WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.840 All right, gentlemen, Monday, June 22nd, Men's Heart Check-in. 2 00:00:06.840 --> 00:00:11.760 So we got started a little late, had to get Jackie started going on her other thing and 3 00:00:11.760 --> 00:00:12.760 welcome you guys. 4 00:00:12.760 --> 00:00:17.600 So we've just been chatting here, a couple of you guys, I'm going to share some, some, 5 00:00:17.600 --> 00:00:18.600 some wins. 6 00:00:18.600 --> 00:00:19.600 So go ahead. 7 00:00:19.600 --> 00:00:23.120 Christopher, I think you had a question and you were going to bring something to the table. 8 00:00:23.120 --> 00:00:25.120 So go ahead with that brother. 9 00:00:26.120 --> 00:00:31.560 Yeah, I am, I am about to go over the bridge and then I will have a golden signal. 10 00:00:31.560 --> 00:00:37.720 So sorry if I cut off in the next 30 seconds, but the, so yeah, I had a date, this is someone 11 00:00:37.720 --> 00:00:42.600 I met, end of April, we were starting to chat on Holi, the dating app. 12 00:00:42.600 --> 00:00:46.680 And we've had, I think this is date number seven. 13 00:00:46.680 --> 00:00:52.420 I'd have to go back and count, but we're getting at the end of kind of, end of June is going 14 00:00:52.420 --> 00:00:56.660 to be the two months, the 60 days. 15 00:00:56.660 --> 00:01:02.220 And so I was really starting to get to the point where I wanted to maybe talk about some 16 00:01:02.220 --> 00:01:09.020 of our pasts and just, just see some things that were still kind of up in the air about, 17 00:01:09.020 --> 00:01:10.020 you know, is this going to be a good match? 18 00:01:10.020 --> 00:01:14.080 Is this something, she's been really hesitant to like pull the trigger on anything more 19 00:01:14.080 --> 00:01:16.900 serious than just dating, which I'm fine with. 20 00:01:16.900 --> 00:01:21.100 You guys taught me good, slow, slow, steady. 21 00:01:21.100 --> 00:01:22.100 Don't go crazy. 22 00:01:22.100 --> 00:01:27.660 Don't be jumping into everything before it's time. 23 00:01:27.660 --> 00:01:32.980 And the question that came out after we had some deep conversations was she is feeling 24 00:01:32.980 --> 00:01:41.620 a bit intimidated about stepping into a relationship with someone who has had, who was happily 25 00:01:41.620 --> 00:01:42.620 married. 26 00:01:42.620 --> 00:01:47.580 My wife died just over nine years ago from cancer. 27 00:01:47.580 --> 00:01:53.580 And she just admitted to me that it's, she was feeling a little bit intimidated on what 28 00:01:53.580 --> 00:01:57.540 she has to offer someone with that kind of testimony. 29 00:01:57.540 --> 00:02:03.260 And we didn't really get much deeper into it because you know, it was, it was a tough 30 00:02:03.260 --> 00:02:08.020 topic and I didn't, uh, what I actually said during the moment, I said, Hey, I just want 31 00:02:08.020 --> 00:02:16.500 you to know I'm not shopping for a replacement and you are incredibly unique. 32 00:02:16.500 --> 00:02:19.020 And I, you know, I don't know if it makes you feel better, but you couldn't be more 33 00:02:19.020 --> 00:02:20.580 different than her. 34 00:02:20.580 --> 00:02:22.340 And I like you for you. 35 00:02:22.340 --> 00:02:28.500 So that's kind of where we left it, um, moved on to, to more fun things. 36 00:02:28.500 --> 00:02:35.660 So I don't know, that was the question I wanted to ask is like, is, how can I go forward if 37 00:02:35.660 --> 00:02:36.900 that, that is going to come up again? 38 00:02:36.900 --> 00:02:38.420 I know it is. 39 00:02:38.420 --> 00:02:41.620 So what is, did I handle it well? 40 00:02:41.620 --> 00:02:42.660 Should I handle it better? 41 00:02:42.660 --> 00:02:43.860 What can I do in the future? 42 00:02:43.860 --> 00:02:47.260 What step is appropriate for me to kind of go deeper into that? 43 00:02:47.260 --> 00:02:50.500 Cause I do have deeper stuff on that topic. 44 00:02:50.500 --> 00:02:57.300 What, what date was, um, remind me what meeting was this? 45 00:02:57.300 --> 00:02:58.780 What number is this? 46 00:02:58.780 --> 00:03:00.780 This is either six or seven. 47 00:03:00.780 --> 00:03:01.780 Oh, okay. 48 00:03:01.780 --> 00:03:07.700 So you're, you're, you're definitely in the really getting to know the person's stage. 49 00:03:07.700 --> 00:03:08.700 Yes. 50 00:03:08.700 --> 00:03:11.100 It wasn't like the first date or anything. 51 00:03:11.100 --> 00:03:12.900 No, no, no. 52 00:03:12.940 --> 00:03:13.940 Yeah. 53 00:03:13.940 --> 00:03:14.940 I know. 54 00:03:14.940 --> 00:03:23.620 I mean, I mean, as you're getting to know somebody, have you made an exclusive, um, 55 00:03:23.620 --> 00:03:26.460 situation with this person? 56 00:03:26.460 --> 00:03:31.660 I, and that's another thing that we kind of, I've kind of just brought it up and then it 57 00:03:31.660 --> 00:03:34.540 was kind of like, that's actually what led to the conversation. 58 00:03:34.540 --> 00:03:36.020 Cause I said, Oh, okay. 59 00:03:36.020 --> 00:03:37.020 I get it. 60 00:03:37.020 --> 00:03:41.420 What's that step between, you know, you're just dating and girlfriend, what's the difference? 61 00:03:41.420 --> 00:03:46.500 And it kind of led to that because that's, I'm trying to figure out, we, we are both 62 00:03:46.500 --> 00:03:50.660 exclusive with each other just out of happenstance and we decided to just keep it that way a 63 00:03:50.660 --> 00:03:52.220 couple of days ago. 64 00:03:52.220 --> 00:03:58.620 So, um, but no, there hasn't been like a, she's very hesitant on the girlfriend aspect 65 00:03:58.620 --> 00:03:59.620 for right. 66 00:03:59.620 --> 00:04:00.780 At least this is part of it. 67 00:04:00.780 --> 00:04:01.780 I don't know if it's all of it. 68 00:04:01.780 --> 00:04:06.920 The only exclusivity you're having is because right now you're just, you're just making 69 00:04:06.920 --> 00:04:10.340 time for just this connection for the moment. 70 00:04:10.340 --> 00:04:14.980 It's not like if you went out with somebody or she went out with somebody on a, like a 71 00:04:14.980 --> 00:04:19.220 date or she was just talking to somebody else for a second, it wouldn't be offensive to 72 00:04:19.220 --> 00:04:22.740 either of you because you really haven't made it some sort of like exclusive commitment 73 00:04:22.740 --> 00:04:24.660 to say, Hey, we're dating. 74 00:04:24.660 --> 00:04:30.700 You know, you really haven't had that definition of the relationship at this point, but I will 75 00:04:30.700 --> 00:04:40.820 say this, you know, yeah, I mean, obviously I think actually, I know it's with some commonality 76 00:04:40.820 --> 00:04:47.220 that there are other people that are widows and widowers, but I think at your age, especially 77 00:04:47.220 --> 00:04:51.180 being young, um, it's less common, right? 78 00:04:51.180 --> 00:04:55.660 So it's something definitely that's, I've been in that case is rather unique to the 79 00:04:55.660 --> 00:04:58.780 situation in your specific date story. 80 00:04:58.780 --> 00:05:00.020 You're dating in romantic. 81 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:04.560 Story, so it is very specific. Especially if the person is aware of 82 00:05:05.440 --> 00:05:07.440 The fact that you are a widower 83 00:05:08.600 --> 00:05:13.120 And whenever that came into the conversation or whatever it does, it's completely appropriate 84 00:05:13.120 --> 00:05:16.920 I don't think that she it doesn't sound like you spent a lot of time to dwell on it 85 00:05:16.920 --> 00:05:21.560 And then you just kind of moved on so you answer the question and moved on and it's kind of like 86 00:05:21.800 --> 00:05:26.800 Do I answer this question? Do I stay on this question? Is this a really deep topic to talk about? 87 00:05:27.640 --> 00:05:29.480 Probably not right now 88 00:05:29.600 --> 00:05:33.720 so it kind of sounds like you just kind of like did it because the question came up and 89 00:05:33.800 --> 00:05:36.520 Then you got off of it and then you enjoyed the rest of the night 90 00:05:36.520 --> 00:05:40.080 So it wasn't like it took over the the rest of the conversation 91 00:05:40.400 --> 00:05:44.040 but it was something that she just kind of needed to handle in the moment, which 92 00:05:45.040 --> 00:05:47.040 May or may not be 93 00:05:47.520 --> 00:05:49.520 I 94 00:05:50.640 --> 00:05:55.920 Think I think the timing of it is arbitrary in this case, you know, I don't think it was like 95 00:05:55.920 --> 00:05:58.640 Oh that was too soon or oh, she should have known that early 96 00:05:58.640 --> 00:06:00.080 You know, I don't think the timing was an issue 97 00:06:00.080 --> 00:06:06.000 I think it was just kind of like it was what it was and the question came up and you you handled it and it 98 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:07.120 didn't 99 00:06:07.120 --> 00:06:09.120 seem to cause an issue and 100 00:06:09.920 --> 00:06:11.920 It wasn't something that you had to 101 00:06:12.400 --> 00:06:14.400 Because I don't think 102 00:06:14.480 --> 00:06:19.480 Christopher I don't think that you want to sit there and like have a deep huge discussion on the set even on the 7th date 103 00:06:20.240 --> 00:06:22.280 about that topic like 104 00:06:22.880 --> 00:06:24.480 It's like that's for another time 105 00:06:24.480 --> 00:06:30.000 You know a deeper conversation seems like but it seems like you got on the question he answered it and went on 106 00:06:30.840 --> 00:06:35.080 So I'm I'm of two minds on it because I am trying to 107 00:06:35.880 --> 00:06:39.640 To follow the good advice that that the program has given me and what? 108 00:06:40.000 --> 00:06:46.280 Other people have given me and you guys have given me the because I do tend to go do too deep too soon 109 00:06:46.720 --> 00:06:53.480 It's just and I would be tempted to do the whole rollout and just let's talk about it 110 00:06:53.480 --> 00:06:56.080 Let's spend an hour. Let's yeah choke up 111 00:06:56.600 --> 00:06:58.440 but yeah, I 112 00:06:58.440 --> 00:07:03.760 do I sensed in the moment I need to let her talk if she wanted to and 113 00:07:04.400 --> 00:07:07.200 Bring up things and it seemed that 114 00:07:07.880 --> 00:07:11.600 You know at that moment. She wasn't quite ready to get 115 00:07:13.760 --> 00:07:15.760 Down old Chris and 116 00:07:16.520 --> 00:07:19.040 Proceeded and I think that was the right call. I think you're right 117 00:07:19.040 --> 00:07:24.920 yeah, I know I think I think it sounds like and considering that information as well because I can I can tell 118 00:07:25.400 --> 00:07:28.960 that's kind of like that doesn't surprise me you saying that like yeah, oh I 119 00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:36.640 Normally would go just hard into the paint on that conversation just because it's so deep with you 120 00:07:36.640 --> 00:07:40.920 It's so emotional. It's so near and dear and you just want somebody to know and 121 00:07:41.480 --> 00:07:46.480 I think you handled it correctly because it's like she should know sort of the short answer to that 122 00:07:46.480 --> 00:07:51.840 I guess because she was asking the question, but then at the same time, it's just like yeah in order for go 123 00:07:52.400 --> 00:07:57.800 Deep in that conversation. That's probably something that just needs to be rolled out over time and 124 00:07:59.840 --> 00:08:03.640 You know, most things are usually especially deep 125 00:08:05.600 --> 00:08:07.600 Serious harder questions 126 00:08:08.840 --> 00:08:11.080 most of those situations are 127 00:08:12.000 --> 00:08:17.440 Better as they roll out over time in pieces rather than all at once 128 00:08:18.160 --> 00:08:19.200 really 129 00:08:19.200 --> 00:08:23.920 Even even at any stage in the relationship, which I think it just helps 130 00:08:24.080 --> 00:08:29.840 there'll be obviously sometimes where you're just having some you getting to know this person and you're really deep in and 131 00:08:30.200 --> 00:08:33.000 Then you really have some strong heart-to-hearts about stuff 132 00:08:33.520 --> 00:08:39.080 But if everything is always a long heart-to-heart drag out like that can get really 133 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:46.160 Tiresome unless unless you're both the kind of people that love that and then it's kind of like, okay 134 00:08:46.160 --> 00:08:48.160 I don't necessarily know 135 00:08:49.320 --> 00:08:51.320 How that's gonna work out 136 00:08:53.480 --> 00:08:55.480 Much the same sometimes in that way 137 00:08:55.560 --> 00:09:01.840 Maybe it's then you're really gonna get caught up in the weeds. So but anyway, um at the same time, it's like yeah 138 00:09:01.840 --> 00:09:03.840 There's those things are usually 139 00:09:04.800 --> 00:09:08.720 Held better when they just kind of come out over time and 140 00:09:09.120 --> 00:09:13.960 Just let it kind of naturally come out rather than trying to solve all of the equation 141 00:09:14.520 --> 00:09:18.880 All in one sitting. Okay, that's that's a pretty heavy meal 142 00:09:19.680 --> 00:09:24.120 Yes, yeah, and that and yeah, she this is actually the first time 143 00:09:25.040 --> 00:09:27.040 she is so I 144 00:09:27.440 --> 00:09:29.760 Keep telling you play your cards real close to your chest 145 00:09:29.760 --> 00:09:36.120 Like I cannot I'm used to a lot of women pretty much every serious and even casual relationship 146 00:09:36.120 --> 00:09:42.160 I've had in the dating world. I know exactly what they're thinking because they've already told me five times. Yeah. Yes 147 00:09:42.200 --> 00:09:46.280 Yeah, this one. No, like there are times where my 148 00:09:47.000 --> 00:09:52.200 you know brain would spin out of control because I'm used to being completely secure with how happy they are and 149 00:09:52.400 --> 00:09:57.980 I had no idea and then we'd get on the next date after I freaked out for two days because I think she is like 150 00:09:57.980 --> 00:10:00.140 And then she's like, hey 151 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:03.840 You know, I just want to say, you know, I'm glad you're so thoughtful, and I'm really 152 00:10:03.840 --> 00:10:04.840 enjoying this. 153 00:10:04.840 --> 00:10:05.840 And I'm like, what the heck? 154 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:07.240 How did I read this so wrong? 155 00:10:07.240 --> 00:10:11.200 So she's just very and she admitted to me on the date. 156 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:12.200 On Saturday. 157 00:10:12.200 --> 00:10:20.220 She's just like, I'm not as good with expressing myself, as I feel like I should be. 158 00:10:20.220 --> 00:10:25.000 And like most women are and I'm like, all right, you know, that's some self awareness. 159 00:10:25.000 --> 00:10:29.960 So yeah, we did we did bring that up and and I'm feeling I'm feeling good about I mean, 160 00:10:30.520 --> 00:10:32.120 I can't good. 161 00:10:32.120 --> 00:10:34.560 I can't help but feel good about it. 162 00:10:34.560 --> 00:10:40.640 I wish we had you know, we could but that's me being old me. 163 00:10:40.640 --> 00:10:43.080 So we're gonna leave that one. 164 00:10:43.080 --> 00:10:48.040 Yeah, no, it sounds like it sounds like it's your pacing. 165 00:10:48.040 --> 00:10:49.160 Pretty good with that. 166 00:10:49.160 --> 00:10:51.480 I like that. 167 00:10:51.480 --> 00:10:53.440 Sounds like it's not too much. 168 00:10:53.440 --> 00:10:55.880 It's enough, but it's not too much. 169 00:10:55.880 --> 00:10:58.920 And it's by the necessity is she works. 170 00:10:58.920 --> 00:11:02.760 I met the only woman in the entire world that works more than I do. 171 00:11:02.760 --> 00:11:06.560 So what does she do? 172 00:11:06.560 --> 00:11:08.360 She is she's got two gigs. 173 00:11:08.360 --> 00:11:12.760 She is a marketing manager for Chick-fil-A, which is a big thing. 174 00:11:12.760 --> 00:11:17.560 And then she has a side gig training dogs just to try to make making ends meet in California. 175 00:11:17.560 --> 00:11:22.200 It's a lot of fun as a, you know, single income earner. 176 00:11:22.320 --> 00:11:24.920 She's definitely the queen of the hustle. 177 00:11:24.920 --> 00:11:26.600 I'll give her that. 178 00:11:26.600 --> 00:11:27.600 I can imagine. 179 00:11:27.600 --> 00:11:28.680 Wow. 180 00:11:28.680 --> 00:11:32.800 OK, yeah, no, that sounds really promising, Christopher. 181 00:11:32.800 --> 00:11:34.720 So I'm happy for you. 182 00:11:34.720 --> 00:11:36.880 And yeah, we'll see where that goes. 183 00:11:36.880 --> 00:11:42.200 Did you feel once you answer that question in the affirmative like, hey, no. 184 00:11:42.200 --> 00:11:43.880 Yeah, no, I'm not really. 185 00:11:43.880 --> 00:11:46.840 I can't remember exactly what her question was. 186 00:11:46.840 --> 00:11:48.000 The phrasing of it. 187 00:11:48.040 --> 00:11:49.920 How does she answer the question? 188 00:11:49.920 --> 00:11:53.840 Well, we were just sitting and kind of having a. 189 00:11:58.440 --> 00:12:02.920 Oh, you cut out question, what is the what is the difference between what we're doing 190 00:12:02.920 --> 00:12:05.880 now and being girlfriend, boyfriend, like, what does that look like? 191 00:12:05.880 --> 00:12:09.880 Because I didn't I guess I didn't really know in the moment. 192 00:12:09.880 --> 00:12:12.600 And she said, well. 193 00:12:13.800 --> 00:12:15.440 And I asked, what's your hesitance? 194 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:17.440 And and and she said. 195 00:12:19.520 --> 00:12:21.280 I just don't know. 196 00:12:21.280 --> 00:12:23.800 Like, it's intimidating. 197 00:12:23.800 --> 00:12:28.280 So, yeah, being in your life, knowing that you're a widower 198 00:12:28.280 --> 00:12:31.880 and what you've gone through and yeah, yeah, that's that's so less. 199 00:12:31.880 --> 00:12:35.160 Yeah, she just wants to know, like, where does she how does she compare? 200 00:12:35.160 --> 00:12:38.240 How does she stand with like what in your mind are you 201 00:12:39.000 --> 00:12:43.280 basically judging her against in terms of, 202 00:12:43.600 --> 00:12:50.920 you know, the the wife who has now passed? 203 00:12:50.920 --> 00:12:52.120 Yeah, so I can understand that. 204 00:12:52.120 --> 00:12:57.160 Yeah. And did you feel did you feel good about not not just how you answered it, 205 00:12:57.160 --> 00:13:01.600 but the fact that you answered it in the in in the way you did 206 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:03.960 and sort of cleared the air without having to go deep? 207 00:13:03.960 --> 00:13:06.480 Did you feel good, at least just. 208 00:13:06.480 --> 00:13:08.400 You know, bridging that. 209 00:13:08.840 --> 00:13:10.320 You know, I do. 210 00:13:10.320 --> 00:13:12.400 Are you glad that it came up, I guess, is what I'm saying. 211 00:13:12.400 --> 00:13:14.000 Yeah. Yes, absolutely. 212 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:16.320 And I do want to go deeper a bit. 213 00:13:16.560 --> 00:13:19.320 I kind of want to make sure that I put. 214 00:13:19.320 --> 00:13:24.160 And I've already said this, so I guess I shouldn't be so I just won't tell it. 215 00:13:24.160 --> 00:13:26.240 No, you are utterly unique. 216 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:28.240 And I am what I want to say. 217 00:13:28.240 --> 00:13:31.440 And I'm not going to because I think it's just too much at this point is. 218 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:37.280 Yeah, I am incredibly honored by the fact that I get to 219 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:39.960 the fact that I get to develop feelings for someone 220 00:13:40.120 --> 00:13:43.960 who is so vastly different than the one that I had before. 221 00:13:44.480 --> 00:13:50.760 Yeah. Yet I like she just has so many unique traits that I'm also attracted to. 222 00:13:50.760 --> 00:13:54.160 It's just weird how lucky am I that I found two different women 223 00:13:54.160 --> 00:13:56.840 in two different worlds that I actually am kind of falling for. 224 00:13:57.040 --> 00:13:59.680 But I don't want to go quite there yet. 225 00:13:59.680 --> 00:14:02.080 Yeah, yeah. No, that's that's that's probably pretty good. 226 00:14:02.720 --> 00:14:05.000 That's a little. Yeah. 227 00:14:05.280 --> 00:14:06.080 That's good. 228 00:14:06.080 --> 00:14:08.960 At some point, there'll be a moment where I think probably you can express that. 229 00:14:08.960 --> 00:14:11.720 So sounds like it was really. 230 00:14:11.720 --> 00:14:16.320 Well, it sounds like she's a slow mover and and staying, staying the course. 231 00:14:16.680 --> 00:14:21.120 Yes. Like just just like, you know, like David said, as it comes out, 232 00:14:21.640 --> 00:14:24.760 like offloading a shopping cart is just never fun. 233 00:14:24.760 --> 00:14:26.320 You know, but like a horse. 234 00:14:26.320 --> 00:14:28.680 I don't want to. Yeah. 235 00:14:30.280 --> 00:14:31.800 Well, it comes out naturally. 236 00:14:31.840 --> 00:14:32.840 It comes out naturally. 237 00:14:32.840 --> 00:14:35.760 It's so much better than like. 238 00:14:35.760 --> 00:14:38.960 Having a principles or whatever, like, you know, like, you know, 239 00:14:38.960 --> 00:14:42.000 like you want to keep it fun and keep it light and enjoyable. 240 00:14:42.400 --> 00:14:44.600 And if you're talking about a lot of different things, 241 00:14:44.600 --> 00:14:48.560 it can get really intense and heavy, right? Yeah. 242 00:14:50.160 --> 00:14:53.360 Yeah, the first many dates, I would say the first couple of months, 243 00:14:53.880 --> 00:14:56.480 you know, whether that's two or three or four dates 244 00:14:56.480 --> 00:15:00.080 or whether that ends up being like 12 or 15 dates, depending on. 245 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.280 on how available you each other are in the first several months 246 00:15:05.280 --> 00:15:07.960 of getting to know somebody, I would, I would, I feel like the 247 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:11.440 first three months or so is just, just a lot about just 248 00:15:11.480 --> 00:15:15.880 getting to know each other on a very like surface somewhat under 249 00:15:15.880 --> 00:15:20.200 the skin, maybe way, and just having lots of fun and enjoying, 250 00:15:20.480 --> 00:15:23.960 enjoying the company, enjoying just getting to know that whole 251 00:15:23.960 --> 00:15:31.160 flow, you know, and then you get into, um, and it's not a 252 00:15:31.160 --> 00:15:35.160 timeframe, it's just a sort of, you know, kind of like, you 253 00:15:35.160 --> 00:15:38.440 know, like you're feeling these guidelines to where it becomes 254 00:15:38.440 --> 00:15:41.280 like, at some point, you do define the relationship, you're 255 00:15:41.280 --> 00:15:44.240 like, hey, you know, I'm really into you seems like you're 256 00:15:44.240 --> 00:15:47.800 really into me. Um, we've been getting to get to know each 257 00:15:47.800 --> 00:15:49.760 other. This has been some great time. I've really been enjoying 258 00:15:49.760 --> 00:15:55.280 myself. I hope you have to, you know, it's probably, you know, 259 00:15:55.280 --> 00:15:59.840 I'd like to, I'd like to see you and talk to you exclusively, not 260 00:15:59.840 --> 00:16:03.360 that I was actually dating anybody else. But I just want to, 261 00:16:03.400 --> 00:16:05.840 you know, formally kind of make that make that way. And so at 262 00:16:05.840 --> 00:16:09.280 some point, I think, once you feel that strong about it, 263 00:16:09.280 --> 00:16:15.200 you're like, yeah, I'm willing to like, move this forward into 264 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:18.720 let's see the see where this goes. You know, are you ready 265 00:16:19.160 --> 00:16:24.400 in exclusive committed way? That's the differentiator. It's 266 00:16:24.400 --> 00:16:29.920 like, look, I, it's not that I was dating anybody. But before 267 00:16:29.920 --> 00:16:32.960 now, I feel like if I had went out with somebody else, it 268 00:16:32.960 --> 00:16:36.440 wouldn't have been a problem. But at this point, I want to let 269 00:16:36.440 --> 00:16:40.280 you know, I'm committed to seeing you exclusively at this 270 00:16:40.280 --> 00:16:43.160 point. And whatever you want to whatever label you want to put 271 00:16:43.160 --> 00:16:46.000 on that it's whatever but you know, the exclusivity is the 272 00:16:46.000 --> 00:16:49.000 point. And hopefully that person reciprocates in the same 273 00:16:49.000 --> 00:16:54.280 way. And this could be the guy or the girl saying this. I don't 274 00:16:54.320 --> 00:17:00.480 it's only, you know, you know, who's saying it. I'd probably 275 00:17:00.480 --> 00:17:02.880 like the guy to be leading in this. But I mean, I don't think 276 00:17:02.880 --> 00:17:06.560 it's wrong, either way. But at the same time, you want the 277 00:17:06.560 --> 00:17:12.280 feelings to be mutual. Yeah, and it doesn't have to be weird. And 278 00:17:12.280 --> 00:17:17.319 so as long as it's mutual, and you go levels, you know, you 279 00:17:17.319 --> 00:17:23.319 progress the relationship into a stage where now, um, you have 280 00:17:23.319 --> 00:17:26.440 the intention of like, hey, I'm really getting to know this 281 00:17:26.440 --> 00:17:30.920 person. They're my exclusive person that I'm dating. And 282 00:17:30.920 --> 00:17:35.880 we're a couple and we show up as a couple and, and at some point, 283 00:17:35.920 --> 00:17:38.800 we're probably going to get engaged, or possibly could 284 00:17:39.080 --> 00:17:45.000 get engaged. That's tomorrow. Maybe not for a little bit. 285 00:17:46.040 --> 00:17:50.440 And I think that's the mistake I might have made early is I told 286 00:17:50.440 --> 00:17:54.120 her I think date three, I said, Look, I'm not going to be 287 00:17:54.120 --> 00:17:57.840 dating anyone until I figure out what if this the two of us are 288 00:17:57.840 --> 00:18:02.560 gonna work. So that's just me. Didn't really say anything 289 00:18:03.120 --> 00:18:09.320 about it necessarily needed to be said. Yes. And, but I think 290 00:18:09.320 --> 00:18:12.440 maybe the idea that putting a label on it, maybe we're not 291 00:18:12.440 --> 00:18:15.640 there yet. But the whole showing up as a couple, I think that is 292 00:18:15.640 --> 00:18:18.440 the step that I'm like, okay, when does that happen? The fact 293 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:21.800 that we're still not at that point where everyone's going, 294 00:18:21.800 --> 00:18:24.240 wow, you've been dating this chick a lot. She doesn't want to 295 00:18:24.240 --> 00:18:27.560 show up to an event together. Like, okay, I'm feeling a bit 296 00:18:27.560 --> 00:18:30.360 better about the timeline now. Because I was kind of like, 297 00:18:31.200 --> 00:18:34.200 seeing that 60 days approach. And I'm like, should I are 298 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:39.720 something? There be a star or something? 299 00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:44.360 Yeah, no, it has to be it has to be reciprocal. I mean, you have 300 00:18:44.360 --> 00:18:48.520 to sort of like, you don't have to feel out like, I think she 301 00:18:48.520 --> 00:18:53.120 would probably say yes, if I if I pose this to her. And if you 302 00:18:53.120 --> 00:18:58.200 have any doubt, it's probably not the time of it. You know, so 303 00:18:58.200 --> 00:19:02.480 it's a timing issue. It's a timing thing. And these things 304 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:04.880 can actually surprisingly can happen more naturally than you 305 00:19:04.880 --> 00:19:08.160 think. I mean, they don't have to be, you know, formally 306 00:19:08.160 --> 00:19:10.880 exercised, like a document signing it, you know, type of 307 00:19:10.880 --> 00:19:14.560 thing. Yeah, it's just it's just like, it's just relational. 308 00:19:14.560 --> 00:19:15.400 That's all it is. 309 00:19:16.160 --> 00:19:21.800 But I guess I I'm feeling now. Okay, letting it walk out some 310 00:19:21.800 --> 00:19:25.800 more. Yeah, I just, I don't know why I try to put timelines on 311 00:19:25.800 --> 00:19:29.160 everything and like countdowns. I just always feel like I'm on 312 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:33.040 the back foot in that. And I guess that's my old, kind of my 313 00:19:33.040 --> 00:19:35.640 old unhealed stuff still coming up. That's why we keep doing 314 00:19:35.640 --> 00:19:36.440 hard work, folks. 315 00:19:36.880 --> 00:19:40.320 That's right. That is that is right. And again, I mean, it is 316 00:19:40.360 --> 00:19:43.280 because that's right. When you put a time frame on it, some 317 00:19:43.280 --> 00:19:46.040 people, you know, get weirded out, because they're really 318 00:19:46.040 --> 00:19:49.160 counting those days, other people, they need the timeframe, 319 00:19:49.160 --> 00:19:52.840 because it's like, bro, it's like, you know, if I don't give 320 00:19:52.840 --> 00:19:55.200 you a timeframe or give you a deadline, it's never gonna get 321 00:19:55.200 --> 00:19:58.880 done. So I mean, it's people go both ways. So yeah, don't let it 322 00:19:58.880 --> 00:20:00.000 be don't let it be 323 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:02.520 a distraction, the timing. 324 00:20:02.520 --> 00:20:07.120 Don't let that be a huge, big breaking point for you. 325 00:20:07.120 --> 00:20:10.120 Just kind of let it roll out as naturally as you can. 326 00:20:10.120 --> 00:20:10.960 I'm excited. 327 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:12.560 There's still discovery stuff to do. 328 00:20:12.560 --> 00:20:13.840 Sounds like you're more there than not. 329 00:20:13.840 --> 00:20:14.340 I do. 330 00:20:16.840 --> 00:20:17.340 Awesome. 331 00:20:17.340 --> 00:20:18.920 Yeah. 332 00:20:18.920 --> 00:20:20.200 All right, all right, good. 333 00:20:20.200 --> 00:20:21.680 Thank you, Christopher, for sharing. 334 00:20:21.680 --> 00:20:23.880 That's awesome. 335 00:20:23.880 --> 00:20:24.960 Who else is on here? 336 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:28.200 We've got Rodney, Tim, David, Blake, Christopher. 337 00:20:28.200 --> 00:20:30.600 And if you guys have anything else, 338 00:20:30.600 --> 00:20:35.280 I want to give everybody a chance to chime in. 339 00:20:35.280 --> 00:20:37.640 Do you have something to comment on Christopher's thing? 340 00:20:37.640 --> 00:20:38.720 That's fine if you do. 341 00:20:38.720 --> 00:20:40.220 But if you also have something else, 342 00:20:40.220 --> 00:20:45.200 you want to bring the table, question, comment, a win, 343 00:20:45.200 --> 00:20:47.560 something's going on in your life, go ahead. 344 00:20:47.560 --> 00:20:50.280 Yeah, I had a quick question. 345 00:20:50.280 --> 00:20:53.640 I just finished my hard work, and so I 346 00:20:53.640 --> 00:20:57.160 moved on to the next section. 347 00:20:57.160 --> 00:20:59.200 I love Accelerator. 348 00:20:59.200 --> 00:21:02.760 And Jackie was talking about kind of sending 349 00:21:02.760 --> 00:21:05.360 that mass text to friends. 350 00:21:05.360 --> 00:21:10.400 Is that something that the guys have been doing? 351 00:21:10.400 --> 00:21:12.400 Just kind of letting your friends 352 00:21:12.400 --> 00:21:16.160 know that you're single and ready to mingle and all that? 353 00:21:16.160 --> 00:21:18.800 Yeah, well, I mean, something we talk about in, I don't know, 354 00:21:18.800 --> 00:21:23.600 do you have the dating sex book? 355 00:21:23.600 --> 00:21:26.440 What was that? 356 00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:30.120 Do you have the Modern Dating Sucks book? 357 00:21:30.120 --> 00:21:34.200 No, I haven't got that one yet. 358 00:21:34.200 --> 00:21:37.800 OK, I mean, that's Jackie's latest book. 359 00:21:37.800 --> 00:21:42.280 The reason I'm bringing that up is because in the book, 360 00:21:42.280 --> 00:21:44.000 one of the things that she talks about 361 00:21:44.000 --> 00:21:51.320 is setting up sort of your relationship circle. 362 00:21:51.320 --> 00:21:54.880 And this is kind of like where you 363 00:21:54.880 --> 00:21:58.360 are letting your friends and your family and your people 364 00:21:58.360 --> 00:22:00.600 that you know and that you care about 365 00:22:00.600 --> 00:22:02.720 and people that care about you, yeah, 366 00:22:02.720 --> 00:22:07.840 letting them sincerely and just genuinely know, hey, 367 00:22:07.840 --> 00:22:09.040 I'm single. 368 00:22:09.040 --> 00:22:11.400 And if you know anybody that you feel 369 00:22:11.400 --> 00:22:15.920 like that you think I would be interested in meeting 370 00:22:15.920 --> 00:22:19.120 or they'd be interested in meeting me, I'm open to that. 371 00:22:19.120 --> 00:22:21.200 And I would really appreciate your help. 372 00:22:21.200 --> 00:22:24.400 And that because what we're promoting here 373 00:22:24.400 --> 00:22:29.120 is community-based matchmaking, which is exactly that. 374 00:22:29.120 --> 00:22:31.120 And unfortunately, the sense of community, 375 00:22:31.120 --> 00:22:34.640 the sense of solidarity among friends and family 376 00:22:34.640 --> 00:22:39.440 has been so degraded in our society 377 00:22:39.440 --> 00:22:42.600 that it's kind of rare sometimes to have to depend 378 00:22:42.600 --> 00:22:46.200 or can depend upon it because those groups sometimes just 379 00:22:46.200 --> 00:22:50.320 don't naturally occur as much anymore. 380 00:22:50.320 --> 00:22:52.760 Some people have really good friendships, 381 00:22:52.760 --> 00:22:57.520 and it just happens in the course of their community. 382 00:22:57.520 --> 00:23:03.160 But sometimes it requires a little bit of effort. 383 00:23:03.160 --> 00:23:07.760 And sending out the email or sending a note to friends 384 00:23:07.760 --> 00:23:10.960 and say, hey, I'm on this journey. 385 00:23:10.960 --> 00:23:13.240 I've been doing my hard work. 386 00:23:13.240 --> 00:23:14.400 This is you know me. 387 00:23:14.400 --> 00:23:15.680 You know where I've come from. 388 00:23:15.680 --> 00:23:16.600 You know my story. 389 00:23:16.600 --> 00:23:19.440 Maybe if you don't, here's a little bit of that. 390 00:23:19.440 --> 00:23:23.200 And help me. 391 00:23:23.200 --> 00:23:24.840 I'm ready to meet somebody. 392 00:23:24.840 --> 00:23:28.960 I really want to go about it the right way. 393 00:23:28.960 --> 00:23:30.760 I'm not trying to get married tomorrow. 394 00:23:30.760 --> 00:23:34.480 But at the same time, I really would love your input. 395 00:23:34.480 --> 00:23:36.440 And so. 396 00:23:36.440 --> 00:23:37.560 Yeah, a couple. 397 00:23:37.560 --> 00:23:41.320 Is there a template, kind of like a little template 398 00:23:41.320 --> 00:23:44.960 letter in the book? 399 00:23:44.960 --> 00:23:47.120 I'm trying to think. 400 00:23:47.120 --> 00:23:51.680 It's not like a visual in the book. 401 00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:55.160 But I'm trying to remember the copy that's in that chapter. 402 00:23:55.160 --> 00:23:58.240 Maybe like list these things in your letter. 403 00:23:58.240 --> 00:24:00.160 Yeah, I think there's. 404 00:24:00.160 --> 00:24:00.960 I could be wrong. 405 00:24:00.960 --> 00:24:04.080 I'll have to get a copy of that and double check. 406 00:24:04.080 --> 00:24:05.560 Matter of fact, I think I have one right here. 407 00:24:05.560 --> 00:24:07.120 Hold on. 408 00:24:07.120 --> 00:24:07.600 All right. 409 00:24:11.320 --> 00:24:12.240 You know, I turned. 410 00:24:13.120 --> 00:24:14.760 It was a lot harder than I thought. 411 00:24:14.760 --> 00:24:16.320 I turned several of my friends loose. 412 00:24:16.320 --> 00:24:19.200 I was like, hey, you know. 413 00:24:19.200 --> 00:24:20.880 And even some of my female friends. 414 00:24:20.880 --> 00:24:22.240 I'm like, hey, you know anybody? 415 00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:23.760 Like, that would be a good fit. 416 00:24:23.760 --> 00:24:26.160 Let's go, you know. 417 00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:28.160 Did you get, how did that go for you? 418 00:24:28.160 --> 00:24:28.720 Did you get? 419 00:24:28.720 --> 00:24:31.760 I've had a couple of setups. 420 00:24:31.760 --> 00:24:35.440 Neither of them have worked thus far. 421 00:24:35.440 --> 00:24:38.640 One, yeah. 422 00:24:38.640 --> 00:24:43.520 Yeah, you know, Jackie's like, you know, she corrected. 423 00:24:43.520 --> 00:24:46.480 She's like, you know, Mike, only like 3% of women are avoidant. 424 00:24:46.480 --> 00:24:48.680 And I'm like, well, I think I found them all. 425 00:24:52.000 --> 00:24:53.520 What was that? 426 00:24:53.520 --> 00:24:55.800 Only 3% of women are avoidant. 427 00:24:55.800 --> 00:24:58.640 And I'm like, I think I found all of them. 428 00:24:58.640 --> 00:25:00.400 All 3%. 429 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:10.040 Yeah, so to answer your question, Rodney, there's a part of the book where it's called 430 00:25:10.040 --> 00:25:14.960 activating your relationship advisory circle. Oh, okay. 431 00:25:14.960 --> 00:25:20.700 And in chapter four, she introduces the idea of this small group of people that you know 432 00:25:20.700 --> 00:25:24.280 well enough that, you know, to reach out and vouch for you and care for you and that kind 433 00:25:24.280 --> 00:25:30.040 of stuff. And then, but later on in the book, she outlines kind of like some of the things 434 00:25:30.040 --> 00:25:33.900 that you would want to share with your circle. Okay. 435 00:25:33.900 --> 00:25:38.220 And some of the details about that in order to give you sort of an outline to either write 436 00:25:38.220 --> 00:25:42.700 an email or write a letter or have a phone call or send a voicemail, whatever, whatever 437 00:25:42.700 --> 00:25:48.060 you want to do that lets them know and what you're looking for, because the book then 438 00:25:48.060 --> 00:25:52.500 takes has already at that point, because that's later in the book, the book has already taken 439 00:25:52.500 --> 00:26:03.540 you through a lot of the character values, faith, life direction, the emotional availability 440 00:26:03.540 --> 00:26:09.860 parts that what are already have outlined for yourself throughout the rest of the work 441 00:26:09.860 --> 00:26:13.300 in the book. And then, so you already have that because you've been through that part 442 00:26:13.300 --> 00:26:17.140 of the book. And then now it's just about assembling that information and then sharing 443 00:26:17.140 --> 00:26:22.980 that with your advisory circle. Okay. Yeah. That was going to be my next question 444 00:26:22.980 --> 00:26:30.380 is kind of like what and how much to share about what I'm looking for in a person. 445 00:26:30.380 --> 00:26:36.620 Well, your relationship advisory circle is usually anywhere from three to five people. 446 00:26:36.620 --> 00:26:40.580 It's not, it's not any more than that. It's not any less than that. You know, it's not 447 00:26:40.580 --> 00:26:45.100 like the whole world. So you're talking about a small group of people, a very specific group 448 00:26:45.100 --> 00:26:53.220 of people that know you well care about you that like, you know, in, in different ways, 449 00:26:53.220 --> 00:26:55.820 they could be family members, they could be friends, they could be coworkers, they could 450 00:26:55.820 --> 00:27:01.180 be gym partners, they could be business associates, but there are people that know and care about 451 00:27:01.180 --> 00:27:07.420 you and people that you trust, you know, not, not just random. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 452 00:27:07.420 --> 00:27:11.020 So you're going to get pretty detailed with them about what it is that you're sharing 453 00:27:11.020 --> 00:27:16.900 about, Hey, in my heart work, you know, these are a couple of things I learned about myself. 454 00:27:16.900 --> 00:27:21.940 I used to, and if you've known me for a long time, you probably known me to be whatever, 455 00:27:21.940 --> 00:27:25.660 whatever. And since I've been doing my heart work, some things have changed. My perspectives 456 00:27:25.660 --> 00:27:32.780 have changed for the better. And so kind of, this is kind of what I've learned about myself. 457 00:27:32.780 --> 00:27:38.940 So you can share some of that too. And that helps to give them an idea of kind of like, 458 00:27:38.940 --> 00:27:43.180 you know, Oh, okay. Rodney's really, you know, done some work and he's really ready 459 00:27:43.180 --> 00:27:50.780 to meet somebody. And then just them knowing that has a way of like, you know, being brought 460 00:27:50.780 --> 00:27:54.700 up in the memory. Like you'd ever know it might be going along a couple of weeks later 461 00:27:54.700 --> 00:28:00.380 and that triggers a thought in their head. And that's kind of how community bat match 462 00:28:00.380 --> 00:28:08.580 a community-based matchmaking works. Yeah. Yeah. So you're saying, cause I don't, 463 00:28:08.580 --> 00:28:15.620 you know, I, I don't know how specific to get on what I'm looking for. I'm not, you 464 00:28:15.620 --> 00:28:20.140 know, there's things that I know I want. I want a person that's kind person that loves 465 00:28:20.140 --> 00:28:25.660 the Lord person that has, you know, certain demeanor. But other than that, I don't feel 466 00:28:25.660 --> 00:28:30.420 like I have a whole lot of. Yeah. I mean, well that's, that's part of, again, that's 467 00:28:30.420 --> 00:28:36.660 part of the process of going through the difference between, you know, what are your, what are 468 00:28:36.660 --> 00:28:41.220 your non-negotiables? What are your preferences? Learning the difference between what non many 469 00:28:41.220 --> 00:28:44.900 people put up. Oh, I want this, this, and this. And they think it's a non-negotiable 470 00:28:44.900 --> 00:28:49.700 and it's not, it's actually a preference. And then other people put up other instances 471 00:28:49.700 --> 00:28:54.820 and they're like, Hey, I know you think that's a preference, but that's actually a non-negotiable 472 00:28:54.820 --> 00:28:58.620 because of this reason there are, you know, so your non-negotiables list is kind of a 473 00:28:58.620 --> 00:29:03.540 shorter list than your preferences. And the preferences can kind of come and go because 474 00:29:03.540 --> 00:29:09.860 they're just preferences. And we teach that in, you know, in, in dating that there are 475 00:29:09.860 --> 00:29:14.980 non non-negotiables, you know, but you have to really define what those are and they are 476 00:29:14.980 --> 00:29:20.580 unique to you because there are some things that are situational that I'm like, I can't 477 00:29:20.580 --> 00:29:25.620 move, you know, because of this reason, whatever. So a non-negotiable for someone who is not 478 00:29:25.620 --> 00:29:32.740 able to relocate is that it's, it's a non-negotiable, but does it, is it always a non-negotiable? 479 00:29:32.740 --> 00:29:37.440 Not necessarily. If you are able to move, then it's just more of a preference and not 480 00:29:37.440 --> 00:29:42.900 something that's a deal breaker, you know? So you have to know the differences and what, 481 00:29:42.900 --> 00:29:50.900 what we're teaching now in Last Year Single is an abundance of clarity. So every process 482 00:29:50.900 --> 00:29:56.220 that we're teaching in Last Year Single right now is driving you, the individual to get 483 00:29:56.220 --> 00:30:00.060 clear on who you are, what you're doing. 484 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:06.680 thing, not just what you want. You know, like what you want is important. What do you want 485 00:30:06.680 --> 00:30:11.120 out of the relationship and what do you, what do you want to bring to the table as well? 486 00:30:11.120 --> 00:30:17.920 But like getting clear on who you are, what you're doing, where you're going and all that. 487 00:30:17.920 --> 00:30:23.560 So I agree. I agree. I think that's very important. You know, I'm an engineer too. So I'm, I'm, 488 00:30:23.560 --> 00:30:28.680 you know, very analytical and like to kind of break things down, figure things out. But 489 00:30:28.680 --> 00:30:32.280 what's the kind of stuff that you engineer? 490 00:30:32.280 --> 00:30:39.900 So I work for a utility company. Yeah. So I'm a civil engineer. Yeah. So you can't go 491 00:30:39.900 --> 00:30:47.080 out and like lay wire or hang wire or bring connection without having a permit to be able 492 00:30:47.080 --> 00:30:51.320 to do the work. Right. If you go out to do the work and you got all the materials and 493 00:30:51.320 --> 00:30:54.440 you're going to do all this work and you'd be go out there and you're like, Oh, wait 494 00:30:54.440 --> 00:30:58.060 a minute. Like we're not allowed to do this cause we didn't get the permit. Like you didn't 495 00:30:58.060 --> 00:31:03.660 plan ahead. Basically. Right. It's like, bro, it's like, why didn't you do this work? 496 00:31:03.660 --> 00:31:06.500 You know, it's like, well, I didn't know. What do you mean? You didn't know you're an 497 00:31:06.500 --> 00:31:11.340 engineer. You're supposed to know these things. That's what I'm saying. So it's kind of like 498 00:31:11.340 --> 00:31:14.500 it's the same thing with relationships. It's like, you've got to lay, you've got to lay 499 00:31:14.500 --> 00:31:19.020 groundwork in order to make preparations. And especially if, you know, permitting is 500 00:31:19.020 --> 00:31:23.220 going to take some time. It's like, bro, I got to start this permitting process earlier. 501 00:31:23.220 --> 00:31:27.500 Utility company takes a long time. Oh, of course. And then you got to know who owns 502 00:31:27.500 --> 00:31:31.700 the pole, who owns the ground, who owns the ground between the ground. And I mean, this 503 00:31:31.700 --> 00:31:38.300 is crazy, but yeah, I feel like, you know, Jackie in the first video, she talks about, 504 00:31:38.300 --> 00:31:42.980 you know, doing the seven dates and all that. I feel like I should get the book first, do 505 00:31:42.980 --> 00:31:50.580 the work, you know, find out more about who I am, what I want, and then knowing, you know, 506 00:31:50.580 --> 00:31:56.980 knowing myself better than I can start kind of targeting for what I'm, what I want. Once 507 00:31:56.980 --> 00:31:59.620 I know what I'm looking for, I can be a lot more targeted. 508 00:31:59.620 --> 00:32:04.140 Absolutely. Yeah. Getting clarity. That's, that's one of the biggest things that we're 509 00:32:04.140 --> 00:32:07.060 talking about right now in last year. 510 00:32:07.060 --> 00:32:11.500 That's good. That's good. Well, thanks. I appreciate that. 511 00:32:11.500 --> 00:32:16.660 No problem, Ronnie. Thank you for, for chiming in there. Who else? Who else has got something 512 00:32:16.660 --> 00:32:31.420 to say tonight, guys? Is, I don't know, help me out here, Mike. Blake, I see the name Blake 513 00:32:31.420 --> 00:32:35.100 on here and I'm not sure who that is. And I don't know if that's somebody that's new 514 00:32:35.100 --> 00:32:45.380 or not, or I'm not sure either. Hey Blake, is this your first time to men's or no? 515 00:32:45.420 --> 00:32:52.460 Yes. First time. Oh, cool. Well, welcome. And where are you from Blake? 516 00:32:53.420 --> 00:32:54.260 I'm in Tennessee. 517 00:32:55.060 --> 00:33:01.220 Tennessee. Okay, great. Well, welcome. Glad you're here. If you feel like sharing, I mean, 518 00:33:01.260 --> 00:33:07.260 definitely let us know, but if not, that's fine too. Tim, you got, you're unmuted there. 519 00:33:07.300 --> 00:33:07.980 What do you got? 520 00:33:08.540 --> 00:33:13.100 So Monday, I popped into the leaders of my Bible study group, because I haven't seen 521 00:33:13.100 --> 00:33:17.660 them in months. I haven't been able to attend because I've been working every two day. And 522 00:33:17.700 --> 00:33:23.700 they mentioned the owner of the lake house cabin where we do retreats. 523 00:33:27.980 --> 00:33:32.700 Oh, man, I think we got cut off. Sounded like his signal was kind of getting weak. 524 00:33:33.660 --> 00:33:35.820 He'll probably come back to us here in just a moment. 525 00:33:36.620 --> 00:33:41.180 Well, and like Rodney to your, like, just, I don't know if I want to chime in for a second. 526 00:33:41.420 --> 00:33:47.420 Like one of the ways like Rodney that I learned was Tim, is he back? Just getting reps on 527 00:33:47.420 --> 00:33:52.060 dates and like Rodney, you asked that gal out, just you'll learn what you want to. So 528 00:33:52.060 --> 00:33:54.860 that's one of the critical components to figure out what you want. 529 00:33:55.420 --> 00:33:57.260 Learn by doing, yeah. 530 00:33:57.260 --> 00:34:01.660 Yeah, Tim, yeah, you're back with us. And yeah, just keep the video off. Maybe the audio 531 00:34:01.660 --> 00:34:02.780 will kind of give you. 532 00:34:07.020 --> 00:34:17.100 Yeah, anyway, so I was just, I went out of the house once last week and spent four hours. 533 00:34:17.100 --> 00:34:21.340 I took four hundred and sixty photos and didn't have near enough done because there are 534 00:34:21.900 --> 00:34:34.780 38 windows and four oak doors. So I was there, I camped in the yard at night and then I spent 535 00:34:34.780 --> 00:34:40.780 another eight hours taking photos and measurements. But I would love it if you guys prayed that I 536 00:34:40.780 --> 00:34:46.540 landed this project because that would be like 15 grand plus of commission after tax. 537 00:34:48.139 --> 00:34:49.980 What kind of work is it? You're restoring a property? 538 00:34:49.980 --> 00:34:59.740 It would be. It's what is a pipe burst and flooded the basement and the. 539 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.000 Peter tried to keep up with the torrent of cold water 540 00:35:03.000 --> 00:35:06.540 and turned the house basically into a steam room, 541 00:35:06.540 --> 00:35:09.160 which condensed on all the cold outer surfaces. 542 00:35:09.160 --> 00:35:13.800 So all the windows warped and it peeled the finish off, 543 00:35:13.800 --> 00:35:18.440 the humidity did, and the four solid white oak doors, 544 00:35:18.440 --> 00:35:22.720 which might need to be custom made, are also wrecked. 545 00:35:22.720 --> 00:35:23.640 Oh. 546 00:35:23.640 --> 00:35:24.960 And they're not inexpensive windows. 547 00:35:24.960 --> 00:35:28.320 Is this your business, or do you work for a company? 548 00:35:30.400 --> 00:35:32.000 I'm a sales guy for the company. 549 00:35:33.360 --> 00:35:36.160 Right, for what kind of company, a restoration company? 550 00:35:38.640 --> 00:35:40.280 Exteriors. 551 00:35:40.280 --> 00:35:41.880 We're focused more on retail, 552 00:35:41.880 --> 00:35:44.000 but we do insurance work as well. 553 00:35:44.000 --> 00:35:45.440 Oh, I see, got it. 554 00:35:45.440 --> 00:35:46.280 Okay. 555 00:35:47.640 --> 00:35:49.640 Yeah, yeah, we agree with you 556 00:35:49.640 --> 00:35:51.920 that you'll just have favor in that situation 557 00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:54.200 and be able to get that work 558 00:35:54.200 --> 00:35:59.200 and have that as a great bonus and commission for you. 559 00:36:00.560 --> 00:36:02.640 There isn't any reason, if you guys do good work, 560 00:36:02.640 --> 00:36:05.200 there isn't any reason that you can't have that, 561 00:36:05.200 --> 00:36:10.200 have that work and that job as you're reaching out there. 562 00:36:11.620 --> 00:36:13.920 So yeah, we definitely agree with you on that. 563 00:36:17.640 --> 00:36:19.000 Awesome. 564 00:36:19.000 --> 00:36:22.680 All right, who else has anything to share tonight, guys? 565 00:36:23.600 --> 00:36:25.260 David Henshaw, you got something? 566 00:36:30.080 --> 00:36:32.960 I'm not really, I guess, I don't know. 567 00:36:32.960 --> 00:36:35.920 I'm just trying to get more clarity on timing. 568 00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:40.280 I was gonna head down to where Renee's at, 569 00:36:40.280 --> 00:36:44.200 down in Franklin, Tennessee, so sometime soon. 570 00:36:44.200 --> 00:36:46.120 It's kind of going zero to 100, though, 571 00:36:46.120 --> 00:36:47.760 because I guess I'm jumping right into 572 00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:49.440 seeing people in person. 573 00:36:49.440 --> 00:36:51.720 She said she's got like 10 people in that area, 574 00:36:51.720 --> 00:36:52.960 so it'd be kind of a lot. 575 00:36:52.960 --> 00:36:54.600 Oh, wow. 576 00:36:54.600 --> 00:36:55.880 Yeah. 577 00:36:55.880 --> 00:36:56.720 So, yeah. 578 00:36:56.720 --> 00:36:58.960 I didn't introduce you to, that's cool. 579 00:36:58.960 --> 00:37:01.280 Yeah, so, yeah. 580 00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:03.160 Renee's good, and it'd be a good chance 581 00:37:03.160 --> 00:37:05.280 for you to meet her husband, Brian. 582 00:37:05.280 --> 00:37:06.360 He's a great guy. 583 00:37:09.360 --> 00:37:11.200 Yeah, I'm just looking forward to the timing. 584 00:37:11.200 --> 00:37:14.200 I just don't wanna, you know, 585 00:37:14.200 --> 00:37:16.200 I'm not afraid to be myself, but at the same time, 586 00:37:16.200 --> 00:37:18.880 I don't wanna like show up kind of half-prepared, 587 00:37:18.880 --> 00:37:21.400 so that's the dilemma I'm facing, 588 00:37:21.400 --> 00:37:25.560 with more of a fearful-of-waiting kind of tendency, 589 00:37:25.560 --> 00:37:28.360 you know, of thinking about things and looking at things. 590 00:37:28.360 --> 00:37:29.200 So, yeah. 591 00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:32.040 Yeah. 592 00:37:32.040 --> 00:37:32.880 Okay. 593 00:37:34.480 --> 00:37:37.120 I like the fact that you're aware, you know, 594 00:37:38.440 --> 00:37:41.560 and that you're not just like, what's wrong with me? 595 00:37:41.560 --> 00:37:43.960 I'm confused, or whatever, but that you're aware. 596 00:37:45.240 --> 00:37:46.680 Hold on, so that's good. 597 00:37:48.800 --> 00:37:50.280 And just working through that. 598 00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:53.800 I mean, I think one of the greatest things that you've done 599 00:37:53.800 --> 00:37:55.960 recently is you've just been more bold 600 00:37:55.960 --> 00:37:58.880 with stepping out into things that, you know, 601 00:37:58.880 --> 00:38:01.920 probably were very troublesome, or fearful, 602 00:38:01.920 --> 00:38:04.400 or you're avoiding in the first place. 603 00:38:04.400 --> 00:38:06.680 So I think you've done a lot of good work 604 00:38:08.840 --> 00:38:10.480 this last year or so to really, 605 00:38:10.480 --> 00:38:15.080 to put yourself in a place for more success. 606 00:38:15.080 --> 00:38:16.520 And I think the more you do that, 607 00:38:16.520 --> 00:38:17.520 the more you get comfortable with that, 608 00:38:17.520 --> 00:38:20.120 I think the more and more success you're gonna have. 609 00:38:23.560 --> 00:38:25.160 You feel that's true? 610 00:38:25.160 --> 00:38:26.720 Yeah, I find that's true. 611 00:38:26.720 --> 00:38:28.080 It's just like, there's a big part of me 612 00:38:28.080 --> 00:38:29.760 that's unwilling to be seen, 613 00:38:29.760 --> 00:38:32.000 but I realized that like, the more you're willing 614 00:38:32.000 --> 00:38:34.120 to be seen, the more things start moving 615 00:38:34.120 --> 00:38:37.760 and you start having, I guess, success per se. 616 00:38:37.760 --> 00:38:41.360 I don't know if that's really the best word, but yeah. 617 00:38:41.360 --> 00:38:43.640 Yeah, you move forward more, so. 618 00:38:43.640 --> 00:38:46.400 But it's challenging because I would never be, 619 00:38:46.400 --> 00:38:47.720 even with my closest friends, 620 00:38:47.720 --> 00:38:50.120 like with what Rodney was talking about earlier, 621 00:38:50.120 --> 00:38:51.640 like I don't feel comfortable doing that 622 00:38:51.640 --> 00:38:53.160 because I feel like, I don't know, 623 00:38:53.160 --> 00:38:56.280 maybe part of it is I'm more of a private person, 624 00:38:56.280 --> 00:38:58.080 and I would just, I feel like 625 00:38:58.080 --> 00:38:59.520 that's more my responsibility 626 00:38:59.520 --> 00:39:02.680 than trying to delegate that all out. 627 00:39:02.680 --> 00:39:05.280 And I don't know if that's an avoidant thing 628 00:39:05.280 --> 00:39:07.400 or if I'm just more of a private person. 629 00:39:09.320 --> 00:39:11.280 I'm not saying either way is right or wrong. 630 00:39:11.280 --> 00:39:14.040 It's just kind of my perspective on it right now, 631 00:39:14.040 --> 00:39:15.800 where I'm at in life, so. 632 00:39:15.800 --> 00:39:20.800 Well, I mean, if you're traveling several states away to, 633 00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:23.040 in hopes of somebody introducing you to somebody, 634 00:39:23.880 --> 00:39:27.320 that's pretty out there and good, I think. 635 00:39:29.240 --> 00:39:31.160 But yeah, I mean, the idea is that 636 00:39:31.160 --> 00:39:36.160 you're really only entrusting this information, 637 00:39:42.560 --> 00:39:44.520 this part of your life, 638 00:39:44.520 --> 00:39:47.240 in terms of being introduced to people, 639 00:39:47.240 --> 00:39:50.000 you're entrusting it only to people that you fully trust 640 00:39:50.000 --> 00:39:52.680 or that you know that you trust, you know? 641 00:39:53.680 --> 00:39:55.960 So you're not like trying to do it to, 642 00:39:57.200 --> 00:40:00.400 you know, to people that you can't rely on or depend on. 643 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:09.960 upon. So hopefully there's something that you have, you kind of, um, you know, found 644 00:40:09.960 --> 00:40:14.120 out about or know about the person that you felt like, okay, this is a person that I feel 645 00:40:14.120 --> 00:40:21.560 like I can trust that has my best interest, you know, to introduce me to good people, 646 00:40:21.560 --> 00:40:29.360 you know? So that gives you the sense of like a little more control, a little bit more comfortability 647 00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:33.520 and reliability, peace, knowing that, you know, this is somebody that I feel like has 648 00:40:33.520 --> 00:40:41.640 my best interest. What you got, Mike? So, you know, when I did it, I wanted to puke. 649 00:40:41.640 --> 00:40:47.120 Yeah. Like, you know, I realized, like, like, if I'm honest, like I, two people who I know 650 00:40:47.120 --> 00:40:52.360 and I adore and I know they love and adore me, but I still wanted to puke. And I, um, 651 00:40:52.360 --> 00:40:58.560 and I, I realized like, man, I really want to control this. Right. And I'm afraid and 652 00:40:58.560 --> 00:41:05.400 doing all that process. Right. And, um, one gal that I did date, they just somebody really, 653 00:41:05.400 --> 00:41:11.400 it didn't work out. Um, it was complicated, but, um, but like, she wasn't avoiding, uh, 654 00:41:11.400 --> 00:41:15.360 maybe she, I don't know. But anyways, but like, but my whole point is like, even though 655 00:41:15.360 --> 00:41:23.120 I trusted these people, David, like I am not avoiding, I'm anxious. Right. But I felt like 656 00:41:23.280 --> 00:41:30.560 super stressed. And I was like, I was surprised at my response. Right. Um, and I realized like, 657 00:41:30.560 --> 00:41:36.880 I don't want to give up control of this. Right. Um, I'm like, but you know, you, you have to let 658 00:41:36.880 --> 00:41:41.920 go so you can let things come to you and trust the people that God's put around you. And like I said, 659 00:41:43.520 --> 00:41:48.480 there's been a couple, you know, one gal had health issues and I can't do cancer again. 660 00:41:49.200 --> 00:41:58.320 Um, like, you know, like, um, super great lady. Um, but like the other one just, you know, 661 00:41:58.320 --> 00:42:03.760 the jury's kind of out, we'll see. Um, but just, just trust that, you know, I trust Renee, 662 00:42:04.480 --> 00:42:09.680 you know, you know, and that, um, and I just want to just acknowledge it. It was hard for me to let 663 00:42:09.680 --> 00:42:14.880 go, you know, but I actually really appreciate what they did. I learned a lot about me and I 664 00:42:14.880 --> 00:42:20.560 met a couple, I've met several really amazing ladies. Um, some of them, but I did lay some 665 00:42:20.560 --> 00:42:26.800 framework. I'm like, she's gotta be fit. Well, and I had, I had, and so I also had to get over 666 00:42:26.800 --> 00:42:34.960 an age bias. Like, um, I didn't realize I had one, like just based on the number, like the number 667 00:42:34.960 --> 00:42:40.160 alone. Yeah. I was like, that's like a 16 year gap. And they're like, yeah, but I think you'd 668 00:42:40.160 --> 00:42:49.520 fit really well. I'm like, all right. You know, um, I was like, it is you didn't tell somebody 669 00:42:49.520 --> 00:42:58.640 tries to set you up with, you know, and it was just a number, but either way, either way, 16 670 00:42:58.640 --> 00:43:05.920 years, either way. No, it was 16 years younger. Um, you know, um, and most people 16 years older 671 00:43:05.920 --> 00:43:11.600 than me can't run with me. So, um, but anyways, like, but my point, David is like, it's, it was 672 00:43:11.600 --> 00:43:18.640 hard for me too, but I did see benefit and I learned a lot and, um, and I did it with trusted 673 00:43:18.640 --> 00:43:24.880 people. Right. Um, I, I didn't do it carte blanche, like, Hey, um, you know, I, I didn't go out and 674 00:43:24.880 --> 00:43:31.120 make a t-shirt with a QR code that says, Hey, or send it to people to wear. Right. Um, and like, 675 00:43:31.360 --> 00:43:37.520 and I trust Ray and Renee to set you up like Renee, um, you know, 676 00:43:38.640 --> 00:43:44.800 it's super solid. So she's got, you're in good hands. Yeah. I guess I just want to mention 677 00:43:44.800 --> 00:43:49.760 something real quick. I mean, I had a humongous kind of, I had a humongous crush on one of the 678 00:43:49.760 --> 00:43:54.720 people that might be one of the 10, very likely to be one of the 10 people that may be showing up. 679 00:43:54.720 --> 00:43:58.800 I didn't ask Renee directly, but like recently I kind of went away and I think that's actually 680 00:43:58.800 --> 00:44:04.800 a blessing. So I'm not colored or skewed and, and give everyone like a fair, you know, 681 00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:11.440 chance interaction. You know what I'm saying? Just go be you dude. And don't stress it. Like 682 00:44:11.440 --> 00:44:16.400 when you stress, you get stupid. I don't know about me, but like, I, like, you know, I just 683 00:44:16.400 --> 00:44:20.400 say, I'm going to go have some fun. I'm going to meet some people. If we connect great, if we don't, 684 00:44:20.400 --> 00:44:23.680 if it's all, it's going to be awkward and it's going to be not awkward. I mean, 685 00:44:23.760 --> 00:44:27.440 like there's going to be all of the things just, just go enjoy the ride. 686 00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:36.880 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You have to go through it. That's good advice. Like just with, it has 687 00:44:36.880 --> 00:44:41.680 to be with joy. Cause it's just like, it's not worth doing it if it, if it doesn't start in joy, 688 00:44:41.680 --> 00:44:46.800 because there isn't any reason, like, why would you, I mean, life is stressful enough 689 00:44:47.760 --> 00:44:54.000 with, with just living it. Why would you start and look for it? Like, Oh, this has to be hard. 690 00:44:54.000 --> 00:44:59.760 No, it doesn't have to be hard. It can be actually really fun and joyful. So if you have that mind, 691 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.800 mindset going into it that this is going to be fun that I think helps to make it 692 00:45:04.800 --> 00:45:09.800 fun and it just presents a better version of you in the process. 693 00:45:11.440 --> 00:45:14.360 Yeah, that's definitely helpful. Like start in your way. Cause I mean, 694 00:45:14.360 --> 00:45:18.760 that's a tendency I gotta kind of watch out for because being that my last 695 00:45:19.360 --> 00:45:24.360 situationship was a very abusive and a lot and a lot of it was because of the 696 00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:28.880 way I was showing up was, it was not very wise. Um, um, 697 00:45:29.240 --> 00:45:33.120 so part of the advisory circle, part of, 698 00:45:33.120 --> 00:45:38.120 part of trusting other people is the fact that it's not that you can't trust 699 00:45:40.400 --> 00:45:44.000 yourself, but it's just like, if you've been doing this for a while, 700 00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:47.120 looking for, you know, a partner, 701 00:45:47.800 --> 00:45:52.800 a life partner or it's been some time since you previously had a life partner 702 00:45:54.160 --> 00:45:55.000 and you're like, 703 00:45:55.560 --> 00:45:58.200 what else do you have to lose in terms of, 704 00:45:59.360 --> 00:46:02.440 cause if you're just going to try to do it yourself, you know, 705 00:46:02.440 --> 00:46:05.160 life was always better to do things with friends. 706 00:46:05.680 --> 00:46:09.920 So if you have friends or if you have someone you trust that it's going to 707 00:46:09.920 --> 00:46:13.680 introduce you to some more people, it's, it's, it's only a win, 708 00:46:15.280 --> 00:46:16.120 you know, 709 00:46:16.480 --> 00:46:20.000 nobody's asking you to marry the person that they're introducing you to like the 710 00:46:20.000 --> 00:46:21.720 next day. So it's, it's all, 711 00:46:21.720 --> 00:46:25.800 it's always a win. And if they don't work out, they don't work out. 712 00:46:28.080 --> 00:46:30.800 Yeah. Well, there's no, there's no pressure. I'm finally at that point. 713 00:46:31.480 --> 00:46:36.040 There's stability there now to explore this and not, and not keep hiding. 714 00:46:36.120 --> 00:46:37.960 I guess one way to put it. 715 00:46:40.280 --> 00:46:44.880 And not think relationships are only, only and always all hard, hard, 716 00:46:44.880 --> 00:46:48.200 hard and abuse and abuse. And yeah, I got to come out, 717 00:46:48.520 --> 00:46:51.040 I come out of that dark corner too. Yeah. Yeah. 718 00:46:51.440 --> 00:46:55.560 Yeah. So like I wrote in the chat, but just so everybody, okay, you guys, 719 00:46:55.600 --> 00:46:57.920 like David, like you have, like you, you're like, 720 00:46:57.960 --> 00:47:01.680 my last relationship was this, right. And I do that, 721 00:47:02.160 --> 00:47:05.320 but this is something new. And you literally, you're subcon, 722 00:47:05.400 --> 00:47:07.960 that's your subconscious speaking. Hey, 723 00:47:09.320 --> 00:47:11.200 this is going to be just like the old one. 724 00:47:12.840 --> 00:47:16.880 Like there's a gal, like every time it's like, this is just like, 725 00:47:16.880 --> 00:47:20.320 and you literally have to tell yourself in your own voice out loud. 726 00:47:20.520 --> 00:47:24.360 Every time it comes up, no, this is a different situation. You know, 727 00:47:24.360 --> 00:47:27.560 this is a different place. You know, Renee has got my back, whatever. 728 00:47:27.560 --> 00:47:30.000 I'm going to walk in. And this one's good. This, this one, 729 00:47:30.040 --> 00:47:32.800 this one has potential. And like, but like he, 730 00:47:33.400 --> 00:47:37.400 like your subconscious is if you've had a bad experience is going to say, 731 00:47:37.560 --> 00:47:41.120 this is just going to be like that. And you literally have to tell yourself, 732 00:47:41.120 --> 00:47:45.160 no, it's not, this is different. And so, so your brain, like, 733 00:47:46.160 --> 00:47:49.760 so you stop, it stops going there. 734 00:47:50.640 --> 00:47:54.280 Yeah. Yeah. Cause literally 735 00:47:55.920 --> 00:47:57.680 the converse of that is pretty scary, 736 00:47:57.680 --> 00:48:01.520 which means if it ends up always being the same situation, 737 00:48:02.800 --> 00:48:07.120 the unfortunate thing that you'll have to be honest about in that 738 00:48:07.200 --> 00:48:10.920 scenario over and over and over and over again is, 739 00:48:11.720 --> 00:48:13.880 Hey, I'm the common denominator. 740 00:48:14.240 --> 00:48:17.400 Like, so I'm bringing this to the situation. 741 00:48:17.800 --> 00:48:20.920 And so if you can fix that, like Mike saying in your head, it's kind of like, 742 00:48:21.920 --> 00:48:24.800 um, and in your heart, um, to where you're like, 743 00:48:24.840 --> 00:48:28.960 I'm not bringing in difficulty into the situation. I'm bringing joy and fun, 744 00:48:30.120 --> 00:48:34.160 adventure, curiosity, discovery. 745 00:48:34.240 --> 00:48:35.560 I'm bringing that to the table. 746 00:48:35.600 --> 00:48:39.440 I'm not bringing in drama and worry and fret. 747 00:48:40.440 --> 00:48:43.200 Well, biggest, biggest problem was self abandonment. 748 00:48:43.200 --> 00:48:47.480 And now I'm aware that I do that. So then if I start doing that, 749 00:48:47.680 --> 00:48:49.800 I'm going to go, okay, I got a course. Correct. Now. 750 00:48:50.400 --> 00:48:53.760 Yeah. And the only thing that's a little challenging is I'm kind of, 751 00:48:53.800 --> 00:48:55.280 when it comes to relational stuff like that, 752 00:48:55.280 --> 00:48:58.520 I'm more of a crock pot than a microwave. So it's kind of a little, 753 00:48:58.560 --> 00:49:00.360 kind of harder to do that on the fly. 754 00:49:01.640 --> 00:49:07.240 Yeah, no, I get it. I get it. Um, but I'm telling you what I've in a relationship, 755 00:49:08.240 --> 00:49:12.960 men being crock pots, um, in terms of like, that's, 756 00:49:13.000 --> 00:49:17.560 that's the more stability that is helpful in a long-term relationship. 757 00:49:17.560 --> 00:49:21.120 Cause that's what a lot of, a lot of ladies need. They need us. 758 00:49:21.160 --> 00:49:24.720 They need a stable man. They need a man that's, uh, you know, 759 00:49:24.720 --> 00:49:28.760 it's going to be solid. It's going to be, it's going to be, um, 760 00:49:29.640 --> 00:49:33.600 more even keel and not so up and down for sure. 761 00:49:33.640 --> 00:49:35.760 So that's good. Thanks guys. I appreciate it. 762 00:49:36.240 --> 00:49:40.400 Crock pot can be an advantage. Um, cool. 763 00:49:43.360 --> 00:49:45.800 All right. Uh, anybody else 764 00:49:48.520 --> 00:49:50.520 kind of almost heard from everybody. Yeah. 765 00:49:54.240 --> 00:49:55.160 Good, good, good. 766 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:12.040 Anybody else, just giving it a minute here. 767 00:50:12.040 --> 00:50:18.280 I'm curious though, and this is going to be a way, different direction, but I am curious 768 00:50:18.280 --> 00:50:24.800 about something because I'm dealing, I'm not dealing with anything, it's more of just a 769 00:50:24.800 --> 00:50:29.180 more passion and curiosity right now. 770 00:50:29.180 --> 00:50:40.020 If you don't mind me changing the subject matter, but who here is like an AI user? 771 00:50:40.020 --> 00:50:42.700 This is kind of like my thing right now, AI. 772 00:50:42.700 --> 00:50:53.860 And who's using, who's chatting, who's developing, who's building with AI, can I get an answer 773 00:50:53.860 --> 00:50:54.860 from everybody? 774 00:50:54.860 --> 00:50:55.860 That'd be great. 775 00:50:55.860 --> 00:50:56.860 It's on this call. 776 00:50:57.340 --> 00:51:01.820 I'm still looking into it a little bit more than I was, but really not that much more. 777 00:51:01.820 --> 00:51:02.820 So yeah. 778 00:51:02.820 --> 00:51:03.820 What do you do? 779 00:51:03.820 --> 00:51:07.900 Do you just chat with like Claude? 780 00:51:07.900 --> 00:51:15.060 I've been to some free or low cost, like online introductory things that talk about some of 781 00:51:15.060 --> 00:51:16.060 the basics. 782 00:51:16.060 --> 00:51:22.700 So, I mean, that helped me get over any stereotypes or false fears in it. 783 00:51:22.700 --> 00:51:25.940 Like I guess the biggest thing I struggle with is like a religious mindset would say, 784 00:51:26.020 --> 00:51:27.020 you know, stay away from it. 785 00:51:27.020 --> 00:51:28.100 It's the double. 786 00:51:28.100 --> 00:51:32.740 And then I think a kingdom mindset would be, well, the only reason why it's going to go 787 00:51:32.740 --> 00:51:37.740 that way is because people choose the fear card and nobody in the kingdom's involved 788 00:51:37.740 --> 00:51:41.020 in it to influence people the right way. 789 00:51:41.020 --> 00:51:44.420 And that's the way we're supposed to walk as sons of God. 790 00:51:44.420 --> 00:51:45.420 So yeah. 791 00:51:45.420 --> 00:51:46.420 But yeah. 792 00:51:46.420 --> 00:51:47.420 Okay. 793 00:51:47.420 --> 00:51:56.540 Tim, you have nothing, you have nothing to do with AI, like period, is that what you're 794 00:51:56.540 --> 00:51:57.540 saying? 795 00:51:57.540 --> 00:52:00.540 I don't know. 796 00:52:00.540 --> 00:52:01.540 Okay. 797 00:52:01.540 --> 00:52:02.540 David. 798 00:52:02.540 --> 00:52:07.540 Gab is run by, oh, I get it. 799 00:52:07.540 --> 00:52:10.540 I get it. 800 00:52:10.540 --> 00:52:11.540 Okay. 801 00:52:11.660 --> 00:52:17.660 So you're selective is what you're saying in terms of your use of AI. 802 00:52:17.660 --> 00:52:20.660 Rodney, AI, no, yes or no? 803 00:52:20.660 --> 00:52:22.660 I don't know if you're there. 804 00:52:22.660 --> 00:52:24.660 I don't know if anybody guys listening. 805 00:52:24.660 --> 00:52:25.660 Yeah. 806 00:52:25.660 --> 00:52:26.660 Yeah. 807 00:52:26.660 --> 00:52:27.660 I'm here. 808 00:52:27.660 --> 00:52:33.660 I use it very little, kind of, you know, very basically asking questions, stuff like that. 809 00:52:33.660 --> 00:52:34.660 Yeah. 810 00:52:34.660 --> 00:52:37.660 I'm not trying to run a business or anything like that. 811 00:52:37.660 --> 00:52:38.660 Yeah. 812 00:52:38.660 --> 00:52:39.660 I got it. 813 00:52:39.660 --> 00:52:40.660 Blake. 814 00:52:40.780 --> 00:52:41.780 I don't know if you have an answer to that question. 815 00:52:41.780 --> 00:52:42.780 I'm just curious. 816 00:52:42.780 --> 00:52:43.780 This is just a curiosity question. 817 00:52:43.780 --> 00:52:44.780 Oh, I'm a software engineer. 818 00:52:44.780 --> 00:52:45.780 I use it all the time. 819 00:52:45.780 --> 00:52:46.780 So I developed with it as well. 820 00:52:46.780 --> 00:52:47.780 Yeah. 821 00:52:47.780 --> 00:52:48.780 So ask me anything. 822 00:52:48.780 --> 00:52:49.780 I can probably answer the question about that specific topic. 823 00:52:49.780 --> 00:52:50.780 Oh, that's good. 824 00:52:50.780 --> 00:52:51.780 That's pretty cool. 825 00:52:51.780 --> 00:52:52.780 That's good to know. 826 00:52:52.780 --> 00:52:53.780 Actually, it's kind of interesting. 827 00:52:53.780 --> 00:52:54.780 Do you work for a company or work for yourself? 828 00:52:54.780 --> 00:52:55.780 I work for a company. 829 00:52:55.780 --> 00:52:56.780 Okay. 830 00:52:56.780 --> 00:52:57.780 Can you say or no? 831 00:52:57.780 --> 00:52:58.780 I work for a company. 832 00:52:58.780 --> 00:52:59.780 Okay. 833 00:52:59.780 --> 00:53:00.780 Can you say or no? 834 00:53:00.780 --> 00:53:01.780 I work for a company. 835 00:53:01.780 --> 00:53:02.780 Okay. 836 00:53:02.780 --> 00:53:03.780 Can you say or no? 837 00:53:03.780 --> 00:53:04.780 I work for a company. 838 00:53:04.780 --> 00:53:05.780 Okay. 839 00:53:05.780 --> 00:53:06.780 Can you say or no? 840 00:53:06.780 --> 00:53:07.780 I work for a company. 841 00:53:07.900 --> 00:53:08.900 Okay. 842 00:53:08.900 --> 00:53:09.900 Can you say or no? 843 00:53:09.900 --> 00:53:10.900 It's a government contractor kind of thing. 844 00:53:10.900 --> 00:53:11.900 I got it. 845 00:53:11.900 --> 00:53:12.900 Got it. 846 00:53:12.900 --> 00:53:13.900 Okay. 847 00:53:13.900 --> 00:53:14.900 Christopher DeLuca, are you... 848 00:53:14.900 --> 00:53:15.900 DeLucia, are you on there, brother? 849 00:53:15.900 --> 00:53:16.900 I am just eating. 850 00:53:16.900 --> 00:53:17.900 What's your relationship with AI? 851 00:53:17.900 --> 00:53:18.900 Just curious. 852 00:53:18.900 --> 00:53:19.900 Infrequent user. 853 00:53:19.900 --> 00:53:20.900 Infrequent user. 854 00:53:20.900 --> 00:53:21.900 Okay. 855 00:53:21.900 --> 00:53:22.900 Got it. 856 00:53:22.900 --> 00:53:23.900 Kind of fascinating. 857 00:53:23.900 --> 00:53:24.900 Okay. 858 00:53:24.900 --> 00:53:25.900 I'm a software engineer. 859 00:53:25.900 --> 00:53:26.900 I work for a company. 860 00:53:26.900 --> 00:53:27.900 Okay. 861 00:53:27.900 --> 00:53:28.900 Can you say or no? 862 00:53:28.900 --> 00:53:29.900 I work for a company. 863 00:53:29.900 --> 00:53:30.900 Okay. 864 00:53:30.900 --> 00:53:31.900 Can you say or no? 865 00:53:31.900 --> 00:53:32.900 I work for a company. 866 00:53:32.900 --> 00:53:33.900 Okay. 867 00:53:33.900 --> 00:53:34.900 Can you say or no? 868 00:53:34.900 --> 00:53:35.900 I work for a company. 869 00:53:35.900 --> 00:53:36.900 Okay. 870 00:53:37.020 --> 00:53:39.740 Kind of fascinating then. 871 00:53:39.740 --> 00:53:42.780 I know, Mike, you didn't say anything yet about AI. 872 00:53:42.780 --> 00:53:44.380 I haven't used it ever. 873 00:53:44.380 --> 00:53:46.820 You just never used it? 874 00:53:46.820 --> 00:53:47.820 Nope. 875 00:53:47.820 --> 00:53:48.820 Never needed to. 876 00:53:48.820 --> 00:53:49.820 I mean, really. 877 00:53:49.820 --> 00:53:51.820 Oh, because you write, right? 878 00:53:51.820 --> 00:53:53.620 No, not yet. 879 00:53:53.620 --> 00:53:56.860 Well, I actually do, but haven't for a while. 880 00:53:56.860 --> 00:53:59.300 Yeah, maybe writing would be helpful. 881 00:53:59.300 --> 00:54:02.460 I have a good friend who uses it all the time. 882 00:54:02.460 --> 00:54:09.980 I have a friend who is actually doing a Bible AI that she was helping with that. 883 00:54:09.980 --> 00:54:15.580 I just like, I mean, I don't really need it for anything. 884 00:54:15.580 --> 00:54:23.020 I kind of know what I do really well, and I mean, I suppose if I needed it, I could 885 00:54:23.020 --> 00:54:24.020 use it for something. 886 00:54:24.020 --> 00:54:28.420 You know, I mean, I think the writing thing, it seems like a really good plan. 887 00:54:28.420 --> 00:54:29.420 Okay. 888 00:54:29.420 --> 00:54:30.420 Got it. 889 00:54:30.420 --> 00:54:31.420 Interesting. 890 00:54:31.420 --> 00:54:32.420 Okay. 891 00:54:32.420 --> 00:54:33.420 Curious. 892 00:54:33.420 --> 00:54:36.740 Just very curious about it. 893 00:54:36.740 --> 00:54:47.780 I'm using a lot of, I have my own AI agent right now that is really, ended up being a 894 00:54:47.780 --> 00:54:52.500 really huge game changer for me and the business and some other business that I'm doing. 895 00:54:52.500 --> 00:54:56.820 So I just, it's a curiosity for me right now. 896 00:54:56.820 --> 00:54:59.740 I'm just kind of taking inventory of wherever I go to ask about it. 897 00:54:59.740 --> 00:55:00.740 Yeah. 898 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.480 That's kind of why I asked, guys, so interesting, interesting, really good. 899 00:55:00.740 --> 00:55:00.740 900 00:55:06.480 --> 00:55:13.580 Okay, well, if nobody has anything else, we're going to go for that for the time. 901 00:55:13.580 --> 00:55:14.640 Thank you guys for showing up. 902 00:55:14.640 --> 00:55:15.640 God bless you. 903 00:55:15.640 --> 00:55:18.240 Have a great, great rest of your evening and great rest of your week. 904 00:55:18.240 --> 00:55:20.920 We'll see you when we see you next time. 905 00:55:20.920 --> 00:55:21.280 God bless.