WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.440 As soon as I came on, all right, it is men's night. 2 00:00:04.440 --> 00:00:07.840 It is June 1st, top of the month. 3 00:00:07.840 --> 00:00:09.600 How about them apples? 4 00:00:09.600 --> 00:00:12.920 I've got a great team with me here today. 5 00:00:12.920 --> 00:00:16.740 And I have Hubby on the couch, 6 00:00:17.540 --> 00:00:19.520 excited to join us at some point 7 00:00:19.520 --> 00:00:22.400 if we want another male perspective. 8 00:00:22.400 --> 00:00:24.900 He looks so excited to join tonight. 9 00:00:26.360 --> 00:00:29.560 I can just feel the joy coming over there from the couch. 10 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:33.040 Can you feel the love? 11 00:00:33.040 --> 00:00:35.680 So, you know, one of the things I was supposed 12 00:00:35.680 --> 00:00:38.280 to find out for you guys today, 13 00:00:38.280 --> 00:00:40.640 but because I actually had to teach a class, 14 00:00:40.640 --> 00:00:42.080 so they did have a team meeting, 15 00:00:42.080 --> 00:00:43.260 which I was surprised they did. 16 00:00:43.260 --> 00:00:44.800 I would have thought they would have canceled it, 17 00:00:44.800 --> 00:00:46.280 but they did. 18 00:00:46.280 --> 00:00:48.980 And I am trying to find out for you guys, 19 00:00:48.980 --> 00:00:50.900 for those of you that are interested, 20 00:00:50.900 --> 00:00:55.900 and maybe you can let me know if you are, 21 00:00:56.260 --> 00:01:00.380 I don't know what she's using as her criteria 22 00:01:00.380 --> 00:01:04.640 for her Instagram single spotlight, 23 00:01:04.640 --> 00:01:08.040 which she's largely just doing men for now. 24 00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:11.800 And so if that is something you're interested, 25 00:01:14.020 --> 00:01:17.980 you know, obviously Dan and Christopher and Mike, 26 00:01:17.980 --> 00:01:19.380 I see your last names. 27 00:01:19.380 --> 00:01:20.520 The other David on here, 28 00:01:20.520 --> 00:01:23.560 I don't know which David it is in your last name. 29 00:01:23.560 --> 00:01:25.920 So if that's something you're interested 30 00:01:25.920 --> 00:01:29.320 in having Jackie follow up with you on, 31 00:01:29.320 --> 00:01:30.240 please let me know, 32 00:01:30.240 --> 00:01:33.200 and I will send those, your names to her. 33 00:01:33.200 --> 00:01:35.960 Like I know Brandon is interested in it, 34 00:01:37.680 --> 00:01:39.400 but he can't be on here on Monday nights. 35 00:01:39.400 --> 00:01:43.280 So Dan, was that your, yes, I'm interested? 36 00:01:43.280 --> 00:01:44.560 Okay. 37 00:01:44.560 --> 00:01:45.560 Yeah. 38 00:01:45.560 --> 00:01:47.520 I'm making a list right now, hold on. 39 00:01:48.520 --> 00:01:53.520 Uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, interested in spotlight. 40 00:01:56.320 --> 00:01:58.480 Okay, so since you're gonna do this, 41 00:02:01.800 --> 00:02:03.640 oh, perfect, Christopher, thank you. 42 00:02:04.820 --> 00:02:07.580 Dan, let me get your last name. 43 00:02:09.680 --> 00:02:12.900 Quintero, you're my Connecticut guy, right? 44 00:02:13.860 --> 00:02:14.700 Yep. 45 00:02:14.700 --> 00:02:15.520 Remind me. 46 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:17.060 I am the Connecticut guy. 47 00:02:17.880 --> 00:02:18.720 What? 48 00:02:18.720 --> 00:02:19.540 Connecticut guy. 49 00:02:19.540 --> 00:02:21.540 Oh my gosh, that guy, the pizza guy. 50 00:02:21.540 --> 00:02:23.100 Um, how old are you again? 51 00:02:24.260 --> 00:02:25.420 45. 52 00:02:25.420 --> 00:02:28.860 45, are you, do you have kids? 53 00:02:28.860 --> 00:02:29.700 Nope. 54 00:02:29.700 --> 00:02:30.980 No kids. 55 00:02:30.980 --> 00:02:31.820 Okay. 56 00:02:32.740 --> 00:02:37.060 And Christopher, just for the sake of me giving her 57 00:02:37.060 --> 00:02:40.460 the same thing, just tell me your state, 58 00:02:40.460 --> 00:02:42.580 age, and if you have kids. 59 00:02:43.660 --> 00:02:45.540 So since you're just like. 60 00:02:45.540 --> 00:02:48.180 New York, 35, no kids. 61 00:02:48.180 --> 00:02:49.420 Perfect. 62 00:02:49.420 --> 00:02:50.460 Now, when you say New York, 63 00:02:50.460 --> 00:02:52.940 I think you're upstate New York, right? 64 00:02:52.940 --> 00:02:54.220 Central, yep. 65 00:02:54.220 --> 00:02:55.420 Central New York, yeah. 66 00:02:56.900 --> 00:02:58.980 And you said 45 too? 67 00:02:58.980 --> 00:02:59.940 35. 68 00:02:59.940 --> 00:03:00.780 35. 69 00:03:00.780 --> 00:03:02.620 Oh shit, man, my hearing's going. 70 00:03:02.620 --> 00:03:05.180 Okay, 35, no kids. 71 00:03:05.180 --> 00:03:06.020 What about you, Mike? 72 00:03:06.020 --> 00:03:07.420 Are you interested? 73 00:03:07.420 --> 00:03:11.140 Or are you in this whole like, blah, blah, blah. 74 00:03:11.140 --> 00:03:12.020 Blah, blah, blah. 75 00:03:12.020 --> 00:03:14.460 Well, now I'm shooting between Reading and San Jose 76 00:03:14.460 --> 00:03:17.100 every other weekend, so it's not really that conducive 77 00:03:17.100 --> 00:03:18.580 to, oh, there's somebody in Reading. 78 00:03:18.580 --> 00:03:20.820 Oh, David Henshaw, thank you, David. 79 00:03:20.820 --> 00:03:22.820 Mr. Henshaw, Mr. Henshaw. 80 00:03:22.820 --> 00:03:25.140 I had a feeling it was you, but I didn't want to be wrong. 81 00:03:25.140 --> 00:03:27.220 Remind me how old. 82 00:03:29.020 --> 00:03:29.980 Thanks, Dan. 83 00:03:29.980 --> 00:03:32.940 Yeah, no, I'm bouncing between Reading and San Jose, 84 00:03:32.940 --> 00:03:35.340 which is kind of a commute right now. 85 00:03:35.340 --> 00:03:37.980 So every other weekend, but we'll see. 86 00:03:40.540 --> 00:03:42.780 Okay, David, remind me. 87 00:03:42.780 --> 00:03:43.620 Thank you. 88 00:03:44.060 --> 00:03:46.260 David, remind me your age. 89 00:03:46.260 --> 00:03:47.860 You're in Pennsylvania. 90 00:03:47.860 --> 00:03:51.380 I just turned 52 on Friday the 22nd. 91 00:03:51.380 --> 00:03:52.460 52, all right. 92 00:03:52.460 --> 00:03:54.380 Happy birthday to you. 93 00:03:55.620 --> 00:03:57.580 And you don't have kids either, right? 94 00:03:58.700 --> 00:03:59.580 I'm what? 95 00:03:59.580 --> 00:04:01.260 You broke up a little. 96 00:04:01.260 --> 00:04:02.660 No, no kids, no kids. 97 00:04:02.660 --> 00:04:03.500 Yeah, that's what I thought. 98 00:04:03.500 --> 00:04:04.340 All right. 99 00:04:04.340 --> 00:04:06.460 And I'm currently in PA, 100 00:04:06.460 --> 00:04:09.100 but I'm looking to do an extensive road trip 101 00:04:09.100 --> 00:04:11.380 starting as soon as like in two weeks. 102 00:04:11.420 --> 00:04:14.020 And I'm probably heading to Tennessee first. 103 00:04:14.020 --> 00:04:17.019 Dude, if you're anywhere near Nashville, let me know 104 00:04:17.019 --> 00:04:19.860 and we'll do, I'll bring you to my favorite 105 00:04:21.220 --> 00:04:23.300 little watering hole around here. 106 00:04:24.260 --> 00:04:25.460 Okay, that sounds good. 107 00:04:27.140 --> 00:04:29.220 I might be hanging out. 108 00:04:29.220 --> 00:04:31.500 David, how tall are you? 109 00:04:31.500 --> 00:04:32.940 5'11". 110 00:04:32.940 --> 00:04:33.780 Okay. 111 00:04:33.780 --> 00:04:34.620 Seven foot one. 112 00:04:35.820 --> 00:04:40.460 I say this because I have a gorgeous girl who's single. 113 00:04:40.500 --> 00:04:41.420 She actually sings. 114 00:04:41.420 --> 00:04:42.460 She's in ministry. 115 00:04:42.460 --> 00:04:45.060 She kind of, you know, 116 00:04:45.060 --> 00:04:46.980 leads worship and stuff in different places, 117 00:04:46.980 --> 00:04:50.860 but she's got big blonde hair, but she's tall. 118 00:04:50.860 --> 00:04:52.260 She's at least five. 119 00:04:52.260 --> 00:04:54.740 She's probably 5'11". 120 00:04:54.740 --> 00:04:55.580 Okay. 121 00:04:55.580 --> 00:04:57.540 Is she at your church or a different church 122 00:04:57.540 --> 00:04:58.380 than the one you go to? 123 00:04:58.380 --> 00:05:00.100 No, I think she's actually. 124 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:04.200 on staff at The Belonging doing music. 125 00:05:04.200 --> 00:05:06.980 So Jackie loves her. 126 00:05:06.980 --> 00:05:10.300 Like both of us are trying to find somebody for her. 127 00:05:10.300 --> 00:05:14.720 I wanna say she's mid 45, maybe 50. 128 00:05:14.720 --> 00:05:17.700 So she's right around your age, right around your height. 129 00:05:17.700 --> 00:05:19.100 She's beautiful. 130 00:05:19.100 --> 00:05:21.460 She's just tall and like a big girl. 131 00:05:21.460 --> 00:05:23.060 She's not fat big, but you know what I mean? 132 00:05:23.060 --> 00:05:25.300 Like, you know how Jackie's like, 133 00:05:25.300 --> 00:05:27.780 she carries like her stature. 134 00:05:27.780 --> 00:05:30.520 So when I stand next to both Jackie and Jamie, 135 00:05:30.520 --> 00:05:33.060 I look like a little pygmy next to them. 136 00:05:33.060 --> 00:05:34.120 That's funny. 137 00:05:34.120 --> 00:05:35.340 And happy birthday. 138 00:05:35.340 --> 00:05:37.380 I just turned 58. 139 00:05:37.380 --> 00:05:38.700 When was your birthday? 140 00:05:40.220 --> 00:05:41.740 Friday the 22nd. 141 00:05:41.740 --> 00:05:42.620 Oh, look at that. 142 00:05:42.620 --> 00:05:43.580 I was the 28th. 143 00:05:43.580 --> 00:05:45.560 So I'm right behind you. 144 00:05:45.560 --> 00:05:46.400 Oh, wow. 145 00:05:46.400 --> 00:05:47.860 Although I'm a lot older than you. 146 00:05:47.860 --> 00:05:48.980 I turned 58. 147 00:05:48.980 --> 00:05:49.820 So I'm old. 148 00:05:49.820 --> 00:05:50.660 I'm the old hag here. 149 00:05:51.740 --> 00:05:54.400 Although Kenton is older than me. 150 00:05:54.920 --> 00:05:59.920 The one thing about an introduction like that is- 151 00:06:02.040 --> 00:06:03.200 I am too. 152 00:06:05.080 --> 00:06:06.880 Yeah, you are, Kenton. 153 00:06:06.880 --> 00:06:08.320 What's the one thing you were gonna say? 154 00:06:08.320 --> 00:06:09.520 The introduction, Dave. 155 00:06:10.400 --> 00:06:11.600 I said like any caveat, 156 00:06:11.600 --> 00:06:13.040 anyone you wanna introduce me to, 157 00:06:13.040 --> 00:06:17.200 the tricky thing is I'm still like way younger at heart 158 00:06:17.200 --> 00:06:19.580 than my actual age and I still want kids. 159 00:06:19.580 --> 00:06:20.760 So if she's getting to the point 160 00:06:20.760 --> 00:06:22.080 where that's not gonna be possible, 161 00:06:22.080 --> 00:06:22.920 that might be a problem. 162 00:06:22.920 --> 00:06:23.760 Well, I don't know. 163 00:06:24.120 --> 00:06:27.040 I wish she would love kids however she could have kids. 164 00:06:29.320 --> 00:06:31.760 But what I would probably do with you, David, 165 00:06:31.760 --> 00:06:35.040 and this is true for any of you who are in my town, 166 00:06:35.040 --> 00:06:37.120 is if you guys are in town, 167 00:06:37.120 --> 00:06:40.040 I'm gonna do something at Stable Reserve. 168 00:06:40.040 --> 00:06:42.600 It's like a coffee shop distillery 169 00:06:42.600 --> 00:06:43.440 right down the street. 170 00:06:43.440 --> 00:06:44.680 It's a cute little town. 171 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:48.760 And I would invite all of the ladies from Last Year Single. 172 00:06:48.760 --> 00:06:53.660 So it wouldn't feel like a one-on-one force thing. 173 00:06:54.600 --> 00:06:55.440 It's gonna be a 10-on-one. 174 00:06:55.440 --> 00:06:56.260 It's awesome. 175 00:06:56.260 --> 00:06:58.840 Yeah, 10-on-one's even better. 176 00:07:00.280 --> 00:07:02.880 It could be like your own bachelor show 177 00:07:02.880 --> 00:07:04.680 or your own, would they call it? 178 00:07:04.680 --> 00:07:05.600 That's amazing. 179 00:07:06.640 --> 00:07:08.680 I'm not that professional, Renee. 180 00:07:08.680 --> 00:07:10.000 Please don't overestimate me. 181 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:11.400 David, you're up for it, dude. 182 00:07:11.400 --> 00:07:13.520 I'm not that professional. 183 00:07:13.520 --> 00:07:15.040 All you gotta do is show up as yourself 184 00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:16.440 and that's all that matters. 185 00:07:18.080 --> 00:07:19.880 Oh my gosh, y'all are killing me. 186 00:07:19.880 --> 00:07:21.800 Look, I got brand new glasses today. 187 00:07:21.800 --> 00:07:22.800 I had to bring them in though 188 00:07:22.840 --> 00:07:24.280 because they were a little crooked. 189 00:07:24.280 --> 00:07:27.680 And I was like, it kept crashing into my eyelashes. 190 00:07:27.680 --> 00:07:30.000 And I'm like, there's something wrong with these. 191 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:31.640 I'm getting used to them though. 192 00:07:33.760 --> 00:07:36.660 I feel like they're almost eerily similar 193 00:07:36.660 --> 00:07:37.820 to Brian's glasses. 194 00:07:37.820 --> 00:07:39.320 I'm like, all right, we're that married couple 195 00:07:39.320 --> 00:07:41.640 that our glasses are looking similar to each other. 196 00:07:41.640 --> 00:07:43.920 All right, you guys have to, okay, Kenton. 197 00:07:46.520 --> 00:07:49.200 How old are you again? 198 00:07:49.200 --> 00:07:50.720 67. 199 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:53.360 Okay, what's the status with you? 200 00:07:53.360 --> 00:07:57.160 Are you still dating the chick that, 201 00:07:57.160 --> 00:08:00.400 we won't go there, but are you still dating her? 202 00:08:00.400 --> 00:08:02.000 Thanks a lot. 203 00:08:02.000 --> 00:08:04.440 No, because I'm sorry, I'm not a fan 204 00:08:04.440 --> 00:08:07.440 of anybody who's stringing you along 205 00:08:07.440 --> 00:08:09.160 and you have to deal with like a family 206 00:08:09.160 --> 00:08:10.440 that doesn't, you're amazing. 207 00:08:10.440 --> 00:08:13.480 And if that family, I just want you to be 208 00:08:13.480 --> 00:08:15.600 with somebody who celebrates you 209 00:08:15.600 --> 00:08:17.840 and her family celebrates you. 210 00:08:17.840 --> 00:08:19.280 No, I thank you very much. 211 00:08:19.280 --> 00:08:21.080 That's kind of you, Renee, and you're right. 212 00:08:21.080 --> 00:08:22.920 I would love to be in a relationship 213 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:25.360 where the whole family does celebrate me. 214 00:08:25.360 --> 00:08:26.240 It'd be nice. 215 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:28.240 We're coming to a decision here 216 00:08:28.240 --> 00:08:30.920 within the next couple of weeks and she knows it. 217 00:08:30.920 --> 00:08:35.919 So she's, yeah, as I said there, 218 00:08:36.200 --> 00:08:37.760 she knows she's coming to a conclusion. 219 00:08:37.760 --> 00:08:39.080 So she's got to make a decision. 220 00:08:39.080 --> 00:08:41.000 So I put a date on it, so. 221 00:08:41.000 --> 00:08:43.200 Okay, awesome. 222 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:45.040 Okay, so Tim, you came to work. 223 00:08:45.040 --> 00:08:46.240 You're looking amazing, dude. 224 00:08:46.240 --> 00:08:47.480 You're looking studly, bro. 225 00:08:47.480 --> 00:08:48.880 I just want to give you props. 226 00:08:49.480 --> 00:08:50.600 See that? 227 00:08:50.600 --> 00:08:52.440 I'm just saying, you know what? 228 00:08:54.440 --> 00:08:56.760 There is, I will say this, Kenton, 229 00:08:56.760 --> 00:08:58.880 if you come to my town. 230 00:08:58.880 --> 00:09:00.640 You're gonna look good, bro. 231 00:09:00.640 --> 00:09:03.960 You got, your cheekbones are fricking really masculine 232 00:09:03.960 --> 00:09:04.800 and like. 233 00:09:04.800 --> 00:09:08.280 And Kenton, there is a 60 something year old woman. 234 00:09:08.280 --> 00:09:09.800 She has traveled the world. 235 00:09:09.800 --> 00:09:11.320 She's been a missionary. 236 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:15.000 She came to, Brian and I had a little mini graduation party 237 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:18.200 slash if you haven't met my husband yet, 238 00:09:18.480 --> 00:09:19.440 come meet him. 239 00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:22.360 And Allison, actually Allison talked to Brian longer 240 00:09:22.360 --> 00:09:24.640 than I did, because again, there were too many people. 241 00:09:24.640 --> 00:09:26.680 I couldn't keep up with everybody. 242 00:09:26.680 --> 00:09:29.760 She's also sweetheart, mid 60s. 243 00:09:29.760 --> 00:09:31.480 I would love to see her with somebody. 244 00:09:31.480 --> 00:09:32.840 So if you're ever in, 245 00:09:32.840 --> 00:09:35.440 because you know Canada flies direct to Nashville. 246 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:36.280 I'm just saying. 247 00:09:37.480 --> 00:09:39.640 Listen, girl, I'm coming to the decision 248 00:09:39.640 --> 00:09:41.280 because what's going on here in Canada 249 00:09:41.280 --> 00:09:45.320 that I've been easily becoming a United States citizen. 250 00:09:45.320 --> 00:09:47.480 I have no problems with that one. 251 00:09:47.760 --> 00:09:48.720 You just let me know. 252 00:09:48.720 --> 00:09:52.160 You let me know the second you're ready to be introduced 253 00:09:52.160 --> 00:09:53.560 and I'm gonna introduce you. 254 00:09:55.440 --> 00:09:58.600 My biggest, there's something at my age, 255 00:09:58.600 --> 00:10:00.120 you really do refine. 256 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:06.520 Who you are looking for because you've lived long enough to know that and being a counselor it even helps even more 257 00:10:06.640 --> 00:10:11.840 Yeah, but mine is if they don't meet my love language is exactly the same 258 00:10:11.840 --> 00:10:17.720 I wouldn't even look at him twice because I find that those who do not meet the same love languages. They struggle 259 00:10:17.720 --> 00:10:22.640 They still struggle in a marriage. What are your love languages? My two top ones are 260 00:10:23.520 --> 00:10:25.160 touch and 261 00:10:25.160 --> 00:10:27.160 The other one is quality time 262 00:10:27.400 --> 00:10:29.400 very common for men and 263 00:10:30.000 --> 00:10:37.280 I will find I'm gonna find out a little bit more information because she's also lived in other countries and she would not mind 264 00:10:38.240 --> 00:10:43.520 She's financially stable and she would not mind living. I don't know what you would call it. It's not by coastal 265 00:10:43.520 --> 00:10:45.520 What do you call it when it's two countries? 266 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:52.360 Abroad dual citizenship dual. Well, whatever you want to call it. Okay. I'm just saying. Okay, so 267 00:10:54.480 --> 00:10:56.160 What 268 00:10:56.160 --> 00:10:58.160 Seems like a good term. Oh 269 00:10:58.360 --> 00:11:04.480 Yeah, yeah, there you go, okay Tim we are finding out I don't have it I can't do any guarantees 270 00:11:05.280 --> 00:11:08.160 But I'm getting a list of all of you 271 00:11:08.680 --> 00:11:15.280 Interested because I know Jackie's doing those single spotlights on Instagram. I don't really know what our parameters are 272 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:20.360 but if that's something that you're interested in I would be 273 00:11:21.160 --> 00:11:23.160 happy to 274 00:11:24.160 --> 00:11:31.160 Pass your name along if you want you just have to tell me your age and where you live and if you have kids right 275 00:11:31.160 --> 00:11:32.120 now and 276 00:11:32.120 --> 00:11:34.120 If you're interested, are you interested? 277 00:11:34.760 --> 00:11:40.280 I'm gonna pass. Okay, what tell me what's going on in your life that you're passing? Where you at? Are you dating somebody? 278 00:11:40.600 --> 00:11:41.840 Are you doing? 279 00:11:41.840 --> 00:11:43.840 What's going on? I? 280 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:48.000 Fully believe God has me waiting to pursue a particular someone 281 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:50.000 Oh 282 00:12:03.720 --> 00:12:11.800 Tim is the one that's saying there's a specific someone is she someone who is in the program right now? Nope. Is she single? 283 00:12:13.000 --> 00:12:14.720 No, oh 284 00:12:14.720 --> 00:12:21.700 Sweet baby Jesus, I promise you the Lord is not picking somebody that's married. He ain't married 285 00:12:22.640 --> 00:12:24.640 Okay, is she dating somebody? 286 00:12:26.240 --> 00:12:33.240 Okay, the problem well the problem with that is you're gonna have to wait for them to break up and her guess I'm healing 287 00:12:34.320 --> 00:12:37.000 Like are you guys even friends? Does she know who you are? 288 00:12:38.000 --> 00:12:40.000 We're good friends has 289 00:12:40.160 --> 00:12:42.960 So has she friend-zoned you though? Like do you have any? 290 00:12:43.920 --> 00:12:46.440 Inkling that she sees you as more than a friend 291 00:12:49.320 --> 00:12:53.920 For a girl who's dating someone else she likes me a lot 292 00:12:55.120 --> 00:12:57.600 Well, wouldn't that see what that concerns me? 293 00:12:59.440 --> 00:13:04.020 You're not concerned that a woman with another man is giving you attention 294 00:13:08.000 --> 00:13:10.200 That question is really broad 295 00:13:11.520 --> 00:13:15.880 Okay, like that has been just chuckled over there 296 00:13:18.640 --> 00:13:21.200 I'm just saying you just speak 297 00:13:21.200 --> 00:13:27.640 I'm just gonna ask you to be careful about that because and I certainly do not have a a perfect past 298 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:30.080 but if I 299 00:13:31.280 --> 00:13:33.080 Liked a guy 300 00:13:33.080 --> 00:13:35.080 Who was not completely? 301 00:13:35.600 --> 00:13:37.600 Single 302 00:13:37.640 --> 00:13:43.040 Once we got together I battled a lot of will he do that to me? 303 00:13:44.360 --> 00:13:45.800 and so 304 00:13:45.800 --> 00:13:51.040 That is it. That is a good statement because what they will not or what they will do before marriage 305 00:13:51.080 --> 00:13:55.680 They will continue that on in marriage by the way and being a counselor myself 306 00:13:55.680 --> 00:14:02.200 I have seen couples over and over where the woman or the man won't release somebody from the past. They just can't 307 00:14:02.800 --> 00:14:09.120 So that's my prayer to my prayer is if she truly if God truly has her for you and 308 00:14:10.280 --> 00:14:16.640 She is hanging out with you or friends with you. Are you guys hanging out alone at all? I mean 309 00:14:18.200 --> 00:14:19.960 Almost never 310 00:14:19.960 --> 00:14:21.160 Okay 311 00:14:21.160 --> 00:14:26.520 That's good. Well, that's good. I mean part of the same friend group Bible study. Yeah. Yeah 312 00:14:26.520 --> 00:14:30.760 I don't ever try to hang out with her alone. Yeah 313 00:14:32.720 --> 00:14:36.720 Now, do you know him is he in the same group? Mm-hmm 314 00:14:39.320 --> 00:14:41.320 And how does he treat you I 315 00:14:44.080 --> 00:14:46.480 Can tell he's a good guy by how he treats me 316 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:51.360 So, I mean we're not we're not buddies, but we're not 317 00:14:52.320 --> 00:14:55.320 Are they are they an exclusive relationship? 318 00:14:57.000 --> 00:14:58.400 Mm-hmm 319 00:14:58.400 --> 00:15:00.400 well just I mean 320 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:04.080 You know, and Dan wrote that in there, just think about how you would want to be treated 321 00:15:04.080 --> 00:15:07.560 or how you would want your girlfriend to be treated. 322 00:15:07.560 --> 00:15:12.120 You wouldn't want a man going after her. 323 00:15:12.120 --> 00:15:18.240 So I'm going to trust and believe that if you are meant to be together, the breakup 324 00:15:18.240 --> 00:15:23.200 will be swift and fast, or God will lead your heart in a different direction. 325 00:15:23.200 --> 00:15:28.800 Because I have believed in the past, Oh, the Lord has us together. 326 00:15:28.800 --> 00:15:30.200 No, he's not free. 327 00:15:30.200 --> 00:15:32.720 Like he's with somebody else. 328 00:15:32.720 --> 00:15:37.320 The Lord typically doesn't give us somebody that's attached to somebody else, even if 329 00:15:37.320 --> 00:15:38.400 it's just dating. 330 00:15:38.400 --> 00:15:42.720 And the fact that you guys are all in a Bible study together, that sounds a little bit like 331 00:15:42.720 --> 00:15:46.780 it could be really messy. 332 00:15:46.780 --> 00:15:47.780 So I'm going to be... 333 00:15:47.780 --> 00:15:56.260 I'm only staying in this situation because I believe I'm being led to three or four different 334 00:15:56.260 --> 00:15:57.260 ways. 335 00:15:57.260 --> 00:16:04.100 Otherwise, I would be trying to get to know other beautiful women for my church. 336 00:16:04.100 --> 00:16:07.540 It's not what I would naturally want to do. 337 00:16:07.540 --> 00:16:13.580 So give me one of those ways. 338 00:16:13.580 --> 00:16:20.660 So I had been going to a different group at the same time as our Bible study that was 339 00:16:20.660 --> 00:16:23.100 obviously a schedule conflict. 340 00:16:23.100 --> 00:16:29.180 And both the leaders of that and myself and my mom all thought I should be going to the 341 00:16:29.180 --> 00:16:32.580 Bible study she's at last fall. 342 00:16:32.580 --> 00:16:34.980 Because of her? 343 00:16:34.980 --> 00:16:37.020 No, not because of her. 344 00:16:37.020 --> 00:16:44.020 But I wouldn't be choosing to go to that if it was just up to me. 345 00:16:44.020 --> 00:16:45.020 But just because people... 346 00:16:45.020 --> 00:16:46.860 I would be... 347 00:16:46.860 --> 00:16:51.500 Why else do you think God might be leading you to that small group and other people encouraging 348 00:16:51.500 --> 00:16:54.620 you to join the other group? 349 00:16:54.620 --> 00:16:58.420 I don't understand the question. 350 00:16:58.420 --> 00:17:02.900 Well you said that other people and your mom suggested this group to you. 351 00:17:02.900 --> 00:17:08.460 And if it wasn't to meet her, what was the reason for you wanting to go to this particular 352 00:17:08.460 --> 00:17:13.460 group? 353 00:17:13.460 --> 00:17:19.420 So there had been talk of me potentially becoming an associate leader of the group. 354 00:17:19.420 --> 00:17:28.700 That has not come to fruition, but my plan of action was just to start attending and 355 00:17:28.700 --> 00:17:30.380 then see where things go. 356 00:17:30.380 --> 00:17:35.020 I hardly ever get to attend now because work is a schedule conflict. 357 00:17:35.020 --> 00:17:39.060 But it's still the group that I attend when I'm not working. 358 00:17:39.060 --> 00:17:40.060 Right. 359 00:17:40.060 --> 00:17:41.060 So hear that though. 360 00:17:41.060 --> 00:17:42.540 Hear what you're saying. 361 00:17:42.540 --> 00:17:47.660 People have encouraged you to join this group because you might make a good co-leader or 362 00:17:47.660 --> 00:17:50.460 leader in training in this group. 363 00:17:50.460 --> 00:17:55.820 That's really different than you snagging the girl that's dating somebody else in the 364 00:17:55.820 --> 00:17:56.820 group. 365 00:17:56.820 --> 00:17:57.820 Do you know what I'm saying? 366 00:17:57.820 --> 00:18:06.460 Like if anything, that could be the enemy trying to distract you from being the leader. 367 00:18:06.460 --> 00:18:11.740 And so I don't know that because of my point. 368 00:18:11.740 --> 00:18:17.860 My point is that if I were following what I want to do, I would not be putting myself 369 00:18:17.860 --> 00:18:20.660 in proximity to her like this. 370 00:18:20.660 --> 00:18:23.260 Because you're attracted to her. 371 00:18:23.260 --> 00:18:27.300 Yeah, I get that. 372 00:18:27.780 --> 00:18:31.820 Well, I feel like some of us have been where you are, Tim. 373 00:18:31.820 --> 00:18:37.820 And so none of us say this in judgment and in condemnation to you or to shame you or 374 00:18:37.820 --> 00:18:39.300 put you on the spot. 375 00:18:39.300 --> 00:18:47.340 I will just say we're going to be praying a covering over you because I would hate for 376 00:18:47.340 --> 00:18:54.460 the enemy to use a physical desire that you might have for somebody to squelch a potential 377 00:18:54.460 --> 00:18:58.620 ministry leadership position. 378 00:18:58.620 --> 00:19:03.780 Because I can tell you in leadership, because I've been in Christian leadership, you will 379 00:19:03.780 --> 00:19:06.700 be attracted to women who are not your spouse. 380 00:19:06.700 --> 00:19:09.900 I just don't believe that we're only attracted to our spouse. 381 00:19:09.900 --> 00:19:14.740 I believe that over the years, you will find attraction to other people. 382 00:19:14.740 --> 00:19:22.020 And part of the health of your ministry is learning how to keep those, you know, learning 383 00:19:22.020 --> 00:19:24.140 the boundaries and keeping them away. 384 00:19:24.140 --> 00:19:32.520 One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was abstinence single is the same muscle as 385 00:19:32.520 --> 00:19:34.740 fidelity married. 386 00:19:34.740 --> 00:19:39.340 You're working that same like, hey, just because I'm married, just because I'm this doesn't 387 00:19:39.340 --> 00:19:42.820 mean that I'm never going to face attraction again. 388 00:19:42.820 --> 00:19:46.080 So just keep that in mind. 389 00:19:46.080 --> 00:19:48.040 We will be praying for you. 390 00:19:48.040 --> 00:19:53.840 And I'm just going to be praying that God is swift and clear to you so that you're not 391 00:19:53.840 --> 00:19:58.360 sitting in a place of confusion, because that would be really hard for me. 392 00:19:58.360 --> 00:20:00.000 It would be really hard for me to. 393 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:03.920 to be thinking about a leadership position 394 00:20:03.920 --> 00:20:07.160 while also attracted to the hot guy that I can't have. 395 00:20:07.160 --> 00:20:10.040 Like, that seems awful. 396 00:20:10.040 --> 00:20:13.060 And so I'm gonna pray that the Lord 397 00:20:13.060 --> 00:20:15.600 doesn't keep you in that place either. 398 00:20:15.600 --> 00:20:17.840 He's gonna work it all out, 399 00:20:17.840 --> 00:20:19.860 have you lose feelings for her, 400 00:20:19.860 --> 00:20:22.140 or she break up quickly, whatever. 401 00:20:24.520 --> 00:20:25.360 Yeah. 402 00:20:26.360 --> 00:20:28.200 Tim, if I may step in for a moment right now. 403 00:20:28.240 --> 00:20:30.080 Please jump in. 404 00:20:30.080 --> 00:20:32.840 Tim, I've been caught in this situation as well too. 405 00:20:34.040 --> 00:20:35.600 I hate to say it, I was deceived. 406 00:20:35.600 --> 00:20:36.480 Simple as that. 407 00:20:36.480 --> 00:20:37.480 Everything was right, 408 00:20:37.480 --> 00:20:40.260 knew the Lord was telling me to minister to this person. 409 00:20:40.260 --> 00:20:41.100 But the thing was, 410 00:20:41.100 --> 00:20:43.960 I was only to minister to that person, that's all. 411 00:20:43.960 --> 00:20:46.000 And I was moving in towards a higher degree 412 00:20:46.000 --> 00:20:48.960 because I thought the Lord was leading me in that direction. 413 00:20:48.960 --> 00:20:50.920 The basic thing is that what I found out, 414 00:20:50.920 --> 00:20:52.280 there's the perfect will of God, 415 00:20:52.280 --> 00:20:54.740 or there's the permissible will of God. 416 00:20:55.600 --> 00:20:58.040 And you could be caught in the permissible will right now, 417 00:20:58.880 --> 00:20:59.720 but it's not what you wanna be. 418 00:20:59.720 --> 00:21:00.800 You wanna be in the perfect will of God, 419 00:21:00.800 --> 00:21:02.840 especially a man that's possibly moving 420 00:21:02.840 --> 00:21:04.560 into a ministry position, 421 00:21:04.560 --> 00:21:06.160 because you're to a higher calling. 422 00:21:06.160 --> 00:21:07.980 You are totally a higher calling. 423 00:21:07.980 --> 00:21:10.800 Just say for a moment, she breaks up, 424 00:21:10.800 --> 00:21:13.440 and she wants to start dating you. 425 00:21:13.440 --> 00:21:15.400 How will that look to the group? 426 00:21:15.400 --> 00:21:17.000 You gotta think about this. 427 00:21:17.000 --> 00:21:21.320 How would the rest of the group see this action? 428 00:21:21.320 --> 00:21:23.080 What would be going through their mind? 429 00:21:23.080 --> 00:21:25.920 What would the devil be doing to their minds? 430 00:21:25.920 --> 00:21:29.440 That's why as ministers, we try not to date somebody 431 00:21:29.440 --> 00:21:31.120 within our particular groups, 432 00:21:31.120 --> 00:21:32.900 because right now I'm in a singles group, 433 00:21:32.900 --> 00:21:35.160 but I told all the women in the singles group, 434 00:21:35.160 --> 00:21:36.680 I'm not gonna date any of you, 435 00:21:36.680 --> 00:21:39.360 because it's gonna be really awkward if we break up, 436 00:21:39.360 --> 00:21:40.680 and it won't be good for you. 437 00:21:40.680 --> 00:21:43.080 I could carry on, but it's gonna be hard for you. 438 00:21:43.080 --> 00:21:44.640 So I'm always looking out for the woman, 439 00:21:44.640 --> 00:21:46.420 always looking out for her, 440 00:21:46.420 --> 00:21:49.420 because I'm trying to protect her from the enemy 441 00:21:49.420 --> 00:21:54.040 and from other people's viewpoints or opinions. 442 00:21:54.040 --> 00:21:56.800 So my job as a gentleman, as a man, 443 00:21:56.800 --> 00:21:59.300 is to protect the woman at all times, 444 00:21:59.300 --> 00:22:02.860 even when I may be attracted to him in a particular group, 445 00:22:02.860 --> 00:22:05.760 but I'll say, no, I need a safe place, 446 00:22:05.760 --> 00:22:07.080 and she needs a safe place. 447 00:22:07.080 --> 00:22:10.480 And I think that's hard for a person to minister in. 448 00:22:10.480 --> 00:22:13.040 When you do enjoy, and you're hoping, 449 00:22:13.040 --> 00:22:14.560 and you're really believing that the Lord 450 00:22:14.560 --> 00:22:17.960 is leading you in this particular area, 451 00:22:18.960 --> 00:22:20.820 I would just take a step back. 452 00:22:21.420 --> 00:22:25.080 If it lines up with scripture, with all that you're doing, 453 00:22:25.940 --> 00:22:29.060 you know what, then maybe, I'm gonna say maybe, 454 00:22:29.060 --> 00:22:30.860 but if it doesn't all line up with your thoughts 455 00:22:30.860 --> 00:22:33.940 and your feelings, then sometimes it is just, 456 00:22:33.940 --> 00:22:36.740 there's a wall there that we just don't see. 457 00:22:36.740 --> 00:22:37.580 Yes, go ahead. 458 00:22:39.020 --> 00:22:42.360 It may be relevant that if I were to become 459 00:22:42.360 --> 00:22:43.640 associate leader of this group, 460 00:22:43.640 --> 00:22:45.540 I would be associate leader with her. 461 00:22:47.340 --> 00:22:50.460 So she is currently associate leader. 462 00:22:51.060 --> 00:22:52.900 There's two things happening here. 463 00:22:52.900 --> 00:22:56.940 I think, yeah, the attraction of somebody who minister, 464 00:22:56.940 --> 00:22:58.700 there's a real attraction there. 465 00:22:58.700 --> 00:23:01.740 Believe it or not, thousands of couples go through this, 466 00:23:01.740 --> 00:23:03.340 or people who go through this, 467 00:23:03.340 --> 00:23:05.560 that they co-minister with somebody, 468 00:23:05.560 --> 00:23:08.720 and they start moving, attracting, they start, 469 00:23:09.900 --> 00:23:12.140 I'm gonna say this word, but I'm gonna say it very loosely. 470 00:23:12.140 --> 00:23:14.100 They start fantasizing what it's like 471 00:23:14.100 --> 00:23:17.420 to minister with them, and their heart is drawn, 472 00:23:17.420 --> 00:23:18.900 or their mind is drawn, but really, 473 00:23:18.900 --> 00:23:21.820 their heart, it's not the best thing. 474 00:23:23.060 --> 00:23:26.060 Yeah, yeah, that's a dangerous ground right there. 475 00:23:27.220 --> 00:23:29.020 And I'm just saying that openly, Tim, too, 476 00:23:29.020 --> 00:23:31.220 because you're part of the LYS. 477 00:23:31.220 --> 00:23:33.180 You want the best, you wanna be healed, 478 00:23:33.180 --> 00:23:36.180 you wanna make the best choice, you want your spirit made. 479 00:23:36.180 --> 00:23:39.140 There's no doubt about that, that's what we're all here for. 480 00:23:39.140 --> 00:23:42.900 And people in ministry are very attractive, by the way. 481 00:23:42.900 --> 00:23:44.140 Very attractive. 482 00:23:44.140 --> 00:23:46.420 That's why women come up to us pastors, 483 00:23:46.420 --> 00:23:48.180 and they just swoon over us, 484 00:23:48.180 --> 00:23:51.220 because, oh, he's the pastor, or she's a minister, 485 00:23:51.220 --> 00:23:53.620 and it's, yeah, it's a terrible thing. 486 00:23:53.620 --> 00:23:55.460 We have to guard ourselves at all times. 487 00:23:55.460 --> 00:23:57.860 It's horrible at times. 488 00:23:57.860 --> 00:23:59.140 But yeah, you have to keep your guard, 489 00:23:59.140 --> 00:24:01.220 and it's so easy to fall into that line. 490 00:24:01.220 --> 00:24:03.100 That's why we lost so many pastors. 491 00:24:03.100 --> 00:24:05.620 We lose 1,800 pastors a month. 492 00:24:05.620 --> 00:24:07.020 Yeah. 493 00:24:07.020 --> 00:24:08.060 Because of that. 494 00:24:08.060 --> 00:24:10.740 And so it's nothing new under the sun. 495 00:24:10.740 --> 00:24:11.580 Yeah. 496 00:24:11.580 --> 00:24:12.540 But I love your heart, though. 497 00:24:12.540 --> 00:24:15.140 I really do, because you're listening to the Lord. 498 00:24:15.140 --> 00:24:15.980 Yeah. 499 00:24:15.980 --> 00:24:20.220 Yeah, Mr. Tim, I have to say, I know where you're at, 500 00:24:20.220 --> 00:24:23.540 because I've had Renee, Kenton, and Jackie 501 00:24:23.540 --> 00:24:26.580 have this same stupid conversation with me. 502 00:24:26.580 --> 00:24:31.580 Like, so, and you know, it's a great conversation. 503 00:24:33.420 --> 00:24:35.860 It didn't feel super awesome at the time. 504 00:24:37.660 --> 00:24:41.860 But, you know, God brings blessing without, 505 00:24:41.860 --> 00:24:45.380 what is that verse, like, without sorrow or whatever. 506 00:24:45.540 --> 00:24:50.180 Like, you know, I've come up with this adage 507 00:24:50.180 --> 00:24:53.340 because I'm gonna love the person in front of me, 508 00:24:53.340 --> 00:24:56.460 and the Lord will bring me one to keep at some point. 509 00:24:56.460 --> 00:25:00.020 But like, so often, keep. 510 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.640 being, get to stay with, but my best, 511 00:25:03.640 --> 00:25:04.480 one of my best friends is like, 512 00:25:04.480 --> 00:25:06.400 Mike, your dating life is really productive. 513 00:25:06.400 --> 00:25:08.520 And I'm like, for who? 514 00:25:09.480 --> 00:25:10.880 Everybody but me. 515 00:25:10.880 --> 00:25:13.040 And the Lord has used me to reset the standard 516 00:25:13.040 --> 00:25:15.560 for dozens of ladies, right? 517 00:25:15.560 --> 00:25:18.160 And to love them well and show them 518 00:25:18.160 --> 00:25:19.960 what it means to be loved well. 519 00:25:19.960 --> 00:25:23.640 And eventually one of them I'll get to keep, right? 520 00:25:23.640 --> 00:25:25.240 And so I just encourage you. 521 00:25:25.240 --> 00:25:26.440 That's so good, Mike. 522 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:30.040 I'm there to reset their values or reset their, 523 00:25:30.040 --> 00:25:30.880 that was standard. 524 00:25:30.880 --> 00:25:32.760 Yeah, the standard. 525 00:25:32.760 --> 00:25:34.560 And like, because I'm a man, 526 00:25:34.560 --> 00:25:36.800 because I'm a lover and I'm a man of honor, 527 00:25:37.840 --> 00:25:39.560 I don't trust me, but he does. 528 00:25:40.840 --> 00:25:41.680 But you know what? 529 00:25:41.680 --> 00:25:42.720 I've had the opportunity, 530 00:25:43.560 --> 00:25:44.760 you know, like you guys, 531 00:25:44.760 --> 00:25:47.240 we get a chance to reset people, 532 00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:49.000 ladies boundaries, like boundaries. 533 00:25:49.000 --> 00:25:50.240 We, you know, like we don't cross them. 534 00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:51.520 We show them this is what a dude 535 00:25:51.520 --> 00:25:53.160 that doesn't cross boundaries looks like. 536 00:25:53.160 --> 00:25:54.640 This is what somebody who's righteous. 537 00:25:54.640 --> 00:25:56.880 This is what somebody who's honoring. 538 00:25:56.880 --> 00:25:57.920 And most women, I mean, 539 00:25:57.920 --> 00:25:59.880 a lot of them don't know what to do with that. 540 00:25:59.880 --> 00:26:00.720 Yeah. 541 00:26:00.720 --> 00:26:01.560 Right. 542 00:26:01.560 --> 00:26:03.120 And I've had to be careful because I've gotten, 543 00:26:03.120 --> 00:26:05.200 wanted to get a little friendly sometimes, 544 00:26:05.200 --> 00:26:08.240 but like, and had to have good boundaries there too. 545 00:26:08.240 --> 00:26:11.320 But you know, we're men of honor, right? 546 00:26:11.320 --> 00:26:12.680 And Tim, dude, it sucked. 547 00:26:12.680 --> 00:26:14.720 I have to say, I'm not saying that I've had fun. 548 00:26:14.720 --> 00:26:16.800 Like every, I mean, I've had, 549 00:26:16.800 --> 00:26:19.640 I came here to the last year single 550 00:26:19.640 --> 00:26:23.200 after two and a half years expecting that one to come. 551 00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:25.960 And she never did actually saw her Saturday too. 552 00:26:25.960 --> 00:26:28.760 And she hasn't changed one bit in three years, 553 00:26:28.760 --> 00:26:32.200 which is so sad to me. 554 00:26:32.200 --> 00:26:35.840 She can't even say hi to me and she's in this group. 555 00:26:35.840 --> 00:26:37.440 Well, actually, I don't know if she's in this group, 556 00:26:37.440 --> 00:26:40.000 but anyways, but, but like my whole point is, 557 00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:42.480 is like the right one will come at the right time. 558 00:26:42.480 --> 00:26:43.960 And Kenton, I love how, 559 00:26:45.880 --> 00:26:47.880 so this was the one that I'm talking about, 560 00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:49.200 you know, Kenton, you nailed it. 561 00:26:49.200 --> 00:26:50.600 I didn't understand. 562 00:26:50.600 --> 00:26:51.760 And I'm still learning. 563 00:26:51.760 --> 00:26:53.040 God's perfect will. 564 00:26:53.880 --> 00:26:56.600 I had visions, open dreams, like so many things, 565 00:26:56.600 --> 00:27:00.160 like 30, 40, like absurd amount, right? 566 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:01.960 But I realized that's God's perfect will. 567 00:27:01.960 --> 00:27:04.280 That's his, but it's not his permissive will 568 00:27:04.280 --> 00:27:05.920 because she has a choice. 569 00:27:05.920 --> 00:27:07.200 And I always heard him say, 570 00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:09.640 it's like, if she trusts you, it'll go. 571 00:27:09.640 --> 00:27:12.400 If she learns to trust you, it'll go. 572 00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:14.320 And she never learned to trust me. 573 00:27:14.320 --> 00:27:16.640 So was it God's intent? 574 00:27:16.640 --> 00:27:18.840 I'm pretty sure, almost positive. 575 00:27:18.840 --> 00:27:20.560 Was she able to partner? 576 00:27:20.560 --> 00:27:21.760 No. 577 00:27:21.800 --> 00:27:25.400 And so therefore, when one side can't hold up the cord, 578 00:27:25.400 --> 00:27:26.640 you can't be in that, right? 579 00:27:26.640 --> 00:27:30.320 And then, but I can't tell you just for just, 580 00:27:30.320 --> 00:27:32.480 every person since her has been an upgrade. 581 00:27:34.280 --> 00:27:35.360 And so like, you know, 582 00:27:35.360 --> 00:27:38.200 God doesn't like give diminishing returns. 583 00:27:38.200 --> 00:27:39.120 Yeah. 584 00:27:39.120 --> 00:27:40.680 And so I just hope that's helpful. 585 00:27:40.680 --> 00:27:42.320 I mean, that's why I said, Tim, 586 00:27:42.320 --> 00:27:43.520 like I just want to tell Renee, 587 00:27:43.520 --> 00:27:45.040 like you got another mic in the group 588 00:27:45.040 --> 00:27:49.640 because like I had almost the same exact conversation 589 00:27:49.640 --> 00:27:53.200 and they love me enough to hit me in the ribs 590 00:27:53.200 --> 00:27:56.160 a couple of times and say, hey, hey, hey, stop it. 591 00:27:56.160 --> 00:27:57.160 We don't want you to get hurt. 592 00:27:57.160 --> 00:27:58.320 So I love you, Tim. 593 00:27:58.320 --> 00:28:00.280 And dude, your look is great. 594 00:28:00.280 --> 00:28:01.120 I'd stay with that. 595 00:28:01.120 --> 00:28:02.440 You're looking studly, bro. 596 00:28:02.440 --> 00:28:04.880 I know, I was like, Tim, you're way too good looking, 597 00:28:04.880 --> 00:28:08.360 way too kind, way too talented. 598 00:28:08.360 --> 00:28:09.280 I mean, that's the thing. 599 00:28:09.280 --> 00:28:14.280 Like, I don't think the Lord is ever gonna bring us the job, 600 00:28:14.960 --> 00:28:18.400 a person or a blessing 601 00:28:18.400 --> 00:28:21.080 that comes at the expense of somebody else. 602 00:28:21.080 --> 00:28:23.680 Like, I just don't see that. 603 00:28:23.680 --> 00:28:25.440 That's just not the way God operates. 604 00:28:25.440 --> 00:28:30.040 Like if God was truly guarding you two to be together, 605 00:28:30.040 --> 00:28:32.560 not just in ministry, but in a relationship, 606 00:28:32.560 --> 00:28:36.320 he would almost be keeping you busy over here 607 00:28:36.320 --> 00:28:39.880 while she figured out her relationship over there 608 00:28:39.880 --> 00:28:43.000 so that you don't come into the story 609 00:28:43.000 --> 00:28:45.120 until they were no more. 610 00:28:45.120 --> 00:28:46.760 Like, that's how God would be doing it. 611 00:28:46.760 --> 00:28:48.120 He would be protecting you, 612 00:28:48.120 --> 00:28:52.000 guarding your heart and guarding this other guy's heart. 613 00:28:52.880 --> 00:28:54.760 That would be more how God would do it. 614 00:28:54.760 --> 00:28:57.240 So that's why we're gonna be praying into that, 615 00:28:58.360 --> 00:29:02.600 that God starts to shield you and protect you 616 00:29:02.600 --> 00:29:04.800 and protect really all three of you. 617 00:29:04.800 --> 00:29:06.720 Like, that's gonna be our prayer 618 00:29:06.720 --> 00:29:09.720 is that the enemy doesn't get a foothold 619 00:29:09.720 --> 00:29:12.800 in with you, with her or the other guy 620 00:29:13.600 --> 00:29:16.200 unless that is gonna sever over there completely. 621 00:29:17.120 --> 00:29:19.120 The thing that we always have to remember as men, 622 00:29:19.120 --> 00:29:20.680 and often we forgive this, 623 00:29:20.680 --> 00:29:23.160 if the woman that we are pursuing, 624 00:29:23.160 --> 00:29:25.200 when they know us in some way, 625 00:29:25.200 --> 00:29:28.440 and if they naturally attract it to you as well too, 626 00:29:28.440 --> 00:29:30.800 but eventually it becomes that 627 00:29:30.800 --> 00:29:32.440 their head over heels over you. 628 00:29:32.440 --> 00:29:34.400 If they're not head over heels for you, 629 00:29:35.320 --> 00:29:38.520 just walk away because there's something really wrong 630 00:29:38.520 --> 00:29:42.120 because God puts in the hearts of men, 631 00:29:42.680 --> 00:29:45.160 he puts the desires in their hearts. 632 00:29:45.160 --> 00:29:46.520 It's not the desires of your heart. 633 00:29:46.520 --> 00:29:48.680 That's mistranslated by the way. 634 00:29:48.680 --> 00:29:52.880 It's his desires in you that you get to take a bonus on. 635 00:29:52.880 --> 00:29:55.240 So when you know when that desire is not in a woman, 636 00:29:55.240 --> 00:29:57.280 she desires you, their head over heels over you. 637 00:29:57.280 --> 00:30:00.240 But a lot of guys take, what's the word? 638 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.760 I'm looking for. They step back and they take second best. What's the other word for that? 639 00:30:04.480 --> 00:30:05.840 Settling? Settling? 640 00:30:06.400 --> 00:30:13.200 Yeah, settling. They're settling. God doesn't want you to settle. Not a chance. When they 641 00:30:13.200 --> 00:30:21.120 have the same love language as you do and the same interest and hobbies. Boy, those people 642 00:30:21.120 --> 00:30:25.360 can't keep their hands off. They want to be with each other at all times, right from the very 643 00:30:25.360 --> 00:30:31.360 beginning. And so, yeah, I feel for you, David. I really do. Because I've been through at least 644 00:30:31.360 --> 00:30:36.400 two or three of those relationships, even in my younger years. And none of them worked out 645 00:30:36.400 --> 00:30:44.880 because what she did to leave that guy, she did to me. Get a hold of this. What she did, 646 00:30:44.880 --> 00:30:51.440 what she will do to that guy to date you, she'll do to you in the end. That's not honor. That's 647 00:30:51.520 --> 00:30:57.280 not honor at all. She would be saying, you know what, David, I can't have anything to do. I'm 648 00:30:57.280 --> 00:31:01.120 dealing with this guy until it changes. You know what? It's not a good thing. 649 00:31:02.800 --> 00:31:06.480 All right. So I feel like we've given you our piece. I don't want you to feel like we're 650 00:31:06.480 --> 00:31:15.440 belaboring it or coming at you because like Mike said, we've all been in this spot. I can't tell 651 00:31:15.440 --> 00:31:21.360 you how many times I thought the Lord was putting me in a position to be with somebody else who was 652 00:31:21.600 --> 00:31:26.960 attached to somebody else. And boy, and so all of us, I think, are passionate about it because 653 00:31:26.960 --> 00:31:31.120 of the great pain that we walked through. But we're going to be praying for you. And you're 654 00:31:31.120 --> 00:31:35.680 probably thinking, man, I should have just told Renee. Yes, I'm interested in being spotlighted 655 00:31:35.680 --> 00:31:39.440 and it would have been a lot easier. I'm too honest to do that. 656 00:31:39.440 --> 00:31:44.880 No. I mean, I appreciate it. And like I said, we're going to be praying a covering over you 657 00:31:44.880 --> 00:31:53.920 because it is really hard when you feel a connection to somebody. And we get that. 658 00:31:55.120 --> 00:32:00.880 I love it. Okay. What else? Do you guys still see, oh, has anybody heard from Andy who's in 659 00:32:00.880 --> 00:32:04.720 the Philippines with that chick? Nope. Not yet. Nope. Not yet. 660 00:32:04.720 --> 00:32:08.640 I'm praying for him today, actually. So I was thinking about him today. 661 00:32:08.800 --> 00:32:12.400 I just feel like there's going to be a Netflix movie about this soon. 662 00:32:12.400 --> 00:32:19.520 It's going to be beautiful, Renee. It's going to be beautiful. You've got mail. It's going to be 663 00:32:19.520 --> 00:32:29.120 the next You've Got Mail, but it's the Philippines version. Anyway, so Renee, you're really good at 664 00:32:29.120 --> 00:32:37.600 practicalities, right? So Saturday, last Saturday, anyway, a week ago Saturday. So how do you 665 00:32:38.560 --> 00:32:43.920 what do you deal with ladies in groups and how do you know if there's interest or not or otherwise? 666 00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:48.880 I mean, I was in Reading and I was like, I have no idea how to figure out any of you guys and 667 00:32:48.880 --> 00:32:55.200 discern. Like, so what are signs we could be looking for? What are things that we could do 668 00:32:55.200 --> 00:33:02.000 to see? I hate that women are pack animals sometimes and they just sit together. And 669 00:33:02.560 --> 00:33:07.120 well, because I have no problem going up and getting smoked. But then I'm like, 670 00:33:08.000 --> 00:33:11.120 I'm like, is there even an opening that's worth going for? Does that make sense? 671 00:33:11.120 --> 00:33:17.440 So I think there's no easy way to do it in a group setting. Like, here's the thing. Like, 672 00:33:17.440 --> 00:33:23.680 if I was running into you and it was just me, how I would let you know 673 00:33:23.760 --> 00:33:32.800 you could ask me out is like Jackie talks about it. I would gaze longer at you. I would smile 674 00:33:32.800 --> 00:33:39.840 like head down, eyes looking up, that kind of flirty smile. I would find an excuse to touch you. 675 00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:46.080 Women who are interested, find an excuse to touch your shoulder, your arm, your hand. We will touch 676 00:33:47.040 --> 00:33:53.040 it safely, appropriately, we will touch. And so there's like the half smile, 677 00:33:53.760 --> 00:33:58.800 the batting of the eyes, the kind of laughing, the kind of leaning and we lean in. 678 00:34:00.080 --> 00:34:06.960 Now, if I was talking in front of seven other girls and you, I would feel less comfortable 679 00:34:06.960 --> 00:34:13.199 doing that because I wouldn't know who of the rest of the posse might also find you cute. 680 00:34:13.920 --> 00:34:20.560 And because of girl code, I wouldn't want to like, you know, I might flirt, but like, 681 00:34:20.560 --> 00:34:25.840 I wouldn't go to the extent that I would if the girls weren't there. And for you, 682 00:34:25.840 --> 00:34:30.560 I feel like there's a no win in that moment. I feel like the only way that you can do it safely 683 00:34:32.000 --> 00:34:38.480 is message one of them after the fact saying, hey, I really enjoyed getting to know you. 684 00:34:39.440 --> 00:34:45.440 I would love to have some, you know, I'd love to, you know, go for a walk or grab some coffee 685 00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:50.080 and get to know you one-on-one. There's so much I don't know about you. There's so much you don't 686 00:34:50.080 --> 00:34:55.920 know about me. If that's something you're remotely interested in, I'd love to book that. If you are 687 00:34:55.920 --> 00:34:59.920 not at all, no harm, no foul. And I don't want you to feel bad the next time. 688 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.280 you see me in a group setting? Yeah the problem is this is a cold it's a group 689 00:35:05.280 --> 00:35:09.600 that I went to that was that I don't know anybody there. You don't know their 690 00:35:09.600 --> 00:35:13.920 last name so you can't go find them? No no and so no but like I just was 691 00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:16.560 wondering this so I guess there is the pack that's why I was wondering because 692 00:35:16.560 --> 00:35:20.000 there's this gal maybe I should have gone on my instinct and like actually 693 00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:24.800 made something of it because I can't feel her wanting to peel away or so but 694 00:35:24.800 --> 00:35:30.240 then I'm like yeah she looked younger but like so what you need to have is you 695 00:35:30.240 --> 00:35:35.840 need to have I call it the business card ready and I know this sounds cliche and 696 00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:40.960 stupid but and I talked to the girls about this and one of the phase three 697 00:35:40.960 --> 00:35:45.200 classes so a lot of them have their own business cards or what they call dating 698 00:35:45.200 --> 00:35:49.200 business cards because I said even have it for girlfriends like you run into 699 00:35:49.200 --> 00:35:52.760 people but you're like hey oh my gosh I really enjoyed our conversation I don't 700 00:35:52.760 --> 00:35:56.440 have time here's my card it's got my cell phone in my email I'd love to 701 00:35:56.440 --> 00:36:01.920 follow up and have a conversation with you if not no big and so that's where 702 00:36:01.920 --> 00:36:06.440 you kind of have to have like so those little cute business cards handy and it 703 00:36:06.440 --> 00:36:11.520 could just literally be your name. They're not going to be cute. I will not make a cute 704 00:36:11.520 --> 00:36:16.760 business card I am sorry I refuse. Do you have a business card? I will be a manly 705 00:36:17.160 --> 00:36:46.240 business card but no cute. Okay well have a manly business card. Even better yet use a work business card or print work business cards. I wish I would have kept my work business cards. Well and just find some or make some that look like a business card and just say. I'll do my nonprofit. Exactly and then you can just so when you're in that group setting you can kind of walk over to her to say look I don't want to make a big deal out of this in front of everybody but I could be wrong I'd love to get to know you more. 706 00:36:46.760 --> 00:37:16.080 If that is not what you're thinking or wanting you can take my card and toss it down in the garbage when I walk out I'm all good and like you just literally be that direct like there are times I wish I had been that bold like I mean in the grocery store and you run into the same person like five times and you keep having a conversation and you're like huh I wonder if I'm supposed to give my number out and I just never did in those moments and now 707 00:37:16.080 --> 00:37:46.040 I'm like gosh I wish I'd just been bold you know it worked out in the end well it all worked out for me in the end although I'm saying yeah so you know but no that's good I messed up so many times Mike that guy was like all right I'm gonna have to give you another guy because you missed the first three I gave you you know but and so now it's gonna take 15 more years cuz this guy's gonna have you know but like you never lose I know 708 00:37:46.080 --> 00:38:16.000 I didn't and that's the beauty in it so that's the thing that's a message to all of you even if you've not been bold when you should have or you went down the wrong path when you shouldn't have God's gonna work it around like it might take a little bit longer so do I think some of my delay is because of the choices I made yeah I do like I don't think there's only one person for us I think there are God wants us to have free will do I think there were some that God could have made a way for it yeah do I think I blew a few of them yeah but I think I mean 709 00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:45.960 it's a Ken's point I don't know who said it I also think that are you maybe you said it Mike I also think that there's a couple of relationships where I think they blew it like I could have been a really good match for them and they just weren't ready and they said no and they went back to Egypt just like I think I said no a couple times and God works all that that through he's like all right that could have been a baby I mean and the reality is is okay like you guys I mean if you if it really is from the Lord and you're you 710 00:38:45.960 --> 00:39:15.000 know like that you know that was why actually when I went back to Reading I was wondering if she was coming back she would finally come back around and she she came she did come back around but it wasn't in that content right it's truly from the Lord he's gonna bring it around again well right and and once again I you know I'm she's from a different country and so I actually had scrubbed up on their language and I said something in it to her and she didn't even didn't even break stride 711 00:39:15.000 --> 00:39:44.760 and so I was like oh okay so you're incognito still all right and I I mean you guys I don't care how bad I like do we I said hey you know what if you you know I know you're going through some stuff if you ever are ready to like get into a serious relationship let's go and that was how I ended it right but but you guys like if they can't say hi to you after you've kind of like that's just really not good I mean like I I have people who literally should be my enemies and I 712 00:39:44.760 --> 00:39:59.960 I'm like hey guy hey bro how's it going right you know like I don't want anything to do with you because you're a snake but like I'm the same way Mike like there is not an ex I wouldn't say well there might be one that I wouldn't say hello to just because he's an unsafe person 713 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.680 person, but I'm going to be kind with everybody, 714 00:40:04.680 --> 00:40:07.080 but I kind of feel like if you can't be kind to me 715 00:40:07.080 --> 00:40:09.320 after we've had a relationship, 716 00:40:09.320 --> 00:40:10.520 and that's even with girlfriends, 717 00:40:10.520 --> 00:40:11.760 like what are we, five? 718 00:40:11.760 --> 00:40:12.840 Like, how is that? 719 00:40:12.840 --> 00:40:16.160 We're going to be hanging out in eternity forever, 720 00:40:16.160 --> 00:40:19.140 so get used to hanging out with me. 721 00:40:19.140 --> 00:40:21.120 Well, that's the thing is that that shows maturity 722 00:40:21.120 --> 00:40:22.920 on the other person's part, 723 00:40:22.920 --> 00:40:25.000 because if you might've been married to that person 724 00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:26.600 that was that immature though, 725 00:40:26.600 --> 00:40:29.840 if they can't be a mature person after, 726 00:40:29.840 --> 00:40:32.520 and bless you and still be friendly with you, 727 00:40:32.520 --> 00:40:35.440 then they're not mature and you just dodged a bullet. 728 00:40:35.440 --> 00:40:36.280 Oh yeah, I mean. 729 00:40:36.280 --> 00:40:37.920 Amen, Kenton, amen. 730 00:40:37.920 --> 00:40:41.080 Amen, I mean, I think about that, like really, 731 00:40:41.080 --> 00:40:45.160 I mean, for goodness sake. 732 00:40:45.160 --> 00:40:47.080 Well, and you guys like, 733 00:40:47.080 --> 00:40:48.440 this, you know, it's the first, 734 00:40:48.440 --> 00:40:51.040 it's the summer season, the summer harvest. 735 00:40:51.040 --> 00:40:53.120 And like, you know, my friend, 736 00:40:53.120 --> 00:40:54.640 she was prophesying this morning, 737 00:40:54.640 --> 00:40:56.400 you guys, you know, it's the summer harvest season, 738 00:40:56.400 --> 00:40:57.940 plant the seeds, right? 739 00:40:57.940 --> 00:40:59.680 Harvest the seeds that have been planted. 740 00:41:00.520 --> 00:41:01.480 So like the Lord's bringing things around. 741 00:41:01.480 --> 00:41:03.600 So just be looking, you know, 742 00:41:03.600 --> 00:41:05.900 I think a lot of times we don't, 743 00:41:07.640 --> 00:41:10.600 you can't grab something if you're not looking for it, 744 00:41:10.600 --> 00:41:12.600 or it's harder to, I mean, 745 00:41:12.600 --> 00:41:13.440 I guess technically you could be, 746 00:41:13.440 --> 00:41:15.000 oh, oops, last second, grab it. 747 00:41:15.000 --> 00:41:17.160 But, you know, be looking for what the Lord has for you, 748 00:41:17.160 --> 00:41:19.600 whether it's a job, it's this house, 749 00:41:19.600 --> 00:41:21.280 it's a spouse, it's a whatever, 750 00:41:21.280 --> 00:41:23.680 it's just a hug in the morning, right? 751 00:41:23.680 --> 00:41:26.000 Like you guys, we gotta get our, 752 00:41:26.000 --> 00:41:29.840 like, he's such a good dad, right? 753 00:41:29.840 --> 00:41:32.360 And like, I think so often he's like, 754 00:41:32.360 --> 00:41:35.300 hey, I left stuff for you, but you never saw it. 755 00:41:35.300 --> 00:41:36.140 Yeah. 756 00:41:36.140 --> 00:41:38.240 And so I just encourage you, it's the summer season, 757 00:41:38.240 --> 00:41:41.240 just to see what dad's doing each day, you know? 758 00:41:41.240 --> 00:41:43.880 By the way, Jackie is gonna be leading 759 00:41:44.760 --> 00:41:48.080 special sessions for the next two Thursdays, 760 00:41:48.080 --> 00:41:51.480 kind of going off of the topic of her book. 761 00:41:51.480 --> 00:41:53.920 And I think you'll see that on your calendar. 762 00:41:53.960 --> 00:41:56.360 So I just wanted to put that out there for you. 763 00:41:57.240 --> 00:42:00.840 And there might be some good gold for you, 764 00:42:00.840 --> 00:42:04.280 some good nuggets in there to glean from it. 765 00:42:04.280 --> 00:42:05.560 Does she have an audio book? 766 00:42:05.560 --> 00:42:08.920 I have like 95 books, like literally like 95 books to read. 767 00:42:08.920 --> 00:42:09.760 You know what, I don't know, 768 00:42:09.760 --> 00:42:11.800 let's go and see if you can get it on. 769 00:42:11.800 --> 00:42:14.600 Cause I know when I did my book through Amazon, 770 00:42:14.600 --> 00:42:17.000 you were able to get it on Kindle. 771 00:42:17.000 --> 00:42:18.920 Do it on Audible? 772 00:42:18.920 --> 00:42:20.400 And then Kindle can read to you. 773 00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:23.120 Cause I use Alexa or I use Speechify now 774 00:42:23.160 --> 00:42:24.680 because I need it for college, 775 00:42:24.680 --> 00:42:27.680 cause I need it to read all kinds of documents to me. 776 00:42:29.000 --> 00:42:30.480 It's called what? 777 00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:32.400 Her book is called. 778 00:42:32.400 --> 00:42:33.280 Well, no, I know her book, 779 00:42:33.280 --> 00:42:35.120 I know the name of her book is Modern Dating Suck. 780 00:42:35.120 --> 00:42:39.720 Oh, so one of the things I use is called Speechify. 781 00:42:39.720 --> 00:42:44.000 And so it can download, if you have it on a PDF, 782 00:42:44.000 --> 00:42:45.000 Speechify can read it. 783 00:42:45.000 --> 00:42:46.960 So that's how I read all my journal articles 784 00:42:46.960 --> 00:42:48.600 and stuff in the car. 785 00:42:49.440 --> 00:42:50.680 What other do you know? 786 00:42:50.680 --> 00:42:53.280 But I'm curious if her says Kindle. 787 00:42:55.160 --> 00:42:58.840 No, see what, she's only got it as, 788 00:42:58.840 --> 00:43:02.840 she's only got it as a paperback option. 789 00:43:02.840 --> 00:43:04.840 I wonder why she did that. 790 00:43:04.840 --> 00:43:06.280 Well, she might be coming out with it. 791 00:43:06.280 --> 00:43:07.120 It's just came out. 792 00:43:07.120 --> 00:43:09.160 So, so no, but like, like what you guys, 793 00:43:09.160 --> 00:43:10.560 I don't know if you heard. 794 00:43:10.560 --> 00:43:12.800 But I mean, I would go anyway to the sessions 795 00:43:12.800 --> 00:43:14.320 without buying the book. 796 00:43:14.320 --> 00:43:15.160 No, absolutely. 797 00:43:15.160 --> 00:43:16.920 And well, I mean, she's like, it's like, 798 00:43:16.920 --> 00:43:19.400 it's be your own matchmaker is what I heard her say. 799 00:43:19.400 --> 00:43:21.440 Like, it's a book is about being your own matchmaker 800 00:43:21.440 --> 00:43:22.720 and doing your own thing. 801 00:43:22.720 --> 00:43:24.880 And everything Jackie does is pretty phenomenal. 802 00:43:24.880 --> 00:43:29.200 So I just, I'm doing all kinds of research 803 00:43:29.200 --> 00:43:30.560 on spiritual warfare at the moment. 804 00:43:30.560 --> 00:43:33.440 So that's where my thing is. 805 00:43:33.440 --> 00:43:34.720 I love that. 806 00:43:34.720 --> 00:43:35.560 I love that. 807 00:43:35.560 --> 00:43:37.360 That's so funny, Dan, that you know, Speechify. 808 00:43:37.360 --> 00:43:39.160 Yeah, you can have Snoop Dogg read. 809 00:43:39.160 --> 00:43:42.520 I can have Snoop Dogg read me my biology books to me. 810 00:43:42.520 --> 00:43:47.520 Sorry, I'm late. 811 00:43:48.640 --> 00:43:49.960 No, you're good, Hunter. 812 00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:50.800 You're good. 813 00:43:50.800 --> 00:43:52.600 We're just checking in with each other. 814 00:43:55.960 --> 00:43:58.240 How else can I, so Mike did, 815 00:43:58.240 --> 00:44:00.480 so basically the answer to that question, 816 00:44:00.480 --> 00:44:02.920 and this is good for all of you guys, 817 00:44:02.920 --> 00:44:05.800 is have it, have a way ready quickly 818 00:44:05.800 --> 00:44:09.240 to try to discreetly get your information to them 819 00:44:09.240 --> 00:44:11.640 just to say, hey, and it's real simple. 820 00:44:11.640 --> 00:44:14.120 And it's the same way I tell the women to say it. 821 00:44:14.120 --> 00:44:17.960 Hey, I'd love to get to know you offline, 822 00:44:17.960 --> 00:44:19.040 but if that's not, but you know, 823 00:44:19.040 --> 00:44:21.440 but of course, if that's not where you're at, 824 00:44:21.440 --> 00:44:22.680 that's totally okay. 825 00:44:22.680 --> 00:44:24.200 No harm, no foul. 826 00:44:24.200 --> 00:44:25.800 It was really nice meeting you. 827 00:44:25.800 --> 00:44:27.200 And then you go on your way. 828 00:44:27.200 --> 00:44:29.720 And at the very least, 829 00:44:29.720 --> 00:44:32.200 somebody might feel good about getting that message, 830 00:44:32.200 --> 00:44:34.800 even if they're not interested in pursuing it further. 831 00:44:34.800 --> 00:44:36.240 Like, you know how you just said, Mike, 832 00:44:36.240 --> 00:44:39.760 that sometimes you're there to reset their standards. 833 00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:42.360 They could have had just a really bad day 834 00:44:42.360 --> 00:44:44.160 or somebody made them feel like crud 835 00:44:44.160 --> 00:44:46.720 and you doing that might make them feel like, 836 00:44:48.360 --> 00:44:50.720 oh, like that was God's wink. 837 00:44:50.720 --> 00:44:52.680 Like somebody saw me. 838 00:44:52.680 --> 00:44:54.240 So like, you know, we did that, 839 00:44:54.240 --> 00:44:56.920 the first dating game thing, whatever, 840 00:44:56.920 --> 00:45:00.680 and it ended up that the one that I'd shown you. 841 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:06.720 We couldn't match I mean she couldn't relocate and neither could I and I was like super bummed 842 00:45:06.720 --> 00:45:11.160 I'm like, I'm so sorry. She's like, you know, she's and Jackie's like, you know what she got chosen 843 00:45:11.720 --> 00:45:16.640 Yeah, right like, you know, and so she got chosen and that and she was having a rough time 844 00:45:17.000 --> 00:45:21.080 Yeah, and and so I was like, okay God cuz I'm like, man, I felt so bad 845 00:45:22.800 --> 00:45:24.800 You know, it's so 846 00:45:24.800 --> 00:45:26.800 Good 847 00:45:32.840 --> 00:45:37.920 Muffins on tonight. There you go, baby. That's good, David 848 00:45:45.000 --> 00:45:47.540 And remind me we're in Connecticut, are you 849 00:45:51.480 --> 00:45:53.480 What 850 00:45:53.800 --> 00:45:56.400 What can you guys hear him no 851 00:45:59.760 --> 00:46:01.760 You're not close enough to your mic 852 00:46:02.640 --> 00:46:04.640 It's like muffled 853 00:46:05.200 --> 00:46:08.500 Are you on your ear buds? Yes that happened to me with my earbuds 854 00:46:10.440 --> 00:46:18.040 But I said Bellevue but that's in Washington, that's why I don't know that there's a Bellevue in Oh Derby, okay 855 00:46:18.040 --> 00:46:20.040 Well 856 00:46:21.600 --> 00:46:24.660 Well, I'm gonna be in Connecticut July 857 00:46:29.080 --> 00:46:33.000 17 through the 20 17 20th 20 858 00:46:34.840 --> 00:46:38.440 Yeah, 17 through the 20th, but we're like in 859 00:46:39.400 --> 00:46:41.400 trombone 860 00:46:41.480 --> 00:46:46.640 And I can't remember how close but if it's to come get a slice of pizza 861 00:46:48.400 --> 00:46:50.400 You maybe we can I mean trombone 862 00:46:51.320 --> 00:46:53.880 Now I can hear you go. We can hear you much better 863 00:46:54.320 --> 00:47:00.600 Yeah, trombone is about I want to say a 10-minute drive from where I'm at. Shut up. Oh my god 864 00:47:01.200 --> 00:47:03.200 because like for me to get to like the 865 00:47:03.400 --> 00:47:09.280 Train station is not there and I can like drive and could be in New York within an hour or so 866 00:47:09.880 --> 00:47:13.440 Well, it's funny you say that because we're gonna go into New York City that Friday 867 00:47:14.200 --> 00:47:18.960 You know since that's where Brian proposed to me, it's you know, it's like the day before our 868 00:47:19.680 --> 00:47:23.680 Family my family reunion. So he's like, yeah, we need to go back to New York City 869 00:47:24.360 --> 00:47:25.840 We're just gonna 870 00:47:25.840 --> 00:47:28.040 Empire State Building. We're not gonna go in it again 871 00:47:28.960 --> 00:47:30.960 Is this again? 872 00:47:31.360 --> 00:47:33.360 July 17 873 00:47:34.520 --> 00:47:35.800 Was 874 00:47:35.800 --> 00:47:40.840 That's actually the day before my brother's birthday. Yeah, so we'll be in Connecticut the 18th 875 00:47:40.840 --> 00:47:47.580 We're gonna be a Sherwood Island at on the 18th. So if you want to be around a hundred plus Italians 876 00:47:49.920 --> 00:47:54.360 Come to Sherwood Island on Saturday the 18th and you will be well fed 877 00:47:55.360 --> 00:47:58.200 Send me an invite and I'll just say I'm carb loading 878 00:47:58.800 --> 00:48:02.720 Like a point to my calves. I can still I can prove I'm not lying. I'm not a runner. So 879 00:48:03.720 --> 00:48:05.720 Oh 880 00:48:06.080 --> 00:48:10.840 Wait, what about what's the running thing? I'm missing that. What's that joke? What are you trying to say? 881 00:48:12.640 --> 00:48:17.680 Just say I'm carb loading because I'm trying to like train for a race or something. Oh my gosh, you're so funny 882 00:48:19.120 --> 00:48:21.120 It's technically the truth 883 00:48:22.080 --> 00:48:25.520 On the 20th this month. I got a plan to dilute for that 884 00:48:25.920 --> 00:48:30.360 Cuz like to come to Sherwood Island, don't you just need a Connecticut license to get in for free? 885 00:48:31.360 --> 00:48:34.800 It's just a state it's a state beach 886 00:48:36.240 --> 00:48:39.720 So I think the state beaches you just need a license 887 00:48:40.880 --> 00:48:43.200 One of the beaches of Westport 888 00:48:43.200 --> 00:48:47.480 I know needs one like I would have to research to see if Sherwood Island is that one or the other one? 889 00:48:47.680 --> 00:48:49.680 Sure, what island is in Westport? 890 00:48:50.120 --> 00:48:51.160 Yeah 891 00:48:51.160 --> 00:48:57.560 Yeah, what yeah Westport's about like a good 10-15 minutes from the church. I go to in Fairfield. So 892 00:48:58.560 --> 00:49:00.560 Which way would you go to Black Rock I 893 00:49:01.280 --> 00:49:03.280 Sure. No 894 00:49:03.400 --> 00:49:05.920 Okay, my nephew goes to Black Rock 895 00:49:05.920 --> 00:49:11.520 In fact, he is about to go on a mission trip to where they go and he's gonna do his electrical work 896 00:49:12.120 --> 00:49:13.800 No way 897 00:49:13.800 --> 00:49:15.720 Mm-hmm. Oh my god 898 00:49:15.720 --> 00:49:22.640 The recent one was I know there went to DR bottle that that we are I think they're going to the DR 899 00:49:23.440 --> 00:49:26.280 Because the young adults are going to the DR 900 00:49:26.760 --> 00:49:30.120 Currently right now and I think there's another one next month if I'm not mistaken 901 00:49:30.840 --> 00:49:32.840 He's about 29 902 00:49:33.760 --> 00:49:35.160 Small world 903 00:49:35.160 --> 00:49:38.920 It's 29 or 30, but he can use some male friends, too 904 00:49:39.600 --> 00:49:41.800 He's had it rough. He's had a rough 905 00:49:43.120 --> 00:49:48.320 I'm in the rough one right now, too. You're another rough one. What's going on Hunter? How can we help you? 906 00:49:48.440 --> 00:49:55.840 Oh, I'm just thinking about be when I was talking to this woman I mentioned about a church one didn't show up 907 00:49:55.840 --> 00:50:00.080 I did text but then the other one said we didn't have because she was 908 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.280 busy serving, but I managed to go up and talk to them, but I hate to be the one instigating 909 00:50:04.280 --> 00:50:11.040 the conversation, but I know there's a saying, you don't beg, guys, we don't beg for a relationship 910 00:50:11.040 --> 00:50:16.000 at all, but you just want to draw a woman to you, well, I can see why today I don't 911 00:50:16.000 --> 00:50:20.960 draw women to me, because I may look cool on the outside, but deep down I'm throwing 912 00:50:20.960 --> 00:50:27.160 a little tantrum at me wanting to use violence towards someone's husband, because how come 913 00:50:27.160 --> 00:50:32.200 God gets to bless you, almost like Cain and Abel style, but of course, that's the devil 914 00:50:32.200 --> 00:50:33.200 talking. 915 00:50:33.200 --> 00:50:42.400 Oh, well, you know what, Hunter, we've all been there, for sure, that is why, you guys, 916 00:50:42.400 --> 00:50:43.400 it is... 917 00:50:43.400 --> 00:50:48.760 How am I supposed to get in a relationship, it's all impossible, I say, God, if it's not 918 00:50:48.760 --> 00:50:52.760 your will, it's not your will, it's not saying I should just boycott, it means you're just 919 00:50:52.760 --> 00:50:56.880 not going to be the source of my joy. 920 00:50:56.880 --> 00:51:02.920 Well, here's what I can tell you, I think that for most of us, the Lord doesn't want 921 00:51:02.920 --> 00:51:07.320 us to be alone, I believe that there's only a small population where the Lord is like, 922 00:51:07.320 --> 00:51:10.800 yeah, you're going to be on your own, and I believe for those people, they in fact want 923 00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:17.900 to be alone, like I think that's the desire of their heart, I do think that's why Jackie 924 00:51:17.900 --> 00:51:22.520 wrote the book that she did, I think when she first started the program, I think she 925 00:51:23.280 --> 00:51:26.880 thought, well, if everybody gets their heart healed, they're going to find their person, 926 00:51:26.880 --> 00:51:32.000 and I think the longer she's been in the program with us, and she's learned all of our stories, 927 00:51:32.000 --> 00:51:36.000 I think she's realized, oh my gosh, you guys are up against things that people did not 928 00:51:36.000 --> 00:51:43.520 used to be up against, and so I think in the same way that the enemy wants to end marriages 929 00:51:43.520 --> 00:51:49.720 and end legacies, he is blocking them from happening in the first place, and so we have 930 00:51:49.720 --> 00:51:55.240 an epidemic, you guys, I took a screenshot of this, and I don't know how legit the number 931 00:51:55.240 --> 00:52:00.160 is, but people have said it's a legit number, and they were talking about the percentage 932 00:52:00.160 --> 00:52:08.240 of people that are married by the age of 30 from like the 1930s to today, and it used 933 00:52:08.240 --> 00:52:15.800 to be like 80% of the population was married by the time they were 30, and then of recent 934 00:52:15.800 --> 00:52:23.280 years, it's like 25%, like it's dramatically different of how many people are still single. 935 00:52:23.280 --> 00:52:25.520 Nope, that's not it. 936 00:52:25.520 --> 00:52:28.640 I took a screenshot of it, but I got too many damn screenshots. 937 00:52:28.640 --> 00:52:31.360 I wanted change. 938 00:52:31.360 --> 00:52:35.680 But all that to say, I think that we're dealing with harder times, and what I was trying to 939 00:52:35.680 --> 00:52:41.840 say is, I think while most people romanticize, oh, I want to meet somebody in the wild, I 940 00:52:41.840 --> 00:52:44.840 want to meet them in real life, I don't want to meet them online. 941 00:52:44.880 --> 00:52:51.400 The problem with meeting people in the wild is, it is really hard sometimes to discern 942 00:52:51.400 --> 00:52:54.420 if they're really interested and really date ready. 943 00:52:54.420 --> 00:52:56.240 Are they relationship ready? 944 00:52:56.240 --> 00:52:58.240 Are they commitment ready? 945 00:52:58.240 --> 00:52:59.640 And are they interested in you? 946 00:52:59.640 --> 00:53:04.160 So like to Mike's point, he's out on the thing with a bunch of people, does she like me or 947 00:53:04.160 --> 00:53:05.160 not? 948 00:53:05.160 --> 00:53:08.660 You know, Hunter, you're at church, and you're talking to these women, are they just being 949 00:53:08.660 --> 00:53:10.440 nice to me, or are they interested in me? 950 00:53:10.440 --> 00:53:16.760 So that's the downside of meeting people in the wild, is you don't know how ready they 951 00:53:16.760 --> 00:53:17.760 are. 952 00:53:17.760 --> 00:53:19.080 You don't know how interested they are. 953 00:53:19.080 --> 00:53:24.400 So you have to do a lot more guessing, and you have to put yourself out there, which 954 00:53:24.400 --> 00:53:26.840 means you have to be willing to get the no. 955 00:53:26.840 --> 00:53:33.000 So you know, Hunter, the most obvious way is, you know, you just be blunt. 956 00:53:33.000 --> 00:53:40.160 Like I'm dating intentionally, and you're somebody I would like to get to know one-on-one. 957 00:53:40.880 --> 00:53:42.680 Is that something you would be interested in? 958 00:53:42.680 --> 00:53:43.680 Boom. 959 00:53:43.680 --> 00:53:48.000 I mean, it puts people on the spot pretty quickly, but it gives you a no. 960 00:53:48.000 --> 00:53:50.560 Now, Kenton just looking at me like, are you kidding me? 961 00:53:50.560 --> 00:53:54.680 So maybe that's like too bold, but I guess I would rather know. 962 00:53:54.680 --> 00:54:02.040 When I think about how many men in church that I liked, that I thought liked me back, 963 00:54:02.040 --> 00:54:06.640 I mean, there were guys I even went out on what I thought was a date, and it was not 964 00:54:06.640 --> 00:54:07.640 a date. 965 00:54:07.640 --> 00:54:10.200 I'm like, oh, that wasn't a date? 966 00:54:10.200 --> 00:54:11.800 I thought that was a date. 967 00:54:11.800 --> 00:54:18.160 Like when I look back at how many men I like was the one I'm looking for, I pined over 968 00:54:18.160 --> 00:54:21.080 for not just weeks, I mean months. 969 00:54:21.080 --> 00:54:24.640 I was like, I mean, there was like some guy at the theater group. 970 00:54:24.640 --> 00:54:30.000 I'm like, oh, I'm going to make sure I'm standing next to him when we hold hands for prayer, 971 00:54:30.000 --> 00:54:33.880 and I'm going to make sure at church I'm sitting next to this guy during dinner. 972 00:54:34.040 --> 00:54:39.240 I look back now and I'm like, gosh, I wish some of them were just a bit more blunt with 973 00:54:39.240 --> 00:54:40.240 me. 974 00:54:40.240 --> 00:54:42.280 Renee, I just don't like you that way. 975 00:54:42.280 --> 00:54:43.280 Thank you. 976 00:54:43.280 --> 00:54:50.960 I'm embarrassed for a moment, but okay, I can just save my time and move on. 977 00:54:50.960 --> 00:54:55.360 I'm reading what you wrote, Kenton. 978 00:54:55.360 --> 00:54:58.840 Yeah. 979 00:54:58.840 --> 00:55:00.040 You'll never really know. 980 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.080 what you want until you know what you don't want. 981 00:55:02.280 --> 00:55:02.960 So true. 982 00:55:02.960 --> 00:55:06.760 One of the best advices I got from somebody is they said, Renee, 983 00:55:06.760 --> 00:55:11.280 when you're getting a job, it's not a failure to learn a job 984 00:55:11.280 --> 00:55:12.240 that you never want to do. 985 00:55:12.240 --> 00:55:14.320 Like I went to go work for an ad agency. 986 00:55:14.320 --> 00:55:15.120 I hated it. 987 00:55:15.120 --> 00:55:17.320 I wasn't there eight months. 988 00:55:17.320 --> 00:55:19.520 And she goes, now you've learned what you don't want. 989 00:55:19.520 --> 00:55:22.960 Learning what you don't want is as important as learning what you want. 990 00:55:23.760 --> 00:55:24.760 And so. 991 00:55:26.640 --> 00:55:28.800 They are the scratch. 992 00:55:31.000 --> 00:55:32.760 Hilarious. 993 00:55:32.760 --> 00:55:34.800 And then here's another thing that's tagged. 994 00:55:34.800 --> 00:55:39.200 I need to tackle is someone in church that I've been knowing for years 995 00:55:39.200 --> 00:55:40.920 says they're going to move to Florida. 996 00:55:40.920 --> 00:55:44.360 I think if I'm going to meet my spirit man married, then nobody's 997 00:55:44.360 --> 00:55:46.160 neighbor is going to be at the wedding. 998 00:55:46.160 --> 00:55:49.240 The older I get, the more people fade and the more people fade in more. 999 00:55:49.240 --> 00:55:50.680 They won't see me marry. 1000 00:55:50.680 --> 00:55:52.680 And at that point, I'm just going to say, you know what? 1001 00:55:53.520 --> 00:55:54.880 Worthless, I'm not going to marry. 1002 00:55:54.880 --> 00:55:56.840 There's no point to it anymore. 1003 00:55:56.840 --> 00:56:00.440 Figure what's the point of it if you're not going to share my life with you? 1004 00:56:00.720 --> 00:56:03.160 Yeah, well, I will say this, Hunter, how old are you? 1005 00:56:03.560 --> 00:56:05.960 Thirty seven, even though I try. 1006 00:56:06.120 --> 00:56:08.080 You're a young pup. 1007 00:56:09.280 --> 00:56:11.680 I will say this. 1008 00:56:11.760 --> 00:56:15.840 I have. Thought plenty of times. 1009 00:56:17.240 --> 00:56:21.280 It's never going to happen for me, like my time is up, it's not going to happen. 1010 00:56:22.720 --> 00:56:26.280 But I'm glad and this is really and I credit Jackie for this, 1011 00:56:26.280 --> 00:56:31.160 because if it wasn't for her voice nagging in the back of my head, 1012 00:56:31.800 --> 00:56:35.240 I would not have gotten online one more time. 1013 00:56:35.920 --> 00:56:37.640 And that's how I met Brian. 1014 00:56:37.640 --> 00:56:40.600 And right now, truly. 1015 00:56:41.760 --> 00:56:44.800 He is the best husband for me, 1016 00:56:45.440 --> 00:56:49.680 and I feel so blessed, and even though I feel so frickin old, 1017 00:56:50.040 --> 00:56:53.280 do you know I can still get be married to him for twenty five years? 1018 00:56:53.280 --> 00:56:55.640 Like we're still young enough 1019 00:56:55.640 --> 00:56:58.280 that I could celebrate a twenty fifth wedding anniversary. 1020 00:56:58.280 --> 00:57:01.040 And so I wouldn't want. 1021 00:57:01.040 --> 00:57:03.680 So I don't need you to have a lot of hope, Hunter. 1022 00:57:03.880 --> 00:57:06.320 I just need you to have a tiny amount of hope. 1023 00:57:06.320 --> 00:57:08.280 I just want you to stay in the game. 1024 00:57:08.280 --> 00:57:11.000 Now, you also might get to the place that I was. 1025 00:57:11.000 --> 00:57:13.040 And this is where I was with Jackie. 1026 00:57:13.040 --> 00:57:15.880 I said, Jackie, unless it's a hell, yes, it's a no. 1027 00:57:16.360 --> 00:57:18.600 Like I have done life long enough. 1028 00:57:18.600 --> 00:57:20.560 I'm successful. I'm outgoing. 1029 00:57:20.560 --> 00:57:23.240 I have friends. I've got community. I've got money. 1030 00:57:23.600 --> 00:57:25.440 I own my own home. 1031 00:57:25.440 --> 00:57:28.760 Like, I don't need to get married just for the sake of getting married. 1032 00:57:28.760 --> 00:57:30.960 I'm past the age of having babies. 1033 00:57:30.960 --> 00:57:33.880 So if I get married, it's a hell yes or it's a no. 1034 00:57:34.880 --> 00:57:38.280 And so you may get to that stage. 1035 00:57:38.280 --> 00:57:41.240 You may get to the stage where you're like, you know what? 1036 00:57:41.240 --> 00:57:44.360 I have a good life and I love my life 1037 00:57:44.360 --> 00:57:47.480 and I'm not going to be with a woman unless she's all in for me. 1038 00:57:47.920 --> 00:57:49.480 And that's what I want for all of you, 1039 00:57:49.480 --> 00:57:52.160 which is where we started our conversation tonight. 1040 00:57:52.520 --> 00:57:56.280 We only want women for you that are hell yeses like 1041 00:57:56.960 --> 00:58:02.120 she can't wait to live with you and she can't imagine life without you. 1042 00:58:02.520 --> 00:58:06.400 And when she gets married to you, she's going to say to all of you, 1043 00:58:06.400 --> 00:58:08.480 you are worth the wait. All right. 1044 00:58:09.560 --> 00:58:14.760 So it's that balance is holding both of those together. 1045 00:58:15.480 --> 00:58:20.000 Oh, did I already send an email about being on the spotlight or so? 1046 00:58:20.880 --> 00:58:23.880 Well, I like I said to the guys at the beginning, you miss that. 1047 00:58:23.880 --> 00:58:28.600 I'm messaging Jackie about that because I don't know what her process is. 1048 00:58:28.640 --> 00:58:33.280 So I made a list tonight and I know you're on that list of all the people 1049 00:58:33.840 --> 00:58:37.160 that are willing to be spotlighted about her or from her. 1050 00:58:37.800 --> 00:58:39.680 So I will get that out to her. 1051 00:58:39.680 --> 00:58:43.160 I did not get to go to the team meeting today, so I did not get to ask it live. 1052 00:58:43.160 --> 00:58:47.240 But I am going to message her and follow up with her in the next week. 1053 00:58:47.280 --> 00:58:51.240 And and and the other thing I got, 1054 00:58:51.360 --> 00:58:54.360 at least the only positive thing I got going is jujitsu. 1055 00:58:54.880 --> 00:58:59.480 I'm now doing it every day of the week except Sunday or so and Saturday. 1056 00:58:59.760 --> 00:59:04.920 And basically a lot of a lot of guys I spar with, they they're married. 1057 00:59:04.920 --> 00:59:07.800 And I think women like it when a guy does jujitsu or so. 1058 00:59:08.720 --> 00:59:11.640 Well, women love strong men. 1059 00:59:11.640 --> 00:59:15.400 We we you know, but Kenton, you were on the class that I did. 1060 00:59:15.400 --> 00:59:16.440 What was it last week? 1061 00:59:16.440 --> 00:59:21.400 I said, oh, and I looked at my dating list of all the things I wanted in a guy. 1062 00:59:21.400 --> 00:59:24.480 Somebody looked at my list and he's like, you want a gay braveheart? 1063 00:59:24.480 --> 00:59:27.200 Like what? I wanted gay braveheart. 1064 00:59:27.520 --> 00:59:32.400 Like I wanted all the masculine elements of a braveheart guy, strong guy. 1065 00:59:32.400 --> 00:59:36.920 But I wanted all the touchy feely elements of a gay man. 1066 00:59:37.400 --> 00:59:39.960 He was like, it's not going to be in one person. 1067 00:59:40.800 --> 00:59:44.640 No. And, 1068 00:59:45.800 --> 00:59:50.000 and, you know, I would say, you know, Brian is not either one. 1069 00:59:50.000 --> 00:59:51.760 He is not gay or brave. 1070 00:59:55.400 --> 00:59:58.680 But he's the best little version that I needed. 1071 00:59:58.680 --> 00:59:59.960 So God knew better than. 1072 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.400 me. What was that? That one that the shaggy professor 1073 01:00:05.980 --> 01:00:12.560 remember that movie? Oh my God. No. It was. I look at Brian 1074 01:00:12.560 --> 01:00:16.440 that way. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Well, you know, okay. Do 1075 01:00:16.440 --> 01:00:19.680 you ever see the cartoon? Which one was it up with the little 1076 01:00:19.680 --> 01:00:24.440 man who wears the bow tie and his wife died and he goes out 1077 01:00:24.440 --> 01:00:30.200 traveling? Was it up? He looks like that guy. He looks like 1078 01:00:30.200 --> 01:00:33.720 that little character. You say that? Yeah, I think he does. 1079 01:00:37.240 --> 01:00:40.360 Okay. And so Dan, just to let you know, we get there by six 1080 01:00:40.360 --> 01:00:44.440 30 in the morning to save like 15 tables. So we're there. We 1081 01:00:44.440 --> 01:00:48.360 cook breakfast, farm eggs, bacon, egg, and cheese 1082 01:00:48.360 --> 01:00:52.840 sandwiches on those nice Italian rolls. And then we do a big 1083 01:00:52.840 --> 01:00:56.600 lunch and then my family stays for dinner and we make homemade 1084 01:00:56.600 --> 01:01:00.200 pasta. That sounds like a challenge. I'm down. And we 1085 01:01:00.200 --> 01:01:05.360 have every kind of clams. We do clams on a half shell. We steam 1086 01:01:05.360 --> 01:01:10.840 the clams. Yeah. One of my high school buddies, big Italian 1087 01:01:11.200 --> 01:01:16.080 baby to his house. Trust me. I'm ready for that. I'll have to 1088 01:01:16.080 --> 01:01:21.280 just remember. Are you on the, are you in the app? Uh, the app? 1089 01:01:21.680 --> 01:01:24.000 Yeah. Oh yeah. You guys are in the app. That's how you get in 1090 01:01:24.000 --> 01:01:27.560 here, right? Yes. I'm sorry. I don't like, wait. Yeah, I'm on 1091 01:01:27.560 --> 01:01:31.440 the app. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my goodness. Well, is there anything 1092 01:01:31.440 --> 01:01:34.760 else you guys want to chat about tonight? It's, it's the five 1093 01:01:34.760 --> 01:01:37.560 after the hour, but I mean, I can stay on, but I also don't 1094 01:01:37.560 --> 01:01:42.120 want to keep you if we're done too. So are we doing okay? 1095 01:01:42.160 --> 01:01:45.200 Otherwise, did you have a question to anybody feel led to 1096 01:01:45.200 --> 01:01:48.600 share something? Pearls of wisdom. 1097 01:01:49.840 --> 01:01:52.760 Just jumping back to myself for a second. I just want to say 1098 01:01:52.760 --> 01:01:56.200 that I appreciate you guys praying for me. Um, the two 1099 01:01:56.200 --> 01:01:58.920 things I constantly ask for prayer for are that I'd hear 1100 01:01:58.920 --> 01:02:00.000 God and trust God. 1101 01:02:04.280 --> 01:02:08.120 And remember, I think the one thing I am always reminded of 1102 01:02:08.120 --> 01:02:11.960 when we're praying to hear God correctly, whatever God is 1103 01:02:11.960 --> 01:02:16.480 telling us always lines up with scripture. It's never going to 1104 01:02:16.480 --> 01:02:19.920 be contrary to scripture. So if we think he's telling us to do 1105 01:02:19.920 --> 01:02:23.840 something, not do something, go somewhere, be with somebody, 1106 01:02:24.280 --> 01:02:26.840 it's always going to line up with the word of God. So we're 1107 01:02:26.840 --> 01:02:29.920 never going to be in conflict. It's never going to be 1108 01:02:29.920 --> 01:02:32.200 confusion. And I don't know about you, Tim, but when I'm 1109 01:02:32.200 --> 01:02:36.680 looking for real clarity from God, I always say, Lord, show it 1110 01:02:36.680 --> 01:02:40.000 to me from three different people, three different ways, 1111 01:02:40.000 --> 01:02:43.560 because I'm stupid and untrusting like that. So somebody 1112 01:02:43.560 --> 01:02:47.040 has to preach it to me, I hear it in a song on the radio, and 1113 01:02:47.040 --> 01:02:49.800 then some random schmo says something. And I'm like, okay, 1114 01:02:49.800 --> 01:02:52.640 it's the third time I just heard this. I get it, God. 1115 01:02:53.480 --> 01:02:57.160 So that's well, Tim, in the prophetic world, and there was 1116 01:02:57.160 --> 01:03:01.000 a great word spoken over the group on on Sunday night, by 1117 01:03:01.000 --> 01:03:07.000 the way. And I think Vaughn, or forget her name. But anyway, it 1118 01:03:07.000 --> 01:03:09.800 was like, yield yourself to God, check with the Holy Spirit 1119 01:03:09.880 --> 01:03:14.120 first, before you move, you do anything, just check on him. 1120 01:03:14.480 --> 01:03:16.880 Now, sometimes checking on the Holy Spirit simply means 1121 01:03:16.880 --> 01:03:19.880 allowing somebody else to speak into your life, that they come 1122 01:03:19.880 --> 01:03:21.680 up to you and say, you know what, I heard what you're 1123 01:03:21.680 --> 01:03:24.440 saying. And, and you know, that sure sounds like it's ringing 1124 01:03:24.440 --> 01:03:27.840 true, because I'm hearing the Lord saying that, as well, too. 1125 01:03:28.400 --> 01:03:32.240 That's always a good check. Because majority of times, if it 1126 01:03:32.240 --> 01:03:35.200 is not for the Lord, God's not going to send another person to 1127 01:03:35.200 --> 01:03:38.920 encourage that. That's for sure not. And when you sit alone, and 1128 01:03:38.920 --> 01:03:41.400 you think that's the right decision, but God will send 1129 01:03:41.760 --> 01:03:46.520 additional words or additional people your way to confirm. He 1130 01:03:46.520 --> 01:03:49.240 will always does that. And so don't be afraid to ask Lord to 1131 01:03:49.240 --> 01:03:53.080 confirm what you what you think. And if it doesn't come, then you 1132 01:03:53.080 --> 01:03:55.800 know that isn't you're not going down the right track. That's 1133 01:03:55.800 --> 01:03:57.160 all. It's very simple. 1134 01:03:58.520 --> 01:04:02.240 But we're rooting for you. Because we are you we're rooting 1135 01:04:02.240 --> 01:04:10.120 for you. And so we're in your camp for sure. Well, I love it. 1136 01:04:10.120 --> 01:04:12.960 Anybody else have anything you wanted to share? Otherwise, I'm 1137 01:04:12.960 --> 01:04:15.640 going to have Kenton close us out. 1138 01:04:17.400 --> 01:04:19.800 Anything else, guys? I don't want to don't want to short 1139 01:04:19.800 --> 01:04:21.560 change anybody, because you might have something that you 1140 01:04:21.560 --> 01:04:23.680 have good question that we all need to hear tonight. 1141 01:04:24.000 --> 01:04:29.120 Yes. It's questioning about me questioning, letting go of this. 1142 01:04:29.160 --> 01:04:33.760 The how do I do about this aging rat race about I'm getting older 1143 01:04:33.760 --> 01:04:35.480 by the day or so. 1144 01:04:38.160 --> 01:04:41.160 That one, you know, Hunter, you know, the Lord is always true. 1145 01:04:41.160 --> 01:04:44.520 And he's good. You know that. Proverbs five, three and six 1146 01:04:44.520 --> 01:04:47.960 trust, trust in the Lord with all your heart. Trust in the 1147 01:04:47.960 --> 01:04:52.480 Lord. All your heart do not lean upon your own understanding or 1148 01:04:52.480 --> 01:04:54.760 human understanding, because you're going to get a lot of 1149 01:04:54.760 --> 01:04:58.160 lies coming your way. That's good. They're not lean upon 1150 01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:02.000 How does it go, the rest of it? 1151 01:05:02.000 --> 01:05:02.840 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, 1152 01:05:02.840 --> 01:05:04.160 do not lean upon your own understanding, 1153 01:05:04.160 --> 01:05:07.320 but acknowledge Him in all that you do. 1154 01:05:07.320 --> 01:05:10.840 When you focus upon Him, He will make your, 1155 01:05:10.840 --> 01:05:13.860 He, not you, He will make your path straight. 1156 01:05:15.120 --> 01:05:17.160 Okay, and that's by trusting on Him, 1157 01:05:17.160 --> 01:05:20.160 keeping your eyes on Him, keep on growing in Christ. 1158 01:05:20.160 --> 01:05:21.940 Because when you're doing that, 1159 01:05:21.940 --> 01:05:25.320 you are getting yourself ready for a woman. 1160 01:05:25.320 --> 01:05:27.080 As a godly man, you've got, 1161 01:05:27.080 --> 01:05:29.860 man, it's hard to find godly men nowadays to do, gentlemen. 1162 01:05:30.700 --> 01:05:34.300 But it's the men who will wash their women 1163 01:05:34.300 --> 01:05:38.500 with the Word of God, who know the Word of God, 1164 01:05:38.500 --> 01:05:41.340 and can give encouraging words over them 1165 01:05:41.340 --> 01:05:43.420 to the place where they feel that 1166 01:05:43.420 --> 01:05:45.260 they're being uplifted by the heavenly Father, 1167 01:05:45.260 --> 01:05:48.140 in which He is, because the Word is speaking for itself. 1168 01:05:48.140 --> 01:05:49.980 And so keep on trusting in the Lord for what you want, 1169 01:05:49.980 --> 01:05:51.860 keep on growing, Hunter. 1170 01:05:51.860 --> 01:05:53.900 Keep on setting your eyes upon God, 1171 01:05:53.900 --> 01:05:56.660 because that's, if you get discouraged, 1172 01:05:56.660 --> 01:05:58.060 maybe the discouragement is because 1173 01:05:58.060 --> 01:06:00.140 your eyes are off of God again, 1174 01:06:00.140 --> 01:06:02.020 and you're thinking too much about the women 1175 01:06:02.020 --> 01:06:03.620 instead of your relationship with the Father. 1176 01:06:03.620 --> 01:06:05.620 Just a thought, Hunter, just a thought. 1177 01:06:07.840 --> 01:06:09.740 That's good, that's a good word. 1178 01:06:09.740 --> 01:06:11.380 That's good for all of us, too. 1179 01:06:13.180 --> 01:06:15.700 We always have to make sure the person we want 1180 01:06:15.700 --> 01:06:18.340 is never more than Christ Himself. 1181 01:06:20.100 --> 01:06:22.920 And we can all fall into that trap. 1182 01:06:24.060 --> 01:06:27.420 Because here's the thing, as great as Brian is, 1183 01:06:27.460 --> 01:06:28.740 he didn't meet all my needs. 1184 01:06:28.740 --> 01:06:31.520 Like, there's some things only the Father can fix. 1185 01:06:32.740 --> 01:06:34.580 And, yeah. 1186 01:06:34.580 --> 01:06:36.940 All right, Kenton, pray us out. 1187 01:06:36.940 --> 01:06:37.780 I will. 1188 01:06:37.780 --> 01:06:40.700 Father, we are grateful that you have given the servants 1189 01:06:40.700 --> 01:06:44.420 such as Renee to come and be with us tonight, Lord. 1190 01:06:44.420 --> 01:06:47.100 I thank you, and may you bless her and Brian 1191 01:06:47.100 --> 01:06:49.660 as there are years that are coming upon them, Lord. 1192 01:06:50.660 --> 01:06:52.860 If you don't come back early, 1193 01:06:52.860 --> 01:06:55.060 may they be like that little old couple 1194 01:06:55.060 --> 01:06:56.540 in the end of years later, 1195 01:06:56.660 --> 01:06:58.380 where they're sitting on the porch, 1196 01:06:58.380 --> 01:07:01.140 sitting side-by-side in the rocking chair, 1197 01:07:01.140 --> 01:07:04.100 holding hands and looking and admiring each other, 1198 01:07:04.100 --> 01:07:08.220 and knowing they have such a deep love for each other 1199 01:07:08.220 --> 01:07:10.260 because they grew into this love. 1200 01:07:11.260 --> 01:07:12.660 They just didn't have it instantly, 1201 01:07:12.660 --> 01:07:15.540 but they grew into it with the struggles and trials. 1202 01:07:15.540 --> 01:07:18.020 But with every strong trial, 1203 01:07:18.020 --> 01:07:21.780 one comes out with a stronger character. 1204 01:07:21.780 --> 01:07:24.140 And so I just pray that over Renee and Brian, Lord, 1205 01:07:24.140 --> 01:07:27.340 that they would be that type of couple, Lord, 1206 01:07:27.340 --> 01:07:31.060 that their latter years are far greater 1207 01:07:31.060 --> 01:07:32.660 than their former years. 1208 01:07:33.580 --> 01:07:34.820 And that's gonna be so true. 1209 01:07:34.820 --> 01:07:38.020 And I see that for you, Renee and Brian, like. 1210 01:07:38.020 --> 01:07:40.740 And I thank the Lord for each and every one of you men 1211 01:07:40.740 --> 01:07:43.300 that you've had the guts to be here tonight, 1212 01:07:43.300 --> 01:07:45.340 that you've got the guts to improve yourself, 1213 01:07:45.340 --> 01:07:48.140 to want to, and instead of going on to the next relationship 1214 01:07:48.140 --> 01:07:50.780 with the same wounds, you had the reality check 1215 01:07:50.780 --> 01:07:53.820 to say, I need to get my heart right. 1216 01:07:54.500 --> 01:07:56.260 I just wanna thank the Lord for who you are 1217 01:07:56.260 --> 01:07:57.300 and you've made that step 1218 01:07:57.300 --> 01:08:00.980 because you're gonna become a great husband 1219 01:08:00.980 --> 01:08:03.580 for some very fortunate woman. 1220 01:08:03.580 --> 01:08:05.580 But I pray that that woman is also working 1221 01:08:05.580 --> 01:08:07.860 on her heart as well. 1222 01:08:07.860 --> 01:08:09.660 So that when you meet them, 1223 01:08:09.660 --> 01:08:12.020 together you come in a very wholesome way. 1224 01:08:12.020 --> 01:08:14.540 But even inside that marriage, gentlemen, 1225 01:08:14.540 --> 01:08:15.600 inside that marriage, 1226 01:08:15.600 --> 01:08:17.220 there's gonna be healing for both of you 1227 01:08:17.220 --> 01:08:19.939 because when you were hurt in a past relationship, 1228 01:08:19.939 --> 01:08:21.859 you'll be healed in that relationship 1229 01:08:21.859 --> 01:08:23.700 because you'll see what a healthy woman 1230 01:08:23.700 --> 01:08:26.540 or a healthy woman is looking like 1231 01:08:26.540 --> 01:08:28.220 in a healthy relationship. 1232 01:08:29.620 --> 01:08:31.300 And that will bring such healing 1233 01:08:31.300 --> 01:08:34.740 that you just thank God for that woman 1234 01:08:34.740 --> 01:08:36.680 because that's where you'll find your healing. 1235 01:08:36.680 --> 01:08:38.340 So Father, in this time together, 1236 01:08:38.340 --> 01:08:41.819 in this final minutes that we have together, 1237 01:08:41.819 --> 01:08:43.819 we just wanna thank you, number one, 1238 01:08:43.819 --> 01:08:46.420 that you are preparing each and every one of these men, 1239 01:08:46.420 --> 01:08:48.060 that they will be not just gentlemen, 1240 01:08:48.060 --> 01:08:50.340 but there'll be many who will, 1241 01:08:50.340 --> 01:08:52.220 I believe many will be seeking you out. 1242 01:08:52.220 --> 01:08:53.460 Many will be seeking you out 1243 01:08:53.460 --> 01:08:54.660 and will be so jealous 1244 01:08:54.660 --> 01:08:57.740 that with the woman that you've got in your arm, 1245 01:08:57.740 --> 01:08:58.800 they will be so jealous 1246 01:08:58.800 --> 01:09:01.060 because they see how you open the door, 1247 01:09:01.060 --> 01:09:02.859 how you speak loving words to her, 1248 01:09:02.859 --> 01:09:05.180 how you hold her in such gentle ways, 1249 01:09:05.180 --> 01:09:07.660 how you are always speaking well of her, 1250 01:09:07.660 --> 01:09:09.620 that you would do things for her 1251 01:09:09.620 --> 01:09:11.020 that the other one would be so jealous 1252 01:09:11.020 --> 01:09:12.979 and wish that their own husbands would do 1253 01:09:12.979 --> 01:09:16.340 or a man that they're seeking after too, 1254 01:09:16.340 --> 01:09:17.939 that you could hear the whispers of them 1255 01:09:17.939 --> 01:09:19.899 only if I had a man like that. 1256 01:09:19.899 --> 01:09:22.300 So I say, search after the Lord with all your heart, 1257 01:09:22.300 --> 01:09:24.140 seek after him with all your heart, 1258 01:09:24.140 --> 01:09:27.100 and that you may know him, may truly know him, 1259 01:09:27.100 --> 01:09:28.939 because when you know him, 1260 01:09:28.939 --> 01:09:31.460 that knowing is inside of you, 1261 01:09:31.460 --> 01:09:33.380 that character is inside of you 1262 01:09:33.380 --> 01:09:35.939 and people get jealous for that character. 1263 01:09:35.939 --> 01:09:38.060 The women get jealous for that character 1264 01:09:38.060 --> 01:09:39.779 because it's a godly character. 1265 01:09:39.779 --> 01:09:42.340 So seek after him and grow in Christ 1266 01:09:42.340 --> 01:09:45.140 and in doing so, you'll become very attractive. 1267 01:09:45.140 --> 01:09:46.620 The Holy Spirit, because you'll be, 1268 01:09:46.620 --> 01:09:48.580 that woman who is going for God 1269 01:09:48.620 --> 01:09:51.700 is gonna be attracted for a man who's going for God. 1270 01:09:51.700 --> 01:09:53.779 It's a natural attraction. 1271 01:09:53.779 --> 01:09:55.140 And so we just pray over them, Lord, 1272 01:09:55.140 --> 01:09:57.380 that those natural attractions will come, 1273 01:09:57.380 --> 01:09:59.820 that your perfect will would be in their lives. 1274 01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:01.360 Thank you for each and every one. 1275 01:10:01.360 --> 01:10:03.120 Any situation that they're going through, Lord, 1276 01:10:03.120 --> 01:10:05.880 you're gonna meet their needs exactly where they're at. 1277 01:10:05.880 --> 01:10:08.080 But you're gonna meet those needs. 1278 01:10:08.080 --> 01:10:11.920 And Father, I just pray that they'll take the time out 1279 01:10:11.920 --> 01:10:12.760 to be with you. 1280 01:10:12.760 --> 01:10:14.680 That's always a difficulty with us, 1281 01:10:14.680 --> 01:10:16.340 taking the time out to be with you. 1282 01:10:16.340 --> 01:10:19.480 But I can promise you, it'll be a wonderful moment 1283 01:10:19.480 --> 01:10:21.400 because you're gonna get revelation after revelation, 1284 01:10:21.400 --> 01:10:23.760 revelation about yourself and other things. 1285 01:10:23.760 --> 01:10:26.200 And in doing so, you're gonna win out. 1286 01:10:26.200 --> 01:10:28.120 And I see each and every one of you walking 1287 01:10:28.120 --> 01:10:31.860 with a woman in your arms that simply adores you, 1288 01:10:32.920 --> 01:10:36.520 truly adores you, who thinks of nothing about you, 1289 01:10:37.520 --> 01:10:39.560 and vice versa with you. 1290 01:10:39.560 --> 01:10:41.560 Because you'll know it's a match from heaven, 1291 01:10:41.560 --> 01:10:44.200 as Jackie often says, it's always God's match. 1292 01:10:45.280 --> 01:10:48.280 And I'm not saying it's the only person, 1293 01:10:48.280 --> 01:10:51.280 because you know there can be 7,000 women out there 1294 01:10:51.280 --> 01:10:53.840 that are available and are like that, 1295 01:10:53.840 --> 01:10:55.940 but you get to make the choice in the end. 1296 01:10:56.940 --> 01:10:59.460 And I wanna say thank you for those women 1297 01:10:59.460 --> 01:11:02.580 that you are preparing for each and every one of us. 1298 01:11:02.580 --> 01:11:03.900 That you're preparing, Lord. 1299 01:11:03.900 --> 01:11:06.460 They will be the ones, we just take our time 1300 01:11:07.380 --> 01:11:10.260 and just listen to what the Spirit is saying to us, 1301 01:11:10.260 --> 01:11:12.540 because the Spirit leads us into all truth, 1302 01:11:12.540 --> 01:11:15.060 not some, all truth. 1303 01:11:15.060 --> 01:11:17.820 Lord, I just wanna say, give us the time to settle down, 1304 01:11:17.820 --> 01:11:20.100 listen to you, and we'll do it your way. 1305 01:11:20.100 --> 01:11:21.500 And I thank you for each and every one of you. 1306 01:11:21.500 --> 01:11:24.380 Bless each man tonight as they're coming into their own 1307 01:11:24.380 --> 01:11:25.500 and they're coming into Christ. 1308 01:11:26.060 --> 01:11:28.460 We ask these things in your precious name, amen. 1309 01:11:30.460 --> 01:11:31.540 So good, so good. 1310 01:11:31.540 --> 01:11:33.380 All right, God bless you all. 1311 01:11:33.380 --> 01:11:34.380 See you soon.