WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.060 you 2 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:32.060 you 3 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:02.060 you 4 00:01:30.000 --> 00:01:32.060 you 5 00:02:00.000 --> 00:02:02.060 you 6 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:32.800 you 7 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:02.000 you 8 00:03:02.000 --> 00:03:04.000 you 9 00:03:29.000 --> 00:03:31.000 now 10 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:34.000 now 11 00:03:34.000 --> 00:03:36.000 So 12 00:03:57.840 --> 00:03:59.840 What's up girl 13 00:04:00.840 --> 00:04:02.840 Uh-oh, hold on 14 00:04:04.840 --> 00:04:08.840 Can you say something can you hear me? Yes now I can 15 00:04:11.720 --> 00:04:17.800 I'm gonna let everyone in while I set up the try to set up the stream 16 00:04:19.720 --> 00:04:25.680 Go ahead and make me co-host their hose. I'm staying in as well too, but yeah. Oh, okay 17 00:04:29.840 --> 00:04:31.840 Hey 18 00:04:34.120 --> 00:04:37.160 Hey ladies, come on in 19 00:04:40.680 --> 00:04:42.680 Hey Margo, hey 20 00:04:44.320 --> 00:04:46.960 I'm just having the last couple bites of some food 21 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:53.960 That's totally fine. I'm probably gonna eat something here in a minute myself. Honestly, I've been like non-stop today 22 00:04:53.960 --> 00:04:59.800 What do you what what are you chowing on for lunch today or breakfast? 23 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:08.840 I'm actually I was having a bowl of cereal but I had like my actual meal 24 00:05:08.840 --> 00:05:13.400 earlier I have it I don't know earlier in the day I had like a leftover burger 25 00:05:13.400 --> 00:05:20.120 and a couple of fried eggs okay my like I should probably have had actual lunch 26 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:23.440 but I just was craving some cereal so I was like you know what I'm just gonna 27 00:05:23.440 --> 00:05:27.800 have the bowl of cereal and then I'm gonna move on there we go 28 00:05:27.800 --> 00:05:34.800 there we go that works yep awesome I'm about to do a Costco run this afternoon 29 00:05:34.800 --> 00:05:42.080 and I love Costco we did Costco yesterday oh man you're ahead of me I 30 00:05:42.080 --> 00:05:50.160 feel like I'm still recovering from San Diego I was like non-stop on Sunday and 31 00:05:50.160 --> 00:05:58.560 then I like five calls yesterday so yeah here we are yeah yeah I know right 32 00:05:58.560 --> 00:06:07.120 we missed you Margo it was such a cool time I was gonna say how was it so good 33 00:06:07.120 --> 00:06:13.640 it was they did working yeah there's like a work hey Crystal hey Danielle 34 00:06:13.640 --> 00:06:21.600 yeah say give a quick you know update how was it on your end for the retreat 35 00:06:21.600 --> 00:06:30.960 oh my goodness it was definitely I guess one word to describe it was inspiring 36 00:06:30.960 --> 00:06:41.640 mmm just to see even though I'm just really getting started I saw so many 37 00:06:41.720 --> 00:06:45.800 others that you know have things in place and I can see where I'm heading 38 00:06:45.800 --> 00:06:54.280 and then also just to know that there are other people just starting to so 39 00:06:54.280 --> 00:07:02.960 it's like I'm you know the only one just getting my feet wet with it yeah no 40 00:07:02.960 --> 00:07:11.240 that's good and as she said in this book this last part of this book I think she 41 00:07:11.240 --> 00:07:16.560 really talks to it doesn't really matter how long you've been doing 42 00:07:16.560 --> 00:07:24.640 something because she's had success you know a couple years then people have had 43 00:07:24.640 --> 00:07:29.280 success before that people have had success after that it's more about your 44 00:07:29.280 --> 00:07:36.360 mindset and your consistency and you're you willing to show up over and over and 45 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:43.160 over again so and I think that's exactly what you're doing crystal so 46 00:07:43.160 --> 00:07:51.800 yeah it's great yeah I'm glad I will sure I'm so glad you went to hey Sienna 47 00:07:51.800 --> 00:07:58.600 good to see you well I just want to quick poll the room 48 00:07:58.600 --> 00:08:03.120 because kind of how we've been doing this call is the first half is we kind 49 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:05.960 of dig into the book and then the second half is something a little like a 50 00:08:05.960 --> 00:08:10.840 practical question to kind of checking in with your business so were you all 51 00:08:10.840 --> 00:08:23.680 able to read for this week yeah most of it I didn't I think so okay this is my 52 00:08:23.680 --> 00:08:28.320 first time on this call so I I don't have the book I just wanted to pop in 53 00:08:28.320 --> 00:08:33.799 because I know this is your last last call yes that is true 54 00:08:33.799 --> 00:08:41.440 oh well I'm glad you're here crystal hey Garima were you able to read the last 55 00:08:41.440 --> 00:08:48.560 part of the book okay cool all right so we've got like 70% of the room read 56 00:08:48.560 --> 00:08:54.880 Gabby what about you know I know okay well here's what I'll do I'm gonna do a 57 00:08:54.880 --> 00:09:01.400 quick I'm gonna do a quick recap of the book and then I've got a couple of 58 00:09:01.400 --> 00:09:09.040 questions for us that we can take a look at for today I yeah hey Jennifer 59 00:09:09.040 --> 00:09:15.880 welcome real quick were you able to read any of the book and she means business 60 00:09:15.880 --> 00:09:21.480 the last part for today I'm just checking in no I just thought I'd join 61 00:09:21.480 --> 00:09:29.280 in okay great all right so well Gabby do you have an announcement or anything you 62 00:09:29.280 --> 00:09:34.240 want to say first before we kind of dig in I just want to give you the floor for 63 00:09:34.240 --> 00:09:37.560 a moment actually yes that's a good reminder cuz I meant to do this on 64 00:09:37.560 --> 00:09:45.720 pre-resonant I forgot guys so um this week Thursday's AI system scaling call 65 00:09:45.720 --> 00:09:52.480 is going to be canceled and you will get access to we're running an AI challenge 66 00:09:52.480 --> 00:09:55.600 right now so you'll get access to I believe we're gonna do the Friday 67 00:09:55.600 --> 00:10:02.040 session so they think that would be the most relevant 68 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.760 for everybody so just be on the lookout for that. We'll get that posted out there so you can get if 69 00:10:05.760 --> 00:10:10.080 you want to join that call you can but just that's the only announcement I have other than this being 70 00:10:10.080 --> 00:10:20.160 Danielle's last call. This is my official last call in the Rainmaker community and as you all 71 00:10:20.160 --> 00:10:24.160 okay so cool does anybody have any questions about what Gabby just said? Is that clear? 72 00:10:25.120 --> 00:10:30.720 Sweet so going forward to kind of add on to that so Mindset Monday will no longer be under the 73 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:37.440 Rainmaker community so come Monday it's still going on though I've actually had quite a few 74 00:10:37.440 --> 00:10:46.240 people sign up and that just gets me so excited so I am gonna drop the link here one more time 75 00:10:46.240 --> 00:10:53.040 for all of you if you want to come join us it's I'm giving the Rainmaker rate which is $57 a month 76 00:10:53.200 --> 00:10:59.520 and you get a call every single Monday it's essentially like you're continuing with Mindset 77 00:10:59.520 --> 00:11:06.640 Monday and right now I'm honing in on starting this call with just my Rainmaker people and just 78 00:11:07.600 --> 00:11:13.680 your the business owners from that community and we're gonna see where it's gonna go. I'm 79 00:11:13.680 --> 00:11:18.160 definitely gonna want to work with business owners and probably female business owners so 80 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:24.480 I'm pretty sure that's who we'll end up filling the room up with but for now it's just gonna be 81 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:30.320 probably a little more intimate keeping slow with the Rainmakers and go from there so if that's you 82 00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:36.480 and you want to be on call with us next Monday go ahead and sign up and then you just need to 83 00:11:36.480 --> 00:11:42.160 pay before Monday and then you'll get a Zoom link sent to your email and that will be the Zoom link 84 00:11:42.720 --> 00:11:47.360 for every Monday going forward so any questions about that? 85 00:11:49.360 --> 00:11:55.520 All right cool okay so I loved the end of this book 86 00:11:58.640 --> 00:12:02.560 okay that's cool Margo is she let me ask you real quick is she a business owner? 87 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:09.600 Yes. Go ahead and give her the link. Okay. Because this will be I'm starting out with 88 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:13.680 business owners up front so if she's owning a business then that's going to be for her. 89 00:12:14.400 --> 00:12:19.600 Okay cool that's fun. I don't know if she's ready but I know she would love it so I will let her 90 00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:26.880 know if she can make the decision. No I love that thanks Margo and you know how Mindset Monday rolls 91 00:12:26.880 --> 00:12:30.800 I'm not we're it's also we talk about our personal lives too and we talk about because 92 00:12:30.800 --> 00:12:34.800 you know how your mind shows up in one area is how you tend to show up in every other area of 93 00:12:34.800 --> 00:12:39.360 your life so yeah tell her that tell her she'd be more than welcome I'd love to meet her. 94 00:12:39.920 --> 00:12:45.760 Thanks Margo that sounds great. Okay so I really love the end of this book and I'm 95 00:12:45.760 --> 00:12:49.200 going to do a quick recap and then I'm going to have a question or two. 96 00:12:51.040 --> 00:12:57.600 Again I was reading this book and first of all I'm like a lot of this I've read before my brain 97 00:12:57.600 --> 00:13:03.040 has heard these things before but our brains need to hear things seven times plus for them to stick 98 00:13:03.680 --> 00:13:08.800 so I actually had some really cool revelation for myself that came out of this last part of the 99 00:13:08.800 --> 00:13:14.160 book so if you haven't read it the book that we've been going through is She Means Business 100 00:13:15.440 --> 00:13:20.800 and I think it's a great book if none of you've read it I think it's a great book you can check 101 00:13:20.800 --> 00:13:28.560 out and add to your toolbox I think so she started her business in about 15 years ago 102 00:13:29.120 --> 00:13:35.200 back when Facebook ads were kind of just like starting out so I love how some of her 103 00:13:36.320 --> 00:13:42.560 some of her tactics are actually still used today and she was kind of on the cutting edge of a lot 104 00:13:42.560 --> 00:13:47.120 of what a lot of business owners use today so I think she's a great resource this is a great book 105 00:13:47.120 --> 00:13:51.440 to keep in your back pocket going forward. Okay so first she talks about 106 00:13:51.680 --> 00:13:57.680 networking and getting yourself out there and how you're the one with the vision you're the 107 00:13:57.680 --> 00:14:02.320 one who's got to get out there and network and find your people and get yourself so she specifically 108 00:14:02.320 --> 00:14:09.680 says get yourself in front of your person and how many of you know that can feel really daunting 109 00:14:10.320 --> 00:14:15.920 that can feel a little overwhelming that can feel like you know all your thoughts come out like am 110 00:14:16.000 --> 00:14:20.960 that can feel like you know all your thoughts come out like am I going to be enough as this 111 00:14:20.960 --> 00:14:25.280 person going to want what I have to offer am I going to really connect with these certain people 112 00:14:25.280 --> 00:14:34.160 but she's so big on getting yourself out there and I know because she literally is the prime 113 00:14:34.160 --> 00:14:41.600 example of somebody who built started recording videos started doing Facebook posts and did not 114 00:14:41.600 --> 00:14:46.880 get any likes or any views for a long time for a long time so I want to listen to somebody like 115 00:14:46.880 --> 00:14:51.600 this because she like did not have immediate success she has built her success over the course 116 00:14:51.600 --> 00:14:59.840 of years and she built out her her membership up to 1400 people a 117 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:04.320 month. And I'm literally on a very personal level because we 118 00:15:04.320 --> 00:15:07.840 decided to do this book and I actually was not planning on 119 00:15:07.840 --> 00:15:12.520 building out Mindset Monday like on my own until two and a half 120 00:15:12.520 --> 00:15:17.420 weeks ago. So I'm like reading this book. I'm like, wait a 121 00:15:17.420 --> 00:15:23.920 minute. Why couldn't I have 1400 people in my Mindset Monday 122 00:15:23.920 --> 00:15:28.120 membership going forward of business owners, right? And I 123 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:32.080 just thought she didn't originally start with a 124 00:15:32.440 --> 00:15:35.960 membership, though. She started with a vision, and then she 125 00:15:35.960 --> 00:15:39.360 started with a who. And then she got really clear with her who 126 00:15:39.360 --> 00:15:41.320 and then she's like, wait, I think my who could use the 127 00:15:41.320 --> 00:15:45.440 membership. So again, these are all like her business grew on 128 00:15:45.440 --> 00:15:48.360 top of itself. And then she talks about, give yourself 129 00:15:48.360 --> 00:15:52.520 permission to not have to do it all. Which we've heard that 130 00:15:52.520 --> 00:15:55.840 before, right? But she's, here's what you've also heard before. 131 00:15:56.080 --> 00:16:00.920 She said you need to pick one platform and focus on it. You 132 00:16:00.920 --> 00:16:06.520 need to pick one marketing strategy and focus on it. So I'd 133 00:16:06.520 --> 00:16:09.280 like to stop here for one second. And I'd like to be 134 00:16:09.280 --> 00:16:14.680 honest. Exactly. Margo, I knew you'd say that. So how many 135 00:16:14.720 --> 00:16:17.160 we're going to use the word focus, I want you to type in the 136 00:16:17.160 --> 00:16:20.560 chat focus if you feel like you're really focused in on your 137 00:16:20.560 --> 00:16:25.400 marketing strategy or your platform. Or I want you to write 138 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:30.480 not focused. So I want us to just pull really quick. And I'm 139 00:16:30.480 --> 00:16:36.880 referring to your marketing strategy or your person, which 140 00:16:36.880 --> 00:16:39.240 they kind of go hand in hand. But I want to know, are you 141 00:16:39.240 --> 00:16:42.080 feeling focused or not focused? 142 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:43.960 I love Jen, very close. 143 00:16:45.160 --> 00:16:50.440 Yeah. Actually, I was thinking you'd say that Jen based on our 144 00:16:50.440 --> 00:16:53.480 conversations at the retreat, like, you definitely made some 145 00:16:53.480 --> 00:16:56.360 strides and you're getting like, you're super close. I 146 00:16:56.360 --> 00:17:01.120 agree. Okay, so Margo's like not focused, but working on it. I 147 00:17:01.120 --> 00:17:04.319 agree. I think you are. Okay, Garima. Yeah, you're pretty 148 00:17:04.319 --> 00:17:07.480 focused on Amazon this year. I agree. I've seen you really hone 149 00:17:07.480 --> 00:17:10.440 in on that on that. And it's working for you. Okay, Sian's 150 00:17:10.440 --> 00:17:15.040 not focused. Okay, and Crystal not focused. Okay, great. So 151 00:17:15.119 --> 00:17:19.800 yeah, we all like to be honest with ourselves, because the 152 00:17:20.240 --> 00:17:25.319 the basis of how to get focus is to acknowledge where you're at. 153 00:17:25.800 --> 00:17:28.600 And I how many times have you heard business owners say this 154 00:17:28.640 --> 00:17:32.440 who were six who hit a level of success? They said this is this 155 00:17:32.440 --> 00:17:36.720 comes up everywhere, by the way. So a reminder to your brain, 156 00:17:37.080 --> 00:17:40.400 when you get focused on your person, and then you get focused 157 00:17:40.400 --> 00:17:44.560 on a marketing strategy, which really means one platform, 158 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:49.240 right. And then you can go in on that. That's how she ended up 159 00:17:49.400 --> 00:17:53.800 figuring out her membership is what ultimately was working 160 00:17:53.800 --> 00:17:56.840 because she realized her one plot her Facebook is what was 161 00:17:56.840 --> 00:17:59.680 blowing up for her because she put all of her reps into her 162 00:17:59.680 --> 00:18:05.560 Facebook ads, and her Facebook group. We teach that here. So I 163 00:18:05.560 --> 00:18:08.960 it's still an amazing platform. And it's an amazing strategy. 164 00:18:08.960 --> 00:18:11.840 There's also we also teach multiple strategies and 165 00:18:11.840 --> 00:18:14.840 Rainmakers, right. So that's why it's really important for you to 166 00:18:14.840 --> 00:18:21.200 know which one do you want to try and hone in on first. Alright, 167 00:18:21.200 --> 00:18:24.720 so then she said she talks about, oh, then she talks, she 168 00:18:24.720 --> 00:18:28.360 steps into money mindset, and how she really needed. Yeah, 169 00:18:28.360 --> 00:18:31.160 Margot, I know, you know, we can never tire of hearing this 170 00:18:31.160 --> 00:18:35.360 because she was saying I gave, gave, gave, gave, gave, but I 171 00:18:35.360 --> 00:18:38.440 didn't know how to receive money. I didn't know how to 172 00:18:38.440 --> 00:18:43.120 receive that back what I was putting out. And I think as high 173 00:18:43.120 --> 00:18:49.960 achieving businesswomen, mothers, wives, like you can 174 00:18:49.960 --> 00:18:55.280 naturally want to give. But then, you know, I'm not making 175 00:18:55.280 --> 00:18:57.840 money off of this, or Oh, the money's not coming. It's like, 176 00:18:57.840 --> 00:19:03.480 well, wait a minute. Are you open to receiving what you give 177 00:19:03.480 --> 00:19:06.040 out? Did you want to add something to that, Gabby? 178 00:19:07.040 --> 00:19:12.600 Not specifically, I was, I've seen a huge, just observed as an 179 00:19:12.600 --> 00:19:16.920 adult, you know, it's very hard for people to receive help 180 00:19:16.960 --> 00:19:19.600 receive money and not like in your business, you're not 181 00:19:19.600 --> 00:19:22.800 necessarily receiving help, but just to receive in general, 182 00:19:22.800 --> 00:19:28.760 people get very uncomfortable. So I love this. Yeah. No, I 183 00:19:28.760 --> 00:19:32.720 think so too. And I, and listen, that goes back to our own 184 00:19:33.240 --> 00:19:39.680 childhoods, our trauma, our pain. Like, it's not, it's not 185 00:19:39.720 --> 00:19:43.200 just so easy sometimes, right? It's like, especially when 186 00:19:43.200 --> 00:19:45.840 you're putting all this energy towards building, and you want 187 00:19:45.840 --> 00:19:50.600 to serve. But the reality is people want to pay you for what 188 00:19:50.600 --> 00:19:55.920 your service is. Like, that's the one I want a business. Now, 189 00:19:55.920 --> 00:19:59.320 is there a give? Yes. And she talks about like sandwiching, 190 00:19:59.320 --> 00:20:00.000 like have your 191 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:06.240 gives you guys, you guys have learned that have your lead magnet. That's a give. And I used to 192 00:20:06.240 --> 00:20:13.520 think, Oh, I'm going to bait people in, but that's not it. It's giving to them, bring in the right 193 00:20:13.520 --> 00:20:18.400 person who wants what you offer. It's actually, everybody really wins if you think about it in 194 00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:24.960 that way. And that's what she talks about. She talks about a lot of her giving has led to the, 195 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:30.640 yes, Gabby, to these relationships that are now giving, giving, receiving, giving, receiving, 196 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:36.800 giving, receiving. I mean, she mentioned Lewis Howes in the book. Do you guys know who he is? 197 00:20:37.680 --> 00:20:44.800 He's a, okay. I'm seeing some yeses and nos. Lewis Howes is a big pop. Like I want to say on the, 198 00:20:44.800 --> 00:20:49.440 you know, Tony Robbins, he's like a motivational speaker. He has his podcasts. He's really 199 00:20:49.440 --> 00:20:54.720 encouraging. And she was talking about him. She's like, there was this guy, Lewis Howes. 200 00:20:54.720 --> 00:21:00.000 I just happened to see his email in my inbox. This was in 2012. And she's like, I just thought 201 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:05.680 I'd email him back and say, Hey, I run this community. Do you need any support? Next thing 202 00:21:05.680 --> 00:21:11.920 you know, they get on a call together and they're supporting one another into each other's 203 00:21:12.560 --> 00:21:20.960 communities. Lewis Howes is literally huge now. So again, also this may have me think, 204 00:21:20.960 --> 00:21:24.800 you never know who's going to come into your path and who you're going to send that email out to, 205 00:21:24.800 --> 00:21:29.120 who you're going to connect with when they're maybe in the beginning stages of their business, 206 00:21:29.120 --> 00:21:33.120 but where like the power of community and networking can take it. I don't know why I'm 207 00:21:33.120 --> 00:21:45.360 going like this. I'm like, and I know I love him too. And I just love how she's just talking 208 00:21:45.360 --> 00:21:49.280 about him. Like he's just this dude she sent an email to and like, look where they're at. So, 209 00:21:49.280 --> 00:21:53.840 so you never know who you, I actually sent multiple emails to Tony Robbins 210 00:21:55.280 --> 00:22:01.920 in my lifetime. And I'm, I'm not, I'm going to keep going because who knows where him, you know, 211 00:22:01.920 --> 00:22:06.320 I could get connected with him at some point. Cause he's like in my realm of where I'm, 212 00:22:06.320 --> 00:22:11.440 you know, serving and want to go in the mindset and coaching room. Okay. So she said, 213 00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:19.200 she quoted Napoleon Hill. And I love this quote. It says, don't wait. The time will never be just 214 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:25.680 right. Okay. I'm getting, I'm saying exactly. It's just, well, you just do it. You decide the time 215 00:22:25.680 --> 00:22:32.800 is right. When you decide, she talks about moving past. So this was a new word comparisonitis. 216 00:22:33.520 --> 00:22:39.760 She called it, which is like comparing yourself to somebody else. Because again, where somebody 217 00:22:39.760 --> 00:22:45.120 may be in step one, I think this is good word for YouTube crystals. Somebody may be in a step one 218 00:22:46.080 --> 00:22:50.880 versus meeting someone in their step 20 versus meeting somebody in their step 70. 219 00:22:51.600 --> 00:22:59.600 And I think a big, a big point she makes is don't compare yourself along your, 220 00:22:59.600 --> 00:23:04.480 along your journey, make sure you're staying true and consistent to where you are. 221 00:23:05.360 --> 00:23:13.120 She talks about keeping faith and being persistent. And then there was this example, 222 00:23:13.120 --> 00:23:18.640 she talked about how somebody drove from Phoenix to San Diego, or I guess it'd be like this, 223 00:23:19.200 --> 00:23:24.800 which is five hours. I've actually driven it. And she's like, when you put in the GPS, 224 00:23:24.800 --> 00:23:29.280 think about this. When you put in a destination on a GPS, you know, you're going to get there 225 00:23:29.280 --> 00:23:35.440 without a doubt. You just know, it's just a matter of time. I'm going to get there. I actually drove 226 00:23:35.440 --> 00:23:40.800 for a couple hours this morning, running an errand for my friend. They paid me $300 to do it. And I 227 00:23:40.800 --> 00:23:47.040 said, yes, I will. So I was, I put in the GPS. It was a new place. I'd never been there before. 228 00:23:47.040 --> 00:23:53.600 I drove an hour and I got there. Okay. Why can it not be this simple with your businesses? 229 00:23:57.120 --> 00:24:01.360 Tell me how much faith you have to get to a point A and a point B in your day. 230 00:24:01.360 --> 00:24:08.000 Do you have faith for that? You probably don't second guess when you put in a GPS destination, 231 00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:12.640 like you're probably like, yeah, I'm going to get there. Like literally, it's not even a question 232 00:24:12.640 --> 00:24:20.400 in your mind. You don't doubt. You just know you're going to get there. Right. Will I make it 233 00:24:20.400 --> 00:24:25.520 to the grocery store? You will. It's just like, how long will it take you? And so I think this 234 00:24:25.520 --> 00:24:32.160 is a really powerful mindset to be reminded of ladies. Cause you can get stuck, right? And feel 235 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:38.560 like you can get a detour and think about driving a car on a road. You get in a detour. You're, 236 00:24:38.560 --> 00:24:43.520 tell me this when you're on your detour, you're still not thinking you're going to be there 237 00:24:43.520 --> 00:24:48.640 forever. You know, it's going to pass. And so I think that's a good mindset to be reminded as 238 00:24:48.640 --> 00:24:54.320 you're building. But the thing is, if you're not focused and you're not in tune with your vision 239 00:24:54.320 --> 00:24:58.240 and where you want to go, it can feel like you're going to get stuck there and you're not sure. 240 00:24:58.880 --> 00:24:59.840 And she talks about 241 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:05.000 Also, anybody here play an instrument? 242 00:25:05.000 --> 00:25:08.320 Do I have any musical people on the call? 243 00:25:08.320 --> 00:25:09.560 Not anymore. 244 00:25:09.560 --> 00:25:14.720 Wow. Nobody plays an instrument on this call. 245 00:25:14.800 --> 00:25:16.800 Yeah, I used to. 246 00:25:16.800 --> 00:25:20.080 Okay. We've got two used to's. 247 00:25:20.080 --> 00:25:23.240 Well, that's funny because she talks about, 248 00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:25.880 I don't either by the way, I used to too. 249 00:25:25.880 --> 00:25:28.880 She said learning a business is like 250 00:25:28.880 --> 00:25:30.480 learning an instrument. 251 00:25:30.480 --> 00:25:32.680 You just have to keep putting in the reps 252 00:25:32.680 --> 00:25:35.160 until you ultimately get good at it. 253 00:25:35.160 --> 00:25:36.400 And so think about for you, 254 00:25:36.400 --> 00:25:39.160 if you never got good at learning an instrument, why? 255 00:25:40.440 --> 00:25:42.560 Did you just not like it? 256 00:25:42.560 --> 00:25:47.560 Did you just not want to keep going? 257 00:25:47.840 --> 00:25:49.200 It's just good for you to think through. 258 00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:52.840 I really like this analogy 259 00:25:52.840 --> 00:25:54.240 because at the end of the day, 260 00:25:54.240 --> 00:25:55.720 I think learning an instrument 261 00:25:55.720 --> 00:25:57.560 actually takes a lot of reps 262 00:25:57.560 --> 00:26:00.600 and it takes a lot of meticulous learning things 263 00:26:00.600 --> 00:26:02.520 just like a business. 264 00:26:03.480 --> 00:26:06.560 So, okay, I'm seeing what you wrote. 265 00:26:06.560 --> 00:26:09.800 Oh girl, that counts. 266 00:26:09.800 --> 00:26:11.040 You play the recorder. 267 00:26:11.040 --> 00:26:13.440 Okay, so you have to learn your notes, 268 00:26:13.440 --> 00:26:15.240 put in your reps, get good at something. 269 00:26:15.240 --> 00:26:17.320 That is exactly how business is. 270 00:26:18.200 --> 00:26:21.560 And she talks a lot about not getting stuck there 271 00:26:21.560 --> 00:26:22.880 and to keep going. 272 00:26:22.880 --> 00:26:25.320 The amount of times she said in this book, 273 00:26:25.360 --> 00:26:28.800 keep going, be consistent, be persistent. 274 00:26:28.800 --> 00:26:30.920 She said it over and over and over again 275 00:26:30.920 --> 00:26:32.480 and there's a reason why. 276 00:26:33.440 --> 00:26:35.520 There's a reason why a lot of business centers 277 00:26:35.520 --> 00:26:37.800 talk about this in their books 278 00:26:37.800 --> 00:26:41.520 because it's a requirement to see your success 279 00:26:41.520 --> 00:26:44.640 and one way or another, you're going to see it 280 00:26:44.640 --> 00:26:46.680 and it's going to happen. 281 00:26:46.680 --> 00:26:48.040 And then she talks about 282 00:26:51.600 --> 00:26:53.440 when you get ready to start hiring people, 283 00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:55.000 she didn't hire people for the first 284 00:26:55.000 --> 00:26:56.760 three and a half years of her business 285 00:26:56.760 --> 00:26:59.360 and then she hired a friend 286 00:26:59.360 --> 00:27:01.480 and then after she hired her friend, 287 00:27:01.480 --> 00:27:04.240 her membership was growing so much 288 00:27:04.240 --> 00:27:06.720 that she had to hire somebody else 289 00:27:06.720 --> 00:27:09.280 and then she was like, I'm ready for a mentor 290 00:27:09.280 --> 00:27:13.200 and she said, she called it her cabinet of friends. 291 00:27:15.240 --> 00:27:18.240 So, maybe some of you want to hire someone 292 00:27:18.240 --> 00:27:19.200 but you're not there yet. 293 00:27:19.200 --> 00:27:22.680 Again, what I took from her was keep going 294 00:27:22.680 --> 00:27:24.800 and you're eventually going to get there 295 00:27:24.800 --> 00:27:27.160 or hire what you can when you can 296 00:27:27.160 --> 00:27:28.960 because she said she actually wish 297 00:27:28.960 --> 00:27:31.080 she would have hired earlier on 298 00:27:31.080 --> 00:27:32.560 when she started her business. 299 00:27:32.560 --> 00:27:35.240 Again, she talks about hindsight being 20-20, 300 00:27:35.240 --> 00:27:38.000 we all know this, we learn from hindsight. 301 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:42.680 She said, okay, this is what I want to hone in 302 00:27:42.680 --> 00:27:44.880 for the next about 15 minutes. 303 00:27:44.880 --> 00:27:46.160 I want to have a conversation 304 00:27:46.160 --> 00:27:48.600 about this last part of the book. 305 00:27:48.600 --> 00:27:51.840 She talks about celebrating your wins. 306 00:27:51.840 --> 00:27:53.280 We talk about that here. 307 00:27:53.280 --> 00:27:57.160 Taking care of yourself, we talk about that here. 308 00:27:57.160 --> 00:27:59.440 Resist the urge to put things off. 309 00:28:01.520 --> 00:28:03.000 I'm gonna repeat that. 310 00:28:03.000 --> 00:28:05.600 Resist the urge to put things off 311 00:28:08.320 --> 00:28:13.320 and I love this quote, she said. 312 00:28:13.320 --> 00:28:18.320 She says, when the world says give up, 313 00:28:23.760 --> 00:28:28.000 hope whispers, try it one more time. 314 00:28:31.440 --> 00:28:33.440 Because I think it can be easy to get stuck 315 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:36.280 when you're trying things and they're not working. 316 00:28:36.280 --> 00:28:39.480 And she is speaking from a place of conviction. 317 00:28:39.480 --> 00:28:43.200 Okay, here was the chapter 318 00:28:44.200 --> 00:28:47.280 and there was these two paragraphs that jumped out at me 319 00:28:47.280 --> 00:28:49.480 and I'm like, I need to read this for you all 320 00:28:49.480 --> 00:28:52.280 and we're gonna discuss this for a moment. 321 00:28:52.280 --> 00:28:53.920 Okay, this is it, are you ready? 322 00:28:55.760 --> 00:28:58.680 Listen to yourself. 323 00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:02.040 Okay, I'm gonna read this. 324 00:29:02.040 --> 00:29:03.360 I want you all to be listening 325 00:29:03.360 --> 00:29:05.080 to the best of your ability right now. 326 00:29:05.080 --> 00:29:05.960 This is for you. 327 00:29:07.760 --> 00:29:10.000 Aside from your business friends, 328 00:29:10.040 --> 00:29:13.400 there's someone else whose friendship you really need 329 00:29:13.400 --> 00:29:18.280 in order to be unstoppable and that's your own. 330 00:29:19.880 --> 00:29:22.600 You need to build a deep relationship with yourself 331 00:29:22.600 --> 00:29:24.800 so that you can learn to listen to yourself 332 00:29:24.800 --> 00:29:27.160 and trust yourself completely. 333 00:29:28.760 --> 00:29:31.280 While the opinions and advice of others 334 00:29:31.280 --> 00:29:33.960 might be very helpful at times, 335 00:29:33.960 --> 00:29:37.760 this is your life, your business 336 00:29:37.760 --> 00:29:40.840 and you're the one steering your ship 337 00:29:40.840 --> 00:29:43.400 so you have to be the one in charge. 338 00:29:44.640 --> 00:29:47.360 You can't rely on other people to show you the route 339 00:29:47.360 --> 00:29:49.080 that you need to take. 340 00:29:49.080 --> 00:29:51.960 You have to trust yourself and your instincts 341 00:29:51.960 --> 00:29:54.600 and listen to them closely 342 00:29:54.600 --> 00:29:58.120 so you can make the best decisions for you. 343 00:29:59.800 --> 00:30:00.640 All right. 344 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.320 I want to open this discussion for a moment about trusting yourself, 345 00:30:04.360 --> 00:30:07.520 listening to yourself, knowing yourself. 346 00:30:07.720 --> 00:30:11.880 She talked about being a friend to yourself. 347 00:30:13.240 --> 00:30:17.800 And I'd love to hear, do you feel like you trust yourself right now? 348 00:30:19.280 --> 00:30:23.680 Like a one to 10, 10, meaning I trust myself. 349 00:30:23.720 --> 00:30:24.840 I am a CEO. 350 00:30:24.840 --> 00:30:26.240 I make my decisions. 351 00:30:26.280 --> 00:30:27.000 Let's go. 352 00:30:27.000 --> 00:30:32.080 I'm unstoppable to one being, I don't even trust myself. 353 00:30:32.120 --> 00:30:33.720 I don't know what the heck I'm doing. 354 00:30:33.760 --> 00:30:35.680 I feel insane and. 355 00:30:36.960 --> 00:30:39.800 I'm having a really hard time befriending myself. 356 00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:43.000 So I'd love for you to give yourself an honest number. 357 00:30:43.000 --> 00:30:44.520 One to 10, just be honest. 358 00:30:44.520 --> 00:30:46.040 You know, this is the honest, vulnerable place. 359 00:30:46.440 --> 00:30:49.240 And I'd love to hear what you think about this. 360 00:30:49.280 --> 00:30:50.560 Are you listening to yourself? 361 00:30:50.560 --> 00:30:51.880 Is it hard for you? 362 00:30:53.680 --> 00:30:56.600 Opening the floor to whoever would like to start us. 363 00:30:58.000 --> 00:31:07.440 I will say that probably for the first time ever in my life that I can say 10. 364 00:31:07.480 --> 00:31:10.560 I trust the decisions I'm making in my life right now. 365 00:31:10.600 --> 00:31:17.600 It is scary what I'm doing, but I don't have any doubts that I'm making the wrong decision. 366 00:31:17.640 --> 00:31:23.360 And that's, I mean, that has to be from the time I've been in this company. 367 00:31:24.360 --> 00:31:27.440 Cause when I came in, that was not the case. 368 00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:29.360 Yeah. 369 00:31:29.960 --> 00:31:34.920 Could you, could you pinpoint something that's really helped you get to a 10 and 370 00:31:34.920 --> 00:31:38.400 kind of get to where you are feeling so confident right now? 371 00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:42.640 Is there like a mindset shift or a, or a decision or something you made? 372 00:31:43.920 --> 00:31:49.160 I think it was the decision to finally start choosing myself over anything else in my life. 373 00:31:49.840 --> 00:31:55.760 I had a realization that for my whole life, I have been putting everyone else first. 374 00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:00.840 And now I just have to look at everything from that lens. 375 00:32:01.920 --> 00:32:05.320 And now that I do that, I feel very confident in my decisions. 376 00:32:06.960 --> 00:32:07.440 Yeah. 377 00:32:07.720 --> 00:32:11.880 Cause it can be a really hard line of knowing when to actually put yourself 378 00:32:11.880 --> 00:32:14.000 first and when to put somebody else first. 379 00:32:14.000 --> 00:32:14.480 Right. 380 00:32:14.760 --> 00:32:18.440 And it sounds like you've really been learning how to do that better instead 381 00:32:18.440 --> 00:32:21.000 of not even giving yourself a chance, right. 382 00:32:21.040 --> 00:32:25.840 Instead of saying, selfishness, you know, to like, Oh, selfish to do this. 383 00:32:26.240 --> 00:32:30.000 This isn't the, you know, this, the, for the betterment of all, I should do this. 384 00:32:30.320 --> 00:32:33.080 And then you just constantly like second guess those things. 385 00:32:33.080 --> 00:32:37.680 And then you, you're, you know, your heart is wanting and hurting because 386 00:32:37.680 --> 00:32:40.240 you're not putting yourself first and because the decisions you're 387 00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:43.920 making aren't serving you, they're serving everybody else. 388 00:32:44.520 --> 00:32:45.040 Yeah. 389 00:32:46.520 --> 00:32:47.760 Yeah, no, that's so good. 390 00:32:48.800 --> 00:32:49.880 Thanks for sharing Lauren. 391 00:32:51.240 --> 00:32:51.600 Thank you. 392 00:32:52.480 --> 00:32:52.840 Yeah. 393 00:32:57.600 --> 00:33:04.400 I think that I am really good at acting. 394 00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:09.240 Like I have like a hundred percent confidence in myself and my decisions, 395 00:33:09.240 --> 00:33:14.840 but there's still a layer of doubt underneath somewhere hidden, probably 396 00:33:14.840 --> 00:33:18.720 buried in the trauma, um, from, you know, past. 397 00:33:19.320 --> 00:33:19.880 Yep. 398 00:33:20.960 --> 00:33:25.120 And I think most people that see me from outside looking in, like people 399 00:33:25.120 --> 00:33:28.680 who follow me on social media or know me through work or through my business, 400 00:33:28.680 --> 00:33:33.280 think that I am this like courageous and confident person that just goes 401 00:33:33.280 --> 00:33:37.160 forward and does what I want and, you know, makes all these hard decisions 402 00:33:37.160 --> 00:33:40.840 and does create whatever, all this stuff. 403 00:33:40.840 --> 00:33:43.400 And then I'm like, yes, that is true. 404 00:33:43.840 --> 00:33:47.600 But also there's all of this about me that you don't see. 405 00:33:47.960 --> 00:33:53.960 So as much as I can say that I do trust myself and I trust the 406 00:33:53.960 --> 00:33:58.040 decisions that I'm making, I, sometimes I have to like talk myself through it. 407 00:33:58.080 --> 00:34:02.000 I have to be like, yeah, the doubt will creep in and it'll be like, but what if 408 00:34:02.000 --> 00:34:06.440 this, or what, and I think many of you have seen that over the last few months 409 00:34:06.440 --> 00:34:09.400 with all the things that I have going on in my life. 410 00:34:09.520 --> 00:34:14.520 Um, so some days it's probably like nine or 10, some days it's 411 00:34:14.520 --> 00:34:15.920 more around like four or five. 412 00:34:16.800 --> 00:34:17.320 Okay. 413 00:34:17.400 --> 00:34:17.920 Yeah. 414 00:34:18.400 --> 00:34:20.120 I appreciate your honesty. 415 00:34:20.120 --> 00:34:23.760 And also just kind of acknowledging, maybe it also depends 416 00:34:23.760 --> 00:34:26.320 on the scenario and the theme. 417 00:34:27.320 --> 00:34:33.400 And she said in her book, in this past month, she talked about talking to 418 00:34:33.400 --> 00:34:40.520 herself when she makes decisions and how she needed to go back and forth with. 419 00:34:41.199 --> 00:34:44.560 She talks about like creating an imaginative, like an imaginary. 420 00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:47.159 Self in her brain. 421 00:34:47.159 --> 00:34:48.639 And she's like talking to herself. 422 00:34:48.639 --> 00:34:52.520 And she also talked about like her business being almost like an entity 423 00:34:52.840 --> 00:34:56.719 that she would talk to and like making it more imaginative in 424 00:34:56.719 --> 00:34:58.520 her brain to make it more real. 425 00:34:58.520 --> 00:34:59.800 So there's. 426 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:07.240 nothing wrong. In fact, that's a great skill to have, Margo, to learn how to talk to yourself, 427 00:35:07.240 --> 00:35:14.480 with yourself, out of yourself. You know, again, this is not about ex-ing community. 428 00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:19.720 This is about taking on responsibility, right, of like you, business, and what you want as 429 00:35:19.720 --> 00:35:24.280 well. So that's great, Margo. I think you're on your way to a 10. 430 00:35:24.280 --> 00:35:29.400 Can I add to that too? Because I was going to say like, I don't think that being a 10 431 00:35:29.400 --> 00:35:34.280 means that you don't have doubt, and you don't have fear, and that you don't overanalyze 432 00:35:34.280 --> 00:35:40.640 your decisions. I think it would be irresponsible to not, you know, think through a situation 433 00:35:40.640 --> 00:35:45.640 and a decision analytically, and talk to yourself about it, and things like that. And even second 434 00:35:45.640 --> 00:35:51.440 guess it, right? I think that's part of the whole process, right? I think you can still 435 00:35:51.440 --> 00:35:56.800 have doubts, and you can still have fear, but trust that you are making the right decision. 436 00:35:56.960 --> 00:35:57.760 Yeah, that's good. 437 00:35:58.400 --> 00:36:04.000 Yeah, that's absolutely true. I think I just sometimes don't fully feel that trust, 438 00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:08.480 and it's still like a work in progress, but I do actually talk to myself a lot, 439 00:36:08.480 --> 00:36:13.360 especially when I'm in the car driving. Like, there's no music, there's no nothing on, 440 00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:18.240 and I literally talk out loud, and say my thoughts. And I do this sometimes when I've 441 00:36:18.240 --> 00:36:23.120 had an argument, like with my partner, and I want to like work through what I want to say, 442 00:36:23.120 --> 00:36:28.720 when we actually talk about it later. And I will like play the other person, or in some cases, 443 00:36:28.720 --> 00:36:34.160 also me, but thinking a different thought. And sometimes I'm like, no, I don't like that. And 444 00:36:34.160 --> 00:36:39.840 I back up and I say it again. And then I say a different, like, what about this? Which I'm sure 445 00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:45.120 people on the outside looking in would go, Oh, my gosh, she's crazy. But it helps me to actually 446 00:36:45.120 --> 00:36:56.480 hear it. Yeah. Yeah, it also helps your brain. Like studies have showed talking to yourself, 447 00:36:56.480 --> 00:37:02.480 or like going on a walk and talking to yourself, like helps combat even diseases. 448 00:37:04.720 --> 00:37:12.080 I don't know why that's so funny. It's just, it's like, it's real. Yeah. So let's all let's 449 00:37:12.080 --> 00:37:17.840 all talk to ourselves going forward more. Okay. Successful people do it. 450 00:37:19.760 --> 00:37:24.800 Good, Margo. Thank you. All right. Who's next? Go ahead, Sienna. 451 00:37:24.800 --> 00:37:29.520 I'm kind of like with Margaret, it's like going flexing back and forth. Like right now, 452 00:37:29.520 --> 00:37:35.040 I, I'm feeling pretty low because I'm trying to deal with this Facebook crap, 453 00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:44.080 and dialing into my social media. And I don't, I feel like really confused and just 454 00:37:44.960 --> 00:37:50.160 feels very chaotic. So while you're talking, I was actually counseling my meta ads account. 455 00:37:51.280 --> 00:37:58.000 And one thing that I mean, I've heard this expression before. And my friend, who's also 456 00:37:58.080 --> 00:38:05.600 a coach, he's just like, borrow my, borrow my confidence right now. It's like, I'm thinking, 457 00:38:05.600 --> 00:38:13.200 like, you know, I trusted myself to get into this program. I've invested money, time, energy. 458 00:38:14.480 --> 00:38:20.400 And it's like, on the call before, it's like, I'm borrowing Gabby's, you know, trust, 459 00:38:20.400 --> 00:38:26.400 trust the people that I paid a coaching in this program. And it's hard to cancel my Facebook, 460 00:38:27.040 --> 00:38:33.840 old Facebook meta stuff. It's, I'm like, winding the ball. And I did it, I took my credit cards 461 00:38:33.840 --> 00:38:38.720 off of that. And it's a powerful move. But I'm still like, can't borrowing Gabby's advice. 462 00:38:40.640 --> 00:38:47.600 I'm paying for that coaching. Because I can't make that decision. Because in my mind, 463 00:38:47.600 --> 00:38:55.040 it's like spaghetti noodles. And so chaotic. Yeah. But yeah, I think no, I think that's also 464 00:38:55.040 --> 00:39:01.280 why you because she talked about that's also why you do hire a mentor to to also help you 465 00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:09.040 see decisions and make decisions. And at the end of the day, you still get to also decide if you 466 00:39:09.040 --> 00:39:14.560 want to follow your mentor, or you don't, you know, if you want to try this thing, or you don't 467 00:39:14.560 --> 00:39:23.280 and, and, and it sounds like you're learning how to trust yourself more Sienna and, and trust 468 00:39:23.280 --> 00:39:29.280 somebody else and know that, okay, this is going in the right direction. Yeah, yeah. 469 00:39:30.160 --> 00:39:39.600 Just to add to that, like, yeah. And to everybody, when you maybe lean on the advice or wisdom from 470 00:39:39.600 --> 00:39:44.080 somebody else, and it heavily influences a decision, something that you can do to even still 471 00:39:44.080 --> 00:39:49.440 strengthen your own trust in yourself and be like, okay, I made that decision. Now, here's probably 472 00:39:49.440 --> 00:39:54.880 some things that are going to come next from that decision that was made. Let me spend some time 473 00:39:54.880 --> 00:39:59.840 thinking about how I'm going to maybe react to this, not in an overanalyzed. 474 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.640 or obsessing kind of way, but just in a way, 475 00:40:02.640 --> 00:40:06.360 like, let me practice thinking through it 476 00:40:06.360 --> 00:40:10.120 and kind of almost preemptively making a decision 477 00:40:10.120 --> 00:40:11.800 about, okay, if this thing happens 478 00:40:11.800 --> 00:40:16.420 because I decided to turn off the ads, 479 00:40:16.420 --> 00:40:17.680 or if this thing happens, 480 00:40:17.680 --> 00:40:20.980 here's how I think I'm going to react to those. 481 00:40:20.980 --> 00:40:23.120 And it just is like another layer of, like, 482 00:40:23.120 --> 00:40:24.360 building up that trust, 483 00:40:24.360 --> 00:40:26.920 building up that decision-making in yourself. 484 00:40:26.920 --> 00:40:28.240 And then the more you do it, 485 00:40:28.240 --> 00:40:31.000 the more, the easier it gets to trust yourself, 486 00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:32.320 and that trust does increase. 487 00:40:32.320 --> 00:40:34.840 So it's something that we can all do. 488 00:40:34.840 --> 00:40:36.800 Just if you're finding a situation 489 00:40:36.800 --> 00:40:39.080 that you're really struggling to make the decision, 490 00:40:39.080 --> 00:40:41.040 so you kind of listen to somebody else, 491 00:40:42.040 --> 00:40:45.160 you can still practice that, like, self-trust in it. 492 00:40:47.480 --> 00:40:48.840 Yeah, that's really good. 493 00:40:50.080 --> 00:40:52.560 And I'm thinking about, you know, 494 00:40:52.560 --> 00:40:55.480 I wrote, you know, being friends with yourself. 495 00:40:57.320 --> 00:40:59.480 It's like being friends with somebody else, 496 00:40:59.480 --> 00:41:01.960 because when you first meet somebody, 497 00:41:01.960 --> 00:41:03.840 it's like, I don't know if I trust you. 498 00:41:03.840 --> 00:41:05.440 I don't know where this is going to go. 499 00:41:05.440 --> 00:41:08.120 Like, being a good friend to somebody 500 00:41:08.120 --> 00:41:11.680 and receiving somebody else's friendship takes reps. 501 00:41:11.680 --> 00:41:12.600 It takes trust. 502 00:41:12.600 --> 00:41:14.200 It takes building. 503 00:41:14.200 --> 00:41:16.000 And same with yourself, 504 00:41:16.000 --> 00:41:18.240 especially if you've done something, 505 00:41:18.240 --> 00:41:21.880 you feel regret, you feel bad, you feel disappointed, 506 00:41:21.880 --> 00:41:24.720 you feel upset about, you feel sad about, 507 00:41:24.720 --> 00:41:25.560 because guess what? 508 00:41:25.560 --> 00:41:26.840 We all do those. 509 00:41:26.840 --> 00:41:28.240 We all do it again. 510 00:41:29.200 --> 00:41:31.920 From a spiritual standpoint, you know, 511 00:41:31.920 --> 00:41:34.000 there's all these other words we call it, 512 00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:36.560 but at the end of the day, it's like, 513 00:41:36.560 --> 00:41:37.920 okay, I did that. 514 00:41:37.920 --> 00:41:40.360 I'm going to do something different next time, right? 515 00:41:40.360 --> 00:41:41.760 I'm going to build that trust with myself. 516 00:41:41.760 --> 00:41:44.520 And a way to also build trust with yourself 517 00:41:45.480 --> 00:41:49.560 is by completing a task that you set out for the day. 518 00:41:49.560 --> 00:41:51.960 Even just one task. 519 00:41:51.960 --> 00:41:54.440 Like, I actually had a really great day yesterday 520 00:41:55.440 --> 00:41:57.680 not even because of how much I got done, 521 00:41:57.680 --> 00:41:59.400 but because I committed, 522 00:41:59.400 --> 00:42:02.120 I stuck to the commitments of every single thing I said 523 00:42:02.120 --> 00:42:03.600 that I was going to do. 524 00:42:03.600 --> 00:42:06.440 And I'm like, ooh, nice job, Danielle. 525 00:42:06.440 --> 00:42:07.960 We did really well today. 526 00:42:07.960 --> 00:42:09.800 You're a trustworthy way to go. 527 00:42:12.160 --> 00:42:14.200 And I just love how she started this out 528 00:42:14.200 --> 00:42:16.800 with trusting yourself. 529 00:42:16.800 --> 00:42:17.920 And that takes time. 530 00:42:17.920 --> 00:42:19.960 And by the way, think about a partnership. 531 00:42:19.960 --> 00:42:21.680 When somebody hurts you, 532 00:42:21.680 --> 00:42:23.560 when the trust has been broken, 533 00:42:23.560 --> 00:42:27.440 it has to be rebuilt for it to get reconnected again. 534 00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:30.480 Or the disconnect and the bitterness and the anger 535 00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:35.080 will just continue to slightly grow apart, right? 536 00:42:35.080 --> 00:42:36.960 That grows the trust apart 537 00:42:36.960 --> 00:42:40.040 instead of coming back to reconnect and keep going. 538 00:42:40.040 --> 00:42:43.200 So let's all be best friends with ourselves. 539 00:42:45.120 --> 00:42:46.160 I would love to hear. 540 00:42:46.160 --> 00:42:47.640 I know, Grima, you just popped on. 541 00:42:47.640 --> 00:42:48.720 Jen, I don't know if you want to answer. 542 00:42:48.720 --> 00:42:49.760 And Crystal, I know you're off, 543 00:42:49.760 --> 00:42:51.080 so you might have to put in the chat. 544 00:42:51.120 --> 00:42:53.280 But if you guys have something to add. 545 00:42:54.560 --> 00:42:56.920 Yeah, this is really powerful. 546 00:42:56.920 --> 00:42:58.440 So, Danielle, I just want to know 547 00:42:58.440 --> 00:43:00.760 if she talks about in the book 548 00:43:00.760 --> 00:43:04.000 how to start building that process. 549 00:43:04.000 --> 00:43:06.440 Does she talk about that? 550 00:43:09.080 --> 00:43:12.840 I think that's the toughest part to be your friend 551 00:43:12.840 --> 00:43:14.520 because we are so critical about each, 552 00:43:14.520 --> 00:43:16.280 like, especially about us. 553 00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:18.520 I mean, I always look at myself. 554 00:43:18.520 --> 00:43:19.880 I saw all my flaws. 555 00:43:19.880 --> 00:43:24.000 They are, like, always, like, you know, in my face. 556 00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:28.640 I mean, other people see so many probably beautiful things. 557 00:43:28.640 --> 00:43:31.440 My daughter, I mean, I wish I could see myself 558 00:43:31.440 --> 00:43:33.160 the way my daughter looks at me. 559 00:43:33.160 --> 00:43:37.680 But, I mean, so that is the thing 560 00:43:37.680 --> 00:43:40.120 I'm trying to work on myself 561 00:43:41.120 --> 00:43:43.480 because I'm so critical about myself. 562 00:43:43.480 --> 00:43:44.880 Yeah. 563 00:43:44.880 --> 00:43:45.720 Yeah. 564 00:43:45.720 --> 00:43:47.000 That's so real. 565 00:43:47.000 --> 00:43:51.160 So if she talks about the process, that would be great. 566 00:43:51.160 --> 00:43:53.640 So I can just start marinating on that. 567 00:43:54.640 --> 00:43:56.280 Yeah, so it's, yeah. 568 00:43:56.280 --> 00:44:00.960 So she actually talks about a couple of different things. 569 00:44:00.960 --> 00:44:03.440 And it's these. 570 00:44:03.440 --> 00:44:04.920 You can write these down if you want. 571 00:44:04.920 --> 00:44:06.880 Or you actually already know these, Rima. 572 00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:08.680 You already know them, so get ready. 573 00:44:09.840 --> 00:44:13.600 She says, don't carry your mistakes around with you. 574 00:44:14.600 --> 00:44:17.880 Meaning, forgive yourself when you've made a mistake 575 00:44:17.880 --> 00:44:19.080 and keep moving on. 576 00:44:19.080 --> 00:44:20.520 So forgiveness. 577 00:44:21.560 --> 00:44:24.560 Then she talks about celebrating the wins. 578 00:44:25.480 --> 00:44:27.040 That helps build trust with yourself 579 00:44:27.040 --> 00:44:29.560 because we talk about this on Mindset Monday a lot, 580 00:44:29.560 --> 00:44:31.320 which I might actually start bringing back in 581 00:44:31.320 --> 00:44:33.960 because it solidifies in your brain, 582 00:44:33.960 --> 00:44:36.400 hey, I did this thing and that's worth celebrating. 583 00:44:36.400 --> 00:44:38.120 Let's keep trusting ourselves. 584 00:44:39.000 --> 00:44:42.960 Then she talks about taking care of yourself. 585 00:44:44.120 --> 00:44:46.280 Because when we begin to ignore ourselves, 586 00:44:46.280 --> 00:44:50.960 it can be easy to not want to be friends with ourselves 587 00:44:50.960 --> 00:44:53.120 if we're using this language. 588 00:44:53.120 --> 00:44:55.240 She talks about taking care of yourself. 589 00:44:55.240 --> 00:44:57.800 Resist the urge to put things off, 590 00:44:58.840 --> 00:45:00.200 which essentially is. 591 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:06.720 The opposite of saying that is doing what you say you're going to do in a day that builds 592 00:45:06.720 --> 00:45:15.360 trust with yourself and then to make sure your neuro pathways, the way you think are 593 00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:18.200 in alignment with where you want to go. 594 00:45:18.200 --> 00:45:22.280 So positive thinking, kind of what we talk about in mindset Monday as well, like having 595 00:45:22.280 --> 00:45:26.240 those positive thoughts about yourself. 596 00:45:26.240 --> 00:45:27.360 I'm going to stop with that. 597 00:45:27.360 --> 00:45:30.320 I mean, there's, she also goes way into depth about all this. 598 00:45:30.320 --> 00:45:31.760 That's why I love this part of the book. 599 00:45:31.760 --> 00:45:36.000 It's kind of the end of the book, like the last 50 pages of a book, 75. 600 00:45:36.000 --> 00:45:37.000 But is that helpful? 601 00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:38.000 Does that sound good? 602 00:45:38.000 --> 00:45:39.000 Garima? 603 00:45:39.000 --> 00:45:40.000 Yeah. 604 00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:41.000 That's helpful. 605 00:45:41.000 --> 00:45:45.400 I'm going to write them down bold letters and then save it on my phone somewhere. 606 00:45:45.400 --> 00:45:46.400 I can see it. 607 00:45:46.400 --> 00:45:47.400 Yeah. 608 00:45:47.400 --> 00:45:48.400 And even just, yeah, go ahead. 609 00:45:48.400 --> 00:45:49.400 Gabby. 610 00:45:49.400 --> 00:45:50.400 Sorry. 611 00:45:50.400 --> 00:45:55.160 I was just going to say, I would love for you to rate yourself on that one to 10 scale 612 00:45:56.160 --> 00:46:02.840 and then also be like, okay, what would it take for me to get to a nine or a 10, you 613 00:46:02.840 --> 00:46:03.840 know? 614 00:46:03.840 --> 00:46:04.840 Yeah. 615 00:46:04.840 --> 00:46:12.320 I relate to Margo in that sense that some days I'm like 10, I'm like, yeah. 616 00:46:12.320 --> 00:46:16.800 And then some days I'm like two, doubting everything. 617 00:46:16.800 --> 00:46:18.240 So it changes. 618 00:46:18.240 --> 00:46:24.840 And then day to day, then it's like, okay, this is the wind and I feel like, yeah, amazing. 619 00:46:25.520 --> 00:46:30.680 So it's a work in progress, but I'm getting better. 620 00:46:30.680 --> 00:46:32.480 It's like it fluctuates now. 621 00:46:32.480 --> 00:46:36.320 It's not like I'm like deep in the valley and then up at the peak. 622 00:46:36.320 --> 00:46:41.360 Now like valleys are like, you know, plateaus live, so it's getting better. 623 00:46:41.360 --> 00:46:44.520 So yeah, it's just kind of good. 624 00:46:44.520 --> 00:46:45.520 Yeah. 625 00:46:45.520 --> 00:46:46.520 That's good. 626 00:46:46.520 --> 00:46:47.520 Good, Garima. 627 00:46:47.520 --> 00:46:48.520 Thank you so much. 628 00:46:49.520 --> 00:47:01.640 Well, I'm so glad to hear that I'm not the only one that waffles back and forth because 629 00:47:01.640 --> 00:47:07.120 there are definitely some days for me that I feel confident and other days I'm like, 630 00:47:07.120 --> 00:47:11.120 I have no idea what I'm doing. 631 00:47:11.120 --> 00:47:16.960 And I think my thing right now is making decisions. 632 00:47:16.960 --> 00:47:22.840 I remember, I don't know, before the trip, there was a day that there was just so much 633 00:47:22.840 --> 00:47:29.800 going on and I got to a point later in the day, I'm like, oh my gosh, I cannot make another 634 00:47:29.800 --> 00:47:30.800 decision. 635 00:47:30.800 --> 00:47:33.280 It's like, don't ask me to make a decision. 636 00:47:33.280 --> 00:47:39.840 I actually told my husband, I was like, I'm just burned out on deciding. 637 00:47:39.840 --> 00:47:51.320 And it's a struggle that I know we're making progress. 638 00:47:51.320 --> 00:47:52.400 You know, it's powerful. 639 00:47:52.400 --> 00:47:55.840 I feel that crystal a lot. 640 00:47:55.840 --> 00:48:04.040 This season of my life is constant decisions, little big every day. 641 00:48:04.040 --> 00:48:10.640 And so one thing I encourage here is also you can have the trust and power to make a 642 00:48:10.640 --> 00:48:17.600 decision to wait on some of those decisions, to know I need some time to rest. 643 00:48:17.600 --> 00:48:21.360 I need some time for my mind to be still. 644 00:48:21.360 --> 00:48:26.600 I can come back to this tomorrow or whatever it is. 645 00:48:26.600 --> 00:48:32.800 And sometimes there are decisions that are very, they have to be made right away. 646 00:48:32.800 --> 00:48:38.760 But usually a lot of them don't have to be made as quickly as we tend to make it feel. 647 00:48:38.760 --> 00:48:43.840 And it's, you know, nothing is really going to completely fall apart if we wait a day 648 00:48:43.840 --> 00:48:48.040 or wait until we take a nap or something or go take a walk. 649 00:48:48.040 --> 00:48:53.080 So I think there's also power in just having that one decision of waiting on the other 650 00:48:53.080 --> 00:48:59.320 one until you're rested. 651 00:48:59.320 --> 00:49:01.440 And I guess that is making a decision. 652 00:49:01.440 --> 00:49:03.440 You make the decision to wait. 653 00:49:03.440 --> 00:49:04.440 Yeah. 654 00:49:04.440 --> 00:49:09.840 And you make a decision to trust that you need rest before you can make more decisions 655 00:49:09.840 --> 00:49:14.600 and you trust yourself to take care of yourself in that moment. 656 00:49:14.600 --> 00:49:22.440 And that you are prioritizing, you know, just your general mental well-being also by waiting. 657 00:49:22.440 --> 00:49:23.440 Yeah. 658 00:49:23.440 --> 00:49:24.440 Yeah. 659 00:49:24.440 --> 00:49:33.880 And I've had the, just recently feeling like, okay, I'm thinking too much in my logical 660 00:49:33.880 --> 00:49:36.760 self versus in my spirit. 661 00:49:36.760 --> 00:49:43.920 I know this is what I really want, but then I overanalyze and I think I'm making the right 662 00:49:43.920 --> 00:49:46.520 decision and then it feels good. 663 00:49:46.520 --> 00:49:50.920 And then the next day I'm like, oh no, that's not right. 664 00:49:50.920 --> 00:49:53.920 So I don't know. 665 00:49:54.400 --> 00:49:58.840 I, I, this is exactly like a huge topic in Mindset Monday. 666 00:49:58.840 --> 00:50:00.080 This actually question gets me fired up. 667 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.000 it up because decision fatigue is real, right? And it leads to 668 00:50:05.000 --> 00:50:08.480 overwhelm and overwhelm is a slew of emotions. It's like a 669 00:50:08.480 --> 00:50:12.120 stew of all of these emotions that can really keep you stuck 670 00:50:12.120 --> 00:50:17.360 and feeling so stuck. You're in Stockville, right? Overwhelm 671 00:50:17.360 --> 00:50:21.920 usually can lead to that. So she actually has a whole chapter on 672 00:50:22.600 --> 00:50:26.080 getting out of overwhelm. I was just looking for it. It's how to 673 00:50:26.080 --> 00:50:33.640 avoid overwhelm. It's, I have the book through my library, the 674 00:50:33.640 --> 00:50:39.760 ebook, it starts at page 292 on my phone. But Crystal bookmarks 675 00:50:39.760 --> 00:50:43.680 that. And I'd like you to read through that. But I will 676 00:50:43.680 --> 00:50:47.440 summarize it for you in case that feels overwhelming. She 677 00:50:47.440 --> 00:50:54.240 basically says, you create you break down your days into many 678 00:50:54.560 --> 00:51:00.240 achievable chunks of work that is within a map of where you 679 00:51:00.240 --> 00:51:05.520 want to take your business. She met with somebody and they 680 00:51:05.560 --> 00:51:08.360 chunked down her business for her and she's like, wait a 681 00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:11.800 minute, I'm getting overwhelmed for nothing. You're saying I 682 00:51:11.800 --> 00:51:14.480 just need to work on this for 20 minutes a day for the next two 683 00:51:14.520 --> 00:51:19.760 two weeks. Like, yeah, that's it. Because usually overwhelms 684 00:51:19.760 --> 00:51:24.840 also rooted in fear, fear of the unknown, your brain creating 685 00:51:24.840 --> 00:51:27.840 a thought in the future of what something's already going to look 686 00:51:27.840 --> 00:51:31.840 like, and then you begin to get overwhelmed, too. And I've 687 00:51:31.840 --> 00:51:37.000 honestly done a whole mindset on just overwhelmed. So start with 688 00:51:37.000 --> 00:51:42.120 the basics of what you need to get done first, and correctly 689 00:51:42.640 --> 00:51:48.120 map out realistically chunks of time and what you can 690 00:51:48.120 --> 00:51:51.560 realistically get done within that time. And just do that for 691 00:51:51.560 --> 00:51:56.600 this week. Do that for the next four or five days. And that 692 00:51:56.600 --> 00:52:00.800 helps reduce the overwhelm in the near future. Yeah, go ahead. 693 00:52:00.920 --> 00:52:01.560 That's good. 694 00:52:02.120 --> 00:52:06.880 So you guys have I think everyone has your AI hire that 695 00:52:06.880 --> 00:52:12.240 we talked about over the weekend that you installed. So 1000% I 696 00:52:12.240 --> 00:52:14.920 was talking this on a pre revenue call, but utilize your 697 00:52:14.920 --> 00:52:19.080 AI hire for this type of management. And like, I need you 698 00:52:19.080 --> 00:52:24.200 to help me chunk down my days chunk down my work, and keep me 699 00:52:25.280 --> 00:52:28.320 you know, to help you stay focused. But again, it takes off 700 00:52:28.320 --> 00:52:32.360 the mental load of some of those little minute decisions of, 701 00:52:32.680 --> 00:52:35.600 okay, now I have to decide to work on this thing. Now I have 702 00:52:35.600 --> 00:52:42.000 to decide it, it takes that off your plate. So I am this I'm 703 00:52:42.000 --> 00:52:43.760 very passionate about this, because this has been one of the 704 00:52:43.760 --> 00:52:47.000 best things that I'm using my AI assistant for is to just help 705 00:52:47.000 --> 00:52:50.880 me, you be in charge of my priorities, I told you what they 706 00:52:50.880 --> 00:52:55.920 are, you're in charge of them, and scheduling them. And you 707 00:52:55.920 --> 00:52:59.600 can, you know, it takes a little bit of finessing with like, how 708 00:52:59.600 --> 00:53:02.520 much time you might need for a task, like sometimes you have to 709 00:53:02.520 --> 00:53:06.440 kind of figure out how much time you need. And that's just trial 710 00:53:06.440 --> 00:53:11.120 and error. But in, and it will get better, the more you do it. 711 00:53:11.120 --> 00:53:15.000 So if you're feeling overwhelmed, I had a day, a month 712 00:53:15.000 --> 00:53:17.920 or more ago, it was like a Friday, I was just really 713 00:53:17.920 --> 00:53:21.320 overwhelmed in general with a lot of things. And I didn't have 714 00:53:21.320 --> 00:53:23.600 any calls, but I was like, I'm supposed to be working when 715 00:53:23.600 --> 00:53:28.000 there were some things I need to do. And I just had my AI 716 00:53:28.000 --> 00:53:30.920 assistant be like, I was like, I'm overwhelmed, but I need to 717 00:53:30.920 --> 00:53:34.600 do something because it's also important to me that like, I 718 00:53:34.640 --> 00:53:39.640 work with integrity. Not that there's not every day, any days 719 00:53:39.680 --> 00:53:43.600 where I've like, just been like, I can't do live today. But 720 00:53:43.640 --> 00:53:48.120 generally, like I want to have integrity. And so it asked me 721 00:53:48.120 --> 00:53:51.520 just some questions about what needed to happen that day. And I 722 00:53:51.520 --> 00:53:54.360 was like, here's where my energy is that here's what you know, 723 00:53:54.360 --> 00:53:57.520 I'm feeling capable of. So you guys can also just do that on 724 00:53:57.520 --> 00:54:02.000 chat, you can, you can, you know, whatever tool you like, 725 00:54:02.040 --> 00:54:05.760 but just as a tiny little like, thing that you can practice is 726 00:54:05.760 --> 00:54:09.680 using your AI hire to manage some of that for you. 727 00:54:10.320 --> 00:54:14.080 Can I add something to that? Because it's relevant. And I 728 00:54:14.080 --> 00:54:17.120 think it's really important in a mastermind with Russell Brunson. 729 00:54:17.480 --> 00:54:21.760 And on Daniel's list, she has do what you say you said you would 730 00:54:21.760 --> 00:54:25.040 do. And he said, someone had asked in the audience, how do 731 00:54:25.040 --> 00:54:28.120 you build confidence and trust in yourself? And that was his 732 00:54:28.120 --> 00:54:32.160 answer. Do what you're saying you're gonna do. And it's just 733 00:54:32.160 --> 00:54:35.240 like, if you're chunking down things, and I struggle with 734 00:54:35.240 --> 00:54:38.480 this, because my to do list is like, so long, but it's just 735 00:54:38.480 --> 00:54:44.040 like, four things. Choose, you know, something doable, so that 736 00:54:44.040 --> 00:54:49.280 you you have it in front of you. And you can do it by size pieces 737 00:54:49.280 --> 00:54:53.160 that you can do it. And that is what he says builds confidence 738 00:54:53.160 --> 00:54:54.480 and trust in yourself. 739 00:54:56.280 --> 00:55:00.040 Yeah, that's so good. And I was just writing out like, it's just 740 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.040 It sounds so simple, doesn't it, everyone? 741 00:55:02.040 --> 00:55:05.040 It's like, well, duh, like that. 742 00:55:05.040 --> 00:55:08.000 But like when you have a fear of 743 00:55:08.840 --> 00:55:10.600 that's why you have to dig down. 744 00:55:10.600 --> 00:55:13.340 Like, where is my overwhelm really coming from? 745 00:55:13.340 --> 00:55:16.380 Because you when you when it's a simple task 746 00:55:16.380 --> 00:55:20.900 and you feel like it feels like a bigger task, it's usually a thought. 747 00:55:21.480 --> 00:55:23.140 This is where the mindset work comes in. 748 00:55:23.140 --> 00:55:27.580 There's a thought that's keeping you wanting to go in that direction. 749 00:55:27.580 --> 00:55:31.160 You know, what if it doesn't work or well? 750 00:55:32.160 --> 00:55:35.160 I tried to do that last week and I didn't actually do it, 751 00:55:35.160 --> 00:55:38.680 or I don't know if this is actually going to go anywhere. 752 00:55:39.160 --> 00:55:40.460 Oh, I'll just do it tomorrow. 753 00:55:40.460 --> 00:55:41.680 I'm just making thoughts up. 754 00:55:41.680 --> 00:55:44.260 I mean, some of these are my own, right? 755 00:55:44.260 --> 00:55:46.820 OK, why am I if it's that simple, then just go do it. 756 00:55:47.680 --> 00:55:50.420 You know, there's usually something underneath. 757 00:55:50.420 --> 00:55:51.920 You would want to take a look and ask yourself, 758 00:55:51.920 --> 00:55:53.620 what am I really thinking about here? 759 00:55:53.620 --> 00:55:56.080 Like, why am I really having a hard time here? 760 00:55:56.120 --> 00:55:57.380 Why am I stuck? 761 00:55:58.820 --> 00:56:00.380 Well, we've got a couple of minutes left, Jennifer, 762 00:56:00.380 --> 00:56:01.780 did you want to add anything? 763 00:56:01.780 --> 00:56:03.720 Did you want to share? 764 00:56:03.720 --> 00:56:05.420 Your number. 765 00:56:06.860 --> 00:56:10.420 So it's the number of like how confident we are in our decisions. 766 00:56:10.460 --> 00:56:11.080 Is that right? 767 00:56:11.080 --> 00:56:12.460 In trusting yourself? 768 00:56:12.460 --> 00:56:14.080 Yeah. Making a decision. 769 00:56:14.080 --> 00:56:16.920 Being the CEO of your business. Yeah. 770 00:56:16.920 --> 00:56:20.680 In terms of decisions, I think I rank pretty high in that. 771 00:56:20.680 --> 00:56:23.480 In terms like I do trust what I decide. 772 00:56:23.520 --> 00:56:26.180 I think I do think about them. 773 00:56:27.580 --> 00:56:29.420 A lot before I make a decision, 774 00:56:29.420 --> 00:56:32.380 even if people think I'm really fast at decisions, it's really not true. 775 00:56:32.960 --> 00:56:35.380 Like it just seems faster because I'm constantly thinking. 776 00:56:37.660 --> 00:56:40.660 Hence why I don't sleep, but 777 00:56:42.180 --> 00:56:44.720 I do have a lot of like issues. 778 00:56:45.960 --> 00:56:49.060 With like executing those decisions, 779 00:56:49.740 --> 00:56:53.600 it's like I've decided and then I tend to 780 00:56:56.940 --> 00:57:00.460 not be able to move forward unless I know all the steps in my head 781 00:57:00.460 --> 00:57:04.360 and I've already laid them out, which causes procrastination. 782 00:57:04.400 --> 00:57:07.740 It causes just overall delays. 783 00:57:07.740 --> 00:57:09.740 And like with time, I don't have. 784 00:57:10.600 --> 00:57:13.060 And it's like I know what I need to do. 785 00:57:13.060 --> 00:57:14.800 I've decided what I need to do. 786 00:57:14.800 --> 00:57:16.580 Like I know. 787 00:57:17.140 --> 00:57:20.580 But like executing that plan is very hard. 788 00:57:20.740 --> 00:57:25.040 But what I've learned is like I have to like when people say it's like. 789 00:57:26.480 --> 00:57:28.800 Decision is the key, and I do think that's true. 790 00:57:29.980 --> 00:57:32.300 But you have to decide like every single day. 791 00:57:32.800 --> 00:57:35.480 It's like, yeah, you have to just going. Yeah. 792 00:57:35.780 --> 00:57:39.240 It's like I'm pulling everything I have and creating something. 793 00:57:39.600 --> 00:57:42.640 And I have to decide to do that every single day. 794 00:57:42.880 --> 00:57:47.340 Like I can't take a step back because if I do, I'll take 10 steps back. 795 00:57:47.340 --> 00:57:51.240 And it's just like a procrastination problem and maybe an ADD problem. 796 00:57:51.420 --> 00:57:52.320 I don't know. 797 00:57:52.320 --> 00:57:56.940 I know I have ADD, but I don't take any medications for it or anything. But 798 00:57:58.880 --> 00:58:02.320 like in terms of just confidence in myself, like I do. 799 00:58:02.520 --> 00:58:04.820 I think like I have confidence in my integrity. 800 00:58:04.820 --> 00:58:07.040 I have constant confidence in my decisions, 801 00:58:07.040 --> 00:58:10.220 but I don't really have that many confidence to like in my person, 802 00:58:10.220 --> 00:58:11.940 as in like I don't love the way I look. 803 00:58:11.940 --> 00:58:15.320 I don't love like all the little things and. 804 00:58:16.680 --> 00:58:19.920 I've like let so many things that people told me in the past, 805 00:58:19.920 --> 00:58:23.520 like just dig in deep and it's like I don't necessarily feel 806 00:58:24.180 --> 00:58:27.880 emotional every time like like something comes up. 807 00:58:29.620 --> 00:58:32.640 But like not liking the way I look in pictures 808 00:58:32.640 --> 00:58:35.120 because of things people have told me my whole life 809 00:58:35.740 --> 00:58:38.180 has really hindered me from posting pictures. 810 00:58:38.720 --> 00:58:41.880 So it's not like, but I'm like, 811 00:58:42.760 --> 00:58:45.620 I'm not going to cry about it or like, because to me, it's just like, 812 00:58:45.620 --> 00:58:49.720 it's become a fact in my brain and I need to not let it be a fact. 813 00:58:50.420 --> 00:58:52.760 Yeah. And yeah, for sure. 814 00:58:53.180 --> 00:58:55.260 Yeah. Like that's just one one example. 815 00:58:55.260 --> 00:58:57.920 Like I've told my friends this before and they just think I'm crazy, 816 00:58:57.920 --> 00:58:59.680 but they just don't get it. 817 00:59:00.720 --> 00:59:04.920 Well, well, no, I, I thank you so much for sharing that. 818 00:59:04.920 --> 00:59:07.860 And again, it's another example of I trust myself here, 819 00:59:08.500 --> 00:59:10.700 but then it comes to this area and I don't. 820 00:59:11.800 --> 00:59:14.760 And we all have that. We all have that. Right. 821 00:59:15.300 --> 00:59:18.720 And so a way that you would do that 822 00:59:18.720 --> 00:59:21.500 is to change up your thoughts about the way you look 823 00:59:22.300 --> 00:59:26.600 and you would do neuro work and you would say, hey, how do I, you know, 824 00:59:26.600 --> 00:59:28.660 I think this way I want to think about something different. 825 00:59:28.900 --> 00:59:29.660 I want to do something. 826 00:59:29.660 --> 00:59:32.460 I say, think about it in the positive and in the present. 827 00:59:32.960 --> 00:59:36.000 Or or watch one of the mindset Monday replays. 828 00:59:36.500 --> 00:59:38.960 When we talk about this, literally, I walk people through 829 00:59:38.960 --> 00:59:43.600 how to change your narrow pathway, because that is a huge part of trusting 830 00:59:43.600 --> 00:59:47.000 yourself to in that area where you could use Jennifer. Right. 831 00:59:47.000 --> 00:59:48.800 And I appreciate you sharing that. 832 00:59:48.800 --> 00:59:50.560 So I think a lot of women deal with this, too, 833 00:59:50.560 --> 00:59:52.400 and aren't always open to talking about it. 834 00:59:52.400 --> 00:59:54.300 So that was awesome. 835 00:59:54.300 --> 00:59:56.600 And you're working in the health field, too. 836 00:59:56.600 --> 00:59:58.600 So it's so. 837 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.020 So it would be cool for you to do some work around your own mind in that area so that 838 01:00:04.020 --> 01:00:08.280 you are feeling more confident because we want to be confident about our bodies, whether 839 01:00:08.280 --> 01:00:12.300 they change or don't, because first it's here, right in your mind. 840 01:00:12.300 --> 01:00:14.860 So yeah, that was good. 841 01:00:14.860 --> 01:00:20.540 I feel like I'm better at instilling that confidence in other people than I am in myself. 842 01:00:20.540 --> 01:00:26.380 And that's usually what Gaby, we both just said usually at the same time. 843 01:00:26.380 --> 01:00:30.780 What were you going to say? 844 01:00:30.780 --> 01:00:33.260 I was just saying that's usually, that's how it goes. 845 01:00:33.260 --> 01:00:38.460 Like that's true for most of us, but that's why part of neuro work too, is pretending 846 01:00:38.460 --> 01:00:42.900 you're talking to somebody else sometimes can be helpful is like pretend you're talking 847 01:00:42.900 --> 01:00:47.900 to a friend and then you turn it back on yourself and that can be really powerful. 848 01:00:47.900 --> 01:00:51.340 Yeah, that's a way to refute. 849 01:00:51.340 --> 01:00:55.100 You want to refute your negative thought first and pretend you're saying it to somebody else 850 01:00:55.100 --> 01:00:57.500 and you realize you would never actually say that out loud to somebody else. 851 01:00:57.500 --> 01:01:02.100 The things you say to yourself when you look in the mirror or whatever it is, right? 852 01:01:02.100 --> 01:01:04.060 And then yeah, go from there. 853 01:01:04.060 --> 01:01:09.580 So all right guys, we do both, Danielle and I do need to go. 854 01:01:09.580 --> 01:01:13.660 We got one minute till 11, so we're going to wrap this up. 855 01:01:13.660 --> 01:01:16.500 Danielle, I don't know if you have anything you want to say real quick with this being 856 01:01:16.500 --> 01:01:17.660 your last call. 857 01:01:17.700 --> 01:01:20.500 I just want to say I love all of you so much. 858 01:01:20.500 --> 01:01:25.060 This was a hard decision for me to make. 859 01:01:25.060 --> 01:01:30.500 But at the end of the day, I believe when a door closes, a new one opens. 860 01:01:30.500 --> 01:01:36.180 And I also have the belief that God only wants to upgrade my life and bring good things into 861 01:01:36.180 --> 01:01:37.180 my life. 862 01:01:37.180 --> 01:01:44.060 So I am really looking forward to where my Mindset Monday is going to go because it's 863 01:01:44.060 --> 01:01:50.620 going to be even better than where it's been and it's going to turn into something awesome. 864 01:01:50.620 --> 01:01:53.020 So I'm going to drop my link one more time. 865 01:01:53.020 --> 01:01:54.020 Think about it. 866 01:01:54.020 --> 01:01:55.020 If you're like, I'm not sure. 867 01:01:55.020 --> 01:01:58.220 I know, I know like half of you on this call have already said yes and signed up. 868 01:01:58.220 --> 01:02:01.260 I saw my little, I get a little notification that says, praise Jesus. 869 01:02:01.260 --> 01:02:02.260 You got another person. 870 01:02:02.260 --> 01:02:03.620 This is who it is. 871 01:02:03.620 --> 01:02:06.940 And so I like do a little celebration and I pray over that person. 872 01:02:06.940 --> 01:02:09.020 So how many of you have already gotten that? 873 01:02:09.020 --> 01:02:14.220 And whenever you're ready and able, grab my link, keep it. 874 01:02:14.220 --> 01:02:15.220 See us next week. 875 01:02:15.220 --> 01:02:18.420 The week after you can literally join whenever I'm looking forward to seeing where this is 876 01:02:18.420 --> 01:02:19.420 going to grow. 877 01:02:19.420 --> 01:02:20.420 So thank you. 878 01:02:20.420 --> 01:02:21.420 I love you all so much. 879 01:02:21.420 --> 01:02:23.900 Like I've been so blessed by y'all. 880 01:02:23.900 --> 01:02:26.380 Enjoy your time with Gabby and your businesses. 881 01:02:26.380 --> 01:02:28.420 And I will see some of you on Monday. 882 01:02:28.420 --> 01:02:29.420 Okay. 883 01:02:29.420 --> 01:02:30.420 Bye. 884 01:02:30.420 --> 01:02:31.420 Love y'all. 885 01:02:31.420 --> 01:02:32.420 Love y'all. 886 01:02:32.420 --> 01:02:33.940 Thank you.