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Welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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If you're new here, welcome.

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We have so many new people in our community and so we want to welcome you.

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If this is your absolute first Supernatural Saturday, can you raise your hand?

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We would love to see who is here for the very first time, very, very first time, Supernatural

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Saturday.

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Anybody, anybody, anybody at all?

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Nobody?

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Really?

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All right, well, welcome back to all of you guys.

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And so since there's no new people here, I won't explain what Supernatural Saturday is

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because you already know what it is.

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So let's look to the Lord together, Father God, we're so grateful that you have brought

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us here together.

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There's 118 of us on the call right this second and you brought us all into this divine moment

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together and you have a word for us, a word of encouragement, maybe a word of courage,

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a word of direction, a word of instruction, a word of hope, and we just thank you for

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it.

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We know that you're always helping us regardless of whether we feel helped or not, that behind

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the scenes, and a lot of times not even behind the scenes, it's just out of our eyesight

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because we're looking a different direction oftentimes, but you're helping us, you're

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doing things.

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We're attributing maybe human effort to some of the things that are happening, but it is

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you, Lord, always.

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All good and perfect things are coming from you.

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And so we're so thankful for that.

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We look to you together this morning and we ask you to have your way in Jesus' name.

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Amen.

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All right, so fun story to start off Supernatural Saturday today, David and I try to take a

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morning walk.

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We don't always do it, but we do it, let's say 50% of the time.

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And so we live in the country, sort of.

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We live just a few miles from the concrete jungle.

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There's grocery stores, just a couple of miles up the street, but when we're out here

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on our property, it feels like we're in the country and trust me, there's a lot of critters

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out here.

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And so it's not hard to feel like you're in the country out here.

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When I go outside at night because I left something in my car, I got the fear of God

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in me because I have no idea what's out there.

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Last night, something very big was running across the roof of my house and I don't know

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what it was, but it was like midnight and something was out there doing the thing, doing

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the thing.

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So yesterday a rattlesnake left the earth because it came across my husband's path on

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my porch and it's no longer with us.

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Rest in peace.

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All right.

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But on our walk, on our walk the other day, a couple of days ago, something happened and

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Holy Spirit really spoke to me.

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So David and I were walking on this country road that we live on and we're out doing our

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thing and then on the way back, David says, Oh look, there's a snail.

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And I looked down and almost across the country road, he had about, he had more than halfway,

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he had more than halfway come across, but he was doing his best very slowly, very methodically.

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There was a snail trying to cross the road.

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The problem is, is that now he was in exactly the place where he was going to get ran over.

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And the trucks and the cars that come down this road, I tell you, they, they're like

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bats out of hell.

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They come, they come roaring through there and he's just a poor little snail right there.

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And so I said, David, I was like, give your friend a lift.

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So he picked him up and remember this snail had already gone three quarters of the way,

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but he had a long way to go and who knows how long he had been going for because he

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was going very, very slowly.

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And so David picked him up and he put him on the other side of the road to where the

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snail was headed.

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He put him on the other side of the road and safely in the, you know, in the brush, in

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the side, in the berm.

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And when that happened, I just heard Holy Spirit, and I heard Holy Spirit give this

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word.

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And I just want to, just want to talk to you guys for a second about this, because God

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wants you to know that that is what he's doing for his people right now.

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Come on.

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What happened with David and that snail, that is exactly what he's doing for his people.

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That's what I felt in my spirit.

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That's what I'm doing for my people right now.

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Some of my people have been trying their best to move forward.

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They've been inching along.

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Okay.

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So grab ahold of this word if it's for you.

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We're going to start Supernatural Saturday out with this word.

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You've been healing, you've been obeying, you've been growing.

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Some of you just been surviving, but you're trying your best.

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You're vulnerable.

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You're out here like a sitting duck doing it.

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God wants you to know supernatural wind is at your back.

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Supernatural help is here and not because you can't do it.

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I mean, you're, you're trying, you're inching along, you're a lot further along than you

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were last year or three years ago or five years ago.

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He's not helping you because you fail or you're lazy or he's disappointed in you.

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There are seasons where heaven steps in and helps carry us through, right now.

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Could that snail have made it?

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Yes.

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Could he have been crushed?

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Absolutely.

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Do I know what was going to happen?

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No.

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And it doesn't matter because the outcome was that he got supernatural help.

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But what struck me the most about the whole thing was that the snail wasn't sitting still.

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He was already moving.

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Yes, slowly for sure, but he was moving and I felt like God said, tell my people that

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I see their movement.

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This was in my spirit.

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God's not speaking to me, but this was kind of the gist of what I was getting from this

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entire scenario.

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And there's a lot of us that feel behind in life.

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We feel behind spiritually.

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We feel behind financially, probably for sure.

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There's a lot of stuff going on in the economy right now.

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A lot of people getting laid off, different things happening, feel behind relationally

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for sure.

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But God wants you to know this morning that he honors your effort.

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Come on, who's this for?

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Raise your hand.

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He honors your effort.

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We live in this society that unless you're perfect, it doesn't count.

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Unless you complete the task, it doesn't count.

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There is no A for effort.

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There's no A for effort.

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It's about success.

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It's about performance.

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I want you to know the kingdom of heaven is not about performance.

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That's why there's lots of scriptures in the Bible that say things like, when you're

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weak, then I'm strong, or my strength is made perfect in your weakness.

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Those that go forth weeping, bearing precious seed will come again rejoicing, carrying their

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harvest with them.

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What were you doing?

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You're just weeping.

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You're just throwing out seed, crying.

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And now you have this big harvest.

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Did you grow the food?

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Did you grow the harvest?

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Did you grow the fruit?

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No, it's kind of a mystery, right?

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Yeah, we make a little effort.

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We plant the seed in the ground, but then the rest that happens is the supernatural

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work of God, isn't it?

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One plants, one waters.

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God gives the increase.

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You guys tracking with me?

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But we also live in a culture where we feel like it's all up to us.

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We've got to do it all.

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And a lot of us don't feel like we can do it all.

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And because of that, we feel like we're just going to be not successful in life.

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That little snail set out on a journey.

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I don't know if it set out on a journey that morning or, you know, in the middle of the

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night.

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I don't know.

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But it had made it quite far, but it hadn't made it far enough.

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And a lot of us set out on a journey when we said yes to Jesus, we set out on a journey.

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And sometimes we feel like we haven't made a lot of progress.

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We haven't gotten to where we want to go.

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You can do it.

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You can do it.

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I had a young person tell me the other day that they just weren't where they wanted to

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be in life.

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And I'm sorry.

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I just kind of chuckled a little bit to myself.

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I didn't let them see me chuckling.

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I just chuckled to myself, you know, because here they are like in their mid-twenties saying,

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you know, this is I'm not living my dream.

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That's what the exact words were.

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I'm not living my dream.

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I'm like, oh, Lord Jesus, oh, Lord Jesus, there's a fire.

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Help us, Lord.

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But I know that I felt that way when I was a young person, too.

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And you want to know why?

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Because we live in a society that puts so much pressure on these young people to have

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achieved, even at a young age, you guys, even at a young age.

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I'm just going to tell you, those of us that grew up in the 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, it's a

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different world.

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Now, these kids, they expect to be millionaires

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by the time they're 25 years old.

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They expect to have built businesses.

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They expect to have gotten all these degrees

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and all these letters after their names.

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And they expect to start their careers at the top,

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not the bottom, not the mailroom working up.

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That's just not what, that's not the message

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that's sent out there anymore.

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They have social media.

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They have all these messages coming at them,

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telling them how successful their peers are.

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And it makes them feel like losers.

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We didn't have that.

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You might've had someone in your class

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that had a higher grade point average than you.

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You might've had someone on your team

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that was more applauded than you were in sports,

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but you definitely didn't have this.

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We didn't have that, that sense of you're failing

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before you've even started.

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But that's the world that we live in now.

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And people are going to have to, including us,

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not just the young people, but including us,

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we've got to opt out of that.

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This performance-driven society that is unrealistic

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about what we should have attained by now.

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I was just talking to another young person

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in their 20s the other day,

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and they were telling me that they're in their late 20s

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and all of their friends are married.

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And this really reminded me,

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I just want to talk about this for a second.

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This really reminded me of one of my former students.

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One of my former students, one of my former clients,

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just like you, she was in this program early on

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when I first started out.

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She was probably one of the core group

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of the first 150 people that came through this program

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back in 2020, 2021.

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And she was in her early 30s and she was not married yet

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and she felt like a complete failure.

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But you guys, she had become a nurse practitioner.

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She had a practice, she had gone back.

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She was a nurse first and she'd gone back

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and become a nurse practitioner.

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Now she was working towards some kind of doctorate.

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I don't remember all the details of her education

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and her career, but she was very successful.

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And so on a coaching call, her and I were talking

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and she was just bemoaning how much of a failure

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she was and how all of her friends

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from high school were married.

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And so that reminded me of this conversation

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I just had last week with this other young person

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who's like all the kids I grew up with,

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all of my friends from college, everyone's married.

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And she went to, she didn't go to a Christian college,

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but she was part of like a Christian sorority, right?

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This other girl.

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And so everyone married.

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So back to the first story of the client from 2021

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who is now married and has babies and all the things.

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But she had never had a serious boyfriend.

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She felt very behind in this area.

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And so I said to her on the coaching call, I said,

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hey, I said, let me ask you a question.

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Where do you come from?

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She comes from some podunk town in Oklahoma.

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No offense to all you Okies, I'm sure it's great.

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But she came from a little teeny tiny town in Oklahoma.

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And I said, oh, so all your girlfriends

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from high school are married, huh?

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And she was like, yeah.

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I was like, what else is there to do in your town

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besides giving birth and having kids?

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What else is there to do in your town besides get married?

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And she's like, nothing.

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And I said, okay, great.

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I said, did any of them go off to college like you

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and become a fricking doctor?

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She's like, no.

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Oh, okay.

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Any of them have a doctorate?

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No, no, no.

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I was like, all right.

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Well, it seems to me that you chose

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a different path, my friend.

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And that doesn't mean that you can't have what they have.

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You're just having it on a different timeline.

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You're not behind.

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You did something different with your life.

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Yes, these girls, they got married right out of high school

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and they had babies and family, and that's amazing.

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But you chose something else.

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You did something else.

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And so this other young person

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that I was talking to last week, same thing.

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Same thing.

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All of your friends from your little Christian sorority,

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they all got married and they're all having babies

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and you feel like you can't relate to them

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and you don't fit in and you're behind,

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but you also did something different with your life.

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She's a very successful young woman.

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You guys, we can't compare ourselves to each other.

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There is no timeline.

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There's no timeline.

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So we feel behind.

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So I don't know when that snail started moving,

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but it wasn't quite there yet.

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But we have to start talking about how God honors movement.

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He doesn't honor perfection.

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It's not about perfection.

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God's not looking for perfection from you.

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He's looking for effort.

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You get an A for effort, friends.

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In God's grading scale, you get an A for effort.

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In fact, he's expecting you to fail

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so that he can show himself to be strong.

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He's expecting failure to be part of your process.

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I know people look at me, I'm a successful entrepreneur

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in this area and other areas.

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You know, I've been building businesses since 2008.

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And that doesn't count the businesses

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that I had as a young person.

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When I charged people to come into my yard to see the lake,

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and when I shoveled people's driveways

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when everyone else was playing in the snow,

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and when I sold erasers and pencils door to door

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because my grandpa sent me a big box of them

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from Empire Pencil Company, and I decided,

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you know what, I don't need all these pencils and erasers.

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Let me just see who else wants to buy them.

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All right, so bottom line is,

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is you see this now, but you don't see all the failures.

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You don't see all the times I was up

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till three, four o'clock in the morning.

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God was honoring my effort.

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I was trying.

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I loved it.

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I still love it.

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Fact out, I'm building something new right now

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for you guys, and you're gonna love it.

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You're gonna love it, you're gonna love it.

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What would you do if you could just go to a place?

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I just gotta talk about it now.

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What would you do if you go to an app on your phone, okay,

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and you could just look at Jackie's list of singles,

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people that have been vetted out,

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people that are super healthy, and then you could apply,

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because I'm doing the single spotlights again, as you know,

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but you could apply to be introduced to that person,

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and or you could recommend someone else

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be introduced to that person, community-based matchmaking.

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Well, guess what?

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That's about to be in your little hat, little hand.

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So just over here, building things,

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because I like to do it, but do I do it perfectly?

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No.

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Have I had lots of failure along the road

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of the last 20-something years?

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A thousand percent, but it's in those times of failure

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that God is the wind beneath my wings.

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God's the one that helps me.

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You know, when I think, oh, this is just junk,

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even like when I was writing my very first book,

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The Heart Work, I would go to bed every single night

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after writing all day long, and I'd be like,

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that's just crap.

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What I just wrote, bleh.

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And I would also feel like I didn't know

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what to write next.

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I'd have writer's block.

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I would just write all day, and then I'd have writer's block,

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and then I'd go to bed, and I would just pray

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before I go to bed, and I'd say, Lord,

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I know you want me to write this book.

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I know you want me to take this workshop

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that I've been teaching for so long,

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and all the stuff that's in my heart

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that you've taught me about my own life

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and about my own heart.

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I know you want me to put it in a book,

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and I know you want me to get it to people,

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but I just can't do it.

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I'm trying, but I'm blocked,

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and I don't know what happens next in the book.

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And I would go to bed, and guess what?

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I would wake up with a hand coming down

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and moving my little snail butt

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to the other side of the road.

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I would wake up,

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with what needed to happen next, right?

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I was trying, but I was also asking for help.

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So a lot of times we just put our head down,

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and we just start plowing forward.

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And yeah, I mean, that snail was gonna make it

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if it didn't get crushed, that's great,

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but also, it was gonna take a lot longer than it needed to.

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I'm just letting you guys, I just want this to hit.

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I'm just letting it hit a little bit.

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So whatever that road is representing to you,

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whatever road that you're on right now,

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whatever you're trying to get across right now,

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whatever pressure you're under,

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whatever noise you have going on in your head,

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some of you may be really exhausted with the process.

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I know there's been a lot of spiritual warfare.

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I've been experiencing a lot of spiritual warfare.

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I don't know if I'm just at this age

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where everything's just breaking,

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but I will tell you one thing,

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is that I just said this to David last night

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before we went to sleep.

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I said, you know, I really need God to heal my back.

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My back's out again, by the way, friends.

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And not because I did anything,

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except just living a normal life over here.

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Okay?

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I'm not doing Romanian deadlifts.

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I'm not doing anything strenuous.

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being a normal 51 year old woman walking around in my everyday life and my back

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is messed up again and you guys know that my gallbladder crashed out last

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year at this time and then I had this other thing that I didn't tell you guys

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about that happened and this other thing that happened and now the back thing

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happened and last night this was what was in my spirit and I'm just gonna say

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it because I think some of you were there too I said babe it just feels like

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it's one thing after another

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anybody else

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sounds like it's one thing after another the heck

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and this is what I said to him I said it just feels like it's one thing after

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another I said as soon as one thing ends another one begins and I said and I am

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declaring right now that this is gonna be true but in the positive it's just

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gonna be one good thing after another one good thing after another one good

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thing after another one good thing after another and then I went to sleep and I

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just want to speak that and release that over you as well it's just gonna be one

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good thing after another that hand that came down and lifted that snail up off

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that hard road that it had been trying to navigate doing its best to navigate

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and put it on the other side I just declare that the hand of God just comes

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and plucks us up out of our circumstance we haven't been we haven't been lazy we

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haven't been effortless we've been doing our best we've been trying our best

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we've been doing everything that we know how to do in these areas of our

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lives and just takes us and puts us on the other side just puts us on the other

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side that we just wake up on the other side amen go to bed one way and wake up

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another way I can tell you guys that I just recently got healed I had a

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situation that was happening it's kind of personal I don't really want to share

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it but I will tell you that it was something that I could check and see

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whether or not it was kind of still there sort of situation and my husband

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you know and I had been dealing with it for a while I've been dealing with it

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for a couple months and once again it was part of that one thing after another

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scenario and it was really kind of messing with my head and my husband

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prayed for me and I went to bed and I woke up and literally it was it was over

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I don't really know that that's really happened to me before it's not that I

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haven't had any kind of physical healing because I have for sure but I don't know

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that kind of suddenly switch of being on the long hard road and then waking up in

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a different place come on some of us have been trying to

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carry a lot on our own some of you have a supernatural assignment and you've

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been trying to carry it with your natural strength it's not gonna work I

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know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I'm doing what God called me to do and if I

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tried to do what I'm doing right now friends in my own strength it would

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crush me I have to lean into God every single day I met with obstacles that

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only God can circumvent in this company in this business in this organization in

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this movement I had to learn the hard way early on I try to take a lot of

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stuff on myself I try to be the hero of you guys the stories early on when there

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was only 150 200 of you I tried to be there I tried to answer all the DMS I

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tried to take all the one-on-one calls myself I didn't have any other coaches I

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tried to do it I want to make sure no one felt left out I wanted to make sure

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everyone was included I wanted to make sure everyone got a love story but you

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know what it's not on me this is God's movement it's not my movement and for a

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minute I forgot that at the beginning and some of you forgot that about your

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life the moment that you accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior this ceased to be

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your life and now it's Jesus living through you

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you're no longer your own you've been bought with a price but that price

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depicts ownership and so if you belong to God and so do your problems so do

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your cares so do your obstacles it's not I that live but Christ that lives within

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it's not I that live but Christ that lives within me is it not true which

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means that your life is a divine assignment now that you've received

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Christ that your

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are not just here on purpose but you're here with a purpose and that purpose is

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not something that you can accomplish in your own strength.

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We forget that. I forget it every single day.

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I have to remind myself every single day because the flesh, you guys, it wants to

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do its own thing. I'm not talking about sin or debauchery.

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The flesh just wants to be hyper independent. The flesh is

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trying to do it itself.

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That snail wasn't expecting divine intervention but it got it.

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And God's looking at us. He's seeing how hard we're trying.

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He wants to help us. Do you want to know why? Because he's a good friend. So when I

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woke up this morning, I already knew I was going to talk about

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the snail but when I woke up this morning, you know what song was playing

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in my head?

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You've got a friend in me. You've got a friend in me. You know that one?

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When the road looks rough ahead and you're miles and miles from your nice

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warm bed. Just remember what your old pal said.

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You've got a friend in me. And God was like, I want to be your friend.

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He's like, I'm your friend. I was like, what?

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He's like, yeah, I want to be your friend, Jackie.

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Tell them I want to be their friend. I'm their friend. David was a good friend

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of that snail. He gave him a lift. He gave him a helping hand, you know?

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You guys, I'm the parent of three amazing adults and when they were

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younger and they needed a lot of parenting,

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I parented them. I wasn't the parent that tried to be the friend

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when those formative years needed discipline

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and needed correction and needed consistency and needed stability and

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structure. I mean, I've always been the fun mom.

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I'm a fun person. I have a fun personality.

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But I had my mom hat on for sure. They knew that I was mom.

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But they're adults now. And guess what? They're some of my best friends.

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My three children are some of my best friends. I was talking to my daughter

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that doesn't live here. She's going to be here for her brother's

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wedding. I was talking to her last night until late in the night,

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goofing off, laughing, having fun. Obviously, I'm older so I'm wiser.

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And so they do still lean into me as mother.

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Of course they do. But they also know that they can share anything and

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everything with me. I'm not judging them. I'm not belittling

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them. I'm their friend. And you guys, that's

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the difference between a friend and a parent. Parents are great. We need

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00:28:16.320 --> 00:28:20.080
them. And Father God is Father God. He is.

489
00:28:20.080 --> 00:28:25.200
He's giving you his identity. He's giving you your DNA.

490
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:29.760
He's helping you. He's making a way for you. He's set up an

491
00:28:29.760 --> 00:28:33.120
inheritance for you. He's doing what fathers do.

492
00:28:33.120 --> 00:28:37.120
But he's also your friend. And we have that friend through Jesus Christ.

493
00:28:37.120 --> 00:28:39.840
It says that he's a friend that sticks closer than a brother.

494
00:28:39.840 --> 00:28:44.160
We have a friend.

495
00:28:44.960 --> 00:28:50.720
And friends, they understand. They're compassionate. They're empathetic

496
00:28:50.720 --> 00:28:53.840
to our struggles.

497
00:28:53.920 --> 00:29:00.000
The Bible talks so much about how it's better to go together than to go alone.

498
00:29:00.000 --> 00:29:03.360
Because if one of you falls, the other one can help the other one up,

499
00:29:03.360 --> 00:29:07.280
right? When one can't see clearly, the other one can.

500
00:29:07.280 --> 00:29:10.640
There's so many things.

501
00:29:11.040 --> 00:29:14.640
And we need human friends. A lot of you need more community than you have. You

502
00:29:14.640 --> 00:29:17.040
need more friends than you have, for sure.

503
00:29:17.040 --> 00:29:21.040
You need to make yourself vulnerable and available to friendship.

504
00:29:21.040 --> 00:29:25.120
You do. You haven't had a good friend in a long time.

505
00:29:25.120 --> 00:29:28.560
But we also need to remember

506
00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:32.400
that God's our friend.

507
00:29:33.200 --> 00:29:36.320
He doesn't want to just be a disciplinarian in your mind.

508
00:29:36.320 --> 00:29:39.920
Because God's correction isn't even what you think it means.

509
00:29:39.920 --> 00:29:43.760
The actual Hebrew and Greek words that have anything to do with discipline

510
00:29:43.760 --> 00:29:47.680
are not about corporal punishment, you guys. They're not about punishment at all.

511
00:29:47.680 --> 00:29:52.400
They're about course correction. It's about God helping you to get on the

512
00:29:52.400 --> 00:29:56.400
right track. Do you hear me?

513
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.640
And a lot of people have, they relate to God as frightened children.

514
00:30:05.640 --> 00:30:10.280
They only see God as authority and correction and rules and discipline.

515
00:30:10.280 --> 00:30:12.680
Some of you even see God as disappointment.

516
00:30:12.680 --> 00:30:18.520
You've been trying to follow all the rules, but they haven't worked out for you.

517
00:30:18.520 --> 00:30:20.440
Some of you still got your V cards in here.

518
00:30:20.440 --> 00:30:24.120
We're not going to ask you to raise your hand, but, you know, you're a 40-year-old plus virgin

519
00:30:24.120 --> 00:30:27.960
because you've been trying to follow the rules and, you know, I honor that.

520
00:30:27.960 --> 00:30:32.680
I appreciate that, but, you know, it's got you kind of mad now.

521
00:30:32.680 --> 00:30:34.040
You don't have to identify yourself.

522
00:30:34.040 --> 00:30:39.520
I've talked to enough of you to know that there's plenty of people that are angry that

523
00:30:39.520 --> 00:30:45.040
they did everything right, and here they are still single.

524
00:30:45.040 --> 00:30:47.460
Trust me.

525
00:30:47.460 --> 00:30:56.600
So then maybe you see God through the viewfinder of, you know, rules and disappointment.

526
00:30:56.600 --> 00:31:01.860
But now that we're grown up, you guys, because what happens in healthy parenting, and some

527
00:31:01.860 --> 00:31:05.880
of you know it and some of you don't yet, but when your children grow up, you don't

528
00:31:05.880 --> 00:31:10.240
stop being their parent, but the relationship does deepen into a friendship.

529
00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:14.600
And God wants us, the Bible says that he calls us his friends.

530
00:31:14.600 --> 00:31:16.240
He doesn't want servants.

531
00:31:16.240 --> 00:31:18.400
He wants friends.

532
00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:19.760
That is the higher level.

533
00:31:19.760 --> 00:31:24.120
There are people that are going to live this life, this entire life as a servant of God,

534
00:31:24.120 --> 00:31:28.920
and they're never going to be a friend.

535
00:31:28.920 --> 00:31:30.160
They're not going to be a friend.

536
00:31:30.160 --> 00:31:32.120
They're just going to be a servant.

537
00:31:32.120 --> 00:31:33.120
And what do servants do?

538
00:31:33.120 --> 00:31:34.360
They just do what they're told.

539
00:31:34.360 --> 00:31:39.000
They just wait to do what they're told, and they just follow rules.

540
00:31:39.000 --> 00:31:40.000
That's what they do.

541
00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:41.760
They try not to break rules.

542
00:31:41.760 --> 00:31:44.920
They try not to get in trouble.

543
00:31:44.920 --> 00:31:50.800
They do what they do because of obedience, because of duty, not because of love.

544
00:31:50.800 --> 00:31:53.820
Friends do what they do because of love.

545
00:31:53.820 --> 00:32:02.700
Servants do what they do because of a shared mission and a common goal, because of passion

546
00:32:02.700 --> 00:32:05.820
and compassion.

547
00:32:05.820 --> 00:32:07.140
God wants friends.

548
00:32:07.140 --> 00:32:09.020
He wants friends to share his secrets with.

549
00:32:09.020 --> 00:32:12.740
He said, I share my secrets with you because you're my friends.

550
00:32:12.740 --> 00:32:13.740
Friends share secrets.

551
00:32:13.740 --> 00:32:15.500
They keep each other's secrets.

552
00:32:15.500 --> 00:32:17.940
I don't mean that in a weird or deceptive way.

553
00:32:18.060 --> 00:32:26.500
I mean that in an inclusive and exclusive way.

554
00:32:26.500 --> 00:32:27.500
Friends laugh together.

555
00:32:27.500 --> 00:32:28.500
They talk together.

556
00:32:28.500 --> 00:32:30.700
They enjoy each other.

557
00:32:30.700 --> 00:32:33.740
They call each other for wisdom when they get stuck.

558
00:32:33.740 --> 00:32:34.740
They trust each other.

559
00:32:34.740 --> 00:32:37.420
They share life together.

560
00:32:37.420 --> 00:32:38.660
That's what God wants with us.

561
00:32:38.660 --> 00:32:41.260
Do you guys want to be God's friend?

562
00:32:41.260 --> 00:32:43.460
He doesn't want robotic religion.

563
00:32:43.460 --> 00:32:46.180
You guys, no robotic religion.

564
00:32:46.180 --> 00:32:49.060
No fearful performance.

565
00:32:49.060 --> 00:32:50.060
Friendship.

566
00:32:50.060 --> 00:32:54.220
John 15, 15, this is Jesus talking.

567
00:32:54.220 --> 00:32:55.620
I no longer call you servants.

568
00:32:55.620 --> 00:32:58.220
I have called you friends.

569
00:32:58.220 --> 00:33:02.780
That changes everything, right?

570
00:33:02.780 --> 00:33:08.620
Because when we see God as a disciplinarian, when we see him as just authority and just

571
00:33:08.620 --> 00:33:12.980
whatever it is that you think of when you think of father, you can see every delay like

572
00:33:12.980 --> 00:33:15.540
a punishment of some sort.

573
00:33:15.540 --> 00:33:21.620
All hardship feels like rejection from him.

574
00:33:21.620 --> 00:33:27.980
That causes a lot of shame, but friendship changes that lens, doesn't it?

575
00:33:27.980 --> 00:33:28.980
Think about it.

576
00:33:28.980 --> 00:33:30.300
Okay.

577
00:33:30.300 --> 00:33:35.900
Under that lens of, you know, God is omnipotent and he's omniscient and, you know, you're

578
00:33:35.900 --> 00:33:39.540
stuck because you're not good enough yet and he's put you in the waiting room because you're

579
00:33:39.540 --> 00:33:40.540
not ready.

580
00:33:40.540 --> 00:33:41.540
You're not mature enough yet.

581
00:33:41.700 --> 00:33:43.500
You know, he's disappointed in you.

582
00:33:43.500 --> 00:33:46.140
You messed up and now you're back at the starting line again.

583
00:33:46.140 --> 00:33:49.580
No, no, no, no, no, no.

584
00:33:49.580 --> 00:33:50.580
You change the lens.

585
00:33:50.580 --> 00:33:52.060
You put a friend lens on it.

586
00:33:52.060 --> 00:33:53.860
Think of the best friend that you've ever had.

587
00:33:53.860 --> 00:33:57.060
Think of the best friend that you've ever had that was really great.

588
00:33:57.060 --> 00:33:59.260
Not the one that stabbed you in the back like Judas.

589
00:33:59.260 --> 00:34:00.260
Okay.

590
00:34:00.260 --> 00:34:02.420
Don't think of that friend.

591
00:34:02.420 --> 00:34:05.220
Friendships are for reasons and seasons and treasons, y'all.

592
00:34:05.220 --> 00:34:06.300
You need to know that.

593
00:34:06.300 --> 00:34:08.500
Human relationships, that is.

594
00:34:08.500 --> 00:34:13.820
But think of the bestest friend that you ever had that understood you, that clapped

595
00:34:13.820 --> 00:34:15.260
when you win.

596
00:34:15.260 --> 00:34:17.620
When you win, they were clapping, they were cheering you on.

597
00:34:17.620 --> 00:34:20.940
They were your biggest cheerleader, your best friend.

598
00:34:20.940 --> 00:34:21.940
Think of that person.

599
00:34:21.940 --> 00:34:22.940
Okay.

600
00:34:22.940 --> 00:34:26.179
Now put that lens on God.

601
00:34:26.179 --> 00:34:28.360
Now what happens?

602
00:34:28.360 --> 00:34:32.420
Correction becomes protection, doesn't it?

603
00:34:32.420 --> 00:34:35.360
We get guided with love.

604
00:34:35.360 --> 00:34:38.400
Any kind of conviction that you might feel is not deprivation.

605
00:34:39.300 --> 00:34:40.300
It becomes closeness.

606
00:34:40.300 --> 00:34:43.659
It becomes exclusivity.

607
00:34:43.659 --> 00:34:45.900
Prayer turns into just a conversation, doesn't it?

608
00:34:45.900 --> 00:34:49.420
You guys, I talk to God all day long, just so you know.

609
00:34:49.420 --> 00:34:55.219
I'm sure people think I'm crazy because I have like a nonstop dialogue, which seems

610
00:34:55.219 --> 00:35:00.020
like it's with myself because no one else can see God, including me.

611
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.640
me, but I can hear him real well.

612
00:35:08.160 --> 00:35:09.640
We're just chatting all day long.

613
00:35:11.280 --> 00:35:14.160
Anybody have such a good friend that you just get on the phone with them and you

614
00:35:14.160 --> 00:35:16.120
just chat, chat, chat for hours,

615
00:35:17.880 --> 00:35:20.880
chat it up. My mom had a friend like that.

616
00:35:22.520 --> 00:35:25.800
I remember one time we were in a hotel room together because we were traveling

617
00:35:25.800 --> 00:35:30.560
someplace and she was on the phone with her best friend and they were just

618
00:35:30.600 --> 00:35:34.560
hooping and hollering and chatting and chatting and chatting and chatting.

619
00:35:35.280 --> 00:35:39.760
And I was trying to go to sleep and I was 19 years old

620
00:35:40.760 --> 00:35:43.760
and I had just reconnected with my mom and went on this trip with her,

621
00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:47.000
which probably wasn't the best idea in the world. But I was just like, Hey,

622
00:35:47.520 --> 00:35:52.160
I want to go to sleep. And she's, she snapped at me. She was like,

623
00:35:52.320 --> 00:35:54.960
I'm talking to my friend. I'm like, okay.

624
00:35:56.760 --> 00:35:57.960
She's talking to her friend.

625
00:35:59.160 --> 00:36:03.320
Got to fill her friend in and all the details of the day. Guys,

626
00:36:03.320 --> 00:36:06.440
why don't you show up? Let God know. You're like, he already knows.

627
00:36:06.760 --> 00:36:08.480
Well, tell him again.

628
00:36:13.320 --> 00:36:17.280
David loves to tell me about all the details of his day,

629
00:36:17.320 --> 00:36:21.080
all the boring details of his day in,

630
00:36:21.360 --> 00:36:22.960
in technology world.

631
00:36:23.960 --> 00:36:28.120
Hold on y'all. We got a crazy break in here.

632
00:36:29.080 --> 00:36:31.720
All right. And I,

633
00:36:32.840 --> 00:36:36.480
and I pretend to be interested because I'm a good friend.

634
00:36:36.760 --> 00:36:41.240
I'm his best friend. He's my best friend.

635
00:36:42.360 --> 00:36:44.440
Besides Jesus, of course, you guys know.

636
00:36:47.360 --> 00:36:49.720
So I was just chatting with my mom and I was like,

637
00:36:49.840 --> 00:36:54.040
you guys know. So you guys, we need it.

638
00:36:56.720 --> 00:36:59.160
God is helping us right now. I know we can't see it.

639
00:36:59.160 --> 00:37:01.120
I know maybe some of us don't even believe it,

640
00:37:01.360 --> 00:37:05.680
but I believe that we are in a season of supernatural assistance.

641
00:37:05.840 --> 00:37:10.080
If you believe it, receive it. That snail,

642
00:37:10.800 --> 00:37:12.600
that snail spoke to me, you guys.

643
00:37:13.800 --> 00:37:16.880
I knew that God was showing me something that was happening in the spirit realm,

644
00:37:17.400 --> 00:37:21.360
acceleration, favor, strength, provision, divine,

645
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:26.760
divine inner, you know, interceptions. We just came along.

646
00:37:28.720 --> 00:37:29.920
Divine intervention.

647
00:37:35.080 --> 00:37:35.920
Yes.

648
00:37:36.080 --> 00:37:39.720
Things that feel impossible or feel like they're going to take a lot longer.

649
00:37:39.960 --> 00:37:42.760
Remember that word that God gave me not that long ago for all of us.

650
00:37:43.760 --> 00:37:45.600
It's going to be easier than you think.

651
00:37:45.600 --> 00:37:48.280
And it's going to happen faster than you than you've planned.

652
00:37:49.080 --> 00:37:52.080
Remember that one? That's part of this.

653
00:37:52.960 --> 00:37:55.760
You guys, all of this are just like puzzle pieces. They all go together.

654
00:37:58.200 --> 00:38:02.000
You guys remember that word that I had the beginning of last year or like March

655
00:38:02.000 --> 00:38:04.360
of last year, full circle. Remember the full circle.

656
00:38:05.160 --> 00:38:09.040
I got another testimony in my inbox, in my email.

657
00:38:10.000 --> 00:38:14.240
One of my students from a couple of years ago, she got success in this program.

658
00:38:14.240 --> 00:38:17.760
She got engaged. And during the engagement,

659
00:38:17.760 --> 00:38:20.240
they started having some serious family issues.

660
00:38:20.640 --> 00:38:24.360
She started realizing that this man was not going to leave and cleave.

661
00:38:24.480 --> 00:38:28.080
He's not going to leave and cleave. He was very

662
00:38:29.560 --> 00:38:34.160
enmeshed with his family and some very toxic behaviors,

663
00:38:35.160 --> 00:38:40.120
toxic interference, toxic stuff going on. And, you know,

664
00:38:40.120 --> 00:38:43.800
she was either going to come into that situation and she was just going to put up

665
00:38:43.800 --> 00:38:46.840
with it for the rest of her life. Or, you know,

666
00:38:46.840 --> 00:38:49.000
she was just going to have to go her own way. This,

667
00:38:49.000 --> 00:38:53.000
this man did not have his own mind. He just did whatever his family told him to do.

668
00:38:53.400 --> 00:38:55.480
And she didn't see that during the dating process,

669
00:38:55.480 --> 00:38:58.480
but during the engagement process, she saw it. She saw it really well.

670
00:38:58.800 --> 00:39:03.520
He was enmeshed. Gentlemen, you are to leave and cleave. When you get married,

671
00:39:03.520 --> 00:39:07.800
you are to leave mommy and daddy and you are to cleave to your wife.

672
00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:11.800
So the Bible says, and that wasn't going to happen here.

673
00:39:11.800 --> 00:39:14.520
And so she made the hard decision to call off the engagement.

674
00:39:14.760 --> 00:39:18.520
And I was with her through that process. I was with her through, you know,

675
00:39:18.520 --> 00:39:23.040
dating and through, you know, dating this guy, meeting this guy,

676
00:39:23.040 --> 00:39:25.800
dating this guy, and then eventually getting engaged to this guy.

677
00:39:25.800 --> 00:39:27.800
And he was not a bad guy. He's not a bad guy.

678
00:39:28.480 --> 00:39:33.000
Some people are just not ready for marriage and you can't make them ready.

679
00:39:33.640 --> 00:39:38.120
They're not ready. And this guy was not ready. And so she,

680
00:39:38.280 --> 00:39:41.720
you know, she counseled and coached with me about the situation and,

681
00:39:42.240 --> 00:39:43.920
and you know, the details, you know,

682
00:39:43.920 --> 00:39:46.720
I don't need to get into them with you guys, but it was very, very,

683
00:39:46.720 --> 00:39:49.920
very apparent that this was not going to work out.

684
00:39:51.520 --> 00:39:56.520
And so she made the hard decision to move on and she,

685
00:39:57.520 --> 00:39:59.320
you know, she, you know,

686
00:39:59.320 --> 00:40:00.040
and.

687
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.920
She was going to just heal for a little while.

688
00:40:01.920 --> 00:40:05.520
She was just going to, you know, do her own thing for a little while.

689
00:40:05.520 --> 00:40:08.040
This was probably late 23, early 24.

690
00:40:09.120 --> 00:40:09.840
I mean, guess what?

691
00:40:10.120 --> 00:40:13.660
She met a new guy and she wasn't in the program anymore.

692
00:40:13.660 --> 00:40:21.400
So she wasn't in constant connection with us, but she met this guy and she didn't

693
00:40:21.400 --> 00:40:25.280
even know about the word that I released over this entire community, which she is

694
00:40:25.280 --> 00:40:29.680
part of in the spirit, which was full circle.

695
00:40:30.840 --> 00:40:31.480
And guess what?

696
00:40:31.480 --> 00:40:32.520
She reconnected.

697
00:40:32.520 --> 00:40:33.120
Here's the story.

698
00:40:33.120 --> 00:40:34.000
You guys are going to love this.

699
00:40:34.600 --> 00:40:39.640
So when she was younger, he went to a church and this guy that she's married

700
00:40:39.640 --> 00:40:41.760
to now, he went to that church as well.

701
00:40:42.720 --> 00:40:46.600
And they were both part of, you know, certain ministries at this church.

702
00:40:47.120 --> 00:40:50.280
And he was going to ask her out.

703
00:40:50.280 --> 00:40:54.680
She knew that he liked her and he was going to, you know, ask her if she wanted

704
00:40:54.680 --> 00:40:58.640
to date him, but at that very same time, her dad died.

705
00:41:00.400 --> 00:41:03.680
So right before this was about to happen, her dad got sick and passed away.

706
00:41:05.600 --> 00:41:09.440
And because that happened, it kind of put her life topsy turvy.

707
00:41:09.440 --> 00:41:12.360
And eventually she ended up stopped going to that church.

708
00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:14.960
You know, a lot of, a lot of family stuff was going on, a lot of different

709
00:41:14.960 --> 00:41:20.440
things were happening and she just kind of lost contact and just her life took

710
00:41:20.440 --> 00:41:22.960
her a different direction when dad passed away.

711
00:41:23.920 --> 00:41:25.520
So lost track of each other.

712
00:41:25.560 --> 00:41:27.400
So she goes through our program.

713
00:41:27.400 --> 00:41:29.520
She gets her heart to where it needs to be.

714
00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:31.280
She's dating with a clear lens.

715
00:41:31.280 --> 00:41:32.760
She meets a good guy.

716
00:41:33.120 --> 00:41:37.440
He's got her non-negotiables, but then when it gets to the point of marrying him,

717
00:41:37.440 --> 00:41:39.400
she realizes he's not ready for marriage.

718
00:41:39.400 --> 00:41:43.200
He's got some stuff to work on that he refuses to work on.

719
00:41:43.560 --> 00:41:44.520
Doesn't want to.

720
00:41:45.040 --> 00:41:47.160
Doesn't think there's anything wrong with the family dynamics.

721
00:41:47.160 --> 00:41:48.600
So she's got to go her separate way.

722
00:41:49.120 --> 00:41:53.520
He does, you know, she, she stops dating for a while.

723
00:41:53.560 --> 00:41:58.800
Like she should, you know, she, she regroups and then he comes across the sky.

724
00:41:59.880 --> 00:42:02.000
This guy and her cross paths again.

725
00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:04.400
Here's the full circle word in 25.

726
00:42:04.400 --> 00:42:05.680
They cross paths again.

727
00:42:06.400 --> 00:42:10.160
They pick up right where they left off with, Hey, I really am attracted to you.

728
00:42:10.160 --> 00:42:11.000
I really like you.

729
00:42:11.000 --> 00:42:12.000
I want to date you.

730
00:42:12.320 --> 00:42:14.000
They date, they get engaged.

731
00:42:14.000 --> 00:42:16.160
They get married in October of 2025.

732
00:42:17.160 --> 00:42:19.760
You guys, once again, these words that God is releasing over our community,

733
00:42:19.760 --> 00:42:22.640
write them down, keep them in your journals.

734
00:42:23.520 --> 00:42:24.440
They don't expire.

735
00:42:24.440 --> 00:42:25.320
They're not expired.

736
00:42:25.320 --> 00:42:27.520
The full circle word is still happening.

737
00:42:28.520 --> 00:42:30.880
Daniel in our community did a full circle.

738
00:42:33.400 --> 00:42:34.600
He married Jackie.

739
00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:37.040
I mean, his wife's got an amazing name.

740
00:42:37.040 --> 00:42:38.320
I mean, what more can you want?

741
00:42:39.320 --> 00:42:40.280
He married Jackie.

742
00:42:40.280 --> 00:42:40.880
What happened?

743
00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:42.720
He dated a girl in this community.

744
00:42:42.920 --> 00:42:44.120
He did his heart work.

745
00:42:44.120 --> 00:42:46.680
He started figuring out what he needs and what he doesn't need.

746
00:42:48.680 --> 00:42:51.200
They break up because they're not the right fit for each other.

747
00:42:51.760 --> 00:42:52.840
He's coaching with me.

748
00:42:52.840 --> 00:42:54.840
He was one of my private coaching clients.

749
00:42:56.280 --> 00:43:00.320
And after that word that I gave him, after that word, I released full circle.

750
00:43:00.800 --> 00:43:05.560
He said, God reminded him of this girl, Jackie, that he really liked that he

751
00:43:05.560 --> 00:43:07.120
worked with back in the day.

752
00:43:07.720 --> 00:43:11.560
And for whatever circumstances surrounding that season of both of their lives,

753
00:43:11.560 --> 00:43:15.120
they never really, they both, they had a flirtation, they had an attraction, but

754
00:43:15.120 --> 00:43:16.560
it never got off first base.

755
00:43:16.600 --> 00:43:18.000
They never even went on one date.

756
00:43:18.560 --> 00:43:22.800
He found her after that word that we released here, he found her on social

757
00:43:22.800 --> 00:43:27.600
media, he reached out, she was single, he was single, they were long distance.

758
00:43:27.840 --> 00:43:28.720
They started talking.

759
00:43:28.720 --> 00:43:30.040
They started having phone calls.

760
00:43:30.360 --> 00:43:33.280
He went to see her and the rest is history.

761
00:43:33.280 --> 00:43:35.160
They fell madly in love and they're married now.

762
00:43:36.000 --> 00:43:36.880
Come on, you guys.

763
00:43:37.280 --> 00:43:42.680
But anyway, the girl that just contacted us, that she got married in October of

764
00:43:42.680 --> 00:43:46.280
25, she said, I would not have been able to do that without this community.

765
00:43:46.280 --> 00:43:50.080
She said, I didn't even realize how much I learned from you until I had to apply

766
00:43:50.080 --> 00:43:51.400
it to these situations.

767
00:43:51.640 --> 00:43:56.240
I didn't even realize how much God had deposited in me from these, these prayer

768
00:43:56.240 --> 00:43:57.680
sessions, from the supernatural setters.

769
00:43:57.680 --> 00:44:02.480
You guys, everything that you are getting right now is going to be utilized.

770
00:44:02.480 --> 00:44:03.280
I promise you.

771
00:44:03.600 --> 00:44:04.840
It's going to be utilized.

772
00:44:08.200 --> 00:44:13.520
Some people even say weird things to me, like, it feels weird to me, but they're

773
00:44:13.520 --> 00:44:17.880
like, Jackie, I was in this situation and then I heard your voice like Holy Spirit

774
00:44:17.880 --> 00:44:18.480
in my head.

775
00:44:20.080 --> 00:44:21.880
A lot of people be hearing my voice out there.

776
00:44:21.880 --> 00:44:24.160
Holy Spirit be doing impressions.

777
00:44:24.160 --> 00:44:26.560
Holy Spirit's like, yeah, I don't know if they're going to listen to me, but

778
00:44:26.560 --> 00:44:27.800
they're going to listen to Jackie.

779
00:44:27.840 --> 00:44:30.360
So I'm going to be Jackie right now.

780
00:44:34.360 --> 00:44:37.640
You guys, I know that you might feel really small like that snail and you might

781
00:44:37.640 --> 00:44:38.760
feel really tired.

782
00:44:38.880 --> 00:44:41.360
I don't know if that snail was tired, but he looked tired.

783
00:44:41.720 --> 00:44:42.960
His little snail face.

784
00:44:44.160 --> 00:44:45.280
He looks like he's tired.

785
00:44:45.760 --> 00:44:51.040
He's got a big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big,

786
00:44:51.040 --> 00:44:53.520
he looked tired, his little snail face.

787
00:44:54.560 --> 00:44:56.920
You might feel exposed like that snail.

788
00:44:57.840 --> 00:45:00.040
You might feel like you've been trying your best not to get.

789
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.080
crushed by life like that snail, but heaven sees you.

790
00:45:07.080 --> 00:45:09.600
Heaven sees you.

791
00:45:09.600 --> 00:45:15.040
God is not standing far away from you just watching you and just waiting for you to do

792
00:45:15.040 --> 00:45:18.120
what you're supposed to do, to be obedient.

793
00:45:18.120 --> 00:45:23.960
He's not just standing there, you know, judging your performance.

794
00:45:23.960 --> 00:45:26.260
He is the God who stops.

795
00:45:26.260 --> 00:45:28.480
He is the God who leans down.

796
00:45:28.480 --> 00:45:33.540
He is the God who gently carries us through to the other side, takes us out of dangerous

797
00:45:33.540 --> 00:45:35.500
places and puts us in safe places.

798
00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:39.380
Have you ever read Psalm 91?

799
00:45:39.380 --> 00:45:43.280
Yes, he is El Roy.

800
00:45:43.280 --> 00:45:46.180
He is the God who sees you.

801
00:45:46.180 --> 00:45:52.380
He's the God that sees you.

802
00:45:52.380 --> 00:45:56.100
I want you to put in the chat right now what area of your life you really need God to be

803
00:45:56.100 --> 00:45:57.100
a friend to you in.

804
00:45:57.100 --> 00:45:58.100
Come on.

805
00:45:59.100 --> 00:46:00.740
Do you need a friend in your finances?

806
00:46:00.740 --> 00:46:01.740
You need a friend at work?

807
00:46:01.740 --> 00:46:02.740
Yes, it's your job.

808
00:46:02.740 --> 00:46:04.460
You're like, oh, I can't do it.

809
00:46:04.460 --> 00:46:05.460
Do you need a friend?

810
00:46:05.460 --> 00:46:08.380
Do you just need a friend?

811
00:46:08.380 --> 00:46:10.100
You just don't really have a friend that you can call?

812
00:46:10.100 --> 00:46:12.820
Do you have a 2 a.m. friend, someone you can call in the middle of the night when you need

813
00:46:12.820 --> 00:46:13.820
help?

814
00:46:13.820 --> 00:46:14.820
You do.

815
00:46:14.820 --> 00:46:15.820
God's your friend.

816
00:46:15.820 --> 00:46:20.220
Do you need a friend in your love life?

817
00:46:20.220 --> 00:46:22.220
We all know that we need friends in our love lives.

818
00:46:22.220 --> 00:46:23.420
You need a friend in your love life.

819
00:46:23.420 --> 00:46:24.420
That's why you're here.

820
00:46:24.420 --> 00:46:28.740
You need a friend besides just me.

821
00:46:28.740 --> 00:46:29.740
And you know what?

822
00:46:29.740 --> 00:46:31.620
You have friends in each other, too.

823
00:46:31.620 --> 00:46:35.980
Look around the room for those of you that have your cameras on.

824
00:46:35.980 --> 00:46:37.860
Here's your friends.

825
00:46:37.860 --> 00:46:40.980
You got friends here.

826
00:46:40.980 --> 00:46:50.260
You guys, one of the things, if you didn't get a copy of my book, I'm going to do a book

827
00:46:50.260 --> 00:46:51.620
contest today on Instagram.

828
00:46:51.820 --> 00:46:53.820
So make sure that you go over there and you look.

829
00:46:53.820 --> 00:46:57.820
I'm going to be giving away some stuff.

830
00:46:57.820 --> 00:47:00.860
But grab a copy of the book and grab it on Amazon.

831
00:47:00.860 --> 00:47:03.980
You can go to my website, JackieDorman.com.

832
00:47:03.980 --> 00:47:05.340
You can go to the book page.

833
00:47:05.340 --> 00:47:06.340
There's the link.

834
00:47:06.340 --> 00:47:09.060
You can also go to Amazon and search my name in Modern Dating Sucks.

835
00:47:09.060 --> 00:47:10.060
You can grab it.

836
00:47:10.060 --> 00:47:14.860
But I talk in there about, you know, making room for each other.

837
00:47:14.860 --> 00:47:17.860
I talk in that book about bringing back the village.

838
00:47:17.860 --> 00:47:20.180
You guys, we are the village.

839
00:47:21.180 --> 00:47:22.180
I talk in there.

840
00:47:22.180 --> 00:47:26.140
Who's reading the book already and do you like it?

841
00:47:26.140 --> 00:47:27.140
Put it in the chat.

842
00:47:27.140 --> 00:47:28.460
I need to know.

843
00:47:28.460 --> 00:47:30.020
I'm really proud of it.

844
00:47:30.020 --> 00:47:35.940
I feel like it's so helpful.

845
00:47:35.940 --> 00:47:36.940
It comes with an e-book, Karen.

846
00:47:36.940 --> 00:47:40.100
For those of you who signed up for the book club, it comes with the electronic version

847
00:47:40.100 --> 00:47:43.100
of the book.

848
00:47:43.100 --> 00:47:45.660
Try to keep it low cost, the book club.

849
00:47:45.660 --> 00:47:48.140
It is five weeks of coaching with me.

850
00:47:48.140 --> 00:47:49.500
I am your coach in there.

851
00:47:49.500 --> 00:47:54.980
You will be able to talk to me directly whether it's on the live Zooms once a week or whether

852
00:47:54.980 --> 00:48:00.020
it's just posting in the group and asking me to respond.

853
00:48:00.020 --> 00:48:02.860
There's an Ask a Coach tab in there.

854
00:48:02.860 --> 00:48:06.980
There's an optional Facebook group for those of you that love Facebook's interface better

855
00:48:06.980 --> 00:48:08.900
than the app.

856
00:48:08.900 --> 00:48:11.940
The book club is on the Last Year Single app.

857
00:48:11.940 --> 00:48:14.020
It is a private group on there.

858
00:48:14.020 --> 00:48:17.820
You guys, you need to buy that book club if you're going to.

859
00:48:17.820 --> 00:48:22.140
If you're a pre-sale buyer, you've got a $50 off coupon, so go use it.

860
00:48:22.140 --> 00:48:23.140
It's in your email.

861
00:48:23.140 --> 00:48:28.660
Look in your spam and your promotions filter if you can't find it.

862
00:48:28.660 --> 00:48:31.420
For those of you that didn't buy it in pre-sale, it's $97.

863
00:48:31.420 --> 00:48:35.480
It does not include a physical copy of the book, but it does include an e-book version

864
00:48:35.480 --> 00:48:36.860
of the book.

865
00:48:36.860 --> 00:48:40.260
All the worksheets and different things that are in the book, the actual paper copy of

866
00:48:40.260 --> 00:48:42.620
the book, will be included in the workshop as well.

867
00:48:42.620 --> 00:48:45.980
You'll be able to download those, so no worries there.

868
00:48:45.980 --> 00:48:47.340
I'm excited about that.

869
00:48:47.860 --> 00:48:49.100
I'm excited about bringing back the village.

870
00:48:49.100 --> 00:48:50.860
I'm excited about helping people get clear.

871
00:48:50.860 --> 00:48:54.900
I do believe that people are going to have a summer of love.

872
00:48:54.900 --> 00:48:55.900
I do.

873
00:48:55.900 --> 00:48:57.460
Will I be teaching some of those concepts?

874
00:48:57.460 --> 00:49:00.100
For those of you that simply can't afford to be in the book club, yes, of course, I'll

875
00:49:00.100 --> 00:49:05.020
be teaching some of those concepts in phase three.

876
00:49:05.020 --> 00:49:08.220
For those of you that are in hard work here in the community, stay focused on your hard

877
00:49:08.220 --> 00:49:13.640
work, but for those of you in phase two and three, we will definitely be incorporating

878
00:49:13.840 --> 00:49:19.320
some of the elements of this new book into your programs, and hard work people will soon

879
00:49:19.320 --> 00:49:24.720
be in phase two and three.

880
00:49:24.720 --> 00:49:31.640
You guys, I believe in what we're doing here.

881
00:49:31.640 --> 00:49:35.640
Look at all the places that you need a friend.

882
00:49:35.640 --> 00:49:41.080
Yes, if you're in the hard work, you can join the book club.

883
00:49:41.080 --> 00:49:45.760
I got permission from Coach Bethany for the hard work students to be in the book club.

884
00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:56.040
You do need to stay on a dating sabbatical, though.

885
00:49:56.040 --> 00:49:59.360
Don't just think because you're in the book club, you're going to run off and start dating

886
00:49:59.360 --> 00:50:00.040
somebody.

887
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.000
You need to do your heart work.

888
00:50:04.000 --> 00:50:05.000
All right.

889
00:50:05.000 --> 00:50:08.200
So here's some prophetic declarations that we're going to do together that I've written

890
00:50:08.200 --> 00:50:09.200
down here.

891
00:50:09.200 --> 00:50:11.840
You guys ready?

892
00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:19.000
I will not confuse my slow seasons with abandoned seasons.

893
00:50:19.000 --> 00:50:20.000
Things have been hard.

894
00:50:20.000 --> 00:50:24.200
They've been going kind of slow, but I'm not abandoned.

895
00:50:24.200 --> 00:50:30.740
I'm not abandoned.

896
00:50:30.740 --> 00:50:31.920
God sees my movement.

897
00:50:31.920 --> 00:50:32.920
That's your declaration.

898
00:50:32.920 --> 00:50:33.920
Come on.

899
00:50:33.920 --> 00:50:36.840
God sees my movement.

900
00:50:36.840 --> 00:50:43.700
He sees how hard I've been trying.

901
00:50:43.700 --> 00:50:47.280
I do not have to cross every hard road alone.

902
00:50:47.280 --> 00:50:51.040
I do not have to cross every road alone.

903
00:50:51.040 --> 00:50:52.040
Come on.

904
00:50:52.040 --> 00:50:53.540
This is your, this is your declaration right now.

905
00:50:53.540 --> 00:50:56.620
Say it out loud wherever you are.

906
00:50:56.620 --> 00:51:00.380
I do not have to cross every road alone.

907
00:51:00.380 --> 00:51:08.220
Yeah, Gwen's like, pick me up, Lord.

908
00:51:08.220 --> 00:51:10.180
Definitely write your own declarations too.

909
00:51:10.180 --> 00:51:12.220
These are the ones I have.

910
00:51:12.220 --> 00:51:13.900
Heaven is helping me.

911
00:51:13.900 --> 00:51:15.860
Heaven is helping me.

912
00:51:15.860 --> 00:51:23.500
God is not distant from me.

913
00:51:23.500 --> 00:51:25.060
God wants friendship with me.

914
00:51:25.060 --> 00:51:26.060
Make that a declaration.

915
00:51:26.060 --> 00:51:33.140
God wants to be my friend.

916
00:51:33.140 --> 00:51:38.180
I will not be crushed by life.

917
00:51:38.180 --> 00:51:45.020
Supernatural help is carrying me safely through.

918
00:51:45.020 --> 00:51:53.460
I will receive the people, help, wisdom, and grace God sends.

919
00:51:53.460 --> 00:52:02.860
A little snail didn't even know what happened to him.

920
00:52:02.860 --> 00:52:10.820
He had no idea that some kind human was watching him.

921
00:52:10.820 --> 00:52:13.100
He was just in a survival instinct.

922
00:52:13.100 --> 00:52:15.980
You guys, that's what all of nature is in right now because of the curse.

923
00:52:15.980 --> 00:52:17.380
It's in a survival instinct.

924
00:52:17.380 --> 00:52:21.420
That's why animals are so on guard against humans.

925
00:52:21.420 --> 00:52:25.060
Everything's in a survival instinct because of the curse.

926
00:52:25.060 --> 00:52:28.980
You know, the scripture that says that all of creation is groaning and travailing, waiting

927
00:52:28.980 --> 00:52:34.260
for the revealing of the sons and daughters of God.

928
00:52:34.260 --> 00:52:41.740
That's why everything dies still, but that's going to end, you guys.

929
00:52:41.740 --> 00:52:46.500
The only reason that we're not under the curse is because we've come into the finished

930
00:52:46.500 --> 00:52:50.600
work of the cross.

931
00:52:50.600 --> 00:52:57.300
In heaven, did you guys know that dangerous animals are just going to be your friends?

932
00:52:57.300 --> 00:53:01.420
I see these videos of these crazy people like kissing lions and stuff, and I'm like, oh,

933
00:53:01.420 --> 00:53:02.420
dear God.

934
00:53:02.420 --> 00:53:07.620
Wrestling around with a bengal, they're like, oh, but he's super friendly.

935
00:53:07.620 --> 00:53:08.620
He's my friend Brad.

936
00:53:08.620 --> 00:53:09.620
Is he?

937
00:53:10.620 --> 00:53:14.100
Is he your friend, Brad?

938
00:53:14.100 --> 00:53:24.020
I'm not sure about that, Brad the bengal.

939
00:53:24.020 --> 00:53:25.980
But in heaven, it will be like that.

940
00:53:25.980 --> 00:53:30.620
You guys know, David Dorman had a dream, and he had a dream.

941
00:53:30.620 --> 00:53:34.860
Oh, thank you, Holy Spirit, for reminding me of this.

942
00:53:34.860 --> 00:53:40.780
David had a dream, and in his dream, he was with a lion.

943
00:53:40.780 --> 00:53:43.700
Anyone seen the Chronicles of Narnia or read the books?

944
00:53:43.700 --> 00:53:44.700
Aslan?

945
00:53:44.700 --> 00:53:50.740
Now, it wasn't Aslan in the dream, but it was a big lion like that, and you guys know

946
00:53:50.740 --> 00:53:57.500
the Bible talks about Jesus as the lion of the tribe of Judah, right?

947
00:53:57.500 --> 00:54:02.940
In this dream, David was kind of scared of this big lion, but the big lion came up and

948
00:54:02.940 --> 00:54:11.580
started licking him like a golden retriever, and then he started playing with him like

949
00:54:11.580 --> 00:54:12.580
a dog would.

950
00:54:12.580 --> 00:54:18.220
It was just a big golden retriever, this big lion, and this lion loved him, and this lion

951
00:54:18.220 --> 00:54:24.100
just wanted to, you know, wrestle around with him and have fun with him and cuddle him and,

952
00:54:24.100 --> 00:54:27.420
you know.

953
00:54:27.420 --> 00:54:38.980
And when he woke up, God said to him, I just want to be your friend, I just want to be

954
00:54:38.980 --> 00:54:41.980
your friend.

955
00:54:41.980 --> 00:54:55.980
Come on, you guys, I want you to tell God today, I want to be your friend, too.

956
00:54:55.980 --> 00:54:59.260
I know you're the one who stops for me, I know you're the one that leans down, I know

957
00:54:59.260 --> 00:55:00.260
you're the one that gently...

958
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.440
It carries me to the dangerous places.

959
00:55:05.440 --> 00:55:08.600
I know that you love me. I received your love and your help.

960
00:55:09.360 --> 00:55:13.840
I've not been abandoned. You're proud of me. I haven't given up.

961
00:55:14.200 --> 00:55:18.000
Guys, God doesn't judge your progress.

962
00:55:19.280 --> 00:55:23.040
The only thing that gets looked at is your heart. You know that, right?

963
00:55:25.960 --> 00:55:29.560
It's all about the heart. God looks at the heart.

964
00:55:29.560 --> 00:55:33.280
God sees the heart. People judge our progress.

965
00:55:33.520 --> 00:55:36.960
People judge our perfection. People judge our performance.

966
00:55:37.280 --> 00:55:41.760
Religion judges all that stuff too. I know people who, you know,

967
00:55:41.760 --> 00:55:43.800
I could never figure this out because remember you guys,

968
00:55:43.800 --> 00:55:46.080
I did not meet Jesus until I was in my twenties.

969
00:55:48.400 --> 00:55:49.480
But when I was in my twenties,

970
00:55:49.480 --> 00:55:52.600
I became the outreach director of my church and I drove a church van and I

971
00:55:52.600 --> 00:55:54.520
would drive around and I would, you know,

972
00:55:54.520 --> 00:55:57.760
invite people to church and I would do all kinds of work with the homeless and

973
00:55:57.760 --> 00:55:59.720
trafficked women and all kinds of different things.

974
00:55:59.720 --> 00:56:02.960
This is what my twenties looked like, 22 and on.

975
00:56:03.600 --> 00:56:07.080
And I never could figure out why I would say to people, Hey, come on,

976
00:56:07.080 --> 00:56:10.160
come to church. And they'd say, Oh no, I can't come to church.

977
00:56:10.160 --> 00:56:11.320
I don't have anything to wear.

978
00:56:15.240 --> 00:56:18.360
Y'all people used to say this to me every single day.

979
00:56:19.520 --> 00:56:22.080
And then I realized that these people were raised in religion.

980
00:56:22.080 --> 00:56:25.600
They were raised at churches, Baptist churches, Pentecostal churches,

981
00:56:26.320 --> 00:56:28.960
Catholic churches where you had to have church clothes.

982
00:56:29.160 --> 00:56:32.920
You couldn't just come to church as you are. You had to come, you know,

983
00:56:33.200 --> 00:56:36.760
for some of these people, you had to come dress like as a fashion show.

984
00:56:37.080 --> 00:56:40.880
You had to come dress like you dress to the nines, man. And ladies,

985
00:56:40.880 --> 00:56:43.880
you had to wear a dress. You couldn't be wearing no slacks. I mean,

986
00:56:43.880 --> 00:56:46.840
hell's going to open up and swallow you up. You coming in the pants,

987
00:56:47.040 --> 00:56:48.360
church pants on.

988
00:56:49.640 --> 00:56:53.360
And that's why I'm so glad that non-denominational churches in all churches

989
00:56:53.360 --> 00:56:55.760
literally for the most part, I've gotten rid of that.

990
00:56:56.040 --> 00:57:00.280
People come in shorts and t-shirts. People come in halter tops.

991
00:57:00.720 --> 00:57:05.480
People come in swimwear. I've seen it all at church.

992
00:57:05.520 --> 00:57:09.160
Honestly, it's like, Oh, you wore your bathing suit to church, huh?

993
00:57:10.480 --> 00:57:14.120
You go, you put shorts over it. I'm glad you did that. But you know, but,

994
00:57:14.160 --> 00:57:17.320
Oh, you're going to the pool afterwards. Yeah, that makes sense. I got you.

995
00:57:18.080 --> 00:57:22.480
But I'm just glad that we've leveled the playing field here.

996
00:57:22.640 --> 00:57:27.600
Right? Because the cross literally is a come as you are model.

997
00:57:29.040 --> 00:57:30.840
It is a come as you are model.

998
00:57:34.920 --> 00:57:36.040
God loves us.

999
00:57:38.400 --> 00:57:41.400
And however, those people needed to meet God and get to God.

1000
00:57:42.960 --> 00:57:47.280
Religion was keeping them back because religion was saying, no,

1001
00:57:47.280 --> 00:57:50.440
you got to be perfect before you come here. You got to be dressed perfectly.

1002
00:57:50.440 --> 00:57:53.200
You got to be dressed right. You got to have it all together.

1003
00:57:53.440 --> 00:57:57.240
Why don't you go get your together? By the way,

1004
00:57:57.240 --> 00:58:00.640
I said for those of you that heard the it, that was you, not me.

1005
00:58:00.640 --> 00:58:03.720
Cause I didn't say it. I don't write me an email.

1006
00:58:06.520 --> 00:58:11.520
You got to get it together before you got to get good to get God.

1007
00:58:12.200 --> 00:58:14.880
You got to get right to get God. You got to get right.

1008
00:58:14.880 --> 00:58:17.680
And then you can have God. No, that's not the way it works.

1009
00:58:18.680 --> 00:58:20.200
And I want to tell you,

1010
00:58:20.200 --> 00:58:24.440
I'm a good friend and I have a lot of good friends that I've had all my life.

1011
00:58:24.480 --> 00:58:28.440
My best friend, her and I've been best friends for 30 years,

1012
00:58:28.720 --> 00:58:32.680
25 years. And I will tell you, no 30, 35 years.

1013
00:58:32.920 --> 00:58:34.160
And I will tell you this,

1014
00:58:36.480 --> 00:58:39.000
I do not judge her weaknesses or her frailties.

1015
00:58:40.960 --> 00:58:44.120
I tell her what she needs to hear when she needs to hear it in compassion.

1016
00:58:44.440 --> 00:58:46.800
I encourage her. I help her. I love her.

1017
00:58:47.720 --> 00:58:52.000
I'm her biggest cheerleader. I'm on her side. I want her to win.

1018
00:58:53.760 --> 00:58:58.520
Same thing with my husband. I'm not keeping a tally.

1019
00:58:58.720 --> 00:59:01.160
The Bible says in the book of love in Corinthians,

1020
00:59:01.160 --> 00:59:05.600
that love holds no record of wrongs, no record of mistakes.

1021
00:59:05.880 --> 00:59:08.560
I'm not going to have a little journal somewhere where I'm writing down all the

1022
00:59:08.560 --> 00:59:12.160
things that David still needs to work on, or I'm his best friend.

1023
00:59:12.720 --> 00:59:16.760
I'm on his side. I want him to win. I want what's best for him.

1024
00:59:17.880 --> 00:59:21.760
I tell him like it is because I feel like a good friend tells you like it is.

1025
00:59:21.920 --> 00:59:25.040
Look, you can't be my friend. If you're going to sugarcoat things,

1026
00:59:25.040 --> 00:59:26.760
I want you to tell me like it is.

1027
00:59:26.920 --> 00:59:31.240
The book of Proverbs says that faithful are the wounds of a friend.

1028
00:59:33.440 --> 00:59:36.080
Yeah. Your friend might wound you a little bit with what they're telling you

1029
00:59:36.080 --> 00:59:38.400
that you need to hear, but that's faithfulness.

1030
00:59:39.040 --> 00:59:41.040
Cause they don't want you to fall off the cliff.

1031
00:59:41.280 --> 00:59:44.800
A friend will grab you by the back of your shirt before you fall off the side of

1032
00:59:45.120 --> 00:59:45.960
the cliff.

1033
00:59:51.640 --> 00:59:56.640
A friend will come to your house and they will physically put you in the

1034
00:59:56.640 --> 00:59:59.480
trunk of their car. If you're about to marry the wrong person.

1035
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:09.600
person.

1036
01:00:09.600 --> 01:00:11.040
You guys, I've done that before.

1037
01:00:11.040 --> 01:00:13.720
I've done that before.

1038
01:00:13.720 --> 01:00:19.360
My sweet friends, I used to have this little tribe of women in Columbus that used to meet

1039
01:00:19.360 --> 01:00:20.360
at my house.

1040
01:00:20.360 --> 01:00:23.920
We called ourselves the Wow Women, and they used to meet at our house, little ministry

1041
01:00:23.920 --> 01:00:25.500
that I had going on.

1042
01:00:25.500 --> 01:00:29.800
And one of the young women, and you know, even back then, you guys, all the people that

1043
01:00:29.800 --> 01:00:32.080
were connected to me just would get married.

1044
01:00:32.080 --> 01:00:36.520
It's just something I've always carried.

1045
01:00:36.520 --> 01:00:42.000
And this girl, she started dating the wrong guy, and she was going to get married to him.

1046
01:00:42.000 --> 01:00:50.480
And we physically, all of us Wow Sisters, we went to her apartment and had an intervention.

1047
01:00:50.480 --> 01:00:54.840
We went to her apartment and physically took her with us.

1048
01:00:54.840 --> 01:01:01.360
That's what a friend will do for you.

1049
01:01:01.360 --> 01:01:05.200
Some of you have acquaintances, you have associates.

1050
01:01:05.200 --> 01:01:06.200
You need friends.

1051
01:01:06.200 --> 01:01:11.280
So Father God, we just thank you, Lord, that not only are you our friend, but we are your

1052
01:01:11.280 --> 01:01:12.280
friend.

1053
01:01:12.280 --> 01:01:16.200
And right now, today, we are going to start to see you through the lens of a friend, of

1054
01:01:16.200 --> 01:01:20.440
a good friend, a compassionate friend, a friend that wants the best for us, a friend that's

1055
01:01:20.440 --> 01:01:25.520
rooting us on, that's cheering us on, a friend that's also supernaturally able to help us

1056
01:01:25.520 --> 01:01:27.040
in our time of need.

1057
01:01:27.040 --> 01:01:28.640
Lord, we see you as our friend.

1058
01:01:28.640 --> 01:01:30.520
We thank you that you are our friend.

1059
01:01:30.520 --> 01:01:33.920
We thank you that you called us friends and that you want to be our friend.

1060
01:01:33.920 --> 01:01:39.320
And we ask that you would take us into that place of intimacy, that we would see you as

1061
01:01:39.320 --> 01:01:44.760
that lion, that golden retriever that David had in that dream, that we would experience

1062
01:01:44.760 --> 01:01:48.360
that feeling of your love and your compassion for us.

1063
01:01:48.360 --> 01:01:52.000
And not only that, Lord, I pray that who you are to us, you would be through us, that

1064
01:01:52.000 --> 01:01:56.080
we would become good friends to each other, that we would be good friends, Lord, that

1065
01:01:56.080 --> 01:02:01.000
we would attract good human friends and that we would be good human friends, that we would

1066
01:02:01.000 --> 01:02:04.400
tell people what they need to hear in love.

1067
01:02:04.400 --> 01:02:08.640
We speak the truth and love to people, that we would be there for them, that we would

1068
01:02:08.640 --> 01:02:13.160
not just give advice, but we would help walk out that advice with people, that we would

1069
01:02:13.160 --> 01:02:15.480
do life with people.

1070
01:02:15.480 --> 01:02:20.160
Not everyone, we can't be that type of friend with every single person.

1071
01:02:20.160 --> 01:02:25.760
We can be loving, we can be brothers and sisters, but you do have friends for us at that level.

1072
01:02:25.760 --> 01:02:31.400
And if we don't have them right now, I pray that we would attract them in this season.

1073
01:02:31.400 --> 01:02:32.400
Let it be done.

1074
01:02:32.400 --> 01:02:33.400
Let it be so.

1075
01:02:33.400 --> 01:02:34.400
In Jesus name.

1076
01:02:34.400 --> 01:02:35.400
Amen.

1077
01:02:35.400 --> 01:02:36.400
Love y'all.

1078
01:02:36.400 --> 01:02:36.400