Welcome to Supernatural Saturday.
If you're new here, welcome.
We have so many new people in our community and so we want to welcome you.
If this is your absolute first Supernatural Saturday, can you raise your hand?
We would love to see who is here for the very first time, very, very first time, Supernatural
Saturday.
Anybody, anybody, anybody at all?
Nobody?
Really?
All right, well, welcome back to all of you guys.
And so since there's no new people here, I won't explain what Supernatural Saturday is
because you already know what it is.
So let's look to the Lord together, Father God, we're so grateful that you have brought
us here together.
There's 118 of us on the call right this second and you brought us all into this divine moment
together and you have a word for us, a word of encouragement, maybe a word of courage,
a word of direction, a word of instruction, a word of hope, and we just thank you for
it.
We know that you're always helping us regardless of whether we feel helped or not, that behind
the scenes, and a lot of times not even behind the scenes, it's just out of our eyesight
because we're looking a different direction oftentimes, but you're helping us, you're
doing things.
We're attributing maybe human effort to some of the things that are happening, but it is
you, Lord, always.
All good and perfect things are coming from you.
And so we're so thankful for that.
We look to you together this morning and we ask you to have your way in Jesus' name.
Amen.
All right, so fun story to start off Supernatural Saturday today, David and I try to take a
morning walk.
We don't always do it, but we do it, let's say 50% of the time.
And so we live in the country, sort of.
We live just a few miles from the concrete jungle.
There's grocery stores, just a couple of miles up the street, but when we're out here
on our property, it feels like we're in the country and trust me, there's a lot of critters
out here.
And so it's not hard to feel like you're in the country out here.
When I go outside at night because I left something in my car, I got the fear of God
in me because I have no idea what's out there.
Last night, something very big was running across the roof of my house and I don't know
what it was, but it was like midnight and something was out there doing the thing, doing
the thing.
So yesterday a rattlesnake left the earth because it came across my husband's path on
my porch and it's no longer with us.
Rest in peace.
All right.
But on our walk, on our walk the other day, a couple of days ago, something happened and
Holy Spirit really spoke to me.
So David and I were walking on this country road that we live on and we're out doing our
thing and then on the way back, David says, Oh look, there's a snail.
And I looked down and almost across the country road, he had about, he had more than halfway,
he had more than halfway come across, but he was doing his best very slowly, very methodically.
There was a snail trying to cross the road.
The problem is, is that now he was in exactly the place where he was going to get ran over.
And the trucks and the cars that come down this road, I tell you, they, they're like
bats out of hell.
They come, they come roaring through there and he's just a poor little snail right there.
And so I said, David, I was like, give your friend a lift.
So he picked him up and remember this snail had already gone three quarters of the way,
but he had a long way to go and who knows how long he had been going for because he
was going very, very slowly.
And so David picked him up and he put him on the other side of the road to where the
snail was headed.
He put him on the other side of the road and safely in the, you know, in the brush, in
the side, in the berm.
And when that happened, I just heard Holy Spirit, and I heard Holy Spirit give this
word.
And I just want to, just want to talk to you guys for a second about this, because God
wants you to know that that is what he's doing for his people right now.
Come on.
What happened with David and that snail, that is exactly what he's doing for his people.
That's what I felt in my spirit.
That's what I'm doing for my people right now.
Some of my people have been trying their best to move forward.
They've been inching along.
Okay.
So grab ahold of this word if it's for you.
We're going to start Supernatural Saturday out with this word.
You've been healing, you've been obeying, you've been growing.
Some of you just been surviving, but you're trying your best.
You're vulnerable.
You're out here like a sitting duck doing it.
God wants you to know supernatural wind is at your back.
Supernatural help is here and not because you can't do it.
I mean, you're, you're trying, you're inching along, you're a lot further along than you
were last year or three years ago or five years ago.
He's not helping you because you fail or you're lazy or he's disappointed in you.
There are seasons where heaven steps in and helps carry us through, right now.
Could that snail have made it?
Yes.
Could he have been crushed?
Absolutely.
Do I know what was going to happen?
No.
And it doesn't matter because the outcome was that he got supernatural help.
But what struck me the most about the whole thing was that the snail wasn't sitting still.
He was already moving.
Yes, slowly for sure, but he was moving and I felt like God said, tell my people that
I see their movement.
This was in my spirit.
Okay.
God's not speaking to me, but this was kind of the gist of what I was getting from this
entire scenario.
And there's a lot of us that feel behind in life.
We feel behind spiritually.
We feel behind financially, probably for sure.
There's a lot of stuff going on in the economy right now.
A lot of people getting laid off, different things happening, feel behind relationally
for sure.
But God wants you to know this morning that he honors your effort.
Come on, who's this for?
Raise your hand.
He honors your effort.
We live in this society that unless you're perfect, it doesn't count.
Unless you complete the task, it doesn't count.
There is no A for effort.
There's no A for effort.
It's about success.
It's about performance.
I want you to know the kingdom of heaven is not about performance.
That's why there's lots of scriptures in the Bible that say things like, when you're
weak, then I'm strong, or my strength is made perfect in your weakness.
Those that go forth weeping, bearing precious seed will come again rejoicing, carrying their
harvest with them.
What were you doing?
You're just weeping.
You're just throwing out seed, crying.
And now you have this big harvest.
Did you grow the food?
Did you grow the harvest?
Did you grow the fruit?
No, it's kind of a mystery, right?
Yeah, we make a little effort.
We plant the seed in the ground, but then the rest that happens is the supernatural
work of God, isn't it?
One plants, one waters.
God gives the increase.
You guys tracking with me?
But we also live in a culture where we feel like it's all up to us.
We've got to do it all.
And a lot of us don't feel like we can do it all.
And because of that, we feel like we're just going to be not successful in life.
That little snail set out on a journey.
I don't know if it set out on a journey that morning or, you know, in the middle of the
night.
I don't know.
But it had made it quite far, but it hadn't made it far enough.
And a lot of us set out on a journey when we said yes to Jesus, we set out on a journey.
And sometimes we feel like we haven't made a lot of progress.
We haven't gotten to where we want to go.
You can do it.
I had a young person tell me the other day that they just weren't where they wanted to
be in life.
And I'm sorry.
I just kind of chuckled a little bit to myself.
I didn't let them see me chuckling.
I just chuckled to myself, you know, because here they are like in their mid-twenties saying,
you know, this is I'm not living my dream.
That's what the exact words were.
I'm not living my dream.
I'm like, oh, Lord Jesus, oh, Lord Jesus, there's a fire.
Help us, Lord.
But I know that I felt that way when I was a young person, too.
And you want to know why?
Because we live in a society that puts so much pressure on these young people to have
achieved, even at a young age, you guys, even at a young age.
I'm just going to tell you, those of us that grew up in the 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, it's a
different world.
Now, these kids, they expect to be millionaires
by the time they're 25 years old.
They expect to have built businesses.
They expect to have gotten all these degrees
and all these letters after their names.
And they expect to start their careers at the top,
not the bottom, not the mailroom working up.
That's just not what, that's not the message
that's sent out there anymore.
They have social media.
They have all these messages coming at them,
telling them how successful their peers are.
And it makes them feel like losers.
We didn't have that.
You might've had someone in your class
that had a higher grade point average than you.
You might've had someone on your team
that was more applauded than you were in sports,
but you definitely didn't have this.
We didn't have that, that sense of you're failing
before you've even started.
But that's the world that we live in now.
And people are going to have to, including us,
not just the young people, but including us,
we've got to opt out of that.
This performance-driven society that is unrealistic
about what we should have attained by now.
I was just talking to another young person
in their 20s the other day,
and they were telling me that they're in their late 20s
and all of their friends are married.
And this really reminded me,
I just want to talk about this for a second.
This really reminded me of one of my former students.
One of my former students, one of my former clients,
just like you, she was in this program early on
when I first started out.
She was probably one of the core group
of the first 150 people that came through this program
back in 2020, 2021.
And she was in her early 30s and she was not married yet
and she felt like a complete failure.
But you guys, she had become a nurse practitioner.
She had a practice, she had gone back.
She was a nurse first and she'd gone back
and become a nurse practitioner.
Now she was working towards some kind of doctorate.
I don't remember all the details of her education
and her career, but she was very successful.
And so on a coaching call, her and I were talking
and she was just bemoaning how much of a failure
she was and how all of her friends
from high school were married.
And so that reminded me of this conversation
I just had last week with this other young person
who's like all the kids I grew up with,
all of my friends from college, everyone's married.
And she went to, she didn't go to a Christian college,
but she was part of like a Christian sorority, right?
This other girl.
And so everyone married.
So back to the first story of the client from 2021
who is now married and has babies and all the things.
But she had never had a serious boyfriend.
She felt very behind in this area.
And so I said to her on the coaching call, I said,
hey, I said, let me ask you a question.
Where do you come from?
She comes from some podunk town in Oklahoma.
No offense to all you Okies, I'm sure it's great.
But she came from a little teeny tiny town in Oklahoma.
And I said, oh, so all your girlfriends
from high school are married, huh?
And she was like, yeah.
I was like, what else is there to do in your town
besides giving birth and having kids?
What else is there to do in your town besides get married?
And she's like, nothing.
And I said, okay, great.
I said, did any of them go off to college like you
and become a fricking doctor?
She's like, no.
Oh, okay.
Any of them have a doctorate?
No, no, no.
I was like, all right.
Well, it seems to me that you chose
a different path, my friend.
And that doesn't mean that you can't have what they have.
You're just having it on a different timeline.
You're not behind.
You did something different with your life.
Yes, these girls, they got married right out of high school
and they had babies and family, and that's amazing.
But you chose something else.
You did something else.
And so this other young person
that I was talking to last week, same thing.
Same thing.
All of your friends from your little Christian sorority,
they all got married and they're all having babies
and you feel like you can't relate to them
and you don't fit in and you're behind,
but you also did something different with your life.
She's a very successful young woman.
You guys, we can't compare ourselves to each other.
There is no timeline.
There's no timeline.
So we feel behind.
So I don't know when that snail started moving,
but it wasn't quite there yet.
But we have to start talking about how God honors movement.
He doesn't honor perfection.
It's not about perfection.
God's not looking for perfection from you.
He's looking for effort.
You get an A for effort, friends.
In God's grading scale, you get an A for effort.
In fact, he's expecting you to fail
so that he can show himself to be strong.
He's expecting failure to be part of your process.
I know people look at me, I'm a successful entrepreneur
in this area and other areas.
You know, I've been building businesses since 2008.
And that doesn't count the businesses
that I had as a young person.
When I charged people to come into my yard to see the lake,
and when I shoveled people's driveways
when everyone else was playing in the snow,
and when I sold erasers and pencils door to door
because my grandpa sent me a big box of them
from Empire Pencil Company, and I decided,
you know what, I don't need all these pencils and erasers.
Let me just see who else wants to buy them.
All right, so bottom line is,
is you see this now, but you don't see all the failures.
You don't see all the times I was up
till three, four o'clock in the morning.
God was honoring my effort.
I was trying.
I loved it.
I still love it.
Fact out, I'm building something new right now
for you guys, and you're gonna love it.
You're gonna love it, you're gonna love it.
What would you do if you could just go to a place?
I just gotta talk about it now.
What would you do if you go to an app on your phone, okay,
and you could just look at Jackie's list of singles,
people that have been vetted out,
people that are super healthy, and then you could apply,
because I'm doing the single spotlights again, as you know,
but you could apply to be introduced to that person,
and or you could recommend someone else
be introduced to that person, community-based matchmaking.
Well, guess what?
That's about to be in your little hat, little hand.
So just over here, building things,
because I like to do it, but do I do it perfectly?
No.
Have I had lots of failure along the road
of the last 20-something years?
A thousand percent, but it's in those times of failure
that God is the wind beneath my wings.
God's the one that helps me.
You know, when I think, oh, this is just junk,
even like when I was writing my very first book,
The Heart Work, I would go to bed every single night
after writing all day long, and I'd be like,
that's just crap.
What I just wrote, bleh.
And I would also feel like I didn't know
what to write next.
I'd have writer's block.
I would just write all day, and then I'd have writer's block,
and then I'd go to bed, and I would just pray
before I go to bed, and I'd say, Lord,
I know you want me to write this book.
I know you want me to take this workshop
that I've been teaching for so long,
and all the stuff that's in my heart
that you've taught me about my own life
and about my own heart.
I know you want me to put it in a book,
and I know you want me to get it to people,
but I just can't do it.
I'm trying, but I'm blocked,
and I don't know what happens next in the book.
And I would go to bed, and guess what?
I would wake up with a hand coming down
and moving my little snail butt
to the other side of the road.
I would wake up,
with what needed to happen next, right?
I was trying, but I was also asking for help.
So a lot of times we just put our head down,
and we just start plowing forward.
And yeah, I mean, that snail was gonna make it
if it didn't get crushed, that's great,
but also, it was gonna take a lot longer than it needed to.
I'm just letting you guys, I just want this to hit.
I'm just letting it hit a little bit.
So whatever that road is representing to you,
whatever road that you're on right now,
whatever you're trying to get across right now,
whatever pressure you're under,
whatever noise you have going on in your head,
some of you may be really exhausted with the process.
I know there's been a lot of spiritual warfare.
I've been experiencing a lot of spiritual warfare.
I don't know if I'm just at this age
where everything's just breaking,
but I will tell you one thing,
is that I just said this to David last night
before we went to sleep.
I said, you know, I really need God to heal my back.
My back's out again, by the way, friends.
And not because I did anything,
except just living a normal life over here.
Okay?
I'm not doing Romanian deadlifts.
I'm not doing anything strenuous.
being a normal 51 year old woman walking around in my everyday life and my back
is messed up again and you guys know that my gallbladder crashed out last
year at this time and then I had this other thing that I didn't tell you guys
about that happened and this other thing that happened and now the back thing
happened and last night this was what was in my spirit and I'm just gonna say
it because I think some of you were there too I said babe it just feels like
it's one thing after another
anybody else
sounds like it's one thing after another the heck
and this is what I said to him I said it just feels like it's one thing after
another I said as soon as one thing ends another one begins and I said and I am
declaring right now that this is gonna be true but in the positive it's just
gonna be one good thing after another one good thing after another one good
thing after another one good thing after another and then I went to sleep and I
just want to speak that and release that over you as well it's just gonna be one
good thing after another that hand that came down and lifted that snail up off
that hard road that it had been trying to navigate doing its best to navigate
and put it on the other side I just declare that the hand of God just comes
and plucks us up out of our circumstance we haven't been we haven't been lazy we
haven't been effortless we've been doing our best we've been trying our best
we've been doing everything that we know how to do in these areas of our
lives and just takes us and puts us on the other side just puts us on the other
side that we just wake up on the other side amen go to bed one way and wake up
another way I can tell you guys that I just recently got healed I had a
situation that was happening it's kind of personal I don't really want to share
it but I will tell you that it was something that I could check and see
whether or not it was kind of still there sort of situation and my husband
you know and I had been dealing with it for a while I've been dealing with it
for a couple months and once again it was part of that one thing after another
scenario and it was really kind of messing with my head and my husband
prayed for me and I went to bed and I woke up and literally it was it was over
I don't really know that that's really happened to me before it's not that I
haven't had any kind of physical healing because I have for sure but I don't know
that kind of suddenly switch of being on the long hard road and then waking up in
a different place come on some of us have been trying to
carry a lot on our own some of you have a supernatural assignment and you've
been trying to carry it with your natural strength it's not gonna work I
know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I'm doing what God called me to do and if I
tried to do what I'm doing right now friends in my own strength it would
crush me I have to lean into God every single day I met with obstacles that
only God can circumvent in this company in this business in this organization in
this movement I had to learn the hard way early on I try to take a lot of
stuff on myself I try to be the hero of you guys the stories early on when there
was only 150 200 of you I tried to be there I tried to answer all the DMS I
tried to take all the one-on-one calls myself I didn't have any other coaches I
tried to do it I want to make sure no one felt left out I wanted to make sure
everyone was included I wanted to make sure everyone got a love story but you
know what it's not on me this is God's movement it's not my movement and for a
minute I forgot that at the beginning and some of you forgot that about your
life the moment that you accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior this ceased to be
your life and now it's Jesus living through you
you're no longer your own you've been bought with a price but that price
depicts ownership and so if you belong to God and so do your problems so do
your cares so do your obstacles it's not I that live but Christ that lives within
it's not I that live but Christ that lives within me is it not true which
means that your life is a divine assignment now that you've received
Christ that your
are not just here on purpose but you're here with a purpose and that purpose is
not something that you can accomplish in your own strength.
We forget that. I forget it every single day.
I have to remind myself every single day because the flesh, you guys, it wants to
do its own thing. I'm not talking about sin or debauchery.
The flesh just wants to be hyper independent. The flesh is
trying to do it itself.
That snail wasn't expecting divine intervention but it got it.
And God's looking at us. He's seeing how hard we're trying.
He wants to help us. Do you want to know why? Because he's a good friend. So when I
woke up this morning, I already knew I was going to talk about
the snail but when I woke up this morning, you know what song was playing
in my head?
You've got a friend in me. You've got a friend in me. You know that one?
When the road looks rough ahead and you're miles and miles from your nice
warm bed. Just remember what your old pal said.
You've got a friend in me. And God was like, I want to be your friend.
He's like, I'm your friend. I was like, what?
He's like, yeah, I want to be your friend, Jackie.
Tell them I want to be their friend. I'm their friend. David was a good friend
of that snail. He gave him a lift. He gave him a helping hand, you know?
You guys, I'm the parent of three amazing adults and when they were
younger and they needed a lot of parenting,
I parented them. I wasn't the parent that tried to be the friend
when those formative years needed discipline
and needed correction and needed consistency and needed stability and
structure. I mean, I've always been the fun mom.
I'm a fun person. I have a fun personality.
But I had my mom hat on for sure. They knew that I was mom.
But they're adults now. And guess what? They're some of my best friends.
My three children are some of my best friends. I was talking to my daughter
that doesn't live here. She's going to be here for her brother's
wedding. I was talking to her last night until late in the night,
goofing off, laughing, having fun. Obviously, I'm older so I'm wiser.
And so they do still lean into me as mother.
Of course they do. But they also know that they can share anything and
everything with me. I'm not judging them. I'm not belittling
them. I'm their friend. And you guys, that's
the difference between a friend and a parent. Parents are great. We need
them. And Father God is Father God. He is.
He's giving you his identity. He's giving you your DNA.
He's helping you. He's making a way for you. He's set up an
inheritance for you. He's doing what fathers do.
But he's also your friend. And we have that friend through Jesus Christ.
It says that he's a friend that sticks closer than a brother.
We have a friend.
And friends, they understand. They're compassionate. They're empathetic
to our struggles.
The Bible talks so much about how it's better to go together than to go alone.
Because if one of you falls, the other one can help the other one up,
right? When one can't see clearly, the other one can.
There's so many things.
And we need human friends. A lot of you need more community than you have. You
need more friends than you have, for sure.
You need to make yourself vulnerable and available to friendship.
You do. You haven't had a good friend in a long time.
But we also need to remember
that God's our friend.
He doesn't want to just be a disciplinarian in your mind.
Because God's correction isn't even what you think it means.
The actual Hebrew and Greek words that have anything to do with discipline
are not about corporal punishment, you guys. They're not about punishment at all.
They're about course correction. It's about God helping you to get on the
right track. Do you hear me?
And a lot of people have, they relate to God as frightened children.
They only see God as authority and correction and rules and discipline.
Some of you even see God as disappointment.
You've been trying to follow all the rules, but they haven't worked out for you.
Some of you still got your V cards in here.
We're not going to ask you to raise your hand, but, you know, you're a 40-year-old plus virgin
because you've been trying to follow the rules and, you know, I honor that.
I appreciate that, but, you know, it's got you kind of mad now.
You don't have to identify yourself.
I've talked to enough of you to know that there's plenty of people that are angry that
they did everything right, and here they are still single.
Trust me.
So then maybe you see God through the viewfinder of, you know, rules and disappointment.
But now that we're grown up, you guys, because what happens in healthy parenting, and some
of you know it and some of you don't yet, but when your children grow up, you don't
stop being their parent, but the relationship does deepen into a friendship.
And God wants us, the Bible says that he calls us his friends.
He doesn't want servants.
He wants friends.
That is the higher level.
There are people that are going to live this life, this entire life as a servant of God,
and they're never going to be a friend.
They're not going to be a friend.
They're just going to be a servant.
And what do servants do?
They just do what they're told.
They just wait to do what they're told, and they just follow rules.
That's what they do.
They try not to break rules.
They try not to get in trouble.
They do what they do because of obedience, because of duty, not because of love.
Friends do what they do because of love.
Servants do what they do because of a shared mission and a common goal, because of passion
and compassion.
God wants friends.
He wants friends to share his secrets with.
He said, I share my secrets with you because you're my friends.
Friends share secrets.
They keep each other's secrets.
I don't mean that in a weird or deceptive way.
I mean that in an inclusive and exclusive way.
Friends laugh together.
They talk together.
They enjoy each other.
They call each other for wisdom when they get stuck.
They trust each other.
They share life together.
That's what God wants with us.
Do you guys want to be God's friend?
He doesn't want robotic religion.
You guys, no robotic religion.
No fearful performance.
Friendship.
John 15, 15, this is Jesus talking.
I no longer call you servants.
I have called you friends.
That changes everything, right?
Because when we see God as a disciplinarian, when we see him as just authority and just
whatever it is that you think of when you think of father, you can see every delay like
a punishment of some sort.
All hardship feels like rejection from him.
That causes a lot of shame, but friendship changes that lens, doesn't it?
Think about it.
Okay.
Under that lens of, you know, God is omnipotent and he's omniscient and, you know, you're
stuck because you're not good enough yet and he's put you in the waiting room because you're
not ready.
You're not mature enough yet.
You know, he's disappointed in you.
You messed up and now you're back at the starting line again.
No, no, no, no, no, no.
You change the lens.
You put a friend lens on it.
Think of the best friend that you've ever had.
Think of the best friend that you've ever had that was really great.
Not the one that stabbed you in the back like Judas.
Okay.
Don't think of that friend.
Friendships are for reasons and seasons and treasons, y'all.
You need to know that.
Human relationships, that is.
But think of the bestest friend that you ever had that understood you, that clapped
when you win.
When you win, they were clapping, they were cheering you on.
They were your biggest cheerleader, your best friend.
Think of that person.
Okay.
Now put that lens on God.
Now what happens?
Correction becomes protection, doesn't it?
We get guided with love.
Any kind of conviction that you might feel is not deprivation.
It becomes closeness.
It becomes exclusivity.
Prayer turns into just a conversation, doesn't it?
You guys, I talk to God all day long, just so you know.
I'm sure people think I'm crazy because I have like a nonstop dialogue, which seems
like it's with myself because no one else can see God, including me.
me, but I can hear him real well.
We're just chatting all day long.
Anybody have such a good friend that you just get on the phone with them and you
just chat, chat, chat for hours,
chat it up. My mom had a friend like that.
I remember one time we were in a hotel room together because we were traveling
someplace and she was on the phone with her best friend and they were just
hooping and hollering and chatting and chatting and chatting and chatting.
And I was trying to go to sleep and I was 19 years old
and I had just reconnected with my mom and went on this trip with her,
which probably wasn't the best idea in the world. But I was just like, Hey,
I want to go to sleep. And she's, she snapped at me. She was like,
I'm talking to my friend. I'm like, okay.
She's talking to her friend.
Got to fill her friend in and all the details of the day. Guys,
why don't you show up? Let God know. You're like, he already knows.
Well, tell him again.
David loves to tell me about all the details of his day,
all the boring details of his day in,
in technology world.
Hold on y'all. We got a crazy break in here.
All right. And I,
and I pretend to be interested because I'm a good friend.
I'm his best friend. He's my best friend.
Besides Jesus, of course, you guys know.
So I was just chatting with my mom and I was like,
you guys know. So you guys, we need it.
God is helping us right now. I know we can't see it.
I know maybe some of us don't even believe it,
but I believe that we are in a season of supernatural assistance.
If you believe it, receive it. That snail,
that snail spoke to me, you guys.
I knew that God was showing me something that was happening in the spirit realm,
acceleration, favor, strength, provision, divine,
divine inner, you know, interceptions. We just came along.
Divine intervention.
Yes.
Things that feel impossible or feel like they're going to take a lot longer.
Remember that word that God gave me not that long ago for all of us.
It's going to be easier than you think.
And it's going to happen faster than you than you've planned.
Remember that one? That's part of this.
You guys, all of this are just like puzzle pieces. They all go together.
You guys remember that word that I had the beginning of last year or like March
of last year, full circle. Remember the full circle.
I got another testimony in my inbox, in my email.
One of my students from a couple of years ago, she got success in this program.
She got engaged. And during the engagement,
they started having some serious family issues.
She started realizing that this man was not going to leave and cleave.
He's not going to leave and cleave. He was very
enmeshed with his family and some very toxic behaviors,
toxic interference, toxic stuff going on. And, you know,
she was either going to come into that situation and she was just going to put up
with it for the rest of her life. Or, you know,
she was just going to have to go her own way. This,
this man did not have his own mind. He just did whatever his family told him to do.
And she didn't see that during the dating process,
but during the engagement process, she saw it. She saw it really well.
He was enmeshed. Gentlemen, you are to leave and cleave. When you get married,
you are to leave mommy and daddy and you are to cleave to your wife.
So the Bible says, and that wasn't going to happen here.
And so she made the hard decision to call off the engagement.
And I was with her through that process. I was with her through, you know,
dating and through, you know, dating this guy, meeting this guy,
dating this guy, and then eventually getting engaged to this guy.
And he was not a bad guy. He's not a bad guy.
Some people are just not ready for marriage and you can't make them ready.
They're not ready. And this guy was not ready. And so she,
you know, she counseled and coached with me about the situation and,
and you know, the details, you know,
I don't need to get into them with you guys, but it was very, very,
very apparent that this was not going to work out.
And so she made the hard decision to move on and she,
you know, she, you know,
and.
She was going to just heal for a little while.
She was just going to, you know, do her own thing for a little while.
This was probably late 23, early 24.
I mean, guess what?
She met a new guy and she wasn't in the program anymore.
So she wasn't in constant connection with us, but she met this guy and she didn't
even know about the word that I released over this entire community, which she is
part of in the spirit, which was full circle.
And guess what?
She reconnected.
Here's the story.
You guys are going to love this.
So when she was younger, he went to a church and this guy that she's married
to now, he went to that church as well.
And they were both part of, you know, certain ministries at this church.
And he was going to ask her out.
She knew that he liked her and he was going to, you know, ask her if she wanted
to date him, but at that very same time, her dad died.
So right before this was about to happen, her dad got sick and passed away.
And because that happened, it kind of put her life topsy turvy.
And eventually she ended up stopped going to that church.
You know, a lot of, a lot of family stuff was going on, a lot of different
things were happening and she just kind of lost contact and just her life took
her a different direction when dad passed away.
So lost track of each other.
So she goes through our program.
She gets her heart to where it needs to be.
She's dating with a clear lens.
She meets a good guy.
He's got her non-negotiables, but then when it gets to the point of marrying him,
she realizes he's not ready for marriage.
He's got some stuff to work on that he refuses to work on.
Doesn't want to.
Doesn't think there's anything wrong with the family dynamics.
So she's got to go her separate way.
He does, you know, she, she stops dating for a while.
Like she should, you know, she, she regroups and then he comes across the sky.
This guy and her cross paths again.
Here's the full circle word in 25.
They cross paths again.
They pick up right where they left off with, Hey, I really am attracted to you.
I really like you.
I want to date you.
They date, they get engaged.
They get married in October of 2025.
You guys, once again, these words that God is releasing over our community,
write them down, keep them in your journals.
They don't expire.
They're not expired.
The full circle word is still happening.
Daniel in our community did a full circle.
He married Jackie.
I mean, his wife's got an amazing name.
I mean, what more can you want?
He married Jackie.
What happened?
He dated a girl in this community.
He did his heart work.
He started figuring out what he needs and what he doesn't need.
They break up because they're not the right fit for each other.
He's coaching with me.
He was one of my private coaching clients.
And after that word that I gave him, after that word, I released full circle.
He said, God reminded him of this girl, Jackie, that he really liked that he
worked with back in the day.
And for whatever circumstances surrounding that season of both of their lives,
they never really, they both, they had a flirtation, they had an attraction, but
it never got off first base.
They never even went on one date.
He found her after that word that we released here, he found her on social
media, he reached out, she was single, he was single, they were long distance.
They started talking.
They started having phone calls.
He went to see her and the rest is history.
They fell madly in love and they're married now.
Come on, you guys.
But anyway, the girl that just contacted us, that she got married in October of
25, she said, I would not have been able to do that without this community.
She said, I didn't even realize how much I learned from you until I had to apply
it to these situations.
I didn't even realize how much God had deposited in me from these, these prayer
sessions, from the supernatural setters.
You guys, everything that you are getting right now is going to be utilized.
I promise you.
It's going to be utilized.
Some people even say weird things to me, like, it feels weird to me, but they're
like, Jackie, I was in this situation and then I heard your voice like Holy Spirit
in my head.
A lot of people be hearing my voice out there.
Holy Spirit be doing impressions.
Holy Spirit's like, yeah, I don't know if they're going to listen to me, but
they're going to listen to Jackie.
So I'm going to be Jackie right now.
You guys, I know that you might feel really small like that snail and you might
feel really tired.
I don't know if that snail was tired, but he looked tired.
His little snail face.
He looks like he's tired.
He's got a big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big, big,
he looked tired, his little snail face.
You might feel exposed like that snail.
You might feel like you've been trying your best not to get.
crushed by life like that snail, but heaven sees you.
Heaven sees you.
God is not standing far away from you just watching you and just waiting for you to do
what you're supposed to do, to be obedient.
He's not just standing there, you know, judging your performance.
He is the God who stops.
He is the God who leans down.
He is the God who gently carries us through to the other side, takes us out of dangerous
places and puts us in safe places.
Have you ever read Psalm 91?
Yes, he is El Roy.
He is the God who sees you.
He's the God that sees you.
I want you to put in the chat right now what area of your life you really need God to be
a friend to you in.
Come on.
Do you need a friend in your finances?
You need a friend at work?
Yes, it's your job.
You're like, oh, I can't do it.
Do you need a friend?
Do you just need a friend?
You just don't really have a friend that you can call?
Do you have a 2 a.m. friend, someone you can call in the middle of the night when you need
help?
You do.
God's your friend.
Do you need a friend in your love life?
We all know that we need friends in our love lives.
You need a friend in your love life.
That's why you're here.
You need a friend besides just me.
And you know what?
You have friends in each other, too.
Look around the room for those of you that have your cameras on.
Here's your friends.
You got friends here.
You guys, one of the things, if you didn't get a copy of my book, I'm going to do a book
contest today on Instagram.
So make sure that you go over there and you look.
I'm going to be giving away some stuff.
But grab a copy of the book and grab it on Amazon.
You can go to my website, JackieDorman.com.
You can go to the book page.
There's the link.
You can also go to Amazon and search my name in Modern Dating Sucks.
You can grab it.
But I talk in there about, you know, making room for each other.
I talk in that book about bringing back the village.
You guys, we are the village.
I talk in there.
Who's reading the book already and do you like it?
Put it in the chat.
I need to know.
I'm really proud of it.
I feel like it's so helpful.
It comes with an e-book, Karen.
For those of you who signed up for the book club, it comes with the electronic version
of the book.
Try to keep it low cost, the book club.
It is five weeks of coaching with me.
I am your coach in there.
You will be able to talk to me directly whether it's on the live Zooms once a week or whether
it's just posting in the group and asking me to respond.
There's an Ask a Coach tab in there.
There's an optional Facebook group for those of you that love Facebook's interface better
than the app.
The book club is on the Last Year Single app.
It is a private group on there.
You guys, you need to buy that book club if you're going to.
If you're a pre-sale buyer, you've got a $50 off coupon, so go use it.
It's in your email.
Look in your spam and your promotions filter if you can't find it.
For those of you that didn't buy it in pre-sale, it's $97.
It does not include a physical copy of the book, but it does include an e-book version
of the book.
All the worksheets and different things that are in the book, the actual paper copy of
the book, will be included in the workshop as well.
You'll be able to download those, so no worries there.
I'm excited about that.
I'm excited about bringing back the village.
I'm excited about helping people get clear.
I do believe that people are going to have a summer of love.
I do.
Will I be teaching some of those concepts?
For those of you that simply can't afford to be in the book club, yes, of course, I'll
be teaching some of those concepts in phase three.
For those of you that are in hard work here in the community, stay focused on your hard
work, but for those of you in phase two and three, we will definitely be incorporating
some of the elements of this new book into your programs, and hard work people will soon
be in phase two and three.
You guys, I believe in what we're doing here.
Look at all the places that you need a friend.
Yes, if you're in the hard work, you can join the book club.
I got permission from Coach Bethany for the hard work students to be in the book club.
You do need to stay on a dating sabbatical, though.
Don't just think because you're in the book club, you're going to run off and start dating
somebody.
You need to do your heart work.
All right.
So here's some prophetic declarations that we're going to do together that I've written
down here.
You guys ready?
I will not confuse my slow seasons with abandoned seasons.
Things have been hard.
They've been going kind of slow, but I'm not abandoned.
I'm not abandoned.
God sees my movement.
That's your declaration.
Come on.
God sees my movement.
He sees how hard I've been trying.
I do not have to cross every hard road alone.
I do not have to cross every road alone.
Come on.
This is your, this is your declaration right now.
Say it out loud wherever you are.
I do not have to cross every road alone.
Yeah, Gwen's like, pick me up, Lord.
Definitely write your own declarations too.
These are the ones I have.
Heaven is helping me.
God is not distant from me.
God wants friendship with me.
Make that a declaration.
God wants to be my friend.
I will not be crushed by life.
Supernatural help is carrying me safely through.
I will receive the people, help, wisdom, and grace God sends.
A little snail didn't even know what happened to him.
He had no idea that some kind human was watching him.
He was just in a survival instinct.
You guys, that's what all of nature is in right now because of the curse.
It's in a survival instinct.
That's why animals are so on guard against humans.
Everything's in a survival instinct because of the curse.
You know, the scripture that says that all of creation is groaning and travailing, waiting
for the revealing of the sons and daughters of God.
That's why everything dies still, but that's going to end, you guys.
The only reason that we're not under the curse is because we've come into the finished
work of the cross.
In heaven, did you guys know that dangerous animals are just going to be your friends?
I see these videos of these crazy people like kissing lions and stuff, and I'm like, oh,
dear God.
Wrestling around with a bengal, they're like, oh, but he's super friendly.
He's my friend Brad.
Is he?
Is he your friend, Brad?
I'm not sure about that, Brad the bengal.
But in heaven, it will be like that.
You guys know, David Dorman had a dream, and he had a dream.
Oh, thank you, Holy Spirit, for reminding me of this.
David had a dream, and in his dream, he was with a lion.
Anyone seen the Chronicles of Narnia or read the books?
Aslan?
Now, it wasn't Aslan in the dream, but it was a big lion like that, and you guys know
the Bible talks about Jesus as the lion of the tribe of Judah, right?
In this dream, David was kind of scared of this big lion, but the big lion came up and
started licking him like a golden retriever, and then he started playing with him like
a dog would.
It was just a big golden retriever, this big lion, and this lion loved him, and this lion
just wanted to, you know, wrestle around with him and have fun with him and cuddle him and,
you know.
And when he woke up, God said to him, I just want to be your friend, I just want to be
your friend.
Come on, you guys, I want you to tell God today, I want to be your friend, too.
I know you're the one who stops for me, I know you're the one that leans down, I know
you're the one that gently...
It carries me to the dangerous places.
I know that you love me. I received your love and your help.
I've not been abandoned. You're proud of me. I haven't given up.
Guys, God doesn't judge your progress.
The only thing that gets looked at is your heart. You know that, right?
It's all about the heart. God looks at the heart.
God sees the heart. People judge our progress.
People judge our perfection. People judge our performance.
Religion judges all that stuff too. I know people who, you know,
I could never figure this out because remember you guys,
I did not meet Jesus until I was in my twenties.
But when I was in my twenties,
I became the outreach director of my church and I drove a church van and I
would drive around and I would, you know,
invite people to church and I would do all kinds of work with the homeless and
trafficked women and all kinds of different things.
This is what my twenties looked like, 22 and on.
And I never could figure out why I would say to people, Hey, come on,
come to church. And they'd say, Oh no, I can't come to church.
I don't have anything to wear.
Y'all people used to say this to me every single day.
And then I realized that these people were raised in religion.
They were raised at churches, Baptist churches, Pentecostal churches,
Catholic churches where you had to have church clothes.
You couldn't just come to church as you are. You had to come, you know,
for some of these people, you had to come dress like as a fashion show.
You had to come dress like you dress to the nines, man. And ladies,
you had to wear a dress. You couldn't be wearing no slacks. I mean,
hell's going to open up and swallow you up. You coming in the pants,
church pants on.
And that's why I'm so glad that non-denominational churches in all churches
literally for the most part, I've gotten rid of that.
People come in shorts and t-shirts. People come in halter tops.
People come in swimwear. I've seen it all at church.
Honestly, it's like, Oh, you wore your bathing suit to church, huh?
You go, you put shorts over it. I'm glad you did that. But you know, but,
Oh, you're going to the pool afterwards. Yeah, that makes sense. I got you.
But I'm just glad that we've leveled the playing field here.
Right? Because the cross literally is a come as you are model.
It is a come as you are model.
God loves us.
And however, those people needed to meet God and get to God.
Religion was keeping them back because religion was saying, no,
you got to be perfect before you come here. You got to be dressed perfectly.
You got to be dressed right. You got to have it all together.
Why don't you go get your together? By the way,
I said for those of you that heard the it, that was you, not me.
Cause I didn't say it. I don't write me an email.
You got to get it together before you got to get good to get God.
You got to get right to get God. You got to get right.
And then you can have God. No, that's not the way it works.
And I want to tell you,
I'm a good friend and I have a lot of good friends that I've had all my life.
My best friend, her and I've been best friends for 30 years,
25 years. And I will tell you, no 30, 35 years.
And I will tell you this,
I do not judge her weaknesses or her frailties.
I tell her what she needs to hear when she needs to hear it in compassion.
I encourage her. I help her. I love her.
I'm her biggest cheerleader. I'm on her side. I want her to win.
Same thing with my husband. I'm not keeping a tally.
The Bible says in the book of love in Corinthians,
that love holds no record of wrongs, no record of mistakes.
I'm not going to have a little journal somewhere where I'm writing down all the
things that David still needs to work on, or I'm his best friend.
I'm on his side. I want him to win. I want what's best for him.
I tell him like it is because I feel like a good friend tells you like it is.
Look, you can't be my friend. If you're going to sugarcoat things,
I want you to tell me like it is.
The book of Proverbs says that faithful are the wounds of a friend.
Yeah. Your friend might wound you a little bit with what they're telling you
that you need to hear, but that's faithfulness.
Cause they don't want you to fall off the cliff.
A friend will grab you by the back of your shirt before you fall off the side of
the cliff.
A friend will come to your house and they will physically put you in the
trunk of their car. If you're about to marry the wrong person.
person.
You guys, I've done that before.
I've done that before.
My sweet friends, I used to have this little tribe of women in Columbus that used to meet
at my house.
We called ourselves the Wow Women, and they used to meet at our house, little ministry
that I had going on.
And one of the young women, and you know, even back then, you guys, all the people that
were connected to me just would get married.
It's just something I've always carried.
And this girl, she started dating the wrong guy, and she was going to get married to him.
And we physically, all of us Wow Sisters, we went to her apartment and had an intervention.
We went to her apartment and physically took her with us.
That's what a friend will do for you.
Some of you have acquaintances, you have associates.
You need friends.
So Father God, we just thank you, Lord, that not only are you our friend, but we are your
friend.
And right now, today, we are going to start to see you through the lens of a friend, of
a good friend, a compassionate friend, a friend that wants the best for us, a friend that's
rooting us on, that's cheering us on, a friend that's also supernaturally able to help us
in our time of need.
Lord, we see you as our friend.
We thank you that you are our friend.
We thank you that you called us friends and that you want to be our friend.
And we ask that you would take us into that place of intimacy, that we would see you as
that lion, that golden retriever that David had in that dream, that we would experience
that feeling of your love and your compassion for us.
And not only that, Lord, I pray that who you are to us, you would be through us, that
we would become good friends to each other, that we would be good friends, Lord, that
we would attract good human friends and that we would be good human friends, that we would
tell people what they need to hear in love.
We speak the truth and love to people, that we would be there for them, that we would
not just give advice, but we would help walk out that advice with people, that we would
do life with people.
Not everyone, we can't be that type of friend with every single person.
We can be loving, we can be brothers and sisters, but you do have friends for us at that level.
And if we don't have them right now, I pray that we would attract them in this season.
Let it be done.
Let it be so.
In Jesus name.
Amen.
Love y'all.