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All right, welcome, everyone, to Supernatural Saturday.

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I know we have some new people joining us, so welcome.

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If you wonder what Supernatural Saturday is all about, it is the one session a week where

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we gather together, regardless of what phase you are in in the program, we all come together

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on Saturdays to look to the Lord to see what's the current prophetic reality of heaven.

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What is God doing?

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What's he up to?

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In the life of humanity, what's he up to in our lives?

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And so this is what we do on Saturdays, and it's always a really good time.

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I always learn a lot.

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Do you guys always learn a lot?

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There's always a lot of things that happen here that are very encouraging, very corrective

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in a good way.

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God always puts us back on course, so to speak, and so I love that.

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In fact, you guys, just recently, I've had several different people say to me, hey, God

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just wants you to know that you're on the right track.

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God just wants you to know that you're on the right track, and that meant a lot to me.

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Several different people, unbeknownst to each other, telling me that God says I'm on the

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right track, and I just assumed that had something to do with the railroad.

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You know, I'm an etymology girl.

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I really like the origin of words.

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Words mean a lot to me, and that's why God is very specific when He talks to me, because

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He's created me in such a way that I love words, which is interesting, because I had

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dyslexia when I was a child.

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I feel like I've healed from a lot of it, but when I was little, I had a really hard

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time with words and with reading.

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I couldn't learn to read the way that children learn to read phonetically, so in first grade,

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my teacher told my mom that I was probably mentally retarded, true story, because I could

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not phonetically read or understand how to read the way that they were teaching kids

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back then in the, let's see, first grade, like early 80s.

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My mom got me a tutor.

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Our next door neighbor was a retired school teacher, and I started going over her house

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after school, and she taught me to sight read, so meaning that she basically utilized

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my memory.

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You know, children have great memories.

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If you don't think they have great memories, just promise them something and then don't

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deliver it, and then you will see very well that a child will remember for the next ten

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years that you did not take them to get ice cream that day.

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They'll actually continue to remind you of it too, just so you know, but she used something

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that I had, an asset that I had, which was I had an amazing memory because I'm a child,

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and she began to show me flashcards of words and then just tell me what the word was.

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This is what the word dog looks like.

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This is what the word, you know, hanger looks like.

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This is what the word balloon looks like.

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She just showed me the words, and eventually what happened was, is I started recognizing

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those words, and we'd read these reader books together, and when I didn't recognize a word,

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she would just tell me what it is, and eventually I started reading, and I became a voracious

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reader, and now to this day, if I come across a word that I have never seen before and no

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one has told me what the word is, I still have a really hard time sounding it out, and

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that's why I butcher a lot of your names, because I just don't know how to say your

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names.

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I know, you know, I know letters and I know sounds now because I'm 51 years old, but yeah,

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it's still a hard thing.

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So bottom line is, is that, you know, things change.

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Things happen.

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God is with us.

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All the thoughts.

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All the things.

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Okay.

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So let's move forward into today's Supernatural Saturday.

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I have no idea why I was even telling you that story because I don't remember.

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My memory is not as good as it used to be, but we're going to go ahead and head into

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the amazing and beautiful word that God has for us.

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Oh, right.

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On the right track.

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So God said, I'm on the right track, and I was like, you know, I think that's about like

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being on the railroad and, you know, not being on a track where another train is coming,

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but I actually looked up the origin of that saying, and that just, it had to do with hunting.

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It had to do with being on the trail of something.

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You know what I'm saying?

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You know, on the trail of something, like hunting something.

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So I thought that was really interesting being on the right track, on the right trail.

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And so God is basically saying to us, Hey, you got the scent of what I have for you.

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You got the scent.

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You got it.

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continue to follow the scent, continue to follow the trail,

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continue to follow the track

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because you're headed the right direction.

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You're gonna get the prize kind of thing.

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I like that better than the train analogy, right?

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Because there's a prize, you're on the right,

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you know, you're going the right direction

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to find the pot of gold, you know, whatever it is.

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You're headed the right direction and I like that.

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But you guys, I would be lying if I told you

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that the trail hasn't all of a sudden gotten kind of rocky.

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Anybody else?

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Not that it was ever that smooth, if I'm being honest.

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You know, not that it's ever been that smooth.

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And you guys, here's the thing that we do

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and we should not do.

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We look at other people's trails

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through their highlight reels, right?

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I'm sure that there are people out there

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that don't know me.

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They don't get on a Supernatural Saturday call with me.

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They just look at my Instagram.

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They see my smile and pearly whites on there

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and they're like, oh, she's got such a good and easy life.

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Oh my God, God's so good to her.

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Not that he isn't, but like, you know,

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they just think that my life's all rainbows and butterflies

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and ascending the mountain, mountaintop experiences.

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Have you ever seen those goats on the side of the mountain

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and they're standing on like a little tiny piece of rock

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and you're like, how'd that goat get up there?

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What are these goats even doing?

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Are they showing off?

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Like, what's going on with these goats?

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And you're like, how, how in the world

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are they scaling this cliff, these goats?

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It looks like they're Velcroed to the side of a mountain.

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Yeah, I feel like the goat a lot.

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You know, and in fact, I have to be honest with you.

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Every time someone calls someone the goat,

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like the greatest of all time, it's an acronym, G-O-A-T.

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Every time anyone, people call me that.

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Oh, Jackie, you're the goat.

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And I'm like, yep, I'm the goat on the side of the mountain

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in the treacherous place trying to climb.

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You know, that's what I always think of.

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But, you know, we look at other people's lives

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and we are tempted to believe that they don't have

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the kind of problems that we have.

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We're tempted to believe, ladies,

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that, you know, they're not having hot flashes

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and they're not in menopause.

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We have a temptation to believe that,

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oh, just because they're married

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that their life is all rainbows and butterflies, right?

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It's not true.

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It's not.

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In fact, I have my own theory that the reason

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why so many married people are trying

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to get all you single people to forget about getting married

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is because they're not happily married.

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I can, listen, I can promote marriage

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and I can promote it from the rooftops.

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Get married.

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It's amazing.

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You're gonna love it.

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Is it hard sometimes?

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Sure, it's hard.

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Any relationship is hard sometimes,

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but I love being married and I have a good marriage.

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I have a good partnership.

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I have a good partner.

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And so I, of course, am gonna want this for everybody.

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I'm gonna want it for everybody, right?

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But people who are not happily married,

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people who think that singleness looks better than marriage,

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people that have been talking to their divorced friends,

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come on now.

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People that have been talking

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to their divorced friends too long.

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Look, I just wanna tell you one thing.

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You talk to people that are disgruntled about anything.

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Let's take a couple examples here

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because this is what we're gonna talk about today.

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You're like, Jackie, are you rambling?

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No, this is actually the subject for today.

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It's about our words.

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And we're gonna dive into that really deeply

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here in a second.

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But let's just take any example.

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Let's take your workplace.

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You've been working there for 15 years.

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Of course, you're taken for granted at some level

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because that's every human relationship.

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People don't know what they got

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until it's gone kind of thing.

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But maybe you're having a really bad week.

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You have some deadlines.

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You feel like you're doing your unfair share of work,

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whatever, and you're at the company coffee shop,

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the place everyone from the company goes,

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and you're sitting there

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and another disgruntled worker comes

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and sits down next to you.

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Let's call her Pam.

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If your name's Pam, just,

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I took it from the office, the show, The Office.

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So it's not you that I'm talking about.

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So sitting next to each other,

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having a little Americano, latte, whatever it is you drink,

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and she starts complaining about work,

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commiserating with you.

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You start talking about it.

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But you know, Pam's getting out.

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Pam's getting a new job.

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She's getting out of here.

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And every time you see her up until,

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you know, she's working out her notice,

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her two weeks, one month notice or whatever,

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you're like, oh, well, that looks,

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grass looks greener where Pam is going.

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Is it?

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No, because she started, first of all,

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she's starting over from scratch.

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She's gonna be the new kid on the block.

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You've already been here for 15 years.

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No one thinks about watering their patch of grass.

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Everyone just wants to find a greener patch of grass.

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And this is what happens.

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You know, there are a lot of people,

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and I'm gonna tell you this because you need to know this,

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and you might be one of these people.

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You might be one of these people,

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and it's important for you to hear this from my mouth.

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There are people that are divorced right now

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that did need to get divorced.

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They did not need to get divorced.

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I'm just gonna say it plainly.

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They didn't.

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I'm not one of those people,

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you guys have known me long enough,

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and if you're new here, you're gonna get to know me.

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I'm not one of those people

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that does not believe in divorce.

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I believe that divorce sometimes is inevitable.

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I do think that it should be the last resort,

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but I do think that it should be a resort.

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I think that it should be something

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that people are allowed to do.

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I think that it's something people shouldn't be shamed for.

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I think that God advocates it.

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I think that God gave it as a last resort.

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He's like, look, if you're gonna have hard hearts,

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if you're gonna mistreat each other,

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then just get divorced.

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Don't stay here.

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I don't think that you can heal

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in the same environment that's making you sick.

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I think that the healing cannot begin

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until after those divorce papers come through.

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That has been my experience.

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I tarried in that marriage for 12 years

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before I finally said, enough's enough,

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I can't do this anymore.

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Every year, I tried to get divorced,

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and every year, the people around me convinced me

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that I needed to pray more and stay longer.

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But after 12 years, and a lot of you know

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the details of that story,

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I was like, no, I gotta get out.

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And I did, and I'm so glad I did.

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I have not regretted that for one moment.

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Was it easy?

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No.

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Did it solve all the problems that were me?

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This is important.

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Did it solve all the problems

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that actually weren't my former husband, they were me?

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No, no.

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In fact, you'll know what those problems are

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because guess what?

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Your former spouse will be gone,

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but the problems will still be there

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because they're you.

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They're you, they're little old you.

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And so I had to deal with that stuff,

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and I finally got a chance to deal with it

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because once again, you can't heal

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in the same environment that's making you sick.

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And the dynamic between me and my former spouse

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was making me very, very sick.

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My life was almost lost several times

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during that 12-year marriage.

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So all that to say this,

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there are people divorced right now

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that didn't need to get divorced.

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They needed to do their hard work.

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They needed to grow up.

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They needed to stop being immature and selfish.

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They needed to stop complaining.

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They needed to stop hanging out with their single friends

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or their divorced friends that were poisoning their mind

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about how great it is out here

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in these single streets.

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How you can find someone to treat you better,

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treat you like the queen

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that you deserve to be treated like.

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Get out of here.

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Stop.

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Now that's water under the bridge

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because those people are already divorced,

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but hopefully they have, now that they are divorced,

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seen that the company you keep is important

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and you friends, listen,

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I wasn't gonna do Supernatural Saturday

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about the company that we keep,

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but it seems Holy Spirit is leading a direction.

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So let's go here for a little while.

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The company you keep is so important.

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You know, they say that you become

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like the five closest relationships in your life.

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Have you ever heard this?

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This is not in my notes for today.

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This is not anything that I planned on talking about,

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but I really do believe God wants us to hear this.

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You have to surround yourself with people

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who are aligned with heaven,

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not just for their own lives, but for your life as well.

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This is why I don't take advice from just anybody.

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I don't.

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This is gonna sound a little bit maybe arrogant.

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It's gonna sound maybe a little unteachable on my part,

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but I've learned this the hard way.

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I've learned this the hard way.

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There's a lot of people that know a lot of things

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because they read some books.

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They listen to some webinars or some, you know,

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some sort of psychology coaching thing.

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They read something somewhere, an article.

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I don't take advice from people

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who haven't had to implement that advice

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for their own lives.

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Also don't take advice from people

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who are not invested in helping me walk out,

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not just that advice, but the consequences of that advice.

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All advice has consequences.

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All change has consequences.

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And I don't just mean bad consequences.

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It could be good consequences.

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But you cannot allow people to speak into your life

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that are not going to be invested in the outcome.

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Does that make sense?

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They gotta be invested in the outcome.

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Take your doctor, for example.

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If you have a doctor that you're just a number for,

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they don't know you.

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They don't know you.

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They're not invested in your health

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and your life and your family.

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They don't know the names of your kids.

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They don't know you.

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You're just a number.

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Okay, you're just an appointment on their calendar.

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They come in, they spout off

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about what they learned in medical school

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concerning your test results,

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your blood work, your whatever.

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And then they spend five seconds talking to you

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and then they rush out into another patient's room.

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And I understand that doctors are overworked

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and I understand that they have quotas.

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Did you guys know that doctors have quotas?

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They're not supposed to spend a lot of time

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with each patient in some of these,

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I called it something with my husband,

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but he was just like, gosh, what did I call it?

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One of those places where, not a chop shop.

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Chop shop keeps coming to mind,

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but that is not what I said.

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It was just a kind of place

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where they just turn and burn you.

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They're just in the room and then they're out.

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Don't have a doctor like that.

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You might have to search for a little while,

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but you need to find someone who's invested in your story,

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your health profile, your life.

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Cattle call is what I called it.

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I felt like some of these places,

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when we first moved to Austin,

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I was looking for just a primary care doctor,

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someone to get your annual test done with.

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And I felt like it was a cattle call.

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And I didn't like it.

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So now I work with a tiny little nurse practitioner,

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tiny little office, little practice,

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nurse practitioner, functional health doctor.

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She's invested in me.

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She knows me.

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She knows my son just got married.

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Her sister just passed away.

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My husband just had a telehealth call

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just to check in with her yesterday.

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And I said, oh, I'm so sorry.

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I was in the car when he was on the phone with her.

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And I just said, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister.

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So we've been praying for you.

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She said, oh, thank you so much.

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That's so kind.

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This is the kind of relationship

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that I wanna have with my doctor.

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Yes.

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Friends, who are you surrounding yourself with?

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This is not even the topic of today's Supernatural Saturday,

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but Holy Spirit wants to ask you,

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who are you surrounding yourself with?

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Remember when we were kids

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and someone in your life, maybe it was a parent,

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maybe it's a teacher.

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I don't wanna say a parent

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because some of you raised by wolves, okay?

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Parents didn't care where you were or what you were doing.

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I've experienced that.

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So I know that to be true.

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But some adult in your life said,

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you shouldn't be hanging around with those kids

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or watch who you hang around with

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and be careful who you hang around with.

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Raise your hand if someone has ever said that to you

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growing up.

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Get those hands up.

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The company you keep.

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Birds of a feather flock together.

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Come on.

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Have we ever heard any of this stuff?

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Has anyone ever been told

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that someone was being a bad influence on you?

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Anybody else?

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You guys were influenced.

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You guys were influenced.

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We are, and this is important for you to understand,

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we're influenced overtly,

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which means you know that you're being influenced

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and we are also influenced covertly

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by the company that we keep.

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I will tell you, when my pastor went to prison

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and I got away from that small church

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that I had been at for 12 years,

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the same church that was trying to convince me to stay

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in an abusive marriage every year for 12 years,

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when I got away from that, I love those people.

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I love them.

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They were my family, but when I got away from it

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and I got away from it because the church fell apart

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because the pastor went to prison,

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when I got away from it,

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I started to realize how much of my thinking

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was being influenced by those people,

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by that church, by that community.

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I started to realize how religious I had become.

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I actually started to realize,

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you guys, this is 20 plus years ago,

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how judgmental towards people who weren't like us,

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who didn't live life the way that we did, I had become.

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You can't see it while you're on the inside.

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You get what I'm saying?

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saying. You don't see how you're being influenced until there's distance, until there's time

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and space that brings clarity. So it's better before you get into a friendship, before you

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get into a community, for you to really ask yourself, I know we all want to belong, we

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all want friends, we all want community, and nothing's perfect. Look, I'm not asking you

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to look for anything perfect here. Nothing's perfect. But you need to ask yourself, hey,

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is this group of people really aligned with who I want to become? Do they have marriages

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that I admire? Do I want to be like these folks? You know, I always say that relationships

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come in the form of reasons and seasons and treasons, if you guys have never heard me

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say that. I'm saying it now for your benefit. So what it means is that you get into relationship

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and I'm talking, I'm not talking about, obviously not talking about romantic relationship, but

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you can't apply it. I'm talking about friendships. I'm talking about your inner circle. I'm talking

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about the people that you might take advice from, the people that you do life with. Those

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people come into your life for reasons sometimes. For instance, you could be traveling and you

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met someone while you were traveling. The reason was you were traveling. That's why

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you met this person. They can come into your life for seasons. Maybe you became friends

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with your children's friends' parents during, you know, baseball season. Your child traveled

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to play baseball and you became friends with the other parents. Your child's grown up now.

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They don't play baseball anymore. Do you see those people anymore? Probably not. Those

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were seasonal friends for that season of your life. Maybe for a season of your life, you

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were a missionary and you made friends in that place where you were a missionary, that

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were other missionaries, whatever. It doesn't matter. And then there's, of course, the treason

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friends, and those are the friends that they come into your life to teach you a lesson.

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They come into your life for you to learn something. Because of Romans 8, 28, God works

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all things to our good. Some of us have been betrayed by people. There's even been people

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in this community that their best friend ran off with their spouse. Yes, friends, that

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has happened here. I mean, it hasn't happened here, but it's happened in the lives of people

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that are here. Betrayed you, lied to you, lied about you, whatever. And we're like,

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man, I wish I would've saw that coming. Well, you probably did at some level see it coming,

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but what happens is that we make a lot of excuses for the people that we love. We ignore

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a lot of things. And also what happens is there's grace that we're giving that we probably

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shouldn't be giving, but we do give it and it's not wasted because once again, we learn

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a lot through those relationships, don't we? When we heal from those relationships, we

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learn a lot and hopefully you became better and not bitter.

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Right. So that was just an add on from Holy Spirit today about really taking a close look

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at your close relationships. If you're in my book club, then you're doing something

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called relationship advisory circle and you need to make sure that the people that are

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closest to you, you know, I've always noticed that people, especially when they get older,

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they have a lot of frenemies in their lives. And let me tell you what I mean by that. Some

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of the closest people to them are also people who speak so negatively about them. They're

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always telling you what's wrong with you. They're never building you up. They're, you

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know, either jealous or, um, they just don't want you to win. They're threatened by you

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in some way. They don't want you to win. They don't clap when you win. They don't celebrate

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you. I mean, why would you, why would your inner circle have people like this in it?

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I want you to ask yourself that question. I don't care if they're a family member. I

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don't care if it's your sister or a cousin that you grew up with. It's like a sister

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or brother to you. I don't care if it's your mother or father. Yeah. You can be in a relationship

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with these people because they're your family. Um, but with good boundaries, you don't have

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to let them be in your inner circle. You don't have to let them speak into your life. You

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don't have to let them degrade you and you know, tell you all the time what's wrong with

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you. This is why you're single. Anyone else ever had someone in your life that supposedly

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is supposed to be a friend or a family member who's supposed to be close to you, tell you

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that you're single because of, and then they just fill the blank with all kinds of crap

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that's wrong with you.

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And it's supposed to sound like it's helpful, but it actually is just, um,

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just degrading you. Anybody else ever experienced that?

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Okay, so my next question is for all the people that are putting their thumbs up and their hands

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up. Why? Why are you allowing this to continue? Why? Oh, because Jackie, if I say something,

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they're going to be offended. Well, they're offending you. They're going to continue to

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do that until you put them in their place and just let them know. You don't got to be mean about it.

500
00:25:27.920 --> 00:25:31.360
You just got to be like, oh, hey, listen, I don't need your advice.

501
00:25:34.720 --> 00:25:35.520
I didn't ask.

502
00:25:41.600 --> 00:25:42.560
I didn't ask for that.

503
00:25:45.600 --> 00:25:49.680
Friends, you need to be surrounded by people who see the best in you and pull it out.

504
00:25:49.680 --> 00:25:57.680
They see who you could be, and they pull that out by celebrating you, by encouraging you,

505
00:25:59.600 --> 00:26:02.080
by promoting you, by clapping when you win.

506
00:26:06.160 --> 00:26:11.520
Right? Some of these people that are doing this to you, they're not even malicious or evil people.

507
00:26:12.080 --> 00:26:17.600
They're just people who are negative. They're already negative. They're negative people.

508
00:26:18.320 --> 00:26:22.640
And they're people who probably think that they're doing it because they're concerned

509
00:26:22.640 --> 00:26:25.440
about you and they want to help you. But guess what? You don't need that kind of help.

510
00:26:27.520 --> 00:26:31.280
That's like drowning. And instead of someone throwing you a rope, they send you,

511
00:26:31.280 --> 00:26:38.400
they throw you a cement block. Here, I'm helping you. No, you're drowning me. I'm good.

512
00:26:42.080 --> 00:26:45.280
So friends, if you're going to make new friends, which I hope that you will.

513
00:26:46.080 --> 00:26:50.480
And by the way, for all of you that missed the book club, I have decided to do it again. So

514
00:26:50.480 --> 00:26:54.480
after this five weeks is over, we're going to recycle back. And not even after the five weeks

515
00:26:54.480 --> 00:26:59.040
is over, not tomorrow, or I'm sorry, I don't even know what day it is. My grandbaby's just

516
00:26:59.040 --> 00:27:04.800
left. And you guys, if you have never been loved and also terrorized by twin three and a half

517
00:27:04.800 --> 00:27:11.120
year olds, then you're missing out. Because they loved me and terrorized me for an entire two

518
00:27:11.120 --> 00:27:15.600
weeks. And I was glad they were here. But when I tell you I've never experienced this type of

519
00:27:15.600 --> 00:27:21.840
tired, there's a reason why older people can't have children, I think. And this is probably the

520
00:27:21.840 --> 00:27:34.800
reason. Lord help me. But I will recover. But not this Monday, but next Monday, whatever that date

521
00:27:34.800 --> 00:27:39.440
is, someone put it up in the calendar. What's not? A week from this Monday, the new book club will

522
00:27:39.440 --> 00:27:44.880
start on Mondays. So if Mondays is a good day for you, and you want to do a book club with me,

523
00:27:44.880 --> 00:27:48.400
and you're sad that you missed out, and you're been like kicking yourself because you didn't get

524
00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:53.200
in the registration in time, you're in luck, because we're going to do another one by popular

525
00:27:53.200 --> 00:27:57.680
demand. There are a lot of people that wanted to do it and just missed, they missed out on the timing

526
00:27:57.680 --> 00:28:02.160
of it. Okay. All right. So you will see that either in your email, or we'll post it in the

527
00:28:02.160 --> 00:28:07.440
group or something will happen. Anyway, I'm really encouraging people to build the circle around them

528
00:28:07.440 --> 00:28:11.760
in the book club. And if you don't have a circle, a lot of people don't have a circle. You're like,

529
00:28:11.760 --> 00:28:16.000
Jackie, you know, I know what you're saying is helpful, but I don't even have any friends. I don't

530
00:28:16.000 --> 00:28:20.640
even have any close friends. I'm doing life all alone out here. Okay. Well, God wants to take the

531
00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:27.840
solitary and put you in family, put you in community, put you in friendship. But in order

532
00:28:27.840 --> 00:28:35.600
for you to choose correctly, you need to really ask yourself, do I, do I want,

533
00:28:36.560 --> 00:28:41.360
what do I want in a friend? What do I need in a friend? What, who am I in a friendship? What,

534
00:28:41.360 --> 00:28:45.280
what do people need and want from me? And remember, it needs to be reciprocal.

535
00:28:45.280 --> 00:28:49.760
It can't just be what people need from you. It also has to be what you need from them. It has to be

536
00:28:49.760 --> 00:28:54.400
that that's what defines a friendship. Y'all. A lot of you have people that they, that you do

537
00:28:54.400 --> 00:28:59.760
things for all the time that also do not do things for you. That's not a friendship.

538
00:28:59.760 --> 00:29:03.440
Friendship has to be back and forth, giving and receiving. You understand that, right?

539
00:29:07.040 --> 00:29:11.360
You're like, well, then what are those other people? Takers. That's what they are. They're

540
00:29:11.360 --> 00:29:16.880
not friends. You're a giver and they're a taker and givers do attract takers just so you know,

541
00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:24.240
so you got to be careful with that. I have a friend right now and they call me a friend.

542
00:29:24.880 --> 00:29:27.680
And I call them a friend because I don't know what else to call them.

543
00:29:27.680 --> 00:29:30.880
But I only hear from them when they want something from me. Anybody else?

544
00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:41.360
That's it. In fact, when I see their number pop up on my phone because they're calling me,

545
00:29:41.920 --> 00:29:48.560
I know they want something from me. Now they'll shoot the breeze for a few minutes before the ask.

546
00:29:49.520 --> 00:29:53.920
And we have, you know, it's a funny friendship, you know, funny, a funny connection. So we'll

547
00:29:53.920 --> 00:29:59.920
laugh a little, we'll, we'll joke a little and stuff. And then, you know, we'll, we'll have fun.

548
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.000
comes the ask.

549
00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:03.000
Mm-hmm.

550
00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:04.000
Mm-hmm.

551
00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:05.000
Right?

552
00:30:05.000 --> 00:30:12.920
And when I ask for something from them, they say they'll do it, but you know what they

553
00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:13.920
do?

554
00:30:13.920 --> 00:30:15.160
They don't ever do it.

555
00:30:15.160 --> 00:30:17.360
See that?

556
00:30:17.360 --> 00:30:19.880
All right.

557
00:30:19.880 --> 00:30:23.920
So the bottom line is, is that you want reciprocal relationships.

558
00:30:24.920 --> 00:30:30.720
you and I want to help you to, you know, make a little list of what it is that you need.

559
00:30:30.720 --> 00:30:34.480
And for those of you that are like, oh, I saw someone say, my dad says I'm too picky

560
00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:43.160
when it comes to, you know, a romantic relationship, let me just say this.

561
00:30:43.160 --> 00:30:45.240
It's important to have non-negotiables.

562
00:30:45.240 --> 00:30:50.600
It's important to understand that your preferences are exactly that, their preferences.

563
00:30:50.600 --> 00:30:54.920
It's important to be realistic and not be in some fantasy world about your future love

564
00:30:54.920 --> 00:30:56.360
life.

565
00:30:56.360 --> 00:30:57.360
But then I want to say this.

566
00:30:57.360 --> 00:30:58.360
I'm going to add this to it.

567
00:30:58.360 --> 00:31:03.400
It's equally important for you to understand that you are picking someone that you are

568
00:31:03.400 --> 00:31:05.840
going to spend the rest of your life with.

569
00:31:05.840 --> 00:31:09.200
And so you need to choose accordingly.

570
00:31:09.200 --> 00:31:11.880
Okay?

571
00:31:11.880 --> 00:31:19.960
All of that being said, you really have to be more than mildly interested in this person.

572
00:31:20.320 --> 00:31:24.080
You have to have more than just tolerance for this person.

573
00:31:24.080 --> 00:31:29.080
Otherwise, stay single and have an amazing life.

574
00:31:29.080 --> 00:31:33.560
Seriously, have an amazing life.

575
00:31:33.560 --> 00:31:40.040
Amazing friendships, travel, see the world, work on your career, become everything that

576
00:31:40.040 --> 00:31:43.120
God created you to be.

577
00:31:43.120 --> 00:31:47.400
You definitely are not just going to pick someone just to have, ladies, a penis and

578
00:31:47.400 --> 00:31:48.400
a pulse.

579
00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:51.360
And gentlemen, to have whatever it is that you're looking for.

580
00:31:51.360 --> 00:31:55.080
I could say a lot of things here and I'm not going to.

581
00:31:55.080 --> 00:31:56.680
Why?

582
00:31:56.680 --> 00:32:01.240
Because I've matured.

583
00:32:01.240 --> 00:32:12.680
Anyway, I want to talk about what we've been talking about, what our words have been saying.

584
00:32:12.680 --> 00:32:16.880
Last night, you guys, I don't know if you guys live in Texas, if any of you live in

585
00:32:17.360 --> 00:32:20.400
Texas, but we were having torrential rains this year.

586
00:32:20.400 --> 00:32:24.920
I've never seen it rain this much in Austin, Texas, in the whole eight years that I've

587
00:32:24.920 --> 00:32:25.920
lived here.

588
00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:32.160
We've had two months of solid rain and heavy rain and crazy rain, sideways rain, flood

589
00:32:32.160 --> 00:32:38.600
alerts, crazy stuff happening here.

590
00:32:38.600 --> 00:32:42.720
And last night, because you know it doesn't rain a lot here, it doesn't rain a lot at

591
00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:43.720
all.

592
00:32:43.720 --> 00:32:49.080
We have maybe a couple of weeks of rain every year and then a lot of dryness to the point

593
00:32:49.080 --> 00:32:55.600
of everything turning brown because there's not been any rain.

594
00:32:55.600 --> 00:32:59.760
And the reason why I'm saying this is because not only is it unusual, but you guys, I bought

595
00:32:59.760 --> 00:33:01.200
this house four years ago.

596
00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:02.200
This is my first house.

597
00:33:02.200 --> 00:33:07.040
For those of you that are just joining the story, I have never owned a house my entire

598
00:33:07.040 --> 00:33:08.040
life.

599
00:33:08.040 --> 00:33:09.040
I was a foster kid.

600
00:33:09.040 --> 00:33:15.280
I lived in 36 different houses before I finally owned my own house, which is here.

601
00:33:15.280 --> 00:33:18.760
But I don't think this house has ever experienced this type of rain because it doesn't rain

602
00:33:18.760 --> 00:33:20.560
like this in Austin, Texas.

603
00:33:20.560 --> 00:33:24.360
I've lived here for eight years and I can attest to the fact that it does not rain like

604
00:33:24.360 --> 00:33:25.520
this.

605
00:33:25.520 --> 00:33:27.760
And guess what happened when it started raining like this?

606
00:33:27.760 --> 00:33:33.200
My house started springing leaks.

607
00:33:33.200 --> 00:33:38.040
You think your roof is good if you never have rain.

608
00:33:38.040 --> 00:33:42.640
And last night, friends, my house started leaking everywhere.

609
00:33:42.640 --> 00:33:43.640
I felt like I was in a cartoon.

610
00:33:43.640 --> 00:33:48.160
Have you ever seen those cartoons where they're trying to hold something together and it springs

611
00:33:48.160 --> 00:33:51.860
a leak here and they're trying to cover that leak and then it springs another leak?

612
00:33:51.860 --> 00:33:53.560
My windows were leaking.

613
00:33:53.560 --> 00:33:58.960
There was water coming in through the window panes.

614
00:33:58.960 --> 00:34:00.080
My windows were leaking.

615
00:34:00.080 --> 00:34:01.860
My ceiling was leaking.

616
00:34:01.860 --> 00:34:04.920
Right now I'm sitting in my living room and I'm looking at all the buckets everywhere

617
00:34:04.920 --> 00:34:10.400
and I'm looking at the cracks in the sheetrock on the ceiling and the paint chipping and

618
00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:13.719
I'm looking to see all the towels everywhere.

619
00:34:13.719 --> 00:34:15.739
All right.

620
00:34:15.739 --> 00:34:17.880
So that started happening and guess what?

621
00:34:17.880 --> 00:34:27.000
That started happening and my mind started saying, oh, great.

622
00:34:27.000 --> 00:34:30.280
I found myself saying last night, I'm sick and tired of this.

623
00:34:30.280 --> 00:34:37.320
And then I realized that I just said about myself that I'm sick and I'm tired.

624
00:34:37.320 --> 00:34:40.280
And Holy Spirit was like, are you sick and tired?

625
00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:47.120
And I was like, oh, man, I don't want that.

626
00:34:47.120 --> 00:34:50.219
So what I felt like I really wanted to hit home with us today and we're going to do an

627
00:34:50.219 --> 00:34:56.800
activation here in a second is we need to take some inventory of what we've been saying,

628
00:34:56.800 --> 00:35:00.400
what's been going on in our hearts, because out of the abundance of the heart, the mind

629
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.380
mouth speaks, and we've covered this several times on Supernatural Saturday, but I really

630
00:35:04.380 --> 00:35:08.900
think that we need to revisit it just for a second.

631
00:35:08.900 --> 00:35:11.740
Because I found myself, I've been in kind of a hard season.

632
00:35:11.740 --> 00:35:16.500
You guys, I told you on a Supernatural Saturday just recently that I felt like it's just been

633
00:35:16.500 --> 00:35:18.380
one thing after another.

634
00:35:18.380 --> 00:35:19.380
Anybody else?

635
00:35:19.380 --> 00:35:22.020
And I don't mean good things.

636
00:35:22.020 --> 00:35:23.780
I don't mean things to write home about.

637
00:35:23.780 --> 00:35:32.860
I don't mean things to post on your Facebook page, praise report.

638
00:35:32.860 --> 00:35:37.220
I mean things that I'm not looking to have happen, and I'm not interested in having happen,

639
00:35:37.220 --> 00:35:43.780
and I don't want to have happen, okay?

640
00:35:43.780 --> 00:35:48.020
So I wrote down a few things that we say without realizing that we're saying it.

641
00:35:48.020 --> 00:35:51.860
And then when we realize that we're saying that, friends, it's not just a fun little

642
00:35:51.860 --> 00:35:52.860
saying.

643
00:35:52.860 --> 00:35:54.900
We have to dig in deeper.

644
00:35:54.900 --> 00:35:55.900
Where does that come from?

645
00:35:55.900 --> 00:35:58.460
Who taught me to say that?

646
00:35:58.460 --> 00:36:00.260
When did I start saying that?

647
00:36:00.260 --> 00:36:02.180
Why am I saying it now?

648
00:36:02.180 --> 00:36:05.780
And one of those things is like, I'm sick and tired, all right?

649
00:36:05.780 --> 00:36:09.380
So yes, that's a phrase, and it's a phrase that people say.

650
00:36:09.380 --> 00:36:14.620
Maybe we need to stop, you know, we need to stop being sick and tired of being sick and

651
00:36:14.620 --> 00:36:21.660
tired and figure out why we're sick and tired, amen?

652
00:36:21.660 --> 00:36:22.700
So here are a few of the things.

653
00:36:22.700 --> 00:36:24.180
I'm sick and tired of this.

654
00:36:24.180 --> 00:36:26.380
I'm sick and tired.

655
00:36:26.380 --> 00:36:30.860
Nothing ever works out for me, put in the chat.

656
00:36:30.860 --> 00:36:33.140
My luck is terrible.

657
00:36:33.140 --> 00:36:36.740
Of course, of course, this would happen to me.

658
00:36:36.740 --> 00:36:44.100
Well, you know, it's Murphy's Law, everything that can go wrong will go wrong.

659
00:36:44.100 --> 00:36:45.100
I'm just a mess.

660
00:36:45.100 --> 00:36:46.300
I'm losing my mind.

661
00:36:46.300 --> 00:36:47.980
Anyone else say, I'm going crazy.

662
00:36:47.980 --> 00:36:49.740
I'm losing my mind.

663
00:36:50.740 --> 00:36:53.980
Well, I'll probably always be alone.

664
00:36:53.980 --> 00:36:57.500
It's always something.

665
00:36:57.500 --> 00:36:59.020
I can't do this anymore.

666
00:36:59.020 --> 00:37:03.780
Come on, put in the chat what yours is.

667
00:37:03.780 --> 00:37:09.260
What are the things that you find yourself saying over yourself habitually?

668
00:37:09.260 --> 00:37:17.140
Don't be putting any nice, sweet thing in here right now, Gwen.

669
00:37:17.140 --> 00:37:20.340
We all know that we got some stinking thinking that's coming out of our mouths.

670
00:37:20.340 --> 00:37:23.340
I want to see it.

671
00:37:23.340 --> 00:37:28.380
Yours might be someone else's and it might help them to have the courage to post theirs.

672
00:37:28.380 --> 00:37:32.220
Come on.

673
00:37:32.220 --> 00:37:36.380
I'm so over this.

674
00:37:36.380 --> 00:37:41.020
So tired of this.

675
00:37:41.020 --> 00:37:42.020
Tired of being alone.

676
00:37:42.020 --> 00:37:43.460
Why do I even try?

677
00:37:43.460 --> 00:37:45.300
Anyone else be like, I give up.

678
00:37:45.300 --> 00:37:46.980
I give up.

679
00:37:47.020 --> 00:37:48.260
I can't do this anymore.

680
00:37:48.260 --> 00:37:51.420
I give up.

681
00:37:51.420 --> 00:37:52.420
I'm done.

682
00:37:52.420 --> 00:37:55.060
Oh, that's a good one.

683
00:37:55.060 --> 00:37:56.060
There's no point.

684
00:37:56.060 --> 00:37:58.300
This is pointless.

685
00:37:58.300 --> 00:38:04.500
There's no point.

686
00:38:04.500 --> 00:38:16.180
And that's just about your love life, just in general, y'all, just in general.

687
00:38:16.180 --> 00:38:20.580
And friends, this is not some religious talk we're having this morning about how you can

688
00:38:20.580 --> 00:38:23.980
never have a bad day and how you can never say anything negative.

689
00:38:23.980 --> 00:38:31.300
Nothing negative can ever come out of your mouth.

690
00:38:31.300 --> 00:38:36.460
But we got to nip in the bud the habitual complaining if you have that.

691
00:38:36.460 --> 00:38:38.380
Now we don't all have that.

692
00:38:38.380 --> 00:38:48.060
But if you are a habitual complainer, if you are habitually negative.

693
00:38:48.060 --> 00:38:50.020
My little child was like this.

694
00:38:50.020 --> 00:38:58.420
My youngest daughter used to come home from elementary school looking like someone kicked

695
00:38:58.420 --> 00:39:01.460
her around all day.

696
00:39:01.460 --> 00:39:03.860
Sad little face, little grouchy, grumpy face.

697
00:39:03.860 --> 00:39:04.860
She just hated school.

698
00:39:04.860 --> 00:39:05.860
Anyone else hate school?

699
00:39:05.860 --> 00:39:07.640
She just hated school.

700
00:39:07.640 --> 00:39:10.820
She came home and I'd be like, oh, baby, what's wrong?

701
00:39:10.820 --> 00:39:16.680
And then Holy Spirit checked me one day, said, stop asking her what's wrong, because she

702
00:39:16.680 --> 00:39:23.960
would give me a huge laundry list of what was wrong when I would ask her that.

703
00:39:23.960 --> 00:39:28.880
And you know, it's one of those complain and remain, complain and remain.

704
00:39:28.880 --> 00:39:31.760
If you want to change your life, you got to stop complaining about it or you're going

705
00:39:31.760 --> 00:39:32.960
to remain there.

706
00:39:32.960 --> 00:39:36.560
And so Holy Spirit was like, ask her today when she gets home, ask her what's right in

707
00:39:36.560 --> 00:39:37.560
her life.

708
00:39:37.560 --> 00:39:38.800
Like, what went right today?

709
00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:41.480
And man, that threw that little girl for a loop.

710
00:39:41.480 --> 00:39:45.600
When she got home, I was like, oh, baby, what's right today?

711
00:39:45.600 --> 00:39:47.800
Like, what good thing happened today?

712
00:39:47.800 --> 00:39:50.860
And she didn't know what to do with that.

713
00:39:50.860 --> 00:39:53.800
She didn't have anything to say right away, I'll tell you that, because she's used to

714
00:39:53.800 --> 00:39:54.800
just complaining.

715
00:39:54.800 --> 00:40:00.080
She's used to just, you know, bellyaching and telling me all the bad things and blah.

716
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.520
Blah blah blah and how she hates school this child I would have to threaten her in the morning when she left for school

717
00:40:06.940 --> 00:40:10.540
Threaten her that I better not get a call from the nurse's office

718
00:40:11.160 --> 00:40:13.500
That she was sick and had to come home

719
00:40:13.680 --> 00:40:18.920
She was in the nurse's office at least three times a week trying to come home from school y'all this child

720
00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:21.960
And you're like was she being bullied no

721
00:40:24.080 --> 00:40:28.720
She had a great packed lunch she wasn't being bullied in fact she was pretty popular in school

722
00:40:28.720 --> 00:40:33.560
She just didn't like school. She didn't want to be there, and I eventually let her homeschool in high school

723
00:40:33.560 --> 00:40:37.740
I eventually let her stay home and just do school online, but I

724
00:40:38.600 --> 00:40:40.600
Just had a battle with kid

725
00:40:40.720 --> 00:40:46.720
But eventually she found something to be glad about and we used to do something in this community called playing the glad game

726
00:40:46.720 --> 00:40:50.880
I'm not gonna do that today, but I really want you to take an inventory of your words

727
00:40:55.080 --> 00:40:57.080
Because remember friends

728
00:40:57.920 --> 00:40:58.800
A

729
00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:01.200
Agreement is the spiritual principle of

730
00:41:02.160 --> 00:41:05.360
Manifestation and all these new ages are out here manifest in okay

731
00:41:05.600 --> 00:41:11.880
They're out here talking about manifestation, but manifestation actually belongs to the children of God. Are you listening?

732
00:41:14.480 --> 00:41:17.760
Manifestation belongs to us. Do you believe me I?

733
00:41:18.840 --> 00:41:23.920
Give you lots of scripture for it. You're like, but Jackie. It's not saying manifestation. Yeah, but it's the concept

734
00:41:24.920 --> 00:41:31.840
Death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it will eat the fruit of it. What is the fruit manifestation?

735
00:41:40.600 --> 00:41:43.240
What is that what about Ephesians 320

736
00:41:45.400 --> 00:41:47.400
What's that say

737
00:41:47.720 --> 00:41:53.440
To him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask think or imagine by what the power that works in you

738
00:41:53.480 --> 00:41:55.480
What's the power the power is your words?

739
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:04.120
The power is Holy Spirit in you in your words

740
00:42:08.680 --> 00:42:11.840
If you speak to this mountain and say be removed I

741
00:42:13.880 --> 00:42:19.160
Just want to tell you guys yes people use that as the faith scripture because it's about the faith the grain of a mustard seed

742
00:42:19.720 --> 00:42:23.100
But it is saying using your voice, isn't it?

743
00:42:24.120 --> 00:42:26.120
You

744
00:42:26.280 --> 00:42:31.640
Have you not been created in the image of your father let's make them in our image Genesis

745
00:42:33.080 --> 00:42:35.080
First five scriptures of the Bible

746
00:42:35.840 --> 00:42:40.800
What is the image of God? He spoke everything to into existence except for us

747
00:42:40.800 --> 00:42:44.800
he made us with his hands, but he did breathe his breath into us, but

748
00:42:45.640 --> 00:42:47.240
speaking and

749
00:42:47.240 --> 00:42:49.800
Manifesting belongs to us. Are you convinced yet?

750
00:42:54.240 --> 00:42:56.240
You

751
00:42:58.880 --> 00:43:04.480
You know who cannot create the kingdom of darkness the kingdom of darkness cannot create

752
00:43:04.600 --> 00:43:12.120
That's why he hates the children of light. He hates the children of the father because we can create we've been created in the image of

753
00:43:12.120 --> 00:43:14.120
God

754
00:43:14.160 --> 00:43:16.160
Only God creates

755
00:43:17.200 --> 00:43:20.720
So the enemy is constantly doing what he's looking for your agreement

756
00:43:20.720 --> 00:43:23.880
He's looking for you to use your creation power for him

757
00:43:25.040 --> 00:43:27.040
Do you hear me?

758
00:43:28.760 --> 00:43:31.000
He wants you to use your power to create

759
00:43:31.560 --> 00:43:37.840
To create a reality it wants you to live in because you're the only one that can create not him

760
00:43:39.080 --> 00:43:41.080
He can influence you

761
00:43:43.600 --> 00:43:49.760
And I don't just mean him I mean the opposing forces working through people working through situations and circumstances all of it

762
00:43:51.400 --> 00:43:53.400
You see this through scripture

763
00:43:56.640 --> 00:44:01.600
The battle is about power the power of words because the battle is over agreement

764
00:44:01.760 --> 00:44:08.080
Who will you agree with the voice of fear the voice of lack the voice of scarcity or the voice of faith?

765
00:44:08.800 --> 00:44:12.720
The voice of circumstances when they're not going your way or the voice of God

766
00:44:13.480 --> 00:44:17.320
Every day friends. We're coming into agreement with things with our words

767
00:44:20.720 --> 00:44:24.040
And a lot of these agreements we don't even realize we're making them and I'm talking to myself

768
00:44:26.440 --> 00:44:30.720
Every time you say things like I'm never going to get ahead. I'm never going to get married

769
00:44:30.720 --> 00:44:33.880
This is never gonna happen for me. I'm never gonna make enough money. I

770
00:44:34.640 --> 00:44:37.320
Might as well just give up you're agreeing with hopelessness

771
00:44:37.880 --> 00:44:42.400
Every time you say nothing good happens to me. You're agreeing with disappointment

772
00:44:43.960 --> 00:44:48.600
Every time we say that things are never gonna change we're agreeing with defeat

773
00:44:51.720 --> 00:44:53.720
You

774
00:44:54.520 --> 00:45:00.080
We're agreeing with defeat look if you're going through a hard season get around people who are gonna lift you up and

775
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.600
They're going to speak life over you.

776
00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:05.160
Like here, that's why you should come to Supernatural Saturday.

777
00:45:13.360 --> 00:45:14.920
Let's look at the Israelites for a second.

778
00:45:16.280 --> 00:45:20.040
I think that we can learn so many fascinating things from the Old Testament.

779
00:45:20.880 --> 00:45:23.800
Just so you know, I don't live my life in the Old Testament and neither should you.

780
00:45:23.800 --> 00:45:27.120
Not everything that's written there is for you and about you, just so you know.

781
00:45:27.360 --> 00:45:33.640
But it's some good examples of just humanity and human nature and what we can learn from that.

782
00:45:34.200 --> 00:45:35.680
We live in a new dispensation.

783
00:45:35.680 --> 00:45:37.680
We live in the dispensation of grace.

784
00:45:38.040 --> 00:45:41.600
So stop applying Old Testament rules to your New Testament life, please.

785
00:45:42.520 --> 00:45:43.240
Please stop that.

786
00:45:46.760 --> 00:45:48.520
The law kills, but the spirit gives life.

787
00:45:50.440 --> 00:45:52.440
Jesus fulfilled the teaching of the prophets.

788
00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:54.480
He didn't come to do away with it.

789
00:45:54.480 --> 00:45:56.240
He came to fulfill it and it's been fulfilled.

790
00:45:57.640 --> 00:45:58.640
He didn't just die for you.

791
00:45:58.640 --> 00:46:00.400
He died as you on the cross.

792
00:46:00.800 --> 00:46:04.560
You don't have to sacrifice yourself in goats anymore.

793
00:46:08.320 --> 00:46:12.600
God's not for a pound of flesh from you and he's not looking for you to bleed out.

794
00:46:13.160 --> 00:46:15.080
Jesus did that for you already.

795
00:46:16.280 --> 00:46:19.280
It's now for you to live in the freedom that he bought for you.

796
00:46:19.440 --> 00:46:22.840
Anyway, the Israelites, they teach us something fascinating, don't they?

797
00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:41.120
They teach us what it looks like to come out of crazy bondage, slavery, abuse, something that was killing them and come into a place of freedom.

798
00:46:41.440 --> 00:46:47.040
And because that place of freedom didn't look like what they expected or it was, you know, unfamiliar to them.

799
00:46:49.600 --> 00:46:50.880
They started complaining.

800
00:46:51.880 --> 00:46:58.960
They would rather be back in prison in something familiar than being free in something unfamiliar.

801
00:47:00.760 --> 00:47:01.920
It's about control, isn't it?

802
00:47:03.520 --> 00:47:06.600
Even though they were out of control in Egypt, someone else was in control of them.

803
00:47:06.880 --> 00:47:09.200
They at least knew what life looked like every day.

804
00:47:09.200 --> 00:47:13.880
And they preferred that over the open ended promises of God.

805
00:47:13.920 --> 00:47:16.800
Except for a couple of them, they were all in the same desert.

806
00:47:18.440 --> 00:47:24.160
They all saw the same giants that were blocking them from the promised land, or at least they thought they were the same obstacles.

807
00:47:24.920 --> 00:47:26.640
But there was a different agreement that happened.

808
00:47:27.760 --> 00:47:35.440
And these in this other group of people, Joshua, Caleb, whoever was with them, one group agreed with fear and the other one agreed with God.

809
00:47:35.440 --> 00:47:36.800
Right? We can do this.

810
00:47:37.720 --> 00:47:40.480
Do you remember what Joshua and Caleb said? We can do this.

811
00:47:42.120 --> 00:47:43.440
God said we could do it.

812
00:47:43.760 --> 00:47:44.680
So we can.

813
00:47:45.080 --> 00:47:46.800
What would happen if we just started saying that?

814
00:47:47.280 --> 00:47:49.320
God said I could be married, so I can.

815
00:47:50.600 --> 00:47:53.760
Yeah, I know it's not looking good out here, but God said I could.

816
00:47:56.040 --> 00:47:57.120
And God said I could.

817
00:47:58.960 --> 00:47:59.920
God said I could.

818
00:48:00.760 --> 00:48:01.480
I can do this.

819
00:48:01.480 --> 00:48:02.520
God said I could.

820
00:48:05.880 --> 00:48:06.920
God said I could have it.

821
00:48:07.440 --> 00:48:10.680
God said that I could prosper even as my soul prospers.

822
00:48:11.040 --> 00:48:15.360
I know the bank account's looking really low right now, but God said that I'm the head and not the tail.

823
00:48:16.040 --> 00:48:18.640
He said that I'm the lender and not the borrower.

824
00:48:21.480 --> 00:48:22.680
We could do this.

825
00:48:24.920 --> 00:48:27.800
Because I don't know if you notice this or not, but I have kind of noticed this.

826
00:48:27.800 --> 00:48:30.400
Complaining doesn't actually change your circumstances, does it?

827
00:48:32.480 --> 00:48:34.280
It might feel good for a second.

828
00:48:36.280 --> 00:48:41.280
For a second, it might feel good to just get negative and just cry and feel sorry for yourself.

829
00:48:41.280 --> 00:48:45.120
But when you're done, you're in the same exact place, aren't you?

830
00:48:46.320 --> 00:48:47.360
Complain and remain.

831
00:48:47.360 --> 00:48:48.160
You're just right there.

832
00:48:50.840 --> 00:48:53.560
And there's something else that's happening that you don't realize is happening.

833
00:48:54.480 --> 00:49:00.320
If you do this enough, you're not even able to see the opportunity in front of you because negativity now has

834
00:49:00.760 --> 00:49:05.800
trained your eyes to look for evidence that things aren't going to work out.

835
00:49:09.200 --> 00:49:10.240
It's your default.

836
00:49:11.160 --> 00:49:25.240
I write about this, I'm married in 12 months or less, and the woman that I ran into in the bathroom that was in the line that wanted to see Bill Johnson at the conference and she got put in the overflow room and she was literally having a meltdown in the bathroom because this always happens to her.

837
00:49:26.240 --> 00:49:39.640
For instance, I just want to tell you something, if something always happens to you, there's a root, and we've got to get to the root of it because God has not created you for lack and loss.

838
00:49:44.840 --> 00:49:51.560
If we always are complaining, if we're always looking for evidence that things aren't going to work out, we start filtering everything through disappointment.

839
00:49:51.680 --> 00:49:54.160
David had a different habit, and I've always loved this about David.

840
00:49:54.160 --> 00:49:56.800
David had some really crazy things happen to him.

841
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.400
He gets attacked when he's tending the flock by all these wild animals.

842
00:50:04.400 --> 00:50:07.920
He doesn't ask to be anointed as king, but he gets anointed as king, and as soon as he

843
00:50:07.920 --> 00:50:15.200
gets anointed as king, people start coming for him in a bad way, hunting him down, trying

844
00:50:15.200 --> 00:50:16.200
to kill him.

845
00:50:16.200 --> 00:50:23.400
He's like, I didn't sign up for this.

846
00:50:23.400 --> 00:50:26.480
But David did something that a lot of us need to learn to do.

847
00:50:26.480 --> 00:50:29.880
When he started commiserating, he interrupted himself.

848
00:50:29.880 --> 00:50:31.600
Read the Psalms.

849
00:50:31.600 --> 00:50:35.280
He'll start describing a problem that he's having, and there's nothing wrong with that,

850
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:36.280
friends.

851
00:50:36.280 --> 00:50:37.280
You can pray.

852
00:50:37.280 --> 00:50:41.520
You can be honest with God about how you're feeling about things, but he refused to end

853
00:50:41.520 --> 00:50:42.520
it there.

854
00:50:42.520 --> 00:50:44.720
He started talking to himself.

855
00:50:44.720 --> 00:50:47.840
He started saying things like, hey, soul, why are you cast down?

856
00:50:47.840 --> 00:50:50.480
Why are you depressed?

857
00:50:50.480 --> 00:50:51.480
Hope in the Lord.

858
00:50:51.480 --> 00:50:53.240
This ain't the end.

859
00:50:53.240 --> 00:50:54.920
Soul, why are we doing this?

860
00:50:54.920 --> 00:50:55.920
Why are we spiraling?

861
00:50:55.920 --> 00:50:58.840
Why are we partnering with fear?

862
00:50:58.840 --> 00:51:02.560
When David does something else, he starts rehearsing God's faithfulness, not because

863
00:51:02.560 --> 00:51:05.320
he feels like it, but because he needs it.

864
00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:10.160
He needs to remind himself that God is good and that God always comes through.

865
00:51:10.160 --> 00:51:14.680
So he always says in his Psalms, I will remember, I will meditate, I will recall, I will declare.

866
00:51:14.680 --> 00:51:16.280
Have you ever noticed that about David?

867
00:51:16.280 --> 00:51:20.360
He's like, God is faithful, and I need to remind my soul that God is faithful.

868
00:51:20.360 --> 00:51:21.360
Where does my help come from?

869
00:51:21.360 --> 00:51:25.400
Does it come from the hills, which is a typology of human strength?

870
00:51:25.400 --> 00:51:28.800
No, it comes from the Lord, the maker of the hills.

871
00:51:28.800 --> 00:51:33.000
The maker of the kingdom of heaven, remember?

872
00:51:33.000 --> 00:51:34.000
Do you remember?

873
00:51:34.000 --> 00:51:35.000
That's what he's asking himself.

874
00:51:35.000 --> 00:51:37.560
Do you remember, David?

875
00:51:37.560 --> 00:51:49.320
God has failed you zero times.

876
00:51:49.320 --> 00:51:51.760
Let me remind you, friends, of the Scripture in the Bible.

877
00:51:51.760 --> 00:51:53.880
Many are the adversities of the unrighteous.

878
00:51:53.880 --> 00:51:55.940
Many are the adversities of the righteous.

879
00:51:55.940 --> 00:52:07.700
But God delivers them out of everyone.

880
00:52:07.700 --> 00:52:08.700
It's okay to be frustrated.

881
00:52:08.700 --> 00:52:11.860
It's okay to be overwhelmed.

882
00:52:11.860 --> 00:52:20.700
It's okay to have want something to have happened yesterday that has not happened yet.

883
00:52:20.700 --> 00:52:25.020
But I will tell you, one of your sisters just recently got married.

884
00:52:25.100 --> 00:52:30.260
I was at her wedding because it was here in Texas, and she asked me to make a toast, make

885
00:52:30.260 --> 00:52:31.260
a speech.

886
00:52:31.260 --> 00:52:37.860
And in the speech, I reminded her of all the failed dates that she had gone on.

887
00:52:37.860 --> 00:52:39.180
She was in her 50s when she got married.

888
00:52:39.180 --> 00:52:47.540
I just want to let you guys know, in her later 50s, I think she's past 55, she's 56 or something,

889
00:52:47.540 --> 00:52:48.540
57.

890
00:52:48.540 --> 00:52:54.820
And one day I got a DM from her, someone she was really excited about, just told her that

891
00:52:54.820 --> 00:52:58.420
he wasn't interested in another date.

892
00:52:58.420 --> 00:53:03.300
And I started to encourage her, and she said, okay, it's okay, Jackie, I don't need encouragement.

893
00:53:03.300 --> 00:53:05.280
Because something shifted in her.

894
00:53:05.280 --> 00:53:09.460
She didn't need me to, she didn't need encouragement from an outside source anymore, because something

895
00:53:09.460 --> 00:53:11.580
had happened on the inside of her.

896
00:53:11.580 --> 00:53:13.660
And she said, thanks, Jackie, for the kind words.

897
00:53:13.660 --> 00:53:17.900
She said, but I just want to let you know that I already had a talk with God today,

898
00:53:17.900 --> 00:53:19.620
and I let him know I'm ready.

899
00:53:19.620 --> 00:53:21.940
He can go ahead and send my husband.

900
00:53:21.940 --> 00:53:30.180
And the very next person she dated was Clayton.

901
00:53:30.180 --> 00:53:34.380
He sent me a picture of their first date.

902
00:53:34.380 --> 00:53:38.980
The very next thing in my DMs with her is a picture of their first date, because she's

903
00:53:38.980 --> 00:53:41.540
been a private client, like a coaching client of mine.

904
00:53:41.540 --> 00:53:46.540
She sends me the picture of that.

905
00:53:46.540 --> 00:53:49.300
And I looked at that picture of them, they looked like they have known each other all

906
00:53:49.300 --> 00:53:50.300
their lives.

907
00:53:50.300 --> 00:53:51.660
And I was like, that's it, he's the one.

908
00:53:51.660 --> 00:53:52.660
And he was.

909
00:53:52.660 --> 00:53:56.860
And now they're happily married, as I think they've been married for a little over a month

910
00:53:56.860 --> 00:53:59.340
now.

911
00:53:59.340 --> 00:54:01.460
She knew she was ready.

912
00:54:01.460 --> 00:54:04.260
We say we're ready, but there's a time when it shifts.

913
00:54:04.260 --> 00:54:08.180
And you know how I knew she was ready?

914
00:54:08.180 --> 00:54:11.740
She wasn't down in the mully grubs over this failed situation.

915
00:54:11.740 --> 00:54:15.820
She didn't care.

916
00:54:15.820 --> 00:54:17.760
She knew that she had a husband.

917
00:54:17.760 --> 00:54:23.440
She knew that she had a partner.

918
00:54:23.440 --> 00:54:27.280
Because the issue isn't with our words, you guys, it's with our hearts.

919
00:54:27.280 --> 00:54:31.360
God said to us, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.

920
00:54:31.360 --> 00:54:32.360
The mouth is the reporter.

921
00:54:32.360 --> 00:54:36.640
Just so you know, it's just reporting what your heart already believes.

922
00:54:36.640 --> 00:54:41.160
And so if it's negative words that keep coming out, we can't just police our language.

923
00:54:41.160 --> 00:54:43.360
We have to heal our hearts.

924
00:54:43.360 --> 00:54:45.720
All right?

925
00:54:45.720 --> 00:54:48.600
We have to heal our hearts.

926
00:54:48.600 --> 00:54:56.560
So I want you as homework to write down all the negative statements that you say regularly.

927
00:54:56.560 --> 00:54:58.280
And I want you to get to the root belief.

928
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.160
And then I want you to write down right under it, what does God say instead?

929
00:55:04.160 --> 00:55:06.760
Remember I tell you, we can't erase, we have to replace.

930
00:55:06.760 --> 00:55:12.360
It's not just enough to try to stop being negative and start being positive, you got

931
00:55:12.360 --> 00:55:17.020
to get to the root of where the negativity is coming from, where the lie is, where the

932
00:55:17.020 --> 00:55:20.160
unbelief is.

933
00:55:20.160 --> 00:55:26.080
So write down the truth and then write down, I agree with God, that blank, whatever it

934
00:55:26.080 --> 00:55:27.080
is, complete the sentence.

935
00:55:27.240 --> 00:55:29.240
Do you understand the assignment?

936
00:55:29.240 --> 00:55:36.520
This is what you're going to bring tomorrow to activation if you go to Sunday night activation.

937
00:55:36.520 --> 00:55:40.440
Write down the things that you say, write down the root of where those things are coming

938
00:55:40.440 --> 00:55:48.840
from, the hurt, the pain, the unbelief, the lie, and then write down truth and then write

939
00:55:48.840 --> 00:55:55.800
down a simple declaration, I agree with God, that blank.

940
00:55:55.800 --> 00:56:00.420
We have to stop rehearsing our disappointment, you guys, I'm talking to myself.

941
00:56:00.420 --> 00:56:07.420
Rehearsing our fears, rehearsing our offenses, rehearsing our lack, that's a terrible play.

942
00:56:07.420 --> 00:56:08.540
Stop rehearsing those lines.

943
00:56:08.540 --> 00:56:11.980
We don't ever want to be in that play ever again.

944
00:56:11.980 --> 00:56:17.100
Stop memorizing those lines, it's time to change the conversation and not because we're

945
00:56:17.100 --> 00:56:26.780
pretending, you guys, not positive mental attitude, not the, you know, eternal sunshine

946
00:56:26.780 --> 00:56:27.780
of the spotless mind.

947
00:56:27.780 --> 00:56:29.780
I'm not talking about that.

948
00:56:29.780 --> 00:56:37.040
Not denying reality, but because we're choosing faith, we're choosing God's reality over present

949
00:56:37.040 --> 00:56:38.040
circumstances.

950
00:56:38.040 --> 00:56:53.520
It's all about perspective, you guys, and I believe that if we are willing to let God

951
00:56:53.520 --> 00:56:58.400
help us change our perspective right now, we'll start to see like Joshua and Caleb did,

952
00:56:58.400 --> 00:57:02.000
we'll start to see the opportunity instead of the obstacle.

953
00:57:02.000 --> 00:57:04.920
We'll start to see the provision instead of the problem.

954
00:57:04.920 --> 00:57:09.120
We'll start to see the solution, we'll start to see God's fingerprints that were there

955
00:57:09.120 --> 00:57:10.120
all along.

956
00:57:10.120 --> 00:57:12.760
Do you believe that?

957
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I believe it.

958
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Carrie says, how do we get to the root?

959
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Well, you write down that, the statements or you write down, you know, what you say

960
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when you're overwhelmed, when you're frustrated, write it down.

961
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And then you ask yourself, what is this saying?

962
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What am I saying when I'm saying this?

963
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I'm sick and tired, okay.

964
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I'm sick of what?

965
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And then you go a little deeper.

966
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I'm sick of being disappointed.

967
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I'm sick of nothing ever working out for me.

968
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And then you write down, what am I disappointed about?

969
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What hasn't worked out for me?

970
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Then you ask yourself, well, what do I believe about this?

971
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Do I believe that God's promised me this or do I believe that this only happens to, I've

972
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had so many people say to me, yeah, Jackie, that kind of love is only for lucky people.

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I've been posting on my Instagram, if you don't follow me on Instagram, follow me on

974
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Instagram.

975
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I'm posting things like, you know, encouraging things.

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And people in the comments, some of these posts have gotten like a million views.

977
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And in the comments, people tell me the state of their heart because they'll say things

978
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like, yeah, that's beautiful and that's wonderful, but that's not going to happen to everybody.

979
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Stop telling people that's going to happen to everybody or stop telling people that they

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can have that.

981
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Not everyone can have that.

982
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But if you believe something like that, it comes from somewhere.

983
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There's a root to it.

984
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There's a lie that was believed somewhere along the line and you got to get down to

985
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it.

986
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You got to find it.

987
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When's the first time I started believing that?

988
00:58:44.200 --> 00:58:47.120
When's the first time I started saying this?

989
00:58:47.120 --> 00:58:52.240
When's the first time I heard this?

990
00:58:52.240 --> 00:58:55.920
And then you need to replace it with truth.

991
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Nothing is impossible with God.

992
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That's the truth.

993
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And here's some more truth.

994
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If it's happened to somebody, then it can happen.

995
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Nothing is impossible with God, but guess what?

996
00:59:11.760 --> 00:59:12.760
It's not impossible.

997
00:59:12.760 --> 00:59:13.760
Why?

998
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Because it's already happened.

999
00:59:14.760 --> 00:59:18.320
It's already happened to a bunch of people, which means it's not only not impossible,

1000
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it's probable.

1001
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And if it can happen for them, why can't it happen for you?

1002
00:59:23.440 --> 00:59:25.160
It's going to happen for somebody.

1003
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Why can't that somebody be you?

1004
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And that's where you get down to the real lie of what you think about yourself.

1005
00:59:31.760 --> 00:59:34.640
Because if it's going to happen for somebody, but you don't believe that somebody can be

1006
00:59:34.640 --> 00:59:36.680
you, then you need to ask yourself, why?

1007
00:59:36.680 --> 00:59:40.320
Why not?

1008
00:59:40.320 --> 00:59:42.880
Why not?

1009
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Why can't it be you?

1010
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And I'm not just talking about getting married.

1011
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I'm talking about being healthy.

1012
00:59:48.280 --> 00:59:51.420
I'm talking about being provided for.

1013
00:59:51.420 --> 00:59:54.880
I'm talking about being reconciled.

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Please reconcile every day, for those of you that, you know, have all kinds of relationships.

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01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.580
problems with your family, with your kids, with this or that, people get healing in

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01:00:04.580 --> 01:00:10.520
their relationships all the time. People reconcile all the time. Axes are buried

1017
01:00:10.520 --> 01:00:18.360
all the time. Why can't yours be? People get forgiven by others all the time.

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There's so many things. All right, Father God, we just thank you for this time

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together. We know this is an important subject, Lord, and so arrest our attention

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Holy Spirit, help us to focus on this, not just let it just roll off our back.

1021
01:00:34.000 --> 01:00:38.080
Don't let us just be doers of the word. Let us be not just hearers of the word,

1022
01:00:38.080 --> 01:00:42.280
but doers of the word. Let us do the work right now, do the hard work with you,

1023
01:00:42.280 --> 01:00:47.480
really press into this so that we can have freedom because you have designed us,

1024
01:00:47.480 --> 01:00:52.800
you have created us to live powerfully, to manifest good things, to come into

1025
01:00:52.800 --> 01:00:56.760
agreement with the good things that you've already manifested for us.

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Let it be done on earth as it already is in heaven. In Jesus' name, amen.

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Love y'all. See you soon.