As soon as I came on, all right, it is men's night.
It is June 1st, top of the month.
How about them apples?
I've got a great team with me here today.
And I have Hubby on the couch,
excited to join us at some point
if we want another male perspective.
He looks so excited to join tonight.
I can just feel the joy coming over there from the couch.
Can you feel the love?
So, you know, one of the things I was supposed
to find out for you guys today,
but because I actually had to teach a class,
so they did have a team meeting,
which I was surprised they did.
I would have thought they would have canceled it,
but they did.
And I am trying to find out for you guys,
for those of you that are interested,
and maybe you can let me know if you are,
I don't know what she's using as her criteria
for her Instagram single spotlight,
which she's largely just doing men for now.
And so if that is something you're interested,
you know, obviously Dan and Christopher and Mike,
I see your last names.
The other David on here,
I don't know which David it is in your last name.
So if that's something you're interested
in having Jackie follow up with you on,
please let me know,
and I will send those, your names to her.
Like I know Brandon is interested in it,
but he can't be on here on Monday nights.
So Dan, was that your, yes, I'm interested?
Okay.
Yeah.
I'm making a list right now, hold on.
Uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, interested in spotlight.
Okay, so since you're gonna do this,
oh, perfect, Christopher, thank you.
Dan, let me get your last name.
Quintero, you're my Connecticut guy, right?
Yep.
Remind me.
I am the Connecticut guy.
What?
Connecticut guy.
Oh my gosh, that guy, the pizza guy.
Um, how old are you again?
45.
45, are you, do you have kids?
Nope.
No kids.
Okay.
And Christopher, just for the sake of me giving her
the same thing, just tell me your state,
age, and if you have kids.
So since you're just like.
New York, 35, no kids.
Perfect.
Now, when you say New York,
I think you're upstate New York, right?
Central, yep.
Central New York, yeah.
And you said 45 too?
35.
Oh shit, man, my hearing's going.
Okay, 35, no kids.
What about you, Mike?
Are you interested?
Or are you in this whole like, blah, blah, blah.
Blah, blah, blah.
Well, now I'm shooting between Reading and San Jose
every other weekend, so it's not really that conducive
to, oh, there's somebody in Reading.
Oh, David Henshaw, thank you, David.
Mr. Henshaw, Mr. Henshaw.
I had a feeling it was you, but I didn't want to be wrong.
Remind me how old.
Thanks, Dan.
Yeah, no, I'm bouncing between Reading and San Jose,
which is kind of a commute right now.
So every other weekend, but we'll see.
Okay, David, remind me.
Thank you.
David, remind me your age.
You're in Pennsylvania.
I just turned 52 on Friday the 22nd.
52, all right.
Happy birthday to you.
And you don't have kids either, right?
I'm what?
You broke up a little.
No, no kids, no kids.
Yeah, that's what I thought.
All right.
And I'm currently in PA,
but I'm looking to do an extensive road trip
starting as soon as like in two weeks.
And I'm probably heading to Tennessee first.
Dude, if you're anywhere near Nashville, let me know
and we'll do, I'll bring you to my favorite
little watering hole around here.
Okay, that sounds good.
I might be hanging out.
David, how tall are you?
5'11".
Okay.
Seven foot one.
I say this because I have a gorgeous girl who's single.
She actually sings.
She's in ministry.
She kind of, you know,
leads worship and stuff in different places,
but she's got big blonde hair, but she's tall.
She's at least five.
She's probably 5'11".
Okay.
Is she at your church or a different church
than the one you go to?
No, I think she's actually.
on staff at The Belonging doing music.
So Jackie loves her.
Like both of us are trying to find somebody for her.
I wanna say she's mid 45, maybe 50.
So she's right around your age, right around your height.
She's beautiful.
She's just tall and like a big girl.
She's not fat big, but you know what I mean?
Like, you know how Jackie's like,
she carries like her stature.
So when I stand next to both Jackie and Jamie,
I look like a little pygmy next to them.
That's funny.
And happy birthday.
I just turned 58.
When was your birthday?
Friday the 22nd.
Oh, look at that.
I was the 28th.
So I'm right behind you.
Oh, wow.
Although I'm a lot older than you.
I turned 58.
So I'm old.
I'm the old hag here.
Although Kenton is older than me.
The one thing about an introduction like that is-
I am too.
Yeah, you are, Kenton.
What's the one thing you were gonna say?
The introduction, Dave.
I said like any caveat,
anyone you wanna introduce me to,
the tricky thing is I'm still like way younger at heart
than my actual age and I still want kids.
So if she's getting to the point
where that's not gonna be possible,
that might be a problem.
Well, I don't know.
I wish she would love kids however she could have kids.
But what I would probably do with you, David,
and this is true for any of you who are in my town,
is if you guys are in town,
I'm gonna do something at Stable Reserve.
It's like a coffee shop distillery
right down the street.
It's a cute little town.
And I would invite all of the ladies from Last Year Single.
So it wouldn't feel like a one-on-one force thing.
It's gonna be a 10-on-one.
It's awesome.
Yeah, 10-on-one's even better.
It could be like your own bachelor show
or your own, would they call it?
That's amazing.
I'm not that professional, Renee.
Please don't overestimate me.
David, you're up for it, dude.
I'm not that professional.
All you gotta do is show up as yourself
and that's all that matters.
Oh my gosh, y'all are killing me.
Look, I got brand new glasses today.
I had to bring them in though
because they were a little crooked.
And I was like, it kept crashing into my eyelashes.
And I'm like, there's something wrong with these.
I'm getting used to them though.
I feel like they're almost eerily similar
to Brian's glasses.
I'm like, all right, we're that married couple
that our glasses are looking similar to each other.
All right, you guys have to, okay, Kenton.
How old are you again?
67.
Okay, what's the status with you?
Are you still dating the chick that,
we won't go there, but are you still dating her?
Thanks a lot.
No, because I'm sorry, I'm not a fan
of anybody who's stringing you along
and you have to deal with like a family
that doesn't, you're amazing.
And if that family, I just want you to be
with somebody who celebrates you
and her family celebrates you.
No, I thank you very much.
That's kind of you, Renee, and you're right.
I would love to be in a relationship
where the whole family does celebrate me.
It'd be nice.
We're coming to a decision here
within the next couple of weeks and she knows it.
So she's, yeah, as I said there,
she knows she's coming to a conclusion.
So she's got to make a decision.
So I put a date on it, so.
Okay, awesome.
Okay, so Tim, you came to work.
You're looking amazing, dude.
You're looking studly, bro.
I just want to give you props.
See that?
I'm just saying, you know what?
There is, I will say this, Kenton,
if you come to my town.
You're gonna look good, bro.
You got, your cheekbones are fricking really masculine
and like.
And Kenton, there is a 60 something year old woman.
She has traveled the world.
She's been a missionary.
She came to, Brian and I had a little mini graduation party
slash if you haven't met my husband yet,
come meet him.
And Allison, actually Allison talked to Brian longer
than I did, because again, there were too many people.
I couldn't keep up with everybody.
She's also sweetheart, mid 60s.
I would love to see her with somebody.
So if you're ever in,
because you know Canada flies direct to Nashville.
I'm just saying.
Listen, girl, I'm coming to the decision
because what's going on here in Canada
that I've been easily becoming a United States citizen.
I have no problems with that one.
You just let me know.
You let me know the second you're ready to be introduced
and I'm gonna introduce you.
My biggest, there's something at my age,
you really do refine.
Who you are looking for because you've lived long enough to know that and being a counselor it even helps even more
Yeah, but mine is if they don't meet my love language is exactly the same
I wouldn't even look at him twice because I find that those who do not meet the same love languages. They struggle
They still struggle in a marriage. What are your love languages? My two top ones are
touch and
The other one is quality time
very common for men and
I will find I'm gonna find out a little bit more information because she's also lived in other countries and she would not mind
She's financially stable and she would not mind living. I don't know what you would call it. It's not by coastal
What do you call it when it's two countries?
Abroad dual citizenship dual. Well, whatever you want to call it. Okay. I'm just saying. Okay, so
What
Seems like a good term. Oh
Yeah, yeah, there you go, okay Tim we are finding out I don't have it I can't do any guarantees
But I'm getting a list of all of you
Interested because I know Jackie's doing those single spotlights on Instagram. I don't really know what our parameters are
but if that's something that you're interested in I would be
happy to
Pass your name along if you want you just have to tell me your age and where you live and if you have kids right
now and
If you're interested, are you interested?
I'm gonna pass. Okay, what tell me what's going on in your life that you're passing? Where you at? Are you dating somebody?
Are you doing?
What's going on? I?
Fully believe God has me waiting to pursue a particular someone
Oh
Tim is the one that's saying there's a specific someone is she someone who is in the program right now? Nope. Is she single?
No, oh
Sweet baby Jesus, I promise you the Lord is not picking somebody that's married. He ain't married
Okay, is she dating somebody?
Okay, the problem well the problem with that is you're gonna have to wait for them to break up and her guess I'm healing
Like are you guys even friends? Does she know who you are?
We're good friends has
So has she friend-zoned you though? Like do you have any?
Inkling that she sees you as more than a friend
For a girl who's dating someone else she likes me a lot
Well, wouldn't that see what that concerns me?
You're not concerned that a woman with another man is giving you attention
That question is really broad
Okay, like that has been just chuckled over there
I'm just saying you just speak
I'm just gonna ask you to be careful about that because and I certainly do not have a a perfect past
but if I
Liked a guy
Who was not completely?
Single
Once we got together I battled a lot of will he do that to me?
and so
That is it. That is a good statement because what they will not or what they will do before marriage
They will continue that on in marriage by the way and being a counselor myself
I have seen couples over and over where the woman or the man won't release somebody from the past. They just can't
So that's my prayer to my prayer is if she truly if God truly has her for you and
She is hanging out with you or friends with you. Are you guys hanging out alone at all? I mean
Almost never
Okay
That's good. Well, that's good. I mean part of the same friend group Bible study. Yeah. Yeah
I don't ever try to hang out with her alone. Yeah
Now, do you know him is he in the same group? Mm-hmm
And how does he treat you I
Can tell he's a good guy by how he treats me
So, I mean we're not we're not buddies, but we're not
Are they are they an exclusive relationship?
Mm-hmm
well just I mean
You know, and Dan wrote that in there, just think about how you would want to be treated
or how you would want your girlfriend to be treated.
You wouldn't want a man going after her.
So I'm going to trust and believe that if you are meant to be together, the breakup
will be swift and fast, or God will lead your heart in a different direction.
Because I have believed in the past, Oh, the Lord has us together.
No, he's not free.
Like he's with somebody else.
The Lord typically doesn't give us somebody that's attached to somebody else, even if
it's just dating.
And the fact that you guys are all in a Bible study together, that sounds a little bit like
it could be really messy.
So I'm going to be...
I'm only staying in this situation because I believe I'm being led to three or four different
ways.
Otherwise, I would be trying to get to know other beautiful women for my church.
It's not what I would naturally want to do.
So give me one of those ways.
So I had been going to a different group at the same time as our Bible study that was
obviously a schedule conflict.
And both the leaders of that and myself and my mom all thought I should be going to the
Bible study she's at last fall.
Because of her?
No, not because of her.
But I wouldn't be choosing to go to that if it was just up to me.
But just because people...
I would be...
Why else do you think God might be leading you to that small group and other people encouraging
you to join the other group?
I don't understand the question.
Well you said that other people and your mom suggested this group to you.
And if it wasn't to meet her, what was the reason for you wanting to go to this particular
group?
So there had been talk of me potentially becoming an associate leader of the group.
That has not come to fruition, but my plan of action was just to start attending and
then see where things go.
I hardly ever get to attend now because work is a schedule conflict.
But it's still the group that I attend when I'm not working.
Right.
So hear that though.
Hear what you're saying.
People have encouraged you to join this group because you might make a good co-leader or
leader in training in this group.
That's really different than you snagging the girl that's dating somebody else in the
group.
Do you know what I'm saying?
Like if anything, that could be the enemy trying to distract you from being the leader.
And so I don't know that because of my point.
My point is that if I were following what I want to do, I would not be putting myself
in proximity to her like this.
Because you're attracted to her.
Yeah, I get that.
Well, I feel like some of us have been where you are, Tim.
And so none of us say this in judgment and in condemnation to you or to shame you or
put you on the spot.
I will just say we're going to be praying a covering over you because I would hate for
the enemy to use a physical desire that you might have for somebody to squelch a potential
ministry leadership position.
Because I can tell you in leadership, because I've been in Christian leadership, you will
be attracted to women who are not your spouse.
I just don't believe that we're only attracted to our spouse.
I believe that over the years, you will find attraction to other people.
And part of the health of your ministry is learning how to keep those, you know, learning
the boundaries and keeping them away.
One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was abstinence single is the same muscle as
fidelity married.
You're working that same like, hey, just because I'm married, just because I'm this doesn't
mean that I'm never going to face attraction again.
So just keep that in mind.
We will be praying for you.
And I'm just going to be praying that God is swift and clear to you so that you're not
sitting in a place of confusion, because that would be really hard for me.
It would be really hard for me to.
to be thinking about a leadership position
while also attracted to the hot guy that I can't have.
Like, that seems awful.
And so I'm gonna pray that the Lord
doesn't keep you in that place either.
He's gonna work it all out,
have you lose feelings for her,
or she break up quickly, whatever.
Yeah.
Tim, if I may step in for a moment right now.
Please jump in.
Tim, I've been caught in this situation as well too.
I hate to say it, I was deceived.
Simple as that.
Everything was right,
knew the Lord was telling me to minister to this person.
But the thing was,
I was only to minister to that person, that's all.
And I was moving in towards a higher degree
because I thought the Lord was leading me in that direction.
The basic thing is that what I found out,
there's the perfect will of God,
or there's the permissible will of God.
And you could be caught in the permissible will right now,
but it's not what you wanna be.
You wanna be in the perfect will of God,
especially a man that's possibly moving
into a ministry position,
because you're to a higher calling.
You are totally a higher calling.
Just say for a moment, she breaks up,
and she wants to start dating you.
How will that look to the group?
You gotta think about this.
How would the rest of the group see this action?
What would be going through their mind?
What would the devil be doing to their minds?
That's why as ministers, we try not to date somebody
within our particular groups,
because right now I'm in a singles group,
but I told all the women in the singles group,
I'm not gonna date any of you,
because it's gonna be really awkward if we break up,
and it won't be good for you.
I could carry on, but it's gonna be hard for you.
So I'm always looking out for the woman,
always looking out for her,
because I'm trying to protect her from the enemy
and from other people's viewpoints or opinions.
So my job as a gentleman, as a man,
is to protect the woman at all times,
even when I may be attracted to him in a particular group,
but I'll say, no, I need a safe place,
and she needs a safe place.
And I think that's hard for a person to minister in.
When you do enjoy, and you're hoping,
and you're really believing that the Lord
is leading you in this particular area,
I would just take a step back.
If it lines up with scripture, with all that you're doing,
you know what, then maybe, I'm gonna say maybe,
but if it doesn't all line up with your thoughts
and your feelings, then sometimes it is just,
there's a wall there that we just don't see.
Yes, go ahead.
It may be relevant that if I were to become
associate leader of this group,
I would be associate leader with her.
So she is currently associate leader.
There's two things happening here.
I think, yeah, the attraction of somebody who minister,
there's a real attraction there.
Believe it or not, thousands of couples go through this,
or people who go through this,
that they co-minister with somebody,
and they start moving, attracting, they start,
I'm gonna say this word, but I'm gonna say it very loosely.
They start fantasizing what it's like
to minister with them, and their heart is drawn,
or their mind is drawn, but really,
their heart, it's not the best thing.
Yeah, yeah, that's a dangerous ground right there.
And I'm just saying that openly, Tim, too,
because you're part of the LYS.
You want the best, you wanna be healed,
you wanna make the best choice, you want your spirit made.
There's no doubt about that, that's what we're all here for.
And people in ministry are very attractive, by the way.
Very attractive.
That's why women come up to us pastors,
and they just swoon over us,
because, oh, he's the pastor, or she's a minister,
and it's, yeah, it's a terrible thing.
We have to guard ourselves at all times.
It's horrible at times.
But yeah, you have to keep your guard,
and it's so easy to fall into that line.
That's why we lost so many pastors.
We lose 1,800 pastors a month.
Yeah.
Because of that.
And so it's nothing new under the sun.
Yeah.
But I love your heart, though.
I really do, because you're listening to the Lord.
Yeah.
Yeah, Mr. Tim, I have to say, I know where you're at,
because I've had Renee, Kenton, and Jackie
have this same stupid conversation with me.
Like, so, and you know, it's a great conversation.
It didn't feel super awesome at the time.
But, you know, God brings blessing without,
what is that verse, like, without sorrow or whatever.
Like, you know, I've come up with this adage
because I'm gonna love the person in front of me,
and the Lord will bring me one to keep at some point.
But like, so often, keep.
being, get to stay with, but my best,
one of my best friends is like,
Mike, your dating life is really productive.
And I'm like, for who?
Everybody but me.
And the Lord has used me to reset the standard
for dozens of ladies, right?
And to love them well and show them
what it means to be loved well.
And eventually one of them I'll get to keep, right?
And so I just encourage you.
That's so good, Mike.
I'm there to reset their values or reset their,
that was standard.
Yeah, the standard.
And like, because I'm a man,
because I'm a lover and I'm a man of honor,
I don't trust me, but he does.
But you know what?
I've had the opportunity,
you know, like you guys,
we get a chance to reset people,
ladies boundaries, like boundaries.
We, you know, like we don't cross them.
We show them this is what a dude
that doesn't cross boundaries looks like.
This is what somebody who's righteous.
This is what somebody who's honoring.
And most women, I mean,
a lot of them don't know what to do with that.
Yeah.
Right.
And I've had to be careful because I've gotten,
wanted to get a little friendly sometimes,
but like, and had to have good boundaries there too.
But you know, we're men of honor, right?
And Tim, dude, it sucked.
I have to say, I'm not saying that I've had fun.
Like every, I mean, I've had,
I came here to the last year single
after two and a half years expecting that one to come.
And she never did actually saw her Saturday too.
And she hasn't changed one bit in three years,
which is so sad to me.
She can't even say hi to me and she's in this group.
Well, actually, I don't know if she's in this group,
but anyways, but, but like my whole point is,
is like the right one will come at the right time.
And Kenton, I love how,
so this was the one that I'm talking about,
you know, Kenton, you nailed it.
I didn't understand.
And I'm still learning.
God's perfect will.
I had visions, open dreams, like so many things,
like 30, 40, like absurd amount, right?
But I realized that's God's perfect will.
That's his, but it's not his permissive will
because she has a choice.
And I always heard him say,
it's like, if she trusts you, it'll go.
If she learns to trust you, it'll go.
And she never learned to trust me.
So was it God's intent?
I'm pretty sure, almost positive.
Was she able to partner?
No.
And so therefore, when one side can't hold up the cord,
you can't be in that, right?
And then, but I can't tell you just for just,
every person since her has been an upgrade.
And so like, you know,
God doesn't like give diminishing returns.
Yeah.
And so I just hope that's helpful.
I mean, that's why I said, Tim,
like I just want to tell Renee,
like you got another mic in the group
because like I had almost the same exact conversation
and they love me enough to hit me in the ribs
a couple of times and say, hey, hey, hey, stop it.
We don't want you to get hurt.
So I love you, Tim.
And dude, your look is great.
I'd stay with that.
You're looking studly, bro.
I know, I was like, Tim, you're way too good looking,
way too kind, way too talented.
I mean, that's the thing.
Like, I don't think the Lord is ever gonna bring us the job,
a person or a blessing
that comes at the expense of somebody else.
Like, I just don't see that.
That's just not the way God operates.
Like if God was truly guarding you two to be together,
not just in ministry, but in a relationship,
he would almost be keeping you busy over here
while she figured out her relationship over there
so that you don't come into the story
until they were no more.
Like, that's how God would be doing it.
He would be protecting you,
guarding your heart and guarding this other guy's heart.
That would be more how God would do it.
So that's why we're gonna be praying into that,
that God starts to shield you and protect you
and protect really all three of you.
Like, that's gonna be our prayer
is that the enemy doesn't get a foothold
in with you, with her or the other guy
unless that is gonna sever over there completely.
The thing that we always have to remember as men,
and often we forgive this,
if the woman that we are pursuing,
when they know us in some way,
and if they naturally attract it to you as well too,
but eventually it becomes that
their head over heels over you.
If they're not head over heels for you,
just walk away because there's something really wrong
because God puts in the hearts of men,
he puts the desires in their hearts.
It's not the desires of your heart.
That's mistranslated by the way.
It's his desires in you that you get to take a bonus on.
So when you know when that desire is not in a woman,
she desires you, their head over heels over you.
But a lot of guys take, what's the word?
I'm looking for. They step back and they take second best. What's the other word for that?
Settling? Settling?
Yeah, settling. They're settling. God doesn't want you to settle. Not a chance. When they
have the same love language as you do and the same interest and hobbies. Boy, those people
can't keep their hands off. They want to be with each other at all times, right from the very
beginning. And so, yeah, I feel for you, David. I really do. Because I've been through at least
two or three of those relationships, even in my younger years. And none of them worked out
because what she did to leave that guy, she did to me. Get a hold of this. What she did,
what she will do to that guy to date you, she'll do to you in the end. That's not honor. That's
not honor at all. She would be saying, you know what, David, I can't have anything to do. I'm
dealing with this guy until it changes. You know what? It's not a good thing.
All right. So I feel like we've given you our piece. I don't want you to feel like we're
belaboring it or coming at you because like Mike said, we've all been in this spot. I can't tell
you how many times I thought the Lord was putting me in a position to be with somebody else who was
attached to somebody else. And boy, and so all of us, I think, are passionate about it because
of the great pain that we walked through. But we're going to be praying for you. And you're
probably thinking, man, I should have just told Renee. Yes, I'm interested in being spotlighted
and it would have been a lot easier. I'm too honest to do that.
No. I mean, I appreciate it. And like I said, we're going to be praying a covering over you
because it is really hard when you feel a connection to somebody. And we get that.
I love it. Okay. What else? Do you guys still see, oh, has anybody heard from Andy who's in
the Philippines with that chick? Nope. Not yet. Nope. Not yet.
I'm praying for him today, actually. So I was thinking about him today.
I just feel like there's going to be a Netflix movie about this soon.
It's going to be beautiful, Renee. It's going to be beautiful. You've got mail. It's going to be
the next You've Got Mail, but it's the Philippines version. Anyway, so Renee, you're really good at
practicalities, right? So Saturday, last Saturday, anyway, a week ago Saturday. So how do you
what do you deal with ladies in groups and how do you know if there's interest or not or otherwise?
I mean, I was in Reading and I was like, I have no idea how to figure out any of you guys and
discern. Like, so what are signs we could be looking for? What are things that we could do
to see? I hate that women are pack animals sometimes and they just sit together. And
well, because I have no problem going up and getting smoked. But then I'm like,
I'm like, is there even an opening that's worth going for? Does that make sense?
So I think there's no easy way to do it in a group setting. Like, here's the thing. Like,
if I was running into you and it was just me, how I would let you know
you could ask me out is like Jackie talks about it. I would gaze longer at you. I would smile
like head down, eyes looking up, that kind of flirty smile. I would find an excuse to touch you.
Women who are interested, find an excuse to touch your shoulder, your arm, your hand. We will touch
it safely, appropriately, we will touch. And so there's like the half smile,
the batting of the eyes, the kind of laughing, the kind of leaning and we lean in.
Now, if I was talking in front of seven other girls and you, I would feel less comfortable
doing that because I wouldn't know who of the rest of the posse might also find you cute.
And because of girl code, I wouldn't want to like, you know, I might flirt, but like,
I wouldn't go to the extent that I would if the girls weren't there. And for you,
I feel like there's a no win in that moment. I feel like the only way that you can do it safely
is message one of them after the fact saying, hey, I really enjoyed getting to know you.
I would love to have some, you know, I'd love to, you know, go for a walk or grab some coffee
and get to know you one-on-one. There's so much I don't know about you. There's so much you don't
know about me. If that's something you're remotely interested in, I'd love to book that. If you are
not at all, no harm, no foul. And I don't want you to feel bad the next time.
you see me in a group setting? Yeah the problem is this is a cold it's a group
that I went to that was that I don't know anybody there. You don't know their
last name so you can't go find them? No no and so no but like I just was
wondering this so I guess there is the pack that's why I was wondering because
there's this gal maybe I should have gone on my instinct and like actually
made something of it because I can't feel her wanting to peel away or so but
then I'm like yeah she looked younger but like so what you need to have is you
need to have I call it the business card ready and I know this sounds cliche and
stupid but and I talked to the girls about this and one of the phase three
classes so a lot of them have their own business cards or what they call dating
business cards because I said even have it for girlfriends like you run into
people but you're like hey oh my gosh I really enjoyed our conversation I don't
have time here's my card it's got my cell phone in my email I'd love to
follow up and have a conversation with you if not no big and so that's where
you kind of have to have like so those little cute business cards handy and it
could just literally be your name. They're not going to be cute. I will not make a cute
business card I am sorry I refuse. Do you have a business card? I will be a manly
business card but no cute. Okay well have a manly business card. Even better yet use a work business card or print work business cards. I wish I would have kept my work business cards. Well and just find some or make some that look like a business card and just say. I'll do my nonprofit. Exactly and then you can just so when you're in that group setting you can kind of walk over to her to say look I don't want to make a big deal out of this in front of everybody but I could be wrong I'd love to get to know you more.
If that is not what you're thinking or wanting you can take my card and toss it down in the garbage when I walk out I'm all good and like you just literally be that direct like there are times I wish I had been that bold like I mean in the grocery store and you run into the same person like five times and you keep having a conversation and you're like huh I wonder if I'm supposed to give my number out and I just never did in those moments and now
I'm like gosh I wish I'd just been bold you know it worked out in the end well it all worked out for me in the end although I'm saying yeah so you know but no that's good I messed up so many times Mike that guy was like all right I'm gonna have to give you another guy because you missed the first three I gave you you know but and so now it's gonna take 15 more years cuz this guy's gonna have you know but like you never lose I know
I didn't and that's the beauty in it so that's the thing that's a message to all of you even if you've not been bold when you should have or you went down the wrong path when you shouldn't have God's gonna work it around like it might take a little bit longer so do I think some of my delay is because of the choices I made yeah I do like I don't think there's only one person for us I think there are God wants us to have free will do I think there were some that God could have made a way for it yeah do I think I blew a few of them yeah but I think I mean
it's a Ken's point I don't know who said it I also think that are you maybe you said it Mike I also think that there's a couple of relationships where I think they blew it like I could have been a really good match for them and they just weren't ready and they said no and they went back to Egypt just like I think I said no a couple times and God works all that that through he's like all right that could have been a baby I mean and the reality is is okay like you guys I mean if you if it really is from the Lord and you're you
know like that you know that was why actually when I went back to Reading I was wondering if she was coming back she would finally come back around and she she came she did come back around but it wasn't in that content right it's truly from the Lord he's gonna bring it around again well right and and once again I you know I'm she's from a different country and so I actually had scrubbed up on their language and I said something in it to her and she didn't even didn't even break stride
and so I was like oh okay so you're incognito still all right and I I mean you guys I don't care how bad I like do we I said hey you know what if you you know I know you're going through some stuff if you ever are ready to like get into a serious relationship let's go and that was how I ended it right but but you guys like if they can't say hi to you after you've kind of like that's just really not good I mean like I I have people who literally should be my enemies and I
I'm like hey guy hey bro how's it going right you know like I don't want anything to do with you because you're a snake but like I'm the same way Mike like there is not an ex I wouldn't say well there might be one that I wouldn't say hello to just because he's an unsafe person
person, but I'm going to be kind with everybody,
but I kind of feel like if you can't be kind to me
after we've had a relationship,
and that's even with girlfriends,
like what are we, five?
Like, how is that?
We're going to be hanging out in eternity forever,
so get used to hanging out with me.
Well, that's the thing is that that shows maturity
on the other person's part,
because if you might've been married to that person
that was that immature though,
if they can't be a mature person after,
and bless you and still be friendly with you,
then they're not mature and you just dodged a bullet.
Oh yeah, I mean.
Amen, Kenton, amen.
Amen, I mean, I think about that, like really,
I mean, for goodness sake.
Well, and you guys like,
this, you know, it's the first,
it's the summer season, the summer harvest.
And like, you know, my friend,
she was prophesying this morning,
you guys, you know, it's the summer harvest season,
plant the seeds, right?
Harvest the seeds that have been planted.
So like the Lord's bringing things around.
So just be looking, you know,
I think a lot of times we don't,
you can't grab something if you're not looking for it,
or it's harder to, I mean,
I guess technically you could be,
oh, oops, last second, grab it.
But, you know, be looking for what the Lord has for you,
whether it's a job, it's this house,
it's a spouse, it's a whatever,
it's just a hug in the morning, right?
Like you guys, we gotta get our,
like, he's such a good dad, right?
And like, I think so often he's like,
hey, I left stuff for you, but you never saw it.
Yeah.
And so I just encourage you, it's the summer season,
just to see what dad's doing each day, you know?
By the way, Jackie is gonna be leading
special sessions for the next two Thursdays,
kind of going off of the topic of her book.
And I think you'll see that on your calendar.
So I just wanted to put that out there for you.
And there might be some good gold for you,
some good nuggets in there to glean from it.
Does she have an audio book?
I have like 95 books, like literally like 95 books to read.
You know what, I don't know,
let's go and see if you can get it on.
Cause I know when I did my book through Amazon,
you were able to get it on Kindle.
Do it on Audible?
And then Kindle can read to you.
Cause I use Alexa or I use Speechify now
because I need it for college,
cause I need it to read all kinds of documents to me.
It's called what?
Her book is called.
Well, no, I know her book,
I know the name of her book is Modern Dating Suck.
Oh, so one of the things I use is called Speechify.
And so it can download, if you have it on a PDF,
Speechify can read it.
So that's how I read all my journal articles
and stuff in the car.
What other do you know?
But I'm curious if her says Kindle.
No, see what, she's only got it as,
she's only got it as a paperback option.
I wonder why she did that.
Well, she might be coming out with it.
It's just came out.
So, so no, but like, like what you guys,
I don't know if you heard.
But I mean, I would go anyway to the sessions
without buying the book.
No, absolutely.
And well, I mean, she's like, it's like,
it's be your own matchmaker is what I heard her say.
Like, it's a book is about being your own matchmaker
and doing your own thing.
And everything Jackie does is pretty phenomenal.
So I just, I'm doing all kinds of research
on spiritual warfare at the moment.
So that's where my thing is.
I love that.
That's so funny, Dan, that you know, Speechify.
Yeah, you can have Snoop Dogg read.
I can have Snoop Dogg read me my biology books to me.
Sorry, I'm late.
No, you're good, Hunter.
You're good.
We're just checking in with each other.
How else can I, so Mike did,
so basically the answer to that question,
and this is good for all of you guys,
is have it, have a way ready quickly
to try to discreetly get your information to them
just to say, hey, and it's real simple.
And it's the same way I tell the women to say it.
Hey, I'd love to get to know you offline,
but if that's not, but you know,
but of course, if that's not where you're at,
that's totally okay.
No harm, no foul.
It was really nice meeting you.
And then you go on your way.
And at the very least,
somebody might feel good about getting that message,
even if they're not interested in pursuing it further.
Like, you know how you just said, Mike,
that sometimes you're there to reset their standards.
They could have had just a really bad day
or somebody made them feel like crud
and you doing that might make them feel like,
oh, like that was God's wink.
Like somebody saw me.
So like, you know, we did that,
the first dating game thing, whatever,
and it ended up that the one that I'd shown you.
We couldn't match I mean she couldn't relocate and neither could I and I was like super bummed
I'm like, I'm so sorry. She's like, you know, she's and Jackie's like, you know what she got chosen
Yeah, right like, you know, and so she got chosen and that and she was having a rough time
Yeah, and and so I was like, okay God cuz I'm like, man, I felt so bad
You know, it's so
Good
Muffins on tonight. There you go, baby. That's good, David
And remind me we're in Connecticut, are you
What
What can you guys hear him no
You're not close enough to your mic
It's like muffled
Are you on your ear buds? Yes that happened to me with my earbuds
But I said Bellevue but that's in Washington, that's why I don't know that there's a Bellevue in Oh Derby, okay
Well
Well, I'm gonna be in Connecticut July
17 through the 20 17 20th 20
Yeah, 17 through the 20th, but we're like in
trombone
And I can't remember how close but if it's to come get a slice of pizza
You maybe we can I mean trombone
Now I can hear you go. We can hear you much better
Yeah, trombone is about I want to say a 10-minute drive from where I'm at. Shut up. Oh my god
because like for me to get to like the
Train station is not there and I can like drive and could be in New York within an hour or so
Well, it's funny you say that because we're gonna go into New York City that Friday
You know since that's where Brian proposed to me, it's you know, it's like the day before our
Family my family reunion. So he's like, yeah, we need to go back to New York City
We're just gonna
Empire State Building. We're not gonna go in it again
Is this again?
July 17
Was
That's actually the day before my brother's birthday. Yeah, so we'll be in Connecticut the 18th
We're gonna be a Sherwood Island at on the 18th. So if you want to be around a hundred plus Italians
Come to Sherwood Island on Saturday the 18th and you will be well fed
Send me an invite and I'll just say I'm carb loading
Like a point to my calves. I can still I can prove I'm not lying. I'm not a runner. So
Oh
Wait, what about what's the running thing? I'm missing that. What's that joke? What are you trying to say?
Just say I'm carb loading because I'm trying to like train for a race or something. Oh my gosh, you're so funny
It's technically the truth
On the 20th this month. I got a plan to dilute for that
Cuz like to come to Sherwood Island, don't you just need a Connecticut license to get in for free?
It's just a state it's a state beach
So I think the state beaches you just need a license
One of the beaches of Westport
I know needs one like I would have to research to see if Sherwood Island is that one or the other one?
Sure, what island is in Westport?
Yeah
Yeah, what yeah Westport's about like a good 10-15 minutes from the church. I go to in Fairfield. So
Which way would you go to Black Rock I
Sure. No
Okay, my nephew goes to Black Rock
In fact, he is about to go on a mission trip to where they go and he's gonna do his electrical work
No way
Mm-hmm. Oh my god
The recent one was I know there went to DR bottle that that we are I think they're going to the DR
Because the young adults are going to the DR
Currently right now and I think there's another one next month if I'm not mistaken
He's about 29
Small world
It's 29 or 30, but he can use some male friends, too
He's had it rough. He's had a rough
I'm in the rough one right now, too. You're another rough one. What's going on Hunter? How can we help you?
Oh, I'm just thinking about be when I was talking to this woman I mentioned about a church one didn't show up
I did text but then the other one said we didn't have because she was
busy serving, but I managed to go up and talk to them, but I hate to be the one instigating
the conversation, but I know there's a saying, you don't beg, guys, we don't beg for a relationship
at all, but you just want to draw a woman to you, well, I can see why today I don't
draw women to me, because I may look cool on the outside, but deep down I'm throwing
a little tantrum at me wanting to use violence towards someone's husband, because how come
God gets to bless you, almost like Cain and Abel style, but of course, that's the devil
talking.
Oh, well, you know what, Hunter, we've all been there, for sure, that is why, you guys,
it is...
How am I supposed to get in a relationship, it's all impossible, I say, God, if it's not
your will, it's not your will, it's not saying I should just boycott, it means you're just
not going to be the source of my joy.
Well, here's what I can tell you, I think that for most of us, the Lord doesn't want
us to be alone, I believe that there's only a small population where the Lord is like,
yeah, you're going to be on your own, and I believe for those people, they in fact want
to be alone, like I think that's the desire of their heart, I do think that's why Jackie
wrote the book that she did, I think when she first started the program, I think she
thought, well, if everybody gets their heart healed, they're going to find their person,
and I think the longer she's been in the program with us, and she's learned all of our stories,
I think she's realized, oh my gosh, you guys are up against things that people did not
used to be up against, and so I think in the same way that the enemy wants to end marriages
and end legacies, he is blocking them from happening in the first place, and so we have
an epidemic, you guys, I took a screenshot of this, and I don't know how legit the number
is, but people have said it's a legit number, and they were talking about the percentage
of people that are married by the age of 30 from like the 1930s to today, and it used
to be like 80% of the population was married by the time they were 30, and then of recent
years, it's like 25%, like it's dramatically different of how many people are still single.
Nope, that's not it.
I took a screenshot of it, but I got too many damn screenshots.
I wanted change.
But all that to say, I think that we're dealing with harder times, and what I was trying to
say is, I think while most people romanticize, oh, I want to meet somebody in the wild, I
want to meet them in real life, I don't want to meet them online.
The problem with meeting people in the wild is, it is really hard sometimes to discern
if they're really interested and really date ready.
Are they relationship ready?
Are they commitment ready?
And are they interested in you?
So like to Mike's point, he's out on the thing with a bunch of people, does she like me or
not?
You know, Hunter, you're at church, and you're talking to these women, are they just being
nice to me, or are they interested in me?
So that's the downside of meeting people in the wild, is you don't know how ready they
are.
You don't know how interested they are.
So you have to do a lot more guessing, and you have to put yourself out there, which
means you have to be willing to get the no.
So you know, Hunter, the most obvious way is, you know, you just be blunt.
Like I'm dating intentionally, and you're somebody I would like to get to know one-on-one.
Is that something you would be interested in?
Boom.
I mean, it puts people on the spot pretty quickly, but it gives you a no.
Now, Kenton just looking at me like, are you kidding me?
So maybe that's like too bold, but I guess I would rather know.
When I think about how many men in church that I liked, that I thought liked me back,
I mean, there were guys I even went out on what I thought was a date, and it was not
a date.
I'm like, oh, that wasn't a date?
I thought that was a date.
Like when I look back at how many men I like was the one I'm looking for, I pined over
for not just weeks, I mean months.
I was like, I mean, there was like some guy at the theater group.
I'm like, oh, I'm going to make sure I'm standing next to him when we hold hands for prayer,
and I'm going to make sure at church I'm sitting next to this guy during dinner.
I look back now and I'm like, gosh, I wish some of them were just a bit more blunt with
me.
Renee, I just don't like you that way.
Thank you.
I'm embarrassed for a moment, but okay, I can just save my time and move on.
I'm reading what you wrote, Kenton.
Yeah.
You'll never really know.
what you want until you know what you don't want.
So true.
One of the best advices I got from somebody is they said, Renee,
when you're getting a job, it's not a failure to learn a job
that you never want to do.
Like I went to go work for an ad agency.
I hated it.
I wasn't there eight months.
And she goes, now you've learned what you don't want.
Learning what you don't want is as important as learning what you want.
And so.
They are the scratch.
Hilarious.
And then here's another thing that's tagged.
I need to tackle is someone in church that I've been knowing for years
says they're going to move to Florida.
I think if I'm going to meet my spirit man married, then nobody's
neighbor is going to be at the wedding.
The older I get, the more people fade and the more people fade in more.
They won't see me marry.
And at that point, I'm just going to say, you know what?
Worthless, I'm not going to marry.
There's no point to it anymore.
Figure what's the point of it if you're not going to share my life with you?
Yeah, well, I will say this, Hunter, how old are you?
Thirty seven, even though I try.
You're a young pup.
I will say this.
I have. Thought plenty of times.
It's never going to happen for me, like my time is up, it's not going to happen.
But I'm glad and this is really and I credit Jackie for this,
because if it wasn't for her voice nagging in the back of my head,
I would not have gotten online one more time.
And that's how I met Brian.
And right now, truly.
He is the best husband for me,
and I feel so blessed, and even though I feel so frickin old,
do you know I can still get be married to him for twenty five years?
Like we're still young enough
that I could celebrate a twenty fifth wedding anniversary.
And so I wouldn't want.
So I don't need you to have a lot of hope, Hunter.
I just need you to have a tiny amount of hope.
I just want you to stay in the game.
Now, you also might get to the place that I was.
And this is where I was with Jackie.
I said, Jackie, unless it's a hell, yes, it's a no.
Like I have done life long enough.
I'm successful. I'm outgoing.
I have friends. I've got community. I've got money.
I own my own home.
Like, I don't need to get married just for the sake of getting married.
I'm past the age of having babies.
So if I get married, it's a hell yes or it's a no.
And so you may get to that stage.
You may get to the stage where you're like, you know what?
I have a good life and I love my life
and I'm not going to be with a woman unless she's all in for me.
And that's what I want for all of you,
which is where we started our conversation tonight.
We only want women for you that are hell yeses like
she can't wait to live with you and she can't imagine life without you.
And when she gets married to you, she's going to say to all of you,
you are worth the wait. All right.
So it's that balance is holding both of those together.
Oh, did I already send an email about being on the spotlight or so?
Well, I like I said to the guys at the beginning, you miss that.
I'm messaging Jackie about that because I don't know what her process is.
So I made a list tonight and I know you're on that list of all the people
that are willing to be spotlighted about her or from her.
So I will get that out to her.
I did not get to go to the team meeting today, so I did not get to ask it live.
But I am going to message her and follow up with her in the next week.
And and and the other thing I got,
at least the only positive thing I got going is jujitsu.
I'm now doing it every day of the week except Sunday or so and Saturday.
And basically a lot of a lot of guys I spar with, they they're married.
And I think women like it when a guy does jujitsu or so.
Well, women love strong men.
We we you know, but Kenton, you were on the class that I did.
What was it last week?
I said, oh, and I looked at my dating list of all the things I wanted in a guy.
Somebody looked at my list and he's like, you want a gay braveheart?
Like what? I wanted gay braveheart.
Like I wanted all the masculine elements of a braveheart guy, strong guy.
But I wanted all the touchy feely elements of a gay man.
He was like, it's not going to be in one person.
No. And,
and, you know, I would say, you know, Brian is not either one.
He is not gay or brave.
But he's the best little version that I needed.
So God knew better than.
me. What was that? That one that the shaggy professor
remember that movie? Oh my God. No. It was. I look at Brian
that way. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Well, you know, okay. Do
you ever see the cartoon? Which one was it up with the little
man who wears the bow tie and his wife died and he goes out
traveling? Was it up? He looks like that guy. He looks like
that little character. You say that? Yeah, I think he does.
Okay. And so Dan, just to let you know, we get there by six
30 in the morning to save like 15 tables. So we're there. We
cook breakfast, farm eggs, bacon, egg, and cheese
sandwiches on those nice Italian rolls. And then we do a big
lunch and then my family stays for dinner and we make homemade
pasta. That sounds like a challenge. I'm down. And we
have every kind of clams. We do clams on a half shell. We steam
the clams. Yeah. One of my high school buddies, big Italian
baby to his house. Trust me. I'm ready for that. I'll have to
just remember. Are you on the, are you in the app? Uh, the app?
Yeah. Oh yeah. You guys are in the app. That's how you get in
here, right? Yes. I'm sorry. I don't like, wait. Yeah, I'm on
the app. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my goodness. Well, is there anything
else you guys want to chat about tonight? It's, it's the five
after the hour, but I mean, I can stay on, but I also don't
want to keep you if we're done too. So are we doing okay?
Otherwise, did you have a question to anybody feel led to
share something? Pearls of wisdom.
Just jumping back to myself for a second. I just want to say
that I appreciate you guys praying for me. Um, the two
things I constantly ask for prayer for are that I'd hear
God and trust God.
And remember, I think the one thing I am always reminded of
when we're praying to hear God correctly, whatever God is
telling us always lines up with scripture. It's never going to
be contrary to scripture. So if we think he's telling us to do
something, not do something, go somewhere, be with somebody,
it's always going to line up with the word of God. So we're
never going to be in conflict. It's never going to be
confusion. And I don't know about you, Tim, but when I'm
looking for real clarity from God, I always say, Lord, show it
to me from three different people, three different ways,
because I'm stupid and untrusting like that. So somebody
has to preach it to me, I hear it in a song on the radio, and
then some random schmo says something. And I'm like, okay,
it's the third time I just heard this. I get it, God.
So that's well, Tim, in the prophetic world, and there was
a great word spoken over the group on on Sunday night, by
the way. And I think Vaughn, or forget her name. But anyway, it
was like, yield yourself to God, check with the Holy Spirit
first, before you move, you do anything, just check on him.
Now, sometimes checking on the Holy Spirit simply means
allowing somebody else to speak into your life, that they come
up to you and say, you know what, I heard what you're
saying. And, and you know, that sure sounds like it's ringing
true, because I'm hearing the Lord saying that, as well, too.
That's always a good check. Because majority of times, if it
is not for the Lord, God's not going to send another person to
encourage that. That's for sure not. And when you sit alone, and
you think that's the right decision, but God will send
additional words or additional people your way to confirm. He
will always does that. And so don't be afraid to ask Lord to
confirm what you what you think. And if it doesn't come, then you
know that isn't you're not going down the right track. That's
all. It's very simple.
But we're rooting for you. Because we are you we're rooting
for you. And so we're in your camp for sure. Well, I love it.
Anybody else have anything you wanted to share? Otherwise, I'm
going to have Kenton close us out.
Anything else, guys? I don't want to don't want to short
change anybody, because you might have something that you
have good question that we all need to hear tonight.
Yes. It's questioning about me questioning, letting go of this.
The how do I do about this aging rat race about I'm getting older
by the day or so.
That one, you know, Hunter, you know, the Lord is always true.
And he's good. You know that. Proverbs five, three and six
trust, trust in the Lord with all your heart. Trust in the
Lord. All your heart do not lean upon your own understanding or
human understanding, because you're going to get a lot of
lies coming your way. That's good. They're not lean upon
How does it go, the rest of it?
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
do not lean upon your own understanding,
but acknowledge Him in all that you do.
When you focus upon Him, He will make your,
He, not you, He will make your path straight.
Okay, and that's by trusting on Him,
keeping your eyes on Him, keep on growing in Christ.
Because when you're doing that,
you are getting yourself ready for a woman.
As a godly man, you've got,
man, it's hard to find godly men nowadays to do, gentlemen.
But it's the men who will wash their women
with the Word of God, who know the Word of God,
and can give encouraging words over them
to the place where they feel that
they're being uplifted by the heavenly Father,
in which He is, because the Word is speaking for itself.
And so keep on trusting in the Lord for what you want,
keep on growing, Hunter.
Keep on setting your eyes upon God,
because that's, if you get discouraged,
maybe the discouragement is because
your eyes are off of God again,
and you're thinking too much about the women
instead of your relationship with the Father.
Just a thought, Hunter, just a thought.
That's good, that's a good word.
That's good for all of us, too.
We always have to make sure the person we want
is never more than Christ Himself.
And we can all fall into that trap.
Because here's the thing, as great as Brian is,
he didn't meet all my needs.
Like, there's some things only the Father can fix.
And, yeah.
All right, Kenton, pray us out.
I will.
Father, we are grateful that you have given the servants
such as Renee to come and be with us tonight, Lord.
I thank you, and may you bless her and Brian
as there are years that are coming upon them, Lord.
If you don't come back early,
may they be like that little old couple
in the end of years later,
where they're sitting on the porch,
sitting side-by-side in the rocking chair,
holding hands and looking and admiring each other,
and knowing they have such a deep love for each other
because they grew into this love.
They just didn't have it instantly,
but they grew into it with the struggles and trials.
But with every strong trial,
one comes out with a stronger character.
And so I just pray that over Renee and Brian, Lord,
that they would be that type of couple, Lord,
that their latter years are far greater
than their former years.
And that's gonna be so true.
And I see that for you, Renee and Brian, like.
And I thank the Lord for each and every one of you men
that you've had the guts to be here tonight,
that you've got the guts to improve yourself,
to want to, and instead of going on to the next relationship
with the same wounds, you had the reality check
to say, I need to get my heart right.
I just wanna thank the Lord for who you are
and you've made that step
because you're gonna become a great husband
for some very fortunate woman.
But I pray that that woman is also working
on her heart as well.
So that when you meet them,
together you come in a very wholesome way.
But even inside that marriage, gentlemen,
inside that marriage,
there's gonna be healing for both of you
because when you were hurt in a past relationship,
you'll be healed in that relationship
because you'll see what a healthy woman
or a healthy woman is looking like
in a healthy relationship.
And that will bring such healing
that you just thank God for that woman
because that's where you'll find your healing.
So Father, in this time together,
in this final minutes that we have together,
we just wanna thank you, number one,
that you are preparing each and every one of these men,
that they will be not just gentlemen,
but there'll be many who will,
I believe many will be seeking you out.
Many will be seeking you out
and will be so jealous
that with the woman that you've got in your arm,
they will be so jealous
because they see how you open the door,
how you speak loving words to her,
how you hold her in such gentle ways,
how you are always speaking well of her,
that you would do things for her
that the other one would be so jealous
and wish that their own husbands would do
or a man that they're seeking after too,
that you could hear the whispers of them
only if I had a man like that.
So I say, search after the Lord with all your heart,
seek after him with all your heart,
and that you may know him, may truly know him,
because when you know him,
that knowing is inside of you,
that character is inside of you
and people get jealous for that character.
The women get jealous for that character
because it's a godly character.
So seek after him and grow in Christ
and in doing so, you'll become very attractive.
The Holy Spirit, because you'll be,
that woman who is going for God
is gonna be attracted for a man who's going for God.
It's a natural attraction.
And so we just pray over them, Lord,
that those natural attractions will come,
that your perfect will would be in their lives.
Thank you for each and every one.
Any situation that they're going through, Lord,
you're gonna meet their needs exactly where they're at.
But you're gonna meet those needs.
And Father, I just pray that they'll take the time out
to be with you.
That's always a difficulty with us,
taking the time out to be with you.
But I can promise you, it'll be a wonderful moment
because you're gonna get revelation after revelation,
revelation about yourself and other things.
And in doing so, you're gonna win out.
And I see each and every one of you walking
with a woman in your arms that simply adores you,
truly adores you, who thinks of nothing about you,
and vice versa with you.
Because you'll know it's a match from heaven,
as Jackie often says, it's always God's match.
And I'm not saying it's the only person,
because you know there can be 7,000 women out there
that are available and are like that,
but you get to make the choice in the end.
And I wanna say thank you for those women
that you are preparing for each and every one of us.
That you're preparing, Lord.
They will be the ones, we just take our time
and just listen to what the Spirit is saying to us,
because the Spirit leads us into all truth,
not some, all truth.
Lord, I just wanna say, give us the time to settle down,
listen to you, and we'll do it your way.
And I thank you for each and every one of you.
Bless each man tonight as they're coming into their own
and they're coming into Christ.
We ask these things in your precious name, amen.
So good, so good.
All right, God bless you all.
See you soon.