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And good morning, good morning, good morning, or afternoon or evening, depending on when

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you're listening to this, welcome to the ongoing immersion, the 12-week immersion from pressure

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to partnership.

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Just think about that for a minute.

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The movement from an internally contracted state, which for many has almost become a

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natural state, it's one I have to battle against, right?

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That internally contracted state that feels like pressure to truly partnering with God

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in every area of our life.

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And we've been working through the PROSPER framework.

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And if you have my book, which is available on Amazon, Total Soul Prosperity, you know

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that the chapters also go through the PROSPER framework, P-R-O-S-P-E-R.

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So the first week of it was partner with God.

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That's where everything is established.

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And yet, as we're partnering, there's a glitch.

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And that is our mindset.

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And so the R is about renewing our mind.

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And if you missed that couple days, what we did in the Power Hour and last week's pressure

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to partnership, that's a really good one to listen to more than once.

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And so this week we're in the O, which is open the flow, open the flow.

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And so going to review a tiny bit from yesterday and pick up from there as we go deeper in

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this idea, how, what is our role in activating the flow?

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And so let me ask an opening question.

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And this can be in any area, it can be in money, in relationships, in clients, in business.

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Where have you felt a contraction, a constriction when it comes to flow?

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You can put it in the chat or you can speak up.

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It's like you've been asking God for more, but something still feels blocked, tight,

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inconsistent.

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Because last week when we were in the renewing of the mind, we looked at the pressure thoughts

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that we can have and the state that it creates in our body.

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This week we're going to look at something I think very fascinating.

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I always say awareness is the first step to transformation.

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You can't change what you don't see.

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And so we're going to look today at flow patterns.

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As we're activating the flow, we're going to look at flow patterns.

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And you're going to find that there's a chance that you fit in one of the four patterns.

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And our core statement for today, what I want you to leave with, you can write this down,

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you can think about it.

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But our core statement, you see it on my posts.

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I am safe to give, I am safe to receive, and I'm safe to steward increase.

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I'm safe to give, I'm safe to receive, I'm safe to steward increase.

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Now we laid a biblical foundation yesterday, and some of you have already been going back.

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Some of our key texts, we went over Luke 6, 38, Luke 6, 38, give and it will be given

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to you.

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And when you look at this and press down, you know, measured, shaken together, overflowing

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shall men pour in.

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to your bosom what we looked at is that the very first word that it opens with this is Jesus

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teaching is give and so what we looked at is this is the part where we activate we activate

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give not something that I mean God is always blessing and always wanting to pour out blessings

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but this is the thing that we choose to do or not do it's our action give and then we looked at the

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boomerang effect give and it's given unto you and we talked about all the ways of giving giving

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appreciation right um we we give so many ways encouragement we give things we give love

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we forgive and we talked about how debt is always often tied with withholding and withholding

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forgiveness because forgiveness is a debt when we're whole when we're out when we hold unforgiveness

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we're holding a debt and that boomerangs we create debt so that's one of the ways that we give

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and so often this verse has been used in in church for tithing and things like that and

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I shared that tithing actually goes before the church and it goes even before the Jewish

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institution of tithing Abraham was all already tithing to Melchizedek and that's because it

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was a Babylonian wealth principle even before Jewish so this goes way back in history giving

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10 was a wealth principle when you study it way back but we're not talking about tithing here

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we're talking bigger picture of all forms of giving and it's not about giving to get

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because that motivation is going to twist it and God talked about that it's about what this is

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really this whole thing is about becoming a person who's no longer ruled by lack remember we said

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yesterday lack is not my lord lack is not my lord becoming a person who is no longer ruled by lack

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by lack and lack is built into the culture and it's built into our conversation right and so

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you start becoming aware of even where am I speaking and thinking lack and I've given you

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many examples we wake up and first thing in the morning we say I didn't get enough sleep which

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is often true but it's a form of lack right and then I don't have enough time lack I don't have

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enough money lack I don't have enough clients lack I don't have enough energy lack I don't have

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enough friends I don't have enough you know and we just constantly focus on what we're missing

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and so lack becomes a mindset and lack becomes what becomes a lord in that it controls our

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thoughts it controls our actions we make decisions based on lack it controls our joy right it

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steals our joy uh lack just influences everything that we're doing black becomes our lord and so

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this is about growing to where lack no longer has that that place in your life in my life right

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and so this is about giving from wholeness and so we also went over second corinthians 9 8

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second corinthians 9 8 is um is something that I believe we just speak it constantly to help

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wash away the lack okay he is able to and you just look at all the alls and all the

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everything's right and so it says he is able to make all grace abound like just think about that

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just think about that first all grace like wow to just become aware of god's grace and the fact

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that he's able to make all grace abound and then how it's cool what is the fruit of that grace

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having all sufficiency when we program our mind and our mouth and our our nervous system

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to a feeling of all sufficiency

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to have all sufficiency when we have christ in us we have

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all sufficiency, right?

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And it just goes on, right?

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To be able to meet all our needs

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and all of our assignments,

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that we can have everything that we need

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for every good deed.

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And so God's flow is connected to sufficiency

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and overflow and assignment.

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And then we saw in Proverbs 11, 24 and 25,

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again, this idea,

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there's one who scatters, giving, giving, giving,

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and yet increases.

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And there's one who withholds and results only in one.

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So when we think of lack,

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our tendency is to contract.

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And this is the pressure statement that we're talking about.

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We contract in all ways.

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And so it shows two patterns in Proverbs 11.

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There's two patterns.

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There's scattering and increasing

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or withholding and wanting.

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And so fear says, hold tighter.

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And partnership says, God is my source.

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I can live open-handed.

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So flow opens up when we come out of agreement with lack.

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And we come into agreement with God as our source.

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Now, I don't know about you ladies.

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Lack was programmed into me from childhood,

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even though I grew up in an upper middle-class home.

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I grew up in gated communities

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with indoor swimming pools and horses.

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And yet the conversation at the dinner table

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was always lack.

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Sales are down.

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And here's the craziest thing.

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And I wrote about this in my book.

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I tell this story.

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I had an awareness one day

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because dinner time was never a fun time

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growing up as a child.

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There was so much tension.

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There was a lot of alcohol

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and there was just this constant conversation about lack.

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In the middle of this abundance,

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there was this constant conversation that was around lack.

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And there was the stress and the energy

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so in the environment,

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so thick you could cut it with a knife.

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I don't know if any of you grew up

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that lack was a conversation.

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As an adult now, I can play back and just go, wow.

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And as I was writing my book

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and I can picture

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that it was a round kind of eating nook

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that we often sat and ate at.

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And there was windows behind the eating,

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kind of round windows behind the eating table

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so that I could look over at the swimming pool.

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And so I sat in this spot.

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My dad would sit in this spot.

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I would sit in this spot.

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So I was overlooking the pool.

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And all of this tension

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and I just wanted to just get away from the table

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because his children were super sensitive to that tension.

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And I was writing that in my book

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and I fast forwarded to my marriage.

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This is wild.

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How, when you get this awareness,

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how much this is affecting our life.

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And I remember all of a sudden,

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I got a flash from my marriage.

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And I had the same round table

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with the same round windows overlooking a swimming pool.

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Different places, childhood, swimming,

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you know, this is Rolling Hills, California,

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Southern California, child, adult,

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Northern California, El Dorado Hills.

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Now I'm married, I've got kids.

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I'm sitting in the same spot.

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And the same conversation

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is coming out of the mouth of my husband

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about sales.

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That's when we were founder of a company

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and the tension and the stress around sales being down.

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And as I'm writing my book,

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I went, how is that even possible?

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It's like, I'm reliving the same story.

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And so now, you know, many years later,

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my children are all grown.

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I've been divorced since 2012.

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That lack constantly wants to come into my mind.

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That pressure.

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That withholding, that not enough.

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So I don't know about any of you,

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but this is something that is a continuous

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renewing of the mind.

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It's not a one-time quick fix.

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It's not a one-time read a verse.

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I wish it was.

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Maybe it is for some of you.

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But it's an ever increasing awareness

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and it's the ability to go on my walk and say,

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my God supplies all my needs according to his riches.

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The Lord is my shepherd.

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I shall not lack.

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And it's the ability to turn around your mornings

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before the day gets a hold of you,

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to be able to walk in that freedom

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and not have lack be your Lord.

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I don't know if any of you relate to that story.

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I didn't plan on telling that story,

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but I share that story that these are deeply embedded in us

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that have to, and it could be in any direction.

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And we're going to talk about

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and get into the immersion of this right now

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of how that can be.

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But flow opens when we come out of agreement

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with lack and into agreement with God as our source.

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And this is not just an intellectual agreement.

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This is a frequency.

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This is our thoughts and our feelings.

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And good morning, Colette.

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I see you.

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Good morning, Tracy.

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Thank you for your comments.

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And so today let's look at the four flow patterns

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where you can get awareness.

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Where are you sitting right now?

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Okay, there's four, try to say that 10 times,

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four flow patterns.

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Try to say that with me this morning.

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All right.

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Okay, number one, flow pattern.

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Withholding from fear.

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Pattern number one, withholding.

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So this is a withholding pattern.

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Fear kicks in, we contract.

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This happens when we hold back because we're afraid.

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I instantly, thinking in writing this,

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I instantly thought about when Jesus gave the,

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or when the person that represented God

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gave the talents in the parable.

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And, you know, the first person gave talents

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and he went out and multiplied them

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and came back with increase.

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And the second one, same,

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multiply and came back with increase.

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And the third one says,

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I hid them because I was afraid, right?

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So there's this holding back because we're afraid

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that there won't be enough.

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If I pay this bill, I'm gonna run out.

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If I invest in this, I'm gonna run out.

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And this could be withholding money.

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It can be withholding time.

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It can be withholding love.

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It can be withholding encouragement.

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Visibility is a big one.

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It can be withholding showing up.

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It can be withholding making offers or invitations.

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It can be withholding generosity.

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And so this first pattern,

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withholding from fear sounds like I can't afford it.

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I better hold on, better tighten up the hatches.

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My dad used to say, we got to buckle down the hatches.

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What if more does not come?

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What if I give and it runs out?

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Okay, that's pattern number one.

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Pattern number two,

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over giving from fear.

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So first one's withholding from fear.

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Second one's over giving from fear.

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So this one can look really spiritual,

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but underneath it's a pressure.

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We give too much.

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We discount too quickly.

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We over deliver to prove our value.

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We rescue people.

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We avoid charging.

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We say yes when God did not ask us to.

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So over giving from fear.

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It sounds like I should just help.

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It sounds like I don't want them to think

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I only care about money.

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It sounds like what if they reject me?

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What if they can't afford it?

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It sounds like you getting into their pocketbook

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and making decisions what they can and cannot afford.

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It sounds like.

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I need to prove I'm really valuable.

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I really am a good coach.

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I really am worth the money.

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Yeah, Collette.

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Amen. Me too, sister.

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Me too.

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Okay.

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So number one, withholding from fear.

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Number two, over giving from fear.

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Number three.

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So this is all in the withholding and giving.

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Number three is blocked receiving.

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Our receiver is blocked.

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So some women are very comfortable giving, but they're uncomfortable receiving.

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This is even compliments.

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This is men and women.

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I see it.

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I'll give a compliment, and the way that they respond to the compliment,

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they can't receive it.

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Compliments feel awkward.

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Support feels unsafe.

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Charging feels heavy.

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Being paid well feels unfamiliar.

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Your nervous system's not wired for being paid well.

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And rest feels undeserved.

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Yes.

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Yes, Collette.

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Some of these go together.

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So blocked receiving sounds like I don't need anything.

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I'm fine.

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Many women struggling to get into a relationship.

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And when you hear relationship coaches that are really helping women break

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through that, one of the first things is women are constantly saying,

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I don't need a man.

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I don't need a relationship.

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Right.

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Yeah.

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Amanda's nodding. Right.

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She changed that and got herself a good man.

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All right.

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I love that. Okay.

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So it sounds like I don't need anything.

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I'm fine.

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How can I bless you?

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What do you need? What do you need support around?

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I don't know. I think I'm doing okay. Right.

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It sounds like I should be grateful for whatever comes.

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I'll take the crumbs.

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It's not that we're not grateful,

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but it's about a different mindset of not receiving.

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It sounds like I don't want to be a burden.

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I just don't want to be a burden.

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That goes back to childhood patterns. It sounds like.

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I don't want to ask.

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I can't ask that.

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Okay.

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Blocked.

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Receiving.

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Number four.

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Pattern flow pattern.

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Yeah, man.

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This is, that was me before for years. Me too.

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It's isn't fun also to celebrate and we should really talk about this

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to celebrate growth in these areas too.

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Right.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Did you just raise your hand Linda?

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Are you just acknowledging.

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Well, I was kind of itching, but I, I also just had a thought.

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You were itching to say something.

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Yeah.

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There's, but there's three of us here that we're single mamas.

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Yeah.

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Women.

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Yeah.

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And there's something about that.

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It's a unique experience because a lot of times,

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if you ask someone who is the husband of a married person,

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that doesn't go well.

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And if you ask other women, you know,

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Judgy comes in.

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I mean, it was just this weird season for me where I just.

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I felt like I had to be super self-reliant.

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Yeah.

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So that's, that's a fallacy. That was a fallacy.

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Yeah.

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You know, once I realized God put a little safety net around me,

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a friends to help me and, you know, hello.

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These were here before this all happened to you.

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Yeah.

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I started utilizing those friends and kind of having them,

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having them allowing them to help me with support.

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Nice.

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Love that.

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Love that. Thank you for Sharon.

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Love that.

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Love that.

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Okay.

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Last one.

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Number four.

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Remember, I always say.

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It has a lot to do with capacity.

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Increase everything.

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Every time you want to increase what you're receiving,

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you must increase the capacity.

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The vessel to hold it.

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Okay.

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And I've given you the example of you can have Niagara falls,

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but you show up with a thimble.

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God is Niagara falls.

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He is pouring out ever abundant.

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so much abundance. He wants to lavish on you. He wants to give to you exceedingly abundantly

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above anything you could ask, hope, or imagine. So it's not the giving end that is broken

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and God is never withholding. You know, when he told Peter to throw the nets on the other

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side and get them to think a little different and do a little different, he didn't just

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give them, okay, you each get one fish for dinner, everybody share. He gave so many fish

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that it almost sunk the boats, took several boats to come help bring in the load of the

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fish. And you see this over and over again. When he multiplied the five fish to feed and

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five loaves to feed the 5,000, he didn't say, look, there's a lot of people here. Everybody

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take a half a cup and one fish. It says that they ate until they were satisfied, they translated,

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they pigged out, and there was still an overflow. I mean, they went to a buffet and they still

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collected the leftovers. So over and over, God is a God that is lavishly giving and we

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have to get this picture. We cannot picture our parents and what our parents taught us

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about giving or our significant whoever in our life influence about giving. So God is

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lavishly giving, but what is our capacity in Niagara Falls? We bring a bucket, we bring

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a tanker truck, like what is our ability? And so when we desire more, but our internal

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or our external container cannot yet hold more, right? So we may need clearer offers

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or better follow-up or stronger pricing. I'm consulting with a company and I'm putting

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in place a lot of things to increase capacity before it comes in. I'm teaching them the

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worst way to be buried is buried by your success. So can you, can you, do you have

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enough raw materials to produce? Can you ship? Is there customer service? Can all of this

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be in place so that if the orders do come pouring in right now, you've got the capacity.

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So I do this all the time in coaching. The capacity is missing somewhere, either in the

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person's internal capacity to receive or the external structure. It might be better money

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management. It might be healthier boundaries. It might be a healthier boundaries, a nervous

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system capacity, more confidence to steward. So number four, so we've got four, withholding

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from fear, overgiving from fear, blocked receiving and limited capacity and limited

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capacity might sound like I desire more clients, but I'm already overwhelmed. Many say that

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I can't even think about having more clients. And so we have to change the capacity. We're

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maybe doing a group model instead of all one-on-ones or we're doing, you know, a lot of things to

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get rid of the overwhelm, right? So not having the structure capacity, I desire more clients,

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but I'm already overwhelmed. I desire more income, but I can't even look at money. I

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don't pay attention. I don't, I don't see like the leaks going out. Like this company

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I consulted for in the first week, I found about $5,000 in leaks right away. I felt like

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Elon Musk, you know, just going and patching leaks, right? So, so this is capacity issues.

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It's like, I desire more income, but I'm not really looking at all of this. Where's this

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money going and what's, what's happening with it, right? I desire bigger opportunities.

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This is another big one I come across with coaching clients. I'm afraid of visibility.

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If I show up, something bad will happen. Sometimes it's literal. I've got clients that,

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you know, there was perpetrators in the past and I don't want them to see me. So keeps

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them forever invisible. Sometimes, um, it was in childhood that whenever they showed

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up, something bad happened. So it was much better to play, play small. I have clients

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like that. And so I want to grow, desire to grow, but I'm afraid of visibility. I desire

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sales, but I don't make clear invitations, clear offers. Okay. So here's what I want

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you to really get from.

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us. Flow is not only about what comes in. It's not just about

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what comes in. It's also about what we can release, receive,

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and steward. Many people say that that what they think they

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need is leads. And as I started going through all the leads that

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they already have that were not stewarded, and we put in place

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something to make sure we're stewarding the leads that they

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already have. These are things I'm always looking at as a

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coach. Okay, there there was one just desiring leads, desiring

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leads. And there was a list of 1000 people that they'd had some

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form of call or lead magnet or something with what's happening

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with those 1000 people. Before we go out here, look for more

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what's happening with these already right here. Okay, that

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falls under number four capacity. So flow is not just

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about I need more leads coming in more clients coming in more

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money coming in. It's not just and that's how we tend to think

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if I can just get more coming in. And yet, how many of you

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have experienced that more keeps coming in and you still

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have the same feeling of lack? I can remember in coaching, if I

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could just make $1,000 a month, that'd be amazing. Wow, if I

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could just make $5,000 a month, that would be amazing. Wow, if I

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could just make $10,000 a month in coaching, that'd be amazing.

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Wow, if I could just and the feeling doesn't go away. Isn't

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that interesting? And I've watched that in the network

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marketing company that I owned, that pattern carried into the

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millions. Because lack is often Lord, it's a mindset, it's not

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what's coming in. So flow isn't only about what's coming in.

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It's what we can release what we can receive and what we can

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steward. Does that make sense? Okay, let's do a little practice

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real quick right now. Take out a piece of paper and draw four

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boxes on a page. Draw four boxes and label them. Release in one

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box, receive in one box, steward in one box, and declare in one

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box. Okay, so four boxes, one of them has release, one of them

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has receive, one of them has steward, and one of them has

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declare. Okay, so we're going to create a simple flow map. And

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this is not about shame. This is about awareness. Awareness is

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the first step. Okay? God can't heal what we keep hidden or what

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we don't see. And he can't grow what we keep surrendering back to

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fear. Okay, so box number one under release. Here's the

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question. Where is God inviting me to release something from

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faith, instead of fear? So for example, and I'm going to give

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you a sentence to write, but an example, encouragement, prayer,

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referral, forgiveness, clear invitation, financial seed,

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follow up, blessing, testimony, conversation, all of those

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things. So here's the sentence. This week, I feel invited to

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release or give release slash give blank. This week, I feel

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invited to release, give blank. This week, I feel invited to

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release, give blank. We were talking at the beginning of the

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call, God bless me, like 16 pounds of bananas, fresh organic

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bananas. It was so exciting to give it just was so amazing to

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just start handing a big bunch of organic bananas to my next

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door neighbor, to Linda, to my friend, Michael, to my daughter,

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etc. Right? Okay. This week, I feel invited to release, give.

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Fill in that sentence.

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Pray about that one. Think about that one.

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Lord, what are you inviting me to give this week?

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What are you inviting me to release this week?

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Sometimes it's release stuff.

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We have to create space for what we want.

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So what came to my mind, I got a bunch of bags of things to take to goodwill.

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Sometimes it's just release stuff.

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Stuff that you're not using.

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That's occupying energy and space. Stuff is heavy.

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Stuff is heavy.

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Can we release a great teaching?

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Release being independent.

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Love that.

497
00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:02.000
Love that.

498
00:36:02.000 --> 00:36:06.000
That's so big.

499
00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:09.000
Such a freeing feeling.

500
00:36:09.000 --> 00:36:12.000
Because I was raised the same way.

501
00:36:12.000 --> 00:36:14.000
Supposed to have it all together all the time.

502
00:36:14.000 --> 00:36:16.000
Independent, strong.

503
00:36:16.000 --> 00:36:19.000
Okay, box two.

504
00:36:19.000 --> 00:36:22.000
Under receive.

505
00:36:22.000 --> 00:36:28.000
This is where we're talking about what do I resist receiving?

506
00:36:28.000 --> 00:36:37.000
So, for example, payment.

507
00:36:37.000 --> 00:36:43.000
Compliments.

508
00:36:43.000 --> 00:36:48.000
I got a friend, every time I compliment him, he comes back with a joke.

509
00:36:49.000 --> 00:36:51.000
I said, can you just say thank you?

510
00:36:51.000 --> 00:36:57.000
That was a compliment. Can you just receive a compliment?

511
00:36:57.000 --> 00:37:00.000
Receive help.

512
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:04.000
Receive support.

513
00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:08.000
Receive opportunity.

514
00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:11.000
Receive visibility.

515
00:37:11.000 --> 00:37:15.000
Receive love.

516
00:37:16.000 --> 00:37:22.000
That's another one in the dating world and the way that we've been taught.

517
00:37:22.000 --> 00:37:25.000
So, men want to give.

518
00:37:25.000 --> 00:37:27.000
A woman was telling me yesterday.

519
00:37:27.000 --> 00:37:31.000
He would take her out and he would want to buy things.

520
00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:33.000
They would go on these dates.

521
00:37:33.000 --> 00:37:38.000
Talking about they went to the pro bass place and he wanted to buy her a cool pair of boots.

522
00:37:38.000 --> 00:37:40.000
She was like, no, no, no. I'll get it.

523
00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:42.000
No, can't receive that.

524
00:37:42.000 --> 00:37:45.000
So, men want to give.

525
00:37:45.000 --> 00:37:47.000
So, men want to give.

526
00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:51.000
They may not receive a gift and yet that's a man's heart.

527
00:37:51.000 --> 00:37:54.000
To want to give.

528
00:37:54.000 --> 00:37:56.000
So, but not receiving love.

529
00:37:56.000 --> 00:37:58.000
Not receiving wisdom.

530
00:37:58.000 --> 00:37:59.000
That's another one.

531
00:37:59.000 --> 00:38:01.000
Just shut down to receiving wisdom.

532
00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:06.000
Referrals.

533
00:38:07.000 --> 00:38:09.000
And so, men want to give.

534
00:38:09.000 --> 00:38:12.000
They want to receive.

535
00:38:12.000 --> 00:38:14.000
They want to receive.

536
00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:16.000
And so, men want to give.

537
00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:18.000
Can I receive clients?

538
00:38:18.000 --> 00:38:20.000
Will I have enough energy? I'm tired. Can I handle it?

539
00:38:20.000 --> 00:38:22.000
Will I be able to deliver?

540
00:38:22.000 --> 00:38:25.000
Is it going to make my calendar too busy? Am I going to lose freedom?

541
00:38:25.000 --> 00:38:27.000
Can I receive, receive abundance.

542
00:38:27.000 --> 00:38:29.000
Receive abundance.

543
00:38:29.000 --> 00:38:31.000
If a huge chunk of change came to you.

544
00:38:31.000 --> 00:38:33.000
And you knew.

545
00:38:34.000 --> 00:38:36.000
And you knew that you were going to receive.

546
00:38:36.000 --> 00:38:38.000
500 million dollars.

547
00:38:38.000 --> 00:38:42.000
Then there's a different fear.

548
00:38:42.000 --> 00:38:45.000
Can I manage that? What about taxes? What do I do with how to.

549
00:38:45.000 --> 00:38:47.000
If someone takes it, what if I lose that? Right.

550
00:38:47.000 --> 00:38:49.000
It's a whole different fear.

551
00:38:49.000 --> 00:38:52.000
So whether you don't have, or you have this fear is driving.

552
00:38:52.000 --> 00:38:59.000
So here's your sentence under receive.

553
00:38:59.000 --> 00:39:02.000
I notice I resist receiving.

554
00:39:02.000 --> 00:39:04.000
Because.

555
00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:06.000
Blank.

556
00:39:06.000 --> 00:39:09.000
I notice I resist.

557
00:39:09.000 --> 00:39:11.000
Receiving.

558
00:39:11.000 --> 00:39:13.000
Blank.

559
00:39:13.000 --> 00:39:15.000
Because.

560
00:39:15.000 --> 00:39:21.000
Blank.

561
00:39:21.000 --> 00:39:23.000
I notice I resist receiving.

562
00:39:23.000 --> 00:39:26.000
What.

563
00:39:26.000 --> 00:39:29.000
Because of.

564
00:39:29.000 --> 00:39:32.000
What.

565
00:39:59.000 --> 00:40:02.000
Blank.

566
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:29.960
Box number three, am I going too quick or too slow?

567
00:40:29.960 --> 00:40:54.040
I'm giving you time, I want you to have time to process this.

568
00:40:54.040 --> 00:41:02.240
Okay, box number three is steward, steward.

569
00:41:02.240 --> 00:41:10.400
So what do I need to strengthen so I can hold what I'm praying for?

570
00:41:10.400 --> 00:41:14.520
What do I need to strengthen so I can hold what I'm praying for?

571
00:41:14.520 --> 00:41:27.120
So for example, do I need to strengthen my pricing or my offer or my clarity or my follow-up?

572
00:41:27.120 --> 00:41:34.700
This is why so often, immediately after breakthrough intensives, clients often come in because

573
00:41:34.700 --> 00:41:38.280
we get that clarified, okay?

574
00:41:38.280 --> 00:41:44.240
So do I need to strengthen my calendar system?

575
00:41:44.240 --> 00:41:48.900
Do I need to strengthen my money tracking?

576
00:41:48.900 --> 00:41:52.880
Do I need to strengthen my boundaries?

577
00:41:52.880 --> 00:41:56.360
Do I need to strengthen my nervous system capacity?

578
00:41:56.360 --> 00:42:01.420
Do I need to strengthen my sales confidence?

579
00:42:01.420 --> 00:42:09.340
Do I need to strengthen my decision-making, but I don't get paralyzed making decisions?

580
00:42:09.340 --> 00:42:14.280
Do I need to strengthen my support systems?

581
00:42:14.280 --> 00:42:19.000
Do I need to strengthen my spiritual practices, my spiritual rhythm?

582
00:42:19.000 --> 00:42:29.320
So here's the sentence, to steward increase, to steward increase, I need to strengthen

583
00:42:29.320 --> 00:42:33.020
blank.

584
00:42:33.020 --> 00:42:45.180
To steward increase, I need to strengthen blank.

585
00:42:45.180 --> 00:42:54.100
To steward increase, I need to strengthen blank.

586
00:42:54.100 --> 00:43:11.020
It's not something that we often think about, stewarding increase.

587
00:43:11.020 --> 00:43:14.780
We get increase, but do we steward it?

588
00:43:14.780 --> 00:43:19.400
And God always gives increase to the one who stewards it.

589
00:43:19.400 --> 00:43:22.580
So every time.

590
00:43:22.580 --> 00:43:32.820
So in order to steward increase, what do I need to strengthen?

591
00:43:32.820 --> 00:43:59.900
Okay, box four, let me know when you guys are ready.

592
00:43:59.900 --> 00:44:09.060
Okay, all right.

593
00:44:09.060 --> 00:44:13.300
Box four, which is the declare box.

594
00:44:13.300 --> 00:44:22.220
This is what we're asking is, what lack-based statement do I need to stop rehearsing?

595
00:44:22.220 --> 00:44:31.580
What have I been saying that I just keep reinforcing, reinforcing, reinforcing, right?

596
00:44:31.580 --> 00:44:38.260
And what word-based declaration will replace it?

597
00:44:38.260 --> 00:44:47.580
So examples, instead of, I constantly say I can't afford it, I declare God is my source

598
00:44:47.580 --> 00:44:51.780
and he gives me wisdom and provision, right?

599
00:44:51.780 --> 00:44:54.860
So what's the habit that you keep on saying?

600
00:44:54.860 --> 00:44:59.260
Instead of saying no one's buying, I can't get clients.

601
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.120
say, God is connecting me with people, I'm called to serve.

602
00:45:08.600 --> 00:45:12.760
I was I was on a Zoom call with a client yesterday, and I said,

603
00:45:12.760 --> 00:45:16.080
you know, one of my favorite ones that I learned like 30 years ago,

604
00:45:16.240 --> 00:45:19.680
happy, motivated people are coming into my business,

605
00:45:19.880 --> 00:45:22.520
happy, motivated people are coming into my business.

606
00:45:22.800 --> 00:45:26.800
And as we were saying that with a client, she goes, oh,

607
00:45:26.960 --> 00:45:29.560
I just got an email for a speaking engagement.

608
00:45:29.600 --> 00:45:31.560
She's looking for speaking engagements.

609
00:45:31.560 --> 00:45:36.120
Right. But we're just like happy, motivated people are coming into my business.

610
00:45:36.120 --> 00:45:40.920
So instead of no one's buying, declare happy, motivated people are coming

611
00:45:40.920 --> 00:45:45.720
into my business or God is connecting me with the people I'm called to serve.

612
00:45:46.360 --> 00:45:48.920
Right. Or another one.

613
00:45:48.920 --> 00:45:51.840
Why often we're pushing away

614
00:45:52.680 --> 00:45:56.560
is the thought I have to do everything alone.

615
00:45:57.280 --> 00:46:02.440
So constantly saying I have to, I have to, I have to.

616
00:46:03.080 --> 00:46:06.280
Learning to replace that with I get to.

617
00:46:06.640 --> 00:46:09.160
I have the privilege of right.

618
00:46:10.120 --> 00:46:12.160
I have to do laundry.

619
00:46:12.960 --> 00:46:16.320
How privileged am I that I have more than one set of clothes?

620
00:46:16.320 --> 00:46:19.240
I've lived in countries where they have two sets of clothes,

621
00:46:19.240 --> 00:46:21.960
one for the cold season and one for the hot season.

622
00:46:21.960 --> 00:46:24.480
And that's it. Everybody's got two sets of clothes.

623
00:46:25.160 --> 00:46:29.040
They put one away at the beginning of the season and the other one comes out.

624
00:46:29.040 --> 00:46:30.800
Right. I have to do.

625
00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:34.520
I am so privileged that I do loads of laundry.

626
00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:38.360
How good God has been to me. Right.

627
00:46:39.080 --> 00:46:42.440
So instead of I have to do everything alone,

628
00:46:42.440 --> 00:46:45.600
declare God surrounds me with support.

629
00:46:46.680 --> 00:46:49.480
With wisdom and divine connections.

630
00:46:55.160 --> 00:46:57.760
I'm bad with money.

631
00:46:57.760 --> 00:47:02.160
Declare I'm learning to steward increase with wisdom and peace.

632
00:47:03.880 --> 00:47:08.320
I'm learning to steward increase with wisdom and peace.

633
00:47:08.320 --> 00:47:10.280
So here's your declaration.

634
00:47:10.280 --> 00:47:13.000
OK, put this in the box.

635
00:47:13.000 --> 00:47:17.440
I break agreement with blank

636
00:47:18.080 --> 00:47:21.360
and I declare blank.

637
00:47:22.360 --> 00:47:27.000
I break agreement with blank.

638
00:47:28.280 --> 00:47:30.000
And I declare.

639
00:47:31.480 --> 00:47:32.240
Blank.

640
00:47:51.360 --> 00:48:07.640
Love that, Tracy, thank you for sharing that.

641
00:48:10.800 --> 00:48:11.400
Beautiful.

642
00:48:22.040 --> 00:48:27.360
Tracy wrote, God provided me with the knowledge now I just have to step aside

643
00:48:27.360 --> 00:48:33.320
and allow him to talk through me to who he desires to assist and help.

644
00:48:34.040 --> 00:48:38.880
I'm the beneficiary here as well as those who he works with.

645
00:48:39.680 --> 00:48:41.880
And now the pressure is off me.

646
00:48:43.680 --> 00:48:47.160
Yeah, beautiful, beautiful.

647
00:48:47.720 --> 00:48:49.840
Beautiful, beautiful.

648
00:48:49.840 --> 00:48:55.200
OK, so in that box you wrote, I break agreement with.

649
00:48:56.240 --> 00:48:59.200
What? And I declare.

650
00:49:01.120 --> 00:49:01.840
What?

651
00:49:18.160 --> 00:49:22.520
OK, look at your flow map, look at the boxes,

652
00:49:22.720 --> 00:49:28.160
which box has the most emotion around it, which one has the most charge?

653
00:49:29.920 --> 00:49:35.080
Is it release, receive, steward, declare, which one carries the most charge?

654
00:49:39.920 --> 00:49:43.360
Because that may be the place God is expanding your capacity.

655
00:49:43.360 --> 00:49:44.240
So let's.

656
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:06.440
let's do an activation and then we'll do some some sharing so put your put your

657
00:50:06.440 --> 00:50:14.240
hand on your heart and put your feet on the ground take a deep breath maybe

658
00:50:14.240 --> 00:50:25.600
close your eyes breathe in hold long exhale

659
00:50:25.600 --> 00:50:41.880
now I want you to repeat after me you can even do a little tapping on your

660
00:50:41.880 --> 00:50:49.760
heart chakras you're repeating some of this okay so repeat after me God is my

661
00:50:49.760 --> 00:50:54.480
source make sure you're saying it out loud don't just look at me I can see

662
00:50:54.480 --> 00:51:00.360
your lips moving okay say it strong and feel it as you're tapping God is my

663
00:51:00.360 --> 00:51:13.640
source I do not have to live under lack I'm safe to receive what fear told me to

664
00:51:13.640 --> 00:51:24.720
grip I'm safe to receive I'm safe to receive what God desires to bring just

665
00:51:24.720 --> 00:51:30.000
feel it feel it things coming to you clients coming to you income coming to

666
00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:34.320
you as you're tapping your heart friends coming to you love coming to you

667
00:51:34.320 --> 00:51:39.200
abundance coming to you feel like coming to you you don't have to actually see

668
00:51:39.200 --> 00:51:45.760
you just feel it coming into your life as you tap and as you tap say I'm safe

669
00:51:45.760 --> 00:51:54.800
to receive what God desires to bless me with I'm safe I'm safe to steward

670
00:51:54.800 --> 00:52:04.240
increase with wisdom see yourself handling it well I'm safe to hold more

671
00:52:04.240 --> 00:52:18.440
peace I'm safe to hold more provision I'm safe to hold more visibility I'm

672
00:52:18.440 --> 00:52:30.120
safe to hold more clients I'm safe to hold more support I break agreement with

673
00:52:30.120 --> 00:52:39.360
lack and scarcity and I come into agreement with Kingdom flow

674
00:52:42.160 --> 00:52:50.360
and then just ask the Lord to speak Lord what's the one next right action from

675
00:52:50.360 --> 00:53:01.440
this flow map Lord what's the next right action from the flow map what's

676
00:53:01.440 --> 00:53:05.880
the next right action from the flow map

677
00:53:06.240 --> 00:53:13.760
write that down make sure you do it today obedience so it might be make an

678
00:53:13.760 --> 00:53:19.280
offer it might be set the invoice it might be blessed someone might be

679
00:53:19.280 --> 00:53:25.480
organized your finances it might be asked for help might be update pricing

680
00:53:25.480 --> 00:53:37.880
create a clear package all of it okay have a powerful sales conversation

681
00:53:38.160 --> 00:53:40.200
you

682
00:53:42.560 --> 00:53:49.120
so Colette we're constantly this is a beautiful flow just think about the

683
00:53:49.120 --> 00:53:55.720
trees the trees are releasing oxygen but they're receiving carbon dioxide we're

684
00:53:55.720 --> 00:54:00.200
breathing in and receiving the oxygen and we're breathing out the carbon

685
00:54:00.200 --> 00:54:06.040
dioxide so this is not like a choppy thing that I got to do step a to do step

686
00:54:06.040 --> 00:54:13.560
B it's just just this flow I receive I give I give I receive but yes

687
00:54:13.560 --> 00:54:19.920
activating if you're feeling stuck activating by releasing meaning giving

688
00:54:19.920 --> 00:54:28.600
absolutely okay love that okay let's let's do this let's take just we've got

689
00:54:28.640 --> 00:54:37.560
just a couple minutes can you just in a popcorn way share what really you

690
00:54:37.560 --> 00:54:44.360
noticed today what stood out to you what what was the big takeaway what was your

691
00:54:44.360 --> 00:54:54.080
aha today you can just unmute if you need to type you can type what did you

692
00:54:54.080 --> 00:54:59.520
notice what stood out in the release received steward declare what's your

693
00:54:59.520 --> 00:55:01.920
next

694
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.680
action, please share.

695
00:55:17.760 --> 00:55:20.880
Okay, I'm just gonna put this out there that I feel like I'm a

696
00:55:20.880 --> 00:55:26.320
kink toes. Like there's each one has its little thing that has

697
00:55:26.320 --> 00:55:33.280
that I call to do so that goes. Great awareness. Yeah, it's

698
00:55:33.280 --> 00:55:36.840
often not in just one. So great awareness that awareness leads

699
00:55:36.840 --> 00:55:40.480
to so much transformation. How beautiful. Thank you for

700
00:55:40.480 --> 00:55:44.560
sharing. Anybody else?

701
00:55:56.320 --> 00:56:05.880
No takeaways, no. Honestly, Brenda, I thought everything was

702
00:56:05.880 --> 00:56:09.560
really good. I really like being more aware of the flow

703
00:56:09.560 --> 00:56:15.200
patterns, because I wasn't aware of those, especially, you know,

704
00:56:15.200 --> 00:56:23.680
receive releasing. And also, you know, declaring and stewarding

705
00:56:23.680 --> 00:56:28.520
and all that. It was just, it was more like an eye opener for

706
00:56:28.520 --> 00:56:37.440
me. Because I do have the agreement, you know, with with

707
00:56:37.440 --> 00:56:42.640
lack in the statement that I'm rehearsing, even though when I

708
00:56:42.680 --> 00:56:49.680
don't think I'm doing it, it is in a different way coming up.

709
00:56:49.680 --> 00:56:54.360
Yeah, you know, constantly. So I just need to be more aware of

710
00:56:54.360 --> 00:56:59.680
it. And like you said, just, you know, shift my mindset of, you

711
00:56:59.680 --> 00:57:04.520
know, turning it into a positive. Instead of, you know, I

712
00:57:04.520 --> 00:57:08.000
don't have this or I don't have enough of this or I'm not, you

713
00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:11.120
know, getting clients and you know, everything like that. So I

714
00:57:11.120 --> 00:57:18.880
just I just like how you shifted the mindset into, you know, like,

715
00:57:18.880 --> 00:57:22.160
you know, I'm learning or God is connecting me or, you know,

716
00:57:22.560 --> 00:57:25.200
things like that. So I just need to speak and I just need to

717
00:57:25.200 --> 00:57:26.680
declare more things.

718
00:57:26.800 --> 00:57:32.280
Love it. Love it. Yeah. I'm telling you, words are power

719
00:57:32.280 --> 00:57:38.120
packed, like packets of energy. And so declarations are like no

720
00:57:38.120 --> 00:57:45.040
joke. Just I'm learning to do it every way I turn on now music,

721
00:57:45.080 --> 00:57:50.120
I've got sets of music that are just just biblical powerhouse

722
00:57:50.160 --> 00:57:54.680
and, and beautiful and motivating. And just whether I'm

723
00:57:54.680 --> 00:58:00.280
singing it, I'm speaking it on my walk, like declarations out

724
00:58:00.280 --> 00:58:05.840
loud, like shift the atmosphere. So I love that. I love that

725
00:58:05.840 --> 00:58:09.440
you're saying that Amanda, congratulations, good awareness,

726
00:58:09.440 --> 00:58:13.400
good awareness. And Colette, okay, the four flow patterns

727
00:58:13.400 --> 00:58:18.280
were eye opening. Thank you for sharing. Awesome. Okay, it's

728
00:58:18.280 --> 00:58:21.600
funny. It's funny that we said the same thing. I was typing

729
00:58:21.600 --> 00:58:26.800
that when she was saying that. I agree with what Linda said, too.

730
00:58:27.040 --> 00:58:31.280
I'm just blown away by today's call on zoom, even though it was

731
00:58:31.280 --> 00:58:34.040
hard for me to get in. It's like, something out there

732
00:58:34.040 --> 00:58:36.360
doesn't want me to get what you're giving, but I'm

733
00:58:36.360 --> 00:58:40.120
determined. So I got in but the connection is not great. So if I

734
00:58:40.160 --> 00:58:43.480
sound funny, I apologize. But thank you all for sharing with

735
00:58:43.480 --> 00:58:48.480
us. The four flow patterns just blew me away because I'm like,

736
00:58:48.480 --> 00:58:52.480
wow. And there's so much to today's lesson. I'll have to go

737
00:58:52.480 --> 00:58:56.680
back and rewatch and write some more notes and read what I wrote

738
00:58:56.680 --> 00:58:59.480
because I am just blown away. Thank you for everything.

739
00:59:00.160 --> 00:59:03.120
Thank you for sharing that. I'm so glad that it blessed you

740
00:59:03.120 --> 00:59:09.480
sister. Love that. And let me see Tracy said, mindless the

741
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last I need to release doing everything my way and get out of

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the way. Beautiful, beautiful. All right, ladies. Thank you for

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sharing. Let's jump on over to office hours. Just remember that

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this shift today, we're not just trying to get more. We're

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becoming women that can release, receive and steward from peace.

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Okay, until next time, blessings.