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All right, welcome, everyone, to Supernatural Saturday.

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I know we have some new people joining us, so welcome.

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If you wonder what Supernatural Saturday is all about, it is the one session a week where

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we gather together, regardless of what phase you are in in the program, we all come together

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on Saturdays to look to the Lord to see what's the current prophetic reality of heaven.

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What is God doing?

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What's he up to?

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In the life of humanity, what's he up to in our lives?

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And so this is what we do on Saturdays, and it's always a really good time.

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I always learn a lot.

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Do you guys always learn a lot?

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There's always a lot of things that happen here that are very encouraging, very corrective

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in a good way.

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God always puts us back on course, so to speak, and so I love that.

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In fact, you guys, just recently, I've had several different people say to me, hey, God

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just wants you to know that you're on the right track.

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God just wants you to know that you're on the right track, and that meant a lot to me.

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Several different people, unbeknownst to each other, telling me that God says I'm on the

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right track, and I just assumed that had something to do with the railroad.

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You know, I'm an etymology girl.

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I really like the origin of words.

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Words mean a lot to me, and that's why God is very specific when He talks to me, because

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He's created me in such a way that I love words, which is interesting, because I had

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dyslexia when I was a child.

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I feel like I've healed from a lot of it, but when I was little, I had a really hard

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time with words and with reading.

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I couldn't learn to read the way that children learn to read phonetically, so in first grade,

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my teacher told my mom that I was probably mentally retarded, true story, because I could

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not phonetically read or understand how to read the way that they were teaching kids

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back then in the, let's see, first grade, like early 80s.

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My mom got me a tutor.

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Our next door neighbor was a retired school teacher, and I started going over her house

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after school, and she taught me to sight read, so meaning that she basically utilized

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my memory.

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You know, children have great memories.

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If you don't think they have great memories, just promise them something and then don't

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deliver it, and then you will see very well that a child will remember for the next ten

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years that you did not take them to get ice cream that day.

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They'll actually continue to remind you of it too, just so you know, but she used something

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that I had, an asset that I had, which was I had an amazing memory because I'm a child,

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and she began to show me flashcards of words and then just tell me what the word was.

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This is what the word dog looks like.

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This is what the word, you know, hanger looks like.

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This is what the word balloon looks like.

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She just showed me the words, and eventually what happened was, is I started recognizing

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those words, and we'd read these reader books together, and when I didn't recognize a word,

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she would just tell me what it is, and eventually I started reading, and I became a voracious

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reader, and now to this day, if I come across a word that I have never seen before and no

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one has told me what the word is, I still have a really hard time sounding it out, and

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that's why I butcher a lot of your names, because I just don't know how to say your

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names.

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I know, you know, I know letters and I know sounds now because I'm 51 years old, but yeah,

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it's still a hard thing.

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So bottom line is, is that, you know, things change.

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Things happen.

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God is with us.

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All the thoughts.

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All the things.

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Okay.

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So let's move forward into today's Supernatural Saturday.

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I have no idea why I was even telling you that story because I don't remember.

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My memory is not as good as it used to be, but we're going to go ahead and head into

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the amazing and beautiful word that God has for us.

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Oh, right.

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On the right track.

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So God said, I'm on the right track, and I was like, you know, I think that's about like

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being on the railroad and, you know, not being on a track where another train is coming,

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but I actually looked up the origin of that saying, and that just, it had to do with hunting.

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It had to do with being on the trail of something.

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You know what I'm saying?

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You know, on the trail of something, like hunting something.

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So I thought that was really interesting being on the right track, on the right trail.

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And so God is basically saying to us, Hey, you got the scent of what I have for you.

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You got the scent.

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You got it.

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continue to follow the scent, continue to follow the trail,

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continue to follow the track

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because you're headed the right direction.

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You're gonna get the prize kind of thing.

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I like that better than the train analogy, right?

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Because there's a prize, you're on the right,

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you know, you're going the right direction

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to find the pot of gold, you know, whatever it is.

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You're headed the right direction and I like that.

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But you guys, I would be lying if I told you

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that the trail hasn't all of a sudden gotten kind of rocky.

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Anybody else?

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Not that it was ever that smooth, if I'm being honest.

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You know, not that it's ever been that smooth.

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And you guys, here's the thing that we do

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and we should not do.

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We look at other people's trails

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through their highlight reels, right?

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I'm sure that there are people out there

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that don't know me.

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They don't get on a Supernatural Saturday call with me.

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They just look at my Instagram.

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They see my smile and pearly whites on there

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and they're like, oh, she's got such a good and easy life.

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Oh my God, God's so good to her.

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Not that he isn't, but like, you know,

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they just think that my life's all rainbows and butterflies

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and ascending the mountain, mountaintop experiences.

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Have you ever seen those goats on the side of the mountain

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and they're standing on like a little tiny piece of rock

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and you're like, how'd that goat get up there?

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What are these goats even doing?

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Are they showing off?

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Like, what's going on with these goats?

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And you're like, how, how in the world

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are they scaling this cliff, these goats?

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It looks like they're Velcroed to the side of a mountain.

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Yeah, I feel like the goat a lot.

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You know, and in fact, I have to be honest with you.

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Every time someone calls someone the goat,

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like the greatest of all time, it's an acronym, G-O-A-T.

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Every time anyone, people call me that.

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Oh, Jackie, you're the goat.

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And I'm like, yep, I'm the goat on the side of the mountain

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in the treacherous place trying to climb.

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You know, that's what I always think of.

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But, you know, we look at other people's lives

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and we are tempted to believe that they don't have

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the kind of problems that we have.

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We're tempted to believe, ladies,

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that, you know, they're not having hot flashes

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and they're not in menopause.

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We have a temptation to believe that,

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oh, just because they're married

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that their life is all rainbows and butterflies, right?

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It's not true.

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It's not.

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In fact, I have my own theory that the reason

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why so many married people are trying

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to get all you single people to forget about getting married

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is because they're not happily married.

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I can, listen, I can promote marriage

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and I can promote it from the rooftops.

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Get married.

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It's amazing.

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You're gonna love it.

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Is it hard sometimes?

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Sure, it's hard.

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Any relationship is hard sometimes,

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but I love being married and I have a good marriage.

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I have a good partnership.

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I have a good partner.

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And so I, of course, am gonna want this for everybody.

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I'm gonna want it for everybody, right?

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But people who are not happily married,

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people who think that singleness looks better than marriage,

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people that have been talking to their divorced friends,

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come on now.

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People that have been talking

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to their divorced friends too long.

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Look, I just wanna tell you one thing.

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You talk to people that are disgruntled about anything.

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Let's take a couple examples here

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because this is what we're gonna talk about today.

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You're like, Jackie, are you rambling?

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No, this is actually the subject for today.

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It's about our words.

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And we're gonna dive into that really deeply

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here in a second.

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But let's just take any example.

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Let's take your workplace.

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You've been working there for 15 years.

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Of course, you're taken for granted at some level

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because that's every human relationship.

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People don't know what they got

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until it's gone kind of thing.

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But maybe you're having a really bad week.

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You have some deadlines.

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You feel like you're doing your unfair share of work,

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whatever, and you're at the company coffee shop,

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the place everyone from the company goes,

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and you're sitting there

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and another disgruntled worker comes

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and sits down next to you.

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Let's call her Pam.

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If your name's Pam, just,

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I took it from the office, the show, The Office.

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So it's not you that I'm talking about.

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So sitting next to each other,

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having a little Americano, latte, whatever it is you drink,

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and she starts complaining about work,

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commiserating with you.

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You start talking about it.

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But you know, Pam's getting out.

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Pam's getting a new job.

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She's getting out of here.

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And every time you see her up until,

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you know, she's working out her notice,

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her two weeks, one month notice or whatever,

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you're like, oh, well, that looks,

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grass looks greener where Pam is going.

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Is it?

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No, because she started, first of all,

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she's starting over from scratch.

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She's gonna be the new kid on the block.

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You've already been here for 15 years.

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No one thinks about watering their patch of grass.

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Everyone just wants to find a greener patch of grass.

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And this is what happens.

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You know, there are a lot of people,

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and I'm gonna tell you this because you need to know this,

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and you might be one of these people.

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You might be one of these people,

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and it's important for you to hear this from my mouth.

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There are people that are divorced right now

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that did need to get divorced.

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They did not need to get divorced.

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I'm just gonna say it plainly.

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They didn't.

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I'm not one of those people,

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you guys have known me long enough,

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and if you're new here, you're gonna get to know me.

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I'm not one of those people

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that does not believe in divorce.

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I believe that divorce sometimes is inevitable.

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I do think that it should be the last resort,

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but I do think that it should be a resort.

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I think that it should be something

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that people are allowed to do.

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I think that it's something people shouldn't be shamed for.

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I think that God advocates it.

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I think that God gave it as a last resort.

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He's like, look, if you're gonna have hard hearts,

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if you're gonna mistreat each other,

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then just get divorced.

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Don't stay here.

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I don't think that you can heal

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in the same environment that's making you sick.

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I think that the healing cannot begin

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until after those divorce papers come through.

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That has been my experience.

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I teared in that marriage for 12 years

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before I finally said, enough's enough,

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I can't do this anymore.

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Every year, I tried to get divorced,

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and every year, the people around me convinced me

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that I needed to pray more and stay longer.

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But after 12 years, and a lot of you know

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the details of that story,

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I was like, no, I gotta get out.

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And I did, and I'm so glad I did.

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I have not regretted that for one moment.

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Was it easy?

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No.

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Did it solve all the problems that were me?

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This is important.

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Did it solve all the problems

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that actually weren't my former husband, they were me?

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No, no.

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In fact, you'll know what those problems are

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because guess what?

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Your former spouse will be gone,

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but the problems will still be there

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because they're you.

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They're you, they're little old you.

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And so I had to deal with that stuff,

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and I finally got a chance to deal with it

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because once again, you can't heal

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in the same environment that's making you sick.

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And the dynamic between me and my former spouse

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was making me very, very sick.

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My life was almost lost several times

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during that 12-year marriage.

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So all that to say this,

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there are people divorced right now

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that didn't need to get divorced.

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They needed to do their hard work.

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They need to grow up.

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They need to stop being immature and selfish.

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They need to stop complaining.

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They need to stop hanging out with their single friends

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or their divorced friends that were poisoning their mind

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about how great it is out here

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in these single streets.

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How you can find someone to treat you better,

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treat you like the queen

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that you deserve to be treated like.

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Get out of here.

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Stop.

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Now that's water under the bridge

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because those people are already divorced,

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but hopefully they have, now that they are divorced,

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seen that the company you keep is important

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and you friends, listen,

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I wasn't gonna do Supernatural Saturday

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about the company that we keep,

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but it seems Holy Spirit is leading a direction.

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So let's go here for a little while.

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The company you keep is so important.

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You know, they say that you become

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like the five closest relationships in your life.

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Have you ever heard this?

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This is not in my notes for today.

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This is not anything that I planned on talking about,

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but I really do believe God wants us to hear this.

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You have to surround yourself with people

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who are aligned with heaven,

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not just for their own lives, but for your life as well.

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This is why I don't take advice from just anybody.

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I don't.

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This is gonna sound a little bit maybe arrogant.

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It's gonna sound maybe a little unteachable on my part,

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but I've learned this the hard way.

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I've learned this the hard way.

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There's a lot of people that know a lot of things

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because they read some books.

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They listen to some webinars or some, you know,

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some sort of psychology coaching thing.

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They read something somewhere, an article.

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I don't take advice from people

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who haven't had to implement that advice

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for their own lives.

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Also don't take advice from people

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who are not invested in helping me walk out,

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not just that advice, but the consequences of that advice.

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All advice has consequences.

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All change has consequences.

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And I don't just mean bad consequences.

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It could be good consequences.

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But you cannot allow people to speak into your life

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that are not going to be invested in the outcome.

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Does that make sense?

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They gotta be invested in the outcome.

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Take your doctor, for example.

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If you have a doctor that you're just a number for,

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they don't know you.

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They don't know you.

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They're not invested in your health

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and your life and your family.

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They don't know the names of your kids.

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They don't know you.

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You're just a number.

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Okay, you're just an appointment on their calendar.

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They come in, they spout off

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about what they learned in medical school

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concerning your test results,

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your blood work, your whatever.

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And then they spend five seconds talking to you

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and then they rush out into another patient's room.

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And I understand that doctors are overworked

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and I understand that they have quotas.

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Did you guys know that doctors have quotas?

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They're not supposed to spend a lot of time

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with each patient in some of these,

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I called it something with my husband,

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but he was just like, gosh, what did I call it?

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One of those places where, not a chop shop.

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Chop shop keeps coming to mind,

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but that is not what I said.

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It was just a kind of place

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where they just turn and burn you.

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They're just in the room and then they're out.

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Don't have a doctor like that.

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You might have to search for a little while,

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but you need to find someone who's invested in your story,

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your health profile, your life.

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Cattle call is what I called it.

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I felt like some of these places,

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when we first moved to Austin,

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I was looking for just a primary care doctor,

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someone to get your annual test done with.

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And I felt like it was a cattle call.

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And I didn't like it.

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So now I work with a tiny little nurse practitioner,

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tiny little office, little practice,

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nurse practitioner, functional health doctor.

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She's invested in me.

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She knows me.

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She knows my son just got married.

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Her sister just passed away.

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My husband just had a telehealth call

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just to check in with her yesterday.

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And I said, oh, I'm so sorry.

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I was in the car when he was on the phone with her.

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And I just said, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister.

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So we've been praying for you.

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She said, oh, thank you so much.

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That's so kind.

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This is the kind of relationship

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that I wanna have with my doctor.

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Yes?

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Friends, who are you surrounding yourself with?

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This is not even the topic

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of today's Supernatural Saturday,

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but Holy Spirit wants to ask you,

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who are you surrounding yourself with?

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Remember when we were kids

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and someone in your life,

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maybe it was a parent, maybe it's a teacher.

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I don't wanna say a parent

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because some of you raised by wolves, okay?

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Parents didn't care where you were or what you were doing.

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I've experienced that.

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So I know that to be true.

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But some adult in your life said,

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you shouldn't be hanging around with those kids

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or watch who you hang around with

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and be careful who you hang around with.

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Raise your hand if someone has ever said that to you

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growing up.

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Get those hands up.

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The company you keep.

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Birds of a feather flock together.

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Come on, have we ever heard any of this stuff?

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Has anyone ever been told

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that someone was being a bad influence on you?

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Anybody else?

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Guys, we're influenced.

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We are, and this is important for you to understand,

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we're influenced overtly,

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which means you know that you're being influenced

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and we are also influenced covertly

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by the company that we keep.

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I will tell you,

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when my pastor went to prison

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and I got away from that small church

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that I had been at for 12 years,

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the same church that was trying to convince me

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to stay in an abusive marriage every year for 12 years,

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when I got away from that, I love those people.

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I love them, they were my family,

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but when I got away from it,

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and I got away from it because the church fell apart

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because the pastor went to prison,

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when I got away from it,

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I started to realize how much of my thinking

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was being influenced by those people,

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by that church, by that community.

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I started to realize how religious I had become.

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I actually started to realize,

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you guys, this is 20 plus years ago,

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I started to realize, you guys, this is 20 plus years ago,

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how judgmental towards people who weren't like us,

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who didn't live life the way that we did,

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I had become.

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You can't see it while you're on the inside.

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You get what I'm saying?

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saying. You don't see how you're being influenced until there's distance, until there's time

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and space that brings clarity. So it's better before you get into a friendship, before you

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get into a community, for you to really ask yourself, I know we all want to belong, we

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all want friends, we all want community, and nothing's perfect. Look, I'm not asking you

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to look for anything perfect here. Nothing's perfect. But you need to ask yourself, hey,

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is this group of people really aligned with who I want to become? Do they have marriages

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that I admire? Do I want to be like these folks? You know, I always say that relationships

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come in the form of reasons and seasons and treasons, if you guys have never heard me

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say that. I'm saying it now for your benefit. So what it means is that you get into relationship

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and I'm talking, I'm not talking about, obviously not talking about romantic relationship, but

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you can't apply it. I'm talking about friendships. I'm talking about your inner circle. I'm talking

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about the people that you might take advice from, the people that you do life with. Those

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people come into your life for reasons sometimes. For instance, you could be traveling and you

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met someone while you were traveling. The reason was you were traveling. That's why

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you met this person. They can come into your life for seasons. Maybe you became friends

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with your children's friends' parents during, you know, baseball season. Your child traveled

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to play baseball and you became friends with the other parents. Your child's grown up now.

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They don't play baseball anymore. Do you see those people anymore? Probably not. Those

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were seasonal friends for that season of your life. Maybe for a season of your life, you

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were a missionary and you made friends in that place where you were a missionary, that

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were other missionaries, whatever. It doesn't matter. And then there's, of course, the treason

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friends, and those are the friends that they come into your life to teach you a lesson.

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They come into your life for you to learn something. Because of Romans 8, 28, God works

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all things to our good. Some of us have been betrayed by people. There's even been people

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in this community that their best friend ran off with their spouse. Yes, friends, that

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has happened here. I mean, it hasn't happened here, but it's happened in the lives of people

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that are here. Betrayed you, lied to you, lied about you, whatever. And we're like,

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man, I wish I would've saw that coming. Well, you probably did at some level see it coming,

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but what happens is that we make a lot of excuses for the people that we love. We ignore

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a lot of things. And also what happens is there's grace that we're giving that we probably

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shouldn't be giving, but we do give it and it's not wasted because once again, we learn

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a lot through those relationships, don't we? When we heal from those relationships, we

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learn a lot and hopefully you became better and not bitter.

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Right. So that was just an add on from Holy Spirit today about really taking a close look

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at your close relationships. If you're in my book club, then you're doing something

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called relationship advisory circle and you need to make sure that the people that are

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closest to you, you know, I've always noticed that people, especially when they get older,

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they have a lot of frenemies in their lives. And let me tell you what I mean by that. Some

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of the closest people to them are also people who speak so negatively about them. They're

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always telling you what's wrong with you. They're never building you up. They're, you

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know, either jealous or, um, they just don't want you to win. They're threatened by you

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in some way. They don't want you to win. They don't clap when you win. They don't celebrate

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you. I mean, why would you, why would your inner circle have people like this in it?

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I want you to ask yourself that question. I don't care if they're a family member. I

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don't care if it's your sister or a cousin that you grew up with. It's like a sister

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or brother to you. I don't care if it's your mother or father. Yeah. You can be in a relationship

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with these people because they're your family. Um, but with good boundaries, you don't have

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to let them be in your inner circle. You don't have to let them speak into your life. You

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don't have to let them degrade you and you know, tell you all the time what's wrong with

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you. This is why you're single. Anyone else ever had someone in your life that supposedly

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is supposed to be a friend or a family member who's supposed to be close to you, tell you

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that you're single because of, and then they just fill the blank with all kinds of crap

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that's wrong with you.

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And it's supposed to sound like it's helpful, but it actually is just, um,

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just degrading you. Anybody else ever experienced that?

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Okay, so my next question is for all the people that are putting their thumbs up and their hands

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up. Why? Why are you allowing this to continue? Why? Oh, because Jackie, if I say something,

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00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:24.160
they're going to be offended. Well, they're offending you. They're going to continue to

501
00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:27.280
do that until you put them in their place and just let them know. You don't got to be mean about it.

502
00:25:27.920 --> 00:25:31.360
You just got to be like, oh, hey, listen, I don't need your advice.

503
00:25:34.720 --> 00:25:35.520
I didn't ask.

504
00:25:41.600 --> 00:25:42.560
I didn't ask for that.

505
00:25:45.600 --> 00:25:49.680
Friends, you need to be surrounded by people who see the best in you and pull it out.

506
00:25:49.680 --> 00:25:57.680
They see who you could be, and they pull that out by celebrating you, by encouraging you,

507
00:25:59.600 --> 00:26:02.080
by promoting you, by clapping when you win.

508
00:26:06.160 --> 00:26:11.520
Right? Some of these people that are doing this to you, they're not even malicious or evil people.

509
00:26:12.080 --> 00:26:17.600
They're just people who are negative. They're already negative. They're negative people.

510
00:26:18.320 --> 00:26:22.640
And they're people who probably think that they're doing it because they're concerned

511
00:26:22.640 --> 00:26:25.440
about you and they want to help you. But guess what? You don't need that kind of help.

512
00:26:27.520 --> 00:26:31.280
That's like drowning. And instead of someone throwing you a rope, they send you,

513
00:26:31.280 --> 00:26:38.400
they throw you a cement block. Here, I'm helping you. No, you're drowning me. I'm good.

514
00:26:42.080 --> 00:26:45.280
So friends, if you're going to make new friends, which I hope that you will.

515
00:26:46.080 --> 00:26:50.480
And by the way, for all of you that missed the book club, I have decided to do it again. So

516
00:26:50.480 --> 00:26:54.480
after this five weeks is over, we're going to recycle back. And not even after the five weeks

517
00:26:54.480 --> 00:26:59.040
is over, not tomorrow, or I'm sorry, I don't even know what day it is. My grandbaby's just

518
00:26:59.040 --> 00:27:04.800
left. And you guys, if you have never been loved and also terrorized by twin three and a half

519
00:27:04.800 --> 00:27:11.120
year olds, then you're missing out. Because they loved me and terrorized me for an entire two

520
00:27:11.120 --> 00:27:15.600
weeks. And I was glad they were here. But when I tell you I've never experienced this type of

521
00:27:15.600 --> 00:27:21.840
tired, there's a reason why older people can't have children, I think. And this is probably the

522
00:27:21.840 --> 00:27:34.800
reason. Lord help me. But I will recover. But not this Monday, but next Monday, whatever that date

523
00:27:34.800 --> 00:27:39.440
is, someone put it up in the calendar. What's not? A week from this Monday, the new book club will

524
00:27:39.440 --> 00:27:44.880
start on Mondays. So if Mondays is a good day for you, and you want to do a book club with me,

525
00:27:44.880 --> 00:27:48.400
and you're sad that you missed out, and you're been like kicking yourself because you didn't get

526
00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:53.200
in the registration in time, you're in luck, because we're going to do another one by popular

527
00:27:53.200 --> 00:27:57.680
demand. There are a lot of people that wanted to do it and just missed, they missed out on the timing

528
00:27:57.680 --> 00:28:02.160
of it. Okay. All right. So you will see that either in your email, or we'll post it in the

529
00:28:02.160 --> 00:28:07.440
group or something will happen. Anyway, I'm really encouraging people to build the circle around them

530
00:28:07.440 --> 00:28:11.760
in the book club. And if you don't have a circle, a lot of people don't have a circle. You're like,

531
00:28:11.760 --> 00:28:16.000
Jackie, you know, I know what you're saying is helpful, but I don't even have any friends. I don't

532
00:28:16.000 --> 00:28:20.640
even have any close friends. I'm doing life all alone out here. Okay. Well, God wants to take the

533
00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:27.840
solitary and put you in family, put you in community, put you in friendship. But in order

534
00:28:27.840 --> 00:28:35.600
for you to choose correctly, you need to really ask yourself, do I, do I want,

535
00:28:36.560 --> 00:28:41.360
what do I want in a friend? What do I need in a friend? What, who am I in a friendship? What,

536
00:28:41.360 --> 00:28:45.280
what do people need and want from me? And remember, it needs to be reciprocal.

537
00:28:45.280 --> 00:28:49.760
It can't just be what people need from you. It also has to be what you need from them. It has to be

538
00:28:49.760 --> 00:28:54.400
that that's what defines a friendship. Y'all. A lot of you have people that they, that you do

539
00:28:54.400 --> 00:28:59.760
things for all the time that also do not do things for you. That's not a friendship.

540
00:28:59.760 --> 00:29:03.440
Friendship has to be back and forth, giving and receiving. You understand that, right?

541
00:29:07.040 --> 00:29:11.360
You're like, well, then what are those other people? Takers. That's what they are. They're

542
00:29:11.360 --> 00:29:16.880
not friends. You're a giver and they're a taker and givers do attract takers just so you know,

543
00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:24.240
so you got to be careful with that. I have a friend right now and they call me a friend.

544
00:29:24.880 --> 00:29:27.680
And I call them a friend because I don't know what else to call them.

545
00:29:27.680 --> 00:29:30.880
But I only hear from them when they want something from me. Anybody else?

546
00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:41.360
That's it. In fact, when I see their number pop up on my phone because they're calling me,

547
00:29:41.920 --> 00:29:48.560
I know they want something from me. Now they'll shoot the breeze for a few minutes before the ask.

548
00:29:49.520 --> 00:29:53.920
And we have, you know, it's a funny friendship, you know, funny, a funny connection. So we'll

549
00:29:53.920 --> 00:29:59.920
laugh a little, we'll, we'll joke a little and stuff. And then, you know, we'll, we'll have fun.

550
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.000
comes the ask.

551
00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:03.000
Mm-hmm.

552
00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:04.000
Mm-hmm.

553
00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:05.000
Right?

554
00:30:05.000 --> 00:30:12.920
And when I ask for something from them, they say they'll do it, but you know what they

555
00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:13.920
do?

556
00:30:13.920 --> 00:30:15.160
They don't ever do it.

557
00:30:15.160 --> 00:30:17.360
See that?

558
00:30:17.360 --> 00:30:19.880
All right.

559
00:30:19.880 --> 00:30:23.920
So the bottom line is, is that you want reciprocal relationships.

560
00:30:24.920 --> 00:30:30.720
you and I want to help you to, you know, make a little list of what it is that you need.

561
00:30:30.720 --> 00:30:34.480
And for those of you that are like, oh, I saw someone say, my dad says I'm too picky

562
00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:43.160
when it comes to, you know, a romantic relationship, let me just say this.

563
00:30:43.160 --> 00:30:45.240
It's important to have non-negotiables.

564
00:30:45.240 --> 00:30:50.600
It's important to understand that your preferences are exactly that, their preferences.

565
00:30:50.600 --> 00:30:54.920
It's important to be realistic and not be in some fantasy world about your future love

566
00:30:54.920 --> 00:30:56.360
life.

567
00:30:56.360 --> 00:30:57.360
But then I want to say this.

568
00:30:57.360 --> 00:30:58.360
I'm going to add this to it.

569
00:30:58.360 --> 00:31:03.400
It's equally important for you to understand that you are picking someone that you are

570
00:31:03.400 --> 00:31:05.840
going to spend the rest of your life with.

571
00:31:05.840 --> 00:31:09.200
And so you need to choose accordingly.

572
00:31:09.200 --> 00:31:11.880
Okay?

573
00:31:11.880 --> 00:31:19.960
All of that being said, you really have to be more than mildly interested in this person.

574
00:31:20.320 --> 00:31:24.080
You have to have more than just tolerance for this person.

575
00:31:24.080 --> 00:31:29.080
Otherwise, stay single and have an amazing life.

576
00:31:29.080 --> 00:31:33.560
Seriously, have an amazing life.

577
00:31:33.560 --> 00:31:40.040
Amazing friendships, travel, see the world, work on your career, become everything that

578
00:31:40.040 --> 00:31:43.120
God created you to be.

579
00:31:43.120 --> 00:31:47.400
You definitely are not just going to pick someone just to have, ladies, a penis and

580
00:31:47.400 --> 00:31:48.400
a pulse.

581
00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:51.360
And gentlemen, to have whatever it is that you're looking for.

582
00:31:51.360 --> 00:31:55.080
I could say a lot of things here and I'm not going to.

583
00:31:55.080 --> 00:31:56.680
Why?

584
00:31:56.680 --> 00:32:01.240
Because I've matured.

585
00:32:01.240 --> 00:32:12.680
Anyway, I want to talk about what we've been talking about, what our words have been saying.

586
00:32:12.680 --> 00:32:16.880
Last night, you guys, I don't know if you guys live in Texas, if any of you live in

587
00:32:17.360 --> 00:32:20.400
Texas, but we were having torrential rains this year.

588
00:32:20.400 --> 00:32:24.920
I've never seen it rain this much in Austin, Texas, in the whole eight years that I've

589
00:32:24.920 --> 00:32:25.920
lived here.

590
00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:32.160
We've had two months of solid rain and heavy rain and crazy rain, sideways rain, flood

591
00:32:32.160 --> 00:32:38.600
alerts, crazy stuff happening here.

592
00:32:38.600 --> 00:32:42.720
And last night, because you know it doesn't rain a lot here, it doesn't rain a lot at

593
00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:43.720
all.

594
00:32:43.720 --> 00:32:49.080
We have maybe a couple of weeks of rain every year and then a lot of dryness to the point

595
00:32:49.080 --> 00:32:55.600
of everything turning brown because there's not been any rain.

596
00:32:55.600 --> 00:32:59.760
And the reason why I'm saying this is because not only is it unusual, but you guys, I bought

597
00:32:59.760 --> 00:33:01.200
this house four years ago.

598
00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:02.200
This is my first house.

599
00:33:02.200 --> 00:33:07.040
For those of you that are just joining the story, I have never owned a house my entire

600
00:33:07.040 --> 00:33:08.040
life.

601
00:33:08.040 --> 00:33:09.040
I was a foster kid.

602
00:33:09.040 --> 00:33:15.280
I lived in 36 different houses before I finally owned my own house, which is here.

603
00:33:15.280 --> 00:33:18.760
But I don't think this house has ever experienced this type of rain because it doesn't rain

604
00:33:18.760 --> 00:33:20.560
like this in Austin, Texas.

605
00:33:20.560 --> 00:33:24.360
I've lived here for eight years and I can attest to the fact that it does not rain like

606
00:33:24.360 --> 00:33:25.520
this.

607
00:33:25.520 --> 00:33:27.760
And guess what happened when it started raining like this?

608
00:33:27.760 --> 00:33:33.200
My house started springing leaks.

609
00:33:33.200 --> 00:33:38.040
You think your roof is good if you never have rain.

610
00:33:38.040 --> 00:33:42.640
And last night, friends, my house started leaking everywhere.

611
00:33:42.640 --> 00:33:43.640
I felt like I was in a cartoon.

612
00:33:43.640 --> 00:33:48.160
Have you ever seen those cartoons where they're trying to hold something together and it springs

613
00:33:48.160 --> 00:33:51.860
a leak here and they're trying to cover that leak and then it springs another leak?

614
00:33:51.860 --> 00:33:53.560
My windows were leaking.

615
00:33:53.560 --> 00:33:58.960
There was water coming in through the window panes.

616
00:33:58.960 --> 00:34:00.080
My windows were leaking.

617
00:34:00.080 --> 00:34:01.860
My ceiling was leaking.

618
00:34:01.860 --> 00:34:04.920
Right now I'm sitting in my living room and I'm looking at all the buckets everywhere

619
00:34:04.920 --> 00:34:10.400
and I'm looking at the cracks in the sheetrock on the ceiling and the paint chipping and

620
00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:13.719
I'm looking to see all the towels everywhere.

621
00:34:13.719 --> 00:34:15.739
All right.

622
00:34:15.739 --> 00:34:17.880
So that started happening and guess what?

623
00:34:17.880 --> 00:34:27.000
That started happening and my mind started saying, oh, great.

624
00:34:27.000 --> 00:34:30.280
I found myself saying last night, I'm sick and tired of this.

625
00:34:30.280 --> 00:34:37.320
And then I realized that I just said about myself that I'm sick and I'm tired.

626
00:34:37.320 --> 00:34:40.280
And Holy Spirit was like, are you sick and tired?

627
00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:47.120
And I was like, oh, man, I don't want that.

628
00:34:47.120 --> 00:34:50.219
So what I felt like I really wanted to hit home with us today and we're going to do an

629
00:34:50.219 --> 00:34:56.800
activation here in a second is we need to take some inventory of what we've been saying,

630
00:34:56.800 --> 00:35:00.400
what's been going on in our hearts, because out of the abundance of the heart, the mind

631
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.380
mouth speaks, and we've covered this several times on Supernatural Saturday, but I really

632
00:35:04.380 --> 00:35:08.900
think that we need to revisit it just for a second.

633
00:35:08.900 --> 00:35:11.740
Because I found myself, I've been in kind of a hard season.

634
00:35:11.740 --> 00:35:16.500
You guys, I told you on a Supernatural Saturday just recently that I felt like it's just been

635
00:35:16.500 --> 00:35:18.380
one thing after another.

636
00:35:18.380 --> 00:35:19.380
Anybody else?

637
00:35:19.380 --> 00:35:22.020
And I don't mean good things.

638
00:35:22.020 --> 00:35:23.780
I don't mean things to write home about.

639
00:35:23.780 --> 00:35:32.860
I don't mean things to post on your Facebook page, praise report.

640
00:35:32.860 --> 00:35:37.220
I mean things that I'm not looking to have happen, and I'm not interested in having happen,

641
00:35:37.220 --> 00:35:43.780
and I don't want to have happen, okay?

642
00:35:43.780 --> 00:35:48.020
So I wrote down a few things that we say without realizing that we're saying it.

643
00:35:48.020 --> 00:35:51.860
And then when we realize that we're saying that, friends, it's not just a fun little

644
00:35:51.860 --> 00:35:52.860
saying.

645
00:35:52.860 --> 00:35:54.900
We have to dig in deeper.

646
00:35:54.900 --> 00:35:55.900
Where does that come from?

647
00:35:55.900 --> 00:35:58.460
Who taught me to say that?

648
00:35:58.460 --> 00:36:00.260
When did I start saying that?

649
00:36:00.260 --> 00:36:02.180
Why am I saying it now?

650
00:36:02.180 --> 00:36:05.780
And one of those things is like, I'm sick and tired, all right?

651
00:36:05.780 --> 00:36:09.380
So yes, that's a phrase, and it's a phrase that people say.

652
00:36:09.380 --> 00:36:14.620
Maybe we need to stop, you know, we need to stop being sick and tired of being sick and

653
00:36:14.620 --> 00:36:21.660
tired and figure out why we're sick and tired, amen?

654
00:36:21.660 --> 00:36:22.700
So here are a few of the things.

655
00:36:22.700 --> 00:36:24.180
I'm sick and tired of this.

656
00:36:24.180 --> 00:36:26.380
I'm sick and tired.

657
00:36:26.380 --> 00:36:30.860
Nothing ever works out for me, put in the chat.

658
00:36:30.860 --> 00:36:33.140
My luck is terrible.

659
00:36:33.140 --> 00:36:36.740
Of course, of course, this would happen to me.

660
00:36:36.740 --> 00:36:44.100
Well, you know, it's Murphy's Law, everything that can go wrong will go wrong.

661
00:36:44.100 --> 00:36:45.100
I'm just a mess.

662
00:36:45.100 --> 00:36:46.300
I'm losing my mind.

663
00:36:46.300 --> 00:36:47.980
Anyone else say, I'm going crazy.

664
00:36:47.980 --> 00:36:49.740
I'm losing my mind.

665
00:36:50.740 --> 00:36:53.980
Well, I'll probably always be alone.

666
00:36:53.980 --> 00:36:57.500
It's always something.

667
00:36:57.500 --> 00:36:59.020
I can't do this anymore.

668
00:36:59.020 --> 00:37:03.780
Come on, put in the chat what yours is.

669
00:37:03.780 --> 00:37:09.260
What are the things that you find yourself saying over yourself habitually?

670
00:37:09.260 --> 00:37:17.140
Don't be putting any nice, sweet thing in here right now, Gwen.

671
00:37:17.140 --> 00:37:20.340
We all know that we got some stinking thinking that's coming out of our mouths.

672
00:37:20.340 --> 00:37:23.340
I want to see it.

673
00:37:23.340 --> 00:37:28.380
Yours might be someone else's and it might help them to have the courage to post theirs.

674
00:37:28.380 --> 00:37:32.220
Come on.

675
00:37:32.220 --> 00:37:36.380
I'm so over this.

676
00:37:36.380 --> 00:37:41.020
So tired of this.

677
00:37:41.020 --> 00:37:42.020
Tired of being alone.

678
00:37:42.020 --> 00:37:43.460
Why do I even try?

679
00:37:43.460 --> 00:37:45.300
Anyone else be like, I give up.

680
00:37:45.300 --> 00:37:46.980
I give up.

681
00:37:47.020 --> 00:37:48.300
I can't do this anymore.

682
00:37:48.300 --> 00:37:51.420
I give up.

683
00:37:51.420 --> 00:37:52.420
I'm done.

684
00:37:52.420 --> 00:37:55.060
Oh, that's a good one.

685
00:37:55.060 --> 00:37:56.060
There's no point.

686
00:37:56.060 --> 00:37:58.300
This is pointless.

687
00:37:58.300 --> 00:38:04.500
There's no point.

688
00:38:04.500 --> 00:38:16.180
And that's just about your love life, just in general, y'all, just in general.

689
00:38:16.180 --> 00:38:20.580
And friends, this is not some religious talk we're having this morning about how you can

690
00:38:20.580 --> 00:38:23.980
never have a bad day and how you can never say anything negative.

691
00:38:23.980 --> 00:38:31.300
Nothing negative can ever come out of your mouth.

692
00:38:31.300 --> 00:38:36.460
But we got to nip in the bud the habitual complaining if you have that.

693
00:38:36.460 --> 00:38:38.380
Now we don't all have that.

694
00:38:38.380 --> 00:38:48.060
But if you are a habitual complainer, if you are habitually negative.

695
00:38:48.060 --> 00:38:50.020
My little child was like this.

696
00:38:50.020 --> 00:38:58.420
My youngest daughter used to come home from elementary school looking like someone kicked

697
00:38:58.420 --> 00:39:01.460
her around all day.

698
00:39:01.460 --> 00:39:03.860
Sad little face, little grouchy, grumpy face.

699
00:39:03.860 --> 00:39:04.860
She just hated school.

700
00:39:04.860 --> 00:39:05.860
Anyone else hate school?

701
00:39:05.860 --> 00:39:07.640
She just hated school.

702
00:39:07.640 --> 00:39:10.820
She came home and I'd be like, oh, baby, what's wrong?

703
00:39:10.820 --> 00:39:16.680
And then Holy Spirit checked me one day, said, stop asking her what's wrong, because she

704
00:39:16.680 --> 00:39:23.960
would give me a huge laundry list of what was wrong when I would ask her that.

705
00:39:23.960 --> 00:39:28.880
And you know, it's one of those complain and remain, complain and remain.

706
00:39:28.880 --> 00:39:31.760
If you want to change your life, you got to stop complaining about it or you're going

707
00:39:31.760 --> 00:39:32.960
to remain there.

708
00:39:32.960 --> 00:39:36.560
And so Holy Spirit was like, ask her today when she gets home, ask her what's right in

709
00:39:36.560 --> 00:39:37.560
her life.

710
00:39:37.560 --> 00:39:38.800
Like, what went right today?

711
00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:41.480
And man, that threw that little girl for a loop.

712
00:39:41.480 --> 00:39:45.600
When she got home, I was like, oh, baby, what's right today?

713
00:39:45.600 --> 00:39:47.800
Like, what good thing happened today?

714
00:39:47.800 --> 00:39:50.860
And she didn't know what to do with that.

715
00:39:50.860 --> 00:39:53.800
She didn't have anything to say right away, I'll tell you that, because she's used to

716
00:39:53.800 --> 00:39:54.800
just complaining.

717
00:39:54.800 --> 00:40:00.080
She's used to just, you know, bellyaching and telling me all the bad things and blah.

718
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.520
Blah blah blah and how she hates school this child I would have to threaten her in the morning when she left for school

719
00:40:06.940 --> 00:40:10.540
Threaten her that I better not get a call from the nurse's office

720
00:40:11.160 --> 00:40:13.500
That she was sick and had to come home

721
00:40:13.680 --> 00:40:18.920
She was in the nurse's office at least three times a week trying to come home from school y'all this child

722
00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:21.960
And you're like was she being bullied no

723
00:40:24.080 --> 00:40:28.720
She had a great packed lunch she wasn't being bullied in fact she was pretty popular in school

724
00:40:28.720 --> 00:40:33.560
She just didn't like school. She didn't want to be there, and I eventually let her homeschool in high school

725
00:40:33.560 --> 00:40:37.740
I eventually let her stay home and just do school online, but I

726
00:40:38.600 --> 00:40:40.600
Just had a battle with kid

727
00:40:40.720 --> 00:40:46.720
But eventually she found something to be glad about and we used to do something in this community called playing the glad game

728
00:40:46.720 --> 00:40:50.880
I'm not gonna do that today, but I really want you to take an inventory of your words

729
00:40:55.080 --> 00:40:57.080
Because remember friends

730
00:40:57.920 --> 00:40:58.800
A

731
00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:01.200
Agreement is the spiritual principle of

732
00:41:02.160 --> 00:41:05.360
Manifestation and all these new ages are out here manifest in okay

733
00:41:05.600 --> 00:41:11.880
They're out here talking about manifestation, but manifestation actually belongs to the children of God. Are you listening?

734
00:41:14.480 --> 00:41:17.760
Manifestation belongs to us. Do you believe me I?

735
00:41:18.840 --> 00:41:23.920
Give you lots of scripture for it. You're like, but Jackie. It's not saying manifestation. Yeah, but it's the concept

736
00:41:24.920 --> 00:41:31.840
Death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it will eat the fruit of it. What is the fruit manifestation?

737
00:41:40.600 --> 00:41:43.240
What is that what about Ephesians 320

738
00:41:45.400 --> 00:41:47.400
What's that say

739
00:41:47.720 --> 00:41:53.440
To him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask think or imagine by what the power that works in you

740
00:41:53.480 --> 00:41:55.480
What's the power the power is your words?

741
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:04.120
The power is Holy Spirit in you in your words

742
00:42:08.680 --> 00:42:11.840
If you speak to this mountain and say be removed I

743
00:42:13.880 --> 00:42:19.160
Just want to tell you guys yes people use that as the faith scripture because it's about the faith the grain of a mustard seed

744
00:42:19.720 --> 00:42:23.100
But it is saying using your voice, isn't it?

745
00:42:24.120 --> 00:42:26.120
You

746
00:42:26.280 --> 00:42:31.640
Have you not been created in the image of your father let's make them in our image Genesis

747
00:42:33.080 --> 00:42:35.080
First five scriptures of the Bible

748
00:42:35.840 --> 00:42:40.800
What is the image of God? He spoke everything to into existence except for us

749
00:42:40.800 --> 00:42:44.800
he made us with his hands, but he did breathe his breath into us, but

750
00:42:45.640 --> 00:42:47.240
speaking and

751
00:42:47.240 --> 00:42:49.800
Manifesting belongs to us. Are you convinced yet?

752
00:42:54.240 --> 00:42:56.240
You

753
00:42:58.880 --> 00:43:04.480
You know who cannot create the kingdom of darkness the kingdom of darkness cannot create

754
00:43:04.600 --> 00:43:12.120
That's why he hates the children of light. He hates the children of the father because we can create we've been created in the image of

755
00:43:12.120 --> 00:43:14.120
God

756
00:43:14.160 --> 00:43:16.160
Only God creates

757
00:43:17.200 --> 00:43:20.720
So the enemy is constantly doing what he's looking for your agreement

758
00:43:20.720 --> 00:43:23.880
He's looking for you to use your creation power for him

759
00:43:25.040 --> 00:43:27.040
Do you hear me?

760
00:43:28.760 --> 00:43:31.000
He wants you to use your power to create

761
00:43:31.560 --> 00:43:37.840
To create a reality it wants you to live in because you're the only one that can create not him

762
00:43:39.080 --> 00:43:41.080
He can influence you

763
00:43:43.600 --> 00:43:49.760
And I don't just mean him I mean the opposing forces working through people working through situations and circumstances all of it

764
00:43:51.400 --> 00:43:53.400
You see this through scripture

765
00:43:56.640 --> 00:44:01.600
The battle is about power the power of words because the battle is over agreement

766
00:44:01.760 --> 00:44:08.080
Who will you agree with the voice of fear the voice of lack the voice of scarcity or the voice of faith?

767
00:44:08.800 --> 00:44:12.720
The voice of circumstances when they're not going your way or the voice of God

768
00:44:13.480 --> 00:44:17.320
Every day friends. We're coming into agreement with things with our words

769
00:44:20.720 --> 00:44:24.040
And a lot of these agreements we don't even realize we're making them and I'm talking to myself

770
00:44:26.440 --> 00:44:30.720
Every time you say things like I'm never going to get ahead. I'm never going to get married

771
00:44:30.720 --> 00:44:33.880
This is never gonna happen for me. I'm never gonna make enough money. I

772
00:44:34.640 --> 00:44:37.320
Might as well just give up you're agreeing with hopelessness

773
00:44:37.880 --> 00:44:42.400
Every time you say nothing good happens to me. You're agreeing with disappointment

774
00:44:43.960 --> 00:44:48.600
Every time we say that things are never gonna change we're agreeing with defeat

775
00:44:51.720 --> 00:44:53.720
You

776
00:44:54.520 --> 00:45:00.080
We're agreeing with defeat look if you're going through a hard season get around people who are gonna lift you up and

777
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.600
They're going to speak life over you.

778
00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:05.160
Like here, that's why you should come to Supernatural Saturday.

779
00:45:13.360 --> 00:45:14.920
Let's look at the Israelites for a second.

780
00:45:16.260 --> 00:45:19.400
I think that we can learn so many fascinating things from the old

781
00:45:19.400 --> 00:45:23.080
Testament, just so you know, I don't live my life in the old Testament.

782
00:45:23.080 --> 00:45:23.800
Neither should you.

783
00:45:23.800 --> 00:45:27.120
Not everything that's written there is for you and about you, just so you know.

784
00:45:27.360 --> 00:45:32.480
But it's some good examples of just humanity and human nature and

785
00:45:32.480 --> 00:45:33.640
what we can learn from that.

786
00:45:34.200 --> 00:45:35.700
We live in a new dispensation.

787
00:45:35.700 --> 00:45:37.720
We live in the dispensation of grace.

788
00:45:38.040 --> 00:45:41.640
So stop applying old Testament rules to your new Testament life, please.

789
00:45:42.520 --> 00:45:43.240
Please stop that.

790
00:45:46.760 --> 00:45:48.520
The law kills, but the spirit gives life.

791
00:45:50.440 --> 00:45:52.480
Jesus fulfilled the teaching of the prophets.

792
00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:54.480
He didn't come to do away with it.

793
00:45:54.480 --> 00:45:56.240
He came to fulfill it and it's been fulfilled.

794
00:45:57.600 --> 00:45:58.560
He didn't decide for you.

795
00:45:58.560 --> 00:46:00.200
He died as you on the cross.

796
00:46:00.600 --> 00:46:04.400
You don't have to sacrifice yourself in goats anymore.

797
00:46:08.040 --> 00:46:12.360
God's not for a pound of flesh from you and he's not looking for you to bleed out.

798
00:46:12.880 --> 00:46:14.760
Jesus did that for you already.

799
00:46:15.960 --> 00:46:18.880
It's now for you to live in the freedom that he bought for you.

800
00:46:19.040 --> 00:46:22.360
Anyway, the Israelites, they teach us something fascinating, don't they?

801
00:46:22.680 --> 00:46:29.720
They teach us what it looks like to come out of crazy bondage, slavery, abuse,

802
00:46:30.720 --> 00:46:35.240
something that was killing them and come into a place of freedom.

803
00:46:35.520 --> 00:46:39.040
And because that place of freedom didn't look like what they expected or it was,

804
00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:44.920
you know, unfamiliar to them, they started complaining.

805
00:46:46.120 --> 00:46:50.000
They would complain that they didn't have a place of freedom, that they

806
00:46:50.000 --> 00:46:50.880
were complaining.

807
00:46:52.040 --> 00:46:57.880
They would rather be back in prison in something familiar than being free in

808
00:46:57.880 --> 00:46:59.120
something unfamiliar.

809
00:47:00.920 --> 00:47:02.080
It's about control, isn't it?

810
00:47:03.680 --> 00:47:06.440
Even though they were out of control in Egypt, someone else was in control of

811
00:47:06.440 --> 00:47:06.800
them.

812
00:47:07.040 --> 00:47:11.320
They at least knew what life looked like every day and they preferred that over

813
00:47:11.640 --> 00:47:14.040
the open ended promises of God.

814
00:47:20.520 --> 00:47:23.480
Except for a couple of them, they were all in the same desert.

815
00:47:25.080 --> 00:47:28.920
They all saw the same giants that were blocking them from the promised land, or

816
00:47:28.920 --> 00:47:30.960
at least they thought they were the same obstacles.

817
00:47:31.800 --> 00:47:33.480
But there was a different agreement that happened.

818
00:47:34.600 --> 00:47:39.240
And these in this other group of people, Joshua, Caleb, whoever was with them, one

819
00:47:39.240 --> 00:47:41.960
group agreed with fear and the other one agreed with God.

820
00:47:43.920 --> 00:47:44.400
Right.

821
00:47:44.560 --> 00:47:45.560
We can do this.

822
00:47:46.520 --> 00:47:47.960
Do you remember what Joshua and Caleb said?

823
00:47:48.120 --> 00:47:49.360
We can do this.

824
00:47:50.880 --> 00:47:52.240
God said we could do it.

825
00:47:52.560 --> 00:47:53.560
So we can.

826
00:47:53.920 --> 00:47:57.640
What would happen if we just started saying that God said I could be married so

827
00:47:57.640 --> 00:47:58.200
I can.

828
00:47:59.360 --> 00:48:02.440
Yeah, I know it's not looking good out here, but God said I could.

829
00:48:05.760 --> 00:48:06.800
God said I could have it.

830
00:48:07.320 --> 00:48:10.560
God said that I could prosper even as my soul prospers.

831
00:48:10.920 --> 00:48:14.120
I know the bank accounts looking really low right now, but God said that I'm the

832
00:48:14.120 --> 00:48:15.240
head and not the tail.

833
00:48:15.920 --> 00:48:18.520
He said that I'm the lender and not the borrower.

834
00:48:21.000 --> 00:48:22.200
We could do this.

835
00:48:24.520 --> 00:48:27.360
Because I don't know if you notice this or not, but I have kind of noticed this

836
00:48:27.360 --> 00:48:29.960
complaining doesn't actually change your circumstances, does it?

837
00:48:32.680 --> 00:48:34.520
It might feel good for a second.

838
00:48:36.480 --> 00:48:40.720
For a second, it might feel good to just get negative and just cry and feel sorry

839
00:48:40.720 --> 00:48:41.440
for yourself.

840
00:48:41.440 --> 00:48:45.280
But when you're done, you're in the same exact place, aren't you?

841
00:48:46.480 --> 00:48:47.560
Complain and remain.

842
00:48:47.560 --> 00:48:48.320
You're just right there.

843
00:48:51.000 --> 00:48:53.120
And there's something else that's happening that you don't realize is

844
00:48:53.120 --> 00:48:53.720
happening.

845
00:48:54.680 --> 00:48:59.000
If you do this enough, you're not even able to see the opportunity in front of

846
00:48:59.000 --> 00:49:03.880
you because negativity now has trained your eyes to look for evidence that

847
00:49:03.880 --> 00:49:05.560
things aren't going to work out.

848
00:49:08.960 --> 00:49:10.000
It's your default.

849
00:49:10.960 --> 00:49:13.760
I write about this in Married in 12 Months or Less and the woman that I ran

850
00:49:13.760 --> 00:49:18.000
into in the bathroom that was in the line that wanted to see Bill Johnson at the

851
00:49:18.320 --> 00:49:22.160
conference and she got put in the overflow room and she was literally having a

852
00:49:22.160 --> 00:49:25.320
meltdown in the bathroom because this always happens to her.

853
00:49:26.720 --> 00:49:28.720
For instance, I just want to tell you something.

854
00:49:28.960 --> 00:49:31.560
If something always happens to you, there's a root.

855
00:49:33.960 --> 00:49:39.440
And we got to get to the root of it because God has not created you for lack

856
00:49:39.440 --> 00:49:40.160
and loss.

857
00:49:40.640 --> 00:49:44.480
If we always are complaining, if we're always looking for evidence that things

858
00:49:44.480 --> 00:49:46.880
aren't going to work out, we start filtering everything through

859
00:49:46.880 --> 00:49:47.720
disappointment.

860
00:49:50.320 --> 00:49:52.920
David had a different habit and I've always loved this about David.

861
00:49:52.920 --> 00:49:55.640
David had some really crazy things happen to him.

862
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.400
He gets attacked when he's tending the flock by all these wild animals.

863
00:50:04.400 --> 00:50:07.920
He doesn't ask to be anointed as king, but he gets anointed as king, and as soon as he

864
00:50:07.920 --> 00:50:15.200
gets anointed as king, people start coming for him in a bad way, hunting him down, trying

865
00:50:15.200 --> 00:50:16.200
to kill him.

866
00:50:16.200 --> 00:50:23.400
He's like, I didn't sign up for this.

867
00:50:23.400 --> 00:50:26.480
But David did something that a lot of us need to learn to do.

868
00:50:26.480 --> 00:50:29.880
When he started commiserating, he interrupted himself.

869
00:50:29.880 --> 00:50:31.600
Read the Psalms.

870
00:50:31.600 --> 00:50:35.280
He'll start describing a problem that he's having, and there's nothing wrong with that,

871
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:36.280
friends.

872
00:50:36.280 --> 00:50:37.280
You can pray.

873
00:50:37.280 --> 00:50:41.520
You can be honest with God about how you're feeling about things, but he refused to end

874
00:50:41.520 --> 00:50:42.520
it there.

875
00:50:42.520 --> 00:50:44.720
He started talking to himself.

876
00:50:44.720 --> 00:50:47.840
He started saying things like, hey, soul, why are you cast down?

877
00:50:47.840 --> 00:50:50.480
Why are you depressed?

878
00:50:50.480 --> 00:50:51.480
Hope in the Lord.

879
00:50:51.480 --> 00:50:53.240
This ain't the end.

880
00:50:53.240 --> 00:50:54.920
Soul, why are we doing this?

881
00:50:54.920 --> 00:50:55.920
Why are we spiraling?

882
00:50:55.920 --> 00:50:58.840
Why are we partnering with fear?

883
00:50:58.840 --> 00:51:02.560
When David does something else, he starts rehearsing God's faithfulness, not because

884
00:51:02.560 --> 00:51:05.320
he feels like it, but because he needs it.

885
00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:10.160
He needs to remind himself that God is good and that God always comes through.

886
00:51:10.160 --> 00:51:14.680
So he always says in his Psalms, I will remember, I will meditate, I will recall, I will declare.

887
00:51:14.680 --> 00:51:16.280
Have you ever noticed that about David?

888
00:51:16.280 --> 00:51:20.360
He's like, God is faithful, and I need to remind my soul that God is faithful.

889
00:51:20.360 --> 00:51:21.360
Where does my help come from?

890
00:51:21.360 --> 00:51:25.400
Does it come from the hills, which is a typology of human strength?

891
00:51:25.400 --> 00:51:28.800
No, it comes from the Lord, the maker of the hills.

892
00:51:28.800 --> 00:51:33.000
The maker of the kingdom of heaven, remember?

893
00:51:33.000 --> 00:51:34.000
Do you remember?

894
00:51:34.000 --> 00:51:35.000
That's what he's asking himself.

895
00:51:35.000 --> 00:51:37.560
Do you remember, David?

896
00:51:37.560 --> 00:51:49.320
God has failed you zero times.

897
00:51:49.320 --> 00:51:51.760
Let me remind you, friends, of the Scripture in the Bible.

898
00:51:51.760 --> 00:51:53.880
Many are the adversities of the unrighteous.

899
00:51:53.880 --> 00:51:55.940
Many are the adversities of the righteous.

900
00:51:55.940 --> 00:52:07.700
But God delivers them out of everyone.

901
00:52:07.700 --> 00:52:08.700
It's okay to be frustrated.

902
00:52:08.700 --> 00:52:11.860
It's okay to be overwhelmed.

903
00:52:11.860 --> 00:52:20.700
It's okay to have want something to have happened yesterday that has not happened yet.

904
00:52:20.700 --> 00:52:25.020
But I will tell you, one of your sisters just recently got married.

905
00:52:25.100 --> 00:52:30.260
I was at her wedding because it was here in Texas, and she asked me to make a toast, make

906
00:52:30.260 --> 00:52:31.260
a speech.

907
00:52:31.260 --> 00:52:37.860
And in the speech, I reminded her of all the failed dates that she had gone on.

908
00:52:37.860 --> 00:52:39.180
She was in her 50s when she got married.

909
00:52:39.180 --> 00:52:47.540
I just want to let you guys know, in her later 50s, I think she's past 55, she's 56 or something,

910
00:52:47.540 --> 00:52:48.540
57.

911
00:52:48.540 --> 00:52:54.820
And one day I got a DM from her, someone she was really excited about, just told her that

912
00:52:54.820 --> 00:52:58.420
he wasn't interested in another date.

913
00:52:58.420 --> 00:53:03.300
And I started to encourage her, and she said, okay, it's okay, Jackie, I don't need encouragement.

914
00:53:03.300 --> 00:53:05.280
Because something shifted in her.

915
00:53:05.280 --> 00:53:09.460
She didn't need me to, she didn't need encouragement from an outside source anymore, because something

916
00:53:09.460 --> 00:53:11.580
had happened on the inside of her.

917
00:53:11.580 --> 00:53:13.660
And she said, thanks, Jackie, for the kind words.

918
00:53:13.660 --> 00:53:17.900
She said, but I just want to let you know that I already had a talk with God today,

919
00:53:17.900 --> 00:53:19.620
and I let him know I'm ready.

920
00:53:19.620 --> 00:53:21.940
He can go ahead and send my husband.

921
00:53:21.940 --> 00:53:30.180
And the very next person she dated was Clayton.

922
00:53:30.180 --> 00:53:34.380
He sent me a picture of their first date.

923
00:53:34.380 --> 00:53:38.980
The very next thing in my DMs with her is a picture of their first date, because she's

924
00:53:38.980 --> 00:53:41.540
been a private client, like a coaching client of mine.

925
00:53:41.540 --> 00:53:46.540
She sends me the picture of that.

926
00:53:46.540 --> 00:53:49.300
And I looked at that picture of them, they looked like they have known each other all

927
00:53:49.300 --> 00:53:50.300
their lives.

928
00:53:50.300 --> 00:53:51.660
And I was like, that's it, he's the one.

929
00:53:51.660 --> 00:53:52.660
And he was.

930
00:53:52.660 --> 00:53:56.860
And now they're happily married, as I think they've been married for a little over a month

931
00:53:56.860 --> 00:53:59.340
now.

932
00:53:59.340 --> 00:54:01.460
She knew she was ready.

933
00:54:01.460 --> 00:54:04.260
We say we're ready, but there's a time when it shifts.

934
00:54:04.260 --> 00:54:08.180
And you know how I knew she was ready?

935
00:54:08.180 --> 00:54:11.740
She wasn't down in the mully grubs over this failed situation.

936
00:54:11.740 --> 00:54:15.820
She didn't care.

937
00:54:15.820 --> 00:54:17.760
She knew that she had a husband.

938
00:54:17.760 --> 00:54:23.440
She knew that she had a partner.

939
00:54:23.440 --> 00:54:27.280
Because the issue isn't with our words, you guys, it's with our hearts.

940
00:54:27.280 --> 00:54:31.360
God said to us, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.

941
00:54:31.360 --> 00:54:32.360
The mouth is the reporter.

942
00:54:32.360 --> 00:54:36.640
Just so you know, it's just reporting what your heart already believes.

943
00:54:36.640 --> 00:54:41.160
And so if it's negative words that keep coming out, we can't just police our language.

944
00:54:41.160 --> 00:54:43.360
We have to heal our hearts.

945
00:54:43.360 --> 00:54:45.720
All right?

946
00:54:45.720 --> 00:54:48.600
We have to heal our hearts.

947
00:54:48.600 --> 00:54:56.560
So I want you as homework to write down all the negative statements that you say regularly.

948
00:54:56.560 --> 00:54:58.280
And I want you to get to the root belief.

949
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.160
And then I want you to write down right under it, what does God say instead?

950
00:55:04.160 --> 00:55:06.760
Remember I tell you, we can't erase, we have to replace.

951
00:55:06.760 --> 00:55:12.360
It's not just enough to try to stop being negative and start being positive, you got

952
00:55:12.360 --> 00:55:17.020
to get to the root of where the negativity is coming from, where the lie is, where the

953
00:55:17.020 --> 00:55:20.160
unbelief is.

954
00:55:20.160 --> 00:55:26.080
So write down the truth and then write down, I agree with God, that blank, whatever it

955
00:55:26.080 --> 00:55:27.080
is, complete the sentence.

956
00:55:27.240 --> 00:55:29.240
Do you understand the assignment?

957
00:55:29.240 --> 00:55:36.520
This is what you're going to bring tomorrow to activation if you go to Sunday night activation.

958
00:55:36.520 --> 00:55:40.440
Write down the things that you say, write down the root of where those things are coming

959
00:55:40.440 --> 00:55:48.840
from, the hurt, the pain, the unbelief, the lie, and then write down truth and then write

960
00:55:48.840 --> 00:55:55.800
down a simple declaration, I agree with God, that blank.

961
00:55:55.800 --> 00:56:00.420
We have to stop rehearsing our disappointment, you guys, I'm talking to myself.

962
00:56:00.420 --> 00:56:07.420
Rehearsing our fears, rehearsing our offenses, rehearsing our lack, that's a terrible play.

963
00:56:07.420 --> 00:56:08.540
Stop rehearsing those lines.

964
00:56:08.540 --> 00:56:11.980
We don't ever want to be in that play ever again.

965
00:56:11.980 --> 00:56:17.100
Stop memorizing those lines, it's time to change the conversation and not because we're

966
00:56:17.100 --> 00:56:26.780
pretending, you guys, not positive mental attitude, not the, you know, eternal sunshine

967
00:56:26.780 --> 00:56:27.780
of the spotless mind.

968
00:56:27.780 --> 00:56:29.780
I'm not talking about that.

969
00:56:29.780 --> 00:56:37.060
Not denying reality, but because we're choosing faith, we're choosing God's reality over present

970
00:56:37.060 --> 00:56:38.060
circumstances.

971
00:56:38.060 --> 00:56:51.180
It's all about perspective, you guys.

972
00:56:51.180 --> 00:56:55.620
And I believe that if we are willing to let God help us change our perspective right now,

973
00:56:55.620 --> 00:57:00.820
we'll start to see like Joshua and Caleb did, we'll start to see the opportunity instead

974
00:57:00.820 --> 00:57:01.980
of the obstacle.

975
00:57:01.980 --> 00:57:04.940
We'll start to see the provision instead of the problem.

976
00:57:04.940 --> 00:57:06.780
We'll start to see the solution.

977
00:57:06.780 --> 00:57:10.540
We'll start to see God's fingerprints that were there all along.

978
00:57:10.540 --> 00:57:12.740
Do you believe that?

979
00:57:12.740 --> 00:57:13.740
I believe it.

980
00:57:13.740 --> 00:57:19.020
Carrie says, how do we get to the root?

981
00:57:19.020 --> 00:57:22.620
Will you write down that, the statements or you write down, you know, what you say when

982
00:57:22.620 --> 00:57:25.260
you're overwhelmed, when you're frustrated, write it down.

983
00:57:25.260 --> 00:57:29.900
And then you ask yourself, what is this saying?

984
00:57:29.900 --> 00:57:31.700
What am I saying when I'm saying this?

985
00:57:31.700 --> 00:57:33.060
I'm sick and tired.

986
00:57:33.060 --> 00:57:34.060
Okay.

987
00:57:34.060 --> 00:57:35.420
I'm sick of what?

988
00:57:35.420 --> 00:57:36.420
And then you go a little deeper.

989
00:57:36.420 --> 00:57:37.420
I'm sick of being disappointed.

990
00:57:37.420 --> 00:57:41.980
I'm sick of nothing ever working out for me.

991
00:57:41.980 --> 00:57:44.540
And then you write down, what am I disappointed about?

992
00:57:44.540 --> 00:57:46.260
What hasn't worked out for me?

993
00:57:46.260 --> 00:57:50.660
Then you ask yourself, well, what do I believe about this?

994
00:57:50.660 --> 00:57:54.260
Do I believe that God's promised me this or do I believe that this only happens to, I've

995
00:57:54.260 --> 00:57:59.420
had so many people say to me, yeah, Jackie, that kind of love is only for lucky people.

996
00:57:59.420 --> 00:58:00.660
I've been posting on my Instagram.

997
00:58:00.660 --> 00:58:02.540
If you don't follow me on Instagram, follow me on Instagram.

998
00:58:02.540 --> 00:58:07.060
I've been posting things like, you know, encouraging things and people in the comments,

999
00:58:07.060 --> 00:58:13.340
some of these posts have gotten like a million views.

1000
00:58:13.340 --> 00:58:17.380
And in the comments, people tell me the state of their heart because they'll say things

1001
00:58:17.380 --> 00:58:22.600
like, yeah, that's beautiful and that's wonderful, but that's not going to happen to everybody.

1002
00:58:22.600 --> 00:58:25.740
Stop telling people that's going to happen to everybody or stop telling people that they

1003
00:58:25.740 --> 00:58:26.740
can have that.

1004
00:58:26.740 --> 00:58:29.180
Not everyone can have that.

1005
00:58:29.180 --> 00:58:32.180
But if you believe something like that, it comes from somewhere.

1006
00:58:32.180 --> 00:58:34.560
There's a root to it.

1007
00:58:34.560 --> 00:58:39.420
There's a lie that was believed somewhere along the line and you got to get down to

1008
00:58:39.420 --> 00:58:40.420
it.

1009
00:58:40.420 --> 00:58:41.420
You got to find it.

1010
00:58:41.420 --> 00:58:44.140
When's the first time I started believing that?

1011
00:58:44.140 --> 00:58:47.100
When's the first time I started saying this?

1012
00:58:47.100 --> 00:58:52.220
When's the first time I heard this?

1013
00:58:52.220 --> 00:58:55.920
And then you need to replace it with truth.

1014
00:58:55.920 --> 00:58:57.380
Nothing is impossible with God.

1015
00:58:57.380 --> 00:59:01.380
That's the truth.

1016
00:59:01.380 --> 00:59:02.660
And here's some more truth.

1017
00:59:02.660 --> 00:59:09.980
If it's happened to somebody, then it can happen.

1018
00:59:09.980 --> 00:59:11.220
Nothing is impossible with God.

1019
00:59:11.220 --> 00:59:12.220
But guess what?

1020
00:59:12.220 --> 00:59:13.220
It's not impossible.

1021
00:59:13.220 --> 00:59:14.220
Why?

1022
00:59:14.220 --> 00:59:15.220
Because it's already happened.

1023
00:59:15.220 --> 00:59:18.340
It's already happened to a bunch of people, which means it's not only not impossible,

1024
00:59:18.340 --> 00:59:19.340
it's probable.

1025
00:59:19.340 --> 00:59:23.420
And if it can happen for them, why can't it happen for you?

1026
00:59:23.420 --> 00:59:25.140
It's going to happen for somebody.

1027
00:59:25.140 --> 00:59:27.780
Why can't that somebody be you?

1028
00:59:27.780 --> 00:59:31.740
And that's where you get down to the real lie of what you think about yourself.

1029
00:59:31.740 --> 00:59:34.620
Because if it's going to happen for somebody, but you don't believe that somebody can be

1030
00:59:34.620 --> 00:59:40.300
you, then you need to ask yourself why, why not?

1031
00:59:40.300 --> 00:59:42.880
Why not?

1032
00:59:42.880 --> 00:59:43.880
Why can't it be you?

1033
00:59:43.880 --> 00:59:46.180
And I'm not just talking about getting married.

1034
00:59:46.180 --> 00:59:48.260
I'm talking about being healthy.

1035
00:59:48.260 --> 00:59:51.420
I'm talking about being provided for.

1036
00:59:51.420 --> 00:59:54.860
I'm talking about being reconciled.

1037
00:59:54.860 --> 01:00:00.620
Please reconcile every day for those of you that, you know, have all kinds of relationships.

1038
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.580
problems with your family, with your kids, with this or that, people get healing in

1039
01:00:04.580 --> 01:00:10.520
their relationships all the time. People reconcile all the time. Axes are buried

1040
01:00:10.520 --> 01:00:18.360
all the time. Why can't yours be? People get forgiven by others all the time.

1041
01:00:20.720 --> 01:00:24.960
There's so many things. All right, Father God, we just thank you for this time

1042
01:00:24.960 --> 01:00:29.640
together. We know this is an important subject, Lord, and so arrest our attention

1043
01:00:30.160 --> 01:00:34.000
Holy Spirit, help us to focus on this, not just let it just roll off our back.

1044
01:00:34.000 --> 01:00:38.080
Don't let us just be doers of the word. Let us be not just hearers of the word,

1045
01:00:38.080 --> 01:00:42.280
but doers of the word. Let us do the work right now, do the hard work with you,

1046
01:00:42.280 --> 01:00:47.480
really press into this so that we can have freedom because you have designed us,

1047
01:00:47.480 --> 01:00:52.800
you have created us to live powerfully, to manifest good things, to come into

1048
01:00:52.800 --> 01:00:56.760
agreement with the good things that you've already manifested for us.

1049
01:00:56.760 --> 01:01:01.280
Let it be done on earth as it already is in heaven. In Jesus' name, amen.

1050
01:01:01.280 --> 01:01:02.280
Love y'all. See you soon.