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so oh wow wow it's so nice you're in the UK yes yes yes I want to come to well

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it's just a desire but I will help financially there's this uh this

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conference that a ministry puts on there it's called a I don't know a wake UK is

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through its name Aladrin or Alger I can't think of his name but anyway it's

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for Great Britain so anyway I know I know so many ministers that are in the

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UK not so many but a lot of ministers that are in UK and so I'm always

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following them or listening to their teachings and so when I hear it sounds

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like come in place to my ears now so yeah anyway so happy to have you did you

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enjoy phase one did you enjoy the hard work yes yes it was really helpful and

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excited to be in phase two now yeah have you had an opportunity to watch the

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kickoff video or any of the videos teaching yes yes and I watched some of

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the replay so this is my first live session but I watched a couple of okay

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for all the ladies who just coming in the room I don't know how many y'all

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usually is a 12 o'clock because I know a lot of you guys are at work but I'm

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filling in for Carla so you a bit shocked and hey she kind of I saw your

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message in the chat and so we're gonna pray and get started yeah so father God

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I thank you for these ladies I thank you for their destinies I thank you for

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every word that you have written in the book of heaven regarding them their life

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and their journey I thank you Lord God in every area of your life you make all

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things beautiful in his time and I thank you Lord God that their marriage is no

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exception to the thing that you're making beautiful the Bible says that he

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who began a good work in me is faithful to complete it I thank you that the work

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has been done and there's a completion date waiting for them to arrive and so I

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thank you that they should finish well and they should finish strong and I just

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pray Lord God your joy overtake them as they take this beautiful journey into

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the love story that you've written in Jesus name amen amen amen so I'm super

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excited ladies just a few housekeeping rules you hear this every time just a

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reminder we want you to watch one video a week if you haven't watched all your

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videos most of you guys have been here a while you're probably done you don't

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have to have watched a video to come to coaching coaching is about dating or

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anything about you and so it doesn't have to be that you're dating we do want

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all of us dating in this phase because this is what this phase is about it's

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about dating for discovery and it helps us discover ourselves it helps us grow

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and mature and grab all the things that we will need as as much as possible for

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the development of you to extend your boundary lines for the joy that the Lord

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has for you in marriage so anyway great great great great great we have one-on-one

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coaching you ladies know that I'm trying to see and this Thursday is going to be

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that sneak preview to Jackie's book club so make sure you log on Thursday

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it'll be a link in the events tab for you to join there this is for you all to

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join so please do so all right are there any questions before we get started no

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no no so we're talking about something that's exciting I think everything we

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kind of talk about is exciting but there there I think there are two big

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questions that are asked when you start this journey the first one is when is my

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man coming is Amazon gonna bring him who gonna bring him I did the hard work way

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yet you told me once I get my heart right way yet and so we do the hard

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work and we like hey God where is he where is he where is he where's the

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promise but then the next question we ask generally because we are believing

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God for a kingdom marriage is how do I hold on until the promise comes how do

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I survive this brutal brutal process like how do I make it to this invisible

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place that I've yet to see that I'm believing God for how do I do this thing

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and so I have summed it up in probably one word that I think is the most

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important word on this journey any journey of faith and this is a faith

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journey and so I'm gonna serve you notice on that part it's a faith

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journey if you've ever had a faith journey before this one is no different

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it comes with stretching and bending and plowing and uprooting and planting and

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waiting and watering and sunshine and growth and all of that good stuff it's a

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journey and sometimes

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This is a part of the one big word that carries you from the ideal or the concept

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or the promise to the fulfillment of it, and it's called perspective.

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Perspective.

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Perspective carries me from the planting to the gathering of the harvest.

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That's in any journey you put your hands to, even in natural things.

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If you get on your job and you're just now learning how to do things,

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if you don't have perspective, you'll give up and walk away.

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I don't care how simple your job is.

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When I was working at McDonald's, I wanted to quit.

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Everything was going so fast, I couldn't keep up with it.

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And I was just like, forget this stuff.

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I mean, you know, I was back in college, but still it's the same thing.

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I needed a perspective.

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Somebody will say to me, you'll get it.

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Just hang in there. Just hold up.

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And you will think this simple thing,

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but all things require perspective if you're going to endure to the end.

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And so this journey is no different.

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So let's talk about how do we hold on until the promise comes?

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Perspective.

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Perspective is the way we view a thing.

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Perspective also involves priority,

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order and understanding of what's happening.

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One of the things that we desire most on this journey,

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I've noticed it in dating, it shows up and in life, it shows up.

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We want certainty.

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I almost believe some of us will be happy,

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the Lord just say, look, it's going to be in three years on this day.

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You're like, OK, cool.

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That's what we got in front of us.

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I mean, I wanted it yesterday, but you gave me a date.

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Three years, November 22nd.

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That's what we're going to do. He coming.

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He's going to meet me at Wal-Mart.

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I got you, Lord. Now I'm going to do ABC.

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I know I got three years.

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I'm going to work on this and I'm going to work on that.

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And I work on this and I work on that.

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And you'll begin to feel your time because you have a certain date.

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You guys, perspective is certainty.

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The only thing in my life that is giving me certainty is perspective.

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Perspective that God is good and he won't fail me.

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If you don't believe that God is fully good,

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you believe that he's holding and keeping back from you.

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But when your perspective is, I know that I know that I know

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if a husband never gets produced, my God is good.

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My God is faithful.

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I can track him.

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I'll go back over my life and I'll see what he's done for me.

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And I will judge him faithful that I do know that is perspective.

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So no matter how the wind comes or how

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it blows, how many times your heart get hurt, how many times you get rejected,

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you're not going to move from that place of knowing that your God is faithful.

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It's kind of like what Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego said.

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They said, look, King,

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even if we go into this fiery furnace, no matter what happened to us,

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we still ain't going to bow down to you because we know Yahweh.

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We know Elohim.

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We know Adonai.

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And because I know him, I have perspective and I'm not bowing

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to another God, whether I can see my God or not.

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And your statues in front of me and you say that you're a God,

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but I serve a God that I cannot see and I know that he is real.

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He is the God of Abraham, Isaac and of Jacob.

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He is the God of the promise.

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He is my God.

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He is the God that delivered us out of Egypt.

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He is the God that parted the Red Sea.

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I know my God, so I won't bow.

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And so that's what perspective gives you.

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Perspective gives you certainty.

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It is the certainty that you've longed

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for, especially in your journeys of faith.

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All right, so that's what we're going to talk about today.

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I'm excited.

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Hey, Alex,

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it is so exciting, I'm so excited.

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You know, on my own journey and you know,

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for those you knew is your first time, I started this program probably about four

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or five years ago before I started coaching.

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So I've been where you are, I am where you are.

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And I understand the journey and perspective is the certainty

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that brings me the expected end.

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The Bible says hope deferred make it the heart sick.

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But promises fulfilled is a tree of life.

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Your heart will get sick, sick, sick.

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If you've ever had a faith walk with God, your heart gets sick.

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Actually, when the heart gets sick, it's the point where we turn around.

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Or we decide we're going to keep going.

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That's when that's when when when things get weeded out,

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when that heart gets so sick and you like, what do you want from me, God?

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Now, I did everything I supposed to do.

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And, you know, you just get sick because you want to see the promise.

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So here we go.

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All right.

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So remember, perspective is our viewpoint, the way we see things.

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And because of that, so that's our outlook on it.

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This is what's going to sustain us in any type of promise.

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we're talking specifically marriage on today. So I want you guys to answer a couple of questions.

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I'm going to ask you these questions. I want you to answer them as truthfully as you can.

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Don't give me the answer. Don't even give yourself the answer you want. Give yourself where you are.

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The greatest gift you can ever give yourself is to be who you are, where you are. Because the truth

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is, no matter what you tell yourself, who you are and where you are is the person that's showing up

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and is the best starting place ever in your life for any race that you run. Okay, so it gives you

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the advantage when we who we when the advantage is in your hands when you speak who you are,

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where you are, because then you will grow fast. You will outrun the chariots of Ahab like they

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did when Elijah said the rain was coming. If you are who you are, where you are, baby,

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you're going to have some speed to your race because you're not in denial and you're not

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trying to make anything happen. You're like, this is it right here. Take it or leave it. Okay, so

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this is the first question. What is the purpose or original intent of marriage according to

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the scripture? What is the purpose or original intent of marriage? To multiply. What is the

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purpose, original intent? Now, we're not, I don't need no, you don't have to be a scholar. You're

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just answering the question for who you are and where you are. What is the purpose or original

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intent for marriage? Oh, that's a good one. Reflect God in his covenant. Okay, for Adam not to be alone.

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Okay, and so we're just, we're just giving the first popcorn answer that comes up.

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Got it. Be fruitful and multiply. Come on, multiplication.

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I'd say, because the Bible says two is better than one. Come on, two is better than one. We

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agree with that. Don't we, ladies? Two is better than one. One can put a thousand to flight. Two

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can put tens of thousands to flight. Come on. All right, next question. So, yeah, next question.

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What am I expecting marriage to do for me that only God can do?

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So, I'll break that down in two parts. What are you expecting from marriage?

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You can answer that question first. What are you expecting from marriage? When I get married, I will

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be. When I get married, I'll be happy. When I get married, I'll be love, love, you'll be loved

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deeply. Oh, probably a God holding side. Probably, probably. Companionship and care for him. Okay.

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When I get married, when I get married, I don't have to deal with being at this house by myself

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no more. When I get married, I don't have to pay these bills by myself and answer all these

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questions and mow this yard and change this tie and change this oil. Somebody going to carry out

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the garbage. Somebody going to do something besides me. I got to make all the decisions.

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When I get married, let me ask my husband. I don't know. Let me talk to my husband about that.

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Let me talk to my husband. Do you want french fries or sweet potato? Let me talk to my husband

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about that. You're expecting marriage. Let me open up the chat.

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Expecting for marriage to not be lonely and to be a team. Come on. That's right.

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I like this. Now, of what you just said, of that expectation that you have on marriage,

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what about what you just posted is something that only God can do?

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And so we know that God is a friend and God can be your companion also. But something that you

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listed or you know this in your heart that only God can do. You put it off on marriage, but only

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God can do it. If you don't have one, you don't have one. No pressure to have one. But we're just

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trying to scan our heart for any expectations we have for someone to be what only God can be.

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Yes. Be 100% there for me. Love me all the time. Come on. Don't we want that from a person? We do.

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Clear loneliness and help me feel like I'm enough. Yep.

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You got this is so good because it echoes it if it's not the echo of my heart now it has been the

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echo of my heart and I will be lying if I told you that was never my desire um you know while

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you're thinking of things and and I'm being cognizant of the time I remember one time the

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Lord told me I was walking down the road and he said to me Ebony I said yes I saw this big black

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pot and he said Ebony and I had gone through a divorce he said Ebony if your husband were to

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give you all the approval you desired he will have to work 24 hours a day for the rest of your life

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and I said really and he put my ass and look down in the pot and he had a it was bottomless he says

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the approval you need you're a bottomless pit it'll never be enough no one could ever approve

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you enough to feel you because your father dropped the ball he said but it's my responsibility to

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give you your identity it's my responsibility to feel you it's my responsibility to give you

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the approval that you so desperately need and desire won't you let me in and when I saw that

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big black pot and I saw that empty bottle I knew for myself could nobody feel me but the Lord and

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that day I surrendered to him and even though I like approval is still good it is not I don't

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need it for my identity anymore he did do it he did feel me and nobody could have done what he's

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done that nobody was capable of it it's just not possible and so just saying that so there are parts

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of us that have been broken and tarnished we grew up with broken people this is life right and we

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missed some things and so because a person was supposed to feel it like a mother or father was

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supposed to give us these things they did we oftentimes look for people to come and be something

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for us that people were never designed to be but I'm keep moving because we got about four more

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questions next question is what season am I in right now what season of life are you in right

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now you know Ecclesiastes says to everything there's a time and there's a season all you

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welcome Sarah there's a time and there's a season under the heaven for all things the Bible says

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that the sons of Issachar there was they had an anointing to know the times and the seasons and

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they knew what to do so if the season was planting and you were trying to gather you're in the wrong

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season if the season was gathering and you're trying to plant somebody's in the wrong season

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if the season is teaching learning and growing and you're trying to do and you haven't learned

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then somebody's out in their season and when you're out in your season the thing that you

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want to get done can't get done and the thing that's supposed to get done it's not being done

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hmm because if there's a goal is there's a finish line their seasons built within that before you

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get to the finish line so I want you to think about this now if you wake up in the morning

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you're supposed to be cleaning up before you have to leave the house to go somewhere and when you

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supposed to be cleaning up you sitting up on the phone with somebody talking and kiki and now it's

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time to get ready to go y'all know how we do and try to do everything for you walk out the door

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some don't get done now the thing that was supposed to get done when it's supposed to get done couldn't

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get done and now you got to go on do something else and you come back to an unprepared house

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you come back and you even wash your clothes now you ain't got no underwear to put on you know

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happy get bad sometimes you like the towels ain't clean ain't no socks you ain't got the stuff you

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need because when you were supposed to be doing something you weren't doing this is just practical

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things the Bible says everything under the Sun there's a time okay so the question was what

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season am I in right now and then what is God developing me because if I understand that I'm

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a season of you say marriage then what does he develop me is he developed me in the altar or is

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he developed me in something that's gonna get me to the fullness of the season y'all tracking with

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me because if I'm in a season development should be happening in accordance to this season uh-huh

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because if I don't understand that I'll keep judging God incorrectly because I believe that

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he's supposed to be producing a husband in front of me right now when I said if my season is

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marriage that means that he should be developing me in something that gets me to the end

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Development has to happen.

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So what season am I in

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and what is God developing in me right now?

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Okay, and I may be going a little faster for you to think,

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but as we teach, you're gonna start getting things as we go.

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All right, where am I?

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Uh-oh, I better hurry up.

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What qualities, we'll save that question.

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Where has comparison affected my trust in God's plan?

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Where has comparison affected your trust?

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You know, you look on jacket page,

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somebody always getting engaged and always getting married.

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You'd be like, look, it was fun at first,

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but this ain't helping my faith.

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I'm tired of this stuff.

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Could be like a real thing,

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like, oh, now my cousin got married.

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She's just 23.

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She didn't even really believe God for nothing.

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She didn't even do no hard work, right?

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I had a friend, I brought her into the program.

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She was in the program and got out the program

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and was married the next year.

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I was pissed, thank God.

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Why has that forsaken me?

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Oh, what's this?

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I was in her wedding, but you know, I rejoiced with that.

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That seemed a little wrong to me.

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I brought her in.

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Come on, man, what is this about?

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All right, comparison, how has it affected us?

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Comparison will oftentimes cause you

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to make a judgment against the father that is inaccurate.

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You will judge a faithful God unfaithful from comparison.

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Okay, all right, last question.

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And I'm gonna mosey along as quick as I can.

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This is so good, I know.

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All right, if marriage happened tomorrow,

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what areas of my life will still need growth and maturity?

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I saw you lose it, that's what I'm talking about.

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Like, golly, I'm talking, oh.

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If marriage happened tomorrow,

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what areas of my life will still need growth and maturity?

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This question could be challenging to answer

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if you don't understand what marriage is,

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what is gonna be required of you in marriage.

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I'm all fine in my security, God.

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I feel like the whole of me.

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Okay, all right.

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So those questions,

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and they're gonna be listed in the activation.

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And so you'll get to revisit them

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after you think about them some more.

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But remember, I told you that the goal is perspective,

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organization, boundaries, with myself, that's good, Lucy.

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That is so good.

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Perspective is what you need for the season

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of going from one place to the end results.

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It's all about perspective, okay?

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So understanding the purpose of marriage.

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You know that the Bible says

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that after Adam had been with the Lord for a while,

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he said, oh, I think that I'm gonna make him a helpmate,

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a helper that is comparable to him.

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Now, that's not true.

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A helper that is comparable to him.

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Now, that word helper, if you didn't know this,

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in the Hebrew means Ezar, E-Z-E-R.

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Ezar is likened into where the Lord talks

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about the Holy Spirit as a helper.

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So remember, he said, I'm going to make him a Ezar,

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helper, Ezar, suitable or comparable, comparable to him.

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That word Ezar also means warrior.

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That word Ezar means life-giving source.

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Remember, the only other time we see Ezar

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is when the Bible refers to the Holy Spirit as Ezar.

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So that means you ladies, us ladies,

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who want a kingdom marriage,

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the Lord made you as a Ezar,

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a life-giving source, as a warrior.

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That's one lady who defends,

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who holds up the identity of her spouse and her children.

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She is a helper, a Ezar, a life-giving source.

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Not just somebody that washes dishes, life-giving source.

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She gives life to this man.

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So now we understand why God made the wife.

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Do we understand?

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Remember, perspective is everything.

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So where you saw yourself as,

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I need a man that's going to do A, B, C, D,

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God said he made you to be a life-giving source.

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A warrior.

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You're an Ezar today.

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So today I tell you who you are.

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According to scriptures, you're an Ezar.

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we gotta start getting you prepared to be Ezar.

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Okay, are we ready?

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Ezra's don't say, I just want somebody to come

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and make my life easier.

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Baby, when you step into the office of an Ezra,

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you coming with a sword in your hand.

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You coming to give life, not to drain life or take life,

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or for someone to pour life into you,

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you're coming as a life-giving source, the Bible says.

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That's who you are.

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All right, Ezra's?

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Okay, so.

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If we understand that we're Ezra,

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then my perspective shifts and it says,

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wait a minute, I'm gonna be giving life?

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Oh, we're not just,

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it's not just somebody just to watch TV with?

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Oh, I just don't need somebody to keep company with?

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I just want somebody to take out the trash, I'm tired.

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I'm supposed to give life?

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You know, women are really good at giving life.

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How many of you guys have pushed out a baby before?

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Did you know that a woman,

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you know if you've given birth to before,

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a woman goes from passing between life and death,

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pushing out that baby,

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and turning around a couple of hours later

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and feeding that same baby that she just birthed.

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That's an Ezra.

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She is a life-giving source.

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She gives life and she continues to give life.

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That's how God made you.

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You have a womb that you are a multiplier.

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That's what an Ezra is.

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This is your identity, okay?

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So in order to be in the fullness of your identity,

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you have to be equipped.

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That means there are things in you that need to come up,

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and there are things in you that need to get planted,

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or things that need to be redefined,

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or things that need to be realized.

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That's why you as a woman can step in and do anything.

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They say you want anything done, find a mama.

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Find somebody who is a mama.

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A mama can do anything.

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I'm telling you, I ain't never seen nothing

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like a mama before.

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Baby, they can get the job done.

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One day, I was in a room and my mom needed the iron.

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Honey, my auntie went and got a skillet

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and heated it up on the stove and ironed my mama's shirt.

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Simply done.

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Her and her husband have five children

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and she's been a homemaker.

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It's like, golly, you are creative, and she got it done.

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But so, think about this.

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So I want you guys to ask yourself.

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So I would imagine if you are a life-giving source,

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that means that you embody grace.

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To give life, you gotta have grace.

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If not, you're gonna be giving out death.

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You gotta carry forgiveness, right?

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So if you hold on to things and you're bitter

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and you won't release them,

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and every man that comes in your life

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has to pay for the man before you,

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that means we gotta get our Ezra in shape.

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We gotta do a little boot camp work in phase two, huh?

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We do that through dating for discovery.

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Yes, when they cancel on you,

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you don't cut their neck off

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and hand it to them on a platter.

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No, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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because you're thinking about how the last man did you,

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how your daddy did you.

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We gotta get the Ezra equipped.

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That's what we're doing here, right?

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So you gotta operate in grace,

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you need to operate in forgiveness,

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you gotta operate in patience.

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Oh, he ain't called yet.

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I text three hours ago.

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What's taking so long?

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I guess he don't want to.

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You know what?

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I'm done with this.

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No, no, Ezra, we're gonna use that to help build you,

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to strengthen you.

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So you gotta operate in grace and forgiveness

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and patience and boundaries.

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Ezra knows because she's like the Holy Spirit

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that she's going to gently nudge

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and she's gonna gently influence

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and she's not gonna tell you what you're gonna do,

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when you're gonna do it and how you're gonna do it.

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So that means when you show up

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doing the date a little different

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or you wanna talk on a different pattern than her

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or do a different pace in dating,

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Ezra's not saying, look, I don't do it like that.

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That's not Ezra because Ezra is similar to the Holy Spirit.

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Ezra has a quiet influence.

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So Ezra knows the boundaries.

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Ezra says, if you don't value what I'm giving,

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that's okay, I'll keep it.

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And I'm not even mad at you.

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Holy Spirit don't come clock you over the head

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when you don't do what Holy Spirit wants you to do.

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Holy Spirit just backs up until you say,

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what's that Lord, please help me.

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I don't know what else to do.

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Holy Spirit's like, oh great, here I am, I'm your helper.

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Ezra is a helper.

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Ezra knows boundaries.

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Boundaries with Ezra's self

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because it says, I don't cross this line.

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I don't cross this line.

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This is not my place.

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So Ezra submitted to their own boundaries.

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And last one, humility.

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And this is not all of them.

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You could go on and on about the things

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of Ezra our helper or defender,

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but these are just some things I list in humility.

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One of the things that we find,

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and remember, I'm gonna keep doing a comparison

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the whole time because this is about perspective.

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One of the things we try to.

469
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.520
weed out in phase two is entitlement.

470
00:30:03.520 --> 00:30:05.360
You'd be amazed as women

471
00:30:05.360 --> 00:30:09.060
how the world has programmed us into entitlement.

472
00:30:09.060 --> 00:30:12.220
We believe that a man is supposed to do something for us

473
00:30:12.220 --> 00:30:14.600
just because we exist and breathe

474
00:30:14.600 --> 00:30:18.400
and we got female body parts.

475
00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:20.900
Some reason I was programmed the same way.

476
00:30:20.900 --> 00:30:22.880
It's like, you should be this for me.

477
00:30:22.880 --> 00:30:24.320
Oh, you supposed to be this

478
00:30:24.320 --> 00:30:25.720
and you're supposed to be that.

479
00:30:25.720 --> 00:30:26.980
Now you can hold on to it,

480
00:30:26.980 --> 00:30:31.060
but I'm telling you that is not embodied in an Ezra.

481
00:30:31.060 --> 00:30:35.280
In a Ezra is what God made to be with a man.

482
00:30:36.480 --> 00:30:38.520
And because I am partnering with heaven

483
00:30:38.520 --> 00:30:40.100
for a kingdom marriage,

484
00:30:40.100 --> 00:30:44.720
it serves me best to get in the order that he said.

485
00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:47.120
So that when he's looking for Ezra in the earth

486
00:30:47.120 --> 00:30:51.280
to put with a man, he says, I got one and she ready to go.

487
00:30:51.280 --> 00:30:53.960
I got one and she got rid of her opinions.

488
00:30:53.960 --> 00:30:56.320
I got one and when she was in phase two,

489
00:30:56.340 --> 00:30:58.900
she decided to let go of her entitlement.

490
00:30:58.900 --> 00:31:00.920
I got one and when she was in phase two,

491
00:31:00.920 --> 00:31:03.700
she decided to let grace and forgiveness

492
00:31:03.700 --> 00:31:05.700
have its perfect work in her heart

493
00:31:06.560 --> 00:31:08.860
so that I could present her on this day.

494
00:31:08.860 --> 00:31:10.900
Oh, I got an Ezra for you.

495
00:31:10.900 --> 00:31:12.620
So that man cries out, I need a wife.

496
00:31:12.620 --> 00:31:14.540
He says, I got one for you.

497
00:31:14.540 --> 00:31:15.540
I got the best helper.

498
00:31:15.540 --> 00:31:17.220
She got a sword in her hand, baby.

499
00:31:17.220 --> 00:31:19.200
She suited up with a shield.

500
00:31:19.200 --> 00:31:20.620
She ready to go.

501
00:31:20.620 --> 00:31:21.960
She's ready to give life.

502
00:31:21.960 --> 00:31:23.460
She gives life to a coworker.

503
00:31:23.460 --> 00:31:24.800
She gives life to her friends.

504
00:31:24.800 --> 00:31:25.980
She's a life giving soul.

505
00:31:26.640 --> 00:31:27.760
She shows grace wherever she goes.

506
00:31:27.760 --> 00:31:29.560
She's merciful and she's kind.

507
00:31:29.560 --> 00:31:33.520
She's quick to repent and she don't hold stuff against you.

508
00:31:33.520 --> 00:31:34.700
And she's a fighter.

509
00:31:35.680 --> 00:31:38.520
She's come against all the boundaries

510
00:31:38.520 --> 00:31:39.580
that her family put on her.

511
00:31:39.580 --> 00:31:41.220
Everything that's come against her in life,

512
00:31:41.220 --> 00:31:42.660
she overcame them.

513
00:31:42.660 --> 00:31:45.360
Everything that man did to her, she overcame it.

514
00:31:45.360 --> 00:31:46.760
She refused to come under.

515
00:31:46.760 --> 00:31:47.920
She rises above.

516
00:31:47.920 --> 00:31:49.480
I got an Ezra for you.

517
00:31:52.120 --> 00:31:53.400
Ah, sound good.

518
00:31:53.400 --> 00:31:54.680
Sound like you done it.

519
00:31:54.680 --> 00:31:58.140
I know, this Ezra starting to sound more and more

520
00:31:58.140 --> 00:32:01.400
like the ladies that I'm looking at because it is you.

521
00:32:04.500 --> 00:32:08.540
All right, so we understand the purpose of marriage, do we?

522
00:32:09.500 --> 00:32:12.020
And so whatever thoughts that you had about marriage,

523
00:32:12.020 --> 00:32:13.860
you want to kind of line them up against this

524
00:32:13.860 --> 00:32:15.580
so you can gather perspective.

525
00:32:15.580 --> 00:32:17.440
Remember ladies, if you weren't here at the beginning,

526
00:32:17.440 --> 00:32:20.180
perspective is the thing that carries us

527
00:32:20.180 --> 00:32:23.600
from what the Lord speaks to the final end, the promise.

528
00:32:25.220 --> 00:32:29.100
Okay, it carries us from there to the end.

529
00:32:29.100 --> 00:32:33.900
Now, one of the other things that we talked about

530
00:32:33.900 --> 00:32:35.840
in perspective is getting the perspective.

531
00:32:35.840 --> 00:32:39.340
So we have the perspective on what a wife is.

532
00:32:39.340 --> 00:32:43.220
The next, that's you, wife, Ezra.

533
00:32:43.220 --> 00:32:45.220
Everything that you got in there that's not that,

534
00:32:45.220 --> 00:32:47.620
let's work on letting it go, okay?

535
00:32:47.620 --> 00:32:51.140
And growing, this is a growth journey

536
00:32:51.140 --> 00:32:54.340
because the perspective is if I have a promise,

537
00:32:55.000 --> 00:32:56.420
then the season I'm in is marriage.

538
00:32:56.420 --> 00:33:01.420
That means I am being developed into this thing, okay?

539
00:33:02.320 --> 00:33:03.840
Next thing is let God feel

540
00:33:03.840 --> 00:33:05.940
what marriage was never meant to feel.

541
00:33:06.800 --> 00:33:08.680
We posted things in our life

542
00:33:08.680 --> 00:33:11.160
that we wanted marriage to feel for us.

543
00:33:11.160 --> 00:33:14.080
We just want somebody to make us feel good, truth of matter.

544
00:33:14.080 --> 00:33:17.580
We want somebody to whatever, companionship, you know?

545
00:33:17.580 --> 00:33:20.240
And the truth is there are benefits to marriage

546
00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:22.020
and companionship is one of them.

547
00:33:22.020 --> 00:33:23.280
So I'm not saying to you,

548
00:33:23.280 --> 00:33:25.240
don't desire companionship in marriage.

549
00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:27.000
That's a benefit of marriage.

550
00:33:27.880 --> 00:33:29.120
But I will tell you this,

551
00:33:29.120 --> 00:33:33.080
if you don't choose well and you're lonely

552
00:33:33.080 --> 00:33:34.600
and you look for the first person

553
00:33:34.600 --> 00:33:38.200
that feels the loneliness in you,

554
00:33:38.200 --> 00:33:40.120
you will be lonely in marriage

555
00:33:41.520 --> 00:33:44.520
because you're gonna choose wrong.

556
00:33:44.520 --> 00:33:46.720
You're already choosing from a selfish place.

557
00:33:46.720 --> 00:33:48.880
Just come and meet my needs.

558
00:33:48.900 --> 00:33:52.020
And so that's how we get love-bombed so easily

559
00:33:52.020 --> 00:33:53.460
because somebody is seeing everything

560
00:33:53.460 --> 00:33:54.860
we always wanted to hear.

561
00:33:57.780 --> 00:33:59.260
That's just how that happens.

562
00:33:59.260 --> 00:34:01.300
And so all these empty spaces,

563
00:34:01.300 --> 00:34:03.100
you know, all these empty, empty spaces

564
00:34:03.100 --> 00:34:05.460
and we're trying to take some out and fill them.

565
00:34:05.460 --> 00:34:07.300
So if you want companionship,

566
00:34:07.300 --> 00:34:09.540
then you need to build community.

567
00:34:13.179 --> 00:34:15.260
I just want somebody to pray with and read the word.

568
00:34:15.260 --> 00:34:18.580
Go find you somebody to pray with and read the word

569
00:34:19.280 --> 00:34:20.120
because I'm gonna tell you,

570
00:34:20.120 --> 00:34:22.199
having been married and divorced,

571
00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:23.880
the idea that you have that your husband

572
00:34:23.880 --> 00:34:25.239
gonna sit at the table with you every day

573
00:34:25.239 --> 00:34:28.239
and read your Bible and pray with you is a fantasy.

574
00:34:28.239 --> 00:34:29.880
What if he don't wanna read his Bible

575
00:34:29.880 --> 00:34:31.320
when you read your Bible?

576
00:34:31.320 --> 00:34:33.080
What if he don't wanna study Ephesians,

577
00:34:33.080 --> 00:34:34.560
he wanna study Colossians?

578
00:34:34.560 --> 00:34:36.360
And what if you wanna pray and you don't wanna pray?

579
00:34:36.360 --> 00:34:37.380
And what if when you pray,

580
00:34:37.380 --> 00:34:38.400
you speak in tongues,

581
00:34:38.400 --> 00:34:40.760
and when he pray, he just,

582
00:34:42.560 --> 00:34:43.400
what?

583
00:34:43.400 --> 00:34:44.620
I mean, like, come on.

584
00:34:44.620 --> 00:34:46.760
There's a tribe out there waiting for you.

585
00:34:46.760 --> 00:34:49.500
There's people that you're gonna run and do life with.

586
00:34:51.420 --> 00:34:54.500
There's companionship all around you.

587
00:34:56.340 --> 00:34:58.300
And so we're not gonna wait on a man

588
00:34:58.300 --> 00:35:00.500
to come and fill that space because that's.

589
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.000
when you get into the danger spot,

590
00:35:02.000 --> 00:35:03.460
because as soon as a man comes,

591
00:35:03.460 --> 00:35:05.240
you want to put them in that space.

592
00:35:06.440 --> 00:35:08.540
In two weeks in, it all fall apart.

593
00:35:09.560 --> 00:35:11.720
And now you don't have the person to fill that space

594
00:35:11.720 --> 00:35:12.720
because you want somebody to talk to

595
00:35:12.720 --> 00:35:13.720
and they text you good morning,

596
00:35:13.720 --> 00:35:14.800
they text you good night,

597
00:35:14.800 --> 00:35:15.860
and they text you all day long,

598
00:35:15.860 --> 00:35:16.920
and it's so much fun.

599
00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:17.760
And then when they stop,

600
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:21.020
you have to grieve not having them in that space anymore,

601
00:35:21.020 --> 00:35:23.160
because it was a space.

602
00:35:23.160 --> 00:35:25.960
And your desire is not wrong.

603
00:35:25.960 --> 00:35:28.320
Don't hear what I'm not saying.

604
00:35:28.320 --> 00:35:30.400
The desire is natural.

605
00:35:30.400 --> 00:35:32.900
It's natural for you to want companionship.

606
00:35:34.280 --> 00:35:37.280
But it's when we seek a person out for one thing only,

607
00:35:37.280 --> 00:35:40.120
that they would never intend to feel alone.

608
00:35:40.120 --> 00:35:42.160
You will find yourself being like a leech,

609
00:35:42.160 --> 00:35:43.480
sucking them dry.

610
00:35:43.480 --> 00:35:46.760
You ever had friends that will suck you dry?

611
00:35:46.760 --> 00:35:48.680
It's because when they put their eyes on you,

612
00:35:48.680 --> 00:35:51.480
they decided that you're gonna fill a space for me.

613
00:35:52.360 --> 00:35:54.400
It comes from a selfish place.

614
00:35:55.440 --> 00:35:57.280
And we weren't designed to be that way.

615
00:35:57.320 --> 00:35:59.440
It's called reciprocity.

616
00:35:59.440 --> 00:36:01.920
We give and we pour into each other.

617
00:36:03.840 --> 00:36:05.280
And see, that way, when you get married,

618
00:36:05.280 --> 00:36:07.120
you won't be mad because your husband won't catch up

619
00:36:07.120 --> 00:36:08.760
and grow in the area you want him to be,

620
00:36:08.760 --> 00:36:11.080
but you can accept him for who he is and where he is,

621
00:36:11.080 --> 00:36:13.320
because you saw him from that place from the very beginning.

622
00:36:13.320 --> 00:36:15.640
You didn't have scales on your eyes.

623
00:36:15.640 --> 00:36:18.280
You weren't blinded by what you wanted, right?

624
00:36:18.280 --> 00:36:20.160
And so perspective does this for you.

625
00:36:20.160 --> 00:36:21.240
Okay, I'm gonna keep moving.

626
00:36:21.240 --> 00:36:24.320
I don't wanna beat a dead horse.

627
00:36:24.320 --> 00:36:28.400
So he said, ask God to reveal any place in us

628
00:36:28.400 --> 00:36:31.280
where we're expecting a husband to feel something

629
00:36:31.280 --> 00:36:33.720
that God was designed to feel.

630
00:36:35.760 --> 00:36:36.800
Okay?

631
00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:39.840
It is very discouraging and disappointing,

632
00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:42.440
especially ladies, you know, if you've been married before

633
00:36:42.440 --> 00:36:44.360
and you desire your husband to fill a space

634
00:36:44.360 --> 00:36:46.160
that he cannot fill.

635
00:36:46.160 --> 00:36:47.520
It's sad.

636
00:36:47.520 --> 00:36:49.840
It's really hurtful.

637
00:36:49.840 --> 00:36:52.280
Anybody been married before and can attest to that,

638
00:36:52.280 --> 00:36:57.280
that you're not like, it's like, you, that is miserable.

639
00:36:57.400 --> 00:36:59.520
It definitely is because your expectation

640
00:36:59.520 --> 00:37:00.840
was they could be that.

641
00:37:01.960 --> 00:37:03.160
And it's not ended up being true.

642
00:37:03.160 --> 00:37:06.680
So release unrealistic expectations of a spouse

643
00:37:06.680 --> 00:37:10.840
being your source of healing, identity, and fulfillment.

644
00:37:14.680 --> 00:37:17.680
Do you all know why purpose feels so good?

645
00:37:18.920 --> 00:37:20.400
Because it's so fulfilling.

646
00:37:21.240 --> 00:37:23.600
One of the things Jackie encourages a lot,

647
00:37:23.600 --> 00:37:25.600
especially on Saturday teachings,

648
00:37:25.600 --> 00:37:28.480
is what is God calling you to do right now?

649
00:37:28.480 --> 00:37:31.960
Because she knows, and anybody who's walked in purpose before

650
00:37:31.960 --> 00:37:34.400
you are so fulfilled

651
00:37:36.760 --> 00:37:39.000
that you almost can't see other things.

652
00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:40.160
It's like, yeah, I still wanna be married,

653
00:37:40.160 --> 00:37:42.200
but I'm so content right now.

654
00:37:42.200 --> 00:37:44.440
I'm so fulfilled right now

655
00:37:44.440 --> 00:37:47.480
because you're actually operating in purpose.

656
00:37:48.480 --> 00:37:51.320
And so that's how you draw the conclusion

657
00:37:51.320 --> 00:37:55.480
that if when I'm married, you draw, I'll be fulfilled

658
00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:58.560
because you feel like marriage is part of your purpose.

659
00:37:58.560 --> 00:38:00.640
And you know from somewhere in thoughts

660
00:38:00.640 --> 00:38:05.160
that purpose brings fulfillment, right?

661
00:38:05.160 --> 00:38:08.680
So, and then we wanna learn to partner with God

662
00:38:08.680 --> 00:38:12.440
now in the areas you desire to see a spouse in later.

663
00:38:13.520 --> 00:38:16.000
Partner with God now in the areas you desire

664
00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:17.080
to see a spouse.

665
00:38:17.680 --> 00:38:20.480
And I'm telling you, when he comes, he'll join the party.

666
00:38:21.440 --> 00:38:23.440
Have y'all ever wanted to be around a person in the room

667
00:38:23.440 --> 00:38:24.840
that when they walk in, it's just like,

668
00:38:24.840 --> 00:38:26.600
they the life of the party.

669
00:38:26.600 --> 00:38:28.560
Like they just fill the room and you're like,

670
00:38:28.560 --> 00:38:29.840
I wanna be around them.

671
00:38:29.840 --> 00:38:31.600
I wanna be their friend.

672
00:38:31.600 --> 00:38:33.000
Every time I hear Jackie talk, I'm like,

673
00:38:33.000 --> 00:38:35.440
ooh, I just wanna be around Jackie.

674
00:38:35.440 --> 00:38:38.720
She's so charismatic and just so fun.

675
00:38:38.720 --> 00:38:41.600
And just like, it's like, yeah, that's right.

676
00:38:41.600 --> 00:38:44.440
So encouraging, so life-giving.

677
00:38:44.440 --> 00:38:47.400
Well, we attested that, so life-giving.

678
00:38:47.400 --> 00:38:49.840
The reason why you show up in this program,

679
00:38:49.840 --> 00:38:53.200
because something that she said gave life to you.

680
00:38:54.560 --> 00:38:57.960
Something that she said awakened something in you.

681
00:38:57.960 --> 00:39:00.120
It awakened it so much that you said,

682
00:39:00.120 --> 00:39:02.040
I'm gonna spend my money to get in that program

683
00:39:02.040 --> 00:39:03.960
to learn everything that she has.

684
00:39:03.960 --> 00:39:06.360
Because whatever she has, I want it.

685
00:39:06.360 --> 00:39:07.600
I believe her.

686
00:39:07.600 --> 00:39:09.600
That's what an Ezra is.

687
00:39:11.040 --> 00:39:12.680
That's what you are.

688
00:39:15.440 --> 00:39:16.280
Okay?

689
00:39:16.280 --> 00:39:19.960
So we wanna maximize our current season.

690
00:39:19.960 --> 00:39:22.880
All of this, is it a question about this or for later, Lou?

691
00:39:24.280 --> 00:39:25.320
No, it's okay, I'm just asking.

692
00:39:25.320 --> 00:39:28.240
I'm just anxious to get a question.

693
00:39:28.240 --> 00:39:30.480
Girl, I thought you were done, so I already pressed.

694
00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:32.640
Golly, Lou, I ain't done.

695
00:39:32.640 --> 00:39:34.440
I'll lower it, I'll lower it.

696
00:39:34.440 --> 00:39:36.120
You can keep it up though, it's no problem.

697
00:39:36.120 --> 00:39:37.760
I'm just checking.

698
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:41.600
So the next thing you wanna do is let God fill you.

699
00:39:41.600 --> 00:39:43.720
So this, I'm gonna give you perspective.

700
00:39:43.720 --> 00:39:46.200
Let God fill you in those areas

701
00:39:46.200 --> 00:39:48.240
that you're expecting a spouse to do it.

702
00:39:48.240 --> 00:39:52.000
And the next thing is maximize your current season.

703
00:39:52.000 --> 00:39:53.760
Identify where you are.

704
00:39:55.840 --> 00:39:58.920
If you, honey, if you're not planning a wedding,

705
00:39:58.920 --> 00:40:00.240
you are not there.

706
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.680
Where are you? Locate yourself. If you're not standing at the altar, you're not at

707
00:40:06.680 --> 00:40:13.280
the altar. Where are you? Say, God, where am I?

708
00:40:13.280 --> 00:40:18.880
Maximize this season because you won't be here always. I'm telling you, one day

709
00:40:18.880 --> 00:40:22.080
you're gonna meet your husband and it's gonna be over with. Ain't gonna be no more

710
00:40:22.080 --> 00:40:25.920
phase 2 coaching, ain't gonna be no more dating for discovery. Whatever you got,

711
00:40:25.920 --> 00:40:29.240
you got. What you don't got, you better learn the hard way, baby. What you will

712
00:40:29.240 --> 00:40:37.880
learn. All right? So, that's just the way it works. One day you knew him, the next

713
00:40:37.880 --> 00:40:43.680
day you didn't. So, maximize your current season. Whatever the Lord is working on

714
00:40:43.680 --> 00:40:47.840
you on, when you ask him, where are you in this season? When you get tired of saying,

715
00:40:47.840 --> 00:40:51.640
Lord, I'm just tired of waiting. Man, as soon as you say that, say, now, where you working at so

716
00:40:51.640 --> 00:40:57.200
that I can get on board? All right? All somebody says they've been in a season of

717
00:40:57.200 --> 00:41:00.960
cultivating friendship. That's good. I can't see the whole thing because it didn't pop up.

718
00:41:00.960 --> 00:41:06.000
Cultivating and loving on my grandkids, such a beautiful season. Such a beautiful season,

719
00:41:06.000 --> 00:41:13.880
such a beautiful time. Ezra means, the Bible says, the Bible told, said that God says that

720
00:41:13.880 --> 00:41:19.680
he wanted to make Adam a helpmeet. And that word helpmeet or helper is a word in the Hebrew word,

721
00:41:19.800 --> 00:41:27.680
it means Ezra. Ezra means a life-giving source, a warrior, a nurturer. That's what he said he was

722
00:41:27.680 --> 00:41:33.200
going to make for man. And so, we're putting things into perspective because if that is what

723
00:41:33.200 --> 00:41:39.520
a wife is, then that means whatever I've been thinking outside of it doesn't quite fit. I may

724
00:41:39.520 --> 00:41:45.120
have been thinking about products that come from being married. But my ideal, I am a Ezra,

725
00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:53.520
a life-giving source, a warrior, a woman with a sword that comes to give life to her husband.

726
00:41:54.080 --> 00:41:59.440
Okay? That should give all of us a perspective. It changed my whole world when I read that. I

727
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:03.920
said, say, what now? But I just need somebody to mow the yard and take out the trash. And I'm tired

728
00:42:03.920 --> 00:42:10.800
of making all these decisions and why I got to do all this. Okay? So, that was me. I don't know

729
00:42:10.800 --> 00:42:17.360
about y'all, but that was me. I wasn't praying what I pray now. Lord, who have you made these

730
00:42:17.360 --> 00:42:27.120
hands to help? Equip me, enable me, strengthen me. Do what you got to do so that when my husband

731
00:42:27.120 --> 00:42:32.320
comes, I'll be the best Ezra you ever made. That he'll know what an Ezra looks like when he looks

732
00:42:32.320 --> 00:42:37.200
at me. That when we get down the road 10 years from now, he say, God, he who finds a wife finds

733
00:42:37.200 --> 00:42:42.000
a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Because if you got an Ezra, you got favor from

734
00:42:42.000 --> 00:42:48.800
the Lord. If you got a multiplier, you got favor from the Lord. An Ezra can go inside a man and

735
00:42:48.800 --> 00:42:54.080
pull out the gold and say, let's make it happen, baby. That's what an Ezra does. She is a life-

736
00:42:54.080 --> 00:43:01.120
giving source. So, I changed my mind. I take out my own trash. Just make me an Ezra, oh God.

737
00:43:02.080 --> 00:43:09.520
Well, that technology, do that for me. Because not only will I be an Ezra to him, but I'm

738
00:43:09.520 --> 00:43:14.720
gonna be an Ezra to everybody around me because it's my identity. That's why we like to help

739
00:43:14.720 --> 00:43:20.720
ladies. That's why we're able to take something, nothing, and make something out of it.

740
00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:26.320
Right? Okay, I'm gonna keep tracking because Lou looking at me like, hey y'all.

741
00:43:27.280 --> 00:43:32.720
Lou, that's so good. I can't let it go. Okay, so we want to maximize the season that we're in. Once

742
00:43:32.720 --> 00:43:37.360
we figure out what season we're in, we want to maximize that season. Listen, don't leave no

743
00:43:37.360 --> 00:43:43.920
stone unturned. Don't leave jewels on the ground. Don't leave treasures on the ground in a hurry to

744
00:43:43.920 --> 00:43:50.240
get where? To get to your ideal of what your marriage is going to be? To get to the fantasy

745
00:43:50.240 --> 00:43:56.640
you painted in your mind? If the Lord is equipping you, let him do the work to his end. He who has

746
00:43:56.640 --> 00:44:05.360
began a good work in you is faithful to complete it. You guys, what is a year or two years or three

747
00:44:05.360 --> 00:44:11.120
years investing in the next 30 years of your life tied to somebody? Because sometimes you're

748
00:44:11.120 --> 00:44:19.520
gonna feel like you're tied to them jokers. Okay? Y'all may start out making pancakes and

749
00:44:19.520 --> 00:44:22.080
at two o'clock in the morning dancing, but listen.

750
00:44:26.000 --> 00:44:30.640
All right, next thing is we'll maximize our current season. I'm gonna keep going, so we hurry up.

751
00:44:30.640 --> 00:44:37.280
And then we're gonna trust God's process over comparison. Comparison is a thief of your joy.

752
00:44:37.280 --> 00:44:42.080
Comparison will be a thief of your destiny. Comparison will be a thief of your season.

753
00:44:44.240 --> 00:44:46.240
Comparison is a thief of your time.

754
00:44:48.800 --> 00:44:55.040
Okay, so things you have to remember. Remember, we're talking about perspective. Perspective

755
00:44:55.040 --> 00:44:59.920
is what gets you to the promise and it gets you through the faith journey. So we have to believe.

756
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.280
that God is good even when his timing looks different than ours because we understand

757
00:45:07.280 --> 00:45:14.400
that he knows the whole story and we just have a part we just got a piece of the puzzle

758
00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:19.840
you want to be real mindful when you start to make judgment calls against what God should do

759
00:45:19.840 --> 00:45:23.920
and you barely can see look put your little finger that's all you can see you can't even

760
00:45:23.920 --> 00:45:27.760
see the rest of the room see through a little peephole you ever look through a peephole on

761
00:45:27.760 --> 00:45:35.360
the door or peephole at a hotel that's all you can see is what little bit is in front of you

762
00:45:35.360 --> 00:45:38.880
half of the time that's distorted if there is no perspective

763
00:45:41.360 --> 00:45:45.840
that can be very very distorted even when we're walking in the promises of God

764
00:45:46.560 --> 00:45:51.520
it takes him to bring us clarity okay and then

765
00:45:51.520 --> 00:45:58.400
hold on to the truth and when you're when you're looking at people getting married and things

766
00:45:58.400 --> 00:46:04.080
happening all around you hold on to the truth that the bible says that God makes all things

767
00:46:04.080 --> 00:46:11.120
beautiful in its time in its time not in my time

768
00:46:13.520 --> 00:46:17.280
okay and then last one

769
00:46:17.680 --> 00:46:25.040
ah this is so good isn't it good anybody else think it's good give me a wave give me a nine

770
00:46:25.040 --> 00:46:32.960
wave yeah perspective is everything ladies perspective fills you with grace it fills you

771
00:46:32.960 --> 00:46:38.480
with acceleration it gives you the strength you need to get there i'm telling you you

772
00:46:38.480 --> 00:46:46.400
once you get perspective you say wait a minute i'm on time i'm not late i'm where i should be

773
00:46:47.280 --> 00:46:53.120
it gives you certainty i am not forgotten this is exactly what i'm supposed to be doing i'm

774
00:46:53.120 --> 00:46:57.760
supposed to be going on dates i'm supposed to be discovering i can't mess up i don't have to have

775
00:46:57.760 --> 00:47:03.120
a scarcity mindset i'm right on time i'm in the season of marriage and in the season of marriage

776
00:47:03.120 --> 00:47:08.160
there's preparation there is plucking up there's a planting that has to happen watering has to

777
00:47:08.160 --> 00:47:12.960
happen sunshine has to happen i have to get rid of old laws and old mindsets and old ways and

778
00:47:12.960 --> 00:47:17.440
coming to a new because i ain't never been no ezra before i didn't know i was made to be an

779
00:47:17.440 --> 00:47:25.520
ezra this is a new understanding for me oh my okay god do what you gotta do this is exciting

780
00:47:26.160 --> 00:47:31.360
perspective brings that for you because this is the certainty you've been longing for to know that

781
00:47:31.360 --> 00:47:36.400
i'm in the right place at the right time and not trying to be where you shouldn't be and not even

782
00:47:36.400 --> 00:47:43.440
lagging behind okay and the last one is become the person who can steward the promise

783
00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:53.440
you can steward the promise the promise is marriage okay god let's do it there's some

784
00:47:53.440 --> 00:48:00.080
giants in my land all right give me five smooth stones in a slingshot i'll take out everything

785
00:48:00.080 --> 00:48:05.280
that's standing in the way between me and tied to me you got to go unforgiveness ah you got to go

786
00:48:05.360 --> 00:48:10.240
bitterness you got to go you're coming down today you may have been living in my land for a long

787
00:48:10.240 --> 00:48:15.440
long time but who are you you uncircumcised philistine you got to go because i'm a woman

788
00:48:15.440 --> 00:48:20.400
of covenant and nothing's gonna stand in between me and the promises of my god i am going into the

789
00:48:20.400 --> 00:48:24.640
promised land i don't care what it looks like you're gonna tell the report like caleb said

790
00:48:24.640 --> 00:48:29.680
they said it's giants in the land but we can take them the other one said oh lord we look like

791
00:48:29.680 --> 00:48:34.320
grasshoppers in their sight and they know it and we know it too but caleb said we can take them

792
00:48:35.120 --> 00:48:41.120
i can take you down and tie them in you fear rejection ah i'm coming for you because i serve

793
00:48:41.120 --> 00:48:47.120
a covenant keeping god and no giant is gonna stand in the way of me and the promise that's

794
00:48:47.120 --> 00:48:53.920
what perspective does for you it gives you a slingshot and five smooth stones okay all right

795
00:48:54.640 --> 00:49:03.520
so understand this marriage is a destiny shaping decision see when you think i just want somebody

796
00:49:03.520 --> 00:49:09.680
i just want i just want to have sex i just want a man to cut up with i just want somebody to take

797
00:49:09.680 --> 00:49:16.480
out the trash i just want somebody to help me make a decision the lord is saying baby

798
00:49:17.840 --> 00:49:24.720
this is a destiny shaping decision that means the things that i put in your dna that i planted in

799
00:49:24.720 --> 00:49:31.760
you you could come in covenant with someone who can disrupt and delay the plans i have over your

800
00:49:31.760 --> 00:49:39.120
life even if they're a believer yes i know the song of the giants is a really nice song yeah

801
00:49:40.000 --> 00:49:46.240
even if they're even if they're a believer i have this book already written out from the beginning

802
00:49:46.240 --> 00:49:51.200
to the end i know your life and so what you're trying to do is get some immediate gratification

803
00:49:51.200 --> 00:49:56.000
you just want somebody to talk to but i'm telling you this is a destiny shaping decision

804
00:49:56.160 --> 00:49:58.400
this is a destiny shapping decision

805
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.920
decision you're going to make in your life is giving your life to Christ and who you marry.

806
00:50:01.200 --> 00:50:04.240
so the most important

807
00:50:06.720 --> 00:50:10.960
You can marry somebody that will you will get beat down so long it will take you

808
00:50:10.960 --> 00:50:16.160
years to come back. You'll come back but it'll take you years or you can live miserably for

809
00:50:16.160 --> 00:50:19.120
the next 30 years of your life because you're not coming out of the covenant.

810
00:50:19.840 --> 00:50:24.880
Whichever way it is but it's not heaven's way or heaven's best way for your life.

811
00:50:25.520 --> 00:50:30.800
All right, you can choose a husband that makes it like a bridge to your destiny.

812
00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:35.280
That when you build him up he makes way for you. That he'll be the teacher of your home

813
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:39.280
and the teacher of your children though you may grow together and iron with sharpened iron.

814
00:50:41.280 --> 00:50:45.440
That's what you want. You want some iron sharpened iron. You're a helper. You're

815
00:50:45.440 --> 00:50:50.880
a life-giving source but look you ain't trying to raise nobody from the dead. Come on.

816
00:50:51.200 --> 00:50:58.080
Come on. Hey we're not trying to raise people about the tomb. We need some people who are

817
00:50:58.080 --> 00:51:04.720
already alive that's committed to righteousness. They're on their way. We get ah okay. All right

818
00:51:04.720 --> 00:51:11.040
just added that one in the notes. All right marriage is not a relationship status and I

819
00:51:11.040 --> 00:51:15.120
remember when I was going through my divorce one of the things I grieved was letting go of the

820
00:51:15.120 --> 00:51:25.120
status of being married. That's a real thing. It's a real thing and so examine areas of growth.

821
00:51:25.120 --> 00:51:32.400
How do we steward the promise? Examine your areas of growth that may affect the type of person you

822
00:51:32.400 --> 00:51:39.120
attract. Examine your areas of growth that may determine the type of person you attract.

823
00:51:40.080 --> 00:51:46.400
So that means if you are battling with rejection and you just want to be accepted,

824
00:51:47.360 --> 00:51:53.040
somebody's gonna come along give you the right words for that. Your acceptance comes from God

825
00:51:53.040 --> 00:51:57.040
not from a person. So if you don't deal with their rejection, their rejection is going to deal with

826
00:51:57.040 --> 00:52:04.080
you because it puts you in a very vulnerable place and what it does it it uh throws out your

827
00:52:04.240 --> 00:52:09.280
your perception and your discernment and so you put yourself under boundaries. It's not like

828
00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:14.880
rejection is going to disappear but you set boundaries and you say A-B-C-D.

829
00:52:17.280 --> 00:52:22.800
That's it. This is how I'm going to operate. I'm going to put myself within boundaries

830
00:52:22.800 --> 00:52:26.560
under boundaries for the safety. I'm going to guard my heart with all diligence

831
00:52:28.640 --> 00:52:32.400
right because we're broken in community. We're healed in community. We're broken in relationship

832
00:52:32.400 --> 00:52:36.000
and we're healed in relationship. There are going to be things in you that when you get married that

833
00:52:36.000 --> 00:52:39.920
are going to bring some healing components to that but guess what? When you get in that marriage,

834
00:52:39.920 --> 00:52:42.960
you ain't going to be trying to fight him and he trying to help you heal and grow.

835
00:52:43.680 --> 00:52:47.920
You're not going to be duking it out. You're not going to be accusing him of doing something he

836
00:52:47.920 --> 00:52:53.120
never did because you're insecure. You're aware that you have some insecurities so when he comes

837
00:52:53.120 --> 00:52:57.760
in or you can say with your mouth, hey I would like it if you would just be a little bit more

838
00:52:57.760 --> 00:53:02.320
transparent about what's happening because I'm dealing with a couple of things and it

839
00:53:02.320 --> 00:53:07.680
will really help me in my process. Nobody's coming to fight with you to grow.

840
00:53:10.240 --> 00:53:16.400
That you're willing, you're teachable, you're in a position to be taught so we want to examine

841
00:53:16.400 --> 00:53:20.640
the areas of growth that may affect the type of person we attract. Next thing, allow God to mature

842
00:53:20.640 --> 00:53:30.720
your character. Mature your character and mature your emotional health. Allow God to help your

843
00:53:30.720 --> 00:53:46.320
nervous system. Read some books. Go to a counselor. Deal with your avoidance in the way you've learned

844
00:53:46.320 --> 00:53:53.360
to love. Deal with your anxiousness. It's only going to get worse in marriage. It's going to

845
00:53:53.360 --> 00:53:59.040
be amplified. It's going to get bigger and bigger. That's why we like dating so much.

846
00:54:00.800 --> 00:54:05.440
You think we're trying to drag you to your doom. We're trying to let that anxiousness come out so

847
00:54:05.440 --> 00:54:09.520
you can learn how to work with it. You can say, okay I may be bent that way but I'm going to

848
00:54:09.520 --> 00:54:15.920
bend myself back the other way. I was trained in an anxious attachment style growing up but it

849
00:54:15.920 --> 00:54:21.760
will not define how I show up because I already know I'm bent toward that way. So when I see myself

850
00:54:21.760 --> 00:54:32.560
leaning I go, we coming back over here buddy. I was raised in toxicity so when if I argue with a

851
00:54:32.560 --> 00:54:38.560
man something on the inside of me gets just turned on. I am telling you when I get to arguing and

852
00:54:38.560 --> 00:54:43.760
they argue back with me it's like oh yeah this is what I like. I can hear it and I'll be like oh no

853
00:54:43.840 --> 00:54:50.000
no no no no no we don't do that here. I am in authority over me.

854
00:54:52.880 --> 00:54:59.200
So the fact that we can we are aware enough to recognize what's happening gives us authority over

855
00:54:59.200 --> 00:55:01.200
it.

856
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.280
And so that's what dating pulls out, all the agitation,

857
00:55:03.280 --> 00:55:05.240
all what they do and how they say stuff

858
00:55:05.240 --> 00:55:07.840
and all of this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this.

859
00:55:07.840 --> 00:55:09.660
It all works for the good.

860
00:55:10.620 --> 00:55:12.520
Cause you get to practice.

861
00:55:13.860 --> 00:55:16.240
You get to practice in low stakes.

862
00:55:16.240 --> 00:55:19.520
So one of the reasons why we push pacing

863
00:55:19.520 --> 00:55:22.520
is because if you don't pace the process,

864
00:55:22.520 --> 00:55:25.720
you end up getting molly whopped in the process.

865
00:55:25.720 --> 00:55:28.960
Your heart gets hurt more than it should.

866
00:55:28.960 --> 00:55:31.040
And so when you take on the perspective

867
00:55:31.040 --> 00:55:32.720
of dating for discovery,

868
00:55:32.720 --> 00:55:35.360
and not every man you talk to is your husband,

869
00:55:35.360 --> 00:55:40.360
you spare yourself the hurt and pain that's unnecessary.

870
00:55:40.920 --> 00:55:42.240
It's unnecessary.

871
00:55:42.240 --> 00:55:44.100
You don't need any more wounds.

872
00:55:44.100 --> 00:55:45.760
You've had enough.

873
00:55:47.040 --> 00:55:49.160
You've had enough, you guys.

874
00:55:49.160 --> 00:55:51.120
Release yourself from it.

875
00:55:51.120 --> 00:55:52.480
Pace yourself.

876
00:55:52.480 --> 00:55:54.400
Release the fantasies.

877
00:55:54.400 --> 00:55:55.980
Understand where you are.

878
00:55:55.980 --> 00:55:57.240
You're in phase two.

879
00:55:57.280 --> 00:55:59.280
Phase two is dating for discovery.

880
00:55:59.280 --> 00:56:01.080
When you sign up for this process,

881
00:56:01.080 --> 00:56:03.240
there's hard work, there's dating for discovery,

882
00:56:03.240 --> 00:56:04.560
and then you go into phase three.

883
00:56:04.560 --> 00:56:06.800
At some point, you're gonna be looking for destiny DNA.

884
00:56:06.800 --> 00:56:08.720
And when you look for your destiny DNA,

885
00:56:08.720 --> 00:56:11.780
you already have worked out things in you.

886
00:56:14.600 --> 00:56:16.520
Y'all following me?

887
00:56:16.520 --> 00:56:17.760
Is this good?

888
00:56:17.760 --> 00:56:18.960
Is this good to talk?

889
00:56:18.960 --> 00:56:21.800
I need some head nod, okay, okay, okay.

890
00:56:21.800 --> 00:56:23.840
Now, thank you, thank you, thank you.

891
00:56:23.840 --> 00:56:25.480
And then the last one.

892
00:56:25.480 --> 00:56:28.200
Focus on becoming prepared for marriage,

893
00:56:28.200 --> 00:56:30.480
not just obtaining marriage.

894
00:56:30.480 --> 00:56:33.320
And look, we can all be very, very guilty of this.

895
00:56:33.320 --> 00:56:34.760
We're focused on obtaining marriage,

896
00:56:34.760 --> 00:56:38.000
and that's why a lot of times we have a lot of,

897
00:56:38.000 --> 00:56:42.360
with a lot of hurt in our heart, a lot of disappointment.

898
00:56:42.360 --> 00:56:44.240
You guys, disappointment after disappointment

899
00:56:44.240 --> 00:56:48.760
after disappointment does not build a victorious person.

900
00:56:48.760 --> 00:56:50.700
Perspective does.

901
00:56:50.700 --> 00:56:53.720
That when disappointment comes, you gird up your lawns

902
00:56:53.720 --> 00:56:57.440
and you remind yourself of the perspective,

903
00:56:57.440 --> 00:57:02.440
the truth, and say, okay, I can do this.

904
00:57:02.680 --> 00:57:04.120
I thought it would have been here by now,

905
00:57:04.120 --> 00:57:05.440
but that's okay, I can do this.

906
00:57:05.440 --> 00:57:06.280
Where am I?

907
00:57:06.280 --> 00:57:07.160
Where are you guys?

908
00:57:07.160 --> 00:57:09.740
If I'm not at the altar, then where you at?

909
00:57:11.800 --> 00:57:13.080
Put me where you are.

910
00:57:13.080 --> 00:57:14.360
Show me where you are.

911
00:57:14.360 --> 00:57:15.920
Teach me, grow me.

912
00:57:15.920 --> 00:57:19.220
Clearly, there's something else that you need to do in me,

913
00:57:19.220 --> 00:57:20.480
because I know that you're good.

914
00:57:20.480 --> 00:57:23.160
The Bible says, if your child asks you for bread,

915
00:57:23.200 --> 00:57:24.080
would you give him a stone?

916
00:57:24.080 --> 00:57:26.120
And if your child asks you for fish,

917
00:57:26.120 --> 00:57:27.040
would you give him a snake?

918
00:57:27.040 --> 00:57:29.240
Jesus said, now you men are evil at heart

919
00:57:29.240 --> 00:57:30.920
not to give good gifts to your children.

920
00:57:30.920 --> 00:57:32.840
What more my father in heaven

921
00:57:32.840 --> 00:57:35.520
will not give good gifts to those who ask?

922
00:57:35.520 --> 00:57:37.320
The Bible says that God is a rewarder

923
00:57:37.320 --> 00:57:39.000
of those who diligently seek him.

924
00:57:39.000 --> 00:57:41.040
You can't believe that you're gonna go through hard work

925
00:57:41.040 --> 00:57:43.000
and go through a program seeking the Lord for marriage,

926
00:57:43.000 --> 00:57:44.560
something he designed to be in earth,

927
00:57:44.560 --> 00:57:46.040
where one could put a thousand to flight

928
00:57:46.040 --> 00:57:48.000
and two could put tens of thousands to flight,

929
00:57:48.000 --> 00:57:50.800
that he put this together for a Simon in the earth

930
00:57:50.800 --> 00:57:52.240
so that the kingdom of God will come

931
00:57:52.240 --> 00:57:54.640
and his will will be done on earth as it is in heaven,

932
00:57:54.640 --> 00:57:56.280
and he's not gonna give it to you.

933
00:57:56.280 --> 00:57:58.720
He wants it for you more than you want it,

934
00:57:58.720 --> 00:58:00.880
but he wants you to live in the kingdom

935
00:58:00.880 --> 00:58:03.360
and the goodness of the design that he's created.

936
00:58:03.360 --> 00:58:06.320
And so when we come to partner with the Lord for a spouse,

937
00:58:06.320 --> 00:58:10.000
hey, it's gonna be a process, people.

938
00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:12.960
If you want a man your way, go get one.

939
00:58:12.960 --> 00:58:14.200
They're out there.

940
00:58:15.760 --> 00:58:18.640
But if you want the best that there is,

941
00:58:18.640 --> 00:58:21.960
you've come to the right place at the right time.

942
00:58:22.720 --> 00:58:24.840
As they say in church, to receive your blessing.

943
00:58:24.840 --> 00:58:26.720
It is the truth.

944
00:58:26.720 --> 00:58:29.000
Nobody does it like Father God.

945
00:58:31.080 --> 00:58:35.000
And he wants the best for you, even when we want less.

946
00:58:35.000 --> 00:58:36.720
I'm telling you, a lot of times, I better took less.

947
00:58:36.720 --> 00:58:38.680
I mean, look, I get it all on the other side.

948
00:58:38.680 --> 00:58:43.680
She said, take it, look, let's get this stuff done.

949
00:58:43.720 --> 00:58:44.560
Right?

950
00:58:44.560 --> 00:58:48.600
But when we prepare this way, when we give perspective,

951
00:58:48.600 --> 00:58:51.200
all of a sudden, hear what I say,

952
00:58:51.200 --> 00:58:53.880
suddenly is no longer a suddenly.

953
00:58:54.760 --> 00:58:58.080
We believe that suddenlies are literally suddenly.

954
00:58:58.080 --> 00:59:01.920
But when you prepare, suddenly is not so suddenly.

955
00:59:01.920 --> 00:59:04.680
Even though it's suddenly, it's not so suddenly.

956
00:59:04.680 --> 00:59:07.640
Because you've been preparing for this, blue leather,

957
00:59:07.640 --> 00:59:10.880
you've been preparing for this moment.

958
00:59:10.880 --> 00:59:12.600
And it's like, oh, wow,

959
00:59:12.600 --> 00:59:14.160
I didn't know I was gonna meet him today,

960
00:59:14.160 --> 00:59:16.240
but suddenly is not so suddenly.

961
00:59:17.120 --> 00:59:20.080
Sometimes we confuse fantasy and suddenly.

962
00:59:21.080 --> 00:59:23.000
Fantasies are not suddenly.

963
00:59:23.000 --> 00:59:25.000
And so you'll get into a dating relationship

964
00:59:25.000 --> 00:59:28.320
and you will outpace yourself because you have fantasies.

965
00:59:28.320 --> 00:59:30.480
And in one week, you're in love with somebody.

966
00:59:30.480 --> 00:59:32.600
That's a fantasy.

967
00:59:32.600 --> 00:59:34.120
That's romanticism.

968
00:59:35.600 --> 00:59:39.840
The Bible says that a house is built on wisdom.

969
00:59:41.320 --> 00:59:42.920
Are you tracking with me?

970
00:59:42.920 --> 00:59:44.760
Perspective gives you that.

971
00:59:44.760 --> 00:59:46.760
Perspective says, when I meet somebody,

972
00:59:46.760 --> 00:59:48.560
I'm dating them for discovery.

973
00:59:48.560 --> 00:59:50.920
And now I'm gonna practice my pacing.

974
00:59:53.040 --> 00:59:56.280
Now I'm gonna practice giving more grace.

975
00:59:56.280 --> 00:59:58.280
I know it seemed like some fishy about this

976
00:59:58.280 --> 01:00:00.720
and I'm not talking about going against somebody.

977
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.160
saying something sexual to you. We're not, hear me, don't hear what I'm not saying to you.

978
01:00:04.800 --> 01:00:09.200
We know the foundations. Mature, marriage-minded, masculine. You know foundations. You know,

979
01:00:09.200 --> 01:00:12.720
you know what honor sounds like when someone speaks to you. If you don't, I'll tell you about

980
01:00:12.720 --> 01:00:17.760
that. But what happens is maybe you found somebody like, yeah, for sure, I know this

981
01:00:17.760 --> 01:00:22.720
ain't gonna work, but he's nice. Let me work on some skills. So then when he suggests something,

982
01:00:22.720 --> 01:00:28.560
I'll be like, no, I'm not interested without over-explaining. You ain't got no skin in the

983
01:00:28.560 --> 01:00:34.080
game. It's when you like somebody that it gets hard. So practice with the ones you don't like

984
01:00:34.080 --> 01:00:38.960
that much so that when that one come along that you like, you won't get strung along like a

985
01:00:38.960 --> 01:00:43.040
little puppy. Because I'm telling you, it's something about some of them, they be like,

986
01:00:46.800 --> 01:00:49.520
don't let them be saved to righteous or something. You be like,

987
01:00:51.600 --> 01:00:55.280
you know, perspective tells me that I can't see them five years from now,

988
01:00:55.280 --> 01:01:01.120
10 years from now, and I don't even really know them. I only know what they told me and what I

989
01:01:01.120 --> 01:01:07.760
can see. But God knows the heart. You know, the Bible says that God told Samuel, he said, see,

990
01:01:07.760 --> 01:01:12.560
you men. Every time he got to one of Jesse's sons, he says, you the one. Oh, this the one.

991
01:01:13.200 --> 01:01:18.240
Oh, this the one. God said, nope. This the one. Nope. Went through seven sons. Nope, nope, nope.

992
01:01:18.240 --> 01:01:23.280
He said, well, who is he? It wasn't David, a little shepherd boy. Guess what he'd been doing

993
01:01:23.280 --> 01:01:28.960
back there in the wood? Writing poems, killing bears, slaying lions with his bear hand. That's

994
01:01:28.960 --> 01:01:34.560
the kind of man I want. I want me a lion slaying man. One can kill a bear with his bear hand.

995
01:01:34.560 --> 01:01:40.960
Come on now. And he said, look, you judge the outer appearance of men, but I, the Lord,

996
01:01:40.960 --> 01:01:47.040
judge the heart of men. I have made it a practice to pray and ask the Lord, how have you judged this

997
01:01:47.040 --> 01:01:54.400
man's heart? That's what I ask the Lord. How have you judged this man's heart? How have you judged

998
01:01:54.400 --> 01:02:09.200
his heart? So, all right. Okay. Was that good? Ladies, was that good or what? Yes, ma'am. Amen.

999
01:02:09.680 --> 01:02:14.960
We need to take up some offering. Yes. Let the church say, amen.

1000
01:02:18.640 --> 01:02:25.040
Get baptized in some truth today into some perspective. All right. You guys, Lou is going

1001
01:02:25.040 --> 01:02:28.240
to go first, but you raise your hand and you can have questions about the teaching, something you

1002
01:02:28.240 --> 01:02:32.080
want me to expound upon, or even your own personal questions. It don't matter. Go ahead, Lou.

1003
01:02:33.040 --> 01:02:50.320
Hello. Am I anxious? Maybe. So, it's been a week and a day in Bumble, and I totally now understand

1004
01:02:50.320 --> 01:03:00.960
why you guys recommend being in apps and trying out things and doing this, because it really does

1005
01:03:02.880 --> 01:03:08.640
uncover a lot of what's still there, and we're not seeing it. We need to work on,

1006
01:03:08.640 --> 01:03:14.080
right? So, what I'm seeing is this person who's responding to all these people,

1007
01:03:14.080 --> 01:03:20.320
just like I respond to any client that comes for a business proposal, like in my business.

1008
01:03:21.200 --> 01:03:35.360
I am totally fearing rejection and putting up very tall walls around that, and I am most

1009
01:03:35.920 --> 01:03:45.440
definitely being sort of aggressive towards that in the sense of if they're not sweeping the floor,

1010
01:03:46.240 --> 01:03:54.720
bombing me with love and like, oh, my God, look at you. What a jam. It's like, okay, then

1011
01:03:55.760 --> 01:04:06.480
what's the point? And I've actually been finding guys that are mostly there for a while,

1012
01:04:06.480 --> 01:04:14.160
and they kind of have their checklist, and they're kind of very on into this is something I like,

1013
01:04:14.880 --> 01:04:21.920
this is something I don't like. They're actually asking very specific questions already that they

1014
01:04:21.920 --> 01:04:28.160
have in mind of like, okay, I have children. How is this going to work? You know, like

1015
01:04:30.000 --> 01:04:40.400
a lot way beyond what I expected, and then most conversations kind of start dying out already,

1016
01:04:41.360 --> 01:04:47.520
especially because in the first few days, I was so crazily avoidant of meeting

1017
01:04:50.800 --> 01:04:56.080
that I feel like also that killed a lot of the conversation.

1018
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:10.320
What else? So everything you said felt like really God speaking and preaching and all that

1019
01:05:10.320 --> 01:05:19.280
because it's exactly what I was praying about this morning, about this divine energy or feminine

1020
01:05:19.520 --> 01:05:30.080
um energy that needs to come to me and and and I've been praying to be the virtuous wife

1021
01:05:30.080 --> 01:05:36.080
this morning so all that you're saying resonates with everything I'm thinking

1022
01:05:37.520 --> 01:05:44.960
but it's so much easier said than done right like when I get like so there's this guy that

1023
01:05:45.040 --> 01:05:50.320
has been actually asking me out for the past year not not like every day or every time but

1024
01:05:50.320 --> 01:05:57.840
like he's known me from the day I moved to Tulsa and he always kind of says you know and and I've

1025
01:05:57.840 --> 01:06:05.760
always said no but then this time I'm like okay dating for discovery whatever no and then he

1026
01:06:05.760 --> 01:06:12.640
started being all picky about like okay I know you're a vegetarian but could you you know um

1027
01:06:12.640 --> 01:06:20.960
expand on that because I want to understand if that dynamic really works yeah

1028
01:06:25.280 --> 01:06:32.240
so yeah I know I know and then I get all like internally I get like all like

1029
01:06:35.760 --> 01:06:40.000
go do your you know like go your own way like I don't care like

1030
01:06:40.320 --> 01:06:48.320
I kind of get offended by it like very instantly um and also I

1031
01:06:49.520 --> 01:07:00.320
reached um basically 19 pounds mark of how much weight I lost so far and this weekend I was like

1032
01:07:02.320 --> 01:07:09.920
like feeling all empowered and then like one of my pants from like regular pants did fall off

1033
01:07:10.880 --> 01:07:18.960
to go to an event and and then a picture came out from that event

1034
01:07:19.600 --> 01:07:23.760
and then a reality check came out and it really shows I'm really halfway there

1035
01:07:26.000 --> 01:07:32.640
and I went from ecstasy to like not functioning yesterday when I saw that picture

1036
01:07:33.600 --> 01:07:41.280
and then I went to a salsa event here which I was super excited about because I'm I'm Brazilian

1037
01:07:41.280 --> 01:07:50.800
lived in Miami my entire adult life so this was kind of like yay salsa is kind of that thing that

1038
01:07:50.800 --> 01:08:00.640
would put all that weight down and but it was even worse because one here everyone is

1039
01:08:00.880 --> 01:08:11.440
everyone is so much about doing the steps perfectly correct and turning the right way

1040
01:08:11.440 --> 01:08:24.240
and being all apart and nobody asked to dance with me and I went from whoo to like completely

1041
01:08:24.240 --> 01:08:36.720
discouraged yeah um so question being is that common that you have like seven conversations

1042
01:08:36.720 --> 01:08:43.120
going on for like five six days and then they all day out is that like something that happens

1043
01:08:43.120 --> 01:08:53.439
is that just me being out of my feminine what is this no that's coming really yeah

1044
01:08:53.439 --> 01:08:59.040
if you could see my inbox you'd be like oh wow this this coming you can have seven conversations

1045
01:08:59.040 --> 01:09:06.880
going and they all die out um you could adjust that to if you meet somebody you like after the

1046
01:09:06.880 --> 01:09:12.160
second day you can move the move the conversation along if they don't so you can move it to if you

1047
01:09:12.160 --> 01:09:17.680
think you like them move it to a conversation move it to a coffee so hey um I want to continue

1048
01:09:17.680 --> 01:09:22.080
getting to know you uh would you be interested in having my number and we have a phone conversation

1049
01:09:22.880 --> 01:09:29.760
I always say that so that I've had a phone conversation okay and I loved his voice like

1050
01:09:29.760 --> 01:09:38.160
I don't know it really um but I haven't had the courage to actually meet in person yet

1051
01:09:39.439 --> 01:09:43.920
so what happens is if you don't make some type of move if somebody doesn't make the move

1052
01:09:44.479 --> 01:09:51.279
no matter who it is it's gonna die out I know yeah that's just that's just how that works

1053
01:09:51.279 --> 01:09:56.240
you're gonna lose interest even if you talk to that person too long you're gonna lose interest

1054
01:09:56.240 --> 01:09:59.840
you lose the momentum and so maybe

1055
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:02.880
If you haven't gathered up the strength to meet in person yet,

1056
01:10:02.880 --> 01:10:07.800
you may want to do a FaceTime, or video, or Zoom.

1057
01:10:07.800 --> 01:10:10.240
But something to move it along, because what you want

1058
01:10:10.240 --> 01:10:12.880
is a date.

1059
01:10:12.880 --> 01:10:13.840
I know.

1060
01:10:13.840 --> 01:10:16.840
Yeah, you want to date with a safe person.

1061
01:10:16.840 --> 01:10:19.040
But one of the questions that I want to ask you

1062
01:10:19.040 --> 01:10:22.000
is I want you to ask the Lord if you don't know,

1063
01:10:22.000 --> 01:10:24.280
what does body image mean to me?

1064
01:10:24.280 --> 01:10:37.560
I've dwelled on this the whole weekend.

1065
01:10:37.560 --> 01:10:44.640
And I think it means I'm very scared of people

1066
01:10:44.640 --> 01:10:46.880
knowing who I really am.

1067
01:10:46.880 --> 01:10:55.840
And that means kind of like my most like digging

1068
01:10:55.840 --> 01:10:59.760
into that image of who I really am

1069
01:10:59.760 --> 01:11:04.440
and fearing nobody likes that.

1070
01:11:04.440 --> 01:11:05.960
Yeah, well, who are you?

1071
01:11:09.600 --> 01:11:12.160
That's broad, but I don't know.

1072
01:11:12.160 --> 01:11:15.320
Well, what do you fear the most?

1073
01:11:15.320 --> 01:11:18.320
I am a very intense emotional person,

1074
01:11:18.320 --> 01:11:22.440
if that starts shaping who I am.

1075
01:11:22.440 --> 01:11:28.880
I am very passionate about everything I put my mind to.

1076
01:11:28.880 --> 01:11:31.200
So when they look at you, what do you do?

1077
01:11:31.200 --> 01:11:33.400
I've always been told I'm too much.

1078
01:11:33.400 --> 01:11:40.240
I've always been told I am a handful.

1079
01:11:40.240 --> 01:11:42.280
My parents would always start conversations

1080
01:11:42.320 --> 01:11:46.000
by saying I only had one child because, you see.

1081
01:11:50.360 --> 01:11:54.760
No, my mom always said I was a lot.

1082
01:11:54.760 --> 01:11:59.240
But what I want you to do is the root of the issue

1083
01:11:59.240 --> 01:12:01.760
right now is you embody image.

1084
01:12:01.760 --> 01:12:03.480
That's why you don't want to meet people.

1085
01:12:03.480 --> 01:12:05.400
You don't want them to see you a certain way.

1086
01:12:05.400 --> 01:12:06.960
Because when you looked at yourself,

1087
01:12:06.960 --> 01:12:09.080
you frowned upon yourself.

1088
01:12:09.120 --> 01:12:12.640
And that's not healthy.

1089
01:12:12.640 --> 01:12:15.080
That's not healthy at all.

1090
01:12:15.080 --> 01:12:17.720
When I went through divorce, I saw a therapist.

1091
01:12:17.720 --> 01:12:23.000
And she did say I suffer from image distortion.

1092
01:12:23.000 --> 01:12:24.440
OK.

1093
01:12:24.440 --> 01:12:30.200
So she said it's actually a condition.

1094
01:12:30.200 --> 01:12:34.000
No matter how many times people tell you something or show you

1095
01:12:34.000 --> 01:12:37.600
something, you continuously just don't see it.

1096
01:12:39.280 --> 01:12:43.080
And it is a condition, but it's covered under the blood.

1097
01:12:43.080 --> 01:12:45.960
And so that means you're going to take your condition

1098
01:12:45.960 --> 01:12:47.480
to the cross.

1099
01:12:47.480 --> 01:12:51.160
And don't you leave it until Jesus gets what he paid for.

1100
01:12:51.160 --> 01:12:53.360
Because he paid for that condition.

1101
01:12:53.360 --> 01:12:57.000
And the Bible says that what is impossible with man

1102
01:12:57.000 --> 01:12:58.880
is possible with God.

1103
01:12:58.880 --> 01:13:02.480
And so I'm just going to uproot that lie out of you right now.

1104
01:13:02.480 --> 01:13:05.000
That when you look at yourself, God

1105
01:13:05.000 --> 01:13:07.520
has designed you in such a way that when you look at yourself,

1106
01:13:07.520 --> 01:13:10.440
you see the image of the true and living God.

1107
01:13:10.440 --> 01:13:12.960
And anything other than that is a lie.

1108
01:13:12.960 --> 01:13:16.360
The Bible says to let God be true and every man a lie.

1109
01:13:16.360 --> 01:13:18.600
And at the end of that scripture, I put Ebony,

1110
01:13:18.600 --> 01:13:20.680
even if you are the liar.

1111
01:13:20.680 --> 01:13:23.880
And so Luann, you've been found to be a liar.

1112
01:13:23.880 --> 01:13:26.280
God is true, and you are the liar.

1113
01:13:26.280 --> 01:13:27.960
And the enemy is planning lies to you,

1114
01:13:27.960 --> 01:13:29.720
and he's telling you that it's you.

1115
01:13:29.720 --> 01:13:31.800
It's not you.

1116
01:13:31.800 --> 01:13:33.640
It is his thoughts.

1117
01:13:33.640 --> 01:13:35.680
Because when the image is distorted,

1118
01:13:35.680 --> 01:13:37.840
it's impossible to see the lion of Judah

1119
01:13:37.840 --> 01:13:39.680
that lives on the inside of you.

1120
01:13:39.680 --> 01:13:42.120
Image is everything.

1121
01:13:42.120 --> 01:13:45.560
It is everything, and that's why the enemy weighs on your image.

1122
01:13:45.560 --> 01:13:47.520
He weighs on all of our images so much.

1123
01:13:47.520 --> 01:13:50.160
You're not the only woman who looks at herself in the mirror

1124
01:13:50.160 --> 01:13:52.760
and says, no matter how perfect her body gets,

1125
01:13:52.760 --> 01:13:54.640
you're going to know that it's the enemy.

1126
01:13:54.640 --> 01:13:56.440
Because no matter what you do to your body,

1127
01:13:56.440 --> 01:13:58.160
it's not going away.

1128
01:13:58.160 --> 01:13:59.560
It keeps talking to you.

1129
01:13:59.560 --> 01:14:03.040
I used to be close to 400 pounds, 10 pounds away.

1130
01:14:03.040 --> 01:14:05.160
And when I look in the mirror, the same devil

1131
01:14:05.160 --> 01:14:08.320
that talked to me at 400 pounds tries to talk to me at 255

1132
01:14:08.320 --> 01:14:10.200
pounds, and I don't let him do it.

1133
01:14:10.200 --> 01:14:12.360
The same devil that talked to me about my arms

1134
01:14:12.360 --> 01:14:14.720
and my inner thighs and every part of my body

1135
01:14:14.720 --> 01:14:17.680
is the same one that tries to talk to me now.

1136
01:14:17.680 --> 01:14:19.080
And if I went to see a counselor,

1137
01:14:19.080 --> 01:14:20.520
she'll tell me the same thing.

1138
01:14:20.520 --> 01:14:22.400
But I tell the devil that he is a liar,

1139
01:14:22.400 --> 01:14:24.120
because God gave me arms and reach

1140
01:14:24.120 --> 01:14:25.840
and get anything I need out of my cabinet.

1141
01:14:25.840 --> 01:14:27.480
My legs take me anywhere I need to go.

1142
01:14:27.480 --> 01:14:29.240
I got eyes to see and ears to hear.

1143
01:14:29.240 --> 01:14:31.400
I have breath in my lungs, a nose that can smell,

1144
01:14:31.400 --> 01:14:32.640
and a mouth that can talk.

1145
01:14:32.640 --> 01:14:35.640
I am telling you that God is good,

1146
01:14:35.640 --> 01:14:39.800
and the blood is sufficient, and it's sufficient for you.

1147
01:14:39.800 --> 01:14:41.640
And it keeps working.

1148
01:14:41.640 --> 01:14:42.880
Amen.

1149
01:14:42.880 --> 01:14:45.920
And so I want you to get the truths of God,

1150
01:14:45.920 --> 01:14:48.480
and I don't want you to stop speaking them over your life

1151
01:14:48.480 --> 01:14:51.760
and meditating on them and praising God for your body

1152
01:14:51.760 --> 01:14:52.440
every day.

1153
01:14:52.440 --> 01:14:54.400
I look in the mirror, let me tell you,

1154
01:14:54.400 --> 01:14:58.320
naked and lift up my arm with all that extra skin under that

1155
01:14:58.320 --> 01:15:00.000
was there when I was 400 pounds.

1156
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:02.000
I said, Lord, I thank you for my arms.

1157
01:15:02.000 --> 01:15:04.880
Somebody don't have arms, but I was able to reach

1158
01:15:04.880 --> 01:15:06.720
and take a bath for myself.

1159
01:15:06.720 --> 01:15:08.320
I can clean myself.

1160
01:15:08.320 --> 01:15:11.560
These are real things that people wish they had limbs to do.

1161
01:15:11.560 --> 01:15:15.240
I can clap my hands and I begin to praise God for my body.

1162
01:15:15.240 --> 01:15:17.680
Every woman on here, you criticize your body.

1163
01:15:17.680 --> 01:15:19.680
Stop praising God for your body.

1164
01:15:19.680 --> 01:15:22.800
I am telling you the thing you believe will never leave you

1165
01:15:22.800 --> 01:15:26.480
will leave you because it has no place to call home.

1166
01:15:26.480 --> 01:15:28.480
Your body.

1167
01:15:28.520 --> 01:15:32.640
Listen to me, girl, it's not a graveyard to bury lies,

1168
01:15:32.640 --> 01:15:34.560
to bury potential.

1169
01:15:34.560 --> 01:15:37.520
You are not a graveyard.

1170
01:15:37.520 --> 01:15:40.200
There's no tombstone on your forehead.

1171
01:15:40.200 --> 01:15:42.920
You are a living, active body

1172
01:15:42.920 --> 01:15:45.240
and life will live and dwell through you

1173
01:15:45.240 --> 01:15:46.960
and truth is gonna get you there.

1174
01:15:46.960 --> 01:15:49.640
Paul said to think on these things that are true,

1175
01:15:49.640 --> 01:15:53.200
that are praiseworthy and that have a good report.

1176
01:15:53.200 --> 01:15:54.880
And when you do that,

1177
01:15:54.880 --> 01:15:57.360
there's no way that a lie can still exist

1178
01:15:57.360 --> 01:15:59.560
because the two cannot exist together.

1179
01:16:00.680 --> 01:16:02.440
Makes one is gonna win.

1180
01:16:05.120 --> 01:16:05.960
And so.

1181
01:16:05.960 --> 01:16:09.160
And the last thing like, oh my God, thank you.

1182
01:16:09.160 --> 01:16:11.280
You're so, you're such a blessing.

1183
01:16:11.280 --> 01:16:12.480
Thank you.

1184
01:16:12.480 --> 01:16:14.800
Well, and another thing like real quick.

1185
01:16:14.800 --> 01:16:15.640
Yes.

1186
01:16:15.640 --> 01:16:17.160
Can you type the other thing in the chat?

1187
01:16:17.160 --> 01:16:18.600
It's 116.

1188
01:16:19.520 --> 01:16:21.360
Can you type it in the chat for me to see it

1189
01:16:21.360 --> 01:16:22.720
and let me go to somebody else

1190
01:16:22.720 --> 01:16:24.680
and then I'll try to switch.

1191
01:16:24.680 --> 01:16:25.680
Of course.

1192
01:16:25.680 --> 01:16:27.000
Okay, okay.

1193
01:16:27.640 --> 01:16:28.480
All right.

1194
01:16:28.480 --> 01:16:30.000
Cynthia Cave.

1195
01:16:30.840 --> 01:16:32.000
Don't forget to type it, Lou,

1196
01:16:32.000 --> 01:16:33.760
cause I'm watching you.

1197
01:16:33.760 --> 01:16:34.840
Okay.

1198
01:16:34.840 --> 01:16:35.840
Cynthia Cave.

1199
01:16:35.840 --> 01:16:37.440
Yes.

1200
01:16:37.440 --> 01:16:38.280
Hi there.

1201
01:16:40.920 --> 01:16:41.920
This is amazing.

1202
01:16:41.920 --> 01:16:42.880
Yeah.

1203
01:16:42.880 --> 01:16:46.840
Maybe in some ways the answer is similar for me.

1204
01:16:46.840 --> 01:16:48.000
Thank you for the teaching.

1205
01:16:48.000 --> 01:16:48.840
Amazing.

1206
01:16:48.840 --> 01:16:51.320
I would definitely have lots of questions of,

1207
01:16:51.320 --> 01:16:52.280
so how do you do that?

1208
01:16:52.280 --> 01:16:53.120
And how does that work?

1209
01:16:53.120 --> 01:16:54.040
But maybe in the chat,

1210
01:16:54.040 --> 01:16:56.960
we can go over the teaching.

1211
01:16:57.920 --> 01:16:59.320
But the question is,

1212
01:16:59.320 --> 01:17:04.320
so I have been in a relationship for two and a quarter years.

1213
01:17:04.840 --> 01:17:05.680
Okay.

1214
01:17:06.600 --> 01:17:08.200
And I joined Last Year's Single

1215
01:17:09.640 --> 01:17:13.840
to try to find out if he's my spirit mate.

1216
01:17:13.840 --> 01:17:16.640
And I've been kind of talking with Carla

1217
01:17:18.040 --> 01:17:20.960
in the chat and in this meeting as well.

1218
01:17:20.960 --> 01:17:23.600
And one of the things that,

1219
01:17:23.600 --> 01:17:25.880
you know, as I was praying and reaching out to God,

1220
01:17:25.880 --> 01:17:28.160
I was focused on, is he okay?

1221
01:17:28.160 --> 01:17:29.400
Is he suitable?

1222
01:17:29.400 --> 01:17:34.160
Cause he's got some triggers and I'm kind of worried.

1223
01:17:34.160 --> 01:17:37.000
I'm petrified of making a wrong decision.

1224
01:17:37.000 --> 01:17:38.880
And yes, I want certainty.

1225
01:17:38.880 --> 01:17:41.080
I absolutely want certainty.

1226
01:17:42.640 --> 01:17:43.480
And,

1227
01:17:44.400 --> 01:17:46.800
but instead as I was praying,

1228
01:17:46.800 --> 01:17:50.160
God was focusing my attention on,

1229
01:17:51.640 --> 01:17:53.000
more on me.

1230
01:17:53.000 --> 01:17:57.320
And so I realized that I never feel safe,

1231
01:17:57.320 --> 01:17:58.160
not only,

1232
01:17:59.160 --> 01:18:00.240
you know, with my man,

1233
01:18:00.240 --> 01:18:01.680
but just generally in life.

1234
01:18:01.680 --> 01:18:03.600
I don't feel physically unsafe with my man,

1235
01:18:03.600 --> 01:18:04.920
but emotionally.

1236
01:18:04.920 --> 01:18:06.800
So I've opened up more to him

1237
01:18:06.800 --> 01:18:08.560
than anyone else ever in my life.

1238
01:18:08.560 --> 01:18:10.400
I've never been married before.

1239
01:18:10.400 --> 01:18:11.240
I'm 53.

1240
01:18:11.240 --> 01:18:13.320
This is actually my first serious relationship.

1241
01:18:13.320 --> 01:18:15.560
I was always waiting for the one.

1242
01:18:17.920 --> 01:18:18.760
And,

1243
01:18:18.760 --> 01:18:22.200
and I realize now also always petrified of ending up

1244
01:18:22.200 --> 01:18:23.040
like my mom,

1245
01:18:23.040 --> 01:18:26.000
who was in a very, very unhappy and violent marriage.

1246
01:18:27.360 --> 01:18:28.760
But yeah, so,

1247
01:18:30.120 --> 01:18:32.000
there is this thing,

1248
01:18:32.000 --> 01:18:34.400
yeah, always having a God.

1249
01:18:35.440 --> 01:18:38.160
And so, yeah, I've opened up to him

1250
01:18:38.160 --> 01:18:40.480
more than anyone else ever in my life,

1251
01:18:40.480 --> 01:18:42.920
but still I can't commit.

1252
01:18:42.920 --> 01:18:44.560
I can't give myself.

1253
01:18:46.200 --> 01:18:47.760
Then, you know,

1254
01:18:47.760 --> 01:18:49.640
sometimes we've had arguments

1255
01:18:50.920 --> 01:18:53.400
and normally he is lovely to me.

1256
01:18:54.840 --> 01:18:56.600
You know, Carla said that God showed her

1257
01:18:56.600 --> 01:18:59.360
what her husband's heart was like.

1258
01:18:59.360 --> 01:19:01.200
And I can say that as well.

1259
01:19:01.200 --> 01:19:03.080
I know he has a good heart

1260
01:19:04.440 --> 01:19:05.880
towards God and towards me.

1261
01:19:05.880 --> 01:19:07.840
He was a giver and a lover.

1262
01:19:07.840 --> 01:19:10.840
And I know that.

1263
01:19:10.840 --> 01:19:13.040
But when I bump into one of his triggers,

1264
01:19:14.680 --> 01:19:16.920
he's not quite so nice to me.

1265
01:19:16.920 --> 01:19:19.880
Not quite so nice, not quite so nice.

1266
01:19:19.880 --> 01:19:20.720
And,

1267
01:19:21.840 --> 01:19:24.560
or he says or does something that I feel

1268
01:19:24.560 --> 01:19:26.560
is not what you meant to do,

1269
01:19:26.560 --> 01:19:27.560
not what you meant to say,

1270
01:19:27.560 --> 01:19:29.080
not how it's going to be done.

1271
01:19:29.080 --> 01:19:33.240
And so then I get offended or I get upset or I get worked.

1272
01:19:33.240 --> 01:19:37.280
And then, you know, and then it's okay again.

1273
01:19:37.280 --> 01:19:41.200
And then I kind of relax or start to relax a bit,

1274
01:19:41.200 --> 01:19:43.120
but there's still like this guard up.

1275
01:19:43.120 --> 01:19:45.840
And so when I think about committing,

1276
01:19:45.880 --> 01:19:47.400
you know, for the rest of my life,

1277
01:19:47.400 --> 01:19:49.520
then all those moments are there.

1278
01:19:49.520 --> 01:19:52.360
And I'm like, if I was married, it might get worse.

1279
01:19:53.600 --> 01:19:57.520
So, but it was this kind of realization

1280
01:19:57.520 --> 01:20:00.200
that actually it's not so much.

1281
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:06.860
with him, so he's called Tux. It's not so much with Tux, it's actually generally, even

1282
01:20:06.860 --> 01:20:17.740
with female friends or just generally, I never feel like completely safe and can sort of

1283
01:20:17.740 --> 01:20:25.880
commit and yield and open up. And also because there's always this element that I'm trying

1284
01:20:25.880 --> 01:20:35.680
to protect myself, defend myself, that often in the relationship, I'm kind of focused on

1285
01:20:35.680 --> 01:20:40.320
keeping myself safe and protecting myself. And so I then get confused about things sometimes.

1286
01:20:40.320 --> 01:20:46.840
It's like, I'm not clear. And so anyway, all these realizations, so Carla said, yeah, really

1287
01:20:46.840 --> 01:20:51.320
good, fantastic. It's very encouraging. I love what you wrote. You know, the God's showing

1288
01:20:51.320 --> 01:20:59.360
you these things. But I was like, so what do I do with it? Or how do I get then healing?

1289
01:20:59.360 --> 01:21:07.040
I know that in God is my safety. I mean, I know it up here. I know that's up here. But

1290
01:21:07.040 --> 01:21:12.080
I also realized in the heart work that I didn't trust God. And that I believed bad things

1291
01:21:12.080 --> 01:21:17.200
about God's character, which was a complete shock to me. So I've got all these scriptures

1292
01:21:17.200 --> 01:21:22.800
up on my wall now about, tell me more about the character of God. He's easily, he's easy

1293
01:21:22.800 --> 01:21:34.160
to be entreated. You don't have to beg. And he's kind and compassionate. So, but yeah,

1294
01:21:34.160 --> 01:21:38.480
is it just a case of declaring God's truth till I believe it?

1295
01:21:38.480 --> 01:21:43.960
No. So what I want to say is, do y'all live in different countries or something?

1296
01:21:43.960 --> 01:21:44.960
Yeah.

1297
01:21:45.120 --> 01:21:49.840
Okay. Cause I'm trying to figure out how you live two and a half years, two and a quarter.

1298
01:21:49.840 --> 01:21:54.400
Okay. So there's a culture difference there too, as well?

1299
01:21:54.400 --> 01:22:01.040
No. So he's in Britain in the UK and I originally come from the UK, but I've lived most of my

1300
01:22:01.040 --> 01:22:09.440
life in Germany. But I actually knew him when I was a student, 35 years ago. He was interested

1301
01:22:09.520 --> 01:22:10.960
in me then.

1302
01:22:10.960 --> 01:22:14.080
Okay. Yeah. So you've done, do you, have you done counseling?

1303
01:22:15.920 --> 01:22:20.560
No, not really. I've some, yeah. So over the years I've done various courses on inner healing.

1304
01:22:21.440 --> 01:22:24.800
Have you done any EMDR trauma counseling?

1305
01:22:25.760 --> 01:22:26.000
No.

1306
01:22:26.960 --> 01:22:33.600
That may be something you want to look into EMDR, not talk therapy, but EMDR, you can research it.

1307
01:22:34.240 --> 01:22:36.160
It is a type of trauma therapy.

1308
01:22:37.520 --> 01:22:38.240
Okay.

1309
01:22:38.240 --> 01:22:45.680
EMDR is a trauma therapy. And then another thing, and this is not, when I ask you this question,

1310
01:22:45.680 --> 01:22:49.040
I don't want you to feel like there's a standard you have to meet when I ask you this.

1311
01:22:49.040 --> 01:22:50.800
How much time do you spend in prayer?

1312
01:22:55.600 --> 01:23:00.960
If it's just like, say average or, you know, not so I'm going somewhere with it. So it's not like.

1313
01:23:00.960 --> 01:23:02.960
Yeah. Yeah. It varies a great deal.

1314
01:23:04.000 --> 01:23:06.080
So, okay. That's enough.

1315
01:23:06.080 --> 01:23:07.520
Quite a bit, I would say.

1316
01:23:07.520 --> 01:23:09.920
Twice a day. So I don't know.

1317
01:23:11.360 --> 01:23:11.600
Huh?

1318
01:23:12.480 --> 01:23:17.120
Quite a bit, I would say. So always in the mornings and sometimes throughout the day

1319
01:23:17.120 --> 01:23:20.240
and sometimes in the evenings when I have a day off and often the whole day.

1320
01:23:21.360 --> 01:23:25.840
So what I've learned is you can declare scriptures, but it doesn't always

1321
01:23:25.840 --> 01:23:32.560
come down from head knowledge to the heart, but sitting with the Lord, just sitting, no words,

1322
01:23:33.440 --> 01:23:37.600
keep your thoughts, sitting with the Lord, putting on some soaking music,

1323
01:23:38.720 --> 01:23:42.640
letting the Lord know that I'm coming because this is what the word of God says.

1324
01:23:42.640 --> 01:23:48.240
It says that the name of the Lord is a strong tower. The righteous run in and they find safety

1325
01:23:49.200 --> 01:23:54.480
somewhere in your childhood or the way you've learned love. You didn't feel safe.

1326
01:23:54.480 --> 01:23:58.800
Well, that's what's happening with you now, still there. And you're going to need to find

1327
01:23:58.800 --> 01:24:02.720
safety within yourself and you can find the Lord will help you with it.

1328
01:24:02.720 --> 01:24:08.240
So sitting with the Lord in quiet and in intimacy, he knows why you're showing up.

1329
01:24:08.240 --> 01:24:11.600
You can even say it if your mind has to say it, when you come before him,

1330
01:24:11.600 --> 01:24:14.960
you can even get your scripture, just one scripture to keep meditating on.

1331
01:24:14.960 --> 01:24:18.640
If you can't steal your mind, especially if you're used to talking, when you pray,

1332
01:24:19.920 --> 01:24:24.560
if you're used to doing a lot of talking, when you pray, this is not that this is intimacy.

1333
01:24:24.560 --> 01:24:31.520
This is sitting still before the Lord. Set your timer for five minutes. I don't know how long

1334
01:24:31.520 --> 01:24:35.920
you're used to sitting with the Lord. Then move it up to 10 minutes, move it up to 20 minutes.

1335
01:24:35.920 --> 01:24:39.840
Keep increasing your time before the Lord, but start with something really simple,

1336
01:24:39.840 --> 01:24:44.560
like five minutes, sit with him, put on some soaking music. Don't pick a song that has a lot

1337
01:24:44.560 --> 01:24:50.720
of words. You need to pick a song that's more instrumental. And if it helps you when you first

1338
01:24:50.720 --> 01:24:55.120
start off, because you're not used to stealing your mind before the Lord to pick a song with

1339
01:24:55.120 --> 01:24:59.840
words, you can do that. But you want to pick a song that has words that does not edify you.

1340
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.900
but edifies God, like holy, holy, holy,

1341
01:25:04.900 --> 01:25:08.100
something that's purely about his holiness and his beauty.

1342
01:25:08.100 --> 01:25:09.220
Not what he's done for you,

1343
01:25:09.220 --> 01:25:10.820
not how he can do it for you.

1344
01:25:10.820 --> 01:25:14.860
None of those things, just who he is.

1345
01:25:14.860 --> 01:25:16.560
So that's what the meditation will look like.

1346
01:25:16.560 --> 01:25:18.860
And then you can wean yourself out to instrumental,

1347
01:25:18.860 --> 01:25:21.300
but it's not wrong if you keep doing words, right?

1348
01:25:21.300 --> 01:25:23.780
Like words that elevate God,

1349
01:25:23.780 --> 01:25:27.100
but you want to be able to just sit with him.

1350
01:25:27.100 --> 01:25:28.980
And in your sitting with the Lord,

1351
01:25:28.980 --> 01:25:31.800
he's going to do the work on the inside.

1352
01:25:31.800 --> 01:25:33.480
You'll begin to hear him speak.

1353
01:25:33.480 --> 01:25:36.840
Take your notebook with you, but don't be so constant.

1354
01:25:36.840 --> 01:25:38.440
I don't want you to focus on, he's going to hear,

1355
01:25:38.440 --> 01:25:39.280
I'm going to, he's going to speak.

1356
01:25:39.280 --> 01:25:41.040
He's going to, uh-uh, don't do that.

1357
01:25:41.040 --> 01:25:44.080
You're coming, announce, I'm coming to be with you.

1358
01:25:45.040 --> 01:25:47.400
I don't feel safe and I have ever felt safe.

1359
01:25:47.400 --> 01:25:49.080
And the Bible says that the name of the Lord

1360
01:25:49.080 --> 01:25:51.360
is a strong tower and the righteous run in and find safety.

1361
01:25:51.360 --> 01:25:53.640
I want to find safety with you, Father.

1362
01:25:53.640 --> 01:25:54.840
That's why I'm here.

1363
01:25:54.840 --> 01:25:55.840
That's it.

1364
01:25:55.840 --> 01:25:57.840
When your mind try to pray for somebody,

1365
01:25:57.900 --> 01:25:59.460
when your mind try to bring something up,

1366
01:25:59.460 --> 01:26:01.460
cause he's going to do it, say, no, no, no.

1367
01:26:01.460 --> 01:26:02.780
That's not why we're here.

1368
01:26:02.780 --> 01:26:05.100
And it may take you weeks to get the hang of this.

1369
01:26:05.100 --> 01:26:06.660
And that's okay.

1370
01:26:06.660 --> 01:26:08.660
The Bible says they who come to God

1371
01:26:08.660 --> 01:26:10.620
must first believe that he is,

1372
01:26:10.620 --> 01:26:12.940
and that he is a rewarder of those

1373
01:26:12.940 --> 01:26:14.820
who diligently seek him.

1374
01:26:14.820 --> 01:26:16.900
So when you, your mind tries to tell you,

1375
01:26:16.900 --> 01:26:19.100
a lie tries to keep you in that this is not going to work,

1376
01:26:19.100 --> 01:26:20.100
it's a lie.

1377
01:26:20.100 --> 01:26:21.580
He is a rewarder.

1378
01:26:21.580 --> 01:26:24.380
You believe that he is who he says he is.

1379
01:26:24.380 --> 01:26:28.360
And he is the rewarder of those who diligently seek him.

1380
01:26:28.360 --> 01:26:31.180
That means I keep showing up.

1381
01:26:33.500 --> 01:26:36.000
I would give myself 30 days.

1382
01:26:36.000 --> 01:26:38.640
So I would put 30 days on this new style

1383
01:26:38.640 --> 01:26:40.840
of coming before the Lord, sitting with him,

1384
01:26:40.840 --> 01:26:43.760
with your soul focused on finding safety in him.

1385
01:26:44.960 --> 01:26:45.800
Okay.

1386
01:26:45.800 --> 01:26:49.960
Is this something you tried or think you can practice?

1387
01:26:49.960 --> 01:26:51.080
Sounds, it sounds good.

1388
01:26:51.080 --> 01:26:51.920
Thank you.

1389
01:26:51.920 --> 01:26:52.740
Yeah.

1390
01:26:52.740 --> 01:26:53.580
Okay.

1391
01:26:53.580 --> 01:26:54.960
Let me just pray over you that word right quick.

1392
01:26:54.960 --> 01:26:56.640
Father God, I thank you for Cynthia

1393
01:26:56.640 --> 01:26:59.280
and I release her into your care.

1394
01:26:59.280 --> 01:27:01.840
Oh God, as she surrenders her heart to you now

1395
01:27:01.840 --> 01:27:04.300
to deal with this thing that has been dealing with her

1396
01:27:04.300 --> 01:27:06.720
all her life, I declare that it ends now.

1397
01:27:06.720 --> 01:27:08.600
I declare the seasons are changing

1398
01:27:08.600 --> 01:27:10.560
and she's coming to the safety, the joy,

1399
01:27:10.560 --> 01:27:12.800
and the peace of her Abba father.

1400
01:27:12.800 --> 01:27:16.560
We thank you Adonai for what you're doing in her life.

1401
01:27:16.560 --> 01:27:17.720
Old things have passed

1402
01:27:17.720 --> 01:27:19.800
and we declare that the new has come.

1403
01:27:19.800 --> 01:27:22.200
You make all things beautiful in this time.

1404
01:27:22.200 --> 01:27:25.380
And I declare that this is the time in Jesus name.

1405
01:27:25.380 --> 01:27:26.360
Amen.

1406
01:27:28.100 --> 01:27:28.940
Amen.

1407
01:27:29.900 --> 01:27:31.260
And then hopefully when we clean this up,

1408
01:27:31.260 --> 01:27:32.220
you'll be ready to get married.

1409
01:27:32.220 --> 01:27:33.060
Okay.

1410
01:27:33.060 --> 01:27:34.780
Two and a half years, we're not going to make it three.

1411
01:27:34.780 --> 01:27:37.500
Ah, yay.

1412
01:27:37.500 --> 01:27:38.340
Okay.

1413
01:27:38.340 --> 01:27:39.900
You can't keep that man waiting right there.

1414
01:27:39.900 --> 01:27:41.100
It's time to go Cynthia.

1415
01:27:45.820 --> 01:27:48.380
You're not going to let the years of your life pass by

1416
01:27:48.380 --> 01:27:49.780
talking about you scared to get married.

1417
01:27:49.780 --> 01:27:51.180
The enemy has to lose you.

1418
01:27:51.180 --> 01:27:52.020
It's a trick.

1419
01:27:52.800 --> 01:27:54.600
The enemy must lose you.

1420
01:27:54.600 --> 01:27:55.440
Amen.

1421
01:27:56.440 --> 01:27:57.280
Amen.

1422
01:27:57.280 --> 01:27:58.100
Amen.

1423
01:27:58.100 --> 01:27:58.940
All right.

1424
01:28:08.080 --> 01:28:10.560
Are you still here Shekinah?

1425
01:28:10.560 --> 01:28:12.400
Oh, I was trying to unmute.

1426
01:28:12.400 --> 01:28:13.240
Oh, hey girl.

1427
01:28:14.800 --> 01:28:17.840
Hey Ebony, do you cringe when you see my name pop up?

1428
01:28:17.840 --> 01:28:19.960
Cause I feel like I'm a wild card.

1429
01:28:19.960 --> 01:28:21.800
Oh, you a wild card, but I don't cringe.

1430
01:28:22.540 --> 01:28:23.580
I was like, I miss her.

1431
01:28:23.580 --> 01:28:25.420
I was like, I miss her.

1432
01:28:25.420 --> 01:28:30.420
So I really appreciate what you were touching on earlier

1433
01:28:33.340 --> 01:28:38.340
today about trying to keep the hope when you don't see it

1434
01:28:41.300 --> 01:28:46.300
because I keep trying to climb out of this revolving circle.

1435
01:28:48.340 --> 01:28:51.740
I keep going from telling my friends like, yes,

1436
01:28:52.680 --> 01:28:56.640
let's go out, let's stay positive, let's be open.

1437
01:28:56.640 --> 01:28:59.960
And let's stop thinking about like our type,

1438
01:28:59.960 --> 01:29:02.120
let's just get out here and meet people.

1439
01:29:02.120 --> 01:29:05.080
And you get so pumped and so hype,

1440
01:29:05.080 --> 01:29:07.200
like, oh God is going to do this.

1441
01:29:07.200 --> 01:29:10.140
But after 23 years of doing that, it's like, okay,

1442
01:29:10.140 --> 01:29:13.800
how do I keep staying positive?

1443
01:29:13.800 --> 01:29:18.600
And I'm at the point right now where it's like,

1444
01:29:18.660 --> 01:29:22.660
I love these calls cause it helps keep me encouraged.

1445
01:29:22.660 --> 01:29:24.020
And I love the prayers that y'all do.

1446
01:29:24.020 --> 01:29:25.860
So I have to log on because I feel like

1447
01:29:25.860 --> 01:29:28.140
that's the last thread I'm hanging on

1448
01:29:28.140 --> 01:29:29.940
is when I get a chance to get on these calls

1449
01:29:29.940 --> 01:29:31.220
because I'm at the point where,

1450
01:29:31.220 --> 01:29:32.900
I've already gotten off the apps.

1451
01:29:33.800 --> 01:29:37.220
And when I see stuff pop up on my social media about like,

1452
01:29:37.220 --> 01:29:39.100
oh, the singles event, I'm like,

1453
01:29:39.100 --> 01:29:41.660
I've already done that, I've done this.

1454
01:29:41.660 --> 01:29:45.620
So it's like, I am at the point where it's almost like,

1455
01:29:46.440 --> 01:29:48.560
why don't I just go back to my ex?

1456
01:29:48.560 --> 01:29:51.720
Cause I feel like I'm getting disappointed either way.

1457
01:29:51.720 --> 01:29:55.200
You're disappointed if you just withdraw from dating,

1458
01:29:55.200 --> 01:29:58.600
you get disappointed when you're out doing dating.

1459
01:29:58.600 --> 01:29:59.920
So if I'm...

1460
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:05.840
get disappointed either way i might as well just go ahead and be with my ex anyway you know i wasn't

1461
01:30:05.840 --> 01:30:14.320
verbally or physically abused you know so i'm just i mean what what are some pointers or trying to

1462
01:30:14.320 --> 01:30:22.480
like just stay positive okay so the first thing i want to say to you is uh now this is gonna sound

1463
01:30:23.040 --> 01:30:28.400
hear me i would reconsider that you've been waiting on the lord 23 years for a marriage

1464
01:30:29.280 --> 01:30:33.680
because in that statement it tells me that you're not discerning times and seasons

1465
01:30:36.000 --> 01:30:41.760
so when you keep your testimony that i've been waiting for the lord 23 years you're already

1466
01:30:41.760 --> 01:30:48.160
you're already boxing against something that's not real are you tracking with me

1467
01:30:48.160 --> 01:31:01.040
um i would say i started dating at 19 and i wanted to okay i wouldn't date anyone yeah i

1468
01:31:01.040 --> 01:31:06.320
started dating at 19 and growing up in the church you're not dating just to be dating you know what

1469
01:31:06.320 --> 01:31:14.320
i'm saying i would say but so if i didn't grow up in church so here's this part no no here this

1470
01:31:14.960 --> 01:31:19.680
you may in your mind believe that you were waiting on god but if you did not have a

1471
01:31:19.680 --> 01:31:26.160
discernment of times and seasons then you weren't waiting on god he wasn't moving in your favor

1472
01:31:26.160 --> 01:31:32.720
because that's not where he was working at and if you keep testifying god that i've been waiting for

1473
01:31:32.720 --> 01:31:40.080
you for 23 years something about that testimony is not accurate it needs to be realigned to heaven's

1474
01:31:40.080 --> 01:31:49.600
truth about your life and your destiny because if you started are you catching me

1475
01:31:51.920 --> 01:31:58.400
i think what you're saying is it was my plan to work towards marriage but you're trying to say

1476
01:31:58.400 --> 01:32:05.920
that the timing wasn't right what i'm saying is god works in times and in seasons right and so

1477
01:32:05.920 --> 01:32:12.320
in church they tell us your church may say abcd but there's a book that has your destiny written

1478
01:32:12.320 --> 01:32:17.920
in it that the times and the seasons of your life and i'm not saying you're waiting on like hey this

1479
01:32:17.920 --> 01:32:23.040
particular time but to say you've been waiting for 23 years just may not line up with god's

1480
01:32:23.040 --> 01:32:34.480
testimony of your life okay i hear that you hear me and so if that continues to be your testimony

1481
01:32:34.480 --> 01:32:40.240
it already puts you against the wall it already puts you in a seat of judgment against god that's

1482
01:32:40.240 --> 01:32:46.640
not accurate because at this point he's looking not faithful he's looking so unfaithful to you

1483
01:32:46.640 --> 01:32:53.120
that you want to go back to egypt that you're basically saying it was better in pharaoh's house

1484
01:32:56.400 --> 01:33:01.280
that's how unfaithful god looks right now like he isn't coming through with the word but what if it

1485
01:33:01.280 --> 01:33:08.480
was just your word and not his word which clearly because who know i don't know what god had planned

1486
01:33:08.480 --> 01:33:14.800
for you at 19 and what he had planned for your 25 but i will reevaluate with the lord because you

1487
01:33:14.800 --> 01:33:20.640
don't have to keep boosting yourself up it is tiring what you said is absolute truth if you

1488
01:33:20.640 --> 01:33:24.640
could put words to some of my thoughts that would be it okay we're gonna do it we're gonna stay

1489
01:33:24.640 --> 01:33:27.920
positive we're gonna go back out you get disappointed again and you build yourself

1490
01:33:27.920 --> 01:33:35.280
back up and you go back out let me tell you something that is hard it's not easy

1491
01:33:35.280 --> 01:33:42.080
and it's disappointing and it makes you want to give up and that's what i was teaching about today

1492
01:33:42.080 --> 01:33:48.160
about perspective and i will go back chicana and i will look at myself and i will ask the lord

1493
01:33:48.160 --> 01:33:55.760
if this is what a azar is where am i on your timeline of an azar not what you think about

1494
01:33:55.760 --> 01:34:03.120
yourself chicana but what equipping is required of me for the one you've called me to help in this

1495
01:34:03.120 --> 01:34:11.040
life because if you measure yourself you would have measured you incorrectly unless you have

1496
01:34:11.040 --> 01:34:18.320
input from the lord i don't believe that a woman is ready for marriage and the lord is withholding

1497
01:34:18.320 --> 01:34:25.920
from her because i don't believe that we have a god that withholds and so what i say to lord and

1498
01:34:25.920 --> 01:34:31.040
i've said this to you before lord if this is not what you're doing what are you doing because

1499
01:34:31.040 --> 01:34:38.640
i myself am determined not to miss something that he's doing in this season and i myself desire

1500
01:34:38.640 --> 01:34:49.360
marriage but i also i also believe i believe in the god that has equipped me thus far

1501
01:34:50.880 --> 01:34:55.680
i believe in what he's building in me so if this is not what you're doing what are you doing right

1502
01:34:55.680 --> 01:34:59.920
now to get me to the end because the promise is sure are you tracking what

1503
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:10.280
I am. I think it wouldn't be so bad. I feel like, okay, if I'm 41 and it's not in God's

1504
01:35:10.280 --> 01:35:14.420
plan for me to get married yet, then all the profits that he sent my way to talk about

1505
01:35:14.420 --> 01:35:20.260
my husband was just no point at all. Then I don't need to care about something 20 years

1506
01:35:20.260 --> 01:35:26.580
ago when I'm 15, 16, 17, if I'm 41, it's still not going to come right. Like that way from

1507
01:35:26.580 --> 01:35:31.080
it to like, I didn't, I didn't just come up with this, like, oh, I want to get married.

1508
01:35:31.080 --> 01:35:36.880
So while all these multiple profits coming to me from the age of 15, then 20, then 25,

1509
01:35:36.880 --> 01:35:41.520
then 30, then 35. And they all talk about this husband. If I'm 41, still not ready.

1510
01:35:41.520 --> 01:35:48.140
And I need to hear all that. Well, she kind of, what is your measurement already? Because

1511
01:35:48.140 --> 01:35:51.840
see right now, what you're doing is questioning if God wants it, but that's not true. Whether

1512
01:35:51.840 --> 01:35:56.440
a prophet told you to or not, this is what you were designed for. If you want marriage,

1513
01:35:57.300 --> 01:36:00.900
it's in your heart. No matter what, if the prophet said or not, if the prophet said it

1514
01:36:00.900 --> 01:36:08.540
or the prophet never said it, if it was just your desire alone, if it was just yours alone,

1515
01:36:08.540 --> 01:36:15.780
it's enough. It's standing. It's the word. It is true for you. So I would sit down. I

1516
01:36:15.780 --> 01:36:23.780
will sit with the Lord and I will lay aside everything else and ask him, what about me

1517
01:36:23.840 --> 01:36:29.400
is equipped for marriage? And what do you need to equip? He will highlight it to you.

1518
01:36:29.400 --> 01:36:34.560
Why haven't I entered into marriage? What were you working in my life right now? Can

1519
01:36:34.560 --> 01:36:41.560
you please do it and post it so I can see what he says? Because I just don't, if you're

1520
01:36:42.640 --> 01:36:49.640
ready, what makes you ready? And what are you lacking? What does he want to build?

1521
01:36:50.140 --> 01:36:57.140
Exactly. Because that's the whole reason why over a year ago, not only did I sign up for

1522
01:36:58.620 --> 01:37:05.260
this, but I also am in therapy and counseling. And let me tell you this, my therapy and counseling

1523
01:37:05.260 --> 01:37:10.100
is to, it's not even for anything traumatic. You know, I was my parents' miracle child.

1524
01:37:10.100 --> 01:37:14.140
They were very overprotective of me. So I never had no crazy trauma, no molestation,

1525
01:37:14.140 --> 01:37:18.540
no rape, none of that stuff like that. And I'm still in counseling and therapy just to

1526
01:37:18.560 --> 01:37:23.840
improve my communication, work on, you know, to stop thinking go, you know, when you're

1527
01:37:23.840 --> 01:37:28.280
very hot and tempered and I'm very, you know, and I'm very vocal. So learning how to

1528
01:37:28.280 --> 01:37:32.080
communicate better. So it's like, I'm doing all these things to improve myself. I'm like,

1529
01:37:32.080 --> 01:37:36.080
wait a minute, do I have to be perfect? Because compared to, I mean, that comparison thing

1530
01:37:36.080 --> 01:37:40.280
that you're talking about, compared to what the things that other people have gone through

1531
01:37:40.280 --> 01:37:45.760
and dealt with and family and death and trauma, I have none of that. You know, I was my

1532
01:37:45.760 --> 01:37:49.100
parents' miracle child. So they won't thought they had no craziness happening in my life

1533
01:37:49.100 --> 01:37:52.220
growing up. So it's like, wait a minute, do I have to be perfect? Because the things I'm

1534
01:37:52.220 --> 01:37:56.820
working on are so minuscule compared to what other people are in therapy and counseling

1535
01:37:56.820 --> 01:37:58.620
for. You know what I'm saying?

1536
01:37:58.620 --> 01:38:03.620
She kind of asked the Lord the question. Did you write down the question I just gave you?

1537
01:38:04.700 --> 01:38:07.220
I sure did. I'mma ask. You better believe it.

1538
01:38:07.420 --> 01:38:15.340
You ask the Lord and you sit and you listen. So the, then the rule is when you go before

1539
01:38:15.340 --> 01:38:19.880
him, the principle is they who come to me, they must come believing that I am. And I'm

1540
01:38:19.880 --> 01:38:25.520
a rewarder of those who diligently seek him. If you keep putting up to the Lord, everything

1541
01:38:25.520 --> 01:38:30.040
you've done and why this is this and why this is that it's going to be really hard for you

1542
01:38:30.040 --> 01:38:37.200
to hear. Lay aside what you think you know. You don't know enough Shekinah. You are but

1543
01:38:37.200 --> 01:38:44.480
a human. I'm telling you, your arguments don't stand in the courts with the Lord. Release

1544
01:38:44.580 --> 01:38:51.380
them. Let it go. You need the favor of God. If not, like you said, you can go back to

1545
01:38:51.380 --> 01:38:56.500
your exes. That's the life you choose. The Bible says that God resists the proud, but

1546
01:38:56.500 --> 01:39:03.500
he gives grace to the humble. Humble yourself under the hand of God. Ask him, God, this

1547
01:39:04.060 --> 01:39:10.840
is your daughter coming to you. I lay aside my understanding and my knowledge and my will

1548
01:39:10.840 --> 01:39:17.840
and my thoughts and my way and I repent for believing I know better than you. I'm hurt.

1549
01:39:17.840 --> 01:39:23.840
I thought you would have come by now. I have been receiving prophecies since I was 15.

1550
01:39:23.840 --> 01:39:30.840
This does not feel good. But I humble myself under your hand and I seek your wisdom.

1551
01:39:34.340 --> 01:39:39.340
You tracking with me? I'm writing all this down. I'm quiet, but I'm writing it down.

1552
01:39:40.340 --> 01:39:47.340
This is what you're going to do. Repent for your pride and your arrogance and your offense

1553
01:39:47.820 --> 01:39:54.820
with him and your know everything. Tell him, I don't know nothing. He know you don't, but

1554
01:39:56.340 --> 01:39:58.860
just say it again. It's going to help you. It ain't to help him.

1555
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:00.840
Okay?

1556
01:40:00.840 --> 01:40:01.660
I love that.

1557
01:40:01.660 --> 01:40:02.500
Okay.

1558
01:40:02.500 --> 01:40:05.560
Let, let, you gotta, you gotta get rid of this pride.

1559
01:40:05.560 --> 01:40:07.720
The pride, the Bible says, God resists proud.

1560
01:40:07.720 --> 01:40:09.600
He pulls the humble near.

1561
01:40:12.200 --> 01:40:16.760
And then say, Lord, I am an Azar.

1562
01:40:16.760 --> 01:40:18.760
I'm a life-giving source.

1563
01:40:21.120 --> 01:40:22.160
Teach me.

1564
01:40:25.560 --> 01:40:26.560
Show me.

1565
01:40:26.560 --> 01:40:27.880
And from this prayer,

1566
01:40:27.880 --> 01:40:29.560
this is when I want you to start counting

1567
01:40:29.560 --> 01:40:31.160
that you're waiting on God.

1568
01:40:31.160 --> 01:40:32.000
Right here.

1569
01:40:32.000 --> 01:40:34.800
That moment, when you surrender all,

1570
01:40:34.800 --> 01:40:37.560
yet again, in this way, in repentance,

1571
01:40:37.560 --> 01:40:39.440
humbling yourself before him.

1572
01:40:40.440 --> 01:40:43.480
Then write down the date on top of your paper

1573
01:40:44.960 --> 01:40:48.320
and watch God prepare you and accelerate you.

1574
01:40:53.480 --> 01:40:56.360
Okay, so I'm gonna write, I'm gonna write this down.

1575
01:40:57.360 --> 01:41:01.440
Um, I need to ask, I need to ask him,

1576
01:41:02.680 --> 01:41:05.200
what do I need to learn during this season, basically?

1577
01:41:05.200 --> 01:41:06.040
That's what you're telling me.

1578
01:41:06.040 --> 01:41:10.160
You repent, that you get all the repentance down.

1579
01:41:10.160 --> 01:41:12.520
Repent from pride, everything from offense.

1580
01:41:12.520 --> 01:41:14.280
I got it down.

1581
01:41:14.280 --> 01:41:15.640
Okay, well, let me, first,

1582
01:41:15.640 --> 01:41:18.240
I want you to go before the Lord with thanksgiving.

1583
01:41:18.240 --> 01:41:20.520
Listen, the reason why I say that is this.

1584
01:41:20.520 --> 01:41:22.880
He says, come into my gates with thanksgiving

1585
01:41:22.880 --> 01:41:24.000
till my courts were praised.

1586
01:41:24.000 --> 01:41:25.760
The courts were praised.

1587
01:41:25.760 --> 01:41:28.320
Because the courts is the inner place with the Lord,

1588
01:41:28.320 --> 01:41:29.920
and that's where you need to go.

1589
01:41:30.880 --> 01:41:31.720
Uh-huh.

1590
01:41:31.720 --> 01:41:33.000
And this is how you get there.

1591
01:41:33.000 --> 01:41:35.040
He already told us how we get there.

1592
01:41:35.040 --> 01:41:39.040
So you thank him for everything you could think of, right?

1593
01:41:39.040 --> 01:41:42.280
And then I want you to repent for pride and arrogance

1594
01:41:42.280 --> 01:41:45.000
and write down every pride weight in you.

1595
01:41:45.000 --> 01:41:46.840
Ask the Holy Spirit to show it to you.

1596
01:41:46.840 --> 01:41:48.640
Every way of offense, everything.

1597
01:41:48.640 --> 01:41:50.600
I want you to spend some time in repentance.

1598
01:41:50.600 --> 01:41:51.440
Don't leave it.

1599
01:41:51.440 --> 01:41:53.240
Don't just say words to the Lord.

1600
01:41:54.120 --> 01:41:55.040
Sit in it.

1601
01:41:55.360 --> 01:41:56.200
Sit in repentance.

1602
01:41:56.200 --> 01:42:00.160
And then tell the Lord, I humble myself under your hand.

1603
01:42:02.160 --> 01:42:04.120
Teach me, show me, grow me.

1604
01:42:05.920 --> 01:42:09.160
Lord, where are you working in my life right now?

1605
01:42:09.160 --> 01:42:11.240
And how can I get to the promise?

1606
01:42:12.440 --> 01:42:14.120
What do you want to develop in me?

1607
01:42:14.120 --> 01:42:15.680
What do you want to grow in me?

1608
01:42:17.960 --> 01:42:21.360
I've come to you because I found that I am lacking.

1609
01:42:21.360 --> 01:42:23.960
I'm lacking your wisdom and your guidance.

1610
01:42:26.040 --> 01:42:26.880
Okay?

1611
01:42:28.520 --> 01:42:29.360
I know I said it.

1612
01:42:29.360 --> 01:42:30.200
I'm writing it all down.

1613
01:42:30.200 --> 01:42:31.320
You're writing it all down.

1614
01:42:31.320 --> 01:42:35.480
And then you need to sit on it for the next 30 days.

1615
01:42:35.480 --> 01:42:36.600
Don't be in no hurry.

1616
01:42:36.600 --> 01:42:38.920
Don't be in no hurry with the Lord.

1617
01:42:38.920 --> 01:42:41.280
It take time to stew in his presence.

1618
01:42:43.160 --> 01:42:45.080
Heavy on time.

1619
01:42:45.080 --> 01:42:45.920
Yeah, I see.

1620
01:42:45.920 --> 01:42:46.800
But get what, baby?

1621
01:42:46.800 --> 01:42:48.440
Don't be, don't let that time go.

1622
01:42:48.440 --> 01:42:49.280
Let it go.

1623
01:42:49.280 --> 01:42:50.120
Let it go.

1624
01:42:51.120 --> 01:42:51.960
Okay?

1625
01:42:51.960 --> 01:42:52.800
Okay?

1626
01:42:53.920 --> 01:42:55.760
Yep, I'm writing it all down.

1627
01:42:55.760 --> 01:42:56.800
Thank you.

1628
01:42:56.800 --> 01:42:58.080
You're welcome, Shekinah.

1629
01:42:59.400 --> 01:43:01.160
Okay, the rest of y'all put your hand down.

1630
01:43:01.160 --> 01:43:05.320
I'm sure y'all session in at 12 to 1.30, right?

1631
01:43:05.320 --> 01:43:06.760
It is 1.43.

1632
01:43:06.760 --> 01:43:07.920
I am not keeping you.

1633
01:43:07.920 --> 01:43:08.760
You can leave.

1634
01:43:08.760 --> 01:43:11.280
I did have Cynthia C and Lucy left.

1635
01:43:11.280 --> 01:43:13.520
And so Cynthia C, not Cynthia K,

1636
01:43:13.520 --> 01:43:16.040
but the other Cynthia or Lucy, if y'all are still here,

1637
01:43:16.040 --> 01:43:16.920
I will take your questions.

1638
01:43:16.920 --> 01:43:19.920
Everybody else, I hope that you enjoyed the session.

1639
01:43:19.920 --> 01:43:20.800
I am not keeping you.

1640
01:43:21.320 --> 01:43:23.640
Yes, you are free to go.

1641
01:43:23.640 --> 01:43:27.520
And I'll just take these next two questions real quickly.

1642
01:43:31.160 --> 01:43:32.480
And I enjoyed you all.

1643
01:43:33.400 --> 01:43:35.640
Go ahead, Cynthia, you are on mute.

1644
01:43:35.640 --> 01:43:39.360
Oh, I was just saying, I said, as you were talking to them,

1645
01:43:39.360 --> 01:43:43.200
I'm writing notes fiercely too.

1646
01:43:43.200 --> 01:43:44.120
Good.

1647
01:43:44.120 --> 01:43:47.040
I definitely received.

1648
01:43:47.360 --> 01:43:52.360
I was doing the exercise in writing down the thoughts

1649
01:43:52.400 --> 01:43:55.240
that I'm having, and then the decree,

1650
01:43:55.240 --> 01:43:56.600
and then the scripture.

1651
01:43:58.160 --> 01:44:00.560
So I think that was, I don't know,

1652
01:44:00.560 --> 01:44:03.720
somebody seems like they gave me that assignment.

1653
01:44:03.720 --> 01:44:05.360
What's that right now?

1654
01:44:05.360 --> 01:44:07.960
Okay, so this is an example.

1655
01:44:07.960 --> 01:44:10.360
We do that in our private session?

1656
01:44:10.360 --> 01:44:15.360
No, I honestly think Carla, I got it from somewhere.

1657
01:44:16.120 --> 01:44:19.000
Was it last Tuesday?

1658
01:44:21.360 --> 01:44:22.200
Oh, Carla.

1659
01:44:22.200 --> 01:44:24.200
Yes, you got it from Carla.

1660
01:44:24.200 --> 01:44:29.200
Might've been last Tuesday or one of the Tuesdays and stuff.

1661
01:44:29.320 --> 01:44:32.960
Cause I'm in the book club and stuff too.

1662
01:44:32.960 --> 01:44:34.640
Oh, okay, okay, okay.

1663
01:44:34.640 --> 01:44:37.440
So what I'm trying to do with me,

1664
01:44:37.440 --> 01:44:41.680
trying to, I guess, really deal with emotions and stuff

1665
01:44:41.680 --> 01:44:44.360
and not ignore whatever.

1666
01:44:44.360 --> 01:44:47.520
So one of the thoughts I had,

1667
01:44:47.520 --> 01:44:50.720
and I know most of us can relate to this,

1668
01:44:50.720 --> 01:44:52.680
is I'm tired, I'm weary.

1669
01:44:53.960 --> 01:44:57.000
And so my decree, I don't know about this decree,

1670
01:44:57.000 --> 01:44:58.120
I might need to work on that,

1671
01:44:58.120 --> 01:44:59.760
but my decree is I keep.

1672
01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:02.760
I keep doing good.

1673
01:45:02.760 --> 01:45:08.080
My scripture is Galatians 6 and 9, and let us not grow weary while doing good.

1674
01:45:08.080 --> 01:45:11.600
When due season we will reap if we do not lose heart.

1675
01:45:11.600 --> 01:45:17.280
Okay, so I was having, I was trying to, you know, you gave so many good scriptures.

1676
01:45:17.280 --> 01:45:22.840
So I was having two of them, two of the thoughts.

1677
01:45:22.840 --> 01:45:29.960
I was trying to find scriptures for, one thought was, will things change?

1678
01:45:29.960 --> 01:45:33.440
And then the decree is things are shifting for me.

1679
01:45:33.440 --> 01:45:34.760
Come on.

1680
01:45:34.760 --> 01:45:39.360
And I was trying to come up, you know, I had, I don't know what scripture, I think I was

1681
01:45:39.360 --> 01:45:42.000
thinking of Jeremiah 29, 11.

1682
01:45:42.000 --> 01:45:46.200
I know the plans I have for you.

1683
01:45:46.200 --> 01:45:51.520
I don't know if you can think of something else that kind of hits that things are shifting

1684
01:45:51.520 --> 01:45:53.680
for me.

1685
01:45:53.680 --> 01:45:59.080
You know, there's a scripture that says, let me Google it right now.

1686
01:45:59.080 --> 01:46:06.600
Let's see, I'm like you, I was, I didn't expect to see you here.

1687
01:46:06.600 --> 01:46:10.040
I was like, Oh, I've got to put on a dress and take off this dirty t-shirt.

1688
01:46:10.040 --> 01:46:18.080
And so first Peter 5 and 10 says, after you have suffered a little while, then the God

1689
01:46:18.080 --> 01:46:24.240
of all grace, after you have suffered a little while, he himself will restore you, make you

1690
01:46:24.240 --> 01:46:25.240
strong, firm, and steadfast.

1691
01:46:25.240 --> 01:46:26.240
Okay.

1692
01:46:26.240 --> 01:46:27.240
First Peter 5 and 10.

1693
01:46:27.240 --> 01:46:28.240
And so that speaks of establishment.

1694
01:46:28.240 --> 01:46:29.240
You know, there's another scripture that speaks of, there will be a performance that God will

1695
01:46:29.240 --> 01:46:30.240
do, the word in which he said.

1696
01:46:30.240 --> 01:46:31.240
That is a good scripture also.

1697
01:46:31.240 --> 01:46:32.240
Okay.

1698
01:46:32.240 --> 01:46:33.240
If you just, I don't know exactly which one it is.

1699
01:46:33.240 --> 01:46:51.840
And then another scripture that comes to my mind is, you know, under the good work,

1700
01:46:51.840 --> 01:46:55.640
I see somebody that's truly beginning to work in me is faithful to complete it.

1701
01:46:55.640 --> 01:46:56.640
Okay.

1702
01:46:57.640 --> 01:47:06.120
So it's Luke 1 and 45 and it says that, and blessed is she that believe for there shall

1703
01:47:06.120 --> 01:47:09.520
be a performance of those things which were told her from the Lord.

1704
01:47:09.520 --> 01:47:10.520
Come on, we all need that scripture.

1705
01:47:10.520 --> 01:47:11.520
I'm trying to make myself happy.

1706
01:47:11.520 --> 01:47:12.520
Luke 1 and 45.

1707
01:47:12.520 --> 01:47:13.520
Okay.

1708
01:47:13.520 --> 01:47:14.520
Got it.

1709
01:47:14.520 --> 01:47:15.520
Got it.

1710
01:47:15.520 --> 01:47:16.520
Got it.

1711
01:47:16.520 --> 01:47:17.520
And then I have another question.

1712
01:47:17.520 --> 01:47:18.520
Okay.

1713
01:47:18.520 --> 01:47:19.520
One of my thoughts is, do I, do I have a closed heart?

1714
01:47:19.520 --> 01:47:32.560
And so my decree is Lord opened my heart to receive.

1715
01:47:32.560 --> 01:47:37.600
And I was trying to come up with a good scripture for that one.

1716
01:47:37.600 --> 01:47:40.400
Because I'm like, do I have a double minded mind?

1717
01:47:40.400 --> 01:47:45.960
I'm trying to get my, the unconscious and my conscious to kind of line up.

1718
01:47:46.520 --> 01:47:50.520
Cuz I keep getting close and I can almost see it and touch it.

1719
01:47:50.520 --> 01:47:51.360
Yeah.

1720
01:47:51.360 --> 01:47:56.280
The answer, the Lord opened my heart to receive.

1721
01:47:56.280 --> 01:48:04.320
Yeah, I would pray, Lord, cause my heart to be tender toward you guys.

1722
01:48:04.320 --> 01:48:07.560
Okay, mm-hm.

1723
01:48:07.560 --> 01:48:11.680
Let's see a scripture about, I may have to Google it,

1724
01:48:11.680 --> 01:48:14.360
a scripture about your heart being open.

1725
01:48:15.360 --> 01:48:20.160
But you know what, cuz it kind of hit me when you were talking to Shekana about

1726
01:48:20.160 --> 01:48:23.200
pride, and I said, well, that could be it too.

1727
01:48:23.200 --> 01:48:29.000
So cuz it's a heart condition, so- It is a heart condition, mm-hm.

1728
01:48:29.000 --> 01:48:32.000
Look, pride, all of us carry pride, we're humans.

1729
01:48:32.000 --> 01:48:36.240
And we have to consistently repent of pride and arrogance in our way and

1730
01:48:36.240 --> 01:48:40.440
being offended in what we think and what we believe, all that's pride.

1731
01:48:40.440 --> 01:48:41.560
Mm-hm, mm-hm.

1732
01:48:41.800 --> 01:48:45.200
And you from this American culture, they said we got a right to it.

1733
01:48:45.200 --> 01:48:49.680
You got a right to your opinion, you could think this is what I believe,

1734
01:48:49.680 --> 01:48:52.400
this is what I think, all of that is pride.

1735
01:48:52.400 --> 01:48:56.120
You know, God is the proud, and he gives grace to the humble, and-

1736
01:48:56.120 --> 01:48:59.520
Yeah, and Kayla, I like that, open the eyes of my heart going like that.

1737
01:48:59.520 --> 01:49:03.800
Yeah, that's a good one, that's a good one, yeah, open the eyes of my heart.

1738
01:49:03.800 --> 01:49:07.840
I regularly repent from pride, I had an iniquity of pride in my heart,

1739
01:49:07.840 --> 01:49:11.080
it came down through my bloodline on both my mom and dad's side.

1740
01:49:11.120 --> 01:49:16.240
And so, I am no stranger to everyday repenting from pride.

1741
01:49:16.240 --> 01:49:17.520
Mm-hm, mm-hm.

1742
01:49:17.520 --> 01:49:21.760
Because he really does resist the proud, he gives grace to the humble.

1743
01:49:21.760 --> 01:49:26.560
We need grace, we need the grace for this journey, grace for grace, grace for grace.

1744
01:49:26.560 --> 01:49:31.600
Well, cuz I was thinking pride, I'm like, okay.

1745
01:49:31.600 --> 01:49:36.960
I was thinking how it manifests in my life that I'm so

1746
01:49:36.960 --> 01:49:39.760
used to, if he doesn't do it, then I'll do it.

1747
01:49:41.160 --> 01:49:46.240
So, instead of getting before God, like you said, spending that time.

1748
01:49:46.240 --> 01:49:46.880
Yeah.

1749
01:49:46.880 --> 01:49:50.040
Okay, well, Lord, I don't hear the answer, I don't hear the answer,

1750
01:49:50.040 --> 01:49:52.680
I need an answer, so I'm just gonna move.

1751
01:49:52.680 --> 01:49:55.120
So that's kind of how it manifests in my life.

1752
01:49:55.120 --> 01:49:58.480
So that's a piece I'm definitely gonna be working on.

1753
01:49:58.480 --> 01:49:59.080
Yeah.

1754
01:49:59.080 --> 01:49:59.580
So.

1755
01:50:00.000 --> 01:50:02.880
These are the things that we just repent on a regular basis.

1756
01:50:02.880 --> 01:50:04.600
We are our flesh.

1757
01:50:04.600 --> 01:50:06.400
That's why we need God.

1758
01:50:06.400 --> 01:50:08.760
He didn't design us to be without him.

1759
01:50:08.760 --> 01:50:12.120
He designed us to be and have a need for him.

1760
01:50:12.120 --> 01:50:14.200
And so these things that we see as flaws

1761
01:50:14.200 --> 01:50:16.760
are the things that keep us in need of him.

1762
01:50:16.760 --> 01:50:19.200
There's no perfection without Christ Jesus.

1763
01:50:19.200 --> 01:50:21.880
That's why he said our righteousness is a filthy rag.

1764
01:50:21.880 --> 01:50:23.280
So don't even try it.

1765
01:50:23.280 --> 01:50:25.600
In Jesus, we're made perfect.

1766
01:50:25.600 --> 01:50:27.400
He said, just stay close to me.

1767
01:50:27.440 --> 01:50:30.040
Just stay close to him.

1768
01:50:30.040 --> 01:50:31.800
Amen, amen to that.

1769
01:50:31.800 --> 01:50:34.120
But yeah, I'm going to be thinking about that.

1770
01:50:34.120 --> 01:50:35.280
But thank you so much.

1771
01:50:35.280 --> 01:50:36.440
It was so good to see you.

1772
01:50:36.440 --> 01:50:37.280
You're welcome.

1773
01:50:37.280 --> 01:50:38.120
So good to see you.

1774
01:50:38.120 --> 01:50:39.440
Appreciate you.

1775
01:50:39.440 --> 01:50:40.360
Okay.

1776
01:50:40.360 --> 01:50:41.200
You're welcome.

1777
01:50:41.200 --> 01:50:42.760
And thanks for all the comments and stuff

1778
01:50:42.760 --> 01:50:44.680
because that kind of helps too.

1779
01:50:44.680 --> 01:50:46.720
Yeah, y'all are on it.

1780
01:50:46.720 --> 01:50:47.640
Yeah, Kayla was on it.

1781
01:50:47.640 --> 01:50:48.480
She's on it.

1782
01:50:48.480 --> 01:50:50.360
Kayla be on it, baby.

1783
01:50:50.360 --> 01:50:53.320
All right, well, ladies, you guys were amazing.

1784
01:50:53.320 --> 01:50:55.840
Thank you for spending time in this session today.

1785
01:50:55.840 --> 01:50:58.680
Katelyn, your first time, I hope it was good.

1786
01:50:58.680 --> 01:50:59.640
Yeah.

1787
01:50:59.640 --> 01:51:00.480
All right.

1788
01:51:00.480 --> 01:51:03.000
Well, Katelyn, I hope you guys had a good time on your hike.

1789
01:51:03.000 --> 01:51:05.440
I think y'all pulled it out, right?

1790
01:51:05.440 --> 01:51:07.680
Yes, it was fun.

1791
01:51:07.680 --> 01:51:10.800
Good, good, I'm so happy you made connections.

1792
01:51:10.800 --> 01:51:12.080
Where your video went.

1793
01:51:12.080 --> 01:51:15.760
But yes, we had a really good time.

1794
01:51:15.760 --> 01:51:19.640
We went hiking and then some more ladies met up for lunch.

1795
01:51:19.640 --> 01:51:20.760
So that was nice.

1796
01:51:20.760 --> 01:51:21.600
That's nice.

1797
01:51:21.600 --> 01:51:22.440
Cool, pretty cool.

1798
01:51:22.440 --> 01:51:23.520
Good, good, good.

1799
01:51:23.520 --> 01:51:25.600
All right, Sarah, I did respond to your post.

1800
01:51:26.360 --> 01:51:28.560
It's just so you know that you're winning.

1801
01:51:28.560 --> 01:51:29.760
Yeah, good, okay.

1802
01:51:29.760 --> 01:51:31.680
All right, ladies, have a great day

1803
01:51:31.680 --> 01:51:33.840
and I will see you around.

1804
01:51:33.840 --> 01:51:35.440
Thanks so much, bye-bye.

1805
01:51:35.440 --> 01:51:36.280
Thank you.

1806
01:51:36.280 --> 01:51:39.040
Bye, keep me updated, Cynthia K.

1807
01:51:41.000 --> 01:51:42.800
Keep me updated on how it goes.

1808
01:51:42.800 --> 01:51:43.640
I'm praying for you.

1809
01:51:43.640 --> 01:51:44.480
Yeah.

1810
01:51:44.480 --> 01:51:45.320
Okay.

1811
01:51:45.320 --> 01:51:46.160
Thank you.

1812
01:51:46.160 --> 01:51:47.000
Yeah, thank you, so helpful.

1813
01:51:47.000 --> 01:51:47.840
Will do.

1814
01:51:47.840 --> 01:51:49.360
All right, bye, ladies.

1815
01:51:49.360 --> 01:51:51.480
Bye-bye, God bless you.

1816
01:51:55.600 --> 01:51:56.440
Bye-bye.

1817
01:52:25.600 --> 01:52:26.440
Bye-bye.

1818
01:52:55.600 --> 01:52:56.440
Bye-bye.

1819
01:53:25.600 --> 01:53:26.440
Bye-bye.

1820
01:53:55.600 --> 01:53:56.440
Bye-bye.

1821
01:54:25.600 --> 01:54:26.440
Bye-bye.

1822
01:54:55.600 --> 01:54:56.440
Bye-bye.

1823
01:55:00.000 --> 01:55:02.060
you

1824
01:55:30.000 --> 01:55:32.060
you

1825
01:56:00.000 --> 01:56:02.060
you