All right, welcome to this week's Single Spotlight.
I'm so excited for tonight's spotlight because he's amazing.
He's awesome.
I have been in communication and in community with him for a while now.
We've been chatting and we've been talking and coaching.
He is one of my coaching clients and I'm just happy to say that he is the 3Ms.
For those of you that have read any of my books or come to any of my coaching sessions,
you know that we are looking for men that are mature emotionally and spiritually, that
they're masculine, they know how to treat a woman, and they know what a man is supposed
to be doing in the earth, and that they're also marriage-minded.
So I'm happy to say that David has the 3Ms.
I gave you very cryptic information, so David, you need to know that all of these ladies
and more, because lots of ladies will be watching in replay, but also there'll be more ladies
showing up tonight, I'm sure all of these ladies, they didn't have a lot of information
about you.
All they knew is that you were from Vegas, they knew your general age range, they knew
some of your hobbies and the things that you might like to do, and they also knew that
you are looking for someone to have a long-term relationship with, and then they know what
I just said, that you're masculine, mature, and marriage-minded.
So these ladies, they, and I also said that you were conventionally good-looking, you
know, bone structure-wise, you know, you're kind of conventionally what people think of
as handsome, and, you know, you're not AI, but you'll do, you'll do, all right?
Okay.
So, and that you're musical, and I said you're a coach, but why don't you tell them what
you coach?
I think a lot of the ladies will be really interested to hear that.
Yes, I coach pickleball.
Pickleball!
Yes.
Ladies, raise your hand if you play pickleball, I just want to see the ladies that play pickleball,
or have been thinking about playing pickleball.
Or maybe you play tennis, kind of the same thing, but not, like, definitely more athletic,
the tennis part of it, no offense, David, but a little bit more running around after
the ball there.
Okay.
So we have like four or five ladies that say that they're pickleball players.
Awesome.
Okay.
So we're going to get started, we're going to just talk, I'm going to generally just
interview David, and then you guys are going to ask your questions, so go ahead, I don't
have a team member helping me, so go ahead and start putting your questions in the chat.
Let's not try to, let's not talk too much in the chat, so that I don't miss your questions.
So right now, let's just let the chat be only questions so that I don't miss them, normally
I have a team member with me to grab the questions, okay?
Fran and one other person, you guys got to get your cameras on, perfect, thank you so
much.
All right, so let's get started.
So David, why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself?
We know you live in Vegas.
How old are you?
Your marital, like, you know, your marriage history, your relationship history, your family,
talk to us, do you have siblings, you know, where do your parents live?
Are they still alive?
Give us the basics.
Yeah, so I grew up in Vegas pretty much all my life, I'm 37.
In terms of relationship history, there really hasn't been much in my 20s, my 20s, I really
didn't date a lot.
And in my 30s, I've dated more so, but I've never really been in anything very long term.
The reality of Vegas, it has been hard for me.
And I think a lot of my friends, it's a very transient city.
So the quality of people here, both men and women is probably not the best.
And obviously, the value system is not the best.
So it's been hard.
It's been hard to find mature people, emotionally mature people, people that have done the hard
work that have actually looked at themselves and said, you know what, I'm the problem here,
I got to deal with this and, you know, bring it to the Lord and, and let him start to heal
all that stuff.
Because it took me, it took me a while to kind of figure a lot of stuff out.
And I feel like in the last, I don't know, two or three years, I've really started to
mature and change and see my own patterns and, and get healed from a lot of stuff.
And even this year, I'm sensing and feeling such a difference in just my circumstances.
But that's because my heart has changed so much.
So yeah, I think it's a good season for me.
But yeah, that's, that's the basics.
Awesome.
So, so you grew up in Vegas, you grew up in a Christian family?
Yes.
And what was your okay.
So people that grow up in Christian families, they answer this question differently than
most people, because you probably always felt like you were a believer at some level.
But what, when was it you made your faith really your own?
Like what was your real conversion experience?
What how old were you?
And what did that look like?
So yeah, I grew up with a.
um with a mom that was she was catholic but she converted to christianity but it was it was real
it's it's a real relationship with the lord um supernatural healing visions like really amazing
stuff and so i grew up with her teaching me about the lord so i i really did have a relationship with
the lord all my life um but you're right it did become like i i i took possession of it when i
was out of high school like 17 18 years old i really got into the word got involved with church
did internships got on worship teams um all of that kind of stuff and i really fell in love with
the word and and really got kind of deep in that area of my life and then a few years later i did
some bethel school stuff um in northern california and then came back here to vegas so um that's
kind of yeah that's about it awesome rachel you need to turn your video on or we'll have to remove
you from this session um okay so i love that and um but you said that you got involved with
worship teams and i know that you're a musician so why don't you tell us about um your kind of
your journey with worship and like what do you play what's your favorite band talk to us a little
bit about that yeah so my brother was a musician he played bass um and he got me into guitar when
i was 12 i think um so i've been playing for 25 years um guitar for 25 years drums for 23 or 24
years um i play keys and sing and all that stuff as well um but yeah so i think i was 20 or 21
when i started getting involved with worship um and it was good but if i'm honest i feel like
i feel like my gift in my heart is actually not so much in the church and in worship i feel
i don't know just more organic and more authentic just um i wouldn't call it secular but it's just
not quote unquote christian or whatever um i don't know it's just i've always loved um i like
hard rock and metal music but i really love some like i love synth wave i love a lot of different
things um but i felt like i've truly felt like the church in general has not um offered much of
a platform for for minstrels i guess you could say people that really use their instrument well
it's um you know it's become a culture of you have five or eight singers on stage especially the big
churches and it's just all kind of like there's no time to digest it and marinate in it it's just
kind of like bam bam bam three songs next service whatever so um i've always felt out of
place in a church environment because there's just
you're muted check check one two sorry yeah you got muted keep going so you you felt out of place
in the church environment because because um okay i have to think of this again is that where i left
off yeah you because it doesn't make space for minstrels and people who really want to
you know go deep into the music yes so i love i love instrumental music and i love churches that
you know can kind of soak for a while and no singing let the violin player play let the guitar
player play let let the lord work so i've always purist yes purist in your craft and i know that
you make some some part of your living as a musician so what does that look like yeah it's um
i i worked as a music producer for i would say almost 10 years where i had a little home studio
people would come over they would track their songs and and i would record produce whatever
um i got kind of burnt out with that because working on other people's music you kind of lose
passion especially if they're music you don't have any desire for their music at all and you're
just making money um so i felt like i kind of lost myself and i was like you know what i need
to take a break from that and start doing my own stuff again um so i've been doing that a little
bit and um i still do play on a worship team um i play drums on sundays um but i'm actually kind
of i'm working with ai which is in the last few months pretty cool as like a hybrid where i where
i write and record and then ai kind of fills in the gaps um and it's actually yeah it's actually
been a lot of fun so yeah i love that okay and so how far away do you live from your family
i'm sorry did you say you had siblings yeah um i'm the youngest of five um yep um and i
um they're they're all over the place now my brother and my parents live here in vegas
and then i have a sister in indiana a brother in uh new york and another sister in
in Phoenix.
How close are the family, is the family?
Pretty close.
I mean, I wouldn't say I'm best friends,
but I wouldn't say I'm far away either.
There's a big gap.
There's a 13 year gap between my oldest brother and I.
And I actually, he has five kids
and my three nephews are like good friends to me.
So I hang out with them.
Oh, wow. Okay.
So 14 year gap, that's about me and my youngest sibling.
And the closest sibling to you, how many years apart?
Five years.
Okay. So you're the baby.
Yes.
You're the baby. Okay.
And your father's still living?
Yes.
Okay. Mom and dad are still together?
Yes. I don't know how, but yes.
Okay. So you grew up seeing a relationship
that maybe wasn't the most compatible?
Yes.
So I've been best friends with my mom for a long time.
And I think I learned more from her
how to treat a woman than my dad.
Gotcha.
And yeah, there's a lot of things that I've seen
that I don't like and a lot of things
that I would definitely do differently.
Okay.
And I think I'm in a good place where I'm at least aware
of what I like and don't like.
And I'm also in a place where I'm like,
just communicate, just talk about it.
You just need to find out what the other person
likes and doesn't like.
For some reason, I feel like the older generation,
they don't even communicate about that stuff.
Almost like they don't even-
Well, they weren't taught to be vulnerable.
They weren't taught to really talk about that.
Correct, yeah.
How old are your parents?
I think they're 75 and 68.
My dad's 75, mom's 68.
Okay, yeah.
That generation definitely was not taught that,
even given permission to talk about their feelings
or to be vulnerable.
You just did what you were supposed to do
and that was about it.
Okay, so that checks out.
So best friends with mom.
So whoever marries you is going to,
your mom's gonna gain a daughter
or she's gonna lose a son and then be at odds.
No, no, my mom is very not controlling.
She is very much like, do your own thing,
I'm not involved, whatever,
but very supportive at the same time.
So she will be,
whoever it is will love my mom, for sure.
Okay, are all of your other siblings married?
Everybody but my second oldest brother.
Okay.
Awesome.
Okay, all right.
So we're gonna get more into your questions, ladies.
Now, is there anything else?
Because we're gonna start asking the ladies questions.
We don't wanna run out of time for their questions,
but what, is there anything else
that you would really love for people to know about you
in case no one asked that question?
Is there anything that you really feel like,
this is the essence of what you need to know about me?
I think you just,
I'm looking for someone that's kind and gentle
and that communicates.
There have been some relationships
that I've gone through that,
the women can be kind of harsh
and kind of triggered
and kind of almost basically change personalities.
And that was very jarring for me and very like,
what's going on here?
Who am I dealing with today?
Yeah, yeah.
So just somebody stable and solid
and just communicates and all of that kind of stuff.
Would you consider yourself a good communicator?
I would say, yes.
I internally process things,
so I need time for that.
But after that, I would rather communicate now
than later, if that makes sense.
Yeah, and I found you
to be a very intentional communicator, ladies.
I can attest to this.
He is a good texter.
He does text back.
He does text back fairly quickly.
I've given him different homework assignments and coaching,
and he is very thoughtful
and intentional about that homework.
Like, not just at a surface level,
but kind of digging in deeper.
And so in my opinion, as a matchmaker,
he's going to need someone
who is in tune with himself, very self-aware.
You don't have to be perfect,
but self-awareness is gonna be important in this match.
Also, like a level of saposexualness,
where that means being able
to have conversational chemistry,
able to think deeper, but also having a playful and fun side.
In my opinion, I think that David, as an artist
and as a creative, he can get a little deep
and he can get a little just, I think
that a woman who is light and fun,
but also able to think deeply is going
to be a really good personality match for him, OK?
You can match him in his contemplativeness,
but also you kind of bring him out of that
with your fun, playfulness, OK?
All right.
OK, so let's go ahead and see what the ladies are asking,
OK?
Let's see.
What are your thoughts on long distance relationship?
First of all, how embedded are you in Las Vegas?
Why are you there?
I know your family's there, but besides that,
why else are you there?
And how important is it for you to stay there in this season?
And then how open are you to long distance?
Yeah, I'm more open to long distance than I ever have been.
It's not preferred, but I'm definitely open.
In terms of Vegas, yes, I would say family and friends.
I have a very good community, family, friends, church groups,
pickleball groups, all the stuff that I do kind of every day
is definitely very good.
But it's kind of one of those things that I'm like,
I can stay here and not be married or move and be married.
And I'm like, I'm willing to do the latter.
So yeah, my life is here, but I'm very open to moving.
And eventually, I would like to move anyway.
I definitely want to live in more
of a place that has more natural beauty and nature and water
and that kind of thing.
Y'all, you don't like living in the middle of a neon
oasis in the desert?
No, it's not for that.
Listen, you guys, for those of you
that have never been to Vegas, it's much different
than you think it is, OK?
We're talking about just a few hours to the Grand Canyon,
just a few hours to Reno and to Lake Tahoe.
It's not what you think it is, OK?
Just four hours to California, to Southern California.
So Vegas is not as bad as you think it is.
And I actually like Vegas.
I do.
I don't do any of the Vegas-y things when I go to Vegas.
I don't think that I've ever gambled once when I went there.
I keep thinking, oh, I'm going to play a slot machine,
and then I forget, because the shopping is just that good.
It's even better than New York City, in my opinion.
OK, all right.
And I usually go there for the Sphere
to see concerts and different things like that.
So that's why I'm usually there.
All right, do you consider yourself
more of an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere
in between, which would be an ambivert?
Where do you got on that?
Ambivert?
I've never even heard of that.
That's like a mix.
Those are people that their social battery
doesn't get drained too much, but they definitely
need more downtime than an extrovert.
I would say I need both equally.
I need my alone time.
I need my space.
But I 100% need to be with people.
Ambiverted.
OK, there you go.
Ambiverted.
Not perverted, ambiverted, y'all.
OK, good.
This is a lively bunch.
OK, what high school did you go to?
Did you go to a Christian school?
Did you say you were homeschooled?
No, I went to a Christian school through eighth grade,
and then I went to Green Valley for high school.
OK.
And people want to know what year you were at BSSM,
and how many years did you do there?
It was 2012?
Yeah.
A while ago.
Yeah, it was a while ago.
Yeah, 2012.
One year, two years, three years?
So I did the first year, and then I
stuck around a while longer.
So basically the first year.
OK.
And then you just kind of stuck around in the little town.
Correct, yeah.
And just so you know, if you guys did not
know what Redding, California looked like in 2012,
it was an armpit, OK?
I visited there in 2016, and I was just
horrified by the place.
And now the place is completely different.
It's not even the same city, because the kingdom changes
things, and the people have opened businesses,
and it's not what it used to be.
But back in 2012, I can imagine it was,
I don't even know how you stayed there, honestly.
All right, let's see.
How do you spend time with Jesus,
and do you believe in therapy and counseling?
So what's your favorite way to feel connected to God?
Nature.
Whether it's just going outside and being
with Him in the morning or, you know,
that's one of the parts of Vegas that I
wish it just had more of.
Like, I'd rather be by the river or the lake or something.
That's where I really feel connected to the Lord.
But anything quiet, anything outside.
is where I feel that I can, you know, connect with him.
Awesome. And therapy and counseling, are you a believer in that?
I haven't, I haven't, I haven't done it personally. And I've always felt like,
I've always felt like people that do therapy and counseling are kind of lifers. Meaning,
so I've questioned it. I've questioned like, why year after year, after year, after year,
are you still dealing with it? So, I'm kind of like, you can only, you need heart transformation.
Like, even renewing the mind is one part of it. But if you don't, if something doesn't really
change in the core belief system, like, it doesn't work. You're just mentally rehearsing
something. And you're just, I don't know how to describe it, but I've always, even, even,
quote unquote, the renewing of the mind, I feel like even church people can get kind of stuck
there. But again, their patterns don't change, their heart doesn't change, their emotions don't
change, their reaction to things don't change. And I'm like, Lord, there's got to be something
that really changes the person. And so, the therapy and counseling thing, I think it's a
good thing. But I also feel like, I don't know, I question it. I don't know. Yeah, no, I mean,
it's a good answer. And of course, I'm not going to argue with you about heart work. Obviously,
I'm the heart work chick. And you know, the only way that you know heart work works is if you get
out there and test it out. So, it's important to continue to live, kind of forge ahead and let God
forge you on the way. And I hear what you're saying. There are a lot of people that make
therapy and counseling kind of a religion. They make it their own religion and they go and pay
homage to it every week. You know, it's something that they never graduate from. They're continually
trying to fix themselves and dig in and try to figure out why they're the way they are and all
the things. And so, you guys, obviously, you can have a therapist. Just make sure your therapist
has Jesus and that you're able to graduate to the next level of your life without having to
continue to find something wrong with yourself. Ideal adventure. Do you like adventure? Do you
like to travel? Do you like to try new things? And if so, just describe an ideal event. Ideal
adventure. Yes, I love traveling. I want to do it so much more. I like everything. I could do
super adventurous, like whitewater rafting stuff or I can like go to Italy and go to Rome and do
all the historic stuff. I can do kind of everything. My next location, I think, is
Iceland. I kind of want to do that whole thing. I just love the outdoors and the rugged terrain and
all that kind of stuff. And then I want to go to Japan and do all the
Tokyo and anime stuff. And so, I am very diverse with all that. Okay. I love it. That's cool.
Describe the call on your life. What do you think is the magnum opus of your life?
Obviously, your purpose is to be a son of God in the earth, but what does that look like on you?
My desire is that I would represent the Father in the best light possible,
that He's good all the time, that He always takes care of us,
that He always protects us, that He never rejects us, He never shames us.
That's just been my relationship with Him, is so constant and so reliable. And I want to represent
that. And I think I would say my kind of spiritual gift is a teacher. So, I've taught music. I teach
pickleball. I've taught the Word and done Bible studies. And so, I think in that way to be also
a good father and a good husband and all of that in terms of teaching. You come from a pretty big
family. How many kids would you like to have? I would say anywhere from two to four, depending on
how life goes. Okay. And what if someone already had a child? Would you be open to that?
In the past, I wasn't. Lately, I'm like, okay, maybe I should be. I think if it was the right
person, I think if it was the right person, I think I'd be open to it. Okay. I love that. And
you know, being more of an entrepreneur and a creative, you know, pickleball coach, you do a
little bit of this and a little bit of that. Do you feel like you can afford to be married in the
near future? Not that you would have a trad wife and, you know, be the only person.
and bringing in an income.
But, you know, that's what I want to know.
A lot of men, like my last single spotlight,
ladies, by the way, Matthew is still single.
We have not found a match for him yet.
So, and he wants a trad wife.
He wants someone who wants to stay at home
and break sourdough and live on a ranch with him
and do the things, not in a dominating way,
but just in a, you know, a lot of women want that too.
So that's what he wants.
What does your future marriage look like
ideally in your mind?
It looks like a best friend and a partner.
Someone that is business minded, at least.
I would love to do something with her
if she wants to do something at home, from home,
part-time, whatever, just someone that has that mindset.
Yeah.
Okay.
So you're confident that if she wanted to do something
at home or from home, didn't really want to be,
but you're not closed off to a woman who has her own dreams
or her own business or her own career.
Yeah, that's totally fine, for sure.
Okay.
So that's fine too.
But if she didn't and she just wanted to kind of have babies
and be at home, you're confident that, you know,
you could be the person, you know,
subsidizing the marriage.
You could be the person that is that, you know,
the provider.
Yeah.
Yes, you do feel confident in that.
Yeah.
Okay.
I'm always amazed, ladies, you know,
people come in all different flavors in this area,
but most women, you know, do want a man who is going to say
yes to that question,
even if they have like an amazing career.
So I don't know where you ladies are with that,
but that has been my experience.
Do you, okay, we've asked all those questions.
Those are all good.
What quality do you value most in a friend,
in a significant other?
Like, you know, knowing your personality,
what quality in someone else
kind of brings the best out of you?
What you said earlier about kind of a bubbly,
uplifting personality, I've always been attracted to that.
I am definitely, so when I'm in my healthy state,
I'm goofy and fun, but when I'm not,
I'm very serious and very like driven
and get it done and perform and excellence and whatever.
And I'd like to not be that way anymore.
I'd like to just be light and happy in life
and enjoy what's happening
instead of stressing about what hasn't happened.
And so I need that, I need kindness,
I need emotional support, I need communication.
I'm very much looking forward to serving my wife.
That's not a problem.
I'm actually excited about it.
It's like a mission, it's like joyful, it's like fulfilling,
but I need a woman who's like,
but I need a woman who just communicates
and doesn't expect and yeah,
I just need kindness and good communication.
Yes, I love that.
And ladies, that's part of what we do as the Divine Feminine
in my opinion is that we help men get out of their heads.
We help men get into their heart space.
Not that men can't get into their heart space on their own,
but part of the better together dyad,
the dynamic of male and female, man and woman
is that we would bring men more into the heart space.
And so ladies, if you live in your head space
and you have a hard time getting into your heart space,
maybe not the best match for you.
Because, and the thing is, it's okay.
We don't have to try to fit a square peg in a round hole.
There's gonna be plenty more spotlights.
So you gotta really be honest with yourself.
Am I a naturally bubbly, bubbly, gentle,
playful kind of woman who can meet a deep thinker
where they are, but also draw them out of the stress
and deep thinking and into their fun
and into their free spirit?
Can I do that?
Is that who I am?
Because I have learned the hard way.
You guys know I'm divorced.
I got married when I was 20.
I didn't even know Jesus,
but I got divorced 10 years later
and I did try to be what that man needed.
And I wasn't, and it was very difficult.
And I know we think we can become
what someone needs us to be
just because we like them that much
or just because we think they're that hot,
but it doesn't work.
You're either that or you're not.
And that was what I've learned in life.
And so now I've been married for 20 years
to my current husband, and guess what?
We are an amazing match.
We are a compliment.
opposites. And that is what David needs. The complimentary opposite to himself. He does
not need himself in a woman. Okay. That is not what we're looking for. So tell us what
a deal breaker is for you. Also non-negotiable deal breaker, kind of same word. Tell us what,
what, what one would be, you know, besides chewing tobacco. I'm assuming you don't want
a woman who chews tobacco. No, no, I'm good. Um, you know, let me think about that. A deal
breaker. Okay. You think about it. I'm going to find something else here. Okay. Um, deal
breakers, non-negotiables. Uh, I think, I think just a woman who, um, who doesn't take accountability
or who doesn't, who do it, who doesn't ever think that they're the problem or, or, I don't know.
I've just, I'm just recalling one, one, uh, relationship I had that it was always kind of
like the, the trigger came and then it was like pushback. And then it's like, you're the problem.
I don't want to deal with my feelings. I don't want to talk about it. You're the problem. And I
don't know, that's just, that's just really, really bothered me. Cause I am so open to talking,
and it's just like, I don't know, the refusal to, to own your own stuff was just beyond my
understanding. Right. And that's, you know, ladies, I started the conversation with, I felt like David
needs someone who's very self-aware. So someone who's self-aware, someone who knows how to own
their side of the street, that's going to be super important. I will tell you my experience with
David is that he is a very teachable, um, person that he is open to seeing your point of view.
He's open to constructive, uh, feedback. And so I find that priceless in a man or a woman. And so
he's definitely going to need someone who's also just willing to, you know, have conflict, um, but
repair and talk it out and, you know, find out what went wrong, what happened, not for any reason
of blaming, um, but for the reason of just, you know, repair and moving forward. So that's going
to be important. Um, so emotionally mature ladies, if you're emotionally mature, um, can I, no one
asked this question, but I love to ask this question, your family, you have a big family.
Tell us like a fun tradition that your family does. Do you guys go on a vacation? Do you do
something fun for Christmas? Just kind of give us a little snapshot into what your family is like.
Um, yeah, well in recent years we haven't done this, um, but we used to have a place in Lake Tahoe.
Um, we had a, a, actually a lakefront property on the Nevada side. And so, yeah, all of my
teenage years, whatever, early twenties, we would go up every summer, all of my family,
um, and spend, you know, three or four weeks up there. And it was, yeah, that sounds amazing.
Yeah. It's still, I still go there, um, every year with my friends now, but, um, yeah, it's, it's one
of the most beautiful places ever. I love that. That's so great. Okay. So fun tradition. Your
family doesn't do that anymore. Do you guys have like a fun Christmas tradition? Do you guys all
get together at mom and dad's house? Cause you have all these, you know, grown siblings that
are married and do you guys do anything? Do you guys all gather together still?
It's, it's pretty rare and it changes every year. So, uh, like this last Christmas, my,
my brother from New York came in, um, and my other brother was here, but my sisters weren't
here. So, but there's been other years where they have been here. So it changes. Sometimes we go to
Phoenix for, for Christmas or Thanksgiving. Um, so it, it varies. Yeah. Okay. All right. And do you
have any pets? Do you like pets? I don't, but I, I don't have any, but I like both cats and dogs,
so I'm open. Okay. No allergies here. Both cats and dogs. Yeah. What about goats? What about
meerkats? What about ferrets? Listen, I've seen it all. You guys, I've seen it all. People are
like, you know, it used to be like must love dogs. Now it's like must love chickens and a must love,
you know, just all kinds of crazy pets. Okay. All right. Um, Tahoe is awesome. That's true.
Emotional support. Highland cow. Yes. Very funny. Um, okay. Have you ever been in a relationship
with someone from another denomination? And also like, you know, are you open to all races? Are you
open to like, do you know, are you, are you just like an equal opportunity, um, bachelor? Are you,
denomination?
I mean, you said your mom was Catholic originally. Do you feel like you could be open to someone who is a
Denominational Christian you're you're a non-denominational Christian. Yeah
Again I'm not sure because I haven't tried it. I had a best friend
Who's who's like me and he dated a Lutheran and that that?
Didn't work well for him. It just was like it was it was off. So
I
would prefer obviously that the the more similarly aligned the better, but
So like spirit-filled. Yes, correct. Okay. Yeah more charismatic
Yeah in in
Just expression of faith, right? Okay. Awesome
And I feel like yours. I feel like the the the race the race question
I've known David long enough that you know, he's gonna be open to the right person regardless of who they are
yeah, so the right person is the right person and so you're gonna have the qualities and I'm gonna sum us up because we
Have about five minutes left because we I have a hard stop at 645
So the right person because I want to give him a couple minutes to talk here at the end is going to be someone who's
Very self-aware, you know someone who is emotionally and spiritually mature
Someone who loves Jesus this man really truly loves Jesus. He's a Christ follower
So someone who's not religious but loves Jesus
Someone who's going to be open to maybe using your gifts in the marketplace and not just like in a traditional church format
Someone who wants a West Coast swing kind of marriage meaning you don't want a man to drag you around the dancefloor in a waltz
You're not looking for a man to lead and you're the passenger princess in life
He wants someone who's gonna partner with him truly in all things. You guys can be best friends
You can be partners. Maybe you're gonna be business partners
You're going to do something amazing together. You're gonna build together
He wants a fellow builder who's gonna lock arms with him whether that's a family whether that's a business. It doesn't matter what it is
This is what he needs in a partner someone who's light-hearted and fun and is able to draw him out of the cave and the
Contemplativeness that he gets into as an artist and a creative
And also someone who loves family is gonna love his family loves your family
It doesn't mean that you came from a perfect family
but you're going to have to
Exhibit someone who knows how to forgive knows how to repair and knows how to own your own stuff
Okay, that's gonna be super important in this match
Doesn't have to be local
But if you are long-distance
Then you have to be in it to win it meaning that you're going to have to come halfway
So to speak in all things not just expecting him to be the person that does all the stuff
Okay, because he's the man that's not the right match here. Okay
All right. So you're probably gonna be somewhere in your
later 20s early 30s to
around his age
But the perfect person is the perfect person
So even though he didn't tell me this if you're a year or two older than him, but you're the perfect woman for him
I don't think that's gonna matter
I'm just gonna call it like it is
But please do not send us your bio and your pictures if you don't have these other qualities because these qualities are important
David remind us how tall you are
5 9 5 9 you guys I told you all men are 5 9. No one listens to me
My husband's fine. Everyone's 5 9 everybody on the earth except that those tall tour meetups is 5 9
Okay, and you guys see he's good-looking. He's also fit athletic. He's he's outdoorsy
He likes to be active if you're not an act if you're a couch potato
Not the right match for you
If you're someone who likes to get outside if you're someone who wants an active lifestyle if you're someone who takes care of themselves
That's the right match. You can send us an email to spotlight. Is it spotlights or spotlight?
Why do I not know this every time I ask the same question?
Spotlight it's spotlight at Jane. Wait, it's a Jackie Dorman or Jane
Ask Reagan hurry. Okay, we're gonna you guys
Tell me you have ADD without telling me you have ADD. In fact, I want to tell you we're having a supernatural
Single spotlight tonight because I told him six o'clock PST not CST and you guys know that that's a two-hour
Difference from what I told him and he had to work and his last client canceled
Cancelled and that's why he's here
And so I'm just telling you I feel like we're like in a divine little supernatural moment and it's storming here in Austin, Texas
But we will put up I
Think it's spotlight
Okay, we're asking so you close this out
Anything that I missed that you want to add to what I just said and I'm gonna ask you to close this out
I'm gonna ask you to close this out. I'm gonna ask you to close this out
and then we'll get you guys.
I'm gonna ask you to close this out. I'm gonna ask you to close this out
You're gonna email us if you think you're a good match
or if you know one.
You guys, what you make happen for others,
God makes happen for you.
And if he's not your guy, no harm, no foul.
We'll have lots more spotlights,
but make sure that if, while I was talking,
you're like, oh my gosh, my friend Kara has to meet David.
You send us her information with her permission, of course.
Please, I believe that we're gonna find his husband,
his husband, we're gonna find him a wife
to be a husband to.
We don't wanna find him a husband.
Raise your hand if you're committed to finding David's wife
even if you're not her.
Raise your hand if you will commit to
at least saying a prayer that he finds her.
If you don't know anyone, at least saying a prayer.
Being in the community,
we're not gonna find him a husband.
I love the bloopers, y'all, it's so fun.
Okay, all right, David, close us out
and then I'm gonna give them the information to email.
Honestly, everything you recapped was exactly what I need.
I need bubbly.
Yeah, exactly.
I need bubbly, I need self-aware, I need fun.
I need mature, I need responsible.
I just need a best friend and a good life partner, yeah.
Awesome, love it, love it.
Okay, we're trying to.
Woo, you guys, it's storming here.
Can you hear that?
Can you guys hear it?
Wow.
And I'm not trying to wax spiritual,
but I have never seen so much rain.
I've lived here for eight years.
It has never rained like this in Austin,
except in this season.
For the last two months, we've gotten more rain.
In fact, the guy that came out to fix our well,
because one of these storms knocked our well out,
well, the guy that came out,
he's lived here his entire life
and he said it has never rained like this
in his entire life in Austin, Texas.
And I just have, I've really felt like it's spiritual.
I feel like the rain is spiritual
and the word of God says that he'll come to us
like the rain and I just believe that,
hallelujah, it's raining men, ladies.
And so if you've been discouraged,
if you felt like I've looked everywhere
and I cannot find a guy, I want you to know
that I believe that God is bringing his Davids
from the field.
How many of you have been with me long enough
to know my word about the Davids from the field?
Raise your hand if you've heard me talk about that.
You guys know in the story of David
when his brothers are lined up for the anointing
and none of them are the man
that the prophet wants to anoint
and then the father calls his last son
to come out from the field, what was David doing?
He was serving the Lord, right?
He was serving his father,
but he was serving his father as unto God
and he was being honed and shaped
and all of that stuff out there in the pasture
and then he gets called and he gets anointed to be the king.
And so God spoke to me in 2023 and he said,
I'm bringing my Davids in from the field
and I'm telling them that it's time for them
to take their wives.
And you guys, the next day as a sign
that God was speaking to me,
I got a random DM from a guy named David
who told me someone told him about me
and that he wanted to work with me
because God has been laying it on his heart
that it's time for him to find his wife.
So can't make this up and it wasn't this David,
it was a whole different David
and since then I can't tell you how many Davids have come
into my program or into relationship with me
to help them to find a wife.
And of course, all kinds of other men,
other names of men, not just the name David,
but also with the heart,
with that same heart though, of course.
All right, you see it there at spotlightatjmedia.org.
If you know someone who is a match for David,
David Vegas, put that in the subject line,
put David Vegas in the subject line,
send us your bio, send us your pictures,
all submissions without pictures
will just be put right in the trash, okay?
We don't got time to start looking for you,
we're not PIs, we can't hunt you down
and try to find out who you are.
So send us some clear pictures,
let us know who you are, tell us about you
and tell us why you think you're a match for David
and or send us another match,
one of your friends, your sister, your cousin,
someone and tell us why you think they're a match,
give us contact information for that woman
so that we can reach out.
If you do submit your profile,
don't call us, we'll call you.
If you're a match and David wants to talk to you further
and we wanna make an introduction,
we will let you know, okay?
Otherwise, we put you on file
and if you fit a future spotlight,
even if you don't show up here,
if your stuff fits a future spotlight,
we're gonna contact you, it becomes a database
but I call it the dating base, all right?
So thank you so much for joining me.
I'm going to have an older spotlight next week.
So tell all of your friends over 45
that they want to make sure that they opt in
and I'll see you guys soon.
Bye everyone.
Thank you, David.
Thank you.
We're going to find your wife, not your husband.
It's going to be great.
All right.
Thank you.
Bye everybody.