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All right. Ladies, welcome. This is July 7th. I hope y'all had a really awesome holiday

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weekend. It was definitely a busy one. I hope y'all had a really good time, got out, socialized,

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you know, let people know you're single, ready to mingle. All right. Just really enjoy the

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time with friends and family and just doing all the things. I hope that was good for you,

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especially those that are our America friends. If you are not living in America, I still hope

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you had a really great weekend and you got to enjoy that as well. I definitely was out of

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pocket, but I am happy to say I was able to catch up on all the things in the app. So,

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that was super exciting. I really, really loved catching up on all of that stuff

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this last day or two. So, today our coaching theme is going to be

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creating opportunities versus controlling outcomes. Okay. We're going to talk a little

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bit about dating discovery and kind of stepping into our divine feminine that it's not about

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making things happen. All right. It's really about faithfully participating with Jesus

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and allowing God to reveal the things that you can't see. Okay. And it's not our job.

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Simply, it's just not our job. Our job is just to create opportunities, is to take those faithful

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steps, to walk in the obedient thing, to do the next best thing. And God gets the role as

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the one who gets to take control there. All right. He's the one in charge of the outcome.

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That's something that I need reminded of daily. I don't know about you,

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but I need reminded of that daily. So, we're going to go ahead and get started.

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Before we do, I just want to kind of celebrate things that I'm seeing in the community.

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I think that's always important. I think the engagement is effective and it's really helpful

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when we're highlighting what you ladies are doing. Super, super important. It's really

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a big component of why this community is as successful as it is. Okay. I was a single myself

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when this community started. And one of the greatest treasures was the community and the

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relationships that I built in this community. And the fact that I had a place to land and share

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the good times, the bad times, the ups, the downs, the good, the bad, the ugly. Okay.

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I could cry it out and I could celebrate. All right. And then I could come and just

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be the negative Nancy every now and then. Okay. I wouldn't encourage being negative all the time.

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Okay. But every now and then, we're going to give ourselves a little grace if you kind of just have

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to let it out. We get it. Okay. We might have to nudge you if we kind of recognize it's happened a

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little too frequently. Okay. Sometimes I need that myself. Sometimes I need a little heart check.

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All right. But this is the place where you get to do that. And every single one of your sisters

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and your coaches, we get it. We have the grace and the space for you. So some things I noticed,

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I saw a lot of women that are just like courageously stepping back into dating.

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Like I know this phase can freak some of the ladies out when you move from phase one to phase

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two and we're like, you get to date. Like, yeah, there's ladies that are like, let me dive in.

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Teresa's over here. She's like, no, I was like that too. I was like, uh, no, thanks.

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First, can I just dip like I just want to dip my toes in like I just you know, I want to pretend

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like I'm in the pool. And so seeing you ladies come out of hiding and stepping into that courage

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that's huge and so I definitely want to celebrate that this week with y'all that are doing that.

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Um, I'm seeing several women slowing down in their decision making. That's super important. Okay.

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Um, it, it's very easy to get ahead of ourselves and get super anxious and like, oh my gosh,

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I have to make a decision. And so when we slow down that process and we seek the wise counsel

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and we're like, okay, let me gather my thoughts. Let me like make sure I've got the information

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correctly and let me take it to the Lord. I don't know about you all, but there's so many times that

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when I make decisions and I haven't slowed down enough to spend time with God,

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I'm typically not making the wisest decisions. I see Lisa, you're agreeing with me. So, you know,

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I, I really believe that many of you get what I'm talking about. Um, and so I think that's

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really huge. I see lots of you bringing your fears, um, into the community instead of carrying

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those things alone. I know that vulnerability for a lot of us can be very scary and it's stretching

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us. And ladies, I want to encourage you to keep doing that because your vulnerability and your

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courage helps other women in this community gain the courage themselves to do the same thing.

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Like that always helps me when I was in this community as a single, like I was like,

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I can't take this here. Like this is embarrassing. They're going to, you know,

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and then I'd see someone post something slightly similar and I'm like, oh, I'm not alone.

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And like, I got to share my experience and guess what? Like there wasn't, it wasn't a coincidence

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that someone else was experiencing the same thing because a lot of times

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it was frequently happening to several of us. Like God was highlighting

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something in the community because he wanted us to see something. And so I really want you

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to encourage not to hold back, but to really press in and get vulnerable and come and share

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what's happening, not just here in our, our live group chats, but in the app and then go

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check out what your sisters are sharing. Um, I'm seeing lots of curiosity instead of like

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rushing for the certainty. Talked a lot about certainty over the last several, um, teachings

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that's definitely been highlighted. So like I said, sometimes God just highlights something

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that's been like frequent for all of us. Um, I know that's been something that's even in my season.

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Um, and so I'm starting to see that teaching get rooted and it's really awesome. Um, and just

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women are allowing in this community for God to uncover deeper layers of heartwork.

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And I know like I've, you know, I've been coaching now for gosh, it's almost been three years,

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I think two and a half, almost three years I've been in this community for, I mean, it'll be,

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you know, over five years, almost six. And like, I've seen so many women move from phase one to

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phase two and they get really nervous thinking that, you know, they did all this work and

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heartwork and it was really, really good for them. And they were really confident about the work

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because they really spent time there. They were intentional about it. And then there's a fear that

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it goes away when we start dating and we're going to forget it all. Y'all, you're not going to

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forget it in phase two. You learn the.

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principles of heartwork in phase one and spend time absorbing it, phase two is putting it into

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practice. So you don't lose it. We actually show you how to apply it. So we're going to walk you

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through that process. Frequently, you'll notice I'm going to coach you in very similar in the

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way that we would coach you in heartwork. I've been through the heartwork numerous times,

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daily sometimes. Heartwork never leaves us. And so I want to celebrate that. I want that to be

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an encouragement. I know I take a little time to really focus on that celebrating, but I really do

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think it's important because I want you ladies to be encouraged and it to spark a hope in you

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to keep you moving. Okay. And I want you to remember that this community isn't about getting

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dating perfectly. It's not. It is about becoming the woman who you know God wants you to be.

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He wants you to know how to walk with him while dating. It's not about doing it perfectly. Well,

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have guardrails. We won't have rules, but we'll have guardrails because ladies, let me tell you,

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you're going to need some guardrails, especially if you're me. Y'all, I need those guardrails.

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Like they possibly could have been put into place because of me.

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My guardrails are probably all dented up. I mean, I'm just going to be real.

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All right. I made the mistakes over and over and over again. Like I was the reckless driver.

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Like my husband thinks I am reckless at driving. I think it's him, but in all reality, like

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if he really knew me before the heartwork and like going through the heartwork process

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before meeting him, he ain't lying. I definitely needed those guardrails. And so I want that

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just to be loving and gracious for yourself. Like, yes, if, yep, absolutely the gray hairs. Y'all,

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I have to get the highlights to cover my own grays because I give them to myself

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because I just do it to myself. And so I just want you just to remember this

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isn't about doing it perfectly. It is about who are you becoming? Like the new person

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that you are stepping into that God has just already created you to be. Like, I don't,

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every time I step into this call, right before I step into this call, ladies, I pray

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privately and I don't typically share like things that come to surface in my prayer time before I

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jump on this call. But I felt today was really significant because God really highlighted to me

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like the new wine and Matthew 9, 17. And y'all, they didn't, they didn't put new wine into old

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wine skins. They use new wine skins. Ladies utilize the new information that you've gained

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in heartwork so that you can be new wine. I just want you to resonate with that,

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pray into that. I'm going to release that over you ladies.

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Um, quick housekeeping. First, do I have any brand new ladies to phase two? I don't think I see.

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Lou, are you brand new? You're not brand new. You're shaking your head.

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Um, were you with me last week? Maybe you just didn't come on camera. Do you do eight o'clock?

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She's typing. I see her typing. I got L Renee. She's new. Welcome. It's so, um, okay. Awesome.

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Awesome. So glad to have you back on Tuesdays. I love that ladies. I don't want y'all to get

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discouraged and think, Oh, I haven't been, so I can't, I can't come back. No ladies.

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It's okay. Every day is a fresh day. Every day is a new day.

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Come back in, all right, come back to Tuesday.

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All right, so we definitely welcome you.

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I'm so, so thankful that you're here.

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So yeah, welcome.

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I want to encourage you ladies to replay,

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watch those replay, engage in the replay.

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For those ladies that are not on right now live,

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watch it and engage with us, okay?

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We want you sharing what you got from this.

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We have the two sessions.

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If you come live to one, go watch the other.

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It's the same teaching and same content,

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but ladies, it's a different class.

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It's two different teachers, a whole new set of ladies

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asking all new different questions.

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Holy Spirit is coming in this session at eight o'clock.

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So if you can do both, do both.

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But I really, really encourage you to do your best

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to at least come to one live and watch the other.

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I want to remind you, we do have one-on-one coaching.

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I've had a lot of ladies signing up for that.

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I know myself, Ebony, Renee,

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we've definitely have been taking lots of calls

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and it's been really wonderful.

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I've got an amazing update today in my inbox

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over the weekend.

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A girl has just got tremendous breakthrough.

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And so not that a one-on-one call means

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that's where you get breakthrough.

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You get breakthrough here, through group coaching,

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through actively coming to the app and sharing.

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But there are some ladies that do find value,

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like, hey, I need the extra 50 minutes.

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And so we do offer that.

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That's in the resource section of the app.

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There is an additional charge.

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It's not included in the membership, okay?

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But I don't want you to think like, oh, I have to do it.

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Yes, Laura, I'm so glad that you come to both.

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I love that.

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So thank you for doing that.

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And Laura, I'm sure you can say like,

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yeah, some of the same content,

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but it's completely different.

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I, like, Ebony and I are still trying to connect

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to figure out, we wanna do a joint session together

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because I just love Ebony.

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She and I are just like two peas in a pod.

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We just, like, I love her.

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We tried to get together a few weeks ago

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and then the weather was horrible.

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And I was like, ah, I can't drive in this weather.

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But we are hoping that we can do that soon this summer

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since she's on summer break from teaching.

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So, but yes, love that you're able to do that.

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Continue to keep doing those activations, ladies.

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Keep remembering our culture.

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It's important that every woman here

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deserves the opportunity to receive thoughtful coaching

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that's safe and supportive.

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So that's what we wanna hold really, really sacred

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in this environment.

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And so the best way to protect that

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is to allow our coaching team to be the ones

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that guide and reflect those coaching questions.

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I know it's really easy to kinda wanna step into our gifts

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and coach women along and encourage them.

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I want you ladies encouraging one another.

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I want you engaging with each other.

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I really want you to be mindful about the coaching piece,

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the advice giving, the question asking.

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Okay, cause that can sometimes add some confusion.

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Now I'm not saying that some of you ladies

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are gonna make strong connections

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and you're gonna connect

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and you're gonna be praying for one another.

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Like we want you engaged in doing that.

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So, but just really be mindful of that.

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Really be praying as you engage with one another.

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All right, I'm gonna be quick for our prayer

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so we can get started.

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Lots of great things to teach you today.

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And then we can take your questions.

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So Holy Spirit, I just thank you

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for this opportunity today.

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Lord, I just, I can't thank you enough

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for the beautiful opportunities that you reveal to us.

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I thank you for the ways that these women show up.

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I thank you for the vulnerability that's in their hearts.

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I thank you for their openness.

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I thank you that even in those moments

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where things might feel like there's a crushing

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or a pressing, that they are loved.

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Laying it down to you.

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They are open and willing to receive and you to create a new wine in them.

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Lord, I ask that in this session today that you use this opportunity to teach us,

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to heal us, to show us, to grow us, and just help us to trust you with only the

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things that you can do. In Jesus' name, amen. Amen, amen.

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Okay, so if you were on the call, if you jumped, you were the first one to jump in,

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you did hear our session this week is creating opportunity without controlling

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the outcome. As I was catching up on all the posts this week, I really noticed a

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lot of questions were different. So a lot of those questions sounded different.

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They're, you know, hey, coaches, what should I do? Should I sit next to them?

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Is the, you know, should I answer this message?

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How should I answer this message?

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What should I do with this?

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Should I be making the first move?

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Is this person love-bombing me?

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Like, what should I do here?

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I don't even know if I'm ready to date.

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Can y'all help me discern if I'm ready to date?

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I need some help here.

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You know, do I keep moving forward?

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Do I need to press pause?

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Right?

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Have any of those questions come up for you this week?

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Ladies, I always have those questions in this community.

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I am one of those people that I'm like, I need help with my decisions.

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Okay, I just need it.

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Like, I just want to be sure that I'm making the right decision.

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Like that was something that I've had, like God has had to grow me in and

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I'm not always perfect at it.

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So yes, we're hearing different questions on the surface.

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There are different questions.

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But if we really like dig and like look underneath.

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They're all inviting us to the same thing.

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Every single woman in this community.

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Is at some point?

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No matter where you're at in this walk.

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Is going to wrestle with the tension between.

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How do I faithfully participate?

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Without trying to control this outcome Lord.

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Ladies, it's daily.

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That is a daily tension.

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If we're not careful, it's very very easy.

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We have to remind ourselves.

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When we wake up.

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Lord, help me not to control the outcome.

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Help me to walk with you.

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What does that look like?

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I want you ladies to stop.

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What does that look like for you?

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Faithfully participating in control, not controlling an outcome.

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Sit with that for a moment.

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What is Holy Spirit wanting to speak?

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To you and reveal to you something comes up in your spirit ladies.

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Go ahead and share that in the chat.

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Love it.

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Yeah, relax.

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Y'all that is something I noticed frequently like I have to go to the

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chiropractor every week.

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Because I naturally carry stress.

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I'm not a person who's like, I'm not a person who's like, I'm not a person

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who's like, I'm not a person who's like, I'm not a person who's like, I'm not a

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carry stress.

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It is something that I am constantly needing to seek the Lord with.

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I will frequently recognize how easy and how without thinking about it.

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I tense my body up.

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I clench my jaw.

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I like tense up, like even when I sleep at night,

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like it's crazy.

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And I'm like, why am I always so sore in the morning?

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Like, why do I always feel tight?

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I mean, every week I go to the chiropractor

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and he's like, gets this like crazy crack in my neck

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and he's like, dang.

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And I'm like, oh my gosh, like you would think,

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I'm like, okay, is this gonna last for a month?

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Can we just, can I not see you for a month?

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No, like I just need to go to him every week.

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Now I'm not complaining, it feels good, but relax.

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You know?

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You know, letting go.

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I had a really big opportunity to do that this week

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and y'all, there was a lot of stretching for me this week.

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Lots of things God was revealing.

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And so I really wonder if that is exactly

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where God has been inviting us all this week.

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That is what a lot of these questions really surfaced.

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And so that's why I just really felt in my heart

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to pray into this teaching this week

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and he just revealed so many

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little pockets of wisdom

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that I've experienced in this process

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and nuggets that I've experienced myself,

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what I've seen other women experience,

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things that I remember Jackie teaching me

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that really do go along with a lot of the things

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that we teach in phase two,

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which is all in our content, okay?

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That's all there, it's all those teaching,

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all those videos,

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make sure you're watching those one a week.

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So I wanna tell you a story.

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And this came up this week,

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I think it was Fran that I shared this with her

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and we were talking about,

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how many of you have heard Jackie talk

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or have heard in our teachings,

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Jackie talk about dropping the hanky?

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Y'all, I see some yeses, okay?

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So yeah, y'all, Jackie

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taught about this dropping the hanky

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really early in the beginning

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when I was in the community.

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I joined way back in 2020, okay?

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And she explained this whole process to us

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and it was like,

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she shared with us like, okay, you gotta drop the hanky.

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And I'm like, you're like, what?

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And at the time, I think Bridgerton,

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that like Netflix series

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had just like come out

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and like, it was like a big like thing

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that a lot of ladies were watching.

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And it's like a historical thing,

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like it's like set in like, I think the 1800s ish,

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you know, it's like colonial time, I don't know.

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Like it's, anyway, that's not important.

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What's important is that it's set back in the old times

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in like this like high society.

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Yes, like the Regency area, like, yes,

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like Downington Abbey, like that kind of whole thing.

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Like that kind of whole, like, you know,

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the women kind of coming out in society,

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like, hey, I'm ready to be married.

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And so they would go walk on these promenades,

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you know, they would just walk around,

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they'd have their, you know, little chaperone

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and everybody that like all the available women

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looking for a husband

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and all the men were looking for the wives,

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you know, wanting to pick, you know,

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wanting to see what, you know, what was out there

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would be walking around.

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And so, and then they had these socials, these balls,

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and, you know, they do these dances

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and all that kind of stuff,

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but they would have handkerchiefs.

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And so one way the women made it possible

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was to make it very clear that they wanted the man to know,

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they wanted them to talk to them

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and they were interested in like,

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hey, don't be talking to anybody else,

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come chat with me, like take interest in me, look at me.

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they would drop their handkerchief on the ground.

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It was the invitation for the man to pick it up

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so he could hand it back to her

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and strike up conversation.

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It was an opportunity.

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And so, firstly, Jackie teaches us this,

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and I'm like, uh, no.

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Absolutely not.

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Like, are you crazy?

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Like, I'm not doing that.

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Like, no.

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She's out of her stinking mind.

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I'm sitting here thinking, like, Jackie,

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let's, like, go look back at, like,

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the old classic romantic movies, okay?

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Y'all, and I'm not talking about, like,

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the ones that are, like, modern day now, okay?

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I'm talking about, like, Gone with the Wind,

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Casablanca, like, the ones where, like,

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the ones where we get the idea that, like,

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the men are to pursue the woman, right?

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That classic romantic movie, like,

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I'm, yeah, no one's carrying handkerchiefs anymore, right?

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We're not carrying handkerchiefs anymore,

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so guess what?

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There's a modern day of doing it, all right?

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And so, I'm like, we're not doing that, Jackie.

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I ain't dropping no hanky.

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Like, I'm not setting myself up for rejection.

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That's too scary.

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Hello?

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I want the romantic classic movie.

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I want the man, like, the knight in shining armor, right?

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And, like, I don't want to be the one chasing him.

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Like, I get this all the time.

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Like, ladies are like, well, I'm not supposed to chase.

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I want a man that's going to lead.

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And if I let him know, like, that's me leading.

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And, you know, that's me trying to make it happen.

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And so, I know some of you ladies are like,

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but Carly told us that we're creating opportunity,

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not making something happen.

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Carla, if I do that, then I'm taking control.

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No, ladies, it's not taking control.

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What Jackie is teaching us is that

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it's not about pursuing a man.

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It's about participating with God.

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It's allowing us the opportunity to present ourselves

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to the opportunity for God to use,

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for the man to step into that opportunity to show us,

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is he going to lead?

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Is he going to accept the invitation?

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Is he going to then proceed?

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Y'all, when Jackie taught this,

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we just had invited men into the community.

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And y'all, I was living in Sarasota, Florida.

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I'm in my late 30s.

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Okay, if you've ever been to Sarasota, Florida,

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there, it's easy to have the stigma,

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like, there's no single men in my age bracket.

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Like, they're all going to be that retired age.

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It's a very high cost of living.

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A lot of people are retiring there.

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You're going to see people in their 60s or 70s, whatever.

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Or just, like, trust fund babies.

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And I'm like, I'm not getting involved in that.

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Or a lot of people that are just, like, already, like, married,

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that are my age.

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But when we started inviting men to the community,

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I kid you not, there was a guy four years younger than me

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that lived in the town next to me.

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And y'all, he was cute.

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Like, he was, like, he was good looking, all right?

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And I was like, I already disqualified myself.

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I'm like, there is no way this guy is going to be interested in me.

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And I'm like, and Jackie's like, oh, you know, Carla, like,

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oh, I mean, she, like, kid you not, she's like,

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oh my goodness, like, he even kind of resembles your son.

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And I'm like, shut the front door, Jackie.

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Like, stop, stop encouraging this.

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Like, he's not, he's not going to reach out.

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And she's like, strike up a conversation.

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I'm like, I can't do that.

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Y'all, it took me a while, but, because I was terrified.

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I was like, there's just no way this guy is not going to be interested in me.

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I eventually did, like, get on a chat and, like, message him

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and connect with him.

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And I, I dropped the hanky.

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And ladies, he rejected me.

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Okay, but, okay, hold on.

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There's more to the story.

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somewhere in the story, he rejected me.

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And I like, like that was in of itself.

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I was like, see, this is why I wasn't supposed to do it.

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All right.

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But hold on.

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Story doesn't stop there.

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I do remember kind of going to Jackie.

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Cause she'd bring it up again.

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I'm like, Jackie, I did that.

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And like, he wasn't like, and I told her about it and she's like,

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Oh my goodness, Carla.

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Like, I had no idea that you eventually like took me up on that before you did

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that.

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I found out that he had this pastor, like talking to him, um, and counseling

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him and like directing him to take a pause on dating.

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She's like, Carla had nothing to do with you.

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It was really bad timing.

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She's like, this is not, this has nothing to do with you.

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She's like, it's a season that he's in.

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She's like, like whatever.

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And I was like, okay, okay, okay.

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So he was still in our community for a while.

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So several months gone by, we had a meetup.

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Um, I think Jackie and David had came, um, several ladies from, um, the, I

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think the area was a much smaller community then I think a few ladies flew

473
00:36:08.400 --> 00:36:15.400
in, we all did a meetup in, uh, Tampa and he was one of the guys that came.

474
00:36:16.200 --> 00:36:21.760
Y'all, I was like, I could, I get to see the cute guy.

475
00:36:22.240 --> 00:36:23.000
I'm like, I get to see cute.

476
00:36:23.000 --> 00:36:24.400
I'm like, but no, he's rejected me.

477
00:36:24.720 --> 00:36:25.160
No, no, no.

478
00:36:25.360 --> 00:36:27.000
So we reconnected.

479
00:36:27.640 --> 00:36:28.320
All right.

480
00:36:29.640 --> 00:36:31.880
And had a good time.

481
00:36:31.880 --> 00:36:34.880
We all had a good time, all hanging out, you know, Jackie, David,

482
00:36:34.880 --> 00:36:37.040
me, all the other ladies, like all that.

483
00:36:37.520 --> 00:36:43.080
And over time we built a friendship.

484
00:36:45.320 --> 00:36:49.960
And eventually Jackie encouraged me to drop the hanky again.

485
00:36:50.840 --> 00:36:51.520
And I did.

486
00:36:51.800 --> 00:36:54.000
I was like, Hey, it's been a while.

487
00:36:54.400 --> 00:36:55.920
Why don't we catch up and do coffee?

488
00:36:58.080 --> 00:37:00.840
Y'all he accepted the offer.

489
00:37:03.200 --> 00:37:12.680
Y'all it was one of the most like refreshing dates that I had been on.

490
00:37:12.720 --> 00:37:19.840
Like God used that date to highlight and reveal so many areas of

491
00:37:19.840 --> 00:37:21.120
restoration in my heart.

492
00:37:23.160 --> 00:37:23.680
All right.

493
00:37:23.880 --> 00:37:25.840
I'm not going to go into super detail cause I still have lots of

494
00:37:25.840 --> 00:37:26.880
stuff that I want to cover.

495
00:37:27.800 --> 00:37:34.680
But at the end of the day, what I will tell you, he wasn't my spirit mate.

496
00:37:35.800 --> 00:37:36.320
Okay.

497
00:37:39.080 --> 00:37:46.640
Getting to know him, I really did gather enough information to recognize he

498
00:37:47.560 --> 00:37:57.000
wasn't my spirit mate because one of my non-negotiables was someone that was

499
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:58.720
ready and prepared to be a father.

500
00:37:59.240 --> 00:38:00.200
I had a son.

501
00:38:01.200 --> 00:38:02.440
This guy was four years younger.

502
00:38:02.720 --> 00:38:06.080
Great uncle, really great with kids.

503
00:38:07.440 --> 00:38:10.120
But I didn't see.

504
00:38:10.760 --> 00:38:18.400
And from what like God revealed to me, I really noticed there just wasn't, he

505
00:38:18.400 --> 00:38:20.440
had, he wasn't prepared for that yet.

506
00:38:22.600 --> 00:38:28.680
And come to find out, he actually met a girl and she was close friends with some

507
00:38:28.720 --> 00:38:31.000
close friends of mine that I worked with.

508
00:38:31.480 --> 00:38:36.200
And just recently, I think it was in the past, like couple months, they're married

509
00:38:36.320 --> 00:38:39.800
And so like he got his love story.

510
00:38:40.120 --> 00:38:45.400
I got my love story and God still used that opportunity.

511
00:38:48.240 --> 00:38:54.960
So I say that to encourage you that yeah, dropping the hanky might stretch you.

512
00:38:55.200 --> 00:38:59.280
Dropping the hanky doesn't always mean it's going to lead you to your spirit

513
00:38:59.280 --> 00:39:03.880
mate, but what it is going to do is it's going to lead you to an opportunity to

514
00:39:03.880 --> 00:39:08.200
do something incredible that you didn't even know you needed.

515
00:39:11.000 --> 00:39:13.320
And so I really want to invite you to that.

516
00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:25.520
There is a huge difference between having an opportunity, like partnering with the

517
00:39:25.520 --> 00:39:28.240
opportunity and participating with God.

518
00:39:28.280 --> 00:39:33.720
Like there is like, I don't know if I can say this, but there is a huge

519
00:39:34.440 --> 00:39:40.000
difference between pursuing a man and partnering with God, two different things.

520
00:39:41.440 --> 00:39:44.400
Opportunity belongs to us.

521
00:39:47.200 --> 00:39:49.240
Outcome belongs to God.

522
00:39:52.760 --> 00:39:57.520
Some examples of opportunities, ladies, is join a dating app.

523
00:39:57.520 --> 00:39:59.040
Go.

524
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.520
to the single events. I see lots of ladies are going to like those speed dating events,

525
00:40:06.960 --> 00:40:15.280
single meetups, going to concerts. I mean, go somewhere, okay? Sit next to someone.

526
00:40:16.080 --> 00:40:22.640
Y'all, I was at church this couple weekends ago. One of the ladies, she's in her 60s.

527
00:40:22.640 --> 00:40:33.200
I went on a retreat with her and she actually is like, was sharing with us back in February,

528
00:40:33.200 --> 00:40:36.320
like this desire to get married. She's been married twice and she's like,

529
00:40:37.360 --> 00:40:43.120
I thank God I want to be married again. I just don't know. Y'all, I ended up like,

530
00:40:44.000 --> 00:40:49.840
she pulled me aside. We were talking and, you know, obviously I told her about Jackie

531
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:58.400
and Jackie's book, Modern Dating Sucks. And I was like, hey, join this book club.

532
00:40:58.400 --> 00:41:01.760
I gave her the information. She joined the book club. She's now in the program.

533
00:41:01.760 --> 00:41:05.520
And so I was connecting with her a couple of weeks ago. And y'all, when I was connecting

534
00:41:05.520 --> 00:41:15.280
with her, she's like, oh, I went to this theater with another family in our community. Their son

535
00:41:15.280 --> 00:41:20.000
does theater. And so she went to go watch him. And she's like, when I was there,

536
00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:23.840
I saw this guy who was sitting by himself. And y'all, she went and sat next to him.

537
00:41:26.000 --> 00:41:31.040
She then was like, he was awkward and all these kinds of things. But she had fun with it.

538
00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:35.360
It didn't have the outcome that, you know, it didn't make a love connection,

539
00:41:36.240 --> 00:41:45.760
but she put it into practice. And I was so excited for her. So like, she started to get,

540
00:41:45.760 --> 00:41:51.280
she's starting to step into those opportunities. You know, ask the thoughtful questions to someone.

541
00:41:54.640 --> 00:42:01.680
I think somebody is not muted and I forget how to mute everybody.

542
00:42:01.760 --> 00:42:02.800
I always do this.

543
00:42:06.560 --> 00:42:10.960
All right. Hopefully someone check your mutes, make sure you're muted.

544
00:42:14.640 --> 00:42:18.080
You know, trust your community, let them know that you're open to dating.

545
00:42:19.520 --> 00:42:26.720
Create those opportunities for yourself. The things that belong to God

546
00:42:27.680 --> 00:42:36.240
are the questions, is this man going to pursue me? Is he going to respond? Is this man my husband?

547
00:42:36.240 --> 00:42:44.320
Is this going to become marriage? Is this going to work out? Does he like me? Is he going to choose

548
00:42:44.320 --> 00:42:54.000
me? Like, these are all things that are really beautiful desires. And what we really hope for

549
00:42:54.160 --> 00:43:00.720
but ladies, these are not our burdens to carry. Matthew 11, 28 through 30.

550
00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:20.720
Ladies, give your burdens to Jesus. His yoke is easy and light. Let Him carry the heavy load

551
00:43:21.600 --> 00:43:32.000
This is about surrendering, but it's also about submission.

552
00:43:39.840 --> 00:43:43.440
Go back to phase one, go back and pull,

553
00:43:43.440 --> 00:43:47.280
go back into the heart workbook, go back and pull that permission slip.

554
00:43:47.440 --> 00:43:53.360
Daily surrender, ladies. I said that earlier this, um, in this call, daily surrender.

555
00:43:57.680 --> 00:44:06.240
But we also have to submit. We've got to submit to God's word. And He tells us,

556
00:44:06.800 --> 00:44:13.120
do not carry that burden. It's not yours to carry. It's mine. Give it back to me.

557
00:44:13.280 --> 00:44:14.240
Give it back to me.

558
00:44:16.560 --> 00:44:23.920
Ladies, I am so guilty of carrying it. I have to do it daily.

559
00:44:26.640 --> 00:44:29.920
Something that I have learned and I'm still continuing to learn

560
00:44:31.040 --> 00:44:36.720
is creating an opportunity is not the same thing as creating the outcome.

561
00:44:37.680 --> 00:44:40.480
That creating the opportunity is just saying I'm available.

562
00:44:42.720 --> 00:44:50.960
I'm here. Lord, use me. I'm available. The outcome says I have to make it work.

563
00:44:52.800 --> 00:44:58.320
That's coming from a scarcity mindset. Those are two different postures.

564
00:45:00.880 --> 00:45:02.480
Two totally different postures.

565
00:45:05.600 --> 00:45:11.760
Surrender is the trusting part. Submission is the obedience part.

566
00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:23.360
Obedience is key, ladies. Super, super important. Okay?

567
00:45:25.120 --> 00:45:29.360
And I want to encourage you, like, spend some time praying about submission.

568
00:45:30.560 --> 00:45:33.680
Go back to that section of hard work. I know it's there.

569
00:45:34.320 --> 00:45:38.560
I know that word makes a lot of us ladies uncomfortable.

570
00:45:41.120 --> 00:45:43.760
But I want you to sit with that.

571
00:45:47.600 --> 00:45:53.840
Moving on, that dating for discovery that we talk about, stepping in that divine feminine,

572
00:45:53.840 --> 00:45:57.200
it gives us the permission. It is that permission slip.

573
00:45:59.280 --> 00:46:02.800
We create the opportunities. We're gathering the information.

574
00:46:02.800 --> 00:46:08.400
We get to remain curious. We get to trust God with the things that we can't control.

575
00:46:10.400 --> 00:46:18.880
Like, that's the purpose of it. Ladies, in the chat, what is it that Jackie tells you

576
00:46:18.880 --> 00:46:25.360
this is a preparation period for what? What is this a preparation period for?

577
00:46:28.320 --> 00:46:35.680
Put it in the chat, ladies. I want to see it. What is last year's single preparing you for?

578
00:46:43.040 --> 00:46:46.560
I'm glad I'm asking you ladies to put this in the chat because I'm going to wake you ladies up.

579
00:46:49.120 --> 00:46:54.160
Relationship meetings for marriage. Yeah, relationship marriage. Come on,

580
00:46:54.160 --> 00:46:58.640
ladies. Marriage. It's preparing you for marriage. Yes, yes. I mean,

581
00:47:00.160 --> 00:47:03.120
is there anyone here that's not here hoping that they get married?

582
00:47:07.280 --> 00:47:15.360
Some of us might be doubting it. Y'all, I doubted. I did doubt. Okay. I was in this community

583
00:47:15.360 --> 00:47:23.120
for a minute. And I was like, I don't know. This isn't for me. Like, I was on my last straw

584
00:47:24.960 --> 00:47:31.760
before I met my husband. I was in this community for like two years, y'all.

585
00:47:32.400 --> 00:47:38.080
I'm telling you, like, I was the girl that really struggled with surrender. I was the control freak.

586
00:47:38.080 --> 00:47:45.120
I was hitting those guardrails really, really hard. I was not, like, I didn't want to surrender.

587
00:47:45.120 --> 00:47:50.240
I didn't want to submit. Like, that was not my thing. Okay. I had a lot of fear. I had a lot of

588
00:47:50.240 --> 00:47:58.000
walls. I had a lot of anxiousness. Okay. I wasn't just anxious. I was avoidant too. I mean, I like,

589
00:47:58.000 --> 00:48:07.760
I was all over that road. Okay. So, there is nothing that you're probably going to share

590
00:48:08.480 --> 00:48:12.080
in the app that I'm not going to be like, yeah, probably did that too.

591
00:48:12.240 --> 00:48:18.560
There is no judgment coming from this girl right here, because I probably did it too.

592
00:48:19.520 --> 00:48:25.520
Okay. We can compare stories and we'll compare stories after y'all are married. Okay.

593
00:48:28.960 --> 00:48:36.240
Marriage taught me something. I mean, I'm getting ready to go on. We're about to celebrate three

594
00:48:36.560 --> 00:48:44.000
years of marriage. We've connected and we've been together. We've met over three years ago.

595
00:48:44.560 --> 00:48:49.440
I officially moved to Florida literally three years ago from this past weekend.

596
00:48:50.320 --> 00:48:59.280
It was July 2nd or July 3rd of 2023 is when I officially moved to Texas, which y'all,

597
00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:08.400
I was not going to move to Texas. And I've learned so much in marriage.

598
00:49:11.520 --> 00:49:18.960
It creates so much opportunity and it doesn't stop once you're married.

599
00:49:21.280 --> 00:49:25.040
I know some of you ladies in here have been married before and you'll get that.

600
00:49:25.040 --> 00:49:31.520
Y'all, I had never been married before. Never been married. I had no idea what Jackie was

601
00:49:31.520 --> 00:49:39.520
talking about. So, I get it. You ladies, if you've never been married, I know it might not

602
00:49:39.520 --> 00:49:46.800
make sense or you think it might make sense. You are going to be so thankful

603
00:49:49.360 --> 00:49:54.160
when you're married and you look back. I kid you not ladies, you are going to be so

604
00:49:54.160 --> 00:49:59.840
thankful for the preparation that you did in this community.

605
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:06.440
when you're sitting in your house with your husband

606
00:50:06.440 --> 00:50:07.560
and there's a challenge.

607
00:50:12.160 --> 00:50:19.240
I kid you not, in that moment, I want you to remember,

608
00:50:19.240 --> 00:50:24.880
Karla told me this was going to happen.

609
00:50:24.880 --> 00:50:27.280
Y'all, I want you to find me, I want you to connect me,

610
00:50:27.280 --> 00:50:30.320
and be like, Karla, you were right.

611
00:50:30.320 --> 00:50:31.120
I needed it.

612
00:50:34.280 --> 00:50:38.880
It's what I needed to prepare for the season

613
00:50:38.880 --> 00:50:40.240
that I'm walking in into marriage.

614
00:50:43.880 --> 00:50:46.440
Y'all, my husband makes a lot of mistakes.

615
00:50:51.600 --> 00:50:54.080
OK.

616
00:50:54.080 --> 00:50:56.640
I love my husband, but he makes some mistakes.

617
00:50:56.960 --> 00:50:59.200
He ain't Jesus.

618
00:50:59.200 --> 00:51:00.040
He's not perfect.

619
00:51:03.360 --> 00:51:07.960
And honestly, and secretly, I actually

620
00:51:07.960 --> 00:51:11.600
probably make more mistakes, which

621
00:51:11.600 --> 00:51:18.080
is ironic because, y'all, I'm the dating relationship coach.

622
00:51:21.000 --> 00:51:23.760
He's the one that's like the insurance guru

623
00:51:23.760 --> 00:51:25.040
and the tech pro.

624
00:51:25.040 --> 00:51:27.840
He does all the things.

625
00:51:27.840 --> 00:51:30.840
What?

626
00:51:30.840 --> 00:51:35.280
He's the one that should be making more mistakes, not me.

627
00:51:35.280 --> 00:51:43.800
But ladies, the goal isn't about perfection.

628
00:51:43.800 --> 00:51:49.920
The goal is about inviting Jesus into every part of the journey.

629
00:51:50.600 --> 00:51:54.360
I know we think that if I can just get married,

630
00:51:54.360 --> 00:51:58.240
the work is over, I have arrived.

631
00:51:58.240 --> 00:52:00.440
Y'all, I believed that.

632
00:52:00.440 --> 00:52:04.320
Y'all, when I met my husband, I was on cloud nine.

633
00:52:04.320 --> 00:52:06.000
I was like, things were good.

634
00:52:06.000 --> 00:52:09.280
I was like, breakthrough is coming.

635
00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:12.320
I mean, there was celebration.

636
00:52:12.320 --> 00:52:16.800
It's just things were going so good.

637
00:52:16.960 --> 00:52:19.560
But ladies, we all know life happens.

638
00:52:22.560 --> 00:52:29.080
And y'all, no sooner than I moved to Texas,

639
00:52:29.080 --> 00:52:33.160
I have hit the ground running these last three years.

640
00:52:33.160 --> 00:52:36.120
Kid you not.

641
00:52:36.120 --> 00:52:41.320
So many opportunities, so many opportunities.

642
00:52:41.720 --> 00:52:45.960
I mean, just this weekend was probably

643
00:52:45.960 --> 00:52:51.680
one of the biggest moments in my marriage,

644
00:52:51.680 --> 00:52:57.720
in my relationship with my husband, where I sat down

645
00:52:57.720 --> 00:53:03.160
and had one of the most vulnerable, scary conversations

646
00:53:03.160 --> 00:53:05.360
with my husband.

647
00:53:05.360 --> 00:53:09.960
Y'all, I was so scared.

648
00:53:10.800 --> 00:53:15.040
I was shaking and nervous when he got home,

649
00:53:15.040 --> 00:53:17.600
because I knew we had to have a conversation.

650
00:53:17.600 --> 00:53:19.520
He said we were going to talk when we got home.

651
00:53:22.520 --> 00:53:25.560
You know, the enemy, like God is moving in our lives.

652
00:53:25.560 --> 00:53:29.480
Like, there is a lot of amazing things.

653
00:53:29.480 --> 00:53:34.280
But I kid you not, I took my eyes off Jesus,

654
00:53:34.280 --> 00:53:38.960
and the attack was raw and real.

655
00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:44.920
The old wounds that I thought I healed in heart work,

656
00:53:44.920 --> 00:53:48.440
there was a whole nother layer.

657
00:53:48.440 --> 00:53:51.680
And I was like, what?

658
00:53:51.680 --> 00:53:53.600
And I had to get really vulnerable.

659
00:53:53.600 --> 00:53:55.200
I mean, I sat across from my husband,

660
00:53:55.200 --> 00:53:59.680
and I'm like, tears and tissues.

661
00:53:59.680 --> 00:54:03.640
And I remember telling him, I'm like, uh.

662
00:54:03.640 --> 00:54:06.960
Now I know what Adam and Eve felt like

663
00:54:06.960 --> 00:54:07.920
and why they were hiding.

664
00:54:11.600 --> 00:54:14.720
That's vulnerability.

665
00:54:14.720 --> 00:54:17.720
You're going to have it in marriage.

666
00:54:17.720 --> 00:54:22.640
And it's going to be beautiful, because ladies, I mean,

667
00:54:22.640 --> 00:54:25.200
I've had some incredible moments with my husband.

668
00:54:27.840 --> 00:54:33.960
The connection, the emotional, spiritual, intimate connection

669
00:54:33.960 --> 00:54:40.440
that we were able to share was so beautiful.

670
00:54:44.160 --> 00:54:46.000
God showed up.

671
00:54:49.480 --> 00:54:54.840
And I can't help but thank this community and Jackie and David's

672
00:54:54.840 --> 00:55:01.400
obedience for speaking, like for just doing what it would.

673
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:12.400
for being obedient. Y'all, I honestly, like I said, you're going to have a moment like that.

674
00:55:15.280 --> 00:55:20.720
And you're going to, you're going to come back and be like, Carla, Kelly, meet yourself, honey,

675
00:55:20.720 --> 00:55:31.680
Carla, I am so thankful you shared this with us because that's what gave me the courage and the

676
00:55:31.680 --> 00:55:37.520
strength to remember Jesus has me and has my husband and we're going to get through this

677
00:55:38.160 --> 00:55:47.760
and he's got my marriage. I'm prepared for this. I'm equipped. God has equipped me.

678
00:55:47.760 --> 00:55:56.560
You're going to be so, so thankful. All right. I want to make sure we have at least a good solid

679
00:55:56.560 --> 00:56:06.560
30 minutes. So weekly activation. I want you to practice separating opportunity from outcome.

680
00:56:06.560 --> 00:56:12.800
All right. So I want you to choose one area where you've been trying to control the outcome.

681
00:56:12.800 --> 00:56:22.960
Okay. So ladies, it could be dating. It might not be dating. It could be something with work,

682
00:56:22.960 --> 00:56:33.520
family, friendships, health, fitness, something metal, whatever it is. Okay.

683
00:56:34.800 --> 00:56:38.320
Now I was praying about this and I really did feel like God was like,

684
00:56:39.120 --> 00:56:41.120
a lot of ladies do need to do dating.

685
00:56:44.000 --> 00:56:47.280
Because I'm like, oh, well, not everybody's dating. I was not one of those ladies that date.

686
00:56:48.480 --> 00:56:53.680
He really spoke to me. So I want, I want this to sit. If this is you, if you are not dating right

687
00:56:53.680 --> 00:57:00.480
now, I really want you to take this to the Lord right now. Okay. Because this is, I really think

688
00:57:01.040 --> 00:57:09.520
God is speaking to, to, to my ladies that have been holding off from stepping into dating.

689
00:57:11.760 --> 00:57:20.960
There's fear, there's insecurity, there's a whole slew of stuff because

690
00:57:22.480 --> 00:57:26.720
we're afraid we can't control the outcome. We don't know what it's going to look like.

691
00:57:27.280 --> 00:57:32.960
And God wants to start inviting you into that season and you to start creating opportunities

692
00:57:32.960 --> 00:57:41.840
because he's ready to accelerate your healing. Okay. Ladies, and it doesn't have to be big.

693
00:57:42.720 --> 00:57:50.160
The opportunities that you open doors up doesn't have to be big. Just sit with God.

694
00:57:50.160 --> 00:57:59.200
Sit with God. But I really, I really felt that. So I don't know if that's specifically for somebody

695
00:57:59.200 --> 00:58:04.800
here. I think it probably is or somebody watching in replay, but I really want you to sit with that.

696
00:58:06.000 --> 00:58:14.880
And so ask the Lord, what opportunity are you inviting me to create while I trust you with

697
00:58:14.880 --> 00:58:22.480
this outcome? And share that experience in the app this week. Go ahead, throw up your hands,

698
00:58:22.480 --> 00:58:28.800
ladies. What questions do you have? Remember, I actually have a lot more ladies than I feel like

699
00:58:28.800 --> 00:58:36.640
I usually do. So let's make sure how many we got going on here. Ladies, don't be shy. All right.

700
00:58:36.640 --> 00:58:42.880
This is the opportunity to really glean. Like I said, get yourself vulnerable. A lot of times

701
00:58:42.880 --> 00:58:50.640
your question is actually going to give courage to someone else or it's actually going to highlight

702
00:58:53.200 --> 00:58:58.400
something that God's wanting to do in the community. I'm trying to pull because I know

703
00:58:58.400 --> 00:59:03.840
a lot of people were posting in the chat and I don't want to miss any of that.

704
00:59:05.680 --> 00:59:11.360
But I, for some reason, cannot highlight. Sometimes I'd like to be able to pull all the

705
00:59:11.360 --> 00:59:20.800
content and like go through after the call. So that I can make a separate post in the community

706
00:59:20.800 --> 00:59:28.640
afterwards to, oh, there we go. To address anything that I might've missed.

707
00:59:30.800 --> 00:59:35.680
It's just natural for me to sometimes take my eyes off the chat when Holy Spirit's moving.

708
00:59:36.080 --> 00:59:48.000
So, okay. I think I've got five. I could be wrong. Six. I got six. Well, wait, maybe five

709
00:59:48.000 --> 00:59:53.280
because is Cynthia C and Cynthia K might be the same person. I'm not sure.

710
00:59:53.280 --> 00:59:56.000
No, we aren't. We don't know each other.

711
00:59:57.120 --> 00:59:59.840
Well, yeah, two people. Yeah. I love it.

712
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.080
Oh my goodness, little twins, little twins.

713
01:00:02.080 --> 01:00:05.040
Oh, by the way, ladies, I forgot to share in housekeeping.

714
01:00:05.960 --> 01:00:08.840
Make sure you get registered tonight.

715
01:00:08.840 --> 01:00:10.480
Okay, I don't know if you saw the notification.

716
01:00:10.480 --> 01:00:13.200
Bethany sent a notification early this morning.

717
01:00:13.200 --> 01:00:15.280
Y'all, and I was like not awake enough.

718
01:00:15.280 --> 01:00:18.600
And I was like, is this the same time

719
01:00:18.600 --> 01:00:22.280
as like our call with Ebony tonight?

720
01:00:22.280 --> 01:00:24.160
Like, oh my gosh.

721
01:00:24.160 --> 01:00:29.160
And there's like a double single spotlight tonight

722
01:00:31.200 --> 01:00:35.000
with two guys in our community, two OGs.

723
01:00:35.000 --> 01:00:37.040
All right, y'all, Josh and Dave.

724
01:00:37.040 --> 01:00:39.360
I have met both of them.

725
01:00:39.360 --> 01:00:42.760
Well, I've met Josh, okay?

726
01:00:42.760 --> 01:00:45.920
He's in the United States, okay?

727
01:00:45.920 --> 01:00:48.440
I met him actually at one of my friend's wedding

728
01:00:49.040 --> 01:00:54.040
and really, really funny standup, really solid guy.

729
01:00:56.880 --> 01:00:59.400
He's on tonight, he's being spotlighted.

730
01:00:59.400 --> 01:01:02.960
And then Dave, Dave is from Alberta, Canada.

731
01:01:02.960 --> 01:01:07.960
Like total, total, total, like amazing personality.

732
01:01:09.640 --> 01:01:11.640
They're being spotlighted, all right?

733
01:01:11.640 --> 01:01:13.920
They're both single, all right?

734
01:01:13.920 --> 01:01:16.940
They've done hard work, all right?

735
01:01:16.940 --> 01:01:18.540
And you're not gonna wanna miss it,

736
01:01:18.540 --> 01:01:23.540
but in order to get the link, you've gotta get registered.

737
01:01:25.140 --> 01:01:27.180
So you've gotta click on the link in the app.

738
01:01:27.180 --> 01:01:29.100
So make sure you do that, okay?

739
01:01:29.100 --> 01:01:30.820
You gotta come camera ready.

740
01:01:30.820 --> 01:01:35.060
You gotta have your camera on, but ladies do not miss it.

741
01:01:35.060 --> 01:01:37.100
I'm telling you, like even if you're like,

742
01:01:37.100 --> 01:01:39.900
if they're not age appropriate, ladies,

743
01:01:39.900 --> 01:01:42.900
I don't know what the rules are.

744
01:01:42.900 --> 01:01:44.500
I'm gonna have to go back and look at that app

745
01:01:44.500 --> 01:01:46.020
or that post in the app.

746
01:01:47.940 --> 01:01:49.940
But they are a breath of fresh air.

747
01:01:51.460 --> 01:01:54.260
Even if they're not in your age bracket,

748
01:01:55.780 --> 01:01:59.620
you're gonna be very enlightened

749
01:02:00.500 --> 01:02:03.740
by who these two God-fearing men are.

750
01:02:03.740 --> 01:02:05.060
Like I said, I have met them.

751
01:02:05.060 --> 01:02:07.300
Like I have met Josh in person.

752
01:02:07.300 --> 01:02:10.340
I have had several conversations with Dave.

753
01:02:10.340 --> 01:02:13.180
Like I said, he was one of the guys

754
01:02:13.500 --> 01:02:17.380
that came very early on when I was in the program

755
01:02:17.380 --> 01:02:22.380
and just a really like charismatic, great personality,

756
01:02:23.380 --> 01:02:25.660
super easy to talk to.

757
01:02:25.660 --> 01:02:27.900
Hey, even if you could be their mom,

758
01:02:27.900 --> 01:02:32.900
I just like, I want you to see just what's out there.

759
01:02:36.100 --> 01:02:38.460
I want you to be encouraged.

760
01:02:39.460 --> 01:02:40.300
Exactly.

761
01:02:40.300 --> 01:02:44.260
They might have a single dude that they know, okay?

762
01:02:46.860 --> 01:02:47.980
Not lying.

763
01:02:47.980 --> 01:02:48.820
I love it.

764
01:02:48.820 --> 01:02:50.260
I love that perspective, Dana.

765
01:02:50.260 --> 01:02:51.940
You work it, girl.

766
01:02:51.940 --> 01:02:53.780
Work it.

767
01:02:53.780 --> 01:02:54.620
All right.

768
01:02:54.620 --> 01:02:56.140
So, all right.

769
01:02:56.140 --> 01:02:58.740
I got six questions.

770
01:02:58.740 --> 01:03:02.060
I am going to do my very best to get through them all.

771
01:03:02.060 --> 01:03:05.900
Again, I wanna make sure that I leave the opportunity

772
01:03:06.860 --> 01:03:10.300
for everyone to get coaching.

773
01:03:10.300 --> 01:03:13.660
So, let's make sure we're leaving it short,

774
01:03:13.660 --> 01:03:14.900
brief and powerful.

775
01:03:14.900 --> 01:03:16.580
I love using these opportunities.

776
01:03:16.580 --> 01:03:18.780
If I feel like there is a teachable moment

777
01:03:18.780 --> 01:03:20.340
for the entire community,

778
01:03:22.100 --> 01:03:26.540
be open for me to push it towards hard work, okay?

779
01:03:26.540 --> 01:03:31.540
Also, sometimes we have more easy specific questions

780
01:03:31.540 --> 01:03:32.500
like what should I do?

781
01:03:32.500 --> 01:03:34.460
Sometimes I, you know, I'm gonna give you a direct answer.

782
01:03:35.020 --> 01:03:39.020
We're gonna let Holy Spirit be our guide, all right?

783
01:03:39.020 --> 01:03:41.220
Jesus is at the wheel, okay?

784
01:03:41.220 --> 01:03:46.220
And if you have to jump off before I get to you,

785
01:03:47.420 --> 01:03:50.260
go put your question in the app

786
01:03:50.260 --> 01:03:54.900
and we'll address it so that you don't miss it.

787
01:03:54.900 --> 01:03:58.260
And if you have to jump off before I even end the call,

788
01:03:58.260 --> 01:04:01.580
if there's time and I can see it in the app,

789
01:04:01.580 --> 01:04:04.300
I'll try to answer it here, okay?

790
01:04:05.140 --> 01:04:06.860
I actually, I think that's where Fran had her question.

791
01:04:06.860 --> 01:04:11.180
She posted it and I needed more detail.

792
01:04:11.180 --> 01:04:15.940
She's like, Carla, like you're making me use more words

793
01:04:15.940 --> 01:04:16.780
than I wanted to.

794
01:04:16.780 --> 01:04:19.300
And so she was a good sport about it.

795
01:04:19.300 --> 01:04:23.060
And that's where the hanky, the drop the hanky story came.

796
01:04:23.060 --> 01:04:28.060
And it really did honestly help create this teaching.

797
01:04:29.060 --> 01:04:35.100
So you see, you never know,

798
01:04:35.100 --> 01:04:37.140
your question might lead to something

799
01:04:37.140 --> 01:04:38.900
that God's just really trying to reveal.

800
01:04:38.900 --> 01:04:41.900
Okay, Lou, I got you up on the dock

801
01:04:41.900 --> 01:04:45.580
and then I got Susan and Cynthia Cave and Peggy.

802
01:04:46.940 --> 01:04:49.060
Again, ladies, short, brief, powerful.

803
01:04:50.180 --> 01:04:52.220
So we get through as many as we can.

804
01:04:53.740 --> 01:04:54.580
How are you?

805
01:04:55.580 --> 01:04:56.940
I was just laughing because I was like,

806
01:04:56.940 --> 01:04:57.940
it's actually midnight,

807
01:04:57.940 --> 01:05:00.060
this single spot night for me in England.

808
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.320
So I'm not going to be photo ready at midnight.

809
01:05:05.320 --> 01:05:06.440
Understandable.

810
01:05:06.440 --> 01:05:10.000
Understandable.

811
01:05:10.000 --> 01:05:11.800
Something I'm discovering, I think,

812
01:05:11.800 --> 01:05:14.560
that I just wanted to think is, so in the UK,

813
01:05:14.560 --> 01:05:16.860
I know you'll all laugh when I say long distance,

814
01:05:16.860 --> 01:05:21.760
because UK long distance is very different to American.

815
01:05:21.760 --> 01:05:26.920
But I'm finding it just seems to be

816
01:05:26.920 --> 01:05:29.560
that the guys I've met, too, and the guys

817
01:05:29.560 --> 01:05:32.160
I've had conversations with, it's

818
01:05:32.160 --> 01:05:37.840
like finding a time to meet because of the distance.

819
01:05:37.840 --> 01:05:41.800
And because I'm in my 40s, the last guy

820
01:05:41.800 --> 01:05:44.520
that I was chatting with and did go on a date with,

821
01:05:44.520 --> 01:05:46.940
he's a single dad.

822
01:05:46.940 --> 01:05:49.440
And I'm just chatting with someone else

823
01:05:49.440 --> 01:05:51.320
who's about three hours away, which

824
01:05:51.320 --> 01:05:53.600
I know doesn't sound that long distance,

825
01:05:53.600 --> 01:05:55.160
but it is in England.

826
01:05:55.160 --> 01:06:03.280
And I think what I'm noticing is a reluctance in me of like,

827
01:06:03.280 --> 01:06:06.800
this feels like effort.

828
01:06:06.800 --> 01:06:10.480
And I feel like I, it sounds really selfish,

829
01:06:10.480 --> 01:06:13.720
but I feel like I wanted this season to be fun.

830
01:06:13.720 --> 01:06:15.880
And this feels like effort.

831
01:06:15.880 --> 01:06:20.280
And I also find, and I don't know if this is British men

832
01:06:20.280 --> 01:06:25.960
or not, but it's like they go in at like 60 miles an hour.

833
01:06:25.960 --> 01:06:30.240
Like, they're like, they just want it almost.

834
01:06:30.240 --> 01:06:31.960
And I want to have fun and date.

835
01:06:31.960 --> 01:06:35.080
I always say, I feel like I would date American men better

836
01:06:35.080 --> 01:06:37.200
because I like the idea of kind of like,

837
01:06:37.200 --> 01:06:39.720
you can go on three or four dates a week, perhaps.

838
01:06:39.720 --> 01:06:42.240
I mean, maybe not at this age, but like, I

839
01:06:42.240 --> 01:06:44.480
can't get past midnight.

840
01:06:44.480 --> 01:06:46.720
Well, first of all, are you open to long distance

841
01:06:46.720 --> 01:06:48.400
like across international?

842
01:06:48.440 --> 01:06:50.440
Because we have ladies dating in America.

843
01:06:50.440 --> 01:06:54.000
It's quite funny that on Arc, I know

844
01:06:54.000 --> 01:06:56.640
that there's a load of men that like me that are from America,

845
01:06:56.640 --> 01:06:59.280
but no English guys.

846
01:06:59.280 --> 01:07:03.280
But I think, again, it's like, I don't

847
01:07:03.280 --> 01:07:05.600
want to be doing having phone dates with people.

848
01:07:05.600 --> 01:07:06.400
Like, I want to.

849
01:07:06.400 --> 01:07:07.640
Yeah, I get that.

850
01:07:07.640 --> 01:07:10.920
Yeah, so I think that's where I'm at.

851
01:07:10.920 --> 01:07:13.640
I don't know where I'm going with that, but it's whether,

852
01:07:13.640 --> 01:07:16.040
well, I think where I'm going is, do I shut down

853
01:07:16.040 --> 01:07:21.240
my distance even further to make it more localized?

854
01:07:21.240 --> 01:07:21.720
OK.

855
01:07:21.720 --> 01:07:24.800
Or am I overthinking this?

856
01:07:24.800 --> 01:07:26.440
OK, so this is good.

857
01:07:26.440 --> 01:07:27.840
I love this because this actually

858
01:07:27.840 --> 01:07:30.800
helps us put kind of what we're talking into practice.

859
01:07:30.800 --> 01:07:37.600
And there's a few things that I was like writing down

860
01:07:37.600 --> 01:07:40.800
that kind of came in my spirit when you were talking.

861
01:07:41.160 --> 01:07:45.920
One thing that I wanted to share is, ladies,

862
01:07:45.920 --> 01:07:48.040
Lou was talking about, like, she's

863
01:07:48.040 --> 01:07:51.080
dating guys in the 40s, like in that range, OK?

864
01:07:51.080 --> 01:07:55.600
I was in my late 30s, and I'm 43.

865
01:07:55.600 --> 01:07:59.000
And that is one thing that I also noticed.

866
01:07:59.000 --> 01:08:04.960
So my ladies that are in the late 30s, 40s, 50s, like that,

867
01:08:04.960 --> 01:08:10.760
and on, it's not uncommon for me to have

868
01:08:11.160 --> 01:08:13.720
a conversation with them.

869
01:08:13.720 --> 01:08:19.479
But it's also uncommon when you meet marriage-minded men,

870
01:08:19.479 --> 01:08:23.160
like they're ready, OK?

871
01:08:23.160 --> 01:08:27.160
And if you are, like, wanting to slow it down,

872
01:08:27.160 --> 01:08:29.120
you are going to, like, it's going

873
01:08:29.120 --> 01:08:30.720
to feel a little bit overwhelming.

874
01:08:30.720 --> 01:08:32.439
And that's OK.

875
01:08:32.439 --> 01:08:35.399
This is just giving you an opportunity, OK?

876
01:08:35.399 --> 01:08:37.040
This is opportunity.

877
01:08:37.120 --> 01:08:43.800
Boundaries, communication, letting someone know,

878
01:08:43.800 --> 01:08:48.640
hey, I'm really flattered.

879
01:08:48.640 --> 01:08:49.760
I'm really thankful.

880
01:08:52.840 --> 01:08:55.000
It would make me feel more comfortable

881
01:08:55.000 --> 01:08:58.160
if we slowed things down a bit.

882
01:08:58.160 --> 01:09:04.240
If they're asking questions, you can put up those guardrails.

883
01:09:04.279 --> 01:09:09.640
So you are given the opportunity to slow things down.

884
01:09:09.640 --> 01:09:11.479
You get that opportunity.

885
01:09:11.479 --> 01:09:15.640
And guess what happens when you do that?

886
01:09:15.640 --> 01:09:21.640
You're giving God the ability to give you

887
01:09:21.640 --> 01:09:26.240
information to gather of how that man's going to lead,

888
01:09:26.240 --> 01:09:29.560
show up, and respect your boundaries, OK?

889
01:09:29.560 --> 01:09:31.040
So that's one thing that I really

890
01:09:31.080 --> 01:09:35.960
felt was really important to share when you should.

891
01:09:35.960 --> 01:09:41.640
I know that doesn't necessarily answer your question.

892
01:09:41.640 --> 01:09:45.439
And so the long distance, here's the thing.

893
01:09:50.359 --> 01:09:56.640
One thing that I was thinking is,

894
01:09:56.640 --> 01:09:59.920
what if you didn't?

895
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:05.000
put the pressure of the timeline of meeting.

896
01:10:05.440 --> 01:10:08.760
Are you opening the door for the opportunity

897
01:10:08.760 --> 01:10:10.960
and letting them know when you're available?

898
01:10:12.120 --> 01:10:14.440
Yeah, I mean, the guy that I've just matched with,

899
01:10:14.440 --> 01:10:16.280
it's literally been since the weekend,

900
01:10:16.280 --> 01:10:18.280
so not quite then.

901
01:10:18.280 --> 01:10:20.280
But the other guy, yeah, we were,

902
01:10:20.280 --> 01:10:22.480
I was like, I understand it will be difficult

903
01:10:22.480 --> 01:10:25.680
for you to meet up because you've got,

904
01:10:25.680 --> 01:10:28.520
his son is SEN as well, so it was like,

905
01:10:28.520 --> 01:10:30.920
he'd have to get respite for his son.

906
01:10:30.920 --> 01:10:34.800
So I was like, here's when I'm generally available

907
01:10:34.800 --> 01:10:35.640
sort of thing.

908
01:10:35.640 --> 01:10:37.520
And he did take me up and he did,

909
01:10:37.520 --> 01:10:40.640
he organized the date and all that, so yeah.

910
01:10:40.640 --> 01:10:43.280
Yeah, it was a nice date, he's just not.

911
01:10:43.280 --> 01:10:45.520
Yeah, I mean, you took the opportunity.

912
01:10:45.520 --> 01:10:47.480
So putting that into practice

913
01:10:47.480 --> 01:10:48.960
and that's what this is all about.

914
01:10:48.960 --> 01:10:53.960
And so I know when things don't look, ladies,

915
01:10:54.880 --> 01:10:58.480
the way that we hoped that they would look,

916
01:10:59.400 --> 01:11:01.240
and there's some discomfort

917
01:11:01.240 --> 01:11:05.880
that we're gonna have to experience and feel,

918
01:11:05.880 --> 01:11:10.880
I want you ladies to press into that a little more

919
01:11:12.080 --> 01:11:15.560
and really ask the Lord, okay,

920
01:11:16.320 --> 01:11:21.320
what is it that you are growing in me?

921
01:11:26.120 --> 01:11:31.120
What opportunity are you bringing forth

922
01:11:31.120 --> 01:11:36.120
that I might miss if I don't focus on you, God?

923
01:11:39.960 --> 01:11:44.480
And so like, again, I know there will feel

924
01:11:44.480 --> 01:11:47.120
that reluctance because again,

925
01:11:47.120 --> 01:11:49.640
we just want it to look the way that we want it.

926
01:11:51.440 --> 01:11:54.000
That was me all the time.

927
01:11:54.000 --> 01:11:56.840
Like, again, I don't know how many times I came

928
01:11:56.840 --> 01:11:58.520
to the table and came to the community

929
01:11:58.520 --> 01:12:03.200
and I was like, I just, you know, this isn't fun anymore.

930
01:12:04.880 --> 01:12:07.480
There was a lot of discouragement, okay?

931
01:12:08.600 --> 01:12:09.960
And it felt like effort.

932
01:12:09.960 --> 01:12:11.360
I was a single mom.

933
01:12:12.360 --> 01:12:15.920
Like, I only had like one night every two weeks

934
01:12:15.920 --> 01:12:17.600
where my son was with his dad.

935
01:12:19.440 --> 01:12:23.000
Like, I feel like I had a lot of opportunities.

936
01:12:23.000 --> 01:12:25.400
And so that got really discouraging.

937
01:12:25.400 --> 01:12:29.440
So it's just to remind ourselves like,

938
01:12:29.440 --> 01:12:31.960
no, we gotta get creative.

939
01:12:31.960 --> 01:12:33.520
We gotta get uncomfortable.

940
01:12:34.720 --> 01:12:39.720
We sometimes have to take down the excuses

941
01:12:40.360 --> 01:12:43.360
that we're giving ourselves, okay?

942
01:12:44.720 --> 01:12:46.160
And get creative.

943
01:12:46.160 --> 01:12:50.400
Let the Lord kind of give us some creative ideas.

944
01:12:50.400 --> 01:12:51.240
All right?

945
01:12:51.240 --> 01:12:53.720
It might not look the way that we want,

946
01:12:53.720 --> 01:12:55.280
but there might be a reason it's not supposed

947
01:12:55.280 --> 01:12:56.440
to look the way that we want.

948
01:12:56.440 --> 01:12:58.560
Because maybe God's trying to do something

949
01:12:58.560 --> 01:13:02.520
and show us something that we didn't even know we needed.

950
01:13:03.760 --> 01:13:04.680
Okay?

951
01:13:04.680 --> 01:13:07.840
So you get to just kind of sit with God and say,

952
01:13:07.840 --> 01:13:12.840
okay, Lord, I have an opportunity here.

953
01:13:13.480 --> 01:13:15.040
Do I shut down this distance?

954
01:13:15.040 --> 01:13:18.840
Are you wanting me to get an opportunity

955
01:13:18.840 --> 01:13:20.480
to date more locally?

956
01:13:20.480 --> 01:13:22.000
Is that what you're leading me to?

957
01:13:22.000 --> 01:13:23.920
Is that what you're wanting me to recognize?

958
01:13:23.920 --> 01:13:27.400
Is that where, is that the information you're giving me?

959
01:13:27.400 --> 01:13:29.800
Is that the wisdom you're leading me to?

960
01:13:29.800 --> 01:13:32.800
Or do I leave it as is and get,

961
01:13:33.800 --> 01:13:37.960
you know, a little bit more curious and let go

962
01:13:37.960 --> 01:13:42.600
of what you want to do through this season?

963
01:13:44.680 --> 01:13:46.600
How you want to operate.

964
01:13:46.600 --> 01:13:50.480
That gets to be your process with the Lord.

965
01:13:52.600 --> 01:13:53.440
How does that feel?

966
01:13:53.440 --> 01:13:54.480
How's that land?

967
01:13:58.440 --> 01:14:00.080
Yeah, no, that sounds good.

968
01:14:00.080 --> 01:14:04.160
I think I'm quite good at narrating the story

969
01:14:04.160 --> 01:14:05.560
before it has happened.

970
01:14:05.560 --> 01:14:06.400
Girl, me too.

971
01:14:09.240 --> 01:14:10.920
Me too.

972
01:14:10.920 --> 01:14:12.840
Y'all, I'm so good at it.

973
01:14:14.240 --> 01:14:17.320
I have it all played out in my head.

974
01:14:17.320 --> 01:14:18.600
Because ladies, I'm like,

975
01:14:18.600 --> 01:14:21.560
I gravitate towards that Enneagram six.

976
01:14:21.560 --> 01:14:26.560
I will have every like hiccup, roadblock,

977
01:14:27.000 --> 01:14:29.920
even mapped out, planned out.

978
01:14:29.920 --> 01:14:34.440
And like, what like that's gonna look like

979
01:14:34.440 --> 01:14:36.840
and how I'm gonna circumvent any rope.

980
01:14:36.840 --> 01:14:38.480
Like, I've got it all mapped out.

981
01:14:38.480 --> 01:14:40.560
I got, it's those books where it's like,

982
01:14:40.560 --> 01:14:42.120
you choose the ending.

983
01:14:43.800 --> 01:14:44.880
I don't need to choose it

984
01:14:44.880 --> 01:14:46.400
because I already know what it looks like

985
01:14:46.400 --> 01:14:48.440
because I've already got it into control.

986
01:14:49.680 --> 01:14:52.520
But, you know, I don't think it's coincidental

987
01:14:52.520 --> 01:14:56.600
that God is teaching us this surrender, submission,

988
01:14:56.600 --> 01:14:58.000
let him control the outcome.

989
01:14:58.000 --> 01:14:59.320
We just get to.

990
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:05.200
take the invitations and create the opportunities and invite God to kind of do with it what he will.

991
01:15:06.560 --> 01:15:10.480
So thank you so much for your question, Lou. Hey, Susan, so good to see you.

992
01:15:13.680 --> 01:15:23.280
How are you? Hi, I'm good. How are you? Good. How's your summer? Good. Yeah, it's great.

993
01:15:24.240 --> 01:15:32.800
So my question is, after every single date, you know, this is the furthest I've gotten with a

994
01:15:32.800 --> 01:15:39.680
guy. I think we had three dates. So actually seems like decent and it could be something.

995
01:15:44.800 --> 01:15:47.600
So are you supposed to after every single date,

996
01:15:48.160 --> 01:15:52.000
text him the next day and say like, hey, I had a great time. I'd love to do it again.

997
01:15:54.160 --> 01:16:00.400
Or is that what you've been doing? Yeah. So the first, so we matched,

998
01:16:00.400 --> 01:16:06.160
so we're messaging back and forth, like briefly on Facebook dating. Then I said, hey, I'm not a

999
01:16:06.160 --> 01:16:11.440
big texter. Would you like to FaceTime? Then he messaged back and was like, yeah, how about blah,

1000
01:16:11.440 --> 01:16:15.840
blah, blah. I'm like, all right. So we talked on FaceTime and he was really cool to talk to.

1001
01:16:15.840 --> 01:16:21.040
And he seems super intentional. Like his profile is like looking for a wife. And then he expressed

1002
01:16:21.600 --> 01:16:25.920
on all three dates, really, he's talked about how frustrated he was on the apps and starting to

1003
01:16:25.920 --> 01:16:30.240
like question his worth and his looks and stuff, because he's like, you'll match with people.

1004
01:16:30.240 --> 01:16:36.800
And then they don't say anything back. And so anyway, so we hung up, that was a Sunday

1005
01:16:37.440 --> 01:16:43.200
from the FaceTime call. And then like most guys, they'll text you, you know, like,

1006
01:16:43.200 --> 01:16:48.000
hey, it was really just talking to you earlier, you know, but he doesn't say he didn't say anything.

1007
01:16:48.000 --> 01:16:53.360
And I didn't get any like, hey, how's your week going text? Like nothing.

1008
01:16:53.360 --> 01:17:00.720
Okay. But do you remember what is it that you told him earlier? What did you share with him?

1009
01:17:02.400 --> 01:17:05.440
Nothing in particular, just like a normal conversation.

1010
01:17:05.440 --> 01:17:10.880
But what did you tell him? Hey, I'm not big on what?

1011
01:17:10.880 --> 01:17:16.640
Oh, a big texter. Yes, yes, yes. It's so funny how we can forget. Yeah. Okay.

1012
01:17:17.440 --> 01:17:24.080
You you kind of set like you kind of like, yeah, that could be why he might not be messaging you.

1013
01:17:24.080 --> 01:17:27.840
I'm not saying I mean, I don't know for certain. Again, we never have the certainty.

1014
01:17:28.400 --> 01:17:32.960
Yeah, we get curious about it, though. Right? Okay. We're gonna get curious about that. And

1015
01:17:32.960 --> 01:17:43.040
we're gonna be like, Hey, I know I mentioned that I am not big on texting. But

1016
01:17:43.280 --> 01:17:51.280
I do want to offer up the invitation like you can message me sporadically like you don't have to go

1017
01:17:51.280 --> 01:18:00.080
radio silent. Like you can kind of drop that little like invite there and see where he takes it.

1018
01:18:00.080 --> 01:18:07.760
Because it's possible. He's just respecting a boundary. Yeah, I forgot that I had said that.

1019
01:18:08.000 --> 01:18:14.880
I forgot that I had said that. Yeah. So, um, you know, and there's a thing and,

1020
01:18:14.880 --> 01:18:20.320
and, you know, maybe you lead it with, you know, hey, I don't, you know, I know I said this,

1021
01:18:20.320 --> 01:18:26.640
I wanted to reach out because I definitely am enjoying getting to know you would love to see,

1022
01:18:26.640 --> 01:18:34.480
you know what you're up to this week. Let like, you can always message me when you're available.

1023
01:18:35.440 --> 01:18:39.680
Like just because I said text me for like, don't I'm not into texting doesn't mean that

1024
01:18:40.400 --> 01:18:47.840
I wouldn't like to hear from you. Every now and then. I'm just not always messaging. I'm not

1025
01:18:47.840 --> 01:18:52.000
always on my phone messaging frequently. So if you message me, I might not get back to you

1026
01:18:52.000 --> 01:18:59.040
immediately. Something like that. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Yeah. I love it. Thank you for that question.

1027
01:18:59.040 --> 01:19:04.480
That's a good question. Yeah. Good question. I could tell he liked me like a lot. Like

1028
01:19:05.440 --> 01:19:08.560
I had to end the dates cause he, he wasn't going to end the dates and I'm like, okay,

1029
01:19:08.560 --> 01:19:13.680
it's getting a little three days. He sounds intentional talking about marriage. I love it.

1030
01:19:13.680 --> 01:19:17.680
Like, yeah, you're right. And so that's what I'm saying. That's what I'm like,

1031
01:19:17.680 --> 01:19:24.000
well, if you said that maybe he's just being like a mature masculine marriage. Might've been.

1032
01:19:24.960 --> 01:19:30.080
Yeah. Maybe he's just, yeah, that makes sense. Yeah. Yeah. The information get curious. Don't

1033
01:19:30.080 --> 01:19:36.320
assume. Don't assume. Does he like me? Does not get curious. Well, it's just like, but I feel

1034
01:19:36.320 --> 01:19:40.240
like I'm the one who always reaches out. It was like, I reached out and said, it was nice face

1035
01:19:40.240 --> 01:19:43.760
timing with you. If you'd like to get to in person, let me know. Yeah. Yeah. I definitely

1036
01:19:43.760 --> 01:19:49.440
will. When I get back from this wedding in Texas that he set up. And that's great. Like ladies,

1037
01:19:49.440 --> 01:19:55.680
I want you to hear that. Like, there are going to be times that we feel like we're taking the lead.

1038
01:19:55.680 --> 01:19:58.080
And then some ladies are going to be like,

1039
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:01.440
If you were me, I would be like,

1040
01:20:01.440 --> 01:20:04.080
oh my God, I can't believe he's not messaging me.

1041
01:20:04.080 --> 01:20:06.080
And I would write him off.

1042
01:20:06.080 --> 01:20:08.040
Because that was my attitude.

1043
01:20:08.040 --> 01:20:10.600
I struggled a little bit with entitlement in dating

1044
01:20:10.600 --> 01:20:13.160
because I had some wounds, ladies.

1045
01:20:13.160 --> 01:20:17.560
And it's not always the case.

1046
01:20:17.560 --> 01:20:20.520
Sometimes it's literally like,

1047
01:20:20.520 --> 01:20:24.720
oh, well the way I communicated that

1048
01:20:24.720 --> 01:20:26.280
could have landed differently.

1049
01:20:26.320 --> 01:20:30.840
Like, especially when we're texting, ladies,

1050
01:20:30.840 --> 01:20:32.840
like texting can be very off.

1051
01:20:32.840 --> 01:20:37.280
Even today, my husband sent me a text message

1052
01:20:37.280 --> 01:20:39.320
and I responded to him and I'm like,

1053
01:20:40.760 --> 01:20:42.560
I don't know what he meant by that.

1054
01:20:43.720 --> 01:20:46.480
Usually we go, he's been fasting.

1055
01:20:46.480 --> 01:20:51.480
God has prompted him to fast for 10 weeks straight

1056
01:20:52.120 --> 01:20:53.800
for three days each week.

1057
01:20:54.320 --> 01:20:58.320
And so he fasts from Sunday to Tuesday.

1058
01:20:58.320 --> 01:21:00.200
And so Wednesday morning,

1059
01:21:00.200 --> 01:21:03.960
we always go to breakfast together to break his fast.

1060
01:21:03.960 --> 01:21:05.720
And he messaged me, he's like,

1061
01:21:05.720 --> 01:21:08.760
hey, one of the guys from small group connected with me

1062
01:21:08.760 --> 01:21:11.960
and wants to meet for breakfast on Wednesday.

1063
01:21:13.240 --> 01:21:15.800
And so that's kind of how he left it.

1064
01:21:15.800 --> 01:21:17.800
And he's like, it was really cool.

1065
01:21:17.800 --> 01:21:20.520
And he's like, it's so-and-so, like the egg whiz,

1066
01:21:20.840 --> 01:21:24.520
this guy makes the perfect eggs.

1067
01:21:24.520 --> 01:21:29.280
And I'm like, I started messaging him back

1068
01:21:29.280 --> 01:21:32.480
and I'm like, oh, well, I have a hair appointment at nine,

1069
01:21:32.480 --> 01:21:36.240
so that's no big deal.

1070
01:21:36.240 --> 01:21:41.240
And then I was like, well, was he telling me that

1071
01:21:41.760 --> 01:21:46.760
because he was letting me know he needed to disinvite me?

1072
01:21:47.320 --> 01:21:52.120
Like, is he saying like, sorry, babe, no wives allowed?

1073
01:21:52.120 --> 01:21:55.080
Or was he giving me a heads up

1074
01:21:55.080 --> 01:21:57.280
like someone else is gonna join us?

1075
01:21:58.720 --> 01:22:02.440
I just started responding to him and I really had no clue.

1076
01:22:02.440 --> 01:22:05.560
And so I started messaging and then I'm like,

1077
01:22:05.560 --> 01:22:09.480
well, unless you want me there,

1078
01:22:09.480 --> 01:22:14.480
I mean, I don't wanna mess up the like bro code

1079
01:22:14.840 --> 01:22:17.960
and you guys might not be able to talk about manly things.

1080
01:22:17.960 --> 01:22:22.960
So I want, like I say that to remind you ladies

1081
01:22:23.400 --> 01:22:25.560
that when we're texting,

1082
01:22:26.680 --> 01:22:30.000
sometimes there is miscommunication there.

1083
01:22:30.000 --> 01:22:33.000
There's misinterpretation of what we mean.

1084
01:22:33.000 --> 01:22:35.720
And so we don't want to kind of just assume

1085
01:22:35.720 --> 01:22:38.080
we wanna get curious.

1086
01:22:38.080 --> 01:22:39.680
We wanna ask more questions.

1087
01:22:39.680 --> 01:22:41.880
We wanna make sure that we're communicating.

1088
01:22:42.840 --> 01:22:47.840
And if you ever need wording on how to approach something,

1089
01:22:48.160 --> 01:22:51.400
like that's what Ebony and I are here for.

1090
01:22:51.400 --> 01:22:56.240
Like we can help you construct and draft those words

1091
01:22:56.240 --> 01:22:59.120
to where it doesn't feel awkward.

1092
01:23:00.120 --> 01:23:02.960
Like that was always my like fear.

1093
01:23:02.960 --> 01:23:05.960
I'm like, oh my gosh, this makes me feel really awkward

1094
01:23:05.960 --> 01:23:07.160
and puts a spotlight on me.

1095
01:23:07.160 --> 01:23:10.920
And I feel like a weirdo.

1096
01:23:12.200 --> 01:23:14.320
So I love that question.

1097
01:23:14.320 --> 01:23:16.200
I think that one was really, really valuable.

1098
01:23:16.200 --> 01:23:18.040
So thank you, thank you, thank you.

1099
01:23:19.000 --> 01:23:21.560
Yeah, I just, I feel like after each date,

1100
01:23:21.560 --> 01:23:22.880
I'm the one the next day that says,

1101
01:23:22.880 --> 01:23:24.440
hey, I had a really great time.

1102
01:23:24.440 --> 01:23:25.880
I'd love to do it again.

1103
01:23:25.880 --> 01:23:30.000
But like, do I have to do that every single time?

1104
01:23:30.000 --> 01:23:32.640
Well, no, because now you're gonna open that invitation.

1105
01:23:32.640 --> 01:23:34.040
So now you're gonna get curious.

1106
01:23:34.040 --> 01:23:36.440
You're gonna communicate.

1107
01:23:36.440 --> 01:23:39.240
This time you're gonna offer the opportunity

1108
01:23:39.240 --> 01:23:40.840
and then you can kind of see where he takes it.

1109
01:23:40.840 --> 01:23:41.800
You're gonna see his response.

1110
01:23:42.600 --> 01:23:43.640
You're gonna gather information.

1111
01:23:43.640 --> 01:23:45.920
Yeah, because I feel like the date was Friday.

1112
01:23:45.920 --> 01:23:47.960
I reached out the day after, hey, sorry.

1113
01:23:47.960 --> 01:23:49.920
Like I had a great time, good conversation.

1114
01:23:49.920 --> 01:23:51.440
I hope you got rehydrated

1115
01:23:51.440 --> 01:23:53.800
because he got sick on the date.

1116
01:23:53.800 --> 01:23:57.720
Then he said something and then that was it.

1117
01:23:57.720 --> 01:24:02.280
But like, I feel like he can't be that, I don't know.

1118
01:24:02.280 --> 01:24:03.800
When it was a holiday weekend too,

1119
01:24:03.800 --> 01:24:06.720
I will tell you like, I was out of pocket for the weekend.

1120
01:24:06.720 --> 01:24:09.760
Like it was, was this over this past holiday weekend?

1121
01:24:09.760 --> 01:24:10.600
Yeah.

1122
01:24:10.600 --> 01:24:11.560
Yeah, it was a busy weekend.

1123
01:24:12.320 --> 01:24:14.000
Like I was out of pocket too.

1124
01:24:14.000 --> 01:24:16.680
People are traveling, it gets busy.

1125
01:24:16.680 --> 01:24:20.640
So I would say, get curious,

1126
01:24:20.640 --> 01:24:24.080
open yourself up to create an opportunity

1127
01:24:24.080 --> 01:24:26.560
and then don't control the outcome.

1128
01:24:26.560 --> 01:24:31.560
Let God kind of reveal what it is that he wants to do

1129
01:24:33.640 --> 01:24:36.440
and go from there, okay?

1130
01:24:36.440 --> 01:24:37.720
But what does that mean?

1131
01:24:37.720 --> 01:24:40.680
Does that mean I don't say anything, I just wait now?

1132
01:24:40.680 --> 01:24:42.400
No, you're gonna open the opportunity like,

1133
01:24:42.400 --> 01:24:44.200
hey, you're gonna do what I said.

1134
01:24:44.200 --> 01:24:46.720
You're gonna say, hey, I know I said,

1135
01:24:46.720 --> 01:24:48.720
I'm not big into texting,

1136
01:24:48.720 --> 01:24:53.720
but I'm okay with a sporadic text every once in a while.

1137
01:24:54.960 --> 01:24:56.560
If you wanna connect,

1138
01:24:56.560 --> 01:24:58.760
let me know when you're available this week.

1139
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:06.000
and see where that lands and then you just then you let it go and at that point that is where

1140
01:25:07.680 --> 01:25:14.720
you've opened an opportunity that man gets the opportunity and god gets to show you

1141
01:25:15.280 --> 01:25:20.560
how does that man want to lead pursue and you're going to see by his actions

1142
01:25:22.640 --> 01:25:27.200
what he's trying to communicate to you okay yeah because at the end of the date i thought it was

1143
01:25:27.200 --> 01:25:30.720
weird like he was kind of venting about the dating and he's like i don't know it seems like

1144
01:25:30.720 --> 01:25:35.120
women don't flirt anymore and i'm like he's like i don't even know if they desire me and i'm like

1145
01:25:36.000 --> 01:25:40.080
is that directed towards me or is it just in general and i'm like he's like i know women get

1146
01:25:40.080 --> 01:25:44.560
you know like a lot of stuff but it just seems like women don't flirt anymore and then he's like

1147
01:25:44.560 --> 01:25:49.840
i don't know it's just okay then before i i i want to still make time for the other ladies but

1148
01:25:49.840 --> 01:25:56.560
yeah sorry thank you i just i i i'm a talker i could we could totally have a conversation

1149
01:25:56.560 --> 01:26:02.560
it was fine it was one more minute but it's okay yes um all right cynthia you're up next cynthia

1150
01:26:02.560 --> 01:26:08.880
cave and then um if there's time we've got peggy karen and cynthia see if you want to go put your

1151
01:26:08.880 --> 01:26:15.520
question in the chat i also see a question from jennifer so i'm going to look at that as well i'm

1152
01:26:15.520 --> 01:26:18.800
it's we're cutting close to time so i'm not sure what i'm going to be able to get to

1153
01:26:19.360 --> 01:26:25.840
so definitely make sure to post it here in the chat and go in the app if i cannot get to you

1154
01:26:25.840 --> 01:26:32.240
all right cynthia how are you i don't know if you saw my response i saw it last night okay good

1155
01:26:32.240 --> 01:26:36.960
good good good thank you i'm not going to switch my camera on i'm in this really remote remote

1156
01:26:36.960 --> 01:26:42.880
location i hope you can hear me uh i just think maybe camera will be just too much data and it

1157
01:26:42.880 --> 01:26:49.440
might because it keeps freezing so good that's fine like it's late where you're at too so we get

1158
01:26:49.440 --> 01:26:54.320
it no no no no it's not late here um it's early it's evening it's evening but it's not it's not

1159
01:26:54.320 --> 01:27:05.040
too late yet um so um yeah so yeah with with tricks we so we said okay um we're going to spend

1160
01:27:05.040 --> 01:27:11.280
the summer together um moving forward but i kind of feel myself panicking the whole time because

1161
01:27:11.280 --> 01:27:19.040
he's really taken that now is it right i've decided i want to get married um bar any major surprises

1162
01:27:19.040 --> 01:27:24.560
this summer and i realized that that yeah i'm just not that far so i keep panicking on that

1163
01:27:25.200 --> 01:27:33.200
um but in the meantime i've been doing my sitting with god and um you know with the whole safety

1164
01:27:33.200 --> 01:27:42.560
thing realizing i don't have i don't feel safe generally in life and um uh one of the things

1165
01:27:42.560 --> 01:27:49.680
this is it's like a heartwork question really um i think um jackie always talks about victimhood

1166
01:27:49.680 --> 01:27:54.720
which is not something that i really had noticed with me before but one of the things i've noticed

1167
01:27:54.720 --> 01:28:02.560
was a kind of blaming people for stuff and i remembered that she said blame was a you know a

1168
01:28:03.760 --> 01:28:09.120
characteristic of being a victim in a victim mindset you know where you don't feel that you

1169
01:28:09.120 --> 01:28:13.280
yourself have got agency to do things it wasn't so much with tooks it was actually with other

1170
01:28:13.280 --> 01:28:23.280
people um and what i've also been noticing is just such a sense of inadequacy and shame and i think

1171
01:28:23.280 --> 01:28:31.360
part of the problem with tricks is that i'm so unclear and so unsure about what i want and feel

1172
01:28:31.360 --> 01:28:37.840
unable to make a decision and it's all like coming out of this yeah this kind of shame and

1173
01:28:39.120 --> 01:28:46.800
inadequate sense of inadequacy and um one time when i was sitting with the lord i he he i was

1174
01:28:46.800 --> 01:28:53.040
reading colossians one and it talks there about how the father has qualified us for the inheritance

1175
01:28:53.040 --> 01:28:58.080
and the saints and the light but this word qualified really stood out to me and i've been

1176
01:28:58.080 --> 01:29:09.760
trying to ponder that but it's not somehow hitting me deeper and i'm thinking i was trying

1177
01:29:09.760 --> 01:29:15.200
to think back with the heart work you know at least i could repent for my blaming i can but

1178
01:29:15.200 --> 01:29:20.000
i don't really know how to move forward with it and i was wondering if you have any tips

1179
01:29:21.200 --> 01:29:24.160
um so yeah i'm hearing you talking you know

1180
01:29:25.120 --> 01:29:33.200
there's so much that i relate to yeah um and you saw my response to you when you were sharing

1181
01:29:33.200 --> 01:29:40.240
i i kid you not you shared the part about the car and

1182
01:29:42.960 --> 01:29:51.680
i have been processing this weekend and there was a memory that i had with my husband and i

1183
01:29:51.680 --> 01:29:55.760
there was a memory that i had with my husband and i in the car going down to austin i think

1184
01:29:55.760 --> 01:29:59.840
i shared that with you um oh

1185
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:00.840
No, I don't know.

1186
01:30:00.840 --> 01:30:01.960
I might not have.

1187
01:30:01.960 --> 01:30:04.640
Well, I kind of, I might've like left it out,

1188
01:30:04.640 --> 01:30:08.440
but I, in my head when I was responding to you,

1189
01:30:08.440 --> 01:30:10.680
like that was in my head.

1190
01:30:11.880 --> 01:30:13.000
It might be in your latest post.

1191
01:30:13.000 --> 01:30:13.840
I only saw it very briefly.

1192
01:30:13.840 --> 01:30:15.040
No, I like, I honestly,

1193
01:30:15.040 --> 01:30:16.600
cause I like, I was like, okay,

1194
01:30:16.600 --> 01:30:17.440
she didn't need to know,

1195
01:30:17.440 --> 01:30:19.360
she didn't need to know all the details,

1196
01:30:19.360 --> 01:30:23.560
but it was really significant

1197
01:30:23.560 --> 01:30:28.560
because I remember being in that similar space

1198
01:30:36.320 --> 01:30:38.240
throughout my whole journey.

1199
01:30:38.240 --> 01:30:40.700
Like, I think you might've heard me earlier today.

1200
01:30:40.700 --> 01:30:43.440
Like I really struggled with decision-making.

1201
01:30:43.440 --> 01:30:45.320
I really just wanted to know the answer

1202
01:30:45.320 --> 01:30:49.280
that the wanting to kind of know the outcome of things,

1203
01:30:49.280 --> 01:30:51.360
wanting to be the one to just kind of like,

1204
01:30:51.360 --> 01:30:55.520
I just want to know, getting curious about things,

1205
01:30:55.520 --> 01:30:58.640
really having to surrender and submit

1206
01:30:58.640 --> 01:31:00.960
that God's got me and trusting.

1207
01:31:00.960 --> 01:31:05.220
And, you know, you share the victim mentality,

1208
01:31:05.220 --> 01:31:08.160
that victim mindset, you know, blaming people.

1209
01:31:08.160 --> 01:31:13.160
I still can find myself trapped in operating that way,

1210
01:31:13.240 --> 01:31:17.280
where things are not going the way I want them to go.

1211
01:31:17.280 --> 01:31:19.560
And it doesn't look the way that I want it to look.

1212
01:31:19.560 --> 01:31:22.400
It's because someone's in my way.

1213
01:31:23.400 --> 01:31:26.740
Someone's like, and so I relate to that.

1214
01:31:29.360 --> 01:31:34.360
Cynthia, like one thing that I want you to

1215
01:31:35.760 --> 01:31:39.640
give yourself grace for and sit with is

1216
01:31:41.680 --> 01:31:46.680
you are seeking the Lord so beautifully.

1217
01:31:50.320 --> 01:31:55.320
And like when I coach you and I, you know,

1218
01:31:57.960 --> 01:32:00.600
and when the women get to see this, I'm like,

1219
01:32:00.600 --> 01:32:05.600
what a beautiful example of her posture of going to Jesus.

1220
01:32:09.880 --> 01:32:14.880
And so I don't, I want you to sit in that peace

1221
01:32:15.000 --> 01:32:20.000
and that stillness that you're in relationship with Jesus

1222
01:32:27.440 --> 01:32:28.880
and you're safe.

1223
01:32:30.600 --> 01:32:31.700
He's got you.

1224
01:32:33.840 --> 01:32:38.480
And when you were sharing, it reminded me,

1225
01:32:38.480 --> 01:32:43.480
and I wrote this word down and it came up in our community.

1226
01:32:44.440 --> 01:32:46.400
I think a couple months ago

1227
01:32:48.480 --> 01:32:52.500
and someone had to even remind me recently,

1228
01:32:55.600 --> 01:32:57.420
the word over-functioning.

1229
01:32:58.840 --> 01:32:59.840
Oh, yes.

1230
01:33:01.320 --> 01:33:02.400
Does that hit?

1231
01:33:06.120 --> 01:33:08.080
It is really easy,

1232
01:33:08.080 --> 01:33:11.760
especially if we feel like we've been victims

1233
01:33:12.760 --> 01:33:17.760
that we've got to protect ourselves.

1234
01:33:18.280 --> 01:33:21.520
We got to do all of the functioning.

1235
01:33:21.520 --> 01:33:24.680
No one else is going to do it for us.

1236
01:33:24.680 --> 01:33:26.120
So we got to do it.

1237
01:33:26.120 --> 01:33:28.120
We got to go get all the answers.

1238
01:33:28.120 --> 01:33:29.840
We got to collect all the data.

1239
01:33:29.840 --> 01:33:32.980
We've got to go figure it all out for ourselves.

1240
01:33:34.960 --> 01:33:37.760
And what happens,

1241
01:33:38.760 --> 01:33:41.200
and I had to like,

1242
01:33:41.200 --> 01:33:45.240
I literally just recognized this myself recently,

1243
01:33:46.880 --> 01:33:51.880
is what was happening is I was exhausting myself

1244
01:33:55.000 --> 01:34:00.000
to the point that the exhaustion alone,

1245
01:34:02.720 --> 01:34:05.440
God couldn't get any clarity to me.

1246
01:34:06.440 --> 01:34:08.840
I was too exhausted.

1247
01:34:10.240 --> 01:34:12.120
I was over-functioning.

1248
01:34:13.880 --> 01:34:16.280
So even if he was trying to like,

1249
01:34:16.280 --> 01:34:17.760
send me all the neon signs,

1250
01:34:17.760 --> 01:34:20.840
like I wasn't gonna get it.

1251
01:34:20.840 --> 01:34:23.080
I mean, thank you, Jesus.

1252
01:34:23.080 --> 01:34:24.600
This morning, like y'all,

1253
01:34:24.600 --> 01:34:27.520
I was up till like four or five o'clock

1254
01:34:27.520 --> 01:34:31.360
in the morning this morning, like wired, okay?

1255
01:34:32.240 --> 01:34:35.800
And my alarm goes off at 8.30.

1256
01:34:35.800 --> 01:34:36.720
Oh, wow.

1257
01:34:36.720 --> 01:34:40.800
And I'm like, I look at my phone

1258
01:34:40.800 --> 01:34:45.800
and I saw Bethany's share about the double single spotlight.

1259
01:34:47.600 --> 01:34:50.520
Y'all, I completely missed that

1260
01:34:50.520 --> 01:34:52.720
that was for seven o'clock Eastern tonight.

1261
01:34:54.000 --> 01:34:55.600
And I'm like messaging her.

1262
01:34:55.600 --> 01:35:00.080
I mean, like, do I need to let the ladies know

1263
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:01.840
that we only have one session today.

1264
01:35:01.840 --> 01:35:05.000
Like I'm sitting here thinking like, did I miss something?

1265
01:35:05.000 --> 01:35:09.720
Like, y'all, I was so exhausted and so tired.

1266
01:35:10.560 --> 01:35:13.280
The information was right there for me,

1267
01:35:14.320 --> 01:35:15.960
but I was so exhausted.

1268
01:35:15.960 --> 01:35:19.020
I had over-functioned and overworked myself.

1269
01:35:20.720 --> 01:35:23.040
I didn't, I couldn't slow down enough

1270
01:35:23.040 --> 01:35:28.040
to like clearly see the information.

1271
01:35:30.760 --> 01:35:35.760
And so I want you to,

1272
01:35:37.840 --> 01:35:39.760
I want you to sit with that.

1273
01:35:41.880 --> 01:35:46.220
And again, I know you're spending time with the Lord.

1274
01:35:46.220 --> 01:35:48.680
I want you to rest in that.

1275
01:35:48.680 --> 01:35:51.800
You've made a decision, okay?

1276
01:35:51.800 --> 01:35:53.360
That decision is done.

1277
01:35:54.600 --> 01:35:56.760
The summer's gonna happen.

1278
01:35:56.760 --> 01:35:57.680
And guess what?

1279
01:35:57.680 --> 01:36:02.680
You get to cast that load and that burden

1280
01:36:02.800 --> 01:36:04.840
onto Jesus's yoke.

1281
01:36:04.840 --> 01:36:09.560
He's gonna carry that for you this summer.

1282
01:36:10.840 --> 01:36:13.440
He's going to use that opportunity

1283
01:36:14.520 --> 01:36:19.520
to bring forth situations and circumstances

1284
01:36:21.040 --> 01:36:25.900
and opportunities to highlight to you,

1285
01:36:25.900 --> 01:36:29.780
to give you opportunities to grow,

1286
01:36:29.780 --> 01:36:34.220
to grow, not just whether it's with or without

1287
01:36:34.220 --> 01:36:37.780
your spirit mate, whether it's, you know, tooks or not,

1288
01:36:39.540 --> 01:36:40.820
you're gonna grow.

1289
01:36:42.060 --> 01:36:45.100
God's gonna use this opportunity to grow you.

1290
01:36:45.100 --> 01:36:50.100
He's creating you to be the new

1291
01:36:50.660 --> 01:36:53.660
that he already designed you to be.

1292
01:36:54.620 --> 01:36:56.180
Yeah, amen.

1293
01:36:56.180 --> 01:37:01.180
And so now you get to lay and submit

1294
01:37:02.540 --> 01:37:07.100
and surrender everything else to him.

1295
01:37:08.600 --> 01:37:12.100
And, you know, I would love to tell you

1296
01:37:12.100 --> 01:37:15.860
that there might not, that it's gonna be like smooth sailing

1297
01:37:15.860 --> 01:37:18.000
and, you know, it's gonna be easy breezy.

1298
01:37:20.000 --> 01:37:22.620
I don't wanna give you false hope.

1299
01:37:22.620 --> 01:37:24.460
I wanna prepare you.

1300
01:37:26.380 --> 01:37:31.380
There may be pressing and crushing in this season,

1301
01:37:33.540 --> 01:37:38.540
but rest, sit at his feet.

1302
01:37:40.300 --> 01:37:42.620
Do not over-function.

1303
01:37:42.620 --> 01:37:47.620
You are safe when you are at his feet.

1304
01:37:47.620 --> 01:37:48.540
Feet.

1305
01:37:51.220 --> 01:37:56.220
We get the most refining and growth in the pressing.

1306
01:37:59.820 --> 01:38:04.820
Diamonds, beautiful, beautiful diamonds

1307
01:38:09.900 --> 01:38:12.000
are compacted with pressure.

1308
01:38:12.000 --> 01:38:17.000
Do not be afraid, ladies.

1309
01:38:20.160 --> 01:38:25.160
Do not be afraid of the pressure and the crushing

1310
01:38:25.440 --> 01:38:28.300
and the refining and the pressing.

1311
01:38:30.120 --> 01:38:35.120
It's opportunity, it's God is inviting you

1312
01:38:35.680 --> 01:38:38.000
and you are safe with him.

1313
01:38:38.000 --> 01:38:43.000
We don't have to over-function.

1314
01:38:46.840 --> 01:38:51.840
He's our partner, he is.

1315
01:38:53.560 --> 01:38:56.920
We get a yoke up with Jesus

1316
01:38:58.840 --> 01:39:03.340
and it is preparing you for what's to come.

1317
01:39:04.240 --> 01:39:06.840
And we don't know what that looks like,

1318
01:39:06.840 --> 01:39:08.040
but God is good.

1319
01:39:12.040 --> 01:39:15.280
Cynthia, thank you so much for being vulnerable.

1320
01:39:15.280 --> 01:39:18.840
Like you are a treasure

1321
01:39:19.960 --> 01:39:24.960
and I just, you add so much value to this community.

1322
01:39:27.200 --> 01:39:32.200
There's so much wisdom that your walk

1323
01:39:33.000 --> 01:39:38.000
is helping plant seeds in all the women

1324
01:39:38.680 --> 01:39:40.380
that are on this journey with you.

1325
01:39:42.760 --> 01:39:46.600
And so you got us to support you.

1326
01:39:46.600 --> 01:39:48.720
You're not in this alone, okay?

1327
01:39:48.720 --> 01:39:51.920
In those moments where it gets scary and you get panicked,

1328
01:39:51.920 --> 01:39:52.960
you got us.

1329
01:39:54.840 --> 01:39:56.000
All the time.

1330
01:39:56.000 --> 01:39:59.680
All the time, I mean, you message and we praying, okay?

1331
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:10.880
All right, ladies, Peggy, Karen, Cynthia, Laura, I am, I apologize, I know we went over.

1332
01:40:10.880 --> 01:40:16.400
If you can throw your question up in the app, I want to get to those.

1333
01:40:16.400 --> 01:40:22.840
I think someone, real briefly, the single spot, not single spotlight, it's a double

1334
01:40:22.840 --> 01:40:25.640
spotlight is in the app.

1335
01:40:25.640 --> 01:40:27.040
You got to register for it.

1336
01:40:27.040 --> 01:40:28.680
All the information is there.

1337
01:40:28.680 --> 01:40:35.320
I think it's seven o'clock Eastern, but again, time zones, clearly I messed up all the time

1338
01:40:35.320 --> 01:40:40.440
zones this morning because I had like three, three and a half hours of sleep.

1339
01:40:40.440 --> 01:40:45.520
I've been down in coffee like nobody's business, but my kids are all at beach camp.

1340
01:40:45.520 --> 01:40:52.240
I have no kids and my other son's in Michigan with his father, so we good.

1341
01:40:52.240 --> 01:40:56.120
So I will find, I will find some time to sleep.

1342
01:40:56.120 --> 01:41:01.920
I'm not going to be stressing too much, okay, I'm going to let God, God kind of lead the

1343
01:41:01.920 --> 01:41:07.120
outcome here, but all right, ladies, I'm going to quickly close us in prayer and let you

1344
01:41:07.120 --> 01:41:08.120
be on your way.

1345
01:41:08.120 --> 01:41:12.200
So Heavenly Father, I just thank you for reminding us today.

1346
01:41:12.200 --> 01:41:15.640
You never asked us to carry the outcomes.

1347
01:41:15.640 --> 01:41:18.880
You never gave us the responsibility.

1348
01:41:18.880 --> 01:41:20.320
It was yours.

1349
01:41:20.320 --> 01:41:27.240
You were always going to carry it for us and we never had to throw it on our backs.

1350
01:41:27.240 --> 01:41:34.840
Help us to faithfully create opportunities while trusting you completely with the results.

1351
01:41:34.840 --> 01:41:38.160
Teach us, show us, heal us, grow us.

1352
01:41:38.160 --> 01:41:42.400
In Jesus name, amen.

1353
01:41:42.400 --> 01:41:47.160
Ladies, have a great Tuesday.

1354
01:41:47.160 --> 01:41:49.760
I think there's a few more questions.

1355
01:41:49.760 --> 01:41:52.160
I got to make sure I pull these.

1356
01:41:52.160 --> 01:41:54.440
I'm going to try.

1357
01:41:54.440 --> 01:41:57.520
I got to end this call.

1358
01:41:57.520 --> 01:42:04.160
Where are we at here?

1359
01:42:04.160 --> 01:42:08.320
One of these days, I'm going to have to like hire one of you ladies to just come help me

1360
01:42:08.320 --> 01:42:14.040
out with the grabbing the questions so that I don't miss this.

1361
01:42:14.040 --> 01:42:17.880
All right, ladies, thank you again.

1362
01:42:17.880 --> 01:42:20.040
Have a wonderful day.

1363
01:42:20.040 --> 01:42:24.200
Check out the spotlight.

1364
01:42:24.200 --> 01:42:27.360
Go to Ebony's or at least watch hers in replay.

1365
01:42:27.360 --> 01:42:31.240
Tell your girlfriends that didn't make it to live today, tell them to go watch this

1366
01:42:31.240 --> 01:42:33.520
replay and make it to Ebony's call tonight.

1367
01:42:33.520 --> 01:42:35.800
All right, talk to you later, ladies.

1368
01:42:35.800 --> 01:42:36.280
Love you.