:17:55.360 need more downtime than an extrovert. 316 00:17:55.360 --> 00:17:58.320 I would say I need both equally. 317 00:17:58.320 --> 00:17:59.680 I need my alone time. 318 00:17:59.680 --> 00:18:01.240 I need my space. 319 00:18:01.240 --> 00:18:04.160 But I 100% need to be with people. 320 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:05.200 Ambiverted. 321 00:18:05.200 --> 00:18:07.840 OK, there you go. 322 00:18:07.840 --> 00:18:08.560 Ambiverted. 323 00:18:08.560 --> 00:18:11.000 Not perverted, ambiverted, y'all. 324 00:18:11.000 --> 00:18:13.520 OK, good. 325 00:18:13.520 --> 00:18:14.840 This is a lively bunch. 326 00:18:14.840 --> 00:18:17.080 OK, what high school did you go to? 327 00:18:17.080 --> 00:18:18.520 Did you go to a Christian school? 328 00:18:18.520 --> 00:18:20.240 Did you say you were homeschooled? 329 00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:23.960 No, I went to a Christian school through eighth grade, 330 00:18:23.960 --> 00:18:27.240 and then I went to Green Valley for high school. 331 00:18:27.240 --> 00:18:28.320 OK. 332 00:18:28.320 --> 00:18:31.160 And people want to know what year you were at BSSM, 333 00:18:31.160 --> 00:18:34.080 and how many years did you do there? 334 00:18:34.080 --> 00:18:39.920 It was 2012? 335 00:18:39.920 --> 00:18:40.440 Yeah. 336 00:18:40.440 --> 00:18:41.400 A while ago. 337 00:18:41.400 --> 00:18:43.680 Yeah, it was a while ago. 338 00:18:44.560 --> 00:18:46.440 Yeah, 2012. 339 00:18:46.440 --> 00:18:48.520 One year, two years, three years? 340 00:18:48.520 --> 00:18:52.160 So I did the first year, and then I 341 00:18:52.160 --> 00:18:53.680 stuck around a while longer. 342 00:18:53.680 --> 00:18:56.600 So basically the first year. 343 00:18:56.600 --> 00:18:58.400 OK. 344 00:18:58.400 --> 00:19:01.800 And then you just kind of stuck around in the little town. 345 00:19:01.800 --> 00:19:02.720 Correct, yeah. 346 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:04.800 And just so you know, if you guys did not 347 00:19:04.800 --> 00:19:06.920 know what Redding, California looked like in 2012, 348 00:19:06.920 --> 00:19:09.400 it was an armpit, OK? 349 00:19:09.480 --> 00:19:13.080 I visited there in 2016, and I was just 350 00:19:13.080 --> 00:19:14.440 horrified by the place. 351 00:19:14.440 --> 00:19:16.200 And now the place is completely different. 352 00:19:16.200 --> 00:19:18.840 It's not even the same city, because the kingdom changes 353 00:19:18.840 --> 00:19:22.000 things, and the people have opened businesses, 354 00:19:22.000 --> 00:19:23.880 and it's not what it used to be. 355 00:19:23.880 --> 00:19:27.040 But back in 2012, I can imagine it was, 356 00:19:27.040 --> 00:19:30.680 I don't even know how you stayed there, honestly. 357 00:19:30.680 --> 00:19:31.480 All right, let's see. 358 00:19:31.480 --> 00:19:33.320 How do you spend time with Jesus, 359 00:19:33.320 --> 00:19:35.400 and do you believe in therapy and counseling? 360 00:19:35.400 --> 00:19:38.920 So what's your favorite way to feel connected to God? 361 00:19:38.920 --> 00:19:40.560 Nature. 362 00:19:40.560 --> 00:19:44.240 Whether it's just going outside and being 363 00:19:44.240 --> 00:19:47.560 with Him in the morning or, you know, 364 00:19:47.560 --> 00:19:49.200 that's one of the parts of Vegas that I 365 00:19:49.200 --> 00:19:50.520 wish it just had more of. 366 00:19:50.520 --> 00:19:54.520 Like, I'd rather be by the river or the lake or something. 367 00:19:54.520 --> 00:19:56.560 That's where I really feel connected to the Lord. 368 00:19:56.560 --> 00:20:00.840 But anything quiet, anything outside. 369 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:03.440 is where I feel that I can, you know, connect with him. 370 00:20:04.320 --> 00:20:07.120 Awesome. And therapy and counseling, are you a believer in that? 371 00:20:09.520 --> 00:20:17.840 I haven't, I haven't, I haven't done it personally. And I've always felt like, 372 00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:26.080 I've always felt like people that do therapy and counseling are kind of lifers. Meaning, 373 00:20:26.080 --> 00:20:31.600 so I've questioned it. I've questioned like, why year after year, after year, after year, 374 00:20:31.600 --> 00:20:41.680 are you still dealing with it? So, I'm kind of like, you can only, you need heart transformation. 375 00:20:42.240 --> 00:20:48.480 Like, even renewing the mind is one part of it. But if you don't, if something doesn't really 376 00:20:48.480 --> 00:20:54.480 change in the core belief system, like, it doesn't work. You're just mentally rehearsing 377 00:20:54.480 --> 00:20:59.600 something. And you're just, I don't know how to describe it, but I've always, even, even, 378 00:20:59.600 --> 00:21:04.480 quote unquote, the renewing of the mind, I feel like even church people can get kind of stuck 379 00:21:04.480 --> 00:21:08.160 there. But again, their patterns don't change, their heart doesn't change, their emotions don't 380 00:21:08.160 --> 00:21:13.600 change, their reaction to things don't change. And I'm like, Lord, there's got to be something 381 00:21:13.600 --> 00:21:19.200 that really changes the person. And so, the therapy and counseling thing, I think it's a 382 00:21:19.200 --> 00:21:26.080 good thing. But I also feel like, I don't know, I question it. I don't know. Yeah, no, I mean, 383 00:21:26.080 --> 00:21:29.520 it's a good answer. And of course, I'm not going to argue with you about heart work. Obviously, 384 00:21:29.520 --> 00:21:34.000 I'm the heart work chick. And you know, the only way that you know heart work works is if you get 385 00:21:34.000 --> 00:21:39.840 out there and test it out. So, it's important to continue to live, kind of forge ahead and let God 386 00:21:39.840 --> 00:21:43.280 forge you on the way. And I hear what you're saying. There are a lot of people that make 387 00:21:43.280 --> 00:21:48.160 therapy and counseling kind of a religion. They make it their own religion and they go and pay 388 00:21:48.160 --> 00:21:53.280 homage to it every week. You know, it's something that they never graduate from. They're continually 389 00:21:53.280 --> 00:21:59.280 trying to fix themselves and dig in and try to figure out why they're the way they are and all 390 00:21:59.280 --> 00:22:03.760 the things. And so, you guys, obviously, you can have a therapist. Just make sure your therapist 391 00:22:03.760 --> 00:22:10.960 has Jesus and that you're able to graduate to the next level of your life without having to 392 00:22:10.960 --> 00:22:16.080 continue to find something wrong with yourself. Ideal adventure. Do you like adventure? Do you 393 00:22:16.080 --> 00:22:21.920 like to travel? Do you like to try new things? And if so, just describe an ideal event. Ideal 394 00:22:21.920 --> 00:22:32.080 adventure. Yes, I love traveling. I want to do it so much more. I like everything. I could do 395 00:22:32.080 --> 00:22:38.240 super adventurous, like whitewater rafting stuff or I can like go to Italy and go to Rome and do 396 00:22:38.240 --> 00:22:46.160 all the historic stuff. I can do kind of everything. My next location, I think, is 397 00:22:46.160 --> 00:22:52.960 Iceland. I kind of want to do that whole thing. I just love the outdoors and the rugged terrain and 398 00:22:53.680 --> 00:22:56.960 all that kind of stuff. And then I want to go to Japan and do all the 399 00:22:58.800 --> 00:23:06.640 Tokyo and anime stuff. And so, I am very diverse with all that. Okay. I love it. That's cool. 400 00:23:08.400 --> 00:23:13.120 Describe the call on your life. What do you think is the magnum opus of your life? 401 00:23:15.920 --> 00:23:20.400 Obviously, your purpose is to be a son of God in the earth, but what does that look like on you? 402 00:23:23.280 --> 00:23:28.240 My desire is that I would represent the Father in the best light possible, 403 00:23:28.880 --> 00:23:33.760 that He's good all the time, that He always takes care of us, 404 00:23:33.760 --> 00:23:39.760 that He always protects us, that He never rejects us, He never shames us. 405 00:23:41.600 --> 00:23:49.680 That's just been my relationship with Him, is so constant and so reliable. And I want to represent 406 00:23:49.680 --> 00:23:58.160 that. And I think I would say my kind of spiritual gift is a teacher. So, I've taught music. I teach 407 00:23:58.160 --> 00:24:06.960 pickleball. I've taught the Word and done Bible studies. And so, I think in that way to be also 408 00:24:06.960 --> 00:24:13.200 a good father and a good husband and all of that in terms of teaching. You come from a pretty big 409 00:24:13.200 --> 00:24:20.880 family. How many kids would you like to have? I would say anywhere from two to four, depending on 410 00:24:20.880 --> 00:24:27.920 how life goes. Okay. And what if someone already had a child? Would you be open to that? 411 00:24:29.120 --> 00:24:37.040 In the past, I wasn't. Lately, I'm like, okay, maybe I should be. I think if it was the right 412 00:24:37.040 --> 00:24:44.240 person, I think if it was the right person, I think I'd be open to it. Okay. I love that. And 413 00:24:44.240 --> 00:24:48.320 you know, being more of an entrepreneur and a creative, you know, pickleball coach, you do a 414 00:24:48.320 --> 00:24:53.760 little bit of this and a little bit of that. Do you feel like you can afford to be married in the 415 00:24:53.760 --> 00:24:59.840 near future? Not that you would have a trad wife and, you know, be the only person. 416 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:01.960 and bringing in an income. 417 00:25:01.960 --> 00:25:03.800 But, you know, that's what I want to know. 418 00:25:03.800 --> 00:25:05.920 A lot of men, like my last single spotlight, 419 00:25:05.920 --> 00:25:08.840 ladies, by the way, Matthew is still single. 420 00:25:08.840 --> 00:25:10.640 We have not found a match for him yet. 421 00:25:10.640 --> 00:25:13.240 So, and he wants a trad wife. 422 00:25:13.240 --> 00:25:14.920 He wants someone who wants to stay at home 423 00:25:14.920 --> 00:25:17.900 and break sourdough and live on a ranch with him 424 00:25:17.900 --> 00:25:20.620 and do the things, not in a dominating way, 425 00:25:20.620 --> 00:25:22.880 but just in a, you know, a lot of women want that too. 426 00:25:22.880 --> 00:25:23.880 So that's what he wants. 427 00:25:23.880 --> 00:25:26.360 What does your future marriage look like 428 00:25:26.360 --> 00:25:27.960 ideally in your mind? 429 00:25:30.880 --> 00:25:33.520 It looks like a best friend and a partner. 430 00:25:35.640 --> 00:25:40.280 Someone that is business minded, at least. 431 00:25:43.080 --> 00:25:46.400 I would love to do something with her 432 00:25:46.400 --> 00:25:49.640 if she wants to do something at home, from home, 433 00:25:49.640 --> 00:25:54.640 part-time, whatever, just someone that has that mindset. 434 00:25:56.480 --> 00:25:57.820 Yeah. 435 00:25:57.820 --> 00:25:59.100 Okay. 436 00:25:59.100 --> 00:26:02.540 So you're confident that if she wanted to do something 437 00:26:02.540 --> 00:26:04.780 at home or from home, didn't really want to be, 438 00:26:04.780 --> 00:26:08.140 but you're not closed off to a woman who has her own dreams 439 00:26:08.140 --> 00:26:11.500 or her own business or her own career. 440 00:26:11.500 --> 00:26:13.340 Yeah, that's totally fine, for sure. 441 00:26:13.340 --> 00:26:14.180 Okay. 442 00:26:14.180 --> 00:26:15.180 So that's fine too. 443 00:26:15.180 --> 00:26:18.460 But if she didn't and she just wanted to kind of have babies 444 00:26:18.460 --> 00:26:20.740 and be at home, you're confident that, you know, 445 00:26:20.740 --> 00:26:23.180 you could be the person, you know, 446 00:26:24.460 --> 00:26:26.420 subsidizing the marriage. 447 00:26:26.420 --> 00:26:29.540 You could be the person that is that, you know, 448 00:26:29.540 --> 00:26:30.860 the provider. 449 00:26:30.860 --> 00:26:32.180 Yeah. 450 00:26:32.180 --> 00:26:34.180 Yes, you do feel confident in that. 451 00:26:34.180 --> 00:26:35.100 Yeah. 452 00:26:35.100 --> 00:26:35.940 Okay. 453 00:26:35.940 --> 00:26:40.380 I'm always amazed, ladies, you know, 454 00:26:40.380 --> 00:26:44.260 people come in all different flavors in this area, 455 00:26:44.260 --> 00:26:49.260 but most women, you know, do want a man who is going to say 456 00:26:51.420 --> 00:26:52.540 yes to that question, 457 00:26:52.540 --> 00:26:54.380 even if they have like an amazing career. 458 00:26:54.380 --> 00:26:56.060 So I don't know where you ladies are with that, 459 00:26:56.700 --> 00:26:59.620 but that has been my experience. 460 00:26:59.620 --> 00:27:04.620 Do you, okay, we've asked all those questions. 461 00:27:07.260 --> 00:27:08.340 Those are all good. 462 00:27:09.460 --> 00:27:14.460 What quality do you value most in a friend, 463 00:27:14.620 --> 00:27:15.780 in a significant other? 464 00:27:15.780 --> 00:27:18.180 Like, you know, knowing your personality, 465 00:27:18.180 --> 00:27:19.620 what quality in someone else 466 00:27:19.620 --> 00:27:21.380 kind of brings the best out of you? 467 00:27:22.380 --> 00:27:25.460 What you said earlier about kind of a bubbly, 468 00:27:25.460 --> 00:27:29.860 uplifting personality, I've always been attracted to that. 469 00:27:29.860 --> 00:27:33.340 I am definitely, so when I'm in my healthy state, 470 00:27:33.340 --> 00:27:36.740 I'm goofy and fun, but when I'm not, 471 00:27:36.740 --> 00:27:39.500 I'm very serious and very like driven 472 00:27:39.500 --> 00:27:43.180 and get it done and perform and excellence and whatever. 473 00:27:44.820 --> 00:27:48.380 And I'd like to not be that way anymore. 474 00:27:49.260 --> 00:27:52.420 I'd like to just be light and happy in life 475 00:27:52.420 --> 00:27:54.660 and enjoy what's happening 476 00:27:54.660 --> 00:27:56.660 instead of stressing about what hasn't happened. 477 00:27:56.660 --> 00:27:59.300 And so I need that, I need kindness, 478 00:27:59.300 --> 00:28:02.740 I need emotional support, I need communication. 479 00:28:03.780 --> 00:28:06.380 I'm very much looking forward to serving my wife. 480 00:28:06.380 --> 00:28:07.780 That's not a problem. 481 00:28:09.460 --> 00:28:11.060 I'm actually excited about it. 482 00:28:11.060 --> 00:28:14.620 It's like a mission, it's like joyful, it's like fulfilling, 483 00:28:15.460 --> 00:28:16.980 but I need a woman who's like, 484 00:28:17.780 --> 00:28:20.220 but I need a woman who just communicates 485 00:28:20.220 --> 00:28:23.540 and doesn't expect and yeah, 486 00:28:23.540 --> 00:28:26.420 I just need kindness and good communication. 487 00:28:27.620 --> 00:28:29.260 Yes, I love that. 488 00:28:29.260 --> 00:28:31.740 And ladies, that's part of what we do as the Divine Feminine 489 00:28:31.740 --> 00:28:35.820 in my opinion is that we help men get out of their heads. 490 00:28:35.820 --> 00:28:37.500 We help men get into their heart space. 491 00:28:37.500 --> 00:28:40.300 Not that men can't get into their heart space on their own, 492 00:28:40.300 --> 00:28:44.340 but part of the better together dyad, 493 00:28:44.380 --> 00:28:48.100 the dynamic of male and female, man and woman 494 00:28:48.100 --> 00:28:51.940 is that we would bring men more into the heart space. 495 00:28:51.940 --> 00:28:53.980 And so ladies, if you live in your head space 496 00:28:53.980 --> 00:28:56.700 and you have a hard time getting into your heart space, 497 00:28:56.700 --> 00:28:58.340 maybe not the best match for you. 498 00:28:59.580 --> 00:29:01.820 Because, and the thing is, it's okay. 499 00:29:01.820 --> 00:29:05.140 We don't have to try to fit a square peg in a round hole. 500 00:29:05.140 --> 00:29:07.020 There's gonna be plenty more spotlights. 501 00:29:07.020 --> 00:29:08.860 So you gotta really be honest with yourself. 502 00:29:08.860 --> 00:29:12.380 Am I a naturally bubbly, bubbly, gentle, 503 00:29:12.380 --> 00:29:17.140 playful kind of woman who can meet a deep thinker 504 00:29:17.140 --> 00:29:20.420 where they are, but also draw them out of the stress 505 00:29:20.420 --> 00:29:22.140 and deep thinking and into their fun 506 00:29:22.140 --> 00:29:23.940 and into their free spirit? 507 00:29:23.940 --> 00:29:25.100 Can I do that? 508 00:29:25.100 --> 00:29:27.140 Is that who I am? 509 00:29:27.140 --> 00:29:28.700 Because I have learned the hard way. 510 00:29:28.700 --> 00:29:30.340 You guys know I'm divorced. 511 00:29:30.340 --> 00:29:31.540 I got married when I was 20. 512 00:29:31.540 --> 00:29:33.020 I didn't even know Jesus, 513 00:29:33.020 --> 00:29:36.100 but I got divorced 10 years later 514 00:29:36.100 --> 00:29:38.780 and I did try to be what that man needed. 515 00:29:38.780 --> 00:29:41.140 And I wasn't, and it was very difficult. 516 00:29:41.140 --> 00:29:42.820 And I know we think we can become 517 00:29:42.820 --> 00:29:44.300 what someone needs us to be 518 00:29:44.300 --> 00:29:45.780 just because we like them that much 519 00:29:45.780 --> 00:29:47.900 or just because we think they're that hot, 520 00:29:47.900 --> 00:29:49.780 but it doesn't work. 521 00:29:49.780 --> 00:29:51.380 You're either that or you're not. 522 00:29:51.380 --> 00:29:52.980 And that was what I've learned in life. 523 00:29:52.980 --> 00:29:54.940 And so now I've been married for 20 years 524 00:29:54.940 --> 00:29:57.100 to my current husband, and guess what? 525 00:29:57.100 --> 00:29:59.220 We are an amazing match. 526 00:29:59.220 --> 00:30:00.220 We are a compliment. 527 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.480 opposites. And that is what David needs. The complimentary opposite to himself. He does 528 00:30:05.480 --> 00:30:11.400 not need himself in a woman. Okay. That is not what we're looking for. So tell us what 529 00:30:11.400 --> 00:30:16.360 a deal breaker is for you. Also non-negotiable deal breaker, kind of same word. Tell us what, 530 00:30:16.360 --> 00:30:23.600 what, what one would be, you know, besides chewing tobacco. I'm assuming you don't want 531 00:30:23.600 --> 00:30:31.840 a woman who chews tobacco. No, no, I'm good. Um, you know, let me think about that. A deal 532 00:30:31.840 --> 00:30:41.040 breaker. Okay. You think about it. I'm going to find something else here. Okay. Um, deal 533 00:30:41.040 --> 00:30:53.480 breakers, non-negotiables. Uh, I think, I think just a woman who, um, who doesn't take accountability 534 00:30:53.480 --> 00:31:05.400 or who doesn't, who do it, who doesn't ever think that they're the problem or, or, I don't know. 535 00:31:05.400 --> 00:31:12.040 I've just, I'm just recalling one, one, uh, relationship I had that it was always kind of 536 00:31:12.040 --> 00:31:18.720 like the, the trigger came and then it was like pushback. And then it's like, you're the problem. 537 00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:25.840 I don't want to deal with my feelings. I don't want to talk about it. You're the problem. And I 538 00:31:25.840 --> 00:31:30.800 don't know, that's just, that's just really, really bothered me. Cause I am so open to talking, 539 00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:37.440 and it's just like, I don't know, the refusal to, to own your own stuff was just beyond my 540 00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:43.360 understanding. Right. And that's, you know, ladies, I started the conversation with, I felt like David 541 00:31:43.360 --> 00:31:48.400 needs someone who's very self-aware. So someone who's self-aware, someone who knows how to own 542 00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:52.480 their side of the street, that's going to be super important. I will tell you my experience with 543 00:31:52.480 --> 00:31:59.680 David is that he is a very teachable, um, person that he is open to seeing your point of view. 544 00:31:59.680 --> 00:32:07.680 He's open to constructive, uh, feedback. And so I find that priceless in a man or a woman. And so 545 00:32:07.680 --> 00:32:13.280 he's definitely going to need someone who's also just willing to, you know, have conflict, um, but 546 00:32:13.280 --> 00:32:19.840 repair and talk it out and, you know, find out what went wrong, what happened, not for any reason 547 00:32:19.840 --> 00:32:25.840 of blaming, um, but for the reason of just, you know, repair and moving forward. So that's going 548 00:32:25.840 --> 00:32:32.320 to be important. Um, so emotionally mature ladies, if you're emotionally mature, um, can I, no one 549 00:32:32.320 --> 00:32:36.160 asked this question, but I love to ask this question, your family, you have a big family. 550 00:32:36.160 --> 00:32:40.480 Tell us like a fun tradition that your family does. Do you guys go on a vacation? Do you do 551 00:32:40.480 --> 00:32:45.440 something fun for Christmas? Just kind of give us a little snapshot into what your family is like. 552 00:32:46.560 --> 00:32:52.000 Um, yeah, well in recent years we haven't done this, um, but we used to have a place in Lake Tahoe. 553 00:32:52.560 --> 00:33:00.880 Um, we had a, a, actually a lakefront property on the Nevada side. And so, yeah, all of my 554 00:33:01.520 --> 00:33:06.960 teenage years, whatever, early twenties, we would go up every summer, all of my family, 555 00:33:07.760 --> 00:33:15.280 um, and spend, you know, three or four weeks up there. And it was, yeah, that sounds amazing. 556 00:33:15.280 --> 00:33:20.720 Yeah. It's still, I still go there, um, every year with my friends now, but, um, yeah, it's, it's one 557 00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:27.280 of the most beautiful places ever. I love that. That's so great. Okay. So fun tradition. Your 558 00:33:27.280 --> 00:33:30.800 family doesn't do that anymore. Do you guys have like a fun Christmas tradition? Do you guys all 559 00:33:30.800 --> 00:33:35.280 get together at mom and dad's house? Cause you have all these, you know, grown siblings that 560 00:33:35.280 --> 00:33:39.040 are married and do you guys do anything? Do you guys all gather together still? 561 00:33:40.160 --> 00:33:46.000 It's, it's pretty rare and it changes every year. So, uh, like this last Christmas, my, 562 00:33:46.000 --> 00:33:51.920 my brother from New York came in, um, and my other brother was here, but my sisters weren't 563 00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:56.720 here. So, but there's been other years where they have been here. So it changes. Sometimes we go to 564 00:33:56.720 --> 00:34:03.280 Phoenix for, for Christmas or Thanksgiving. Um, so it, it varies. Yeah. Okay. All right. And do you 565 00:34:03.280 --> 00:34:11.679 have any pets? Do you like pets? I don't, but I, I don't have any, but I like both cats and dogs, 566 00:34:11.679 --> 00:34:18.080 so I'm open. Okay. No allergies here. Both cats and dogs. Yeah. What about goats? What about 567 00:34:18.080 --> 00:34:25.199 meerkats? What about ferrets? Listen, I've seen it all. You guys, I've seen it all. People are 568 00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:31.040 like, you know, it used to be like must love dogs. Now it's like must love chickens and a must love, 569 00:34:31.040 --> 00:34:37.600 you know, just all kinds of crazy pets. Okay. All right. Um, Tahoe is awesome. That's true. 570 00:34:37.679 --> 00:34:43.199 Emotional support. Highland cow. Yes. Very funny. Um, okay. Have you ever been in a relationship 571 00:34:43.199 --> 00:34:49.199 with someone from another denomination? And also like, you know, are you open to all races? Are you 572 00:34:49.199 --> 00:34:56.320 open to like, do you know, are you, are you just like an equal opportunity, um, bachelor? Are you, 573 00:34:56.320 --> 00:34:57.360 denomination? 574 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.000 I mean, you said your mom was Catholic originally. Do you feel like you could be open to someone who is a 575 00:35:06.040 --> 00:35:09.880 Denominational Christian you're you're a non-denominational Christian. Yeah 576 00:35:11.700 --> 00:35:15.760 Again I'm not sure because I haven't tried it. I had a best friend 577 00:35:15.760 --> 00:35:21.040 Who's who's like me and he dated a Lutheran and that that? 578 00:35:21.680 --> 00:35:25.520 Didn't work well for him. It just was like it was it was off. So 579 00:35:26.200 --> 00:35:27.400 I 580 00:35:27.400 --> 00:35:32.200 would prefer obviously that the the more similarly aligned the better, but 581 00:35:32.720 --> 00:35:38.280 So like spirit-filled. Yes, correct. Okay. Yeah more charismatic 582 00:35:38.880 --> 00:35:40.880 Yeah in in 583 00:35:41.280 --> 00:35:45.660 Just expression of faith, right? Okay. Awesome 584 00:35:46.960 --> 00:35:51.200 And I feel like yours. I feel like the the the race the race question 585 00:35:51.400 --> 00:35:57.000 I've known David long enough that you know, he's gonna be open to the right person regardless of who they are 586 00:35:57.560 --> 00:36:03.760 yeah, so the right person is the right person and so you're gonna have the qualities and I'm gonna sum us up because we 587 00:36:03.760 --> 00:36:06.640 Have about five minutes left because we I have a hard stop at 645 588 00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:12.880 So the right person because I want to give him a couple minutes to talk here at the end is going to be someone who's 589 00:36:12.880 --> 00:36:17.160 Very self-aware, you know someone who is emotionally and spiritually mature 590 00:36:17.880 --> 00:36:22.480 Someone who loves Jesus this man really truly loves Jesus. He's a Christ follower 591 00:36:22.480 --> 00:36:25.200 So someone who's not religious but loves Jesus 592 00:36:25.400 --> 00:36:31.260 Someone who's going to be open to maybe using your gifts in the marketplace and not just like in a traditional church format 593 00:36:32.200 --> 00:36:39.080 Someone who wants a West Coast swing kind of marriage meaning you don't want a man to drag you around the dancefloor in a waltz 594 00:36:39.080 --> 00:36:42.980 You're not looking for a man to lead and you're the passenger princess in life 595 00:36:43.240 --> 00:36:48.200 He wants someone who's gonna partner with him truly in all things. You guys can be best friends 596 00:36:48.200 --> 00:36:50.440 You can be partners. Maybe you're gonna be business partners 597 00:36:50.560 --> 00:36:53.840 You're going to do something amazing together. You're gonna build together 598 00:36:53.840 --> 00:37:00.440 He wants a fellow builder who's gonna lock arms with him whether that's a family whether that's a business. It doesn't matter what it is 599 00:37:01.040 --> 00:37:08.240 This is what he needs in a partner someone who's light-hearted and fun and is able to draw him out of the cave and the 600 00:37:08.520 --> 00:37:11.640 Contemplativeness that he gets into as an artist and a creative 601 00:37:12.320 --> 00:37:17.660 And also someone who loves family is gonna love his family loves your family 602 00:37:17.660 --> 00:37:19.660 It doesn't mean that you came from a perfect family 603 00:37:19.820 --> 00:37:21.820 but you're going to have to 604 00:37:21.920 --> 00:37:28.600 Exhibit someone who knows how to forgive knows how to repair and knows how to own your own stuff 605 00:37:28.620 --> 00:37:31.740 Okay, that's gonna be super important in this match 606 00:37:32.380 --> 00:37:33.620 Doesn't have to be local 607 00:37:33.620 --> 00:37:34.940 But if you are long-distance 608 00:37:34.940 --> 00:37:39.580 Then you have to be in it to win it meaning that you're going to have to come halfway 609 00:37:39.780 --> 00:37:47.020 So to speak in all things not just expecting him to be the person that does all the stuff 610 00:37:47.020 --> 00:37:51.140 Okay, because he's the man that's not the right match here. Okay 611 00:37:52.260 --> 00:37:56.700 All right. So you're probably gonna be somewhere in your 612 00:37:57.300 --> 00:37:59.980 later 20s early 30s to 613 00:38:00.540 --> 00:38:02.300 around his age 614 00:38:02.300 --> 00:38:04.980 But the perfect person is the perfect person 615 00:38:04.980 --> 00:38:10.500 So even though he didn't tell me this if you're a year or two older than him, but you're the perfect woman for him 616 00:38:10.500 --> 00:38:12.220 I don't think that's gonna matter 617 00:38:12.220 --> 00:38:13.940 I'm just gonna call it like it is 618 00:38:13.940 --> 00:38:21.520 But please do not send us your bio and your pictures if you don't have these other qualities because these qualities are important 619 00:38:21.700 --> 00:38:23.700 David remind us how tall you are 620 00:38:23.820 --> 00:38:28.660 5 9 5 9 you guys I told you all men are 5 9. No one listens to me 621 00:38:28.660 --> 00:38:34.460 My husband's fine. Everyone's 5 9 everybody on the earth except that those tall tour meetups is 5 9 622 00:38:34.460 --> 00:38:40.980 Okay, and you guys see he's good-looking. He's also fit athletic. He's he's outdoorsy 623 00:38:40.980 --> 00:38:44.140 He likes to be active if you're not an act if you're a couch potato 624 00:38:44.620 --> 00:38:46.100 Not the right match for you 625 00:38:46.100 --> 00:38:51.460 If you're someone who likes to get outside if you're someone who wants an active lifestyle if you're someone who takes care of themselves 626 00:38:52.020 --> 00:38:57.940 That's the right match. You can send us an email to spotlight. Is it spotlights or spotlight? 627 00:38:58.140 --> 00:39:01.080 Why do I not know this every time I ask the same question? 628 00:39:02.820 --> 00:39:08.060 Spotlight it's spotlight at Jane. Wait, it's a Jackie Dorman or Jane 629 00:39:08.380 --> 00:39:12.340 Ask Reagan hurry. Okay, we're gonna you guys 630 00:39:13.660 --> 00:39:18.940 Tell me you have ADD without telling me you have ADD. In fact, I want to tell you we're having a supernatural 631 00:39:19.580 --> 00:39:26.700 Single spotlight tonight because I told him six o'clock PST not CST and you guys know that that's a two-hour 632 00:39:27.020 --> 00:39:32.700 Difference from what I told him and he had to work and his last client canceled 633 00:39:33.420 --> 00:39:35.020 Cancelled and that's why he's here 634 00:39:35.180 --> 00:39:41.820 And so I'm just telling you I feel like we're like in a divine little supernatural moment and it's storming here in Austin, Texas 635 00:39:42.820 --> 00:39:44.820 But we will put up I 636 00:39:45.340 --> 00:39:47.340 Think it's spotlight 637 00:39:47.900 --> 00:39:50.380 Okay, we're asking so you close this out 638 00:39:51.100 --> 00:39:57.180 Anything that I missed that you want to add to what I just said and I'm gonna ask you to close this out 639 00:39:57.180 --> 00:40:00.060 I'm gonna ask you to close this out. I'm gonna ask you to close this out 640 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.080 and then we'll get you guys. 641 00:40:00.060 --> 00:40:03.060 I'm gonna ask you to close this out. I'm gonna ask you to close this out 642 00:40:02.080 --> 00:40:04.020 You're gonna email us if you think you're a good match 643 00:40:04.020 --> 00:40:05.280 or if you know one. 644 00:40:05.280 --> 00:40:06.680 You guys, what you make happen for others, 645 00:40:06.680 --> 00:40:07.800 God makes happen for you. 646 00:40:07.800 --> 00:40:10.540 And if he's not your guy, no harm, no foul. 647 00:40:10.540 --> 00:40:12.620 We'll have lots more spotlights, 648 00:40:12.620 --> 00:40:15.240 but make sure that if, while I was talking, 649 00:40:15.240 --> 00:40:18.080 you're like, oh my gosh, my friend Kara has to meet David. 650 00:40:18.080 --> 00:40:21.700 You send us her information with her permission, of course. 651 00:40:21.700 --> 00:40:25.320 Please, I believe that we're gonna find his husband, 652 00:40:25.320 --> 00:40:27.840 his husband, we're gonna find him a wife 653 00:40:27.840 --> 00:40:28.760 to be a husband to. 654 00:40:28.800 --> 00:40:30.240 We don't wanna find him a husband. 655 00:40:30.240 --> 00:40:33.320 Raise your hand if you're committed to finding David's wife 656 00:40:33.320 --> 00:40:34.560 even if you're not her. 657 00:40:34.560 --> 00:40:36.920 Raise your hand if you will commit to 658 00:40:37.920 --> 00:40:40.040 at least saying a prayer that he finds her. 659 00:40:40.040 --> 00:40:42.620 If you don't know anyone, at least saying a prayer. 660 00:40:42.620 --> 00:40:44.040 Being in the community, 661 00:40:44.040 --> 00:40:45.760 we're not gonna find him a husband. 662 00:40:45.760 --> 00:40:47.760 I love the bloopers, y'all, it's so fun. 663 00:40:47.760 --> 00:40:50.120 Okay, all right, David, close us out 664 00:40:50.120 --> 00:40:53.520 and then I'm gonna give them the information to email. 665 00:40:53.520 --> 00:40:57.560 Honestly, everything you recapped was exactly what I need. 666 00:40:57.560 --> 00:40:59.160 I need bubbly. 667 00:40:59.160 --> 00:41:00.480 Yeah, exactly. 668 00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:04.360 I need bubbly, I need self-aware, I need fun. 669 00:41:06.120 --> 00:41:08.720 I need mature, I need responsible. 670 00:41:08.720 --> 00:41:12.360 I just need a best friend and a good life partner, yeah. 671 00:41:13.660 --> 00:41:16.280 Awesome, love it, love it. 672 00:41:16.280 --> 00:41:18.120 Okay, we're trying to. 673 00:41:20.960 --> 00:41:22.880 Woo, you guys, it's storming here. 674 00:41:22.880 --> 00:41:23.720 Can you hear that? 675 00:41:23.720 --> 00:41:24.720 Can you guys hear it? 676 00:41:25.900 --> 00:41:26.740 Wow. 677 00:41:28.520 --> 00:41:30.020 And I'm not trying to wax spiritual, 678 00:41:30.020 --> 00:41:31.560 but I have never seen so much rain. 679 00:41:31.560 --> 00:41:32.640 I've lived here for eight years. 680 00:41:32.640 --> 00:41:34.760 It has never rained like this in Austin, 681 00:41:34.760 --> 00:41:35.900 except in this season. 682 00:41:35.900 --> 00:41:38.320 For the last two months, we've gotten more rain. 683 00:41:38.320 --> 00:41:40.760 In fact, the guy that came out to fix our well, 684 00:41:40.760 --> 00:41:44.000 because one of these storms knocked our well out, 685 00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:45.000 well, the guy that came out, 686 00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:46.520 he's lived here his entire life 687 00:41:46.520 --> 00:41:48.520 and he said it has never rained like this 688 00:41:48.520 --> 00:41:51.040 in his entire life in Austin, Texas. 689 00:41:51.040 --> 00:41:54.440 And I just have, I've really felt like it's spiritual. 690 00:41:54.440 --> 00:41:56.240 I feel like the rain is spiritual 691 00:41:56.240 --> 00:41:58.520 and the word of God says that he'll come to us 692 00:41:58.520 --> 00:42:01.680 like the rain and I just believe that, 693 00:42:01.680 --> 00:42:03.960 hallelujah, it's raining men, ladies. 694 00:42:03.960 --> 00:42:05.400 And so if you've been discouraged, 695 00:42:05.400 --> 00:42:07.360 if you felt like I've looked everywhere 696 00:42:07.360 --> 00:42:10.320 and I cannot find a guy, I want you to know 697 00:42:10.320 --> 00:42:12.920 that I believe that God is bringing his Davids 698 00:42:12.920 --> 00:42:14.160 from the field. 699 00:42:14.160 --> 00:42:16.400 How many of you have been with me long enough 700 00:42:16.400 --> 00:42:18.720 to know my word about the Davids from the field? 701 00:42:18.720 --> 00:42:21.320 Raise your hand if you've heard me talk about that. 702 00:42:23.480 --> 00:42:26.080 You guys know in the story of David 703 00:42:26.920 --> 00:42:29.040 when his brothers are lined up for the anointing 704 00:42:29.040 --> 00:42:30.920 and none of them are the man 705 00:42:30.920 --> 00:42:32.800 that the prophet wants to anoint 706 00:42:32.800 --> 00:42:35.440 and then the father calls his last son 707 00:42:35.440 --> 00:42:37.600 to come out from the field, what was David doing? 708 00:42:37.600 --> 00:42:39.560 He was serving the Lord, right? 709 00:42:39.560 --> 00:42:41.520 He was serving his father, 710 00:42:41.520 --> 00:42:44.240 but he was serving his father as unto God 711 00:42:44.240 --> 00:42:46.880 and he was being honed and shaped 712 00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:49.400 and all of that stuff out there in the pasture 713 00:42:49.400 --> 00:42:52.360 and then he gets called and he gets anointed to be the king. 714 00:42:52.360 --> 00:42:55.560 And so God spoke to me in 2023 and he said, 715 00:42:55.560 --> 00:42:58.040 I'm bringing my Davids in from the field 716 00:42:58.040 --> 00:42:59.760 and I'm telling them that it's time for them 717 00:42:59.760 --> 00:43:01.600 to take their wives. 718 00:43:01.600 --> 00:43:05.560 And you guys, the next day as a sign 719 00:43:05.560 --> 00:43:07.080 that God was speaking to me, 720 00:43:07.080 --> 00:43:10.640 I got a random DM from a guy named David 721 00:43:10.640 --> 00:43:13.040 who told me someone told him about me 722 00:43:13.040 --> 00:43:14.840 and that he wanted to work with me 723 00:43:14.840 --> 00:43:17.560 because God has been laying it on his heart 724 00:43:17.560 --> 00:43:19.720 that it's time for him to find his wife. 725 00:43:19.720 --> 00:43:23.180 So can't make this up and it wasn't this David, 726 00:43:23.180 --> 00:43:24.360 it was a whole different David 727 00:43:24.360 --> 00:43:27.280 and since then I can't tell you how many Davids have come 728 00:43:28.200 --> 00:43:32.400 into my program or into relationship with me 729 00:43:32.400 --> 00:43:34.760 to help them to find a wife. 730 00:43:34.760 --> 00:43:37.720 And of course, all kinds of other men, 731 00:43:37.720 --> 00:43:40.880 other names of men, not just the name David, 732 00:43:40.880 --> 00:43:42.800 but also with the heart, 733 00:43:42.800 --> 00:43:44.520 with that same heart though, of course. 734 00:43:44.520 --> 00:43:47.260 All right, you see it there at spotlightatjmedia.org. 735 00:43:47.260 --> 00:43:49.960 If you know someone who is a match for David, 736 00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:53.200 David Vegas, put that in the subject line, 737 00:43:53.200 --> 00:43:55.740 put David Vegas in the subject line, 738 00:43:55.740 --> 00:43:59.200 send us your bio, send us your pictures, 739 00:43:59.200 --> 00:44:01.120 all submissions without pictures 740 00:44:01.120 --> 00:44:03.980 will just be put right in the trash, okay? 741 00:44:03.980 --> 00:44:05.960 We don't got time to start looking for you, 742 00:44:05.960 --> 00:44:08.820 we're not PIs, we can't hunt you down 743 00:44:08.820 --> 00:44:10.780 and try to find out who you are. 744 00:44:10.780 --> 00:44:13.140 So send us some clear pictures, 745 00:44:13.140 --> 00:44:15.400 let us know who you are, tell us about you 746 00:44:15.400 --> 00:44:17.720 and tell us why you think you're a match for David 747 00:44:17.720 --> 00:44:20.240 and or send us another match, 748 00:44:20.240 --> 00:44:23.000 one of your friends, your sister, your cousin, 749 00:44:23.760 --> 00:44:26.760 someone and tell us why you think they're a match, 750 00:44:26.760 --> 00:44:29.360 give us contact information for that woman 751 00:44:29.360 --> 00:44:31.440 so that we can reach out. 752 00:44:31.440 --> 00:44:34.400 If you do submit your profile, 753 00:44:35.280 --> 00:44:37.140 don't call us, we'll call you. 754 00:44:37.140 --> 00:44:40.640 If you're a match and David wants to talk to you further 755 00:44:40.640 --> 00:44:42.280 and we wanna make an introduction, 756 00:44:42.280 --> 00:44:44.460 we will let you know, okay? 757 00:44:44.460 --> 00:44:46.240 Otherwise, we put you on file 758 00:44:46.240 --> 00:44:48.520 and if you fit a future spotlight, 759 00:44:48.520 --> 00:44:50.280 even if you don't show up here, 760 00:44:50.280 --> 00:44:52.400 if your stuff fits a future spotlight, 761 00:44:52.800 --> 00:44:55.600 we're gonna contact you, it becomes a database 762 00:44:55.600 --> 00:44:57.800 but I call it the dating base, all right? 763 00:44:57.800 --> 00:45:00.000 So thank you so much for joining me. 764 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.640 I'm going to have an older spotlight next week. 765 00:45:03.640 --> 00:45:06.120 So tell all of your friends over 45 766 00:45:06.120 --> 00:45:08.800 that they want to make sure that they opt in 767 00:45:08.800 --> 00:45:10.100 and I'll see you guys soon. 768 00:45:10.100 --> 00:45:10.940 Bye everyone. 769 00:45:10.940 --> 00:45:12.120 Thank you, David. 770 00:45:12.120 --> 00:45:13.120 Thank you. 771 00:45:13.120 --> 00:45:15.000 We're going to find your wife, not your husband. 772 00:45:15.000 --> 00:45:15.840 It's going to be great. 773 00:45:15.840 --> 00:45:16.680 All right. 774 00:45:16.680 --> 00:45:17.500 Thank you. 775 00:45:17.500 --> 00:45:18.340 Bye everybody.