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Welcome, welcome, welcome to Office Hours.

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This is part of the Prosper Leader membership.

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It's just included.

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It's a time that I make myself available to work on what matters for you, for your business,

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right?

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We can go in a lot of directions.

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I've been in business more than three decades.

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I won't tell you how much more.

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It will make me older and older, but I have been in business for a very long time.

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And so whatever we want to talk about, if it's marketing, if it's strategy, if it's

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lead generation, if it's speaking, coaching, using technology, all of those things, okay?

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So I'm here to talk to you.

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Most of you that are listening live right now, and maybe those of you that will be listening

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to the replay afterwards, I know you tell me you can't make it, but you love listening

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to the replay.

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I'm glad that you're here even on the replay.

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Welcome.

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This 12th week started last week.

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We started the 12-week immersion called From Pressure to Partnership.

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I believe this is going to be one of the hugest shifts in your life, in your business, in

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your relationships.

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It's so strong.

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It may go on to even be a signature piece for me because the transformation is so great.

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So we had day two right before this call.

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So many of you, this is your second call.

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Thank you for sticking around for two hours, right?

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If you're listening to this office hours, I want you to know there's a foundation that's

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been laid.

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It started yesterday with the Power Hour, which I do every Wednesday at 8 a.m., where

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we really went into, we do a weekly promise and we pray and we get a biblical principle

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and we really went into Ephesians 3, 16 to 19.

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And it's very encouraging.

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And it's really a shift, a biblical shift on Wednesday.

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And then this morning, we went deeper in what that looks like in business to allow our external

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conditions to create our internal reality, to shape our internal reality.

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It's backwards.

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It's called an external locus of control.

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And people that have an external locus of control are, you know, just as far as like

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when I studied to be a therapist, did my master's work, an external locus of control.

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That's the highest rate of depression, suicide, anxiety, et cetera, et cetera.

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So because we're completely out of control because the external is always changing.

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So we really have no control.

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If we're basing it on the external, we have no control.

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And that's enormous pressure.

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So in the hour before this, we looked at a different way of doing it.

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Let's take that deeper into building your business.

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And then let's apply it to some of the questions that you've asked, because I think they're

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all tied together.

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So pressure based action, taking action based on pressure, which is based on fear, which

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is based on a desire to fix, to control, to change conditions.

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Pressure based action looks like reacting emotionally.

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It's like panic posting, right?

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Forcing outcomes.

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There's a lot of inconsistency.

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I go all at it and then I like disappear, right?

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I do lots of consuming and very little creating.

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I am making my decisions from a place of urgency, right?

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I'm comparing.

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There are a lot of comparison in the pressure model.

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I'm overthinking, I'm overworking, I'm not resting.

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Not in my mind, not in my body, I'm not resting.

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So we already talked about awareness is the first step to transformation.

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So the first thing is to get awareness.

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Am I operating from fear or faith?

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Am I operating from pressure, which we said is a red light indicator when you feel pressure

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that you're allowing outward conditions, your bank account, your number of clients, your

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client load.

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whatever, to determine your inner peace.

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And that translates, the red light is I feel pressure.

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I feel anxious, I'm in my sympathetic nervous system.

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Partnership, vine, branch, union,

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understanding Christ in me, the hope of glory,

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understanding I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit.

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Partnership action looks like giving my mornings to God.

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And being still and knowing that he is God.

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It looks like listening.

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It looks like discernment.

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It looks like being led by the Holy Spirit.

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And I've shared many times my dance examples,

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which is the most vivid examples

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because dance has a leader and a follower.

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And in life, I've been a leader most of my life.

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And so I haven't been a follower so much.

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In dance, I had to learn to be a follower,

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which taught me about being led by the Holy Spirit,

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about following the Holy Spirit,

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and about what I'm teaching you with partnership.

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So when I'm not in that space, I'm overthinking.

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What's the next step?

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What was that pattern?

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What's he gonna do next?

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My body is tense.

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I'm anticipating.

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I'm going right when actually he planned on going left.

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My arms are tense.

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There's almost a sumo wrestling

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instead of being led graciously around the floor.

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And the same thing happens in business.

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There's an ease and a grace in business

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that when we're coming from partnership,

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we're being led by the Holy Spirit.

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And so we're more with discernment.

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We're more with creativity and clarity

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and online, we're in more relational connection.

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And we have a place of calm action,

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a place of courage is simplicity.

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We don't feel we have to do all things.

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We don't feel we have to be in all places.

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We're not panic building, right?

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We have a level of focus and we have sustainable action.

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So the first thing in your business is just to back up

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and have a sense of God's leading.

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Often that is getting back to the why

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you're doing what you're doing.

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Not only the why personally,

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because I wanna feed my family,

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because I wanna be able to travel,

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because I want freedom.

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That's part of it.

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But the why you fell in love with your product or service,

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why you believe in it so much.

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You see, coaching changed my life.

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It continues to change my life.

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And it continues to change my client's life.

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So I believe in coaching.

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It's more mentoring what I do, less coaching.

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I'm less of a therapist model.

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I'm much more of a mentor,

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taking my 30 plus years of business and mentoring.

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So it's remembering why, okay?

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That's first.

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Now, questions came up before we started

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and they were very similar.

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And that tends to happen.

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God tends to bring clusters of people,

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which this week the cluster

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was around people struggling financially, right?

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And clusters of questions and comments.

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So this is not accident.

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I noticed that God tends to bring things in clusters

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so that what needs to be spoken today

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will address those clusters.

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So the questions that were asked

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are actually very similar in a lot of ways.

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So one has to do with the offer

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and that you're scared to ask the full price

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and you want to just give it away.

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And you often will just give it away, okay?

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And so Christine had that, Colette had that.

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I want to just help everyone, right?

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And so we want to start with that

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and then we'll move to the next one,

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which was around clarity and getting people to respond.

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So let's talk first.

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It's very important that you determine a couple things.

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One is who or what is your source?

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Who or what is your source?

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I believe there's one source, biblically, and that's God, the creator of heaven and earth.

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I believe there's many resources.

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One source, many resources.

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Jesus demonstrated that.

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He could get a gold coin from a fish's mouth.

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He could borrow a donkey from a neighbor.

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Moses, he could get water from a rock.

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In Egypt, they could get manna from heaven.

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There's a zillion ways and channels that resources can come to you if you're open when God is the source.

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And that's why you notice it always points back to him.

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When you look at scriptures, like Philippians 4, that says,

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My God will supply all your needs according to his riches in glory.

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The Lord is my shepherd.

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I shall not lack.

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So when we're clear on the source, it moves us from pressure to partnership.

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Because we believe God is good and he's a good, good father, and it's up to him to supply my needs.

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My job is to seek first the kingdom and its righteousness.

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And all these things will be added.

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He said, I've got lilies in my backyard right now.

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He said, consider the lilies of the field.

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They're here today and they're gone tomorrow.

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And yet not even Solomon in all his glory was ordained like one of these.

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He said, consider the birds.

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They neither soar nor reap.

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Jesus was trying to say, and he said, look, the pagans pray for needs.

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Jesus made it really clear in that sermon in the mouth.

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The pagans are praying, meet my needs.

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That's not a biblical prayer.

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That's a pagan prayer.

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He said, your father already knows you need these things.

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So our prayer is one of gratitude.

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Thank you.

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You're a good, good father.

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You supply all my needs.

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You are my shepherd.

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I shall not lack.

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And now the question becomes, where am I coming from?

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If I'm coming from lack and pressure, because I'm relying on outward conditions.

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And I think my clients and my customers and my online sales are my source.

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I'm going to be in pressure and it's going to come across.

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And I'm going to repel because I'm going to need.

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You ever noticed, like, let's just take dating.

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A woman that doesn't need a man and she's just confident and she's just

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filled with just joy and the love of God.

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Men come to her like flies.

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A woman that's needy.

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I got to get a boyfriend.

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They go direction.

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So, yeah, we do.

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If we're coming from need, Christine, it's a good awareness.

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There's no judgment.

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Your awareness today is what's going to allow you to transform.

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To stop doing these old things.

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So you take your awareness and you use your God given ability to choose,

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to choose differently.

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So I choose from now on to see God as my source,

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to speak God as my source, to expect God to be my source.

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So now I'm not coming from when I approach.

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And this applies also to, uh,

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I think it was Colette that said when they're speaking online and they're

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not hearing,

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there was an energy that's transmitted in your words.

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Words have frequency. That's a whole nother science. Okay.

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There was an energy that's coming out in your words.

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One is need and desperation and fear.

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And it's repelling.

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I've got to get clients, get customers.

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You need to come to me now.

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And one is lavish generosity that I have all.

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In fact, one of my favorite coaches has a practice first thing in the

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morning.

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To make a decision that they won't leave the door.

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Won't go, go out to start doing business.

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Until he is not coming from a place of needing.

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Why?

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Jesus said, I have all.

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I have all if I have God in me, I have all.

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If I have Christ in me, I have all.

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If I am a daughter of the most high God, I.

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have all, no matter what my bank account shows or my health report shows, I've got to start on the

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inside first. I have all, so I don't need. Now I can come and activate the flow, okay, by giving.

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Now, that does not mean, so that's the first step is, where am I coming from? If you're making a

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note to grow your sales, where am I coming from, okay? Next is, who am I showing up as?

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Because so often, women overgive, like what you're talking about, Christine,

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because of lack of self-worth. If I give, you'll love me. If I give, you'll like me. If I give,

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you'll join me. If I give, okay, that's manipulation. It's a form of witchcraft, really.

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Okay, I must give from my overflow. I must give because Christ first gave to me.

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So, I have been an over-giver in the past. I understand. I have come in my past as a

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codependent to alcoholic parents, all of that. I understand over-giving, okay,

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and I've had to learn, even when it appears that somebody has no money, stop giving everything for

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free because I'm not raising them up. I'm not believing in their creativity and their ability

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to earn money. Stop giving everything for free. I might do a give as you choose to get you on your

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feet. I don't care if you pay me $5. It's not about me making the money or you pay me $99

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for a Prosper Leader membership. I know for your sake, you must activate to receive,

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and I know for my sake, I must honor that. So, let's talk about when we're undercharging,

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when we're over-giving. Is it because we want to be accepted, or is it because we feel so full,

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and God has blessed us, and he's telling me I'm being led by the Spirit, and he's telling me

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to give. Where is that coming from when I don't know how to make a solid offer? Now,

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that there's two parts to that offer, and then I'm going to let you answer. One part is my own

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identity, how I feel about myself. Am I giving from low self-worth, and I want to be liked or

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loved, and I'm over-giving? The other has to do with faith and belief in what I'm offering,

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be it coaching or a physical product. So, sometimes we've got imposter syndrome,

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and we've got coaches that don't want to charge because they think that maybe they're not good

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coaches, or we've got people that aren't sure about the product or whatever. That's a different

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issue. I will take a coach. I will have them write on a piece of paper the transformation people

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experience as a result of working with you or as a result of taking that product so that I

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fill up my belief pot because most of the women that I have do that. They look at that piece of

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paper, and they're like, dang, I'm giving so much value. Of course, like when I charge you $99,

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I could charge $10,000 for this. It'd be a different audience, but I absolutely, the value

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of what I'm doing in the transformation. So, I know, like I know. Are you kidding me? Access to my entire

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membership vault, many courses that I sold for $1,000. Are you kidding me working on your business

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like this? Are you kidding me showing up twice a week and teaching my $99? It's like a joke for

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my skill set and my level, right? But I'm not undercharging because I want you to like me, or I

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don't believe in myself, or I don't believe in the product. I'm setting a value that someone is trying

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to put their feet in and is really doesn't know where the next thing's going to come from that

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they can get help here. Obviously, you want to build a five, a six, a seven-figure business.

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We need to be in a higher-end coaching. You're going to spend four, five, ten,

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$15,000 with me. Do you understand what I'm saying? Because it's where I'm coming from.

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I don't have low self-esteem, and I don't not believe in any of my products. So, that's the

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first thing I would look at.

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in and Collette is where are you coming from

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when you make an offer?

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or over distractions and overthinking

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and constantly being in a consumption

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or a constant creative mode,

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but you're not releasing what you're creating,

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that's a different issue, okay?

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So I'm being a doctor and I'm diagnosing,

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you know, what is this?

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Is this coming from the lungs or the heart or the stomach?

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And that, you know, I got a diagnosis and then we can go

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because all of those results in either not showing up

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or undercharging, does that make sense?

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So let's go a little deeper.

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Put in the chat what that brings up for you.

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What's the question now?

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What does that answer

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and what question does it raise even more?

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So it may be also lack of clarity, okay?

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What we do in a breakthrough intensive,

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we've got to get clear on what you offer

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and why it's irresistible and why what you do is unique.

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That comes from the breakthrough intensive.

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What's your USP, your unique selling proposition, right?

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What you sell and why is it unique working with you?

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Why do they need to join your team, buy your product,

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get your coaching?

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That has to do with your irresistible offer.

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And that has to do with being very clear

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on the problem that you solve.

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These days, if you're not speaking a clear transformation,

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a clear result, a clear offer.

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So it always starts with clarity.

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That's why I do the breakthrough intensives,

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always starts with clarity.

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Okay, all right, so we've got a mix.

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Collette is saying it's low self-worth and it's clarity.

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Okay, agreed, Christine.

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Okay, so guess what?

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Confidence comes from clarity.

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Confidence comes from clarity, okay?

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And the low self-worth increases

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when you're spending time with the Lord

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and you're remembering that you're a daughter

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of the most high God,

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that you're the temple of the Holy Spirit,

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that you're loved, that there's nothing you can do

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to earn his affection, that your needs will be supplied.

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So you've got the spiritual side of it

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and the natural side of it.

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Okay, go ahead and unmute, Christine.

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Okay, so there's a couple different aspects.

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So yes, it is about low self-worth and clarity.

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Also, I feel like I have something that I know

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will benefit people that I love.

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And that's why I want to give it to them

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because I don't want them to think

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there's an ulterior motive,

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that I am trying to do something for myself with it.

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Yes, I'll benefit from it,

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but that's not my main reason

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for wanting them to join my business.

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Let me ask you a question because that right there

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is a two-part before we go any further.

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That right there has to do with your view of sales

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and your sales conversation.

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You're still operating on sales is icky.

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I don't want to be a used car salesman.

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I don't want them to think I'm icky and that I'm selling.

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Okay, I'm wondering if someone does your hair

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and they charge you for doing your hair,

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are they icky because they're benefiting

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because you're paying for your hair?

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are they icky because you're paying for both the food

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and they're being paid to serve you?

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Is that icky?

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So first thing has to do with your perception of sales.

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That has to change like yesterday, okay?

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Sales is service.

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And guess what?

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I benefit when you join Prosper Leader Membership.

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Now it's low and it's very high value,

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but yeah, I make $99 a month for every person that joins

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at this discounted level.

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I benefit when you pay me for $5,000 for 90 days to coach.

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I absolutely benefit.

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And I have no problem with that, why?

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Because I'm giving greater value than what I'm benefiting.

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But do you agree you're getting more than $99

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worth of value here?

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Absolutely.

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Okay, I know it.

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So I don't feel I'm being slimy to say Christine

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and I did even in a hard.

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place. I say, Christine, you need to join this. This is where you need to be in the room. I didn't

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give it to you for free. You didn't know where money was going to come from. And I applaud you

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that you courageously decided to invest in yourself. But that was in your best interest,

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because you're going to show up and you're going to value what you did. And yeah, it served me.

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Okay, what's the problem? That doesn't need to be in the conversation.

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Now, what needs to be in the conversation is where we are aiming the camera. You see this

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camera right here? Okay. If I'm aiming my camera at you, which I did, where are you at right now,

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Christine? What do you desire? What's stopping you? What do you need? How can I support you?

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The camera is aimed at you. And you felt that and you knew that. That doesn't mean I don't

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charge you. That's a separate issue. We pay for what we want, all of us, everywhere, all day long.

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If the camera is aimed at me, am I good enough to share this? What would they think about me?

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Are they going to think that I'm really being selfish? Are they going to think I'm a slimy salesperson?

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Am I doing a good sales conversation? Am I even presenting? Should I even be? Do you feel where

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the camera is aimed? That's the difference. So you march on over to the Prosper Leader

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Membership Vault, and you listen to successful sales conversation. And then there's an encore.

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And you may need to listen two or three times. Many people do. You are going to improve your

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skill set. Your craft, Christine, is sales. You're in a nutrition business. You're in a network

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marketing business. I don't care. You're in a coaching business. You're in whatever. You're

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actually, all of you, in a sales business. Without sales, you have no business. You're in a sales

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business. So let's make peace with sales. Sales is service. Sales is not cramming down someone's

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throat something they don't want or don't need. We all feel slimy then. Sales is me discovering a

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need and showing you how to fill that need. Do you see the difference? Yes. So number one for you,

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I need you as comfortable as the snuggliest blanket and the most delicious food you've ever

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had with sales. Okay. That's going to solve every issue that you've brought up.

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We're not going to operate from pressure. That's our whole morning. We've talked about it.

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We're coming on the love track, not on the fear track. But now that's mindset. Now skill set.

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You're going to do a good job. Sales is 90% asking questions. 10% saying, here's what I recommend.

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So I know your product. And if I found out asking questions,

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that they had trouble with X, Y, Z, and I would go deep. How long? What have you tried? How is

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that affecting your relationship? How's that affecting your parenting? How's it affecting

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your finances? How's it affecting your self-esteem? How important is it for you to change this? How

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motivated are you to change? How willing are you to invest in that change? If I showed you how to

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change, would you do what I say? Would you be willing to pay for what I say? And the answers

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to those are yes. Here's what I recommend. Boom. Let's do it right now.

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Okay. My other thing that, um, well, let me make sure you grasp that before you give me the other,

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tell me what you got from that. That's basically, I need to know my worth and what I'm offering

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people instead of discounting it. Um, and trying to give it away because a lot of times you also

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get what you pay for. So if you don't pay for it, you don't value it.

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A new percent. I mean, let me ask you, how long have you been giving stuff away?

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My whole life. Okay. And how much did that

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boom your business in your life financially? Did that create a huge boom? Nope. It's not working.

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And you know why? Because it's not even pure giving. If it was pure giving, that you know what, Christ has

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enriched me so much. He spoke to me. I'm supposed to give this to you. Christina, I've literally,

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I remember one time I was at a doctor and his wife's house in Atlanta, Georgia. I was wearing,

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I don't know, they were probably $500 shoes. I love these shoes. They were gorgeous. They were

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comfortable. This doctor's wife kept admiring these shoes and the Holy Spirit said, give them

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to her. I asked her what size she wore. It was my size. I took off my shoes and I gave them.

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Wow. And I love those shoes. So when God tells you to give, you best give. Giving activates the flow.

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But if we're giving because I want you to like me or I'm trying in some way to change my life,

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that if I give enough, somehow you're going to give back to me. Now we've broken the whole

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system. Does that make sense? Yeah. I mean, for the most part, I felt like I was

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doing it from a genuine place. Giving and giving and giving. But I've given,

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I know I can't out give God. And I know I am a vessel for things to flow through me

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to those who need. I'm not discounting giving, but I am discounting giving in business

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because we can't somehow communicate otherwise why they need the product. So,

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well, maybe if I just give it to you, guess what? Then you call, did you take it? Nah.

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Oh, it gave me a stomach ache. I gave it to the neighbor. Oh, I ended up not using it. I

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ended up throwing it away because there was no value attached to it.

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Yeah. We treasure what we pay for. Jesus said that. Okay. So, I know when someone is paying

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me, guess what? They show up, they want to learn that I better get my value out of this.

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Now we both win. Okay. Does that help? Definitely. You've got a broken model and

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you've got awareness today. And now you have the courage to choose differently.

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And you can say, you know, you don't even have to talk about it. Just know and just do it.

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Yeah. It's a brand new model. I will not give unless the Holy Spirit specifically told me to

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give in this situation. Otherwise, I'm going to focus on their needs and I'm going to focus

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on delivering value and over-delivering value. And I am going to be paid.

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Okay. Part two. What was part two?

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Part two was I felt like speaking on the witchcraft side of things and sales,

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I feel like attraction marketing is like manipulating people and how that's okay.

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Let's talk about it.

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The hook to bring them in, right? It's like a snare, a trap.

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Good stuff. I'm so glad you're bringing this up. This is good stuff. Okay.

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The new age, the witches, all of that have hijacked what God has said all along.

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Okay. So everything again, comes back to what's the motive. That's the first thing

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at all. That's all God looks at is at the heart. What was the motive?

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So when we look at how life is,

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and I can go so many examples. I could take a battery and positive negative pole or a magnet,

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and you got a positive magnet and a negative magnet. What happens?

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This is the nature. This is life. This is how God created the world. Okay.

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Male and a female.

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What do you think happens first?

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Attraction.

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Someone, and the reason all of this happens is that scripture says God gives us the desires of

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our heart. So sales may be creating desire. It may be giving a reason to show up.

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It was based on truth. It was based on love. It was based on scripture.

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But you needed to be attracted to what I was offering to decide to pay for something.

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If you weren't attracted to me or my product, you wouldn't have paid.

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So the goal is not to be unattractive, which many of us do out of fear.

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If I make myself unattractive enough in any way, business, life, physically, then maybe

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I'll be safe.

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Wow.

468
00:35:30.640 --> 00:35:31.640
Yeah.

469
00:35:31.640 --> 00:35:32.640
I mean...

470
00:35:32.640 --> 00:35:33.640
Are you picking up what I'm putting down?

471
00:35:33.640 --> 00:35:34.640
Yes, ma'am.

472
00:35:34.640 --> 00:35:35.640
Attraction is life.

473
00:35:35.640 --> 00:35:36.640
God made attraction.

474
00:35:36.640 --> 00:35:37.640
And I've never seen attraction marketing like what Jesus used.

475
00:35:37.640 --> 00:35:38.640
Come all ye who are tired and weary, and I will give you rest.

476
00:35:38.640 --> 00:35:39.640
Hello.

477
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Hello.

478
00:35:40.640 --> 00:35:41.640
Hello.

479
00:35:41.640 --> 00:35:42.640
Hello.

480
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Hello.

481
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Hello.

482
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Hello.

483
00:35:45.640 --> 00:35:46.640
Hello.

484
00:35:46.640 --> 00:35:47.640
Hello.

485
00:35:47.640 --> 00:35:48.640
Hello.

486
00:35:48.640 --> 00:35:49.640
Hello.

487
00:35:49.640 --> 00:35:50.640
Hello.

488
00:35:50.640 --> 00:35:51.640
Hello.

489
00:35:51.640 --> 00:35:52.640
Hello.

490
00:35:52.640 --> 00:35:53.640
Hello.

491
00:35:53.640 --> 00:35:54.640
Hello.

492
00:35:54.640 --> 00:35:55.640
Hello.

493
00:35:55.640 --> 00:35:56.640
Hello.

494
00:35:56.640 --> 00:35:57.640
Hello.

495
00:35:57.640 --> 00:36:00.540
Is that not attraction marketing?

496
00:36:00.540 --> 00:36:03.600
Hey, there's free food here.

497
00:36:03.600 --> 00:36:06.200
Is that not attraction marketing?

498
00:36:06.200 --> 00:36:07.200
Okay.

499
00:36:07.200 --> 00:36:08.200
Come on.

500
00:36:08.200 --> 00:36:10.400
We move based on attraction.

501
00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:12.480
So let's stop that nonsense.

502
00:36:12.480 --> 00:36:15.880
Let's focus on the value of what we offer.

503
00:36:15.880 --> 00:36:19.280
And yes, it does need to attract.

504
00:36:19.280 --> 00:36:21.080
Does that help a little bit?

505
00:36:21.080 --> 00:36:22.080
Yeah.

506
00:36:22.080 --> 00:36:27.440
The goal is not to be unattractive and they're still going to buy.

507
00:36:27.440 --> 00:36:30.440
Someone's going to love me and marry me even if I look like crap.

508
00:36:30.440 --> 00:36:34.240
So I'm going to go out looking like crap as much as I can and God's going to have to bring

509
00:36:34.240 --> 00:36:38.520
me my husband and they need to accept me how I am.

510
00:36:38.520 --> 00:36:43.840
Not going to brush my teeth, comb my hair, going to wear my brother's clothes.

511
00:36:43.840 --> 00:36:47.680
They better darn well like it.

512
00:36:47.680 --> 00:36:49.480
Okay.

513
00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:51.200
Sorry.

514
00:36:51.200 --> 00:36:57.440
I go salsa dancing and I blow out my hair a little bit, put a makeup on and put a little

515
00:36:57.440 --> 00:37:03.680
sparklies on because it's human nature.

516
00:37:03.680 --> 00:37:04.680
It's the world we live in.

517
00:37:04.680 --> 00:37:08.160
Does that make sense?

518
00:37:08.160 --> 00:37:17.440
Yes, ma'am, because now I'm seeing the correlation with my weight and hiding and relationship

519
00:37:18.440 --> 00:37:21.920
Awareness, sister, let's give her a snap.

520
00:37:21.920 --> 00:37:23.920
Let's give her a snap.

521
00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:26.640
It all starts with the word and there's no judgment.

522
00:37:26.640 --> 00:37:30.680
We all do this, Christine, in different levels, different ways.

523
00:37:30.680 --> 00:37:31.680
Okay.

524
00:37:31.680 --> 00:37:36.360
I thank you for being transparent and willing to come forward and share.

525
00:37:36.360 --> 00:37:40.600
It takes courage and it's because God's ready for you to transform.

526
00:37:40.600 --> 00:37:41.600
Okay.

527
00:37:41.600 --> 00:37:43.320
But it's all starting with awareness.

528
00:37:43.320 --> 00:37:45.760
This is either saying how we do.

529
00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:48.080
One thing is how we do all things.

530
00:37:48.080 --> 00:37:51.680
This is all tied together, sister.

531
00:37:51.680 --> 00:37:54.640
No random Ikea parts in this journey.

532
00:37:54.640 --> 00:37:58.400
Collette, what are you picking up that I'm putting down?

533
00:37:58.400 --> 00:38:01.120
Bev, what are you picking up that I'm putting down?

534
00:38:01.120 --> 00:38:02.120
Let's talk.

535
00:38:02.120 --> 00:38:07.640
Bev, do you want to go first?

536
00:38:07.640 --> 00:38:10.640
I don't mind if you go first.

537
00:38:10.960 --> 00:38:19.560
Bev, what are you picking up that I'm putting down that you can apply?

538
00:38:19.560 --> 00:38:20.560
She's muted.

539
00:38:20.560 --> 00:38:23.560
She would be on her way to work.

540
00:38:23.560 --> 00:38:24.560
She listens to us.

541
00:38:24.560 --> 00:38:25.560
She's going to work.

542
00:38:25.560 --> 00:38:26.560
Go ahead.

543
00:38:26.560 --> 00:38:27.560
She'll jump in if she's ready.

544
00:38:27.560 --> 00:38:32.600
First, I want to say to Christine, thank you for pinpointing some of the things that you

545
00:38:32.600 --> 00:38:39.520
said, because sometimes because I learned at an early age, I believe just to shove everything

546
00:38:39.560 --> 00:38:40.560
down.

547
00:38:40.560 --> 00:38:42.760
It is hard for me to pull it out.

548
00:38:42.760 --> 00:38:43.760
Sometimes I can't locate it.

549
00:38:43.760 --> 00:38:48.640
I can feel it, and I kind of almost can grasp it, but I can't always.

550
00:38:48.640 --> 00:38:52.520
Sometimes somebody will say something, and I'm not copying what they're saying.

551
00:38:52.520 --> 00:38:55.600
It's like, oh, yes, that's exactly what I was feeling.

552
00:38:55.600 --> 00:39:02.400
So I'm in Live Good, too, and everyone says get on TikTok and get on there and do videos

553
00:39:02.400 --> 00:39:03.400
and do posts.

554
00:39:03.400 --> 00:39:10.520
I get no responses, but I think it's because what you were saying is low self-worth, and

555
00:39:10.520 --> 00:39:16.880
I want to help people, but is that really what it is, is to help people a disguise for

556
00:39:16.880 --> 00:39:19.120
something else?

557
00:39:19.120 --> 00:39:23.240
Am I coming from a place of fear, like you said earlier?

558
00:39:23.240 --> 00:39:25.000
Everyone else is doing well, and I'm not.

559
00:39:25.000 --> 00:39:26.720
Why is that something wrong with me?

560
00:39:26.720 --> 00:39:29.800
Then I have to go back and look at my family situation.

561
00:39:29.800 --> 00:39:34.800
I don't want to go into this very deeply because I don't want to dwell on the negative.

562
00:39:34.800 --> 00:39:37.240
I try to shove everything back down.

563
00:39:37.240 --> 00:39:41.640
That's why I'm writing this book, by the way, is I want to get some of it out and ask questions

564
00:39:41.640 --> 00:39:48.240
to other people because it would help me, but growing up, I am one of five children.

565
00:39:48.240 --> 00:39:54.040
My brothers, the oldest, are four girls, and I'm the fourth out of five children, and I

566
00:39:54.040 --> 00:39:59.040
had a sister who didn't like me at an early age, and she's gone through my whole life

567
00:39:59.040 --> 00:40:00.040
hating me.

568
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:08.640
tell anybody who'll listen that she hates me and one day at a just an example at a dinner table

569
00:40:00.040 --> 00:40:00.040


570
00:40:08.640 --> 00:40:15.680
my mother was across from me and my brother-in-law my sister's daughter was here and some other

571
00:40:15.680 --> 00:40:22.000
people it's a big round table lots of people all of a sudden my sister says do you know how old she

572
00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:31.360
is i'm like why why why is that important right now but uh she decided to tell the person next to

573
00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:36.080
me how old i was i don't know for what reason because maybe she thought he thought i was

574
00:40:36.080 --> 00:40:43.840
attractive you know and it's been several years ago and uh so she told how old i was and i just

575
00:40:43.840 --> 00:40:49.040
looked at him and looked at everyone i said it looks good on me doesn't it so you know

576
00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:57.120
so humor's always been the way that i handle things but there's a lot of pain underneath

577
00:40:57.120 --> 00:41:02.240
and i think if if anybody can understand brenda you can because some of the things you said are

578
00:41:02.240 --> 00:41:07.120
just heartbreaking and uh christine i don't know your whole backstory but you probably have a lot

579
00:41:07.120 --> 00:41:13.200
of pain underneath too so i think for me going back to the hatred for my sister and all the

580
00:41:13.280 --> 00:41:20.240
things that she's done behind my back and and in the open too sometimes i felt like my parents

581
00:41:20.240 --> 00:41:24.480
should have done something even though she was older maybe take a stand publicly or said you

582
00:41:24.480 --> 00:41:29.760
know stop it or you know they were kind of passive and nice people but sometimes i feel like they

583
00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:36.000
should have said something so i've been on the defensive a lot of my life defending who i am

584
00:41:36.000 --> 00:41:42.480
why i am because she says she hates me because i exist well excuse me i didn't do that god damn

585
00:41:42.480 --> 00:41:48.240
that you know my mom and dad wanted me and then they had another child after me but i'm the one

586
00:41:48.240 --> 00:41:54.320
she decided she hated and i think between catholic school and what was going on at home

587
00:41:55.760 --> 00:42:05.200
feeling like i wasn't as good as maybe wasn't a part of the main family because i was somehow

588
00:42:05.200 --> 00:42:11.840
you know not to be light talked to associated with whatever my sister said has affected me

589
00:42:11.840 --> 00:42:18.960
deeply and i'd like to you know pull all that out i need a counselor myself i try to counsel myself

590
00:42:18.960 --> 00:42:24.160
too and just you know let things go that's why i'm doing some writing to help me and maybe some

591
00:42:24.160 --> 00:42:29.520
other people with it but i i'm glad you said what you did because you helped me put the spotlight on

592
00:42:30.160 --> 00:42:35.280
some more significant problems i don't know she's jealous of me look at me my mother told

593
00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:43.200
me at a young age here's the key she told me i was not attractive in that three is putting our eyes

594
00:42:44.480 --> 00:42:50.400
back on the right place all of this really is about yes it's putting our eyes first of all

595
00:42:50.480 --> 00:43:01.200
that god is our source okay and that christ is in me and that i am who he says i am and i can do

596
00:43:01.200 --> 00:43:11.040
what he says i can do and from that standpoint when i said about leaving the house and not needing

597
00:43:11.040 --> 00:43:22.400
anything it goes deeper with questions in the sense that whose approval do i think that i need

598
00:43:22.400 --> 00:43:30.880
today and you give that to the lord because you don't need anyone's approval except god's

599
00:43:31.840 --> 00:43:36.800
whose money do i think i need today

600
00:43:39.280 --> 00:43:43.200
and again god is my source everything else is a resource

601
00:43:45.520 --> 00:43:57.200
whose influence do i think i need today and it goes on and on right because now our eyes are

602
00:43:57.760 --> 00:43:59.200
not on the source

603
00:44:02.160 --> 00:44:05.920
they've become on the resource which is idolatry

604
00:44:08.400 --> 00:44:14.480
have no god before me anything that i make my source becomes an idol

605
00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:22.000
my business can be an idol my spouse can be an idol my things can be an idol

606
00:44:22.320 --> 00:44:29.840
so the key is putting our focus back where it belongs on god

607
00:44:31.920 --> 00:44:38.640
matthew seek first the kingdom of god and his righteousness and all these things will be added

608
00:44:39.360 --> 00:44:48.400
your father knows you have need of these things so i'm seeking first the kingdom and in that comes

609
00:44:48.880 --> 00:44:56.800
comes serving one another in love and business is a form of serving it's finding a need and

610
00:44:56.800 --> 00:44:59.920
filling it sales is a form of serving it's finding

611
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.360
being in need and filling it.

612
00:45:03.360 --> 00:45:05.520
So those of you in network marketing,

613
00:45:05.520 --> 00:45:13.160
you have some products that you believe in that fill a need.

614
00:45:13.160 --> 00:45:15.800
And in that way, you're operating business

615
00:45:15.800 --> 00:45:20.200
as a kingdom business, and it's going to work.

616
00:45:20.200 --> 00:45:24.320
Coaching, it's a product.

617
00:45:24.320 --> 00:45:26.160
Therapy, it's a product.

618
00:45:26.160 --> 00:45:32.640
Product, products, some of you have stuff on eBay, OK?

619
00:45:32.640 --> 00:45:33.960
Does all that make sense?

620
00:45:33.960 --> 00:45:39.800
It's just rearranging our perception.

621
00:45:39.800 --> 00:45:42.160
Most of what we've talked about, we've

622
00:45:42.160 --> 00:45:45.880
got a dog that wants to walk so bad, she knows it's time.

623
00:45:45.880 --> 00:45:49.320
I'm getting nosed like crazy as I'm talking,

624
00:45:49.320 --> 00:45:52.000
like she's just nosing me, nosing me.

625
00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:53.680
So if I ever get distracted, it's

626
00:45:53.680 --> 00:45:57.200
because I'm being nosed over here.

627
00:45:57.200 --> 00:45:57.960
She's adorable.

628
00:45:57.960 --> 00:46:01.760
Someone wants a W-A-L-K, because she knows what time it is.

629
00:46:01.760 --> 00:46:03.720
So does that help?

630
00:46:03.720 --> 00:46:04.960
Do you have a sense?

631
00:46:04.960 --> 00:46:05.840
Here's the thing.

632
00:46:05.840 --> 00:46:07.240
I don't want you to leave.

633
00:46:07.240 --> 00:46:10.240
I don't desire you to leave with just theory today.

634
00:46:10.240 --> 00:46:13.080
That would be a waste of both of our time.

635
00:46:13.080 --> 00:46:15.240
Theory does not transform you.

636
00:46:15.240 --> 00:46:20.480
Information does not change you, OK?

637
00:46:20.480 --> 00:46:23.960
When you apply it, knowledge applied becomes wisdom.

638
00:46:26.880 --> 00:46:32.000
So the key started today with awareness.

639
00:46:32.000 --> 00:46:34.320
Where am I coming from need?

640
00:46:34.320 --> 00:46:35.800
Where am I coming from fear?

641
00:46:35.800 --> 00:46:37.080
Where am I coming from lack?

642
00:46:39.720 --> 00:46:43.160
Where am I operating out of pressure?

643
00:46:43.160 --> 00:46:47.360
And now, what's in my hand?

644
00:46:47.360 --> 00:46:50.280
What problem does it solve?

645
00:46:50.280 --> 00:46:53.680
Who does it solve it for?

646
00:46:53.680 --> 00:46:57.720
How do I solve it uniquely?

647
00:46:57.720 --> 00:46:59.600
That's all mindset stuff.

648
00:46:59.600 --> 00:47:01.800
Then we get into the skill set.

649
00:47:01.800 --> 00:47:03.200
How do I have a successful?

650
00:47:03.200 --> 00:47:04.840
How do I generate leads?

651
00:47:04.840 --> 00:47:07.440
How do I have a successful sales conversation?

652
00:47:10.680 --> 00:47:12.400
Does that make sense?

653
00:47:12.400 --> 00:47:13.480
Yes.

654
00:47:13.480 --> 00:47:15.240
All right.

655
00:47:15.240 --> 00:47:17.000
I'm going to leave it there.

656
00:47:17.000 --> 00:47:18.840
I'm glad that you took the time.

657
00:47:18.840 --> 00:47:23.560
I'm excited to hear your testimonies as you apply this.

658
00:47:23.560 --> 00:47:27.480
I'm going to say, go forth and multiply.

659
00:47:27.480 --> 00:47:29.000
This is your season.

660
00:47:29.000 --> 00:47:30.000
This is your season.

661
00:47:30.000 --> 00:47:31.480
Go forth and multiply.

662
00:47:31.480 --> 00:47:33.280
You are enough.

663
00:47:33.280 --> 00:47:35.320
You have enough.

664
00:47:35.320 --> 00:47:37.000
You can do this.

665
00:47:37.000 --> 00:47:38.120
Thank you.

666
00:47:38.120 --> 00:47:39.040
Thank you, Christine.

667
00:47:39.040 --> 00:47:40.320
I appreciate your honesty.

668
00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:41.200
You helped me.

669
00:47:41.200 --> 00:47:42.960
I didn't want to say too much, but I wanted

670
00:47:42.960 --> 00:47:44.880
to give you a fair background.

671
00:47:44.880 --> 00:47:45.480
Yes.

672
00:47:45.480 --> 00:47:46.720
Thank you, Christine.

673
00:47:46.720 --> 00:47:48.000
You blessed us today.

674
00:47:48.000 --> 00:47:50.560
So glad you decided to show up.

675
00:47:50.560 --> 00:47:51.720
OK.

676
00:47:51.720 --> 00:47:52.280
See you soon.

677
00:47:52.280 --> 00:47:53.560
Thank you.

678
00:47:53.560 --> 00:47:55.120
Bye.