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All right, officially, welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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If you're brand new, let's see your hand.

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We'd love to see all of our new people.

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We have lots of new people coming into the community.

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We are so excited to have you.

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And this happens every Saturday for just one little hour at the beginning of Saturday.

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You know, the Jews think that Saturday is the Sabbath.

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They think today is, you know, the day that God rested.

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And maybe that's true.

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It could be this Saturday.

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It could be a Monday.

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It could be a Sunday.

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I don't know.

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The bottom line is, is that for a lot of people in the world, this kind of starts the week.

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This is the end of the week.

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This is the Sabbath.

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And this starts the new week.

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So let's just say that today, that Supernatural Saturday is our reset.

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It is our reset for what's coming for this next week of our life.

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And I don't know if you guys have noticed, but time is moving faster as you're getting

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older.

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Have you noticed that?

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I don't know if it's because kids just don't have a concept of time or everything seems

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long because kids are always waiting for something that they want to have happen.

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Waiting for the end of the school day, waiting for summer vacation, waiting for the weekend,

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waiting to be 16 years old so they can drive, you know, always just waiting for something.

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And because of that, it feels like time is dragging on when you're younger.

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But as we get older, it feels like time is flying by, doesn't it?

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Now, I have a theory that I cannot prove scientifically, but I believe somehow time is moving faster

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now.

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I know we still have 24 hours in a day.

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We still have 60 minutes in an hour.

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I understand that.

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We still have 365 days in a year.

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But I have noticed an acceleration in time and the Bible seems to support this.

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It seems to support that there's an acceleration of time that happens in what the Bible describes

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as the end times or the end of the age.

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And I know that we still have the clock ticking the same way as usual, but it does feel like

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it goes by faster and that it's accelerated.

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And so I really want to encourage us just from the top of today's Supernatural Saturday

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to pay attention to time, to pay attention to your management of time, to not think that

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you have all the time in the world to accomplish something you want to accomplish, to not put

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off till tomorrow what you truly could do today.

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Let's think about that for a second.

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It's always tomorrow.

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I'll do that tomorrow.

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I'll think about that tomorrow.

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I'll decide tomorrow.

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The Bible says that tomorrow is not even promised to us, right?

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We're not going to get down into some doom and gloom this morning, but today is the only

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day that you'll ever have.

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That's why it's called the present.

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It's a gift from God, and it's the only day that you'll ever live in.

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You will never live in tomorrow.

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You can try to live in tomorrow, and a lot of people do, and guess what?

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Those people never accomplish anything, and I know because I used to be one of them.

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I have a gift to be a future thinker.

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I'm a very futuristic person.

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On that test called the Strength Finder, one of my top strengths was being futuristic,

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meaning I'm prophetic, meaning I can plan ahead for the future, meaning I'm a big vision

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thinker.

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That's all wonderful.

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Those are gifts, but gifts being overextended become weaknesses, and so what I was doing

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in my past is I was living in the future because I could see the future, because I could dream

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about the future, because I could envision the future, because I have a really good habit

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of having a 30,000-foot view of things, right?

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I can see the big picture, the whole picture.

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That's what makes me a good entrepreneur.

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That's what makes me a good business builder, but if you don't come back down from that

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30,000-foot view, if you don't come out of six months from now, a year from now, five

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years from now, your 10-year plan, and come back to today, then you will not be able to

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ever build what it is that you're seeing in the future because it starts with today, right?

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A journey of 1,000 miles starts with a single step, and I wasn't coming back to today.

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I felt comfortable in the future.

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I felt comfortable dreaming about the future because it was safe and it was exciting, and

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my current life, my present life, my today life was not exciting.

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I'm just thinking about when this shift happened for me, and so I was doing something called

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escapism.

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Anyone else?

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Dreaming, escaping.

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You might have a different form of escapism.

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Your escapism might be food.

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Your escapism...

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Might be television, you know, watching movies on Netflix,

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binging shows.

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Your escapism might be right in your hand right now,

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your phone, scrolling, scrolling, scrolling,

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watching other people create,

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watching other people's lives,

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watching other people have a life maybe

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that you think that you want.

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Remember, it is social media,

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so who knows how much of it is real,

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but yes, escaping.

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Escaping into putting together puzzles,

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escaping into some other hobby

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that there's nothing wrong with.

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There's nothing wrong with crocheting.

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There's nothing wrong with putting together puzzles.

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There's nothing wrong with needlepoint.

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There's nothing wrong with pickleball.

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There's nothing wrong with any of these things,

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but if that's what you're doing to try to avoid

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thinking about what needs to be done

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or thinking about what you should do

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or what you need to do or what you may even have to do

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in order to make the most of this one and only life

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that God gave you,

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and I know friends that would get busy.

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You're like, hey, Jackie, I don't have any hobbies

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because I have to work 24 seven.

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Yeah, I know.

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I remember that.

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In fact, I'm gonna tell you a story in just a second

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about a season of my life

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where I had not one job, but two jobs,

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and some of you might laugh at that.

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You're like, Jackie, I have four jobs.

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Well, wonderful.

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But I'm gonna tell you that God didn't design you that way,

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and if you've had anything like that

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for longer than a season,

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then you're probably living this life in an orphan mentality,

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and I can say that because I used to be doing it.

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You're like, no, no, I'm single,

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and that's how I have to make the ends meet.

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You don't understand.

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No, I do understand.

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I used to be single too, a single mom, actually,

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and so I'm telling you that when we're in an orphan

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mentality, when we're in a poverty mentality,

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when we're in a I have to do it myself,

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no one's gonna do it for me mentality,

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when we're in a I know that God exists,

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and I believe he's real, but I'm not really sure

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that he cares about me or can take care of me mentality,

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that's when we do things like that,

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and once again, if you have goals

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that require you to kind of grind for a season,

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then I'm all for that, but that season should end,

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and so if that season continues,

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summer, fall, winter, spring, year after year after year,

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if every year you wake up in the same place,

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then today's message is gonna be for you

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because that's not God's purpose or will for your life,

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for you to be perpetually in the same place,

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never moving forward, never gaining ground,

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always feeling stuck, not enjoying your life,

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I know a lot of religious people think

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that's not important to God that we enjoy our life,

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well, why, why wouldn't it be important for God to enjoy,

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for us to enjoy the gift that our father gave us?

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Father's Day's tomorrow,

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Father's Day's tomorrow,

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for Father, and just go ahead and imagine with me,

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even if you never had a good dad in your life,

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what it would be like to receive a present,

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a very expensive, very precious present from a father,

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and then you as the child, as the recipient of that present,

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just kind of, you know, not use it, not enjoy it,

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your father comes by and he sees

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that you're busy doing something else,

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and there's the present that he gave you,

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and you're not enjoying it,

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you don't wanna mess it up, or you don't wanna waste it,

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so you're not using it, not enjoying it, not loving it,

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that would, that wouldn't feel good,

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that wouldn't feel good,

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God doesn't wanna see you not enjoying

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the life that he gave you, and yeah, you know,

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some of us, we didn't get,

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we didn't get an easy start in the life,

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I know that, I'm one of those people,

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the start, the start was not easy,

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the start was really, really hard, really hard,

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and we've all been matched with a timeline,

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we're all matched, all of us that are alive right now

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on this call, and hopefully if you're here, you're alive,

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have been matched with a timeline in history

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where we just don't live in easy times,

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we live in convenient times,

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we have fast food drive-throughs,

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we can microwave our food, we have technology,

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makes things easy for us, we can just get on our phones

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and do most anything that we would need to do,

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order things, reserve things, do work,

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send letters, you know, email.

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I remember a time, and all of you on here remember a time

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when you had to actually write a letter out with your hand.

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Yeah, it's called cursive, remember that?

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You had to write something out

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on a piece of paper from a tree, okay?

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And then put it in an envelope

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and stick this little thing on it called a stamp

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and address it correctly.

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Remember in school when they taught you

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how to address a letter correctly?

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And the reason why they taught us that

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was because we were gonna have to send

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a lot of letters in our life

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because no one knew what was coming.

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Maybe some futuristic person knew,

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they were dreaming about it, but nobody else knew.

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And so we're learning this stuff

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and then you had to put it in that mailbox

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and put the little red flag up

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or take it to the post office and drop it off.

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And then you just had to wait.

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You just had to wait.

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I had a long distance boyfriend when I was a teenager.

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He became my first husband.

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I met him when I was 12 years old at a camp

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and we started writing letters to each other.

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And I would get a letter from him every Thursday

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because it took exactly two and a half days

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for his letter to get from Columbus, Ohio

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to Cleveland, Ohio.

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And he would always mail me a letter on Monday.

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And sometimes the mail would be slow

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or something would happen.

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There'd be a holiday and the mailman would be off

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and y'all, I couldn't handle it.

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I could not handle the fact that I was not gonna get

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a letter that Thursday.

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And then when we got a little bit older,

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I got a phone call once a week

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because you guys long distance,

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you guys remember when long distance calling

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used to be really expensive?

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If they were in a different area code than you,

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you was gonna pay some big money.

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Right?

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I started, I had a job since I was 12 years old.

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I worked at the Milk Pale restaurant.

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I wore this little white nurse's uniform

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with little orthopedic shoes

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and I served people their coffee and tea.

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I was a beverage girl at a family owned restaurant

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when I was 12 years old.

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And then when I was 13 years old,

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I worked at a salon as like an assistant,

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like cleaning stuff up and organizing things

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and you know, whatever, whatever.

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When I was 14 years old, I got a legitimate,

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legitimate job at Kentucky Fried Chicken.

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That's right.

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Why did I work so young?

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Because I wanted money.

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I was the child on and off of a single mom

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and I learned the power of my ability to make money

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so that I could buy things that I wanted

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like long distance phone calls to my little boyfriend

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in another city and clothes

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because I was a little fashionista.

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Still am.

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By the way, you guys, you're allowed to like what you like

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and if anyone tries to say what you like is vain

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or wrong or materialistic,

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you know, God creates us with our likes.

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I've liked clothes since I was a child.

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I didn't wanna wear that.

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I wanted to wear this since I was a little child.

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I've had a very specific sense of style and taste

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which other people may not enjoy but I enjoy.

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I used to cut up my clothes

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and make them into other clothes.

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I learned how to sew.

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I got a sewing machine.

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I went to the thrift store when I was an older person,

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like in my 20s, early 20s

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and I bought clothes from the thrift store

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and I would use the material

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and I would make them into other clothes

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because I liked that.

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I enjoyed it.

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I envisioned it.

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I could envision what it could be instead of what it was.

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Once again, a gift.

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So don't let anyone steal your talent,

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your gift, your desires from you.

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That's just a side note.

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I grew up in a family with a mother,

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with a difficult mother, very difficult mother.

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She's in heaven now.

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But for those of you that don't know my story,

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I'll just say this.

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My mother always tried to make me feel like that gifting,

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I didn't know it was a gifting,

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style, fashion, creativity.

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She always tried to make me feel like that was vanity.

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Like I was materialistic, like that was vain,

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because she grew up in a really poor family.

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Six kids, alcoholic father, no money,

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had to wear hand-me-downs from the school's giveaway bin.

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Can you imagine going to high school

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and wearing other students' giveaways?

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Yeah, that ain't fun.

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That's not fun, walking down the hallway

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and someone recognizing your clothes

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because their parents gave those clothes away

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to the school's giveaway bin.

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So I know, I understand now as an adult

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where she was coming from, that felt frivolous to her,

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that felt superficial to her,

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that felt self-absorbed to her, right?

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But it wasn't, it was a gift that God gave me.

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And it took me a long time to get my mother's voice

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out of my head and allow myself to enjoy it again.

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And I just wanna speak that over someone right now.

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Took me a long time to break free from the narrative

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that that was wrong.

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In fact, I didn't plan on going this direction

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with Supernatural Saturday,

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but we'll follow Holy Spirit right now.

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By the way, if you're new, that's what we do here.

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I have a message for you guys today

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that I believe is from the Spirit,

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but we also follow any little bunny trails

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Holy Spirit wants to lead us down as we're going.

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But when I was an early Christian,

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when I met Jesus in my 20s,

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that voice was loud in my mind

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of how the way you look on the outside is superficial,

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how it's self-absorption, conceit even.

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And so when I was a young Christian, I met Jesus at 22.

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So 23, 24, 25, those years before I had my daughter Reagan,

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I always felt bad if I liked my outfit.

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If I looked in the mirror before going to church,

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and I was discipled by one of those churches

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where you'd be dressing, okay?

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You'd be dressing.

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You don't go to school, you don't...

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Back in that day in this denomination that discipled me,

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you didn't go to church in T-shirt and shorts or jeans.

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The women weren't even allowed to wear pants.

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So that just tells you what kind of situation that was.

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But you were always dressed up.

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You'd be dressing, okay?

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In fact, I can't tell you how many times

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I would just be out and about in public,

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but because of the dress code of that church,

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and because I was in ministry with that church,

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and because of all the things,

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how many people would say to me,

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what are you all dressed up for?

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Like just out and about.

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Oh, you look so nice.

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What are you all dressed up for?

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Because I had long hair and it was always pinned up

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and some elaborate updo on my head.

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And I had dresses on,

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and I probably seemed very dressed up

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to the casual culture that we all live in.

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But once again, looking in the mirror,

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if I saw something that I liked,

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oh, I like this outfit.

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I like that.

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I think it looks so pretty.

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I like these clothes.

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Oh, that's so cool.

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Go to the mall, go to the store.

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And you know, I didn't have much money.

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I didn't have any money back in those days,

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but just go.

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That's why I started going to the thrift store

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and making my own stuff.

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What if I really liked it?

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Then I felt guilty about liking it

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because of that voice in my head.

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So some of you may have a voice in your head.

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It's become your voice now,

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but it originated with someone else in your life.

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Maybe a father, mother, sibling, friend to me,

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friend to me.

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Someone telling you that you shouldn't feel that way.

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You shouldn't be that way.

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You shouldn't look that way or, you know,

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that you're not enough or that you're too much

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or whatever it is.

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And I just want to encourage you

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to come out of agreement with that today.

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You don't have to agree with that today anymore.

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I don't agree with that anymore.

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When I look in the mirror, I don't feel guilty at all.

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When I like my outfit, I don't feel guilty at all.

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In fact, God spoke to me a few years back and he said,

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I need you to take your love for fashion seriously.

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And I'm like, what?

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He's like, oh yeah.

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That desire, that love for fashion that you have,

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I need you to take it seriously

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because it's part of how I've created you

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and it actually leads somewhere.

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Do you guys know that the gifts, the talents, the desires,

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the curiosities that you have are there on purpose?

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It's like a little Post-it note trail,

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like a little love note trail.

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I would say breadcrumb,

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but that has meant something else in our culture.

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I don't feel like God's breadcrumbing us

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in the way that we think about in psychology

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when someone's leading you on or gaslighting you.

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So I've shifted to love notes.

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God's leading a little trail,

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leaving a little trail of love notes that are.

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getting us to a particular destination.

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So even if it seems superficial,

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even if it seems materialistic,

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whatever it is that you like,

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whatever it is that you're interested in, curious about,

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it's probably a clue,

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a clue that leads you to something

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if you allow yourself to go down that route, that road.

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All right, so let's get into

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what I wanted to talk to you guys about today.

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I jumped on a prayer call this week, a random prayer call.

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I think it was Wednesday.

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And I told the ladies,

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it was right before the prayer call was over,

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and I told them about a question that changed my life.

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And you guys, I believe that if questions are asked to us,

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and we'll really sit down

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and think about the answer to that question,

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in the right season of time,

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when we have the right mindset,

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and we're ready to receive the information

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from that question and answer, it can change our lives.

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Do you believe that?

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Okay, a couple of you do.

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A couple of you believe that.

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Now you can get asked the same exact question

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in a different season,

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and it just goes right over your head.

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You don't pay any attention to it at all.

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Doesn't make an impact, right?

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It doesn't have to be a profound question.

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It doesn't have to be a question

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that other people would think

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would be a life-changing question.

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It just has to be in the right time, in the right season,

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when you have the right heart to receive it.

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And that's what happened to me.

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And so I told them on that Wednesday prayer call about that,

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and I'm gonna tell you about it as well,

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because it didn't leave me since Wednesday,

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and I believe that it's a message for all of us,

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not just the Wednesday prayer call ladies.

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So I told them about a time

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when I was going through a very hard season,

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one of the hardest seasons of my life.

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That church that I was talking about that discipled me,

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well, the pastor got in trouble and he was going to prison.

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The church had shut its doors.

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I had been there every single day

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because I worked at the church.

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I had been there every single day for the previous 12 years.

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That was my family.

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In a lot of ways, in that season of my life, I was an orphan.

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I did have an origin family.

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I had a father that I didn't know.

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By the way, that father that I didn't know,

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I texted with last night,

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and I will be sending a card to today,

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late, of course, because that's my MO,

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but I will get that card out in the mail today,

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and he will get it.

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When I'm in California in two weeks,

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I will take him to lunch because that's where he lives,

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and that's where all of us are from.

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Yes, I will do that.

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Does he deserve for me to do that?

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No.

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Has he ever done anything really meaningful in my life

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besides be part of the conception process?

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No, he hasn't.

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Has it caused a lot of pain by his absence,

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by his abandonment when I was six months old?

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Yes.

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Have I forgiven him?

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Absolutely.

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Do I have grace for him?

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Yes.

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Is he like an amazing person,

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and I'm so excited to have a relationship with him

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because he's just done all of his hard work,

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and he's just easy to get along with?

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No.

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Hopefully that's helpful for some of you.

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I don't believe that honoring our parents

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on these holidays is mandatory,

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but I do think that it will go a long way

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towards helping them become the people

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that God has created them to be.

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You honoring someone who's been dishonorable,

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you honoring someone anyway,

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you giving someone grace, extending them grace,

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even though they don't deserve it,

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that's actually the way of Jesus.

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Now, does that mean that you open yourself up

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to more hurt and pain?

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Does that mean that you don't have boundaries

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with unsafe people?

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No, it doesn't.

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But guess what?

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No one can hurt you through a card in the mail.

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You're not gonna be in proximity to them.

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You can use that old-fashioned snail mail delivery system,

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and you can send them a card in the mail.

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You're like, but Jackie, all the cards say things

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that aren't true about my parents.

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I know.

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But think of it as prophesying over them.

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Think of it as speaking life over them.

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Think of it as their ideal future self.

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Right?

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Why not?

517
00:24:52.140 --> 00:24:55.300
It's not gonna hurt you, and it might help them.

518
00:24:56.620 --> 00:24:58.100
Anyway, that's just a side note.

519
00:24:58.100 --> 00:25:00.860
All right, so back to the question that changed my life.

520
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:01.200
But that's the season that I'm in.

521
00:25:01.200 --> 00:25:02.600
I'm gonna paint it for you.

522
00:25:02.600 --> 00:25:04.280
I'm in a very, very bad marriage,

523
00:25:04.280 --> 00:25:07.320
an unhealthy marriage, an unsafe marriage.

524
00:25:07.320 --> 00:25:10.740
I've been struggling to keep my head above water

525
00:25:10.740 --> 00:25:14.280
for 12 years in this marriage and in this church,

526
00:25:14.280 --> 00:25:15.760
this church that got increasingly

527
00:25:15.760 --> 00:25:17.800
more and more and more abusive.

528
00:25:17.800 --> 00:25:20.780
As you can see by the end of the church

529
00:25:20.780 --> 00:25:23.960
where the pastor goes to prison, can you imagine?

530
00:25:23.960 --> 00:25:27.200
Can you imagine what that church was like

531
00:25:27.240 --> 00:25:30.200
in the years that he was running the church,

532
00:25:30.200 --> 00:25:32.400
doing all these things behind the scenes,

533
00:25:32.400 --> 00:25:36.040
corruption, infidelity to his wife,

534
00:25:36.040 --> 00:25:38.080
all kinds of crazy stuff.

535
00:25:39.960 --> 00:25:41.560
Do you think someone like that's a good leader?

536
00:25:41.560 --> 00:25:43.440
Do you think someone like that is teaching

537
00:25:43.440 --> 00:25:45.120
the sound word of God from the pulpit?

538
00:25:45.120 --> 00:25:47.320
No, it got worse and worse and worse.

539
00:25:47.320 --> 00:25:49.400
It didn't start that way, but this is what happens

540
00:25:49.400 --> 00:25:51.240
when people make decisions, you guys.

541
00:25:52.200 --> 00:25:54.720
I love my former pastor, I bless him.

542
00:25:54.720 --> 00:25:57.280
At the beginning, he made a lot of important deposits

543
00:25:57.280 --> 00:26:00.000
into my life, but when I look back now,

544
00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:01.040
even though I was a young woman,

545
00:26:01.040 --> 00:26:03.760
I can see the deterioration of him.

546
00:26:04.640 --> 00:26:06.320
I don't know what decision it was.

547
00:26:06.320 --> 00:26:08.440
I don't know what straw broke the camel's back,

548
00:26:08.440 --> 00:26:11.240
but somewhere along the line, he lost the plot.

549
00:26:11.240 --> 00:26:14.080
He lost it, and he started doing other things,

550
00:26:14.080 --> 00:26:15.120
things he shouldn't be doing,

551
00:26:15.120 --> 00:26:17.120
things that led him down some dark roads

552
00:26:18.660 --> 00:26:21.240
that hurt a lot of people, and I was one of those people

553
00:26:21.240 --> 00:26:24.500
because that was the only family that I had ever known.

554
00:26:25.280 --> 00:26:27.460
I was practically no contact with my origin family.

555
00:26:27.460 --> 00:26:29.260
My brother had already lost his mind.

556
00:26:29.260 --> 00:26:31.660
He was homeless out on the street somewhere.

557
00:26:33.180 --> 00:26:36.740
I was in a terrible marriage with an emotionally

558
00:26:36.740 --> 00:26:39.760
and verbally and spiritually abusive person,

559
00:26:41.220 --> 00:26:44.980
and I only had one refuge, and that was that church building

560
00:26:44.980 --> 00:26:46.700
and the women that were in it,

561
00:26:47.900 --> 00:26:50.460
and then in one day, we call it Black Tuesday,

562
00:26:50.460 --> 00:26:55.460
the door shut, the truth was revealed,

563
00:26:56.140 --> 00:26:59.060
and everyone scattered in different directions.

564
00:26:59.060 --> 00:27:01.020
You know how the Bible says that they scatter

565
00:27:01.020 --> 00:27:02.260
like sheep without a shepherd?

566
00:27:02.260 --> 00:27:03.180
That's real.

567
00:27:03.180 --> 00:27:04.340
I saw that happen.

568
00:27:05.420 --> 00:27:07.460
People that had been best friends

569
00:27:07.460 --> 00:27:08.820
weren't talking to each other anymore.

570
00:27:08.820 --> 00:27:10.780
Everyone was scared of their own shadow.

571
00:27:10.780 --> 00:27:12.540
No one knew what to believe.

572
00:27:12.540 --> 00:27:14.540
It was a very, very scary time,

573
00:27:14.540 --> 00:27:16.660
and in the midst of that time, you guys,

574
00:27:16.660 --> 00:27:20.740
I made a decision that I had to move forward.

575
00:27:20.740 --> 00:27:22.900
I didn't know what I was gonna do.

576
00:27:22.900 --> 00:27:24.100
I had two jobs.

577
00:27:24.100 --> 00:27:26.740
I was an insurance broker in the morning and during the day,

578
00:27:26.740 --> 00:27:28.540
and at night, I was moonlighting

579
00:27:28.540 --> 00:27:31.900
at this pizza pub place serving tables,

580
00:27:33.260 --> 00:27:35.020
and it's during this season that the man

581
00:27:35.020 --> 00:27:38.140
that's now my husband moved in next door to me.

582
00:27:38.140 --> 00:27:39.220
I'm going through a divorce.

583
00:27:39.220 --> 00:27:40.140
I'm scared.

584
00:27:42.900 --> 00:27:44.480
I'm working two jobs.

585
00:27:45.480 --> 00:27:47.440
I have a little five-year-old daughter,

586
00:27:48.880 --> 00:27:51.000
and then one day, you guys, I'm at the pizza place.

587
00:27:51.000 --> 00:27:52.080
Here's the question.

588
00:27:54.760 --> 00:27:56.600
I was going through, I will say this too.

589
00:27:56.600 --> 00:27:58.760
I was going through what people call a nervous breakdown,

590
00:27:58.760 --> 00:28:00.200
a mental breakdown.

591
00:28:00.200 --> 00:28:02.640
I had lots and lots of anxiety,

592
00:28:04.160 --> 00:28:05.760
lots of fear, lots of depression,

593
00:28:05.760 --> 00:28:07.640
all kinds of things happening,

594
00:28:07.640 --> 00:28:10.800
and so these guys walk in, and they sit down in my section,

595
00:28:10.800 --> 00:28:12.040
and I recognize one of them.

596
00:28:12.040 --> 00:28:14.280
One of them's my new neighbor,

597
00:28:15.080 --> 00:28:16.800
and at that point, I was just Reagan's mom

598
00:28:16.800 --> 00:28:18.440
because he also had a daughter,

599
00:28:18.440 --> 00:28:19.680
and she played with my daughter,

600
00:28:19.680 --> 00:28:23.040
and so hey, Reagan's mom asked if I could do this.

601
00:28:23.040 --> 00:28:23.880
Can I do this?

602
00:28:23.880 --> 00:28:26.160
I'm Reagan's mom, Reagan's mom, Reagan's mom,

603
00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:27.320
and he sits down in the booth

604
00:28:27.320 --> 00:28:29.360
with another guy that I don't know,

605
00:28:30.840 --> 00:28:33.560
and they're in my section on purpose.

606
00:28:33.560 --> 00:28:34.400
They came.

607
00:28:34.400 --> 00:28:35.220
They asked for me.

608
00:28:35.220 --> 00:28:38.480
They sat there, and I went over,

609
00:28:38.480 --> 00:28:39.320
and I started serving them,

610
00:28:39.320 --> 00:28:40.520
and I was really nervous, you guys.

611
00:28:40.520 --> 00:28:42.760
I was nervous because this is my neighbor,

612
00:28:42.760 --> 00:28:45.280
and he is kind of cute, but that's really not why,

613
00:28:45.280 --> 00:28:47.720
but I was just like, uh, you know, they're here,

614
00:28:47.720 --> 00:28:50.740
and I'm in just like the worst season of my life, right,

615
00:28:53.040 --> 00:28:55.700
and I know that I'm just not mentally there,

616
00:28:55.700 --> 00:28:57.400
and I'm not mentally well,

617
00:28:57.400 --> 00:28:58.840
and I'm also not physically well.

618
00:28:58.840 --> 00:29:00.520
I'm skin and bones.

619
00:29:00.520 --> 00:29:03.920
I'm barely weighing in at 125 pounds at five foot 10.

620
00:29:03.920 --> 00:29:06.040
Wearing a size double zero,

621
00:29:07.800 --> 00:29:09.160
just wasting away,

622
00:29:10.720 --> 00:29:11.680
and I'm sitting there,

623
00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:14.360
and this dude that he has with him,

624
00:29:14.360 --> 00:29:15.880
I don't know him,

625
00:29:15.880 --> 00:29:18.340
and he doesn't do any small talk.

626
00:29:18.340 --> 00:29:19.440
I mean, a little bit of like,

627
00:29:19.440 --> 00:29:20.600
oh, hey, this is my neighbor.

628
00:29:20.600 --> 00:29:23.320
This is Reagan's mom, Jackie, blah, blah, blah.

629
00:29:23.320 --> 00:29:24.760
I take their order,

630
00:29:24.760 --> 00:29:26.520
and the next time I come back to the table,

631
00:29:26.520 --> 00:29:28.040
this dude hits me with,

632
00:29:28.040 --> 00:29:30.240
hey, can I ask you a question?

633
00:29:30.240 --> 00:29:32.280
Where are you gonna be a year from today?

634
00:29:33.520 --> 00:29:34.640
Excuse me, sir?

635
00:29:36.120 --> 00:29:38.240
Excuse me, stranger at my table?

636
00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:39.560
What?

637
00:29:39.600 --> 00:29:43.120
Where are you going to be a year from today?

638
00:29:43.120 --> 00:29:45.920
Now, he didn't hear anything from my neighbor about me.

639
00:29:45.920 --> 00:29:47.540
My neighbor didn't know anything about me,

640
00:29:47.540 --> 00:29:51.160
didn't know what was going on in my life, didn't know me.

641
00:29:51.160 --> 00:29:53.480
This guy comes out with,

642
00:29:53.480 --> 00:29:55.220
where do you wanna be a year from today?

643
00:29:55.220 --> 00:29:57.240
Where are you gonna be a year from today?

644
00:29:57.240 --> 00:29:58.960
Where do you think you're gonna be?

645
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:07.360
And you guys, that question hit me right in between the eyes.

646
00:30:07.360 --> 00:30:09.520
I believe that it was a God-timed question.

647
00:30:09.520 --> 00:30:13.060
Looking back now, it was the question that changed everything for me.

648
00:30:13.060 --> 00:30:14.800
It's not a question that is unknown.

649
00:30:14.800 --> 00:30:16.800
It's not a question that you've never been asked before.

650
00:30:16.800 --> 00:30:20.400
It's not a question that you don't even ask yourself.

651
00:30:20.400 --> 00:30:22.480
It's not a profound question.

652
00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:32.120
It was a question that was timed perfectly for me to receive.

653
00:30:32.120 --> 00:30:34.420
And I don't even remember what I said, you guys.

654
00:30:34.420 --> 00:30:35.420
I don't.

655
00:30:35.420 --> 00:30:37.020
I don't remember what I said back to him.

656
00:30:37.020 --> 00:30:40.080
But I do know this.

657
00:30:40.080 --> 00:30:43.760
It didn't leave me.

658
00:30:43.760 --> 00:30:48.600
David was quiet, but his friend was not at all.

659
00:30:48.600 --> 00:30:53.240
And then, you know, back to pizza and chatting with them, and I spilled the popcorn, a whole

660
00:30:53.240 --> 00:30:55.080
bunch of funny things happened.

661
00:30:55.080 --> 00:30:57.040
But that question didn't leave me.

662
00:30:57.040 --> 00:31:01.680
And I'm going to ask you that question right now as well.

663
00:31:01.680 --> 00:31:06.440
Where are you going to be this time next year?

664
00:31:06.440 --> 00:31:10.840
June 20th.

665
00:31:10.840 --> 00:31:11.840
I don't know, you guys.

666
00:31:11.840 --> 00:31:16.160
Is today the first day of summer?

667
00:31:16.160 --> 00:31:17.800
Or is it tomorrow or the next day?

668
00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:19.000
I don't know.

669
00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:27.800
June 20th, next year, 2027, where are you going to be?

670
00:31:27.800 --> 00:31:29.560
Maybe this is a better way to ask it.

671
00:31:29.560 --> 00:31:34.120
If nothing changes in your life over the next 12 months, what will still be hurting you

672
00:31:34.120 --> 00:31:35.120
a year from now?

673
00:31:35.120 --> 00:31:36.120
Debt?

674
00:31:36.120 --> 00:31:45.960
You're going to still be in debt, still be lonely, still be struggling with the thing

675
00:31:46.120 --> 00:31:48.880
that you see in the mirror when you look at yourself?

676
00:31:48.880 --> 00:31:51.760
Your weight?

677
00:31:51.760 --> 00:31:53.720
Not being able to wear clothes that you like?

678
00:31:53.720 --> 00:31:57.200
You guys, that was a huge problem for me when I went into menopause.

679
00:31:57.200 --> 00:32:02.320
You know, some people might think that's superficial, but it really, really bothered me that I wasn't

680
00:32:02.320 --> 00:32:07.360
able to wear the clothes in my closet, because I already told you that I really like clothes.

681
00:32:07.360 --> 00:32:13.040
I'm a very creative person, and that is one of the mediums of creativity for me, is clothing.

682
00:32:13.040 --> 00:32:17.120
It really bothered me that I wasn't only not able to wear the clothes in my closet,

683
00:32:17.120 --> 00:32:23.120
but I wasn't able to actually buy clothes that I liked, clothes that I thought were

684
00:32:23.120 --> 00:32:27.800
beautiful or nice, and I couldn't do that because they just didn't make them in my size.

685
00:32:27.800 --> 00:32:31.640
Because remember, it's not so much that I was horribly overweight.

686
00:32:31.640 --> 00:32:38.480
I was probably only about 30 pounds, 40 pounds overweight, but I'm also really tall.

687
00:32:38.480 --> 00:32:39.840
I'm 5'10".

688
00:32:39.840 --> 00:32:42.600
So it's already hard to find clothes.

689
00:32:42.600 --> 00:32:48.720
And in order to find clothes, I have to be, you know, more ideal weight for those clothes,

690
00:32:48.720 --> 00:32:49.720
because they just don't make them.

691
00:32:49.720 --> 00:32:52.240
They don't have a big and tall women's shop.

692
00:32:52.240 --> 00:32:55.700
You guys know that, right?

693
00:32:55.700 --> 00:32:59.480
You can be big, but you can't be tall, and you can be tall, but you can't be big if you're

694
00:32:59.480 --> 00:33:00.480
a woman.

695
00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:02.160
Are you listening to me?

696
00:33:02.160 --> 00:33:04.400
Unless you just want to wear stretchy clothes.

697
00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:06.420
Now you can always wear yoga pants.

698
00:33:06.420 --> 00:33:08.920
You can find those, right?

699
00:33:09.920 --> 00:33:14.320
But you can be big, but you can't be tall, or you can be tall, but you can't be big.

700
00:33:14.320 --> 00:33:16.520
Because they make plus-size clothes for women, but guess what?

701
00:33:16.520 --> 00:33:19.800
They're made for short women.

702
00:33:19.800 --> 00:33:25.840
They're not made for tall women.

703
00:33:25.840 --> 00:33:30.080
And I've gone to every store, so don't tell me that they do have it, because they don't.

704
00:33:30.080 --> 00:33:37.480
And the sizes that they start at when they have bigger clothes are way too big.

705
00:33:37.480 --> 00:33:38.760
So that bothered me, you guys.

706
00:33:38.760 --> 00:33:42.800
You put me in pain, and you might think that, oh, well, Jackie, I got worse pain than that.

707
00:33:42.800 --> 00:33:45.520
Well, yeah, so did I.

708
00:33:45.520 --> 00:33:48.720
But let's not judge each other's pain or each other's hurt.

709
00:33:48.720 --> 00:33:51.920
Where are you going to be hurting a year from now if nothing changes?

710
00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:55.960
Your lack of purpose, your singleness, your loneliness, some health issue that you're

711
00:33:55.960 --> 00:33:58.480
dealing with, your weight, fear, debt?

712
00:33:58.480 --> 00:33:59.480
What is it?

713
00:33:59.480 --> 00:34:01.040
Put it in the chat.

714
00:34:01.040 --> 00:34:02.040
Identify it.

715
00:34:02.040 --> 00:34:03.040
We're not going to fix it right now.

716
00:34:03.040 --> 00:34:04.040
We're just going to identify it.

717
00:34:04.040 --> 00:34:07.920
Put it up.

718
00:34:08.080 --> 00:34:16.080
I'm trying to help y'all.

719
00:34:16.080 --> 00:34:19.360
Yeah, I know which one you're talking about, Michelle, and it's actually for transgender

720
00:34:19.360 --> 00:34:23.199
men, just so you know.

721
00:34:23.199 --> 00:34:29.320
That store in California is for men that are transgender women.

722
00:34:29.320 --> 00:34:30.639
That's why they make those big clothes.

723
00:34:30.639 --> 00:34:34.520
And once again, they're not going to fit a woman who's tall.

724
00:34:34.520 --> 00:34:38.520
Their dimensions are made differently.

725
00:34:38.520 --> 00:34:49.320
Come on, you guys, put it up.

726
00:34:49.320 --> 00:34:50.320
Let's go.

727
00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:51.320
Let's go.

728
00:34:51.320 --> 00:34:52.320
Let's go.

729
00:34:52.320 --> 00:34:58.600
You guys really get honest.

730
00:34:58.600 --> 00:35:00.040
If nothing changes.

731
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:19.520
And once again, you guys, I can't tell you why that question hit me so hard that day

732
00:35:19.520 --> 00:35:22.960
because it's not an abnormal question.

733
00:35:22.960 --> 00:35:27.880
And I'm sure that I had heard similar questions or even asked myself similar questions before.

734
00:35:27.880 --> 00:35:30.860
But timing matters and this might be your timing today.

735
00:35:30.860 --> 00:35:32.480
This might be your day.

736
00:35:32.480 --> 00:35:36.400
The day that I was at the pizza pub and I was asked that question today might have a

737
00:35:36.400 --> 00:35:46.560
very similar spiritual impact for you because what I know is, is that sometimes it just

738
00:35:46.560 --> 00:35:48.760
takes one day to wake us up.

739
00:35:48.760 --> 00:35:55.800
And for me, it was that day because something shifted in me.

740
00:35:55.800 --> 00:35:59.520
I realized that I could not still be standing in the same place a year later.

741
00:35:59.520 --> 00:36:04.640
I couldn't, I couldn't have the same jobs.

742
00:36:04.640 --> 00:36:07.040
At the time I was hemming and hawing about my divorce.

743
00:36:07.040 --> 00:36:10.560
I wasn't sure if I would go through with it or not, but I knew in that moment that I could

744
00:36:10.560 --> 00:36:14.340
not be in the same marriage that I had been in for the last 12 years that I had literally

745
00:36:14.340 --> 00:36:17.240
tried to get out of every year for 12 years.

746
00:36:17.240 --> 00:36:19.440
I couldn't be making the same excuses.

747
00:36:19.440 --> 00:36:23.140
I couldn't be dealing with the same misery.

748
00:36:23.140 --> 00:36:24.600
Something rose up inside of me.

749
00:36:24.880 --> 00:36:30.400
You call it faith, call it hope, call it grace, call it whatever you want, maybe all three.

750
00:36:30.400 --> 00:36:33.400
But for the first time, I didn't just know the answer.

751
00:36:33.400 --> 00:36:40.840
I knew the answer was no, I will not still be here.

752
00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:44.920
I want you to close your eyes and see if that feeling is rising up inside of you for whatever

753
00:36:44.920 --> 00:36:53.520
it is that you just put in the chat.

754
00:36:53.520 --> 00:36:57.240
The perfect time to have this conversation at Father's Day weekend, because I really

755
00:36:57.240 --> 00:37:03.480
do believe that a lot of us are where we are because of the lack of father leadership.

756
00:37:03.480 --> 00:37:05.560
You could have had a dad, but he was busy working.

757
00:37:05.560 --> 00:37:06.560
He was always gone.

758
00:37:06.560 --> 00:37:08.440
I talked to a young lady yesterday.

759
00:37:08.440 --> 00:37:13.440
She said, yeah, my parents were still married, but my father was never home.

760
00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:14.440
He owned his own business.

761
00:37:14.440 --> 00:37:15.440
He was always gone.

762
00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:16.700
He was never available.

763
00:37:16.700 --> 00:37:22.840
He wasn't part of our lives in any kind of real, meaningful way.

764
00:37:22.840 --> 00:37:26.840
You could have had a dad, but you didn't get that leadership.

765
00:37:26.840 --> 00:37:28.200
Your dad didn't give you advice.

766
00:37:28.200 --> 00:37:32.200
He didn't give you inheritance, and I don't just mean leaving you money in a will when

767
00:37:32.200 --> 00:37:33.200
he passed.

768
00:37:33.200 --> 00:37:42.320
I mean, inheritance now, spiritual inheritance during your life, walking you forward, telling

769
00:37:42.320 --> 00:37:43.840
you truth.

770
00:37:43.840 --> 00:37:45.840
A lot of our parents weren't actualized.

771
00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:47.060
They didn't know a lot of things.

772
00:37:47.060 --> 00:37:50.160
They came from generations where you didn't dig deep.

773
00:37:50.160 --> 00:37:51.840
You didn't do hard work.

774
00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:53.440
They were living very surface lives.

775
00:37:53.440 --> 00:37:59.640
They had all kinds of stuff going on underneath the surface of them that they never bothered

776
00:37:59.640 --> 00:38:07.280
to look into because they didn't know they were allowed to, amen?

777
00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:11.880
I believe that most of us had parents that even if they were not parents that were good,

778
00:38:11.880 --> 00:38:16.160
even if they were abusive in some way, they probably were doing the best they had with

779
00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:21.120
what they, the knowledge that they had, the healing that they had, but you know what were

780
00:38:21.120 --> 00:38:25.260
a whole different generation and we know, but I've seen people that grew up with really

781
00:38:25.260 --> 00:38:30.320
good dads, dads that were emotionally available, physically available, financially available,

782
00:38:30.320 --> 00:38:33.120
and those people are thriving in life.

783
00:38:33.120 --> 00:38:38.720
And I used to sit in the place of the scornful, even after I became a believer where I would,

784
00:38:38.720 --> 00:38:42.320
even if I loved those people, even if they were my good friends inside, I wouldn't feel

785
00:38:42.320 --> 00:38:44.480
jealous of them, but I would feel angry.

786
00:38:44.480 --> 00:38:48.420
I would feel angry that, hey, why did they have such a good start in life?

787
00:38:48.420 --> 00:38:51.860
And if I had had a good start in life, I would be where they are too.

788
00:38:51.860 --> 00:38:53.500
I would have married a good person.

789
00:38:53.500 --> 00:38:55.820
I would be successful.

790
00:38:55.820 --> 00:38:58.540
I would have gone and I would have finished college.

791
00:38:58.540 --> 00:39:01.580
I would, I would have fulfilled my dreams.

792
00:39:01.580 --> 00:39:04.420
I wouldn't have dropped out of basketball.

793
00:39:04.420 --> 00:39:06.540
By the way, I was a really good basketball player.

794
00:39:06.540 --> 00:39:12.260
I probably could have gone pro.

795
00:39:12.260 --> 00:39:16.900
I definitely could have gotten a scholarship for college, but you know what?

796
00:39:16.900 --> 00:39:18.300
I didn't have family support.

797
00:39:18.300 --> 00:39:21.220
I didn't have parental support.

798
00:39:21.220 --> 00:39:22.660
I didn't have what you need at home.

799
00:39:22.660 --> 00:39:26.660
And I know we hear all kinds of stories about people who grow up in homeless shelters and

800
00:39:26.660 --> 00:39:30.460
they still go NBA, they still go pro, they still become some great athletes.

801
00:39:30.460 --> 00:39:32.540
Yeah, those stories are few and far between.

802
00:39:32.540 --> 00:39:36.920
There's a lot more stories of people like me that were athletically gifted that could

803
00:39:36.920 --> 00:39:42.980
have done something with that, that didn't because they didn't have any support at home.

804
00:39:42.980 --> 00:39:48.140
In fact, I was homeless in my high school years.

805
00:39:48.140 --> 00:39:51.540
Cowsurfing, living with some random boyfriend that I had.

806
00:39:51.540 --> 00:39:57.060
Okay, so the bottom line is, is that we all have circumstances that kept us from doing

807
00:39:57.060 --> 00:39:59.980
something great back then.

808
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.600
but it doesn't mean that our lives are over.

809
00:40:01.600 --> 00:40:03.400
It doesn't mean that we can't do something great,

810
00:40:03.400 --> 00:40:04.800
but I used to really envy

811
00:40:04.800 --> 00:40:06.760
and used to really feel kind of angry

812
00:40:06.760 --> 00:40:10.120
towards people who had that good, stable home life,

813
00:40:10.120 --> 00:40:13.720
that had that good father.

814
00:40:15.920 --> 00:40:17.200
Yeah, mother's important too,

815
00:40:17.200 --> 00:40:19.520
but we're talking about father right now

816
00:40:19.520 --> 00:40:21.880
because father is the one that gives you identity.

817
00:40:21.880 --> 00:40:25.000
Father is the one that creates the stability for the home.

818
00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:27.120
If the father isn't stable, then guess what?

819
00:40:27.120 --> 00:40:29.000
The mother is not gonna be either.

820
00:40:30.920 --> 00:40:32.080
She's gonna be running around

821
00:40:32.080 --> 00:40:33.880
wearing a thousand different hats.

822
00:40:35.120 --> 00:40:36.160
And even if she loves you,

823
00:40:36.160 --> 00:40:37.760
and even if she tries her hardest,

824
00:40:37.760 --> 00:40:42.320
it's still not gonna be enough without that father.

825
00:40:46.360 --> 00:40:47.600
I really hope by the end of this call

826
00:40:47.600 --> 00:40:49.520
that you decide to really release these people,

827
00:40:49.520 --> 00:40:51.400
release your father.

828
00:40:51.400 --> 00:40:53.120
We might even do the father's blessing.

829
00:40:53.120 --> 00:40:54.520
David does that.

830
00:40:54.520 --> 00:40:57.840
We might even think about doing that here this coming week.

831
00:40:58.840 --> 00:41:00.920
But here's where we get stuck, you guys.

832
00:41:00.920 --> 00:41:02.560
I heard the question.

833
00:41:02.560 --> 00:41:05.280
I knew the answer was no, I can't still be here.

834
00:41:07.400 --> 00:41:09.040
But I couldn't just want change.

835
00:41:09.040 --> 00:41:10.600
I couldn't just pray for change.

836
00:41:10.600 --> 00:41:12.000
I'd already been praying for change.

837
00:41:12.000 --> 00:41:13.840
That's probably why this guy showed up in my booth

838
00:41:13.840 --> 00:41:17.200
at the pizza parlor and asked me a supernatural question.

839
00:41:17.200 --> 00:41:18.480
I can't just talk about change.

840
00:41:18.480 --> 00:41:19.920
We can't just think about change.

841
00:41:19.920 --> 00:41:21.520
We also can't play victim where,

842
00:41:21.520 --> 00:41:23.760
oh yeah, well, I would be able to do this

843
00:41:23.760 --> 00:41:25.640
if I had a better childhood.

844
00:41:25.640 --> 00:41:26.920
I would have been able to do this

845
00:41:27.520 --> 00:41:29.360
if I wasn't in an abusive marriage.

846
00:41:29.360 --> 00:41:31.720
I could do this if I didn't have this health condition

847
00:41:31.720 --> 00:41:32.960
or this situation.

848
00:41:32.960 --> 00:41:35.160
You guys, we can make excuses all day long.

849
00:41:37.720 --> 00:41:38.560
We can.

850
00:41:39.680 --> 00:41:41.920
But I promise you for whatever excuse you have,

851
00:41:41.920 --> 00:41:46.920
you can Google who overcame this thing in their life

852
00:41:47.720 --> 00:41:49.400
and you can put whatever it is in there.

853
00:41:49.400 --> 00:41:51.240
You guys, there's a dude right now

854
00:41:51.240 --> 00:41:52.600
and I'm sure you've seen him.

855
00:41:52.600 --> 00:41:56.080
He doesn't have any arms or legs.

856
00:41:56.080 --> 00:41:58.720
He was born as a torso, okay?

857
00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:01.280
Seriously.

858
00:42:01.280 --> 00:42:02.120
His name's Nick.

859
00:42:02.120 --> 00:42:02.960
He's a Christian.

860
00:42:02.960 --> 00:42:03.920
He's a believer.

861
00:42:03.920 --> 00:42:05.800
He was born as a torso, y'all.

862
00:42:05.800 --> 00:42:06.640
That's all he has.

863
00:42:06.640 --> 00:42:07.480
He's just a torso.

864
00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:08.320
You're like, what?

865
00:42:08.320 --> 00:42:10.080
I'm like, yes, yes.

866
00:42:10.080 --> 00:42:13.520
He has no extremities, none.

867
00:42:14.640 --> 00:42:17.200
And this dude is a multimillionaire,

868
00:42:17.200 --> 00:42:22.200
motivational speaker, Christian leader, influencer.

869
00:42:22.680 --> 00:42:23.960
He's climbed mountains.

870
00:42:23.960 --> 00:42:25.440
He's swam oceans.

871
00:42:25.480 --> 00:42:27.440
He's done triathlon things.

872
00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:29.680
He's married to a hot baddie woman.

873
00:42:29.680 --> 00:42:31.560
I don't know, y'all.

874
00:42:31.560 --> 00:42:32.520
Make it make sense.

875
00:42:32.520 --> 00:42:35.800
He had babies, so apparently he's got plumbing

876
00:42:35.800 --> 00:42:37.160
even though he doesn't have legs

877
00:42:37.160 --> 00:42:38.760
and praise the Lord for that.

878
00:42:41.280 --> 00:42:42.280
I just wanna let you guys know,

879
00:42:42.280 --> 00:42:43.120
I know a lot of men

880
00:42:43.120 --> 00:42:45.000
and they would much rather be born without legs

881
00:42:45.000 --> 00:42:46.120
than without a penis.

882
00:42:48.640 --> 00:42:50.880
Okay, I'm just gonna tell you that right now.

883
00:42:56.320 --> 00:42:57.840
What would Supernatural Saturday be

884
00:42:57.840 --> 00:43:00.560
without a little bit of off-color commentary

885
00:43:00.560 --> 00:43:01.800
from Jackie Dorman?

886
00:43:03.720 --> 00:43:05.720
Because you guys, God has a sense of humor.

887
00:43:05.720 --> 00:43:08.000
I just wanna let you know that.

888
00:43:08.000 --> 00:43:08.840
He does.

889
00:43:08.840 --> 00:43:09.800
That's why we have humor.

890
00:43:09.800 --> 00:43:11.360
We've been created in his image.

891
00:43:11.360 --> 00:43:12.200
All right.

892
00:43:13.240 --> 00:43:14.600
So you guys, I just wanna let you know

893
00:43:14.600 --> 00:43:16.360
that change will never happen

894
00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:17.920
because you feel like it.

895
00:43:17.920 --> 00:43:21.400
So whatever your feelings are telling you against change,

896
00:43:21.400 --> 00:43:23.160
they don't have the final vote.

897
00:43:24.400 --> 00:43:25.240
They don't.

898
00:43:26.360 --> 00:43:27.880
Because feelings can't change you

899
00:43:27.880 --> 00:43:29.960
and feelings can't keep you from changing

900
00:43:31.000 --> 00:43:32.080
unless you let them.

901
00:43:34.720 --> 00:43:37.720
I was waiting for some huge supernatural shift in my life.

902
00:43:37.720 --> 00:43:39.000
I was waiting to be rescued.

903
00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:41.280
And if you are waiting to be rescued still right now,

904
00:43:41.280 --> 00:43:42.560
you guys, I wanna let you know

905
00:43:42.560 --> 00:43:46.040
that you were already rescued on a rugged cross

906
00:43:47.120 --> 00:43:48.920
and that rescue is finished.

907
00:43:48.920 --> 00:43:50.040
You already have a hero.

908
00:43:50.040 --> 00:43:51.120
You're not looking for a hero.

909
00:43:51.120 --> 00:43:53.880
Ladies, you're not looking for your husband, the hero,

910
00:43:53.880 --> 00:43:57.000
to ride in your knight in shining armor.

911
00:43:57.000 --> 00:43:58.160
That should be your first clue.

912
00:43:58.160 --> 00:44:00.640
Shining armor means dude hasn't been to battle.

913
00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:03.960
We don't want shining armor.

914
00:44:03.960 --> 00:44:05.800
We want beat up bloody armor.

915
00:44:08.440 --> 00:44:10.680
But we're not looking for a hero, you guys.

916
00:44:12.560 --> 00:44:13.400
We're not.

917
00:44:13.400 --> 00:44:16.320
And gentlemen, you're not waiting for a woman to show up

918
00:44:16.320 --> 00:44:20.720
and to nag you into doing what you know you're supposed to do.

919
00:44:22.120 --> 00:44:23.280
You don't need a mommy.

920
00:44:23.680 --> 00:44:25.320
You're not waiting for a mommy to show up

921
00:44:25.320 --> 00:44:29.120
in the version of your wife to mother you

922
00:44:31.200 --> 00:44:34.400
and to make you take your vitamins

923
00:44:35.560 --> 00:44:38.440
and not get on the roof in the middle of an electric storm.

924
00:44:39.560 --> 00:44:42.160
My husband the other day, I'm like,

925
00:44:42.160 --> 00:44:43.800
what are we doing right now, bro?

926
00:44:44.760 --> 00:44:47.720
Why are you on a metal ladder in the storm?

927
00:44:47.720 --> 00:44:48.600
What are we doing?

928
00:44:50.440 --> 00:44:52.840
I firmly believe that God looked at Adam in the garden

929
00:44:53.400 --> 00:44:55.320
and said, this guy's not gonna make it.

930
00:44:57.320 --> 00:44:59.320
I'm gonna need to give him a help, mate.

931
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.800
with a little more common sense.

932
00:45:08.500 --> 00:45:09.700
There's a reason why, friends,

933
00:45:09.700 --> 00:45:11.900
the Darwin Award is only handed out to men.

934
00:45:15.760 --> 00:45:17.240
For those of you that don't know what that is,

935
00:45:17.240 --> 00:45:18.880
that is award that they used to give

936
00:45:18.880 --> 00:45:20.960
for someone who died in the most

937
00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:25.520
uncommon sense way.

938
00:45:31.000 --> 00:45:33.840
They basically removed themselves from the gene pool

939
00:45:33.840 --> 00:45:36.240
is why it's called the Darwin Award.

940
00:45:37.320 --> 00:45:39.320
And it's mostly given out to young men,

941
00:45:39.320 --> 00:45:40.400
as you can imagine.

942
00:45:40.400 --> 00:45:42.120
And every time I see a young man

943
00:45:42.120 --> 00:45:44.220
going 110 miles an hour on the freeway,

944
00:45:44.220 --> 00:45:46.040
on his motorcycle, doing a wheelie,

945
00:45:46.040 --> 00:45:48.940
I'm like, dear Jesus, this is why you created women.

946
00:45:51.960 --> 00:45:53.600
Somewhere in that young man's life,

947
00:45:53.600 --> 00:45:54.720
there's a woman that says,

948
00:45:54.720 --> 00:45:57.520
you're gonna kill yourself, stop it.

949
00:45:57.520 --> 00:45:58.360
And guess what?

950
00:45:58.360 --> 00:45:59.760
In that moment, I am that woman

951
00:46:00.520 --> 00:46:01.360
because I'm praying for that young man.

952
00:46:01.360 --> 00:46:04.280
I'm like, Lord, please give this young man some sense.

953
00:46:04.280 --> 00:46:05.760
Please don't let him die today.

954
00:46:05.760 --> 00:46:06.840
Please wake him up.

955
00:46:06.840 --> 00:46:07.880
Please help him.

956
00:46:08.960 --> 00:46:10.040
And that's why, gentlemen,

957
00:46:10.040 --> 00:46:11.880
you have wives and mothers and sisters,

958
00:46:11.880 --> 00:46:13.080
one of the main reasons.

959
00:46:16.520 --> 00:46:18.720
Comedic commentary done.

960
00:46:18.720 --> 00:46:21.020
Let's get back to serious business.

961
00:46:21.020 --> 00:46:22.080
You're not gonna wake up one day

962
00:46:22.080 --> 00:46:24.240
and magically feel disciplined, okay, friends?

963
00:46:24.240 --> 00:46:25.480
You're not gonna wake up one day

964
00:46:25.480 --> 00:46:26.960
and suddenly wanna go to the gym.

965
00:46:26.960 --> 00:46:29.660
I promise you that's probably not gonna happen.

966
00:46:30.460 --> 00:46:31.300
You're not gonna wake up one day

967
00:46:31.300 --> 00:46:32.620
when you've been a spender, spender, spender,

968
00:46:32.620 --> 00:46:35.260
McSpender and decide that you want a budget.

969
00:46:35.260 --> 00:46:36.940
You're not gonna crave a budget

970
00:46:36.940 --> 00:46:40.100
like you crave a Big Mac and fries from McDonald's.

971
00:46:40.100 --> 00:46:41.620
And don't tell me you don't eat at McDonald's

972
00:46:41.620 --> 00:46:43.580
because there's a reason McDonald's is still open.

973
00:46:43.580 --> 00:46:45.100
Somebody's eaten there.

974
00:46:49.740 --> 00:46:51.420
You're not going to.

975
00:46:51.420 --> 00:46:52.420
You're not gonna crave a budget.

976
00:46:52.420 --> 00:46:55.300
You guys, I do Simbis premarital coaching

977
00:46:55.300 --> 00:46:57.140
and one of the sections is financial

978
00:46:57.140 --> 00:46:59.640
and it's like, do you have a budget?

979
00:47:00.480 --> 00:47:02.280
And some people are like, what's a budget?

980
00:47:02.280 --> 00:47:03.840
And other people are like,

981
00:47:03.840 --> 00:47:05.800
yeah, I thought about it one time.

982
00:47:09.480 --> 00:47:10.880
You're not gonna crave it.

983
00:47:13.040 --> 00:47:15.800
Especially if you're used to living in debt,

984
00:47:15.800 --> 00:47:17.160
all your credit cards are maxed out,

985
00:47:17.160 --> 00:47:18.200
you live off your credit cards,

986
00:47:18.200 --> 00:47:19.240
you pay the minimum balance.

987
00:47:19.240 --> 00:47:22.720
Look, if you're a minimum balance payer, mm-mm, baby.

988
00:47:24.040 --> 00:47:27.000
Mm-mm, that's a trap.

989
00:47:27.000 --> 00:47:28.300
You're never getting out.

990
00:47:30.000 --> 00:47:31.520
And you're like, Jackie, what do you know about it?

991
00:47:31.520 --> 00:47:33.600
I know everything about it, friend.

992
00:47:36.160 --> 00:47:39.200
I was sent to live in a girl's home by my family.

993
00:47:39.200 --> 00:47:40.800
I lived in foster homes.

994
00:47:40.800 --> 00:47:42.080
I couch surfed.

995
00:47:43.280 --> 00:47:45.920
I smoked dirty cigarette butts off the street

996
00:47:45.920 --> 00:47:47.800
that other people left behind.

997
00:47:47.800 --> 00:47:50.520
I scrounged around for change in couches

998
00:47:52.120 --> 00:47:54.040
to buy said cigarettes.

999
00:47:54.040 --> 00:47:56.620
I did all of that, okay?

1000
00:47:57.140 --> 00:48:02.140
I sold kids' lunches in the coat room.

1001
00:48:04.900 --> 00:48:07.700
I sold snacks from kids' lunches in the coat room

1002
00:48:07.700 --> 00:48:11.260
because my mom, my single mom didn't pack me lunch.

1003
00:48:11.260 --> 00:48:13.120
I know all about it.

1004
00:48:13.120 --> 00:48:15.280
I know about it as a believer.

1005
00:48:15.280 --> 00:48:17.740
I mean, I started knowing Jesus when I was 22 years old

1006
00:48:17.740 --> 00:48:19.860
and I worked several jobs at the same time

1007
00:48:19.860 --> 00:48:21.580
and still didn't have enough money

1008
00:48:23.300 --> 00:48:26.360
to pay rent, live life.

1009
00:48:27.080 --> 00:48:28.480
There was never anything extra.

1010
00:48:29.320 --> 00:48:30.780
My former husband was in college.

1011
00:48:30.780 --> 00:48:31.620
We were kids.

1012
00:48:31.620 --> 00:48:33.480
I know all about it.

1013
00:48:33.480 --> 00:48:35.680
I know about the poverty of divorce.

1014
00:48:35.680 --> 00:48:38.080
I know about child support that's never enough.

1015
00:48:38.080 --> 00:48:40.400
I know about strained relationships.

1016
00:48:40.400 --> 00:48:41.240
I know about it.

1017
00:48:41.240 --> 00:48:44.720
I have, listen, I have a little bit of experience

1018
00:48:44.720 --> 00:48:46.280
in pretty much anything and everything

1019
00:48:46.280 --> 00:48:48.560
you could ever want me to have experience in.

1020
00:48:52.760 --> 00:48:54.760
But we also have an advocate, a high priest

1021
00:48:54.760 --> 00:48:56.960
that understands all of our weaknesses,

1022
00:48:56.960 --> 00:48:58.920
all of our frailties, all of our fears,

1023
00:48:58.920 --> 00:49:02.040
all of our pains, and his name is Jesus Christ.

1024
00:49:03.120 --> 00:49:04.520
And he is interceding for you

1025
00:49:04.520 --> 00:49:06.800
at the right hand of the father.

1026
00:49:06.800 --> 00:49:07.640
What does that mean?

1027
00:49:07.640 --> 00:49:09.440
He wants you to make it.

1028
00:49:09.440 --> 00:49:10.900
And he doesn't want you to make it

1029
00:49:10.900 --> 00:49:14.240
by the hair of your chitty chin chin, menopausal ladies.

1030
00:49:14.240 --> 00:49:16.080
He wants you to make it

1031
00:49:20.560 --> 00:49:24.160
with flying colors, amen?

1032
00:49:24.200 --> 00:49:26.200
Because you may not have had an earthly father

1033
00:49:26.200 --> 00:49:27.280
that gave you an inheritance,

1034
00:49:27.280 --> 00:49:30.600
but you have a heavenly father that gave you an inheritance.

1035
00:49:33.080 --> 00:49:34.280
You are fathered.

1036
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:38.080
And the proof of that is Jesus Christ.

1037
00:49:40.040 --> 00:49:41.280
So you're not gonna wake up one day

1038
00:49:41.280 --> 00:49:43.380
and suddenly feel courageous.

1039
00:49:44.880 --> 00:49:46.120
You're not gonna wake up one day

1040
00:49:46.120 --> 00:49:48.720
and be excited about the difficult conversations

1041
00:49:48.720 --> 00:49:51.360
that you know you need to have with someone.

1042
00:49:51.360 --> 00:49:52.760
Because some of you, that's what's in your way.

1043
00:49:52.760 --> 00:49:55.460
You got some relationships that are holding you back.

1044
00:49:56.920 --> 00:49:58.280
And you've let them hold you back

1045
00:49:58.280 --> 00:50:00.280
for years and years and years and years.

1046
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:14.880
Guys, after I married David, I had a dream and in that dream, I was telling this spiritual

1047
00:50:14.880 --> 00:50:20.040
leader in my life about all the amazing things that I thought God had called me and David

1048
00:50:20.040 --> 00:50:23.480
to, everything that I wanted to do, everything I was hoping for.

1049
00:50:23.480 --> 00:50:27.580
And he looked at me in that dream and they said, do you know the one thing that you lack?

1050
00:50:27.580 --> 00:50:28.580
And then I woke up.

1051
00:50:29.580 --> 00:50:32.560
He said, that's great, Jackie, you're going to accomplish all these things, but you lack

1052
00:50:32.560 --> 00:50:33.560
one thing.

1053
00:50:33.560 --> 00:50:34.720
Do you want to know what it is?

1054
00:50:34.720 --> 00:50:35.720
Yes.

1055
00:50:35.720 --> 00:50:36.720
Yes.

1056
00:50:36.720 --> 00:50:37.720
Tell me.

1057
00:50:37.720 --> 00:50:38.720
I woke up.

1058
00:50:38.720 --> 00:50:39.720
I'm like, no.

1059
00:50:39.720 --> 00:50:43.840
What's the answer?

1060
00:50:43.840 --> 00:50:44.840
And Holy Spirit said, discipline.

1061
00:50:44.840 --> 00:50:45.840
Immediately.

1062
00:50:45.840 --> 00:50:51.040
As soon as I woke up and I was like, oh, I was like, what was it?

1063
00:50:51.040 --> 00:50:53.000
Holy Spirit was like, discipline.

1064
00:50:53.000 --> 00:50:55.060
The one thing that you lack is discipline.

1065
00:50:55.060 --> 00:50:58.480
If you want these things that you said you wanted in this dream, you're going to have

1066
00:50:58.480 --> 00:51:02.040
to have a lot more discipline.

1067
00:51:02.040 --> 00:51:03.800
So friends, it's not God holding you back.

1068
00:51:03.800 --> 00:51:06.460
He wants these things for you more than you want them for yourself.

1069
00:51:06.460 --> 00:51:07.960
Whatever you put in the chat.

1070
00:51:07.960 --> 00:51:10.460
He doesn't want you to be broke and busted and disgusted.

1071
00:51:10.460 --> 00:51:12.200
He doesn't want that for you.

1072
00:51:12.200 --> 00:51:13.600
It doesn't give him any glory.

1073
00:51:13.600 --> 00:51:16.720
I know a lot of people think that your suffering brings God glory.

1074
00:51:16.720 --> 00:51:21.240
No, your victory brings God glory, not your suffering.

1075
00:51:21.240 --> 00:51:24.280
The Bible says that if we suffer with Christ, we can be resurrected with Christ.

1076
00:51:24.500 --> 00:51:25.700
We can be glorified with Christ.

1077
00:51:25.700 --> 00:51:27.260
A lot of us stop at the suffering part.

1078
00:51:27.260 --> 00:51:29.380
We're like, well, to be a Christian means to suffer.

1079
00:51:29.380 --> 00:51:30.380
We're going to suffer.

1080
00:51:30.380 --> 00:51:31.380
We're going to suffer.

1081
00:51:31.380 --> 00:51:35.360
Yeah, you're going to suffer just because the world is full of suffering.

1082
00:51:35.360 --> 00:51:36.780
But let's not stop there.

1083
00:51:36.780 --> 00:51:38.300
Let's be, let's get the victory.

1084
00:51:38.300 --> 00:51:39.300
Shall we get the victory?

1085
00:51:39.300 --> 00:51:42.780
I remember when I first married David, he said, Jackie, you just need to get the victory.

1086
00:51:42.780 --> 00:51:46.300
And I said, well, you know, I'm really not that comfortable with victory.

1087
00:51:46.300 --> 00:51:48.380
I really wasn't that comfortable with victory, you guys.

1088
00:51:48.380 --> 00:51:49.900
I didn't really know a lot about victory.

1089
00:51:49.900 --> 00:51:51.900
I knew a lot about suffering.

1090
00:51:52.040 --> 00:51:54.360
Some of you are sitting in that same place.

1091
00:51:54.360 --> 00:51:58.280
You know a lot about suffering, but you don't really know anything about victory.

1092
00:51:58.280 --> 00:51:59.280
You know what?

1093
00:51:59.280 --> 00:52:04.040
God wants to give you a PhD in victory for the last six months of 2026.

1094
00:52:04.040 --> 00:52:06.800
How about that?

1095
00:52:06.800 --> 00:52:10.500
Because it isn't God that's holding you back.

1096
00:52:10.500 --> 00:52:13.680
It might be religion, but it's not God.

1097
00:52:13.680 --> 00:52:15.600
It's not lack of permission.

1098
00:52:15.600 --> 00:52:21.600
Jesus's blood, that permission slip was signed in blood, friends.

1099
00:52:21.600 --> 00:52:23.140
You have permission to what?

1100
00:52:23.140 --> 00:52:26.500
To prosper, even as your soul prospers.

1101
00:52:26.500 --> 00:52:29.180
You have permission to excel.

1102
00:52:29.180 --> 00:52:31.440
You have permission to be well.

1103
00:52:31.440 --> 00:52:34.500
You have permission to enjoy and love your life.

1104
00:52:34.500 --> 00:52:37.740
You really do.

1105
00:52:37.740 --> 00:52:42.860
Why would anyone want to sign up for something, especially in the year 2026, with all the

1106
00:52:42.860 --> 00:52:46.300
conveniences and all the distractions?

1107
00:52:46.300 --> 00:52:51.300
Why would anyone want to sign up for something that was just all about hardship and suffering?

1108
00:52:52.000 --> 00:52:53.800
Do you think you're converting anyone?

1109
00:52:53.800 --> 00:52:57.600
Do you think your life is evangelistic?

1110
00:52:57.600 --> 00:53:10.880
Yeah, we're going to have hard times, but they're not supposed to all be hard times.

1111
00:53:10.880 --> 00:53:16.400
You guys, the thing that's holding up most of us back is the discipline to walk it out.

1112
00:53:16.400 --> 00:53:20.400
You can pray for that every single day because once the excitement wears off, once the motivation

1113
00:53:20.500 --> 00:53:27.780
of this call, the emotionalism of it wears off, when the progress is slow, and it probably

1114
00:53:27.780 --> 00:53:34.020
will be because that's what progress looks like most times, it looks like one step, two

1115
00:53:34.020 --> 00:53:43.220
steps, 10 steps forward, two steps back, one step, two step, 10 steps forward.

1116
00:53:43.220 --> 00:53:45.860
Where's the lack of discipline that you have?

1117
00:53:45.860 --> 00:53:46.940
Where's it costing you?

1118
00:53:46.940 --> 00:53:47.940
Just be honest.

1119
00:53:47.940 --> 00:53:48.940
There's no shame.

1120
00:53:48.940 --> 00:53:50.340
It's just awareness.

1121
00:53:51.280 --> 00:53:52.280
Where's it costing you?

1122
00:53:52.280 --> 00:53:53.280
Is it costing you in your finances?

1123
00:53:53.280 --> 00:53:54.280
Is it costing you in your health?

1124
00:53:54.280 --> 00:53:57.720
Is it costing you in your relationships?

1125
00:53:57.720 --> 00:53:58.720
Let's get real.

1126
00:53:58.720 --> 00:54:00.600
You guys, pain is an amazing motivator.

1127
00:54:00.600 --> 00:54:04.640
I'm thankful for pain because most of us will not get motivated until we're in it.

1128
00:54:04.640 --> 00:54:09.640
Wouldn't it be beautiful if we could be motivated without pain and struggle?

1129
00:54:09.640 --> 00:54:12.640
If we're just the kind of people that just wake up and be like, yeah, I'm going to conquer

1130
00:54:12.640 --> 00:54:13.640
this.

1131
00:54:13.640 --> 00:54:15.560
Yeah, I'm not in pain yet.

1132
00:54:15.560 --> 00:54:18.640
A lot of us even see the pain coming down the road.

1133
00:54:18.640 --> 00:54:21.020
We see the check engine light on the car.

1134
00:54:21.020 --> 00:54:22.780
It's on.

1135
00:54:22.780 --> 00:54:24.500
It's on.

1136
00:54:24.500 --> 00:54:28.460
But instead of allowing it to motivate us to change, we wait until we're broke down

1137
00:54:28.460 --> 00:54:29.460
on the side of the road.

1138
00:54:29.460 --> 00:54:32.980
Am I wrong?

1139
00:54:32.980 --> 00:54:36.660
I want to be wrong, but I know that we're not.

1140
00:54:36.660 --> 00:54:40.260
I know that I'm not.

1141
00:54:40.260 --> 00:54:44.580
And you guys, in the year 2026, the reason why pain is not motivating us the way that

1142
00:54:44.880 --> 00:54:49.720
it would have 20, 30 years ago is because we have a lot more things to medicate it now.

1143
00:54:49.720 --> 00:54:55.980
We've always had food to medicate it, which is why there's a lot of fat people.

1144
00:54:55.980 --> 00:54:59.680
Because food has always been there for us.

1145
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.660
It's always been there for us to medicate.

1146
00:55:03.660 --> 00:55:08.040
The sugar McSugars, they've been there for us for a long time.

1147
00:55:08.040 --> 00:55:09.420
But now we got all kinds of other things.

1148
00:55:09.420 --> 00:55:12.420
We got scrolling.

1149
00:55:12.420 --> 00:55:15.120
You guys, we got a devil in our pocket.

1150
00:55:15.120 --> 00:55:16.120
We do.

1151
00:55:16.120 --> 00:55:21.760
This demon of lack of discipline of scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, numb out,

1152
00:55:21.760 --> 00:55:23.960
numb out, numb out.

1153
00:55:23.960 --> 00:55:24.960
We have on-demand.

1154
00:55:24.960 --> 00:55:28.400
Remember, you guys, we all remember when you had to wait for a certain day and hour of

1155
00:55:28.400 --> 00:55:29.880
the week to watch your favorite show.

1156
00:55:29.880 --> 00:55:34.200
Now you can binge, binge, binge, binge, binge.

1157
00:55:34.200 --> 00:55:36.520
You guys, I believe it's all a plot of the enemy.

1158
00:55:36.520 --> 00:55:38.040
I just want to let you guys know that.

1159
00:55:38.040 --> 00:55:41.360
I know people are like, oh, beautiful technology, convenience.

1160
00:55:41.360 --> 00:55:42.360
This is amazing.

1161
00:55:42.360 --> 00:55:44.480
No, you guys, it's not amazing.

1162
00:55:44.480 --> 00:55:52.480
It's the enemy's plot to keep us stuck, scrolling, shopping online, getting more in debt, busy,

1163
00:55:52.480 --> 00:55:57.920
another hobby, another distraction, another excuse, anything except feeling the loneliness,

1164
00:55:57.960 --> 00:56:02.000
feeling the pull, the tug, the pressure, feeling it.

1165
00:56:02.000 --> 00:56:03.720
What do you do to avoid discomfort?

1166
00:56:03.720 --> 00:56:04.720
Put it in the chat right now.

1167
00:56:04.720 --> 00:56:05.720
We only have a few minutes left.

1168
00:56:05.720 --> 00:56:06.720
Is it food?

1169
00:56:06.720 --> 00:56:07.720
Is it social media?

1170
00:56:07.720 --> 00:56:08.720
Is it work?

1171
00:56:08.720 --> 00:56:09.720
Are you a workaholic?

1172
00:56:09.720 --> 00:56:11.240
But you're not getting ahead?

1173
00:56:11.240 --> 00:56:12.360
Maybe some of you have a lot of money.

1174
00:56:12.360 --> 00:56:16.760
You have a lot of money in the bank because all you do is work, work, work, work, work,

1175
00:56:16.760 --> 00:56:17.760
work, work.

1176
00:56:17.760 --> 00:56:20.400
You don't even enjoy your life.

1177
00:56:20.400 --> 00:56:21.440
I have a friend like that.

1178
00:56:21.440 --> 00:56:23.960
The other day I said to her, I was like, hey, let's go do this.

1179
00:56:23.960 --> 00:56:24.960
She goes, oh, that's too expensive.

1180
00:56:24.960 --> 00:56:26.320
I'm like, you have tons of money.

1181
00:56:26.320 --> 00:56:27.320
All you do is work.

1182
00:56:27.720 --> 00:56:30.440
When are you going to enjoy what you've been working for?

1183
00:56:30.440 --> 00:56:35.040
When are you going to enjoy your life, shopping, sleeping?

1184
00:56:35.040 --> 00:56:36.120
Some of you like to sleep.

1185
00:56:36.120 --> 00:56:37.720
Some of you still can sleep.

1186
00:56:37.720 --> 00:56:41.120
Some of you can still nap.

1187
00:56:41.120 --> 00:56:42.720
Are you kidding me right now?

1188
00:56:42.720 --> 00:56:43.720
What?

1189
00:56:43.720 --> 00:56:50.660
You guys, I want to, I tell you, I am, I have been personally envious of people who can

1190
00:56:50.660 --> 00:56:52.600
just sit down and fall asleep anywhere.

1191
00:56:52.600 --> 00:56:54.240
My husband's like that.

1192
00:56:54.240 --> 00:56:55.240
Sleep on a plane.

1193
00:56:55.240 --> 00:56:56.240
You can sleep on a train.

1194
00:56:56.240 --> 00:56:57.240
You can sleep.

1195
00:56:57.240 --> 00:56:59.560
You know, it's like the green eggs and ham book.

1196
00:56:59.560 --> 00:57:02.520
Green eggs and ham book.

1197
00:57:02.520 --> 00:57:04.200
Do you like them here or there?

1198
00:57:04.200 --> 00:57:05.200
He can sleep anywhere.

1199
00:57:05.200 --> 00:57:13.600
Meanwhile, I'm on a 16-hour flight just watching him snore and thinking that I want to suffocate

1200
00:57:13.600 --> 00:57:19.680
him in his sleep pretty much.

1201
00:57:19.680 --> 00:57:20.680
He's in the kitchen.

1202
00:57:20.680 --> 00:57:21.680
He just said, you're dumb.

1203
00:57:21.680 --> 00:57:22.680
All right.

1204
00:57:22.680 --> 00:57:23.680
Daydreaming.

1205
00:57:23.680 --> 00:57:24.680
Come on.

1206
00:57:25.680 --> 00:57:26.680
Let's see the medicators.

1207
00:57:26.680 --> 00:57:27.680
Let's go.

1208
00:57:27.680 --> 00:57:28.680
Dog videos.

1209
00:57:28.680 --> 00:57:29.680
Who was that?

1210
00:57:29.680 --> 00:57:30.680
Donna.

1211
00:57:30.680 --> 00:57:31.680
Donna's medicating herself with dog videos, y'all.

1212
00:57:31.680 --> 00:57:32.680
Love it.

1213
00:57:32.680 --> 00:57:33.680
Some of you, some of you are not putting out the truth.

1214
00:57:33.680 --> 00:57:34.680
Put it out.

1215
00:57:34.680 --> 00:57:35.680
You're like, well, Jackie, I can't put porn in the chat.

1216
00:57:35.680 --> 00:57:36.680
No, you probably can't.

1217
00:57:36.680 --> 00:57:37.680
But you know what?

1218
00:57:37.680 --> 00:57:38.680
God sees and he knows where you're stuck, friend.

1219
00:57:38.680 --> 00:57:39.680
No judgment.

1220
00:57:39.680 --> 00:57:40.680
No judgment.

1221
00:57:40.680 --> 00:57:41.680
No judgment.

1222
00:57:41.680 --> 00:57:42.680
No judgment.

1223
00:57:42.680 --> 00:57:43.680
No judgment.

1224
00:57:43.680 --> 00:57:44.680
No judgment.

1225
00:57:44.680 --> 00:57:45.680
No judgment.

1226
00:57:45.680 --> 00:57:46.680
No judgment.

1227
00:57:46.680 --> 00:57:47.680
No judgment.

1228
00:57:47.680 --> 00:57:48.680
No judgment.

1229
00:57:48.680 --> 00:57:49.680
No judgment.

1230
00:57:49.680 --> 00:57:50.680
No judgment.

1231
00:57:50.680 --> 00:57:51.680
No judgment.

1232
00:57:51.680 --> 00:57:52.680
No judgment.

1233
00:57:52.680 --> 00:57:53.680
No judgment.

1234
00:57:53.680 --> 00:57:54.680
No judgment.

1235
00:57:54.680 --> 00:57:55.680
No judgment.

1236
00:57:55.680 --> 00:57:56.680
No judgment.

1237
00:57:56.680 --> 00:57:57.680
No judgment, no shame.

1238
00:57:57.680 --> 00:58:02.440
But there are people on this call that are medicating themselves with porn and masturbation.

1239
00:58:02.440 --> 00:58:05.960
And they're probably not going to put it in the chat, and that's okay.

1240
00:58:05.960 --> 00:58:08.680
But you can just go ahead and say it to the Lord right now.

1241
00:58:08.680 --> 00:58:11.060
Say, hey God, I need delivered from this.

1242
00:58:11.060 --> 00:58:13.800
I don't want to live this way anymore.

1243
00:58:13.800 --> 00:58:15.800
Come on.

1244
00:58:15.800 --> 00:58:20.040
And some woman was like, yeah.

1245
00:58:20.040 --> 00:58:21.320
It's probably that guy right there.

1246
00:58:21.320 --> 00:58:23.680
No, it's probably a girl, actually.

1247
00:58:24.680 --> 00:58:26.960
Women do porn, too, y'all.

1248
00:58:26.960 --> 00:58:28.440
Well, they don't just do porn.

1249
00:58:28.440 --> 00:58:30.160
I don't mean like they're porn stars.

1250
00:58:30.160 --> 00:58:35.480
They watch porn.

1251
00:58:35.480 --> 00:58:37.400
Women are addicted to masturbation, too.

1252
00:58:37.400 --> 00:58:39.880
Wow, this call just took a whole different turn.

1253
00:58:39.880 --> 00:58:40.880
Okay.

1254
00:58:40.880 --> 00:58:45.360
You guys, we have to feel the pain.

1255
00:58:45.360 --> 00:58:49.920
The pain of debt, the pain of being broke, the pain of going to bed with the pressure

1256
00:58:49.920 --> 00:58:54.200
of knowing that you can only make the minimum payment and you're never going to pay off

1257
00:58:54.200 --> 00:58:55.800
this debt.

1258
00:58:55.800 --> 00:58:58.980
The weight that you're carrying that doesn't belong on your body.

1259
00:58:58.980 --> 00:59:00.120
You don't want your pictures taken.

1260
00:59:00.120 --> 00:59:01.800
You're hiding behind people and pictures.

1261
00:59:01.800 --> 00:59:02.800
You're avoiding mirrors.

1262
00:59:02.800 --> 00:59:04.920
The pain of loneliness.

1263
00:59:04.920 --> 00:59:08.240
The pain of waking up every day and feeling like you don't have anything to look forward

1264
00:59:08.240 --> 00:59:09.240
to.

1265
00:59:09.240 --> 00:59:10.240
You guys, that's painful.

1266
00:59:10.240 --> 00:59:12.000
You're living the same day over and over again.

1267
00:59:12.000 --> 00:59:14.240
It's like that Groundhog Day movie.

1268
00:59:14.240 --> 00:59:18.660
But instead of numbing the pain, we have to feel it.

1269
00:59:18.700 --> 00:59:25.460
We have to let it teach us, motivate us, and not just motivate us for a minute, an invitation,

1270
00:59:25.460 --> 00:59:26.460
you guys.

1271
00:59:26.460 --> 00:59:31.180
So right now, whatever you answer the question with, where will you be this time last year?

1272
00:59:31.180 --> 00:59:32.300
I know we're going a little over.

1273
00:59:32.300 --> 00:59:33.300
I don't care.

1274
00:59:33.300 --> 00:59:37.140
I want you to tell me in the chat, where do you want to be this time next year?

1275
00:59:37.140 --> 00:59:38.140
Put it in the chat right now.

1276
00:59:38.140 --> 00:59:39.540
Where do you want to be a year from now?

1277
00:59:39.540 --> 00:59:40.540
Come on.

1278
00:59:40.540 --> 00:59:41.540
Get it up.

1279
00:59:41.540 --> 00:59:42.540
Get it up.

1280
00:59:42.540 --> 00:59:43.540
Don't put eight things.

1281
00:59:44.540 --> 00:59:48.660
have changed this time next year.

1282
00:59:48.660 --> 00:59:51.740
And I know everyone wants to be married, but you guys, some of you, that's not what you

1283
00:59:51.740 --> 00:59:52.740
should want.

1284
00:59:52.740 --> 00:59:57.380
I'm not saying that you don't want that and you shouldn't want it, but there's something

1285
00:59:57.380 --> 01:00:00.020
even bigger that you need to have changed in the next year.

1286
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.040
And if you don't have it change, you won't be married.

1287
01:00:03.040 --> 01:00:04.760
You're not ever gonna get married, actually,

1288
01:00:04.760 --> 01:00:05.920
unless you work on this thing.

1289
01:00:05.920 --> 01:00:06.760
It's like Jenga.

1290
01:00:06.760 --> 01:00:08.520
You have to pull this block out first.

1291
01:00:08.520 --> 01:00:09.680
You have to.

1292
01:00:09.680 --> 01:00:11.020
Because even if you did get married,

1293
01:00:11.020 --> 01:00:13.440
the whole thing is gonna fall down.

1294
01:00:13.440 --> 01:00:15.420
Because this is the thing.

1295
01:00:15.420 --> 01:00:16.520
This is the thing.

1296
01:00:16.520 --> 01:00:18.960
And some of you, this is the reason why

1297
01:00:18.960 --> 01:00:19.840
you're not married yet.

1298
01:00:19.840 --> 01:00:21.600
Because you refuse to work on this thing

1299
01:00:21.600 --> 01:00:22.600
or focus on this thing

1300
01:00:22.600 --> 01:00:24.940
because you just want the other payoff.

1301
01:00:24.940 --> 01:00:26.720
Marriage is almost a medicator for you.

1302
01:00:26.720 --> 01:00:28.320
You think it's gonna fix all your problems.

1303
01:00:28.320 --> 01:00:29.640
You think it's gonna make everything better,

1304
01:00:29.640 --> 01:00:31.680
but it's not going to.

1305
01:00:31.680 --> 01:00:33.640
Because these are the things that are screaming

1306
01:00:33.640 --> 01:00:35.880
at you in the face every day.

1307
01:00:35.880 --> 01:00:37.680
Trust me, you don't wanna get married broke.

1308
01:00:37.680 --> 01:00:39.400
You don't wanna get married desperately in debt.

1309
01:00:39.400 --> 01:00:41.720
You don't wanna get married with health problems

1310
01:00:41.720 --> 01:00:44.800
that you could fix just by diet and exercise,

1311
01:00:44.800 --> 01:00:46.200
by changing habits.

1312
01:00:46.200 --> 01:00:48.120
You don't wanna do that.

1313
01:00:53.440 --> 01:00:54.280
Come on, put it up.

1314
01:00:54.280 --> 01:00:55.560
Get honest with yourself.

1315
01:01:00.640 --> 01:01:03.520
Okay, now whatever you put in the chat,

1316
01:01:03.520 --> 01:01:05.480
I want you to work backward.

1317
01:01:05.480 --> 01:01:07.160
Come on, this is the work that you're gonna do tomorrow

1318
01:01:07.160 --> 01:01:09.160
if you show up for Sunday.

1319
01:01:09.160 --> 01:01:10.080
Show up for Sunday.

1320
01:01:10.080 --> 01:01:11.720
This is the work you're gonna do.

1321
01:01:13.220 --> 01:01:15.620
What would I have to think about myself right now

1322
01:01:15.620 --> 01:01:17.240
to make this true a year from now?

1323
01:01:17.240 --> 01:01:19.240
Who would I have to become?

1324
01:01:19.240 --> 01:01:21.760
What habits would I need to develop?

1325
01:01:21.760 --> 01:01:23.680
What thoughts would I need to stop thinking?

1326
01:01:23.680 --> 01:01:26.200
What thoughts would I need to start thinking?

1327
01:01:26.200 --> 01:01:28.500
What excuses would I have to stop making?

1328
01:01:30.640 --> 01:01:33.400
I'll make sure that I put this in both the men's

1329
01:01:33.400 --> 01:01:35.800
and the women's groups, these questions right here,

1330
01:01:35.800 --> 01:01:37.080
because I have them written down.

1331
01:01:37.080 --> 01:01:40.600
What would I need to do starting today,

1332
01:01:40.600 --> 01:01:42.500
this week, this month?

1333
01:01:43.600 --> 01:01:45.200
Because you guys know that your future,

1334
01:01:45.200 --> 01:01:48.540
a year from now is gonna be built by every day,

1335
01:01:48.540 --> 01:01:53.540
the next 365 days and the 24 hours in each of those days.

1336
01:01:55.040 --> 01:01:57.000
You have to do today well,

1337
01:01:57.000 --> 01:01:58.720
even when you don't feel like it.

1338
01:01:58.720 --> 01:02:00.280
That's how people become successful.

1339
01:02:00.280 --> 01:02:02.740
That's how people create change.

1340
01:02:02.740 --> 01:02:04.000
All right, go ahead.

1341
01:02:04.000 --> 01:02:05.680
We're gonna make a declaration.

1342
01:02:05.680 --> 01:02:08.080
Fill in the blank right now here in the chat.

1343
01:02:08.080 --> 01:02:11.400
One year from now, I will be blank.

1344
01:02:11.400 --> 01:02:15.040
Healthy, wealthy, free, debt-free.

1345
01:02:17.360 --> 01:02:18.200
You can put a weight.

1346
01:02:18.200 --> 01:02:20.260
You can put 125 pounds.

1347
01:02:20.260 --> 01:02:25.260
You can put disease-free, whatever it is.

1348
01:02:28.720 --> 01:02:30.200
Put it in.

1349
01:02:30.200 --> 01:02:33.480
Great credit, wealthy, healthy.

1350
01:02:33.480 --> 01:02:35.760
Come on, put it in, put it in, put it in, put it in,

1351
01:02:35.760 --> 01:02:37.400
put it in, put it in, put it in.

1352
01:02:42.520 --> 01:02:44.280
I like these.

1353
01:02:44.280 --> 01:02:45.840
And you guys, just because you're choosing this

1354
01:02:45.840 --> 01:02:47.000
doesn't mean you're not gonna get married.

1355
01:02:47.000 --> 01:02:48.240
I just wanna let you know that.

1356
01:02:48.240 --> 01:02:51.020
In fact, if you will focus on the most important thing,

1357
01:02:51.020 --> 01:02:52.640
the thing that is about to blow up,

1358
01:02:52.640 --> 01:02:54.600
the bomb that's about to go off in your life

1359
01:02:54.600 --> 01:02:55.820
and destroy your life,

1360
01:02:55.820 --> 01:02:57.680
if you will focus on the check engine light

1361
01:02:57.680 --> 01:02:58.760
that's on right now,

1362
01:02:58.760 --> 01:03:00.880
I promise you marriage will just be a bonus.

1363
01:03:00.880 --> 01:03:02.480
It'll be the gravy on top.

1364
01:03:03.520 --> 01:03:05.060
It'll be the cherry on top.

1365
01:03:06.520 --> 01:03:08.920
Some of you got the cart way before the horse.

1366
01:03:12.760 --> 01:03:15.580
All right, whatever you put in the chat just now,

1367
01:03:15.580 --> 01:03:17.080
everyone look at each other's.

1368
01:03:20.160 --> 01:03:21.840
I want you to fill in this blank now.

1369
01:03:21.840 --> 01:03:25.280
The first step I will take this coming week

1370
01:03:26.120 --> 01:03:29.280
to make this other declaration true is blank.

1371
01:03:29.280 --> 01:03:31.380
Not someday y'all, this week.

1372
01:03:31.380 --> 01:03:33.120
The first step that I will take this week,

1373
01:03:33.120 --> 01:03:34.720
because remember, you have the goal in mind

1374
01:03:34.720 --> 01:03:36.200
now you're walking backwards.

1375
01:03:36.200 --> 01:03:37.320
What are you gonna have to be?

1376
01:03:37.320 --> 01:03:39.000
Who are you, how are you gonna have to think?

1377
01:03:39.000 --> 01:03:40.700
What excuses do you have to stop making?

1378
01:03:40.700 --> 01:03:43.560
What's the first step that you're gonna take this week?

1379
01:03:44.880 --> 01:03:45.760
This week.

1380
01:03:50.120 --> 01:03:50.960
This week.

1381
01:03:56.060 --> 01:03:58.980
In a week you might want to ask yourself this question,

1382
01:03:58.980 --> 01:04:01.360
how do you really get cooler?

1383
01:04:01.360 --> 01:04:02.960
A great question.

1384
01:04:02.960 --> 01:04:05.920
You don't have to be right in front of your computer

1385
01:04:05.920 --> 01:04:08.860
to get cool cool cool woman power,

1386
01:04:08.860 --> 01:04:11.080
do you have to have like a cord?

1387
01:04:11.080 --> 01:04:12.700
What about liked one?

1388
01:04:12.700 --> 01:04:13.800
What about agreement?

1389
01:04:15.220 --> 01:04:17.080
Yeah, okay.

1390
01:04:17.080 --> 01:04:19.280
If you don't have it a hot Lincoln,

1391
01:04:19.280 --> 01:04:20.240
but you do have life security,

1392
01:04:20.240 --> 01:04:22.380
come on, jam in traffic

1393
01:04:22.380 --> 01:04:24.900
right now, this is how bad it's gotten.

1394
01:04:24.900 --> 01:04:26.780
They sell this thing and it's like a phone,

1395
01:04:26.780 --> 01:04:27.820
but it's not a phone.

1396
01:04:27.820 --> 01:04:29.720
Your emergency contacts can call it,

1397
01:04:29.720 --> 01:04:31.260
so you can use it as a phone,

1398
01:04:31.260 --> 01:04:33.300
but you can't text from it.

1399
01:04:33.300 --> 01:04:34.900
It works as a GPS.

1400
01:04:36.680 --> 01:04:38.740
You can't get on any type of social media with it.

1401
01:04:38.740 --> 01:04:40.640
You can't scroll the internet with it.

1402
01:04:41.540 --> 01:04:43.980
It's basically a phone and a GPS.

1403
01:04:43.980 --> 01:04:44.820
That's it.

1404
01:04:44.820 --> 01:04:49.820
All right, you guys are putting up some things.

1405
01:04:53.300 --> 01:04:54.460
Let's hold each other accountable

1406
01:04:54.460 --> 01:04:57.020
to the things that we would need to do this week

1407
01:04:57.020 --> 01:05:00.020
to be able to make the year from now.

1408
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.340
Now declaration, friends, God is for you.

1409
01:05:03.340 --> 01:05:04.740
He is with you.

1410
01:05:04.740 --> 01:05:10.180
I believe he asked me that question through that man that I did not know that day 20 years

1411
01:05:10.180 --> 01:05:15.200
ago, 20 years ago, because I promise you this, you guys, next year is going to come whether

1412
01:05:15.200 --> 01:05:16.740
you change or not.

1413
01:05:16.740 --> 01:05:20.780
Five years from now is going to come whether you change or not, 10, 15, 20 years is going

1414
01:05:21.780 --> 01:05:32.540
whether you change or not, but you can change and God is for you and he is with you and

1415
01:05:32.540 --> 01:05:39.820
you will change if you will just start doing these little actions of discipline.

1416
01:05:39.820 --> 01:05:42.180
Father God, we just thank you for your goodness and your love.

1417
01:05:42.180 --> 01:05:43.820
We're asking that you would seal this in.

1418
01:05:43.820 --> 01:05:49.900
That shift that happened to me 20 years ago, that day, that shift, yes, it wasn't easy.

1419
01:05:49.900 --> 01:05:51.160
It was painful.

1420
01:05:51.160 --> 01:05:53.300
It hurt to make those changes.

1421
01:05:53.300 --> 01:05:57.820
It was hard, but every step of the way you are with me and you continue to spur me on.

1422
01:05:57.820 --> 01:06:00.860
And so Lord, I declare right now that that will be true of each and every one of your

1423
01:06:00.860 --> 01:06:05.260
sons and daughters that are serious about, they don't want to be sick and tired anymore,

1424
01:06:05.260 --> 01:06:06.260
Lord.

1425
01:06:06.260 --> 01:06:07.500
They're sick and tired of being sick and tired.

1426
01:06:07.500 --> 01:06:08.660
They're ready for change.

1427
01:06:08.660 --> 01:06:11.620
They're ready for whatever it takes.

1428
01:06:11.620 --> 01:06:16.180
They're ready to do the work, Lord, in your grace and in your mercy, Lord, help them to

1429
01:06:16.180 --> 01:06:22.100
do today well and tomorrow well and the next day well until they are living in the beautiful

1430
01:06:22.100 --> 01:06:25.860
destiny that you created them to live in until they're living in the declaration that they

1431
01:06:25.860 --> 01:06:27.260
made today.

1432
01:06:27.260 --> 01:06:28.260
Let it be done.

1433
01:06:28.260 --> 01:06:31.520
So accelerate the process, Lord.

1434
01:06:31.520 --> 01:06:35.300
Help them to see that if they will put an effort, God, that you will take it the rest

1435
01:06:35.300 --> 01:06:36.300
of the way.

1436
01:06:36.300 --> 01:06:37.300
You will bless that effort.

1437
01:06:37.300 --> 01:06:41.380
You will multiply that effort and they will get where they're going a lot faster than

1438
01:06:41.380 --> 01:06:42.940
they ever dreamed possible.

1439
01:06:42.940 --> 01:06:43.940
In Jesus name.

1440
01:06:43.940 --> 01:06:44.940
Amen.

1441
01:06:44.940 --> 01:06:45.940
Love y'all.

1442
01:06:45.940 --> 01:06:45.940