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What's up girl
Uh-oh, hold on
Can you say something can you hear me? Yes now I can
I'm gonna let everyone in while I set up the try to set up the stream
Go ahead and make me co-host their hose. I'm staying in as well too, but yeah. Oh, okay
Hey
Hey ladies, come on in
Hey Margo, hey
I'm just having the last couple bites of some food
That's totally fine. I'm probably gonna eat something here in a minute myself. Honestly, I've been like non-stop today
What do you what what are you chowing on for lunch today or breakfast?
I'm actually I was having a bowl of cereal but I had like my actual meal
earlier I have it I don't know earlier in the day I had like a leftover burger
and a couple of fried eggs okay my like I should probably have had actual lunch
but I just was craving some cereal so I was like you know what I'm just gonna
have the bowl of cereal and then I'm gonna move on there we go
there we go that works yep awesome I'm about to do a Costco run this afternoon
and I love Costco we did Costco yesterday oh man you're ahead of me I
feel like I'm still recovering from San Diego I was like non-stop on Sunday and
then I like five calls yesterday so yeah here we are yeah yeah I know right
we missed you Margo it was such a cool time I was gonna say how was it so good
it was they did working yeah there's like a work hey Crystal hey Danielle
yeah say give a quick you know update how was it on your end for the retreat
oh my goodness it was definitely I guess one word to describe it was inspiring
mmm just to see even though I'm just really getting started I saw so many
others that you know have things in place and I can see where I'm heading
and then also just to know that there are other people just starting to so
it's like I'm you know the only one just getting my feet wet with it yeah no
that's good and as she said in this book this last part of this book I think she
really talks to it doesn't really matter how long you've been doing
something because she's had success you know a couple years then people have had
success before that people have had success after that it's more about your
mindset and your consistency and you're you willing to show up over and over and
over again so and I think that's exactly what you're doing crystal so
yeah it's great yeah I'm glad I will sure I'm so glad you went to hey Sienna
good to see you well I just want to quick poll the room
because kind of how we've been doing this call is the first half is we kind
of dig into the book and then the second half is something a little like a
practical question to kind of checking in with your business so were you all
able to read for this week yeah most of it I didn't I think so okay this is my
first time on this call so I I don't have the book I just wanted to pop in
because I know this is your last last call yes that is true
oh well I'm glad you're here crystal hey Garima were you able to read the last
part of the book okay cool all right so we've got like 70% of the room read
Gabby what about you know I know okay well here's what I'll do I'm gonna do a
quick I'm gonna do a quick recap of the book and then I've got a couple of
questions for us that we can take a look at for today I yeah hey Jennifer
welcome real quick were you able to read any of the book and she means business
the last part for today I'm just checking in no I just thought I'd join
in okay great all right so well Gabby do you have an announcement or anything you
want to say first before we kind of dig in I just want to give you the floor for
a moment actually yes that's a good reminder cuz I meant to do this on
pre-resonant I forgot guys so um this week Thursday's AI system scaling call
is going to be canceled and you will get access to we're running an AI challenge
right now so you'll get access to I believe we're gonna do the Friday
session so they think that would be the most relevant
for everybody so just be on the lookout for that. We'll get that posted out there so you can get if
you want to join that call you can but just that's the only announcement I have other than this being
Danielle's last call. This is my official last call in the Rainmaker community and as you all
okay so cool does anybody have any questions about what Gabby just said? Is that clear?
Sweet so going forward to kind of add on to that so Mindset Monday will no longer be under the
Rainmaker community so come Monday it's still going on though I've actually had quite a few
people sign up and that just gets me so excited so I am gonna drop the link here one more time
for all of you if you want to come join us it's I'm giving the Rainmaker rate which is $57 a month
and you get a call every single Monday it's essentially like you're continuing with Mindset
Monday and right now I'm honing in on starting this call with just my Rainmaker people and just
your the business owners from that community and we're gonna see where it's gonna go. I'm
definitely gonna want to work with business owners and probably female business owners so
I'm pretty sure that's who we'll end up filling the room up with but for now it's just gonna be
probably a little more intimate keeping slow with the Rainmakers and go from there so if that's you
and you want to be on call with us next Monday go ahead and sign up and then you just need to
pay before Monday and then you'll get a Zoom link sent to your email and that will be the Zoom link
for every Monday going forward so any questions about that?
All right cool okay so I loved the end of this book
okay that's cool Margo is she let me ask you real quick is she a business owner?
Yes. Go ahead and give her the link. Okay. Because this will be I'm starting out with
business owners up front so if she's owning a business then that's going to be for her.
Okay cool that's fun. I don't know if she's ready but I know she would love it so I will let her
know if she can make the decision. No I love that thanks Margo and you know how Mindset Monday rolls
I'm not we're it's also we talk about our personal lives too and we talk about because
you know how your mind shows up in one area is how you tend to show up in every other area of
your life so yeah tell her that tell her she'd be more than welcome I'd love to meet her.
Thanks Margo that sounds great. Okay so I really love the end of this book and I'm
going to do a quick recap and then I'm going to have a question or two.
Again I was reading this book and first of all I'm like a lot of this I've read before my brain
has heard these things before but our brains need to hear things seven times plus for them to stick
so I actually had some really cool revelation for myself that came out of this last part of the
book so if you haven't read it the book that we've been going through is She Means Business
and I think it's a great book if none of you've read it I think it's a great book you can check
out and add to your toolbox I think so she started her business in about 15 years ago
back when Facebook ads were kind of just like starting out so I love how some of her
some of her tactics are actually still used today and she was kind of on the cutting edge of a lot
of what a lot of business owners use today so I think she's a great resource this is a great book
to keep in your back pocket going forward. Okay so first she talks about
networking and getting yourself out there and how you're the one with the vision you're the
one who's got to get out there and network and find your people and get yourself so she specifically
says get yourself in front of your person and how many of you know that can feel really daunting
that can feel a little overwhelming that can feel like you know all your thoughts come out like am
that can feel like you know all your thoughts come out like am I going to be enough as this
person going to want what I have to offer am I going to really connect with these certain people
but she's so big on getting yourself out there and I know because she literally is the prime
example of somebody who built started recording videos started doing Facebook posts and did not
get any likes or any views for a long time for a long time so I want to listen to somebody like
this because she like did not have immediate success she has built her success over the course
of years and she built out her her membership up to 1400 people a
month. And I'm literally on a very personal level because we
decided to do this book and I actually was not planning on
building out Mindset Monday like on my own until two and a half
weeks ago. So I'm like reading this book. I'm like, wait a
minute. Why couldn't I have 1400 people in my Mindset Monday
membership going forward of business owners, right? And I
just thought she didn't originally start with a
membership, though. She started with a vision, and then she
started with a who. And then she got really clear with her who
and then she's like, wait, I think my who could use the
membership. So again, these are all like her business grew on
top of itself. And then she talks about, give yourself
permission to not have to do it all. Which we've heard that
before, right? But she's, here's what you've also heard before.
She said you need to pick one platform and focus on it. You
need to pick one marketing strategy and focus on it. So I'd
like to stop here for one second. And I'd like to be
honest. Exactly. Margo, I knew you'd say that. So how many
we're going to use the word focus, I want you to type in the
chat focus if you feel like you're really focused in on your
marketing strategy or your platform. Or I want you to write
not focused. So I want us to just pull really quick. And I'm
referring to your marketing strategy or your person, which
they kind of go hand in hand. But I want to know, are you
feeling focused or not focused?
I love Jen, very close.
Yeah. Actually, I was thinking you'd say that Jen based on our
conversations at the retreat, like, you definitely made some
strides and you're getting like, you're super close. I
agree. Okay, so Margo's like not focused, but working on it. I
agree. I think you are. Okay, Garima. Yeah, you're pretty
focused on Amazon this year. I agree. I've seen you really hone
in on that on that. And it's working for you. Okay, Sian's
not focused. Okay, and Crystal not focused. Okay, great. So
yeah, we all like to be honest with ourselves, because the
the basis of how to get focus is to acknowledge where you're at.
And I how many times have you heard business owners say this
who were six who hit a level of success? They said this is this
comes up everywhere, by the way. So a reminder to your brain,
when you get focused on your person, and then you get focused
on a marketing strategy, which really means one platform,
right. And then you can go in on that. That's how she ended up
figuring out her membership is what ultimately was working
because she realized her one plot her Facebook is what was
blowing up for her because she put all of her reps into her
Facebook ads, and her Facebook group. We teach that here. So I
it's still an amazing platform. And it's an amazing strategy.
There's also we also teach multiple strategies and
Rainmakers, right. So that's why it's really important for you to
know which one do you want to try and hone in on first. Alright,
so then she said she talks about, oh, then she talks, she
steps into money mindset, and how she really needed. Yeah,
Margot, I know, you know, we can never tire of hearing this
because she was saying I gave, gave, gave, gave, gave, but I
didn't know how to receive money. I didn't know how to
receive that back what I was putting out. And I think as high
achieving businesswomen, mothers, wives, like you can
naturally want to give. But then, you know, I'm not making
money off of this, or Oh, the money's not coming. It's like,
well, wait a minute. Are you open to receiving what you give
out? Did you want to add something to that, Gabby?
Not specifically, I was, I've seen a huge, just observed as an
adult, you know, it's very hard for people to receive help
receive money and not like in your business, you're not
necessarily receiving help, but just to receive in general,
people get very uncomfortable. So I love this. Yeah. No, I
think so too. And I, and listen, that goes back to our own
childhoods, our trauma, our pain. Like, it's not, it's not
just so easy sometimes, right? It's like, especially when
you're putting all this energy towards building, and you want
to serve. But the reality is people want to pay you for what
your service is. Like, that's the one I want a business. Now,
is there a give? Yes. And she talks about like sandwiching,
like have your
gives you guys, you guys have learned that have your lead magnet. That's a give. And I used to
think, Oh, I'm going to bait people in, but that's not it. It's giving to them, bring in the right
person who wants what you offer. It's actually, everybody really wins if you think about it in
that way. And that's what she talks about. She talks about a lot of her giving has led to the,
yes, Gabby, to these relationships that are now giving, giving, receiving, giving, receiving,
giving, receiving. I mean, she mentioned Lewis Howes in the book. Do you guys know who he is?
He's a, okay. I'm seeing some yeses and nos. Lewis Howes is a big pop. Like I want to say on the,
you know, Tony Robbins, he's like a motivational speaker. He has his podcasts. He's really
encouraging. And she was talking about him. She's like, there was this guy, Lewis Howes.
I just happened to see his email in my inbox. This was in 2012. And she's like, I just thought
I'd email him back and say, Hey, I run this community. Do you need any support? Next thing
you know, they get on a call together and they're supporting one another into each other's
communities. Lewis Howes is literally huge now. So again, also this may have me think,
you never know who's going to come into your path and who you're going to send that email out to,
who you're going to connect with when they're maybe in the beginning stages of their business,
but where like the power of community and networking can take it. I don't know why I'm
going like this. I'm like, and I know I love him too. And I just love how she's just talking
about him. Like he's just this dude she sent an email to and like, look where they're at. So,
so you never know who you, I actually sent multiple emails to Tony Robbins
in my lifetime. And I'm, I'm not, I'm going to keep going because who knows where him, you know,
I could get connected with him at some point. Cause he's like in my realm of where I'm,
you know, serving and want to go in the mindset and coaching room. Okay. So she said,
she quoted Napoleon Hill. And I love this quote. It says, don't wait. The time will never be just
right. Okay. I'm getting, I'm saying exactly. It's just, well, you just do it. You decide the time
is right. When you decide, she talks about moving past. So this was a new word comparisonitis.
She called it, which is like comparing yourself to somebody else. Because again, where somebody
may be in step one, I think this is good word for YouTube crystals. Somebody may be in a step one
versus meeting someone in their step 20 versus meeting somebody in their step 70.
And I think a big, a big point she makes is don't compare yourself along your,
along your journey, make sure you're staying true and consistent to where you are.
She talks about keeping faith and being persistent. And then there was this example,
she talked about how somebody drove from Phoenix to San Diego, or I guess it'd be like this,
which is five hours. I've actually driven it. And she's like, when you put in the GPS,
think about this. When you put in a destination on a GPS, you know, you're going to get there
without a doubt. You just know, it's just a matter of time. I'm going to get there. I actually drove
for a couple hours this morning, running an errand for my friend. They paid me $300 to do it. And I
said, yes, I will. So I was, I put in the GPS. It was a new place. I'd never been there before.
I drove an hour and I got there. Okay. Why can it not be this simple with your businesses?
Tell me how much faith you have to get to a point A and a point B in your day.
Do you have faith for that? You probably don't second guess when you put in a GPS destination,
like you're probably like, yeah, I'm going to get there. Like literally, it's not even a question
in your mind. You don't doubt. You just know you're going to get there. Right. Will I make it
to the grocery store? You will. It's just like, how long will it take you? And so I think this
is a really powerful mindset to be reminded of ladies. Cause you can get stuck, right? And feel
like you can get a detour and think about driving a car on a road. You get in a detour. You're,
tell me this when you're on your detour, you're still not thinking you're going to be there
forever. You know, it's going to pass. And so I think that's a good mindset to be reminded as
you're building. But the thing is, if you're not focused and you're not in tune with your vision
and where you want to go, it can feel like you're going to get stuck there and you're not sure.
And she talks about
Also, anybody here play an instrument?
Do I have any musical people on the call?
Not anymore.
Wow. Nobody plays an instrument on this call.
Yeah, I used to.
Okay. We've got two used to's.
Well, that's funny because she talks about,
I don't either by the way, I used to too.
She said learning a business is like
learning an instrument.
You just have to keep putting in the reps
until you ultimately get good at it.
And so think about for you,
if you never got good at learning an instrument, why?
Did you just not like it?
Did you just not want to keep going?
It's just good for you to think through.
I really like this analogy
because at the end of the day,
I think learning an instrument
actually takes a lot of reps
and it takes a lot of meticulous learning things
just like a business.
So, okay, I'm seeing what you wrote.
Oh girl, that counts.
You play the recorder.
Okay, so you have to learn your notes,
put in your reps, get good at something.
That is exactly how business is.
And she talks a lot about not getting stuck there
and to keep going.
The amount of times she said in this book,
keep going, be consistent, be persistent.
She said it over and over and over again
and there's a reason why.
There's a reason why a lot of business centers
talk about this in their books
because it's a requirement to see your success
and one way or another, you're going to see it
and it's going to happen.
And then she talks about
when you get ready to start hiring people,
she didn't hire people for the first
three and a half years of her business
and then she hired a friend
and then after she hired her friend,
her membership was growing so much
that she had to hire somebody else
and then she was like, I'm ready for a mentor
and she said, she called it her cabinet of friends.
So, maybe some of you want to hire someone
but you're not there yet.
Again, what I took from her was keep going
and you're eventually going to get there
or hire what you can when you can
because she said she actually wish
she would have hired earlier on
when she started her business.
Again, she talks about hindsight being 20-20,
we all know this, we learn from hindsight.
She said, okay, this is what I want to hone in
for the next about 15 minutes.
I want to have a conversation
about this last part of the book.
She talks about celebrating your wins.
We talk about that here.
Taking care of yourself, we talk about that here.
Resist the urge to put things off.
I'm gonna repeat that.
Resist the urge to put things off
and I love this quote, she said.
She says, when the world says give up,
hope whispers, try it one more time.
Because I think it can be easy to get stuck
when you're trying things and they're not working.
And she is speaking from a place of conviction.
Okay, here was the chapter
and there was these two paragraphs that jumped out at me
and I'm like, I need to read this for you all
and we're gonna discuss this for a moment.
Okay, this is it, are you ready?
Listen to yourself.
Okay, I'm gonna read this.
I want you all to be listening
to the best of your ability right now.
This is for you.
Aside from your business friends,
there's someone else whose friendship you really need
in order to be unstoppable and that's your own.
You need to build a deep relationship with yourself
so that you can learn to listen to yourself
and trust yourself completely.
While the opinions and advice of others
might be very helpful at times,
this is your life, your business
and you're the one steering your ship
so you have to be the one in charge.
You can't rely on other people to show you the route
that you need to take.
You have to trust yourself and your instincts
and listen to them closely
so you can make the best decisions for you.
All right.
I want to open this discussion for a moment about trusting yourself,
listening to yourself, knowing yourself.
She talked about being a friend to yourself.
And I'd love to hear, do you feel like you trust yourself right now?
Like a one to 10, 10, meaning I trust myself.
I am a CEO.
I make my decisions.
Let's go.
I'm unstoppable to one being, I don't even trust myself.
I don't know what the heck I'm doing.
I feel insane and.
I'm having a really hard time befriending myself.
So I'd love for you to give yourself an honest number.
One to 10, just be honest.
You know, this is the honest, vulnerable place.
And I'd love to hear what you think about this.
Are you listening to yourself?
Is it hard for you?
Opening the floor to whoever would like to start us.
I will say that probably for the first time ever in my life that I can say 10.
I trust the decisions I'm making in my life right now.
It is scary what I'm doing, but I don't have any doubts that I'm making the wrong decision.
And that's, I mean, that has to be from the time I've been in this company.
Cause when I came in, that was not the case.
Yeah.
Could you, could you pinpoint something that's really helped you get to a 10 and
kind of get to where you are feeling so confident right now?
Is there like a mindset shift or a, or a decision or something you made?
I think it was the decision to finally start choosing myself over anything else in my life.
I had a realization that for my whole life, I have been putting everyone else first.
And now I just have to look at everything from that lens.
And now that I do that, I feel very confident in my decisions.
Yeah.
Cause it can be a really hard line of knowing when to actually put yourself
first and when to put somebody else first.
Right.
And it sounds like you've really been learning how to do that better instead
of not even giving yourself a chance, right.
Instead of saying, selfishness, you know, to like, Oh, selfish to do this.
This isn't the, you know, this, the, for the betterment of all, I should do this.
And then you just constantly like second guess those things.
And then you, you're, you know, your heart is wanting and hurting because
you're not putting yourself first and because the decisions you're
making aren't serving you, they're serving everybody else.
Yeah.
Yeah, no, that's so good.
Thanks for sharing Lauren.
Thank you.
Yeah.
I think that I am really good at acting.
Like I have like a hundred percent confidence in myself and my decisions,
but there's still a layer of doubt underneath somewhere hidden, probably
buried in the trauma, um, from, you know, past.
Yep.
And I think most people that see me from outside looking in, like people
who follow me on social media or know me through work or through my business,
think that I am this like courageous and confident person that just goes
forward and does what I want and, you know, makes all these hard decisions
and does create whatever, all this stuff.
And then I'm like, yes, that is true.
But also there's all of this about me that you don't see.
So as much as I can say that I do trust myself and I trust the
decisions that I'm making, I, sometimes I have to like talk myself through it.
I have to be like, yeah, the doubt will creep in and it'll be like, but what if
this, or what, and I think many of you have seen that over the last few months
with all the things that I have going on in my life.
Um, so some days it's probably like nine or 10, some days it's
more around like four or five.
Okay.
Yeah.
I appreciate your honesty.
And also just kind of acknowledging, maybe it also depends
on the scenario and the theme.
And she said in her book, in this past month, she talked about talking to
herself when she makes decisions and how she needed to go back and forth with.
She talks about like creating an imaginative, like an imaginary.
Self in her brain.
And she's like talking to herself.
And she also talked about like her business being almost like an entity
that she would talk to and like making it more imaginative in
her brain to make it more real.
So there's.
nothing wrong. In fact, that's a great skill to have, Margo, to learn how to talk to yourself,
with yourself, out of yourself. You know, again, this is not about ex-ing community.
This is about taking on responsibility, right, of like you, business, and what you want as
well. So that's great, Margo. I think you're on your way to a 10.
Can I add to that too? Because I was going to say like, I don't think that being a 10
means that you don't have doubt, and you don't have fear, and that you don't overanalyze
your decisions. I think it would be irresponsible to not, you know, think through a situation
and a decision analytically, and talk to yourself about it, and things like that. And even second
guess it, right? I think that's part of the whole process, right? I think you can still
have doubts, and you can still have fear, but trust that you are making the right decision.
Yeah, that's good.
Yeah, that's absolutely true. I think I just sometimes don't fully feel that trust,
and it's still like a work in progress, but I do actually talk to myself a lot,
especially when I'm in the car driving. Like, there's no music, there's no nothing on,
and I literally talk out loud, and say my thoughts. And I do this sometimes when I've
had an argument, like with my partner, and I want to like work through what I want to say,
when we actually talk about it later. And I will like play the other person, or in some cases,
also me, but thinking a different thought. And sometimes I'm like, no, I don't like that. And
I back up and I say it again. And then I say a different, like, what about this? Which I'm sure
people on the outside looking in would go, Oh, my gosh, she's crazy. But it helps me to actually
hear it. Yeah. Yeah, it also helps your brain. Like studies have showed talking to yourself,
or like going on a walk and talking to yourself, like helps combat even diseases.
I don't know why that's so funny. It's just, it's like, it's real. Yeah. So let's all let's
all talk to ourselves going forward more. Okay. Successful people do it.
Good, Margo. Thank you. All right. Who's next? Go ahead, Sienna.
I'm kind of like with Margaret, it's like going flexing back and forth. Like right now,
I, I'm feeling pretty low because I'm trying to deal with this Facebook crap,
and dialing into my social media. And I don't, I feel like really confused and just
feels very chaotic. So while you're talking, I was actually counseling my meta ads account.
And one thing that I mean, I've heard this expression before. And my friend, who's also
a coach, he's just like, borrow my, borrow my confidence right now. It's like, I'm thinking,
like, you know, I trusted myself to get into this program. I've invested money, time, energy.
And it's like, on the call before, it's like, I'm borrowing Gabby's, you know, trust,
trust the people that I paid a coaching in this program. And it's hard to cancel my Facebook,
old Facebook meta stuff. It's, I'm like, winding the ball. And I did it, I took my credit cards
off of that. And it's a powerful move. But I'm still like, can't borrowing Gabby's advice.
I'm paying for that coaching. Because I can't make that decision. Because in my mind,
it's like spaghetti noodles. And so chaotic. Yeah. But yeah, I think no, I think that's also
why you because she talked about that's also why you do hire a mentor to to also help you
see decisions and make decisions. And at the end of the day, you still get to also decide if you
want to follow your mentor, or you don't, you know, if you want to try this thing, or you don't
and, and, and it sounds like you're learning how to trust yourself more Sienna and, and trust
somebody else and know that, okay, this is going in the right direction. Yeah, yeah.
Just to add to that, like, yeah. And to everybody, when you maybe lean on the advice or wisdom from
somebody else, and it heavily influences a decision, something that you can do to even still
strengthen your own trust in yourself and be like, okay, I made that decision. Now, here's probably
some things that are going to come next from that decision that was made. Let me spend some time
thinking about how I'm going to maybe react to this, not in an overanalyzed.
or obsessing kind of way, but just in a way,
like, let me practice thinking through it
and kind of almost preemptively making a decision
about, okay, if this thing happens
because I decided to turn off the ads,
or if this thing happens,
here's how I think I'm going to react to those.
And it just is like another layer of, like,
building up that trust,
building up that decision-making in yourself.
And then the more you do it,
the more, the easier it gets to trust yourself,
and that trust does increase.
So it's something that we can all do.
Just if you're finding a situation
that you're really struggling to make the decision,
so you kind of listen to somebody else,
you can still practice that, like, self-trust in it.
Yeah, that's really good.
And I'm thinking about, you know,
I wrote, you know, being friends with yourself.
It's like being friends with somebody else,
because when you first meet somebody,
it's like, I don't know if I trust you.
I don't know where this is going to go.
Like, being a good friend to somebody
and receiving somebody else's friendship takes reps.
It takes trust.
It takes building.
And same with yourself,
especially if you've done something,
you feel regret, you feel bad, you feel disappointed,
you feel upset about, you feel sad about,
because guess what?
We all do those.
We all do it again.
From a spiritual standpoint, you know,
there's all these other words we call it,
but at the end of the day, it's like,
okay, I did that.
I'm going to do something different next time, right?
I'm going to build that trust with myself.
And a way to also build trust with yourself
is by completing a task that you set out for the day.
Even just one task.
Like, I actually had a really great day yesterday
not even because of how much I got done,
but because I committed,
I stuck to the commitments of every single thing I said
that I was going to do.
And I'm like, ooh, nice job, Danielle.
We did really well today.
You're a trustworthy way to go.
And I just love how she started this out
with trusting yourself.
And that takes time.
And by the way, think about a partnership.
When somebody hurts you,
when the trust has been broken,
it has to be rebuilt for it to get reconnected again.
Or the disconnect and the bitterness and the anger
will just continue to slightly grow apart, right?
That grows the trust apart
instead of coming back to reconnect and keep going.
So let's all be best friends with ourselves.
I would love to hear.
I know, Grima, you just popped on.
Jen, I don't know if you want to answer.
And Crystal, I know you're off,
so you might have to put in the chat.
But if you guys have something to add.
Yeah, this is really powerful.
So, Danielle, I just want to know
if she talks about in the book
how to start building that process.
Does she talk about that?
I think that's the toughest part to be your friend
because we are so critical about each,
like, especially about us.
I mean, I always look at myself.
I saw all my flaws.
They are, like, always, like, you know, in my face.
I mean, other people see so many probably beautiful things.
My daughter, I mean, I wish I could see myself
the way my daughter looks at me.
But, I mean, so that is the thing
I'm trying to work on myself
because I'm so critical about myself.
Yeah.
That's so real.
So if she talks about the process, that would be great.
So I can just start marinating on that.
Yeah, so it's, yeah.
So she actually talks about a couple of different things.
And it's these.
You can write these down if you want.
Or you actually already know these, Rima.
You already know them, so get ready.
She says, don't carry your mistakes around with you.
Meaning, forgive yourself when you've made a mistake
and keep moving on.
So forgiveness.
Then she talks about celebrating the wins.
That helps build trust with yourself
because we talk about this on Mindset Monday a lot,
which I might actually start bringing back in
because it solidifies in your brain,
hey, I did this thing and that's worth celebrating.
Let's keep trusting ourselves.
Then she talks about taking care of yourself.
Because when we begin to ignore ourselves,
it can be easy to not want to be friends with ourselves
if we're using this language.
She talks about taking care of yourself.
Resist the urge to put things off,
which essentially is.
The opposite of saying that is doing what you say you're going to do in a day that builds
trust with yourself and then to make sure your neuro pathways, the way you think are
in alignment with where you want to go.
So positive thinking, kind of what we talk about in mindset Monday as well, like having
those positive thoughts about yourself.
I'm going to stop with that.
I mean, there's, she also goes way into depth about all this.
That's why I love this part of the book.
It's kind of the end of the book, like the last 50 pages of a book, 75.
But is that helpful?
Does that sound good?
Garima?
Yeah.
That's helpful.
I'm going to write them down bold letters and then save it on my phone somewhere.
I can see it.
Yeah.
And even just, yeah, go ahead.
Gabby.
Sorry.
I was just going to say, I would love for you to rate yourself on that one to 10 scale
and then also be like, okay, what would it take for me to get to a nine or a 10, you
know?
Yeah.
I relate to Margo in that sense that some days I'm like 10, I'm like, yeah.
And then some days I'm like two, doubting everything.
So it changes.
And then day to day, then it's like, okay, this is the wind and I feel like, yeah, amazing.
So it's a work in progress, but I'm getting better.
It's like it fluctuates now.
It's not like I'm like deep in the valley and then up at the peak.
Now like valleys are like, you know, plateaus live, so it's getting better.
So yeah, it's just kind of good.
Yeah.
That's good.
Good, Garima.
Thank you so much.
Well, I'm so glad to hear that I'm not the only one that waffles back and forth because
there are definitely some days for me that I feel confident and other days I'm like,
I have no idea what I'm doing.
And I think my thing right now is making decisions.
I remember, I don't know, before the trip, there was a day that there was just so much
going on and I got to a point later in the day, I'm like, oh my gosh, I cannot make another
decision.
It's like, don't ask me to make a decision.
I actually told my husband, I was like, I'm just burned out on deciding.
And it's a struggle that I know we're making progress.
You know, it's powerful.
I feel that crystal a lot.
This season of my life is constant decisions, little big every day.
And so one thing I encourage here is also you can have the trust and power to make a
decision to wait on some of those decisions, to know I need some time to rest.
I need some time for my mind to be still.
I can come back to this tomorrow or whatever it is.
And sometimes there are decisions that are very, they have to be made right away.
But usually a lot of them don't have to be made as quickly as we tend to make it feel.
And it's, you know, nothing is really going to completely fall apart if we wait a day
or wait until we take a nap or something or go take a walk.
So I think there's also power in just having that one decision of waiting on the other
one until you're rested.
And I guess that is making a decision.
You make the decision to wait.
Yeah.
And you make a decision to trust that you need rest before you can make more decisions
and you trust yourself to take care of yourself in that moment.
And that you are prioritizing, you know, just your general mental well-being also by waiting.
Yeah.
And I've had the, just recently feeling like, okay, I'm thinking too much in my logical
self versus in my spirit.
I know this is what I really want, but then I overanalyze and I think I'm making the right
decision and then it feels good.
And then the next day I'm like, oh no, that's not right.
So I don't know.
I, I, this is exactly like a huge topic in Mindset Monday.
This actually question gets me fired up.
it up because decision fatigue is real, right? And it leads to
overwhelm and overwhelm is a slew of emotions. It's like a
stew of all of these emotions that can really keep you stuck
and feeling so stuck. You're in Stockville, right? Overwhelm
usually can lead to that. So she actually has a whole chapter on
getting out of overwhelm. I was just looking for it. It's how to
avoid overwhelm. It's, I have the book through my library, the
ebook, it starts at page 292 on my phone. But Crystal bookmarks
that. And I'd like you to read through that. But I will
summarize it for you in case that feels overwhelming. She
basically says, you create you break down your days into many
achievable chunks of work that is within a map of where you
want to take your business. She met with somebody and they
chunked down her business for her and she's like, wait a
minute, I'm getting overwhelmed for nothing. You're saying I
just need to work on this for 20 minutes a day for the next two
two weeks. Like, yeah, that's it. Because usually overwhelms
also rooted in fear, fear of the unknown, your brain creating
a thought in the future of what something's already going to look
like, and then you begin to get overwhelmed, too. And I've
honestly done a whole mindset on just overwhelmed. So start with
the basics of what you need to get done first, and correctly
map out realistically chunks of time and what you can
realistically get done within that time. And just do that for
this week. Do that for the next four or five days. And that
helps reduce the overwhelm in the near future. Yeah, go ahead.
That's good.
So you guys have I think everyone has your AI hire that
we talked about over the weekend that you installed. So 1000% I
was talking this on a pre revenue call, but utilize your
AI hire for this type of management. And like, I need you
to help me chunk down my days chunk down my work, and keep me
you know, to help you stay focused. But again, it takes off
the mental load of some of those little minute decisions of,
okay, now I have to decide to work on this thing. Now I have
to decide it, it takes that off your plate. So I am this I'm
very passionate about this, because this has been one of the
best things that I'm using my AI assistant for is to just help
me, you be in charge of my priorities, I told you what they
are, you're in charge of them, and scheduling them. And you
can, you know, it takes a little bit of finessing with like, how
much time you might need for a task, like sometimes you have to
kind of figure out how much time you need. And that's just trial
and error. But in, and it will get better, the more you do it.
So if you're feeling overwhelmed, I had a day, a month
or more ago, it was like a Friday, I was just really
overwhelmed in general with a lot of things. And I didn't have
any calls, but I was like, I'm supposed to be working when
there were some things I need to do. And I just had my AI
assistant be like, I was like, I'm overwhelmed, but I need to
do something because it's also important to me that like, I
work with integrity. Not that there's not every day, any days
where I've like, just been like, I can't do live today. But
generally, like I want to have integrity. And so it asked me
just some questions about what needed to happen that day. And I
was like, here's where my energy is that here's what you know,
I'm feeling capable of. So you guys can also just do that on
chat, you can, you can, you know, whatever tool you like,
but just as a tiny little like, thing that you can practice is
using your AI hire to manage some of that for you.
Can I add something to that? Because it's relevant. And I
think it's really important in a mastermind with Russell Brunson.
And on Daniel's list, she has do what you say you said you would
do. And he said, someone had asked in the audience, how do
you build confidence and trust in yourself? And that was his
answer. Do what you're saying you're gonna do. And it's just
like, if you're chunking down things, and I struggle with
this, because my to do list is like, so long, but it's just
like, four things. Choose, you know, something doable, so that
you you have it in front of you. And you can do it by size pieces
that you can do it. And that is what he says builds confidence
and trust in yourself.
Yeah, that's so good. And I was just writing out like, it's just
It sounds so simple, doesn't it, everyone?
It's like, well, duh, like that.
But like when you have a fear of
that's why you have to dig down.
Like, where is my overwhelm really coming from?
Because you when you when it's a simple task
and you feel like it feels like a bigger task, it's usually a thought.
This is where the mindset work comes in.
There's a thought that's keeping you wanting to go in that direction.
You know, what if it doesn't work or well?
I tried to do that last week and I didn't actually do it,
or I don't know if this is actually going to go anywhere.
Oh, I'll just do it tomorrow.
I'm just making thoughts up.
I mean, some of these are my own, right?
OK, why am I if it's that simple, then just go do it.
You know, there's usually something underneath.
You would want to take a look and ask yourself,
what am I really thinking about here?
Like, why am I really having a hard time here?
Why am I stuck?
Well, we've got a couple of minutes left, Jennifer,
did you want to add anything?
Did you want to share?
Your number.
So it's the number of like how confident we are in our decisions.
Is that right?
In trusting yourself?
Yeah. Making a decision.
Being the CEO of your business. Yeah.
In terms of decisions, I think I rank pretty high in that.
In terms like I do trust what I decide.
I think I do think about them.
A lot before I make a decision,
even if people think I'm really fast at decisions, it's really not true.
Like it just seems faster because I'm constantly thinking.
Hence why I don't sleep, but
I do have a lot of like issues.
With like executing those decisions,
it's like I've decided and then I tend to
not be able to move forward unless I know all the steps in my head
and I've already laid them out, which causes procrastination.
It causes just overall delays.
And like with time, I don't have.
And it's like I know what I need to do.
I've decided what I need to do.
Like I know.
But like executing that plan is very hard.
But what I've learned is like I have to like when people say it's like.
Decision is the key, and I do think that's true.
But you have to decide like every single day.
It's like, yeah, you have to just going. Yeah.
It's like I'm pulling everything I have and creating something.
And I have to decide to do that every single day.
Like I can't take a step back because if I do, I'll take 10 steps back.
And it's just like a procrastination problem and maybe an ADD problem.
I don't know.
I know I have ADD, but I don't take any medications for it or anything. But
like in terms of just confidence in myself, like I do.
I think like I have confidence in my integrity.
I have constant confidence in my decisions,
but I don't really have that many confidence to like in my person,
as in like I don't love the way I look.
I don't love like all the little things and.
I've like let so many things that people told me in the past,
like just dig in deep and it's like I don't necessarily feel
emotional every time like like something comes up.
But like not liking the way I look in pictures
because of things people have told me my whole life
has really hindered me from posting pictures.
So it's not like, but I'm like,
I'm not going to cry about it or like, because to me, it's just like,
it's become a fact in my brain and I need to not let it be a fact.
Yeah. And yeah, for sure.
Yeah. Like that's just one one example.
Like I've told my friends this before and they just think I'm crazy,
but they just don't get it.
Well, well, no, I, I thank you so much for sharing that.
And again, it's another example of I trust myself here,
but then it comes to this area and I don't.
And we all have that. We all have that. Right.
And so a way that you would do that
is to change up your thoughts about the way you look
and you would do neuro work and you would say, hey, how do I, you know,
I think this way I want to think about something different.
I want to do something.
I say, think about it in the positive and in the present.
Or or watch one of the mindset Monday replays.
When we talk about this, literally, I walk people through
how to change your narrow pathway, because that is a huge part of trusting
yourself to in that area where you could use Jennifer. Right.
And I appreciate you sharing that.
So I think a lot of women deal with this, too,
and aren't always open to talking about it.
So that was awesome.
And you're working in the health field, too.
So it's so.
So it would be cool for you to do some work around your own mind in that area so that
you are feeling more confident because we want to be confident about our bodies, whether
they change or don't, because first it's here, right in your mind.
So yeah, that was good.
I feel like I'm better at instilling that confidence in other people than I am in myself.
And that's usually what Gaby, we both just said usually at the same time.
What were you going to say?
I was just saying that's usually, that's how it goes.
Like that's true for most of us, but that's why part of neuro work too, is pretending
you're talking to somebody else sometimes can be helpful is like pretend you're talking
to a friend and then you turn it back on yourself and that can be really powerful.
Yeah, that's a way to refute.
You want to refute your negative thought first and pretend you're saying it to somebody else
and you realize you would never actually say that out loud to somebody else.
The things you say to yourself when you look in the mirror or whatever it is, right?
And then yeah, go from there.
So all right guys, we do both, Danielle and I do need to go.
We got one minute till 11, so we're going to wrap this up.
Danielle, I don't know if you have anything you want to say real quick with this being
your last call.
I just want to say I love all of you so much.
This was a hard decision for me to make.
But at the end of the day, I believe when a door closes, a new one opens.
And I also have the belief that God only wants to upgrade my life and bring good things into
my life.
So I am really looking forward to where my Mindset Monday is going to go because it's
going to be even better than where it's been and it's going to turn into something awesome.
So I'm going to drop my link one more time.
Think about it.
If you're like, I'm not sure.
I know, I know like half of you on this call have already said yes and signed up.
I saw my little, I get a little notification that says, praise Jesus.
You got another person.
This is who it is.
And so I like do a little celebration and I pray over that person.
So how many of you have already gotten that?
And whenever you're ready and able, grab my link, keep it.
See us next week.
The week after you can literally join whenever I'm looking forward to seeing where this is
going to grow.
So thank you.
I love you all so much.
Like I've been so blessed by y'all.
Enjoy your time with Gabby and your businesses.
And I will see some of you on Monday.
Okay.
Bye.
Love y'all.
Thank you.