WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.760 Hello, it is Monday, July 6th. 2 00:00:04.760 --> 00:00:08.119 This is the Heart Check-in with all these great guys. 3 00:00:08.119 --> 00:00:13.440 And so, David, usually how we start out with 4 00:00:13.440 --> 00:00:15.760 is like seeing anybody's wins. 5 00:00:15.760 --> 00:00:17.920 Like, Hunter, you got a win, dude? 6 00:00:17.920 --> 00:00:18.960 Come on, bro. 7 00:00:18.960 --> 00:00:20.240 Yes, I do. 8 00:00:20.240 --> 00:00:20.960 Bring it. 9 00:00:20.960 --> 00:00:22.360 Like, what's going on? 10 00:00:22.360 --> 00:00:24.560 You know, there's lust and self-gratification. 11 00:00:24.560 --> 00:00:29.240 I went an entire, I've gone the entire month of, 12 00:00:29.240 --> 00:00:32.439 a month of not looking at porn in June. 13 00:00:32.439 --> 00:00:37.320 And I went nine days in a row without self-gratification. 14 00:00:37.320 --> 00:00:41.680 And I wanted to say, I really had urges today. 15 00:00:41.680 --> 00:00:45.000 I could have given and released, but I didn't. 16 00:00:45.000 --> 00:00:46.960 Well, good job, dude. 17 00:00:46.960 --> 00:00:51.560 Basically, right now, if I go to bed, 18 00:00:51.560 --> 00:00:53.360 it's going to be eight days in a row. 19 00:00:53.360 --> 00:00:56.360 And this week, I'm going to break the record. 20 00:00:56.360 --> 00:00:57.000 Amen. 21 00:00:57.040 --> 00:00:59.960 And set it to, like, never. 22 00:00:59.960 --> 00:01:01.000 That's amazing. 23 00:01:01.000 --> 00:01:02.360 No, no, no. 24 00:01:02.360 --> 00:01:04.840 It says, flee from sexual harassment. 25 00:01:04.840 --> 00:01:08.400 Not take break, pause, and rest. 26 00:01:08.400 --> 00:01:11.120 No, no, and here's the thing. 27 00:01:11.120 --> 00:01:13.160 It's like you're rewiring your brain. 28 00:01:13.160 --> 00:01:15.400 You're rewiring your neural pathways. 29 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:16.560 And you're redoing things. 30 00:01:16.560 --> 00:01:21.080 So the longer that you go, the less hold it has on you. 31 00:01:21.080 --> 00:01:23.080 You guys, I don't know if it's actually, Hunter, 32 00:01:23.080 --> 00:01:26.040 it's funny that you talk about that because I had something 33 00:01:26.080 --> 00:01:28.440 happen with a guy who I've been mentoring this week, 34 00:01:28.440 --> 00:01:29.440 and that came up. 35 00:01:29.440 --> 00:01:31.400 And I wanted to talk about that because I'm 36 00:01:31.400 --> 00:01:33.920 all for helping you guys with your relationships 37 00:01:33.920 --> 00:01:36.360 that are coming and to get ready for them. 38 00:01:36.360 --> 00:01:38.360 But Hunter, dude, I'm super proud of you, bro. 39 00:01:38.360 --> 00:01:39.520 That's amazing. 40 00:01:39.520 --> 00:01:41.840 Keep it up and rewire all those neural pathways. 41 00:01:41.840 --> 00:01:42.320 I know. 42 00:01:42.320 --> 00:01:45.200 And I was talking to one girl in church. 43 00:01:45.200 --> 00:01:46.840 She informed me. 44 00:01:46.840 --> 00:01:49.600 I didn't text and instigate, but she just replied saying, 45 00:01:49.600 --> 00:01:51.040 there's no church because of power. 46 00:01:51.040 --> 00:01:52.040 I was like, oh. 47 00:01:52.040 --> 00:01:54.960 Basically, I want to start a relationship. 48 00:01:54.960 --> 00:01:57.840 And then I'm able to connect with women more. 49 00:01:57.840 --> 00:01:59.040 More of a walking up. 50 00:01:59.040 --> 00:02:02.160 It's becoming more than rather than me trying it out, 51 00:02:02.160 --> 00:02:03.360 God brings them in my path. 52 00:02:03.360 --> 00:02:07.760 And I instantly feel like I am connected and natural. 53 00:02:07.760 --> 00:02:10.160 Well, and like, yeah, dude, when you're chasing, 54 00:02:10.160 --> 00:02:10.840 it never worked. 55 00:02:10.840 --> 00:02:15.040 Well, pursuing versus chasing, guys. 56 00:02:15.040 --> 00:02:16.640 Like, pursuing the girl. 57 00:02:16.640 --> 00:02:18.280 I'm not going to chase and try and chase. 58 00:02:18.280 --> 00:02:20.720 And Hunter, what did I say a couple of weeks ago? 59 00:02:20.720 --> 00:02:23.600 Just chill and let it come to you, right? 60 00:02:23.600 --> 00:02:27.400 You know, when you go, if you play baseball, 61 00:02:27.400 --> 00:02:31.320 if you go chasing balls, you don't usually miss them. 62 00:02:31.320 --> 00:02:33.000 Like, especially high fastballs. 63 00:02:33.000 --> 00:02:33.840 Those are my favorite. 64 00:02:33.840 --> 00:02:35.000 And you can never hit them. 65 00:02:35.000 --> 00:02:37.240 But Mr. David, what's going on? 66 00:02:40.880 --> 00:02:42.400 My phone's about to die. 67 00:02:42.400 --> 00:02:46.560 No, I wanted to ask Hunter some clarification. 68 00:02:46.560 --> 00:02:47.920 This thing's about to die. 69 00:02:47.920 --> 00:02:48.800 Hold on. 70 00:02:48.800 --> 00:02:49.320 What's up? 71 00:02:50.320 --> 00:02:51.200 Give me a minute. 72 00:02:51.200 --> 00:02:52.800 My phone's about to die. 73 00:02:52.800 --> 00:02:56.600 I was just going to ask you how they were coming to you. 74 00:02:56.600 --> 00:02:59.240 But I got to charge my phone. 75 00:02:59.240 --> 00:03:01.840 Well, basically, I want to think about, 76 00:03:01.840 --> 00:03:04.160 how about I treat others the way I want to be treated? 77 00:03:04.160 --> 00:03:05.920 If they're not coming for me, I'm just not. 78 00:03:05.920 --> 00:03:08.280 If they don't want to talk to me, I don't talk to them. 79 00:03:08.280 --> 00:03:10.360 And fortunately, I just approached them. 80 00:03:10.360 --> 00:03:11.920 I tried to connect, thinking, got 81 00:03:11.920 --> 00:03:14.280 to know this one lady a little while. 82 00:03:14.280 --> 00:03:16.280 And I was thinking, I want to connect. 83 00:03:16.280 --> 00:03:18.280 And I was like, OK, I'm going to talk to you. 84 00:03:18.280 --> 00:03:21.680 I want to connect and basically build intimateship 85 00:03:21.680 --> 00:03:23.480 and communicate like friends. 86 00:03:23.480 --> 00:03:26.720 And of course, some people who know me 87 00:03:26.720 --> 00:03:29.480 saw some green flags I can budget and do whatever. 88 00:03:29.480 --> 00:03:30.840 And she's working on that, too. 89 00:03:30.840 --> 00:03:32.760 And they said, just be patient with it. 90 00:03:32.760 --> 00:03:35.220 Don't try and make it happen and throw the friendship away. 91 00:03:35.220 --> 00:03:37.520 Because she and I are friends and brothers and sisters 92 00:03:37.520 --> 00:03:38.680 in Christ. 93 00:03:38.680 --> 00:03:42.520 And then I also try to not respond as a way of wasting. 94 00:03:42.520 --> 00:03:44.400 There's a difference between you text 95 00:03:44.400 --> 00:03:46.960 as a way to respond and waste time versus texting, 96 00:03:46.960 --> 00:03:50.560 because you want to validate them, make them feel validated. 97 00:03:50.560 --> 00:03:52.840 And I want to say, don't talk to an instigator 98 00:03:52.840 --> 00:03:54.600 until they feel validated. 99 00:03:54.600 --> 00:03:58.360 Basically, you want to try and build up on it. 100 00:03:58.360 --> 00:04:01.160 And I even told her, I want this for the right reasons. 101 00:04:01.160 --> 00:04:02.920 And she's like, yeah, that's great. 102 00:04:02.920 --> 00:04:06.160 And we just chat and connect. 103 00:04:06.160 --> 00:04:08.480 And I think it's just her connecting, 104 00:04:08.480 --> 00:04:12.880 rather than try to go out and manipulate and make it happen. 105 00:04:12.880 --> 00:04:21.399 Yeah, well, OK, so when you're chasing, 106 00:04:21.399 --> 00:04:23.120 women feel desperation. 107 00:04:23.120 --> 00:04:23.640 Yes. 108 00:04:23.640 --> 00:04:25.920 When you're resting, they don't feel the desperation. 109 00:04:25.920 --> 00:04:27.800 And desperation is not dignifying. 110 00:04:27.800 --> 00:04:28.920 Well, it's not dignifying. 111 00:04:28.920 --> 00:04:30.400 It's not attractive. 112 00:04:30.400 --> 00:04:31.040 They don't care. 113 00:04:31.040 --> 00:04:32.800 They don't want somebody who's desperate. 114 00:04:32.800 --> 00:04:35.240 They actually want to be pursued. 115 00:04:35.240 --> 00:04:39.360 But anyway, but you're doing really great, Hunter. 116 00:04:39.360 --> 00:04:40.720 Just let it come to you. 117 00:04:40.720 --> 00:04:42.240 Hey, Mr. Rodney, I see your hand up. 118 00:04:42.240 --> 00:04:42.880 What's going on? 119 00:04:47.000 --> 00:04:48.600 Yeah, hey, guys. 120 00:04:48.600 --> 00:04:51.120 I just had a win I wanted to share. 121 00:04:51.120 --> 00:04:52.320 Oh, sweet. 122 00:04:52.320 --> 00:04:56.040 Yeah, so I got Jackie's new book. 123 00:04:56.040 --> 00:04:59.480 I think it was a little over a week ago. 124 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:07.360 reading that. Really good, really good. I got to the point 125 00:05:07.360 --> 00:05:12.480 where I've created my, I forget what it's called. But there's 126 00:05:12.480 --> 00:05:16.600 the kind of three to five people, your core. Yeah, core 127 00:05:16.600 --> 00:05:20.440 people that you can that that are there to kind of support 128 00:05:20.440 --> 00:05:27.760 you. And yeah, yeah, you know, circle. So I've created the 129 00:05:27.760 --> 00:05:32.040 list. I haven't reached out to them yet. But I have three 130 00:05:32.040 --> 00:05:37.320 people in mind that I want to that I feel would be solid 131 00:05:37.320 --> 00:05:43.640 people that I can trust. You know, that I can be myself with 132 00:05:43.680 --> 00:05:49.560 be honest with all that. And then another win is I, I've 133 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:52.840 been going to the singles group at my church. Now, I want to 134 00:05:52.840 --> 00:05:57.400 say about two months now. We meet every other every other 135 00:05:57.400 --> 00:06:04.120 week. And I want to say it's it seems like a pretty good group, 136 00:06:04.120 --> 00:06:10.160 pretty healthy people there. And kind of a good mix of guys and 137 00:06:10.160 --> 00:06:14.640 gals kind of all ages, you know, young, probably 20s up to, you 138 00:06:14.640 --> 00:06:22.760 know, 60s. Okay. But yeah, doing that. And for me, it's just, I 139 00:06:22.760 --> 00:06:25.440 don't know if there's anyone I'm interested in, but just just 140 00:06:25.440 --> 00:06:29.000 to get that fellowship just to get practice, you know, talking 141 00:06:29.000 --> 00:06:31.480 to women and all that. So 142 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:35.920 and get in the mode and get in get some Yeah, dude, great job, 143 00:06:35.920 --> 00:06:41.360 dude. Like, you know, it's like you can prepare before. You can 144 00:06:41.360 --> 00:06:43.840 you can you don't have to just jump in it, you can roll roll 145 00:06:43.840 --> 00:06:47.440 into it, right. But you know, it's really hard to go from a 146 00:06:47.440 --> 00:06:49.280 stop to a start. You know, I mean, 147 00:06:49.960 --> 00:06:52.400 yeah, it's been a while. It's been a while for me. And I did 148 00:06:52.400 --> 00:06:56.640 want to say make a comment about the artwork. It took me 149 00:06:56.640 --> 00:07:00.680 about two months to go through it. You know, I wanted to take 150 00:07:00.680 --> 00:07:05.000 my time and kind of really dig in and you know, a lot of stuff 151 00:07:05.000 --> 00:07:08.560 was coming up. And honestly, stuff is still coming up for me. 152 00:07:08.560 --> 00:07:13.240 You know, I had some come up pretty big the other day. So you 153 00:07:13.240 --> 00:07:18.320 know, I'm I'm in no rush to get out there. And I just want to 154 00:07:18.880 --> 00:07:24.160 keep digging in, keep learning and and just give myself time. 155 00:07:24.320 --> 00:07:26.000 Not not rushing at all. 156 00:07:27.600 --> 00:07:30.640 Yeah, I mean, like, and that's really important is like, so I 157 00:07:30.640 --> 00:07:33.080 mean, if you if you blow through the hard work, the only person 158 00:07:33.080 --> 00:07:37.880 that you're like, the you're, you're, you're jipping 159 00:07:37.880 --> 00:07:41.160 yourself, you're Yeah, you know, you're, you're, you're taking 160 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:43.800 from yourself. Because the whole point of hard work is to have 161 00:07:43.800 --> 00:07:47.280 skills and to get free. And to like be able to navigate things 162 00:07:47.280 --> 00:07:51.120 better and faster. And, and I've always I mean, I don't know 163 00:07:51.120 --> 00:07:53.640 what I forgot what Jackie said. But I've always said, if you 164 00:07:53.640 --> 00:07:55.800 don't fix the crazy in you, you're gonna be attracted to the 165 00:07:55.800 --> 00:07:59.080 crazy and others. And like the broken parts of you will be 166 00:07:59.080 --> 00:08:02.000 attracted to broken parts of others. And so if you find 167 00:08:02.000 --> 00:08:04.680 somebody you have massive chemistry with, it might be your 168 00:08:04.680 --> 00:08:08.440 brokenness is coming together. Usually a healthy relationship 169 00:08:08.440 --> 00:08:12.720 is more of a slow burn, a slow start. Not that there can't be a 170 00:08:12.720 --> 00:08:17.320 spark, but like that it's, it's, it's not. It's not an 171 00:08:17.320 --> 00:08:23.240 inferno, right? And then as you go, it is cultivated and grows 172 00:08:23.240 --> 00:08:26.920 and, you know, and, and it's more than just the physical 173 00:08:26.920 --> 00:08:30.440 attraction. It's the emotional, the spiritual and the 174 00:08:31.200 --> 00:08:36.039 intellectual attraction to so good job, Roddy. Yeah. Good job 175 00:08:36.039 --> 00:08:39.039 picking your circle to that was hard for me, dude. Like I gotta 176 00:08:39.039 --> 00:08:43.320 say, I was even harder given, like giving them the, the green 177 00:08:43.320 --> 00:08:47.960 light to go and, and set me up. You know, I wanted to say one 178 00:08:47.960 --> 00:08:53.680 more thing, just this hard work. It's, it's so good. And, you 179 00:08:53.680 --> 00:08:57.880 know, I've done, I've done years of counseling and, yeah, and all 180 00:08:57.880 --> 00:09:02.400 that. But just the way it's structured, the way it really 181 00:09:02.400 --> 00:09:06.960 targets, you know, the lie and replace it with the truth. And 182 00:09:06.960 --> 00:09:10.480 then there was something in the book that there was a question 183 00:09:10.480 --> 00:09:15.400 that Jackie asked. I think it was something about community or 184 00:09:15.400 --> 00:09:19.600 connection. I can't remember exactly, but there's a question 185 00:09:19.600 --> 00:09:23.720 I've, I've never, never heard, you know, no pastor had asked me 186 00:09:23.720 --> 00:09:27.000 that question. No counselor had ever asked me that question. And 187 00:09:27.000 --> 00:09:32.200 it just, it, it hit something so deep in me. And it was just like, 188 00:09:32.200 --> 00:09:32.760 wow. 189 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:35.400 Is that in Modern Dating Sucks? Is that what you're talking 190 00:09:35.400 --> 00:09:35.640 about? 191 00:09:35.640 --> 00:09:36.280 Yeah. 192 00:09:36.320 --> 00:09:38.600 Okay. That's where, that's where you got that. Okay. I just 193 00:09:38.600 --> 00:09:41.360 wanted to clarify for anybody who's listening. I was like, 194 00:09:41.520 --> 00:09:43.560 because I thought you'd already done the hard work. So there's, 195 00:09:43.560 --> 00:09:48.560 it makes it, so yeah. Okay. So I have to say, like, I came to 196 00:09:48.560 --> 00:09:54.760 Jackie's group, hung up on somebody, hung up is, yeah, I 197 00:09:54.760 --> 00:09:59.920 guess that's an accurate word. And like, I've done 30 years of 198 00:09:59.920 --> 00:10:00.120 counseling. 199 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.640 I've been through so much trauma, and I've been healed from every PTSD that you can have, 200 00:10:05.640 --> 00:10:10.600 but the way Jackie did the heart work is so amazing. 201 00:10:10.600 --> 00:10:12.840 She amalgamates everything really well, right? 202 00:10:12.840 --> 00:10:13.840 Sorry, Tim. 203 00:10:13.840 --> 00:10:16.880 I've got to put my glasses on. 204 00:10:16.880 --> 00:10:17.880 Oh, yeah. 205 00:10:17.880 --> 00:10:26.720 Everybody's wondering what the Chris update is, but great job, Rodney. 206 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:27.720 That's amazing. 207 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:30.560 Way to do the work. 208 00:10:30.560 --> 00:10:34.080 I mean, the heart work works. 209 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:35.640 Getting your circle works. 210 00:10:35.640 --> 00:10:39.400 Hey, Chris, can you talk? 211 00:10:39.400 --> 00:10:41.240 Everybody wants the latest update from the ... 212 00:10:41.240 --> 00:10:47.840 Yeah, that's ... I'm about to disappoint every single one of you, so ... 213 00:10:47.840 --> 00:10:48.840 Oh, no. 214 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:52.280 As long as you're not disappointed, that's ... 215 00:10:52.280 --> 00:10:55.280 Oh, I'm extremely disappointed. 216 00:10:55.280 --> 00:10:56.280 Oh, no. 217 00:10:56.320 --> 00:10:57.320 I don't know. 218 00:10:57.320 --> 00:10:58.320 But ... 219 00:10:58.320 --> 00:10:59.320 Hop in. 220 00:10:59.320 --> 00:11:00.320 I don't know. 221 00:11:00.320 --> 00:11:16.480 It's ... Yeah, so last week, I kind of talked about it from the people who were there, and 222 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:17.480 then that next week, she ... 223 00:11:17.480 --> 00:11:21.600 Is it me, or is he freezing? 224 00:11:21.600 --> 00:11:22.600 He's freezing. 225 00:11:22.600 --> 00:11:23.600 Darn connect. 226 00:11:23.600 --> 00:11:24.600 Yeah. 227 00:11:24.600 --> 00:11:35.440 Worked really tough for her, and her family were like, we texted Wednesday night, and 228 00:11:35.440 --> 00:11:36.440 I didn't hear any ... 229 00:11:36.440 --> 00:11:41.440 You're cutting out really bad. 230 00:11:41.440 --> 00:11:45.880 And y'all ... Yeah, y'all want to talk to me when I'm going over the hill. 231 00:11:45.880 --> 00:11:48.880 That's always how it is. 232 00:11:49.880 --> 00:11:55.880 Well, can you ... When you get over the hill, would you jump back in? 233 00:11:55.880 --> 00:11:58.880 Take clarity. 234 00:11:58.880 --> 00:11:59.880 Yeah. 235 00:11:59.880 --> 00:12:00.880 All right. 236 00:12:00.880 --> 00:12:01.880 You got me now? 237 00:12:01.880 --> 00:12:02.880 I got over the hill. 238 00:12:02.880 --> 00:12:03.880 All right. 239 00:12:03.880 --> 00:12:04.880 Cool. 240 00:12:04.880 --> 00:12:05.880 Okay. 241 00:12:05.880 --> 00:12:06.880 Restart the story over. 242 00:12:06.880 --> 00:12:07.880 That was quick. 243 00:12:07.880 --> 00:12:08.880 So, yeah. 244 00:12:08.880 --> 00:12:09.880 So, yeah. 245 00:12:09.880 --> 00:12:10.880 Bad news. 246 00:12:10.880 --> 00:12:11.880 You're going to disappoint us. 247 00:12:11.880 --> 00:12:12.880 And then we heard ... That was about it. 248 00:12:12.880 --> 00:12:13.880 All right. 249 00:12:13.880 --> 00:12:18.520 Well, I ... So, she had some ... We had a great date a couple weeks ago. 250 00:12:18.520 --> 00:12:21.520 It's actually closer to three now. 251 00:12:21.520 --> 00:12:25.520 She was having some ... Really busy at work. 252 00:12:25.520 --> 00:12:29.520 It's a silly season for summer for her. 253 00:12:29.520 --> 00:12:30.520 And she had family in town. 254 00:12:30.520 --> 00:12:36.520 So, we texted Wednesday a couple weeks ago, and then I didn't hear from her from Thursday, 255 00:12:36.520 --> 00:12:37.520 Friday, Saturday. 256 00:12:37.520 --> 00:12:40.520 She texted me like 5.30 Sunday night. 257 00:12:40.520 --> 00:12:43.520 And at that point, I thought she ghosted me. 258 00:12:43.520 --> 00:12:45.520 Like, I had texted her, no response. 259 00:12:45.520 --> 00:12:49.520 I sent her flowers on that Friday, because I knew I wasn't going to see her. 260 00:12:49.520 --> 00:12:53.520 And I thought, cute little gesture, you know, since we aren't going to have a date. 261 00:12:53.520 --> 00:12:58.520 I figured, you know, her and her sister might have a little conversation about flowers showing 262 00:12:58.520 --> 00:12:59.520 up to her house. 263 00:12:59.520 --> 00:13:00.520 Nothing. 264 00:13:00.520 --> 00:13:01.520 No, like, hey, thanks for the flowers. 265 00:13:01.520 --> 00:13:02.520 No. 266 00:13:02.520 --> 00:13:05.520 And I'm like, all right, well, that's it. 267 00:13:05.520 --> 00:13:10.520 Sunday night, she texted me like nothing happened, which it didn't, I guess, in her mind. 268 00:13:10.520 --> 00:13:14.520 So, we kind of had a conversation about like, hey, I understand you're not texting me, but 269 00:13:14.520 --> 00:13:16.520 like, maybe proof of life. 270 00:13:16.520 --> 00:13:19.520 Like, are you still, did somebody abduct you? 271 00:13:19.520 --> 00:13:25.520 Yeah, like, you know, let's not go 48 to 72 hours without just maybe saying, hey, I'm 272 00:13:25.520 --> 00:13:26.520 real busy. 273 00:13:26.520 --> 00:13:28.520 I'll text you back in a second or something. 274 00:13:28.520 --> 00:13:32.520 She was talking about, a little bit about, she's got a coworker that's been harassing 275 00:13:32.520 --> 00:13:33.520 her via texting. 276 00:13:33.520 --> 00:13:37.520 So, she, you know, conceivably, I could see she was not answering her phone for, and it 277 00:13:37.520 --> 00:13:38.520 got away from her. 278 00:13:38.520 --> 00:13:39.520 She did apologize. 279 00:13:39.520 --> 00:13:41.520 She apologized for not texting me about the flowers. 280 00:13:41.520 --> 00:13:42.520 Okay, fine. 281 00:13:42.520 --> 00:13:43.520 Cool. 282 00:13:43.520 --> 00:13:44.520 So, we're going to go out on a date. 283 00:13:44.520 --> 00:13:45.520 We're going to go out. 284 00:13:45.520 --> 00:13:48.520 So, this past Friday, we're going to go out. 285 00:13:48.520 --> 00:13:53.520 She texted me about 30 minutes before I'm going to go pick her up. 286 00:13:53.520 --> 00:13:54.520 She says, hey, I'm feeling really sick. 287 00:13:54.520 --> 00:13:55.520 I thought I could kick it. 288 00:13:55.520 --> 00:13:59.520 I got to, you know, I have to bow out. 289 00:13:59.520 --> 00:14:02.520 You know, I'll try to make it up to you. 290 00:14:02.520 --> 00:14:05.520 And I'm like, yeah, okay, I understand. 291 00:14:05.520 --> 00:14:09.520 You know, made some joke about, she's going to forget what my face looks like. 292 00:14:09.520 --> 00:14:14.520 But she said, hey, when you're feeling better, just, you know, text me. 293 00:14:14.520 --> 00:14:18.520 And, you know, I'd like to hear from you or whatever. 294 00:14:18.520 --> 00:14:19.520 And that was the last thing. 295 00:14:19.520 --> 00:14:21.520 So, that was Friday evening. 296 00:14:21.520 --> 00:14:23.520 I haven't heard, I had no hear from her. 297 00:14:23.520 --> 00:14:27.520 So, I understand she's sick. 298 00:14:27.520 --> 00:14:33.520 But, you know, at this point, I think where I'm at is I do want to go out to coffee and 299 00:14:33.520 --> 00:14:36.520 just be like, hey, let's talk. 300 00:14:36.520 --> 00:14:39.520 It might be that she just doesn't have time in her life for me. 301 00:14:39.520 --> 00:14:41.520 It was hard enough. 302 00:14:41.520 --> 00:14:44.520 Doesn't she have multiple gigs? 303 00:14:44.520 --> 00:14:46.520 She does multiple gigs and stuff, right? 304 00:14:46.520 --> 00:14:47.520 Yeah. 305 00:14:47.520 --> 00:14:48.520 I mean, she's got like Friday. 306 00:14:48.520 --> 00:14:51.520 She's got, or excuse me, she's got Monday job. 307 00:14:51.520 --> 00:14:53.520 And then she's got Tuesday through Saturday job. 308 00:14:53.520 --> 00:14:57.520 And it's like, then some days she was working Sundays and still had a couple weeks. 309 00:14:57.520 --> 00:14:59.520 And so, like, I understand. 310 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:04.400 be that she's just, she doesn't have room for me in her life. 311 00:15:04.480 --> 00:15:07.600 Um, I just said, I'm, I'm just like, 312 00:15:08.400 --> 00:15:09.480 disappointed. Yeah. 313 00:15:09.920 --> 00:15:14.160 Cool. Uh, I, I, I'd like to know, and that's why I kind of want to have one 314 00:15:14.160 --> 00:15:18.280 more just chat with her about, I like to know, Hey, was it something that 315 00:15:18.280 --> 00:15:22.000 happens and our date? And it just was like, Hey, you know, I didn't like that. 316 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:22.880 I don't think it's that. 317 00:15:24.320 --> 00:15:27.760 So, I mean, it just sounds like she's been too shy to tell me. 318 00:15:30.760 --> 00:15:35.080 Well, I mean, I think it's good to have that question, but also to be open to 319 00:15:35.080 --> 00:15:40.800 the process that she's just burnout and sick, right. You know, and like, you 320 00:15:40.800 --> 00:15:46.080 know, so one of the things that I, um, this has bit me in the butt so many 321 00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:53.080 times, cause I, you know, uh, and, and, and I'm sorry, dude, that's, um, like 322 00:15:53.080 --> 00:15:57.080 I hate when people don't talk, leave me on unread or they don't respond, right. 323 00:15:57.680 --> 00:15:58.240 You know? 324 00:15:58.600 --> 00:16:05.680 Um, and so, but just think the best, but, but happy, honest conversation. 325 00:16:06.360 --> 00:16:09.720 Like, was it something I did or are you just really just, are you tapped out? 326 00:16:11.280 --> 00:16:11.720 Right. 327 00:16:11.960 --> 00:16:12.120 Yeah. 328 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:16.120 And if it's that it's just, it's unfortunate, but there's no, I mean, 329 00:16:16.120 --> 00:16:16.640 what are you going to do? 330 00:16:17.160 --> 00:16:21.000 It's just unfortunate timing and it's hard not to get in that mind space of, 331 00:16:21.040 --> 00:16:22.760 Oh, of course it's unfortunate timing. 332 00:16:22.760 --> 00:16:26.640 That's been my, my life for nine years is unfortunate timing. 333 00:16:26.680 --> 00:16:29.640 Never works out. 334 00:16:29.640 --> 00:16:29.800 Yeah. 335 00:16:29.800 --> 00:16:33.760 And that's getting that mind space on, um, on the apps. 336 00:16:33.800 --> 00:16:35.520 I, I forgot to cancel them. 337 00:16:35.520 --> 00:16:37.720 So they all re up this couple of days. 338 00:16:38.320 --> 00:16:40.320 And so I'm going to jump back on there. 339 00:16:41.040 --> 00:16:47.480 Um, I've got some, I've got some like, yeah, I've got some waves, you know, on 340 00:16:47.480 --> 00:16:51.280 Holly and I figured maybe I'll go through there and just see if I can line up a 341 00:16:51.280 --> 00:16:54.920 date, just like five on the line. 342 00:16:54.960 --> 00:16:55.960 Not too long ago. 343 00:16:56.040 --> 00:16:56.480 Right. 344 00:16:56.600 --> 00:16:56.920 Oh yeah. 345 00:16:56.920 --> 00:16:57.760 Now I'm at zero. 346 00:16:57.760 --> 00:16:58.560 So there you go. 347 00:16:58.960 --> 00:17:01.600 You know, like you're, you're back, you're back to fishing. 348 00:17:01.800 --> 00:17:02.320 Right. 349 00:17:02.680 --> 00:17:02.880 Yeah. 350 00:17:02.920 --> 00:17:05.440 Well, and like, but just keep your heart, dude. 351 00:17:05.480 --> 00:17:07.359 I mean, you've been doing amazing. 352 00:17:08.240 --> 00:17:10.800 Just keep the momentum, right? 353 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:12.480 I feel, I feel bad. 354 00:17:12.480 --> 00:17:13.560 That's my update for you guys. 355 00:17:13.560 --> 00:17:17.319 I appreciate you being, uh, be like, Hey, we got, I want to see the excitement, 356 00:17:17.319 --> 00:17:18.200 the exciting update. 357 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:19.480 And I already know like, Oh, great. 358 00:17:19.800 --> 00:17:22.640 I was going to just keep my camera off and see if everyone forgot. 359 00:17:23.720 --> 00:17:26.359 No, but like, it's good that you're, I mean, this is part of your process 360 00:17:26.960 --> 00:17:27.960 and just keep your head up. 361 00:17:28.560 --> 00:17:32.200 You've done so well through this whole process, right. 362 00:17:32.640 --> 00:17:37.680 You know, and like, and you've grown and you've gone through a lot of, a lot of 363 00:17:37.680 --> 00:17:38.040 things. 364 00:17:38.040 --> 00:17:40.080 So, I mean, it's not a lost thing. 365 00:17:40.600 --> 00:17:42.920 And like I say, it sounds like she's just really tapped out. 366 00:17:43.760 --> 00:17:43.920 Yeah. 367 00:17:43.960 --> 00:17:44.200 Right. 368 00:17:44.240 --> 00:17:47.320 I hope, I hope it is that and not anything else. 369 00:17:47.320 --> 00:17:52.840 Cause, and if we are shipped that just didn't end up lining up, you know, that's 370 00:17:53.120 --> 00:17:59.280 and here, here's the thing is I, I, Chris, I have a similar mindset when stuff like 371 00:17:59.280 --> 00:18:00.280 this happens, right? 372 00:18:00.280 --> 00:18:01.240 Like, or I've had it. 373 00:18:01.320 --> 00:18:06.440 Well, I'd like to say that I've gotten over it, but I'd probably be lying if I 374 00:18:06.440 --> 00:18:06.760 did. 375 00:18:07.040 --> 00:18:07.480 Right. 376 00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:13.400 But you know, one of the things that, um, love thinks the best, right. 377 00:18:13.440 --> 00:18:18.080 And so whether or not it's true or not, love thinks the best, does that make 378 00:18:18.080 --> 00:18:18.480 sense? 379 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:22.520 Like, and so I, so it's like, I'm going to choose that they're doing the best 380 00:18:22.520 --> 00:18:25.760 they can and that they actually are where they're at. 381 00:18:26.400 --> 00:18:31.680 Um, and if you guys do start or when, yeah, when, or if you start talking, 382 00:18:32.640 --> 00:18:40.440 expressing, and I know expressing in just say, Hey, I know I've said this before, 383 00:18:40.440 --> 00:18:43.760 but this is really important to me that I just need to know you're alive. 384 00:18:44.240 --> 00:18:44.600 Right. 385 00:18:44.600 --> 00:18:50.920 And I know even if, even if it's just, you text me, I'm alive, right. 386 00:18:51.440 --> 00:18:53.640 Or just some sort of connection, right. 387 00:18:53.640 --> 00:18:56.200 Because people, people have different connection needs. 388 00:18:56.640 --> 00:18:57.120 Right. 389 00:18:57.280 --> 00:19:04.040 So, um, I Jackie, Jackie says I have debated dated like every avoidance in the 390 00:19:04.040 --> 00:19:08.360 U S so that's pretty much, but they have very different connection needs than I do. 391 00:19:08.440 --> 00:19:08.880 Right. 392 00:19:09.280 --> 00:19:16.680 Um, well, I mean, I had, I had somebody, um, that I want, I, I actually, um, I 393 00:19:16.680 --> 00:19:17.360 can't, I blew it. 394 00:19:18.040 --> 00:19:20.720 I wrote off and she got like pneumonia. 395 00:19:21.360 --> 00:19:21.640 Right. 396 00:19:22.320 --> 00:19:24.040 And it was down for like three weeks. 397 00:19:24.560 --> 00:19:26.960 Um, and I just thought she, she wasn't into me. 398 00:19:26.960 --> 00:19:30.640 And, um, and I got all anxious and snarky. 399 00:19:30.680 --> 00:19:35.840 No, I don't snarky is the right word, but I got kind of pissy and, um, and 400 00:19:35.840 --> 00:19:37.240 she really was legitimately sick. 401 00:19:37.320 --> 00:19:38.720 So, and I wish I hadn't. 402 00:19:39.160 --> 00:19:39.640 Right. 403 00:19:40.000 --> 00:19:41.400 But hindsight's 2020. 404 00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:45.600 And, um, so just keep your head up, get back on the apps. 405 00:19:46.600 --> 00:19:50.560 Um, but you, you learned a lot and you taught us all a lot. 406 00:19:50.600 --> 00:19:55.680 We've we're still your cheerleaders and who knows, she could be the one before the one. 407 00:19:56.640 --> 00:20:00.000 Well, and I think, I think that is the, the end I'll be. 408 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:09.360 all of the relationship. If it is just something like she's super sick and I do want to be 409 00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:14.080 that person that I reach out, hey, just comfort or whatever. It's who I am. 410 00:20:14.080 --> 00:20:16.480 It's like, hey, can I bring you some soup? 411 00:20:16.480 --> 00:20:24.960 Yeah, exactly. But that's not her. My fear is that I think about our interactions the last 412 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:29.760 couple of weeks and I feel like on my end, I'm starting to feel a little bit pathetic, 413 00:20:29.760 --> 00:20:37.120 a little bit reaching out all the time. Please pay attention to me. I'm not doing that on purpose, 414 00:20:37.120 --> 00:20:41.360 but I'm starting to feel that way. I'm thinking if we're getting better, if we're getting closer, 415 00:20:41.360 --> 00:20:48.720 if your attraction is growing, I feel like she's gone through the last couple of weeks 416 00:20:48.720 --> 00:21:02.080 not really thinking of me at all. It's a rough place to be, but just think the best. 417 00:21:04.960 --> 00:21:09.600 How did you meet this person, Chris? Met her on Holi, the dating app. 418 00:21:12.160 --> 00:21:17.600 He had five and he dwindled it down or cut it down, paired it down, 419 00:21:17.600 --> 00:21:23.680 however you want to call it. But I'm sorry, Chris, but I really am proud of you, dude. 420 00:21:23.680 --> 00:21:33.280 You've done amazing. Like I say, don't chase, let it sit. If it comes back around, 421 00:21:35.440 --> 00:21:37.440 figure out what you're going to do then. Does that make sense? 422 00:21:37.440 --> 00:21:41.120 Yes, that's what I did with this Alicia girl at church and we're still 423 00:21:41.120 --> 00:21:43.280 friends, brothers and sisters in Christ. 424 00:21:46.320 --> 00:21:50.880 Sometimes when it starts getting real, people have 425 00:21:55.520 --> 00:22:02.880 moments. They have reckonings with themselves. It's really easy to flippantly date, 426 00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:08.480 but then when you actually, hey, this might go somewhere. I noticed for me, myself, 427 00:22:11.120 --> 00:22:15.840 if I'm flipping about it, then I don't think it's going to happen or it's not going to go anywhere. 428 00:22:21.760 --> 00:22:24.160 A lot of times people self, what do you call it? 429 00:22:25.280 --> 00:22:26.240 Self-sabotage. 430 00:22:26.240 --> 00:22:27.120 Yes. Thank you. 431 00:22:29.600 --> 00:22:30.880 Never heard that before. 432 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:37.360 No, not at all. I've never done it. No, not at all. My nose is growing, by the way, too. 433 00:22:38.160 --> 00:22:40.480 Oh, Tim, you have a question. 434 00:22:40.480 --> 00:22:45.520 So, hey, Chris, Lord Jesus, be with Chris, give him wisdom. And I just ask that you 435 00:22:47.040 --> 00:22:53.920 heal his heart, heal her heart, heal her body, whatever. But Lord, would you bring a good end? 436 00:22:57.680 --> 00:23:03.760 If it's an ending, make it a good ending. If it's just a pause, just make it. But would you do 437 00:23:03.760 --> 00:23:11.360 something, Lord? I'm sorry, bro. All right. Mr. Tim, what's going on, bud? 438 00:23:16.000 --> 00:23:17.280 Oh, I think you shifted on my screen. 439 00:23:20.400 --> 00:23:24.800 It's not a romantic win, but I had talked about how at my sales job, 440 00:23:24.800 --> 00:23:27.200 I was bidding a very, very, very large window. 441 00:23:27.920 --> 00:23:29.120 Oh, yeah. Yes. 442 00:23:30.160 --> 00:23:36.640 Yeah. Thursday, I had a presentation with my venture owner, and I have a verbal that he's 443 00:23:36.640 --> 00:23:43.200 going with us. So, there's some detail on the proposal to get sent to him this week. 444 00:23:43.760 --> 00:23:48.720 But it gets better. That was just the windows coming in around $260,000. 445 00:23:50.320 --> 00:23:54.720 I know I'm going to be bidding doors for him. I'm trying to get that done this 446 00:23:54.720 --> 00:24:02.320 week. He was like, oh, yeah, I want a steel roof bid and cedar siding and a deck. 447 00:24:05.280 --> 00:24:12.000 So, this might turn into a $450,000 account. 448 00:24:13.360 --> 00:24:14.880 Dude, thank you, Jesus. 449 00:24:14.880 --> 00:24:20.320 And that's a commission rate because it's not a marketing generated lead. 450 00:24:21.440 --> 00:24:23.040 Yeah. Oh, okay. 451 00:24:25.520 --> 00:24:32.800 So, dude, that is exciting, Tim. Congratulations, dude. 452 00:24:33.360 --> 00:24:35.200 Sup? Love it. 453 00:24:35.200 --> 00:24:38.240 Thanks. May everybody else get that too, man. 454 00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:40.880 Like, yeah. 455 00:24:43.360 --> 00:24:44.320 Sorry, David, did you? 456 00:24:46.640 --> 00:24:50.640 Dude, Tim, that's amazing. I'm sorry. I'm just kind of, I'm super stoked for you. 457 00:24:51.360 --> 00:24:54.400 Um, Mr. David S. 458 00:24:57.680 --> 00:24:59.840 I was just trying to ask if we could get people. 459 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:02.200 those phone numbers in here, and then also, 460 00:25:03.120 --> 00:25:03.960 I agree. 461 00:25:03.960 --> 00:25:05.320 Yeah, we don't usually do that. 462 00:25:05.320 --> 00:25:10.080 I mean, this isn't like, this is, 463 00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:13.120 I can ask Jackie, I don't know why. 464 00:25:13.120 --> 00:25:13.960 They have. 465 00:25:16.240 --> 00:25:18.240 That wasn't my only question, but go ahead. 466 00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:19.760 Oh yeah, the number, so the numbers, 467 00:25:19.760 --> 00:25:21.600 what was your other question? 468 00:25:21.600 --> 00:25:26.600 I heard in, I'm in the book club right now. 469 00:25:26.600 --> 00:25:28.080 I don't know how many of y'all are in it, 470 00:25:28.080 --> 00:25:29.680 and I'm behind, I haven't done any reading, 471 00:25:30.360 --> 00:25:32.120 but somebody said something there about, 472 00:25:32.120 --> 00:25:34.440 in the last year single program. 473 00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:36.720 No, Jackie said there's prayer every day, 474 00:25:36.720 --> 00:25:39.120 but I looked on the calendar and there's not, 475 00:25:39.120 --> 00:25:40.480 I don't know what she's talking about. 476 00:25:40.480 --> 00:25:41.760 Not only is there not any, 477 00:25:41.760 --> 00:25:43.040 there's a few days out of the week 478 00:25:43.040 --> 00:25:44.760 that don't have any meetings, but. 479 00:25:44.760 --> 00:25:46.400 Are you in the app? 480 00:25:46.400 --> 00:25:47.480 Yeah, but I don't know what she means, 481 00:25:47.480 --> 00:25:49.080 prayer every day, group prayer. 482 00:25:49.080 --> 00:25:52.960 Oh, Friday, okay, well, so Friday. 483 00:25:52.960 --> 00:25:56.080 Two women's group has prayer every day. 484 00:25:56.080 --> 00:25:57.040 Yeah, men. 485 00:25:57.040 --> 00:25:59.080 Oh, but the men don't? 486 00:25:59.520 --> 00:26:01.640 Fridays are like a co-ed thing. 487 00:26:01.640 --> 00:26:03.600 No, we don't. 488 00:26:03.600 --> 00:26:07.000 Yeah, so I'm just looking at, sorry, 489 00:26:07.000 --> 00:26:10.440 I apologize, I'm looking at my app just to see what, 490 00:26:10.440 --> 00:26:12.240 because I know Friday morning, 491 00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:13.800 I used to do it every week, 492 00:26:13.800 --> 00:26:16.000 but then I got a new, so okay, 493 00:26:16.000 --> 00:26:19.560 so if you look on, there's a thing called Faith Friday. 494 00:26:19.560 --> 00:26:20.680 Okay. 495 00:26:20.680 --> 00:26:24.760 Faith Friday is kind of a prayer group, right? 496 00:26:24.760 --> 00:26:25.600 Yeah. 497 00:26:25.600 --> 00:26:27.360 Oh, the women have it every day. 498 00:26:28.320 --> 00:26:29.640 More or less, yeah. 499 00:26:29.640 --> 00:26:30.480 Oh, well, they're lucky. 500 00:26:30.480 --> 00:26:33.040 I mean, the dudes, they tried it with the dudes 501 00:26:33.040 --> 00:26:34.360 and it just didn't work. 502 00:26:34.360 --> 00:26:35.200 Why not? 503 00:26:37.040 --> 00:26:38.400 Yeah, and so. 504 00:26:38.400 --> 00:26:40.040 You don't know why? 505 00:26:40.040 --> 00:26:41.760 It didn't work, like nobody showed up, 506 00:26:41.760 --> 00:26:44.160 so there's no point in hosting something 507 00:26:44.160 --> 00:26:46.280 when there's nobody showing up to it, right? 508 00:26:46.280 --> 00:26:48.160 That's why I like to pray. 509 00:26:48.160 --> 00:26:49.640 Yeah, I mean, like that's, 510 00:26:49.640 --> 00:26:54.640 so on Fridays, Sunday nights as well, right? 511 00:26:55.600 --> 00:26:59.800 Well, Sunday's very, yeah. 512 00:26:59.800 --> 00:27:03.800 Women are generally easy to get together for prayer. 513 00:27:03.800 --> 00:27:06.880 I mean, so like even on the Friday, 514 00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:08.240 well, actually, no, I have to say 515 00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:09.880 the guys showed up sometimes, 516 00:27:09.880 --> 00:27:13.000 but most of the time on the Fridays, it's like 95% women. 517 00:27:14.480 --> 00:27:17.920 I work, so I mean, when I was running a shop, 518 00:27:17.920 --> 00:27:20.320 I could dictate my schedule, 519 00:27:20.320 --> 00:27:23.920 but I'm not running a shop anymore, so. 520 00:27:23.920 --> 00:27:27.840 But, so yeah, there is, 521 00:27:29.240 --> 00:27:30.080 trying to think. 522 00:27:31.120 --> 00:27:33.320 Have you listened to Supernatural Saturday? 523 00:27:34.960 --> 00:27:37.040 I know that it happens Saturday morning, 524 00:27:37.040 --> 00:27:40.080 I just haven't gotten around to listening to replays. 525 00:27:40.080 --> 00:27:41.480 I'm sure they have replays. 526 00:27:43.080 --> 00:27:44.960 But I know where it exists. 527 00:27:44.960 --> 00:27:45.800 Yeah, go ahead. 528 00:27:45.800 --> 00:27:47.600 I mean, there were two Monday night calls for a while 529 00:27:47.600 --> 00:27:50.040 and like they weren't well attended, 530 00:27:50.040 --> 00:27:52.840 so like they're still kind of trying to figure out 531 00:27:52.840 --> 00:27:54.120 what to do with the guy side, 532 00:27:54.120 --> 00:27:59.120 because guys were kind of lone wolves a lot of ways. 533 00:27:59.400 --> 00:28:00.720 Like women love congregating 534 00:28:00.720 --> 00:28:03.640 and men aren't really the greatest at that. 535 00:28:03.640 --> 00:28:04.480 I mean- 536 00:28:04.480 --> 00:28:07.400 More like solid, we have a higher tolerance of solitude. 537 00:28:07.400 --> 00:28:08.520 Yeah, and so, 538 00:28:09.520 --> 00:28:11.560 so no, because they did have, they did have, 539 00:28:11.560 --> 00:28:13.320 they tried, I mean, I've been here for a while 540 00:28:13.320 --> 00:28:15.400 and we've tried many different things. 541 00:28:16.880 --> 00:28:19.320 But Jackie, I mean, there's like, 542 00:28:19.320 --> 00:28:23.520 well, there's what, like 100 dudes and like 1,600 women. 543 00:28:23.520 --> 00:28:27.160 So there's a lot of, or 1,400 women, I don't know, 544 00:28:27.160 --> 00:28:28.000 it's a lot. 545 00:28:29.400 --> 00:28:31.680 It's a massive disparity. 546 00:28:31.680 --> 00:28:34.320 Well, there's a hundred, there's, 547 00:28:34.320 --> 00:28:37.560 if you talk to the unpaid group, which we're not, 548 00:28:37.560 --> 00:28:39.920 because most of those people aren't on. 549 00:28:40.880 --> 00:28:43.880 And even on these calls, we're talking 30 or 40, right? 550 00:28:43.880 --> 00:28:47.440 And so, and then the women have 1,400 551 00:28:47.480 --> 00:28:51.040 and probably like two or 300 all the time. 552 00:28:51.040 --> 00:28:52.720 So it's easier to do a prayer call 553 00:28:52.720 --> 00:28:55.320 when you have a massive amount of people wanting it. 554 00:28:56.200 --> 00:28:57.360 Or that show up and, 555 00:28:58.640 --> 00:28:59.720 and it's, you know, 556 00:29:01.040 --> 00:29:05.320 I mean, so I hope that answers the question. 557 00:29:05.320 --> 00:29:06.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 558 00:29:06.160 --> 00:29:08.120 I mean, I think I've asked this before, 559 00:29:08.120 --> 00:29:10.320 but is it easy to get spot lit? 560 00:29:10.320 --> 00:29:12.040 Or, I mean, I know you have to complete the heart work 561 00:29:12.040 --> 00:29:13.520 and all that, but even if you do- 562 00:29:13.520 --> 00:29:15.600 Well, you have to complete the heart work 563 00:29:15.600 --> 00:29:17.880 and be part of the community. 564 00:29:17.880 --> 00:29:22.880 Like Jackie vets everybody to an extent. 565 00:29:23.400 --> 00:29:27.480 And so, because she takes the safety 566 00:29:27.480 --> 00:29:28.520 in the community really well. 567 00:29:28.520 --> 00:29:31.440 So the heart work and they like, want to get to know you 568 00:29:31.440 --> 00:29:34.400 so that they know that they're spotlighting somebody who, 569 00:29:35.640 --> 00:29:38.120 I don't think there's very many people who, 570 00:29:38.120 --> 00:29:40.960 well, there's, I think there's one or two. 571 00:29:40.960 --> 00:29:42.000 I haven't been spotlighted, 572 00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:44.560 but I'm gonna have to reply with another- 573 00:29:44.560 --> 00:29:47.040 Well, that's for other, yeah, yeah, Hunter. 574 00:29:47.040 --> 00:29:49.160 And she's talked about that too. 575 00:29:49.160 --> 00:29:51.120 I don't know, I haven't, 576 00:29:53.480 --> 00:29:55.200 I don't know, she hasn't been doing it. 577 00:29:55.200 --> 00:29:57.400 So anyways, do the heart work, get it. 578 00:29:57.400 --> 00:30:00.200 There's seasons where there's more spotlights than others. 579 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.560 As long as I live with my parents and I have trouble keeping a job, I don't think she's 580 00:30:05.560 --> 00:30:06.560 going to spotlight me. 581 00:30:06.560 --> 00:30:07.560 I don't know. 582 00:30:07.560 --> 00:30:08.560 I ain't going to lie about that. 583 00:30:08.560 --> 00:30:12.560 She ain't going to want to spotlight that. 584 00:30:12.560 --> 00:30:18.840 Well, I mean, there's like, you'll be surprised by Jackie in a lot of ways. 585 00:30:18.840 --> 00:30:22.560 Like when she met David, David didn't have a whole lot going on either. 586 00:30:22.560 --> 00:30:24.320 He had just got divorced. 587 00:30:24.320 --> 00:30:29.320 He just got, well, I mean, I don't know if David's, you know, this is their story, right? 588 00:30:29.320 --> 00:30:35.400 You know, so Jackie moved in next to David, thought he was a, she got like a predator 589 00:30:35.400 --> 00:30:37.920 alert or something like on her phone. 590 00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:43.000 And she thought that David was the, they're like, you can't make this stuff up, dude. 591 00:30:43.000 --> 00:30:44.000 I know. 592 00:30:44.000 --> 00:30:45.000 I think it's in the book. 593 00:30:45.000 --> 00:30:47.080 It's so, it's so hysterical. 594 00:30:47.080 --> 00:30:53.160 But like David had just got laid off or he got divorced and was driving like a Chevy 595 00:30:53.160 --> 00:30:58.820 Citation or something, some, some terrible vehicle or Buick or I don't remember what. 596 00:30:58.820 --> 00:30:59.820 But anyways. 597 00:30:59.820 --> 00:31:02.220 Hey, don't, don't mock citations. 598 00:31:02.220 --> 00:31:04.100 I'm a big fan. 599 00:31:04.100 --> 00:31:05.260 That's a quirky thing about me. 600 00:31:05.260 --> 00:31:06.820 You didn't know. 601 00:31:06.820 --> 00:31:10.100 And also it was a Buick Century, about a 96 Buick Century is what it was. 602 00:31:10.100 --> 00:31:13.380 It was a, it was an A-body GM, not an X-body. 603 00:31:13.380 --> 00:31:14.820 Oh, so you're a GM guy. 604 00:31:14.820 --> 00:31:15.820 I'm a Ford guy. 605 00:31:15.820 --> 00:31:20.300 So like, I'll get, you can get all your citations you want, bro. 606 00:31:20.300 --> 00:31:21.300 That's what I grew up in. 607 00:31:21.300 --> 00:31:24.500 I mean, the citation was a lot better name pick than last second. 608 00:31:24.500 --> 00:31:27.580 Yeah, that's true. 609 00:31:27.580 --> 00:31:28.580 I fell backwards. 610 00:31:28.580 --> 00:31:29.580 That's Rod Knox. 611 00:31:29.580 --> 00:31:30.580 That's not good. 612 00:31:30.580 --> 00:31:43.100 So anyways, I love the, I love the, Hey, so you guys I want to broach something that is 613 00:31:43.100 --> 00:31:44.100 not fun. 614 00:31:44.100 --> 00:31:47.260 Well, Hector, I mean, Hunter kind of alluded to it in a certain way. 615 00:31:47.260 --> 00:31:52.820 So, okay, you guys, you know, I'm here to try to help you guys win before you get in 616 00:31:52.820 --> 00:31:53.820 a relationship. 617 00:31:53.820 --> 00:31:54.820 Right. 618 00:31:54.820 --> 00:31:56.460 So I have a spiritual son. 619 00:31:56.460 --> 00:32:02.460 Well, he's kind of that I've been meeting with for the last year and a half. 620 00:32:02.460 --> 00:32:03.460 And he was engaged. 621 00:32:03.460 --> 00:32:04.460 Right. 622 00:32:04.460 --> 00:32:09.740 And so I'm going to talk about the thing that I hate talking about, but is destroying so 623 00:32:09.740 --> 00:32:11.540 many relationships. 624 00:32:11.540 --> 00:32:16.540 And so he was engaged and now isn't engaged because she's like, so how are you doing with 625 00:32:16.540 --> 00:32:17.540 porn? 626 00:32:17.540 --> 00:32:20.400 And he's like, not good. 627 00:32:20.400 --> 00:32:23.380 And she's like, well, that's a deal breaker for me. 628 00:32:23.380 --> 00:32:28.780 And they called off the engagement, which is, which is brutal, tragic, but it had to 629 00:32:28.780 --> 00:32:29.780 be done. 630 00:32:29.780 --> 00:32:32.580 So, but like, and like, and it's biblical. 631 00:32:32.580 --> 00:32:38.260 I mean, like, okay, I don't know if you guys, I don't want to say, Oh, David, I do like 632 00:32:38.260 --> 00:32:41.900 my bars too, but like, I've been a fork, I bet I had five Mustangs. 633 00:32:41.900 --> 00:32:45.420 So, but anyways, sorry, this side. 634 00:32:45.420 --> 00:32:50.100 So I, I would be remiss to not bring it up. 635 00:32:50.100 --> 00:32:56.860 And I, you know, you guys, 90%, like nine out of 10 men have a problem with it. 636 00:32:56.860 --> 00:32:58.500 It's more addictive than cocaine. 637 00:32:58.500 --> 00:33:03.740 Like, like, so I don't want to, I'm not here to bad mouth anybody, but I am here to say 638 00:33:03.740 --> 00:33:10.900 that if you watch porn and you're married, you're actually, it's adultery. 639 00:33:10.900 --> 00:33:13.300 Because the word for adultery is pornea. 640 00:33:13.300 --> 00:33:21.220 And so therefore porn is anyway, so, and I don't want like, I mean, he met his dream 641 00:33:21.220 --> 00:33:24.420 girl and let his private life. 642 00:33:24.420 --> 00:33:34.300 It's just, it's at least giving him a chance later if he quits or we'll see. 643 00:33:34.300 --> 00:33:35.940 Like it's, it's, it's early. 644 00:33:35.940 --> 00:33:40.460 It just, just happened like, I was like, Oh, I really didn't want to talk about this today. 645 00:33:41.460 --> 00:33:47.620 But when I'm watching it, kill somebody's relationship and his dream girl, right? 646 00:33:47.620 --> 00:33:51.140 And so I just wanted to say, you guys, you know what? 647 00:33:51.140 --> 00:33:52.660 You have an opportunity. 648 00:33:52.660 --> 00:33:58.780 He didn't take the opportunity when he was single to handle business, right? 649 00:33:58.780 --> 00:34:02.980 And Hunter, I do, I have to do, Hunter, I tip my hat to you, bro. 650 00:34:02.980 --> 00:34:07.940 Like you're, you're, you're, what you're doing is paying dividends will pay dividends when 651 00:34:07.940 --> 00:34:09.500 you get in a relationship. 652 00:34:09.500 --> 00:34:14.940 So you guys, it's one of the most common questions. 653 00:34:14.940 --> 00:34:19.620 And like, I was married for 20 years and I have, okay. 654 00:34:19.620 --> 00:34:24.699 I have a, I found porn when I was four. 655 00:34:24.699 --> 00:34:29.900 My parents, I grew up in a very sexualized household access. 656 00:34:29.900 --> 00:34:34.860 My grandfather had Playboys on his butt and penthouses on his, in his bathroom. 657 00:34:35.300 --> 00:34:40.420 So I, when I talk about porn, it's not something that I'm oblivious with, but I can tell you 658 00:34:40.420 --> 00:34:45.340 having the conversation, my wife, I remember, I'll never forget. 659 00:34:45.340 --> 00:34:50.460 The last time was, that was 25 years ago. 660 00:34:50.460 --> 00:34:54.540 So she's like, you know, she wanted a divorce, right. 661 00:34:54.540 --> 00:34:57.340 And having to explain to her. 662 00:34:57.340 --> 00:35:00.060 So it's a really detrimental. 663 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:06.400 thing saying that you had a problem is very different saying that you have a problem 664 00:35:07.680 --> 00:35:16.160 right um because women need security and they have no grasp of what they actually i'm afraid 665 00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:21.840 is that the vast majority of women really have no idea the hold it has they draw 666 00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:25.920 they don't understand it um one of my friends is going through this exactly yeah 667 00:35:25.920 --> 00:35:34.880 yeah yeah see see like daniel was saying like one of his friends like it crushes the women 668 00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:41.280 because they're like i really like him but like it's it's a deal breaker right um yeah 669 00:35:41.920 --> 00:35:48.240 and you guys like i i mean it's so easy to get into like i click i do a lot of relationship 670 00:35:48.800 --> 00:35:53.200 research like i'm always looking into when something says hey improve your relationship 671 00:35:53.200 --> 00:36:00.720 i click on it right well yeah well one of them was uh yeah there's no answer i i can get into 672 00:36:00.720 --> 00:36:06.800 that too i don't want to get too heavy guys but i want to do want to address that you have an 673 00:36:06.800 --> 00:36:13.760 opportunity now to handle something that won't destroy your potential spouse and if you meet 674 00:36:13.760 --> 00:36:19.680 your dream girl you're not going to destroy it because of a habit that you have and and it's 675 00:36:19.680 --> 00:36:26.720 really um like so i was clicking through instagram of all freaking places like i i had no i like 676 00:36:26.720 --> 00:36:31.040 maybe i'm naive i guess some of you may be like you're naive i don't know i was like oh cool what 677 00:36:31.040 --> 00:36:38.720 kind of um because i follow all i mean my whole feed is full of counselors and stuff and ended up 678 00:36:38.720 --> 00:36:45.280 being directing me straight to a porn site i'm like what the what the hell just happened right 679 00:36:45.280 --> 00:36:51.120 then i got an algorithm that was super awesome that got in my algorithm and so um that that was 680 00:36:51.120 --> 00:37:00.000 a lot of fun but so it's out there it's readily available but um i can tell you um porn robbed me 681 00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:06.720 in my marriage you know um like i couldn't appreciate my wife because she didn't look 682 00:37:06.720 --> 00:37:12.480 like one of the porn models and she was pretty freaking hot um so i just i just want to like 683 00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:20.640 porn's bad and it's it's super addictive and you know um but you can get free and you know when i 684 00:37:20.640 --> 00:37:33.440 tell so um are you guys doing all right i i'm here to um yeah it it's a it's a thief well that and 685 00:37:33.440 --> 00:37:38.400 hunter the good thing about your so are you guys can you guys just raise your hand if you know 686 00:37:39.280 --> 00:37:50.240 about neuroplasticity or what that is um okay so anyway so your your brain okay your brain has 687 00:37:50.240 --> 00:37:54.240 you know when you do something rodney you're going to raise your uh what's got what's up 688 00:37:54.240 --> 00:38:00.480 okay you're you know about it so neuroplasticity is the brain's ability it develops these pathways 689 00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:05.920 right so if you're an alcoholic you have a pathway of alcohol right like you know but the good news 690 00:38:05.920 --> 00:38:14.000 is it's got designed it that um it's 321 day cycles is that 60 63 days you can get rid of 691 00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:19.440 alcoholism and break that thing so the problem with the neural pathway is if you keep driving 692 00:38:20.080 --> 00:38:24.640 oh david the question is are you familiar with neural pathways so neural pathways are really 693 00:38:24.640 --> 00:38:30.080 important to understand because when you have a habit the reason why a habit gets ingrained is 694 00:38:30.080 --> 00:38:36.960 because you're creating a neural pathway it's a path through your brain right so porn is a neural 695 00:38:36.960 --> 00:38:42.400 like if you're doing porn you created a road if you're doing alcohol if you're doing like it 696 00:38:42.400 --> 00:38:47.600 doesn't matter what the addiction is you've created a neural pathway right so those neural pathways 697 00:38:47.600 --> 00:38:53.520 are really easy to get into because your brain is used to going to them but if you can get off 698 00:38:54.240 --> 00:39:05.600 out of the off the wagon right onto like um whatever so get sober whatever whatever you 699 00:39:05.600 --> 00:39:09.680 can do to get off of that pathway so if like hunter you're talking about hey it's been a 700 00:39:09.680 --> 00:39:17.600 month dude that's 21 days that's massive in four and 30 more days your your cravings are going to 701 00:39:17.600 --> 00:39:25.440 be like nothing you can still get back in it but you're it's the images of cleavages or bikinis 702 00:39:25.440 --> 00:39:31.120 but does that that counts too but just not the hardcore nudity stuff is what i'm sure too but 703 00:39:31.120 --> 00:39:37.280 any improvement like like anything you can do to get off the wagon like and if you and if you fall 704 00:39:37.280 --> 00:39:43.040 back in the rut get out as soon as you can um don't um a lot of times what people do is snowball 705 00:39:43.600 --> 00:39:48.160 well i screwed up might as well just keep going down and doing the dance in the pond right 706 00:39:48.960 --> 00:39:53.680 that actually re-establishes the neural pathway what you're trying to do is create a healthy 707 00:39:53.680 --> 00:39:59.920 neural pathway with no porn with no substance addiction with no whatever it works for 708 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.280 for anything in your life. 709 00:40:01.280 --> 00:40:03.820 If you wanna do something good, establish it. 710 00:40:05.480 --> 00:40:06.860 And it also works for the better. 711 00:40:06.860 --> 00:40:11.860 Now, one of the problems with porn is it, 712 00:40:13.480 --> 00:40:16.060 oh, is it math or whatever? 713 00:40:16.060 --> 00:40:18.220 Like, it works with your dopamine centers and stuff. 714 00:40:18.220 --> 00:40:22.300 Like, and so it really gives you this high, you know? 715 00:40:22.300 --> 00:40:25.260 It's like, like they say, it's more addictive than cocaine. 716 00:40:26.660 --> 00:40:28.140 And it's also in private. 717 00:40:28.140 --> 00:40:31.260 And so, so I would encourage you, 718 00:40:31.260 --> 00:40:33.140 if you guys have a problem and it's a, 719 00:40:33.140 --> 00:40:37.020 let's just say you fall and it's every night at six 720 00:40:37.020 --> 00:40:40.180 when you sit down and you're on your computer, 721 00:40:40.180 --> 00:40:42.420 change up your habits. 722 00:40:42.420 --> 00:40:43.620 Don't do that. 723 00:40:43.620 --> 00:40:47.260 Or, you know, you take your phone somewhere and whatever. 724 00:40:47.260 --> 00:40:50.380 Like, change up the game so you can get free. 725 00:40:50.380 --> 00:40:51.740 It's my encouragement. 726 00:40:51.740 --> 00:40:54.900 One thing that helps is never bring my phone upstairs 727 00:40:54.900 --> 00:40:56.100 or in my bedroom. 728 00:40:56.100 --> 00:40:57.260 Yeah, see, there you go. 729 00:40:57.260 --> 00:40:58.740 See, Hunter, you figure out something that works. 730 00:40:58.740 --> 00:41:02.140 Fine, it's like, you guys, you find what works for you. 731 00:41:02.140 --> 00:41:04.220 Like, what works for somebody else may not work for you. 732 00:41:04.220 --> 00:41:08.420 But, but like the key is, is to get off of the wagon. 733 00:41:08.420 --> 00:41:10.300 And if, even if you fall back on it, 734 00:41:12.620 --> 00:41:15.860 this ends, it's, oh, six, eight? 735 00:41:15.860 --> 00:41:18.140 Yeah, I don't always do Catholic match, right? 736 00:41:18.140 --> 00:41:19.820 It's six, it ends in eight minutes. 737 00:41:19.820 --> 00:41:21.660 This is, we're over in eight minutes. 738 00:41:21.660 --> 00:41:23.420 Are you gonna go over? 739 00:41:23.420 --> 00:41:25.060 Probably not. 740 00:41:25.580 --> 00:41:30.580 So you guys, I just been loving on a dude who's crushed. 741 00:41:30.580 --> 00:41:32.380 He met his dream girl. 742 00:41:32.380 --> 00:41:36.740 And he even said, it's my own fault, right? 743 00:41:36.740 --> 00:41:37.580 Like, you know, and so, 744 00:41:37.580 --> 00:41:39.660 and I don't want you guys to experience that. 745 00:41:39.660 --> 00:41:42.540 And you guys have an opportunity now. 746 00:41:42.540 --> 00:41:44.340 Like, and Hunter's already taken it, dude. 747 00:41:44.340 --> 00:41:46.820 I mean, and Hunter, I love that you started out with that. 748 00:41:46.820 --> 00:41:49.540 And it's progress, not perfection. 749 00:41:49.540 --> 00:41:52.500 See, the key, the thing is, is like, we're like, oh man. 750 00:41:53.420 --> 00:41:56.940 And I, I've been doing this for 15 and a half years 751 00:41:56.940 --> 00:41:58.820 and I was around churches that condemned 752 00:41:58.820 --> 00:42:00.460 and I didn't disagree. 753 00:42:00.460 --> 00:42:02.980 This is wrong, but I just didn't fulfill. 754 00:42:02.980 --> 00:42:04.140 I was, wouldn't let go 755 00:42:04.140 --> 00:42:06.620 and kept fulfilling the desires of the flesh. 756 00:42:06.620 --> 00:42:11.380 Yeah, and the other thing you guys is hungry, ailing, 757 00:42:11.380 --> 00:42:13.020 you heard, have you heard the term halt? 758 00:42:13.020 --> 00:42:13.860 If you're hungry. 759 00:42:13.860 --> 00:42:17.100 Yes, hunger, angry, lonely, and tired. 760 00:42:17.100 --> 00:42:18.500 So if you're, if you're that, 761 00:42:18.540 --> 00:42:23.540 figure out like the core reason why you're doing it. 762 00:42:23.540 --> 00:42:25.820 Because generally you're not doing it for, 763 00:42:25.820 --> 00:42:28.260 you're doing it to fulfill some sort of need 764 00:42:28.260 --> 00:42:29.500 or some sort of, 765 00:42:32.220 --> 00:42:34.540 and like, and that, 766 00:42:37.460 --> 00:42:39.100 if you can eradicate the, 767 00:42:39.100 --> 00:42:41.220 like do the hard work with the core issue. 768 00:42:42.620 --> 00:42:45.020 For me, my temptation comes with depression 769 00:42:45.980 --> 00:42:48.620 because my, my, my chemicals are low and yeah. 770 00:42:55.180 --> 00:42:56.380 That's, that's cool, Chris. 771 00:42:56.380 --> 00:42:58.980 Yeah, no, I mean, it's some, 772 00:42:58.980 --> 00:43:02.260 sometimes you are blessed 773 00:43:02.260 --> 00:43:03.980 with somebody who is understanding. 774 00:43:05.420 --> 00:43:06.300 Yeah. 775 00:43:06.300 --> 00:43:08.300 Oh, you don't want to hurt, 776 00:43:08.300 --> 00:43:12.140 you want to hear this, this, this, this, this alarmed me. 777 00:43:12.140 --> 00:43:12.980 Right? 778 00:43:13.020 --> 00:43:17.020 I was watching, somehow I was like watching TV 779 00:43:17.020 --> 00:43:19.300 and it was like a serial killer documentary. 780 00:43:21.900 --> 00:43:24.980 And he talked about like, 781 00:43:26.620 --> 00:43:28.140 it started with porn, 782 00:43:29.180 --> 00:43:32.140 but then he couldn't get enough. 783 00:43:32.140 --> 00:43:34.300 And so they ended up going and killing people. 784 00:43:34.300 --> 00:43:36.340 Ted Bundy, that was Ted Bundy. 785 00:43:36.340 --> 00:43:37.180 Is that Ted Bundy? 786 00:43:37.180 --> 00:43:40.420 Yeah, like, it's, I'm like, what? 787 00:43:40.420 --> 00:43:42.220 Like, I don't know if Jeffrey Dahmer's like that, 788 00:43:42.420 --> 00:43:44.220 but definitely Ted, definitely Ted Bundy. 789 00:43:44.220 --> 00:43:47.780 Yeah, and so like you guys, it's a downward spiral. 790 00:43:47.780 --> 00:43:50.260 It's like alcohol, you drink some 791 00:43:50.260 --> 00:43:51.660 and then it's not enough the next time 792 00:43:51.660 --> 00:43:53.020 and you keep getting, 793 00:43:53.020 --> 00:43:57.540 and, and like, it's, it's, it's a, it's a circle. 794 00:43:57.540 --> 00:44:00.460 So get off the wagon. 795 00:44:00.460 --> 00:44:01.940 If you fall back on, 796 00:44:01.940 --> 00:44:03.860 I mean, you fall back in the rut, get out. 797 00:44:03.860 --> 00:44:05.380 The more you do that, 798 00:44:05.380 --> 00:44:08.260 you're, you're, you're doing good neural pathways, 799 00:44:08.260 --> 00:44:10.500 which will then replace the old neural pathway. 800 00:44:10.500 --> 00:44:14.580 And that after 64 days, I think it is, 801 00:44:14.580 --> 00:44:17.540 that old neural pathway literally dissolves in your brain. 802 00:44:19.140 --> 00:44:20.980 If you, if you want to geek out about, 803 00:44:20.980 --> 00:44:24.300 Dr. Carolyn Leaf has all kinds of stuff on that, 804 00:44:24.300 --> 00:44:26.060 but it's called neuroplasticity. 805 00:44:27.780 --> 00:44:31.780 And well, and I would say that women who say 806 00:44:31.780 --> 00:44:33.380 they don't care, they always care, 807 00:44:33.380 --> 00:44:38.380 but some of them just have come to accept it. 808 00:44:40.580 --> 00:44:41.980 Congratulations. 809 00:44:41.980 --> 00:44:42.820 Yeah. 810 00:44:42.820 --> 00:44:44.060 So like, get, get on the, 811 00:44:45.740 --> 00:44:47.300 like, just stay on the wagon. 812 00:44:47.300 --> 00:44:49.860 Like I, when I would screw up, 813 00:44:49.860 --> 00:44:53.140 I would like totally beat myself to death, right? 814 00:44:53.140 --> 00:44:54.500 And punish myself. 815 00:44:54.500 --> 00:44:57.340 And then ended up staying off the wagon for weeks 816 00:44:57.340 --> 00:44:58.540 before I get back on. 817 00:44:58.540 --> 00:45:00.540 No, dude, even if you're in the middle, 818 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.360 If you've just watched porn, get back on the wagon, ask Jesus to forgive you, and just go through it. 819 00:45:07.360 --> 00:45:14.160 And it says, you know, confess your sins to one another, and then you'll be forgiven. 820 00:45:14.160 --> 00:45:19.760 So, like, I'm going to beat this to death, and I've already beaten it to death. 821 00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:28.400 Get back on the good wagon, stay off the bad one. However you want to, you know. 822 00:45:28.400 --> 00:45:33.280 But realize, the reason why it's so easy to get into those pathways is because they've grown so deep. 823 00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:38.800 The longer you're off of them, the less of a draw they have. 824 00:45:38.800 --> 00:45:50.000 And, like, I had to tell my ex, like, so, it was crazy, because I walked up, we were at a party, 825 00:45:50.000 --> 00:45:59.760 and I walked into a freaking buzzsaw. I walk up, and I hear my wife's friend tell her, 826 00:45:59.760 --> 00:46:06.560 oh, yeah, my husband has a really huge problem with porn. And my wife, she's like, oh, mine doesn't. 827 00:46:06.560 --> 00:46:13.680 And then she looks at me, right? And I'm like, how? I walked in, and I'm like, actually, we need to have a conversation. 828 00:46:13.680 --> 00:46:22.160 Yeah, like, masturbation, it's, okay, here's the thing, is like, 829 00:46:22.160 --> 00:46:28.000 you're actually releasing and bonding yourself to whatever you're masturbating to. 830 00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:38.480 You understand that you're creating a soul tie, right? Also, you know that one of the biggest 831 00:46:38.480 --> 00:46:42.480 things nowadays, which I didn't know, right? There's a lot of people getting married, 832 00:46:42.480 --> 00:46:50.640 and they can't actually have sex with their wives, because they've been so stimulated by porn, it doesn't even work. 833 00:46:50.640 --> 00:47:03.680 Right? So, like, it's all a bad cycle. Does that, you know, and is it a struggle? Absolutely. 834 00:47:03.680 --> 00:47:09.840 Do I know, like, I mean, it's, you know, Every Man's Battle was a book that really helped me, 835 00:47:09.840 --> 00:47:15.440 you know, but you have to want it, and you have to get to the core need. I realized I had core needs 836 00:47:16.000 --> 00:47:24.240 that led me to do this, to masturbation, to porn, to, I was an adrenaline junkie, right? 837 00:47:24.240 --> 00:47:29.920 You know, like, so whatever, it was to cover something. So, if you can get to the core needs 838 00:47:29.920 --> 00:47:36.480 and do the heart work on it, then you won't have as much of a draw. And if you can stop 839 00:47:37.360 --> 00:47:44.080 getting your releases and your dopamine hits by watching it, then your brain will chemically, 840 00:47:44.080 --> 00:47:50.160 like, detach. It's worse than alcoholism, you guys. So, like, you have to cut it out 841 00:47:51.280 --> 00:47:58.080 and get out of that rut and develop a new healthy rut. And so, I don't know, you guys, I realized 842 00:47:58.080 --> 00:48:03.760 we just have, we just got a minute or two left. Does that make sense, you guys? I don't, I want 843 00:48:03.760 --> 00:48:09.840 you guys all to win. I agree, it is. Yeah, Mike, are we, what do we do about the phone numbers? Are 844 00:48:09.840 --> 00:48:14.160 we allowed, am I allowed to have hunters or your number? Do you have to ask first? We don't do, 845 00:48:14.160 --> 00:48:18.960 I'll ask David, but as far as I know, we don't do phone numbers. Can't ask other people in here, 846 00:48:18.960 --> 00:48:24.640 either. Yeah, I don't know. I can get clarity on that, but as of right now, I'm gonna have to say 847 00:48:25.120 --> 00:48:34.240 I've never seen it, so, therefore, I have to, yeah, I'm not sure. Well, just so we could take 848 00:48:34.240 --> 00:48:39.920 all this offline, because we're kind of, like, bonding in here, you know? So, no, no, I understand. 849 00:48:39.920 --> 00:48:48.240 Did they ever get the Facebook group back on? Yeah. Yeah, but so, and, but, so, you guys, 850 00:48:48.240 --> 00:48:58.560 I mean, you have opportunity, I mean, like, to get ready for your next relationship and make 851 00:48:58.560 --> 00:49:05.600 it amazing. I mean, and you're in the season that it's perfect. I'm doing my best to get ready, 852 00:49:06.240 --> 00:49:13.520 right? And so, like, and, you know, and I hope my son, I consider him one of my sons, but 853 00:49:13.600 --> 00:49:22.560 I hope she reconsiders, right? But, like, it was a big deal to her, right? And, like, 854 00:49:23.200 --> 00:49:29.680 I just don't want you guys to have to have that conversation. And so, and you have a chance today 855 00:49:29.680 --> 00:49:34.960 that if it is an issue for you, you can get it to go, you can get it to go away with prayer 856 00:49:34.960 --> 00:49:41.760 and whatever. Like, it's a battle, but you can do it, right? I've done it. And so, and, like, 857 00:49:41.760 --> 00:49:47.360 I can tell you having to have that conversation with your spouse is actually one of the worst 858 00:49:47.360 --> 00:49:58.880 days of my life. And one of the most, I was so ashamed. And, but, you know, so, sorry, guys, 859 00:49:58.880 --> 00:49:59.840 I just, I just really. 860 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.720 It came up this week, and I would be remiss if I didn't bring it up, because I want y'all 861 00:50:05.720 --> 00:50:06.720 to win. 862 00:50:06.720 --> 00:50:16.320 Chris has gone to work, so Lord Jesus, would you help these guys just get ready? 863 00:50:16.320 --> 00:50:20.840 Would they encounter you this week as they go? 864 00:50:20.840 --> 00:50:21.880 Would you watch over them? 865 00:50:21.880 --> 00:50:22.920 Would you comfort them? 866 00:50:22.920 --> 00:50:24.640 Would you give them clarity? 867 00:50:24.640 --> 00:50:28.600 Would you help them with the heart work or show them what needs heart work and help them 868 00:50:28.600 --> 00:50:29.600 get through that? 869 00:50:29.600 --> 00:50:33.160 Lord, if there are any ruts that they're stuck in, I just pray that you would help deliver 870 00:50:33.160 --> 00:50:35.400 them and give them the desire to. 871 00:50:35.400 --> 00:50:41.440 But Lord, you came and set the captives free, and if anybody here is captive, I just pray 872 00:50:41.440 --> 00:50:45.040 you break those bonds, and that the blood of Jesus would break those bonds, and they'd 873 00:50:45.040 --> 00:50:48.480 walk in freedom, because that's what you died for, Lord. 874 00:50:48.480 --> 00:50:56.440 But I just, would you encourage each one of these men, and just wisdom, clarity, and bring 875 00:50:56.440 --> 00:51:01.000 them hope, in Jesus' name, amen. 876 00:51:01.000 --> 00:51:03.520 So great job, Hunter, dude. 877 00:51:03.520 --> 00:51:07.200 I'll see if I can do this entire week in a row. 878 00:51:07.200 --> 00:51:08.200 Hey, go, dude. 879 00:51:08.200 --> 00:51:09.200 Just don't see, do. 880 00:51:09.200 --> 00:51:10.200 Do. 881 00:51:10.200 --> 00:51:11.200 Don't say maybe. 882 00:51:11.200 --> 00:51:12.200 Just do it. 883 00:51:12.200 --> 00:51:13.200 You're a man. 884 00:51:13.200 --> 00:51:14.200 Just do it. 885 00:51:14.200 --> 00:51:15.200 That's what we do. 886 00:51:15.200 --> 00:51:16.200 Right? 887 00:51:16.200 --> 00:51:18.480 But I'm proud of you. 888 00:51:18.480 --> 00:51:21.440 So anything else before we hop off? 889 00:51:21.440 --> 00:51:25.840 I got like, yeah. 890 00:51:25.840 --> 00:51:27.320 Blessings to you all. 891 00:51:27.320 --> 00:51:28.680 Take care.