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Baton Rouge is here.
California, got that West Coast, highly represented here.
Lots of Cali in the house, lots of Canada here as well.
Do we have anyone else that's from a different country besides the states in Canada?
America and Canada.
Do we have any other?
We got Mexico here.
Thank you, Louisa.
Guadalajara.
Oh, Singapore is here.
Singapore is here.
New Zealand is here.
Come on.
My son is on his honeymoon right now.
He got married on Sunday, you guys.
This is our oldest child.
He'll be 31 this year.
He got married.
Um, all my, my daughters are already married and he is on his honeymoon in Fiji.
This is where his bride wanted to go all her life.
She said, I'm going to get married.
I'm going to go to Fiji for my honeymoon.
And they made that dream a reality.
And then they're going to New Zealand.
So that's what reminded me of that.
They're going to New Zealand afterwards.
Um, I guess it's close, maybe a close little flight from Fiji.
I don't know.
I haven't been to Fiji, but I'm excited for them.
They're going to be gone for two solid weeks, you guys.
And then they'll be back to business as usual, business as usual.
Thank you so much.
We're so excited for him.
This is his first girlfriend.
He's never had a girlfriend before.
In fact, he had his very first kiss at his wedding.
He had never kissed her before and he had never kissed anyone before.
This was his first kiss and their first kiss.
And it wasn't as awkward as I expected it to be.
It wasn't awkward at all.
Actually, it was very sweet.
It's very sweet.
And we're very excited for him.
Now, am I recommending having your first kiss at your wedding?
No, I'm not.
Recommending that at all.
And if that's something that you feel strongly about, then we'll support you in
that.
But they had really good chemistry, friends, very good, very good physical
chemistry, very good emotional chemistry, very good spiritual chemistry.
They aligned on so many things.
They were definitely very into each other.
So I wasn't worried that when they kissed each other at the wedding, they were
going to give sibling vibes.
I wasn't worried that it was going to turn into a sibling vibe.
I was okay.
I knew it was going to be okay because they were very, very attracted to each
other and have so much attraction in all kinds of different areas, conversational
chemistry, all the things.
And friends, don't read ahead.
In fact, you can't because we have you on a drip.
Is that right, Cheryl?
They haven't, they're getting access to week three today, right?
They haven't had access.
Okay.
That, no, I did not officiate.
I just was the mother of the groom, but I did have a very sweet dance with my son
and both of us cried the whole time.
Him and I just cried on each other the whole dance because I'm so proud of him
and I'm his biggest fan and I love him so much.
And all of you boy moms know what I'm talking about.
It hits different.
I have daughters that got married.
I'm excited for them.
I love them so much.
But when your son gets married, I don't know what it is, but it's a
different, it hits different.
And we, we had a big bawling baby session together and it was great.
All right.
Um, okay.
So you guys don't read ahead, but we're going to talk about
chemistry and compatibility.
That's going to be an important part of this book club.
Here's what I want for you.
So let's get started.
So welcome to modern dating sucks book club week two.
I'm your host, Jackie Dorman.
If you're just joining us this week, welcome.
It is okay that you are catching up.
All right.
If you have to watch and replay all the replay watchers, do not worry.
You can catch up.
Just make sure that you're doing your assignments.
Don't skip over the reading.
Make sure you're doing the reading.
You're answering the questions at the end of every chapter.
That's very important.
In fact, I want you to keep a modern dating sucks journal.
I don't have it in here, but there's a workbook that's going to be coming out.
That is a companion book to this book.
And you can order it and you can transfer all of your notes from this book club
into that notebook, into that journal.
And you can keep it and you can refer back to it this summer while you're out
there dating and hopefully mating.
And I don't mean when I say mating, I mean finding love and getting married.
Okay.
Um, so, but make sure that you are answering the recap questions.
The real talk, the real talk is an area where we're just telling you, Hey, the
real talk recap is where I, I, for people that don't have great reading
comprehension, which is a lot of people it's they're like, what did I just read?
I read it, but I don't know what I just read.
It's a synopsis of what you just read, but please don't just read it.
Don't just read.
The recap and nothing else.
Read the book, read the book.
It's a very easy read.
I write all of my books at a fifth grade level,
in my opinion.
You don't have to be smarter than a fifth grader
to read my books.
And why?
Because I know a lot of people don't have time to read.
Even if you love to read, you don't have time to read.
So let me know in the comments, are you loving the book?
Are you loving the book?
Is it easy to read?
People are telling me it is the best, most practical,
most helpful dating book they've ever read.
And I'm so excited to hear that.
That's exactly what I wanted.
I want it to be a field guide.
I want it to be something that you can literally refer back
to, to date differently and to have success.
Okay, people are loving it.
Easy read, easy read, great.
Okay, so those recap sections are not supposed to be
modern dating sucks for dummies.
They're not supposed to be just a synopsis of everything
so that you don't have to read it.
They're not supposed to be the crib notes.
They're not supposed to be the cliff notes.
I mean, they are cliff notes if we're getting technical,
but they're not supposed to be the cliff notes.
Okay.
And then the next section right after the real talk recap
is reflection questions.
This is to help you implement what you just read.
I don't believe in just reading.
I believe in taking action on what we read.
We have to integrate it into our lives.
We have to see how it applies to us.
Otherwise it's not gonna change us, is it?
It's not gonna do anything at all.
And so all of my books, if you haven't noticed,
have these kinds of elements in them
because I don't want you just to read.
I want you to retain and I want you to use the information.
And so I hope you're loving that,
but it's not gonna work for you if you don't do it.
Take the time, sit down and journal the answers
to those questions.
And then when that workbook comes out,
you can transfer that over into that workbook
and you can have it to keep.
Cool?
Awesome.
All right.
So I just wanted to welcome all of you that are new.
Put your hand up if this is the first live session
that you're joining us on.
Once again, it's okay.
As long as you do the replay from week one,
you will be fine.
There's all kinds of nuggets.
When we teach, especially when we're aligned
with Holy Spirit and where I'm teaching,
there's all kinds of little nuggets that come out,
little things that are said
that could be a huge game changer
for anyone who's listening.
There could be a word just for you.
There can be a share that's just for you,
that's gonna shift you, that's gonna change you.
I can't tell you how many times people have listened
to some teaching of mine,
whether it's in my last year single community
or it's on my social media or somewhere,
it's in person at a conference.
And they said, Jack, you said exactly what I needed to hear.
And why is that?
Because God knows who you are, He knows where you are,
He knows what you need and He knows how to get it to you.
And that's why it's important.
If you can't be here live, listen to the replay
because the very question that you've been asking God
could be answered in just some offhanded comment
that I make while I'm teaching.
Because I believe that I'm in the Spirit when I'm teaching
and I'm being led in the Spirit to release things
and to say things that are going to help you get unstuck.
This is a tipping point.
This book club is not a book club.
It is a transformational moment in your life,
a tipping point in your life to help you go from single
to happily partnered and married.
All right, all right, okay.
We're gonna get into the recaps,
the things that I wanna hit on.
You should have gone over for your homework for week two,
you should have gone over chapter three and chapter four.
Chapter three is about why the apps
were not created to get you married.
And you guys knew that that was true, didn't you?
You knew that these apps were set up against you.
They're a setup, aren't they?
They're working against us.
But guess what?
When God is in the mix, anything can work to our good.
Well, even what the enemy meant for evil
can turn around and work for our good.
And can I tell you, besides a few of the Christian apps,
I said a few of the Christian apps.
I know that a lot of you are Christian,
a lot of you are Christ followers and believers.
If you're not, you're still welcome here.
We are gonna get spiritual.
So hopefully you're a spiritual person
that believes that you're a spirit
that lives in a body that possesses a soul
because that is what you are.
And so you can't be out in these dating streets
with just your body in charge.
Your body cannot drive the bus, it can't.
Your spirit's gotta drive the bus
and your soul can get in the shotgun passenger seat
and your body can be on the bus somewhere.
It can't be in the front seat
and it can't call shotgun, all right?
It's gotta be on the bus.
We want chemistry, we want physical attraction.
Don't get scared.
It's all right.
You can be physically attracted.
You're gonna be physically attracted, but the way you're gonna be physically attracted is if your spirit and your soul have a yes in them.
If there's a yes, yes, then there's gonna be a yes.
Remember, I didn't just say your spirit.
I'm gonna get into this in later teachings, probably week three or four, but I'm just gonna hit this right now
because I think it's important. Your spirit can be aligned with a lot of different people
because you have the same spiritual beliefs. You have the same faith.
You're attracted to them spiritually because of what they believe and who they are, but your soul also has to have a yes.
What's the soul part of us? That's the heart part of us. That's the epicenter of our,
that's the master control of our mind, will, and emotions. If we have a yes over here, this means we have compatibility.
This means we have attraction, not just physical.
Mental attraction, emotional attraction,
spiritual attraction. Spirit can be aligned. People come to me all the time and they're like, Jackie, I want to meet someone. I'm like, okay.
Tell me, tell me your non-negotiables. We're gonna build that next week in your homework. What's your non-negotiable list?
And they'll say, oh, I don't care. I just want them to love Jesus. Uh-uh, friend. You don't just want them to love Jesus.
Yes, we want the spirit driving the bus, but the soul is in the shotgun and
the soul
wants more than just them loving Jesus. I'm going to tell you that right now. It wants some chemistry. It wants some compatibility.
It wants some shared common interests. It wants us going the right, wrong, the same direction,
wanting the same things in life.
There's some other things that you need. And once again, if the spirit says yes, and the soul says yes,
and the body is going to say yes. A
lot of people want the body to say yes first. The problem is, is the body's saying yes first, and the soul's like, oh, no,
no, no.
Hold on. Danger, danger.
Right? And you think that that's excitement, but really it's anxiety. And we're gonna get there later on during this book club.
So we don't want the both. We don't want the soul to have the only vote.
We don't want the body to have the only vote. We don't want the spirit to have the only vote.
We want yes, yes, and it's going to be a yes. All right. Okay. All right. So those dating apps
out there, they are all owned by the same group of people.
You guys listen to me. I know what I'm talking about. I've done the research. I've gone down the rabbit holes.
Doesn't matter what they say. It doesn't matter what the name of the app is.
It's all been bought up by the same group of people. Why? Because it's big business.
Dating apps are big business, and it's all about this. Follow the money, and you're gonna find the corruption.
Follow the money, and you're gonna find the corruption. Now, are there some little podunk apps that were created by
conscientious Christians or conscientious people that really want to help people? Yes.
Yes, there are. But those apps are usually really spammy and scammy because they don't have good algorithms.
They usually are pretty hokey and clunky to use because they don't have a lot of money behind them.
They don't have a good filtering system, so they're full of all kinds of crazy stuff.
But yes, those are not owned by the big
corporations, the big group of people, the big investors that own all the other ones.
But the ones that are owned by the big corporations, they have one thing in common.
They want your money, and they want to keep you on the apps. They don't want you to get married.
That's not their business model. Their business model is not to get you married.
Their business model is to keep you on the apps.
And so they got a group of engineers together to design dating apps, and they designed them
exactly the same way that
casinos are designed.
Now, some of you didn't know this until you read my book, and some of you knew it because you heard it somewhere else.
But I've known this for quite some time, and it's life-changing when you understand that these apps
have been built to keep you swiping to see if you can get a bigger, bigger, winner, winner, chicken dinner.
Big money, no whammies. Does anyone remember that show?
Big money, no whammies. That is what's happening here. If you've ever been to a casino,
you win a little bit on those slot machines. They make sure that you win $5 here and $10 here, $15 here.
Maybe they'll even let you win $200 over here because they know that most people, maybe not you, but most people, if they win,
not consistently,
sporadically, occasionally, they're going to keep trying to win bigger.
They're going to keep trying to win bigger.
They're going to keep on swiping. And this is why some of you, when you go off the apps because you have a love-hate
relationship with them, you're like, dang it, I hate the apps because you've been swiping for a while, and you haven't hit the jackpot.
And so you get off of them, but they're always kind of there in the back of your mind, like, okay, I'm out here.
I'm trying to meet people in the water. I'm trying to get a job. I'm trying to get a job.
Okay, I'm out here. I'm trying to meet people in the wild, but the apps are there.
And you almost feel anxious about, oh, you know, that's my only chance. That's my only shot. You guys, I've been...
casinos where people that work there have told me,
hey, yeah, see these people here on the slot machines?
They come here every single month on payday.
And I'm like, they do?
And they're like, yeah,
because they don't make enough money
to really live the life they wanna live.
So they're spending their bill money
trying to hit the big jackpot.
These are the same people that go and play
the super ball lotto, the whatever it's called.
What are they trying to do?
They're trying to get something better than what they have.
It's a mentality.
And that is what the engineers
that built every single dating app built it based on.
They based it on that.
Isn't that crazy?
One thing that I know about people,
and so let's go ahead and dive into
the first part of our recap for tonight.
One thing that I know about people
is that they're really not good at making decisions.
We're not good at making decisions.
And these silly apps, what do they do?
They give us an endless stream of decisions, don't they?
And really you have to make that decision pretty quickly.
Most people are not decisive
and they're not good at making even quick decisions.
A lot of people aren't good at making decisions at all.
Go ahead and put in the chat
if you're just really not that great of a decision maker,
you need time to process,
you're really not sure what you really wanna do,
especially when you're faced with a lot of options.
Like you're the person at the restaurant
that is just not, you're the last person to order.
You just really don't know what you want
if the menu's too big.
If the menu's too big, you just don't know.
Nope, just don't know.
Analysis paralysis, there's too many options.
You guys, I was in line at a place
called La La Land yesterday.
I have family in town, so I took them to Downtown Austin,
which is where I bought this great hat.
Do you love my hat?
Okay, I took them to Downtown Austin
and I took them to a place called La La Land,
which is a coffee matcha shop.
And it usually has a really long line.
And I was in this long line waiting for my matcha.
And I already know what I want
because I drink a lot of matcha, as you guys know.
I drink a lot of matcha, so I already know my order.
I know what I want.
But the menu at this place is big.
It has banana, nut matcha,
and it has strawberry fields matcha,
and it has this matcha and that matcha.
And then you can make it a latte or a matcha.
And then it has like five different clouds to choose from.
You can have the cold foam,
you can have the matcha cloud,
you can have the strawberry cloud,
you can have this cloud, you can have that cloud.
And I can see how someone who's not ready
to make a decision could be very, very confused
in this place.
But I'm not confused.
And I just wanna order my matcha and I wanna go.
And we're in line for a long time.
These precious girls in front of me,
they've been waiting just as long as me,
and they finally get up and they're right in front of me,
and they're standing in the way of me and my matcha.
And they don't know what they want.
They have no idea what they want.
They wanna read the menu.
They wanna read it again.
They wanna talk to each other.
They wanna have a fricking conference.
It's like, this is not a group project.
Just order your stinking matcha.
Just order it.
You guys, I think this might be a conspiracy
to teach me patience, because I promise you,
I got to the bank the other day
with two minutes before it closed,
and I did something I never do.
So don't come at me.
I never do this.
I've never done this before.
I parked in the handicap spot
because there was no parking spot open,
and the bank was gonna close in two minutes.
And I just needed to really quickly
transfer some money to my brother.
He needed it.
I needed to do it.
I ran in the bank.
There was a precious little old lady in front of me
who was counting out pennies to the teller.
Take me now, Jesus.
Take me now.
I was watching the parking spot,
just waiting for the five-oh to roll up
and give me a $5,000 ticket for parking
in this handicap spot.
And this little lady,
she was pulling out Ziploc baggies of pennies.
Not one, not two, three.
And she was counting them out.
And one of them, bless her heart,
put in her checking account.
I was about to give this lady a $20 bill
and let's call it a day.
Here, honey, just deposit this.
This is way more than the pennies you have,
and let's get out of here.
All right, so I really honestly think
that this is a conspiracy against me
with waiting behind people who are taking a long time.
But they didn't know what they want.
And I want you to be honest right now
and I want you to put in the chat,
say, that's me, raise your hand, give me a heart.
If you have been waiting for the waiter
to come back to the table,
or you've been waiting in line
and you've gotten up and it's your turn
and you still don't know what you want.
You still have not made a decision.
and about what you want.
Come on, don't lie.
Tell the truth, tell the truth.
Do you ever do that?
Are you the person?
And so how can we be expected to know what we want
in a spouse by looking at a profile picture?
And gentlemen, this is not to call you out
because you might not do this,
but a lot of men, especially over 40 on these dating apps,
this is what their picture looks like.
This is what it looks like right here.
And so how are we supposed to make a decision about you
based on whatever's going on here?
We can't, we can't.
Can't make a decision about it.
I don't know why men take selfies like that.
They're like in this.
My husband, who's over here being the peanut gallery,
said it's because men put their selfie camera here
and they take the picture here.
Gentlemen, get high, get high.
It makes you look thinner, it's good.
Get high, get right about here, right about here, okay?
All right, anyway, how are we expected to make a decision
based on this information?
And quickly too, and you know, in a lot of dating apps,
if you say no to that person, if you say no,
then they don't show you that person again,
or they don't show you that person again
for a really long time.
Has anyone accidentally hit the X?
Has anyone accidentally swiped left instead of right
and were like, no,
because they were an interesting person
and then you're like, oh no, I've lost them forever.
You guys, this is still slot machine mentality, right?
Because it's like, oh, I should have pushed that button
instead of that button.
I should have chose that machine instead of this machine.
Do you guys see where I'm going here?
I got my big water.
Do you see?
Yes, it's built on FOMO,
but they always let you win a little bit,
always let you win a little bit.
So you're always gonna get some sort of success
when it's like you matched.
That's the, you guys, just so you know,
that's the sevens coming up on the slot machine
or the cherries coming up on the slot machine.
When you swipe on someone and you immediately are like,
oh, they swiped on you too.
You matched.
Yay.
Who gets a little excited when you swipe on someone
who looks interesting and then you find out
they swiped on you when that little thing comes up.
It's like, you matched.
Anybody else?
You guys see how it's a slot machine, right?
You see what I'm talking about?
It's crazy, right?
And doesn't it kind of already set you up for failure
because when it does that, you matched,
it kind of is sending you a signal
that you just won something.
And maybe this is the worst human being in the entire world
that you just matched with.
But you now have this predisposition of,
oh, wow, I just won something.
Something good just happened.
I matched with someone.
I swiped on someone and they swiped on me.
And so you guys, it becomes a game.
It becomes like Tetris or Candy Crush
or whatever else that you're addicted to.
I've been watching those dumb little AI soap operas
that keep popping up on my cell phone.
And I have to watch the other episode
and I watch all the episodes
until I get to the one that's locked.
And then I can't watch anymore.
Why?
Because it's hitting our dopamine centers.
What's happening next?
And then what happens is, is it wants my money
if I wanna see what happens next.
And that's exactly what's happening to you
on the dating apps.
Oh, you wanna see who else swiped on you?
You're missing out.
There's a lot of people that swiped on you,
better people that swiped on you.
So you need the super, you need to supersize yourself.
You need the big whammy button, right?
Big money, no whammies.
You need the big money button, no whammy button.
And so they ask you to pay $5 or $10 and it all adds up.
Or some of them ask you to pay before you even get there.
Like eHarmony and places like that.
They want you to pay before you even get there.
Okay, yeah, they want you to go premium.
But the problem is, is the people
are not necessarily premium, are they?
Now, that all being said,
and this might hurt your feelings and I'm sorry if it does,
but this all being said,
70% of people over 40 that are getting married
are still meeting their person on some form of technology.
So that means that we can't throw it out the window.
We just have to beat it at its own game.
Am I right?
If it is a game to the people that created it
and they wanna get us hooked.
and addicted, then we have to beat them at their own game, don't we?
Guys get me? You believe me? Come on, respond in the chat. You guys read about my client Sandra.
It wasn't that she spent 11 hours on the dating app that week. It was that it didn't lead to one
freaking date. Guys, these are dating apps. They're not talking apps. They're not loitering apps.
They're dating apps. It's supposed to lead to a date and it's supposed to lead to a date quickly.
And if it doesn't lead to a date quickly, then what are we doing? So really what happened
when we were doing that inventory, guys, I say this in heart work all the time. I'm going to
say it now. You don't get what you expect. You get what you inspect. And we were doing an inspection
of our time and of our bandwidth and of our capacity in that group coaching session.
And she realized that she had been on the dating apps for 11 hours that week,
and it had not led to one significant intentional conversation that had led to any type of meetup.
So I want to see if you guys did a little inspection of your own online behavior,
and I want you to put in the chat. If you did this, the book talks about it,
but I don't know if you did it or not. How long you were using online,
whether that's looking at people's profiles on Instagram or Facebook or dating app
with no significant fruit. Two hours and 32 minutes. Not bad, Sandy. Not bad. Maybe one
hour. Not bad. 15 minutes. Great. Zero hours, four hours, 10 minutes a day. It's not very much.
You might need to up that a little bit. Three hours, five hours, two and a half hours, 45
minutes, one hour, too many, too many hours. Zero hours because I'm not on technology. Okay. Too
much, too much, too much, too much. A half hour, a half hour a day. Zero. Never been on a dating
app. Varied from week to week. One hour a day, 70 to 80 minutes. Okay. So before this book club is
over, we are going to talk about how to use these technology platforms, not just apps, but other
platforms to get good and not just good, but actual forward movement success. All right. Not
just, okay, I match with someone. We had an intentional conversation and I got a date,
not just to get a date, but to get a date with the type of people that could lead to marriage.
We're going to talk about that. But before we talk about that, I'm going to ask you to do something
and I can't force you to do it. And you're on the honor system because I'm never going to know if
you did it or not. Only you're going to know. I'm going to ask you to go on a dating app sabbatical
until the end of the book club. I'm going to ask you to go on a dating app sabbatical. I'm going
to ask you to go on a technology sabbatical in the area of looking for someone to love or to love
you. Okay. That means you're going to do it for three more weeks after this week, because we have
three more weeks left. Now, does that mean that you don't have, you can't go on any dates during
this? No, I'm talking about looking for love on dating apps or other platforms that are technology
platforms. And why is this? Because I believe at the end of five weeks, you're going to be a
different person. Who's very clear and very confident about what you want. And you'll be
able to weed out what you don't want really quickly. And because of that, you can have
success on these platforms, you know, playing their, their game against them in casinos.
The house always wins. You guys, it might look like people are winning, but they're not the
house always wins because the people that even win the other people are not winning. And that is,
you know, basically the bottom line is that they're always coming out on top.
Same with these dating apps. Yeah. Some people meet, they get married, but the amount of people
that get frustrated, the amount of people that get into bad situations, the amount of people that
really just have that empty, hollow feeling in their lives because of this technology,
those people are more than the people that are having success. And so it's really important
that we not just, you know, beat them at their own game, but that we have success because we're
able to, to understand how to use this for our benefit. Kind of like Romans 8, 28, God works all
things to our good. Well, the teaching during this five weeks is going to work dating apps,
even to your good, even dating apps are going to work to your good. And it's going to be great.
All right, all right, all right.
So I want a yes from everyone who agrees
that they're gonna go on a dating app sabbatical
or a technology dating sabbatical.
Let's see it in the chat.
I'm not forcing you.
Don't say yes if you're not gonna do it.
Okay, wait, who's this person?
Sarah said yes, but it'll be hard.
No, it won't be hard.
If you think it's gonna be hard to go off a dating app
for three weeks, then you need to ask yourself why.
Do you think that that's your only chance at love?
Are you outsourcing your love life to the algorithm?
Is that what you're doing?
Are you anxious attacher?
Are you someone who just, you know, you need attention.
You know, you're kind of addicted to the dopamine of,
you matched, you matched, you matched.
This person likes me.
They like me.
They really like me.
No, they don't.
Do you guys, let me give you these statistics, you guys.
Women, gentlemen, this is important.
Listen up, because I don't think that you're necessarily men like this,
but this is a statistic that's important.
Women, okay, on dating apps, they swipe on less than 15% of the profiles that they see.
Did you hear me?
Why is that?
Because women are already being a lot more intentional than men.
Men that are on dating apps, not all men, not all men that are on dating apps,
but enough men to make this statistic an actual statistic.
They swipe on 70% of the profiles that they see.
Can anyone tell me why they think that might be?
Are men less picky than women?
Are men less intentional than women?
And remember, this is a specific type of man,
but there's enough of these type of men on the dating apps that this has become a statistic.
People are saying they swipe on looks, men are visual.
They want options.
They're playing the odds.
Cindy, we're going to keep your answer for a minute from now.
They're playing the odds.
You guys, I know we've been told that men are more visual,
but do we really believe they're more visual?
Because are you visual ladies?
Please, please tell me in the comments of whether or not you're visual.
All right.
If you're, if you're, if you're seeing impaired, then that's okay.
But for all of you that have your sight, are you visual?
I don't know where this came from.
Oh, well, men are just visual.
They're more visual than women.
No, they're not.
What are we talking about?
That's not true.
In fact, women have more color cones in their eyes.
We have more color cones, which means that we see things more vibrantly even than men
do.
We're very visual, very visual.
We judge a lot of things by what we see.
Okay.
So a couple of you's answers put together make up the answer that I'm looking for.
Men want more options.
This statistic is based on the kind of men that are on dating apps that want more options
or swiping on more women, starting more conversations with more women because they are there.
For a transactional purpose, meaning that they're looking for some kind of physical
transaction.
Not necessarily sex, but something like that.
All right.
Does that mean that there aren't good guys on apps?
No.
Does that mean that there aren't men that are actually looking for relationships on
apps?
No, it doesn't mean that.
Does it mean that the majority of men on dating apps are not looking for that?
Yes, it does mean that.
The majority.
It does not mean that there aren't men because that means that there's at least 30% of the
men on dating apps that are looking for relationships.
And you guys, ladies, I just want to remind you of this.
You only need one.
Okay.
I mean, even if you're looking to become a second or third wife polygamist, you still
only need one.
That's a joke.
I'm not.
right in and say, Jackie is in favor of polygamy.
True story. When I first started out,
when I first started out six years ago, helping women,
helping men and women get married,
I actually almost partnered with someone who had this big community for
singles, but God's like, no, like I felt like something was off.
I felt like we weren't aligned.
And then something happened that kind of proved that to me.
And now that same person,
that same person is a polygamist.
You guys, we out here dodging bullets all over the place.
You got to stop being self-defended and start being God defended.
God knows how to protect you. Okay.
I could have publicly partnered my corporation,
my organization with someone who now is out here
trying to teach people why plural marriage is the
only biblical marriage. God help us.
I dodged that bullet and you guys have dodged a lot of bullets too. All right.
So do not be afraid to be on the dating apps thinking that
you're going to get hit with a bullet because the kind of teaching we're going to
do for the rest of this book club is going to help you be there for the right
reasons with the right heart in the right place at the right time.
All right.
All right. All right. All right. All right.
You guys saw that there's a study, a lot of you,
how many of you had heard about the jam study before I wrote about it in my
book? How many of you had heard about the study from 2000,
26 years ago?
It's really about the paradox of choice and how us humans do with choice.
How many of you had heard about that? Anyone?
I know it's very interesting, isn't it? Jelly,
jelly jam. Some of you don't even like jam.
Some of you don't even like jelly,
but what they did for those of you that only read the cliff notes and
didn't actually read the book, bless your heart.
For those of you that didn't read it, they did a
test, two grocery stores. Oh no, actually one grocery store,
two different aisles. They set up two different places.
We'll call them jam stations. Okay.
One of those jam stations had, I think it was
six flavors. It was six flavors.
One jam tasting station had six flavors and the other had 24
flavors. You guys ever been to Baskin Robbins?
Unless you really know what you like, you know what you like. And here,
here's the problem with knowing what you like. Some of you are like me.
I don't know where my, my picture went. My, my video is gone.
I don't know what happened to it.
Hold on one sec.
No idea where I went.
This camera probably went dead.
Okay. Some of you are like me. I see myself over here, so that's okay.
And when you go into Baskin Robbins, you order the same thing every time.
I get mint chocolate chip. And if I'm going to get two scoops,
I get coffee, Jamocha and mint chocolate chip.
Have I tasted the other 48 flavors? Is Baskin Robbins 48?
How many flavors is Baskin Robbins? Put it in the chat. If you know.
31. Okay. 48. I haven't been there in a while. 31 flavors.
Have I tasted the other 29 flavors?
I'm glad you asked. No, I have not. I have not tasted them.
There's some of them that just by the name, I know that I, I, I,
I don't think that I would like them.
I'm glad you asked. No, I have not. I have not tasted them.
There's some of them that just by the name, I know that I, I, I,
I don't think that I would like them. I'm not a real Sherbert fan.
So the ones that are Sherbert, I don't think that I would like, um,
the ones that are rainbow flavored,
the ones that have like stuff in them like sprinkles and stuff.
I don't think that I would like that.
And aren't we kind of like that in life?
Some of you have a real hard time making a choice.
Like you would go to that jam station with 24 flavors and you would know what
to do. Okay. Boysenberry. That's good.
And Rambleberry and the Brambleberry and this, and you'd be all messed up.
Okay.
But some of us, we would just be like, give me the peach jam. And they're like,
well, do you want to try it? No, I like peaches.
I like peaches and I like jam. So I like peach jam. Okay.
That's what you would do.
You are hurting yourselves because you know, you might like the brambleberry you might like it
And so this is this is important it's an important coaching moment for all of you that don't try anything new
And so your assignment this week listen up is to try something new
I don't care what it is, but I want you to post about it in the group
on the app
Or in the Facebook group if you joined that I want you to post whatever it is that you tried new and tell me whether
You like it or not
Okay, and don't just try a regular chocolate chip instead of mint chocolate chip, you know
Live a little live a little stretch yourself and it doesn't even have to be ice cream
Doesn't have to be ice cream at all
Anything new try something new something that you're not sure that you would like
Because we have to expand our palates it doesn't have to be food. It could just be some kind of new activity as well
We got to expand we're gonna expand during these five weeks we got to branch out
Some of you
Right now if you are standing right in front of your spirit mate
You would miss the love that's right in front of you because it's not gonna show up in a package that you're expecting
And I don't mean the way they look I just mean what you have thought about your love story
Your preconceived ideas, maybe you're running that fairy tale script
Maybe you're running one of the other scripts your independent script, whatever the script is
You're gonna miss the love that's right in front of you because it's not going to show up in a familiar package
I'm gonna tell you right now. Some of you are gonna marry an interracial marriage. You're gonna have an interracial marriage
You're gonna have an interracial marriage
What race I don't know what culture I don't know, but God has something
Different for you than what you grew up with
Your future spouse represents different skin color possibly different food
culture possibly
different language possibly
And it's my job as your coach and as your mentor
And as your spiritual mentor during this book club to get you ready to be able to receive that
I'm not saying you're not gonna be shocked, but you're just gonna be really happy
If you let yourself be happy
I had a client once and see this is where Holy Spirit starts leading us in all different directions
But I really feel like I need to say this
I had a client once who was dating a guy and
She was American white Caucasian from the land of Caucus. All right
That's a joke. If you don't get it, you don't get it. That's all right. And if you know, you know
and
He was Indian and he was decidedly Indian and he was from India
he had lived in the States for a long time since he was young, but he was Indian and he looked Indian because he was
Indian and
they were dating and she really liked him and they had so much in common and they met in my community actually and all was
good and well and
It just wasn't progressing. It wasn't moving forward and I asked her I said, hey, why isn't this moving forward?
I was like, is he not marriage-minded and she said oh, no, he is
He actually already asked me if you know
If I was marriage-minded with him like that
He told me he was marriage-minded and he wanted to know if I you know
Was also on board with this progressing to marriage
She said and I froze and the reason why I froze was because you know
My father would never approve of me marrying someone with dark skin
he would never approve of me marrying an Indian man, and I was like
Because she was old enough to know better she was in her 60s and I said
Is your daddy still alive and she said no and I was like, what are we talking about right now?
What what do you mean your dad won't approve
Your daddy ain't here. He doesn't get a vote
He didn't get a vote anyway, but he really doesn't get a vote now because he's not alive on the earth
And so it literally
Was what she knew her father would think of it that had her paralyzed in real life in real time
And some of you are like that's silly that would never happen to me
Don't tell me that because I've seen all kinds of things happen to people that they don't think can happen to them
And so it's my job to get you ready for whatever's coming
Some of you are going to move you said that your non-negotiable was that you were never going to move away from where you live
Now and when we get to this teaching in week three or four
You're gonna see that that is not a non-negotiable because we're gonna do a lot of work around non-negotiable
So some of you are moving and you don't know it yet.
Some of you are marrying people that you never expected to marry.
Some of you are gonna be bonus moms when you said you would never marry a divorced person that had children.
Some of you are gonna be bonus dads that said that your deal-breaker was a woman with kids and guess what?
Your future wife has kids already. Bless the Lord.
All right.
So I'm just gonna tell you right now,
you need to be willing to be made willing in God's day of power. And when is God's day of power? Right now.
Right now.
The only reason that we're here and the only reason that I do what I do and the only reason I wrote these books and
the only reason I'm teaching you now is because God asked me to help his single sons and daughters get married for one reason and
one reason only. Because we need to be partnered for what's coming next.
What's coming next, Jackie? I have no idea. He didn't give me that information.
He just told me that this was the season,
this was the time frame that his single sons and daughters would step into partnership because two is better than one and that's what we're
doing here. So get ready to lay down whatever your objections are and let's get moving forward.
So six flavors, 24 flavors, which stand do you think sold the most jam? The one with the less amount of options.
The least amount of options was the place where people made better and quicker decisions.
And so dating apps with all the options, what do you think's happening here? People are not making quick decisions.
They're not making good decisions because they're confused. And every time they finally do make a decision,
they're worried about the other 23 jams that they didn't choose because maybe they would have liked that better.
And for the people that always go to the same jam, they always go to the same guy that's over six feet tall with dark hair.
They always go to the same girl with the athletic build and blonde hair and blue eyes.
They always go to the same jam not knowing that the better match for them would have been the jam that looked different than their type.
Do you guys follow me? I'm not talking about jam.
All right. I hope that you're following me.
You guys, dating apps caused a few problems that have never been caused before.
Ghosting is not a character flaw of people.
It's an epidemic that was created by an anonymous system with zero social accountability.
Zero social accountability.
Do you think that you would just literally stop talking to someone that you're supposed to be romantically involved with
if you guys were both part of the same community, same friend group,
same church,
same workplace?
No, and you want to know why you wouldn't do something like that? Because people would hold you accountable to that.
People would ask you, what are you doing? People would tell you that you were rude. People would tell you that that was unkind.
People would tell you that you need to grow up because mature people don't do things like that. That's what would happen.
But dating apps, we're dating in the dark. We're dating in the dark. We're keeping things private in a bad way.
We have zero accountability. We're meeting strangers on the internet.
And that is, so ghosting is not just a character flaw. It is, it happens because people can.
People can do it.
Now, does everyone deserve an exit speech when you don't want to talk to them anymore? No.
Do you have to give them a PowerPoint presentation about why you're not a good match? No.
But you can at least
say goodbye unless they do something offensive and crude and then you can just, you know, bless them and block them.
Gentlemen, you too.
A girl sends you a booby pic, you can just bless her and block her.
You don't have to tell her why that's wrong and how she should have more respect for herself.
Well, we're always talking about the penis pics.
We should probably get a booty, a booby pic or a booty pic in there for the guys.
Because it's not like it doesn't happen because it does.
There are girls that do that kind of stuff.
They have OnlyFans accounts and things and they're on dating apps trying to attract customers.
It's true. It's real. Or they think that men just like them for their bodies.
And so if they like you and they want you to like them back, then they're gonna do something like that. Bottom line is,
is that it does happen.
And so you can bless them and block them. You don't need to preach to them.
You don't need to try to convert them to your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. You can just move on.
But at the same time,
you should always give someone a kind response if you know, it's not a match. Hey,
thanks for matching with me. I've enjoyed the couple conversations we've had, but I see that, you know, we have some
deal breakers or some incompatibilities already.
And so I just, I hope you find what you're looking for and we can give you some scripts if you're really bad at this.
But you should always do that. You don't have to go someone. You don't have to just stop talking to them.
Especially if you've had two or three conversations with them.
Now if all you've ever said is, hey, hey.
How's your day? How's your day?
You don't need to give them a,
we're not compatible.
It's only if you've actually had
conversations with each other
that you want to go ahead and say that.
Remember, by the end of this five weeks,
you're going to know really quickly
who's compatible and who's not.
You're going to have laser focus,
and that's what's going to help you be successful.
You guys. The comparison trap is rigged.
These dating apps are full of people and
their filters and people trying to put
their best foot forward and people saying
things about themselves that are not
true or things that they don't even mean.
Lying about their age,
lying about their height,
talking about what they think is going to make
them the most favorable candidate,
applying for the job.
We've all embellished
ourselves a little bit on our resumes, haven't we?
Haven't we embellished ourselves?
Back in the day, you know that
you weren't a Windows expert, you know Windows.
You knew a couple of shortcuts,
maybe you could push a few buttons,
but you probably couldn't type 200 words a minute.
I mean, come on.
All right. We've embellished a little here and there.
That's what people do because these are
kind of dating resumes, aren't they?
We don't need to apply for the job anymore.
We're not going to be doing that as we go forward.
Okay. All right.
Then if you do find someone on
these apps that you're actually interested in,
a lot of times people are just like rushing in really quickly.
Your pacing isn't good,
you're sharing too much too quick,
you're trying to create emotional chemistry,
and then by the time you see the person in real life,
you're not even interested in them.
So we'll talk about that.
We'll talk about long distance.
We'll talk about all of that when we get
to chemistry and compatibility.
Right. So I want to talk a little bit
about the village that we lost.
This is chapter four.
What did you guys think of this?
What did you guys think about Dana and Marcus's story?
What did you think about connecting the dots?
That is really the thesis of this entire book,
is to help us bring back our villages.
Did you guys love it?
The six degrees of separation in your love life,
is that not powerful?
It's powerful.
And you guys have seen it as a matchmaker.
Every time anyone finds someone,
anytime anyone's matched or anytime anyone meets someone,
because they meet them in our community
or in our extended community,
when we play the tapes back,
we always see that they were already connected.
They were already connected
within six degrees of separation.
That means somebody knows somebody
that knows somebody that knows your spirit mate.
Already right now, somebody that you know
is already connected to the person
that you're going to marry someday.
I've never seen it.
I've never seen anyone marry a stranger.
Yeah, they didn't know them,
but someone they knew, knew them.
Or someone they knew, knew someone who knew them.
Every single time.
Every single time, friends.
I've never seen it not be true.
Okay?
Does that make you feel excited?
I feel like that should make you feel hopeful.
Put in the chat if that makes you feel hopeful.
Okay.
Now, I went into the app
and I answered all of your questions.
Everyone who had a question there that I could see,
I answered your questions.
Some of you are asking me dating questions.
You're not even asking me questions based on the content,
but that's okay.
I still answered them.
I answered the questions that I saw also in the Facebook.
I'll go through tonight and make sure I didn't miss any,
because I'm giving you coaching, guys,
not just here, but there as well.
And that's why I want you to make sure
whatever new thing you try,
make sure you put it in the app or in the Facebook community
because I want to see it.
But a lot of you, I saw you said that
when you got to chapter four,
you felt a little bit sad
because you don't have a dating advisory committee.
You can't figure out who would be on that,
in that circle, that dating advisory circle.
You don't have that circle in your life.
And so that is going to be the theme of tonight's breakout.
I'm about to give you your dating advisory circle.
I'm about to give them to you, all right?
Now, if you have some in your life already, that's great.
But whoever you get into your circle with tonight,
I want to make sure that you exchange phone numbers,
that you get into each other's lives,
have a phone call, talk to each other.
If you live near enough to get together in person,
wonderful, amazing.
But the whole important part of your advisory circle
are people that have the same teaching as you,
have the same foundation as you.
They know what you need, know what you want,
because you've allowed them to get to know you.
Now, don't worry.
We're going to do some work later on in the book club
where you're going to have exactly what you need
to give them about what your non-negotiables are,
what are your deal breakers, what are your preferences?
We're going to do that work a little bit later.
So you'll have that to give to them
Right now we just need to find them. And so you can add these few people to what you already have and
You know and or if you meet someone else in here, you can do it, you know as well
But I want to give you a chance to get to know each other
So what you're gonna do is is you're gonna get into this breakout. You're gonna share your scripts with each other
What were the scripts that came up? You can share how many hours you found out you've been on dating apps
All right, you can share your biggest aha from the book so far whatever you want
You just need to get to know each other and find out what each other's names are on Facebook or other forms of social media
So that you can connect with each other outside of this book club. Okay. All right
All right, your cat does not count and she cannot match make you
Can't match make you
Some of you all literally this book club is going to save you from becoming the cat man or lady
Some of you are gonna match make each other that's gonna happen. All right, let's go. All right, I'm gonna create the breakout rooms
I'm going to include our co-host Cheryl go young in our breakouts because she is also single and ready to mingle and so I'm gonna
Include her so she can get her advisory
Circle going as well
Make sure that you also share your name your age your state your country all the things. Okay. All right
I'm gonna put three to four people in a room
Some of you are gonna have guys in your room guys
You're definitely gonna have women in your room women make great wing woman great wing wing women. It's gonna be great. All right
we have a hundred and
52 folks here tonight with us right now
If you're watching this and replay do not fear
I will put up a post in the group that allows you to find some advisory circle members as well. So don't you worry now?
Don't you worry baby? I got you
All right. I
Think that that it's good
You
I'm just waiting for it to shift. Okay, there it is
There we go, all right. Bye guys have fun in your groups
Oh
I got kicked out of room 13. I'm so sorry. All right Audra. Hold on one second
I'm gonna find you
Audra
Move to 13. Yep
Huh says there is no room 13. Oh well that I had it wrong
Well, I'll put me anywhere. I'm gonna what's your favorite number? Oh
great, um
What a decision
Too many decisions
I don't know. I'm starting to sweat 33. How about 33? Okay, hold on
All right, here we go
I don't think I'm in a room either
Where are you? Who are you? Oh, you're Debbie. Okay. My name is Debbie. Sorry. I'm driving in my car. Oh, you're in your car
Oh, that's probably why okay. Oh
We have okay. Hold on a second Debbie. I'm gonna try but it may or may not do it. So let's just see. Okay
Don't worry guys. Yeah, I got you. All right, Debbie. I'm a see if it'll put you in there
I
See y'all hold on a second. I'm getting there
Nancy, I'm about to put you in a room.
You got to hit that yes button.
You have to hit the button that says, yes, take me to the room.
Okay, all right, Gina, you're up.
Well, I got booted out of room nine.
Okay, I'm putting you back.
Oh, thanks, Jackie.
Yep.
Okay, all right, for those of you that are still in here, we have, if you could just
come on camera, we have Pamela, Manuela, Gina, if you guys could just come on camera and
be each other's advisory circle, because if for some reason your internet's not letting
you join a breakout room.
So just come on camera here, Pamela on camera, Gina, and then I don't know this person's
name, Jay, Jay, I don't even know how to say this because I don't sound things out well.
So come on camera and you guys could go ahead and have a conversation right here.
This will not be part of the replay.
This part gets cut out anyway, so don't worry about that.
And you guys can go ahead and be each other's advisory circle.
Are you guys here?
Pamela, Gina?
All right, I don't know if anyone's here, Manuela, so I'm going to try to put you in
a room.
So let's see if it works.
Hit the yes button to go to the room.
Hit the...
Okay.
All right.
Okay, Pamela, I see your message.
Can you talk?
I'm trying to help you on my side.
This is something with your Zoom, just so you know, so we'll have to figure that out.
I'm going to try to move you into a room and see if it helps.
Marsha, go ahead and hit yes.
You
Grace what room did you get kicked out of?
Grace can you hear me?
You
Can you just type in the chat which room did you get kicked out of?
Did you get kicked out of a room
Okay, sounds good
You
Okay, everybody we're going to wrap up in about 60 seconds so go ahead and finish up and we're going to close the rooms
You
Okay, everybody
If you could just end your session and come
Back into the group session. It's not allowing me to close the rooms. So just come on. Go ahead and head on back.
All right, here we go.
All right, we're going to wrap up now.
I'm just waiting. All the rooms are closing in 42 seconds.
Everyone's coming out.
All the breakout rooms will be closed in 32 seconds.
You guys have fun tonight?
Yes, I did.
Jackie, do you?
Can I talk?
Can I ask a question?
I don't know.
May I?
Are our adult children, should they be in the circle or not? What's your take?
I mean, if they really know you and they're reliable and you don't mind sharing your deepest, darkest secrets and hearts and wants and desires with them, I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all.
Gail asked a good question, so I'm just going to go over quickly over the criteria.
Your advisors, they must meet all four of these things in order to become part of your advisory circle.
They have to know you well, not just the highlight reel of you, not just the ideal self, but the real self.
And they have to be, and this is where your adult kids may not feel at liberty to kind of call you out.
The people in your advisory circle have to be able to call you out.
They have to be people that you can take criticism from, constructive criticism and feedback from.
They have to be someone that you would take seriously if they said to you, hey, I don't think that's a healthy relationship, or I saw some yellow flags here, or even I saw a red flag here with this person that you're dating or talking to.
They have to be people that are invested in seeing you successful in your life.
No one who's jealous of you, no frenemies in this circle.
Also, no negative Nellies in this circle, people that haven't done the heart work.
They don't belong here either, because guess what?
They're going to see a devil behind every bush in your dating life, aren't they?
They're going to always be trying to tell you about what's wrong with someone.
They're always going to be seeing red flags, and so if they're not healthy, then they shouldn't be part of this circle either.
Now, if they're happily married, that's even better for them to be part of the circle.
Married people make the best matchmakers, in my opinion.
So the more married folks you can get in your advisory circle that are social, you want extroverts in your advisory circle, or at least people that have meaningful friendships and relationships, people that know a lot of people.
Those are the kind of people you know.
If you have someone in your advisory circle that just knows their cat, they're not going to be able to help you very much.
No offense to that person, but you need people that know people.
That's the whole point.
And you don't want people in your advisory circle that know all the same people as you, because you already know those people.
So you need people that have different circles of influence than you do.
People that are honest with you.
They're not just kind.
They don't just tell you what you want to hear.
They're honest with you.
They have networks that are different from yours.
They know you well.
They're able to be honest with you.
They have different networks than yours, and you trust them enough to be vulnerable with them.
I'm trying to give you guys some community and some friends in here in case you don't have any, but if you met anyone in this breakout room,
room and it's not really, it's not really a click, like you don't really, you didn't
like their energy.
You didn't like their vibe.
You don't have to make them part of your advisory circle.
You don't have to give them your phone number and you don't have to let them into your inner
circle.
Okay.
I'm just trying to help you because too many of you said that you don't know anyone and
that you don't have any friends.
And that's part of the reason why you're single.
Good people know good people.
And so it's time for you to meet some good people and, and get, and get to know them.
Okay.
All right.
So we're going to talk about, uh, what you're going to give them to match you on or to be
looking out for you.
You guys, I just heard from one of my longtime students who got matched by another success
story here in my last year, single community.
And the reason why is because I had a Christmas card challenge this, this, uh, winter in December.
I made it a Christmas card template.
And instead of saying Merry Christmas, I had them use it as their dating resume and to
put it up.
And this client took that challenge.
And one of my other students saw their card and said, Hey, my husband's coworker would
be perfect for you.
And guess what?
They're getting married now.
All right.
So once again, you need a circle, you need friends, you need people that care about your
love life.
It's really important.
So raise your hand if you're not part of my last year, single community, you used to
be or not.
Now you never have been.
You're part of the book club, but you're not part of the last year, single community.
Raise your hand.
Let me see all those hands right now.
Get them up.
There's 13 hands up.
14.
Keep going.
Give me a few more seconds to get all your hands up.
We're about to stop.
For those of you that are what, when it's going to be over, it's going to be over in
the next nine minutes.
Okay.
Hands are still going up.
People are getting their hands up pretty slow.
The question Chrissy was, if you're not part of last year, single community, you're just
in the book club.
If you're not part of my membership community for singles, put your hand up.
Okay.
Somewhere around 21 of the 154 people in here.
Remember you have an opportunity to join last year, single for $37 at the end of the book
club.
You can go ahead and jump in now if you want to.
All you have to do is, I think there's a link for you to join that.
If not, you can just email us at admin at JackieDorman.com.
If you're ready to jump in now, once again, it won't be overwhelmed to be in the community
and also be in the book club because most of the people in the book club are in the
community.
I want you to have an advisory circle.
I want you to know people that care about your love life.
I want you to have people that clap when you win.
You need to have this in your life because if you don't have this in your life, then
is part of the reason why you're single because the six degrees of separation is real.
If you don't have six people to be six degrees separated with, then that's a problem.
We've got to get out of isolation and get into community.
Community based matchmaking is God's way of matchmaking.
It's God's plan for your love life.
It's been the way for your love life since the beginning of time and we've got to bring
it back.
We're bringing back the village.
That's what this week's teaching was all about.
I hope you met someone cool.
If you have met even one person in your group that you feel like you could be tight and
friends with and you could be confidants with and you could share with and you could help
each other, um, pray for each other, then that's a success for today.
I will also put a post up in the app and also in the Facebook group so that people can find
each other there as well.
Okay.
All right.
Thank you so much for joining me tonight.
Your homework is to try something new and to report back in the app or in the Facebook
group.
Tell us what it is.
Also I want you to tell me who's in your advisory circle.
Who is in your advisory circle?
Create a post about that.
Who meets these four criteria in your life?
They know you well, they're able to be honest with you.
You can be vulnerable with them and they have different networks than you.
Who meets that criteria?
If you haven't asked them to be part of your advisory circle, then ask them this week and
go ahead.
The, the new homework is up.
The new reading assignments up, everything's up in the app and I'll see you on the flip
side.
All right.
See you soon.
Bye everybody.
Thank you, Jackie.
Bye.
Thank you.
Have a good week.
I do love the hat, Jackie.
Yes.
So cute.
Have a good week, everybody.
Have a good week.
Bye.
Thank you, Jackie.
Thank you.