so oh wow wow it's so nice you're in the UK yes yes yes I want to come to well
it's just a desire but I will help financially there's this uh this
conference that a ministry puts on there it's called a I don't know a wake UK is
through its name Aladrin or Alger I can't think of his name but anyway it's
for Great Britain so anyway I know I know so many ministers that are in the
UK not so many but a lot of ministers that are in UK and so I'm always
following them or listening to their teachings and so when I hear it sounds
like come in place to my ears now so yeah anyway so happy to have you did you
enjoy phase one did you enjoy the hard work yes yes it was really helpful and
excited to be in phase two now yeah have you had an opportunity to watch the
kickoff video or any of the videos teaching yes yes and I watched some of
the replay so this is my first live session but I watched a couple of okay
for all the ladies who just coming in the room I don't know how many y'all
usually is a 12 o'clock because I know a lot of you guys are at work but I'm
filling in for Carla so you a bit shocked and hey she kind of I saw your
message in the chat and so we're gonna pray and get started yeah so father God
I thank you for these ladies I thank you for their destinies I thank you for
every word that you have written in the book of heaven regarding them their life
and their journey I thank you Lord God in every area of your life you make all
things beautiful in his time and I thank you Lord God that their marriage is no
exception to the thing that you're making beautiful the Bible says that he
who began a good work in me is faithful to complete it I thank you that the work
has been done and there's a completion date waiting for them to arrive and so I
thank you that they should finish well and they should finish strong and I just
pray Lord God your joy overtake them as they take this beautiful journey into
the love story that you've written in Jesus name amen amen amen so I'm super
excited ladies just a few housekeeping rules you hear this every time just a
reminder we want you to watch one video a week if you haven't watched all your
videos most of you guys have been here a while you're probably done you don't
have to have watched a video to come to coaching coaching is about dating or
anything about you and so it doesn't have to be that you're dating we do want
all of us dating in this phase because this is what this phase is about it's
about dating for discovery and it helps us discover ourselves it helps us grow
and mature and grab all the things that we will need as as much as possible for
the development of you to extend your boundary lines for the joy that the Lord
has for you in marriage so anyway great great great great great we have one-on-one
coaching you ladies know that I'm trying to see and this Thursday is going to be
that sneak preview to Jackie's book club so make sure you log on Thursday
it'll be a link in the events tab for you to join there this is for you all to
join so please do so all right are there any questions before we get started no
no no so we're talking about something that's exciting I think everything we
kind of talk about is exciting but there there I think there are two big
questions that are asked when you start this journey the first one is when is my
man coming is Amazon gonna bring him who gonna bring him I did the hard work way
yet you told me once I get my heart right way yet and so we do the hard
work and we like hey God where is he where is he where is he where's the
promise but then the next question we ask generally because we are believing
God for a kingdom marriage is how do I hold on until the promise comes how do
I survive this brutal brutal process like how do I make it to this invisible
place that I've yet to see that I'm believing God for how do I do this thing
and so I have summed it up in probably one word that I think is the most
important word on this journey any journey of faith and this is a faith
journey and so I'm gonna serve you notice on that part it's a faith
journey if you've ever had a faith journey before this one is no different
it comes with stretching and bending and plowing and uprooting and planting and
waiting and watering and sunshine and growth and all of that good stuff it's a
journey and sometimes
This is a part of the one big word that carries you from the ideal or the concept
or the promise to the fulfillment of it, and it's called perspective.
Perspective.
Perspective carries me from the planting to the gathering of the harvest.
That's in any journey you put your hands to, even in natural things.
If you get on your job and you're just now learning how to do things,
if you don't have perspective, you'll give up and walk away.
I don't care how simple your job is.
When I was working at McDonald's, I wanted to quit.
Everything was going so fast, I couldn't keep up with it.
And I was just like, forget this stuff.
I mean, you know, I was back in college, but still it's the same thing.
I needed a perspective.
Somebody will say to me, you'll get it.
Just hang in there. Just hold up.
And you will think this simple thing,
but all things require perspective if you're going to endure to the end.
And so this journey is no different.
So let's talk about how do we hold on until the promise comes?
Perspective.
Perspective is the way we view a thing.
Perspective also involves priority,
order and understanding of what's happening.
One of the things that we desire most on this journey,
I've noticed it in dating, it shows up and in life, it shows up.
We want certainty.
I almost believe some of us will be happy,
the Lord just say, look, it's going to be in three years on this day.
You're like, OK, cool.
That's what we got in front of us.
I mean, I wanted it yesterday, but you gave me a date.
Three years, November 22nd.
That's what we're going to do. He coming.
He's going to meet me at Wal-Mart.
I got you, Lord. Now I'm going to do ABC.
I know I got three years.
I'm going to work on this and I'm going to work on that.
And I work on this and I work on that.
And you'll begin to feel your time because you have a certain date.
You guys, perspective is certainty.
The only thing in my life that is giving me certainty is perspective.
Perspective that God is good and he won't fail me.
If you don't believe that God is fully good,
you believe that he's holding and keeping back from you.
But when your perspective is, I know that I know that I know
if a husband never gets produced, my God is good.
My God is faithful.
I can track him.
I'll go back over my life and I'll see what he's done for me.
And I will judge him faithful that I do know that is perspective.
So no matter how the wind comes or how
it blows, how many times your heart get hurt, how many times you get rejected,
you're not going to move from that place of knowing that your God is faithful.
It's kind of like what Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego said.
They said, look, King,
even if we go into this fiery furnace, no matter what happened to us,
we still ain't going to bow down to you because we know Yahweh.
We know Elohim.
We know Adonai.
And because I know him, I have perspective and I'm not bowing
to another God, whether I can see my God or not.
And your statues in front of me and you say that you're a God,
but I serve a God that I cannot see and I know that he is real.
He is the God of Abraham, Isaac and of Jacob.
He is the God of the promise.
He is my God.
He is the God that delivered us out of Egypt.
He is the God that parted the Red Sea.
I know my God, so I won't bow.
And so that's what perspective gives you.
Perspective gives you certainty.
It is the certainty that you've longed
for, especially in your journeys of faith.
All right, so that's what we're going to talk about today.
I'm excited.
Hey, Alex,
it is so exciting, I'm so excited.
You know, on my own journey and you know,
for those you knew is your first time, I started this program probably about four
or five years ago before I started coaching.
So I've been where you are, I am where you are.
And I understand the journey and perspective is the certainty
that brings me the expected end.
The Bible says hope deferred make it the heart sick.
But promises fulfilled is a tree of life.
Your heart will get sick, sick, sick.
If you've ever had a faith walk with God, your heart gets sick.
Actually, when the heart gets sick, it's the point where we turn around.
Or we decide we're going to keep going.
That's when that's when when when things get weeded out,
when that heart gets so sick and you like, what do you want from me, God?
Now, I did everything I supposed to do.
And, you know, you just get sick because you want to see the promise.
So here we go.
All right.
So remember, perspective is our viewpoint, the way we see things.
And because of that, so that's our outlook on it.
This is what's going to sustain us in any type of promise.
we're talking specifically marriage on today. So I want you guys to answer a couple of questions.
I'm going to ask you these questions. I want you to answer them as truthfully as you can.
Don't give me the answer. Don't even give yourself the answer you want. Give yourself where you are.
The greatest gift you can ever give yourself is to be who you are, where you are. Because the truth
is, no matter what you tell yourself, who you are and where you are is the person that's showing up
and is the best starting place ever in your life for any race that you run. Okay, so it gives you
the advantage when we who we when the advantage is in your hands when you speak who you are,
where you are, because then you will grow fast. You will outrun the chariots of Ahab like they
did when Elijah said the rain was coming. If you are who you are, where you are, baby,
you're going to have some speed to your race because you're not in denial and you're not
trying to make anything happen. You're like, this is it right here. Take it or leave it. Okay, so
this is the first question. What is the purpose or original intent of marriage according to
the scripture? What is the purpose or original intent of marriage? To multiply. What is the
purpose, original intent? Now, we're not, I don't need no, you don't have to be a scholar. You're
just answering the question for who you are and where you are. What is the purpose or original
intent for marriage? Oh, that's a good one. Reflect God in his covenant. Okay, for Adam not to be alone.
Okay, and so we're just, we're just giving the first popcorn answer that comes up.
Got it. Be fruitful and multiply. Come on, multiplication.
I'd say, because the Bible says two is better than one. Come on, two is better than one. We
agree with that. Don't we, ladies? Two is better than one. One can put a thousand to flight. Two
can put tens of thousands to flight. Come on. All right, next question. So, yeah, next question.
What am I expecting marriage to do for me that only God can do?
So, I'll break that down in two parts. What are you expecting from marriage?
You can answer that question first. What are you expecting from marriage? When I get married, I will
be. When I get married, I'll be happy. When I get married, I'll be love, love, you'll be loved
deeply. Oh, probably a God holding side. Probably, probably. Companionship and care for him. Okay.
When I get married, when I get married, I don't have to deal with being at this house by myself
no more. When I get married, I don't have to pay these bills by myself and answer all these
questions and mow this yard and change this tie and change this oil. Somebody going to carry out
the garbage. Somebody going to do something besides me. I got to make all the decisions.
When I get married, let me ask my husband. I don't know. Let me talk to my husband about that.
Let me talk to my husband. Do you want french fries or sweet potato? Let me talk to my husband
about that. You're expecting marriage. Let me open up the chat.
Expecting for marriage to not be lonely and to be a team. Come on. That's right.
I like this. Now, of what you just said, of that expectation that you have on marriage,
what about what you just posted is something that only God can do?
And so we know that God is a friend and God can be your companion also. But something that you
listed or you know this in your heart that only God can do. You put it off on marriage, but only
God can do it. If you don't have one, you don't have one. No pressure to have one. But we're just
trying to scan our heart for any expectations we have for someone to be what only God can be.
Yes. Be 100% there for me. Love me all the time. Come on. Don't we want that from a person? We do.
Clear loneliness and help me feel like I'm enough. Yep.
You got this is so good because it echoes it if it's not the echo of my heart now it has been the
echo of my heart and I will be lying if I told you that was never my desire um you know while
you're thinking of things and and I'm being cognizant of the time I remember one time the
Lord told me I was walking down the road and he said to me Ebony I said yes I saw this big black
pot and he said Ebony and I had gone through a divorce he said Ebony if your husband were to
give you all the approval you desired he will have to work 24 hours a day for the rest of your life
and I said really and he put my ass and look down in the pot and he had a it was bottomless he says
the approval you need you're a bottomless pit it'll never be enough no one could ever approve
you enough to feel you because your father dropped the ball he said but it's my responsibility to
give you your identity it's my responsibility to feel you it's my responsibility to give you
the approval that you so desperately need and desire won't you let me in and when I saw that
big black pot and I saw that empty bottle I knew for myself could nobody feel me but the Lord and
that day I surrendered to him and even though I like approval is still good it is not I don't
need it for my identity anymore he did do it he did feel me and nobody could have done what he's
done that nobody was capable of it it's just not possible and so just saying that so there are parts
of us that have been broken and tarnished we grew up with broken people this is life right and we
missed some things and so because a person was supposed to feel it like a mother or father was
supposed to give us these things they did we oftentimes look for people to come and be something
for us that people were never designed to be but I'm keep moving because we got about four more
questions next question is what season am I in right now what season of life are you in right
now you know Ecclesiastes says to everything there's a time and there's a season all you
welcome Sarah there's a time and there's a season under the heaven for all things the Bible says
that the sons of Issachar there was they had an anointing to know the times and the seasons and
they knew what to do so if the season was planting and you were trying to gather you're in the wrong
season if the season was gathering and you're trying to plant somebody's in the wrong season
if the season is teaching learning and growing and you're trying to do and you haven't learned
then somebody's out in their season and when you're out in your season the thing that you
want to get done can't get done and the thing that's supposed to get done it's not being done
hmm because if there's a goal is there's a finish line their seasons built within that before you
get to the finish line so I want you to think about this now if you wake up in the morning
you're supposed to be cleaning up before you have to leave the house to go somewhere and when you
supposed to be cleaning up you sitting up on the phone with somebody talking and kiki and now it's
time to get ready to go y'all know how we do and try to do everything for you walk out the door
some don't get done now the thing that was supposed to get done when it's supposed to get done couldn't
get done and now you got to go on do something else and you come back to an unprepared house
you come back and you even wash your clothes now you ain't got no underwear to put on you know
happy get bad sometimes you like the towels ain't clean ain't no socks you ain't got the stuff you
need because when you were supposed to be doing something you weren't doing this is just practical
things the Bible says everything under the Sun there's a time okay so the question was what
season am I in right now and then what is God developing me because if I understand that I'm
a season of you say marriage then what does he develop me is he developed me in the altar or is
he developed me in something that's gonna get me to the fullness of the season y'all tracking with
me because if I'm in a season development should be happening in accordance to this season uh-huh
because if I don't understand that I'll keep judging God incorrectly because I believe that
he's supposed to be producing a husband in front of me right now when I said if my season is
marriage that means that he should be developing me in something that gets me to the end
Development has to happen.
So what season am I in
and what is God developing in me right now?
Okay, and I may be going a little faster for you to think,
but as we teach, you're gonna start getting things as we go.
All right, where am I?
Uh-oh, I better hurry up.
What qualities, we'll save that question.
Where has comparison affected my trust in God's plan?
Where has comparison affected your trust?
You know, you look on jacket page,
somebody always getting engaged and always getting married.
You'd be like, look, it was fun at first,
but this ain't helping my faith.
I'm tired of this stuff.
Could be like a real thing,
like, oh, now my cousin got married.
She's just 23.
She didn't even really believe God for nothing.
She didn't even do no hard work, right?
I had a friend, I brought her into the program.
She was in the program and got out the program
and was married the next year.
I was pissed, thank God.
Why has that forsaken me?
Oh, what's this?
I was in her wedding, but you know, I rejoiced with that.
That seemed a little wrong to me.
I brought her in.
Come on, man, what is this about?
All right, comparison, how has it affected us?
Comparison will oftentimes cause you
to make a judgment against the father that is inaccurate.
You will judge a faithful God unfaithful from comparison.
Okay, all right, last question.
And I'm gonna mosey along as quick as I can.
This is so good, I know.
All right, if marriage happened tomorrow,
what areas of my life will still need growth and maturity?
I saw you lose it, that's what I'm talking about.
Like, golly, I'm talking, oh.
If marriage happened tomorrow,
what areas of my life will still need growth and maturity?
This question could be challenging to answer
if you don't understand what marriage is,
what is gonna be required of you in marriage.
I'm all fine in my security, God.
I feel like the whole of me.
Yeah.
Okay, all right.
So those questions,
and they're gonna be listed in the activation.
And so you'll get to revisit them
after you think about them some more.
But remember, I told you that the goal is perspective,
organization, boundaries, with myself, that's good, Lucy.
That is so good.
Perspective is what you need for the season
of going from one place to the end results.
It's all about perspective, okay?
So understanding the purpose of marriage.
You know that the Bible says
that after Adam had been with the Lord for a while,
he said, oh, I think that I'm gonna make him a helpmate,
a helper that is comparable to him.
Now, that's not true.
A helper that is comparable to him.
Now, that word helper, if you didn't know this,
in the Hebrew means Ezar, E-Z-E-R.
Ezar is likened into where the Lord talks
about the Holy Spirit as a helper.
So remember, he said, I'm going to make him a Ezar,
helper, Ezar, suitable or comparable, comparable to him.
That word Ezar also means warrior.
That word Ezar means life-giving source.
Remember, the only other time we see Ezar
is when the Bible refers to the Holy Spirit as Ezar.
So that means you ladies, us ladies,
who want a kingdom marriage,
the Lord made you as a Ezar,
a life-giving source, as a warrior.
That's one lady who defends,
who holds up the identity of her spouse and her children.
She is a helper, a Ezar, a life-giving source.
Not just somebody that washes dishes, life-giving source.
She gives life to this man.
So now we understand why God made the wife.
Do we understand?
Remember, perspective is everything.
So where you saw yourself as,
I need a man that's going to do A, B, C, D,
God said he made you to be a life-giving source.
A warrior.
You're an Ezar today.
So today I tell you who you are.
According to scriptures, you're an Ezar.
So if my perspective is that I'm an Ezar,
we gotta start getting you prepared to be Ezar.
Okay, are we ready?
Ezra's don't say, I just want somebody to come
and make my life easier.
Baby, when you step into the office of an Ezra,
you coming with a sword in your hand.
You coming to give life, not to drain life or take life,
or for someone to pour life into you,
you're coming as a life-giving source, the Bible says.
That's who you are.
All right, Ezra's?
Okay, so.
If we understand that we're Ezra,
then my perspective shifts and it says,
wait a minute, I'm gonna be giving life?
Oh, we're not just,
it's not just somebody just to watch TV with?
Oh, I just don't need somebody to keep company with?
I just want somebody to take out the trash, I'm tired.
I'm supposed to give life?
You know, women are really good at giving life.
How many of you guys have pushed out a baby before?
Did you know that a woman,
you know if you've given birth to before,
a woman goes from passing between life and death,
pushing out that baby,
and turning around a couple of hours later
and feeding that same baby that she just birthed.
That's an Ezra.
She is a life-giving source.
She gives life and she continues to give life.
That's how God made you.
You have a womb that you are a multiplier.
That's what an Ezra is.
This is your identity, okay?
So in order to be in the fullness of your identity,
you have to be equipped.
That means there are things in you that need to come up,
and there are things in you that need to get planted,
or things that need to be redefined,
or things that need to be realized.
That's why you as a woman can step in and do anything.
They say you want anything done, find a mama.
Find somebody who is a mama.
A mama can do anything.
I'm telling you, I ain't never seen nothing
like a mama before.
Baby, they can get the job done.
One day, I was in a room and my mom needed the iron.
Honey, my auntie went and got a skillet
and heated it up on the stove and ironed my mama's shirt.
Simply done.
Her and her husband have five children
and she's been a homemaker.
It's like, golly, you are creative, and she got it done.
But so, think about this.
So I want you guys to ask yourself.
So I would imagine if you are a life-giving source,
that means that you embody grace.
To give life, you gotta have grace.
If not, you're gonna be giving out death.
You gotta carry forgiveness, right?
So if you hold on to things and you're bitter
and you won't release them,
and every man that comes in your life
has to pay for the man before you,
that means we gotta get our Ezra in shape.
We gotta do a little boot camp work in phase two, huh?
We do that through dating for discovery.
Yes, when they cancel on you,
you don't cut their neck off
and hand it to them on a platter.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no,
because you're thinking about how the last man did you,
how your daddy did you.
We gotta get the Ezra equipped.
That's what we're doing here, right?
So you gotta operate in grace,
you need to operate in forgiveness,
you gotta operate in patience.
Oh, he ain't called yet.
I text three hours ago.
What's taking so long?
I guess he don't want to.
You know what?
I'm done with this.
No, no, Ezra, we're gonna use that to help build you,
to strengthen you.
So you gotta operate in grace and forgiveness
and patience and boundaries.
Ezra knows because she's like the Holy Spirit
that she's going to gently nudge
and she's gonna gently influence
and she's not gonna tell you what you're gonna do,
when you're gonna do it and how you're gonna do it.
So that means when you show up
doing the date a little different
or you wanna talk on a different pattern than her
or do a different pace in dating,
Ezra's not saying, look, I don't do it like that.
That's not Ezra because Ezra is similar to the Holy Spirit.
Ezra has a quiet influence.
So Ezra knows the boundaries.
Ezra says, if you don't value what I'm giving,
that's okay, I'll keep it.
And I'm not even mad at you.
Holy Spirit don't come clock you over the head
when you don't do what Holy Spirit wants you to do.
Holy Spirit just backs up until you say,
what's that Lord, please help me.
I don't know what else to do.
Holy Spirit's like, oh great, here I am, I'm your helper.
Ezra is a helper.
Ezra knows boundaries.
Boundaries with Ezra's self
because it says, I don't cross this line.
I don't cross this line.
This is not my place.
So Ezra submitted to their own boundaries.
And last one, humility.
And this is not all of them.
You could go on and on about the things
of Ezra our helper or defender,
but these are just some things I list in humility.
One of the things that we find,
and remember, I'm gonna keep doing a comparison
the whole time because this is about perspective.
One of the things we try to.
weed out in phase two is entitlement.
You'd be amazed as women
how the world has programmed us into entitlement.
We believe that a man is supposed to do something for us
just because we exist and breathe
and we got female body parts.
Some reason I was programmed the same way.
It's like, you should be this for me.
Oh, you supposed to be this
and you're supposed to be that.
Now you can hold on to it,
but I'm telling you that is not embodied in an Ezra.
In a Ezra is what God made to be with a man.
And because I am partnering with heaven
for a kingdom marriage,
it serves me best to get in the order that he said.
So that when he's looking for Ezra in the earth
to put with a man, he says, I got one and she ready to go.
I got one and she got rid of her opinions.
I got one and when she was in phase two,
she decided to let go of her entitlement.
I got one and when she was in phase two,
she decided to let grace and forgiveness
have its perfect work in her heart
so that I could present her on this day.
Oh, I got an Ezra for you.
So that man cries out, I need a wife.
He says, I got one for you.
I got the best helper.
She got a sword in her hand, baby.
She suited up with a shield.
She ready to go.
She's ready to give life.
She gives life to a coworker.
She gives life to her friends.
She's a life giving soul.
She shows grace wherever she goes.
She's merciful and she's kind.
She's quick to repent and she don't hold stuff against you.
And she's a fighter.
She's come against all the boundaries
that her family put on her.
Everything that's come against her in life,
she overcame them.
Everything that man did to her, she overcame it.
She refused to come under.
She rises above.
I got an Ezra for you.
Ah, sound good.
Sound like you done it.
I know, this Ezra starting to sound more and more
like the ladies that I'm looking at because it is you.
All right, so we understand the purpose of marriage, do we?
And so whatever thoughts that you had about marriage,
you want to kind of line them up against this
so you can gather perspective.
Remember ladies, if you weren't here at the beginning,
perspective is the thing that carries us
from what the Lord speaks to the final end, the promise.
Okay, it carries us from there to the end.
Now, one of the other things that we talked about
in perspective is getting the perspective.
So we have the perspective on what a wife is.
The next, that's you, wife, Ezra.
Everything that you got in there that's not that,
let's work on letting it go, okay?
And growing, this is a growth journey
because the perspective is if I have a promise,
then the season I'm in is marriage.
That means I am being developed into this thing, okay?
Next thing is let God feel
what marriage was never meant to feel.
We posted things in our life
that we wanted marriage to feel for us.
We just want somebody to make us feel good, truth of matter.
We want somebody to whatever, companionship, you know?
And the truth is there are benefits to marriage
and companionship is one of them.
So I'm not saying to you,
don't desire companionship in marriage.
That's a benefit of marriage.
But I will tell you this,
if you don't choose well and you're lonely
and you look for the first person
that feels the loneliness in you,
you will be lonely in marriage
because you're gonna choose wrong.
You're already choosing from a selfish place.
Just come and meet my needs.
And so that's how we get love-bombed so easily
because somebody is seeing everything
we always wanted to hear.
That's just how that happens.
And so all these empty spaces,
you know, all these empty, empty spaces
and we're trying to take some out and fill them.
So if you want companionship,
then you need to build community.
I just want somebody to pray with and read the word.
Go find you somebody to pray with and read the word
because I'm gonna tell you,
having been married and divorced,
the idea that you have that your husband
gonna sit at the table with you every day
and read your Bible and pray with you is a fantasy.
What if he don't wanna read his Bible
when you read your Bible?
What if he don't wanna study Ephesians,
he wanna study Colossians?
And what if you wanna pray and you don't wanna pray?
And what if when you pray,
you speak in tongues,
and when he pray, he just,
what?
I mean, like, come on.
There's a tribe out there waiting for you.
There's people that you're gonna run and do life with.
There's companionship all around you.
And so we're not gonna wait on a man
to come and fill that space because that's.
when you get into the danger spot,
because as soon as a man comes,
you want to put them in that space.
In two weeks in, it all fall apart.
And now you don't have the person to fill that space
because you want somebody to talk to
and they text you good morning,
they text you good night,
and they text you all day long,
and it's so much fun.
And then when they stop,
you have to grieve not having them in that space anymore,
because it was a space.
And your desire is not wrong.
Don't hear what I'm not saying.
The desire is natural.
It's natural for you to want companionship.
But it's when we seek a person out for one thing only,
that they would never intend to feel alone.
You will find yourself being like a leech,
sucking them dry.
You ever had friends that will suck you dry?
It's because when they put their eyes on you,
they decided that you're gonna fill a space for me.
It comes from a selfish place.
And we weren't designed to be that way.
It's called reciprocity.
We give and we pour into each other.
And see, that way, when you get married,
you won't be mad because your husband won't catch up
and grow in the area you want him to be,
but you can accept him for who he is and where he is,
because you saw him from that place from the very beginning.
You didn't have scales on your eyes.
You weren't blinded by what you wanted, right?
And so perspective does this for you.
Okay, I'm gonna keep moving.
I don't wanna beat a dead horse.
So he said, ask God to reveal any place in us
where we're expecting a husband to feel something
that God was designed to feel.
Okay?
It is very discouraging and disappointing,
especially ladies, you know, if you've been married before
and you desire your husband to fill a space
that he cannot fill.
It's sad.
It's really hurtful.
Anybody been married before and can attest to that,
that you're not like, it's like, you, that is miserable.
It definitely is because your expectation
was they could be that.
And it's not ended up being true.
So release unrealistic expectations of a spouse
being your source of healing, identity, and fulfillment.
Do you all know why purpose feels so good?
Because it's so fulfilling.
One of the things Jackie encourages a lot,
especially on Saturday teachings,
is what is God calling you to do right now?
Because she knows, and anybody who's walked in purpose before
you are so fulfilled
that you almost can't see other things.
It's like, yeah, I still wanna be married,
but I'm so content right now.
I'm so fulfilled right now
because you're actually operating in purpose.
And so that's how you draw the conclusion
that if when I'm married, you draw, I'll be fulfilled
because you feel like marriage is part of your purpose.
And you know from somewhere in thoughts
that purpose brings fulfillment, right?
So, and then we wanna learn to partner with God
now in the areas you desire to see a spouse in later.
Partner with God now in the areas you desire
to see a spouse.
And I'm telling you, when he comes, he'll join the party.
Have y'all ever wanted to be around a person in the room
that when they walk in, it's just like,
they the life of the party.
Like they just fill the room and you're like,
I wanna be around them.
I wanna be their friend.
Every time I hear Jackie talk, I'm like,
ooh, I just wanna be around Jackie.
She's so charismatic and just so fun.
And just like, it's like, yeah, that's right.
So encouraging, so life-giving.
Well, we attested that, so life-giving.
The reason why you show up in this program,
because something that she said gave life to you.
Something that she said awakened something in you.
It awakened it so much that you said,
I'm gonna spend my money to get in that program
to learn everything that she has.
Because whatever she has, I want it.
I believe her.
That's what an Ezra is.
That's what you are.
Okay?
So we wanna maximize our current season.
All of this, is it a question about this or for later, Lou?
No, it's okay, I'm just asking.
I'm just anxious to get a question.
Girl, I thought you were done, so I already pressed.
Golly, Lou, I ain't done.
I'll lower it, I'll lower it.
You can keep it up though, it's no problem.
I'm just checking.
So the next thing you wanna do is let God fill you.
So this, I'm gonna give you perspective.
Let God fill you in those areas
that you're expecting a spouse to do it.
And the next thing is maximize your current season.
Identify where you are.
If you, honey, if you're not planning a wedding,
you are not there.
Where are you? Locate yourself. If you're not standing at the altar, you're not at
the altar. Where are you? Say, God, where am I?
Maximize this season because you won't be here always. I'm telling you, one day
you're gonna meet your husband and it's gonna be over with. Ain't gonna be no more
phase 2 coaching, ain't gonna be no more dating for discovery. Whatever you got,
you got. What you don't got, you better learn the hard way, baby. What you will
learn. All right? So, that's just the way it works. One day you knew him, the next
day you didn't. So, maximize your current season. Whatever the Lord is working on
you on, when you ask him, where are you in this season? When you get tired of saying,
Lord, I'm just tired of waiting. Man, as soon as you say that, say, now, where you working at so
that I can get on board? All right? All somebody says they've been in a season of
cultivating friendship. That's good. I can't see the whole thing because it didn't pop up.
Cultivating and loving on my grandkids, such a beautiful season. Such a beautiful season,
such a beautiful time. Ezra means, the Bible says, the Bible told, said that God says that
he wanted to make Adam a helpmeet. And that word helpmeet or helper is a word in the Hebrew word,
it means Ezra. Ezra means a life-giving source, a warrior, a nurturer. That's what he said he was
going to make for man. And so, we're putting things into perspective because if that is what
a wife is, then that means whatever I've been thinking outside of it doesn't quite fit. I may
have been thinking about products that come from being married. But my ideal, I am a Ezra,
a life-giving source, a warrior, a woman with a sword that comes to give life to her husband.
Okay? That should give all of us a perspective. It changed my whole world when I read that. I
said, say, what now? But I just need somebody to mow the yard and take out the trash. And I'm tired
of making all these decisions and why I got to do all this. Okay? So, that was me. I don't know
about y'all, but that was me. I wasn't praying what I pray now. Lord, who have you made these
hands to help? Equip me, enable me, strengthen me. Do what you got to do so that when my husband
comes, I'll be the best Ezra you ever made. That he'll know what an Ezra looks like when he looks
at me. That when we get down the road 10 years from now, he say, God, he who finds a wife finds
a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Because if you got an Ezra, you got favor from
the Lord. If you got a multiplier, you got favor from the Lord. An Ezra can go inside a man and
pull out the gold and say, let's make it happen, baby. That's what an Ezra does. She is a life-
giving source. So, I changed my mind. I take out my own trash. Just make me an Ezra, oh God.
Well, that technology, do that for me. Because not only will I be an Ezra to him, but I'm
gonna be an Ezra to everybody around me because it's my identity. That's why we like to help
ladies. That's why we're able to take something, nothing, and make something out of it.
Right? Okay, I'm gonna keep tracking because Lou looking at me like, hey y'all.
Lou, that's so good. I can't let it go. Okay, so we want to maximize the season that we're in. Once
we figure out what season we're in, we want to maximize that season. Listen, don't leave no
stone unturned. Don't leave jewels on the ground. Don't leave treasures on the ground in a hurry to
get where? To get to your ideal of what your marriage is going to be? To get to the fantasy
you painted in your mind? If the Lord is equipping you, let him do the work to his end. He who has
began a good work in you is faithful to complete it. You guys, what is a year or two years or three
years investing in the next 30 years of your life tied to somebody? Because sometimes you're
gonna feel like you're tied to them jokers. Okay? Y'all may start out making pancakes and
at two o'clock in the morning dancing, but listen.
All right, next thing is we'll maximize our current season. I'm gonna keep going, so we hurry up.
And then we're gonna trust God's process over comparison. Comparison is a thief of your joy.
Comparison will be a thief of your destiny. Comparison will be a thief of your season.
Comparison is a thief of your time.
Okay, so things you have to remember. Remember, we're talking about perspective. Perspective
is what gets you to the promise and it gets you through the faith journey. So we have to believe.
that God is good even when his timing looks different than ours because we understand
that he knows the whole story and we just have a part we just got a piece of the puzzle
you want to be real mindful when you start to make judgment calls against what God should do
and you barely can see look put your little finger that's all you can see you can't even
see the rest of the room see through a little peephole you ever look through a peephole on
the door or peephole at a hotel that's all you can see is what little bit is in front of you
half of the time that's distorted if there is no perspective
that can be very very distorted even when we're walking in the promises of God
it takes him to bring us clarity okay and then
hold on to the truth and when you're when you're looking at people getting married and things
happening all around you hold on to the truth that the bible says that God makes all things
beautiful in its time in its time not in my time
okay and then last one
ah this is so good isn't it good anybody else think it's good give me a wave give me a nine
wave yeah perspective is everything ladies perspective fills you with grace it fills you
with acceleration it gives you the strength you need to get there i'm telling you you
once you get perspective you say wait a minute i'm on time i'm not late i'm where i should be
it gives you certainty i am not forgotten this is exactly what i'm supposed to be doing i'm
supposed to be going on dates i'm supposed to be discovering i can't mess up i don't have to have
a scarcity mindset i'm right on time i'm in the season of marriage and in the season of marriage
there's preparation there is plucking up there's a planting that has to happen watering has to
happen sunshine has to happen i have to get rid of old laws and old mindsets and old ways and
coming to a new because i ain't never been no ezra before i didn't know i was made to be an
ezra this is a new understanding for me oh my okay god do what you gotta do this is exciting
perspective brings that for you because this is the certainty you've been longing for to know that
i'm in the right place at the right time and not trying to be where you shouldn't be and not even
lagging behind okay and the last one is become the person who can steward the promise
you can steward the promise the promise is marriage okay god let's do it there's some
giants in my land all right give me five smooth stones in a slingshot i'll take out everything
that's standing in the way between me and tied to me you got to go unforgiveness ah you got to go
bitterness you got to go you're coming down today you may have been living in my land for a long
long time but who are you you uncircumcised philistine you got to go because i'm a woman
of covenant and nothing's gonna stand in between me and the promises of my god i am going into the
promised land i don't care what it looks like you're gonna tell the report like caleb said
they said it's giants in the land but we can take them the other one said oh lord we look like
grasshoppers in their sight and they know it and we know it too but caleb said we can take them
i can take you down and tie them in you fear rejection ah i'm coming for you because i serve
a covenant keeping god and no giant is gonna stand in the way of me and the promise that's
what perspective does for you it gives you a slingshot and five smooth stones okay all right
so understand this marriage is a destiny shaping decision see when you think i just want somebody
i just want i just want to have sex i just want a man to cut up with i just want somebody to take
out the trash i just want somebody to help me make a decision the lord is saying baby
this is a destiny shaping decision that means the things that i put in your dna that i planted in
you you could come in covenant with someone who can disrupt and delay the plans i have over your
life even if they're a believer yes i know the song of the giants is a really nice song yeah
even if they're even if they're a believer i have this book already written out from the beginning
to the end i know your life and so what you're trying to do is get some immediate gratification
you just want somebody to talk to but i'm telling you this is a destiny shaping decision
this is a destiny shapping decision
decision you're going to make in your life is giving your life to Christ and who you marry.
so the most important
You can marry somebody that will you will get beat down so long it will take you
years to come back. You'll come back but it'll take you years or you can live miserably for
the next 30 years of your life because you're not coming out of the covenant.
Whichever way it is but it's not heaven's way or heaven's best way for your life.
All right, you can choose a husband that makes it like a bridge to your destiny.
That when you build him up he makes way for you. That he'll be the teacher of your home
and the teacher of your children though you may grow together and iron with sharpened iron.
That's what you want. You want some iron sharpened iron. You're a helper. You're
a life-giving source but look you ain't trying to raise nobody from the dead. Come on.
Come on. Hey we're not trying to raise people about the tomb. We need some people who are
already alive that's committed to righteousness. They're on their way. We get ah okay. All right
just added that one in the notes. All right marriage is not a relationship status and I
remember when I was going through my divorce one of the things I grieved was letting go of the
status of being married. That's a real thing. It's a real thing and so examine areas of growth.
How do we steward the promise? Examine your areas of growth that may affect the type of person you
attract. Examine your areas of growth that may determine the type of person you attract.
So that means if you are battling with rejection and you just want to be accepted,
somebody's gonna come along give you the right words for that. Your acceptance comes from God
not from a person. So if you don't deal with their rejection, their rejection is going to deal with
you because it puts you in a very vulnerable place and what it does it it uh throws out your
your perception and your discernment and so you put yourself under boundaries. It's not like
rejection is going to disappear but you set boundaries and you say A-B-C-D.
That's it. This is how I'm going to operate. I'm going to put myself within boundaries
under boundaries for the safety. I'm going to guard my heart with all diligence
right because we're broken in community. We're healed in community. We're broken in relationship
and we're healed in relationship. There are going to be things in you that when you get married that
are going to bring some healing components to that but guess what? When you get in that marriage,
you ain't going to be trying to fight him and he trying to help you heal and grow.
You're not going to be duking it out. You're not going to be accusing him of doing something he
never did because you're insecure. You're aware that you have some insecurities so when he comes
in or you can say with your mouth, hey I would like it if you would just be a little bit more
transparent about what's happening because I'm dealing with a couple of things and it
will really help me in my process. Nobody's coming to fight with you to grow.
That you're willing, you're teachable, you're in a position to be taught so we want to examine
the areas of growth that may affect the type of person we attract. Next thing, allow God to mature
your character. Mature your character and mature your emotional health. Allow God to help your
nervous system. Read some books. Go to a counselor. Deal with your avoidance in the way you've learned
to love. Deal with your anxiousness. It's only going to get worse in marriage. It's going to
be amplified. It's going to get bigger and bigger. That's why we like dating so much.
You think we're trying to drag you to your doom. We're trying to let that anxiousness come out so
you can learn how to work with it. You can say, okay I may be bent that way but I'm going to
bend myself back the other way. I was trained in an anxious attachment style growing up but it
will not define how I show up because I already know I'm bent toward that way. So when I see myself
leaning I go, we coming back over here buddy. I was raised in toxicity so when if I argue with a
man something on the inside of me gets just turned on. I am telling you when I get to arguing and
they argue back with me it's like oh yeah this is what I like. I can hear it and I'll be like oh no
no no no no no we don't do that here. I am in authority over me.
So the fact that we can we are aware enough to recognize what's happening gives us authority over
it.
And so that's what dating pulls out, all the agitation,
all what they do and how they say stuff
and all of this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this.
It all works for the good.
Cause you get to practice.
You get to practice in low stakes.
So one of the reasons why we push pacing
is because if you don't pace the process,
you end up getting molly whopped in the process.
Your heart gets hurt more than it should.
And so when you take on the perspective
of dating for discovery,
and not every man you talk to is your husband,
you spare yourself the hurt and pain that's unnecessary.
It's unnecessary.
You don't need any more wounds.
You've had enough.
You've had enough, you guys.
Release yourself from it.
Pace yourself.
Release the fantasies.
Understand where you are.
You're in phase two.
Phase two is dating for discovery.
When you sign up for this process,
there's hard work, there's dating for discovery,
and then you go into phase three.
At some point, you're gonna be looking for destiny DNA.
And when you look for your destiny DNA,
you already have worked out things in you.
Y'all following me?
Is this good?
Is this good to talk?
I need some head nod, okay, okay, okay.
Now, thank you, thank you, thank you.
And then the last one.
Focus on becoming prepared for marriage,
not just obtaining marriage.
And look, we can all be very, very guilty of this.
We're focused on obtaining marriage,
and that's why a lot of times we have a lot of,
with a lot of hurt in our heart, a lot of disappointment.
You guys, disappointment after disappointment
after disappointment does not build a victorious person.
Perspective does.
That when disappointment comes, you gird up your lawns
and you remind yourself of the perspective,
the truth, and say, okay, I can do this.
I thought it would have been here by now,
but that's okay, I can do this.
Where am I?
Where are you guys?
If I'm not at the altar, then where you at?
Put me where you are.
Show me where you are.
Teach me, grow me.
Clearly, there's something else that you need to do in me,
because I know that you're good.
The Bible says, if your child asks you for bread,
would you give him a stone?
And if your child asks you for fish,
would you give him a snake?
Jesus said, now you men are evil at heart
not to give good gifts to your children.
What more my father in heaven
will not give good gifts to those who ask?
The Bible says that God is a rewarder
of those who diligently seek him.
You can't believe that you're gonna go through hard work
and go through a program seeking the Lord for marriage,
something he designed to be in earth,
where one could put a thousand to flight
and two could put tens of thousands to flight,
that he put this together for a Simon in the earth
so that the kingdom of God will come
and his will will be done on earth as it is in heaven,
and he's not gonna give it to you.
He wants it for you more than you want it,
but he wants you to live in the kingdom
and the goodness of the design that he's created.
And so when we come to partner with the Lord for a spouse,
hey, it's gonna be a process, people.
If you want a man your way, go get one.
They're out there.
But if you want the best that there is,
you've come to the right place at the right time.
As they say in church, to receive your blessing.
It is the truth.
Nobody does it like Father God.
And he wants the best for you, even when we want less.
I'm telling you, a lot of times, I better took less.
I mean, look, I get it all on the other side.
She said, take it, look, let's get this stuff done.
Right?
But when we prepare this way, when we give perspective,
all of a sudden, hear what I say,
suddenly is no longer a suddenly.
We believe that suddenlies are literally suddenly.
But when you prepare, suddenly is not so suddenly.
Even though it's suddenly, it's not so suddenly.
Because you've been preparing for this, blue leather,
you've been preparing for this moment.
And it's like, oh, wow,
I didn't know I was gonna meet him today,
but suddenly is not so suddenly.
Sometimes we confuse fantasy and suddenly.
Fantasies are not suddenly.
And so you'll get into a dating relationship
and you will outpace yourself because you have fantasies.
And in one week, you're in love with somebody.
That's a fantasy.
That's romanticism.
The Bible says that a house is built on wisdom.
Are you tracking with me?
Perspective gives you that.
Perspective says, when I meet somebody,
I'm dating them for discovery.
And now I'm gonna practice my pacing.
Now I'm gonna practice giving more grace.
I know it seemed like some fishy about this
and I'm not talking about going against somebody.
saying something sexual to you. We're not, hear me, don't hear what I'm not saying to you.
We know the foundations. Mature, marriage-minded, masculine. You know foundations. You know,
you know what honor sounds like when someone speaks to you. If you don't, I'll tell you about
that. But what happens is maybe you found somebody like, yeah, for sure, I know this
ain't gonna work, but he's nice. Let me work on some skills. So then when he suggests something,
I'll be like, no, I'm not interested without over-explaining. You ain't got no skin in the
game. It's when you like somebody that it gets hard. So practice with the ones you don't like
that much so that when that one come along that you like, you won't get strung along like a
little puppy. Because I'm telling you, it's something about some of them, they be like,
don't let them be saved to righteous or something. You be like,
you know, perspective tells me that I can't see them five years from now,
10 years from now, and I don't even really know them. I only know what they told me and what I
can see. But God knows the heart. You know, the Bible says that God told Samuel, he said, see,
you men. Every time he got to one of Jesse's sons, he says, you the one. Oh, this the one.
Oh, this the one. God said, nope. This the one. Nope. Went through seven sons. Nope, nope, nope.
He said, well, who is he? It wasn't David, a little shepherd boy. Guess what he'd been doing
back there in the wood? Writing poems, killing bears, slaying lions with his bear hand. That's
the kind of man I want. I want me a lion slaying man. One can kill a bear with his bear hand.
Come on now. And he said, look, you judge the outer appearance of men, but I, the Lord,
judge the heart of men. I have made it a practice to pray and ask the Lord, how have you judged this
man's heart? That's what I ask the Lord. How have you judged this man's heart? How have you judged
his heart? So, all right. Okay. Was that good? Ladies, was that good or what? Yes, ma'am. Amen.
We need to take up some offering. Yes. Let the church say, amen.
Get baptized in some truth today into some perspective. All right. You guys, Lou is going
to go first, but you raise your hand and you can have questions about the teaching, something you
want me to expound upon, or even your own personal questions. It don't matter. Go ahead, Lou.
Hello. Am I anxious? Maybe. So, it's been a week and a day in Bumble, and I totally now understand
why you guys recommend being in apps and trying out things and doing this, because it really does
uncover a lot of what's still there, and we're not seeing it. We need to work on,
right? So, what I'm seeing is this person who's responding to all these people,
just like I respond to any client that comes for a business proposal, like in my business.
I am totally fearing rejection and putting up very tall walls around that, and I am most
definitely being sort of aggressive towards that in the sense of if they're not sweeping the floor,
bombing me with love and like, oh, my God, look at you. What a jam. It's like, okay, then
what's the point? And I've actually been finding guys that are mostly there for a while,
and they kind of have their checklist, and they're kind of very on into this is something I like,
this is something I don't like. They're actually asking very specific questions already that they
have in mind of like, okay, I have children. How is this going to work? You know, like
a lot way beyond what I expected, and then most conversations kind of start dying out already,
especially because in the first few days, I was so crazily avoidant of meeting
that I feel like also that killed a lot of the conversation.
What else? So everything you said felt like really God speaking and preaching and all that
because it's exactly what I was praying about this morning, about this divine energy or feminine
um energy that needs to come to me and and and I've been praying to be the virtuous wife
this morning so all that you're saying resonates with everything I'm thinking
but it's so much easier said than done right like when I get like so there's this guy that
has been actually asking me out for the past year not not like every day or every time but
like he's known me from the day I moved to Tulsa and he always kind of says you know and and I've
always said no but then this time I'm like okay dating for discovery whatever no and then he
started being all picky about like okay I know you're a vegetarian but could you you know um
expand on that because I want to understand if that dynamic really works yeah
so yeah I know I know and then I get all like internally I get like all like
go do your you know like go your own way like I don't care like
I kind of get offended by it like very instantly um and also I
reached um basically 19 pounds mark of how much weight I lost so far and this weekend I was like
like feeling all empowered and then like one of my pants from like regular pants did fall off
to go to an event and and then a picture came out from that event
and then a reality check came out and it really shows I'm really halfway there
and I went from ecstasy to like not functioning yesterday when I saw that picture
and then I went to a salsa event here which I was super excited about because I'm I'm Brazilian
lived in Miami my entire adult life so this was kind of like yay salsa is kind of that thing that
would put all that weight down and but it was even worse because one here everyone is
everyone is so much about doing the steps perfectly correct and turning the right way
and being all apart and nobody asked to dance with me and I went from whoo to like completely
discouraged yeah um so question being is that common that you have like seven conversations
going on for like five six days and then they all day out is that like something that happens
is that just me being out of my feminine what is this no that's coming really yeah
if you could see my inbox you'd be like oh wow this this coming you can have seven conversations
going and they all die out um you could adjust that to if you meet somebody you like after the
second day you can move the move the conversation along if they don't so you can move it to if you
think you like them move it to a conversation move it to a coffee so hey um I want to continue
getting to know you uh would you be interested in having my number and we have a phone conversation
I always say that so that I've had a phone conversation okay and I loved his voice like
I don't know it really um but I haven't had the courage to actually meet in person yet
so what happens is if you don't make some type of move if somebody doesn't make the move
no matter who it is it's gonna die out I know yeah that's just that's just how that works
you're gonna lose interest even if you talk to that person too long you're gonna lose interest
you lose the momentum and so maybe
If you haven't gathered up the strength to meet in person yet,
you may want to do a FaceTime, or video, or Zoom.
But something to move it along, because what you want
is a date.
I know.
Yeah, you want to date with a safe person.
But one of the questions that I want to ask you
is I want you to ask the Lord if you don't know,
what does body image mean to me?
I've dwelled on this the whole weekend.
And I think it means I'm very scared of people
knowing who I really am.
And that means kind of like my most like digging
into that image of who I really am
and fearing nobody likes that.
Yeah, well, who are you?
That's broad, but I don't know.
Well, what do you fear the most?
I am a very intense emotional person,
if that starts shaping who I am.
I am very passionate about everything I put my mind to.
So when they look at you, what do you do?
I've always been told I'm too much.
I've always been told I am a handful.
My parents would always start conversations
by saying I only had one child because, you see.
No, my mom always said I was a lot.
But what I want you to do is the root of the issue
right now is you embody image.
That's why you don't want to meet people.
You don't want them to see you a certain way.
Because when you looked at yourself,
you frowned upon yourself.
And that's not healthy.
That's not healthy at all.
When I went through divorce, I saw a therapist.
And she did say I suffer from image distortion.
OK.
So she said it's actually a condition.
No matter how many times people tell you something or show you
something, you continuously just don't see it.
And it is a condition, but it's covered under the blood.
And so that means you're going to take your condition
to the cross.
And don't you leave it until Jesus gets what he paid for.
Because he paid for that condition.
And the Bible says that what is impossible with man
is possible with God.
And so I'm just going to uproot that lie out of you right now.
That when you look at yourself, God
has designed you in such a way that when you look at yourself,
you see the image of the true and living God.
And anything other than that is a lie.
The Bible says to let God be true and every man a lie.
And at the end of that scripture, I put Ebony,
even if you are the liar.
And so Luann, you've been found to be a liar.
God is true, and you are the liar.
And the enemy is planning lies to you,
and he's telling you that it's you.
It's not you.
It is his thoughts.
Because when the image is distorted,
it's impossible to see the lion of Judah
that lives on the inside of you.
Image is everything.
It is everything, and that's why the enemy weighs on your image.
He weighs on all of our images so much.
You're not the only woman who looks at herself in the mirror
and says, no matter how perfect her body gets,
you're going to know that it's the enemy.
Because no matter what you do to your body,
it's not going away.
It keeps talking to you.
I used to be close to 400 pounds, 10 pounds away.
And when I look in the mirror, the same devil
that talked to me at 400 pounds tries to talk to me at 255
pounds, and I don't let him do it.
The same devil that talked to me about my arms
and my inner thighs and every part of my body
is the same one that tries to talk to me now.
And if I went to see a counselor,
she'll tell me the same thing.
But I tell the devil that he is a liar,
because God gave me arms and reach
and get anything I need out of my cabinet.
My legs take me anywhere I need to go.
I got eyes to see and ears to hear.
I have breath in my lungs, a nose that can smell,
and a mouth that can talk.
I am telling you that God is good,
and the blood is sufficient, and it's sufficient for you.
And it keeps working.
Amen.
And so I want you to get the truths of God,
and I don't want you to stop speaking them over your life
and meditating on them and praising God for your body
every day.
I look in the mirror, let me tell you,
naked and lift up my arm with all that extra skin under that
was there when I was 400 pounds.
I said, Lord, I thank you for my arms.
Somebody don't have arms, but I was able to reach
and take a bath for myself.
I can clean myself.
These are real things that people wish they had limbs to do.
I can clap my hands and I begin to praise God for my body.
Every woman on here, you criticize your body.
Stop praising God for your body.
I am telling you the thing you believe will never leave you
will leave you because it has no place to call home.
Your body.
Listen to me, girl, it's not a graveyard to bury lies,
to bury potential.
You are not a graveyard.
There's no tombstone on your forehead.
You are a living, active body
and life will live and dwell through you
and truth is gonna get you there.
Paul said to think on these things that are true,
that are praiseworthy and that have a good report.
And when you do that,
there's no way that a lie can still exist
because the two cannot exist together.
Makes one is gonna win.
And so.
And the last thing like, oh my God, thank you.
You're so, you're such a blessing.
Thank you.
Well, and another thing like real quick.
Yes.
Can you type the other thing in the chat?
It's 116.
Can you type it in the chat for me to see it
and let me go to somebody else
and then I'll try to switch.
Of course.
Okay, okay.
All right.
Cynthia Cave.
Don't forget to type it, Lou,
cause I'm watching you.
Okay.
Cynthia Cave.
Yes.
Hi there.
This is amazing.
Yeah.
Maybe in some ways the answer is similar for me.
Thank you for the teaching.
Amazing.
I would definitely have lots of questions of,
so how do you do that?
And how does that work?
But maybe in the chat,
we can go over the teaching.
But the question is,
so I have been in a relationship for two and a quarter years.
Okay.
And I joined Last Year's Single
to try to find out if he's my spirit mate.
And I've been kind of talking with Carla
in the chat and in this meeting as well.
And one of the things that,
you know, as I was praying and reaching out to God,
I was focused on, is he okay?
Is he suitable?
Cause he's got some triggers and I'm kind of worried.
I'm petrified of making a wrong decision.
And yes, I want certainty.
I absolutely want certainty.
And,
but instead as I was praying,
God was focusing my attention on,
more on me.
And so I realized that I never feel safe,
not only,
you know, with my man,
but just generally in life.
I don't feel physically unsafe with my man,
but emotionally.
So I've opened up more to him
than anyone else ever in my life.
I've never been married before.
I'm 53.
This is actually my first serious relationship.
I was always waiting for the one.
And,
and I realize now also always petrified of ending up
like my mom,
who was in a very, very unhappy and violent marriage.
But yeah, so,
there is this thing,
yeah, always having a God.
And so, yeah, I've opened up to him
more than anyone else ever in my life,
but still I can't commit.
I can't give myself.
Then, you know,
sometimes we've had arguments
and normally he is lovely to me.
You know, Carla said that God showed her
what her husband's heart was like.
And I can say that as well.
I know he has a good heart
towards God and towards me.
He was a giver and a lover.
And I know that.
But when I bump into one of his triggers,
he's not quite so nice to me.
Not quite so nice, not quite so nice.
And,
or he says or does something that I feel
is not what you meant to do,
not what you meant to say,
not how it's going to be done.
And so then I get offended or I get upset or I get worked.
And then, you know, and then it's okay again.
And then I kind of relax or start to relax a bit,
but there's still like this guard up.
And so when I think about committing,
you know, for the rest of my life,
then all those moments are there.
And I'm like, if I was married, it might get worse.
So, but it was this kind of realization
that actually it's not so much.
with him, so he's called Tux. It's not so much with Tux, it's actually generally, even
with female friends or just generally, I never feel like completely safe and can sort of
commit and yield and open up. And also because there's always this element that I'm trying
to protect myself, defend myself, that often in the relationship, I'm kind of focused on
keeping myself safe and protecting myself. And so I then get confused about things sometimes.
It's like, I'm not clear. And so anyway, all these realizations, so Carla said, yeah, really
good, fantastic. It's very encouraging. I love what you wrote. You know, the God's showing
you these things. But I was like, so what do I do with it? Or how do I get then healing?
I know that in God is my safety. I mean, I know it up here. I know that's up here. But
I also realized in the heart work that I didn't trust God. And that I believed bad things
about God's character, which was a complete shock to me. So I've got all these scriptures
up on my wall now about, tell me more about the character of God. He's easily, he's easy
to be entreated. You don't have to beg. And he's kind and compassionate. So, but yeah,
is it just a case of declaring God's truth till I believe it?
No. So what I want to say is, do y'all live in different countries or something?
Yeah.
Okay. Cause I'm trying to figure out how you live two and a half years, two and a quarter.
Okay. So there's a culture difference there too, as well?
No. So he's in Britain in the UK and I originally come from the UK, but I've lived most of my
life in Germany. But I actually knew him when I was a student, 35 years ago. He was interested
in me then.
Okay. Yeah. So you've done, do you, have you done counseling?
No, not really. I've some, yeah. So over the years I've done various courses on inner healing.
Have you done any EMDR trauma counseling?
No.
That may be something you want to look into EMDR, not talk therapy, but EMDR, you can research it.
It is a type of trauma therapy.
Okay.
EMDR is a trauma therapy. And then another thing, and this is not, when I ask you this question,
I don't want you to feel like there's a standard you have to meet when I ask you this.
How much time do you spend in prayer?
If it's just like, say average or, you know, not so I'm going somewhere with it. So it's not like.
Yeah. Yeah. It varies a great deal.
So, okay. That's enough.
Quite a bit, I would say.
Twice a day. So I don't know.
Huh?
Quite a bit, I would say. So always in the mornings and sometimes throughout the day
and sometimes in the evenings when I have a day off and often the whole day.
So what I've learned is you can declare scriptures, but it doesn't always
come down from head knowledge to the heart, but sitting with the Lord, just sitting, no words,
keep your thoughts, sitting with the Lord, putting on some soaking music,
letting the Lord know that I'm coming because this is what the word of God says.
It says that the name of the Lord is a strong tower. The righteous run in and they find safety
somewhere in your childhood or the way you've learned love. You didn't feel safe.
Well, that's what's happening with you now, still there. And you're going to need to find
safety within yourself and you can find the Lord will help you with it.
So sitting with the Lord in quiet and in intimacy, he knows why you're showing up.
You can even say it if your mind has to say it, when you come before him,
you can even get your scripture, just one scripture to keep meditating on.
If you can't steal your mind, especially if you're used to talking, when you pray,
if you're used to doing a lot of talking, when you pray, this is not that this is intimacy.
This is sitting still before the Lord. Set your timer for five minutes. I don't know how long
you're used to sitting with the Lord. Then move it up to 10 minutes, move it up to 20 minutes.
Keep increasing your time before the Lord, but start with something really simple,
like five minutes, sit with him, put on some soaking music. Don't pick a song that has a lot
of words. You need to pick a song that's more instrumental. And if it helps you when you first
start off, because you're not used to stealing your mind before the Lord to pick a song with
words, you can do that. But you want to pick a song that has words that does not edify you.
but edifies God, like holy, holy, holy,
something that's purely about his holiness and his beauty.
Not what he's done for you,
not how he can do it for you.
None of those things, just who he is.
So that's what the meditation will look like.
And then you can wean yourself out to instrumental,
but it's not wrong if you keep doing words, right?
Like words that elevate God,
but you want to be able to just sit with him.
And in your sitting with the Lord,
he's going to do the work on the inside.
You'll begin to hear him speak.
Take your notebook with you, but don't be so constant.
I don't want you to focus on, he's going to hear,
I'm going to, he's going to speak.
He's going to, uh-uh, don't do that.
You're coming, announce, I'm coming to be with you.
I don't feel safe and I have ever felt safe.
And the Bible says that the name of the Lord
is a strong tower and the righteous run in and find safety.
I want to find safety with you, Father.
That's why I'm here.
That's it.
When your mind try to pray for somebody,
when your mind try to bring something up,
cause he's going to do it, say, no, no, no.
That's not why we're here.
And it may take you weeks to get the hang of this.
And that's okay.
The Bible says they who come to God
must first believe that he is,
and that he is a rewarder of those
who diligently seek him.
So when you, your mind tries to tell you,
a lie tries to keep you in that this is not going to work,
it's a lie.
He is a rewarder.
You believe that he is who he says he is.
And he is the rewarder of those who diligently seek him.
That means I keep showing up.
I would give myself 30 days.
So I would put 30 days on this new style
of coming before the Lord, sitting with him,
with your soul focused on finding safety in him.
Okay.
Is this something you tried or think you can practice?
Sounds, it sounds good.
Thank you.
Yeah.
Okay.
Let me just pray over you that word right quick.
Father God, I thank you for Cynthia
and I release her into your care.
Oh God, as she surrenders her heart to you now
to deal with this thing that has been dealing with her
all her life, I declare that it ends now.
I declare the seasons are changing
and she's coming to the safety, the joy,
and the peace of her Abba father.
We thank you Adonai for what you're doing in her life.
Old things have passed
and we declare that the new has come.
You make all things beautiful in this time.
And I declare that this is the time in Jesus name.
Amen.
And then hopefully when we clean this up,
you'll be ready to get married.
Okay.
Two and a half years, we're not going to make it three.
Ah, yay.
Okay.
You can't keep that man waiting right there.
It's time to go Cynthia.
You're not going to let the years of your life pass by
talking about you scared to get married.
The enemy has to lose you.
It's a trick.
The enemy must lose you.
Amen.
All right.
Are you still here Shekinah?
Oh, I was trying to unmute.
Oh, hey girl.
Hey Ebony, do you cringe when you see my name pop up?
Cause I feel like I'm a wild card.
Oh, you a wild card, but I don't cringe.
I was like, I miss her.
So I really appreciate what you were touching on earlier
today about trying to keep the hope when you don't see it
because I keep trying to climb out of this revolving circle.
I keep going from telling my friends like, yes,
let's go out, let's stay positive, let's be open.
And let's stop thinking about like our type,
let's just get out here and meet people.
And you get so pumped and so hype,
like, oh God is going to do this.
But after 23 years of doing that, it's like, okay,
how do I keep staying positive?
And I'm at the point right now where it's like,
I love these calls cause it helps keep me encouraged.
And I love the prayers that y'all do.
So I have to log on because I feel like
that's the last thread I'm hanging on
is when I get a chance to get on these calls
because I'm at the point where,
I've already gotten off the apps.
And when I see stuff pop up on my social media about like,
oh, the singles event, I'm like,
I've already done that, I've done this.
So it's like, I am at the point where it's almost like,
why don't I just go back to my ex?
Cause I feel like I'm getting disappointed either way.
You're disappointed if you just withdraw from dating,
you get disappointed when you're out doing dating.
So if I'm...
get disappointed either way i might as well just go ahead and be with my ex anyway you know i wasn't
verbally or physically abused you know so i'm just i mean what what are some pointers or trying to
like just stay positive okay so the first thing i want to say to you is uh now this is gonna sound
hear me i would reconsider that you've been waiting on the lord 23 years for a marriage
because in that statement it tells me that you're not discerning times and seasons
so when you keep your testimony that i've been waiting for the lord 23 years you're already
you're already boxing against something that's not real are you tracking with me
um i would say i started dating at 19 and i wanted to okay i wouldn't date anyone yeah i
started dating at 19 and growing up in the church you're not dating just to be dating you know what
i'm saying i would say but so if i didn't grow up in church so here's this part no no here this
you may in your mind believe that you were waiting on god but if you did not have a
discernment of times and seasons then you weren't waiting on god he wasn't moving in your favor
because that's not where he was working at and if you keep testifying god that i've been waiting for
you for 23 years something about that testimony is not accurate it needs to be realigned to heaven's
truth about your life and your destiny because if you started are you catching me
i think what you're saying is it was my plan to work towards marriage but you're trying to say
that the timing wasn't right what i'm saying is god works in times and in seasons right and so
in church they tell us your church may say abcd but there's a book that has your destiny written
in it that the times and the seasons of your life and i'm not saying you're waiting on like hey this
particular time but to say you've been waiting for 23 years just may not line up with god's
testimony of your life okay i hear that you hear me and so if that continues to be your testimony
it already puts you against the wall it already puts you in a seat of judgment against god that's
not accurate because at this point he's looking not faithful he's looking so unfaithful to you
that you want to go back to egypt that you're basically saying it was better in pharaoh's house
that's how unfaithful god looks right now like he isn't coming through with the word but what if it
was just your word and not his word which clearly because who know i don't know what god had planned
for you at 19 and what he had planned for your 25 but i will reevaluate with the lord because you
don't have to keep boosting yourself up it is tiring what you said is absolute truth if you
could put words to some of my thoughts that would be it okay we're gonna do it we're gonna stay
positive we're gonna go back out you get disappointed again and you build yourself
back up and you go back out let me tell you something that is hard it's not easy
and it's disappointing and it makes you want to give up and that's what i was teaching about today
about perspective and i will go back chicana and i will look at myself and i will ask the lord
if this is what a azar is where am i on your timeline of an azar not what you think about
yourself chicana but what equipping is required of me for the one you've called me to help in this
life because if you measure yourself you would have measured you incorrectly unless you have
input from the lord i don't believe that a woman is ready for marriage and the lord is withholding
from her because i don't believe that we have a god that withholds and so what i say to lord and
i've said this to you before lord if this is not what you're doing what are you doing because
i myself am determined not to miss something that he's doing in this season and i myself desire
marriage but i also i also believe i believe in the god that has equipped me thus far
i believe in what he's building in me so if this is not what you're doing what are you doing right
now to get me to the end because the promise is sure are you tracking what
I am. I think it wouldn't be so bad. I feel like, okay, if I'm 41 and it's not in God's
plan for me to get married yet, then all the profits that he sent my way to talk about
my husband was just no point at all. Then I don't need to care about something 20 years
ago when I'm 15, 16, 17, if I'm 41, it's still not going to come right. Like that way from
it to like, I didn't, I didn't just come up with this, like, oh, I want to get married.
So while all these multiple profits coming to me from the age of 15, then 20, then 25,
then 30, then 35. And they all talk about this husband. If I'm 41, still not ready.
And I need to hear all that. Well, she kind of, what is your measurement already? Because
see right now, what you're doing is questioning if God wants it, but that's not true. Whether
a prophet told you to or not, this is what you were designed for. If you want marriage,
it's in your heart. No matter what, if the prophet said or not, if the prophet said it
or the prophet never said it, if it was just your desire alone, if it was just yours alone,
it's enough. It's standing. It's the word. It is true for you. So I would sit down. I
will sit with the Lord and I will lay aside everything else and ask him, what about me
is equipped for marriage? And what do you need to equip? He will highlight it to you.
Why haven't I entered into marriage? What were you working in my life right now? Can
you please do it and post it so I can see what he says? Because I just don't, if you're
ready, what makes you ready? And what are you lacking? What does he want to build?
Exactly. Because that's the whole reason why over a year ago, not only did I sign up for
this, but I also am in therapy and counseling. And let me tell you this, my therapy and counseling
is to, it's not even for anything traumatic. You know, I was my parents' miracle child.
They were very overprotective of me. So I never had no crazy trauma, no molestation,
no rape, none of that stuff like that. And I'm still in counseling and therapy just to
improve my communication, work on, you know, to stop thinking go, you know, when you're
very hot and tempered and I'm very, you know, and I'm very vocal. So learning how to
communicate better. So it's like, I'm doing all these things to improve myself. I'm like,
wait a minute, do I have to be perfect? Because compared to, I mean, that comparison thing
that you're talking about, compared to what the things that other people have gone through
and dealt with and family and death and trauma, I have none of that. You know, I was my
parents' miracle child. So they won't thought they had no craziness happening in my life
growing up. So it's like, wait a minute, do I have to be perfect? Because the things I'm
working on are so minuscule compared to what other people are in therapy and counseling
for. You know what I'm saying?
She kind of asked the Lord the question. Did you write down the question I just gave you?
I sure did. I'mma ask. You better believe it.
You ask the Lord and you sit and you listen. So the, then the rule is when you go before
him, the principle is they who come to me, they must come believing that I am. And I'm
a rewarder of those who diligently seek him. If you keep putting up to the Lord, everything
you've done and why this is this and why this is that it's going to be really hard for you
to hear. Lay aside what you think you know. You don't know enough Shekinah. You are but
a human. I'm telling you, your arguments don't stand in the courts with the Lord. Release
them. Let it go. You need the favor of God. If not, like you said, you can go back to
your exes. That's the life you choose. The Bible says that God resists the proud, but
he gives grace to the humble. Humble yourself under the hand of God. Ask him, God, this
is your daughter coming to you. I lay aside my understanding and my knowledge and my will
and my thoughts and my way and I repent for believing I know better than you. I'm hurt.
I thought you would have come by now. I have been receiving prophecies since I was 15.
This does not feel good. But I humble myself under your hand and I seek your wisdom.
You tracking with me? I'm writing all this down. I'm quiet, but I'm writing it down.
This is what you're going to do. Repent for your pride and your arrogance and your offense
with him and your know everything. Tell him, I don't know nothing. He know you don't, but
just say it again. It's going to help you. It ain't to help him.
Okay?
I love that.
Okay.
Let, let, you gotta, you gotta get rid of this pride.
The pride, the Bible says, God resists proud.
He pulls the humble near.
And then say, Lord, I am an Azar.
I'm a life-giving source.
Teach me.
Show me.
And from this prayer,
this is when I want you to start counting
that you're waiting on God.
Right here.
That moment, when you surrender all,
yet again, in this way, in repentance,
humbling yourself before him.
Then write down the date on top of your paper
and watch God prepare you and accelerate you.
Okay, so I'm gonna write, I'm gonna write this down.
Um, I need to ask, I need to ask him,
what do I need to learn during this season, basically?
That's what you're telling me.
You repent, that you get all the repentance down.
Repent from pride, everything from offense.
I got it down.
Okay, well, let me, first,
I want you to go before the Lord with thanksgiving.
Listen, the reason why I say that is this.
He says, come into my gates with thanksgiving
till my courts were praised.
The courts were praised.
Because the courts is the inner place with the Lord,
and that's where you need to go.
Uh-huh.
And this is how you get there.
He already told us how we get there.
So you thank him for everything you could think of, right?
And then I want you to repent for pride and arrogance
and write down every pride weight in you.
Ask the Holy Spirit to show it to you.
Every way of offense, everything.
I want you to spend some time in repentance.
Don't leave it.
Don't just say words to the Lord.
Sit in it.
Sit in repentance.
And then tell the Lord, I humble myself under your hand.
Teach me, show me, grow me.
Lord, where are you working in my life right now?
And how can I get to the promise?
What do you want to develop in me?
What do you want to grow in me?
I've come to you because I found that I am lacking.
I'm lacking your wisdom and your guidance.
Okay?
I know I said it.
I'm writing it all down.
You're writing it all down.
And then you need to sit on it for the next 30 days.
Don't be in no hurry.
Don't be in no hurry with the Lord.
It take time to stew in his presence.
Heavy on time.
Yeah, I see.
But get what, baby?
Don't be, don't let that time go.
Let it go.
Okay?
Yep, I'm writing it all down.
Thank you.
You're welcome, Shekinah.
Okay, the rest of y'all put your hand down.
I'm sure y'all session in at 12 to 1.30, right?
It is 1.43.
I am not keeping you.
You can leave.
I did have Cynthia C and Lucy left.
And so Cynthia C, not Cynthia K,
but the other Cynthia or Lucy, if y'all are still here,
I will take your questions.
Everybody else, I hope that you enjoyed the session.
I am not keeping you.
Yes, you are free to go.
And I'll just take these next two questions real quickly.
And I enjoyed you all.
Go ahead, Cynthia, you are on mute.
Oh, I was just saying, I said, as you were talking to them,
I'm writing notes fiercely too.
Good.
I definitely received.
I was doing the exercise in writing down the thoughts
that I'm having, and then the decree,
and then the scripture.
So I think that was, I don't know,
somebody seems like they gave me that assignment.
What's that right now?
Okay, so this is an example.
We do that in our private session?
No, I honestly think Carla, I got it from somewhere.
Was it last Tuesday?
Oh, Carla.
Yes, you got it from Carla.
Might've been last Tuesday or one of the Tuesdays and stuff.
Cause I'm in the book club and stuff too.
Oh, okay, okay, okay.
So what I'm trying to do with me,
trying to, I guess, really deal with emotions and stuff
and not ignore whatever.
So one of the thoughts I had,
and I know most of us can relate to this,
is I'm tired, I'm weary.
And so my decree, I don't know about this decree,
I might need to work on that,
but my decree is I keep.
I keep doing good.
My scripture is Galatians 6 and 9, and let us not grow weary while doing good.
When due season we will reap if we do not lose heart.
Okay, so I was having, I was trying to, you know, you gave so many good scriptures.
So I was having two of them, two of the thoughts.
I was trying to find scriptures for, one thought was, will things change?
And then the decree is things are shifting for me.
Come on.
And I was trying to come up, you know, I had, I don't know what scripture, I think I was
thinking of Jeremiah 29, 11.
I know the plans I have for you.
I don't know if you can think of something else that kind of hits that things are shifting
for me.
You know, there's a scripture that says, let me Google it right now.
Let's see, I'm like you, I was, I didn't expect to see you here.
I was like, Oh, I've got to put on a dress and take off this dirty t-shirt.
And so first Peter 5 and 10 says, after you have suffered a little while, then the God
of all grace, after you have suffered a little while, he himself will restore you, make you
strong, firm, and steadfast.
Okay.
First Peter 5 and 10.
And so that speaks of establishment.
You know, there's another scripture that speaks of, there will be a performance that God will
do, the word in which he said.
That is a good scripture also.
Okay.
If you just, I don't know exactly which one it is.
And then another scripture that comes to my mind is, you know, under the good work,
I see somebody that's truly beginning to work in me is faithful to complete it.
Okay.
So it's Luke 1 and 45 and it says that, and blessed is she that believe for there shall
be a performance of those things which were told her from the Lord.
Come on, we all need that scripture.
I'm trying to make myself happy.
Luke 1 and 45.
Okay.
Got it.
And then I have another question.
Okay.
One of my thoughts is, do I, do I have a closed heart?
And so my decree is Lord opened my heart to receive.
And I was trying to come up with a good scripture for that one.
Because I'm like, do I have a double minded mind?
I'm trying to get my, the unconscious and my conscious to kind of line up.
Cuz I keep getting close and I can almost see it and touch it.
Yeah.
The answer, the Lord opened my heart to receive.
Yeah, I would pray, Lord, cause my heart to be tender toward you guys.
Okay, mm-hm.
Let's see a scripture about, I may have to Google it,
a scripture about your heart being open.
But you know what, cuz it kind of hit me when you were talking to Shekana about
pride, and I said, well, that could be it too.
So cuz it's a heart condition, so- It is a heart condition, mm-hm.
Look, pride, all of us carry pride, we're humans.
And we have to consistently repent of pride and arrogance in our way and
being offended in what we think and what we believe, all that's pride.
Mm-hm, mm-hm.
And you from this American culture, they said we got a right to it.
You got a right to your opinion, you could think this is what I believe,
this is what I think, all of that is pride.
You know, God is the proud, and he gives grace to the humble, and-
Yeah, and Kayla, I like that, open the eyes of my heart going like that.
Yeah, that's a good one, that's a good one, yeah, open the eyes of my heart.
I regularly repent from pride, I had an iniquity of pride in my heart,
it came down through my bloodline on both my mom and dad's side.
And so, I am no stranger to everyday repenting from pride.
Mm-hm, mm-hm.
Because he really does resist the proud, he gives grace to the humble.
We need grace, we need the grace for this journey, grace for grace, grace for grace.
Well, cuz I was thinking pride, I'm like, okay.
I was thinking how it manifests in my life that I'm so
used to, if he doesn't do it, then I'll do it.
So, instead of getting before God, like you said, spending that time.
Yeah.
Okay, well, Lord, I don't hear the answer, I don't hear the answer,
I need an answer, so I'm just gonna move.
So that's kind of how it manifests in my life.
So that's a piece I'm definitely gonna be working on.
Yeah.
So.
These are the things that we just repent on a regular basis.
We are our flesh.
That's why we need God.
He didn't design us to be without him.
He designed us to be and have a need for him.
And so these things that we see as flaws
are the things that keep us in need of him.
There's no perfection without Christ Jesus.
That's why he said our righteousness is a filthy rag.
So don't even try it.
In Jesus, we're made perfect.
He said, just stay close to me.
Just stay close to him.
Amen, amen to that.
But yeah, I'm going to be thinking about that.
But thank you so much.
It was so good to see you.
You're welcome.
So good to see you.
Appreciate you.
Okay.
You're welcome.
And thanks for all the comments and stuff
because that kind of helps too.
Yeah, y'all are on it.
Yeah, Kayla was on it.
She's on it.
Kayla be on it, baby.
All right, well, ladies, you guys were amazing.
Thank you for spending time in this session today.
Katelyn, your first time, I hope it was good.
Yeah.
All right.
Well, Katelyn, I hope you guys had a good time on your hike.
I think y'all pulled it out, right?
Yes, it was fun.
Good, good, I'm so happy you made connections.
Where your video went.
But yes, we had a really good time.
We went hiking and then some more ladies met up for lunch.
So that was nice.
That's nice.
Cool, pretty cool.
Good, good, good.
All right, Sarah, I did respond to your post.
It's just so you know that you're winning.
Yeah, good, okay.
All right, ladies, have a great day
and I will see you around.
Thanks so much, bye-bye.
Thank you.
Bye, keep me updated, Cynthia K.
Keep me updated on how it goes.
I'm praying for you.
Yeah.
Okay.
Thank you.
Yeah, thank you, so helpful.
Will do.
All right, bye, ladies.
Bye-bye, God bless you.
Bye-bye.
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